Fierce Marriage

By Ryan and Selena Frederick

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 Jul 12, 2021

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 Apr 18, 2021
Great Podcast, very insightful and well rounded!

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 Sep 26, 2020
Great podcast to help you grow into a better husband/wife.

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 Oct 11, 2019
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 Aug 29, 2019

Description

Hosts Ryan and Selena Frederick discuss modern marriage issues with transparency, humor, and gospel-centeredness. Join in for honest conversations, light-hearted hilarity, and more than enough grace to go around.

Episode Date
God is love...but, love isn't God!
0:41:28
Love might not be what you think it is. In this episode we'll look at the wonderful, counter-cultural, biblical idea of love. Enjoy, and thanks for listening! You can now find FULL video episodes on our YouTube channel, The Fierce Family. Visit https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkyO4yVeRdODrpsyXLhEr7w to subscribe and watch!
Nov 30, 2021
Purposeful Sendoffs (The Home, 4 of 4)
0:47:12
What an opportunity we have, as Christians, to view our days as more than simply coming and going to/from work, activities, church, the store, and wherever else daily life takes you. What if every exit from the home was a strategic send-off of an ambassador out into the world? God has provided opportunities for us to live out the Great Commission uniquely and purposefully within our day. In today's episode, we discussed just that. Enjoy! Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is live and ready for your participation! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit FierceMarriage.com/Partner. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.
Nov 23, 2021
Bringings Others In (The Home, 3 of 4)
0:48:07
Is your home a place where others see and experience Christ? What does that even mean...? In this episode, we explored three questions: How is Jesus our model for hospitality? Is your home a place that welcomes those who need Christ? And, is your home a place where ministry within the body of Christ happens? We hope this episode blesses you and others by way of your family! Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is live and ready for your participation! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit FierceMarriage.com/Partner. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.
Nov 16, 2021
What is a "Home"? (The Home, 2 of 4)
0:49:50
What is a home, exactly? In today's episode we explore how the places and spaces we call home are more than houses. They're also so much more than "live, laugh, love" signs and pinterest-perfect furnishings. Listen in and be encouraged: your home is a place where profound things happen, and probably more often than you think. Enjoy! Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is live and ready for your participation! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit FierceMarriage.com/Partner. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.
Nov 09, 2021
Seizing Missional Moments (The Home, 1 of 4)
0:48:20
Our mission is point couples to Christ and encourage them in the Gospel, but what can be said of the spaces those same couples occupy, namely, the home? In this new series, we'll be looking closely at the home and the role it can play in the spiritual formation, emotional connection, and missional alignment of you, our lovely listeners. Enjoy! To learn more about the 40-Day Prayer Journey which we mentioned in this episode, visit 40Prayers.com. Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is live and ready for your participation! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit FierceMarriage.com/Partner. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.
Nov 02, 2021
Protecting the Purity of Your Sex Life (Sex Talks, 4 of 4)
0:43:32
Every treasure needs protecting and your sex life as a married couple is no exception! We've spent the last four weeks talking in depth about why sex is a blessing, how to enjoy it more fully, and pitfalls to avoid, but how do we intentionally protect our sex life? What are we protecting it from? What tactics can be used to be effective in protecting it from would-be "defilers"? In this episode we explore the 3 "defilers" of marital sex and ways to create boundaries to keep those things out and ALL the God-given goodness in. Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is live and ready for your participation! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Use promo code: SEXYTIME to save 25% on your enrollment at GospelCenteredMarriage.com. Limited time promotion. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.
Oct 26, 2021
What is "Simmering"? (Sex Talks, 3 of 4)
0:31:19
It's 10x easier getting water to boil if it's already simmering. Could the same be true for our sex lives as Christian married couples? In this episode we explore the how the idea of "sexual simmering" could be helpful for your marriage. Rest assured, we dive into scripture as we explore, and as you'll find, God's Word isn't silent even on the topic of simmering. We hope our conversation helps and blesses your marriage as we continue our monthly theme of sex and intimacy. Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Use promo code: SEXYTIME to save 25% on your enrollment at GospelCenteredMarriage.com Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.
Oct 19, 2021
The 5 Modes of Sex (Sex Talks, 2 of 4)
0:39:27
What if one of you is in the mood and the other isn't? And what could "modes" have to do with solving your frustrations in that moment? In this episode we elaborate on our previous talks about "the spectrum of sex" by introducing 5 modes of sex. We hope it helps you! Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Use promo code: SEXYTIME to save 25% on your enrollment at GospelCenteredMarriage.com Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.
Oct 12, 2021
"Married Sex" (Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta)
0:37:40
This months "Sex Talks" series continues with a bonus interview with Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta about their new book Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life. This is a tricky topic, and we so appreciate Gary and Debra's willingness to come on and talk with us and our listeners so candidly. We pray it blesses you. To get a copy of their book, find it wherever books are sold or visit https://amzn.to/3abTa50. Also, as mentioned at the end of the episode, we did a full second Zoom video with Gary and Debra, it it's ONLY available on our learning platform for marriages, https://GospelCenteredMarriage.com. Sign up and save 25% with promo code: SEXYTIME. You'll also get access to our growing suite of marriage enrichment material, including our 6-Week Marriage Core course. Here's the description of their book: A great sex life is something you make, not something you find. If you feel confused or frustrated about your sex life--or simply wonder, Is there more to it than this?--Married Sex is exactly what you need to make your marriage stronger, in and out of the bedroom.
Oct 07, 2021
The 7 Reasons for Sex (Sex Talks, 1 of 4)
0:40:47

Sex talks! This episode begins our series that's all about sex. Today we talked about the 7 (Biblical) Reasons for Sex in order to set the stage for more granular—and perhaps tougher—talks in coming weeks. We hope that as you listen, we're able to put words to feelings you've felt and give you tools to begin building a healthier, more Christ-centered sex life in your marriage.

Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Use promo code: SEXYTIME to save 25% on your enrollment at GospelCenteredMarriage.com

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Oct 05, 2021
Skill #4: Making Sex Better (Back to Basics, 4 of 4)
0:38:25

As we finish out this series on marital basics and skills, we're discussing the topics of sex and intimacy. The trouble most couples face in this area stems from a misunderstanding of the very nature of their sex life as a couple and the fact that it is, in fact, an area where you're meant to grow and explore and figure out over your lifetimes together. If you've ever felt frustration or disappointment in this area, you're in the right place. Listen and be encouraged!

Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Use promo code: BASICS to save 20% on your enrollment at GospelCenteredMarriage.com

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Sep 28, 2021
Skill #3: Fighting Well (Back to Basics, 3 of 4)
453244:00:39

If a couple can't fight productively, things will be very difficult for them. In today's episode we discuss practical ways to build the essential skill of arguing well as a couple. We hope it helps and blesses you, enjoy!

Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Use promo code: BASICS to save 20% on your enrollment at GospelCenteredMarriage.com

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Sep 21, 2021
Skill #2: Teamwork (Back to Basics, 2 of 4)
0:41:10

A constant reminder that floats throughout the Frederick household is "we're on the same team(!!)." There is no replacement for truly being in unity, advocating for one another, making memories, and valuing one another as equally important parts of the marital team. The best part? Teamwork in marriage is a habit you can cultivate and if you do, it will revolutionize your relationship. We hope this episode challenges and blesses you.

Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Use promo code: BASICS to save 20% on your enrollment at GospelCenteredMarriage.com

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Sep 14, 2021
Skill #1: Self Control (Back to Basics, 1 of 4)
0:49:02

Welcome to SEASON 5 of the podcast. We can't believe it! This week we're launching a new series that's all about getting back to the basics. Over the next four episodes we'll be talking through four skills, or basics, that are necessary for a marriage that thrives. We hope it blesses and helps you!

Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

USE PROMO CODE: BASICS to save 20% on your enrollment at GospelCenteredMarriage.com

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Sep 08, 2021
Big Announcement! (Identity, 5 of 5)
0:16:46

Listen in for a special announcement! It does tie into the series... don't worry. :)

Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Aug 31, 2021
Heads and Helpers, Part 2 (Identity, 4 of 5)
0:47:04

Today we continue the conversation about biblical roles for husbands (as heads) and wives (as helpers) in Christian marriage. Before you listen to this episode, make sure you've listened to last week's Part 1 release. Then, make sure you listen to this whole episode before jumping to conclusions. We trust that as we talk through the implications of God's word, it will edify and encourage you in your walk with Christ and your relationship with your spouse.

Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Aug 24, 2021
Heads and Helpers, Part 1 (Identity, 3 of 5)
0:52:56

Few topics ruffle feathers like biblical roles, especially when you talk about ideas like headship and submission in marriage. In this episode we began a conversation (that continues into next week's episode) where we unpacked the what the Bible says about roles in marriage. Next week, we'll look at the implications for husbands and wives who are seeking to live in full light of what Scripture says on the matter. We hope our conversation encourages you and helps shed some light on this sometimes murky topic.

Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Aug 17, 2021
Who Are We as "Us"? (Identity, 2 of 5)
0:42:43

You may have heard the biblical idea that "two became one flesh" when they get married. But what does that mean functionally? In this episode we talked through the implications of that statement when it comes to aspects of our individual identities as they are retained (or discarded) in a one-flesh marriage. Thanks for listening, we trust you'll learn something and we pray it blesses you!

ALSO: Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Aug 10, 2021
Marriage Reconstructed (Identity, 1 of 5)
0:40:26

Identity is everything these days. Ideas, politics, gender expressions, race, and sexual orientation, and countless other variables all have one thing in common in today's culture: they can be your identity if you want... and no one can tell you otherwise. The holy grail of our culture is being able to actualize your most ideal self at any cost and through whatever means necessary. But this ability has come at a staggering cost: truth itself has lost its meaning, and this trend has eroded our understanding of marriage and being married people, even among Christians.

This episode is the first in our 5-week series on Identity. Today we talked about the identity of marriage itself, and in the coming weeks we will discuss our identity as "us", biblical gender roles, and more. We hope it blesses you a lot and challenges you as much as necessary. Stay fierce!

ALSO: Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Aug 03, 2021
5 Habits to Consistently Feel Joy Together (Joy, 4 of 4)
0:33:40

In past episodes we've looked at why joy is rightfully attached to our emotions. But, we don't have to wait until we feel joy to stir it up in ourselves! In this week's episode we talked about 5 very tangible things couples can do to have consistent joy together. We hope it blesses you!

ALSO: Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Jul 27, 2021
Dealing with a Persistent Lack of Joy in Marriage (Joy, 3 of 4)
0:48:04

Every couple experiences seasons where things feel joyless. The question is, What do you do to rekindle the joy in your marriage when those times come? In this episode we looked at ways the Bible instructs us to stir our affections for God and why we can expect to experience joy when we do so within the context of marriage.

ALSO: Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Jul 20, 2021
Truly Enjoying Your Spouse (Joy, 2 of 4)
0:46:42

You love your spouse, but do you *like* them? It was affection that brought you together, but what should you do when affection fades and marriage begins to lack joy? In today's episode we talked about truly enjoying each other by looking at three ingredients necessary for a joy-filled relationship.

ALSO: Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Jul 13, 2021
The Roots of Marital Joy (Joy, 1 of 4)
0:57:39

Everyone wants a joy-filled marriage—one that's happy and where you feel love for your spouse and you feel their love reciprocated. Life happens, joy fades, and where does that leave us? As Christians, we have the promise of joy as we walk in step with the Spirit. So, what should do in times when joy feels foreign and impossible to find? In this episode we'll look at the biblical roots of joy in the Christian life as we open up this series on what it takes to build a joy-filled marriage. Make sure to subscribe so you don't miss the upcoming episodes!

ALSO: Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Jul 06, 2021
War Story, Part 2 (Steven and Brooke Elliott)
0:48:59

In April 2004, Army Ranger Steven Elliott was deployed with the 2nd Ranger Battalion to Afghanistan. The objective of operation “Mountain Storm” was to kill or capture Osama Bin Laden. On April 22, Steven’s squad was attacked by enemy combatants which resulted in 4 casualties, one of whom was former NFL safety, Pat Tillman.

This is part two of our interview with our good friends Steven and Brooke Elliott. Theirs is a story of tragedy, depression, grace, and redemption. It’s our prayer that by hearing their story you can marvel with us at the goodness of God to repair and restore lives, even when all hope seems lost.

You can find Steven’s’ book, War Story, wherever books are sold or by visiting WarStoryBook.com. Additionally, Steven and Brook are the founders of The Elliott fund, which exists to advocate for reform in how the unseen wounds of war are viewed and treated so that the broken places can be made whole. To learn more, visit ElliottFund.org.

Jun 29, 2021
War Story, Part 1 (Steven and Brooke Elliott)
0:39:32

In April 2004, Army Ranger Steven Elliott was deployed with the 2nd Ranger Battalion to Afghanistan. The objective of operation “Mountain Storm” was to kill or capture Osama Bin Laden. On April 22, Steven’s squad was attacked by enemy combatants which resulted in 4 casualties, one of whom was former NFL safety, Pat Tillman.

This is part one of our interview with our good friends Steven and Brooke Elliott. Theirs is a story of tragedy, depression, grace, and redemption. It’s our prayer that by hearing their story you can marvel with us at the goodness of God to repair and restore lives, even when all hope seems lost.

Make sure to listen to the next episode for part two of Steven and Brook’s story. You can find Steven’s’ book, War Story, wherever books are sold or by visiting WarStoryBook.com. Additionally, Steven and Brook are the founders of The Elliott fund, which exists to advocate for reform in how the unseen wounds of war are viewed and treated so that the broken places can be made whole. To learn more, visit ElliottFund.org.

Jun 29, 2021
Priorities and Unity Q&A
0:42:20

Today is all about your questions! Listen in as we seek to address your questions about priorities and unity from a biblical perspective. We hope it blesses and helps you.

Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Jun 24, 2021
Priorities, Practically Speaking (Priorities, 4 of 4)
0:51:17

In this episode, things get practical. How do we step down the path of reorienting our priorities? How do we overcome the challenges and obstacles that stand between us and the priorities God is convicting us to live by? We'll walk you through our story of writing our first Family Vision statement, and at the end, we'll give you a link to get a free copy of our ebook, "Crafting Your Family Vision Statement".

Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Jun 22, 2021
The Freedom in Finding Unity (Priorities, 3 of 4)
0:51:48

Finding unity is the first step in functionally living out your priorities. Every couple wants unity, but few manage to get there. Why is that? We'd say it's because they've never taken the time (or had the opportunity) to discuss and seek deep agreement on their priorities. In this episode, we'll discuss the benefits of unity and some of the challenges necessary to get there. We hope it helps you!

Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Jun 15, 2021
Last Things (Priorities, 2 of 4)
0:51:27

What if we lived in full light of God's eternal promises in Christ? What if we read the book of Revelation as the hope-filled source of joy that it is? And what if we understood the full past, present, and future richness to be lived out as a result of Christ's resurrection? Everything would change. Everything. In this episode we'll explore all of that and more. join us and be encouraged: this life is not the source of our hope, Christ is!

Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Jun 08, 2021
First Things (Priorities, 1 of 4)
0:52:56

"If you don’t prioritize your life, someone else will." As Christians, we have the clearest and most compelling reason to live life differently by design. Except, so many of us live just like everyone else: prioritizing this life and the things of this world over eternity and the things above. In this episode we'll kick off our series on priorities by looking at what the Bible says about "First Things" in the Christian life. We hope it helps and blesses you!

Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Jun 01, 2021
Trust and Betrayal Q&A
0:52:12

Today is all about your questions! Listen in as we seek to address your questions on trust/betrayal biblically. We hope it blesses and helps you.

Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

May 27, 2021
Maintaining Trust After Rebuilding It
0:49:51
Over the past few weeks we've discussed what biblical trust looks like, what to do in the wake of broken trust, and how to get started on the path toward healing. Today we covered how to maintain trust in your marriage through four tangible steps: observe, inspect, assess, and maintain/repair. You'll have to listen for the details, since those words may not mean what you first think! We hope it blesses you.

Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

--- As promised in the episode, here's the list of "one-anothers" in Scripture. Enjoy!
  1. Accept One Another (Romans 15:7)
  2. Agree with One Another (1 Corinthians 1:10)
  3. Be Devoted to One Another (Romans 12:10)
  4. Be Humble Toward One Another (1 Peter 5:5)
  5. Be Kind and Compassionate to One Another (Ephesians 4:32)
  6. Be Patient with One Another (Ephesians 4:2)
  7. Build Up One Another (1 Thessalonians 5:11)
  8. Confess to One Another (James 5:16)
  9. Don’t Grumble Against One Another (James 5:9)
  10. Don’t Provoke One Another (Galatians 5:26)
  11. Do Not Slander One Another (James 4:11)
  12. Encourage One Another Daily (Hebrews 13:3)
  13. Equal Concern for One Another (1 Corinthians 12:25-27)
  14. Fellowship with One Another (1 John 1:7)
  15. Forgive One Another (Ephesians 4:32)
  16. Greet One Another (Romans 16:16)
  17. Honor One Another (Romans 5:10)
  18. Instruct One Another (Romans 15:14)
  19. Live in Harmony with One Another (Romans 12:16)
  20. Live in Peace with One Another (1 Thessalonians 5:13)
  21. Love One Another (John 13:34)
  22. Love One Another Deeply (1 Peter 1:22)
  23. Offer Hospitality to One Another (1 Peter 4:9)
  24. Pray for One Another (James 5:16)
  25. Serve One Another (Galatians 5:13)
  26. Spur One Another On (Hebrews 10:24)
  27. Stop Judging One Another (Romans 13:14)
  28. Submit to One Another (Ephesians 5:21)
May 25, 2021
The Path to Rebuilding Broken Trust
0:53:56

The path toward repairing and rebuilding trust is neither easy to find nor quick to travel. Your heart hurts and your relationship seems like it will never be the same again. Could it be that God wants to use this difficult time to show you more of his mercy, goodness, and grace? Could it be, that this could make your marriage better than ever before? In this week's' episode we discuss ways to trust God while you rebuild trust with your spouse, and we outline tangible ways to set your feet on a path toward true, lasting healing after experiencing betrayal or broken trust. We pray it helps you.

Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

May 18, 2021
The Moment Your Trust is Broken
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Experiencing broken trust can leave you disoriented, in denial, or in a panic. The first key to stepping down the path toward healing is to get your bearings, look at God's Word, and take tangible steps of faith toward rebuke (not easy), repentance (must have), and reconciliation (worth it). In this week's episode we looked closely at God's model for reconciliation and shared candidly about some trust issues we've been working through recently. Thanks for joining us!

Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

May 11, 2021
Trust, Trustworthiness, and Betrayal
0:41:58

Trust and betrayal are among the most important topics couples will face. Can you trust one another to... listen well, be supportive, handle your heart and vulnerability with care, remain faithful, love your children well, and help around the house (to name a few)? In this episode we start our series on trust, exploring what "Cruciform trust" looks like and why some versions of trust in marriage actually aren't biblical... you'll have to listen to get the full explanation! We hope it blesses you.

Announcement! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly!

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

May 04, 2021
Boundaries Q&A
1:17:19

We asked our listeners to submit questions about boundaries and the response was overwhelming. In this special release episode, we addressed many of those questions which centered around a few common themes: in-laws, opposite sex friendships, phones, and life as a married couple. We hope you find it helpful!

Announcement! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly!

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Apr 29, 2021
Boundaries and In-Laws
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This is a struggle every couple understands. How do we maintain healthy boundaries with relatives, especially when those relatives (though well-meaning oftentimes) are difficult to be around? How do we graciously communicate when boundaries have been breached? And what do we do to "hold the line" when they refuse to respect healthy boundaries? In this episode we dove deep into what the Bible has to say about family relationships and looked at ways we can love honor our parents (and other family members) without compromising our convictions or values in the process.

Announcement! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly!

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Apr 27, 2021
Boundaries and Sex
0:53:03

Boundaries are an inherent part of every married couple's sex life. The question is, are your sexual boundaries clear? Are they communicated? And are they actively enforced? In today's episode we'll walk through two critical passages of Scripture that teach us about boundaries and discuss examples of how they can be applied in marital life. Enjoy!

Announcement! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly!

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Apr 20, 2021
Boundaries and Your Children
1:00:30

Children are awesome, but having kids at home (particularly young ones) can have some not-so-awesome effects on a marriage. Today is the second in our series on Boundaries, and we discuss how and what boundaries are necessary between you and your kids for the good of your union. It was a lively discussion and we hope it blesses you!

HEY! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is now open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and couples who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly!

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Apr 13, 2021
All About Boundaries
0:50:04

Boundaries are biblical. Boundaries are also intuitive: we all know we need them. Still, why do we feel that our boundaries in and around our marriage are constantly in flux or non-existent? In this episode we looked at three main reasons why we lack clear boundaries in marriage, and talked through some of the underlying principles that help us live with stronger boundaries in marriage. We hope it blesses you!

Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is now open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and couples who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly!

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Apr 06, 2021
Identifying *and* Explaining How You Actually Feel
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Talking is a skill, and not everyone has it. In fact, most don't! This is usually a result of being obscured—or unseeable—to ourselves. A skilled communicator knows how to identify and explain how they feel, and that usually starts with knowing how to examine your own heart and mind. In this episode we talked through the biblical foundation for knowing yourself for the purpose of glorifying God and being more completely known by your spouse in marriage. Then, we talk through some very tangible tools to help you put words to your emotions so you can connect more deeply and fight alongside one another more effectively. We covered a lot of ground, so buckle in and enjoy!

The specific resources mentioned in this episode are available on our website, visit https://fiercemarriage.com/identifying-and-explaining-how-you-actually-feel to access those!

Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is now open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and couples who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly!

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Mar 30, 2021
The Art of Active Listening
0:50:37

Most people rarely experience being *deeply* listened to; you can give your spouse that gift! Last week we talked about Selective Hearing, which is all about catching every drop of what your spouse communicates. This episode puts that conversation on steroids: learning how to seek out and gain insight into each other and internalize it in healthier ways. If you ACTIVELY listen to this episode, you'll hear us share three distinct incentives for learning and applying this valuable skill in your own marriage. :)

Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is now open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and couples who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly!

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Mar 23, 2021
Dealing with Selective Hearing
0:51:32

There are three types of selective hearing, all of which have the same result: poor communication. Today we talked through the common ways couples fall into selective hearing habits and cover tangible ways to break the habits in their relationship. We hope this episode helps you!

Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is now open for enrollment!

It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and couples who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly!

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Mar 16, 2021
How to Talk About Sex
1:00:57

Every healthy married couple should not only prioritize sex but also communicating on the topic of sex. None would likely disagree (at least, not in most modern contexts), because what can a couple lose by talking about their sex life together? This a peculiar topic because it’s one area where we’ll heartily agree with the culture’s message: it’s right, good, and healthy to talk about sex in marriage! Where we do differ, however, has to do with why and how we believe couples should discuss their sex life.

Our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to get a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being released monthly!

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Mar 09, 2021
Talking About Talking
0:54:26

Healthy communication is like breathing: you take it for granted until you can't do it. This week we're starting a series on communication by laying some groundwork and dissecting the Bible's most common verse about communication (hint, it's not actually about communication). Finally, we cover 5 basic habits every couple needs to talk and listen with greater skill and intentionality. We hope it blesses you!

Our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to get a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being released monthly!

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Mar 02, 2021
Be Romantic or... Repent??
0:57:39

What if someone told you that you needed to repent for a lack of romance in your marriage? You'd probably respond like us: bewildered, defensive, and with nervous laughter. In today's podcast episode we'll dig beneath the surface understanding of romance and talk about how how it's connected—in more ways than one—to the states of our hearts. It was a fun, challenging talk but our pain is your gain. Enjoy!

