Over It And On With It

By Christine Hassler

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Amy
 Jan 9, 2021
This show is so amazing! So inspiring and informative and healing. Thank you Christine!!! I appreciate all you share!!!

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Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.

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CC: How to Navigate, Resolve and Prevent Conflict with Jayson Gaddis
56:18
If you avoid or dread conflict or find you have too much of it in your life, you will find this episode so helpful! Jayson Gaddis is here to talk about his new book Getting To Zero: How to Work through Conflicts in your High-Stake Relationships and teach us SO much about how to have healthier relationships.  He is a relationship expert and sought-after coach, as well as the Founder of The Relationship School and host of the successful Relationship School podcast. Jayson leads the most comprehensive relationship training in the world of intimate relationships and partnership, as well as trains and certifies relationship coaches. He has a master’s in psychology and lives with his wife and two children in Boulder, Colorado.
 
Get the book and free goodies here:  https://www.gettingtozerobook.com/
Oct 16, 2021
EP 318: Take Off the Pressure Cooker with Elizabeth
34:52

This episode is about taking the pressure off of self-imposed timelines. Today’s caller, Elizabeth, has a sense of urgency. She feels she needs to get into a relationship and have children. But, at the same time, she is experiencing rejection, ghosting, and men leaving. She thinks she is doing something wrong.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode318]

 

For whatever reason, we put ridiculous timelines on ourselves. Who knows where they come from society, parents, or our inner critic. We also put unnecessary pressure on ourselves to be or to achieve certain things. And, all the while we’re not really paying attention to what we truly need to be learning. We miss out on the magic that can come from being present and in the moment.

 

And, enmeshment or co-dependence means that we are a little bit too reliant or dependent on another person to make us feel a certain way. We all want a mother to be the constant source of love and nurturing but we also want a mother to let us go on our way or let us suffer and find our own way.

 

If we have someone who always rescues us, how do we ever learn to rescue ourselves?

 

If you are a woman looking for a man and put pressure on yourself to be in a relationship, the holidays can be challenging. So, starting late November or early December, join Stefanos and me for our Be the Queen program. This upcoming event is the last event until next year. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen for more information.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you unconsciously put pressure on yourself or others and it is sabotaging you from getting the things you truly want?
  • Did you have too close of a relationship with your mother or a parent?
  • Do you feel a timeline or sense of urgency to get married, have babies, or accomplish something at a certain time?
  • Would you say that you were an exceptional partner to yourself?

 

Elizabeth’s Question:

Elizabeth feels she is the reason her relationships don’t work out.

 

Elizabeth’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She feels she can’t get relationships right.
  • She feels she has been called to have children.
  • She was very close to her mother, maybe too close.
  • She is trying to source her love through other people to fill the void.
  • She clings on to men.
  • She misses being in a close relationship.
  • She didn’t develop her own sense of self.
  • She is scared to voice her feelings in relationships.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Prioritize loving herself and individuating.
  • Find her wise inner mother and untangle her enmeshment with her mother.
  • Look back at past relationships and consider how she could do things differently.
  • Write a reassuring letter to her future self that everything is going to be alright and then have her future self write back.
  • Realize it wasn’t her fault that guys take off but she can take responsibility for her part in the relationship.

 

Takeaways:

  • Listen to the Coaches Corner interview with Bethany Webster, The Mother Wound.
  • If you feel pressured to get somewhere, write a letter to your future self and then have your future self write back to you about how everything works out.
  • If you are in a pattern, ask yourself what wound is it bringing attention to that could be healed.
  • Join the Be the Queen program.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.



Oct 13, 2021
CC: Owning Your Erotism and Consent with Dr. Betty Martin
56:40
Sex and sexuality. These are part of the human experience.  Yet for so many, sex and sexualty brings up shame, insecurity and even painful memories.  It is possible to enjoy your sexual expression no matter what you have been through while empowering yourself by learning about your preferences and consent.
 
There is no one better to discuss these topics with me than. Dr. Betty Martin.

She has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice,  as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator.  Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®.

As part of her work with the School of Consent, Betty travels around the world teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions, in her highly sought-after training “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.” 

Wheel of consent videos:

short: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7x2jAm3HxHM

long; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=auokDp_EA80

Oct 09, 2021
EP 317: Healing the Mother Wound with Abigail
41:27

This episode is about doing inner child work to heal the mother wound. Today’s caller, Abigail, feels she is struggling to connect with her feminine energy but we discover that she is being triggered by her circumstances and it is revealing a coping strategy she relied on in her childhood. We discuss ways she can make the most of this healing opportunity.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode317]

 

You can’t really tap into true masculine and feminine until you do inner child work. Because we can confuse being in our feminine or masculine energy with protective behaviors and coping strategies. It is important for us to find our divine mother and father energy but healing our childhood wounds is the starting point.

 

When past trauma in her child wounding is triggered, it is an invitation for us to deal with it by speaking to our little one and giving them a voice. It makes it much easier to trust because our inner child isn’t tugging at us telling us they are not okay.

 

What keeps some people from doing inner child work is that they think they have to relive their trauma or relive memories of their childhoods. It is possible to heal your childhood and connect with your inner child even if you have no memories or traumatic memories.

 

When we are given pauses in life, or when we feel we are in limbo, they are opportunities for us to focus on our inner work.

 

Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8–10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild. If you can’t make it live you can get the recording. If you need help financially go to ChristineHassler.com/Scholarship.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you struggling with identifying what is masculine and feminine energy? Or, you are not sure how to be in your masculine or feminine?
  • Have you worked on the mother wound and know intuitively there is still more to do?
  • Do you identify with being a caretaker? Someone who takes care of other people’s needs as a way to try and get your own needs met?
  • As a child, were you more in the parent role than you were in the child role? Did a parent count on you for emotional support? Did they confide in you? Were you more of a friend to them and not allowed to truly be a kid?

 

Abigail’s Question:

Abigail struggles with staying in her feminine energy.

 

Abigail’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has had a lot of uncertainty in her life.
  • She has difficulty adjusting and trusting changes.
  • She holds fear about changes in her life.
  • She frequently changes her residence.
  • She left her nursing career to be a doula.
  • Her parents dealt with uncertainty differently.
  • She didn’t have a good role model for embracing uncertainty.
  • She didn’t feel safe as a child.
  • Caretaking became a coping strategy for her.
  • She beats herself up emotionally.
  • She felt responsible for everyone else’s happiness.
  • She wants to be free to express her needs.
  • Her mom treated her like a friend and not a child.
  • She feels worthless if she isn’t caring for others.
  • Her partner feels safe to her.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Check-in with little Abigail to see how she is.
  • Accept and have compassion for herself.
  • Give her rage a voice and write an F-U letter to her mother.
  • This is a healing opportunity for her. She is exactly where she needs to be.
  • Join the Inner Child Workshop.
  • Check out the Mother Wound Coaches Corner and the work of Bethany Webster.

 

Takeaways:

  • Use the pauses in your life to give your inner child a voice and to heal unhealed wounding.

 

Sponsor:

SOUL CBD — is a daily supplement to calm the nervous system and re-calibrate homeostasis. Soul CBD gummies, liquids, oils, topicals, and bath bombs are all 3rd-party-tested for toxins. Bring balance into your life and get 15% off AND free shipping in the U.S. at MySoulCBD.com/OVERIT.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.



Oct 06, 2021
CC: The Mother Wound
01:08:24
Don't miss this episode with Bethany Webster where we discuss a wound we ALL have: the mother wound.  Bethany Webster is a writer, international speaker and transformational coach. She started blogging in 2013 about the Mother Wound and quickly experienced worldwide demand for her work. Through blending research on intergenerational trauma, feminist theory, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany's work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing. Bethany speaks, consults and mentors around the world sharing her growing body of work that is raising the standard of women’s leadership and personal development. Learn more at www.bethanywebster.com

Bethany's book: https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780062884442
Bethany's online course: https://www.bethanywebster.com/inner-mother-course/
Bethany's Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/innermother
Oct 02, 2021
EP 316: The Thing That Could Be Blocking You From Clarity with Illarion
38:15

This episode is about finding your passion by releasing repressed anger. Today’s caller, Illarion, feels lost. He is in his twenties and is struggling to find his purpose. Emotions from his childhood are bubbling to the surface of his unconscious. If you relate to this call and feel blocked, anxious, or lost, this episode will help you tap into your fire and find your voice.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode316]

 

So many of us that may be dealing with anxiety, depression, or feeling lost have a bit of indifference, hopelessness, and apathy we can slip into. That is a dangerous place because there is numbness. Whereas anger, if understood and expressed in a healthy way, is a very useful emotion. Anger is often the gateway to reaching our deeper hurts and it’s the thing that unleashes our passion. Repressed anger takes up a lot of energy. It is a fiery emotion that just sits inside of us. Passion is fire too. If we have a lot of anger that we haven’t processed, it can be a block to our creativity and passion.

 

A lot of creative and artistic people have trouble accessing their anger. It ends up manifesting as anxiety. When we have the creative archetype, there is also gentleness. We want to be the peacekeeper and avoid conflict. We don’t feel the warrior spirit because we are more on the creative side. However, when we don’t access our anger and our rage, it can hold our passion back.

 

It is often anger and resentment that keep us from getting to the true energy of forgiveness.

 

Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8–10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel stuck or lost in your life?
  • Did you have parents that supported who you are but not 100% of the time?
  • Have you analyzed and talked about your issues and have been in therapy but things are not changing?
  • Is anger something that turns you off?

 

Illarion’s Question:

Illarion feels lost and is struggling to find his purpose. He goes through bouts of loneliness, anxiety, and low self-worth.

 

Illarion’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He moved to New York City.
  • He is going through imposter syndrome.
  • He doubts every choice he makes.
  • His feelings go up and down.
  • He may have unresolved issues from childhood.
  • He has been in therapy for three years.
  • He looks at what he should be instead of what he is meant to be.
  • He didn’t feel he was able to be himself as a child.
  • What he is going through is normal for his age.
  • He is not sure he is lovable and enough for his parents.
  • He doesn’t speak with his father.
  • He hasn’t dealt with the anger he feels at his parents.
  • He seeks approval from other people.
  • He wanted someone to stick up for him as a child.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Tap into his anger and be pissed.
  • Do the temper-tantrum technique at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease
  • Write an F-U letter to his mom and dad without sending it to them.
  • Go to a quiet place and expel rage while he punches a pillow.
  • Find his fiery passion.

 

Sponsor:

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Sep 29, 2021
CC: Christine & Stef Work Through an Inner Child Trigger
45:37
This is an episode NOT to miss. My husband and I get so raw and vulnerable as we talk through something that upset Stef and triggered his inner child.  If you want an intimate look at how we work though triggers and comfort our own (and each other's) inner child, be sure to listen. You will learn so much about your relationship with your own inner child as well.  We all have a tender, sensitive little one inside who needs us to parent them with love, safety, acceptance and consistency.
 
If you want to learn more about the virtual retreat we are teaching on healing your inner child, please go here: https://christinehassler.com/innerchild/
Sep 25, 2021
EP 315: Be a Stand For What You Want in Your Life with Sebastian
43:53

This episode is about taking a stand for what we value. Today’s caller, Sebastian, is not getting his needs met in his relationship. He is attempting to talk through his issues, but the results are not changing. We discuss ways to get clarification from his partner about what she needs and how he can have his needs met by taking a stand for his values.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode315]

 

If communication solved every issue in a relationship, we could all just read communication books and have the most amazing relationships, friendships, and parental relationships. Everything would be easy. But, it is not. We need to do the inner work. We play out our childhood stuff in our adult life, especially in relationships.

 

When a child has emotionally unavailable parents, they learn to tolerate a lot more hurt. When they grow into adults, they may have a pattern of thinking things are better than they truly are in their intimate relationships.

 

In relationships, friendships, or any kind of intimate relationship, we often love and give in the way we want to be given to and loved, not necessarily the way that person needs or wants it.

 

We have to be bold when it comes to things like love, our families, our health, our well-being, and what is important to us. We must take a stand for our values.

 

Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8–10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you find yourself not being a firm stand for what you want in your life?
  • Do you ever tiptoe around people afraid of upsetting them?
  • Do you often feel disrespected in conversations or just not heard?
  • Do you have some codependent patterns and let people walk all over you?
  • Do you often find yourself with emotionally unavailable or avoidant-type people?

 

Sebastian’s Question:

Sebastian feels he doesn’t get his needs met in his relationship and would like guidance on how to have a healthier relationship.

 

Sebastian’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • His relationship has ups and downs.
  • Hurtful things are said between him and his partner.
  • He and his partner have done couple counseling.
  • He has a 10-year-old son with his partner.
  • He feels disrespected by his partner.
  • He loves his family.
  • His partner finds it is overwhelming to deal with his emotions.
  • He is trying to uncover and overcome the relationship issues.
  • He is codependent.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Get curious about what his partner needs.
  • Have a conversation about what each other needs emotionally.
  • Stand in his strong, healthy masculine and ask his partner if she wants the relationship to work.
  • Step into his power and take a stand for himself and the relationship.

 

Takeaways:

  • Take a stand for your values. Be very clear about what you want and where you are going.

 

Sponsor:

SOUL CBD — is a daily supplement to calm the nervous system and re-calibrate homeostasis. Soul CBD gummies, liquids, oils, topicals, and bath bombs are all 3rd-party-tested for toxins. Bring balance into your life and get 15% off AND free shipping in the U.S. at MySoulCBD.com/OVERIT

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.



Sep 22, 2021
CC: The High Five Habit with Mel Robbins
56:53
If you ever struggle with anxiety, worry or even depression, do NOT miss this episode.  One of the leading voices in personal development and transformation and an international bestselling author Mel Robbins joins Christine and gives a TON of soothing and practical advice for creating more calm in your life.

Mel's work includes the global phenomenon The 5 Second Rule, the upcoming The High 5 Habit, four #1 bestselling audiobooks, the #1 podcast on Audible, as well as signature online courses that have changed the lives of more than half a million students worldwide. 

Her groundbreaking work on behavior change has been translated into 36 languages and is used by healthcare professionals, veterans’ organizations, and the world’s leading brands to inspire people to be more confident, effective, and fulfilled.

As one of the most widely booked and followed public speakers in the world, Mel coaches more than 60 million people online every month and videos featuring her work have more than a billion views online, including her TEDx talk, which is one of the most popular of all time.

There’s nothing Mel loves more than making a real difference in people’s lives by teaching them to believe in themselves and inspiring them to take the actions that will change their lives. Mel lives in New England with her husband of 25 years and their three kids, but she is and will always be a Midwesterner at heart.

Sep 18, 2021
EP 314: Getting Over Loss with Regina
35:31

This episode will support you in getting through and to the other side of any kind of loss. Today’s caller, Regina, is a widow who is grieving over the loss of her husband. She says she regrets not being the best mother in the world and not living the life she wanted to live. She is questioning her purpose and experiencing quite a bit of apathy in her life.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode314]

 

Loss is an incredibly painful but inevitable part of our life. When it happens it is important we give ourselves time to grieve and not try to be strong and move on right away. But there comes a point in our life when life has to go on.

 

Whether it is the death of a loved one, a pet, a relationship, or a job, we can’t allow loss to suck the life out of us. Otherwise, we end up existing, not truly living. We honor those who transition by continuing to live.

 

People who deal with expectation hangovers often feel guilty to admit it but they tend to be apathetic to life. The reason for the apathy is the opposite of love is not hate. It is indifference or apathy. When we go through something challenging, especially if we are lonely through it, we allow our self-love tank to get so low that we slip into indifference. Without love there is apathy. Getting out of it requires choosing to live, not just to go through the motions; we need something we want to live for.

 

Give yourself permission to live for and find something that reconnects you back to love.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Have you recently been through a loss and can’t seem to move on?
  • Have you been through a loss and are aware you need time to grieve?
  • Do you tend to look back on your life and wish you could have done things differently?
  • Are you at a point in your life where you are just existing and need to start living again?

 

Regina’s Question:

Regina would like to move past her sadness and regret of not living the life she wanted.

 

Regina’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is approaching retirement.
  • She is not in the place she thought she would be in her life.
  • She lives alone.
  • There is a part of her that doesn’t want to be anymore.
  • She has regrets about how she raised her children.
  • She doesn’t believe we get more than one love in our lives.
  • Her husband was her best friend.
  • She beats herself up a lot.
  • She knows if she can create a negative story for herself, she is capable of creating a positive story, too.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Choose to create a future that is enlivening.
  • Give herself permission to live and allow love in.
  • Have a loving relationship with herself.
  • Speak to herself as a loving mother would to a child.
  • Forgive herself for being mean to herself.
  • Write out some promises to herself.

 

Takeaways:

  • Practice self-love.
  • Consider that loved ones who have transitioned are angels and guides in your life.
  • Accept that you did the best you could with the tools you had at the time.
  • Content that focuses on overcoming regret.

 

Sponsor:

THIRDLOVE — Delivers life-changing comfort for your body with high-quality underwear, sleep, and loungewear. Check out their new seamless Form line. Visit the Fitting Room and take the quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect bra size and style. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes, and great-fitting, comfy loungewear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your new favorite Seamless wireless bra or loungewear. They have a 100% fit guarantee.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.



Sep 15, 2021
CC: Spirituality and Your Genius Zone with Gay Hendricks
55:08

Gay Hendricks has been a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and body mind transformation for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. fromStanford in 1974, Gay served as Professor of Counseling Psychology at the University of Colorado for 21 years. He has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap, Conscious Loving and Conscious Loving Ever After, (the last two co-authored with his co-author and mate for more than 35 years, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks). He is also a mystery novelist, with a series of five books featuring the Tibetan-Buddhist private detective, Tenzing Norbu, as well as a new mystery series featuring a Victorian-era London detective, Sir ErrolHyde. His latest book, Conscious Luck, reveals eight ways to change your fortune through the power of intention. Gay has appeared on more than 500 radio andtelevision shows, including Oprah, CNN, CNBC, 48 HOURS and others. His new book, The Genius Zone, was published in June, 2021.

Sep 11, 2021
EP 313: Stop Letting Your Issues Block You From Intimacy with Mike
40:49

This episode is about learning the tools to deal with triggers and the avoidant attachment style. This week’s caller, Mike, would like guidance on how to be more open-hearted and vulnerable in his intimate relationships. This session will be of service to those who have an avoidant style and for those who attract Avoidants. We discuss how to understand them and how not to take their actions personally.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode313]

 

Anything is healable. It doesn’t matter what is in your background, childhood, or past. I’ve seen it over and over again. Does it happen overnight? No. Is it always easy? No. Is it going to change overnight? Healable doesn’t mean we go from having an avoidant attachment style to being totally open-hearted, totally secure, and never having triggers.

 

Healing is not being perfect, not being free of any triggers but really learning how to work with those triggers, manage those triggers, so that they don’t become roadblocks in our life. Triggers can be alarm systems for growth and not a dead end. Awareness is not enough to heal.

 

People with an avoidant attachment style are not trying to avoid being close or being in love. They are trying to avoid rejection, hurt, and pain. When we are with an Avoidant, and they pull away or put walls up, it can make us feel as if we have done something wrong. But, we cannot take it personally. If you are with an Avoidant, the best thing you can do when they are triggered is don’t attack them, don’t tell them they are doing anything wrong, then reassure them that you are there and you love them.

 

On September 14th, Christine and Stefanos will teach a virtual group call at 5 pm PST.

 

Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8‒10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild.

 

Mike’s Question:

Mike would like guidance on how to be more open-minded and open-hearted when approaching his relationships.

 

Mike’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • His marriage of 12 years recently ended.
  • He emotionally shut down in his relationships.
  • He has an insecure attachment style.
  • Fear of rejection keeps him from being vulnerable.
  • He was not loved for being himself as a child.
  • He is self-aware.
  • He feels as if his personal development work has stalled.
  • He does not want to repeat the mistakes of his past.
  • He is ready to date again.
  • He has high standards.
  • He puts walls up to protect himself.
  • He struggles to be vulnerable.
  • He feels he can apply the practical guidance.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Acknowledge himself for the personal development work he is doing.
  • Start dating again.
  • Lean into vulnerability.
  • Accept himself for who he is.
  • Have compassion for himself and his fear.
  • It is okay to be scared.

 

Takeaways:

  • On the field is the best way to get good at a game. We cannot run from hurt. We have to expose ourselves to triggers so we can integrate and deal with hurt and fear.

 

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Resources:

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@ChristinHassler on Twitter

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Sep 08, 2021
CC: How To Get Over The One You Thought Was ‘The One’
07:47

The feeling of being in love is the best. Not to mention the blissful feeling of certainty when we feel like you’ve met “the one” (finally!). You start fantasizing about the future and are convinced that the other person is on the same page you are. And then it ends. And you are not only heartbroken, but shocked because it seemed so right and you don’t understand what went wrong. I know that is not comforting if you are in the pain of a break-up, but understanding why the one you thought was going to be forever ended may offer you some relief. This Coaches Corner will help!

Sep 04, 2021
EP 312: Stepping Into Your Purpose with Mike
24:45

This episode is about stepping into your purpose and fulfilling your dreams. This week’s caller, Mike, thinks his problem is complex, but it’s not. His constant search of products and materials leads him to believe his next steps need to come from outside of himself. We discuss how he may be stalling by continuing to do research instead of listening to his internal inspiration and moving forward.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode312]

 

Dreams or anything we long for; the dreams we feel in our heart are different from the kinds of dreams we hope will make us feel better about ourselves, or fill a void. Those are ego-based desires. But, listening inside to hear our heartfelt dreams is part of our psychic ability. And, we are all a little psychic or intuitive.

 

We don’t long for something if we don’t feel that it is coming. If we have a premonition, on some level our dreams are already coming to fruition. We cannot control the exact timing of it. If we feel it and we want it, it may take a week or ten years because it takes time for dreams to evolve.

 

What stalls a lot of people from really stepping into sharing their gift, or serving people in a greater way, is they think they have to be perfect. To achieve our dreams, we just need to be honest, vulnerable, and committed, not perfect.

 

We have all the answers inside; we just need to take time to question ourselves and answer.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • What heartfelt dreams are calling you forward?
  • Do you have a sense of what you want to do but are not taking action?
  • Do you start a lot of projects but do not follow them through to completion?
  • Are you waiting for some kind of answer or sign from the universe to make a decision?

 

Mike’s Question:

Mike has a dream of becoming an entrepreneur but he lacks confidence in his decision-making process. He would like to break the cycle of never moving forward.

 

Mike’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He wants to be an entrepreneur.
  • He put his dream on hold when his daughter was born.
  • He is always looking for the next big thing.
  • He gets easily redirected.
  • He lacks confidence in his decision-making process.
  • He is a Preacher and motivator.
  • He is good at inspiring others.
  • He wants to make a difference in other people’s lives.
  • He is in a cycle of frustration.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Let his inspiration drive his next steps.
  • Let God use him as an instrument.
  • Write his life experience resume.
  • Meditate and recognize his unique gifts.
  • Start with his big vision and work backward.

 

Takeaways:

  • Write a life experience resume.
  • Re-orient towards an internal direction. Listen to your own inner wisdom. Try it for thirty days.
  • Answer these questions:
    • Who am I here to serve?
    • What can I offer?
    • How can I deliver it?

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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Sep 01, 2021
CC: Stop Comparing Yourself with Melissa Ambrosini
39:59

If you ever compare yourself to anyone else, this episode is for you! Learn the difference between healthy and toxic comparison and how to form closer connections when comparison is gone.

Melissa Ambrosini is the bestselling author of Comparisonitis, Mastering Your Mean Girl, Open Wide, and the Audible Original PurposeFULL as well as the winner of ‘The Best eBooks Of All Time’ as voted by Book Depository. 

 

Melissa is the host of #1 rated podcast The Melissa Ambrosini Show, where she shares her wisdom and interviews with the biggest thought leaders and experts in the world to help her audience unlock their full potential and live their dream life. 

 

When Melissa isn’t writing books and recording her podcast she is speaking on stages, teaching and creating online programs, meditations and life changing live events.

 

With a deep commitment to empowering others to become the best version of themselves, Melissa believes that awakening is possible for everyone. She strives to inspire others to reclaim their power, step into their truth, live with intention, and move in the direction of their dreams.

Aug 28, 2021
EP 311: Should I Leave My Marriage? With Anne
34:16

This episode is about making empowered decisions and changes with integrity. Today’s caller, Anne, is questioning whether or not she should leave her 25-year marriage. She feels she has tried to communicate her needs. We work through how she is communicating and whether or not she is being vulnerable enough to make an empowered decision.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode311]

 

Often, in masculine-feminine dynamics, it requires the feminine dropping into a deep vulnerability with no victim, no blame, no anger, no reason, just an open, heart-baring, soul truth that ignites the masculine to look within so it can open up.

 

When we are too much in hopelessness-helpless, when we are too much in victim, the only answer seems to be to get out of a situation because we don’t feel empowered.

 

One of the ways we get empowered is to look at our side of things and then we communicate vulnerably, because we are not empowered when we communicate emotionally, reactively, or with blame or neediness.

 

And remember, vulnerability is different than a victimy emotional reaction. It has a different frequency and people can hear us when we are vulnerable. They can’t hear us when we are emotional or blaming them. It puts their defenses up. They can’t hear the truth and intimacy of what we are saying when they are defensive.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • Are you torn about what to do in a relationship? Do you want to stay? Do you want to go? Do you tend to look at what someone else is doing wrong and all the ways that they’re not meeting your needs and maybe don’t look quite enough at how you’re perpetuating it?
  • Are you aware of what your needs are? Are you good at communicating your needs?
  • Do you feel in your gut that you just want to do something but you just can’t take the action?

 

Anne’s Question:

Anne is struggling with the decision to stay in her marriage.

 

Anne’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has been married for 25 years and has four children with her husband.
  • She feels she and her husband have grown apart.
  • Her husband says he wants to make the marriage work.
  • Her husband’s job and commitments took a lot of his time.
  • She asked him to take more time with her and the children.
  • She collected evidence of the ways he wasn’t showing up for the marriage.
  • She doesn’t know if she still loves him.
  • Fear may be driving her choice.
  • There is some part of her that may be shut down.
  • She wants to be loved by him.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Continue to have vulnerable conversations with her husband.
  • Drop into her feminine vulnerability.
  • Consider where she may have walls up around her heart.
  • Use “I” language, not “you” language.
  • Write out her fears, desires, and insecurities and read them to her husband.

 

Takeaways:

  • If there is something you are looking at that you think is wrong and you just need to get out, consider where the decision is coming from. Are you empowered? Have you been vulnerable? Have you looked inside yourself to see if you are mad or blaming? Do you feel like a victim and feel like the only decision is to leave?

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

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Christine on Facebook

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@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

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Aug 25, 2021
CC: Reprogram your mind and change your life with Brandy Gillmore
47:49

Brandy Gillmore, PhD in natural medicine, is a world-renowned mind/body energy expert who is well known for her discoveries in self-healing and working with the power of the mind to get tangible results. Her breakthrough work has been featured in an award-winning documentary and various docuseries. Brandy speaks on stages around the world and has also given a mind-expanding TEDx talk.

Brandy’s expertise in self-healing originated from her own devastating accident that left her disabled and living in excruciating pain despite being on multiple medications, including morphine.  When doctors told Brandy there was nothing they could do, she became determined to find a solution. After  years of trial and error, she was able to make incredible discoveries with the mind that ultimately enabled her to heal herself. Today she uses these same discoveries to help others also get radical life-changing results.

Today, Brandy works with top celebrities, Olympic athletes, CEOs, entrepreneurs, and groups worldwide sharing her leading-edge discoveries. Her goal is to help advance traditional research to bridge the gap between science and spirituality.
 
You can register for her free video event "Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind for Positivity, Healing & Successful Manifestation" here: https://christinehassler.com/reprogram
Aug 21, 2021
EP 310: Exploring Your Life Rather Than Analyzing it with Marley
32:01

This episode is about taking the time to explore life and relationships. Today’s caller, Marley, is putting a lot of pressure on her current relationship. She future-forecasts instead of considering what the relationship may be able to teach her. We delve into how she can be curious, explore, and take the pressure off.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode310]

 

Often, we go into relationships wondering if the other person is the one, so much so that we miss out on what we can learn from the other person. It is important to let your early relationships be a discovery process and explore instead of collecting evidence about what may be wrong with the other person if they are THE one, or how to make every relationship the relationship of your dreams.

 

Every relationship is a growth opportunity. It is a misstep to base relationships on their longevity potential. Many times, we get into a relationship, and right out of the gate, we put pressure on it by wondering if the other person could be the one to marry or have children with instead of considering what the other person can teach us, what mirror they may be holding up, what parental patterns, wounds, or issues are they triggering? What could you be attracted to that is also a healing opportunity?

 

Enjoy where you are. Be curious, explore, and take the pressure off.

 

Have you listened to my Coaches Corner episodes recently? Check out Byron Katie on  — Loving What Is.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • When you are in a new relationship do you jump to — Is this the one? — and start to analyze it all out?
  • Did you grow up in a home where there wasn’t a lot of emotional availability and you panic when you don’t have that in a partnership or friendship?
  • Do you spend a lot of time trying to figure things out and not enough time creating and exploring and allowing things just to be?
  • Are you more caught up in judging and changing someone else than looking at how you can meet your own needs?

 

Marley’s Question:

Marley is struggling with her ability to let little things go and accept her partner for where he is.

 

Marley’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is aware and open with her emotions.
  • Her boyfriend may not understand himself emotionally.
  • She is an old soul and emotionally mature.
  • She is putting a lot of pressure on the relationship.
  • She and her boyfriend had an intense connection immediately.
  • There was inconsistency in her childhood.
  • She believed she had to fix her family.
  • She feels pressure to be in a relationship.
  • Her boyfriend is committed to her.
  • She feels intimidated by his commitment.
  • She feels she is one-foot-in and one-foot-out of the relationship at all times.
  • She is collecting evidence against her boyfriend.
  • She doesn’t feel heard or seen by her boyfriend at times.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Explore herself within her relationship.
  • Stop overthinking, or overanalyzing her relationship.
  • Be curious about her relationship instead of managing it.
  • Communicate her needs in an empowered way.
  • Approach her boyfriend from a vulnerable place.

 

Takeaways:

 

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Aug 18, 2021
CC: Loving what is with Byron Katie
55:01

I am thrilled to Byron Katie whom I respect and adore so much on the show this week! 

In 1986, at the bottom of a ten-year spiral into depression and self-loathing, Byron Katie woke up one morning in a state of joy. She realized that when she believed her stressful thoughts, she suffered, but that when she questioned them, she didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Her simple yet powerful process of self-inquiry, which she calls The Work, consists of four questions and the turnaround, which is a way of experiencing the opposite of what you believe.

Katie has been bringing The Work to millions of people for more than thirty years. Her public events, weekend workshops, intensives, and nine-day School for The Work have brought freedom to people all over the world.

Her books include the bestselling Loving What IsI Need Your Love—Is That True?A Thousand Names for Joy, and A Mind at Home with Itself. For more information, visit thework.com.

