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Five Ways to Make Parenting More Difficult Than It Already Is | Part 5
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Don’t Teach Them To Love and Respect God How are we living out our faith in front of our children? Are we a family who lives out what it means to have a relationship with Jesus or are we merely a family who follows a list of religious do’s and don’ts?  Is this relationship something [...]
Aug 03, 2018
Five Ways to Make Parenting More Difficult Than It Already Is | Part 4
15:01
Let The Culture Around You Dictate Your Parenting Plan There are several areas we can allow the culture to impact how we parent.  The first is keeping a crazy schedule.  It seems like there is a belief that if I keep my children busy they won’t get into trouble.  The problem with that is then [...]
Aug 02, 2018
Five Ways to Make Parenting More Difficult Than It Already Is | Part 3
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Get Your Own Issues In the Way of Your Parenting Because this is so easy to do, we probably need to constantly monitor to make sure that we aren’t allowing our issues to impact our parenting.  This battle may be greater then ever before.  One of the issues that can impact how we parent, is [...]
Aug 01, 2018
Five Ways to Make Parenting More Difficult Than It Already Is | Part 2
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Don’t Prepare Them To Become Adults The whole goal of parenting should be to raise Godly children who will become responsible adults. This will make them marriageable and employable.  To do this we should be giving them more and more responsibilities as they age. They can earn more privileges and freedoms as they prove themselves [...]
Jul 31, 2018
Five Ways to Make Parenting More Difficult Than It Already Is | Part 1
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Don't Teach Them To Respect Authority Many have said that parenting isn't for the feint of heart.  Parenting is hard work! Unfortunately, there are things that we can do to make it much more difficult then it has to be.  The first thing that will make life a lot more difficult is to not instill [...]
Jul 30, 2018
Dealing with Bedtime | Part 5
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Get The Big Picture We may ask why are we doing this in the first place? Is having a bedtime really that important?  We have given several reasons through the course of this week answering those questions. Everything from making sure your “no means no” to preparing your teen for college life.  There is one [...]
Jul 27, 2018
Dealing with Bedtime | Part 4
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Help Them Manage Their Fears We mentioned earlier this week that one of the reasons for the bedtime battle especially for young children is fear.  It is our job as parents to acknowledge, help them cope and eventually overcome these fears.  But what does that look like?  It first starts with acknowledging that it is [...]
Jul 26, 2018
Dealing with Bedtime | Part 3
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Teens And Bedtime The goal for parenting is raising a Godly, responsible adult, who is both marriageable and employable.  Part of this is knowing how to be responsible with getting some sleep.  How many college students are not responsible with this part of their lives and their classes suffer? It is very difficult in the [...]
Jul 25, 2018
Dealing with Bedtime | Part 1
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Why Is It So Challenging? It almost seems that the area of bedtime can be a battle for every stage of parenting, from birth to curfew.  This week we will address those issues, as well as, steps we can take as parents to help the bedtime battle. The first thing we need to ask is [...]
Jul 23, 2018
The Importance of Teaching Your Child to Communicate | Part 10
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Communication Blockers (part 2) The final blocker this week is one that we all have to deal with at one time or another.  It is impatience.  This is an emotion that can sometimes be avoided if we are simply more organized and not having to rush everywhere.   But ultimately patience is a Fruit of the [...]
Jul 20, 2018
The Importance of Teaching Your Child to Communicate | Part 9
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Communication Blockers (part 1) For many, the summer is a down time for the family because the kids are not in school there is extra time to do some fun family activities.  With the start of the school year, for some even this week, the family day to day activities begin in full swing.  Even [...]
Jul 19, 2018
The Importance of Teaching Your Child to Communicate | Part 8
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Utilizing Grandparents and Other Adults A last great venue for teaching communication is one that is sometimes overlooked.  It is the grandparent.  In today’s transient culture many families don’t live down the street from each other anymore.  In fact, many don’t even live in the same state.  The tragedy of this is that for most [...]
Jul 18, 2018
The Importance of Teaching Your Child to Communicate | Part 7
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Bed Time Another great venue for communication is bedtime.  When children are small it is so important to create a bedtime routine.  Many of these routines include reading to your child and singing before they go to sleep.  The important thing about these sweet times with our children is just getting to be with them [...]
