Parenting Beyond Discipline

By Erin Royer - LA's Parenting and Child Development Expert

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Erin Royer, LA's go-to expert on all things parenting and child development for today’s common challenges, covers way more than just discipline. She dives into topics such as self-esteem, development and health, modern parenting issues and even education. Erin is not just knowledgeable but also relatable, warm, and sometimes even funny.

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#199: Guiding Child Low in Perseverence & Preschoolers Name Calling
We hear a lot about strong-willed children. But what about those who give up easily on everything? Erin answers a mom's question about how to guide her child who is low in perseverance in order to become more persistent when tackling anything new that doesn't come easily. Next Erin answers a mom's question about when to step in and when she might want to ignore her preschooler when he/his friends are engaging in name calling. Support this podcast at — Advertising Inquiries:
Sep 16, 2020
#198: How to Setup a Toddler Schedule & Bedtime Meltdowns
Children do better with schedules. It adds a sense of security and normalcy. But some children need schedules even more than others. Learn how to tell if yours is one of these children and how to support them, especially when things need to move around a bit, including tips for outings and vacations. Then the oh-so-common bedtime meltdowns. Erin covers the basic steps for all 3 bedtime methods so parents can decide which one fits them best and some must-know tips to make any of them more successful. Support this podcast at — Advertising Inquiries:
Sep 13, 2020
#197: *Special Edition Co-Parenting Through Divorce I
Welcome to a special edition episode on co-parenting through divorce. This first episode covers is about self-care, coming to your own best decision and doing the emotional work to move forward as healthy as possible for a solid foundation for yourself, your kids and your soon-to-be-ex. If you aren't sure what you want yet, if you are questioning if you are still wanting to work it out, this episode may also offer insights and resources that you help you get clearer in your decision. Support this podcast at — Advertising Inquiries:
Sep 07, 2020
#196: Supporting Your Unique Child
Sometimes we want to protect our kids from life's difficulties, all out of love and well-meaning. But is it really in their best interest? Erin gets out of the box this week about facing our own struggles as parents to let our kids "step into the arena" and take risks and therefore risk failure, heartache and pain. Erin shares her thoughts on weighing helping kids take risks that can give them the courage to show who they are so they have opportunities to win big. How to help kids develop what they need to handle the failures when they fall. Support this podcast at — Advertising Inquiries:
Sep 03, 2020
#195: How to Fix Disrespectful Attitude & More COVID Support Tips
A mom whats to know how to deal with disrespect in the form of demands and tone without going around and around. Erin gives some great general guidelines and six tips for teaching and setting respectful boundaries with young kids. Then 3 questions came in all about parents dealing with preschoolers/toddlers needing a lot of attention and it being a struggle with the continuing lockdown. So Erin gives some words of support and guidance for parents, especially of toddler but some for all parents during this time. Support this podcast at — Advertising Inquiries:
Aug 27, 2020
#194: Protecting Our Families & Others from COVID
Do you have questions or concerns about your kids returning to school and/or their exposure to COVID? Not sure how to get your child to wear a mask or the recommendations from the AAP? This week Erin has a special guest, Dr. Jennifer Variste, a pediatrician on the show to answer all our questions about weighing the pros and cons of back-to-school, and how to minimize our risk for our kids and our families. Support this podcast at — Advertising Inquiries:
Aug 19, 2020
#193: Helping a Perfectionistic/Fixed Mindset Preschooler & Toddler Traumatized Over Infection
What do you do with a preschooler who has a lot of perfectionistic tendencies and inflexibilty when it comes to expectations and outcomes of daily interactions and projects? Erin gives some great tips on helping kids learn to see mistakes as opportunities to learn and grow and how to become more flexible with the expectations from life's circumstances. Then she helps a mom who's son had an infection on his penis and is now averse to allowing anyone to even take a look at it. Erin gives steps for helping this mom and son on a path to healing and learning to trust other's help him get and stay healthy when needed. Support this podcast at — Advertising Inquiries:
Aug 12, 2020
#192: Toddler Crying Over Every Little Thing & Extreme Separation Anxiety/Parental Preference
How do you help a toddler who seems to cry about every little thing? Give a choice? Crying. 1-2-3? Crying. Offer dinner they don't like? Crying. What does a parent do? Erin covers the basics to look into first then goes into additional reasons some toddlers may be more prone to crying over upsets than others and how to help them develop their skills so everyone can be less exhausted and annoyed with all the meltdowns and crying! Also a quick answer for a mom who is asking about extreme separation anxiety and parental preference, even while home! Support this podcast at — Advertising Inquiries:
Aug 07, 2020
#191: Breaking Co-Sleeping Habit & Helping Preschooler Be More Independent in Play
How do you break the habits in sleeping and bedtime when they've been going on for years? Can you do it with little to no tears? Adding complication, this step-parent wants to know if it's even possible given co-sleeping is still happening in the other parent's home? Then, how do you help a preschooler become more independent in their play? A tired mom, is looking for a little more me time! Erin gives some tips on this too! Support this podcast at — Advertising Inquiries:
Jul 30, 2020
#190: Child Gives Up Easily & Toddler Asking About Own Death
A lot of parents struggle with toddlers and children who are overly persistent. But what do you do when your child gives up very easily on small tasks and barely even tries? How do help your child develop more tenacity? What about a toddler who is asking a lot about death, including her own? How do you be honest about death without scaring your child into being concerned about her own? Support this podcast at — Advertising Inquiries:
Jul 23, 2020
#189: Toddler Screaming, Big Bedtime Struggles & 6-Year-Old Not Listening at All!
A double question from one mom with big toddler issues of screaming when upset and super stressful bedtimes, not staying in bed and 1 1/2 to 2 hour bedtimes. Erin helps this mom with lots of tips of where to start and steps to fixing each of these. The second question is from a step mom, really struggling with their 6 year-old who is not listening at home or school and has gotten in trouble at school for his behavior. Support this podcast at — Advertising Inquiries:
Jul 16, 2020
#188: Toddler Sexual Behavior & Raising Strong Girls
Erin answers a question from parents of a very young toddler who is engaging in some sexual-type behavior during car rides and they aren't sure what to do. Another question from a mom who wants some information on how to raise strong girls, how to send messages and support her daughter growing up confident and strong. Support this podcast at — Advertising Inquiries:
Jul 10, 2020
#187: How to Help a 1-Year-Old with Aggression & When a Family Pet Isn't Working Out But Your Child is Attached
How do you help a 1 year old find better ways of sharing frustration when they don't have much language skill yet? Then what do you do when you inherited a family pet but it isn't working out, yet your child has become attached? A mom wants to know how to approach this sensitive situation without breaking her preschooler's heart. Support this podcast at — Want to advertise on this podcast? Go to and sign up.
Jul 03, 2020
#186: Balancing Time Between Siblings & Toddler Aggression w/ Sibling
How do you balance your time between siblings, especially when you have one who is very demanding and the other is not? Erin helps a mom figure out how to work with this family dynamic and the guilt it has brought. How do you protect younger siblings from a toddler who gets physically aggressive? Erin gives 5 tips for working with this scenario and working with an aggressive toddler to protect younger siblings. Support this podcast at — Want to advertise on this podcast? Go to and sign up.
Jun 24, 2020
#185: How to Handle Bossiness in Toddlers

Toddlers can be very bossy, so much so that this episode includes two questions about how to handle bossy and demanding toddlers. How do you handle a toddler telling a parent what to do and the attitude that often accompanies these demands?

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Jun 16, 2020
#184: Designing Developmental Playspace & 3-Year-Old Major Meltdowns

A mom asks about some major meltdowns from her 3 year old that go on for 20-40 minutes over small things, like food breaking. She's tried play therapy, making sure physically all is ok. She has no idea what else to try. She turns to Erin for any additional tips for helping her daughter with her emotional outbursts. But first Erin answers another mom's question looking for some tips about setting up a developmental play space for children, infants through 8.

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Jun 05, 2020
#183: Is Your Child Experiencing Trauma from the Pandemic?

A mom who is adopting asks a question about parenting a child with a history of trauma. However, many kids are experiencing trauma due to the conditions and stresses from the pandemic. So many changes, lives turned upside down. Is your child experiencing some trauma? What does it look like? How do we support kids to heal from trauma be it from a natural disaster like the pandemic or those coming out of the foster/child welfare system? Erin dives into these answers in this episode

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May 29, 2020
#182: Effects of Stay-at-Home on Children's Development & Talking to Kids About Death

Scientist have been studying the effects of the very limited social interaction of children on their metal health and development. Learn what they are finding, if there is cause for concern and things you can do to support their health and development at home. Also a mom asked about what to do or say when her 3 year-old who has been observing dead bugs, and such and asking about death. What do you say or not say to toddler asking about death and what happens when we die?

