Parenting Beyond Discipline

By Erin Royer-Asrilant - LA's Parenting and Child Development Expert

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 Aug 16, 2018

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Erin Royer-Asrilant, LA's go-to expert on all things parenting and child development for today’s common challenges, covers way more than just discipline. She dives into topics such as self-esteem, development and health, modern parenting issues and even education. Erin is not just knowledgeable but also relatable, warm, and sometimes even funny.

Episode Date
#120: Rambunctious & Aggressive Toddler & Bedtime Struggles - Getting Toddler to Stay in Room
00:27:18
How wild is too wild when it comes to a preschooler? How can you guide your highly active youngster to get out his energy in more appropriate ways? In this episode Erin answers this question for a mom whose 4 year old is driving her crazy with his wild and sometimes aggressive behavior! Then another question about dealing with a toddler who refused to stay in bed, even when using the mantra method. What could be going wrong? Listen to find out!
Dec 14, 2018
#119: Helping Toddler with Shyness & Strong Parental Preference
00:20:54
How do you teach a toddler to be polite to friends, relatives and sitters when they hit a shy stage without pushing and ending in a power struggle? Erin gives tips to this parent on guiding his toddler through this stage. What do you do when your toddler strongly prefers one parent over the other? This can be very painful to the rejected parent and exhausting for the preferred parent. Erin guides these parents in dealing with this issue with their toddler.
Dec 06, 2018
#118: Kindergarten Readiness & Toddler Aggression & Outbursts
00:24:11
What does a child really need to ready for kindergarten? What do you do when the school says your child isn't ready but you don't agree with the assessment? In the second question, Erin covers more tips and tools for dealing with toddler aggression and outbursts, some great first steps to get things turned around, dealing with the aggression and/or outburst in the moment and secondary steps to take to continue the learning process for your process in finding and using better ways to behave.
Nov 30, 2018
#117: Dealing with Partial Potty Training & Toddler Possessiveness
00:21:26
Potty training happens differently for almost every child. But there are several common themes/issues and one of them is being fully potty trained for pee long before being ready to train for poop. Erin shares information with a mom about why this happens and steps she can take to encourage her son towards this milestone. The second question is from a mom about the best way to handle possessiveness in her 2 year-old. Erin shares why this happens and the ways to work with a toddler throughout this stage. Erin also interviews all 3 of her kids to introduce the audience to her kids that she talks so much about!
Nov 15, 2018
#116: Helping Your Child Deal with Anger
00:27:24
How do you help your child learn to recognize and deal with anger in age-appropriate ways? Listen to this episode to learn about things that affect the way children experience and process anger, stages of anger and what to do.
Nov 09, 2018
#115: Toddler Defiance & Toddler Pinching
00:23:25
Toddlerhood is the first big push for independence and with that often comes defiance. How do we support independence while also setting healthy boundaries? One mom asks for some guidance on dealing with her toddler's defiance, while another asks about how to deal with her toddlers pinching.
Nov 02, 2018
#114: Bedtime/Nightime Struggles & Mealtime Struggles
00:26:45
Two of the most common toddlerhood struggles, getting kids to try and enjoy healthy foods and bedtimes, are often not about the foods themselves or bedtimes at all but about POWER! Once kids figure out the holes in the system, they will use it to their full advantage. Learn how to be ready with tips and tools to circumvent these and other common toddlerhood power grabs in this episode!
Oct 26, 2018
#113: Potty Training Regression for Attention & Fine Line Between Praise and Encouragement
00:28:59
Potty Training regression can happen for many reasons, one being for attention when a new sibling enters the home. Erin shares with a mom how to work to get her son back on track. Then Erin answers a question from a mom seeking clarification on when encouragement is too much, when to know the difference between encouraging for behavior you want to see and when a behavior should be expected.
Oct 19, 2018
#112: Dealing with Toddler Hitting & Balancing Parenting Boundaries with Friendship
00:20:25
Hitting is a common problem in toddlerhood. Toddlers are still learning social skills and brain development that is necessary for self-control. Learn how to coach and teach toddlers better ways of sharing frustrations. Also, how should parents balance setting boundaries and building a strong connection since both are necessary in for raising responsible happy kids?
Oct 12, 2018
#111: Toddler's Cartoon Obsession & Helping Girls Form Positive Friendships
00:20:53
Erin helps a mom who is struggling with her toddler who seems to be obsessed with cartoons. Erin shares some new secrets about the science of psychology and shaping behavior, some things many parents do that actually backfires and creates more of the behavior they are trying to minimize or eliminate. Then Erin answers a question from a mom about helping her young daughter form more positive friendships.
Oct 07, 2018
#110: Step-Parenting & Sleepovers
00:23:06
Step-parenting brings in a whole new set of challenges. How do you setup rules that may be different than the other home without undermining the other parent? Also, sleepovers? Yes or No? If so when, with and with whom? Learn some sobering statistics that may give you a different perspective about sleepovers.
Sep 28, 2018
#109: Instilling Confidence in Kids
00:25:57
Confidence will get you anywhere! But how can you make sure your kids develop and keep a good serving of confidence? It has to be built and cannot be given! Listen to this episode to learn how to instill confidence in your kids, and just as importantly what NOT to do, things that many well-meaning parents do that can undermine their child's confidence and chip away at their self-esteem.
