The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

By Robert Duff, Ph.D.

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 Nov 30, 2018


This is a podcast dedicated to answering your questions about mental health, anxiety, depression, relationships, sex, and life WITHOUT psychobabble BS. I am Dr. Robert Duff, a psychologist from Southern California, but I'm also a regular dude who legitimately wants to help out. I wrote the best selling books Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression and Hardcore Self Help: F**K Anxiety. Those are available at

Episode Date
Episode 138: Jamie Shares Her Personal Experience with Ketamine Treatments

This is part 2/2 for my series of interviews about Ketamine treatments. In this episode, I interview Jamie AKA "The Gloomy Optimist" about her personal experiences with the treatments that she says saved her life. We go deep into her life-long struggles with anxiety and depression. Jamie is someone who has put in the work. She has tried numerous medications and therapy, but nothing seemed to stick until Ketamine. She describes going into the first infusion suicidal and coming out with hope for the future. Powerful stuff. 

Please say hi to Jamie...

On Instagram:

At her website:


And as always, you can find the full show notes for this episode at

Dec 13, 2018
Episode 137: All About Ketamine Treatments with Dr. Steven Mandel

Friends. If there is one interview of mine that you listen to, let it be this one. In this interview, I talk to Dr. Steven Mandel, the founder of the Ketamine Clinics of Los Angeles. Ketamine is one of the most effective mental health treatments that very few people seem to talk about. To me this is a shame. It's amazingly effective treatment for depression, suicidality, PTSD, and bipolar. 

In the interview, we talk about why Ketamine works, what an actual session looks like, and how it is a very low-risk procedure. We also address some common misconceptions and even get into the nitty gritty of cost/feasibility.

Please share this episode with your friends, families, and networks.

This is the first of a two-part series. Next week, I will be sharing an interview with an individual who describes their personal experience and amazing benefit from Ketamine treatments for depression.

I should note that I have no personal stake in the Ketamine Clinics. I simply believe that it's a treatment that should gain more exposure.

Dec 06, 2018
Episode 136: Overcoming Self-Sabotage in Relationships, Fear of Wrists, Decision Paralysis

Hello, everyone! Great to be back recording a normal Q&A episode this week. Between the unexpected non-episode a couple weeks back and the re-run episode last week, I haven't actually sat down and addressed your questions in a while. Here are the awesome questions that I cover on today's episode:

  • How can I break the cycle of self-sabotage and self-doubt in my relationship?
  • How can I overcome my fear of wrists?
  • How can I better decide what activities to engage in at home and stop getting paralyzed?

As always, you can send me questions to and check out the full show-notes at

Nov 29, 2018
Episode 135: How to Survive the Holidays

Hey, everyone! This is a re-release of an episode that I did last year. I am busy this week with holiday stuff, so I didn't want to record something new, but I thought it would be a good opportunity to repost episode 85, which originally aired on 11/21/17. It's all about tips that you can use to survive the holidays. The holidays are crazy for everyone, but it's stepped up a notch when you also struggle with mental health issues. Have a listen and take great care of yourselves. Much love!

Nov 21, 2018
Episode 134: Kati Morton - Youtuber, Author, and Therapist

Super excited to have the awesome Kati Morton on the show with me today. I'm sure you already know who she is, but if you need a refresher, she is most well known for her Youtube channel where she answers questions and gives mental health advice. Kati is a licensed therapist and brings a down-to-earth approach to the content that she puts out.

In this interview, I learn a little more about Kati the person. We also talk about how her work as an influencer has affected her professional life. We discuss her new book, "Are You Okay?", and how you know that it's time to get some professional help.

I really hope you enjoy this broad conversation. Be sure to show Kati some love on Youtube and pre-order her book, which will be released in December! 

Nov 15, 2018
Too Close to Home

The regularly scheduled podcast interview is postponed this week. There was a tragic shooting at my alma mater's college night at the Borderline bar in Thousand Oaks, CA. In this short message, I talk about what happened, how I'm feeling, and a few tips for coping.

Nov 08, 2018
Episode 133: Spooky Mental Health Treatments From History

I did an episode last year around Halloween time about spooky social psychology experiments and what they say about humanity. I figured I'd keep the trend going and do an episode all about creepy treatments from the origin of psychological health care. Before listening any further, just know that some of these are cruel and gross. We've come a long way since the different treatments that I will talk about, but they are important in that they are the predecessors to the treatments that we have now. In some cases they were mean and cruel. In others they were well intentioned, but limited by the lack of knowledge that we have today. Either way, if you are sensitive to topics like this, feel free to skip this one.

Next week should be a more standard episode, so if you have a question or topic for me, send it to and the full show notes for this episode are available at

Nov 01, 2018
Episode 132: When to Stop Taking Meds for Anxiety
Fantastic episode for you today. We go deep into the different types of medication for anxiety, how to know when it's time to stop taking them, and ways to cope with anxiety that you can use with or without medication.
This is the third episode taking a slightly different approach with just one question per episode, with the intention of diving deeper into topics. Now it's time to give me some feedback. If you go to the episode notes at, there will be a short survey. If you could take it, it would help me out so much!
As always if you have a question or topic that you'd live covered on the show, email me at
Oct 25, 2018
Episode 131: Supporting a Reluctant Partner

In this episode, I take a question from someone about how they can help their romantic partner who is great most of the time but gets suicidal or violent every so often. How can she get him to go to therapy or recognize the that there are actual issues going on? I give my perspective on this question and also spend some time defining bipolar disorder. Enjoy!

For full episode notes, check out and if you have a question or suggestion for the podcast, send it over to

Oct 18, 2018
Episode 130: Complex PTSD

In this episode, I'm trying something slightly different. Rather than taking three questions, I'm taking one and using it as a jumping off point to go in-dept into topics related to the question. Sort of combining the deep-dive and Q&A formats. I'm going to try this for a few weeks and then ask for your opinions. Today's episode is all about C-PTSD or complex post-traumatic stress disorder.

See full show notes at

If you have a question that you'd like me to answer on the show, send it over to


Oct 11, 2018
Episode 129: All About Dementia

In this episode, I do a deep dive talking about a requested topic: dementia. It can be hard to find good information and advice about dementia online, so I hope that this episode can serve that function.

I go in-depth and cover the following:

  • Dementia terminology
  • What kinds of dementia there are
  • How to get a diagnosis
  • Managing difficult behaviors
  • Support available for caregivers

If you have a suggestion for a future deep dive topic or have a question that you'd like me to answer, send it to

Oct 04, 2018
Episode 128: Making Friends, Avoiding Stress After Concussion, Advice for Future Therapists

Back to the Q&A this week. Before I answer the questions, I talk about a recent psychiatric hospitalization that I had to do with the hope of helping you understand that it's not a purely black and white situation.

Here are the questions I cover:

  • How can I make friends when my depression gets in the way?
  • Should I be avoiding stress rather than exposing myself?
  • What advice do you have for a future therapist?

As always, you can send your questions for the show in to

Sep 27, 2018
Episode 127: Duff the Wife Back Again!

Hello! I thought it would be nice to have my wife, Joelle, back on the podcast today. She's usually a listener favorite guest and I always love talking with her, so I hope you enjoy our conversation!

