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Increase your calm, focus and happiness so you can be more relaxed, contented and satisfied with your life. For business, entrepreneurs, educators, parents. Hosted by Bruce Langford.

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358 Learn How Meditation Leads To Success; Biz Women Rock Host Katie Krimitsos
34:50

Katie Krimitsos is a mom, wife, adventurer, podcaster, business strategist, seeker and change maker.  She's committed to brightening the light of women around the world - through her Biz Women Rock community, which supports Women Entrepreneurs - and now through her new podcast,Meditation for Women, guided meditations that are specifically created with the special journey of women in mind.

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Most Influential Person

  • Oprah

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has clarified my emotions and slowed them down. It has detached the emotions from who I am and what my actions are going to be and it's really slowed down that process. My actions and who I show up to be is a lot more intentional.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Oh breathing is huge. I think it's probably the core of my mindfulness practice. It's the core of everything for me. So there are times where the very first thing that I'll do is just stop, close my eyes, take three deep breaths. And even just that allows me to find that pause and get centered. It's huge.

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Bullying Story

  • Actually have a reverse kind of a story which I think is really interesting. I am the mom to a two and a half year old, very strong willed, very opinionated, very chock full of personality, little girl.
  • So [she's] two and a half and she goes to school a couple days a week and there have been a couple instances where she's hitting and she's like, you know, kind of like somebody takes her toy and she hits or you know, she didn't want somebody to touch her so she hits, right.
  • And I have found that this is a very uncomfortable but necessary for my husband and I. We have already had this conversation of like, dude, she's one of those kids who's going to go after what she wants.
  • She's the one who walks in the room with a class full of kids who are like a year older than her and she will take over the room, which is a great skill. But we both realize we really have to make sure that we're watching this so it doesn't turn into bullying. We [believe we] can really massage it into all the great skills that are a [strong leader].
  • So that was the most recent experience that I've had with really recognizing it and needing to teach her those lessons of when it's okay to be physical with somebody. I mean, I don't want my kid to get beaten up either.
  • I don't want people to just take from her and that can be okay. So I want her to learn how to stand for herself and when it is not okay. So that's the most in my face bullying thing that I'm super aware of right now as a mother, oh my goodness. And it's, it's scary because I'm in charge of that.
  • And so for mindfulness, obviously mindfulness for me and Chris as parents and being aware of that and needing to deal with that in the moment and actively trying to teach her what to do when you get angry and how can you breathe? And we do that.
  • [We tell her] hey, when you're mad, you know, stomp your feet and take a deep breath. And sometimes if she's really mad she'll be like, no, I don't want to. But you know she's learning that.
  • So she's learning to take a deep breath, do the pause, so that you can see what's going on versus what the emotions are driving you to.

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Sep 17, 2018
357 The Diabetic Brain In Alzheimer's Disease With Author Ralph Sanchez
43:05
Sep 13, 2018
356 Global Zen Consciousness Conference Founder; Shi DeRu
47:18

DeRu is the Founder of the Global Zen Consciousness Conference, the Founder & Chairman of the Global Zen Alliance, and a Kungfu Grand Master. He has served for over 10 years as head coach of the U.S. National Sanshou Team and is a Technical Chairman for the Pan American Wushu-kungfu Federation. His vast Kungfu experience has resulted in him being known as the “American Godfather of Sanshou” around the world. He has spent time sharing and teaching Zen Consciousness, which advocates daily conscious meditative action to heighten and expand one’s consciousness. He is also dedicated to bridging the gap between theoretical physics and Zen consciousness.

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Most Influential Person

  •   A past chief monk in charge of the Shaolin temple

Effect on Emotions

  • Oh, it's beautiful. You know, sometimes of course you get angry, you get upset. But normally for me it's 30 seconds. And then I get over with it.
  • You know, human beings react to things. Then I breathe back to my knowledge state. That's just mindfulness.
  • To me meditation is a conscious mode and back into the conscious mode. But most people probably are in reaction mode all the time.
  • But I think when people do meditation; I do three hours a day, two hours a day, minimum one hour a day, every single day, seven days a week for 50 something years.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I like to breathe into my abdomen and just listen to my breath and get into that meditative mood right away.
  • And then I see things in a different way a minute later and totally different from a minute before.

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Bullying Story

  • I know a lady, her name is Pat and she's 81 years old. She was 81 years old a couple of years ago. She came to do some self defense with me and to learn how to survive as an 81 year old, single who sleeps by herself.
  • I told her a couple of things. The first thing was, you have to meditate everyday to be mindful, to be conscious. That way, if anything happens you won't be chaotic and you'll be free of fear.
  • Then there was a 20 some year-old boy who came into her house and put a gun to her head. She said, 'how dare you, I know kungfu'.
  • And then she changed her mindset from the fear to kungfu mindset. That's consciousness. That's mindfulness. And the kid was just scared.
Sep 12, 2018
355 Know The Name and What It Reveals; Neimologist Sharon Lynn Wyeth
43:36

Sharon Lynn Wyeth has accomplishments to her credit in many fields, and one of them is education where she has benefited thousands of students. She has worked in many different capacities in education. She's been in nationally syndicated programs as well as the President of the United States Yearly Conference for the 50 governors. Sharon has used her innate gift of intuition combined with her keen observation skills and reasoning mind to create something called neimology science. Neimology science is about understanding someone's personality or characteristics.

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Most Influential Person

  • Eugene E. Whitworth, Author

Effect on Emotions

  • I can handle very stressful situations very calmly and keep my thinking clear and I really give it, (mindfulness) credit also for giving me a lot of creative ideas and a creative way of handling different situations.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • There is an interesting book that is saying how the author went and and interviewed only people that had lived more than 120 years or more than 200 years I think is what he ended up with. But his goal was over 120 years. And in that book it says, how do we breathe and what did he learn from these people that were really old.
  • What he learned was that they spent hours everyday just on their breathing exercises. And so I learned different breathing exercises by reading that book. The book is called, Breaking the Death Habit by Leonard Orr.

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Bullying Story

  • I saw so much bullying when I was growing up that I think that's the reason I spent the 18 years developing neimology science because I was seeing the benefits of it.
  • [I could see] that it could help people know how to handle different things, but I really got to see bullying grow when I was a teacher and I would watch how kids would shame other kids or make them feel less than.
  • They would make little snide comments like, who are you, who do you know or just this, this niceness. And they're so subtle sometimes that I think a lot of people wouldn't catch them.
  • I love teaching middle school and that's where bullying really comes out. That's just a tough year for everybody.
  • When I would watch a kid make some kind of awful remarked to somebody else, I learned to say to them, wow, I just heard what you said. And for you to do that, you must really be in pain yourself or you wouldn't want to be causing somebody else that kind of pain.
  • And is this happening to you in school, out of school? Would you like to talk with me in public or private, but we need to discuss this because your level of hurt is now coming out to cause other people pain and that's not appropriate.
  • That's how I would handle that. But I will tell you, because I grew up where so many people were being bullied, we learned to defend ourselves and how to talk back right away.
Sep 10, 2018
354 Breakthrough Success With Mindful Achiever Marc Guberti
31:19

Marc Guberti is a digital marketing expert. He is an entrepreneur and an author with over 80,000 online students. He's the host of the Breakthrough Success Podcast where he and his top-level guests teach you how to take your business to the next level and achieve your breakthrough. His latest book is called Content Marketing Secrets and it teaches people how to create, promote, and optimize content for growth and revenue. Marc is a social media columnist for the Westchester and Fairfield County Business Journals. He coaches business owners on how to grow and monetize their online businesses.

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Most Influential Person

  • My parents and my family. My mom, father, brother and grandparents.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness keeps my emotions in check. Sometimes your emotions can run a little wild based on current events. It helps you think about good times and puts a bunch of things into perspective.

[show-notes-emotions]

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is something I do very unconsciously. With running I have a very specific way of breathing; in through the nose and out through the mouth. Apparently runners are supposed to breath in and out through the nose but that's a little too hard for me.

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Bullying Story

  • I don't have a specific bullying story but being a Red Sox fan, sometimes Yankie fans can get a little, well not all of them, but some of them ... In some of those situations where that happens, mindfulness can help you hit the pause button. It's harder when there's an outside force trying to get your attention. If you get good at doing that with a bad outside force, you get a lot better over time and you just tap into your self-worth. That's something I believe we're not doing enough. There are a lot of people, myself included, where we have this line of accomplishments and we only look at what we haven't done. If anyone's trying to shatter you, just look back to your accomplishments, to things that make you feel proud and feel really good about yourself. You can bring those things to light. Realize you have this impressive track record and then words don't mean anything. If this is more of an internal battle, you'll be able to use this to propel yourself and get to the summit.

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Sep 06, 2018
353 Photography With A Shot of Mindfulness; Bob Younger
43:20

Bob Younger is a photographer with a thorough understanding of interconnectedness. His passion for photography began in grade school when he received a Brownie Starmite camera at Christmas. Gradually, he moved to larger format cameras, slowing down and adopting a mindful approach to photography. He discovered the value of building an emotional connection with his subjects. Today, Bob teaches how to achieve a deep emotional connection between photographer, subject, and photograph.

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Most Influential Person

  • Richard Rohr has probably been one of the biggest influences in my life. We've attended a number of his conferences and read a number of his books and listened to a lot of his work on CD. https://cac.org/richard-rohr/richard-rohr-ofm/

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness is a standard. I would probably tell you I used to operate right at the edge. It didn't take very much [to get me there].
  • Even if Sandra [my wife] said, can I ask you a question? That would emotionally put me at the edge or over. So mindfulness and meditation have moved me to separate that a whole lot further away and I'm not really sure where the edge is right now, but I haven't been there in a long time.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • This is where meditation has really helped. It's because I realized that a breath is now and, and it's sort of the smallest part.
  • It started the smallest piece of life that I can sort of separate out from the rest. And so I've learned that breathing, whether it's during meditation or whether it's just during the day, whenever I'm doing it enables me to say no, this is the breath, this is right now.
  • Take a breath and then let's take the next breath. And so I've been able to bring myself back to this particular moment in time, this breath. I used to count in meditation one, two, three.
  • I was always getting discouraged when I realized there had been a whole lot of breaths in there that hadn't been counted. And when I choose to count, I just only count to one because one is all you've got right now.

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Childhood Story

  • I don't ever remember being secure in who I was. I wasn't stupid; I did ok in school. We moved around a lot. I went to three different elementary schools, two different middle schools, and four different high schools.
  • Growing up for me was moving around a lot and kind of making friends, but in retrospect, I realize I really never developed any close friends and I'm not in touch with anybody I ever knew growing up. I never established a community.
  • I was never a part of a community as I was growing up. I was always alone because if we were someplace long enough, I was probably getting ready to move anyway.
  • I learned to adjust, but I also never developed long-term relationships that many people did when they grew up and went to the same schools with the same people.

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Sep 03, 2018
352 The Colors of Mindfulness Through the Eyes of the Spiral; Natasha Todorovic-Cowan
37:41

Natasha Todorovic-Cowen is the CEO of National Values Centre Consulting and is the owner of the brand, Viral Dynamics. Natasha is all about helping people and businesses change. She has helped corporations with dysfunctional teams and incongruent leadership move to new levels of success. Natasha has personally endured massive levels of change in her life. She lived in three countries before the age of seven and then later, in adulthood, experienced two acquisitions and an industry that disappeared overnight. She has delivered over 100 SPIRAL DYNAMICS® Programs in 14 countries and continues to help teams learn how to meet their organizational goals. She holds an MBA degree and has worked extensively in the field of neural-linguistic programming.

Contact Info

  • Company: Spiral Dynamics
  • Website: SpiralDynamics.org

Most Influential Person

  • Chris Cowan (my husband)

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has affected my emotions by allowing me to notice the initial sparking emotion.
  • Far too many of us are feeling feelings about feelings, and that's a form of affect phobia. By noticing the messages in that initial spark, we get to understand our reactions and what we need to know quickly, rather than letting things spiral out of control.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • So we were talking about the PTSD, and one of the things I did when I was having a reaction was a long four count in, a four-count hold, a four-count exhale, and a four-count hold. And I did that until I could be present in the room again.

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Bullying Story

  • Actually, my husband and I were subject to over a decade of bullying and it was rough.
  • It was very tough because some of the stuff that we did with spiral dynamics was very confronting to a certain group of folks. Sometimes we'd be in our classes delivering the spiral dynamics content and we'd have some of those people in our classes. I had PTSD for a number of years and this situation would get so bad it would trigger the entire PTSD.
  • Now, if you've got a room with 30 people, you can't go freak out. So what I did was, I internally noticed the reaction, noticed the panic, and noticed the fear. I noticed it come up inside me and acknowledged what that was and asked myself, 'Okay. Is this person asking you that question because they're trying to get you? Or is it because there's a sincere desire underneath there to learn something or to explore something?'
  • Once I was able to be mindful of their intentions, where they were coming from, and the origins of what it was that they were trying to explore, I was able to let that emotion or that reaction simmer down some, and then become fully present for them. Sometimes I had to ask them a couple of questions just to get myself grounded in their world, their experience, and their reality to be fully present for them. But that was one of the ways that I dealt with that.

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Aug 30, 2018
351 Take Off Your Shoes and Walk From Corporate To Calm; Ben Feder
29:28

Ben Feder is CEO of a large gaming enterprise called Tencent Games and formerly was CEO of Take Two Interactive, the publisher of Grand Theft Auto and Red Dead Redemption. In an effort to revitalize his sense of purpose and rebuild family relationships, he dropped everything and left his fast-paced Manhatten life-style to an exotic island for a year of growth, including a new level of mindfulness, meditation, and artistic expression.

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Most Influential Person

  •  Eric Langshur, author of 'Start Here'

Effect on Emotions

  • They skew much more positively than they used to and are much more optimistic.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is the center of my mindfulness practice. My mindfulness practice amounts to three things. It's yoga, meditation, and art. In terms of yoga and meditation, [breathing] is integral to the practice, and in terms of art, probably not so much, but I wonder what would happen to my art if I actually incorporated [breathing].

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Bullying Story

  • My daughter was bullied in school and really suffered terribly. She would come home and either cry or fight with her brothers and we wouldn't know what it was about until towards the end of the evening, when you'd kind of find out what happened in school.
  • It oftentimes wasn't anything specific. It was an eye roll from some girl and you know, all of a sudden she became devastated.
  • By taking her out of that environment and putting her into an environment where she absolutely flourished, we noticed that she could have a positive experience, so that school was obviously the wrong place for her.
  • A few years later, as she's a young adult now, or a teenager. She's just this utterly different human being. It just looks so amazing to watch. I'm sure some of that may have happened anyway, but taking her out of that toxic environment in and of itself was probably a mindful approach.
  • So, I don't think you need to like, get up and go to Bali and have that experience, but taking her out of a toxic environment, provided you can put her in an environment that's not toxic, A, is beneficial, and B, it shows her that her parents are paying attention and are concerned and caring and doing the best thing for her.

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Aug 27, 2018
350 Nourish Your Entrepreneural Spirit With Branding Expert Amina AlTai
34:38

Amina AlTai is a branding and marketing expert in the fields of nutrition, fitness, and mindfulness. She believes that being nourished & having a healthy bottom line are intrinsically tied. After several years of pushing her physical limits in order to achieve business success, Amina experienced burnout and developed two autoimmune diseases and a whole host of food allergies. She realized being physically and emotionally healthy meant her business could thrive too.  Now she pays it forward and teaches others how to fill up in all the right ways: in business, and in life.

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Most Influential Person

  • My Meditation Teacher.

Effect on Emotions

  • [Mindfulness has] tremendously affected my emotions. I think life is always ebbing and flowing, right? And so it's up, it's down, it's up and it's down.
  • And I think if we're not prepared, if we're not trained, if we're not mindful, we can go along on that rollercoaster so when life goes up, we go up, when life goes down, we go down.
  • But mindfulness allows me to witness what's happening in my life without riding the rollercoaster and that is just tremendous.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • So anytime I do any sort of a speaking or presentation, I will make sure to layer in additional breathing exercises in addition to my meditation practice. There's so much research on how it mitigates performance anxiety and just bringing ourselves back to our breath is everything.
  • You realize that you've been in a state of fight or flight all day trying to get a taxi, commuting, whatever it is, and then you bring yourself back to your breath and it's just this moment of profound stillness.

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Bullying Story

  • I was obese as a child and I was bullied really badly at school for my thighs and I wish at the time I knew that it wasn't about me.
  • I wish that meditation would have helped me tremendously because instead of me clinging onto these ideas that I was terrible because of my weight and my size and what I looked like, I wish I would have been able to sort of watch these emotions, these thoughts, sort of as if I was a passer by.
  • [I wish I could have imagined I was] just sitting on the sidewalk watching them go by. Instead I was clinging onto them and, and believing that this was to do with me and my identity.
  • So, yes I wish I had known about mindfulness and meditation.

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Aug 23, 2018
349 The Entrepreneur's Secret Shared By Business Dominatrix Arlene Battishill
43:22

Arlene Battishill is a Business Dominatrix. She broke all the rules to become the highly sought-after consultant she is today. She shares the brutal truth of what it means to sell online and how you can have brilliant success no matter how big or small you are. Arlene used her nerves of steel when she appeared on the TV show Shark Tank promoting her brilliant motorcycle riders’ protective and fashionable gear called GoGo Gear. She is the best-selling author of Retail Shock Therapy: A Prescription For What Ails Your Online Sales. If you feel stuck in your business or your life, Arlene may just be your recipe for success.

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Most Influential Person

  • None

Effect on Emotions

  • Oh my God. Mindfulness has been absolutely huge because in the most stressful situations in life, which are all compliments of being an entrepreneur. My emotions have allowed me to self-regulate and to keep myself as calm as possible in every situation and I faced some pretty traumatic circumstances in my business and in my life and I've always looked at them in a way where it's, what do we need to do? What's my next move in this situation? So mindfulness has been critical for me.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Like I said before, if I couldn't ride my bike, I wouldn't be able to breathe and breathing was really critical to my being able to deal with my debilitating flying anxiety.
  • I think breathing, more than anything else, is the number one thing that people must be doing when they are trying to get of themselves.

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Bullying Story

  • When we talk about bullying, I won't say that I experienced bullying in the way we see it today. When I was in high school I was in a situation where I had people threatening me and this was in the seventies. I grew up in Detroit and there were was a lot of racial conflict at that time.
  • There was a TV show called Roots that came on. It was a mini-series with LaVar Burton, I think in 1976 or 1977.
  • There was tremendous conflict between the African American students and the white students in all of the schools in Detroit because we had come out of the race riots and the violence of the police against African Americans in the late sixties.
  • And we moved into the seventies and we experienced something called white flight where a judge ruled that all of the city schools must be integrated or desegregated. So now they were busing white kids into black schools and black kids into white schools.
  • And the amount of violence that was going on in the schools at that time was just unheard of. And I was one of the white students that was taken out of an all-white school.
  • This was completely random. It's just like they picked your name out of a hat and you had to go. And so I was taken out of an all-white high school and moved over to an all-black high school and there were six white kids in my graduating class.
  • And I had an instance where I was in a locker room. I was asked to come be the token on the basketball team and I couldn't play basketball to save my life.
  • But there I was and apparently, some kids had done something and they got in trouble for it and they thought I told on them.
  • So one of the other basketball players came over and she grabbed one of these metal cages where we would put our clothes in lockers and she picked it up and started shoving it in my face. You know, saying that I was the one who did it.
  • And I kept pleading with her saying, I didn't do it, I didn't do it, but when you're in a situation like that you know, you're guilty until further proven guilty.
  • What I knew in that moment is I had been, up till that moment in my life, someone who was very much a diplomat, even though I'm telling everybody to f**k off, it was always around doing the right thing and you never caused harm to people.
  • And I was very much about justice and making sure that people treated each other properly. And I spent most of my time in that situation, pleading with her to get her to understand who I was and to see me properly and to know that I would never do something like that because that's just not who I am.
  • But the circumstances were such that it was such an incendiary environment that there was nothing I could do. And so the remainder of the year I was pretty much alienated from the rest of the students and I'd try and engage them, but you know, there was nothing I could do.
  • And so I just kind of went about my business, but I think the thing with mindfulness and a situation like that is when you know yourself well enough and you feel really rock solid in who you are and you have a moral compass and a guide that is all about knowing what it is the right thing to do in a situation.
  • I didn't have a real problem with that because I always knew who I was and maybe that's why early on I could tell people to go f**k off because, you know, they were not going to tell me something and they're not gonna blow smoke up my ass. I wasn't going to have any part of it because I knew exactly what they were doing.
  • And so that, that's been kind of a guiding principle for me throughout my whole life, which is all about being mindful of other people and behaving in a way that's respectful of them and always working toward finding a way where we can work together so that everybody wins.
  • Because I don't believe that it's beneficial in life for people to lose as a result of what someone else has done.
  • Competition is one thing, but when people are losing in life because somebody else gets to win, that doesn't work for me.

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Aug 20, 2018
348 Using The BodyMind To Heal; Author Elisabeth Misner
41:25

Elisabeth Misner is a Natural Health Practitioner and Meditation Leader. She teaches at the Lake Austin Spa Resort in Austin, TX, as well as at various retreats and conferences around the world. Her latest book, Healing Begins in the Kitchen, tells the story of how her husband, BNI Founder, Dr. Ivan Misner, healed prostate cancer using diet, nutrition, and lifestyle changes. Not long after his recovery, she was also diagnosed with cancer and applied everything she had learned with her husband and more to bring herself back to health with no surgery or radiation. Beth’s focus on the BodyMind is helping many others to heal quickly and naturally from a variety of conditions.

Contact Info

  • Website: www.BethMisner.com
  • FB: https://www.facebook.com/bethmisner
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Most Influential Person

  • Adyashanti  www.adyashanti.org

Effect on Emotions

  • Oh, mindfulness has really given me a perspective that emotion is just an emotion. It doesn't control me and I don't have to act on it.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • First of all, I love breathing. I'm a big fan of breathing.
  • How has it affected my mind? It slows me down. I think it slows my thoughts down and when I have the breath to focus on, it really helps me stay in the present. It's a big cue for me for mindfulness.

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Bullying Story

  • I do have a couple of stories about bullying as it relates to this experience. In the first example, I wasn't quite as competent yet with my mindfulness. It was a very stressful experience. I actually had a very strong reaction was with the oncologist that I went to in the very beginning.
  • She really bullied me and even Ivan couldn't believe how she bullied me and was telling me, you know, what are all these vitamins you're taking, you might be hurting yourself and you know, we're going to do it this way and I'm gonna have you do that so I know what kind of chemotherapy to give you. She was being a bully to me and I was asking questions and wanting to get more information and wanting to slow down and she, you know, push, push, push and bullying me.
  • And I literally left her office and went into shock. I felt, well, literally going into shock is a little bit different than having a reaction where your immune system; your adrenaline is flowing and you're shaking. It was that kind of a thing, like I was in a state of shock.
  • The next time that happened to me, I had a completely different experience and this happened online. I was working in one of the healing cancer naturally facebook groups that I'm in.
  • There was a doctor in that group who really flamed me. I was sharing my experience. I wasn't telling anybody else this is what you have to do. And he really blamed me and I gently, with love and tenderness, I stood up for myself and I said, you know, with all due respect, this is not appropriate for you to be speaking to me this way, you know.
  • And ultimately what happened was the lady who started the group, banned him from the group because he had been flaming other people as well. She stepped in to kind of protect us from his vitreal, which was very, very nice.
  • But I can see the reaction with me was very different and maybe it was because it wasn't face to face and I was already well on the way to recovery.
  • All of those dynamics were different, but I can pinpoint that being mindful really had me in my experience and his perspective and opinion did not rattle me at all.

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Aug 16, 2018
347 Muse Brain-Sensing Headband Creator, Chris Aimone
45:24

Chris Aimone is an inventor, an engineer, and a visionary. The Muse, brain-sensing headband for meditation is a creation of the company he co-founded called Interaxon. Chris' creative and design practices span many fields including architecture, alternative energy, augmented reality, imaging, music, and robotics. Chris holds a masters in engineering and computer science from the University of Toronto.

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Most Influential Person

  • My Mother.

Effect on Emotions

  • I would say I'm a much happier person now as a result of being introduced to mindfulness. I think this really comes from understanding myself that much better and understanding how to live in a way where I don't have as much conflict with myself.
  • [Mindfulness has given me] the capacity to really understand how other people are experiencing things. This makes for a much more frictionless flow in life. It feels great.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • The breath is fascinating. I've recently played more with intentional breath work where breath is sort of an energetic tool to influence your nervous system.
  • In my mindfulness practice, just recognizing that there is an automatic function of your breathing and a conscious aspect of breathing and simply watching your breath really isn't so easy.
  • There is a really amazing rabbit hole there just to discover what it's like to try to simply observe the breath and not influence it. It's a beautiful biofeedback tool.
  • And so Muse is a biofeedback tool, but actually, the practice of meditation is like deep biofeedback at work because of the things that we use to anchor our attention.

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Bullying Story

  • Like I said in the beginning, mindfulness for me is all about awareness and a big part of that is self-awareness. I think for an individual who might be a bully, for example, growing some deeper self-awareness, really provides an opportunity to understand what's happening and how your actions are being received.
  • [Also], what those actions are and what they're related to in your own emotional experience. I think being aware of something is the first step in change. If you can't see what's happening there can be no interest in being any different.
  • Seeing what's happening provides an opportunity to become interested and motivated to do things differently. That in itself doesn't allow you to change necessarily, but it certainly can make you aware of what's happening.
  • So I think that's a really important first step is just expanding some inner awareness. You can actually see what's happening emotionally and how it's manifesting in action, even as a retrospective.
  • So I think doing any kind of inner practice, you know, out of context where you're just with yourself can be perhaps simple enough.
  • The things that come up in meditation seem to be better received and you can hear them more clearly. And so that's the really great first step in that someone who is being bullied, it's both an inner and an outer awareness that comes into play.

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Aug 13, 2018
346 Physiotherapy With Positive Mindset; Aleksandra Nenadic
26:09

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Most Influential Person

  • My Aunt.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness helps me be able to better recognize my emotions and therefore deal with them better.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I meditate on a daily basis or try to meditate on a daily basis. And so that keeps me sort of in tune with my emotions, with myself, with my feelings and so it helps a lot.

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Bullying Story

  • That's so funny that you ask because I just read an article the other day about a group of young aboriginal boys hockey team that were playing at a tournament in Quebec City,
  • This was not long ago and the article was describing how the referees, the players from the opposing team, as well as some of the people who were watching the game, were calling these young boys all kinds of names. And I thought that was very unfortunate. This ties in a little bit.
  • I think we should be more accepting of other people's beliefs, cultures and backgrounds.
  • And I think that if these people that were bullying had been more respectful or mindful of these boys, they would have realized that there was no need for behavior like that.

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Aug 08, 2018
345 Real Transformation: It's Not What You Think; Wendy Yellen
58:18

Wendy Yellen is named one of the International Top Three Transformational Experts in her field. Wendy has studied emotional release bodywork and many other traditional and non-traditional forms of healing from masters around the world. Wendy walked away from a successful psychotherapy practice when she discovered the Holy Grail of transformation work called Eidetics. This practice, based on ancient Greek knowledge and 21st Century science, enables business people and creatives to unlock their full potential and remove the weight of old, often unseen vulnerabilities which have been holding them back.

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Effect on Emotions

  • My emotions? Well, again, I'll go back to my husband. We've been together 40 years almost.
  • This is true, I'm not proud of it. I was mentally divorcing him. Sometimes it felt like about 80 percent of the time; in my head. I mean rehearsing when I would say it, but I never did it. Thank goodness, because I feel so in love with him now and I see him as a person.
  • I feel love in my heart in ways which I didn't allow before and part of that has been through eidetic images where saw what I was doing to him in an image where it was irrefutable and impossible to ignore. And it just broke my heart what I was doing. It just, it was horrible.
  • And so by being more mindful of when those automatic responses were coming up and taking a moment and choosing a house of love and letting other things bubble up in me.
  • Now what happens is sometimes I catch him singing for no reason at all and the problem is I don't know if he was always singing or I just didn't hear it.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • You might be surprised to hear [that it isn't part of my mindfulness practice]. It isn't a specific part where I focus on it, but it is a place that has changed in me and certainly when I am stopping, I'm definitely paying more attention to my breath, but it is not a place that I pay conscious attention to most of the time. I'm much more paying attention to, let's say some of the spiritual images that are coming to me through eidetics. That's more my focus.

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Bullying Story

  • So I thought a lot about this question. In fact, I had a conversation with my husband in the car about it yesterday and I thought, well, I could talk about Emily and I could talk about the kid in the pool in Japan and I could talk about being Jewish, but none of those stories have the juice of what I'm about to say.
  • I think the worst bullying we do is the bullying we do to ourselves in our own head. We live there so much of the time; I also think it's that bullying that can put us at risk for letting other people believe us because we have that Achilles heel. We have that sensitivity. We have that place where we're not coming from that same confidence. It can be so cruel sometimes.
  • I hear things coming out of people's mouths and I think if anybody else said that they would be up in arms. If they said that about somebody else [it would be unacceptable], but yet the way we talk to ourselves is cruel, so cruel. So I think that is real bullying.

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Aug 06, 2018
344 Mindfulness For All; The Dream of Andy Hobson
34:55

Andy Hobson combines mindfulness and music to make mindfulness accessible to all. He’s been meditating for over 17 years and has been teaching mindfulness to groups and individuals for 9 years. Before becoming a mindfulness teacher, Andy worked as a professional drummer and has toured the world playing in a number of successful bands. It was during this time that he began to study Buddhism and explored a more spiritual path. Andy now brings his two main passions, mindfulness teaching and music, together with his guided meditations.

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Effect on Emotions

  • [Mindfulness has helped me be] less up and down. More level. More like this rather than like that. (Andy motions with his hands to show more even and consistent rather than more rolling and up and down).

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is a huge part of my mindfulness practice. It's everything. It's what I turn to during the day. It's something I use a lot during my meditation, but it is my kind of home place to go to if I'm having a difficult conversation with someone or anything. I get my breath while I'm still listening to them. I'm going to pause my breathing.

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Bullying Story

  • Yeah, I was bullied, definitely, a lot. I think a lot of kids are. It wasn't really for a long time or anything really bad, but it was enough. I still remember it, you know, I was in secondary school and I was a small kid and you know, I wasn't great at sports and things like that and it was just a little group of lads who used to pick on me.
  • Nothing huge, but, when I think back at it, it had an impact. But there was nothing really around at that time. There was no one you could talk to, so you'd kind of swallow it and then deal with it later on.
  • Later, I did a lot of temp jobs and when you're a temp, you're at the bottom of the ladder, and people can be bitter because they kind of know you're moving onto something else probably.
  • I think at that time I was more of aware of it and I used to name stuff and it usually used to clear it up, and I'd say, oh, you're really annoyed today, or something like that. I'd just pick up on it and run with it. I'd let them know that this was not okay. Sometimes I'd say, hey, talk to me about that. That kind of worked and it definitely works with children as well actually.

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Aug 02, 2018
343 Find Peace With 365 Days of Happiness; Jacqueline Pirtle
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Jacqueline Pirtle wrote the book on happiness. In fact, she has helped hundreds of clients get into a “high for life” frequency so they can become happy anywhere at any time. Her book on happiness is called 365 Days of Happiness, and her extensive research on the topic affirms that if you have happiness in your life, your health will peak, you will experience abundance and your life will shift to a more positive place. Jacqueline’s background is in health, wellness, holistic medicine, energy healing, law of attraction, and happiness. She holds international wellness degrees and is internationally certified as a Reiki Master. She is also founder of FreakyHealer.com

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Most Influential Person

  • My husband and family.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness affects my emotions in the way that I am not a prisoner of any emotion that I have.
  • Mindfulness let's me say okay. I'm not feeling good right now, what am I going to do about it. So it makes me free as a bird.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is one of the most healing tools I think that's out there. And also becoming aware that every breath you take is your life, right?
  • You think your life is getting up in the morning, going to work. Actually it's breathing, right? So I concentrate on my breathing a lot.

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Bullying Story

  • I was bullied a lot because I was a red head girl was growing up in Europe where red hair was still kinda associated with witchcraft and that kind of stuff. So I was bullied and teased a lot and had very little friends was alone a lot.
  • If mindfulness would have been present [and we'd had the idea that] we're all connected and the hurt and trauma they initiated and that they actually bullied themselves too because it never makes you feel good afterwards.
  • You carry that energy in every single cell of yourself. Mindfulness would have made things nicer for me. For me, I am who I am because of my story, because of my journey and with all the ups and downs, and different bullying situations, different health issues, you know, with me being a mom, right?
  • And having teenagers and they go to school and they're bullied; with all of that together though, that's my journey and it made me who I am today. That's why this book exists, for instance, right? That's why I do what I do.

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Jul 30, 2018
342 Transform Loss Into Legacy With Mindfulness; Sandra Millers Younger
50:59

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Most Influential Person

  • Richard Rohr, Author

Effect on Emotions

  • I will say very briefly that for much of my life because of childhood influences, I was plagued by anxiety and even depression and mindfulness has enabled me to realize that most of that came from distorted thinking. That was not anything relevant to the moment that in the moment I was just fine and all of that other talk, self talk was really not even true. I didn't have to pay attention to that and that really has, has helped me be much more content and I'm secure, emotionally.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is so easy and in fact, when I give keynotes and workshops on the ComeBACK formula, this is one of the practices that I recommend because it's easy and it's nonthreatening.
  • There are all kinds of different ways as you know, that are projected to do this and recommended, but if you just focus very simply on taking a deep breath in and holding it for just a second and then letting it out, it does calm us down.
  • It's a physiological as well as mental and emotional intervention and it's totally self guided and possible. So breathing slowly and consciously and mindfully is a great, great practice.

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Bullying Story

  • I have been very fortunate in my life not to have been the subject of bullying to a great extent.
  • I already mentioned that there was that manager who was probably the closest that I came to bullying. She was out of control.
  • The more I think about this in this mindful moment, the more I think that really was bullying. She was bullying the entire team, our entire office and eventually to the degree that she got bounced out of her position. But not before she did a lot of damage.
  • And that was before the fire. It was before I was able to learn these deeper lessons and I didn't really handle it well.
  • There was a time that I remember I was kind of toe to toe yelling. I mean, we were yelling back and forth. It was that bad.
  • Well, how can I not say I've never been bullied when I'd forgotten about this? Okay. So you brought it back and if I had been more mindful, certainly in she had been more mindful that never would've happened.
  • You know, I think mindfulness also leads us to compassion because if we're mindful of not just what's going on in the here and now with us, but with others around us, we can see the situation more from their perspective even if we don't agree with that perspective. And certainly there was not a lot of that.
  • So had I been more mindful in those days, I probably would have let a lot more of that slide. I would not have been so personally offended and, and defending myself, which really didn't do any good.

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Jul 26, 2018
341 An Answer To Cancer Revealed By BNI Founder Dr. Ivan Misner
39:37

Dr. Ivan Misner the Founder & Chief Visionary Officer for BNI, the world's largest business networking organization. He has been called the "Father of Modern Networking" by CNN and one of the “Top Networking Experts to Watch” by Forbes. He is a New York Times Bestselling author who has written 22 books. Among his many awards, he has been named “Humanitarian of the Year” by the Red Cross and was recently the recipient of the John C. Maxwell Leadership Award. Dr. Misner's experience with prostate cancer resulted in the publishing of a book with his wife, Elisabeth called, Healing Begins In The Kitchen. Dr. Misner's 'Givers Gain' attitude has allowed him to share openly about his path and choices regarding comprehensive health care to move into wellness.

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  • My wife, Elisabeth Misner. She's the one that really got me back into meditation. She's a Tai Chi instructor and meditation instructor at the Austin Spa resort.

Effect on Emotions

  • I think mindfulness has centered me more because that whole concept of 'be here now'.
  • One of my strengths is I'm a dog with a bone. I'm very persistent.
  • One of my weaknesses is that I'm a dog with a bone, you know, I'm very persistent and that persistence can play out in a lack of mindfulness.
  • That is, you become so singularly focused on something that you're not paying attention to things around you. And so the whole concept of be here now, is in a book I've written that's going to be coming out later this year called 'Who's In Your Room'. I talk about creating harmony versus balance.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Well, again, you know, my wife has helped me with that and in meditation and deep breathing oxygen is really important for helping with cancer. And I did not know this. This was something that really surprised me.
  • When lab technicians and scientists want to halt the growth of cancer cells in a petri dish, they oxygenate the dish which slows down substantially the growth of cancer cells in a dish. And I had no idea about that.
  • And so if that doesn't tell you that oxygen is important, nothing does.
  • One of the therapies I did holistically was an oxygen tank that I went into. It's called a hyperbaric chamber. It was like a big submarine. I did that almost daily for quite some time. I did that daily for three weeks. And I felt fantastic.
  • And that's when my PSA dropped from 13 to zero point three. So I did that. I did IVs, and I did things that you can't get in the United States, laetrile and other other things that just aren't offered in the US and so I did them out of the country. I went to Mexico.

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Bullying Story

  • I think every kid's been bullied to some extent or other. I tended to stand up for myself reasonably well as a kid, but everybody got bullied. I got bullied. I got harassed as a kid.
  • I don't know if you'd consider this bullying or not, but it's my story of my why. I try to teach people that everybody's got a why, why they do the things they do in life. Particularly why they go into a particular profession or want to go into a particular profession. And it's almost always that something happens when you're a child. It's just a trigger. You may not even be in touch with it.
  • And I wasn't, I had to go back, this was an exercise that I did in a company and I had to go back and it took me back to 13 years old and it's sort of a kind of bullying situation.
  • I was 13 and when I was 11 and 12 I had run for student council and I got decimated. I mean not just decimated. I was last and I was sort of the laughing stock. I was a big joke with all of the junior high kids. So they were just harassing the heck out of me. And I felt pretty bad.
  • So now I'm 13 years old. I'm a freshman in high school. They usually elect the next year, but because we were in junior high, they elected it from the freshman class and it was freshman history.
  • And so Mr. Ramero, I'll never forget, I've written about him. I tell this story in a book I wrote called, Avoiding the Networking Disconnect. He asked the entire class, he said, we have to pick the student council representative of this class. I'll take nominations. Anybody want to nominate someone? Nobody, nobody nominated anybody.
  • Now I'm sitting there thinking, I'd love to do this, but I don't need to get beat up again by my friends. By my peers anyway. And so he said, well, if you don't pick, if you don't nominate anyone, then I get to pick.
  • And they're like, yeah, pick, we don't care. I remember this young girl, Cindy, she was a cheerleader. She stood up and she said, Oh, Mr Ramero, you know, I would run, but I'm so busy with cheerleading. I just don't have the time to do it. Mr. Ramero is like, Cindy, thank you very much for not volunteering. I appreciate that. Have a seat.
  • And I'm thinking, I'd love to do this, but there's no way I was going to do it. And so I didn't say anything. Mr Ramero looks around the room and he looks at me and he says, Ivan, I bet you'd like to do this, wouldn't you?
  • I was like, Huh, yeah, Mr Ramero, I, I kinda would like to do this. He said, okay. Ivan is the student council representative now, Bruce, I swear to you, I swear to you, the entire class in unison says, oh no, not Ivan.
  • Cindy stands up. And she said, Oh, Mr Ramero, if you're going to pick Ivan, then I'll run. She said that. So I'm sitting there thinking, really, you guys, seriously, you know, you see me sitting here, right? I didn't say anything, but it was a very raw moment.
  • Thirteen year old boy. I didn't have a crystal ball. I didn't know that I was going start a global business and write 20 books and be a keynote speaker. I didn't know any of that.
  • I was a 13 year old kid that felt like a total loser because my peers basically told me I was a total loser and Mr. Ramero, God bless him, said, nope, you had your chance. I made my choice. I remember at that moment thinking, I am going to make something out of this opportunity.
  • Mr Ramero saw something in me that my peers did not. I was going to make him proud and I was going to do everything I could to just do the best job in this role possible. And I think I did. And what's really interesting is that that same class elected me to be the sophomore student council representative, the same class that said, oh no, not Ivan.
  • And I went on to do four years in student council and was ASB president my senior year. And it happened because somebody saw something in me.
  • My why to this is I realized that almost every business that I've done since then was to help people be their best, to help people succeed. I can't make you successful in BNI. What I can give you is an environment where you can help yourself be successful. And that ended up really being my why and it was in a way because of bullying.
Jul 23, 2018
340 Meet The Queen Of Impact, Odette Peek Laurie
29:57

Odette Peek Laurie is a speaker, a coach, and an author and she's known as the Queen of Impact. She has a vision of a world where fear is eliminated from one million people across the globe by 2020 so they can live their life with power, purpose and without apology. She now works with unlikely leaders and game-changers who have a burning desire to change the world, but lack a strategy. Using her proprietary, seven-step proven process, they will craft a strong, unique message and amplify it to create a successful and impactful business.

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Most Influential Person

  • Gabrielle Bernstein, American motivational speaker, life coach, and author.

Effect on Emotions

  • I am way more chill, way more calmer. And whenever I find myself getting all out of sorts, I just grab myself and take 15 minutes of positive manifestation thought.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I never used to breathe. And my daughter has anxiety and she has tattooed underneath her heart, it says, 'just breathe'. So together, wherever we're freaking out, it's just three deep breaths.

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Bullying Story

  • I do actually have a story about bullying. That's a great question because I do talk about bullying in my Tedx talk and how bullying is so prevalent in our schools today.
  • Bullying is a leading cause of anxiety, depression, suicide amongst kids. And so when I wrote the Tedx talk, I looked back on my own life and I remember two very distinct moments.
  • One was in grade seven. I was a small person for grade seven and it was a new school and there was this grade eight girl who was, what I would say huge. In fact, she was half a foot taller than me. She was on the basketball team. She was strong and I was just kind of meek and mild. She wanted to beat me up. And we used to walk to the variety store.
  • I was scared to death, but I had friends that were literally like an entourage and they supported me and they were like, no way, we're going to have to make sure that she gets stays away from you.
  • She came up to me and she's bullying me and I was literally surrounded by friends and I felt so protected, scared out of my mind, but so protected.
  • I've had a few of those moments in school like that and I look back now and I decided, you know, when I was I think 27 I took, took up martial arts and got myself a black belt in karate.
  • Part of it was because I wanted to know how to defend myself physically in case I ever got into another altercation. But what I actually got more out of it was the sense of determination and mindset around protection of self.
  • I think if anything, it taught me a lot about discipline for my own head space, if that makes any sense. So I don't feel bullied and haven't felt bullied for a long time.
Jul 19, 2018
339 Heal PTSD Memories With Mindfulness and Soul Link; Gary Sinclair
35:55

Gary Sinclair helps people who suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, also known as  PTSD. His system is called 'Soul Link' and he's been using it to neutralize PTSD memories in over 10,000 people since 2014. Gary grew up with asthma and was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis at age 22. By age 36 he was wheelchair-bound and had lost 80% of his mobility.  As a result of a miracle at age 42, Gary regained full mobility and became an acclaimed Senior Figure Skater, winning as the US National Senior Olympic Free Style Figure Skating Champion.  

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Effect on Emotions

  • Because I live and breathe and have my being in that, which is the energy mindfulness is, it's where we're at. We walk and talk and live it and we don't realize we do. We think we don't.
  • We think it's something we have to go for; something we have to get. But the reality is it's who we are. Move into it, become that which you are.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • The answer is simply take a deep breath, hold it, and then just slowly let it out and notice what happens to your entire being. What changed in your thought while you were doing it? There's your answer.
  • Two things you have to have: the energy of the heartbeat and breath, in order to live. Breath of life. Enjoy it

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Bullying Story

  • The quickest story about bullying is one that just came to mind. I can remember standing on the edge of the ice rink getting ready to go out and compete.
  • The judges had told me that they didn't have a high enough category age level for me to really be there and if I didn't mind, they would combine me with the 21 year and over. But I needed to understand that if I didn't win the course, I wouldn't receive a metal. That was fine with me. I said, I'm here to win it.
  • As I go onto the ice, the young man standing there who just came off said, okay, pops, go show us what you think you can do. And my mind immediately popped to what I knew was a mindset and I said to him, sir, if you don't mind, if I were you, I'd stand right here because I'm not going out there to show you how I win a medal, I'm going out there to show you why I won it already.
  • That's mindset. That's mindfulness. That's about putting life in preview and living it.
  • You know, the average person has 60,000 complete thoughts a day. 80 to 85 percent of those thoughts they had yesterday, and tomorrow doesn't become different.
  • Life is different for me because I look at tomorrow knowing that's my future, it's my job to create it. It's my job to live.
  • It is my job to be who I am in my mind, in a mindset now that produces the future that I desire and the change in other people's lives because of it.
Jul 16, 2018
338 Build A Radical Platform Through Visibility With Debbi Dachinger
42:13

Debbi Dachinger is an expert in visibility. She is the author of best-selling books including Dare To Dream, Wisdom To Success and PR Magnet. Debbi does red carpet interviews and was previously an award-winning actress and singer. She is a media personality, has been interviewed on over 800 radio and TV shows, and is a dynamite keynote speaker onstage. Debbi helps leaders and global messengers write bestselling books, learn what their message is, and schedules clients on media interviews.

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Most Influential Person

  • My dog.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness is the great leveler of my emotions.
  • Mindfulness is the greatest tool I know. In a moment I can use it anytime and it has caused me to widen back so I can see all options. It has caused me to calm down. It has caused me to love myself and see opportunities and has created an immense healing inside of me that honestly it's an ROI; the more I use it, the more returns I get.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is tremendous, right? If you do nothing else, you can change your breath.
  • If you do nothing else, if you're in a room and you don't want to do anything, you don't want to do EFT tapping or suddenly start meditating, you can literally just [focus on] your breath and watch your breath come in and out and that will alter everything.

Suggested Resources

  • Book: Anything by Jon Kabat-Zinn
  • App: Calm With Cancer (An app for cancer patients but anyone can use it)
  • App: Deepak and Oprah's Meditation App

Bullying Story

  • When I was in sixth grade; so I was unpopular by the way. I was really awkward, really shy. And that went on for quite some time and for whatever reason when I got into high school, I completely changed. I then became very popular. So during this unpopular phase of my life, I was in sixth grade as I told you.
  • I was acting and singing since I was a peanut and I was cast as the lead in our school play and the people who were the popular kids sat at the very front lunch table in the lunchroom, eating together every day.
  • And one day when I was in this play, one of those people came up and said, would you like to join us? And I'm like, oh my God, they're talking to me. So cool. I take my little lunch bag. And it's like, hell yeah, this is awesome. Play goes on. I'm sitting everyday with them as part of their group. It's wonderful as far as I'm concerned. And then the play ends and I got there to the lunch table one day early, same popular lunch table. And Larry Asacaro looked over at me and said, what are you doing here? I said, this is where I eat, is with you guys, and he said, just so you know, nobody here likes you.
  • And I looked at him and I was so shocked and I said, you're a liar. That's not possible. You're a liar. He said I'm not a liar and to prove it to you, I want you to come out to the playground after school is over. So at 3:00, because I had no mindfulness to protect me at all, no choice. I just knew he said it.
  • I went out to the playground and what happened Bruce, is, I stood on the playground and all of those kids, guys and girls ten to 12 of them stood around me and they went around and each one of them told me why they didn't like me and why they didn't want me to be hanging around with them.
  • And Oh my God, can you imagine the impact of a sixth grader being told all of what's wrong with you and all why they're begging you to go away. And stop spending time with them? Devastating.
  • I didn't have anyone to go talk to at home about it. So I just ingested that trauma and of course never ate with them again.
  • Had I had mindfulness; like I said, observer rather than reactor. I mean, first of all, I really believe if I had been mindful and the energy had changed or even when it started, I might've noticed. They are just looking at me like I'm the star of the show. I'm the newest thing to come along and the 'it' girl for the next 15 minutes. So I might have even been aware of that.
  • And had I not, certainly when this boy turned to me, I would have been mindful enough to say no. I probably wouldn't have trusted going out to a playground or seeing what's happened.
  • And then if I'd gone out to the playground, I would have been mindful enough to take care of myself and say, you know, this is pretty interesting, but I don't need to hear this anymore.
Jul 12, 2018
337 The Conscious Power Of Awareness In Business and Life; Bob Rosen
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Bob Rosen is a trusted CEO adviser, organizational psychologist, and bestselling author. He has long been on a mission to transform the world of business, one leader at a time. Bob founded Healthy Companies International over twenty years ago with the singular goal of helping executives achieve their leadership potential. Bob and his colleagues started an in-depth study of leadership. Since then, he has personally interviewed more than 500 CEOs in forty-five countries in organizations as diverse as Ford, Citigroup, Pepsi, and Johnson & Johnson. He has become an adviser to many of these companies and coordinates the Healthy CEO Roundtable. Bob’s most recent book is called Conscious: The Power of Awareness in Business and Life.

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Most Influential Person

  • My husband, Jay.

Effect on Emotions

  • I think that everybody feels their emotions in a band and some people have a narrow band of emotions and some people have a medium band and some people have a very wide band, like a manic depressive would have a very wide band and some people are stoic and have a narrow band.
  • I'm in the middle. And so I feel life intensely; both the ups and the downs and so my mindfulness has enabled me to manage that so that my band isn't too wide and hijack me in the process.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Oh, I have to remind myself all the time. I sort of laugh at myself when I'm in the shower or I'm walking and I notice that I'm not even breathing. I'm like holding my breath and so deep breathing is such a wonderful skill to develop in terms of getting more peaceful and mindful.

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Bullying Story

  • I'll give you a personal example and then a business example. A personal example is I'm a gay man and I, I've been with my husband now for 35 years, but I've been very sensitive to watch how society has changed on its consciousness about gay and lesbian people.
  • I also look at the 'Me Too' movement and women, and there were so many men who were abusing women and they weren't conscious of the fact that they were doing it.
  • The norms were such that they could get away with it and women for their part may or may not have been conscious of being abused or they didn't want to talk about it and they developed their own consciousness to speak out and to be comfortable with their own personal power in the world.
  • So those are examples where I think bullying has affected my life. In a real life example take ABC studios and Roseanne Barr. It's a great example. People knew Roseanne's track record and they knew her prejudices, but they wanted a hit series.
  • They hired her and one wonders whether if they were a little more conscious and aware of the potential impact, the inevitable impact of Roseanne discovering that she can speak out and say her mind in the most prejudicial way, you know, maybe they wouldn't have made that investment.
Jul 09, 2018
336 Be Bold and Never Be Old Says Fitness Trainer Rico Caveglia
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Rico Caveglia is a trainer specializing in being totally vital and fit even if you’re older. Rico’s chronological age is 76 years, yet his fitness age is 35. He’s creator of The Ageless Living Lifestyle, The Vitality For Life Training System and the Be Bold Never Be Old wellness Club. He is a speaker, an author of 17 books, and has been a personal trainer for 36 years. He is a multi Gold and Silver Medalist in the California State Senior Olympics. Rico’s specialty is all about helping others have high energy and be motivated and fit so they can be as successful as they want to be. Rico is the host and creator of the Fearless Aging Podcast.

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  • Website: www.BeBoldNeverBeOld.com
  • Join Rico's 'Be Bold, Never Be Old online Wellness Club' (You can join for just $1 for the first month just to check it out and you get 4 personal training videos. And then after that, it's only $20 a month.

Most Influential Person

  • Deepak Chopra

Effect on Emotions

  • We've got to move. Our bodies are meant to move. I want to mention, have you heard the term sitting is the new smoking? It's so true. You know, at first we thought that, you know, well, sitting too much, of course it gives you a stiff back and the spine and it means my back's gonna hurt and you're not feeling too good.
  • But now there's been studies that it shows that it really slows your metabolism down, you know, blood pools in your legs, it's really bad for your digestion. And most of all metabolic functions are hindered by sitting too much.
  • So what I recommend is don't try and sit for more than 30 to 60 minutes at the most.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Well, our breath is really the connection to, however you want to think of it, to your higher self, to spirit.
  • It is the main component of our life. We can only stay alive for a few minutes if we don't breathe. Right? So breathing is so important.
  • What we have to realize is, it is our most powerful tool of all. If you're feeling really anxious or upset or excited, if you just take some nice deep, slow breath, they'll calm you right down.
  • And on the other hand, if you're feeling kind of, I'm a little funky, little tired, a little fuzzy, just take some, some short, some deep, powerful breaths, called the breath of fire. It'll energize you.
  • So our breath is our most important tool that we need to stay connected with. Realize that our breath is actually called inspire.
  • It's our connection to our higher self until all the knowledge that we actually need. So you just need to really focus on your breathing anytime that you're feeling unsettled.

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Bullying Story

  • I'm not sure that I can pick up an actual story. I guess laughing and teasing someone; that is a form of bullying. I guess we wouldn't have thought about it in those days; it wasn't even a term, but that was a form of bullying without either party understanding that.
  • Yes. I mean if we had the capacity to be mindful in those days and realize that if anybody is being unkind or hurtful to anybody else, you actually have to feel sorry for them because they have something going on. They're not feeling comfortable with themselves.
  • And so if we could have been mindful in those days, then you wouldn't let it bother you. Right? You would just say, well, these people are being silly or being stupid and I feel sorry for them.
  • I don't know if I can think of an actual story. That moment of something where I had the experience where I use mindfulness, but I try and do that all the time now. If someone is that way, you know, so many being stupid or saying bad things to someone or to yourself you just let it go.
Jul 05, 2018
335 Mindful Marketing From Within; Cindy Schulson
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Cindy Schulson shows coaches and consultants how to stand out in this noisy online world by marketing with heart versus hype. One of her greatest gifts is helping her clients sort through their “brain dump” of ideas so they can find the golden nuggets that make them shine in their own unique way. Cindy is known for her down-to-earth approach – what you see is what you get. Her love of adventure has led her to live and work in five countries, and she continues to bring that adventurous spirit to both her business and life.

Listen & Subscribe on:  iTunes / Stitcher / Podbean / Overcast / Spreaker / Spotify

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Most Influential Person

  • My 13-year-old son

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness keeps me grounded. I'm all about nature and if something's on my mind, I go out for a hike and I can take the time and space to look around and appreciate the beautiful tree that I see. It just brings me back to who I really am at my core and what's important.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I need to practice. I'll be honest. I need to practice that more. I don't have a quick temper. I don't need to do that as much, [deep breathing] but I'm sure there are moments like when I'm pissed off at my kid that I need to do that better.

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Bullying Story

  • I do have a bullying story. I mentioned to you that I was a bit of an awkward kid and I was actually quite bullied all through high school.
  • I was not at all in tune with who I really was at that point. And I think that's quite common with teenagers and I think that's why it's so much harder for kids to be bullied because they don't have that skill set yet.
  • I would have really benefited from it. And again, my 13-year-old teaches me. Here's a quick story. He plays hockey and he came out of hockey practice and he was saying, Oh, this one person was giving me a hard time today.
  • He was criticizing all my plays and stuff. I said, look, didn't that bother you? Like he's your friend? And he said, no, I know who I am. It doesn't matter what he thinks about me.
  • If I had had that skill set when I was young, I would have dealt with things much better.
Jul 02, 2018
334 Expand Your Mind With Julius; Brad and Kasey Wallis
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Kasey and Brad Wallis are authors, international speakers, and workshop leaders, with an expertise in releasing limitations, lack and need. They have been featured guests on over 400 media outlets such as CNN, Fox News, NBC, and ABC, as well as mainstream radio, podcasts and telesummits. Brad and Kasey’s passion is to help people transform themselves and their lives. Their expertise allows others to know the highest version of themselves. They offer workshops and training experiences on their beautiful property in Utah.

