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12-step recovery for those of us who love alcoholics or addicts. We share our experience, strength, and hope as we use the principles of the Al-Anon program in our lives. We talk openly and honestly about the problems and challenges as we face alcoholism and addiction in our friends and relatives. We share the tools and solutions we have found that let us live a life that is serene, happy, and free, even when the alcoholic or addict is still drinking or using.

Episode Date
Take it or Leave it – 304
1:55:12

We often say “take what you like and leave the rest.” How can I apply this concept of “take it or leave it” in my life? Free dictionary “take it or leave it” idioms https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/take+it+or+leave+it Things I will (want to) take; (What I like …) Help Change  Compliments Growth Notice Encouragement Validation Progress Time A … Continue reading "Take it or Leave it – 304"

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Oct 11, 2019
Michele B – My Solutions were my Problems – 303
1:43:36

Michele B has an inspiring story of adversity and recovery. Note: The original posting of this talk had audio “glitches” that made it unlistenable for some. I believe I have corrected them here. Readings and Links Ashley told us about online Alateen “chat” meetings, and sent a link to the Al-Anon/Alateen web site, where you … Continue reading "Michele B – My Solutions were my Problems – 303"

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Sep 24, 2019
Jennifer – Free from Obsession – 302
1:08:01

Jennifer's adult son has been drinking alcoholically for his entire adult life, some 30 years. She wrote and offered to tell her story, where she is now living a wonderful life, free of the obsession to do something. She loves him, she is concerned about his well-being and health, but that doesn't consume her life … Continue reading "Jennifer – Free from Obsession – 302"

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Sep 07, 2019
Geneviève – Together we can make it – 301
1:40:06

Geneviève started recovery at the age of 14 as a member of Alateen. There, she found a family she had never had. She didn't think she needed Alateen, but there was something there that called to her. Maybe at first it was just the community – the people who welcomed her and hugged her (although … Continue reading "Geneviève – Together we can make it – 301"

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Aug 29, 2019
What you found here – 300
1:10:02

The Recovery Show has reached the grand age of 300 … episodes. Or, if you prefer, over 6 1/2 years. I asked you to tell me what you found here, what brought you here, what keeps you coming back. And about 30 of you answered, with only about 2 weeks notice! So, what did you … Continue reading "What you found here – 300"

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Aug 20, 2019
How to Sabotage a Relationship – 299
1:23:56

In this recording from an IDAA (International Doctors in AA) conference in 2004, Tom and Gail H share their experience, strength and hope about how they sabotaged their relationship and how they repaired it in recovery. Upcoming: our 300th episode Our 300th episode is just around the corner! I’d love you to share how The … Continue reading "How to Sabotage a Relationship – 299"

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Aug 07, 2019
Saying No — No is a complete sentence – 298
1:05:03

Is it hard for you to say “no”? Do you avoid responding instead of saying “no”? Or, maybe you say “yes” when you want to say “no”. “No” is a boundary. Typically in response to a request or requirement to do something we do not want to agree to do and is not ours to … Continue reading "Saying No — No is a complete sentence – 298"

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Jul 31, 2019
Mary Pearl T on Step 12 – Episode 297
1:04:37

Step 12: Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in all our affairs. Join us for the conclusion of Mary Pearl T's workshop on the 12 steps. She clearly illustrates, with warmth and wit, how she understands and lives … Continue reading "Mary Pearl T on Step 12 – Episode 297"

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Jul 24, 2019
Spiritual Awakenings and Experiences – 296
42:52

What was your spiritual awakening? What spiritual experiences have you had? Step 12 starts with “Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps…”. The AA “Big Book” speaks of “a spiritual experience” as a key to recovery. What's going on here? Do we have to have some sudden “white light” experience to … Continue reading "Spiritual Awakenings and Experiences – 296"

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Jul 09, 2019
Kerri K – Speaker talk – 295
1:09:34

A listener and erstwhile guest, Carrie, suggested this talk. She writes, Such an incredible story! Chock full of life experiences, wisdom, humor and hope.  I’ve listened to it several times over the years.   Makes me want to go hike in Phoenix and get a teddy bear to pass around.  😊 Upcoming An upcoming topic is … Continue reading "Kerri K – Speaker talk – 295"

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Jul 03, 2019
Spencer and Amy — a couple in recovery — 294
1:10:42

Recently, my wife, Amy, and I were guests on the podcast Sober Speak. This is our sharing — what it was like, what happened, and what it is like now. We spoke both of our own experience and of our shared experience. I hope that something we said connects with you.  

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Jun 25, 2019
Lynne – Grief can be a wonderful thing – 293
1:44:32

Lynne tells her story – what it was like, what happened, and what it's like now. She touches on grief both before and after entering recovery, on parenting, and on co-parenting with an alcoholic. Lynne tells of the alcohol fueled death of a close friend, and of the later crisis that brought her into Al-Anon. … Continue reading "Lynne – Grief can be a wonderful thing – 293"

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Jun 19, 2019
Sayings, Quotes, Proverbs, and Parables – 292
1:15:46

Do you have a few sayings or quotes that support your recovery? How do you use them? Spencer and Eric explore a long list of sayings, quotes, proverbs, and parables. We talked about all of these, some at length, and some quite briefly. Some of these have dates in the form month/day, which refer to … Continue reading "Sayings, Quotes, Proverbs, and Parables – 292"

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Jun 12, 2019
Step 11 with Mary Pearl T – 291
42:51

How have you deepened your conscious contact with your higher power? What is your practice of prayer and meditation? Mary Pearl T leads us on an exploration of Step 11, “Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us … Continue reading "Step 11 with Mary Pearl T – 291"

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May 30, 2019
But One Purpose – 290
56:16

Our 5th tradition says, Each Al-Anon Family Group has but one purpose: to help families of alcoholics. How do we do this? How has this supported and worked in your recovery? In full, it reads, Each Al-Anon Family Group has but one purpose: to help families of alcoholics. We do this by practicing the Twelve Steps … Continue reading "But One Purpose – 290"

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May 21, 2019
Applying the Serenity Prayer – 289
17:10

How do you have the serenity to accept the things you cannot change, the courage to change the things you can, and the wisdom to know the difference? I reflect on how many times I have applied the serenity prayer during a weekend vacation. Upcoming Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your … Continue reading "Applying the Serenity Prayer – 289"

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May 14, 2019
Mary Pearl T on Step 10 – 288
32:11

Step 10 says “We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.” Mary Pearl T gives us her usual insightful and humorous take on this step. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.  

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Apr 30, 2019
Marc and Michele’s son is in prison – 287
1:35:21

Is someone you love facing jail or prison because of their drinking or addiction? How do you live through something like that? Michele and Marc share their experience, strength, and hope. Their son started drinking and using drugs in high school, and it's been quite a ride since then. He is now in prison. They … Continue reading "Marc and Michele’s son is in prison – 287"

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Apr 24, 2019
Mary Pearl T on Steps 8 and 9 – 286
57:13

Step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. Step 9: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. Mary Pearl does her usual in-depth, funny, and moving presentation of these steps. Readings and … Continue reading "Mary Pearl T on Steps 8 and 9 – 286"

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Apr 09, 2019
Contentment and even Happiness – 285
54:29

The Suggested Al-Anon Welcome says, in part “… it is possible to find contentment, and even happiness, whether the alcoholic is drinking or not.” How can this happen? I was recently talking with an Al-Anon friend whose loved one had relapsed. My friend wondered if it was possible to have a life that wasn’t full … Continue reading "Contentment and even Happiness – 285"

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Apr 02, 2019
Acronyms and Alliterations – Episode 284
1:37:10

Do you QTIP? Have you practiced the 3 A's? Spencer and Eric, with support from many listeners, talk about some of the acronyms (such as HALT or FEAR) and alliterations (3 C's, 4 M's) that help us to remember the important principles of the program. As Eric says, “these are like pocket change — they're … Continue reading "Acronyms and Alliterations – Episode 284"

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Mar 27, 2019
March Roundup 2019 – Episode 283
31:46

Have you attended an AA or Al-Anon convention? My wife and I went to the March Roundup in Detroit, so I thought I'd give you a little trip report. If you haven't been to a convention, I encourage you to find one near you and go. Not only is it fun, but a weekend of … Continue reading "March Roundup 2019 – Episode 283"

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Mar 12, 2019
Mary Pearl T on Step 7 – Episode 282
26:55

Please enjoy Mary Pearl T's thoughts on Step 7, “Humbly asked him to remove our shortcomings.” Upcoming Upcoming topics include “acronyms and alliterations”. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com to share your favorite Al-Anon acronym, such as QTIP (quit taking it personally), or an alliteration such as the 3 C's (didn't cause it, … Continue reading "Mary Pearl T on Step 7 – Episode 282"

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Mar 05, 2019
How do you trust? – Episode 281
47:27

When do you decide to trust (or not to trust) someone? How do we trust others in the program? What fears might stop us from trusting? What is trust? (noun) firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something. (verb) believe in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of. How do … Continue reading "How do you trust? – Episode 281"

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Feb 26, 2019
S-Anon – Episode 280
1:09:14

Brian joins The Recovery Show to talk about his experience in S-Anon. What is S-Anon? It is a 12-step program, similar to Al-Anon, for those who have been affected by another person's sexual addiction. Brian introduces the S-Anon program, and talks about his personal experience of finding recovery in that program. We look at ways … Continue reading "S-Anon – Episode 280"

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Feb 19, 2019
Do you like yourself? – Episode 279
57:02

Do you like yourself? Can you love yourself? Can you trust yourself? In a recent meeting, the topic was Step 5, “Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.” One member shared that she often had a hard time even liking herself, and that this was a … Continue reading "Do you like yourself? – Episode 279"

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Feb 13, 2019
What do we do here? – Episode 278
42:22

What is this podcast about? We’re not Al-Anon, exactly. What are we? I got a letter from a listener who asked some questions. It made me think that maybe it's time (again?) to talk about what The Recovery Show is, and what it isn't. Why did we create The Recovery Show? We had been sharing … Continue reading "What do we do here? – Episode 278"

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Feb 05, 2019
Bob S Jr Talk – Episode 277
1:18:01

The son of “Doctor Bob”, Bob S., Jr., in a talk from an Al-Anon conference in 2003. A listener wrote about coincidences and recommended episode 489 of This American Life, “No Coincidence, No Story!” Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment … Continue reading "Bob S Jr Talk – Episode 277"

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Jan 29, 2019
Would you rather be right or happy? – Episode 276
1:08:49

What is your first thought when you hear this question? Do you believe that “right” is “truth” and that there is only one possible “right answer” (way to do something, opinion about a topic, etc.)? Do you have “black and white” thinking? Why? What would it take to see the world in shades of gray … Continue reading "Would you rather be right or happy? – Episode 276"

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Jan 21, 2019
Kate C grew up with alcoholism – Episode 275
1:22:05

Kate C shares her story, experience, strength, and hope. She grew up with an alcoholic mother, in a family that separated when she was 8. She didn't feel safe as a child and so decided she needed to take care of her siblings, especially her younger brother. The “isms” she learned in this environment came … Continue reading "Kate C grew up with alcoholism – Episode 275"

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Jan 18, 2019
Mary Pearl T on Step 6 – Episode 274
31:58

What does it mean to be “entirely ready”? How can we trust our higher power to remove our defects of character? Mary Pearl T continues her workshop with Step 6, Became entirely ready to have God remove all our defects of character. How is her anger like a volcano? And why is she talking about … Continue reading "Mary Pearl T on Step 6 – Episode 274"

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Jan 09, 2019
The Year in Recovery 2018 – Episode 273
1:11:41

I hear from you about what happened in your recovery in 2018, and what you are aspiring to in 2019. Readings and links I read from One Day at a Time in Al-Anon, January 1 and December 31. Callers and I referred to several episodes of this podcast: 219, 3 P’s: Perfection, Procrastination, Paralysis 29, Progress, not Perfection … Continue reading "The Year in Recovery 2018 – Episode 273"

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Jan 02, 2019
Peace in the Darkness – Episode 272
36:34

Do you feel that you are lost in the dark? Do your fears become larger and more real in darkness? Can darkness ever provide comfort and peace? My musings on darkness were inspired by but don't really follow this outline: End of the year Shortest day / longest night Darkness -> fear/anxiety We light candles, … Continue reading "Peace in the Darkness – Episode 272"

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Dec 26, 2018
Mary Pearl T on Step 5 – Episode 271
36:54

Why does Step 5 ask us to share “the exact nature of our wrongs”? What do we gain from this? Continuing our series of talks by Mary Pearl T, we come to Step 5, “Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.” I hope that her openness, … Continue reading "Mary Pearl T on Step 5 – Episode 271"

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Dec 18, 2018
Do you Believe? – Episode 270
1:24:19

Do you believe all things happen for a reason?Do you believe that God can do for us things that we can’t do for ourselves?Do you believe in coincidence, or that there is no such thing as coincidence? What “higher power moments” have you experienced? (Step 2 moments)What happens when you view them as miracles rather … Continue reading "Do you Believe? – Episode 270"

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Dec 11, 2018
Gratitude 2018 – Episode 269
42:01

What are you grateful for in 2018? Sure, I can write a gratitude list. I am grateful for those of you who sent in your expressions of gratitude. Readings I read from One Day at a Time in Al-Anon, May 5. Kelly recommended a book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, by Lindsay C. Gibson. Cristianne ordered Knock Knock … Continue reading "Gratitude 2018 – Episode 269"

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Nov 27, 2018
Mary Pearl T on Step 4 – Episode 268
29:12

As promised, here is a presentation by Mary Pearl T on Step 4, “Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.” Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.  