Here is a to the worksheets we discussed: https://thework.com/instruction-the-work-byron-katie/

 

Aug 14, 2021
EP 309: Breaking Patterns with Bree
30:16

This episode is about discerning between the patterns we can change and which are a part of us. Today’s caller, Bree, has patterns coming up when it comes to dating and finding a partner. We discuss how she can bring forth different, more feminine, parts of herself in place of her patterns. When it comes to dating, we get far more accurate information from our bodies, heart, and intuition than we do from evaluation.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode309]

 

At the beginning of dating, there is so much uncertainty. We don’t really know the person and we don’t know where the relationship will go. There is a lot of excitement, but there is also a lot of uncertainty. Uncertainty can be triggering for some, especially if they had instability in their childhood. Part of how the mind and psyche try to get certainty or control is through evaluation, analysis, and by trying to see into the future.

 

We all have an operating system. A lot of it gets programmed by our childhood, our life, our beliefs, and everything that happens in our environment and society. Then, there is just how we’re wired, our personality, our soul journey, etc. It is more important to learn to live with our wiring and find the gift within it than it is to change it.

 

Some things about ourselves are appropriate to change and heal but there are some things that it is best to just accept. Learning to inspire a different part of ourselves in certain situations may be the key to getting what we need.

 

Join me August 18, 2021, at 5 p.m. Pacific for another group coaching call. This call will focus on all things inner child. The cost is only $20 and if you cannot make it live, it will be recorded. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group to sign up.

 

Have you listened to my Coaches Corner episodes recently? Check out Dr. Richard Schwatrz doing parts work with me here — Internal Family Systems.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • Do you notice that sometimes when you’re in an unfamiliar situation you do things like ask a question to go to places in your head to try to get some kind of control?
  • Did you grow up feeling safe in a stable household?
  • If you are female and you orientate to being a heterosexual female when it comes to dating do you feel like you can really slip into your feminine energy? Or, if you’re in a job that requires you to be in your masculine energy is it difficult for you to make the transition?
  • Are you trying to change things about yourself that are part of your wiring?

 

Bree’s Question:

Bree feels she is ready for a long-term relationship and would like the tools to assist her in minimizing her projections when dating.

 

Bree’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is ready to find a long-term partner.
  • She is looking for someone who appreciates a rural lifestyle.
  • She had a volatile and unstable childhood.
  • Her parents were emotionally unavailable.
  • Her little girl is looking for the stability she never had.
  • She sees the pattern of her previous relationships.
  • She felt judged and would like the freedom to be herself.
  • She uses evaluation as a skill in her job.
  • She is a professional photographer and previously a dance instructor.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Get out of her head and into her heart.
  • Help her little girl feel safe.
  • Limit her evaluations and increase her curiosity and magnetism in dating.
  • Create a physical anchor and write a letter to celebrate her evaluator self.
  • Be aware her masculine part is hyper-developed.
  • Discover things that drop her into her feminine energy.
  • Move her body in a feminine way daily.

 

Takeaways:

  • Look at the patterns in your life without making them wrong or bad and determine how much of them are how you are wired.
  • Learn what parts of yourself that need to step back and which need to come forward.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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Aug 11, 2021
CC: Internal Family Systems with Dr. Richard Schwartz
55:40

You are going to learn so much from this episode!! And get to listen to a live demo of Dr Schwartz doing parts work with me.  Richard Schwartz began his career as a family therapist and an academic at the University of Illinois at Chicago. There he discovered that family therapy alone did not achieve full symptom relief and in asking patients why, he learned that they were plagued by what they called “parts.” From these explorations with parts work, the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model was born in the early 1980s.
 
IFS is now evidence-based and has become a widely-used form of psychotherapy, particularly with trauma. It provides a non-pathologizing, optimistic, and empowering perspective and a practical and effective set of techniques for working with individuals, couples, families, and more recently, corporations and classrooms.
 
In 2013 Schwartz left the Chicago area and now lives in Brookline, MA where he is on the faculty of the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School.

Aug 07, 2021
EP 308: Taking Care of Your Parents with Tania
37:22

This episode is about grieving parents and moving through loss. Today’s caller, Tania, is a new mom who is caring for her aging father. She is struggling with making decisions that are best for everyone involved. We talk through the guilt that is influencing her decisions and how she can make self-honoring choices that are the best for everyone involved.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode308]

 

When it comes to making choices for someone we love it can feel hard not to let guilt or obligation be involved. When we allow guilt and obligation into our decision-making we aren’t making the choices that are truly in the highest good for everyone concerned.

 

Guilt and shame prevent us from being able to honor our feelings and from navigating the many different emotions, perspectives, and thoughts of being human and going through life-changing experiences, and dealing with family members and people who are sick or difficult. It is OK to choose something that may feel selfish but is self-honoring and in the best interest of everyone involved.

 

There is no one-size-fits-all approach when making big decisions like what to do with an aging parent. You have to tune in and make a decision from love, not guilt about what is best for everyone involved.

 

When we hang on to someone, it can create an energetic obligation for them to stay longer. There are two deaths we have to grieve for our parents. The physical death and the death of the ideal. When we allow ourselves to grieve, our heart breaks open so healing can begin.

 

Would you like to win a free 30-minute (unaired) session with me? To add your name to the drawing, leave a rating and review in your podcast listening app. When the review posts take a screenshot and upload it to ChristineHassler.com/review. I’ll choose the winner in the first week of August.

 

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Consider/Ask Yourself

  • Do you like to have control? Would you rather have control than massive uncertainty? Do you do better in the known rather than the unknown?
  • Do you deal with guilt if you’re not doing what you think you’re supposed to be doing or taking care of people in the way that you’re supposed to?
  • Have you lost a parent or are you on the brink of losing a parent?
  • Do you struggle with what’s the right thing to do when it comes to you caring for your parents?

 

Tania’s Question:

Tania is feeling anxious about how she will manage caring for her father and managing her life.

 

Tania’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • After an accident, her 80-year-old father can no longer take care of himself.
  • Her mother passed 13 years ago.
  • She and her brother are caring for their father.
  • She has a baby and a full-time job.
  • She had to take medical time off from work.
  • She feels guilty and is starting to grieve for her father.
  • She is frightened when she thinks of her father’s passing.
  • She holds on to an image of what she thought her future would be.
  • She is finding the role reversal difficult.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Realize it is okay to be feeling what she is feeling.
  • Allow herself to start letting go and grieve her father.
  • Release her attachment to what she thinks “should” be.
  • Find a way to get outside help for her father.
  • Give energetic permission to her father to transition when it is his time.
  • Her body and nervous system have been in overdrive.

 

Takeaways:

  • Don’t wait to grieve until someone dies. Allow yourself to have the feelings and start the process before a loved one transitions.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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Aug 04, 2021
CC: Healing through Energetic Osteopathy with Dr. Jess Bell
51:50

Jess Bell, D.O. is an Osteopathic Physician – board-certified in both Physical Medicine and Rehabilitation and Neuromusculoskeletal Medicine – and Energy Healer.

Dr. Jess is the founder of Energetic Osteopathy™, which is a powerful modality that bridges traditional osteopathic treatment and energy medicine. What makes Energetic Osteopathy™ unique from other energy healing modalities such as Reiki, is that the treatment takes place with great specificity within the tissues of the body.

As an osteopathic physician with over twenty years of hands-on treatment experience, Dr. Jess “sees” into the body with great clarity. This inner sight allows for the transformational release of even the most difficult to locate energetic densities out of the physical body, returning the body to health and wholeness.

It is essential that we recover the often forgotten truth that healing comes from within, and it is Dr. Jess's greatest intention to offer this healing and guidance with easy-to-apply information, treatment, and self-healing practices.  

Jul 31, 2021
EP 307: Fix Your Broken Heart Instead of Trying to Fix a Broken Relationship with Sarah
34:30

This episode is about looking inside and healing unresolved issues. Today’s caller, Sarah, went through a breakup and is having a hard time letting it go. We work through how when we don’t have our needs met as children we may fumble with our needs as an adult. If you are not going through a breakup right now you will relate to this conversation if you have ever tried to fix something in your life that was not working.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode307]

 

Often, we attempt to work out our childhood wounds through dating and relationships. Unconsciously, we look for someone like mom or dad and think — oh this feels familiar. And, we confuse familiarity for love. But they are not the same thing. That is why we sometimes feel scared to do unfamiliar things. Because we confuse unfamiliarity with not being safe.

 

We try to heal our childhood by drawing in people who remind us of it. This creates issue-based relationships that become addictive. We are looking for a relationship to fix the issue rather than doing self-honoring, internal work. When we do the work we avoid attracting those kinds of relationships in the first place.

 

Sometimes we have the expectation that we have to have a certain personality or be a certain way. When we are in our pain, we do not like the pain and we don’t like ourselves in the pain. And, judgment of ourselves and our process only slows us down. It makes things worse. Healing happens when we accept the phase we are in.

 

In a relationship, we all need total honesty, trust, loyalty, intimacy, and someone to hear us and see us without gas-lighting us.

 

Would you like to win a free 30-minute (unaired) session with me? To add your name to the drawing, leave a rating and review in your podcast listening app. When the review posts take a screenshot and upload it to ChristineHassler.com/review. I’ll choose the winner in the first week of August.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • Do you have a hard time letting go of things even when you know you’re supposed to but you just can’t seem to let go?
  • Did you grow up in a house where you didn’t feel securely attached? Maybe your parents were emotionally unavailable, unpredictable, or there was chaos in your house?
  • Have you ever been in a situation where you feel like the situation itself makes you needier? You look at a relationship, career, or friendship and don’t even recognize yourself because of some of your behaviors.
  • Do you feel like you have done a lot of work and you have a lot of awareness but you find yourself in the same position over and over?

 

Sarah’s Question:

Sarah is having difficulty letting go of a relationship and feels like she should be doing better.

 

Sarah’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • Her breakup happened three weeks ago.
  • She is setting unrealistic expectations.
  • She felt insecure in the relationship.
  • She is grasping for the relationship.
  • Her parents did not meet her needs as a child.
  • She didn’t feel emotionally safe in the relationship.
  • She did not feel enough as a child.
  • She’s done a lot of work and is aware of her parents’ shortcomings.
  • She continues to repeat past patterns.
  • She is holding anger and resentment toward her parents.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Grieve the death of what she wanted her parents to be.
  • Allow little Sarah to express her hurt and anger.
  • Ask the universe for the resources to help her heal.
  • Realize the relationship came in because she is ready to go deeper.

 

Takeaways:

  • Go back to the little girl, little boy, or little one inside and allow yourself to get super clear about what you wanted from your parents that you never got and that you are more than likely never ever going to get and allow yourself to grieve it.
  • Let go of trying to fix a relationship, the way you look, a job, or a friendship. Stop looking out and look in. That is always where the healing is.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

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Jul 28, 2021
CC: Money Magic with Michelle Masters
45:44
Internationally bestselling author Michelle Masters has been a Personal Development Trainer and Coach since 1995. Michelle’s work is an innovative use of Neuro-Science based change techniques, Family Constellation work, and quantum healing modalities combined with profound understandings of what creates transformation and lasting change for people.
Her hugely popular Money Magic workshop has helped people all over the world to transform their lives and money.
Jul 24, 2021
EP 306: Why You Feel Rejected with Claudia
27:25

This episode is about rejection. Today’s caller, Claudia, experiences sadness when she feels rejected. We talk through her feelings of rejection and uncover them to be something she did not connect until this session. If you have a pattern of feeling rejected you will benefit from listening to this episode.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode306]

 

Many times sweet people, or big feelers, people who are more comfortable in sadness than in anger, hold stuff inside rather than confronting others.

 

Anytime we feel rejected, even as a child, there is a part of us that is really pissed off. We get angry when we are rejected but, many times because the hurt is so big we want to figure it out. The mind can’t figure out why a parent would ever reject us. No child can figure it out. A child can’t work through the understanding that a parent has their own issues. So we end up resenting the people who reject us.

 

Energetically if you walk around as a wounded child who was rejected it will be hard to pull in a person or match who fully sees you. But, by taking your power back, it will open up space in your life. When you have resentments in your heart it is hard for people to get in. They don’t want to be someone else you resent. Carrying around resentments can push people away.

 

As long as there is a part of you who hasn’t forgiven your family of origin, for being rejected, you will feel resentment. Forgiveness is not condoning, it is letting go of the judgment.

 

Would you like to win a free 30-minute (unaired) session with me? To add your name to the drawing, leave a rating and review in your podcast listening app. When the review posts take a screenshot and upload it to ChristineHassler.com/review. I’ll choose the winner in the first week of August.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • Do you ever feel rejected? And, no matter what you do you can’t seem to get over the pattern of rejection?
  • How are you with anger? Are you someone who can handle sadness but when it comes to anger, that’s a different story?
  • Do you ever feel people don’t choose you because of who you are and you constantly try to be someone you are not?
  •  Do you ever feel like you’re rejected because other people feel jealous of you?

 

Claudia’s Question:

Claudia feels rejected when people are afraid to get close to her and jealous of her.

 

Claudia’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She recently went through a breakup.
  • She says men are attracted to her energy but afraid of her leadership.
  • She feels women are jealous of her.
  • She feels rejected.
  • She repeats patterns of not being enough and not feeling seen.
  • She retreats rather than confronting others.
  • A family member rejected her.
  • She feels sadness more than anger.
  • She tried very hard to be seen as a child.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Find people who are in alignment with her.
  • Deal with the anger she feels about being rejected.
  • Forgive herself for the beliefs that perpetuate the lens of rejection and resentment.
  • Do not make herself wrong or dim her light.
  • Give little Claudia a voice and allow her to be mad or angry.

 

Takeaways:

  • If you deal with resentment, look at where you feel sad and rejected.
  • If you deal with a lot of rejection, look at where you may feel resentful.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

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Jul 21, 2021
CC: The Five Personality Patterns with Steven Kessler
01:07:28

Steven Kessler has been a psychotherapist in the San Francisco Bay Area for almost 30 years, teaching both locally and internationally. He is a certified EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) Expert and Trainer, and is the bestselling author of The 5 Personality Patterns, a simple, clear, true-to-life map of personality that gives you the key to understanding people and communicating with them effectively. More information and descriptions of the patterns are available at www.The5PersonalityPatterns.com. Steven loves teaching and helping people grow. He can be reached at Steven@The5PersonalityPatterns.com

Jul 17, 2021
EP 305: You Can’t Truly Help Others Unless You Help Yourself with Carrisa
41:38

This episode is about acquiring a healthy relationship between giving and receiving. Today’s caller, Carrisa, gives to everyone except herself. We talk through ways she can fill her cup before helping others, how to shed the imposter syndrome, and the importance of committing to her inner child.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode305]

 

We cannot give and give and then expect to feel great. It is beautiful to help people but from a full cup. Otherwise, we deplete ourselves and try to make ourselves feel better through others. It does not work. Anyone who gives and gives and gives to others but does not give to themselves will not feel worthy. People-pleasers, over-givers, and martyrs never feel worthy because they give so much.

 

You have to be able to receive from yourself and others to feel worthy. You can help and give but you need to be supported as well.

 

When you have healthy boundaries, a lot of support, and are checking in with your inner child you can help and serve others from a full cup. You won’t feel like an imposter because you will be practicing what you preach.

 

Would you like to win a free 30-minute (unaired) session with me? To add your name to the drawing, leave a rating and review in your podcast listening app. When the review posts take a screenshot and upload it to ChristineHassler.com/review. I’ll choose the winner in the first week of August.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • Do you have resistance or laziness that comes out when it comes to doing things that are just for you or doing things that are outside the realm of your normal day-to-day activities?
  • Did you grow up in a house where you didn't feel seen?
  • Do you often dread doing something because you’re afraid you’re going to disappoint other people?
  • When it comes to serving others, are you doing it because it makes you feel good or because that’s the way you love yourself?

 

Carrisa’s Question:

Carrisa is uncertain of whether her feelings are intuition or conditioning and why she feels resistance.

 

Carrisa’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She worries about affecting the people around her.
  • She is a people-pleaser with hints of a savior complex.
  • Her childhood home was chaotic and she felt invisible as the 6th child of 7 children.
  • She judges herself for being lazy and being resistant.
  • She tends to go with the flow.
  • She understands herself but puts herself last.
  • She feels complacent in her marriage.
  • She hasn’t taken a lot of time for herself.
  • She wants to integrate her passion into her massage therapy work.
  • She feels like an imposter when it comes to coaching.
  • She is imbalanced when it comes to giving and receiving.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Be her own client and keep an observation journal about her boundaries and her decisions.
  • Listen to her alarm systems and check in with little Carrisa.
  • Color with little Carissa 15-minutes a day.
  • Have conscious conversations with her husband about co-parenting.
  • Stop trying to heal herself by helping others.

 

Takeaways:

  • Become your own client. Instead of judging and analyzing yourself, observe yourself neutrally.
  • Connect with your inner child and make them a commitment in your life.
  • Stop people-pleasing and make yourself a priority.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

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Jul 14, 2021
CC: Speak your Mind and Own your Strength with Andrea Owen
42:40

If you have struggled this past year (or really ever), you are going to love this episode. Speaker, life coach, and author Andrea Owen joins Christine for a vulnerable and inspiring conversation on mental health and healing trauma.  Andrea is creating a global impact in women’s empowerment with her books being translated into 18 languages and available in 22 countries.

She helps high-achieving women maximize unshakeable confidence, and master resilience.

Her latest book, Make Some Noise: Speak Your Mind and Own Your Strength is coming in August 2021. You can learn more at andreaowen.com.

Jul 10, 2021
EP 304: Cutting Ties with a Family Member with Alison
38:51

This episode is about cutting ties with a toxic family member. Today’s caller, Alison, continues to relive the cycle of abuse she received from her mother. There is a part of her that believes her mother will one day change and give her the love she desires. If you have someone you are considering ending a relationship with, you will get great value from this session. If this particular circumstance doesn’t apply to you, you can probably relate to a situation where you want to do something but guilt and obligation are keeping you from making a self-honoring decision.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode304]

 

Just because someone is related to you, even a parent, doesn’t give them the right to be in your life.

 

When we are the parentified child it is confusing in the psyche and that is why there is a lot of guilt and obligation. Because as a parent, you can’t imagine abandoning your child. You would still love your child no matter what happened. That is the appropriate order of things. We are not supposed to be a parent to our parents.

 

So, when it comes to cutting ties with a family member it is tricky. It is difficult because we are in role reversal. Much of the guilt comes from being the parental figure to our parents which makes it hard to cut them off. This is not a healthy dynamic.

 

What I have learned about boundaries, family, and having a healthy life is that continuing to be in a relationship with someone, even our mother, who is abusive, volatile, or who cannot respect boundaries, just because they are a family member out of guilt and obligation is not love. Sometimes it is cutting ties with someone that may be the catalyst for them to wake up and do their own work.

 

Would you like to win a free 30-minute (unaired) session with me? To add your name to the drawing, leave a rating and review in your podcast listening app. When the review posts take a screenshot and upload it to ChristineHassler.com/review. I’ll choose the winner in the first week of August.

 

I have a great course for those who want to be coaches or those who want to learn more about personal development. Unleashed is a program I did in collaboration with Ever Coach from Mindvalley. I teach you the 4 Levels of Coaching Mastery for Maximum Client Impact. Go to ChristineHassler.com/unleashed for more information.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • Is there someone in your life who does not deserve it and it is not healthy to have them in your life anymore?
  • Are you often the peacemaker in the family or other relationships?
  • Are you still living in a fantasy of what you wish your parents or someone in your life could be when you need to grieve what they are?
  • Do you love yourself and your family enough to put firm, healthy boundaries around you so you can break generational patterns and trauma?

 

Alison’s Question:

Alison wants guidance about how to have an adult relationship with her abusive mother.

 

Alison’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She had a traumatic childhood.
  • She has difficulty setting healthy boundaries.
  • She was the caregiver in the relationship with her mother.
  • She has a seven-year-old son.
  • Her grandmother was an important part of her life.
  • Her mother’s boyfriend was verbally abusive.
  • Her mother never stood up for her.
  • Her son has very little contact with her mother.
  • Her son triggers her childhood memories.
  • She worries that she will lose other family relationships if she cuts ties with her mother.
  • She is betraying her needs and her inner child.
  • Her mother doesn’t want her to change.
  • Her inner child thinks her mother will one day change.
  • She is the peacemaker in the family.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Have a clarifying conversation with her brother and grandfather about her decision to break ties.
  • Stop justifying her mother’s behavior.
  • Find peace within herself.

 

Takeaways:

  • Ask yourself where you may be in a relationship out of guilt and obligation?
  • Where are you the peacemaker when you don’t have peace?
  • What ties do you need to cut?
  • Why do you protect someone else’s feelings more than the energy of your inner child?
  • You deserve healthy boundaries.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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Jul 07, 2021
CC: Radical Awakening and Conscious Parenting with Dr. Shefali Tsabary
44:38
Dr. Shefali is an expert in family dynamics and personal development, teaching courses around the globe. She has a doctorate in clinical psychology and specializes in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy, bringing together the best of both worlds for her clients. She has written five books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family. Her newest book is Radical Awakening
 
Oprah has endorsed her work as revolutionary and life-changing. Dr. Shefali’s ground-breaking approach to mindful living sets her apart as a leader in the field of mindfulness psychology.

As an international speaker, she speaks at events around the globe, spreading her message of conscious parenting and mindful living. She also has a private practice where she consults with families and couples.
 
You can learn more here:  https://www.drshefali.com/
Jul 03, 2021
EP 303: The Importance of Speaking Your Needs in All Aspects of Your Life with Shelly
37:12

This episode is about speaking our needs in relationships. Today’s caller, Shelly, is great about articulating her needs in some aspects of her life but when it comes to matters of the heart, she suffocates herself. We discuss how clarifying questions can be self-honoring and relieve her anxiety.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode303]

 

Not knowing where we stand in a relationship is like pulling off the Band-Aid slowly. A slow painful rip off the heart. Whereas articulating our needs and having a clarifying conversation may be like ripping the Band-Aid off fast but it is better than the slow burn of hurt.

 

Put yourself in a place of empowerment. When we give our power away and just wait for someone else to tell us where we stand. It produces anxiety. It is like sitting in the back seat of a car while someone else is driving. You don’t know where you are going. You can’t control the speed limit. You are just sitting there hoping it turns out okay. It feels terrible to experience so much anxiety. When we clarify our needs to someone, even if it doesn’t turn out the way we want it to, at least, we can start the healing process.

 

Needs are not a weak thing to have. It is natural and normal for human beings to have needs. Our needs extend beyond things like survival. We need human connection and we need things in relationships. It is not needy to speak your needs. It doesn’t make you weak and it doesn’t make you codependent.

 

We get fooled into believing that someone not rejecting us, or someone not judging us is better than not making self-honoring choices for ourselves.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • Are you silencing yourself in relationships?
  • Are you getting your needs met?
  • Do you even know what your needs are?
  • Are you afraid to articulate your needs for fear of judgment, loss, or rejection?
  • Are you good at speaking up in some aspects of your life, but not so great at speaking up in others?

 

Shelly’s Question:

Shelly has been dating online and would like guidance on how to handle ghosting and being disrespected.

 

Shelly’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has cerebral palsy and uses a walker.
  • Her past dating experiences include being ghosted.
  • She feels abandoned and doesn’t get closure in relationships.
  • She wants to be an advocate for others with disabilities who are dating.
  • She gets anxious when someone doesn’t respond to messages.
  • She is able to articulate her needs except for when it comes to relationships.
  • She would rather have the truth than uncertainty.
  • She overthinks situations.
  • She gets nervous about meeting people for the first time.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Have a clarifying conversation with her current boyfriend to fully articulate her needs.
  • Write a letter to the guy from college she doesn’t intend to send.
  • Go out do something she loves and meet someone who sees her and her walker.
  • Lean into her gift of speaking her needs and stand in her power.

 

Takeaways:

  • Make a list of all the relationships in your life. Look at where certain needs aren’t being met and make yourself accountable for having a clarifying conversation.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.



Jun 30, 2021
CC: How Personal Development and Self Help May NOT Be Helping You
20:31

You are probably someone who has done a lot of work on yourself. You've read the "self-help" books, you listen to podcasts like this one, maybe you have a therapist or coach or have attended workshops.  You have a LOT of awareness and have grown so much which is AWESOME.  And . . . there may be some ways that the industry of personal development is not supporting you and this episode addresses some of those ways.

Jun 26, 2021
EP 302: How to Love All Parts of Yourself with Emily
30:26

This episode is about the parts of ourselves we develop to meet our needs and protect ourselves. Today’s caller, Emily, didn’t have her needs met as a child and her protective strategies are still active in her life. We work through the understanding that even things we may not like about ourselves, or get frustrated by, are things that have positive intentions and are trying to help us.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode302]

 

We all can be hard on ourselves, especially those of us who have a lot of awareness and have been doing personal development and healing work. Sometimes we get frustrated with ourselves and find ourselves doing things we think we should know better than to do. Or, we know the reason we are doing something but we can’t seem to change it and we judge ourselves.

 

We have different parts of ourselves that develop over time to protect us and meet our needs. It’s important to be compassionate with these parts, welcome them, and seek to understand them, rather than shame them. That’s when we start making progress.

 

Compassion and acceptance are absolutely necessary if we want change. So often we go after change by being hard on ourselves, by being judgmental, by being critical or too analytical and we don’t love the parts that are hard to change. But, when we love, accept, and seek to understand them we release their influence over us.

 

I have a great course for those who want to be coaches or those who want to learn more about personal development. Unleashed is a program I did in collaboration with Ever Coach from Mindvalley. I teach you the 4 Levels of Coaching Mastery for Maximum Client Impact. Go to  ChristineHassler.com/unleashed for more information.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • Are there habits you have or ways you act that frustrate you? You don’t like them, you judge them, and you want to change them.
  • Did you grow up feeling wanted and really seen?
  • Does it matter to you to matter in the world? Do you want to be relevant and sometimes question if you are relevant?
  • Even if you logically know you are worthy, do you sometimes deep down, or maybe not even that deep down question your worth?

 

Emily’s Question:

Emily is looking for guidance on how to break the habit of feeling unworthy.

 

Emily’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She keeps a mood log.
  • She is defensive, even over small things.
  • She expects people to treat her poorly.
  • She feels irrelevant and unworthy.
  • As a child, she didn’t feel wanted or seen by her parents.
  • She felt she was taking up space with all of her emotions.
  • Her sensitivities are a gift.
  • She’s a people pleaser.
  • It calms her to ask for help and support.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Learn how to nurture and care for her needs.
  • Promise herself to ask for more of what she needs.
  • Become aware of when she is defensive and thank it for helping her be seen.

 

Takeaways:

  • Be curious about your “parts” and behaviors that have positive intentions.
  • Consider how you can get the positive intentions in a different way.
  • Compassion and curiosity are your superpowers.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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Jun 23, 2021
CC: How to Get Over Feeling Lonely
04:34

Sometimes the experience of loneliness can feel so painful that connection seems almost impossible.  If that feels true for you, here is a four-step process you can use to support yourself in relieving feeling lonely.

Jun 19, 2021
EP 301: Release the Responsibility You Feel for Your Family with Julia
35:34

This episode is about changing your role in a chaotic family. Today’s caller, Julia, is a highly sensitive person with amazing gifts. She is at a choice point about how she wants to use them. She is looking for permission to pursue her life through authentic expression. Many relate to the feeling of conflict between familial obligations and pursuing your soul’s journey.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode301]

 

Ultimately, we do not know why our souls choose our families. But, we often come into families and family systems to break generational patterns. And, many of us experience family conflict if we are here to break generational patterns. Part of our soul’s journey is to not repeat the patterns. But, it is tricky because there’s an inner child piece that still wants to be loved and accepted by the family. It can be hard because we love the family and it feels like a betrayal to go and do our own thing.

 

One of the biggest gifts we can give our families is to embody and demonstrate what healthy looks like or what breaking patterns looks like. Not playing a role in the family can give other members a chance to get out of their roles. From the outside, breaking generational patterns can appear as mean or selfish. But, what we do allows everyone else the freedom to change their roles. We teach the most through our actions.

 

If you have been wanting to join my Personal Mastery Course but just haven’t done it yet, now is a great time to sign up. On July 8, 2021, there will be a one-day event including personal coaching from me. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Mastery to join. The call will be recorded if you cannot make it live and you will have this course for life.

 

Interested in a Breathwork and Meditation Course, including anger release? Go to ChristineHassler.com/breathwork.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • Are you a highly sensitive person or empath? Did you grow up in a house where you didn’t feel understood?
  • Did you grow up around a lot of chaos?
  • Is there a lot of family, social, or work drama where you tend to be the anchor? Do you calm everyone down but then feel drained?
  • Is there something you want to pursue but you feel you would be betraying people if you follow your soul’s calling?

 

Julia’s Question:

Julia feels she can’t escape her family’s chaos and would like guidance on how to grow in life without allowing her family drama to hold her back.

 

Julia’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is a highly sensitive person who is part of a chaotic family.
  • Her father was physically abusive.
  • Her mother suffered from panic attacks.
  • Her older sister has bipolar disorder.
  • She feels caught up in her family’s drama.
  • She is pursuing acting opportunities.
  • She is in a relationship and considering having a family but doesn’t want to pass on a generational pattern.
  • She has a desire to be creative.
  • She feels like a crutch for her sister.
  • Taking care of her family is not her calling.
  • She is resilient.
  • She dishonors herself when she gets caught up in the family drama.
  • She wants to channel her energy in more productive ways.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Prioritize herself.
  • Process her feelings.
  • Pursue her life through creativity.
  • Tell little Julia her family is not her responsibility.
  • Set boundaries to protect her energy.

 

Takeaways:

  • Do you relate to being a highly sensitive person and the gifts that come with it? Are you allowing your energy to be depleted or do you use your gift in a generative way?
  • Are you in a situation where you take over responsibility for your family and you are in a conflict between what the inner child and soul want?
  • Consider the generational patterns you are breaking in your family.
  • Do not come from guilt and obligation when interacting with your family.

 

Sponsor:

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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Jun 16, 2021
CC: Set Boundaries, Find Peace with Nedra Glover Tawwab
54:41
I got so much incredible feedback on the last CC we did on boundaries that I wanted to bring on another amazing, super informative expert.  Nedra Glover Tawwab joins me today who is a licensed therapist and sought-after relationship expert, has practiced relationship therapy for twelve years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice Kaleidoscope Counseling. She has been recently featured in TheNew York Times, The Guardian, Psychology Today, Self, and Vice, and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including Don't Keep Your Day Job, Do theThing, and Therapy for Black Girls. Tawwab runs a popular Instagram account where she shares practices, tools, and reflections for mental health and hosts weekly Q&As about boundaries and relationships. She lives in Charlotte,North Carolina, with her family.
 
Her new book is Set Boundaries, Find Peace.
Jun 12, 2021
EP 300: Let Go of the Relationship that is Based on Your Past So You are Open to the Relationship that is Aligned with Your Future with Linda
31:57

This episode is about releasing addictive patterns by remembering the love within us. Today’s caller, Linda, recently ended an on-again-off-again two-year relationship. She questions which wounds are causing her patterns. We discuss her soul’s journey, how she is not broken, and how she can help herself feel safe, seen, and loved.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode300]

 

It is often unresolved issues from our past hurts, wounds, and things that were hard to go through that impacted our beliefs, attachment style, trauma response, and psyche. However, it is important not to see ourselves as wounded or broken. Personal development is best addressed as a learning opportunity, not from a fix-it mindset.

 

When we don’t have a great model for love and when we feel worthless, relationships, even unhealthy ones, are going to be addictive. Because, often, we confuse love for something familiar.