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Most Influential Person

  • Kasey: My father and my brother.
  • Brad: Ghandi

Effect on Emotions

  • Brad: Mindfulness has certainly made me more aware of my emotions. I was very much afraid not to show emotion. In fact, I was raised to not be an emotional person. And since becoming who I am today, I have no problem whatsoever showing my emotion about anything.
  • Kasey: [Mindfulness and emotion] go right in alignment. Once you become aware of one thing, you automatically become aware of everything else and the mind and the emotion click engage together to create everything for you. But learning that you can choose, that helped me honor my emotions, helped me want my emotions, helped me to love my emotions and to help me dig those emotions out of everybody that I come in contact with because that's where intimacy lies.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Brad: I'll say I breathe more today than I ever have in my life. I do understand the power of closing my eyes and taking a few breaths. I get that now. Yeah, it's very powerful.
  • Kasey: Breath is the physical action of alignment and quiet and calm and it was meant for physical embodiments to keep us in that state continually as an automated system just like blinking. And yet we've completely lost our acknowledgment and appreciation for it. So like anything else in life as we go back to everything that we appreciate and we love, we become masters of.

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Bullying Story

  • As you know, the bullier is also a victim. They are on the other side of the victimhood ball by being the implementer of victimhood upon someone who chooses to be a victim.
  • They will eventually figure out that bullying is not bringing them joy either, but we understand what you're saying as far as, as the person being bullied. We actually have experience with this because of my son.
  • We live in southern Utah. And so without having to say blatantly to everybody, I'm sure you can probably figure out what the dominant religion in Utah is. It's extraordinarily judgmental and extraordinarily controlling and their behaviors are very much dictated to them.
  • I brought my children to southern Utah when they were very young and my son is gay and not Mormon. And he doesn't hunt or fish or kill things to be manly. And he was a bullying magnet as a child. [We tried] to keep him out of the way of some of these horrible, horrible kids.
  • We also taught him empowerment of, not taking the role on in the sense that, your reaction to an action continues to conflict in the action. Okay. To stand up and say, no, I'm not gonna be in conflict with you.
  • Now some people will say, yeah, that's all fine and dandy, but he's gonna get his ass kicked a few times. We say, yeah, a little bit, but he got better. He got better at not crawling around almost looking for the kid to kick him. Now, of course, working resourcefully with the kid that was bullying as well.
  • We're not going to just stand back and allow that process to take place, of course. Because it is a two-way street. It's a massive street, a speedway of parents and kids and society and instructors, you know, those people that are in charge. They don't get it. So having conversations with principals and parents and the kids in the room and talking about love and compassion and tolerance and victim hood; that seemed to help.
  • It really did seem to help to understand that the bully is a victim also, and part of that is him or her desperately seeking acknowledgment, desperately seeking some form of empowerment and to help teach them that there are other ways to get your empowerment than trying to take it from somebody else.
  • So we worked that way with my son and all of his friends because he was in theater. So growing up then into high school at a performing arts high school, there were transgender children, bisexual children, homosexual children. We were the cool house everybody wanted to come to because they could all talk about whatever they wanted. It was actually quite eye-opening.
  • But our job was to empower these kids to let them know who their soul was and their whole energy shifts. They'd go from really almost attracting the bullies to having some protection.
  • That was a great experience to be able to walk through and continue to walk through because we work with those groups still.
Jun 28, 2018
333 Don’t Wait To Be Great Proclaims Raven Blair Glover
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Raven Blair Glover is an interview expert, a three times award winning talk show host extraordinaire also known as the  Talk Show Maven. Jack Canfield referred to Raven as "One Of The Best Interviewers On The Planet". She has interviewed such stars as Lou Gossett Jr, Brian Tracy, Montel Williams, Ali Brown, Sherri Shepherd, Brendan Bouchard and Lisa Nichols. Raven is a former CNN radio personality and is known by many as the queen of Internet radio. Raven is recipient of the Barack Obama 2016 Presidential Achievement Award. She is also the inventor of HatWraps; the first ever patented hat accessory that turns one hat into several looks.

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Most Influential Person

  • Alex Mandossian

Effect on Emotions

  • Well, mindfulness has helped me be a calmer person.
  • It's helped me to be more clear of where I'm going; more laser focused. It's helped me to understand sometimes I got to go on lockdown to get things done.
  • This is what I teach my clients, lockdown is where you cut off your phones and your texts. You contact the people that you need to get in contact with; family members and stuff and say, Hey, for the next 24 hours, 48 hours, weekend or week, I'm on I'm on lockdown because I'm going to finish this book, I'm going to finish the project, and it helps me to be on purpose with a definite purpose.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Meditation helps me to breathe; to have my breathing in balance. Okay. Where I'm not that anxious. I'm trying to rush because when I get anxious, my blood pressure shoots up.
  • So I've had to learn to be calm and take deep breaths, inhale and exhale and push out the negative and suck in the positive.
  • When you let go, kind of like a balloon, let go of it and feel yourself being free to be you.
  • So having a pattern of breathing calmly and breathing rhythmically, you know, has helped me stay clear, be more positive, be more focused and like I said, being more on purpose with a definite of purpose.

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Bullying Story

  • You know what? I can't say I ever was bullied. I can say that I was probably someone that was looked at as a bully, not to the extent of a bully as [people see it] today because it is really bad today, but this was years ago.
  • When I think back to grade school, I was in fights. And guess what, bringing it back to mindfulness, it was because my parents were very strict on me. We used to get whippings and and it was the fact that I was just living out anger because of what I was going through.
  • I believe people are a product of their product. Many people that have been abused, become abusers, right? Many people who were on drugs, are on drugs now. Their intentions were never to be on drugs, but they were brought up around that.
  • And so a lot of times people take their anger, they're really angry at themselves or what they're going through and they take it out on those that are weaker. So that's why I'm so glad now I get a chance to serve and I've become such a better person and, and all that.
  • And when I thought about your show and I know you're about bullying, I would have to say that I probably would have been considered someone that bullied those that seemed to appear to be more timid and stuff because of the anger.
  • So with that said, one of the things that I had to do to change my life was read and listen to audios and videos. I had to do a lot of reading interviews. Well, they were my therapy because I couldn't afford therapy.
  • I made a list of people that could help me. And as much as I love my audience, I asked them the questions that I needed to know because I needed to get better and it certainly has helped me.
  • Am I where I want to be? No. But like that old saying, thank God I ain't where I used to be. I just want to tell people, whatever you did in the past, the good news is you can correct it. It's not something I'm proud of.
  • I don't even know if anybody called me a bully. And because I knew your show was about that, I really meditated on it and I said, well, you know, I was probably bullying people that were more timid because I had so much anger.
Jun 25, 2018
332 Be a Mindful Master Connector Says Virginia Muzquiz
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Virginia Muzquiz is known as the Referral Diva. She is an Executive Director with Business Network International, the Chief Connections Officer with Master Connectors, Inc and the host of the Passion+Purpose=IMPACT podcast. Well-known for her ability to connect the people she meets with people they need to know, Virginia is on a mission to help solo business owners connect to their purpose and their passion so they can build businesses that fund their dreams and have massive impact on the community where they live and serve.

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Most Influential Person

  • Callan Rush

Effect on Emotions

  • I'm no longer a reactive slave to my emotions. I'm actually a casual observer.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is what ties the mind to clarity. I think breathing is what gives me clarity, focus and vision.

Suggested Resources

  • Book: Anything by Dr. Wayne Dyer
  • App: iTunes - Meditative music which I preview on Pandora and then purchase on iTunes
  • Also search for Nam-myoho-renge-kyo. It's a Buddhist chant.

Bullying Story

  • I'll tell you a story because it does have that 'if I had known how to deal with it different' slant because I actually had a similar situation. I was 12 years old, 11 or 12 and it was in fifth grade and I was invited to Dana Amoli's birthday party. I felt like, oh my God, I made it. Dana was going to have me over to her house. I was going to get to go to the party and everything.
  • What I didn't know is I was the entertainment. Like if you've ever seen the movie mean girls, like I was the entertainment. So after all the parents went to bed, it probably was 11 or 12:00 at night.
  • The girls, they were all doing that thing where you lay down and you do light as a feather, stiff as a board and lift with two fingers.
  • Well, they got me to lay down, but instead of doing light as a feather stiff as a board, they held me down. They smeared me with green Jello and they shoved me in a closet and that's where I slept. I pounded on the door. I begged for them to let me out. And they didn't let me out until the morning.
  • I can't even remember really what happened because I'm sure that Mrs Amoli was horrified and talked to my mother. I don't remember.
  • That moment is like sticky and in the dark and laughing and, you know, that was just like, it's so wow. It's so present for me and how cruel and ucky that was.
Jun 21, 2018
331 Become An Empowered Educator With Jen Molitor
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Jen Molitor is a teacher who believes we should teach children, not curriculum. She’s on a mission to empower and unite teachers and parents all over the world. Her superpower is getting teachers to smile and enjoy teaching again. She brings a refreshing perspective that lifts you up when you want to walk out, reminding you of the real reason you became an educator.
We are all teachers. Let’s spread the message that powerful teaching is done through the heart. Start there, and as if by magic, the mind also opens to learning.

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Most Influential Person

  • Louise Hay, Author

Effect on Emotions

  • I'm more centered. I'm a better mom, a better wife, a better person.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • It helps to slow me down, helps to connect me and get in touch with my body in a quicker way.

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Bullying Story

  • I think there are a lot of stories about people being bullied and picking on them and I have some. However, I don't want to share that. I want to share one from a teacher perspective and what I'm seeing in schools because I think it's really powerful.
  • I think it's powerful as a parent too, to model these kinds of things. I think that parents and teachers in this authority type of responsibility, we're taking care of kids, we're in charge of them.
  • We can tend to bully kids ... because I said so and this is how it's done and we have all these other things to get through. So just sit down and this is what you have to do and I don't care if you dropped your pencil, you know, like this kind of thing.
  • And I think inadvertently we are really sending this message to kids that they're not as important. Right now I work as a gifted intervention specialist and instructional coach and so part of my time I work with kids in my room who are identified as gifted. It's a pullout type of atmosphere.
  • So I have between eight and 20 kids in my room and when they come to my room I hear some of the grumbling that happens from what teachers told them in the hallway, like their whole class had to go back to the class and sit down because two kids were talking in the hallway or one kid got in trouble and everyone else had to get the brunt of it.
  • So what I've come to discover is that we need to have more mindful conversations with kids and step out of our ego for a little bit. And if a kid is misbehaving, it's usually because they're discouraged.
  • They don't wake up one day and say, who can I tick off today? I can't wait. It's more of, I'm feeling uncomfortable if something's going on, I'm discouraged. And, I need attention. I need this. I'm going to throw this or get in trouble there.
  • I don't eat the teacher's lounge anymore. I stopped that and it's been helpful. So that kind of complaining and venting about kids and other people.
  • Even as a mom, if there's another mom on the soccer field and all the moms are talking about that person, well that's, that's kind of bullying too.
  • And I think we have to model for others, you know, like grace. I think we have to model grace. Like, no, she doesn't wear what I would wear and maybe she doesn't do what I would do or drive the car that I would, or treat her kid like I would.
  • There's got to be a place for some grace for kids, for teachers, for adults.
Jun 18, 2018
330 Million Pound Mission Founder Equals Inspiration; Adam Schaeuble
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Adam Schaeuble, aka The PHD (previously heavy dude), is the host of the top ranked fitness podcast 'The Million Pound Mission'. He reached a point in his life where he weighed 327 pounds and was already having weight related health issues in his late twenties. He decided to overhaul his lifestyle and his fitness and ended up losing over 100 pounds. Feeling inspired, he took what he learned from his own transformation journey and created a bootcamp program that produced over 35,000 pounds of results in his home town of Bloomington, Indianna. Now Adam has set his sights on inspiring over one million pounds of healthy results through his podcast, online academy, and online bootcamp program.

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Effect on Emotions

  • I think it's helped me really deal with anxiety a lot. I've been in the hospital a few times from entrepreneur itis, working too many hours and you know, anxiety attacks, and taking on too much. So being mindful, being present in the moment has allowed me to have like a filter to sort out what is actually happening and what do I actually need to be worrying about?

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing. I follow a meditation practice that's involved with breathing.
  • Just being able to have control of whether it's box breathing or just doing kind of a silent meditative practice where I'm just focusing on the breath.
  • I love just doing breathing where I breathe in, count one, breathe out, count to 10 and then cycle through that a few times. And it's just a nice little reset where I can actually do that in between tasks if I'm kind of switching modes from, okay, we do this interview and now I have to do some client calls. I'll do a little bit. I use that to kind of pause and breathe.

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Bullying Story

  • Well, I think there's a unique thing that happens when somebody loses a lot of weight and we kind of bully ourselves a little bit. Like there's a moment where we beat ourselves up.
  • We lose that confidence. And like I said, we assume that other people are making fun of us so people will beat themselves up a lot along the journey about not being there yet.
  • Maybe they've lost 60 or 70 pounds, but their goal is 80, 90 pounds and they beat themselves up about not being there yet. They're not being present. They're not realizing like, hey, I've accomplished something amazing and be proud of that.
  • So it's probably not the traditional bullying answer that you get, but I feel like, let's start with us. Like don't beat our selves up. Don't be hard on our own self, especially when we're accomplishing amazing things, you know? Be Proud of yourself.
  • There's a coach I've got named Dan Sullivan; he talks about something called the gap and the gain. He says you have to always measure from where you started. That's the gain. Don't measure the gap between where we are now to where we want to get to be because that's like the horizon line and getting there never happens because what happens when we hit our 50 pound goal. Okay, I want 60. Okay, I hit that. Okay. I want 70.
  • If people don't take that moment to breathe and be present and realize that, you know what, that's pretty damn awesome. And like, we all do this, whether it's with weight loss, with anything.
  • I do my affirmations, I still do my lifestyle rehabilitation. I still do it all and I just accomplished another major goal. I paid off my mortgage and I'm mortgage free.
  • I'm 100 percent debt free and I took a few days. I just like, I just, I wasn't going to set the new goal, I wasn't going to set the next thing. I just sat down and just kind of walked around my house and I'm like, this is mine. I don't have to worry about that debt anymore. I can take that and invest in my retirement.
  • I just really got into the moment, celebrated that with my kids, my family, and we talked about it. My son's seven. I talked to him, like I'm going to help, you know, put more money towards their college, he doesn't understand any of that, but I just communicated it to him, but just kind of being in that moment, being present, being mindful and being proud.
Jun 14, 2018
329 The Body Whisperer Will Give You Your Body Back; Erin Burch
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Erin Burch is a healer with roots as a physical therapist and yoga expert. She is known as ‘The Body Whisperer’, and if you’re experiencing pain, she can quite simply, give you your body back, using her own system coined as ‘The Burch Method’. Her expertise goes back to a prolonged experience with her body where she reversed a seemingly impossible, painful situation to become a new, pain-free woman. The brand new Erin felt connected and empowered with a fresh sense of freedom. With her clients, Erin draws on the Body’s Blueprint to create profound, lasting results.

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  • Website: www.TheBurchMethod.com
  • Watch for Erin's Program, "Ageless Goddess Sister Mind", a year long deep dive with a tight knit community which is launching this Fall. The program is for midlife women specifically from age 40 to 65. Learn more on her website www.TheBurchMethod.com

Most Influential Person

  • Yoga

Effect on Emotions

  • Regarding mindfulness and my emotions; I'm so much better than I was.
  • Mindfulness is your savior in terms of your emotions because when you get triggered, if there's no space for awareness, you are just shit out of luck. Do you know what I mean?
  • Like you can do therapy all day long, but if there's no place for consciousness to be the crowbar; I think of mindfulness as being a crowbar, you know, awareness, mindfulness, attention, you can call it whatever.
  • But, you know, it's the crowbar that gets in between there and opens things up. So you can insert your witness and start to make changes from that place.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing. Oh Wow. I would love to do a lot more pranayama. Yeah, a lot more. I think it's probably, you know, arguably the most potent thing that we can do and I don't do it as much as I want to. It literally. It's the subtle, it's the subtle stuff. It's the little things. It's the millimeters.
  • I've got to tell you, my work is all about like living into the millimeters because that's where change happens and pranayama's like that. It's actually interesting, Bruce, because with all of my training for the last year and a half, I've been waking up feeling like my rib cage is just jammed, can't breathe, wake up in the morning, not gasping for breath, but it certainly isn't free. Right?
  • And it's now after a year and a half doing my mindfulness in my body fullness practice, it's much better and I'm getting more aware. That's what I mean by, you know, when we live the questions in our bodies, stuff shows up, right? Doesn't show up fast necessarily, but it does show up.
  • So I'm much better. But breathing is like, again, like, you know, oxygen. Oh my God, why are we not doing everything we can all day long to increase that? If you think about the size of your lungs, it's about the size of a two liter bottle on each side, roughly. And watch how most people breathe. These little tiny, tiny breaths. So I'm a big fan of it and I'm getting better and better at it.

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A Client Testimonial Story

  • I just got a testimonial today from a woman. I can read it to you.
  • Actually. I did a VIP day with her. A VIP day with me is six hours where we go back to the drawing board and build your body up in a whole new way.
  • Then I spend all the time that we're together training you into that place and teaching you how to stay there, which is really unusual to get that kind of training.
  • Nobody does that. Right. And that's the key, is learning how to stay there. Yeah. Because when you leave a physical therapist or chiropractor or massage therapist office, they're influence stops when you walk out the door. That wasn't okay with me as a PT (Physical Therapist).
  • They would come back with the same body and I was like, but we did such good work and they'd be like, I don't know what I did.
  • And so I've started to unravel the patterns that people use to paint themselves into the corner that they don't like being in.
  • That's what I mean by the trunk, by being in the trunk is, you know, you unconsciously paint yourself into these corners and then you wonder how did I get here and who can help me get out of it?
  • And I'm like, okay, this is how you got there. This is the driver's seat, this is how you got there. And now if you do this other thing, you'll get a different result. Really, really revolutionary. No one's doing this.
  • So here's what she wrote:
  • "If you do one thing this year, hire Erin. The Burch Method and working with Erin will change your life. After one VIP session with her and integrating the Burch Method into my routine, my years of nagging hip and knee pain have disappeared. I travel over 100,000 miles per year in my career. And for the first time I've gotten off the plane without stiffness and pain. I have more energy and more stamina than I did in my forties. Erin is the best at what she does, period."
Jun 11, 2018
328 Discover The Secret Behind Magical Success; Sylvia Becker-Hill
35:31

Sylvia Becker-Hill is an industry expert in the field of corporate leadership and international speaking. She is the author of '12 Leadership Powers for Successful Women'. Sylvia has experienced first-hand, the rise of women’s empowerment. Sylvia fuses her love of science and psychology to help people break through their un-serving dogmas of the past. Her mission is to raise the number of female leaders world-wide in all sections of society, economy and government by 30% in the next 30 years.

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Most Influential Person

  • My husband, Peter Hill.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness helps me to stay out of emotional drama and enjoy the beauty of real emotions.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is my most easiest, most powerful tool. By just taking a deep breath, I raise already my level of mindfulness.

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Bullying Story

  • For my own experience, let me say that I had. I had in the past quite a short fuse. Is that an expression which makes sense for English speakers, so when I watched something which was against my values, some injustice, unfairness, it's at school or in business, oh my gosh. That triggered me and being German, I'm straightforward in my communication.
  • So I had the tendency in the past to explode and say what I think and be quite straight and intense and sometimes to a degree which was hurting the other person.
  • It sometimes went over the top and was not appropriate for the situation. There's a difference between stepping up when you see injustice and mentioning it and addressing it or leaching out because you feel subconsciously attacked in your own value system.
  • So there's these two layers of appropriate addressing. Plus because my ego was still attached to my values, being here to act and threaten where my ego was reacting. So mindfulness gave me the tool to be able to even distinguish what I just shared with you.
  • That there are two layers that, that it's not about not saying anything, it's about having the clarity and the confidence to address things which are not okay, but in a way which are productive and not coming from an own hurt ego reaction pattern where I'm protecting more my own values or whatever I'm feeling attacked.
  • Maybe it's an argument, maybe it's a belief system. So mindfulness helps me to distinguish that. I was able to discover that and mindfulness helped me to train, to let go of the ego hurt reaction where I'm defending where I'm attacking the other person because I feel threatened and focus really on the productive part of the interaction.
  • So mindfulness I think makes me a better person where this short fuse; it's now a very long fuse, so it needs now much more to trigger me that I lose control.
  • So mindfulness ultimately gave me more control about the animal parts of me, the ego part, the subconscious mind parts, the parts where in the past I might have gone out of control in a painful way for others and myself.
Jun 07, 2018
327 Whale Watching Wisdom with Anne Gordon de Barrigon
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Anne Gordon de Barrigon is a whale and dolphin expert. She has been running Whale and Dolphin Wisdom Retreats since 2007 and has a Degree in Biology and Animal Behavior.  She has worked as a zookeeper and has trained animals for over 20 years for movies and TV. Married into the indigenous Embera tribe in Panama. Owns and operates Embera Village Tours. Pioneered the whale watching industry in Panama.

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  • Website: www.WhaleWisdomRetreats.com
  • Free Ebook: You can download 'Messages From the Sea', which is wisdom that I received direct from the dolphins and whales. I'm happy to share that with you. (Get it from her website)

Most Influential Person

  • I think that would be the whales and dolphins. For me, they're, they're my gurus.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has given me a deep sense of peace, a deep peace and comfort.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is really important because dolphins and whales are conscious breathers. Dolphins and whales have to literally consciously think to breathe.
  • That means, let's just say you're swimming underwater and you know you can't breathe until you come to the surface. Same with them. So when you are conscious breather for a whale and dolphin, they can't sleep like we can.
  • We sleep because they they'd suffocate without breathing so they sleep with one half of their brain and the other half keeps them moving and breathing or you know, coming to the surface.
  • So when you are fully conscious of your breathing, it also, that just expands to being more conscious and using more of your brain power or conscious of how your physical body moves, which also opens up your mind to being more aware and conscious of the world around you.

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Bullying Story

  • I'm not aware of being bullied or just didn't pay enough attention so that it affected me. I have an interesting story that I think you'll like.
  • It was on a retreat here with the whales and I had these people on this trip who were all from the UK. This one young man, he was just 21 and he was so much fun, but he was hyper as all get out. He was just bouncing off the walls.
  • This was not even a spiritual group. They were more of a whale-watching scientific group. Somebody in the group asked, can we do some meditation? I'm like, sure. Okay. So when we went to do the first meditation, this young man said, I don't know if I can do this meditation stuff. I can't sit still for anything.
  • And I said, you know what? That's fine. It's up to you and if you want to just try it and if it doesn't work, just very quietly walk away so you don't disturb anybody. So he was like, okay. So I gave him permission to leave if he needed to.
  • So I started the meditation and when I oftentimes lead meditations, I have an idea of where it's going, but the whales and dolphins enter and they guide me and I just go wherever they want to take us. So on that particular evening they wanted to take us to forgiveness.
  • So okay. We went there and what they asked me to show was to have everybody imagine a dolphin hunter from Japan standing in front of them and then feel what they feel about a dolphin hunter, but then see that this man, this hunter has a family and he has his culture and he has his history and he's just trying to do what we're all trying to do and that's feed his family and live a good life, good healthy, happy life.
  • And that's all he knows how to do; to connect with him on a heart to heart level and a soul to soul level. And then I guided them to hug this man once they connected heart to heart, soul to soul. So afterwards, I was asking for anybody to share and this young man said that was amazing. He said, I saw that Japanese hunter and I punched him.
  • But then when you asked me to look at his heart and his soul and see that he was just trying to get by. I hugged him and I apologized. I'm so sorry that I hit him. And so for me, bullying is about like he was trying to bully this Japanese hunter.
  • If we just open our hearts and our, our souls to connect on that level because the people doing the bullying are doing so out of pain that they're feeling. And so they don't know how else to act out. So we need to open our hearts and move to understand them and give them the love they're so desperately seeking.
Jun 04, 2018
326 Fast Track Your Acting Career With Valorie Hubbard
32:47

Valorie Hubbard is an actor and an expert at empowering other actors. She owns the company, Actor’s Fast Track, where she consults with working actors about their career paths. In her newest book, 'Rule Breakers - Changing The Way Actors Do Business', she shows professional actors how to create and operate their acting career as a successful business – and how to move from being “stuck” into the limelight. Some of her credits include: Castle, Agent’s of S.H.I.E.L.D; How I Met Your Mother; Glee; American Horror Story; Workaholics; True Blood, Resident Evil: Extinction and every Disney show. Valorie lives in Los Angeles with her husband Chef Gill Boyd and dog Gracie.

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  • Company: Actors Fast Track
  • Website: www.ActorsFastTrack.com
  • Contact: Sara@actorsfasttrack.com will arrange a conversation for you with the right person.
  • Free Book: Text the word 'Rulebreakers' to 38470 to get a free digital download of the book, Rulebreakers by Valorie Hubbard.

Most Influential Person

  • Melissa McFarland, who was my original coach in Actor's Fast Track. She was my coach for 10 years.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has calmed my rage down. If I take that five seconds before I make a decision; discernment.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is everything. I mean, you learn that as an actor and so breathing is everything. Everything. It's life, so huge. It's a huge impact.

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Bullying Story

  • Well, that's hilarious because really my tagline as an actor, is the adorable bully. Marcy Lewis is the bully. You know, like I've always played the bully. So it's so funny. I've always played that person.
  • When I was little I was teased a lot for being fat. And one of the things that I didn't know and I wasn't taught is, I think breath would have been a very big help. I mean, that's something they didn't know when I was a child, about breathing in and breathing out and breathing in and breathing out. And that time out and that five second rule, that discernment thing, you know, is really big.
  • What happened is, the kid started teasing my friend one day and because it was my friend, all of a sudden I just lost it. Like I snapped and I've had a few of those where I beat him up. He never came back to school. The girl beat him up. The fat girl beat him up.
  • I socked him hard in his face, you know. The lesson always is if you don't say something, if you don't have the conversation, if you don't face and say the truth of what you're feeling regardless of how they take it or whatever, it's like it'll build up to where you explode and possibly injure someone.
  • I mean there were times in my adult life where I, you know, early adult life where I experienced that and I was like, I do not want to experience that again.
May 31, 2018
325 Be a Little Crazy Says Storyteller Devin Galaudet
40:38

Devin Galaudet is editor-in-chief of 'In The Know Traveler' and he's visited 85 coutries around the world. He's in the process of marrying his wife 100 times in 100 countries. He's accomplished 20 times in 15 countries so far. He's appeared on Fox, NBC, ReInvention Radio among others. His writing has appeared in the Huffington Post, TravelAge West, Citron Review, Skylight Magazine. Devin has written a memoir called, Ten Thousand Miles With My Dead Father's Ashes, available in bookstore in September, 2018. It answers the question, what do you do when you lose your father's ashes?

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Most Influential Person

  • Anna Korea King (A woman I studied the Western Mysteries with)

Effect on Emotions

  • I can't begin to tell you how important mindfulness is towards my day to day life and I think it comes in a variety of forms in religion and spirituality and philosophy and all kinds of different doctrines and things like that.
  • I think what it's given me is to kind of look beyond how I might be feeling in any given moment to understand that I am part of this great fantastic thing called life and I get to appreciate that thing.
  • Again, some moments and some days are more difficult than others. But overall I'm, I'm the luckiest guy in the world. I think getting started, it is very challenging because we want to fall back on old ideas.
  • I was raised in a certain way so I keep thinking, well I'm that guy and the truth of the matter is I'm not that guy anymore and I haven't been that guy for many years.
  • So having that gratitude, you stay on the wheel, so to speak.
  • You keep working on yourself and remaining conscious. The more that happens, all these other doors start opening up. I started developing more gratitude and more compassion for other people.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Well, I think there's a physiological thing that goes on when we get bad news or we're agitated and that becomes more shallow breaths. That becomes less awareness.
  • I think there are just things that go on. And the first thing that I do is try to almost automatically go into a slower breath. I want to fill my lungs up just to either breathe in this good news or just acknowledge it.
  • Okay, here's this thing that's going on, but I don't need to be flipped out by it. So why don't I just take long, slow breaths?

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Bullying Story

  • Yes, I was bullied when I was six or seven years old. And you know, it's hard to describe. Again, this is something that comes from the book.
  • My mother thought that I was a Barbie doll and so she would quite literally dress me in pantaloons and ruffled shirts and buckled shoes and I grew up in like nineteen seventies, Los Angeles. And that is a recipe for getting picked on.
  • As I recall, every boy was wearing like sears, tough skin jeans and everybody was wearing work boots and you know, I mean that's the way my father dressed and that's what I wanted. And so I would get dressed up in these costumes that were, it was, I mean, again, you can look back and you smile at it, but at the time it was just demoralizing.
  • I would go, who wears velvet knickers, like other than like somebody from a French Dandy from the seventeen hundreds. But I was. I don't even know where my mother found culottes for boys, but that's how I was sent to school.
  • And so that without question separated me from most kids and I took some lumps over that and you know, again, I don't know if it's ironic, but once my father got wind of it and my father was a pretty prideful guy and I was kind of a slight built guy and my father was just a wide shoulder, big forearms, the whole thing.
  • And he was very much like, you know, I want to transmit my father and use his language, but that would probably be inappropriate for a family audience. But he made it essentially very clear that you are going to stand up for yourself, you are getting into fistfights wherever necessary.
  • And he took me in the backyard and taught me to do things that really were probably on the edge of right and wrong. But looking back at it, it was something that I think for me as a young man, certainly considering the time, that was just part of what needed to take place.
May 28, 2018
324 Finding Peace From Your Hijackal Relationships; Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
29:32

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler is the 'Relationship Help Doctor'. She provides urgent and on-going care for relationships in crisis. She particularly helps the partners, the exes, adult children, and co-workers of the crazy-making, relentlessly difficult people that she calls, 'Hijackals'. She helps them save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. Even the United States Marines have called on Doctor Shaler for help. She's a relationship expert and speaker and author of 16 books. She consults with clents world-wide through the internet and she's host of two podcasts. One is called 'Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show' and the other podcast is called 'Save Your Sanity: Help For Handling Hijackals'.

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Most Influential Person

  • Joel Goldsmith (Author)

Effect on Emotions

  • I think mindfulness levels your emotions. It doesn't take out the peaks and valleys, but you understand that you choose the state that you stay in.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Well, I think it's key to everything. When you stop and you allow yourself to let your shoulders down from your ear lobes, you take a deep breath and you open your chest and you open your heart at the same time.
  • Then when you allow yourself to take a deep breath, it takes 20 seconds for the oxygen and a deep breath to go all the way around your blood system.
  • So you refresh yourself completely. So when you are using your breath, you are actually regenerating yourself and when you do that it calms you and helps you think more clearly.

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Bullying Story

  • I was in the education world for a long time as a teacher and then I became a school administrator and it was at a time that really stands out for me.
  • When I had the opportunity, I was given an entire extra classroom to do what I wanted. So every morning I would have all the children including all the special needs children sit in a big circle and I invited their parents to come and spend that first 20 minutes of the day with us.
  • And why I did that was there was a lot of unrest. There was a lot of children who were difficult and a lot of special needs children. And there were of course bullies in the mix.
  • And so if we're all participating in something, it became something that everybody then said, okay, to. There were not any people who were not doing it.
  • And what we saw during that time where we would just sit quietly, maybe we'd play with energy a little bit, you know, we'd rub our hands together and make energy, go round the circle or we'd do a visualization or whatever.
  • We saw a real change and then I had an opportunity to be the administrator of a school for at risk teenagers. And of course there was a lot of this going on, you know, make them do this and all that when I got there.
  • And I know that's not the way it's going to work, we're going to feed them.
  • And so, we made a huge change. These kids who were going out and stealing cars and doing home invasions on the weekends; through love and sitting quietly, they changed.
  • From the time that I went there to work, Bruce, the average length of time a child was staying in the school was three months.
  • By the time I left five years later, we had not had a vacancy for 18 months.
May 24, 2018
323 The Mindfulness Solution To Addiction With Expert Jeff Jones
40:46

Jeff Jones is a therapist, addiction counsellor, interventionist, and now, family recovery coach working online with families with addiction. He’s expanded the context of addiction and created a three-phase program that empowers families to safeguard their loved one in an addictive cycle or recovery, while they engage in a process to stop the addiction cycle in this generation. After putting it online and wrapping a user-friendly online community around it, Jeff is moving towards his goal of empowering families to connect with like-minded others, family-specific resources and expertise when they are ready.

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Most Influential Person

  • Thich Nhat Hanh

Effect on Emotions

  • So what I'm aware of is that my emotions can like go to extremes, whether it's spiraled downwards or climb upwards kind of thing.
  • And mindfulness for me has been a very helpful antidote to ground me in reality as opposed to right away believe any extreme, whether it's down or up. So I want to reality check it with mindfulness.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • When I take slow, deep breaths into my belly and actually push my belly out, it engages my parasympathetic nervous system which slows the body down, which slows the nervous system down, calms the nervous system.
  • I have been using that in meditation. A natural thing that I do is, right away, take a big breath even sometimes before thinking. It has taken a long time to get there.
  • The slow deep breath is always there. It's a resource that will never leave me.

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Bullying Story

  • The story that I'm thinking of happened really not that long ago, just a couple months ago. It is interesting how it started out because I have a number of different, addiction mentors.
  • There was one in particular that I had just sent her an email kind of with a compliment of what I learned from her and I was just at a place where I was looking at what I was doing and having appreciation for the different people who I have learned from whose shoulders I'm standing on kind of thing.
  • So I wrote her an email and what I got back from her was a letter from her attorney. So it was confusing to me and I felt bullied by that. It was a great opportunity for me to be aware of what was going on in my own thinking process.
  • I just couldn't really make sense of my giving her a compliment about something I had learned from her and then getting this letter from her attorney.
  • It was kind of like letting me know how to cite her reference properly, like I was stealing some of her information or something.
  • I called her and I sent an email and I said, hey, I got this email from your attorney and like, can we just have a conversation?
  • Which you know, I got another letter from her attorney and just a couple of weeks ago I was at a conference and I saw her and she was sweet as pie to me. Nothing was said about it. So in that situation I felt like I was being bullied.
  • I was aware of what was going on in my mind and painting all these pictures like I'm being bullied here, and then to see her and get no message of that, it was confusing to me, but what I really learned from that from a mindfulness perspective is how I really need to check out my own thinking.
  • Like I can't always believe my own thinking. And if I don't check it out with the other person, it's not really going to be helpful for me to believe everything that my mind says. Now the other side of it is I do feel that I was being bullied.
May 21, 2018
322 Leave A Legacy By Being Mindful Says Speaker/Author Thom Singer
34:44

Tom Singer is a professional master of ceremonies and keynote speaker for corporate, law firms, and convention audiences. He's also authored 12 books on the power of business relationships, sales, networking, presentation skills, and entrepreneurship. Tom is also the host of the Cool Things Entrepreneurs Do podcast where he interviews business leaders who possess an extra dose of the entrepreneurial spirit. Stories from Tom's interviews are shared with his clients and he challenges people to be more engaged and enthusiastic in all of their actions.

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Most Influential Person

  • My father. My dad was 52 years old when I was born. So in a lot of ways it was like being raised by a grandfather. He had three sons who, when I was born were 10, 12 and 14. And by the way, I had the same set of parents. I was sort of a surprise. My Dad always told everybody that a surprise was an accident that worked out really well because he liked me.

Effect on Emotions

  • I think that As I've gone into this whole 50 to 75 plan that I'm shepherding, I think that being mindful of experiences and of saying yes to things, of not getting stressed, of not getting pissed, of just doing all that, I think the emotion that it has triggered more than anything else is joy.
  • I think because I am mindful, that I'm going to have a good time.
  • I think it has unleashed that emotion of joy and I think my wife sees it. I think my kids see it. I think my friends see it. I think my clients see it, so I think that's how mindfulness has affected my emotions.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I don't think that [mindfulness has affected my breathing] other than the fact that it brings oxygen into my lungs that then goes into my blood and goes to my brain.
  • So when I first started running and I couldn't run a mile and I hired my friend who was a runner to kind of coach me through it. He actually pushed me too hard and I triggered asthma that I hadn't had in years.
  • I almost had to go to the hospital. I certainly hadn't used an inhaler in forever. I had to go to the doctor and everything else. So I was mindful of breathing when I couldn't.
  • But the rest of the time, for some reason, once I got up to where I was running three to five miles and then five to 10 miles throughout the training, I rarely am that winded.

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Bullying Story

  • You know, I'm just going to be real honest. I have one situation that comes to mind when you asked that question that involve bullying and I'm just going to put it out there.
  • I was kind of the bully and I was probably 12 years old and a bunch of people were sort of mocking, you know, a kid who kind of didn't fit in and I was part of it.
  • And what's interesting is it's not part of my personality, it's not part of who I am. It's not part of who I was at the time and if I had been mindful of not having to be part of that group or whatever, I wouldn't have been part of it. I don't keep in touch with this person.
  • I don't know if it was scarring or if it was just a minor thing, but I've always felt really bad about that. And because of that I've always been really conscious of not falling into that mob mentality and not being surprised by bystander mentality.
  • Again, I wasn't leading the whole thing. I wasn't the bully, but I was part of the group and I mean at the time I knew it was wrong and I don't know why it came to mind when you asked about it, but now I feel kind of like crap for even having been a part of it, just thinking about it again.
  • But I do know that it stayed with me to the point that I never did anything like that again, at least not to that level that I'm aware of.

Quote

"When you are mindful of your purpose in any conversation, you leave a legacy." Thom Singer

May 17, 2018
321 Staying Mindful In A World Of Technology With Robert Plotkin
37:59

Robert Plotkin is an engineer, mindfulness practitioner, and the founder of Technology for Mindfulness. His background in computer science and engineering dates back over thirty years to his days programming an Atari 800 personal computer, through a degree in Computer Science and Engineering at MIT, and nearly two decades as a patent attorney specializing in patent protection for computer technology. His relationship to Zen Buddhism stems primarily from his study of Japanese martial arts for more than three decades. He is a graduate of the Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) program at the Center for Mindfulness and practices mindfulness meditation. His fascination with the relationship and interactions between computer technology and the mind is reflected in his book on the automation of creativity in the field of inventing, The Genie in the Machine: How Computer-Automated Inventing is Revolutionizing Law and Business (Stanford, 2009).

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Most Influential Person

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has changed the way I deal with my emotions. This is where I think the stillness aspect of mindfulness is really helpful.
  • I talked a lot earlier about action and martial arts, in doing that you engage a lot of action, movement of the body.
  • I think for me, sitting meditation has been very helpful in dealing with emotions. Not just being able to notice what they are, but accept that they're there. Before I did sitting meditation, I engaged in a lot of trying to change difficult or negative emotions.
  • For me, sitting meditation has really, really been helpful. When you say dealing with emotion, just being able to be more aware of what they actually are at any given moment, being able to accept them and notice them without being able to change them.
  • I'm sure you know from your own mindfulness practice, sometimes that results in them lingering for awhile and sometimes I found that paying attention to them or even diving into them can result in them dissipating or changing in some way.
  • I'm always working on accepting in advance that whatever the outcome is, it is.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is a very, very big part of my mindfulness practice. Always has been.
  • Even from the martial arts training; breathing really fairly fundamental and it's been interesting for me to do sitting meditation.
  • Certainly there are some similarities and differences between how I think breath is approached in the two. In my experience in martial arts training, we do pay attention to the breath.
  • If I can paint it in broad strokes, there is more of a goal or pragmatic aspect to working on and somewhat improving the breath.
  • We work on deepening it, we work on being able to maintain it as more of an even keel. We work on being able to breathe more deeply. Part of it is to develop physical power.
  • There is a pragmatic goal, so to speak, at least as part of the martial arts training and the breath. And so it's definitely been interesting to me to come at the breath and sitting meditation from a different perspective.
  • Although sometimes when I'm doing sitting meditation I will form the intention of both noticing the breath and if I notice that it's shallow, I will relax.
  • But I also some of the time, will merely notice what it is without trying to change it. That's been a different experience for me. Certainly in martial arts training, we often say that it begins and ends with the breath. I think for all the same reasons, I mean breath is the foundation of life.
  • Everything else stops when you're not breathing. And so, that's always been a really significant part, and I do return to the breath.
  • In fact, I did just go back to a meditation teacher who I really rely on for a lot of guidance and was asking her about focusing on the breath and how I hear a lot of instruction these days that seem to imply to me that we should always return to the breath.
  • I've found that in my own practice, I'm at a point where sometimes if I'm experiencing and aware of a difficult emotion that returning to the breath can feel like a distraction.

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May 14, 2018
320 A Story of Abduction and Finding Strength Through Mindfulness; Author Marie White
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Marie White is an entrepreneur, a world traveler, a missionary, and a YouTube host with over half a million viewers. She is the owner of Zamiz Press, which is an inspirational publishing company that offers hope and encouragement to people the world over who are experiencing struggles. Marie is also the author of five books, including the award-winning #1 bestseller, Strength for Parents of Missing Children: Surviving Divorce, Abduction, Runaways and Foster Care. Marie has also lived trauma first-hand, being the mother of an abducted child who remains missing.

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Most Influential Person

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has helped to keep me from going from one extreme to the other.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is really helpful if you want to live. It’s necessary to bring down your emotions when you are in a heightened state of stress.

  • I like to breathe in through the nose, out through the mouth, very slow, taking a moment to concentrate.

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May 10, 2018
319 Make Boundaries Your Breakthrough; Breakfast Leadership Host, Michael Levitt
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Michael Levitt is all about boundaries. He is the founder of Breakfast Leadership.com where he shares his expertise on boundaries with other leaders. Michael also works in the health-care field and has experienced first-hand how important it is to have a grip on boundaries in life and death situations as well as daily living. Michael is trained in crisis intervention from the Canadian Training Institute. Michael is recognized as a healthcare leader, holding the Advanced Healthcare System Leadership certificate from Rotman School of Management, one of the World’s highly ranked business schools, as part of the University of Toronto. Michael also shares his knowledge on his podcast – Breakfast Leadership.

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  • Mindfulness has helped me keep my emotions in check. I'm passionate. I'm in healthcare. I'm passionate about people taking better care of themselves.
  • I'm passionate about the healthcare sector and what it needs to do to better serve the entire community and not just pockets of it.
  • I'm very passionate about wrongs that we see in society, but I keep them in check now because I know that I can only do so much. I can do what I can do and I have to let others do what they can do.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is extremely important to me. I am an asthmatic so my breaths are a little bit more challenging than others. It's mild, [my asthma], but it's something that I know could progress into copd (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease) down the road. And for me, I take care of my breathing very carefully.
  • I focus on it when things are tense, I pause and I go, OK, what are my breathing patterns like? And I can take a deep breath and sometimes I'll do the nostril thing where you do a closed nostril breathing.
  • I just really focus on the breathing and it lowers my blood pressure and it just puts me into a moment of awareness and in the moment of now. Instead of worrying about what's going to happen or freaking out about what happened before, it's a good way to really get me connected to where I am right at this moment.

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  • Book: 369 Days: How To Survive A Year of Worst Case Scenarios by Michael Levitt
  • Book: The Tortoise And The Hare by  Jerry Pinkney - This is a leadership book. Some people will question me saying that, but it also helps with mindfulness too, as far as focusing on what's important. From a leadership book standpoint, it's a great book because oftentimes we are the rabbit and we're running around trying to get things done and moving things around where the tortoise is just steady as we go. Let's get through this. It's the same thing from a mindfulness standpoint. Our brains and minds and activities are all over the place where the turtle's step, step, step, step, step, step and turtle wins the race. I want all of us to win the race. So it's one of those books that I will read from time to time to really reconnect with myself.
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May 07, 2018
318 Mindfulness For Corporate Wellness; Teresa Przetocki
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Teresa Przetocki works with companies to help them implement corporate wellness as a business strategy. Teresa is on a mission to create thriving communities within the workplace and she shares real-time examples of how to include mindfulness into employee wellness programs. Teresa is founder and CEO of C&P Wellness Consultants. She's a board certified public health professional, a certified Well Coaches Health and Wellness Coach and she holds her Masters in public health.

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  • My Grandmother and also my Husband

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  • Oh, that's a really good question. So I would say that mindfulness allows me to put a separation between my emotions.
  • So we're very emotional beings and sometimes we let emotions kind of override us and we think, oh, I'm feeling this way so this is all of my reality right now.
  • I think what mindfulness really has this amazing capacity to do is to bring awareness to it, but then put a separation into it.
  • So then you can look at it non-judgmentally and really say, hey, I'm feeling this way, you know, what does that mean or, hey, I'm feeling this way. And just let it, let it be.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • So I've been trying to meditate, I would say a good three years now and I'm excited to get to your book recommendations because I have a great book for you that I want you to actually read. And then I'd actually like to hear what you have to say about it after you read it. But I'm.
  • So whenever you hear of mindfulness or meditation, the first thing that any kind of teacher has said is go to your breath.
  • So I, in my personal experience, have found this to be incredibly easy. It refocuses you, it's always accessible and it just automatically calms me.
  • One of the things that I do with breathing is I like to count to 10 or 20. When you breathe in, it's one breathe out. It's two. And so I normally go to either 10 or 20 and then restart it and I try to do that for a good five to 10 minutes.

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May 03, 2018
317 Discover Your Mindful Blueprint With Michael Neeley
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Michael Neeley is a podcaster and an entrepreneur. He's a business coach and he empowers other entrepreneurs to live the lives they've always dreamed of. He's the host of the podcast, 'Consciously Speaking', and also his new podcast, 'Buy This, Not That'. Michael used to be a knight in shining armor; he was an actor who spent a good portion of his career on horseback before starring in a couple of soap operas and some independent films. Michael's son, Tristan, was born back in 2002, and at that time Michael decided he wanted to leave the smog of Los Angeles and settle in an area with clean air and clear skies. So Michael made a transition and has moved to a role where he enlightens others as a mindfulness business coach.

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Bruce: How do you get grounded in your life, Michael?

Michael: For me, meditation plays a big part in it and it's not about like sitting down on a cushion for 45 minutes at a time. It's more like, uh, you know, while I'm going for a walk, if I'm walking the dogs, I can use that as a meditation. It's a matter of fact. It was so cool. I walked them yesterday, I took them over to this little park area that we have here near my home and I unleashed them and let them run and I laid down on the grass and stared up at the sky and meditated for about five minutes. It was total bliss and just little things like that where you can relax the mind and let go of all of these crazy monkey mind thoughts that are running through our heads about our business constantly. If you're a solopreneur or even about life in general, you can get caught up in all this stuff instead of just, OK, here I am. I'm just a human being.

Bruce: Your son Tristan was born in 2002. Has He inspired you to be mindful? Has He taught you anything about being grounded and being centered?

Michael: Well, Tristan is my constant teacher every day and you know, he's my why. He's the why of what I'm up to in the world and that's the part that I've got to bring mindfulness back to. If I get too caught up in doing the work and I don't spend the time with him; he's the reason that I'm doing the work. And so if I don't take the breaks to spend the time with him, then it kind of defeats the purpose. And so yeah, he's a constant teacher to me.

Bruce: How will mindfulness play a role in your upcoming event that you're doing?

Michael: A lot of people look at business and they don't see the correlation of how mindfulness plays into that and I know maybe in larger corporations it's less relevant in the bigger picture. Certainly on the smaller scale and when we're talking about the people that I'm attracting for my event, which are visionary Solopreneurs, as I call them, people who are in business for themselves, the mindfulness piece is often the difference between success and failure. What I mean by that is that we get in our own way. We get caught up in either the minutia of the work or we get caught up doing the wrong things because we're looking for a sense of, you know, checking off the list, tick boxes instead of really being mindful about, OK, wait a minute, let me tune in here. What do I really want? What is going to be the best for my business and how can I move forward in a way that's conscious and fully present?

Bruce: Tell us about some of the speakers that are going to be at your event. I know it's called, Your Authority Blueprint Live.

Michael: It's going to be a rockin' event and we're going to have Jay Fiset there, another fellow Canadian. Jay does work with a Mastermind To Millions. I didn't realize how conscious Jay was and how mindful he was until recently when I had him on my show. He's just really a cool guy. So Jay's going to be there. We've got Brady Patterson from Success Road Academy, also a Canadian company. Brady is going to be there. Uh, we're going to have Tiamo De Vettori, who is a singer, songwriter. He's going to be sharing some inspirational music with us. [Tiamo was recently named L.A. Music Award's "Singer/Songwriter of the Year" & San Diego's "Best Songwriter] Tiffany Largie is going to be there. I mean we're going to have a wonderful lineup of some great talented motivational speakers to help people break through. Melanie Benson, another person who's really great with mindset is going to be there sharing some of her wisdom and expertise to really help us move beyond these blocks that stop us. And then of course, where the authority blueprint comes in is we're going to share the business side of it is how can you create a name for yourself in the industry that's really gonna catapult you onto the scene in a big way. And that's the business promise of it. We're going to show you how to build that blueprint.

Bruce: On your podcast, Consciously Speaking, you help people wake up and you consciously create awareness, but I'm curious about your other podcast called, Buy This, Not That. How did that come about? What's the story?

Michael: Well, you know, that's an interesting piece as well. We talk about our clients, you know, running into certain situations or questions and for me the questions kept coming up over and over again, like, well, what's the best mail service provider, email provider or what's the best webinar hosting platform? And I found myself answering questions over and over again, like the same questions and I thought, you know there are a lot of solopreneurs out there struggling with these same things. What if I were to .... [Tune in to the Podcast to hear more from Michael Neeley]

Apr 30, 2018
316 It's About Giving Says Conscious Millionaire JV Crum III
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JV Crum the III is a speaker, a coach and the best-selling author of Conscious Millionaire, the book that’s changed thousands of peoples’ lives. It can impact you too by helping you learn how to consciously grow your business and transform your life. JV is the man who has personally built businesses and is now the host of three podcasts under the branding of Conscious Millionaire.

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Bruce: Would you explain the mindfulness of money, JV?

JV: I think there are multiple pieces to it. Every client I work with, because I work with clients who are typically high achievers and now they want to go to a new level and one of the things, because I work with a lot of coaches, that's my primary market, but I also work with seven figure service businesses that want to add at least another million in the next 12 months.

I only work with people who really have high goals and even though they have the high goals, nobody ever ends up on the phone with me or on a zoom or anything or even on the show usually without really having a deep desire to help people. But there's something I've identified called the money purpose wound. That's the name I gave to it because they're purpose driven, but a lot of times they have conflicts about making more money.

Along the way they've picked up ideas like, I got these gifts for free so I have to go out and give them to people for free. Here's an important distinction between, are we coaches and entrepreneurs, are we really in the business of saving people, which is where that kind of wounded mindset and poverty mindset and I've got to go save them and it's wrong to charge them, or are we in the business of empowering them and selecting to work with people that we resonate with, whoever that group is, but we're here to empower them and when we make that distinction, we come to a new set of decisions and those decisions are, it's not our responsibility to decide if somebody wants or is ready to be empowered.

It's our responsibility to empower them if that's what they want and once we let go of we have to go save people and convince them, right? We have to convince them that they want to do something more with their life. That's a losing journey. And I know because I used to be in that business, right? I used to believe that I used to help people where I believed in them a hundred and ten percent, but they were acting at fifty percent and I thought if I just kept believing in them at a hundred and ten percent, finally they'd get the spark.

But you know what? I've come to a conclusion. People self choose whether they connect with the spark, it's our job then to empower them because they want to move forward. It's not our job to try to convince them they're ready when for whatever reason, and there could be so many different reasons. Their soul is not at that place at that moment. You've got to let them choose to be there.

Bruce: So what's the biggest reason that people have these money blocks?

JV: Well, you know, it's interesting because I can't even tell you what the seven are, and I'm not even embarrassed about that. In my book there's a chapter on abundance mindset and I came up with seven areas of limiting beliefs. I can't even tell you what six of them are because from working with so many clients, I found they all had the same one and here it is, but different people are gonna say it one of two ways.

Either they've got issues around I don't deserve or they call it I am not worthy and everybody resonates with one of those words more than the other. And when you work with that piece, it's like a linchpin. When you deal with that piece then all of a sudden all this other stuff starts dissolving and they start moving forward.

But you've got to address that. And it's not a one time thing because we have levels. Once you get to, let's say you're at one level, but now you want to double to another level, you've got to go through this process again. You know, I'm looking on and going, well, you know Berkshire-Hathaway. He used to be the richest guy in the world, but right now it's Amazon, right? So and he's at a hundred billion and in our lifetime we're going to be all here when there's the first trillionaire. Just a few years ago we thought fifty billion was a whole lot of money. Now we're for the first time at a hundred billion and it's really mindset. Now they're going to do different activities.

They're going to leverage higher. They're going to be in a position to leverage and leverage and leverage because that's how you really build wealth, but it's having the mindset and thinking about your life and your business and money differently and asking different questions that get you to that next level. Everybody has to go through this kind of, I deserve, and at some point you'll have gotten through that. But for most people, if you're not yet at ten million, I think you're still going through that and you may still be going through it if you're not yet at a hundred million because we just have different layers inside of us.

You help people get to their first seven figures. You know, that's the majority of the work I do because I know when I got there I was 25 and all of a sudden I could buy a four story brand new four-story home on the water, have a Mercedes, go to Europe, you know, that was now my playground and I grew up in a little town with two or three hundred people.

When you ask how poor were we? Imagine this. We had an eight party line and what that means is there were eight homes that shared the same single line. And when you wanted to use the phone, you'd have to say, Delores, would you mind getting off the phone? I need to make a phone call. You'd have to bargain with your neighbors on the phone line and there'd always be the little old lady who listened to everybody's calls. Nobody could afford to have their own line when I was growing up in the little town I lived in.

Bruce: Did you have your bathroom in your house?

JV: We did, but we actually called it a one holer. That was the country term for that. I think we all know what that is. You have one bathroom and everybody's got to share it. And we didn't even have central heat or anything. We had one floor furnace and it would be cold in the winter and everybody took their tern getting the floor furnace area to get dressed. So to get there at twenty-five really was a big deal, but I know what difference it makes for people, how it frees them up, how they can take care of their family, give to causes, have the freedom to all of a sudden live differently. And then I like to take people who are at seven figures and help them start adding more layers of millions on to really empower them to go out and create a bigger wave.

Bruce: You talk about passion, purpose, and values in your book. And I know you're all about that. You don't just talk about it, you live it. Share with us about the mindfulness behind that.

JV: Well, I think that all of us are on this planet for a specific reason that's unique to each one of us. And I was just actually having this conversation I think yesterday or the day before. I like all these hard finance pieces, but I really love working with people to discover that and I just seem to have a talent for it and I don't typically bring it up. But with almost every client we end up going through that process that when we discover, I call it your gold coin, think of it this way. Your purpose is written on one side, but when I was looking for my purpose, which was about 20 years ago, I sold companies because it was making money, but I was not happy. I didn't feel fulfilled. I didn't think I was doing what I was here to do.

I read a lot on purpose. I found most of it useless. It made me feel good, but it would say things like, when you find your purpose, you'll know it. And I said, well, I'd kind of already figured that part out. I want to know how to find it. Here's the answer folks, I'm going to give it to you because I want you to have it. On the other side of the coin is the secret for finding it and it's what's the difference you want to make for someone or something outside of yourself? It's not about you, it's about giving, it's about making a difference.

