270: 4 Female Inhibitions in Bed – How to Overcome Them
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What are some of the common sexual "blocks" that women experience? Reservations around the idea of sex can come from a number of things – religious values, guilt and shame, body image and acceptance, or society's perception of female sexuality. These inhibitions can shut down the erotic mind completely... How can females overcome these hindrances and develop a healthier relationship to sex? Listen to this week's episode as Laurie & George answer questions from fans!
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Feb 19, 2021 |
269: 5 Ways for Men to Get Their Mojo Back
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Pursuers become burned out after being turned down time and time again... This rejection causes them to lose their confidence and be more cautious. How can men get back their sexy confidence and energy that women crave?! Great sex NEEDS communication! Pursuers have to change their relationship to getting feedback- welcoming it instead of perceiving it as criticism and pushing back. Men need to champion themselves internally with affirmations- talk yourself up, you handsome devil! Take charge like a 21st century pirate- with communication and strong energy! Borrow some mojo from other roles in your life where you do feel confident and in your element! Fantasize about a different, more confident you...Rocky in the bedroom! The pirate, the caveman! Listen to Laurie and George talk about the ways that men can get their mojo back after being shot down...
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Feb 12, 2021 |
268: Sex on the Table: How to Respond to a Pursuer's Request
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When sexual pursuers make attempts to initiate sex, they are coming from a good place-- but their method of delivery may not be the best. When their attempts are not reciprocated by the withdrawer, they can feel rejection, hurt, and anger. This is a major dilemma. Pursuers can come across as being critical of their partner if they don’t approach it in the right way. A soft or playful approach is best, and being vulnerable is key for both partners! If the pursuer is brave enough to initiate the conversations, withdrawers need to respond better by matching their partner’s mood. But withdrawers also need affirmation in these conversations - How can sexual pursuers represent themselves and express their sexual needs without pressuring their partner? How can withdrawers listen to their partner and express their own feelings? Listen as George and Laurie keep going back to the drawing board in a roleplay.
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Feb 05, 2021 |
267: The Gleam in Their Eye Makes Us Hot
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In early dating years our partner’s face lights up at the thought of sex, they tell us with their eyes that we make them hot. The gleam in their eyes hits our body, hits our center, hits our being. Feeling that we light up their world is a turn-on! Secure attachment begins with the loving gaze of our mother or parent – cradled in the crook of their elbow – they smile and coo because we are theirs. Later in childhood we know we belong and make our parents proud when we see it in their eyes… not so much for our accomplishments but because we are their son or daughter. In romantic partnership, sexual desire that radiates from our partner’s face and gaze is a powerful reminder of belonging, safety. We revel in being the person who excites our partner. What happens though when our partner is willing to have sex but doesn’t give us that deep reassurance that we are desirable with a gleam in their eye? Can we get it back? How do we tell them what we need from them to turn on? Listen as George and Laurie get through to each other about how sexual desire is tied to being the gleam in our partner’s eyes.
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Jan 29, 2021 |
266: Anxiety is a Sex Killer - Gain Confidence with Playfulness
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Have you lost your confidence in bed? Anxiety is a sex killer. Whether it’s anxiety over your performance, being vulnerable, being naked, expectations of yourself, or of what sex is supposed to be like… any of these might interfere with pleasure, communication, self-esteem, and connection. This week, EFTers, Trainer Dr. Zoya Simakhodskaya, Ph.D. and Supervisor Michael Moran, LCSW, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, CST join George and Laurie to talk about how playfulness is the antidote to anxiety when making love! Join us, as four sex therapists&couples counselors share how to start with a light, playful mood to shift the energy. Breathe and be powerful in overcoming any root of anxiety in bed. Can’t beat the fun or experience present in this episode as these two experts teach and tell their stories about helping couples change their sexperience from fear to confidence.
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Jan 22, 2021 |
265: Do You Have Sex on Her Period?
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How do you feel about having sex during your/her period? There can be a negative connotation to intercourse during a woman's menstrual cycle that goes way back in history. This interpretation of a woman being "unclean" when menstruating is outdated- it's a natural, healthy, and beautiful thing! Even the word "period" makes most men uncomfortable and a topic they tend to avoid. At the same time, women are often taught to not talk about their cycle and are worried about the shame aspect... This is an important conversation to have...often men and women both have some resistance to having sex during her period. But, sex is always messy! We talk a lot about cycles, the pursuer/withdrawer, but how do couples see the menstrual cycle as their cycle? Not her cycle? How can it be something that they they do together and use this cycle to unite? They want to be there for each other when the other is down and not feeling so great... So wouldn't this also be a fantastic opportunity for vulnerability for couples? This is also a great time for non-sexual touching! Hormonal changes during this cycle can make you more sensitive and feel crappy...so maybe she needs more nurturing, comforting, or cuddling during this time! Is this a conversation you've had with your partner?
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Jan 15, 2021 |
264: Premature Ejaculation - How to Last Longer
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Premature ejaculation is very common, but also very treatable. It can be caused by a number of things such as performance anxiety, biological factors, early experiences with sexuality, or relationship issues. Sometimes it is related to the way that boys learned to masturbate "quickly" in their teenage years. Both men and women tend to have control over masturbating, but the body can be triggered too early with excitement or fear during intercourse. Things like pornography set up unrealistic expectations for sex and how long it lasts. When in reality, the average intercourse is about 8 minutes! Premature ejaculation averages about 1 minute. This can create certain expectations that men have for themselves which results in pressure and anxiety. This anxiety is often the reason for early climax. With sex, there can too much focus on orgasm, and not enough on intimacy! Being present and focusing on a deeper connection can help. In this week's episode, we'll talk about ways to overcome this problem!
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Jan 08, 2021 |
263: Sizzling Resolutions
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Jump into 2021 with a sense of direction for your relationship! Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about setting intentional relationship goals in 2021.
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Jan 01, 2021 |
262: Making the Most of the Holidays
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The point of the holidays is to share love and connection! It's also a great time to spur meaningful conversations! Set aside time to ask each other questions like: What’s your earliest Christmas memory? What is your favorite part of Christmas? What was your favorite gift? What was your worst Christmas and why? What was your best Christmas and why? The simplest of questions can lead to a deeper conversation. Sharing memories and stories can be a great tradition to start! What are some of your favorite holiday traditions?
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Dec 24, 2020 |
261: The 5 Love Languages of Christmas
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The holidays are busy for everyone! But you can't forget to make time for your partner... Let's talk about the 5 love languages and ways to express your love during the holiday season. Gary Chapman's five love languages describe how we receive and give love: -Acts of Service -Receiving Gifts -Quality Time -Words of Affirmation -Physical/Sexual Touch Do you know your love language? What about your partner's? We all want to feel loved and appreciated, but in different ways. We may be more responsive to certain love languages than others. But, we need all five! If you put them all together, it gives room for major growth in your relationship. Little reminders can go a long way- simple things like helping wrap presents, taking over chores, sitting by the fire together and watching a romantic movie, telling your partner how much you appreciate them, mistletoe kisses or a massage! Listen to hear our suggestions on how to speak your partner's love language during the holidays.
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Dec 18, 2020 |
260: The Madonna/Whore Split
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Originally identified by Freud, the “madonna/whore complex” is the inability to maintain sexual arousal in committed, long-term relationships. It is the split between the softhearted and sexual currents in male desire. Freud wrote “where such men love they have no desire, and where they desire they cannot love.” Men want to keep the two separate- they desire a sexual partner who is sexy and promiscuous, while they cannot sexually desire the respected partner. Women in particular split themselves- whether it’s the all-giving, loving mother madonna or the fun, sexy party girl. It can be hard to merge the two! The difficulty when you're in a committed monogamous relationship, is this how do we let both parts of ourselves out? And how do we see both parts in our partner. The same applies to women and their conflicting desire for the “caveman/co-partner!” Don’t settle for either/or! How can you have both? Sometimes this requires re-eroticizing your partner, taking risks, and rekindling the lustful side of yourselves. What Freud was missing was...you need secure attachment to make it work! In order to bridge the divide of how to feel safe while also bringing out that lustful side, you need clean ways of communicating that create safety in your relationship. That integration is the key!!
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Dec 11, 2020 |
259: What To Do With A Hot-Tempered Man
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Women who have felt or seen their partner’s anger will not be able to feel his erotic vibe. Sexual pursuers can become demanding when their partner isn’t responding to their attempts at intimacy. Their frustration can keep increasing and eventually boil over and become anger (COVID definitely hasn’t helped with impatience!) While anger can sometimes provide quick change in the short-term, it is not sustainable in the relationship long-term. In the long-term, anger can slowly disintegrate the relationship and feeling of safety. Men and women can both be hot-tempered! However, an angry man can unconsciously frighten a woman by his intensity, strength and size. For a man, moving out of a place of silence into a place of speaking and expressing your feelings is important - the manner in which you do this is more important. Even if you have no intention of physically acting on your anger, it may shut down your partner’s sexy feelings. Hear what Laurie does to respond to a roleplay of George’s anger by 1) not responding in kind 2) being firm and 3) removing herself when the anger reaches the point of abuse.
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Dec 04, 2020 |
258: Variety - To Spice Up The Bedroom
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This one comes at you fast! George and Laurie talk through a variety of sex acts that couples choose to liven things up. No judgements just a curious exploration of what might turn a monogamous couple on and why. With lots of laughter, they talk through where to do it, what you might try, how to reduce some anxiety when trying new things - everything from sexual positions to taking control to role play. If you’d like to receive the list Sexual Variety for you and your partner to talk about - email us at info@foreplayrst.com Help us and join our contest to win from our sponsor Manscape a perfect package by sending us a screenshot of your review on iTunes! Drawing on 12/4/20.
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Nov 27, 2020 |
257: Intersection of Emotional and Sexual Cycles
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How can you and your partner align your emotional and sexual cycles? We can be on different planets sometimes when it comes to these cycles, but when they align with each other they are more consistent. Finding an intersection between your emotional and sexual cycles requires both partners to take risks. However, you may not recognize each other’s attempts! Sexual pursuers often look for connection through physical touch...they are being vulnerable by initiating. They are trying to make repair without words, but the withdrawer may not see this attempt because they need words. The withdrawer may perceive it as their partner “only wanting them for sex” which can add to the pressure and make them pull away. The pursuer then perceives this as rejection to their attempt for connection. This miscommunication is what causes us to get lost in a negative cycle. When the withdrawer takes a risk to open up sexually and lower their defenses, they are also being vulnerable. Again, flexibility from both partners is key; having the mindset of “let’s see what can happen…” Sex can be a great repair; it can bring you closer together and help you get to a place of connection to then talk about hurt feelings and emotions with each other.
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Nov 20, 2020 |
256: Desire versus Willingness
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Can willingness replace desire? Are you wanting or just willing to have sex? Sometimes willingness can mean being vulnerable and communicating with your partner about your needs, anxieties, desires, and what you are comfortable with. Simply opening a safe space for conversation can make a world of difference. Both partners want to be heard and responded to simultaneously and that's hard to do when emotions are so prominent. Who is initiating vulnerability and bringing it up? If a withdrawer takes the risk to initiate a conversation or explain their anxieties, the pursuer needs to keep focus on the withdrawer. The way that the pursuer chooses to responds makes a big difference in the outcome. It's not a time to compare your pain, or feelings of rejection, because that will only increase the pressure and their sense of failure. Instead, listen to them, address their hesitations, and make them feel safe. For pursuers, it can be so frustrating when the withdrawer doesn't want to talk, so it's important to voice your appreciation for their vulnerability. Withdrawers, be open to taking a leap! Never force yourself to do something your body doesn't want to- but maybe use willingness as starting point, not desire. Be willing to make love in hopes that your body starts to respond. Take time for pleasure, the goal is to connect and be present with the person you love. Pursuers, this requires patience. Start with the understanding that it may not lead to sex or orgasm and be open to connecting in other ways. This takes off so much pressure for the withdrawer! A strong relationship needs both partners to be willing to be vulnerable emotionally, physically, and sexually. The goal is good enough or resilient sex. This requires lots of flexibility and adaptability!
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Nov 13, 2020 |
255: Mailbag! Unrequited Sexual Fantasies, When to Compromise and Being Vulnerable
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Mailbag!! George and Laurie answer questions from the Foreplay Fam in this week’s episode! They’re talking all about unrequited fantasies, compromise, and vulnerability. Sexual fantasies are extremely common; in fact only 4% of men and 14% of women report NOT having fantasies. A listener talks about a fantasy of an old lover and not being able to get it out of her head. While this one may be a block to emotional connection, fantasies can also be mined for good information about what turns us on. And some partners feel comfortable and like sharing their sexual fantasies as a way to grow learn and get aroused with each other. Sexual improvement requires vulnerability and willingness to talk about your sexual needs. Discuss with your partner what they are comfortable with and address any of their concerns. Compromise is important in any relationship. While we want people to feel respected sometimes we might do something for tour partner out of love in order to just make our partner happy. It’s all about communicating these things! Listen to this week’s mailbag episode now to hear more of your questions answered! Find our sponsors Uberlube.com and get 10% off with the coupon Foreplay as well as Manscaped ;) - the the "lawnmower" and other goodies for 20% using the code Foreplay!
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Nov 06, 2020 |
254: Low Libido Joe
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What should a woman think about a man who doesn't initiate sex much and doesn't even seem to want it? She wonders if he's even attracted to her. Laurie and George explore his mind, heart and body's experience before, during and after sex to see what really goes on, what his secret fears and hidden insecurities are.
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Oct 30, 2020 |
253: Resilient Sex - The Female Sexual Pursuer
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What does resilient sex look like in a female? George and Laurie take another look at how a different woman - a sexual pursuer - might answer questions about her experience pre, during & after sex for her erotic mind, her heart, her body and her genitals. It makes sense why she would want to connect sexually when all 4 categories are so high during the sexual experience.