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Nov 17, 2018
What about Gratitude – Episode 267
30:39

What about gratitude? How do you practice gratitude? Or, do you more often forget? At two meetings this week, I was reminded of the importance of practicing gratitude in my life. Saturday morning, we were working from the Al-Anon 4th Step workbook, Blueprint for Progress. Once a month, we read a few questions from this … Continue reading "What about Gratitude – Episode 267"

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Nov 06, 2018
Singleness of Purpose – Episode 266
51:03

Why do we gather in Al-Anon groups? How do we maintain our singleness of purpose? It’s been hard this week not to lose hope and to give in to despair about the divisiveness and even hate that seems to be the norm for society today. It’s brought me to reflect again on how amazing this … Continue reading "Singleness of Purpose – Episode 266"

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Oct 30, 2018
In all our affairs: Step 1 plus dementia – Episode 265
44:49

Step 12 asks us to “practice these principles in all our affairs”. This has led me to a new insight into how Step 1 is active in my life today. In a recent meeting, we read the Step 1 chapter from our book Paths to Recovery. I had recently returned from visiting my parents. I suddenly … Continue reading "In all our affairs: Step 1 plus dementia – Episode 265"

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Oct 23, 2018
Mary Pearl T on Step 3 – Episode 264
16:56

As promised, here is a presentation by Mary Pearl T on Step 3, “Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.” Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right … Continue reading "Mary Pearl T on Step 3 – Episode 264"

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Oct 09, 2018
Mary Pearl T on Step 2 – Episode 263
33:36

As promised, here is a presentation by Mary Pearl T on Step 2, “Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.” Our topic for next week is Step 3. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment … Continue reading "Mary Pearl T on Step 2 – Episode 263"

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Oct 02, 2018
Karen B – Third time is the charm – Episode 262
1:15:28

This week, Karen B tells her story and shares her experience, strength, and hope. Karen grew up in a loving family that nonetheless carried the family disease — in adult children of alcoholics. Her aunt took her to Alateen. She says she loved the slogans, but she didn't stick with it. In her early twenties, … Continue reading "Karen B – Third time is the charm – Episode 262"

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Sep 26, 2018
Enabling or Empowering? – Episode 261
1:14:38

How have you enabled your loved ones’ alcoholism? What is enabling, anyway? How do you know when you’re doing it and when you are empowering them, instead? What does the dictionary say? Merriam-Webster 1 a : to provide with the means or opportunity: training that enables people to earn a living b : to make … Continue reading "Enabling or Empowering? – Episode 261"

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Sep 19, 2018
Meditation on September – Episode 260
41:55

Read a transcript of this episode.What does September mean to you? How do you handle times of transition? I've been thinking about September. I guess it started with my wife commenting, as we walked to the car, “This is the first sweater day.” She had that tone of voice, like it was the worst thing. … Continue reading "Meditation on September – Episode 260"

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Sep 11, 2018
Mary Pearl T, Step 1 – Episode 259
49:13

Mary Pearl T shares on Step 1, “We admitted we were powerless over alcohol, that our lives had become unmanageable.” Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

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Sep 05, 2018
Perspective – Episode 258
1:26:05

What does it mean to “place our problem in its true perspective”? Can a change in perspective change everything? Our suggested opening says “as we learn to place our problem in its true perspective, we find it loses its power to dominate our thoughts and our lives”. What is perspective? From dictionary.com: the state of … Continue reading "Perspective – Episode 258"

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Aug 28, 2018
I am Powerless – Episode 257
15:40

Read a transcript of this episode. A “first step” meeting came at just the right time for me, this weekend. My mother had fallen and broke her leg. She lives almost 500 miles away, and I am powerless over the fact that she broke her leg, over the treatment that she gets, and over how … Continue reading "I am Powerless – Episode 257"

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Aug 22, 2018
Tom – His sister needed Al-Anon – Episode 256
1:21:58

Tom grew up in a loving, chaotic family. As an adult, he found recovery for his alcoholism, but didn't know how to cope with the alcoholics around him. It wasn't until he decided that his sister needed Al-Anon, that he started attending regularly, and carrying the message back to her. Eventually, he started to see … Continue reading "Tom – His sister needed Al-Anon – Episode 256"

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Aug 16, 2018
Speaker: Ann Marie R – Episode 255
1:05:58

This week, I'm sharing a talk by Ann Marie R. I really enjoyed her humor, but also her ability to find gifts in troubles. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.  

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Aug 07, 2018
Parents of teen alcoholics and addicts – Episode 254
1:25:39

How can you detach from your teen alcoholic? What is your real responsibility when your child is an addict? How can Al-Anon help? Mary and Ellen talk about their experiences as parents of teenage alcoholics and addicts. They share what they learned, and how they navigated their difficulties, fears, and hopes. Our discussion was grounded … Continue reading "Parents of teen alcoholics and addicts – Episode 254"

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Jul 29, 2018
Denial and Acceptance – Episode 253
1:35:29

Did you admit to yourself or others the presence of alcoholism in your life? Why not? What happened when you broke through your denial into acceptance? What is it? Do we have to be somehow aware of a problem to be in denial? Definition from Merriam-Webster: psychology : a defense mechanism in which confrontation with … Continue reading "Denial and Acceptance – Episode 253"

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Jul 05, 2018
Spencer on Sober Speak – Episode 252
1:25:32

Spencer was recently a guest on the podcast Sober Speak. At Sober Speak, you will find podcasts of people sharing their story of recovery in Alcoholics Anonymous, much like a speaker meeting. These men and women tell us about their experience, strength, and hope centered around the 12 steps of AA. Of course, he was … Continue reading "Spencer on Sober Speak – Episode 252"

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Jun 25, 2018
Spirit in Action Interview – Episode 251
22:08

Spencer was recently interviewed on the Spirit in Action radio show and podcast. Spirit in Action brings you stories of people living lives of fruitful service, of peace, community, compassion, creative action and progressive efforts. We will trace the spiritual roots that support and nourish them in their service. Above all, we will seek out Light, … Continue reading "Spirit in Action Interview – Episode 251"

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Jun 12, 2018
Tom W talk – Episode 250
1:19:37

This talk by Tom W, a member of Alcoholics Anonymous had so much recovery wisdom, I felt compelled to share it with you. I've heard it a few times already and every time, I get new insights. I was astounded to hear that a priest had trouble with Steps 2 and 3. And, his description … Continue reading "Tom W talk – Episode 250"

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Jun 05, 2018
Force and Power – Episode 249
1:14:06

Read a transcript of this episode.How have you given away your power? Did you lose power over your life when you tried to force solutions? How can you recover your personal power? Definitions Force: make a way through or into by physical strength, make (someone) do something against their will Power: the capacity or ability … Continue reading "Force and Power – Episode 249"

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May 29, 2018
Love, Relationships, and Step 6 – Episode 248
34:56

What do love, relationships, and Step 6 have to do with each other? Maybe everything? Sometimes events come together in my life and form a message about a new step in my recovery. That happened for me this weekend. In order to tell this story, I’m going to have to talk about some books and … Continue reading "Love, Relationships, and Step 6 – Episode 248"

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May 22, 2018
Negative into Positive– Episode 247
50:42

Nancy S speaks on “Negative into Positive” in this talk from 1987. A listener asked about the story with the repeating phrase “maybe so, maybe not.” There are many versions of this on the internet. Here is one. What have been your experience when what you thought was a negative became a positive?  Or vice-versa? … Continue reading "Negative into Positive– Episode 247"

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May 15, 2018
Why do a Moral Inventory? – Episode 246
39:22

Why do we take inventory in Al-Anon? And what is a “moral inventory” anyway? Spencer shares his answers to some questions about Step 4 from our book Paths to Recovery about the purpose of taking our own moral inventory. His answers were written in 2002, 2011, and 2018. How have they changed (or not)? The questions … Continue reading "Why do a Moral Inventory? – Episode 246"

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May 08, 2018
Consequences – Episode 245
1:21:01

Do you try to reduce the consequences of your loved one’s choices and actions?  Do you have trouble enforcing consequences on undesirable behavior by others? con·se·quence ˈkänsikwəns noun a result or effect of an action or condition. synonyms: result, upshot, outcome, effect, repercussion, ramification, corollary, concomitant, aftermath, after effect; Setting Consequences I have to be … Continue reading "Consequences – Episode 245"

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Apr 24, 2018
Carl H Open Talk – Episode 244
1:06:13

Thanks to Denise, who recommended this talk. She wrote, When I heard you speak about violence in the non-alcoholic as a possible topic, I immediately thought of an Al-Anon talk I heard on the XA speakers website. It was by Carl H. from Hollywood, CA given in Calgary, Canada in 2010. He is an excellent … Continue reading "Carl H Open Talk – Episode 244"

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Apr 17, 2018
Recovery with Young Children – Episode 243
1:27:14

How do you talk to your children about recovery? What have they asked you? Spencer talks with Megan about how she talks to her children about recovery. We are joined by shares from several listeners. Our conversation was wide-ranging, touching on topics from the list below. What questions have your children asked you about Alcoholism/addiction? … Continue reading "Recovery with Young Children – Episode 243"

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Apr 10, 2018
Don’t React – Episode 242
30:36

Do you find yourself reacting without thinking? Does anxiety impel you to action? How can you pause and not react? A listener wrote in with these questions. How do I not act (or react) on the first impulsive thought or feeling? How do others sit with uncomfortable feelings? How do I act on God's will … Continue reading "Don’t React – Episode 242"

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Apr 02, 2018
Freedom – Episode 241
1:14:47

What does freedom mean to you? What freedom have you found in recovery? Eric suggested this topic, and we were loosely guided in our conversation by this outline. Definition of freedom? Many definitions… Do I believe that freedom only comes from being in control of my life? What does it mean to me (now) that … Continue reading "Freedom – Episode 241"

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Mar 27, 2018
Linda L Open Talk – Episode 240
1:09:31

I'm on vacation this week, visiting my brother in southern California. I'm sharing with you the talk given by Linda L at the March Roundup 2018 in Dearborn, MI. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

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Mar 13, 2018
March Roundup 2018 – Episode 239
46:39

Have you been to an AA or Al-Anon convention or round up? What did you find there? This week, I attended “March Roundup 2018”, an AA convention with Al-Anon participation in Dearborn, Michigan. My wife and I both went and attended sessions together, with a mix of AA and Al-Anon topics and speakers. From Friday … Continue reading "March Roundup 2018 – Episode 239"

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Mar 07, 2018
Myrtle A. Open Talk – Episode 238
53:00

Myrtle A speaking in Lusk, WY in 1996. Myrtle says she is her own worst problem. And that she has kicked “poor me” out of the house. But she is also a thief: she will “steal your responsibility faster than you knew you had it.” I hope you enjoy and get as much from her talk … Continue reading "Myrtle A. Open Talk – Episode 238"

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Feb 27, 2018
Healing the Trauma of Alcoholism – Episode 237
1:08:08

What trauma has alcoholism brought into your life? How are you healing from it? I didn’t realize it, but by the time I came to Al-Anon, I had been traumatized by the disease of alcoholism. Al-Anon is helping me to heal from this trauma. I recognized recently that it’s not over, even almost 16 years … Continue reading "Healing the Trauma of Alcoholism – Episode 237"

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Feb 20, 2018
Fear of Financial Insecurity – Episode 236
48:03

Do you dread mail from your bank? Are you anxious about paying the bills? Can you see a “way out” of your financial situation? What is my experience? Ignoring the problem We’re just fine. Just use the credit card. Cash advances Balance transfer Borrow from parents. Take money from retirement (is this amends?) Can I … Continue reading "Fear of Financial Insecurity – Episode 236"

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Feb 06, 2018
Slogans part 2 – Episode 235
1:23:37

How do you use slogans? Do you “let it begin with me”? When do you ask yourself “Is it worth my serenity?” How do you “Live and let live”? 3 slogans for today. Let it begin with me. Is it worth my serenity? First things first. For each slogan: How do I understand the slogan? … Continue reading "Slogans part 2 – Episode 235"

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Feb 01, 2018
Carol S open talk – Episode 234
52:32

Eric and I had planned a discussion about slogans, to follow up on our first one in episode 131. But life intervened, so we had to ask “how important is it?” and to put “first things first.” Thus, I'm sharing an open talk by Carol S of Omaha, Nebraska. Upcoming topics include some slogans. What … Continue reading "Carol S open talk – Episode 234"

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Jan 23, 2018
Making a Decision – Episode 233
52:54

Step 3 asks us to “make a decision” to turn our will to the care of a higher power. Why is this so hard for many of us? I looked back over 15 years at the 3 times I have worked step 3, and found the answers I wrote in 2002, 2011, and 2017 for … Continue reading "Making a Decision – Episode 233"

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Jan 16, 2018
The Sober Parent – Episode 232
1:17:24

Are you the sober parent in an alcoholic family? What challenges have you faced? How has recovery helped you? What challenges do you face as the sober parent? Keeping your children safe Making decisions about how to parent. What happens when you disagree? Taking everything on. Anger, rage and anxiety. “Parenting” your spouse? Jealousy/resentment of … Continue reading "The Sober Parent – Episode 232"

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Jan 10, 2018
Begin in Stillness – Episode 231
1:01:19

Begin the new year in stillness, in contemplation of the year past and the year to come. What do you want to let go of from the last year? Write it down. Destroy what you have written (burn it, dissolve it in water, or crumple it up and throw it in the trash.) You don’t … Continue reading "Begin in Stillness – Episode 231"

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Jan 02, 2018
The Family in Recovery – Episode 230
1:03:04

