This week it is Average Jane's turn! Join sex therapist and author Dr. Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about what the sexual experience for an average woman is and how to improve their sex life!

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George wants men to have a method to improve their sexual game in 3 zones—pre-sex, during sex and post-sex in 4 different areas: heart, mind, body, and genitals. Twelve variables for guys who like stats to measure their self progress. George gets into specific numbers for the average Joe in each area and has a plan for what they can do if they don't like their own assessment.

Let's talk about “killjoy” – the negative cycle that squashes the love life is so many millions of couples out there and how we can name it, notice it and do it differently. Sexual discrepancies are the most common thing we're going to see over 80% of couples are going to find themselves in a dynamic where one wants more than one wants less. In his marriage, George calls the negative cycle “California’ and Laurie calls it “drowning” with her swimmer husband. But there's something really fun about naming the negative cycle, the merry go round Groundhog Day, whatever word you want to come up with. The beautiful thing about doing this is it starts to externalize the problem. The problem isn't Joe. The problem isn't Mary. The problem is the dynamics that they've unconsciously created in this attempt to be with each other. George and Laurie role play a new way of communicating in “killjoy”!

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Is the orgasm gap fair? Laurie and George don't think so. But it's so natural to feel criticized when your partner tries to tell you what they need; how can we get excited about feedback to change this problem? How often do normal couples have bad sex? George suggests often enough that it's coming for you! (you gotta expect it!) But if you strike out... get back in the game. Do men who worry about their penis size even know what's normal? How big is big enough? What's so special about sex in Finland - what are they getting right for women? We got the stats!

Why do YOU want to have sex? George and I talk about the 5 most frequent motives to get it on! Pleasure, Intimacy, Approval, Coping and Procreation. Each motive can be used in sexually healthy relationship as sex serves many purposes for a couple. Sometimes though some motives fail, like when pleasure is never accompanied by intimacy or when the anxious need from approval doesn't develop into pleasure.

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Welcome Dr. Emily Nagoski, PhD, fellow podcaster and award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life. 

Dr.Nagoski's mission is to help us live with confidence and joy in our bodies! Together, Emily, George and Laurie want to help people have a healthy view of sex and challenge people's assumptions about what they believe and where they get stuck. We all see EFT as a way to help couples deal with the difficult feelings around sex where we often are anxious about hurting our partner's feelings or fearful of being found sexually inadequate.

To help us understand desire, Emily tells us about where to find our brakes (all the good reasons not to be turned on... potential threats) and accelerators (everything we think, believe, imagine & touch, taste, smell, hear that has sexual connotations.)  Fun topics in this podcast: look at your genitals! (if you want to make friends.) She and George talk about the complicated relationship men have with their penises. Nagoski uses a hedgehog visualization to gracefully accept our feelings around sex. Ever wonder why your body may be turned on but you really don’t want sex? Emily shares the concept of non-concordant sex – when our body’s arousal and subjective sexual feelings don’t align.

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Knowing that their withdrawal triggers their partner, what can someone who feels attacked or criticized do - other than walking away? Wrestling with themselves and naming their feelings, gives them a moment to feel instead of shutting it down. Recognizing what happens in their body makes some room and space for the withdrawer distress. And becoming curious about their pursuing partners criticism and anger helps them reconnect emotionally.

Men want an engaged partner and frequently ask for communication in bed.  Yet, how can a women ask for what she wants without sending the message that she is critical and unhappy? Laurie and George discuss how a woman can offer sex tips so her guy can really be the best in bed for her especially if he is a sexual withdrawer. 

Pursuers have beautiful motives to push toward their partners - wanting more connection, more intimacy and more sex. But they often feel rejected and are told they are too much which escalates the cycle.

Learn two things that help the pursuer calm down. 1) Remind yourself that you have good intentions to create change. 2) Use an image of someone who made you feel safe - a therapist, parent, grandparent or even of yourself comforting a younger version of yourself. See how taking a wider lens including both peoples vulnerabilities can stop the pursuer-distance cycle.

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It's so hard to ask for what I want in bed or how to answer what do you want me to do to you sexually. Why? George says we either want to protect our partner from something hurtful and we're avoiding what we feel. But without talking about it, we shortcut that delicious exploration, even the missing spots and getting redirected - that is part of the magic of excitement. Our 4 questions are open-ended and hopefully spark real conversation between you and your lover - even if you've been doin' it forever.

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Mailbag! - A 49 year-old virgin wonders if it too late for love or if she has lost her mojo. George and Laurie discuss having hard conversations about racism and sex including a listener's feedback. A woman having trouble with physical intimacy after her husband's emotional infidelity.

When we are falling in love, we notice all the positive attractors in our partner. Over time, the inevitable negatives which were there all along become more noticeable. The key to long-term relational connection is to intentionally replicate that focus on the positive attractors over the negative.

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We all resonate with how sexy confidence is in the bedroom. But how do we get it back when we've been repeatedly rejected? Or how do we love ourselves and our imperfect bodies when a critical voice inside our heads screams about our flaws and jiggly thighs? Listen to George and Laurie talk through the ways that can get our game on!

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George and Laurie add their hearts to the conversation about racism. We need to have the conversations that are uncomfortable. If we're marginalized, we have to protest - the rage and anger makes sense. As a former first responder, it breaks George's heart to see the men watching the murder of George Floyd. Where were their feelings? Shut down. Blocked. Trained to be closed. If we can train people to shut down their feelings we can train them to turn on their feelings and be in touch when their humanity is essential. Join Laurie and  George as they talk about what's happening in the world. 

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Conversation is the best foreplay. But to have a deeper, more satisfying relationship you must ask deeper, specific questions. Have you ever wanted to talk to your husband or boyfriend about what he really thinks about what is going on in his bedroom? How to Talk to a Man About His Sex Life (Assessment - Part 3) will give you so good questions to ask and ways to make sense of his answers. In this third episode on assessing your sexual relationship, join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about the kinds of questions they use to understand and assess the depth of a couple's connection.

