Real Talk For Real Teachers with Dr. Becky Bailey

By Dr. Becky Bailey

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Listen in to this new bi-monthly podcast from Conscious Discipline creator, Dr. Becky Bailey. Together with Conscious Discipline Master and Certified Instructors and special guests, Becky explores trends in social-emotional learning and classroom management.

Episode Date
Creating Healthy Marriages with Conscious Discipline
00:34:03
Conscious Discipline is not just for schools, teachers, and parents. It’s for any adult who wants stronger, healthier relationships. The core values of Conscious Discipline—like connection, communication, and empathy—are key to any relationship, including marriage. In this episode, Conscious Discipline Master Instructor Kim Hughes opens her heart and home to share how Conscious Discipline has improved the health of her marriage. After her children left home, Kim realized that her marriage with her husband Scott had become about the kids. Wanting to recapture their connection and fall in love again, Kim decided to apply the principles of Conscious Discipline to her marriage. Listen in as Kim describes the changes she made and the transformational results. Essential Takeaways • In any relationship, it’s tempting to focus on how the other person needs to change. However, the only person we can change is ourselves. Remember that the motivation to change comes from the quality of the relationship. Start by doing what you can to improve the relationship. • The four essential ingredients to enhance any relationship or connection are eye contact, touch presence, and playfulness. • What we focus on, we get more of. Focus on and celebrate helpfulness, kindness, and teamwork. The more you embrace the positive, the more opportunities you’ll have to celebrate. • When we recognize our emotions and practice active calming, we can respond instead of reacting in challenging moments. Steps for Tomorrow • Commit to being more present and connected in your relationship. Infuse eye contact, touch, presence, and playfulness throughout your marriage. • Rather than focusing on what isn’t being done, notice and describe helpful acts. • Improve communication by noticing brain states. If your spouse is in the emotional state, offer empathy and understanding. If they are in the executive state, you can offer suggestions and focus on problem-solving. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • Seven Powers (https://consciousdiscipline.com/methodology/seven-powers/) • Seven Skills (https://consciousdiscipline.com/methodology/seven-skills/) • Kim Hughes, Conscious Discipline Master Instructor (https://consciousdiscipline.com/professional-development/instructors/kim-hughes/) Product Mentions • The NEW Conscious Discipline Book- Expanded and Updated (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/conscious-discipline-core/products/the-new-conscious-discipline-book-expanded-updated) • Brain State Poster Set (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/conscious-discipline-core/products/brain-state-poster-set) • 10-Session Conscious Discipline E-Course (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/e-course/products/ecourse-registration) Show Outline :20 What is Conscious Discipline? :37 How Conscious Discipline applies to all relationships 1:52 Introduction of guest Kim Hughes 2:20 Attention vs. connection 6:34 Background about Kim’s marriage and decision to change 8:35 Kim’s commitment to being present and connected 11:50 Four essential ingredients to enhance a relationship 13:37 Celebrating helpfulness 15:29 Story illustrating the transformation in Kim’s marriage 20:25 Power of unity 21:22 Husband’s comments on the change in Kim and the change in himself 25:55 Kim’s excitement for the future 26:23 Impact of the healthier marriage on their adult children 28:30 Summary 30:39 Be kind to yourself 31:13 What’s Becky up to? 32:38 What’s Becky celebrating? THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms. Also, would you consider taking 60-seconds to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes? Your feedback is extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and I love to hear your feedback! And don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast on iTunes to get automatic updates every time a new episode goes live! On behalf of our Conscious Discipline family, we wish you well.
Dec 14, 2018
Conscious Leadership: Five Ways to Support Teachers Who Work with Children of Trauma
00:21:26
26% of children ages 0-4 have experienced trauma. For these children, a secure emotional attachment is life-changing. However, building connections with children of trauma isn’t easy. It requires empathy, patience, and persistence. When teachers don’t know how to respond to challenging behaviors, their solutions often make the problem worse. These children need to be included, not excluded. Additionally, 70% of adults have experienced trauma. This means that in classrooms across the nation, teachers are trying to help children heal from trauma while still struggling with their own. For administrators, it’s crucial to support teachers so that they can support children. In this episode, Conscious Discipline Certified Instructor Abbi Kruse shares five powerful ways for administrators to support teachers in working with children of trauma. Abbi is the founder and executive director of The Playing Field in Madison, Wisconsin. The Playing Field serves children 0-4 and aims to level the playing field by working with homeless children, middle-class children, and Head Start students in one classroom. Listen as Abbi shares her wisdom on building a school culture that empowers teachers to tackle this challenging, vitally important work. Essential Takeaways • Although we view children as resilient, young children are more vulnerable to trauma than at any other stage of life. • Working with children who have experienced trauma is difficult, but we must remember our “why.” These children have experienced so much adversity, but providing just one secure attachment can change their lives and the lives of others around them. • To be truly effective in working with children of trauma, we must first address our own trauma. • One administrator can’t possibly offer support for all teachers and children at once. This is why it’s essential to build a united, supportive school culture in which teachers rely on and help one another. Steps for Tomorrow • Remember to always keep the mission in front of yourself and your staff. Instead of only focusing on “how” you will possibly accomplish something, remember “why” you’re doing this work. • Begin celebrating even small successes. Provide teachers with ongoing support and sincere gratitude. • Invest in professional development. Ensure that your teachers have the skills they need to do the job. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • Seven Powers (https://consciousdiscipline.com/methodology/seven-powers/) • Seven Skills (https://consciousdiscipline.com/methodology/seven-skills/) • Safe Place (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/shubert/shuberts-classroom/safe-place/) • Abbi Kruse, Conscious Discipline Certified Instructor (https://consciousdiscipline.com/professional-development/instructors/abbi-kruse/) Product Mentions • The NEW Conscious Discipline Book- Expanded and Updated (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/conscious-discipline-core/products/the-new-conscious-discipline-book-expanded-updated) • Creating the School Family (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/school-family/products/creating-the-school-family) • Professional Development (https://consciousdiscipline.com/professional-development/) • Self-Regulation Value Pack (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/the-safe-place/products/self-regulation-value-pack) • CLASSROOM EDITION: Feeling Buddies Self-Regulation Toolkit (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/feeling-buddies/products/feeling-buddies-self-regulation-toolkit-english-only) Show Outline :22 What is Conscious Discipline? :56 Introduction of guest Abbi Kruse 2:02 Developmental trauma 5:54 Helping teachers respond to children with trauma 8:06 Practice #1: Be honest 10:17 Practice #2: Focus on the mission 11:20 Practice #3: Provide teachers with the skills they need 14:11 Practice #4: Build a School Family that supports one another 15:38 Practice #5: Celebrate success 16:51 Recap and conclusion 19:20 What’s Becky up to? 19:50 What’s Becky celebrating? THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms. Also, would you consider taking 60-seconds to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes? Your feedback is extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and I love to hear your feedback! And don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast on iTunes to get automatic updates every time a new episode goes live! On behalf of our Conscious Discipline family, we wish you well.
Nov 30, 2018
Making a Difference in the Lives of Children in Foster Care
00:36:42
What supports are available for helping foster parents manage the challenging behaviors that often arise with foster children and children who have experienced trauma? Have you ever had a child in your care you just weren’t sure how to help? In the United States there are over 420,00 children in foster care. These children have experienced severe stress and trauma in their lives. Statistically these children’s life outcomes include early pregnancy, homelessness and placement in special education. Parenting foster children does not come without its challenges. Listen in as Amy Speidel shares her story of parenting both foster children and her own biological children with Conscious Discipline and the generational outcomes each have experienced. Essential Takeaways • No matter the challenges, extend energy and non-verbal messages that communicate the child is worthy and loved. • Model taking responsibility for your own upset to create a space for children to do the same and establish yourself as a trustworthy adult. Steps for Tomorrow • Build strong safety before trying to connect with foster children; speak a lot of safety language. • Create connections and rituals that begin to build a sense of value and belonging. • Help foster children with their story rather than ignore it because it’s difficult or painful. Important Links: • What is Conscious Discipline: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8j3gF1dh_t4 • Wishing Well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m8L8MMrRkGQ&index=14&list=PLC1FF90B6D998E9EE • Parenting Answers with Amy Speidel: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwhBPqxwcu8qZlXXEbOVgYxzuPXgZfFt1 • Foster Care Statistics in the United States: https://www.acf.hhs.gov/cb/faq/foster-care4 Product Mentions: • There’s Got to Be A Better Way: Discipline That Works (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/products/theres-got-to-be-a-better-way-discipline-that-works) • The NEW Conscious Discipline Book- Expanded and Updated (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/conscious-discipline-core/products/the-new-conscious-discipline-book-expanded-updated) • Wish Well Board (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/school-family/products/wish-well-board) Show Outline 3:00 What is Conscious Discipline? 4:52 Children in Foster Care statistics 6:22 Introduction of Amy Speidel, Parent Coach and Foster Parent 7:10 Amy’s story of becoming a Foster Adoptive Parent 10:17 Behaviors exhibited with Amy’s foster children and what help was provided 13:15 Information that was provided regarding Ron’s foster story 15:17 Were strategies provided for how to connect with these children? 17:30 What impact did Conscious Discipline have on parenting your biological child? 22:08 Impact of Conscious Discipline on parenting your foster children 26:01 What generational effects do you see with your grandchildren? 28:50 Losing composure story with grandson Sean story 32:15 Advice for teachers who receive foster children as students into their classrooms 35:24 Wishing well 36:10 Helping foster children with their story 39:11 Final words of encouragement for those who work with foster children THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms. Also, would you consider taking 60-seconds to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes? Your feedback is extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and I love to hear your feedback! Also, don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, to get automatic updates every time a new episode goes live! On behalf of our Conscious Discipline family, we wish you well.
