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Loved the interview with Jephte and Shawniece. I liked the fact that the four of you were talking like it was a fireside chat; just friends being real with one another. Great show guys!!
Jan 10, 2019
Too many pee and poo stories. To keep it interesting they need to step up their game. It's going to get really boring if they don't.
Are you looking for someone to share their deepest, darkest secrets on keeping their marriage spicy? Are you like, “puhhlease DISH on how to be a cool parent .. because, yeah ... I dunno!” Well Jamie Otis and Doug Hehner have got all you hubbies and wifeys - and mommies and daddies - covered, because each week they find a guest who will SPILL all their dirty secrets! Because we all wanna keep our marriages hot and our parenting cool!
Ep. 33 Five Tips To Become A Better You (Especially If You're Trying to Conceive)
Doug surprised me with 5 unique questions that he's never asked me before (it was the sweetest surprise ever) and we close the podcast with 5 tips just for YOU...and they're not what you may expect! Also a special thank you to this week's sponsor, Modsy! If you're looking for an interior designer, but don't want to break the bank... look no more! Modsy is a revolutionary online home design service that helps ALL your room dreams come true! And this month only they're offering our listeners 20% off at modsy.com with the code HMCP so head on over and start designing!For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
|Aug 16, 2019|
Ep 32: Life is Short. Live. Laugh. Love. Dedicated to Erica Hoffman
At the time we recorded this episode Erica was in a lot of pain on hospice, but she still had a smile on her face and a legacy she wanted to leave. I’ve actually never met her in person, but her whole aura has always been gravitational!
On episode 30, she offered to come back on HMCP to answer any questions our frans may have had. Meanwhile, Erica was fighting stage 4 colon cancer. This is a perfect example of her giving spirit.
I am so sad to have to say that Erica didn’t survive to record another podcast. She has left to be with Jesus where she is no longer in pain. BUT, her spirit lives on. In this podcast episode Doug and I chat about how her positivity really impacted us.
Her story hit close to home because she was my age and I couldn’t imagine leaving Doug or Gracie behind. Erica’s story has inspired me to trulybe thankful for every breath because you never know what life has in store. Step back, breathe and enjoy where you are in this VERY moment because you never know when it’s your last.
I know Erica would never ask herself, but I put the link to her relief fund if you feel compelled to donate. I know the cost is extensive when it comes to treating cancer and it’s been quite a burden on the Hoffman’s.
Erica Hoffman’s Fund
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|Aug 09, 2019|
Ep 31: Jamie Finally Found Her Father & She Met His Side Of The Family For The Very First Time!
It's been a long time coming, but Jamie has finally located her father and his side of the family and they invited her to meet them! Jamie and Doug talk all about this exciting time in this podcast episode you do not want to miss!
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|Jul 30, 2019|
Ep 30: Erica Hoffman - Fighting Stage 4 Cancer But Leaving A Bright And Shining Legacy For The World To See!
If you had the opportunity to leave a legacy, what would yours be? We have the most special guest on this week’s podcast episode. Erica Hoffman is a stage 4 colon cancer fighter who is one of the very most positive and joyful people I know - and I’ve actually never even met her in person!! She’s a friend of a fran (I share the story in the episode) and I know that you ALL will be so touched by her story.
Even though Erica has very little energy, she wants to leave an amazing legacy and has offered to do a Q&A with you guys so send any question you have for her and we’ll do our best to get them answered! ❤️❤️
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|Jul 21, 2019|
Ep 29: Breaking the Cycle - Jamie's Sister Leah Tells Us What It Was Like Having Jamie As A Sister & Mom
On today's episode we are super excited to have Jamie's sister Leah chat about all things childhood life with Jamie! She shares about what it was like to have Jamie as a sister and a mother figure at the same time and how counseling helped them get through the most difficult time in life. Leah credits Jamie's perseverance in taking them to counseling as a large benefit to helping them to be able to break the cycle they knew from growing up.
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|Jul 11, 2019|
Ep 28: Holiday Special - HMCP Top Moments So Far!
Can you believe we are almost to 30 episodes now?!? Whoa! We have had so many great moments, sad and happy, and we are excited to share them with you in this special holiday episode. Wishing all of you a very happy 4th of July!
|Jul 04, 2019|
Ep 27: Be Prepared! Crime Junkie Podcast's Ashley Flowers Chats With Us All About True Crime AND The Crazy Deaths Happening In The DR 😱
We are absolutely thrilled to be able to have Ashley Flowers from Crime Junkie Podcast chat with us! Doug and Jamie (especially Jamie!) are obsessed with true crime, and they had a great time chatting with Ashley about all things true crime, including all this craziness going on in the Dominican Republic! What's up with all these deaths?!? She also shares her tips on being prepared at all times! This is definitely an episode you don't want to miss!
|Jun 27, 2019|
Ep 26: Take A Challenge With Us To Kick Anxiety & Depression To The CURB!
Jamie is back this week and is ready to challenge you to GET HEALTHY! We can definitely all benefit from some exercise and positivity and we are excited to talk with you about how to practically make this happen! Join us on Facebook for the challenge - Jamie will be popping in often!
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|Jun 20, 2019|
Ep 25: Real Talk: Doug's Thoughts on Fatherhood & Helping Others with Anxiety & Depression
Doug & Jamie have been traveling a LOT lately and Doug hops on the podcast while Jamie is resting to chat all things being a daddy and how he makes it through the struggle of depression. He also talks about his appreciation for Jamie and all that she does for their family. He talks about how one of the most crazy decisions he and Jamie made was to get married to strangers and what a blessing it has been to be married to the love of his life.
|Jun 15, 2019|
Ep 24: Doug & Jamie Take A Parenting Quiz & Seek Feedback From Henley! Doug's Parents Tell Embarrassing Childhood Memories!
Join us today for a super chill episode where Doug and Jamie talk parenting tips and even take a quiz! What do you think they will score? You might be surprised! We've had some heavy episodes lately and tonight Doug & Jamie are letting loose. Our amazing frans have been wanting to have Henley on the podcast, so she hangs out on the podcast for a bit too! And then to close it off, we have Doug's parents come on and tell some really crazy embarrassing stories about him. They are such a riot!
|Jun 06, 2019|
Ep 23: Real Talk: I've Had An Abortion and I'm Not Proud of It, But I'm No Longer Ashamed
I have a truth and it's time that I shared it with you. I'm not proud of the abortions that I have had, but with all the recent news I feel like it is important to shed light on this issue and give a face to abortion. Whether you are pro-choice or pro-life, Doug and I totally respect your opinions and positions. It's time for us to get real about these issues and talk peaceably with one another even if we don't agree 💗One thing is for sure, if abortions become banned, people need to start getting serious about adopting babies and children, because there will be so many unwanted children in this world.
|May 31, 2019|
Ep 22: Real Talk: Mental Health Can Be A Real Witch. Big Brother stars Nicole Franzel & Victor Arroyo Join Us.
Anybody suffer from a mental illness and get shade for it? Yeah, me too girl. There is such a stigma around mental health...we just have to chat about it 💭on this week's episode we have a special guest - and ya may know her and her fiancé from Big Brother or Amazing Race! Nicole Franzel and her fiance Victor Arroyo chat with us about mental health. 💗Nicole opens up to us about her panic attacks that *literally* leave her on the floor...her docs chalk it up to anxiety, but she thinks there's something else going on 🧐This podcast episode is one ya won't want to miss 🎙
|May 25, 2019|
Ep 21: Finding Jamie's Father (I Think I Found Him!) & Building Broken Relationships
We can't believe just how much has happened in the search for Jamie's father and we are excited to share the most recent excitement! Long story short 🤪Jamie thinks she has found him!
[03:21] - We did it!!! We made it to 25K followers on Instagram! Check out our giveaway on Instagram! The contest ends on Sunday!
[04:18] - Jamie says that she has been really patient and guarded about sharing her news about her search for her father but there have been some exciting updates she is ready to share!
[05:35] - Jamie tells listeners that she has had 4 paternity tests and has been looking to find her father ever since she was a little girl.
[06:50] - Jamie talks about her mom taking her to a man's trailer who she thinks might be her dad when she was very young, and Jamie talks about envisioning him being her dad.
[10:47] - Jamie talks about the sadness she felt when her sister Amylynn found out who her father is and how odd it was that his last name is Otis! Her mom had him tested for Johanna and Jamie as well, but only Amy-Lynn came back a match for him.
