Therapy Chat

By Laura Reagan, LCSW-C

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Tsung Han Li
 Mar 15, 2019
My favorite podcast. I learned so much about trauma in this podcast.

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Host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C, Integrative Trauma Psychotherapist, Clinical Supervisor, Consultant and Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator, interviews therapista and other experts about perfectionism, worthiness, authenticity, self care, trauma, attachment, parenting, relationships, mindfulness and holistic psychotherapy methods. Laura brings you interesting discussions about our emotional experience of being human. You'll feel like a fly on the wall listening to Laura share her thoughts or discuss these topics with fellow professionals. Listen in and learn more about yourself!

Episode Date
175: Yoga Therapy In Clinical Practice
53:46

Thank you to this episode's sponsor, TherapyNotes. Get a 2-month free trial of TherapyNotes by going to www.TherapyNotes.com and using the promo code TherapyChat. 

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! In today's episode, host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C speaks to Alyce Wellons, LCSW about yoga therapy in clinical practice.  

Alyce Wellons, LCSW is a licensed clinical social worker since 1999 in the State of Georgia and has maintained a private psychotherapy, supervision and consultation practice for over 19 years in the Virginia Highlands area of Atlanta, Georgia. 

Alyce see's individuals and couples for short or long term psychotherapy. During the consultation and assessment phase, you will meet and discuss what is bringing you in, your goals for therapy, and work together to work out a plan to move forward. She has experience and training in many different modalities and areas of psychotherapy.  Using these different influences along with your goals for therapy, you will begin to move forward.  

 Her areas of expertise are addiction/recovery/relapse, PTSD, trauma and dissociation, and attachment-related work with individuals and couples. Alyce also uses mindfulness, meditation and yoga-based education and techniques to help people learn to deal with stress related to daily life, relationships, recovery, depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues.   

Resources 

Are you a therapist needing support to sharpen your clinical skills in working with trauma survivors? Want to work with Laura for clinical consultation? Get in touch via laura@bahealing.com. Or if you're interested in joining an upcoming online or in person clinical consultation group, go here to sign up on the interest list! 

Please let us know what you'd like to learn more from Laura by completing this short survey! 

Want a cool Therapy Chat t-shirt, sticker or mug? Find them here: https://www.teepublic.com/user/therapychat 

Please consider supporting Therapy Chat by becoming a member on Patreon! Just $1 a month would make a huge impact to keep Therapy Chat going strong! To learn more head to - https://patreon.com/TherapyChat where members get special perks and swag too! 

Leave me a message via Speakpipe by going to https://therapychatpodcast.com and clicking on the green Speakpipe button. 

Thank you for listening to Therapy Chat! Please be sure to go to iTunes and leave a rating and review, subscribe and download episodes. You can also download the Therapy Chat app on iTunes by clicking here. 

Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio 

Mar 22, 2019
174: Sustainable Health
38:41

Thank you to this episode's sponsor, TherapyNotes. Get a 2-month free trial of TherapyNotes by going to www.TherapyNotes.com and using the promo code TherapyChat. 

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! In today's episode, host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C interviews Susan L. Roberts, M. Div, OTR-L about her work as an occupational therapist and how she incorporates Traditional Chinese Medicine and other ancient methods into her practice. Laura and Susan had a fascinating discussion which will be continued soon in Part 2. Audience participation is encouraged - please send a question for Laura to include in her second conversation and you may win a free audiobook of Susan's latest book! Details below. 

Susan L. Roberts, author, lecturer, nutritionist, and occupational therapist combines four decades of practice working with people of all ages using manual therapies, sensory integration, nutrition, and healing rituals. Her latest book, Sustainable Health: Simple Habits to Transform Your Life, integrates all of these areas to help people take charge of their health and happiness using the five occupations of eating, playing, sleeping, working, and loving to radically transform health. 

Susan studied occupational therapy at Boston University, theology at Harvard, nutrition at the Institute of Integrative Nutrition, and Five Element Theory of Traditional Chinese Medicine at the Tao of Healing Center in New York City. She has worked in psychiatric hospitals, physical rehabilitation centers, skilled nursing facilities, schools, and home care. Her pediatric clinic, Changes Occupational Therapy, in Tucson, AZ, used play as the focus for healing. 

Susan has taught occupational therapy theory and practice at Eastern Kentucky University and New York Institute of Technology. She has written: Biomechanics: Problem Solving for Occupational Therapy; Kinesiology: Movement in the Context of Activity; My Kid Eats Everything: A Journey from Picky to Adventurous Eating; and The Food Explorers Passport. 

Resources 

Thank you to This Jungian Life Podcast for sponsoring today's episode! Listen at: http://www.thisjungianlife.com

Susan is giving away a free audiobook of her newest book, Sustainable Health. To enter for a chance to win, e-mail Laura at therapychat.podcast@gmail.com or use Speakpipe via www.therapychatpodcast.com to contribute a question for Laura to ask Susan in part 2 of this conversation by March 31, 2019 at 11:59 pm. Laura will randomly select one winner to receive a free audiobook, courtesy of Susan Roberts! 

Are you a therapist needing support to sharpen your clinical skills in working with trauma survivors? Want to work with Laura for clinical consultation? Get in touch via laura@bahealing.com. Or if you're interested in joining an upcoming online or in person clinical consultation group, go here to sign up on the interest list! 

Please let us know what you'd like to learn more from Laura by completing this short survey! 

Want a cool Therapy Chat t-shirt, sticker or mug? Find them here: https://www.teepublic.com/user/therapychat 

Please consider supporting Therapy Chat by becoming a member on Patreon! Just $1 a month would make a huge impact to keep Therapy Chat going strong! To learn more head to - https://patreon.com/TherapyChat where members get special perks and swag too! 

Leave me a message via Speakpipe by going to https://therapychatpodcast.com and clicking on the green Speakpipe button. 

Thank you for listening to Therapy Chat! Please be sure to go to iTunes and leave a rating and review, subscribe and download episodes. You can also download the Therapy Chat app on iTunes by clicking here. 

Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio 

Mar 15, 2019
173: Lessons Of Grief
56:04

Thank you to this episode's sponsor, TherapyNotes. Get a 2-month free trial of TherapyNotes by going to www.TherapyNotes.com and using the promo code TherapyChat. 

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! In today's episode, host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C interviews grief counselor, author and speaker Isabel Stenzel Byrnes, LCSW, MPH about death and grief. Isabel shares her unique perspective on grief as someone who has survived a lifetime of living with a terminal chronic illness, and the loss of many important people in her life. This episode raises thought-provoking questions about acceptance, our cultural view of death in the West, and how we handle unpleasant emotions. 

Isabel is a licensed clinical social worker and bereavement counselor at Mission Hospice & Home Care, where she counsels children, teens and adults who have lost a loved one. She also leads writing through loss groups for those who are grieving, among other support groups. Isabel has experienced significant losses of her own and has lived with serious illness all of her life.  

As an author, documentarian, patient advocate and public speaker, Isabel has lectured around the country on topics such as living well with illness, grief and loss, end-of-life issues and organ donation, including a TEDx Stanford talk in 2014. 

Resources 

Thank you to This Jungian Life Podcast for sponsoring today's episode! Listen at: http://www.thisjungianlife.com

Isabel's website: http://www.thepoweroftwomovie.com/home/ 

Mission Hospice website: http://missionhospice.org 

Watch Isabel's TEDx talk, "The Art of Saying Goodbye" here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dkffpibi-Dc  

Dr. Katherine Shear's Center for Complicated Grief at Columbia University: https://complicatedgrief.columbia.edu/about-us/our-team/ 

Are you a therapist needing support to sharpen your clinical skills in working with trauma survivors? Want to work with Laura for clinical consultation? Get in touch via laura@bahealing.com. Or if you're interested in joining an upcoming online or in person clinical consultation group, go here to sign up on the interest list! 

Please let us know what you'd like to learn more from Laura by completing this short survey! 

Want a cool Therapy Chat t-shirt, sticker or mug? Find them here: https://www.teepublic.com/user/therapychat 

Please consider supporting Therapy Chat by becoming a member on Patreon! Just $1 a month would make a huge impact to keep Therapy Chat going strong! To learn more head to - https://patreon.com/TherapyChat where members get special perks and swag too! 

Leave me a message via Speakpipe by going to https://therapychatpodcast.com and clicking on the green Speakpipe button. 

Thank you for listening to Therapy Chat! Please be sure to go to iTunes and leave a rating and review, subscribe and download episodes. You can also download the Therapy Chat app on iTunes by clicking here. 

Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio 

Mar 08, 2019
172: Attachment Needs In Children + Adults
53:35

Thank you to this episode's sponsor, TherapyNotes. Get a 2-month free trial of TherapyNotes by going to www.TherapyNotes.com and using the promo code TherapyChat. 

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! Today host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C speaks to Dr. Daniel P. Brown about attachment needs in children and adults.  

Dr. Brown received his undergraduate degree at the University of Massachusetts, Amherst MA in molecular biology and his Ph.D. in Religion & Psychological Studies at the University of Chicago. He received a Danforth Fellowship given for promise in teaching excellence, and as part of that fellowship received specialized training in how to teach. While in graduate school he was particularly interested in interdisciplinary studies. At the University of Chicago he worked in religion & psychological studies, the history of religions, anthropology, human development and clinical psychology. Erika Fromm, Ph.D. a noted hypnoanalyst, served as his primary clinical mentor–a relationship that spanned 35 years.  

Dr. Brown has taught hypnotherapy for 38 years. His books on hypnosis include a standard textbook on clinical hypnosis, Hypnotherapy and Hypnoanalysis (with E. Fromm), Hypnosis and Behavioral Medicine (with E. Fromm), and Creative Mastery in Hypnosis and Hypnoanalysis, on the permissive style of hypnotherapy. While in graduate school in Chicago he commuted to the University of Wisconsin, Madison for part time studies in the Buddhist studies program, where he learned Tibetan, Buddhist Sanskrit, and Pali. 

Resources 

Thank you to This Jungian Life Podcast for sponsoring today's episode! Listen at: http://www.thisjungianlife.com

For a limited time, until March 30, 2019, receive 10% off of Dan's course using promo code: THERAPYCHAT in the section when talking about Dan Brown.

Please let us know what you'd like to learn more from Laura by completing this short survey! 

Are you a therapist needing support to sharpen your clinical skills in working with trauma survivors? Want to work with Laura for clinical consultation? Get in touch via laura@bahealing.com. Or if you're interested in joining an upcoming online or in person clinical consultation group, go here to sign up on the interest list! 

Want a cool Therapy Chat t-shirt, sticker or mug? Find them here: https://www.teepublic.com/user/therapychat 

Please consider supporting Therapy Chat by becoming a member on Patreon! Just $1 a month would make a huge impact to keep Therapy Chat going strong! To learn more head to - https://patreon.com/TherapyChat where members get special perks and swag too! 

Leave me a message via Speakpipe by going to https://therapychatpodcast.com and clicking on the green Speakpipe button. 

Thank you for listening to Therapy Chat! Please be sure to go to iTunes and leave a rating and review, subscribe and download episodes. You can also download the Therapy Chat app on iTunes by clicking here. 

Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio 

Mar 01, 2019
171: Deeper Discussion Of Trauma Triggers
45:43

Thank you to this episode's sponsor, TherapyNotes. Get a 2-month free trial of TherapyNotes by going to www.TherapyNotes.com and using the promo code TherapyChat. 

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! Today host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C flies solo to have a deeper discussion of trauma triggers 

In this week's episode, host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C discusses a topic which comes up frequently on Therapy Chat: trauma triggers. She provides a more in-depth discussion than has happened in past episodes, using examples of how trauma triggers may show up for us and how clinicians and non-professionals can conceptualize these symptoms through the lens of trauma. She also offers recommendations for clinicians and non-professionals for how to address these triggers when they arise. 

Resources 

To learn more about Tara Brach's RAIN approach: https://www.tarabrach.com/rain/ 

Kristin Neff's self-compassion guided meditations: https://self-compassion.org/category/exercises/#guided-meditations 

Please let us know what you'd like to learn more from Laura by completing this short survey! 

Are you a therapist needing support to sharpen your clinical skills in working with trauma survivors? Want to work with Laura for clinical consultation? Get in touch via laura@bahealing.com. Or if you're interested in joining an upcoming online or in person clinical consultation group, go here to sign up on the interest list! 

Want a cool Therapy Chat t-shirt, sticker or mug? Find them here: https://www.teepublic.com/user/therapychat 

Please consider supporting Therapy Chat by becoming a member on Patreon! Just $1 a month would make a huge impact to keep Therapy Chat going strong! To learn more head to - https://patreon.com/TherapyChat where members get special perks and swag too! 

Leave me a message via Speakpipe by going to https://therapychatpodcast.com and clicking on the green Speakpipe button. 

Thank you for listening to Therapy Chat! Please be sure to go to iTunes and leave a rating and review, subscribe and download episodes. You can also download the Therapy Chat app on iTunes by clicking here. 

Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio 

Feb 22, 2019
170: Accessing Clinical Intuition
01:00:12

Thank you to this episode's sponsor, TherapyNotes. Get a 2-month free trial of TherapyNotes by going to www.TherapyNotes.com and using the promo code TherapyChat. 

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! Today host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C speaks to Terry Marks-Tarlow, Ph.D about accessing clinical intuition. 

Terry Marks-Tarlow, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist who lives in Topanga and maintains a private practice in Santa Monica, California. Terry works with adults, adolescents and couples. She is Core Faculty of the Insight Center in Los Angeles. She is a Research Associate at the Institute of Fractal Research in Kassel, Germany, and sits on the Advisory Board of the California Dance Institute.  

Terry has been practicing and teaching yoga for over 30 years. During psychotherapy, she taps into the embodied wisdom available from yoga plus her dance background. Terry loves art and draws profusely, illustrating many of her own books. Generally, she strives towards a balanced life, aiming to embody her own values in order to "walk the talk." Dr. Marks-Tarlow is available for psychotherapy, talks, and trainings through her website. 

Resources 

Please let us know what you'd like to learn more about from Laura by completing this short survey! 

Are you a therapist needing support to sharpen your clinical skills in working with trauma survivors? Want to work with Laura for clinical consultation? Get in touch via laura@bahealing.com. Or if you're interested in joining an upcoming online or in person clinical consultation group, go here to sign up on the interest list! 

Want a cool Therapy Chat t-shirt, sticker or mug? Find them here: https://www.teepublic.com/user/therapychat 

Please consider supporting Therapy Chat by becoming a member on Patreon! Just $1 a month would make a huge impact to keep Therapy Chat going strong! To learn more head to - https://patreon.com/TherapyChat where members get special perks and swag too! 

Leave me a message via Speakpipe by going to https://therapychatpodcast.com and clicking on the green Speakpipe button. 

Thank you for listening to Therapy Chat! Please be sure to go to iTunes and leave a rating and review, subscribe and download episodes. You can also download the Therapy Chat app on iTunes by clicking here. 

Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio 

Feb 15, 2019
169: What Parents Need To Know About Play Therapy
37:47

Thank you to this episode's sponsor, TherapyNotes. Get a 2-month free trial of TherapyNotes by going to www.TherapyNotes.com and using the promo code TherapyChat. 

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! Today host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C speaks to Dr. Rachel Altvater about what parents need to know about play therapy.  

Dr. Rachel Altvater is a Licensed Psychologist in Maryland, Washington, D.C., and Virginia, Registered Play Therapist–Supervisor, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. She is the owner of Creative Psychological Health Services, a psychologist at Gil Institute for Trauma Recovery and Education, an affiliate faculty member at Loyola University Maryland, the Continuing Education Director of Starbright Training Institute, and a board member of The MD/DC Association for Play Therapy.  

Dr. Altvater published two articles in the International Journal of Play Therapy on her research of technology use in play therapy and is a contributing author in Integrating Expressive Arts into Counseling Practice: Theory-Based Interventions (2nd ed.) and Integrating Technology in Modern Therapies: A Clinician’s Guide to Developments and Interventions. She is the recipient of the 2018 Distinguished Alumna of the Year from The Chicago School of Professional Psychology, Washington, D.C. Campus, and the 2018 Outstanding Play Therapy Research Award from the Maryland/DC Association for Play Therapy. 

Resources 

Please let us know what you'd like to learn more about from Laura by completing this short survey! 

Are you a therapist needing support to sharpen your clinical skills in working with trauma survivors? Want to work with Laura for clinical consultation? Get in touch via laura@bahealing.com. Or if you're interested in joining an upcoming online or in person clinical consultation group, go here to sign up on the interest list! 

Want a cool Therapy Chat t-shirt, sticker or mug? Find them here: https://www.teepublic.com/user/therapychat 

Please consider supporting Therapy Chat by becoming a member on Patreon! Just $1 a month would make a huge impact to keep Therapy Chat going strong! To learn more head to - https://patreon.com/TherapyChat where members get special perks and swag too! 

Leave me a message via Speakpipe by going to https://therapychatpodcast.com and clicking on the green Speakpipe button. 

Thank you for listening to Therapy Chat! Please be sure to go to iTunes and leave a rating and review, subscribe and download episodes. You can also download the Therapy Chat app on iTunes by clicking here. 

Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio 

Feb 08, 2019
168: Transpersonal Therapy, Shamanism + Trauma
38:30

Thank you to this episode's sponsor, TherapyNotes. Get a 2 month free trial of TherapyNotes by going to www.TherapyNotes.com and using the promo code TherapyChat. 

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! Today host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C speaks to Irene Siegel, Ph.D., LCSW about Transpersonal Therapy, Shamanism and Trauma.  

Irene Siegel, Ph.D., LCSW is co-director of Center Point in Huntington N.Y. where she conducts her integrative psychotherapy practice and teaches meditation and healing. She is an approved EMDR consultant and teacher. She studied the ancient healing arts of shamanism throughout North and South America, and teaches the integration of Western psychotherapy and science with ancient healing arts as depicted in her recently published book The Sacred Path of the Therapist: Modern Healing, Ancient Wisdom, and Client Transformation.  

As a teacher and lecturer, she has broken through traditional barriers presenting at numerous conferences, introducing the innovative concept of integrating shamanism, mindful awareness, and resonance into psychotherapy     

Resources 

Dr. Irene Siegel's website: http://www.drirenesiegel.com/ 

Please let us know what you'd like to learn more about from Laura by completing this short survey! 

Are you a therapist needing support to sharpen your clinical skills in working with trauma survivors? Want to work with Laura for clinical consultation? Get in touch via laura@bahealing.com. Or if you're interested in joining an upcoming online or in person clinical consultation group, go here to sign up on the interest list! 

Want a cool Therapy Chat t-shirt, sticker or mug? Find them here: https://www.teepublic.com/user/therapychat 

Please consider supporting Therapy Chat by becoming a member on Patreon! Just $1 a month would make a huge impact to keep Therapy Chat going strong! To learn more head to - https://patreon.com/TherapyChat where members get special perks and swag too! 

Leave me a message via Speakpipe by going to https://therapychatpodcast.com and clicking on the green Speakpipe button. 

Thank you for listening to Therapy Chat! Please be sure to go to iTunes and leave a rating and review, subscribe and download episodes. You can also download the Therapy Chat app on iTunes by clicking here. 

Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio 

Feb 01, 2019
167: Discussion of Trauma Therapy Process & Listener Question
47:31

Thank you to this episode's sponsor, TherapyNotes. Get a 2 month free trial of TherapyNotes by going to www.TherapyNotes.com and using the promo code TherapyChat.

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! Today host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C flies solo to look back at episode 165 with Gretchen Schmelzer and reevaluates the trauma therapy process and also answering a listeners question.

Resources

Click to listen to Episode 165 with Gretchen Schmelzer 

Journey Through Trauma by Gretchen Schmelzer: https://amzn.to/2sIt6J5 (affiliate link)

Trauma & Recovery book by Judith Herman: https://amzn.to/2Msbt9q (affiliate link)

Janina Fisher's Psychoeducational Aids for Psychological Trauma Flip Chart: https://janinafisher.com/flip-chart

Want a cool Therapy Chat t-shirt, sticker or mug? Find them here: https://www.teepublic.com/user/therapychat

Please consider supporting Therapy Chat by becoming a member on Patreon! Just $1 a month would make a huge impact to keep Therapy Chat going strong! To learn more head to - https://patreon.com/TherapyChat where members get special perks and swag too!

Leave me a message via Speakpipe by going to https://therapychatpodcast.com and clicking on the green Speakpipe button.

Thank you for listening to Therapy Chat! Please be sure to go to iTunes and leave a rating and review, subscribe and download episodes. You can also download the Therapy Chat app on iTunes by clicking here.

Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio

Jan 25, 2019
166: The Impact Of Bullying
56:05

Thank you to this episode's sponsor, TherapyNotes. Get a 2 month free trial of TherapyNotes by going to www.TherapyNotes.com and using the promo code TherapyChat.

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! Today host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C speaks to Danielle Matthew about the impacts of bullying.

Danielle Matthew is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who treats bully victims and their families and educates schools, medical professionals and the community about the bullying epidemic.

With over 20 years of experience, Danielle authored Amazon Parenting Best-Seller, The Empowered Child: How to Help Your Child Cope, Communicate, and Conquer Bullying, and is the Director of The Empowerment Space Bullying Therapy Program in Los Angeles. Featured in Huffington Post, Washington Post and TODAY.com, Danielle has also appeared on Fox, ABC and CBS Morning Shows and Mom Talk Radio.

