Sexology

By Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.D, Psychology of Sex | Couple Therapy | Sex Education | Science of Intimacy and Pleasure. Weekly chats with guests including Dr. Albert Wong, Dr. Abi Weiss and Tamara Powell, LMHC.

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Sexology podcast untangles the science of sex and pleasure. Each week, Dr. Nazanin Moali interviews experts, psychologists and researchers to explore the most intriguing findings in psychology of sex and intimacy. Sexology podcast will give you insight into all that you have ever wanted to know about sex but were afraid to ask. Join us in this weekly journey to examine sexuality and pleasure from a scientific perspective.

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EP101 - When Sex Hurts by Dr. Holly Herman
30:15

Welcome to episode 101 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be talking with Dr. Holly Herman who speaks to me about common causes of sexual pain for women, the extensive role physical therapists have for sexual issues and exercises women can do to help prevent injuries. 

 

Dr. Hollis Herman (Holly) has been a physical therapist for 43 years. Her passion is musculoskeletal function and dysfunction in Functional Health in the LGBT community and is Board Certified as an Orthopedic, Women’s Health, Biofeedback Specialist. Holly is an AASECT certified Sexuality Counselor and an ISSWSH Sexuality Fellow.  She has pioneered physical therapy evaluation and treatment of problems that involve urologic, colorectal, obstetric, gynecologic, reproductive and sexual medicine.  

 

She maintains a vibrant private practice, HealthyWomen HealthyMen HealthyPeople, in Cambridge, MA, seeing patients in addition to training thousands of health professionals in these areas of health worldwide. 

 

Holly has authored numerous books, book chapters and peer reviewed articles. She has received many grants and awards for her dedication and clinical excellence in physical therapy. Holly co-founded the Herman & Wallace Pelvic Rehabilitation Institute in 2005, though, no longer affiliated. Holly believes all patients deserve the right to be heard, validated, understood and educated in their specific musculoskeletal condition to live a healthy functionally active life. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Common causes of sexual pain for women  
  • Knowing when you need to seek medical attention for sexual issues  
  • The extensive role physical therapists have for sexual issues  
  • The course of treatment and services people can expect from a physical therapist  
  • How long treatments usually last  
  • Exercises women can do to help prevent injuries  
  • Where to find a physical therapist right for you  
 

 

Resources 

http://www.apta.org 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Dec 11, 2018
EP100 - How a Man Can Become the Bedroom’s Rockstar!
39:18

Welcome to episode 100 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back our very first guest of the podcast; Dr. Albert Wong who speaks to me this time about the challenge’s men face with their skills, feelings and relationships in the bedroom, how intimacy can be sexually arousing and steps that can be taken to help with these internal struggles.

Dr. Albert Wong is an Associate Professor and Core Faculty in the Holistic Counseling Psychology Program at JFK University. A former Marshall Scholar, he has longstanding interests in the intersection of performance art, somatics, psychotherapy, and scalable technology.

He served as residential staff at the Esalen Institute for five years. He has been featured on PBS, in Time Magazine, and in the book The American Soul Rush.

His work has been published in titles ranging from the scientific journal Biological Cybernetics to the book anthology Radical Spirit. One of his film projects, Step One Breathe, was named Best Drama at the Maryville Film Festival. He was educated at Princeton, Oxford, and the University of Tennessee and is the recipient of numerous national science awards (Westinghouse Science Talent Scholarship, Goldwater Scholarship).

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The challenges men face with their skills, feelings and relationships in the bedroom
  • How sexual performance anxiety and feelings of not being enough are very prevalent with men
  • Understanding, knowing and having an intuition for you and your partner's desires
  • How intimacy can be sexually arousing
  • Working with and overcoming traumatic experiences
  • Understanding people have many different sexual templates
  • Steps that can be taken to help with these internal struggles

Resources

http://www.dralbertwong.com 

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Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Dec 04, 2018
EP99 - Sex & Recreational Drug Use
25:33

Welcome to episode 99 of the Sexology Podcast, today is a solo episode where I’m going to talk about the relationship between sex and recreational drugs: alcohol, cannabis, cocaine, MDMA, amphetamines and hallucinogens.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The way in which alcohol affects your sexual experience  
  • How aggressive tendencies can be amplified when having sex under the influence of alcohol  
  • How alcohol and cannabis affect sex in very different ways  
  • How some women struggle to concentrate during sex after taking cannabis  
  • The way in which cocaine has a chronic prolonged effect 
  • Reports that suggest many people reach orgasm when coming down from MDMA 
  • The mixed responses people have reported from sex whilst taking amphetamines 
  • How hallucinogens have been known to help with sexual fantasies  
 

 

Resources 

 

Parsons, J. T., Vicioso, K. J., Punzalan, J. C., Halkitis, P. N., Kutnick, A., & Velasquez, M. M. (2004). The impact of alcohol use on the sexual scripts of HIV-positive men who have sex with men. Journal of Sex Research, 41, 160–172 

 

Hingson, R. W., Zha, W., & Weitzman, E. R. (2009). Magnitude of and trends in alcohol-related mortality and morbidity among U.S. college students ages 18–24, 1998–2005. Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs, s16, 12–20. 

 

Kerr, D. C., Washburn, I. J., Morris, M. K., Lewis, K. A., & Tiberio, S. S. (2015). Event-level associations of marijuana and heavy alcohol use with intercourse and condom use. Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs, 76, 733–737. 

 

Parsons, J. T., Vicioso, K. J., Punzalan, J. C., Halkitis, P. N., Kutnick, A., & Velasquez, M. M. (2004). The impact of alcohol use on the sexual scripts of HIV-positive men who have sex with men. Journal of Sex Research, 41, 160–172. 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Nov 27, 2018
EP98 - Surviving Infidelity (Tips for the Offender)
41:38

Welcome to episode 98 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Beth Luwandi Lofstrom who speaks to me about surviving infidelity as the offender, the process of disclosure and how that impacts the partner and recommendations for offenders to get themselves unstuck.  

 

Beth Luwandi Lofstrom is a Licensed Professional Counselor in private practice in Cincinnati, Ohio where her specialty areas are love and loss. She treats couples and individuals healing from infidelity and other relationship wounds. Her Whole Human Theory(TM), an approach based on brain science and methods research, also includes personality assessment to effectively confront variations in individual motivation, processing, communication, and inner world. In this way, Whole Human Theory presents an approach that gets to the core of issues in a highly efficient manner and moves people forward as quickly as possible. 

 

Her book, After the Affair, Healing for the Offender uses this unique perspective to treat infidelity from the inside out with a focus on the offender's healing. While most texts unapologetically side with the betrayed partner or give minimal empathy or time to the offender, Ms. Luwandi acknowledges and presents a road map for anyone who has ever strayed and is feeling the effects of their choices. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Why Beth decided to focus on the experience of the offender  
  • The unhelpful patterns that get offenders stuck  
  • The process of disclosure and how that impacts the partner  
  • Why Beth doesn’t ask clients to break off their affairs whilst working with them  
  • How some people use affairs to get out of a relationship  
  • How much disclosure is useful around the information of sex? 
  • Recommendations for offenders to get themselves unstuck   

 

Resources 

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/09/26/rebuilding-sexual-intimacy-after-sexual-betrayal/ 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Nov 20, 2018
EP97 - Sexual Fantasies with Dr. Justin Lehmiller
29:15

Welcome to episode 97 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller who talks to us about sexual fantasies, the influence culture has in this area and understanding the difference between sexual fantasy and sexual desire.  

 

Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller's research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine.  

 

Dr. Lehmiller has run the popular blog Sex and Psychology since 2011, and it now receives several million page views per year. He has been interviewed by numerous media outlets, including The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, The Chicago Tribune, The Boston Globe, CNN.com, The Atlantic, The Globe and Mail, and The Sunday Times. He has been named one of 5 "Sexperts" You Need to Follow on Twitter by Men's Health and one of the "modern-day masters of sex" by Nerve. Dr. Lehmiller has appeared on several episodes of the television program Taboo on the National Geographic Channel and has been a guest on numerous podcast and radio shows, including the Savage Lovecast and the NPR programs Radio Times and Airtalk. He is a popular freelance writer, penning columns and op-eds for major publications, including Playboy, USA Today, VICE, Psychology Today, Politico, and New York Magazine. In addition, the articles he writes on Sex and Psychology have been syndicated on major websites, including Business Insider, Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Thought Catalog. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Findings about sexual fantasies Justin’s found from a recent survey  
  • The similar sexual themes that emerged across various age groups  
  • The influence culture has on sexual fantasy  
  • How political leanings can influence sexual fantasy  
  • Understanding the difference between sexual fantasy and sexual desire  
  • Creating emotional safety around fantasies  
  • Learning to communicate with your partner to please each other’s fantasies  

 

Resources 

 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Nov 13, 2018
EP96 - Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety
41:17

Welcome to episode 96 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Melissa Novak who speaks to us about the underlying issues around sexual performance anxiety, the way in which our western culture exacerbates this issue and learning to be honest with your partner about your sexual desires and needs. 

 

Melissa Novak a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and Certified Sex Therapist, specializing in the treatment of sexual dysfunction, personality disorders as well as depression and anxiety-related disorders.  She specializes in working with adults, and couples on a variety of issues such as sexual dysfunction, depression, anxiety, OCD, and PTSD. Melissa has a particular interest in working with those struggling with sexual dysfunction and those concerned about some aspect of their sexual behavior.  

 

In addition to providing individual therapy, Melissa serves as an educator and supervisor within the Chicagoland community and currently teaches as an adjunct professor at the University of Chicago School of Social Service Administration.  She serves as Secretary for the Board of Directors of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT). 

 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The underlying issues around sexual performance anxiety such as self-doubt 
  • How many people are using uncertified online resources to try and overcome this issue 
  • The way in which our western culture exacerbates this issue  
  • How there is too much pressure on penis size to be the only source of pleasure  
  • How rejection can play a big role around this issue  
  • Learning to be honest with your partner about your sexual desires and needs 
  • What treatment looks like for sexual performance anxiety  
 

 

 

Resources 

http://www.mntherapies.com 

 

 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Nov 06, 2018
EP95 - E is for Erotica
42:59

Welcome to episode 95 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Jordan Rawlins and F.C Brandt who speak to me about their new book E Is For Erotica, the exploration of open and non-monogamous relationships and how our relationships are continually evolving.  

 

Jordan Rawlins is a Southern California native who made a living as a poker player, stuntman, actor and trained as a magician, before finding his place as a writer. His children's movie, “Rescue Dogs,” opened in theaters nationwide in 2016. He was a semi-finalist for the 2018 Academy Nicholl Fellowship. On the digital front, he has worked with Maker Studios and Defy Studios on various projects. In 2018 he worked with WBTV and Amore and Vita on a new half-hour series. A playwright, his stage plays have been seen in theaters across America and in London. He has numerous projects for the big and small screen in various stages of development. He is the author of the novel "Monsters of the Apocalypse" and the comedy Alphabet book, "E is for Erotica." His free time is spent fly-fishing, volunteering with his favorite charities, and getting yelled at by two demanding cats. 

 

F.C Brandt is a storyboard artist, documentary filmmaker, and a cartoonist. He’s responsible for the comic book documentary Comic Book Independents, has been a storyboard artist for commercials and feature films and has been working on his own personal project A Hero A Day for the past several years. He recently launched his new book with his friend Jordan Rawlins, E is for Erotica. E is for Erotica is a Dr. Seuss like book for grown-ups that explores all aspects of sexuality using the alphabet as its guide.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Why they made the book E is For Erotica  
  • The reasoning and thinking for not including gay terminology in the book  
  • How they made a conscious effort to represent a diverse mix of people  
  • The exploration of open and non-monogamous relationships  
  • The issue of jealousy in monogamous relationships 
  • The difficulty of communication with non-monogamous relationships 
  • How our relationships are continually evolving  

 

Resources 

 

 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Oct 30, 2018
EP94 – Swingers
34:29
 

Welcome to episode 94 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Chanta Blue who speaks to us about what the life of a swinger entails, why she became interested in working with this community and is the stigma attached to swingers changing? 

 

Chanta Blue is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Sex Therapist and co-owner of Blue Counseling & Wellness Center in Montclair, NJ. She holds a B.A. in Psychology from Spelman College, a Master’s degree in Social Work from Rutgers University, and a Master’s of Education in Human Sexuality from Widener University. Chanta’s aim is to empower girls and women of color to clarify and create the career, relationships, sexuality, and overall lifestyle they desire.  

 

She specializes in issues related to anxiety, depression, self-esteem, body image and works with folks in various relationship styles including polyamory, swinging, kink, and traditional relationships. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • What does the swinger lifestyle entail?  
  • How people find ways to connect with other swingers  
  • Why Chanta became interested in working with this community  
  • How Chanta’s research showed a lack of people of colour in the swinger’s community  
  • Is swinging more popular for couples or singles? 
  • Where swinging meets polyamory  
  • The misconceptions around the swinger community  
  • Is the stigma attached to swingers changing? 

 

Resources 

 

 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

Oct 23, 2018
EP93 - Finding Out Your Spouse Is Transgender
35:50

Welcome to episode 93 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Eva Smidova, M.A., PhDr., LMFT who speaks to me about common themes around coming out as transgender, the difference between gender identity and sexual identity and when is a good time to come out to your partner as transgender?  

 

Eva Smidova, M.A., PhDr., LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Florida, Transgender Care Certified Therapist, Board Certified Hypnotherapist, Florida Department of Children and Family approved Parenting Care Provider. She holds EU earned degrees M.A. in Psychology and Law, and PhDr. in Clinical Psychology. She recently finished her PhD. in Family Therapy at Nova Southeastern University, Fort Lauderdale. 

 

Eva was born in former Czechoslovakia so rebelling and craving for diversity and freedom are in her DNA. Eva worked in international business and got the opportunity to become familiar with many countries around the world. Before she moved to Florida, she became a resident in Austria.  Eva has been single all her life, yet lived with one partner for almost 20 years. She has a 12-year-old daughter and 32-year-old kind of step-son. She considers herself for gender and sexually; fluid. 

 

She is an expert on couples, marriage, intimacy, family systems, communication strategies and conflict resolutions, life guidance, gender, and sexual issues. She is a professional member of several national and international Family Therapy Associations, also organizations supporting and caring for LGBTQ population – PFLAG, GLSEN, World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH), and a professional member of American Association of Sexual Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT). She also regularly presents and publishes topics related to the field of family therapy and transgender care nationally and internationally. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Common themes around coming out as transgender  
  • The impact fear can have on the process of coming out  
  • Do many couples continue their relationship after one comes out as transgender?  
  • The difference between gender identity and sexual identity  
  • Dealing with the dynamic changes that happen through this process 
  • How couples have improved intimacy and sex through this process 
  • When is a good time to come out to your partner as transgender?  

 

Resources 

+123 924 742 31  

 

 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Oct 16, 2018
EP92 - Who Should Fix Sexual Jealousy?
43:59

Welcome to episode 92 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Ari Tuckman who speaks to us about jealousy, the need for open and understanding communication around this issue and steps couples can do to help manage jealousy.  

 

Dr. Ari Tuckman is a psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist based in West Chester, PA. He writes the Sex Matters blog on PsychologyToday.com.  

 

He has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine other countries.  

 

He also specializes in diagnosing and treating ADHD and recently finished his fourth book, based on research he completed on the relationship and sexual satisfactions of couples where one partner has ADHD.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Whose job is it to talk about and address jealousy?  
  • The need for open and understanding communication when it comes to jealousy  
  • Ways the offender of jealousy can reassure their partner  
  • Behaviours to look out for when you might be feeling jealous  
  • What couples can do to help overcome this issue  
  • Steps to take to reduce vulnerability  
  • How feelings of jealousy are normal and what we can do to manage these feelings  
  • Understanding jealousy is a complex issue which can take time to navigate  

 

Resources 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sex-matters/201806/who-should-fix-jealousy 

 

 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Oct 09, 2018
EP91 - Somatic Sexual Healing
43:29

Welcome to episode 91 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Charlie Glickman PhD, who speaks to us about somatic sexual healing, the experiential practices he uses with his clients and sexual surrogacy; the misconceptions and reality of what actually happens.  

 

Charlie Glickman PhD is a sex & relationship coach, a sexuality educator, a sexological bodyworker, and an internationally-acclaimed speaker. He’s been working in this field for over 25 years, and some of his areas of focus include sex & shame, sex-positivity, queer issues, masculinity & gender, communities of erotic affiliation, and many sexual & relationship practices.  

 

Charlie is also the co-author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners.  

 

Welcome to episode 91 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Charlie Glickman PhD, who speaks to me about somatic sexual healing, the experiential practices he uses with his clients and sexual surrogacy; the misconceptions and reality of what actually happens.   

  

  

  

Charlie Glickman PhD is a sex & relationship coach, a sexuality educator, a sexological bodyworker, and an internationally-acclaimed speaker. He’s been working in this field for over 25 years, and some of his areas of focus include sex & shame, sex-positivity, queer issues, masculinity & gender, communities of erotic affiliation, and many sexual & relationship practices.   

  

  

  

Charlie is also the co-author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners.   

  

  

  

In this episode, you will hear:   

  

  

  

What is somatic sexual healing?  

  

How Charlie integrates the sexological and somatical parts into his work   

  

Sex and intimacy; what Charlie is passionate about in helping people to navigate this area   

  

The experiential practices Charlie uses with his clients   

  

Understanding and knowing the boundaries with clients during sessions   

  

Sexual surrogacy; the misconceptions and reality of what actually happens   

  

  

  

If you are experiencing strong emotions related to past or present trauma and you are looking for resources to get support, you can can visit RAINN’s online hotline (https://hotline.rainn.org/online/) or call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800-656-4673. 

  

  

  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • What is somatic sexual healing? 
  • How Charlie integrates the sexological and somatical parts into his work  
  • Sex and intimacy; what Charlie is passionate about in helping people to navigate this area  
  • The experiential practices Charlie uses with his clients  
  • Understanding and knowing the boundaries with clients during sessions  
  • Sexual surrogacy; the misconceptions and reality of what actually happens  

 

 

Resources 

 

 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Oct 02, 2018
EP90 - Age Play with Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb.
36:25

Welcome to episode 90 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb who speaks to me about what adult age play entails, how shame and embarrassment surround this issue and how a lack of nurturing at a young age could play into this issue.  

 

Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb has been counseling individuals and couples in the area of human sexuality for over 25 years. She received her PhD in clinical sexology from the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists in Orlando, FL. 

 

She is an AASECT certified sex therapist in private practice specializing in the alternative sexuality communities, such as open relationships, ABDL, GLBT, BDSM, kink and fetishes. She wrote her doctoral dissertation on the mental health experience of ABDL individuals, specializes in therapy for this community and speaks on the subject to help promote better understanding for individuals and their families.  

 

Her approach to therapy is helping people to understand, accept and appreciate their sexuality with all the wonderful unique flavors that come with it. Shame, embarrassment, guilt and fear are poisonous to healthy sexual expression so letting go of old, irrational and impractical belief patterns can pave the way for a new and exciting beginning.  

 

Her recent book, No More Hiding: Permission to Love your Sexual Self, is a guide for those seeking help with alternative sexuality such as BDSM, Kinks, fetishes and open relationships. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • What does adult age play entail? 
  • How shame and embarrassment surround this issue  
  • Understanding how and why the diaper fetish develops  
  • Knowing when will be best to approach your partner about this  
  • The different variations on how this manifests sexually  
  • How kink and BDSM behaviours can be connected   
  • How a lack of nurturing at a young age could play into this issue  

 

Resources 

 

 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio 

Sep 25, 2018
EP89 – Understanding Low Libido
35:32

Welcome to episode 89 of the Sexology Podcast, today we talk about the issue of low desire and the steps you can take to improve your sex life even if you have low desire.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The common factors that contribute to low libido 
  • Understanding whether your issue is more psychological or physiological  
  • How relationship issues affect low desire  
  • Understanding that sex is not perfect and that it’s ok not to be on your A-game every time you have sex 
  • Learning to create an erotic environment  
  • Communicating these issues as a couple and learning how to help each other 

 

Resources 

 

Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio  

Sep 18, 2018
EP88 - Sex & Alzheimer's Disease with Dr. Steve Bodansky
30:19

Welcome to episode 88 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to welcome back Steve Bodansky (he was a guest on episode 59) to the podcast, this time Steve speaks to me about his new book Love and Alzheimer’s, the changes that Steve and his wife Vera went through after she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and recommendation’s for couples struggling to deal with Alzheimer’s.  

 

Steve Bodansky together with his wife Vera have been teachers of Sensuality for the past 35 years. They met in 1980 and were married in 1983. Steve received a Master’s in Molecular Biology at SUNY at Albany in 1979 and a Doctorate at More University in Sensuality in 1992 with an emphasis on female orgasm. He first studied and then taught at More U. thru 1992. Vera started doing one-hour orgasms demonstrations in 1980 and also received her doctorate in Sensual studies in 1992.  