Sep 21, 2018
#108: Potty Training Relapse & Bedtime Issues & Early Wakeups
00:20:51
Potty Training relapse is common and can happen for many reasons. Erin shares how to deal with a potty training relapse when it's due to a complete lack of motivation or interest. Also changes in sleep schedules are common throughout infancy and toddlerhood, be they nighttime, middle of the night or those dreaded early morning wakeups. Erin answers a mom's question about how to get her toddler back on track with better sleep habits.
Sep 14, 2018
#107: Parenting as a Couple
00:16:12
Parenting has changed immensely in recent decades. With households where both parents are becoming more equally involved in the parenting process, it can create another area for disagreement among parents. Whether parenting in the same household or separate, this episode covers tips for learning how to come together rather than working against each other.
Sep 07, 2018
#106: Teaching Personal Space & Instilling Leadership Skills
00:19:02
Wondering why little kids are always in other people's faces?! Curious how to teach them about personal space? Erin covers that in this episode along with ways to instill leadership skills by starting the foundation as early as toddlerhood.
Aug 24, 2018
#105: Sex/Relationship Questions from 3-Year-Old & Strong-Willed 8-Year-Old
00:20:01
How do you answer sex & relationship questions from a precocious toddler? How much do you share? How do you address their curiosity yet keep things age appropriate? Also in this episode, learn how to deal with strong-willed behavior when a child is refusing to go along with the family plans.
Aug 04, 2018
#104: 3-Year-Old Afraid of the Dark & Back to School Tips
00:19:30
Fears are common starting around age 2 and can continue throughout toddlerhood. When a fear of the dark is affecting bedtimes and wearing parents out even more, how do you help your toddler get over the fear and feel safe to fall asleep in his room? Listen to this episode to find out! Also learn some tips to make back to school smooth, including starting preschool.
Jul 27, 2018
#103: Building Resilience in Kids
00:22:49
Some kids come to world the ready to tackle everything and anything and just don't give up, while others will shy away if they don't succeed right away. Learn how to work with a child who struggles with resilience and natural persistence when Erin answers that exact question from a mom in this episode.
Jul 21, 2018
#102: Getting a Toddler to Listen in Public & Parenting to a Child's Potential
00:26:45
If you want to know how to get your toddler to cooperate while out in public, this is the episode for you! Erin covers an easy 4 step process to engaging a toddler to cooperate while in public spaces! Also Erin covers some general parenting guidelines and thoughts based on her observations and experiences as a therapist working with kids as well in her own life with her own children.
Jul 11, 2018
#101: Summer Safety Tips & Toddler Middle of the Night Wake-Ups
00:22:11
Get some great summer safety tips in the episode! Also Erin helps a mom who's 3 year-old is getting up consistently several times a night with several different options for addressing this issue.
Jun 29, 2018
#100: Summer Tips & Dealing with 6-Year-Old Aggressive Behavior
00:24:50
First, learn some tips for making the most of summer! Then Erin helps a mom who is struggling with her daughter's aggressive behavior and outburst, with some practical tips for teaching kids how to learn to manage their tough emotions make better choices.
Jun 22, 2018
#99: Ways to Connect with Younger Toddlers & How to Stop Young Toddler from Self-Stimulating
00:24:10
Ways and ideas to connect with older toddlers and kids are plentiful. But what about younger toddlers? (1-2 year olds) How can a parent connect with their kids when they are just learning to walk and talk? Also how does a parent handle it when they see a young toddler (1-2 years old) self-stimulating their genitals? Is this normal behavior?
Jun 15, 2018
#98: What is the Difference Between Permissive and Peaceful Parenting?
00:29:32
How can tell the difference between peaceful parenting and permissive parenting? Sometimes parents just want to get through an exchange without a huge power struggle! So if a parent gives in are they then falling into the trap of being too permissive? How can we learn to tell the difference so that we can parent peacefully without becoming a doormat?
Jun 08, 2018
#97: Co-Sleeping & Dealing with Young Kids "Playing Doctor"
00:23:57
In this episode, Erin answers two questions, the first from a mom with a lot of questions about whether or not to continue co-sleeping or work on getting her toddlers to sleep in their own beds and a second question about how to handle the situation when she encounters her young kids engaging in sexual exploration.
May 25, 2018
#96: How to Handle Big Imagination & Infant Stopped Sleeping Through the Night
00:26:18
In this episode Erin answers a question for a mom who wants to know how to best handle her daughters big imagination. Erin covers the development of imagination, the benefits to imagination and, of course, answers this mom's question about how to best support her daughter's very unique imagination. Then Erin answers another question for a mom who's infant has stopped sleeping through the night when she had been doing so consistently.
May 11, 2018
#95: Creating a Parenting Framework for Positive Discipline
00:25:34
In this episode Erin answers a big and nuanced question from a listener who is struggling with where to even start with discipline, self-esteem and helping her kids with their social skills. So Erin shares how to create a framework and a strong foundation for positive discipline, including building kids self-esteem and social skills.
