The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

By Robert Duff, Ph.D.

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 Nov 30, 2018


This is a podcast dedicated to answering your questions about mental health, anxiety, depression, relationships, sex, and life WITHOUT psychobabble BS. I am Dr. Robert Duff, a psychologist from Southern California, but I'm also a regular dude who legitimately wants to help out. I wrote the best selling books Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression and Hardcore Self Help: F**K Anxiety. Those are available at

Episode Date
Episode 230: Distancing Yourself from Family & Grieving for a Much Loved Pet

Hello, friends! This is a Q&A episode with two super important and interesting listener questions relating to coping with grief after losing a much-loved support dog, and being able to successfully distance yourself emotionally from family.

Stay safe <3


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Nov 26, 2020
Episode 229: Never Setting Boundaries & How Much Better is Enough?

Hello, friends. This is a super interesting Q&A which answers two important listener questions. The first relates to never setting personal boundaries, putting everyone first before yourself, and the second tackles the difficult question, how much better is enough?

As always you can send me your questions or topic suggestions to and full show notes are at 


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Nov 19, 2020
Bonus Episode: Top Mental Health Tools with Himalaya

Hello, all! Bringing you a little bonus episode today. I recently teamed up with Himalaya to create a full audio course all about top mental health tools that you can use to improve your life. Check out and use promo code DUFF for your first 14 days free!

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Nov 15, 2020
Episode 228: Roommate with BPD and Connecting to Others Again

Hello, everyone! This is a Q&A episode for you with two similarly themed questions having to do with relationships with other people. Here are the particular questions asked:

  • I feel bad about moving out due to my roommates borderline personality disorder. What can I do about this?
  • How can I connect to people again after getting out of an abusive relationship?

As always, you can send me questions or topic suggestions to 


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Nov 12, 2020
Episode 227: Reaching Out for Help with Depression & Coping with Suicidal Thoughts

Hello, friends! A Q&A episode for you this week with some really vulnerable questions. Here are the questions asked:

  • I think I have depression, but don't know how to reach out. What can I do?
  • I don't self-harm anymore but still have suicidal thoughts. How can I make them go away?

As always, you can send me questions for the show to


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Nov 05, 2020
Episode 226: 32 Things in 32 Years

I just had a birthday and I decided to do something a bit silly. In this episode, I am running down 32 things I've done in my 32 years on this earth. It's not all bragging! You'll learn a few interesting things about me and my experience. I greatly appreciate you. Thank you for being there for another trip around the sun.


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Oct 29, 2020
Episode 225: Auditory Hallucinations & Hitting a Roadblock with Depression and Anxiety

Hello, friends! This is a fascinating Q&A that answers a question relating to something we call non-clinical auditory hallucinations. In other words, hearing something that isn't actually there. I also offer advice on what you can do when you've hit a roadblock with your depression and anxiety. Enjoy!

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Oct 22, 2020
Episode 224: What's Working for Me Right Now

Hello, friends! Today I have a looser episode structure for you. Simply me sitting and talking to you about a few things that are working for me right now. They are super random, but all represent things in my life that are helping me get through. In no particular order they are...

  • White boards
  • Boundaries
  • Waking up early
  • Coldbrew
  • Verbal journaling
  • Exercising
  • Audiobooks
  • Having grace with myself
  • Timing activities
  • PBAP

See. Told you they were pretty random. I think you'll find some helpful tips in here though. Let me know what you think! 

If you have a question that you'd like answered or a topic for a future show, shoot me an email to

Oct 15, 2020
Episode 223: Episode 223: Is Hypnotherapy Valid? & Family Drama During the Holidays

Hello, friends! Bit of a short episode today, but great questions nonetheless! I also mention that I've been putting out more great content on Youtube and for my mailing list. Make sure you check those out as well if you can't get enough great mental health info! 

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

  • Does hypnotherapy work?
  • What can I do about my family issues during the holidays?

As always you can send me your questions and topic suggestions to 

This episode is sponsored by Himalaya ashwagandha. Use the code SELFHELP20 at checkout on Amazon to get a hefty discount! 

Oct 01, 2020
Episode 222: Moving Through Crisis w/ My Wife Joelle

Hello, friends. A lot of you have been asking to an update from my wife, Joelle. Today, I have her on the show to talk about what led up to her recent mental health crisis and how things have progressed since that time. She has undergone six ketamine infusion treatments, started with a psychiatrist, and started with a new therapist. We talk about all of these things and she does an amazing job of making visual metaphors for the ways in which she is changing. Enjoy!

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Sep 24, 2020
Episode 221: Priced Out of Therapy & Living with a Traumatic Past

Hey, all!

In this episode, I answer some awesome listener questions after rambling at your in a semi-lucid loopy tired state for a while. Here are the questions covered this episode:

  • What concrete work can people do to move on from trauma?
  • What can you do when your therapist prices you out?

As always, you can send me your questions for the show to

This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Go to for 10% off your first month of professional online therapy.

Sep 17, 2020
Episode 220: I Don't Want Kids & Can I Call Therapist Between Sessions?

Hello, friends!

Just a nice Q&A episode for you this week. Thank you all so much for the outpouring of support and care after the last episode. Things are definitely improving around here. Expect an update on our life soon! For today, here are the questions covered:

  • I have been struggling between therapy sessions, but don't want to bother my therapist about it. What can I do?
  • Should I go to therapy since I don't want to have kids following the death of my mother?

As always, you can send me your questions to and if you'd like to learn more about all that I do, check out

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Sep 10, 2020
Episode 219: Getting Real and Personal About Crisis Options

This is an interesting episode. I honestly don't know if I'll keep it posted forever. It has been an exhausting and scary week. So I turned on the mic and just got real with you. My wife is struggling with her mental health and we have had to navigate the options for more intensive treatment, which has been extremely frustrating. I talk about inpatient hospitalization, residential programs, partial hospitalization, intensive outpatient programs, and more. Basically, I ramble about what we are going through as a family for almost an hour. It's raw and it's real. I hope it helps you feel less alone. 

Aug 27, 2020
Episode 218: Lifestyle and Habit Changes for Anxiety

Hello, friends! I hope that where ever you are, you are not absolutely melting from heat like I am. Even if you are, go chill in the air conditioning and settle in because this episode's a long one. 

In this episode, I share the audio from THREE whole lessons of my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass. These lessons talk all about structural changes to your life that you can make and habits that you can build to further support your anxiety conquest.

Since each lesson is over 20 minutes, this episode clocks in at well over an hour.

If you love what you hear, please check out the online course that it came from at

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Aug 20, 2020
Episode 217: Communication and Active Listening Tips

Hello, all! Thanks for having some patience with the lack of an episode last week. I think it was worth it because this is a packed episode. In this week's episode, I dive deep into my favorite tips and techniques to make you a better communicator and a better listener. In the field, we call these "active listening" techniques and they are the fundamental techniques that all therapists learn to help people open up and trust them.

Here are the tips covered:

  • You have more than one shot.
  • Pay attention to emotional state.
  • Listen before speaking.
  • Nonverbal behaviors.
  • Open-ended questions.
  • Restatements.
  • Reflections.
  • Silence.

I think you'll get a lot out of this episode! 