And when you focus on that and you start journaling, I'm a big journaler, so journal on that and you'll find several things might come up that something's going to resonate and then ask, well, who do I want to do this for? You know is it coaches, consultants? Is it bigger companies? Is it moms who have kids? Is it animals? Is it the planet in general? My purpose is, I want everybody to have clean water and that means we stop polluting the water. So that's really how you discover that purpose. That becomes the driver of your business. It becomes the driver of your life and that determines what conferences you go to, who you decide to hang out with, who you have relationships with, who you're friends with. Because all my friends are people who want to make a positive impact on the world, right? I just don't hang out with anybody else because I want us to all help each other to achieve that outcome and make our mark on the world and makes this a better world for everybody.

Apr 26, 2018
315 Find Bigger Love with Relationship Coaches Patrick and Sam Cullinane
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Patrick and Sam Cullinane are relationship experts; expertise which has resulted from their experiences as they moved through the ups and downs of the rocky marriage they endured with each other. The first decade of their 20-year marriage ended with a twelve-month separation and signed divorce papers. The second decade was an invigorating climb back up the mountain which can be described as refreshed love and intimacy leading to newfound closeness and personal growth. Their challenges and discoveries are shared in an easy-to-follow, authentic format in their recent book called, Bigger Love: How to Have the Love of Your Life for the rest of Your Life.  Patrick and Sam now teach their own proven methods to other couples who yearn for over-the-top relationships.

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  • Patrick: Sam Cullinane
  • Sam: Julianna Raye of Unified Mindfulness

Effect on Emotions

  • Sam: Well, mindfulness allows me to understand what I'm feeling to begin with because I think a lot of times I just let, I realized now that I've let my emotions sort of push me around in my life. Now I recognize I'm not my emotions. They are something that happens to me. So those recognitions have changed my life entirely.
  • Patrick: The feelings are real, but how you choose to react to the feelings, that's what you have control over. So the emotion is typically your choice in reaction or your body's physical reaction to the feelings.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Patrick: Well, that's interesting because we spent a day with a Peruvian Shaman last year who talked to us about breathing and ever since he was talking to us about it, I see it. I'm like, oh my God, somebody told us about this last year and so he was talking to us about this now and so you know how the universe conspires to put things in front of you once you figure it out. Um, but yeah, we will use just taking a normal breath in a day where we're doing what, 28 percent capacity of our lungs and feeding your body. And so just just forcing yourself to breathe when I feel any stress or laying there having trouble sleeping or any of that, I just breathe. I try to maximize my lung capacity, hold it for a little bit, oxygenate my body and then breath out. Then I have to do that, focus on my breathing when I meditate.
  • Sam: It's amazing, but as soon as I take my mind to my breath, I'm in the moment. It's immediate. So I love to use that in meditation. I use it if I get frustrated, I focus on the breath. Breath is instrumental in my life and my mindfulness practice.

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Bullying Story

  • Patrick: Sam brought up the fact that she thinks the biggest bully she sees is me bullying myself. Do you know what I mean? My dialogue of beating myself up and that kind of thing. So yeah, absolutely. not doing it. It's, it's part of the love yourself thing.
  • I recognize that I have a tendency to, to beat myself up a little bit or self deprecate, you know, do those types of things. And so I try not to bully myself by being mindful and loving myself and forgiveness. Self-Forgiveness is the key to all that. It's like, OK, I screwed up and I'm over it.
  • Sam: I do have a bullying story. I guess I don't know if mindfulness would have helped or not. So I grew up in Salt Lake City when I went to elementary school in Salt Lake City and then we started moving. It's primarily Mormon community and I'm not Mormon.
  • I was raised sort of Episcopalian and I think when, I can't remember how old they are when they get baptized, but it's older, it's like third or fourth grade, I want to say they're eight. So at age eight they get baptized and I think that's when they start to recognize that they're in this religion and it becomes very important to them as they learn all the stuff that they have to learn.
  • A lot of the kids weren't allowed to play with me because I wasn't lbs. There's one instance where this kid just was so mean and that was in front of a large group of kids and he was like, what religion are you again? And I was like, I'm Episcopalian. And he said, a pissa what? You know, you're going to hell, right? And I was like, what? [I said to my] mom, I'm going to hell. So that was very damaging, right?
  • It took a while to figure out how to deal with it. Like understanding different religions, why cultures clash and why war happens and all the bad things. But the interesting thing about that story is that later I was in college at the University of Utah and I saw that kid. I recognized him immediately and he was drunker than shit. He was hammered drunk, which of course is very against the Mormon religion. They're not allowed to drink or smoke or swear or anything.
  • And I [thought] what a hypocrite, you know, but it turned out that he was actually homosexual, which is also very against the Mormon religion. And I think that once I figured that out about him, I recognized that a lot of people who bully are people that are hurting.
  • They hurt others because they're hurting themselves. So he probably knew when he was eight. I mean, most of the homosexuals that I know, know early on that they're not like everybody else and that they have different attractions. He probably knew that.
  • And so he probably was hurting, confused and conflicted and lashed out at me because people that are hurting hurt others. So I think that was an interesting Aha moment for me.
Apr 23, 2018
314 Find Meaning In Something Larger Than I; Adventurer Rob Harsh
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Rob Harsh is all about adventure. In fact, he even created an Adventure company where he takes people on mountain treks, multi-sport expeditions, caving, kayaking adventures and other high-risk nature trips. Rob believes the best way to face adversity is to surrender yourself to whatever is there. That's what he did when he faced stage four lung cancer and was given a four percent chance of survival. Rob transforms people's lives by sharing his extensive proven survival skills to lead people to win in business and to win in life.

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  • My meditation teacher.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has helped me to see beyond my emotions. I think the fallacy is that we are our thoughts. We are our emotions, but we are really so much more than that.
  • When we can separate ourselves from our thoughts and our emotions and see beyond them and step into this larger being that we are, we find a more calm.
  • We find more fulfillment and we find more happiness in life. It's not that those thoughts and emotions ever stop, but we begin to see them in a different way.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is quintessential. We never stop breathing. For me, it's been an important aspect and an important focus with my lung cancer.
  • Also as an athlete and a runner, I've practiced breathing throughout my life.
  • Simply focusing on the breath and connecting deeper within yourself is a powerful practice that helps one really get through a lot of anxiety, fear and self doubt in your life.

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Bullying Story

  • Let's go do the Eco Challenge", which was a very famous race back at the time. And, he looked at me and said, "Well, I don't know if you're quite ready for that."
  • I said, "OK, well thanks. I'm going to go do the eco-challenge." And I just decided that that's what I was going to do.
  • So it's interesting. I think that this idea of bullying for me personally isn't necessarily a bad thing. I think there's a silver lining to it in a way where it drove me towards excellence.
  • I guess that experience that I had in Nepal, in the Himalayan summit where I was being teased and bullied in a way, just drove me to prove them wrong. That I wasn't the person that they thought I was.
Apr 19, 2018
313 Let Life Flow Like The Seasons Says Krysti Turznik
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Krysti Turznik is a speaker, author, and life coach and even studied to become an ordained minister. She has a Masters Degree in Metaphysics, Bachelor of Science Degrees in Biology and is a consulting hypnotist. She has extensive experience helping brilliant people get out of their own way and live the life they were truly meant to live. Through mindset, motivation, and meditation she shows them how to create a life of miracles and magic where every day feels like a day at the beach. Krysti lives in Wisconsin with her husband, daughter, and four cats.

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  • Dr. Wayne Dyer

Effect on Emotions

  • My emotions have had a significant impact because they helped me to really tune into who it is that I am in every moment.
  • When I am having an experience, when I'm having an emotion, I can check in and say, is this the kind of person that I want? Is my behavior in alignment with how I want the world to experience me?

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Whenever I feel like I am out of sorts, I return to breath. So I just focus on taking three deep breaths, slow and easy, and it helps me to really center myself and make choices from that point.

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Bullying Story

  • I was fortunate that I personally didn't experience much of that.
  • I do have an experience that my daughter had gone through about two years ago. She was being bullied at school by a special needs student.
  • There was nothing that we could do from the other child's perspective, so I worked a lot with my daughter and really helped her to understand that the things that were being said and the actions that were being taken really had nothing to do with her. It was just things that the other child needed to do.
  • So we talked a lot about when something negative happens to you, how you can really take that as an opportunity to look at yourself and make sure that your behavior is what you want to accomplish and then see how you can maybe change some things so that you're in a better environment or so that situation doesn't take place again.
Apr 16, 2018
312 Understand Your Emotions With Morning Coach JB Glossinger
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JB Glossinger is host and creator of The Morning Coach; a successful podcast that's been downloaded over 22 million times. JB is a speaker, a coach and an author. He holds advanced degrees in business and metaphysics. His degrees provide great credibility but JB says his street education is what has delivered the best life-changing lessons. He's talking about black eyes, being near bankruptcy and more. JB is the author of The Sacred Six: The Simple Step By Step Process For Focusing Your Attention and Recovering Your Dreams.

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  • Eckhart Tolle (Author of The Power of Now)

Effect on Emotions

  • It's huge. I wish I could stay in it more. You know, I wish I could be more mindful.
  • I don't believe in emotional control. I believe in emotional command, which means you just understand it.
  • Viktor Frankl, who was in a concentration camp as a psychologist, said, you know, suffering stops being suffering when you understand it.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing's big. I mean, if you start to understand the fundamentals of meditation, a lot of people don't know how to do it, really if you just focus on your breath.
  • Just concentrating on the breathing in and out is probably the most basic form of meditation that brings you mindfulness.

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Bullying Story

  • I actually am very blessed and that I got along with everybody. I never really had any issues.
  • I got along, back in the day when we were going to school. We had stoners, we called them hoods and jocks and I wasn't any of that. I was a nerd that played sports and listened to death metal, so I never really got bullied because I got on. I got along with the nerds because I loved computers. We had the old apples and I would play dungeons, dragons with them.
  • Then I'd go play football and basketball with the jocks and then I would go hang out with the nerds and smoke a cigarette and listen to metallica.
  • So I got along with everybody. I never really had an issue with that and I'm very blessed because I know that's a big issue for a lot of people.
  • I think if you can learn from me being diverse and not getting involved in just one particular click.
  • I think it helps anybody that's being bullied, just try to understand where other people come from instead of seeing them and judging them because they listened to some death metal. Get to know them, you know, and the nerds.
  • People are people and I think that's what stopped me from ever being bullied because I had people in all the circles that I got along with.
  • Bullying in business - Business is an odd thing because you know, when I first started, when I went from free to paid in 2009, it was brutal.
  • I had people say, JB, you're a jerk. I mean you can look at the reviews. There's 53 negative reviews still on itunes about how bad I was. I can't believe you're trying to make money at this. You know, and I'm like, God, I did this for two years and it hurt me. I mean, I cried.
  • It was devastating that day. I mean people were hateful, but what I learned is that I had 12,000 people in a website and 10 percent of them came with me, twelve hundred of them.
  • There's an old song says, love the one you're with. That's when I realized I can't please everybody, and I don't want the people I can't please.
  • I'm going to build my business around those people that love me and work with me.
  • And honestly I had trouble back in the day when I was free because you were still getting everybody.
Apr 12, 2018
311 Become The Steward Of Your Emotional Dragon; Mellissa Seaman
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Mellissa Seaman is a Stanford educated lawyer turned intuitive business Strategist. She's the creator of Soul Gift Quiz which has helped thousands of people worldwide discover their deepest gift; to align with life fulfillment and business success. Fortune 100 executives hire her to help them become channels of genius to create products in the world in collaboration with the highest power to make sure they create things that matter.

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  • My daughter Clarice

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness makes my emotions possible to live with. My emotions are big. I'm an emotional type. My emotions hold a lot of charge and a lot of intelligence.
  • Without mindfulness, my emotions feel like a crazy dragon ready to consume me. And with mindfulness I can ride that dragon and I can be the steward of that dragon and allow that dragon to take me where I need to go.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is just the first touchstone. It's everything, you know, the breath is everything.
  • I've done a lot of breath work, especially when I was living at Harbin Hot Springs and helping to lead breath work events there. I became so much more aware of my breath and even now, as you mentioned my breath, I can feel like my breath is a little bit high because I'm eager, you know.
  • So it reminds me to just sort of let my belly soften and let my whole body soften and arrive even more, even in the midst of my eagerness to be with you.

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Bullying Story

  • What comes to mind for me is that I do work with a lot of parents of very intuitive kids and I call them dragon kids because sometimes these kids have so much energy in their bodies that they might get labeled as having some condition, whether it's ADHD or autism.
  • I'm not a doctor so I can't say what those things are and who's what and blah, blah blah. But I do notice that there are a movement of kids now who have so much much energy in their little tiny bodies, you know, like there's so such big spirits.
  • And when I work with the parents of those kids and occasionally with the kids directly, which is super fun too, a lot of what we do is to help those kids become more mindful. And we want them to have resources to become centered and to relax into their own invisible team.
  • A lot of those kids are actually very aware that they have guardian angels or imaginary friends or some force that they can listen to you when they're quiet in here.
  • Getting them back in touch with that, in my mind, is what can also help them in instances where they're being bullied for being big or for being out of control or whatever.
  • That invisible team is right there for them and they have a different reference point than just these kids were holding themselves as the authorities on the playground, which of course they're not.
  • They're just more kids looking for their own power, looking to hold power in a way that can feel safe to them. And so mindfulness, in addition to the intuitive gifts, acknowledging and welcoming intuitive gifts, I feel like be a huge benefit to especially the sensitive empathic supercharged dragon kids.
Apr 09, 2018
310 Capture Mindfulness With Photographer Andrew Darlow
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Andrew Darlow is an award-winning photographer, writer, consultant and product developer. He specializes in helping people take better photos, organize their images and videos, and create prints from their work. He has appeared on many radio and TV programs, including WOR Radio (NYC), Animal Planet, WLOB (Boston) and KCTY (CA), and his work has been featured in numerous magazines and websites, including People Magazine, Professional Photographer and Women’s World Magazine. The author of four photo-related books, his newest book, Focus and Filter, covers tips and techniques for taking better photos, finding the right equipment and organizing your gear. He has also just launched a video course to accompany the book. Additional tips, more excerpts from the book and links to free video training can be found at www.WorkflowSchool.com.

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Most Influential Person

  • My Dad.

Effect on Emotions

  • I believe that when you try to do good for others and you try to think about ways in which your actions can impact the world in some way, I think that's mindfulness.
  • Often thinking about yourself can also benefit others. I think the basic system of capitalism in that you think about yourself and your family, but you also then in many cases are creating products and services to help others.
  • That's kind of the business side also and the philosophy side of mindfulness.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Well, until I started meditating, I didn't realize the power of breathing, but now that I've done it so many times and I've followed my breath in and out, I can see it even more.
  • I recently listened to a meditation and the gentleman was saying something like; realize that even when you're not aware of your breathing, you are breathing. So that's some heavy stuff.
  • Okay, so I'm not thinking about my breathing, but it's still happening. So there's a lot of things related to that that get a little bit deep about life in general and the way our minds work.

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  • Book: Man's Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl
  • App: PhotoEphemeris.com The Photographer's Ephemeris® (TPE) is a tool to help you plan outdoor photography in natural light, especially landscape and urban scenes. It is a map- centric sun and moon calculator: see how the light will fall on the land, day or night, for any location on earth.

Bullying Story

  • Well, as far as bullying, I'm fortunate that I was never beat up. I've listened to some of your guests and it's heartbreaking to hear what they said about them actually being physically assaulted.
  • My bullies were more just kids in the neighborhood maybe running after me trying to make me scared or something like that. That's really my extent, I would say of bullying.
  • I have family members who have disabilities or special abilities I like to say, so maybe I could see things from a different standpoint.
  • I would see how people might look at them and wonder; well why are you looking at them? So I could empathize a little more from a young age.
Apr 05, 2018
309 Unlock The Secrets of Sacred Orgasmic Love; Emunah Malinovitz
33:29

Emunah Malinovitz specializes in Sacred Love. She is skilled at helping you find the right person and she can give you the tools you need to build solid, long-lasting sacred love. Emunah's specialties are Sacred Ceremonies, weddings, and even divorces. She teaches tools to create powerful connections and how to connect on only 20 minutes. She also teaches couples a profound sensual way to meditate together; this method is called Sacred Orgasmic Meditation. Emunah believes in sacred love as a way of life.

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Most Influential Person

  • Oprah

Effect on Emotions

  • How has mindfulness affected your emotions? Mindfulness has gotten me more in touch with them and then I can love them like I talked about and heal them.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Tell us how breathing is part of your mindfulness; you already touched on it, but let's sum it up.
  • It's essential and it's conscious breathing, so not just breathing because God is breathing me right now, thank God, but I need to get present and be conscious to that breath and feel it.

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Bullying Story

  • Yeah, and you know, this even happened in my adult life and I was working for an amazing company doing personal growth work and I was really good at sales and I was really good at starting to do presentations from the stage. There was another woman that was working there and that was her job, you know, before I came along she was the star.
  • You can imagine if you're the person making the sales for the company, you felt good and you're important and here I came along and I had this natural ability to connect with people and to feel again using a lot of the tools we've talked about helped me be good at sales and be able to feel and be with people.
  • So she was in a position above me in her power structure in that company. So I definitely felt like there were a lot of ways where she would not give me certain opportunities or use whatever means were in her control to hold me back or not allow something to happen.
  • And it was difficult, you know, because I am a sensitive person and I can feel all of that. So it was very challenging, and the ways that I dealt with it, I first needed to know that what I was feeling wasn't wrong, that, you know, sometimes I think we make ourselves crazy, you know, and other people will make us crazy because they'll say, no, that's not going on.
  • That's all in your own head. And it's like, no, this is what's happening and I feel that and I'm not going to make that wrong. And then, you know, there were times where I would talk to my other friends about it just to get some reflection and support and make sure I'm not crazy, you know?
  • And then there were times where we've had to sit down as a group and just kind of have a circle and with other people there to support us and being honest and truthful. So I was in a community then, where we really honored the truth and we really honored being able to feel sensations.
  • I know that's not most places where we go, but that's the culture I would like to create because the truth is we are going to have people that rub us the wrong way in life. But really it's like, what is it in me that they are triggering? What is it that has me feel insecure, that is an opportunity for me to love in my own body.
  • And again, I know this stuff. It sounds so simple, but it's a lot harder to practice when you're in the situation. You know? And I don't want to make light of people who are being bullied. Like it's just the saddest thing. You know that people abuse their power and this is what we're talking about when you talk about the 'me too' movement and these men in power that are getting taken down, they had power and they bullied with it, they took with it, they used that power to take something rather than connect with another human being.
  • And I think that that's partly because we don't know how to connect. So what we've been taught is to be like, I'll be the more powerful one and I'll get my power by putting you down and this is part of what I say we're awakening the Feminine Energy in all of us.
  • We're feeling our compassion, our heart. It's like there has to come a place where our heart opens and we're like, what? I don't want to treat anybody like that. Like why would I do that? That's not right.
Apr 02, 2018
308 Let Loose With YoGoGirls Yoga Founder Debby Siegel
39:30

Debby Siegel is a Yoga Teacher and founder of the business, YoGoGirls. She calls herself a passionate steward of Earth, mostly a Barefoot Steward. She’s also a marketer, copywriter and editor with a distinctive edge which she finds in the wild.  She’s an avid cyclist, enthusiastic athlete and Mom of the Millenium. Debby is currently writing a Mindful Marionettes Puppet Show designed to teach kids about mindfulness.

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Most Influential Person

  • Gretchen Rubin

Effect on Emotions

  • How has mindfulness affected my emotions? Oh Wow. That is a good one. Thank you for asking that. Yes, they for me, like I said, it's about quieting my mind, right? And being able to be in this moment right here.
  • For me it has leveled off the extreme emotions which are derived from worry about the future or fretting over the past.
  • So by being right here, it's made me pretty even keel, and that is not always been something you could say about Debby Siegel.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Well, there's actually science behind it, right; breathing deeply into your abdomen. And I am really drawn to a yogic breathing called Deerga breathing, it's Deerga breath. It's a three-part breath and it's where you start by feeling your belly cavity, so you're breathing deep. You expand that out and then next you move into your lungs and your rib areas, blowing those out in 360, and then finally just even extending the air all the way up into your throat.
  • You start filling bottom to top and you exhale and you empty top to bottom. And this type of breathing has a lot of indications that all of the benefits of meditation and breathing will scientifically happen as you kind of hit your Vegus nerve.
  • And then it takes your body into that rest or digest phase an out of the fight or flight that pretty much all operate in more often than not. I'm very drawn to that type of breathing. One might even point out that prior to our interview I was breathing, I was integrating that into my own instruction and guidance. So yeah, it calms you, right? I am a rock climber, so one of my hobbies, I climb cliffs. I can get on the same rock wall, that's the same difficulty from the ground. And then you take that same rock wall and maybe put it up a few hundred feet, which I've done as well, like all over the United States; I've climbed in 11 states.
  • You start from that place and start to climb and you realize the mind-body connection right away. It changes, you know, your mind is so powerful. It changes your ability to focus on climbing.
  • So I will say breath has been incredibly powerful there. It can get you past that, that anxious fear that we in the sport doesn't involve. So yes, breathing, I incorporate it into almost everything I do now and I feel I need to come back to that clear-minded place that breathing is, it's my medicine.

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Bullying Story

  • I've been both the bully and the bullied in childhood.
  • I feel like recalling and retelling childhood bully stories would kind of give them some power in my now. So I would instead like to focus on the second part of your question, where mindfulness would've made a difference.
  • Mindfulness would make a difference for bullying everywhere, right? I mean, I happen to believe that bullying is just a person's need to be seen. We all need to be seen by others. We all need acknowledgment. It's a human condition and bullying is just a more intense method of achieving this.
  • So by holding more space for others in our day-to-day lives, perhaps we'll be offering the fulfillment of being seen to someone who might otherwise turn that lack into a bullying opportunity.

 

Mar 29, 2018
307 Reclaim Your Spark With PoleFit Nation's Jane Wilson
38:16

Jane Wilson is the founder of PoleFit Nation - a pole dancing for fitness company. When Jane started teaching fitness through Pole Dancing in 2008, she understood that what her clients were learning wasn’t so much about pole dancing, it was about self-esteem and embracing who you are and who you 

want to be. Over the past decade, she has helped thousands of women feel strong, empowered and confident. She is the Canadian Masters Pole Fitness Champion of 2015 and she has been featured in national publications including Chatelaine magazine. Jane believes that through Pole Dancing, you can reinvent your life.

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Most Influential Person

  • My father

Effect on Emotions

  • I have an anxiety disorder and being mindful has helped me calm my anxiety disorder down. I'm very different now with it.
  • Every single day I'm aware so if I feel the anxiety is sort of coming through. If I'm feeling anxious, I understand the physiological response, my body response, so I'm able to work through the steps to calm myself down and do the cognitive therapy to calm myself down.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I have two different ways of breathing. So we have the regular way of breathing, but then we also have our diaphragm breathing and I'm working on my public speaking.
  • I've learned how to speak in an effective way and breathe so that I'm not holding my breath and then talking a lot and then running out of air. So it's interesting you ask that because I've been working for the past few months on improving my breathing when I speak.

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Bullying Story

  • This incident happened in 2014 and it actually involved the studio and myself in which I was protested for a week. So this lady had driven by the studio and she looked through the windows. We weren't open at the time and she saw a room full of brass balls.
  • When we have classes, we close the blinds, but during the daytime the blinds are open so you can see inside. And there was a poster of me on the window where I'm holding the pole. It's one of our marketing posters. I'm looking happy and smiley. She was deeply offended and it triggered her.
  • It actually triggered a negative memory she had when she was younger. So in her youth, she unfortunately had a terrible childhood in which she was living on the street, became a prostitute and she was a stripper. And seeing the studio and me on the pole triggered it. So she felt she needed to have the studio shut down, that it wasn't OK and that what I was doing was wrong and she was very upset with it.
  • So first she went on Facebook and in Oakville there is a Facebook group about Oakville which has about 8,000 members on it and that's where she started. So she posted that she needed people to band together to shut down the pole dancing studio and that what I was doing was wrong and I was teaching women to become prostitutes.
  • So she projected by what was happening with her. I was, I was mindful enough to realize what was happening, but we had a situation where I had somebody who was not healthy and happy and if I were to attack her back he would make things worse. So I just, I stood up and I spoke about what the studio was about with more of an education point of view.
  • And then I didn't respond back after that. Well, because there's 8,000 members involved, people jumped on and it went on for like three days of online shaming towards her because she's attacking so people want to fight back. So I had to tell all my students do not participate, do not get involved, leave it be, because we don't want to feed the beast, the social media beast. So my students were very wonderful about it and it faded away.
  • So we didn't participate. we stood back from it. So then after it all calmed down, she decided to stand in front of my business with a sign saying, prostitution is wrong. She would arrive around 9:00 AM and would leave around 4:00 PM. The police arrived the first day and they talked to me about it. And in Canada we have the charter of rights.
  • So she was fully allowed to do that, to stand on public space in front of my business, to promote her agenda about prostitution is wrong and I totally agree, prostitution is wrong. But that's not what we're doing. Whenever people would walk by, she would tell them stuff about me, she would slander, she would say negative things.
  • So the police on the very first day pulled me aside and said, do you have a choice on how you want to handle this? You can either attack back, which will make things worse or you can ignore and we highly recommend you ignore. And so I also spoke to one of our local MPs, a member of parliament, because we all know politicians get protested quite a bit and he advised the same thing. He goes, don't engage, don't participate, don't even look at her when she arrives, go home. And that's what I did every single day.
  • She chose to protest against me during the first week of July, which was the hottest week of the summer. So I went home every single day when she arrived, I would say see you later, get in the car and go home and hang out with my kids and she would stand out in front. So I didn't really, I didn't want to hear what she said about me. I didn't want to know.
  • I just knew, eventually she would move on and in fact, by the end of the week, she called me up on the phone and left a voice message saying that her work was done. My apologies for causing any hardship, any pain. She said I need to move on now. So I'm actually very proud of how I handled that. I was being bullied, but I chose a different path of how to handle it instead of fighting back, I chose peace and not to engage.
Mar 26, 2018
306 Slow Down and Feel It To Achieve Wellness; Lea Bayles
32:24

Lea Bayles transitioned to a career in holistic wellness after recovering from an immune system collapse. She gained experience in areas including positions as mind-body therapist, yoga therapy program director, employee wellness coordinator and facilitator of medical patient groups. Currently, Lea empowers high achievers to become the exceptional leaders they were born to be with less stress, struggle and loneliness and more joy, vitality, connection and impact. She blends a masters in psychology with extensive experience in education, dance, theater, and healing arts. She wrote Take Back Your Life, Moving from Chronic Pain to Life-long Healing and numerous articles, healing meditations and spoken word poems.

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Effect on Emotions

  • I think it makes it much easier to have emotions and not get sidetracked by them or hijacked by them.
  • It's like, oh yeah, they're emotions and they come and they go and that I don't need to be a victim of my emotions. Not pushing them down, but not needing to be a victim of them.
  • Especially I think that self-criticalness was a part at one point that I would sometimes become a victim of.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing may be the number one part of my mindfulness. It's so great because it's always with us and just one breath or even one part of a breath or noticing a breath can bring us right back to it.
  • My intention is to start noticing it when I first wake up and to be aware of it all through the day. I love the practice of noticing and feeling the breath rather than trying to impose a perfect breath.

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Bullying Story

  • Really fascinating since I've been listening to your podcast and hearing you talk to people about that, it's made me think about bullying a lot more and that's been good. Thinking in my own life and as a child, I can't remember ever being bullied, but there are a number of situations as an adult that I would consider bullying to have happened. And right now in the news there's a lot about abuse of power, which I think is a form of bullying.
  • One particular situation which really stands out for me is about a man I was working with who was in a business situation and was in a position of, you know, in the hierarchy above me.
  • Ironically he had asked me to help him teach a mindfulness class based on Jon Kabat Zinn's work. And so we're teaching this, but there were some very uncomfortable encounters with things that felt to me like abuse of power with students and with me.
  • Then I went to a conference, a mind-body conference for therapists and doctors and educators and he knew I was going. He didn't say anything about going, but I was there and he showed up and was bizarre to me. Like following me and ranting and screaming at this professional conference it was very, very upsetting. I didn't feel scared really. But it was very upsetting. And that happened one evening.
  • And then the next morning we had a workshop that happened to be Wayne Mueller. He does body mind, spirit work. One of his books is called Sabbath: Finding Rest, Renewal, and Delight in Our Busy Lives by Wayne Mueller And he was doing a workshop at this conference and I went into that workshop just feeling tense in my body and rattled and looking around to see if this other person was going to be there.
  • I kind of felt like just going home. But I didn't want to, I wanted to stay at the conference, but I was definitely feeling disjointed and rattled and he gave us the best exercise.
  • He gave us the exercise to go out on a walk at a Sylmar, this beautiful place by the ocean in California. To go out for a walk and be led by our senses. And he called this a sensory walk and we talked about that feeling of like, just notice what your eyes love and follow that or what fragrance are you interested in?
  • And so it was just very simple. We each were out doing it for a and then came back. And just that following. I remember there was one particularly beautiful fragrant Bush that I just felt really drawn to and just was present with just noticing.
  • The feeling I had was having come back to my senses. I was like restored to myself.
  • So, you know, it's definitely a mindfulness exercise was like, what's here and how does it inform us and what does it call us to. And it totally brought me back to myself and I really felt healed from that.
  • There's another way too that I think mindfulness could have helped me if I looked back sooner. If I myself had been more aware of some of the early warning signals.
  • After that situation, I let our supervisor know I would not work again with this person, but before that there were weird things happening and I think if I had been more trusting of myself and what I was really noticing, I probably could have done something to stop it before it got to that point.
  • So I think that mindfulness of noticing early warning signals is something that would've been helpful for me.
Mar 22, 2018
305 Daily Self-Care So You Can Thrive; Naturopath Todd Nelson
37:08
Todd Nelson is a Naturopathic Doctor in clinical practice for 35 years. He is the co-author of 3 books on health and has contributed to 8 books on health. Todd is an expert in helping people recover their well-being by practicing exceptional self-care. Todd is a well-known speaker, both publicly and to health professionals, and does hundreds of media appearances. He is a former radio show host, and corporate wellness trainer.

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Most Influential Person

  • Robert K. Cooper (Head of Cooper Strategies (The first to teach me what he called an instant calming sequence) www.RobertCooperPHD.com

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness makes me calmer, more sane human being. You know, we all can get into this ... I call it the blender drink of our thoughts. You know, like when you, you do a smoothie in a blender drink, right?
  • And it's all smashed up and we can get whirling with so many different things in it. For me, it can connect me into this feeling of urgency and nervousness and being a little neurotic.
  • And so mindfulness has really helped me dissipate that soften, that, find more peace and be able to more consciously choose it at will during the day.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I don't know of anything that changes your state faster than changing your breathing. Truly. I mean, if you just take a moment and go, where's my breath?
  • Holding my breath, my diaphragm's up in my rib cage here. How do I just take a breath? Take a sigh. Mindfully breathe through my nose, out through my mouth, even just a few breaths and just let my diaphragm drop, my whole abdomen drop.
  • Within anywhere from 30 seconds to a minute, I can access calmness. Wow, what a neat technique. I can do that anywhere. Anytime. Any circumstance.

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Bullying Story

  • Yeah, you know, Bruce, when I was a kid I was a pretty sort of highly sensitive wimpy kid, not an athletic kid and definitely the one to get picked on. I was very sensitive to suffering of other kids and the underdog and suffering of animals and all sorts of things. And I remember in grade school I used to walk home from school.
  • There were all these wonderfully positioned bushes where these two guys would hide out and wait for me. They would jump out and want to hassle me push me around and take my lunch money, that kind of stuff.
  • Well, one day my father decided to hide in those bushes and wait for those to give them a dose of their own medicine. So he jumped out, scared the holy crap out of them and gave me a good talking to. And strangely enough, we all ended up being friends. Those guys were so shaken up and scared.
  • My dad sort of facilitated this; he was a great guy but when you ask me how mindfulness helped me later in my life, about the age of 17, I started learning Kung Fu. It was partly for self-defense but I would say out of the seven years of training I went through in Kung Fu, the core lesson that I got was being mindful, staying awake, staying present in the midst of somebody hitting me. I can't tell you how valuable that is.
  • It wasn't like I would have just signed up for that knowing what I was getting into necessarily. I got to a place where we would do these round robins of sparring with one another. And I was just getting overwhelmed emotionally by doing this with all these people and getting hit and hitting them.
  • And it was all a very controlled thing. But at one point I fell down in a fetal position and I could barely handle it.
  • So my instructor brought me up, facilitated me getting through the feelings of that and I went back in. I went back in and something shifted in me and I was able to stay present throughout the rest of the exercise and honestly, that stayed with me for life. I was able to go, wow, I'm just observing all this.
  • I'm having to spar with these people and stand my ground and defend myself and show up and stay awake and not get overwhelmed by my feelings.
  • When I'm in conflict or hard circumstances these days, I referenced that. I go back to that feeling state in my physiology; what we called it was the eye of the hurricane. I'm staying present in that calm core place of observation and being able to then come up with solutions to what's happening. So I practiced that for 40 years or more.
Mar 19, 2018
304 Learn How To Ignite Your Fire Within With Lisa Winston
34:52

Lisa Winston’s love of singing led her to a professional musical career that has spanned 40 years. She’s also a speaker, teacher, best-selling co-author, artist, Authenticity coach and mom. Five years after a breast cancer diagnosis and losing her home to wildfire, Lisa knew it was time to change the course of her life in order to pursue her soul path. Today, her commitment to teaching people how to Fuel the Fire Within and how to show up extremely authentic is powerfully transforming lives. Lisa’s life is a testament to what she teaches. And it’s exactly what’s needed for people to live an unstoppable, unshakeable and unapologetic life. It is Lisa’s absolute honor and joy to support others in learning to stand in the power and magic of their true, brilliant authentic selves. Five years ago at the age of 53, Lisa Winston left a 40 year music career to pursue her soul path. Today, her commitment to teaching YES Equals Success – saying yes to what’s hard, building inner strength and courage as well as providing simple steps to business success, is transforming lives.

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Most Influential Person

  • Dr. Wayne Dyer

Effect on Emotions

  • I used to fly by the seat of my pants with my emotions and it's not that I don't get emotional now.
  • I'm able to actually really breathe and disconnect and go to a space of alignment so that I'm not out of control. And then you can make a better decision from that space.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is one of the most important things you can do if you don't have a mantra or something like that.
  • Breathing really gets you out of your head, focused on your heart and centered in the present moment awareness.
  • Breathing brings life to your body and health to your body. So it's one of the most important things that I do.

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Bullying Story

  • I was bullied by a teacher in sixth grade who threw me up against the lockers. I think my sister came and supported me. There was no support back then in the sixties or seventies, whatever it was. I mean he never got reprimanded and nothing ever happened, you know. He just didn't like girls and I was very playful and I ticked a lot of people off because I liked to play games.
  • But also my daughter, I remember in middle school she had so many girls. Um, I can't remember the name of the book was about a girl, but I think there's another one, Odd Girl Out (by Rachel Simmons). But the girls are so mean. A lot of times boys just punch each other out when they get ticked off. Right. But girls just like torture you emotionally.
  • I wasn't in a good space at the time; I was in a really abusive relationship at that point myself. So I was not in any kind of conscious space to really help my daughter. So I was just angry and reading books and reaching out to the schools, but I didn't see a lot of support at the schools. That was what was crazy about it. My daughter's 23 and I don't really know what's being done about the bullying thing. They have campaigns about going to college, but I don't see much in the realm of bullying.
  • I don't think very many people deal with it consciously. It's scary. It makes people angry. You fear for your kids lives and kids take their lives because of it sometimes.
  • I do leadership trainings and stuff and I really feel like if we could bring more leadership trainings to schools, to the kids about how wonderful they are and get them to learn to communicate with each other as opposed to the opposite. Even now as adults, you're walking down the street, people won't look at you. I look at people directly now because, if you really connect with people, we have a lot of the same things going on. You can really love somebody if you get to know who they are and even if you don't know them.
  • So it's a world where we're afraid of each other. But it starts as kids and then we grow into these wounded adults. So I think we need a lot more leadership programs, trainings, and children's routines. I don't know that it's going to go into the schools, the schools have some work to do around just the school system.
Mar 15, 2018
303 Be A Truth-Digger To Share Your Story; Dawn Gluskin
28:35

Dawn Gluskin is a storyteller, copywriter, and a truth-digger. She helps entrepreneurs tell their stories that need to be heard in the world. She's been in sales & marketing for over 20 years & grew her first business to 7-figures at age 30. She stands for full self-expression & vulnerability as the means to a well-lived life & thriving business.

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Most Influential Person

  • Felix Lopez, a healer I met in Colorado.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness is just about being aware. In the past I just tried to stuff it down if I didn't want to feel it. Like, I don't want to feel this so I'll just pretend it's not here or I'll just be happy.
  • It's really about feeling it. I'm feeling into what are you trying to tell me, sadness or anger or whatever it is.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Focusing on breath is a really great way to bring you present, you know, just slow inhales and exhales. Instantly, you're right back in the moment.

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Bullying Story

  • I never really was bullied. I guess I'm one of the lucky ones. I was quiet and shy as a kid and so I think I stayed off people's radar.
  • When you said that, there was something that came to mind with my daughter who is is ten. She's a very sensitive soul. She's like, an old soul; very sensitive.
  • I first realized this when she was four, we went to the Vet because my dog had eaten something he wasn't supposed to eat. And we're in sitting at the Vet's and she's like, Mommy, I don't feel good in my stomach. And I was like, oh, did you eat something? And she's like, no, animals are hurt here, animals have died here.
  • I thought, where did that come from. But I just realized she's really in tune with people and she's mindful of people's energy. And so how that shows up for her sometimes is in her relationship with her friends.
  • There was a particular girl who's a very sweet girl, but if she didn't get her way, she would always say to my daughter, I'm not going to be your friend anymore. She would leave and she would leave my daughter in tears just from being so sensitive.
  • A lot of well-meaning family members would say to her, you need to toughen up. It's a tough world out there, you need to be tougher.
  • I took a different approach. I said to her, no, you're perfect and complete just as you are. Your sensitivity is actually a gift and sometimes it might not feel like that, but it is a gift to the world.
  • And I think how you eliminate the bully is by building up the individual so you can be mindful of who you are and just embrace even the parts that are difficult; the parts that you might feel weird about sometimes.
  • I taught her no, that's who you are and you don't need to change. The world needs to change. I really empowered her around it. And then we even worked through it with her friend and you know, everything is all beautiful. It was a beautiful lesson for both of them, even for the friend was like, well, she's just expressing how she feels. She doesn't know how to express that in another way and it's not about you. She's not trying to hurt you. That's about her. So it was a good lesson for both of them.
Mar 12, 2018
302 Realize Your Clients’ Lingo with Photographer, Jeffrey Shaw
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Jeffrey Shaw is one of the most well-known portrait photographers in the United States - His portraits have appeared on Oprah and People magazine as well as hundreds of other publications. Jeffrey is also host of the successful business podcast called Creative Warriors. Mindfulness plays a key role in Jeffrey’s world. He realizes making powerful connections with people is about embracing and understanding their LINGO, their specific secret language.Using this insight, Jeffrey teaches entrepreneurs how to attract their ideal customers by learning to speak the proper LINGO.

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Most Influential Person

  • K.S. Iyengar of Iyengar Yoga

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has affected my emotions by giving me greater stability.
  • We're very emotional beings and as a creative person, that's probably even more exaggerated.
  • So mindfulness has created curiosity, which creates a stability of mind.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is very much a part of my mindfulness practice. In Yoga we refer to it as Pranayama.
  • I have three kids and are adults now, but when one of my daughters was young, she had a really bad toothache and I taught her to breathe through the toothache.
  • I had double hernias. I chose to have surgery done separately without anesthesia because I convinced the doctor. I didn't want to go through the general anesthesia. So we did them separately and I breathed through those surgeries. He didn't think it could be done and I was like, I can do it. So breathing has been a big part of my life.

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  • Book: Going To Pieces Without Falling Apart by Mark Epstein
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Bullying Story

  • I was bullied most of my childhood, to be honest with you. Through middle school were really, really tough years for me.
  • When I was growing up we had seventh and eighth grade in middle school and I spent most of those two years the guidance counselor office because I wouldn't go to the cafeteria.
  • I went from class to the guidance counselor office to avoid the bullies. I was bullied on the bus. I was a shy, withdrawn kid; very sensitive. I was not as tough as the other boys.
  • Yeah, most certainly I was bullied.I think the sensitivity that I carried with me was the mindfulness. There was no way I ever could have taken the advice I see given in tv shows about bullying.
  • On sitcoms somebody's always advising the person being bullied to stand up to the bully. There is no way that was ever going to happen for me. So the mindfulness for me, was I was very aware that I was being bullied, but I was very mindful that that person had a problem.
  • And I actually think it's the mindfulness that helped me survive it. And I've gone to counselors and therapy and all the time I spent in the guidance counselor's office was to be with a therapist and that was often pointed out to me.
  • I honestly never really took on the victim role. I was being victimized, but I looked at it from the perspective that the person doing the bullying has an issue. I'm OK. I always carried with me a certain amount of self awareness and self confidence despite the fact that I was shy, I was actually inwardly quite confident and I was confident that the issue is not mine. I was very mindful that the issue was with the bully. Yeah, I mean it just was never. I never could have taken the advice.
  • I had two older brothers and a father there was the typical sibling interaction. My older brothers were constantly picking on me and bullying me and the advice to me was to toughen up. My parents would just say, toughen up, which to this day never made sense to me. I thought, why should I toughen up? Why are you telling the person being bullied to toughen up, to meet that person as opposed to telling the bully to knock it off.
  • But again, being mindful of the situation, I think it was just the easier route. A lot of times parents knowingly or not, just choose the easier route.
  • It was easier to tell me to toughen up than it was ever to tell older brothers to take it easy on your little brother because they were tougher. There was more resistance. I was the path of least resistance.
  • So oddly enough, I was very mindful of this dynamic. Even as a very young kid, I was very mindful that this was the dynamic which allowed me to hold on to a significant amount of self-worth and confidence that it was like, I'm OK, I don't know what's wrong with these people, but I'm OK and I'll just wait until I can find my right place in the world.
  • And when I do, I'll be able to shine.
Mar 08, 2018
301 Live Your Purpose With Author Leah Weiss
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Leah Weiss, PhD. is a Stanford Business School professor. She is a corporate consultant and has worked with LinkedIn, Google, and The Omidyar Group. She is also a Harper Collins author and a public speaker, having done talks on TEDx, Intuit, Google, and LinkedIn. Leah is an expert in corporate mindfulness, compassion, and purpose. Her most recent book is "How We Work: Live Your Purpose, Reclaim Your Sanity, and Embrace the Daily Grind".

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Effect on Emotions

  • I know them [my emotions] better and I recognize I'm in my body better. I don't always make better real time choices, but I do more often. If I slip up and react in a way that is not aligned with my values, then I can more quickly get to a good outcome.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Many times through the day, breathing is my quick anchor.
  • I notice physical sensations I'm experiencing and just breathing and noticing the patterns of the breaths.
  • Sometimes I'll fall into holding my breath. I bring awareness to that and remind myself to breathe more deeply.
  • Breath is an amazing, very convenient tool we have our whole life.

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Bullying Story

  • I've definitely experienced bullying. I had a person that I worked for who had a very erratic management style and was part time on the work that I was working on full time. It was really challenging.
  • When it is a good person with a good heart ... but there were a lot of situations where I felt like, as a young working mother early in my career, our conversations felt like interrogations. They were often like a one-on-one check-in that could've been an opportunity to problem solve and debrief and to get his wisdom and experience.
  • I felt like I was like going into a boxing match. The topic was related to compassion research. This stuff is hard to bring into the nitty gritty, which is why I wrote this book. I feel for him, I didn't enjoy it at all at the time. It was awful and really kind of traumatizing over time, like I just was eaten alive by that job. So it was never enough and I could never be prepared.
  • He was really smart and kind of sniffed out if I prepared it 'A' through 'Y' then definitely 'Z' would be the thing that would get picked up to dig into and kind of pick at. And it was challenging.
  • I had to make some decisions about how I wanted to live my life and whether this was a job that I wanted to go forward in. And I tried to have direct conversations one on one about my experience of our dynamic.
  • I tried bringing in HR to have a third person to try to help round out the perspective. Ultimately I didn't stay there full time. I went to a different organization. I did keep collaborating with that person. I don't feel like it was a bad person.
  • It was just like someone told me a long time ago that we can have compassion for almost anybody, but we have to figure out the right distance to have it from. Maybe working for someone 40 hours a week isn't a distance I can have compassion for, but interacting once a year at an event and working on projects that we both care about but not directly, that works.
  • It was a fine line and I had to do a lot of decision-making myself about what my values were and where my sort of line in the sand was. Did I want to be a spokesperson about this issue? Because I kinda suspected the next person would come in and have the same experience. You know, there's a lot of considerations to be made when we're in these kinds of situations.
Mar 05, 2018
300 Shape a Miracle Mindset With JJ Virgin
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JJ Virgin is a Celebrity nutrition and fitness expert. She teaches clients how to eliminate food and carb intolerances so they can transform their health and their lives. As co-host of TLC’s Freaky Eaters and health expert on Dr. Phil, JJ is a prominent TV and media personality, including appearances on PBS, Dr. Oz, Rachael Ray, Access Hollywood, and the TODAY Show. JJ is the author of four NY Times bestselling books: The Virgin Diet, The Virgin Diet Cookbook, JJ Virgin’s Sugar Impact Diet, and JJ Virgin’s Sugar Impact Diet Cookbook. Her latest book, Miracle Mindset: A Mother, Her Son, and Life's Hardest Lessons, shows warrior moms how to be strong, positive leaders for their families, while exploring the inspirational lessons JJ learned as she fought for her own son’s life. JJ also hosts the popular JJ Virgin Lifestyle Show podcast.

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Most Influential Person

  • Kay Smith, my first mentor.

Effect on Emotions

  • The way mindfulness has helped my emotions is, I tend to be very ... I'm a quick start in the Colby. I'm a red on the color code personality. I'm very reactive, very quick to move and being mindful allows me to take a breath and not over-react.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is something I've got to work on, Bruce. I was just doing a podcast interview yesterday with the gal who told me about a new App and I said, I need to get that one. Either that or I've got to get my butt into yoga. Something to be a reminder.

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Bullying Story

  • Bullying obviously has a whole spectrum, right? The outright obvious, like, when I was in elementary school, we had a bully that I shut down who was bullying one of my girlfriends. I just stepped. I was always the tall kid. I'm six feet tall and she was a little five foot tall Japanese Gal and this kid was bullying her.
  • I just stepped in front and was like, go ahead, hit her. Like you'll have to get through me first, which shut it all down.
  • So there's the obvious bully, but I think even more dangerous is that kind of bully who is emotionally bullying or bullying by telling you the way it's going to be.
  • When my son was the victim of a hit and run, our first doctor at the first hospital was a bully. He was the head of the trauma center there. Now this was in palm springs, so they're used to having seventy and eighty year old people come in.
  • And if my son was 80 years old and came in, in that condition, there's no way he would've made it. But my son was 16 and he stopped and literally looked at us and said, your son is not going to make it through the night. He needs to have another surgery. But he'd never survive the airlift. Even if he did, he wouldn't survive the surgery. And even if he did, he'd be so brain damaged, it wouldn't be worth it .You have to let him go. I call that a bully.
  • My 15 year old son stood right up to this guy and said, yeah, so point two five percent chance he'd make it. And that's when the doctor said that sounds about right. And my son said, so we'll take those odds. And I looked at that doctor. I go, you're overruled. You need to get the paperwork going.
Mar 01, 2018
299 Have Compassion For Yourself Explains Tanja Diamond
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Tanja Diamond is a Tantra Master and Coach extraordinaire. She’s the creator of the High Speed Evolution Coaching Program. Tanja and her coaching team are dedicated to getting people unstuck in life, love, and money. Tanja is also known for her expertise inthe area of Tantra, sex, teens, and parenting and has garnered over 18,000 hours of coaching and consulting time over the past 30 years. Tanja has been called the “Coaches' coach”.

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Most Influential Person

  • My Tantra Master.

Effect on Emotions

  • Well, emotions aren't something that can be controlled, but mindfulness controls my behavior after I have an emotional response.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • A breath work practice is critical and the foundation of mindfulness. Without it you're not being mindful.

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Bullying Story

  • Wow, do I have a bullying story for you. At 10 years old, I was living in Africa and all of a sudden I came down with this weird patch on my elbow.
  • And so the first thought everybody had was leprosy. So you know, my parents were freaked out. Leprosy is a really nasty thing. It's not a good thing at all.
  • And it ends up I had psoriasis. What happened was it ended up taking over about eighty percent of my body. And so kids used to always make bets like I'll give you a buck if you touch her.
  • I would sit at a desk and this one girl used to disinfect her desk when I was done, even though the teacher had said it's not contagious.
  • And so it was totally ugly. I mean, I'm big just gnarly. It looked like I was burned and it was really bad. It was bad in the beginning. And so I got bullied about that. I was also two years younger. I was twelve when I went into ninth grade and so I was younger and smaller.
  • These girls set me up, actually the cool people set me up for a bad, bad fall. They put little notes in my locker, like it was from a secret admirer. And so I'm reading these notes and I think this boy likes me, you know, I'm kind of like, oh my gosh, you know.
  • And it escalates over the next couple of weeks to. It's like, oh yeah, meet me in the Commons area. Right.
  • And at first I was thinking this can't be true. Like I'm Geeky, kind of like, you know, like hideous looking, you know, when my sweet tender heart shows up there in the commons and I'm sitting there waiting and you know, I'm sure I was bright red. I'm shuffling my feet, I'm super nervous.
  • And then all of a sudden this whole group of people start laughing.
  • And I'm standing there and they're like saying like, really? You thought somebody could like you? So that was it, but I've been bullied by parents because of my psoriasis.
  • I was like, at a swimming pool. This one woman was like, you need to get out of the pool, you can't swim here. And I said, this is not contagious with psoriasis. And she's like, you know, you need to get out.
  • She started escalating, making her voice really loud. So I've had that happen over the years and I would say that my way through it was actually I kind of fell into a kind of a mindfulness mode.
  • I decided one day that this was somebody else's problem, like I wasn't going to allow somebody else's opinion or feeling or whatever influence what I was. Because all I wore was long sleeves and you know, like I hid all the time. I chucked them all.
  • Then I wore shorts, put on a tank top and said, so be it. I kind of walked out into the sun and it's like, I'll just deal with it, right.
Feb 26, 2018
298 Get Present Before Donning Your Hustler Cape; Eric Allred
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Eric Allred is an entrepreneur who began his working life in the corporate world as a tech consultant. That lasted eleven months and then he began his entrepreneurial journey; at first partnering with a friend. They grew a company from $500 thousand to over $3,000,000 in sales in less than two years. Later he worked with a men's clothing company and then a media holdings company, which he's currently building with a partner. Eric has been immersed in digital marketing work and he also took over as CEO for an e-juice and CBD oil company. CBD oil is derived from the hemp plant which is part of the cannabis family and is now being used by thousands of people to relieve symptoms from all kinds of ailments. Eric has recently been touring the United States as part of the CBD oil project.

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Most Influential Person

  • My coach.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has allowed me to realize that I can be a conduit to my emotions. I don't have to be my emotions.
  • There's some that kind of go through me and I'm like the vessel for them, but I don't necessarily need them to hamper or impede me.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I take time almost every day and stop and breathe. It's my way of bringing myself back to equanimity as my way of creating like a groundedness for myself.

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Bullying Story

  • I think really as I've gotten more aware, you realize just how much it effects you and impacts you. A lot of your behaviors and structures that sit on top of your essence and your identity.
  • I can remember junior year of high school, AP chemistry, second class, second seat front left, Mr Bankey's class.
  • This girl Amanda said her biceps were bigger than me, in AP chem. I went on to put on like 30 pounds that following year, I just like, lifted, lifted, lifted, lifted, lifted.
  • That took me into college where my significance was how I wanted to be received from girls, as a potential hookup, so to speak.
  • I was always the friend of a friend and I was funny and I was an older soul and that just kind of pushed me over the edge. But then I just wanted to drink and hook up with girls and it really, really, impacted me and how I show up for the feminine.
  • That turned into getting into business in the marketplace. I was like, 'Well I need to become financially successful. So they like me for my wealth and I'm powerful, I'm significant, I'm seen.'
  • It starts just like a relationship where you need something from them all the time. People can feel that.
  • To that was an instance, like we're being bullied. Being mindful of it and really seeing how it impacted me didn't all come at once. It was just kind of shedding, shedding layers of it. It was huge for me.
Feb 22, 2018
297 Overcoming Domestic Violence With Mindfulness; Rosie Aiello
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Rosie Aiello engineered an international escape from domestic abuse after a 25 year marriage to save her daughter and herself from ongoing terror and cruelty. Nearly mentally destroyed, she reinvented herself since arriving back in the United States, started her own business, and became a speaker, best-selling author and an international awarding-winning entrepreneur. Rosie and her daughter are now sharing their powerful story of escape, healing, and freedom in their upcoming memoir called 11 Hours to Freedom. Rosie helps women regain their voice and confidence, and rebuild their life so that they can create a joyful and prosperous life that they deserve.

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Most Influential Person

Wanda Whitaker

Effect on Emotions

It helps me get centered and not fly off when I want to fly off, because trauma survivors have a tendency to go and fly off. We get into panic hypervigilance and things like that.

So it's key, and one of the things that I have on my wall that I have to keep reminding myself of, is that being fearful and afraid is not the same thing as being in danger. You have to kind of live life by that.

Thoughts on Breathing

As I've learned about this, I introduce it to all my coaching. Breathing is an integral part of it.

I have to be reminded as well to breathe in slowly through my nose and go really slow on the exhalation to just slow everything down.

It's key. Absolutely key to calming the whole nervous center, calming the fight and the flight and the freeze that we can get into so easily. It's just critical.

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Book: Finding Life Beyond Trauma: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to Heal from Post-Traumatic Stress and Trauma-Related Problems by Victoria Follette PhD and Jacqueline Pistorello

App: Timer App

Feb 19, 2018
296 The Feng Shui of Mindfulness; Paula Brown
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Paula Brown is an artist and animal healer, possessing a profound ability to communicate with animals as a telepathic communicator. She has also worked extensively as an international award-winning branding expert. Paula is a practitioner of Black Hat Feng Shui which is the type of Feng Shui most common in North America. Paula is also accomplished in Qi Gong, Hawaiian Shamanism, Flower Essence and dowsing methodologies. She is the author of “Fur Shui. An Introduction to Animal Feng Shui.”

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  • My fifth grade teacher, Mr. Boyd. He looked like Paul Newman. I had a crush on him and I was painfully shy.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has gotten me to be more grounded. I'm always accused of being way out in the future and with my Huna practices it has brought me into the present moment and it's allowed me to stay in the present moment and expect the best, trust myself and be in the present moment.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Huna again. There is a thing called Piko Piko breathing and it's an attention awareness up and down from the crown of your head to your navel. Whenever I get stressed out, I just revert to Piko Piko breathing. You don't have to breathe deep or anything. It's a very invisible thing so I can do it any time and any place and it brings me back into the present moment and it brings me calm. Yes, breathing is very important. Piko means center in Hawaian. It means navel. When you breathe in you bring your awareness to the crown of your head, not your breath but your awareness. When you breathe out you bring your awareness to the center of your navel. You do that three times and it's amazing. Your whole body relaxes and when you're relaxed you're you. When you're tense you're not. So Piko Piko brings you that relaxation.