May 04, 2018
#94: Your Developing Infant
00:24:00
Babies change so much in the first year after birth. Learn about these changes in all the areas of development including developmental milestones, ways to support your infant's development and red flags of which to be aware that may mean an assessment by a specialist is in order.
Apr 27, 2018
#93: Toddler Screaming at Bedtime & 8-Year-Old Cranky in Mornings
00:17:02
In this episode Erin answers bedtime/sleep issues from two moms. The first question is about a toddler who has started to scream when he goes to bed at night. The second question is from a mom about how to help her 8 year-old get enough sleep so she isn't such a bear to get up in the morning!
Apr 20, 2018
#92: Bedtime Struggles & Dealing with Hateful Words
00:23:33
Erin covers two new topics, a common bedtime struggle of how to get a toddler to brush teeth at bedtime who is refusing & ways to deal with a 4 year-old who is resorting to using hateful words when he's angry.
Apr 10, 2018
#91: Getting 8-Year-Old to Listen & Follow Directions
00:21:19
In this episode Erin answers one question from a mom about how to work with her strong-willed daughter on listening and following directions. Erin discusses trouble areas such as homework, chores, and extra-curricular activities, in this case music practice and also gives some general guidelines on working with kids to increase cooperation.
Mar 31, 2018
#90: Frequent Crying & Thumb Sucking
00:15:41
Erin answers questions from two moms, the first about how to help a baby who crying frequently, the second about why her 18 month old started sucking his thumb when he's never done it before and how to stop it without affecting his emotional development.
Mar 25, 2018
#89: Stopping Screaming in Toddlers & Fixing Whining
00:15:55
Erin answers two parenting questions, the first about a 3 year-old who reacts by screaming/screeching where she shares the steps to teaching a toddler to use words instead of reacting. The second question is about how to eliminate whining. Erin discusses ways to prevent whining and then the steps to stop whining when it does occur.
Mar 16, 2018
#88: Talking to Kids About Sex
00:24:09
In this episode, Erin answers a mom's question about how to address her toddlers questions about gender and sex, deal with nudity and what's considered normal and healthy. Then Erin talks more about talking to kids about sex as they age, questions to expect and be ready for and where to get more information.
Mar 09, 2018
#87: Work/Life Balance & Behavior Modification for Children with Autism
00:22:01
In this episode Erin gives some tips to a mom struggling to keep up with all the responsibilities of working and being a mom to an infant. In the second half she guides a mom on going about working with her child who is awaiting an assessment for autism.
Mar 02, 2018
#86: Toddler Aggression & Disrespect Out of Character
00:18:51
Erin answers 2 more parenting questions, the first about how to deal with aggression in a toddler, the second about working with a 6 year-old showing disrespectful behavior that is out of character for him.
Feb 23, 2018
#85: Lying, Cheating & Stealing
00:16:20
Erin shares a personal incident about kids stealing and talks about the ways and times to teach kids about making good choices around cheating, stealing and lying.
Feb 16, 2018
#84: Common Misbehaviors & Their Solutions
00:21:38
In this episode Erin covers some of the common reasons why kids misbehave, how to decode the meaning behind their behavior and some solutions to both prevent and fix several of these reasons.
Feb 09, 2018
#83: Dealing with Grabbing & 3-Year-Old Meltdowns
00:21:17
In this episode Erin answers two more questions, first from a mom dealing with a 6 year-old who is frequently grabbing from her sister and wants to know how to handle it, the second from a mom wanting some options and tools for helping her 3 year-old learn to react more appropriately than screaming when he's asked to stop his behavior.
Feb 02, 2018
#82: Supporting Child Through Divorce & Tantrums in 8 yo
00:22:48
In this episode, Erin tackles a new topic, divorce. How do you support a child through the divorce process? Then Erin answers another question from a step mom wanting help to eliminate tantrums her 8 year old step-son is now throwing on a regular basis.
Jan 26, 2018
#81: Naptime Struggles & Attention Seeking Behavior
00:22:13
Erin answers two new parenting questions, the first is a parent really struggling to keep a toddler in his rooms for nap-time. The toddler is even resorting to aggressive behavior to keep from staying in his room to nap. The second question is from a mom wanting to know how to deal with negative behavior in a positive way.
Jan 19, 2018
#80: Common Parenting Resolutions
00:23:45
In the first episode of 2018, Erin covers some common parenting resolutions along with tips for achieving them! She also delves a little bit into her own resolutions and why resolutions for self, are still supporting our kids and family too!
Jan 12, 2018
#79: Separation Anxiety & Dealing with Grandparents Not Following Rules
00:22:48
In this episode Erin answers a question from a mom who's toddler is having separation anxiety at every drop-off but reports being excited and wanting to go back to school when she comes to pick her up. Another mom wants to know how to deal with grandparents not following her rules and a concern about grandma asking her granddaughter to keep secrets.
Dec 15, 2017
#78: Raising Kids to Reach Their Potential
00:24:12
In this episode, Erin answer a question from a parent about how to raise kids to reach their full potential. Erin covers 5 different areas to consider when aspiring to raise children to reach their potential, from cooperation and problem-solving, to responsibility, emotional competence and more.