Jul 17, 2018
The Importance of Teaching Your Child to Communicate | Part 6
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Drive Time Many moms today spend countless hours in the car, aka the family taxi, because of the many extracurricular activities their children are involved in.  Some parents sacrifice their time driving their kids to Christian school or braving the carpool line. We can turn these times into communication training because we have a captive [...]
Jul 16, 2018
The Importance of Teaching Your Child to Communicate | Part 5
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Communication Opportunities: The Family Dinner Table We have already addressed several reasons why communication is so important.  Next we will discuss a few venues for communication.  Each of these venues we can use to “zone out” as a family but we have discussed the fact that we need to be intentional in creating opportunities for [...]
Jul 13, 2018
The Importance of Teaching Your Child to Communicate | Part 4
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Talking Through And About Conflict This week we have been talking about the importance of making communication training a priority in parenting. We have also mentioned that knowing how to communicate is a vital characteristic to have for a successful marriage.  Teaching your child the basics of communication is important because it will lay the [...]
Jul 12, 2018
The Importance of Teaching Your Child to Communicate | Part 3
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Teaching Your Child Communication By Example There are many things that we teach our children by simply showing them how to do it.  One of the most important and sometimes difficult things about parenting is that we must always be aware there are little eyes watching everything we do.  This means our words and actions [...]
Jul 11, 2018
The Importance of Teaching Your Child to Communicate | Part 2
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Helping My Child Share Feelings In A Positive Way One of the most important aspects of communication is the ability to share ones feelings. Although this seems such a basic form of communication it can be easily overlooked in the training of our children. Yesterday we talked about how our current culture is so distracted [...]
Jul 10, 2018
The Importance of Teaching Your Child to Communicate | Part 1
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Why Is This So Important? For the next two weeks, we will be talking about training your kids to communicate.  This is one of those valuable tools that will help your kids be marriageable and employable in the future. There are many adults today that have not been trained how to communicate.  Because of  the [...]
Jul 09, 2018
Teaching Forgiveness | Part 5
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The Importance Of Receiving Forgiveness There are many reasons to focus on teaching forgiveness. One of which is learning how to forgive enables your child to have a successful marriage. It helps your child avoid a life filled with bitterness and resentment. As they learn the cost of forgiveness it helps them to understand what [...]
Jul 06, 2018
Teaching Forgiveness | Part 4
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When Your Child Is Hurt This may be one of the most if not the most difficult thing about being a parent, watching your child hurt. Whether it is physically hurt, being sick or emotionally hurting it pains us to see. Many of us would do anything to carry that burden for our child.  So [...]
Jul 05, 2018
Teaching Forgiveness | Part 3
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What Forgiveness Is Not Forgiveness is not a feeling, much like love. It is a choice, an action or a journey; forgiveness is something we live. Depending on the level of wound, forgiveness may be something that we must choose daily for our lifetime. Jesus reminds us, “You have heard the law that says, ‘Love [...]
Jul 04, 2018
Teaching Forgiveness | Part 2
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Forgiveness Is Not Natural, It’s A Discipline Forgiveness is a significant part of any relationship, but some areas of forgiveness don’t even seem natural, especially when it’s forgiving someone who has hurt us deeply.  We discussed yesterday how our example, especially in this area, is critical.  What do my children see when they observe my attitudes [...]
Jul 03, 2018
Teaching Forgiveness | Part 1
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Why It's Important To Teach Forgiveness is not something that is focused on much in today's society. We want our children to stick up for themselves, to be on top of the "pecking order". It's not a very popular idea to turn the other cheek or "love your enemies." We unfortunately can see the emotional [...]
Jul 02, 2018
Family Fun | Part 5
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Perfection vs. Fun There is such pressure for performance and perfection in today’s culture, from how we perform at work/school to our appearance.  A great way to defuse this pressure is family fun.  Especially fun at a parent’s expense, this helps model for a child how not to take themselves to seriously.   In our house [...]
Jun 29, 2018
Family Fun | Part 4
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The Value of Food Coloring With the explosion of social media there is an overwhelming amount of information on how to have fun and create fun family memories. From blogs, like this one, to pinterest we have no excuse to not have creative family time.  We just have to make the time. There are two types [...]