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May 22, 2020
#181: Raising an Unspoiled Child & Overly Competitive Child

How do you raise a child who is not spoiled? Erin talks about what her understanding of an "unspoiled" child is, and the three areas to focus on to make sure children grow up kind, caring, independent and responsible. The second question is about what to do when a child struggles with competition and gets overly upset when losing. Erin talks about the development of competition in all children and children who naturally have a competitive nature.

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May 14, 2020
#180: Night Time Potty Training & Weaning the Bedtime Bottle

A mom is wondering how to night time potty train when her daughter is waking up with a very full diaper every morning. But she's been daytime trained for over two years. Shouldn't she be ready? What are the steps? Erin answers this plus a question from another mom wondering about how to get rid of the bedtime bottle with her now 4 year-old. He won't take a cup and she's also concerned about his calcium intake if she gets rid of the bottle.

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May 10, 2020
#179: Sibling Bickering & Fights & Potty Training Accidents During Playdates

With so much family togetherness, sibling bickering and fights are definitely a more frequent struggle than ever. Erin answers a mom's question on how to navigate this for both short and long term. A second question about how to handle a play-date guests common potty accident issue, and how to set boundaries with other people's kids, in general.

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May 02, 2020
#178: Middle Night Wake-ups & Long Goodbye's at Dropoff

Erin gives a mom tips for breaking her toddler from middle of the night wake-ups for her bottle, eases a mom's fears about long good-bye's and leaving her son crying at dropoffs, after a few minutes of sharing words of support for parents struggling at home with kids of all ages and their various pain points during safer-at-home.

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Apr 24, 2020
#177: Toddler HATES the car & Rocking/Head Banging to Fall Asleep

How do you handle a toddler who hates the car so much she hyperventilates during a car ride? Erin helps a mom get to the bottom of why this is happening and how to fix it. The second question is a mom dealing with her toddler's head banging and loud rocking at various times throughout the night when he wakes up to put himself back to sleep. Erin shares why this can be happening, if it's normal and when a parent would need to be concerned and want to seek an assessment.

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Apr 09, 2020
#176: 6 year old Lying, Aggression and Not Listening

First Erin gives some words of support to all parents. Then Erin answers a question from a mom who is struggling with several levels of misbehavior, aggression, lying and not listening/power struggles and gives this mom some background about lying and to work on this as well as the places to start with working on the other underlying issues.

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Apr 02, 2020
#175: Coping Stategies & Toddler Screaming

Erin shares her coping strategies during this tumultuous time for staying as sane as possible. Then to get back to a bit of normal, answers a question about a toddler who screams and screeches when frustrated with some tips on how to get this to stop!

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Apr 02, 2020
#175: Coping Strategies for Parents & Screaming Toddler

Erin shares her coping strategies during this tumultuous time for staying as sane as possible. Then to get back to a bit of normal, answers a questions about a toddler who screams and screeches when frustrated with some tips on how to get this to stop!

