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All About You - What Do You Really Want?
In the new "All About You" series, I am reading your letters and diving deep into tough questions from you about your relationships, love, and what you really want from life. To begin I touch on my current journey—how I am learning to let go of the future I thought I would have and give space to the new and unknown in my life. I then cover some challenging and common situations that you have written to me about: the ex that promises to change, the new partner that is still seeing their ex, the partner that works too much, and not feeling the same about marriage and kids as our partner. I so appreciate the opportunity to know what is on your heart and I thank you for sharing this with me and everyone who will benefit from hearing your story. I'm really excited about this new format, so please share with me your thoughts and feelings on how this resonated for you. If you have a letter for a podcast you can share it via the 'Ask Mark' tab at the link in my Instagram bio. Big love to you!
|Jan 27, 2020|
This Is The Work - Special Episode
This moment isn’t an obstacle—however hard it is, this moment is always the path and the opportunity to come home to yourself. We are all spiritual beings in human being bodies. So who are you when the masks are dropped? Who are you underneath the roles, jobs, stories and busyness of life? Who are you when you really sit in the truth of your existence? If we just sit in this moment we can finally rejoin our inner stillness—the silence that contains all the answers, the truth, the essence of who we are. I recorded this as an invitation for you to stop running, to be still and rejoin your soul on this journey home.
|Jan 20, 2020|
Michelle Dow - Mark’s First "Girlfriend" Tells Her Story
Okay, “girlfriend” might be a strong term…but either way, I am so grateful that Michelle Dow, the first woman I “dated”, agreed to come on my podcast and share her story. Michelle and I go way back to childhood and I’d like to say we were both each other's first love and heartbreak, but I think I that story lives a little more on my side than hers. Last year, I shared some of my feelings about our breakup, and today Michelle calls me out for not contacting her first to discuss it. So this episode is as real as they come. This is about Michelle’s story, how she experienced me and our breakup and how she feels about it all today. I super appreciate her being open to having this conversation, it was a lot of fun and I think you’ll enjoy it too.
|Jan 15, 2020|
Terri Cole - Codependency, The Disease To Please
The Amazing Terri Cole is back talking all things codependency. Think you’re not codependent? Perhaps you're an empath? Terri introduces the concept of the ‘High Functioning Codependent’ to break down what exactly codependency is and what factors are underlying it. We get very clear on the signs and symptoms of codependency, and the consequences of codependency throughout childhood, single life and long term relationships. I cannot speak highly enough of Terri's expertise in this space and I could not wait to have her back on the show to dive deeper into this incredibly important topic. If you have ever wondered whether you are empathic or perhaps have some traits of codependency, you cannot miss this show!
Plus as a bonus Terri is offering listeners the More Love Meditation Challenge for a limited time - head to https://terricole.com/LOVEMG
Find out all about Terri's wonderful work here https://www.terricole.com/
|Jan 10, 2020|
Emma Tait - Learning To Let Go
When I was asked to speak on grief, I knew immediately Emma Tait would be the ideal guest for this show. Emma Tait is the driving force behind much of Create The Love, she not only keeps our team together but so much of my life too. Emma walks us through the essentially undefinable path of grief. In her gentle but clear way, she shows us how the answer is found in accepting there is no answer, that sometimes the only way to make sense of life is to see there is no making sense. Emma shares her personal story of loss and how much she has learned to surrender to grief and pain, and in doing so, letting it move through - allowing it to come and go - rather than becoming stuck in the storyline. If you are trying to make sense of any kind of grief this episode is full of lessons for you.
Find Emma on Instagram here!
Read Emma's article on grief here.
Emma Tait is a writer, soul guide, woodsman, dog mom, and soon to be human mom - to name a few. Emma’s life’s work is to empower others to meet, know, love, and walk with their whole selves through all of life’s ebbs and flows. She believes the way forward is for each of us to come back to ourselves through mastering our emotional, physical, and spiritual wisdom. She guides others through her writing, 1:1 coaching, and speaking as they begin the inward journey of embodying the courage to show up and be seen, a journey which always begins within. Connect with her on Instagram.
|Jan 06, 2020|
Evan Shy - Can Work And Life Balance?
This week I welcome hiitide founder and CEO Evan Shy. hiitide is the amazing personal growth platform that hosts my bookclub. Evan and I recognize how life and work are not separate but deeply intertwined and for that reason we are not just colleagues but also friends. Join us as we delve into relationships, authenticity and fulfilment through the lens of business. We bring light to the synergy of having integrity and alignment in your relationships both inside and outside of work. Evan reflects on the epic concept of Extreme Ownership and we trade stories of how we’ve each used this approach to empower ourselves and learn from past decisions. If you’re starting down the path of creating alignment between your values and your work, THIS is the episode for you!
Evan Shy leverages a decade of human physiology research and entrepreneurship to make personal growth more accessible. Beyond business, he’s published work in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, author of “Fitness that Fits”, and contributing author to collegiate text “Food for an Aging Population”, Evan’s background has created a diverse formula of science-based methods with a bias for practical application for a new generation of leaders. The hiitide crew of scientists, coaches, and engineers are on a mission to make learning and growth a daily practice for a million people by 2025.
|Dec 30, 2019|
Shadeen Francis - Is Sex Really The Problem?
Sex and relationship therapist Shadeen Francis joins me this week for perhaps the most intelligent and fascinating conversation about humping you’re likely to ever hear! What does a sex therapist do? Who needs a sex therapist? What feelings are behind sex? How do you negotiate better sex? What does better sex even mean? Shadeen goes deep on all of these questions, while also shedding light on common misconceptions about arousal, desire and our sexual needs. Shadeen's background in neuroscience and academia inform her beautiful personal philosophy of freedom, liberation and human connection. She serves up some truly delicious insights about sex and connection that make this episode worthy of a replay or three!
Follow Shadeen on Instagram @shadeenfrancislmft
And find her work on her website here!
|Dec 23, 2019|
Connor Beaton - Bringing Cheating Out Of The Shadows
Not only is Connor Beaton the creator of ManTalks, he is also one of my closest friends! This week Connor joins me to discuss all the things men don’t usually talk about. Connor shares his journey of living with lies, how he hid so many parts of himself, lied about his failing career, and cheated on previous partners to find external validation. We dive deep into the shadow, that is -- the aspects of ourself that we are ashamed of and/or reject, and we look at how hitting rock bottom is often the starting point to finally telling the truth. Once we begin to see and speak the truth, there is no going back. From perpetual liar, to avid truth-teller, Connor proves that ‘once a cheater always a cheater’ is a shame-based myth.
Check out my Boundaries course now ineedboundaries.com
|Dec 16, 2019|
Jules Webber - The Shame Train
All aboard the shame train! Join my dear friend Jules Webber and I on a special extended episode this week all about shame. We dive right into the parental, societal and religious origins for feelings of shame. Jules bravely shares her own experiences of shame at every age of her life, ranging from her early childhood memories of suppressing her true self, to later pledging abstinence with a religious authority, to her first sexual experience and the intense shame around sex as a woman, then to her recent divorce after a 10 year marriage. There are tears, laughter and endless insights about the universal human experience of shame, and our need for connection and belongingness with our community and most importantly within ourselves. Whatever your religious beliefs might be, this episode is a must-hear.
Jules works with women one-to-one in intimacy and feminine energy. After feeling shame in her sexuality, her relationships, and even her career, Jules began healing the only relationship she knew she’d be in forever: the one she had with herself. Her work in radical self-acceptance led to a coaching practice where she helps women connect with the genuine empowerment in intimacy that we all long for, but sometimes feel afraid of. She is also a mother, writer, and storyteller.
|Dec 09, 2019|
The Angry Therapist - Beyond The Honeymoon Phase
This week John Kim @theangrytherapist makes a much-anticipated return to the podcast. John has made his mark on Instagram, sharing authentic, raw and unfiltered views on life, love and everything in-between and I'm honoured to call him a true friend. Join us as we dive into some deep waters around the tricky topic of dating. We break down how to swim 'past the breakers' - from the chaos of early dating to reach the calmer, deeper waters of relationship. We share our personal stories of heartbreak, codependency and self-betrayal, along with the self-work and awareness that has brought us both to far deeper breakthroughs in our connections to self and others. Wherever you are at in your dating life, I know this episode will have something powerful for you!
Check out @theangrytherapist on Instagram
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|Dec 02, 2019|
I’m Not Breaking, I’m Awakening - Special Episode
I am sharing my personal episode this week from the very edge of my truth. Life, to me, is best spent on the edge of what we know. The juice is found in the space that is outside of the familiar. I’m at currently at the edge of what my mind and body knows, the edge of grief, the edge of acceptance and surrender. When what we think we know is brought into question, the truth is realized. I’m still realizing... a lot. This week I invite you to join me into this awakening, and everything that comes with it. As Rumi says, “The wound is the place the light enters you.” Welcome to it all.
|Nov 29, 2019|
The Mother Loving Future - Soulmates or Life Partners?