 

Even if you are an addict or have been in the past it doesn’t mean you haven’t made progress. Just the fact you’re listening to this show and this kind of information, means you are a seeker. You want out of the addiction, patterns, bad relationships, and the scarcity mentality. It can be frustrating if you feel you have a long way to go but acknowledge the wisdom of your soul for at least getting you to where you are now.

 

You will get farther if you continue to be proud of yourself for where you are.

 

If you have been wanting to join my Personal Mastery Course but just haven’t done it yet, now is a great time to sign up. On July 8, 2021, there will be a one-day event including personal coaching from me. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Mastery to join. The call will be recorded if you cannot make it live.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • Are you still in a relationship or not quite over a relationship you were in and out of, that on some level you know wasn’t good for you but you just can't seem to let go?
  • Did you have an absentee parent or parents or caregivers who didn’t give you the security and safety every child truly deserves?
  • Are you learning how to love yourself and think that maybe you have forgotten?
  • Are you trying to figure out what wound in your life is creating some of the undesirable events?

 

Linda’s Question:

Linda has been in an on-and-off relationship and would like to know which childhood wound is creating this pattern.

 

Linda’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She recently ended an on-and-off two-year relationship.
  • She feels she lost herself in the relationship but is attached and addicted to it.
  • She was critical of herself as a child.
  • Her parents divorced when she was three and she lived with her grandparents.
  • She was bullied for many years as a child.
  • She feels safe hiding and not being seen.
  • She would like to feel loved.
  • She goes back to the relationship because of shared interests.
  • She wants to spend time on her own and remember how to love herself.
  • She has feelings of abandonment and rejection.
  • She needs to feel seen and that someone is there for her.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She needs to remember how much she loves herself.
  • Write a list of all the things that did not work in the relationship and read it when she feels like reaching out to him.
  • Write a list of the amazing things about herself and read it every day.
  • Turn up the voice of her inner parent to feel safe, seen, and loved.

 

Takeaways:

  • If you are in a relationship you feel attached or addicted to and you continually justify it in your head, take off your rose-colored glasses and ask yourself if you have a high tolerance for putting up with crap.
  • Focus on falling back in love with yourself.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

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Jun 09, 2021
CC: Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess with Dr. Caroline Leaf
01:05:47
Want to learn how to reduce (even eliminate) things like anxiety, depression, obsessive thinking and stress? Then you are going to love my conversation with Dr. Carolline Leaf. She is a communication pathologist and cognitive neuroscientist, specializing in cognitive and metacognitive neuropsychology. Since the early 1980s, she has researched the mind-brain connection, the nature of mental health and the formation of memory. She was one of the first in her field to study how the brain can change (neuroplasticity) with directed mind input. During her years in clinical practice and her work with thousands of underprivileged teachers and students in her home country of South Africa and in the USA, she developed her theory of how we think, build memory and learn, creating practical guides and tools that have transformed the lives of hundreds of thousands of individuals with Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), chronic traumatic encephalopathy (CTE), learning disabilities (ADD, ADHD), autism, dementias, and mental ill-health issues like anxiety and depression.  

You can learn more and get her book at: https://drleaf.com/
Jun 05, 2021
EP 299: Break Free of Your Fear of Rejection with Sylvie
41:19

This episode is about radical self-acceptance. Today’s caller, Sylvie, has had therapy, done tons of personal development work, and speaks with her inner child but still feels blocked. We discuss ways she can reframe her perception of what her awareness is bringing up and how she can fully accept and love herself and her human experience.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode299]

 

When we have something we criticize, don’t like, or want to change and the way we relate to it is with judgment and shame and guilt, it amplifies it because all of our fears are seeking to be loved. We have the need to be seen and to be loved.

 

When it comes to the parts of ourselves that we judge and shame just pushing through our response to it, our freeze pattern, can re-traumatize us and reinforce wounds. So, instead of pushing through it, bring love to it.

 

We continue to get “negative” or undesirable experiences, not because we are being tested or the universe wants to punish us, but because our soul is always seeking to evolve. It is looking for a new way to respond to the circumstances. Circumstances don’t just stop when we have an awareness about something. When we have an awareness and we know why we are drawing certain things into our lives, we work through it, and then the same thing comes to us again because we need to practice integrating it.

 

If you missed our juicy group call on love, sex, and intimacy last week go to Christinehassler.com/group-coaching-replays to download it and check out all previous calls for only $20.

 

Join us for our Relationship Course on June 11‒13, 2021. It will be recorded if you can’t make it live. But if you make it live you have an opportunity for live coaching. Go to ChristineHassler.com/relationshipcourse. We will discuss aligning values, getting better at fulfilling each other’s needs, and communication tools. Couples and singles are welcome.

 

Check out my new audio course on the Himalaya Learning App. Himalaya is an audio learning platform that provides an extensive library of courses from great minds such as Malcolm Gladwell, Tim Ferriss, Seth Godin, and me. In my program, “Your Heart, Your Life,” I teach about love and relationships. Go to himalaya.com/heart  and use the promo code “heart” for a 14-day free trial.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • Have you done all the work but feel like things just are not changing?
  • Do you freeze or just feel bolted down when it comes to putting yourself out there and making a request when selling your business?
  • Did you grow up in a home where you weren’t nurtured and loved, especially when you made mistakes?
  • Do you have a very critical judgmental voice inside your head? When you fail or make a mistake do you experience shame and guilt?

 

Sylvie’s Question:

Sylvie fears rejection. She has done personal development work but still feels blocked.

 

Sylvie’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has been working to heal her traumatic childhood.
  • She has a critical inner judgment.
  • She is proud of her personal transformation.
  • She talks with her inner child.
  • She feels she is on the cusp of a breakthrough.
  • She feels she is not reaching her potential.
  • She is an empath and sees the world differently.
  • She puts a lot of pressure on herself.
  • She is starting her personal chef business but is hesitant to talk about it to others.
  • She didn’t feel safe and nurtured as a child.
  • She needs to feed herself the love she feeds to others.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Move into acceptance and move out of “fix and heal.”
  • Ask what her triggers want her to know.
  • Consider the worst-case scenario and play it out in her mind.
  • Connect and tap into the big “why” of what she is doing.
  • Regulate herself when she feels the “freeze.”

 

Takeaways:

  • When you are in a trauma response such as worry or freeze think about the worst-case scenario and play it out.
  • Bring unconditional love and acceptance to your undesirable feelings.
  • Take an inventory of the personal growth information you are consuming. If something makes you feel shame or somehow inadequate, stop ingesting it.
  • Listen to Episode 297 where I describe how to regulate the nervous system.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.



Jun 02, 2021
CC: The Magic of Surrender with Kute Blackson
01:03:38
My longtime friend Kute Blackson joins me this week to discuss the magic of surrender. Surrender is one of those sexy spiritual words that we often do not truly understand or experience.  Kute shares with us how we can actually surrender and the magic it brings to our lives when we do.
 
Kute Blackson is a beloved inspirational speaker and transformational teacher. He speaks at countless events he organizes around the world as well as at outside events. He is a member of the Transformational Leadership Council, a select group of one hundred of the world’s foremost authorities in the personal development industry. Winner of the 2019 Unity New Thought Walden Award, Blackson is widely considered a next generation leader in the field of personal development. His mission is simple: To awaken and inspire people across the planet to access inner freedom, live authentically and fulfill their true life’s purpose.
May 29, 2021
EP 298: Get Out of Your Relationship Rut with Shaun
42:38

This episode is about how to get your needs met in an intimate relationship. Today’s caller, Shaun, is looking for guidance on how to re-open his heart and rekindle the warmth for his partner whom he loves. We discuss strategies for getting beyond the hurts and moving toward understanding and compassion. We often love the way we need to be loved instead of loving a person the way they need to be loved.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode298]

 

As much as we want love and connection in a relationship, the thing we want even more is not to get hurt or lose our power. Often, we put more energy into avoiding what we don’t want than creating the relationship we do want because that’s what we need to do to survive.

 

Our intimate relationships are often the very fertile ground where we work out any issues from childhood we haven’t quite resolved. If we were criticized a lot in childhood, it can come up in a relationship. If we were anxious or didn’t feel safe, that is going to come up. If there was cheating within our parent’s relationship, that is going to come up. Jealousy, abandonment, all the things we felt as children tend to come up in romantic relationships because romantic relationships are our adult family.

 

Remember, our relationship with our primary family is the intimate relationship that forms the foundation for all future intimate relationships.

 

Whenever we are in an argument, or rut, or tension with our partner, the most important thing that we can do is get to a level of understanding and compassion with ourselves and our partner to understand what the need is that is not being met inside of ourselves. We discover the unmet need that is triggering us and making the situation hard. Then, we look at our needs and then at our partner’s needs and take responsibility for communicating the needs in a clear, specific, non-blaming way.

 

It is important to be clear with our partners about how we need to be loved.

 

Join us for our virtual Relationship Retreat on June 11‒13, 2021. It will be recorded if you can’t make it live. But if you make it live you have an opportunity for live coaching. Go to ChristineHassler.com/relationshipretreat. We will discuss aligning values, getting better at fulfilling each other’s needs, and communication tools. Couples and singles are welcome.

 

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Consider/Ask Yourself

  • Do you feel like your heart is not open to your partner?
  • Do you feel like there are things that happen in your relationship you can’t forgive, can’t shift, or can’t get over?
  • Are there issues from your childhood that may be playing out in your relationship?
  • Are you in a dynamic of being avoidant and it produces anxiety in your partner, or vice-a-versa?

 

Shaun’s Question:

Shaun would like guidance on how to re-open his heart to his partner.

 

Shaun’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He has been in his relationship for nearly five years.
  • He doesn’t feel the closeness he once felt.
  • He loves his partner.
  • Both partners get triggered during arguments.
  • He was bullied as a child and felt attacked.
  • His dad wasn’t around as much as he would have liked.
  • His parent’s marriage was passionless.
  • The dynamic in his partner’s family was competitive.
  • He tends to dissociate during arguments.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Ask his partner what she needs.
  • Set his partner up to win.
  • Attend our upcoming relationship retreat.
  • Have a ‘needs’ conversation with his partner.
  • Get specific about how he wants his needs met.
  • Make his relationship his top priority.

 

Takeaways:

  • When triggered in a relationship, consider what needs are not being met. 
  • Make your current or future relationship a priority.
  • Join us for our relationship retreat June 11-13, 2021.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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May 26, 2021
CC: What to Expect from the Years Ahead (and how to Navigate the Now) with Asterian Astrologer Jade Luna
01:04:52
Today Asterian Astrologer Jade Luna joins me again to discuss how the stars predicted this time we are in, what we can learn from it and how we can move forward. Jade and I speak about what life is really about and what the most important things that each and every one of us can do right now to live our most aligned and true lives.
 
Jade S. Luna is the first Westerner ever to reconstruct Jyotish (Hindu Astrology) into a Greco-Roman format. Jade has traveled extensively around the planet, lecturing and conducting workshops on Astrology and Ancient Roman-Greco mysticism. He has traveled to India more than 30 times and spent a great deal of time with various teachers, Saints and Sadhu’s in Asia.

Jade also consults with people privately. He usually presents a few seminars each year at various locations world wide. He is the author of Asterian Astrology and has been one of the most successful Astrologers in the world and has maintained a high level practice for over 18 years.

You can learn more or book a session with him here: http://www.asterianastrology.com
May 22, 2021
EP 297: How to Move Out of Anxiety and Feel Safe with Lara
49:19

This episode is about regulating the nervous system and dealing with past pains. Today’s caller, Lara, is looking for guidance on how to cultivate a sense of safety and security. We work through a body practice to regulate her nervous system and bring her into calm.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode297]

 

Feeling safety and security isn’t a mental thing. They have to be felt in the body. When we feel safe and secure, the nervous system relaxes, the body gets out of our survival brain and it comes into a rest-and-digest stage where the nervous system can regulate.

 

With a dysregulated nervous system you cannot shift it by talking, analyzing, or awareness. It becomes frustrating because you can see your anxiety and you understand why it is there and explain your reasons for having anxiety. But, just being able to explain something doesn’t change it. The healing or the fixing of it becomes another obsession. What it comes down to is the creation of safety and security. We are always trying to get back to feeling safe and secure.

 

The human body and the nervous system are very resilient, as is the human spirit, but we cannot shift and change when we think we are broken. We need to have compassion for ourselves and one of our most valuable inner resources is our ability to ask for help.

 

Join us for our virtual Relationship Retreat on June 11‒13, 2021. It will be recorded if you can’t make it live. Go to ChristineHassler.com/relationshipretreat. We will discuss masculine and feminine energy, polarity, and the duality of all things. Couples and singles are welcome.

 

Tuesday, June 1 at 5 pm (PT) I will host another group coaching call for only $20. To sign up go to ChristineHassler.com/group.

 

Check out my new audio course on the Himalaya Learning App. Himalaya is an audio learning platform that provides an extensive library of courses from great minds such as Malcolm Gladwell, Tim Ferriss, Seth Godin, and me. In my program, “Your Heart, Your Life,” I teach about love and relationships. Go to himalaya.com/heart  and use the promo code “heart” for a 14-day free trial.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • Do you constantly feel anxious or deal with obsessive thoughts?
  • Have you outsourced your worth or your sense of safety? Are you looking for it in your achievements, a relationship, or even your appearance?
  • Do you crave to be in a relationship, then when you get in them, they’re not healthy?
  • Do you have trouble regulating your nervous system and bringing yourself into a calm?

 

Lara’s Question:

Lara would like to know how she can cultivate a sense of trust and safety and guidance on how to stop filling her void with external things or men.

 

Lara’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She does not feel worthy or good enough.
  • She struggles with binge eating.
  • She tries to outsource her worth through her appearance, men, or achievements.
  • She has had manic episodes.
  • She craves being in relationships and wants to be saved.
  • She over-analyzes everything she does.
  • She feels stuck.
  • She has a sharp mind and a lot of self-awareness.
  • She grew up with inconsistency and chaos in her childhood.
  • Her mother was not there for her as a child.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Recognize when her nervous system is dysregulated and greet it with compassion.
  • Put her hands on her belly and chest and then breathe deep and make a “VUUU” sound.
  • Hold a stuffed animal and rock back and forth to soothe herself.
  • Give herself the parenting and the developmental stages she didn’t get.
  • Go to the people and sources that give her motherly love.

 

Takeaways:

  • Consider the indicators when you go into survival mode then recognize and accept them.
  • Have compassion for yourself.
  • Move into a source of regulation such as breathing, holding a stuffed animal, rocking, etc.
  • Stop trying to shift a dysregulated nervous system with your mind.
  • Remember, nothing is broken or wrong about you.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.



May 19, 2021
EP 296: How to Have a Hard Conversation with a Parent with Max
42:23

This episode is about having difficult conversations with our parents. Today’s caller, Max, is trying to avoid being triggered when he speaks to his father. We discuss how Max can ease the impact on his inner child and not experience an expectation hangover.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode296]

 

If a parent or someone we love opens the door to have a conversation we want to run right through and share everything we have been wanting to say for the last 20 years. The other person may feel bombarded and not be ready to hear everything we have to say in one conversation.

 

If you are offered an open door with someone who has been closed for a very long time, do not rush through it thinking it is a green light to speak about everything you have been holding in for decades. Sometimes we need triggering events to create momentum and shifts in a relationship. It is better to approach the situation slowly.

 

*Coaches — this is where you want to be mindful with your clients. For someone who has a triggering relationship, if they have an opportunity like that you want to support them and guide them through walking through the door slowly. Coach them toward taking baby steps so they don’t end up with a massive expectation hangover.

 

Join us for our virtual Relationship Retreat on June 11‒13, 2021. It will be recorded if you can’t make it live. Go to ChristineHassler.com/relationshipretreat. We will discuss masculine and feminine energy, polarity, and the duality of all things. Couples and singles are welcome.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself

  • Do you have patterns of escapism?
  • Is there a parent whose love you are seeking? Do you seek out their love in unhealthy ways?
  • Have you always felt like one or both of your parents don’t understand you?
  • Do you feel so different from your family you don’t know if you will ever fit in?

 

Max’s Question:

Max would like advice on how to keep himself grounded when he speaks with his father.

 

Max’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He was disloyal in his relationship.
  • He knew avoidance issues were a pattern throughout his life.
  • Love and sex are separate for him.
  • He is the oldest of six children.
  • His childhood family was emotionally suppressive.
  • His father struggled with alcohol abuse and infidelity.
  • His biological mother abandoned him.
  • He then escaped to Mother’s house later in life.
  • He does a lot of personal growth work.
  • He has opposing views from his family about current events.
  • He wants a compassionate embrace from his father.
  • He wants to escape when he feels overwhelmed.
  • He is learning to set boundaries.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Set an intention of having his father get to know him better.
  • Figure out what little Max needs.
  • Approach his relationships slowly, in a way that does not shock his inner child.

 

Takeaways:

  • If you are going to have a conversation with someone who has opened a door, write out some questions or comments. Go into those kinds of conversations prepared so your nervous system doesn’t go into overdrive. 
  • When making a big decision, check in with your inner child and do not push yourself. Taking baby steps can be powerful.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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May 12, 2021
CC: Get Over "I Got It!" with Elayne Fluker
45:46

If you are someone who prides themselves on "being strong" and not great at asking for support, this episode is for you!. Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, Get Over "I Got It" (HarperCollins Leadership) -- is the host of the Support is Sexy podcast featuring interviews with more than 500 diverse women entrepreneurs, and founder of SiS.Academy -- an online learning platform for Black Women entrepreneurs.

May 08, 2021
EP 295: Healing from Trauma with Anne
39:23

This episode is about healing trauma. Today’s caller, Anne, is a musician who wants to expand her creative expression but feels blocked due to the sexual abuse she experienced. She has done a lot of personal development work but still has difficulty fully expressing herself. She wants guidance on how to navigate through her trauma to heal it.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode295]

 

Trauma impacts and/or injures the nervous system. When a person experiences extreme trauma the brain goes into survival, which means fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. The brain is always on the lookout for danger and it is exhausting. That is why we experience fear and anxiety.

 

I can’t label what “extreme” is because two people can have the same situation happen to them and one person may register in their nervous system as not that big of a deal, but another person with the same circumstances can register it as a really big deal.

 

When we are healing trauma it is not about reliving it. It is about providing space for somatic emotional release and working with a person to regulate their nervous system. It is about coming out of the survival brain and moving back into the “rest and digest” part of the nervous system, moving from the sympathetic nervous system which is on alert, and into the parasympathetic nervous system.

 

The personal development/self-help world can be misleading, perhaps even damaging, for people that have experienced extensive trauma like rape, sexual abuse, physical abuse, racial trauma, etc. Often, there’s an expectation or ethos in the personal development industry that you just need to shift your mindset about something and find the lesson of it. Or, that challenging experiences make you stronger or you can meditate your way through anything. It leaves a lot of people feeling like they are failing at personal development.

 

Join us for our virtual Relationship Retreat on June 11‒13, 2021. It will be recorded if you can’t make it live. Go to ChristineHassler.com/relationshipretreat. We will discuss masculine and feminine energy, polarity, and the duality of all things. Couples and singles are welcome.

 

Check out my new audio course on the Himalaya Learning App. Himalaya is an audio learning platform that provides an extensive library of courses from great minds such as Malcolm Gladwell, Tim Ferriss, Seth Godin, and me. In my program, "Your Heart, Your Life" I teach about love and relationships. Go to himalaya.com/heart  and use promo code “heart” for a 14-day free trial.

 

Anne’s Question:

Anne has been trying to heal trauma from sexual abuse and rape and would like guidance on how to navigate through it to shift it.

 

Anne’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She experienced sexual abuse.
  • She is a musician.
  • She has depression and feels blocked.
  • She feels she cannot fully express herself.
  • She has done energy work and spoken to counselors.
  • She has done the temper tantrum technique.
  • She is having a biologically correct response to what is happening.
  • She has had bad experiences with the medical system.
  • She trusts her intuition but not her decision-making process.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Give herself grace and understanding.
  • Trust that she still has her innocence, expression, femininity, and sexuality.
  • Acknowledge the progress she has made.
  • Work with a trauma-trained therapist to help her regulate her nervous system.
  • Nurture her creativeness and passion.
  • Do not push through her fear.
  • Have faith and trust her intuition to align with the right person to help.
  • Realize she has been through a high level of trauma and she deserves a high level of support.

 

Takeaways:

  • Look at the things you have bought into in the personal development world. Are there things that feel more motivational? Could they be hurting more than helping?
  • Is it time to normalize the biologically correct behavior you're experiencing to find the right specialist to help you with it?
  • Consider where you have trust issues. Find something to put your trust into even if it is your intuition.
  • Be open to receiving support. Put it out there verbally and energetically.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show

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May 05, 2021
CC: The Highly Sensitive Person with Julie Bjelland
01:00:12

Julie Bjelland is a Psychotherapist specializing in high sensitivity, host of The HSP Podcast, and Founder of the Sensitive Empowerment Community, whose mission is to create a paradigm shift where sensitivity is embraced, valued, and honored. Julie offers essential resources for educating, inspiring, and empowering HSPs. Register for her free Masterclasses, take the Sensitivity Quiz and profoundly transform your life in her courses and community. Her HSPs in Business Group is designed to support and empower sensitive people to grow heart-centered businesses, share their voices, and be part of the change the world needs.JulieBjelland.com

May 01, 2021
EP 294: Growing in a Relationship with Brandon
36:16

This episode is about holding space for our partners. Today’s caller, Brandon, would like guidance on how to be in the healthy space of masculine and feminine presence. It is a lovely conversation about integration and holding space when you get to a place where you feel wonderful, but your partner isn’t quite there.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode294]

 

When someone comes to us and vents, there is a desire to want to fix whatever it is. The masculine tends to want to fix. The feminine tends to want to take it on and over-empathize into sympathy or go into a caretaker role. We all have masculine and feminine energetics inside of us.

 

Underneath any upset is an unmet need. When we can find the need in an argument or a trigger inside ourselves, we can begin to deal with the true trigger. When we are trying to ease the trigger with talk or action, it usually doesn’t work because we are not reaching the unmet need.

 

Remember, everyone is on their own path. When one person gets to a place of feeling evolved like they’ve “got it” in some ways they want the other person to join them. And, wanting someone you care about to grow and evolve is great. However, judgment can creep in. When we grow and we have awareness we can get on a spiritual or personal growth soapbox. It can be unconscious, or subtle, but the other person can feel judged. The other person can feel pressure.

 

When you get triggered, ask yourself if your masculine comes out or your feminine. Or, can you be in the healthy space of masculine and feminine presence, where the masculine part of you welcomes it, holds space, and asks it what it needs and the feminine part has massive compassion and nurtures you?

 

Join us for our virtual Relationship Retreat on June 11‒13, 2021. It will be recorded if you can’t make it live. Go to ChristineHassler.com/relationshipretreat. We will discuss masculine and feminine energy, polarity, and the duality of all things. Couples and singles are welcome.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you in a phase of your relationship where it’s time to integrate some of the things you’ve learned?
  • Do you feel like you or your partner may be a little “ahead” in your personal development and integration? Does one partner get frustrated because the other is not as far along?
  • Do you feel polarity in your relationship? As in, one of you holds a strong feminine pull and one of you holds a strong masculine pull. Are you possibly in your unhealthy masculine or feminine expressions?

 

Brandon’s Question:

Brandon would like assistance with integrating some learnings into his relationship.

 

Brandon’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He has been married for five years.
  • He has a daughter.
  • His relationship has been through some “speedbumps.”
  • He was abandoned at 13.
  • He has done personal development work.
  • He feels supported, loved, and compassion from his wife.
  • He is learning more about the feminine dynamic.
  • He is new to setting boundaries.
  • They tried having a polyamorous relationship.
  • He feels oneness with God.
  • He is growing into feminine, within his masculine role.
  • He is in a beautiful place emotionally and spiritually.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Focus on how to make his wife feel safe.
  • Be a masculine container without attachment to a shift or change.
  • Don’t judge his wife for being at a different vibration.
  • Ask his wife what she needs when she vents.
  • He needs to be consistent in his actions.
  • Do the Sacred Union process together with his wife.

 

Takeaways:

  • Look at the masculine/feminine relationship inside of yourself.
  • Pay attention to whether you want to fix others or yourself and see if you can back off the fixing and be in a place of unconditional love and acceptance.
  • Join us for our powerful virtual Relationship Retreat, June 11‒13, 2021. 

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show 

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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Apr 28, 2021
CC: Become a Boundary Boss with Terri Cole
53:32
What are boundaries? How do we set them and keep them? How do we know if our boundaries have been crossed? These are just some of the juicy questions that Terri Cole, author of the book, Boundary Boss, answers. You will get so much value out of this conversation and it will improve all of your relationships!
 

Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert.

For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.

She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change.

She inspires over 250,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show.

To get your copy of the book and the free gifts from Terri, go to https://boundarybossbook.com/

Apr 24, 2021
EP 293: Having a Heart So Big it Hurts Sometimes with Beth
31:30

This episode is about loving your big feelings and emotions. Today’s caller, Beth, wants to feel comfortable in her skin. In her childhood home, her gift of being an empath became a liability. Whoever is the most open, the most sensitive one in a family often absorbs everyone else's feelings. Beth would like guidance on how to keep her heart open but not feel overwhelmed by her feelings.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode293]

 

In today's world, it's often hard to keep our hearts open. So many people are numb, or shut down from feeling, or are scared to feel the “negative” feelings like sadness and anger, or have built walls and around their hearts and wear masks every day. When we are empathic and live among people who suppress, we feel it all.

 

Oftentimes, what makes an empath’s heart hurt is feeling sympathy or sorry. It is feeling someone else's pain and suffering so much so that we feel bad for them. It is a judgment. When we are in sympathy we are judging.

 

The truth is none of us want to be blissfully ignorant. Ignorance really isn’t bliss. We may think it is and think back to a time when maybe we weren’t so awake and aware and romanticize it, thinking maybe it was better, but it really isn’t. We are here to evolve. We are here to awaken. And although it comes with many challenges, going back into being asleep is not an option.

 

Feelings are part of our life force and tears are not bad. Celebrate yourself.

 

Join us for our Love and Relationship Group Coaching Call on April 22 at 5 pm Central. It will be recorded if you can’t make it. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group. It’s $20. We will discuss masculine and feminine energy, polarity, and the duality of all things.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you a soft-hearted person or do you tend to cry about a lot of things?
  • Have you ever been told you're “too sensitive”?
  • Do you downplay challenges or trauma from childhood and think your childhood wasn’t that bad?

 

Beth’s Question:

Beth would like guidance on how to be more self-aware.

 

Beth’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She’s become more aware from doing personal development work.
  • She thinks peace might be unattainable for her.
  • She is not comfortable in her skin and feels like a sham.
  • She is a single mom.
  • She is very emotional and sometimes wishes she was not.
  • She carries shame about being soft-hearted.
  • She cries easily.
  • She was a middle child who felt alone.
  • People tell her she is too emotional.
  • She has the gift of being an empath.
  • She attended the Inner Child Workshop.
  • No one encouraged her emotional intelligence.
  • She was teased as a kid.
  • She had temper tantrums at home.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Stop judging herself for how she feels.
  • Welcome her feelings when they arise.
  • Do not hold other people’s feelings.
  • Do not feel sympathy for others.
  • Meditate and ask for spiritual assistance.

 

Takeaways:

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

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Apr 21, 2021
CC: How to Manage Growth Spurts (aka Difficult Times) in Relationship
32:22
Stefanos joins Christine again to share tips for how to manage challenging conversations and moments in a relationship.  Any relationship, not just romantic ones, hit periods of growth where the relationship needs to get to the next level. This can be confronting for one or both people. In this episode we give you advice on when to pause and allow integration to happen (rather than keep processing) as well as a tool called "pendulating."
 
To join us for our group coaching call on relationships, go to www.christinehassler.com/group
Apr 17, 2021
EP 292: Stop Obsessive Thinking with Demi
37:45

This episode is about calming an anxious or hypervigilant mind. Today’s caller, Demi, has a pattern of obsessive-compulsive thinking, anxiety, and a worst-case scenario mindset. She would like guidance on how to calm her mind and be more compassionate with herself. It is a very human trait to worry and have anxiety, especially for people who grew up in a chaotic home.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode292]

 

One of the ways we can deal with hypervigilance or anxiety is by witnessing it. It is important we do our best not to make it wrong and accept it. The moment we realize it is not us, the moment we recognize it as OCD, our inner critic, or when we can name it, it gives us a sense of control. It makes it feel as if it is not a runaway train. That’s how we begin to calm down.

 

The pattern of not being able to relax but also feeling like you are not doing enough is caused by the emotion underneath the hypervigilance we don’t want to feel. And, with hypervigilance comes increased sensitivity. Increased sensitivity usually means more connection to intuition, compassion, and empathy.

 

People who grew up in a chaotic home may have a hard time relaxing because often, that was the calm before the storm. Having an emotional release with no judgment is an important part of working with this.

 

If you know someone who isn’t able to calm down or “just not think” about something it is important to have sensitivity and compassion for them because it can be maddening for the person dealing with anxiety or OCD to be told to calm down when the pattern is playing out.

 

Join us for our Love and Relationship Group Coaching Call on April 22 at 5 pm Central. It will be recorded if you can’t make it. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group. It’s $20. We will discuss masculine and feminine energy, polarity, and the duality of all things.

 

Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to get on the early bird list for our upcoming Relationship Retreat.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you tend to have an overactive brain?
  • Do you struggle with indecision and a pattern of you feel like you can never do enough?
  • Do you deal with FOMO or “shoulding” all over yourself?
  • Do you have a strong intuition but either don’t listen to it or question yourself?

 

Demi’s Question:

Demi has struggled with overthinking and FOMO since her teen years and would like guidance on how to calm herself.

 

Demi’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She feels like she is not doing enough.
  • Her mind gets loud, and she overanalyzes everything.
  • She suffers from anxiety.
  • There was instability in her childhood home.
  • Her parents had a chaotic relationship.
  • She recently started therapy.
  • She has studied Somatic therapy.
  • She loves herself.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Become aware of her inner critic and accept it with compassion.
  • Forgive herself for being hard on herself.
  • Practice release writing.
  • Realize she is not her thoughts.
  • Get out of her mind by shaking her body or breathing to move her energy around.

 

Takeaways:

  • If you have people in your life who tell you to calm down or to not think about something, do your best to have boundaries about it.
  • The moment you notice a pattern starting, separate yourself from it. Don’t judge it. Notice it, then love it and accept it.
  • Use physical calming techniques to move the energy around in the body.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

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Apr 14, 2021
CC: Truths (and Inspiration) about Fertility & Pregnancy
01:20:04
I have looked long and hard for a fertility expert that has both heart and correct, research backed, up to date expertise...and I found it all in Dr. Cleopatra.  If you have any questions or concerns about your reproductive health and longevity, you will love this reassuring and informative episode.
 

Dr. Cleopatra is The Fertility Strategist and Executive Director of the Fertility & Pregnancy Institute.

The mission of the Fertility & Pregnancy Institute is to see what others can’t using the best of love, science, and commitment to help ensure that your fertility keeps up with your high-achieving life so that you get to have as many superbabies as your heart desires.