Resources

dmatthew@empowerment.space

https://www.amazon.com/Empowered-Child-Communicate-Conquer-Bullying-ebook/dp/B076H95DTX 

Phone: 818-267-4242

Skype: dmatthew_24

Want a cool Therapy Chat t-shirt, sticker or mug? Find them here: https://www.teepublic.com/user/therapychat

Please consider supporting Therapy Chat by becoming a member on Patreon! Just $1 a month would make a huge impact to keep Therapy Chat going strong! To learn more head to - https://patreon.com/TherapyChat where members get special perks and swag too!

Leave me a message via Speakpipe by going to https://therapychatpodcast.com and clicking on the green Speakpipe button.

Thank you for listening to Therapy Chat! Please be sure to go to iTunes and leave a rating and review, subscribe and download episodes. You can also download the Therapy Chat app on iTunes by clicking here.

Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio

Jan 18, 2019
165: The Process Of Trauma Therapy
43:10

Thank you to this episode's sponsor, TherapyNotes. Get a 2 month free trial of TherapyNotes by going to www.TherapyNotes.com and using the promo code TherapyChat.

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! Today host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C speaks to Gretchen Schmelzer, PhD about her new book Journey Through Trauma: A Trail Guide to the 5-Phase Cycle of Healing Repeated Trauma.

Gretchen Schmelzer, PhD is a licensed psychologist, trained as a Harvard Medical School Fellow. She is a trauma survivor, who has worked for twenty-five years with the complex issues of trauma, integration and behavior change across every level of system from individuals, to groups, to large systems and countries, including her role as the expert consultant Frontline for their documentary on Alaskan survivors of priest sexual abuse (aired April 19, 2011).

She leads programs using leadership development and trauma-informed emotional intelligence to help communities worldwide engage in the difficult public health issues confronting them such as AIDS and Domestic Violence. She is working on a book on long-term trauma and you can read more from Gretchen at her website, Emotional Geographic.

Resources

http://gretchenschmelzer.com

Want a cool Therapy Chat t-shirt, sticker or mug? Find them here: https://www.teepublic.com/user/therapychat

Please consider supporting Therapy Chat by becoming a member on Patreon! Just $1 a month would make a huge impact to keep Therapy Chat going strong! To learn more head to - https://patreon.com/TherapyChat where members get special perks and swag too!

Leave me a message via Speakpipe by going to https://therapychatpodcast.com and clicking on the green Speakpipe button.

Thank you for listening to Therapy Chat! Please be sure to go to iTunes and leave a rating and review, subscribe and download episodes. You can also download the Therapy Chat app on iTunes by clicking here.

Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio

Jan 11, 2019
164: New Year's Greeting
28:54

Thank you to this episode's sponsor, TherapyNotes. Get a 2 month free trial of TherapyNotes by going to www.TherapyNotes.com and using the promo code TherapyChat.

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! Today is a solo episode where host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C discusses some of the highlights of 2018 and intentions and plans for 2019. She talks about topics that will be heard on Therapy Chat in the coming year and asks listeners for input on upcoming topics as well as courses and webinars she is planning to create in 2019. Laura also provides an update on her own health journey which she has shared with listeners in recent episodes.

Click here to read the article in Psychotherapy Networker about Therapy Chat!

Click here to read the Bustle article that included Therapy Chat!

Four Pillars book: https://www.amazon.com/Four-Pillar-Plan-Longer-Healthier/dp/0241303559

Click here to contribute to the survey on what courses/webinars you'd like me to make in 2019: 

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Thank you for supporting Therapy Chat!

Resources

Please consider supporting Therapy Chat by becoming a member on Patreon! Just $1 a month would make a huge impact to keep Therapy Chat going strong! To learn more head to - https://patreon.com/TherapyChat where members get special perks and swag too!

Leave me a message via Speakpipe by going to https://therapychatpodcast.com and clicking on the green Speakpipe button.

Thank you for listening to Therapy Chat! Please be sure to go to iTunes and leave a rating and review, subscribe and download episodes. You can also download the Therapy Chat app on iTunes by clicking here.

Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio

Jan 04, 2019
163: Surviving The Holidays with Sharon Martin, LCSW
42:38

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! In today’s episode, Laura welcomes back Sharon Martin, LCSW to speak about surviving the holidays. 

Sharon is a licensed therapist, counselor, and mental health and wellness writer based in San Jose, CA. She has spent 20 years providing counseling, therapy, and clinical supervision.

Sharon has built a specialized private practice that reflects her belief that you matter, and you can love yourself, heal, be empowered, speak your truth, and create a life you love. Listen for Sharon’s incredible insights on life, well-being and much more!

Resources

https://livewellwithsharonmartin.com/handling-the-holidays-workbook/

https://livewellwithsharonmartin.com

Leave me a message via Speakpipe by going to https://therapychatpodcast.com and clicking on the green Speakpipe button.

Please consider supporting Therapy Chat by becoming a member on Patreon! Just $1 a month would make a huge impact to keep Therapy Chat going strong! To learn more: https://patreon.com/TherapyChat - members get special perks and swag too!

Thank you for listening to Therapy Chat! Please be sure to go to iTunes and leave a rating and review, subscribe and download episodes. You can also download the Therapy Chat app on iTunes by clicking here.

Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio

Dec 21, 2018
Bonus Episode: A Note from Laura
02:37

This week, host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C recorded a short note for listeners about what is coming up for the rest of the month of December, 2018.

Find past and future episodes of Therapy Chat at: www.therapychatpod.com

Contact Laura via Speakpipe to let her know what you think of Therapy Chat! Do you have a guest you'd like her to interview? A question you'd like her to answer on the show? Get in touch by going to the website above and leaving a message using the Speakpipe button.

Support Therapy Chat on Patreon here: www.patreon.com/therapychat 

Dec 13, 2018
162: Listener Question + Resources For Connecting With Emotion
33:43

Welcome to episode 162 of the Therapy Chat Podcast. This week Laura is flying solo to answer a listeners question connecting with emotions that we have previously suppressed and not allowed to come to the surface. 

Resources:

Get a free month and 1 free book while supporting Therapy Chat: www.audibletrial.com/therapychat
 
Kristin Neff's website: www.selfcompassion.org
 
 
Christopher Germer's Mindful Self Compassion website: www.centerformsc.org
 
 
Tara Brach's website: www.tarabrach.com/compassion1
 
Hilary Jacobs Hendel's website: https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/
 
 
Our first interview: Episode 97
 
Our second interview: Episode 134
 
Dr. Jonice Webb's website: https://drjonicewebb.com/
 
 
Our first interview: Episode 25
 
Our second interview: Episode 111
 
The Adverse Childhood Experiences Study questions: https://acestoohigh.com/got-your-ace-score/
 
David Treleaven's website: https://www.davidtreleaven.com/
 
 
Our interview: Episode 128
 
Deirdre Fay's website: https://dfay.com/
 
our interview: Episode 145

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Dec 07, 2018
161: Mind, Body + Spirit When Living With Chronic Illness
01:05:40

Welcome to episode 161 of the Therapy Chat Podcast. This week is my conversation in person with Kyle Davies about mind, body and spirit when living with chronic illness.

Kyle Davies is a wellbeing and mindset coach, author and trainer. He specializes in helping individuals and groups to optimise their energy and wellbeing, combat stress and stress related symptoms, improve mental clarity and performance, and develop inner resilience and flow.

Kyle originally qualified as a Chartered Occupational Psychologist and  is the creator of Energy-Flow Coaching™. He spent a chunk of his career pioneering a new approach for treating chronic fatigue and pain, anxiety, depression and other stress related symptoms – which is reflected in the recently published book, The Intelligent Body.

Kyle’s work is about developing people from the inside out. He doesn’t try to get people to learn loads of mental techniques that they quickly forget, or to try and fix their environment because situations and environments often can’t be changed. Rather he helps people to gain a better and deeper understanding of themselves so they can tap into their own resilience, flow and potentials, helping them be more effective at work, at home, and in life.

Kyle facilitates transformations for those who are stuck, overwhelmed, lost or stressed and empowers them to experience greater personal freedom and higher consciousness. His work offers a new understanding of the relationship between hidden stress in the body, emotional energy, and chronic health challenges.

Resources:

http://www.energyflowcoaching.com

http://kyledavies.net

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Nov 30, 2018
160: Your Emotions + Your Health
01:34:57

Welcome to episode 160 of the Therapy Chat Podcast. This week is a re-run of episode 110 and 115 with Kyle Davies in anticipation of the new interview with Kyle that is coming in episode 160. 

Kyle Davies is a wellbeing and mindset coach, author and trainer. He specializes in helping individuals and groups to optimise their energy and wellbeing, combat stress and stress related symptoms, improve mental clarity and performance, and develop inner resilience and flow.

Kyle originally qualified as a Chartered Occupational Psychologist and  is the creator of Energy-Flow Coaching™. He spent a chunk of his career pioneering a new approach for treating chronic fatigue and pain, anxiety, depression and other stress related symptoms – which is reflected in the recently published book, The Intelligent Body.

Kyle’s work is about developing people from the inside out. He doesn’t try to get people to learn loads of mental techniques that they quickly forget, or to try and fix their environment because situations and environments often can’t be changed. Rather he helps people to gain a better and deeper understanding of themselves so they can tap into their own resilience, flow and potentials, helping them be more effective at work, at home, and in life.

Kyle facilitates transformations for those who are stuck, overwhelmed, lost or stressed and empowers them to experience greater personal freedom and higher consciousness. His work offers a new understanding of the relationship between hidden stress in the body, emotional energy, and chronic health challenges.

Resources:

http://www.energyflowcoaching.com

http://kyledavies.net

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Nov 23, 2018
159: Understanding Polyvagal Theory
46:17

Welcome to episode 159 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. Today Laura speaks with Deb Dana, LCSW about Polyvagal Theory.

 

Deb’s work is based on the principles of Polyvagal Theory. Developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, Polyvagal Theory offers a way to understand the human autonomic nervous system and directly engage with our habitual patterns of response. Through a polyvagal lens we learn to listen to our embodied stories. 

Using a polyvagal perspective, we can let go of self-criticism and bring an open heart to exploring the "ways and whys" of our daily experience...how we interact or isolate, join or judge, move toward or away, speak or stay silent. 

Resources

https://www.rhythmofregulation.com 

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Nov 16, 2018
158: Getting Serious About Your Self-Care Because You Have To
23:52

Welcome to episode 158 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C.

Today’s episode is a solo episode where Laura discusses the importance of self-care, avoiding chronic stress and keeping tabs on your health and well-being before issues start.

Resources:

https://therapychatpodcast.com  

Episode 110 with Kyle Davies: http://traffic.libsyn.com/baltimoreannapolispsychotherapypodcast/TherapyChat_EP110.mp3

Poet Nayyirah Waheed on Instagram: @nayyirahwaheed
 

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Nov 08, 2018
157: Creativity, Play, Intuition + Connection With Yourself
48:57

Welcome to episode 157 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week we're delighted to welcome back Lanie Smith return to the podcast who talks all about creativity, play, and intuition

Lanie Smith, MPS, ATR, a registered art therapist, has worked in a variety of settings for several years. Her work began with the Nat'l Institute of Health, researching the efficacy of art therapy with war-affected youth in N. Uganda, followed by two publications. Lanie developed environmental art therapy for sustainable practice at numerous sites in the Phoenix area.

She provides art therapy to others to support the prevention of burnout, compassion fatigue, and vicarious trauma. Lanie also supervises and trains on the ethical considerations regarding the use of art in therapy.

Resources

https://www.laniesmithcoaching.com

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Nov 02, 2018
156: Cults + Working With Former Cult Members Part 2
47:15

Welcome to episode 156 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week, we’re delighted to welcome back Dr. Natalie Feinblatt who speaks to us all about working with former cult members.

Dr. Natalie Feinblatt is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice. She is based in Santa Monica & specializes in addiction.

Natalie's goal is to empower her clients to live their lives with as much passion & purpose as possible. If you're willing to make changes to live a better life, then she is happy to help you do so every step of the way.

If you're struggling to get sober, you're scared about the impact sobriety might have on your creative abilities (and life in general). If you're in early sobriety, you're working to gain your footing in a new landscape. If you're a trauma survivor, you're wondering why your sensitivity & insight aren't helping you get to that light at the end of the tunnel. What do you do if your pain is too great to handle on your own?

Working with Natalie, you will be accepted and listened to carefully & perceptively. You will feel centered and much more grounded. She adapts her style to fit your needs and strive to treat you with a balance of gentleness and active encouragement.

Resources

http://www.drnataliefeinblatt.com

https://www.betterhelp.com/natalie-feinblatt

https://www.icsahome.com

https://www.amazon.com/Take-Back-Your-Life-Relationships-ebook/dp/B001RNPD9M

https://www.amazon.com/Captive-Hearts-Minds-Recovery-Relationships/dp/0897931440

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Oct 26, 2018
155: Trauma + The Struggle To Open In Therapy
55:13

Welcome to Therapy Chat! In today’s episode, we’re delighted to welcome Dr. Robert T. Muller, author of the new book, "Trauma & the Struggle to Open Up".

Dr. Robert T. Muller trained at Harvard University, was on faculty at the University of Massachusetts, and is currently at York University in Toronto. Dr. Muller was recently honored as a Fellow of the International Society for the Study of Trauma & Dissociation (ISSTD) for his work on trauma treatment.

And his psychotherapy bestseller, Trauma and the Avoidant Client, in its third printing, has been translated and won the 2011 ISSTD award for the year's best written work on trauma. As lead investigator on several multi-site programs to treat interpersonal trauma, Dr. Muller has lectured internationally and has been the keynote speaker at mental health conferences in New Zealand and Canada.

He founded an online magazine, The Trauma & Mental Health Report, that is now visited by over 100,000 readers a year. With over 20 years in the field, Dr. Muller has a therapy practice in Toronto.

Resources

https://www.amazon.com/Robert-T.-Muller/e/B0033AFO5A 

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Trauma-Struggle-Open-Up-Avoidance-ebook/dp/B0784V8WJB

http://www.yorku.ca/rmuller/ 

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Oct 19, 2018
154: You Might Be A Trauma Survivor And Need More Self Care
44:41

Welcome to Therapy Chat! In today’s episode, we’re delighted to welcome Robyn E. Brickel, MA, LMFT to the podcast.

Robyn E. Brickel, MA, LMFT is the clinical director and lead therapist at Brickel and Associates, LLC in Old Town Alexandria, Virginia, which she founded in 1999. She is deeply committed to clinical practice, professional education and better public awareness of mental health issues.

Robyn practices a strengths-based approach to therapy. She helps clients process and heal from trauma, addictions, challenged family systems, and mood disorders including maternal mental health issues. She works with individuals (both adolescents and adults), couples, families, and groups. With advanced training and experience in the treatment of trauma, dissociation, addiction and maternal mental health, Robyn helps people make and maintain positive changes in their lives.

Clients find a safe therapeutic environment for recovering from dysfunctional relationships, anxiety, depression, abuse history, addictions, and eating disordered behaviors. New skills learned in treatment include a better understanding of how to work from personal strengths.Robyn’s work with at-risk adolescents goes beyond behavioral interventions and resolving negative school performance. Working with young people and teens, she taps into the strengths of community and family systems, helping members grow and thrive together.

Robyn speaks to school and parent groups about mental health risks facing young people today. Presentations include teaching other therapists how to work within a trauma-informed, strengths-based framework, to work with adolescents and their families in a collaborative approach treating substance abuse and the trauma of domestic violence.

The Washington Post and Washington Parent magazine have featured her insights in articles about the dangers of adolescent marijuana use and teen dating safety.

Resources

https://brickelandassociates.com/blog/ 

https://brickelandassociates.com/9-signs-you-need-better-self-care-trauma-survivor/

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Oct 12, 2018
153: Trauma Informed Practice + Scope
45:42

Welcome to Therapy Chat! In today’s episode, we’re delighted to welcome back trauma specialist and EMDR trained clinician Nityda Gessel.

Feeling like a foreigner in your own body is beyond unsettling. Despite your drive and success, it is challenging to feel worthy, comfortable, and at peace within your own skin, and this further exacerbates your fear that you are just not good enough. You might worry that there is no fix for you and you'll feel this way forever. And because to others, you appear to have it all together, it's incredibly lonely to know that inside you there is a longing for love and living that is not being satiated- a pervasive fear that love and joy may never come.

Nityda Gessel works with women who due to a traumatic past and overwhelming self-doubt, struggle to cultivate meaningful and fulfilling relationships and feel a sense of purpose in life. Her approach is one that addresses the mind and body as a whole.

Nityda integrates somatic awareness, yoga, meditation and mindfulness into psychotherapy. There is a well-spring of wisdom within you that's been neglected. With a compassionate heart and non-judgmental mind, she will help you listen to and trust that wise voice within. A moment of courage can jumpstart a journey toward happiness and lasting peace.

Resources

http://traumaconsciousyoga.com

https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/show/baltimoreannapolispsychotherapypodcast/id/6777693

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Sep 28, 2018
152: Wisdom, Attachment + Love In Trauma Therapy
46:47

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! In today’s episode, Laura speaks with Susan Pease Banitt, LCSW about wisdom, attachment + Love in trauma therapy.

Susan Pease Banitt, LCSW is a social worker, psychotherapist and author who specializes in the treatment of severe trauma and PTSD. She has worked in the field of mental health for more than four decades in diverse settings: inpatient, outpatient, and medical with adults and children, and trained in the Harvard medical teaching hospitals in Boston, MA. She is a Karuna Reiki® Master, Kripalu trained yoga teacher (RYT 200), and shamanic healer in the Celtic tradition.In addition Susan studied Past Life Regression Therapy with Dr. Brian Weiss.

Susan’s book The Trauma Tool Kit: Healing PTSD From the Inside Out won several awards including; the Alumni Media Award for Written Work by Simmons College School of Social Work, the Silver Nautilus Award for Health and Healing and was runner-up at the London Book Fair in the category of Spiritual Books.  Susan speaks internationally on the psychological and holistic treatment of PTSD. Her second book: Wisdom, Attachment and Love in Trauma Therapy: Beyond Evidence-Based Practice  has just been released!

Susan is passionate about helping people heal fully from even the worst traumatic histories. She believes in the power of attachment and caring in the helping relationship, and likes to carry a big metaphorical tool kit. She has done decades of her own healing work, practices meditation daily, and strives to live mindfully and with a compassionate heart in her professional and personal life. Susan is a continuous learner and is excited to bring many modalities to her healing work. She has worked on several boards of directors to support her local healing and artistic communities. She loves to laugh and in her spare time enjoys performing improvisational comedy. Susan lives and works in Portland, Oregon. She is grateful for her supportive friends, family and wise animal companions.

Susan is available for individual therapy with all ages, PTSD coaching, classes, workshops, licensure supervision for social workers, Reiki, PLRT and runs a monthly PTSD support group.

Resources

http://www.suepeasebanitt.com

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Sep 21, 2018
151: All Parts Are Welcome
50:23

Welcome to episode 151 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. Today, Laura revists her interview with Dr. Richard Schwartz.  

Richard Schwartz earned his Ph.D. in Marriage and Family Therapy from Purdue University, after which he began a long association with the Institute for Juvenile Research at the University of Illinois at Chicago, and more recently at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, attaining the status of Associate Professor at both institutions. He is coauthor, with Michael Nichols, of Family Therapy: Concepts and Methods, the most widely used family therapy text in the United States.

Dr. Schwartz developed Internal Family Systems in response to clients' descriptions of experiencing various parts–many extreme–within themselves. He noticed that when these parts felt safe and had their concerns addressed, they were less disruptive and would accede to the wise leadership of what Dr. Schwartz came to call the "Self." In developing IFS, he recognized that, as in systemic family theory, parts take on characteristic roles that help define the inner world of the client. The coordinating Self, which embodies qualities of confidence, openness, and compassion, acts as a center around which the various parts constellate. Because IFS locates the source of healing within the client, the therapist is freed to focus on guiding the client's access to his or her true Self and supporting the client in harnessing its wisdom. This approach makes IFS a non-pathologizing, hopeful framework within which to practice psychotherapy. It provides an alternative understanding of psychic functioning and healing that allows for innovative techniques in relieving clients' symptoms and suffering.

In 2000, Richard Schwartz founded The Center for Self Leadership in Oak Park, Illinois. CSL offers three levels of IFS training, national and international workshops for both professionals and the general public, an annual conference, publications, and video resources of Dr. Schwartz's work through its website at www.selfleadership.org. Dr. Schwartz is a featured speaker for many national psychotherapy organizations and a fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, and he serves on the editorial boards of four professional journals. He has published four books and over fifty articles about IFS. His books include Internal Family Systems Therapy, Introduction to the Internal Family Systems Model, and The Mosaic Mind (with Regina Goulding), as well as Metaframeworks (with Doug Breunlin and Betty Karrer). His most recent book is about using IFS with couples, titled You Are The One You've Been Waiting For, under the Trailheads imprint of The Center for Self Leadership. Dr. Schwartz lives and practices in Brookline, MA.

Resources:

https://www.selfleadership.org  

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Sep 14, 2018
150: Your Inner Resonance
52:50

Welcome to episode 150 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. Today I’m revisiting my interview with Sarah Peyton.