 

Steve became certified to do these demonstrations in 1987. They developed another orgasm school in 1992 after leaving Morehouse called The Welcomed Consensus where they taught for 5 years and certified 5 new students into becoming teachers and demonstrators of orgasm.  

 

For the past 22 years they have been coaching students as a couple and started writing books about optimum sensual pleasure. They have trained many people over the past 30 years with courses and personal training and continue to do so. A number of their former students have become sensual facilitators themselves.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The changes that Steve and Vera went through after she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's 
  • How Vera has maintained her sexuality through this process  
  • The dynamic changes that have happened to the relationship after the Alzheimer’s diagnostic  
  • How writing his new book Love and Alzheimer’s helped Steve through the changes  
  • The ways in which Steve and Vera have strengthened their connection despite the ongoing challenges 
  • Recommendation’s for couples struggling to deal with Alzheimer’s  

 

Resources 

 

 

 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

Sep 11, 2018
EP87 - Sexuality and Self Image with Sonalee Rashatwar
42:47

Welcome to episode 87 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Sonalee Rashatwar who talks to us about the concept of sexual colonization and what it means, the ways in which sexuality and low desire can be affected by the societal demands of needing to have “the perfect body” and what we can do to create more body inclusive sex education.

 

Sonalee Rashatwar (she/they), MSW, LCSW, MEd is an award-winning social worker, sex therapist, adjunct lecturer, and grassroots organizer. Based in Philly, she is a fat queer nonbinary therapist working as a sexual violence crisis counselor, specializing in treating sexual trauma, body image issues, racial or immigrant identity issues, and South Asian family systems, while offering fat and body positive sexual healthcare.

 

Popularly known as TheFatSexTherapist on Instagram, their fame hit an all time high when they were featured on Breitbart in March 2018 for naming thinness as a white supremacist beauty ideal. Sonalee is a sought-after speaker who travels nationally to curate custom visual workshops that whisper to our changemaking spirit and nourish our vision for a more just future.

 

Sonalee is not paid for her labor as a community organizer, where she has fundraised and facilitated a free 5-day political action summer camp for LGBT+ South Asian and Indo Caribbean youth. Sonalee received their Master of Social Work and Master of Education in Human Sexuality from Widener University in 2016 and have been working in the field of anti-violence for 7+ years.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

The concept of sexual colonization and what it means

How many different voices and people of different backgrounds haven’t been represented in research

The ways in which sexuality and low desire can be affected by the societal demands of needing to have “the perfect body”

How many people are mis-informed around these issues and what we think should help people, often makes things worse

Recommendations for changing your internal dialogue

What we can do to create more body inclusive sex education

Understanding and knowing your biases around diet culture

 

 

Resources

https://www.sonaleer.com

https://www.instagram.com/thefatsextherapist

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care

https://twitter.com/oasis2care

Sep 04, 2018
EP86 –Is it Ok to masturbate in a relationship?
24:40

Welcome to episode 86 of the Sexology Podcast, today we talk about a listener’s email around the subject of masturbation and why her husband still feels the need to masturbate whilst in a marriage.   

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • How wanting to have separate fantasies away from the relationship can lead to more masturbation  
  • The stigma around this issue, studies have shown very few women know their partners masturbate frequently  
  • Why sexual boredom can increase masturbation frequency  
  • How masturbation can be used as a self-regulator for relief  
  • Understanding that this is a very common issue, but there is currently limited studies and data to know more  
  • Steps that can be taken to address this issue  

 

Resources 

Aug 28, 2018
EP85 - BDSM play with Midori
43:34

Welcome to episode 85 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, we are joined by Midori who talks to us about how she began her journey into sex education, learning to add new elements to your sex life gradually and recommendations to express power exchanges in the bedroom. 

 

Midori is a renowned sexuality educator, author, and artist based in San Francisco. She emerged from the Sex Positive Movement in San Francisco in the early 1990’s, soon becoming a much sought-after international presenter on sexuality, personal fulfilment, and kinky adventures. 

 

Her reputation as an authority and leading expert on alternative pleasures stem not only from her unique and entertaining process of teaching concrete skills but in her ability to deconstruct and distil complex matters of desire into surprisingly accessible lessons with eloquence and humanity. She’s known for tackling challenging topics with fresh and relevant insights. She calls this her “head-heart-hands” method to create a space where people are allowed individual self-exploration. Fundamentally she is motivated by helping people to create authentic and intimate relationships while emphasizing self-actualization, shame reduction, acceptance, and justice. Native of Tokyo, Japan, she brings a unique perspective to creative self-expression, pleasure and authentic living. 

 

Her writing is extensive, ranging from numerous articles, columns, works of fiction, to instructional books. She is the author of " The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage", the first English language book on Shibari. She also wrote hot instructional essays in "Wild Side Sex", and the darkly erotic science fiction, "Master Han's Daughter".  

 

She leads transformative small group intensives, including Rope Dojo ®, ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Weekend Intensive and Passionate Bonds: Creating Effective D/s Protocol. When she's not traveling and teaching, she's creating provocative and haunting art and performances. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • How Madori began her journey into sex education  
  • Why bondage isn’t necessarily a form of art  
  • The need to enjoy your sex life and live in the moment of it  
  • The way in which movies, books and other forms of media can warp our view of the reality of sex  
  • Learning to add new elements to your sex life gradually  
  • Stripping away the stigma and falsehood that the majority of people don’t practice BDSM  
  • Understanding the pain aspect of BDSM  
  • Recommendations to express power exchanges in the bedroom  
 

 

Resources 

Aug 21, 2018
EP84 - Sexuality in Military
32:54
Welcome to episode 84 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Timothy Wienecke who talks to us about the way in which masculine identity gets tied into military service, how masculinity can manifest in positive and negative ways and the importance for veterans to work with their partners to overcome these issues.
 
Timothy Wienecke has spent the last decade training and educating in a variety of settings on a broad range of topics. He got started as a primary trainer for various technical positions as a Signals Analyst working with the NSA. That is where he realized he enjoys giving people the skills and knowledge they need to be effective in the places that are important to them. Timothy's command noticed his passion and tapped him for a more delicate and difficult task to be a primary trainer for the Air Force’s Bystander Intervention program. There he spent the next three years training over 3000 Airmen how to notice and engage effectively to stop harassment and sexual assault before it happens. In recognition of his efforts, Timothy earned many accolades, ranging from Airman of the Quarter to Early Promotion and an Air Force Achievement Medal for impact. The enjoyment of these tasks is what led him to leave the Air Force and enter the mental health and advocacy fields full time.
 
After leaving the military, Timothy became employed as a peer educator for the Auraria Campus and the facilitator to launch Colorado University at Denver’s Peer Advocates for Veteran Education program. He took the skills gained in the military and learned how to connect with traditional college students, university staff, and the business community. Timothy taught and developed curriculum for time management, communication skills, gender dynamics, bystander intervention, cross-cultural communication, military culture, and many other topics over his three years in those positions. Again, people took note of Timothy's passion, skill, and effort; naming him the Feminist Ally of the Year, awarded a Life Time Achievement Award by the Phoenix Center at Auraria, and he left campus as the Outstanding Graduate of the CU Counseling program.
 
Since leaving the Auraria campus, Timothy has jumped into the greater Denver community to continue empowering people with the skills, knowledge, and drive to move themselves and their organizations toward their goals. He has trained Fire Fighters how to maintain focus and cope with the trauma they see in the world, taught clinicians the knowledge needed to serve men and the veteran community, and helped corporate employees focus in and communicate to complete their goals as a team.
 
In this episode, you will hear:
 
  • The way in which masculine identity gets tied into military service
  • How masculinity can manifest in positive and negative ways
  • The difference between the way civilians and people in the military experience trauma and sexual abuse
  • The differences males and females experience sexual abuse and trauma
  • How men can be more vulnerable when it comes to sexual abuse and trauma
  • The importance for veterans to work with their partners to overcome these issues
 
Resources
 
 
Aug 14, 2018
EP83 - Healthy sex in Recovery with Alexandra Kathehakis, Ph.D.
39:16

Welcome to episode 83 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Alexandra Katehakis, Ph.D., L.M.F.T. who talks to us about the common misconceptions about intimacy after recovery, the difference between healthy sex and addictive sex and incorporating your values into your sexuality.  

 

Alexandra Katehakis, Ph.D., L.M.F.T. is Founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles, Senior Fellow at The Meadows, faculty for the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals, and the recipient of the 2018 IITAP Leadership and 2012 Carnes Award. She is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist/Supervisor and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist/Supervisor specializing in the treatment of sexual addiction and other sexual disorders.  

 

Dr. Katehakis is author of Sexual Reflections: A Workbook for Designing and Celebrating Your Sexual Health Plan (2018), Sex Addiction As Affect Dysregulation: A Neurobiologically Informed Holistic Treatment (2016), co-author of the 2015 AASECT award-winning Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence (2104), contributing author to the Clark Vincent award-winning Making Advances: A Comprehensive Guide for Treating Female Sex and Love Addicts, in M. Feree (Ed.) (2012), and author of Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex After Recovery From Sex Addiction (2010). 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The common misconceptions about intimacy after recovery  
  • Why Alexandra encourages people to explore their sexuality after recovery  
  • The difference between healthy sex and addictive sex  
  • How sex addiction is often a re-enactment of trauma  
  • Incorporating your values into your sexuality  
  • Understanding your sexual template  
  • How Alexandra helps people create a sexual health plan  
  • Creating a sexual framework that both partners can be happy with  
  • Understanding the connection between your body and mind through recovery 

 

 

 

Resources 

Aug 07, 2018
EP82 - Coming Out As Transgender
36:57

Welcome to episode 82 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Christine Macinnis who speaks to me about she became interested in working with transgender people, the best ways and practices we can all support transgender people and the issues they face when coming out. 

 

Due to over 20 years working in local schools as a school counselor, Christine brings a unique perspective to her work in private practice. She loves assisting the adolescent through the trials of depression, anxiety, school and learning issues, gender and sexual identity confusion, and the adjustment to college and launching from their family.  

 

In addition to her work with teenagers, Christine has a passion for the challenges and celebration of sexual and gender identity for all age groups. As a Certified LGBT-Affirmative Psychotherapy Provider, she has supported several transgender clients and families as they progress through the process of transition and acceptance. In terms of support outside of our sessions, Christine can be a strong educational advocate for her client's needs and is well versed in the IEP/504 plan process to support students academically. She is also an expert in college and career planning for teens. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • How Christine became interested in working with transgender people 
  • The way in which transgender people experience an additional layer of stigma  
  • How therapist’s biases can play into people’s processes of sexual orientation  
  • Supporting parents in understanding difference between their child being curious or aligning with gender identity  
  • The best ways and practices we can all support transgender people  
  • How unfortunately transgender people have the highest rates of suicide and self-medication  
  • The issues transgender people face when coming out  
  • The need to question and overcome societal biases against transgender people  

 

Resources 

Phone – 1310 683 9047  

Jul 31, 2018
EP81 - What Happens in a Sex Therapy Session?
41:11

Welcome to episode 81 of the Sexology Podcast, today is a solo episode where I’m going to share some personal and revealing stories about my own experience with sex therapists.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • How difficulties with sex affected a previous relationship  
  • The ways in which this led to seeking out sex therapy  
  • The difference between sex therapy, sex educator, sex surrogate and sex coaches  
  • How our educational systems lack good information on sex  
  • The need for patients to understand what it is they want to work on  
  • Understanding what can get in the way psychologically to stop you experiencing pleasure  
  • How it’s ok to receive sex therapy as a couple or on your own  
  • Knowing how to choose the right sex therapist for you  

 

Resources 

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

https://oasis2care.com/torrance/find-right-therapist-los-angeles-ca/ 

Jul 24, 2018
EP80 - Fidelity Agreement & Sex Tech with Dr. Ari Tuckman
32:06

Welcome to episode 81 of the Sexology Podcast, I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Ari Tuckman who joined me on episode 79. In this episode, we talk about the fidelity agreement, how technology is changing our fidelity agreement and what gets in the way of having these conversations? 

 

Dr. Ari Tuckman is a psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist based in West Chester, PA. He writes the Sex Matters blog on PsychologyToday.com.  

 

He has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine other countries.  

 

He also specializes in diagnosing and treating ADHD and recently finished his fourth book, based on research he completed on the relationship and sexual satisfactions of couples where one partner has ADHD.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • What is a fidelity agreement? 
  • How what is considered cheating for some couples, isn’t for others  
  • The need for independence on your thoughts and desires  
  • How is technology evolving our fidelity agreement? 
  • Making a sustainable agreement between you and your partner about what is and isn’t ok  
  • Understanding that sexual desires change and evolve over time  
  • What gets in the way of having these conversations? 

 

Resources 

Jul 17, 2018
EP79 - Teledildonics with Dr. Ari Tuckman
34:06

Welcome to episode 79 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Ari Tuckman who talks to us about Teledildonics, the common ways people use this technology and what the future will hold as this technology continues to grow.  

 

Dr. Ari Tuckman is a psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist based in West Chester, PA. He writes the Sex Matters blog on PsychologyToday.com.  

 

He has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine other countries.  

 

He also specializes in diagnosing and treating ADHD and recently finished his fourth book, based on research he completed on the relationship and sexual satisfactions of couples where one partner has ADHD.  

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • What does Teledildonic mean? 
  • The huge variety of technology for remote sex where tactile sensations that’s now available  
  • How Teledildonics could help prevent cheating  
  • The common ways people use this technology  
  • Ways in which to incorporate Teledildonic to increase novelty into your relationship  
  • The off-shoot benefits Teledildonic can have  
  • How Teledildonic can help increase intimacy in long distance relationships 
  • The potential downsides of using this technology  
  • The future of Teledildonics and what we can expect to see 

 

Resources 

Jul 10, 2018
EP78 - Pornography Addiction with Dr. Jennifer Weeks
34:03

Welcome to episode 78 of the Sexology Podcast. Our guest today is Dr. Jennifer Weeks. In this episode, Dr. Weeks talks us about pornography addiction along with discussion on evidence-based treatments for out of control sexual behaviors. Also, we evaluate the differences between healthy and unhealthy reliance on pornography as a method for mood regulation.

 

Dr. Jennifer Weeks is the founder and director of Sexual Addiction Treatment Services, an out-patient treatment program for out of control sexual behavior. She has over twelve years experience treating all aspects of addiction, trauma and addiction, sexual addiction, and sex offenders. She is a Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist- Supervisor, Certified Advanced Alcohol and Drug Counselor, a Licensed Professional Counselor and has a Ph.D. in Psychology. Dr. Weeks is the author of the blog, Dr. Jen’s Recovery Readings as well as the prevention book, The New Age of Sex Education: How to Talk to Your Teen about Cybersex and Pornography in the Digital Age.

 

In addition to her clinical work, Dr. Weeks provides continuing education training for therapists and lectures at addiction conferences throughout the US.

  

In this episode, you will hear: 

  • The differences between non-problematic viewing of pornography vs. pathological behavior
  • Criteria for pornography addiction
  • The prevalence of pornography addiction in general population
  • Media literacy for parents and how to talk to your teen about pornography
  • Cultivating sexual health after being diagnosed with pornography addiction

 Resources:

https://www.amazon.com/New-Age-Sex-Education-Pornography/dp/1483575209 

Jul 03, 2018
EP77 - How to Rock Your Honeymoon Sex
35:51

Welcome to episode 77 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Marie-Claire Thauvette who talks to us about what inspired her to write the book "Honeymoon Playbook", why the book is helpful for couples who didn’t start off having good sex and learning to be open and communicative with your partner to allow for sexual improvements. 

 

Marie-Claire Thauvette is a familiar face in the industry, and has been featured on many podcasts, summits, radio and television shows. Her new book “The Honeymoon Playbook” is a best seller in 3 categories, and with it has really helped new and not so new couples spice up their lives in and out of the bedroom. 

 

She is also a successful entrepreneur, professional educator, and woman on a mission: to teach individuals and couples alike about the power of intimacy, sex and communication – and how to have FUN doing it. MC combines her over 30 years of teaching experience and her AASECT and ISEE Sexual Educator certifications to reignite passion in singles and couples. 

 

Marie-Claire Thauvette not only helps couples, she has a lot of fun helping daters become expert kissers, masters in sexuality, and most importantly keeping her daters accountable to find quality soul mates.   

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • What inspired Marie to write her book 
  • Why the book is helpful for couples who didn’t start off having good sex
  • Knowledge couples who haven’t had sex yet can find useful as they become sexual 
  • Learning to overcome bad sexual experiences
  • The amount of disinformation there is about sex online 
  • How you can improve your sexual skills with practice 
  • The need for very specific feedback to improve your sex life 
  • Learning to be open and communicative with your partner to allow for sexual improvements 
  • Overcoming the issue of shame to become more communicative 

 

Resources 

www.relationshipbliss.ca 

https://www.amazon.ca/Honeymoon-Playbook-scoring-romantic-honeymoon/dp/0995807000 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

 

Jun 26, 2018
EP76 - How to Ask For What You Want in Bed!
36:44

Welcome to episode 76 of the Sexology Podcast. Our guest today is Rebecca Wong, LCSW-R. Rebecca talks to us about why it is difficult to talk about sex with our partners, the need to spend time with our bodies and discover what feels good and how anxiety can affect performance in the bedroom.  

 

Rebecca is a relationship therapist and consultant. She’s also the creator of Connectfulness, a research-based practice that encourages you to explore and embrace every aspect of your humanity – including everything that’s marvellous and all that’s messy. 

 

Rebecca takes you on a deep dive into that middle place between the personal and the professional, between the places you explore in therapy and the work you do in coaching.  

 

When you explore this fertile in-between space, you can make great things happen. When you truly see yourself, you create the ripple that allow you to be the change you wish to see in the world – and that invites everyone around you to do the same. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Why it is difficult to talk about sex with our partners 
  • The difficulty of escaping the narrow view of what is “normal” within sexuality  
  • The need to spend time with our bodies and discover what feels good  
  • Guidance points for talking about these issues with our partners  
  • Learning to be supportive whilst being true to yourself  
  • The power dynamics that exist within couples  
  • How anxiety can affect performance in the bedroom  
  • The dynamics of masculine and feminine energy  

 

Resources 

https://www.omgyes.com 

Jun 19, 2018
EP75 - Polyamory and Finding Love(s)
37:11

Welcome to episode 75 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Sophie Lucido Johnson, who talks to us about her new book Many Love: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s), what a polyamorous lifestyle looks like to her and the difference between polyamory and open relationships.  

 

Sophie Lucido Johnson gets a lot of questions when she tells people that she’s polyamorous. Many Love is an intimate look at this often misunderstood practice: its history, its misconceptions, and Sophie’s personal transformation from serial monogamist to proud polyamorist. 

 

After trying for years to emulate her boomer parents’ forty-year and still-going-strong marriage, Sophie realized that maybe the love she was looking for was down a road less travelled. In this bold, graphic memoir, she explores her sexuality, her values, and the versions of love our society accepts and practices. Along the way, she shares what it’s like to play on Tinder side-by-side with your boyfriend, encounter—and surmount—many types of jealousy, learn the power of female friendship, and other amazing things that happened when she stopped looking for “the one.” 

 

In a lot of ways, Many Love is Sophie’s love letter to everyone she has ever cared for. Witty, insightful, and complete with illustrations, this debut provides a memorable glimpse into an unconventional life. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • What a polyamorous lifestyle looks like to Sophie  
  • How Sophie emphasizes the relationship whilst being polyamorous  
  • Why polyamory is a good fit for many people but not everyone 
  • Understanding you’ll have to deal with the issue of jealously when becoming polyamorous  
  • Learning how to make polyamory work within a family dynamic  
  • The difference between polyamory and open relationships 
  • The connection between polyamory and queer culture  

 

Resources 

Jun 12, 2018
EP74 – Mindful Sex with Dr. Lori Brotto
35:49

Welcome to episode 74 of the Sexology Podcast. Our guest today is Dr. Lori A. Brotto, PhD. In this episode, Dr Brotto and I talk about using mindfulness to improve sexuality, how stress levels have impacted our sexuality and learning to use mindfulness in intimate situations.  

 

Lori A. Brotto, PhD, is a clinical psychologist, a sex researcher, and the author of Better Sex through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire (Greystone Books, 2018). A member of various sexuality organizations, she is also Canada's Research Chair in Women's Sexual Health and an associate editor for Archives of Sexual Behaviour. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The findings that Lori has found through her work and research in this area  
  • How stress levels have impacted our sexuality  
  • The importance to reduce our stress levels to improve sexuality  
  • Learning to overcome and pass through the “honeymoon period” in a relationship  
  • Why Lori became interested in sex and mindfulness 
  • The ways in which mindfulness can improve our sexual functioning  
  • The best ways to encourage people into this practice to improve their sex life  
  • Learning to use mindfulness in intimate situations  
  • Manging and using fantasies in a healthy way  
  • Recommendations from Lori on the first steps to take using mindfulness to improve sexuality  

 

Resources 

http://www.loribrotto.com 

Jun 05, 2018
EP73 - Sex During & After Pregnancy with Dr. Buehler
48:58

Welcome to episode 73 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Stephanie Buehler PsyD, CST-S, who speaks to me about the common challenges couples face during pregnancy, why many women are scared to have sex during pregnancy and recommendations on how to approach and improve communication on these sensitive subject matters. 