[11:44] Jamie shares that her father is a missing piece of her heart.
[12:45] - Jamie says that she has braced herself for finding out who her father is. She has always hoped maybe he was a scholar since they lived near Cornell. Jamie's mother was 21 when she had Jamie.
[13:52] - Jamie's passion to find her father grew once they had Henley Grace. She bought DNA kits right after Gracie was born.
[14:31] - Jamie shares what came back on both Ancestry DNA and 23&me.
[16:18] - Jamie shares some shocking news about a relative she matched with!
[17:52] - Doug talks about how brave Jamie has been for being let down.
[18:21] - Jamie talks about how as a nurse, she really wants to find out her family health history on her dad's side.
[22:23] - Jamie's new relative she has connected with thinks she might know who her father is!
[29:43] - Jamie asks her mother if she recognizes his picture from Facebook.
[31:18] - Jamie shares that her mother went through a life of being sexually abused by Jamie's step-grandfather.
[40:37] - Next week on the podcast...we bring on Jamie's friend who will chat with us about anxiety and mental health, as well as being on Amazing Race and Big Brother! Don't miss it!
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|May 16, 2019|
Ep 20: Married at First Sight Stars Kate & Jasmine Are Here to Tell All & Share Kate's Big Secret! 🤯
Oh my gosh you guys! We finally have Kate and Jasmine in the house to tell ALL about their time on Married at First Sight and what's been going on since then! Kate even reveals a REALLY huge secret! Their season on MAFS was definitely one to be remembered, and you can find out everything you missed from behind the scenes in this podcast episode!
[00:24] - We are almost at 25K followers on our Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. Instagram. Don't miss our big giveaway when we get to 25K!
[01:59] - Jamie thanks frans who have tagged her in posts and talks about how she loves chatting with frans!
[02:56] - Doug and Jamie talk about Bachelor Nation and the new tournament that is happening now!
[07:30] - A doctor dropped a baby and wouldn't apologize! Doug and Jamie chat about their thoughts on this.
[12:45] - Congrats to Prince Harry & Meghan Markle on their baby boy as well as Congrats to Amy Schumer & Chris Fischer on their baby boy too!
[15:45] - Jamie talks to listeners about a pretty crappy situation she's having - with a hemmorhoid! 🥴
[19:07] - Doug and Jamie welcome Kate and Jasmine to the show!
[21:45] - Jamie asks Kate and Jasmine: How did you hear about MAFS and what made you sign up for it?
[28:45] - Everyone gets asked the question of what's going on with Luke. Jamie, Doug, Kate, and Jasmine talk about what they think.
[29:56] - Something happened that has never happened on MAFS before! Luke recognized Kate! - what happened?
[30:57] - Kate filled out every paper for the show & her perfect match really was Luke! He was everything she wanted - or at least she thought!
[32:13] - Facebook at one point said that Luke is bisexual. Kate answers what she found out about that.
[33:23] - Jamie asks Jasmine if Will was her type?
[42:07] - Jasmine talks about the time she had a fruit loop pot bar and was high as a kite!
[46:03] - Doug asks Kate if there was ever a breakdown with Luke while drinking where they were able to honestly talk.
[47:45] - Jamie is dying to know if Luke really did say I feel dead inside after they had sex. Kate explains that she never thought it was actually directed toward her.
[49:21] - Doug, Jamie, Kate, and Jasmine discuss whether they think Luke could be gay and the difficulty that he must feel. Jasmine talks about how hard it is for people to come out as gay.
[52:45] - Jamie asks Kate: Why would you sleep with Luke if he says such mean things to you?
[54:40] - Kate now has a platform where she can speak out about not being treated correctly after her experience on Married at First Sight.
[55:31] - Jamie shares that she learned very much about herself while on Married at First Sight. Jamie asks Kate and Jasmine what kind of things they learned from the show now that they are outside of it.
[01:05:00] - Last question for Kate and Jasmine: What's next for you?
[01:07:51] - Kate reveals her BIG secret!
[01:10:45] - One final question: Knowing what you know now, and exactly what you went through, would you do it over again? And If Married at First Sight came back to Philly, would you do it again?
[01:16:40] - If you guys want to hear more from Married at First Sight people, let us know!
[01:17:03] - Jamie is super excited to share about her search for her father next week on the podcast! Stay tuned!
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|May 09, 2019|
Ep 19: Never Have I Ever with Amazing Race's Mallory Ervin and Hubby Kyle Dimeola 🌍
We are so excited for you guys to listen to this podcast! We had so much fun playing Never Have I Ever with Mallory and Kyle!
[02:30] - Doug talks about current news issue about 1 year old little girl who got severe human bites at a daycare in Arizona.
[04:50] - Doug and Jamie chat about Jay Cutler unclogging Kristin Cavallari's milk ducts.
[06:00] - Jamie says she has considered trying placenta, but then Doug says that since they didn't do it for Henley, they don't want her to be jealous someday. 😆
[07:10] - Jamie talks about a time that she was on the plane and didn't have a manual pump so she had to try to squeeze milk out into the sink in the bathroom.
[09:15] - Doug talks about a challenge that Channing Tatum lost and he ended up having to post an almost nude selfie! 😏
[12:10] - Doug suggests that you send in suggestions of challenges for him and Jamie to do!
[17:38] - Welcome Mallory Ervin and Kyle Dimeola to the show! 🎙
[18:18] - Mallory says she was just born on the stage!
[19:16] - Jamie and Mallory find out that they were in pageants at around the same time!
[21:45] - Mallory gives the story of how she and Kyle met.
[22:44] - Kyle gives his story of how they met - where would they be without Tennessee allergies? 😜
[25:36] - Doug shares that this year has been the best and that he and Jamie haven't ever been closer. 💞
[27:00] - Mallory talks about her time with her dad on Amazing Race.
[34:23] - Kyle talks about a time when Mallory's breast sprayed milk all over the plane.
[36:44] - Never have I ever tried breast milk. 🥛
[41:19] - Never have I ever farted and blamed it on a pet. 🤥
[42:37] - Never have I ever been in handcuffs. 😳
[48:14] - Never have I ever practiced kissing in the mirror. 💋
[49:55] - Never have I ever eaten a bug. 🦗
[50:31] - Never have I ever gone in public without a bra. 👙
[51:24] - Never have I ever been in love with a family member. 😱
[53:05] - Mallory and Kyle tell listeners how they can find them on social media and YouTube.
[56:42] - Next week on the podcast we are super excited to have Kate and Jasmine from Married at First Sight! 👯♀️
[57:53] - We are almost at 25K followers on our Instagram page! We watching for a big giveaway!
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|May 02, 2019|
Ep 18: Jade & Tanner from Bachelor in Paradise Share about Their Miscarriage & Give Advice to Others Suffering 💜
We are so thankful to have Jade and Tanner from Bachelor in Paradise on the show today. They have just recently shared on their YouTube channel about the miscarriage they had while they were on Bachelor in Paradise. They are so raw and real, and SO genuine. You guys are going to love them and we truly hope that they are able to encourage all of the mommy's and daddy's out there who are struggling and feeling so very alone. PLEASE reach out to us if you are feeling alone..no one should have to suffer in silence 😢
This is definitely an episode you don't want to miss!
[00:30] - Jamie welcomes everyone to the show! Henley is teething, so she woke up and Doug is putting Henley back to bed, so Jamie chats with listeners. With it being infertility awareness week, we will later chat with Jade and Tanner about the miscarriage they suffered a few years ago, and suffered alone until very recently.
[01:30] - If you have suffered from a miscarriage, our hearts go out to you and we hope this episode is an encouragement.
[02:15] - Jamie shares appreciation for people sending messages and answers a fran's question regarding a current hot topic in the news: Senator Maureen Walsh made the statement, "[Nurses] probably play cards for a considerable amount of the day."
[03:20] - Jamie shares excerpts from a blog post she came across talking about the different type of "cards" that nurses play and how the author, Kristina Smith, is thankful that they are card sharks! She is also the author of What I Wasn't Expecting When I Was Expecting, A Grieving Widow's Memoir.
[05:44] - Jamie shares that nurses are the hardest working people she has ever met.
[06:55] - Jamie reads a few different reviews that listeners have given and gives a quick explanation of why ads are needed to keep the podcast up!