Please continue sending me your questions and episode ideas to

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Aug 13, 2020
Episode 216: Long Distance Fiance & Bedtime Adrenaline Surges

Hello, friends! I hope that you're staying healthy and relatively happy out there. In this episode, I've got the following awesome questions for you:

  • My fiance and I are stuck on different continents due to COVID. What can I do to deal with my sadness?
  • I get rushes of adrenaline and panic attacks when moving around in bed at night. Why and what can I do?

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Jul 31, 2020
Episode 215: Depression Motivation Exercise, Abusive Ex

Hello, friends! This episode is a question and answer show with a couple really great ones:

  • How can I remember what brought be joy before depression?
  • Should I stay away from me ex who was abusive to me?

As always, please send in your questions for the show to

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Jul 23, 2020
Episode 214: Mask Anxiety and Medication Considerations

Hello, friends!

This is a nice little Q&A episode featuring the following two questions:

  • What can I do about my severe anxiety reaction when wearing a mask?
  • Should I be taking psychiatric medication for my symptoms?

No sponsor this week, but don't forget that my comprehensive anxiety course is still available until this pandemic is done. 

If you have questions or topic suggestions, send them over to

Jul 16, 2020
Episode 213: My Wife and I Talk Quarantine Hobbies and Poly Relationships

Hello, everyone! I think you will really enjoy this episode. I sat out in the back yard with some candles, twinkle lights, and a couple glasses of wine with my lovely wife, Joelle and just talked. We really didn't have an agenda, so you are getting a normal raw convo between us.

We ended up talking about a variety of topics including Joelle's new embroidery hobby and my new gardening hobby. We also discuss our poly triad relationship, which didn't end up lasting, Joelle's own identity exploration, and why WE work as a couple. It was such as pleasure to sit down and share these snippets with you all. 

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Jul 10, 2020
Episode 212: Unhooking from Thoughts Meditation

Hello, friends.

I asked on social media whether you'd prefer a Q&A or a guided meditation and the overwhelming answer was a guided meditation. I get it. We are STILL in uncertain and difficult times. I know that I'm dealing with my fair share of haywire thoughts. So, the purpose of this meditation is to help you get on a little better terms with your thoughts using the visualization of a snowglobe. Enjoy!

Please continue sending me your awesome questions and content suggestions to!

Jul 02, 2020
Episode 211: 10 Common Thinking Traps

Hello, all!

This episode features a re-release of one of my favorite episodes of all time. I go through 10 of the most common thinking traps. Also called cognitive distortions, thinking traps are patterns of unhelpful thinking that we all fall into at times. For those with mental health issues, they can become quite common. If you are interested in getting the free eBook based on this, head over to 

Next week will most likely be another Q&A, so keep sending me your awesome questions to

Jun 25, 2020
Episode 210: Helping Depressed Friend, Questioning Your Gender Identity

Hello, friends. I have a Q&A for you today. Please enjoy and stay well. Here are the questions covered:

  • How can I help my (teen) friend at school who seems to have depression?
  • I am questioning my gender identity. What should I do?

As always, you can send me questions to

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Jun 11, 2020
Episode 209: How to Get the Most out of Therapy

Hello, friends! This is a re-release of episode 74, in which I dive deep into 10 tips that you can use to get the most out of therapy. This is great advice whether you are a therapy newbie, a seasoned veteran, or still thinking about whether therapy is for you. Here are the tips I cover:

  1. You don’t need to impress your therapist
  2. Don’t lie to your therapist
  3. Don’t be afraid to get emotional and let it out
  4. Challenge your therapist and correct them
  5. If it’s not working, say something
  6. Find someone you are comfortable with
  7. Get therapy sooner
  8. Take notes and journal
  9. Do the homework and practice the skills
  10. Talk about the relationship between you and your therapist during session

As always, you can send me questions to and don't forget that the Kick Anxiety's Ass course remains open until the quarantine is over (it isn't).

May 28, 2020
Episode 208: Trouble With Video Therapy, Second Language Anxiety

Hello, friends! Quick reminder that easing of COVID-19 restrictions does not mean that the pandemic is over. For the sake of at-risk people like me, please continue being smart. 

That said, this episode is a 2-question Q&A covering the following:

  • I feel like I'm getting less out of video therapy. What can I do?
  • I have massive anxiety speaking my 2nd language about certain people. How can I become less anxious?

As always, you can send me questions, topics, or feedback to

May 22, 2020
Episode 207: Still Working During COVID, Avoiding Group Therapy

Hello, friends! This is a nice and easy two-question Q&A episode. I hope you're all taking great care of yourselves and staying healthy. I'll be back next week with another episode! Here are the questions covered this week:

  • I am required to work in the office during COVID and I'm having a hard time. What can I do?
  • I'm anxious about having to do group therapy. Should I avoid it?

As always, you can send me questions to If you haven't yet, make sure to check out my comprehensive online course at

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May 14, 2020
Episode 206: Dr. Lindsay Weisner on Destigmatizing Teen Suicidality

Hello, friends! This episode features an interview that I did with clinical psychologist Dr. Lindsay Weisner. We talk about many things during the interview, but Dr. Weisner's main goal is to destigmatize the conversation surrounding teen suicidality. Listen to learn more about why and how.

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Check out the full show notes, including all of Dr. Weisner's links at

May 01, 2020
Episode 205: More Personal Reflections from Robert

This is another episode in which I turned on the mic and sort of just rambled. I talk about life during quarantine, I talk about my new poly relationship, I talk about how my house is now stuffed to the gills with people and animals, and I talk about how we are all collectively having a hard time focusing. This is a low-key direct from my heart to your ears type of episode. If it bores you to sleep... you're welcome for the sleep!

This episode was sponsored by the Savvy Psychologist podcast. If you are looking for short digestible bites of mental health and psychology information, give them a try!

Apr 23, 2020
Episode 204: Dr. Drew Anderson on Staying Afloat During COVID-19

Hello, friends! This is a great interview with Dr. Drew Anderson, a licensed psychologist specializing in assessing and treating eating disorders, body image disturbance, and the psychological and medical problems associated with these things. Keeping with the COVID-19 focus, we chat about things you need to look out for with regard to disordered eating behaviors when you're in quarantine, as well as things anybody can do to help regulate themselves and stay afloat as well as possible during this period. 

As always, you can send me questions or suggestions for future episodes to

Our sponsor for this episode is the awesome Gravity Blankets. Check them out and get 20% off your first order by using the promo code "DUFF"!

As a reminder, the Kick Anxiety's Ass course will remain open until quarantine ends.

Apr 16, 2020
Episode 203: COVID Q&A - Abuse in Isolation, Missing Touch, Dreading Going Back to Normal

In this episode, we are continuing the trend of focusing on content related to the COVID-19 pandemic and quarantine. However, this week, we are getting back to the normal Q&A format. Here are the questions that are covered:

  • What do I do about being stuck with my abusive mother during quarantine?
  • I'm enjoying quarantine. What can I do about my dread of going back to normal?
  • How can I deal with missing physical touch during quarantine?

As always you can send me questions for the show to

This episode is sponsored by Lionrock Recovery. Check out for more info about their confidential online treatment programs for substance use.

Don't forget the Kick Anxiety's Ass course will remain open until the end of quarantine before I close new enrollments.

Apr 09, 2020
Episode 202: A Quick Coronavirus Pep Talk

This is a much shorter episode than usual. I just wanted to stop in to give you some words of encouragement and just a little bit of advice. You are allowed to be human and we will all get through this together. 