In this recording from the 2010 AA Woodstock of the South, Bob B, Polly P, Ralph W, Michael E, Bill R, and Linda B share their experiences of family recovery in Al-Anon and AA. Upcoming topics include parenting. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your experience, strength and hope. Our contact page has more … Continue reading "The Family in Recovery – Episode 230"

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Dec 25, 2017
Holiday Expectations – Episode 229
38:07

As we enter into a season where many of us are celebrating an end of the year holiday — Christmas, Kwanzaa, Hanukkah, New Year — what expectations do we have? What anxieties does this season provoke? Do you look forward to spending time with family, or dread it? Or are you spending this time alone? … Continue reading "Holiday Expectations – Episode 229"

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Dec 19, 2017
Trust and Trustworthy – Episode 228
1:30:41

Do you have trouble trusting other people? Do you have people you trust?  How do you know they are trustworthy? What is trust? firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something. (Dictionary.com) Do you have or have had trouble trusting other people? Do you have people you trust?  How do you … Continue reading "Trust and Trustworthy – Episode 228"

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Dec 13, 2017
Five Years of Recovery – Episode 227
44:20

The first episode of The Recovery Show was posted to the internet on Dec 10, 2012. It’s hard to believe that we are now 5 years and 227 episodes in. What has 5 years of podcasting meant to me? What has it meant to you? How did it happen? 6 years ago — the only … Continue reading "Five Years of Recovery – Episode 227"

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Dec 06, 2017
Your Gratitude 2017 – Episode 226
11:50

I asked you to share your gratitude with me. Many of you did so, and this episode highlights your voices and your gratitudes. I also put together a playlist on Spotify, included below, that doesn't even scratch the surface of the songs about gratitude and thankfulness. I'm sure I missed your favorite, so please email … Continue reading "Your Gratitude 2017 – Episode 226"

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Nov 26, 2017
Parenting as an Adult Child of Alcoholics – Episode 225
1:21:39

What challenges have you found, as an adult child of an alcoholic, in parenting your own children? What program tools have you used, and how have they helped? What is your biggest challenge now? Several listeners shared their experience around these and similar questions. Some challenges were Not controlling. Anger Impatience “Hurt people hurt people” … Continue reading "Parenting as an Adult Child of Alcoholics – Episode 225"

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Nov 22, 2017
Gratitude – Episode 224
18:04

As we approach the US holiday of Thanksgiving, I naturally think about the things I am grateful for. What are you grateful for? Here are some things I am grateful for That I have a program of recovery. Our dog is a sweetheart, so loving. That my adult children choose to spend time with me … Continue reading "Gratitude – Episode 224"

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Nov 14, 2017
Sally C. open talk
1:01:55

I got a lot from this open talk by Sally C, speaking in 1984. A couple highlights from her talk: She found exactly what she was looking for in her first meeting… But what was it? What we think and what is real are two far different things … this is why maybe they shouldn't … Continue reading "Sally C. open talk"

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Nov 06, 2017
(In)sanity and (Un)manageability – Episode 222
29:31

How has the alcoholic situation affected my sanity and my life? Have I allowed the alcoholic situation to become my Higher Power? How? How has my thinking become distorted trying to handle the alcoholic behavior? Spencer reflects on these questions. How would you answer these questions? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with … Continue reading "(In)sanity and (Un)manageability – Episode 222"

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Oct 31, 2017
Fran G Open Talk – Episode 221
50:57

We present for you an open talk by Fran G., speaking in 1991.

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Oct 25, 2017
Courage – Episode 220
57:39

How have you experienced courage in your recovery? Which steps required courage of you? How has recovery given you courage to change the things you can? We use the word “courage” a lot in this program. Most of our meetings start with the serenity prayer: God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I … Continue reading "Courage – Episode 220"

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Oct 17, 2017
3 P’s: Perfection, Procrastination, Paralysis – Episode 219
54:50

Do you find yourself seeking perfection? Do you procrastinate because you can't achieve it? Or, maybe, you are paralyzed because of it. We explore the 3 P's, guided by the questions below and with shares from listeners. How do Perfection, Procrastination, and Paralysis connect to each other? How have I experienced perfection(ism) in my life? … Continue reading "3 P’s: Perfection, Procrastination, Paralysis – Episode 219"

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Oct 10, 2017
Charlotte I Open Talk – Episode 218
1:00:38

I really enjoyed and connected with this open talk by Charlotte I. I hope you do, too. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

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Oct 03, 2017
Spencer T Open Talk – Episode 217
1:06:11

An Al-Anon open talk presented by Spencer T, host of The Recovery Show, in September, 2017. The talk has the “traditional” structure: What was it like? What happened? What is it like now? It includes reflections on: Learning at a young age that it was my responsibility to “fix” everyone's problems. Learning codependent behavior — … Continue reading "Spencer T Open Talk – Episode 217"

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Sep 26, 2017
Willingness – Episode 216
1:08:38

A member asked another member to be their sponsor. The response was, “Are you willing to do what I did for as long as I did it to get what I have?” What would your answer be? Where does that willingness come from? Definition What does this word mean to me today? How is that … Continue reading "Willingness – Episode 216"

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Sep 19, 2017
Welcome – Episode 215
1:02:04

How were you made welcome to recovery? How are we welcoming to others? This episode was inspired by hearing the poem In Sweet Company by Margaret Wolff. Listen to the podcast to hear the poem, which spoke to me of the way I was welcomed and accepted in the Al-Anon program. I reflect on the poem … Continue reading "Welcome – Episode 215"

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Sep 05, 2017
Sadness and Loneliness – Episode 214
1:07:44

How were you lonely and sad? Is there a difference between loneliness and being alone? How has recovery helped to relieve these feelings? Eric and Spencer explore loneliness, sadness, and recovery guided in part by these questions. Definitions. Sad, despair, isolated, grief, loss, How did you deal with (or not deal with) sadness before recovery? … Continue reading "Sadness and Loneliness – Episode 214"

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Sep 01, 2017
Cynthia C Open Talk – Episode 213
46:31

An open talk by Cynthia C, speaking in 1986. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

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Aug 22, 2017
I didn’t get sober for this shit – Episode 212
55:47

What are you discarding from your life in your recovery? What are you keeping? And what do you want to add? I recently found a blog post titled “I didn't get sober for this shit.” I related to it in so many ways, and I'll share a few with you in this episode. I'd love … Continue reading "I didn’t get sober for this shit – Episode 212"

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Aug 15, 2017
Kindness and Courtesy – Episode 211
50:25

How do kindness and courtesy help us live live more serenely and happily? Can we be kind to our alcoholic or addicted loved ones? Eric and Spencer share their experiences of how kindness and courtesy work in their lives. What is kindness? What is courtesy? Ways of being kind and courteous: Smiling and saying “hi” … Continue reading "Kindness and Courtesy – Episode 211"

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Aug 02, 2017
Living with death – Episode 210
1:01:41

Do you fear your loved one will die? How can recovery help us live with death of those we love? What if that death was long in the past? This show is sort of a story in 3 parts. First, Spencer talks about fearing the death of his loved one. Next, D shares her experience … Continue reading "Living with death – Episode 210"

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Jul 27, 2017
Mary Pearl T on Steps 6-9 – Episode 209
1:22:26

Mary Pearl is open and honest, with a wonderful sense of humor. This is part of a longer talk, so it starts in the middle of an anecdote. She talks here about Steps 6, “Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character”, 7, “Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings”, 8, “Made … Continue reading "Mary Pearl T on Steps 6-9 – Episode 209"

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Jul 11, 2017
Humility – Episode 208
56:08

Is humility the same thing as humiliation? How does humility help me change? Definition from Merriam-Webster:  freedom from pride or arrogance :  the quality or state of being humble What is the difference between humility and humiliation? Some have compared humility to teachability. How do you understand this statement? How does humility help keep me … Continue reading "Humility – Episode 208"

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Jul 04, 2017
Controlling Behavior – Episode 207
44:17

Do you believe you can control another person’s drinking? Or maybe all of their behavior? What consequences have your attempts to control led to? I recently started working the steps with an AWOL group (A Way Of Life). In our first meeting, we agreed to address the first 5 questions about Step 1 in the … Continue reading "Controlling Behavior – Episode 207"

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Jun 27, 2017
It’s the Journey – Episode 206
41:51

How has your past shaped you? Do you sometimes feel you can't escape it, and that you will never “get it”? Recently, I heard a couple of statements that, in my head, connected to recovery. “We are not defined by what we did or who we were. Those are only the things that brought us … Continue reading "It’s the Journey – Episode 206"

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Jun 13, 2017
Corrie L. Open Talk – Episode 205
1:32:01

I connected with a lot of what Corrie shared. I hope you enjoy her talk as much as I did. Upcoming topics include the 3 P's: Perfectionism, Procrastination, and Paralysis. Do you find it hard to get started because you're afraid you can't do it perfectly? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions … Continue reading "Corrie L. Open Talk – Episode 205"

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Jun 06, 2017
My Body, My Codependency – Episode 204
1:02:37

The pit of my stomach is churning. My neck and shoulders are tense. I don’t have any energy. My whole body is out of whack. Do you feel this way? Have you felt like this? Let's take a look at how living with alcoholism or addiction can our bodies and our health. How was my body affected … Continue reading "My Body, My Codependency – Episode 204"

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May 30, 2017
Adult Children of Alcoholics – Episode 203
1:28:57

Did you grow up in an alcoholic or dysfunctional family? How has this affected your life today? How can you recover from your childhood experiences? The ACA or ACOA program was created in the 1970s by a group of Alateen members who needed a program that focused on recovery from their experiences growing up in … Continue reading "Adult Children of Alcoholics – Episode 203"

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May 24, 2017
Letting go of the Process – Episode 105 replay
1:20:38

Another busy weekend: Mothers Day and yard work. I hope you enjoy this “retro” episode about Letting go of the Process with guest host Harriet, originally published in February, 2015. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

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May 16, 2017
Sam V. Open Talk – Episode 202
58:23

I really enjoyed this open talk by Sam V., who describes himself as “a man who thinks too much.” Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

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May 09, 2017
In All Our Affairs – Episode 201
1:04:20

Step 12 says “… we tried … to practice these principles in all our affairs“. It's easy to say but harder to do. Al-Anon doesn't do me much good if I pick and choose where I'm going to put it into practice. Program works best when I embrace it wholeheartedly: give up my excuses, rationalizations, … Continue reading "In All Our Affairs – Episode 201"

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May 02, 2017
Daddy’s Medicine – Brinn Black – Episode 200
43:29

Brinn Black is a singer and songwriter from Nashville. She wrote a song, Daddy's Medicine, about her experience growing up with an alcoholic father. Our conversation with Brinn was guided by these questions: Brinn, I have to say that the first few lines just grabbed my heart: When you're five you don't know there's a stranger … Continue reading "Daddy’s Medicine – Brinn Black – Episode 200"

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Apr 25, 2017
Roll Away the Stone – Episode 199
41:13

Is there a stone blocking the tomb of your soul? Have you crawled inside to escape the pain of life? How can we roll that stone away? Yes, it’s Easter again. At this time, I am reminded of the biblical story from Mark 16: When the Sabbath was over, Mary Magdalene, Mary the mother of … Continue reading "Roll Away the Stone – Episode 199"

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Apr 18, 2017
Father Tom W Open Talk – Episode 198
55:20

As promised, here is one of my favorite recovery speakers, Father Tom W. sharing his experience, strength, and hope in Al-Anon. Upcoming topics include being the sober parent and Alateen. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

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Apr 11, 2017
Obsessive Thinking – Episode 197
57:03

Do you obsess over your loved one's drinking? Do you keep chewing over past actions or wrongs done to you? How can we stop? What is obsessive thinking? What are some other words? Wallowing (in negativity/fear/anger) Resentment (as we discussed last week) Ruminating / chewing over (past wrongs / future problems) Looping What sorts of … Continue reading "Obsessive Thinking – Episode 197"

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Apr 04, 2017
Resentment – Episode 196
1:13:59

Do you hold a grudge? Why is this harmful? How can our program help let go of our resentments? What is a “resentment”? Why is it a problem? Where do you find your resentments stem from? Anger at a past injury? Others not doing things “your way”? One method of working Step 4 (“searching and … Continue reading "Resentment – Episode 196"

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Mar 28, 2017
What is Al-Anon – Episode 195 – Episode 10 redux
1:08:10

What is Al-Anon? Why do we, who don't have a drinking problem, need the 12 steps? In this “retro” episode, Spencer, Kelly, and Swetha talk about what brought us to Al-Anon, what we found, and why we keep coming. And, maybe, why Al-Anon might help you, too. Upcoming topics include resentment. What do you resent? … Continue reading "What is Al-Anon – Episode 195 – Episode 10 redux"

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Mar 21, 2017
March Roundup 2017 – Episode 194
45:10

This weekend, my wife and I attended March Roundup 2017, an AA convention in Dearborn, Michigan. In this episode, I reflect on that experience and hope to inspire you to attend an AA or Al-Anon convention in your area. Upcoming topics include obsessive thinking. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, … Continue reading "March Roundup 2017 – Episode 194"

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Mar 14, 2017
Buck N Open Talk – Episode 193
1:01:21

I recently listened to this open talk from Buck N. I loved his “old school” Al-Anon, his straightforward presentation, and his sense of humor. I hope you do, too. Upcoming topics include the disease concept of alcoholism. Do you think that this idea gives your alcoholic loved one “an out”? What is your understanding of … Continue reading "Buck N Open Talk – Episode 193"

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Mar 07, 2017
Feelings, Recovery, Compassion, and Forgiveness – Episode 192
35:34

Diana shares a powerful story of recovery, of discovering her own feelings, and finding compassion and forgiveness for those who harmed her. Upcoming topics include obsessive thinking; Alateen; and parenting. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here. Music from … Continue reading "Feelings, Recovery, Compassion, and Forgiveness – Episode 192"