[10:10] - Jamie encourages listeners to stop and leave a review or screenshot while they are listening to the episode - we want to hear from you!
[11:23] - Welcome Jade and Tanner to the show! Jade shares a little background of how she and Tanner met, and they share that they were married 7 months after they met!
[13:35] - Jade and Tanner share about their miscarriage while filming Bachelor in Paradise and how they suffered alone for so long. Jade and Tanner give advice to listeners about what to do when you are struggling with the grief of miscarriage.
[26:25] - Tanner talks about his season on The Bachelorette.
[27:02] - Tanner tells Jamie that he remembers about hearing that Jamie had the most awkward moment on The Bachelor.
[27:30] - Jade talks about her season on the Bachelor.
[29:00] - Jamie shares that she thinks Jade and Tanner laid the groundwork for how Bachelor in Paradise should be because they are the first successful couple on Bachelor in Paradise.
[30:00] - Jade and Tanner talk about the differences between The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, and Bachelor in Paradise.
[32:26] - Jade tells listeners that they had their first kiss the first night of Bachelor in Paradise.
[35:19] - Jade talks about moving to Kansas City to be with Tanner.
[35:48] - Jamie and Doug talk to Jade and Tanner about their new little baby boy who is due in August and they throw around some fun names!
[41:13] - Jamie asks Jade & Tanner a fran's question, "Why did you move to LA?"
[44:10] - Jamie asks Jade if when she was on the Bachelor, if she ever felt like Chris could be the one?
[46:00] - A fran asks the question to Jade and Tanner, "Would you let your daughter go on the Bachelor?"
[47:55] - Doug and Jamie thank Jade and Tanner for all of their sweet advice for those suffering from a loss.
[49:39] - Jamie talks about the need for having an episode sharing the guy's perspective of a loss.
[52:35] - Doug says thank you to all of the listeners who follow him and Jamie on social media. Doug... For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
|Apr 25, 2019|
Ep 17: Our Big Secret’s Revealed! And Big Doug & Bonnie Hehner Talk In-Law Problems
So you guys asked for it, and it's finally happening! Today we have ..... drumroll! ... Big Doug & Bonnie Hehner (Doug's parents)! They are a riot and we just know you are going to love hearing from them! But before we have them on, we are SO excited to FINALLY be able to reveal a very exciting secret of something that happened in Curacao!
[01:00] - Jamie expresses appreciation to all the frans who are taking screenshots and adding sweet reviews - we have the best fans ever!
[03:45] - Doug & Jamie ask you to stop and take a moment to leave a review and screenshot so that we can get to know you and know what you like and dislike about the podcast because we are here for you!
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[05:00] - Jamie and Doug talk about their getaway anniversary trip to Curacao.
[06:40] - Doug & Jamie chat about the incredible place where they stayed in Curacao, the Santa Barbara Beach & Golf Resort. The icing on the top? It's a private beach! 💃🏻
[07:45] - Doug & Jamie reveal their BIG secret!
[09:15] - Jamie & Doug reveal that they should find out soon if she is pregnant!
[13:24] - Doug & Jamie give intro for their special guests on the podcast, Gaga & Pop-Pop Hehner!
[13:55] - Jamie says she loves her in-laws more than life itself and that they would do anything for them.
[14:09] - Jamie gives update on the search for her father.
[14:54] - Doug & Jamie talk about their YouTube page for Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. Jamie also talks about her book and how it was released at a very difficult time in her life, just one month after losing their baby, Johnathan.
[18:25] - It took 16 episodes to get Doug's parents on the podcast!
[18:37] - Doug, Jamie, Doug Sr. & Bonnie chat about Lori Loughlin and Felicity Huffman's recent college scandals.
[22:17] - Jamie asks if they think the ladies will end up in jail for their crimes.
[22:56] - One of our frans asks, "What's the best part about being grandparents?"
[23:22] - Bonnie says each of her kids are equal, but there is something a little bit special about each one.
[25:47] - Another fran asks, "What did you really think when Doug told you he was marrying a stranger?"
[26:56] - Jamie is still called Olga, this is a mail order bride, in Big Doug's phone and he is still Yogi Doug Hehner in Jamie's phone.
[27:26] - Big Doug says, "When you have a kid, that's when you know what actual love really is and that doesn't go away." They talk about having that same kind of love for grandkids and missing them when they aren't around.
[28:06] - Doug shares his heart about worrying about Henley's safety.
[31:31] - Jamie asks a few common questions that frans requested: "How did they meet and what is their love story?" and "How did they feel when you got married and started a family?"
[32:58] - Doug actually went to the bar to see Bonnie's friend Sue, but then he saw Bonnie and asked, "Where'd all your fat go?" 😳 Big Doug says, "She stayed with me - she must've loved me because I was honest." 😆
[36:20] - Bonnie talks about how she and Doug left the bar together and she had had a little too much to drink and they were making out in the middle of the street.
[36:42] - 6 weeks later they were engaged, and 11 months later they were married. So Jamie says they can't judge them too hard for marrying complete strangers 😂
[39:30] - Doug talks about divorce and how it is a sad thing, but can at times be a positive thing because what's the point of staying in a marriage that is horrible. Big Doug talks about the struggles he had growing up with his parents divorce.
[42:40] - Last questions from frans, "Did you ever think of giving up on Jamie the 1st year?" and "How did they feel about Married at First Sight and meeting Jamie... For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
|Apr 18, 2019|
Ep 16: Creating a Lasting Relationship with The Knot's Steve Dziedzic
Oh my gosh, Married at First Sight Reunion was a wild one! We are so glad that Kate finally got to speak out about Luke and stood her ground! She is such a strong girl and she is going to find the perfect husband someday who will treat her like a princess! We can't believe that they are already casting for more couples in Washington D.C.! If you wanna find your scientifically perfect match, apply now!
We are late in posting this because we have been a little busy the past few days 💃🏻 while we are in Curacao celebrating F I V E years together!
We are super excited to chat on today's episode with Steve Dziedzic, who created the app, Lasting. We talk all about the struggles that couples go through and how it is so important to focus on each other's emotional needs. This app, Lasting, makes it super easy!
In This Episode:
[00:45] - SPOILER ALERT - We chat about the MAFS reunion, and if you aren't caught up, you might wanna skip to [14:49] - You've been warned! 🙂
[16:32] - We left our mics in the luggage at the airport on accident. So, we have crappy audio and Steve sounds awesome. But thankfully we got the mics back now!
[17:12] - Introducing Steve Dziedziak, the CEO of Lasting App.
[20:51] - Steve gives us a background of what made him want to create the app, Lasting, and how the Knot has helped to fulfill his dream.
[23:00] - Lasting App likes to flip self-care on its head, because developing your sense of self stems out of the relationship with another person.
[24:26] - There is no better time for an app like this because people are meeting online and getting matched up and everything seems to be electronic.
[24:53] - Doug and Jamie are both proponents of counseling because their marriage was founded on the counseling part.
[25:19] - The majority of people who want to go to therapy don't end up going. On average a person goes to therapy S I X years after seeing a problem, and by then it is often too late for reconciliation.
[30:32] - We ask Steve a question from a fran - "How to Speak to Your Spouse About Mental Health - He just doesn't get it."
[32:38] - Write down what you are wanting to say and practice it before you say it because the power to sway everything from the beginning is enormous.
[33:12] - The process of revealing what is in your head space is far more important than the actual outcome of any given situation because that leads to trust.
[33:30]- Steve answers another question from a fran - "How do you keep the love alive after kids?"
[34:05] - One of the most common mistakes with new parents is that they don't edit their lifestyle with each other post baby.
[36:00] - Thank you, Jamie, for all that you do for our family.
[37:14] - Technology can actually be healthy.
[37:56] - One of the most popular features in the lasting app is being able to tell Lasting to remind you to express appreciation at a certain time of day.
[39:10] - The entire app is based on attachment theory. You're both emotionally dependent on one another. Lasting learns both of your sets of needs.
[40:30] - In order to grow you have to find yourself and get yourself healthy.
[43:56] - Steve explains some practical applications for environment design, such as putting your phone charger in another room besides your bedroom so that you can take distractions away from spending time with your partner.
[46:31] - Steve answers question from fran - "How do you do date nights when you have two babies and literally no family to watch them?"
[48:24] - Steve answers another question - "How do you create boundaries with the in-laws (surprise visits)?"