As a reminder, the Kick Anxiety's Ass course enrollments are extended until the quarantine period is finished. Now is the time to invest in your mental health at a hugely discounted rate. Learn more at

Apr 02, 2020
Episode 201: Managing News and Media Intake

Why hello, everyone. I hope you're quarantine is slightly less maddening than mine... I will likely be putting out episodes that are directly or indirectly related to our collective experience of the covid-19 pandemic for a while.

Today's episode is an entire module from my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass, which is have extended enrollments in until this pandemic has chilled the heck out. This is module 8: The World Is Crazy. 

There are three lessons covering ways to better manage the flow of information from news and social media. There is so much information and so many updates right now that it's easy to fall into a pattern of compulsively checking your phone. I hope this helps <3

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. They are a great option for finding support while you are stuck in your home. 

Mar 26, 2020
Episode 200: A Guided Relaxation for Coronavirus (COVID-19)

Hello, friends! Well. Things have changed drastically since the last podcast episode. I was thinking about doing something special for episode 200, but since all of our lives have been consumed by this pandemic and the quarantine efforts, I thought it would be most helpful to do something related to that.

In this episode, I give you a few of my thoughts about how to best get through this time and then guide you through some visualization and breathing to help you let go and get some much needed rest. I truly hope that it helps a bit. 

Mar 18, 2020
Episode 199: Health Anxiety with Dr. Gordon Asmundson

Well well well... I definitely did not plan to release this podcast on the week that we find out the world is rapidly approaching a global pandemic, but here we are. In this episode, I speak to guest, Dr. Gordon Asmundson, a psychologist, professor, and author, all about health anxiety. Just as a heads up, we do not talk specifically about COVID-19 or any other Corona viruses in this episode. Rather, this is a subject that many have requested. I will likely speak more about COVID-19 and more about health anxiety in general in a future episode. 

Check out Dr. Asmundson's book, It's Not All in Your Head on Amazon!

And don't forget that you have just days left to hop on the massive Kick Anxiety's Ass course discount before enrollments close entirely. 

Mar 12, 2020
Episode 198: Finding the Right Online Therapist, Help with Grief, Family Gathering Anxiety

Hello, everyone! Another Q&A episode for you today.

Don't forget that the Kick Anxiety's Ass $75 sale is still going on for a couple weeks before new enrollments close. Check it out if you haven't yet.

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

  • What can I do when therapy apps don't have male providers in my state?
  • How can I deal with the grief from losing my mother?
  • How can I feel less anxiety at my partner's family gatherings?

As always you can send me your questions and suggestions to and full show notes are available at

Lionrock recovery is the sponsor for this episode. Please have a look at their site if you or someone you love needs to change their use of alcohol or other substances.

Mar 05, 2020
Episode 197: Personal Updates from Robert

This episode is a little different. Rather than doing a Q&A, interview, or deep dive, I just wanted to sit with you for a while and give you some updates on where I'm at in life. I'm a real person, just like you. That the whole point of this Duff the Psych "mental health for real people" thing. So, I want to talk with you about my unexpected career changes, what's going on with my kids, how my relationship is going, and just let you in on the guy that you listen to each week. Hope you aren't bored out of your mind!

As a reminder, the Kick Anxiety's Ass course is still going with the massive price drop down to $75 or $25 monthly. Check it out now while you still have the chance!

Feb 27, 2020
Episode 196: Switching Therapy Types, Managing Child's Outbursts, Fixing a Relationship

Hello, friends! This is a nice Q&A episode with questions covering a variety of topics. Hopefully I do a decent job responding despite my sleep deprivation and loopiness! 

Here are the questions I cover:

  • Is it okay to switch to a different type of therapy as you progress?
  • How can I intervene and better manage my 11-year-old's extreme behavior outbursts?
  • How can I avoid becoming my mother and ruining my relationship?

Don't forget that the massive price discount on the Kick Anxiety's Ass course is still on! Check it out at

As always, you can send me your questions to 

Feb 20, 2020
Episode 195: All About Exposure for Anxiety

Hello, friends! This is a re-release of episode 98, which is an episode that I refer back to quite often on the show. I talk about the concept of exposure as it relates to anxiety and take you through different techniques for lowering your sensitivity to anxiety. This is must-know information for those that are serious about taking their lives back from anxiety.

I also discuss an immediate change to my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass. The price has been drastically reduced from $300 to $75! Enrollment in the course will be closing on 3/15/20 so that we can revamp the course and add even more awesome features. 

In this episode, I also talk about my blogpost to help you find a therapist, which can be found at

Feb 13, 2020
Episode 194: Postpartum Anxiety, Traumatized by a Thought, Avoiding Activities

In this episode, I take the following awesome listener questions:

  • What can I do about my postpartum anxiety and emetophobia?
  • Can you be traumatized by a thought?
  • Is it okay to avoid activities sometimes due to anxiety?

Please continue sending me your amazing questions to

For access to the bonus question, check out my Patreon.

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp.

Feb 06, 2020
Episode 193: 500 Days of Meditation with Cheryl B Englehardt

This is a very interesting interview with Cheryl B. Englehardt, who is a government scuba diver turned pop artist turned film composer turned meditation music maker. We talk about her life, struggles with panic attacks, and how starting a daily meditation practice helped stop them in their tracks. We also talk about her new album, Luminary, which is available now! 


Next week will be a Q&A episode, so send me your questions to and if you're interested in checking out my other podcast, about my life and family, have a look at my Patreon.

Jan 30, 2020
Episode 192: Blood Phobia, Chronic Suicidality, Helping a Partner to be More Supportive

Hello, friends! Excited to bring you this new Q&A session with three awesome questions (plus one bonus question for Patreon). 

Here are the questions covered:

  • What can I do about blood, injury, and injection phobia?
  • How can I change my chronic suicidality?
  • How can I make my partner more supportive?

As always you can send me questions to

This week's sponsors are Openfit and BetterHelp

Jan 23, 2020
Episode 191: Dr. Mandel on Ketamine Nasal Spray vs Infusions for Depression

Super excited to present this episode to you. I had Dr. Steven Mandel on episode 137 of the podcast to talk about the amazing and life-saving treatment of Ketamine infusions, which have been shown to be an incredibly effective treatment for depression, suicidality, and trauma that doesn't respond well to other treatments. In this episode, we talk more about the difference between these IV infusions of Ketamine and a new player in the game, Ketamine nasal spray. Recently, an Esketamine nasal spray called Spravato was approved by the FDA for use in individuals with treatment-resistant depression. We explore what this means for your treatment and for your wallet.

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Future.

Jan 16, 2020
Episode 190: Ketamine Risks, Hoarding, ACT Therapy

Hello, friends! Super happy to bring you this question and answer episode. You'll have to excuse my congestion. The plague continues in the Duff household. If you'd like to get a 4th bonus question, check out my patreon at

Here are the questions covered this week:

  • Should I be worried about the risks of Ketamine infusions?
  • How can I help my mother stop hoarding?
  • What is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy?

As always, if you have questions or topics to suggest, send them over to and stop by my start here page to learn more about what I do!