We talk about all kinds of stuff including:

  • Our life and recent move
  • Changing psychiatric meds
  • Parenting with anxiety
  • How I keep work at work

As always, you can send me questions for a future episode to 

Sep 20, 2018
Episode 126: Anxiety Exhaustion, Explosive Anger, Mending a Relationship

Another round of awesome questions from you, the listeners. Here's what we cover this week:

  • What can I do about the exhaustion that comes from fighting anxiety?
  • How can I deal with my explosive anger?
  • How can I mend the relationship with my step-daughter?

As always, you can send me your questions to

Sep 13, 2018
Episode 125: Too Broke for Therapy, Anxiety Meds Don't Work, Pressure to Have Kids

Hello, friends! Sorry for anyone that missed last week's episode. I messed up a little with the technical side of things. We should be all back track this week. If you don't already, please subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or whatever podcast player you use, so you never miss out. 

Here are the questions for this week:

  • How can I get help when I can't afford therapy and I don't have insurance?
  • What can I do when my emergency anxiety medication doesn't work?
  • I feel pressured to have kids. What should I do about it?

As always you can send me your questions to

Sep 07, 2018
Episode 124: Gender Dysphoria and Sex, Increasing Klonopin Dose, Options to Keep Living

Three totally different questions today ranging from relatively basic to quite intense. I hope you enjoy. Did a little something different with the format of this, please feel free to send me feedback about it.

Here are the questions:

  • As a transgender male, how can I cope with my dysphoria while having sex with my partner?
  • Should I increase my dose of Klonopin or change medications for my anxiety?
  • I feel like I don't have any reason to live. What else can I do?

As mentioned in the podcast, check out for my audiobooks!

If you have a question for a future episode, send it over to

Aug 30, 2018
Episode 123: Porn and Depression, Panic Disorder, Fleeting Suicidal Thoughts

Hello! Fantastic questions on today's Q&A episode. I am always amazed by your honesty and vulnerability when sending these in. Here's what we cover today:

  • Could porn be causing my depression and lack of pleasure in life?
  • How can I deal with my constant panic attacks?
  • Should I talk to my therapist about new fleeting thoughts of suicide?

As always, you can send me your questions for an upcoming episode to

Aug 23, 2018
Episode 122: Anxiety Procrastination, Supporting Suicidal Friends, Loving with Borderline

Another full question and answer episode this week. Awesome questions, as always. I wanted to quickly say thank you for everyone who enrolled in the course. It was a very successful launch and I'm so happy that my hard work over the past year has paid off. THANK YOU!

Here are the questions covered this week:

  • How am I supposed to show my partner love when I have borderline personality disorder?
  • How can I best support my suicidal friends?
  • How can I stop procrastinating and stick to habits with anxiety?

As always, please keep sending me your questions to

Aug 16, 2018
Episode 121: Death Anxiety, Regret, and the Therapeutic Relationship

Back at it! This episode is a full three question episode for you. Thanks for your patience over the past few weeks with the short episodes. That helped me out a lot.

On a related note, the course is out! In fact, by the time the next episode drops, you will no longer be able to buy the course!! Get on it

Here are the questions answered in this episode:

  • How do I get over my anxiety about death?
  • What can I do about my crippling regret?
  • I feel attached to my therapist. Is that bad?

If you have a question for a future episode, please send it to


Aug 09, 2018
Episode 120: Addressing an Awkward Situation with Therapist

It's time! Kick Anxiety's Ass is now live! You can get instant access to all 10 modules of awesome anxiety slaying content at If you purchase before Monday, 8/6 and use the coupon code PODCAST, you will get $100 off. You can check out a bunch of free lessons from the course before you decide. I think you are going to get a lot out of it.

In this episode, I answer one listener question about what to do when you are uncomfortable with your therapist walking behind you to their office at the start of session.

We should be back to regularly scheduled programming next week. Until then, keep sending me your questions to

Aug 02, 2018
Episode 119: Dealing with a Toxic Mother

Hello, friends! Another mini episode this week as I gear up for the launch of Kick Anxiety's Ass, which is next week OMG fjkdlasnfkljd! 

This week I am taking a question about what to do when dealing with a toxic mother that lives in the same city. A tough one, but a really important topic.

Next week will be one more short episode and then we will be back to regularly scheduled programming.

Keep your awesome questions coming! Send them to


Jul 26, 2018
Episode 118: Parenting with Borderline Personality Disorder

Hello, all! This is another mini-episode with just one question, but boy is it a good one. If you didn't catch the last episode, I am doing a series of short episodes while I crank out the finishing touches on my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass

In this episode, I take a question about parenting with borderline personality disorder. Full show notes can be found at


If you want to send me a question for a future episode, please send it to


Jul 19, 2018
Episode 117: Too Depressed to Start Therapy

Hello, friends!

For the next few episodes, I will be just taking one question, so that I can free up some of my time to put the finishing touches on the Kick Anxiety's Ass Course.

For this week, the question is: Would online therapy be a good option for me, since I'm too depressed to do regular in-person therapy?

If you have a question for me, be sure to send it to 

Jul 12, 2018
Episode 116: Communication and Support with Duff The Wife

Hello, friends! Super excited to bring my wife, Joelle, back on the podcast today. As usual, this is a super candid and honest conversation naturally flows into a variety of topics, but we broadly focused on issues related to communication and supporting one another in a relationship where one partner has significant mental health challenges. We bring our own personal experience into it and keep it super real. I hope you enjoy it. 

Just a reminder: You have until 7/9/18 to enter the Kick Anxiety's Ass giveaway. Good luck! 

Jul 05, 2018
Episode 115: When the World Is Too Much

This episode is a little different. It's basically a deep-dive episode, but it's a little more off-the-cuff than usual. Given the multitude of troubling events in the US news today, I wanted to give some thoughts and advice about dealing with the news and the state of the world. It can be exceptionally hard for someone with mental health issues to know what to do when the state of the world becomes overwhelming. I hope the thoughts that I present here help.

Here are a few tips:

1. Realize that no matter WHEN you hear about news or how much you worry about the event... those have absolutely no bearing on the fact that the event happened. In other words, the events are happening whether or not you already know about them. 

2. Regulate your flow of information. Consider waiting to "plug in" to the world until you've gotten ready for the day and consider unplugging for at least an hour before you go to sleep. 

3. Fight back against the false sense of immediacy that anxiety gives you.

4. Remember that you are allowed to feel, but not taking care of yourself may limit your ability to help or make a difference.

5. Taking good care of yourself allows you to funnel energy into action, which can make you feel less helpless. 

Quick update: HUGE giveaway going on right now at



Jun 28, 2018
Episode 114: School Anxiety, Disclosing Mental Illness to Partner, Ending Therapy

Why hello there! This is a regular question and answer episode. Couple updates first: 

1. The audiobook for Hardcore Self Help: F**k Anxiety has been updated and is WAY better. Check it out here:

2. There are three free lessons from my course that you can check out without any signups required at

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

  • What can I do about my intense anxiety and stomach pain when I have to go to school?
  • How can I go about telling my new romantic partner about my mental health issues?
  • When is the right time to stop therapy?