[52:43] - Next week's special guests...drum roll...Big Doug & Bonnie Hehner answer lots of questions from frans!
[53:08] - We LOVE getting to know you guys - please tag us while you listen because we would love to give a shoutout!
|Apr 11, 2019|
Ep 15: A Love Letter Life with Jeremy and Audrey Roloff
Believe it or not, it’s been five years since we’ve been together! Don’t mind us while we take a moment at the beginning of our episode today to appreciate each other, and talk about how we spent our five-year anniversary. We’re both so thankful that our crazy adventure on Married at First Sight turned into finding each other and creating our beautiful family!
And now, onto today’s guests! You may be familiar with Jeremy and Audrey Roloff from the long-running show Little People, Big World. They (like us!) were married in 2014, and our daughters were born only about a month apart. Their love for each other is absolutely infectious, and we’re thrilled to have them on the show today!
Neither Jeremy nor Audrey had ever been on a blind date before letting their friends set them up. Sparks didn’t exactly fly immediately, but they took the time to get to know each other. Jeremy pursued Audrey for two years after that, he explains, and they chat about how often they saw each other during these years of friendship before they started dating.
Are you as intrigued as we are by Jeremy’s patience? In our conversation today, Audrey and Jeremy will explore what he did during this time that helped encourage her to lower her walls and let him get closer, as well as the mindset that let Jeremy be patient and persistent. He’ll explain his unusual view on the “friend zone,” and how this new perspective can help lead to a relationship.
Tune into this episode to hear their advice on keeping the fire and passion alive in a long-term relationship and marriage, the power of scheduling sex, their tips for couples before they say “I do,” what you can expect to find in their new book A Love Letter Life, and more!
In This Episode:
[01:32] - Welcome back to the show! Doug and Jamie take a moment to share their appreciation for each other for their five-year anniversary.
[05:54] - Jamie explains what she and Doug will be doing to celebrate their anniversary. Doug then passionately explains the issues with shows featuring orcas, dolphins, and other animals.
[09:57] - We hear a couple shout-outs to amazing listeners who left reviews.
[12:32] - Today’s guests are Jeremy and Audrey Roloff.
[14:11] - Jeremy talks about how he and Audrey met, which was actually on a blind date.
[15:45] - What was it that was holding Audrey back and keeping her guarded while Jeremy was pursuing her?
[16:40] - How often did Jeremy and Aubrey actually see each other during the two years that they were friends before they started dating?
[22:58] - Audrey talks about what it was that Jeremy was doing that helped her lower her walls, and Jeremy explains what allowed him to be so patient and persistent?
[25:24] - We hear Jeremy and Audrey’s tips on keeping the fire and passion alive in a relationship, especially when it’s long-distance.
[28:49] - What are some of Audrey and Jeremy’s tips for couples before they say “I do”?
[31:10] - Audrey talks about some of the things that you can find in their forthcoming book, A Love Letter Life.
[33:22] - How is the Roloff farm doing?
[35:03] - We hear about whether Jeremy and Audrey are relieved to step away, or whether they’re feeling left out.
[37:02] - What one thing do Audrey and Jeremy want listeners to take away from their message, both here and in their book?
[39:53] - Jamie makes a simple request: screenshot the podcast, post a selfie, and tag @jamieotis and #hotmarriagecoolparents!
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|Apr 02, 2019|
Ep 14: Questions for Jamie
Hey, frans! Jamie here. Doug couldn’t join me today (except for a quick intro), so you get to hear from just me in this episode! I might have been just a little jealous that Doug got to do his very own Q&A episodes, so it’s my turn today. Since Doug wasn’t able to be here anyway, it was perfect timing for this episode. I put out an invitation for questions on Instagram, and got plenty of responses that I’m excited to address today, so let’s dive right in!
First up, I’ll talk about whether I’m cleared to start trying for another baby yet. (Not quite, but we’re getting closer.) I’ll also chat about sleep training and whether we ever co-slept with Gracie. We didn’t co-sleep with her, as I’ll explain in more depth, and getting her to sleep was a lot of work. She had to be rocked until she fell asleep, and then even longer to make sure she was in a deep sleep before we could put her down.
Our next question is about my last name, and whether I legally changed it to match Doug’s or kept my maiden name. (Curious about the answer? You’ll have to tune into the episode!) I’ll chat about how many words Gracie can say, whether we enjoy or feel disrupted when fans recognize us in public and say hi, how to stay positive when you see other people around you getting pregnant and much more.
In today’s Q&A episode, I’ll go from the fun and lighthearted to the deeply personal, and answer as many of your questions as I can! You know how devoted I am to being honest and transparent with you, and this episode is a great opportunity for that.
In This Episode:
[00:58] - Doug welcomes listeners to the show, and explains that this is another Q&A episode, featuring Jamie this time.
[02:32] - Today’s shoutout goes to an iTunes listener who left a review.
[05:29] - The first question of the day is about whether Jamie is cleared to start trying for another baby!
[06:42] - How old was Gracie when Doug and Jamie started sleep training, and did they co-sleep with her?
[11:32] - Jamie talks about whether she legally changed her last name.
[12:26] - How many words is Gracie saying now that she’s 18 months old?
[13:22] - Jamie shares her feelings on being approached for pictures in public, and shares their mailing address.
[16:27] - Did Jamie have postpartum depression or anxiety?
[18:47] - Jamie addresses a question about whether she has found her dad yet.
[21:26] - What is Jamie’s favorite part of LA?
[22:31] - What has been the best, and what has been the hardest, in Jamie and Doug’s marriage so far?
[24:55] - How did Doug’s family react after reading Jamie’s book, Wifey 101?
[23:56] - If it hadn’t worked out with Doug, would Jamie have gone on another reality show to find love?
[26:39] - Jamie shares some advice on how to stay positive as you see everyone around you getting pregnant.
[33:10] - What was it like being a nurse? In her answer, Jamie clarifies that she still is a nurse, and will continue to be.
[34:25] - Has becoming parents made Jamie and Doug stronger as a couple, or has it made things harder?
[35:37] - What scares Jamie the most about being a mom?
[36:56] - Jamie talks about whether she would let her daughter get married at first sight in the future.
[38:13] - Any blood work back in terms of baby-making?
[39:03] - We hear more about the benefits of sleep training in response to a fan’s question.
[40:03] - Does Jamie like the west coast better than the east coast?
[40:47] - Will Jamie and Doug continue trying to conceive, or will they go for adoption instead?
[41:54] - Jamie talks about whether her first impression of Doug still impacts their relationship today.
[42:32] - How many kids do Doug and Jamie want?
[42:53] - That’s it! Are you dying to know the... For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
|Mar 26, 2019|
Ep 13: Going Behind the Scenes of Reality TV with Kate Casey
Before we dive in today, we just want to take a moment to say thank you! We really appreciate that you’re here and listening to our show, and how loyal and supportive you are.
In today’s show, we’ll start off by chatting about Married at First Sight! The current season is coming to a close, and soon the couples will need to decide whether they want to stay married. So if you’re not up-to-date on the show, go watch it and then come back so you don’t accidentally hear spoilers!
Can you believe that Kate and Luke have been having sex since the honeymoon?! The way he talks about her has never been okay, but knowing that they’ve been intimate this whole time is wild. We’ll also talk about AJ and Stephanie’s interactions in the newest episode, and Stephanie’s (wise!) decision to go to bed mid-drama. Everyone is talking about Kate and Luke, so we’d love to hear your thoughts on AJ and Stephanie in particular!
Our guest today is Kate Casey, who you may recognize from her podcast Reality Life with Kate Casey! She interviews top producers and directors, and somehow manages to get the inside scoop on everything. Today, she goes beyond her professional life, and explains both her complicated relationship with her father and what it’s like to be a parent of five children.
Kate believes that lots of people (including some from this season of MAFS…) go on reality shows not because they believe in the premise of the show, but because they want a boost to their business or social media. Tune into the episode to hear more about her theory, as well as which shows she recommends watching!
In This Episode:
[00:58] - Welcome to the show, and thank you so much for being here! Before we start, here’s a shoutout to a listener who left a review on iTunes.
[02:32] - Let’s talk about Married at First Sight! We’re approaching the end of the season, when the people on the show will decide whether they want to get married.
[05:06] - Jamie and Doug move onto talking about AJ and Stephanie, and whether any of the couples are a genuinely good match.