Our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to get a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being released monthly!

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Feb 23, 2021
Out of the Dust (Chris and Stephanie Teague) (Replay)
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Chris and Stephanie lived the ideal romantic story. They were highschool sweethearts, they loved each other, and they shared a love and devotion for God. Everything changed when Chris lost his faith, left Stephanie, and filed for divorce. They thought they had reached the end of their story, but God had other plans.

To learn more about Chris and Stephanie and Out of the Dust, visit outofthedustmusic.com. If their story has encouraged or helped you, you can support them by buying their album on iTunes or on their website (all info can be found on their website).

Thanks for listening!

Our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to get a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Feb 16, 2021
5 Hurtful Phrases to Delete From Your Marriage Vocabulary
0:58:47

It’s impossible to define everything everyone should or shouldn’t say in every situation. However, there are some phrases that are usually unhelpful for marriage. Join us as we explore each one!

Our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to get a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Feb 09, 2021
The 5 Biggest Obstacles to Transparency During Lockdown
1:14:26

We're finding that even though couples are spending more time together than ever, they're still drifting apart. Physical closeness doesn't automatically beget emotional intimacy. In this special episode, we discussed the 5 most common reasons husbands and wives fail to be fully known by each other. This recording is from a special online event hosted by Impactus Ministries (Promise Keepers Canada). Visit Impactus.org to learn more.

Our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to get a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Feb 02, 2021
All About Attachment Styles
0:52:01

Attachment styles are all about the way you interact the way you do, particularly around need, affection, and conflict. In this episode we talked through the four common attachment styles for relationships and, as usual, looked at Scripture to see how the gospel informs this area of marriage. We hope it blesses you!

Our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to get a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. Visit https://GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Jan 26, 2021
What, exactly, is a gospel centered marriage?
0:57:45

If we're not careful, the word "gospel" can become cliche and ineffectual in our hearts, but as the people of God, we must never move beyond the miracle and outworkings of it! In this week's episode, we took a deep dive into what it means to be a truly gospel centered couple. And, as usual, we had some fun along the way! We hope the content we covered blesses and convicts you as it did us.

As we mentioned, our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to start your year getting trained and on the same page. Visit https://GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Jan 19, 2021
The Wonder of Contentment
0:43:57

Like a virus, discontentment infects and sickens every healthy aspect life and marriage. It infects our affections, our views of each other, and our very trust in God. Author Nancy Wilson wrote, "Contentment is the result of spiritual strength that comes directly from Christ. Contentment is the ability to stay satisfied with God’s will in all circumstances, whether easy or difficult. Though it is simple to understand, it is certainly not easy to do."

In this week's episode, we looked at the wonder of Christian contentment and explored practical ways to nurture attitudes of trust and gratefulness within marriage. We hope you leave this episode with an ambition to rejoice and love Christ wherever you're at.

As we mentioned, our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to start your year getting trained and on the same page. Visit https://GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Jan 12, 2021
Rhythms > Resolutions
0:48:32

Rhythms are on of God's graces in this life. Days, seasons, years—all have reliable, consistent, and predictable rhythms. How can we reflect God's faithfulness through our own? And how could our mundane rhythms be more powerful and productive than grand resolutions? In today's episode we discussed our misgivings and excitements around goal setting, and offered some biblical thoughts that (you guessed it) are contrary to those of our culture.

Mentioned: Our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage. It's a great way to start your year getting trained and on the same page. Visit https://GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more!

Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

Jan 05, 2021
Coming from a Divorced Home
0:54:48

Divorce affects the majority of married couples today—some 75% of couples have one or both spouses who come from a divorced or blended family. This week we discussed a few of the unspoken but very common ways that divorce affects individuals and the marriages they occupy. Selena shared some of her personal experience and reflected on recent reading she's done on the subject.

ALSO... we made a pretty fun announcement! You'll have to listen to find out... :)

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Dec 29, 2020
Lead Me (Matt Hammitt of Sanctus Real)
0:35:41

Matt Hammitt had performed his hit song, “Lead Me,” almost a thousand times. And every time he sang, the lyrics echoed the voices of his own family. His marriage was strained. His kids were growing up without him. Matt’s good intentions could no longer sustain his family; he needed to be a man of action. Yet even as he told his Sanctus Real bandmates that he was leaving the band to invest in his family, he wondered: Was it really possible to be present at home and still provide financially too?

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Dec 16, 2020
Are opposite-sex friendships appropriate?
0:46:56

Many find themselves in one of two camps on this topic: "avoid opposite-sex friends like the plague" or "don't be a prude". We think there's a third way—one that's biblical and wise. In this episode, Ryan and Selena will discuss this controversial topic while sharing their own experiences and biblical understanding of how we “can have the wisdom to know and enjoy the blessing of friendship in a way that honors both our marriage and our brothers and sisters in Christ—while ultimately bringing glory to him.”

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Dec 08, 2020
5 Resources to Help Your Marriage (and a Frederick Family Update)
0:17:58

Not going to lie, we've been going through it. So this week, we've opted to give our amazing listeners a Frederick family update and point you to some tangible resources to help your marriage. We hope it all makes sense, and we thank you for your patience, prayers, and support. Stay fierce!

Here are the links to the episodes we mentioned:

  • An Ethic of Protecting Your Family, Marriage, and Home (The Lovells): https://smarturl.it/fmpod-lovells
  • Out of the Dust (The Teagues): https://smarturl.it/fmpod-teagues
  • Burn the Ships: https://smarturl.it/fmpod-burntheships
  • 5 Keys to a Healthy Perspective on Sex: https://fiercemarriage.com/5-keys-to-a-healthy-perspective-on-sex
  • Are You Obviously Married in Public? https://fiercemarriage.com/are-you-obviously-married-in-public
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Dec 01, 2020
Sex as a weapon?
0:46:40

One of the first pieces of advice we as newlyweds was to never use sex as a weapon. What we've come to realize, however, is that sometimes it should be... just not how you might think. Listen in as we discuss Paul's words on the topic.

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Nov 24, 2020
The Warfare of Prayer
0:49:13

Everyone knows marriage has incredible highs and very frustrating (and difficult) lows. In today's episode, we shared how we've been in a prolonged "funk" lately but have found a path forward through prayer. Listen in as we discuss the miracle of prayer for believers and practical ways you can make praying a part of your ongoing battle strategy in your fight for a God-honoring, flourishing marriage.

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Nov 17, 2020
5 Things To Say To Your Spouse Daily
0:50:34

Let's get practical. In this episode we discussed five phrases you can say to each other every day that will ensure the "structural trends" in your marriage are for the better. While each of these phrases will sound common, as we discovered, each one represents a profound underlying belief you hold (or don't hold) about God, yourselves, and your marriage. We hope this episode blesses you!

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Nov 10, 2020
Striving to Enter Rest
0:51:22

Striving to enter rest sounds counterintuitive. Funny enough, that language comes directly from Scripture (Hebrews 4). In today's episode, we discussed the biblical idea of Sabbath and what it means for Christian homes today—and how you, as a married couple, can "strive to enter rest" the way the bible commands.

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Nov 03, 2020
Emotional Lust and Escapism
0:54:16

You've probably heard pastors warn against physical lust a time or two. But have you considered "emotional lust"? What about emotional lust (and physical lust for that matter) as an unhealthy avenue for escapism? In this week's podcast episode, we discussed emotional lust at length while also examining what we're calling the "Pretend Cycle", or the cycles of escapism. We enjoyed this conversation and trust that you will find something helpful as you listen. Enjoy and be blessed!

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Oct 27, 2020
The One Habit You Absolutely Need
0:55:56

There is nothing in this life that will transform your heart (and marriage) like thoroughly reading and obeying God's Word (the Bible). In today's episode we discussed our recent journey into a new type of "bulk" scripture reading and shared ways it's already transformed our hearts. Of course, we don't have it all figured out, but we hope that by sharing our journey you might be spurred along in your own habits of Bible reading.