This week Mark is joined by the Mother Loving Future podcast hosts Amber L'Estrange and Jenna Pennrose. This episode was recorded live on stage at the Mercado Sagrado festival. In this discussion, we go deep into how relationships can be a portal for growth and healing. And in particular, how different relationship archetypes such as soul mates, life partners and twin flames, can all be necessary at different stages of life as we go through different phases of evolution and transformation.
Check out the Mother Loving Future Podcast Here
Learn more about the Mercado Sagrado festival Here
|Nov 25, 2019|
You Are Not Your Story - Special Episode
Your story does matter because it shaped you, but it is not who you are. Join me on a solo journey this week as I shed some light on how Create The Love came to be. Create The Love was born in part by my break down that came from the ending of a relationship. Rock bottoms are a chance to meet ourselves, and I was called in that breakup to break away from the social conditioning and pressure to 'fit in'. Over time, I have gradually learned to continue to let go of the life that I was taught to want and in doing so connected to my inner truth. That truth is, I don’t want to live behind masks. Love is not scarce, it is everywhere, and it is up to us to create it and cultivate it. In this episode I share some of the events of my childhood, teen years and early adulthood and reflect on how they shaped my journey. I go deep into how I learned to sit with and learn from painful experiences and emotions and invite you to do the same. Lastly, I want to thank you all for being such an important part of this journey and for joining me in creating the love together.
|Nov 18, 2019|
Selina Gray - What Masks Do You Wear?
Selina Gray is an epic friend of mine who opens up on her journey to dropping the mask. Selina grew up with that feeling of being “not enough” due to both her mother’s criticism as well as not feeling "wealthy". Becoming a hustler early on meant Selina achieved huge financial success but found herself trapped within the mask of having it all. She found herself surrounded by money, labels and “success” but felt no meaning or connection. This week we discuss how Selina dropped the mask, how her body finally said no, and how she stepped into her truth to create Money Boss.
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|Nov 11, 2019|
Sahara Rose - What Is Your Dosha?
Do you ever find yourself feeling out of balance, maybe with food, energy, or relationships? Sahara Rose opens us up to the world of ancient Ayurvedic medicine and the mind-body dosha system to understand what your body truly needs in order to be in balance. We work through the three dosha types, how to know your dosha, how to know if you’re in balance and how to get into balance if you’re not. If Ayurveda is new to you, then you cannot miss Sahara Rose!
Sahara Rose is the host of the Highest Self Podcast, ranked as the #1 top podcast in the spirituality category on iTunes and best-selling author of Eat Feel Fresh and Idiot's Guide to Ayurveda. She has been called “a leading voice for the millennial generation into the new paradigm shift” by Deepak Chopra. She loves to make spiritual + Ayurvedic wisdom fun and relatable so it can serve the needs of today's people.
|Nov 04, 2019|
Amy Young - Back By Popular Demand
Our most popular podcast guest @AmyYoungCo is back this week for a no holds barred conversation. We started with a Q&A about connections and friendships with exes. It quickly evolved into a free flowing conversation about speaking without filters, sexualisation of social media, Instagram ‘likes’, gender norms, #MeToo, compassion, unifying with the male experience and healing through connection. If you loved Amy's last episode (of course you did!) then you don't want to miss this one!
|Oct 21, 2019|
Josh Trent - Who Am I Really?
My good friend Josh Trent, CEO of @wellnessforce has joined me this week to discuss his journey home to truth. Josh started out much like myself in jobs, roles and spaces that did not align with his true inner being. His awakening started with health and wellness, but then became so much more. Josh explains a series of reckonings to be real that pulled him toward alignment, as well as the continuous process of expanding, letting go and coming closer to your true self. As Josh explains, the truth is hidden in plain sight and we can all find it by looking within.
Learn more about Josh and Wellness Force here!
Josh Trent is the Founder of Wellness Force Media and host of the Wellness Force Radio Podcast. Josh has spent the past 16 years as a trainer, researcher, and facilitator discovering the physical and emotional intelligence for humans to thrive in our modern world.
|Oct 14, 2019|
Adulting is Hard
This week I share more about Ky and I’s breakup and a closing ceremony we did for our relationship. I share about my process. Wow. I’m not gonna lie… this week was a tough one to do. I get emotional, I stay open. I discuss what it means to “adult”. How to navigate life’s pains and how to build trust again in oneself rather than making other people the authority on your life. No one knows you better than you. Enjoy this episode and grab a few Kleenex… not for you, but for me. :)
|Oct 11, 2019|
Erin Skye Kelly - The Cost Of Toxic Relationships
I am proud to call Erin Skye Kelly a true friend, mentor, and all around boss. Not only has she totally transformed my world, but she has done the same for countless others, and most importantly herself too. In this episode we dive right into the power of our own choices, we go deep into my current heartbreak, and we unpack the process by which Erin ended the toxic relationship with her family of origin. This is such an important topic for so many people who struggle with difficult or abusive parents. There is so much to learn about the power of boundaries and choices to shape our future.
Listen to the podcast on silence we were discussing called Gangaji here!
|Oct 07, 2019|
The Holistic Psychologist - Ending Family Enmeshment
Dr Nicole LePera @the.holistic.psychologist is truly a game changer in the world of psychology and mental wellness. I was so honoured to join her and discuss her very personal journey into becoming the holistic psychologist and her movement for self-healing. Dr LePera opens up with us on her own childhood, her working through familial enmeshment and codependency, and her foundational practices for self care that are so crucial for every one of us. It is a truly courageous journey to confront the harm we may face within our own family unit, and to break free from bonds that may feel impossible to change. I hope that for anyone who is struggling with difficult or enmeshed family patterns, the wisdom of Dr LePera gives you renewed hope for a future of freedom to be your true self.
Find more of The Holistic Psychologists resources Here!
Dr. Nicole LePera was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and the New School. She is a holistic psychologist who founded the Mindful Healing Center in Philadelphia. Her work addresses the connection between the mind and body and incorporates nutrition, lifestyle and psychological wellness practices. She is the creator of the movement #selfhealers where people from around the world are joining together in community to take healing into their own hands.
|Sep 30, 2019|
Dr Jeremy Goldberg - Holding Space For Heartbreak
My good friend Dr Jeremy Goldberg @longdistancelovebombs has joined me this week to dive deep into heartbreak. We both open up about our past experiences of breakups and heartbreak, we go all the way back to our childhoods and early experiences. We explore how our conceptions of love and heartbreak have radically transformed as we have both done our work as adults over the years. This was such a healing and loving episode for me, where we both explored our pain and held space for each other. I really hope this episode helps you in having compassion for your own heartbreaks too.
Find out more about the Breakup Recovery Special Live Call Offer here!
Find out more about Dr Jeremy Goldberg here!
|Sep 23, 2019|
Relationship Endings Aren't Failures - Special Episode
Maya Angelou famously said that ‘love liberates, it doesn’t bind’. My relationship coming to a close is not a failing, a giving up, or a problem to be solved. In this episode I want to refocus on what is important - the victory isn’t the relationship lasting - the victory is in the process of who you become along the way. And through this process I have been fully liberated, to being all of myself, to loving, and to living all out with no holds barred. This is exactly the delicious, messy, complex journey that I love, that is life. After spending some time connecting to the universe and self, I am surrendering to letting life move through me, I am turning towards it all. I hope that this episode will invite you to do the same.
|Sep 19, 2019|
Hilary Jacobs Hendel - Why You Can’t Just “Get Over It”
Every single human has surely suffered with feeling invalidated for their emotions. Author of ’It’s Not Always Depression’ and psychotherapist, Hilary Jacobs Hendel joined us to explore her ground-breaking work on emotions. Many of us have never really learned the true anatomy of our emotions. As Hilary explains, we can build our lives around avoiding the true feeling of our emotions. For many of us our early experiences with emotions involved us being told to ‘get over it’ in one way or another. Fully embracing emotions like anger and hurt means going against our conditioning, and some of these emotions seem downright scary. Could we end up lashing out in rage? Or could embracing our pain actually open the pathway toward calm, composure and compassion? Hilary walks us through the model she uses that allows people to experience - often for the first time in their lives - how to fully feel a feeling, and the freedom that this experiences offers us.
1.30 mins - Introduction to the Break up Recovery course.
4 mins - Introduction to Hilary Jacobs Hendel.
6 mins - Emotions are involuntary physical responses, we cannot just ‘get over them’.
9 mins - What are positive emotions - expansive experiences, what does it feel like to allow them to arise?
14 mins - “It runs in the family” the narrative of inherited patterns.
18 mins - What is anxiety and how does it exist within the body?
22 mins - Understanding the change triangle and the impact of shame.
29 mins - Experiencing the full emotional wave, the emotional experience of anger.
39 mins - Moving though childhood trauma.
47 mins - How do we know if we have suppressed core emotions?
54 mins - I feel therefore I am.
1hr 3mins - Working through other peoples emotions.