Sarah Peyton, international speaker and facilitator, has a passion for weaving together neuroscience knowledge and experiences of healing that unify people with their brains and bodies. Sarah makes Interpersonal Neurobiology research available for our embodied brains to use in living at peace with ourselves. Funny, touching, and filled with personal stories and up-to-date research on our nervous systems and how they interact with each other, her presentations change lives and invite self-acceptance and self-compassion. Sarah offers healing experiences of hearing ourselves and others deeply (using the precision and resonant language that come alive in the long-term study of Nonviolent communication) and 3D body-centered explorations of families over generations (through family constellation work.)

Sarah is a CNVC Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication;  an experienced facilitator of Family Constellation work; speaks and writes internationally on the confluence of NVC, Constellation work, and the world of neuroscience research; guest lectures at the International Systemic Constellations Association (ISCA) Intensive at Bernried, Germany ('14, '15, '16); has been a regular contributor to the Global Association of Interpersonal Neurobiology Studies (GAINS) journal and currently contributes to The Knowing Field journal. In 2015 she published a chapter on Constellations and Health in the German book, Salutogenesis, edited by Stephan Hausner.

Resources:

http://empathybrain.com

https://www.yourresonantself.com

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Sep 07, 2018
149: Bottom-Up Processing Using Sensorimotor Psychotherapy
41:39

Welcome to episode 149 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. Today Laura revisits her chat with Dr. Pat Ogden about bottom-up processing using sensorimotor psychotherapy. 

SPI is a professional educational organization that designs and provides the highest-level trainings and services to serve a global network of mental health practitioners, and for the public at large. Seeking to enhance human relationships, our paradigm is substantiated by interpersonal neurobiology and impelled by mindfulness applied in interactive contexts.

Sensorimotor Psychotherapy draws from somatic therapies, neuroscience, attachment theory, and cognitive approaches, as well as from the Hakomi Method. Since the first course in Sensorimotor Psychotherapy was offered in the early 1980’s, it has gained international acclaim. The first book on Sensorimotor Psychotherapy®, Trauma and the Body: A Sensorimotor Approach to Psychotherapy, published in the Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology in 2006 gained international acclaim. The sequel to the first book, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy: Interventions for Trauma and Attachment was published in spring of 2015.

Dr. Ogden is currently developing Sensorimotor Psychotherapy for children, adolescents, families, and couples with colleagues. Several research studies to gather data on the effectiveness of SP are underway or in the process of publication at the following institutions:

  • Maudsley Hospital (London, UK)
  • Womens’ College Hospital (Toronto, Ontario)
  • Modum Bad Outpatient Clinic (Oslo, Norway)

 Resources:

https://www.sensorimotorpsychotherapy.org

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Aug 31, 2018
148: Effects Of Childhood Traumatic Stress On Physical & Mental Health
44:09

Welcome to episode 148 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week's episode features Laura revisiting her interview with Dr. Gabor Maté. Dr. Maté is the co-founder of Compassion for Addiction, a new non-profit that focuses on addiction. He is also an advisor of Drugs over Dinner.

As an author, Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction; When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress; and Scattered Minds: A New Look at the Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder, and co-authored Hold on to Your Kids. His works have been published internationally in twenty languages.

For twelve years Dr. Maté worked in Vancouver’s Downtown Eastside with patients challenged by hard-core drug addiction, mental illness and HIV, including at Vancouver’s Supervised Injection Site. With over 20 years of family practice and palliative care experience and extensive knowledge of the latest findings of leading-edge research, Dr. Maté is a sought-after speaker and teacher, regularly addressing health professionals, educators, and lay audiences throughout North America.

In the fall of 2017, Dr. Maté will be launching a brand new website offering online courses in his various areas of expertise. The first course will be a training program for health professionals working with people with addiction.

Dr. Maté explains the connection between childhood traumatic stress at any point in development - even in utero - and mental and physical health and well-being. Beyond a discussion of ACES, he describes the causes of illness and how trauma fits in. Did you know that ADD/ADHD, MS, Prostate cancer, ALS (Lou Gehrig's Disease) and many other diseases, as well as addictions of all kinds are linked to trauma? Gabor's books, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, Scattered, and When the Body Says No go into depth with the research to support his assertions.

Resources

https://drgabormate.com

https://www.compassion4addiction.org

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66cYcSak6nE (Ted Talk)

Article Dr. Maté referenced: "An Integrated Scientific Framework for Child Survival and Early Childhood Development" from Pediatrics, February 2012, Vol 129, Issue 2.

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Aug 24, 2018
147: Finding Gratitude & Peace: Self-Compassion In Troubled Times
43:16

Welcome to episode 147 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week Laura re-visits her interview with Buddhist Psychologist and student of Thich Nhat Hahn Tim Ambrose Desmond, LMFT.  

Tim Desmond is a mindfulness teacher, therapist in private practice, and co-founder of Morning Sun Mindfulness Center in Alstead, NH. He is the author of Self-Compassion in Psychotherapy (W.W. Norton, 2015) and offers training and consultation to therapists around the world, helping them to integrate positive psychology and mindfulness practices into their work.

Tim has presented at Yale University, the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy Colloquium, Greater Oregon Behavioral Health Conference, and the International Society for Ethics in Psychology and Psychiatry, as well as to mental health audiences around the country. His writings on mindfulness and positive psychology have appeared in the Psychotherapy Networker and the Mindfulness Bell magazine. Tim was interviewed about self-compassion by the Huffington Post, and writes for major mental health websites such as Madinamerica.com.

He developed and teaches “dialogue-based mindfulness training,” a technique for teaching mindfulness and self-compassion in which the client is guided through a meditation while giving the clinician feedback about their experience in real-time. The clinician uses this feedback to adjust and custom tailor the meditation instructions in order to ensure the client learns the technique effectively.

In 2005, Tim was ordained by Thich Nhat Hanh into the Order of Interbeing after many years of practicing in that tradition. He leads meditation retreats around the US and teaches regularly at Morning Sun Mindfulness Center in NH. In addition to the tradition of Thich Nhat Hanh, Tim teaches Nonviolent Communication and positive psychology.

Resources

https://www.timdesmond.net

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Aug 17, 2018
146: When Your Partner Doesn't Understand Trauma
29:11

Welcome to episode 146 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week Laura re-visits the issue of when your partner doesn't understand trauma.

*The names and characters in this episode represent a composite of people I have know personally and professionally. No real person is represented in this episode, which is intended for educational purposes.*

When Your Partner Doesn't Understand Your Trauma

Michael can't understand it. He just doesn't get what is going on with his wife of over 25 years, Amy. Michael is concerned about her and wondering when she is going to "get over" the childhood physical and sexual abuse she went through years ago.  He really just wants her to be okay. And honestly, he's sick of her trauma symptoms affecting her, him and their children. He's not sure how much longer he can take it. 

Why can't she just get over it?

To be fair, Michael doesn't realize that Amy's mood and behavior are related to her childhood trauma. He just knows that despite years of therapy with various therapists, she sometimes becomes deeply depressed and can't seem to get off the couch for days. Other times the smallest thing will seem to trigger her becoming highly anxious, which can turn into controlling behavior towards himself and the kids. She will sometimes go shopping, overspending with abandon even though they have agreed to stop running up credit card debt - then she hides it from him and acts like she is afraid he will hurt her when he receives the credit card bill. Although he does get really frustrated when this happens, it bothers him that she feels afraid of him at times, because he feels he would never harm her, and he never has gotten physical with her in more than 25 years. He also suspects she may be binging and purging, but they don't talk about it. He's afraid to bring it up and he suspects she would deny it if he asked.. Although she takes medication, her mood swings are still pretty unpredictable and he's never really sure whether he is going to come home from work and find the smiling, got-it-together wife he married; or the disorganized, scattered, overwhelmed and controlling woman she sometimes becomes; or the sad, crying woman he barely recognizes who just wants to sleep as much as possible. He doesn't know how to help her.

"She's Changed."

All Michael knows is that Amy has changed.  He knew when they got married that she had a "difficult" childhood. He also saw how resilient Amy was then. Despite being abused throughout her childhood she had finished college and started a great career before they married. Although she spoke openly about having experienced that abuse, it didn't seem to have a negative impact on her then. Other than acknowledging that it happened, she didn't really talk about it. And he didn't really want to talk about it - then or now - because just the thought of what she went through, particularly the sexual abuse, horrifies him.  He's not sure if the physical abuse was really all that bad, or why it affects her so much. He wonders if she is really trying in therapy, or whether she somehow is doing all this just for attention.

Michael isn't sure how to deal with the emotions that come up for him when Amy is not okay. It reminds him of how he felt responsible for taking care of his mother after his dad died when he was 10. He would often come home from school and his mom would be sitting in the dark on the sofa in her bathrobe. He found himself needing to be adult-like to take care of her, and he was kind of on his own to take care of himself and his younger brother too. He was so relieved to get away from that unhappy childhood, to go to college and start his career, but sometimes he wonders if he married someone he will always have to take care of too. The burden of handling Amy's emotional needs feels very heavy and familiar to Michael. He feels sad, hopeless and discouraged. 

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She feels disconnected.

Amy, too, was overjoyed to leave her abusive family behind to marry Michael. She thought things would be so much better once she got away from her controlling, abusive father and her passive mother who was mostly focused on pretending everything was perfect. And things were so much better! She loved her career, she and Michael got along great, and she was very happy to raise her three beautiful children. However, when her third child, little Megan, turned 5 years old Amy started having flashbacks to the abuse that her father inflicted on her as a little girl. A part of her had always felt that she was somehow responsible for the sexual abuse and deserving of the beatings. But seeing her sweet, innocent little Megan, a bright, inquisitive kindergartner, she pictured herself as a little girl and wondered whether it was really true that an innocent child could ever be deserving of being harmed the way her father had harmed her. These thoughts were so sad and overwhelming she tried to push them away. Sometimes she was successful, but other times, particularly in the Spring, she was overwhelmed with fear and worry that something bad would happen to Megan or her two sons. She is bothered by nightmares, trouble sleeping and physical symptoms like Irritable Bowel Syndrome and a feeling that someone is watching her which makes her skin crawl. Sometimes she suddenly vomits, just out of the blue, and she never knows when a panic attack is coming. Much of the time she feels like she is going through the motions of life. She feels disconnected from her neighbors and the other moms in her community. She describes herself as "on the outside looking in" to her life. She doesn't work outside the home now, and she's not sure if she ever will again. Most of the time she feels like she is barely holding it together. She wishes Michael were more empathetic and supportive of what she's going through but he doesn't seem to understand why she can't just "put the past behind her." She feels alone and disconnected from him, and wonders what happened to the happy newlyweds they once were. She is sad and worried about the way she feels, but she doesn't know what to do about it.

The Truth Is, They Are Both Struggling

This dynamic is all too common and I hear stories from both sides of the relationship described above in my office every day. Many of my clients are women like Amy who feel deeply ashamed that they are still affected by the abuse from their childhood years. And others are men like Michael who wonder if they can handle the emotional burden of their partner's PTSD. Regardless of gender, both Amy and Michael could be any one of us. They both feel alone and don't know how to reach the other partner.

Whether you can relate to Amy's feelings or Michael's, it's helpful to understand a few things. 

Three Things to Remember:

  1. You are not alone. Whether you are the person who experienced childhood trauma or the person who loves them, what you are feeling is common. Many people are affected by childhood trauma. It is so much more common than most of us realize. Click here to learn more about the Adverse Childhood Experiences Study (ACES) and the prevalence of childhood trauma. 
  2.  Trauma survivors aren't trying to be difficult.They are actually just trying to feel normal. In the scenario I described above, both Amy and Michael are affected by childhood trauma, though neither of them understands the effects in depth. Amy could be described as the "identified patient" - she's the one who is seen as having a problem and needing help. And she does need help. She is suffering so much. Amy's trauma is that she was physically and sexually abused by an adult (her father) whom she trusted to take care of her and keep her safe. Her mother was unable to protect her and pretended nothing was wrong. So both of her primary caregivers, whom she depended on for safety and protection, let her down. She is affected by a loss of attachment as well as the effects of the abuse.

But Amy's not the only one in this example who needs help. Michael, too, experienced childhood trauma. His father died when he was only ten, and in her grief his mother was unable to attend to Michael's emotional needs. Instead, in order to be safe, Michael had to take care of his mom's emotional needs, and his own needs were ignored. He also had a younger brother to look out for. So Michael experienced a loss of attachment when neither of his parents was available to take care of his emotional needs, as well as the trauma of his dad's sudden death.  It's no wonder that Amy and Michael were drawn to each other, because they both had unresolved pain they were trying to escape when they met. However, Michael's role as a caregiver in his family may have helped him feel comfortable marrying someone who he perceived as having gone through something terrible (without realizing how he himself was affected by his own trauma). Both Amy and Michael were young when they met, and they were both doing the best they could. They both wanted to be okay, and they were trying to be okay together. For a while they were, but the effects of trauma always pop up just when you least expect them. Neither Amy nor Michael is able to be a support for the other, because they are both affected by their own childhood trauma. They can both benefit from counseling with a skilled trauma therapist.

  1. Trauma therapy can help. The reason Amy has been in and out of therapy for 10 years without experiencing relief from her trauma symptoms is that she hasn't had the right kind of therapy. 9 times out of 10, my clients with extensive trauma histories will tell me that their previous therapists never explained trauma to them or told them that their symptoms could be related to trauma. Why? The therapists probably didn't know. Trauma is still a newer field of study, although its effects have been documented for years.  Understanding that your symptoms are caused by trauma helps take an overwhelming set of symptoms that are seemingly unrelated and offers hope and clarity. You begin to recognize that you developed these coping methods (like dissociation, comfort eating, compulsive shopping, depression, anxiety) because of the effects of trauma, and not because there is something wrong with you. 

Can You Relate?

You may be wondering if you are an Amy or a Michael. I can't answer that for you, but here are some symptoms which may indicate that you are affected by childhood trauma. 

If you have had some kind of disturbing experience in childhood that has always bothered you, for example:

  • Loss of a primary caregiver
  • Any unwanted sexual experience
  • Any sexual experience you were too young to understand
  • Witnessing violence, whether it happened to you, your caregiver or another family member
  • Feeling that no one understood you, no one cared about you, or that you were abandoned, unwanted, or unloved
  • Being bullied
  • Receiving physical punishment, including spanking, beating, whipping, or being physically abused or harmed by an adult when you were a child
  • Having a parent or primary caregiver who abused alcohol or drugs

These are just a few examples of situations that could be traumatic in childhood. Read this article for more, and consider taking the ACES quiz as well. 

So if you have some kind of childhood experience you think might have been traumatic AND you have some of these symptoms:

  • Trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, nightmares, sleep paralysis
  • Feeling numb, detached, zoning out, trouble concentrating, easily distracted, losing time
  • Memory issues - feeling forgetful, being disorganized
  • Feeling a nagging sense that there is just something wrong with you, something that makes you different from everyone else
  • Feeling like you are on the outside looking in
  • Trouble feeling close with other people, trust issues, feeling suspicious of other people's motives, thoughts like "no one can be trusted" and a feeling that it's you against the world
  • Panic attacks, anxiety, need to maintain control at all times, rigidity, need for order
  • Feeling mistrustful of your partner, feeling judgmental and critical of others and yourself
  • Body image issues, physical symptoms like chronic pain, stomach issues, migraines, 
  • Sexual problems - lack of interest in sex, shame related to sex
  • Constantly on high alert, watchful, vigilant, can't relax - you hate it when someone comes up behind you and touches your shoulder or stands too close to you

You might be affected by childhood trauma. No article can substitute for talking with a qualified therapist. If you are wondering if you are affected by childhood trauma, talk to a therapist. You can usually speak to them by phone before scheduling an appointment to make sure they feel qualified to help with the issue that affects you. 

Here are some resources for finding a qualified trauma therapist:

National Child Traumatic Stress Network

ISSTD

Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute

EMDRIA

Sidran Institute

Somatic Experiencing Institute

RAINN

And here are some suggestions for further reading and learning:

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

In the Realm Of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Maté

ACES Primer (video)

Finding a therapist who understands the effects of trauma on child development and has specialized training in trauma recovery can make a huge difference. Whether you are directly affected by childhood trauma or it is a problem for someone you love, therapy can help. You don't have to keep suffering.  

The first step is understanding that your trauma is real, that it matters, and that you can feel better. Then the hard part comes - trusting a therapist to help you. I know there are many caring and skilled trauma therapists out there who want to help. I am one of them. If you're in the Baltimore area of Maryland, I would love to talk about how we can work together to help you feel better. Give me a call at 443-510-1048 or e-mail me at laura@laurareaganlcswc.com. 

You can also contact me directly through my website at this link. Or visit my website to learn about how I work with trauma. 

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Aug 10, 2018
145: Attachment, Meditation, Yoga & Compassion In Trauma Therapy
43:31

Welcome to episode 145 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week Laura re-visits her interview with Deirdre Fay, MSW, LICSW, who integrates trauma and attachment theory with yoga and meditation in embodiment. She is also the founder of the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills and maintains a private practice in Arlington, MA.

The work she does arises out of her life. What she knows is grounded in her own healing as well as rigorous training as a psychotherapist looking for answers and ways to help others navigate the often-difficult terrain of healing trauma and attachment wounds.

Deirdre knows what it’s like to make that journey. She did it dealing with her own history of trauma and as she searched for answers to relational and attachment issues. During the course of her life, she was lucky to have lived for six years in a spiritual community [Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health] which surrounded her with a nurturing environment. That experience grounded Deirdre in her commitment to finding ways to help other people.

The Becoming Safely Embodied Skills were born during those years and came to fruition as she worked with trauma survivors in Boston both in her private practice and in hospital settings. She wanted to develop easy to apply take home skills that people could use when they weren’t in therapy.

Resources

https://dfay.com

http://www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com

http://www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com/podcasts

http://www.iceeft.com

http://www.simplypsychology.org/bowlby.html

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Aug 03, 2018
144: How Does Our Attachment Style Affect Our Relationships?
49:43

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! In today’s episode host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C re-visits her interview with Stuart Fensterheim, LCSW

Stuart is a clinical social worker in Scottsdale, Arizona, practicing with couples using Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) which is an attachment-based couples therapy method. 

In the episode, Stuart talks about how he works on making connections with couples and how our childhood attachment affects the way we show up in relationships as adults. He also touches upon John Bowlby's Attachment Theory, which focuses on your relationship with your primary caretaker and how it influences everything through your life. To make sense of this theory, he talks further about the relationship young babies have with their caretaker, avoiding failure to thrive and how the needs of a young baby to experience touch and closeness, continue with us throughout our adult life.

Resources

http://www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com

http://www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com/podcasts

http://www.iceeft.com

http://www.simplypsychology.org/bowlby.html

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Jul 27, 2018
143: Attachment, Trust + Being Seen
42:53

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! In today’s episode host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C re-visits her interview with Rebecca Wong, LCSW-R. 

Rebecca Wong, LCSW-R, a relationship therapist in New Paltz, NY, the creator of Connectfulness, and co-host of the upcoming Practice Of Being Seen podcast.

Rebecca talks about using play in her couples work, as well as how our attachment relates to our ability to trust our partners. Rebecca explains that needing attention is not a bad thing – it’s normal. She talks about the concept of being seen, in relationships and in our work with clients. She and Laura discuss getting out of our heads and into our bodies to connect with our partners, other people in our lives and as therapists, how we can connect with our clients. Rebecca explains how using animal-assisted therapy with dogs and horses helps us understand our emotions as shown in our bodies.

Rebecca describes her five-step process of Connectfulness, a research-based practice she developed and uses with her couples therapy clients. She talks about all the things we do to avoid uncomfortable feelings and how those things interfere with connection. 

Resources

http://connectfulness.com

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Jul 20, 2018
142: Attachment Trauma & Adoption
52:50

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! In today’s episode host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C re-visits her interview with Amy Sugeno, LCSW.

Amy is a clinical social worker in private practice who specializes in working with survivors of trauma related to attachment, particularly related to adoption.

Amy explains how attachment trauma can affect children who were adopted, even if the adoption went as smoothly as it possibly could. She describes how children who have been adopted may act out behaviorally to tell their parents how they feel. Amy also talks about a surprising way adoptive parents (and others parenting traumatized children) may experience trauma themselves and how to recognize the symptoms. She and Laura discuss how prior difficulty with conceiving a child can contribute to the experience for parents, how the parent’s own attachment style and trauma history is “churned up” through the process of adoption. She describes how adoption can change relationships within a family and between the family and their community. She explains some of the non-verbal ways of processing trauma that she uses with her clients. Amy describes Nature as her “co-therapist.” She tells listeners how to get on her mailing list and offers opportunities to hear her speak around the country.

This is the first of the series on trauma and attachment, which will continue on alternating weeks through the next few months. And on the opposite weeks you will hear the series on integrative mental health! Thanks for listening to Therapy Chat. Please get in touch and let host Laura Reagan know what you thought of this episode!

Resources

http://www.amysugenocounseling.com

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Jul 13, 2018
141: Bringing Yoga Therapy Into A Talk Therapy Practice
45:53

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! In today’s episode, Laura speaks with trauma specialist and EMDR trained clinician Nityda Gessel.