In therapy and in our partnerships, sharing our sexual histories takes vulnerability and courage. https://bit.ly/2ylCVTA Have you told your partner about your sexual development? So often we don't even bother to think about what was formative and how our experiences, our strengths, our trauma may influence what we feel in bed. This episode, relationship experts, licensed couples therapist guru George takes the role of sex therapist and sex therapist Dr. Laurie role plays a patient talking about her history.

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We invite you into a thoughtful reflection about what is happening in YOUR sex life. Bring your spirit of curiosity and stay with us in the discovery mode as our “client” played by the brave volunteer - George - answers this first set of questions. Pull back the curtain and hear what Laurie thinks about his answers as a sex therapist. Think about these beginning questions, (not easy questions) like… What would you want your partner to know about you sexually? Laurie reflects on how important vulnerability is when communication with your lover the deeper aspects of these questions. Our patient acknowledges his anxiety and how most of the time he communicates in frustration with his partner instead of coming from his heart’s longing.

We ask: What is going on in your sex life now? Can you describe the problems? When did things change between you or when did the problems start? What have you tried to resolve these issues. Do you and your partner have desire for each other? What turns you on the most? When do you feel most erotic with your partner? What are your 3 most important expectations in bed?

We gratefully acknowledge the work of EFT founder Dr. Sue Johnson, EFT Supervisor Mike Moran in the development of this sexual questionnaire as well as the work of Dr. Zoya Simakhodskaya, Ph.D for pioneering the understanding of the integration of the sexual cycle into the couple emotional cycle in emotionally focused therapy.

The stay-at-home orders across the country because of the Covid-19 Pandemic has increased the economic and health security. Dealing with feelings of helplessness is a drag on individuals and impacts sexual desire. Join sex therapist Dr. Laurie Watson and Couples therapist George Faller as they talk about how to maintain sex during 'war-time.'

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What turns him on? Visual stimulation is very important. Seeing his partner naked works if women can let go of their insecurity.  Join sex therapist and author Dr. Laurie Watson and Couples therapist George Faller as they talk about what turns men on.

A married woman listener asks George and Laurie about how to overcome 15 years of shame regarding her thoughts about the 'right kind of sex to have', 'what is good and acceptable in a sexual encounter', and even shame over how much she should be enjoying sex. George remarks, that shame is the biggest turnoff and cut-off for sexual desire...

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In this Mailbag episode, a listener raises a question about given the difficulty many women have in orgasming through intercourse, why would women want to have sex? Sex therapist and author Dr. Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller discuss the different viewpoints towards sex that men and women have.

The Pursuer - Withdrawer dance can escalate negative emotions and lead to misunderstanding what each partner is wanting, thinking, and feeling. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as the talk about the process of escalation and de-escalation.

STAY CONNECTED! - our most important mission during the COVID-19 outbreak! In times of stress we need to turn to each other. George and Laurie talk about their own struggles and hope to offer comfort to their listeners...as well as some thoughts about how to grow after being battle-tested!

Plus, some a nudge for creative sex during quarantine!

Pursuers get exhausted. After trying everything... talking, begging,  holding back their needs, getting angry... sometimes they just give up.  When Pursuers become Withdrawers, the relationship is in trouble. Join sex therapist Dr. Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about dealing with burn out in a relationship.

Pursuers get exhausted. After trying everything... talking, begging,  holding back their needs, getting angry... sometimes they just give up.  When Pursuers become Withdrawers, the relationship is in trouble. Join sex therapist Dr. Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about dealing with burn out in a relationship.

Laurie and George demonstrate best ways to initiate a conversation to get your partner to open up about sex. And secondly, they talk about how to change the conversation with our kids and friends so we change the culture. George says he feels like he's been let into a secret society of women when Laurie reveals her girlfriend talk.

Do 2 withdrawers ever get together?  They do but when there is little conflict there is usually little sex.  Both people are so intent on being nice and not demanding, the difficult conversations that create intimacy just don't happen. They avoid the negative emotions and unfortunately shut out the intense emotions would make them feel securely connected. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about withdrawers in relationship.

Why would a withdrawer have an affair when their partner is begging them for more connection? How can a pursuer get over their shame to see their partner's pain?  George and Laurie use attachment theory to add understanding that helps answer the question... "why, did you do this?"

Affairs devastate the trust and connection in a committed relationship. Recovery and reconnection is possible. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as the talk through how to reconnect after an affair.

Nothing more sexy than talking about stress! How we perceive stress is how it impacts our body and which makes it inseparable from sex. Connection with another is the fastest way to relieve stress.  George leads us in a discussion about how to change distress into eustress by changing our mindset about seeing stress as a challenge and reaching out to a partner and fight problems together.  Drawing from his writing in Sacred Stress, George helps Laurie think about a couple who look at the same moment - an erotic moment in two different ways - one as eustress (highly exciting) and the other sees it as distress (highly anxiety-producing.) 

One of the big disappointments for some women is when their partners don't want to do cunnilingus with them and they do. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist and author George Faller as they discuss how to have great cunnilingus.

Masturbation is a topic few couples are comfortable talking about; yet it is something that we all do. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist and author George Faller as they talk about masturbation and how it plays into your relationship.

Most fantasies have the theme of someone being so into you. In our fantasy, our partner is showing high levels of engagement, high levels of passion and high levels of initiation. George and Laurie talk about how to tap into the energy of fantasy to bring new information, new ideas to the partnership. Try a fantastic lube at www.Uberlube.com/foreplay

Sexual trauma in childhood can wreak havoc on adult emotional and sexual relationships. While challenging, traumas of this gravity can be healed. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist and author George Faller as they discuss how you can heal childhood sexual trauma.

Trauma, PTSD, and other troubling experiences can invade and derail your relationship. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and marriage therapist George Faller as they respond to a listener's letter about her husband's PTSD and how it plagued their relationship.

Sexual problems are opportunities to actually get deeper with each other. Cohosts talk about a man with ED and how he feels alone, alienated from his own body for fear of failure as well as alienated from his partner thinking he will let her down.  George shares how withdrawers strengthen their muscle memory to go away when they don't share their "ouch" or what hurts, denying themselves the comfort that their partner might offer.  Laurie share how vulnerable sharing actually draws a partner in.