Jan 09, 2020
Episode 189: Leaning Into Depression with My Wife, Joelle Duff

This episode is an interview with my wife, Joelle Duff. This is technically the first episode of our new Patreon exclusive Duff Family Podcast, which from here on will only be made available to patrons. That doesn't mean that she will never be on HCSH again, but if you want episodes each month, you'll need to head over the check out the Patreon. 

In this episode, we sit down on the couch together on New Years Eve 2019 to talk about this past year. This has been a rough one for us, and particularly for Joelle. She has had a severe bout of depression this year that really made things difficult for her. Instead of fighting it, she decided to try something different and lean into what her body was telling her. That meant more rest, alone time, etc. It also meant that she was able to recover enough energy to do some amazing stuff like get a dream job and continue being a fantastic mother, wife, and creative partner.

Thank you so much for spending the end of this decade with us. I'm bringing the fire into 2020, so be ready.

Please go show Joelle some love on twitter and instagram!

Jan 02, 2020
Episode 188: A Guided Meditation to Let Go of 2019 and Move Forward into 2020

It's been a hell of a year and I think a lot of us could use a breather. In this episode, I take you through a guided meditation to help you get through the holidays, drop your baggage from 2019, and move confidently into 2020. Let's do this.

Dec 19, 2019
Episode 187: Making Doctors Take You Seriously, Catching Emotions in the Moment, One-Sided Sexual Relationship

You guys seriously have the best questions. In this episode, I answer these three:

  • How can I get my doctors to take me seriously and not blame everything on anxiety?
  • What can I do about my one-sided sexual relationship?
  • How can I catch my strong emotions in the moment.


I have started a Patreon. There are several tiers that you can choose to support my mission to spread mental health content for real people. If you choose not to support, no hard feelings and absolutely nothing will change regarding the free content you get. But if you do choose to help out, there are some amazing bonuses such as...

  • Additional mental health videos
  • Bonus podcast questions
  • An exclusive Duff family podcast
  • ASMR videos
  • Guided relaxations
  • Live streams
  • Birthday shout outs
  • And more...
Dec 12, 2019
Episode 186: Healing Together with Figs O'Sullivan

This episode is a fantastic interview with master couples therapist, Figs O'Sullivan. We spoke together about many topics related to discord in relationships. Figs believes that many of our issues within relationships come from our deep need for belonging and attachment. Rarely are arguments really about the surface level issue. Once we can admit to being wounded together. We can begin to heal together.

Figs has an app and online course available at

And if you use the coupon code "hardcore self help" you get 50% off!


I also have a couple sales going on. If you use coupon code "anxiousaf" you can get 30% off my ugly holiday sweaters and other designs in the Duff the Psych shop.

You can also get the Kick Anxiety's Ass course for 50% off through the end of the year. Click here or use the coupon code "holidayhalf". 

Dec 05, 2019
Episode 185: All About Impostor Syndrome

Hello, friends! Today we are tackling a single subject. Something that has been requested numerous times by you guys. That subject is impostor syndrome. In this episode, I will talk about what it is, why we tend to have it, and hopefully give you some tips that can make it impact you less. It's been a stressful week, so before we dive in I invite you to take a few breaths with me to help center ourselves.

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Nov 21, 2019
Episode 184: Daydreaming, Abusive Mother in Law, Scared to Call in Sick

We are back again with a new Q&A episode! I'm sure you guys missed these over the past few weeks. A few really great questions in here including:

  • Is my excessive daydreaming bad?
  • What can I do about my boyfriend's mother mistreating him?
  • Why am I so scared to call in sick at work?

As always you can learn more about me by going to and if you have questions or topic suggestions, send them over to

This week's sponsors are:

Nov 14, 2019
Episode 183: Life Coaches, My History, and Future Directions of Psychology with Mxiety

Hello! I am back from vacation and wishing I never left! In all seriousness, I had a great time. But now I'm back with another great episode for you.

This episode is a recording of a live stream that I did on Mxiety's Mixer stream. She interviewed me and we cover a lot of ground. Included in the topics we discuss are:

  • The origin of my professional style
  • Why I think a lot of mental health content is inherently unempathetic
  • Resisting the lies anxiety tells you
  • How I feel about life coaches
  • The "end goal" of CBT treatment
  • Interesting future directions in the field

Mxiety is part of an amazing group of streamers that talk openly about mental health. Please go and support her at the following links:

Her Mixer page.

Her Twitter.

Her website.

Nov 07, 2019
Episode 182: Spooky Psychology Experiments

Hello, friends! Happy Halloween! This is a re-release of an episode I did a couple years ago. Humans are amazing creatures, but we also have a dark side. In this episode, I dive into some of the social psychology experiments that help us understand some of the not-so-great sides of humanity. AND I do all of it in a dramatic reading voice with eerie music in the background. Enjoy!

Oct 31, 2019
Episode 181: Multiple Sclerosis and Mental Health with Dr. Meghan Beier

This is a great interview with rehabilitation neuropsychologist, Meghan Beier, Ph.D. While she focuses mainly on individuals living with multiple sclerosis (M.S.), we cover a lot of topics that are applicable to anyone living with a chronic illness. We discuss the mental health and cognitive impacts of chronic illness as well as navigating issues such as family and finding providers that "get it".

Is there a topic you'd like me to interview someone about or cover on my own? Shoot me an email to

Oct 24, 2019
Episode 180: All About Sleep 2.0

Hello, friends! There are several episodes of the podcast that I refer back to constantly. Episode 26, where I talk all about sleep is one of those. I talk about it in other podcast episodes, I talk about it with my patients, and I talk about it with people in my daily life. It turns out that at 180 episodes of the podcast so far, episode 26 is kind of hard to find. A lot of podcast players only keep the most recent 100 episodes. So, I'm re-doing it. This is not a re-release of that episode, but a re-recording of it with some new thoughts added in. 

In this episode, I talk about why sleep is important for memory, health, and mental health. From there, I talk about important sleep hygiene tips that will help you get better sleep. If you have any trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, this episode is for you!

If you have questions or topic suggestions, please send them to!

Sponsors for this episode are Creating Better Days CBD products (coupon code SELFHELP) and Warby Parker!

Oct 17, 2019
Episode 179: Talking Sex with Alison Leigh

Hello, friends!

In this episode, I talk to licensed psychotherapist and sex advisor, Alison Leigh. Alison specializes in helping people in relationships overcome barriers to happiness and fulfillment, which often involves looking at the sexual relationship. In this interview, we talk about common barriers to intimacy, the impact of stress on relationships, and some strategies that she uses with her clients to encourage intimate connection. It was a good episode and I hope you enjoy it!

As a reminder, my comprehensive online course to help you take your live back from anxiety is $200 off up until 10/15/19, so act now if you want to take advantage of this offer. Use the coupon code "five" at checkout, or simply follow this link to the course page.

This episode is brought to you by Creating Better Days CBD products. Creating Better Days has a wide range of pure CBD and full-spectrum products to help you with stress, sleep, and pain. They submit each batch of their product to independent lab testing and provide the results to you so you can know exactly what you're getting. For 20% off your first purchase, head to and use the coupon code SELFHELP.

Oct 10, 2019
Episode 178: Bad Enough for Therapy, Anxiety Nausea, Depression in Relationship

Hello, everyone! Happy to bring you another great question and answer episode today. Before that a quick announcement.