Nov 13, 2018
Coaching Skeptical and Willing Teachers in Conscious Discipline Implementation
00:24:18
Conscious Discipline is not a program; it’s a practice that asks adults to make a significant mindset shift. Implementation of Conscious Discipline is a process that begins with experiencing this shift, then building skills, and finally adding structures that support our practice of the skills. Administrators coaching teachers in Conscious Discipline must recognize and accept that different teachers are at different stages in this journey. Fortunately, we have resources to support you every step of the way. Join Master Instructor Jill Molli as she shares her expertise on working with both skeptical and willing teachers to implement Conscious Discipline. Jill has been a Conscious Discipline Master Instructor for the last 17 years and directs long-term, large-scale implementation projects. Previously, she was an award-winning teacher and counselor. In this episode, Jill discusses her own experience as a skeptical teacher and how she applies this experience in helping administrators coach teachers. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • Seven Powers (https://consciousdiscipline.com/methodology/seven-powers/) • Seven Skills (https://consciousdiscipline.com/methodology/seven-skills/) • Safe Place (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/shubert/shuberts-classroom/safe-place/) • Jill Molli, Conscious Discipline Master Instructor (https://consciousdiscipline.com/professional-development/instructors/jill-molli/) Product Mentions • The NEW Conscious Discipline Book- Expanded and Updated (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/conscious-discipline-core/products/the-new-conscious-discipline-book-expanded-updated) • Creating the School Family (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/school-family/products/creating-the-school-family) • Self-Regulation Value Pack (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/the-safe-place/products/self-regulation-value-pack) • CLASSROOM EDITION: Feeling Buddies Self-Regulation Toolkit (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/feeling-buddies/products/feeling-buddies-self-regulation-toolkit-english-only) Show Outline :22 What is Conscious Discipline? 0:40 Introduction of guest Jill Molli 1:39 Process of implementing Conscious Discipline and the importance of intention 7:05 Jill’s story of experiencing a mindset shift with Conscious Discipline 15:08 Working with teachers who are skeptical about Conscious Discipline 17:29 Working with teachers who willing 20:02 Importance of first cultivating the “soil” 21:01 Questions to ask when identifying a teacher’s needs 22:11 What’s Becky up to? 23:04 What’s Becky celebrating? 23:50 Becky’s commitment THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms. Also, would you consider taking 60-seconds to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes? Your feedback is extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and I love to hear your feedback! And don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast on iTunes to get automatic updates every time a new episode goes live! On behalf of our Conscious Discipline family, we wish you well.
Oct 26, 2018
Reducing Test Anxiety with Social-Emotional Learning
00:29:58
In the United States, many of us have now lived through a decade of high-stakes testing. This testing costs an average of $1.7 billion annually per state, and students take about 18 major tests each year. The pressure on students, teachers, and schools is intense. Research shows that about 40 percent of students experience test anxiety. Studies also indicate that testing interferes with the student-teacher relationship, which is the basis of all learning. With this emphasis on testing, the curriculum has narrowed, leaving less time for creativity and recreation. In addition, teachers and administrators often feel that there is no time for social-emotional learning through programs like Conscious Discipline. In reality, Conscious Discipline creates a calm, connected environment that optimizes critical-thinking and learning. It also gives students (and adults) skills that help them manage the pressure of high-stakes testing. In this episode, Cynthia Robinson-Rivers, Head of School at Van Ness Elementary in Washington D.C., shares how Conscious Discipline has helped her staff and students handle the pressure of testing. Cynthia is an award-winning administrator who has been recognized for her social-emotional learning practices and highly effective leadership. Listen as Cynthia gives practical tips for balancing academics, testing, and social-emotional learning. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • Seven Powers (https://consciousdiscipline.com/methodology/seven-powers/) • Seven Skills (https://consciousdiscipline.com/methodology/seven-skills/) • Safe Place (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/shubert/shuberts-classroom/safe-place/) • Brain State Model: Executive State (https://consciousdiscipline.com/methodology/brain-state-model/#tab_executivestate) Product Mentions • The NEW Conscious Discipline Book- Expanded and Updated (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/conscious-discipline-core/products/the-new-conscious-discipline-book-expanded-updated) • Creating the School Family (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/school-family/products/creating-the-school-family) • Self-Regulation Value Pack (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/the-safe-place/products/self-regulation-value-pack) • CLASSROOM EDITION: Feeling Buddies Self-Regulation Toolkit (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/feeling-buddies/products/feeling-buddies-self-regulation-toolkit-english-only) :22 What is Conscious Discipline? 1:17 Research on high-stakes testing 3:15 Punishments, rewards, and testing 4:12 Introduction of guest Cynthia Robinson-Rivers 5:11 Van Ness Elementary and Conscious Discipline implementation 8:00 High-stakes testing in Washington D.C. 9:11 Buffering high-stakes testing with social-emotional learning 12:36 Reducing teacher stress 14:30 Systemic side effects of high-stakes testing 15:40 Importance of the whole child and individual student needs 17:55 Cynthia’s approach to social-emotional learning 19:42 Responding to push-back from families 21:30 Success stories 23:28 Three ideas for teachers/administrators to remember amidst the pressure of testing 28:30 What’s Becky celebrating? 29:02 What’s Becky up to? THANK YOU FOR LISTENING
Oct 12, 2018
Implementing Conscious Discipline with Older Children
00:32:07
Many people believe that Conscious Discipline is an early childhood program. In reality, Conscious Discipline is a life practice appropriate for all ages. It’s a mindset shift and skillset upgrade that we use to manage our thoughts, emotions, and behavior. This allows us to set and achieve goals and solve problems or conflicts. Social emotional learning has no age limit—Conscious Discipline can and does work with older children. Listen as Kristin Abel, the pioneer of Conscious Discipline implementation with older children, shares her tips for success. Kristin is a National Board Certified teacher with 25 years of experience in education. She has used Conscious Discipline for the majority of her career, mostly with fifth grade students, and has trained both middle and high school teachers. Kristin is currently a dean of students. If you’ve ever wondered how to use Conscious Discipline with older children, this episode has the inspiration and advice you need to get started. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • Kristin Abel, Conscious Discipline Certified Instructor (https://consciousdiscipline.com/professional-development/instructors/kristin-abel/) • Seven Powers (https://consciousdiscipline.com/methodology/seven-powers/) • Seven Skills (https://consciousdiscipline.com/methodology/seven-skills/) • Safe Place (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/shubert/shuberts-classroom/safe-place/) • Feeling Buddies Self-Regulation Toolkit (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/shubert/shuberts-classroom/feeling-buddies-self-regulation-toolkit/) • Greetings (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/shubert/entrance/greetings/) Product Mentions • Creating the School Family (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/school-family/products/creating-the-school-family) • Self-Regulation Value Pack (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/the-safe-place/products/self-regulation-value-pack) • CLASSROOM EDITION: Feeling Buddies Self-Regulation Toolkit (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/feeling-buddies/products/feeling-buddies-self-regulation-toolkit-english-only) • Feeling Buddies Basic Toolkit for Classrooms (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/feeling-buddies/products/feeling-buddies-basic-toolkit-for-classrooms) • Shubert’s BIG Voice (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/shubert-sophie/products/shuberts-big-voice) Show Outline :23 What is Conscious Discipline? :50 What are real teachers? 1:31 Conscious Discipline for all ages 5:05 Introduction of guest Kristin Abel 6:29 Kristin’s decision to try Conscious Discipline with older children 7:53 Children take skills with them into middle and high school 8:37 Story of a former student (now a senior) continuing to use Conscious Discipline 10:27 Academic results of using Conscious Discipline 11:33 Powers, skills, and structures 12:14 Adapting powers, skills, and structures to older children 14:50 Why older children don’t always “know better by now” 17:14 How older children respond to Conscious Discipline 21:24 Using Feeling Buddies with older children 26:31 Three key tips for teachers of older students 30:40 What’s Becky celebrating? 31:20 What’s Becky up to? THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms. Also, would you consider taking 60-seconds to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes? Your feedback is extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and I love to hear your feedback! Also, don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, to get automatic updates every time a new episode goes live! On behalf of our Conscious Discipline family, we wish you well.
Sep 28, 2018
Conscious Discipline and Consequences
00:34:31
Have you noticed that the same children repeatedly receive the same consequences, often with no significant change in behavior? This is because most people have confused consequences with punishment. In Conscious Discipline, we differentiate consequences from punishment in very significant ways. The first six skills of Conscious Discipline build an essential foundation that allows the seventh skill, consequences, to be effective. With this foundation in place, consequences work, and lasting behavior change is possible. Without this foundation, our response to behavior will continue to be ineffective. In this episode, Becky Bailey and guest Amy Niemeier discuss the transformational power of Conscious Discipline consequences. Amy has been in education for 18 years and is in her seventh year as the principal of Slate Run Elementary School. She is also a Conscious Discipline Certified Instructor. Under Amy’s leadership, Conscious Discipline implementation at Slate Run has resulted in a tremendous culture shift and a 70% decrease in office referrals. Listen as Amy discusses her success with Conscious Discipline consequences, why they’re effective, and how you can achieve similar results. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • Amy Niemeier, Conscious Discipline Certified Instructor (https://consciousdiscipline.com/professional-development/instructors/amy-niemeier/) • Conscious Discipline Brain State Model (https://consciousdiscipline.com/methodology/brain-state-model/) • Brain Smart Start (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/shubert/shuberts-classroom/brain-smart-start/) • I Love You Rituals (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/shubert/shuberts-classroom/i-love-you-rituals/) • Creating the Habit of Noticing (https://consciousdiscipline.com/creating-the-habit-of-noticing/) Show Outline :20 What is Conscious Discipline? 3:07 Where are the consequences in Conscious Discipline? 3:34 Addressing common myths about consequences 5:39 Three types of consequences 7:21 Difference between consequences and punishment 7:50 Introduction of guest Amy Niemeier 9:11 Five-year results of Conscious Discipline implementation at Amy’s school 14:21 Amy’s understanding of consequences vs. punishment 15:41 Success story: 70% decrease in office referrals 16:12 How to help staff shift from punishing to teaching skills 17:53 Why punishments don’t work with disconnected kids 18:58 Effectiveness of natural consequences 20:33 Effectiveness of logical consequences 21:12 Practicing consequences in personal life 22:51 Amy’s personal success story 26:44 Impact of Conscious Discipline on behavior support plan at Amy’s school 28:48 Why consequences are the seventh Conscious Discipline skill 29:44 Three steps for making consequences effective 33:25 What’s Becky celebrating? 33:48 What’s Becky up to? On behalf of our Conscious Discipline family, we wish you well.
