Not The Worst Marriage

By Sara Buckley and Sterling Buckley

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Not The Worst Marriage Podcast gives a comedic view of marriage and parenting struggles with a little family advice and sex tips. Sterling and Sara are high school sweethearts turned teen parents. After 17 years and 3 kids together, they bring you a show that may or may not teach you anything other than marriage is hard. We are very passionate about marriage and firmly believe that any marriage can be fixed. For a marriage to remain healthy, your spouse should come before your kids. Your marriage will be the foundation your children build their future relationships on, so give them something to look forward to.

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In Laws + Outlaws
3671

Big or small, everyone has had issues with their in-laws. It's important to set healthy boundaries that you and your spouse agree on and collectively reinforce with your families.

Here's a few things we do (and a few things we suck at doing) that have helped us maintain a healthy balance with family. On of the biggest points we make is surround Mother's and Father's Day and how to prioritize what and WHO that day is really about when you have kids.

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Sep 19, 2019
Pet Peeves
2770

Honestly, this is just a shit talking episode.

Light hearted and easy going. We figured you guys needed a break after episode 10. In episode 11, we go through a short list of shit that annoys the hell out of us about each other.

Sterling admits to a major male faux pas while they were dating and Sara is unashamed of how bratty she is.

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Sep 12, 2019
Cheater, Cheater, Pumpkin Eater
6516

Yes, we have both cheated in our relationship. This episode is not about giving advice on how to deal with infidelity in your marriage. It is simply telling our story with the hope that it may help someone else.

We'll walk you through our history, our struggles with being the cheater and the cheated on, sex addiction, forgiveness, healing, and how we got to where we are today. 70% of marriages that experience infidelity choose to stay together, but deciding to stay is the first step of a very long journey towards healing your marriage.

There is absolutely hope for a happy marriage after cheating and we hope our story can be an example of that! 

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Sep 08, 2019
Mental Health: ADHD + Depression
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ADHD and Depression are two mental health issues we've dealt with a lot in our marriage.

Sara was FINALLY diagnosed with ADHD after almost 10 years of marriage and up until then, her symptoms had put a lot of stress on the relationship. Knowing what it was and having the resources to understand it helped Sterling support her in managing her symptoms. Sterling has struggled with depression for a few years and found therapy to be VERY helpful in areas that Sara could not support.

Openly communicating about our mental health has helped us support each other with our symptoms. We have different struggles which leads to a disconnect in understanding each other and, like any issue, communication is KEY!


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Sep 04, 2019
Love Smarter, Not Harder
3974

The 5 Love Languages episode! Of course you love your spouse and know they love you, but ever feel like you're just not on the same page? Maybe because you're literally not speaking their language.

Clear communication is key and that goes for how you love your spouse. Everyone experiences love differently, and it’s easy to miss the mark when it comes to showing that you care. If you haven't taken the love language ever or recently, you can here.

Understanding your love language has a lot of pros but plenty of cons! In this episode we talk about what our languages are, how they translated in our marriage and how they have changed over time.

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Aug 28, 2019
Expectations + Disappointments
3793

Everyone brings expectations into their marriage whether they realize it or not. Unrecognized expectations set your spouse up for failure, set yourself up for disappointment and ultimately lead to resentment.

Despite being a little irritated with each other at the start and end of this episode, we discuss the expectations we brought into our marriage and how we learned to communicate and balance those over the years!

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Aug 14, 2019
Dating + Homie Time
3742

Regular date nights when you've been married for awhile and have a few kids can be few and far between if you don't make them a priority. Maybe you can't afford a sitter or don't have one available or can't manage a night out regularly. ENTER: Homie Time. ⁣

⁣You can call it whatever you want, but we call the time we spend together away from the kids "homie time". It's why we push for strict bedtimes so often. Between jobs, kids, bills, and life, time together will become less and less unless you do something about it. ⁣

In this episode, we talk about the importance of our alone time, regular date nights, and vacations together. ⁣

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Aug 08, 2019
Homebirths + Witchcraft
3585

We had one hospital birth (with an epidural) and two homebirths (without an epidural). Home births are much more widely accepted now, but almost 14 years ago, it was very shamed. Our hospital birth wasn't the best experience and some archaic insurance rules pushed us towards the idea of a home birth for our second baby.

We were raised very differently when it came to health care. Sterling came from a very holistic home and Sara was NOT on board with the unmedicated childbirth at first! After a few appointments with a midwife, we were sold and excited.

In this episode, we share our hospital experience, home birth experience and how Sterling was the best birthing coach a pregnant wife could ask for!

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Jul 29, 2019
Spanking and Discipline
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Yes, we spanked our kids.

In this episode, we tell you guys how we handled ages 1-5 discipline. We had three kids in four years and literally would not have kept our sanity without strict guidelines for discipline.

We lived by timeouts, spankings, and good behavior reinforcement as a way to curb our little ones' innate need to challenge EVERYTHING WE EVER SAID OR DID OMG WHY ARE TODDLERS SO HARD.

Regardless of your disciplining tactics, the two most important parts of effectively disciplining your kids are 1. getting on the same page and 2. CONSISTENCY. You may disagree with spanking all together, but this isn't a PRO spanking episode. We're not trying to push a "spank your kids" agenda. We simply want to share how we were able to successfully navigate through those very challenging early years while keeping peace in our house and ultimately in our marriage.

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Jul 23, 2019
Rules of Engagement
3636

Fights in marriage are guaranteed to happen. Early on in our marriage we decided to lay some ground rules about our fights to ensure we actually found some resolution instead of waging the "I'm right" war.

In this episode, we walk through our rules, why we have them and why they're so important. We talk about why one of your kids absolutely suck and play a little game called F*ck Marry Kill. 

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Jul 16, 2019
Sex and Why You're Not Having It
3801

Sex isn't a want, it's a need.

We asked you what was the biggest issue in your sex life and discuss some of the reasons and excuses that were submitted. So many people are allowing issues that are entirely within their control dictate the success of their love life, AKA, their kids. Communication is vital in a healthy relationship and that includes openly discussing what you want, what you need, and how often you need it in the bedroom.

We introduce two new show segments: Urban Dictionary Corner and The Fight of the Week!

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Jul 09, 2019
Pros and Cons of Early Marriage and Parenting
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Do we love that we got married and had kids super young? Yes. So do we recommend other people getting married and having kids young? Not a fucking chance.

In our first episode, we walk through the pros and cons of starting a family at 18 and 21. It was hard as hell, but we're reaping the benefits of all our hard work 15 years later.

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Jun 27, 2019