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Mar 28, 2020
#174: 6 Tips for Being The Buffer for Your Kids During Times of Stress
If we are angry, afraid, stressed, kids feel it, and often have reactions of their own. Already stressed parents become more stressed because now their kids are acting out and the cycle spirals out of control. How do we manage ourselves in stressful times and create a buffer between our emotions and how they affect or kids?
Mar 15, 2020
#173: Refusal of Greetings & Unexpected Hitting
Of we want our children to be polite so what do we do when they refuse to greet a friend or acquaintance, even with hello or high 5? What is that about? Also how about a toddler who hits his peers out of excitement, just out of the blue? Why does this happen with thoughtful caring parents who give absolutely no exposure to such behaviors? Where does this come from?
Mar 09, 2020
#172: Extreme Fears & Mealtime Power Struggle
How do you help a toddler exhibiting an extreme fear and anxiety over situations? Erin answer this first question with tips for supporting a toddler through these fears and anxieties. Next Erin digs into the behavior behind attention-seeking and power-seeking behaviors and how fix these!
Feb 29, 2020
#171: When Daycare Reports Inappropriate Behavior & Separation Anxiety
What do you do when your child's preschool or daycare is reporting inappropriate behavior and asking for you help at home? How much or what can a parent do at home to help preschool day go better? How do you help your toddler/preschooler who seems to be having a new issue with separation anxiety after the birth of a new sibling? Can a parent do anything to ease this transition?
Feb 20, 2020
#170: Helping a Toddler with Emotions & Messy/Poor Table Manners
We hear so often about toddlers and big emotions. But what about a toddler who tends to minimize or brush over negative emotions? How do we help them recognize and connect with those emotions too? Then how do we help a child remember good table manners without all the reminding and nagging at mealtimes?!
Feb 14, 2020
#169: Helping Preschoolers with Big Emotions and Big Reactions
It's no secret that toddlers and preschoolers are prone to emotional outbursts! Some struggle more than others. How do coach and teach your toddler and preschooler with BIG emotions and BIG reactions when it just doesn't seem to be working? When it takes them a long time to calm down or when you try to set a boundary and it just amps everything up? Erin gets into some really good details on this one, that she's never done before!
Feb 05, 2020
#168: What to Do When a Toddler is Consistenly Too Rough/Aggressive
What do you do when your toddler continues to be too rough with the family pet? Even after reminders and coaching and setting boundaries around how to handle the pet? How can you keep your pet safe from those rough toddler hands? These tips can also be applied with younger siblings, especially babies when you are wanting to teach your toddler and set boundaries around appropriate behavior with a younger sibling too.
Jan 23, 2020
#167: Is One Screentime Better Than Another & How to Increase Attention-Span
One mom of a young toddler asks when you do need to do a little screentime is one kind better than another? In a second question she asks about what a parent can do to help a child increase attention span? Erin gives some new information on easy and fun ways to increase attention span through play!
Jan 18, 2020
#166: Separation Anxiety in Older Child & Big Emotions in 4 Year Old
We all know that separation anxiety is common in younger ages but how do you help an older child with persistent separation anxiety? Erin answers this question for one mom and also answers another mom's questions about helping her 4 year old with big emotions with several new ideas and tips when coaching just doesn't seem to be helping.
Dec 20, 2019
#165: Rude Behavior in Social Situations from 4yo & Tips for Holiday Harmony
Erin answers a question from a mom wondering how to help her 4 year old exhibit more gracious behaviors in social settings when he refuses to be courteous and polite. Then Erin gives tips on not just surviving holidays but protecting the beauty, love, kindness and sanctity of the season with your family.
Dec 12, 2019
#164: Dealing with Disrespectful Behavior in 4 year old
Erin walks through a particularly difficult exchange between a mom and her 4 year old son, with lots of general tips and guidelines as well as specifics for dealing with situations of disrespect as they wind up more and more out of control and how to pull them back.
Dec 05, 2019
#163: Potty Training Relapse, Toy Possessivness & When Your Child Doesn't Fit the Academic Mold
A mom of 3 struggles with big time potty regression from her older son after the baby was born, another mum is curious about how to handle public playtime and sharing when her toddler takes toys or older kids (3 and 4) take toys from younger ones. Then Erin shares a bit more about why she moved her kids' schools, what she's learned and the importance of knowing and understanding your child's intellectual strengths and struggles for the best results and least stress for parent and child!
Nov 21, 2019
#162: Potty Talk & Epic Meltdowns
How do you handle potty talk, especially in public? What consequences fit well with this? Also how to do prevent epic meltdowns over common scenarios that present themselves frequently and cannot be avoided? Erin answers these two questions and also talk about how to help kids with death and the grieving process by age, after her family had to confront the death of a beloved family pet.
Nov 15, 2019
#161: Clingy Toddler & Choices Not Working
Is it normal for a toddler to demand attention just when a parent starts a conversation? How do teach your toddler to wait and give opportunities for learning this skill? Then what do you do when choices don't work at all and the response is simply "No!" or "I don't like that" for every choice you offer? Learn how to handle these toddler tactics and Erin's latest parenting growth moments with guiding her 10 year-old learn about making choices that reflect the outcomes he wants.
Nov 05, 2019
#160: Attention-Seeking, 1 year old Crying Middle-of-the-Night, & Pacifier Weaning
In this 3 Q&A episode: what do you do when your 2 year old makes annoying sounds and behaviors to get attention/get her way with other children? How do you get your 1 year old to stop crying in the middle of the night when only breastfeeding seems to calm him back to sleep? Then what do you do when you have a toddler you want to wean from the pacifier during the day but new baby sibling has one?
Oct 29, 2019
#159: Bedtime & Middle of the Night Struggles
Erin gives a lot of tips and options to a mom who is struggling with both bedtimes and middle of the night wakeups that are prolonged.
Oct 21, 2019
#158: Toddler Throwing Cup at Meals & Peeing on Floor Only When Angry
What do you do with a toddler who throws their cup at mealtimes with such force it explodes milk all over the floor? Erin offers 4 different options for this frustrated mom! Also Erin answers a question about what to do about a toddler who is fully potty trained but deliberately pees on the floor when angry. Lastly Erin talks about her latest and biggest struggle and this one is, in her words, "a doozy!"
Oct 14, 2019
#157: Toddler Using Bad Word & Potty Training Relapse
What do you do when a toddler is using a very offensive word, especially in public? What about a toddler who was potty trained and has just reverted completely back to not using the potty at all but doesn't want to go back to pullups either? Erin answers these two questions and then also shares her struggle this week with her intense and persistent 10 year-olds brush with a very disappointing experience and how she dealt with it.
Oct 03, 2019
#156: How & When to Wean Pacifier & Middle-of-the-Night Wakings
What do you do when your toddler stops napping or falling asleep at night when you get rid of the pacifier? Also what do you do with a toddler who wakes every night in the middle of the night and disrupts everyone's sleep? Erin answers both of these parenting questions plus some insights from her own week of parenting in this episode.
Sep 26, 2019
#155: Birthday Parties, Diaper Changes & Phones for Kids
Erin answers 3 questions in this episode, the first on how and when you can engage your child in the process of a "no-gift" birthday party, how to deal with tantrums during diaper changes, and do you get your child a smart phone? If so, when? And also, if how do you deal with the pressure of "all my friends are on this app?" or "all my friends have?" when it comes to keeping them safe from apps and other activities around smart phones?
Sep 13, 2019
#154: Tough Mornings & Boys vs. Girls & 'Stranger Danger'
How to turn around stressful morning to make them smoother with an uncooperative toddler? Erin gives some great tips on this and then answers questions about what to be aware of about the differences in raising boys and girls and how to teach kids social graces juxtaposed against the concept of 'stranger danger.'
Sep 07, 2019
#153: Toddler Throwing Toys When Mad & What Responsibilities Can You Expect for 3-Year-Old?
How do you help a toddler learn better behavior when they throw toys to show their anger? Ignoring has shown improvement but when it could hurt someone, this mom doesn't want to continue to ignore. What responsibilities should a 3 1/2 year be expected to take on? Erin shares a few tasks and how to teach her preschooler about this new expectation, along with a few other tasks she can begin prepping her son to take on in the coming months.
Aug 30, 2019
#152: Dealing with Toddler Biting & When to Address vs. Ignore a Behavior
What do you do when a toddler uses biting to show negative emotions when coaching does not seem to be working? Then, Erin answers another question about when do you address/fix a behavior and when do you ignore it, when addressing it often times seems to make it worse?
Aug 26, 2019
#151: Forced Affection, Forced Apologies & Navigating Sibling Relationships
What do you do when a family member feels compelled to correct your parenting? This episode is full of some great wisdom on common issues such as do you force affection from your kids? How about apologies? All with a complicated background of an adult sibling relationship that is painful and this mom wants some insight as to how to deal with all of it. Erin gets in deeper in adult sibling relationships including her own, and how they can color both how we parent and the filters and beliefs our children can create about sibling relationships.
Aug 19, 2019
#150: Potty Training Accidents & Communicating When Speech Delayed
What do you do when your toddler shows interest and has some success and then is just having more accidents than success on the potty but doesn't want to go back to diapers either? Erin helps a parent assess readiness and gives a plan for addressing this quandary! When your toddler is speech delayed, communication is a struggle. Erin helps a mom with tips for increasing communication even with a speech delay and ways to handle the issues that are coming up due to the barrier.
Aug 11, 2019
#149: Making Time For Self-Care & Personal Goals as a Parent
Parenting can be so all-consuming. How do you balance your own needs and goals with those of your kids? When and how do you work those in? In this episode Erin talks about her own personal goals, how she makes them a priority and why she feels it is an important aspect of parenting to create some balance between supporting her kids needs and goals and her own.