Sep 14, 2018
Implementing Conscious Discipline as a New Principal
00:30:08
Today’s teachers must juggle more initiatives, responsibilities and challenges than ever before. For this reason, introducing Conscious Discipline to faculty/staff as a new principal can be difficult. Staff must recognize the need for social and emotional learning, be willing to view children with positive intent and love and commit to the process of transformational change. This is an ongoing journey, and the key is to go slowly. Listen as Dr. Heather Finn shares her experiences and insight about introducing and implementing Conscious Discipline as a new principal. For twelve years, Heather was an award-winning teacher. She worked as a college adjunct professor for five years while earning her doctorate. She then became an assistant principal at Green Valley Elementary, a Title I school populated by students who had experienced significant trauma. After experiencing success with Conscious Discipline there, Heather became a principal at Bunker Hill Elementary in Indianapolis. In this episode, she shares tips for new principals on gradually bringing Conscious Discipline to a school. Essential Takeaways • For Conscious Discipline to succeed, it’s important for adults to view children through a lens of positive intent and love at all times. Adults can then teach students the skills they are missing (through no fault of their own) rather than punishing them. • Conscious Discipline can meet the needs of all students and work with any population. At Green Valley, there were typically 14-15 children in a class of 22 that had significant difficulties and needed consistent support throughout the day. Over the four years that Heather worked at Green Valley, teachers and students saw tremendous success with Conscious Discipline. • When faculty and staff are open to seeing others with positive intent and making connections, the impact of Conscious Discipline is felt both inside the classroom and outside of school. • It’s essential for principals introducing Conscious Discipline to live it so they can naturally model the skills and powers. • Choose a few pieces of Conscious Discipline to implement bit by bit (e.g. language of noticing, greeting rituals, morning meetings, Brain Smart Start). • When bringing Conscious Discipline to a school, be mindful of current traditions and rituals as well. Steps for Tomorrow • Start by working on your own composure. Your composure and leadership are the most important pieces, allowing you to model the best parts of Conscious Discipline. Model noticing for teachers and students. • Celebrate what you notice and what is already wonderful about the school you’ve stepped into. Notice the traditions and foundational pieces that are already in place. • Come up with a theme that is the foundation of what you hope to build and achieve within the school. For instance, Heather’s school theme is “We Are Family: All My Bulldogs and Me.” Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • Power of Love (Webinar) (https://consciousdiscipline.com/power-of-love/) • Power of Intention (Webinar) (https://consciousdiscipline.com/power-of-intention/) • Skill of Positive Intent (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/book-portal/chapter-9-positive-intent/) • Greeting Ritual (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/shubert/sophies-classroom/greeting-ritual/) • Brain Smart Start (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/shubert/shuberts-classroom/brain-smart-start/) Product Mentions • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Schools (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/conscious-discipline-core/products/the-new-conscious-discipline-book-expanded-updated) • Creating the School Family (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/school-family/products/creating-the-school-family) • Seven Skills Poster Set (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/conscious-discipline-core/products/seven-skills-poster-set)
Aug 31, 2018
Using Conscious Discipline with Children Impacted by Domestic Violence and Chronic Stress
00:31:50
1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men are victims of domestic violence. Each year, 5 million children in the United States witness domestic violence in their homes. These traumatic experiences profoundly impact children, making them fearful, anxious and always on guard. They may feel worthless, powerless and starved for affection and approval. Children affected by domestic violence, trauma and chronic stress find it difficult to trust and connect with others. They feel unsafe and are often defensive and destructive. On the opposite end of the spectrum, these children may dissociate and shut down. The good news is that we can make a difference. In this episode, Kelly Frazier-Wawire shares her experiences working in Chicago’s public schools with children who have been exposed to domestic violence and chronic stress. Kelly has worked in education for 15 years, spending 10 of these years with Chicago Public Schools (CPS). In 2011, she left the classroom to study clinical social work, providing play-based therapy to children on Chicago’s West Side. Now, Kelly is a Social Emotional Learning Specialist for CPS. Listen as she explains how Conscious Discipline has made a powerful, positive difference in the lives of children who have experienced trauma and violence. Essential Takeaways • Children who witness domestic violence are expected to remain silent about this family secret. They bury feelings of shame in the nervous system, often creating post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). They may blame themselves and feel isolated and vulnerable. • For these children, the School Family, I Love You Rituals, and Greeting Rituals are especially powerful. • It’s also very important for teachers to change the way they view children who have experienced trauma and their behavior. Behaviors that are often perceived as “calling for attention” are actually “calling for connection.” • Conscious Discipline provides concrete, practical strategies—and hope—to teachers in the most challenging schools. It gives them the skills and tools needed to support students who have witnessed ongoing violence and experienced chronic stress. This can restore the joy of teaching and prevent teachers from burning out. • Conscious Discipline fulfills essential needs such as safety and order, a schoolwide supportive environment, trust, shared power, and social emotional learning for both children and adults. Together, these components create an environment where children who have experienced trauma can thrive and be successful. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • Power of Love (Webinar) (https://consciousdiscipline.com/power-of-love/) • Power of Intention (Webinar) (https://consciousdiscipline.com/power-of-intention/) • Skill of Positive Intent (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/book-portal/chapter-9-positive-intent/) • Greeting Ritual (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/shubert/sophies-classroom/greeting-ritual/) On behalf of our Conscious Discipline family, we wish you well.
Aug 10, 2018
The Positive Alternative To Corporate Punishment
00:30:38
Corporal punishment is punishment that is intended to cause a person physical pain. Historically, the idea was that pain, degradation, and humiliation could deter an individual from committing similar offenses in the future. Today, corporal punishment is increasingly viewed as a violation of children’s human rights on the international front. There is also a growing body of evidence supporting the idea that corporal punishment is not only ineffective, but also harmful to children. It’s linked to lower test scores and problems with depression, fear and anger. It also contributes to the dangerous notion that violence is the solution to our problems. Despite this research, society’s faith in corporal punishment persists. Conscious Discipline presents a positive alternative to physical punishment that is based on safety, connection and problem-solving. Listen as special guest Dr. Barbara Landon discusses bringing Conscious Discipline to the Caribbean island of Grenada to teach parents alternative ways to discipline children, ultimately building a society of effective problem-solvers. Dr. Landon is a neuropsychologist and professor of bioethics at St. George’s School of Medicine in Grenada. She was drawn to Conscious Discipline because it is “completely consistent with everything [she’s] ever learned about the brain.” In this episode, Dr. Landon describes her innovative approach to helping parents in Grenada shift from physically punishing children to teaching them missing skills. Essential Takeaways • There is no data to support the effectiveness of corporal punishment, also known as physical punishment. In fact, data says the opposite: Children who are physically punished have lower test scores and more issues with depression, fear and anger. In cases of severe abuse, children are more prone to dropping out of school. • Despite the research, 75% of parents in the United States believe that corporal punishment is effective, and 19 states still allow corporal punishment in schools. Our beliefs about physical punishment—and punishment in general—are deeply engrained and difficult to change. • In Grenada, children from families that received Conscious Discipline training had significantly better cognitive scores than their peers. Due to the program’s success, additional funding has been allotted to expand Conscious Discipline programs in Grenada and build a demonstration center for other Caribbean islands and small developing nations. • Even for adults who are excited about the concept of Conscious Discipline, it’s vital to first experience safety and connection in order to offer it to children. Steps for Tomorrow • Start by building community and fostering safety and connection for adults who have never experienced it before. • Attend or bring a two-day Conscious Discipline workshop to introduce the powers, skills, and structures to the community. • Find people who have experienced safety and connection and want to help spread it to others by teaching Conscious Discipline. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • The Conscious Discipline Brain State Model (https://consciousdiscipline.com/methodology/brain-state-model/) • Friends and Family Board (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/shubert/shuberts-classroom/friends-and-family-board/) • Using Logical Consequences (https://consciousdiscipline.com/videos/using-logical-consequences/) • Conscious Discipline Events (https://consciousdiscipline.com/professional-development/events/) Product Mentions • Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/parent-education/products/easy-to-love-difficult-to-discipline) • I Love You Rituals (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/products/i-love-you-rituals) • I Love You Rituals Deluxe Pack (https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/products/i-love-you-rituals-deluxe-pack) Show Outline :20 What is Conscious Discipline? 0:44 Grenada and the Saving Brains grant 1:05 What is corporal punishment? 3:05 Data demonstrating that corporal punishment is ineffective and harmful 5:00 Introduction of special guest Dr. Barbara Landon 6:00 How and why Dr. Landon got involved with Conscious Discipline 7:05 Goals of the Saving Brains grant and bringing Conscious Discipline to Grenada 9:15 How Dr. Landon disseminated Conscious Discipline to villages and parents 11:25 Evidence showing the effectiveness of Dr. Landon’s approach 13:20 Success story of mother and son making a connection 16:19 Success story of mother learning an alternative to corporal punishment 18:17 Dr. Landon’s thoughts on the ineffectiveness of corporal punishment 21:06 Responding to common arguments in favor of corporal punishment 22:01 What’s next for Dr. Landon and Conscious Discipline in Grenada? 24:15 Three steps for introducing Conscious
Jul 27, 2018
Dealing With Constant Initative Changes
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Teachers are exposed to many new initiatives that are asked of them on a daily basis, some they agree with and some they don’t. Some of these initiatives are viewed as meaningful, while others are considered inconvenient. For administrators and school leaders, it’s important to be sensitive to these viewpoints when introducing Conscious Discipline. Conscious Discipline is a transformational change that requires time, passion, and commitment. It asks adults to shift both their skillset and their mindset, particularly in the way they view misbehavior and children who misbehave. This change isn’t easy and is sometimes met with reluctance or unwillingness. Listen as special guest Amanda Spight shares how she has navigated the challenges of implementing Conscious Discipline at her elementary school. Amanda is the principal of Gladden Elementary School in Belton, Missouri. She is also the mother of a two-year-old son and has successfully implemented Conscious Discipline both at school and at home. In today’s episode, Amanda shares her stories of success and provides tips on introducing Conscious Discipline to staff, proactively addressing unwillingness, and staying the course. Essential Takeaways • Conscious Discipline requires transformational change rather than traditional change. Transformational change should be organization-wide, occurs over a period of time, and requires adults to make mindset shifts and skillset shifts. Most of us are used to traditional change, which is faster and easier. • Teachers are regularly asked to implement new initiatives. Increase willingness through relationship-building and shared leadership, rather than announcing, “We’re doing Conscious Discipline.” • Allow implementation to progress organically and connect it to the why (the purpose behind new changes). Surround yourself with support and encouragement. • It’s helpful to model for staff the processes, activities, and structures they’ll use in their classrooms. Introduce a “new normal.” • The first year of Conscious Discipline is a transitional year. Hold to your values and what you believe is important for our children, and you’ll see significant positive change in time. Steps for Tomorrow • Start with noticing. Without judgement, provide feedback on the positives you see. • Offer empathy to others. If you’re a principal, extend empathy to your staff. If you’re a parent or teacher, give empathy to your students. • By consistently working on noticing and empathy, you’ll build feelings of safety and increase willingness. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com • Brain Smart Start • Noticing • Jill Molli • Jobs • Commitments • Safekeeper Ritual Product Mentions • Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline • Creating the School Family • School Family Job Set Show Outline :20 What is Conscious Discipline? :48 What are real teachers? 2:05 Conscious Discipline and transformational change 3:14 Changing how you see behavior and children who misbehave 5:20 Introduction of guest Amanda Spight 6:11 Amanda’s introduction to Conscious Discipline 10:00 Introducing Conscious Discipline to staff 14:12 Integrating Brain Smart Starts and commitments into staff meetings 15:19 The four components of a Brain Smart Start 17:20 Proactively addressing resistance from staff 20:00 Shifting from external rewards to internal skills 21:35 The value of noticing 22:00 Amanda’s story of professional success with Conscious Discipline 26:00 Why the first year of Conscious Discipline is a transitional year 27:00 Amanda’s story of parenting success with Conscious Discipline 30:00 The importance of deciding what you value 31:00 Two steps for principals and parents to get started with Conscious Discipline THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms.