As always you can send me questions to

Jun 21, 2018
Episode 113: Polyamory, Family Issues Due to Bipolar, Living with a Disability

Hello, friends!

This is a straightforward question and answer episode. First a couple updates:

I changed the free preview content that is available on Now you can get three free lessons that cover defining anxiety, breathing strategies, and thinking traps. Good stuff.

The audiobook for F**k Anxiety will also be new and improved probably near the end of next week. I'll update again when the changes are processed.

Here are this week's questions:

  • My husband and I want to explore polyamory, but how can I get over my anxiety about him liking someone else more than me?
  • How can I get my family to stop abandoning me due to my bipolar?
  • What can I do now that my disability prevents me from doing the things that I used to love?

As always you can send me your questions to

Jun 14, 2018
Episode 112: The Psychology of ASMR

In this episode, I do something a little different. This is a highly requested deep dive episode into the topic of ASMR, or autonomous sensory meridian response. You know, those videos where people tap things and whisper on youtube? I used to make those videos. For almost 6 years, in fact. 

I talk about what ASMR is and give examples from different videos. At the end, I even give you a bonus ASMR audio sample recorded by yours truly. Enjoy! 

Here are the videos that I used samples from: ASMR 1H OF TAPPING NO TALKING! more than 1 hour! by Chiara ASMR ASMR 1 Hour Tapping | No Talking by ASMR Glow ASMR Purely Close Up Whispers | Ear to Ear by
LauraLemurex ASMR ASMR Dmitri Talks about a Dream - Soft Spoken Voice by Massage ASMR Cranial Nerve Test with Pat LaFontaine & Dr. James Kelly by brainline Asheville Mall Manicure Nail Buff, Great Gift by Ask Asheville OLD ~ Cranial Nerve Examination Roleplay by Cutebunny992

Binaural Dual Trigger Sounds ASMR by me [ASMR] Hearing Test Nurse (Soft Spoken) by GIBI ASMR

Jun 07, 2018
Episode 111: Repressed Memories, Processing Loss, and Depression at 15

Hey, friends. This was a really good episode thanks to the awesome questions that I was sent in. In fact, I think this episode would be a really great one to share with your friends if you wanted to give them an example of my podcast ;).

Here are the questions that are covered in this episode:

  • Are repressed memories real and what should you do about them?
  • How do I know that I've fully processed recent losses in my family?
  • How can I get help when I'm 15, depressed, and embarrassed?

As always you can send me your questions to

And be sure to check out my new online anxiety course at


May 31, 2018
Episode 110: Dr. Skye Stifel Answers Your Child Questions

This episode is kind of a hybrid. It's not quite an interview. More of a collaborative question and answer session. I sat down with my friend Skye Stifel, a school psychologist that I went to grad school with, to answer your questions about kids and adolescents. Good stuff!

Please head over to to learn more about my 10-week intensive anxiety bootcamp! 

As always, please send me your questions for future episodes to


May 24, 2018
109: Family Doesn't Support Therapy, Facing Rejection, Making Friends

Hello, friends!! Today's episode is a question and answer session. I think it turned out pretty well despite some annoying flooding that happened in my office this week, which I talk about in the episode. 

Hey, if you are interested in taking your anxiety from a 9 to a 3 and taking back control of your life, be sure to follow me on twitter at and on facebook at because I will VERY soon be opening up pre-orders for my 10-week online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass. Stay tuned.

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

  • What can I do about my step-mother who does not support me being in therapy?
  • How can I make friends in college?
  • How can I build a thicker skin in the face of rejection?

If you have questions for a future episode, please send them on over to 

May 17, 2018
Episode 108: Quinn Gee on Being a Therapist and Black Mental Health

Hi, friends! Thanks for tuning in again. As always, I really appreciate your support and participation in this podcast. In this episode, I am interviewing Quinn Gee. She is a therapist, business owner, and all around badass. We talk about how she got into therapy, her own identity development, what it's like being a therapist, and some concepts related to black mental health. It was a great talk. 

Next week should be a regular question and answer episode, so send your questions to

Be sure to show Quinn some love at:


May 10, 2018
107: What If Depression Doesn't Go Away?

In this episode, I talk about options for depression that just does not seem subside despite your best efforts. If you have tried therapy, medication, and all of the other things that we are supposed to do to tackle depression, but you still can't put a dent in it, you may have "treatment resistant depression". It can be extremely frustrating to fall into this category, but I want to reassure you that there is still hope. In this podcast, I talk about different options and techniques that can be used to move past resistant depression.

May 03, 2018
106: Sakinah on Severe Mental Illness and Advocacy

Today's episode is a very interesting interview with "The Muslim Hippy" herself, Sakinah. I love this interview for several reasons. First off, we covered some great topics and Sakinah was totally open and real about her struggles with severe mental illness. It was also a very authentic picture of how you can persist and do cool things like a podcast interview in the context of your mental illness. Sakinah second guessed whether the interview was good quality because she was just coming off of an episode and felt that her thoughts were scattered. Regardless of this, I think that she did an amazing job and serves a a great model of having mental health issues AND kicking ass. Enjoy!

If you have any suggestions for topics or potential guests, send them over to me at

Apr 26, 2018
105: Different Types of Therapy

Hey all! This is a deep dive episode that was prompted by an email question that I got. In this episode, I talk about the different types of therapy that are available. Of course, I don't cover every single one, but I describe some of the types of therapy that you are most likely to encounter including:

  • Psychoanalysis and psychodynamic therapy
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
  • Dialectical Behavior Therapy
  • EMDR
  • Family Systems Therapy
  • Integrative or Eclectic Therapy

Therapy is effective. Many people don't understand how talking with someone can help, but it does. The research is good on therapy outcomes, which is why insurance companies continue to cover it.

Please continue sending me your questions to, especially questions about kids for my upcoming episode with a school psychologist. 

Apr 19, 2018
104: Dr. Andrea Letamendi on Comics and Psychology

Hello! This is a special episode. I got the chance to interview Dr. Andrea Letamendi. She is a clinical psychologist and the host of the Arkham Sessions podcast. She uses comics, nerdom, and pop culture as a vehicle to explain psychological concepts. We had a broad conversation about these topics, her background, and the field of psychology in general. I hope you enjoy!

Please send me your questions about children for an upcoming episode where I will enlist the help of a school psychologist to answer questions about kiddos. You can send them (and other questions) to

Please show Dr. Letamendi some love on twitter at and visit her website at



Apr 12, 2018
103: Flashbacks, Borderline vs Bipolar, Pressure to Have Sex

Hello, friends! This is another question and answer episode. Next week will be an interview with the amazing Dr. Andrea Letamendi all about comic books, pop culture, and mental health. 

I would really appreciate it if you would rate the show on iTunes OR share the show with your friends this week. 

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

  • How to I get over traumatic flashbacks when it has been over a year?
  • Do I have borderline personality disorder or bipolar?
  • Should I feel pressured to have sex?