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Feb 28, 2017
Al-Anon Slips – Episode 191
1:26:32

What does it mean to relapse in Al-Anon? Have you had an Al-Anon slip? What did you do to recover? What is a “slip”? Is it just another word for “relapse”? What do you think an “Al-Anon slip” is? How do you know if you’re having (or if you had) one? In AA, it’s “obvious”, … Continue reading "Al-Anon Slips – Episode 191"

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Feb 21, 2017
Sherry S. Open Talk – Episode 190
1:17:50

I hope you enjoy this open talk from Sherry S. I found wisdom and connection for myself. Upcoming topics include Alateen. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

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Feb 14, 2017
Being Ready – Episode 189
35:50

Why did I come to Al-Anon when I did? Or, to ask it a different way, why didn’t I come sooner? What made me ready? Why did I come to Al-Anon when I did? Or, why didn’t I come sooner? Not understanding alcoholism. I didn’t grow up with alcoholism I thought my loved one’s behavior … Continue reading "Being Ready – Episode 189"

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Feb 07, 2017
Detachment with love – Episode 188
1:01:37

Do you get caught up in other people’s problems or emotions? Does the phrase “loving detachment” just baffle you? We start with a reading from an Al-Anon flyer titled Detachment. What thoughts about detachment does the reading bring up for you? When you first heard the word “detachment” in a meeting, what did you think … Continue reading "Detachment with love – Episode 188"

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Jan 31, 2017
Fear, Faith, and Surrender – Episode 187
1:10:48

Steve L shares his thoughts about fear, faith, and surrender in this AA talk. What did this talk bring up for you? What thoughts do you have? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here. Music from the show Solange: … Continue reading "Fear, Faith, and Surrender – Episode 187"

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Jan 24, 2017
Expectations – Episode 186
1:06:22

Do you have unrealistic expectations of other people? Or, maybe, of yourself? How does this hurt? What are “expectations”? “Expectations are pre-meditated resentments” — how do you see this as true? How can expectations set you up for disappointment? How do your expectations of yourself hurt you? How do you deal with other people's expectations … Continue reading "Expectations – Episode 186"

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Jan 17, 2017
Maria – Beyond Recovery – Episode 185
41:00

How do you use recovery in your life? Join Spencer and Maria as they explore how she has found a new way of living, beyond recovery. Before coming to recovery, Maria's life was “good enough.” The tools she gained in the Al-Anon program have enabled her to face two major life choices, and to decide … Continue reading "Maria – Beyond Recovery – Episode 185"

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Jan 10, 2017
Recovery 2016 – Episode 184
50:23

How did your recovery grow in 2016? Whether we're just getting started or we've been at this for years now, we can always grow. How did recovery tools and principles work in my life last year? With family and friends? In my finances? In my work? In my health and fitness? In my spiritual life? How did … Continue reading "Recovery 2016 – Episode 184"

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Jan 03, 2017
Christmas 2016 wishes
2:05

My wishes to you are that the spirit of the Christmas season, of peace and good will to all people, may be with you in the coming year. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here. Background music is Carol … Continue reading "Christmas 2016 wishes"

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Dec 27, 2016
Kathy C Open Talk – Episode 183
1:17:14

Kathy shares her experience, strength, and hope in her open talk. I particularly appreciated the way she kept the focus on herself — her feelings — her actions — as she described the years before she found recovery. I was able to identify with a lot of what she said. In our feedback section, we … Continue reading "Kathy C Open Talk – Episode 183"

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Dec 20, 2016
Anger – Episode 182
1:18:59

Do you get angry? More importantly, maybe, how do you deal with your anger? Has recovery helped you be less angry or to let it out more gently? This week, Spencer and Pat talk about anger. We are guided in our discussion by these questions. Don't we almost all get angry at some time or another? … Continue reading "Anger – Episode 182"

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Dec 13, 2016
Keep it Simple – Episode 181
54:14

Do you overcomplicate your life? How can we “Keep it Simple”? Let’s look at the section of How Al-Anon Works about the slogan “Keep it Simple”. How would you relate each of these sentences to your life? When coping with the baffling and often overwhelming effects of alcoholism, the simpler and more straightforward the approach, … Continue reading "Keep it Simple – Episode 181"

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Dec 06, 2016
Being Thankful – Episode 180
1:00:25

How are you thankful? Can you be thankful even when life isn’t going well? How can being thankful improve your situation? As I approach the US Thanksgiving holiday, my thoughts naturally turn to thankfulness. In Shakespeare’s play Hamlet, we find this bit of conversation between Hamlet and Rosencrantz. Hamlet has just remarked that Denmark is … Continue reading "Being Thankful – Episode 180"

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Nov 22, 2016
Say what you mean and mean what you say – Episode 179
54:37

Say what you mean, mean what you say, and don't be mean when you say it. Many of us have formed patterns of communication that linger even though they may have outlived their usefulness. How did I keep quiet or agree to unreasonable requests in order to avoid conflict? Do I continue to do that … Continue reading "Say what you mean and mean what you say – Episode 179"

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Nov 15, 2016
178 – Boundaries “Best of” episode
1:37:18

This “retro” episode was originally published as Episode 103. Have you ever set an ultimatum? What did you do when it wasn’t honored? How do you deal with unacceptable behavior from your loved ones? Spencer and Maria talk about boundaries. Last week, we read an email from a listener who asked these questions: Do any … Continue reading "178 – Boundaries “Best of” episode"

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Nov 08, 2016
Knowing myself – Episode 177
49:27

Start where you are. When change comes, as it always does, it helps to know who you are. Why is it important to know “who I am”? What does it mean to know “who I am”? How have the Steps helped me in knowing myself? (Step 4 is the obvious one, but what about the others?) … Continue reading "Knowing myself – Episode 177"

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Nov 01, 2016
A Recovery Story – Laura – Episode 176
47:39

What is your story? What brought you to recovery? What challenges have you faced? What have you found here? We had a conversation with Laura about recovery where the local language is not her native tongue. We were guided by these questions. What brought you to Al-Anon? How did you hear about or find the Al-Anon … Continue reading "A Recovery Story – Laura – Episode 176"

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Oct 25, 2016
Honesty – a workshop – Episode 175
1:18:51

What does it mean that this is a program of “rigorous honesty”? How have you been dishonest to others and to yourself? What have you learned about honesty in recovery? This workshop on honesty was presented by Michele R (AA) and Kim G (Al-Anon) at the 2013 Journey to Serenity Festival (Saskatchewan Al-Anon Adult Children Festival), October … Continue reading "Honesty – a workshop – Episode 175"

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Oct 19, 2016
Forgiveness is critical to recovery – Episode 174
1:10:20

What does it mean to forgive? Why do we talk of “finding” forgiveness? And who really gains from forgiveness? What does forgiveness mean? Dictionary Merriam Webster has this simple definition of the word forgive: “to stop feeling anger toward (someone who has done something wrong) : to stop blaming (someone)” And also this: “to give … Continue reading "Forgiveness is critical to recovery – Episode 174"

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Oct 12, 2016
Start where you are – Episode 173
44:19

Start where you are. Bring your angry self. Bring your despairing self. Bring your resentful and frustrated self. Bring your confused self. And we will meet you there. Sometimes I think I need to be “ready” before I can do something, before I can make a change. But that’s not true of our program. I … Continue reading "Start where you are – Episode 173"

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Oct 04, 2016
Why The Recovery Show – Episode 172
38:09

Why is there The Recovery Show? September 30 is International Podcast Day, which “is dedicated to promoting Podcasting worldwide through education and public engagement.” … Well, that got me thinking about why I do this podcast, why I (with others) have created 172 episodes of The Recovery Show over the past 3 ½ years. So, … Continue reading "Why The Recovery Show – Episode 172"

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Sep 27, 2016
Dawn C – Open talk – Episode 171
1:03:14

This week, we present an open talk by an Al-Anon “long timer”, Dawn C. Upcoming topics include courage, fear, faith, and worry. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

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Sep 20, 2016
Year of Yes – Episode 170
43:31

Can you say “Yes” and mean it? When is it better to say “No”? I recently read a book, Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes, subtitled “How to Dance It Out, Stand in the Sun and Be Your Own Person.” Much of what I read resonated with the work I’ve been doing in recovery, so … Continue reading "Year of Yes – Episode 170"

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Sep 13, 2016
Feelings – Episode 169
1:16:59

Have you ever felt controlled by your feelings? What feelings could you identify in the past? How do you balance feelings and facts? Were you able to identify feelings (before recovery)? What did you feel? Did you feel? Did you think that certain feelings were “good” and others were “bad”? Did it seem you had … Continue reading "Feelings – Episode 169"

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Sep 06, 2016
Spencer’s Open Talk – Episode 168
52:06

What was it like? What happened? And what is it like now? Spencer was invited to give an “open talk” recently, and he elected to use this traditional format. It starts with “what happened?” With that moment when the reality of his powerlessness and the unmanageability of his life crashed down on him. When he … Continue reading "Spencer’s Open Talk – Episode 168"

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Aug 30, 2016
Serenity – Episode 167
1:20:35

What is serenity, anyway? And how do you get it? Let’s start with a definition: (dictionary.com) 1. the state or quality of being serene, calm, or tranquil; sereneness. 2. A title of honor, respect, or reverence, used in speaking of or to a certain member of royalty (usually preceded by his, your, etc). Synonyms 1. … Continue reading "Serenity – Episode 167"

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Aug 23, 2016
Confession, Redemption, and Forgiveness – Episode 166
46:41

“I've got a confession to make.” How do you feel when you say that? How do you feel when you hear it?! What is the power that confession has for us in Step 5? (Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.) How does the inventory and … Continue reading "Confession, Redemption, and Forgiveness – Episode 166"

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Aug 16, 2016
Stepping Stones to Serenity Part 4 – Episode 165
59:27

This is part 4 of a 4-part seminar titled “Stepping Stones to Serenity”, presented by Ellen C in 2008. This part covers steps 10 through 12. The previous episodes are Part 1, Steps 1-3: Episode 158 Part 2, Steps 4-6: Episode 159 Part 3, Steps 7-9: Episode 162 In full, the 12 Steps of Al-Anon … Continue reading "Stepping Stones to Serenity Part 4 – Episode 165"

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Aug 09, 2016
Choices – Episode 164
1:28:11

Do we have choices in our lives? What kinds of choices do we have? How have we found choices in recovery? Choice Before Recovery Did you feel you had choices in your life? Did it seem like, when you had a choice, it was either/or, with no 3rd possibility? Were you “allowed” to change your … Continue reading "Choices – Episode 164"

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Aug 02, 2016
Rediscovering Myself – Episode 163
1:25:19

Did alcoholism erase you? How did you find yourself in recovery? Who are you? What do you want? Do you know now? In what ways did I lose myself “before program”? Focus on the alcoholic Taking care of others before myself Belief that others must participate in everything — I can’t do something if my … Continue reading "Rediscovering Myself – Episode 163"

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Jul 26, 2016
Stepping Stones to Serenity Part 3 – Episode 162
52:03

This is part 3 of a 4-part seminar titled “Stepping Stones to Serenity”, presented by Ellen C in 2008. This part covers steps 7 through 9.

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Jul 19, 2016
Dancing with Dementia – Episode 161
38:20

How is living with alcoholism like living with dementia? Can I use what I have learned in one, with the other? The sermon was titled “Dancing with Dementia”. “What perfect timing!” I thought, as I was sitting down. This week I will be visiting my parents, who may or not have diagnosed dementia, but who are definitely … Continue reading "Dancing with Dementia – Episode 161"

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Jul 12, 2016
Step 1: Powerlessness and Power – Episode 160
1:30:32

What does it mean to be powerless? How can admitting powerlessness give you power over the unmanageability of your life? Spencer and Tom, joined virtually by Sara and Gerrie talk about Step 1, We admitted we were powerless over alcohol, and our lives had become unmanageable. Why is it difficult to admit my powerlessness? How … Continue reading "Step 1: Powerlessness and Power – Episode 160"

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Jul 06, 2016
Stepping Stones to Serenity Part 2 – Episode 159
49:08

This is part 2 of a 4-part seminar titled “Stepping Stones to Serenity”, presented by Ellen C in 2008. This part covers steps 4 through 6.

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Jun 28, 2016
Stepping Stones to Serenity – 1 – Episode 158
49:44

  This is part 1 of a 4-part seminar titled “Stepping Stones to Serenity”, presented by Ellen C in 2008. This part covers steps 1 through 3.  