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Oct 20, 2020
Marriage is Warfare
0:54:58

What if we told you that marriage matters more than we realized? What if we told you that whenever you fight for your marriage, you're engaging in cosmic warfare. In this episode, we looked at the magnitude of marriage and looked at three specific battlefronts where we wage the warfare of marriage. We hope this episode blesses and emboldens you!

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Oct 13, 2020
From Breakdown to Breakthrough (Counseling, 4 of 4)
0:49:25

There are times in every marriage where you reach a full stop in your communication. Things ice over and you can't find a way forward. Before too long, your marriage drops to sub-zero temperatures and you're fighting for your survival. In this week's episode, we talked about the nature of communication (what it accomplishes and how) and discussed tangible ways to fight through arctic tundras of verbal/emotional frozenness.

This four part series has been created in partnership with Faithful Counseling. Visit https://faithfulcounseling.com/FMP to receive 10% off your first month of counseling.

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Oct 06, 2020
Codependency (Counseling, 3 of 4)
0:51:53

Are you in a codependent relationship? How would you know if you were? In today's episode, we asked questions to help couples identify signs of codependency in their marriage. We then looked at the forms and functions of codependent relationships before contrasting them with the healthier alternative: biblical interdependence. We learned a ton and we trust you will too!

This four part series has been created in partnership with Faithful Counseling. Visit https://faithfulcounseling.com/FMP to receive 10% off your first month of counseling.

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Sep 29, 2020
Addressing Anxiety & Stress (Counseling, 2 of 4)
0:52:46

Anxiety is one of the most pervasive and persistent issues in mental health within the church. How does the Bible speak to anxiety? What hope can we have when dealing with an anxiety disorder? Also, how can God use biblical counseling to help couples work through issues of anxiety, stress and worry? In this episode we discuss our own experiences and seek to shed light on how we, as Christians, can navigate anxiety with the help from the Holy Spirit, our spouses, and good counsel.

This four part series has been created in partnership with Faithful Counseling. Visit https://faithfulcounseling.com/FMP to receive 10% off your first month of counseling.

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Sep 22, 2020
Do all couples need therapy? (Counseling, 1 of 4)
0:47:35

The idea of counseling conjures all manner of reaction. Some couples spurn it, others welcome it. Why? And, can all couples benefit from counseling? In this episode, Ryan and Selena talk about whether or not counseling aligns with God's Word, and if so, how it might help couples, whether they're going through a difficult time or not. We hope this episode blesses you!

This four part series has been created in partnership with Faithful Counseling. Visit https://faithfulcounseling.com/FMP to receive 10% off your first month today.

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Sep 15, 2020
How often should we be having sex?
0:57:31

If you've ever felt discontent with your sex life, you're not alone. in this episode, we answered the oft-asked question, How often should we be having sex? As you'd imagine, we looked at various passages of Scripture and contrasted the biblical view with that of the world. We then ended with three very practical questions for you to ask yourself and your spouse about your sex life together. Enjoy!

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Sep 08, 2020
When is the right time to have kids?
0:56:07

Should we be the final word on when to have kids? Or should every married couple have as many kids as possible because children are a blessing? Or... maybe these are the wrong questions to be asking in the first place? In this episode, we make an exciting announcement and, coincidentally, it has a ton to do with how we ask/answer the question "when is the right time to have kids?" We trust you'll find our conversation challenging and we hope you find it helpful as well.

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Sep 01, 2020
Worldviews and Marital Unity
0:59:15

Your deepest held beliefs, while they affect every aspect of life (including marriage), aren't always biblical. This can make it incredibly hard to discuss sensitive topics or work through deep disagreements in marriage. As we've discussed often, your beliefs always inform your behaviors. In this week's episode we talked about what a worldview is while contrasting biblical Christianity against 5 non-Christian worldviews. You may be surprised how often non-Christian worldviews influence your family dynamic. We had a ton of fun with this one, and we hope it blesses you!

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Aug 25, 2020
The Secret (and Super Obvious) Ingredient
0:52:48

This week we recapped a few recent arguments we had to help illustrate how this one ingredient changes everything. While our fights had to do with dinners and sex, they each actually had nothing to do with either. You'll have to listen to the episode to discover what that means! Spoiler alert: the ingredient is super obvious, but how it's added makes all the difference. We hope it strengthens your marriage!

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Aug 18, 2020
Narcissism and Marriage
0:51:20

Words like vanity, self-love, self-admiration, self-absorption, self-obsession, conceit, self-regard, and egotism all have one thing in common: the self is viewed as the crux of importance. They also describe narcissistic personality disorder.

Everyone is selfish to a degree, but narcissists are self-focused at an extreme level. In today's episode we discussed narcissism as a personality disorder, explored ways narcissists hurt their spouse, and revealed why, at its root, narcissism is a rejection of the gospel (which is the only cure). We're not psychologists, so this podcast is an overview based on research done by others. We hope it helps you!

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Aug 11, 2020
Infertility and Childlessness (Sheridan Voysey)
0:48:59

Sheridan Voysey and his wife, Merryn were devastated when they realized their dream of having children would never become a reality. After infertility, an international move, and a professional change shook the Voysey's world, Sheridan realised that he couldn’t reconcile his expectations with the life he was living. In today's episode, Sheridan shares their story of heartbreak, despair, healing, purpose, and finally, joy. It was an immensely helpful episode for us, and we hope you can say the same.

Sheridan is the author of seven books, the latest being The Making: Who We Can Become When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned, which been featured in publications like The Times, Sunday Telegraph and Christianity Today. You can find all of his resources at SheridanVoysey.com or anywhere books are sold.

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Aug 06, 2020
Decision Drivers in Marriage
0:58:31

Decisions, decisions! The average couple makes hundreds of small decisions and many significant ones on a daily basis. The question is, where do our choices come from? As we discussed in this episode, every decision is rooted in some core value, and our core values have to do with our views of wisdom and folly as well as our ability to act on our views. This conversation got a bit heady, but we still had fun with it. We hope it blesses you in some way.

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Aug 04, 2020
Serving is Pursuing
0:47:44

Serving is not likely to make it to the top of most people's "things that are sexy about marriage" list. Still, serving one another is one of the most profound (if not THE most profound) ways to love each other in marriage. In today's episode, we discussed three ways Jesus showed us to serve one another when he washed his disciples' feet. We also shared some of what's been going on personally as it's been a particularly emotional season in the Frederick household.

In this episode we worked through one of the devotions included in our Husband/Wife in Pursuit bundle. You can learn more about that at 31DayPursuit.com.

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Jul 28, 2020
Surviving Infidelity (Tina Konkin)
0:41:50

Infidelity causes catastrophic damage to a marriage. Can it be survived? In today's special interview with author and speaker Tina Konkin, we discuss just that. Tina shares with great detail how God used her husband's affair, despite the damaging effects, to transform her heart and her marriage for the better. Listen in, we hope it blesses you.

Read Tina's book, "How God Used the Other Woman" or check out TinaKonkin.com to learn more.

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Jul 23, 2020
Rebuilding Trust After a Betrayal
1:00:35

Being betrayed by the one you love is one of the worst feelings imaginable. How can a couple find reconciliation and healing after trust is shattered. It's not easy and it requires both spouses to work hard, but there is hope. In today's episode we discussed stories in betrayal in the Bible—namely how we've betrayed God in sin—and what they can show us about finding reconciliation in the wake of betrayed trust. This episode is a bit longer, but the topic is heavy. We hope it helps you.

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Jul 21, 2020
Manipulation in Marriage
0:59:12

As we discovered, there is a vast array of manipulation methods at play in human relationships. The question is, which ones are you unwittingly using against each other in your marriage? Rationalization, minimization, lying (by omission and commission), shaming, vilifying, seduction, and many other methods might be at work in ways you're unaware. In this episode, we explored what the Bible says about manipulation (as it turns out, it says a lot), and discussed ways out of manipulative habits for couples to explore.

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Jul 14, 2020
Know Your Soil
0:55:02

Today we discussed gardening (of all things) and how "knowing our soil" in marriage is critical to loving each other in the fullest context of covenantal love.