As always you can send me your questions to

Apr 05, 2018
102: Dr. Ron Holt on Coming Out Safely as LGBTQ

Today I have an interview with an amazing guest. Dr. Ron Holt is a psychiatrist who stepped away from direct clinical practice to focus directly on advocacy work related to LGBTQ issues. As a proud gay man, he describes his experience growing up and a variety of other topics such as tips for coming out safely. 

Please check out Ron's work at and at

Next week will be another question and answer episode, so be sure to send your questions to

Mar 29, 2018
101: Work Boundaries, Autistic Burn Out, Social Memory

Hello, everybody! We are back to the normal question and answer format this week. I really enjoyed episode 100, in which my friend Dan Fields interviewed me as a guest. If you haven't checked that one out yet, I suggest it! Next week will be another interview as well with an awesome guest. Here are the questions that I tackle this week:

  • What should I do to have a better work-life balance when my colleagues work all weekend?
  • Why do I have a great memory for school, but a terrible memory for social information?
  • Is stimming a valid coping strategy for fatigue and burnout as a person with autism?

If you have a question for the podcast, shoot me an email to or go to

Mar 22, 2018
100: Special Episode - Me Interviewed as a Guest!

Hello, friends! This is episode 100 of the podcast and as such I wanted to do something a little different. I invited my friend Dan Fields from the Save It For The Show podcast on to interview ME as a guest. We had a really interesting conversation about all kinds of stuff. Honestly, I wish we had another 2 hours to talk. Let me know if you'd like to hear a part 2 in the future. Super huge thanks to Dan for volunteering his time to this episode.

I also just wanted to say THANK YOU. This has been a really special project and I'm proud of what we've created here. I can't believe it's been 100 episodes. I am so honored and thankful for your support.

Mar 15, 2018
99: Erez Sheck on Bipolar, Bullying, and Social Media

Episode 99, guys! Next week is big 100. I'll be doing something a bit different for that episode, so make sure you tune in for that one. This week is my first interview of the year. In this episode, I talk to Erez Shek about his experiences with bullying, bipolar, being a gay man, hospitalization, and social media. It was a great conversation! 

Please show Erez some love on twitter at: and check out his website at:

Do you have a guest that you would love to hear me interview? Let me know! Shoot me an email to

This episode was brought to you by Sudio. Check out for some awesome Swedish-designed bluetooth headphones. Use the offer code SELFHELP for 15% off! 

Mar 08, 2018
Episode 98: All About Exposure for Anxiety

This episode is actually ripped from a long video that I recorded. I have been thinking a lot about exposure for anxiety lately for multiple reasons. For one, I'm in the middle of creating my online course for anxiety and recently wrote the content for the module on exposure. I have also been frustrated by people that I see in my clinical practice who have gone through years of therapy for their anxiety, but never engaged in exposure treatment for their anxiety.

Research indicates that exposure is a vital component of successful anxiety treatment. It's about facing your anxiety head on and teaching your body to stop reacting so strongly to it. 

In this episode, I talk about exposure in general and then break down two methods for gaining exposure and increasing your tolerance for anxiety.

If you'd like to submit a question for a future episode, send it over to

Mar 01, 2018
Episode 97: Finding a Male Role Model, Discussing Trauma, Hydrocephalus

Today's episode is sponsored by Sudio headphones. To see some seriously stylish headphones with great functionality check out and use the code SELFHELP for 15% off of your purchase. 

This episode is a normal Q & A. My voice progressively died as I recorded the episode, so you get croaky Robert again. Great variety of questions this time including:

  • How can I find a positive male role model for my boys since their father died?
  • Should I talk about my trauma in therapy even though I haven't spoken about it for 30 years?
  • Has my history of hydrocephalus affected my speed of thinking? How can I improve?

As always you can send me your questions to


Feb 22, 2018
Episode 96: Moving, Tolerating Insecurity, Anxiety Procrastination

Hello, friends! I'm back from my paternity leave. Thank you for the support, the great feedback, and the patience during my absence. Excited to be back at it. Some exciting stuff coming up in the coming months including some really awesome guests. Look forward to that.

This episode is a question and answer episode with questions from my private Hardcore Self Help facebook group. If you aren't a member yet, go to and request access!

Here are the questions:

  • How can I prepare for a big life change?
  • How can I get over my relationship insecurity?
  • Is procrastination related to anxiety?

If you have questions that you would like me to answer, please send them to

Feb 15, 2018
Episode 95: Moving on from Trauma at 66

Heyoooo! This is one more mini-episode where I am answering a single question rather than 3. If all goes according to plan, this will be the last episode of my paternity leave and I'll be back to normal next week. Thanks for your patience!

Keep sending me your amazing questions to


Feb 08, 2018
Episode 94: Should I Have a Relationship with My Abusive Parent?

Hello, everyone! 

Today is a mini-episode. I'm still on my paternity leave, so I'm coming at you with a single question and answer, rather than my typical 3 per episode. I hope you enjoy this quick bite of information and I also hope that you're taking great care of yourself.

If you want to send me a question, please do so at

Feb 01, 2018
Episode 93: Dr. Amber Baker Answers Anxiety Questions

Hey, friends!

I'm currently off on paternity leave, so my friend and fellow psychologist, Amber Baker, Ph.D., is stepping in to answer your questions today. The episode is very similar to my normal question and answer episodes, just with a different host. I think she knocked it out of the park. Be sure to stop by the following links to show her some love and say thanks for doing such a great job.

Please keep sending me your questions to I'll be doing mini episodes for the next two weeks and then I should be back at it with normal episodes. 

Jan 25, 2018
Episode 92: Burn Out Prevention, Vertigo Anxiety, Signs of a Good Guy

Hello, friends! It's only been like 3 episodes since I've done a Q&A, but it feels like it has been forever. Super happy to be back here answering your mental health questions. The next 3 episodes will be a bit different due to my paternity leave, which I explain at the top of the episode. Here are the questions for this week:

  • How can someone with anxiety/depression prevent burnout?
  • Is it possible to overcome anxiety without medication, especially with vertigo?
  • I've been burned before, but I want to date again. What are the signs that I'm dating a healthy/good guy?

As always, you can send me your questions to 


Jan 18, 2018
Episode 91: The Wife Part 2

My wife, Joelle is back on the podcast today. We talk about lots of stuff including anxiety and pregnancy, our plans for the new baby, communication within our relationship, and we also answer some listener questions. Enjoy! 

Next week will probably be a normal episode, but after that there will be some mini-episodes and guest spots, as I go on paternity leave.

Definitely keep sending me your awesome questions to

Jan 11, 2018
Episode 90: New Year Reflections

Here we are. It's 2018. Crazy. In this episode, I reflect on the past year and talk about my hopes and goals for 2018. I talk a bit about my personal life, my professional life, and this podcast. Please stop by Twitter or Facebook and let me know what your hopes for the year are! 

If you want to send me a question for a future episode, you can reach me at

Jan 04, 2018
Episode 89: A Guided Relaxation for the Holidays

I know I already did a holiday themed episode, but I figured you guys could use a little more love as you continue through the holiday season. Rather than answering your questions today, I'm going to lead you through a guided relaxation designed to help you de-stress and relieve some of the stress that often accompanies the holidays. Give yourself the gift of relaxation. Put in some headphones. Chill with me. I got you. 