Jul 13, 2018
How To Coach Your Peers With Less Resistance and More Success
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Peer coaching is a powerful way for teachers to pay it forward. Whatever you offer to others, you strengthen in yourself. As a peer coach you learn to listen nonjudgmentally, notice successes, and celebrate them. As you share your skills and talents, you learn to be more conscious and intentional in your own life. Sometimes, though, there’s a lack of willingness to coach or be coached. This is the result of fear: fear of not knowing what we’re doing, fear of being perceived as a know-it-all, fear of being judged or becoming judgmental, etc. In this episode, Becky Bailey and special guest Alissa McGraw discuss how to overcome common obstacles to peer coaching. Alissa is a 14-year veteran teacher who started out as the only teacher practicing Conscious Discipline at her elementary school. Now, she hosts twice monthly voluntary meetings attended by administrators, counselors, and 25-30 teachers. Listen as Alissa describes her transformative peer coaching process, including how to build connections and foster collaboration. Essential Takeaways • Peer coaching is a “win-win” for all involved. The best way to learn something is to do it yourself, then teach it to others. Teaching others encourages reflection and self-discovery. • Limiting beliefs about ourselves sometimes decrease our willingness to coach or be coached. Remember that sharing your gifts in no way discounts the gifts of others. • The peer coaching process can include answering questions, modeling, observing other teachers and being observed by others. You may also want to conduct voluntary meetings or book studies with interested teachers. • The classroom is a “sacred space” for many teachers. For peers to be comfortable inviting you into their classrooms, it’s essential that you build authentic connections. • Transformational change can’t be forced; it must be inspired. Work with the teachers who are willing and give time and space to those who aren’t. Steps for Tomorrow • Start off slow. Send out emails to gauge interest, consider hosting voluntary meetings, and express a willingness to visit classrooms or invite others into your classroom. • Get your students involved in the coaching process. Have them read Shubert books to younger children or model structures like the Brain Smart Start and the Time Machine. • Live it! Be the person you want others to become. Share your journey openly with others and build connections that pave the way for collaboration. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com • Brain Smart Start • Noticing • Kindness Recorder Product Mentions • Time Machine • Safe Place • Shubert Books Show Outline :20 What is Conscious Discipline? :54 The power of paying it forward 2:20 Addressing the limiting beliefs that keep us from coaching/being coached by peers 4:55 Introduction of guest Alissa McGraw 6:28 Impact of Conscious Discipline 9:30 Using Conscious Discipline with older students 12:25 Getting into peer coaching 13:40 Sharing Conscious Discipline with peers through voluntary meetings 14:08 Evolution of Alissa’s monthly meetings 15:15 Relationship building and its impact on peer coaching 16:50 Alissa’s coaching process 18:20 The role of administrative support in peer coaching 19:35 Story of a support teacher’s success with noticing 22:30 Responding to peer teachers who are not willing 25:10 Three tips for teachers considering peer coaching 27:50 What’s Becky up to? THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms. Also, would you consider taking 60-seconds to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes? Your feedback is extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and I love to hear your feedback! Also, don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, to get automatic updates every time a new episode goes live! On behalf of our Conscious Discipline family, we wish you well.
Jun 28, 2018
End Of The Year Challenges & The Helpful Strategies That Make A Difference
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The end of the school year can be a challenging time when difficult behaviors pop up—even in the most connected classrooms! For students, summer can be an exciting and unpredictable time, and next year may be an anxiety-provoking unknown. The routines that anchor their classroom lives with predictability and safety are soon to be left behind, as are the rituals that have connected class members all year long. Students’ big feelings about these changes often show up as outbursts, chatter, defiance and other stress behaviors. In this episode, Becky Bailey and special guest Vicky Hepler tackle end of year challenges with rituals that help ease the transition to summer and beyond. Vicky is a Master Instructor and a 36-year veteran of the classroom. Learn from her personal experiences, including the importance of “I will remember” and specific activities to soothe the “what ifs” of anxiety that crop up in the final weeks of school. Essential Takeaways • Outbursts and behavior challenges signal sadness about leaving friends and anxiety about what comes next. For many students, summer lacks structure and next year is a big unknown. For some, summer also means facing issues like a lack of food or unsafe neighborhoods. • Connected School Families sometimes experience the hardest goodbyes. The more difficult the behaviors, the greater the need for end of year connecting rituals. • For older children, begin preparing 20-30 days before school ends. For younger children, begin 2-3 weeks before school ends. • Reframe the emotionally-charged phrase “I’m going to miss…” with the emotionally-grounded phrase “I will remember…” • Create memory books for children to take with them. • Have older children write questions for students in the next grade level (and have the older students respond). • Anxiety’s message is “I need more information to feel safe.” Ask yourself, “How can we soothe the anxiety and answer the what ifs in my classroom?” • Take a field trip to the next grade so children have a better sense of what to expect next year. • Involve the family and plan an end of year celebration with a focus on remembering. Steps for Tomorrow • #1 Do something! Acknowledge the movement from this known, connected class to an uncertain summer and an unknown next year. “I will remember…” • #2 Create a memory book or video. Distribute a copy to every student. • #3 Give students the opportunity to gather information about what to expect next year. • Provide ways to remember the calming strategies they’ve learned (portable Safe Places, etc.). • When a student has an outburst likely stemming from end of year turmoil, breathe and say, “I’m going to miss you, too. I remember when we…” to help him or her process the emotion and upshift to the higher centers of the brain. Important Links www.ConsciousDiscipline.com Products • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms • Kindness Counts • Creating the School Family Show Outline :00 Introduction of Dr. Becky Bailey and Conscious Discipline :50 End of year countdown and big emotions 2:01 End of year at Dr. Bailey’s first School Family 3:25 What to do 3:40 Building a School Family with the Power of Unity 4:10 Routines and rituals 4:40 Thanksgiving story 5:50 Introduction of Master Instructor Vicky Hepler 6:50 When end of year problems begin 7:25 Anxiety- Their safety net has a leak! 8:15 Young children have a limited concept of time and ending 9:19 End of year rituals say, “No matter what, I will remember…” 9:50 Dr. Bailey’s PhD story 10:45 The power of rituals 12:42 Broken arm story 14:00 When is it time to start your end of year rituals 16:00 Helpful rituals 16:55 “I’m going to miss you” vs “I will remember…” 17:22 “I will remember” book 18:15 “Love is a Circle” song from Kindness Counts CD 19:48 Enabling older students to seek answers to their questions 20:30 How to soothe “what if” anxieties 21:05 Field trips to the next grade 19:55 Involve the family like high school graduations 23:00 Steps for tomorrow summary 28:07 What is Becky up to 28:44 What are we celebrating
Jun 15, 2018
Impacting Early Childhood Education by Becoming the Change You Want to See
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Research confirms the early years (ages 0-5) are a time for rapid brain growth and development. Research also indicates that stimulation and interaction with loving, caring adults – not toys, screens or academics – are critical to early brain development. So, how do we impact a system and a society that has grown away from what is developmentally appropriate for the sake of academics and convenience? Listen as Mindy Becker, Owner of Grow with Us Academy, shares her story of meeting the community’s needs by bringing developmentally appropriate practices back into the preschool classroom through the connection, attachment and social play cultivated with Conscious Discipline. Essential Takeaways • The brain is a social organ. A child’s connections and positive relationships with adults during the early years are a deciding factor for healthy brain development. • Adults must learn to regulate ourselves and model this self-regulation with children. Steps for Tomorrow • Put the phone down and build connections with your children through face to face interactions and social play. • Become aware of your own feelings and manage those feelings before you interact with children. • Remember, “what you focus on, you get more of.” Focus on the behaviors you want to see from children. Important Links • What is Conscious Discipline: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8j3gF1dh_t4 • Grow With Us Academy: www.growwithusacademy.com • I Love You Rituals: https://www.youtube.com/edit?o=U&video_id=C3PtrlnUm4U • NAEYC Developmentally Appropriate Practice Position Statement: https://www.naeyc.org/files/naeyc/file/positions/PSDAP.pdf Products • I Love You Rituals • Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms Show Outline (time stamps) :18 What is Conscious Discipline 1:12 Challenges of today’s preschools 3:36 How we traveled off course from developmentally appropriate practices 6:35 Introduction of guest Mindy Becker, Owner of Grow With Us Academy 7:54 Seeing a need for change 13:34 Beginning to work with parents through parent/child classes 16:58 The structure for “Mommy and Me” classes 18:01 What are I Love You Rituals 20:36 “Round and Round the Garden” I Love You Ritual 22:36 Importance of social games with young children and impact of rising technology 24:30 Conscious Discipline requirement for parents of children attending Grow With Us Academy 26:25 “Arrival to School” routine at Grow With Us Academy 30:17 I Love You Ritual drop off choices for parent and child 31:14 Safekeeper ritual and teacher greeting 33:54 Summary 35:52 Steps for tomorrow 39:33 Success story of a child with challenging behavior that transferred to Grow With Us
Jun 01, 2018
Navigating Lockdowns from Dr. Becky Bailey's Perspective
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School violence has left educators with unique challenges in providing for students’ physical and emotional safety. During lockdown drills and events, it isn’t enough to simply follow safety protocol; we must also address the social and emotional fallout from these stressful experiences. It is essential that we intentionally create lockdown procedures that revolve around safety, self-regulation and effective communication, as well as classroom procedures for restarting learning once a lockdown has ended. Listen as Dr. Becky Bailey takes on this formidable subject in the fourth and final episode in our School Lockdown series. Essential Takeaways • Teaching procedures and self-regulation strategies is essential for successful lockdowns. Steps for Tomorrow • Teach everyone to be a S.T.A.R. and wish well as a response to distress. • Use visuals to provide clear step-by-step instructions for what will happen during lockdown drills and events. • Adults must self-regulate, help students regulate and provide constant, clear communication to students about what is happening during drills. • After the lockdown or drill ends: Breathe deeply, provide the opportunity for children and teachers to reflect on the experience, end the debriefing by sharing gratitude, provide an opportunity for movement, encourage students to connect and restart classes with light review work. Important Links www.ConsciousDiscipline.com Products • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms • Feeling Buddies Self-Regulation Toolkit • Managing Emotional Mayhem Show Outline :20 What is Conscious Discipline? 2:15 Three phases to address regarding school lockdowns 4:08 Understanding our internal wiring and self-regulation 7:22 The effects of relying on fear 11:15 Essential questions to ask ourselves 12:24 Consider the effects of lockdown practices 13:39 What to do before lockdown drills 16:26 What to do during the lockdown 19:28 What to do after the lockdown 22:08 Summary 23:15 What’s Becky up to?