 

Stephanie Buehler PsyD, CST-S, is an internationally recognized licensed psychologist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor. Dr. Buehler is director of the Buehler Institute, where she provides sex and relationship therapy as well as continuing education programs. 

 

She is also part of Hoag for Her Center for Wellness, where she specializes in helping women overcome painful sex, as well as helping high-risk breast cancer patients. She has published on sexuality for both professional and lay audiences, including her books What Every Mental Health Professional Needs to Know About Sex, 2nd Edition and Sex, Love, and Mental Illness: A Couple's Guide to Staying Connected. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • The common challenges couples face during pregnancy  
  • How the lack of sexual drive can carry on after giving birth  
  • The ways in which pregnancy affects a woman’s libido  
  • Why many women are scared to have sex during pregnancy  
  • The unique challenges that happen during the post-partum period  
  • How many women find sex painful after giving birth  
  • Recommendations on how to approach and improve communication on these sensitive subject matters  
  • The ways in which breastfeeding can impact sexual relations 

 

Resources 

May 29, 2018
EP72 - Inside The Life of A Legal Sex Worker
44:02

Welcome to episode 72 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Alice Little who is the number one booking legal sex worker in the United States, she is 4ft 8 and works at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch.    

 

Alice writes advice articles for She Knows Media and has been a guest on the Tim Ferriss Show. She has been interviewed and featured by CNN, ABC’s Nightline, Re nery29, Quartz, Shane and Friends, and other podcasts and news outlets. She is a proponent of sex positivity and women’s rights and has marched for equality. Alice is also one of the founders of the “Hookers for Healthcare” movement, petitioning the government for effective health care that works for everyone. 

 

Alice frequently sees couples in and out of the bedroom, coaching them on how to enhance their relationships, increase the quality of their communication, and help bring intimacy back into their interactions. She hosts a weekly vidcast titled ‘Coffee with Alice,’ where she discusses sex work, fields questions, and aims to inform on all things sensual. Alice has also presented at over 50 Kink and BDSM events nationwide. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • How Alice became involved in this profession 
  • The pros and cons of being a legal sex worker 
  • The difference between a legal sex worker and prostitution 
  • Why communication is the key in this profession 
  • Working with clients and their emotions 
  • How Alice makes people comfortable if it’s their first time with a legal sex worker 
  • How couples who use legal sex workers can improve their sex lives afterwards 
  • The common misconceptions and challenges legal sex workers face 

 

Resources 

https://thealicelittle.com  

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

May 22, 2018
EP71 - Broken Spaces & Healing with Robert Cox LPC
35:43

Welcome to episode 71 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Robert Cox who talks to us about the developing rape culture in our society, how we can combat objectification of men and women and the need for rape victims to know it’s ok to reach out and talk about their experiences.  

Robert Cox is a therapist in private practice in Liberty, MO.  He specializes in the treatment of Trauma, Addictions and Autism.  Robert creates a podcast providing psycho-education and mindfulness training called Mindful Recovery. In addition, he is a guest blogger on the Huffington Post.   

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • What is rape culture and who does it protect? 
  • Roberts experience of defending his daughter for wearing “in appropriate” clothing in school  
  • Why we shouldn’t protect anyone who has abused or raped women, even if they are close friends or relatives  
  • Making sure we don’t invalidate people’s experiences  
  • How men need to take more responsibility for their hormones and actions  
  • How we can combat objectification of men and women  
  • The role that fear and control plays within these issues  
  • The need for rape victims to know it’s ok to reach out and talk about their experiences  

 

Resources 

May 15, 2018
Non-Monogamous Relationships with Robert Kandell
35:48
 

Welcome to episode 70 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Robert Kandell who speaks to me about non-monogamous relationships, the pros and cons of being in a non-monogamous relationship and advice on how to approach this topic with others.  

Robert Kandell has 18 years’ experience in helping men find themselves. Through the practice of absolute approval in his teaching, he sees those parts that are hidden in their shadows. These are the fetishes, hurts, or hidden desires. He draws them out with a firm but loving hand so what was once hidden can now become internal power.  

An expert in interpersonal communication and relationship, he has helped thousands of students become happier, have better relationships, more sex, and a more balanced, energized life. Working with Robert is not for the faint of heart. He has been described as “part football coach, part loving dad and part slightly crazed drill sergeant. 

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • How Robert became interested in this area  
  • The pros and cons of being in a non-monogamous relationship 
  • How most people are not actually monogamous 
  • Why non-monogamous relationships aren’t the solution for everyone  
  • The role that jealously plays in this issue  
  • Learning to have open and honest communication your partner about this  
  • The issue of fear of abandonment
  • Advice on how to approach this topic with others  

Resources 

 

May 08, 2018
EP69 - Fertility Treatment & Sex
29:54
 
 

Welcome to episode 69 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. M. Max Ezzati M.D., FACOG who speaks to us about the common misconceptions around fertility treatment, how struggles with infertility can have an impact on sexual relations and recommendations for couples currently going through this process.  

Dr. Ezzati is a fertility specialist and reproductive surgeon at Palo Alto Medical Foundation, affiliated with Sutter Health in the Bay Area in Northern California. Dr. Ezzati received his medical degree from Tehran University in Tehran, Iran. After medical school, Dr. Ezzati moved to England to pursue specialty training in obstetrics and gynecology at the teaching hospitals of the University of Cambridge and the University of London, where he also served as a clinical lecturer. 

In 2007, Dr. Ezzati moved to the United States and completed his internship and residency at Georgetown University Hospital/Washington Hospital Center, in Washington, D.C. Following his residency, he completed a fellowship in reproductive endocrinology and infertility at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center/Parkland Hospital, in Dallas, Texas. Dr. Ezzati is double board-certified in both Obstetrics & Gynecology, and Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility (REI). 

Dr. Ezzati’s special professional interests include fertility preservation through oocyte cryopreservation (egg freezing) and embryo cryopreservation (embryo freezing), fertility treatment for older women and those with diminished ovarian reserve, and minimally invasive reproductive surgery using the da Vinci robot to treat endometriosis and uterine fibroids. He has published numerous peer-reviewed clinical and scientific research papers, review articles, case reports and textbook chapters on these and other topics. 

He is currently on the Editorial Board of the Journal of Minimally Invasive Gynecology and also serves as an ad hoc peer-reviewer for several other high impact journals such as Human Reproduction, Journal of Assisted Reproduction and Genetics, Placenta, and Reproductive BioMedicine Online 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • The most common misconceptions about fertility treatment  
  • The frequency of intercourse needed through fertility treatment 
  • How struggles around infertility can have an impact on sexual relations  
  • The best way to define infertility  
  • Is it safe for couples to have sex during pregnancy?  
  • The need to keep with the treatment over a long period of time for success  
  • Recommendations for couples currently frustrated going through this process   

 

Resources 

 

May 01, 2018
EP68 -Help! I Think My Husband Is Gay
30:12

Welcome to episode 68 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Renelle E. Nelson who is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. She has been providing therapy for over 10 years. In this episode, she speaks to me about her thoughts on a listener’s email worrying her husband might be gay, discovering your own body and pleasures and actionable steps that can be taken to improve your sex life.  

Renelle knows that you are facing a lot of challenges right now from dealing with Anxiety, Depression and even disbelief. You may also have been given an ultimatum in your relationship. Relax and take a deep breathe, now come in and let’s talk about your concerns. At Kaleidoscope, her passion and goal is to help you develop the skills that are needed to address the challenges that you are currently faced with. Whether you are dealing with communication issues, lack of desire or Infidelity, it is important for you to know you don’t have to go through this alone. If there is a problem then there has to be a solution. 

Together let's work to solve the solvable and use the Kaleidoscope of change to give you a different view of the unchangeable. 

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • Renelle’s thoughts on a listener’s email worrying her husband might be gay  
  • The importance of communication to improve sex in a relationship  
  • Discovering your own body and pleasures  
  • Not confusing a partner potentially being gay with low libido  
  • How sex is still viewed in a negative light in many societies  
  • Actionable steps that can be taken to improve your sex life 
  • How journaling and self-care can improve your sex life  
Apr 24, 2018
EP67 - One Woman’s Journey Through Sex Addiction
28:57

Welcome to episode 67 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Erica Garza who talks to us about her book Getting Off, the connection between sexual shame and addiction and the story of her recovery from sexual addiction 

Born in Los Angeles to Mexican parents, Erica Garza has spent most of her adult life traveling and living abroad. She currently lives in Los Angeles with her husband and daughter. Erica’s essays have appeared in Salon, Narratively, BUST, Marie Claire, Good Housekeeping, Refinery29, Bustle, Alternet, Vivala, HelloGiggles, the Los Angeles Review, and Australia’s Mamamia and The Motherish.

 

She has appeared as a guest on BBC Radio 4, Thom Hartmann’s The Big Picture, and August McLaughlin’s Girl Boner Radio. In 2010, she earned her MFA in Creative Nonfiction at Columbia University. Her memoir on sex addiction, Getting Off, is her first book.

 

Her addiction follows and transforms with her in each point in her coming-of-age, which spans the transition from dial-up to digital in the 1990s and early 2000s. From Playboys hidden discreetly under mattresses to softcore on late night cable to vast varieties of porn ubiquitous and easily accessible across the internet, Garza’s personal account is also a study of an era in which both technology and sex changed dramatically in our everyday lives.  

GETTING OFF is as raw and unflinching a personal story as it is an insightful and modern perspective on sexuality and addiction. Garza doesn’t find a tidy cure for her obsessions, but in the absence of false hope and prepackaged redemption is a credibly imperfect and remarkably relatable journey toward self-acceptance.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • The challenge of talking about her sex life openly
  • Why Erica decided to share her story
  • The perspective of sex addiction being an ethnic minority and female
  • How sex addiction can affect anyone in life
  • The ways in which porn can be used as a crutch
  • How over-viewing porn can lead to desensitization
  • The connection between sexual shame and addiction
  • What made Erica comfortable disclosing her issues to her now husband

 

Resources

http://www.ericagarza.com

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care

https://twitter.com/oasis2care

Apr 17, 2018
EP66 - Joy of intimacy with Rabbi Manis Friedman
35:45

EP66 - Joy of intimacy with Rabbi Manis Friedman

 

Welcome to episode 66 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Rabbi Manis Friedman who speaks to me about his book The Joy of Intimacy, the difference between sex and intimacy, how pornography has degraded intimacy and how giving each other space can improve intimacy.

 

World-renowned author, counselor, lecturer and philosopher, Rabbi Manis Friedman uses ancient wisdom and modern wit as he captivates audiences around the country and the world. He hosts his own critically acclaimed cable television series, Torah Forum with Manis Friedman, syndicated throughout North America. Over 150,000 copies of his provocative yet entertaining tapes, both audio and video have been sold.

 

Rabbi Friedman’s first book, Doesn’t Anyone Blush Anymore? published by Harper San Francisco in 1990, was widely praised and is currently in its fourth printing. Rabbi Friedman is a noted Biblical scholar, recognized for his sagacious grasp of Jewish mysticism and a professionally ranked member of the National Speakers Association.

 

Rabbi Friedman was born in Prague, Czechoslovakia in 1946 and immigrated with his family to the United States in 1950. He received his rabbinic ordination from the Rabbinical College of Canada in 1969.

 

When he takes the podium, Rabbi Manis Friedman enthuses each of his listeners with a sense of purpose and definite direction. Perhaps his greatest gift of all is his balance of compassion and wisdom.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • How Rabbi Manis Friedman became interested in teaching these topics
  • The difference between sex and intimacy
  • How Rabbi Manis Friedman defines intimacy
  • The ways in which we have disregarded intimacy as a society
  • Why the bedroom needs to be a very sacred and private space
  • How pornography has degraded intimacy
  • The need to create time for intimacy and not work too hard and reserve our energy
  • How giving each other space can improve intimacy

 

Resources

http://www.itsgoodtoknow.com

http://thejoyofintimacy.com

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care

https://twitter.com/oasis2care

Apr 10, 2018
EP65 - Holistic Sexual Medicine with Debra Wickman M.D.
42:34

Welcome to episode 65 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Debra Wickman M.D. who talks to us about holistic sexual medicine, the wheel of sexual experience and how it works and the best way to bring up sexual issues with your physician.

Dr. Debra Wickman is a gynecologist with more than 20 years of experience. She completed a fellowship in Female Sexual Medicine at UCLA, and is also trained as a sexuality counsellor.

Her model of diagnosis and treatment incorporates programs that uniquely educate, empower, and encourage personal growth, sexual discovery and healing for women.

The programs look beyond a singular medical, pharmaceutical, or behavioural therapy, and instead integrate all approaches from a mind-body perspective. Central to her model is a holistic sexuality approach, using her training as a gynaecologist to link the physical aspect of healing with the mental, emotional and spiritual facets to treat the whole sexual being.           

Her research interests include exploring effects of sexual practices on the vaginal microbiome, and methods to condition the female arousal response.

She is a popular workshop speaker for women’s groups and has also presented lectures and research at venues such as the World Congress of Sexual Medicine in Beijing, China; ACOG 2017 Annual Clinical & Scientific Meeting, AASECT 2017 Annual Meeting and the World Association of Sexual Health in Prague, Czech Republic. She is featured in the 2017 book – Outstanding Results – authoring a chapter entitled “Outstanding Doctor–Patient Relationships: How to Connect with your Physician and Receive Optimal Care”.           

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How Debra became interested in applying holistic sexuality approach
  • How physicians struggle to discuss sexual issues due to limited time
  • The wheel of sexual experience and how it works
  • Overcoming limiting beliefs passed down from parents
  • The challenge and difficulty of great orgasms
  • The damage getting sexual information from pornography can do
  • The best way to bring up sexual issues with your physician
  • Making sure you feel comfortable and connected when addressing these issues

 

Resources

http://drdebrawickman.com

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care

https://twitter.com/oasis2care

Apr 03, 2018
EP64 - Sexuality and Aging with Dr. Stacy
39:49

Welcome to episode 64 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Stacy who appeared in EP07 of the podcast. In this episode, she speaks to me about how our sexuality changes we get older, practices we can use to alleviate discomfort around sexuality as we age and how sex can be better when we're older as we've become more confident with ourselves and our identity.   

Dr. Stacy got into the field of Clinical Sexology because of her passion for helping people better connect and experience the best sexual intimacy with themselves or with their partner(s).  She holds a Doctorate degree in Human Sexuality in addition to a Masters in Clinical Sexology and is a Certified Sex Coach. She is a member of WASC (World Association of Sex Coaching), including ACS (The American College of Sexologists) which shows that she has the earned top credentials in my field. She also has a BA in Psychology and is a Registered Diagnostic Medical Sonographer and Vascular Sonographer.  

She has been a consultant selling adult novelties since 2006 and has had the experience of reaching many men and women to educate them in a fun, positive approach to love, romance and all aspects of sexuality. Her education and own sexual journey and life experience enable her to help you move forward in a positive direction to face the challenges that may lie ahead and to achieve your goals. Coaching is designed to help women, men, of any sexual orientation or gender, address their concerns about sexuality, sexual function, and sexual expression. 

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • The common ways people sexuality changes as we age  
  • The age at which these changes begin to happen  
  • Practices we can use to alleviate discomfort around sexuality as we age  
  • How many of us use sexual toys incorrectly 
  • How our culture doesn’t recognize beauty in women as we age  
  • Confidence issues men will face such as erectile dysfunction  
  • How our fear of aging plays into the issue  
  • Knowing it’s ok to talk about these issues with your physician  
  • How sex can be better when we’re older as we’ve become more confident with ourselves and our identity  

Dr. Moali offers limited time reduced fee online counseling appointment to the Sexology Podcast listeners. Follow the link below if you are interested to book your appointment with Dr. Moali:

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal

 

Resources 

Mar 27, 2018
EP63 - Painful Sexual Intercourse with Liz Dube MFT
36:30

Welcome to episode 63 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Liz Dube who talks to us about painful sex during intercourse, potential causes that might lead women experience painful intercourse and the link between sex and power in sexual harassment. 

Liz Dube – Is a Sex and Relationship Therapist, Speaker, and Blogger who is passionate about helping others increase intimacy and sexual satisfaction in their relationships. She loves speaking on any topic related to sex and intimacy and she has a private practice in Long Beach & Huntington Beach, CA where she helps men, women, and couples get empowered about sex.

Men and women often have unrealistic expectations about sex that make them feel inadequate and create a performance focus to sex that leaves them bored, frustrated, and unsatisfied. Liz works with her clients to move past negative, destructive sexual messages, to stop tolerating mediocre sex, and get empowered and excited about having fun in the bedroom and achieving their full sexual potential.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How common is it for women to experience pain during sexual intercourse?
  • What are some potential causes that might lead women experience painful intercourse?
  • Is that something treatable? What are some of the common treatment?
  • Does this condition get better with aging or childbirth?
  • What are some of the contradictory messages women are receiving about their sexuality from their environments?
  • How these messages impact women's sex drive?
  • What is the link between sex and power in sexual harassment?
  • How does sexual violence against women impact women's and men's sexual functioning?

Dr. Moali offers limited time reduced fee online counseling appointment to the Sexology Podcast listeners. Follow the link below if you are interested to book your appointment with Dr. Moali:

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal

 

Resources

www.talksexwithliz.com

Mar 20, 2018
EP62 -Undoing Sexual Shame
38:58

Welcome to episode 62 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Erika Miley, M.ed., LHMC . In this episode, Erika shares with us why many people experience shame around sexuality, and some of the signs that shame might be getting in the way of good sex.

 

Erika believes in the true power of compassion for the self and for others. Her aim is to be an ambassador of compassion for you and how you can become more compassionate with yourself.  

 

She works with clients from adolescents to adults on various issues including depression, anxiety, sexuality, couples, relationship issues, families. She also works with those who are in monogamous relationships or non-monogamous relationships. 

 

Erika prides herself in her ability to create a safe and welcoming environment for all of her clients. Erika's practice is a LGBTQIA friendly and kink friendly. She also offers coaching and encouragement for new therapists looking to start their own businesses. 

 

She has specific training in sexuality issues, and also has training working with those who have eating disorders or recovery from eating disorders, as well as bariatric surgery clients. Erika looks forward to walking with you down the path to becoming who you are meant to be. 

 

In this episode, you will hear: 

 

  • Why many of us experience shame around sexuality  
  • The three circles and what they entail  
  • The need to be emotionally safer to have better sex  
  • How deeper change comes from deeper work  
  • Some of the signs that shame might be getting in the way of good sex 
  • The need to look after ourselves physically as well as mentally  
  • Details on Erika’s new Podcast – Sex! The Podcast  

 

Resources 

Mar 13, 2018
EP61 - Erotic Hypnosis with Dr. Amy Marsh
28:58

Welcome to episode 61 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Amy Marsh who speaks to us about using hypnosis for management of sexual concerns, the types of people who are a good fit for hypnosis being used around sexuality and five ways erotic hypnosis can help couples.

 

Amy Marsh, EdD, DHS, CH, CI is an AASECT-certified sexuality counselor and clinical sexologist and a certified hypnotist and hypnosis instructor. She holds Doctor of Education (EdD) and Doctor of Human Sexuality (DHS) degrees from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is on the advisory board of the World Association of Sex Coaches and teaches two courses for SexCoach U. Her interest in sexuality and reproductive health dates from her teens, when she worked as a pregnancy counselor in a feminist free clinic. 

 

As a hypnosis instructor, Dr. Marsh teaches a 150-hour, online course in Hypnosis for Sexual Concerns. She also teaches workshops to people who want to learn the gentle arts of romantic and erotic hypnosis for their own enjoyment and pleasure. 

 

Dr. Marsh is published in the Electronic Journal of Human SexualityCarnal Nation, and several blogs. Her essay, “Kid Chrysalis,” was included in Rachel Pepper’s anthology, Transitions of the Heart - Stories of Love, Struggle and Acceptance by Mothers of Transgender and Gender Variant Children, published in 2012. She is also a contributor to the Cultural Encyclopedia of the Penis. A collection of some of her Carnal Nation columns, Sex Squicks, was published by Renaissance eBooks in 2013. 

 

Dr. Marsh has presented workshops at several conferences, including AASECT, CatalystCon West, American Counseling Association pre-conference Learning Institutes, the Pacific Rim International Conference on Disability and Diversity, Gender Odyssey, and Gender Spectrum. 

 

Her national television appearances include Good Morning AmericaThe Tyra Banks Show, and two National Geographic Taboo episodes, “Forbidden Love” and “Private Passions.” The topics of most of these programs was Objectum Sexuality. 