No episode next week. Back at it the week after. Keep sending me your questions to


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Dec 21, 2017
Episode 88: Recognizing Abuse & Raising Children With Mental Illness

Today is a question and answer episode. I'm doing two questions instead of three today, just because I've gotta get up early for a talk I'm giving tomorrow. I think these are two really great questions though.

In one of the questions, I reference a video with Kristen Bell, which you can check out at:

In the other, I reference the cycle of abuse image, which you can see here:

Here are the questions:

  • How can I help my children, who are starting to show signs of depression and anxiety, when I can't even help myself?
  • How can I recognize and move past abuse when I'm unsure about whether I have been abused?

As always you can send your questions in to

Dec 14, 2017
Episode 87: Surviving Disasters

Hey, friends. I'm not sure if you saw the news, but southern California is on fire. I'm safe, but a lot of friends and acquaintances are not. I'm in this eerie spot where we are very close to the fires, but at very low risk, so "normal" life continues on. Decided to do an episode with some of my tips for getting through disasters like this including:

  • Understanding stress vs anxiety
  • Prepping to avoid freezing
  • Mental rehearsal
  • Importance of rest
  • Focusing on what you DO have control over
  • Mindfulness in disaster situations
  • Finding comfort in the small moments
  • Keeping routine where you can
  • Talking about event without re-traumatizing
  • Processing your feelings
  • Getting help
  • Managing social media consumption

Not sure what format next week's episode will be, but please feel free to keep sending your questions over to and be sure to check out the info for my upcoming course at

Dec 07, 2017
Episode 86: Too Nervous to Call Therapist, Phobia of Vomiting, Depression in High School

Hello, my friends! This episode is just a straight forward question and answer episode with some really awesome questions. This week I am also working on a book proposal for a traditional publisher, which means that you would be able to buy this potential book in stores. That's a bucket list item of mine and I'm excited to keep you updated in the coming weeks/months. 

Here are the questions for this episode:

  • How can I get help when I'm too anxious to call a therapist?
  • How can I get over my fear of vomiting?
  • How can I get through high school when I have been depressed for years?

As always you can send me your questions to

Nov 30, 2017
Episode 85: How to Survive the Holidays

The holidays are crazy for everybody and they can be particularly stressful if you deal with any mental health issues. In this episode of the podcast, I share a few tips that can help you stay afloat during the Holiday season. 

If you have other tips that work well for you, please share them with my on twitter at and I will RT them for my audience! 

Nov 21, 2017
Episode 84: Triggers and Trigger Warnings

This is a deep dive episode where I spend the entire time talking about one topic of interest rather than taking questions from the audience. In this episode, I cover something that I've been meaning to talk about for a while, which is the word "trigger" and the term 'trigger warning".

I cover what the term "actually" means, where it came from, and my mixed feelings about the way that trigger warnings or content warnings are used these days. A the end, I also give some practical tips for when social media becomes too triggering.

Next episode will be either an interview with Brent Williams, who wrote the Out of the Woods graphic novel that I review here or just a regular Q&A. Please keep sending me your awesome questions to

Nov 09, 2017
Episode 83: Bipolar Depression, Firing a Bad Therapist, Forgetting Family Members

Thanks for having some fun with me for the Halloween episode last week. This one will be a regular Q&A episode. I wanted to give a quick shout out to my buddy Speeks Geak for hooking me up with the new intro and outro beat. Check him out over at:

In this episode, I cover some great questions on a variety of topics. Here is what I cover:

  • What is bipolar depression? How is it different than "regular" depression?
  • How should I tell my therapist that I don't want to work with them anymore? How do I get my files from them?
  • What can I do about my grandparent with dementia not remembering their spouse?

As always you can send me your questions to and follow me on twitter at

Nov 02, 2017
Episode 82: Spooky Psychology Experiments

This week we are doing something a little different. I wanted to get into the Halloween spirit, so today on the podcast, I tell you the story of 4 spooky psychology experiments that reveal the darker side of the human condition. 

Oct 26, 2017
Episode 81: Feelings for Your Therapist, Journaling for Anxiety, Helping a Friend with Depression

Today we have another question and answer episode featuring some super interesting questions. Don't forget to sign up for my newsletter to get the free resources mentioned in the episode. Here are the questions...

  • What happens when you have feelings for your therapist?
  • How can journaling help anxiety?
  • How can I help a friend with major depression?

As always you can send me your questions to

Oct 19, 2017
Episode 80: Harnessing the Power of Your Phone

Hello, friends! This is a deep dive episode all about your phone. I share some apps and general principles that you can use with your phone to improve your mental health and overall life progress. Unfortunately there is one abrupt cut toward the end of the episode because my recording program crashed and I had to re-record some. Oh well! 

Here are some of the apps that I mentioned:




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The next episode will likely be a Q & A episode, so please continue sending me your questions to


Oct 12, 2017
Episode 79: Gaming Advice, ADHD Tests, Obsession with Suicide

Hello, friends! Apologies for the unexpected lapse in episodes last week. Had some family stuff come up on my normal recording night and I was slammed with clinical work for the rest of the week. I'm back with a great Q&A episode this week though! Here are the questions covered:

  • How can I regulate my depression and self-criticism while gaming competitively?
  • Do I need to get additional testing to switch my ADHD medications?
  • Is it bad that I'm obsessed with suicide-related content?

As always you can send me your questions to

Oct 05, 2017
Episode 78: Boundaries, PMS Anxiety, Symptom Relapse

Hello, everyone! Thanks so much for joining me again. This is another question and answer episode featuring the following questions:

  • How can I set boundaries and communicate better with my introverted partner?
  • I've been doing well until recent changes. Now all of my symptoms are back. What can I do?
  • Is it normal to have a spike in anxiety when I have my period?

As always you can send me your questions to and don't forget to sign up for the mailing list (launch group list closing next week) at


Sep 21, 2017
Episode 77: Avoidant Personality, Skin Picking Fidgets, Dwelling on Hospitalization

Hello, friends! Thanks for joining me again for another Q&A episode. I was recently interviewed about anxiety on the Sexy Fit Podcast, which you can check out here:

I also wanted to mention that I will be switching my release day from Wednesday to Thursday each week, just to fit better with my life and keep myself sane. Here are the questions for this week:

  • Are fidget spinners helpful in coping with skin picking disorder?
  • I think about my psych hospitalization everyday. Is that normal?
  • What is avoidant personality disorder?

As always you can send me your questions to

Sep 14, 2017
Episode 76: Midlife Crisis, Flotation Tanks, Fleeting Suicidality

Hello, friends! This episode is coming at you a little late today, which I explain at the beginning. It's important to be honest with yourself and exercise control over your situation to avoid burnout. Here are the awesome questions in this episode:

  • Why am I starting to struggle with my mental health at age 46?
  • Can you have fleeting suicidal tendencies?
  • Do flotation tanks help with anxiety and ADHD?