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Jul 07, 2020
Sexual Intimacy (Sharon Jaynes)
0:43:15

Have you ever felt that the person you thought was your best friend and your spouse has turned into more of a roommate? If so, then this conversation will help you. Sharon Jaynes is the author of many books, but in this interview we're discussing Lovestruck: Discovering God’s Design for Romance, Marriage, and Sexual Intimacy". We hope this conversation helps you see your marriage from a fresh perspective and perhaps, it will help you reignite the passion that was there in the beginning.

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Jul 02, 2020
Laugh More!
0:51:00

Laughing is one of the best ways to break your marriage out of a funk. Could it be that laughter is a gift and a grace of God designed specifically to lift our hearts and clear the air in our relationships? In this week's episode we answered three questions about laughter and talked through various examples in Scripture where laughter, playfulness, and childlike faith.

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Jun 30, 2020
Expectations are Everything
0:55:27

Expectations are constantly at work in every marriage. The question is whether or not we're aware of them and in agreement on what they should be. In this episode we posed dozens of questions for listener consideration about expectations in sex, money, communication, in-laws, hobbies, divisions of chores/labor, church, and more.

While this episode will be particularly helpful for our nearly- and newlywed listeners, couples of all stages of marriage are sure to learn something about themselves. We hope it blesses you!

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Jun 23, 2020
A Truer, Better, More Exciting Normal (Matt and Lisa Jacobson)
0:49:54

The Jacobsons are a gift and a blessing. In this episode we talked about how God's view for marriage and family is so much better than our own or the world's. We specifically covered when to have kids (they had 8, and late!), the adventure of marriage God's way, porn & purity, how to prioritize your marriage over kids, and so much more. This interview is one of our favorites, and we're confident you will be blessed by the Jacobsons!

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Jun 18, 2020
Are Your Hearts Hard or Soft?
0:51:44

Soft hearts are necessary for a healthy, thriving, happy marriage. But our tendency is not to remain soft toward each other. Bad days happen, tiredness, sin, crisis, arguments, and more can contribute to each of the three indicators of whether or not your hearts are soft toward one another. We also discussed four efforts you can employ today to help soften your hearts if you feel them hardening. We hope it blesses you!

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Jun 16, 2020
Having Political Disagreements as a Couple
0:56:00

With everything going on in society, we thought it would be timely to discuss ways to have productive political conversations as a couple. While we didn't cover the hot-topics themselves, hopefully this episode will help you and your spouse "come to the table" and hash out tough political disagreements. We discussed the four big presuppositions to every conversation, the cultural lies they dispel, and how to apply them when talking about (and disagreeing on) hard things. We hope this episode helps you!

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Jun 09, 2020
Bringing Husbands Back to Life (Jerrad Lopes of Dad Tired)
0:37:31

In today's episode we talked with Jerrad Lopes, author of Dad Tired: Stumbling Your Way to Spiritual Leadership. Jerrad shared how his wife's prayers softened his heart when he thought they were on the brink of divorce, and we also talked about what helps bring men back to life in fatherhood and marriage.

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Jun 04, 2020
Take Heart, Hope is Yours
0:44:58

Though this episode is still about marriage, we never anticipated how timely its message of hope would be. In today's episode we encourage listeners to remember that marriage is less about perfection and more about perspective and perseverance. You're both learning, you're both going to make mistakes, and you're both works in progress. God hasn't given up on either of you yet, so neither should you. Take heart, listener. Christ is your hope and he is unshakeable!

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Jun 02, 2020
How to Change Your Spouse
0:49:41

If you could change one thing about your spouse, what would it be? Life would be so much easier if we could just change our spouse, right? The problem is, God never called husbands and wives to change each other... heart change is God's domain alone. So, what can we do when we're living in a relationship where we're unequally yoked and change is needed, but you're powerless to make it happen? Thankfully, we're not without hope.

In this episode, we talked through the two domains God has commissioned us to work within, and shared three tangible steps you can take today to begin walking with greater faith in your marriage. We hope it blesses you.

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May 26, 2020
Dealing with Toxic People (Gary Thomas)
0:36:03

Today we got to talk with our friend Gary Thomas about his latest book When to Walk Away: Finding Freedom from Toxic People. When and where do believers draw the line when people are toxic and draining?

For more information, visit WhenToWalkAwayBook.com!

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May 21, 2020
Discerning the Voices That Speak Into Your Marriage
0:54:28

A listener asked, "who we should let influence our thoughts, opinions, and actions" in life and marriage. Join us as we root out the where and why we believe voices and ideas that shouldn't have input into our lives. Warning, things got a little more fiery... but we still had fun.

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May 19, 2020
How Do We Begin Walking with God as a Couple?
0:46:58

A listener wrote in with a great question. She mentioned that they know they need to grow in their marriage, they want to experience deeper levels of intimacy, and they know they need to center their home on Christ... but then she asked, where do we start? "Do we just pick up our Bible and read?" In this episode, we talked about three big areas to consider as you, as a couple, learn to be disciples of Christ.

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May 12, 2020
Friends: See-Through Marriage (Part 4/4)
0:39:45

This is part 4 of a 4 part series that covers ways to cultivate a transparent marriage. Each episode in this series is based on a topic covered in our latest book, See-Through Marriage (https://seethroughbook.com). In this episode we talked about defining and nurturing truly Christian friendships for the health of your marriage.

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May 07, 2020
Self: See-Through Marriage (Part 3/4)
0:36:14

This is part 3 of a 4 part series that covers ways to cultivate a transparent marriage. Each episode in this series is based on a topic covered in our latest book, See-Through Marriage (https://seethroughbook.com). In this episode we discussed the biblical case for knowing ourselves well and how doing so helps marriage.

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May 05, 2020
Tough Talks: See-Through Marriage (Part 2/4)
0:30:51

This is part 2 of a 4 part series that covers ways to cultivate a transparent marriage. Each episode in this series is based on a topic covered in our latest book, See-Through Marriage (https://seethroughbook.com). Make sure to pre-order to get the free discussion guide and audiobook!

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Apr 30, 2020
Sex: See-Through Marriage (Part 1/4)
0:31:18

This is part 1 of a 4 part series that covers ways to cultivate a transparent marriage. We discussed "little foxes" as mentioned in Song of Solomon. Each episode in this series is based on a topic covered in our latest book, See-Through Marriage (https://seethroughbook.com). Make sure to pre-order to get the free discussion guide and audiobook!

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Apr 28, 2020
Signs and Seeds of Contempt
0:56:01

Contempt is one of the sure signs that a relationship is in big trouble. In this episode we look at how contempt begins in a marriage and discuss how the gospel disarms even the most contempt-filled relationships.

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Apr 21, 2020
Loving Your Spouse with Your Mind
0:51:52

So much of the marriage battlefield happens in your own mind. As believers, we're called to be transformed by the RENEWING of our minds. How does work itself out in terms of how we think about our spouse in marriage? Listen in as we talk through the hope we have in God's Word, our fleshly tendencies, how we have agency over our own minds, and 5 ways to take control of your thought life.

Stay fierce!

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Apr 14, 2020
10 Ways to De-Escalate BIG Arguments
0:44:00

It's tough to think straight when you and your spouse are in a heated argument. That's why it's helpful to have tangible tools already in-hand before the fight begins. Today we talked through James 1 and covered 10 intensely tangible ways to de-escalate big arguments in your marriage. Enjoy!

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Apr 07, 2020
Faith, Fear, and Marriage
0:50:58

We tend to be caught on our heels in marriage, reacting to each other instead of loving, seeing, and serving each other in ways that are faith-filled. In today's conversation, we discussed three tangible enemies of faith and how they can be a factor in every marriage.

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Mar 31, 2020
Embracing New Rhythms and Routines for Life at Home
0:53:08

Virtually everyone around the world is quarantined because of COVID-19. It's a shocking, fast change, for sure! However, it's also also an opportunity to press into new rhythms and routines that will bring us closer together as a couple, as a family, and as parents. In this episodes we'll share some of our habits and rhythms we've found as people who have worked at home and home educated our children for years. We hope it blesses you!