 

Dr. Marsh currently has a private practice as a sex counselor and hypnotist in Lake County, CA. Previously she worked in Hawai'i and the SF Bay Area.  

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • How Amy defines sexual enrichment
  • Using hypnosis for management of sexual concerns
  • The types of people who are a good fit for hypnosis being used around sexuality
  • The difference between using hypnosis for sexual concerns and erotic hypnosis
  • Five ways erotic hypnosis can help couples
  • Common themes Amy found during her research survey in this area

 

Resources

https://amymarshsexologist.com

https://intimate-hypnosis-training.com

Mar 06, 2018
EP60 - Evolutionary Psychology Insights Regarding Dating and Mating
41:19

Welcome to episode 60 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is John Webber, LMFT. In this show, John talks about looking at relationships through the lens of evolutionary psychology, monogamous relationships v non- monogamous relationships and why many therapists don't talk about sexuality.

John is an existential-humanistic therapist rooted in a psychodynamic approach. He believes that a great deal of the issues that bring individuals, couples and families into counseling stem from the need to regulate emotions, accept feelings and decide how they choose to meet them. He promotes the therapy room as a safe, non-judgmental place in which clients can discuss their thoughts and feelings and explore more healthy paths for their lives.

John and his wife are raising three teens. This rich family experience, along with the challenges all families face, guides his work. He has enjoyed volunteering as an assistant scoutmaster (BSA), and as a coach of boy’s and girl’s baseball and softball teams. In his free time John practices self-care by following his interests of reading, gardening, meditation, swimming, writing poetry, podcasting, walking his dog and attempting a new venture as an author.

John held positions in academia and the media industry for 25 years, including; adjunct professor, news director, creative advertising director, and television and film producer. In 2006, he was nominated for an LA Area EMMY Award for a documentary on pediatric physical therapy.

John holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Communications and a Master of Science in Counseling Psychology. He completed a psychotherapy internship at The Jewish Family and Children’s Service in Long Beach, CA. In addition to leading counseling groups at a psychiatric hospital, John has a private practice in Hermosa Beach, CA 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Looking at relationships through the lens of evolutionary psychology
  • How nature plays a role in mating and relationships
  • Monogamous relationships v non- monogamous relationships
  • Is infertility more painful for women or men in monogamous relationships?
  • How a lack of resources plays into this subject area
  • Why many therapists don’t talk about sexuality
  • Finding the right therapist for you to help in this area
  • How the early lust of a relationship can die down as attachment and connection grow deeper

 

Resources

therapywirks@gmail.com

http://www.talkingtherapypodcast.com

https://www.facebook.com/talkingtherapypodcast

Feb 27, 2018
EP59 - Extended Massive Orgasm by Dr. Steve Bodansky
37:29

Welcome to episode 59 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Steve Bodansky. In this episode, Dr. Bodansky talked about the concept of extended massive orgasm, the barriers for women around enjoying sexual intercourse and keeping the sexual spark alive when in a long-term relationship.

 

Steve Bodansky together with his wife Vera have been teachers of Sensuality for the past 35 years. They met in 1980 and were married in 1983. Steve received a Masters in Molecular Biology at SUNY at Albany in 1979 and a Doctorate at More University in Sensuality in 1992 with an emphasis on female orgasm. He first studied and then taught at More U. thru 1992. Vera started doing one-hour orgasms demonstrations in 1980 and also received her doctorate in Sensual studies in 1992.

 

Steve became certified to do these demonstrations in 1987. They developed another orgasm school in 1992 after leaving Morehouse called The Welcomed Consensus where they taught for 5 years and certified 5 new students into becoming teachers and demonstrators of orgasm. For the past 22 years they have been coaching students as a couple and started writing books about optimum sensual pleasure.

 

They have trained many people over the past 30 years with courses and personal training and continue to do so. A number of their former students have become sensual facilitators themselves.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • What are examples of different types of orgasms and what are the differences between how men and women respond?
  • The importance of taking timely breaks in foreplay
  • Is the extended massive orgasm more achievable for men or women?
  • Multiple orgasms – something all women can achieve?
  • What are the barriers for women around enjoying sexual intercourse? Is there anything that a partner can do to facilitate this process?
  • Making sure you know your own body and what pleasures you
  • How can we train our partners to become better lovers?
  • What are some of the aspects that need to be present when someone would like to receive maximum pleasure?
  • Keeping the sexual spark alive when in a long-term relationship
  • How good communication leads to better sex

 

Resources

stevebodansky@gmail.com

http://www.extendedmassiveorgasm.com

http://www.orgasmmatters.com

 

Feb 20, 2018
EP58: How to Keep Your Long Distance Relationship Hot
44:51

Welcome to episode 58 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dana Nelson who is an American psychologist and counselor living and practicing in Lyon, France (Rhône-Alpes region). In this episode Dana talks about the common challenges long distance relationships place on sexual relations, establishing and understanding boundaries and using technology to stay sexual in a long-distance relationship.

Dana works with English-speaking adults and adolescents, providing individual counseling and psychotherapy, couples and relationship counseling, and group therapy.

 She specializes in working with expats, international students, and others living abroad (both adults and adolescents) who are struggling with emotional and psychological difficulties and who want to develop greater self-awareness and self-compassion, feel more grounded, and develop more meaningful and satisfying connections with those around them. She also specializes in working with intercultural couples and couples whose relationships have been impacted by their life abroad.

 An expat herself, she moved to Lyon from Pennsylvania in 2014 to join her French partner. Before they met in graduate school, she never dreamed of moving to France — but now here she is, on an international adventure!

 Dana's specialization in working with expats and intercultural couples has emerged from her own life experience. Still navigating her own expat journey every day, she knows that life abroad is full of both adventures and many (many!) challenges. However, she also believes that this experience of living abroad — which takes us out of our element and calls into question many things we have taken for granted about ourselves and the world — can provide us with truly unique opportunities to learn about ourselves and to grow both as individuals and in our relationships. 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Dana’s answers to a listener’s email on remaining sexual in a long-distance relationship
  • The common challenges long distance relationships place on sexual relations
  • Learning to be mindful of your partners life in a different country and scheduling time
  • Developing trust in a long-distance relationship
  • Knowing what you want from the relationship
  • Establishing and understanding boundaries
  • The importance of fine tuning better communication
  • Using technology to stay sexual in a long-distance relationship
  • Dana’s personal recommendations to overcoming the obstacles of a long-distance relationship

Resources

http://www.dananelsoncounseling.com/mindful-expat-podcast/

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/07/18/sex-and-intercultural-relationships-ft-dr-dana-nelson/

Feb 13, 2018
EP57 - Are You In A Relationship With A Psychopath?
34:19

Welcome to episode 57 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Sandra L. Brown, M.A who talks to us about why people develop Narcissistic Personality Disorder, what causes NPD, anti-social PD and psychopathy and recommendations on what to do if you find yourself in a pathological relationship.

Sandra L. Brown, M.A., is the founder of The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Pathology Education.  She is a former psychotherapist in the field of psychopathology and trauma survivor treatment, community educator on the intersections of Mental Illness, Personality Disorders, Violence, and Recidivism.  She is a clinical lecturer and trainer, TV and radio guest, and an author. Her books include the highly popular How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved, the award-winning Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm With Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Narcissists, as well as the clinically relevant Counseling Victims of Violence: A Handbook for Helping Professionals.

Sandra is recognized for her pioneering work in women's issues related to relational harm from dangerous, toxic, and pathological partners.  She specializes in the development of Pathological (Toxic) Love Relationship training based on her theory development for other professionals and the development of survivor-based support and treatment services. The Institute is the only formal clinical Model-of-Care approach for survivors and offers the largest available array of products and services related to this population.  Her books, CD's, DVD's, and other training materials have been used as curriculum in drug rehabs, women's organizations and shelters, women's jail and prison programs, school and college-based programs, inner city projects, psychology and sociology programs, and distributed in almost every country of the world. Her books have been translated into several languages.

She is the founder and current president of the first professional national Association for NPD/Psychopathy Survivors Treatment, Research, and Education and is a private Trauma Consultant, and advocate for survivors seeking justice.

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • What is a Pathological Love Relationship?
  • How is it different from other relationships?
  • Why people develop Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
  • What causes NPD, anti-social PD and psychopathy?
  • Red flags to look out for if a relationship is pathological
  • Who do pathological partners target?
  • What happens to survivors from PLRs?
  • Recommendations on what to do if you find yourself in a pathological relationship

 

Resources

www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com

https://survivortreatment.com

http://floridapsychotherapy.com

Feb 06, 2018
EP56 - Deeper Story of Attraction with Ken Page
43:50

Welcome to episode 56 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Ken Page who speaks to me about falling in love with people who aren’t good for us, becoming more self-assured and emotionally available and learning to attract people who love you for who you really are.

Ken Page, LCSW, is a renowned psychotherapist, leading Psychology Today blogger, Huffington Post blogger and author of the bestseller Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy. He has been featured in O, The Oprah Magazine, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Fox News, WPIX-TV News and more.

Ken has led hundreds of workshops on intimacy and spirituality for thousands of participants. He has taught at Columbia University, the Omega Institute and the Garrison Institute. Before writing his book, Page founded Deeper Dating in 2004; an event in which trained facilitators shared the insights of Deeper Dating and then led participants in a series of fun and enriching exercises.

The live events he led provided an alternative to the bar scene and superficial dating events and drew thousands of men and women of all ages, backgrounds and sexual orientations. His work has been highly acclaimed by numerous top thought leaders, including Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Arielle Ford, Edward Hallowell, MD, Chip Conley, and Judith Orloff, MD. Katherine Woodward Thomas, New York Times bestselling author of Calling in The One and Conscious Uncoupling says, “Ken Page is my new relationship guru!”

In this episode, you will hear: 

  • Why do we fall in love with people who aren’t good for us?
  • Becoming more self-assured and emotionally available
  • How long you should keep dating to see if there’s a spark for a relationship?
  • Making sure to be your most authentic self when finding a partner
  • Losing your taste for relationships that chip away at your self-esteem
  • The importance and concept of the wave
  • Learning to attract people who love you for who you really are

 

To book an appointment with Dr. Moali (50% Discount until Valentine’s day) please visit – https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal

  

Resources

http://deeperdating.com

 

Jan 30, 2018
Sexual Chemistry & Dating with Dr. Sharon Cohen
32:36

Welcome to episode 55 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined again by Dr. Sharon Cohen who talks to us about why sexual chemistry is a necessity for any relationship to thrive, learning to enjoy the stability of relationships and the technological impacts that apps like Tinder have had on modern relationships.

Dr. Sharon Cohen is a Relationship and Love Consultant in Newport Beach, California. She works with women who can’t seem to find the right relationship or who aren’t sure they are in the right relationship. Sometimes clients who come to her are ready to give up on love. She helps them have supportive, committed, deeply loving relationships with a man who ROCKS THEIR WORLD.

Her vision of success is that all women who want to be will be in relationships of ever-lasting love with their “meant-to-be” partners, feeling connected and loved. Her primary mission is to help women gain the skills to attract and keep long-lasting love.

A sub-set of that mission is to get women inspired to attract the love they desire. Her expertise and life experiences support in sparking awareness and prompting change in her clients. Using an educational and action-oriented program, Dr. Sharon’s clients see their interactions and relationships in a whole new light. With this new-found awareness, her clients free themselves from their past mistakes in their dating, relationships, and life so they can now relax into love.

She has a background in psychotherapy and now works as a consultant, ready to offer you expert advice as to what it is you are doing wrong. Her experience is that the clients who are coming to see her don’t know what it is they are doing that isn’t working and they are ready to get that guidance.

She currently sees clients in her office, on “walk & talks” outside of the office and via phone calls for people who aren’t in the local area.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • The underlying reasons we go back to unhealthy relationships
  • Why sexual chemistry is a necessity for any relationship to thrive
  • Learning to enjoy the stability of relationships
  • The amount of time you should give to a person before deciding it’s not working
  • Technological impacts that apps like Tinder have had on modern relationships
  • Giving time to become attracted to a person’s personality
  • The warning signs to look for when going on dates with strangers

 

Complimentary Breakthrough to Deep Love phone consultation - write Dr. Sharon at sharon@drsharoncohen.com and say you heard about this offer through Sexology podcast. 

Resources

http://drsharoncohen.com

sharon@drsharoncohen.com

www.facebook.com/drsharoncohen

 

To book an appointment with Dr. Moali (50% Discount until Valentine’s day) please visit – https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal

 

 

 

Jan 23, 2018
EP54 – Sexology's Top 10 Sex Tips
32:14

Welcome to episode 54 of the Sexology Podcast. Today’s show mark’s the one year anniversary since beginning the podcast and thank you for all of your support and feedback to the show, it is truly appreciated.

 

In this episode, we recap highlights of some of the best interviews from the last year, featuring pearls of wisdom from:

 

Dr. Albert Wong (Episode 01)

Dr. Barbach (Episode 06)

Dr. Emily Nagoski (Episode 10)

Dr. Patti Britton (Episode 14)

Dr. Jen (Episode 15)

Laurie Watson, LMFT (Episode 19)

Renelle Nelson, LMFT (Episode 21)

Dr. Lanae (Episode 30)

Dr. Laurie Mintz (Episode 39)

Dr. Pomeranz (Episode 41)

Dr. Anita Johnson (Episode 42)

 

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Resources

https://www.sexologypodcast.com

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care

https://twitter.com/oasis2care

Jan 16, 2018
EP53 - Sex and Dating with Dr. Sharon Cohen
35:50

Welcome to episode 53 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Dr. Sharon Cohen who talks to us about how to decide if you are emotionally ready to have sex with your date, putting communication at the heart of your relationship and the importance of negotiation when it comes to consensual sexual activity.

 

Dr. Sharon Cohen is a Relationship and Love Consultant in Newport Beach, California. She works with women who can’t seem to find the right relationship or who aren’t sure they are in the right relationship. Sometimes clients who come to her are ready to give up on love. She helps them have supportive, committed, deeply loving relationships with a man who ROCKS THEIR WORLD.

 

Her vision of success is that all women who want to be will be in relationships of ever-lasting love with their “meant-to-be” partners, feeling connected and loved. Her primary mission is to help women gain the skills to attract and keep long-lasting love.

 

A sub-set of that mission is to get women inspired to attract the love they desire. Her expertise and life experiences support in sparking awareness and prompting change in her clients. Using an educational and action-oriented program, Dr. Sharon’s clients see their interactions and relationships in a whole new light. With this new-found awareness, her clients free themselves from their past mistakes in their dating, relationships, and life so they can now relax into love.

 

She has a background in psychotherapy and now works as a consultant, ready to offer you expert advice as to what it is you are doing wrong. Her experience is that the clients who are coming to see her don’t know what it is they are doing that isn’t working and they are ready to get that guidance.

 

She currently sees clients in her office, on “walk & talks” outside of the office and via phone calls for people who aren’t in the local area.

 

 

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • How to decide if you are emotionally ready to have sex with your date? How can you assess the partner is ready?
  • Reestablishing sexual boundaries after they’ve gone too far
  • Putting communication at the heart of your relationship
  • Learning to communicate more face to face and less via texting
  • How long we should continue going out with someone when there is no sexual chemistry?
  • The importance of negotiation when it comes to consensual sexual activity

 

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Resources

http://drsharoncohen.com

Jan 09, 2018
#MeToo Movement & Popular Media with Dr. Phillips
37:59

Welcome to episode 52 of Sexology Podcast. Today, I am delighted to welcome Dr. Nickie D. Phillips.


Nickie is an associate professor of criminal justice at St. Francis College, Brooklyn, NY where she teaches courses that include criminology, criminal justice, crime and media, and victimology. She is director of the Center for Crime and Popular Culture serving scholars, students, and laypersons interested in issues pertaining to the intersection of crime, social control, and popular culture. The Center sponsors special events, lectures, and guest speakers on campus, each geared toward understanding how cultural artifacts shape and reflect public attitudes toward offenders, victims, and the operations of the criminal justice system.

Nickie received her Ph.D. from City University of New York Graduate Center in 2006 and holds a M.A. in Forensic Psychology from John Jay College of Criminal Justice. Her research interests include media and crime, crime and popular culture, and sexual violence. She is author of Beyond Blurred Lines: Rape Culture in Popular Media (Rowman and Littlefield, 2017) and co-author of Comic Book Crime: Truth, Justice, and the American Way (NYU Press, 2013), the latter of which examined representations of crime and justice in contemporary American comics books through the lens of cultural criminology.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The evolution of rape culture during the past decade.
  • The concept of rape culture in television, gaming and comic books.
  • The normalization of violence against women in media.
  • How #Metoo movement breaks the silence of ongoing sexual harassments in our society.
  • Potential backlash of #MeToo movement.
  • Empowering the victims of sexual harassment.
  • Methods for ending rape culture

Resources

http://www.sfc.edu/academics/institutescenters/popculture

https://rowman.com/ISBN/9781442246270/Beyond-Blurred-Lines-Rape-Culture-in-Popular-Media#

https://www.amazon.com/Comic-Book-Crime-Alternative-Criminology/dp/0814767885

nphillips@sfc.edu

Jan 02, 2018
Cancer and Sex
39:18

Welcome to episode 51 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Deborah Beaumont. We talk about how cancer diagnosis may affect an individual’s sexuality and sex life, the effects it can have a survivors’ intimate relationships and coping mechanisms recommended to improve their sexual health.

 

Deborah Beaumont is an Advanced Practice Registered Nurse and two-time cancer survivor. After her last experience with cancer (bilateral breast cancer) and multiple complications from treatments she was frustrated with conventional medicine telling he the only thing she could do to prevent another recurrence of cancer was to take prescriptions, get yearly check-ups and hope for the best that it didn't return. Feeling there was a need to know about more about prevention and making treatment decisions that supported having a good quality of life (given all the treatment and medication side effects she experienced) she immersed herself in learning about holistic and integrative treatment that complimented the medical advice she was being given.

 

She is now a certified functional medicine practitioner and is a holistic and integrative health coach supporting women and empowering them to make treatment decisions not only in treating cancer reclaiming their health and having a good quality of life after chemo and active treatment is done. She emphasizes an integrative mind-body approach to health, healing and living.

 

She works with women by phone and Skype and provides coaching and consultation to women looking for holistic and integrative recovery.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How cancer diagnosis may affect individual’s sexuality and sex life
  • Sexual side effects from post cancer treatment
  • Knowing that it’s ok for women not to be sexual after cancer treatment
  • How cancer can affect survivors’ intimate relationships?
  • The psychological differences between sexual side effects of post cancer treatment and cosmetic surgeries      
  • Coping mechanisms recommended to survivors as a way to improve their sexual health

Resources

https://mindbodynutritionrn.com

radicalhealthRN@gmail.com

 

 

Dec 26, 2017
EP50 - The Man Rules & Sexuality
36:15

Welcome to episode 50 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Dan Griffin, M.A., who talks to us about the meaning behind “The Man Rules”, his thoughts on recent sexual allegations that have broken in the media and the importance of context and consent in alternative sexual behaviors.

Dan Griffin, M.A., is an internationally recognized author, thought leader, and expert on men’s relationships and masculinity.

Dan’s work and life is dedicated to exploring and redefining what it means to be a man in the 21st century. Dan is dedicated to helping men be better men by understanding the impact of the Man Rules on their lives and finding the success in their personal lives they are striving for in the professional lives. Griffin’s book, A Man’s Way through Relationships, is the first book written specifically to help men create healthy relationships while navigating the challenges of the “Man Rules™,” those ideas men internalize at very young ages about how to be real boys and men. In 2015, Dan was honored to be named a Senior Fellow at the world renowned leader for treating addiction and trauma, The Meadows.

Griffin’s professional background includes over two decades in the mental health and addictions field. He is also the author of A Man’s Way through the Twelve Steps, the first trauma-informed book to take a holistic look at men’s sobriety. He co-authored Helping Men Recover, the first comprehensive gender-responsive and trauma-informed curriculum for addiction and mental health professionals. Griffin earned a Master’s degree in Sociology from the University of Kansas where his graduate work was the first qualitative study centered on the social construction of masculinity in the culture of Alcoholics Anonymous.

Dan grew up in the DC area and lives in Los Angeles with his wife, Nancy, and his daughter, Grace, and has been in long-term recovery from addiction since he graduated college in May of 1994. 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The meaning behind “The Man Rules”
  • Dan’s thoughts on recent sexual allegations that have broken in the media
  • Do we relieve abusers of their actions if they’re sex addicts?
  • Recommendations to be more relational in your sexuality
  • Can we change our erotic template?
  • The importance of context and consent in alternative sexual behaviors
  • How a man might react differently from when they’re in recovery from sexual addiction to when they’re in the midst of it

 

Resources

http://www.dangriffin.com/man-rules-podcast

 

Dec 19, 2017
EP49 – Is My husband Gay?
34:01

Welcome to episode 49 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Dr. Joe Kort, Ph.D. He talks to us about why some straight men are drawn to gay sex, the taboo of talking about this topic and how are compulsive behaviors different from sexual attraction. 