When our hearts are connected, we can lose ourselves sexually in one another. Great sex requires a bit of knowledge, a lot of vulnerability and a willingness to explore more than just genital pleasure. George and Laurie talk about exercises they give clients to get more in tune with each other by exploring touch and the skin of their lover.

Q&A for a woman, who's husband prefers porn and a man struggling with ED. George says, "When I think about porn, I don't come at it from a moralistic point of view. I think, does the porn serve a function to strengthen a couple's emotional bond, or does it create more distance?" Laurie and George discuss how the fear of rejection in a man with ED prevents him from sharing his vulnerability and receiving the comfort he deserves from his wife. Instead they both stay separated and dissatisfied. 

Men who feel sex as their primary path to connection are often  told "all they want is sex."  Indeed, sex is exciting and pleasurable to them but also the way they feel and want to express love and connection.  Listen to George Faller and Laurie Watson talk about how men feel about sex; why the couple needs their sexual motivation and what they can do to have more of it.

Women who feel sexually alive and use sex as a pathway for connection can feel out of place in a society that tells them - women don't/shouldn't want sex as much as men. Laurie and George discuss healthy women who are in touch with their bodies, their desire for their partners and long for physical intimacy. When rejected the relationship can be strained, she can feel crushed emotionally and she can question her very attractiveness. Co-hosts affirm her right to have her needs met.

Men can often be the sexual withdrawer in a relationship contrary to our modern stereotypes. The reasons for this are several. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about the male sexual withdrawer.

Sounds pretty discouraging if your partner says she'd be fine never having sex again. Laurie and George discuss how to get to the root of what she's saying. Using an acronym O P L E A S F helps us organize what has obscured her libido. 

Pursuers' frustrations -- what's it like when you want more and you can't get it? What's it like to work so hard and see your partner walking away from you? We know it feels unfair and want to help you see how you push that might be driving your partner away! Get vulnerable for your own sake. 

Learn why your withdrawing partner feels they are keeping you safer by shutting down. Understand what is good and useful about withdrawing behavior. Hear George walk Laurie through a better way to help her husband feel safe about opening up in a personal example.

Sex therapist and author Laurie Watson, together with expert, couples therapist and author George Faller delve into the world of the Emotional Distancer to help you resolve your relationship conflicts with smart moves.

Laurie tells George her own story of why she became a sex therapist. Hear about her moment of decision when she stopped the negative pursuing cycle and changed her marriage. Laurie shares her heartfelt commitment to be the generation to love and struggle to become securely attached in order to change the course of her family's legacy and how you too, can change your family's future.

Foreplay Fam - meet my new podcast cohost - George Faller, LMFT, a global leader in couples therapy, as he debuts and tells his story of trauma to transformation. After surviving 9/11 as a firefighter, George also a recent graduate in marriage therapy, became the designated couples therapist to bring healing to the firefighter couples.

The sad day is here when we say goodbye to Dr. Adam Mathews. Join Laurie and Adam as they share their fond memories of working together. Listen through to the end where are fabulous editor Joe added a compilation of outtakes and bloopers! You can even hear Madison our intern chiming in off mic.

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Money is one of the Big 3 -- along with Time and Energy. Negotiating the issues around money impacts a couple's capacity for intimacy. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the money issue.

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One weekend, three commitments, better sex. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how in one weekend with three commitments you can have a better sexual relationship.

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Acting out in an affair are often signs of problems with the person's life. A push / pull dynamic can fuel the infidelity. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the causes and how to recover from the pain of infidelity.

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We all fall into relational patterns in how we initiate sex and respond to initiation, how/when/where we have sex, how frequently, how freely we talk about sex, and so on.

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Dr. Laurie Mintz is the author of 'Becoming Clitorate'. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson as she and Dr. Mintz talk about Orgasmic Equality.

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Are you being used for sex? What is it like to be in a pursuer-pursuer relationship? And more! Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they handle your questions.

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Do men go through menopause? Listen in with sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about what happens to men as they age.

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A certain proportion of women will fake an orgasm to reassure their partner. Laurie says this is short-sighted! Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about why women fake orgasms and how to change.

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Forgiveness is essential for long lasting love and great sex. Unforgiveness robs a relationship of intimacy, both physical and emotional. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about how to forgive the big hurts and the little hurts that happen in a relationship.

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The focus of a honeymoon ought to be sex. Whether you are newly married or have been partnered for awhile, getting away for a few days strictly devoted to sex is a great boost to any couple. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share some tips for a great sex time away.

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We have special guest Erica Delong! She joins Laurie and talks about being a female sexual pursuer. Find out what it's like!

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To have sex or refrain from sex during a woman's period? Research shows that there are 4 different reactions women have about sex on their periods. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk through the issues about sex on periods.

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Talking regularly about the state of your sexual union is essential to achieving and maintaining a satisfying sexual relationship. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to accomplish a regular state of the union.

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Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they answer your questions! In this episode: Diagnosing problems with oral sex; and female sexual pursuers and male sexual pursuers.

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Why and how does the frequency of sex decrease in a marriage to the point where it rarely happens? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they dissect the genesis of a sexless marriage.

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Fourth of July fireworks in the sky are great, but what about fireworks in bed? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and Couples Therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the two important factors for great sex on the Fourth and any time: fantasy and seduction.

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What is it like growing up with a mother who is a sex therapist? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and her son, sex therapist Reed Watson as they talk about the unique experiences of growing up with a mother who is a sex therapist.

Our first sexual experience ought to be good. Even if your first sexual experience is in the rear-view mirror, understanding what would make it good through these 10 steps can help your sex life today. Also a great resource to share with someone heading toward their first sexual experience. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson as she shares how to make that first sexual experience good.

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Good communication leads to more intimacy which leads to more and better sex. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about communicating better so that you can do it better.

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Being connected with your partner is essential to communication and intimacy, but requires being able to take your partner's perspective. When we get stuck on 'our side of the bed' and have difficulty grasping what it is like from our partner's point of view, empathy becomes impossible. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to check out 'the other side of the bed'.