1hr 18mins - Free resources from Hilary Jacobs Hendel.
|Sep 16, 2019|
Dr. Kelly Brogan - End The War Against Yourself
This game-changing episode will entirely change the way you look at mental health. Dr Kelly Brogan is a psychiatrist and a New York Times bestselling author who has walked the path of integrative and holistic health. While being trained as a psychiatrist, Dr Brogan was a staunch supporter of the pharmaceutical model for symptom suppression. After her own illness and resultant awakening, Dr Brogan entirely changed her clinical practice. Dr Brogan describes the “bait and switch” trap of the medical system, capturing highly sensitive people with medications that often turn situational pain into chronic illness. She argues that rather than suppressing our symptoms we can learn what they are here to teach us, we can see our vulnerability as a gift rather than a curse. Far from being trapped, we are emerging into a zeitgeist of reparenting and unconditional love for self. Dr Brogan describes the joy of liberation from darkness and the power in self care. We can all liberate ourselves to life and Dr Brogan walks us through the model she uses to heal all kinds of illness.
1 min - Introduction from Mark, Dr. Kelly Brogan’s book, psychological science, pharmaceuticals, and all of their interconnectedness.
7 mins - Dr. Kelly Brogan’s introduction.
9 mins - Dr. Kelly Brogan’s background in psychiatry, her journey to integrative and holistic psychiatry. Realising that as a clinician nobody was ever encouraged to investigate the root causes of presenting symptoms.
13 mins - The story we tell ourselves about our mental health, we cannot win the war against ourselves.
18 mins - Doctor induced harm and the impact of medication on making symptoms chronic. The role of habit forming chemicals. Why psychiatrists would remain defensive of a school of thought they’ve invested hundreds of thousands of dollars in learning.
23 mins - The risks of medications emerging in recent research, the benefit of medications going to only 18% of patients.
28 mins - Working with vulnerability rather than against it. Self discovery vs symptom suppression. The bait and switch, capturing highly sensitive people within the system.
32 mins - Beginning to relate to pain as a source of power rather than weakness. The joy of liberation from darkness and secrecy. The power of self care and self liberation.
46 mins - The chemical imbalance theory of mental health and the shift away from it. How to turn off the alarm bells that activate the flight, fight, freeze.
57 mins - Making the decision to heal from the root. Making the decision to end the suffering.
1.05 mins - Dr Brogan’s model for self healing, the common types of illness and the model for healing these. Changing mentality and the resultant shift in your life.\
Kelly Brogan, M.D., is a holistic health psychiatrist, author of the New York Times bestselling book, A Mind of Your Own, and the children’s book, A Time for Rain, and co-editor of the landmark textbook, Integrative Therapies for Depression. She completed her psychiatric training and fellowship at NYU Medical Center after graduating from Cornell University Medical College and has a B.S. from M.I.T. in Systems Neuroscience. She is board-certified in psychiatry, psychosomatic medicine, and integrative holistic medicine and is specialized in a root-cause resolution approach to psychiatric syndromes and symptoms. She is a certified KRI Kundalini Yoga teacher and a mother of two.
|Sep 09, 2019|
Alistair Moes - Lose Your Temper
Anger is one of the most powerful emotions, it can change lives and change the world. But it can also become incredibly destructive. Alistair Moes (Angerman) is an expert on all things anger. In this episode we delve into what anger means, what it looks like and feels like and how we can use it in healthy ways to deepen our connections with self and others.
1 min - Intro from Mark - the difficulty in engaging with our anger.
3 mins - The breakup recovery course.
4 mins - Intro to Alistair Moes - what happens when we don’t express anger?
6 mins - The link between our gut health and our anger.
11 mins - Alistair’s own experience with boundaries in childhood.
20 mins - Identifying where you are repressing emotions.
28 mins - The power of listening and witnessing your partner.
41 mins - The power in choosing to have hard conversations.
49 mins - The connection between rage and grief.
56 mins - How to engage with your anger, using resources to learn about anger.
|Sep 02, 2019|
Mark Wolynn - What Trauma Have You Inherited?
Do you know what traumas happened to your grandparents, or great-grandparents? Do you know how those traumas might be impacting on your patterns or triggers today? My guest this week is one of the world’s leading experts in the field of intergenerational trauma. Mark Wolynn not only shares his research and understandings of the field, but also his own story and the stories of some of his clients in understanding their inherited traumas. I was completely mindblown by this episode, whether you know your family history or not, you absolutely must not miss this conversation.
3 mins - Intro to Mark Wolynn and family trauma.
5 mins - How major life events or triggers can relate to experiences of previous generations.
11 mins - Are we ‘wired this way’ or have we inherited our patterns?
13 mins - How we can understand the nature of epigenetics through research on mice.
20 mins - Why do we repeat our traumas?
24 mins - The story of Sarah and her grandparents trauma.
32 mins - The ‘family tree’ and who the family system includes beyond biological family members.
37 mins - Opening up the possibility of our ‘work’ being beyond just our individual experiences, how our ‘remembrances’ live in our body.
40 mins - Mark Wolynn’s story of his own inherited traumas.
43 mins - Recoding or rewiring our stress responses.
48 mins - Mark Wolynn’s workshops and resources.
|Aug 25, 2019|
Why Love Breaks Us Open - Special Episode
These personal special episodes have been truly cathartic for me in uncovering the vulnerable, raw emotions that I would have once repressed. In this episode I explore attachment styles, our needs and boundaries. For those of us with anxious attachment patterns, we often give up parts of ourselves in order to stay in relationship. But this doesn’t have to be our destiny, by connecting with our truth we have the power to rewrite our story completely.
1 min - The power of sharing and not repressing emotion.
5 mins - Having compassion for ourselves.
7 mins - Attachment styles and the research behind them.
14 mins - 10 seconds of courage to make a change in your life.
18 mins - If you have resentment, you have bad boundaries.
22 mins - What we do when we’re afraid of love.
27 mins - What is a breakup here to teach us?
29 mins - The breakup recovery course.
|Aug 23, 2019|
Megan Jane Soutar - Do You Feel Your Feelings?
Many of us assume that we automatically feel our feelings, but unfortunately it’s not that simple. There are so many ways society encourages us to deny, avoid and repress emotions. Megan Jane Soutar is a self healing guide who I have had the honor of knowing as a friend and client for many years. As Megan describes in our interview, her transformation has taken her from someone who numbed emotion, to someone who intellectualized emotion, then finally to someone who could FEEL their emotions, fully. And in this transformation Megan has come to working with others in truly feeling their feelings too.
1 min - Marks introduction, dealing with hard emotions.
6 mins - Introduction to Megan Souter and her role as a self healing guide.
15 mins - Numbing emotions instead of feeling them.
17 mins - Megan’s experience of depression in childhood and living with mental illness within the family.
21 mins - Living within a disruptive household.
27 mins - Intellectualizing emotions to avoid feeling them.
31 mins - The safety to have your own experience and emotions.
39 mins - Megan’s experience of bullying throughout school.
46 mins - Living at your highest level of integrity.
50 mins - Dealing with major life changes and coming off of medications.
59 mins - How Megan is using her story in her life and work today.
1hr 7 mins - Shaming our feelings.
1hr 18 mins - Stepping out of the story we have been assigned.
|Aug 18, 2019|
Miles Rote - Break up with your phone.
Technology has completely changed our world, but have we adapted? The online revolution has opened new avenues for addiction, social connection, disconnection and distress. There are millions of ways that we are marketed to become addicted to technology: the colours, sounds, styles, ‘likes’, games and more. We can change our relationship to technology, but it means going so much deeper than just setting rules or limits. This weeks episode is so important, I will admit I have struggled with my relationship to technology and have learned so much from Miles on how to change this.
1 min - Intro to episode by Mark Groves.
4 mins - Intro to Miles, how our bodies react to the online world in relation to our biological evolution.
9 mins - How social cues impact our wellbeing, both online and offline.
15 mins - How our relationship to the world can lose its sense of reality when we are so often online.
18 mins - The mentality of “just do it”.
22 mins - Mark’s anxiety around his phone.
27 mins - Changing our subconscious relationship to technology.
32 mins - How much time are we spending with screens per day?
34 mins - Digital detoxing.
41 mins - Taking control of technology instead of letting it control you.
47 mins - New avenues for connection online, a new world of choices.
52 mins - Being conscious of our online behavior, what is behind it?
Miles Rote - Self Mastery Teacher & Digital Wellness Coach, Miles illuminates the effects of modern technology on humanity & helps bridge the growing gap between our online world & our inner one through his platform, How To Become Yourself.
|Aug 12, 2019|
Why Relationships Are (Really) Hard
In this special episode I dive into my personal story of awakening and rejoining my heart. We all suffer betrayals, usually beginning in our childhood. And often in these betrayals, we learn to hide away parts of ourselves to survive and remain connected to those around us. This is my story of undoing those learnings and making the choice to claim my personal truth.
1:00 - Introduction to the Create The Love Bookclub.
3:00 - Mark's story of his engagement ending.
6:00 - How and why we end up hiding parts of ourselves.
9:00 - Making the choice to rejoin my heart.
12:00 - When I decided I was done with relationships.
15:00 - Give yourself the space to make mistakes, life is your playground. How to use your triggers.
20:00- Leaving too soon or staying too long?