May 17, 2018
Navigating Lockdowns From A Student and Parent Perspective
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Episodes of school violence, including mass shootings, have left educators with unique challenges in providing for students’ physical and emotional safety. They’ve also left parents with the added challenge of explaining these events and creating a sense of safety for children who sometimes feel unsafe at school. Each day teachers and students enter their work and learning environments with a certain amount of stress and anxiety. Active shooter drills and school lockdowns are necessary safety precautions; however, they often add to this stress. As parents, we can support schools in their efforts to keep students physically and emotionally safe by attuning with our children’s social-emotional health before and after active shooter drills, lockdowns and other disturbing events. Listen as high school student Hannah Mercer and her mother, Nicole Mercer, share their experiences with active shooter situations and lockdown drills. Essential Takeaways • Communicating and practicing procedures with students before lockdown situations is essential to reducing panic and anxiety during these events. • Adults must practice self-calming first, and then support children in doing the same during lockdowns. • Once the lockdown or drill is over, make extra time for connection and for students to talk about their experiences. Steps for Tomorrow – from the student perspective • Teachers, talk with your students about lockdown procedures and walk through them before the actual drill takes place. • Teachers, practice self-calming when directing students during drills and while providing information to let know students know they are safe. • When drills are over, offer deep breathing activities and reassurance that students are safe. Utilize the day for review rather than teaching new content. Steps for Tomorrow – from the student perspective • Learn about the school’s lockdown procedures so you can reflect and talk with your children before and after these experiences happen at school. • On the same day of the event, create time at home for children to share their thoughts and feelings about lockdown situations. Important Links www.ConsciousDiscipline.com Products • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms https://consciousdiscipline.com/e-learning/online-courses/ • Link to trauma webinars https://consciousdiscipline.com/webinar-series-understanding-trauma/ • Feeling Buddies for Home Toolkit https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/products/feeling-buddies-basic-toolkit-for-classrooms Show Outline :20 What is Conscious Discipline? 2:54 Introduction of student guest Hannah Mercer 3:42 Hannah’s experience of first school lockdown 8:37 Returning to school activities after lockdown 11:53 Managing subsequent lockdowns 15:34 Returning to school after an active shooter situation 17:26 What could teachers do to be helpful before, during and after a lockdown? 23:32 Introduction of parent guest Nicole Mercer 25:17 Bringing Conscious Discipline home 26:04 Story of responding from an old skillset vs. the Conscious Discipline skillset 28:48 Responding to siblings during conflict 30:40 Parent reactions during school lockdown 34:19 What happens when you reconnect with your child after a lockdown? 37:50 Reflecting on the impact of lockdowns for your child 40:30 Do you worry about your child going to school? 41:25 Recommendations for parents 46:10 What’s Becky up to
May 04, 2018
Navigating Lockdowns From An Educator's Perspective
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School violence leaves teachers and schools with unique challenges in providing for students’ physical and emotional safety. The goal of active shooter drills and school lockdowns is to keep schools safe, but teachers often feel under-equipped to manage the sense of danger, anxiety, uncertainty and stress that occurs during and after these events. Classroom teachers are charged with unique responsibilities, from physical protector to emotional caregiver for their students—all while experiencing their own fears and feelings. As you plan your classroom’s approach, it is helpful to consider both you and your students’ social-emotional health when practicing, enacting and recovering from lockdowns and drills. Listen as Kindergarten teacher Tiffany Taylor and 5th grade teacher Kristin Abel share helpful ways they prepare themselves and their students for active shooter and lockdown drills. Essential Takeaways • Always relate the procedures back to safety • Create and practice visuals for the drill’s steps and procedures • Practice your own composure and self-regulation in order to help students do the same • Provide time and space for students to talk about their experience after drills, but before returning to learning activities Steps for Tomorrow Practice your personal composure and rehearse helpful inner speech before, during, and after drills and lockdowns Create and strengthen connections with students Explore more about creating and implementing a Safe Place in your classroom Important Links www.ConsciousDiscipline.com How to set up a safe place https://consciousdiscipline.com/videos/how-to-set-up-a-safe-place-dr-becky-bailey-explains/ Products • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms • Link to trauma webinars • Feeling Buddies for Classroom Toolkit Show Outline :19 What is Conscious Discipline? 1:44 Definition of trauma 3:00 Introduction of Tiffany Taylor, Kindergarten teacher 4:11 Monthly lockdown drill procedures with young children 5:33 Tiffany’s experience with nearby gunshots and a lockdown during school hours 9:20 Suggestions for early childhood teachers 9:50 Three specific tips for tomorrow 13:50 Introduction of Kristin Abel, K-5 resource teacher and former 5th grade teacher 16:32 Lockdown drill procedures at Kristin’s school 18:17 Preparing students for drills through procedures and self-regulation 20:17 What about classrooms who are not practicing Conscious Discipline? 22:42 Kristen’s story of helping a child experiencing high emotions during a lockdown 24:19 Reflecting on the lockdown experiences at two different schools 27:53 Helpful suggestions for after a lockdown drill 28:25 What happens after a real lockdown situation? 31:21 Connecting with students who slip into daydream states after lockdowns 35:02 Top three things for teachers to know 38:10 What’s Becky Bailey up to now? ConsciousDiscipline.com
Apr 20, 2018
Navigating Lockdowns From An Administrator's Perspective
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School violence leaves administrators and schools with unique challenges in providing for students’ physical and emotional safety. Active shooter drills and school lockdowns are common, mandated events. The goal of these drills is to keep schools safe, but their emotional side-effects include increased anxiety, uncertainty and stress (on top of the “normal” levels of stress teachers and students already experience every day). The effects of school shootings can be seen and felt in all schools, at all age levels. It is important to consider social-emotional health when creating, practicing and enacting lockdown procedures, and preparing your staff to manage both their own and their students’ needs before, during and after these drills. Listen in as Diane Phelan, Principal of Keller Middle School, shares how she and her staff prepare for active shooter situations and lockdown drills. Essential Takeaways • Communication with students before, during and after lockdown drills is crucial. • Teachers managing their inner states during drills enables them to help students manage their inner states. • Know what triggers fear, anxiety and other difficult emotions for teachers and students so you can coach healthy responses for all. • Students will respond to how teachers manage themselves during drills. Steps for Tomorrow • Embed social-emotional learning deeply into the practices of your emergency drills • Learn to regulate emotional states during times of distress. • Have a plan for helping teachers and students transition back to teaching and learning after emergency drills. Important Links www.ConsciousDiscipline.com http://keller.pasadenaisd.org (Keller Middle School) Products • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms Show Outline :19 What is Conscious Discipline? 1:15 Today’s topic: School Shootings 3:55 Active shooter drills compared to emergency drills of the past 6:29 Introduction of guest Diane Phelan 8:40 How Keller Middle School prepares teachers and students for lockdown drills 10:20 Keller Middle School lockdown procedures 12:45 Diane’s story about triggered teachers and students during tornado event 15:02 Discussing lockdowns with faculty 17:56 Diane’s essential take-aways 19:58 Transitioning teachers and students back to teaching and learning after drills 21:30 Summary of helpful strategies during lockdown and emergency drills 23:50 What is Becky up to these days?
Apr 06, 2018
Building Resiliency for Children Experiencing Homelessness
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Family privilege is a collection of strengths and supports children gain through healthy, caring primary relationships (Seita, J, 2014 - https://eric.ed.gov/?id=EJ1038836 ). Many children lack the full benefit of these strengths and supports due to factors like insecure attachment, homelessness, uncertain home life, substance abuse, trauma and neglect. The School Family in Conscious Discipline is based on a healthy family model, and builds resilience in children who have experienced trauma and/or lack of family privilege. In this episode, Abbi Kruse shares her story of creating an early childhood program that builds resilience and School Family-based family privilege for both paying, middle-class families and non-paying families experiencing homelessness. Listen as she describes the impact of her program as it closes the social-emotional gap often embedded in the socio-economic divide. Learn how creating a School Family and shifting your perceptions about challenging children creates an environment of success for all children. Essential Takeaways Building a School Family is essential for the success of all children. Seeing behavior as a call for help and connecting with children who struggle helps build resiliency. Steps for Tomorrow Remember that children’s distress and misbehavior is happening in front of you, not to you. Shift your focus from “How do I make this child stop,” to “How do I help this child succeed.” Focus on the child’s need for safety and connection and don’t give up! Important Links: The Playing Field https://www.playingfieldmadison.org Connecting home to the School Family: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-LoPISIGAJw Growing Up Without Family Privilege: http://reclaimingjournal.com/sites/default/files/journal-article-pdfs/10_3_Seita.pdf Products: Creating the School Family
I Love You Rituals Creating the School Family Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Schools and Homes e-Course Show Outline: :45 What is Conscious Discipline 3:26 Challenges of working with children experiencing homelessness 4:59 Strategies for success when working with children experiencing homelessness 5:38 Resiliency 6:09 Family privilege 8:36 Introduction of guest Abbi Kruse 10:11 Creation and mission of the Playing Field 12:36 Would Conscious Discipline help in a program that serves children experiencing homelessness? 13:30 Finding and training staff willing to take on challenging work with preschool children 14:41 Success story, child of trauma 17:12 Involving the parents of children experiencing homelessness 20:36 Bringing in families of privilege to join the program 23:15 Child developmental outcomes 24:01 Procedures for enrolling children in the Playing Field 25:50 Training staff 26:52 Suggestions to get started with children who experience homelessness 28:09 Getting through the hardest moments when working in a program serving the homeless 30:02 Final suggestion for helping a critical problem facing young children 31:50 Immediate steps for teachers to take with students who struggle www.ConsciousDiscipline.com
Mar 16, 2018
Why Gangs Are Created And What Can Be Done To Shift The Violence