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Learning to argue is essential for intimacy and therefore great sex in a relationship, but is often avoided by couples at all costs. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about how to have healthy arguments.

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We live our lives on overload: work commitments, family commitments, making dinner, chores, the necessities of everyday life can crowd out sex by making us too tired. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples' therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about ways to deal with the burden and make room for sex.

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The May 2019 Mailbag episode is here! Sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews take your questions and give you great advice. In today's episode, Laurie and Adam answer questions on what to do after an emotional affair, how to break the ice and have sex for two anxious people, and what does it mean to be 'safe', and others!

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Unhealthy power dynamics in relationships can hamper connection. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the pursuer-distancer dance through the lens of power.

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For National Infertility Awareness Week, Foreplay's sex therapist and author Laurie Watson discusses the impact of infertility, both permanent and episodic, on a couple's sexual relationship.

Sometimes in committed relationship sex becomes unbalanced and the mutuality of the experience goes out the window. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about how to achieve a mutually satisfying relationship.

Beware of these 8 sex mistakes! Every couple can fall into these bedroom traps. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples' therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they identify the big mistakes that destroy great sex!

Men are often viewed as mostly manly when they are least emotional. This dichotomy is confusing to men and leads them to most often shut down their emotions. Their partners are often starved for the emotional side of their men. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the secret emotional life of men.

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In a committed relationship, challenges of all sorts impact both parties. Resilience is the power and capacity to use these struggles to draw closer together and makes our relationship stronger. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explain sexual resilience.

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Women sexual pursuers are more common than our culture assumes. A woman who wants sex is sometimes viewed as a slut or whore, and is subject to negative feedback. What women sexual pursuers have in common is a solid erotic core. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss developing an erotic core.

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What goes on during menopause? What exactly is changing? What can be done to mitigate the changes from menopause? Join sex therapist and best-selling author Laurie Watson and couples’ therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they take a deep dive into the issues around menopause.

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Listener questions answered! The problems with quick orgasms; pursuer shutdown frustrations, and listening to actions versus listening to words. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they respond to listener questions.

Different sex positions have different pluses and minuses in different situations. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss different positions for sex and where they each shine!

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We bring our expectations along with us into any situation. Particularly with our partner, we have a host of expectations that we want our partner to fulfill. A couple can run into problems if their expectations are not discussed, negotiated, and clarified. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about expectations in our relationships.

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Are you sleeping with a narcissist? What is a narcissist in any case? The term is floated around casually and often unhelpfully. Join sex-therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about narcissism in a sexual relationship.

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Get geared up for a great, romantic Valentine's Day! Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss ways to make Valentine's Day romantic and overcome the Valentine's Day curse!

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The key to a great relationship, the hottest sex, the most money, the best connection, comes from secure attachment. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about how to become more securely attached.

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Following on last week's podcast on cunnilingus, this week we talk about fellatio for the fellows! Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews talk about fellatio!

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For the majority of women, oral sex is the best way to climax. Often however it gets caught up in the power struggle of the pursuer and distancer. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews get to the specifics of oral sex for her.

Gain orgasmic security with the Great American Vibrator! Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk all things buzzing.

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Fantasy can play an important part in a committed relationship. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson in a seminar discuss fantasy and common obstacles to satisfying sex.

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Set relationship goals that cannot fail! 97% of new years resolutions fail. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss making great relationship goals for 2019.

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Fantasy can play an important part in a committed relationship. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson in a seminar discuss fantasy and common obstacles to satisfying sex.

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Self-consciousness about sex and talking about sex can get in the way of our intimacy and enjoyment of sex. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about reducing self-consciousness, dealing with intrusive thoughts, and date night sex.

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The holidays can be stressful for many reasons. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they go through the list of naughty and nice ideas for the holiday.

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Having kids can radically change sex for couples and can complicate our sex lives for a number of reasons. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they work through the issues around sex after kids.

Next to relational distress, a negative body image is the biggest disruptor for derailing sex and desire. While this has traditionally been a woman's struggle, increasingly it is also an isue for men. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about body image issues.

Criticism can be destructive to our relationships. In the fourth and final of Gottman's 'Four Horseman' series, Laurie and Adam address this destructive behavior and distinguish it for communicating complaints in your relationship.

Anxiety can interfere with sexual satisfaction. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to deal with sex and anxiety.

Dr. Adam and Laurie are back at it again answering your listener questions! In today's episode they cover topics on getting your needs met, trusting your partner, a listener's boyfriend struggling with the death of a beloved pet and more! 

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Continuing Gottman's Four Horseman series, Dr. Adam and Laurie dive deep into defensive behavior. Tune in to learn how to spot defensiveness within yourself and your partner. In this episode they offer advice on what to do with this common yet powerful emotion. 

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Sexual problems and the quest for getting pregnant plague more couples than you'd think. The stress of conceiving can often prolong the process. Laurie and Dr. Adam talk infertility, conception and remaining calm with a common goal of pregnancy in mind. 

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Dr. Adam and Laurie discuss the complicated relationship between sex and depression in both men and women. They discuss symptoms and how to stay connected when your relationship is impacted by this all too common mental health issue. 

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Laurie and Dr. Adam answer listener questions about sexual confidence, bringing a third person into a marriage, a porn addicted father and more!

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How to say yes to sex! Just because you or your partner is a sexual distancer may not mean you don't want to have sex. Some distancers have difficultly saying yes in the moment. Dr.Adam and Laurie explore how to get over the ''let's go for it'' hurdle. 

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What to do when your partner shuts down. In the second of Gottman's 'Four Horseman' series, Dr. Adam and Laurie address this destructive behavior and how to get through the seemingly unbreakable barriers of a silent a partner. 

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How to bring back the fun and romance into your relationship with these 10 easy tips. Listen in on Laurie’s controversial advice on becoming the "most romantic man in the universe"! Follow us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst

What is the number one most important trait in a good partner? Tune in to find out! In this episode Laurie and Dr. Adam explore the importance of sexual attraction vs emotional attraction. They also reveal red flags to look out for before you fully commit. 