Jun 28, 2018
Family Fun | Part 3
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It Doesn’t Have to Cost Money Today’s society has such a warped view of what fun is.  For many of us fun is wrapped around getting something new or paying someone/something to entertain us.  Many of us pay to take our children places for them to be entertained.  We need to teach our children what [...]
Jun 28, 2018
Family Fun | Part 2
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It Relieves Stress We touched on the concept of fun as a stress relieve a little bit yesterday.  It is amazing that fun can be like a mini vacation from life. It is amazing how just a few brief moments of fun can lighten the load of a stressful situation.  It also helps us as [...]
Jun 26, 2018
Family Fun | Part 1
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Why It’s Important To Have There are so many stressors on every member of the family today, financial, relational, and work/ school related stress to name a few.  The home is suppose to be an environment that will shield us from those stresses.  It is our safe place and shelter from the world around us.  [...]
Jun 25, 2018
Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 5
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Attributes Of A Friend-Part 2 We are continuing yesterday's study on what it looks like to be a best friend. Here are some more attributes and verses to study through. Best friends strive to become great encouragers. Hebrews 3:13 "But encourage one another daily... " Best friends strive to be Self-Sacrificing . Philippians 2:4 "Each [...]
Jun 16, 2018
Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 4
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Attributes Of A Friend-Part 1 The next two days we will simply share the attributes of a friend and some verses that go along with them for you to process. Take the time to look these up over the next few days. Best friends are loyal. Proverbs 17:17 "A friend Loves at all times.." Best [...]
Jun 15, 2018
Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 3
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Risking Who I Am There is an incredible focus today on self. We say words like self-esteem, self-worth, self-discovery and self-preservation. The problem is before marriage we have not really practiced the art of loosing oneself. We harp on this scenario a lot but 100 years ago a family meant sharing things; you shared toys, [...]
Jun 15, 2018
Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 2
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Understanding Your Spouses Perspective There is a choice we have to make in any relationship but especially in marriage, and that is choosing to understand the other person's perspective. We are going to have very different outlooks on life. There are gender differences which will cause us to see things differently. We also have differences [...]
Jun 14, 2018
Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 1
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Choosing To Be Your Spouses Best Friend In order to become best friends, we need to make this relationship a top priority. It's easy when life happens, children enter the picture and stress creeps in to allow marriage to get place on the back burner. If we are not careful then years may go by [...]
Jun 12, 2018
Dealing with Lying | Part 2
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Why Is Lying Important to Deal With? Lying is a very deep rooted issue.  It is an extremely self-centered act.  It is done at the expense of others for personal gain. Lying must be dealt with as part of the training of the child. If you can’t trust a child to tell you the truth, [...]
May 29, 2018
Dealing with Lying | Part 5
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Your Teen and Lying Lying is a scary thing to deal with at any age, but especially in teenagers. Parents can feel so helpless because there are so many areas that a teen can make life altering decisions. We want to know our teen is trustworthy. So what do we do if we find out [...]
May 29, 2018
Dealing with Lying | Part 4
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The Reasons Children Lie When our children are lying consistently, we may need to take a step back and evaluate why it is happening. The first thing we need to examine is our example​.  Are we telling our child the truth even in difficult situations?  One way to do this is to admit when we [...]
May 29, 2018
Dealing with Lying | Part 3
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The Process of Dealing With The Lie The process of dealing with a lie can leave a parent scratching their head and wondering what to do.  If I confront it will it only lead to more lying? Often times a parent can make the decision to just ignore the behavior.  This is extremely detrimental as [...]
May 29, 2018
Dealing with Lying | Part 1
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Why Does My Child Tell Lies? To deal with this difficult topic in parenting we must start by asking the question, what is lying? International Standard Bible Encyclopedia, Electronic Database defines a lie in this way; “In its very essence, a lie is something said with intent to deceive. It is not always a spoken [...]
May 29, 2018
Dealing With the Cyber Tsunami | Part 2
It’s A Parent’s Responsibility It is a parent’s job to put the cyber world in its proper place in the family.  This is one of those important areas to sit and have a parental staff meeting about.  It must be decided the where, how, when and what for the internet will be used.  Like we [...]