Psychotherapist, coach and author Joe Kort, Ph.D., MSW, MA founded his practice in 1985. Its specialties include: Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy, emphasizing how being knowledgeable about gay issues informs the therapeutic process, and IMAGO Relationship Therapy, a specific program to help couples and singles learn to improve their communication and relationship skills. It is based on the books Getting The Love You Want and Keeping The Love You Find by Dr. Harville Hendrix. 

This practice specializes in sex therapy and sexual identity issues, including Out-Of-Control Sexual Behavior; responsible non-monogamy/monogamy; childhood sexual, physical and emotional abuse; mixed-orientation marriages; coming out; and depression and anxiety. The group offers workshops for couples and singles.

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • Why some straight men are drawn to gay sex but aren’t gay
  • The compartmentalization men can make between gay sex and being gay
  • How society says it’s ok for women to have sex other women but not the same for men
  • How trauma reenactment can play a role in this issue
  • The taboo and difficulty to talk about this with partners
  • How are compulsive behaviors different from sexual attraction?
  • How the more this issue gets repressed, the more it will come up
  • The role shame plays around this issue
  • How homophobia can be used as a smokescreen

 

Resources

http://www.joekort.com

http://www.straightguise.com

 

 

Dec 12, 2017
EP48 - Why Men Force Women to Watch Them Masturbate
38:50

Welcome to episode 48 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Quandra Chaffers, LCSW. In this episode we talk about how masturbation can become a form of violence, the trauma nonconsensual masturbation creates and why the actions of Harvey Weinstein and Louis C.K were acts of violence.

Quandra Chaffers, LCSW is a Certified Sex Educator through AASECT the American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapists, and also a Certified EMDR Therapist. She boasts over 10 years of experience working with sexual violence survivors as both a crisis intervention counselor and a psychotherapist. For six years, she made a career in treating violent offenders as a facilitator for a batters intervention program.

Quandra strives to help men and women overcome rape, intimate partner violence, sexual acting out, and a host of other sex related issues. She believes that sexual health is the natural solution to sexual violence. Her private practice Sexual Abuse and Sex Solutions is located on the cusp of the Nob Hill district in San Francisco and helps clients address both sexual trauma and problematic sexual behaviors. 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How masturbation can become a form of violence
  • Where is the line between out of control sexual behaviour and violence?
  • Why the actions of Harvey Weinstein and Louis C.K were acts of violence
  • The damage Kevin Spacey did by using his coming out as a smokescreen for sexual abuse
  • The trauma nonconsensual masturbation creates
  • Understanding the root causes of why people become sexual offenders
  • The importance and need to learn to have more empathy

 

Resources

https://www.sasstherapy.com

quandra@sasstherapy.com

Dec 05, 2017
EP47 - "Only Yes Means Yes"
39:03

Welcome to episode 47 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Jeanette Tolson who talks to us about what constitutes consent, what might stop someone from reporting sexual assault and how can we create a culture of consent.

Jeanette Tolson is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Credentialed Alcoholism and Substance Abuse Counselor in New York.  She earned her Master’s in Social Work at SUNY Albany and completed a Postgraduate Certificate in Sex Therapy and Sexuality Education at the University of Michigan.  

Prior to opening her private practice in 2015, she was the Executive Director for a not for profit community recovery organization.  Ms. Tolson currently has an academic appointment at SUNY Delhi and been teaching there continuously since 2009. Ms. Tolson has worked in a variety of outpatient settings. Her clinical interests include working with relationships from an attachment perspective, LGBTQ issues, recovery from infidelity, and substance use disorders.

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In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • What constitutes consent?
  • How yes doesn’t mean yes all the time
  • What is sexualized hostility?
  • Why perpetrators find it arousing to terrorize their victim
  • What might stop someone from reporting sexual assault
  • The ways in which alcohol can affect these situations during and after the assault
  • How can we create a culture of consent?

 

Resources

https://jeanettetolsonlcsw.com

https://youtu.be/oQbei5JGiT8

 

Nov 28, 2017
EP46 - Desire in Long Term Relationships
36:56

Welcome to episode 46 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Stuart Fensterheim, LCSW who talks about the factors that contribute to a loss of passion, the differences between hook up sex, marital sex and making love and how intimacy tends to only be associated with sex.  

Stuart Fensterheim, LCSW is an author and podcaster specializing in helping couples to create a true and authentic love story where they both feel secure and important. His thirty plus years as a therapist have given him a unique perspective on love and relationships. 

The Couples Expert Podcast is produced weekly and has an international following on iTunes; currently with over 100,000 downloads and growing. The podcast brings Stuart together with experts from all over the world; in the field of love and relationships. In-depth and insightful discussions on all facets of adult relationships are addressed on The Couples Experts podcast. In addition to his Podcast, clinical and online work, Stuart also facilitates seminars and workshops employing emotionally-focused couples therapy; as well as intensive counseling weekends designed to help couples get to the heart of their struggles and find the answers they are seeking for a closer and more connected loving relationship.

Stuart is available to speak on topics including:

Surviving Infidelity and Rebuilding Trust

Finding Love in Middle Age

Having a Closer Connection with Your Partner § Sexuality and Monogamy

Same-Sex Relationships

Making Your Good Relationship Great

 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The factors that can contribute to a loss of passion
  • How a couple’s sex language can be different and the importance for open communication
  • The difficulty to connect when there’s unresolved emotions with our partners
  • The differences between hook up sex, marital sex and making love
  • Why people struggle with synchrony sex
  • How intimacy tends to only be associated with sex

 

Resources

http://www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com

http://www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com/podcasts

Email: Stuart@thecouplesexperts.com

Nov 21, 2017
EP45 – Let’s Talk about Fetishes!
44:27

Welcome to episode 45 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Sara Sweetly. Sara shares her story of how she became interested and involved in this work, misconceptions that exist around fetishes and tips on how to have great phone sex.

 

Sara is a professional Dominatrix and phone sex operator who works primarily with clients in the fetish and kink community. Sara’s goal is to help her clients find a way to express their sexuality without restrictions or the unpleasant feeling of judgment. To Sara, helping her clients means helping them to find the sexual answers that could lead to a path of greater self-discovery and overall healthier relationships for them.

 

Sara believes that it is possible to uncover your true sexual capabilities and to experience the sex life that you are truly worthy of. She is the founder of the Must Love Fetish podcast, an educational sexuality podcast dedicated to exploring and finding ways to bridge the vanilla and kinky worlds. This interview-style podcast features a new fetish and guest every week – and explores the psychology behind fetishes in order to help people better understand what it is like to live with one.

 

Sara has been featured on numerous podcasts, including consensually speaking, sex + love with sexologist Randi Levinson, and now sexology podcast. She has been the guest on several live radio talk shows, including the Rob & Slim show – where she often busts the misconceptions about phone sex and sex work in a light-hearted manner. With a background in psychology, Sara is currently working towards her sex coaching certification and eventual Doctorate in Human Sexuality.

 

During her free time, she produces audiobooks and her voice can be heard on both Amazon Audible and iTunes. Sara likes to think of herself as a producer of aural pornography, and hopes to create a workshop in which she can teach couples the art of dirty talk in order to enhance their relationships. Sara is currently working on her first book “Aural Sex: The Art Of Dirty Talk as Foreplay.” (working title) 

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • How Sara became interested and involved in this work
  • The common and uncommon fetishes Sara hears on the phone
  • Misconceptions that exist around fetishes
  • How this line of work has created a good business for Sara
  • The types of role play Sara will participate in on the phone
  • How many people like to be submissive in their phone calls
  • Tips on how to have great phone sex

 

Resources

https://mustlovefetish.com

https://twitter.com/SaraSweetly

 

Nov 14, 2017
EP44 - Understanding Tantra
37:53

Welcome to episode 44 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Elise Carr, M.A. who talks to us about understanding Tantra, the benefits of adopting a Tantric lifestyle and how you can use Tantra even if you’re not in a relationship.

Elise Carr is the Woman behind StellaMuse, known as the ‘Pioneer of Yoni-Heart-Mind Power’ she mentors, councils and advises your journey of Awakening from Within through Sacred Guidance, Sacred Sexuality, Spirituality & Soul.

With unwavering enthusiasm, fierce dedication and spirited insight, Elise guides inspirational and aspirational souls on a purpose driven, joy filled mission away from fear, dissatisfaction and illusion, and into courageous love and mental clarity; guiding them to a live life as their most authentic, nourished and unique selves.

Elise is also a student of the Mysteries and a certified; Holistic Life/Health Coach, Tantra practitioner and Reiki Master, as well as a Writer, Speaker, Model and Artist.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Understanding Tantra and what is sacred sexuality?
  • How Elise began her journey into the world of Tantra
  • What the practice of Tantra usually looks like
  • How Tantra is a way of life and more than just sex
  • The way in which Tantra can expand consciousness
  • The overall benefits of adopting a Tantric lifestyle
  • Learning to schedule time with your partner
  • How you can use Tantra even if you’re not in a relationship

Resources

http://www.stellamuse.com

Nov 07, 2017
EP43 - Gender and Sexuality with Dr. Lisa Wade
31:37

Welcome to episode 43 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to welcome back Dr. Lisa Wade. In this episode, we talk about the difference between sex and gender, external and internal factors that may influence gender identity and the double standards that exist in society when dealing with gender identity issues.

 

Lisa Wade is an associate professor of sociology at Occidental College. Her newest book, American Hookup, is about the emergence and character of the culture of sex that dominates college campuses today.

 

Before receiving her PhD in sociology at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, Lisa earned an MA in human sexuality from NYU and a BA in philosophy from the University of California-Santa Barbara.

 

Lisa has authored over a dozen academic research articles and a textbook on the sociology of gender. She also actively contributes to media, writing extensively for non-academic audiences and appearing on television and radio.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • The difference between sex and gender
  • Gender identity and sexual orientation – is there a relationship between them?
  • External and internal factors that can influence gender identity
  • What it means to identify as gender non-confirming
  • The relationship between biological and societal factors that can affect our gender identity
  • How societal intuitions of power try to keep the status quo to protect their own power
  • Parenting and gender identity
  • The double standards that exist in society when dealing with gender identity issues

 

Resources

https://lisa-wade.com

http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/30231781-american-hookup

email: lwade@oxy.edu

 

Oct 31, 2017
Sexuality & Body Image with Dr. Anita Johnson
38:45

Welcome to episode 42 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Anita Johnson. In this episode, Dr. Anita Johnson shares with us how to heal your relationship with your body and reclaim power of feminine energy. 

Anita Johnston, Ph.D., is a Depth Psychologist and author of Eating in the Light of the Moon, which has been published in six languages. She is the co-creator of the online course, Light of the Moon Café which is an interactive “workbook” and women’s support circle for Eating in the Light of the Moon, and she is the author of a book chapters and other professional journal articles.

She has been working in the field of women’s issues and disordered eating for over 35 years and is currently the Clinical Director of ‘Ai Pono Hawaii which has outpatient eating disorder programs in Honolulu, the Big Island of Hawaii, and a residential treatment program in Maui.

Dr. Johnston provides individual consultations online, and conducts Soul Hunger workshops and professional trainings around the world, using metaphor and storytelling, along with her training as a clinical psychologist, to address the complex issues that underlie struggles with eating, weight, and body image.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Why women today are dissatisfied with their image
  • How feminine energy is connected to the earth
  • Understanding your intuition and instinct
  • The resonation people feel with her book “Eating In The Light Of The Moon”
  • How food habits are linked to sexual desires and behaviours
  • The power of feminine energy and the need to understand it better
  • The need to have better support networks around ourselves

 

Resources

www.DrAnitaJohnston.com

www.LightoftheMoonCafe.com

DrAJ1@aol.com

Anita@LightoftheMoonCafe.com

 

Oct 24, 2017
The Science of Male Arousal with Dr. Pomeranz
35:29

Welcome to episode 41 of the Sexology Podcast. Today I am joined by Dr. Kelifern Pomeranz who talks to us about male sexual arousal, the common causes for sexual dysfunction and the pros and cons of using PED5 inhibitors.

 

Dr. Pomeranz is a licensed clinical psychologist and sex therapist with a practice in Silicon Valley. In addition to her private practice, she also works as a staff psychologist at Stanford University. Dr. Pomeranz earned her doctorate in clinical psychology in the Bay Area and has worked in a number of diverse settings, including the San Francisco jail, Salvation Army rehabilitation center, and UC Davis Medical System. She spent 9 years at the Boston VA, focusing on substance use disorders, sexual trauma, and out of control sexual behaviors.

 

Dr. Pomeranz recognizes the importance between sexual and emotional well-being and believes that not enough clinicians are talking with their clients about this important topic. In her private practice in Menlo Park she treats individuals who are struggling with a variety of sexual health concerns, including erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, desire discrepancy, genito-pelvic pain, female orgasmic disorder, penetration disorders, sexual trauma, gender/sexual identity, and alternative sexual lifestyles. In addition, Dr. Pomeranz treats substance use disorders and other addictive behaviors, including out-of-court sexual behaviors, utilizing a harm reduction model. Dr. Pomeranz is a member of AASECT and Bay Area Open Minds.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • Gender differences with sexual arousal
  • Does penal erection hardness correspond to arousal?
  • Common causes for sexual dysfunction in men
  • What you can do as partner to help with erectile dysfunction
  • The link and misconceptions around ageing and erectile dysfunction
  • How certain medications can be harmful to people’s relationships
  • The feelings of shame that can occur around this issue
  • Ways in which you can approach and support your partner through this

 

Resources

https://www.drpomeranz.com

Oct 17, 2017
EP40 - Exploring Sexual Fantasies
29:07

Welcome to episode 40 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Gigi Engle! In this episode, Gigi discusses why some sexual fantasies are common, and whether they should stay as fantasies or manifest into a reality!

 

Gigi Engle is a writer and sex educator. She was the head sex and dating writer for Elite Daily and Thrillist Media Group before launching a career in freelance writing and sex education. She's written and reported for a variety of magazines and websites including Cosmopolitan, Elle, Teen Vogue, Marie Claire, Glamour, Brides and many more.

 

Gigi teaches classes and workshops focused on sex ed basics like Vibrator 101 to Buttplugs for Beginners to feminist topics like Vulva Confidence and The Orgasm Gap. She is currently working on her first book, a feminist sex guidebook, with St. Martin's Press, an imprint of MacMillen.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Where our sexual fantasies come from
  • How you can learn more about your sexual template from fantasies
  • Rape fantasies: why people have them
  • Recommendations on what to share or not share with your partner when it comes to fantasies
  • Why just because you have a fantasy, doesn’t mean you want it to happen
  • Having good communication with your partner to avoid shame
  • Making compromises with your partner for sexual fantasies
  • How the media and pornography can form some of our fantasies

For more great content please check out www.sexologypodcast.com

 

Resources

http://missgigiengle.com

http://www.jsm.jsexmed.org/article/S1743-6095(15)30944-9/fulltext

Oct 10, 2017
EP39 - Everything You Need to Know About Orgasm
34:05

Welcome to episode 39 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Laurie Mintz, Ph.D. who talks to us about orgasms, the different types of women's orgasm, common factors that may attribute to not experiencing orgasms and the importance to have open communication to improve your sexual life.

Dr. Laurie Mintz is an author, therapist, professor and speaker whose life’s work has been committed to helping people live fuller, richer lives through the art and science of psychology. 

As a tenured Professor at the University of Florida, she teaches the Psychology of Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduate students each year. She also teaches and mentors graduate students, helping them find their own niche as psychologists. Dr. Mintz has published over 50 research articles in academic journals and six chapters in academic books. She has received numerous professional and teaching awards, and is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association.

Dr. Mintz is the author of two popular and highly acclaimed books—both written with the aim of empowering women sexually: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get it (HarperOne, 2017) and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship (Adams Media, 2009).

With this same goal of providing scientifically-accurate, sex-positive information to enhance female pleasure, Dr. Mintz also writes a popular Psychology Today blog. She also gives presentations and workshops to professionals and lay audiences and is often quoted in national and international media. For over 25 years, Dr. Mintz has also maintained a small private practice. One of her greatest honors is to help clients reach their goals and to live fuller, more authentic lives.

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • How to know whether you’ve reached orgasm or not
  • The different types of orgasm women can have
  • How most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm
  • The different standards that exist between women and men on the issue
  • Common factors that can attribute to not experiencing orgasm
  • Feelings of shame that can occur through not being able to orgasm
  • Potential evolutionary benefits of having orgasms
  • The importance to have open communication to improve your sexual life

 

To book an appointment for Sex Therapy with Dr. Nazanin Moali call (310) 6009912 or click here

 

Resources

http://drlauriemintz.com

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062484389

Oct 03, 2017
EP38 - Rebuilding Sexual Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal
42:51

Welcome to episode 38 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Piper Grant. Dr. Grant is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, sex therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and founder of Numi Psychology. In this episode, we talked about the common emotions women may experience after discovering sexual betrayal and steps they can take when starting their journey of recovery.

Dr. Grant has extensive experience working with couples and individuals in healing ruptures within their relationship, overcoming sexual dysfunction, deepening their intimacy, and (re)building a strong foundation within their relationship. She specializes in working with individuals and couples on issues related to sex, intimacy, and trauma. 

Although based in Los Angeles, California, Dr. Piper seeks to reach individuals and couples internationally in recovery from sex addiction and healing from sexual betrayal by hosting retreats in Bali for women who have experienced sexual betrayal and couples in recovery from sex addiction. These are the only retreats hosted in Bali that are tailored to help couples and individuals on issues related to sexual betrayal and hosted by a Psychologist and CSAT.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The common emotions women may experience after discovering sexual betrayal
  • How a woman’s self-image can be damaged
  • Recommendations for getting in touch with your feminine intuitive self
  • The challenges of the grieving process
  • Libido changes that can occur following sexual betrayal
  • The repeating cycle that can happen through multiple relationships
  • Steps you can take when starting your journey of recovery

 

Resources

www.numipsychology.com

www.drpipergrant.com

Sep 26, 2017
EP37 - Sexual Performance Anxiety with Dr. Six
29:31

Welcome to episode 37 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Six who speaks to me about sexual performance anxiety, the different ways it manifests between men and women and knowing when it’s time to seek professional help with this issue.

Dr. Six has 25 years as a practicing Clinical Sexologist, and is a successful sex therapist who has helped thousands of people find their authentic selves and enjoy a more fulfilling relationship. Her approach is unique, and her style is warmly engaging, putting her clients and workshop attendees at ease. Her credentials include an M.A. in Counseling Psychology and a PhD in Clinical Sexology and she’s a Board Certified Clinical Sexologist by the American Board of Sexology. She’s also a professor at USF where she teaches graduate students about Sexology. Her book, Erotic Integrity: How to be True to Yourself Sexually was published last year by She Writes Press.

In Erotic Integrity, Dr. Claudia Six leads readers through ten sexual themes including garden-variety performance anxiety, sexual boredom, newly dating, coming out, and more and reveals three simple steps to a more rewarding sex life: knowing who you truly are as a sexual being, embracing that knowledge, and living it authentically.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How you define sexual performance anxiety
  • The different ways it manifests between men and women
  • How it can take women longer to get turned on
  • The feelings of being broken or defective that can occur through this issue
  • The impact pornography can have on bad education around sex
  • Having open communication in your relationship to deal with sexual performance anxiety
  • How the win or lose mentality can affect men
  • Knowing when it’s time to seek professional help with this issue

 

Dr. Moali offers limited time reduced fee sex therapy treatment in Hermosa Beach or Torrance locations. Contact Dr. Moali(833) 376-6254 today to schedule an appointment or book a free 15 min consultation. 

 

 

Resources

www.drsix.net

https://drsix.net/erotic-integrity-book/

(415) 453-6218

Ted Talk - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mIxRPWHFWIM

 

Sep 19, 2017
EP36 - Psychological Growth Following Adversity
20:20

Welcome to episode 36 of the Sexology Podcast with your host Dr. Nazanin Moali. In this episode, Dr. Moali talks about the important topic of psychological growth following experiencing sexual assault or rape. Furthermore, she discusses how sexual trauma may produce positive growth for individuals in various areas of their lives including their ability to relate to others, their general appreciation of life, and their ability to see new possibilities and changes in their spiritual life. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • How people overcome adversity after sexual assault
  • Why people can view themselves as a survivor rather than a victim
  • Changing relationships; needing others for support
  • Renewing one’s purpose in life and becoming more spiritual
  • Redefining perspective with mindfulness practices
  • How growth is a gradual process
  • Cultivating post-traumatic growth through support
  • The importance of honouring your own journey

 

Take advantage of this month’s reduced fee limited time offer for Sex therapy by Dr. Nazanin Moali. You can book your appointment by calling (833) 376-6254

 

Resources

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/

https://bmcmedresmethodol.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12874-017-0344-2

https://ptgi.uncc.edu/ptgi-related-inventories/

 

Sep 12, 2017
EP35 - Healing from Sexual Assault with Wendy Maltz LCSW
44:37

Welcome to episode 35 of sexology podcast. Today I’m joined by Wendly Maltz LCSW, who shares with us the steps one can take to rediscover the joy of sexual intimacy after experiencing sexual assault. 