Dr. Cleopatra is a scientist and university professor specializing in fertility, pregnancy, and how health is transmitted from one generation to the next. To date, she has received nearly $3 million in grant funding from the National Institutes of Health, the National Science Foundation, the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation, and others. Dr. Cleopatra has been cited over 1,000 times in the past 5 years alone. Dr. Cleopatra teaches women about the primemester—the magical and powerful window of opportunity before pregnancy—when we literally have the power to change the quality and expression of the genes that we pass down to our babies and grandbabies. Using the science-based, big-hearted PrimemesterTM Protocol developed and refined by Dr. Cleopatra over the past 24 years, the Fertility & Pregnancy Institute helps women all over the world reverse reproductive aging; get pregnant quickly and easily; reduce miscarriage risk; and finally have the superbaby™ they have been dreaming of for as long as they can remember. Dr. Cleopatra is the author of the forthcoming book, “Primemester to Your Superbaby™.”

Learn more at christinehassler.com/drcleo

Apr 10, 2021
EP 291: Learning to Leave a Bad Situation at the First Sign with Barbara
42:27

This episode is about letting go of patterns and relationships that no longer serve you. Today’s caller, Barbara, has a pattern of staying in things long after they are dead, long after the signs say something is no longer in alignment with her life, or it is depleting her life in some way. The pattern of trying to breathe new life into something already dead is a waste of a precious life force. If you can relate to holding on to things for too long or staying in relationships after their expiration date has expired, this episode is for you.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode291]

 

Being able to nurture and be empathetic and feel what others are going through is a gift. Gifts usually come with a learning opportunity. The gift of being incredibly caring and empathic comes with the learning opportunity of boundaries, of not loving or caring for another so much that we lose sight of ourselves.

 

If you want to step into your gifts as a healer, empath, teacher, or true caregiver without depleting yourself, for your gifts to flourish you have to break the pattern of giving to dead ends. Break the pattern of giving so much you deplete yourself of your energy, self-care, self-worth, and self-love. Break the cycle of giving to dead ends, nourish your gifts, and use them in a way they can be fully received.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you a natural nurturer, or caretaker so much so that it often depletes your self-care?
  • Is it hard for you to leave situations or relationships or let go of expectations for your life?
  • Do you keep trying to make something work when you know deep down it probably will not?
  • Do you feel like a doormat and as if your needs come last?
  • When you set boundaries to take care of yourself, does it cause you guilt and concern about how the other person is doing more than how you are doing?

 

Barbara’s Question:

Barbara is questioning staying in her current relationship.

 

Barbara’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • Her boyfriend is in the hospital after threatening to kill her.
  • She doesn’t know the mental status of her boyfriend.
  • She doesn’t feel it is in her highest good to stay in her relationship.
  • She is in therapy.
  • Her boyfriend’s family is giving her the cold shoulder.
  • She hasn’t had her needs met in her relationships.
  • She is a natural empath.
  • She works in a nursing home.
  • She has a good friend she can heal with.
  • She doesn’t want to get into another relationship.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Take care of herself as she cares for others.
  • Step away from this relationship.
  • Be aware that her self-worth is not based on how she takes care of others.
  • No more sacrificing herself.
  • Self-care is her number one priority.
  • Join the next Inner Child workshop with her friend.
  • Make a list of all of the reasons this relationship is not a fit for her.

 

Takeaways:

  • What are the warning signs you have gotten in your life about a person or situation that wasn’t truly aligned and you ignored them?
  • Look at your patterns of people-pleasing and overgiving and know your self-worth and value do not come from helping others.
  • If you are in a helping profession, make sure you take quality time to take care of yourself and fill your own cup.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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Apr 07, 2021
CC: Tips for Healthier Relationships with Christine & Stef
47:46

Stef (Christine's husband) is back on the podcast to talk with me about the common challenges we see couples face and how to overcome them.  We will also be hosting a virtual relationship retreat in June, go to www.christinehassler.com/relationshipsupport to get on the early bird list for discounts and details. 

Apr 03, 2021
EP 290: Facing and Loving Our Fears with Mikaela
34:47

This episode is about loving our inner child and making them feel safe. Today’s caller, Mikaela, has a tremendous amount of fear and anxiety stemming from the chaos that surrounded her in her childhood home. She wants to feel safe and be seen. This call is great support for any of you who feel fear even if it isn’t reasonable for a situation. Or, those of you who are confused about how to connect to your inner child.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode290]

 

For parents or anybody who wants to be a parent, it is very important you continue to parent, or start to parent your inner child when you have children. When someone who had a difficult childhood has a child, they become a great parent to their child. Much better than the parents they had. But it can activate their inner child because their inner child wants to know why they are not receiving the same love and attention from them. Our inner children can act up and act out.

 

Parenting our inner child does not take anything away from our children. It actually gives to them because our children are unconsciously learning from us all the time. When we are parenting ourselves well, they feel that. And, in return, we are a better parent to them. We are not triggered as much by our children when we are parenting our inner child.

 

Remember, we do not want to be anxious about our anxiety. We do not want to be scared about our fear. Because when we are anxious about our fear and anxiety it becomes worse.

 

If you would like to move unconscious stuff and move it into a vibration where you can attract different things into your life, listen to our special breathwork and meditation series. Save $30 on the eight guided sessions when you use the code “breathe” at ChristineHassler.com/breathwork.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you ever have a big fear that comes up but it does not quite match the situation?
  • When fear overcomes you, is it hard to calm down and break free from it?
  • Did you grow up in a house full of chaos where you didn’t feel safe?
  • Did you or do you ever just want to hide and be invisible?

 

Mikaela’s Question:

Mikaela has feelings of inadequacy and fear. She would like guidance on how to become calm and free herself of those feelings.

 

Mikaela’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • There was a lot of chaos in her childhood home.
  • Her father was an abusive alcoholic.
  • She tried to make herself invisible.
  • She has tremendous fear.
  • No one ever recognized how scared she was.
  • She wanted someone to comfort her and make her feel safe.
  • She feels grief for herself as a child.
  • She compares herself to others.
  • She feels robbed of her childhood.
  • She is self-conscious.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Connect to her inner child to make her feel seen and safe.
  • Visualize her adult self removing her inner child from the chaos.
  • Acknowledge and honor her grief.
  • Forgive herself for any misunderstandings.

 

Takeaways:

  • If you have consistent levels of fear or anxiety that don’t match a situation, it is an alarm bell being activated or triggered. Instead of trying to calm yourself, experiment with following the feeling in a soft, loving way.
  • Doing inner child work doesn’t mean we re-experience and relive traumatic events. It means we grieve with the little one who is activated and let them express while being compassionate with them.
  • Invite your inner child to live in the present with you, not the past.
  • Get access to Inner Child Workshop recordings by emailing Jill@christinehassler.com.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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Mar 31, 2021
CC: Answering Your Questions
23:40

Christine answers two listener questions. The first is around the fear of abandonment....what causes is, how it shows up in life, and how to heal it. The second question is regarding how to be with friends going through a hard time without being "life coachy" with them.   Also you can take the love block quiz Christine mentioned to find out what fear hold you back here: https://stefanossifandos.com/love-block-quiz/

Mar 27, 2021
EP 289: Moving Out of Overwhelm and Resistance with Nikhi
37:30

This episode is about how to shift personality patterns. Today’s caller, Nikhi, is looking for guidance on how to speak up for herself and how to ask for what she wants. She has completed two Inner Child Workshops and is ready to work through the resistance she feels as she begins to shift her patterns.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode289]

 

Doing personal growth work, especially inner child work, doesn’t mean that boom, all of a sudden you’re healed. It takes time. The patterns we develop, the coping strategies, the results from our wounding have been there for many years. It takes time for something to move from awareness to integration.

 

The enduring pattern develops around age three because our need at that age is expression, to be able to express our feelings, to be able to express who we are, and to feel like it’s safe to be ourselves. If we lived in a family where emotional expression wasn’t encouraged, or we were to be seen, not heard, or we were told what to do, we had to figure out what to do just to not piss anybody off, we end up often with something called the enduring pattern. The enduring pattern is when we think we will just hold it all together or hold it all inside because it’s not safe to express or speak our truth.

 

There are two parts to speaking up for yourself. Part one is speaking your needs and part two, continuing to speak up when you are met with criticism, gas-lighting, or feeling squashed.

 

Get on the interest list for our next couple’s Relationship Retreat. It is a live, 3-day virtual retreat coming up in June. Christinehassler.com/relationshipsupport 

 

Listen to past group coaching calls, ChristineHassler.com/group-coaching-replays, and listen to Coaches Corner with Erica Alaura for important energy cleansing work.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you get overwhelmed easily but yet have trouble asking for help?
  • Does your reaction to something, like your level of a reaction, sometimes not match the reality of the situation?
  • Are you hard on yourself? Do you have a fierce inner critic?
  • Do you internalize your feelings?
  • Is it difficult for you to ask for support?

 

Nikhi’s Question:

Nikhi is looking for guidance on how to speak up for herself and ask for what she needs from an empowered place.

 

Nikhi’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She feels disempowered.
  • She doesn’t ask for what she needs and then feels shame about it.
  • She feels triggered and angry when her husband reminds her of things.
  • She is an empath.
  • She didn’t feel seen or heard as a child.
  • She internalizes things that happen to her.
  • She has completed two Inner Child Workshops.
  • She has an anxious attachment style and an enduring personality pattern.
  • She gets overwhelmed easily.
  • She was not allowed to express anger as a child.
  • She struggles with structure.
  • Her subtle inner critic comes out as a sinking feeling.
  • She wants to find an accountability partner.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Speak up and share her emotions.
  • Practice feeling and expressing her feelings.
  • Do 10-minutes of Release Writing or record thoughts on her phone daily.
  • Write a letter to her inner parent to re-read when she feels resistance.

 

Takeaways:

  • Discipline yourself with love and gentleness.
  • Don’t put too much on your plate.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

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Mar 24, 2021
CC: Get Unstuck and Clear Your Energy with Erika Alaura
01:11:50

Erika Aluara is a friend and personal healer of Christine's. She is an intuitive, channel and a transcendence coach partnering people to experience not only unrecognizable transformation but true transcendence. In this interview, she also clears YOU the listener which is not to miss!!

Erika draws on her extensive training and experience to incorporate multiple modalities, including Psychic Channeling, Spiritual Response Therapy, Past Life Clearing and ThetaHealing®.

Erika is deeply passionate about holding the space and sifting through the elements her clients reject, repress or fear about themselves — discreetly, confidentially and without judgment — transmuting that negative emotion into peace, understanding and ultimately, acceptance.  If you are interested in an integrative approach with sustainability as its core feel free to book in for a consultation session, the experience is beyond priceless!

 
Mar 20, 2021
EP 288: How to Navigate Confusing Emotions with Olivia
45:17

This episode is about honoring emotions with compassion and acceptance. Today’s caller, Olivia, is going through a unique situation. She is feeling confused by her emotions and would like guidance on how to feel her feelings without going into “victim” and how to grieve after a loss.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode288]

 

It is normal for emotions to be confusing. We live in a mental, logical, linear-based world where we want certainty. We want things to make sense. But life isn’t linear, there aren’t five steps to make every sense of everything. Life is messy. It’s complicated. It’s a journey. Especially when it comes to emotions, we don’t want to try to manage them, understand them, or know why. We just need to learn how to feel and move through them. But, often, our mind gets in the way. This is the biggest reason so many people deal with repression, suppression, depression and then have to distract themselves or develop addictions. It’s because we don’t know how to be with our emotions.

 

Most of the time, when we are crying or feeling we are analyzing it. Maybe not allowing ourselves to be in the emotion and ride the waves. One wave could have twenty different feelings in it. It is about letting yourself go with compassion.

 

If you want to evolve and be free of some of the stuff that is weighing you down, you have to feel. We only get lost in our feelings when we judge them or when we go into “victim.”

 

Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. ChristineHassler.com/innerchild March 19–21, 2021. Listen to past group coaching calls at ChristineHassler.com/group-coaching-replays.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you often feel confused about your feelings?
  • Do you feel guilty about feeling the way you feel?
  • Do you put other people’s needs above yours, making their feelings and tending to their feelings and their concerns more of a priority?
  • Do you feel overwhelmed with a current emotion? Are you scared if you go into it you will lose yourself?
  • Are you going through a loss of any kind? A loss of a person you love, a pet, job, a dream?

 

Olivia’s Question:

Olivia has had major heartbreak and loss and is confused about how to feel.

 

Olivia’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She ended a long-term relationship and then her ex married quickly after.
  • Her ex passed away tragically within a year of their breakup.
  • She feels stuck in her emotions.
  • She feels confused and guilty about being upset.
  • She looks to other people about how to feel.
  • She didn’t attend his funeral.
  • She is a people pleaser and puts others first.
  • She can fall into “victim” and judge herself.
  • She buries her anger.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Give herself permission to feel all of her feelings.
  • Allow herself to grieve.
  • Honor what she is feeling with compassion.
  • Realize she may never get an apology.
  • Perform a personal memorial service for her ex.
  • Dig up her anger to release it with the Anger Release technique.
  • Practice the Empty Chair process from Personal Mastery.

 

Takeaways:

  • Practice riding the waves with compassion for yourself and others.
  • Allow emotions to be confusing. You don’t need to understand them mentally. The body and heart understand emotions, not your mind.
  • Consider joining us for the Inner Child workshop on March 19–21.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

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Mar 17, 2021
CC: Practice and Understand Self-Love
10:05

We all know self-love is incredibly important but what does it mean and how do you do it? Listen in for a Coaches Corner where Christine discusses a way to practice and understand self-love. 

Mar 13, 2021
EP 287: Stop Putting Yourself Second and Speak Your Needs with Judy
37:05

This episode is about honoring your needs and speaking your truth. I coach today’s caller, Judy, through her feelings of isolation and empower her to have an honest conversation with her husband and herself about her needs.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode287]

 

Loneliness is an epidemic, especially in this day and age when so many of us live alone. We are not close to our family geographically or we don’t have a soul family or community to be a part of. We need a healing connection. We need to feel part of something, part of a tribe. We need to feel connected to ourselves. What often perpetuates a feeling of loneliness is a disconnection from ourselves that comes from judging ourselves and being hard on ourselves. If you suffer from loneliness or a lack of self-esteem, you are not alone. Let the fact that you are not alone motivate you to gain confidence and to connect with a community.

 

Speaking your truth is when you say what’s true for you and you are able to communicate your needs. When are you not speaking your truth?

 

Many of us think people-pleasing is a way to get love and find validation. We think if people see the real us, they may not like us. The more you show the real you and the more authentic you are, your relationship with yourself will improve, your self-esteem will improve, and the intimacy and connection you have with other people will also improve.

 

It’s great to make other people happy but it’s more important to please ourselves first by making self-honoring choices. People-pleasing could be the reason you are feeling isolated. On some level, people-pleasing is draining.

 

Drop the people-pleasing, up your self-esteem by making self-honoring choices, and get out there and find your tribe!

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel isolated? Are you craving more connection?
  • Are you in a marriage or relationship where you feel isolated? Do you feel like you are dependent on your partner or you are living according to their dreams and desires more than your own?
  • Are you a people-pleaser? Do you have a hard time making your needs a priority?
  • Do you find it challenging to speak your truth?

 

Judy’s Question:

Judy wants to know how to find herself and how to raise her self-esteem.

 

Judy’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has been continuously moving for a year.
  • Her husband tries to support her but he doesn’t really get it.
  • Her husband has a stronger personality than she does.
  • She’s dependent on her husband and doesn’t go places on her own.
  • She always puts other people first.
  • She has a hard time saying no.
  • She takes care of people, hoping it will help to build intimacy.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should be honest and vulnerable with her husband about her feelings.
  • She should speak up when she feels she wants to say something.
  • She should lean more into authenticity and less into people-pleasing.
  • She should spend some time on her own engaging with other people.

 

Takeaways:

  • If you are in a relationship with the opposite sex and would like to improve your masculine/feminine communication dynamics, consider studying the subject more.
  • If you are feeling isolated, start with a goal of talking to five new people every day and then build on that number. Start getting yourself out there and finding your tribe.
  • Speak your truth authentically. If you have trouble doing it, join the Inner Circle community. Authenticity is this month’s area of focus.
  • Communicate your needs to the most important people in your life.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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Mar 10, 2021
CC: How to Truly Accept and Let Go
18:45

Christine answers the question: How do we truly move into acceptance of something turning out differently than we want and truly let go?"  Acceptance is one of the most powerful things we can do for our healing and growth, yet it is often so difficult because what we have to accept is a reality we don't want.  Christine teaches what acceptance actually is and the importance of moving out of regret, shoulda coulda woulda thinking, and how to move through our disappointments rather than get stuck.

Mar 06, 2021
EP 286: Breaking Free of the Cycle of Infidelity with Maria
39:30

This call is about breaking patterns with self-compassion. Today’s caller, Maria, has been unfaithful in her relationships since the age of fifteen. She carries shame and judgment around it. Romantic relationships are so greatly influenced by our childhood wounds. In this call, you will see how Maria’s childhood is impacting how she shows up in relationships today and why she’s cheating.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode286]

 

Shame and judgment are heavy and toxic. They are the things that keep us from shifting and changing. Yet, they make us want to change even more because the more shame we feel and the more we judge ourselves the more committed we are to changing. We may go to therapy, take courses, or listen to podcasts but it doesn’t change things. Shame and judgment can be the catalyst for something we need to shift but we must move into compassion and acceptance in order to get to the healing that creates the shift.

 

Sometimes, we have to face our worst fears in order to not have them be the monster in the closet. We have to open the closet door and deal with the monster because we can’t stand lying in my bed and worrying that the monster will get us. We have to get up and deal with it so we can get some sleep.

 

Loneliness can become dangerous because we crave connection. We all need to feel loved and we will do extreme things to get love. Even repeat patterns that are no longer serving us.

 

How wounding affects our romantic relationships is the topic of the Virtual Group Coaching Call on March 11, 2021. $20 is all it costs to connect with your inner child and other like-minded people.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you carry a lot of shame about something you’ve done or that you’re doing or a pattern you have?
  • Have you ever been unfaithful in a relationship or cheated on?
  • Is there something in your life that you are having a hard time shifting and you know you want to take a big step but you can’t seem to make it happen?
  • If you have children, what are you teaching them through your actions? Are you being an example of what you’d want them to be in life and relationships?

 

Maria’s Question:

Maria wants to know why she continues the pattern of cheating on her partners.

 

Maria’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has cheated on her partners since she was 15.
  • She needs validation from men to feel worthy.
  • She feels unlovable.
  • Her father died when she was eight.
  • She was one of six children.
  • Her mother wasn’t loving.
  • She felt alone growing up.
  • She likes being protected by older men.
  • She became addicted to having a boyfriend.
  • She would like to shift her pattern now.
  • She has two daughters.
  • Her ex-husband spoke to her children about her cheating.
  • She distracts herself through relationships.
  • She is scared of making a shift.
  • She started therapy this week.
  • She hasn’t fully grieved her father.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Forgive herself for judging and shaming herself.
  • Move into the energy of self-compassion.
  • Breakup with her boyfriend and be single for a while.
  • Get a coach or therapist to work with her.

 

Takeaways For You:

  • Are you trying to shift yourself through shame and judgment? Can you bring self-compassion in?
  • Are you the bartender trying to get sober all the while serving alcohol all day? Are you in an environment that is not conducive to your healing and what can you do to get out of that environment?
  • Join our Group Coaching Call on March 11th about how inner child work impacts relationships.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

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Mar 03, 2021
CC: Why is Growth So Painful
13:43

Listen in as Christine discusses why growth can be so painful, why the pain is not “bad”, ways to decrease the pain, and why the pain is NOT necessary for growth.

  

Link to blog/podcast she mentions:

https://christinehassler.com/2018/03/do-you-have-enough-

Feb 27, 2021
EP 285: How to Stop Worrying About the People You Love with Lara
32:49

This call is about letting go of worry and anxiety. Today’s caller, Lara, has a lot of worry and anxiety when it comes to her kids. She would like guidance on how to tame it and not have it impact her children. When we let worry get the best of us, not only are we raising cortisol levels in our bodies, which is bad for our health, but we are moving out of our resourced state where we have access to intellect and intuition.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode285]

 

When we have a lot of worry and anxiety, it doesn’t do us any good. We become good at imagining worst-case scenarios but the heightened sense of anxiety puts us in the amygdala part of our brain — the fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. When we are in that part of our brain, we are not thinking clearly; we are not well resourced. When it comes to keeping ourselves safe and protecting ourselves, being prepared allows us to relax because we have a plan in place.

 

We need to learn to channel the worry into something else — into being productive, being prepared, or deepening our spiritual practice.

 

There is a certainty we get from physical world reality, control, and from seeing things. And, there is a certainty we get from faith. Unfortunately, for most of us, our certainty muscle is based on control. That muscle is much stronger than our faith muscle. Having faith in the universe, higher power, God, or whatever resonates with you, is key in letting go of anxiety and letting go of attachment. Because if there is not something bigger than you that you trust, you will always be addicted to control. You will feel like you have to have your hands on the steering wheel of life at all times. It will be hard to let go. This is why surrender is important.

 

Surrender isn’t about giving up. It is about letting go. It’s about relaxing into the knowing that there is a higher power taking care of you and taking care of the people you love.

 

Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com March 19–21, 2021

 

We are creating a Relationship Retreat. It will be a 3-day virtual event. Get on the interest list to find out more and receive the early bird discount at ChristineHassler.com/relationshipsupport.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you love people so much you just want to hang on to them tightly and often control what they’re doing?
  • Do you worry about the people in your life and you feel better when they’re in your sight? Do you have a hard time letting them go?
  • Are you a parent who is struggling with the balance of giving your kids freedom, not wanting to project your anxiety on them, but also worrying if you don’t, something bad is going to happen?
  •  As a child did you feel safe? Did you feel like all your needs were met? Did you feel like you had a parent that made you feel calm and resourced or do you have more of an anxious-attachment style?

 

Lara’s Question:

Lara feels stuck in a cycle of anxiety and does not want it to negatively impact her children.

 

Lara’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has anxiety.
  • She tends to control situations.
  • Her children are becoming independent.
  • She had chaos in her childhood.
  • Her mother was the nervous type.
  • She worries and does not trust that things will be OK.
  • She has an anxious attachment style with her children.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Trust and have faith that her children are protected.
  • Join the Inner Child Workshop.
  • Allow her mother’s intuition to guide her actions.
  • Greet her anxiety with love and remember it is just her inner child.
  • Start a meditation and mindfulness practice.

 

Takeaways For You:

  • Make your inner child feel safe. Let them know you are there for them.
  • Trust your intuition.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

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Feb 24, 2021
CC: Opening your heart to live and your mind to biohacking with Luke Storey
01:08:35

Luke Storey is a motivational speaker, kundalini yoga and meditation teacher, world-class biohacker, host of The Life Stylist Podcast, and founder of the world’s premier online fashion school for stylists, School of Style which he founded in 2008.

Luke’s spent the past twenty-three years developing and refining the ultimate wellness lifestyle, based on the most transformative principles of primal health and ancient spiritual practices, while at the same time embracing the most cutting-edge natural healing and consciousness expanding technologies. He has tenaciously applied the results of his field research and used them to not only completely transform his own life but also the lives of thousands of fans and followers through his various media channels and speaking engagements.

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Feb 20, 2021
EP 284: Finding Yourself After Losing Yourself in a Relationship with Elena
35:57

This call is about making self-honoring choices. Today’s caller, Elena, has separated from her husband after being co-dependent for many years. She is uncertain how to move forward because she isn’t clear about who she is. She asks for guidance about what to do next. This is an important call for those who feel they have lost themselves in a relationship or job.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode284]

 

When you are trying to make an important decision, from getting a divorce to having a child, to moving to a new city or quitting your job, you need to start on the inside first. Look at where you are in the situation. Ask yourself if you want the job? Do you want the marriage to work? Are you scared to speak your feelings? What is underneath the surface feelings?

 

For most people, limbo feels safe because you don’t have to make a choice. But, what is safe for most of us is what is familiar. Usually what is familiar doesn’t leave any opportunity for change or breakthrough. When you are in limbo, not moving in any direction, there are no possibilities. There is only more of the same.

 

When we know who we are and we practice honoring choices, not selfish choices, clarity becomes a lot easier. Because we can say, “This is a yes. This is in alignment with my most authentic self. I’m not coming from a place of hurt or from my childhood wounding. I’m not looking for love or validation outside of me.” It becomes much easier to make decisions.

 

Everyone has the tools to love themselves and figure out who they are. If you are in a human body with a mind, a soul, and a heart you have the tools. You may need someone to help you use the tools but you have the tools.

 

Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com March 19–21, 2021

 

We are creating a Relationship Retreat. It will be a 3-day virtual event. Get on the interest list to find out more and receive the early bird discount at ChristineHassler.com/relationshipsupport.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel you have forgotten who you are or lost who you are?
  • Do you feel like within a marriage, being a parent, in a job, or friendship you have sacrificed your own identity?
  • Are you in limbo about a big decision and terrified to make the change?
  • Do you feel lost when it comes to getting support or asking for help?

 

Elena’s Question:

Elena would like to find herself after losing herself in a co-dependent, long-term relationship.

 

Elena’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She had been with her husband since the age of 14 until separating three years ago.
  • She was co-dependent during her marriage.
  • He had an emotional affair with someone else.
  • The couple tried therapy.
  • She is afraid to make a move.
  • She lacks the confidence to make a change.
  • She needs to put herself first.
  • She grew up with old-school Italian values.
  • Her mother divorced her father at her same age.
  • Her temper goes quickly from one to 100.
  • She likes to make people happy.
  • She feels she needs to earn love.
  • She doesn't know how to be.
  • She is in Personal Mastery.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Create some space to find out who she is.
  • Be self-honoring and choose self-love.
  • Realize she does not have to please people for them to love her.
  • Journal to help process her feelings.
  • Focus on the relationship she has with herself.

 

Takeaways For You:

  • Get support. Reach out for help.
  • Form clear boundaries about what is not working for you, get clear about who you are and step into self-love.
  • Join Personal Mastery.
  • Be gentle with yourself. Stop telling yourself all the reasons you cannot do something and collect evidence for how you can.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

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Feb 17, 2021
CC: Discover your Dharma with Sahara Rose
51:02

Sahara Rose is an ancient soul in a modern body. She has been called “a leading voice for the millennial generation into the new paradigm shift” by Deepak Chopra, who wrote the foreword of her books. She is the best-selling author of Eat Feel Fresh, Idiot's Guide to Ayurveda, A Yogic Path, her new book Discover Your Dharma. She also hosts the Highest Self Podcast, the #1 spirituality podcast on iTunes, and founder of Rose Gold Goddesses, the sacred sisterhood collective.

Feb 13, 2021
EP 283: Things Are Good But I Keep Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop with Kate
38:58

This call is about worst-case scenario thinking. Today’s caller, Kate, is always waiting for the other shoe to drop because of chaos in her childhood. She has never felt safe. If you find yourself at a point where life is smooth and good but you keep waiting for something to happen and then judge yourself for having negative thoughts, this show will offer you solid guidance.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode283]

 

Often, when people are in personal development, they learn from their suffering. There is an unconscious belief that they learn and grow from challenge or loss. But, while those things can be awakenings to growth, we must choose to learn and grow. We don’t need loss and hardship to motivate us, inspire us to grow, or evolve our souls.

 

Often, when we are worried the other shoe is going to drop, the fears coming up are our inner child trying to communicate with us. The body and emotions are often the language of the inner child, of our subconscious mind. So, pay attention to those, and instead of trying to get rid of them, ask them what they need.

 

It is not our thoughts that attract things to us. It is our feelings and our frequency. Gratitude is a great frequency to move us out of anxiety or obsessive thinking. Moving into gratitude and truly feeling it is so much better than distraction.

 

If you have fears of manifesting your bad thoughts, remember that the percentage of time you spend in the present and in gratitude is probably greater than the percentage of time you spend worrying. Worrying just feels more intense because it is intense and uncomfortable when you do it. Take comfort that it will be okay.

 

Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com March 19–21, 2021

 

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Did you have a childhood where you couldn’t really relax, there was a lot of uncertainty, or everything was going fine and then a shoe dropped and you find yourself constantly waiting for the other one to drop?
  • Have you done a lot of work on yourself? Are things going really well but you feel you can’t trust it?
  • Do you fear that your fear about things going badly will manifest bad things?
  • Do you feel you have a deep connection to your inner child and they feel safe?

 

Kate’s Question:

Kate would like guidance around why, when things are going well, she fears something is going to go wrong.

 

Kate’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is at a great place in her life.
  • She often expects the worst.
  • She fears she is going to sabotage herself.
  • She has done personal development work.
  • She spends more time in fear than joy.
  • Her father was unpredictable and angry.
  • Her sister was often sick.
  • She didn’t feel safe as a child.
  • She wants to be more spontaneous.
  • She uses distraction as a coping strategy.
  • She believed challenges were a path to growth.
  • She does not need to suffer to learn and grow.
  • She will pay attention to the voice of her inner child.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Reassure her inner child and put one hand on her belly and one on her heart and say “I am safe” when she has fear about something going wrong.
  • Journal about how learning through challenge is over.
  • Move into acceptance, soothe her inner child, and make a conscious decision to choose gratitude.

 

Takeaways For You:

  • Sign up for the Inner Child Workshop.
  • Practice the 3-step process. Acceptance, reassurance of safety, and gratitude.
  • Vow that you can evolve through choice, not challenge.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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Feb 10, 2021
CC: Radical Permission with Hayden Dawes
56:10

Hayden Dawes is a licensed social worker whose practice experience includes hospital social work, mental health, and addiction treatment, in addition to people involved in the legal system. Although grounded in relational-experiential approaches to mental health treatment, Hayden has been trained in advanced trauma modalities and remains curious about all forms of mental health treatments. Hayden is currently a Ph.D. student at the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill’s School of Social Work.  His research is in examining the psychosocial challenges impacting people of color and LGBTQIA+ individuals. He is also interested in seeking advanced methods to intervene on providers’ implicit and explicit biases. In response to racial injustice within the mental health practitioner community, Hayden wrote an article that was featured on Medium titled “An Invitation to White Therapists” it has since been widely used in direct practice education, consultation, and supervision. Hayden currently resides in Greensboro NC with his partner of 10 years. Hayden is an avid crossfitter, traveler, dance partner, and reality-tv specialist. During the COVID pandemic, Hayden expanded his personal “radical permission”practice to create a #radicalpermission project for the greater community across social media platforms, to encourage people to set intentions with grace.  

Feb 06, 2021
EP 282: Feeling Enough No Matter What with Jessie
41:37

This call is about feeling safe and feeling enough. Today’s caller, Jessie, has been struggling with childhood trauma and is self-soothing by buying things she doesn’t need. Any of you who struggle with not-enoughness, or have been labeled as having ADD, or are not sure if you have dealt with your childhood trauma, this is a great episode for you.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode282]

 

The unconscious drives about 90-95% of our behavior. We come from our past trauma or our limiting beliefs until we reach a point where we are aware of it and choose and attract something differently.

 

Often, people who struggle with low self-worth or of not-enoughness are constantly trying to compensate by doing, talking, and proving. They are not great at reaching out for support because there is a level of trauma that still is running the show. There comes a point when trauma becomes part of our learning and part of the things that helped us grow and part of the things that have evolved our soul but before it gets there it becomes the thing to create our reality until we shift it.