May 15, 2018
Dealing With the Cyber Tsunami | Part 5
Things Parents Can Do We have talked all week about some things that parents can do to help with the cyber invasion of the home.  Setting up boundaries such as how much time is spent, where the devices and computer can be used, and modeling the behavior we expect. For the “how to’s” of monitoring [...]
May 15, 2018
Dealing With the Cyber Tsunami | Part 4
The Myth of Multitasking Today’s technology has given us the opportunity to do more and all at the same time.  The problem is it was originally thought that technology would give us more free time.  That by being able to accomplish more it would give us more time to think, time to be with family [...]
May 15, 2018
Dealing With the Cyber Tsunami | Part 3
Setting The Example In putting boundaries around the cyber influence of our family, we as parents must lead the way in what this should look like.  This may be a difficult thing for some of us.  There has even been a new term created “Nomophobia”, no mobile phone phobia.  How many of us would turn [...]
May 15, 2018
Dealing With the Cyber Tsunami | Part 1
The Research Is In Why should parents take charge of the cyber input that is invading the life of their children?  First, the cyber world is here to stay.  Secondly, it is so dominant in our culture that it needs to be looked at.  Third, research is now coming out in volumes stating that while there [...]
May 15, 2018
Helping Your Pleaser Become A Leader | Part 5
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May 09, 2018
Helping Your Pleaser Become A Leader | Part 4
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Training Them To Make Decisions Having difficulty making decisions can be a pitfall of the pleaser child.   Some can be almost immobilized by the thought of making the wrong choice, so they shy away from making any choice. Make sure to allow your child to make decisions, as pain staking as that is at times, [...]
May 08, 2018
Helping Your Pleaser Become A Leader | Part 3
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It’s Never Too Late This should be one of our parenting mantras. It is never too late for our child, it is never too late to do the right thing, and it is never to late to start to make different choices as parents. Almost all parents, especially moms, deal with guilt of some kind. [...]
May 07, 2018
Helping Your Pleaser Become A Leader | Part 2
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How To Discipline a Pleaser Children make mistakes, lots of them, because they are in training. Really, we all make mistakes because we are human. It is our job as parents to ride that balance of love and discipline.   In fact many have stated that to love is to discipline. We always have to make [...]
May 06, 2018
Helping Your Pleaser Become A Leader | Part 1
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The Pleaser and the Barbarian We have mentioned many times that when it comes to discipline children fall into two main categories, the pleaser and the barbarian. There will be differences from child to child because no two are identical. The barbarian child is also known as the strong willed child. They are the ones [...]
May 05, 2018
Taking Your Child From Stubborn to Determined with Torrey Roberts | Part 4
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The Difference Between Determined And Rebellious Both types of child can seem similar but the difference may be in the root of what they want.  A determined child is passionate for what they want.  The strong willed child may fight to get their way.  This is pride coming out, they will battle for their way [...]
May 01, 2018
Taking Your Child From Stubborn to Determined with Torrey Roberts | Part 1
Your Child Is Fearfully And Wonderfully Made It is easy to get caught up in the day to day battles with a strong child and get tired, even frustrated.  There are some wonderful verses that can encourage those of us with strong willed children, to stay the course.  The first is Proverbs 22:6, “Train up [...]
May 01, 2018
Taking Your Child From Stubborn to Determined with Torrey Roberts | Part 3
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Finding Ways To Use That Determination For Good Things People who are stubborn or determined, sometimes are the type of people who can get something in their head and cannot be swayed from it.  Another pitfall of this personality type is impulse control.  We can help train our children to put their determination to good [...]
May 01, 2018
Taking Your Child From Stubborn to Determined with Torrey Roberts | Part 2
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The Key: Consistency One of the house pops I had the privilege to work with in the residential homes at Sheridan House had a saying that he always used with the kids.  It was “hard heads learn the hard way.”  This seems to apply to all stubborn children.  Some seem to consistently test boundaries to [...]
May 01, 2018
Taking Your Child From Stubborn to Determined with Torrey Roberts | Part 5
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Keep The End Result In Mind We all need to remember that parenting is all about the process.  I have to remind myself that I am raising a child NOT a mini adult.  This is all about teaching and training and I need to keep that in mind in the day to day to keep [...]