Aug 02, 2019
#148: Overly Sensitive Toddler & Toddler Mean to Dog
What do you do when you toddler is overly sensitive to both feelings and physical sensations? Erin answers this mom with the first places to start trouble-shooting before working only on the behavior aspect. What about when your toddler doesn't seem to like the family dog and is consistently mean? How do you help teach that dogs are family and have feelings too?
Jul 18, 2019
#147: The Summer Episode
Summer is in full swing so let's talk about fun new parenting hacks for summer along with safety tips for kids from 0-18!
Jul 12, 2019
#146: Reasons for Early Wakeups & When Other Kids are Aggressive to Yours
What do you do when you've followed the steps but your toddler wakes up early and crying every morning? Why are they awake if they are still tired and unhappy? Erin gives some reasons and some tips to fix those early morning grumpy wakeups. Also how do you handle it when someone else's toddler is aggressive with yours? How do you comfort and explain to help your toddler?
Jul 04, 2019
#145: 6-Year-Old Sneaking Items & Protecting Children From Sexual Abuse
What do you do when your child is sneaking things you told him not to take and then when he's caught says he it's an accident? Also, another "upstanding community member" in Erin's community was charged with child molestation and so she addresses this issue. She shares the signs to be aware of and how to make sure you have open communication with your child so you can best protect them from sexual abuse.
Jun 27, 2019
#144: Traveling with Toddler & Potty Accidents at School
How do you travel with an toddler who is anxious about traveling? Even if your toddler is just an antsy traveler (and what toddler isn't?!), this episode has the tips for you! Also how do you help your child if they are having potty accidents at school?
Jun 20, 2019
#143: Weapon/Aggressive Play & Going On The Big Potty
A mom wants to know how to address aggressive play with weapons and play around "killing" with her preschooler without making it more intriguing than it already is! Another mom asks a follow up question for the next step of potty training after her initial answer from Erin got her toddler to stop pooping in his room and fully trained in the bathroom on his small potty!
Jun 09, 2019
#142: When & How to Teach Sharing & When Roughhousing Gets Too Rough
What do you do when a young toddler is constantly grabbing toys from a sibling? How do you teach sharing at such a young age? Do they even understand any of it? Erin helps a mom navigate this issue she is having with her 20 month old twin girls. Then how do you handle roughhousing that seems to get too rough and the kids keep going back for more?! A common scenario with young kids, Erin helps a mom figure out some boundaries to set around rough play and how rough is too rough.
May 29, 2019
#141: Toddler Screaming in Public & Disrespectful Behavior to Teachers
What do you do when your toddler takes to an ear-piercing scream to share their unhappiness in situations, especially in public? Erin helps a mom with this issue as well as what a parent can do at home, when a child is exhibiting disrespectful behavior to teachers at school.
May 23, 2019
#140: Early Riser & Toddler Power Struggle Over Clothing
What do you do with a super early riser? Erin helps this mom parse out and troubleshoot the cause and fix with her toddler who is waking WAY too early! Then she helps a mom whose preschooler is melting down about wearing almost any kind of bulky or uncomfortable clothing even when it's raining and cold out and the weather warrants it!
May 17, 2019
#139: Preventing Toddler Tantrum When Wants Held
How do we handle a toddler who just wants to be held but we just can't in that moment? Toddlers obviously don't understand adult responsibilities so how can respectfully help them to understand this boundary and not melt-down? Erin answers this question which applies to parents of kids of all ages of helping them with their emotions even when they can't understand the "why's" behind our reasons!
May 09, 2019
#138: Preschool Behavior Expectations & Toddler Nighttime Issue
Mom wants to know how to help daughter with preschool struggles and another mom is struggling with a troubling and stressful nighttime issue that so far nothing has worked and is looking for some guidance.
May 03, 2019
#137: How to Fix Disrespectful Attitude from a 5-Year-Old
What do you do when your 5 year-old is overly needy and also disrespectful, calling mom names? Erin delves deep into this issue like never before getting to some potential root causes of the behavior beyond some simple behavioral changes and boundary setting.
Apr 25, 2019
#136: Needy Toddler & Attention-Seeking Toddler Behavior
A listener wants to know if it's OK to always pick up a fussy, needy toddler who always wants to be held? Will this responsiveness perpetuate more neediness and get in the way of building independence? Another mom wants to know how to handle a particular attention-seeking behavior in her toddler once and for all that has waxed and waned for over a year.
Apr 17, 2019
#135: Sleep Scheduling Issue, Preschool Options & Delivering Bad News to Kids
A triple decker, a hat trick, 3 topics in one episode! First a question about early wake-ups and getting toddler to get enough sleep, a second question about weighing out preschool options & the third from the Asrilant family files about talking to kids about new, particularly about delivering bad news in age appropriate ways.
Apr 11, 2019
#134: Talking to Curious Toddler about Private Parts & Teaching Business/Entrepreneurship to Kids
How do you explain privacy to a curious toddler without shaming? Also when are kids ready to start learning and understanding the basics of business & entrepreneurship? Erin answers these two questions in this week's episode!
Apr 08, 2019
#133: Extreme Bed/Nighttime Struggles & Military Mom Kids Struggling with Dad's Absence
One family has been struggling with bed & night-times since the beginning and is looking for a plan to get their 3 year-old into better sleep habits, especially now that they have an infant who needs support at night, the multiple wake-ups from both kids is leaving mom and dad exhausted. Plus a military mom is struggling with single motherhood in addition to her kids struggling and acting out with dad being away at bootcamp.
Mar 29, 2019
#132: Teaching Diversity & Tolerance
After the recent tragedy, a heartfelt message arrived from a mom near Christchurch who wants to know how ensure her children grow up with messages of tolerance and embracing diversity. Admittedly, Erin found this to be one of the most important yet hardest questions she has answered to date, due to wanting to do the subject justice, and give a message from the heart without coming across as a lecture and gets very personal. She hopes it brings support and hope to anyone struggling after this or any tragedy like it.
Mar 22, 2019
#131: Smoother Preschool Dropoffs - Minimizing Separation Anxiety
Seeing your child sad when you leave can be a heart-wrenching experience so a dad asked Erin, "When starting a new preschool/daycare program, are there any other options than just dropping off a child and leaving them?" The answer is YES! Listen to this episode to learn another option and ways to minimize separation anxiety as it ebbs and flows throughout the preschool years.
Mar 14, 2019
#130: Santa & Tips for Getting Kids to Listen
Have you ever wondered if it's OK to play into the fantasy of Santa or other make-believe characters? Erin answers this question along with another question about setting expectations about listening the first time and approaches to make this the norm in your house.
Mar 06, 2019
#129: Supporting Communication Skills & Emotional Development
Babies start communicating from day one with cries, squeals and coos and communication skills just explode from there. This episode covers those developmental milestones and some great ways to support language development even from infancy as well as how emotional development is related. Emotional development is the foundation for social skills and is such an important skill to teach so Erin covers some ways to support emotional development too.
Mar 01, 2019
#128: Handling Aggression in 13-Month-Old & Aggression in 3-Year-Old
Aggression in these toddler years is so common when kids don't have the skills to share frustrations in a more appropriate manner, especially early on when even language skill is so minimal. Erin covers both ends of the toddler spectrum and aggression, giving tip for helping a mom with a 13 month old who can get aggressive when she doesn't get her way and also for the parents of 3, almost 4 year-old, also when he doesn't get his way!
Feb 20, 2019
#127: Helping a Child with Autism & Messy 3-Year-Old
An aunt of a niece with autism asks how she better help her niece when they visit in person and via Skype. Also a military mom with a very active and messy 3 year-old wants to know how towork with her 3 year-old to keep the house a little neater! Erin shares tips and strategies for both of these situations.
Feb 13, 2019
#126: Toddler Defiance & Toddler Throwing
While the independence that asserts itself in toddlerhood, seems like an annoyance, you can use it to your advantage! In this episode Erin helps a mom understand the motivations and reasons behind her toddler's defiant behavior and ways to work with the strengths of this developmental stage to increase cooperation. Then Erin gives tips to a mom for working with her 2 year-old who is in a throwing stage!
Feb 07, 2019
#125: Back to Basics - Toddler Development & Behavior & Toddler Needs Parent to Fall Asleep
Erin gets back to basics by covering development and behavior during the toddler years to help parents understand why toddlers sometimes act so unreasonable, along with some tips for prevention. Then she answers a question about a toddler who needs a parent present in order to fall asleep and a stress-free way to wean the toddler off of mom and dad to falling asleep independently!
Jan 31, 2019
#124: Helping a Shy Child & Unwanted/Inappropriate Touching
In this episode Erin covers two new topics, how to help a child who is very shy learn to communicate needs and what to do when a child is coerced sexually by another child. Child on child unwanted touching is very common. How do we talk to our kids about how to handle it if it happens to them? And what do we if it does happen?
Jan 24, 2019
#123: Twin Bedtime Struggles & Toddler Aggression
Erin is back answering two of our most common parenting questions, getting toddlers (in this case twins!) to settle down for bed and some consequences to use with toddler and preschooler aggression at each age, 2, 3, 4 and 5.
Jan 16, 2019
#122: Tips for Lasting Change in Parenting and Beyond
Change is hard. When habits become ingrained it takes consistent effort overcome the old habits and to make new behaviors into our new habits. Erin shares 6 tips for making sure your new goals become part of your everyday life, whether they're about parenting or anything else.
Jan 03, 2019
#121: Setting Boundaries as a Step-Parent & Major After-School Meltdowns