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Mar 24, 2020
Making BIG Decisions As One
0:53:44

How are we called to make BIG decisions as a couple? In this episode, learn 7 steps of decision making and gain practical tools for working through decisions of your own.

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Mar 17, 2020
I Love You... I Just Don't LIKE You Right Now
0:52:22

If you'd rather be at work than at home, then you may not LIKE your spouse... or, if you'd prefer to spend time with others over your spouse, then you may not LIKE each other as much as you realized. The examples go on! This problem is not uncommon among otherwise happily married couples. What's uncommon, however, is when couples know how to get back to a place of friendship even though their friendship has all but died. Listen and enjoy, we hope this episode helps and blesses you.

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Mar 10, 2020
How to Read Your Bible Together (and Why it's so Important)
0:46:09

What else is there to say? There's nothing like God's Word... for life, for marriage, for anything. In this episode we talk about WHAT the Bible is, why it's irreplaceable, and how to read more Scripture as a couple.

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Mar 03, 2020
Chores, Adulting, and the Division of Labor
0:53:49

Division of labor... it has to be done. We must learn to share adulthood responsibilities as a couple. But how can you do it in a way that doesn't cause arguments daily?

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Feb 25, 2020
Truth, Love, or Both?
0:49:12

Speaking truth is important, but speaking truth in love is a command. The trouble is, in marriage we tend to speak the toughest truths the most blunt ways possible. Today we look at three important reminders for why we must master the art of speaking the truth in love, especially in marriage.

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Feb 18, 2020
3 Sure Signs of a Healthy Couple
0:55:41

At the root of every healthy relationship lies humility. Why? The most toxic sin (and the opposite of humility) is pride. Pride puffs up. Pride is self-sovereign. Pride is self-seeking. C.S. Lewis once wrote, "For pride is spiritual cancer: it eats up the very possibility of love, or contentment, or even common sense." But there's good news! Gospel-fueled humility is the antidote to pride.

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Feb 11, 2020
Trusting Your Gauges in Times of Anxiety and Worry
0:52:56

Sometimes it feels like your "flying blind" in marriage and in life. What should we do when our feelings tell us things that are contrary to God's truth? We must learn to trust our gauges. In this episode, Ryan and Selena discuss three truths about "gauges" and how to trust them when you feel disoriented in life and marriage.

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Feb 04, 2020
Oops, We're Married!
0:52:54

Many couples get married without really realizing what they've gotten themselves into. When things get tough, they may start thinking they've made a mistake. In this episode, we talk about 4 modern misconceptions about marriage and 3 timeless truths to combat them.

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Jan 28, 2020
Weathering Tough Seasons in Life & Marriage
0:46:43

Not every day/week/month is the same. Some 'seasons' are harder than others. How can we weather them well?

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Jan 21, 2020
Quick Q&A 6: How can we have better dates?
0:06:44

Dates should be fun! Sometimes we just need reminders for how to keep them that way. Today we discussed exactly that!

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Jan 16, 2020
How Should I Pray with My Spouse?
0:49:37

Nothing changes our hearts like praying with the living God! In this episode we talk about the why, when, and how of prayer, particularly for married couples and spouses praying for one another.

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Jan 14, 2020
Faithfulness = Fruitfulness
0:47:32

Faithfulness is a game changer in every way that matters. But what does it really mean to be faithful as a Christian couple?

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Jan 07, 2020
First Things and Next Things
0:53:42

It’s tempting to try and figure out next things while losing sight of what should be first things. As we approach another year, it’s vitally important to recalibrate ourselves based on what actually is of most importance, then we can reverse-engineer our way into “next things” from there.

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Dec 31, 2019
Quick Q&A 5: How can we have a healthy sex life after having kids?
0:08:21

Kids are a blessing, no doubt, but they bring with them a "new normal" that, if not navigated well, can cause issues in marriage. In this short Q&A episode, Ryan & Selena talk about how to plan for, establish, and maintain a healthy sex life after having kids.

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Dec 26, 2019
Fight Me!
0:53:12

There is an art to arguing well. The first, and most important key to fighting well is to never give up—never quit the fight, run away, or disengage. "Push through the ambush." In this episode, Ryan and Selena look at what the Bible says about conflict, then they discuss 5 practical tips for fighting well.

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Dec 24, 2019
Quick Q&A 4: Should we have friends of the opposite sex?
0:09:36

Is it ok to have friends of the opposite sex, like a co-worker, with whom you share details about your marriage?

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Dec 19, 2019
Fighting for Peace in Your Marriage
0:45:04

Peace is more than the absence of conflict—so much more. The Bible's definition of peace is all-encompassing, and has very little to do with outside circumstances. In this episode, Ryan & Selena talk through peace as a fruit of the Spirit, made available to us through the Prince of Peace himself, Jesus! We hope it blesses you.

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Dec 17, 2019
Quick Q&A 3: What's your best advice for newlyweds?
0:08:19

In this episode we share four things we'd discuss with you if we could spend a meal together! Note, the ideas enclosed don't just apply to newlyweds.... :)

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Dec 12, 2019
Finding 'Fierce' Friends That Fight for Your Marriage
0:50:00

There are certain aspects of friendships that qualify them as distinctly "Christian community", specifically purposed for our sanctification and discipleship as followers of Christ. WHat do we mean? You'll have to listen! You can expect to learn about 5 distinguishing qualities of Christian community: Gospel centrality, true transparency, deep discipleship, consistency, and commitment.

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Dec 10, 2019
Quick Q&A 2: Will we still be married in heaven?
0:07:19

Ryan and Selena tackle a common but somewhat murky question for believers: if we're married on earth, will we also be married in heaven? Listen in as we take a look at what the Bible says about just that. Enjoy!

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Dec 05, 2019
Faked Transparency vs. True Vulnerability
0:50:12

It's so easy to feign transparency in marriage. We can give just enough info to give the appearance of vulnerability, all the while failing to be meaningfully vulnerable with one another. In this episode, we talked about the roots of why we "fake it" in marriage, and how the Gospel compels us to fight instead for true vulnerability.

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Dec 03, 2019
Communicating With Clarity When Things Aren't So Clear
0:51:33

Communication continues to be one of the most hotly requested topics from our listeners. So, today we talked about themes that tend to undermine healthy communication: 1) Oversimplification, 2) Failure to Empathize, and 3) Bad Timing and Tone. Listen and learn new ways to approach conversations and conflict with clarity fueled by biblical love. We hope you enjoy!

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Nov 26, 2019
Quick Q&A 1: 'If we both enjoy watching pornography together, is it still a sin?'
0:08:12

Some couples ask this question in earnest, so we spent some time looking at the Bible's perspective on porn, lust, and the marriage bed. This is the first of we hope will be many one-off Quick Q&A sessions (name pending). We hope it blesses you!

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Nov 21, 2019
Your Marriage is Bigger Than You
0:52:10

God created marriage to be BIGGER than you! It's bigger than today, it's bigger than our cultural context, and it's bigger than our struggles. Why and how is it bigger? In today's episode, we talked about seeing marriage in its proper context as part of God's plan for redemption throughout history, but also redemption in our daily lives. We hope it blesses you!

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Nov 19, 2019
What (little 'g') gods Are You Worshipping in Your Marriage?
0:57:44

It's all too easy to pay lip service to Jesus in life and marriage, but live as if he's not King. In this episode of the Fierce Marriage Podcast, we recapped lessons we've learned from the past few weeks since the arrival of our 3rd daughter. God graciously allowed us to realize areas of our lives that we can tend to enthrone in a place of undue authority. We talked about the (little 'g') gods of control/power, status/pride, and (this is a big one we tend to worship all too quickly) comfort/pleasure. We hope you learn something new!