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Porn use can bring out strong reactions on both sides: Some view it as a minor impact on a marriage while others feel it is equivalent to cheating. Dr. Adam and Laurie explore porn’s impact on the sexual partnership and the place of fantasy within a monogamous marriage.

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Contempt, one of the most dangerous emotions in a relationship. This episode covers the markers of contemptuous behavior and why it's so destructive to a marriage. Laurie and Dr. Adam offer advice on recognizing this powerful emotion and how to bring the humanity back into your relationship.

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Adam is back in part two of our two-part series on resolving the demand-withdraw sexual cycle. Why does sex feel so much riskier to the distancer than the pursuer? Laurie and Adam give tips on how distancers can better communicate their needs and how both partners can provide clarity and security in this all too common relationship dance.

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What in the world are they thinking? Today's episode is the first of a two-part series about resolving the demand-withdraw sex cycle between partners. Laurie addresses the expectations of the "sexual pursuer" and how to relieve the negative thought patterns that damage your marriage.

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We've got a special treat today! Seth and Melanie, from the Anatomy of Marriage podcast, share how they emerged from crisis in their marriage by developing tools for better communication, shedding shame and understanding their family of origins. Tune in, you don't want to miss this in-depth discussion.

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Guys need self-care too! Men tend to run on low batteries without knowing handy ways of taking care of their bodies and minds. Dr. Adam and Laurie deliver practical tips on how to be present with yourself and in your relationship as a man or a woman.

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How to share your true-self with your partner. Laurie and Dr. Adam dive deep into what vulnerability really means for men (and women too). 

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The easiest sexual problem to cure is often the most difficult to talk about. Dr. Adam and Laurie tackle the confusion and embarrassment associated with premature ejaculation. They offer help on addressing it with your partner and techniques for improving staying power. 

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Laurie and Dr. Adam answer listener questions! A fiancé suddenly experiences attraction troubles, mental health, switching distancer and pursuer roles, and a question from a young woman about the screaming pleasure she sees in the movies. Don't miss this episode!

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Believe it or not sex isn't everything! A well-rounded relationship includes other aspects like shared aspirations, friendship and intimacy. Can you have a great relationship without good sex? Can you have great sex without a good relationship? Tune in to find out. 

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How do friendships impact romantic relationships? Dr. Adam and Laurie discuss keeping your individuality while maintaining a strong bond with your spouse. How to talk about friendship boundaries, the positives of a strong community and how trouble in your friends' relationships can affect your own! 

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Today's episode is all about nakedness. Why we grow to be self-conscious, positive self-talk and how getting naked in front of your partner builds intimacy and attachment. Shed the shame, shed the clothes! 

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Recognizing symptoms of depression and hopelessness in your loved one. 

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Today Dr. Adam and Laurie answer your burning listener questions. They cover everything from separate bedrooms to sexting to smoking pot and low libido! Tune in to get answers to the questions you've always wanted to ask. Have a question of your own? Email us at info@foreplayrst.com.

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The effects of alcohol on sexual performance and satisfaction are complicated. Dr. Adam and Laurie debate the pros and cons of this widely used social lubricant in your sex life. 

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Just because he orgasms doesn’t mean sex is over! To know when sex ends first we have to know what sex actually is. Join us as Laurie and Dr. Adam cover the sex cycle and how ending it right can improve your overall sense of satisfaction and desire.

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Don't miss these common dos and don'ts! Covering everything from phone etiquette to laughing at your loved one's short comings, Laurie and Dr. Adam give great tips on definitely what NOT to do between the sheets.

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Dr. Adam and Laurie delve into the dirty details of how splitting your household tasks can impact your sex life. 

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Even a five to ten year age difference can have a meaningful impact on communication, health and sexpectations.  Dr. Adam and Laurie tackle blending families and other issues that can arise when marrying someone older or younger than yourself. Love us? Support us on Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/foreplayrst

How to end the comparison game. Laurie and Dr. Adam discuss positive self-talk and tools for forgetting that critical voice, in and out of the bedroom.

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What goes on in the sex therapist's office? This week Laurie and Dr. Adam dispel popular myths around their practices and discuss who can benefit from talking to a trained professional.

Setting good boundaries with your partner shouldn't feel like a power struggle. Sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples counselor Dr. Adam Mathews discuss safeguarding your relationship and what to do if those boundaries get crossed.  

Struggling with sexual problems in your 20s? You're not alone! In today's mailbag episode Dr. Adam and Laurie discuss common reasons for trouble in the bedroom, even for couples who are just getting started.

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Sexual addiction or sexually compulsive behaviors involve using increasingly risky sexual actions to fill an inner emptiness. What is sexual addiction; what it is not. Healing the rift with EFT therapy.

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How you handle the non-sexual behaviors we share with our partner in bed – both positive and negative – can draw us together or drive us apart. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about stealing the covers and snoring.

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Affair discovery! To-do's and not to-do’s in the first few moments after discovering your partner is having an affair. While sexual betrayal strikes at the very heart of commitment, marriages and partnerships can often emerge stronger after an affair. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples' therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk through the steps to take if you find your partner has been having an affair.

Having high standards and being driven to meet them can produce good results in life. But in your sexual relationship, being a perfectionist can be a problem. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to deal with sexual perfectionism in yourself and your partner.

Handling a rejection when we want to be intimate can sting. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk through how to handle sexual rejection.

Erectile Dysfunction has many potential causes and ways of treatment. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk with urologist Dr. Ryan Terlecki about the various ways of treatment of ED.

Sexiest day of the year! Don't think you can write this day off as a greeting card holiday. Why sex is essential on Valentine's Day. Learn what Laurie and Adam are doing with their spouses to celebrate!

Men can have low libido and low sexual frequency for a number of reasons.Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Adam Mathews as they discuss the various causes of male sexual desire disorder and what to do about it.

The challenges that a divorced person faces when they begin to date again are real and painful. Even more complications come when you start a sexual relationship after divorce. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the whens, hows, and whys of dating and sex after divorce.

Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson as she gets down to the fine details of women's arousal patterns in this solo episode of Foreplay!