May 01, 2018
When Parents Don’t Agree – Part 5
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Children thrive under consistent boundaries. When parents are not on the same page these boundaries cannot be consistent. It can ultimately make the child feel very insecure. Children will even test this to see if mom and dad are on the same page.
Apr 14, 2018
When Parents Don’t Agree – Part 4
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It can cause disagreements when a parent are being too lax or too hard on a child. During a parental staff meeting, always keep your goals in the forefront of the conversation. Some of the ultimate goals of parenting are raising a child to be a Godly adult and raising a child to be both marriageable and employable.
Apr 13, 2018
When Parents Don’t Agree – Part 3
When the word conflict is brought up, it can bring with it many different emotions. Some will avoid conflict at all costs and others like to argue just for arguing sake. Disagreements can be healthy in a marriage if handled appropriately.
Apr 12, 2018
When Parents Don’t Agree – Part 2
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Most of the time we marry our opposite. This will cause us to see parenting from different points of view. When brought together and talked through these differing views can help to strengthen the parenting team. There has to be a time to discuss so that we are on the same page when addressing our children.
Apr 11, 2018
When Parents Don’t Agree – Part 1
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Today's parent has many challenges to face. What do we do when one of those challenges is our spouse?
Apr 10, 2018
When Your Child Shuts Down | Part 5
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Preventing The Parent Shut Down It is very easy to give into the temptation of shutting down yourself as a parent. We have seen movies where a child goes into their room and slams the door, only to be followed by a parent retreating to their own room and slamming the door. A parent who [...]
Apr 07, 2018
When Your Child Shuts Down | Part 4
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The Middle/High School Years For a parent, the thought of a teenager shutting down may cause some anxiety. “What happens when they are bigger then I am and I can’t physically make them follow my instructions?” “What do I do when they refuse to follow the rules?” There have been many times I have had [...]
Apr 06, 2018
When Your Child Shuts Down | Part 3
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The Elementary Years Once your child passes the toddler years the likelihood of a total shutdown lessens. In fact if a shut down happens, as your child gets older, it can serve as a warning sign. It’s like one of those lights on your dash bored that alerts you that there is a problem with [...]
Apr 05, 2018
When Your Child Shuts Down | Part 2
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Toddlers When we think of a child shutting down we inevitably think of those toddler years. My mom and I have often laughed and said to each other, “it’s a good thing that God makes toddlers so cute”. They are so awesome, cute and pudgy, exploring everything with wonder; but even the most laid back [...]
Apr 04, 2018
When Your Child Shuts Down | Part 1
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What Does This Look Like? We have all seen a parent, or been the parent, with the child in the mall or the grocery store that is just done. They are past the point of a temper tantrum and are lying face down on the floor trying to make themselves as stiff as a board. [...]
Apr 03, 2018
Noticing Your Child’s Pain | Part 5
When We Are All Dealing With Pain When a whole family is coping with pain it is easy for the parent to deal with their own pain one of two ways.   Either you can become completely self-focused in an attempt to cope with your pain or you can become completely others focused and avoid your [...]
Mar 30, 2018
Noticing Your Child’s Pain | Part 4
Steps To Help When you have noticed that your child is giving you signs that they are in pain, what do you do next?  First, like we said yesterday, be intentional to set up a time to communicate with your child. This could look different depending on the age of your child.  Most children, but [...]
Mar 29, 2018
Noticing Your Child’s Pain | Part 3
Opening The Door For Communication After we have dealt with our availability to talk to our child, we need to figure out how to get them to talk.  This may or may not be a difficult thing depending on the personality of the child, some you may have more difficulty getting to stop talking.  Learning [...]
Mar 28, 2018
Noticing Your Child’s Pain | Part 2
Am I Available? There is a quote by Catherine Wallace, which has impacted me as a mom of young children, “Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no matter what.  If you don’t listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little, they wont tell you the big stuff when they [...]
Mar 27, 2018
Noticing Your Child’s Pain | Part 1
Observing Your Child’s Moods It is easy for us to see if our children don’t feel good physically.  They show physical symptoms of sickness, runny nose, fever, coughing; but what about if our child is in emotional pain?  Each child may have a different way to tell us they are in pain, due to age [...]