22:00 - Relationships are the greatest determinant of health.
28:00 - The power of connection to self.
|Aug 09, 2019|
Anahata Ananda - The Journey Home To Truth
Anahata Ananda is a wonderful friend of mine, she is also a healer, coach and guide and in this episode she walks us through the connection between spirituality and relationship. We go deep into understanding how a spiritual journey can lead us home to ourselves, and how the depth of our spiritual connection to ourself relates so much to our depth of connection with our partner. Anahata supports us in seeing how our life experiences can lift us toward faith and consciousness and out of the victim mentality.
8 mins - Book Club Introduction! Join the Create The Love Community.
11 mins - Anahata Ananda introduction.
13 mins - Finding humour in the journey.
15 mins - The spiritual crisis, what is it? What tangents do we have to follow in order to find the path back to wholeness?
23 mins - How our journey relates to our chakras.
34 mins - Are you living out of fear or faith? What clues or messages are you not listening to?
38 mins - When we put the burden of alignment on our partner.
46 mins - How much baggage we all carry and how we can start to move through it.
50 mins - How we can step out of victim mentality and into consciousness.
55 mins - Unconditional love, the journey of coming home to unconditional love.
60 mins - Where are you still holding onto pain?
1hr 5mins - Finding the way to our truth is a process not an outcome, reclaiming your truth.
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|Aug 04, 2019|
Mike Campbell - Why Can’t Men Commit?
Mike Campbell is a men’s coach who specialises in helping men connect to their hearts in every aspect of life. In this episode we go deep in unpacking the messages men receive throughout their lives about love and commitment. Why do so many men seem to swim in the emotional shallow end of relationships? How do we deal with avoidance in relationship? AND, how can we change the narrative? Mike is as real as they come and a true friend, I am honored that he has shared this important and necessary conversation with us all.
1 min - Introduction from Mark.
3 mins - The Breakup Recovery Course is now live.
5 mins - Mike Campbell introduction, what does coaching men involve?
9 mins - Masculinity and the societal messages about being male and committing to relationships.
13 mins - The avoidance of relationship and commitment, the power of fear, what is below this fear?
20 mins - The invalidation of our emotional expression that so often occurs.
22 mins - What is stopping men from opening up? The impact of suffering in silence.
28 mins - Staying in the ‘safety’ of the superficial world.
32 mins - Mike’s engagement breakup story, how he went straight into business and how he started to open up.
39 mins - The necessity of hard conversation, are you willing to walk away if your partner can’t step forward?
43 mins - Dealing with a partner who ‘dances in the grey area’.
49 mins - Becoming ‘grounded’ with yourself and dealing with becoming grounded in relationship.
55 mins - How boundaries can help to create trust and truth in relationship.
Mike Campbell is a men’s coach, author, and tragic wannabe professional stone fruit eater, Mike is the founder of The School of Personal Mastery – a group coaching program for men wanting to get their shit together and achieve greater success and happiness in their career, relationships, and life - without the guilt and hang-ups.
|Jul 29, 2019|
Me & Codependency - Special Episode
This is a very personal episode for me, this is my own journey with codependency. Throughout our lives we all become part of widely accepted social contracts through our childhood, religion, community and family. This is my story of breaking some of the social contracts that did not align to my own truth or integrity. It took a lot of vulnerability to break those social contract and also to open up on this topic, so I truly hope it resonates.
1min - My own personal story and learning about codependency in my own life.
2 mins - My relationship to alcohol.
4 mins - How I’d kept one foot in and out foot out with my commitments to change.
5 mins - What unspoken agreements do you hold onto that you don’t truly believe?
10 mins - If i loved myself what would i do?
16 mins - The addiction to trying to save others.
19 mins - I don’t “have it all together”, the power of compassion for self.
22 mins - Where have you been taught to hide your truth?
If this episode resonated for you please remember to subscribe, leave a review, let me know what you'd like to hear more of, and share with your loved ones!
|Jul 25, 2019|
Kate Horsman - Trusting Your Body
In this episode, Kate Horsman shares her personal story with an eating disorder. Kate shares her ‘fall into grace’ as she left the harsh, competitive world of ballet and made her way through hospitalisation and the life long task of healing. In a world where disordered eating and negative body image are so normalized, Kate’s voice cuts through the pain experienced by so many to offer compassion and hope that we can finally come home to feel safe in our own bodies. As Kate so warmly describes, the way out is to nourish ourselves. Whether you believe you have a healthy relationship with food and your body, there are so many gems offered by Kate in this episode.
2 mins - Intro, the teacher arrives when the student is ready.
8 mins - Breakup Recovery Course.
10 mins - Please leave a written review if you enjoy this episode!
11 mins - Kate Horsman introduction, background in ballet and childhood.
19 mins - How Kate’s body communicated her needs.
25 mins - What caused Kate to drop it all and leave.
30 mins - Male eating disorders and the pathway into eating disorders for boys and girls.
34 mins - How do you become safe in your body?
38 mins - The normalization of unhealthy eating.
46 mins - Committing to healing and nourishing yourself.
53 mins - Finding your voice in your healing.
57 mins - Movement as healing.
1hr 2mins - Surviving the present moment.
1hr 4mins - Kate’s current work supporting others in healing, the power of compassion.
1hr 17mins - Kate's new course coming soon.
|Jul 22, 2019|
Samantha Skelly - Meeting Our Pain With Love
Sam Skelly is a dear friend of mine that has truly changed lives with her work on loving ourselves, loving our bodies and using breathwork to meet our pain with love. Whatever pain you might be experiencing in your life and whether you know the root cause of your pain or not, Sam walks you through how to meet pain with love. Sam specializes in loving our bodies and our relationship with food, but also with using breathwork as the bridge to meeting our pain. When we meet our pain with love, finally the pain can transform. Sam walks us through a practical example of how to use breathwork in everyday life. If you think that the idea of breathwork isn’t for you, then this episode is most definitely for you!
2 mins - Intro to episode.
10 mins - Intro to Sam Skelly, how Mark and Sam met, the mission of hungry for happiness.
15 mins - The link between the body and emotions.
20 mins - Childhood messaging around bodies and eating.
28 mins - The game of life if the ultimate goal of happiness.
30 mins - Meeting pain with love.
36 mins - Meditation and breath work.
43 mins - Breathwork with Pause, how we stop ‘doing’ and learn to just be, why are we addicted to our phones?
48 mins - 20 second breathwork example.
53 mins - Breathwork as a metaphor for life.
55 mins - Pain that is preverbal, how breathwork sessions can give rise to intergenerational pain.
|Jul 14, 2019|
Special Episode - All About Ghosting
*Ghosting* it's a phenomenon! One of the most common questions I am asked is 'how do I respond to this person who has just suddenly disappeared?' In this video we unpack the phenomenon of ghosting. Why is is happening? What is behind it? How should we respond, if at all? If you've ever ghosted someone, or been ghosted, this episode is for you!
|Jul 11, 2019|
The Angry Therapist - Finding Healthy Love
John Kim (aka The Angry Therapist) has made his mark on Instagram, sharing authentic, raw and unfiltered views on life, love and everything in-between. This week I was honored to discuss his approach and in particular we go deep on the difference between young love and healthy love. If you are wondering how to step into healthy love and beyond the highs and lows of superficial dating, then John Kim is your man!
1 min - Intro to episode.
2 mins - Being authentic online.
5 mins - Being a therapist vs being a coach.
12 mins - Starting over and having nothing to lose.
16 mins - Healthy love vs unhealthy love or young love.
24 mins - Relationships are built, not found.
29 mins - The bad boy and the codependent.
35 mins - False beliefs and limiting beliefs.
41 mins - Why don’t we study relationships?
45 mins - Accepting that not all relationships are meant to last.
|Jul 07, 2019|
Jamie Elizabeth Thompson - Awaken Your Sexual Self
Jamie Elizabeth Thompson is a holistic intimacy and sex specialist and we had the most amazing conversation about awakening our sexual selves. Sex and sexuality is such a difficult topic for so many people. Whether it be via our culture, familial upbringing, or religious conditioning, there is still so much shame wrapped up in our sexual selves. Jamie and I discuss how we can move through our conditioning and use our vulnerability to empower and explore our sexual selves. Jamie brings so much understanding and knowledge on the power of the erotic to this episode and I’m so excited to bring you this important conversation, whatever your sexuality, relationship type or gender this episode is for you.
1 min - Introduction to the episode on sex and sexuality.
6 mins - Please leave a review where ever you listen!
6.30 mins - The ‘Create The Love’ course discount, ends soon!
8 mins - Intro to Jamie Thomson’s work with sex and sexuality.
12 mins - Sexual energy and using it in your life as well as the bedroom.
16 mins - Puritanism vs hyper-sexualisation.
20 mins - Narratives around female sexual repression and male sexual shame.
27 mins - The shadow side of sex.
30 mins - Erotic intelligence and the erotic actualization pyramid.
32 mins - How we can have great sex and how we can break our conditioning.
40 mins - Breaking down our sexual shame and repression.