What to do if you are a sexual pursuer and you feel constantly rejected and even the sex you have feels perfunctory? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the changes to make if you fall into the Pursuer Pitfalls.

The path to a long-term successful relationship requires putting your relationship above your individual interests, which runs counter to where we always start and where our culture starts, which is 'me first.' Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to win the relationship game and how to avoid 'starfish sex.'

New Years is commonly time for resolutions. But often those resolutions aren't about our primary relationships. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share their own goals for 2018 and how to formulate effective relational goals.

Each of us has unreal expectations and fantasies about our partner and our relationship. When we are realistic about our sex lives, we can let go of, and decide to grieve, the losses of our idealizations of our partner and our sex lives. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about what and how to grieve.

Black and white thinking is something that we can often fall into with our partner; doing so seems like it simplifies the world. But rigid black and white splitting is unrealistic and damaging. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how black and white thinking impacts your relationship and your sex life.

While we don’t often think of it in terms of our sex life, we leave our children a sexual intimacy legacy. Becoming more intentional about how we embody our sexual relationship directly and indirectly impacts our children. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about leaving a vibrant relational and sexual intimacy to the next generation.

The strong, silent type is the culturally-valued view of classic manhood. Join nationally acclaimed author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about this classic archetype of manhood.

Note to our listeners: We have solved the sound problems that have plagued our recording sessions over the past 8 episodes. Since we record once a month for 3 to 5 episodes, it took us some testing and switching out equipment to figure out the problem. We have solved the issue(s) that were plaguing our system. This is the final poor-quality episode. Clear sailing from here out.

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Just as in feasts like Thanksgiving, where we take our ordinary day-to-day activities and raise them to a new level, our sexual lives benefit greatly from quarterly sexual feasts – times together where our sexual times together get to a new level. Join national author and popular sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the benefits and how-to’s of having a sexual feast.

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Many things can make sex goes wrong; some have easy fixes. Join acclaimed author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist as Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the things that can wrong and what to do about it.

Reaching orgasm is only the beginning. Optimal sex involves deeper connection and leads to more satisfying sex and even better orgasms. Join sex therapist and acclaimed author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about how to get the most meaningful sex and the best orgasms.

#metoo - Laurie and Adam discuss their professional and personal experience with abuse and harrassment. In a serious conversation, they raise futher awareness about the stats and real situations of harassment and assault women face and why it matters.

Husband’s positive behavior toward partner increases frequency of sex – but don’t wait too long to be positive guys. Even if you don’t feel like being positive, being positive is the route to more sex. What is positive behaviors? “Saying I love you” • “Making partner life” • “Engaging in physical intimacy outside of sex” • “Appreciative expressions” and more. Tune in to sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share what works in increasing sex frequency.

The expectations in relationship and in our culture for what it means to be a man often comes down to a big erection that works every time. The prevalence of porn has communicated unrealistic ideas about sex and sexuality. Join sex therapist and popular author Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the complexity of male sexuality.

A thriving, vibrant sexual relationship develops best in our relationship when we feel safe and secure and when we help our partner feel safe and secure. Join sex therapist and popular author Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about how to move to a more secure relationship.

Do you want long-term great sex? We have your growth plan and challenges mapped out. Join sex therapist and popular author and blogger Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share how to have great sex for a lifetime. Laurie's blogs can be found on WebMD and Psychology Today where Laurie's blogs are frequently rated the most popular. Laurie's counseling center can be found at AwakenLoveandSex.com and Adam can be reached at mathewscounseling.net.

Sexual pursuers can sabotage themselves through their own thinking about sex in the midst of the experience. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson as she talks about how sexual pursuers can manage their desire for great sex.

Today's Mailbag Topics: Living in an intimate relationship includes sharing spaces and being exposed to our partner in ways that may not be appealing; and how to sync up the best times for sex. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they take questions from listeners. If you have a question for a mailbag episode, email us at info@foreplayrst.com. We are also set up now to take live callers. If you want to do a live mailbag episode, send us an email and we will arrange a time to have you call in!

Mid-life crises are often caricatured, but often in our 50’s there is a real change in sex – declining abilities and physical attraction. These changes can be disruptive to our relationship unless handled well. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples’ therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to successfully handle mid-life crises with tips that work even if you are young!

Couples in committed relationships fall into certain traps and mistakes. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples' therapist, Dr. Adam Mathews, as they cover the second five of 10 Mistakes Couples Make about Sex.

Couples in committed relationships fall into certain traps and mistakes. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples' therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they cover the first five of 10 Mistakes Couples Make about Sex.

Relationships have three broad areas of relating: the mundane details that must be done in live, sexual intimacy, and being friends -- liking our partner, enjoying their company, sharing the details of our inner worlds. The best relationships manage to have all three work; imbalance among them leads to problems. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about balancing these three essential arenas of relationship.

Involuntary celibacy (going more than 6 months without intercourse) within a committed relationship occurs more frequently than you would imagine. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the reasons behind involuntary celibacy and what couples can do to address (and avoid) it.

After the wedding day, it is often easy for each partner to take their partner for granted. Men need to continue to pursue their partners. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk to caller Joe from Raleigh about men pursuing their partners.

Weight, sex, and marriage – Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they wade into the sensitive and dicey topic of weight gain in marriage and how it can impact a couple’s sexual relationship.

Pleasure can often be hard to arrive at with our performance-oriented, accomplishment seeking culture. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about what keeps us from pleasure and how to encourage pleasure with your partner.

Fighting in relationship is unavoidable with two people with natural differences. Often because our wants and needs are involved, our fights in committed relationships can escalate emotionally. How to fight fairly and how to end a fight are equally important. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss how to end a fight.

Stress impacts sexual desire for both men and women. For women, stress can lower desire; for men, it can either lower or increase desire. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss stress and sex. 

Both short-term and long-term medical challenges/disabilities can impact a committed relationship. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss how to handle these difficult situations.

Some couples are faced at times with relating over a long-distance, whether due to business travel, being in the military, school, etc. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Laurie Watson talk through how to survive long-distant relationships both sexually and emotionally in a committed relationship.