October is my birth month and this year marks 5 years since starting the Duff the Psych brand. I'm so excited to continue this journey with you all and feeling immensely grateful. So all this month, I will be doing giveaways, freebies, discounts, and special events. Follow along on my Facebook page to get notified about all the good stuff coming up!

The first exciting announcement for this month is that I will be temporarily providing a $200 discount on my Kick Anxiety's Ass online course until October 15th. That means that you can get the entire 10-module course for just $100, which is honestly an insane value. Use the coupon code "five" or follow this link to check it out!

Anyway, here are the questions I answer in this episode:

  • I feel like my issues are not bad enough for therapy and I should just suck it up. What can I do to start getting over it?
  • How can I help my severe anxiety and nausea that starts in the early morning?
  • My friend's boyfriend has depression and has become distant. What should she do?

This episode is brought to you by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats! Check out more about their amazing 7-day retreats in Jamaica, which are fully legal and exceptionally well-reviewed!

As always, you can send me your questions and topic suggestions to

Oct 03, 2019
Episode 177: Research-Informed Parenting with Jen Lumanlan from Your Parenting Mojo

This episode features an interview with Jen Lumanlan from Your Parenting Mojo. In her own words, "I don’t have much in the way of parenting instinct but I make up for it with outstanding research skills." Interestingly, by way of analyzing the research on parenting and starting her own podcast, she has been able to develop a true intuition and ease for parenting. Jen has a blog and podcast called Your Parenting Mojo that looks to the research to answer questions like "How do you parent a highly sensitive child" or "How do you use non-violent communication with kids?"

This episode is an interesting one because we actually dive deep into problem solving some issues I was having with my own kids at the time. I actually held off on releasing this for a while because I felt like I may have been a bit defensive or negative. Jen was awesome though. Funny enough, the issues that we talked about are largely non-issues now just a couple months later. Kids amirite?

Some links:

First off, go check out Jen at

She also talked a bit at self-determination, which you can learn more about at

Finally, she referred to Parentifact, which you can see here:


Next week should be another Q&A, so if you have questions for me, please send them to or head over the and see the contact page.

Sep 26, 2019
Episode 176: Healthy Gaming, Processing Trauma, Social Anxiety

Hello, friends! In this episode podcast, I do a little Q&A with some really awesome questions. For one reason or another, I also felt a little silly so have fun with my rambles and random laughter. Here are the questions that I cover:

  • How can I make gaming a healthy part of my life and not let it interfere with more important things?
  • What does it mean to "process" trauma?
  • What can I do about my postpartum social anxiety?

As always, you can check out the full show notes at and you can learn more about me at If you have questions, send them over to

This episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast is sponsored by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats. MycoMeditations provides a legal means of experiencing the transformative and healing properties of the psilocybin mushroom. They provide 7-day retreats in Jamaica that involve guided psilocybin treatments, group processing, massage, accommodations, and authentic Jamaican cuisine. Learn all about MycoMeditations at their website or on episode 171 of the podcast, where I interview their founder.

Sep 19, 2019
Episode 175: LGBTQ Health Disparities with Dr. Perry Halkitis

This was a fantastic interview with public health psychologist, Dr. Perry Halkitis. We talk about disparities in health and mental health treatment for LGBTQ individuals and how they have changed over the years. He also shares some information about his own unique personal and career path.

Unfortunately, my side of the audio is a little blown out, but Dr. Halkitis sounds great and I think that his message was too good to not share with you all. I think it's well worth a listen. 

Full episode show notes are available at

Sponsor: This episode is brought to you by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats. They provide legal 7-day retreats in Jamaica that use the psychedelic psilocybin compound to help you work through significant mental health issues. For more information about MycoMeditations, check out their website or listen to episode 171 of the podcast where I interview their founder. 

Sep 12, 2019
Episode 174: Driving Anxiety, Overly Affectionate Mom, Helper Burnout

This is a really great question and answer episode. If you hear some crickets chirping in the background, that is because it's hot as balls outside, even at 11pm and there was no way I was about to record with the window closed. Here are the questions that I cover:

  • How can I address my anxiety about driving on the highway?
  • What do I do about my husband's overly affectionate mother?
  • How can I prevent burnout as a mental health professional?

As always you can send me your questions to and full show notes are available at

This episode is brought to you by Better Help and Warby Parker

Sep 05, 2019
Episode 173: Tiffany Jenkins on Mental Health and Addiction

This week I have an incredible and inspiring interview with Tiffany Jenkins. Tiffany is a wife, mother, author, content creator and a recovering addict, she’s the face behind Juggling the Jenkins and author of “High Achiever: The Incredible True Story of One Addicts Double Life”.

She described this episode as a free therapy session, which I take as a compliment. I think you will really enjoy this interview.

Full show notes available at

If you'd like to learn more about me, check out

Next week should be a Q&A, so please send your questions and topic suggestions to

Aug 29, 2019
Episode 172: Overcoming an Affair, Recalling Trauma, Bringing Parents into Therapy

Hello, friends! This is an awesome Q&A episode where I take three great listener questions and try my best to offer some helpful advice. Here are the topics covered:

  • Do you NEED to recall trauma in order to move past it?
  • Why would my therapist want me to bring my mom into session?
  • How can I move past the ghost of my past affair?

As always, you can send me your questions or suggestions to and full show notes are available at

This episode was brought to you by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats and BetterHelp!

Aug 22, 2019
Episode 171: Psilocybin Mushrooms for Mental Health with MycoMeditations
This is a special episode. I was approached by a company called MycoMeditations that wanted to sponsor the podcast. They actually were very persistent and approached me a few times about it because they were really interested in the opportunity to speak with you all. MycoMeditations is a company that hosts retreats in Jamaica that use the psilocybin mushroom, also known as the magic mushroom. It's an often misunderstood substance that research has shown to be an effective way to reduce the impact of treatment resistant mental illness such as depression and anxiety. 
Since this is a topic that is somewhat sensitive (psilocybin is not legal in the US), I wanted to do things a little differently. Rather than just running a short ad, I wanted to have the opportunity to dive deep and fully explore the issue. So this is a sponsored episode. MycoMeditations did pay for this interview spot, but I am approaching it just like all of the other interviews that I do on the show so that you can be appropriately informed and make your own decisions. 
My guest for this episode is Eric Osborne, who is the founder and head facilitator of MycoMeditations. He has a very interesting background in that he is a wild mushroom expert and mycologist. This enables him to approach things from a very unique angle, which you will hear in the episode. Rather than administering the mushroom in it's raw form, he uses a process to make measured capsules of it to have better control of the dosage. 
I really hope that you enjoy this episode. It was very interesting for me. Please have a look at the full show notes at and reach out to Eric if you have any questions after listening!
Aug 15, 2019
Episode 170: Sexless Marriage, PTSD in Literature, Health Anxiety

Hello, friends! In this Q&A episode, I take three awesome questions that listeners sent in and try my best to give some helpful advice. These cover a range of topics including health anxiety, PTSD in literature, and coping with a sexless marriage.

As always you can send me your questions to and full show notes are available at

Aug 08, 2019
Episode 169: Mental Health and Spirituality with Dr. Anna Yusim

This episode is a super interesting interview with psychiatrist Dr. Anna Yusim. She is a practicing psychiatrist from a family of hyper-rational mathematicians. She was never spiritual or religious. However, about 10 years ago, she started to experience things that she could not explain and began to develop an interest in the intersection between spirituality and psychiatry. If you know me, this is not in line with my view of things, so I thought it would be super interesting to have this interview with someone who sees things from a different perspective. 