Dec 08, 2017
#77: Parenting Q&A: Infant Sleeping Through the Night & Separation Anxiety
00:21:20
Erin answers two more parenting questions, the first about separation anxiety that has appeared later in toddlerhood. She shares background details about separation anxiety, what it is and why it happens and how to facilitate smoother dropoffs when separation anxiety appears. The second question is about helping babies learn to sleep through the night.
Dec 01, 2017
#76: Educational Toys
00:19:08
In this episode Erin talks about what to look for in a toy that will make it more engaging in both the short and long term for kids. Erin also covers toys for kids infants through teens in all areas of development: gross and fine motor skills, as well as cognitive development including language.
Nov 27, 2017
#75: Parenting Q&A: Answering Toddler's Questions About Sex & Supporting Independence
00:17:54
What do you say when your toddler, preschooler or really child of any age asks you questions about sex and sexuality? What is age-appropriate? How much should they know and when? Erin answers these questions in this episode, along with another question about how to support a toddler in becoming more independent who is not interested in doing things, of which he is capable, on his own.
Nov 17, 2017
#74: Parenting Q&A - Naptime Trouble & When to Expect Sharing
00:20:56
Erin answers 2 questions from moms, the first about how to tell and how to transition when toddlers are ready to drop naps. The second question is about when and how to encourage sharing. In a particular, this mom has a friend who is constantly concerned and getting involved in their daughters' play sessions to deal with concerns over sharing and wants to know what to do.
Nov 10, 2017
#73: Parenting Q&A - 5 Year Old with Anger Issues & Overwhelmed Mom
00:22:05
In this episode Erin answers questions from 2 moms about how to deal with their children's anger issues. She also helps the second mom who is also struggling with feeling overwhelmed, anxious and depressed so her son's anger issues are just adding more pressure to her already stressful days.
Nov 03, 2017
#72: Developing Early Reading, Writing, Math & Science
00:24:39
In this episode, Erin covers how to work with younger children, toddlers through early elementary age to build pre-reading, reading, pre-writing, writing, and math and science skills in fun and engaging ways that are also age-appropriate and build a foundation for a life-long enjoyment of learning.
Oct 27, 2017
#71: Parenting Q&A - Severe Tantrums & Helping with Difficult Emotions
00:20:56
In this episode Erin helps a mom understand how to help her speech-delayed 4 year-old with her severe tantrums. She explains some background of cognitive and language development on the road to managing tantrums better along with tools to work with her child. Next Erin answers a moms question about helping her 5 year-old with her overly-emotional responses to even the smallest of requests.
Oct 20, 2017
#70: Parenting Q&A - Dealing with 13-Year-Old’s Selfish Behavior
00:21:58
Erin shares information about the process and development of adolescence along with several tips on approaching tweens and teens to motivate their behavior and eliminate the nagging!
Oct 13, 2017
#69: Parenting Q&A - Eliminating Reward Charts & Child Feeling Overwhelmed
00:24:22
Erin answers more parenting questions, first a mom asks about how to best eliminate reward charts after she learned from a previous episode that they do work in building internal motivation. The second question is about a lot of different behaviors from a 5 year-old including picky eating and behaviors stemming from anxiety and feeling overwhelmed.
Oct 06, 2017
#68: Birth Order
00:23:12
Birth order, both your children’s and your own can affect you and your children’s personalities and how they experience the world. In this fascinating episode, you will learn the common tendencies, pitfalls to avoid, as well as all the variables that affect a child’s tendencies to express the typical patterns of each birth order category.
Sep 29, 2017
#67: Parenting Q&A - Desiphering Fact from Fiction, Hitting & Overcoming Nighttime Fears
00:16:26
In this episode Erin helps a mom with tips on supporting her toddler through the common issue of nighttime and bedtime fears of monsters, as well as helping another mom work with her child when he talks about hitting or kicking another child but has no evidence to corroborate. Erin helps this mom know what to say and how to deal with discussing it with her toddler
Sep 22, 2017
#66: Parenting Q&A - Toddler Hitting Mom & Picky Eaters
00:20:08
In this episode, Erin answers more questions, the first about a young toddler who hits, scratches and kicks when he's upset but only with mom. The second questions is about a toddler who has become increasingly picky. Mom had hoped he would outgrow it but it has only continued to get worse.
Sep 15, 2017
#65: Parenting Q&A - Sibling Fights & Toddler Naps
00:20:19
Erin answers 2 questions in this episode, one from a mom who's kids' play is turning too physical and one tries to annoy the other to get a reaction. The second questions is about how to tell when it's time to have a toddler drop naps.
Sep 08, 2017
#64: Parenting Q&A - Toddler Hitting & Helping Child Deal with Strong Feelings
00:19:13
In this episode, Erin answers two questions, one about dealing with a 2 year old hitting his 3 month old baby sibling and another about a 5 year old who melts down in tears and sadness when mom tries to talk with him about his behavior.
Sep 01, 2017
#63: Parenting Q&A - Bullying Prevention & Resilience in Children
00:22:20
Erin answers 2 questions from parents. First a mom of a timid son is concerned about him becoming a target of bullying and wants to know how she can help him become more assertive. Then Erin answers another mom's question about how to support her 5 year old son who seems to fall apart when things don't go his way and tends to shy away from pushing himself even a little bit to try new things.