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Oct 23, 2020 |
252: Sex During COVID (Still)
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Sex during COVID (still!) - while kids are home, while we're stir-crazy, closeness is feeling claustrophobic; and we've got the big sex killer - stress! Sigh. And the forecast is for .... more home time. Who knew in April we'd be looking at lockdown for a much longer time. Are you bored in bed? Need a bit of encouragement to keep it hot? Here's some help!
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Oct 16, 2020 |
251: Setting Up An Early Relationship for Sex Success
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Thinking about getting married and want to make sure sex is good and you stay emotionally connected? Never had these important conversations about basic sexual expectations? Set yourself up for success! Couples often believe all of marriage is going to be like George’s example of the “high road” – the great dinners, great sex and good times but we also want couples to have success during the “middle road” – the grind like paying the bills and the low road – dealing with their insecurities and vulnerabilities. Especially, George and Laurie emphasize the importance of learning to talk about sex and direct couples to have the who, what, when, why conversation. If you’ve never had these conversations you can jump right in now and make things better. What so obvious later, needs to be worked out early. Who should initiate? What are you going to do in bed? When is the best time for sex for your energy? Sponsors: Uberlube - get the best personal lubricant at 10% off with the coupon Foreplay! Manscaped - special male grooming packages at 20% off with the coupon Foreplay!
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Oct 09, 2020 |
250: Do Creams, Meds, Pills, Gadgets, and Toys Really Help Her in Bed?
28:16
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George and Laurie talk with Dr. Polly Watson, MD (no relation!) about all the new exciting advances in sex medicine to find out what helps. We discuss the O-shot, hormones, female desire drugs, toys, Scream-Cream; JoyGell, even sex robots for a laugh! Find out what works and what is fun!!
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Oct 02, 2020 |
249: Closing the Arousal Gap
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With the average Joe and average Jane so different in their approach to sex and the ways and timing of arousal, what can a couple do to close the arousal gap? Join sex therapist and author Dr. Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about how to negotiate the differences. Check out our great sponsor Uberlube. Use the coupon code Foreplay to receive a 10% discount!
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Sep 25, 2020 |
248: Sexual Self Improvement Plan for Her
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This week it is Average Jane's turn! Join sex therapist and author Dr. Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about what the sexual experience for an average woman is and how to improve their sex life! Check out our sponsor Uberlube! Use the coupon Foreplay!
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Sep 18, 2020 |
247: 12 Ways To Get Better In Bed For Guys
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George wants men to have a method to improve their sexual game in 3 zones—pre-sex, during sex and post-sex in 4 different areas: heart, mind, body, and genitals. Twelve variables for guys who like stats to measure their self progress. George gets into specific numbers for the average Joe in each area and has a plan for what they can do if they don't like their own assessment.
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Sep 11, 2020 |
246: Ask a Sexual Question and Get "I don't know" For An Answer - What to Do?
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As a sexual pursuer, how can you open a conversation with your sexually withdrawing partner? What are some typical questions that pursuers ask and how can they ask them in a better way without being dismissed? Ever asked your partner: What are your sexual fantasies? What turns you on? How do you like to be touched? These questions are often met with an "I don't know" response - and we know it's so frustrating to the sexual pursuer who has planned and thought about them only to be seemingly met with disinterest and rejection. Hear Laurie and George talk about how sexual pursuers can open communication with their partner about sex and reduce the pushing energy that blocks their partner? Open up to curiosity and leave them wanting something more.
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Sep 04, 2020 |
245: The Killjoy Cycle
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Let's talk about “killjoy” – the negative cycle that squashes the love life is so many millions of couples out there and how we can name it, notice it and do it differently. Sexual discrepancies are the most common thing we're going to see over 80% of couples are going to find themselves in a dynamic where one wants more than one wants less. In his marriage, George calls the negative cycle “California" and Laurie calls it “Drowning” with her swimmer husband. But there's something really fun about naming the negative cycle, the merry-go-round Groundhog Day, whatever word you want to come up with. The beautiful thing about doing this is it starts to externalize the problem. The problem isn't Joe. The problem isn't Mary. The problem is the dynamics that they've unconsciously created in this attempt to be with each other. George and Laurie role play a new way of communicating in “killjoy”! Please support us by ordering Uberlube at Uberlube.com with the coupon "foreplay".
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Aug 28, 2020 |
244: Orgasm Gap and How Big is Big Enough?
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Is the orgasm gap fair? Laurie and George don't think so. But it's so natural to feel criticized when your partner tries to tell you what they need; how can we get excited about feedback to change this problem? How often do normal couples have bad sex? George suggests often enough that it's coming for you! (you gotta expect it!) But if you strike out... get back in the game. Do men who worry about their penis size even know what's normal? How big is big enough? What's so special about sex in Finland - what are they getting right for women? We got the stats!
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Aug 21, 2020 |
243: Why Do YOU Want To Have Sex? Five Motives For Sex!
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Why do YOU want to have sex? George and I talk about the 5 most frequent motives to get it on! Pleasure, Intimacy, Approval, Coping and Procreation. Each motive can be used in sexually healthy relationship as sex serves many purposes for a couple. Sometimes though some motives fail, like when pleasure is never accompanied by intimacy or when the anxious need from approval doesn't develop into pleasure. Please support us on Uberlube.com/FOREPLAY
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Aug 14, 2020 |
242: Come as you are with Emily Nogaski
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Welcome Dr. Emily Nagoski, PhD, fellow podcaster and award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life. Dr.Nagoski's mission is to help us live with confidence and joy in our bodies! Together, Emily, George and Laurie want to help people have a healthy view of sex and challenge people's assumptions about what they believe and where they get stuck. We all see EFT as a way to help couples deal with the difficult feelings around sex where we often are anxious about hurting our partner's feelings or fearful of being found sexually inadequate. To help us understand desire, Emily tells us about where to find our brakes (all the good reasons not to be turned on... potential threats) and accelerators (everything we think, believe, imagine & touch, taste, smell, hear that has sexual connotations.) Fun topics in this podcast: look at your genitals! (if you want to make friends.) She and George talk about the complicated relationship men have with their penises. Nagoski uses a hedgehog visualization to gracefully accept our feelings around sex. Ever wonder why your body may be turned on but you really don’t want sex? Emily shares the concept of non-concordant sex – when our body’s arousal and subjective sexual feelings don’t align. Please help support our podcast and get a 10% discount on Uberlube's fabulous lubrication - Uberlube.com/Foreplay Find Emily!!!: book - Come As You Are workbook -The Come as You Are Workbook new book!! - Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle podcast - the feminist survival podcast 2020
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Aug 07, 2020 |
241: What Withdrawers Can Do Besides Walking Away
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Knowing that their withdrawal triggers their partner, what can someone who feels attacked or criticized do - other than walking away? Wrestling with themselves and naming their feelings, gives them a moment to feel instead of shutting it down. Recognizing what happens in their body makes some room and space for the withdrawer distress. And becoming curious about their pursuing partners criticism and anger helps them reconnect emotionally.
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Jul 31, 2020 |
240: Do Men Really Want Directions In Bed?
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Men want an engaged partner and frequently ask for communication in bed. Yet, how can a women ask for what she wants without sending the message that she is critical and unhappy? Laurie and George discuss how a woman can offer sex tips so her guy can really be the best in bed for her especially if he is a sexual withdrawer.
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Jul 24, 2020 |
239: Two Ways Pursuers Can Calm Down & Love Their Withdrawing Partner
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Pursuers have beautiful motives to push toward their partners - wanting more connection, more intimacy and more sex. But they often feel rejected and are told they are too much which escalates the cycle. Learn two things that help the pursuer calm down. 1) Remind yourself that you have good intentions to create change. 2) Use an image of someone who made you feel safe - a therapist, parent, grandparent or even of yourself comforting a younger version of yourself. See how taking a wider lens including both peoples vulnerabilities can stop the pursuer-distance cycle. Subscribe to get all the latest episodes! Dedicated to Dr. Jeanne Yorke.
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Jul 17, 2020 |
238: Four Sexy Questions
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It's so hard to ask for what I want in bed or how to answer what do you want me to do to you sexually. Why? George says we either want to protect our partner from something hurtful and we're avoiding what we feel. But without talking about it, we shortcut that delicious exploration, even the missing spots and getting redirected - that is part of the magic of excitement. Our 4 questions are open-ended and hopefully spark real conversation between you and your lover - even if you've been doin' it forever. Check our our great sponsor Uberlube! Use the coupon code "Foreplay" so that they know we sent you!
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Jul 10, 2020 |
237: 49 Year-Old Virgin and Other Mailbag Questions
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Mailbag! - A 49 year-old virgin wonders if it too late for love or if she has lost her mojo. George and Laurie discuss having hard conversations about racism and sex including a listener's feedback. A woman having trouble with physical intimacy after her husband's emotional infidelity.
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Jul 03, 2020 |
236: You Excite Me -- Seeing Your Partner as Sexy
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When we are falling in love, we notice all the positive attractors in our partner. Over time, the inevitable negatives which were there all along become more noticeable. The key to long-term relational connection is to intentionally replicate that focus on the positive attractors over the negative. Check out our great sponsor, Uberlube! Use the coupon code Foreplay to let them know you are a listener!
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Jun 26, 2020 |
235: I'm Too Sexy For My Shirt -- Getting Sexual Confidence
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We all resonate with how sexy confidence is in the bedroom. But how do we get it back when we've been repeatedly rejected? Or how do we love ourselves and our imperfect bodies when a critical voice inside our heads screams about our flaws and jiggly thighs? Listen to George and Laurie talk through the ways that can get our game on! Visit our sponsor Uberlube. Use coupon code "Foreplay"!
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Jun 18, 2020 |
234: Rooting Out Racism
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George and Laurie add their hearts to the conversation about racism. We need to have the conversations that are uncomfortable. If we're marginalized, we have to protest - the rage and anger makes sense. As a former first responder, it breaks George's heart to see the men watching the murder of George Floyd. Where were their feelings? Shut down. Blocked. Trained to be closed. If we can train people to shut down their feelings we can train them to turn on their feelings and be in touch when their humanity is essential. Join Laurie and George as they talk about what's happening in the world. Check out our sponsor Uberlube. It is an awesome product! Use the coupon code 'Foreplay'.
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Jun 11, 2020 |
233: She Only Wants Sex to Keep Him Happy
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Join us for a sample conversation with "Eleanor" who is always anxious about sex, preoccupied with whether or not she is pleasing her husband, but unable to be present for her own experience. She doesn’t want to risk hurting her husband even if it would make the sexual moment better for her. Her husband thinks she's not into it, but hear how she worries and actually thinks about it constantly without ever knowing if her husband is happy with her. We have heard hundreds of similar stories about the disconnects that can happen in sexual relationship. We invite you to consider opening up a discussion with your lover about their experience in sex. Help support us by checking out our sponsor Uberlube. Uberlube has great lubricants! Go to uberlube.com and use the coupon code ‘Foreplay’ to get savings!
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Jun 04, 2020 |
232: Talking to a Man About His Sex Life
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Conversation is the best foreplay. But to have a deeper, more satisfying relationship you must ask deeper, specific questions. Have you ever wanted to talk to your husband or boyfriend about what he really thinks about what is going on in his bedroom? How to Talk to a Man About His Sex Life (Assessment - Part 3) will give you so good questions to ask and ways to make sense of his answers. In this third episode on assessing your sexual relationship, join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about the kinds of questions they use to understand and assess the depth of a couple's connection.
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May 28, 2020 |
231: Sharing Your Sexual History - Assessment Part 2
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In therapy and in our partnerships, sharing our sexual histories takes vulnerability and courage. Have you told your partner about your sexual development? So often we don't even bother to think about what was formative and how our experiences, our strengths, our trauma may influence what we feel in bed. This episode, relationship experts, licensed couples therapist guru George takes the role of sex therapist and sex therapist Dr. Laurie role plays a patient talking about her history. Check out our sponsor Uberlube! Use the coupon code "Foreplay" for a nice discount!
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May 21, 2020 |
230: How to Assess Your Present Sexual Relationship
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We invite you into a thoughtful reflection about what is happening in YOUR sex life. Bring your spirit of curiosity and stay with us in the discovery mode as our “client” played by the brave volunteer - George - answers this first set of questions. Pull back the curtain and hear what Laurie thinks about his answers as a sex therapist. Think about these beginning questions, (not easy questions) like… What would you want your partner to know about you sexually? Laurie reflects on how important vulnerability is when communication with your lover the deeper aspects of these questions. Our patient acknowledges his anxiety and how most of the time he communicates in frustration with his partner instead of coming from his heart’s longing. We ask: What is going on in your sex life now? Can you describe the problems? When did things change between you or when did the problems start? What have you tried to resolve these issues. Do you and your partner have desire for each other? What turns you on the most? When do you feel most erotic with your partner? What are your 3 most important expectations in bed? We gratefully acknowledge the work of EFT founder Dr. Sue Johnson, EFT Supervisor Mike Moran in the development of this sexual questionnaire as well as the work of Dr. Zoya Simakhodskaya, Ph.D for pioneering the understanding of the integration of the sexual cycle into the couple emotional cycle in emotionally focused therapy.
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May 14, 2020 |
229: Sex During Hunkering Down
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The stay-at-home orders across the country because of the Covid-19 Pandemic has increased the economic and health security. Dealing with feelings of helplessness is a drag on individuals and impacts sexual desire. Join sex therapist Dr. Laurie Watson and Couples therapist George Faller as they talk about how to maintain sex during 'war-time.' Check out our sponsor Uberlube. Use the coupon code 'Foreplay' to get a discount! Silicone-based lubricant for keeping it hot!
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May 07, 2020 |
228: Male Arousal -- What Turns Him On
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What turns him on? Visual stimulation is very important. Seeing his partner naked works if women can let go of their insecurity. Join sex therapist and author Dr. Laurie Watson and Couples therapist George Faller as they talk about what turns men on.