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Jun 21, 2016
Seeing Clearly – Episode 157
1:36:58

“Our sight, once clouded and confused, will clear and we will be able to perceive reality and recognize truth.” Our sight, once clouded… Implies impaired vision Only able to see a short distance Lacking perspective Denial Paradoxically living in the future Guilt Overcompensation I had a very narrow vision, everything was black or white, all … Continue reading "Seeing Clearly – Episode 157"

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Jun 14, 2016
Life on Purpose – Episode 156
1:09:16

Can you say what is your purpose? How do you decide what to do on a daily basis? What do you want to be “when you grow up”? This episode is inspired by the book Life on Purpose. How has recovery challenged me to articulate my values and my purpose? What is the purpose of “purpose”? … Continue reading "Life on Purpose – Episode 156"

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Jun 07, 2016
Say Yes! to Life – Episode 155
48:55

Last weekend, I drove back to the city I grew up in, to attend a memorial service for a childhood friend. As family and friends shared their memories of my friend, I reflected on the ways we say “Yes!” to life in the presence of death. This week, I am re-issuing episode 76, Loss, with … Continue reading "Say Yes! to Life – Episode 155"

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May 24, 2016
Mothers Day – Episode 154
1:26:53

Are you a mother? What did you learn from your mother? How has recovery changed your way of being a mother, or your relationship with your mother? Inspired by the US holiday, Mothers Day, Carrie and Spencer talk about mothers, their relationship with their mothers, and being a mother. What was your mother like? What … Continue reading "Mothers Day – Episode 154"

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May 17, 2016
Ajit S Open Talk – Episode 153
1:00:13

This open talk by Ajit S was recorded at the We Are Not Saints AA roundup in 2007. I first heard Ajit on a tape or CD some years ago, when I was new in the Al-Anon. I liked what he had to say and how he said it. He has a great self-deprecating humor … Continue reading "Ajit S Open Talk – Episode 153"

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May 10, 2016
Shutting down as a defense – Episode 152
1:22:54

Do you retreat into yourself when problems arise? Do you prefer not to hear bad news? Maybe you are shutting down as a defense. Here's our outline: Which of these statements do I connect with about shutting down? “When I am stressed, I retreat into myself.” “If I don’t think about a problem, it will … Continue reading "Shutting down as a defense – Episode 152"

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May 03, 2016
Meditation – Episode 151
1:24:25

How do you meditate? Or, DO you meditate? Meditation is something of which many of us say “I need to do that!” “I've got to get into doing it regularly.” “I know it would really help me.” So why is this? What is blocking us? What good can it do us? And what ways are there to meditate? Spencer … Continue reading "Meditation – Episode 151"

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Apr 28, 2016
Your Voice – Episode 150
37:38

Do you sometimes feel that you have nothing to contribute? That your voice is meaningless? That you can't say anything to help others? I was inspired by this reading to say “No! Your voice matters!” Commitment People say, what is the sense of our small effort. They cannot see that we must lay one brick … Continue reading "Your Voice – Episode 150"

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Apr 18, 2016
Fourth Step Inventory – Episode 149
1:24:59

Have you done a fourth step inventory? How did you do it? Join Mike S. and David M. as they lead a workshop on using the 4th step inventory worksheets, based on the process described in the “How it Works” chapter in the AA Big Book. There are 4 worksheets, corresponding to the 4 inventory … Continue reading "Fourth Step Inventory – Episode 149"

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Apr 11, 2016
Worthy of Love – Episode 148
1:04:01

We will discover that we are both, worthy of love and loving. We will love others without losing ourselves, and will learn to accept love in return. What does this mean to you? If you had read or heard this statement when you had just arrived in Al-Anon, what would you have thought of it? … Continue reading "Worthy of Love – Episode 148"

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Apr 05, 2016
Roll Away the Stone – Episode 147
24:57

“Who will roll away the stone?” The story of Easter is one of resurrection and recovery. But, we need help to roll away the stone from the tomb of our despair and denial. In Al-Anon, we find that help. It might come from recognition that we are not alone, that others have been where we … Continue reading "Roll Away the Stone – Episode 147"

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Mar 29, 2016
Emotional Safety – Episode 146
1:00:09

Do you feel emotionally safe? Do you close out intimacy because it threatens you? Let's talk about emotional safety. Thought questions for this discussion include these: What is emotional safety? What is emotional security? How do they relate to each other and how are they different? How are emotional safety and security threatened? What happens … Continue reading "Emotional Safety – Episode 146"

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Mar 22, 2016
So, You Love an Alcoholic – Episode 145
1:18:17

Do you love an alcoholic? Has that love brought you fear, anger, shame, and joy? 3 Al-Anon speakers from a session at the 2015 AA International Convention share their experience, strength, and hope. A listener emailed with a question about emotional abuse and emotional safety. Have you felt emotionally unsafe? Have you dismissed those feelings … Continue reading "So, You Love an Alcoholic – Episode 145"

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Mar 17, 2016
The 4 M’s – Episode 84 redux
1:25:24

Have you found yourself trying to do it all? Did you take care of your loved one’s problems? Do you try to force things to work out your way? Have you ever felt totally unappreciated?  The 4 M's are Managing, Manipulation, Mothering, and Martyrdom. Spencer had a very full weekend, so please enjoy this “best of” … Continue reading "The 4 M’s – Episode 84 redux"

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Mar 09, 2016
Joy, Fulfillment and Wonder – Episode 144
1:00:51

Do you have joy in your life? Do you feel fulfilled? Are you finding these gifts in recovery? Or are you still waiting for them to come? In this first episode in a series, we explore a “Gift of Al-Anon“. We will become mature, responsible individuals with a great capacity for joy, fulfillment, and wonder. Though … Continue reading "Joy, Fulfillment and Wonder – Episode 144"

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Mar 01, 2016
God of our Understanding – Episode 143
1:09:04

What did you think when you saw the word “God” in the 12 steps? Did you think you would be forced to believe in some particular religion? Or did you think you couldn’t find help because you didn’t believe in God? Two speakers from a NA convention share their experience finding a God of their … Continue reading "God of our Understanding – Episode 143"

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Feb 23, 2016
Love and Alcoholism – Episode 142
1:04:16

What does Love mean to you? Has alcoholism turned your love turned to hate? Or maybe, you feel both at once and it’s tearing you apart. The ancient Greeks had 4 words for different kinds of love. In English, we have to use adjectives to distinguish them. These include Romantic love Sexual love Parental love Familial … Continue reading "Love and Alcoholism – Episode 142"

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Feb 16, 2016
Intimacy – Episode 141
1:17:37

Intimacy requires dialog, transparency, vulnerability and reciprocity; it is sustained through well-developed emotional and interpersonal awareness; it comes from a center of self-knowledge and self differentiation; and it evolves through reciprocal self disclosure and candor. Spencer recently was a speaker at an open panel meeting titled “The Effects of Alcoholism and Addiction on Intimacy and … Continue reading "Intimacy – Episode 141"

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Feb 09, 2016
Sponsorship: a prompt – Episode 140
43:33

Do you have a sponsor? Do you sponsor others in the program? How has your sponsor supported your recovery? How has being a sponsor supported and enriched your recovery? Tell us about it! Two of us share our experience as a sponsor, and of being sponsored, and then challenge you to share your experience, strength, … Continue reading "Sponsorship: a prompt – Episode 140"

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Feb 02, 2016
It’s a We program – Episode 139
1:00:47

The first word of the first step is “We”. It is often said “this is a ‘we’ program.” What does that really mean? How do we find recovery from sharing our experience, strength and hope? All the steps (not just the first) start with “we”. The AA big book prefaces the steps with “Here are … Continue reading "It’s a We program – Episode 139"

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Jan 26, 2016
Families – Episode 138
1:03:12

Another conversation about families. What did you learn from your family of origin? How have you found new ways to relate to families in recovery? Tom joins us, and talks about what his family was like growing up, what he brought from that into his adult life, what he rebelled against, and how he is using his recovery … Continue reading "Families – Episode 138"

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Jan 19, 2016
Family – Episode 137
1:18:41

What did you learn from your family of origin? How have you found new ways to relate to your family in recovery? Spencer and Mara talk about family, guided by these questions. Describe, generally, what kind of family you grew up in. Was there (active) alcoholism or addiction? Was there codepenency? What did you learn … Continue reading "Family – Episode 137"

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Jan 12, 2016
Old Year New Year – Episode 136
52:16

What have you accomplished in the past year? How did you work your recovery? What are you looking forward to in the new year? Reflect on your year past, look forward to the new year with these thought questions. In this episode, Spencer reflects on his 2015 and looks at his 2016 goals. Did I … Continue reading "Old Year New Year – Episode 136"

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Jan 05, 2016
Cooperation and balance – Episode 135
1:44:01

Do you try to do “all the things” by yourself or do you work in cooperation with others? How do you keep balance and serenity while moving forward? Can Concepts 11 and 12 help answer these questions? Concept 11: The World Service Office is composed of selected committees, executives and staff members. How does this … Continue reading "Cooperation and balance – Episode 135"

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Dec 30, 2015
Holiday Survival Kit – Episode 134
44:59

Do you dread the holidays? Do they bring out the worst in you or your loved ones? Are you not sure how you’re going to survive visiting (or visits from) your family? What is in your holiday survival kit? Here are some items from my and my friends' holiday survival kits: Plan ahead Take Al-Anon literature … Continue reading "Holiday Survival Kit – Episode 134"

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Dec 22, 2015
The 4 L’s – Episode 133
1:07:41

In recovery we listen to each other; we learn from each other’s experience strength and hope; we let go of our need to control others; and find love for them. These are the 4 L's. Spencer and Pat discuss “listen, learn, let go, and love”, prompted by these questions. Do you try to fix others if they are … Continue reading "The 4 L’s – Episode 133"

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Dec 15, 2015
Living with Lies – Episode 132
1:05:23

Do you obsess over the thought that your loved one might be lying? Do you have to prove the lies? How do you find the ability to trust in recovery? Julia joins Spencer to talk about lies, guided by these questions. How have you been lied to (in relationships with an alcoholic or addict)? How … Continue reading "Living with Lies – Episode 132"

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Dec 08, 2015
Slogans part 1 – Episode 131
1:18:35

Maybe you’ve heard some of these slogans. “Easy does it.” … “How important is it?” … “Think” … “Let go and Let God.” Spencer and Eric talk about some slogans, guided by these questions. What did you think about these slogans when you first came to the program? Was there a particular slogan that you … Continue reading "Slogans part 1 – Episode 131"

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Nov 24, 2015
Clearing a Path – Episode 130
54:16

How has Al-Anon helped you to clear a path in your life? A few weeks ago, we posted a lead by June on the topic of “Clearing a Path”. Today, 5 listeners and Spencer respond to that lead. The themes explored in our experience, strength and hope include these: A new way of living. Finding … Continue reading "Clearing a Path – Episode 130"

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Nov 17, 2015
Gratitude – Episode 129
52:32

Have you heard someone say they were grateful for the alcoholics in their life? How do you practice gratitude? Can you find gifts in the “punishments” of your life? I reflect on gratitude while walking in the woods on a beautiful fall day. (How) can I say I am grateful for my loved one’s alcoholism? … Continue reading "Gratitude – Episode 129"

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Nov 03, 2015
Leadership – Episode 128
1:32:57

What makes you a leader? How do you divide leadership and management? Can you set clear boundaries between your and others’ responsibilities? Spencer and Akilah talk about Concepts 8, 9, and 10, which address these concerns and others. Concept 8: “The Board of Trustees delegates full authority for routine management of Al-Anon Headquarters to its executive … Continue reading "Leadership – Episode 128"

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Oct 20, 2015
Step 2 – Higher Power – Episode 127
1:00:34

  Spencer is traveling, so here's a favorite episode from our back catalog. Kelli, Swetha, and Spencer talk about their experience with Step 2, “Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.” The episode is bracketed by a short intro and closing recorded in the northern Utah desert. Upcoming … Continue reading "Step 2 – Higher Power – Episode 127"

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Oct 12, 2015
Clearing a Path – A Lead – Episode 126
20:38

Have you felt that your life was out of control, and that you'd never find a way out? Today, June shares about clearing a path in the jungle of her life, and invites your reflections. What thoughts does June's lead inspire in you? How do you relate to this metaphor of clearing a path with … Continue reading "Clearing a Path – A Lead – Episode 126"

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Oct 06, 2015
Conferences and conventions – Episode 125
1:13:48

Have you attended an Al-Anon or AA conference? Maybe you went to the AA International Convention this year. Or do you wonder what’s the big deal? What might you bring home from a gathering of people in recovery? Spencer talks with Annie and Alvin about their experience attending recovery conferences. Our discussion is guided by … Continue reading "Conferences and conventions – Episode 125"

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Sep 25, 2015
Randy K Open Talk – Episode 124
48:53

This week we have an Al-Anon open talk by Randy K. I (Spencer) identified with a lot of his experience. I was particularly struck by his description of his “addiction”, and related closely to it. Upcoming topics include Concepts 8 and 9, your shared experience with intervention, and the non-drinking parent. Please call us at … Continue reading "Randy K Open Talk – Episode 124"

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Sep 08, 2015
Al-Anon Dreams – Episode 123
37:15

Do you dream of relapse? Of recovery? Of loss of control? What are your Al-Anon dreams? Join us as Spencer, Jane, Akilah, Pat, and Brooke share some dreams. Dreams: what are they? From the shared experience in this episode, I think that our “Al-Anon” dreams might fall into these broad and overlapping categories: Reliving scenes … Continue reading "Al-Anon Dreams – Episode 123"

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Sep 01, 2015
Imperfection – Episode 122
1:16:10

Do you feel that you have to be perfect? Do you go through life as if you're on a stage? Is it hard to have compassion and love for yourself? Let's talk about imperfection. This episode was inspired by the book, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be … Continue reading "Imperfection – Episode 122"

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Aug 25, 2015
Laughter – Episode 121
1:23:37

When you came to your first meeting, were people laughing? How did that make you feel? How do you use laughter in your recovery today? When (under what circumstances) did you laugh before program? When and how did you laugh as a child? How did that change as you grew older? How did that change … Continue reading "Laughter – Episode 121"

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Aug 11, 2015
Best of: Our first meetings
1:27:40

What was your experience of your first Al-Anon meeting? Maybe you haven't been to one yet. Spencer, Kelli, Swetha and 7 other members talk about their first meeting or meetings. Hear how we came to believe that they could find help in Al-Anon. For some of us, the first meeting was transformational and enlightening. Others of … Continue reading "Best of: Our first meetings"

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Aug 04, 2015
Authority and Responsibility – Episode 120
1:25:04