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Bullying Story

  • I have many bullying stories because I was such an odd child. I was never part of the 'in' crowd but I was always very interesting so people would reach out to me.  I was one of the smartest ones too, so people would copy from me. That was my strength.
  • In business, I was bullied a lot, being the only female VP or creative director at the time in these large advertising agencies. I had to be escorted to enter the Algonquin Club in Boston by the chief of BBDNO and the Vice President because I went in the front door alone and various men stood up and grabbed me and walked me out and told me I was nothing and that I shouldn't be there.
  • I was verbally and physically shoved out of the room and then told to go through the servants entrance. Then I couldn't even go there because I wasn't a man. And so I had to be escorted and I'll tell you that left some pretty indelible feelings about how women were treated and how I was treated and it made me more resolve to be more outspoken about us as women being worthwhile.
  • Literally, you're stripped of your worth when something like that happens. The words and the physicalness; the words were very damaging. So I look at bullying as the words and also the physical aspect of it but mostly words.
Feb 15, 2018
295 The Joy Of Intimacy and Mindfulness With Rabbi Manis Friedman
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Rabbi Manis Friedman is a world-renowned author, counselor, lecturer and philosopher. Rabbi Friedman uses ancient wisdom and modern wit as he captivates audiences around the country and the world. Over 150,000 copies of his provocative yet entertaining tapes have been sold.

Rabbi Friedman’s first book, Doesn’t Anyone Blush Anymore? published by Harper San Francisco in 1990, was widely praised and is currently in its fourth printing. Rabbi Friedman is a noted Biblical scholar, recognized for his sagacious grasp of Jewish mysticism and a professionally ranked member of the National Speakers Association. Rabbi Friedman has recently released a new book titled The Joy of Intimacy.

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Most Influential Person

  • Professor Dr. Hugblokuv, University of Western Ontario, London, Canada.

Effect on Emotions

  • Emotions are a direct outgrowth of your intelligence. The way you think is the way you feel.  The way you understand is the way you emote.
  • If you have a very quick mind, you're going to have very high energy emotions. You're going to be quick in your emotional responses just as your mind is quick in the pickup. If you're slow and thorough in your thinking, your emotions will also be a little more sluggish, a little more patient, a little more thorough.
  • If you get a lot of pleasure from learning, from understanding, from using your mind, you will have more pleasure in your emotions. So it's a direct relection of what's going on in the brain.
  • That's why if you want to improve your emotions, don't sit there trying to change your heart, change the input in your brain and you'll get a different output in the heart.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I find if you don't breathe it's hard to think. The brain needs oxygen.

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What Does Mindfulness Mean To You?

  • I think mindfulness is really synonymous with life itself. If you're not mindful, you're not living; you're just existing or surviving. You haven't been hit by a truck so you're still here. But that's not called living.
  • Mindfulness is not an option, it's not like you can live without it or you can live with it. It's synonymous with life. If you want to be alive, start paying attention.We're very enamoured with the quality of our existence. We want to exist well and we forget to live.
  • We have a very comfortable existence compared to our grandparents and to other countries and other places around the world. We do have very comfortable, very nice existence. But the amount of effort we put into it and the amount of concern and anxiety over it just drains us of life.
  • It is the very successful who are most likely to get depressed because; what is it all for. As long as you're still trying  to improve your existence, you're kind of distracted. Once your existence is good, it's like, now what. What was it all for?
  • The other problem with focusing on your existence is that two people, both focusing on their existence, cannot get along. It's just not possible. They certainly can't bond. Because when you're focusing on your existence, it takes you into yourself and away from others. You become introverted in some way.
  • In order to connect to another person, the only part of you that is flexible enough to thrive on the presence of another person, is if you're both focused on living because life is flexible. Existence is rigid. It's got too many rules. You've got to have this house, that car, it's just too rigid and it carries over into your personality.
  • Even success as a person is too materialistic. Too much of that existing.
  • For example, people will be surprised and shocked to hear this. If you're determined to be a good husband, you're going to have an unhappy wife. If you're determined to be a good mother, you're going to have an unhappy child, because if you're trying to be good at something, you're too busy with yourself.
Feb 12, 2018
294 Digital Self Mastery With Dr. Heidi Forbes Oste
29:15

Dr. Forbes Öste is a behavioral scientist & best-selling author. She teaches people how Mindfulness and Technology are connected and she has devoted years to doing scholarly research in the human relationship with technology. Dr. Forbes Öste is a consultant in the field of Social Strategy. In addition to all this, she has a passion for the topic of wellbeing. Dr. Forbes Öste founded the movement for Digital Self Mastery to support the transition into the digital era without losing humanity in the process.

 

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Most Influential Person

  • My Grandmother

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness enables me to be more stable. About five years ago we were still living in Sweden. We now live in California.
  • I had season affective disorder that became progressively worse every year. It can result in very deep depression and it was on the extreme.
  • I came to California for some meetings and felt normal because it was sunny every day and I was outside. I was with friends who were doing yoga everyday.
  • They had a mindfulness practice of their own in that way. Just being part of that after being deep in a depression that had lasted several years, I was brought out enough in order to get that prospective look at what was going on.
  • I saw that chemical response that was happening in my system. I knew that something needed to change. Not being able to get that awareness and prospective is where you get stuck without mindfulness.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • It's yogic breathing if anything. I used to teach yoga and I that type of breathing comes most naturally to me.

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Bullying Story

  • I can give you a current story because I had an interesting experience just last week while I was speaking at a conference in Warsaw. It was a tech conference.
  • My presentation was more of a story-telling thing. This was not a typical tech talk; instead I was telling people you need to be grateful for technology. This does not necessarily resonate with everyone.
  • Later in the day I talked more about the research and the science behind it and the neurological implications. While I was speaking, somebody tweeted a nasty, trolling comment that was like, 'that was the most boring presentation, what does that have to do with tech ....'. I was raised that if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.
  • Anyway, it was unnecessary. I went back into the green room after my talk and I was looking at some of the comments and I saw that and my heart kind of sank. I thought, that wasn't a very nice thing to say.
  • There were two or three people sitting around me when I read it and they said, 'that's awful'.
  • Actually, the response was that they tweeted replies to the comment saying, that's so wrong, it was amazing. It was just this beautiful moment of support and wonderfulness.
  • What I found from my own awareness of that response was that instead of it ruining my day, my response was; 'that's a shame', and, 'she must have been having a bad day.' I took a moment to breathe and I thought, 'that's really sad'. I felt sorry for her more than for me.
Feb 08, 2018
293 Overcome Adversity and Reach Your Goals With Justin Schenck
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Justin Schenck is a speaker and coach who has established the Growth Now Movement, an initiative he created to help millions of people reach their goals, no matter how lofty they are. Justin’s specific area of expertise is overcoming adversity; something he has accomplished successfully in his own life. Justin is also creator and host of the Growth Now Movement Podcast where he interviews guests who have overcome major obstacles.

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Most Influential Person

  • My mom, because she constantly loved others more than you could ever imagine.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness effected my emotions; they are getting better. I was always a reactor but I'm learning still, I have a relationship coach.
  • I'm learning not to do that. I'm learning that not everybody's out to get me. I do this in a number of different ways. I will just step away and take a walk to put myself in a different mindset.
  • I try to see things from their mindset instead of mine. I try not to be so selfish about it.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is the most important part of my mindfulness practice because if I'm not breathing properly or if I don't pause and take those deep breaths, I do that blackout thing and I don't even realize what's going on. Then I become a hot mess.
  • Breathing for me is the number one thing, it's been a lifesaver for me. Jarek Robbins, Tony Robbins son, taught me a really cool breathing technique. You take three quick breaths in through your nose, real aggressive, and then you breathe out your mouth, and then three quick breaths in your mouth and then slowly breathe out your nose. Then you repeat that. It almost actually gets you a little high. It helps you calm down, your brain starts to think a little bit better.
  • Whenever I get super stressed out and I don't think things are going to go my way, I just sit down, put my feet flat on the ground and I do that and it kind of calms me up.

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Bullying Story

  • I was never bullied. When I was twelve years old I broke my hip and a couple years later I broke my other hip.
  • Five surgeries within the time frame of three years made me almost not bully-able because it would be horrible if people picked on me. I actually just recently interviewed a guy named Justin Wren who is a fighter and he told a story about being bullied in school and it was just terribly sad at the end.
  • I've never personally experienced being bullied, but I can only imagine if the bullies themselves were just able to take a deep breath and not have peer pressure to do these things and if we realized we were all kind of the same, then I think that would help a whole lot.
  • If people were able to take a step back and be more mindful of what they're actually doing, I think we'd be much better off.
  • I had a guy email me about a year ago, saying that I'm a fraud and I get all my content from my guests and that none of my content actually comes from me. It was this long email and I thought, why are you taking time out of your day to do this.
  • I actually wrote an email back in defense and being angry and whatever, but I deleted it because I became mindful of what I was doing.
  • I just wrote him an email back and I said, thank you so much for your perspective; I really appreciate it. Why don't you just hang in there for a little bit longer and keep listening because you might like some of the things that are coming up?
Feb 05, 2018
292 The Kindness Cure With Author Tara Cousineau
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Tara Cousineau, PhD, is a clinical psychologist, meditation teacher, well-being researcher, and social entrepreneur. Tara founded www.bodimojo.com, and develops digital wellness tools for youth. She is affiliated with the Center for Mindfulness and Compassion at Cambridge Health Alliance in Somerville, MA. She is a mindfulness trainer and chief science officer at Whil, a digital mindfulness company, and serves as a scientific advisor to www.kindness.org. Her upcoming book, The Kindness Cure will be released in February 2018. It is a peerless book on kindness that exceeds any existing work on the subject.

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Effect on Emotions

  • If we had longer, I would tell you what a temper tantrum kid I was. I had a very chaotic household. I think that when I came to yoga and mindfulness in my twenties, that it absolutely changed, in my emotional life, how I react, in the world, in my relationships. It fundamentally changed them.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is essential. A definition of breath is spirit of life and I feel that's very true. So, for me, the breath is spiritual nurturing; taking that sacred pause. And that's what Tara Brock calls it; that's why I like her so much. Essentially, we are living, breathing human beings and we're all connected to each other by the very virtue that we live and breathe in the world. So let's really attend to our breath.

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Bullying Story

  • Like I mentioned, I wrote the book based on a bullying situation. It was a situation with my daughter actually.
  • The incident was the night before senior year of high school. The kids were congregating in the woods. They’re not supposed to, but that’s where they do. It was early in the evening, 9:00 at night or something and my daughter was leaving the gathering and another girl just comes out from behind a tree and attacks my daughter.
  • It was like a girl-on-girl fight. My daughter, Sophie had no idea where this was coming from. Then the guys got called in and it was one of those weird teenage scenes. And here’s the thing; my daughter didn’t tell me until a day later. Partly because I had actually been in my office the night before and I didn’t see her come home.
  • The next day she came to my home office and said, mom, I have something to tell you. I was like, Oh my god; she crashed the car, she’s pregnant. What is a teenager going to tell you, you know?
  • She sat down and she said, I know I was not supposed to be at the woods, but that’s where all the kids were just to celebrate and she named a former friend from middle school who had physically attacked her. I was just like, Oh, my god are you ok? And she showed me the cat scratches and the fingernail scratches and the whole thing.
  • She had a picture that her friend took of her bloody nose. I said I don’t want to see the picture because I know too much about how these things get imprinted in your brain. I said I believe you. Are you ok? Do you feel safe?
  • The next day was going to be the first day of school. I asked, are you going to be ok in the hallways, in the cafeteria. She said, yeah. And I said, why do you think this happened? She goes, I really don’t know. I think it might just be an old grudge and then she started going into this compassion mode. I’m looking at her shaking my head because I literally was going to go knock on her parents' door and really ream the mother out. I was really mad. I was really upset about it.
  • My daughter was saying, well, she’s really had a hard life. I said, honey, you were assaulted and that’s not ok, but you know what, let’s just think about it. I literally called on every ounce of mindfulness training that I’d had, not to go into this reactive, tiger-mom mode. I might have five or six years ago.
  • I might have gotten in my car, knocked on the door and the whole kit and caboodle. But my daughter actually really showed … I don’t know where she got this because I think she had wisdom and inner strength that I didn’t necessarily have at her age where she could see the situation from multiple angles.
  • She also felt in this case, that talking to the school could blow it up and make it worse. I said, let’s just put that on hold because I’m the parent here and it’s ultimately the parents’ responsibility to do something. So part b of this story is that I waited a week. Then I made a meeting with the school and I just said, I know that the woods are the satellite off-campus site for these kids and that as long as they’re not on the property, there’s nothing you can do about it.
  • I said, here’s my concern; that this is going to escalate and this could cause a rift that both girls are going to be in a sort of interpersonal war and that both of them could have an unpleasant year because what happened immediately is that a lot of the girls and guys sided with my daughter.
  • That was going to incense the situation more. That’s what kind of informed the book, was that very incident because I just had one of those wtf moments where I just said, what happened to kindness.
Feb 01, 2018
291 Rediscover Your Sexuality; Dr. Jane Guyn
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Jane Guyn is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, Professional Sex Coach, Core Energy Coach and registered nurse. She is the author of the Amazon #1 Bestseller “Too Busy to Get Busy." She coaches women to have the sex life they've secretly desired all their lives by removing one or more of the 7 barriers to great sex - even if it's been a rocky road. As someone who's been married for over 30 years with 6 kids, Dr. Jane understands the challenges.

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  • A woman who taught a mindfulness-based stress reduction course written by Jon Kabat-Zinn

Effect on Emotions

  • The bullying story is a good example of that. When I get into a situation when I'm being triggered by someone elses hard edge, and bullying behavior, I don't want to give up my willingness to stand up and at the same time I don't want to bring an agressive stance to that person.
  • Mindfulness has allowed me to come back within myself. I think of it energetically and bring it back in and still be there as someone who's holding space.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I'm a Yoga practitioner and I use breathing in that practice. I also use it when I meditate. I use it to get myself grounded when I fall into the gap, which I must say I'm not able to do every single time I meditate, but when I can get into that space, it feels like one of the most pleasurable experiences I have, as a sex person, that's saying something.
  • Just being in what feels like a gap between being awake and asleep and just such pure bliss. That happens when I use my breathing well and really become conscious of my breathing.

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Bullying Story

  • At the time of this recording, there has been a lot of emphasis on Facebook where women are claiming their, and I'll say our experience with sexual assault or sexual harassment. It's stunning to watch my news feed as person after person, woman after woman, types up 'me too' in her status.
  • I'm honored to see so many of us claiming that so it's kind of hopeful in a way that we're all showing up with something that's been a secret for so long. At the same time, it's really sad to see so many of us who are having that need to experience.
  • For me the bullying that I've experienced in my life really had to do with ... it really started in my home. When we aren't empowered in our own homes, it sets us up for further bullying experiences and further sexual harassment, rape and other kinds of experiences where we don't have power.
  • My experience was with a father who drank alcoholically and he created a very scary home environment. Although we looked fantastic on the outside, as is the case with many of these families. We had a gardener, our home was very lovely, up on a hill. We weren't wealthy, but for the community we lived in, I felt that we were fairly well-to-do. It was all just right.
  • But when you got behind closed doors, my dad was really scary. Because of that, I ended up with a lot of barriers and a lot of armoring. It took me time and the use of mindfulness to release the barriers and release the armoring and be willing to be vulnerable with other people.
  • On the way there, I went through kind of a dragon slayer phase where I was a rescuer for people who were being bullied around me. I remember this one situation I was in, in northern California where I lived with my husband.
  • I was a newlywed there and there was this pickup truck next to us in the Safeway parking lot. A man who had two or three guns in the back rack; he had a pit bull in the front seat with him. He was a big man. And he started to beat the pit bull with his fist.
  • I got out of the car and I went over to that truck and I said, "You leave that dog alone." My husband was just terrified. He was saying, "Get back in the car."
  • I remember I was so compelled to step in. That edge kind of pulls a little of the bully energy, the fighter. It took me some time to realize that I could be in place as a safe space for someone who is experiencing bullying without bringing that hard edge.
  • And that's what I do now, in a mindful way, is to, when I see something, then I turn to the person, the victim if you will, and create a spaciousness and kindness around that person to kind of envelop that, instead of directly connecting with the person who has this hard energy. That seems to work better for me. It's a transition for me and it's a growth for me.

 

Jan 29, 2018
290 We're At An Epoch Says Wellness Force Radio Host, Josh Trent
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Josh Trent is an expert in the field of wellness and specifically in the area of physical and emotional intelligence. He is founder and host of Wellness Force Radio where he’s interviewed world-class experts in the fields of mindset, behavior change, nutrition, health, and technology. Josh is also the host of the Fitness Industry Technology Council’s “Fitness + Technology Podcast,” Josh spotlights the work of global fitness and wellness brands, and how their contributions through new technologies are positively influencing the industry.

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  • My grandfather. He was one of the first Italian Americans in the Marine Corp to be a Brigadeer General and he stopped me in the hallway once when I was thirteen years old. He said, do you believe in God? I said no. Why not. Well because the church has got all this control and everything. He said, Josh, do you realize that the human mind always thinks there's a beginning, middle and end? But if you look at higher intelligence or God, there is no such thing as a beginning, middle or end.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has allowed me to actually feel my emotions.
  • I think we have a sickness in our country where our lack of mindfulness leads to the lack of connection which leads to disconnection. Disconnection is what fuels addiction.
  • The opposite of addiction is connection. Mindfulness to me is actually connection in that way.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I have on my arm, this [tatoo]. if I can breathe, I can chose. Because I learned this especially in the last couple of years going through business stress and relationship stress.
  • If we can all just remember to breathe in this moment and exhale. Do it right now. Then you can make the choice you really want to make and you won't be reacting, you'll be responding after the deep breath.

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Bullying Story

  • This topic is timeless. I'm thirty-seven now and I can close my eyes and go right back to when I was seven years old. I was using food then to check out because I didn't have the emotional tool sense yet. I can specifically remember playing soccer on the field. Everyone was calling me fat. Look at you, fat ass. Look at you, fat kid. Fat, fat, fat, fat.
  • That word fat just hit me and it because this sore that I wore on the outside of my body. In the book, The Untethered Soul, he talked about all the thorns we have on our body. That became a massive thorn for me.
  • When anyone would point to the way that I looked, or when I looked at myself in the mirror, all throughout my adolescence, there would be this pain body around it. I look back at that time and I think, what could have been different then?
  • What could have been different in my ability to be mindful. I would have been having an open dialogue with my parent. Feeling the safety, the securety, the capacity for me to have that conversation with my mother or father at that time.
  • That wasn't there because their emotional intelligence wasn't there either. But we've already talked about this, because they did the best they could. I look back at this seven year old and I want to put my arm around him.
  • I want to say, hey man, you're so great the way you are. there's nothing wrong with you. All this means is that you're carrying around extra energy. Because that stuff on your stomach is just energy. So, do you want to do something exciting? Do you want to do something fun? Let's go burn off some of that energy.
  • But I didn't have that then. I can heal that pain body now by being the thirty-seven year-old who looks back and has the conversation with that seven year old and says, I love you, you're doing great. Let's burn off some of that energy you have.
  • Because really, depression and sadness, is just the opposite of expression in putting your voice out there. And that's what more people need. Bullying is a by-product of anger, depression and sadness.
  • You think a bully's happy? When bullies pick on other kids, it's because their homelife is crap, their married to somebody they hate, they're in a relationship they don't like.
  • Maybe most bullies are in their teens, but there can be adult bullies too. Bullying is just a representation of anger and sadness that is leaking out of someone's soul. And that is the bottom line for anybody that bullies anybody. It's a lack of consciousness. A lack of mindfulness.
  • And so the narative around bullying must change and it must change now because we're stepping into one of the most growth producing years.
  • With the potential of us growing as a collective, but also one of the most dangerous, as technology rises, as people that are in power, especially the leader of our country, do not promote a lifestyle of mindfulness and deep connection and love for other people.
  • We're at this epoch. We're at this point right now where we have to decide with our actions. If we don't, the danger is that mindfulness goes away, bullying goes up and then we have this conversation again in another thousand years. And I don't want that to happen.
Jan 25, 2018
289 Darwin, Creationism, and Mindfulness With Perry Marshall
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Perry Marshall is an author, an engineer and an expert in on-line marketing. He's also a thought leader in the area of creationism and evolution. His recent book, Evolution 2.0: Breaking the Deadlock Between Darwin and Design, is a look at Perry's research and his conclusions regarding common opinions surrounding creationism and evolution. Perry concludes that neither side is telling you the whole story. Perry's Google Adwords books have resulted in the 100 billion dollar pay-per-click industry. He's written the world's best-selling book on web advertising called, Ultimate Guide to Google Adwords.

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  • Gerry Hogg - a woman from northern Ireland who taught me a keltic way of connecting to nature. One of the biggest shifts I've ever had in my life.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has caused my emotions to be a lot calmer. What we'd all like this to be is, now I'm going to do my mindfulness exercises and within three days everything's going to be fine. For me it really took months and years.
  • We humans are complex beings. We have a lot of garbage and we have deep closets with lots of bones and stuff. Over a period of years, the difference is profound. I used to be a bag of snakes. I'm a lot more composed than I used to be and it's nice.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is important to me to a degree. Probably not as much as some people.
  • We have two special needs, adopted kids. Anybody that's done adoptions knows that you deal with all kinds of stuff. One of the first things that you do with a kid that's triggered, is breathe. CJ - take a breath.
  • You can do that with a CEO and everybody's going to say, take a breath. Most people will actually do that. It will work, even in a meeting - "everybody take a breath, breathe out, breathe in, breathe out. It resets.

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Bullying Story

  • When I was thirteen, it was going in both directions. I got beat up on by a bunch of different people.
  • I decided I was going to toughen up and not take this anymore and so i started getting aggressive with other people so you could say I was bullying him. He said to me, hey, you and me, we're going to fight after school. I thought, Oh crap. And I couldn't back down.
  • I let my ego get in my way. So we go out and we have this fight and I lost. A big crowd of kids wathcing the whole thing. At first I was doing well and then I was running out of gas.
  • He starts prevailing and then I had to give up. Now that's embarrassing. A little more mindfulness, self awareness would have helped. When he said, hey dude, I thought, this is a bad idea, but I did not have enough integrity, enough self-honesty to go, you know what, I would rather apologize to you and not get into this with you.
  • I should have said, you win, I lose. That would have been a smaller defeat than the one I ended up having. There was actually some schrapnall as a result. It was just bad.
  • I think this happens all the time with people. It's not usally a fist fight behind a school. But it could be the proverbial fistfight between companies, between CEO's.
  • These things, like, we're going into this market. And the other person saying, I don't really think you should go into that market. That's a bad idea. Then years later they lose several million dollars and they have to write it off.
Jan 22, 2018
288 The Self Help Addict Author, Daniel Gefen
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Daniel Gefen is the founder of Gefen Media Group and host of the top rated podcast show ‘Can I Pick Your Brain?’ where he has picked the brains of over 100 thought leaders, billionaires and celebrities. He was named the top 25 most influential influencers of 2017 and has been featured in Forbes, Inc and Influencive. Most recently he is the author of the transformational book called "The Self Help Addict - Turn an Overdose of Information Into a Life of Transformation."

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What is Spirituality to You?

  • I’m going to start by saying that the minute you say spirituality to me, it doesn’t mean anything.
  • I’m an orthodox Jew, I’m a practicing orthodox Jew and yet the word spirituality doesn’t mean anything to me because for me, it’s just another word people throw around. You have words like entrepreneur and influencer and all these different words people throw around. Spirituality is one of them. For me, it’s tough. How do you define something that’s undefinable?
  • I’ll give you an example. How do you define love? How do you explain it to someone who’s never felt love before? If you’ve loved anyone before, it’s easy to explain it.
  • If you’ve never felt love before, where do you begin to tell what love feels like? If you have not experience a spiritual moment or you haven’t experienced spirituality in your life, then I cannot describe spirituality to you because it’s an experience. It is out of the realm of comparison.

What belief led you to write ‘The Self Help Addict’?

  • That belief evolved over time. I had to rewrite a lot of things along the way. I would read something I wrote a couple of years ago and I’d say; holy crap, you wrote like that? That’s so wrong. Then I’d edit it out.
  • About a month before I went to publish, I almost scrapped the whole book. I almost had to rewrite the entire book.
  • I had an awakening where I realized that everything I’m writing about in this book is all about how to go from being a consumer to a creator. It’s all about how to go from this self-help cycle of constantly taking in more and more information and actually going and doing something with it. It’s actually taking that energy and creating something out of it. Taking all the inspiration and putting it into action; making it real.

What is the Missing Piece of the Puzzle?

  • You are at the proverbial bottom of the mountain. You keep looking up and you keep saying, ‘wow, it’s so amazing’. But I’m just too scared to go up there. I’m afraid of what people will think of me if I try to climb that mountain. I’m going to make a fool of myself.
  • You see some people up there already. You have the Oprah Winfrey’s and Tony Robbins and all these amazing people up there and you’re looking up at them like they’re idols.
  • You’re saying, ‘wow, wouldn’t it be great to stand on top?’ But I can’t do that because I’m not like that. Imagine I came along and I held you hand and I said, Bruce, let’s climb that mountain. I’m going to help you to climb up.
  • And we start climbing. You actually start taking action and you start climbing and you go higher and higher and higher and you get to the top, so to speak. You get to that point where you’ve been dreaming so much to get to, whether it’s that you’ve become a millionaire. You’ve got your wife and children and you’ve got your nice big house. You’re living the American dream. It’s your mountain.
  • When you get to the top, you suddenly feel very depressed because you’ve achieved it all and yet you still feel that emptiness inside. That’s worse than when you were at the bottom of the mountain. Why? Because when you were at the bottom of the mountain, at least you had hope.
  • People who don’t take much action at least they have in the back of their minds that, if I ever do accomplish ‘X’, I’ll be happy. So at least they have that to live for.
  • The people who make it to the top, the celebrities, the athletes, the movie celebrities; when they finally hit their peak and they’re drowning in cash and they can have anyone they want. These are the people who usually overdose on drugs and commit suicide.[show-notes-breathing]

Why do people reach this point of depression?

  • Because they come to the realization that, hey, I’ve got everything that anyone could ever hope and dream for and yet I’m still feeling empty. What is there left?
  • Then they take their lives because it’s so depressing.
  • When I realized this, I realized my book was completely worthless. Everything I had written is helping them get to the top, but that’s not the whole picture. You’ve missed the point. I remember, I called up my Rabi and I also called up a few of my mentors. I told them that I would need to scrap this book and that it was not the full picture. They all said the same thing.
  • They said, Daniel, you don’t need to scrap the book, you’ve written half the equation, you just need to write the other half.

How does someone become a self help addict?

  • Self help addiction comes from a few things. Number one is doubt. You doubt yourself so what you do is you’re looking for someone and/or some thing that is going to change your life and that doesn’t exist.

What was the biggest thing you learned from writing the book?

  • The fact that things always seem like a big deal until you actually do them. Then they’re not that big of a deal anymore.
  • This book to me was this massive mountain that just went on and on and on. There was not way to conquer it.
  • There was no way to get to the top. It was just this massive beast that I could not capture. I feel like everyone’s got their beast that they’re dealing with. Everyone’s got their mountain that they just can’t seem to overcome.
  • It’s just too big. How to you do it? What I came to realize is, once I hit the publish button, the book came out and I had the printed version in my hand and it’s real.
  • This is not a mountain to me anymore. This is a book. On one hand it’s a big deal and on the other hand it’s not a big deal anymore.

How do mindfulness and self help dovetail?

  • They very much intertwine because if you look at a self-help addict and what happens in the cycle, it’s always the need for more and more information.
  • Mindfulness is just being. Being able to allow what you already know deep down inside to come forward. When you meditate, that is when the most clear and the most incredible ideas come because you’re not taking in information at that point.
  • When you’re meditating, you’re letting go. At that point when you’re able to let go and you lose any type of judgment of yourself, you lose any type of fear.
  • You’re not worried about anything. Your anxiety just drops, so you resume the default position, which is being mindful and being spiritual. When you do that, at that moment in time you break that cycle of needing anything more. You don’t need anything more. You’ve got everything you need.

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"You get that clarity of mind, that clarity of purpose, that vision, that mission and then you awaken from the meditation. The question is what do you do next? If you don’t take action then, you’ve really lost out." Daniel Gefen

Jan 18, 2018
287 Heal Faster With Mindfulness and Electromagnetic Field Therapy; Dr. William Pawluk
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Dr. William Pawluk, MD, MSc, is a medical and holistic doctor who is considered to be the foremost authority on the use of Pulsed Electromagnetic Field Therapy (PEMF) in North America. Dr. Pawluk has been trained in acupuncture, homeopathy, hypnosis, and bodywork. He held positions at Johns Hopkins and the University of Maryland. He is interested in new solutions to stubborn, chronic, frustrating health problems that resolve the cause and not simply put a Band-Aid on the pain. Dr. Pawluk and Dr. Ox both agree that pain management should be focused on healing the cause. holistic pain management. PEMFs provide the most benefit and allow safe, non-toxic, self-directed, self-controlled, at-home pain management.

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Most Influential Person

  • Jon Kabat-Zinn

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has stabilized my emotions. If you practice mindfulness enough, you become aware.
  • I have to say, I know that most doctors are not aware of the impact of what they say to patients and how they present information to their patients. They only want to present information. The information is more important than the presentation.
  • To me, doing mindfulness makes me much more aware of what I think, what I say and how I react to other people. You basically stabilize yourself from an emotional perspective.
  • You cannot ignore your emotions; that's sick too. That's not healthy. What we need to do is recognize them and just let them get washed through us and understand the reason why those emotions happen and what you can do the next time your face it.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • It is almost impossible to do mindfulness unless you breathe. I used to teach meditation as well. The first thing you teach people is to do the breathing.
  • What I found is, the more often you do the breathing, you train the brain. You train the subconscious of your intention.
  • I used to breathe for five or ten minutes to quiet everything down. The more I did it, the less time it took. Now I can basically go into a meditative state with two breaths.

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Bullying Story

  • In my experience, bullying has been an issue all my life. I’m seventy-one years old now. I’ve always had bullying in my life. I was born in a refugee camp in Germany after the second world war. My parents spoke Ukrainian so we were in a sense bullied by the Germans when we lived in this camp. Then we emigrated to Canada.
  • My father had a very thick accent and so we were in a sense bullied; not physically but emotionally and psychologically. We were called DPs. DP stands for Displaced Person.
  • My family came from the Ukraine, because the Germans took them to Germany to work in the factories. But they couldn’t go back to the Ukraine because of the communists. They were essentially people without a country like many refugees are.
  • I wore glasses and was called four eyes. So how did I deal with it? You go quiet. You can get angry, you can strike back, you have that choice. But I was small so there wasn’t too often when I could strike back. I had to learn how to take care of myself. One of the reasons I got glasses is so they wouldn’t hit me in the face. It was a psychological defense mechanism.
  • I was in corporate medicine and I was bullied there. A lot of doctors are bullies among other doctors. There’s a lot of ranking that happens in medicine. Where you went to medical school, where you did your residency, whether you’re a specialist or a general practitioner.
  • You get looked down upon in many ways and you have to learn to deal with this. Mindfulness is just being aware; this person has a problem and I’m not going to go into this problem with them, but I’m just going to accept this because I know who I am. I know what I am and I know where I’m going and what I’m going to do. I’m not wrong and they’re not right. I had that in corporate medicine, I had that in medicine and you have it in your neighborhood and in the streets.
  • Bullying is everywhere. I think it’s a principle of life. You have to learn to deal with people who are trying to impose themselves on us in all kinds of ways. That’s life.
Jan 15, 2018
286 Men - Unleash Your Creative Expression With Emerald Peaceful GreenForest
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Emerald Peaceful GreenForest is an arts visionary. She works with men who have already earned their financial rewards and now they want to make their mark in other ways; in the form of a legacy perhaps. Emerald is founder and lead visionary of The Creative Age Consulting Group. It has been said that Emerald is 'A Voice of Clarity in the Sea of Confusion'. Emerald is also the recipient of a Be the Change Movement To Watch Award. She is the Founding Visionary of ArtWalk Nashua which is now in its thirteenth year.

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Effect on Emotions

  • What I love about the mindfulness practices is what happens with my emotions is, I'm much better able to identify and have awareness when I am feeling something and being able to choose to acknowledge, okay, I'm feeling this right now and also be able to hold myself back one step. Enough to discern; do I need to do anything with this feeling? And be able to make a choice about that rather than be in reaction.
  • I am so much less reactive than I was once upon a some. So much less reactive.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I love breathing. Yoga introduced me to breathing back in 2001. When I was going through the divorce from my first 'was-band'. I was also in my own spiritual awakening at that time. Breathing was absolutely essential. I would sit at my desk with my bully partner and be on the phone with my soon to be X wasband who was also yelling at me about something.
  • I had 'breathe' written in little index cards on my desk and I would just look at the index card.
  • The word 'breathe' is seven letters so I had it written in the seven colors of the rainbow. I would take one breath and just let whatever was going on, go on, while I remembered, oh, I'm going to breathe now. This is important to breathe now.

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Bullying Story

  • I can tell a story about when I was in real estate. Both of my partners were bullies. During that time when we were doing that project, it was like, driving, driving, driving to get it done.
  • There was so much anger and so much dysfunction in the relationship that I had with them. More importantly, the relationship that I had with myself; I simply shut down and tolerated it or I reacted to it and tried to fight the bully or I took it in and then tried to process it at home on my own, feeling like there was something wrong with me and it was my fault and how could I make myself into a pretzel to make this not happen anymore.
  • If I had been well, and at that time I wasn't, the consciousness that I had then was exactly perfect for the time, but the me I am now, if I could go back to the me I was then, I would most definitely equip her with mindfulness tools.
  • I would also whisper into my ear that this is not about you, it is about their stuff. I'd help her to create a sanctuary for herself where, even though that's going on out there, she's clear and healthy.
Jan 11, 2018
285 Visionary Yoga: Beyond Fitness to Conscious Evolution With Mariko Hirakawa
32:53

Mariko Hirakawa is an internationally known Yoga-Ayurveda Expert with over 26 years of teaching experience. She is the founder of Visionary Yoga, a personal development company dedicated to accelerating the growth of motivated individuals and companies. A former professional ballet dancer as well as an Ayurvedic physician trained in India, she is dedicated to positioning Yoga as something far beyond fitness – a technology for human consciousness evolution.

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Most Influential Person

  • My spiritual teacher

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness really stabalized my inner world. With that came much greater confidence. It gives you self-control when you have control of your inner state.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I'm amazed that more dance techniques don't encorporate the breathing. Breath has it's own innate energy. Inhilation is actually called inspiration. Inhiliation is literally receiving new energy from the universe. Exhilation, I call it the liberating breath, the cleansing breath, the releasing breath and for me it's a very under used resource that we all have. It's so close, and yet, because it's always there, we tend to be blind to it. Ancient systems like Yoga, and all of the mystical traditions really, use the breath as a doorway. The more we can be aware of it, moment by moment, I think the more it's enhances our quality of life and the way we show up into life.

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Bullying Story

  • Yes, I have several stories about bullying. When I first came to this country I was nine and a half years old and we were in upstate New York where at that time there were very few ethnic people.
  • I think my sister and I were the only Asian kids in an entire elementary school. It was actually a boom because we got so much attention from the teachers. I think that made a few of the other kids jealous.
  • In the beginning, every morning we had to put our hand on our heart and recite the Pledge of Allegience to the United States of America. Those are some advance words like 'individual', I couldn't pronounce. I phonetically memorized it after a few months.
  • I was just mouthing it and these two kids were sitting across from the table. They were sneering at me and started to push the table towards me saying, 'you don't know what it means, you can't say it'. They started to push me and at that moment I felt so humiliated and helpless.
  • I didn't know how to counter that because ... the teacher was oblivious and so I let it get to me. I just sat there holding my tears back. If it were me now, I probably see that these kids were just acting out of jealousy. Kids can be quite cruel and it's really tough because when you're a child you're not equipped with the level of self awareness and self-confidence that allows you to fight back or to say something. I didn't have the words. I didn't know the language well enough to fight back like that. It was the first experience of being bullied and I was older than these kids because I was demoted two grades because I couldn't speak any English. It was a tough time. I think life gives us experience and it made me more determined to learn English and to work really hard to master the language.

Guest Quote

  • "Everyone's on a different level of evolution." - Mariko Hirakawa
Jan 08, 2018
284 Discover The Better Brain Solution With Dr. Steven Masley
38:56

Dr. Steven Masley motivates people to become healthier, starting with heart and brain health. He's a physician, nutritionist, best-selling author and he's also a chef. Dr. Steven Masley is the creator of the number one health program for public television called, 'Thirty Days To A Younger Heart'. Dr. Masley has recently written 'The Better Brain Solution", which is the first book to show how the brain can become insulin resistant through diet and lifestyle and to make clear how and why this has been directly linked to cognitive decline and memory loss.

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Most Influential Person

  • My step father, Chuck. He had a procedure; and had a massive stroke. I learned what dementia was. It wasn't necessary, he didn't need it. I feel badly to this day that I didn't do more for him earlier on. He said, 'don't let this happen to others'.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness is calming on my emotions. It feels like love and stability in my life when I'm more mindful. When I'm not, I tend to be more anxious and depressed.
  • I'd much rather feel loved and focused than anxious and depressed. That's a lack of mindfulness, is anxiety.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I like taking a deep breath and filling myself with spirit. I even like to, after I stretch and workout in the morning, I like to take a deep breath.
  • I feel like green energy pours into my body when I'm taking a deep breath. When I blow out, I'm just blowing out tension.
  • I use my breath to help me in a kind of meditative, processing way of being more calm and focused. Breath to me is like breathing in spirit.

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Bullying Story

  • I got bullied as a kid. I got beaten up. I got kicked around. It was not pleasant.
  • I can completely sympathize with anyone who has been bullied before. Part of it was just being susceptible. I wasn't being mindful, I wasn't being confident. It wasn't moving with purpose. Preditors picked on me.
  • Do I know what it's like to be bullied? Sadly, yes. I think we've got to stop this.
  • I think the food industry is bullying the American population today, making money off of them and killing them.
  • I think we've got to stand up to that kind of bullying and be mindful and make right choices and not let that happen. Certainly, it's happening to our children.
  • I would say the whole food industry is bullying our kids today too. When I think about it in the context of what it was like to be beaten up as a kid, and now realize what we're doing to other children today, that really gets me going.
  • I think it's time for us to stand up and put a stop to bullying. It's also time to stand up and be mindful about our food choices and not let people feed our kids, junk. And us too. We have to be responsible for ourselves too, and stop eating sugary junk and food with toxins.
  • We have to demand a clean world to live in so we can thrive and feel fantastic and be more productive.
Jan 04, 2018
283 Move Your Integrity To The Next Level With Robert Kandell
29:28

Hailed as “part football coach, part loving dad, and part slightly crazed drill sergeant” Robert Kandell has spent the last sixteen years helping people re-energize their lives and build better relationships through more honest and authentic connection. In 2004, he co-founded OneTaste and took on the challenging task of bringing conscious sexuality to the mainstream market. He built the company from scratch to a high seven-figure international corporation. He left OneTaste in 2014 to start his own Consulting firm helping small businesses become marketable and profitable. Robert is also an accomplished teacher, coach, and lecturer. He brings his enthusiasm and acumen to his weekly podcast, Tuff Love, on subjects around relationships, intimacy, communication and gender dynamics.

Contact Info

  • Website: www.TuffLove.live
  • Podcast: Tuff Love

Most Influential Person

  • My students and my children.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has affected my emotions ... I have them now. Growing up, emotions were secondary. Mindfulness has connected me to my emotions. Emotions are my power. They are my superpower actually, because then I can feel and notice other people.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I've done a lot of sitting meditation in my life and knowing the power breath, also Yoga and the 'suffering' in a hot Yoga class. Ok, find your breath.
  • My ability to pay attention to my breath, connect me to my body and I can slow down and adjust and find the optimal pose.

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Bullying Story

  • I have so many bullying stories. Bullying is something I'm very familiar with. I mentioned I was an overweight kid growing up and I was bullied by my school mates. The bullying ended when I was fourteen or fifteen. Really from ten to fifteen year old, I was bullied.
  • My middle name is Barry and they would call me Barrier  and they would taunt me. For whatever reason kids bully, there was some thing that happened which made me the object of their bullying.
  • In retrospect and in talking to a lot of people who were bullied, and a lot of bullies out there in the world, the main reason they did that was fear and their own lack of disconnection. My opinion is that bullying happened because bullies feel disconnected from their parents, from themselves, and there's some pain in there that needs to be expressed.
  • What they choose is to bully another kid rather than address their own pain. Mindfulness would be for the parents to notice that about their kids. Or even the Principal or school Councils, to notice that about kids and just sit with the bully and not shame them for being a bully. Not shame them for what they do, but get curious and wonder and question and allow that space for that bully kid to be seen and loved and approved of.
  • I think that is the cure for bullying; when we give someone space to speak and relieve their own pain.
Jan 03, 2018
282 Learn To Retain Your Power With Misfit Entrepreneur Host Dave Lukas
38:11

Dave Lukas is an entrepreneur, father, and fitness enthusiast. His successful business, Grasp Technologies got off the ground with what Dave calls, our rag-tag crew of Misfits. Dave realized that we all have an inner misfit, an inner genius, maybe even a hidden genius that is in every single leader, employee, and even you. If only you can unpack that inner Misfit. Around 4 years ago, Dave and his wife traveled to China to meet and bring home their daughter, Hannah Jade. In his own words; it was a surreal and humbling experience. Around the same time, Dave decided to start his own Inner Misfit Podcast, where he would not only interview outstanding individuals with hidden misfit genius, he would also publish episodes where he would directly speak to his daughter, offering advice and wisdom she and others could refer to at any time. Now Dave enjoys life as a grateful, caring father as well as a successful entrepreneur and podcaster.

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Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has effected my emotions in that, I've learned to control my emotions a lot better.
  • When I was younger I used to be very quick-tempered and very quick to react to things. Later I would know that it wasn't the right reaction.
  • So learning to control in the moment (and some of that is your conditioning too), but learned to control in the moment and stop yourself, I have a process I call, "Stop, Ask, Choose". Stop yourself, ask yourself how you want to respond in that situation, and then choose the right path forward.
  • I've conditioned myself to do that in a split second over the years for decisions, so it's made a big difference.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Every morning I have an exercise that I call "My Daily Prime". It takes about ten minutes. I make sure nothing's on, it's dark, I'm by myself, nobody's usually up.
  • So I take the time to center myself, breathing, three or four minutes. Just to breathe in deep and get calm and clear in my head.
  • Then I write the three things I'm grateful for on that day and sometimes they're very deep, and sometimes it's about the beautiful morning, whatever comes to me.
  • From there I write down my "Three To Thrive". Those are my three things that are the most important I can do for the day.
  • For instance for today it was this interview. I wanted to make the most out of it for you and for your audience and to be present.
  • Then I end it with some deep breaths and visioning for the day, what I'm going to accomplish and then I get started.

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Bullying Story

  • Bullying is an interesting thing. It's hard to answer that question now because of what I've learned over the years. It's like anything; you choose whether something affects you or not.
  • This is from a mental standpoint; from a physical standpoint it is a completely different thing. If somebody's punching you in the face every day, that's a different thing.
  • The key is to understand that you're only affected by the things you let yourself be effected by. You have that control. The minute you seed that control to someone, a bully, anyone, then you lose your power and you give it up.
  • It's naturally yours, for you as an individual.
  • With that being said, I do have an interesting story.
  • Early on, when I was in Kindergarten or first grade, in my neighborhood there was another boy who was bigger than me. His older brother rode the bus every day.
  • When we got off the bus, his brother would make us fight. The interesting thing was, that myself and the other boy had been friends because we went to the same pre-school together.
  • Everyday he would make us fight and we would go round and round in circles and it was kind of the older brother who was the bully on both of us, making us fight. We did that for some time.
  • We were actually best friends. He was the best man at my wedding.
  • From a mindfulness standpoint, if we had both banded together and stood up to the brother and had the wherewithall and the mindfulness, the emotional intelligence to say, 'we're going to choose not to do this and you can't make us'.
  • There was really nothing he could have done. That would have ended it pretty fast and he wouldn't have done that any more.
  • That's an example of what I could have done if I had had that emotional intelligence or awareness and being conscious in that way to make a difference. You can use that across any situation as you get older. It happens in business a lot too.
  • People try to throw their weight around. We deal with some of the largest corporations in the world and when it comes to negotiating things, they're a big company. So this is how it's going to be.
  • It takes a lot of courage to say, that is not how we work, so that's not how it will be or we're not going to do business together. I think people respect that, if it's done tactfully and done in the right way.
Dec 28, 2017
281 Get Some Good With Good Radio Network Founder, Frankie Picasso
30:26

Frankie Picasso is an International SocialPreneur, Talk Show Host, and Champion for Change who has been transforming lives and influencing culture for the past 30 years. Professionally, she is a Certified Life, Business and Master Coach Trainer, Author, Artist, Activist and Philanthropist in training, who just happens to specialize in the Impossible! As the founder of The Good Radio Network, (TGRN) Frankie is the host of Mission Unstoppable Radio, FrankieSense & More Radio. Everything that Frankie is involved in, has Social Impact built in. TGRN is one vehicle for social impact and her artwork is another. As a professional Artist, Frankie’s paintings have been featured in the International Book of Contemporary Artists Volume 6 and can be found on Fine Art America, Frankie’s book Midlife Mojo won her recognition and the Finalist WINNER award as one of the “50 Great Writers you should be Reading in 2015!” She is also a Huffington post contributor, and a member of the Women’s Economic Council and the Evolutionary Business Council.

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Most Influential Person

  • My dad
  • Nigel Varty (Mountain Climber)

Effect on Emotions

  • I've learned to respond versus react. I learn to ask myself, who am I? In that I get to create the person I want to be in the world.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I'm not very good at it. I try to do the slow breathing. I don't know why I don't want to take a full breath. I'm lazy.
  • I have tried all the mindfulness techniques of breathing. Especially as a hypnotherapist I learn all these things.
  • I do try to take that earth breath. When you need to get calm, I take this big earth breath; in for seven and out for ten. It does ground you. That is a good technique. I think it's a Hawaiian technique.

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Bullying Story

  • I've got two stories. I'm going to tell you a story from a female perspective.
  • I bullied myself and it wasn't until maybe five years ago that I realized. I remember one day when I was so mean to myself; my thoughts were so mean.
  • I screamed at myself out loud to 'stop it'. I said, 'you would never say that to anyone else. Why are you saying that to you? I know you would never, ever say those words to anyone else, living or dead, so stop it.'
  • I think especially woman, as it relates to our bodies, we are very cruel to ourselves. We give ourselves cruel messages all the time and we need to stop doing it. The only way to do that is to be mindful and to hear the words that we're saying. It stopped. Now when they come up, I say, no, no, no.
  • When you stop and you hear your thought and you go, do I believe that? We don't often question our beliefs.
  • As coaches, that's one of the first things we do with people. We say, what do you believe. In the spiritual terms and the law of attraction, what you believe is what shows up in your life. If you don't have the things that you think you want, it's because you don't believe in them. That's another story.
  • That's a really interesting way to look at bullying, but we do bully ourselves. The second story is, I was married to an abusive alcoholic. He was abusive emotionally and physically. He was a bully.
  • He was my second husband. He wasn't my children's dad. If I were to kiss my boys goodnight, he would call them girls. That is a form of bullying.
  • When it got so bad that I thought my oldest would get between us and hit him, I just stopped that right in it's tracks because I was afraid that he would have a record (my son) and he would never be able to do what he wanted to do in his life.
  • Second Story. After my accident and I was in the hospital, I had a lawyer and he was extremely mean to me.
  • This is a story about how I learned to respond instead of react. He would have me in tears, he would send me nasty letters.
  • I thought, wait a minute, you work for me. It was a big case and he was crazy, but I had a really good friend who had the same lawyer and he was so nice to him. I thought, why is he so mean to me? Does he not like girls? What is it?
  • Eventually, he got fired, but I learned that I didn't have to accept that. I learned that I could choose not to open those letters. I could choose to do things that made me feel better.
  • I want everyone to know that that's your choice. You can choose to react or you can choose to respond.
Dec 25, 2017
280 Focus on Health First Says Organik Founder Scott Simons
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Scott is an Ecopreneur meaning he puts people, purpose and the planet before profit. Scott’s mission is to inspire a daily practice of health. To fulfill this mission, he created three social businesses. In 2004, he co-founded the Padua Centre, a community wellness. In 2006, he cofounded DESTA Black Youth Network, helping marginalized youth aged 18 to 25 get back on track. In 2006, Scott founded Organik a wellness broker company. Scott is also a yoga teacher, personal trainer and health coach since 2006. According to Scott, his greatest source of inspiration is found in his daily practice of health.

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Most Influential Person

  • Steve Sims / Jon Kabat-Zinn

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness helps calm down my emotions. It's hard to slow down the reaction. The reaction is always going to be there, we want it to be there; the fight or flight.
  • Mindfulness has created a bit more space between the reaction and the response. Initially it went from one second to [longer].
  • Now if someone cuts me off on the highway, I can see the emotion come up. Emotions are beautiful, it's just how we deal with them that's the problem or the solution.
  • I'll see the anger coming up and I'll choose my reaction much more now. I used to be much more reactive and I could get mad very quickly.
  • I could be explosive at times but now I've calmed that down and created the space between the reaction and the response.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • The foundation to optimal health is breathing and more specifically conscious breathing. We breathe about 20,000 times a day. How many of those are unconscious?
  • Really, the link between relaxation and stress is one conscious breath. I'd say, at the foundation of my meditation practice, and even before that, is the breath practice. It's to just catch myself in any situation. It's pretty much the informal meditation practice.
  • When I'm driving, I'll come back to the breath. When meeting with a client or in my yoga classes I'll come back to the breath as much as possible. Just to know that I'm responding from there and not reacting from the ego.
  • The breath is the most effective tool to tame the ego, to tame the mind. Instead of that mind being an enemy, or a mean voice in your head, it can become your ally, your best friend, your consultant.

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Bullying Story

  • I was born in Quebec City, a very French city. I only learned French when I was thirteen. I knew a bit of French, but I went from English elementary school, to French high school.
  • Back then, being the English kid and coming from a big English family, I was an easy target to laugh at with my French accent.
  • I never got bullied in terms of physicalness but in terms of laughing at my language, that happened a lot. It would really get me to react in the beginning. I would take it very personally.
  • It took me years before I learned not to take my French accent personally. Now I just accept it and I speak much better French.
  • In the beginning, that's where people would pick on me the most. Normally the bullying would make me more more shy and I wouldn't speak as much. Sports really helped me out.
  • I got really good in basketball and I got more and more friends. I got more respect through the sports and people wouldn't laugh at me as much. I was six foot three [inches] and a bit taller than the others so I could defend myself. I think with the practice of getting better and better at French, as people were getting to know me they didn't pick on me as much. In the beginning, it wasn't super rough but it wasn't an easy ride either.
Dec 21, 2017
279 Do More With Less; Discover The Simple Life With Courtney Carver
27:25

Courtney Carver is an advocate for the simple life. She says, we are often on a quest for more; we give in to pressure every day to work more, own more, and do more. For Courtney, this constant striving had to come to a stop when she was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis (MS). Stress was like gasoline on the fire of symptoms, and it became clear that she needed to root out the physical and psychological clutter that were the source of her debt and discontent. Courtney shows us how to pursue practical minimalism so we can create more with less—more space, more time, and even more love. Carver invites us to look at the big picture, discover what’s most important to us, and reclaim lightness and ease by getting rid of all the excess things.

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Most Influential Person

  • My daughter.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has encouraged me to under-react, which has been a game-changer.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I use breathing for everything. When I breathe during meditation practices, I breathe in traffic. I breathe intentionally when I have MRI's to check my brain out. It just helps me slow everything down.

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Bullying Story

  • I feel really grateful that, while growing up, I didn't experience any bullying and in most of my relationships, not.
  • I was married in my twenties for seven years and there was a lot of bullying. It was a really bad situation for a long time and mindfulness wasn't part of my life then and neither was simplicity.
  • I was really stressed out and I know for a fact that I could have handled things differently. I don't think I would have over-reacted or reacted the way that I did in certain situations and I would have known myself better, had I been more mindful.
  • I wouldn't have thought that, the things my exhusband would say about me or accuse me of, I would know that wasn't about me, that was about him.
  • I wouldn't have tried to change myself to be someone different to fit. Instead I would have just not reacted and let him change or walk away.
  • Instead I really tried to hold on, to fix myself. I really took everything he said to heart and now I can look back and say, it had nothing to do with me.
  • It could have been anyone in that situation and it still wouldn't have worked out.
Dec 18, 2017
278 The Unified Mindfulness Approach with Julianna Raye
37:17

Julianna co-founded and runs UnifiedMindfulness.com. With 17 years of experience, she has trained thousands of people in groups and individually. Julianna was drawn to mindfulness 20 years ago, to manage severe anxiety and depression as well as the dramatic emotional ups and downs of life as a professional singer/songwriter. With over 100 weeks of immersive silent retreat training in both mindfulness and zen, Julianna has racked up 12,000 plus hours of formal practice time, rewiring her brain and creating a new normal for herself. The result is exponential growth and the ability to truly be of service to her clients.

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Most Influential Person

  • Shinzen Young (A monk)

Effect on Emotions

  • It accentuates the positive, makes me a much happier person, and its made me much more able to process challenging emotions when they come up. So I'm much more resilient overall.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • The breath is a place that is often a good place for people to start.
  • In fact, at the very beginning, before I was introduced to Shinzen, breath was the first place I started.
  • I focused on the tip of the nose, but I like to teach people how anything at all can be a focus in meditation, because that frees people up.
  • What we want is to motivate people. We want them to get engaged in this practice.
  • So, I like to introduce people to a technique that right off the bat shows them how they can focus on anything.
  • As long as they're developing skills of concentration, clarity, and equanimity, they are practicing mindfulness and are getting those benefits that research has shown they can get.

Suggested Resources

  • Book: The Science of Enlightenment: How Meditation Works by Shinzen Young
  • App: Brightmind

Bullying Story

  • I was bullied as a kid. When I was about twelve an incident happened where these two boys decided that I had done something at a birthday party, that I had said something that got someone into trouble.
  • They decided that I needed to be punished for that. So for a month or two after that, every time they saw me in the halls, they would kick me as hard as they could.
  • I was terrified. I changed my pattern so that I could avoid them. I rearranged the whole pattern of where I was going. To get from class A to class B, instead of just going up the stairs, I would go down to the basement and around, so I would miss the boys kicking me.
  • I would go to school everyday and would think about the fact that I was going to have to see these boys. I really felt terrorized by them.
  • The day that it finally shifted, was the day that I shifted. I dropped into a natural state that shifted everything.
  • These [mindfulness] skills are naturally occuring. We all know what it's like to be in a heightened state of mindfulness. We've all had some kind of peak experience where there's a level of clarity there.
  • Where we're deeply absorbed, we're concentrating fully. We have a sense of harmony or we have a sense of willingness for things to be as they are and that's the overriding experience.
  • All we're saying with mindfulness is that you can strengthen that. You can experience it with greater regularity and greater depth.
  • Looking back on that event [with the bullies], there came this moment where I didn't run from it any more. I became willing to turn toward it and I remember vividly.
  • I chose the route where I knew I was going to pass them because it was the shortest route to my class and I didn't want to run anymore so I started up the steps.
  • As they were coming toward me, I saw this kid, Bert. He was gearing up to kick me as hard as he could. I found myself saying, "ok you wanna kick me? Go ahead, kick me."
  • In that moment he was totally nonplussed. He stopped and he never did it again. It was because of the way I went into it. I just went into it with an absolute fierce willingness that I was not going to be intimidated and that I was going to stand my ground.
  • So whatever came out of my mouth, (go ahead and kick me), that wasn't the point. The point was that I managed to fully embrace where I was at and that strength of anchoring myself in my complete willingness. It just blew him out of the water.
Dec 14, 2017
277 Managing Stage Fright with Mindfulness; Julie Jaffee Nagel
33:58

Dr. Julie Jaffee Nagel is a psychotherapist and psychoanalyst. As a concert pianist with two degrees from the Juilliard School of Music in New York City, Dr. Nagel repeatedly experienced stage fright and performance stress.   She eventually decided to gain a more thorough understanding of what interfered with doing what she loved and was trained to do. That’s when she returned to school at The University of Michigan and graduated with degrees in Social Work and a Ph.D. in psychology. Now she has treated hundreds of individuals and helped them discover and peel back their barriers to feeling competent so that they can pursue and fulfill their professional and personal dreams. Dr. Nagel has recently published a book called, Managing Stage Fright: A Guide for Musicians and Music Teachers.