From adolescence onward, culturally we are expected to be sexually confident, often with no space for a learning curve. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews talk about developing sexual self-confidence.

Trust is a foundational element in a relationship. In our sexual relationship, part of trust is worshiping our partner with our bodies. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore building trust and how it is broken in relationship.

Can jealousy be healthy? If so, how? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how jealousy can be healthy and be helpful to a committed relationship.

Getting comfortable talking about sex and what you want in bed is directly correlated to satisfaction in committed relationships. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they help you get comfortable talking about sex. From a talk given by Laurie and Adam at the North Carolina Marriage and Family Therapist annual conference.

In our busy lives, sometimes sex is bumped down the priority list by work, children, or other responsibilities. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the necessity of scheduling time for sex.

When we are critical and hard on ourselves, intimacy is more difficult. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to forgive yourself.

What to do if your partner has been sexually traumatized in their past? From big traumas of date rape, sexual assault, or groped to serial sexism or shaming messages about sex. Each trauma has an individual impact. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to relate to a lover who has had trauma.

The ideal in a sexual relationship includes room for each partner to be ruthless in pursuing their own satisfaction. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the benefits of a ruthless pursuit of sexual satisfaction.

Now it is the women's turn! In this episode, author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews take up what women really think about sex. Compared to men whose body's testosterone drives sexual desire, for most women, it is their mind and imagination that is the source of their sex drive.

What do men really think about sex? Move beyond the stereotypes and join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about what men really think about sex.

In a response to a reader email, author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews take a deep dive into issues that arize for couples after childbirth.

Author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews presented a seminar on sex therapy to attendees at the North Carolina Association of Marriage and Family Therapists on March 30, 2017. Here are exceprts from the Question & Answer period.

Often our religious and family environments in childhood carry forward into our adult sex lives. Even when we believe and want to be free in bed, often those early messages get in the way of our sexual fulfillment. In this mailbag episode, join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the impact of these early messages and how to overcome them.

Everyone has questions about what is normal in life, but particularly in our sex lives. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about specific questions of what is normal in sex.

Sexual lulls happen in every committed relationship -- periods of little or no sex. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Adam Mathews as they discuss why sexual lulls happen and how to get out of them.

Emotional connection is not the same as being highly emotional. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews and learn the five ways to build emotional connection with your partner.

Our communication with our lovers (and others) can be broken down into discrete bids for attention and interactions. In thsi episode of Foreplay, sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the role these bids play in seducation and sex.

Part 2 of the Keynote Speech author and sex therapist Laurie Watson gave to the Forsyth (NC) Medical Society "How to Keep Your Love Alive. September 1, 2016.

Keynote Speech author and sex therapist Laurie Watson gave to the Forsyth (NC) Medical Society "How to Keep Your Love Alive. September 1, 2016.

Every couple struggles in ways that are common -- The Power Struggle. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they dive into the whys and hows of the Power Struggle.

Do women want anal sex? Do they orgasm with anal sex? Do men find it more exciting than vaginal sex? Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews take on this trendy subject with honest answers to your questions.

Couples who have consistent, frequent sex have certain characteristics in common. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss these specific characteristics.

While it is important to be honest in our committed relationships, tact goes a long way to making takling about the sensitive areas surrounding sex. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the seven things not to say to your lover around sex. 

Balancing the demands of work with family and your partner can be difficult. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share strategies for keeping your relationship hot with the demands of work and home.

Sex follows a specific pattern from initiation to resolution. Understanding these stages helps to 'know where you are'. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Adam Mathews as they lead you through the stages of sex.

Through the three trimesters of pregnancy, a woman's body changes in different ways, but that doesn't mean that sex can't be good. Join author and certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the changes in a woman's body at the different stages of pregnancy and how to keep sex alive and hot during pregnancy.

It's a new year and it is time for new year's resolutions -- including for sex! What sexolutions are you setting for 2017? Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the benefits and how-to's of sexolutions for 2017.

The painful impact of infidelity in a relationship can be overcome with hard work and direct communication. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk through the process of recovering from infidelity.

Straightforward 'how-to' guide to using the time at the holidays to 'sex up' your relationship. Listen as author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Adam Mathews as they talk about sexy gifts and how to further your relationship during the hurly-burly of the holidays.

Sex is often snagged in the relational problems of attachment -- the pull between closeness and autonomy. To improve sex, understanding this relational tension is essential. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore how pursuers and distancers come together in sex.

The foundation for a healthy sex life comes from our ability to be attached to others. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explain this important foundation for your sex life.

Unspoken and explicit rules for sex: when, where, and how sex can happen with your partner can limit our sexual expression. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and pyschotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss bringing these rules into a conversation with our partner.

Often seduction seems to fade after the initial courtship in a committed relationship. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the four questions to discuss with your partner to bring seduction back to a relationship and keep it hot!

Conflict drives true intimacy! Too many couples want to eliminate conflict in their relationship; but to be intimate requires healthy conflict. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss how to build a backlog of good sex and emotional connectedness that will allow conflicts to help build rather than destroy your relationship.

Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they answer and discuss letters and questions that you the listeners have sent in.

• What if you aren’t currently in a relationship? How do you keep your sexual self alive?

• How can you have a satisfying sexual relationship when one of the people in the couple struggles with chronic pain?

What to do if one partner travels? How to manage the separation and make your time together a time for reconnection and building your relationship. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews share ideas for managing the stress of travel.

Make Up Sex. The best way to end an argument! Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the reasons behind the best sex after a conflict.

Halloween and sex! What the emphasis on sexuality in women's Halloween costumes reveals about how our current culture views a woman's sexuality. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and her co-host Dr. Adam Mathews hold the mirror of Halloween to discuss the impact of culture on sexuality.

What can we do when we feel inadequate in bed or fear that we're not doing it right. How to manage the expectations we all have in bed. Join certified sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and her co-host pyschotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews in exploring this sensitive topic.

Breast cancer survivors suffer additional sexual side effects in addition to the gross impact to her physical breasts. From the point of diagnosis onward, breast cancer has a big impact on a women's sexual life. Join popular author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the huge impact of breast cancer on a woman's sexual relationship. Even if you aren't impacted directly by breast cancer, many of the points Laurie and Adam make can benefit anyone's sex life. 