Aug 24, 2017
#62: Erin's Story & How Much Child Attention is Enough?
00:17:41
Erin shares her deeply personal journey about becoming a parent after a less-than-stellar childhood, her reason for wanting to other parents and families, not just her own and answers a questions from a listener about how much time is enough with our kids, how to allay the guilt we sometimes feel when we think we aren't giving enough
Aug 17, 2017
#61: Parenting Q&A - Teaching Sharing, Toddler Anxiety & Dealing with Aggression
00:26:12
In this episode, Erin answers some parenting questions about helping a 2 year-old deal with anxiety around sharing favorite toys, and ways to help a 6 year-old learn stop aggressive behavior and instead to share emotions appropriately.
Jul 28, 2017
#60: Teaching Kids to Take Responsibility
00:14:30
Taking responsibility for our actions is an important life skill that leads to success in many areas. But kids don't pick this up by osmosis. Learn about Erin's experience with one of her kids this week around this lesson and how to help your kids learn this very important skill!
Jul 20, 2017
#59: Parenting Q&A - Toddler Bedtime Struggles & Mom and Son Bonding Ideas
00:18:54
In this episode, Erin covers ways to handle the age-old problem of toddlers not settling down at bedtime, whether they are crying or continuously getting out of bed, these tips solve that problem! Then Erin answers another question from mom who is more "girly" and is looking for ideas of ways to bond with her very active boys!
Jul 14, 2017
#58: Surviving Summer Part II
00:21:43
In this episode, Erin shares some FUN ideas for keeping kids academic skills sharp over the summer, what to do when kids tell you they are "bored" as well as ideas for having fun family time over the summer break.
Jun 29, 2017
#57: Surviving Summer Part I
00:18:41
Summer can be a time of great fun but also frustration and "boredom" with too much togetherness and loose schedules. Erin covers tips for making the most of the summer during this time of relief from the pressures from school in this 2 part episode! Learn how to set and work on fixing problem areas in behavior and family organization, keep school skills strong AND still have fun!
Jun 22, 2017
#56: Stopping Sibling Fights, Building Sibling Relationships and More
00:25:59
Erin answers more parenting question in this episode, including questions from a mom about how to minimize sibling fights and build stronger sibling relationships, as well as a question about the best type of bike for her 3 year old to build skills to learn to ride a 2 wheel bike.
Jun 09, 2017
#55: Raising Responsible & Independent Kids: Part 2
00:16:15
In part 2 on raising responsible and independent kids, you will learn how to raise kids that learn to do for themselves. Erin discusses what responsibilities are realistic by age and should be expected. So you can be sure to raise kids who you can be confident in their skills and independence.
May 25, 2017
#54: Raising Responsible & Independent Kids: Part 1
00:17:12
If you strive to raise responsible and independent kids that make you proud, where other parents ask you "How do you get your kids to do THAT?!", then this is a not be missed episode. The first in a 2 part series on how to raise kids that do for themselves and help around the house with no (or maybe just a little) complaining! Erin discusses how changes in parenting style can lead to kids who are dependent and lazy or independent and responsible. Also, some great basic tips on setting up expectations for success. Next episode will cover what responsibilities are realistic by age and how to get these started and keep them going in your home.
May 18, 2017
#53: Setting Boundaries with Respect
00:14:20
In this episode Erin makes a dedication to all of those hard-working single parents out there and covers some areas that can be especially challenging for single parents, including setting boundaries and expectations and making them stick.
May 04, 2017
#52: Parenting Q&A - Motivating Kids & Abnormal Social Behavior
00:21:31
In this installment of the parenting Q & A, Erin answers 2 questions from her listeners, the first on ways to motivate an unmotivated 5 year-old and another on how to work with a child who seems to be displaying abnormal social behaviors and ignores the requests and even consequences of parents and teachers.
Apr 27, 2017
#51: Tips to Raising Healthy Eaters
00:17:41
Are your kids too picky? Are you hoping to raise healthy eaters and looking for tips? In this episode, Erin covers 9 great ways to help kids learn to enjoy and even love healthy foods!
Mar 23, 2017
#50: Parenting Q&A - Potty Training Power Struggles & Sibling Aggression Against New Baby
00:14:38
In this parenting Q & A session, Erin answers a parent's questions on what to do with a power struggle over potty training, power struggles in general and another parent's question about an older sibling reacting aggressively towards the new baby.
Mar 16, 2017
#49: Smoother Bedtimes, Mornings & Time Changes
00:15:53
As kids age, they get less than the recommended sleep. Sleep is important for growth, both physical, emotional and cognitive. In this episode, Erin shares how to setup bedtime to ensure enough sleep, how to have smoother bedtimes and mornings to allow for more downtime for parents and sleep for everyone, as well as how to make switching the clocks and therefore bedtimes and wakeups go much smoother. A must listen!
Mar 09, 2017
#48: Dealing with Aggression in Children
00:18:07
Aggression among children is a common problem and even normal at some ages, yet not acceptable. In this episode, Erin shares about aggression in children and how to fix this common behavioral problem.