Wendy Maltz LCSW, DST, is an internationally recognized sex therapist, author, and speaker, with more than thirty-five years of experience treating sex and intimacy concerns. She authored a number of highly acclaimed sexuality resources, including the recovery classic, The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, as well as Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women’s Sexual Fantasies, and The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography.

Wendy compiled and edited two best-selling poetry collections that celebrate healthy sexual intimacy, Passionate Hearts: The Poetry of Sexual Love and Intimate Kisses: The Poetry of Sexual Pleasure. Her popular educational website, www.HealthySex.com, provides free articles, podcast interviews, posters, couples sexual healing videos, and more to help people recover from sexual abuse, overcome sexual problems, and develop skills for love-based sexual intimacy.

An experienced public speaker, workshop trainer and keynote presenter, Wendy has lectured in many major cities in the U.S., plus in Canada and New Zealand. Her presentation style is described as “warm and friendly,” “professional,” “information rich,” and “accessible.” Having worked in the field of sexuality for over three decades, Wendy knows how to put her audiences at ease on the subject.

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • The common myths that exist around sexual assault
  • How people can blame themselves for something they didn’t have control over
  • The issue and complications around consent
  • How being sexually assaulted can affect a person’s outlook on sex
  • Common sexual challenges that survivors face
  • Ways in which you can support a partner who’s been sexually assaulted
  • Discovering when you are ready to go on the sexual healing journey
  • How it’s possible to still enjoy sex after being assaulted

Resources

www.HealthySex.com

Books

https://www.amazon.com/The-Sexual-Healing-Journey-Survivors/dp/0062130730

https://www.amazon.com/Private-Thoughts-Exploring-Womens-Fantasies-ebook/dp/B00A8SKN6K

https://www.amazon.com/Porn-Trap-Essential-Overcoming-Pornography/dp/0061231878

https://www.amazon.com/Passionate-Hearts-Poetry-Sexual-Love/dp/1577315677

https://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Kisses-Poetry-Sexual-Pleasure/dp/157731445X

Sep 05, 2017
EP34 - Holistic Sexual Wellness with Dr. Janet Brito
33:42

Welcome to episode 34 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Janet Brito who speaks to me about mind body approach; what it is and how it can be used, the benefits of tapping into mindfulness and how a healthy and balanced diet can help with sexual health.

 

Janet Brito is a licensed clinical psychologist, and licensed clinical social worker in Hawaii. She is an AASECT certified sex therapist and a Graduate of the Fellowship Program in Human Sexuality at the University of Minnesota Medical School, one of only a few university programs in the world dedicated to sexuality training.

 

Currently, she is the founder of the Center for Sexual and Reproductive Health where she specializes in the areas of relationship and sex therapy, gender and sexual identity concerns, out of control sexual behaviour, non-traditional relationships, holistic sexual health approaches, and infertility.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • Mind body approach; what it is and how it can be used
  • The research that has been conducted into the efficacy of holistic medicine
  • The benefits of tapping into mindfulness to help with this issue
  • Societal messages people receive that can lead to shame
  • The narrative of our story and how that can lead to sexual challenges
  • Being the author of your own story and owning it
  • Ways in which alternative medicine practices can help increase sexual activity and intimacy
  • How a healthy and balanced diet can help with sexual health

 

Resources

http://sextherapyhawaii.com

https://www.facebook.com/drjanetbrito/

 

Aug 29, 2017
Sexual Jealousy with Dr. Elizabeth Bonet
40:43

Welcome to episode 33 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Elizabeth Bonet who speaks to me about sexual jealously, the impact mistrust can have on a relationship and the differences between men and women when it comes to feeling jealous.

Shortly after earning her PhD in 1998, Dr. Bonet left the field of psychology to pursue a technical career. She worked in tech for many years doing project management and launching the first website to do online trading of international securities. She then left that field to be a stay at home mom and entrepreneur, growing her prenatal yoga business into an award winning company. 

She has been a yoga teacher for over 15 years and was the founder of the award winning Yogafairy Prenatal Yoga. She won The 2014 Top 100 Leading Moms in Business award, grew an international community of mothers, and ran the company for close to 15 years before selling the company in May of 2016 to focus on her private practice.

Dr. Bonet returned to the field of psychology in 2008. She opened her own private practice located in the Ft. Lauderdale/Broward County area in Hollywood, Florida in 2010. As a certified Hypnotherapist with a PhD in Clinical Psychology, Dr. Bonet helps people feel more emotionally stable, happier and more connected to their partner, friends, and loved ones of their choosing. Specialties are hypnosis for anxiety reduction and chronic conditions, couples counseling (Gottman Level 1 certified) and Perinatal MoodDisorders (PSI certified).

Dr. Bonet also recently launched her podcast, Hypnotize Me, in December 2016 which has over 20,000 downloads and is listened to in over 70 countries. Hypnotize Me is about hypnosis, transformation, and healing.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How sexual jealously is natural
  • The evolutionary purpose of jealousy
  • How jealously can manifest itself in relationships
  • The way jealously affects polyamorous and monogamous relationships differently
  • The impact mistrust can have on a relationship
  • Why jealously and competiveness can be similar but are distinctly different
  • The differences between men and women when it comes to feeling jealous
  • Is it possibly to get rid of these feelings of jealousy?
  • How hypnosis can be used around this issue
  • Being comfortable with yourself and your own feelings

 

Resources

http://drlizhypnosis.com

http://www.drlizhypnosis.com/hypnotize-me

Aug 22, 2017
Sex After Divorce with Dalila Jusic-LaBerge LMFT
36:14

Welcome to episode 32 of the Sexology Podcast. In this show, Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.D. is joined by relationship-counselor, Dalila Jusic-LaBerge LMFT who helps women find peace and happiness after divorce and separation. During this interview, we examine steps that one would need to take before re-entering the dating scene and the keys to having great sex after divorce.

 

Dalila Jusic-LaBerge is the owner of Be Here & Now Counseling. She helps women and teenage girls heal from trauma and emotional wounding so that they can enjoy life and love. Dalila specializes in working with accomplished professional women who yearn for love but feel lost in romantic relationships. Utilizing mindfulness and mind-body oriented modalities, she helps them heal, connect to their own emotions, develop intuition, while readying them for connections on deeper emotional levels. This empowers women to be authentic and in touch with who they truly are. Dalila focuses on helping her clients manage difficult feelings and emotions that come with stress, anxiety irritability, and anger, all of which can prevent them from enjoying their lives and engaging in gratifying relationships. Dalila provides services online and sees clients in her Agoura Hills and Westlake Village offices.

 

 

In this episode, you will hear about:

 

  • The challenges that people face when they decide to reclaim their sex life after divorce
  • The pros and cons of continuing sexual relations with your ex-partner
  • The duration to wait before having sex
  • The signs of emotional readiness for intimacy with a new partner
  • The approaches in communicating your desires and turn-ons with your new lover

 

For a very limited time period, Dr. Nazanin Moali offers reduced fee appointments for sexology podcast listeners who are interested to explore their sexuality. To book an in person or online counselling appointment, please call (833) 376-5254.

 

Resources

http://www.behereandnow.com/

https://www.facebook.com/behereandnowcounseling

http://oasis2care.com/

 

Aug 15, 2017
Unlocking Your Erotic Blueprint
24:29

Welcome to episode 31 of the Sexology Podcast. In this show, we discuss various components of the arousal template and explore the origin of our erotic yearnings and desires.

In this episode, you will hear about:

  • The benefits of knowing your arousal type.
  • The erotic core template and its changes throughout your life.
  • The distinctive love-map that is unique to each of us.
  • The concept of love-map as designed by sex researcher John Money.
  • The importance of identifying your eroticized feelings as core component of arousal template.

The integration of your fantasies as a way to develop a deeper understanding of your psyche.

Contact Dr. Moali’s office (833) 376-6254 to book an online or in person appointment. Dr. Moali offers limited reduced fee appointments for sex therapy until the end of September as an attempt to meet AASECT certification criteria. 

Resources:

https://www.amazon.com/Lovemaps-Pathology-Paraphilia-Transposition-Adolescence/dp/0879754567/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1502142839&sr=8-1&keywords=John+money

 

https://www.amazon.com/Jack-Morin-Unlocking-Fulfillment-7-3-1996/dp/B00HTJQDEW/ref=sr_1_cc_1?s=aps&ie=UTF8&qid=1502142982&sr=1-1-catcorr&keywords=Jack+morin

 

https://www.amazon.com/Arousal-Secret-Logic-Sexual-Fantasies/dp/0312302428/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1502143023&sr=1-1&keywords=bader+arousal

 

http://www.sexologypodcast.com

 

http://www.oasis2care.com

 

Aug 08, 2017
Talking To Your Teen About Sex with Dr. Lanae St. John
40:59

Welcome to episode 30 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Lanae St. John. In this episode, we discussed why it’s important to talk to teens about sex and the importance for parents to create a safe space for their teens.


Lanae St. John, DHS, ACS, is board certified sexologist, sexuality educator, and writer. She received her Doctorate in Human Sexuality from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, where she focused on Child and Adolescent Sexuality. She develops curriculum, teaches classes, and works with clients to normalize conversations about sexuality between parents and children.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • How Lanae became interested in child adolescent sexuality
  • Why it’s important to talk to teens about sex
  • How it’s not always sufficient just to rely on schools for sex education
  • The need for clarity and correct information in sex education
  • Ways in which parents can discuss consent with their teens
  • How parents can help facilitate the coming out process for homosexual teens
  • The importance for parents to create a safe space for their teens
  • How parents support their teens if they are engaging in risky sexual behaviour
  • The importance for teens to not fear the reactions of their parents when discussing these issues

 

Resources

http://www.themamasutra.net

MamaSutra@me.com

https://youtu.be/oQbei5JGiT8

https://www.ted.com/talks/al_vernacchio_sex_needs_a_new_metaphor_here_s_one

http://www.uua.org/re/owl 

Phone: +1 (909) 295-2623

 

Aug 01, 2017
Female Sexual Desire with Dr. Deborah Tolman
44:15

Welcome to episode 29 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Deborah Tolman who speaks to me about her research on adolescent sexuality, the double standards that exist between boys and girls around sexuality and recommendations for parents to help their teenage girls through these challenges.

 

Deborah L. Tolman is a developmental psychologist and the co-founder of SPARK: Sexualization Protest: Action, Resistance, Knowledge. She is the author of Dilemmas of Desire: Teenage Girls Talk about Sexuality, which was awarded the 2003 Distinguished Book Award from the Association for Women in Psychology. Deborah received her Ed.D from Harvard University in 1992. She is also the former director of the Center for Research on Gender and Sexuality, and professor of human sexuality studies at San Francisco State University. Before relocating to San Francisco, she was a senior research scientist and the director of the Gender and Sexuality Project at the Center for Research on Women at Wellesley College.

 

Deborah is currently a professor of social welfare and psychology at the Hunter College School of Social Work and the Graduate Center of CUNY. Her research on adolescent sexuality, gender development, gender equity and research methods has been funded by grants from the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development, the Department of Health and Human Services, the Ford Foundation, and the Spencer Foundation.

 

In October 2010, Deborah co-founded SPARK (Sexualization Protest: Action, Resistance, Knowledge), an intergenerational "girl-fueled" movement building organization (with Lyn Mikel Brown) dedicated to challenging the sexualization of girls by engaging girls to be activists and working with partner organizations around the country. SPARK links academia to activism and demonstrates an alternative to the divisive "wave metaphor" regarding feminism.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • Details on her research on adolescent sexuality
  • The importance of differentiating teens and young adults in the research
  • How the results and language terminology differ between teens and young adults
  • The pressures teen girls and young women face around slut shaming
  • The double standards that exist between boys and girls around sexuality
  • How young women and teens are pressuring themselves to achieve “the perfect image”  
  • The negative connotations that exist when trying to open up feelings around sexuality
  • The implications eating disorders can have on self-image and sexuality
  • Recommendations for parents to help their teenage girls through these challenges

 

Resources

http://sexgenlab.org

https://www.facebook.com/sexgenlab

http://www.sparkmovement.org

Jul 24, 2017
Sex and Intercultural Relationships ft Dr. Dana Nelson
38:30

Welcome to episode 28 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dana Nelson who is an American psychologist and counselor living and practicing in Lyon, France (Rhône-Alpes region). In this episode Dana talks about how she became involved in working with inter-cultural relationships, how a person’s cultural background can play into their expectation around sex and the underlying reasons we’re attracted to people from different cultures.

 

Dana Nelson is an American psychologist and psychotherapist, originally from Northern Virginia, who now lives and practices in Lyon, France. She completed her masters degree and PhD in Clinical Psychology from Penn State University, and worked for a number of years in community mental health as well as university counselling center settings prior to moving to France in 2014. While in graduate school in rural central Pennsylvania (one of the least likely place to meet a Frenchman, you would think!), Dana met her current partner, a French international student working on his PhD in engineering at that time. After 3 years together in the US, they both graduated, and he moved back to France for a job. Then, after 2 years of being in a super long-distance relationship from Pennsylvania to France, Dana decided to embark on her first-ever experience of living abroad and moved to France to join him. They now live together in Lyon, and Dana opened her private practice there last year, where she works with English-speaking expats, intercultural couples, international students, and others living abroad. Dana's most recent adventure has been starting a podcast of her own, called Mindful Expat, which focuses on issues of emotional wellbeing and resilience for expats, intercultural couples, and others living abroad. 

 

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • How Dana became involved in working with inter-cultural relationships
  • The underlying reasons we’re attracted to people from different cultures
  • How modern technology has allowed us to have relationships with people all over the world
  • Sexual experiences; how inter-cultural couples rate their experiences compared to couples of the same culture
  • The need for honest and open communication when in an inter-cultural relationship
  • How a person’s cultural background can play into their expectation around sex
  • Learning to be respectful and understanding of a person’s cultural background when in an inter-cultural relationship
  • The importance of seeing things from your partners perspective
  • Seeing and understanding your partner as their true authentic selves

 

Resources

http://www.dananelsoncounseling.com/mindful-expat-podcast/

Jul 18, 2017
Sexuality in Game of Thrones
34:07

Welcome to episode 27 of the Sexology Podcast, in the run up to the release of season 7 of Game of Thrones, my guest today is Tamara Powell, LMHC who speaks to me about why as sex therapist she thinks Game of Thrones stands out from other TV shows, the attraction we have to the powerful roles women have in the show and why we are fascinated with sexual war.

 

Tamara is the owner of Arya Therapy Services, the now global phenomenon in holistic health and healing. She is also the founder Tales from a Trapezoid dedicated to the more raw and edgier side of life, working with those who may often feel like a trapezoid in a world full of circles.

 

Most recently, she launched her own podcast Undressing The Spirit, where through stories and interviews, she takes listeners behind the veil of counseling into erotic, relational, and spiritual diversity, uncovering how to accomplish mankind’s greatest challenge – finding purpose and passion no matter the worldview or proclivity.

 In this episode, you will hear:

  • Why Tamara thinks Game of Thrones stands out from other TV shows
  • How it reminds her of Nancy Friday’s seminal work in the 70’s & 80’s
  • The attraction we have to the powerful roles women have in Game of Thrones
  • Why we are fascinated with sexual war
  • How the show can give you ideas for your own fantasies with your partner
  • Misconceptions about why Game of Thrones is sexually appealing
  • Why the forbidden is attracting and exciting
  • How people are too quick to relate the show to pornography
  • The way women’s sexual desires are represented through characters such as Daenerys Targaryen
  • The sexual power dynamics that exist in the show

For more great content please check out https://oasis2care.com

 

Resources

https://aryatherapy.com

https://aryatherapy.com/about-the-podcast (Undressing The Spirit Podcast)

https://talesfromatrapezoid.com

https://www.facebook.com/talesfromatrapezoid

http://www.hbo.com/game-of-thrones

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Books-Nancy-Friday/s?ie=UTF8&page=1&rh=n%3A266239%2Cp_27%3ANancy%20Friday

Jul 11, 2017
The Hidden World of BDSM with Amanda Pasciucco LMFT
30:35

Welcome to episode 26 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is , who speaks to me about the psychological effects that BDSM behaviours can have, the similarities between BDSM and Tantra and the roles that submissive and dominant play in BDSM. 

Amanda Pasciucco, LMFT is a marriage & family therapy provider who practices in West Hartford, CT. She is also the author of "Playtime: Not Just for Children" and she is known as "The Sex Doctor." In addition to her expertise in the field of sexuality, her specialties include couples counseling, eating disorders, alternative relationship styles, anxiety, depression, and ADHD. By mutually establishing goals with clients, Amanda uses coaching and therapy to overcoming current struggles and barriers.

Amanda believes that everyone out there has the potential to have an amazing life: personally, socially, relationally, and sexually. She will help make you healthier and happier by assessing your emotional, physical, spiritual, and intellectual life experiences and equip you with the tools to accomplish your goals!

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The definition of BDSM – bondage & discipline, dominance & submission and sadism & masochism
  • The psychological effects that BDSM behaviours can have
  • How there is a lot of trust within BDSM
  • The deep level of communication that exists within BDSM
  • Common behaviours that Amanda see’s
  • The similarities between BDSM and Tantra
  • The misconceptions created by Fifty Shades of Grey
  • Ways in which our culture can create feelings of shame in this area
  • Recommendations for the first ways you can start to get involved in BDSM
  • The roles that submissive and dominant play in BDSM
  • The need for negotiation, compromise and understanding when engaging with BDSM
  • How to bring up your interest in BDSM with your partner
  • Why Amanda wrote her book “Playtime: A Guide To Sexual Conquests For Women”

Resources

https://sexandmagic.com

https://www.amazon.com/Playtime-Children-Guide-Sexual-Conquests-ebook/dp/B06X9WM66S/

Jul 04, 2017
Signs of a Healthy Sexual Relationship with Jessa Zimmerman MA
29:45

Welcome to episode 25 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Jessa Zimmerman, who outlines some of the most common mistakes couples make in the bedroom!


Jessa Zimmerman is a licensed mental health counselor and a nationally certified sex therapist. She works in private in downtown Seattle and specializes in working with couples struggling with issues of sex and intimacy.

Jessa earned a Masters in Psychology from LIOS Graduate College of Saybrook University, working through a program that emphasized family systems theory and experiential learning. Upon completion of that degree, she earned a Certificate in Sex Therapy from the University of Michigan. Combining those credentials with many hours of supervision and client work, she earned her certification as a sex therapist through the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). She has pursued advanced training in approaches to couples therapy, including Crucible™ Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT).

Jessa has developed an online quiz that helps couples get a sense of the health of their relationship across several parameters. One of those measures is sexual avoidance. She is currently writing a book on the topic of the avoidance cycle and how couples can address the issues that cause them to avoid sex so that they can share a fulfilling sex life.

 

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • Why she created her quiz; how healthy is your sex life?
  • Healthy aspects of sexuality Jess see’s in couples
  • How couples can slowly lose interest in sex and need new fantasies
  • The pressure of running out of new ideas for sex
  • Deepening your relationship to help increase intimacy
  • The need to be open and able to communicate with your partner about these issues
  • Overcoming unresolved sexual issues that can spill into a relationship
  • Contributing factors that lead to sexual avoidance
  • How porn is sexual entertainment, not education  
  • The need to keep educated about sexual issues
  • Ways in which you can begin to overcome sexual avoidance
  • Developing healthy habits for your sex life

 

Resources

http://www.jesszimmerman.com

http://seattlecouplescounselor.com/sex-quiz/

https://www.amazon.com/Guide-Getting-Paul-Joannides-Psy-D/dp/1885535457

Jun 27, 2017
Celibacy & Desire with Dr. Carmen Roman
37:48

Welcome to episode 24 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Carmen Roman, who speaks to me about she got into the line of work of celibacy, how people live without sex and the unintended consequences of not being sexual. 

Dr Roman is a psychotherapist with 25 years of experience working in both Mexico and 5+ years in California. She is known for her ability to create a safe place to help you to explore your deepest feelings and tap into your inner wisdom or get resources to cope with emotional trauma. Using Gestalt Therapy and transpersonal psychology, she will support you to live with awareness and responsibility to create the transformation you are longing for.

Her clients are psychologists, counselors, religious leaders, and people in the entertainment industry. Based on Gestalt therapy she helps clients to live with awareness, responsibility and in the here-and-now. Aided by the transpersonal psychology she addresses issues of spirituality, the use of meditation and paranormal experiences.

She is a specialist in creative expression in therapy at master’s and PhD levels. All those credentials are a toolbox to her as she tailors them to your needs. She uses the science of psychology as needed in every case. Her focus is your transformation and the improvement in your relationships.