Feeling like a foreigner in your own body is beyond unsettling. Despite your drive and success, it is challenging to feel worthy, comfortable, and at peace within your own skin, and this further exacerbates your fear that you are just not good enough. You might worry that there is no fix for you and you'll feel this way forever. And because to others, you appear to have it all together, it's incredibly lonely to know that inside you there is a longing for love and living that is not being satiated- a pervasive fear that love and joy may never come.

Nityda Gessel works with women who due to a traumatic past and overwhelming self-doubt, struggle to cultivate meaningful and fulfilling relationships and feel a sense of purpose in life. Her approach is one that addresses the mind and body as a whole.

Nityda integrates somatic awareness, yoga, meditation and mindfulness into psychotherapy. There is a well-spring of wisdom within you that's been neglected. With a compassionate heart and non-judgmental mind, she will help you listen to and trust that wise voice within. A moment of courage can jumpstart a journey toward happiness and lasting peace.

Resources

http://traumaconsciousyoga.com

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Jul 06, 2018
140: Dynamics Of Dysfunctional Or Alcoholic Families
50:14

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! In today’s episode, Laura speaks with Sharon Martin, LCSW.

Sharon is a licensed therapist, counselor, and mental health and wellness writer based in San Jose, CA. She has spent 20 years providing counseling, therapy, and clinical supervision.

Sharon has built a specialized private practice that reflects her belief that you matter, and you can love yourself, heal, be empowered, speak your truth, and create a life you love. Listen for Sharon’s incredible insights on life, well-being and much more!

Resources

https://livewellwithsharonmartin.com

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Jun 29, 2018
139: Equine Assisted Learning & Authenticity
46:28

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! In today’s episode, Laura speaks in person with Charlotte Hiler Easley.

Charlotte is a psychotherapist in private practice who specializes in working with survivors of trauma using equine-assisted psychotherapy (EAP). Charlotte discusses her work using Equine Assisted Survivors of Trauma Therapy, a method she developed in collaboration with a rape crisis center when she was in grad school.

When you work with Charlotte, you will be encouraged, coached, and heard with compassion and understanding. You can also expect to be gently challenged to understand who you really are and why you’re here.

You will work together with Charlotte to understand your patterns of behavior and thought and develop skills that will enable you to get unstuck and to move ahead in your story.

Resources

Charlotte’s website: https://charlotteeasley.com/

Charlotte’s Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/charlottehilereasleyLCSW

Central Kentucky Riding for Hope’s Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/CKyRH/

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Jun 22, 2018
138: A Holistic Approach To Mindful Recovery
48:56

Welcome to episode 138 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week, we speak with Rebecca E. Williams, PhD and Julie S. Kraft, MA, LMFT, about their new book The Gift of Recovery: Mindfulness Skills for Living Joyfully Beyond Addiction.

Rebecca E. Williams, PhD, is a clinical psychologist specializing in recovery from mental illness and addictions. She received her master's degree from Harvard University and her PhD from the University of California, Santa Barbara. She is currently the Wellness and Vocational Enrichment Clinic director of the Veterans Affairs San Diego Healthcare System. In addition, she is an associate clinical professor in the department of psychiatry at the University of California, San Diego, an adjunct faculty member at the University of San Diego, and coauthor of Couple Therapy for Alcoholism. Williams is coauthor, with Julie Kraft, of The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction. She has a psychotherapy practice in San Diego, CA.

Julie S. Kraft, MA, LMFT, received her master's degree in marriage and family therapy from the University of San Diego's school of leadership and education sciences. She has provided counseling to veterans and their family members at the Veterans Affairs San Diego Healthcare System and has provided psychotherapy to individuals, couples, families, and groups in community settings. In her current position with Sharp HealthCare, she treats clients struggling with both addiction and mental health concerns. She lives and works in San Diego, CA.

Resources:

Find everything Rebecca & Julie are doing here: www.mindfulnessworkbook.com

Julie wanted you to see this video related to her comments about addiction being one bright spot that can be tough to let go of: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pkZXEf304ss&app=desktop

The Suicide Prevention Hotline # is US: 800-273-8355

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Jun 15, 2018
137: What Is Spiritual Bypass?
39:04

*Warning, explicit episode*

Welcome to episode 137 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week, we speak with Tamara Powell, LMHC about spiritual bypass.

Tamara is the owner of Arya Therapy Services, the now global phenomenon in holistic health and healing. She is also the founder of Tales from a Trapezoid dedicated to the more raw and edgier side of life, working with those who may often feel like a trapezoid in a world full of circles.

Tamara also hosts her own podcast Sacred Psychology, where through stories and interviews, she takes listeners behind the veil of counseling into erotic, relational, and spiritual diversity, uncovering how to accomplish mankind’s greatest challenge – finding purpose and passion no matter the worldview or proclivity.

Resources

Find Tamara at:

https://aryatherapy.com

https://aryatherapy.com/about-the-podcast (Sacred Psychology Podcast)

https://talesfromatrapezoid.com

https://www.facebook.com/talesfromatrapezoid

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Jun 08, 2018
136: Embodied Recovery
46:26

Welcome to episode 136 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week, we speak with Paula Scatoloni, LCSW, CEDS, SEP and Rachel Lewis-Marlow, MS, EdS, LPC, LMBT about embodied recovery.

Paula is a somatic-based psychotherapist, Certified Eating Disorders Specialist, and Somatic Experiencing™ practitioner in Durham, NC. She has a private practice in Chapel Hill, NC and has worked in the field of eating disorders for over two decades. Prior to developing Embodied Recovery, Paula co-developed the first intensive outpatient program for eating disorders with Dr. Anita Johnston author, Eating In the Light of the Moon. She also served as the Eating Disorder Coordinator at Duke University for nine years where she developed campus policies and managed a multidisciplinary treatment team. She is a certified Shake Your Soul ® instructor and has provided mindful movement classes at Carolina House Treatment Center. Paula has taught extensively on the etiology and treatment of eating disorders through classes, workshops, professional trainings, and conferences.  She is currently an SEP assistant and session provider.  She has training in Bodywork and Somatic Education (BASE) and additional models for somatic work with developmental trauma.   She is a faculty member at the NC Center for Resiliency in Chapel Hill, NC and has been collaborating with researchers for the past four years to develop a study on the efficacy of somatic therapy within the eating disorder population. 

Rachel is a somatically integrative psychotherapist, dually licensed in counseling and therapeutic massage and bodywork. She is a Certified Advanced Practitioner in Sensorimotor Psychotherapy and has advanced training and 25 + years of experience in diverse somatic therapies including Craniosacral Therapy, Energetic Osteopathy, Oncology massage and Aromatherapy. Rachel worked as a primary therapist at Carolina House for 4 years. There she developed the Embodying Recovery group therapy protocol which formed the basis for her contribution to the EMBODIED RECOVERY treatment model.  Rachel is a private consultant to eating disorders treatment facilities. She provides ongoing training and supervision to clinical and support staff in the programmatic implementation of the embodied recovery model. She is currently consulting for Carolina House in their residential, partial hospitalization and intensive outpatient treatment programs.  In her private practice in Chapel Hill, NC, Rachel works with trauma, eating disorders, and dissociative disorders.  She has extensive experience as a teacher and presenter, focusing on accessing the body’s unique capacity to give voice to the subconscious and to lay the foundation for healing and maintaining psychological and physical health.

Resources

https://embodiedrecovery.org

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Jun 01, 2018
135: Cults & Psychotherapy With Former Cult Members
52:26

Welcome to episode 135 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week, we have a very interesting guest in Dr. Natalie Feinblatt who speaks to us all about cults and how they work.

Dr. Natalie Feinblatt is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice. She is based in Santa Monica & specializes in addiction.

Natalie's goal is to empower her clients to live their lives with as much passion & purpose as possible. If you're willing to make changes to live a better life, then she is happy to help you do so every step of the way.

If you're struggling to get sober, you're scared about the impact sobriety might have on your creative abilities (and life in general). If you're in early sobriety, you're working to gain your footing in a new landscape. If you're a trauma survivor, you're wondering why your sensitivity & insight aren't helping you get to that light at the end of the tunnel. What do you do if your pain is too great to handle on your own?

Working with Natalie, you will be accepted and listened to carefully & perceptively. You will feel centered and much more grounded. She adapts her style to fit your needs and strive to treat you with a balance of gentleness and active encouragement.

Resources

http://www.drnataliefeinblatt.com

https://www.betterhelp.com/natalie-feinblatt

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May 15, 2018
134: It's Not Always Depression - So What Is It?
44:53

Welcome to episode 134 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week, we’re delighted to welcome back Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW. In this episode, Hilary speaks to me all about her amazing new book “It’s Not Always Depression”.

Hilary grew up in New York City in a culture of "mind over matter." Raised by a psychiatrist and a guidance counselor, family time included analyzing her thoughts and dreams. Feelings were rarely mentioned (except perhaps to discuss how to get rid of them!) She thought she had total control over my emotions. Now she wants to share what she (and many psychotherapists and researchers) know about the new science of emotions. She wants others to learn what she had the good fortune to learn: that core emotions provide a path to physical and psychological well-being.

Resources

http://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com

https://www.facebook.com/AuthorHilaryJacobsHendel

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May 04, 2018
133: Equine Assisted Survivors of Trauma Therapy
37:57

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! In today’s episode, as we lead up to the next Daring Way, Laura Reagan, LCSW-C re-visits her interview with Charlotte Hiler Easley, LCSW.

Charlotte is a psychotherapist in private practice who specializes in working with survivors of trauma using equine-assisted psychotherapy (EAP). Charlotte discusses her work using Equine Assisted Survivors of Trauma Therapy, a method she developed in collaboration with a rape crisis center when she was in grad school.

Charlotte talks about how horses are able to read our body language and react to our emotional experience. She explains what equine assisted psychotherapy is – hint: you don’t have to touch a saddle. She describes how survivors of trauma working with horses are able to learn and practice new ways of being in a relationship; setting boundaries; making a mind-body connection; feeling what safety feels like – because the work is all experiential.

Thanks for listening to Therapy Chat. Please get in touch and let host Laura Reagan know what you thought of this episode!

Resources

EAGALA: http://www.eagala.org/about

PATH: http://www.pathintl.org/

Charlotte’s website: https://charlotteeasley.com/

Charlotte’s Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/charlottehilereasleyLCSW

Central Kentucky Riding for Hope’s Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/CKyRH/

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Apr 27, 2018
132: Ending Sexual Violence
01:12:07

Welcome to this special Sexual Assault Awareness Month Episode! I'm sharing two episodes from early in Therapy Chat's life on the issue of sexual assault. After the #MeToo movement, founded by Tarana Burke, ignited on social media over the past year, the general public began to understand what most women and many men already knew: sexual violence can affect anyone, and its effects are deep and longlasting. This is a problem in our culture which can be ended, but not without everyone gaining awareness. Statistics indicate that one in four women and one in six men will be sexually assaulted during their lifetime. April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, a great time to learn more about this important issue. Here's an article from the New York Times about why Tarana Burke started this movement: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/10/20/us/me-too-movement-tarana-burke.html

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Two types of sexual assault are Childhood Sexual Abuse (to be covered in a later episode) and Sexual Assault/Rape not involving a child. This is our focus today.
  • If you are assaulted, you have several options to consider:
    • Call a Sexual Assault Crisis Hotline. Visit the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network at www.rainn.org.
    • Most hospitals provide a forensic evidence exam at no cost to you, within 120 hours of the assault. Your state's sexual assault coalition can give you a list of hospitals with forensic programs.
    • It is your personal decision whether or not to report the assault to the police and you can usually receive an evidence collection exam without reporting to police.
  • The victim should tell someone who will be supportive. Visit www.evawintl.org (End Violence Against Women International.) Check out their “Start by Believing” campaign.
  • The US military and most colleges/universities have separate options for reporting sexual assault.
  • Keep in mind that the civil legal process is another option outside the criminal investigation; a settlement can be obtained without bringing criminal charges.
  • The Maryland Coalition Against Sexual Abuse (MCASA) is an outstanding resource for survivors. http://www.mcasa.org/
  • Find a Sexual Assault Crisis Center Directory at www.centers.rainn.org.
  • There are some common reactions of victims following sexual abuse. Find a comprehensive list at www.musc.edu
  • There are many community events across the country in April to bring awareness to sexual assault. Some events include The Clothesline Project, The Monument Quilt, Performances of The Vagina Monologues (find info at: www.vday.org), Take Back the Night, and Walk a Mile in Her Shoes. 

This is Part 2 of a series about Sexual Assault Awareness, and today’s focus is on Childhood Sexual Abuse. Let’s jump right into our topic!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Childhood Sexual Abuse is “a form of child abuse including sexual activity with a minor who is not capable of consenting.” Remember that a child CANNOT give consent to sexual activity!
  • Childhood Sexual Abuse is not always physical contact, but can include digital/online interaction, fondling, exhibitionism, child pornography, sex trafficking, and much more.
  • In 93% of cases, the sexual abuser of a child is someone known to the child or the family.
  • Most statistics under-represent the frequency of occurrence, but data indicates 1 in 5 girls and 1 in 20 boys will be sexually abused during childhood.
  • Up to 20% of adult females and 5-10% of adult males have been sexually abused during childhood.
  • There is an increased risk of sexual assault later in life when a child has had their boundaries violated in this way.
  • Most offenders are male, with about 33% being juveniles.
  • There is often a “grooming process” used by the abuser to draw the child into a sexual relationship, and usually, the abuser will fill roles of trust and value in the victim’s family. This makes it harder for children to come forward and makes them more likely to believe they are responsible for the abuse
  • The effects of childhood sexual abuse can include emotional problems, mental health issues, behavioral problems, and academic problems.
  • The effects can also include PTSD, depression, anxiety, suicide, and eating disorders.
  • Many times these behaviors are not recognized as signs of sexual abuse.
  • Protect children by showing interest in their lives, knowing the people in their lives, and knowing caregivers especially well.
  • Background checks and the sex offender registry are NOT foolproof.
  • Know how to ask questions to the child and how to respond without judgment and blame.
  • Report abuse to the police and, if applicable, to Child Protective Services.
  • Call the Child Help National Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453
  • Help is available at sexual abuse crisis centers. Visit centers.rainn.org and search by zip code.
  • When seeking a therapist look for one with specific training in the field of sexual abuse. Not all therapists are qualified to help in all areas. The therapist should have knowledge and experience in developmental trauma.
  • Other resources include: victimsofcrime.org and www.rainn.org.
  • Call the National Sexual Assault Hotline 24/7 to speak to someone who can help you if you need someone to talk to after listening to this episode. The phone number (US Only) is: 1-800-656-4673

The RAINN chat hotline is available at: https://hotline.rainn.org/online/terms-of-service.jsp

Other Notes: 

Register for the Authentic Self Two Day Retreat with Charlotte Hiler Easley, LCSW and Laura Reagan, LCSW-C at: https://laurareaganlcswc.com/retreat

Apr 22, 2018
131: Why Is Parenting So Hard?
01:06:36

Welcome to episode 131 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week’s guest features Anna Seewald who talks about why parenting is so hard.  

Anna Seewald is the founder of Authentic Parenting®. She is a speaker, author and a parent educator. She also has a popular Podcast on iTunes called Authentic Moments. She is a mom to a vibrant 9-year-old who doesn’t approve of her fashion choices. As a child she survived through a severe earthquake. She lost her young mom. She has been through trauma, pain, and a lot suffering.

With a strong passion helping children Anna dedicated her life working with abused, neglected, orphaned, institutionalized children and juvenile delinquents.

After nearly 20 years she realized that it is through helping parents she can help children.

Today she is supporting parents around the world by moving from traditional ways of parenting into more peaceful, conscious ways by making sense of their past life experiences, healing from trauma, building effective communication, practicing non-punitive discipline and setting limits with love and kindness.

She is a multilingual, multitalented person who loves dark roast coffee and dark chocolate with salted caramel.

Resources

http://authenticparenting.com 

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Apr 13, 2018
130: Spirituality As Burnout Prevention
53:08

Welcome to episode 130 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week’s guest features Lanie Smith who talks about spirituality as burnout prevention using eco-art therapy.

Lanie Smith, MPS, ATR, a registered art therapist, has worked in a variety of settings for several years. Her work began with the Nat'l Institute of Health, researching the efficacy of art therapy with war-affected youth in N. Uganda, followed by two publications. Lanie developed environmental art therapy for sustainable practice at numerous sites in the Phoenix area.

She provides art therapy to others to support the prevention of burnout, compassion fatigue, and vicarious trauma. Lanie also supervises and trains on the ethical considerations regarding the use of art in therapy.

Resources

https://www.laniesmithcoaching.com

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Apr 06, 2018
129: Representation & Connection Via Expressive Arts
39:25

Welcome to episode 129 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week’s guest features Xanthia Johnson. She is the founder of Urban Playogoly in Washington, DC. Urban Playology provides psychotherapy services to children, adolescents, individuals, couples and families.

During defining transitions, she provides a safe place for you to be who you are. Whether you are 2 years old or 85 years young, you will enjoy a transformative experience. Her clinical areas of specialization and interest include but are not limited to: Women & Women of Color Issues, Urban Play Therapy, Expressive Arts, Sandtray Therapy, Grief & Loss, LGBTIQ Folk, TF-CBT, Broad Spectrum Couples & Family Work

At Urban Playology, they utilize an Integrative therapy model with emphasis on advocacy and social justice for all clients. This approach helps them provide optimal support and sustainable nurturing for all clients. They offer professional training, clinical supervision, and clinical consultation on advocacy projects of interest.

In this episode, you will hear Xanthia discuss representation and connection via expressive arts as Laura and Xanthia talk about the film "Black Panther".

Resources

Dante’s RESPECT video: https://youtu.be/yII9_sQATXU

Find Xanthia Johnson at: http://www.urbanplayology.com/

Laura’s Facebook post with resources to learn about privilege, racism, oppression: https://www.facebook.com/LauraJReaganLcswC/photos/a.738409226187611.1073741828.624687057559829/2008445822517272/?type=3&theater

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Mar 30, 2018
128: Mindfulness & Trauma
56:25

Welcome to episode 128 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. Today Laura speaks to David Treleaven, PhD. David's book is Trauma Sensitive Mindfulness.

David Treleaven, PhD, is a writer, educator, and trauma professional whose work focuses on the intersection of mindfulness, trauma, and social justice. He received his master’s in counseling psychology at the University of British Columbia, and a doctorate in East-West psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies.

This year he'll be offering workshops on trauma-sensitive mindfulness at the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care, and Society at UMass Medical School, Omega Institute's Mindfulness and Education Conference, and True North Insight in Montréal, Canada. He is a senior teacher with Strozzi Institute, which helps leaders embody skillful action, and with generative somatics, an organization that integrates personal and social transformation.

Resources:

https://www.davidtreleaven.com

https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Sensitive-Mindfulness-Practices-Transformative-Healing/dp/0393709787/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1521777121&sr=8-1&keywords=trauma+sensitive+mindfulness 

https://www.amazon.com/You-Want-Talk-About-Race-ebook/dp/B073P53DVL

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Mar 23, 2018
127: Mindfulness & Somatic Work In Healing Trauma
38:44

Welcome to episode 127 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. Today Laura speaks to Lynn Fraser about mindfulness & somatic work in healing trauma.  

Lynn Fraser is a senior meditation and yoga teacher in the Himalayan Yoga Meditation tradition; and a Senior Facilitator of the Living Inquiries and Natural Rest. She brings the depth and richness of twenty years experience teaching meditation and yoga philosophy to her work. She specializes in holding a safe and trusted space for healing trauma in her private Living Inquiries online sessions with individuals. Lynn lives near family, the ocean and forest in Nova Scotia Canada where she also plays flute in a jazz band.

Lynn is a student and teaches within the Himalayan Tradition  of  Swami Rama as taught by Swami Veda Bharati. She is certified through the Association of Himalayan Yoga Meditation Societies (AHYMSIN) and the Yoga Center of Calgary. She was a founding member of the organizing committee for the AHYMSIN teacher training program and is faculty for the Yoga Studio College in Calgary. Lynn has studied extensively in the United States and India with Swami Veda Bharati,  Pandit Dabral and other senior teachers in the Himalayan Tradition.

She teaches in Halifax/Dartmouth, Nova Scotia, Canada. Her classes are suitable for students in various physical conditions as a primary emphasis for asana (yoga poses) is on training the mind through the body. Her teaching features an integrated approach of relaxation, asana, pranayama, meditation and philosophy for every day life. She is a certified Himalayan Institute Ayurveda Yoga Specialist.

Lynn supports people healing from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and other trauma through meditation, yoga therapy and mindfulness inquiry.

Resources:

http://stillpointyoga.ca

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Mar 16, 2018
126: How Much Is Too Much For A Therapist To Share In A Session?
47:00

Welcome to episode 126 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. Today Laura speaks to Dr. Maelisa Hall about how much is too much for a therapist to share in a session?

Dr. Maelisa Hall is a licensed clinical psychologist and her passion is to help therapists create rock-solid documentation so they can spend more time with their clients and less time worrying about paperwork.  After eight years working in mental health agencies, she started her own company to help therapists learn how to make documentation flow naturally, decrease their workload and be confident in all their paperwork. She shows clinicians that paperwork is a valuable part of therapy and that it doesn’t have to be slow and painful! You’ll have more time to work with clients because you’ll know you can take on the paperwork no problem.

Maelisa consults with psychotherapists in private practice, agencies and group practices to teach them things like how to write great notes, what to consider if insurance is involved, how to document high-risk issues and what forms they actually need for their clientele.