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Apr 30, 2020 |
227: Overcoming Shame in Sex
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A married woman listener asks George and Laurie about how to overcome 15 years of shame regarding her thoughts about the 'right kind of sex to have', 'what is good and acceptable in a sexual encounter', and even shame over how much she should be enjoying sex. George remarks, that shame is the biggest turnoff and cut-off for sexual desire... Please support our sponsor Uberlube by buying their high-quality silicone lubricant.
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Apr 23, 2020 |
226: Do Women Enjoy Sex?
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In this Mailbag episode, a listener raises a question about given the difficulty many women have in orgasming through intercourse, why would women want to have sex? Sex therapist and author Dr. Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller discuss the different viewpoints towards sex that men and women have.
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Apr 17, 2020 |
225: De-escalating Conflicts
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The Pursuer - Withdrawer dance can escalate negative emotions and lead to misunderstanding what each partner is wanting, thinking, and feeling. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as the talk about the process of escalation and de-escalation.
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Apr 09, 2020 |
224: Connecting During Covid
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STAY CONNECTED! - our most important mission during the COVID-19 outbreak! In times of stress we need to turn to each other. George and Laurie talk about their own struggles and hope to offer comfort to their listeners...as well as some thoughts about how to grow after being battle-tested! Plus, some a nudge for creative sex during quarantine!
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Apr 02, 2020 |
223: I'm a Burned-out Pursuer
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Pursuers get exhausted. After trying everything... talking, begging, holding back their needs, getting angry... sometimes they just give up. When Pursuers become Withdrawers, the relationship is in trouble. Join sex therapist Dr. Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about dealing with burn out in a relationship.
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Mar 26, 2020 |
222: Let's Talk About Sex, Baby!
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Laurie and George demonstrate best ways to initiate a conversation to get your partner to open up about sex. And secondly, they talk about how to change the conversation with our kids and friends so we change the culture. George says he feels like he's been let into a secret society of women when Laurie reveals her girlfriend talk.
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Mar 19, 2020 |
221: Do 2 Withdrawers Ever Get Together?
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Do 2 withdrawers ever get together? They do but when there is little conflict there is usually little sex. Both people are so intent on being nice and not demanding, the difficult conversations that create intimacy just don't happen. They avoid the negative emotions and unfortunately shut out the intense emotions would make them feel securely connected. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about withdrawers in relationship.
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Mar 12, 2020 |
220: Affairs - Different Reasons Pursuers/Withdrawers Cheat
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Why would a withdrawer have an affair when their partner is begging them for more connection? How can a pursuer get over their shame to see their partner's pain? George and Laurie use attachment theory to add understanding that helps answer the question... "why, did you do this?" Uberlube is a great product in so many ways. Use promo code 'Foreplay' at their website so they know we sent you!
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Mar 06, 2020 |
219: Forgiveness After an Affair
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Affairs devastate the trust and connection in a committed relationship. Recovery and reconnection is possible. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as the talk through how to reconnect after an affair.
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Feb 28, 2020 |
218: Stress and Sex
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Nothing more sexy than talking about stress! How we perceive stress is how it impacts our body and which makes it inseparable from sex. Connection with another is the fastest way to relieve stress. George leads us in a discussion about how to change distress into eustress by changing our mindset about seeing stress as a challenge and reaching out to a partner and fight problems together. Drawing from his writing in Sacred Stress, George helps Laurie think about a couple who look at the same moment - an erotic moment in two different ways - one as eustress (highly exciting) and the other sees it as distress (highly anxiety-producing.)
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Feb 21, 2020 |
217: Men Who Don't Go Down
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One of the big disappointments for some women is when their partners don't want to do cunnilingus with them and they do. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist and author George Faller as they discuss how to have great cunnilingus.
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Feb 14, 2020 |
216: Masturbation -- We All Do It
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Masturbation is a topic few couples are comfortable talking about; yet it is something that we all do. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist and author George Faller as they talk about masturbation and how it plays into your relationship. Visit our sponsor UberLube at www.uberlube.com; use promo code FOREPLAY so they know we sent you!
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Feb 07, 2020 |
215: Sexual Fantasies - What Do You Want?
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Most fantasies have the theme of someone being so into you. In our fantasy, our partner is showing high levels of engagement, high levels of passion and high levels of initiation. George and Laurie talk about how to tap into the energy of fantasy to bring new information, new ideas to the partnership. Try a fantastic lube at www.Uberlube.com/foreplay
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Jan 31, 2020 |
214: Healing Childhood Sexual Trauma
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Sexual trauma in childhood can wreak havoc on adult emotional and sexual relationships. While challenging, traumas of this gravity can be healed. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist and author George Faller as they discuss how you can heal childhood sexual trauma.
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Jan 24, 2020 |
213: Overcoming Trauma for a Great Sex Life
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Trauma, PTSD, and other troubling experiences can invade and derail your relationship. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and marriage therapist George Faller as they respond to a listener's letter about her husband's PTSD and how it plagued their relationship.
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Jan 17, 2020 |
212: Redeeming Sexual Problems Brings Closeness
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Sexual problems are opportunities to actually get deeper with each other. Cohosts talk about a man with ED and how he feels alone, alienated from his own body for fear of failure as well as alienated from his partner thinking he will let her down. George shares how withdrawers strengthen their muscle memory to go away when they don't share their "ouch" or what hurts, denying themselves the comfort that their partner might offer. Laurie share how vulnerable sharing actually draws a partner in.
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Jan 10, 2020 |
211: Great Sex - Connecting Brains, Hearts and Bodies
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When our hearts are connected, we can lose ourselves sexually in one another. Great sex requires a bit of knowledge, a lot of vulnerability and a willingness to explore more than just genital pleasure. George and Laurie talk about exercises they give clients to get more in tune with each other by exploring touch and the skin of their lover.
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Jan 03, 2020 |
210: His Porn Use - Man with ED Fears Rejection, Q&A Mailbag
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Q&A for a woman, who's husband prefers porn and a man struggling with ED. George says, "When I think about porn, I don't come at it from a moralistic point of view. I think, does the porn serve a function to strengthen a couple's emotional bond, or does it create more distance?" Laurie and George discuss how the fear of rejection in a man with ED prevents him from sharing his vulnerability and receiving the comfort he deserves from his wife. Instead they both stay separated and dissatisfied.
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Dec 27, 2019 |
209: He Wants You Not Just Sex
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Men who feel sex as their primary path to connection are often told "all they want is sex." Indeed, sex is exciting and pleasurable to them but also the way they feel and want to express love and connection. Listen to George Faller and Laurie Watson talk about how men feel about sex; why the couple needs their sexual motivation and what they can do to have more of it.
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Dec 20, 2019 |
208: Women Who Want It
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Women who feel sexually alive and use sex as a pathway for connection can feel out of place in a society that tells them - women don't/shouldn't want sex as much as men. Laurie and George discuss healthy women who are in touch with their bodies, their desire for their partners and long for physical intimacy. When rejected the relationship can be strained, she can feel crushed emotionally and she can question her very attractiveness. Co-hosts affirm her right to have her needs met.
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Dec 13, 2019 |
207: Why He Doesn't Want It
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We think men always want sex. But some of them don't chase their partners. How can we understand this phenomenon? Laurie and Geoge talk about one issue - sexual performance - causing one man to sexually withdraw. But there are other reasons as well...
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Dec 05, 2019 |
206: Why She Doesn't Want Sex
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Sounds pretty discouraging if your partner says she'd be fine never having sex again. Laurie and George discuss how to get to the root of what she's saying. Using an acronym O P L E A S F helps us organize what has obscured her libido.
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Nov 29, 2019 |
205: Pursuer Pain and Frustration
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Pursuers' frustrations -- what's it like when you want more and you can't get it? What's it like to work so hard and see your partner walking away from you? We know it feels unfair and want to help you see how you push that might be driving your partner away! Get vulnerable for your own sake.
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Nov 22, 2019 |
204: How to Understand Your Emotional Withdrawer
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Learn why your withdrawing partner feels they are keeping you safer by shutting down. Understand what is good and useful about withdrawing behavior. Hear George walk Laurie through a better way to help her husband feel safe about opening up in a personal example. Sex therapist and author Laurie Watson, together with expert, couples therapist and author George Faller delve into the world of the Emotional Distancer to help you resolve your relationship conflicts with smart moves.
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Nov 15, 2019 |
203: Laurie's Story
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Laurie tells George her own story of why she became a sex therapist. Hear about her moment of decision when she stopped the negative pursuing cycle and changed her marriage. Laurie shares her heartfelt commitment to be the generation to love and struggle to become securely attached in order to change the course of her family's legacy and how you too, can change your family's future. 
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Nov 08, 2019 |
202: Foreplay Meet Faller
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Foreplay - meet my new podcast cohost, George Faller, LMFT - a global leader in couples therapy! George debuts and tells his story of trauma to transformation. After surviving 9/11 as a firefighter, George, having become a recent graduate in marriage therapy, became the designated couples therapist to bring healing to the firefighter couples. Now, he specializes in helping couples and therapists find their way through the intense heat and confusion of reactive relationships.
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Nov 01, 2019 |
201: Goodbye to Adam (Bloopers Included)
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The sad day is here when we say goodbye to Dr. Adam Mathews. Join Laurie and Adam as they share their fond memories of working together. Listen through to the end where are fabulous editor Joe added a compilation of outtakes and bloopers! You can even hear Madison our intern chiming in off mic. ****** Please consider subscribing to Foreplay on your favorite podcast listening platform, and rate and review us! It helps us get the word out and improves our rankings!
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Oct 25, 2019 |
200: For Richer and Poorer
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Money is one of the Big 3 -- along with Time and Energy. Negotiating the issues around money impacts a couple's capacity for intimacy. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the money issue. Please subscribe and rate/review Foreplay on iTunes! It helps us get the word out to more people. We appreciate it!
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Oct 18, 2019 |
199: Three Commitments to Better Sex
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One weekend, three commitments, better sex. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how in one weekend with three commitments you can have a better sexual relationship. Help us reach more people... subscribing to the podcast makes us more prominent on the major sources for podcasts. Rating and reviewing helps too! Ask questions, get on our mailing list on our contact form. Finally, if you haven't filled out our short, 8-question demographic survey, it only takes a couple of minutes!