Parenting can be hard, but step-parenting adds a whole other level of concerns and issues and therefore requires a whole level of cooperation and communication, if things are to run as smoothly as possible. Erin helps a step-mom begin to wade through this minefield of parenting encounters! Then in the second half, Erin answers a question about how to help a six year-old who is having consistent after-school meltdowns.
Dec 20, 2018
#120: Rambunctious & Aggressive Toddler & Bedtime Struggles - Getting Toddler to Stay in Room
How wild is too wild when it comes to a preschooler? How can you guide your highly active youngster to get out his energy in more appropriate ways? In this episode Erin answers this question for a mom whose 4 year old is driving her crazy with his wild and sometimes aggressive behavior! Then another question about dealing with a toddler who refused to stay in bed, even when using the mantra method. What could be going wrong? Listen to find out!
Dec 14, 2018
#119: Helping Toddler with Shyness & Strong Parental Preference
How do you teach a toddler to be polite to friends, relatives and sitters when they hit a shy stage without pushing and ending in a power struggle? Erin gives tips to this parent on guiding his toddler through this stage. What do you do when your toddler strongly prefers one parent over the other? This can be very painful to the rejected parent and exhausting for the preferred parent. Erin guides these parents in dealing with this issue with their toddler.
Dec 06, 2018
#118: Kindergarten Readiness & Toddler Aggression & Outbursts
What does a child really need to ready for kindergarten? What do you do when the school says your child isn't ready but you don't agree with the assessment? In the second question, Erin covers more tips and tools for dealing with toddler aggression and outbursts, some great first steps to get things turned around, dealing with the aggression and/or outburst in the moment and secondary steps to take to continue the learning process for your process in finding and using better ways to behave.
Nov 30, 2018
#117: Dealing with Partial Potty Training & Toddler Possessiveness
Potty training happens differently for almost every child. But there are several common themes/issues and one of them is being fully potty trained for pee long before being ready to train for poop. Erin shares information with a mom about why this happens and steps she can take to encourage her son towards this milestone. The second question is from a mom about the best way to handle possessiveness in her 2 year-old. Erin shares why this happens and the ways to work with a toddler throughout this stage. Erin also interviews all 3 of her kids to introduce the audience to her kids that she talks so much about!
Nov 15, 2018
#116: Helping Your Child Deal with Anger
How do you help your child learn to recognize and deal with anger in age-appropriate ways? Listen to this episode to learn about things that affect the way children experience and process anger, stages of anger and what to do.
Nov 09, 2018
#115: Toddler Defiance & Toddler Pinching
Toddlerhood is the first big push for independence and with that often comes defiance. How do we support independence while also setting healthy boundaries? One mom asks for some guidance on dealing with her toddler's defiance, while another asks about how to deal with her toddlers pinching.
Nov 02, 2018
#114: Bedtime/Nightime Struggles & Mealtime Struggles
Two of the most common toddlerhood struggles, getting kids to try and enjoy healthy foods and bedtimes, are often not about the foods themselves or bedtimes at all but about POWER! Once kids figure out the holes in the system, they will use it to their full advantage. Learn how to be ready with tips and tools to circumvent these and other common toddlerhood power grabs in this episode!
Oct 26, 2018
#113: Potty Training Regression for Attention & Fine Line Between Praise and Encouragement
Potty Training regression can happen for many reasons, one being for attention when a new sibling enters the home. Erin shares with a mom how to work to get her son back on track. Then Erin answers a question from a mom seeking clarification on when encouragement is too much, when to know the difference between encouraging for behavior you want to see and when a behavior should be expected.
Oct 19, 2018
#112: Dealing with Toddler Hitting & Balancing Parenting Boundaries with Friendship
Hitting is a common problem in toddlerhood. Toddlers are still learning social skills and brain development that is necessary for self-control. Learn how to coach and teach toddlers better ways of sharing frustrations. Also, how should parents balance setting boundaries and building a strong connection since both are necessary in for raising responsible happy kids?
Oct 12, 2018
#111: Toddler's Cartoon Obsession & Helping Girls Form Positive Friendships
Erin helps a mom who is struggling with her toddler who seems to be obsessed with cartoons. Erin shares some new secrets about the science of psychology and shaping behavior, some things many parents do that actually backfires and creates more of the behavior they are trying to minimize or eliminate. Then Erin answers a question from a mom about helping her young daughter form more positive friendships.
Oct 07, 2018
#110: Step-Parenting & Sleepovers
Step-parenting brings in a whole new set of challenges. How do you setup rules that may be different than the other home without undermining the other parent? Also, sleepovers? Yes or No? If so when, with and with whom? Learn some sobering statistics that may give you a different perspective about sleepovers.
Sep 28, 2018
#109: Instilling Confidence in Kids
Confidence will get you anywhere! But how can you make sure your kids develop and keep a good serving of confidence? It has to be built and cannot be given! Listen to this episode to learn how to instill confidence in your kids, and just as importantly what NOT to do, things that many well-meaning parents do that can undermine their child's confidence and chip away at their self-esteem.
Sep 21, 2018
#108: Potty Training Relapse & Bedtime Issues & Early Wakeups
Potty Training relapse is common and can happen for many reasons. Erin shares how to deal with a potty training relapse when it's due to a complete lack of motivation or interest. Also changes in sleep schedules are common throughout infancy and toddlerhood, be they nighttime, middle of the night or those dreaded early morning wakeups. Erin answers a mom's question about how to get her toddler back on track with better sleep habits.
Sep 14, 2018
#107: Parenting as a Couple
Parenting has changed immensely in recent decades. With households where both parents are becoming more equally involved in the parenting process, it can create another area for disagreement among parents. Whether parenting in the same household or separate, this episode covers tips for learning how to come together rather than working against each other.
Sep 07, 2018
#106: Teaching Personal Space & Instilling Leadership Skills
Wondering why little kids are always in other people's faces?! Curious how to teach them about personal space? Erin covers that in this episode along with ways to instill leadership skills by starting the foundation as early as toddlerhood.
Aug 24, 2018
#105: Sex/Relationship Questions from 3-Year-Old & Strong-Willed 8-Year-Old
How do you answer sex & relationship questions from a precocious toddler? How much do you share? How do you address their curiosity yet keep things age appropriate? Also in this episode, learn how to deal with strong-willed behavior when a child is refusing to go along with the family plans.
Aug 04, 2018
#104: 3-Year-Old Afraid of the Dark & Back to School Tips
Fears are common starting around age 2 and can continue throughout toddlerhood. When a fear of the dark is affecting bedtimes and wearing parents out even more, how do you help your toddler get over the fear and feel safe to fall asleep in his room? Listen to this episode to find out! Also learn some tips to make back to school smooth, including starting preschool.
Jul 27, 2018
#103: Building Resilience in Kids
Some kids come to world the ready to tackle everything and anything and just don't give up, while others will shy away if they don't succeed right away. Learn how to work with a child who struggles with resilience and natural persistence when Erin answers that exact question from a mom in this episode.
Jul 21, 2018
#102: Getting a Toddler to Listen in Public & Parenting to a Child's Potential
If you want to know how to get your toddler to cooperate while out in public, this is the episode for you! Erin covers an easy 4 step process to engaging a toddler to cooperate while in public spaces! Also Erin covers some general parenting guidelines and thoughts based on her observations and experiences as a therapist working with kids as well in her own life with her own children.
Jul 11, 2018
#101: Summer Safety Tips & Toddler Middle of the Night Wake-Ups
Get some great summer safety tips in the episode! Also Erin helps a mom who's 3 year-old is getting up consistently several times a night with several different options for addressing this issue.
Jun 29, 2018
#100: Summer Tips & Dealing with 6-Year-Old Aggressive Behavior
First, learn some tips for making the most of summer! Then Erin helps a mom who is struggling with her daughter's aggressive behavior and outburst, with some practical tips for teaching kids how to learn to manage their tough emotions make better choices.
Jun 22, 2018
#99: Ways to Connect with Younger Toddlers & How to Stop Young Toddler from Self-Stimulating
Ways and ideas to connect with older toddlers and kids are plentiful. But what about younger toddlers? (1-2 year olds) How can a parent connect with their kids when they are just learning to walk and talk? Also how does a parent handle it when they see a young toddler (1-2 years old) self-stimulating their genitals? Is this normal behavior?
Jun 15, 2018
#98: What is the Difference Between Permissive and Peaceful Parenting?
How can tell the difference between peaceful parenting and permissive parenting? Sometimes parents just want to get through an exchange without a huge power struggle! So if a parent gives in are they then falling into the trap of being too permissive? How can we learn to tell the difference so that we can parent peacefully without becoming a doormat?
Jun 08, 2018
#97: Co-Sleeping & Dealing with Young Kids "Playing Doctor"
In this episode, Erin answers two questions, the first from a mom with a lot of questions about whether or not to continue co-sleeping or work on getting her toddlers to sleep in their own beds and a second question about how to handle the situation when she encounters her young kids engaging in sexual exploration.
May 25, 2018
#96: How to Handle Big Imagination & Infant Stopped Sleeping Through the Night
In this episode Erin answers a question for a mom who wants to know how to best handle her daughters big imagination. Erin covers the development of imagination, the benefits to imagination and, of course, answers this mom's question about how to best support her daughter's very unique imagination. Then Erin answers another question for a mom who's infant has stopped sleeping through the night when she had been doing so consistently.
May 11, 2018
#95: Creating a Parenting Framework for Positive Discipline
In this episode Erin answers a big and nuanced question from a listener who is struggling with where to even start with discipline, self-esteem and helping her kids with their social skills. So Erin shares how to create a framework and a strong foundation for positive discipline, including building kids self-esteem and social skills.