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Most Influential Person

  • My Grandfather

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has helped me understand myself and feel good with myself despite some of the harsh winds that have blown and will continue to blow. I can go inside my mind.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing simmers me down; deep breathing, slow breathing. Thinking about the breathing and trying to know that I have resources in myself and that breathing will simmer me down when I'm boiling over.

Suggested Resources

Bullying Story

  • Stage fright is a bully in itself. Stage fright is a bully that makes competent people feel like they're incompetent. I think bullies tend to do that.
  • Whatever we can do; whatever technique or therapy works for an individual to help build a strong sense of self and self-esteem so that these bullies, whether they come from inside your mind or from some person at school or at work, that we can withstand that because we have a sense of self that says, I'm not going to allow myself to be treated that way.
  • I'm not buying into what you're saying about me. I think that mindfulness; if you can think of yourself as successful and competent.
  • It's kind of like developing a sensitivity to, that's not my problem, that's the bully's problem and then to be able to speak up and find help whether you're a child or an adult.
  • If you can't simmer yourself down to the point that you do believe in yourself, then hopefully you can find someone who can help you.
  • I think stage fright is a giant bully that can undermine the more competent, talented, prepared person. We can help innoculate people to dealing with that kind of a bully.

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Dec 11, 2017
276 Bottom-Line Success Using Mindfulness with Leadership Expert Susan Blais
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Susan Blais is a leadership coach on a mission to transform the world of work one leader at a time. She made the long climb from receptionist to CEO of a billion-dollar division of a Fortune 100 company over 26 years in the health insurance industry. She helps leaders understand and implement the critical balance between relationships and results, so they can unleash their people's talents to achieve bottom-line success and fulfillment for all.

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Most Influential Person

  • Roy Masters

Effect on Emotions

  • It has leveled them out. I can be radically up and down and all around and I have, because of that practice, been able to get much more centered and calm. The highs and lows are more moderate instead of crazy.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Because I tend to do everything quickly, in the old days I would want to skip the warmup and go right to the workout. I think, oh yeah, breathing.
  • I have come to appreciate how powerful it really is and that's one of the techniques I use with my clients when they start getting upset.
  • I say, let's take a minute here and take a couple of deep breaths. It's amazing how the simple act of taking a quiet calm breath or two or three can change your whole outlook.

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Opening Quote

  • You can go into that refuge and have a place of calm so that no matter what life throws at you, you can handle it with grace, with calm, and with quiet. - Susan Blais

Bullying Story

  • One of the CEO's that I worked for; it was one of those situations where I was the golden girl for the first few months that I came in and I was doing all these amazing things.
  • I was brought in to start a new division and was making great gains and doing all kinds of wonderful things and at a certain point I crossed him by inadvertently telling the truth to the chairman of the board when I guess I was supposed to massage the message a little bit in a different way and I saw it happen.
  • I thought to myself, uh oh, I'm in trouble. And from that day on, for the next two years, he bullied me horribly, doing things like: embassassing me, calling me out in front of my team, having conference calls with my peers, and just treating me as if I was an idiot. All kinds of things like that where it was just miserable.
  • That kind of behavior destroys people. Unfortunately, it really does. It really bothered me. I was going to quit but then fortunately the company was acquired and I got to cash out in a much more positive way.
  • But I was going to leave because I realized that I was not being my best. If you bully people, and try to beat them down; guess what? Their performance goes down. It's like, we're going to beat people into success? That doesn't work very well.
  • I definitely used elements of mindfulness during those years to keep myself strong. I used my Roy Masters meditation; you can do it in seven minutes. I would do it several times a day.
  • I'd have to go into my office and calm down, because I would be upset coming from a meeting with him where I had just had my head beaten in, figuratively, and now I'm going to meet with my team. So I've got to get myself together.
  • I'd go into my office for a few minutes and calm down, get myself back on center and then go out to them.
  • That's another critical thing that happens in organizations is, you have the waterfall. It starts at the top, the head person beats on the next level, and they beat on the next level, and they beat on the next level.
  • I used to literally have an image of an umbrella and I would say, "no, it stops here. I don't care what you do to me, I'm not going to treat my people that way."
  • I always treated my people well. We had our own little corner of the world that was fun and functioning and positive. But that took a lot of effort and mindfulness to do that because I would have to bring myself back to center before I interacted with them again.
Dec 07, 2017
275 Love-Based Business Explained by Author, Michele (PW) Pariza Wacek
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Michele PW (Pariza Wacek) is the best-selling author of the "Love-Based Business" series of books that share how to sell more with love and build a solid, profitable business on a foundation of love. In addition, she owns a copywriting and marketing company along with writing and publishing fiction. To grab your free book "How to Start a Business You Love AND That Loves You Back," visit LoveBasedBiz.com

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Most Influential Person

  • Christina Rio, My Spiritual Mentor

Effect on Emotions

  • Because of mindfulness, the vast majority of the time I feel inner peace. It's like a contented feeling. Sometimes fear-based emotions will come up and sometimes I'm also full of happy or joy. For the most part, mindfulness has allowed me to live my life in an even keel where I feel peaceful and contented. I think that's what a lot of people would like.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • So many of us do shallow breathing. The problem with those shallow chest breathings is that it's not very good for your physiology. Focus on the belly breath. Even just putting your hands there gives you something else to focus on. It's a lot better for you as you go through it.

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Bullying Story

  • I was horribly bullied as a child. In elementary school, in middle school, and even my first job I was bullied. It was both boys and girls, mostly girls though.
  • My boss was a woman who was really bad about it. Yes, I do think knowing mindfulness would have helped. You can actually change your environment when you change yourself. I know that my reaction caused it to get worse.
  • If I had simply just stood there and didn't react to what they were doing, they would have left me alone. That's what the key is. They were preying off me crying and getting more upset and off of me just not knowing what to do.
  • That's where they're getting their power from. If you don't give them the reaction they're looking for, then they have no power over you and they likely will find somewhere else to go. Because I had such a strong 'only-child'. My mom didn't go to a lot of play dates. This is absolutely not my mom's faulth.
  • I don't remember having friends my age until I was older, school-age, like five, six, seven. I know I had trouble dealing with social situations. I think that's what made me a target.
  • Over the years I learned how to read social situations better. I slowly learned how not to put myself in the situation where bullying would happen.
Dec 04, 2017
274 Mind, Body, and Spirit With Fibernetics Co-Founder John Stix
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John Stix is a transformation specialist. John co-founded Fibernetics; the 5th largest telecommunications company in Canada. He has implemented a holistic shift in culture, strategy and values-based actions within the company. John credits his personal transformation with enabling him to lead his company through a significant shift in mentalities.

John’s success with workplace culture and helping others discover the same journey for themselves, has led him to consulting and speaking across the world. While continuing to lead his organization and build several others, John has delivered keynote speeches at venues from private insurance firms to a group on behalf of the White House.

John witnessed the positive change that occurred within his own company when he decided to focus on unity, teamwork, empathy, happiness and gratitude. After introducing his “I’M IN™” corporate initiative, John received the Best Employer Branding award in 2015 from the Canadian Human Resources Association and was also a finalist for Leader of the Year.

As an entrepreneur, John has been a visionary, thought leader and mentor taking start-ups to enterprise level organizations and figuring out innovative ways to keep all employees highly engaged, through all stages of growth and transformation. John’s most recent venture as president of KidsWifi, is allowing him to transform the way parents view the internet and to protect kids globally while online. John’s plan to deeply care and empower employees and allow them to be their true selves, not only translated into a passion, but to happiness. Happiness then led to productivity and productivity led to the results.

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Most Influential Person

  • Jody Schnarr (My business partner and best friend since I was sixteen.)

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has allowed me to be able to understand what deeply matters to me because mindfulness to me is connected to the inward journey. Without living inward, how can you find out what truly matters to you?
  • It’s almost like, over time we’re become numb within all of the pattern and busyness that we think is living. That’s through no fault of who we are, that’s society, it’s busy. It’s going to be for the rest of my life and I think for all of us for the rest of our lives.
  • Mindfulness for me has allowed me to feel what truly matters to myself as an individual more and have the confidence and understanding on how to process those feelings and communicate them and live my life within them.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • When I practice prayer, (my own ways of being mindful), that peaceful area and then focusing on the peace inside me, my breathing changes. Throughout the day, if you really could look at your breathing, I think it’s safe to say we all shallow breathe. We’re breathing rapid, not deep.
  • I notice that when I enter into a really peaceful, mindful state, my lungs fill up. I’m not even planning for it. I breathe deeper. I feel wholistically more relaxed.
  • Sometimes I use breathing techniques to try to center back to breathing. I think breathing and mindfulness is so connected. There’s tremendous anxious wisdom embedded within all of the yoga teachings and yogi teachings.
  • Breathing techniques and understanding the power and importance of proper breathing seems to be incredibly important.

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Bullying Story

  • Being bullied comes in so many different forms. Sometimes the verbal accusations can be so terrible.
  • I remember as a young boy, not confident in who I was, like any young child trying to figure out their place within schools. I moved around a lot.
  • At the one school I was going to, I remember this one individual for whatever reason didn’t like me and wanted to focus on me as an individual that they thought they could bully me.
  • If I would have known more of these types of thoughts of how I could take time to be in a state of peace or to try to find these centering moments, even as a younger boy. I think a lot of this stuff, mindfulness techniques, but also the understanding that for children, their own way of mindfulness is important so that they don’t feel intimidated by techniques.
  • That would have gone a long way to helping me stay in a peaceful state through these sets of experiences.
  • I believe within mindfulness you can also think of a tremendous amount of solutions to your problems. Because you’re in a peaceful state and your mind works much better in that peaceful state.
  • That would have helped me try to figure out as a young boy, how I can also come up with solutions to help me understand the problem I was in. Thankfully what happened was, love ended up dominating that and we became friends. A peaceful state ended up emerging from what was looking to be a terrible state.
Nov 30, 2017
273 Vaginal Therapy; The Ultimate Mindfulness With Sophia Wise One
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Sophia Wise One is an expert in the field of vagina therapy. She's also the creator of the skill building, 'I Love My Life' card game and Oracle Deck. Sophia is fiercely passionate about helping her clients find and express their true self so they can discover their inner wisdom. Sophia has done bodywork for twenty years and has worked as a certified Holistic Pelvic Care Provider Tm, Reiki Master and LMT - Child mystic & shamanic practitioner. Sophia Wise One can help you move through pain, blocks, trauma, stagnation, and difficult transitions to find healing, creative renewal, embodiment, and juicy living on the other side. She is always asking, “Who would you be if you were truly yourself?”

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  • Website: www.SophiaWiseOne.com
  • Instagram / LinkedIn / Twitter: @SophiaWiseOne
  • Podcast: Vagina Talks (To be launched soon)

Most Influential Person

  • Larry Ward (Peggy and Larry Ward are two Dharma teachers)

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has resulted in my ability to feel my feelings. I used to weep and when I would weep three to five times a day, that is what I would refer to as a motive dissociation, a hyperactive dissociation, like a hyper shutdown dissociation.
  • I would leave my body while I was weeping and screaming. Mindfulness and the practice of really being with what's happening has brought me into an experience of actually feeling my body, feeling my feelings, which allows them to come and go.
  • It allows me to actually have a peace inside me that I thought people were lying about happiness and peace; that inside space. On the hardest days now, there's a peace and a happiness that's grateful to be here, even if I'm sad and exhausted and vulnerable.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is a part of everything. It's just like, in - out. Meet the space in between. Like in - meet the space, the turning point. We're inhaling life force, we're exhaling life force. We're creating life force and we're birthing life force. The breath is the energy, is the life force. We're either actively in the flow or we're fighting with being and existence. Just recently I got in one of those edgy, not pretty patterns. I was screaming and crying and I couldn't get my breath. I watched myself. I watched my stubbornness not want to breathe. I watched my stubbornness want to hold my breath. I said, ok, you know what stubbornness. You can be stubborn but I'm still going to breathe.

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Bullying Story

  • I was blessed with some beautiful education while growing up, so I was made fun of. I've been the weirdo my whole life, even amongst a hippy school. They said she is even weirder than the rest of us. So I got called a lot of names: a freak, a weirdo, etc. In high school, my best friends would make fun of me, but they were funny so I would laugh and then they got mad at me. I'd say I don't mind being the butt of a joke. So there were elements of bullying and there was shrinking there that happened. I'm also really blessed because I had a lot of mindfulness in a lot of those circumstances and had a lot of compassion for the people picking on me.
  • The real answer that I want to share with you. I was my worst bully. I was probably about 20, I had dropped out of college school. I had followed my hands to massage and become a bodyworker.
  • I was weeping anywhere from two to five times a day. I had just found out that I was in the process of tracking and kind of getting in the process of managing my PMDD. Somehow I found myself in a meditation and I went to visit my inner child and there she was. It was just an empty space and there was this little girl in a corner and she was very upset and I went to walk towards her and she was pulled away from me really hard.
  • I looked at her and she was bloody. It was terrible. I was standing there in this vision and I said, 'who did this to you?' What happened? She wouldn't look at me. She wouldn't turn towards me at all. I looked down in my vision and I was standing on a pile of bricks and every time that little girl asked me for something, I would throw a brick at her.
  • Every time she said that something hurt or that she needed something, or she was scared, I would say, stop it, you're the problem, go away. It was so clear that this innocent, sweet being, who just didn't want to be hurt by the world or by the person I was dating or by family patterns. Anything she asked for, I just begged her to go away and would scream and throw things.
  • So I started a practice right then and there and it took a couple of weeks, but every day I would go back to this vision. From right at that moment, I said, I didn't know I was doing this. I would never do this on purpose. I can't believe I'm that person, but I am. No one else is here and you're terrified of me.
  • And so I stepped away from the bricks and I said I didn't know, but now I know and I won't do it again. I understand that you're mad at me. So I went every day in my vision and say to her; I'm here and I'm sorry and I'm not going to do it again and I'm just listening. Slowly she softened and I would say just four or five days of going back to her and pleading my case, but giving her space. I  always had that image of beauty and the beast when she's cleaning the wounds. The rag and the bucket.
  • She came towards me and I said please let me tend these wounds. I know I  created them, but please let me tend them. So I cleaned the blood off her arms and then I would bring this balm, healing oils, and I cleaned her up and I would balm the wounds.
  • She wouldn't talk, but she would let me do that. Then about two weeks later, I would go and the wounds were starting to heal and she started to talk. She talked the way that kids talk. I'd asked her serious and sometimes playful questions and she would answer.
  • Then slowly the wounds healed and she began to play. The bricks were gone and she would come and sit with me. I would go and do this journey and we had to come up with a new system. I said, if I'm not paying attention to you, you've got to pull on my skirt. That's my most powerful bully story.
Nov 27, 2017
272 Mental Resilience Using Mindfulness Explained By Sean Douglas
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Sean Douglas is a U.S. Air Force Veteran, Master Resilience Implementer, Professional Speaker, International Radio Show Host, Performance Enhancement Expert, and Author, with almost 10,000 of speaking and training time. He inspires and motivates you to “Live Your Brand” so you can grow personally and professionally. Millennials to 50 year old Professionals hire Sean to teach them Mental, Physical, Social/Emotional, Spiritual Resilience Skills that empower them to withstand, recover,and grow through adversity, stress, and life's changing demands in a highly interactive and engaging environment, utilizing online coaching sessions and face-to-face workshops. Sean equips people with the tools necessary to live EPIC lives, and leaves people better equipped to manage change effectively.

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  • Website: www.TheSuccessCorps.com
  • Facebook.com/TheSuccessCorps or Facebook.com/SeanDouglasSpeaks
  • LinkedIn: Sean Douglas
  • Podcast: Life Transformation Radio

Most Influential Person

  • Julianna Raye

Effect on Emotions

  • I know when I start getting anxious, scared, happy I literally feel those emotions and I know those emotions are coming up. I can feel myself getting mad. I am more in tune with my body.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is huge. When I smoked, I used to say that smoking was a stress reliever. What do they tell you in stress relieving class? They tell you to go take a ten second break, breathe in, breathe out. I would say, that's what I'm doing when I'm smoking.
  • Breathing is so important because the more oxygen you get to your brain, there's a lot of science behind the breathing technique.

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Bullying Story

  • I'm a maintainer on the F15. Some things that we do are funny so we think. We are really tight knit, like we are brother and sisterhood and we treat it as that. This is our family. We will defend you forever and we will pick on you like brothers and sisters.
  • What we'll do is we'll take young airmen and we'll say, we have this crack in the intake of the airplane. We just found it and we need you to come and look and see what we see so you can learn. When we pull back the intake cover, we ... (listen to hear more of Sean's story).
Nov 23, 2017
271 Celebrity Intimacy Expert Shares Mindfulness Secrets; Allana Pratt
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Allana Pratt is an intimacy expert who inspires her clients to be unapologetically true to themselves, their love-lives and their businesses. Featured on CBS, TLC and Fox, this cum laude graduate of Columbia is the author of 4 books, Coach to celebrities and Host of the sexy empowering show, "Intimate Conversations Live."

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Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has helped to balance my emotions and equilibrate them rather than have them run me. So I'm not afraid of them. I sit in the fire and take the ride with them, knowing that if I don't resist them, on the other side is wisdom, is a lesson.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I like to imagine I'm making love with the universe. I'm having sex all day long. The mindfulness breath practice is making love to the universe so I, with my inhale, allow myself to be penetrated by the universe and feel how delicious and tantalizing that is on the inhale and then I give the universe my essence. I penetrate the universe with me as I exhale and I just feel my posture changing and I smile from the inside out.

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Bullying Story

  • All the bullies are deeply inside. They've been wounding that little you, internally. They've been bullied on the outside so there's no place safe to go in or out and then they just react. If you can get them to be present & mindful and let them feel seen and heard.
  • You don't have to agree that it's ok to hit Joey, but you can acknowledge and validate  your stand from their point of view. They have every right to feel that way and you get it.
  • You're not here to fix them, just to get them. Something really deep happens inside. You exhale all the way to that safe place that we've all been looking for. On the outside, seeking, seeking we can find it on the inside.
  • My bullying story is, I was a people pleaser growing up. My dad was drunk and stoned and I just wanted to make sure I didn't get in trouble so I grew up as a young woman not speaking my truth.
  • I attracted my dad to heal my wounds. So he was a bully; my son's father. I just put up with everything, just so that he wouldn't yell and scream at me.
  • That was his way of controlling me and my way of letting myself be controlled. We got a divorce within one year when I discovered he was not who I thought he was.
  • I took total ownership that when I chose to marry him, my mom was dying and I wasn't very mature or enlightened and I just wanted a checkbook, pulse, sperm. I just wanted to replace the relationship that I was losing.
  • I know that's not very kind or enlightened, but that was the best I could do at the time, feeling so sad. So within a year, I didnt' chose somebody great, but I have a great son. As time went on, he just wouldn't stop fighting with me.
  • I guess from his point of view, you said forever. And I stopped after a year. To him, his point of view must have been humiliation and rejection.
  • So his anger and his bullying came after me and of course I'm just triggering his mother or his past. Our son said, I want to kill myself at nine years old. I can't handle the fighting that non-stop happens with you and dad.
  • I had done every non-violent communication course. Every therapist, every counseller, everything you could think of. Until I realized, wait a minute, he doesn't want to get along with me. He loves to fight.
  • So I let my son live with his dad primarily for six months, just to see. Let him win. Let him look good. Let him be father of the year. I'll sacrifice my time to save my son. But he took it and he used it against me to say that I was a flakey, unstable mom and that I had abandoned him.
  • And he won after almost five years in court of trying to fight for the truth. I'm unconventional. I'm an entrepreneur.
  • I don't have a PHd, but I coach people and I talk about sex. So he painted this horrible picture with this old school, archaic family law and jury system and he won seventy percent custody and I got thirty. He humiliated my career. The bullying never stopped. My mindfulness practice, even up to this very day.
  • Right now he's convinced my son that I'm horrible and selfish and so my son's living with him and has blocked my from the phone and I have no contact with my son. I'm literally in the midst of a bullyng moment.
  • But this becomes our mindfulness practice. How can I still have compassion, not condoning, but have compassion for why he's behaving that way. Because I believe that bullying is ultimately a reflection of the inside.
  • Where is my unloved part of me? Where can I love myself more? Where can I be more in allowance and look past the anger coming at me to the wounded heart, to the cry for love?
  • Everything's ultimately a cry for love so I'm doing my inner work to take responsibility that I didn't marry him for a deep commitment and love.
  • I was scared and really own that and apologize so that I don't get emotionally triggered by his behavior and i just be that grounded, present, mindful person that allows this whole lesson to unfold and keep growing and not be that bitter ex-wife bitch who blames. That's not going to get us anywhere nor teach my son any good lessons either.

 

Nov 20, 2017
270 Your Teen CAN Make Mindful Career Decisions; Crystal Olivarria
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Crystal Olivarria raised over $70,000 from grants and scholarships to help pay for her own college education at two private colleges; The Fashion Institute of Design and Merchandising in San Francisco and Holy Names University in Oakland, California. Crystal has helped others get into their top chosen college, generate money via grants and scholarships and get hands on experience in their related career field. Crystal provides a safe space to explore options in depth while providing guidance that result in children being able to reach their full potential more easily.

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  • My dad. He always taught me to be creative and resourceful. To be resourceful, you have to be mindful of what resources you have and basically how scarce they are.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has made me very aware. It's helped me understand people better because I've noticed my emotions go like this all the time based upon whether I ate, whether I didn't eat, whether I got enough sleep, whether I didn't.
  • Just being really mindful to myself about how I'm feeling, how things are affecting me makes me think about other people when I come in contact with them. Maybe they're having a really bad day and I don't know what they went through.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Whenever I feel like I'm going to have a breakdown, I just remember to breathe. As a kid I used to cry a lot when things weren't going my way. People would say, take a deep breath. Before anything can get better you need to breathe. That's step one and even as an adult I remember that. No matter now things are going, the first step is to take a deep breath.

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Bullying Story

  • I've been on both sides of it. I will definitely say I've been in school and I know what it's like to be harassed and tell and teacher and the teacher not believe you.
  • I've also realized that a lot of times, bullies are emotionally weak and they're struggling and the way they can raise their self-esteem is to pick on someone else.
  • I know when I was in high school, I used to watch this girl being bullied and a lot of it was verbal. They were constantly putting her down no matter what. She was quiet and lonely. So she thought, they want to be my friends and the conversation would start out nice and then would go into this downward spiral.
  • One day I asked her why she was letting these kids bully her. She didn't know what to say. She said, I don't know what to do.
  • So I stepped up and ended up being a bully back to these other girls, just to give them a taste of their own medicine. It didn't matter what they said. I just had this attitude of, I'm rubber, you're glue, whatever you say bounces off of me and sticks to you. It really surprised them because they weren't used to having someone hold them accountable for how mean they were. Fortunately, they never bullied the girl again.

 

Nov 16, 2017
269 NLP Explained by iNLP Center Founder Mike Bundrant
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Mike Bundrant is a master NLP practitioner. NLP stands for Neural Linguistic Programming. He is the founder of the INLP center in California where they specialize in learning and teaching NLP. He's a former Psychotherapist and is cofounder of Healthy Times Newspaper. He's also a featured blogger on the world's top mental health website called PsychCentral dot com. Mike has a unique perspective on self-sabotage; he knows how to empower his clients to reach higher levels of emotional health.

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Effect on Emotions

  • In terms of my emotions, I would say mindfulness has effected my positive emotions by helping me own them more and making them more alive and my negative emotions by making them workable. It hasn't banished them, it's just made them workable.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is part of my mindfulness meditation in the beginning. I don't have a breathing mindfulness practice. I just make sure I take a few deep breaths in the very beginning of my meditation and really focus on the tension that full lungs create, the muscle tension.
  • When I let it out and relax, I just notice the tension release and my chest fall. Two or three rounds of that and then I don't really return to the breathing. It is an area that I've been interested in learning more about.

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Bullying Story

  • This reminds me of self-bullying, when we bully ourselves. Mindfulness can be so helpful if we're bullying ourselves because usually if I hear an inner voice,
  • I'm not even aware that this is an inner voice I'm responding to as if it were real. These inner voices use the word, 'you'. You're going to fail, you're no good.
  • It’s talking to you as if you’re someone else. We respond to them as if someone else were saying this to us, and we believe it.
  • And so, mindfulness can help this in so many ways. First becoming aware. You have to stop resisting these voices.
  • This is happening and mindfulness is not just about the positive. Negative things are so much better if they’re experienced mindfully.
  • When my inner voice says, people are not going to like you, I say (and I hope listeners are going to do this).
  • This is the story so many people I’ve worked with have told me. You hear the voice, you listen to it and then you repeat it, but you change the you to an I. Ok, you are going to fail, the voice in my head just said that to me.
  • And I say, Ok, I am going to fail. And then you tag on the word and. It’s sort of like saying, ‘tell me more’. So, I am going to fail … because I am no good. And tell me more … I’m not going to fight you. I’m just going to acknowledge that you said this to me.
  • This inner voice said this, I’m going to own it. After a few rounds of doing this, a couple of things happen. First, it goes quiet. People say to me, I’m not hearing this voice anymore. They say, what does that mean. And I say, just enjoy the quiet.
  • A lot of us are not used to a quiet mind. And sometimes that voice, after being heard says … oh, it might not be so bad.
  • That’s how mindfulness can make a huge difference to how we bully ourselves. Bullying is an inner game. Whether it involves someone else, or ourselves, it all starts on the inside.
  • To me, bullies, people who bully others, they’re chasing their own helplessness and trying to empower themselves but it only leads to more helplessness. It’s an inner phenomenon.
  • The bully is the last person in the world who is going to admit to their helplessness.

 

Nov 13, 2017
268 Unlock Self-Love With The Mindfulness Key Suggests Joie Cheng
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Joie Cheng, (M.S.W. Masters of Social Work), is the Self-Love Luminary. She's passionate about helping women love themselves so they can live their best life possible. Joie is a certified professional coach, mentor, healer, circle facilitator, and trained yoga teacher. Joie has a degree in Social Work and Psychology. She is the best-selling author of her book, The Naked Truth: A Woman’s Journey to Self-Love. This book conveys Joie's personal journey of healing herself naturally from depression through self-love.

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Most Influential Person

  • Deepak Chopra

Effect on Emotions

  • I think mindfulness has helped me to not get attached to the stories you get in your head about what something means and just saying, there's a thought and I can just let it pass. I don't have to be attached to it.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is a really good way to instantly become aware and instantly drop into our body and notice our breath.
  • That's a really simple practice that we can do any time of the day. Just take a couple of deep breaths, especially if we're feeling stress, or are tired or whatever, just to take a few deep breaths. It's an instant state change.

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Bullying Story

  • I was fortunate not to have a lot of bullying when I was a kid.
  • There was this one girl when I was in Junior High, who used to make fun of me for being my race, my ethnicity.
  • She would do that 'eye' thing where she would move her eyes. And she'd say things.
  • Actually I think that I was grateful because mindfulness did help me because I didn't internalize it.
  • It think a lot of kids take it in and they think, oh, there's something wrong with me. So they really think that it's about them, rather than realizing that it's about the other person.
  • When someone bullies you, they're feeling insecure. It really has nothing to do with the person that's being bullied.
  • I just want to say that I really appreciate you making that connection between mindfulness and bullying  because I've never thought about that before and it made me think, yeah, you're right, mindfulness really can help with bullying.
Nov 09, 2017
267 Passionate NLP Instructor Teaches How To Be Limitless; Serena Denmark
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Serena Denmark is a certified Hypnotherapy Instructor. She teaches her clients to identify unconscious patterns and use NLP and hypnosis to make deep, rapid, lasting changes. Serena experienced a midlife crisis and came to the conclusion that her beliefs were killing her. That’s when she attended an NLP course where she was the class guinea pig. Through this experience she found her new passion in NLP and never looked back.

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Most Influential Person

  • Colleen Fletcher (Spiritual Teacher)

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has helped me keep that anchor to calm. It's like the pond or the ocean with the ripples on top and the stillness underneath. Even when I may feel agitated or irritated or annoyed, it's that duel experience, that higher perspective alarm, to observe yourself in the moment. I can feel the ripples, but I still have that stillness underneath.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • The breath is so powerful, just physiologically, when you breathe really deeply, you're increasing your intrathoracic pressure which puts stimulation on the vegas nerve which literally slows your heart rate down and interrupts your blood pressure so physiologically, deep breathing calms you down. Also I believe that as we breathe in deeply, we're breathing in prana or chi so we're increasing our wonderful energy that we're bringing into our body. Once you practice the self-hypnosis that's on my website, as soon as you even start to focus on your breathing, you've trained your mind to go into that place of relaxation.

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Bullying Story

  • I grew up in Zambia and I went to a missionary boarding school there. It was kind of in the boonies. It had been started around 1925 and I attended in 1973.
  • Everything was kind of set in time. It was really interesting. They had a water wheel to generate electricity. We had electricity four hours a day. No television or radio; completely cut off from the rest of the world. Hot water was a drum that had a fire built underneathe it.
  • We were away from our parents and there was no outside input, there was no one to run to and no one to discuss your problems with.
  • I think a lot of those schools back in the day were strong on discipline and maybe light on love. Kids are going to find a pecking order. That's just human nature.
  • I was at the bottom of that pecking order and there was one girl in particular who kind of pulled the puppet strings of everyone and I had what I considered a best friend.
  • We would both be willing to betray and abandon each other if we were chosen to be the favored friend by this girl at the top of the pecking order.
  • There was a lot of betrayal, a lot of lost trust and just a very, very, lonely experience. This girl said, you can't sing, your hair's ugly and she had all the power in my mind. I felt bad about myself.
  • I didn't really know how to bond with people because I had moved around a lot. I had lost my ability to really open my heart to people and connect in a real way becauase I didn't know how to trust anymore.
  • I went to the boarding school from age 10 and was there about 4 years.
  • They censored our letters so there was really no communication or way to reach for help.
Nov 06, 2017
266 Build Wealth the Blissful Way; Moneeka Sawyer
34:52

Moneeka Sawyer is the creator of the Blissful Real Estate Investor Formula and is the international best-selling author of the award-winning book “Choose Bliss: The Power and Practice of Joy and Contentment.” Moneeka has often been described as one of the most joyful people you will ever meet. She believes that we can and should choose bliss in all areas of our lives, including in our business and our investing. Her expertise has been featured on radio and TV including ABC, NBC, and Fox.

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Most Influential Person

  • My parents. They taught me about hard work, determination, focus, breathing, prayer, and joy.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness is all about emotions. That's what emotional mastery is for me and that's how I live.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I dod a moving meditation every morning. I'm a dancer, I got my legs back and I started to dance and so for ten minutes every morning I do a moving meditation and breathing is a big piece of integrating my mind, my heart, and my body.

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Bullying Story

  • My parents moved to a tiny little town in 1969 and I was the only non-white person in my school. I was tormented constantly. Bullied, tormented, humiliated constantly. I took it on. I was very lonely.
  • That bullying turned into horrible bullying as a teenager when boys took advantage of me. Horrible things happened. The thing is, at one point I realized that life was not going to continue to be that way for me.
  • At the age of twenty-five, I was considering, whether or not I wanted to continue to live. I remember the specific day. Things had been really rough for me and then I was in a horrible car accident in 1991.
  • It was not my fault, but I became a cripple. I was a dancer at the time and my biggest dream was to become an international dancer. Then my legs had been taken away.
  • They wanted to put me in a chair and I did not want to be put into a chair because I wanted to walk and to dance. Things got worse and worse and because I couldn't walk, I spent a lot of time in bed.
  • I remember I had been in bed crying for about a week and I had fallen into a huge depression. I couldn't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I had the thought, "I can't do this anymore".
  • There was a little voice inside of me that said. You have to keep on living. Anybody who has been depressed has heard the message, the longer you stay in bed, the worse it gets. I pushed off the covers and tried to get out of bed, but my legs were so weak that I fell to the ground.
  • At that moment I pushed myself up against the bed and I cried and prayed. The prayer was, Oh God, please have mercy. I can't keep doing this, so either bring me home or teach me how to live.
  • An hour later, a girlfriend who hadn't talked to me in about two years, called me out of the blue. She turned me on to a coach who then changed my life.
Nov 02, 2017
265 Mindfully Blend Traditional and Alternative Healing; Michelle Chalfant
38:55

Michelle Chalfant is a life coach and therapist. Her clients hire her to enable them to find their authentic selves through a holistic approach of blending alternative healing techniques with traditional counseling. Michelle is creator and host of the podcast, The Adult Chair, which is now in its third year of production. The Adult Chair shares impactful messages about codependency, self-love, depression, getting unstuck, removing masks, and how our understanding of ourselves impacts the most important relationships in our lives.

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Most Influential Person

  • John Kabat-Zinn

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has helped me with my emotions by really getting in touch with what's going on inside of me. I know now to slow down and tune in.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Oh yes. I mean, taking a slow, deep breath just brings me back into present. It brings me back into my body so I know what I'm feeling again. I know where I am. I know what's going on around me. Breath has been huge.

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Bullying Story

  • I was bullied. I never even became aware of it until today. I really didn't. I think what happened ... I witnessed my mom and my uncle for many years.
  • When I was a little girl, in third or fourth grade, I went to a Catholic school. We had the little skirts and I'd get on the bus and this boy would flip my skirt up every day. I'd be so horrified and embarrassed. And I'd say, 'stop lifting my skirt' and he'd make fun of me.
  • Then he started putting his clarinet grease in my hair. I remember coming home, at 9 or 10 years old, and feeling defeated and sad and there's no hope and no one's helping me.
  • I had friends at school, but there was this one boy who used to do this do me every day. I remember just feeling awful and I remember coming home one day and looking at the steak knives and thinking, maybe I should just kill myself because I can't handle this.
  • I remember thinking that thought and thinking, no, I'm not going to do that. I think of the children of today. Is that their only option? That's a whole other story. I'm still here, so I kept going to school.
  • Then I started bullying a little girl on the bus who was really, really, quiet. She didn't say anything, she whispered when she spoke, she was so quiet.
  • I would not have called it bullying until today, honestly. I would sit next to her on the bus and I'd say, why aren't you louder, what's wrong with you? Why are you so quiet? Talk louder. Nobody likes you.
  • I think I was doing that as a reaction to what this kid was doing to me. And to what my uncle was doing to my mom. It was like a domino effect. Because of your show (Mindfulness Mode) I realized I was bullied and I bullied.
  • The bullying with this boy went on for the whole school year and I remember telling my mom and my dad, it's OK. We sweep everything under the carpet. I think it ended at the end of that year and I stopped bullying that girl. I ended up switching school in sixth grade so it was over.
  • I bumped into him years later and I said, what was that about? Why did you put clarinet grease in my hair? And he started laughing and he said, I had a crush on you. I said, well it didn't feel that way, it was not nice. And he said, well, I really liked you and wanted your attention.

Quotes From The Interview

Anxiety is when the body is taking those emotions and bringing them tight inside the body. It's trying to keep them contained like a pressure cooker. So what I do is I slowly take the lid off the pressure cooker. - Michelle Chalfant

We have a cast of thousands inside of us. - Michelle Chalfant

I help you connect with your inner child. - Michelle Chalfant

Anxiety is not an emotion; it's a physical response to unfelt feelings. - Michelle Chalfant

The adolescent part of us does not know what to do with the child so it pushes it away. - Michelle Chalfant

We need our adult to come in and say, I choose to feel my emotions, otherwise we don't do it. - Michelle Chalfant

Oct 30, 2017
264 Creative Marketing Using The Wow of Mindfulness With Diane A Curran
40:41

Diane A. Curran has been immersed in marketing for a number of years. At one point, she worked on projects for major national direct marketing clients. Later, she became a solopreneur, consulting one-to-one and began Wow Whispering which she has been doing ever since. Diane's commitment to the arts has been equally passionate, making over 4,000 presentations between business and the creative arts, ranging from boardrooms to museums, and even mystical mountaintops in Peru. Diane wrote her biz book trilogy, The Marketing Deck, to give today’s impatient mindset instant access to creative ideas and intuition with custom card games.

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Most Influential Person

  • My sixth grade teacher. She brought her love of art to everyone in the class, no matter what their talents were. She was present and giving to everyone.

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Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has allowed me to pull myself up when I'm feeling the pressure of the stress of a deadline.
  • You say, you know what Diane, here is the deadline and here's how far you are. Let's see what you can get done and not be anxious about it because that just gets in the way of actually accomplishing anything so my emotions are willing to be as wild and crazy as anybody's.
  • But I realize they're [my emotions are] only one part, so they can coexist with something else that I can't even define. I think you've got the word for it - mindfulness.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I have had to learn to re-breathe because apparently I have a little hitch in my breathing.
  • My various wellness coaches have taught me some breathing techniques. I've learned to slow down and breathe through my diaphragm and just literally become present to the physicallity of breathing.
  • Once I become present to how physical a process it is, it just really evens me out and brings me present and kind of calms down my emotions.

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Bullying Story

  • My experience was a teacher bullying me as a kid, which you would never expect.
  • I have teachers who are just like the light of my life and then I have a second story of kids bullying a teacher.
  • The first experience I had was in the fifth grade. I had a music teacher; I was playing the cello. I had studied it for one year and had been invited into a quartet.
  • We played a concert and it went over really well. I was surprised at how wonderful an experience that was and this teacher, after the concert was over, came to my fifth grade classroom and took me out of my class.
  • He brought me into the hallway and stood there with his arms folded and said, Diane, I want to tell you something important. I know that you are studying piano in addition to studying the cello. Any good muscian has to choose one and they cannot do two instruments because it doesn't work and you have to choose. He was very stern.
  • I said what are you saying and he said, I want you to choose between the cello and the piano. I looked at him and said, are you telling me I have to do that right now? He said, yes. What I said was, in that case, I choose the piano.
  • He turned on his heel and stomped down the corridor and left me there in this darkened hallway and that was the end of my cello career. He forced the choice; he wanted that much control and as you know, bullying involves manipulation and control and power plays and cowardice.
  • If he had been mindful, he might have said, that is not what I was expecting you to say and let's see if we can work something out.
  • Anything could have been better than that.
Oct 26, 2017
263 Conscious Communications for Radical Change; Author Mary Shores
26:03

Mary Shores is the founder and CEO of a multi-million dollar business, one of the most unique collection agencies in the country. Recognized as a leader of innovative thought, Mary has spent over a decade teaching businesses and individuals how to inspire others, create new ways of thinking, identify and achieve their goals, and take action to create truly meaningful results. She is the revolutionary founder of the groundbreaking Conscious Communications system, which produces positive results through positive action. Mary travels across the nation giving lectures and teaching courses, and has been featured on local and national radio and television shows, podcasts, and blogs.

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Most Influential Person

  • Louis Hay (Author and Publisher)

Effect on Emotions

  • I think it [mindfulness] really connects me to my emotions and it allows me to see especially my triggers.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Well I've been on a breathing retreat and I can tell you that breathing has been very powerful.
  • One tidbit I'll share is after I went to a breathing retreat once, the dreams I started having were just out of this world.
  • So definitely supplying oxygen to your brain is beneficial.

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Oct 23, 2017
262 How A Visual Artist Lives Mindfulness; Clay Stapleford
39:45

Clay Stapleford is a full-time professional artist, living in Atlanta, Georgia. He is also a successful actor, having been featured in multiple Hollywood productions including Anchorman 2: The Legend Continues and Drop Dead Diva. As an aartist, he spends his time painting primarily using acrylic on canvas. Clay has a journalism degree from the University of North Carolina and is also an avid meditator.

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Most Influential Person

  • Eckhart Tolle

Effect on Emotions

  • [Mindfulness has made a difference by] learning to experience my emotions without judgment and just allowing them to be what they are and learning to be educated by my emotions too. Then learning the difference between my feelings and my emotions and how when I have learned to experience my emotions without judgment, I can then learn better how to follow my feelings in a way that serves me.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I often just count my breath. I mean whether I'm on a walk or a run, when I'm painting, when I'm meditating.
  • That's the first place I go to to get in ... if I feel I'm scattered in some way. It's the first exercise I jump to to bring myself into the moment, is to count my breath.
  • I've done some breathing meditation, some guided breathing meditations where some pretty intense stuff has happened which is kind of cool.
  • There was this one intense one where there was an hour long breathing meditation and this I had never experienced before. Halfway through it, my body began to seize up from my toes upward.
  • Literally, it was almost like in The Matrix where he takes the pill and you can see in his body where he began to go to that other realm and it would kind of take over.
  • It was almost like I was going paralyzed but I could still feel but I couldn't move. They called it lobster hand. I literally seized up through this breathing meditation.
  • I later found out it was just pent up energy that had never had anywhere to go. So it took about 15 or 20 minutes for all feeling and movement to come back after this breathing meditation.
  • When it happened, it was like, what in the world is going on right now. It was so intense. Lying there and not being able to move. It wasn't a scary thing; it didn't produce fear, it produced wonder.

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Bullying Story

  • Especially in today's discussion about ... a lot of things come to mind but ... I bartended for many years as well prior to working in sales.
  • As an actor in LA and then here in Atlanta ... with all the stuff going on today there'd be times where I'd see ... I have a pretty thick skin and people don't often offend me very much. It takes a lot to get under my skin but if I see other people being harassed it will kind of rile me up a little bit.
  • Working in the restaurant business and the bars, a lot of times women can be taken advantage of or harassed in many ways.
  • I remember one time specifically where one of our waitresses was being harassed across the bar and spoken to in a very poor manner - sexually explicit and demeaning and I literally was aghast at it and I lost my mindfulness and I took him aside and kicked him out.
  • I think what mindfulness allows us the opportunity to do is to slow things down and to understand how we are affected and affecting others and had this particular guy just took a moment to just slow down and just think what he was saying.
  • I think if you slow somebody like that down they would be contrite and somewhat understand. It's unfortunate.
  • Anytime that folks bully or try to lure their power over someone, it's the exact opposite of mindfulness.
Oct 19, 2017
261 Mindfulness, Quantum Physics and Healing With Dr. Anastasia Chopelas
27:33

Dr. Anastasia Chopelas’ unusual combination of scientific curiosity and heritage as a 4th generation healer makes her uniquely qualified to understand the subtle energies that promote or deteriorate health, success and relationships. She retired from a 40 year career as a physicist and researcher studying quantum and vibrational physics to become The Scientific Healer. Her processes are responsible for hundreds of medical miracles, some of which are outlined in her book, The Diamond Healing Method. Dr. Anastasia’s scientific background enables her to explain energy healing in simple practical terms, to make everyday miracles believable.

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Most Influential Person

  • My Sunday School Teacher: When I was in Sunday School I had a really awesome teacher who, when she talked, I used to be completely fascinated. She had this really peaceful demeanour about her and she was very deeply devout. Just by that connection with her, we were friends for 40 years. She really influenced me from a very young age.

Effect on Emotions

  •  I don't have explosive emotions, like I know what I'm feeling.
  • When I get angry I can feel it but I don't explode out. I start thinking, what is it about them that's making me angry because it's usually about me so I know that I usually turn it back in and ask myself what am I doing that is making me angry because that person is doing it.
  • I look at it like that person is showing a mirror to me.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I take deep breaths every day because it brings me into the moment.
  • So many of us are stuck and this used to be me sometimes when it was bad: stuck about worrying or shame and guilt of the past and worrying about the future.
  • When you start breathing deeply, at least when I do, I breathe deeply all the way down into my belly.
  • I use my belly and I imagine the air is going all the way down into my toes. As soon as I get into that breathing, it brings me right into the moment and I stop.
  • It brings me away from the past and away from the future and into the now. Then I ask myself, how am I doing right now and that really settles everything down.

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Oct 16, 2017
260 Master Your Key Relationships With Majeed Mogharreban
34:10

Majeed Mogharreban is a professional speaker, author and entrepreneur. After starting five businesses before he turned 21, Majeed now helps companies succeed faster with the entrepreneurial mindset. He is known for being an energizing keynote speaker who empowers audiences to take action. His unique perspective on business leadership has taken him across the globe; guiding organizations such as World Wildlife Fund, Toyota, Vanguard, and Loblaw Inc. to achieve more, faster. His story-filled talks demonstrate how to use an enthusiastic start-up spirit to improve the working climate in the corporate world.

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Most Influential Person

  • My wife. She is a model of blissful presence; contentment in the moment.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has allowed me to use my emotions as information signals and data by being curious and present.
  • [It takes me to the place of 'oh, I'm experiencing anger right now', instead of having the instinctive reaction of, "I'm angry, I'm going to go break some dishes", or "I'm going to go yell at somebody".
  • Just that split second realization of, "Oh, I'm experiencing an emotion, this is information for me. What should I do with it?" [This] versus allowing my emotions to control my body.
  • I think mindfulness gives me that power.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I learned this thing about breathing. It's amazing.
  • When we're being hunted by a predator, as cavemen, we drop our breathing really shallow so we can't be heard and so we can hear better.
  • When we're totally cool and relaxed and the birds are chirping and the water's going by breathe deeply.
  • So when we breathe deeply, we telling our body there's no predator there and I believe that's the fastest and easiest and cheapest way to get instantly mindful.
  • Take a deep breath and you're already there.

Suggested Resources

  • Book: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
  • App: Calm

Bullying Story

  • I don't think that I was bullied when I was a kid. I had a pretty strong mindset; a pretty strong attitude.
  • I think what is really more of a present feeling in my childhood and now, is the pressure to be normal; the pressure to be like everybody else.
  • When you're an outlier; a high performer, you are by nature different than most people and you make other people uncomfortable.
  • So what I was able to do successfully was find other highly driven people so that I was normal amongst my peers.
  • But what I found I received some criticism for was ambition and drive and being teased for being so focused on accomplishment and not doing what I thought the cool kids were doing.
  • They were skipping class, doing drugs, being bullies, and being jocks, and I was kind of envious of their coolness while I was studying and getting good grades.
  • What I've always felt, that the pressure is to try to be normal, and what I found the solution is, to make my normal high performance. I do feel normal amongst my tribe.
Oct 12, 2017
259 Discover Your Deepest Desires Alongside Moustafa Hamwi
39:08

Moustafa Hamwi is recognized as the world’s leading expert on Passionate Leadership. In one year, he has achieved what it has taken others 20 years to achieve. His amazing success at helping to empower leaders to work and live passionately, has resulted in him being nicknamed, ‘Mr. Passion’. On his talk show, Passion Sundays, Moustafa has interviewed over 180 world thought leaders.

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Most Influential Person

  • My Swami in India who's been in caves for 13 years.

Effect on Emotions

  • It has helped me to be more observant of my emotions. I am very passionate so when I'm upset, I'm very upset. When I'm having a bad day, I'm having a very bad day.
  • I do everything with passion. Being more mindful has allowed me to be more observant and slowly I have learned to be less judging of my emotions.
  • I'm no longer in that space of, you have to be mindful means you shouldn't be angry. I don't agree to that.  If I'm angry, I'm angry, cause guess what, if somebody smashes into my car, I'm gonna be angry.
  • I've learned to accept my anger as a natural reaction and watch it till it just goes up and it comes down again rather than try to fight it because when I was fighting it before, it made it more difficult. Now, I'm just present and watching. That means acceptance.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is everything. Let me put it this way, if you cease to breathe, you cease to exist. So the ultimate mindfulness is the ultimate breathing.
  • I learned that when I did vipassana, the Buddhist meditation technique that Buddha used to get enlightened which is simply the induction course.
  • They put us in a hall for ten days and all we do is observe our breathing. Every single morning I wake up and I do twenty minutes of vipassana.

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Bullying Story

  • The most bullied people in life, are bullies themselves. People who have been bullied at home or at some stage in their life, have an adverse protective reaction.
  • In a way I feel empathetic with them because they had to go through a particular experience and maybe they were bullied at home and they go back to school and they take it out on their friends at school. Bullies exist everywhere in our lives.
  • I just want to be clear, most of us are also bullies in one way, shape or form. I don't want anybody to get self-righteous here, including myself.
  • We do bully certain people, certain ways. A lot of times we do it passively rather than aggressively.
  • If somebody's in a place of power or fame, we can easily bully somebody much easier than someone else who has to force themself.
  • If we're present, bullying will become a lot calmer. We can calm ourselves first and then let the other person be calm. In the end, with bullying, there is a certain reason why they are doing what they're doing.
  • I've been bullied when I was back in Syria. I was about sixteen. I ended up in a fight, me and my friends where we fought with kids of military officers and these kids went and got seventeen soldiers to beat us up with chains.
  • For a period [of time], that killed me, because I felt oppressed. This is beyond bullying. That incident gave me a drive to move out of Syria and explore a better future somewhere else. If it hadn't been for that incident, I would have still been living there and I wouldn't be who I am today.
Oct 09, 2017
258 Elder Care Meets Mindfulness With Legal Expert Nicole Wipp
34:23

Nicole Wipp is a lawyer who specializes in elder law. She is a professional planner on a mission to empower people at all stages of life to take control of two issues: health details and end of life arrangements. She is a speaker who addresses the legal aspects of these topics and she is also the author of the book, “Dear Mom and Dad; Help Me Help You”. Nicole has survived being diagnosed with a rare, debilitating disease, an experience that has changed the way she views life and death.

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Most Influential Person

  • Joel Walden

Effect on Emotions

  • I'm prone to anxiety just as I think a lot of people are. Mindfulness has really enabled me to conquer that and to be able to take a step back and allow myself to get out of that mode.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I couldn't tell you more about how important breathing is. If you don't understand that, that's just a 101. Breathing is huge. I do yogic breathing to increase the health and capacity of my lungs and I also do it for my mindful state.

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Bullying Story

  • I experienced bullying as a child, definitely. In fact, when I was in my first year of high school, I literally had to get in fistfights to protect myself from bullies in my school.
  • You think about girls doing that kind of thing, but it's a real thing. I used to get in literal fistfights because I had to.
  • I didn't have a choice; either I got beat or I engaged. For me, that was something that made me stronger. They can be a very big source of despair.
  • I don't recommend letting that be the place that makes you stronger.  In business, I will tell you that in my niche, I definitely have other competitors that would much prefer me to be down in business.
  • One of the things that I've done to avoid that; I just don't pay attention to my competition.
  • So many people in business will say, pay attention to what your competition is doing. I actually find that for multiple reasons, that is not good business advice.
  • I don't pay attention to my competition, I don't pay attention to what they're doing, to what they're saying and I just run my business in a way that works for myself and my team. By doing that we've actually done very well. We've been extremely successful and then I don't worry about those things.
Oct 05, 2017
257 Experience The Entrepreneur House with Host Chris Reynolds
36:42

Chris Reynolds is a digital nomad and founder of The Entrepreneur House where Entrepreneurs from the world over get together to collaborate, produce and execute their creative business initiatives. Chris is currently based in a mountain paradise in Thailand and he has also hosted guests in Barcelona, Spain  In the past Chris has lived in such places as Costa Rica, Peru, England, Netherlands, and Switzerland. Chris is originally from Missouri, U.S.A.

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Most Influential Person

  • My Mother

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness helps me manage my emotions and to know that the low times are just temporary and how I'm reacting from those emotions.
  • Also from the high times, knowing those are temporary.
  • [Mindfulness also helps] to keep myself in check and not become too arrogant or egotistical.
  • [It also helps] to realize that it's important to be mindful that life has highs and lows. That can keep you on a good wave length with continually growing and figuring out what's next.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I use breathing when I meditate and I think that gets me centered a lot.
  • I realize when my emotions are out of balance, when I'm getting more stressed or frustrated, or when anger comes up, I use breathing to either let go of that, or find a center grounding.
  • If I ever have trouble sleeping, I use breathing exercises to drift off to sleep. That really helps me find a center of focus where I can focus on my goals and work toward my dreams and be aware of how I'm treating others at the same time.

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Bullying Story

  • I was bullied as a kid and I bullied as a kid. Growing up, through that experience I definitely was not aware of what I was doing or the effects of what I was doing or how it was really affecting me.
  • Me being bullied, that part even affects me today. Me doing the bullying doesn't affect me so much.
  • The one person in particular; I've actually tried to reach out to that person to apologize and make it even. I think becoming aware through personal development made me really realize how hurtful that is to children and how it really impacts them.
  • I can think of three individuals who bullied me growing up and how I still feel about them today. One of them is now a good friend and has been for fifteen years or so.
  • The earlier days when I was being bullied by him; I still think about that exact moment, what happened and how hurtful it was. And also, in retaliation and in order to fit in, the bullying on my part was sent off to somebody else.
  • I think it's very important to teach our kids mindfulness and to become aware of how your behavior is affecting others. That would prevent a lot of that [bullying]. If we have children and parents that are aware of this type of behavior, it would really change the world.
Oct 02, 2017
256 New Media Summit; Behind The Scenes With Steve Olsher
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Steve Olsher helps you get crystal clear on your what; the one thing YOU were created to do. Steve is the New York Times, best-selling author of What Is Your What?: Discover The One Amazing Thing You Were Born To Do. He is also the author of the internet technology book of the year called Internet Profits. Not only is Steve a speaker and an author, he's a world class coach, he's a wizard at teaching how the on-line world can create profit. He's the chairman and founder of Liquor.com. Steve's most recent live event in San Diego is called the New Media Summit where he used his genius to line up forty successful podcasters with 150 people who were thirsty to be promoted on-line as podcast guests. This was a world-class event.

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Most Influential Person

  • My wife.

Effect on Emotions

  • For a long time I was actually pretty on the level in terms of not a lot of crazy highs and not a lot of crazy lows and that sort of thing.
  • Over the past 10 or 15 years or so I've really been able to experience tremendous highs and tremendous lows as well.
  • I think that the depression and darkness that I found myself in back in 2013 when I really felt like it was time to throw in the towel on everything. I think it has to do with expanding the mind into areas where I wasn't able to go prior to that. It's an interesting double-edged sword.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I have become much more aware of breath and the importance of breathing. Even over the last few years, I think it's one of those things that is only born out of maturity. There's something to that.
  • From my experience as a speaker and a coach and just being in business in general, it really boggles my mind how one very deep breath can completely reset everything. That's a fairly new phenomenon with me; to become that aware.