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Socialization is a process by which a person learns to be a member of a group or community. Families and educators have the task of socializing children into the collective in a healthy way in order to sustain ourselves as a society. “Us” and “them” socialization (racism, sexism, have vs have not, good kid vs bad kid classroom culture, etc.) impedes healthy socialization. It can prime the excluded, “lesser” children to seek inclusion in groups and relationships that are damaging or abusive, including street gangs. In this episode, DJ Baptiste shares his experiences from being a teenage gang leader through his current role as a motivational speaker and advocate for creating a healthy School Family “gang” for all children. Essential Takeaways • Any form of “us” and “them” socialization impedes the development of a healthy culture • Disconnected/marginalized children will find an alternative way to meet the need to belong • All children need predictability, consistency and a sense of belonging • Creating a sense of community in the classroom (a School Family) provides students with connection, predictability and a sense of belonging Important Links Gang Leader to Graduate Success Story (insert/connect link) How to Make a (Bully from Scratch) (insert/connect link) Bully Road Signs series of videos (insert/connect link) Products Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms Creating the School Family Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Schools and Homes e-Course Show Outline (time stamps) :24 What is Conscious Discipline 1:42 Prevalence of gangs in our society 2:50 What is socialization 5:01 Introduction of guest speaker DJ Baptiste, former gang leader 6:23 DJ’s story of his path towards being in a gang 9:55 DJ expelled from preschool 12:56 DJ created his own gang 15:15 A sense of belonging draws children toward gangs 17:40 How gangs provide consistency and predictability 19:18 Codes of conduct in DJ’s gang 20:42 Was there ever a sense of fear being in the gang 23:00 DJ’s life-changing moment 26:10 Mrs. Porter connects, gives DJ a class job and creates a School Family 29:46 DJ’s current employment 31:35 Summary of what the gang provided Transcript can be found here: https://consciousdiscipline.com/podcast-episode014/
Mar 02, 2018
Implementation That Creates Transformational Change
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With so many models for creating change, how do you decide which one is best for your school? Do you want lasting change or a Band-Aid approach? Do you have what it takes to create a transformational change in your classroom, school or district? Traditional change is doing the same thing you’ve been doing, but doing it better, faster, and cheaper. Transitional change makes small changes in behaviors by doing new “B” instead of old “A.” Transformational change creates a new mindset, or way of thinking. It’s the most challenging and rewarding form of change because it creates far-reaching and long-lasting results that have never existed before. Conscious Discipline is a transformational change model that asks administrators and educators to see through a new lens of knowledge. In this episode, Conscious Discipline Master Instructor Jill Molli shares challenges and tips for success when transforming school cultures with Conscious Discipline. Essential Takeaways • Administrative buy-in and participation in trainings is essential to success • Work with willing teachers and staff; allow their success to motivate others • Create model classrooms for sustainability Steps for Tomorrow • Begin with implementation of Conscious Discipline in your own life first • Principals reflect on personal leadership style • Work with teachers and students Important Links: Conscious Discipline Pay-It-Forward Implementation https://consciousdiscipline.s3.amazonaws.com/Free-Resources/Implementation-Staff-Development/FREE-Implementation-Staff-Dev-Pay_It_Forward_Transformational_Process.pdf Conscious Discipline Skills Rubrics https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/type/progress-assessment-rubrics/ Products: Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Schools and Homes E-Course Show Outline (time stamps) – :23 What is Conscious Discipline 1:40 Transformational, transitional and traditional change models 6:41 Introduction of guest Jill Molli, Conscious Discipline Master Instructor 7:40 Obstacles to overcome when implementing Conscious Discipline 12:52 Who to send to Summer Institutes and trainings 14:31 School/agency 3-prong approach for successful implementation 18:15 Identifying your Conscious Discipline Action Team (CDAT) 20:30 Importance of coaching during implementation 22:24 How to achieve fidelity with Conscious Discipline 24:39 Misuse of the Conscious Discipline Safe Place Self-Regulation Center 28:00 Creating onsite model classrooms for sustainability 32:51 Steps for tomorrow
Feb 17, 2018
Parenting with Conscious Discipline
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Some days, even the best parents feel at a loss for how to respond to a child’s behavior: the right words won’t come, the child won’t behave and there just has to be a better way! Dr. Becky Bailey, the creator of Conscious Discipline, says discipline is something we develop within children, not something we do to them. Much of our parenting is based on the idea that it’s our job to have the perfect words, the perfect actions or the perfect punishment that will make a child behave properly. Conscious Discipline turns this ineffective mindset on its head, helping us shift to an emotionally-intelligent, brain smart and research-based approach. Listen as Ginny Luther, owner of Peaceful Parenting and retired Conscious Discipline Master Instructor of 18+ years, shares her story of parenting with Conscious Discipline. Essential Takeaways • Start with a skill that feels easy for you so you can experience success. • Change “should” to “could.” • It’s not your job to fix it. Be calm in the midst of their upset. Breathe before you speak. Steps for Tomorrow • Connection is the key. Be present with your children when they are in your presence. • Quit Taking It Personally (QTIP)! Their behavior has nothing to do with you. • It’s not your job to “happy up” your children. • Be the calm in their storm. Important Links Conscious Discipline: www.ConsciousDiscipline.com Peaceful Parenting: http://www.peacefulparenting.net Bart’s Blue Star: http://www.bartsbluestar.org Products • There’s Got to be a Better Way • Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline • Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline audiobook • I Love You Rituals Show Outline :23 What is Conscious Discipline? 1:45 Introduction of guest Ginny Luther, owner of Peaceful Parenting 3:10 Ginny’s story of bringing Conscious Discipline to parents 6:15 Ginny’s start to her personal journey towards peaceful parenting 8:24 Ginny’s story of her son, Bart 12:42 Setting up parenting classes 14:25 Starting parenting classes through schools 17:24 Empowered parent groups 19:34 Top three questions from parents 21:17 Importance of visual routines 23:56 The Seven Powers of Conscious Discipline 26:46 “I’m not your mom anymore!” story 29:51 Little changes make a big difference 32:41 Your child’s misbehavior is a gift 38:24 Essential takeaways 41:45 Bart’s Blue Star
Feb 02, 2018
Special Episode - “How do I…?” with Dr. Becky Bailey
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Asking for help is one of the most powerful tools we possess in life. It allows us to learn, think critically and problem solve, and it allows others to do the same while also being of service. “How do I…?” is a special quarterly episode that provides a forum for podcast listeners to reach out for help. In this podcast, Dr. Bailey responds with helpful Conscious Discipline-based approaches for: How do I teach respect? How do I communicate red flag behaviors to parents? How do I get parents on board? How do I stop my child from climbing in my bed in the middle of the night? How do I help coworkers use Conscious Discipline with other adults at work? Essential Takeaways • Assertiveness is the key skill in teaching respect. • In teaching respect, it’s important to reflect and ask 1. How are we modeling respect and 2. How are we responding when we perceive we’ve been disrespected. • When working with parents, it is essential to show up with the intention to be helpful and the resources to help. • The only way to encourage someone to join you in Conscious Discipline is to inspire them by being a model. • Changing an ill-suited routine or pattern you’ve unconsciously taught your child requires working through the resulting upset. Products: Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms Show Outline (time stamps) – :48 How do I teach respect? How do I teach my children to respect each other, my things, and our home? 3:38 How do I communicate red flag behaviors to parents? 6:50 From a home visitor: How do I get parents on board with Conscious Disicipline, when 1. I have trouble maintaining my composure when children are screaming in the house, 2. I forget the verbiage in the moment because the children are fighting and mom is watching, and 3. I only see children once. 9:31 How do I stop my child from coming to my bed in the middle of the night? 13:33 How do I help adults use Conscious Discipline in their adult-to-adult interactions in the workplace?
Jan 19, 2018
Managing Anxiety: How to Help Children Name, Claim and Tame Their Distress
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Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the United States, affecting 40 million adults. Persistent worry has a lasting negative impact on both mind and body. In children, anxiety often looks like avoidance, clinging, aggression and other challenging behaviors. This can make it difficult for adults to recognize and support children in managing the anxiety that’s at the root of the behavior. In this episode, Jill Molli teaches us new skills as she shares her personal journey with her own anxiety and with helping her daughter manage similar feelings. Discover the powerful transformation that occurs as Jill and Meg shift from thinking about anxiety to naming the feeling, taming it and developing healthy strategies for managing it. Essential Takeaways • Anxiety in children presents itself through many different behaviors. • A child’s ability to self-regulate won’t develop without first experiencing co-regulation with a calm adult. • Naming the feeling, rather than asking a child to think about the feeling, is the first step in managing anxiety. Steps for Tomorrow • When you or a child feels anxious, name and acknowledge the feeling rather than questioning why it is there. • Practice active calming so you can become a co-regulator for children who feel anxious. Important Links: Video: Naming and Taming Anxiety: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x-jFv1Z5Qdg&index=17&list=PL3418E21B5FB5559C Products: Managing Emotional Mayhem https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/products/managing-emotional-mayhem Show Outline (time stamps) – :23 What is Conscious Discipline 1:21 Effects of anxiety and types of anxiety in children 5:23 Introduction of guest Jill Molli 6:24 Jill’s story of growing up anxious 8:55 Genetics and anxiety 9:32 Story of Jill recognizing anxiety in her daughter 13:42 The progression of anxiety as Jill’s daughter got older 15:30 Effect of new experiences on people who experience anxiety 16:56 Naming the feeling to tame it 19:51 Having a “person” to help download calm 21:49 The Safe Place and its purpose 24:02 Asking the child to think about anxiety through questioning won’t help 25:05 Jill’s story of where her anxiety came from 27:25 Story of Meg’s anxiety as a teen during soccer games 30:57 How Jill’s journey has helped her support teachers and other children 32:44 Meg’s essay about anxiety
Jan 05, 2018
The Most Challenging People At Work And The Opportunity They Offer You
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Are there people in your life you find challenging to work with or be with? Why do we find some people so irritating and how can we utilize those irritations as opportunities for growth? The way we perceive sensory input, information from others and data gathered about the outside world determines if we will react from old programming or respond in wise and helpful ways. When we take others’ upset personally, we are not able to see from their perspective or offer help. Listen in as Ali Oliver, Director of Professional Development for Conscious Discipline and former transformational Principal, shares strategies for working with the most difficult staff, parents and students in our lives. Essential Takeaways The quality of relationships shapes the function of our brain. When challenging people come to us, it’s important to QTIP (Quit Taking It Personally) and be present so they feel heard and we can better understand what they are communicating. Breathing and preparing ourselves in these moments allows us to connect during upset and respond in a helpful way rather than react. Steps for Tomorrow • Build a way to connect within the building • Prepare yourself by learning your own triggers and upset tendencies, and then practice active calming • See from the other person’s point of view and know their upset is not about you Important Links www.ConsciousDiscipline.com Wiring the Brain for Success: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cjVJV7G8x3s Power of Perception Webinar: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cjVJV7G8x3s Products • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms • Time Machine (Conflict Resolution Mat) Show Outline :20 What is Conscious Discipline 1:28 Working with those who challenge us the most 3:30 Understanding our states of consciousness 5:58 Introduction of guest Ali Oliver, former transformational Principal and current Director of Professional Development for Conscious Discipline 6:50 Working with difficult parents and teachers 11:18 Reframing and providing empathy to diffuse others’ upset moments 15:11 Working with the most difficult children 18:32 Using Conscious Discipline with adults 21:07 Working with staff members in conflict moments 23:20 Changing the language we use during adult upsets 27:06 Importance of connecting the faculty 28:14 Steps for tomorrow 30:34 What it means to see from another’s point of view