47 mins - The feminine sexuality and giving women permission to ask for what they need.
49 mins - Erotic love languages.
60 mins - Asking for what you want and the ways to ask.
1hr 03 mins - Integrating our hearts, minds and genitals.
|Jun 30, 2019|
Leah Brathwaite - Live Your Deepest Truth
I’m so excited to introduce you to Leah Brathwaite. She is a dear friend of mine and I have had the honour of watching her life transform as well as now seeing her write about her personal transformation in her new book. This week we breakdown what life transformation can feel like, from undoing old, traditional or religious scripts for life, to writing new ones based on our deepest truths. Leah’s story will resonate with so many of you, so I can’t wait for you to hear this.
1 min - Mark’s trip to Calgary and it’s serendipity of life.
3 mins - The life we “should” have had.
7 mins - The new ‘Create The Love’ course.
11 mins - Intro to Leah Brathwaite and her book.
15 mins - The “I’ll be happy when” life and how to reclaim your own true life.
20 mins - Peeling back the layers of your conditioning, Leah’s story, ‘performing’ for love.
25 mins - When you look around and don’t recognize your own life.
30 mins - Moments of awakening.
35 mins - When we wake up but just dig deeper.
50 mins - Are you a victim or living through choice?
64 mins - Getting confident with allowing life to move through you.
Leah is a Soul Advisor, author of 'A New Way of Life: A Guide for Transformation from Living a Lie to Freeing Your Soul', speaker, and a woman who is deeply committed to helping others reach their full potential, live a meaningful life and make their dreams a reality. In short, Leah helps women connect to their soul so they can live the lives they dream of. Through her writing, workshops and group mentorship program, she offers guidance to better understand and live in alignment with who you really are, what you really want and what you're meant to do.
|Jun 23, 2019|
Dr. Christopher Ryan - Sex, Connection, Evolution: All Gone Wrong.
I am so excited to introduce an author whose work has impacted my work so significantly. Dr. Christopher Ryan wrote the epic book ‘Sex at Dawn’ in 2010, and he has gone on to continue researching and writing on human evolution. We discuss it all - human evolution, sex and connection, modernity, the agricultural revolution and how it shifted our sexual behaviour, the internet revolution today, and what all of it means for our lives and our happiness. His work is truly fascinating and I am so honoured that he has shared this work with us today.
7 mins - Introducing the book ‘Sex at Dawn’.
13 mins - Sex. What is it all about? How much are we doing it and WHY?
15 mins - The science and research behind ‘Sex at Dawn’.
19 mins - The intention and the truths behind the book.
22 mins - Monogamy and it’s challenges.
24 mins - Sex education around the world today.
28 mins - The modern world and our lack of connection, how does this compare to our evolution?
36 mins - The evolution of civilization from hunter-gathers to today's modern age. What went wrong?
39 mins - The age of the internet, what has social media done to us?
43 mins - The economic system - what has the modernity meant for humankind, what has the agricultural evolution done for us?
53 mins - The history of polygamy in earlier societies.
55 mins - Micro-biomes - what are they, how are they exchanged and how do they affect us.
|Jun 16, 2019|
Sheri Salata - The Beautiful NO
Do you throw yourself into your career, or fitness, or diet - so that you can pretend that your relationships aren’t a problem? Do you feel like your always needing to resolve some problem? Today’s episode with Sheri Salata is for you. Sheri leads us in understanding that we are not problems waiting to be solved. We make the mistake of thinking we are broken and everyone else is living an ‘instagram life’. The fact is that we are all our own experts, none of us have it all ‘figured out’ but we all know the recipe to love ourselves home.
5 min - Connection to self, consciousness of self, and Sheri’s new book.
8 min - Sheri’s role with Oprah Winfrey.
10 min - Finding alignment and when we get ‘distracted’ from true alignment.
14 mins - Loving yourself. Love yourself first. Love yourself most. And how does this relate to any relationship?
21 mins - Do you really want to live the life of your dreams, or do you want to continue to skip out? Do you seek from your wounds or from your light?
28 mins - love as both the path and the destination
31 mins - Its never too late to live the life of your dreams.
35 mins - Having your own back everyday.
41 mins - What is the ‘beautiful no?’
44 mins - Not wasting time, how to not waste another day out of alignment. We are not too old and it is not too late.
|Jun 09, 2019|
Terry Real - The End of Women Caretaking Men
Standing up for yourself with love. Terry Real is leading the revolution of breaking down the patriarchy one relationship at a time. He is an internationally recognized Family Therapist, Speaker and Author of four acclaimed books on relationships. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI) offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country. Terry's approach is about 'Straight Talk to Difficult People', he has no time for the traditional heirarchical patraichal approach in relationships. He argues that through standing up for yourself with love, not only can relationships be saved, but society can also be transformed from patriarchy to loving equality.
3 min - The gaps in traditional couple therapy approaches.
5 mins - The grandiosity and superior complex in relationship.
6 mins - Moving beyond patriarchy and traditional gender roles.
8 mins - The ‘Grey Divorce’ revolution - the end of women caretaking men.
11 mins - Men aren’t unhappy in marriage, women are.
12 mins - Connection, hierarchies and winning in relationship.
17 mins - The negating of women’s voices in couples therapy.
21 mins - The traditional and newer masculinities.
24 mins - The difference between personal empowerment and relational empowerment - breaking the back of patriarchy. Standing up for yourself with love.
27 mins - Terry's personal experience in confronting the power broker.
29 mins - The use of sex in place of connection.
42 mins - Your partners CNI - what is it and how to use it.
47 mins - We all marry our unfinished business. We are attracted to what needs to be healed.
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|Jun 02, 2019|
Traver Boehm - Why She Can’t Feel You
Traver Boehm is the leader of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement. He coaches, leads, writes, speaks and trains men in the art of connection to self. This week I was honoured to hear Traver’s personal story, how his life completely transformed when he lost his marriage, his business partnership and in the process almost his mind. But far from it, he has come to champion the revolution for men to connect to their most authentic self and redefine their inner masculinity.
9 mins - The two ends of the masculinity continuum - The Marlboro Man versus the Nice Guy.
10 mins - Why do we stick it out with emotional robots? Everyone says they want a ‘conscious’ man, but are they actually ready?
14 mins - Integrating the masculine and feminine, boundaries, trust, sexuality and safety.
19 mins - When a woman can’t connect to her partner, when “she can’t feel you”.
30 mins - Therapy vs coaching, Traver’s first experience with couples therapy.
33 mins - Traver’s divorce and rockbottom breakthrough.
43 mins - Traver’s journey through the spiritual - The Year To Live Project.
55 mins - Breaking through to authenticity.
1hr 10mins - Traver's experience in hospices.
|May 26, 2019|
Dr. Robert Graham - You Are What You Eat
In this episode I speak with physician, chef, and integrative medicine expert, Dr. Robert Graham. Nowadays, there is more interest and awareness of the link between what we eat and our overall mental and physical wellness. But what does it really mean? What does our gut health mean for our mental health? What are the most important factors driving our health? Is food the ultimate medicine, or is there more to it? This week I jam with my favourite physician and good friend, Dr. Robert Graham to break it all down!
8 mins - The relationship between nutrition and health.
12 mins - Evidence based medicine, what does it mean?
15 mins - The biggest medical crisis of our time? Holistic and integrative medicine? The role of the gut in overall health and wellbeing?
18 mins - The link between gut health and emotional health. How to high conflict relationships impact your overall health?
23 mins - Love and overall health.
28 mins - The most important factor in your health - who you surround yourself with.
32 mins - Fatigue - the most common illness seen today.
35 mins - The link between IBS and our mental wellness.
43 mins - Is food a kind of medicine?
5 mins - Vegetarian vs vegan.
Dr. Robert Graham is a Harvard trained physician, Board Certified in both Internal and Integrative Medicine and has over 15 years of clinical experience. Dr. Graham received his medical degree from the School of Medicine at Stony Brook University Medical Center, Stony Brook, NY and completed his residency in Internal Medicine at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City, where he received the Community Service Award and subsequently the prestigious “Attending of the Year” award.
Dr. Graham received a Master’s of Public Health from the Harvard School of Public Health while completing three additional fellowships in General Internal Medicine and Complementary and Integrative Medical Therapies at Harvard Medical School as well as Medical Education at Mount Auburn Hospital in Cambridge, Massachusetts. He also completed course-work in Mind/Body Medicine, Positive Psychology, Lifestyle Medicine, Culinary Medicine, Botanical and Traditional Chinese Medicine. In 2018, Dr. Graham became one of less than twenty doctor/chef’s worldwide, as he obtained his culinary degree from the Natural Gourmet Institute.
|May 19, 2019|
Raphael Cano - Coming Out as Your Highest Self
Raphael Cano is a love activist and warrior. He and I met very serendipitously in a coffee shop in NYC, and from that day onward our friendship has continued to evolve and expand. Raphael’s mission is to elevate humanity through universal truths and his own divine shine. Raphael’s friendship has been life-changing for me in so many ways, and in this episode I wanted to highlight how Raphael has supported me in having the space to understand how heteronormativity affects people in the LGBTQ+ community. Raphael walks us through his pathway to coming out, then later, to becoming a love warrior. His courage and energy is inspiring and I am so honoured that he shared his story with us for my podcast.