May 04, 2018
#94: Your Developing Infant
Babies change so much in the first year after birth. Learn about these changes in all the areas of development including developmental milestones, ways to support your infant's development and red flags of which to be aware that may mean an assessment by a specialist is in order.
Apr 27, 2018
#93: Toddler Screaming at Bedtime & 8-Year-Old Cranky in Mornings
In this episode Erin answers bedtime/sleep issues from two moms. The first question is about a toddler who has started to scream when he goes to bed at night. The second question is from a mom about how to help her 8 year-old get enough sleep so she isn't such a bear to get up in the morning!
Apr 20, 2018
#92: Bedtime Struggles & Dealing with Hateful Words
Erin covers two new topics, a common bedtime struggle of how to get a toddler to brush teeth at bedtime who is refusing & ways to deal with a 4 year-old who is resorting to using hateful words when he's angry.
Apr 10, 2018
#91: Getting 8-Year-Old to Listen & Follow Directions
In this episode Erin answers one question from a mom about how to work with her strong-willed daughter on listening and following directions. Erin discusses trouble areas such as homework, chores, and extra-curricular activities, in this case music practice and also gives some general guidelines on working with kids to increase cooperation.
Mar 31, 2018
#90: Frequent Crying & Thumb Sucking
Erin answers questions from two moms, the first about how to help a baby who crying frequently, the second about why her 18 month old started sucking his thumb when he's never done it before and how to stop it without affecting his emotional development.
Mar 25, 2018
#89: Stopping Screaming in Toddlers & Fixing Whining
Erin answers two parenting questions, the first about a 3 year-old who reacts by screaming/screeching where she shares the steps to teaching a toddler to use words instead of reacting. The second question is about how to eliminate whining. Erin discusses ways to prevent whining and then the steps to stop whining when it does occur.
Mar 16, 2018
#88: Talking to Kids About Sex
In this episode, Erin answers a mom's question about how to address her toddlers questions about gender and sex, deal with nudity and what's considered normal and healthy. Then Erin talks more about talking to kids about sex as they age, questions to expect and be ready for and where to get more information.
Mar 09, 2018
#87: Work/Life Balance & Behavior Modification for Children with Autism
In this episode Erin gives some tips to a mom struggling to keep up with all the responsibilities of working and being a mom to an infant. In the second half she guides a mom on going about working with her child who is awaiting an assessment for autism.
Mar 02, 2018
#86: Toddler Aggression & Disrespect Out of Character
Erin answers 2 more parenting questions, the first about how to deal with aggression in a toddler, the second about working with a 6 year-old showing disrespectful behavior that is out of character for him.
Feb 23, 2018
#85: Lying, Cheating & Stealing
Erin shares a personal incident about kids stealing and talks about the ways and times to teach kids about making good choices around cheating, stealing and lying.
Feb 16, 2018
#84: Common Misbehaviors & Their Solutions
In this episode Erin covers some of the common reasons why kids misbehave, how to decode the meaning behind their behavior and some solutions to both prevent and fix several of these reasons.
Feb 09, 2018
#83: Dealing with Grabbing & 3-Year-Old Meltdowns
In this episode Erin answers two more questions, first from a mom dealing with a 6 year-old who is frequently grabbing from her sister and wants to know how to handle it, the second from a mom wanting some options and tools for helping her 3 year-old learn to react more appropriately than screaming when he's asked to stop his behavior.
Feb 02, 2018
#82: Supporting Child Through Divorce & Tantrums in 8 yo
In this episode, Erin tackles a new topic, divorce. How do you support a child through the divorce process? Then Erin answers another question from a step mom wanting help to eliminate tantrums her 8 year old step-son is now throwing on a regular basis.
Jan 26, 2018
#81: Naptime Struggles & Attention Seeking Behavior
Erin answers two new parenting questions, the first is a parent really struggling to keep a toddler in his rooms for nap-time. The toddler is even resorting to aggressive behavior to keep from staying in his room to nap. The second question is from a mom wanting to know how to deal with negative behavior in a positive way.
Jan 19, 2018
#80: Common Parenting Resolutions
In the first episode of 2018, Erin covers some common parenting resolutions along with tips for achieving them! She also delves a little bit into her own resolutions and why resolutions for self, are still supporting our kids and family too!
Jan 12, 2018
#79: Separation Anxiety & Dealing with Grandparents Not Following Rules
In this episode Erin answers a question from a mom who's toddler is having separation anxiety at every drop-off but reports being excited and wanting to go back to school when she comes to pick her up. Another mom wants to know how to deal with grandparents not following her rules and a concern about grandma asking her granddaughter to keep secrets.
Dec 15, 2017
#78: Raising Kids to Reach Their Potential
In this episode, Erin answer a question from a parent about how to raise kids to reach their full potential. Erin covers 5 different areas to consider when aspiring to raise children to reach their potential, from cooperation and problem-solving, to responsibility, emotional competence and more.
Dec 08, 2017
#77: Parenting Q&A: Infant Sleeping Through the Night & Separation Anxiety
Erin answers two more parenting questions, the first about separation anxiety that has appeared later in toddlerhood. She shares background details about separation anxiety, what it is and why it happens and how to facilitate smoother dropoffs when separation anxiety appears. The second question is about helping babies learn to sleep through the night.
Dec 01, 2017
#76: Educational Toys
In this episode Erin talks about what to look for in a toy that will make it more engaging in both the short and long term for kids. Erin also covers toys for kids infants through teens in all areas of development: gross and fine motor skills, as well as cognitive development including language.
Nov 27, 2017
#75: Parenting Q&A: Answering Toddler's Questions About Sex & Supporting Independence
What do you say when your toddler, preschooler or really child of any age asks you questions about sex and sexuality? What is age-appropriate? How much should they know and when? Erin answers these questions in this episode, along with another question about how to support a toddler in becoming more independent who is not interested in doing things, of which he is capable, on his own.
Nov 17, 2017
#74: Parenting Q&A - Naptime Trouble & When to Expect Sharing
Erin answers 2 questions from moms, the first about how to tell and how to transition when toddlers are ready to drop naps. The second question is about when and how to encourage sharing. In a particular, this mom has a friend who is constantly concerned and getting involved in their daughters' play sessions to deal with concerns over sharing and wants to know what to do.
Nov 10, 2017
#73: Parenting Q&A - 5 Year Old with Anger Issues & Overwhelmed Mom
In this episode Erin answers questions from 2 moms about how to deal with their children's anger issues. She also helps the second mom who is also struggling with feeling overwhelmed, anxious and depressed so her son's anger issues are just adding more pressure to her already stressful days.
Nov 03, 2017
#72: Developing Early Reading, Writing, Math & Science
In this episode, Erin covers how to work with younger children, toddlers through early elementary age to build pre-reading, reading, pre-writing, writing, and math and science skills in fun and engaging ways that are also age-appropriate and build a foundation for a life-long enjoyment of learning.
Oct 27, 2017
#71: Parenting Q&A - Severe Tantrums & Helping with Difficult Emotions
In this episode Erin helps a mom understand how to help her speech-delayed 4 year-old with her severe tantrums. She explains some background of cognitive and language development on the road to managing tantrums better along with tools to work with her child. Next Erin answers a moms question about helping her 5 year-old with her overly-emotional responses to even the smallest of requests.
Oct 20, 2017
#70: Parenting Q&A - Dealing with 13-Year-Old’s Selfish Behavior
Erin shares information about the process and development of adolescence along with several tips on approaching tweens and teens to motivate their behavior and eliminate the nagging!
Oct 13, 2017
#69: Parenting Q&A - Eliminating Reward Charts & Child Feeling Overwhelmed
Erin answers more parenting questions, first a mom asks about how to best eliminate reward charts after she learned from a previous episode that they do work in building internal motivation. The second question is about a lot of different behaviors from a 5 year-old including picky eating and behaviors stemming from anxiety and feeling overwhelmed.
Oct 06, 2017
#68: Birth Order
Birth order, both your children’s and your own can affect you and your children’s personalities and how they experience the world. In this fascinating episode, you will learn the common tendencies, pitfalls to avoid, as well as all the variables that affect a child’s tendencies to express the typical patterns of each birth order category.
Sep 29, 2017
#67: Parenting Q&A - Desiphering Fact from Fiction, Hitting & Overcoming Nighttime Fears
In this episode Erin helps a mom with tips on supporting her toddler through the common issue of nighttime and bedtime fears of monsters, as well as helping another mom work with her child when he talks about hitting or kicking another child but has no evidence to corroborate. Erin helps this mom know what to say and how to deal with discussing it with her toddler
Sep 22, 2017
#66: Parenting Q&A - Toddler Hitting Mom & Picky Eaters
In this episode, Erin answers more questions, the first about a young toddler who hits, scratches and kicks when he's upset but only with mom. The second questions is about a toddler who has become increasingly picky. Mom had hoped he would outgrow it but it has only continued to get worse.
Sep 15, 2017
#65: Parenting Q&A - Sibling Fights & Toddler Naps
Erin answers 2 questions in this episode, one from a mom who's kids' play is turning too physical and one tries to annoy the other to get a reaction. The second questions is about how to tell when it's time to have a toddler drop naps.
Sep 08, 2017
#64: Parenting Q&A - Toddler Hitting & Helping Child Deal with Strong Feelings
In this episode, Erin answers two questions, one about dealing with a 2 year old hitting his 3 month old baby sibling and another about a 5 year old who melts down in tears and sadness when mom tries to talk with him about his behavior.
Sep 01, 2017
#63: Parenting Q&A - Bullying Prevention & Resilience in Children
Erin answers 2 questions from parents. First a mom of a timid son is concerned about him becoming a target of bullying and wants to know how she can help him become more assertive. Then Erin answers another mom's question about how to support her 5 year old son who seems to fall apart when things don't go his way and tends to shy away from pushing himself even a little bit to try new things.