Training is her passion so she has created online programs that help connect therapists so they can learn from any place at any time. Her goal is make everything she does serve a real need so she makes sure to include plenty of real-life examples and interactive exercises in every workshop she creates.

Resources:

https://www.mybizbestie.com

https://www.qaprep.com

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Mar 09, 2018
125: Healing Justice - The Connection Between Self Care & Social Justice For Helping Professionals
52:29

Welcome to episode 125 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. Today Laura speaks to Dr. Loretta Pyles about her work and new book “Healing Justice”.

Loretta came to mind-body healing practices in 1999, after leaving a difficult long-term relationship and becoming burnt out from her social services and social change work. She found herself anxious, grief-ridden, and disconnected from her body, mind and spirit. Over the years, she has committed herself to a journey toward wholeness, presence, and compassion. The realizations that she later found in meditation and yoga deepened her ability to understand the ways in which oppression and undigested experiences rest in the mind-body continuum.  To learn more about these parts of herself and to experience life more fully, she practices a range of modalities including mindfulness, lovingkindness, breath work, physical poses, devotional mantra, group support, and self-inquiry.

Loretta’s sensibility about transformative social change was formed during her time working in a women's collective at a community-based domestic violence program in Lawrence, Kansas.  She continues to be inspired by the insights of collective and consensus building that come from feminist and other social movements, as well as conscious communication practices. She works with public and non-profit organizations to promote healing justice and offers workshops which support social workers and activists to embody mindful practice and self-care through trauma-informed and anti-oppression lenses.

Loretta received her B.A. in philosophy and sociology from Baker University, an M.A. in philosophy from the University of Kansas and a Ph.D. in social work from the University of Kansas. Formerly on the faculty at Tulane University School of Social Work in New Orleans, Loretta is Professor in the School of Social Welfare at the State University of New York at Albany.  She was Director of UAlbany’s Community and Public Service Program from 2008-2012. The National Science Foundation has funded her research on human capabilities, community participation, and disaster recovery.  Loretta's social change and healing justice work has taken her across the globe including to Haiti, Mongolia, and Indonesia.

Resources:

http://lorettapyles.com

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Mar 02, 2018
124: Eating Right To Feel Good - Nutrition & Mood with Dr. Leslie Korn
43:46

Welcome to episode 124 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. Today Laura welcomes back Dr. Leslie Korn.  

Dr. Leslie Korn has had a bi-lingual (Eng/Span) clinical practice since 1977 and providing over 50,000 hours of integrative health care to people with a diverse range of health problems in both urban and rural settings.

She is the author of 4 books; Nutritional Essentials for Mental Health, (Norton, 2015), Cultural Competency Workbook, (Premiere Publishing , 2015) Rhythms of Recovery Trauma Nature and the Body (Routledge, 2013), and Preventing and Treating Diabetes Naturally, The Native Way, (DayKeeper Press, 2009) and her latest book The Good Mood Kitchen will be out in 2017.

Dr. Korn consults to clinicians and advises clients who want to people to reduce or eliminate pharmaceutical use and in particular psychotropic medications. She works with people who want to integrate natural approaches to their health care and she has a specialty practice in mental health nutrition and body oriented psychotherapy. She also consults to community mental health, hospital based programs and on tribal reservations supporting the integration of traditional healing and integrative medicine for mental and physical health.

Dr. Korn received her PhD in Behavioral Medicine from the Union Institute, a MA degree in cross cultural health psychology from Lesley University, and a MPH from the Harvard School of Public Health.

Resources:

https://drlesliekorn.com

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Feb 23, 2018
123: Trauma Focused Equine Assisted Psychotherapy: A New Clinician's Story With Julia Alexander
35:58

Welcome to episode 123 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. Today Laura speaks to Julia Alexander, LMSW, M.Ed.

For the last decade, Julia has worked to create effective spaces for people to heal. She believes children’s behavior, especially behavior that appears problematic, often meets an important need. Using a compassionate and flexible treatment approach, grounded in the neurobiology of trauma, Julia aims to support children and caregivers in understanding the purpose of current behaviors in order to eventually develop more adaptive coping strategies. She knows that the most effective treatment involves a recognition of children, caregiver and system strengths and needs with a focus on connected, attuned relationships.

Julia was trained by leading experts in intergroup dialogue facilitation and social justice curriculum design. She has extensive training in the Attachment, Regulation and Competency Trauma Treatment model and has attended trainings in Sensory Motor Arousal Regulation Treatment for Traumatized Children and Adolescence (SMART) as well as The Neurobiology of Trauma. Julia not only brings her clinical experience to Spirit Reina but also, a lifetime of horse experience! She loves the ways in which horses support the therapeutic process by asking us to take responsibility for the types of relationships we create.

She is excited to be starting her dual certification in Natural Lifemanship. When not at Spirit Reins you can find Julia spending time exploring Austin, hanging out with her two dogs or dancing. Julia holds an MSW from Smith College School for Social Work, an M.Ed in Social Justice Education from UMass Amherst and a B.A in Psychology from Mount Holyoke College.

Resources:

https://spiritreins.org

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Feb 16, 2018
122: Q&A - Deeper Discussion on Intimate Partner Violence
47:25

Welcome to episode 122 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. Today Laura has a deeper discussion about intimate partner violence.

Resources:

1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) National Domestic Violence Hotline

https://nnedv.org/

https://www.techsafety.org/resources/

www.ncadv.org

I talked about the HBO series “Big Little Lies”

https://cops.usdoj.gov/Default.asp?Item=2881

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Feb 09, 2018
On Break February 1
51

Hey all! I'm not releasing a new episode the week of February 1, because I'm busy working on my Q&A episode series which will start next week with Elizabeth's question about my interview with Tamara Hill on Trauma Bonding. 

I'll miss you but please join us in the Therapy Chat Facebook group! To join, request to join on FB here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TherapyChat/  and then sign up for the Therapy Chat e-mail list! You'll then be added to the group.

Talk to you soon! New episode February 8th!

 

Feb 01, 2018
121: Bottom-Up Processing Using Sensorimotor Psychotherapy
43:55

Welcome to episode 121 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. Today Laura speaks about bottom-up processing using sensorimotor psychotherapy with Dr. Pat Ogden.

SPI is a professional educational organization that designs and provides the highest-level trainings and services to serve a global network of mental health practitioners, and for the public at large. Seeking to enhance human relationships, our paradigm is substantiated by interpersonal neurobiology and impelled by mindfulness applied in interactive contexts.

Sensorimotor Psychotherapy draws from somatic therapies, neuroscience, attachment theory, and cognitive approaches, as well as from the Hakomi Method. Since the first course in Sensorimotor Psychotherapy was offered in the early 1980’s, it has gained international acclaim. The first book on Sensorimotor Psychotherapy®, Trauma and the Body: A Sensorimotor Approach to Psychotherapy, published in the Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology in 2006 gained international acclaim. The sequel to the first book, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy: Interventions for Trauma and Attachment was published in spring of 2015.

Dr. Ogden is currently developing Sensorimotor Psychotherapy for children, adolescents, families, and couples with colleagues. Several research studies to gather data on the effectiveness of SP are underway or in the process of publication at the following institutions:

  • Maudsley Hospital (London, UK)
  • Womens’ College Hospital (Toronto, Ontario)
  • Modum Bad Outpatient Clinic (Oslo, Norway)

 Resources:

https://www.sensorimotorpsychotherapy.org

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Jan 26, 2018
120: Parts Work, Continued
27:48

Welcome to episode 120 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. Today is a solo episode where I’m continuing the conversation on from episode 117 about Parts Work.

Resources:

IFS website for resources I mentioned:

https://selfleadership.org/ifs-store.html

Interview with Renee Beck on the Shadow: http://traffic.libsyn.com/baltimoreannapolispsychotherapypodcast/Renee_Beck.mp3

Interview with Lourdes Viado on the Shadow: http://traffic.libsyn.com/baltimoreannapolispsychotherapypodcast/Lourdes_interview.mp3

Interview with Keri Nola on the Shadow:

http://traffic.libsyn.com/baltimoreannapolispsychotherapypodcast/Keri_Nola_Shadow.mp3

Poem: The Guest House by Rumi

The Ferentz Institute: http://theferentzinstitute.com

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Jan 19, 2018
119: Happy 2018!
04:56

Hi all! This week's episode is just a quick hello and a few words about the New Year. Hope you are all enjoying a peaceful return from holiday fun and that you've been able to take it easy. I wanted to share my thoughts on New Year's resolutions. I also gave a little preview of what's coming up over the next few weeks!

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Jan 06, 2018
118: Surviving & Thriving During The Holidays
22:11

Feeling holly-jolly? Maybe not so much. In this episode of the Baltimore Annapolis Psychotherapy Podcast host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C discusses three reasons why for some of us the holidays can be the most stressful time of the year. Listen in if you've ever felt stressed during the holidays with all of the emphasis on consumerism and comparing your house to everyone else's. This podcast episode is great for people who have strained relationships with family of origin, childhood trauma, and highly conflictual families. 

 

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Dec 23, 2017
117: All Parts Are Welcome
50:39

Welcome to episode 117 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. I’m delighted to have as my guest today, Dr. Richard Schwartz.  

Richard Schwartz earned his Ph.D. in Marriage and Family Therapy from Purdue University, after which he began a long association with the Institute for Juvenile Research at the University of Illinois at Chicago, and more recently at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, attaining the status of Associate Professor at both institutions. He is coauthor, with Michael Nichols, of Family Therapy: Concepts and Methods, the most widely used family therapy text in the United States.

Dr. Schwartz developed Internal Family Systems in response to clients' descriptions of experiencing various parts–many extreme–within themselves. He noticed that when these parts felt safe and had their concerns addressed, they were less disruptive and would accede to the wise leadership of what Dr. Schwartz came to call the "Self." In developing IFS, he recognized that, as in systemic family theory, parts take on characteristic roles that help define the inner world of the client. The coordinating Self, which embodies qualities of confidence, openness, and compassion, acts as a center around which the various parts constellate. Because IFS locates the source of healing within the client, the therapist is freed to focus on guiding the client's access to his or her true Self and supporting the client in harnessing its wisdom. This approach makes IFS a non-pathologizing, hopeful framework within which to practice psychotherapy. It provides an alternative understanding of psychic functioning and healing that allows for innovative techniques in relieving clients' symptoms and suffering.

In 2000, Richard Schwartz founded The Center for Self Leadership in Oak Park, Illinois. CSL offers three levels of IFS training, national and international workshops for both professionals and the general public, an annual conference, publications, and video resources of Dr. Schwartz's work through its website at www.selfleadership.org. Dr. Schwartz is a featured speaker for many national psychotherapy organizations and a fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, and he serves on the editorial boards of four professional journals. He has published four books and over fifty articles about IFS. His books include Internal Family Systems Therapy, Introduction to the Internal Family Systems Model, and The Mosaic Mind (with Regina Goulding), as well as Metaframeworks (with Doug Breunlin and Betty Karrer). His most recent book is about using IFS with couples, titled You Are The One You've Been Waiting For, under the Trailheads imprint of The Center for Self Leadership. Dr. Schwartz lives and practices in Brookline, MA.

Resources:

https://www.selfleadership.org  

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Dec 15, 2017
116: Your Inner Resonance
51:21

Welcome to episode 116 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. I’m delighted to have as my guest today, Sarah Peyton.

Sarah Peyton, international speaker and facilitator, has a passion for weaving together neuroscience knowledge and experiences of healing that unify people with their brains and bodies. Sarah makes Interpersonal Neurobiology research available for our embodied brains to use in living at peace with ourselves. Funny, touching, and filled with personal stories and up-to-date research on our nervous systems and how they interact with each other, her presentations change lives and invite self-acceptance and self-compassion. Sarah offers healing experiences of hearing ourselves and others deeply (using the precision and resonant language that come alive in the long-term study of Nonviolent communication) and 3D body-centered explorations of families over generations (through family constellation work.)

Sarah is a CNVC Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication;  an experienced facilitator of Family Constellation work; speaks and writes internationally on the confluence of NVC, Constellation work, and the world of neuroscience research; guest lectures at the International Systemic Constellations Association (ISCA) Intensive at Bernried, Germany ('14, '15, '16); has been a regular contributor to the Global Association of Interpersonal Neurobiology Studies (GAINS) journal and currently contributes to The Knowing Field journal. In 2015 she published a chapter on Constellations and Health in the German book, Salutogenesis, edited by Stephan Hausner.

Resources:

http://empathybrain.com

https://www.yourresonantself.com

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Dec 08, 2017
115: Connecting With Your True Self
49:22

I’m delighted to welcome back Kyle Davies this week for part two of our conversation on connecting with your true self.

Kyle Davies is a wellbeing and mindset coach, author and trainer. He specializes in helping individuals and groups to optimise their energy and wellbeing, combat stress and stress related symptoms, improve mental clarity and performance, and develop inner resilience and flow.

Kyle originally qualified as a Chartered Occupational Psychologist and  is the creator of Energy-Flow Coaching™. He spent a chunk of his career pioneering a new approach for treating chronic fatigue and pain, anxiety, depression and other stress related symptoms – which is reflected in the recently published book, The Intelligent Body.

Kyle’s work is about developing people from the inside out. He doesn’t try to get people to learn loads of mental techniques that they quickly forget, or to try and fix their environment because situations and environments often can’t be changed. Rather he helps people to gain a better and deeper understanding of themselves so they can tap into their own resilience, flow and potentials, helping them be more effective at work, at home, and in life.

Kyle facilitates transformations for those who are stuck, overwhelmed, lost or stressed and empowers them to experience greater personal freedom and higher consciousness. His work offers a new understanding of the relationship between hidden stress in the body, emotional energy, and chronic health challenges.

Resources:

http://www.energyflowcoaching.com

http://kyledavies.net

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Nov 30, 2017
114: What Is Shamanism?
01:04:12

Have you ever wondered about Shamanism? Dr. Carmen Roman is a psychologist from Mexico who now practices in California, and she explains how she developed an interest in this work.

Dr. Carmen Roman is a psychotherapist with 25 years of experience working in both Mexico and in California the last 5 of those years. She offers you a combination of both cultures and both worlds of psychology. She specializes in trauma, sexual abuse, and immigration issues.

Dr. Roman works mainly with couples and families. Some clinical issues she works with are: anxiety, depression, fear, severe trauma, or low self-esteem.

Based on Gestalt therapy she helps her clients to live with awareness, responsibility and in the here-and-now. Aided by the transpersonal psychology she addresses issues of spirituality, the use of meditation and shamanic experiences. She is a specialist in creative expression in therapy at master's and PhD levels. Thus, most likely you will work with creative expression tools you already have or will learn to ease your emotional healing.

Carmen is also a bilingual podcaster. The English and Spanish podcast is called Emotions in Harmony and you will find it in various platforms. If you want to connect and participate in her FB live videos in Spanish visit her FB page on Tuesdays at noon Pacific time. 

Resources:

Website – www.emotionsinharmony.com

Email her at carmen@armoniaemocional.com

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/DraCarmenRoman/

Twitter https://twitter.com/DraCarmenRoman

YouTube https://www.youtube.com/user/cafecitovirtual

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Nov 24, 2017
113: Honest Talk About Pregnancy & Motherhood
50:19

Interview with Melissa Divaris Thompson on the realities of pregnancy and motherhood that most people never talk about.

Melissa is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in New York City, seeing primarily women in their 20s and 30s, pregnant women, and new moms. As a holistic and depth-oriented therapist, her role is to support my clients in finding wholeness — mind, body, and spirit — creating more joy, ease, and healthy relationships.

Melissa helps her clients remember their empowered authentic voice and “tap back into” their true selves. Melissa attended The California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco, CA and through that, met my Honest Mamas counterparts, Claire and Sophie.

Honest Mamas is a website committed to the authentic emotional and spiritual lives of mothers. The focus of the site is the journey of motherhood, including fertility and pregnancy. It is an online community that supports women during these transitional and transformational times, when grounded, positive and honest information is vital to their emotional well being. Honest Mamas is a place to be real, witnessed, celebrated, and comforted.

Resources:

http://embracingjoy.com

https://honestmamas.com

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Nov 17, 2017
112: Chronic Pain & Chronic Illness
01:08:42

An interview with chronic pain expert Daniela Paolone, LMFT of Westlake Village Counseling.

Daniela specializes in supporting people living with chronic pain, illness, anxiety, and depression. Their unique challenges aren’t understood by those who haven’t experienced these issues. She’s here to deepen our understanding and awareness, because many of us have loved ones who are facing these challenges.

Daniela has worked as a therapist for the past seven years in many settings. That includes working at a non-profit agency, in schools, and in private practice. Before becoming a therapist though she worked as a teacher’s assistant and was also a behavioral coach for children with special needs. She has also run batterer’s intervention groups that were court-ordered.

Working with the courts and in rehabilitating perpetrators of domestic violence was rewarding work where Daniela learned so much. During that time, she also provided counseling to victims of domestic violence and their families.

Resources:

https://westlakevillage-counseling.com

Facebook group Daniela Paolone  https://www.facebook.com/groups/137753713504096/

Therapy Chat Podcast group on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TherapyChat/

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Nov 09, 2017
111: Relationships & Childhood Emotional Neglect
40:00

Interview with Dr. Jonice Webb on her new book, Running On Empty No More about repairing relationships affected by Childhood Emotional Neglect. 

Dr. Webb has been a licensed psychologist since 1991, and has worked in a variety of different settings over the course of her career, including a psychiatric emergency service and substance abuse programs.  She has been the Director of several large outpatient clinics.  For the past eight years, she has been enjoying her private practice in Lexington, Massachusetts, specializing in the treatment of couples and families.

Dr. Jonice Webb has been interviewed on NPR and over thirty radio shows across the United States and Canada about the topic of her book, Emotional Neglect, and has been quoted as a psychologist expert in the Chicago Tribune. She writes the popular Childhood Emotional Neglect Blog on PsychCentral.com.

Over two decades of practicing psychology, Dr. Webb gradually started to see a factor from childhood which weighs upon people as adults.  This factor is extremely subtle.  In fact, it’s so difficult to see that it goes virtually unnoticed while it quietly saps a person’s joy in life, causing him or her to struggle with self-discipline, or to feel disconnected and unfulfilled.  Dr. Webb gave a name to this invisible factor from childhood.  She calls it Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).

Resources:

www.emotionalneglect.com

http://www.drjonicewebb.com/cenquestionnaire

www.facebook.com/JWebbPhd

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkB4-oY0XAqv8kzBlYov34w

Twitter: @jwebbphd

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Nov 03, 2017
110: Your Intelligent Body with Kyle Davies
53:09

Welcome to episode 110 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. My guest this week is Kyle Davies.

Kyle Davies is a wellbeing and mindset coach, author and trainer. He specializes in helping individuals and groups to optimise their energy and wellbeing, combat stress and stress related symptoms, improve mental clarity and performance, and develop inner resilience and flow.

Kyle originally qualified as a Chartered Occupational Psychologist and  is the creator of Energy-Flow Coaching™. He spent a chunk of his career pioneering a new approach for treating chronic fatigue and pain, anxiety, depression and other stress related symptoms – which is reflected in the recently published book, The Intelligent Body.

Kyle’s work is about developing people from the inside out. He doesn’t try to get people to learn loads of mental techniques that they quickly forget, or to try and fix their environment because situations and environments often can’t be changed. Rather he helps people to gain a better and deeper understanding of themselves so they can tap into their own resilience, flow and potentials, helping them be more effective at work, at home, and in life.

Kyle facilitates transformations for those who are stuck, overwhelmed, lost or stressed and empowers them to experience greater personal freedom and higher consciousness. His work offers a new understanding of the relationship between hidden stress in the body, emotional energy, and chronic health challenges.

Resources:

http://www.energyflowcoaching.com

http://kyledavies.net

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Oct 27, 2017
109: Brainspotting with Beth Medina
51:51

Welcome to episode 109 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. My guest this week is Beth Medina.

Beth Medina has been a therapist since 1997 and a trauma counselor since 2001, when she initially trained in EMDR while working with people suffering from addictions. Today, sheis  a trauma specialist, who is a Certified Brainspotting Practitioner/Certified Brainspotting Consultant through Brainspotting International, as well as a Certified EMDR Therapist through EMDRIA. These designations denote ongoing, advanced training, not only in trauma but also in the use of these effective, transformative modalities.

Resources:

https://brainspottingjax.com

https://laurareaganlcswc.com/retreats-1  

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Oct 20, 2017
108: Healing From Trauma
29:11

Welcome to episode 108 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. My guest this week is Dr. Carmen Roman.    

Dr. Carmen Roman is a psychotherapist with 25 years of experience working in both Mexico and in California the last 5 of those years. She offers you a combination of both cultures and both worlds of psychology. She specializes in trauma, sexual abuse, and immigration issues.

Dr. Roman works mainly with couples and families. Some clinical issues she works with are: anxiety, depression, fear, severe trauma, or low self-esteem.

Based on Gestalt therapy she helps her clients to live with awareness, responsibility and in the here-and-now. Aided by the transpersonal psychology she addresses issues of spirituality, the use of meditation and shamanic experiences. She is a specialist in creative expression in therapy at master's and PhD levels. Thus, most likely you will work with creative expression tools you already have or will learn to ease your emotional healing.