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • How Dr. Roman became involved in this work
  • Details on her workshop on celibacy which she has ran for the last 15 years
  • The relation between sexual abuse and celibacy
  • Issues surrounding male values over female values
  • How celibacy means only to be unmarried and not to withdraw from sex
  • How religious interpretations of celibacy have changed over the centuries
  • Ways in which in priests or people of faith deal with celibacy
  • Her thoughts on sexual abuse that has happened within religious organisations
  • The need to not put priests or other religious people outside of scrutiny when dealing with sexual abuse
  • The unintended consequences of not being sexual

 

Resources

http://www.carmenroman.net

http://www.carmenroman.net/emotions-in-harmony-podcast.html

Jun 20, 2017
Sex & Technology with Dr. Katherine M. Hertlein, Ph.D.
30:31

Welcome to episode 23 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Katherine M. Hertlein, Ph.D., who speaks to me about how the internet has impacted our sex lives, defining compulsivity in relation to pornography and how social media can hinder our real life social skills. 

Katherine M. Hertlein, Ph.D., is a Professor and Program Director of the Marriage and Family Therapy Program at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. She received her master’s in marriage and family therapy from Purdue University Calumet and her doctorate in human development with a specialization in marriage and family therapy from Virginia Tech. She is a globally recognized researcher studying sexuality, technology, and its effects on couples. As she examines the role of technology in couple and family life, Hertlein has developed the first multi-theoretical model on this issue.

In addition to technology and relationships, Hertlein’s other areas of expertise include infidelity, sexuality, high-risk sexual behavior, child and adolescent therapy, and cyber issues in couple and family therapy. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist, an American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy Approved Supervisor, and a PREPARE/ENRICH Certified Counselor.

Hertlein has co-authored 8 books, including Handbook for the Clinical Treatment of Infidelity, The Therapist’s Notebook for Family Healthcare, Handbook for the Treatment of Infidelity, Systemic Sex Therapy, and A Clinician’s Guide to Systemic Sex Therapy, the last revision of which won the 2017 AASECT Book Award. She has published more than 60 articles in the notable journals in her field, contributed over 40 chapters to books, and serves on the editorial boards for several academic journals. She was recently appointed as the Editor-in-Chief of the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy.

Hertlein has also won several awards for her teaching, mentorship, and work in the field of sexuality research, including the Integrated Approaches to Sex Therapy Award through AASECT. 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • How the internet has impacted our sex lives
  • The impact of pornography on self-esteem
  • How too much consumption of pornography can lead to a higher and higher need for stimulative images / videos
  • The side effects of watching too much porn; erectile dysfunction
  • Defining compulsivity in relation to pornography
  • How the internet has impacted people’s sexual behaviour and infidelity
  • The need for more people to show their vulnerability
  • How we have our “edited versions” of ourselves on social media
  • Sexting; what it is and the benefits and risks that come with it
  • How social media can hinder our real life social skills

 

Resources

https://www.unlv.edu/news/expert/katherine-m-hertlein

http://oasis2care.com/

katherine.hertlein@unlv.edu

https://www.amazon.com/Systemic-Sex-Therapy-Katherine-Hertlein/dp/0415738245

 

Jun 13, 2017
The World of Fetishes with Joe Zarate-Sanderlin LMFT
31:50

Welcome to episode 22 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Joe Zarate-Sanderlin. In this episode, we talk about the psychology behind sexual fetishes.

 Joe ZaRAte-SANderlin is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist seeing clients in private practice in San Francisco, California. He has been active in the open relationship and BDSM communities in New York, Boston, and San Francisco for nearly 20 years.  He earned his Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology at Pacifica Graduate Institute in Montecito, California. Pacifica highlights the need for therapists to do their own inner work. As a part of this, Joe has examined the role of the unconscious dark side of the personality, often called The Shadow, in his own life and in the lives of his clients.

As a part of his training as a therapist, he worked under the supervision of Dossie Easton, co-author of The Ethical Slut, The Topping Book, and The Bottoming Book. For two and half years, he primarily saw clients in open relationships and BDSM relationships under Dossie’s guidance. In addition to working with Dossie, Joe was a counselor in a Catholic elementary school for three years and he volunteered at a low-few non-profit therapy clinic in San Francisco for four years.

His interest in alternative sexuality includes helping normalize some activities that can carry a stigma while recognizing that those activities can sometimes become disordered and cause stress. He has focused on unpacking the shame that many people feel regarding their sexuality. He is also interested in the historical and cultural aspects of relationships and sexuality and he is passionate about challenging the bias toward hetero- and mono- normative relationships and toward binary views of gender.

Since he became licensed in 2013, he has continues his focus on working with clients in the LGBT, open relationship, and BDSM communities. He is a member of both Gaylesta and Bay Area Open Minds, two San Francisco Bay Area based organizations that promote and support therapists working with LGBT, open relationship, BDSM, and alternative sexuality communities. He was recently named to the Bay Area Open Minds board as social coordinator.

Joe has conducted trainings for other therapists on couples therapy, BDSM, open relationships, and talking to clients about about sex as well as guest lectured about couples therapy on the master’s level. He is in the early stages of writing a book about the role of attachment in open relationships.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • What sexual fetishes are
  • How sexual fetishes can be healthy for people
  • The more common fetishes Joe see’s in his practice
  • How there could be many more people with fetishes than we realize
  • The role society plays around this issue
  • How people with fetishes can still be aroused without fetishes
  • Ways in which people develop fetishes
  • How shame and guilt plays a big role in fetishes
  • Creating safe spaces for people to be able to talk about fetishes
  • Ways in which to support someone in y our life who has a fetish
  • The need for good communication and engagement

 

Resources

http://www.jzsmft.com

Jun 06, 2017
Mismatched Libido with Renelle Nelson LMFT
41:13

Welcome to episode 21 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Renelle E. Nelson who is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. She has been providing therapy for over 11 years. In this episode, she talks about what it means to have a low libido, how it’s not a one-person problem but a couple’s problem and recommendations for couples dealing with this issue. 

Renelle hails from the state of Milwaukee, Wisconsin and got indulged in the profession of Marriage and Family Therapy in Grad School. Renelle was able to attain the first-hand knowledge of the silenced suffering and agony of women specifically due to lack of education and self-awareness, while working at A Woman’s Touch Sexuality Resource Center. These experiences led her to transition her passion of working for the betterment of women and others into a profession as an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist.

 

Over the years, Renelle has worked exclusively with a large number of men and women and families who are in need of assistance, guidance, and counseling. Renelle has been able to work in tandem with a great number of her clients and has been able to successfully find the plausible solutions of their problems related family and sex life. Renelle is a self-proclaimed self-pleasuring advocate who is always on the lookout for opportunities to spread the knowledge regarding the many benefits and advantages of self-pleasuring, and self- love with the world. Renelle has spoken at a numerous renowned speaking events on topics regarding self-pleasuring and depression concerned to oppressed sexual life and problems.

Renelle is also an owner of Kaleidoscope Services LLC which is a platform specifically made for the purpose of enhancing common individual knowledge regarding these sexual aspects of life and their connection with the issues related to anxiety and depression. Renelle primary objective is to use her remarkable skills and natural talents to enhance, educate, and excite the people life in and out of the bedroom.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • What it means to have a low libido
  • The definitions of a low libido and what is defined as normal
  • Why you shouldn’t compare your sex drive to what it was like when you were younger
  • Struggles with desire
  • How it’s not a one-person problem but a couple’s problem
  • The need for good communication around this issue
  • Unresolved issues around anger
  • How high levels of stress can affect your sex life
  • The controlling power dynamic
  • How the ideas of being defective can produce feelings of shame
  • The effects of getting sexual information from pornography
  • The difference from having a low libido and being a-sexual
  • Utilizing sexual novelties
  • Recommendations for couples dealing with this issue

 

Resources

https://kaleidoscopeservicesllc.org

https://www.facebook.com/kaleidoscopeservices

May 30, 2017
The Science Behind Female Ejaculation
32:45

Welcome to episode 20 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Deborah Sundahl, who speaks to me about female ejaculation, the misconceptions, how all women have the capability to ejaculate, ways in which to learn how to ejaculate and the psychological and physiological benefits from ejaculating.

Deborah Sundahl is the foremost pioneer, popular expert on female ejaculation and the G-spot. She is the author of the seminal book, Female Ejaculation and the G-spot (Hunter House, 2003/2014). Her 30 years of groundbreaking contributions to this field include a line of videos titled the Female Ejaculation Sex Education Series (Isis Media, Inc.), which Deborah produced and hosts. She lectures and gives workshops in North America and Europe, and has taught thousands of men and women how to integrate the G-spot and female ejaculation into their erotic lives. She continues to be a spokesperson for female sexuality and an advocate for sex education. 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The definition of female ejaculation
  • Scientific studies that show what female ejaculation is
  • How ancient cultures knew about female ejaculation
  • How all women have the capability to ejaculate
  • Misconceptions around this issue
  • The need for more educational material on this topic
  • Psychological and physiological benefits
  • The role Tantra has played over the years for female ejaculation
  • The empowerment that comes with honouring your body and sex life
  • Ways in which to learn how to ejaculate
  • The need to stimulate the g spot to ejaculate
  • The need to let go and not confuse urine with ejaculate
  • How spirituality can play an important role around this issue

  

Resources

http://deborahsundahl.com

https://www.amazon.com/Female-Ejaculation-G-Spot-Deborah-Sundahl-ebook/dp/B013KT9X1E/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1495550489&sr=8-1&keywords=female+ejaculation+deborah+sundahl 

May 23, 2017
Sexless Marriage with Laurie Watson LMFT
41:55

Welcome to episode 19 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Laurie Watson, LMFT. In this episode we talk about how you can get the spark back, and the importance of understanding different sex drives and ways to address them.

Laurie is a certified sex therapist who has twenty-five years of experience working with couples and individuals about love and sex. Laurie says, “I’ve never seen a couple who I didn’t feel hope about their healing and happiness. The difficulty is convincing them to give up the idea that only their partner will have to change!”

She authored her first book Wanting Sex Again – How to Rediscover Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage (Penguin) in December 2012. A popular blogger for the general public with over 1.6 million reads on Psychology Today Online in Married and Still Doing It, Laurie also lectures professionals at Duke’s and UNC Chapel Hill’s medical schools on sexual function and dysfunction. Featured in her hometown in the N&O, Laurie has also been published or quoted in most every nationally popular magazine like Glamour, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, etc.

A popular media figure, she has appeared on the Katie Couric Show and is regularly on radio and television in Raleigh and Greensboro. Director/owner of Awakenings, Center for Intimacy and Sexuality, Laurie supervises 6 clinicians in both Raleigh and Greensboro.

She’s a member of St. Michael’s Episcopal Church, has been married for 30 years and has three grown sons.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How important sex is, in a marriage
  • What are some of the causes of a sexless marriage
  • How couples can develop a power struggle in a relationship through a sexless marriage
  • Ways in which in couples can reconnect
  • The different sexual dynamics between a man and a woman that can lead to a sexless marriage
  • Understanding each other’s sex drives, what works and doesn’t work in the bedroom
  • The need for women to have clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, only 15% of women reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation
  • How couples can get stuck in a loop of not having sex
  • Overcoming the stresses of modern life, work, kids etc to have a healthy sex life
  • The different reasons why men and women will withdraw from sex

 

Resources

http://awakeningscenter.org

http://awakeningscenter.org/test-sign-up

May 16, 2017
Myths and Misconceptions about Abortion with Dr. Debra Mollen
31:20

Welcome to episode 18 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Debra Mollen. In this show she discusses women’s reproductive rights, the myths and misconceptions around abortion and the consequences of limiting reproductive rights; e.g. DIY abortions.

Debra Mollen is a psychologist, Professor, and Director of the Counseling Psychology Master’s Program at Texas Woman's University in Denton, Texas. She has published scholarship on women’s sexuality, multiculturalism, reproductive justice, and professional development in various academic journals. Debra is a recognized as a Certified Sexuality Educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists and was the 2016 recipient of the Distinguished Graduate Faculty Award from her university. She is a Co-Chair for the Revision of the American Psychological Association Guidelines for the Psychological Practice with Girls and Women and past-Chairperson of the Division 17 (Counseling Psychology) Section for the Advancement of Women

Her specialties include: Multicultural awareness and diversity training, training and professional identity, sexuality education, childfree women, feminist theory and therapy

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • The rights women have when it comes to reproduction
  • The myths and misconceptions around abortion
  • How women can feel a sense of alienation and hopelessness when confronted with abortion
  • How there isn’t any recognizable science or data for “Post Traumatic Abortion Syndrome”
  • The ways in which our culture can pressure women into motherhood
  • How our modern society can romanticize having children
  • How limiting women’s reproductive rights could influence their sexuality
  • Consequences of limiting reproductive rights; DIY abortions.
  • Knock on effects: trauma, anxiety, and depression
  • How legislators are chipping away at women’s reproductive rights
  • Ways in which to counteract the legislators
  • The need for good quality education and information on this issue

 For more great content check out www.sexologypodcast.com

 

Resources

http://www.worldsexology.org/resources

dmollen@mail.twu.edu

http://www.worldsexology.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/declaration_of_sexual_rights_sep03_2014.pdf

https://www.prochoiceamerica.org/

https://www.guttmacher.org/

http://www.siecus.org/

https://www.aasect.org/

May 09, 2017
The Fantasy Bond with Dr. Lisa Firestone
31:26

Welcome to episode 17 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Lisa Firestone. In this episode, Dr. Firestone talks about the definition of a “Fantasy Bond”, childhood experiences that can affect your sexuality and the need for self-compassion around these issues. 

Dr. Lisa Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association. An accomplished and much requested lecturer, Dr. Firestone speaks at national and international conferences in the areas of couple relations, parenting, and suicide and violence prevention. Dr. Firestone has published numerous professional articles, and most recently was the co-author of Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships (APA Books, 2006), Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice (New Harbinger, 2002), Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: The Wisdom of Psychotherapy (APA Books, 2003) and The Self Under Siege (Routledge, 2012).

In this episode, you will hear:  

  • The definition of a “Fantasy Bond”
  • How common it is for people to experience the Fantasy Bond
  • Repeating destructive behaviours throughout different relationships
  • Being able to experience healthy sexuality without acting out from your past
  • Childhood experiences that can affect your sexuality
  • Identifying if you’re reacting in a fantasy bond as opposed to reacting authentically
  • The need for some people to have certain fantasies to be aroused
  • The importance of being vulnerable with your partner in a relationship
  • Overcoming the shame that not being vulnerable can create
  • Why both partners in a relationship need to be authentic with each other
  • Voice Therapy – How it works and its similarities to Narrative Therapy
  • The need for self-compassion and not be too self-critical 

Resources

https://www.psychalive.org

https://www.sexologypodcast.com

lfirestone@glendon.org

http://drlisafirestone.com

May 02, 2017
How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex with Tara Spears LMFT
31:28

Welcome to episode 16 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is the creator of Talk Sex with Me, Tara Spears, LMFT, LMHC. In this episode, Tara talks about ways in which parents can support their children through the journey of sexual discovery, how to navigate the situation of your children discovering pornography and clarifying and communicating your own sexual values to your child.

Talk Sex with Me was created by Tara Spears. Ms. Spears graduated with a Master’s Degree in Counselor Education from the University of Central Florida in 2005. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Sex Therapist. She has over ten years of experience working with individuals, children, families and couples encountering a variety of hardships in life. After spending, most of her career responding reactively to situations or intervening after a crisis (i.e. a child’s removal from the home, failed adoption, and the aftermath of abuse), Ms. Spears decided to take a more proactive approach.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How Tara became involved in this line of work
  • The appropriate age for parents to start talking about sex with their children
  • Why parents shouldn’t over-react if they find their children masturbating
  • Ways in which parents can support their children through the journey of sexual discovery
  • Clarifying your own sexual values
  • Communicating those values to your child
  • Knowing the distinction between sexual education and “putting sexual ideas” into your child’s mind
  • How to navigate the situation of your children discovering pornography
  • Making sure pornography doesn’t set their expectation for sex
  • Communicating to younger children if they walk in on their parents having sex
  • The best ways to react if your child becomes pregnant or impregnates someone else
  • Negative connotations in school sex education and how to navigate around this issue

For more great content please check out www.sexologypodcast.com

 

Resources

https://talksexwithme.com

talksexwme@gmail.com

Apr 25, 2017
The Power of Masturbation with Dr. Jennifer Gunsaullus
34:51

Welcome to episode 15 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is sociologist and sexologist Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus. In this episode, you will hear Dr. Gunsaullus talk about the normality of masturbation and how often people engage in it, positive effects from masturbation and ways in which parents can positively communicate with their children about masturbation.

Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, sociologist and sexologist, is a frequent speaker about sexual empowerment, healthy relationships, body image, erotic play, sexual consent, sexual health, and mindfulness. She has presented two TEDx Talks, is a writer on sex and relationships, and a recurring intimacy expert on the San Diego morning news. Her In the Den with Dr. Jenn educational video series has over 1.3 million hits on YouTube and she is an expert in the new documentary on masturbation, called Sticky: A (Self) Love Story. In addition, as a martial arts practitioner, she was recently promoted to black belt in Korean karate -- so watch out for this badass doctor!

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • The normality of masturbation and how often people do it
  • How it’s normal for children to discover masturbation
  • General concerns people have, is it harmful?
  • How cultural and religious beliefs have negatively impacted people’s views on masturbation
  • Misinformation – No, you can’t go blind from masturbation
  • Positive effects from masturbation, mentally and physically
  • Overcoming shame and embarrassment with meditative masturbation
  • Masturbating in a relationship, does it hurt the relationship?
  • Having open communication with your partner on this issue
  • The psychological effects using toys and vibrators can have
  • Ways in which parents can positively communicate with their children about masturbation
  • How many of our currently held cultural views of masturbation were created in the 19th and 20th century

For more great content check out www.sexologypodcast.com 

Resources

http://www.drjennsden.com

http://www.drjennsden.com/meditative-masturbation

Apr 18, 2017
Sexual Empowerment with Dr. Patti Britton
30:28

Sexology Podcast EP14 - Sexual Empowerment with Dr. Patti Britton

 

Welcome to episode 14 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Clinical Sexologist and Sexuality Educator, Dr. Patti Britton. In this episode, Dr. Britton talks about what sexual empowerment entails, how shaming yourself is one of the biggest blocks to sexual pleasure and becoming more authentic and cultivating erotic authenticity.

 

With over 35 years of experience and pedigreed credentials as a Clinical Sexologist and Sexuality Educator, Dr. Patti Britton has built a reputation as a pioneer of sex coaching. Her methodologies for helping individuals and couples achieve their desired sexual potential are well known among professionals in her industry. As co-founder of SexCoachU, she has trained hundreds of sex coaches throughout the world, spreading her groundbreaking approach to sexual healing. Dr. Patti’s work has been featured on national TV programs, such as The Montel Show, Hard Copy, CNBC, and CBS News. She raised the bar in her field when she published the first book on Sex Coaching, entitled ‘The Art of Sex Coaching: Expanding Your Practice’.

 

While her methods and unique approach have developed into training other sex coaches, Dr. Patti’s true passion lies in working with individuals and couples to achieve their sexual goals. Whether it’s a desire to heal sexual dysfunction, overcome shame, or deepen an intimate connection, Dr. Patti is at right at home with finding the solution.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • What sexual empowerment usually entails
  • Sexual actualisation and realisation and the right to feel pleasure
  • Some of the factors that lead to people losing their sexual power and desire
  • How shaming yourself is one of the biggest blocks to sexual pleasure
  • Ways in which to refresh your sex life
  • Clarifying your views around sexuality
  • SAR – Sexual Attitude Reassessment and Restructuring
  • Allowing yourself to enjoy sexual pleasure and masturbation
  • Navigating your value system with your sexual desires
  • Becoming more authentic and cultivating erotic authenticity
  • How things have changed since the release of Fifty Shades of Grey

 

Resources

http://drpattibritton.com

http://drpattibritton.com/free-gift-for-her-pleasure/

 

For more great content please check out www.sexologyposcast.com

Apr 11, 2017
Recovering from Unhealthy Sexual Shame
36:02

Welcome to episode 13 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is sex and relationship coach; Pam Costa. In this episode, Pam talks about how she began her journey into educating people about sexuality, the ways in which shame can shape our sexuality and how you can build shame resiliency.

After a decade and a half at Apple and Facebook, Pam left her career in high tech to found Down To There to share her real-life stories of challenges and successes around sexuality in her marriage. She hopes that her journey from struggling with sexual desire to a now rich and rewarding sex life can provide an example of how normal issues with desire can be, and how these issues can provide unexpected pathways for increased intimacy and connection.

As a Somatica® sex and relationship coach, she enjoys working with individuals and couples of all configurations to explore what is possible emotionally and erotically in their relationships. She is currently accepting and seeing clients over Skype and in-person in her office in Cupertino, CA. She also provides content and guidance for Down To There Circles: free, peer-led discussion groups, where friends can support and inspire each other around sex and relationships.

Her ongoing studies include training with San Francisco Sex Information (SFSI), American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT), JFK University's holistic counseling program and the Somatica® Institute.