As always you can send me your questions for the podcast to 

You can also sign up to be part of the launch team of my upcoming course, Kick Anxiety's Ass, at

Sep 07, 2017
Episode 75: Violent thoughts, Relationship with Mom, Bipolar

Another Q&A episode today! Some really great questions and I get pretty detailed about a few diagnoses. Before that, be sure to check out the private facebook group for the HCSH community at:

Look out for more info on my upcoming Kick Anxiety's Ass course and be a part of the beta group here:

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

  • Why do I have violent thoughts and why do I need everything to be even in number?
  • How can I work on my relationships with other people, given my estrangement from my mother?
  • Do my symptoms fit with bipolar disorder?

As always you can send me your questions to


Aug 30, 2017
Episode 74: How to get the most out of therapy

Today we are doing a deep dive episode all about ways that you can maximize your progress in therapy. Whether you are a seasoned therapy veteran or barely thinking about getting started, this will be good information for you to keep in the back of your mind. 

Before I share the 10 tips for getting the most out of therapy, I wanted to let you know that I started a new closed facebook group for the Hardcore Self Help Community. You can find that at:

Here are the tips:

1. You don't need to impress your therapist

2. Don't lie to your therapist

3. Don't be afraid to get emotional and let it out

4. Challenge your therapist and correct them

5. If it's not working, say something

6. Find someone you are comfortable with

7. Get therapy sooner

8. Take notes and journal

9. Do the homework and practice the skills

10. Talk about the relationship between you and your therapist during session

Next week should be another Q&A episode, so keep sending me your awesome questions to

Aug 23, 2017
Episode 73: Multiple Personalities, Sleep Procrastination, Being the Codependent Friend

Hello, everyone! Just off the top, given the BS going on in the world at the moment, I need to reaffirm that everyone is welcome here regardless of race, ethnicity, cultural background, gender identity, sexual orientation etc. Just needs to be said. 

Today's episode is another Q&A with some really awesome questions including:

  • How can I help my mom who has multiple personalities?
  • Why do I procrastinate sleep and what can I do about it?
  • What can I do when I am the codependent friend?

As always you can send me your questions to and don't forget to follow me on social @duffthepsych for cute baby stuff!

Aug 16, 2017
Episode 72: 10 Common Thinking Traps

This is a deep dive episode all about common thinking traps and pitfalls that we encounter as human beings. In the field, we refer to these as "cognitive distortions". In this episode, I break down ten of them for you and talk a bit about how to use your knowledge of them to your advantage. Here are the cognitive distortions that I cover in this episode:

  1. Mind Reading
  2. Personalizing
  3. Just World Fallacy
  4. Emotional Reasoning
  5. Shoulds and Musts
  6. Black and White Thinking
  7. Overgeneralization
  8. Filtering
  9. Catastrophizing
  10. Overestimating Power of Thoughts

Next week should be another Q & A episode, so please keep sending me your questions to 

Aug 09, 2017
Episode 71: Self-Criticism, "Functional" Anxiety, Forgiving Abuser

Hello, friends! Just another awesome question and answer episode for you. Two short questions and one more complicated question:

  • How can I overcome my self-criticism and low self-esteem?
  • What does my family member mean when she says that she has "functional anxiety"?
  • Do I need to forgive my abuser? 

As always you can send me your questions to and follow my on facebook at

Aug 02, 2017
Episode 70: I Don't Need Therapy, Talking About Self-Harm, Being a Fraud

Hey, friends! Before I get into the questions for this episode, I wanted to let you know that I recently posted a video and blogpost in which I share an entire chapter from my book about suicide. You can check that out and share it at Here are this week's questions:

  • How do I tell me mom that I don't need more therapy?
  • Am I a fraud for improving my depression symptoms on my own?
  • How can I talk about self-harm with my therapist without ruining things?

That's it for this week! As always you can send me your questions to

Jul 26, 2017
Episode 69: Life before depression, Masturbation, Aneurysm

Wide variety of questions this time! I love it. Please continue sending me your questions and look forward to some "guest hosts" in the future! Also thanks so much for the reviews on iTunes. It's greatly appreciated! Here are the questions covered in this episode:

  • What if I don't remember what I enjoyed before depression because it's been so many years?
  • Can my dad recover from his aneurysm?
  • How can I make my boyfriend stop masturbating when he knows that I don't want him to? 

As always you can send me your questions to! 

Jul 19, 2017
Episode 68: Heat Anxiety, EMDR, Social Media, Boundaries in Therapy

Packed episode this week! I didn't realize it when I constructed the episode, but I included two double questions for a total of 5 questions answered this episode, haha! Really interesting stuff though. If you have a minute, please head over to itunes and leave a review for this podcast and consider sharing with a friend. Thanks so much! Here are the questions covered:

  • Why do I get panic attacks when I'm hot?
  • What is EMDR and does it actually work?
  • What should I do about my brother's worrying social media posts?
  • Do therapists worry about their clients?
  • How do you keep good boundaries as a therapist?

As always you can send me your questions to

Jul 12, 2017
Episode 67: Perfectionism, Finding Passions, Encountering an Abuser

Hello, friends! Sorry for the lapse in shows. I did that re-posting of my interview on the Cognitive Rampage podcast a couple weeks ago and this past week I got super sick and completely lost my voice! No bueno. I'm feeling a lot better now and I'm back with another great question and answer session for you. Here are the questions covered:

  • Are anxiety and perfectionism related?
  • How do you find passions and interests? Everything feels like a chore.
  • What can I do about being in the same location as my abuser?

Keep sending me in your questions. I will be back again next week as long as I don't get the plague again! Send them in to

Jul 05, 2017
Episode 66: My Interview on the Cognitive Rampage Podcast

Hey, friends. This episode is a little different. I didn't have time to record a full Q & A episode this week due to life and work. However, I think I found a nice alternative here. Recently I was on Adam Lowery's podcast called Cognitive Rampage. He's a cool dude and has a book by the same name. This turned out to be a wide ranging conversation and I think probably one of the best interviews that I've ever given. So have a listen and head over to Adam's site to see more content. Next week will be back to the Q&A, so send me your questions to

Here's the full podcast on Adam's page:

Jun 21, 2017
Episode 65: Vicarious Trauma, Lifelong Panic, Mental Health and the Internet

Hello, friends! This is another question and answer episode for you. Hey, I'd appreciate it so much if you'd send me some honest open-ended feedback about the podcast to with the subject line "podcast feedback". As long or short as you'd like. You can give me any feedback that you would like.

Anyways, here are the three questions that are covered:

  • What are some ways to avoid vicarious trauma or burnout when working in an intense job?
  • If I have had panic attacks since I was 5 years old, will I always have them? Am I just wired this way?
  • Do you think mental health disorders are actually on the rise or is it just more awareness and the influence of the internet?

As always you can send me your questions to and you can also see a video bonus question on facebook or youtube. 

Jun 14, 2017
Episode 64: Trying Therapy Again, Breaking Up, Blushing and Social Anxiety

Hello again, friends. This is another Q&A episode with some really great questions. Wanted to let you know that I am now doing a bonus question each week on youtube and facebook. I also mention the video about finding a therapist online. You can find that at

Here are the questions that I cover:

  • Should I try therapy again after having a bad experience?
  • How do I break up with someone whose mom is dying?
  • How can I get over my social anxiety and blushing?