Do you have trouble letting go of responsibility? Do you take on too much? Or do you give responsibility to someone for something they can’t do? If you’ve ever felt that way, you may find help in Concepts 6 and 7. Concept 6 says “The Conference acknowledges the primary administrative responsibility of the Trustees.” And, … Continue reading "Authority and Responsibility – Episode 120"

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Jul 22, 2015
Worry – Episode 119
1:22:26

Do you worry a lot? Is it hard to get your mind off the terrible things that might happen? Or maybe it’s just obsessing on the stuff that is wrong in your life today? Think about a time before program when you were worrying. What were you worrying about? How did worrying affect your life … Continue reading "Worry – Episode 119"

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Jul 14, 2015
Life on Life’s Terms – Episode 118
35:44

Sometimes life throws us a curve ball. How can we accept it and live life on life's terms? Due to some technical difficulties, the episode we had planned for this week did not come together. Instead, I'm talking about taking life on life's terms. Or maybe it's about acceptance. Or about Higher Power moments. Upcoming … Continue reading "Life on Life’s Terms – Episode 118"

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Jul 07, 2015
Fathers – Episode 117
48:10

Fathers Day is a holiday that recognizes fathers and honors fatherhood. What is or was your relationship with your father? Are you a father yourself? How can recovery help us to be better fathers? Or to improve connections with our fathers? In this episode, Spencer reflects on how his father affected his life, and on … Continue reading "Fathers – Episode 117"

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Jun 24, 2015
Gather your chairs in a circle – Episode 116
1:18:38

A couple of weeks ago, at church, we honored our graduating high school seniors. The sermon that day was in the form of advice to those setting out into adult life. What caught my ear was the second point, to “gather your chairs into a circle.” What does this mean, and how does it relate … Continue reading "Gather your chairs in a circle – Episode 116"

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Jun 16, 2015
Public outreach – Episode 115
1:21:17

Our 12th Step encourages us to “carry the message to others.” How have you done that? How can we reach out to sufferers who don’t even know about Al-Anon? Spencer and Eric talk about our experiences with public outreach, roughly following this outline. How did you first get involved in public outreach? What have you … Continue reading "Public outreach – Episode 115"

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May 28, 2015
Participation, harmony, and being heard – Episode 114
1:23:28

In your interactions with others, how do you find harmony? Do you sometimes feel that you are not heard? How do Concepts 4 and 5 help? Concept 4 says “Participation is the key to harmony.” and concept 5 states “The rights of appeal and petition protect minorities and insure that they be heard.” How do … Continue reading "Participation, harmony, and being heard – Episode 114"

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May 23, 2015
Fun – Episode 113
1:09:10

How do you have fun? Do you have fun? Has your concept of fun changed in recovery? Join Spencer and Brooke as we talk about fun, and hear the contributions a couple of listeners sent in via email. What does “fun” mean to you? How did you think about having fun before recovery? Could you … Continue reading "Fun – Episode 113"

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May 16, 2015
Do you drink? – Episode 112
43:43

Do you drink? Did you drink with your alcoholic loved one? How has recovery changed how you drink? How you think about drinking? Did you stop drinking? Why? Spencer talks about his personal experience with drinking, about how he drank with his loved one, and about how that changed with recovery and how his feelings … Continue reading "Do you drink? – Episode 112"

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Apr 23, 2015
Prayer – Episode 111
54:43

Do you pray? What is prayer? How can it support your recovery? In this episode, Spencer shares his personal journey to and understanding of prayer. I did not grow up with a tradition of prayer. My idea of prayer as a young person: “God, please give me a pony.” It didn’t work! I did not … Continue reading "Prayer – Episode 111"

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Apr 07, 2015
Right of Decision – Episode 110
1:26:02

Do you have trouble letting others make decisions? Do you second guess your own decisions? Spencer and Akilah discuss the “right of decision”, as expressed in Al-Anon's 3rd concept of service, “The right of decision makes effective leadership possible.” What is “the right of decision?” How do we use the right of decision in the … Continue reading "Right of Decision – Episode 110"

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Apr 01, 2015
Dry Drunk – Episode 109
58:37

What is “dry drunk”? Can an Al-Anon exhibit similar symptoms? A few weeks ago, Jennifer suggested the topic of “dry drunk.” Then Ruth mentioned how she feels when she misses a few meetings. And then, I heard a talk about “dry drunk” on the Recovery Radio Network podcast. We start with a talk from Dick S … Continue reading "Dry Drunk – Episode 109"

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Mar 18, 2015
Criticism and Self-Compassion – Episode 108
1:04:43

Do you have a voice inside you that criticizes everything you do? Can you find compassion for yourself when your internal critic is harsher than what others say about you? Spencer and Brooke talk about criticism and self-compassion. Some of the questions we considered were these. How might you answer these questions? Do I have … Continue reading "Criticism and Self-Compassion – Episode 108"

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Mar 08, 2015
Chaos – Encore – Episode 107
1:48:42

Due to first my co-host and then me being under the weather, we present this encore of the Chaos episode. Enjoy! Our topic for next week is criticism and self-compassion. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

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Feb 25, 2015
In the Moment – Episode 106
1:19:37

What does it mean to live “in the moment?” How can I plan for tomorrow when I’m living “one day at a time”? How do I learn from past experiences if I don’t look back? How did/do I live not in the moment? Anger and resentment – Living in the past. Chewing over past actions … Continue reading "In the Moment – Episode 106"

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Feb 17, 2015
Letting go of the process – Episode 105
1:26:42

Do you want to do recovery “your way”? Are you skipping steps because you don’t like them? Can you let go of control? Spencer and Harriet talk about letting go of the process. Harriet, can you explain what you meant by “letting go of the process” when you suggested this topic? How do/did you try to … Continue reading "Letting go of the process – Episode 105"

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Feb 10, 2015
Relapse – a “best of” episode
1:25:36

While Spencer is away, enjoy this “best of” episode from a year ago. Has your loved one relapsed? Did you expect it? How did you react? Today, Spencer and Jessyca talk about Relapse. We structured our discussion around these points and questions: The disease of alcoholism and addiction is chronic, progressive, and eventually fatal. Relapse does … Continue reading "Relapse – a “best of” episode"

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Feb 04, 2015
Judgement – Episode 104
1:36:49

How does having judgement differ from being judgemental? Can judgement be both a character asset and a character defect? How do you judge others? How do you think others judge you? How do you judge yourself? Today, Spencer and Anthony talk about judgement. We used this outline for our conversation: What does “judgement” mean to you? … Continue reading "Judgement – Episode 104"

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Jan 27, 2015
Boundaries – Episode 103
1:37:03

Have you ever set an ultimatum? What did you do when it wasn’t honored? How do you deal with unacceptable behavior from your loved ones? Spencer and Maria talk about boundaries. Last week, we read an email from a listener who asked these questions: Do any of you out there have any personal experiences setting … Continue reading "Boundaries – Episode 103"

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Jan 21, 2015
Responsibility and Authority – Episode 102
1:18:46

Do you take responsibility for your own actions? Do you take on responsibility for the way others live their lives? Do you sometimes try to play God? Spencer and Akilah talk about responsibility and authority, as set forth in Concepts one and two. The Ultimate Responsibility and Authority for Al-Anon World Services Belongs to the Al-Anon … Continue reading "Responsibility and Authority – Episode 102"

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Jan 13, 2015
Looking Back, Looking Ahead – Episode 101
55:24

Have you made New Year resolutions? How has that worked for you in the past? Is there a way to use our program tools instead? This is the time of year when we look back at the year gone by and forward at the year to come. Spencer talks about his process of “looking back, … Continue reading "Looking Back, Looking Ahead – Episode 101"

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Jan 06, 2015
Guest Host Experiences – Episode 100
1:03:17

What is it like to be a guest host on The Recovery Show? Join us as Mark, Ruth, Mara, Harriet, and Akilah talk about their experience co-hosting the podcast. I asked my guests today to reflect on these questions as we reach our 100th episode. Why did you decide to participate as a guest on … Continue reading "Guest Host Experiences – Episode 100"

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Dec 30, 2014
2 Years – Episode 99
1:00:00

If you’re new, do you wonder why members have been coming for years? Doesn’t there come a time when we’ve learned it all? What do we gain from keeping on keeping on?  It amazes me that The Recovery Show is 2 years old this week! Spencer thinks back over the last 2 years, about the … Continue reading "2 Years – Episode 99"

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Dec 16, 2014
Tradition 12 – Anonymity – Episode 98
1:25:57

Do you wonder how much to reveal about your situation? Are you afraid someone will “out” you? Do you have “idols” in the program? We’ll address these questions and more as we talk about Tradition 12, Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities. Ruth and … Continue reading "Tradition 12 – Anonymity – Episode 98"

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Dec 09, 2014
Gratitude 2014 – Episode 97
1:00:21

Can you be grateful for painful events? How do you cultivate an “attitude of gratitude”? Can gratitude help you sleep better? Join Spencer and Wendy as we talk about our experience with gratitude. We used these questions to guide our discussion. What does “gratitude” mean to you? Do you see gratitude differently now than before … Continue reading "Gratitude 2014 – Episode 97"

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Dec 02, 2014
Isolation – Episode 96
1:25:01

Do you revert to isolating in times of increased stress and difficulty? Do you find it harder to work your program at these times? Today we will talk about what isolation has meant to us. Spencer and guest host Harriet discuss this topic, suggested by Harriet, following this outline and questions. What is isolation? Closing … Continue reading "Isolation – Episode 96"

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Nov 25, 2014
Tradition 11 – Episode 95
1:17:16

Do you switch the tv-channel when the commercial kicks in? Are you tired of being reminded of something which you know would be good for you but you just don't want to, and now giving in would just feel odd? Do you wonder why some annoying people always have to emphasize where and how they … Continue reading "Tradition 11 – Episode 95"

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Nov 18, 2014
Spiritual Practice – Episode 94
1:07:49

How do you feed your spirit? Do you struggle with prayer and meditation? What does it mean to be “spiritual?”   Spencer shares his thoughts about spiritual practices, and invites you to share your own spiritual practices by voice mail or email. What is a spiritual practice? What is the purpose/goal of spiritual practices? Connection with … Continue reading "Spiritual Practice – Episode 94"

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Nov 13, 2014
Not God – Episode 93
48:19

Do you sometimes feel responsible for the whole world? Would other people be happy if they would do things your way? An critical part of our recovery is that we recognize that we are not God. Spencer talks about ways in which he has tried to “play God” in the past, about how those increased the … Continue reading "Not God – Episode 93"

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Nov 03, 2014
Triggers – Episode 92
1:30:36

Do words and events throw you into your past? Do you get angry when it's inappropriate? What are triggers and how do they affect us? Spencer and Akilah talk about our experience of triggers and how the 12 steps have lessened their impact on our lives. We had a few basic questions to guide our … Continue reading "Triggers – Episode 92"

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Oct 21, 2014
Trust – Episode 91
1:31:20

Are you afraid to trust others? Do you hesitate to share personal details? Are you trustworthy? Mara and Spencer talk about Trust. We used these questions to guide our discussion: When do I have trouble trusting? How do I know I can trust someone? Do I have a Higher Power I can trust? Can I trust myself? Can others trust me? What … Continue reading "Trust – Episode 91"

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Oct 14, 2014
Tradition 10 – Episode 90
1:26:22

Has someone brought their different political or social opinions into a meeting? How did that feel for you? Or even outside of meetings, can an opinion of another person disturb you? Today, we talk about Tradition 10, which says “The Al-Anon Family Groups have no opinion on outside issues; hence our name ought never be … Continue reading "Tradition 10 – Episode 90"

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Oct 07, 2014
Taking Care of Myself – Episode 89
16:26

When you get sick, do you try to just “keep on going”? When you are overcommitted, do you try to “do it all”? What happens when you do that? Today, I want to talk briefly about taking care of myself. In Al-Anon, we are told that we need to take care of ourselves first. What … Continue reading "Taking Care of Myself – Episode 89"

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Sep 29, 2014
Intimacy – Episode 88
1:19:46

Have you lost the ability to share intimately with another person? Have you found people in the program that you can trust with your secrets? What are your barriers to intimacy with your loved ones? Mara and Spencer talk about Intimacy. We used these questions to inform our conversation. What is intimacy? Vocabulary.com says this: … Continue reading "Intimacy – Episode 88"

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Sep 23, 2014
Unmanageability – Episode 87
1:23:05

Do you find yourself running in circles? Do you obsess over things you can’t change? Do you lie awake worrying? Spencer and Ruth talk about what it’s like when our lives are unmanageable, and how we have found a better way to live. We started with the outline below, but actually ended up structuring our conversation … Continue reading "Unmanageability – Episode 87"

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Sep 16, 2014
Tradition 9 – no organization – Episode 86
1:09:49

How can we function without organization? Tradition 9 says, “Our groups, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.” This seems somehow contradictory. What does it mean? Spencer and Ruth talk about Tradition 9, following these questions: What does it mean that our … Continue reading "Tradition 9 – no organization – Episode 86"

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Sep 03, 2014
Alcoholism – a Personal Journey – Episode 85
1:02:21

What did you think when you first heard the statement that alcoholism is a disease? Did is seem like a cop-out? Did you feel that your loved one just needed to drink normally!? Today, Spencer explores his personal journey of coming to an understanding of this cunning, baffling, and powerful thing called alcoholism. Here's a … Continue reading "Alcoholism – a Personal Journey – Episode 85"

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Aug 26, 2014
The 4 Ms – Manipulation Managing Mothering Martyrdom – Episode 84
1:25:24