[07:23] - Doug and Jamie introduce today’s guest, Kate Casey.
[09:08] - Kate talks about her life growing up, and explains the complicated non-relationship that she had with her father (and how they get along today).
[14:00] - We learn that Kate’s father isn’t interested in doing a DNA test.
[14:48] - Is it manageable to have five kids?
[20:48] - Kate has been watching this season of Married at First Sight, and shares her reaction to Luke as well as her thoughts on why people tend to go on later seasons of reality shows.
[25:18] - Kate talks about how many cast members pitch themselves for a spinoff, and shares her experience in meeting the cast of 90 Day Fiance.
[31:06] - Jamie rewinds a bit and explains what they’re talking about for anyone who isn’t up to date on this season of MAFS.
[34:05] - Would Kate sleep with someone if they told her that they felt dead and repulsed after making out with her?
[35:58] - Kate shares her thoughts on this season of the Bachelor, and whether Colton is in love with any of the girls.
[39:16] - Doug explains that lots of the guys auditioning for MAFS in the first season were actors.
[41:43] - Jamie believes that the experts on MAFS are pure, she explains.
[46:43] - The American MAFS is more genuine than the Australian version, Jamie explains, and Kate talks more about the Australian version.
[50:28] - Kate offers some suggestions for reality shows that Jamie might like to binge.
[52:01] - What are Kate’s top three favorite reality shows, and what are some she dislikes?
[59:47] - We hear Kate’s recommendation for what to watch after finishing Leaving Neverland.
[61:41] - Where can... For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
|Mar 19, 2019|
Ep 12: Questions for Doug Part 2
A couple weeks ago, we did an episode where Doug answered a lot of questions from listeners. We really enjoyed it, and from the feedback we’ve gotten, it sounds like you did too! He got so many questions, though, that we weren’t able to cover them all in just one episode. Since you liked that one so much, we’re back with part two to finish answering all the questions we didn’t get to last time!
Jamie needs to head out, so most of this episode will just be Doug answering your questions! If you’ve ever wanted to hear more about him and have him be the star of the show for an episode, this is the one for you, so don’t miss it. He’ll answer questions ranging from the deeply personal to the fun and whimsical, and you’ll get a great insight into who he is.
Doug will start things off by talking about his expectations of being a parent, and how the reality was different from what he expected. As he’ll point out, one of the hardest things is not knowing what you’re doing right. He’ll then talk about how much of Married at First Sight is real as opposed to staged or edited for dramatic effect. At least in the first season, it was all real! (And no, Doug doesn’t get to see new MAFS episodes before they air.)
Other great questions that Doug will answer include whether he feels like being on TV has changed him (and whether any changes were for the better), whether he got much extra attention from women (and ex-girlfriends in particular) after the show aired, what Doug’s best piece of marriage advice is, and even how Doug lost his virginity. Don’t miss this unique episode that lets you learn more about Doug, his perspective, and his experiences as a husband, dad, and MAFS success story.
In This Episode:
[00:07] - Doug announces that he and Jamie want to give listener shoutouts, and explains how to potentially get a shoutout in a future episode!
[01:37] - Jamie chats about how much Doug enjoys this kind of episode, and mentions that she’ll be absent for most of today’s show.
[03:33] - The first question for Doug is about what has surprised him the most about parenthood, and what was easier (and harder) than he expected.
[06:41] - Doug shares the next question, which is about whether Doug and Jamie will do more (and longer) vlogs on YouTube.
[07:52] - How much of Married at First Sight is real? And will Doug and Jamie be visiting Toronto any time soon?
[10:40] - Before MAFS, had Doug ever been close to proposing to someone?
[12:21] - Doug answers a question about whether he gets to see new MAFS episodes before everyone else. He then talks about how he handled the recent miscarriage.
[15:13] - What does the tattoo across Doug’s chest mean? Did Doug end up getting stitches in his hand, after his recent incident with a knife?
[17:00] - Now that Doug is in the public eye, are women coming onto him more? Have any of his ex-girlfriends reached out to him?
[21:05] - Does Doug think that being on TV has changed him as an individual? If so, was it for the better?
[23:25] - What is Doug’s favorite movie and TV show? What is he listening to? Do Doug and Jamie get free or discounted merchandise in exchange for promotions? And would Doug and Jamie get matching tattoos?
[26:55] - How do Doug and Jamie deal with having a difference of opinion when it comes to raising Henley?
[28:52] - Doug answers a question about how he and Jamie get through their losses.
[32:36] - Which bands, music, and singers does Doug like?
[34:31] - Doug explains why he and Jamie are in California at the moment, and whether it’s a permanent move.
[37:00] - What’s Doug’s top piece of marriage advice, coming from the perspective of a guy?
[39:58] - Doug answers a multiple-part question about his dream job, whether he’s a Trump supporter, whether he goes to church, and whether he’s a good dancer.
[42:13] - What one thing should women understand about how men feel... For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
|Mar 13, 2019|
Ep 11: Motherhood in Hollywood
We’re super excited to have Heather Brooker on the show today. This mom, comedian, podcaster, and actress has been on shows including The Office and Grey’s Anatomy, and Jamie really looks up to her. If you’re not familiar with her from her acting roles, you might recognize her from her podcast Motherhood in Hollywood.
As you’ll hear in this conversation, Jamie is really excited to hear about Heather’s life and career. Heather has been a TV reporter and international correspondent, as well as a host on the red carpet at the Oscars, so you can imagine why Jamie is thrilled for this conversation! You’ll love it, too, because it’s a powerful look into accomplishing big dreams, even when it takes a while.
One thing that Heather has struggled with is finding a place in Hollywood as a heavier actress. We’ll go into some depth today about the issues with typecasting and the tendency to portray heavy people as being funny when they’re the butt of fat jokes instead of being comedic in their own right.
As you might have guessed from that, being heavy in Hollywood requires a lot of confidence. And, luckily, that’s something that Heather has! It’s great to hear her take on how she builds and maintains this confidence, even when it seems like the people around her are set on destroying it. In fact, she’s so confident that she’s able to joke and laugh about events that would hurt other people deeply. Just wait ‘til you hear her story about trying to get Hugh Grant’s attention!
Tune in to hear a refreshing, down-to-earth, and downright funny perspective on what it’s like to be a mother in Hollywood, a heavier woman on the red carpet, and a wife who’s been married for more than half of her life. She’s an amazing person, and this conversation was such a treat!
In This Episode:
[01:20] - Welcome to the show, and thank you to everyone who asked Doug a question last week!
[06:38] - Doug introduces today’s guest, Heather Brooker. Heather’s daughter also chimes in to say hi!
[09:17] - Heather talks about how she came up with the name Motherhood in Hollywood.
[11:15] - What was it like to be a host on the red carpet at the Oscars?
[11:17] - Jamie responds to Heather, sharing a point about reaching for big dreams.
[14:52] - We hear a bit of a blog post that Heather wrote that really resonated with Jamie, and that a lot of listeners will probably relate to as well.
[19:15] - Doug responds to what Heather has been saying about her audition for the part of “Fat Pam.”
[21:04] - Heather points out that fat jokes are an easy target, and digs into why it might be more acceptable to make fat jokes than racial jokes, for example.
[23:21] - Is Heather’s daughter always in the back of her mind when she’s choosing new roles?
[25:43] - Heather shares a story about being on Facebook Live at the red carpet, as well as other tales from the red carpet.
[30:25] - We hear Heather’s thoughts on having publicists who are very standoffish and even rude to... For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
|Mar 06, 2019|
Ep 10: Questions for Doug Part 1
Today’s show is going to be a little different! Instead of having guests, Doug will take today’s episode to answer listeners’ questions. He invited these questions on social media before the show, and hasn’t even read them yet because he wants his answers to be completely real and unrehearsed. Ready for this?!
Before we get into Doug’s Q&A session, we’ll talk together to answer one of the most common questions we get from listeners: why we’re in Los Angeles right now! Jamie loves California and feels at home here, so she put it out to the universe that she wanted to spend significant time here before our daughter is in school. Tune into the episode to learn how we made this work!
Our first question is about the most difficult chapter in our marriage after the show ended. This was when we had to move into Doug’s parents’ house after Jamie got pregnant. If Jamie hadn’t been pregnant, we actually might not have made it through this period. Our next question goes the other direction: what’s a positive thing about marriage that Doug didn’t expect? His answer is all about communication.