Feb 23, 2017
#47: 3 Top Tools to a Cooperative Toddler
00:28:27
Does your toddler constantly do the opposite of what you say? Does she butt up against you over almost every little thing? With these 3 tools you can have a much more cooperative toddler and smoother days!
Feb 09, 2017
#46: Parenting Q&A - Toddler Nighttime Struggles, Rewards, Teen Power Struggles
00:18:05
Erin answers questions from parents in the audience, a mom who has 2 toddlers who wake up during the night, a couple of questions about when/if rewards are ever acceptable and a third from a mom dealing with power struggles with her 11 year-old son.
Jan 26, 2017
#45: Giving Yourself Permission to Feel Attractive
00:15:46
Parenting can leave us feeling drained and ridiculously unattractive and unsexy! In this episode, Erin shares tips on ways to get back to feeling attractive and desirable as a hard-working parent.
Jan 19, 2017
#44: Parenting Q&A - Toddler Screentime & Toddler Using Hurtful Words
00:16:53
Erin offers insight and information about children's development as she delves into a couple of listeners specific questions, the first about how to manage infants & toddlers around adult needs and usage of a cell phones and other screens. The second question is what is the best way to handle a toddler who uses hurtful words?
Jan 12, 2017
#43: Parenting Resolutions - Fit Parenting, Leading by Example
00:18:34
Whether you feel you are starting at square one or just tweaking and refining your goals for living a healthier life for yourself and your family, Erin shares 6 secrets for sticking with your resolutions this year.
Jan 04, 2017
#42: Parenting Resolutions - The Organized Family
00:17:17
Is one of your new year's resolutions to get organized and have a smoother running home? If so, you'll want to listen to this episode, The Organized Family. Erin shares lots of tips for the organizing challenges that are particular to parents, toys, kids clothes, schedules, morning routines and more.
Dec 28, 2016
#41: Fun & Educational Toys Gift Buying Guide
00:17:13
Do you want to buy toys for kids that they will play with time and time again? Toys that they can expand their minds and bodies too? Erin has a great list of sites and toy companies and gift ideas for toys that kids love and help them develop creatively, physically, and cognitively too!
Dec 14, 2016
#40: Teaching an Attitude of Gratitude
00:12:55
The holidays can bring out the best AND worst in our kids! Learn how to teach kids an attitude of gratitude during the holiday season, and how to help them focus more on the true meaning of the holidays and less on the presents and "what can I get?!"
Dec 07, 2016
#39: Reducing Holiday Stress
00:12:02
The holidays are fun but also hectic! In this episode, Erin shares some tips on ways to get through the holidays with less stress and more joy and togetherness!
Nov 30, 2016
#38: The Downsides to Rewards & Punishments
00:23:26
Rewards and punishments are just different sides of the same coin and are highly ineffective for long-term development and growth. Learn about the downsides of these two commonly used parenting tools and what you can do instead to raise cooperative, respectful and responsible kids!
Nov 17, 2016
#37: Car Seat Safety Tips
00:20:28
Car crashes are the leading cause of death for kids in the US and yet most of us are completely untrained in the best way to keep our kids safe from them: by properly installing a car seat. "Across the country we see a greater than 95% misuse of car seats" Learn how to choose the proper seat, how to install seats properly and common mistakes in installing and strapping kids in to seats.
Nov 04, 2016
#36: How to Moderate Halloween Candy
00:14:48
Are you wondering how to let your kids enjoy Halloween, especially the candy without letting them go overboard? How can a parent help kids regulate their consumption without being a complete stick-in-the-mud? What are opportunities does Halloween give to teach kids good life lessons and skills? There are plenty! Tune in to find out!
Oct 26, 2016
#35: Helping Kids with Stress & Aggression
00:12:49
Election season isn't just stressing out parents, it's trickling down and stressing out our kids too. How do we teach about the election process without exposing them to too much negativity? Also incidences of aggression are up so Erin talks about helping kids deal with aggression in this episode.
Oct 20, 2016
#34: Honesty & Lying in Kids
00:14:24
In this episode Erin discusses development of honesty and lying by age, some of the reasons kids lie, ways parents can help teach kids about lying and honesty without shaming and appropriate consequences. Erin also answer two questions from parents about ways to handle lying and teach the importance of honesty.
Oct 13, 2016
#33: Sibling Relationships Q&A
00:15:40
Are you concerned about the relationship between your kids? Or are you just wanting to learn how to support strong sibling relationships from the start? In this episode Erin talks about some basics of sibling relationships when it comes to discord, answers parents questions about their struggles with sibling fighting and rivalry and gives some great do's and don'ts for supporting strong relationships and bonds among siblings!
Oct 05, 2016
#32: Your Developing Toddler
00:20:28
Are you curious whether or not your child’s behavior and development are considered normal? Just curious and wanting to know what to expect? Understanding development facilitates a deeper understanding which makes for smoother interactions and stronger relationships. In this episode Erin also answer 2 questions about common early childhood behavior and ways to handle them.
Sep 30, 2016
#31: Why Child Development Research Matters
00:14:24
Child development research can and does help parents understand their children and how to best support them to reach their potential and create stronger family relationships. Learn about the key areas Erin looks for when vetting solid child development research to share with her audience and some ways you can learn to discriminate the good from bad parenting "advice."