Mar 26, 2018
Developing a Conscience in My Child | Part 5
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Mar 24, 2018
Developing a Conscience in My Child | Part 4
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Cheering When Doing The Right Thing We have consistently mentioned that one of the most important things in parenting is encouraging our children when they make the right choice.  It is not enough to discipline when they do the wrong thing; we must show them that choosing to do the right thing is worth it. [...]
Mar 23, 2018
Developing a Conscience in My Child | Part 3
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From Conscience To Action A great story that illustrates how we go from conscience to action can be found in the Bible. Luke 10:25-37 25 On one occasion an expert in the law stood up to test Jesus. “Teacher,” he asked, “what must I do to inherit eternal life?”26 “What is written in the Law?” he replied. “How do [...]
Mar 22, 2018
Developing a Conscience in My Child | Part 1
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Start The Development In Your Child’s Heart Webster’s Dictionary defines conscience as, “the sense or consciousness of the moral goodness or blameworthiness of one's own conduct, intentions, or character together with a feeling of obligation to do right or be good.” The development of a consistent value system is the foundation for our decisions, for [...]
Mar 20, 2018
Training Your Child to Respect Authority with Torrey Roberts | Part 5
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How To Appropriately Question Authority We want to raise critically thinking leaders and not blind followers.  A skill that’s necessary to teach our children is how and when to appropriately question authority.   First thing we need to instill in our children is to always take things back to God’s word.  He is the ultimate authority.  [...]
Mar 08, 2018
Training Your Child to Respect Authority with Torrey Roberts | Part 4
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Having Fun Within The Boundaries of Respect One of the things that is amazing about setting up  proper respect for authority in your home from early on, is it allows for more fun within the family.  There must be a clear line set up but once those boundaries are in place, fun can happen with [...]
Mar 07, 2018
Training Your Child to Respect Authority with Torrey Roberts | Part 3
 Starting At Home The home is the practice arena for everything external.  Children first need to be taught to respect their parents.  Things like voice tone, proper response, and facial expressions are areas we can work on with in the home even from a young age.  From toddlerhood on they can practices as they begin [...]
Mar 06, 2018
Training Your Child to Respect Authority with Torrey Roberts | Part 2
Why Is It So Difficult To Teach This? It is not natural for anyone to automatically fall under someone else’s authority.  We are self-focused and think we know it best.  (How well I know this, as my youngest is 2 .)  Respect for authority is not cultural either, we seem to have made a game [...]
Mar 05, 2018
Training Your Child to Respect Authority with Torrey Roberts | Part 1
Why It's Important To Teach This There are many reasons why we need to make it a priority to instill a respect for authority in our children.  These reasons range from it makes my child enjoyable for other adults to be around, to it opens doors for them both educationally and for employment.  One of [...]
Mar 04, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #29 and #30
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#29 = Eat Dinner Together #30 = Take Vacations Together Research over the past few years has shown the value of eating together as a family.  In fact, an article in TIME, by Nancy Gibbs called The Magic of the Family Meal states, “Studies show that the more often families eat together, the less likely kids are [...]
Feb 14, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #28
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#28 Applaud Effort and Good Choices It is very easy for us as parent to get very results oriented, when we need to be process oriented.  We are raising children to BECOME adults.  We cannot have expectations that they will always make the perfect decision/action/ emotion in a situation.  This is why it is imperative [...]
Feb 13, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting # 26
#26 = Let Them Observe You - Live Out Your Marriage A great concept I read in a book once was the fact that our marriage is our first ministry.  It's not ministering to those in need around us, caring for our children, although both of those are important.  It is out of our marriage [...]
Feb 09, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting # 25
#25 = Let Them Observe You - Live Out Your Faith We have mentioned countless times that one of the ways our children learn is by observing us.  One area in particular that we can really teach them through our example is our faith.  Trying to explain such an ethereal subject to a child can [...]
Feb 07, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting # 24
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#24 = Get Out There With Them - In Their Cyber Space It is important to get to know a very particular area of your child’s world and that is cyber space.  This is a new arena for parenting because no other generation has had the benefits of the learning tools at their fingertips, as [...]
Feb 07, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #22 and #23
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#22 = Get Out There With Them – Be Where They Are #23 = Get Out There With Them – Show Up at Parties It is very important to get into your child’s world and be able to observe what is going on around them.  You  also have the opportunity to observer who they are [...]