Full show notes are available at and please continue sending your questions and topic suggestions to

Aug 04, 2019
Episode 168: My Counselor Died

Hey, everyone!

This episode is missing some of the normal bells and whistles that you are used to. No intro music. No disclaimers or fancy editing. I am currently out of town and my remote desktop failed me, so I don't have access to my normal episode template.

In this episode, I take one really good listener question about whether it's strange to feel upset about their counselor dying and what they can do about comparing future counselors to their last one, since it was a good experience for them.

As always, you can send your questions and topic suggestions to and find the full show notes at


Jul 25, 2019
Episode 167: Posttraumatic Growth with Dr. Laura Copley

This is a fantastic interview with Dr. Laura Copley, a trauma specialist, who focuses on posttraumatic growth and resilience. We go through many important facts and misconceptions about trauma. We talk about the difference between resilience and posttraumatic growth. We even dive into a couple exercises that people currently contenting with trauma reactions can use to start living life on their terms.

If you have questions or topic suggestions, please send them over to me at!

Jul 18, 2019
Episode 166: When to Move On, Pregnant with an Eating Disorder, How Long Therapy Takes

Hello, friends!

This is a Q&A episode in which I tackle the following:

  • When is it time to move on from my boyfriend that just recently broke up with me so that I can "find myself"?
  • What advice do you have for someone that is pregnant with an eating disorder?
  • How long will it take for therapy to help with my borderline personality disorder?

As always, you can send me questions and topic suggestions to

Full show notes also available at


Jul 11, 2019
Episode 165: Letting Go of Shame with Dr. Suvrat Bhargave

This is a really nice interview with psychiatrist Suvrat Bhargave. We talk about lessons that he has learned in his practice including how to let go of shame and why you don't need to hit rock bottom to have important moments of insight. He is very personable and cares about meeting people where they are at rather than speaking in jargon and working hard to seem like the expert. He challenges the stereotype that psychiatrists are unapproachable and only want to focus on medication management.

Full episode notes available at

Next week is another Q&A episode, so send your questions or topic suggestions to

Jul 04, 2019
Episode 164: Boundaries vs Manipulation, Moving with Mental Illness, Helping Family Understand

Hey, all! On the last episode, I had my wife on to answer your relationship communications. We got SO many awesome questions that I wanted to tackle some more on the podcast today. This is a solo Q&A episode and I take questions directly from the private Hardcore Self Help Facebook group. Here are the questions I address:

  • What can I do about my family that doesn't understand my anxiety?
  • How can I tell the difference between reinforcing boundaries and being manipulative in my relationship?
  • I'm about to move and I'm freaking out. What can I do?

Full show notes are available at and if you'd like to send in a question, shoot me an email at

Jun 27, 2019
Episode 163: Duff the Wife and I Talk About Communication

In this episode, I have my beautiful wife Joelle back on the podcast. We take a few minutes to update you on our crazy life and then discuss some listener questions that mainly focus on communication in relationships. Enjoy!

Next week will be another Q&A, so send me your questions to

For full show notes, visit

Jun 20, 2019
Episode 162: Depersonalization, Family Communication, Planning with ADHD

Hello, friends! It's very very hot over here this week, but I still decided to lock myself in my office without a fan and record this Q&A episode! There are three really great (and different) questions that listeners sent in, and I try my best to give some helpful advice. The questions are:

  • What can I do to make my family member understand my past alcoholism?
  • How can I plan and execute my days better when I have ADHD?
  • What can I do about my chronic depersonalization and dissociation?

As always, full show notes are available at and you can send me your questions to

Jun 13, 2019
Episode 161: The Reality of Being a Therapist with Quinn Gee

This week, I have the amazing Quinn Gee of Magnolia Mental Health back on the show again. She is a "unicorn" in the mental health field. As a black, gay, female therapist, there are many people out there who really benefit from her perspective. She's also really good at her job. As such, she is BUSY. No, I mean BUSY. She puts my work ethic to shame. Unfortunately that also comes at the cost of her own well-being, which she is working on.

In this episode we talk about the realities of being a therapist. We also brainstorm ways that she can take better care of herself for the sake of her own health and for the sake of her clients. It's a really interesting insider peek at those of us that work in helping professions and I think you will enjoy it.

Next week will be another Q&A episode, so send me your questions and topic suggestions to

Jun 06, 2019
Episode 160: Erectile Dysfunction, Internet Exhibitionism, Strong Emotions

Hello, friends! In this episode, I answer some awesome listener questions about some very interesting topics including:

  • How can I fix my stress-related erectile dysfunction?
  • Is my desire to show off my body online bad?
  • How can I better manage my strong emotional reactions?

For full show notes, be sure to stop by and check back next week for an interview episode!

Please send any questions or topic suggestions to

May 30, 2019
Episode 159: How Your Brain ACTUALLY Learns with Dr. Jared Cooney Horvath

This episode is an awesome conversation that I had with educational neuroscientist Dr. Jaren Cooney Horvath. We talk about common misconceptions about the brain, how it actually works, and what that means for learning information or trying to teach other people information in effective ways. He has a new book called "Stop Talking, Start Influencing: 12 Insight from Brain Science to Make Your Message Stick", which I highly suggest checking out!

Next episode will be a Q&A, so please continue sending me your questions and potential topics to

May 23, 2019
Episode 158: Improving Self-Concept, Going Back to Work, Abandoned by Therapist

Hello, friends!

We have a nice question and answer session for you today. Please be forewarned that one of the questions mentions the topic of suicide, so if you are particularly vulnerable to that topic, feel free to skip question #2.

Here are the questions covered:

  • How can I go back to work after having panic attacks due to a medical procedure?
  • How can I improve my self-concept?
  • What can I do about my therapist moving offices?

Next week should be another awesome interview. In the meantime, please keep sending me your questions and topics to

May 16, 2019
Episode 157: Unfu*k Yourself with Gary Bishop

Hello, friends!

This episode features an interview with the author Gary John Bishop. He wrote the best seller Unfu*k Yourself and juuuust released a new book called Stop Doing That Shit. 

We had a great conversation about what people can do to start moving forward with their lives and we even dive into the personal story behind why Gary started making this type of content.

Please stop by and check out Gary's stuff at

May 09, 2019
Episode 156: Drug-Induced Psychosis, Distance Jealousy, Dealing with Loneliness

This episode is a straightforward question and answer episode. Not too much preamble in this episode, just straight to the nitty gritty. As always, if you'd like to learn more about me and what I do, check out

And if you have questions or topics for a future episode, send them over to

May 02, 2019
Episode 155: Jonah on Electroconvulsive Therapy for Depression

This is a super interesting interview with Jonah, who was kind enough to get very person in discussing his experiences with Electroconvulsive Therapy (ECT). ECT is a safe, but sensationalized, treatment for depression that does not respond to typical treatments such as medication and therapy. 

Jonah is also a transgender man who happens to be in a committed polyamorous relationship with two other men. All of these aspects are intertwined in Jonah's story. 