Sep 21, 2016
#30: Kids, Sports & Competition
00:18:15
Erin shares guidelines for introducing kids to physical skills, sports rules and play and competitive sports in age appropriate ways, taking both physical and metal-emotional aspects of child development into consideration, starting in toddlerhood through high school. Learn how to support your child in healthy and positive ways throughout childhood in sports and physical activities
Sep 08, 2016
#29: Shopping for a Preschool
00:20:22
Ever wonder the differences between Montessori, Reggio, High Scope, and other early childhood education philosophies? Want to know what to look for and ask on a preschool tour? This episode on shopping for a preschool covers these. Plus Erin answers a question from a listener about how parents can build their own self-esteem based on her experience.
Aug 31, 2016
#28: Parenting Questions & Answers #2
00:17:40
Hear Erin's parenting answers to her listeners' questions. How do you handle one brother beating up on another? What do you do with a nine year old who is throwing tantrums? When should you start learning about discipline and other common child development stages and issues so you can be ready? Erin answers these questions with insight and warmth and gives these parents some plans of action.
Aug 24, 2016
#27: Bullying
00:23:45
If you are concerned about bullying, just curious or want to be prepared, this episode covers what bullying is, the dynamics and effects of bullying, and ways to work with your child at home and through the school for both prevention and if you know or suspect bullying is happening, whether your child is the aggressor, a victim or a witness to bullying.
Aug 17, 2016
#26: Preventing Power Struggles
00:23:56
Power struggles start in toddlerhood and last all the way through adolescence so learning to recognize them, prevent them and handle them well when they do happen is paramount. In this episode, Erin shares some great tips and tools for preventing and dealing with power struggles, including her own recent experience, what she did wrong and what she would do differently the next time so you can learn from her mistake!
Aug 11, 2016
#25: Tips to Starting the School Year Right
00:18:32
Get some great tips for getting off on the right foot for a successful school year! In this episode, Erin covers tips from a smoother homework process to smoother mornings.
Aug 03, 2016
#24: Parenting Answers to Common Toddler Problems
00:19:35
In this episode, Erin answers various questions that have come in from her listeners about toddler bedtimes, getting a toddler to eat during mealtimes, helping a mom with determined toddler solve a common problem. If you have a question for Erin, send it to podcast@yourvillageonline.com
Jul 23, 2016
#23: What is Positive Discipline?
00:22:59
The democratic/authoritative parenting style has been shown to result in THE best outcomes for social-emotional skills, cognitive skills, happiness and success in relationships and life. Positive discipline is the discipline philosophy that falls into this parenting style. Learn about positive discipline, what it is, why it works and some tips on implementing it in your family.
Jul 13, 2016
#22: What is Your Parenting Style?
00:21:10
Have you heard of parenting styles and ever wondered about them or what style you fall under? In this episode, Erin discusses the 4 parenting styles, what traits are common to each and what research show are the common outcomes for each of the 4 styles. Enlightening, interesting and a must-listen for all parents.
Jul 06, 2016
#21: Smoother Bedtimes for Toddlers & Beyond
00:19:00
Do you want your evenings back? Toddlers, and older kids too, need lots of sleep. So the evening chase game is not ideal for either parent or child. Learn some great tips on teaching your kids good bedtime habits and get your evenings back!
Jun 29, 2016
#20: Raising Fit Kids for Life
00:20:00
Setting up healthy lifetime habits starts early in childhood. In this episode Erin talks about many ways to help kids learn to enjoy healthy foods and physical fitness and touches on ways to make sure your kids don't go down the path of picky eating or ways to get back on track if they are already picky and how to steer clear of pitfalls that lead to picky eating habits.
Jun 23, 2016
#19: Traveling With Kids
00:17:02
Traveling with kids, whether infants, toddlers or beyond, presents its own special challenges. Learn some great tips from Erin to make the travel part of your vacation or holiday smoother and easier whether it's by train, plane or car!
Jun 17, 2016
#18: Teaching Kids About Boundaries & Consent
00:16:29
Teaching kids about sexual consent starts early with things like teaching respect, boundaries, emotion skills, empathy skills and a healthy attitude towards sex and sexuality. Although this is a deep and intricate topic, this episode covers the basics of setting up a great foundation for and teaching about respectful sexual boundaries and consent in age appropriate ways.
Jun 09, 2016
#17: Potty Training Readiness Signs
00:17:26
The first step in an easy and smooth potty training process is knowing the signs to look for. This episode cover pre-readiness signs and ways to keep and increase interest, readiness signs that let you know your chances of potty training success and ease are high, as well as the 3 not ready signs that make potty training impossible!
Jun 01, 2016
#16: Summer Learning Loss
00:21:50
Did you know that most kids lose an average of 2 months of learning in math, spelling and even reading over the summer months? Whether your child is behind, on or ahead of grade level, summer is a great time keep and gain skill. Learn lots of ways to engage your learner in fun and interesting ways over the summer months in this episode!