 

For coaches and therapists, when you have a client who seems to dart around and doesn’t land on one thing for very long, it indicates that they just don’t feel safe, and feeling safe is everything.

 

Remember, we attract at the level of our issues until we heal those and move into a different frequency.

 

Connecting to your inner child is February’s topic for the Virtual Group Coaching Call on February 11, 2021. $20 is all it costs to connect with your inner child and other like-minded people.

 

Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com March 19–21, 2021

 

Do you want to make coaching your career? Join our 6-month coach training program. You will be mentored by me and three other master-level coaches. Plus you will have the opportunity to be a coach in the program moving forward. Go to Christinehassler.com/coachtraining

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you shop too much or have some kind of behavior you know is not healthy but you just can’t stop yourself from doing it?
  • Do you struggle with feeling not enough?
  • Do you have a lot of childhood trauma or chaos you have done your best to cope with but don’t know if you are totally free?
  • Have you and do you accept all parts of yourself?

 

Jessie’s Question:

Jesse struggles with childhood trauma and not-enoughness. She wants to feel safe and enough.

 

Jessie’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She buys things she feels will make her look a certain way.
  • Her mother is overly critical.
  • She self-soothes with shopping.
  • She doesn’t feel safe.
  • She lost her brother and her dad early in life.
  • She has been labeled as having ADD.
  • She lived in fear as a child due to her dad’s abusiveness.
  • She has done talk therapy.
  • She is overwhelmed when she has to do adult things.
  • She feels alone.
  • There was chaos in her childhood.
  • Her nervous system is delicate.
  • She is trying to handle too much at once.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Grieve the relationship she hasn’t had.
  • Invoke the loving mother inside herself.
  • Stop judging herself for doing something she is trying to transform.
  • Stop dating for a while.
  • Find a source for trauma or somatic therapy with whom she feels safe.
  • Understand there is nothing wrong with her.

 

Takeaways For You:

  • Ask your body, which is connected to your inner child, what it needs?
  • If you are a parent, one of the best things you can do is do your own work. Invest in yourself. If you are a great parent to your inner child, you will be a better parent to your own child.
  • Join the inner child workshop.
  • Seek out support and get help.
  • Sign up for the group call or join the Inner Child Workshop.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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Feb 03, 2021
CC: Get Unstuck and Design your Dream Career with Ashley Stahl
43:12
If you are feeling confused, frustrated or stuck regarding your career, this is the interview for you.  Ashley Stahl joins Christine to talk about the ways you can get clarity on your next career move, learn the 10 core skill sets that exist in the workforce and more! 

Ashley is counter-terrorism professional turned career coach and author of the book You Turn: Get Unstuck, Discover Your Direction, Design Your Dream Career, and she's on a mission to help you step into a career you’re excited about and aligned with. She supports clients in 31 countries in discovering their best career path, upgrading their confidence and landing more job offers. Her book-- along with $2,000 worth of free courses on money mindset, getting clarity on your career, and starting your side hustle -- is available now at YouTurnBook.com.

Jan 30, 2021
EP 281: Has Your Relationship Hit a Rut? With Jasmine
36:58

This call is about being the change you want to see in a relationship. Today’s caller, Jasmine, would like more intimacy and connection in her marriage. We work through how the relationship dynamics have changed and the childhood wounding that may be affecting her and her husband. Whether you are in a relationship or not, if you are someone who wishes someone else would change or wish someone would be different, this is an episode you should listen to.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode281]

 

Both men and women have masculine and feminine energy in us. It is like the Yin and Yang. They go together in balance. Most of us have one energetic that sits in front of the other. The feminine yearns for presence, affection, and intimacy. The masculine energy is focused. It is responsible, but it can be in the shadow masculine if it is focused to the point that it is ignoring emotional availability.

 

I am making a massive generalization here, but I see women, for a while, putting more work into a relationship. Then, after learning to drop into their feminine they often expect something to change in the other person. If you decide to be more into your feminine energy, be sure to do it freely, without expectation.

 

When we are the invitation; when we are the change that we want to see... that is truly the only way change is created. Are you the invitation without expectation? Or, are you being the invitation because you want something to happen?

 

Connecting to your inner child is February’s topic for the Virtual Group Coaching Call. $20 is all it cost to connect with your inner child and other like-minded people.

 

Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It's about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com March 19-21, 2021

 

Do you want to make coaching your career? Join our 6-month coach training program. You will be mentored by me and three other master-level coaches. Plus you will have the opportunity to be a coach in the program moving forward. Go to Christinehassler.com/coachtraining

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you in a bit of a relationship rut? Has a relationship, marriage, or even a friendship been going along for years and it’s good but there’s something you would like to change?
  • Have responsibilities in your life made you grow apart from your partner?
  • Are you the more conscious one in a relationship and feel like you are constantly wanting your partner to grow or be conscious with you and they just seem to stay where they are?
  • Are you aware that the most intimate relationships in your life often trigger your childhood issues?

 

Jasmine’s Question:

Jasmine wants more connection and intimacy from her husband of 11 years.

 

Jasmine’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has been married for 11 years.
  • She and her husband lead a busy life.
  • She would like more emotional intimacy from her husband.
  • She is doing consciousness work.
  • She has shifted the relationship dynamic.
  • She has tried initiating physical contact.
  • She has childhood wounding with regard to her father.
  • She loves small quiet moments.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Create what she wants in the relationship.
  • Acknowledge her husband more.
  • Be vulnerable to create intimacy.
  • Step into her feminine energy and be the invitation.
  • Do not try to get Dad’s love from her husband.
  • Be inspired to move toward love.
  • Download the Sacred Union process and possibly share it with her husband.

 

Takeaways For You:

  • Are there patterns in your relationship where you may be breeding resentment based on old stories that need to be updated?
  • Would a little bit of relationship detoxing shift your relationship to the next level?
  • If you want something to change be the invitation for it.
  • Consider joining us for our Inner Child Workshop.
  • Download our free guided Sacred Union process.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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Jan 27, 2021
CC: The Art of the Impossible with Steven Kotler
01:06:50
In this episode you'll learn why everyone (even you!!) is wired for peak performance. Steven Kotler New York Times bestselling author and peak performance expert—on a science-based approach to unleash our full potential and succeed against all odds. During a time when it’s easy to give up, Kotler teaches us how to exceed our limitations with his newest book, The Art of the Impossible.  Kotler decodes the secrets of elite performers, including top CEOs, Olympic athletes, and respected artists—many of whom his organization Flow Research Collective trains. Listen and learn the role of flow in pulling off the impossible, how to become exponentially more productive, and how to innovate in mind and matter.
 
Grab Steven's book here: https://www.stevenkotler.com/
Jan 23, 2021
EP 280: How Working Too Hard on Yourself is a Block to What You Desire with Dani
40:05

This call is about self-acceptance and leading a fully-expressed life. Dani calls in looking for guidance on how to get out of the funk she is in. She feels unmotivated and burned out. But, as we discuss, the beautiful thing about burnout is that it is a wake-up call to tell us we are living in an unsustainable way. It is in the unknown that magical opportunities present themselves. When we plan and control everything there is little room for the universe to surprise us.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode280]

 

A lot of us are committed to personal growth. But, we must be aware of when we are working on ourselves a little too much and sometimes just let it be. Be in radical self-acceptance. Be in a place of just accepting where we are and shifting our energy into one of love and gratitude. It is the balance between not brushing stuff under the rug and living in denial but not overworking ourselves so we are always a personal growth project.

 

When we grew up in a house where there was a lot of uncertainty or chaos there is a frenetic energy that happens. It is constantly looking for safety and certainty. It can keep us very busy. If you relate to that, I encourage you just to stop and slow down. Because our soul, or the universe, does not give us much momentum on something when it comes from a place of lack. Sometimes we just need to stop and be with ourselves.

 

Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It's not about working on yourself. It's about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com March 19-21, 2021

 

Do you want to make coaching your career? Join our 6-month coach training program. You will be mentored by me and three other master-level coaches. Plus you will have the opportunity to be a coach in the program moving forward. Go to Christinehassler.com/coachtraining

 

Dani’s Question:

Dani feels a loss of identity, burned out, and unmotivated and would like guidance on how to break free of her funk.

 

Dani’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She was a full-time musician who started a life coaching business last year.
  • She feels she has a block around her career.
  • Her focus on her career is a coping strategy.
  • She puts a lot of pressure on herself.
  • She wants to live a balanced life.
  • She’s done a lot of personal development work.
  • She is always searching for something and pushing herself.
  • She hasn’t felt safe in her life.
  • She has no anticipation for the future.
  • She feels uncertain.
  • She has taken many risks in her life.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Resist the habit of trying to figure everything out.
  • Embrace uncertainty.
  • Give herself the gift of feeling safe in the present moment.
  • Permit herself to just be.
  • Move out of distraction and into stillness and safety.

 

Takeaways For You:

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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Jan 20, 2021
CC: Compassion is a Requirement for Health with Dr. Nzinga Harrison
57:36
This episode is a hug for your mind and your heart.  Well-respected physician and educator, Dr. Nzing Harrison joins Christine to speak about how to cope with all the stress of this year, why compassion is a requirement for your brain and health, how to identify and deal with addiction or unhealthy coping strategies and SO much more.  Dr. Harrison is the Chief Medical Officer and Co-Founder of Eleanor Health, a value-based provider of compassionate, comprehensive, outpatient addiction treatment. Approachable and energetic, she has been known to explain medical concepts with an ease and humor that results in her audiences developing understanding of difficult material while having a good time doing it! She has written and presented several articles and workshops on the medical aspects of addiction and other psychiatric disorders, and has consulted on the same topics both nationally and internationally. Despite the credentials, she prides herself on being a  regular ol’ person who loves regular ol’ people.  She will tell you the most important accomplishment of her life is her husband and two teenage sons. Nzinga (yes, first name basis!) is excited to embark on this podcast journey, and can’t wait to answer any and all questions you may have about addictive or other psychiatric disorders.
 
Jan 16, 2021
EP 279: Moving from Unhealthy to Healthy Relationships with Elizabeth
32:36

This call is about breaking out of patterns and unhealthy relationships. Elizabeth calls in asking for daily mantras, actions, and tools to help her feel worthy of a loving relationship. She is struggling with enoughness. She wants to get over a “toxic” relationship from her past and truly embrace, rather than sabotage, the healthy relationship she is in now. We get to the fundamental ouch or significant life event that created the misunderstanding that perpetuates her feelings of not being enough.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode279]

 

The feeling of not-enoughness is a major human problem. Eventually, we will evolve out of this not-enoughness thinking and raise children differently so we all don’t have to have this major human epidemic. Know that by listening to this show, doing inner work, and feeding yourself the truth, you are doing your part to evolve human consciousness.

 

Nothing outside of you can fulfill you and nothing external comes to you until you truly know that you are worthy and enough. That being said, we live in an interdependent world. And, although we cannot look to the outside world to make us happy, it is important to feel connected to others and attract and nurture healthy relationships, no matter where we are in our journey.

 

The brain may confuse familiarity with love because it was wired from an early age to make love an equation. Many learn that if they act a certain way they will get love. Conditional love can feel familiar. But, worthiness is not conditional.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you struggle with not feeling enough?
  • Have you ever had a “toxic” relationship?
  • Do you doubt that the people in your life really love you and see you? Do you fear that you will not measure up in some way?
  • Is there a fierce inner critic that lives inside your head? And, even though you know you should be nicer to yourself, you can’t seem to change your self-talk?

 

Elizabeth’s Question:

Elizabeth is searching for some daily mantras or actions that will make her feel enough and worthy.

 

Elizabeth’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is having difficulty connecting her intellect with her heart.
  • She feels not enough and that her life is pointless.
  • She verbalizes the chaos she feels in her mind.
  • She was in an eight-year “toxic” relationship.
  • She has “love” attached to feeling a certain way.
  • She has trouble quieting her inner critic.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Be in the present moment and feel her feelings.
  • Stop and breathe when her mind starts racing.
  • Realize nothing is wrong with her.
  • Forgive herself for confusing familiarity with love.
  • Give her inner critic a new job description.
  • Practice release writing when her inner critic is bratty.

 

Takeaways For You:

  • If you struggle with not-enoughness, when you feel it coming on, stop and think that you are hungry for the truth. And then, feed yourself some truth.
  • Watch your language and watch what you are affirming.
  • Slow down! Drop in and breathe.
  • Give things you want to shift a new job description and a new role.
  • If you want some additional help join my Personal Mastery Course
  • Join us for the Be the Queen program.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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Jan 13, 2021
CC: Become the Sexually Confident Person You Were Meant to be with A'magine
01:11:05
Christine's guest today is A'magine, a sex educator and author who guides people into sexual empowerment.  A'magine has been teaching and speaking about sexuality for over two decades, including her TEDx talk “Owning Your Sexual Power.” She is author of Woman on Fire: Nine Elements to Wake up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power and Sexual Intelligence and co-author of the best-selling classic Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men. 

 

Often conversations about sexuality can push a lot of buttons - this conversation is the opposite of that! You will feel reassured, seen, and empowered with steps to have a more fulfilling sex life!
 
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Jan 09, 2021
EP 278: Break Your Addiction to Negative Thinking with Danielle
38:21

Do you know the value of positive thinking but just can’t seem to shift out of negative thinking? This coaching session is about expectations and shifting negative patterns. During this call, we examine Danielle’s past to understand what formed her current expectations and get to the root of why she is sabotaging herself in relationships.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode278]

 

Any habituated response, feeling, or pattern of behavior you are currently engaged in was created a long time ago and you created it for a reason. If you really want to shift something you must get curious about the origin of it.

 

Your expectations about what could or could not happen in your present or future life are based on what has happened in your past until you consciously choose to update them. Significant life events and/or repetitive events trigger us to form beliefs. These beliefs cause us to form expectations about life, others, and ourselves which impact our present and create our future.

 

And, any “negative” pattern we want to change has a payoff and usually can’t be changed overnight. That’s why it is important that we learn what the payoff is and learn how to get it in a more positive way.

 

While it’s important not to become a victim in your life or be stuck in your story so much so that your past becomes an excuse or scapegoat for why you don’t have what you want, it is important to acknowledge it and understand how it is impacting you.

 

Stefanos and I created a series of eight prescriptive breathwork and meditation tracks you can use anytime. If you order by January 15, 2021, get $30 off your purchase at ChristineHassler.com/breathwork when you enter code “HOLIDAY”.

 

Your beloved exists. Start cultivating the relationship now by signing up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Starting January 24, 2021. Sign up now to get access to the bonus session on January 14th.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you a negative thinker? Do you tend to sabotage things before they even get started?
  • Is anxiety something you would like to feel less of?
  • Do you desire a healthy, loving relationship?
  • Are you the child of immigrants?

 

Danielle’s Question:

Danielle would like to know how to relieve herself of self-imposed anxiety and negative thinking in relationships and dating.

 

Danielle’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has become comfortable with her negative thinking.
  • She creates a frenzy inside of her.
  • Her parents got divorced.
  • She has fun memories of her childhood.
  • She saw her parents fighting.
  • She feels she needs to protect herself from being caught off guard.
  • She used her negative thinking as a shield to feel safe but it also keeps love out.
  • She is always in fight-or-flight mode.
  • She is a first-generation Cuban American.
  • She found her life coach through prayer and intention.
  • She will change her inner dialogue.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Identify her negative thinking, thank it for protecting her and ask her mind to help her to determine a true statement for what is happening.
  • Consider attending the upcoming Personal Mastery Course and the Signature Retreat.
  • Work with a healer to do some energetic bodywork.
  • Cut some cords energetically.

 

Takeaways:

  • Be aware of what you affirm with your thoughts.
  • Get curious about your past. What were the repetitive events or significant life events in your past that cause your expectations and how are they affecting your life now?
  • Anything you would label as negative or a pattern you want to change, identify the payoff, and find a way to get that payoff in a more positive way.
  • Always approach your growth, development, and healing with love and curiosity. Don’t be afraid to reach out for support.
  • If you resonated with a lot of what came up in this coaching session, my Personal Mastery Course would be a great next step for you.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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Jan 06, 2021
CC: What's ahead for 2021 with Intuitive Coach Rebecca Tait
01:04:03
This is a special, loving and timely episode. One of my dearest friends and someone I turn to frequently for intuitive guidance and reassurance, Rebecca Tait, joins me to discuss how we can process 2020 and prepare for 2021.  Bec is a gifted psychic who provides intuitive guidance to people who feel stuck or uncertain in various aspects of their personal and professional life.
 
You can set your own personal session with Bec here: https://www.justaskbec.com/
 
To get Christine's 40 day journal and to-do list, go here:  https://christinehassler.com/40-day-journal/
 
To grab your download of our Breathwork and Meditation series and get $30 off using the promo code HOLIDAY go here: https://christinehassler.com/breathwork/
Jan 02, 2021
EP 277: Getting Over an Ex and Calling in Love with Leah
48:03

This call is about moving out of victim and regret to fast-track healing. Today’s caller, Leah, is still getting over a breakup and is starting to feel hopeless about the marriage and family she wants to call in. Even if you haven’t had a breakup, this call is for anyone who is not where they want to be in life. It is a great example of what happens when we stay in the victim-perpetrator pattern.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode277]

 

If you have been in a relationship or a situation you felt was a waste of time and wish you wouldn't have done it, understand that it had happened to get you into the fast lane for healing. Issue-based relationships, even though they are difficult to go through, they jolt us into recognizing childhood wounds that need to be healed for us to have healthy adult relationships.

 

If we want a healthy, authentic relationship that is not a repeat of our childhood issues, we need to do the inner work. There are no “blocks” to what we want, there are just unresolved issues to what we haven’t healed. We have to do the healing work before we can attract healthy things.

 

Your beloved exists. Start cultivating the relationship now by signing up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Starting January 24, 2021. Sign up now to get access to the bonus session on January 14th.

 

Let’s transition into 2021 together. In the latest Coaches Corner, I add a ritual to wrap up 2020.

 

As a Holiday gift for you, Stefanos and I created a series of eight prescriptive breathwork and meditation tracks you can use anytime. If you order by January 13, 2021, get $30 off your purchase at ChristineHassler.com/breathwork when you enter code “HOLIDAY”.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you have something in your life; a breakup or something else from your past you can’t seem to get over and you’re stuck in regret?
  • Do you beat yourself up for choices you made in the past that you have no control over changing now?
  • Do you find yourself craving a family or a partner because you didn’t have a loving family?
  • Do you have anger toward someone it is time to let go of?

 

Leah’s Question:

Leah would like guidance on how to get over a bad breakup and begin to manifest a healthy, long-term relationship.

 

Leah’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She was traumatized by a bad breakup two years ago.
  • She is disappointed by the lack of progress in her personal development and healing work.
  • Her parents divorced when she was young and there were no strong bonds formed with either of them.
  • She resents her mother and feels neglected.
  • She feels betrayed and used by her ex.
  • She does not feel a deep connection to anyone since her ex.
  • She is giving him a lot of power over her.
  • She wants to work on trusting herself.
  • She has done therapy but has difficulty sticking with it.
  • She moves in between the victim and perpetrator archetypes.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Do not take the situation personally.
  • Realize her worthiness and value.
  • Stop beating herself up.

 

Takeaways:

  • Consider doing the anger release or the release writing practice and look at where you are in a victim and perpetrator pattern.
  • Remember, if you are healing an aspect of yourself, you are not healing all of you.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Dec 30, 2020
CC: Ritual and Guided Visualization to bring in 2021
33:08
Christine leads you through part two of her annual new year's ritual and guides you through a meditation/visualization to consciously call in 2021.
 
You can access the breathwork and meditation series Stef and Christine created and get a holiday discount using code HOLIDAY at https://christinehassler.com/breathwork/
Dec 26, 2020
EP 276: Sharing a Secret and Letting Go with Scott
38:14

This call is about healing shame by sharing your truth with the people you love. Today’s caller, Scott, is concerned about how his parents will react when he shares a childhood secret with them. He is asking for guidance on how to approach the subject without upsetting them. If you relate to holding in a secret, or things you do not want to say or do not know how to bring forward you will find this conversation helpful.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode276]

 

Revealing secrets is difficult for many of us. Sometimes it is easier to keep things brushed under the rug when we do not want to deal with a particular conversation.

 

But, secrets can be toxic and carry shame. Do I believe that we should tell the people we love everything? I don't know. Not always. But, when it is something we allow to perpetuate a pattern that protects others, especially our parents, above speaking our truth, often the truth will prevail. When we speak our truth we must do it with love.

 

Protecting our children is one thing, but protecting our parents is a different conversation. If we are trying to protect our parents, we are taking on the parental role. I’m not saying that we should not consider their emotions. However, if we have a pattern of being the parent, and worrying about our parents while sacrificing our truth and our vulnerability, it is different.

 

Your beloved exists. Start cultivating the relationship now by signing up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Starting January 24, 2021. Sign up now to get access to the bonus session on January 14th.

 

Let’s transition into 2021 together. In the latest Coaches Corner, I add a ritual to wrap up 2020.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you have a secret from a family member or friend and you want to share it but you are afraid of upsetting them so you keep it inside?
  • Did you grow up feeling alone?
  • Were you the person who had to protect family members or parent your parents?
  • Are you ready to break patterns that don’t serve you anymore?

 

Scott’s Question:

Scott is looking for guidance about sharing a secret with his family he has had since childhood but does not want to upset them.

 

Scott’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He fears the shame and blame associated with sharing his secret.
  • His story will soon be widely shared.
  • He wants to protect his family.
  • He is speaking with a professional therapist.
  • He feels it is an important part of his story.
  • He felt he had to be brave for his family.
  • He stays away from his family and feels alone.
  • He felt he had to parent his parents.
  • He finally feels seen.
  • He does not want to hide any longer.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Be aware he can not control someone else’s feelings.
  • Deliver his secret from a loving place.
  • Tell his parents about his loneliness.
  • Be authentic, loving, and vulnerable when he speaks with his parents.

 

Ask Yourself:

  • Where are you not being authentic? Where are you not being vulnerable? Where are you not speaking your truth because you are too afraid of someone else’s reaction?
  • In what ways were you not able to be a child in your relationship with your parents?
  • How can you take your rightful place, as a child, within your family?

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

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Dec 23, 2020
CC: A Ritual to Wrap Up 2020 and a Talk on Ascension Symptoms
20:06

Can you believe we are approaching the end of 2020? In this episode, Christine speaks about ascension symptoms you may be experiencing as we uplevel and upgrade.  She also guides you through a process to complete 2020 with awareness and intention and let it go! This is part one of a ritual that Christine leads you through each year. 

Dec 19, 2020
EP 275: How to Heal a Wound from the Feminine with Lex
45:46

This call is about finding our nurturing, loving feminine inner voice. Today’s caller, Lex, would like guidance with her patterns of inconsistency and quieting the harsh, critical voice of her mother in her head. This call will resonate with anyone who had a challenging, traumatic, dysfunctional, or abusive relationship with their mother.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode275]

 

When we do not process our anger, it creates a rebel or saboteur within us. It is difficult to be consistent if we never had a model of a loving or consistent parent. We create a rebel to protect ourselves from emotional abuse and the rebel energy is often tied to anger. If you have a rebel or a self-sabotager, think about how it is anger in disguise.

 

The more we deal with our anger and deal with the ways we have been abused, betrayed, or neglected, the less we rely on the rebel to protect us.

 

If a child has a parent with a narcissistic personality disorder or is mentally abusive in some way, the child knows kindness can’t be trusted. They have to walk on eggshells all the time. So, when kind loving energy does come it is difficult to be open to it and trust it. Even though deep down we all trust feminine energy, deeply-ingrained patterns can confuse it with past experiences with females in our past.

 

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you have a mother wound or a wound with the feminine that is disconnecting you from your femininity, your love of your body, or your ability to care and nurture yourself?
  • Do you have an inner rebel and every time you get consistent about something that rebel comes in and just throws you off track?
  • Did you have a parent that stood by when your other parent abused you or didn’t treat you well and it made you feel like you just weren’t protected?
  • Do you struggle with trusting yourself or other people?

 

Lex’s Question:

Lex is looking for guidance on how to be consistent with her health routine.

 

Lex’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is concerned about her health and weight.
  • She suffers from Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS).
  • She wants people to think about her positively.
  • She is inconsistent and self-sabotages herself.
  • People treat her differently because of her physical appearance.
  • Her mother had narcissistic tendencies.
  • Her father didn’t offer her safety from her mother.
  • She is passionate about justice and human rights.
  • She wasn’t nurtured in her childhood.
  • She has perfectionistic tendencies.
  • She doesn’t feel enough and doesn’t trust.
  • She was triggered by meditation.
  • Her inner rebel helps her to survive and protects her.
  • She gets stuck in a cycle of pushing, rebelling, and hopelessness.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Call in nurturing, mothering energy.
  • Look for guides to help her find her voice, her sovereignty.
  • Listen to and surround herself with feminine voices.
  • Deal with the anger she feels toward her mother through emotional release writing.
  • Do the temper-tantrum technique from Expectation Hangover or Personal Mastery.
  • Find a therapist who works with somatic, trauma, or behavioral therapy.
  • When she hears her inner critic speak up, recognize it, and comfort herself.

 

Ask Yourself:

  • If you resonate with wanting to draw in more of the feminine voice and you want to find your loving, nurturing feminine side, surround yourself with loving, nurturing feminine energy voices.
  • Have a conversation with your rebel, ask it what it is protecting you from. Do anger release work to see if you are rebelling because you are angry. Download my temper tantrum technique at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease.
  • Forgive yourself for your past actions.
  • Celebrate all the ways you have shifted and your growth.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

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Dec 16, 2020
CC: What is Sacred Union?
20:58

To wrap up the love and relationship series, Christine and Stef have a special gift for you. They recorded an experiential process to support you on your journey to Sacred Union.  In this episode, they define what Sacred Union is and explain the process. To download the experiential exercise for free, go to https://christinehassler.com/sacredunion/

Dec 12, 2020
EP 274: A Couple’s Session: Healing Your Childhood Wounds in Your Relationship with Lorena and Jonathon
54:34

This call is about seeing a partner’s inner child wounding in an issue-based relationship. Today’s couple, Lorena and Jonathon, are looking for guidance on how to connect more intimately with each other and manage their masculine and feminine energies in their relationship. We uncover that inner child wounding is more at play in the relationship than masculine/feminine dynamics. Couples and singles will find value in today’s episode.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode274]

 

In a relationship, we cannot hope the other person heals us or completes us. That is codependency. However, we can set the intention for the relationship to be a safe space to heal. That is the beauty of a relationship. We always want to be doing our own work and healing our own stuff. Then, we can use the relationship, which is often a triggering event, as a place to heal our inner child wounding.

 

It is key in your intimate relationship to see his little boy, or see her little girl and understand the wounding. Know that what you need might be different than what your partner needs. Often, we love based on how we want to be loved and how our inner child needs to be loved versus how the other person in our life needs to be loved.

 

A conscious couple/sacred union doesn’t mean everything’s okay all the time and we are living in awesome ecstasy, having total non-violent communication, and having amazing sex all the time. We are human; it doesn’t always work like that. Being a conscious couple/sacred union means you are willing to do the work.

 

If you are a single lady who wants to be in a relationship, to share your life with someone, and want to call in your match, your person, sign up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to christinehassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Get early-bird bonuses if you sign up by December 14, 2020.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel like you’re showing up too masculine or too feminine in your relationship?
  • Is your relationship going through challenges, maybe you have separated, and you want to restart and get a fresh take on an old relationship?
  • Do you understand how your inner child experiences and your inner child wounding is impacting your intimacy and relationship?
  • Are you willing to see your current or future partner through the eyes of love? Are you willing to see that little boy or a little girl inside of them and truly seek to understand your partner rather than judge them or have expectations of them?

 

Lorena & Jonathon’s Question:

Lorena and Jonathon are looking for guidance on how to connect intimately and manage their masculine and feminine energies within the relationship.

 

Lorena & Jonathon’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • They have been together for 12 years.
  • They separated for a time.
  • He is cautious about being in his masculine. She is in her masculine a lot.
  • They both come from dysfunctional families.
  • They are in an issue-based relationship.
  • She lived in fear as a child and couldn’t trust people in her life.
  • He spent a lot of time trying to fit in.
  • She has high expectations of herself and others.
  • He gets angry and frustrated when he hears negative feedback.
  • She wants to feel more emotionally connected to him.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Jonathon — Find his inner parent who responds to the critical voice that tells him he is enough.
  • Jonathon — Listen to Episode #273 with Ron.
  • Jonathon — Find his fire and tap into his repressed anger.
  • Lorena — Tell her little girl she is safe and know she can relax now.
  • Lorena — Acknowledge her husband for what he does.
  • Understand each other’s inner child wounding.
  • Find three questions to ask each other as a nighttime ritual.
  • Give each other more hugs throughout the day.

 

Ask Yourself:

  • Are you seeing and understanding your partner’s wounding?
  • Are you loving your partner and treating them the way you need to be treated and expecting them to do the same. Or, are you loving them based on what they need?
  • Do you clearly communicate what you need from your partner?
  • What is your biggest hurt from childhood and how does it show up in your relationship?
  • What is your deepest desire and how can you ask for what you need in your relationship?

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

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Dec 09, 2020
CC: Why the Grunt Work is Worth it in Relationships with Jayson Gaddis and Ellen Boeder
01:09:49
Christine and Stef sit down with an awesome couple who also both happen to be coaches and therapists. Listen in to a very honest conversation about what it takes to have a healthy, fulfilling relationship.
 
A little more about our guests:
 
Jayson Gaddis, author, podcaster, speaker, and entrepreneur, is the founder of The Relationship School, an impact-based company dedicated to helping people work out their differences and have fulfilling long-term partnerships. Jayson is considered a world leader in relationships. He founded The Relationship School®, is the creator of Interpersonal Intelligence® and Present Centered Relationship Coaching®. He trains people from around the world how to be effective relational leaders and coaches. He’s been married to his amazing wife since 2007 and has two beautiful kids. They live in Boulder, Colorado. When he doesn’t live and breathe this relationship stuff with his family, he pretty much gets his ass handed to him.
Ellen Boeder Bio
Ellen Boeder, MA, LPC is a psychotherapist and coach for couples in Boulder, Colorado, who has been interested in how relationships actually work for as long as she can remember.  Studying with innovative researchers and cutting edge practitioners in the field of psychology, relationships, and also yoga, for over 20 years has helped her integrate her approach to working with people in a sensitive, straightforward, deeply informed, and embodied way.  The most high-level training she does is usually at home with her husband and two young children, as she finds her way through the real, raw, and beautiful experience of being deeply intertwined with others.  Ellen is also a faculty member for The Relationship School, is a long time yoga practitioner, and writes a blog that incorporates her studies in psychology with her life experience as a mother, called Rearranged by Motherhood.
Dec 05, 2020
EP 273: Feel Comfortable in Your Own Skin with Ron
46:18

This call is about overcoming apathy and releasing anger. Today’s caller, Ron, was constantly shamed by a volatile father. As an adult, he feels detached and numb. He uses apathy as a coping mechanism. We work through how he can release his feelings and do inner child work. I offer some techniques and strategies to help him regain a healthy masculine identity.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode273]

 

When men have a volatile father, they become passive or hyper-aggressive. They go to extremes. They can become the alpha-dog and lash out or they become passive with emotional eating. It is a common father wound for men to have a degree of shame that goes in either direction.