Aug 24, 2017
#62: Erin's Story & How Much Child Attention is Enough?
Erin shares her deeply personal journey about becoming a parent after a less-than-stellar childhood, her reason for wanting to other parents and families, not just her own and answers a questions from a listener about how much time is enough with our kids, how to allay the guilt we sometimes feel when we think we aren't giving enough
Aug 17, 2017
#61: Parenting Q&A - Teaching Sharing, Toddler Anxiety & Dealing with Aggression
In this episode, Erin answers some parenting questions about helping a 2 year-old deal with anxiety around sharing favorite toys, and ways to help a 6 year-old learn stop aggressive behavior and instead to share emotions appropriately.
Jul 28, 2017
#60: Teaching Kids to Take Responsibility
Taking responsibility for our actions is an important life skill that leads to success in many areas. But kids don't pick this up by osmosis. Learn about Erin's experience with one of her kids this week around this lesson and how to help your kids learn this very important skill!
Jul 20, 2017
#59: Parenting Q&A - Toddler Bedtime Struggles & Mom and Son Bonding Ideas
In this episode, Erin covers ways to handle the age-old problem of toddlers not settling down at bedtime, whether they are crying or continuously getting out of bed, these tips solve that problem! Then Erin answers another question from mom who is more "girly" and is looking for ideas of ways to bond with her very active boys!
Jul 14, 2017
#58: Surviving Summer Part II
In this episode, Erin shares some FUN ideas for keeping kids academic skills sharp over the summer, what to do when kids tell you they are "bored" as well as ideas for having fun family time over the summer break.
Jun 29, 2017
#57: Surviving Summer Part I
Summer can be a time of great fun but also frustration and "boredom" with too much togetherness and loose schedules. Erin covers tips for making the most of the summer during this time of relief from the pressures from school in this 2 part episode! Learn how to set and work on fixing problem areas in behavior and family organization, keep school skills strong AND still have fun!
Jun 22, 2017
#56: Stopping Sibling Fights, Building Sibling Relationships and More
Erin answers more parenting question in this episode, including questions from a mom about how to minimize sibling fights and build stronger sibling relationships, as well as a question about the best type of bike for her 3 year old to build skills to learn to ride a 2 wheel bike.
Jun 09, 2017
#55: Raising Responsible & Independent Kids: Part 2
In part 2 on raising responsible and independent kids, you will learn how to raise kids that learn to do for themselves. Erin discusses what responsibilities are realistic by age and should be expected. So you can be sure to raise kids who you can be confident in their skills and independence.
May 25, 2017
#54: Raising Responsible & Independent Kids: Part 1
If you strive to raise responsible and independent kids that make you proud, where other parents ask you "How do you get your kids to do THAT?!", then this is a not be missed episode. The first in a 2 part series on how to raise kids that do for themselves and help around the house with no (or maybe just a little) complaining! Erin discusses how changes in parenting style can lead to kids who are dependent and lazy or independent and responsible. Also, some great basic tips on setting up expectations for success. Next episode will cover what responsibilities are realistic by age and how to get these started and keep them going in your home.
May 18, 2017
#53: Setting Boundaries with Respect
In this episode Erin makes a dedication to all of those hard-working single parents out there and covers some areas that can be especially challenging for single parents, including setting boundaries and expectations and making them stick.
May 04, 2017
#52: Parenting Q&A - Motivating Kids & Abnormal Social Behavior
In this installment of the parenting Q & A, Erin answers 2 questions from her listeners, the first on ways to motivate an unmotivated 5 year-old and another on how to work with a child who seems to be displaying abnormal social behaviors and ignores the requests and even consequences of parents and teachers.
Apr 27, 2017
#51: Tips to Raising Healthy Eaters
Are your kids too picky? Are you hoping to raise healthy eaters and looking for tips? In this episode, Erin covers 9 great ways to help kids learn to enjoy and even love healthy foods!
Mar 23, 2017
#50: Parenting Q&A - Potty Training Power Struggles & Sibling Aggression Against New Baby
In this parenting Q & A session, Erin answers a parent's questions on what to do with a power struggle over potty training, power struggles in general and another parent's question about an older sibling reacting aggressively towards the new baby.
Mar 16, 2017
#49: Smoother Bedtimes, Mornings & Time Changes
As kids age, they get less than the recommended sleep. Sleep is important for growth, both physical, emotional and cognitive. In this episode, Erin shares how to setup bedtime to ensure enough sleep, how to have smoother bedtimes and mornings to allow for more downtime for parents and sleep for everyone, as well as how to make switching the clocks and therefore bedtimes and wakeups go much smoother. A must listen!
Mar 09, 2017
#48: Dealing with Aggression in Children
Aggression among children is a common problem and even normal at some ages, yet not acceptable. In this episode, Erin shares about aggression in children and how to fix this common behavioral problem.
Feb 23, 2017
#47: 3 Top Tools to a Cooperative Toddler
Does your toddler constantly do the opposite of what you say? Does she butt up against you over almost every little thing? With these 3 tools you can have a much more cooperative toddler and smoother days!
Feb 09, 2017
#46: Parenting Q&A - Toddler Nighttime Struggles, Rewards, Teen Power Struggles
Erin answers questions from parents in the audience, a mom who has 2 toddlers who wake up during the night, a couple of questions about when/if rewards are ever acceptable and a third from a mom dealing with power struggles with her 11 year-old son.
Jan 26, 2017
#45: Giving Yourself Permission to Feel Attractive
Parenting can leave us feeling drained and ridiculously unattractive and unsexy! In this episode, Erin shares tips on ways to get back to feeling attractive and desirable as a hard-working parent.
Jan 19, 2017
#44: Parenting Q&A - Toddler Screentime & Toddler Using Hurtful Words
Erin offers insight and information about children's development as she delves into a couple of listeners specific questions, the first about how to manage infants & toddlers around adult needs and usage of a cell phones and other screens. The second question is what is the best way to handle a toddler who uses hurtful words?
Jan 12, 2017
#43: Parenting Resolutions - Fit Parenting, Leading by Example
Whether you feel you are starting at square one or just tweaking and refining your goals for living a healthier life for yourself and your family, Erin shares 6 secrets for sticking with your resolutions this year.
Jan 04, 2017
#42: Parenting Resolutions - The Organized Family
Is one of your new year's resolutions to get organized and have a smoother running home? If so, you'll want to listen to this episode, The Organized Family. Erin shares lots of tips for the organizing challenges that are particular to parents, toys, kids clothes, schedules, morning routines and more.
Dec 28, 2016
#41: Fun & Educational Toys Gift Buying Guide
Do you want to buy toys for kids that they will play with time and time again? Toys that they can expand their minds and bodies too? Erin has a great list of sites and toy companies and gift ideas for toys that kids love and help them develop creatively, physically, and cognitively too!
Dec 14, 2016
#40: Teaching an Attitude of Gratitude
The holidays can bring out the best AND worst in our kids! Learn how to teach kids an attitude of gratitude during the holiday season, and how to help them focus more on the true meaning of the holidays and less on the presents and "what can I get?!"
Dec 07, 2016
#39: Reducing Holiday Stress
The holidays are fun but also hectic! In this episode, Erin shares some tips on ways to get through the holidays with less stress and more joy and togetherness!
Nov 30, 2016
#38: The Downsides to Rewards & Punishments
Rewards and punishments are just different sides of the same coin and are highly ineffective for long-term development and growth. Learn about the downsides of these two commonly used parenting tools and what you can do instead to raise cooperative, respectful and responsible kids!
Nov 17, 2016
#37: Car Seat Safety Tips
Car crashes are the leading cause of death for kids in the US and yet most of us are completely untrained in the best way to keep our kids safe from them: by properly installing a car seat. "Across the country we see a greater than 95% misuse of car seats" Learn how to choose the proper seat, how to install seats properly and common mistakes in installing and strapping kids in to seats.
Nov 04, 2016
#36: How to Moderate Halloween Candy
Are you wondering how to let your kids enjoy Halloween, especially the candy without letting them go overboard? How can a parent help kids regulate their consumption without being a complete stick-in-the-mud? What are opportunities does Halloween give to teach kids good life lessons and skills? There are plenty! Tune in to find out!
Oct 26, 2016
#35: Helping Kids with Stress & Aggression
Election season isn't just stressing out parents, it's trickling down and stressing out our kids too. How do we teach about the election process without exposing them to too much negativity? Also incidences of aggression are up so Erin talks about helping kids deal with aggression in this episode.
Oct 20, 2016
#34: Honesty & Lying in Kids
In this episode Erin discusses development of honesty and lying by age, some of the reasons kids lie, ways parents can help teach kids about lying and honesty without shaming and appropriate consequences. Erin also answer two questions from parents about ways to handle lying and teach the importance of honesty.
Oct 13, 2016
#33: Sibling Relationships Q&A
Are you concerned about the relationship between your kids? Or are you just wanting to learn how to support strong sibling relationships from the start? In this episode Erin talks about some basics of sibling relationships when it comes to discord, answers parents questions about their struggles with sibling fighting and rivalry and gives some great do's and don'ts for supporting strong relationships and bonds among siblings!
Oct 05, 2016
#32: Your Developing Toddler
Are you curious whether or not your child’s behavior and development are considered normal? Just curious and wanting to know what to expect? Understanding development facilitates a deeper understanding which makes for smoother interactions and stronger relationships. In this episode Erin also answer 2 questions about common early childhood behavior and ways to handle them.
Sep 30, 2016
#31: Why Child Development Research Matters
Child development research can and does help parents understand their children and how to best support them to reach their potential and create stronger family relationships. Learn about the key areas Erin looks for when vetting solid child development research to share with her audience and some ways you can learn to discriminate the good from bad parenting "advice."