Other topics we’ll address in the answers to these questions include how Doug felt about Jamie at their wedding and immediately afterward, whether Doug struggles with Jamie’s initial lack of attraction to him, how he became such a secure person, whether we still watch Married at First Sight, how he would rate our marriage, whether Doug officiates weddings,
This is your chance to learn all about Doug, so don’t miss it! And if you want to submit a question to a potential future Q&A episode, stay tuned on our Instagram accounts. We’ll let you know when we’re accepting questions for the next Q&A session with one (or maybe both) of us. We love to get your questions, and we’d really like to get your feedback on whether you want more episodes like this!
In This Episode:
[01:20] - Doug welcomes listeners, and explains what today’s episode will be all about.
[07:35] - Jamie was unaware of the “ask Doug anything” event on social media. She then shares the story of Doug accidentally stabbing himself in the hand.
[11:44] - Listeners learn why Jamie and Doug are in LA right now, and how much Jamie loves spending time in California.
[16:33] - Doug starts his Q&A segment! The first question is about what was the most difficult chapter in our marriage after the show ended.
[20:33] - What is one positive thing about marriage that Doug didn’t expect?
[21:36] - Are Doug and Jamie considering moving to LA?
[22:40] - How did Doug feel about Jamie during the wedding, immediately afterward, and the next day?
[26:25] - How did Doug move past the fact that Jamie wasn’t attracted to him at first? Is he insecure about this now?
[28:08] - Jamie shares a story about her awkwardness.
[30:02] - How did Doug become such a secure person?
[31:05] - Would Doug and Jamie do another reality show? Are they watching the new season? What do they think of people comparing Jamie to Luke?
[32:42] - Did Doug quit smoking?
[33:37] - How would Doug rate the marriage today? Is Jamie content now?
[35:21] - Why did Doug become ordained to officiate weddings, and does he do so regularly?
[37:07] - What’s the best part of being a dad?
[38:09] - How does Doug’s family deal with the temporary move to California? What do Doug and Jamie struggle with when it comes to co-parenting?
[39:57] - What is the best advice that Doug’s parents gave him about marriage and parenting? Do Doug and Jamie get along with... For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
|Feb 27, 2019|
Ep 9: Postpartum Depression with Maya V.
There are some people on Instagram who Jamie loves following, and today’s guest is one of them! Maya Vorderstrasse is a fantastic inspiration, and you might recognize some of her ideas as the inspiration for some of our own Instagram pictures. As the mom of “Irish twins,” Maya has two children who were born within 12 months of each other. (So if you thought you couldn’t get pregnant while breastfeeding, think again!)
This already sounds overwhelming, but add to it the fact that Maya’s whole family is in Brazil, so she doesn’t have the sort of day-to-day family help that could lift some of the burden. She’s open about the struggles of parenthood, not only in terms of this family situation, but also her struggle with postpartum depression.
As you’ll learn today, Maya was super energetic after her first daughter’s birth and during her second pregnancy. Even immediately after the second birth, she felt excited (even though some days were hard). To her surprise and confusion, postpartum depression set in months after having her second baby. She felt like she was fading away, and spent months ignoring the feeling and trying to push it down. Finally, it burst forth as anger so bad that she left a hole in the wall, and her husband supported her in getting help. This was when she was finally diagnosed with postpartum depression.
In our conversation, Maya offers a sensitive, intimate, and often humor-filled look into the realities of postpartum depression. She openly shares her journey, offering a realistic yet inspirational look into dealing with this struggle. If you’re a woman who has suffered from postpartum depression (or might in the future), this episode will give you hope. And if you’re lucky enough to be someone who will never need to deal with postpartum depression directly, this conversation will help you understand the struggles so you can be a better partner, family member, or friend.
In This Episode:
[00:37] - Jamie and Doug welcome listeners to today’s episode, and chat about today’s guest, Maya Vorderstrasse.
[06:51] - Maya comes onto the show and jokes about why she’s doing this episode in the car.
[09:08] - We hear about how Maya takes her pictures without a photographer, and how she gets her babies to sleep at the same time.
[11:15] - Maya explains what it means to be a mom of “Irish twins,” and talks about her breastfeeding experience.
[13:30] - Jamie shares her perspective as a labor and delivery nurse on the topic of breastfeeding.
[15:13] - How does Maya do it, in terms of having two young children who are only 11 months apart in age?
[18:22] - We learn that Maya’s family is all in Brazil, so she doesn’t have the kind of local support that might make things easier.
[20:45] - Does Maya feel like she has conquered her postpartum depression? She answers, and talks about the experience of developing postpartum depression six months after having her second child.
[23:52] - Maya talks about the anger that developed as part of her postpartum depression, and how she ended up getting diagnosed.
[27:58] - When Maya’s kids were born, she decided that they were the only thing that mattered, and that’s what led to her falling apart.
[29:15] - Jamie takes a moment to talk about the importance of getting help, and encourage listeners to seek treatment for mental health struggles.
[30:43] - Maya shares her... For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
|Feb 20, 2019|
Ep 8: Dating as a Single Mom and Creating a New Family With Erica Rose & Chuck
If you’re a Bachelor fan, you’re already familiar with the lovely Erica Rose! We became really good friends on Bachelor Pad, and she was even at our wedding on Married at First Sight. Erica became a single mom shortly after having her daughter, and is now very happily remarried. We think her tips on finding love as a single mom will be really powerful for all the single moms listening to this podcast.
As you’ll learn today, Erica met a lawyer at work, and they quickly decided together to have a child that they would co-parent. They got pregnant on the first try, and actually ended up getting engaged. As Erica reveals, though, this was out of obligation more than being in love; their personalities were too different to be compatible as a couple.
When her daughter was just six weeks old, Erica and her ex separated, and she moved from California back home to Texas for more family support. She and her ex tried to keep things open and have a happy family, but it was very painful for both of them. It took a while before Erica was ready to look for love again, because she needed time to get back to being herself again.
One of the most impactful parts of this episode is Erica’s insight and tips for single moms. She talks about how important it is not to date until you’re ready. Other tips include having a good support system around you, and making sure you’re looking and feeling confident before you start dating. If you’re a single parent (or know one), don’t miss this episode that will give you insight, inspiration, and an intimate look into what it’s like to date after having kids.
In This Episode:
[00:37] - Doug and Jamie welcome listeners to today’s episode of the podcast and introduce the guest, Erica Rose.
[03:36] - We learn more about Jamie’s upbringing with a single mom and several siblings, as well as her quest to find her father.
[06:48] - Jamie shares a question that she wonders: if her mom had had support and the right resources, would her life had turned out differently?
[10:21] - Jamie takes a moment to introduce Erica Rose and her husband, Chuck.
[11:29] - Erica explains how she and Jamie met and how their friendship developed.
[13:13] - We learn that Erica had no success on Tinder, but reconnected with Chuck on Bumble. Jamie shares one of her own Tinder stories.
[17:37] - Erica shares the story of how she and her ex met and decided to have a child together.
[22:57] - What was it like for Erica to be a single mom?
[25:42] - Erica talks about the point when she was ready to date again, and we hear more about how she and Chuck met.
[28:46] - We hear about how much importance Erica’s dad put on her spouse being Jewish, and how that played out.
[32:41] - Erica takes a moment to express her appreciation for how open Doug and Jamie are.
[33:08] - What does Chuck do?
[37:54] - We learn about how little Chuck knows about the Bachelor... For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
|Feb 13, 2019|
Ep 7: Doing Your Best, Life as a Mom, & Remembering to Laugh With Cat & Nat
It’s just me, Jamie, hosting the show today! When Doug went to drop our daughter off at daycare, the car broke down, so he can’t join me. The show must go on, though, and I can’t wait for you to hear this conversation with today’s guests! I think you’ll love Cat & Nat, who are amazingly funny and offer refreshing perspectives on parenting.
Cat and Nat are basically twins with different parents. They’ve been friends since high school, and even have husbands with the same name. Today, their lives are deeply intertwined, as you’ll hear in this conversation! These two amazing women stumbled their way into becoming mom millionaires, and they want to help you become a mom millionaire too! As a stay-at-home mom, it can be hard to watch your husband feeling the stress of being the only breadwinner, and you might even feel guilty about spending the money that he earns. Finding your own financial success relieves this stress on both of you.