Have you found yourself trying to do it all? Did you take care of your loved one’s problems? Do you try to force things to work out your way? Have you ever felt totally unappreciated?  The 4 M's are Managing, Manipulation, Mothering, and Martyrdom. Join Erika and Spencer as we talk about our experience with the … Continue reading "The 4 Ms – Manipulation Managing Mothering Martyrdom – Episode 84"

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Aug 12, 2014
Tradition 8 – Episode 83
1:11:06

Do you find yourself looking for the “experts” in your meetings? Do you sometimes feel like you have nothing to offer? How do we help one another in Al-Anon? Today, we’re going to talk about Tradition 8, which states “Al-Anon Twelfth Step work should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers.” … Continue reading "Tradition 8 – Episode 83"

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Aug 05, 2014
Suffering is Optional – Episode 82
1:33:56

What do we mean when we say “Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional?” What’s the difference? How can we avoid suffering? Spencer and Maria share their experience about suffering and pain. We used this outline to guide our conversation. What distinction does the quote make between pain and suffering? Does it make sense to … Continue reading "Suffering is Optional – Episode 82"

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Jul 29, 2014
Cause, Cure, Control – The 3 Cs – Episode 81
53:30

We are told that “we didn’t cause it, we can’t cure it, and we can’t control it.” The 3 C’s capture our powerlessness. What does this mean for us, what does it mean for the ones we love who are caught in this disease? What are “the 3 C’s”? We didn't cause our loved one's … Continue reading "Cause, Cure, Control – The 3 Cs – Episode 81"

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Jul 22, 2014
What does it mean to work the steps? – Episode 80
1:44:56

When you first heard “work the steps”, what did you think? Are you still confused about what it means? Or, maybe you’ve worked the steps, but you’re looking for more. Spencer talks with Ruth, Maria, and Patti about our understanding of and experience of “working the steps”. We consider these questions in our conversations. When … Continue reading "What does it mean to work the steps? – Episode 80"

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Jul 17, 2014
Tradition 7 – Episode 79
1:17:23

How is Al-Anon funded? Why don’t we take outside contributions? What if we all lived our lives that way? Tradition 7 states “Every group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.” Spencer and Ruth discuss these questions and others as we explore our understanding of Tradition 7. The statement of this tradition is pretty clear. Why … Continue reading "Tradition 7 – Episode 79"

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Jul 08, 2014
What does it mean to “work” the steps?
3:15

The topic of our next episode, number 79, is What does it mean to “work” the steps? Please share your experience, strength, and hope about this question by sending email to feedback@therecoveryshow.com, by calling our voice mail number 734-707-8795, or by using the voicemail button at the right. Here are some thought questions that you can … Continue reading "What does it mean to “work” the steps?"

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Jun 26, 2014
Stay or Go? – Episode 78
1:13:02

Are you in a relationship with an alcoholic or addict? Have you ever thought, “My life would be so much easier without this person?” Have you wondered how you could ever leave them? Today, we have 4 personal stories from individuals who faced that hard question, Stay or Go? Spencer starts with his experience. He … Continue reading "Stay or Go? – Episode 78"

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Jun 24, 2014
Why I came to Al-Anon. Why I stay? – Episode 77
1:09:42

Have you wondered why someone would choose Al-Anon? Or why those “long timers” keep on coming? Spencer and Amy tell their stories of coming to Al-Anon, and the reasons they're still coming years later. We used this outline to guide our conversation. What brought you to Al-Anon originally? What was your situation? Was there active … Continue reading "Why I came to Al-Anon. Why I stay? – Episode 77"

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Jun 17, 2014
Loss – Episode 76
48:57

What do you do when you lose someone close to you? How can I use the tools we have learned in the program to get through a loss? I was inspired to this topic by a tragic, accidental death in the past week. It brought me to reflect on the nature of loss, on how loss … Continue reading "Loss – Episode 76"

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Jun 10, 2014
Tradition 6 – Episode 75
1:03:37

Tradition 6 says “Our Family Groups ought never endorse, finance or lend our name to any outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary spiritual aim. Although a separate entity, we should always co-operate with Alcoholics Anonymous.” What does this mean? How do we understand and apply it? How do … Continue reading "Tradition 6 – Episode 75"

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Jun 03, 2014
Faith over Fear – Episode 74
1:26:59

Does fear keep you from acting? Can you move forward in faith instead? This week, we talk about faith over fear. Spencer and Adrienne talked about their experience with fear and faith, reflecting on these questions and others. How has fear been a factor in your life to date? In what ways did fear direct your actions (or … Continue reading "Faith over Fear – Episode 74"

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May 27, 2014
Tradition 5 – Episode 73
1:27:41

Have you wondered what Al-Anon is about? Why do we keep coming when we feel better? What does Al-Anon tell us about our alcoholic friends and relatives? These questions and more are addressed by Tradition 5. “Each Al-Anon Family Group has but one purpose: to help families of alcoholics. We do this by practicing the … Continue reading "Tradition 5 – Episode 73"

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May 15, 2014
We claim spiritual progress … – Episode 72
1:52:54

Many of us exclaimed, “What an order! I can't go through with it.” Do not be discouraged. No one among us has been able to maintain anything like perfect adherence to these principles. We are not saints. The point is, that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines. The principles we have set down … Continue reading "We claim spiritual progress … – Episode 72"

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May 06, 2014
Recovery on the Road interview with Mara – Episode 71
1:19:17

How do you take recovery with you when you travel? I talked with Mara about her recent experience traveling for several months, and how she kept her recovery program alive. Our conversation was very loosely guided by these questions: Did you think about how you were going to take your recovery program with you before … Continue reading "Recovery on the Road interview with Mara – Episode 71"

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May 01, 2014
Living with alcoholism or addiction – Episode 70
1:41:01

Do you wonder how you’re going to make it through another day with the drinking and chaos? Have you had thoughts of leaving or worse? Today we have 4 stories of living with active alcoholism or addiction. We hear personal stories from Julie, Jen, Maria, and Spencer. Each of us was given the following questions … Continue reading "Living with alcoholism or addiction – Episode 70"

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Apr 22, 2014
Tradition 4 – autonomy – Episode 69
1:12:24

Do you like some meetings better than others? Do you wish all meetings would do things the same way? Do feel you should be able to do whatever you want, regardless of others? Stick around, because today, we’re going to talk about Tradition 4, which says “Each group should be autonomous, except in matters affecting … Continue reading "Tradition 4 – autonomy – Episode 69"

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Apr 15, 2014
Forgiveness – Episode 68
1:32:06

Do you have trouble forgiving the alcoholic or addict in your life? Have you carried hurts long after the person who hurt you is gone from your life? How can we forgive without forgetting? Let's talk about forgiveness. Spencer and Erika share their experience, strength, and hope about forgiveness, and try to address these questions. … Continue reading "Forgiveness – Episode 68"

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Apr 08, 2014
Made a Decision – Episode 67
1:06:50

I’ve titled today’s episode Made a Decision. I am going to relate my the story of my journey to and through Step 3, “Made a decision to turn our will and our live over to  the care of God as we understood God.” I started from unbelief, was told to “act as if”, found willingness, … Continue reading "Made a Decision – Episode 67"

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Apr 01, 2014
Codependency – Episode 66
1:10:39

If you put your loved one’s needs ahead of your own… If you feel that others’ happiness is your responsibility… If your response to “what do you want for dinner” is “what do you want?”  … Then you’ve come to the right place, because today, we’re going to talk about codependency. Spencer took this one … Continue reading "Codependency – Episode 66"

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Mar 25, 2014
Hope – Episode 65
1:34:38

“… we shall hew from this mountain of despair a small stone of hope.” — Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr. What is hope? How do we find hope when we are overwhelmed by a mountain of despair? Spencer, Maria, and May talk about their experiences of finding hope in the midst of their times of … Continue reading "Hope – Episode 65"

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Mar 18, 2014
Detachment – a “best of” episode – Episode 64
53:11

Early on, I was told to practice “loving detachment.” I already knew how to do “middle finger detachment,” but detaching with love was a foreign concept. In this “best of” episode from February 2013, Kelli, Swetha, and Spencer share their experience, strength, and hope about this complex topic. Our topic for next week is hope. Please … Continue reading "Detachment – a “best of” episode – Episode 64"

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Mar 11, 2014
Tradition 3 – Episode 63
1:18:25

Spencer, Ruth, and Wendy talk about Tradition 3, which states “The relatives of alcoholics, when gathered together for mutual aid, may call themselves an Al-Anon Family Group, provided that, as a group, they have no other affiliation. The only requirement for membership is that there be a problem of alcoholism in a relative or friend.” … Continue reading "Tradition 3 – Episode 63"

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Mar 04, 2014
Changed Attitudes – Episode 62
1:15:11

We say “changed attitudes can aid recovery”. But how do we change our attitudes? How does it help? Spencer and Rachel talk about changed attitudes.  at·ti·tude a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a person's behavior. the orientation of an aircraft or spacecraft, relative to … Continue reading "Changed Attitudes – Episode 62"

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Feb 25, 2014
Intuition or God’s Will? – Episode 61
1:06:30

How do I know my Higher Power’s will, which I am told to pray for in Step 11? Is Intuition the same thing? Spencer does this one solo, with written participation by Ruth and Adrienne. He starts from this outline: What is intuition? in·tu·i·tion 1. the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for … Continue reading "Intuition or God’s Will? – Episode 61"

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Feb 18, 2014
Tradition 2 – Episode 60
1:26:08

Spencer and Adrienne discuss Tradition 2, which says “For our group purpose, there is but one authority – a loving god as He may express Himself in our group conscience.  Our leaders are but trusted servants – they do not govern.” Which, when you think about it, is a pretty radical statement. Have you been … Continue reading "Tradition 2 – Episode 60"

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Feb 10, 2014
Relapse – Episode 59
1:25:36

Has your loved one relapsed? Did you expect it? How did you react? Today, Spencer and Jessyca talk about Relapse. We structured our discussion around these points and questions: The disease of alcoholism and addiction is chronic, progressive, and eventually fatal. Relapse does not have to be part of the disease, but it is frequently … Continue reading "Relapse – Episode 59"

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Feb 03, 2014
Interview with Michele – Relapse preview – Episode 58
1:20:47

Michele wrote to us last week suggesting that we talk about relapse. She also offered to share her experience with us. I called her to interview her, and realized that her story was powerful and compelling. So, I changed the plan and this episode is our interview with Michele, talking about her 8 year journey … Continue reading "Interview with Michele – Relapse preview – Episode 58"

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Jan 27, 2014
Face to face meetings, why are they important? – Episode 57
1:16:26

Have you ever wondered, “Why do I need to go to meetings? Can’t I just read the literature?” Today, Spencer and Wendy talk about Face to Face meetings and why they are important. Our discussion was guided by these questions: What resources have you used / do you use in your program? Meetings Reading Al-Anon … Continue reading "Face to face meetings, why are they important? – Episode 57"

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Jan 21, 2014
Communication – Episode 56
1:38:33

Do you have trouble communicating your needs and feelings to your loved ones? Do your attempts to ask for what you want always degenerate into an argument? How have you learned to communicate better in this program? Today, Spencer, Maria and guest host Meishia talk about Communication. We started with this list of questions. How … Continue reading "Communication – Episode 56"

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Jan 13, 2014
Tradition 1 – Episode 55
1:31:34

Spencer and Maria are joined by special guest Ruth to discuss Tradition 1, which says “Our common welfare should come first; personal progress for the greatest number depends upon unity.” We are guided by these questions: What does “common welfare” mean to you? What does “unity” mean to / for you? How do you think that … Continue reading "Tradition 1 – Episode 55"

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Jan 07, 2014
Family of our Dreams – Episode 54
1:13:30

In the book, How Al-Anon Works, in the discussion of Step 1, it says, “We may never have the family of our dreams…” What is the family of your dreams? How does your family fall short of your dreams? What have you tried to do about it? How has recovery helped you to relate to … Continue reading "Family of our Dreams – Episode 54"

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Dec 30, 2013
Step 12 – Episode 53
1:23:34

Are you wondering whether you’ve had a spiritual awakening, or even what a spiritual awakening might be? How can you practice these principles in all your affairs? And what are “these principles” anyway? Are you not sure how to carry the message? Today, Linda and Spencer talk about Step 12, which states “Having had a spiritual … Continue reading "Step 12 – Episode 53"

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Dec 20, 2013
My Story – Episode 52
1:03:45

For our 1 year anniversary podcast, we asked you, our listeners, to send us your story. Several of you did, and two are featured in this episode. Unfortunately, a third suffered damage that made it unplayable, so we weren't able to use it. We hear from listeners Julia and Emily, as well as host Spencer. … Continue reading "My Story – Episode 52"

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Dec 09, 2013
First Things First – Episode 51
1:31:10

Are you often unsure what to do next? Do you struggle with indecision? Do you have too many choices? Do you feel you have no choices? Today, we talk about the slogan “First Things First.” Spencer, Maria and special guest Adrienne discuss this slogan, guided by these questions: How did you make decisions / set … Continue reading "First Things First – Episode 51"

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Nov 25, 2013
Step 11 – Episode 50
1:31:11

Have you established a routine of prayer and meditation? Do you struggle with them? Are you not sure how to know God’s will? Yes! Today, we’re going to talk about Step 11, which says “Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of … Continue reading "Step 11 – Episode 50"

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Nov 18, 2013
Getting Started in Al-Anon – Episode 49
1:29:16

Are you new to Al-Anon? Do you wonder what to expect? What you should do immediately? What are the challenges we face early on? Does Al-Anon have its own “culture”? Then you’ve come to the right place, because today, we’re going to talk about getting started in Al-Anon. Spencer and guest host Wendy talk about … Continue reading "Getting Started in Al-Anon – Episode 49"