Masturbation is often a charged topic with many individuals and couples. The messages we receive about masturbation can influence our current sexual relationships. Join popular author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss maturbation through adolescence and into adulthood, as well as it's impact on coupled sex.

Time to turn the tables. This week we take on the men, with 5 common mistakes that men make in bed. Join popular author and certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share these pitfalls to avoid.

In this solo episode, author and sex therapist Laurie Watson talks about five of the common mistakes women make in bed, including focusing on body flaws and initiating too subtly.

Men and women approach sex often with different views of what is 'ideal'. Men are geared to the immediate, athletic style; women to more sensual and romantic. Balancing these differences can make our sexual relationship dynamic and hot!

Join popular author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psycotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews talk about sex from the male viewpoint.

The popular conception is that a larger penis results in better sex. Join author and certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and her co-host psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the real world impact of penis size on sexual satisfaction.

Is the G-Spot real? Does every woman have one? Where is it? How to stimulate it? Join certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the elusive G-Spot and how to discover it, and employ it in your sex life.

Contrary to our cultural assumptions, men can be inhibited sexually just as easily as women.  Join certified sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the underlying reasons and cures for sexual inhibition in men.

Afraid you've lost attraction to your partner? Certified Sex Therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Matthews explain why attraction can lessen in long-term relationships. Learn practical and psychological ways to feel desire again for your partner or spouse.

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Find out the reasons behind Erectile Dysfunction and ways to cope with this syndrome to maintain a satisfying sexual relationship.

Find out some great ideas for sexy getaways from certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and Dr. Adam Matthews.

With laptops and smartphones, technology can seem like a third partner in a relationship. Listen to Laurie and Adam suggest ways to deal with this intrusive partner.

After a sexual trauma, whether recent or not, a satisfying sexual relationship can be difficult to recover for a women. Listen to Certified Sex Therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Adam Matthews discuss this sensitive topic. Dealing with the shame and pain of a past violation needs to be talked through and healed.

Cunnilingus is an essential part of pleasing your woman. Listen in to a frank, helpful discussion of this essential part of love and sex.

With wedding season upon us, Laurie and Adam turn to discussing honeymoons and the relational changes that occur -- even for long-term couples.

Faith and sexuality are not mutually exclusive, but can support and enhance each other. Often however in many faith practices, even knowledge about sex is ignored or suppressed, which can lead to problems once sex is allowed and expected in marriage. Listen to Laurie Watson and Dr. Adam Mathews discuss this delicate subject.

Discrepancies in desire are a stress on a relationship, and are common at different times in a relationship. Listen to sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and Adam Matthews provide helpful insight and tips for dealing with desire discrepancies in this first Mailbag episode where we respond to your questions. If you have a question, visit us at www.foreplayrst.com.

Following up on last week's episode on talking to your younger children about sex, join Foreplay as we discuss talking to your teenagers about sex. Learn how to not only talk to them, but have them talk to you!

Talking to your kids about sex may be the most dreaded conversation for many parents. Some parents may never have a frank discussion with their children on the topic of sex.  Learn what to say and when to say it; give your children a great start to a future healthy sexual relationship.

A woman who is betrayed in a relationship can feel inadequate and insecure. Laurie and Adam use the lyrics of Lemonade by Beyoncé to explore the feelings that follow an affair.

Recovery from an Affair – The delicate process of recovering from an affair; what works best for restoring the relationship.

Pornography – The wide-ranging impact of pornography: what it is and how it impacts couples, including difficulties in arousal, attraction, and relationship.

Fantasies can play an essential role in keeping a sexual relationship vibrant. Men and women's fantasies differ and understanding the differences can heighten the couple's experience together.

Foreplay -- What's it all about? Why is foreplay essential for the sex life you want to have.  Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson discuss the whole point of the podcast Foreplay.

Variety and creativity in sex can both make our sexual relationship sizzling, but it can also be a source of tension.  Join Laurie Watson, author of "Wanting Sex Again" and her co-host discuss variety!

What is an affair? It can be broader than sex-outside-the-relationship. Different people have different definitions, which leads to tension within the relationship. Who can we be for our partner? Join Laurie and Tony as they discuss the difficulties of affairs.

Talking is one of the most underrated parts of Foreplay... and it can begin in the morning and last all day long. Join Laurie Watson and her co-host Tony Delmedico for this important, and overlooked, way to improve your sex life.

Premature Ejacualtion -- the number 1 sexual dysfunction for men is easily cured. Author Michael Castleman joins Laurie and gives vital information about the steps to cure PE.

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Kissing often falls off in a long-term relationship. As the eyes are the window to the soul, kissing is the window to the heart.  Join the conversation with Laurie and Tony!

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The frequency of sex in a relationship can change suddenly -- whether on the honeymoon, when partners decide to live together, or at other points when life crowds in and crowds out sex. Join Laurie and Tony as they discuss why this happens and what can be done about it.  Email the questions you want Laurie and Tony to address to info@foreplayrst.com. Visit us on the web at www.foreplayrst.com.

Erectile dysfunction in men 45 and older in a partnered relationship is a problem with solutions. Listen to Laurie and Tony distinguish physiological ED and partnered ED and offer approaches to solve this problem in this podcast spurred by a question from a listener. If you want Laurie and Tony to address a question you are concerned about, email info@foreplayrst.com.

Her low libido: sources & cures. What to do when she is happy without sex.

The erogenous zones and beyond. Talking about how to get your lover hot!

Having your desire synced with your partner's may sound ideal, but rare in practice. Find out how to get back in the game when you are not in the mood.

Raising young children can dampen sexual desire and frequency.  Find out how to keep it hot when you have tots.

Men describe the frustration of disappearing oral sex in a committed relationship. Find out how to restore this essential part of foreplay.

Is Valentine's Day a holiday just for her? Or does this big day have mutual obligations?

A woman's orgasm is essential to her sexual desire. Find out how to get her there.