Since you’re listening to this podcast, you probably already know that Doug and I met on Married at First Sight. Since Cat and Nat don’t know that story, though, I’ll tell it to them (including with some background on my time on The Bachelor), and I think you might enjoy hearing it from this different perspective! You’ll also hear about one of the most awkward moments that I had with Doug.
Of course I wish that Doug could have been here for this conversation, but it was super fun (and even funny, I think!) even though he couldn’t be here. Tune in to hear all about being a real mom from two moms who really get it, and who are here to offer the perfect combination of fantastic advice, non-judgmental understanding, and a big dose of fun. I think you’ll love these two as much as I do!
In This Episode:
[00:37] - Welcome to the show! Jamie will be hosting it alone today thanks to Doug’s car problems.
[04:37] - Cat & Nat joke about how to tell which of them is which (even though they aren’t identical twins, or even sisters).
[06:18] - We hear the story of Cat and Nat’s friendship, which started when they were in high school.
[1:33] - Do Jamie and her husband both work from home?
[16:26] - We hear about the difficulty of throwing out things that don’t spark joy when you’re a busy mom.
[18:24] - What are Cat and Nat’s tips for moms who want to become mom millionaires too?
[21:18] - Jamie, Cat, and Nat talk about finances, being a working mom, or staying at home.
[23:32] - We hear about how Jamie and Doug met and got married, including the background of her time on The Bachelor.
[29:20] - How did Jamie’s family react to her decision to get married at first sight?
[30:53] - Jamie talks about her book, and gives an example from the book of an awkward situation she and Doug got into.
[34:14] - Cat and Nat talk about their upcoming book, Cat and Nat’s Mom Truths, as well as their tour and Jamie’s desire to move to California.
[40:49] - Where can people find Cat and Nat online?
[42:02] - Jamie reassures listeners that Doug isn’t stranded and in trouble, even though he wasn’t able to be here... For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
|Feb 06, 2019|
Ep 6: Shawniece & Jephte Talk Marriage, Reconciliation, and Parenthood
Before we dive into today’s episode, we want to say thank you to all of you for the love and support for the miscarriage we recently experienced. You’re incredible, and we’re so grateful for each and every one of you.
Today’s guests are Married at First Sight Season 6 stars Shawniece and Jephte. They had a tumultuous pregnancy during which they separated, but found their way back together again. We went through some struggles while pregnant too and honestly didn’t know if our marriage would pull through, so we can absolutely relate to them.
At the beginning of their relationship, Shawniece was instantly smitten. For Jephte, though, things took a while longer. They’ll explain today how their journey progressed from this stage to being in a solid, loving relationship with a baby. We’ll also learn about how Dr. Pepper Schwartz helped them to navigate some of their struggles.
The four of us will dig into the word “stranger,” and its complications. We all started this Married at First Sight process as strangers, but because the word means different things to different people, hearing it can be hurtful in two very different ways. We’ll also explore how things change once the cameras leave, and why it’s so important to have time to miss each other instead of being together all the time.
Other topics we’ll explore include the role of the chase in relationships, how to turn the trust on, working through disagreements in a healthy and respectful way, the value of communication, diaper-changing duties, and much more! Jamie will also talk about her search for her father, and her experience with growing up without her dad.
In This Episode:
[02:03] - Doug and Jamie start things off with a message of appreciation for all the support.
[05:26] - We learn about today’s guests, Shawniece and Jephte, and the similarities that they have with Jamie and Doug.
[12:58] - Shawniece and Jephte have an inspiring story and they’ve been through a lot.
[16:19] - Doug, Jamie, Shawniece, and Jephte chat about their similarities and the weirdness of getting married at first sight.
[18:15] - When did Jephte and Shawniece consummate their marriage? Was it during the show?
[20:01] - We hear about how Jephte and Shawniece’s journey went from the beginning, when Shawniece was instantly smitten.
[24:22] - What advice did Dr. Pepper give Shawniece and Jephte that convinced them to tough it out rather than give up on their marriage?
[27:48] - Jamie points out one of the hard things about Married at First Sight.
[29:41] - Shawniece shares her perspective on the word “stranger,” which Jamie has just been talking about.
[35:39] - We learn about why Shawniece and Jephte split while Shawniece was pregnant, and some of the issues that they had.
[38:48] - How far along was Shawniece in her pregnancy when they went through their split?
[42:30] - Jephte shares his thoughts on the experience of Married at First Sight Happily Ever After? ending, and how it was different from the end of Married at First Sight.
[44:01] - Doug talks about the abrupt transition from being single to immediately being married, and the importance of having time to miss each other.
[45:51] - What was Shawniece’s pregnancy like?
[50:35] - Jephte and Shawniece talk more about their relationship dynamics, and the experience of the chase.
[53:45] - Throughout their journey and even their... For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
|Jan 30, 2019|
Ep 5: Struggling With Loss (You’re Not Alone!)
We never planned on recording this episode, but you know how much it matters to us to be open and honest with you. We’ll never pretend that everything is perfect; we value you enough that we want to be vulnerable with you.
Not long ago, we announced that we were pregnant. Jamie felt deep down that this was going to be a great pregnancy… until she started spotting. This can be totally normal for some women and some pregnancies, but Jamie had the exact same symptoms with our angel baby, Jonathan. Unfortunately, for us, the spotting indicated that there was a problem.
If you haven’t heard, we had a (failed) miscarriage. We were so excited for this pregnancy, but part of us was guarded because we had lost a pregnancy before, even as we tried to stay positive. It’s amazing how hard it is to stay calm and stress-free while accepting that you can’t control whether your pregnancy has a successful outcome.
Of course, this brings up a lot of complicated thoughts and emotions. We’re so happy for our friends who are due around the same time we were, but at the same time, it’s impossible to avoid feeling sorrow that we’re not going to be having a baby with them. Something we’re grateful for is that we went against the conventional wisdom of waiting to tell people about a pregnancy; how can they support you through your loss if you don’t tell them? On that note, we’re so grateful for the outpouring of love. Thank you for helping us to get through things.
If you’re wondering what you should (and shouldn’t) say to someone who has suffered from a loss, don’t miss this episode. We’ll discuss some tips, and list some specific things you absolutely shouldn’t say (even if they’re true for us). For example, don’t ever say things like, “At least you know you can get pregnant,” “You weren’t that far along,” or “This miscarriage must be easier than the last one.” Things you can say include, “I’m thinking of you,” “This baby will never be forgotten,” “I’m so sorry for your loss,” and “I can’t imagine what you’re going through.” Even better is to sit and just listen!
We don’t want you to ever feel alone. If you’ve suffered with fertility in any way, and you feel like there’s no one you can talk to about it, please reach out to us! So many of us go through these things, and no one should ever feel like they don’t have someone on their side.
Finally, we’ll chat about Jamie’s book, Wifey 101! Tune into the episode to hear what it’s about and get a taste of what you’ll read when you buy it. (Plus you’ll learn how to get a signed copy!)
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|Jan 23, 2019|
Ep 4: Pregnancy, Loss, and FertilityIQ
Today’s episode isn’t an easy one. We recorded this episode when we were at the end of the third trimester, but shortly after the conversation, we suffered a miscarriage (as you may have heard about). Even though we’re in a different space now, we still absolutely wanted to share this episode with you.
A year and a half after we got married, we got pregnant with our son Jonathan. We were so excited, and publicly shared that we were pregnant with our first baby. Just a week later, we found out that the pregnancy wasn’t viable and we were going to end up losing our baby. Naturally we wanted to find a reason or an explanation, and a way to make sure it wouldn’t ever happen again. But the hard truth is that sometimes it’s just out of your control.
In the first part of this episode, we’ll dig into that first pregnancy experience, including the aftermath, how we dealt with losing Jonathan, and why bunnies have become so important to us.
We’ll then move onto talking with our guests, Deb and Jake from FertilityIQ. Their website helps people find a doctor who will be a good fit based on anonymous reviews. The two of them were fertility patients who got pregnant and had two miscarriages, and felt like no one could give them a straight answer about anything. Ending up with the wrong doctor was a waste of time and money, and they were frustrated with not being able to find the right information.