4 mins - How Raphael and Mark first connected - Raphael’s first breakup.
9 mins - Intuition, gut feelings and following your joy. Is it all just love and light?
16 mins - Raphael’s life story - his first kiss, his story of coming out and his upbringing.
26 mins - The HighSchool Bully - and the projection and rejection of being gay.
33 mins - Raphael’s years of denial of his sexuality and the stress of living out of alignment.
39 mins - Raphael’s stepping into alignment, his first boyfriend.
42 mins - Raphael’s family’s response and finding his voice and confidence - how ‘Prayers for Bobby’ impacted him.
50 mins - The Stages of Coming Out - trauma, acceptance and authenticity.
55 mins - Elevating and changing, how dating changes and the dating pool changes.
64 mins - The equality that occurs in a mind, body and soul connected relationship.
70 mins - Come out as your highest self - whatever that might mean for you.
|May 12, 2019|
Sheleana Aiyana - The Rising Woman
This week Sheleana Aiyana and I talk about Rising Woman. What does it mean to be a rising woman? How did Sheleana’s life lead her to this work? How does one begin to transform pain and trauma into self-compassion and healing? How can we start stepping into our power? If you have ever been impacted by childhood wounds (all of us) then this episode is for you.
1min - Sheleana’s story - how did she come to do this work.
2.30mins - Denial as a coping mechanism and the wakeup call in betrayal and breakup.
4mins - Acceptance as the path toward healing.
6mins - Shea’s life path - the childhood wounds and traumas.
9mins - Transforming pain into healing.
11mins - What is shadow work? How does our shadow impact us and our relationships?
13mins - What are the most common coaching issues and patterns Sheleana sees?
17mins - How did trauma show up in Sheleana’s life?
23mins - When you are willing and ready to change, when are you sick of your own shit?
25mins - Victim mentality and letting go of it.
33mins - How do we start taking responsibility and stepping into our power?
37mins - Inner child work and self-soothing.
41mins - The difference between compassion and tolerance - the curse of the empath.
46mins - The process of healing, how does it work?
More about Sheleana:
Rising Woman is led by Sheleana and her co-founder Heather, who are trained facilitators and guides of shadow-work, conscious relationship, breathwork, and tantric practices. Their current offering is the Heal Your Relationships Program. An 8-Week Journey into the Heart of Your Relationship Patterns. Sheleana is also a trained Doula, having gone through multiple certification programs, including a full-spectrum training with midwife Molly Dutton-Kenney.
|May 06, 2019|
Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman - The Trauma Of Infidelity
Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman is one of the world’s most preeminent relationship researchers. Along with her husband Dr. John Gottman, they run the Gottman Institute, who have conducted many of the world’s most extensive studies on marital stability. This week we delve straight into trauma, including Dr. Gottman’s previous trauma work, the trauma of infidelity, and the Gottman therapy related to this trauma. Lastly, we discuss their latest book - Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. What is it that makes a good relationship and how do good relationships benefit us?
|May 01, 2019|
James Silvas - Your “Problem” is Your Portal To Growth
Are you looking to change and grow? Or are you committed to repeating your patterns and limits in life? So often we say we want growth in life - and yet we don’t make the choices aligned with that. AND so often other people want to limit our growth! This week James Silvas and Mark discuss the ways we limit ourselves in love, career, life and everything in between. Why do we limit ourselves from growth and success - why do other people limit us - and how can we stop it? This week we unpack it all!
8mins - Mark’s one night stand history!
10mins - Everything you want is in your discomfort/ stretch zone.
13mins - Self talk and when we self sabotage with our internal talk.
15mins - When Mark left the predictability of a ‘stable’ job and career path.
25mins - Are you accountable for your choices, or are you blocking yourself?
31mins - How we stay committed to our misery and stories of the past.
35mins - What makes people successful? - Getting past the boxes you have put yourself in.
45mins - How other people might want to limit us and how to look out for it.
51mins - Dealing with uncertainty in life, how we try to control.
57mins - Confronting pain and discomfort, why is it so hard?
60mins - How to change the way you think - how to change your patterns - how to change your life!
James Silvas is a Peak Performance Coach and Mental Training Specialist with over 13,000 hours of training experience working with high performing teams at Nike, MGM & ADT. He has studied under 4x World Renowned Mental Performance Coach Dr. Mark Guadagnoli while attaining his degree in Kinesiology at UNLV. He has worked with over 6,000+ people on developing/strengthening the mindset that will take individuals/teams to the next level.
|Apr 22, 2019|
The Breakup Special - Rising From The Ashes of Heartbreak
This is 20 minutes jam packed with the most juicy breakup content you could ever need. Mark gets straight into the heart of it -- because this time effing hurts. It doesn’t matter whether you wanted the ending or not, you are hurting and we have all been there. Mark walks alongside you and helps you understand the hardest parts, the most painful parts, and explains to you that this rock bottom can be an anchor and a beginning of new possibilities for a deeper and truer connection to ourself and others. Get ready to rise.
|Apr 19, 2019|
Amy Young - How To Say Goodbye To Unavailable People, Forever.
This week we have Mark and Amy Young yelling about all things emotional unavailability! Every person has either been caught, is currently caught or will one day be caught in the spell that unavailable people cast over us. We explore why we get caught in the ‘spell’ of unavailable people. How Mark and Amy have both been caught themselves, and how can get unstuck from thinking you’ve found ‘love’ when in reality all you’ve found is pain and suffering. This week is the slap in the face you’ve been waiting for, do not miss it.
5 mins - ‘Bottom feeder bro’ behaviour, why do we want the men who don’t want us?
7 mins - When the body codes drama as chemistry - breaking the spell of choosing someone who is not choosing you.
9 mins - When people are lying to you in dating.
13 mins - Amy’s personal story of the ‘bottom feeder bro’ - how she was going to ‘fix’ the ‘one’.
17 mins - Codependent no more - why Amy read it - why you should too.
25 mins - How you can break the spell.
30 mins - The 5 love languages - what when we have toxic love languages?
38 mins - Why we make excuses for other people.
39 mins - Don’t be afraid to have the hard conversations!
42 mins - When to communicate the issue or self-soothe?
50 mins - What energy are you bringing to dating - to Tinder?
52 mins - Are you ‘picky’, or not picky enough?
55 mins - Are there enough men? What’s going on with men and their emotions?
|Apr 15, 2019|
Dr. Alexandra Solomon - Boundaries. Boundaries. Boundaries.
What are boundaries, why are they so hard? Why do we suck at boundaries with parents, exes, co-parents? Why don’t we just unfriend or block people that have hurt us? What is stopping us from letting go?! How the HECK do we do boundaries with our co-parent exes!? We tackle it ALL this week and nothing is off the table! Dr. Alexandra Solomon takes on the hardest of subjects with wisdom and compassion, if you haven't yet read her book find it in the show notes below.
5min: Cultural differences in boundaries.
7min: Emotions and boundaries, childhood and boundaries.
14min: How do we know when a boundary is violated?
16min: Personal empowerment vs relational empowerment.
18min: Types of boundaries, secure vs porous vs rigid.
24min: Vulnerability cycles - what the heck are they?
27min: Voicing and breaking out of a vulnerability cycle.
30min: How to deliver a boundary.
31min: Tricky boundaries - exes! Why don’t we block them or delete them?
37min: Why don’t we just break contact - are we being kind to them or only to ourselves?
39min: BOUNDARIES AND COPARENTING 101
44min: How to hold space for your child - what impacts your child the most during a breakup?
49min: Types of families.
|Apr 08, 2019|
Bryan Reeves - Why My Girlfriend was Always Angry With Me
Bryan Reeves is our guest this week and I am so excited to introduce you to a man who has truly lived a life of adventure and exploration. Bryan and I discuss his journey, from hyper-masculine army careerist, to wandering the Earth, and later to being a relationship and life coach. Bryan talks us through the journey that broke his heart, opened his heart and totally renewed his joy for life. Bryan and Mark go DEEP on all things masculinity this week. Why did Bryan’s girlfriends always end up frustrated and angry with him? Why do men follow Instagram models and damage their relationships with online behaviour? How can childhood emotional neglect - even the most subtle forms - play out in our adult lives? And what about our triggers, how can triggers from previous relationships or previous lives continue to impact our current partners. Mark and Bryan discuss the challenges that every couple is bound to face.
6:00 - The journey from army career to relationship coach.
9:30 - Finding the subject that ‘lit’ me up
10:30 - Why are the women I am in relationship with always angry at me?
15:00 - Instagram and the online world affecting relationships.
22:00 - Childhood emotional neglect - how can the most subtle forms affect our adult life?
28:00 - What triggers us in our parents, what does this reflect in us?
49:00 - Therapy, coaches and relationships, the value of working with someone from outside of our relationship.
51:00 - Triggers from past, childhood and their influence in current situations.
|Apr 01, 2019|
Kelsey Grant - Ready to get Real in Your Relationship?