Dec 08, 2017
Peeing, Pooping & Spitting: Seeing Extreme Behaviors as a Call for Help
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Have you noticed some children will increase their behaviors in what seems to be an effort to gain your attention? Have you ever had a child exhibit a behavior that just seems so bizarre to you and you were at a loss for how to respond? Children with extreme behaviors and mental illness present some of the most challenging moments in the classroom. Some of these behaviors can be alarming to the adults who care for them. Seeing all behavior as a form of communication creates opportunity for acceptance of where the child is, connection, and teaching new skills. Listen in as Kim Jackson, Conscious Discipline Master Instructor and demonstration teacher in North Carolina, shares strategies for working with children during extreme behaviors. ESSENTIAL TAKEAWAYS • Seeing all behavior as communication enables adults to create teaching moments, even with them most challenging children. • Adults managing their own emotional states in times of conflict is essential. • Respecting where children are in the moment creates opportunity to connect and teaches others watching acceptance. STEPS FOR TOMORROW • Know how to access your own composure and calm yourself in the moments that seem most heated and challenging. • See all behavior, no matter what it is, as a call for help and a missing skill. • Use the QTIP method – Quit Taking It Personally • Repeatedly teach the skill that is missing in the moment and through social play IMPORTANT LINKS www.ConsciousDiscipline.com Mental health specialists decrease power struggles, holds and conflict with Conscious Discipline - https://consciousdiscipline.com/videos/mental-health-specialists-decrease-power-struggles-holds-and-conflict-with-conscious-discipline/ Connecting Parents to the School Family: https://consciousdiscipline.com/videos/how-can-you-connect-parents-into-your-school-family-a-preschool-teacher-shows-the-way/ PRODUCTS • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms SHOW OUTLINE :22 What is Conscious Discipline 1:30 Introduction of today’s topic – young children and mental illness 3:12 Causes of mental illness 3:45 Introduction of guest Kim Jackson 6:15 Types of mental illness Kim has seen in her classroom 9:35 Story of what happened when the teacher was injured by a student 11:43 Approaching children with big behaviors 14:15 All behavior is some form of communication – a story of seeing it differently 18:47 Ways children call for help 20:03 Steps for helping and reaching challenging children 21:10 Story of child who has eaten poop 23:44 Story of responding to child with multiple personalities 26:28 Modeling acceptance for other students who witness challenging moments 27:46 Reaching the family of children with mental illness 31:40 Role play parent – teacher communication regarding “Did my child have a good day?” 34:40 Steps for tomorrow THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms. Also, would you consider taking 60-seconds to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes? Your feedback is extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and I love to hear your feedback! Also, don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, to get automatic updates every time a new episode goes live! On behalf of our Conscious Discipline family, we wish you well. ConsciousDiscipline.com
Nov 24, 2017
Managing The Stress Of Your Children During The Holidays
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What was your experience as a child during holidays? Do you find them stressful now? How do we help students prepare for extended holiday breaks? The holidays can bring stress and disruption to daily routines. These times can result in an escalation of stress and misbehaviors in the classroom. Maintaining structure and routines during this time helps create predictability. Predictability helps create and maintain a felt sense of safety. Visual routine books and pre-holiday rituals built on a healthy family model help support children in managing the stress of holiday breaks. In this episode, we will learn strategies for reaching and building relationships with children and their families transforming both the home life and the life of the classroom. Listen in as long time Kindergarten teacher and two-time Teacher of the Year Tiffany Taylor shares how to ease the pain of difficult good-byes on Friday afternoons and challenging hellos on Monday mornings. Essential Takeaways • Maintaining classroom routines pre-holiday breaks maintains a felt sense of safety in the class family. • Utilizing a healthy family model to create structure and rituals within the class family eases the stress of holiday breaks. Steps for Tomorrow • Make a routine book for things that will be out of routine before the break. Create the book together with the students and read it often in the weeks before the break. • Be aware of your own emotional state and what you are bringing to the classroom • Do something that builds classroom family that replicates your own home family • Have open conversations about feelings that arrive during the time leading up to holiday breaks Important Links Conscious Discipline website Products • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms • Feeling Buddy Toolkit for Classroom Show Outline :22 What is Conscious Discipline 1:20 Introduction of topic and stressors associated with preparing for the holidays 3:43 The executive skill of flexibility and what happens when it goes “off line” 6:40 Introduction of guest teacher Jill Beck 10:38 Creating a School Family with 5th grade students 13:36 Student behaviors approaching holidays and how to help 15:49 Creating a countdown to holiday break routine book 18:27 Pre-holiday break rituals 20:14 Talking with students about worries and excitements as holidays approach 20:53 Easing the stress of testing before holidays 23:19 Playing “Rob your neighbor” 24:53 Returning to the school family after long holiday breaks 26:57 Steps for tomorrow THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms. Also, would you consider taking 60-seconds to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes? Your feedback is extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and I love to hear your feedback! Also, don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, to get automatic updates every time a new episode goes live! On behalf of our Conscious Discipline family, we wish you well. ConsciousDiscipline.com
Nov 10, 2017
Behavior Intervention Plans That Create Success
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Are you struggling with creating behavior intervention plans resulting in successful changes within your students? Have you wondered how PBIS and Conscious Discipline could work together in this process? Over the years working to help students change behavior has resulted in many programs and intervention strategies. Positive Behavior Intervention and Support (PBIS) does not state to use specific practices. PBIS provides a framework for creating intervention plans. Schools adopting Conscious Discipline can use the PBIS framework to ensure systematic decision making and schools adopting PBIS can use Conscious Discipline to meet the PBIS goal of supporting positive behavior in school culture. In this episode, we will learn how to create positive behavior intervention plans using Conscious Discipline and the RTI process. Listen in as long time teacher and Conscious Discipline Certified Instructor Fran Rubio-Katz shares step by step how to create effective behavior intervention plans for each child’s success. ESSENTIAL TAKEAWAYS • Understanding the adult role in responding to behaviors with children is key. • Assessing the child’s state and what developmental questions are unanswered begins the intervention plan process. • When creating a behavior intervention plan, begin with identifying the wanted behaviors. • In the data collection process, track the wanted behaviors. STEPS FOR TOMORROW The intervention process begins with adult regulation and seeing behaviors has a call for help. Utilize the “wanted behaviors” worksheet in the Conscious Discipline and RTI document to begin creating behavior intervention plans. IMPORTANT LINKS • Conscious Discipline website • The Learning Loft - http://learningloft.org/about-us/ • Breathing Icons Printable on the Website at ConsciousDiscipline.com • CD and RTI Document on the Website at ConsciousDiscipline.com • Safe Place explanation video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aUMc3fWgLEk&index=7&list=PLC1FF90B6D998E9EE • CD Progress Assessment Rubrics on the Website at ConsciousDiscipline.com PRODUCTS • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms • Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline SHOW OUTLINE :26 What is Conscious Discipline 1:30 Introduction to topic Academic and Behavior plans and Conscious Discipline 3:24 PBIS framework explanation 7:08 Introduction of long-time teacher and founder of the Learning Loft Fran Rubio-Katz 8:40 Struggle into stretch – what does this mean 11:44 Realizing its not them, it’s our responses 15:02 Conscious Discipline for behavior interventions with the RTI process 16:44 Tier 1, 2, and 3 interventions 17:44 Example of creating a behavior intervention with Conscious Discipline 23:09 Summary of creating a behavior intervention plan 26:08 Next steps once plan is created 28:50 Collecting data to determine if interventions are working 29:53 Conscious Discipline and Social Media, connect for support THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms. Also, would you consider taking 60-seconds to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes? Your feedback is extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and I love to hear your feedback! Also, don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, to get automatic updates every time a new episode goes live! On behalf of our Conscious Discipline family, we wish you well.
Oct 27, 2017
How To Deal With Friday Mess and Monday Madness
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Do you dread Monday mornings after your students have been home for the weekend or long holiday break? Have you noticed some children seem to ramp up their behaviors as Friday dismissal time approaches? What is it about saying good-by for the weekend and hello on Monday that presents a challenge for some students? Leaving the school family on Friday afternoons and re-joining on Monday mornings is often difficult for children, especially children who have experienced trauma. We can relate to these children on some level as we have all had difficult hellos and good-byes in our lives. As adults we build defenses to distract us from that inner pain, children show us with their hurtful and disruptive behavior in the classroom. In this episode, we will learn strategies for reaching and building relationships with children and their families transforming both the home life and the life of the classroom. Listen in as long time Kindergarten teacher and two-time Teacher of the Year Tiffany Taylor shares how to ease the pain of difficult good-byes on Friday afternoons and challenging hellos on Monday mornings. Essential Takeaways Children who have experienced trauma have difficulties with hello and good-byes. Through consciously creating meaningful rituals around hello and good-bye routines in the classroom, teachers can ease the pain of these difficult moments and provide connections that carry them through the weekends. Steps for Tomorrow Have hello and good-bye rituals Create flexibility in arrival and departure routines Teacher self-care so you can remain calm during difficult times Use visuals for routines so children can see the information Important Links Conscious Discipline website ILUR video Greeting Ritual video Kim jackson’s brain smart start video Products • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms • I love you rituals • Conscious Discipline job Board Show Outline :23 What is Conscious Discipline 1:09 Monday Madness – the impact of Hello and Good-bye 3:20 Hello and Good-bye for children with trauma 4:35 Introduction of guest Tiffany Taylor, Kindergarten Teacher 6:42 Grand Avenue Learning Center 8:13 Trends with student behavior on Friday afternoons and Monday mornings 9:28 Strategies for helping students re-enter the school family on Mondays 12:53 When children chronically struggle with re-entry on Monday mornings 14:44 Monday morning behaviors and strategies to support children who struggle 17:30 Friday afternoon behaviors and strategies to support children through good-byes 20:31 Steps for tomorrow: Hello and good-bye rituals and what to watch for 24:21 Create flexible arrival and departure routines 25:16 Teacher self-care 25:46 Use visual images for routines 26:35 Rituals of hello and good-bye for adults THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms.