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Oct 11, 2019 |
198: Extramarital Affair Recovery
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Acting out in an affair are often signs of problems with the person's life. A push / pull dynamic can fuel the infidelity. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the causes and how to recover from the pain of infidelity. Take a moment and fill out our 8-question demographic survey. ------------------------------------------------------------------ Transcript: Laurie Watson: Adam, we're going to talk about extramarital affairs today, a difficult subject and something that certainly brings up a lot of pain for couples, but we want to offer some hope and some new ways to think about it. Hello again, and welcome to Foreplay – Radio Sex Therapy. I'm your host, certified sex therapist, Laurie Watson, author of Wanting Sex Again, and blogger at Psychology Today and WebMD , and I have with me Dr. Adam Mathews, my co-host, who's a couples therapist, psychotherapist, and President of NCAMFT. Foreplay is dedicated to helping couples keep it hot. Thanks for listening. Now, onto today's topic. Adam Mathews: A tricky subject today on the podcast, affairs, extramarital affairs. It's tricky for a lot of different reasons, right? Laurie Watson: It is. Adam Mathews: People classify affairs in a lot of different ways, in how you label affairs whether, because then, a lot of people, it's not just a sexual affair, it can be an emotional affair. Some people are going to define kissing somebody else as an affair. Somebody might even just describe not telling their partner about a relationship that's forming with somebody that they're attracted to as an affair, and so it's wide-ranging and it's one of the more devastating things to a relationship, right? I think it's devastating in part because of how much it breaks the trust, the core trust in the relationship. It's for most people, especially people in committed monogamous relationships, they believe that their sexual relationship is like the primary boundary that distinguishes their relationship from every other relationship that they have in life, and so that primary boundary gets violated and it gets broken, and so it's very difficult to recover from something like that, but it is recoverable. Laurie Watson: It is. Adam Mathews: There are ways that you can begin to move through a healing process in an affair. Laurie Watson: And rebuild trust. Adam Mathews: And rebuild that trust. Laurie Watson: Yeah. Adam Mathews: Right? Laurie Watson: Yeah. I think that affairs happen for two reasons. One, an affair is a refuge from a relationship problem in the marriage, or in the committed partnership, but it also comes from a pain in a person's life. There's two forces often, or one or the other force that's happening. The classic midlife crises is the person who, maybe there are marital stressors, but they're facing aging, they're facing disappointments in their career. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: There are many internal issues that they're going through that caused them to act out and have an affair. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Yeah. I would call this the push-pull effect, right? If there's relationship problems going on that can often be pushing them out of the relationship, where they turn to other things, or the internal that's pulling them towards something that they're wanting, that they feel like is lacking either in them internally or in the relationship, and so like recognizing that, those things, you then begin to just turn to something that you feel like is going to give you what you're lacking in that, either that safety in the relationship that you're not experiencing, the excitement, the attention, or it's going to satisfy that kind of pain. Laurie Watson: Right. That's the push. Adam Mathews: That's the push. Laurie Watson: That's the push out of the relationship, and the pull toward is what? Adam Mathews: Yeah. It is something that you're missing internally in yourself, confidence, loneliness, meaning in life, feeling like there's something that you're missing out on. Laurie Watson: And they're trying to find that in a third-party. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Right. It's difficult because those things, those things feel very real to the person that's seeking them out, right? Laurie Watson: Yeah, and I'm aware as we're talking about this in a very methodical therapist-like way, we understand that if you've been betrayed, this is very painful. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Oh, yeah. Laurie Watson: Very, very painful, and so we don't want to minimize the person who was in the relationship that did not step out their pain, but we also want you to think about this from two parts. I mean, this recruitment of a third-party actually allows stability to happen without real change, so the person maybe splits off and says, "Okay. I'm going to get my sex needs met over here. I'm going to keep my family intact, and that way, I can have what I need. I can feel stable without actually growing, developing, changing, or making the marriage better, or confronting the issues between myself and my partner, or in myself. Adam Mathews: Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I think it provides a sense of it's safer, right? It's safer than doing the hard work of addressing those things in the relationship or in the self, and I would say- Laurie Watson: Temporarily say. Adam Mathews: Temporarily, yeah, and I think that oftentimes, when people, say the person that has been cheated on says that, "I was blindsided by this. I didn't see this coming," a lot of times, I think it's an effect of that because for a while, it makes the marriage or the committed relationship more stable than it was, and so it feels like things are good, and it's hard to see that, right? As a person that's been cheated on, you're feeling blindsided, you're feeling run over, you're feeling like it's extremely personal, like it's a reaction to you, and to a flaw that you have, or something that's wrong with you, which is not true, but it's hard to see that you didn't really miss something. It just, that introduction of that third person into the relationship made it feel more stable, but that doesn't last, right? Laurie Watson: It doesn't. Right, and it's also false because the fantasy of who that person is includes you're always dressed up, you always have time for each other, you're not talking about the bills, you're not talking about the stressors of your kids. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: I mean, it's a fantasy, and there's very little that competes with that gilded fantasy. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Yeah. I mean, there's lots of research that's just, might be helpful to mention too about the fact that affair relationships, people that leave their spouse for affair relationships, those relationships rarely last. Like the longest that they last, the top end is something like three years, so- Laurie Watson: Wow, I didn't know that. I believe that. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: I mean, I think the problem with an affair in terms of the person who's acting out is they're not developing and growing. They're not changing. Adam Mathews: Right. Yeah. Laurie Watson: Whatever dynamic was not working in the marriage, they haven't fixed that. Adam Mathews: Right. Laurie Watson: They haven't confronted it, and so how can they kind of expect that they're going to turn to another person? It's a fantasy to believe that, "I'm just with the wrong person." Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: As it turns out, we bring ourselves to every relationship, and so we're going to recreate similar problems. Adam Mathews: Yeah, your problems are going to follow you in those cases, because you're not actually dealing with anything that's significant, either in the relationship or within yourself, that's going to change it, so you end up having those same problems in the relationship if you fully lean into the affair relationship, right? Laurie Watson: Yeah. Right. Adam Mathews: That when, to be able to do that, most people ... I am fully convinced that the vast majority of people do not go into their marriage or enter their long-term relationship feeling like they are going to have affairs, right? Laurie Watson: Absolutely not. Adam Mathews: They're not planning on having an affair, and so to get into it, you have to begin to demonize the person that you're with to some extent, right? Laurie Watson: Yeah. Adam Mathews: It's either at the very minimum, it's a belief, like you were saying, that they're the wrong person for me, that I'm just not supposed to be with them, and so you have to be able to do that to be able to then be with the affair partner, and so then with the affair partner, you begin to build them up higher than they actually are, right? Laurie Watson: Yeah. I was treating a couple who had an incredibly sustainable marriage. They had been good friends for quite some time, and I mean, really had a good relationship, and somehow or another, an affair had entered in. I think what had happened was they went from this good relationship, and the partner who was having an affair began to tell themselves, "Well, this person is not really going to be with me in the way that I really want them to be with me sexually." The reason they denigrated their partner was because in their heart, the affair partner was truly monogamous, so the only way they could sort of justify what was happening was by saying, "But my partner isn't going to meet my needs, therefore, I need a new partner," because they were violating their own ethic. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: Their own ethic was one of being with one person, and so they couldn't do that without suddenly, kind of putting on the sunglasses and seeing all the flaws of their partner, and also putting on the rose-colored glasses and seeing all the blessings and the excitement of the new partner. Adam Mathews: Right. Laurie Watson: I mean, in order to resolve this cognitive dissonance, we have to do something on the inside, and this is what the partner who was having the affair was doing, was just making their partner bad. Affairs do happen in good marriages. Adam Mathews: Absolutely, but that cognitive dissonance thing is important because it's very real, and it's helpful for the injured partner, the spouse that's been cheated on to understand that that is happening in the mind of the person that cheated, because it's not ... They almost have to ... A lot of times in, when an affair is happening, the partner will go, "Well, it's ..." They become a different person, right? They become a person, "I don't know who that person is," and that is the resolution of that cognitive dissonance. Adam Mathews: They're trying to resolve that, and in doing so, you have to almost become somebody that you're not to be able to have that affair. You have to look at the other person differently, build up the affair partner, and then choose between the, justify these behaviors that for most people, are behaviors that they say they would never engage in. Laurie Watson: Right. I mean, I think the difficulty is people say it's, "The line in the sand," which is a very weird metaphor to me. Like a line in the sand is very shiftable, but anyway, the line in the sand is, "I was going to leave my partner if they cheated," and then they have their real partner cheat, and they realize, "But there's all this good in the marriage," and of course there's huge injury, and if they don't get help quickly, they can't resolve that. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: An affair is basically a solution that doesn't require the couple to face their inadequacies, in their relationship, and their sexual problems, the emotional distance or fusion, as we talked about last week, that result in a lack of eroticism. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie, why don't we come back after the break, and we want to be sure to tell you how we would deal with it in treatment, and keeping in mind that it is not an easy solution, but there is a solution and a way forward in relationship. Laurie Watson: Okay. Yes, and there's hope, we believe. We want to remind all of you that we are thankful for the way you've shared the podcast. We continue to grow. It is our greatest honor when you share with a friend the work that we're doing and trying to help people so that they can make positive changes and strengthen their marriages and their partnerships. Laurie Watson: We would like to invite you to our retreat in November. Loveandsex360.com is where you find us, and I think the last thing we'd like to say is both of us are doing intensives, so if you would like to work with us, let us know and call our centers. You can find us at foreplay-radio-sex-therapy .com. Adam Mathews: If you like what we're doing and want to help support us, we'd love for you to rate and review us on iTunes, so thanks for listening. All right. We are talking about affairs and how to move forward, believing that there's hope even when an affair happens in a relationship for there to be recovery, even without the injured partner having to compromise or to lay down their values, or to lay down their hurt, right? That doesn't have to happen. The affair partner doesn't have to live in the dog house forever in the relationship. Adam Mathews: There's ways to begin to move forward to have what I believe is actually a healthier relationship and a better relationship after an affair, if you're able to put into the work and kind of sustain through the really grueling process of recovering from one. Laurie Watson: Yeah. I see couples who, the affair does signify essentially a cry for help in the marriage, and they go forward after treatment in a stronger, more intimate, more trusting place than they could have really gotten to without this crises, and nobody wants to go through that or think, "Isn't there a better way?" Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: There probably is a better way, but we also think that, like sometimes, a bone that breaks and is stronger when it heals after an affair, your marriage can be stronger. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Yeah. What's the first step for you when you say, "How do we begin to deal with it?" Laurie Watson: Yeah. First, we want to deal with the impact of it. Adam Mathews: Right. Laurie Watson: The problem is, is that in the initial stage, it looks like the marriage is going to reorganize around the aftermath of the affair, instead of around the original problems that were kind of the push out of the relationship. We eventually, as a therapist and as a couple, you want to eventually get to the real problems. The difficulty with this is that the betrayed partner says, "You are saying it's my fault. You are making me responsible for this terrible, hurtful thing that has happened to me," and we're not. We know that it is terrible and hurtful what has happened. Laurie Watson: You are not responsible for the pin that your partner pulled out of the grenade in the marriage. You are not responsible for that. You are responsible for the marriage in general and the problems that the two of you have co-created up until this point. Adam Mathews: Yeah, and Laurie, I mean, I think there's difficulty for me in that because I believe on some level, the partner that stepped out of the marriage has to take responsibility for their actions, right? Laurie Watson: Yes. Adam Mathews: Nobody forced them to have an affair. Laurie Watson: Right. Adam Mathews: Nobody forced them to cheat, or to step out, or to not talk about the problems, or whatever it was that they did. Nobody forced them to do that, right? There may be circumstances that were pressuring, that felt inevitable to them, that they didn't fully understand at the time, but nobody forced them to kiss somebody else, so nobody forced them to have sex with somebody else, to share intimate things with somebody else, and so talk to me about that because I just, I feel like they have to, that one of the first steps that has to happen is that they have to express some remorse, right? Laurie Watson: Absolutely. Absolutely. Adam Mathews: If there's no remorse for the affair, then I don't know how to go forward in it. Laurie Watson: Right, and they have to stop the affair if the marriage is going to go forward. Adam Mathews: Yes. Laurie Watson: I mean, you can't be with somebody who is with somebody else, at least if that's what you want in terms of monogamy and a sole commitment. You can't do it, so yes, they have to stop the affair. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: They have to express remorse. I think for real healing, which doesn't happen right away, but for real healing, that person has to deeply understand the hurt that they have caused. Adam Mathews: Right. Yes, absolutely. Laurie Watson: I think it's very painful in the beginning, because often, the affair partner is entitled. This is how they rationalize part of it, is they talk about, "Well, I have been hurt in this marriage, and this was my only path that I saw." Adam Mathews: Oh, sure. Laurie Watson: That may be true for them. It is their only path that they saw, and they don't want to be labeled as a bad person. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Absolutely, yeah. Yeah. Laurie Watson: The person who is betrayed says, "I didn't deserve this," and the person who stepped out says, "I'm not not a bad person." Adam Mathews: Yeah, and I think maybe that's the place that ... Maybe that's what you were saying before, is that to me, the person that's been injured, that's been cheated on has to eventually get to a place where they can separate what happened from the character of the person, that they're not a bad person. They've made really bad choices for the relationship, they made very injurous choices for the relationship, things that were, don't condone the affair or say the affair was okay. it was extremely hurtful, and we can sit with that while also saying the person that cheated is not a bad person. That in and of itself, I think takes some time, but I think it has to come as the person that cheated expresses remorse, and that remorse is heard and believed and genuine, followed by their actions of cutting off all contact with the affair partner, and then the person that's been cheating on, being able to express very specifically how they've been hurt. Adam Mathews: I hear a lot of people come in, and somebody is cheated and all that and they say, "Well, they should know how I feel. They should know how hurtful this is." Yes, like obviously, they should see that an affair is hurtful, but everybody's gets hurt by it in different ways and specific ways, and so being able to express that hurt and for that hurt to be heard and validated, I think is very important. Laurie Watson: I think pursuers and distancers have affairs for different reasons. Adam Mathews: Yeah, absolutely. Laurie Watson: Often, a pursuer will have an affair as a way to get the attention for their partner, like, "I am starving, and this other person has met my need either sexually or emotionally, and now it has become sexual," but it's oftentimes rooted in a point in time in the marriage where the pursuer has given up. "On the marriage, I've tried. I've tried to get through to you. I've screamed and hollered. I haven't been able to," and now they're in a distancing phase, and that's oftentimes when they will have the affair. Laurie Watson: You would think that withdrawers wouldn't have affairs because they don't have that much pull to do it, but ironically, I see lots and lots of withdrawers having affairs, because I think its conflict is scary, intimacy is very difficult for them, and so they hide from that conflict in the primary relationship, but that reduces sexual feelings and eroticisms between them and their partner, and so they split that off into the affair partner. Adam Mathews: Absolutely. Laurie Watson: "I'm going to have sex over here because I can't risk the intimacy that real sexuality in partnership demands of me." Adam Mathews: Yeah, it's too much. Laurie Watson: "It's too much. It's too intense, and so I split these two things apart." You would think that withdrawers wouldn't do that, but they do, oftentimes have affairs, so- Adam Mathews: Yeah. Well, it's just a move outside of the relationship, so for withdrawers, it's a- Laurie Watson: It's an absolute step away. Adam Mathews: Yeah. For withdrawers, it's the ultimate withdraw from the relationship. For pursuers, it's the ultimate pursue, because you're looking at- Laurie Watson: You're finally caught. Adam Mathews: Yeah, absolutely. Laurie Watson: Somebody catches you. You chase, and they catch you, and that's so exciting. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Well, and the hope of pursuers is that the distancing partner is going to see their affair and go, "Oh my gosh, I had neglected you. I should come towards you and move towards you in that." Laurie Watson: Right. You are valuablae, because the pursuer often feels like they're not valuable to their partner, and so they're trying to get some of that with their outside partner. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Yeah. Laurie Watson: Yeah. Adam Mathews: I think after, as you- Laurie Watson: I think the withdrawer is trying to avoid. Adam Mathews: Yeah, but you're dealing with that impact. You're dealing in that first step. You're dealing with the hurt. You're dealing with the remorse, but then, moving on to try to ... You call it finding meaning, right? I call it dealing with the decline of the [inaudible 00:20:39], whatever was the decline in the beginning, identifying that push-pull of what was happening before that both people are then responsible for, right? Laurie Watson: Right. Adam Mathews: There's hard on both sides on the things that happened before the affair. Laurie Watson: Yeah, and as we're learning sort of EFT, the languages, they're identifying their toxic cycle, right? Adam Mathews: Right. Laurie Watson: How did they push and pull with each other? How did the pursuer chase, perhaps criticize, and that pushed the withdrawing partner away? The pursuer wasn't in some way soft enough or safe enough for the withdrawer to really talk about what was going on inside them, or how did the withdrawing partner make their pursuing partner so frantic by their withdrawal that they couldn't get it together, and that this pattern is repeated over and over in many aspects of their lives, certainly sexually? Adam Mathews: Yeah. Yeah. Laurie Watson: I mean, people don't necessarily have affairs simply over sex. I mean, there is a sexual component, but often, the toxic cycle, and then healing that in the secondary phase of recovery is really important to understand what was going on at the time, where it is the affair fit into that cycle, and can they begin to see that this pattern may not work for them? Adam Mathews: Yeah. Yeah. This is often- Laurie Watson: It doesn't work for them. Adam Mathews: Yeah. This is often ... That part is often the hardest for the person that's been cheated on, right? The first phase of treatment for somebody in an affair, it's the partner that's done the cheating. It's hardest for them during that first phase, and it's harder for the partner that's been injured because talking about the cycle that happened before the affair often feels like condoning the affair, and it can feel like to them- Laurie Watson: Or blaming them. Adam Mathews: Or blaming them for the affair, and so, and both things are not true, right? You're not blaming them or condoning the affair, but you're saying, "This is what was happening." Right? This was what was going on in your relationship. Your relationship was not the best before this. Adam Mathews: Right? I think a lot of times, you look back when something like an affair happens, and you romanticize, or you look back through rose-colored glasses on history, and you rewrite history a bit and go, "Our relationship was great. Our relationship was fine. Why would they ever do this?" Sometimes you can recognize the difficulty of it, but oftentimes, you look back and go, "The affair should never ... It doesn't fit in that cycle," which is not entirely true, and so you have to understand what was happening and finding that meaning, understanding that cycle so that you can begin to move forward and break that, right? Laurie Watson: Exactly. In that recovery, we want the couple to basically find safety with each other so that vulnerability becomes possible again, sexual vulnerability, but also emotional vulnerability. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: The person who stepped out has to see how painful it was to their partner, and the partner has to see the binds and the difficulties that their partner who betrayed them was feeling, which is really hard work. Adam Mathews: It's such hard ... Yeah. Hard work. Laurie Watson: It's such hard work. Adam Mathews: Yeah. Laurie Watson: I know that one growth pattern for a man that I was seeing who'd had an affair, he said, "Well, my wife just isn't very creative sexually," and I said, "Do you share with her your sexual fantasies?" He's like, "Nope." I already knew that their sex life was pretty boring. The married couple's sex life was pretty boring, but his complaint was also without his vulnerability and sharing what he wanted and what he thought about, and all that kind of stuff, and so he just split that off, had the affair. Adam Mathews: Yeah. We believe that it is possible. We kind of given you just a start. I mean obviously, this work needs an outside party. You need a therapist to help work you through this, preferably one that deals with affairs a lot. Laurie Watson: I think you do. Adam Mathews: I mean, I think most couple therapists do, but finding one who kind of has a good framework for how to kind of help you move through it, and doing that work, it's difficult, it's hard, but there is hope for rebuilding your relationship. It takes a lot of time. I wish that this is not a quick process. Affair recovery is not ... It's slow, and oftentimes it feels like you're going backward. Adam Mathews: Part of the moving forward is really dealing with the flare-ups that come from what I classified as grief. Like it's, you're grieving the relationship that you had, and you're really building a new one, so a lot of times, those emotions flare up, especially for the injured partner, like it comes up randomly through very strange things, things that seemingly may not become- Laurie Watson: Right. They get triggered. Adam Mathews: Yeah. They get triggered- Laurie Watson: A politician in your city has an affair, or there's an affair on the movie that you go to see together. Adam Mathews: Oh, yeah, or you've somehow find yourself listening to the country station on Pandora, and every song is about an affair. Laurie Watson: Right. Right, exactly. It's easy to get triggered. Adam Mathews: But you have to kind of be, learn how to deal with those triggers in your relationship and move forward, so really, just encourage you, if this is something that's happened in your relationship, don't ignore it. Please don't ignore it. Laurie Watson: Yeah. Don't sweep it under the rug. Adam Mathews: Don't sweet it under the rug. It's a big deal. Laurie Watson: And don't believe that your only choice is bitterness, that you just have to swallow that this is what happened. Adam Mathews: Absolutely. Yes. Laurie Watson: We believe in forgiveness that there's a way, and it doesn't mean that you forget or that you look the other way. It's a way that you truly work through. Adam Mathews: Absolutely. Laurie Watson: Thanks for listening. Adam Mathews: You can now call in your questions to the Foreplay question voicemail. Dial 833-MY4-PLAY. That's 833, the number four, play, and we'll use the questions for our mailbag episodes. Laurie Watson: Hey, help us stay on top here at Foreplay. We'd love it if you would subscribe and share it with your friends, and please take one sec and rate and review us. Thanks so much. Adam Mathews: All content is for entertainment purposes only, and should not be considered as a substitute for therapy by a licensed clinician or as medical advice from a doctor.
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Oct 04, 2019 |
197: Your Sexual Style
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We all fall into relational patterns in how we initiate sex and respond to initiation, how/when/where we have sex, how frequently, how freely we talk about sex, and so on. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the various styles and how you can spice it up to keep it hot! Take our demographic survey!
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Sep 27, 2019 |
196: Becoming Cliterate with Dr. Laurie Mintz
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Dr. Laurie Mintz is the author of 'Becoming Clitorate'. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson as she and Dr. Mintz talk about Orgasmic Equality.
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Sep 20, 2019 |
195: September 2019 Mailbag
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Are you being used for sex? What is it like to be in a pursuer-pursuer relationship? And more! Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they handle your questions. To submit your question click here! If you haven't subscribed please do! It drives our prominence in your favorite podcast source. Finally, if you haven't already, please take a moment and complete our short demographic survey.
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Sep 12, 2019 |
194: Male Menopause
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Do men go through menopause? Listen in with sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about what happens to men as they age.
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Sep 06, 2019 |
193: August 2019 Mailbag
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Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they answer your questions!
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Aug 30, 2019 |
192: Faking Orgasms
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A certain proportion of women will fake an orgasm to reassure their partner. Laurie says this is short-sighted! Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about why women fake orgasms and how to change. Check out our sponsors! Limited spots available! November 15-17
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Aug 22, 2019 |
191: Forgiveness
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Forgiveness is essential for long lasting love and great sex. Unforgiveness robs a relationship of intimacy, both physical and emotional. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about how to forgive the big hurts and the little hurts that happen in a relationship. Please help us out by subscribing and giving us a rating and review! Also if you haven't yet filled out our 8-question demographic survey, it helps us get to know you, our great audience!
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Aug 16, 2019 |
190: Honeymooning Anytime
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The focus of a honeymoon ought to be sex. Whether you are newly married or have been partnered for awhile, getting away for a few days strictly devoted to sex is a great boost to any couple. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share some tips for a great sex time away. Also fill out our short (8-question) survey!
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Aug 09, 2019 |
189: Interview with Erica Delong
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We have special guest Erica Delong! She joins Laurie and talks about being a female sexual pursuer. Find out what it's like! Help us out by hitting the Subscribe button! Finally, take a minute and fill out our 8-question survey. Let us know who you are!
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Aug 02, 2019 |
188: Riding the Crimson Tide
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To have sex or refrain from sex during a woman's period? Research shows that there are 4 different reactions women have about sex on their periods. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk through the issues about sex on periods. Please take a moment and subscribe so that you don’t miss any of our episodes! Also check out our Fall retreat at LoveandSex360.com. Finally, please answer our 8-question demographic survey!
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Jul 25, 2019 |
187: Sexual State of the Union
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Talking regularly about the state of your sexual union is essential to achieving and maintaining a satisfying sexual relationship. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to accomplish a regular state of the union. Please take a moment and subscribe so that you don't miss any of our episodes! Also check out our Fall retreat at LoveandSex360.com. Finally, please answer our 8-question demographic survey!
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Jul 19, 2019 |
186: Mailbag - July 2019
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Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they answer your questions! In this episode: Diagnosing problems with oral sex; and female sexual pursuers and male sexual pursuers. Please take a moment and subscribe so that you don't miss any of our episodes! Also check out our Fall retreat at LoveandSex360.com. Finally, please answer our 8-question demographic survey!
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Jul 12, 2019 |
185: Autopsy of a Sexless Marriage
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Why and how does the frequency of sex decrease in a marriage to the point where it rarely happens? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they dissect the genesis of a sexless marriage. Also we'd love to find out more about our listeners. Please fill out our short demographic survey!
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Jul 05, 2019 |
184: Fourth of July Fireworks
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Fourth of July fireworks in the sky are great, but what about fireworks in bed? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and Couples Therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the two important factors for great sex on the Fourth and any time: fantasy and seduction. Take a moment to subscribe to our podcast on iTunes so you automatically get all our episodes! Also we want to know you, our listeners better! If you have not done so, please take our short, 8-question demographic survey.
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Jun 28, 2019 |
183: My Mother is a Sex Therapist
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What is it like growing up with a mother who is a sex therapist? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and her son, sex therapist Reed Watson as they talk about the unique experiences of growing up with a mother who is a sex therapist.
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Jun 21, 2019 |
182: Virgin Sex--10 Steps to Make It Good
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Our first sexual experience ought to be good. Even if your first sexual experience is in the rear-view mirror, understanding what would make it good through these 10 steps can help your sex life today. Also a great resource to share with someone heading toward their first sexual experience. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson as she shares how to make that first sexual experience good. Take a quick minute and fill out our listener survey. Please also Rate and Review us on iTunes or your favorite podcast source.
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Jun 14, 2019 |
181: Saying It Better So You Can Do it Better
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Good communication leads to more intimacy which leads to more and better sex. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about communicating better so that you can do it better. Spend a moment and take our 8-question survey.
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Jun 07, 2019 |
180: My Side of the Bed
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Being connected with your partner is essential to communication and intimacy, but requires being able to take your partner's perspective. When we get stuck on 'our side of the bed' and have difficulty grasping what it is like from our partner's point of view, empathy becomes impossible. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to check out 'the other side of the bed'. If you listen to us through iTunes, please take a moment and rate and review us. Also, we want to know our listeners better! Help us by filling out our 8-question demographic survey.
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May 31, 2019 |
179: The Perfect Argument
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Learning to argue is essential for intimacy and therefore great sex in a relationship, but is often avoided by couples at all costs. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about how to have healthy arguments. Please take a moment and fill out our 8-question demographic survey so that we can know you better!
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May 24, 2019 |
178: Too Tired For Sex
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We live our lives on overload: work commitments, family commitments, making dinner, chores, the necessities of everyday life can crowd out sex by making us too tired. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples' therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about ways to deal with the burden and make room for sex. Take our quick 8-question survey here!
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May 17, 2019 |
177: May 2019 Mailbag
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The May 2019 Mailbag episode is here! Sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews take your questions and give you great advice. In today's episode, Laurie and Adam answer questions on what to do after an emotional affair, how to break the ice and have sex for two anxious people, and what does it mean to be 'safe', and others! Take a moment and fill in our 8-question listener survey here!
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May 10, 2019 |
176: Sex Game to Change the Game
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Unhealthy power dynamics in relationships can hamper connection. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the pursuer-distancer dance through the lens of power. Take our short demographic survey here!
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May 03, 2019 |
175: Infertility Grief and Sex
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For National Infertility Awareness Week, Foreplay's sex therapist and author Laurie Watson discusses the impact of infertility, both permanent and episodic, on a couple's sexual relationship.
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Apr 26, 2019 |
174: Sexual Equality
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Sometimes in committed relationship sex becomes unbalanced and the mutuality of the experience goes out the window. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about how to achieve a mutually satisfying relationship.
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Apr 19, 2019 |
173: The Eight Worst Sex Mistakes
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Beware of these 8 sex mistakes! Every couple can fall into these bedroom traps. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples' therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they identify the big mistakes that destroy great sex!
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Apr 12, 2019 |
172: The Secret Emotional Life of Men
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Men are often viewed as mostly manly when they are least emotional. This dichotomy is confusing to men and leads them to most often shut down their emotions. Their partners are often starved for the emotional side of their men. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the secret emotional life of men. Let us know more about you! Take our short, 8-question demographic survey.
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Apr 05, 2019 |
171: Sexual Resilience
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In a committed relationship, challenges of all sorts impact both parties. Resilience is the power and capacity to use these struggles to draw closer together and makes our relationship stronger. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explain sexual resilience. Tell us more about you! Take our listener survey!
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Mar 29, 2019 |
170: Female Sexual Pursuers
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Women sexual pursuers are more common than our culture assumes. A woman who wants sex is sometimes viewed as a slut or whore, and is subject to negative feedback. What women sexual pursuers have in common is a solid erotic core. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss developing an erotic core. Also let us know about you! Fill in our short, 8-question demographic survey.
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Mar 22, 2019 |
169: The Change
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What goes on during menopause? What exactly is changing? What can be done to mitigate the changes from menopause? Join sex therapist and best-selling author Laurie Watson and couples’ therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they take a deep dive into the issues around menopause. Help us get to know you better! Fill in a short questionnaire.
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Mar 15, 2019 |
168: March 2019 Mailbag
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Listener questions answered! The problems with quick orgasms; pursuer shutdown frustrations, and listening to actions versus listening to words. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they respond to listener questions.
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Mar 08, 2019 |
167: Sexual Positions
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Different sex positions have different pluses and minuses in different situations. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss different positions for sex and where they each shine! Let us know about you! Take our demographic survey here!
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Mar 01, 2019 |
166: Unmet Expectations
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We bring our expectations along with us into any situation. Particularly with our partner, we have a host of expectations that we want our partner to fulfill. A couple can run into problems if their expectations are not discussed, negotiated, and clarified. Join sex therapist Dr. Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about expectations in our relationships.
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Feb 22, 2019 |
165: Sleeping with a Narcissist
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Are you sleeping with a narcissist? What is a narcissist in any case? The term is floated around casually and often unhelpfully. Join sex-therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about narcissism in a sexual relationship. Please let us know more about you! Take our demographic survey at foreplayrst.com/listener-survey.
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Feb 15, 2019 |
164: Overcome the Valentine's Day Curse
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Get geared up for a great, romantic Valentine's Day! Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss ways to make Valentine's Day romantic and overcome the Valentine's Day curse! Help us get to know you by filling out our demographic survey! Click here.