Her writing has been featured on Huffington Post, Mindful and Psyched and she has also spoken at the Wisdom 2.0 and Inman conferences.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How Pam began her journey into educating people about sexuality
  • The ways in which shame can shape our sexuality
  • Body shaming; and how it can affect sex
  • The difficulties in communicating what you want sexually, leading to vulnerability
  • How poor sex education can lead to shaming
  • Not having enough information on sex from our parents
  • The affects religion can have on sex and correct information around sex
  • Mixed messages that children can pick up from their parents about sex
  • Identifying your own shame and figuring out where it came from
  • Being scared to share your shame with your partner
  • Building shame resiliency
  • How shame can affect other things outside of sex; eating disorders, addictions etc.
  • Communicating with your close friends about shame

 

Resources

https://www.downtothere.com

For more great content please check out www.sexologypodcast.com

Apr 04, 2017
Maintaining Pleasure: Male Edition
33:26

Welcome to episode 12 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m speaking to Natalie Finegood Goldberg, LMFT, CST about the issues surrounding erectile dysfunction. In this episode, Natalie talks about the causes of erectile dysfunction, its physiological and psychological factors contributing to this struggles and steps that can be taken to overcome this issue.

Natalie Finegood Goldberg is an AASECT Certified Los Angeles Sex Therapist and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFC #53017) specializing in sex therapy and psychotherapy. Working with individuals and couples, Natalie offers therapy services at her private practice in Beverly Hills. Previous work experience includes being a staff clinical associate at Center for Healthy Sex in West Los Angeles, as well as having previously worked at Cliffside Malibu, a dual diagnosis inpatient drug and alcohol rehab. Natalie was born and raised in Los Angeles and is familiar with the variety of pressures that come with living in LA. 

In addition to her degrees, Natalie has participated in a variety of trainings including a Clinical Sexology training with Dr. Patti Britton, Bridging the Couple Chasm: A Research Based Approach by Drs John and Julie Gottman, and the Sex Addiction Treatment Training Program with Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST-S. Natalie completed the rigorous requirements to become a sex therapist through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) under the supervision of Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST-S and Dr Tammy Nelson, CST-S. Natalie is trained in EMDR Therapy with advanced training in AF-EMDR (Attachment Focused EMDR) with Dr Laurel Parnell. 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • The physical and psychological reasons why erections occur
  • How as men get older they need a mixture of physical and psychological stimulation to get an erection
  • The criteria that needs to be met to be diagnosed with erectile dysfunction
  • How erectile dysfunction is related to all sexual activity, not just for example masturbation
  • The physiological and psychological causes of erectile dysfunction
  • Why men prefer the problem to be physiological
  • How taking Viagra can make things worse if the problem is psychological
  • The effects anxiety can have in relation to erectile dysfunction
  • The impact erectile dysfunction can have on couples / relationships
  • How masturbation and pornography can affect erectile dysfunction
  • Available treatments both medically and psychologically
  • The average time treatments can take
  • The additional benefits mindfulness can bring
  • The importance of communication to help overcome this issue
  • Ways you can regain your sexual energy
  • Understanding that erectile dysfunction is a multi-layered issue that needs ongoing support

 

 

Resources

http://www.creatingchangela.com

natalie@creatingchangela.com

Mar 28, 2017
4 Sex Myths as Explained by Science
24:30

Welcome to episode 11 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m going to talk about 4 myths around sex that I see are very common in my practice. Originally, I wanted to do 13 myths to tie in with the Persian new year but that might have taken a little while to record… So the myths I have chosen are the ones I hear most frequently in my practice, and I hope this episode will shed some light and truth on these myths.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

Myth 1 – Penis size dictates a woman’s sexual pleasure

 

  • The average penis size when erect is around 13cm or anywhere between 9 – 16cm
  • In inches, the average size is from 4.7 to 5.1 inches
  • How the medias idea of 7 inches being the average size is wrong
  • How shame and anxiety come into play because of this myth
  • Research shows that the size of a penis has no true physiological effect on female sexual satisfaction
  • The importance around the perceived size of a man’s penis
  • How men who perceive their penis to be small suffer from sexual confidence
  • Feeling comfortable and confident with your body and penis size to have a good sex life

 

Myth 2 – How masturbation has destructive consequences physiologically and mentally

 

  • Research shows that 60 – 94% of men have masturbated at least once, with 40 – 60% having done it in the last month
  • 43 – 85% of women have masturbated at least once, with 20 – 43% having done it in the last month
  • There’s no known negative consequences physiologically or mentally from masturbation
  • Studies have shown it helps in knowing one’s own needs for sexual pleasure, increased autonomy and body integrity improving self-esteem
  • How the myths of masturbation date back to the 17th century
  • How the majority of people continue masturbating when in a committed relationship

 

Myth 3 – Men are obsessed with sex and women don’t think about it

 

  • There’s no data to support the idea that men think about sex every 7 seconds
  • How this myth puts pressure on men to be overly sexual

 

Myth 4 – Vaginal sex is the best way for women to reach orgasm

 

  • How Freud invented the term “Vaginal Orgasm” without scientific basis
  • Most women can’t reach orgasm through vaginal penetration alone, they need clitoris stimulation and other kinds of stimulation to reach orgasm
  • How men can get frustrated because they can’t make women reach orgasm through vaginal penetration alone

 

 

Resources

http://oasis2care.com

Mar 23, 2017
Come As You Are: An Interview with Dr. Emily Nagoski
29:35

Welcome to episode 10 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Emily Nagoski. In this episode, Emily talks about the dual control model and how sex works in the brain, how attachment with our partners affects our sex life and the societal factors that affect women’s sexuality.

Emily is the author of the New York Times bestseller, COME AS YOU ARE: The surprising new science that will transform your sex life (Simon & Schuster, 2015). She has a Ph.D. in Health Behavior with a doctoral concentration in human sexuality from Indiana University (IU), and a Master’s degree (also from IU) in Counseling, with a clinical internship at the Kinsey Institute Sexual Health Clinic. She also has a B.A. in Psychology, with minors in cognitive science and philosophy, from the University of Delaware. While at IU, Emily worked as an educator and docent at the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex Gender and Reproduction. She also taught graduate and undergraduate classes in human sexuality, relationships and communication, stress management, and sex education. 

Emily is also the author of three guides for Ian Kerner’s GoodInBed.com: The Good in Bed Guide to Orally Pleasuring a Man, The Good in Bed Guide to Female Orgasms, and A Scientific Guide to Successful Relationships, as well as both author and narrator of Come as You Are.

A sex nerd among sex nerds, Emily has the lowest Erdős number of any sex educator in the world. She lives in western Massachusetts with two dogs, two cats, and a cartoonist. She’s funnier in real life (and hardly ever speaks in the third person).

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • The dual control model and how sex works in the brain
  • The concept of break and accelerators
  • Sexual relevancy and the importance of context
  • How it’s easier to change our external environments rather than internal
  • Figuring out how to turn of the things that are hitting our sexual brakes
  • Eating disorders; the struggle with self-image
  • How the shame around body shape and size is more harmful than the fat itself
  • Learning to love your partner as their body naturally changes
  • How attachment with our partners affects our sex life
  • Why your brain thinks sex is more exciting at the start of a new relationship
  • Learning to be close with your partner whilst still sexually attracted
  • Societal factors that affect women’s sexuality
  • The taboo of women who love sex, e.g being called a slut
  • Why we shouldn’t live up societies standards for our sexual accelerators and brakes

Resources

http://www.thedirtynormal.com

http://emilynagoski.com/come-as-you-are

https://twitter.com/emilynagoski

Mar 14, 2017
Sexuality and Vulnerability: Lesson Learned As a Dominatrix
40:13

Welcome to episode 09 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Sandra LaMorgese. In this episode, Sandra speaks about how she made her journey into BDSM at the age of 55, misconceptions around the BDSM community and turning openness and vulnerability into a source of empowerment.

Sandra is an author, speaker, and CEO of Attainment Studios, a sex positive business directory website designed to bring together members of the sex-positive community, and for finding solutions for your professional and personal needs. She is an expert in communications, life transformation, authentic living, health, wellness, and intimacy.

Sandra is also an internationally featured Huffington Post blogger, a regular writer for Arianna Huffington’s new health and wellness platform Thrive Global, and among the top 10% of writer on Medium in 2016. She was listed as having the “Coolest Job in NYC” by Thrillist NYC, and her interview and photo shoot with Huffington Post ‘15 Unbelievable Photos of A 60-Year-Old Dominatrix with Her Client‘ article made the ‘MOST SHARED’, WHAT’S HOT and ‘TRENDING’ lists on The Huffington Post in the United States and Australia. 

Her recent book Switch: Time for a Change, is a memoir about how her later profession as a dominatrix ultimately allowed her to change her previously blind adherence to “the rules,” and to enter into a whole different kind of contract with a truer version of herself. Sandra was able to change her thoughts, feelings, and beliefs in order to embrace a passionate and fulfilled life.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Sandra’s background and the different roles she’s had in her career
  • How she made her journey into being a dominatrix at 55 years of age
  • The relationship between vulnerability and authenticity
  • How the internal changes we make to ourselves can impact our surroundings
  • Exploring the unconscious through sexual play
  • How Sandra becomes present and mindful in her BDSM sessions
  • The importance of really connecting when being intimate
  • Misconceptions around the BDSM community
  • The dynamic of dominance and submission
  • How people of power like to be a submissive in BDSM
  • The connection between sexual energy and creativity
  • The importance of trusting the process with BDSM
  • Turning openness and vulnerability into a source of empowerment
  • Giving a voice to our true self
  • Overcoming boredom through excitement and curiosity

 

Resources

http://sandralamorgese.com

https://www.amazon.com/Sandra-Lamorgese-Ph-D/e/B01MCWCQZL

https://twitter.com/SandraLaMorgese

Mar 07, 2017
When Sex Becomes Escape with Duane Osterlind LMFT
29:22

Welcome to episode 08 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Duane Osterlind. In this episode, Duane talks about the issues around sex addiction, how to recognize it, stages of recovery and what a healthy sexuality looks like afterwards. 

As co-founder of NOVUS Mindful Life Institute, Duane Osterlind’s vision is to provide comprehensive care for individuals struggling with process addictions in the utmost confidential, comprehensive and caring environment to ensure clients feel safe and accepted with anticipation that recovery is possible.

Duane has over eight years of experience as a therapist helping individuals find hope and healing. He received his Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from California State University, Long Beach. He has also trained with Patrick Carnes, P.hD., a leading expert in the treatment of sexual addiction issues and author of “Out of the Shadows”. He is a member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT), and the Society of Sexual Health (SASH). MFT#44567

Duane’s clinical focus is on treating individuals and couples struggling with process addictions using a mindfulness and task centered approach. He facilitates the Men’s Sexual Addiction Process Group and well as a DBT group for individuals struggling with anxiety and depression.

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • If people should identify hyper sexual disorder as an addiction
  • Recognizing and distinguishing someone with a diverse sexuality to sex addiction
  • Looking at the compulsive nature of sex addiction
  • The three main domains which identify people struggling with sex addiction
  • Changes in the frequency of acting out behaviour
  • Gender differences
  • Distinguishing the difference between love and sex addiction
  • Links between chemical and sexual addiction
  • Difficulty in forming deep relationships
  • The different stages of recovery
  • The need to have more than just a couple of therapy sessions
  • The process of healing through other group members
  • Going through abstinence and becoming ready for a relationship
  • What healthy sexuality looks like after addiction  
  • The three circle plan and its use in therapy  

 

Resources

https://novusmindfullife.com

https://theaddictedmind.com

Feb 28, 2017
Unleash Your Wild Side with Dr. Stacy
32:30

Welcome to episode 07 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Stacy. In this episode, she speaks to me about how she became involved in the work of sexual inhibition, the issues around boredom and losing interest in sex and the importance of communication.

Dr. Stacy got into the field of Clinical Sexology because of her passion for helping people better connect and experience the best sexual intimacy with themselves or with their partner(s). She holds a Doctorate degree in Human Sexuality in addition to a Masters in Clinical Sexology and is a Certified Sex Coach. She is a member of WASC (World Association of Sex Coaching), including ACS (The American College of Sexologists) which shows that she has the earned top credentials in my field. She also has a BA in Psychology and is a Registered Diagnostic Medical Sonographer and Vascular Sonographer.

She has been a consultant selling adult novelties since 2006 and has had the experience of reaching many men and women to educate them in a fun, positive approach to love, romance and all aspects of sexuality. Her education and own sexual journey and life experience enable her to help you move forward in a positive direction to face the challenges that may lie ahead and to achieve your goals. Coaching is designed to help women, men, of any sexual orientation or gender, address their concerns about sexuality, sexual function, and sexual expression.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How Dr. Stacey became involved in the work of sexual inhibition
  • The definition of sex inhibition
  • Boredom and the issue of losing interest in sex
  • The factors that lead to people developing sex inhibition
  • How there is two kinds of inhibitive sex, primary and secondary
  • Recommendations for women to overcome negative emotions
  • Losing and re-kindling sexual desire in long-term relationships
  • The importance of foreplay
  • Navigating different levels of desire in a relationship
  • How education through pornography can make things worse
  • Gender differences around the issue of inhibition
  • Communicating with your partner openly and positively about these issues

 

Resources

http://www.drstacy.org

https://www.facebook.com/DrStacySexCoach

 

Feb 21, 2017
Demystifying Female Sexuality with Dr. Lonnie Barbach
28:53

Welcome to episode 06 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Lonnie Barbach. In this episode, Lonnie speaks to me about the issues surrounding female sexuality such as faking orgasms, the need for good communication and overcoming boredom to improve sex in a relationship.

 

Dr Barbach's work as a couple’s therapist for more than three decades and the publication of Going the Distance: Finding and Keeping Lifelong Love crafted with David Geisinger, Ph.D., her partner of 32 years, has defined her as an acknowledged expert on intimate relationships. She is skilled in a variety of treatment modalities in treating individuals and couples with problems ranging from anxiety and depression to parenting and communication issues.

 

Considered a pioneer in her field, her dozen books, translated into an equal number of languages, have sold over 4 million copies in the U.S. alone. She is a life member of the American Psychological Association and is currently Director of Content for Happy Couple, a quiz-style game that takes you from dating to building a healthy and sustainable relationship.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • The physiological aspects of a woman reaching an orgasm
  • The need for a slow build up and feeling safe in the relationship
  • Faking orgasms and teaching your partner that the wrong things are right
  • Difficulties in finding good information and believing external standards
  • Good starting points for couples exploring what they like to do sexually
  • Studies which highlight what makes for a great relationship / marriage
  • Issues around boredom, overworking and not prioritizing the relationship
  • Importance of communication
  • Things that hinder women to experience arousal
  • How differences in amount of desire needed can affect a relationship
  • How not being so goal oriented can improve the experience for most people
  • Reading resources together to improve sex
  • Why Lonnie created “Happy Couple” (A couple’s game app)

 

Resources

http://www.happycouple.co

http://www.lonniebarbach.com

Feb 14, 2017
Understanding Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity
32:56

Welcome to episode 05 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Abigail Weissman. In this interview with Abi, she speaks to me about the difference between sexual orientation and gender identity, how she began her work on gender identity and the importance of language and pronouns in this area.

 

Abigail "Abi" Weissman, Psy.D. (PSY 27497) is a feminist and lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans*, and queer, intersex, and questioning (LGBTQIQ)- affirming, polyamory - affirming, BDSM/kink - friendly, multiculturally competent, clinical psychologist who is warm, welcoming, and empowering with a wealth of clinical experience. She has a Master of Arts in Human Sexuality studies and a Doctorate and Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology. She hails from the East Coast by way of the Bay Area, CA. When not providing psychotherapy, training, or consultation, she can be found reading the latest research on queer sexuality, gender identity, and spending time with her family and friends.

pronouns: she, her, hers

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • The difference between sexual orientation and gender identity
  • How one’s internal sense of self is how you determine gender identity
  • Association of politics in gender identity
  • Working with teens, dealing with exploration
  • What it means to have a gender that is neither male or female
  • When people first notice their gender identity
  • How gender identity can be discovered as young as two and half years of age
  • Support parents can offer to children issues around gender identity; bullying etc
  • Misconceptions around transgender women and men
  • Barriers around surgery for transgender people
  • The importance of use of language and pronouns in these issues

 

 

Resources

http://www.doctorabi.com

http://www.glsen.org

Call - (619) 403-5578

Email - info@doctorabi.com

Feb 07, 2017
The Reality of Hook Up Culture
31:55

Welcome to episode 04 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Lisa Wade. Lisa is an associate professor of sociology at Occidental College. In this conversation, Lisa talks in-depth about the history of hook up culture, its impact on sexual attitudes and relationships, motivations behind the culture and its long-term effects.

 

She is currently on leave and living in New Orleans, the place she calls home. Her newest book, American Hookup, is about the emergence and character of the culture of sex that dominates college campuses today. Before receiving her PhD in sociology at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, Lisa earned an MA in human sexuality from NYU and a BA in philosophy from the University of California-Santa Barbara. 

Lisa has authored over a dozen academic research articles and a textbook on the sociology of gender. She also actively contributes to media, writing extensively for non-academic audiences and appearing on television and radio.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • How hook up culture is not an option but an imperative on college campuses
  • The hierarchical structure, motivations being related to status
  • How the structure is related more to heterosexual sex
  • Differences between the genders around hook up culture
  • How hook up culture satisfies male needs more than females needs
  • The evolution that’s happening around the culture in the USA
  • The history of college rioting, resulting in the first social fraternity being founded in Schenectady, New York in 1825.
  • The cultural impact of the movie “Animal House”
  • How raising the drinking age from 18 to 21 gave more power to fraternity’s
  • The development of cities and their impact on a changing culture around sex
  • The dynamical differences of hook up culture for young people not in college
  • Long-term effects of hook up culture on attitudes towards sex and relationships

 

Resources

http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/30231781-american-hookup

https://lisa-wade.com

email: lwade@oxy.edu

 

 

 

 

Jan 31, 2017
Beyond Monogamy: Exploring Polyamory and Open Relationships
28:10

 

Sexology Podcast EP03 – Tamara Powell

 

Welcome to episode 03 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Tamara Powell, LMHC. Tamara is the owner of Arya Therapy Services, the now global phenomenon in holistic health and healing. More recently, she founded Tales from a Trapezoid dedicated to the more raw and edgier side of life, working with those who may often feel like a trapezoid in a world full of circles.

 

Tamara tends not to believe in limitations or pathology, only what she calls the “nearsightedness of that comes from either not knowing better OR creative, yet maladaptive attempts to get one’s needs met.” Her goal is to assist individuals and couples in tackling all of life’s challenges, whether mentally, emotionally, or spiritually.

 

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • Tamara’s experience working with sexually diverse clients
  • The definition of a polyamorous relationship
  • Who chooses polyamory and why
  • The misconceptions behind polyamorous relationships
  • How people transition from monogamist relationships
  • Working against the taboo and how people are concerned to ask questions
  • The religious and cultural connections to polyamory
  • The difference between polyamory, polygamy and swinging
  • Raising children in polyamorous relationships
  • How children can benefit because they have more resources
  • The strengths of polyamory
  • How to deal with jealousy

 

Resources

Tamara's websites:

 

https://aryatherapy.com

https://aryatherapy.com/about-the-podcast (Undressing The Spirit Podcast)

https://talesfromatrapezoid.com

Love in Abundance : A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships (Book) -

https://www.amazon.com/Love-Abundance-Counselors-Relationships-Paperback/dp/B01FYKSULG/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1485030260&sr=8-1&keywords=love+in+abundance

Jan 24, 2017
Erotic Recovery After Infidelity
25:16

Welcome to episode 02 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Heather Seguin, who is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Rancho Cucamonga, CA. She help couples and individuals create lives that reflect their deepest values and priorities. We all need someone to talk to now and then, especially when life gets messy. She often meets with people who feel stuck in life. Maybe you want to communicate better with your significant other, but you find yourself repeating the same old argument. Perhaps you struggle with self-confidence and it's keeping you from advancing at work. She will help you work through the things that are getting in your way so that you can have the life and relationships you want.

 

In this episode, you will hear:

 

  • Different patterns that show how affairs can start
  • The difference between affairs and sex addictions
  • Similarities between sex additions and other addictions, E.G; Gambling, Drinking
  • Feeling shame and not having control on behaviour
  • How not all affairs are sexual
  • Coping with the trauma of discovering an affair or sex addiction
  • Digging deeper into a partners 3rd party sexual relationships
  • Rebuilding trust if you stay in the relationship
  • The impact on sexual confidence and reclaiming your sexual life
  • Working with a sex therapist to overcome the issues
  • Deepening the relationship after overcoming an affair or sex addiction

 

 

Resources

 

http://clearchoicecounseling.com

https://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Intelligence-Addiction-Katehakis-Alexandra/dp/B0157JJFY0/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1484591699&sr=1-2&keywords=erotic+intelligence

 

Jan 17, 2017