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Bullying Story

  • I've got lots of bullying stories.  The biggest bully I've ever had in my life would be my older brother. He's six years older than me. We haven't spoken ... let's put it this way; my wife and I have been married for 20 years and she's never met him. Reality is that he is the single biggest bully that I ever had to contend with in my life, physically and emotionally abusive as well.
  • As we get older we become more clear on the life that we want to create for ourselves and eliminate people, places and things from our life that don't serve us well.
  • I recently had a business partnership with someone that's fairly well known in the internet marketing space and I remember a couple of times during that partnership where he really lost his stuff, he really lost his mind. He had big, huge kind of screaming tantrums. The first one was on the phone. I'm not saying that he was wrong with what he was upset about but his presentation of how he was expressing what he was upset about really just manifested as a big, huge, screaming hissy fit. I just kind of chalked it up to, maybe it was just a bad day.
  • Everybody has their off moments. About a month later we were at the Traffic and Conversion Conference and if you know Ryan Deiss's company, they had this big event called Traffic and Conversion and there are thousands of people there.
  • It is a pretty large event. It's held at a fairly large venue, a hotel in this case. We were in a public area of the hotel, a little bit off to the side. There was an issue with something related to a launch of a new program that we were working on and we were coming up on the deadline for that launch and there were a few things that needed to be done.
  • He's kind of a control freak about things and my understanding of something was that it was waiting for his review and approval and his understanding was different. When I had said, we're waiting on his approval, he just basically had this huge blow up. And what that looked like was, he literally stands up and is towering over me with his finger in my face and he's just literally yelling at the top of his lungs, basically, just really losing his stuff.
  • I like to think I have a pretty long fuse. Back in the day, not so much. But nowdays, it takes a lot for me to lose it.
  • I've been training in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu for the better part of 16 years. I've got a lot of friends who fight in the UFC. I've been around that world for the better part of two decades. If push comes to shove, I'm not going to simply back down from you, and that's kind of where we went.
  • I just was like, whoa, this is not happening; not here, not now, not ever. I stood up, and so now we're face to face on this thing and basically, being the more calm of the two, I literally just stood up, looked at him as I needed to look at him, and walked away. I called him the next day and said, look, it's fairly clear that the writing is on the wall here. We're done. And I will tell you right now that we're done.
  • We'll finish up this launch and we'll launch this program and that's where it's going to end. And I will tell you that, for the better part of the last 15 years, I've eliminated people from my life who treat me like that because that's not how I will stand to be treated. I do not have people in my life who treat me like that.
  • He's not going to be a continuing part of my life for any period of time past this launch and quite frankly, if he ever gets up in my face like that again, we're not just going to be talking at that point. I promise you, point blank, as clear as I can make it.
  • And so it was one of those conversations where he tried just basically saying, oh yeah, let's get you grounded, you seem upset. And just doing this whole spiritual bend on me and basically I'm just like, you are the least spiritual person I've ever met in my life. You are the least grounded person I've ever met in my life and frankly you're the biggest hypocrit of anyone I've ever met in my life.
  • So we're done and I will just simply say this. I don't think you know who I am if you think that's something that I'm capable of tolerating, because I'm not.
Sep 30, 2017
255 Reclaim Your Happiness; Learn How From Jacqui Letran
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Jacqui Letran is a multiple award-winning author and a vibrant, passionate thought leader, mentor and speaker. She has helped thousands of teens and youth turn their lives around by changing their mindset to one where they truly believe success and happiness are possible, regardless of their current circumstances. Trained as a Nurse Practitioner, Jacqui has made full use of her life experience and training to successfully transform clients. Jacqui just returned from the Great American Book Festival and Literary Classics' Book Award Ceremony to receive a Gold Medal for her book, "5 Simple Questions to Reclaim Your Happiness". The book also won a Silver Medal from the Readers Favorite category.

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Most Influential Person

  • Robin Duncan (My mentor)

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has effected my emotions - everything. Right now, I'm living in North Carolina and by Sunday, big hurricane Irma might hit North Carolina and I can get drawn into that negativity and that fear, or I can stay mindful and present, stay calm and prepare for it and make decisions that are going to be more beneficial for me and not have a knee-jerk reaction out of fear.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is everything. Your breath is your life force.
  • When you take that moment to connect to your life force, things change. The physiology in your body changes when you're taking that time to slow down and be intentional with your breath.

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Bullying Story

  • [In my book], I share my stories of being the 'bullier' to other people and I also briefly share how I was bullied in the medical setting. As a teenager I was seeking help, I was scared and rather than having any kind of support or compassion, I was bullied. I was made to feel even worse about myself.
  • Those are two examples of how I bullied others and how other people bullied me. I want to present something that I don't think a lot of us think about as often as we should.
  • That is, we are our biggest bulliers. Everything that I experienced back then was because of me. I was the one who said, 'I'm stupid', to me. I was the one who said, 'Don't do it, you're not good enough'. 'You don't fit in'. 'You are inferior'.
  • I was telling myself all of that and I told myself that so much that I believed it. I would love for people to just pause for a moment and think about how you've been bullying yourself and what you can do to stop that.
Sep 28, 2017
254 Conquer Your Food Demons With Help From Lorraine Crowston
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Lorraine Crowston is a certified life coach, a speaker and an author and is particularly interested in helping people deal with their food demons. Lorraine has worked as a chef, a computer network instructor, a trainer and a project manager. Lorraine Crowston has bundled all of her life experiences into a package where she helps people achieve physical and emotional health in playful, easy-to-follow steps. Her book, 'The Devil's Food Cake Made Me Do It', is a great example of Lorraine's unique way of viewing life and helping people.

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Most Influential Person

Jenny McKee (One of the women I do a lot of networking with)

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has caused me to be a kinder, gentler person. I don't have to be the manager. I don't have to be the hard, make-all-the-decisions person. It's been a lovely journey. I'm really liking being able to sit back and just take it easy.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is so interesting because I've just finished doing an audio book. It's the audio version of my book. I've taken a voice acting coach and I also do Yoga. Breathing is part of all of those things.
  • When you're recording an audio book, you try not to breathe too loudly because it will pick it up and it has to be cleaned up later. But when you're doing Yoga, it's a totally different thing. You're making sure you totally focus on the breath.

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Bullying Story

  • I was the smallest kid in the class. I don't term it quite so much as bullying, but I was definitely teased quite a bit. I was very fortunate, because I was the youngest of six, so once I got home I was safe.
  • I had a whole crew of people around me that kept me safe. It was my safe haven. I think that a lot of the times, I look back and think about these people who had bullied me or teased me at the time and I sometimes wonder what was going on in their household.
  • If they are feeling powerless at home, this is their was to regain power and so they're going to look for the person that they think is the most vulnerable and bully them. Unfortunately what happens, in my case it didn't work. I had five older siblings that picked on me.
  • What I think happens is that they look for the most gentle soul who won't fight back. That's really a shame because these poor gentle souls are the ones who take the hit a lot more. They don't have that hard core to fight back and so it is much more damaging to them than what may have happened to me when I was growing up.
  • My mom stopped protecting me and so I had to fight my own battles, so in a way, internally in my own house, I had to stand up for myself or find the means to navigate through the whole family dynamics. I had the tools for it.
  • Imagine if I had been an only child where I'm closeted and maybe a gentle soul and I wouldn't have received those tools to sorta say, hold on, I'm not going to be your victim, I'm not going to take the bullying. Back off. Then you get those very bad situations.
Sep 25, 2017
253 The Power of Having Fun With Dave Crenshaw
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Dave Crenshaw is the master of building productive leaders and has transformed hundreds of thousands of business leaders worldwide. He has appeared in TIME magazine, USA Today, FastCompany, and the BBC News. His courses on LinkedIn Learning have received millions of views. He has written three books and counting, including The Myth of Multitasking which was published in six languages and is a time-management bestseller. His fourth book, The Power of Having Fun, releases September 19th, 2017.

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Most Influential Person

  • Steven Covey (Author of Seven Habits of Highly Effective People)

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has given me a lot more stability from someone who does not naturally have that kind of stability. The focus of mindfulness creates the stability of emotion.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is not as much of my mindfulness as it should be, but I am aware of it and when I do it, it is helpful. I use counting more than breathing. And the power of the logic of the numbers to steady my thoughts back down.

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Bullying Story

  • I've got two stories and they're both related. I grew up as somebody who, at least I feel, was bullied quite a bit. Part of that is the personality. Part of that is that I grew up in an environment at home where I was subject to a lot of emotional and verbal abuse, constantly, and so I did a lot of things at school which were ways to get attention and ways to get people to like me that were just not normal.
  • And so it put a target on my back and it was really hard for me to deal with. What I gained from that personally was empathy for others. I really strongly dislike when I see others getting judged or diminished because they are different.
  • Bring that to just last week. My son is twelve and is just starting Junior High. All of us who have been through that experience know how difficult that can be. He's a really good kid and he's also really sensitive. I said to him, Straton, I want to tell you something that I wish someone had told me going into Junior High.
  • I said, 'You are going to see kids doing things that are rude, they're going to say things to you that are not nice. What I want you to understand is, they are all just trying to figure it out. They don't know what's right and what's wrong. They don't even know what kind of a person they want to be yet. So when you see that, don't take it personally. It's so easy to think, oh, they're picking on me. But instead, just say, that's somebody just trying to figure it out, and just go, there it is.
  • Just be nice to them and move on, because my experience is, those same people who acted like that, the majority of them, ten to twenty years from now, they regret the way that they acted, or they completely forget about it and they become people who are well-adjusted, nice, kind adults.  And so, my perspective is, we need not take that personally when those kinds of things happen. That's just part of other people going through the process of learning and growing.
  • I had it happen to me this week. I had somebody send me a nasty message about my book. The initial reaction is to personalize it and say, I'm going to be offended by this. But what I did was, I flipped it around. I thought, what if I said that to him in the workplace.
  • Usually I don't respond to this, but for some reason I decided to respond. And so I said to him, 'Imagine if I came into your workplace and I said that to you, over your shoulder. Can you feel how ugly that moment would be?
  • And If I saw someone say that to you, I would tell them to stop. Because I believe in you. As a human being, you should not be treated like that.
  • So if people are treating you like that, I'm sorry that that's happening. I think a lot of times, if people lash out like that, they're doing that because other people are treating them that way or because they feel insecure about their life. So the approach I tried to take as an adult, is to turn it around and say, I support you; I care about you.

 

Sep 21, 2017
252 Unlock Your Energy System Says Former Dominatrix Dana Pharant
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Dana Pharant is a Master healer, life strategist, published author and past CEO of a near 7-figure business and former Dominatrix. Dana is a transformational coach who uses dynamic tools for rapid change to your mindset. She uses her kick-ass energy and ability to perceive, pinpoint and pop the problem limiting you, your body or your business while having fun.

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Most Influential Person

  • My first energy healer teacher who really taught me to connect with the energy itself.

Effect on Emotions

  • That [Mindfulness] has been massive for not being caught up in them [my emotions] and allowing myself to expand out so that I can drop off all of that baggage and garbage.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • The breath is so critical for getting you connected because it allows you to really feel in your body. Oxygen is kind of important.

Suggested Resources

  • Book: I don't recommend a book for mindfulness. Mindfulness is more of a kinesthetic experience and reading books puts you into your head, so I'd suggest people to find guided meditations or music with binaural beats. Just start that process instead.
  • App: Macaroni Union Album "Weightless". This is fantastic for taking your brain waves into the theta state. I like to put this on and go for a barefoot walking meditation.

Bullying Story

  • The bullying story that comes to my mind is; it was grade one or grade two and being out in the school yard and of course one of the things with the Jehovah's Witness religion is the door knocking.
  • Everybody's familiar with that and so the kids in the school yard would taunt me and say that my father sells vacuum cleaners because we were going door to door.
  • They did this for weeks and it was so annoying and finally I punched one of them. Mindfulness probably would have been a better plan. I may be a little too fiesty.
Sep 18, 2017
251 Do A Day Is Mindfulness Says Bryan Falchuk
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Bryan Falchuk has an amazing story; he went from being obese and depressed to losing over 100 pounds and running marathons. He’s faced the trauma of nearly losing his wife to illness while their young son watched. He became vegan in just one day. He got his masters from a top school and rose to a senior executive position in a successful business. He’s transformed his life and developed an approach to help others do the same that he teaches in his best-selling book “Do a Day: How To Live A Better Life Every Day”.

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Most Influential Person

  • Rich Roll (Author and Ultra Athlete)

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness effects all of my emotions right now. It's what keeps me able to handle everything that's thrown at me.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is a very centering exercise. It released and brings you back in. I find when I'm less mindful, a few very deep breaths pull me right back into the moment.

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Bullying Story

  • I mentioned I was the fat kid. So, was I bullied? Yes, very much so by plenty of people.
  • I think I'm very lucky because there were a lot of people who didn't bully me as well. There were a lot of good friends.
  • The story I will tell you is not from that period in my life. I wasn't the blatent [obvious person] who was going to get picked on.
  • In the role of being a successful senior executive, I can tell you, the grass is not green anywhere. We all struggle. Just cause I've had success doesn't mean everything's easy.
  • I had a situation where someone was essentially trying to take me down. It's someone who's very well respected and used to be a litigator so they know how to attack people and how to make a case. It's a person who's been pretty successful at that.
  • Whether they are aware of it or not, they were essentially trying to get me fired. It didn't happen, which is good.
  • The key reason is, it's all in how I responded in the moment. Historically, I would have gotten really riled up.
  • We were in a meeting where .... I knew it was coming. The attack came full force and they were quoting a lot of facts that were not actually facts.
  • They were just statements of things that they put out there as facts and then everyone sort of nodded and said, that's interesting, or that's true. None of it was true.
  • And so the question for me was, how do I respond? Historically I would get defensive and argue back. Guess what? It doesn't tend to work out so well because you're feeding into what's making that bully thrive.
  • They're thriving off negativity and the confrontation of it. So if you give that right back to them, you're just amping it up. So what I did instead was, I kept very calm.
  • I've been studying Buddhism and I was in the midst of my early days of studying it. This was a really good and strong early test but it worked.
  • I kept mindful about one very important fact about everyone in the world. Ultimately, we all seek to be happy. That may not feel that way in that moment and you may think, that person doesn't want to be happy, they just want to hurt me.
  • That's a very, 'the world is doing this to me', kind of view that doesn't help you. The reality is, that person wants to be happy.
Sep 14, 2017
250 Achieve Your Theta State With Mindfulness Says Kallen Diggs
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Kallen Diggs is an author and also host of the syndicated show, Reaching The Finish Line. He is passionate about reducing the high levels of unemployment by helping people achieve their goals. Last year, Kallen lived in 3 countries, walked 65 miles on Spain's Camino De Santiago, and completed a Vipassana meditation retreat (12 hours of meditation per day for 10 consecutive days).

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Most Influential Person

  • David Hawkins

Effect on Emotions

  • It has increased my ability to project positive emotions

Thoughts on Breathing

  • The slower you breathe, the easier it is to bring you down to an alpha state or a theta state. If you're breathing faster, you probably will increase your likelihood for that mental chatter to continue to exist.

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Bullying Story

  • When I was younger, Bruce, I was the oddball in school. Kids would talk about, "Did you listen to this new CD" and I was talking about, "Did you watch the last episode of National Geographic".
  • I was like the total nerd, and yes, I was bullied, and kids would throw things at me because I wasn't cool.
  • In reality, I think as we get older, we all bully people in some form with our ego. We project our ignorance onto other people. We get this perception that I'm smarter than you, you're not smart, you should listen to me.
  • Some people do this in obvious ways and other people do it in more subtle ways. The key is, if we can get a better grasp of our ego, we can transend the ego. That's when we'll be able to show more love, compassion, and be more at peace with other people.
  • I think there are a lot of people who have arisen to a point where they have made peace with their ego and are transending it, but there's a lot of people that haven't. They still struggle with it, and ego still dictates their life, and unfortunately, through their decisions they're subconciously using their ego to project their ignorance onto other people. That makes people feel inferior, jealous, and all kinds of other things.
Sep 11, 2017
249 Have The Fun By Skipping The Alcohol Says One Year No Beer's Andy Ramage
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Andy Ramage is the co-founder of Aalpha Energy, one of the largest independent commodities brokerages in the world. He is also co-creator of One Year No Beer, also known as OYNB. This is an alcohol-free challenge you can embrace for 28 days, 90 days and even a year. Eliminating alcohol from his life caused him to lose 42 pounds and cut his body fat from 28% to 10%. He is totally passionate about being fit and healthy. Andy meditates and exercises daily and has studied habit change in order to succeed at his amazing goals. Oh, and did I mention he’s also a master practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming, aka, NLP and he’s studying for his Master's Degree in Positive Psychology. Andy is also a Mindfulness-Based Awareness coach.

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Most Influential Person

  • Andy Puddicombe (Co-founder of Headspace)

Effect on Emotions

  • I'm so much calmer. I was a classic red-head in many ways, so that (the temper) was part of my character makeup when I played sport to win and had that super passionate energy around me. Mindfulness has helped me quell that and I'm now a much calmer person to be around.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is everything. That is my anchor. Breathing is what I go to. I have experimented with every type of mindfulness you can think of, but really my practice is just on the breath as my anchor.

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Bullying Story

  •  When you are playing football at a high level at the young age of 16 it is super tough. It's not an element of bullying as such, but it is so cut-throat in the sense that every bad pass, every bad tackle is almost overwhelming to you as a young man because your life is riding on this thing.
  • You're dreaming of becoming a professional athlete in your field. I remember clearly around that age of 15 or 16, I was almost crippled with performance anxiety in so many ways because every time I would make a mistake, it would haunt me for the next 15 minutes whilst the game was going on.
  • This is where mindfulness for me is so beautiful and so powerful. If I'd had the ability to just let that go and actually come back to the moment and concentrate on what I was doing, I know I would have been a better professional and a better player.
  • I would have been able to let that error go. It's the classic case of, when you're worried about that problem that has just passed, you're not using all your mental capacity. Then you make another problem, like another back tackle or another bad pass.
  • All of a sudden you've snowballed. You've gone from nowhere to this negative spiral. I had no idea of mindfulness at that stage in my life. In my younger days, this would have been so helpful to have known how to let these things go.
Sep 07, 2017
248 Discover The Magnetic Memory Method With Dr Anthony Metivier
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Dr. Anthony Metivier is the founder of the Magnetic Memory Method, an effective, fun way to memorize foreign language, vocabulary, dreams, names, music, poetry and much more. Dr. Metivier writes books and creates training for anyone who needs to improve their memory. What separates him from other authors on memory skills and development is that he doesn’t focus on long strings of digits or training for memory championships. He offers simple techniques for memorizing the information that will change your daily life: foreign language vocabulary, names and faces, material for tests and exams. There’s no hype in his training, just techniques that work. From hobbyists looking to memorize facts, poems or more to anyone wanting to master another language, Anthony loves to see memory techniques take root and flourish.

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Most Influential Person

  • Gary Weber

Effect on Emotions

  • It has really evened them out.
  • I have had clinical depression and bipolar disorder so my moods in the past have been all over the place.
  • Now I have a real strong through line and have exactly that gap where I am able to sort of live in the future. I mean, I live in the future already because I'm in Australia but now I kind of live in the future of my physical and mental responses and am able to just sort of see it before it happens.
  • Not every single time but more and more consistently and not get tied up in creating a big story about it or even being in it. And I have now been able to function without medication for a year and a half now. So that's been great.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • They say always return to the breath. If you get lost that's the place to go. I've just been so blessed that I encountered things in the early 2000's like Russian Martial Arts which are so breathing focused that I've just spent a lot of time with breath and just noticing that so much tension is held by just not breathing. And then starting to create greater circulatory has helped so much from treating tension and preventing it from developing in the first place.

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Bullying Story

  • I was around a lot of bullies. I sort of had the where with all to stand up to them and part of that may have been just my own recklessness.
  • I had a good batting average of just putting them in their place and I was able to surf the danger zone between the jocks and non jocks but I kind of had alliances with everybody but it did have a little bit to do with being a little bit off kilter and crazy and not really caring because my home background was so bad that what could Troy the Jock possibly threaten me with.
  • I saw bullying a lot and I did respond to it.
  • I did have one fist fight that I was in and lost as a result of standing up to bullying but we ultimately became friends and had some interesting discussions after that and I wonder if a lot of this is out of our control.
  • We're biological units with raging hormones and things happen, so mindfulness would start for me there with just helping humans get a better sense that what's happening to them in these situations is largely out of our control. and we don't really have as much free will in it as we think because of the units we are in.
  • If you can get a gap between your physical response to things and the actions you take then a lot of that can stop. The bully can catch himself in a moment of bullying that he maybe wasn't aware of and the bullied can respond differently because they're aware of how their bodies are responding before their mind directs action.

 

Sep 04, 2017
247 Dogs, Cats and Cannabis; Learn from Ultimate Pet Health Guide Author, Dr. Gary Richter
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Dr. Gary Richter is a holistic veterinarian who focuses on the integration of holistic and general practice veterinary medicine. He's passionate about educating professionals and pet owners on the benefits of integrative care. The safe and effective use of medical cannabis in dogs and cats is central to both, Dr. Richter's medical practice and educational outreach. By integrating medical cannabis with other conventional and alternative therapies Dr. Richter has been able to improve the quality of the lives of pets living with medical conditions ranging from arthritis to inflammatory bowel disease to cancer. Dr. Richter has been practicing veterinarian medicine in the San Francisco Bay area since 1988 and in 2015 was awarded the title America's Favorite Veterinarian by the American Veterinarian Medical Foundation.

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  • Website: www.drgaryrichter.com
  • Free Bonus: send an email to bonus@petvetexpert.com

Most Influential Person

  • My wife, Lee

Effect on Emotions

  • It affects my emotions in the sense that I use it to center, particularly at times in my professional life, when things can get intense and stressful. There's a lot of emotion at some times and that emotion can end up getting dumped on the veterinarian.
  • I use mindfulness to help keep me centered and able to focus on what I need to do.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • It's not necessarily something that I consciously think of, but it absolutely is something that helps keep one centered and helps you stay calm and focused in a chaotic and stressful environment.

Suggested Resources

  • Book: The Tao of Pooh by Benjamin Hoff
  • App: No app

Bullying Story

  • Dogs don't bully in the sense that they don't do anything with malice
  • Dogs do have a hierarchy where for one reason or another a dog will feel it needs to step in and play the dominant role, whether they feel threatened or that their space is being invaded. You know you certainly see that.
  • Someone might bring their dog into someone's home and the dog who lives in the home may feel a need to defend their home and then there is an altercation.
  • There is a way to prevent this. If you have 2 dogs who have never met before then introduce them on neutral ground, like to a park where nobody has to feel defensive. That way they can do their own thing and get acquainted so when they go back to somebody's house there is less likely to be an altercation.
Aug 31, 2017
246 Escape The Grip Of Desire Says Buddism 101 Author Arnie Kozak
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Dr. Arnie Kozak is an author, psychotherapist and a teacher of Buddhism. He’s written a number of books about mindfulness, and has recently penned a new book called Buddhism 101: [From Karma to the Four Noble Truths, Your Guide To Understanding The Principles of Buddhism.]  Back in the 1980’s, before mindfulness was as popular as today, Dr. Kozak traveled to India and became immersed in Buddhism and mindfulness. He took the Bodhisattva vows from His Holiness, The Dalai Lama. Now he shares his insights with the world, through his extensive writing and training.

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Most Influential Person

  • Larry Rosenberg (founder and teacher at Cambridge Insight Meditation Center)

Effect on Emotions

  • Well, it certainly has made me more aware of them over the years. People tend to regard me as being mellow even when I don't necessarily feel that way, but it has had a mellowing affect on me. Not to say it has expunged all of my negative emotions like anger. And I certainly write about these things in my books, my mindfulness lapses. But on the whole, it's helped me to be more at peace, more what we call equanimity, just be more accepting of things, to be more engaged with things.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • You know, we really don't need to think about breathing, it's a very elemental process. Although there are ways of breathing that are going to be helpful and beneficial, so if we get very tight and are not letting a lot of air into our lungs then that's going to tend to make us more tense and anxious and feel stressed. Over time, and I've been doing this over 30 years now, I do what you call diaphragmatic breathing, so my natural breaths, my regular  breath is a very deep breath and it tends to slow and when I practice, when I do the meditation practice, sometimes my breath becomes almost imperceptible, just very, very subtle. Usually I know when I'm breathing and everything is slowing and can come back to that. The more you practice the more readily you can come back to that when you're off the mark.

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Aug 28, 2017
245 Communicate Effectively To Build Your Relationships; Jonathan Pritchard
39:36

Jonathan Pritchard reads minds. He’s performed on Vegas main stages, appeared on America’s Got Talent, and entertained troops stationed overseas. He’s considered a touring mentalist. All of his skills are based on applied psychology. And now he’ll take you behind the mental curtain and show you how to use the same psychology in your life. Jonathan is also an expert martial arts instructor. He thinks of the physical practice of martial arts as a moving meditation, much like Yoga. He explains it's all about creating & maintaining healthy boundaries, and being aware of your own thoughts & behaviors.

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Most Influential Person

  • Robert Pirsig (Author of Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance)

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has really helped me not use my emotions as justification for poor behavior. I like to think about emotions more as a barometer for how well my needs are being met. Then, thinking about the needs that are not being met, what's the best way, the best strategy that helps the most people to get what it is that I need right now? Instead of just lashing out or being grumpy for no reason. It's all based on communication skills. The more effectively you can communicate, the easier your needs are met, the better your relationships get.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Oh man, we think we're really good at breathing because it's something we do all the time, but oh lord, we're really bad at breathing.
  • Just focusing on your breathing and doing deep-breath exercises ... breathing is your link between your conscious mind, which is such a small part of your awareness and your physical being that is you.
  • Breathing is kind of the bridge between those two. The more you focus on your breathing, and practice your breathing, the better you get at being in your body instead of feeling like you're just this brain driving this big meat puppet.

Suggested Resources

  • Book: Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
  • App: Google Keep

Bullying Story

  • I definitely was bullied in elementary school. Being quiet, being weird, I was easy prey.
  • There is a guy that used to call me names. I was a very sensitive child so I would come home crying and just kind of learn to endure it. That was the path that I chose.
  • Later in life, I've come to understand that that makes more sense for them than it does me. It says more about them than my self-worth or my ability to do whatever.
  • Understanding that it's not a commentary on my skills, but also really, truly believing that everybody is doing the best they know how even the bully.
  • A lot of times, I feel like a lot of bullies feel like they're doing you a favor. You're weird, you're weak. People are going to take advantage of that so you need to toughen up. So I'm helping you. This is how I know how to help you.
  • Totally misguided, maybe not the most effective way to do it. When you wrap your head around that, you understand that they are trying the best that they know how and in some bizarre leap of logic, they think this is the best thing to be doing right now.
  • That's really difficult for kids to handle. That is a level of awareness and presence that we aren't taught in school. That is not what is culturally approved of.

 

Aug 24, 2017
244 Mindfulness Is Yours With 12 Minute Convos Host Engel Jones
36:31

Engel Jones is all about conversation. So much so, that he set out to break a podcast conversational record. He recorded 1001 conversations in 3 months. He’s host of the podcast – Twelve Minute Convos, he’s an Entrepreneur and Life Coach. He loves helping you create a brand of yours through his personal formula called YOURS, an acronym for Your Own Unique Real Self. Engel is from the twin islands of Trinidad and Tobago, and lives there with his wife, Amanda and their 2 children.

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Most Influential Person

  • Hal Elrod (Author of The Miracle Morning)

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has helped me to become more stabilized.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I stand on my head every morning and breathe deeply. That really brings a peace and calmness and is also great for my back. In situations now, I catch myself breathing as a first response to a scenario, especially those drivers on the road.

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Bullying Story

  • I remember being bullied for a short bit when I was in school. My aunt sewed my uniform to exact spec. It was 1995 and I was wearing a uniform that was designed for the 1960's. I really stuck out because my personality was the same. I would go around the school telling older students, "Hi, my name is Darlington Jones, for short you can call me Darling."
  • The children who were my age didn't really like that, or they didn't understand that.
  • There was this one guy that got strength in bullying me. We were playing football and he would run in and he would hit me or kick at me.
  • I remember coming home and telling my mother, because I'm a fighter, but I was in a new environment.
  • I told my mother what happened and she said, "If he does that again, I want you to let him have it."
  • Getting up in the morning was painful, going to school was painful. I remember having to go to the toilet before I had to go to school because in my mind I was already conjuring up the emotions and the embarrassment I would feel.
  • He did do it again and I did let him have it. It was at lunch time and it was in front of everyone on that side of the block of the school. Now this isn't violent, this is like push off. But I won and mindfulness for me represented the pain that you can go through.
  • So many other people are going through this and you need not to fight. At the same time, metaphorically there are things that you deserve, that you should fight for.
  • Make it easier for yourself. You deserve it, I deserve it.
Aug 21, 2017
243 Creativity Is Essential to Brambleberry CEO, Anne-Marie Faiola
32:22

Anne-Marie is a bubbly, fun-loving, mindful CEO - and she calls herself the Soap Queen. She’s been making soap for over twenty years and loves teaching her followers on SoapQueenTV.com  Her business is called BrambleBerry.com. Anne-Marie lives in the moment, and many of those moments have been spent with essential oils and beautiful colorants in her highly sought-after recipes. Anne-Marie thrives on the truly pleasurable experience of helping others discover their own world of soaps, candles and even cosmetics. She’s written a book called ‘Live Your Best Day Ever’ - Thirty-Five Strategies For Daily Success where she reveals the SECRET everyone wants - the SECRET OF SUCCESS.

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Most Influential Person

  • Oprah Winfrey

Effect on Emotions

  • I try to meditate every day; usually twice a day, morning and night. If I miss it, say I'm traveling, and it just doesn't happen I notice that I am more quick to negative emotions, more quick to judgment, I'm quick to feeling persecuted, I'm quick to feeling the victim, I'm quick to flashing with anger, I'm quick to telling myself a story that is not true about the situation.
  • On the days and weeks when I am consistent about meditating, I think it helps to give me the pause between the situtation and my emotion and the story I'm telling myself.  When I do that, it takes the sting away, whatever negative situation I'm in.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • When I breathe, I'm able to calm my heart rate; I'm able to focus myself.
  • It's almost impossible to be stressed if your parasympathetic nervous system is not having a wildly beating heartrate.
  • So breathing in and out and in and out is something I often come back to, especially in times of anxiety or when I'm feeling stress about something, expecially on planes. Especially when I'm dealing with a four-year-old who won't go to bed, for example.
  • I would say that I am deeply aware, when I'm stressed out I'm more inclined to take shallow breaths that are quick, versus when I'm fully present, deep belly breathing in and out and in and out

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Bullying Story

  • Bullied is a strong word. What I would say is, I was never the popular kid. Kids used to call me thunder-thighs in middle school and then in high school I was not a popular kid.
  • I remember running for student body, I think it was treasurer or secretary and the popular girls tore down my signs from the wall. I felt lonely and I didn't have close girl friends.
  • I didn't have a close tribe in high school or even middle school. I think that's one of the reasons that I have really, as an adult, I can control my environment and my surroundings much more.
  • In high school and middle school you are in the pond and you are stuck in the pond no matter what.
  • I think that's why, as an adult, I have really surrounded myself with a group, a tribe of strong business people; strong women of integrity, strong men of value to spend the bulk of my time with.
Aug 17, 2017
242 Get Rid Of Your Head Trash and Earn The Millions You Deserve; Noah St. John
35:31

Noah St. John is an author, a key note speaker, and a money expert. In fact, he helps people make money who gave up on the idea long ago. Noah is the only author in history to have published with all of the following: Hay House, HarperCollins, Mindvalley, Nightingale-Conant, and the Chicken Soup for the Soul publisher.

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Most Influential Person

  • Louise Haye

Effect on Emotions

  • I grew up very angry and depressed and I was suicidal when I was twenty-five. When I say I was suicidal, it wasn't that I was depressed and considering it, I decided to commit suicide.
  • I remember that moment very clearly when I was twenty-five. I had decided to do it [commit suicide] and I went to do it. At the very last minute, a miracle happened. I can only call it a miracle that saved my life. I tell that story in The Book of Afformations. But then after my life was saved, I said to God, I don't know why you chose me or spared me, but I'm going to devote the rest of my life to serving you and to serving humanity. It wasn't until five years later I discovered Afformations and success anorexia and wrote all these books. It's [mindfulness] definitely played a huge role.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is huge. It's so important. I often say to my clients or on interviews, just the simple act of breathing in through the nose and out through the mouth; it just can't help but center you and bring you into that present moment.

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Bullying Story

  • I was definitely bullied as a child, mostly by my older brother. He was definitely a bully. I know he didn't mean to be.
  • Honestly, he's got some emotional problems we found out later. I just thought he was a bully.
  • Definitely, mindfulness would have helped me because what I realize is that I tried to become somebody that I'm not and I became a people pleaser. I became this doormat that people would and did walk all over.
  • I let so many people take advantage of me. That's one of the reasons I ended up $40,000 in debt and living in my parents basement because I was still letting people walk all over me, letting people take advantage of me, trusting the wrong people, not listening to my inner self, my inner knowing, but listening to all the wrong people.
  • So bullying has had a very big effect on my life. And of course, in a negative way.
  • I think not just mindfulness would have helped, but certainly having tools and skills to stand up for myself.
  • What's funny is that my wife and I recently went back to Maine. That's where my family still lives. I saw all of the things that would have really pushed my buttons before, but because I practice mindfulness and I use my afformations and all the methodologies now, I was aware of them and I didn't let them push me around.
  • I was proud of myself. I realized I guess I've grown and that's awesome.
Aug 14, 2017
241 Cerebral Palsy; Turn Hardship Into Power With Win Kelly Charles
37:00

Win Charles is an artist, a speaker, a disability activist writer, a podcaster and a true inspiration to everyone she connects with. She has cerebral palsy, but she hasn’t let that stand in her way of achieving huge successes. She has a thriving Jewelry Design Business, she’s authored several books, she’s host of a terrific podcast called Butterflies of Wisdom and she has declared 2017 her Year of Warriorness.

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Most Influential Person

  • My Biological Mom

Effect on Emotions

  • My emotions stay steady. I have Cerebral Palsy and so mindfulness has affected my emotions in a good way.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Why are you asking me this question today when I had technology problems? I told myself to breathe and I still haven't got my technology issues solved.
  • I told myself, take a deep breath and that's what I did. I took  a deep breath before I did any of my other stuff because I knew if I didn't do that, it would all go upside down.

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Bullying Story

  • I was not bullied by my school. But I have certainly been bullied by my own family. That's a sad story.
  • Right after my mom died I was bullied and called horrible names by a person who knows better. And, I was emotionally abused at work; not the job that I'm at now but when I first started teaching preschool I was emotionally abused.
  • My family knew what I was going through and they saw the circumstances and I actually lost my job in 2009.
  • I bounced back and I actually got a job at the primary school I went to as a student.
  • My original boss was my principal. That was just weird. The person who taught me kindergarten is still up there teaching.
  • It's weird having colleagues who taught me when I was younger. I've been doing this job since 2010.
Aug 10, 2017
240 Thinkific Content Manager Inspired by Rich Dad Poor Dad; Tyler Basu
28:41

Tyler Basu is a prolific content creator, marketer, and online success story. He is content manager for Thinkific, a widely sought-after platform for creating and selling online courses. He is creator and host of the Podcast called Lifestyle Business Magazine and Publisher of the online Magazine of the same name. He is a contributor to numerous online publications including Entrepreneur, Influencive and Addicted2Success.

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Most Influential Person

  • My father-in-law (I've never seen him upset in my whole life).

Effect on Emotions

  • My wife teases me and says I don't have emotions.
  • The majority of the time I'm very, very calm. It's difficult to upset me because, in the grand scheme of things, most things that happen to me are not that big a deal.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is something that I've practiced. I think it was Tony Robbins or one of those influences that introduced me to that.
  • In the morning or at night, the same time that I'm sitting down to reflect on the day and express gratitude, I'll just take some time to focus on breathing.
  • Even a few times throughout the day, if I need a break, I'll drink some water and focus on breathing. It calms me down before I jump into something else.

Suggested Resources

  • Book: The Morning Miracle by Hal Elrod
  • App: N/A (Pen and paper)

Bullying Story

  • I can think of quite a few stories. I was beat up quite a few times as a kid. One time, I didn't even see it coming. Two other kids were fighting. You know how everyone gets in a circle to watch a fight in schools?
  • I was standing there eating some Skittles and I must have said something cocky or lippy. This was grade 8 or 9, and all of a sudden one of the kids who was about to fight the other kid started to turn around and start hitting me.  And with the Skittle; when he hit my face, the Skittle popped out my cheek and I ended up needing stitches to close up half my mouth for a few days.
  • This is just one example and one of the times I learned to think about what I was about to say before I started to say something dumb that might offend someone. It was a good experience in a way.
  • Me and that kid became friends after that; we worked it out.
  • I'm not saying that bullying is a good thing, but if there's something in your life that's hard on you, find a way to appreciate what's happening, because hopefully, you're getting strong because of it.
  • Your ability to tolerate hardships increases. Business is tough, so if you don't have the thick skin or if you are not willing to make the calls and present your ideas and get shot down; if you're not willing to get out there and still keep going when other people are giving you a hard time or don't believe in you, then you're going to have a really hard time of it.
  • Whatever you can do to develop some thick skin and some mental toughness is generally a good thing.
Aug 07, 2017
239 Flourish With A Focus On Smaller Steps Suggests Nancie Vito
28:08

Nancie Vito is a transformational life coach, public health professional and certified health educator specializing in helping people go from functioning to flourishing. She works with creatives, aspiring entrepreneurs and other professionals who want to get unstuck, prevent burnout and take steps towards what they really want in life. She holds a master’s degree in public health with an emphasis on prevention and mental health and is in the process of obtaining a graduate degree in organizational psychology. Since starting her business Flourish in 2009, she has been mentioned or featured in online publications such as Huffington Post, MindBodyGreen and Marie Claire UK.

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Most Influential Person

  • Corey Keyes (A Sociologist and Psychologist)

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has helped me be much less reactive and much more conscious of my behavior and how my behavior effects others. In general, much calmer.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I love the whole concept. It just brings me back to center, it helps me become grounded. It's something I can do anywhere; on a plane, on a subway. In the middle of a workday I can take some conscious deep breaths and have a change within seconds.

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Aug 02, 2017
238 A New Business Mindset Revealed by Gareth Young
34:09

Gareth Young is an experienced, corporate businessman who decided to transform his life. He did this by undertaking a journey that took him into the unknown. As a result of his explorations into life's meaning, he now feels more connected in his relationships and he feels his life has far more depth than ever before. He explains, 'I've learned a new way of being with people'. Gareth is anxious to share the profound lessons he's learned with the world through his podcast which is called, A New Business Mindset.

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Most Influential Person

  • Nisargadatta Maharaj - Hindu Teacher and Author

Effect on Emotions

  • I used to be scared of my emotions and now I embrace them.
  • My emotions used to be overwhelming and now they're a really, really important part of who I am and I cherish them.
  • Unless you move through this process and experience it, it's kind of counterintuitive because my emotions are much deeper, much richer, and I'm much more sensitive to them.
  • Yet I am much deeper and much stronger and much more able to hold those healthily.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is an enormously powerful practice. If there's a stressful moment, if you intentionally drop your breath to the belly, it slows and stabilizes everything. Paying attention to breathing just slows things down and brings peace.

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Bullying Story

  • I have absolutely been bullied. I was bullied as a mature adult without recognizing it at the time.
  • As a child I was bullied, but nowhere near as much as some kids, but some. I would tell you, mindfulness, would not just help me get through it, mindfulness would have allowed me to see more clearly what was happening.
  • In those situations as an adult, I would have been much more aware of the dynamic in a couple of relationships and I wouldn't have stayed in those relationships. I would have just moved on much more quickly.
  • As a child, it's not just that I would have been able to deal with them better, and survive them better, I would have responded to the behaviour in different ways that would have been much more healthy for all concerned.
Jul 31, 2017
237 Be Present Explains 'Cindy Uncorked' Host Cindy Ashton
44:25

Cindy Ashton is a performer, singer, musical theatre actress and a blast of energy. She inspires people wherever she goes and is known for her ability to entertain anywhere, anytime on the spot. Her natural ability combined with her Second City comedy improvisation experience has a lot to do with this part of her sparkling personality. She studied performing arts, Opera and Kinesiology so she’s all about movement. One of her most recent projects is a TV show called Cindy Uncorked, described as a daring, hilarious and intelligent talk show that tackles important women's issues from a fresh perspective.

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Most Influential Person

  • Madonna

Effect on Emotions

  • I don't get triggered very often anymore. I find that I don't react. I just listen and am present with people and so I don't take things personally.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Constant. I constantly check in with my breathing throughout the day. Am I breathing down into my pelvic floor? Am I dropping into my body? It's about being mindful of it [breathing], 24-7 so I'm present.

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Bullying Story

  • I've been bullied most of my life until the last few years. As a child, after three heart surgeries, leaving scars on me ... I was born with a twenty percent chance of living.
  • The whole left side of my body was structurally damaged at birth. I had to have casts on my legs to learn how to walk. I had a lisp and had to have speech therapy to learn how to speak.
  • I was a very deformed looking kid. So I was always the girl who was ugly and unworthy and beat up on the play ground for being ugly and having scars.
  • By the time I got to high school it didn't stop. I was the girl who could never get a boyfriend. I was too ugly for any man to ever want to date me or be with me.

 

Jul 27, 2017
236 Archangel Event Creator Inspired by X-Men; Giovanni Marsico
32:42

Giovanni Marsico is a connector of superheroes. He is is the founder of the wildly successful Archangel Academy which is an organization bringing together mission-driven entrepreneurs who are making the world a better place. Archangel proceeds go to The Archangel Fund, which is used to provide micro-loans and donations to entrepreneurs and charities making the world a better place. On September 7th, he will again host the Archangel Summit in Toronto, which will unite two thousand passionate attendees who will grow and prosper as a result of their Archangel experience. Included in the impressive list of featured speakers are Lewis Howes, The Shark Tank’s Daymond John, MeToWe’s Marc Kielburger, and Danielle LaPorte. Giovanni is directed, centered and focused as he prepares for these large scale events which seamlessly interweave music, high calibre speakers, and video, to create a masterpiece presentation.

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Most Influential Person

  • Dr. Stephanie Estima / Phillip McKernan / Jesse Elder

Effect on Emotions

  • I feel that I'm constantly growing and being more and more awake and aware to the idea that I am the perceiver of the emotion, the feeler of the emotion, but I can also be the narrator, the actor, the audience.
  • I can be different roles and I can step back and watch this happening and not think that it is me. I am the one perceiving.
  • For me this is really important because I'm not attached to what is happening. The emotions become a guidepost for my intuition giving me messages about what's happening in the moment.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • It's such a simple thing that we all don't understand. I used to suffer from really bad panic attacks and anxiety.
  • Scientifically I learned that when you start feeling adrenaline or cortisol, you actually hold your breath, or you breathe shorter breaths. Then your body kicks in more adrenaline and says, hey, you're not breathing. Start breathing. But then you feel more of a panic and it leads into a panic attack.
  • I remember learning square breathing from a nurse. One of my panic attacks was so bad, I thought it was a heart attack. I called the ambulance. It was just a very deep panic attack. This one awesome nurse taught me square breathing and how important breath is when you're feeling anxiety. It is the easiest way to get centered, ever.
  • Last week at the Archangel Show, Elizabeth DiAlto said, "It's very complicated, just breathe."

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Bullying Story

  • It's part of my origin story. I'm a comic book geek and that's part of the story. When I was in fifth grade, my school did IQ testing which I think a lot of schools do and I was labeled as gifted. I didn't know what that meant, so I asked my parents. They said, you're really, really smart, you have a high IQ. Cool. No judgement.
  • But that year I started getting bullied in class for being smart which is something I can never understand. I remember one day, a bunch of kids ganged up on me and said, 'stop doing so well on your test, you make us all look bad.' I thought, what?
  • I went home crying and now had this negative charge to the idea of being gifted. It was strange for me.
  • Shortly after, I started getting into comic books and I discovered the X-Men. The very first page I opened, there was an image that said, Xavier's School For Gifted Youngsters. And there was that word again.
  • But now it actually meant something different. It meant you had a super power. So now it kind of shifted everything. I fell in love with the X-Men.
  • When people ask me, who's your favourite comic book character? I say, Professor X. I think I'm the only person who says that. Usually people say Iron Man or Batman, or Superman. Mine is Professor X.
  • Since then, I've actually modelled the Archangel business plan after the X-Men. Our Master's group is like the X-Men, a team of super heros that are creating change.
  • The superheros are also teachers for the gifted school, which is Archangel Academy (this program coming out in the fall), and the Summit. I owe everything to being bullied, which led me to the X-Men. If you connect all these dots, I'm here because of all that.
Jul 24, 2017
235 See Into Your Mind With Timothy Carroll
31:29

Timothy Carroll is a leadership expert who, through his study of cognitive behaviour sciences and psychology has equipped himself to coach high level achievers. Also a successful athlete, at only 16 years old he represented New Zealand at Four World Championships as a barefoot waterskier. Later, in 2008, he participated as a performance coach at the Beijing Olympics for a Swedish equestrian riding event. Through his elite coaching, Timothy has helped top companies in Europe greatly boost their bottom line including Schneider Electric Group, Kuwaiti National Petroleum Co, Yellow Pages and Mannheimer Swartling. In spite of all these successes, Timothy is down-to-earth, gentle and generous in his desire to share his incredible wisdom.

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Most Influential Person

  • Dr. Deepak Chopra

Effect on Emotions

  • Well I think mindfulness has helped me to be a much happier and more fulfilled person.
  • I've learned to get on top of my mind and and see in my mind.
  • I'm aware of my thinking process. I'm able to step back from that and not get caught up in all of those thoughts that come up inside.
  • My focus is on the gap between those thoughts. I have a good friend of mine who's a world record holder in free-diving. So he's diving down 120 metres on just one breath of air. And I said to him, What are you thinking about. What's your experience when you're diving down that deep?
  • And he said, well you know, I have this little devil on my shoulder that comes up when thoughts come and go. Sometimes it says, you know this could be the last breath you ever take.
  • When I'm diving my mind will tell me, hey turn around you're going to die. And I don't pay attention to that anymore because it doesn't suit me to dive deep into the ocean.
  • But out of curiosity what are you paying attention to? And he said I'm paying attention to the silence between those thoughts. And the deeper that I dive into that silence, the deeper I dive into the ocean.
  • And that's my experience as well as an athlete. And when I'm interviewing other athletes, [I ask], what were you thinking about when you broke that world record, when you broke that personal best?
  • They all say I was thinking nothing. And so this is the peak performance and if that's what is found when the mind is still, then you've got to make that the number one thing in your life. Learn how to still your mind and get out of the way of yourself.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • We build this internal turbulence.
  • Very often when I talk to my clients about taking the time to just be and challenging them to just sit and be and do nothing but be present with their breath, they find that extremely difficult to sit for even five minutes.
  • The first thing I do is talk to people about literally training in neurology, training your nervous system to be still. It's something that we typically only do when sleeping.
  • To be able to do it regularly on a consistent basis and practice just being, and stopping minding, or doing mind is a great skill. That's what I first teach executives and athletes when we first begin.
  • Your responsibility is to just focus on your breath and if you get lost in your thoughts, come back to it. That's all you are responsible to do.

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Bullying Story

  • Mindfulness and meditation is something that you practice sitting down and its typically in that way.
  • If you look at mindfulness, mindfulness is really around taking that into every moment. so that you practice being super present in every moment, not just when you're sitting for twenty minutes in the morning or in the evening, but you're actually being right here, right now in every possible moment.
  • Bullying for me is a big issue; it's an ego-based problem. Our ego is the part of us which develops. We're pretty ego-less when we're born. Then we develop this mind and self-image and judgements. Deepak Chopra says ego stands for Edging God Out.
  • When we're stuck in our ego, it's very easy for us to point the finger at someone else and project. In psychology we talk about projection, and projecting our unresolved issues upon others or for a young kid who is being bullied at home, then we imitate that and we take it out on other kids at school.
  • I think mindfulness is a huge support for people to step out of their ego and to be able to become aware of their feelings and to breathe through those feelings when they come out. Instead of projecting those feelings unto someone, and hurting that other person, really being able to take full responsibility for what is coming up within that person and then breathe through those feelings.
  • An emotion always has a beginning, a middle and an end and when those emotions come up, and you breathe through them and allow the energy of the emotion, energy in motion; e-motion to move through you.
  • If I had learned that when I was younger, there's plenty of times growing up in an all boys Catholic school in Wellington in New Zealand where kids are mean. And we can see how mean kids can be.
  • There are many times when I was bullied in the past where I would have benefited from [knowing] how to deal with the emotions that come up with that. Definitely people who have chosen to bully would benefit from that too.

 

Jul 20, 2017
234 Your Higher Conscience Is Your GPS Explains Antar The Navigator
38:07

Antar The Navigator is a screenwriter, author and coach. He’s passionate about using his own rocky story to inspire and motivate others to make the best of their lives. In his late teens, robbing banks and drug trafficking became his life, resulting ina six-year prison sentence. While in jail he experienced an epiphany which changed Antar into a person intensely focused on helping others. In his books, Antar teaches you how to reach your true consciousness and how meditation and prayer is a solid way to help you move forward.

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Most Influential Person

  • The Honorable Wallace D Muhammad (Antar was his personal assistant)

Effect on Emotions

  • What happens to us in this life, the body is the cocoon. You can't see what's going on inside me. I look like the same person that you saw last week but I'm not.

Thoughts on Meditation

  • The first meditation I learned to do was Transcendental Meditation and I did it for 20 minutes in the morning and 20 minutes in the afternoon.
  • Then I came up with a meditation of my own. It's astral projection. It's called Bequello. It's an acronym.
  • Bequello is the mantra. It stands for Beyond Earth Quantum Universal Energy Light Laser and Oṁ.  Bequello.
  • You don't concentrate on your breath or your mantra, you're actually on an assignment while you're meditating. You're traveling while you're meditating.

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Bullying Story

  • So I was bullied. Like I said, I grew up with the wrong crowd you know. So we're what they call people of the street, people of the night, people of the vampires.
  • I mean we're out doing things to other people. What people don't realize is that if you are a criminal, or you're a thug or whatever you want to call it, you're living with the murderers, you're living with the rapists, you're living with the gangsters.
  • Other people are scared of these people. We're living with them, next door to them, you know. So [we're talking about] people that are just dangerous people.
  • And there was this one guy; he was the ultimate bully. I'm not going to mention his name because he was so big. He's a totally different person now. I was really young and I was growing up and getting involved in the criminal life.
  • I remember one day I was playing basketball at the Boys Club and he got mad at something. I don't know what he was mad at. I did something in the basketball game and I'm kind of looking the other way now.
  • Whatever I did, he was looking over at the basketball. He's a pretty big guy and he threw it [the ball]. He hit me on the head with it. It knocked me off my feet.
  • I wasn't going to fight him or get into a conflict with him because I was scared of him, and he knew it. A lot of people were scared of him. And he was waiting for me.
  • What are you going to do? Well you know I'm not really ready to do anything. And then he started approaching me like he was going to hit me again. And I'm young and smaller than him and I'm scared to death.
  • And there was another occasion that he looked like he was going to get aggressive on me. He didn't really have to do anything to me. All he had to do was look at me a certain way and act like he was going to get aggressive with me.
  • And those are the only two or three occasions in my life that I could remember where I know that I was being bullied and harassed by this guy.
  • And when I grew up, I decided that I was not going to be bullied any more.
Jul 17, 2017
233 Slow Down Recommends Yokido Inventor, Damion Lupo
31:50

Raised in Alaska, Damion Lupo is part Alaskan, part Texan and 100% Reinvention. He's a four-time college dropout who cut his teeth in the trenches of real life, becoming a self-made multimillionaire by age 25. He's the founder of Yokido, holds a black belt in Aikido, is a practitioner of yoga and a student of Reiki. He's a lifelong student of Austrian economics and runs a precious metals company based in Austin, Texas. Damion spends his time teaching and lecturing on the art of Reinvention with his unique teaching style focused on his personal life experiences and the process for developing consciousness and awareness to the truth. His personal philosophy of self responsibility influences his Yokido practice and his financial theory around retirement planning.

Contact Info

  • Company: Total Control Financial
  • Website: www.DamionLupo.com
  • Social Media: Twitter & FB @DamionLupo

Most Influential Person

  • Frank Allen

Effect on Emotions

  • It, [mindfulness] let me let go of the anxiety, the stresses, the ability to ask what is true. It allows us to let go of the stuff; the beliefs. We peel back these onion layers, and whether that was sitting in an office and chatting or whether that was on the dojo and we're throwing each other around. Always  repeatedly asking that question, you keep going deeper.
  • To me this is what a great coach does or a great therapist; they just hold space because we are our own inner guru.
  • We are all black belts. We have all this stuff in us. What we have to do is find ways to get outside of all of the barriers and blocks.
  • Somebody that's holding space will ask questions to where we start peeking around the corners and we start seeing things and we show up because it's already inside us.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • One of the things that I really hated ago was, years ago, when I was stressed out, when my financial world was really at the peak.
  • At the time I was spending a lot of money, making a lot of money and there was a lot of toxicity going on.
  • And one of the problems was I took a break from martial arts for a couple of years where I wasn't really training and I don't think I was really breathing; very shallow breathing. And so there was a lot of dead air. There's a lot of dead life. There was just nothing going on deep down in my lungs and really pushing through my body.
  • And so one of the things that I shifted to - I started learning about Transcendental Meditation.
  • I started learning how to deep breathe and to really take breath all the way in and slow it down.
  • And it's funny because if you think about this, the world is going so fast. Anything we can do to slow things down, even if it's for seconds or minutes a day, can change everything because we start seeing things. Otherwise we're just running, we're in a rat race all the time.
  • So that was probably the one key thing was slowing it down and being able to focus on that.
  • Literally thinking about my breath, counting my breath. It seems crazy or simple or like you know OK I've heard that before. All right. Well great. How often are we doing it? And that's really the question. How often can we get in that space where we're paying attention to our breath?
  • And that's what I'm doing now more than ever. Back then one of the side effects of not being there, that toxicity, was the anxiety and the stress. And it was causing me to be really nauseous.
  • And typical system answer; hey we'll give you drugs, let's give you clonopin or something.
  • And the breath work has allowed me to shift away from that. So I haven't touched any of that stuff for many many years. But I think if people don't focus on their breath they're going to be stuck in big pharma and a lot of the other numbing agents whether it's drugs or alcohol or these different things and the breath can absolutely solve anything.