Next week will be another Q&A, so be sure to send me your questions to

Full show-notes available at

Apr 25, 2019
Episode 154: Emotional Cheating, Hypomania, Boundaries in Supporting, Mood Disorder

This is a special Q&A episode in which I pull questions directly from the private Hardcore Self Help Facebook group. If you aren't yet a member, request access at

I took four questions from the group that cover a wide variety of topics. I think you'll really enjoy this one.

As always, you can send me your questions and topics to See you next week for an awesome interview episode!

Apr 18, 2019
Episode 153: A Guided Relaxation About Letting Go

I think that a lot of you need to hear this episode. It's simply me talking with you a bit about the topic of letting go, especially of things that you don't have control over, and then guiding you through a forest visualization to help you relax. No ads or interruptions in this episode. Just sit back, pop in some headphones, and bliss out.

Music in this episode is: 

Rushing Stream.mp3 by acclivity

20071104.forest.04.binaural.mp3 by doboride

Apr 11, 2019
Episode 152: Managing Toxic Family with Dr. Sherrie Campbell
Today's episode is an interview that I did with Dr. Sherrie Campbell. Her specialty is helping people recognize toxic family members and work to productively cut ties with them and thrive in the aftermath. We get into some really interesting content including how to recognize when a family member is toxic and Dr. Campbell's deeply personal experiences that have driven her work.
I wanted to let you guys know that in addition to the audio, we also have full blog posts and show notes for each episode on my website. For instance, the episode last week about productivity tips is a full-fledged blog post in itself that you could easily read through if you forget some of the tips. This is something that I've been happy to hire an assistant to help out with. So make sure you stop by to see the full notes for this episode.
As always, send me your questions and topics to and don't forget to review for a chance to win free access to my online course!
Mar 28, 2019
Episode 151: My Top Productivity Tips

We are doing a bit of a deep dive episode this week. I wanted to share with you my 10-11 best tips for staying productive even when you don't feel like it or may struggle with disorganization. We talk about many different personal tips that work well for me as well as universally good ideas when it comes to productivity and getting stuff done.

Next week's episode will be an interview, but be sure to send your questions and topics for future episodes to

Mar 21, 2019
Episode 150: Tech in Mental Health with Abhishek Chandra from Spring Health

This episode is a wide-ranging conversation with Abhishek Chandra, a co-founder and CTO of Spring Health, which is a comprehensive mental health benefit for employers that goes beyond the traditional employee assistance program. We talk about the role of tech in mental health including machine learning, genetic testing, and online therapy. It's really interesting stuff!

Next week should be a normal Q&A, so send your questions and topics to

Mar 14, 2019
Episode 149: First Panic Attack, Confronting Family Abuser, Repairing vs Calling Off an Engagement

This week's episode is a question and answer session. I cover three awesome questions that cover a variety of important topics. As always I'm impressed by the bravery in posing these difficult questions and I hope that I do a good job of being sensitive AND realistic in my responses. Here are the questions:

  • How can I manage my anxiety after I had my first panic attack?
  • How can I deal with my abuser, who is also my father, when he wants to stay at my home?
  • Should I continue pushing or call of my problematic engagement?

As always, I would greatly appreciate a share or review of the podcast and if you have questions or topics that you'd like me to cover on the show, please send them to

Mar 07, 2019
Episode 148: Dan Fields from Save it for the Show

Hello! In this episode, I interview a friend of mine, Dan Fields, from the Save it for the Show podcast. I thought this would be an interesting episode because it's essentially just me talking to a friend of mine about life on the internet, creating, modern mental health, families, working from home, and all sorts of other topics. I hope you enjoy!

Next week will be a question and answer episode, so be sure to send me your questions to

Feb 28, 2019
Episode 147: Nocturnal Anxiety and Panic

Welcome, everybody! Today's episode is going to focus on a single topic. I have gotten a lot of questions recently about nighttime anxiety and nocturnal panic, so today we are going to focus on things that you can do to help you get a little bit better sleep and some relief from that nasty anxiety that can pop up during the night.

Thank you to our sponsors for this episode, Open Fit and Daily Harvest! Text the code DUFF to 303030 for a free 30-day open fit trial or use the code DUFF for 3 free cups in your first Daily Harvest Box!

If you have questions or topics for a future episode, please send them to me at

Feb 21, 2019
Episode 146: Duff the Wife Valentine's Special

Hello, everyone!

Super excited because this week I have my beautiful wife, Joelle Duff on the podcast again. You always have such great feedback when she's on the show and it's honestly just nice to have a good excuse to sit and talk with my favorite person.

We talk about her getting back into her career after taking a mental health, baby, life-clarity break. We talk about communication in our relationship. We talk about harnessing the power of bipolar and planning for the inconsistencies. We talk about a lot of awesome stuff. You'll love it.

Next week will be a normal Q&A or single topic episode, so shoot me your ideas to

Feb 14, 2019
Episode 145: Bipolar Barbie

Hello, friends!

This week, I have an interview with the wonderful Bipolar Barbie. She is a mental health advocate from Australia. In this interview, she describes her experiences with bipolar and talks about why she is passionate about being a mental health advocate. We cover topics from her first manic episode during law school to the importance of medication in her journey. I think you'll really enjoy this one.

Congratulations to the winner of this week's free book, @kellydutrisac! If you'd like to win a free print copy of one of my books, just share your favorite quote from this episode on social media and tag me. I pick one winner each week. 

If you have a question or topic for a future episode, send it to

Feb 07, 2019
Episode 144: BDSM after Trauma, Slipping Back into Depression, Supporting a Partner with PTSD

This week, I have a nice Q&A session for you. Three really great questions that cover a variety of topics. Some of the content in here is sexually related and there is also plenty of talk about trauma. Be advised.

I forgot to announce it during the episode, but this week's free book winner is @inkblot_ace on twitter. Congrats! If you want to win a free print copy of one of my books, simply share your favorite quote from this episode on social media and tag me!

Here are the questions I cover in this episode:

  • What can I do when I feel myself slipping back into depression?
  • Are my BDSM fantasies unhealthy given my trauma history?
  • How can I support my partner with severe PTSD?

As always if you have questions or topics that you'd like to submit, just send them over to

Jan 31, 2019
Episode 143: When Life Gives You Parkinson's with Larry Gifford

On this episode, I have an interview with Larry Gifford from the When Life Gives You Parkinson's podcast. He was diagnosed with early onset Parkinson's disease at age 45. This was a serious curve ball for someone with a spouse, a child, and a blossoming career in radio. We talk about his show, coping with a Parkinson's diagnosis, honest conversations with family, and misconceptions about Parkinson's disease.

As a reminder, if you'd like to win a free print copy of one of my books, just like @passtlivess did this week, share your favorite quote from the episode on social media and tag me! I'll pick one each week.

Next week should be another solo-show. If you have a question or topic that you'd like discussed on the show, send it to

Jan 24, 2019
Episode 142: Fundamentalist Religion, Parenting with Mental Illness, Panic Disorder

Hello, friends! I have a Q&A episode for you today. This is an extra special episode for a couple reasons. First off, I'm starting a new weekly tradition. If you share your favorite quote from the episode on social media and tag me, you might be selected to win a free copy of one of my books! Second, my nearly one-year-old kiddo, Leo was very present in this episode. I had to squeeze in the recording between other appointments, so you hear some babbling and such in the background.