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Feb 08, 2019 |
163: More Sex, More Money
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The key to a great relationship, the hottest sex, the most money, the best connection, comes from secure attachment. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about how to become more securely attached. Take our quick demographic survey! Foreplay Survey.
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Feb 01, 2019 |
162: Fellatio
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Following on last week's podcast on cunnilingus, this week we talk about fellatio for the fellows! Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews talk about fellatio! Take a moment and fill out our demographic survey. We want to find out more about our listeners. Listener Survey! Thanks!
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Jan 25, 2019 |
161: Cunnilingus
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For the majority of women, oral sex is the best way to climax. Often however it gets caught up in the power struggle of the pursuer and distancer. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews get to the specifics of oral sex for her.
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Jan 18, 2019 |
160: The Great American Vibrator
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Gain orgasmic security with the Great American Vibrator! Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk all things buzzing. The vibrator that Laurie recommends is available through Amazon here. Help us know you better by filling out our listener demographic survey at our survey.
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Jan 11, 2019 |
159: Fantasy in Relationships -- Part 2
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Fantasy can play an important part in a committed relationship. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson in a seminar discuss fantasy and common obstacles to satisfying sex. We are asking listeners to fill out a short, 8 question survey so that we can find out more about our listeners. The survey can be found here.
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Jan 04, 2019 |
158: Relationship Goals for the New Year
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Set relationship goals that cannot fail! 97% of new years resolutions fail. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss making great relationship goals for 2019. We are asking listeners to fill out a short, 8 question survey so that we can find out more about our listeners. The survey can be found here.
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Dec 28, 2018 |
157: Fantasy in Relationships
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Fantasy can play an important part in a committed relationship. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson in a seminar discuss fantasy and common obstacles to satisfying sex. We are asking listeners to fill out a short, 8 question survey so that we can find out more about our listeners. The survey can be found here.
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Dec 21, 2018 |
156: Mailbag - Self consciousness about sex, intrusive thoughts, and date night sex
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Self-consciousness about sex and talking about sex can get in the way of our intimacy and enjoyment of sex. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about reducing self-consciousness, dealing with intrusive thoughts, and date night sex. Help us get to know you better by taking a short, 8-question survey. Click here.
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Dec 14, 2018 |
155: Holiday Naughty and Nice Ideas
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The holidays can be stressful for many reasons. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they go through the list of naughty and nice ideas for the holiday. We want to find out more about our listeners! Please click this link to a short, 8-question demographic survey.
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Dec 07, 2018 |
154: Sex After Kids
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Having kids can radically change sex for couples and can complicate our sex lives for a number of reasons. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they work through the issues around sex after kids.
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Nov 29, 2018 |
153: Body Image
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Next to relational distress, a negative body image is the biggest disruptor for derailing sex and desire. While this has traditionally been a woman's struggle, increasingly it is also an isue for men. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about body image issues.
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Nov 23, 2018 |
152: Criticism
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Criticism can be destructive to our relationships. In the fourth and final of Gottman's 'Four Horseman' series, Laurie and Adam address this destructive behavior and distinguish it for communicating complaints in your relationship.
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Nov 16, 2018 |
151: Sex and Anxiety
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Anxiety can interfere with sexual satisfaction. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to deal with sex and anxiety.
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Nov 09, 2018 |
150: Mailbag: Listener Questions Answered
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Dr. Adam and Laurie are back at it again answering your listener questions! In today's episode they cover topics on getting your needs met, trusting your partner, a listener's boyfriend struggling with the death of a beloved pet and more! Love us? Support us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Nov 02, 2018 |
149: Defensiveness
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Continuing Gottman's Four Horseman series, Dr. Adam and Laurie dive deep into defensive behavior. Tune in to learn how to spot defensiveness within yourself and your partner. In this episode they offer advice on what to do with this common yet powerful emotion. Love us on Patreon www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Oct 26, 2018 |
148: Getting Pregnant
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Sexual problems and the quest for getting pregnant plague more couples than you'd think. The stress of conceiving can often prolong the process. Laurie and Dr. Adam talk infertility, conception and remaining calm with a common goal of pregnancy in mind. Love us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Oct 19, 2018 |
147: Sex and Depression
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Dr. Adam and Laurie discuss the complicated relationship between sex and depression in both men and women. They discuss symptoms and how to stay connected when your relationship is impacted by this all too common mental health issue. Love us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Oct 12, 2018 |
146: Mailbag: Listener Questions Answered
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Laurie and Dr. Adam answer listener questions about sexual confidence, bringing a third person into a marriage, a porn addicted father and more! Love us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Oct 05, 2018 |
145: Say Yes to Sex!
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How to say yes to sex! Just because you or your partner is a sexual distancer may not mean you don't want to have sex. Some distancers have difficultly saying yes in the moment. Dr.Adam and Laurie explore how to get over the ''let's go for it'' hurdle. Love us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Sep 28, 2018 |
144: Stonewalling
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What to do when your partner shuts down. In the second of Gottman's 'Four Horseman' series, Dr. Adam and Laurie address this destructive behavior and how to get through the seemingly unbreakable barriers of a silent a partner. Like us? Send us some love on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Sep 21, 2018 |
143: 10 Tips to Rekindle Romance
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How to bring back the fun and romance into your relationship with these 10 easy tips. Listen in on Laurie’s controversial advice on becoming the "most romantic man in the universe"! Follow us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Sep 14, 2018 |
142: Before Marriage
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What is the number one most important trait in a good partner? Tune in to find out! In this episode Laurie and Dr. Adam explore the importance of sexual attraction vs emotional attraction. They also reveal red flags to look out for before you fully commit. Love us on Patreon! www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Sep 07, 2018 |
141: Porn: Good or Bad?
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Porn use can bring out strong reactions on both sides: Some view it as a minor impact on a marriage while others feel it is equivalent to cheating. Dr. Adam and Laurie explore porn’s impact on the sexual partnership and the place of fantasy within a monogamous marriage. Love us on Patreon!: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Aug 31, 2018 |
140: Contempt 911
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Contempt, one of the most dangerous emotions in a relationship. This episode covers the markers of contemptuous behavior and why it's so destructive to a marriage. Laurie and Dr. Adam offer advice on recognizing this powerful emotion and how to bring the humanity back into your relationship. Support us on Patreon! www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Aug 24, 2018 |
139: Inside the Mind of the Sexual Distancer
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Adam is back in part two of our two-part series on resolving the demand-withdraw sexual cycle. Why does sex feel so much riskier to the distancer than the pursuer? Laurie and Adam give tips on how distancers can better communicate their needs and how both partners can provide clarity and security in this all too common relationship dance. Support us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Aug 17, 2018 |
138: Inside the Mind of the Sexual Pursuer
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What in the world are they thinking? Today's episode is the first of a two-part series about resolving the demand-withdraw sex cycle between partners. Laurie addresses the expectations of the "sexual pursuer" and how to relieve the negative thought patterns that damage your marriage. Find us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Aug 10, 2018 |
137: Special Guests: Anatomy of Marriage
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We've got a special treat today! Seth and Melanie, from the Anatomy of Marriage podcast, share how they emerged from crisis in their marriage by developing tools for better communication, shedding shame and understanding their family of origins. Tune in, you don't want to miss this in-depth discussion. Love us? Support us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Aug 03, 2018 |
136: Self-care (for Men)
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Guys need self-care too! Men tend to run on low batteries without knowing handy ways of taking care of their bodies and minds. Dr. Adam and Laurie deliver practical tips on how to be present with yourself and in your relationship as a man or a woman. Love us? Support us on Patreon! www.foreplayrst.com
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Jul 27, 2018 |
135: Daring to be Vulnerable
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How to share your true-self with your partner. Laurie and Dr. Adam dive deep into what vulnerability really means for men (and women too). Love us? Support us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Jul 20, 2018 |
134: Premature Ejaculation
28:03
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The easiest sexual problem to cure is often the most difficult to talk about. Dr. Adam and Laurie tackle the confusion and embarrassment associated with premature ejaculation. They offer help on addressing it with your partner and techniques for improving staying power. Love us? Support us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Jul 13, 2018 |
133: Mailbag: Listener Questions Answered
20:49
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Laurie and Dr. Adam answer listener questions! A fiancé suddenly experiences attraction troubles, mental health, switching distancer and pursuer roles, and a question from a young woman about the screaming pleasure she sees in the movies. Don't miss this episode! Like us? Support us on Patreon! www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Jul 06, 2018 |
132: Sex Isn't Everything
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Believe it or not sex isn't everything! A well-rounded relationship includes other aspects like shared aspirations, friendship and intimacy. Can you have a great relationship without good sex? Can you have great sex without a good relationship? Tune in to find out. Love us? Support us on Patreon! www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Jun 29, 2018 |
131: Friendships
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How do friendships impact romantic relationships? Dr. Adam and Laurie discuss keeping your individuality while maintaining a strong bond with your spouse. How to talk about friendship boundaries, the positives of a strong community and how trouble in your friends' relationships can affect your own! Love us? Join the community on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Jun 22, 2018 |
130: Getting Naked
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Today's episode is all about nakedness. Why we grow to be self-conscious, positive self-talk and how getting naked in front of your partner builds intimacy and attachment. Shed the shame, shed the clothes! Love us? Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Jun 15, 2018 |
Suicide Prevention
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Recognizing symptoms of depression and hopelessness in your loved one. Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
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Jun 12, 2018 |
129: Mailbag: Listener questions answered
24:29
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Today Dr. Adam and Laurie answer your burning listener questions. They cover everything from separate bedrooms to sexting to smoking pot and low libido! Tune in to get answers to the questions you've always wanted to ask. Have a question of your own? Email us at info@foreplayrst.com. Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/foreplayrst/memberships
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Jun 08, 2018 |
128: Sex and Alcohol
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The effects of alcohol on sexual performance and satisfaction are complicated. Dr. Adam and Laurie debate the pros and cons of this widely used social lubricant in your sex life. Love us? Support us on Patreon! www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Jun 01, 2018 |
127: When does sex end?
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Just because he orgasms doesn’t mean sex is over! To know when sex ends first we have to know what sex actually is. Join us as Laurie and Dr. Adam cover the sex cycle and how ending it right can improve your overall sense of satisfaction and desire. Love us? Support us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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May 27, 2018 |
126: 7 Sex Dos and Don'ts
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Don't miss these common dos and don'ts! Covering everything from phone etiquette to laughing at your loved one's short comings, Laurie and Dr. Adam give great tips on definitely what NOT to do between the sheets. Like us? Supports us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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May 18, 2018 |
125: Dividing Chores for Better Sex
23:07
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Dr. Adam and Laurie delve into the dirty details of how splitting your household tasks can impact your sex life. Like us? Become a Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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May 11, 2018 |
124: Is age really just a number?
24:53
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Even a five to ten year age difference can have a meaningful impact on communication, health and sexpectations. Dr. Adam and Laurie tackle blending families and other issues that can arise when marrying someone older or younger than yourself. Love us? Support us on Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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May 04, 2018 |
123: Sex and Self-Confidence
27:25
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How to end the comparison game. Laurie and Dr. Adam discuss positive self-talk and tools for forgetting that critical voice, in and out of the bedroom. Support us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst
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Apr 27, 2018 |
122: Morning Sex
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Equally loved and loathed by many, today's hot topic is all about getting busy in the AM. Dr. Adam and Laurie give tips on how to make morning sex great and delve into the biological differences between the genders in when they want it most.
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Apr 20, 2018 |
121: What Happens in Sex Therapy
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What goes on in the sex therapist's office? This week Laurie and Dr. Adam dispel popular myths around their practices and discuss who can benefit from talking to a trained professional. Like what you here? Support us on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/foreplayrst.
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Apr 13, 2018 |
120: Facebook Friends and Exes in Town
29:28
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Setting good boundaries with your partner shouldn't feel like a power struggle. Sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples counselor Dr. Adam Mathews discuss safeguarding your relationship and what to do if those boundaries get crossed.
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Apr 06, 2018 |
119: Sex Advice for Young Couples
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Struggling with sexual problems in your 20s? You're not alone! In today's mailbag episode Dr. Adam and Laurie discuss common reasons for trouble in the bedroom, even for couples who are just getting started. Support us on Patreon at www.patreon.com/foreplayrst!
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Mar 30, 2018 |
118: Sexual Addiction and the Hole in the Soul
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Sexual addiction or sexually compulsive behaviors involve using increasingly risky sexual actions to fill an inner emptiness. What is sexual addiction; what it is not. Healing the rift with EFT therapy. Support us on Patreon at www.patreon.com/foreplayrst!
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Mar 24, 2018 |
117: Stealing the Covers and Other Nighttime Disturbances
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How you handle the non-sexual behaviors we share with our partner in bed – both positive and negative – can draw us together or drive us apart. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about stealing the covers and snoring. Support us on Patreon at www.patreon.com/foreplayrst!
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Mar 16, 2018 |
116: Affair Discovery
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Affair discovery! To-do's and not to-do’s in the first few moments after discovering your partner is having an affair. While sexual betrayal strikes at the very heart of commitment, marriages and partnerships can often emerge stronger after an affair. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples' therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk through the steps to take if you find your partner has been having an affair.
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Mar 09, 2018 |
115: Sexual Perfectionism
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Having high standards and being driven to meet them can produce good results in life. But in your sexual relationship, being a perfectionist can be a problem. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to deal with sexual perfectionism in yourself and your partner.
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Mar 02, 2018 |
114: What to Do When Your Partner Says No
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Handling a rejection when we want to be intimate can sting. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk through how to handle sexual rejection.
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Feb 25, 2018 |
113: Treating Erectile Dysfunction
35:25
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Erectile Dysfunction has many potential causes and ways of treatment. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk with urologist Dr. Ryan Terlecki about the various ways of treatment of ED.
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Feb 18, 2018 |
112: Valentine's Day 2018
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Sexiest day of the year! Don't think you can write this day off as a greeting card holiday. Why sex is essential on Valentine's Day. Learn what Laurie and Adam are doing with their spouses to celebrate!