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Bullying Story

  • Boys, the amount of bullying that I've experienced. I mean one of the most intense events in my life was when I was in junior high up in Alaska.
  • I had a kid come on the school bus and he pulled a 357 pistol out into my head and said he's going to kill me. And that's a pretty intense bullying experience.
  • Not very many people know that I had that experience. And it's I think that was one of the things that made me feel like I need to be able to be in the space where I can do something; that I'm not going to be a victim.
  • And so now, one of the things that I train on is is being able to move gently around that type of thing. So if that were to happen [again], if somebody were to pull a gun on me or to pull a knife or whatever, I'm naturally, instinctually going to move around it. And I'm going to deflate or de-escalate the situation.
  • And those type of events didn't just stop in junior high. When you're out there disrupting and that's what I tend to do because I don't follow systems very well. I tend to say this is a bad idea, which makes people crazy that are really focused on protecting their system.
  • I tend to disrupt a lot which pushes the system back on me and I'm OK with that because I'm doing it for something that is more impactful and freeing people in pretty much every case these days.
  • So I've had lots of different pushback from people telling me I was crazy. In 2010 for example I was on a a campaign and I was volunteering and I got fired as a volunteer. So that tells you how bad of an employee I am.
  • And after this thing happened I was watching the Internet and I noticed people were saying that I had been fired. And so there were these anonymous trolls that were out there and this happens on Facebook. I mean people are sadly committing suicide. Kids are committing suicide when this stuff happens. It's horrible.
  • And my experience was just this onslaught of people being negative and just attacking me, telling me how terrible of a person I was. And I was defending it and I finally said, wait a second, let's just be honest. What happened? I got fired. I wish that I had quit.
  • And that was one of the moments I realized I had to just be with the truth and the truth was I was a terrible employee. I didn't follow the rules I was trying to break the system because I wanted to win. And I just acknowledged it and that was a big step I think in the right direction, acknowledging the truth. It was allowing and I can take that and redirect it.
  • And that's one of the principles of Akido. It's being with the energy and allowing it. You can redirect it but you're not going into it. You're not fighting it. And that's a very common thing when we think about conflict.
  • We don't think about turning and blending with something and accepting it and saying thank you for it.
  • We think about saying no you're wrong and I'm going to get into a fight and I'm going to win. I'm going to beat you. And that usually doesn't end very well.
Jul 13, 2017
232 Choose Goodness and Meaning With Tommy Breedlove
33:09

Tommy Breedlove is the founder of Choose Goodness, a company dedicated to helping executives and entrepreneurs focus beyond the financial bottom line. By empowering leaders, Tommy bridges the gap between humanity and profitably. He transforms organizations to

attract and retain the best and brightest people, create a loyal customer base and promote goodwill within their communities. Choose Goodness provides both the rational and emotional perspectives to the strategic and financial decision making process.

Contact Info

  • Website: choosegoodnessnow.com
  • Email: tommy@choosegoodnessnow.com
  • Twitter: @choosegoodness
  • Facebook: @choosegoodnessnow

Most Influential Person

  • Nancy Vedo

Effect on Emotions

  • It made me from a fear-based to a loving-based person. I start with love now 90 percent of the time as opposed to a fear based mentality.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Oh. Breathing is my mindfulness so it starts there and goes back there no matter what. If I find myself in a planning mode or remembering mode or a future mode, I always go back to the breath and start with the breath.
  • Also have gratitude for your breath because at the end of the day it's actually what keeps us alive.
  • And so breathing to me is everything. And so it's everything about how I live my life and in the choices that make it. It starts with the breath.

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Jul 10, 2017
231 Practice Non-Attachment For Mental Health; Scientist Dr. Russell Jaffe
43:08

Dr. Russell Jaffe is scientist who is certified in Clinical and Chemical Pathology. He has more than 40 years of experience contributing to molecular biology and clinical diagnostics. He has spent his career searching for deeper wisdom and insight into how humans can enjoy better

health. Being incredibly curious and yet skepical, he set out to prove that many holistic forms of health and healing systems were not particularly valid, or at least not scientific. Instead, his discoveries changed the direction of his career and he became deeply engrossed in the study of Traditional Chinese Medicine, acupuncture, meditation, homeopathy and manipulative arts.

Contact Info

  • Website: DrRussellJaffe.com
  • Online Book: Perque.com/alkway
  • Health Tests: Betterlabtestsnow.com

Most Influential Person

  • Bonti (My Mentor)

Effect on Emotions

  • Well I would like to think that I am a bit more kind and compassionate. My experience is that emotions are now like the weather. They affect me. I am aware of them. I watch them because for me it's a dynamic of engaged non-attachment; engaged with what I'm doing, this conversation for example. But nonattached to the outcome and therefore able in fact more than able, willing and practicing the art of living. And if you want to fully be in the moment and feel the fullness of the moment, practicing non-attachment is very helpful for mental health.
  • You can easily get overwhelmed with the emotions. That's the astral level of life. But then there is an electromagnetic level or an astral level and maybe beyond that a spiritual, or soul level. And in my tradition as well as in my science, all of it is grist for the mill, all of that is part of the art of living.
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  • Non-Attachment Leads To Compassion Suggests Scientist Dr. Russell Jaffe

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Our breath is a refuge. That's a classic Buddhist concept. What that means is that when most people feel what's called fight or flight response, some of us practice the third way which is fortitude.
  • So yes we can flee, yes we can fight. But both of those are afflictive and harsh. The other choice is fortitude. Fortitude means being calm in the midst of everyone else's turbulence. It means letting your breath engage you as the witness of your life because when I say non-attachment I mean that as we're having this conversation part of me is watching me and us have this conversation, this communion, this connection, this meaningful moment.

Suggested Resources

  • Book: The Science of Breath by Swami Rama, Rudolph Ballentine, and Alan Hymes
  • Book: Active Meditation: The Western Tradition by Robert R. Leichtman, Carl Japikse
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    Your Meditation Practice

    • I had the great good fortune of just doing it. I was told to take twenty minutes, twice a day, and be. And during that time of twenty minutes, I should just repeat the sound that I was given, it was whispered in my ear.
    • There was a whole ceremony. It was lovely in the sense that it heightened my attention to that particular sound for me. What I did was the lowest of the low tech versions.
    • I picked one place. I sat there for twenty minutes twice a day and I learned to measure approximately what twenty minutes was without any device.
    • I have no problem, if you want to set your phone to tell you when the time that you allot has passed so that you don't have to be preoccupied with whether its going to be nineteen, twenty or twenty-one minutes.
    • The essence of meditation is to be, to be with your breath, to be with a sound, to be with an image, to be with whatever it is that you are inclined to be with.
Jul 06, 2017
230 Relax With Winefulness Suggests Jordan Cowe
36:13

Jordan Cowe is a certified wine educator, a meditator, and co-founder of Be Wineful. Jordan is one of approximately four hundred people worldwide to achieve the designation of Certified Wine Educator since its inception in 1977, becoming the youngest to do so in 2015. Jordan has taught at 

conferences and events across North America spreading interest in unique and unknown wines. Jordan has also suffered for many years from Panic Disorder and agoraphobia [a fear of going outside]. His desire to succeed in the world of wine and live a happy life led him to create his system of Winefulness. He is now dedicating himself to spreading happiness, joy, and relaxation with wine.

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Contact Info

  • Company: Be Wineful
  • Website: BeWineful.com
  • Facebook/Twitter: @BeWineful

Most Influential Person

  •  Steve Abma, my therapist.

Effect on Emotions

  • I've become much calmer, much less reactive, so I don't experience anger. Well I do occasionally, but it takes a lot. But I mean I don't experience much anger. I don't experience many extreme emotions. I'm just always pleasant and happy.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is essential. You're always breathing so you always have your breath with you.
  • If I'm in an environment where I start to get worked up or start to get stressed out, I can always come back to my breath and I can just shut out everything around me and just focus in on the breath coming in and out of my nose.
  • I can meditate in the middle of a crowded building at this point. I can sit down on a bench in the middle of the casino here. We went for dinner the other night, I freaked out and I just sat on the bench in the middle of all these people. I was able to go into meditation and I used the breath.

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The Science

  • Bruce: So Jordan what's the science behind this? Is there science that tells us about the combination of wine and mindfulness. What is the science?
  • Jordan: Well it's a mix of things. I mean the sensory side of meditation is very important. So as far as mindfulness meditation it's ability to help many things, that's been widely spread.
  • As far as anxiety, high stress, as far as depression, mindfulness fits there. Now the one thing that has been noted in the past, especially for people with attention deficit disorder which is me, hence why I can get distracted easily. Typical breath, focus, and things like that doesn't always work well.
  • I get distracted very easily and they get frustrated. So having another method into meditation is very useful for them. So I mean obviously in a clinical environment they're not going to be using wine, they're going to try and come up with other systems.
  • For somebody who needs a stimulus that's intense to keep them on track, that's a wonderful side. The other side of it is, wine from a science point of view, for the meditation itself. Obviously a slight bit of alcohol does allow people to loosen up a little bit. It allows people to be open to new ideas. It allows people to accept something different. It puts people into a very happy and relaxed mode for the most part to begin with.
  • The other cool side about wine, as a wine science point of view, it is one of the only fruits where when you ferment it, the complex sugars and the complex organic compounds, they break down into things that smell like other things.
  • When you ferment a blueberry or a peach wine, they smell exactly like blueberries or peaches. But because of the way yeast evolved it can actually break down some of the other more complex components of wine. And so when you pick up a wine there can be hundreds of different aromas emanating from that glass.
  • You're giving somebody something in front of them where there's so many possible reactions and there's so many things in front of them that it forces them to open up to the stimulus. So you just give them one aroma, they smell and they're done.
  • The brain can shut off where you have them sit there with the wine, like up their nose and they're smelling it. They just sit there with it. It's constantly changing.
  • There's constantly new things happening in their brain. It's triggering new memories, triggering new emotions.
  • You can sit there for 15 minutes and your brain will always have a new stimulus. That's the important thing for me.
Jul 03, 2017
229 Listen With Your Body, Mind, and Spirit With Sharon Carne of Sound Wellness
34:23

Sharon Carne is passionate about the healing power of sound and music. She has developed stress reduction programs making use of the healing power of sound. Sharon has produced sound healing recordings and is frequently invited to speak for corporate and private events – many of them based within the medical community. Sharon also has written a book called, “Listen From the Inside Out”.

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Most Influential Person

  • My good friend Tina and also my sister.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness calms my emotions so much.
  • That deep breath is one of the first places you go to. Then whatever situation I'm in, whatever the mindfulness tool I bring in. A sound or an internal sound. One of my favourite things is to listen to the bird songs as I go on my walks. That's my mindfulness walk. My mindfulness meditation.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • The breath brings me right back. It always does that.

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Bullying Story

  • We had quite an experience in our own family with our older son.
  • When he was in grade 7, he moved to another school. About six of the kids who were his best friends in grade 6 in the previous school were in his group at school.
  • Our older son has always been my teacher for integrity; since he could speak. At that age of grade seven when you're twelve or thirteen and peer pressure becomes an important part of the social milieu and so he would say, I'm not going to do that, that's not right.
  •  He started getting bullied, which ended up after several months with an enormous amount of angst. He was crying himself to sleep at night and he came home one day and said, mom, I'm not going back to school.
  • He was just vibrating with stress and frustration and anger. He actually hit a kid, which is why he said he was not going back to school. I said, OK.
  • Another of his friends was being homeschooled at that time so I called his mom and said, what do I do. She coached me on what to do and so I called the school and said I was taking him out to be homeschooled and explained that every intervention I've tried had not worked.
  • So, it was one of the things that really helped Will, whenever he was really super stressed, it would affect his stomach.
  • I found a CD. It was called Chakra Chants by Jonathon Goldman. I said, just stay in bed, Will. I know your stomach's hurting and this is psychological hurting so it was real.
  • I would put the CD on and he would come down sixty minutes later saying, I'm all better, Mom. It was amazing.
  • It helped him so much, having it in the background and encouraging him to allow the sound to do it's work, even though he wasn't focusing on it.
Jun 29, 2017
228 Fear Is Not Real Explains Salt Water Buddha Author Jaimal Yogis
34:44

Jaimal Yogis is an author and teacher of creative writing. He is widely known for his best-seller, Saltwater Buddha, a masterpiece novel and documentary film which tells the story of a young surfer’s spiritual journey as he experiences monasteries, meditation and mindfulness as part of his fascinating search for eternal truth. His most recent book called ‘All Our Waves Are Water’ is to be released in July. Jaimal skillfully uses the sea as a powerful metaphor to explore questions about the nature of the true self.   

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Most Influential Person

  • My mom. (She always did Yoga and meditation daily).

Effect on Emotions

  • I think mindfulness has enhanced the good emotions and it's helped me let the bad ones go.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is my mindfulness practice. The breath is always there. It's something to focus on and it's just so pleasant, just taking a breath and being there with it. It's amazingly rich.

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Bullying Story

  • In the surfing world, a lot of people think of surfers is like really peaceful, zen dudes, but it gets pretty tense out in the water sometimes.
  • I actually had a story in Saltwater Buddha about a time when I was surfing in Santa Cruz and it gets really crowded and I was just I  in my intermediate level of Surfing.
  • I got a great wave, I got a barrel when I got inside and that was one of my first waves like that. I was feeling really confident and got a little overconfident and I dropped in front of a guy on my next wave.
  • That's sort of the biggest faux pas in surfing. When you drop in on someone it's dangerous but it's just an etiquette issue.
  • A lot of beginners don't realize this and if you break rank essentially at one of these uber competitive surf breaks like in films like North Shore and Point Break you know you can really invoke wrath.
  • I did that and and the guy was a young local guy who just started spewing all kinds of invectives and every four letter word and then some. This was for maybe 45 minutes. This guy wouldn't let it go and I kept thinking, should I get out of the water or should I apologize.
  • I ignored him and eventually I was pretty seething inside. It was mindfulness that really brought me out of it.
  • There was a point where he was shouting all these homophobic obscenities at me. I remember seeing his neck bulging and his face really red and I thought the fact that he was really suffering in this situation. He was the one who had no control over his anger. I was suffering too.
  • It was sort of a mutual situation. That little thought of compassion switched me out of it.  I wasn't quite as offended. I almost felt a little bit of compassion to this guy who clearly had no anger management skills.
  • I breathed and I remembered a Zen story where a Samurai is seeking an advice from a Zen master and he goes to the Zen master and he says, Sensei, teach me the difference between heaven and hell.
  • The Zen master says why would I teach a cretin like you? You're an uneducated Samurai. This is a high teaching. I wouldn't stoop to that level.
  • This is a very respected Samurai.He picks up the sword and he's about to slice the the monk and just as his eyes are bulging and he's about to drop his sword, the Zen master says, wait.
  • He says, that right there is hell. The Samurai thinks about it and he realizes that he's been given this great teaching and he realizes that his emotions got the best of him. Then he bows to the Zen master. (Hear more on the podcast interview).
Jun 26, 2017
227 Release Weight and Body Shame; JJ Flizanes
35:41

JJ Flizanes is an author, coach and podcast host of The Fit 2 Love Podcast Show. JJ is vibrant and determined and she’s a great connector of people. She’s currently been working on her newest book, The Invisible Fitness Formula: 5 Secrets to Release Weight and End Body Shame. Today she talks about left brain, right brain, accountability and the topic of shame. 

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The Conversation...

Bruce: JJ's currently been working on her newest book which she says is her best. It's the invisible Fitness Formula: 5 Secrets To Release Weight and Reduce Body Shame. Tell us more, JJ.

JJ: This book is a culmination of 20 years of work. It is the simplified version, the nuts and bolts, the proof and the science on all levels; science of body, science of mind, science of the spirit. science of biochemistry. It's so vast. Of the five Secrets, three of them are uber scientific and the other two are very spiritual, psychological and mindful. It 's all in the emotional piece.

It goes from one extreme to the other and that's that's who I am anyway. I'm the left and right brain person who is going to bring in both sides because both sides are important. I think a lot of times most of us have our strength in one of those sides. We're either very creative and expressive but we lack structure.

Then we have the structured people who are very frustrated and unsatisfied because they lack the outlet of creativity and emotional expression. I am an empowerment strategist and I combine those two and help people find the balance and use both sides in order to really live your life to the fullest.

Bruce: How can we help to integrate our left in our right brain? Tell us more details about how this can work for us on an individual basis.

JJ: It's important to understand and identify your strengths and weaknesses.  Then you're going to know how to ask for help or guidance and to know what pieces you need to implement so if you know that you're a creative free spirit; unrestricted, not linear kind-of-person ,then you're very right right brained.

So what that means is you need structure. It's like masculine or feminine .it's always said that the masculine is the riverbank and the feminine is river.

If you know that you are a creative person and you know that you have creative thoughts ideas and yet you can't implement, you're not very linear.

Structure is what you need and so finding systems, finding people to keep you accountable, finding methods that follow a plan, and again I'm going to really stress the keeping accountable part.

The people that are left-brained or accountable they will get their stuff done.

What they need help with is uncovering some of that emotional creativity. A lot of left brain people are very controlling they need to learn how to let go and how to be spontaneous and how to the expressive and to do things that don't color in the lines.

First identify which one you are. I know there are some tests online t o figure that out. Besides just testing your brain's left or right brain percentage, you can also take a strength finders test.

I really love the Strengthsfinder's 2.0 test. The basic one is about $19.99 for your top 5 strength and that will also give you information about what it is that you are really good at. It will also find what is it that you lack.

There's no shame in acknowledging who you are.

If you continue thinking you can do it all and that you're built to do it all, you stay frustrated for a really long time. You'll wonder why can't I do this?

You're not built that way. Can you learn? Sure, but most likely you just need support in adding those elements into your life but they're not your strength.

Bruce: What can we do to be more organized, more right brain?

JJ: I create accountability for anything I need help with. So let's say if you need to be organized, whether it be hiring somebody to come in with you. I mean it could literally be a friend to come sit with you and talk with you while you're cleaning. You designate on your calendar just like a personal t raining session or coaching session. For this hour this person will come or maybe talk to a person on Skype while you get your work done. You can have a friend or family member sit with you.

You can make it fun. My husband's clued into how to get me to clean the garage or my car or do yard work. He knows the right music to put on because I listen to very specific Latino kind of music.

When I hear that go on I know he wants me to be in a good mood. Sometimes there might be a cocktail involved and there's always music.

You create an environment which creates less resistance. But I would say the most important thing about that is accountability.

Bruce: Let's talk about body shame. Tell us about this?

JJ: I'm a big fan of the late, Dr. Marshall Rosenberg's work which is non-violent communication. What he says is that should is the most violent word we use.

we have an idea of shoulding. You have this idea that, I should be able to do all these things. I've done the same thing, I have a good capacity of a left and right brain. I learn very quickly. There are many things that I can learn to do so I just do whatever.

What I've learned is, even if you're really good at a lot of things and you can do all those things, it becomes a life lesson of, is this really the best use of your time. I would say for a lot of us that's just a life path.

You do all those things because you think you should or because you can and then you see the results and you say, alright it's working and if it's working then you keep doing it but if you spend all this time and you're frustrated and your brain hurts and you feel stressed out, then it's not working. Ev entually you're going to say, I can let this go and I can hire someone else to do it.

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Jun 22, 2017
226 Stop Pinching Yourself Off With Negativity Says Allison Sutter
25:12

Allison Sutter is a contemporary spiritual teacher well known for her ability to seamlessly blend spirituality and practical self-help teachings. She does this in such a way that she makes spirituality relevant to daily life. Allison has created life-changing digital courses that serve students in over 32 countries. Mindfulness is a central focus of her life everyday - that’s how she is so powerful in her ability to help others. She resides with her husband and 3 girls in Chicago.

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Most Influential Person

  • My mom. (She died when I was twenty but she still influences me).

Effect on Emotions

  • I understand what my emotions are. I understand they're our guidance system so I can bring myself back into a place of feeling good which opens up this mindfulness aspect which gives me all the present solutions that I need for positive transformation in the situation that I'm in.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • As much as I possibly can on any given day, whatever I'm doing, I can use mindful meditation in picking clovers from the grass or I can be sitting trying to connect with spiritual guides or whatever it is.
  • Feeling the depth of the breath and feeling the expanses  going into it and finding, in a good way, the abyss below which is connected to everything I guess you could say.

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Bullying Story

  • There's a story every single day in every school system around the country where one child is so disconnected from who they really are. They come at another kid with a vengeance every day.
  • For my own girls, what I do when they come home with these stories, first we talk about the fact that the person coming at them is disconnected from who they really are. They're so angry, jealous & upset at whatever they got going in their life. It's causing them to feel and act in a particular way.
  • First we center them and then we say, what do you think.  Whether it's an immediate friend of theirs or something they witnessed. Are you a bystander in this? Are you helping? So we talk about the situation itself and how they can center.
  • From this place of center they can make a decision. Every situation is different.
  • Last night my daughter got some text messages which caused her to cry and it was about a school project. We talked about how the child sent these from a place of disconnection.
  • If you disconnect and just come at them, it just complicates the issue. Helping them center themselves and just go out into the world as an example of how you center yourself.
  • One person who's centered can literally be the wave of positivity that brings the others into their spirit of influence.
  • Negativity doesn't last forever and it's not who we really are.
Jun 19, 2017
225 A Place Called Earth Founder, Cameron Brown
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Cameron Brown sold or donated 99% of the things he used to own back in 2016 and proceeded to embark on his latest project known as ‘A Place Called Earth.’ He travels the world, coaching & training people on how to make a greater positive impact. Cameron also creates short films and music that has reached millions of people across the globe, inspiring positive change on a personal, social and environmental level. Cameron believes part of his purpose is to assist in the evolution of humanity and our planet. He is a songwriter and anti-bullying advocate, having written and performed, Close To The Edge, a wildly popular anti-bullying anthem known across the world.

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Most Influential Person

  • Eckhart Tolle
  • Dr. Wayne Dyer

Effect on Emotions

  • I still get frustrated; I still get annoyed. There's still these things that play out.
  • Being a human isn't about saying I just want to be happy all of the time. It's about allowing yourself to experience the full wave of emotions.
  • That's what's beautiful. You can't know a beautiful day without a really cloudy, rainy day. You don't know light without dark.
  • Life is a sea of contrast. I look back to my teenage years when there were a whole lot of dark times. My life could have gone one way or the other. I could have ended up in a really bad space long term.
  • I'm extremely thankful that I found personal development and emotional intelligence, mindfulness and all the other pieces that make up allowing yourself to experience what it means to be a human and be aligned to why you're here.
  • The moment you can notice and understand you are not your thoughts, you can allow your emotions to flow through you, not get stuck in you.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I don't even know if I consciously do it anymore. A number of different breathing strategies that used to take conscious awareness to actually do them, there's a framework that I use at the moment which is having unconscious incompetence, which is not knowing that you suck at something, to having conscious incompetence which is, ah, I know this, I suck at this. Conscious competence is, I can do it, but I need to focus, to then being unconsciously competent which is I can do it with my eyes closed.
  • It takes time in the beginning to build in new strategies and patterns of behaviour, whether that's breathing, which it used to be for me to being able to allow things to flow through, to knowing why it is that I'm experiencing it. Having the awareness around that, having the emotional regulation.
  • Whatever the pieces are, it's about knowing and understanding that for a period of time there's going to be a feeling of incompetence and feeling like you're not getting it. Until you move to conscious competence, and actally been to unconscious competence, that's where it becomes part of your identity and this is where a lot of people fall short.
  • Because they build a habit, but it's still conscious competence in the strategy that they're trying to implement. They think they've got it and they focus on something else and they cycle back because they didn't allow it to be an unconscious pattern even when they've got their eyes closed.

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Jun 15, 2017
224 Be Aware of Your Energetic Vibrations Suggests Simon Crowe
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Simon Crowe coaches and mentors inspiring people and helps them come alive. He takes people on life-changing adventures into their heart and soul and helps them connect to their deepest purpose. These adventures are both metaphoric and physical, with Simon traveling to Africa recently with groups of his clients. His passion is creating partnerships with influential entrepreneurs, leaders and humanitarians and co-creating visions that positively impact the world.

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Most Influential Person

  • My wife, Stacey

Effect on Emotions

  • To me, an emotion or a feeling is a word that we give to an awareness of a vibration. Why that's important to me is, I've been reading a book called The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer and what I appreciate about the book is he talks about our emotions. If we're scared of them then we live our lives trying to protect ourselves from our emotions and we create this incredibly crazy complex life full of emotional interactions.
  • If we can just see our emotions as energy, they don't mean anything to who we are ... that distinction between our higher self and our ego-driven mind.
  • What I find myself doing now when I feel strong energy, I try not to label it as a particular emotion. I let it rise up in my heart and my chest. I let it find a way out. Almost like letting the gas bubbles in a bottle escape.
  • If I suppress it or try to change my behaviour, or change the external world in some way, then all I'm doing is keeping that locked in. And so it just keeps returning.
  • How mindfulness has really helped me is, I've become much more aware of those energetic vibrations. I've got a completely different relationship with them now. I get less fearful of them and I now allow them to arise in their energetic form and not connect to the stories that I hold around those energetic vibrations, those emotions, and just watch them pass.
  • I feel so much more resilient and able to deal with situations.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I have a series of affirmations I say every day and one of them is, I breathe deeply into my belly.
  • I had a yoga teacher one who said, if men just breathed properly into their bellies, then 90 percent of the problems we go to therapists around, would be solved.
  • The breath is a fundamental connection.
  • When I'm meditating that's what I use as my focal point.
  •  I bring my awareness and my attention to my breathing. Breath is something which opens me, which expands me, which connects me to the greater cosmos.

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  • Book: The Art of Living by Bob Proctor
  • Book: The Unteathered Soul by Michael A. Singer
  • App: ThinkUp: Positive Affirmations & Motivation (Precises Wellness LLC)

Effect on Emotions

  • There were times when I was a young boy when I was guilty of bullying other people.
  • I realize that when I was twelve or thirteen, I would pick on the kid in the class for whatever reason.
  • Whatever this person was being singled out for, whether they wore glasses or they looked different, or were from a different background. I would just join in the name-calling and didn't give a moment's thought to the experience that poor person was having and what the impact may have been as to what they thought or felt about themselves.
  • It felt very selfish. But that's only on reflection. I didn't feel selfish in that moment, I was just doing what everybody else was doing. It's because I didn't have that awareness.
  • There were two things going on, there was the action I was doing and there was the ability to think about and assess whether those actions are ones that I really want to be engaged in. Whether it's something that they would have the impact that I would be proud of and now I'm slightly embarrassed to have to tell this story.
  • It was a complete lack of mindfulness, of awareness in that moment.
  • I was just behaving automatically. It was just really ignorance. I hadn't given it a moment's thought.
  • Now with the awareness I now have as an adult, I think that was just really poor behavior.
Jun 12, 2017
223 A Fully Rich Life With Benjamin Foley
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Benjamin Foley left a 6-figure job in management consulting after being almost destroyed by anxiety and depression. He knew he had only 2 choices; to change his life or to remain on the same path and be destroyed. Fortunately he made the decision to take action and change his path to become a writer and entrepreneur, immersing himself in a healthier lifestyle with a focus on mindfulness. He is now the founder of Fully Rich Life, a blog that is focused on helping men decrease stress and anxiety, find more focus, and be more present. He also writes for various top-rated publications including NY Observer, CNBC, Thought Catalog, and Medium and is read by over 200,000 readers a month on topics including anxiety, healthy eating and mindset. Benjamin also helps businesses tell better stories with strategies that are truly authentic. I am thrilled to share this time with the inspiring, prolific writer, Benjamin Foley.

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Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has helped me understand them [my emotions] and has helped me detach from the stories that they tell.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing has made a huge difference. It's helped me stop panic attacks years ago and now it helps me gain energy when I need it.

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Bullying Story

  • I was a bully growing up, especially in elementary school. Mindfulness would have been so huge.
  • Living and growing up in a very, very conservative, Christian environment is probably a lead driver of a lot of anxiety in America. I felt like I had no control at home because I didn't really believe what they believed so they didn't accept me.
  • I needed to be accepted by somebody. I needed to be powerful over somebody.
  • Mindfulness would have been huge, just understanding that we're all kids and we're all part of this thing that we call the human condition. You're not better than them.
  • We kinda had a gang in elementary school and we thought we were more important than we were, for third graders. I spent a lot of time in the Principal's office. Definitely not something proud to look back on but something that ...
  • I love working with kids now.
  • There is nothing I can do to change the past. Like we talk about in meditation and mindfulness, we can only be here.
  • And so what can I do today to be the best that I can and make today better than yesterday.
Jun 08, 2017
222 Find More Joy and Less Stress With Pompe Strater-Vidal
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Pompe Strater-Vidal is a Zen Sensei, an artist and meditation teacher. She studied art at the San Francisco Art Institute and at Anderson Ranch in Colorado and is trained specifically in Shodo, the Japanese Zen art of brush calligraphy. Pompe is hosting her third Relax and Breathe Summit. This is an on-line event featuring 21 experts speaking on the theme of 'More Joy and Less Stress'. Each guest shares specific techniques to help you release tension and reduce stress. Participants who sign up will receive an email each day over an 11 day period with insights into mindfulness practices that don’t require an extensive yoga or meditation background.

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Pompe Speaks ...

  • These days, being a Zen artist always makes me laugh because you can have a Zen bathroom. Zen has become an adjective for simplicity. Someone that I invited to one of my summits, said, 'you really ARE a Zen artist'. And I said, Yes, I'm trained in Shodo, which is the Japanese form of brush calligraphy.
  • I was trained by my Roshi, my Japanese Zen Teacher. Before I became a Zen Monk, I trained in Shodo.
  • I've been an artist my whole life. My father was an artist, so I picked up a brush at a very young age.
  • I love art. For me, art is something that is very joyful and makes me happy. I use my artwork in all my on-line presence. I do my inspirational posts every week, which I get a lot of joy out of.
  • Shodo is about being spontaneous. It's about being in the moment. It's about taking the practice of meditation into an activity into an art form. You use your breath; you breathe it in, you hold your brush, you breathe out and you draw your character for each stroke.
  • It's about letting go in each moment as you're actually creating something. You're using your breath to help you let go. The Zen arts are all meditations.

The Tea Ceremony

  • I did the Tea Ceremony with my Roshi. I am not trained to do it myself.
  • It's about sharing the present moment in a ritualized way. It's the same kind of thing; it's done as a meditation. It's done with a level of awareness and presence and it's very Japanese so at any moment the rules can change and you really don't know why.
  • You're drinking Japanese Tea as you do this. You're drinking Matcha, the frothy Japanese Tea that's become popular and it's very healthy. It's powdered tea and you just whip it with a whisk. Matcha tea has caffeine in it. They say that when you absorb caffeine from tea it's healthier for you. That it does something differently to your nervous system. I'm not an expert, but I am a tea drinker.

Thoughts on Caffeine and Mindfulness

  • I just did an interview the other day with a friend of mine who is returning to 'Relax And Breathe'. She's a nutritionist and a health coach. I like to have people like this on 'Relax And Breathe' to discuss exactly what you're talking about.
  • She talks about the link between nutrition and awareness and health.
  • It's easier to be in the present moment, especially when you're first working with it, when you're in optimal health; when you're feeling good.
  • That said, the purpose is not to only be mindful when you feel good. She was talking about caffeine as one of the big addictions that is in our culture now.
  • The problem with it is that you do get dependent on it and it depletes your adrenals. I'm not an expert in that, but I do know for myself, I have a very sensitive nervous system. I am a deer. I am the kind of person that if you drop a book behind me, my startle response is very high.
  • More About The Relax And Breathe Summit

    I have people with diet, one person who's creating a Monastic Community, I have Yoga Teachers, DavidJi is returning again. I have a wide range of guests. I like to be able to expose people to a lot of different ways to use awareness and to use mindfulness in their life. It's completely free and it airs in June. June 5th to the 16th, 2017. Everyone offers a free gift which is usually some kind of training, pdf, audio or video. Sign up Here.

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Jun 05, 2017
221 Adjust Your Sails With Joel Brookman
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Joel Brookman has a deep passion for using his expertise learned in the trenches of Wall Street, to guide others in their journeys. He is a Certified Financial Coach and Personal development expert focused on helping people clearly articulate their life's goals and then move on to achieving them. Joel’s experience is working as a Senior Executive for a Fortune 100 Wall Street firm. Presently he is committed to helping as many people as possible through his podcast, ‘90 Second Navigator’, a show which offers practical ways to become crystal clear on what you truly want in life. Joel is a firm believer in mindful breathing; he ends every episode focusing on the breath.

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Most Influential Person

  • Eckhart Tolle

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has made me a much calmer person. Meditation and being able to separate myself from my life situation has done amazing things for me and has reduced my stress in the process.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Every morning, the first thing I do when I get out of bed is I sit and I breathe. I try to do it somewhere between five and ten minutes and just clear my mind. Before everything comes in; before the day starts, just get grounded. And that's just focusing on the breath and just letting everything else go.

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Bullying Story

  • I was fortunate. Personally, I didn't get bullied. I don't think I was a bully. I could have been nicer to a few people over the course of my life.
  • The mindfulness part should play a role [in bullying situations].
  • If you can separate yourself from what is happening. In other words, if I am this person who is being portrayed by the bully and I see myself there, then the bully is winning.
  • But if I rise above it, and through mindfulness understand that I am bigger than my life situation; if I can get beyond that, then that can change the whole dynamic.
  • It's a challenge with children, I notice this with my own kids, getting them open to mindfulness between ages 10 and 18, it's tough to do. I talk to my children all the time about it and I always wonder if there's a better way to deliver it. I'm not sure I have the answer to that. There's no escape on social media for kids or teachers.
Jun 01, 2017
220 2000 Books To Improve Your Life by Mani Vaya
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Mani Vaya has been meditating for 20 years. He started in his teens because of what he describes as ‘a major failure’ in his life. Mani is a former Physicist and Electrical and Computer Engineer who went on to manage cell phone product launches which were sometimes billion dollar projects. He has since moved on and is now the host of the '2000Books' podcast, interviewing top business and self-help authors. Mani reads 7 business and personal development books a week and talks about all the great ideas he learns from these books on his Youtube channel and podcast which can all be found at 2000books.com.

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Most Influential Person

  • Tony Robbins

Effect on Emotions

  • My emotions are much more well-managed. They are not so up and down.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • There are instances every few days where you can feel overwhelmed, frustrated or confused. A simple breathing technique that anyone can do is just, breathe in to the count of 5 and then breathe out to the count of 10 and that is a very powerful exercise because it gives control back to your parasympathetic nervous system; to your pre-frontal cortex and away from your limbic brain.

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Bullying Story

  • I have always been scrawny. In college, I was the shortest kid. Thankfully, somehow I grew taller after that. I'm still skinny.
  • Yeah, there was bullying in my college days and people made fun of me and people physically bullied me because I was the smallest kid. I did not use mindfulness to deal with this.
  • I was resentful of the guys who treated me this way. I tried to avoid them and I kind of hated those guys.
  • I don't think I was understanding enough at that point to be able to use any kind of mindfulness to deal with this. I chose not to dwell on this as I look back in my life.
  • There are so many failures in my life, but I want to keep on programming the right story to myself.
  • I feel like I bully myself sometimes because I realize this goal [a certain goal] didn't get accomplished. That's what I call self-compassion towards myself.
  • There's a great book on this topic by Kristin Neff on self-compassion. Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind by Kristin Neff.
  • I feel like I have so much to accomplish that I don't have the time to reward myself [for small accomplishments]. I do go down to the beach here in San Diego and those are very rewarding moments.
May 29, 2017
219 Get Unstuck; Learn How From Shira Taylor Gura
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Shira Taylor Gura is an expert at helping people get unstuck. She’s a well-being coach and author of ‘Getting unSTUCK  - Five Simple Steps to Emotional Well-Being’ and she believes fear and desire are huge factors causing people to feel stuck. Trained in Psychology and Occupational Therapy, Shira uses what she’s learned in those areas and through personal experiences to help others. She is a firm believer that it’s important to learn to give your brain a break and she helps others through her blog, keynote speaking and on-line course.   Shira lives with her husband and four children in a small community in Israel.

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Most Influential Person

  • My two Aunts who practice mindfulness.

Effect on Emotions

  • I don't think mindfulness has affected my emotions at all.
  • I think my emotions are my emotions and they're going to always be my emotions. I'm going to always be completely full of emotions till I die. I think what mindfulness has done is learn how to react to my emotions; how to allow myself to feel my emotions instead of run away from them and trying to resist them and cover them up.
  • This practice has helped me to say it's okay to be emotional.
  • You have emotions, then feel your emotions, you're human.
  • Now take responsibility and see how you're going to be in the world with those emotions.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is the anchor to be present. When I'm teaching a yoga class, I encourage my students to make their breath audible. When they hear their breath, it's a reminder to come back.
  • That's basically what the whole practice of mindfulness is. It's constantly coming back to this moment.
  • If we're living in the past; if we're living in the future, we're not being mindful.
  • The breath is an awesome tool that you carry around with you; it's directly under your nose. You can use it anywhere. Nobody knows that you're using it and it anchors you into this moment.

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Bullying Story

  • I would like to share a story of how I was actually bullying myself. This is something I find myself doing more often than I would expect.
  • I was in a situation where I needed to be out of my home and my husband wasn't going to be around. I have four kids and my three older kids also weren't going to be around. I needed help with my six-year-old.
  • We live in a very small community and oftentimes our kids are inside other people's homes and we're constantly kind of co-parenting. It's very common and it's very fun and it's easy.
  • So I picked up the phone and I asked one of my friends if they could please watch my son whose six. Just for one hour .... (tune into the interview to hear the rest of the story).
May 25, 2017
218 Laugh, Learn and Awaken With JP Sears
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JP Sears is a deeply spiritual thought leader with an intense sense of humor. You may have experienced his mindful comedy if you’ve seen any of his viral videos focusing on essential oils, the joys of being gluten intolerant, being vegan, the wonderful uses of coconut oil and more. According to his book, ‘How To Be Ultra Spiritual’, we’re taught that he was sent to our planet by God-fearing atheists to create videos to share hidden secrets only being revealed now, after the passing of centuries of time. I am thrilled and delighted to welcome JP Sears to the Mindfulness Mode podcast.

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Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has allowed me to embrace [my emotions] more.
  • I don't know that my emotions have changed from mindfulness, but my relationship to my emotions has changed for the more intimate.
  • For the first couple of decades of my life, I was mostly numb. So much was going on under the surface that I was unaware of it rationally. Also emotionally I was unaware of my emotional realities.
  • Mindfulness helps me acknowledge what is, and I think the old Zen path of contentment; accepting things as they are without the need to change that and without the need for them to be otherwise.
  • I'm not perfect, I'm clumsy at best, but it's [mindfulness is] a nice help.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Oftentimes I'll have a post-it note [on my desk] that just says breathe.
  • I think breathing is a fascinating biofeedback tool. It tells us what's going on in our body but what's more important it tells us what's going on in our mind and maybe even in our relationship to what's beyond our mind.
  • When I notice my breathing being shallow, caught up, I'm taking things too seriously, I'm getting stressed out. That's my mindfulness cue to become more mindful.
  • Becoming mindful of my lack of mindfulness is a powerful step to becoming more mindful at core levels so noticing shallow breathing. I feel it in my neck. It's just so obvious when we just remind ourselves to look for it so breathing helps me become mindful of my lack of mindfulness.

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Bullying Story

  • I think bullying is severe abuse disguised as 'just the way it is'.  We're looking to free kids and honestly adults too, but looking to free kids from this sort of silent secrecy that we consent to where it's like I am trapped by bullying and I can't tell on anybody because that means I'll be bullied more.
  • Kids need a way out. Life is too short to not be free.
  • Telling a child, well, just be yourself and don't worry about it; that's amazing advice but functionally useless.
  • Children need more help because this is a real issue present day. It would just be a joy if, in a short amount of time, we just wake up and this is not an issue anymore, find something else to spend your time on. That would be amazing.
  • I did have experience with bullying. As a kid I wasn't constantly picked on by any means, I won't pretend that was my case but there were definitely times when I was being bullied and this feels crummy.
  • The biggest one that stands out was, I was on the football team in the first year of high school.
  • It was my freshman year and before school started we were in the weight room and one of the older guys just started belittling me.
  • Honestly, I went into a shell for the next two years. I didn't really comprehend that I was going into a shell because I felt so much shame. I wanted to avoid being shamed like this again.
  • I couldn't recognize that at the time, but now that I look back it's like, wow, I did that.
  • I was living in an avoidance posture which [caused me to] become way more introverted than I actually am. Way less outgoing than I actually am.
  • In other words avoiding being authentic. Did I avoid some future bullying reoccurrences? Maybe, but what it really cost me was being myself and probably making connections with a lot of other people.
  • Then also there were times, not often, but certainly some times, that stick out in my mind where I was acting bullying out on other people.
  • At those times I would use humor to hurt people. It's sometimes easy to do that. The easiest laughs are always the cheapest and most hurtful.
  • Because everybody's laughing, sometimes even the person I'm hurting is laughing. It's easy to, in the moment, convince myself that we're just having fun. It's like, no. Looking back I can realize, I'm acting out a sense of power over this person to compensate for how powerless I feel inside.
  • I think any time someone is bullying someone else, it is a hurt person trying to hurt someone else so that they can have a temporary sense of escaping their hurt.
  • Psychologically, if I can make you the hurt one, Bruce, then for a short amount of time, I believe that you're the hurt one, so I'm not the hurt one. I don't have hurt because, look how much you're hurting.
  • Honestly, the times that that would happen, I developed so much shame about that, that I hurt someone else, that it taught me not to do that. I think there is such a thing as healthy shame.
  • Healthy shame [is when it] feels so crummy to do this that painful shame is a great teacher to not do that crummy thing again.
  • It helps teach us to do it a better way. Shaming people has taught me not to shame people. It's really taught me well; the power of how to use humor to help, not harm. How to use humor to acknowledge and heal pain and accept it, rather than project pain, which is to reject pain and trying to get away from it inside.
May 22, 2017
217 Use Mindfulness To Gain Power and Opportunity Suggests Pamela Gold
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Pamela Gold is a deeply spiritual and insightful thought leader. She’s been called a Modern Day Yoda, providing deep wisdom and inspiration to all who have an opportunity to connect with her. Pamela’s childhood was spent on the family farm in upstate New York and later she graduated from Yale University; entered the business world and met success at the young age of 24.  After pausing to have a family, she then co-founded West Village Parents and went on to pursue her passion for fitness and wellness. Yoga became a new focus in her life and it connected her love of philosophy, science, psychology, and wellness, and eventually led her to discover her life's work: teaching inner peace as the key to our greatest evolution and ultimately, world peace.

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Most Influential Person

  • My kriya yoga teacher, Yogacharya Don Abrams, affectionately called "Don Baba".

Effect on Emotions

  • The more mindful we can be, the more we have a buffer between how we originally were going to react and how we chose to respond.
  • Feeling angry, feeling sad, feeling our emotions ... that is never bad. Those feelings are always teaching us something; it's always an opportunity to learn.
  • The question is, how do we handle them? What are we going to do with that energy?
  • So, the more mindfulness that I have, the more power that I have moment to moment.
  • As I get triggered, I can use that as an opportunity. Own that opportunity to learn and to grow instead of pushing it out, blaming someone else, reacting in a way that's destructive to someone else.
  • At the end of the day, our relationships are based on trust so if we act out of these negative emotions and blame someone else for how we feel, we're going to be undermining the strength of our relationships.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing and our mind go hand in hand. On my website, I share a breathing guide. While we sometimes feel that we can't control our minds, we can always control our breath.
  • One of the things I learned in yoga school, and that I've played with and refined, is how, by focusing on different parts of our breath, we can kind of control and hack how our mind is handling something.
  • By keeping our breath even, we keep our mind even.

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Bullying Story

  • I think every child is going to face time when people are unkind. Someone is putting their own feelings ahead of someone else's.
  • Everything that I've learned up to this point has influenced my parenting. My children come home with stories about times when people are unkind.
  • One of the mantras I've taught them has been that it is never cool to be rude or to be unkind as they face, perhaps another child that is excluding them and being unkind and perhaps trying to make themselves feel better by being unkind.
  • Using this awareness that, no matter how imperfect we are in any given moment, you always can learn from the situation that you could have handled something more skillfully, with more grace, with more compassion yourself. But if someone is being unkind to you, that's on them.
  • When I was in fifth grade, I had a friend .... it was the end of the year party and there was this whole thing where we weren't going to have the party at her house, we were going to have the party at our house. I started to see that she was getting her feelings hurt, so I told her what was going on.
  • I kind of betrayed the confidence of my other friends in doing so. Understandably, my other friends were upset with me. That spiraled into some of my friends being very cruel and it was very hurtful.
  • At the time I didn't have the awareness to recognize that I could have done things better. If someone's being cruel or unkind, that's on them.
May 18, 2017
216 The Messengers Documentary Is About Story Explains Filmmaker Niel Guilarte
31:00

Niel Guilarte is the owner of Wild Style Media in Tampa Florida, which is an award-winning, high-end video and production company. Niel is also host of the All Things Post podcast, founding member of the Florida Podcasters Association and co-organizer of Podfest Multimedia Expo with Chris Krimitsos. Niel is also a podcast launch coach and speaker

Message from Niel to Mindful Tribe: You Can Do Whatever You Want  To Do. My biggest life lesson was someone telling me, you shouldn't do more than one thing. NOT listening to that advice is why I am currently enjoying some of the best days of my life. Please don't ever give up on what you want to do. Be mindful of how you do it, but do EVERYTHING that you want to do.

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Most Influential Person

  • My father

Effect on Emotions

  • I think I control them better now because I'm mindful of my emotions. Before, I let my emotions control me a lot.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • That's [breathing] a new one for me. I just recently started doing that; controlling my breathing, closing my eyes, counting to 10, those type of small simple steps. It really calms me down. I never realized [the difference].
  • I apply that [mindful breathing] now; late at night when I'm editing I sort of balance myself and then I keep moving and that's been working great.

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Bullying Story

  • When I was a kid I was jumped a few times for liking and doing the things that I do and being told I should only focus on one thing.
  • I was bullied verbally and sometimes physically, as kids are. Back then we didn't know that's what it was called.
  • As much as people shouldn't bully, the amount you allow is sort of in your power. This is where I rely on the Christian side, making me a stronger man so that I tolerate less bullying. I allow a little less in.
  • That doesn't mean that people don't force themselves, but people tend to not bully you as much when you have a certain level of confidence about yourself.
  • When I worked for the police department, I learned that you are somewhat the reason you got robbed because you had your head down or you were distracted. You give clues to people to harm you.
  • If you walk like you are a confident person, and you walk alert, you are a little less likely to become a victim.
  • I say in life, if you want to be bullied less, ordered around less, manipulated less, be more confident in yourself and in what you believe in whatever that is, then you'll be less likely to allow it.
  • It is to some degree, a little bit in our control; not all of it. Just a little bit.
May 15, 2017
215 Protect Your Heart and Give Value Says Nicholas Kusmich
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Nicholas Kusmich is one of the planet’s most successful and well-known facebook Advertising experts. He knows exactly how to help businesses scale revenue by using FB advertising to get more clients. He has his own unique system called “Contextual Congruence” which is based on his deep understanding of human mindset and social behavior and consequently what triggers people to click on an ad and eventually buy. This translates into the fact that Nicholas Kusmich has a deep and profound understanding of mindfulness. Nicholas has recently written the book: GIVE: The Ultimate Guide To Using Facebook Advertising to Generate More Leads, More Clients, and Massive ROI.

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  • Life Experience

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has 100 percent affected my emotions.
  • I believe emotions are part of life and I think emotions are designed to be experienced in the fullness of it.
  • So when I'm angry, I'm angry; when I'm happy, I'm happy. I'm not trying to suppress any of that.
  • Being mindful; being aware that I'm not in the best of moods right now definitely allows you to prevent you from doing things you probably would regret and allows you to process those emotions a lot faster so you can be back into the state that you want to be.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • For the longest time, I didn't think breathing was all that important to anything.
  • In reality, I think in the times when I literally need to slow down, I literally slow down my breath.
  • I take some conscious breaths rather than unconscious breaths. In doing so, I find that it definitely affects everything about how I feel about slowing down, about getting to the pace that I need to be at, at that time.
  • Breath and spirit are the same word interchangeably in the Hebrew and the Greek which I find completely fascinating.

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Bullying Story

  • I'll talk about bullying in the sense of having people try to persuade you to do something you don't want to do.
  • Bullying from the perspective of not everyone liking you and having something to say about that.
  • My whole life, even to this day there are a lot of people that don't like me and they have the internet to share that with others.
  • For the most part, I try to ignore it. I think feeding on that type of energy is not something that would serve me or others.
  • I just try to take a few steps back to try to be mindful of the situation.
  • I think, a) is there truth to this? And b) Is the person that's speaking, vile to me, maybe there's a reason that has nothing to do with me. Maybe it has something to do with a life situation or a hurt they're going through.
  • There's a quote that says: "Hurt people, hurt people." I do my best to see the greater picture of things and realize it's probably not personal and there may be something going on with that person and also, maybe there is a lesson to be learned.
May 11, 2017
214 Feel Comfortable in Your Own Skin; Muscle Prodigy Co-Founder Jaret Grossman
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Jaret Grossman is highly skilled in guiding and advising others. In fact, he’s in a personal development league of his own, which is way up there on the upper echelon of spectacular business consultants and mindset coaches. Jaret’s brilliant insight is illuminated in many of his Youtube videos which have received over 30 million views. Jaret is known as one of New York’s best wrestlers, he holds a law degree, and he also has a health and fitness brand called Muscle Prodigy. Jaret has written a book called Cracking The Code, which has helped thousands of readers get their lives on track.

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Most Influential Person

  • My parents / Tony Robbins / Max (a wrestling mentor) / Parker (College Wrestling Coach)

Effect on Emotions

  • When you get to a point you realize that you're doing the same patterns over and over again. Then you realize that it's painful.
  • It's only when you learn to break free from the patterns that you'll experience peace. The only way to do that is mindfulness. Being consciously aware of; I feel this thing and I normally do this. Why?
  • The real root is the why. Why are you doing it? Is there a reason? Is it serving you? Is it not serving you? If you really dig deep, the layers of the why ... there is this breakthrough moment that it's like, why? And you can shift it. Then you can start implanting a new pattern that's more beneficial to you.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Most of us breathe shallow and into our chest.
  • It's a shortened breath and that's usually the same breathing as someone who is anxious & tense all the time. Fear driven. It's shallow breaths.
  • If you could do the reverse where as you breathe deep into your belly, now you're going to be much more relaxed and calm.
  • When we talk about alpha, it's about alpha male, alpha female. It's really coming from brain waves. Alpha is actually an alertness with a calm to it also.
  • That's sort of the mode you want to be in on a daily basis. That's when you're in control; when you're alert but you're calm.

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May 08, 2017
213 Social Media Mindfulness With Melinda Wittstock
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Melinda Wittstock is an entrepreneur, journalist, and wonderful example of a mindful person. She runs a company called Verifeed, which uses story and true authenticity to help engage and convert new customers. She not only keeps her company running smoothly, she’s also a traveler, dog owner, and incredible mom. While keeping all these balls in the air, she has a regular routine that includes meditation, exercise, ample sleep, and a generous amount of time with friends.

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  • Website: www.Verifeed.com
  • Special Offer: Free Consultation With Melinda Text the word 'Tribal' to 44222 We will help you find your believer tribe. This is for anyone wanting to learn more about how to use Social Intelligence to advance their business.
  • Email: info@verifeed.com

Most Influential Person

  • Trish Whynot, Therapist. Also Brene Brown, author.

Effect on Emotions

  • Level. Like not being guided by emotions. Realizing that emotions are not me. Thoughts are not me, they're passing things. I don't feel like I'm ruled by my emotions. I'd like to think of mindfulness as consciousness.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • That's huge. Just being able to relax and being observant and in the moment. Breathing is critical.  Ujjaji breath is a type of deep breathing I got into through yoga. With the 'Whole Aponopono' I've been doing there is a kind of box breath, where you breathe in and you hold it and then you're breathing out and you're holding it and it becomes meditative.

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Bullying Story

  • I was the kid who was different in every way you could possibly imagine. I was the first kid to have divorced parents in my neighborhood and it made me very sensitive.
  • Some of my report cards say that I would just cry. Well, of course, because my whole life was just crazy back then.
  • I was also the tallest kid and kind of skinny. I competed in figure skating which meant that I missed a lot of school. So I was different on these accounts.
  • I used to get bullied and I used to have this sense of shame like there's something wrong with me. The issue with bullying is that it can last.
  • Speaking of limiting beliefs, that's the kind of thing that you can carry with you for your whole life.
  • It can leave you with the sense of 'I'm not enough' or 'I can't do it'; even if they're unconscious thoughts. These things sometimes happen very subtly.
May 04, 2017
212 Transforming Lives With The Kindness Diaries Host, Leon Logothetis
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Leon Logothetis is a global adventurer. He left behind the life of a stockbroker to break new ground and experience new discoveries. He’s now visited more than 50 countries and traveled to every continent on the planet. When anybody says the word kindness, I literally think of Leon - He’s the host of a terrific TV series called ‘The Kindness Diaries’, which has the subtitle; One Man’s Quest to Ignite Goodwill and Transform Lives Around the World. Before that, he had a show called the 'Amazing Adventures Of A Nobody', which follows Leon on his adventures travelling in America, The UK, and Europe on just $5, $5 pounds or $5 Euros a day. The bottom line is, Leon is all about kindness and helping others and of course that connects directly to the subject of mindfulness.

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Most Influential Person

  • A teacher I went with on a journey to India a couple of years ago.

[show-notes-influence]

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has affected my emotions by enabling me to become more balanced and more centered.  And by enabling me to make better decision and not be so reactive.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I never really realized the importance of breathing until I started doing mindfulness.
  • Often we forget, it sounds silly, but we forget to breathe.
  • I notice now as I give this talk, I'm actually breathing very shallowly. That's not good.  When I breathe as fully as possible, it kind of invigorates me.
  • Breathing is a really powerful and important part of mindfulness.

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Bullying Story

  • As a kid, I felt very disconnected. At school I was bullied very badly. I had very few friends. I would go to school and feel profoundly alone.
  • Not just the kids were bullying, but the teachers as well, which I could never understand. It was very disempowering.
  • I made a commitment to myself that I would do my very best never to disempower someone but to empower them.
  • When it comes to kindness, people at school specifically were unkind and I didn't understand. I thought, why are you doing this to me? Why are you behaving like this?
  • I made a commitment that I would give back to people, come from a place of love. That's really how it all began.
  • I could have dealt with this bullying better by sharing my pain with my parents and with other people that loved me, and I never did. Not until I was 16 or 17. When I started to share it, things started to shift.
May 01, 2017
211 Change Your Thinking, Change Your Body With Lucia Ferraro
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Lucia Ferraro is a people person; passionate about connecting, learning and growing. One of her specialties is weight loss and her mission is to build a community of women (and men) who have experienced sustainable weight loss by fostering good relationships with food and their bodies. She’ll help you use the power of your mind to change the way you think, so you can change the way you feel. Lucia has created a summit called Change Your Thinking, Change Your Body which will feature 28 speakers who focus not only on how to take care of our bodies, but how to have a healthier mind and spirit.

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Most Influential Person

  • Tony Robbins

[show-notes-influence]

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has helped me. The emotions that stand out are always the negative ones.
  • In this space that I'm in, I've reconciled just by talking to my mother's picture. I reconciled our relationship that I didn't see. I realized my role and responsibility in that.
  • Mindfulness has shifted everything even though she's passed. It was a moment of surrender. I released my mother from that.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I breathe when I take time to meditate and I definitely breathe when I'm walking.
  • I will put on a certain song or instrumental music and I can focus in on my breathing and my tempo. I find that important even when I'm teaching my class.
  • There's a way to do it, like when we do abdominals. I'm always telling people, 'hold your abs like I'm going to punch you in the stomach'.
  • There's something about the way you need to breathe so that your body performs the way you want it to perform. Oxygen needs to go to your muscles so that you can do an aerobic activity

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Bullying Story

  • I personally wasn't bullied by an external source but I certainly bullied the crap out of myself.
  • It was the 'not enoughness' things. It was the quest for perfection. And the 'why can you get to that?'
  • I needed to attend to the self-care of me because I realized that I would be able to parent better and also take care of Lucia. I modelled what that needed to look like to my children.
  • I bullied myself in the thoughts; the thoughts were thugs.
  • The thoughts that could come up and nurture me, were pushed down for sure.
  • Everything comes down to nurturing and honoring yourself.
Apr 27, 2017
210 Purposeful Millionaire Success Story with James Nowlin
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James Nowlin is a successful businessman, author and mindful entrepreneur. At age 26 as a corporate attorney, he walked away from a six-figure practice as an attorney to start his own business, Excel Global Partners. Later he faced the challenge of dealing with the economic downturn, but forged ahead, becoming even stronger and wiser while growing the company to greater successes. In 2012 he barely made it through a near-death drowning accident on a stormy lake while kayaking with a friend. That was a major change-point in his life and he has not only become stronger, he now helps others live lives that are more purposeful, abundant, and epic than they ever imagined.