This week I was over the moon to be speaking with my dear friend Kelsey Grant. Kelsey is an absolute goddess on all things relationships, intimacy, and sex! We got really real on intimacy in every way, how sex relates to connection and visa versa. We got into the juiciest parts of relationship and shared our own pasts on the highest highs and lowest lows - commitment, patterns, past hurts, cheating, breaking up, growing and knowing ourselves.
5min: Sexual intimacy and communication - whats the link?
8min: The vulnerability in sex - can you hide yourself and still enjoy climax?
10min: The differences between men and women when it comes to sex and connection.
12min: Integrity, cheating and shame.
14min: Pleasure and growth, how we change over time.
17min: Connection to self and ghosting, looking at it from both sides. When Mark was like a “Mt Everest Basecamp” of red flags
20min: Honesty in dating - are you dating just to date - to find a partner - to just have fun?
21min: Narcissism is a massive buzzword at the moment, but is it really narcissism?
25min: Taking responsibility in relationships and in life. You aren’t responsible for anyone else’s behaviour, but you are responsible for your own.
29min: The power dynamic in ‘saving’ someone.
32min: Breaking up and moving into a new relationship.
34min: Infidelity, the pain, the grief and the healing.
39min: Finding self love through our suffering.
43min: Mark’s ‘yoghurt and granola breakup’ story, what breakups are here to teach us.
54min: Kelsey’s relationship with a well known public figure - the deeper the connection the deeper the triggers and fears.
56min: Finding safety when we are in fear from past triggers.
59min: Trust and friendships with the opposite sex, does your partner trust your opposite sex friends?
1.06min: Family enmeshment and intimate relationships, they don’t gel!
1.10min: Getting started in making connections when you’re single - building the relationship skill set .
Kelsey Grant - My entire life has been focused around relationships and how to get the love you want. As I’ve grown and shifted my ideas of what I wanted evolved as I did. The person I have grown into has given me access to learning, experimenting and through direct experience understand that which I was searching for in a relationship.
|Mar 25, 2019|
Brendon Marotta - The Shocking Truth about Circumcision
This week I was honoured to be joined by filmmaker Brendon Marotta. Brendon has just launched the ground-breaking documentary ‘American Circumcision’ on Netflix. We had an incredibly powerful, raw and real conversation on the issue of circumcision. We went deep on the trauma, pain and often undiscussed power that circumcision still holds in our society today. This is a topic that deserves so much more investigation and I am so passionate about bringing this topic to light. Don’t miss this episode.
1min: Why did you end up working on the topic of circumcision?
4min: Circumcision is a cure in search of a disease - a cure for masturbation.
7min: The data behind circumcision.
10min: Women as supportive of the issue.
12min: Trauma and circumcision.
19min: The history of circumcision.
25min: The power of cultural conditioning.
28min: How and why is the conversation on circumcision changing?
31min: Who are the gatekeepers and powerhouses behind the conversation?
41min: Circumcision the documentary.
42min: Was there a backlash to the documentary?
49min: Healing from circumcision and early childhood traumas.
56min: Healing from grief.
Brendon Marotta graduated from the University of the North Carolina School of the Arts in 2010 with a B.F.A. in film editing & sound, where he worked in every major role on a film set. In 2013, he completed a year long Meisner Acting program at the Waterfront Playhouse & Conservatory. In 2014, a feature he edited was selected to premiere at the Austin Film Festival and won the Narrative Feature Audience Award there. In 2017, he completed his first feature-length documentary as director, which won Best Documentary at the Lone Star Film festival. Brendon currently lives in Austin, TX.
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|Mar 20, 2019|
Matt Corker - Are You Real at Work?
Matt Corker is a CEO, MBA and ’a magician of human experience’, this week he joins me to discuss all things leadership and business. We discuss Matt’s latest venture The Corker Co, and how he is crushing it in the business world, not only by connecting with people but also by connecting people to each other. There are so many synergies between how we communicate and manage relationships at work and with how we communicate and manage relationships at home - but too often we see them as separate worlds.
We jam on the difference between being authentic and putting on roles for different contexts. How real are you at work and how is it impacting yourself and those you love?
6min: People don’t quit their job they quit their manager, is this true?
8min: Fulfilment and work, being an entrepreneur vs employee, what’s the difference?
15min: Authenticity and the roles we play, how to we manage different relationships in different environments.
19min: Being real and communicating at work vs at home.
21min: Energy and motivation at work, how the time of day can affect how we behave.
32min: Toxic bosses, harmful management tactics and where do these stem come from?
36min: Formal company values, vision and mission vs the dynamic and culture in informal conversations.
41min: Talking about relationships, sexual relationships and sexual harassment at work.
48min: Working in “the office” and how our work space setups affect us.
52min: What is transformational really? Is it a buzzword or something more?
|Mar 12, 2019|
Stephanie Coontz - Exploring the Meaning of Marriage
In this episode Mark Groves is joined by Stephanie Coontz, researcher, academic and author of seven books on marriage and family. They explore topics ranging from traditions, gender roles, the evolution of relationships in history and the more recent impacts of technology on relationships.
Stephanie Coontz teaches history and family studies at The Evergreen State College in Olympia, WA and is Director of Research and Public Education at the Council on Contemporary Families. She has authored seven books on marriage and family life, including A Strange Stirring: ‘The Feminine Mystique’ and American Women at the Dawn of the 1960s, The Way We Never Were: American Families and the Nostalgia Trap. Coontz is a frequent guest columnist for the New York Times and CNN.com. Selected articles and tv appearances can be found at www.stephaniecoontz.com
3m30sec: The history of marriage - what was it’s purpose?
8min: The difference between love, relationships and marriage, what is the role of coercion?
20m40sec: What is the history of monogamy and polygamy?
28min: The changing perspectives of being single, partnered, married and what is the role of gender here?
35min: The role of tradition and gender, how does it impact on the happiness of a relationship? How egalitarian are couples and how does this impact on happiness?
42min: Women having the courage to speak out and the #MeToo movement, how the times have changed.
45min: How has technology changed relationships and marriages?
|Mar 04, 2019|
Dr. Jeremy Goldberg - The Evolution of Men
In this podcast Mark Groves is joined by Dr. Jeremy Goldberg, writer, spoken word poet, marine biologist and PhD in social science. Mark and Jeremy discuss their personal evolutions as men, for Jeremy this has meant shifting from being an academic and PhD to becoming an artist. They also reflect upon the evolution of the modern man in today's world, what does it mean to be raised a boy today, what is school and society teaching boys, how do we break out of the stories and patterns and how we are all still on the journey home to ourselves.
3:15 - What is going on with men and #MeToo, why aren’t more men speaking up?
7:00 - Why do men struggle to speak up on emotions- are men emotionally castrated?
12:00 - The evolving man in society - what is the cultural shift toward opening?
21:00 - The modern education system - what is it teaching and not teaching for the modern life?
25:00 - Step out of the ‘story’ you’ve been taught about life, or get kicked out of it. How Jeremy shifted from being a PhD to artist.
31:00 - The fear and courage experienced when stepping into the unknown.
34:00 - The ‘big betrayal’ and can you betray yourself?
42:30 - We’re all on the journey still - anyone who says they have it all figured out is lying.
49:43 - Risk, resilience and living on your edge - learn to be comfortable being uncomfortable.
|Feb 25, 2019|
Kylie McBeath - Learning To Love All Of You
I’m so excited to introduce this week’s episode with my best friend and love – Kylie McBeath. Love, Service, and Wisdom. Those are the three words that Kylie lives by. Her greatest mission is to help more people unleash their greatness, and find truth and alignment in life through harnessing their best resource: their physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well-being. She is also a Certified Health Coach and Transformational Life Coach and she works to empower women to move through shame, release anger, and align with their most aligned + powerful selves.
During this convo Kylie not only shares her relationship journey but also her journey as an entrepreneur and some amazing insights for how to grow into your voice, truth, integrity, and most true self.
11:10 – Kylie’s journey back to herself
16:10 – Breaking through the limiting messages sent to women
24:50 – How fear creeps into relationships
34:00 – Stepping into vulnerability and honouring commitments
46:20 – Trigger points and getting our needs met
54:00 – Clean anger vs aggression
Jam with Kylie:
|Feb 04, 2019|
Terri Cole - Redesigning Your Love Blueprint
This episode was such an honour to record and is one I could go on and on about for hours! In it I talk with Terri Cole, the New York-based, licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert and founder of Real Love Revolution & Boundary Bootcamp. Terri uses practical psychology, eastern mindfulness and harnesses the power of intention to create sustainable, positive behavioral change i.e. true transformation. Tune in as we talk about how childhood lessons about life form the blueprint of how we navigate our adult relationships around love. In addition to the highlights below are some amazing and practical tips on how to start understanding your own story so that you can heal old wounds and set new standards for what you actually want to create in your life.