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Feb 11, 2018 |
111: Male Sexual Desire Disorder
26:59
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Men can have low libido and low sexual frequency for a number of reasons.Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Adam Mathews as they discuss the various causes of male sexual desire disorder and what to do about it.
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Feb 05, 2018 |
110: Dating and Sex after Divorce
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The challenges that a divorced person faces when they begin to date again are real and painful. Even more complications come when you start a sexual relationship after divorce. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the whens, hows, and whys of dating and sex after divorce.
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Jan 28, 2018 |
109: Her Arousal on Thursday Night
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Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson as she gets down to the fine details of women's arousal patterns in this solo episode of Foreplay!
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Jan 22, 2018 |
108: Pursuer Pitfalls
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What to do if you are a sexual pursuer and you feel constantly rejected and even the sex you have feels perfunctory? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the changes to make if you fall into the Pursuer Pitfalls.
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Jan 14, 2018 |
107: The Ultimate Sex Game
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The path to a long-term successful relationship requires putting your relationship above your individual interests, which runs counter to where we always start and where our culture starts, which is 'me first.' Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to win the relationship game and how to avoid 'starfish sex.'
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Jan 07, 2018 |
106: Relational Resolutions 2018
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New Years is commonly time for resolutions. But often those resolutions aren't about our primary relationships. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share their own goals for 2018 and how to formulate effective relational goals.
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Dec 31, 2017 |
105: Ghosts of Christmas Past
27:46
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The holidays can evoke memories and strong feelings about our families. Managing these experiences in the holidays is a path of growth. Join sex therapist and acclaimed author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about dealing with our sexual pasts.
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Dec 26, 2017 |
104: Grieving What Hasn't Been
29:00
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Each of us has unreal expectations and fantasies about our partner and our relationship. When we are realistic about our sex lives, we can let go of, and decide to grieve, the losses of our idealizations of our partner and our sex lives. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about what and how to grieve.
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Dec 17, 2017 |
103: I am Good, You are Bad
28:33
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Black and white thinking is something that we can often fall into with our partner; doing so seems like it simplifies the world. But rigid black and white splitting is unrealistic and damaging. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how black and white thinking impacts your relationship and your sex life.
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Dec 11, 2017 |
102: Leaving a Sexual Intimacy Legacy
26:55
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While we don’t often think of it in terms of our sex life, we leave our children a sexual intimacy legacy. Becoming more intentional about how we embody our sexual relationship directly and indirectly impacts our children. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about leaving a vibrant relational and sexual intimacy to the next generation.
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Dec 03, 2017 |
101: Why Men Don't Talk
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The strong, silent type is the culturally-valued view of classic manhood. Join nationally acclaimed author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about this classic archetype of manhood. Note to our listeners: We have solved the sound problems that have plagued our recording sessions over the past 8 episodes. Since we record once a month for 3 to 5 episodes, it took us some testing and switching out equipment to figure out the problem. We have solved the issue(s) that were plaguing our system. This is the final poor-quality episode. Clear sailing from here out. In this episode, we are offering a Foreplay RST coffee mug for the first 3 listeners who send us a rating/review on iTunes. Here’s what you need to do: go to iTunes on your computer (it doesn’t work on iPhones); search the store for Foreplay and click through to our page on the iTunes store. Click on ‘Rating and Reviews’ toward the top of the page. Then under ‘Customer Reviews’ click on the ‘Write a Review’ button and you will be able to rate us and write a review. Email us a screenshot of your review to info@foreplayrst.com. We’ll randomly draw three names from the emails we receive and we’ll send you out a Foreplay RST coffee mug!
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Nov 26, 2017 |
100: A Sexual Feast
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Just as in feasts like Thanksgiving, where we take our ordinary day-to-day activities and raise them to a new level, our sexual lives benefit greatly from quarterly sexual feasts – times together where our sexual times together get to a new level. Join national author and popular sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the benefits and how-to’s of having a sexual feast. Note to our listeners: We have figured out our technical recording problems and are back to the quality levels that we have set for ourselves. However, we have one more (Episode #101 next week) that was recorded while we were still having problems.
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Nov 19, 2017 |
99: How Your Attachment Style Impacts Your Sex Life
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How does your attachment style impact your sexual relationship? Join popular author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to know what your attachment style is and how it impacts your sex life.
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Nov 12, 2017 |
98: When Sex Goes Wrong
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Many things can make sex goes wrong; some have easy fixes. Join acclaimed author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist as Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the things that can wrong and what to do about it.
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Nov 05, 2017 |
97: Optimal Sex and the Best Orgasms
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Reaching orgasm is only the beginning. Optimal sex involves deeper connection and leads to more satisfying sex and even better orgasms. Join sex therapist and acclaimed author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about how to get the most meaningful sex and the best orgasms.
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Oct 30, 2017 |
96: #MeToo
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#metoo - Laurie and Adam discuss their professional and personal experience with abuse and harrassment. In a serious conversation, they raise futher awareness about the stats and real situations of harassment and assault women face and why it matters.
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Oct 22, 2017 |
95: Get More Sex Now -- Increasing Sexual Frequency
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Husband’s positive behavior toward partner increases frequency of sex – but don’t wait too long to be positive guys. Even if you don’t feel like being positive, being positive is the route to more sex. What is positive behaviors? “Saying I love you” • “Making partner life” • “Engaging in physical intimacy outside of sex” • “Appreciative expressions” and more. Tune in to sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share what works in increasing sex frequency.
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Oct 15, 2017 |
94: Seven Ways to Increase Her Orgasmic Power
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Oct 08, 2017 |
93: The Complexity of Male Sexuality
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The expectations in relationship and in our culture for what it means to be a man often comes down to a big erection that works every time. The prevalence of porn has communicated unrealistic ideas about sex and sexuality. Join sex therapist and popular author Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the complexity of male sexuality.
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Oct 01, 2017 |
92: Secure Attachment Equals Plenty of Sex
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A thriving, vibrant sexual relationship develops best in our relationship when we feel safe and secure and when we help our partner feel safe and secure. Join sex therapist and popular author Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about how to move to a more secure relationship.
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Sep 24, 2017 |
91: Adam's Midlife Crisis Plan and Help with Hot Sex
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Do you want long-term great sex? We have your growth plan and challenges mapped out. Join sex therapist and popular author and blogger Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share how to have great sex for a lifetime. Laurie's blogs can be found on WebMD and Psychology Today where Laurie's blogs are frequently rated the most popular. Laurie's counseling center can be found at AwakenLoveandSex.com and Adam can be reached at mathewscounseling.net.
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Sep 17, 2017 |
90: Sexual Pursuer Rescue Plan
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Sexual pursuers can sabotage themselves through their own thinking about sex in the midst of the experience. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson as she talks about how sexual pursuers can manage their desire for great sex.
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Sep 10, 2017 |
89: Mailbag -- Bodily Functions and Syncing Sex
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Today's Mailbag Topics: Living in an intimate relationship includes sharing spaces and being exposed to our partner in ways that may not be appealing; and how to sync up the best times for sex. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they take questions from listeners. If you have a question for a mailbag episode, email us at info@foreplayrst.com. We are also set up now to take live callers. If you want to do a live mailbag episode, send us an email and we will arrange a time to have you call in!
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Sep 03, 2017 |
88: Mid-life Crises and Sex
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Mid-life crises are often caricatured, but often in our 50’s there is a real change in sex – declining abilities and physical attraction. These changes can be disruptive to our relationship unless handled well. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples’ therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to successfully handle mid-life crises with tips that work even if you are young!
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Aug 27, 2017 |
87: Ten Mistakes Couples Make about Sex - Part B
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Couples in committed relationships fall into certain traps and mistakes. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples' therapist, Dr. Adam Mathews, as they cover the second five of 10 Mistakes Couples Make about Sex.
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Aug 20, 2017 |
86: Ten Mistake Couples Make about Sex
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Couples in committed relationships fall into certain traps and mistakes. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples' therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they cover the first five of 10 Mistakes Couples Make about Sex.
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Aug 13, 2017 |
85: Friendship and Sex
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Relationships have three broad areas of relating: the mundane details that must be done in live, sexual intimacy, and being friends -- liking our partner, enjoying their company, sharing the details of our inner worlds. The best relationships manage to have all three work; imbalance among them leads to problems. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about balancing these three essential arenas of relationship.
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Aug 06, 2017 |
84: Involuntary Celibacy
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Involuntary celibacy (going more than 6 months without intercourse) within a committed relationship occurs more frequently than you would imagine. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the reasons behind involuntary celibacy and what couples can do to address (and avoid) it.
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Jul 30, 2017 |
83: Male Pursuit and Female Resistance
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After the wedding day, it is often easy for each partner to take their partner for granted. Men need to continue to pursue their partners. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk to caller Joe from Raleigh about men pursuing their partners.
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Jul 23, 2017 |
82: Weight, Sex, and Marriage
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Weight, sex, and marriage – Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they wade into the sensitive and dicey topic of weight gain in marriage and how it can impact a couple’s sexual relationship.
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Jul 17, 2017 |
81: Pleasure
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Pleasure can often be hard to arrive at with our performance-oriented, accomplishment seeking culture. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about what keeps us from pleasure and how to encourage pleasure with your partner.
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Jul 12, 2017 |
80: Ending the Fight
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Fighting in relationship is unavoidable with two people with natural differences. Often because our wants and needs are involved, our fights in committed relationships can escalate emotionally. How to fight fairly and how to end a fight are equally important. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss how to end a fight.
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Jul 09, 2017 |
79: Impact of Stress on Sex
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Stress impacts sexual desire for both men and women. For women, stress can lower desire; for men, it can either lower or increase desire. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss stress and sex.
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Jul 03, 2017 |
78: Medical Challenges and Disabilities
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Both short-term and long-term medical challenges/disabilities can impact a committed relationship. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss how to handle these difficult situations.
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Jun 25, 2017 |
77: Long-distance Relationships
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Some couples are faced at times with relating over a long-distance, whether due to business travel, being in the military, school, etc. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Laurie Watson talk through how to survive long-distant relationships both sexually and emotionally in a committed relationship.
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Jun 18, 2017 |
76: Confidence in Your Sexual Self
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From adolescence onward, culturally we are expected to be sexually confident, often with no space for a learning curve. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews talk about developing sexual self-confidence.
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Jun 11, 2017 |
75: Trust
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Trust is a foundational element in a relationship. In our sexual relationship, part of trust is worshiping our partner with our bodies. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore building trust and how it is broken in relationship.
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Jun 05, 2017 |
74: Jealousy
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Can jealousy be healthy? If so, how? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how jealousy can be healthy and be helpful to a committed relationship.
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May 28, 2017 |
73: Getting Comfortable Talking about Sex
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Getting comfortable talking about sex and what you want in bed is directly correlated to satisfaction in committed relationships. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they help you get comfortable talking about sex. From a talk given by Laurie and Adam at the North Carolina Marriage and Family Therapist annual conference.
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May 24, 2017 |
72: Making Time for Sex
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In our busy lives, sometimes sex is bumped down the priority list by work, children, or other responsibilities. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the necessity of scheduling time for sex.
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May 21, 2017 |
71: Self-forgiveness
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When we are critical and hard on ourselves, intimacy is more difficult. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to forgive yourself.
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May 14, 2017 |
70: Trauma in Your Partner
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What to do if your partner has been sexually traumatized in their past? From big traumas of date rape, sexual assault, or groped to serial sexism or shaming messages about sex. Each trauma has an individual impact. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to relate to a lover who has had trauma.
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May 08, 2017 |
69: Ruthlessness
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The ideal in a sexual relationship includes room for each partner to be ruthless in pursuing their own satisfaction. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the benefits of a ruthless pursuit of sexual satisfaction.
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Apr 30, 2017 |
68: What Women Really Think about Sex
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Now it is the women's turn! In this episode, author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews take up what women really think about sex. Compared to men whose body's testosterone drives sexual desire, for most women, it is their mind and imagination that is the source of their sex drive.
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Apr 23, 2017 |
67: What do men really think about sex?
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What do men really think about sex? Move beyond the stereotypes and join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about what men really think about sex.
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Apr 16, 2017 |
66: Postpartum Issues
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In a response to a reader email, author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews take a deep dive into issues that arize for couples after childbirth.
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Apr 09, 2017 |
65: Questions and Answers with Laurie Watson and Adam Mathews
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Author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews presented a seminar on sex therapy to attendees at the North Carolina Association of Marriage and Family Therapists on March 30, 2017. Here are exceprts from the Question & Answer period.
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Apr 03, 2017 |
64: Mailbag -- Impact of childhood and religious upbringing
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Often our religious and family environments in childhood carry forward into our adult sex lives. Even when we believe and want to be free in bed, often those early messages get in the way of our sexual fulfillment. In this mailbag episode, join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the impact of these early messages and how to overcome them.
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Mar 27, 2017 |
63: Am I Normal?
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Everyone has questions about what is normal in life, but particularly in our sex lives. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about specific questions of what is normal in sex.
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Mar 20, 2017 |
62: Sexual Lulls
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Sexual lulls happen in every committed relationship -- periods of little or no sex. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Adam Mathews as they discuss why sexual lulls happen and how to get out of them.
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Mar 12, 2017 |
61: Emotional Connection
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Emotional connection is not the same as being highly emotional. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews and learn the five ways to build emotional connection with your partner.
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Mar 05, 2017 |
60: Sexual Bids
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Our communication with our lovers (and others) can be broken down into discrete bids for attention and interactions. In thsi episode of Foreplay, sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the role these bids play in seducation and sex.
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Feb 26, 2017 |
59: How to Keep Your Love Alive -- Part 2
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Part 2 of the Keynote Speech author and sex therapist Laurie Watson gave to the Forsyth (NC) Medical Society "How to Keep Your Love Alive. September 1, 2016.