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Nov 12, 2013
Step 10 – Inventory – Episode 48
1:32:33

Do you struggle to admit that you are “wrong” in the moment? Have you found an effective way to take a daily inventory?  How do you feel about admitting your wrongs?  What exactly does this step mean by “promptly”?  Do you feel better when you make a 10th step amends? Then stick around, because  today, … Continue reading "Step 10 – Inventory – Episode 48"

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Nov 06, 2013
Changes – Episode 47
36:14

Do you wish that things would just stay the same? Does change freak you out? Maybe you get depressed when live today isn’t the same as yesterday. If you identify with these feelings, stick around. Today, I’m going to talk about changes. There is a big change for the Recovery Show: Kelli and Swetha have … Continue reading "Changes – Episode 47"

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Oct 28, 2013
Days of Wine and Roses roundtable – Episode 46
1:30:32

We watched the movie Days of Wine and Roses with our friends Mark and Anna from the Recovered podcast. And then we sat down around a table and talked about it. If you have not seen the movie, you may want to read the plot summaries at IMDB. You can also rent it from Amazon Instant Video … Continue reading "Days of Wine and Roses roundtable – Episode 46"

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Oct 21, 2013
Chaos – Episode 45
1:48:22

Why do we (codependents) create chaos? Why do addicts create chaos? How do we find islands of serenity within chaos? You guessed it — today, we’re going to talk about chaos. Spencer, Kelli and our guest Wendy share our experience, strength and hope as prompted by these questions. What do we mean by “chaos”? How … Continue reading "Chaos – Episode 45"

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Oct 13, 2013
Setting Boundaries without Controlling – Episode 44
1:47:13

Do you struggle with setting boundaries? Does it feel like you are trying to control someone else when you set a boundary? Does your loved one accuse you of trying to control them? Do you have trouble following through with appropriate consequences when your boundaries are violated? Then today’s show is for you. We’re going … Continue reading "Setting Boundaries without Controlling – Episode 44"

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Oct 07, 2013
The 3 A’s – Awareness, Acceptance, Action – Episode 43
1:49:33

Do you think you have to fix something as soon as you become aware of it? Do you find yourself springing into action even before you know what the problem is? Is it difficult to know if you've fully accepted something as a cue to take action?  Join Spencer, Swetha, and Kelli as we talk … Continue reading "The 3 A’s – Awareness, Acceptance, Action – Episode 43"

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Oct 01, 2013
Living Rich, Full Lives in Recovery – Episode 42
1:38:53

Does a life in recovery sound limiting? Are you unsure what activities, events, etc from your previous life will fit into your new life of recovery? Does living a rich full life sound selfish when your loved ones are still suffering from addiction? What tools have your learned that allow you to fully live your … Continue reading "Living Rich, Full Lives in Recovery – Episode 42"

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Sep 23, 2013
Vulnerability – Episode 41
1:37:42

Do you fear that being vulnerable with your loved ones will be perceived as a sign of weakness? Do you tend to avoid discussing your own feelings? Do you try to cover up your flaws? Do you often take other people's inventory? Brené Brown says “vulnerability is our most accurate measure of courage”. What do … Continue reading "Vulnerability – Episode 41"

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Sep 16, 2013
Step 9, Amends – Episode 40
1:30:35

Join us as we discuss the power and potential of Step 9, which states “Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.” Spencer, Kelli, and Swetha share their experience, strength, and hope with Step 9, guided and inspired by questions such as these: Have you … Continue reading "Step 9, Amends – Episode 40"

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Sep 10, 2013
Self Care – Episode 39
1:45:26

Do you find yourself often running low on sleep? Do you miss meals because you’re too busy? Do you ever neglect your own basic needs in order to take care of someone else? Well, then this is the episode for you because today’s topic is “Self Care”! Kelli, Spencer and special guest host Jonah talk … Continue reading "Self Care – Episode 39"

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Sep 01, 2013
Sibling round table – Episode 38
50:27

Today, we’re doing another roundtable episode with siblings of alcoholics and addicts. Jane and Rick share their experience growing up with alcoholic brothers. We ask them questions such as the following:   If your sibling started drinking in the home when you were a minor, how did that affect your relationship with them growing up? … Continue reading "Sibling round table – Episode 38"

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Aug 26, 2013
Juggling vs. Balance – Episode 37
1:27:41

Do you sometimes feel that you’re trying to keep too many balls in the air at once? Do you hear people talk about a balanced life and wonder what they mean? Do you struggle with too much to do and not enough time to do it all? Then this episode is for you, as we … Continue reading "Juggling vs. Balance – Episode 37"

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Aug 19, 2013
Self Acceptance and Self Esteem – Episode 36
1:29:21

Do you often judge yourself? Do you internalize the criticism of others?  Are you afraid they are right? Are you unable to like yourself? Then listen as Swetha, Spencer, and special guest host Erika talk about self acceptance and self esteem. We share our experience, strength, and hope around questions such as these: What is … Continue reading "Self Acceptance and Self Esteem – Episode 36"

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Aug 13, 2013
Step 8 – Episode 35
1:46:04

If you are struggling with guilt and resentment over your actions in the past… If you aren’t ready to make amends to someone… If you think that you deserve an amends before you make one… You’ve come to the right place. Keep listening as we discuss STEP 8. Kelli, Spencer, and Swetha share our own … Continue reading "Step 8 – Episode 35"

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Aug 05, 2013
One Day at a Time – Episode 34
1:25:14

Do you find yourself spending too much time worrying? Do you fear the future or resent the past? How can you take care of yourself by living “One Day at a Time”? How do we understand this slogan as a tool for caring for ourselves? What does “one day at a time” mean? We find … Continue reading "One Day at a Time – Episode 34"

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Jul 28, 2013
Compassion – Episode 33
1:32:20

Do you find yourself getting easily impatient with others? Do you feel judgemental towards someone no matter how hard you try to let go? Having trouble finding compassion for the alcoholics and addicts in your life? Are you having trouble finding compassion for yourself? Listen as Swetha, Kelli, and Spencer talk about their understanding of … Continue reading "Compassion – Episode 33"

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Jul 21, 2013
Sponsorship Round Table – Episode 32
1:24:43

If you just want to do recovery all by yourself… If having a sponsor sounds frightening… If you’d like to have a sponsor, but you don’t know how to get one… Then keep listening as hosts Mark, of Recovered, and Kelli, of The Recovery Show, lead a joint round table about sponsorship. In this conversation … Continue reading "Sponsorship Round Table – Episode 32"

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Jul 16, 2013
Step 7 – Episode 31
1:30:12

What is humility? How do we ask God to remove our shortcomings? Are they really defects? Listen as Spencer, Swetha, and Kelli, back together at last, talk about Step 7, Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. We explore our understandings of the word “humbly”. It can mean that we accept ourselves as we are, … Continue reading "Step 7 – Episode 31"

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Jul 09, 2013
Program in the workplace – Episode 30
1:16:50

How do you use your program in the workplace? Do you have a hard time setting boundaries at work? Do you find yourself staying late even though it affects your self-care? Can you deal effectively with your difficult co-workers? Swetha, Kelli, and Mary share their experiences with these questions and others. Anne H. and Spencer … Continue reading "Program in the workplace – Episode 30"

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Jul 01, 2013
Progress, not Perfection – Episode 29
1:18:57

Today, we’re going to talk about progress, not perfection. Ever feel like no matter how much you try, you fall short? Ever just want to give up because perfection just seems too hard to achieve, so why bother? Ever feel like the strides you do take forward just aren’t good enough? Join Kelli, Swetha, and … Continue reading "Progress, not Perfection – Episode 29"

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Jun 24, 2013
Step 6 – Episode 28
1:17:11

Step 6 says “[We] were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.” What are “defects of character.” What does “entirely ready” mean? How do we become entirely ready? What if we like some of our defects? How can we become ready to have them removed? Spencer, Kelli, and special guest host … Continue reading "Step 6 – Episode 28"

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Jun 16, 2013
Anonymity – Episode 27
1:11:57

Our 12th Tradition says “Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions…” Why is anonymity important? What does it mean to be anonymous? Does it mean that we actively hide our identity? Is it about only sharing our first name (and initial?) Or is there something deeper here? What can we share about ourselves? … Continue reading "Anonymity – Episode 27"

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Jun 09, 2013
Our First Meetings – Episode 26
1:27:40

What it was like when we first came to Al-Anon? What do we remember about our first meeting? Did it “click” right away or did it take some time? When did we realize that the program was right for us? How did that happen? Spencer, Kelli, and Swetha, along with 7 other Al-Anon members talk … Continue reading "Our First Meetings – Episode 26"

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Jun 03, 2013
Sponsorship – Episode 25
1:14:12

At my Home group meeting, we say “in this program, we encourage sponsorship.” What does that mean? What is a sponsor? Why would you want one? How can a sponsor help you? How do you get a sponsor? What is it like to be a sponsor? How does being a sponsor help your program? Spencer, … Continue reading "Sponsorship – Episode 25"

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May 27, 2013
This Too Shall Pass – Episode 24
47:38

Have you ever been caught up in a situation? Have you ever found yourself easily dismissing happy situations? Have you ever found yourself feeling hopeless about a difficult situation? Do you find yourself wondering if this too shall pass? Kelli, Swetha and guest host Patrick talk about it. We often think of “this too shall … Continue reading "This Too Shall Pass – Episode 24"

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May 21, 2013
Step 5 – Confession? – Episode 23
1:14:07

Step 5 says that we “Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs”. Why is this important? What were our fears and concerns? What was our experience? Join Spencer, Kelli and Swetha for a discussion of this step. A common reaction to approaching Step 5 for the … Continue reading "Step 5 – Confession? – Episode 23"

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May 13, 2013
Parents roundtable – Episode 22
1:09:50

In this episode, we are talking with parents who have found support and recovery. Some have children who are still actively drinking or drugging, while some of their children have found recovery, and some struggle with mental illness. Their children may be teens or adults. They will share their experience, strength, and hope with us … Continue reading "Parents roundtable – Episode 22"

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May 03, 2013
Easy Does It – Episode 21
1:09:16

“Easy does it.” What does this slogan say to you? Can you use it to make your life easier? Swetha, Spencer, and special guest Dayana talk about this slogan. This slogan can remind us that complicated solutions are often forced, or that it’s time to pause and take it easy for a moment, to wait … Continue reading "Easy Does It – Episode 21"

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Apr 29, 2013
Forcing Solutions – Episode 20
1:19:35

“… our thinking becomes distorted by trying to force solutions.” What does it mean to force a solution? When do we try to force solutions? How do we try to force solutions? We discuss these questions and others, sharing our experience, strength and hope.

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Apr 22, 2013
Gratitude – Episode 19
1:15:17

How do we feel gratitude? Can gratitude help get you through a hard time? Is it something you can choose? Does finding gratitude make your problems go away? What is an “Attitude of Gratitude”? Special guest hosts Kate and Patrick join Swetha and Spencer to talk about these questions, and about their experience finding gratitude, … Continue reading "Gratitude – Episode 19"

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Apr 15, 2013
Step 4 – doing the inventory – Episode 18
1:27:52

Step 4 states “[We] took a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.” What were our first impressions? What did we fear? What did we find? What was our experience of working Step 4? How has it enhanced our lives? Kelli, Erika, and Spencer talk about our experience, strength, and hope around Step 4. Kelli … Continue reading "Step 4 – doing the inventory – Episode 18"

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Apr 07, 2013
Trusting the process – Episode 17
1:16:26

What does it mean to “trust the process?” What is “the process?” Is it meetings? The Steps? Working with a sponsor? Reading the literature? Swetha, Spencer, and special guest Anne H share our experience, strength, and hope on these questions and others. We welcome special guest Anne H to the podcast. At the beginning, the … Continue reading "Trusting the process – Episode 17"

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Mar 31, 2013
Blame – Episode 16
1:06:18

We talk about blame — how we blame others, how we take blame on ourselves and how we can move past blaming. We have learned that blaming is often a result of black and white thinking, and that we can have healthier relationships when we can look at our part in a conflict realistically, rather … Continue reading "Blame – Episode 16"

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Mar 25, 2013
Asking for Help – Episode 15
1:15:11

We talk about asking for help. When we came in, we did not have experience asking for help in a healthy way. We didn’t want to impose on people we barely knew, we still thought we could do it ourselves. How did we come to understand that reaching out was not weakness, that others gained … Continue reading "Asking for Help – Episode 15"

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Mar 18, 2013
Step 3: turning it over – Episode 14
1:04:33

Step 3, Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God. How do we understand and use it in our lives?

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Mar 11, 2013
Shame – Episode 13
1:08:55

Spencer, Swetha, and guest host Nic talk about shame – what it is, how we feel it, how we used to deal with it, and how we deal with it in recovery. We start by looking at the difference between shame and guilt. When we do something wrong, we feel guilt, and we can deal … Continue reading "Shame – Episode 13"

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Mar 03, 2013
Detachment – Episode 12
53:00

Kelli hosts Swetha and Spencer as they share their experience, strength, and hope about detachment. Kelli opens with a reading that links detachment to self-acceptance and self-care. The first time that Spencer heard about detachment was when his uncle told him, “I hear that you’re supposed to ‘detach with love’”. Spencer had NO idea what … Continue reading "Detachment – Episode 12"

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Feb 24, 2013
Enabling – Episode 11
58:21

Swetha, Spencer, and Kelli talk about enabling. We start by defining our understanding of the term, enabling. Early on, Swetha wondered whether anything nice she did for someone was enabling. Her sponsor helped her by giving her this definition: “getting between someone and the consequences of their choices or actions.” Kelli also had this confusion. … Continue reading "Enabling – Episode 11"

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Feb 18, 2013