11:55 – Your inherited love blueprint
15:10 – The difference between need and choice
18:00 – Why 5-step get love fast programs never work
21:45 – The 5 pillars of healing our relationship with love
31:15 – How to take back choice in how we love
38:00 – How to honour and heal triggering wounds
Connect with Terri:
|Jan 28, 2019|
Selina Gray - Money is Energy
Why does our relationship with money matter and how does it connect to our relationships with people? This episode is a must! In it, money boss Selina Gray and I unpack the connection between money, our pasts, stress, and of course, healing and freedom. Selina Gray is a CPA, CA & a money relationship expert with over 15 years of experience reinventing finance for individuals & businesses. Selina has helped thousands of people transform their relationship with money by focusing on emotions, money mindset & practical money optimization skills. She believes that everyone is capable of healing their money story and her approach cuts through all the bullshit beliefs that have been blocking you from healing your own. Tune in to get to the heart of what really matters in your life, and to make the change that lasts.
9:20 – uncovering your money memories
13:00 – Selina’s money mess
25:40 – how to be more excited about budgeting
32:30 – the importance of gratitude
34:00 – money archetypes
47:40 – healing money patterns in relationships
50:45 – how to start
|Jan 21, 2019|
Branden Collinsworth – How To Be Unstoppable
This episode is the ultimate sandwich of inspiration, entertainment, and motivation. Branden has overcome obstacle after obstacle on his journey from poverty, to the ivy league, to Nike, to around the world, and back again. He takes us back to his days on the streets and talks about how he finally let go of the stories and scarcity of his past to take responsibility for the future he knew he wanted. Today, Branden Collinsworth is an internationally renowned human performance coach and works exclusively with several of the most impactful people in sports, music, and business. Branden has been endorsed and worked with brand giants, SUMMIT, Lululemon, Redbull, Dr.Oz, MTV and is currently a Master Trainer for Nike. Check out the highlights below, and get ready, set, go!
15:10 – why you should swear more
16:00 – Branden’s rock bottom turning point
20:35 – fight or flight
27:42 – the secret weapon of obsession
31:10 – success and worthiness
48:45 – the one thing you need to know to transform
54:00 – warrior retreats
|Jan 14, 2019|
Jayson Gaddis: Become A Relationship Grown Up
Hands up if you learned as much about relationships in school as you did about pythagorean theorem. Ya, me neither. Meet Jayson Gaddis - relationship student & teacher, author, host of the Smart Couple Podcast, and founder of The Relationship School. He is on a mission to teach people the one class they didn’t get in school– 'How to do intimate relationships'. In this episode, we talk about how important it is to treat and train our relationship skills like muscles. Jayson drops some serious knowledge about the benefits of couples therapy (as well as why you might be scared to go), as well as what unconscious investments we all carry that keep us at our same old painful status quo. Let the class begin!
8:10 – how we disappear in relationships and how to connect instead
13:30 – recognizing false vulnerability
17:30 – tips for having the therapy talk with your partner
23:00 – steps to opening up and transforming within relationships
27:55 – working through disagreements with your partner
31:50 – the window of presence and vulnerability
43:15 – healing after a break-up or divorce
|Jan 07, 2019|
Ben Goresky - The Myths of Masculinity and Addiction
What if you learned that everything you’ve been taught about what it means to be a man, was wrong? Tune into my recent conversation with addictions counselor and men’s coach Ben Goresky and learn how to reconnect to your masculinity and your partner with a new sense of compassion and curiosity. In this episode we talk about how to call ourselves and others on the bullshit stories that hold us back, the social norms that perpetuate addiction, why who you spend time with matters, and how you can get back in alignment with who you really are.
In this episode you’ll learn about:
You can find Ben through his group for The Samurai Brotherhood, an organization that connects men to their masculine core and leads the way for the evolution of conscious men.
Ben also hosts The Evolving Man podcast and runs relationship workshops for couples with his fiancee Sheleana Aiyana. He specializes in transpersonal psychology, shadow work, men’s work, and conscious relationship work. He lives a happy, healthy life in Vancouver, Canada.
|Dec 31, 2018|
Lacy Phillips - Call In Your Dream Partner
Have you ever wondered about manifestation? Can we truly "make" something happen for us? In life and love, how can we get the things that we say we want? This week, I'm jamming with Lacy Phillips, a Manifestation Advisor specializing in unblocking beliefs of unworthiness and expanding into alignment with what one is calling in. We talk about how to develop a good relationship with yourself, with romantic partners, and with money. Find out how you can tap into your subconscious mind and how to grow your worth. This is one you don't want to miss!
In this episode you'll learn:
- The science behind manifestation (5:36)
- How to "get" the partner you deserve (12:20)
- The connection between love and money (49:05)
- And so much more!
Where can you find more of Lacy Phillips?
Podcast: Expanded Podcast
|Dec 24, 2018|
Baya Voce - Anchoring Connection
Human connection is such a powerful and necessary component of our lives. As a human connection specialist myself, I thought what better way to dive deep into this topic than to sit down with none other than Baya Voce? For the past decade, Baya has studied relationships and human connection, most recently giving one of the most-viewed TEDx talks of all time, titled "The Simple Cure for Loneliness," with more than 3.5 million views. Here we get a little taste of the nuggets from her TEDx talk, and we go deep into the work it takes to feel connected to ourselves and others.
In this episode, you’ll get answers to these questions:
|Dec 17, 2018|
Vienna Pharaon - Breaking Relationship Blocks
“Marriage is complicated.” “Once you’re married, sex goes out the window.” “It’s all downhill after the honeymoon phase.” Have you heard people say this to you? Have you actually uttered these words yourself? Vienna Pharaon and I sat down and talked about the stories we tell ourselves around getting married and how we can make the shift and define marriage in whatever way we want. Vienna is a licensed marriage and family therapist based in New York City, where she runs her own practice. She is currently the number 1 Google search result when looking for couples counseling in NYC and she and I co-created a Relationships 101 workshop. Grab your pen and paper -- this episode is dynamite!
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Where can you find more of Vienna Pharaon?
|Dec 10, 2018|
Amy Young - Captain 'Raise the Bar'
Are you struggling in the dating world? Do you feel like finding love is the equivalent to working a fulltime job? In this episode, I talk to Amy Young all about dating in the modern world and her unpopular opinion that dating is actually fun and how it should never feel like an obligation. Amy is a life coach extraordinaire who previously worked as an actor and comedienne, bringing her silly and irreverent approach to empowering single women to understand themselves and set themselves up for relationship success. She is self-proclaimed “Captain Raise the Bar” and she and I jammed on all the goodness there is in today’s modern dating world when you look for it.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
References and Recommendations:
|Dec 03, 2018|
Ivy Kwong - Navigating Relationships and Codependency
What is the difference between wanting to make your partner happy and being accommodating to the point of losing yourself? What is the recipe for self-love that allows you to deepen your connection in relationships? In this episode, I speak with Ivy Kwong, a licensed marriage & family therapist, speaker, and writer who specializes in self-love and connection to heal codependency.
Ivy also lets us in on an emotional intimacy exercise you can start putting into practice right away (55:05). Make a new nightly routine of checking in with yourself and sharing with your partner about the following areas: anger, pain, sadness, fear, shame, guilt, joy, and loneliness. Tune in to hear exactly how this exercise works and more tips and tricks you can use to help yourself (and your partner) grow.
In this episode, you’ll also learn:
Recommendations and references:
|Nov 26, 2018|
What makes long-term relationships go the distance? I’m speaking with author and licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Alexandra Solomon, who you might know as the “Relationship Architect” and author of the transformational book, “Loving Bravely.” We talk about what’s really needed to make a relationship work – spoiler alert — it goes way beyond good sexual chemistry (although that’s needed, too). Today, we bring you the tools that will get you started both as an individual and as a couple.
Dr. Alexandra Solomon
|Nov 19, 2018|
Dallas Hartwig - Our Bodies Never Lie
I sat down with Dallas Hartwig, co-founder of “The Whole30: The 30-Day Guide to Total Health and Food Freedom” and author of the New York Times Bestseller “It Starts With Food”. Our conversation begins at the intersection where health, love, and nutrition meet before moving onto the broader topic of self-identity, self-esteem, and self-fulfillment and how these are impacted (and transformed!) by the food we eat and the way we care for our bodies. Dallas offers some killer tips and advice on how to navigate change and growth, both in our emotional lives and within our physical bodies so that we can truly thrive.
|Nov 05, 2018|
A Little More About Me and My Journey
In this episode I discuss my journey and why I the subject of relationships is so important. I talk about the misconceptions about love, my (our) struggles, healing wounds, and how we can best begin to learn to create connection and deepen our relationships with ourselves and others.
|Oct 29, 2018|
Join me on my journey as I seek to understand and discover what is it that make great couples great?
Why is it that some people seem to be able to keep love alive for a lifetime and others can't seem to even make it through a moment?
Why are we attracted to certain types of people who are bad for us?
I've discovered that the quality of our relationships ultimately determines the quality of our lives and our health.I've had so many amazing wonderful conversations with brilliant people about the subject to understand it myself and I wanted to share these conversations with you.
This is the Mark Groves Podcast
|Sep 01, 2017|