May 25, 2016
#15: Dealing with Disrespectful Behavior
00:21:18
Are you getting a lot of attitude, rudeness and/or condescending tone of voice or behaviors? In this episode, Erin discusses the current "culture of disrespect" that has become all-too-common in families today and how to setup, expect and enforce an environment of respect.
May 19, 2016
#14: Nighttime Potty Training, Bedwetting & Relapse in Potty Training
00:15:24
Staying dry at night is the very last step in potty training. Many parents expect kids to complete this stage shorty after daytime training. But for many kids this isn't the case. Learn about when and how to night time train. Also potty training relapse is common, not just within a few months of potty training but even into early elementary school years. Learn how to handle daytime potty training relapse, regardless of age.
May 12, 2016
#13: The Secret Discipline Tool We All Need to Use More Often
00:09:38
There is discipline tool, that most of us parents do not leverage nearly enough! This tool can turn a potentially explosive situation into one of fun and connection. It can literally turn it around 180 degrees. What is this tool? It's HUMOR! (or humour! LOL!) What if you aren't naturally funny or silly? That's OK! This episode offers several ideas of ways to make discipline situations silly and fun for kids that any parent can follow! Find your inner child, get silly and get humorous with your kids! It's a win-win-win!
May 04, 2016
#12: Keeping Kids Safe Outdoors
00:21:39
So many outdoor accidents are preventable through teaching kids proper rules of bike riding, wearing properly fitted helmets and practicing very important rules around pool and water safety. 55% of kids do not wear helmets regularly and those that do, most are not fitted properly. A child drown every 3 minutes. Following some simple safety guidelines can prevent these heartbreaking accidents.
May 02, 2016
#11: Smoother Bedtimes & Better Sleep
00:28:27
Is your baby sleeping 11-12 hour straight at night? Does your toddler get out of bed multiple times even after you've finished tucking in? In this episode Erin shares vital information and tips on how to solve several common bedtime and nighttime issues.
Apr 19, 2016
#10: Building a Better Listener
00:18:22
Are your kids outright ignoring you? So infuriating! Many times parents practice certain behaviors that actually work against them and teach their kids to ignore them! Learn the ways to communicate effectively with your kids so they cooperate and follow through the FIRST time you ask!
Apr 13, 2016
#9: Your Child's Unique Temperament
00:17:13
What works well with one child, may not work well with another. This is largely due to each child’s unique personality traits, known as temperament. Learn about these traits and ways to help and guide your unique child to thrive in their own way to foster long-term success at home, school and beyond.
Apr 11, 2016
#8: Tips to Being a Peaceful Parent
00:16:48
Parents are busier and more stressed than ever. How do we teach our kids to manage emotions effectively if we can't do it? Get some great tips on how to keep your cool, share frustrations effectively and be that great role model you know you can be!
Mar 29, 2016
#7: Media Guidelines by Age - How Much is Too Much?
00:20:40
Screentime is being called "The biggest parenting problem of our time." In this episode, Erin shares screentime guidelines for both time and content from the 2 most reputable sources, the AAP (American Academy of Pediatrics) and zerotothree.org
Mar 28, 2016
#6: Why to Avoid Praise & What to do Instead
00:12:15
Believe it or not, praise actually hurts self-esteem and works against our kids budding initiative and independence. Learn about the why it's important to avoid praise and how you can share your delight in other ways that builds internal motivation and initiative.
Mar 21, 2016
#5: How to Stop Sibling Rivalry & Fighting
00:17:11
Are you tired of the bickering and fighting in your house? Maybe you even have hopes that your children will grow up and become good friends. This is possible and parents can have a big part in it! Learn about the difference between rivalry and fighting and how help your children build a strong foundation for friendship, along with pitfalls to avoid that can actually increase rivalry and competition among siblings.
Mar 17, 2016
#4: Healthy Eating & Picky Eaters
00:15:06
Picky eating among children has become a phenomenon, and not a good one! If you are wondering how to make sure your young child keeps their food choices wide and becomes an adventurous eater, or if you already have a picky eater in training, you won't want to miss this episode. Erin shares about the phenomenon know as "food jags" and how to not let these dictate your toddlers food choices, as well as ways to fix an already picky eater.
Mar 15, 2016
#3: Tantrum Prevention & Tips
00:23:12
In this episode, Erin shares some great information to help parents understand, prevent and deal with tantrums. She also answers a couple of questions from parents in the audience to help them get a handle on their own specific tantrum situations with their toddlers.
Mar 14, 2016
#2: How to Support & Build Kids' Self-Esteem
00:31:31
Research shows that, on average, girls' self-esteem peaks at age 9. For boys, self-esteem issues have tripled in recent years. As a society, we have taken a very wrong turn in trying to help kids develop strong self-esteem. In this episode Erin covers the basics of building true, healthy self-esteem for kids of all ages, infants through adolescents.
Mar 11, 2016
#1: Introduction to Parenting Beyond Discipline
00:04:24
An introduction the Village Voice - Parenting Beyond Discipline podcast, including about the host, Erin Royer-Asrilant, the format, and a sampling of topics to be covered. To submit questions for future episodes, send an email to: podcast@yourvillageonline.com or go to http://www.yourvillageonline.com/podcast
Mar 10, 2016