Carmen is also a bilingual podcaster. The podcast is called Emotions in Harmony and you will find it in various platforms. If you want to connect and participate in her FB live videos in Spanish visit her FB page on Tuesdays at noon Pacific time. 

Resources:

Website – www.emotionsinharmony.com

Email her at carmen@armoniaemocional.com

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/DraCarmenRoman/

Twitter https://twitter.com/DraCarmenRoman

YouTube https://www.youtube.com/user/cafecitovirtual

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Oct 13, 2017
107: Abusive Relationship Dynamics & Traumatic Bonding
50:45

Welcome to episode 107 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. My guest this week is Tamara Hill.   

Támara Hill, M.S, NCC, CCTP, LPC is a licensed therapist and certified trauma professional specializing in child and adolescent behavioral and mood disorders including psychological and emotional trauma. As an internationally quoted therapist, Támara aims to empower families from various walks of life to gain further knowledge and rediscover authentic living.

Támara holds to one life principle: authenticity. While being interviewed by a #1 ranked national mobile website, she explained: “I’ve always had a somewhat difficult time referring to myself as an “expert” because I strive to remain modest in all I do. I have found that modesty connects me more authentically to families who are suffering.”

While working to help troubled and at risk kids utilize their strengths in the home, school, and community, she became known, internationally, for her passion and dedication to seeing change in their lives.

She strives to not only maintain clarity about the purpose of her own life, but the needs within the lives of parents, families, & caregivers. “Having a strong woman as a mother has inspired me to reach out to other parents and inspire them,” Hill says.

Resources

https://twitter.com/therapisttee

https://anchoredinknowledge.com

http://www.nnedv.org

http://wlcmd.org

http://www.loveisrespect.org

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Oct 06, 2017
106: Finding Gratitude & Peace: Self-Compassion In Troubled Times
43:19

Interview with Buddhist Psychologist and student of Thich Nhat Hahn Tim Ambrose Desmond, LMFT.  

Tim Desmond is a mindfulness teacher, therapist in private practice, and co-founder of Morning Sun Mindfulness Center in Alstead, NH. He is the author of Self-Compassion in Psychotherapy (W.W. Norton, 2015) and offers training and consultation to therapists around the world, helping them to integrate positive psychology and mindfulness practices into their work.

Tim has presented at Yale University, the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy Colloquium, Greater Oregon Behavioral Health Conference, and the International Society for Ethics in Psychology and Psychiatry, as well as to mental health audiences around the country. His writings on mindfulness and positive psychology have appeared in the Psychotherapy Networker and the Mindfulness Bell magazine. Tim was interviewed about self-compassion by the Huffington Post, and writes for major mental health websites such as Madinamerica.com.

He developed and teaches “dialogue-based mindfulness training,” a technique for teaching mindfulness and self-compassion in which the client is guided through a meditation while giving the clinician feedback about their experience in real-time. The clinician uses this feedback to adjust and custom tailor the meditation instructions in order to ensure the client learns the technique effectively.

In 2005, Tim was ordained by Thich Nhat Hanh into the Order of Interbeing after many years of practicing in that tradition. He leads meditation retreats around the US and teaches regularly at Morning Sun Mindfulness Center in NH. In addition to the tradition of Thich Nhat Hanh, Tim teaches Nonviolent Communication and positive psychology.

Resources

https://www.timdesmond.net

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Sep 29, 2017
105: When Your Partner Doesn't Understand Trauma
25:01

*The names and characters in this episode represent a composite of people I have know personally and professionally. No real person is represented in this episode, which is intended for educational purposes.*

When Your Partner Doesn't Understand Your Trauma

 

Michael can't understand it. He just doesn't get what is going on with his wife of over 25 years, Amy. Michael is concerned about her and wondering when she is going to "get over" the childhood physical and sexual abuse she went through years ago.  He really just wants her to be okay. And honestly, he's sick of her trauma symptoms affecting her, him and their children. He's not sure how much longer he can take it. 

Why can't she just get over it?

To be fair, Michael doesn't realize that Amy's mood and behavior are related to her childhood trauma. He just knows that despite years of therapy with various therapists, she sometimes becomes deeply depressed and can't seem to get off the couch for days. Other times the smallest thing will seem to trigger her becoming highly anxious, which can turn into controlling behavior towards himself and the kids. She will sometimes go shopping, overspending with abandon even though they have agreed to stop running up credit card debt - then she hides it from him and acts like she is afraid he will hurt her when he receives the credit card bill. Although he does get really frustrated when this happens, it bothers him that she feels afraid of him at times, because he feels he would never harm her, and he never has gotten physical with her in more than 25 years. He also suspects she may be binging and purging, but they don't talk about it. He's afraid to bring it up and he suspects she would deny it if he asked.. Although she takes medication, her mood swings are still pretty unpredictable and he's never really sure whether he is going to come home from work and find the smiling, got-it-together wife he married; or the disorganized, scattered, overwhelmed and controlling woman she sometimes becomes; or the sad, crying woman he barely recognizes who just wants to sleep as much as possible. He doesn't know how to help her.

"She's Changed."

All Michael knows is that Amy has changed.  He knew when they got married that she had a "difficult" childhood. He also saw how resilient Amy was then. Despite being abused throughout her childhood she had finished college and started a great career before they married. Although she spoke openly about having experienced that abuse, it didn't seem to have a negative impact on her then. Other than acknowledging that it happened, she didn't really talk about it. And he didn't really want to talk about it - then or now - because just the thought of what she went through, particularly the sexual abuse, horrifies him.  He's not sure if the physical abuse was really all that bad, or why it affects her so much. He wonders if she is really trying in therapy, or whether she somehow is doing all this just for attention.

Michael isn't sure how to deal with the emotions that come up for him when Amy is not okay. It reminds him of how he felt responsible for taking care of his mother after his dad died when he was 10. He would often come home from school and his mom would be sitting in the dark on the sofa in her bathrobe. He found himself needing to be adult-like to take care of her, and he was kind of on his own to take care of himself and his younger brother too. He was so relieved to get away from that unhappy childhood, to go to college and start his career, but sometimes he wonders if he married someone he will always have to take care of too. The burden of handling Amy's emotional needs feels very heavy and familiar to Michael. He feels sad, hopeless and discouraged.

 

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She feels disconnected.

Amy, too, was overjoyed to leave her abusive family behind to marry Michael. She thought things would be so much better once she got away from her controlling, abusive father and her passive mother who was mostly focused on pretending everything was perfect. And things were so much better! She loved her career, she and Michael got along great, and she was very happy to raise her three beautiful children. However, when her third child, little Megan, turned 5 years old Amy started having flashbacks to the abuse that her father inflicted on her as a little girl. A part of her had always felt that she was somehow responsible for the sexual abuse and deserving of the beatings. But seeing her sweet, innocent little Megan, a bright, inquisitive kindergartner, she pictured herself as a little girl and wondered whether it was really true that an innocent child could ever be deserving of being harmed the way her father had harmed her. These thoughts were so sad and overwhelming she tried to push them away. Sometimes she was successful, but other times, particularly in the Spring, she was overwhelmed with fear and worry that something bad would happen to Megan or her two sons. She is bothered by nightmares, trouble sleeping and physical symptoms like Irritable Bowel Syndrome and a feeling that someone is watching her which makes her skin crawl. Sometimes she suddenly vomits, just out of the blue, and she never knows when a panic attack is coming. Much of the time she feels like she is going through the motions of life. She feels disconnected from her neighbors and the other moms in her community. She describes herself as "on the outside looking in" to her life. She doesn't work outside the home now, and she's not sure if she ever will again. Most of the time she feels like she is barely holding it together. She wishes Michael were more empathetic and supportive of what she's going through but he doesn't seem to understand why she can't just "put the past behind her." She feels alone and disconnected from him, and wonders what happened to the happy newlyweds they once were. She is sad and worried about the way she feels, but she doesn't know what to do about it.

The Truth Is, They Are Both Struggling

This dynamic is all too common and I hear stories from both sides of the relationship described above in my office every day. Many of my clients are women like Amy who feel deeply ashamed that they are still affected by the abuse from their childhood years. And others are men like Michael who wonder if they can handle the emotional burden of their partner's PTSD. Regardless of gender, both Amy and Michael could be any one of us. They both feel alone and don't know how to reach the other partner.

Whether you can relate to Amy's feelings or Michael's, it's helpful to understand a few things. 

Three Things to Remember:

  1. You are not alone. Whether you are the person who experienced childhood trauma or the person who loves them, what you are feeling is common. Many people are affected by childhood trauma. It is so much more common than most of us realize. Click here to learn more about the Adverse Childhood Experiences Study (ACES) and the prevalence of childhood trauma. 
  2.  Trauma survivors aren't trying to be difficult.They are actually just trying to feel normal. In the scenario I described above, both Amy and Michael are affected by childhood trauma, though neither of them understands the effects in depth. Amy could be described as the "identified patient" - she's the one who is seen as having a problem and needing help. And she does need help. She is suffering so much. Amy's trauma is that she was physically and sexually abused by an adult (her father) whom she trusted to take care of her and keep her safe. Her mother was unable to protect her and pretended nothing was wrong. So both of her primary caregivers, whom she depended on for safety and protection, let her down. She is affected by a loss of attachment as well as the effects of the abuse.

But Amy's not the only one in this example who needs help. Michael, too, experienced childhood trauma. His father died when he was only ten, and in her grief his mother was unable to attend to Michael's emotional needs. Instead, in order to be safe, Michael had to take care of his mom's emotional needs, and his own needs were ignored. He also had a younger brother to look out for. So Michael experienced a loss of attachment when neither of his parents was available to take care of his emotional needs, as well as the trauma of his dad's sudden death.  It's no wonder that Amy and Michael were drawn to each other, because they both had unresolved pain they were trying to escape when they met. However, Michael's role as a caregiver in his family may have helped him feel comfortable marrying someone who he perceived as having gone through something terrible (without realizing how he himself was affected by his own trauma). Both Amy and Michael were young when they met, and they were both doing the best they could. They both wanted to be okay, and they were trying to be okay together. For a while they were, but the effects of trauma always pop up just when you least expect them. Neither Amy nor Michael is able to be a support for the other, because they are both affected by their own childhood trauma. They can both benefit from counseling with a skilled trauma therapist.

  1. Trauma therapy can help. The reason Amy has been in and out of therapy for 10 years without experiencing relief from her trauma symptoms is that she hasn't had the right kind of therapy. 9 times out of 10, my clients with extensive trauma histories will tell me that their previous therapists never explained trauma to them or told them that their symptoms could be related to trauma. Why? The therapists probably didn't know. Trauma is still a newer field of study, although its effects have been documented for years.  Understanding that your symptoms are caused by trauma helps take an overwhelming set of symptoms that are seemingly unrelated and offers hope and clarity. You begin to recognize that you developed these coping methods (like dissociation, comfort eating, compulsive shopping, depression, anxiety) because of the effects of trauma, and not because there is something wrong with you. 

Can You Relate?

You may be wondering if you are an Amy or a Michael. I can't answer that for you, but here are some symptoms which may indicate that you are affected by childhood trauma. 

If you have had some kind of disturbing experience in childhood that has always bothered you, for example:

  • Loss of a primary caregiver
  • Any unwanted sexual experience
  • Any sexual experience you were too young to understand
  • Witnessing violence, whether it happened to you, your caregiver or another family member
  • Feeling that no one understood you, no one cared about you, or that you were abandoned, unwanted, or unloved
  • Being bullied
  • Receiving physical punishment, including spanking, beating, whipping, or being physically abused or harmed by an adult when you were a child
  • Having a parent or primary caregiver who abused alcohol or drugs

These are just a few examples of situations that could be traumatic in childhood. Read this article for more, and consider taking the ACES quiz as well. 

So if you have some kind of childhood experience you think might have been traumatic AND you have some of these symptoms:

  • Trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, nightmares, sleep paralysis
  • Feeling numb, detached, zoning out, trouble concentrating, easily distracted, losing time
  • Memory issues - feeling forgetful, being disorganized
  • Feeling a nagging sense that there is just something wrong with you, something that makes you different from everyone else
  • Feeling like you are on the outside looking in
  • Trouble feeling close with other people, trust issues, feeling suspicious of other people's motives, thoughts like "no one can be trusted" and a feeling that it's you against the world
  • Panic attacks, anxiety, need to maintain control at all times, rigidity, need for order
  • Feeling mistrustful of your partner, feeling judgmental and critical of others and yourself
  • Body image issues, physical symptoms like chronic pain, stomach issues, migraines, 
  • Sexual problems - lack of interest in sex, shame related to sex
  • Constantly on high alert, watchful, vigilant, can't relax - you hate it when someone comes up behind you and touches your shoulder or stands too close to you

You might be affected by childhood trauma. No article can substitute for talking with a qualified therapist. If you are wondering if you are affected by childhood trauma, talk to a therapist. You can usually speak to them by phone before scheduling an appointment to make sure they feel qualified to help with the issue that affects you. 

Here are some resources for finding a qualified trauma therapist:

National Child Traumatic Stress Network

ISSTD

Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute

EMDRIA

Sidran Institute

Somatic Experiencing Institute

RAINN

And here are some suggestions for further reading and learning:

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

In the Realm Of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Maté

ACES Primer (video)

Finding a therapist who understands the effects of trauma on child development and has specialized training in trauma recovery can make a huge difference. Whether you are directly affected by childhood trauma or it is a problem for someone you love, therapy can help. You don't have to keep suffering.  

The first step is understanding that your trauma is real, that it matters, and that you can feel better. Then the hard part comes - trusting a therapist to help you. I know there are many caring and skilled trauma therapists out there who want to help. I am one of them. If you're in the Baltimore area of Maryland, I would love to talk about how we can work together to help you feel better. Give me a call at 443-510-1048 or e-mail me at laura@laurareaganlcswc.com. 

You can also contact me directly through my website at this link. Or visit my website to learn about how I work with trauma. 

Sep 22, 2017
104: Bonus Episode - Suicide In Our Communities
46:42

Bonus Episode for Suicide Awareness & Prevention Month! Replay of Laura's interview with Dr. Jonathan Singer, host of the Social Work Podcast, professor at Loyola University in Chicago, and co-author of the book, "Suicide in Schools" which details how communities can address the issue of suicide.

Welcome back to Therapy Chat! Today’s topic is a serious one, and something that needs to be talked about, although most of us would rather not think about it. September is Suicide Prevention & Awareness Month, and host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C recorded this special episode to honor a friend’s brother who died by suicide almost 3 years ago. Today Laura interviews someone who has worked for years in the field of suicide prevention. Jonathan B. Singer, PhD is podcaster, a social work professor at Loyola University in Chicago and one of the co-authors of the book “Suicide in Schools: A Practitioner’s Guide to Multi-Level Prevention, Assessment, Intervention and Postvention.” This book is a guide for schools and communities, as well as families, to understand what we can all do to make a difference in the problem of suicide which plagues the United States. Jonathan shares some shocking statistics about the problem of suicide – how often it happens and who is most at risk. He describes specific things schools and communities can do to prevent suicide and to support a person who is feeling suicidal. He also talks about how schools can develop crisis plans to put into action when a school community member dies by suicide. Our community has been affected by suicide far too often. One person dying by suicide is too many, but the numbers are much higher than that. This episode may inspire you to take action to make a difference in your community to reduce suicide. And host Laura Reagan invites you to make a donation in honor of Nick Moothart by visiting the Team Nick fundraising page for the Annapolis Out of the Darkness Walk, hosted by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP).

 

Click here to make a donation to Team Nick

 

Click here to make a donation to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

 

Listen to the Social Work Podcast here

 

Learn more and order Suicide in Schools: A Practitioner’s Guide here.

 

Learn more about Jonathan B. Singer, PhD here

 

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Thank you for listening!

Sep 19, 2017
103: Psychotherapy Can Be Like Improv - Eating Disorders, Trauma & ACT
40:37

Welcome to episode 103 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. My guest this week is Valerie Martin (LCSW, RYT, CSAT Candidate) who is a psychotherapist and yoga instructor in Nashville, TN.

Valerie focuses on a holistic treatment approach of mind + body integration and trauma resolution, using EMDR, ego state therapy, yoga (including trauma-sensitive yoga), Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT), and somatic (body-based) and experiential techniques. She is also a Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist (CSAT) Candidate. Valerie has spoken at numerous behavioral health conferences, primarily in the area of eating disorder treatment. She received a BS in Communications and MSSW in Clinical Social Work at the University of Texas at Austin.

In addition to her private practice, Valerie is a trauma specialist at The Ranch residential treatment center, where she formerly worked as a primary therapist in the eating disorders program.

Resources

Valerie Martin’s website: wonderwelltherapy.com

Emily Sandoz ACT book https://www.amazon.com/Acceptance-Commitment-Therapy-Eating-Disorders/dp/162625396X

Emily Sandoz book: Living With Your Body And Other Things You Hate  https://www.amazon.com/Living-Your-Body-Other-Things/dp/1608821048/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_t_1?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=R7627YQ0JK908W4Y8862

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Sep 15, 2017
102: Expressive Arts - Drama Therapy
44:59

In Episode 102, host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C interviews Krista Verrastro, RDT, a Maryland drama therapist. Krista is one of only six hundred-plus drama therapists in the United States. She explains what drama therapy is, how she got involved with it, and how she uses it in her practice.

Krista defines drama therapy and explains how it is active, experiential and integrative. She discusses the roles we play in our lives and how this fits closely with drama therapy. She notes some similarities between drama therapy and play therapy. She reminds us how experiential therapies like expressive and creative arts methods – including drama therapy – help us to connect with our emotions in a balanced way, so we can both feel and think at the same time.

She teaches us how creative arts therapies can help externalize the emotions we feel so that we can feel safer to explore them. She also discusses how drama therapy can help heal trauma. She explains the connection between drama therapy and social justice and its roots in efforts to overcome oppression.

Krista talks about psychodrama and drama therapy, how they’re similar and different. She gives examples of some techniques and exercises that may take place in a drama therapy session. She also relates the challenge of serving people who would benefit from drama therapy because the field is so little known.

Visit Krista’s website to learn more about her work:  http://www.kristaverrastro.com/

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Sep 08, 2017
101: Attachment Style & Relationships
50:24

Episode 101 of Therapy Chat is the last in the "Best Of Therapy Chat" segment. Our number one most popular episode is the interview with Stuart Fensterheim, the Couples Expert! Stuart talks about how our attachment style affects our adult relationships. 

Welcome to episode 62 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This is the third episode in the trauma and attachment series featuring Stuart Fensterheim, LCSW. Stuart is a clinical social worker in Scottsdale, Arizona, practicing with couples using Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) which is an attachment-based couples therapy method. 

In the episode, Stuart talks about how he works on making connections with couples and how our childhood attachment affects the way we show up in relationships as adults. He also touches upon John Bowlby's Attachment Theory, which focuses on your relationship with your primary caretaker and how it influences everything through your life. To make sense of this theory, he talks further about the relationship young babies have with their caretaker, avoiding failure to thrive and how the needs of a young baby to experience touch and closeness, continue with us throughout our adult life.

Resources

http://www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com

http://www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com/podcasts

http://www.iceeft.com

http://www.simplypsychology.org/bowlby.html

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Sep 01, 2017
100: Audience Participation & Themes from First 100 Episodes
41:58

Welcome to episode 100 (woohoo!) of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. In this episode, we hear from listeners about what they enjoy about the podcast, favorite episodes and more.

We also look at the overarching themes that have developed since the start of the podcast that includes:

  • Parenting & Relationships
  • Mindfulness
  • Self-Care
  • Perfectionism and Self-Compassion
  • Trauma and Sexual Assault
  • Trauma and Attachment
  • Experiential Therapies
  • Inner Knowing

Thank you to each and every one of you that has supported the podcast for the past two years, I’m truly grateful to have you on this journey with me.

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Aug 30, 2017
99: The Food-Mood Connection
01:18:54

Best of Therapy Chat! Today's interview with author Dr. Leslie Korn, who is a Harvard-trained body-oriented psychotherapist who has worked for four decades to help people understand the connection between physical and emotional health, is the 2nd most popular episode of the first 100! Leslie spoke with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C all the way from Mexico, where she lives and works.

Leslie talks about how she got started doing body-oriented psychotherapy, what she learned in the jungle, and how nutrition can help our mental health. She discusses the connection between trauma and physical and mental health; self care; and her book "Nutrition Essentials for Mental Health". She talks about the "right diet" for everyone, explaining that fat is actually our friend! She explains that she prefers to take the ideology out of nutrition, stating that clinicians can use the science and the art of nutrition to help clients. Leslie discusses the idea of the gut as the second brain.

Leslie answers the question Laura has been wondering about for years. What is the connection between childhood trauma and ACES and long term physical health problems? She clearly explains this for clinicians to understand and explain to clients. And any survivor of childhood trauma who is listening will surely feel empowered to understand this connection from listening to Leslie's very clear explanation.

Finally, Leslie discusses pharmaceuticals "du jour" and diagnoses "du jour" and how the food-mood connection can be in direct conflict with traditional Western ideas about medicine and health. And she explains how the gall bladder plays a role in mental health, and how social justice fits in. In her work with indigenous groups and in the US she has observed the effects of the loss of traditional diets and culture on physical and mental health. And she points out that blood sugar can play a very significant role in mental health, and explains how clinicians can help clients look at this differently.