As always you can send me your questions to 

Jun 07, 2017
Episode 63: Electroshock, Low Grade Depression, Terminal Illness

Hello, my friends! Another awesome Q & A for you this week. Couple links that I mentioned in the show. Here's the cognitive rampage podcast: and here is that episode about TMS therapy that I mentioned:

Anyways, here are the questions I cover:

  • What is electroconvulsive therapy (ECT) and is this something I should look into for depression?
  • Should I get treatment when my depression isn't so bad that I have a formal diagnosis?
  • What can I do to make my severe cancer diagnosis and treatment more bearable? 

As always you can find my on social @duffthepsych and you can send me your questions to

May 31, 2017
Episode 62: Self-Harm as Coping, Depression as an Excuse, Recurring Depression

Hello, friends. We are back to the Q&A this week. Thanks so much for your super awesome feedback on the last episode with my wife. If you'd like to hear more from her, let me know! At the start I ramble a little bit about the importance of advertising and allowing me to make a living so that I can continue to put all this work in for free. Here are the amazing questions that we go through in this episode:

  • Am I using my depression as an excuse? Should I be better by now?
  • Is it normal to feel like my depression keeps recurring?
  • What should I do about my self-harm when I feel like it's a normal coping mechanism?

As always you can send me your questions to and hit me up on social @duffthepsych! 

May 24, 2017
Episode 61: MY WIFE on mental illness, motherhood, and hospitalization

Very special episode this week for you! I've been meaning to get my wife on the show for a good while now. This is the first time that I've ever interviewed her about her experiences with mental illness. I have talked about her in my TEDx talk and my books, so this was a really nice opportunity to sit down for a while and just chat about her life. We talk about what it's like being married to me, her earliest anxiety experiences, motherhood, her hospitalization, and things that have helped her progress in her mental health journey. 

Next week should be a Q&A episode, so please keep sending me your questions to and follow my wife on social @joellecharming

May 17, 2017
Episode 60: All About Breathing

For this episode, I was feeling a little too overwhelmed by the week to do a Q&A so instead I decided to talk to you all about breathing. We talk about different breathing exercises and how to practice them so that they are useful to you in moments of stress or anxiety. We cover the physiological mechanism behind relaxation breathing. Finally, we briefly cover mindfulness and meditative breathing. 

The tone of this whole episode is a bit more calm and subdued. I hope that it's relaxing as well as informative! 

As always you can send me your questions for future Q&As to

May 10, 2017
Episode 59: Delayed grief, Toxic relationships, Agoraphobia

Hello, friends! Good news - your boy is official! I finally passed all of the hurdles and paid all of my money and got my license as a clinical psychologist in California. It's super meaningful for me and I appreciate you being a part of the journey.

Anyway, this is another great question and answer episode. Here's what I cover:

  • Should I play a show with my band in the city that my friend died? 
  • How can I improve my relationship when I might be the toxic one and create conflict for attention?
  • What can I do about my anxiety and agoraphobia if I haven't left the house in two months?

As always you can send me your questions to!

May 03, 2017
Episode 58: Graves disease anxiety, Fears of hospitalization, How I get so much done

Hello, friends. Thanks for joining me again for another question and answer episode. Wanted to let you know that I've been doing instagram stories over at Check them out if you would like a little snapshot into my day to day life as a psychologist/dad/entrepreneur etc. 

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

  • I have anxiety caused by Graves disease. I'd like to get anxiety medication to help, but I'm not sure how to talk to my doctor about it. How can I bring it up?
  • My father killed himself and I want to get therapy, but I'm afraid that I'll be hospitalized. Should I bother?
  • Robert, how do you get so much done when I can hardly find a single moment to myself?

As always you can send me your anonymous questions to and I'll see you next time! 

Apr 26, 2017
Episode 57: High IQ and Anxiety, Hiding Feelings, Getting Help as a Young Person

Hello, friends! Thanks for tuning in. In this episode, I take 3 more awesome question from you listeners. There are a couple questions from younger people, which I think is awesome. I decided to livestream this episode on my facebook page. I will try to do more of that in the future, so keep your eyes out for Tuesday night live video on the facebook page over at

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

  • Could my high IQ cause mental health issues?
  • What can I do when I'm bad at hiding how I feel at school or work?
  • Should I get help as a young person with depression?

As always you can send me your questions to 

Apr 19, 2017
Episode 56: My Personal Psychology Journey

Hey, friends! In this episode, I do something a bit different. I guess you could say that this is a deep dive episode that was prompted by a listener question. Someone wrote in and wanted to know more about what got me into the field of psychology in the first place and what appeals to me about it. So I get a little personal and tell you about my early life, experiences, and journey through the field of psychology. I hope you enjoy!

Next week will most likely be another question and answer episode, so please continue sending me your questions to

Apr 12, 2017
Episode 55: Recovering From a Cult, Polyphasic Sleep, Preparing for Therapy

Hello, friends! I just want to take a minute to thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to listen and for sending in questions to help me create this content. Also wanted to give you a heads up that I will be off of social media for next week. Anyways, here are the questions covered in this episode:

  • Now that I am out of a cult, how can manage my anxiety and make sure I give my daughter opportunities to socialize?
  • Would a polyphasic sleep schedule help me get enough rest for my shift work?
  • I'm in a good place recently. What can I do to prepare for therapy between sessions?

As always you can send me your questions to and if you are not yet following me on social, get on that. I'm @duffthepsych on everything. 

Apr 05, 2017
Episode 54: Lying, Religious Therapists, Prioritizing Topics in Therapy

Hello, friends! Another Q & A episode for you today. If you are not yet, please follow me on facebook at I've been doing some cool content over there that I talk about at the top of the episode. 

Here are the questions tackled in this episode:

  • How can I address a lie that I told in my relationship?
  • What does it mean when a therapist mentions their religion in online databases?
  • How can I better prioritize topics for psychotherapy?

As always, you can send me your questions to

Mar 29, 2017
Episode 53: All About Confidentiality In Therapy

Hey, friends! Thanks for the patience during my week off. I talk about about that at the beginning of this episode. The remainder is dedicating to helping you understand the issue of confidentiality in psychotherapy. If you have ever wondered what information is kept private vs when a therapist can share your info, this episode is for you. This turned out to be a longer episode, because it's fairly comprehensive. I cover what you need to know about confidentiality and reporting in regards to:

  • Danger to self
  • Danger to others
  • Child abuse
  • Elder abuse
  • Minors in therapy
  • Crimes

And more. Next week will be a Q&A episode, so shoot me your questions about mental health, psychology, and life to


Mar 22, 2017
Episode 52: Do I Deserve To Get Better, How Do I Know If I Am Bad Enough For Help, On Stage Panic Attack

Okay, my friends! I think this was a great episode. I got to cover some really interesting questions that I am sure apply to many of you out there. Don't forget to check out my TEDx talk at Here are the questions that are covered in this episode:

  • How can I get over feeling like I don't deserve to feel better?
  • How do you know if you actually need psychological help or if you are just blowing things out of proportion?
  • What can you do to overcome panic attacks on stage?