Oct 14, 2017
The Power and Potential of Faith
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What messages around disciplining children did you receive growing up through your faith/religion? Do these messages mostly rely on fear such as children learn responsibility by being punished for their acts? What if we shifted to a method that relied on a love-based approach – seeing the best in everyone at their worst moments? While Conscious Discipline is not a religious program, it does intersect with faith. Conscious Discipline helps adults shift from a reliance on fear to a reliance on love when helping children through their difficult and conflict moments. It helps us see ourselves as worthy and see the same worthiness in others. Listen in as guest Amy Speidel shares her story of how faith and Conscious Discipline have intersected in her life. ESSENTIAL TAKEAWAYS • The number one thing we can do for healthy brain development is to have faith • Mistakes are opportunities to teach children missing skills • Discipline is not something we do to children, it is something we develop within them STEPS FOR TOMORROW • Begin with yourself – begin your own OOPS program, allowing yourself to make mistakes • Work on forgiveness in a way that says I forgot the core of love from which we came • See the beauty in others and see them as worthy IMPORTANT LINKS • What is Conscious Discipline: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8j3gF1dh_t4 PRODUCTS Conscious Discipline Building Resilient Classrooms SHOW OUTLINE :25 What is Conscious Discipline 1:33 Conscious Discipline and Faith 2:28 Introduction of guest Amy Speidel, teacher and Parent Coach 3:07 Story of participants attending a Keynote with Dr. Bailey 5:43 Healthiest thing we can do for brain development 9:03 Have you met people who struggle with their religion/religious teachings and Conscious Discipline 11:30 What happens when we use fear-based discipline 12:45 Responding to “Spare the rod, spoil the child” 15:17 Stories of values Conscious Discipline Teaches that would remind us of faith-based teachings 17:45 What is faith 18:52 What happens when we become “triggered” by something children do 19:50 Story of child and chocolate milk 22:07 Training children up, giving our best to children 23:57 Conscious Discipline as a language of the soul 24:52 OOPS (mistakes) moments with Conscious Discipline 26:44 Story with grandson and giving “the look” 28:46 Steps for tomorrow ConsciousDiscipline.com
Sep 29, 2017
Inspiring Others to Create Change Through Conscious Coaching
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Does your role in your school include coaching teachers, students and parents? How well do you coach yourself when things do not go your way? Successfully coaching others to change requires we consciously and lovingly coach ourselves. The inner speech we use with ourselves when things are not going our way will automatically be the words we use with others when we are triggered and things are not going as we’d like. Conscious Discipline provides us with tools to offer compassion, empathy, choices and more effectively changing how we coach ourselves and others. Listen in as Paola Salcedo, Conscious Discipline coach at Barry Elementary, shares her success of creating personal change and how she coaches teachers, students, and parents to do the same. Essential Takeaways • Coaching and supporting resistant children and teachers through change requires a connection, a relationship • Creating community among parents using strategies for building a school family increases parental attendance at school events Steps for Tomorrow Begin with yourself and changing your perception, see what happens in front of you differently Accept responsibility for your own emotions Get to know yourself – know your “triggers” and “buttons” and own them Important Links • What is Conscious Discipline: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8j3gF1dh_t4 • Barry Elementary: http://www.houstonisd.org/Domain/21281 • Power of Perception: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9g7k3aVqw4k • Conscious Discipline Coaching: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7O9F-2agVT0 • Time Machine: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BIx8TdLxr48&index=13&list=PLC1FF90B6D998E9EE • Wishing Well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m8L8MMrRkGQ&index=14&list=PLC1FF90B6D998E9EE Products Creating the School Family Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline Managing Emotional Mayhem Time Machine Wish Well Conscious Discipline Parent Curriculum Show Outline :22 What is Conscious Discipline 1:58 Dr. Bailey’s story of her golf coach 4:36 Conscious Discipline coaching model 5:47 Introduction of Paola Salcedo, Conscious Discipline Coach at Barry Elementary 6:22 Demographics of Barry Elementary 7:15 Paola’s position of Conscious Discipline coach 9:52 Time Machine modeling and coaching 15:48 Coaching teachers who are resistant to Conscious Discipline 17:21 One teacher changes her mind with coaching story 19:44 Increasing parental involvement at school 25:49 Story of using Conscious Discipline in weight loss meetings for parents 28:51 Story of learning from her own children at home 31:02 Importance of how we discipline ourselves affects how we discipline and coach others 32:20 Steps for tomorrow ConsciousDiscipline.com
Sep 14, 2017
Resistance to Relationship: Strategies for Reaching the Most Difficult Children
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What is the first thing you think of when you hear the words resistant child? Disruptive? Mean? Hurtful? Angry? We might even call these children disconnected. What if we shifted our view of these children to see their behaviors as a call for help? Children who are relationship resistant are the most challenging in our classrooms. We can relate to these children on some level as we have all had hurt and betrayal in our lives. As adults we build defenses to distract us from that inner pain, children show us with their hurtful and disruptive behavior in the classroom. In this episode, we will learn strategies for reaching and building relationships with these children transforming both their life and the life of the classroom. Listen in and learn how create a School Family, utilize the skills of active calming, noticing and encouragement to reach even the most disconnected child. Essential Takeaways • For children to behave differently we must see them differently • Building relationships is key to reaching children who are resistant • Why building a School Family is essential • Remove judgment from the classroom with the skill of noticing Steps for Tomorrow Begin practicing self-calming and be willing to see children’s misbehavior as a call for help. Look for opportunities for connecting with children, begin building your school family. Important Links • DNA Process (Star 4 in chapter 8 of book study portal, http://consciousdiscipline.com/bookstudy/chapter-8.asp). • Skill of Noticing (http://consciousdiscipline.com/videos/video.asp?id=33) • Mirror Neurons (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tq1-ZxV9Dc4) • Wishing Well (http://consciousdiscipline.com/videos/video.asp?id=70) Products • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms • Creating the School Family • I Love You Rituals • Shubert’s New Friend • School Family Job Board Show Outline :18 What is Conscious Discipline 3:10 Introduction of Guest Vicky Hepler 4:10 What behavior trends in classrooms today 4:54 Responses to challenging children before Conscious Discipline 6:35 Responses to challenging children after Conscious Discipline 8:33 How to build connection with children who resist 9:32 DNA process 11:38 Beginning steps for helping disconnected children 13:17 Why children resist relationships 15:45 Reframing children’s behavior 18:05 Summary of strategies 19:10 Removing judgment from the classroom 21:12 Success story of relationship resistant child 25:20 What to do when multiple children in a class are disconnected 28:50 Teacher suggestions for when it’s difficult to implement 31:17 Summary of all strategies for reaching resistant children ConsciousDiscipline.com
Sep 05, 2017
Knox County Head Start is Building Bright Futures for Young Children AND Their Families
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Is it possible for early childhood programs with many federal regulations and initiatives placed on them to create an environment that successfully support both children and their family’s social emotional development? How does a director rally underpaid and under-appreciated early childhood teachers to embrace a new way of being and teaching in their program? Many demands are placed on early childhood programs when it comes to funding, regulations, new initiatives and compliance. Head Start and Early Head Start programs in the United States promote school readiness of children under 5 from low-income families through education, health, social and other services. In addition, these programs are required to provide services that support the family’s growth and healthy family development as well. Listen in as Peg Tazwell shares at Knox County Head Start’s story of transformation and success with Conscious Discipline. Learn the importance of uniting the entire staff (teachers, admin, bus driver, cooks) to achieve maximum results in supporting young children’s growth and development. Essential Takeaways • Conscious Discipline provides skills for adults and children to be conscious enough to know when we are off track and connected enough to be persistent in continuing to practice and getting back on track • The transformational process of Conscious Discipline implementation begins with the adults and transfers to the children through modeling and teaching Steps for Tomorrow • Make a commitment to Conscious Discipline training and recognize it’s not a quick fix and it begins at the top with administrators • Find champions within your organization and give them training and mentoring, empowering them to move the organization’s implantation process forward • Use the word practice, rather than program, when talking about Conscious Discipline Important Links: • What is Conscious Discipline: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8j3gF1dh_t4 • Knox County Head Start awarded National Center of Excellence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c89iwyKkCCg&list=PL3418E21B5FB5559C&index=10 • Conscious Discipline Pay-it-forward Transformational Process: http://consciousdiscipline.com/resources/transformationalChange.asp • Conscious Discipline Summer Institute (CD1): https://shop.consciousdiscipline.com/collections/workshops/products/conscious-discipline-summer-institute-session-c-2017?variant=19966049413 • Office of Head Start: https://www.acf.hhs.gov/ohs Products: I Love You Rituals Conscious Discipline Building Resilient Classrooms Conscious Discipline Parenting Curriculum Show Outline :16 What is Conscious Discipline 1:40 Introduction of Peg Tazwell, Director of Knox County Head Start 2:50 What is Head Start 4:50 Conscious Discipline results at Knox County Head Start 6:43 Culture shift within the organization due to Conscious Discipline Implementation 8:52 How Knox County Head Start began the implementation process with CD 12:22 Coming back when you got off track 12:50 Parent Involvement strategies and results 15:02 Knox County awarded National Center of Excellence 18:09 Success stories of children who attended Knox County Head Start 21:21 Conscious Discipline as a practice, not a program 23:25 Steps for tomorrow to begin 25:50 Does Conscious Discipline contribute to the achievement of some of the new Head Start performance standards ConsciousDiscipline.com
Jul 27, 2017
Implementing Conscious Discipline in Middle School
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Have you ever thought Conscious Discipline was just for younger children? Do you work with middle school students and struggle with managing behavior and classroom disruptions? The middle school years present many challenges for students. They are experiencing many life changes internally, struggling to find a sense of belonging with friend groups, and are often because of their age expected “to know better” when it comes to behavior. Middle school teachers often struggle with misbehavior in the classroom due to having the perception that teens are just disrespectful. Listen in as Diane Phelan, Principal of Keller Middle School, shares her story of implementing Conscious Discipline in middle school resulting in decreased referrals, increased academic scores and a shift in the school culture. Learn steps for getting started, overcoming teacher resistance and how to build relationships with students who change classes and have many teachers throughout the day. Essential Takeaways Relationships are the key to helping teachers, students, and families transform their skill set and willingness to learn new ways of solving problems. Noticing both staff and students and what they bring in each day with them enables the administrator to create an inclusive school family for all. Steps for Tomorrow • Greet every child at the door every day making a conscious effort to notice what the child is bringing into class each day • Build connections with students each day • Take the time to teach the students about the brain and breathing strategies for calming Important Links • What is Conscious Discipline: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8j3gF1dh_t4 • Keller Middle School: http://keller.pasadenaisd.org • Unconscious Discipline worked fine for me: a middle school teacher’s transformation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ScroRtwcd78 Products Conscious Discipline Building Resilient Classrooms Show Outline :20 What is Conscious Discipline 1:49 Conscious Discipline in middle school and introduction of guest Diane Phelan, Principal of Keller Middle School 3:30 Bringing Conscious Discipline to middle school 6:28 Resistance to Conscious Discipline from teachers of older students 7:55 Begin with the staff, rolling out CD in middle school 10:28 Teacher life transformation story who was repeatedly cut from other schools 12:58 Story of “tough girls” group transformation 16:22 Comparison of discipline referrals before and after Conscious Discipline 18:00 Academic results of implementing Conscious Discipline 19:10 How is the school culture now that Conscious Discipline has been implemented 20:49 Exposing parents and families to Conscious Discipline 23:07 Building student/teacher relationships when students change classrooms all day 27:17 Steps for tomorrow ConsciousDiscipline.com
Jul 27, 2017