Dr. Leslie Korn teaches therapists nationally in the US through PESI on multicultural as well as offering supervision and working with clients in Mexico. Her most recent book is Nutrition Essentials for Mental Health, published by Norton; and Rhythms of Recovery: Trauma, Nature and the Body. Her new book will be published in early 2017.  Here's where you can find more of what Dr. Leslie Korn is doing (hint - her new book is out now!):

www.drlesliekorn.com

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Aug 18, 2017
98: Traumatic Stress & Your Health
56:03

Internationally known physician Dr. Gabor Maté joined host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C on this episode of Therapy Chat to help listeners understand why it is important to address trauma occurring in childhood, even during pregnancy. Dr. Maté explains that the effects of trauma on our health endure over a lifetime and even in our genetic code passed on to future generations of our families. He describes how our physical health, mental health and emotional wellbeing are affected by our exposure to childhood trauma and the link between trauma and all kinds of addictions. You'll be fascinated at this expert's explanation of the mind-body connection! 

Episode 98 is the 3rd most popular episode of Therapy Chat, which is celebrating its 2nd birthday in mid-August, 2017 and its 100th episode at the same time! This encore episode was originally released in April, 2017. Tune in to hear Laura Reagan's interview with Dr. Gabor Maté, to learn more about the Therapy Chat app, and to get the details on two communities Laura is creating for trauma therapists. And please support our sponsor, TherapyNotes

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Welcome to episode 79 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week's episode features Dr. Gabor Maté. Dr. Maté is the co-founder of Compassion for Addiction, a new non-profit that focuses on addiction. He is also an advisor of Drugs over Dinner.

As an author, Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction; When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress; and Scattered Minds: A New Look at the Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder, and co-authored Hold on to Your Kids. His works have been published internationally in twenty languages.

In the fall of 2017, Dr. Maté will be launching a brand new website offering online courses in his various areas of expertise. The first course will be a training program for health professionals working with people with addiction.

Dr. Maté explains the connection between childhood traumatic stress at any point in development - even in utero - and mental and physical health and well-being. Beyond a discussion of ACES, he describes the causes of illness and how trauma fits in. Did you know that ADD/ADHD, MS, Prostate cancer, ALS (Lou Gehrig's Disease) and many other diseases, as well as addictions of all kinds are linked to trauma? Gabor's books, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, Scattered, and When the Body Says No go into depth with the research to support his assertions.

Resources

https://drgabormate.com

https://www.compassion4addiction.org

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66cYcSak6nE (Ted Talk)

Here’s a link to the article Dr. Maté mentioned: http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/129/2/e460.short

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Aug 11, 2017
97: Core Emotions & Change Triangle
01:02:22

This month we are celebrating Therapy Chat! Therapy Chat's 2nd birthday is coming up this month, we recently achieved our first month of 50,000 downloads, and the 100th episode is coming out at the end of this month! Listen to my interview with Hilary Jacobs Hendel, which was the 4th most popular episode overall since Therapy Chat started! She talks about accessing core emotions in psychotherapy and her upcoming book, It's Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to your Authentic Self. She also talks about her work consulting on the AMC TV show, Mad Men, one of Laura's favorites for its accurate depiction of someone who is tortured by his past and doesn't realize what is affecting him. 

Visit Hilary's website for all the latest details on what she's up to: https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/ 

Also, go to https://therapychatpodcast.com to leave a message using Speakpipe. Tell Laura which episode is your favorite and why. Your message may be used in the upcoming 100th episode celebration later in August! 

To get the details about the Authentic Self Retreat and the Authentic Therapist Retreat co-hosted by Laura Reagan and Charlotte Hiler Easley, visit: https://laurareaganlcswc.com/retreats-1 

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Aug 04, 2017
96: Expressive Arts: Music Therapy
44:37

Welcome to episode 96 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. My guest this week is Maya Benattar. Maya is a music psychotherapist, but you might also call her a mindfulness mentor, a creativity coach, or a big fan of slowing down. 

Maya helps women who long to experience true clarity and confidence in themselves and their lives, but are held back by anxiety or fear. She supports them in slowing down and exploring their lives creatively so they can make significant changes and discover the strong, confident woman they can be. 

She knows from her own life and many years of helping other women that putting yourself first and asking for help can kick up a lot of fear and shame – but she strongly believes that slowing down and looking inside can help you become strong, passionate, sensitive, and brave. 

As a trained and experienced therapist she has a Masters degree from NYU and is an NYS licensed psychotherapist), she knows a lot about how to slow down your hectic life, explore your dreams and thoughts through mindfulness, play and more (adults need to play too!), and develop new ways of coping creatively. 

Resources 

http://mayabenattar.com  

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Jul 28, 2017
95: Compulsive Sexual Behaviour, Attachment & Shame
47:29

Welcome to episode 95 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. My guest this week is Duane Osterlind.

As co-founder of NOVUS Mindful Life Institute, Duane Osterlind’s vision is to provide comprehensive care for individuals struggling with process addictions in the utmost confidential, comprehensive and caring environment to ensure clients feel safe and accepted with anticipation that recovery is possible.

Duane has over eight years of experience as a therapist helping individuals find hope and healing. He received his Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from California State University, Long Beach. He has also trained with Patrick Carnes, P.hD., a leading expert in the treatment of sexual addiction issues and author of “Out of the Shadows”. He is a member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT), and the Society of Sexual Health (SASH). MFT#44567

Duane’s clinical focus is on treating individuals and couples struggling with process addictions using a mindfulness and task centered approach. He facilitates the Men’s Sexual Addiction Process Group and well as a DBT group for individuals struggling with anxiety and depression.

Resources

http://theaddictedmind.com

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Jul 20, 2017
94: Attachment, Meditation, Yoga & Compassion In Trauma Therapy
47:20

Welcome to episode 94 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. My guest this week is Deirdre Fay, MSW, LICSW, who integrates trauma and attachment theory with yoga and meditation in embodiment. She is also the founder of the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills and maintains a private practice in Arlington, MA.

The work she does arises out of her life. What she knows is grounded in her own healing as well as rigorous training as a psychotherapist looking for answers and ways to help others navigate the often-difficult terrain of healing trauma and attachment wounds.

Deirdre knows what it’s like to make that journey. She did it dealing with her own history of trauma and as she searched for answers to relational and attachment issues. During the course of her life, she was lucky to have lived for six years in a spiritual community [Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health] which surrounded her with a nurturing environment. That experience grounded Deirdre in her commitment to finding ways to help other people.

The Becoming Safely Embodied Skills were born during those years and came to fruition as she worked with trauma survivors in Boston both in her private practice and in hospital settings. She wanted to develop easy to apply take home skills that people could use when they weren’t in therapy.

Resources

https://dfay.com

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Jul 14, 2017
93: Experiential Therapy, Vulnerability & Trusting The Process
50:25

Laura recaps on common themes that have emerged throughout previous episodes and also talks further about equine-assisted therapy and the benefits of spending times with horses.

Now 44 years old, Laura is more determined than ever to increase the amount of time she spends with horses, whilst her body has changed quite a bit since she first rode a horse when she was 13, it's safe to say that her heart hasn't changed much, if at all, as she learned through this experience.

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Jul 07, 2017
92: The Emotionally Absent Mother & The Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect
52:30

Welcome to episode 92 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. My guest this week is Jasmin Lee Cori, who speaks to me about emotionally absent mothers and the affects of childhood emotional neglect.

Jasmin became a therapist at the tender age of 24 and didn’t last long, as might be expected for someone who had yet to do her own healing work. When she reached 40, she uncovered childhood trauma, which began her journey of descent. She was a student of The Diamond Approach at that time, a spiritual school conversant with the intertwining of psychological and spiritual work. She was discovering her deeper essence at the same time she was dropping into dark places she hadn’t known were there; so during that time heaven and hell were unfolding simultaneously.

This continued, with yet deeper dips into both. She lost her voice, job and suffered significant health challenges and financial struggle. Yet in the midst of being flattened, sick in bed, she midwifed a book of mystical poetry in a matter of months.

Since she is a writer whose personal experience deeply informs her work, the result of this descent was authoring two books that changed her life: Healing from Trauma and The Emotionally Absent Mother. These books were healing not only for her but for tens of thousands who have read them.

Resources

http://www.jasmincori.com

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Jun 30, 2017
91: What Is Soul Care & How Do We Do It?
43:15

Welcome to episode 91 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. My guest this week is Chonteau McElvin, who has been described as modern day medicine woman.

Chonteau wears many hats but her main reason for being on the planet is to assist in the awakening and remembrance that we are all connected and the time to step into our brilliance is now. In her early 20’s she received a vision and was told by Spirit that she was a teacher and healer of the old ways. This is when her modern day Shamanic training began. She completed her formal education as a Social Worker, followed in the footsteps of her father and became a Naturalist. At 20, her father taught her how to do self-hypnotism and she began to hone her skills as a Mindfulness Practition er, Folk Healer, and Herbalist.

For as long as she can remember she has been giving to others. As a child, she remembers being a volunteer for Meals on Wheels, she served lunch to “at risk” children. The spirit of service was instilled in her at an early age. What was not instilled in her, was the spirit of self-care. When tough times arrived, she did not know how to navigate her way through it. She did not know what it meant to take care of herself.

Twelve years ago, when she suffered major personal losses, she was forced to evaluate her self-care and spiritual practices, and something amazing happened, she put “spirituality into action” and soul self-care became a way of life. She wishes she could tell you life transitions are easier when you are a Lightworker or Alternative Healer, when in fact, our need for soul nourishment is greater because of all we give. For those of us who are constantly giving to others, there does not always seem to be a safe place to our deep soul work. This can leave us feeling frustrated, fragmented and lonely, which equates to, an inability to be fully present with our clients, families and most importantly ourselves.

Resources

http://chonteau.com

Therapy Chat EP04 with Chonteau

Jun 23, 2017
90: Psychospiritual Therapy - Coming Home To The Soul
38:54

Welcome to episode 90 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. In this week's episode, I speak to Margot Borden about psychospiritual therapy, combining eastern approaches and western psychology and find out more about her new book “psychology in the light of the east”.

Margot Borden has been working internationally as a psychotherapist since 1986 and specializes in an approach called Integral Psychotherapy. Read more about Integral Psychotherapy.

Margot completed her first personal development training in 1985 and began her professional psychotherapy practice in 1986. In addition to earning a Master of Arts in Humanistic Counseling at the University of Durham, UK, Margot continues to participate in professional training and certification programs.

Margot has a long-term dedication to personal and professional exploration of the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual aspects of human consciousness. Her search involves ongoing exploration and experience of many psychological and spiritual traditions, experiential therapies as well as Eastern meditation and yogic techniques. Her success in helping clients is the result of her integrated understanding and application.

Resources

http://margotborden.com

https://www.amazon.com/Psychology-Light-Margot-Esther-Borden/dp/1442260262

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Jun 16, 2017
89: Connecting With Your Inner Wisdom To Process Emotions & Access Self-Compassion Using Journaling
49:03

Welcome to episode 89 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. In this week's episode, I’m delighted to welcome back Lisa Ferentz who speaks to me about her new book Finding Your Ruby Slippers: Transformative Life Lessons from the Therapist which looks at how you can overcome everyday obstacles, boost confidence, and end self-critical thoughts with simple life lessons.

Lisa is a recognized expert in the strengths-based, depathologized treatment of trauma and has been in private practice for 32 years. She presents workshops and keynote addresses nationally and internationally, and is a clinical consultant to practitioners and mental health agencies in the United States, Canada, and the UK.

She has been an Adjunct Faculty member at University of Maryland School of Social Work, University of Baltimore at Maryland, University of Maryland Department of Family Medicine, and is the Founder of The Ferentz Institute, formerly known as The Institute for Advanced Psychotherapy Training and Education, now going into its tenth year of providing continuing education to mental health professionals and graduating over 800 clinicians from her two Certificate Programs in Advanced Trauma Treatment.

In 2009, she was voted the “Social Worker of Year” by the Maryland Society for Clinical Social Work. Lisa is the author of Treating Self-Destructive Behaviors in Traumatized Clients: A Clinician’s Guide, now in its second edition, and Letting Go of Self-Destructive Behaviors: A Workbook of Hope and Healing. Her next book, “Finding Your Ruby Slippers: Transformative Life Lessons from the Therapist’s Couch,” will be out in January 2017. Lisa hosted a weekly radio talk show in 2014—2015. She writes for Psychologytoday.com and publishes her own blog. You can follow Lisa’s work on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Twitter.

Resources

https://www.theferentzinstitute.com

https://www.amazon.com/Finding-Your-Ruby-Slippers-Transformative/dp/1683730429

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Jun 09, 2017
88: Just When the Caterpillar Thought The World Had Ended It Became A Butterfly
37:16

Welcome to episode 88 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. In this week's episode, I speak to Stephanie Macadaan, LMFT about how we can turn some of the most negative experiences in our lives to a source of strength, the need to not shield ourselves from negative experiences and stepping out of our comfort zones to further our personal growth.

Stephanie Macadaan, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, providing individual and couples counseling in Los Angeles, California. She first became interested in studying psychology when many of her own life experiences fueled her fascination with the minds and behaviors found with each of us. Through her studies, she found she was on the path to discovering herself, which led to great personal growth and more happiness.

The profound changes she underwent drove her passion to help others, and she was compelled to become a therapist. She knows from her own experience what it’s like to be open and to create powerful change that reverberates into all areas of your life.

She's drawn to working with people starting anew, whether it’s getting your feet back on the ground after a break-up or together with your partner trying to decide the future of your relationship or find each other again.

Resources

https://therapywithstephanie.com

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Jun 02, 2017
87: Why Is It So Hard To Let Go When Our Kids Transition to Adulthood?
20:10

Some points to ponder if you are struggling to let go.

What was it like for you to move out of your parents’ home and into adulthood? Did you go to college? Did you live with your parents past the age of 18? When were you ready to move out? Were your parents ready for you to go before you were ready? Or were you ready to go before your parents wanted you to leave?

Individuation is a developmental task every young adult must complete in order to become an independent and self sufficient adult. Some families discourage individuation by refusing to allow children and adolescents to express their own individuality. Conformity is highly valued and dissent is not tolerated. These parent/child relationships can be described as enmeshed, when the child and the parent are not felt to be independent people, but rather the children are seen by the parents as an extension of the parents. When you make a mistake, I feel ashamed that you have embarrassed the family. Some kids rebel and express themselves through their appearance. The parents may believe that everyone should wear khaki pants and navy blue shirts and have traditional hairstyles, but the child wants to dress in all black with long purple hair and a safety pin through his lip.  Parents may see this as disrespectful and a power struggle escalates to the point where the child is kicked out of the house by the time they are 18, if not earlier. Do you know how to allow your child to leave home with grace and joy, rather than a big fight? If your parents were angry at you for wanting to be an independent adult, you might react the same way towards your kid without even realizing it.

Have you allowed your child opportunities to make mistakes? To experience failure? Or have you taken care of everything and made sure your child wouldn’t have the opportunity to screw up? If they did screw up (as most of us do at some point as teenagers) did you make it all better for them or did they have to experience the consequences of their actions?  We can help them with how they feel about such experiences, being supportive and allowing them to express their emotions, but if we intervene to the point that they don’t feel the consequences at all, they miss out on the chance to learn from the mistake. Maybe you didn’t take care of everything so they wouldn’t have the opportunity to screw up, but rather you were careful to control every situation so the possibility of failure just didn’t come up. So what happens when they inevitably do face failure? It is painful, no doubt. We want to protect our children from experiencing pain. But can we trust that we have raised them well enough that they will be able to handle adversity and that they can live through painful experiences, even though they may hate every minute of it? Because there is literally no way we can protect our children from every painful experience. It just isn’t possible.

What was it like for you when you went out on your own? Did you struggle? Did bad things happen? What kind of healing work have you done to address the pain of those struggles?  If you are terrified that what happened to you will happen to your child, it might be a good time to get some therapy.  It’s normal to feel this way, but if it’s interfering with YOU being okay, therapy can help. 

I realized when my oldest child went to college (and it is coming up again as I am about to send my daughter off to school) that it pretty much drove me crazy not to know what my kid was doing all the time. Not seeing them daily and being able to look into their eyes and sense whether they are okay or not felt like a loss of control. I didn’t realize how much I needed to feel in control in that way until I lost the ability to see my oldest daily. So I worried, and worried, and worried, and monitored social media, and worried and worried and waited and waited for something bad to happen. My child would tell me he was okay but I didn’t know if he really was. I tried to hide my anxiety from him but I was a ball of nerves, as any of my friends can tell you, for the entire first semester he was at college. I think I finally calmed down at Thanksgiving and it felt great when he came home for winter break. How stressful it must have been for him to have his mother so anxious!!! He might have wondered if he would be okay since I seemed to be so worried about it. Or maybe he worried about taking care of my emotions. Or felt burdened by them. I had something I needed to take care of, because this was a lot harder for me than it needed to be. There were some 18 to 20 year old parts of me that needed attention. Instead of obsessing about my son, I turned my attention inward and got help to deal with my emotions. Most of us therapists go to therapy off and on throughout our adult lives, whenever something flares up that needs attention. This is how I have grown so much personally and professionally over the past 15 years or so (and I still have a long way to go!). It helped a lot. And it is helping now as I struggle with letting go of my daughter. New awarenesses are awakening for me. Just when I thought I had it all figured out!

You know, it’s funny, when you have been a parent for 20 years you get really used to the reality that you can’t just go and do what you want because there are people who are depending on you to come home, make sure they get fed, be there for them physically and emotionally, help them when they need it. If you had the thought that you wanted to go out to dinner with friends after work and maybe have some drinks, you would need to make arrangements for someone to take care of the kids, or, if they are old enough to stay home alone, you’d need to make sure they have something to eat for dinner, that they are on top of their homework, and that they know when you’ll be back. 

It’s a real shift in identity when you are not defined by being “Mom.” I know I am a mother, wife, therapist, friend, student learning to ride horses, a dog’s best friend…but the role of parent has been so big and important for the last 20 years that I will need some time to adjust to having that role take up less of my physical, mental and emotional energy.

So where I am right now is that I am experiencing being home with my husband this week, with no kids, and we can do what we want. We can go where we want, when we want, with no one to consider but each other and ourselves. This is because right now my youngest is off at the beach with friends all week and my oldest is away at college, and he isn’t coming home this summer.  So I can do what I want. So what is that? Mostly we are going to work and back. I have always had hobbies and interests, but the easiest thing to do is to work. So I don’t want to overwork because while that may be my go-to, it’s not good for me. I don’t really watch that much TV…I can read, but not a work related book….what would I like to do? If I really check in with myself what I want to do, what feels right to do is wait. And worry. Until my kid comes home, hopefully all in one piece.  Just wait, suspended animation. I’ll be right here so if something happens I can spring into action. Even though she is not close enough for me to do anything if she does have a problem, at least not immediately. That is what I want to do. I’ll be right over here, waiting and worrying. You may see me wringing my hands and pacing, just ignore it. However, that is really not what I should do either. So far my two choices seem to be overwork or obsessive worry. Okayyyyyyy….there’s got to be something else. Well it’s too late to go to the gym but I can do that tomorrow morning. That will help, I know this. Then tomorrow night after work, uhhhh….I had some good ideas about fun things to do when my daughter goes to college, but right now I can’t remember any of them. Just this worry.

What I don’t want to do is sit with the discomfort. One of my least favorite things, sitting with uncertainty, is something I try to avoid by distracting myself. I know we all do this. It’s uncomfortable so we avoid it. I am really good at doing this by filling all of my time up so there is no time in between to feel. I could keep myself from feeling almost all the time this week if I stay busy enough but I don’t want that. I do want to feel. I don’t know if my daughter will be okay at college. I don’t know if my son will be okay either. I don’t know anything that is going to happen, if I’m being honest. We don’t know. We don’t have any control. Fear of the unknown can drive our behavior if we aren’t paying attention.

So now I remember what I need to do. First, take a deep breath in, then breathe out. Then do it again. Repeat a few more times. Everything automatically feels better when I do that. I have to remind myself because when anxiety is taking over I forget. I could reach out to a supportive friend. I have many – a perk of being a therapist. Therapists for friends.  There is something else that I can remind myself. I ask myself, “what can I control?” The answer is, I can control me. I can’t control situations my daughter and son will encounter or how they feel. But I can control taking care of me and how I feel. If I attend to my emotions then I can remain calm and centered (or return to that state) in stressful situations. My kids will be able to trust me, and they will be able to come to me for help when things inevitably happen. They can trust that I will be able to handle my own emotions so they won’t have to put aside their own feelings to take care of mine. It’s always been important that my kids not feel like it is their responsibility to take care of my emotions.

There is no question that I am happy that my daughter graduated. I am so proud of her and she has an amazing future ahead of her. She needs to do this, it is what she should do, and what we have hoped for her. So I need to take care of me so I can be present for her. You can do the same with your young person transitioning to adulthood. Here’s an easy shortcut. Start out with your feet on the floor, close your eyes or look down and take a long deep inhale. Exhale slowly. Repeat the long inhale. Then exhale slowly. One more long deep inhale. Exhale slowly. Now, turn your attention inward. In your mind, ask yourself what you are feeling. Tune in to that emotion, even if you don’t like what it is. See if you can allow that feeling instead of trying to push it away. Breathe into it. Just be with that. Next, in your mind, ask yourself “what do I need right now?” and notice what comes up. It may be a word, a feeling, a person that comes to mind. Once you get an answer for what you need, consider if there is a way to give it to yourself. It can be so comforting to simply place a hand on your heart and feel the warmth of it resting there. Or to take your right hand and place it on your left arm, just below the shoulder and rub. Doing this does not change what is, but it allows some space to have a different perspective about what’s happening. In that space there is an opportunity for self compassion.