As always you can send me your questions to 

Mar 08, 2017
Episode 51: Biological Anxiety, Cues for Depression, Borderline Personality Disorder

Hello, friends! First off, please go check out my TEDx talk at it would mean the world to me.

This episode is another question and answer session. I'm getting sick, so pardon any sniffles or brain farts. Here are the questions that I cover:

  • Why do I still feel anxiety even though I know everything is fine in my brain?
  • What can I do when I feel depression first coming on?
  • How can I help my daughter with borderline personality disorder?

As always you can email me your questions to or hit my up on social media at


Mar 01, 2017
Episode 50: VICTORY!!

Episode 50, guys! Woohooo!!! Man. Crazy stuff. Thank you SO FREAKIN MUCH for your continued collaboration on this podcast. Your questions and inspiration keep it going. In this episode, I reflect a bit on the journey so far and then share a few victory stories sent in by listeners. It is always important to give yourself credit for big and small moments of success when you are living with mental illness. 

Thank you. Thank you thank you thank you! Let's keep this goin. Send me your questions to and I'll see you next week. 

Feb 22, 2017
Episode 49: Suicidal Friend, Telling Work about Depression, Anxiety from Weed

Hey, everyone! Please continue to send me in your mental health success stories both big and small. I have a few good ones, but I want more! I will be reading them on the next episode, which is freakin' episode 50!!! SO AWESOME WTFBBQ!!!

Ahem. Here are today's questions. 

  • Should I tell my friend's therapist about her suicidal behaviors? 
  • How should I talk to my boss about my depression?
  • Can you permanently get anxiety from smoking weed?


You can send me your questions and success stories to or on twitter at


Feb 15, 2017
Episode 48: Overcoming Sexual Assault, Trouble Sleeping With Other People, What's It Like Having A Mentally Ill Spouse

Hello, friends!

GASP! I forgot to record a podcast. I mean... I remembered, but I didn't remember in time for my usual midnight upload time. Oh well. You probably don't care.

HEY! I would love to hear your personal mental health success stories big and small. Please send them over to me in the next couple weeks for episode 50!

Here are this week's questions:

  • How can I "get over" a sexual assault that happened a couple months ago?
  • Why do I have a hard time sleeping with other people in the room?
  • What is it like having a spouse with a mental illness? 

As always you can send me your questions (and success stories) to or on twitter at


Feb 09, 2017
Episode 47: My Tips for Public Speaking

This episode is another deep dive episode. I decided at the last minute to go ahead and do a little rundown of my personal tips for public speaking. In particular these are tips that help me with memorization, managing stress, and knocking it out of the park when it comes to "performance" style speeches such as keynotes or TED style talks. I recently did a TEDx talk in my community, which is what prompted this entire topic. Stay tuned for that video once it's released. 

Enjoy these tips and let me know if I should do anything special for Episode 50! Hit me up on twitter at or at


Feb 01, 2017
Episode 46: Genetics and mental health, Abusive daughter, Codependent friend

Hello, my friends! Just wanted to say thanks again so much for always sending in such awesome, honest, and brave questions. You guys are amazing. In this episode I take a couple questions that are related to dealing with significant others who have mental illness. 

Here are the questions covered:

  • Is there a genetic link for mental illness? Is it inherited from your family?
  • What can I do about my 27 year old daughter who lives at home and is abusive toward me?
  • What can I do about my friend of 20 years who has abandonment issues and drains me emotionally?

As always you can send your questions to or hit me up on social media @duffthepsych. 

Jan 25, 2017
Episode 45: Can IQ change, Saving a marriage, Normal anxiety level

Hello, friends! In this episode I take three new awesome questions. We cover the whole board from going heavy into some complicated terminology about neurobiology and testing all the way to hitting you with some hard truths about "saving" a relationship. Please consider sharing the show with the people in your life and on social media. You never know who might need to hear the answers to these questions. Here are the specific questions covered this episode:

  • Years ago, my IQ was estimated to be low. Can your IQ improve over time and should I be tested again?
  • How can I save my marriage with my wife who has mental illness and drinking issues?
  • What is a normal level of anxiety? When should you get help?

As always you can send me your questions to or you can hit me up on twitter at

Jan 18, 2017
Episode 44: Hypnotherapy, Global Climate, Childhood Medication

Alrighty, folks! Got another 3 questions to answer for you today. First off I wanted to say thanks for the recent influx of questions. I have many to choose from, which is awesome. Keep sending them in! 

As a reminder, you can find info about my books at or by looking up hardcore self help on Amazon. 

So here are the questions covered in this episode:

  • Should I take my friend up on an offer of hypnotherapy/NLP?
  • How can I manage my obsession over the news and fear of the current global climate?
  • Should I be worried about medicating my 8 year old child for serious psychiatric issues?

As always you can send me your questions to or @duffthepsych on all social media. 

Jan 11, 2017
Episode 43: Suicidal Thoughts, Agoraphobia, Relationship Paranoia

Heavy hitting questions today. Love it! I'm a little sick in this episode, so please pardon any congestion etc. That said, there are some really good points in this episode, particularly in relation to the first question. 

I dropped a couple links in the intro. Here they are: for my new book and for all sorts of psych resources that I like.

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

  • How can I bring up suicidal thoughts to my doctor?
  • What can I do about my agoraphobia?
  • How can I stop being paranoid in my relationship?

As always please send me your questions (and share the show). You can reach me via email at or on twitter at


Jan 04, 2017
Episode 42: What to Expect from Medication, Money Anxiety, Motivating a Depressed Partner

Hey everyone! Back with another question and answer episode after a nice little holiday. I am slightly scatter brained this episode because people kept ringing the door and interrupting me. Grrrrrrr! This episode has some great questions though, so I hope you find some useful bits of information here. This is what I cover:

  • What should I expect from medication for depression?
  • How can I address my anxiety about money?
  • How can I motivate my depressed spouse to clean the house?

If you have questions, please send them over to me at or on twitter at


Dec 28, 2016
Episode 41: Three Stolen Ideas

In this episode I do something pretty different. Rather than take mental health questions, I present three ideas that I "stole" from people in fields OTHER than psychology. However, these are ideas that I think have great applications to life, emotions, and mental health. Two ideas are stolen from Tim Ferriss, who is the author of the 4 Hour book series and has an amazing podcast called the Tim Ferriss Show. The other idea is stolen from Chris Hardwick, who is the creator of the Nerdist network and a television host. 

Here are the ideas I would like you to ponder:

  • Do I need to gain it the same way I lost it?
  • What would this look like if it were easy?
  • You can not reason someone out of a position that they did not reason themselves into.

Next week will most likely be another Q&A, so send your questions over to or hit me up on twitter at


Dec 21, 2016
Episode 40: Self-Care vs Laziness, Friend Jealousy, Mental Health at 17

This episode has some tough questions! I'm glad you aren't going easy on me. Keep them coming, please! Here is what I cover:

  • How can you tell the difference between self-care and just being lazy or avoiding?
  • What can I do when I am jealous of my friend making close relationships with other people?
  • What should I do, as a senior in high school, about my mental health issues?


Please continue to send me your awesome questions to or on twitter at

Dec 14, 2016