 

Shame is toxic and the way it impacts us all as humans is similar and different. How it impacts men is particularly detrimental, for women as well, but I've seen it impact men in a way where they lose touch with their masculine energy and become more passive in life.

 

It is nearly impossible to come out of being raised in a fear-based home, having a volatile parent, and never feeling like you got the love, affection, and approval you needed and grow up having no issues with it. As you might intellectually want yourself to be different, until you go back and do the healing work and dive deep, you are going to find yourself in the pantry sneak eating or whatever your version of that is.

 

If you are not living the life you want to be living, it is just feedback that there is more work to do. Inner child wounding is sometimes tough to get at because we bury it so deep. There is no shame and being willing to forgive the person is the first step.

 

If you are a single lady who wants to be in a relationship, to share your life with someone, and want to call in your match, your person, sign up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to christinehassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Get early-bird bonuses if you sign up by December 14, 2020.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you ever feel uncomfortable in your own skin?
  • Are you chronologically an adult and keep up with your grown-up responsibilities, but inside you don’t feel like one?
  • Are you mostly passive except for those occasional moments you lose your temper?
  • Did you get the love, attention, and affection you truly need and deserve from your parents, especially your father?

 

Ron’s Question:

Ron does not feel comfortable in his skin and he feels he does not belong. He would like guidance on how to break through the patterns.

 

Ron’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He practices negative self-talk.
  • He doesn’t feel like an adult, even though he is responsible.
  • He is afraid he will get in trouble for what he does.
  • He hides his eating habits.
  • His father was quick to anger and volatile.
  • He feels detached from his family.
  • He has numbed himself and feels apathy toward his parents.
  • He craves feeling and pleasure.
  • He does try to get his anger out.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Connect to his aggression, rage, and anger to get to the hurt.
  • Do the Temper Tantrum Technique from Expectation Hangover.
  • Write an ‘F-U’ letter to his parents he doesn’t send.
  • Tap into his masculine energy to find his fire, his warrior to allow him to feel again.
  • Find his inner coach voice, not his inner critic.

 

Takeaways:

  • If you aren't feeling like an adult, think about where you got frozen in childhood. Many people freeze at a certain age even though we can do adult things.
  • Do emotional processing. Use this free anger release download, ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease.
  • If you find yourself sneak eating or the kind of behavior you do in the shadows to soothe yourself or give you momentary pleasure and escapism when you feel the urge to do it, put your hand on your heart and one hand on your belly and ask your little one what they need.
  • If eating is a coping mechanism for you, listen to my “Coaches Corner with Samantha Skelly, Hungry for Happiness”
  • Reconnect to your little one and give them a chance to express their feelings. Be the parent to yourself you never had.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

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Dec 02, 2020
CC: All the Single Ladies . . . (and Anyone Wanting to Learn More About Love and Relationships)
31:04
Christine answers questions from single women and covers topics such as dating apps, healing sexual trauma, getting over ex's, removing intimacy blocks, and much more.
 
You can apply for Be the Queen here: www.christinehassler.com/bethequeen
 
You can download Christine's free Gratitude meditation here: https://christinehassler.com/gratitude
Nov 28, 2020
EP 272: How to Trust Again with Michelle
43:42

This call is about recognizing competing intentions and forgiveness. Today’s caller, Michelle, is facing challenges when calling in a partner, her person, someone to share her life with. A childhood wound regarding trust keeps repeating because she has not healed it yet. Even if you are not single, this call has something in it for you. We work through blocks when it comes to trusting people, and competing intentions.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode272]

 

When we have competing intentions, we have a longing and a desire. Yet, we also have protective strategies of “I may get hurt.” It is the intention that is keeping you protected that will win. This is why we feel like we are sabotaging ourselves. We keep repeating the same pattern over and over again.

 

The angrier we are, the better we are at protecting ourselves. The more we keep the wall up. Remember, when we forgive, it’s not about condoning actions or forgiving the actions that hurt us. It is about forgiving the misunderstandings and misperceptions and misbeliefs we bought into, based on what happened.

 

The power of your desire, the power of what you want IS powerful. Don't think it cannot bring you what you want. You have to look at what is blocking it. One of the best ways we can protect ourselves from future hurts is to heal our past hurts.

 

In December, I am offering the next round of personal development grant money. The grant money can be used for mental or emotional therapy, coaching, or anything that enhances your emotional wellbeing. To sign up to receive $500 go to ChristineHassler.com/grant.

 

If you are a single lady who wants to be in a relationship, to share your life with someone, and want to call in your match, your person, sign up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to christinehassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Get early-bird bonuses if you sign up by December 14, 2020.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you have a similar expectation hangover happening repeatedly?
  • Are you aware of a childhood wound and know it impacts your life, but you can’t seem to shift it?
  • Are you single and want to be with a partner, your person, especially, after this challenging year?
  • Do you have trouble trusting people, especially when it comes to the opposite sex?

 

Michelle’s Question:

Michelle wants to find someone to share her life with, her person.

 

Michelle’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • Her brother passed away unexpectedly.
  • She is the youngest of five children from a big family.
  • She’s never been married but wants to find someone to share life with.
  • She has a broken heart about her family breaking up.
  • Her father left her mother for another woman.
  • She believes she can’t trust people and attracts men she can’t trust.
  • She has put up a wall around her heart.
  • She may have low self-worth and a rough inner critic.
  • She has been in therapy.
  • She has competing intentions.
  • She is angry and feels she needs to protect herself.
  • Her feminine desire is being blocked by masculine anger.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Find a way to protect herself in a healthy way.
  • Speak with her younger self about releasing her anger.
  • Realize she doesn’t have to trust every person, just one who is worthy.
  • Forgive herself for what she made her father’s actions mean.
  • Reparent herself by acknowledging her father isn’t representative of all men.
  • Start trusting herself.
  • Believe she can have a healthy, happy relationship.

 

Takeaways:

  • Consider what your competing intentions are. Is there something you want in your life but what is the protective block you have that is keeping you from getting it?
  • Get to the source of your issue.
  • Remember, with forgiveness, you are not forgiving the actions, you are forgiving the misunderstandings and limiting beliefs you bought into, based on the action.
  • If today's episode resonated with you, re-listen to it. If you want to apply to the Be the Queen program in January, go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen.

 

Sponsor:

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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Nov 25, 2020
CC: Love, Sex & Relationships Part Two
35:04
Stef joins Christine to answer more listener questions on libido, ghosting, loving an empath, masculine/feminine dynamics and much more! 
 
To access the recording of the group call go here: https://christinehassler.com/group-coaching-replays/
To apply for Be the Queen go here: https://christinehassler.com/bethequeen/
Nov 21, 2020
EP 271: How to Stop Burning Out with Yaira
43:01

This call is about restoration and compassion. Today’s caller, Yaira, keeps going, going, going until she burns herself out. She is committed to believing that it is just who she is but the crux of this call is when she says she was trying to escape her circumstances. If you relate to being uncomfortable in stillness you will find this call useful.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode271]

 

For any of you who have grown up in a chaotic home, it is common for you to want to go, go, go because stillness brought up feelings of how long is it going to be before the other shoe drops? Stillness can feel traumatic because you are bracing yourself for something bad to come. If you relate to feeling like this, you have to reorient your body, your inner child, and your subconscious mind to stillness. Reinforce the idea that just because you are still it doesn't mean you are trapped or in danger.

 

If you feel you have already done a lot of personal development work, know that you are not done. You are never done. Just accept it. The hard work is at the beginning. What phase are you in on your personal growth journey? 

 

There are some of you who are very aware and who have lived in a “house” that has been constructed for a while and continue doing maintenance. But, others of you are still in the personal development building stage where there is a lot of work yet to do. It’s OK. Please don’t discredit the work you have done just because you have more work to do. Don’t minimize what you have done because there is something else you discovered that needs healing.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you passionate and committed to things, but sometimes you burn yourself out and don’t know how to stop?
  • Do you trust yourself?
  • Do you have issues with not pacing yourself?
  • Do you ever feel like you are out of control? You want to do a lot of things but feel like you have no stop button?
  • Is there something in your life, your past perhaps, you are trying to escape from?

 

Yaira's Question:

Yaira wants to push projects forward but experiences burn out and would like guidance on how to break her “negative” habits.

 

Yaira's Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She gets excited about starting new projects.
  • She experiences burnout when she pushes herself too hard.
  • She feels safe and grounded in some aspects but fearful in others.
  • She can be overindulgent.
  • She does not trust herself to set limitations or boundaries.
  • She does not have strong family bonds.
  • She grew up in a chaotic household and had to figure things out by herself.
  • She has not realized how much her past has impacted her.
  • She has done a lot of personal development work.
  • She wants to be in full control of her life.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Find a way to work with her energy in a way that conserves her energy.
  • Tell her younger self that she is free and has dominion over her life.
  • Call forward her inner parent.
  • Do a body scan or yoga practice to restore her body.
  • Speak to herself with compassion.

 

Takeaways:

  • If you are passionate, make sure to balance yourself out by being compassionate. Passion is fire energy, and it will burn you out if you do not balance it out.
  • Find the voice of your inner parents and explain things to yourself.
  • Find your “pull” motivation. Consider how much of what you are doing is motivated by “push or away from” energy versus the “toward energy” that pulls you toward your vision.

 

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Nov 18, 2020
CC: Love, Sex and Relationships Part One
27:34
This is a juicy one! Christine answers questions from our last group coaching call about love, sex, and relationships.
 
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Nov 14, 2020
EP 270: Finding Work-Life Balance with Brian
44:22

This call is about bringing more harmony into your life. Today’s caller, Brian, loves his work but is searching for more work-life balance. He enjoys being the person who is always available to others but takes little time for himself. This episode is enlightening for those who get validation from being the reliable, go-to person.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode270]

 

There is no such thing as work-life balance. They are not two separate things. Work is part of life. It’s about putting more harmony in your life by doing things to balance out the huge time suckers. If you work a lot or are with your kids a lot, what are you doing to balance it out? Have you created boundaries to make time for yourself? Do you have a self-care practice? Is it your once-a-week therapy session? What things are you doing to balance out the things in your life that are time-consuming?

 

The ego generally gets a bad wrap in the personal development space. But, we all have an ego. We all need to feel like we matter. Every human needs to feel important. The ego is how we get validation. We just need to be careful that validation doesn’t become linked to our identity.

 

Every pattern we are involved in has costs and payoffs. Does the imbalance in your life cost you more than it pays out?

 

This is an intense time so be mindful of what you allow into your mind. Choose what you want your individual experience to be. In November, I am launching the next round of personal development grant money. The grant money can be used for therapy, coaching, or anything that enhances your emotional wellbeing. To sign up to receive $500 go to ChristineHassler.com/grant.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel like you need more work-life balance?
  • Do you often feel like you can’t get away from your responsibilities? Do you believe that if you set boundaries or are not available or responsible all the time, things will fall apart?
  • Do you relate to being the go-to person?
  • Do you get validation for being the go-to-person? Does it make you feel needed?

 

Brian’s Question:

Brian would like guidance on how to bring more work-life balance into his world.

 

Brian’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He works a lot of hours.
  • He loves his job and likes to make things work.
  • He enjoys being a reliable person.
  • He feels pressured to always be available.
  • He values being a good resource at work.
  • He would like to move toward being a leader.
  • His life is mostly about other people.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Expand his purpose with self-reflection.
  • Pay attention to his self-talk.
  • Be kind and gentle with himself.
  • Create a schedule of when he is available.
  • Adopt a five-minute morning meditation or breathwork practice.

 

Takeaways:

  • Think about what you are doing; does it give you a sense of identity and purpose? What is it costing you?
  • Is it time to evolve out of being the people pleaser or the go-to person?
  • Think about the boundaries you need to put in place to break some patterns.
  • What are the simple, non-time-consuming things you can set up that weigh a lot and will make a big difference?

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

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Nov 11, 2020
CC: Hungry for Happiness with Samantha Skelly
54:40

Samantha Skelly is a 7-figure entrepreneur, sought after international speaker, best-selling author, and wellness coaching expert. She founded both Hungry for Happiness, a movement that helps people experience true transformation and happiness through trained certified coaches who utilize emotional and energetic coaching techniques, and PAUSE Breathwork, which has a mission to unite humanity by helping people breathe, feel, and thrive. Samantha has revolutionized the weight loss and self-help industries by examining the individual and underlying causes of food, body, and self-love issues. You can check her out on  the popular Hungry for Happiness podcast and her best-selling HayHouse book, Hungry For Happiness which you can learn more about here: https://www.hungryforhappiness.com/hungry-for-happiness-book/

Nov 07, 2020
EP 269: Finding Direction in Life with Meagan
34:13

This call is about moving past programmed beliefs to uncover your authentic beliefs. Today’s caller, Meagan, is feeling unfulfilled and directionless. After her father’s passing, she had to take on a lot of responsibility quickly but did not receive support from her family. What we discover is that she has competing intentions or programmed beliefs that are bumping up against her authentic beliefs.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode269]

 

Life during our late 20s and early 30s can be difficult because it is at a time in life when it’s a weird combination of trying to figure out our future while also trying to clean up our past. We don’t want to repeat our past but it’s hard to get clarity on the future when we have not cleaned up our past first.

 

Often, our programmed beliefs and conditioning bump up against who we authentically are and it creates conflict.

 

Whenever we are doing clearing work or processing work of our past, at the same time we must reprogram our brain with the beliefs we want to believe, or the beliefs that we authentically believe. Sometimes we just need a little reminder of what those are.

 

And, as we start to clear things out we want to make sure we put new programs in, otherwise, the brain tends to hang on to the old stuff.

 

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you ever feel like you are not on the “right path” or don’t have the direction in your life that you want?
  • Do you feel like you “should” have a more secure career path?
  • Growing up, did you feel free to express yourself creatively, and emotionally?
  • Have you ever experienced a loss you have yet to fully grieve?

 

Meagan’s Question:

Meagan would like guidance on finding direction and fulfillment in her life.

 

Meagan’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She feels she lacks direction.
  • She was jolted into adulthood much sooner than she expected after her father’s passing.
  • She has not fully grieved her father.
  • She felt a lack of support in her family.
  • She tried to be perfect to get love from her parents.
  • She never felt fully expressed.
  • She would like to be a Human Design Reader.
  • She recently spoke with a counselor about her grief.
  • She wants to move and create a community for herself.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Invest in her wellness.
  • Surround herself with people who have an explorer spirit.
  • Confirm her authentic beliefs through books, podcasts, or other personal development media.
  • Break the pattern of overthinking everything.
  • Express herself creatively and emotionally.

 

Takeaways:

  • Reflect on what are your programmed beliefs and your authentic beliefs.
  • If you live in your head a lot, give your emotions an exit route by releasing them.
  • Consider looking into Human Design. Listen to my podcast with Erin Claire Jones.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

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Nov 04, 2020
CC: What is Healthy Masculinity with Traver Boehm
01:00:13

A must-listen for both men and women! Traver Boehm joins Christine to talk about why so many men are emotionally unavailable or displaying unhealthy masculinity and how to shift it. Traver is inspiring millions of men to shift their experience of masculinity by combining the Primal Masculine with the Divine Masculine.  He is an author, speaker, and founder of the ManUncivilized Movement, as well as a former Strength & Conditioning coach, a CrossFit gym owner, an MMA fighter, a bodyguard, an acupuncturist, and a surfer.  (Check out his amazing TEDx talk by clicking here.)

Website: www.manuncivilized.com

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Oct 31, 2020
EP 268: Stop Fearing Upsetting Other People, Especially A Parent, with Kylie
43:04

This call is about developing authentic relationships by being authentic. Today’s caller, Kylie, is individuating and is trying to figure out how to have a grown-up relationship with her mother. This call is useful for those of you who are wondering how to have an adult relationship with your parents and break free of the patterns that were set up in childhood.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode268]

 

When we become an adult, we start to step into sovereignty. Our parents, or caregivers, raised us and they were our authority figure. We were dependent on them. As children, we couldn’t care for ourselves and were not supposed to. We were subjected to whatever patterns our parents imprinted upon us. Since as children we are sponges, we absorbed many of the way they did things, the way they feel their emotions, and the way they relate.  We learned as children to adapt to those behaviors and be whoever we think we need to be, to be safe, to be loved, and protected.

 

Then, as adults, as we step into sovereignty and we are not dependent on our parents, and we are dependent on ourselves, we have to consider the relational dynamic that was set up when we were dependent and had no sovereignty, no power.

 

The patterns that were set up your parental dynamic, either with one or both of your parents when they were set up, you had no choice in the matter. Today, you do. Do you still want to keep playing out the patterns that were imposed and imprinted on you as a child, now that you are an adult? Or, do you want to individuate and have a healthy adult relationship with your parents?

 

If so, it may involve upsetting them. The other person being upset is often a side effect of setting boundaries. You cannot wait until you are sure the other person will not be upset to do it.

 

To create a vision for a relationship that requires another person who is not doing their work can leave you with a massive expectation hangover. I have a guided talk in the Calm app.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you walk on eggshells or have anxiety when it comes to one or both of your parents or anyone in your life?
  • Do you often feel yourself contorting into what you think someone wants you to be so you avoid upsetting them?
  • Do you feel like you are growing at a faster rate than your parents? Or, have outgrown your parents and you’re not sure how to have a relationship with them?
  • Are you authentic and sovereign in your relationships or do you tend to give your power away?

 

Kylie’s Question:

Kylie wants guidance on how to develop a more authentic relationship with her mother.

 

Kylie’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She rarely speaks with her mother even though they live close.
  • Her parents divorced when she was six.
  • She decided she does not want to follow her mother’s path.
  • There is some co-dependent patterning.
  • She is careful about how she communicates with her mother.
  • She does not want to disappoint her mother.
  • She is in tune with her body and working on her personal development.
  • She embraces intimacy with others.
  • She gives her mom a lot of power while disempowering herself.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Be careful not to take the caretaking role with her mother.
  • Be unapologetically herself.
  • Let it be OK that her mother gets upset.
  • Ask her boyfriend to call her out when she rolls back into her previous patterns.

 

Takeaways:

  • Stop editing yourself in relationships, especially the ones closest to you. It is okay to rock the boat.
  • No hiding, no avoiding. Embrace “carefrontations” and speak your truth.
  • Do not parent your parents.
  • Ask yourself why you chose your parents.
  • Look at the ways you are not sovereign. Where are you giving your power away?

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

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Oct 28, 2020
CC: The Old Soul's Guidebook with Ainslie MacLeod
01:37:11
If you listen to this show, you are most likely an older soul and you are going to love this episode with Ainslie MacLeod. He is an internationally acclaimed past-life psychic, spiritual teacher, and award-winning author of The Instruction, The Transformation, and most recently, The Old Soul’s Guidebook. Ainslie specializes in exploring past lives to reveal your life’s purpose and has been a featured guest on Oprah’s SuperSoul Conversations Series. He lives on a tranquil island in the Pacific Northwest.
 
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Oct 24, 2020
EP 267: The Real Reason You Are Not Making That Change with Leigh
41:16

This call is about seeking an external change to fill an internal void. Today’s caller, Leigh, wants to make a career change because she is not fulfilled by her current career. But her career switch is not the priority, it is about healing and breaking patterns. This call is important for any of you who feel stuck, who want to make a change, especially a career change, but are not doing it.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode267]

 

Practical decisions are often fear-influenced decisions. Fear-influenced decisions are not wrong. We feel we have to make decisions that give us more certainty. But, we sacrifice a lot of our beliefs, our magic, and our dreams when we do. As human beings, we learn through contrast, so it is OK to make fear-influenced decisions.

 

There are a lot of reasons why we do not make the changes we want to make. It can come back to childhood wounding and it can also be because we don’t have the right foundation.

 

We often seek out relationships or careers to give us what we didn’t get in childhood. For example, you might be seeking out someone in a relationship who makes you feel safe. Or, you may be seeking out a career to make you feel self-expressed and free. Many of our quests for fulfillment are a call for healing. But, remember, we never want to use something external to fill an internal void.

 

Empaths are sponges. We soak up a lot of information. One of the tendencies of empaths is that we take too much of other people’s guidance. We take on people’s feelings and accept what people tell us we should do. If you are an empath, think about that, feel into that. Do you allow other people to tell you who you are and what you should do, versus trusting your own discernment?

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel a call to do something different but can’t seem to make the change?
  • Did you grow up feeling like you had the attention you desired and deserved or are you starved for attention and emotional expression?
  • Are you in a relationship where you feel fully supported?
  • Are you afraid to speak your needs and go after your dream?

 

Leigh’s Question:

Leigh wants to make a career change and would like guidance about how to follow her dreams.

 

Leigh’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is interested in a career in personal development or healing arts.
  • She is currently a lawyer but not passionate about her work.
  • She has two children under five.
  • She loves deep conversations.
  • She needs financial security.
  • People always question what her heart desires.
  • She felt alone and not heard as a child.
  • She wants to follow her heart.
  • She is an empathetic, feelings-based person.
  • Her husband doesn’t understand why she needs a change.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Prioritize herself and her marriage.
  • Talk with a coach or therapist where she can feel heard and supported.
  • Get into the habit of expressing her emotions.
  • Express herself in her marriage.

 

Takeaways:

  • Get a consistent, habitual form of support in a therapeutic environment.
  • Remember, there is divine timing for everything.
  • If you feel you are not moving forward in the direction you want, it doesn't mean you’re not moving forward. You may have to re-route your path.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

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Oct 21, 2020
CC: Decision Making Tips
09:37

In this quickie episode Christine shares tips for how to get out of limbo and make a choice so that you can move forward. If you are struggling over a decision, don't miss this one!

Oct 17, 2020
EP 266: Get Unstuck and Stop Being So Hard on Yourself with Rory
43:59

This call is about eliminating the imprints put on us by other people. Today’s caller, Rory, has childhood wounding from her father’s verbal abuse and her mother’s lack of support. She feels stuck in her life but she is just in a loop of patterns she created to cope with not getting what she needed as a child. 

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode266]

 

Whatever parent’s love we crave most or whichever parent we felt the most distant from is usually who we tend to find a relationship with or we model ourselves after. And, that is what we are always chasing as an adult.

 

We want our parents to be proud of us but especially our fathers. Knowing your dad is proud of you is massive. We want to know our mom loves us unconditionally and dad is really proud of us. It helps our self-esteem.

 

If you are someone who feels stuck, realize you are not stuck. You are just caught in a loop based on your imprints and your patterns and your wounding. You have to find an exit route. And, often the exit route is what you did not get as a child that you need to give yourself.

 

People are often good at giving others what they are horrible about giving to themselves. You may be nurturing and compassionate towards others but hard on yourself. Or, patient with others but completely impatient with yourself. Anything we give in overflow to others is what we need to give ourselves.

 

What are you giving that you’re not receiving?

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel stuck in your life? Do you keep trying but things just aren’t happening?
  • Do you consistently start things but don’t finish them?
  • Did you grow up in a household where both parents were really hard on you? Did you feel like nothing you ever did was right?
  • Are you excellent at giving others compassion, acceptance, and understanding but not so great about giving it to yourself?

 

Rory’s Question:

Rory feels she has hit a wall and doesn’t understand why she doesn’t finish things she starts.

 

Rory’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She grew up with a lack of love.
  • As a child, she was told she was different, sensitive, and that she would fail.
  • She wonders what the point of her life is.
  • She has a pattern of quitting.
  • She has recurring disturbing dreams about her father and sister.
  • She didn’t get any completion energy from her father.
  • She internalized her father’s voice.
  • She attaches negative connotations to journaling.
  • She feels pressure to do a lot of things.
  • She doesn’t speak to herself with compassion.
  • She has a fierce inner critic.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Nourish herself with the things she didn’t get.
  • Bring more healthy masculine energy into life.
  • Reduce the amount of doing and be compassionate with herself.
  • Realize external things won’t take the place of her passions.
  • Write out and record what she wishes her mother would have said and listen to it several times a day.
  • Listen to this episode again to reflect on how she is talking to herself.

 

Takeaways:

  • What loop are you in and what are the imprints and patterns that have you in a loop? How can you find an exit route?
  • What did you always want from your father or mother but didn’t get and start giving it to yourself?
  • Listen to the voices in your head and to the ones that are mean, the ones that push you, the ones that don’t accept you say, "Who is this, who is this?" and separate yourself from those voices.

 

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Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

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Oct 14, 2020
CC: Transform Addiction with Omar Pinto
42:11

Omar is a gifted Storyteller, Public Speaker, and Life Coach specializing in Addiction Recovery and Emotional Healing work. He’s the host of the incredibly popular SHAIR Recovery podcast. He delivers a powerful message of overcoming drug addiction and an inspirational 16-year journey of recovery.  Omar is a successful self-made entrepreneur, is married to his soul mate, and lives in one of the most beautiful places in the world, Costa Rica. He has transformed his life through recovery, personal development, and coaching and now he helps people all over the world transform their lives.

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Oct 10, 2020
EP 265: Healing the Mother Wound with Megan
51:53

This call is about treating ourselves with compassion, encouragement, and unconditional love when we have a mother wound. Today’s caller, Megan, believes people avoid her because she has too many problems. What we uncover during our session is that she has created a false independence because it is how she copes with having a neglectful mother.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode265]

 

When we don’t have anyone holding us, we hold things inside.

 

The difference between being a victim with friends and being vulnerable is being a victim is always complaining about the same thing, never empowering yourself, and never doing anything differently. Being vulnerable is sharing what’s in your heart, and taking responsibility. It’s when you are not looking for a solution, not always complaining about the same thing but just having an open heart and being intentional about how you choose to shift it, even if it’s just being more compassionate with yourself. Victims don’t make too many friends unless they just hang out with other victims and they can all throw pity parties together. This doesn’t mean to not be vulnerable. You can be vulnerable without going into victim consciousness.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel like you are too much for people? Do you feel you lose friendships or people avoid you because your life is hard and you think that you are just too much?
  • What events in your childhood are keeping you stuck?
  • Do you have an attitude that nothing works out and things are hard?
  • Did you have a mother who was not there for you or who neglected you, or who you were not enough for?

 

Megan’s Question:

Megan feels she is too intense or too much for other people and would like guidance on how to break free of the pattern.

 

Megan’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • People pull away or avoid her.
  • She had three near-death experiences as a child.
  • Her parents divorced.
  • She feels isolated.
  • She struggles with low self-worth.
  • Her mother was neglectful in many forms.
  • She is mothering herself the way she was mothered.
  • She attracts emotionally unavailable people.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Nourish her relationship with herself.
  • Separate from her struggles to connect more deeply with herself.
  • Communicate with an advisor or good friend.

 

Takeaways:

  • Do the hand exercise and give it a voice.
  • Consider what you think of when you think of a “mother” and write out a list of the qualities that make an amazing, loving mother and integrate those qualities into your life.
  • Work on being vulnerable and intimate with your friends.

 

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Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

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Oct 07, 2020
CC: The Quest for Love with Emily Pereira
46:34
Emily Pereira joins Christine to talk about getting over heartbreak, leaving a "safe/successful" life and finding love and happiness in unexpected places.
 
She is an international retreat leader, yoga teacher, and women’s coach specializing in helping women call in intimate, heart-thumping, passionate, I got-your-back-no-matter-what love. Her raw vulnerable storytelling laced with mind-blowing ahas about women’s empowerment have reached over 5 million people worldwide. She has written for some of the biggest media outlets of our generation and her first book, a memoir, The Quest: from the Hollywood Hills to the Amazon Jungleone woman’s search for enough will be released Nov. 10th 2020.
 
She is also the host of "The Quest for Love Summit" - a 7-Day Virtual Experience curated to help you discover the secrets to wild attraction, cosmic connection and committed devotion.  You can join for free at: https://thequestforlovesummit.com/
 
Emily lives in Santa Teresa, a seaside village along Costa Rica’s Pacific coast, with her husband, Manex and two small children, Saïa Moon & Teotihuacán where together they founded the Sunrise Mountain Retreat and Wellness Center.
Oct 03, 2020
EP 264: Overcoming the Fear of Loss with Rachel
45:38

This call is about how fear of commitment may truly be fear of loss. Today’s caller, Rachel, is collecting evidence about why she doesn’t want to be in a relationship because it will be too much work even though she says she would like to have a relationship. We talk about how the losses she experienced as a child may be coloring her perception of what a relationship will be like and how interdependent relationships can help us heal.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode264]

 

People who felt very alone as children will lead a solitary life and think that it’s what they want because they want to avoid a wound about being lonely as a child. They stay in that energetic and continue living a lonely, solitary life because they don’t know any different. It keeps the old wound from coming up. It may not make a lot of logical sense but if you are someone who lives a solitary or lonely life, and you believe that you are an introvert and you like it better, is it really true? Or, is loneliness a wound from your childhood you are perpetuating in your adulthood?

 

When we don’t have stability or structure in our life or childhood, things become overwhelming as an adult. It’s because there is still a traumatized child running the show. This is why having a lot going on, for someone who moved around a lot, had a parent that died, or didn’t have someone there to provide structure and stability, is hard. Just a few things can seem overwhelming.

 

Until we do healing work, our perception is influenced by past wounding because we expect to see what we have seen in the past.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you not getting into a relationship because you don’t want one or because you are scared?
  • Do you have a history of loss? Has loss been a major teacher for you?
  • Are you afraid that if anyone gets too close, you will lose them?
  • Do you spend a lot of time alone and think that you like that better?
  • Do you believe your inner child wounding could actually be healed in a relationship? Do you avoid relationships because you’re afraid you’re going to get hurt?

 

Rachel’s Question:

Rachel has experienced multiple losses and would like guidance on how to approach relationships in her life.

 

Rachel’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She believes a relationship would be a lot of work.
  • Her mother passed when she was seven.
  • She was separated from her family members when her mother passed.
  • She was adopted at 14 by a family friend.
  • She may be looking for a caretaker in a relationship.
  • She wants a relationship but is not sure it will fit her life.
  • She would like a relationship with someone she can count on.
  • She is craving a nurturing partner.
  • She leads a solitary life and feels safer hiding herself.
  • She has a lot of love to give.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Stop letting the loss she experienced define her.
  • Open her heart to herself, other people, or an animal.
  • Consider if she makes decisions from her heart or fear.
  • Watch or read things that model a nurturing love.

 

Takeaways:

  • Know that the thing that has been the primary teacher in your life does not have to be a consistent lesson.
  • For any decision you are dealing with, ask yourself if you are making the choice from fear or from your heart.
  • Connect to your mothering, nurturing energy, whether you are male or female.
  • If you are someone who deals with loneliness, give love to yourself and others.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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Sep 30, 2020
CC: Art Therapy with Meera Lee Patel
32:40

Meera Lee Patel is a self-taught artist and the author of Start Where You AreMade Out of Stars, and My Friend Fear, and—most recently—Create Your Own Calm. She creates work to inspire and encourage others to connect with themselves, each other, and the world around them.

In this episode we talk about how you can incorporate art and creativity into your wellness routine and meditation practice.