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Most Influential Person

  • Dr. Robert S. Brown (University of Virginia College Professor and Mentor)

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has affected my emotions in such a way that there is control. In business, I feel that I had a competitive advantage when it comes to negotiating because I bring mindfulness to the table. (See Thoughts on Breathing below).
  • So mindfulness is not about ignoring emotions or putting those emotions in your pocket, it's about controlling things for the situation. For me, it's manifested itself in such a way that I can take control of the situation and end up being in the position of power and the universe and others respond to me because of my control of those emotions.
  • I bring mindfulness to everything that I do in order to, not ignore emotions, but to tap in to a higher purpose and a greater understanding of how emotions can serve us. They can serve us very poorly or they can serve us very well. I want my emotions to serve me well.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • When somebody wants something out of a negotiation and I want something out of a negotiation, I will take a second at that boardroom table and breathe, to inhale for ten seconds, to hold it, to exhale for ten seconds.
  • To slow down my thought process and to move from the reactive which is in the emotional part of the brain to the rational side of the brain.
  • By doing that I am elevating the conversation and I'm changing the tone that I'm speaking in and the other person elevates their conversation and I'm changing  their tone. So the entire conversation changes.
  • Mindfulness in traffic means breathing as well. When someone cuts me off now, I can laugh, instead of wanting to curse or flick that person off. I even talk about road rage in the book and about distracted drivers.

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Bullying Story

  • Mindfulness started for me at a very young age. The bullying taught me to be mindful.
  • Being in a household in which some of the circumstances were just dreadful forced me to be mindful. I didn't know what it was called back then but I knew that if I spent time alone, if I closed the door to the room, and if I just sat in silence, that something about me changed.
  • The vibrations within my body and the vibrations within my mind actually changed.
  • That practice has translated into other areas of my life including when I went to college I had the opportunity to study under Dr. Robert S. Brown who is a mentor to me to this day. 
Apr 24, 2017
209 Hug Your Bully To Your Heart Urges Lily Wong
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Lily Wong is a teacher, podcaster, and a world traveler who strives to find ways to give back. Her life’s journey has been fascinating and she continues to add shimmering layers to her experiences. Her Chinese podcast called, Learn English So You Can Travel has been downloaded more than 20 million times, and is recorded in her native language of Mandarin. Her newest podcast is called ‘Fly With Lily where she shares bits of her life’s story so listeners can benefit from her beautiful story-telling abilities.

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Most Influential Person

  • Dr. Wayne Dyer

Effect on Emotions

  • A lot of people might be jealous of my life right now because I can do whatever I want and I can go wherever I want but travel is not always so sexy. I find [I can be] very negative or very anxious. I was constantly looking for a place to stay and when people tell me, oh sorry, Lilly you can't stay here anymore because my parents are coming to visit, you need to find your own place. That message makes me feel very anxious; makes me feel not loved. I think mindfulness makes me feel like I can recognize these messages. They can be a trigger to my past. I can work on that next time when I hear the same thing. How do I transfer; how do I make it different?

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing - I haven't thought about that. Especially breathing during meditation where they ask me to notice my breathing. I also like to practice yoga as well. I notice that I kind of held my breath when I practice yoga. Then I ask myself to breathe more; to enjoy the air when it's morning. Breathing is kind of like a tool to help you to live in the moment.

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Bullying Story

  • When I was a teenager I was at the lowest point in my life because I was so focused on myself and I constantly liked to beat myself up. I wanted to; I liked to beat myself up. Then I wrote a lot of suicidal messages in my journal. I felt I was in the dark. I felt really good to beat myself up.
  • When I was a student I got all straight A's and I worked really hard but deep inside I was not happy. Several people liked to pick on me. They called me names and they tried to hit me.
  • They wanted to do stuff to me and I was scared but I also found myself fearless at some points because I was already beating myself up. What worse could happen? It was that mindset that helped me avoid physical abuse.
  • After a few years, I learned that people who bully people; they are actually the biggest bullies to themselves. They say mean stuff to others in order to make them feel good. In my head, I was judging people and I was judging myself too. I'm much better now; I don't judge people so much. I can really tell whether my message is from my ego or my intuition or from love.
  • If you've experienced a bullying in your life, I want you to hug those bullies in your heart. Try to be nice to those bullies in your heart. Try to see them as your family in your heart.
Apr 20, 2017
208 Hurtful Experiences Can Lead To Nuggets of Growth Says Jared Angaza
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Jared Angaza is a philanthropist, philosopher, and all around mindful individual. He has an amazing ability to create brands, innovate, and think outside of the box as a way to help people and organizations he believes in from the heart. And Jared truly has heart, beyond what most of us can imagine. He loves to discuss consciousness, culture, andscience. Jared is the host and creator of the Inipi Radio Podcast. The Inipi ceremony is a type of sweat lodge; a Lakota purification ceremony, and one of the Seven Sacred Rites of the Lakota people. It is an ancient and sacred ceremony of the Lakota people and has been passed down through the generations of Lakota. We talk a lot about philanthropy, science, consciousness, politics, and culture.

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Most Influential Person

  • Lau Tzu and also my daughter

Effect on Emotions

  • I am a passionate dude and have always been that way. Consequently, I've struggled with rage and angst. Being mindful has helped me to step down off that. People like Pema Chodron have taught me not to take the bait and to step down from that rage, and not to kill it, not to squelch it, but to learn to transmute it into love.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Yes, [breathing has been part of my mindfulness] probably most over the last year. I had this chant going on in my head, I don't really know where it came from. It was, 'find your breath'. It was coupled with this other mantra which I deliberately put together of, 'In this stillness, I am'. So 'in the stillness I am also able to find my breath and to become more still. Right now I'm practicing counting my breaths as I'm meditating which has helped a lot.

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Bullying Story

  • I don't think I was ever directly bullied in the traditional bully sense. However, I was ostracized at times because of my creative nature; because of not doing well in school.
Apr 17, 2017
207 The Future of Happiness With Amy Blankson
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Amy Blankson is a happiness researcher and consultant. She has worked with Google, NASA, and the U.S. Army and also served as a professor in Oprah’s Happiness course. Amy has been acknowledged by two former U.S. presidents for creating a
movement to activatepositive culture change. Increased technology can interfere with our efforts to be mindful and Amy’s recent book entitled, The Future of Happiness [5 Modern Strategies for Balancing Productivity and Well-Being in the Digital Era], addresses this issue head on.

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Most Influential Person

  • Chandra Moyer, Life Coach

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness calms my mind and helps me to be able to deal with deeper emotions in a more measured and thoughtful way through balance and just being able to take a step back and see myself from the outside so that I can choose a different path for myself.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is crucial to my mindfulness. Breathing is something that I tend to stop doing in the moment when I get stressed out. I don't even realize that I am getting more and more anxious and intense. Because I'm an anxious person naturally, breath is the absolute most essential key to helping me to get oxygen into my system so that I can think clearly and straightly. It's amazing and super important.

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Thoughts on Breathing

  • A couple of weeks ago I was at the Wisdom 2.0 conference in San Francisco, and by far the best speaker that I heard at the conference was Jewel, the singer-songwriter. Jewel talked about how when she was younger; she had a lot of family trauma going on in her world.

  • Alcohol, abuse, parents in and out of her life and it led her to being rough and tough and she wound up, at the age of 16, living out of her car for quite some time till her car was stolen.

  • It was one thing after another of awful things happening to this poor girl who didn't have a lot of support in her life at that point. She stumbled upon mindfulness and meditation at that young age as a way to deal with this world around her.

  • She talked about how she found herself in the dressing room one day where she was trying to steal a dress and she was trying to hide it under her clothes by stuffing this dress that she found in a store window. She loved it. She was stuffing it into her jeans pants and trying to put a big jacket on over her outfit because she just felt this was something she couldn't live without, and it would make her world so much happier.

  • It was a lovely white dress that made her feel clean again. As she was doing that, she looked into the mirror, and she realized who she'd become and how it had recreated this cycle of poverty and this systemic violence and thought pattern that she didn't want to have in her life.

  • She said that she felt like she had gotten to that place in her life through mindfulness. Even at that young age there was so much going on in her world; the ability to step back and see herself from the outside really created a different perspective on her life.

  • She talked about how she was that bully. She was the individual who was trying to protect herself from so many things entering her world and encroaching on her own sense of self-efficacy and self-worth that she reacted and responded.

  • I think that really spoke volumes to me about how she was able to come to that place of awareness. I think it's not always such an elevated story. We often hear young people who are going through the bullying process, and you try to steal yourself against the bully.

  • Mindfulness really makes me think about how the bully can transform.

Apr 13, 2017
206 Love Yourself Says Can I Pick Your Brain Host, Daniel Gefen
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Daniel Gefen is an online entrepreneur who has had crazy, wild successes. He seemed to know what he wanted at the crucial times, how to hold out and when to moveon. Yet, he’s also had times in his life when he felt burnt out and unsuccessful. Daniel truly knows how to connect with people and how communication can help you and can boost your business.

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Most Influential Person

  • Rabbi Gersey

Effect on Emotions

  • When I'm in a mindfulness space, so my emotions are calmer. Mindfulness doesn't necessarily take away an emotion, but it kind of calms it down. It makes the emotion just a little bit more manageable.
  • So a person could be really angry and you can get into a mindfulness place and it doesn't mean the anger's going to go away.
  • You have a right to be angry sometimes. There's reason to be angry. The difference between being angry and out of control and [rooooooar] I'm just going to smash everything down and I'm going to break relationships and I'm going to regret things that I do and then there's [deep breath], I'm feeling angry but it's okay.

Thoughts on Breathing

There's a few things I would say about that. Number one is, scientifically, the more we breathe, and the deeper we breathe, the more oxygen we get. First of all going through our blood and to our brain.
Scientifically that by itself biologically calms the body down. It's impossible for the body not to calm down when you just breathe deeply and you slowly let it out, like when you breathe and breathe and breathe, the body just feels calm. The other thing that breathing does which is really good is it gives you time to respond and reflect. A lot of times I might be in a situation where I kind of just ... the classical example is the one I gave [earlier] when I could have just opened up the door to my house and just gone in, would have literally head-butted the chaos.
I would have just gone 'boom' and it would have been reactive. It would have been an argument. It would have been a fight. And there's fight or flight. It would have been a fight, or me just leaving the house because I just can't deal with it. Instead of the fight or flight, I was able to create a space of time where I just became aware that I don't need to fight and I don't need to flight [sic].
I could just be in the moment and bring, through my energy everybody else into the moment with me, into my calm. In other words, you can either be pulled into someone else's chaos or you can pull them into your calm. You try to pull others into your calm rather than let others pull you into their chaos.

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Bullying Story

I was bullied in high school. I was bullied emotionally. I had this big mole on my face and it had hair growing out of it. As you can imagine, as a high school kid, that's not fun. All the kids would point at it and make fun of it.

They'd call me spider face and all sorts of names. My teeth stuck out and they would call me Goofy. When I got braces I was made fun of for that. I was actually kept down a year for my misbehavior and also they said they didn't have room in the year above. I don't know how true that is.

It happened to be that my younger brother is a year younger than me so I ended up being in the same year as my younger brother. People would ask us all the time; "are you twins?" And I would say, "no, I'm a year older than him". And so they would say, "oh, so you must be really dumb".

I remember walking into a new class once and there were a few seats available, but everyone put something next to them so I couldn't sit next to them. That was my wonderful, beautiful, high school experience.

Apr 10, 2017
205 I Can Survive The Zombie Apocalypse Claims Solopreneur Hour Host, Michael O'Neil
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Michael O'Neal is a speaker, content creator, athlete, coach and on-line entrepreneur. He’s well known for his popular podcast, The Solopreneur Hour where he interviews interesting people who, as he puts it, Zagged, when everyone else Zigged. Although he appears to be fast-paced with many balls in the air at any one time, I see him as a guy who's centered and grounded, mindfully working towards his desired outcomes. You are going to love learning more about Michael O’Neil and how he seems to keep on nailing life.

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Most Influential Person

  • David Wood (Host of The Kick-Ass Life Podcast)

Effect on Emotions

Thoughts On Breathing

  • No suggestions on breathing

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Bullying Story

If I could time travel I think I would go back and stand up for myself, so I probably wouldn't be mindful. There were 3 or 4 incidents in my life where I was a bit bullied. I'd be the opposite of mindful. I think mindfulness can be considered a very mature concept and even a lot of adults don't understand it and they can't mentally get to where they need to get so they can remove themselves from the equation.

Sometimes there's not enough self-awareness for people to be mindful and so I think that's a bit of a rich concept for a kid whose being bullied. That's not to say that it's impossible.

I'm thinking about this one incident. He was probably one of the bullies of the school and he would do that move where he would hit shoulders in the hallway and he would nail me like a hockey cross check. He would check me as we were walking down the hallway.

He was the kid who could do thirty pull-ups. He was really ripped and super strong. I don't know if he did anything other than have great genetics. He was just a jerk, a jerky kid.

As I'm thinking now, I would probably go to the principal's office and say, look, this is happening and I'm not going to tell you who it is, but don't surprised if I end up in this office. I never did that. I was always scared of the kid.

Knowing what I know now about every one of the incidents; it probably only happened 3 or 4 times when somebody was a jerk to me repeatedly. It's just standing up for yourself a little bit that makes them go to somebody else. I wouldn't have had the capacity (that I have now), to say, I know you're in a lot of pain and I can tell that you probably don't have a very good home life and you're looking at me and you're feeling like you can take advantage of me. Ok, but I bet we've got some stuff in common.

That's where I would go now with it. But that's about sixty percent of what I would do now. The other forty percent's still in Philly and I would fight back now. I'd say, we can talk about it or I can whack you over the head or something.

Apr 06, 2017
204 Utilize All You've Got By Being Aware Explains Meditation Minis Host Chel Hamilton
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Chel Hamilton is a hypnotherapist and has worked in this field for over ten years. She is an expert at helping people overcome their anxieties and fears using her deep understanding of human conscious and subconscious brain functions. She also hosts the Meditation Minis Podcast of short, guided meditations for overcoming anxiety and stress and achieving deep sleep experiences.

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Most Influential Person

  • Me. The times in my life when I feel the most unsteady or the most crazy or the most triggered, those have been massive learning experiences for me.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has definitely made me less reactive. I've definitely gotten calmer. Maybe sometimes to the detriment. Sometimes in our interpersonal relationships with a partner when they're being really passionate about something and when we go to the pure, calm, logic side, they're like, omg, you don't get me. What's wrong with you? I'm like, I'm not a Vulcan, I swear. I think sometimes we have to say, oh my god, that's amazing and then go to our calm place.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • One of my favorite little breathing meditations is I do on my podcast; it's Eckhart Tolle nose-focused breathing where you just focus on the edges of the nostrils. That was revolutionary for me because the whole idea of having to pay attention to all of my breathing felt like too much work. Just paying attention to the feeling of the air was really easy to do in any situation in life whether walking from one room to another or while in the middle of an argument or anything. So that is the one practice that is both breathing focused as well as meditation focused. If I could just tell people to do one thing, that would be it.

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Effect on Emotions

My bullying story had nothing mindful about it. It was fourth grade. I went to inner city schools during desegregation. There was a girl there who was not happy with me and she used to beat me up after school, pretty much every day. She didn't stop until one day I hit her over the head with my lunch box. I don't think mindfulness had anything to do with that. She definitely stopped when I whacked her upside of the head with my lunch box.

My son was bullied in middle school as well as my neighbor because we didn't live in the big houses in the fancy part of our district. We lived in the rental homes. I think that, for him, the thing that helped the most was him beginning to understand through some work that he did with me that if he didn't allow them to see any reaction in him, it didn't give them as much pleasure to do the things that they were doing. Learning how to not react in the moment but then to respond.

That's not to say that if somebody is being physical or overly threatening that you need to tell the adults. We actually had to switch schools because adults were told and the bullying got even worse at the school. The shame involved in all of that; because when the kid gets bullied, it's usually shame-based, it's fear and shame-based. The less that they respond in the moment, the less juice it gives the bully.

Apr 03, 2017
203 Experience Less Stress By Being Aware of Your Emotions Says Joshua Spodek
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Joshua Spodek is a scientist, specifically an astrophysicist and SO much more. He’s an expert in the field of leadership. He can discover and help develop your leadership potential in ways you never imagined. Josh teaches that some of the greatest leaders were NOT born with a leadership gene; they actually developed the skills and confidence to become successful. Joshua has a thorough understanding of mindset and how it can pilot our ship, either in a negative or positive direction. He is also adamant that mindfulness can be a powerful, positive element in your life.

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  • The X-girl friend of a roommate. She suggested I might want to learn about mindfulness.

Effect on Emotions

  • Much more awareness. I used to look at reason as being rational, so emotions were irrational. I can understand reason, so I can't understand emotion. That's how I looked at stuff at the time. Meditation and mindfulness makes me much more aware.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is the main thing that I focus on. It's the time scale is a regular human time scale; not too fast, not too slow. It's never away; it's always there. One of the things I like about exercise is it gets you to breathe much more deeply than you normally would. When you get that last bit of breath, it's a very satisfying feeling.

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Bullying Story

I don't feel like I was bullied. I do hear people talk about bullying today and they talk about stuff that I experienced, but I don't see it as bullying. I felt like it was a part of childhood. Some things are awesome and some things suck and I had some things that sucked.

My step brother was older than me and he would make fun of me. It wasn't like torture but he would definitely make things difficult for me. It's hard for me to remember how I felt about it at the time. There were definitely times I'd cry as a kid but I also cried when my parents spanked me and I don't call that bullying.

Mar 30, 2017
202 Deal With Anxiety By Stepping Forward Says Expert Tim JP Collins
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Tim JP Collins is an anxiety expert. After suffering an intense anxiety attack while delivering a speech for his company, Tim realized he had to delve deep into the cause of his debilitating problem. After years of soul searching and self-therapy, Tim has enabled hundreds of anxiety sufferers to become empowered with the knowledge of how to deal with their condition head on. Tim isthe host of the Anxiety Podcast and is a sought-after speaker on the topic.

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Most Influential Person

  • Tim Ferris (Talked a lot in his blog about meditation and slowing down and mindfulness)

Effect on Emotions

  • By allowing me to process them. I think a lot of the time we try to distract ourselves with music or television or exercise and mindfulness means that we actually can fully be present for whatever it is we're feeling.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I notice that when I was most anxious, I was breathing in my chest. Or breathing up and down is another way to put it; your shoulders are going up and down.
  • One of the things I do to reconnect and ground myself is I rest my hand on the top of my belt or where my belt would be. I just make sure that I'm breathing diaphragmatically; belly breathing in and out, not up and down.

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Bullying Story

  • I was bullied a decent amount as a chubby pre-teen and teenager. I had my fair share. When I connect back to that anxious feeling in terms of the feeling in my stomach, I think back to when I was at school.
  • I used to take the bus to high school and there were certain characters who were in the school and then recently graduated. They'd be 17 or 18 years old and they'd hang around at the school.
  • A lot of the time the conversations were things like, 'I'll get you after school'. And so I would spend the day, (and I'm 6 foot 3), and I'd stand out a little bit.
  • I'd spend the whole day panicking and being scared and trying to hide and avoid them and sneak onto the bus without being seen and sometimes I'd get away with it and sometimes I wouldn't.
  • That was a fairly persistent thing in my life and for sure I think that people who experience anxiety are maybe more predisposed to being sensitive individuals. I think people with anxiety tend to be more aware of what's going on which can be positive and can be to your detriment. So more aware of conversations, of feelings, of threats.
  • For instance, when I was a teenager I'd walk into a pub and just by feeling the energy in the pub I could tell if we should leave because there was going to be a fight breaking out or something bad's going to happen. Friends would be saying, oh no, it's fine, we're in now. And give it ten or fifteen minutes and something would happen.
  • It was that energetic aggression that I could feel. So a lot of the time at school I was around that and sometimes I got physically punched in the face and I had to try and stand up for myself as a result of it.
Mar 27, 2017
201 How Your Dog Can Improve Your Leadership Skills Explains Dr. Ann Gatty
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Dr. Ann Gatty is a business consultant with a difference. She partners with her dog; a Great Dane therapy dog named Baretta. Baretta, with Dr. Ann’s help, guides entrepreneurs & executives to a deeper level of mindfulness and other helpful strategies so their businesses will thrive. Dr. Ann is an expert in understanding and improving workplace culture. With lessons shared through Baretta’s perspective, Dr. Ann has authored a book called Leadership Unleashed: A Great Dane’s Wisdom for the Business World.

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  • Dr. Jerome Bruner (an American psychologist who made significant contributions to human cognitive psychology and the world of education)

Effect on Emotions

  • I think it just keeps me healthier. I think, mental health-wise, you stay calm, but then you understand how to celebrate and how to show gratitude and how to be thoughtful. That's what I like to do if something goes wrong, rather than saying, 'Gee, this was a loss, I won, I lose. No, I win and I learn so that I do something better. I think that mindfulness is a way that allows you to be introspective. It allows you to show a little metacognition where you can look outside and say what's really going on so that you can have a better perspective on how to analyze situations and how to learn from them.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • One thing you don't know is that years ago when I first arrived in Pennsylvania, I always wanted to sing well so I started to take singing lessons, voice lessons. If you know anything about voice lessons, the first thing they teach you is diaphragmatic breathing. The woman I studied with actually had a heart issue and she said, because of the diaphragmatic breathing it helped her a great deal to overcome some of the heart issues. It's just a healthy way to calm you down and you can reset easier and you're refreshed when you're using diaphragmatic breathing.  This is something that I take with me and if I start to feel that stress feeling, there's nothing like taking three breaths and you start to feel calm and that you're back in control of things and you can move on and be reset.

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Bullying Story

We have to be mindful of what is going around and also we have to be able to come forward if there is an issue and make certain there are specific rules. Just like we have a pack mentality here with the canines. I don't see any bullying there. If one dog starts to bully, you'll see another one coming forward and saying, hey, what's this? This isn't how we play. They sort of monitor each other to make certain that they're not getting into any of this.

In the workplace ... we do a lot of employee policy manuals that we create for our clients as we're helping them with their workplace culture. We just put that right out there because the worst thing you can have is a hostile work environment or anything where there is the slightest concern about bullying because the entire organization goes down; the productivity goes down. People don't do well if they're afraid. People don't do well when they're fearing that there can be some retribution for what is occuring with them in their lives. We put it out there that we won't tolerate this sort of thing and if it does, these are the steps you are to take.

Mar 23, 2017
200 Cancer Mindfulness With Cancer Radio Network Founder Lee Silverstein
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Lee Silverstein supports people dealing with cancer, and he's an all round connector of individuals. He has a podcast called The Colon Cancer Podcast which he created in 2015, after being diagnosed with Colon Cancer in 2011. Since then, Lee has created The Cancer Radio Network. Lee has helped countless numbers of people through his show and his all around caring personality.

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Most Influential Person

  • My youngest sister, Margie.

Effect on Emotions

  • It's helped keep me centered and it's helped me enjoy the little things that are in front of us every day. In our society, you hear phrases like, thank god it's Friday, or the weekend's coming. I just don't subscribe to that because you're ignoring what could be right in front of you today on Monday. Monday could be an amazing day. And Tuesday could be an amazing day. Why do we have to look forward to something in the future to find that happiness? You can touch someone and have an impact on someone's life or something special could be right in front of you if you just take the time to look.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I watched a video a couple of years ago by Dr. Andrew Weil who shared a calming, breathing practice. Perhaps many of Mindful Tribe have heard this. It's the 4 - 7 - 8 breathing cadence. You slowly inhale for the count of 4. You hold your breath for the count of 7. You exhale for the count of 8. You do that four times. It brings you centered, it slows your heart rate and brings you calmness.
  • It's a nice thing to do if you're having a little trouble trying to fall asleep. When you first lay down, do four of those and it calms you, keeps you centered and really helps you take on a mindfulness mode.

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Bullying Story

I grew up in a very close family. I have two younger sisters. I'm very close with my sisters, my parents, all of my cousins. But we moved around fairly frequently all through grade school. Dad was fortunate in that new and better jobs seemed to come his way fairly often which meant I didn't spend more than two years in the same school from kindergarten up until ninth grade.

Being the new kid in school is not most student's favorite role to be in. That resulted in quite a bit of bullying until high school. In high school that was not an issue. There's a lot of not great memories of being bullied, for being the new kid, for not being the most athletic kid. All the same reasons unfortunately that kids like to pick on other children. I do have some fairly vivid memories about that.

Mar 20, 2017
199 Learn How To Know Yourself Better With 5 AM Miracle Author Jeff Sanders
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Jeff Sanders is an author, keynote speaker, and founder of the Rockin’ Productivity Academy. Jeff is host of the 5 AM Miracle Podcast and author of a book of the same title. He’s a marathon runner, passionate raw vegan and all-round mindfulness kind of guy. Jeff has a degree in Theatre and Psychology and lives in Nashville Tennessee with his wife and their pet Pug, named Benny.

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Most Influential Person

  • Dean Karnazes (Ultramarathon Runner)

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has made me less overtly emotional. Less angry and less extreme. If anything, it has emotional. It calms me down and allows me to be more rational.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing's a big part of [my mindfulness practice]. I think especially as an athlete and someone who likes to have a lot of good oxygen to live and to do things well. I find that also breathing a lot or breathing really intensely also calms me down and prepares me for an event; before a speaking engagement for example. I do a lot of breathing techniques to give my self-confidence a boost and to physically feel better.
  • One of those breathing techniques is from Wim Hoff who is very famously known as The Iceman. I do a lot of intense breathing where you inhale more than you exhale over and over again, basically until you feel light-headed. You are kind of oxygen packing your body for a few minutes and it really does give you this strong sense of confidence and you feel very awake and alert. It's pretty cool.

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Bullying Story

When I was younger, in elementary school aged 7 to 10, I was not quite confident as a kid yet. I was still trying to find out who I was.

For a lot of my years growing up, I viewed myself as a follower. I would find other people who I thought were a strong personality or someone who could hold their own and I would follow them around.

In the process of that, I got a hold of some fairly difficult friends or friends who were not genuine. They were bullies, and tough guys. I was a small, scrawny little kid and I didn't have a lot of self confidence. It wasn't bullying in the traditional sense, but it definitely was this sense that I felt inferior to them all the time and it took a long time before it wasn't the case any more.

For many years I was in this position of, I don't know who I am yet, so I'm just going to follow someone else until I figure it out eventually.

Mar 16, 2017
198 How To Find Clarity and Forgiveness With Men's Coach, Tim Matthews
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Tim Matthews is a hero at helping men chop down limiting beliefs and regrow their mindset into that of a powerful man who is able to achieve and expand with confidence and contentment. In fact, Tim calls his business, The Powerful Man because he understands how negative self-talk can be flipped into a positive empowerment tool. Tim is totally, 100 percent sold on helping guys reach their next level of happiness, income, success, freedom and impact, through transforming their mindset.

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Most Influential Person

  • Tom Crawshaw (Writer of theatre, comedy, radio and TV)

Effect on Emotions

  • Allowed me to feel them.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Everything. If I notice my breathing's tight and I'm fearful and I want to connect to the moment, I breathe through my nose. The first thing I do in the morning is breathe. Everything for me is about breath. It tells me everything about my connection.

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Advice For a Mindfulness Newby

Allow your breath to be your guide. Your breath tells you a lot about where you are and where you're operating from. Allow yourself to follow your feeling. Identify the feelings that you know you experience when you're in your head which has been busy, has been judgmental, has been chaotic. Identify the feelings you have when you are being really mindful. That's usually peace, love, joy, balance and flow. When I say mindful, I really refer to a way of being; a state of being.

Bullying Story

In primary school when I was in year three, I was probably around seven or eight, I moved to a new primary school and I felt bullied. People were saying certain things to me and acting so weird, there was a feeling of heaviness.

I'm pretty sure it wasn't the majority of the time. I used to use intimidation quite a lot and I'd use it in retaliation for something happening. I used to be quite reactive, so in terms of mindfulness and in terms of calm there wasn't anything really there when I was younger. I can remember when I went to high school I really made the promise to myself; I'm really going to study and stay out of trouble and try hard and that's what I did.

I've never been a bully but I feel like I've been on the receiving end of banter if you want to call it that. Having fun taken out of me and taking fun out of people. It's always come from a place of vulnerability. What I mean by vulnerability is not wanting to be seen. It was almost like retaliationg before I felt the attack. It was almost like a retaliation in case of an attack.

Mar 13, 2017
197 Overcome Obstacles With Focus and Belief Suggests Tim Laskis
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Tim Laskis is trained as a clinical psychologist and holds a PhD. Although successful as a psychology student, Tim pushed through many challenges and failures in his life, including almost flunking out of high school. He failed at almost every sport and was even demoted to sweeping floors inhis Dad’s family business. In spite of this track record, Tim pushed forward and became a successful business owner and entrepreneur, even moving to the point where he became a mental skills coach. Tim knows exactly how to manage his emotions and use mindfulness to be a high achiever while still being content in his life.

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Most Influential Person

  • My dad.

Effect on Emotions

  • It's helped me to keep things in check. It's helped me to regulate my thoughts and my emotions because I'm a practitioner of cognitive behavioral therapy which is; your thoughts really control your emotions and your emotions control your behavior. Being able to utilize deep breathing and being able to relax yourself to help you analyze situations more clearly. When you see them more clearly you have less intense emotion and your reaction and behavior then is much better. When people aren't very mindful they have these negative thoughts that impact others, that impact how they feel and then their behaviors negatively impact others and themselves.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Belly breathing is the go-to tool. It's where you take in that deep breath through your nose. You fill that lower diaphragm, you hold it, you exhale, you do that a couple of times, it helps to restart and erase everything that's going on and put you in a neutral state.

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Bullying Story

In high school I wasn't in the cool group. There were times that I might have been targeted. Kids might say something, but for the most part I got along with everyone. There were probably one or two people that I didn't. When bullies go after someone and they target their victim, a lot of times it's about the bully, it's not about the victim.

The victims will often look at themselves and go, what's wrong with me. What's so bad about me that they pick on me? And they will often internalize it. In working with adolesents who have been bullied, to a really high level, they turn that anger inward.

Many times they will get into cutting themselves and self-harm and these really deep down negative thoughts about themselves. That's the real danger with bullies is that mental impact that they make. Maybe they give you a wedgie or they put you in a head-lock or punch you or something.

That kind of stuff, the bruises go away, but the mental scarring of that is what is the real dangerous part with bullies. It's to help victims understand that it's not about you as the victim, it's about them. And don't internalize that negativity about yourself. That's what often happens with victims.

Mar 09, 2017
196 Be Mindful Of What You Want To Create Recommends Media Expert Esther Kiss
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Esther Kiss works in the field of marketing and publicity where she helps experts and personal brands get exposure. She uses elements of mindfulness to be a true connector of people. She is founder of a one-of-a-kind agency called Born To Influence and co-founder of Strategic Influence. Esther gets her clients on traditional TV, radio, newspapers and magazines, as well as online telesummits, podcasts, and large publications. Esther has interviewed Gary Vaynerchuk, Perry Marshall and many others for her own show; Born To Influence, The Marketing Show.

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Most Influential Person

  • Keith Ferrazzi  (Author of Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time)

Effect on Emotions

  • It made me incredibly more conscious of being grateful for things and being more high vibe.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is part of the audio meditation that I use when I'm trying to calm down and go to sleep.

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Advice for Newbie

Think about how you want to feel and who you want to be and what you want to create in your life. Just focus on those goals and start making a list of up to a hundred of the things that you want to be and do and have. Brainstorm and then pick your top ten to fifteen priorities and see how you can be mindful around that. Focus on that every day and commit to actions that you'll do to actually accomplish those goals.

Mar 06, 2017
195 How Mindset Will Improve Your Business With Donnie DeSanti
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Donnie Desanti is a health & wellness coach, teaching people to lose weight and regain their energy naturally so they never diet again ever. Before coaching, he battled ADHD and had some medication challenges before making changes in his diet and lifestyle. He has successfully been medication free for over 20 years. He also witnessed his mother go through a similar struggle, clearing her breast cancer through holistic methods. She is now cancer free and has been free of cancer for 19 years. It has become Donnie’s passion to help others renew their health and enjoy life to their fullest potential.

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Most Influential Person

  • Deepak Chopra

Effect on Emotions

  • It goes back to what I was saying about growing up. Things don't really stick so much. Life's struggles. Of course, I still have them; I'm human like everyone else. If you're working on that mindfulness, you control your emotions a little more, or you don't wear them on your sleeve so much. Some of life's struggles don't really stick to you so much. You really try to protect that inner peace as much as you can. I try to keep my emotions steady, but there are times when we have those ups and downs. For the most part, I think that being more mindful just helps a lot with the emotions.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • If we go from a health standpoint, we could talk about eating nutrient-rich food and drinking water and exercising but our breath is [so important] we can't survive without it. Some of us can only go a couple of seconds without it. It's something that I encourage my clients to and promote to get in touch without breathing and to breathe more and to breathe purposefully and to really concentrate on that. I try to get some kind of breath work in on a daily basis. Whether it be a meditation practice concentrating on the breath or a deep breathing practice. I think it's so essential because it is that kind of life force that many of us don't pay attention to, we take it for granted, but we get stressed out, we get angry, the first thing that starts to become restricted is our breathing. It's so important and I try to make a daily practice for myself.

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Bullying Story

In my own life growing up, I was kind of a worrisome kid. I had my share of getting picked on and getting bullied. There were times when kids picked on me and it would hurt. There'd be that one kid I struggled with in class. Looking back I think as I got more into mindfulness and meditation, certain things just don't stick to you as much when you have that kind of practice going where you are more mindful. I think that would have helped a lot. These kinds of fears and worries that I had of just calming down, getting that quietness. I think a lot of these things that I struggled with probably wouldn't have stuck as much. I would have brushed them off a little bit more.

Mar 02, 2017
194 Love That Which Impedes Your Harmony Explains Nicholas Upchurch
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Nicholas Upchurch is a Digital Marketer. In fact, he has owned companies that have generated millions of dollars in sales in relatively short periods of time. He’s obviously successful at business, but it was something completely different that changed Nicholas’s life. That was when he visited the Sacred Valley of Peru. As a result, he has now dedicated his life to helping people find their true purpose and while doing it, succeed in business along the way.

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Most Influential Person

  • My Mother. My mother and I are very alike. These things that are deep inside of us. Sometimes we think they're really bad because our parents are doing ___(fill in the blank), and making us crazy. But actually, it's a great gift because maybe now I can see things from a different perspective. It will help me to love what I think I should hate about whatever happened growing up and things that our parents do that make us crazy.

Effect on Emotions

  • My emotions are becoming more harmonized. When I feel cycles, whatever the cycles are; some days are bad and some are good. Right now I could be more centered, but the world is what it is so I'm happy to be the way I am right now. Mindfulness is just a realization. It's awareness. My emotions are becoming more in harmony, the more that I'm loving and accepting and letting the energy flow through all those cycles and appreciating it versus feeling guilty and hating it.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I could do this more. In Kundalini Yoga you do this for hours, and also in other practices too. You become a different person. For whatever reason, I didn't do that today. That's okay. If people don't do it every day, they do what they can. Probably we could say they should, but breathing can really be a life-changing thing.

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Bullying Story

I would say I bullied myself. I would say even on this interview and I would emphasize to people out there, I've been very peaceful, I've helped a lot of people. I've had really tough times that I've put myself through. We can resist. I have healed people remotely. That works. Raiki remotely, and moved bones. People that were very skeptical. When you're most mindful and things are opening up to you and there are some very amazing things that are possible. On the flip side, that strong (whether it's a masculine energy) that we can see as evil. It's just the strong potential. Think about if that energy was going in the right direction. That energy can be so strong, and as we start to harmonize, it can shift and we can bully ourselves and resist, because we think we're going to fail.

Feb 27, 2017
193 Create a Life Around Who You Truly Are Says Computer Zen Guy, Calvin Correli
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Calvin Correli is a software engineer, a creator, a meditator, a musician, an online entrepreneur and an all round mindful guy. He was born and raised in Denmark and currently lives in New York City.  Calvin has created a million dollar software company called Simplero which is an all-in-one solution forselling courses and knowledge online. Calvin once created a product called Computer Zen which helped people use computers while using a Zen mindset. Calvin is a meditator and feels that’s a great way to spend quality time with your inner child.

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Most Influential Person

  • Gay Hendricks

Effect on Emotions

  • Radically. I was completely cut off from my emotions for the majority of my life and so starting to get all that untangled. In the beginning of that process it seemed like everything was like a yawn of this untangled stuff. I couldn't tell things apart but now I see my emotions, which is great. I love my emotions. I want them.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I do Gay's [Gay Hendricks] 'Yes Breath' every morning as part of my routine. I work a lot with my breath, trying to get different breathing techniques down.

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Mindfulness Meets Bullying

As a child, I was bullied quite a bit. I think people quickly figured out I was a pretty easy victim. Throughout the whole thing, mindfulness pretty much from anyone or anywhere, mindfulness in me and really seeing what was going on [would have made a difference]. It personally wasn't about me. Mindfulness in any of the teachers who were actually present to what was going on. Mindfulness in my parents. Anyone of those places would have made a big difference. What tended to happen was that, if they say something, people would be like, 'oh we've gotta do something' and then there would be parental intervention that was just not helpful at all, it just makes it worse. Being with me and how I was feeling, them and how they were feeling, Any of those things would have made a huge difference.

There were some kids in the class just above me, for some reason they thought I was the funniest thing in the world to go after. Anytime they saw me around school they would hit me. They would just be looking out for me [to hit me]. During wintertime, I would never make it outside when there was snow because the minute they saw me, there would just be snow all over.

Advice for Newbie

Pay attention to yourself more than anything. Listen to other people and get inspired. Trust your own sense of what resonates with you because we're all alike in many ways but we're all different and what's gonna work for you is not necessarily what's gonna work for somebody else. Allow yourself to be selective, allow yourself to see what you resonate with and pick that. Do expose yourself to a bunch of stuff. That's helpful.

Feb 23, 2017
192 Mindfulness Wisdom With Blockgeeks Co-Founder, Ameer Rosic
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Ameer Rosic is an entrepreneur through and through. He's created and sold businesses. He's a connector, a practical systems guy and he calls himself a 'wild dog'. He's intense, determined and focused on what matters in his world. Part of what matters is being fully in the game which he achieves in part with his own brand of mindfulness.

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Most Influential Person

  • Joseph Campbell (Author)

Effect on Emotions

  • It made me more aware and conscious of what emotions I have.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I would say this is the best thing I've added in my life in the last six months. It gives you clarity. It's not like, this is going to happen next week. It's like after ten minutes, I'm humming. It gives you clarity of mind. It gives you this energetic hum on your body. You feel euphoric. You literally feel like a million bucks. The great thing about this breathing is that you can't concentrate on anything else. It's so heavy, you have to be concentrating on the breathing because it's hyper ventilation. Hand's down I would call breathing a technology like meditation is. Breathing is a technology.
  • In a nutshell, it's like this: you have thirty rounds of this. You would inhale as much as you can. Then exhale fast. Do that thirty times and on the thirtieth round, the last inhale you have, you exhale and you hold as long as you can. You have a stop watch. So you have no oxygen, you have no breath in you. If you can't hold it any longer, you time that and take one big breath and then you hold that too. There are two holds back to back. Then you let go. Then do the whole process again. Do the whole process between three to five rounds. That takes about ten minutes. I learned this from Wim Hoff, it's the Wim Hoff Breathing Method.

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Bullying Story

I was bullied as a child. My parents were imigrants. Culturally we're different. I grew up in Toronto, but my parents were from Yuguslavia. Back then it was communist Yuguslavia; very different then. I was bullied, not too much in elementary school, but I was more bullied at the end of grade 8; the last year of elementary school. Then in grade 9, I was bullied at the beginning and something switched in me and I snapped one day and I beat up my bully. Then I realized that's power. That was kind of like the stepping stone for me.

Feb 20, 2017
191 Guilt and Shame Can Be Countered by Mindfulness Says Aaron Hunnel
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Aaron Hunnel is an ultra endurance athlete and health enthusiast. He holds a Certified Wellness Practitioner designation from the National Wellness Institute and he shares his vast knowledge of health and fitness by speaking and writing. Aaron helps others reach their full potential by tapping into his experience as a United States Military veteran and athlete. He emphasizes three P’s In his teachings: Positivity, Passion & Purpose. Aaron has published a book called: Upwards: Maximize Life With Positivity, Passion & Purpose.

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Most Influential Person

  • Eckhart Tolle (Author of The Power of Now)

Effect On Emotions

  • Mindfulness puts me in a positive emotional state. I love positive emotional states because when I feel positive and I feel more energized I am more likely to do the things that are important to me and that I find valuable.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing, especially while running is so important for my mindset and my mindfulness practice. I recall specifically when I was doing the hundred mile run and how challenging it was the last six miles. So for the last six miles I developed a rhythmic breathing pattern that allowed me to focus on being present and worrying about having to do the last six miles, which was just really, really challenging. So I just focused on my breathing and I'll tell you what, Bruce, it made me just appreciate everything I was just then and there and I wasn't worried about the future. I was so fixed on the present moment that the last six miles just flew by and they weren't as tough as I thought it would be.

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Bullying Story

I'm in the military and I recall a situation when I was first going to basic training. Basic training is the boot camp for the army. I remember getting off the bus and I had this really light blue suitcase with all of my stuff in it. As soon as I got off this bus, all of these drill sergeants, which are the ones that are in charge, just started attacking me. I remember specifically [them saying] ... "what do you think, are you going to Disney World? Hey Drill Sergeant, this private thinks he's going to Disney World."

So they were ridiculing me and you know that's their job. That's what they're there to do. They try to break you. I was like, oh my gosh, what is going on? Fear started to creep in and I started to think about the nine weeks that I had to spend there.

I was thinking about the future, which isn't the present moment, which isn't mindful. I just kept walking and I kept walking and I finally got to the point where I was like, I just have to internally smile and just say, it's going to be okay. So I did. I realized they're here to do this; this is their job. I have to be present right now and understand that they're just trying to make fun of me because I've got this suitcase here and I'm not actually going to Disney World. But I get to be in control of my emotions.

Sometimes I think bullying is somebody who wants to exercise control or power over somebody else. And I think mindfulness is finding a way to exercise control or power within yourself. And that's what I did right then and there. Because I found a way to exercise power and control within my own thinking and I overcame it. It ended up being a really cool experience. I loved basic training. It was a challenging experience and I had so much fun with it.

Feb 16, 2017
190 How To Live Through Death and Heaven With Mindfulness Explains Cherie Aimee
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Cherie Aimee has the vision to run mastermind retreats around the world, and she mentors emerging leaders who want to create massive impact. She has personally been through major health crisis including a near death experience where her heart flat-lined for 90 minutes. A team of 100 doctors and surgeons at the cost of three million dollars helped bring her back to the healthy, vibrant life she now enjoys. Her story has been shared extensively, including being featured on the History Channel.

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Most Influential Person

  • My meditation teacher.

[show-notes-influence]

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has allowed me to stabilize my emotions, to manage them more effectively and to handle stress.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is a huge part of my mindfulness practice. I always utilize deep breathing, it allows me to go deeper into that meditation practice. I highly recommend it.

[show-notes-breathing]

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  • Book: A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle
  • App: Carolyn Myss www.myss.com

Bullying Story

I definitely can think of two instances, both growing up; one was a best friend of mine. [It was] one of those things where I accepted a behavior for way too long; extreme bullying. This person was a class bully. It's crazy to think back to some of the things this person got away with. Mindfulness absolutely would have helped. I always felt, when I got bullied, that I had done something and to be honest and fair, when I would go to the guidance counsellor at the time, they would pull us both in and the bully would go through this whole [thing]; they would start crying and make it about them. It would be made to look like maybe I was misinterpreting. In schools I think they're still struggling with how to handle this. Back then they would just say, go make up. The guidance counsellor would say, what did you do to invoke that? If I was more aware of who I was and my own self worth and my own powerful beauty as a soul, I wouldn't have allowed that kind of behavior. I would not have continued to allow somebody like that to even be considered a friend.

Feb 13, 2017
189 Surrender To Fear To Reach Peace Says Relationship Expert Erik Newton
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Erik Newton is a relationship guy. He formerly worked as a family law attorney & helped thousands of couples get divorced. As a result, Erik understands the nuts & bolts of relationships and their full life cycle from beginning to end. His expertise in relationships led him to team up with a psychologist friend to lead premarital courses for couples, offering them real-life skills so they wouldn’t need a divorce attorney. Erik’s passion for helping couples get mindfully connected and ultimately build healthier relationships caused him to transition from law to working full-time creating a place where couples can go for information, inspiration and real truth. That place is an extensive on-line resource called TOGETHER, found on the web at www.Together.Guide.

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Most Influential Person

  • My mom.

Effect on Emotions

  • My emotions are less terrifying. My emotions now happen and pass through and I can enjoy them fully for what they are; the good and the bad. I'm less attached to avoiding them. I'm less attached to seeking the good and avoiding the bad. I allow both much more frequently.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is a great way to occupy mind. I find that focus on breath allows mind to have something to do so that being can be. It's when minds chitter chatter is quieted for a moment; is occupied by immediate experience that being can unfold for me. Often times I'll use breath to calm and quiet my mind; to allow the universe to settle.

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  • Book: Your Brain on Sex: How Smarter Sex Can Change Your Life by Stan Siegel
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Bullying Story

I'll make a distinction between what I believe is true and my identity's experience of my past. My identity has it that when I was a kid I was a nerd and I was bullied. My identity has it that I was often betrayed by people who were close to me and when I was younger it was how they became cool kids; by beating up on the dork. And when I was older, for some reason I think it was a pattern I was creating. It all fit into this rubrik; this view of how the world worked and how I fit into the world that ultimately I would be betrayed by the people who were close to me and that was a bullying mechanism when I was a kid. The truth is I don't think that's the case anymore. There were experiences and I interpreted them through a particular lense because I have a mind and my mind is limited. The truth is something much greater. My experience through a lot of my life was resisting bullying.

Feb 09, 2017
188 Be Happy, Healthy and Whole With Dr. Phillip Carson
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Dr. Phillip Carson wants you to live a more balanced, healthy and vibrant life. He has over thirty years experience in traditional and natural medicines and daily mindfulness is a philosophy he lives by. Dr. Phil is a pharmacist and also host and creator of The Feeling Good Podcast where he answers health questions and discusses the latest in health and wellness. Last March, Dr. Phil partnered with a colleague and opened the Life Transformation Medical Center in his local community in Mississippi.

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Most Influential Person

  • My grandmother. I lived with her a lot when I was growing up. She taught me to pray, to read, and she read the Bible to me all the time. She taught me to relax and we spent time putting puzzles together. She was a great influence.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has affected my emotions in a very positive way; like I was talking about with my prayer walks. It was part of my daily routine of meditation. It calms me and helps me start my day off right. It's very important to me; it has helped me tremendously.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • The deep breathing that I do is so relaxing. One of the things that I do, (and I tell other people to do this as well), is when I feel stress or I feel like things are crashing in on me, I'll stand up and I'll take some deep breaths. I Inhale and exhale slowly, and as I'm exhaling, I say I'm blowing the stress away. That's been a tremendous help to me.

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Advice for Newbie

My oldest son was in a situation when he was in high school. The way we raise him, the way we raised all our children, to be mindful of other people's feelings and to be a person that stands up for somebody that's being bullied or being made fun of or put down and not to ever take part in that but to be a friend to those people. He was in a situation where that was happening to a young guy in the classroom one day. He stood up for that guy and actually got physically attacked for standing up for him.We've taught our kids to be mindful of those kind of things. because that's something that really touches me and hurts me when I see somebody being mistreated that way. So they're very mindful of that and I'm grateful for that.

Feb 06, 2017
187 Bring Purpose Into Your Life To Decrease Pain Says Dr. Joe Tatta
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Dr. Joe Tatta is a doctor of physical therapy, board certified nutrition specialist and functional medicine practitioner who specializes in treating persistent pain and lifestyle-related musculoskeletal, metabolic and autoimmune health issues. His mission is to create a new paradigm around treating persistent pain and reverse our global pain epidemic. He is the creator of the Healing Pain Online Summit and The Healing Pain Podcast and is also the author of a highly acclaimed book called Heal Your Pain Now.

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Most Influential Person

  • Dr. Peter Levine PhD

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has affected my emotions by allowing me to have certain emotions, things like fear, frustration or anger, but not letting them overwhelm my entire day or my entire physical or emotional experience.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I practice something called Four By Four breathing. That's inhaling for four seconds, holding it for four seconds and then exhaling for four seconds. We know that brings healthy oxygen to our system, it helps release tense muscles, it helps regulate high cortisol levels and it even helps regulate high blood sugar levels.

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Feb 02, 2017
186 Time Hacking and Mindfulness With Writer Benjamin Hardy
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Benjamin Hardy and his wife, Lauren, are the foster parents of 3 epic kids. Benjamin Hardy is a writer and adviser for startups. He is pursuing his PhD in I/O Psychology at Clemson University. I/O Psychology is short for Industrial and Organizational Psychology. His research examines the psychological differences between entrepreneurs and wannabe entrepreneurs. Benjamin is passionate about mindfulness, how we perceive the passage of time and he is also a productivity expert. His book, Slipstream Time Hacking, explains how to fully live in the present, slow your time down and get where you want to go faster. His writing has been featured at Fortune, Fast Company, Inc., Success, Psychology Today, Huffington Post, Business Insider, New York Observer, Thought Catalog, and others.

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Most Influential Person

  • Ellen Langer (Author)

Effect on Emotions

  • I think mindfulness is a way to emotionally regulate; in other words its a way to be aware of your own emotions so that then you can decide what to do with them.  Another way ... if you've read Michael Singer's work, The Untethered Soul, I think a big part of mindfulness is just being aware of your emotional blocks, your suppressed emotions, your oppressed emotions, beginning to look at your life and saying, why is it this way. Am I living this way because I'm trying to protect myself from emotions like fear or shame? So being mindful of why you're avoiding certain emotions. A lot of people live way smaller than they want to because they're trying to avoid certain emotions like fear for example. If someone has the dream of becoming a professional writer for example, but they're too afraid to put their work out there, then their life is set up in a way that they're trying to avoid that emotion. Part of emotional regulation is being willing to experience the dark emotions. Another part is trying to understand your emotions better so you can more healthily live. I think mindfulness is essential to both of those.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I don't use mindfulness in the exact same way everyone does as far as direct meditation where I have breathing exercises. I don't spend as much time on that one. My form of meditation is more in the form of journal writing and running and prayer. Breathing is not one I use as much.

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Jan 30, 2017
185 Better Leaders, Better Schools Happen With Mindfulness Says Principal Daniel Bauer
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Daniel Sunshine Bauer is a Principal at a middle school in Texas. He is dedicated to the success and development of school leaders everywhere and he helps them create a winning culture by focusing on what’s truly essential so they can lead with courage and integrity. His passion is developing school staff members to their fullest potential. Daniel says, 'the impact a highly-functioning staff can have on the student body and community is priceless.'  His mission is to create better leaders to lead better schools. Daniel believes in mindfulness, meditation and running and finds these habits help keep him focused and centered.

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Effect on Emotions

  • It makes me notice them [emotions]. It helps me be aware that they exist. It helps me separate them from what follows. So even if it's a great happiness or a great hurt, I can just notice it and then chose to respond in a positive way. This is as opposed to letting emotions dictate where I go.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing slows you down. When you focus on your breath I find that you have slower, more intentional breaths. It brings your heart rate down and it brings you into a place of calmness. That's why I enjoy when meditating, I really focus on the breath. Plus, how do you meditate? It's okay that your mind wanders, but your breath is the centering piece. It's about calmness and decluttering your mind.

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Jan 26, 2017
184 Avoid The Fish Out Of Water Syndrome; Calvin Wayman
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Calvin Wayman is an author, speaker, and social media entrepreneur. Most of all, he's aware of what it means to be mindful. He was determined to pursue his dream of working for himself, so he laid out his plans, he put his mind to it and in the Spring of 2015 he quit his day job and began his journey as an entrepreneur. He's a man on a mission. He owns Cobbs Media, which is a social media management agency, designed for entrepreneurs to stand out beyond ninety-seven percent of everyone else on social media. He's been featured in Entrepreneur magazine, Social Media Examiner, The Huffington Post, and was even named one of the top 30 entrepreneurs under the age of thirty by Influencive Dot com.

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Most Influential Person

  • Eckhart Tolle (Author of The Power of Now)

Effect on Emotions

  • I just read something called 'The Cowboy Syndrome'. It's something in the U.S. where we've been taught, as men, to not express our emotions. Just to be strong and resolute. I think I grew up in that type of environment, being here in the U.S. Now I realize it's okay, it's not harming your masculinity, but it's actually helping it. As Brene Brown might say, vulnerability is a good thing.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • That is where the steadying comes in for me because it's such a simple thing and if you can keep your focus on the breath, then you chase less rabbits. You just feel the breath and notice it and it's keeping you focused. That's the anchor that gets me there.

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Jan 23, 2017
183 Create The Life You Love With Dr. Paul Jenkins
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Dr. Paul Jenkins specializes in positivity. He is a psychologist who provides you with an owner's manual for your brain. His wisdom and insight will help you understand your mind so you can let it work more effectively on your behalf. Through his writing and speaking, Dr. Paul loves to help his followers get an iron grip on powerful pathological positivity principles that make an immediate difference in their lives. Constantly using his creative juices to help others, Dr. Paul also has a podcast called 'Live On Purpose Radio', where he calls himself 'The Shrink Who Expands Your Life'.

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Most Influential Person

  • George Clason (Author of The Richest Man in Babylon)

Effect on Emotions

  • It makes all the difference. We can get trapped in depression and anxiety. And folks, I'm a trained professional psychologist and a participating member of planet earth, of the human race and so I get to feel these things too. Even as a trained professional, the feelings that I have; this is part of the powerful effect of mindfulness. These feelings that I have are perfect and completely consistent with the way my mind is doing those two processes we talked about today; evaluation and creation. And you're never wrong about the way you feel.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing; I recommend it every day! Breathing is something that I teach my clients as a way to calm the limbic system response. There are structures in your brain including the amygdala that create a fight or flight response and in the meantime we experience threat. The easiest way and the quickest way that we have a lot of control over is to engage in conscious, deliberate, breathing exercises. This has a calming effect on the limbic system of the brain and reverses some of the chemical processes that are going on that allow us to get back into mindfulness mode. When the limbic system is triggered it actually changes the blood flow in the brain and makes those higher cognitive areas of the brain less accessible to us.

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Advice for Newbie

You've already started [to discover mindfulness] ... you're listening to this episode! Subscribe to the Mindfulness Mode Podcast. Read, associate with people. I've had several colleagues and people I've interviewed who have called back to the same principle that you will be most like the people you hang out with. Look at the five people who hang out with the most. What kind of a mode are they in? Are they in mindfulness mode? Are they in positivity? And if not, can you surround yourself with people who are? So read, associate, listen. Pay attention to the input your putting into your mind. And the daily news is not the best way to remain mindful.

Jan 19, 2017