Deb and Jake decided to do something about both of these problems! They started FertilityIQ to help people find the right doctor and to provide real data to help people make the right decisions. In our conversation, they’ll also talk about their own journey with infertility, including some of the things that they tried. No matter where you are along your fertility journey, this conversation should help you understand that you’re not alone and there are resources out there to help.
In This Episode:
[01:51] - Jamie and Doug welcome listeners to the episode, joke about a fourth episode anniversary, and mention today’s guests, before talking about their experience with their first pregnancy.
[06:56] - A week after announcing their pregnancy, Jamie and Doug found that it wasn’t viable. They share details of the experience.
[12:22] - Jamie and Doug describe the moment that they learned that their pregnancy wasn’t viable.
[17:08] - We hear about the impact that Jonathan made on Jamie and Doug.
[22:00] - It’s nice to be around positivity, Doug points out.
[27:04] - Deb and Jake come onto the show and explain who... For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
|Jan 16, 2019|
Ep 3: Should Hubby Watch the Birth?
By now you probably know that Jamie is pregnant again! We’re so excited, and want to bring you along on our journey. That’s why today’s episode includes the audio from the exact moment that Doug learned about the pregnancy. We had just gotten back from Disney, and he was feeding Henley. As you’ll hear, his reaction wasn’t as excited as it could have been (and neither was Henley’s), but you get to share in the genuine, real reaction rather than a staged moment.
Today’s amazing guests are the fantastic Erica Eckman from Everything Erica and her husband Dan, a real estate guru. She and I met on social media when she reached out on Instagram, and she’s honestly one of my best friends now. She and her husband are intelligent, down-to-earth, and just lovely people.
If you’ve ever wondered about how Erica and Jamie met, this is the episode for you! You’ll learn that Erica took a chance and reached out, the two featured each other, and the friendship blossomed organically from there. As Erica points out, you never know what might happen if you just say “hi”!
Erica is a fairly new mom, and the four of us will talk about the experiences of birth and parenthood. Of course having children is an amazing blessing, but there are definitely parts of the pregnancy, birth, and parenthood process that’s a struggle. There’s no shame in asking for help or not being able to do it all yourself.
We’ll dig into all sorts of things, including how Erica’s birth process went, whether men look at women’s vaginas differently after watching them give birth, how long the recovery process takes, how much it hurts after birth (including a story involving peeing on a nurse), the issues that can be involved in breastfeeding, and much more.
In This Episode:
[01:43] - Jamie and Doug chat about the podcast, and introduce today’s topic: Jamie’s pregnancy announcement to Doug!
[05:32] - We hear the audio from when Jamie announced her pregnancy to Doug right after getting back from Disney.
[10:08] - The reaction wasn’t as enthusiastic as it could have been, but at least it was genuine!
[16:57] - Jamie explains who Dan and Erica are for people who aren’t yet familiar with them.
[18:10] - Erica shares the story of how she and Jamie initially met.
[21:14] - Doug brings up the point of people surrounding themselves with people who they admire or look up to.
[23:31] - Did Erica deliver her daughter vaginally or through a C-section?
[28:35] - Since Jamie works in labor and delivery, she was interested in her birth process and even checked her own dilation.
[29:38] - How painful is it after having a baby?! Erica shares a post-birth bathroom story about the pain of even peeing.
[31:50] - Erica and Jamie chat about breastfeeding and Erica’s struggles with it.
[36:02] - Is the common sense of shame over not breastfeeding self-imposed shame, or is it from external sources?
[40:45] - Doug wonders whether there’s a good way to ask new mothers whether they’re okay or might be grappling with depression.
[44:21] - Does Dan remember the first... For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
|Jan 09, 2019|
Ep 2: Moving, Marriage, and Pregnancy with Ashley and Anthony from "Married at First Sight"
Last week, on our first-ever episode of our new podcast, we shared an exciting announcement. If you didn’t hear it, we won’t keep you in suspense: we’re pregnant!! Doug’s first reaction was concern for our wonderful daughter Henley, but we quickly got super excited.
After a couple stories about intimate moments gone very wrong, we’ll transition into talking about more important (and less, uh, personal) things: our two amazing guests today from our MAFS family! In case you’re not familiar with our story or the acronym, we met and got married on the same day on the first season of the show Married at First Sight.
Our guests, >Ashley Petta and Anthony D’Amico went through the same crazy experience in season 5, and it turned out wonderfully for them too! If you’ve ever doubted the idea of love at first sight, you need to watch their season. They’re still so in love, beautifully happy, and are super pregnant in their new house as we speak.
We’ll chat about the experience of moving while heavily pregnant, which is something we have in common. We’ll also dig into the topic of intimacy while pregnant, including suddenly-larger boobs that are off-limits (ouch!) and having sex while pregnant. We also share the stories of how we respectively revealed our babies’ genders.
You’ll learn that Anthony has special dream-powers, because he figured out his future wife’s first initial and his future baby’s gender through dreams. We then talk about baby names! We always knew we wanted to name our daughter Henley, but we don’t even have a boy’s name picked out. Ashley and Anthony aren’t ready to reveal their unborn daughter’s name yet, but they’ll share a name they aren’t using!
Tune in to hear more about all of this! We’ll also talk about how long house-hunting took for them, whether they have experience with other infants in the family, taking advantage of pregnancy (and nursing), putting swings together, conceiving our babies, and more. Our daughter Henley will even make an appearance!Links and Resources:
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|Jan 02, 2019|
Ep. 1: Our Surprise Revealed
Doug and Jamie make their surprise announcement!
Jamie says,"Please don't judge me after hearing this".
Jamie is searching for her father.
Changes coming in Jamie's nursing career.
Plans for future episodes.
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|Dec 25, 2018|
First of all, I think that maybe people don't know us, so we should give a little background on us, because we're a little crazy to start.
It's been almost five years. We were on a little show that nobody knew about called "Married At First Sight."
Doug: And I remember it perfectly, I was in my car, I was working for a water company at the time. And I got a voicemail saying, "Hey are you single? We're doing a show in the tri-state area. Give us a call back."
Jamie: That's how you were asked to be on "Married At First Sight?"
Doug: And I called back and I spoke to somebody and I said, "Yes, I'm single and okay I'll fill out a questionnaire." And I want to say it was maybe, what was it, three weeks later, I found out I was getting married and going on a honeymoon.
Jamie: Yeah. And honestly, very much similar for me. I got a call and they said, "Do you have trouble dating in New York City?" And I was like, "Raise your right hand and your left hand if you could understand that."
So, long story short, we were married at first sight on season one, which is now a huge hit show on Lifetime.
We also are so excited that we now have a daughter and it was not an easy path whatsoever-
We really struggled a lot with pregnancy and getting pregnant and then ... Well actually the truth of the matter is, when I got pregnant with Henley, our daughter, the pregnancy was very easy. And it was almost so easy that it was scary because we had suffered at loss at 17 weeks and one day and so that's definitely mid-second trimester and it was just scary.
Even before though, I think that where we're coming from, not many people have gone through what we went through. Being married at first sight. I mean, yes, there's arranged marriages but I mean, this was literally putting your fate and future in the hands of experts. And giving information about yourself and hoping that you know yourself enough to know what you want and getting married at first sight and marrying a stranger and taking that step which is nutty. It is crazy but it also made sense at the time. And it worked out.
That being said, we are not experts but we've had this fast track tutorial on how to work on a marriage, what do to with a marriage, we've reached extreme lows, we've went through extreme highs, we have a child now and I think over five years, it's almost like we went through what most couples go through in maybe 10, 20. Jamie has a very unique background with her upbringing and environment, which is almost complete opposite to mine. And I think that not only do opposites attract but I think that we have very different perspectives on things.
Sorry to share our weird truths. But you know what, we didn't become named the most awkward couple on TV for no good reason.
But I genuinely am excited for this podcast because it's gonna give everyone a voice and we want to speak with you, we want to talk about what you talk about, we want to keep you in our lives. And I think that this is gonna be a fun journey.
Yeah, we are so excited to get to know you guys more and be able to have another way to kinda communicate with you and keep in touch with you and hang out with you. So every week you'll be able to get a new episode from us so I think this is the third time we've tried to say goodbye, but clearly we love to talk.
Yes, we love you guys so much and like we said before, give us anybody that you love and you want to hear from on our podcast that relates with parenting or marriage. We would love to bring them on and chat with them. So yeah, let us know and of course subscribe because Christmas Day we have a little gift for you.
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|Dec 25, 2018|