Learn more about Meera here: https://meeralee.com/

Sep 26, 2020
EP 263: Breaking Unhealthy Patterns in Relationships with Julie
39:58

This call is about effectively communicating your needs to break unhealthy patterns in relationships. Today’s caller, Julie, is aware of the unhealthy patterns in her relationships but is uncertain why the patterns aren’t shifting. The amazing thing about relationships, romantic or friendship, is that they can provide healing ground for inner child wounding if we feel safe enough to do it.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode263]

 

We all have masculine and feminine energy within us, no matter how we identify. Often, the way we present in life is not our core essence. Masculine energy likes to feel respected. It’s on the top of the priority list for men. And, for the female-identifying people that doesn’t mean that you don’t want to be respected but for the feminine essence it is a lot more about feeling safe and respect is part of that. It is about feeling safe physically, feeling safe emotionally, and feeling safe sexually.

 

Masculine and feminine energy is something Stefanos and I teach a lot. It’s another avenue of personal development we can learn about and in relationships, especially intimate relationships, it’s really important to have polarity, otherwise, you either kind of go into roommate mode or you have a lot of arguments.

 

When healing a romantic relationship there are two key aspects. The inner child piece and the polarity piece. It is hard to get the polarity piece in place when the inner child piece isn’t in place. So how the inner child piece helps with the polarity piece is as children we are more in touch with our core essence, either feminine or masculine, and it’s because of inner child wounding that those masks get put on. The more we give ourselves what we need inside ourselves the more we give the little one inside of us what we didn’t get as children.

 

Remember inner child work in a relationship is meeting our needs, parenting ourselves in the way that we didn’t get, and then communicating our needs in a non-attacking, non-passive-aggressive, non-manipulative way to our partners.

 

It’s a lot to be human, be a parent, and be in a relationship, but when we understand our inner child, understand how to parent, and understand polarity it becomes a little less overwhelming and a little easier.

 

Level 2 of the Virtual Inner Child Workshop will be held on Sept. 25-27. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Level2 to sign up or visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchildbundle to purchase both Level 1 and Level 2. Recordings of both workshops will be available until October 26, 2020.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you have patterns that keep showing up in your life, or your relationships, and no matter what you do you just can’t seem to shake them?
  • Were you raised in a home where you had to parent your parents and you had to be both the mother and the father?
  • Do you tend to parent your children in a way that is opposite to how you were parented but when it comes to your own relationship with your inner child you’re still parenting yourself the way you were parented?
  • Do you relate to feeling like things are going well but you are just waiting for the other shoe to drop so you can’t really enjoy the good happening in your life?

 

Julie’s Question:

Julie has grown a lot with personal development work but she can’t seem to shake the patterns of waiting for something to go wrong.

 

Julie’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She separated herself from an abusive marriage.
  • She looks for things to go wrong.
  • Her mother is bi-polar.
  • She is currently in a romantic relationship.
  • Her partner speaks another language.
  • She didn’t have a close relationship with her father.
  • She adopted a protective strategy.
  • She is in Personal Mastery.
  • Her mother criticized her.
  • She fears being disappointed and hurt.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Use her relationship as a healing container.
  • Work with her inner child, little Julie.
  • Give love and encouragement in place of self-judgment.
  • Step into her feminine.
  • Talk with her partner about getting her needs met.
  • Be gentle with herself.

 

Takeaways:

  • Ask yourself, ‘what did I need most in childhood that I didn’t get?’ and give it to yourself. Make it a priority to give yourself whatever it is.
  • If you want to learn more about the masculine-feminine dynamic, I like the book, Intimate Communion by David Deida. If you want to try it on Audible you can go to Audibletrial.com/overitandonwithit to get a discount.
  • If you’re in a relationship, think of how you can meet the needs of your inner child and then communicate those needs to your partner in a non-passive-aggressive, non-attacking, or non-manipulative way.
  • Do the inner child work. Join us for the Inner Child Workshop, Level 1, and Level 2.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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Sep 23, 2020
CC: Calling all Empaths! with Stephanie Roman
01:09:33
On this episode one of Christine's friends and trusted advisors, Stephanie Roman joins her on the show to talk about being an empath and tapping into your psychic gifts.  You will be so incredibly inspired by her story and love her insight on how to live a healthy, empowered life as an empath.
 

Stephanie channels the Divine to give you messages that resonate in helping you remember your most authentic self and path. She lovingly holds a magic mirror up to you so you can see how wonderful and beautiful you are in the eyes of God. This seemingly simple process helps you feel that connection to something bigger that sometimes becomes lost by our society valuing external direction over your own.

 

She believes that EVERY person is psychic and that each person experiences multiple different types of abilities over a lifetime. One of her huge missions is helping you recognize and experiment with how to stop doubting your gift in order to integrate them into whatever your big dreams are. She proudly calls herself a “Psychic Trainer” and helps her clients take bigger and bigger leaps of faith in their life by empowering them to know that THEY have all the answers.

 

You can learn more about here here: https://www.psychictrainerstephanie.com/

If you are interested in her six-week program for empaths, you can call or text her at (469) 332-7228‬

Sep 19, 2020
EP 262: Break Free From Your Traumatic Past with Julie
43:31

This call is about coming to terms with leaving an abusive past behind. Today’s caller, Julie, grew up in an abusive home and struggles with how much responsibility she has to stay involved in the family dynamic of her family of origin. We discuss body memories and what she is experiencing at a soul level. Until we parent our inner child the way it needs to be parented, that part of us continues to hook into the past to try to get our needs met.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode262]

 

Whatever your story is, there’s no reason to carry around shame or judgment of it and there is no reason to over-identify with it. If you think because of your past you have to have an awful life, or you will never become what you want to become, or use it as a scapegoat or excuse, you don’t. Your story is part of your life. It is something that has formed you but it doesn’t have to limit you. And, there’s no need to be embarrassed or ashamed about it. Your story is your story, that’s it.

 

The body is often the language of the subconscious mind. And, with emotions, our body can be stuck in time because it remembers a trauma that happened. Many of our emotions are coming from the subconscious level, especially the programmed emotions. Those are the ones we have been feeling since we were a child, based on things that happened or things we were told. Emotions that we feel over and over again that are pervasive and repetitive are emotional addictions. Oftentimes, right before we break an addiction, cravings for the experience get stronger.

 

It’s hard to break karma and step into massive soul lessons because we know we are breaking free of something major we have been hanging on to for lifetimes.

 

Level 2 of the Virtual Inner Child Workshop will be held on Sept. 25-27. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Level2 to sign up or visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchildbundle to purchase both Level 1 and Level 2. Recordings of both workshops will be available until October 26, 2020.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you know the difference between your actual feelings or feelings that have just been a programmed response?
  • Are you estranged from a family member or do you feel it may be healthy not to be in contact with a certain family member or a friend?
  • Do you feel guilty or ashamed by your parents and do things out of obligation?
  • Do you want to break free of the wounding of childhood and create a new kind of healthy family moving forward?

 

Julie’s Question:

Julie would like guidance on how to discern her programmed feelings from her actual feelings.

 

Julie’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She grew up in an abusive home.
  • She could never do anything right.
  • She will be adopting a baby and doesn’t want to repeat the cycle.
  • She feels as if she can’t escape her past.
  • She doesn’t speak with her mother.
  • She feels debilitated but is ready to purge the feelings.
  • She feels ready to be a mother.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Reach out to a somatic therapist who is trauma-informed.
  • Look at how far she has come and acknowledge herself for it.
  • Forgive herself for the self-imposed blame.
  • Emancipate herself from being controlled and betrayed.

 

Takeaways:

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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Sep 16, 2020
CC: Do Less and Live More with Kate Northrup
52:46
In this episode, Kate Northrup joins me to talk about how we can adapt to these challenging times by actually doing less.  We also discuss how to get over being an "achievement addict" and drop into more self-trust and receptivity. As an entrepreneur, bestselling author, speaker, and mother, Kate Northrup has built a multimedia digital empire that reaches hundreds of thousands globally. She's committed to supporting ambitious women to light up the world without burning themselves out in the process. Kate teaches data-driven and soul-driven time and energy management practices that result in saving time, making more money, and experiencing less stress.
 
Kate is also the author of two books: Money: A Love Story and Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Ambitious Women.  You can learn more about Kate at: https://katenorthrup.com/
 
And more about her membership community here: https://origincollective.com/
 
Also, join me this weekend Sept 10th-14th for the Integrated Feminine Online Symposium. Go to www.theintegratedfeminine.com, use coupon code CHRISTINE10 for 10% off.
Sep 12, 2020
EP 261: What To Do When Others Aren’t Meeting Your Needs with Melissa
38:51

This call is about being able to meet your own needs. Today’s caller, Melissa, had a challenging childhood and is being triggered in her current relationship. She would like guidance on how to communicate her needs to her partner. We work through how her triggers are serving her and the expression of a need versus the expectation of a need to be filled by someone else.

 

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode261]

 

We often choose spouses and relationship partners who help us heal unmet needs and wounds from our parents.

 

As humans, on a metaphysical, even spiritual level, we need other people. And, we need people to meet certain needs. And, when we learn how to meet our needs ourselves we get better at communicating healthy needs to others.

 

We live in an interdependent world, yet we are sovereign beings. This means we must take an inside-out approach. First, we have to be independent in fulfilling our own needs internally and not project them on others. When we understand how to communicate our needs, not from a needy place but a place of bonding in our relationships, we can then connect and express with others toward interdependence.

 

There is the difference between being needy, or trying to get someone else to fill a need, and clearly expressing our needs to another person in a way that we can teach them how to meet it.

 

If you missed the Virtual Inner Child Workshop Level 1, you can still listen to it. It is necessary if you want to join in for Level 2, on Sept. 25-27. Go to ChristineHassler.com/innerchildbundle to purchase both Level 1 and Level 2. Recordings of both workshops will be available until October 26, 2020.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • As a child, did you ever feel abandoned or neglected?
  • Do you get triggered in your relationships when you feel someone else is not meeting your needs or showing up the way you like them to?
  • Do you have a pattern of reaching out to others to get your needs met?
  • Can you say without a shadow of a doubt you know how to meet your own needs?

 

Melissa’s Question:

Melissa doesn't completely understand her needs and feelings. She wants guidance on how to recognize her boundaries and give herself what she needs when she is triggered.

 

Melissa’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She wants to understand her feelings and needs.
  • She projects her abandonment wounds on to her husband.
  • She is aware of her abandonment wounding.
  • She was left alone while her parents comforted her younger brother.
  • She never felt supported by her parents.
  • She is triggered by her husband’s attention to his work.
  • She attended the Inner Child Workshop, Level 1.
  • She reached out to her mother but was disappointed by her response.
  • She wants to establish a connection with her mother.
  • She feels overburdened with managing her emotions.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Do the empty chair process from Expectation Hangover.
  • Write her mother a letter she does not intend to send.
  • Use her triggers to discover how she can meet her own needs.

 

Takeaways:

  • Think about the things you want from other people and make a list of your unmet needs and see how you may not be doing those things for yourself.
  • Learn how to communicate your needs to people in your life.
  • Join us for the Inner Child Workshop, Level 1, and Level 2.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

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Sep 09, 2020
CC: Tips and Tools for Creating Calm in Intense Times
28:21

Christine gives you ten very do-able tips for how to increase your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health during these intense times. When there is so much division and uncertainty in the external world, it is critically important to create calm in your internal world.

To join us for the Inner Child Workshops, go to www.christinehassler.com/innerchildbundle

Sep 05, 2020
EP 260: How to Live with an Angry Person with Dana
48:55

This call is about maintaining boundaries when dealing with anger or rage. Today’s caller, Dana, is in a difficult situation. Her husband rages out at her and her children, but she loves him and wants the relationship to work. We work through ways she can maintain her boundaries and ways she can show up in the relationship to create a cohesive healing environment.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode260]

 

First, if you are in a situation where there is a cycle of abuse get clear about whether you need to leave or if you need to reach out for support for assistance.

 

Anyone who has been abused and then becomes abusive has a great deal of shame. One thing we know to be true is that love is incredibly healing. And, often when someone is in an environment where they do not feel judged, their protective behaviors begin to fade. Creating a loving, non-judgmental, feminine space for the person may help them heal.

 

Remember, feminine energy is not weak or submissive. We don’t just tolerate whatever happens to keep the peace and love everything. Feminine energy is fiercely loving and compassionate. It’s the combination of compassion and nurturing that holds space and is non-judgmental but also the protective mama bear.

 

If you missed the Inner Child workshop, you can still listen to it. It is necessary if you want to join in for Level 2, which begins Sept. 25th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/innerchild.

 

This is a trying time emotionally, mentally, and financially, so in October, I am giving away $5,000 in personal development grant money. Ten people will receive $500 to invest in themselves. We are also enrolling angels who would like to make a financial contribution to someone else’s personal development, go to ChristineHassler.com/grant to get more information. I will announce the grant recipients on an Instagram Live.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you living with, or have you ever lived with someone who had rages, or explosive bouts of anger?
  • How are you at expressing your anger? Are you honest about it to do it in a healthy way, or do you internalize it, then it leaks out through judgment to criticism or irritability either at yourself or others?
  • Do you feel you have worked on yourself but can’t believe you are still dealing with an issue you’ve been working on in therapy for years?
  • Do you allow yourself to be vulnerable when it comes to expressing your needs? How do you do it?

 

Dana’s Question:

Dana would like guidance on how to hold boundaries when it comes to dealing with her husband’s anger.

 

Dana’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • Her husband rages out.
  • She has tried different ways to keep peace in the house.
  • She feels overburdened with responsibility.
  • She has empathy for her husband.
  • Her husband had a traumatic childhood.
  • She has done a lot of therapy around her relationship with her mother.
  • She loves her husband and wants to make their relationship work.
  • She has difficulty holding her boundaries.
  • She has a high tolerance for being treated poorly.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Create a feminine, loving, non-judgmental, shame-free space for her husband.
  • Make an agreement with her closest friend to assist her in leaving if things get worse.
  • Consult with a professional together with her husband.
  • Maintain firm boundaries when it comes to rage.

 

Takeaways:

  • If you are in a situation where there is a cycle of abuse, get clear about whether you need to leave or if you need to reach out for support for assistance.
  • If you are in any type of relationship and you know you want to stay in it, look at your end of it. How can you show up to create a more cohesive, healing environment for the other person?
  • Be aware of your self-abuser, especially if you have had abuse in your life, a lot of times we internalize it. Consider listening to the Inner Child workshop.
  • Allow yourself to feel your feelings and allow yourself to communicate with vulnerability.

 

Sponsor:

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

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Sep 02, 2020
CC: Healing Grief, Depression and Trauma with Michael Gay
58:30

Michael Gay who is a therapist joins Christine to discuss how we deal and heal from trauma.  He has his M.A. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling with a focus in Transpersonal Psychology. Michael has worked in the field of counseling for the last 14 years as a guide, therapist, and trainer. He was a Wilderness Therapy guide for 6 years, leading and facilitating deep transformational work with teens, adults, and families in the mountains and high desert. He has also worked extensively in the field of addiction and recovery. He specializes in work with depression, groups, trauma, PTSD, grief, and families. In addition to his M.A., Michael completed a 3 year training at the Gestalt Institute of the Rockies, and continues to train at the Gestalt Equine Institute.

As a therapist and facilitator, Michael uses experiential and body based methods. Many approaches to therapy and inner work stay at the intellectual and cognitive level, which rarely or slowly affect deep structural change. Engaging in more experiential and embodied work seems to bring the shifts people were unable to find in mainstream therapy. 

You can learn more about Michael or reach out to him about working with him at https://www.michaelgaycounseling.com/
Aug 29, 2020
EP 259: Transforming Shame Into Service with Melissa
37:53

This call is about transforming shame, celebrating your gifts, and sharing them with others. Today’s caller, Melissa, is building a health coaching business and wants to embrace her purpose whole-heartedly but is holding back her light because of self-judgment and shame. We discuss things she can do to focus her energy on getting the things she wants from life as she serves others with her personal experience.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode259]

 

Many people feel physical shame in some way. It can cause us to wear masks and deprive us of joy and self-expression. And, usually the thing we are most self-conscious about people don't even notice or think about as much as we do. If they do notice, they often don’t evaluate us because of it. I’ve never formed an opinion on someone because of their physical characteristics, and honestly, if someone does form an opinion about you because of something completely superficial, do you really want that person in your life?

 

Why are you fighting for approval from people you don’t really like? We give our power away when we seek the approval of others.

 

We can be too judgmental of other people, mostly because we are too judgmental of ourselves. If you want to put yourself out there in whatever way you feel called to do it, please do. You are needed. We need more people who have the consciousness of light and love being loud in the world. Too many people have loud voices that shouldn’t have a microphone. So, get your voice out there.

 

Stop letting fear of rejection and fear of judgment hold you back. Not everyone is going to like you and it is okay. You’re depriving the people who do resonate with you the connection and service you have to offer. Think about the magic you can create by not avoiding the people that may not like you or reject you and focus on compassionately serving others.

 

Stop falling into the avoidance trap and step into your love and light.

 

Are you ready to take your personal development to the next level and invest in yourself? Would an ally and a guide be helpful to you during this time? If so, I have two one-on-one coaching spots available. This type of deep work has incredible ripple effects in all areas of your life. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information.

 

This is a trying time emotionally, mentally, and financially, so in August, I am giving away $5,000 in personal development grant money. Ten people will receive $500 to invest in themselves. Go to ChristineHassler.com/grant to fill out the application. I will announce the grant recipients on an Instagram Live.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you think that you have to be perfect or at a certain point before you really go after your dreams and what you want?
  • Do you carry around shame?
  • Do you feel a calling to do something, be it starting a business, applying for a new job, or dating again but are scared to do it because you’re afraid of judgment?
  • Has shame robbed you of feeling a sense of belonging? Are you tired of letting shame rob you of what you deeply desire?

 

Melissa’s Question:

Melissa has a hard time speaking up and would like guidance on how to heal the shame she feels to gain the confidence to put herself out there.

 

Melissa’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She lacks self-confidence.
  • She attended the inner child workshop.
  • She is building a coaching business.
  • She lacked confidence because of a physical trait.
  • She feels people may judge her.
  • Shame disempowers her.
  • She outsources her self-worth.
  • She has a limiting belief that she isn’t enough.
  • She numbed herself because she felt different from her peers.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Allow herself to be seen without the expectation of perfection.
  • Do things that promote living into her purpose and her mission.
  • Inspire others with her personal journey.
  • Accept herself fully for who she is.

 

Takeaways:

  • Take actions every day that move you into the vibration of who you want to be and what you want to do.
  • Turn your shame into compassion and service. Use it to feel compassion for others who are feeling shame.
  • Stop giving others power over you. Step into your love and light and make your voice heard.
  • Live into your highest truth.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

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Aug 26, 2020
CC: Thinking and Leading (and a Meditation) Part 2
34:32
In this episode, Christine follows up on some of the topics from last week's show as well as offers suggestions for some actions you can take.  You'll also be guided through a calming and empowering meditation at the end of the show.
 
Resources mentioned:
 
Free Awakened Leadership series:
 
Podcast Interview with Robert F Kennedy Jr:
 
Human Trafficking Resources:
 
Aug 22, 2020
EP 258: How to Get Over Your Fear of Rejection with Tracy
39:09

This call is about recognizing the value of your unique gifts. Today’s caller, Tracy, believes she has difficulty being vulnerable and thinks it is holding her business back. But, as we explore her childhood experience, we discover that she is playing out old programming, feeling like she didn’t matter as the youngest sibling in her family. Her fear of rejection may be keeping her from getting what she wants.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode258]

 

There are parts of us that are just us or the things that make us unique. We may not be as vulnerable as the next person, as funny as the next person, or as creative or outspoken or extroverted as other people are. When we measure ourselves against others it can make us feel like something is wrong with us. 

 

It can create blind spots or judgments of things we have taken on from society. And one of the things so many of us, especially in this world of personal development, have taken on is the expectation that we need to be vulnerable

to be fully seen.

 

Vulnerability needs to be earned. Vulnerability is incredible and necessary, however, it’s not something we just give away. It’s OK that it has to be earned. It makes it more authentic.

 

August 28–30, we are offering a Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. If you can’t attend the workshop in its entirety, you will have online access to it for 30 days. A portion of the proceeds from this event will be donated to rescue organizations.

 

This is a trying time emotionally, mentally, and financially, so in August, I am giving away $5,000 in personal development grant money. Ten people will receive $500 to invest in themselves. Go to ChristineHassler.com/grant to fill out the application. I will announce the grant recipients on an Instagram Live.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you have a hard time putting yourself out there when it comes to business, dating, or making friends?
  • Do you have a hard time being vulnerable? Are you slow to warm to people or does it take a while for people to get in?
  • As a child, did you grow up feeling like you were in the shadow of someone else? Were you a younger sibling who always felt behind in some way or just something that made you feel not enough?
  • Are you trying to change something in your present but you can’t make the change?

 

Tracy’s Question:

Tracy feels stuck and would like guidance on tapping into her vulnerability to take more risks.

 

Tracy’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She keeps people at a distance.
  • She would like the confidence to take more risks.
  • She fears rejection.
  • She felt disregarded by her family.
  • Her family is critical and envious of her decisions.
  • Her negative self-talk comes from not feeling good enough.
  • She is triggered more often as an adult than she was as a child.
  • She perpetuates the idea that she doesn’t matter.
  • She doesn’t take compliments well.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Change the programming that creates her self-talk.
  • Know that she matters.
  • Reassure her little girl of her value.
  • Reach out and offer to share her gifts with people.

 

Takeaways:

  • Join the Inner Child Workshop.
  • Know you have the ability to reparent yourself.
  • Write down your limiting beliefs and question why you believe them.
  • If you are a coach who wants to build their business, hire a coach, or participate in a program.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.



Aug 19, 2020
CC: It's Time for You to Lead (and Think for Yourself!)
38:41
Where are the leaders during this intense time? Look in the mirror.  It's time for YOU to step up.  In this episode, Christine talks about why you are needed as a leader. She also shares about COVID, vaccines, human trafficking and more . . . and asks you to think for yourself. Seeking truth and not believing everything we are told is crucial right now. Christine shares thoughts and resources and asks you to use both critical and esoteric thinking to form your beliefs and motivate your actions.
 
Resources mentioned:
Dr. Sherri Tenpenny's interview on London Real: https://www.globalplayer.com/podcasts/episodes/7DrbmW4/
 
Christina Hildabrant's video on vaccines: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OSVLChgt330&feature=youtu.be
 
John Paul Rice on IGTV: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CDpLP3IlaXy/

His film: A Chid’s Voice
Aug 15, 2020
EP 257: Breaking the Silence About Child Abuse with Bianca
44:54

This call is about healing trauma that comes from being sexualized as a child. Recent events have triggered today’s caller, Bianca, who was traumatized by her parents as a child. And, even though she was subjected to pitiful parenting, she still wants to love and protect them. We discuss the importance of making her healing a priority and how nothing that happened was her fault.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode257]

 

People who have been abused, especially by people they love and trust, are usually not quick to jump to anger. They may minimize the evilness of the actions.

 

So, when we are working with people who have been victims in any way, we have to have compassion for the side of them that loves and wants to protect their abusers. It often takes some time for them to get to anger and to take action because it is a deep and confusing entanglement for the victim.

 

We have to put ourselves in the victim’s shoes and realize they love these people. We cannot expect them to have the same reaction as we do. They cannot get to the anger and disgust right away because they don’t see their abusers as awful people. If the abusers are their parents, they may still be trying to get love from them.

 

If you have endured trauma and are ready to heal, know that it is not something you can navigate alone just by listening to a podcast, doing an online workshop, or reading some books about it. It is important to find a trauma-informed therapist.

 

August 28–30, we are offering another Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. If you can’t attend the workshop in its entirety you will have online access to it for 30 days. A portion of the proceeds from this event will be donated to rescue organizations.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Were you raised in what you know or think was an abusive environment but since you have no to very little memories you doubt it or even minimize it?
  • Do you have sexual anxiety? Is it hard for you to feel relaxed when it comes to sex or even someone being affectionate, touching you? Do you dissociate from your body? Do you wonder if it’s because something not so right happened to you when you were a kid?
  • Has there been someone in your life you love a lot, like a parent who’s also hurt you, and so it’s hard for you to face the pain because you love the person that hurt you and you want to protect them?
  • Did what I shared about human trafficking rattle you? Are you feeling called to be involved to save the children from these horrific acts?

 

Bianca’s Question:

Bianca feels sexual anxiety and would like guidance on how to start healing.

 

Bianca’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • Her parents groomed and sexualized her.
  • Her father physically abused her.
  • She has very few memories of her childhood.
  • A recent event triggered her memories.
  • She has a high tolerance for hurt.
  • She wants to help her parents, not hurt them.
  • She hasn’t found a compassionate therapist who makes her feel safe.
  • She has a gentle side and a warrior side.
  • She still loves her parents but may not be able to forgive them.
  • She feels uncomfortable when her significant other is physically affectionate.
  • Her body doesn’t know the difference between pain and pleasure.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Find a professional therapist to work with.
  • Understand that nothing that happened was her fault.
  • Make herself a priority, not her parents.
  • Know that there is a way to heal.
  • Follow the stories of other survivors.
  • Find allies to help her heal.

 

Takeaways:

  • If you are a victim in any way of mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, or sexual abuse, get help. Trauma is not something that heals on its own. It’s not like a cut on your hand that just scabs over. Professional help is a requirement.
  • If you were activated by this episode and you want to get involved here are three resources, OurRescue.org, SharedHope.org, and DestinyRescue.org.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.



Aug 12, 2020
CC: Astral Hustle with Cory Allen
52:09

Cory Allen is an author, podcast host, meditation teacher, and audio engineer.  He is passionate about how to live better using principles of mindfulness, neuroscience, and philosophy.

We discuss Cory’s journey to meditation and how it is an effective tool for adding coherence, awareness, and compassion to life.

You can learn more from Cory through his book, Now is the Way, and his online meditation course called Release Into Now. He is excellent at teaching people how to meditate with clear and concise methods.

 

Connect with Cory here: http://www.cory-allen.com/

Aug 08, 2020
EP 256: How to Release Stuck Feelings with Luanna
39:55

This call is about how to move feelings, especially if those feelings get stuck as energy in your body. Today’s caller, Luanna, is having difficulty expressing her feelings and vulnerability. This episode demonstrates what it looks like when you actualize recommendations or therapies perfectly but the tension and tightness in your body don’t shift.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode256]

 

We all give our parents too much power. We make what they said and what they did matter way too much. Remember, our parents are humans, and more importantly, they are wounded inner children who probably didn’t get the parenting they needed. So, if you’re holding on to something your parents did, said, or just their voices in your head, I encourage you to get it out and find your own inner parent.

 

Anger is not useful when it is in our heads because there is no release for it. If it is hard for you to get angry and use or write angry words, you may be resistant to doing it because you feel like you are betraying the person. If this feels true for you, start by moving energy through sound, movement, and breathwork.

 

This is a trying time emotionally, mentally, and financially so in August, I am giving away $5,000 in personal development grant money. Ten people will receive $500 to invest in themselves. Go to ChristineHassler.com/grant to fill out the application. I will announce the grant recipients on an Instagram Live.

 

August 28–30, we are offering another Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. If you can’t attend the workshop in its entirety you will have online access to it for 30-days.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you ever feel like your feelings get stuck or maybe you do, with tension in your belly, tightness in your chest, and no matter what you do just can’t seem to move it?
  • Did you grow up thinking or being told that vulnerability was weak, that you had to be strong and you felt like your emotions couldn’t be expressed?
  • Do you get in your head a lot? Can you psychoanalyze yourself but when it comes to feeling your feelings you get a little lost?
  • Are you someone that can endure a lot but when it comes to letting it go, it isn’t easy?

 

Luanna’s Question:

Luanna struggles to express her vulnerability. She would like guidance on how to release her emotions and live free of her mother’s control.

 

Luanna’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She feels her energy is stuck in her belly.
  • She is starting a business.
  • She hears her mother’s voice telling her she is not capable of attaining her dreams.
  • As a child, she wanted her mother to let her express her feelings.
  • She adopts her mother’s limiting beliefs as her own.
  • She isn’t going after what she wants because she doesn’t want to hurt her family.
  • It is hard for her to feel anger.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Give herself permission to be angry and feel her feelings.
  • Stop giving her mother power over her life.
  • Practice release writing, dancing, or physical exertion to release the energy.
  • Find a therapist who practices Somatic Therapy.
  • Make a guttural sound with deep breaths to release her anger and sadness.
  • Create a safe space for healing.

 

Takeaways:

  • Empower yourself. Stop giving something your parents said or did more energy than it deserves.
  • If you have a hard time getting angry because it feels like a betrayal, use movement or sound or do letter writing instead.
  • If feelings feel stuck, try a somatic, body-based approach.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.



Aug 05, 2020
CC: Be More With Less with Courtney Carver
33:30

If you’ve been searching for a place to help you simplify your life, declutter your mind, and connect with your heart then you are going to love this conversation. Courtney Carver joins Christine to talk about minimalism. She created Be More with Less and minimalist fashion challenge Project 333 after spending much of her adult life tired, stressed, sick and doing work she didn’t care about to make ends meet. After years of decluttering and letting go, she realized that happiness isn’t waiting for us, it’s within us.

 

Learn more here: https://bemorewithless.com/

Aug 01, 2020
EP 255: Healing Anger with Sean
44:14

This call is a deep dive into what causes anger and what lies beneath the surface of anger. As a child, today’s caller, Sean, experienced emotional abuse from his parents. He would like to move past managing his anger and start healing it. Oftentimes, men put on a mask and reject the scared little boy who experienced wounding. And in many ways, little boys are more sensitive and tender than little girls but they are told to hide their feelings.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode255]

 

Men deal with anger in aggressive or passive ways. If anger isn’t dealt with in a healthy way, men either become aggressive and have outbursts such as yelling and throwing things, putting those they love through emotional turmoil. Or, they are super-passive and withdraw. They allow other people, especially women to push them around and emasculate them. Passive anger gets turned inward because they become incredibly self-critical. Anger left unprocessed or anger left unhealed creates incredible self-criticism. We are hard on ourselves when we have unprocessed anger.

 

When we communicate from a wounded place we can be lethal. People can’t hear us because they have to defend themselves.

 

A lot of times when we attempt to avoid sadness, we laugh. We default to humor because our pain is so big that it is hard to feel it. I encourage people to go into the pain on a regular basis and own the anger to break out of the cycle.

 

When we tap into anger it can feel scary. It is important to have someone who can hold a safe space for us.

 

On the last weekend of August, we are offering another Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. The early bird discount of $100 off is available until July 31st. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. If you can’t attend the workshop in its entirety you will have access to it for 30-days.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • How is your temper? Do you tend to hold things inside and then, once you reach your breaking point, you snap?
  • Do you often react in an angry or impatient way and you feel scared or hurt people in your life?
  • As a child, did you truly feel like someone held space for your emotions?
  • Are there people in your life, perhaps even your parents, that you cannot forgive, even though intellectually, you know you should?

 

Sean’s Question:

Sean has a sizable amount of anger and would like guidance on how to release it.

 

Sean’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He is married with children.
  • He’s grown tired of causing chaos in his home.
  • There was mental and emotional abuse in his childhood home.
  • He had an eating disorder.
  • He judges himself for being angry.
  • He has tried to express his feelings.
  • He has done personal and grief work.
  • He gets triggered when he feels criticized.
  • His current family dynamic reminds him of his childhood.
  • He uses humor as a coping mechanism.
  • He judges his parents.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Acknowledge that it is healthy to have anger.
  • Find a healthy physical release for the anger.
  • Be mindful of using humor as a deflection.
  • Connect with his inner child when he is triggered to anger.
  • Release his feelings with writing.
  • Stop blaming his parents and own his feelings.
  • Give himself unconditional love and acceptance.
  • Discontinue managing his wounds and start healing them.