The point that I hope you are taking away from this is simple. Our feelings about our children growing up are normal, and they are not about the child. The difficulty I am having adjusting to my daughter leaving in a few months is not really about her, it’s about me. She is doing her normal developmental task. I am grieving the loss of childhood, the loss of daily in person connection, and anticipating pain that hasn’t happened yet. Maybe it won’t happen. Most likely it won’t happen in the exact way that I’m worrying it will happen. But I am really grieving my own experiences that maybe I didn’t deal with the first time around because I wasn’t ready in terms of my emotional development at the time.  Now it is time to take care of that younger me.

And one thing I know is that this uncomfortable place I am in is part of the process of me coming to terms with what is. I don’t like feeling this way, but part of the path from where I was to where I will be is this part. I don’t like it, I want it to go away, but you can’t skip the middle part. Later this month I will post a bonus episode on the subject of rising up out of the muck, that messy middle part of life that we don’t enjoy but which makes it richer and helps us grow. As they say, everything you want in life happens outside of your comfort zone.

And if you are struggling with the change in identity as your kids grow older, consider getting some counseling! It really helps. If you’re in the Baltimore area visit my website laurareaganlcswc.com to find out about working with me or another therapist in my office.

Resources

http://www.therapychatpodcast.com

Daring Greatly by Brené Brown

Rising Strong by Brené Brown

Self Compassion by Kristin Neff

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May 26, 2017
86: Navigating Your Child's Transition to Adulthood:
33:44

Welcome to episode 86 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. In this week's episode, I’m flying solo to talk about coping with loss during transitions, my thoughts and feelings and ways to improve how you feel through this transitional period in your life.  

This week is an exciting one for our family, as our oldest child graduates from high school in a few days. It's a joyful and exciting time - but there are some underlying feelings of sadness and loss which have caught me by surprise.  I know that many of you are experiencing a similar transition in the life of your family, as graduation and wedding season begin. I thought I'd share my thoughts and feelings, and how I'm coping with the changes, in hopes that it will be helpful to you, too.

As I've been eagerly anticipating his graduation I've been very proud and excited for my child. My thoughts are that this is a wonderful milestone in his life.  I'm so happy that he has successfully completed his high school career and that he plans to go to college in the Fall. I have high hopes for what this young man will accomplish as he matures. I am looking forward to seeing what he decides to do for his career after college. I know that this is a normal developmental process, in which my child will leave the nest to become a fully realized adult. Although it does not happen overnight with this event, this milestone is an extremely important rite of passage in our culture. I want him to move through this process, because it's what is right for him developmentally. But...he's my baby!

I knew something was wrong when I noticed that I didn't seem to have any feelings about the graduation. I actually felt kind of numb. I knew intellectually that I felt happy and excited and maybe a little sad because he won't be living at home with us for most of the next four years. But I didn't feel it. In fact I was telling myself that it is not time to feel sad yet, because graduation is a happy time, and going away to college is something that will happen later this summer, so I can feel it then. Ha ha! Joke's on me! 

Read the full show notes here - https://www.laurareaganlcswc.com/connectwithyourtrueselfblog/2015/5/24/letting-go-part-1

Resources

http://www.therapychatpodcast.com

http://therapynotes.com

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May 19, 2017
85: Shaming Parents Only Makes Things Worse!
39:15

Welcome to episode 85 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. In this week's episode, I’m delighted to welcome back the first ever guest of the podcast; Mercedes Samudio who speaks to me about parent shaming, how culture plays into what we view is ok and not ok and the need to help parents and not label them as bad people.

Mercedes Samudio is a parent coach who supports parents and children to communicate with each other, manage emotional trauma, navigate social media and technology together, and develop healthy parent-child relationships. As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with a private parent coaching practice, Mercedes has worked with adoptive families, foster families, teen parents, parents navigating the child protective services system, and children living with mental illness. Mercedes seeks to empower parents to believe that they are already great guides for raising healthy and happy children.

Being raised by someone who was not her biological mother (but who she called mom) really shaped how she saw myself, how she saw families, and how she saw parenting. And, it also put her on the path to figuring out how to support and heal families.

Whether you are a biological parent or not, being in a family system is complicated. As she healed her own relationship with her mother (a relationship she talks about in her book), and as she began to work with more and more families professionally, she realized that so many parents crumble under the pressure of being shamed, not knowing if they’re doing this parenting thing right, and struggling to connect with themselves and their children.

Resources

https://shameproofparenting.com

https://shameproofparenting.com/buybook

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May 12, 2017
84: Bonus Episode - 4 Reasons Mother's Day Can Be Hard & How To Help Yourself Through It
18:31

Welcome to episode 84 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. In this week's episode, I talk about Mother’s Day.

As another Mother's Day approaches, you may be feeling a little less than enthusiastic about the big day. No need to feel guilty if it doesn't feel joyful to you. You're not alone! Most of my clients and a good number of my friends share that they have mixed feelings about Mother's Day too. This post is for all of you out there who hate the second Sunday in May for whatever reason. And there can be lots of reasons!

There are so many reasons why people find negative emotions coming up near Mother's Day. Here are some that I hear frequently, along with a few suggestions for dealing with these feelings. Feel free to share any ideas I missed in the comments below.

4 reasons why people say they hate Mother's Day:

"I hate Mother's Day because my mom's not here. Mother's Day reminds me how much I miss her and makes me wish I could tell her one more time how much I love her."

Maybe you were close with your mom and she passed away. Or maybe you weren't as close as you wanted to be, and her death left a lot of unresolved feelings about the relationship. You might feel the loss even more acutely on Mother's Day, even if her death was a long time ago. Maybe you were adopted and you want to connect with your birth mother. The marketing of Mother's Day means you see and hear commercials which tug at your heartstrings. Be gentle with yourself, knowing that you are sad about her loss. Allow yourself to feel your feelings on this tough day. Ask yourself what you can do in remembrance or to honor her. Think about what would make you feel nurtured, and do that, whether it's lying on the sofa wrapped in a cozy blanket watching Steel Magnolias, or going roller skating with your best friend, or cuddling with a puppy at the local animal shelter. Maybe your most special friends or family are not nearby. Can you call, video chat or text them? I'm sure you know what makes you feel loved and taken care of. Do that!

"Mother's Day is hard for me because I have always wanted to be a mom and I'm dealing with infertility."

Infertility can feel very isolating, especially if your friends and family members are getting pregnant and having babies, and you have miscarried or had trouble conceiving. Even if you have made the decision not to have children, or you have delivered a baby or adopted after experiencing infertility or pregnancy loss, Mother's Day can stir up a lot of mixed feelings. Many people say they feel no one understands what they're going through. It might be helpful to spend this day doing something that feels comforting to you. Don't worry about what other people are posting on social media today. Honor your own experience in a way that feels right to you. Are you part of a support group, in person or online? If not, would you like to find one? The National Infertility Association has a list of helplines and support groups as well as a number of other resources on its website. Through The Heart has ideas for coping on its website.

"I feel sad seeing everyone's Facebook posts saying they love their moms so much, and my mom was never there for me emotionally when I was a child. We still don't have a good relationship. I am mad at her for not taking better care of me."

I specialize in working with people who have experienced some kind of abuse or neglect in childhood. Therefore, many of my clients find Mother's Day triggers their trauma symptoms. Our culture places such importance of the mother role! Many people who are disappointed in their relationships with their moms also feel guilty about having those feelings. It is okay to feel however you feel about your mom. You do not have to pretend your relationship with her is different from how it truly is just because of Mother's Day. Here's a podcast episode I did on being estranged from important loved ones you may find helpful.

This is a good time to do what makes you feel special. If you have a partner, letting that person know this is a tough day for you and asking for extra support can be helpful. You can nurture yourself, even if you were not nurtured as a child. If you need extra support with this, therapy can be helpful. Here's a podcast episode on how childhood emotional neglect can make us feel as if we have a "fatal flaw" making us unlovable.

"I am a single mother and no one supports me on Mother's Day or any other time of the year."

Mother's Day might feel just like any other day if you have little kids and no partner to make sure that you are celebrated on this day. I'll add it might be just like any other day, with an extra dose of resentment about feeling overworked and unappreciated. Once again, I recommend you try to do what you can to take care of you. Your kids will understand everything you do for them when they're older, but for now, they don't get it. Reaching out to a friend who is also a single mom could be helpful. Maybe it would feel nice for you and your kids to get together with a mom friend and her kids. While the kids play you can provide one another with moral support. Or maybe you can take your kids to the park, so they can play while you get a bit of respite. Do you have any family or friends who would be willing to watch the kids so you can do something that makes you feel special on Sunday?

A couple more things that might help:

I have two more recommendations that might make the day easier if you struggle on Mother's Day. First, it might be wise to avoid social media that day and the day after. Just like on Valentine's Day, Mother's Day is a notorious day to catch a bad case of comparison-itis when you see what your friends on social media are posting. There will be "perfect" family photos, flowers, and many photos of the fabulous brunches that someone's wonderful spouse or kids treated them to on Mother's Day. I'm not taking anything away from your friends and the wonderful Mother's Day experience they want to share on social media, but if you know this is going to be tough for you, it might help to just not look that Sunday and Monday.

My second recommendation is to try this meditation if you need a little Loving-Kindness (Metta) in your life.

To begin, sit comfortably on a chair or meditation cushion, with your feet on the floor or legs crossed. Sit up tall and breathe deeply for three inhales and three exhales. Bring your awareness to your heart and try to recall loving feelings from someone who made you feel nurtured. Slowly repeat these words:
Click on the image to visit my website where you can listen to and download two free guided meditations.
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May I be safe.

May I be happy.

May I be kind to myself.

May I be free of suffering.

Notice what feelings arise. You may feel the loving kindness spread over your body. You may also notice that sadness or anger are felt. Do not try to push these feelings away, but just notice them. If you can allow yourself to feel them you might find that they pass. Continue taking deep breaths in and out, and just notice how you feel. There is no right or wrong way to feel. This simple practice can be done for a minute or two, or for longer if you wish. It is up to you.

I hope the meditation I have described above will offer some comfort, even if you hate Mother's Day. If you'd like more guided meditations, Here is a link to two free meditations on my website.

If you have a reason for hating Mother's Day that I didn't mention, please comment below! I'd also love to hear of any other ideas you may know of that are helpful in getting through Mother's Day if it's a hard day for you. And please remember that you are not alone.

Find this in blog post format here: https://www.laurareaganlcswc.com/connectwithyourtrueselfblog/2015/5/5/hate-mothers-day-this-ones-for-you

With loving kindness,

Laura Reagan, LCSW-C

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May 10, 2017
83: Maternal Health - What Moms & Therapists Need To Know
01:03:20

Welcome to episode 83 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. In this week's episode, I speak to Dr. Kat Kaeni about the issue of Maternal Mental Health, which is all about your mental health during conception, pregnancy, miscarriage or loss, birth and postpartum.

Dr. Kat is a psychologist, who helps you find ways out of suffering or confusion and into wellness. People go to her psychotherapy practice when they are struggling with things in their life and want to feel better. Her style of working with people is to be real and keep therapy down to earth. In her sessions, she uses compassion, insight, and empathy in addition to her education and training to guide your healing. Her belief is that therapy should not be a mysterious process. She believes that you have the ability to get better. Sometimes we just need a little help; sometimes we need a lot of help.

You may have heard of postpartum depression already. There are other things that most folks don’t know about…It’s not always rainbows and puppy dogs, like we are meant to think it’s “supposed to be”. For about 20% of women, the transition into parenthood can lead to severe mood changes. There are things that don’t go as planned such as: Pregnancy or postpartum depression, anxiety, trauma, OCD and less frequently, bipolar disorder or psychosis. These are serious, but very treatable conditions.

In this episode, Dr. Kat talks about how this is a more common issue than people realize, how you can identify the symptoms of maternal mental health and ways in which to prevent these disorders.

Resources

https://drkaeni.com

http://momandmind.com

http://www.postpartum.net

http://www.postpartumprogress.com

https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/ppd-gone/id529141505?mt=8 (PPD Gone App)

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May 05, 2017
82: Love Relationships When One Partner Is Anxious
46:50

Welcome to episode 82 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. In this week's episode, I speak to Carolyn Daitch, Ph.D. who has been a psychologist in private practice for more than 30 years. She is a psychologist, trainer, author and presenter, and the director of the Center for the Treatment of Anxiety Disorders in Farmington Hills, Michigan.

Dr. Daitch is a consultant with the University of Michigan School of Medicine’s Department of Complementary and Alternative Research. She has served three terms on the Executive Council of the American Society of Clinical Hypnosis (ASCH) and as a member-at-large, Psychology. She has also been elected an officer in Division 30, of the American Psychological Association. She was the Educational co-chair of the Society of Clinical and Experimental Hypnosis. Dr. Daitch is the recipient of two Presidential awards from the American Society of Clinical Hypnosis for her writing, teaching, and contributions to ASCH. She is also past-president of the Michigan Society of Clinical Hypnosis, from whom she was honored with a lifetime achievement award in 2008.

In 2007, Dr. Daitch published the award-winning Affect Regulation Toolbox: Practical and Effective Hypnotic Interventions for the Over-reactive Client (W.W. Norton), which has received international acclaim. She is a contributing author of Clinical Pearls of Wisdom: Leading Therapists Offer Their Key Insights (W.W. Norton, 2010). Dr. Daitch is also the author of Anxiety Disorders: The Go-To Guide for Clients and Therapists (W.W. Norton, 2011), and co-author of Anxious in Love: How to Manage Your Anxiety, Reduce Conflict and Reconnect with Your Partner (New Harbinger, 2012). Her newest project is The Road to Calm Workbook: Life-Changing Tools to Stop Runaway Emotions (W.W. Norton, In Press).

In this episode, Dr. Daitch talks further about anxiety, how it can affect relationships and ways in which couples can communicate better to overcome this issue.

Resources

http://carolyndaitchphd.com

https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Love-Anxiety-Conflict-Reconnect/dp/1608822311/ref=sr_1_4?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1435380113&sr=1-4&keywords=carolyn+daitch

canxietydisorders@me.com

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Apr 28, 2017
81: Trauma Isn't Always What You Think It Is
19:01

Welcome to episode 81 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week's episode is a solo episode with myself expanding more on trauma, what you think it is: and what you can do if you have experienced it.

If you listened to episode 79 with Dr. Gabor Maté, you’ll be interested in this episode, in that episode we defined what trauma was, but there is still confusion around what trauma is, so I hope this episode will help in explaining further what trauma is and the issues around it.

When you hear the word "trauma," what do you think of? If you're like most people, you probably imagine that people experience the effects of trauma after a plane crash, surviving a fire, a major car accident, or participating in military combat. It's true that all of those things can cause someone to experience trauma symptoms, but there are many other traumatic experiences which are more common in the general population that we don't always recognize as being traumatic.

I must point out, though, that I have talked to many people who have survived house fires or military combat. Most often when I describe that these experiences - which you and I can pretty much agree, can we not, are considered by most people to be experiences fitting the definition of trauma - could have been traumatic, the person sitting with me in the therapy room will say, "I don't really think of it as traumatic. I mean, so many people have been through much worse."

There is a reason why that statement is so interesting, which I explain in the podcast… Enjoy!

Resources

Episode 79: Childhood Traumatic Stress: The Mind-Body Connection http://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/show/baltimoreannapolispsychotherapypodcast/id/5241791

Episode 25: What Is Childhood Emotional Neglect? - https://www.laurareaganlcswc.com/connectwithyourtrueselfblog/2016/3/21/therapy-chat-podcast

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Apr 21, 2017
80: Nature As Co-Therapist
50:04

Welcome to episode 80 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week's episode features Amy Sugeno, LCSW, PLLC.

If you listened to episode 79 with Dr. Gabor Maté, you’ll be interested in this interview with Amy Sugeno, LCSW of Marble Falls, Texas, who is a clinical eco-therapist. Amy talks about what Eco Therapy is, the research on its use and effectiveness with depression and anxiety, stress relief, ADHD, grounding and self-regulation for trauma survivors.

Amy explains that Eco Therapy can take many forms, including animal-assisted (for example, canine and equine) therapies, wilderness therapies, walk and talk therapy, horticulture therapy and clinical eco-therapy in an office, as well as many other possibilities. She explains that this is a depth-oriented type of psychotherapy which can be very powerful. Amy describes how she conducts an eco-therapy session what to wear and what a client can expect overall. She and Laura discuss the power dynamics of the therapy relationship and how Eco Therapy can help create a balance.

For the past 10 years, Amy has worked to help people heal from trauma. Most of her work has been with adults and teens affected by interpersonal violence and sexual abuse. Over the years, she has also worked with people struggling with suicidal thoughts, self-harming behaviors, eating disorders, homelessness, chronic mental illness, and substance abuse.

In this episode, you will hear Amy talk about the positive benefits of Eco Therapy, forest bathing and the shared vulnerability Eco Therapy can create between Amy and her client.

Resources

Amy’s website: http://www.amysugenocounseling.com/

The Animas Institute www.animas.org

Episode 78 with Lanie Smith on Eco Art Therapy: http://traffic.libsyn.com/baltimoreannapolispsychotherapypodcast/EP78_LanieSmith.mp3

Episode 79 with Dr. Gabor Maté on the effects of traumatic stress during development:  http://traffic.libsyn.com/baltimoreannapolispsychotherapypodcast/TherapyChat_EP79_GaborMate.mp3

Amy’s previous interview on Therapy Chat on Attachment: http://traffic.libsyn.com/baltimoreannapolispsychotherapypodcast/Amy_Sugeno_final.mp3

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Apr 14, 2017
79: Childhood Traumatic Stress: The Mind-Body Connection
51:08

 

Welcome to episode 79 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week's episode features Dr. Gabor Maté. Dr. Maté is the co-founder of Compassion for Addiction, a new non-profit that focuses on addiction. He is also an advisor of Drugs over Dinner.

As an author, Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction; When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress; and Scattered Minds: A New Look at the Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder, and co-authored Hold on to Your Kids. His works have been published internationally in twenty languages.

For twelve years Dr. Maté worked in Vancouver’s Downtown Eastside with patients challenged by hard-core drug addiction, mental illness and HIV, including at Vancouver’s Supervised Injection Site. With over 20 years of family practice and palliative care experience and extensive knowledge of the latest findings of leading-edge research, Dr. Maté is a sought-after speaker and teacher, regularly addressing health professionals, educators, and lay audiences throughout North America.

In the fall of 2017, Dr. Maté will be launching a brand new website offering online courses in his various areas of expertise. The first course will be a training program for health professionals working with people with addiction.

Dr. Maté explains the connection between childhood traumatic stress at any point in development - even in utero - and mental and physical health and well-being. Beyond a discussion of ACES, he describes the causes of illness and how trauma fits in. Did you know that ADD/ADHD, MS, Prostate cancer, ALS (Lou Gehrig's Disease) and many other diseases, as well as addictions of all kinds are linked to trauma? Gabor's books, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, Scattered, and When the Body Says No go into depth with the research to support his assertions.

Resources

https://drgabormate.com

https://www.compassion4addiction.org

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66cYcSak6nE (Ted Talk)

Article Dr. Maté referenced: "An Integrated Scientific Framework for Child Survival and Early Childhood Development" from Pediatrics, February 2012, Vol 129, Issue 2.

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Apr 07, 2017
78: Eco-Art Therapy
41:58

Welcome to episode 78 of the Therapy Chat Podcast with host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C. This week's episode features Lanie Smith.  

Lanie Smith is the founder of Integrative Art Therapy in Phoenix, AZ helping kids, teens and adults express themselves through art to improve wellness. Art therapy is the creative process of art-making to improve and enhance the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being of individuals of all ages. The creative process offers an outlet for self-expression and helps to resolve conflicts, develop interpersonal skills, manage behavior, reduce stress, increase self-esteem/awareness, and alter the brain state to improve overall functioning.

As an Eco-Art Therapist and the owner/founder of Integrative Art Therapy, she has watched so many clients learn how to “bring the inside out and the outside in.” Her passion is to help you recognize your own innate beauty and wisdom as it’s reflected in the trees, mountains, wildlife, and in your own creativity.

Her practice is designed to move clients out of chronic stress, overwhelm, and defensive reactivity into a sense of calm and inner peace; beyond the use of coping techniques. Ultimately, her clients shed unnecessary protective layers in order to become who they truly are. Together, they decide on what changes are needed and collaborate on the best path to reach the final destination, using EcoArt Therapy as the vehicle.

In this episode, you will hear Lanie speak about what integrative art therapy involves, her work with eco-art therapy in dreamy draw mountain and her work can be used to support self-care.

Resources

https://integrativearttherapy.net

http://www.ecobuddhism.org/wisdom/psyche_and_spirit/james_hillman

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Eco-Art-Therapy-Creative-Activities-Earth/dp/0615901476

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mindfulness-Based-Ecotherapy-Workbook-Charlton-LMFT-S/dp/1514840103

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Mar 31, 2017