Feb 06, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #20 and #21
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#20 and #21- Read and Read Them The Word One of the most important things you can do educationally for your children is take the time to read to them.  You can start this process even when they are infants.  Reading opens up worlds to children by allowing them to develop their imagination.  A great [...]
Feb 03, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #19
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#19-Serving Others (We Are Here To Serve Mom) One thing that Dad did a great job teaching us to do was serve our mom.  Most of our house-hold chores were things that would help her out and serve her.  He did a great job leading by example in this area.  He was always of the [...]
Feb 02, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #18
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#18- Listen Listening is something that is imperative to parenting on several levels.  It is important that we listen to our children, that we listen to our spouses in order to work as a parenting team, and that we train our children up in listening skills.  The skill of listening is something that can make [...]
Feb 01, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #17
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# 17- Date Your Child Something that you can do even when your children are small to help prepare them for future dating is taking them out on dates yourself.  This one on one time can help to serve many purposes for their future. Even at a young age you can begin to instill in [...]
Jan 31, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #16
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#16-Have Fun It is so easy in parenting to get caught up in life and simply forget to have fun! This seems to happen right when we need to focus on having fun the most.  Either parents are stressed over a situation, having to really focus on a parenting issue with a child, or the [...]
Jan 30, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #15
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#15-Give them Keys That Open Doors It may seem like a small thing in the vast array of things that we teach our children but something as simple as manners can help them be chosen by a future employee.  Simple etiquette will make a teen or young adult stand out from among their peers, even [...]
Jan 27, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #14
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#14- Teaching How to Give Another lesson that we train our children in that can affect adulthood is teaching our children how to give.  Teaching them from an early age to give is something that helps to take the focus off themselves and teaches them to be others focused.  There a several areas that our [...]
Jan 26, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #13
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#13- Teaching Money Management Money management is similar to time management as a key to a balanced adult life.  It can also have far reaching impact if your child doesn’t know how to be responsible with money.  It is one of the top three reasons for marital conflict.  This is why we need to take [...]
Jan 25, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #12
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#12 Teaching Time Management Over the next few days we will be discussing areas that we need to train our children in that will have an impact on their adult life.  The first is teaching time management.  Teaching our children how to order and manage their time is really key to ordering their life.  It [...]
Jan 24, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #11
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#11- The Importance of Unplugging One of the things that technology is supposed to do is make it easier for everyone to communicate.  In fact, through things like facebook and twitter we can be updated on even the small details of what is going on in each other’s lives.  Through texting we can discreetly communicate [...]
Jan 23, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #10
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#10- You Can't Do Everything One valuable lesson to teach our children is the lesson of moderation.  This is one of the areas in the power of no.  There will always be time where we have to say no to things for the sake of family, rest or even our own sanity.  Part of teaching [...]
Jan 20, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #9
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#9 The Potential Cracks in The Walls- Raising Responsible Children By Giving Them Responsibility. We cannot hope to raise a child who is responsible unless we are giving them areas of responsibility.  Two areas that are easy to teach a child to be responsible is money and chores. This again is something that can start [...]
Jan 19, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #8
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#8 The Potential Cracks In The Walls- Get Out of The Way So They Can Learn It is so tempting at times to step in and do things for our children. From cleaning their room when they are little to doing their science projects for them as they get older.  We have to let our [...]
Jan 18, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #7
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#7 The Potential Cracks In The Walls- Don’t Become The Consequence It is very easy to get frustrated in parenting, maybe we are stressed, over tired or have just given the same consequence for the same behavior seemingly 1000 times. When we allow ourselves to be frustrated we can also allow ourselves to become the consequence. [...]
Jan 17, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #6
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#6 The Potential Cracks In The Walls - Don't Get Derailed By Childish Outbursts There are a few things that can make a parent feel guilty and even give in at times to their child’s behavior/desires.  The first is temper tantrums.  When a toddler is told no or doesn’t get their way and throws a [...]
Jan 16, 2018
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #5
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#5- Potential Cracks In The Walls- Understand That Every Child Is Different One thing that is important for every parent to grasp is the fact that every child is different.  Every child will have a different personality, energy level as well as what motivates them.  Even gender plays a big part in children’s differences.  In [...]
Jan 13, 2018