 

Takeaways:

  • Look at your relationship with anger. Do you relate to being the more outburst aggressive or are you more passive and internalize it?
  • Create a space for you to do the temper tantrum technique. Go to ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease for a free download.
  • Join us in August for the Inner Child Workshop.
  • Own those parts of yourself you may not like so much. If you continue to shame, judge, and blame them, they are not going to heal.

 

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.



Jul 29, 2020
CC: Pursue Your Passions Without Sacrificing Self-Care with Charlene Izene
47:32

Charlene Izere is a multi-passionate entrepreneur. She is the founder of 3 brands: Melanin & Money, Wellness Delivered, and Soulful Systems. Through her platforms, she empowers women to live life on their own terms through systems, self-care, and entrepreneurship. 

As a Black woman, carving out her empire out here in these entrepreneurial streets, she knows first hand how disheartening it can be to feel underrepresented, longing for community, and support by women who get it. Her mission? To put money and opportunity in the hands of Black women. 

When Charlene isn’t strategizing with her clients or hosting an event, she enjoys playing video games, collaging, and self-caring.

 

Jul 25, 2020
EP 254: Stop Feeling Like You Are Always Getting it Wrong with Tanya
39:30

This call is about reconnecting with an inner child. Today’s caller, Tanya, grew up in an unstable environment and, as a result, second-guesses the choices she makes. She invites people into her life in an effort to get the love she never received as a child but the relationships play out much like her childhood, chaotic and uncertain. We discuss the ways she can reconnect with herself through vulnerability and gratitude.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode254]

 

When you are dating, making friends, or when you are just out in the world, you want authenticity. You don’t want to go on a date with someone or be in a business meeting with someone who is inauthentic. Who wants that? We can expect authenticity. We want someone to be real and we want them to tell us the truth but we have to earn a person’s vulnerability.

 

When someone is vulnerable with us it should feel like actual true intimacy, not like we are special or we are getting an inside look. Be mindful of that. Don’t get seduced by faux vulnerability. There is a lot of seductive vulnerability and fake vulnerability in the world. We can expect and should expect authenticity from people but we must earn their vulnerability.

 

Seductive vulnerability is if you are new in meeting someone or dating someone and they start being super vulnerable, like telling you their deepest darkest secrets and opening up without a lot of trust built between you. It may make you feel special but it is more seductive vulnerability than true vulnerability. True vulnerability comes when you feel safe with another person and you feel seen.

 

The last weekend of August, we are offering another Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. The early bird discount of $100 off is available until July 31st. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. If you can’t attend the workshop in its entirety you will have access to it for 30-days.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • What happens when you feel out of control? Do you blame others then blame yourself? What do you do to try to get control back?
  • Do you have a feeling like you’re always doing it wrong, constantly questioning yourself, or constantly feeling like when something goes wrong it’s your fault?
  • Did you grow up in a home where you had a lot of uncertainty?
  • How do you feel about intimacy and true vulnerability? Are you vulnerable in your relationships and have true intimacy with others? Or, are there still some patterns that prevent you from true vulnerability and intimacy?
  • Have you ever been seduced by someone else’s faux vulnerability?

 

Tanya’s Question:

Tanya questions herself and her choices and is asking for guidance about being vulnerable.

 

Tanya’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She blames herself and always feels wrong.
  • There was a lot of uncertainty in her home growing up.
  • She has done a lot of inner child work.
  • She has a history of dating the wrong people.
  • Her mother’s moods controlled her young life.
  • She evaluates other people as above or below her.
  • She evaluates herself through a systematic approach.
  • She constantly tried to figure out how to get her mother’s love.
  • She put up a wall to protect herself.
  • She is seeking connection.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Realize she is not wrong.
  • Learn how to be in a relationship with feelings and vulnerability.
  • Give up dating for a while and work on being in friendships.
  • Be mindful of the difference between authentic vulnerability and charm.
  • Do deep inner child work and reconnect with herself.
  • Recognize the full-body yeses in her life.

 

Takeaways:

  • Join us in August for the Inner Child Workshop.
  • Look at, especially if you're dating and have relationships, at how you are playing out unresolved wounding with either mom or dad in those relationships.
  • Research vulnerability. Brené Brown is a great resource for vulnerability.
  • If you are blaming yourself for something because it’s giving you a false sense of control, be aware of what you are doing and make a list of all the things you are certain of, and then follow that up with a list of all the things you’re grateful for.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.



Jul 22, 2020
CC: Human Design with Erin Claire Jones
59:33

Want to learn more about how you are individually designed as a human? Then you're going to love this episode with Erin Claire Jones.  Erin uses Human Design to help thousands of individuals and companies step into their work and their lives as their truest selves and to their highest potential.

Human Design is a synthesis of ancient wisdom and modern science that sheds light on a person’s energetic makeup, as well as specific tools they can use to live at their happiest, healthiest, highest potential. It doesn’t change who they are; it teaches them who they are. It offers insight into what’s possible, and highlights the significance of understanding and living as the fullest expression of themselves.

Her work as a guide, coach, and speaker has attracted a growing community of over 50,000 people who turn to her teachings for practical tools, digestible tips, and deeper self-knowledge they can access to live with greater ease and authenticity every single day.
 
To get your Blueprint, a personalized guide to your unique design: erinclairejones.com/blueprint
 
The code CHRISTINE will get you 10% off your Blueprint.
Jul 18, 2020
EP 253: How To Go All-in On Your Dreams with Trevi
29:24

This call is about going all in. Today’s caller, Trevi, is uncomfortable taking risks because she fears she will not live up to her high expectations. I offer her tips about how to remove the obstacles that are getting in the way of her going all-in and stepping fully into her dreams.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode253]

 

Children need their parents and other people to feel proud of them. It isn’t an ego thing. We all need validation. We need the feeling of pride. And, as children, we needed it from mostly our caretakers but if we didn’t get it, it is imperative that we give it to ourselves.

 

You will be amazed when your little one inside, or that part of you that feels insecure, feels pride. Hope and possibility will fill you up. If you want to feel inspired, feel proud first. When you give your inner child what you need they will feel satiated and not hold you back.

 

It’s okay to take risks and it’s okay if you need reinforcement and reassurance before you take the risk. Some of us don’t like risk and a lot of that has to do with our natural tendencies and our childhood. But if we don’t take risks, if we don’t keep trying, then we may never have awesome experiences. Don’t be afraid to try or to be afraid of your future self and your high-expectations.

 

The last weekend of August, we are offering another Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. The early bird discount of $100 off is available until July 31st. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. If you can’t attend the workshop in its entirety you will have access to it for 30-days.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Did you have something you want such as a career, relationship, or a move but you’re scared to go all-in?
  • Are you afraid of your high-expectations because you don’t want to fail?
  • What is your relationship to risk? Do you prefer to play it safe?
  • Do you feel proud of yourself, not just for your accomplishments but for who you are?

 

Trevi’s Question:

Trevi would like guidance on how to transform her career from a corporate job to her dream job of being a yoga teacher and coach.

 

Trevi’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is scared of not being able to meet her expectations.
  • She is worried about what other people think.
  • She has high expectations for herself.
  • She feels disappointed when she doesn’t meet her high standards.
  • She chased validation from her parents.
  • She still chases validation from external sources.
  • She talks herself out of things she wants.
  • She is proud of herself for who she is.
  • When she gives her little girl what she needs she feels satiated.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Reparent the part of herself that needs validation.
  • Reassure the little girl inside of her and feel that she is seen and loved.

 

Takeaways:

  • It’s okay to take some risks and it’s okay if you need reinforcement and reassurance before you take the risk.
  • Feel proud of yourself.
  • Write down or say out loud to the mirror ten reasons you are proud of yourself.
  • Join us in August for the Inner Child Workshop.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.



Jul 15, 2020
CC: Racism Recovery with April Dawn Harter, LCSW
01:45:05

This is MUST listen episode. I've been wanting to bring on an expert to talk about the psychological and emotional issues surrounding racism as well as give guidance to overcome the guilt, shame, and trauma so many people are experiencing. I am thrilled that I found April Dawn Harter who joins me to break down what actually causes and perpetuates racism and how to heal it. April is a former medical social worker, where she provided counseling to her patients and their family members to help them cope with the trauma of medical emergencies in the state of Texas. She later moved to Colorado and started her private practice to serve QTPOC patients with a history of racial trauma. After having worked with QTPOC, she decided to help prevent racism in society by working with white clients as a coach using the Racist Signature Theory. Finally, she opened up the Racism Recovery Center to provide psychotherapy for the treatment of racism. You can learn more here: https://www.racismrecoverycenter.com/

Jul 11, 2020
EP 252: Why Do I Feel Like I Am Not Making Any Progress? With Anna
42:34

This call is about doing deep inner child work. Today’s caller, Anna, is being blocked by a defense mechanism and doesn’t feel she is making progress in her personal development work. We talk about how she can come back to love and remove judgment. It is useful to reach out externally for support, however, we have to be our own internal support as well. The help she needs will come from within.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode252]

 

When you feel you are backtracking in your personal development, know that what is really happening is that a trigger is exposing a deeper layer so you can go to a deeper level of healing and love.

 

Our behaviors, coping strategies, and our defense mechanisms are all there to protect us from hurt and confirm our biases. People who have low self-worth and think their value comes from doing will be very critical of themselves and will constantly try to do and create a result.

 

When our ‘come from’ is “I’m broken,” “I hope this fixes me,” or “something is wrong with me,” it slows down our healing because the energy that our personal development is riding on is judgment rather than love.

 

As we learn to meet our own needs and tend to the little one inside of us and make the place inside of us that feels not enough, or not worthy, make it known that our needs ARE valuable and worthy. And, as we realize our needs are valuable and worthy, we then unconsciously train other people about how to meet our needs better and we are able to consciously ask people to meet our needs better.

 

Are you being called to lead, love, or make a difference? Join me and Stefanos for our Love Amplified Live retreat in Austin, Sept 24–27. This retreat is all about the love of self, love of others, and love of your higher power. There will be workshops, breathwork, and partner breakouts. Come, share, and grow. Get more information at ChristineHassler.com/retreat.

 

The last weekend of August, we are offering a Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. If you can’t attend the workshop in its entirety you will have access to it for 30-days.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel like you're backtracking or not making progress in terms of your personal development?
  • Do you experience great frustration with your life, work, relationships, or where you live?
  • Growing up, did you feel like your needs were met? Did you feel like your parents understood you, saw you, and knew how to meet your needs?
  • When it comes to yourself and your path, do you approach it with love, compassion, and acceptance, or with judgment and frustration?

 

Anna’s Question:

Anna feels that time is passing in her life but she isn’t making any progress; she would like guidance on how to move forward.

 

Anna’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She feels she is not making progress in life.
  • She feels other people judge her.
  • She is unhappy in her work, community, and relationships.
  • Her parents were emotionally unavailable.
  • She gets depressed when she is not accomplishing things.
  • She felt her needs didn’t matter and couldn’t be met.
  • She has consistently searched externally to get her needs met.
  • She helped raise a family member.
  • She feels angry and hurt that her parents weren’t there for her.
  • She has built a wall around her heart.
  • She adopted self-criticism as a defense mechanism.
  • She is not broken.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Realize she is the only one that can meet her needs.
  • Deeply connect with her little girl and feel her feelings.
  • Reflect internally without judgment and support and trust herself.

 

Takeaways:

  • Look at your ‘come from’ in your personal development. Up your self-compassion and talk to that little one inside.
  • Join us in August for the Inner Child Workshop.
  • Think of how you’d be with a child or animal. How would you meet their needs? How would you anticipate their needs? Use this to access how to meet your own needs.
  • Acknowledge your progress.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.



Jul 08, 2020
CC: Break Through Money Blocks to Live A Richer Life with Ramit Sethi
48:05

Remit Sethi is the author of the NYT bestseller “I Will Teach You How to Be Rich” and is known as a financial guru to millions.  He is an expert on teaching how to break through psychological money blocks so you can live a rich life. In this episode Ramit shares some incredible tips for how to get out of panic around money during this stressful time as well as advice for how to lead a “rich” life (and you get to define what “rich” means to you!).

Learn more about Ramit at: https://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/

Jul 04, 2020
EP 251: Have I Outgrown My Relationship? With Sara
39:14

This call is about personal growth and the effect it may have on a long-term relationship. Today’s caller, Sara, is working through her past trauma and childhood wounds and making a connection with her inner child. But, her relationship with her husband is not shifting. She is wondering if it is a relationship dynamic that will adjust.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode251]

 

Even though the person who is doing more growth work and has more consciousness in a relationship has more responsibility, we can never change anyone through our love. However, if we break the issue-based dynamic we are in with someone then it presents an opportunity for them to break free of their patterns and maybe deal with some of their stuff. Our love cannot save anyone, change anyone, or heal anyone. That is a job we have to do ourselves. We are all 100% responsible for changing, healing, and inspiring ourselves.

 

If we try to get someone to change, we are continuing to involve ourselves in the relational dynamic which perpetuates the unhealthy patterns and childhood wounding. Healing doesn’t come from trying to change another person. It comes from doing your own work within the context of a relationship.

 

Most of our wounding happens in a relationship and most of our wounding can be healed in a relationship.

 

If you are in a relationship and would like a couples coaching call on this podcast go to ChristineHassler.com/couples.

 

Are you being called to lead, love, or make a difference? Join me and Stefanos for our Love Amplified Live retreat in Austin, Sept 24–27. This retreat is all about the love of self, love of others, and love of your higher power. There will be workshops, breathwork, and partner breakouts. Come, share, and grow. Get more information at ChristineHassler.com/retreat.

 

At the end of August, we are offering a Virtual Inner Child Workshop. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild. If you can’t tune in for the workshop in its entirety you will have access to it for 30-days.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you still dealing with the pain of a chaotic or traumatic childhood?
  • Have you been doing a lot of personal growth work and now you’re concerned that you may have outgrown your partner?
  • Do you feel your relationship has an expiration date?
  • Do you really want your partner to change and you’re doing everything you can to get him or her to change?

 

Sara’s Question:

Sara is making significant changes in her life and is looking for more intimacy and connection in her relationship.

 

Sara’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has been making personal development breakthroughs.
  • She is open to change and doing new things.
  • She is looking for connection and intimacy from her relationship.
  • Her husband has a different love language.
  • She needs to feel safe in a relationship.
  • There has been gaslighting in her childhood and marriage.
  • She is in an issue-based relationship.
  • She has an anxious attachment style.
  • She has an emotional addiction of going into Hopeless/Helpless.
  • She is in a soul contract.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Couples coaching is helpful.
  • Take care of little Sara, reassure her,  and give herself what she needs.
  • Love her husband for exactly who he is.
  • Lead her relationship with love.
  • Try interrupting rigid patterns with humor and lightness.

 

Takeaways:

  • If you are in a partnership where you are growing but you don’t think your partner is, instead of thinking you need to leave, give it your all unless the relationship is toxic.
  • Talk to the little boy or girl inside of you, ask them what they need, and give it to them.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.



Jul 01, 2020
CC: Spiritual Shit with Alea Lovely
54:39

You'll love Christine's discussion with energy reader, medium, empath and energy coach Alea Lovely.  Alea uses her empathic and intuitive gifts to help people discover and move past their blocks. She also hosts an amazing podcast "Spiritual Sh*t" where she interviews guests and shares her compassion and wisdom.  You can learn more about Alea and her services here: https://thelovelyalea.com/bio

Jun 27, 2020
EP 250: Stop Pleasing and Start Speaking Up with Rhonda
33:22

This call is about realizing the freedom of being your authentic self and setting boundaries. Today’s caller, Rhonda, is used to putting other people first but she wants deeper, more authentic relationships. She feels stuck in the limiting beliefs and fears of her childhood. We work through her gift of discernment and how she can give her authentic self an outlet. It’s a perfect conversation for what is going on collectively right now.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode250]

 

To some degree, I think we are people pleasers or at least invested in making sure other people like us a large percentage of the time. But, more and more, we’re living in a world where that simply doesn’t work. It doesn’t work because it stifles our authentic expression and it also doesn’t work because we have too many people pleasers and not enough changemakers. How can we create a better world if we are afraid of upsetting other people?

 

A great leader cares more about the truth then people's feelings. It’s not a permission slip to be a jerk, however sometimes the truth does hurt, and that’s okay. We have to be willing to receive the truth, allow it to sting a little bit but then go, all right what can I learn. And, we have to be willing to give the truth and be okay if people are upset with us. It’s okay, their upset is their responsibility. Your responsibility is to speak the truth with love. We need people who see injustices and call them out.

 

If you are feeling stuck, reframe it. You are not stuck. You are waking up. You may be in a bit of uncertainty because you are breaking free of old patterns but you are not stuck!

 

Are you being called to lead, love, or make a difference? Join me and Stefanos for our Love Amplified retreat in Austin, Sept 24-27. This retreat is all about the love of self, love of others, and love of your higher power. There will be workshops, breathwork, and partner breakouts. Come, share, and grow. Get more information at ChristineHassler.com/retreat.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you a people pleaser? Are you often more concerned with being liked and having people be okay than you are with actually speaking your truth?
  • Did you grow up in a home where you had to take care of your parents and parent them so they were happy and your own needs weren’t met?
  • If you are a parent, are you able to be Mama or Papa Bear to your child but often have trouble giving yourself that same fierce love?
  • Do you have the gift of discernment but you often don’t speak up and use your gift to be able to see the truth? And, are you willing to make the truth more important than the need to be liked?

 

Rhonda’s Question:

Rhonda feels stuck in people-pleasing mode. She wants deeper relationships where she can truly be seen.

 

Rhonda’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She doesn’t feel lovable or let people love her.
  • She is driven to please other people.
  • She feels tired and wants to regain her energy.
  • In her childhood, she felt the need to make peace between her parents.
  • She is waking up from a limiting belief about her worthiness.
  • She wants to be her authentic self.
  • She is passionate about her children.
  • She supported her son through his cancer treatments.
  • She feels powerful and strong.
  • She is going through marriage therapy.
  • She is aware when other people take advantage.
  • She doesn’t want to hurt people.
  • She has the gift of discernment.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Let go of the belief that she is stuck.
  • Connect with her inner child and provide the unconditional love, trust, and validation she is seeking through people-pleasing.
  • Use her gift of discernment and access the part of herself that is committed to love, life, and connection.
  • Discover things she is passionate about.
  • Speak up for her wants and needs with truth and love.
  • Give her authentic self an outlet.
  • Speak with her husband about her love for him.

 

Takeaways:

  • Speak the truth.
  • Look at your relationships — where do you need to set boundaries or reinforce them?
  • Find the fierce warrior inside of you and give support to the little boy or a little girl inside of you.
  • For help finding your voice, check out my Love Amplified retreat.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.



Jun 24, 2020
CC: We're In This Together with Mike Robbins
42:00

Christine chats with longtime friend and colleague, Mike Robbins about how to learn, grow, and just be an overall better human.  His new book

WE’RE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER: Creating a Team Culture of High Performance, Trust, and Belonging is incredibly timely.  For the past 20 years, he’s been a sought-after speaker and consultant who delivers keynotes and seminars for some of the top organizations in the world. 

He and his work have been featured in the New York Times and the Harvard Business Review, as well as on NPR and ABC News.  He’s a regular contributor to Forbes, hosts his own podcast (called We’re All in This Together), and his books have been translated into 15 different languages.

 

Jun 20, 2020
EP 249: Let Go of Guilt for Good with Lynn
46:05

This incredibly touching call is about forgiveness and letting go of guilt. Today’s caller, Lynn, feels she was partially responsible for her son’s death and wants to be free of the guilt so she can mourn his passing. Lynn is very brave to be vulnerable and share her story. In this session, we work through a tough topic, especially for mothers. Be prepared.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode249]

 

When something happens, we can blame ourselves so much that we become the judge and the jury that crucifies us. We can get stuck in a thick soup of guilt.

 

And, when we have a big trauma, like the passing of someone, we can think that we’re only upset about that event especially when it is something big like losing a child. However, most traumas, massive expectation hangovers, or losses trigger past things that made us feel in similar ways. We can get stuck in a loop that we can’t get out of in terms of the guilt cycle. It’s difficult to process grief when you are stuck in guilt.

 

Grief is hard and when we add guilt to it, it can feel unsurmountable. When you lose someone, especially a child, I don’t know that the pain ever goes away. However, going through the grief process helps to heal it enough for you to be able to move forward.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you suffer from guilt? Have you done something and you think that you did something terribly wrong and you just can’t forgive yourself, even if it’s years later?
  • Are you a parent, especially a mother, who thinks no matter what you do you are never doing enough?
  • Have you had a break up that you never really got over? Specifically a break up where you were left for another person?
  • Do you know things spiritually but have a hard time accepting them on a human level?

 

Lynn’s Question:

Lynn has been grieving over her son’s death but hasn’t been able to forgive herself for his suffering.

 

Lynn’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She feels divided between her emotional and spiritual self.
  • She is stuck in feelings of grief, guilt, and regret.
  • She sought help from grief groups and through multiple healing techniques.
  • Her son was the victim of a violent crime.
  • She feels she should have done more to help her son.
  • Her ex-husband left her and their three children for another woman.
  • She may be keeping her son’s memory alive through her guilt and shame.
  • She has a limiting belief that she could have done better as a mom.
  • She wants to be free of the guilt so she can mourn her son.
  • She doesn’t feel supported in her current marriage.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Do deep forgiveness work and process anger from her past.
  • Give herself permission to open her heart and to be happy again.
  • Resist punishing herself.

 

Takeaways:

  • If you are feeling guilty about something, do some journaling. Ask yourself, ‘What is this bringing up from my past that I need to forgive myself for?’
  • Forgive yourself for buying into any judgments you have made against yourself.
  • Mothers, it’s OK to have boundaries with your children.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.



Jun 17, 2020
CC: Shift Your Mindset with Topsie Vandenbosch
49:41

Mindset coach and clinical therapist Topsie Vandenbosch joins Christine to talk about how to have a healthier mindset. We talk about getting out of unhealthy situations, getting over imposter syndrome and Topsie works with female entrepreneurs who are str

Jun 13, 2020
EP 248: Be Yourself No Matter What Anybody Else Thinks with Ram
33:39

This call is about identifying what is blocking you from stepping into your power. Today’s caller, Ram, has something to say but fears the judgment of others. He is repressing anger about never being seen for who he truly is. How many of us identify with that?

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode248]

 

When we have stuck emotions we feel stuck in life because it takes a lot of energy to suppress repressed emotions. Repressing our emotions robs us of our creative expression and our creative energy. So, unless we deal with our anger and rage it’s going to leak out in other ways and it’s going to sabotage us.

 

When men, in particular, don’t deal with their anger and hurt in healthy ways or they don’t step into their power in a healthy way, they try to overpower others. Men who don’t take the more aggressive route generally become passive and neither help us because we need strong men to fight this fight with us. I acknowledge men who are willing to learn to process anger in a healthy way.

 

Sometimes we give too much power to people who can’t see us and that is what is beautiful about the awakening happening right now. So much is coming up and out in our world as more and more people are speaking their truth. We need awake people and lightworkers in all fields to bring consciousness and love into the world. No one else can give us permission to be ourselves.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel like you’re in limbo — like you know what to do and feel called to do it but just can’t seem to make it happen?
  • Do you feel disconnected from either your masculine or feminine energy?
  • Are you scared, even terrified, of judgment from others, which keeps you from moving forward?
  • Do you feel like a fish out of water in your culture, country, or family?

 

Ram’s Question:

Ram thinks he is in healing limbo. He feels disconnected from his masculine energy and is scared to show his true self to the world.

 

Ram’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He is sensitive and empathic.
  • His previous career/identity was frantic and Madmen like.
  • He is afraid to share his true nature.
  • He feels disconnected from his culture.
  • He doesn’t feel he can be his true self.
  • He becomes deeply invested in his work.
  • He is tapping into the collective frustration.
  • He lives vicariously through other people.
  • He feels the way to survive is to mute himself.
  • There is anger in his body and it wants attention.
  • He feels wronged, suppressed, and disempowered.
  • He is breaking a paradigm.
  • Managing his anger is taking all his energy.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Work to change external circumstances to shift internally.
  • Find the anger within and release it to become empowered.
  • Work with anger in a healthy way.
  • Go to ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease for my Temper Tantrum technique from Expectation Hangover or join the Personal Mastery course.
  • Move into self-forgiveness.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.



Jun 10, 2020
CC: We Are in the Great Awakening. How to Navigate and Understanding Your Role
43:42

In this episode, Christine speaks about how to navigate this challenging time with love. She also shares her insight on how and why this is the "Great Awakening" we have all been preparing for. Christine shares how we can all heal racism and how being anti-racist is truly about being a loving and awakening human being along with action steps you can take. Learn how you can step into your unique role in this changing ecosystem. Receive a prayer you can use to help shift mass consciousness.

Jun 06, 2020
EP 247: I Feel Like a Failure with Alex
52:07

This call is about self-compassion and empowerment. Today’s caller, Alex, judges herself for not being where she feels she ‘should’ be in life and for not breaking free from a toxic relationship. She wants guidance on how to move forward but must first work through her unresolved wounding. No one makes significant changes by beating themselves up. True transformation and true change come from love.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode247]

 

When we judge ourselves as a failure we continue to feel like a failure because adding judgment only creates more self-loathing and it lowers our self-worth. It’s important to know that at any given moment we are doing the best we can at the time.

 

 It’s not an excuse not to do better. It is like Maya Angelou says ‘the first time you didn’t know any better, the second time you know better, so do better.’ We always have the opportunity. There is always another time. The amazing thing about life is that as time keeps going on we are consistently presented with additional opportunities to do better. But, if you look back and only see yourself as a failure you’re not going to have the confidence and self-love you need to actually do better the next time you will just keep repeating the same ‘failure.’

 

It is important that we feel empowered so we don’t give our power away to others or exert our power over others.

 

Take a deep dive into how to understand your attachment style and heal your inner child in our three-day virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Stefanos and I will hold space for both the healthy masculine and feminine. If you can’t join us live, it will be recorded. ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel like you’re failing at life and not where you should be?
  • Do you have an alcoholic or addict parent and maybe did you have another parent that you were close to — maybe even a little too close?
  • Is it hard for you to break free of toxic relationships or situations even though you know that they are not healthy for you?

 

Alex’s Question:

Alex is tired of feeling like a victim and would like clarity on how to move forward in her life.

 

Alex’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She walked away from a toxic relationship but keeps in contact with him.
  • She is looking for a new job.
  • She feels like a failure and has hit rock bottom.
  • Her father is an alcoholic and a workaholic.
  • Her father didn’t pay much attention to her.
  • She lost touch with herself at a young age.
  • She feels alone.
  • She didn’t find value in therapy.
  • She is very close to her mother and doesn’t want to disappoint her.
  • She carries around shame.
  • She wants to learn to love herself.
  • She is love-starved.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Research codependence and work to break free of her codependent patterns.
  • Focus on self-compassion and empowerment.
  • Remind herself daily that she is enough and she doesn’t need anyone else’s approval.
  • Believe that she can take care of herself and meet her own needs.
  • Consider getting a coach or therapist to guide her.
  • Reparent herself and speak to herself in a more loving way.
  • Investigate her spiritual life more.

 

Takeaways:

  • Join us for the virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild.
  • Look where you might have codependent patterns. Do some online research or check out Codependent No More, by Melody Beattie.
  • Make a list of all your perceived failures or mistakes and reframe them. For every single one, I want you to write down at least three things you learn from them to start to see your failures and mistakes from a different perspective.
  • Do something that fills your cup. Do something that makes you feel safe and nurtured, something that calms that inner child.

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.



Jun 03, 2020
CC: The XX Brain with Dr. Lisa Mosconi
01:05:47

Enjoy this information rich episode where Christine speaks with one of the thought-leaders in women's brain health. Learn how you can protect your memory and avoid Alzheimer's disease. Dr. Lisa Mosconi, PhD, is the director of the Women's Brain Initiative and associate director of the Alzheimer's Prevention Clinic at Weill Cornell Medical College, where she serves as an associate professor of neuroscience in neurology and radiology. In addition, she is an adjunct faculty member at the NYU Department of Psychiatry and the author of Brain Food and The XX Brain.

May 30, 2020
EP 246: Break Through Intimacy Blocks with Jasmine
37:20

This call is about overcoming a desire for control to feel safe. Today’s caller, Jasmine, is wondering why she has a strange relationship with her boyfriend and her sister and why she sabotages her work experience. What it comes down to is an issue with control and fear of intimacy created to protect herself due to her early experiences with an emotionally unavailable parent.

 

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode246]

 

During a time when we feel out of control or too controlled we develop a compensatory strategy of ‘I have to be in control of everything to protect myself to avoid intimacy.’

 

Attachment styles are developed based on our early experiences in relationships. In the avoidant attachment style, we avoid or fear emotional intimacy because usually had a parent who was aloof, emotionally removed, unaffectionate, rejecting, or not attuned to our childhood emotional needs.

 

Maybe the parent provided food and shelter but children need affection and nurturing as well. When a child doesn’t have emotional availability or affection they can develop an avoidant attachment style. In adulthood, this can show up as being extremely independent and self-directed, controlling, and often uncomfortable with intimacy.

 

Those with an avoidant attachment style often get the rap of being commitment-phobes but it’s more that they have difficulty with commitment. They either rationalize themselves out of deep intimacy or they have certain complaints when in a relationship.

 

Grounding ourselves in the present moment and breathwork are great for people who have an avoidant attachment style.

 

Take a deep dive into how to understand your attachment style and heal your inner child in our three-day virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Stefanos and I will hold space for both the healthy masculine and feminine. If you can’t join us live, it will be recorded. ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to discuss what may be blocking you from joining in.

 

To learn more about compensatory strategies get a free download from my book, Expectation Hangover at ChristineHassler.com/CS.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you have a habit of pushing people away?
  • Do you give too much advice to certain people?
  • Do you remember, as a child, having a lot of affection being hugged and feeling safe and nurtured in your home or do you remember feeling kind of alone?
  • Do you often sabotage an opportunity or relationship professional or personal even if it’s something you really want?

 

Jasmine’s Question:

Jasmine has a difficult time connecting in her relationships and pulls away before she gets what she wants.

 

Jasmine’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is trying to change the role she plays in her sister’s life.
  • She shrugs off affection when her boyfriend reaches out.
  • She wants things done a certain way.
  • She has adopted a protective pattern of control.
  • She has had very little intimacy in her life.
  • Her mother was emotionally unavailable.
  • As a child, she learned that loving other people meant telling them what to do.
  • Her father wasn’t around.
  • She doesn’t recognize the progress she has made.
  • She may have a deep fear of rejection.
  • She has a body memory of being rejected when giving love.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Research the avoidant attachment style.
  • Check-in with herself, with love, to see how she is doing.
  • Be more compassionate with herself.
  • Release self-judgment and add unconditional love.
  • Ground herself in the present because intimacy happens in the present moment.
  • Adopt the mantra of ‘I am safe. That was then. This is now.’ and ‘It is safe to let love in.’

 

Takeaways:

 

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.