Sep 21, 2016
#30: Kids, Sports & Competition
Erin shares guidelines for introducing kids to physical skills, sports rules and play and competitive sports in age appropriate ways, taking both physical and metal-emotional aspects of child development into consideration, starting in toddlerhood through high school. Learn how to support your child in healthy and positive ways throughout childhood in sports and physical activities
Sep 08, 2016
#29: Shopping for a Preschool
Ever wonder the differences between Montessori, Reggio, High Scope, and other early childhood education philosophies? Want to know what to look for and ask on a preschool tour? This episode on shopping for a preschool covers these. Plus Erin answers a question from a listener about how parents can build their own self-esteem based on her experience.
Aug 31, 2016
#28: Parenting Questions & Answers #2
Hear Erin's parenting answers to her listeners' questions. How do you handle one brother beating up on another? What do you do with a nine year old who is throwing tantrums? When should you start learning about discipline and other common child development stages and issues so you can be ready? Erin answers these questions with insight and warmth and gives these parents some plans of action.
Aug 24, 2016
#27: Bullying
If you are concerned about bullying, just curious or want to be prepared, this episode covers what bullying is, the dynamics and effects of bullying, and ways to work with your child at home and through the school for both prevention and if you know or suspect bullying is happening, whether your child is the aggressor, a victim or a witness to bullying.
Aug 17, 2016
#26: Preventing Power Struggles
Power struggles start in toddlerhood and last all the way through adolescence so learning to recognize them, prevent them and handle them well when they do happen is paramount. In this episode, Erin shares some great tips and tools for preventing and dealing with power struggles, including her own recent experience, what she did wrong and what she would do differently the next time so you can learn from her mistake!
Aug 11, 2016
#25: Tips to Starting the School Year Right
Get some great tips for getting off on the right foot for a successful school year! In this episode, Erin covers tips from a smoother homework process to smoother mornings.
Aug 03, 2016
#24: Parenting Answers to Common Toddler Problems
In this episode, Erin answers various questions that have come in from her listeners about toddler bedtimes, getting a toddler to eat during mealtimes, helping a mom with determined toddler solve a common problem. If you have a question for Erin, send it to
Jul 23, 2016
#23: What is Positive Discipline?
The democratic/authoritative parenting style has been shown to result in THE best outcomes for social-emotional skills, cognitive skills, happiness and success in relationships and life. Positive discipline is the discipline philosophy that falls into this parenting style. Learn about positive discipline, what it is, why it works and some tips on implementing it in your family.
Jul 13, 2016
#22: What is Your Parenting Style?
Have you heard of parenting styles and ever wondered about them or what style you fall under? In this episode, Erin discusses the 4 parenting styles, what traits are common to each and what research show are the common outcomes for each of the 4 styles. Enlightening, interesting and a must-listen for all parents.
Jul 06, 2016
#21: Smoother Bedtimes for Toddlers & Beyond
Do you want your evenings back? Toddlers, and older kids too, need lots of sleep. So the evening chase game is not ideal for either parent or child. Learn some great tips on teaching your kids good bedtime habits and get your evenings back!
Jun 29, 2016
#20: Raising Fit Kids for Life
Setting up healthy lifetime habits starts early in childhood. In this episode Erin talks about many ways to help kids learn to enjoy healthy foods and physical fitness and touches on ways to make sure your kids don't go down the path of picky eating or ways to get back on track if they are already picky and how to steer clear of pitfalls that lead to picky eating habits.
Jun 23, 2016
#19: Traveling With Kids
Traveling with kids, whether infants, toddlers or beyond, presents its own special challenges. Learn some great tips from Erin to make the travel part of your vacation or holiday smoother and easier whether it's by train, plane or car!
Jun 17, 2016
#18: Teaching Kids About Boundaries & Consent
Teaching kids about sexual consent starts early with things like teaching respect, boundaries, emotion skills, empathy skills and a healthy attitude towards sex and sexuality. Although this is a deep and intricate topic, this episode covers the basics of setting up a great foundation for and teaching about respectful sexual boundaries and consent in age appropriate ways.
Jun 09, 2016
#17: Potty Training Readiness Signs
The first step in an easy and smooth potty training process is knowing the signs to look for. This episode cover pre-readiness signs and ways to keep and increase interest, readiness signs that let you know your chances of potty training success and ease are high, as well as the 3 not ready signs that make potty training impossible!
Jun 01, 2016
#16: Summer Learning Loss
Did you know that most kids lose an average of 2 months of learning in math, spelling and even reading over the summer months? Whether your child is behind, on or ahead of grade level, summer is a great time keep and gain skill. Learn lots of ways to engage your learner in fun and interesting ways over the summer months in this episode!
May 25, 2016
#15: Dealing with Disrespectful Behavior
Are you getting a lot of attitude, rudeness and/or condescending tone of voice or behaviors? In this episode, Erin discusses the current "culture of disrespect" that has become all-too-common in families today and how to setup, expect and enforce an environment of respect.
May 19, 2016
#14: Nighttime Potty Training, Bedwetting & Relapse in Potty Training
Staying dry at night is the very last step in potty training. Many parents expect kids to complete this stage shorty after daytime training. But for many kids this isn't the case. Learn about when and how to night time train. Also potty training relapse is common, not just within a few months of potty training but even into early elementary school years. Learn how to handle daytime potty training relapse, regardless of age.
May 12, 2016
#13: The Secret Discipline Tool We All Need to Use More Often
There is discipline tool, that most of us parents do not leverage nearly enough! This tool can turn a potentially explosive situation into one of fun and connection. It can literally turn it around 180 degrees. What is this tool? It's HUMOR! (or humour! LOL!) What if you aren't naturally funny or silly? That's OK! This episode offers several ideas of ways to make discipline situations silly and fun for kids that any parent can follow! Find your inner child, get silly and get humorous with your kids! It's a win-win-win!
May 04, 2016
#12: Keeping Kids Safe Outdoors
So many outdoor accidents are preventable through teaching kids proper rules of bike riding, wearing properly fitted helmets and practicing very important rules around pool and water safety. 55% of kids do not wear helmets regularly and those that do, most are not fitted properly. A child drown every 3 minutes. Following some simple safety guidelines can prevent these heartbreaking accidents.
May 02, 2016
#11: Smoother Bedtimes & Better Sleep
Is your baby sleeping 11-12 hour straight at night? Does your toddler get out of bed multiple times even after you've finished tucking in? In this episode Erin shares vital information and tips on how to solve several common bedtime and nighttime issues.
Apr 19, 2016
#10: Building a Better Listener
Are your kids outright ignoring you? So infuriating! Many times parents practice certain behaviors that actually work against them and teach their kids to ignore them! Learn the ways to communicate effectively with your kids so they cooperate and follow through the FIRST time you ask!
Apr 13, 2016
#9: Your Child's Unique Temperament
What works well with one child, may not work well with another. This is largely due to each child’s unique personality traits, known as temperament. Learn about these traits and ways to help and guide your unique child to thrive in their own way to foster long-term success at home, school and beyond.
Apr 11, 2016
#8: Tips to Being a Peaceful Parent
Parents are busier and more stressed than ever. How do we teach our kids to manage emotions effectively if we can't do it? Get some great tips on how to keep your cool, share frustrations effectively and be that great role model you know you can be!
Mar 29, 2016
#7: Media Guidelines by Age - How Much is Too Much?
Screentime is being called "The biggest parenting problem of our time." In this episode, Erin shares screentime guidelines for both time and content from the 2 most reputable sources, the AAP (American Academy of Pediatrics) and
Mar 28, 2016
#6: Why to Avoid Praise & What to do Instead
Believe it or not, praise actually hurts self-esteem and works against our kids budding initiative and independence. Learn about the why it's important to avoid praise and how you can share your delight in other ways that builds internal motivation and initiative.
Mar 21, 2016
#5: How to Stop Sibling Rivalry & Fighting
Are you tired of the bickering and fighting in your house? Maybe you even have hopes that your children will grow up and become good friends. This is possible and parents can have a big part in it! Learn about the difference between rivalry and fighting and how help your children build a strong foundation for friendship, along with pitfalls to avoid that can actually increase rivalry and competition among siblings.
Mar 17, 2016
#4: Healthy Eating & Picky Eaters
Picky eating among children has become a phenomenon, and not a good one! If you are wondering how to make sure your young child keeps their food choices wide and becomes an adventurous eater, or if you already have a picky eater in training, you won't want to miss this episode. Erin shares about the phenomenon know as "food jags" and how to not let these dictate your toddlers food choices, as well as ways to fix an already picky eater.
Mar 15, 2016
#3: Tantrum Prevention & Tips
In this episode, Erin shares some great information to help parents understand, prevent and deal with tantrums. She also answers a couple of questions from parents in the audience to help them get a handle on their own specific tantrum situations with their toddlers.
Mar 14, 2016
#2: How to Support & Build Kids' Self-Esteem
Research shows that, on average, girls' self-esteem peaks at age 9. For boys, self-esteem issues have tripled in recent years. As a society, we have taken a very wrong turn in trying to help kids develop strong self-esteem. In this episode Erin covers the basics of building true, healthy self-esteem for kids of all ages, infants through adolescents.
Mar 11, 2016
#1: Introduction to Parenting Beyond Discipline
An introduction to the Parenting Beyond Discipline podcast, including about the host, Erin Royer-Asrilant, the format, and a sampling of topics to be covered. To submit questions for future episodes, send an email to:
Mar 10, 2016