In terms of the questions, here what I covered:

  • How can I move on from the guilt caused by ending family relationships due to an extreme fundamentalist upbringing?
  • How can I balance significant psychological issues and still be a good parent?
  • What can I do about my recurrent panic attacks?

As always, if you have a question for the show, please send it to

Jan 17, 2019
Episode 141: You Might Die Tomorrow - Kate Manser on Mortality Awareness and Living Better Today

Hello, all! 

This was an episode that was supposed to air a while back. I postponed it due to a shooting at my alma mater's college night at the Borderline night club in Thousand Oaks. I felt that the topic just wouldn't be appropriate for that day. 

However, now that we are in a new year, it's the perfect time to think about your values, your goals, your aspirations, and how to live better in the now. That's exactly what we talk about in this interview.

In this episode, I interview Kate Manser from You Might Die Tomorrow about the concept or mortality awareness and how that can be used to help you make decisions and appreciate the present.

As always, you can send me questions to and if you like what you've heard, please rate or share the show on social!

Jan 10, 2019
Episode 140: Making New Year Goals That Make Sense

This is a short and sweet episode that I recorded before leaving for an end-of-year vacation with my family. We talk about making goals for the new year. 

At the end of the year, many people start thinking about goals and resolutions. I see absolutely no problem with that. However, it's important to try to do them in a way that sets you up for success rather than failure. Here are a few quick tips:

  • Establish goals as part of an overall year-end review.
  • Keep your goals reasonable.
  • You can also include larger overall aspirations, but use those as guiding lights rather than attainable goals.
  • If you have too many goals, or goals that are too far from your starting point, you can set yourself up for success and continue the negative feedback loop.
  • Subdivide your goals into small manageable steps.
  • Even if you're not starting with your full capacity in any given goal, you are still doing more than you did before. Start small and build from there.

2018 was a great year and I'm so pumped to knock 2019 out of the water. Thank you so much for all of your support, and for contributing your questions to the podcast. This would not be possible without you. Please continue sending me your questions, feedback, and ideas to

Jan 03, 2019
Episode 139: Neurofeedback, Low Motivation, Knowing if Therapy Works

The last episode of 2018! Wowwwww. It's been an awesome year and I thank you so much for all of the support, attention, and of course questions. I thought that I would end things strong with a nice Q&A episode.

Here are the topics covered:

  • What is Neuroptimal (neurofeedback)?
  • How can I help myself when depression steals my motivation?
  • How do I know if therapy is working?

I am so excited to get back into the swing of things in January. Please keep sending me your awesome questions and topic requests to!

Dec 20, 2018
Episode 138: Jamie Shares Her Personal Experience with Ketamine Treatments

This is part 2/2 for my series of interviews about Ketamine treatments. In this episode, I interview Jamie AKA "The Gloomy Optimist" about her personal experiences with the treatments that she says saved her life. We go deep into her life-long struggles with anxiety and depression. Jamie is someone who has put in the work. She has tried numerous medications and therapy, but nothing seemed to stick until Ketamine. She describes going into the first infusion suicidal and coming out with hope for the future. Powerful stuff. 

Please say hi to Jamie...

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At her website:


And as always, you can find the full show notes for this episode at

Dec 13, 2018
Episode 137: All About Ketamine Treatments with Dr. Steven Mandel

Friends. If there is one interview of mine that you listen to, let it be this one. In this interview, I talk to Dr. Steven Mandel, the founder of the Ketamine Clinics of Los Angeles. Ketamine is one of the most effective mental health treatments that very few people seem to talk about. To me this is a shame. It's amazingly effective treatment for depression, suicidality, PTSD, and bipolar. 

In the interview, we talk about why Ketamine works, what an actual session looks like, and how it is a very low-risk procedure. We also address some common misconceptions and even get into the nitty gritty of cost/feasibility.

Please share this episode with your friends, families, and networks.

This is the first of a two-part series. Next week, I will be sharing an interview with an individual who describes their personal experience and amazing benefit from Ketamine treatments for depression.

I should note that I have no personal stake in the Ketamine Clinics. I simply believe that it's a treatment that should gain more exposure.

Dec 06, 2018
Episode 136: Overcoming Self-Sabotage in Relationships, Fear of Wrists, Decision Paralysis

Hello, everyone! Great to be back recording a normal Q&A episode this week. Between the unexpected non-episode a couple weeks back and the re-run episode last week, I haven't actually sat down and addressed your questions in a while. Here are the awesome questions that I cover on today's episode:

  • How can I break the cycle of self-sabotage and self-doubt in my relationship?
  • How can I overcome my fear of wrists?
  • How can I better decide what activities to engage in at home and stop getting paralyzed?

As always, you can send me questions to and check out the full show-notes at

Nov 29, 2018
Episode 135: How to Survive the Holidays

Hey, everyone! This is a re-release of an episode that I did last year. I am busy this week with holiday stuff, so I didn't want to record something new, but I thought it would be a good opportunity to repost episode 85, which originally aired on 11/21/17. It's all about tips that you can use to survive the holidays. The holidays are crazy for everyone, but it's stepped up a notch when you also struggle with mental health issues. Have a listen and take great care of yourselves. Much love!

Nov 21, 2018
Episode 134: Kati Morton - Youtuber, Author, and Therapist

Super excited to have the awesome Kati Morton on the show with me today. I'm sure you already know who she is, but if you need a refresher, she is most well known for her Youtube channel where she answers questions and gives mental health advice. Kati is a licensed therapist and brings a down-to-earth approach to the content that she puts out.

In this interview, I learn a little more about Kati the person. We also talk about how her work as an influencer has affected her professional life. We discuss her new book, "Are You Okay?", and how you know that it's time to get some professional help.

I really hope you enjoy this broad conversation. Be sure to show Kati some love on Youtube and pre-order her book, which will be released in December! 

Nov 15, 2018
Too Close to Home

The regularly scheduled podcast interview is postponed this week. There was a tragic shooting at my alma mater's college night at the Borderline bar in Thousand Oaks, CA. In this short message, I talk about what happened, how I'm feeling, and a few tips for coping.

Nov 08, 2018
Episode 133: Spooky Mental Health Treatments From History

I did an episode last year around Halloween time about spooky social psychology experiments and what they say about humanity. I figured I'd keep the trend going and do an episode all about creepy treatments from the origin of psychological health care. Before listening any further, just know that some of these are cruel and gross. We've come a long way since the different treatments that I will talk about, but they are important in that they are the predecessors to the treatments that we have now. In some cases they were mean and cruel. In others they were well intentioned, but limited by the lack of knowledge that we have today. Either way, if you are sensitive to topics like this, feel free to skip this one.

Next week should be a more standard episode, so if you have a question or topic for me, send it to and the full show notes for this episode are available at

Nov 01, 2018
Episode 132: When to Stop Taking Meds for Anxiety
Fantastic episode for you today. We go deep into the different types of medication for anxiety, how to know when it's time to stop taking them, and ways to cope with anxiety that you can use with or without medication.
This is the third episode taking a slightly different approach with just one question per episode, with the intention of diving deeper into topics. Now it's time to give me some feedback. If you go to the episode notes at, there will be a short survey. If you could take it, it would help me out so much!
As always if you have a question or topic that you'd live covered on the show, email me at
Oct 25, 2018