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Feb 23, 2017 |
58: How to Keep Your Love Alive -- Part 1
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Keynote Speech author and sex therapist Laurie Watson gave to the Forsyth (NC) Medical Society "How to Keep Your Love Alive. September 1, 2016.
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Feb 20, 2017 |
57: The Power Struggle
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Every couple struggles in ways that are common -- The Power Struggle. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they dive into the whys and hows of the Power Struggle.
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Feb 16, 2017 |
56: Anal Sex - Why are we talking about it?
25:47
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11803701
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Do women want anal sex? Do they orgasm with anal sex? Do men find it more exciting than vaginal sex? Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews take on this trendy subject with honest answers to your questions.
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Feb 12, 2017 |
55: The Highly Sexual Couple
25:05
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Couples who have consistent, frequent sex have certain characteristics in common. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss these specific characteristics.
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Feb 05, 2017 |
54: Seven Things Not to Say
24:25
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While it is important to be honest in our committed relationships, tact goes a long way to making takling about the sensitive areas surrounding sex. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the seven things not to say to your lover around sex.
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Jan 29, 2017 |
53: Sex and the Working Couple
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Balancing the demands of work with family and your partner can be difficult. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share strategies for keeping your relationship hot with the demands of work and home.
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Jan 22, 2017 |
52: Stages of Sex
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Sex follows a specific pattern from initiation to resolution. Understanding these stages helps to 'know where you are'. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Adam Mathews as they lead you through the stages of sex.
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Jan 14, 2017 |
51: Sex During Pregnancy
28:45
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Through the three trimesters of pregnancy, a woman's body changes in different ways, but that doesn't mean that sex can't be good. Join author and certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the changes in a woman's body at the different stages of pregnancy and how to keep sex alive and hot during pregnancy.
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Jan 07, 2017 |
50: Sex Resolutions for the New Year
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It's a new year and it is time for new year's resolutions -- including for sex! What sexolutions are you setting for 2017? Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the benefits and how-to's of sexolutions for 2017.
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Dec 30, 2016 |
49: Foreplay Mailbag -- Recovering from Infidelity
28:15
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The painful impact of infidelity in a relationship can be overcome with hard work and direct communication. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk through the process of recovering from infidelity.
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Dec 25, 2016 |
48: Sex at the Holidays
25:16
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Straightforward 'how-to' guide to using the time at the holidays to 'sex up' your relationship. Listen as author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Adam Mathews as they talk about sexy gifts and how to further your relationship during the hurly-burly of the holidays.
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Dec 18, 2016 |
47: Pursuers and Distancers in Bed
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Sex is often snagged in the relational problems of attachment -- the pull between closeness and autonomy. To improve sex, understanding this relational tension is essential. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore how pursuers and distancers come together in sex.
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Dec 12, 2016 |
46: Attachment -- the basis for sex
26:44
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The foundation for a healthy sex life comes from our ability to be attached to others. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explain this important foundation for your sex life.
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Dec 05, 2016 |
45: Sex Rules
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Unspoken and explicit rules for sex: when, where, and how sex can happen with your partner can limit our sexual expression. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and pyschotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss bringing these rules into a conversation with our partner.
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Nov 27, 2016 |
44: Seduce Her
29:08
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Often seduction seems to fade after the initial courtship in a committed relationship. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the four questions to discuss with your partner to bring seduction back to a relationship and keep it hot!
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Nov 20, 2016 |
43: Breakdown in Paradise
26:36
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Conflict drives true intimacy! Too many couples want to eliminate conflict in their relationship; but to be intimate requires healthy conflict. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss how to build a backlog of good sex and emotional connectedness that will allow conflicts to help build rather than destroy your relationship.
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Nov 13, 2016 |
42: November 2016 Mailbag
27:12
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Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they answer and discuss letters and questions that you the listeners have sent in. - What if you aren’t currently in a relationship? How do you keep your sexual self alive?
- How can you have a satisfying sexual relationship when one of the people in the couple struggles with chronic pain?
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Nov 06, 2016 |
41: When Your Partner Travels
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What to do if one partner travels? How to manage the separation and make your time together a time for reconnection and building your relationship. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews share ideas for managing the stress of travel.
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Oct 30, 2016 |
40: Make Up Sex
22:51
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Make Up Sex. The best way to end an argument! Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the reasons behind the best sex after a conflict.
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Oct 23, 2016 |
39: Witches, Wenches, and Role Play
28:04
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11803718
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Halloween and sex! What the emphasis on sexuality in women's Halloween costumes reveals about how our current culture views a woman's sexuality. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and her co-host Dr. Adam Mathews hold the mirror of Halloween to discuss the impact of culture on sexuality.
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Oct 16, 2016 |
38: Am I doing it right?
26:24
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11803719
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What can we do when we feel inadequate in bed or fear that we're not doing it right. How to manage the expectations we all have in bed. Join certified sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and her co-host pyschotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews in exploring this sensitive topic.
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Oct 09, 2016 |
37: Breast Cancer
24:54
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Breast cancer survivors suffer additional sexual side effects in addition to the gross impact to her physical breasts. From the point of diagnosis onward, breast cancer has a big impact on a women's sexual life. Join popular author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the huge impact of breast cancer on a woman's sexual relationship. Even if you aren't impacted directly by breast cancer, many of the points Laurie and Adam make can benefit anyone's sex life.
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Oct 02, 2016 |
36: Masturbation
23:33
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Masturbation is often a charged topic with many individuals and couples. The messages we receive about masturbation can influence our current sexual relationships. Join popular author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss maturbation through adolescence and into adulthood, as well as it's impact on coupled sex.
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Sep 25, 2016 |
35: Five Mistakes Men Make in Bed
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Time to turn the tables. This week we take on the men, with 5 common mistakes that men make in bed. Join popular author and certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share these pitfalls to avoid.
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Sep 19, 2016 |
34: The Five Mistakes Women Make in Bed
28:18
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In this solo episode, author and sex therapist Laurie Watson talks about five of the common mistakes women make in bed, including focusing on body flaws and initiating too subtly.
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Sep 12, 2016 |
33: Caveman Sex
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Men and women approach sex often with different views of what is 'ideal'. Men are geared to the immediate, athletic style; women to more sensual and romantic. Balancing these differences can make our sexual relationship dynamic and hot! Join popular author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psycotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews talk about sex from the male viewpoint.
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Sep 05, 2016 |
32: Size Isn't Everything
24:45
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The popular conception is that a larger penis results in better sex. Join author and certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and her co-host psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the real world impact of penis size on sexual satisfaction.
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Aug 29, 2016 |
31: The G Spot
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Is the G-Spot real? Does every woman have one? Where is it? How to stimulate it? Join certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the elusive G-Spot and how to discover it, and employ it in your sex life.
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Aug 21, 2016 |
30: When He's Inhibited
28:52
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Contrary to our cultural assumptions, men can be inhibited sexually just as easily as women. Join certified sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the underlying reasons and cures for sexual inhibition in men.
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Aug 14, 2016 |
29: Physical Attraction
28:46
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Afraid you've lost attraction to your partner? Certified Sex Therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Matthews explain why attraction can lessen in long-term relationships. Learn practical and psychological ways to feel desire again for your partner or spouse. This episode is the final episode with lessened sound quality. We'll be back next week with our awesome quality level of sound.
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Aug 07, 2016 |
28: Erectile Dysfunction
24:22
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Find out the reasons behind Erectile Dysfunction and ways to cope with this syndrome to maintain a satisfying sexual relationship.
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Jul 31, 2016 |
27: Sexy Getaways
24:58
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Find out some great ideas for sexy getaways from certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and Dr. Adam Matthews.
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Jul 25, 2016 |
26: Technology Menage a trois
23:13
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With laptops and smartphones, technology can seem like a third partner in a relationship. Listen to Laurie and Adam suggest ways to deal with this intrusive partner.
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Jul 18, 2016 |
25: Sex after Trauma
25:15
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After a sexual trauma, whether recent or not, a satisfying sexual relationship can be difficult to recover for a women. Listen to Certified Sex Therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Adam Matthews discuss this sensitive topic. Dealing with the shame and pain of a past violation needs to be talked through and healed.
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Jul 11, 2016 |
24: Cunnilingus -- How to please her
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Cunnilingus is an essential part of pleasing your woman. Listen in to a frank, helpful discussion of this essential part of love and sex.
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Jul 03, 2016 |
23: Honeymoon Expectations and Sexpectations
23:09
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With wedding season upon us, Laurie and Adam turn to discussing honeymoons and the relational changes that occur -- even for long-term couples.
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Jun 28, 2016 |
22: Spirituality and sexuality
33:18
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Faith and sexuality are not mutually exclusive, but can support and enhance each other. Often however in many faith practices, even knowledge about sex is ignored or suppressed, which can lead to problems once sex is allowed and expected in marriage. Listen to Laurie Watson and Dr. Adam Mathews discuss this delicate subject.
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Jun 20, 2016 |
21: Desire Discrepancies
42:26
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Discrepancies in desire are a stress on a relationship, and are common at different times in a relationship. Listen to sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and Adam Matthews provide helpful insight and tips for dealing with desire discrepancies in this first Mailbag episode where we respond to your questions. If you have a question, visit us at www.foreplayrst.com.
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Jun 12, 2016 |
20: Talking to your teens about sex
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Following up on last week's episode on talking to your younger children about sex, join Foreplay as we discuss talking to your teenagers about sex. Learn how to not only talk to them, but have them talk to you!
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Jun 06, 2016 |
19: Talking to your children about sex
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Talking to your kids about sex may be the most dreaded conversation for many parents. Some parents may never have a frank discussion with their children on the topic of sex. Learn what to say and when to say it; give your children a great start to a future healthy sexual relationship.
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Jun 01, 2016 |
18: Making Lemonade with Beyoncé
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A woman who is betrayed in a relationship can feel inadequate and insecure. Laurie and Adam use the lyrics of Lemonade by Beyoncé to explore the feelings that follow an affair.
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May 15, 2016 |
17: Affair Recovery
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Recovery from an Affair – The delicate process of recovering
from an affair; what works best for restoring the relationship.
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May 08, 2016 |
16: Pornography
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Pornography – The wide-ranging impact of pornography: what it is
and how it impacts couples, including difficulties in arousal,
attraction, and relationship.
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May 01, 2016 |
15: His and Hers Fantasies
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Fantasies can play an essential role in keeping a sexual
relationship vibrant. Men and women's fantasies differ and
understanding the differences can heighten the couple's experience
together.
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Apr 25, 2016 |
14: Variety
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Variety and creativity in sex can both make our sexual relationship sizzling, but it can also be a source of tension. Join Laurie Watson, author of "Wanting Sex Again" and her co-host discuss variety!
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Apr 10, 2016 |
13: Affairs: What counts?
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What is an affair? It can be broader than sex-outside-the-relationship. Different people have different definitions, which leads to tension within the relationship. Who can we be for our partner? Join Laurie and Tony as they discuss the difficulties of affairs.
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Apr 03, 2016 |
12: Talking
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Talking is one of the most underrated parts of Foreplay... and it can begin in the morning and last all day long. Join Laurie Watson and her co-host Tony Delmedico for this important, and overlooked, way to improve your sex life.
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Mar 28, 2016 |
11: Premature Ejaculation
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Premature Ejacualtion -- the number 1 sexual dysfunction for men is easily cured. Author Michael Castleman joins Laurie and gives vital information about the steps to cure PE.
Visit Michael's amazon page and his blog.
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Mar 25, 2016 |
10: Kissing
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Kissing often falls off in a long-term relationship. As the eyes are the window to the soul, kissing is the window to the heart. Join the conversation with Laurie and Tony!
If you have topics that you'd like to hear about, email us at info@foreplayrst.com.
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Mar 21, 2016 |
9: When Sex Changes
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The frequency of sex in a relationship can change suddenly -- whether on the honeymoon, when partners decide to live together, or at other points when life crowds in and crowds out sex. Join Laurie and Tony as they discuss why this happens and what can be done about it. Email the questions you want Laurie and Tony to address to info@foreplayrst.com. Visit us on the web at www.foreplayrst.com.
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Mar 14, 2016 |
8: 52 and Needing Blue
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Erectile dysfunction in men 45 and older in a partnered relationship is a problem with solutions. Listen to Laurie and Tony distinguish physiological ED and partnered ED and offer approaches to solve this problem in this podcast spurred by a question from a listener. If you want Laurie and Tony to address a question you are concerned about, email info@foreplayrst.com.
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Mar 07, 2016 |
7: She couldn't care less
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Her low libido: sources & cures. What to do when she is happy without sex.
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Feb 29, 2016 |
6: Boobs, Butts, and Bulges
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The erogenous zones and beyond. Talking about how to get your lover hot!
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Feb 22, 2016 |
5: Saying No Without Wounding
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Having your desire synced with your partner's may sound ideal, but rare in practice. Find out how to get back in the game when you are not in the mood.
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Feb 17, 2016 |
4: Parents Still Lovers
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Raising young children can dampen sexual desire and frequency. Find out how to keep it hot when you have tots.
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Feb 15, 2016 |
3: Go Oral or Go Home
25:29
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Men describe the frustration of disappearing oral sex in a committed relationship. Find out how to restore this essential part of foreplay.
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Feb 11, 2016 |
2: Valentine's Day Sexpectations
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Is Valentine's Day a holiday just for her? Or does this big day have mutual obligations?
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Feb 11, 2016 |
1: Her Big O
24:54
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A woman's orgasm is essential to her sexual desire. Find out how to get her there.
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Feb 11, 2016 |
Episode 0: Foreplay
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Foreplay -- What's it all about? Why is foreplay essential for the sex life you want to have. How can you keep your sexual relationship hot!? Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller discuss their goals in offering Foreplay Radio.
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Feb 09, 2016 |