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Nov 12, 2019
Why the "Proverbs 31 Woman" Isn't Who I Thought She Was
0:53:56

The 31st chapter of Proverbs is a beautiful piece of Scripture. However, it's so easy to read it in a way that is contrary to the original intent of the work. The result can mean that ladies/wives feel an overwhelming burden to strive, work, and toil to become the woman portrayed. In today's episode we discussed why that is and we propose a "better" reading of this famous chapter of Proverbs. We hope it blesses you. ALERT: this episode isn't just for ladies.

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Nov 05, 2019
The 15 Second Kiss Experiment
0:36:51

We tried this experiment, it was awesome, so you should try it too. "Selena and I kiss plenty, but we realized that we don’t often kiss for more than a few seconds. I’m not exactly sure why, but I do know it wasn’t like that when we were dating. We made out way too much and for too long when we were dating… After my “sales pitch”, Selena and I agreed to try a few days with the “15 second kiss” rule. Here’s what we learned (or were reminded of)…" Listen for more!

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Oct 29, 2019
Reclaiming Real Romance
0:51:12

It's easy to forget to pursue each other when you've been together for a while. Life gets busy, time gets scarce, and before we know it, we've forgotten to intentionally love one another. This week we discussed tangible ways to enjoy each other more in marriage. Enjoy!

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Oct 22, 2019
Who Is the Authority in Your Marriage?
0:57:59

When it comes down to it, what or who is the functional authority in your marriage? In today's episode we take a deep dive into Matthew 21 and examining what Jesus said as his authority was challenged... and of course, we'll talk about all it means for life and marriage. We hope it blesses you!

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Oct 15, 2019
Calling Us Out to Draw Us In
0:52:48

God calls us out of our hiding, not for our shame, but so that we may flourish in fulfilling our ultimate purpose: to glorify him. This description is short, because I'm writing it as we wait for Selena to have our third daughter! Carry on... we hope this episode blesses you!

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Oct 08, 2019
Marriage Adversaries vs. Marriage Advocates
0:55:47

While it is nice to have friends around you that will watch your back and take your side, those same friends should understand that most often, the BEST way they can love you well is to fight for you AND the health of your marriage. In this episode, we discussed the differences between marriage advocates vs. marriage adversaries. Enjoy!

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Oct 01, 2019
The Art of (Actually) Apologizing
0:55:20

We explored 8 aspects of truly apologizing to your spouse in this episode, and it was epic. It's not easy saying you're sorry. It's even harder apologizing in a way that leads to deep, lasting reconciliation (even during small conflicts). Listen in to discover and learn the Art of Apologizing. We hope it blesses you!

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Sep 24, 2019
Are You Obviously Married in Public?
0:57:54

People know you’re married by how you act, and we can sometimes act in a way that seeks validation from the opposite sex outside of marriage. Why is that? In this episode, Ryan and Selena talk about why there should be NO QUESTION of whether or not you’re married in public (and online).

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Sep 17, 2019
Finding the Absolute Definition of Love
0:58:47

If a couple isn't on the same page in how they define love, they're in for quite a challenging marriage. Thankfully there is a perfect and final authority who can tell us what love is. In this episode, we discussed why and how Jesus is our ultimate authority, definition, and example of love.

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Sep 10, 2019
Prayer + Pursuit, and Why Your Marriage Needs Both
0:59:57

Your marriage needs both PRAYER and PURSUIT. Prayer is going to God and entrusting him with everything that is out of your control, while pursuit means choosing to live out the actions of love. In this episode we hashed out principles and practicalities around both. Enjoy!

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Sep 03, 2019
5 Keys to a Healthy Perspective on Sex
0:58:03

How we see sex dramatically affects our experience of it. The problem is, it's so easy to see sex incorrectly because of our our own pasts and perspectives as well culture's popular beliefs. In today's episode, we talked through one of our favorite passages on sex, Proverbs 5. Listen in and see just how God's vision of sex in marriage can change your relationship.

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Aug 27, 2019
What, Exactly, is a "Normal, Healthy Marriage"?
0:59:29

"Healthy" isn't always our normal or our default. So it begs the question: what is a healthy, normal marriage? In today's episode, Ryan and Selena explored big truths given in Scripture and talk about how, as believers, we can apply it with wisdom, discernment, and help from the Holy Spirit, for our good and for God's glory.

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Aug 20, 2019
Social Media, Your Marriage, and You
0:51:36

Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and the like are all incredible tools of our time. However, they do carry with them the potential to damage our relationships. While the Bible doesn't directly talk about social media, it does teach us how to become the kinds of people who make wise decisions—all of which help us navigate our modern age.

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Aug 13, 2019
Growing Together While Apart / Dealing with Military Deployments (Brooks and Hunter Beless)
0:47:56

Brooks and Hunter (she's the founder of the Journeywomen podcast!) have spent the majority of their time as a married couple apart. Still, even with their time thousands of miles apart, they learned ways to grow closer to one another and closer to Christ. If you or your spouse is serving in the military, this episode is for you! If you know someone who struggles with long lengths apart, this is for them! You’re not going to want to miss this amazing episode.

For more from Hunter Beless, search for "Journeywomen" (one word) in your favorite podcast app!

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Aug 08, 2019
Foundations of Forgiveness
0:56:52

Forgiving others when we're genuinely hurt is one of the most difficult but important principles we must learn in marriage. In this episode, we looked at The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant (Matthew 18) and explored all it can mean for life and marriage. We hope it blesses you!

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Aug 06, 2019
5 Considerations When Dating To Marry (or as a Married Couple)
0:59:53

Dating is an important part of every relationship—whether you're looking to marry or if you're already married. In this episode, we present 5 important considerations you may find helpful as you approach dating. Enjoy!

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Jul 30, 2019
Marriage After God (Aaron and Jennifer Smith)
0:46:11

What if God has purposed your marriage for something so much more than happily ever after?

Since the very beginning, God's design for marriage is for husbands and wives to be ambassadors of holy love to a hurting world. Still, so many couples stop short at happy and wonder why they feel unsatisfied. Rather than "you and me against the world," God calls each couple to the rich and meaningful mission of "you and me for the world."

Aaron and Jennifer Smith, popular marriage bloggers at HusbandRevolution.com and UnveiledWife.com, transparently share their journey from a marriage in crisis to a marriage built on Christ's redemptive love. Through fresh biblical insight and intimate stories of their own struggles and victories, this book will guide you toward a God-centered, ministry-minded, and thriving marriage. You will discover the signature marks of a marriage after God, find principles for building an unshakable marriage foundation, learn how to let God's story take the lead in your love story, and recognize the tools God has already equipped you with for a missional life together. Filled with helpful illustrations, this thorough and practical book will empower you and your spouse to dream, decide, and do as you step hand-in-hand into God's ultimate purpose for your marriage.

Your oneness is also meant for witness. God has purposed your remarkable, romantic, and redemptive relationship to be a powerful light to a dark and hurting world. This is your invitation to marriage as God intended - a life-saving, hope-inspiring, and transforming force of God's love.

For more resources from Aaron and Jennifer Smith, visit MarriageAfterGod.com, and find their podcast by searching "Marriage After God" wherever you get your podcasts.

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Jul 26, 2019
5 Hurtful Phrases to Remove from Your Marriage Vocabulary
0:57:57

It’s impossible to define everything everyone should or shouldn’t say in every situation. However, there are some phrases that are usually unhelpful for marriage. Join us as we explore each one!

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Jul 23, 2019
Your Habits and the Health of Your Marriage
0:56:05

Habits are behaviors that form your character, life, and experience over time. Often times, our habits are our default behaviors... but we're called to cultivate "the ground" (soil) of our lives, which means the healthiest habits won't happen without our effort. What could developing healthier habits mean for your marriage? They could change everything. Listen for more!

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Jul 16, 2019
Biblical Stewardship... and Marriage? (Dr. Scott and Linda Rodin)
0:48:37

Dr. Scott and Linda Rodin have had an incredible impact on our marriage, albeit from afar. In their 40 years of marriage, they've raised babies, built remarkable careers, and embarked on countless adventures. In our talk, we discussed what it means to be "a steward of your spouse's heart" and much more! Dr. Scott Rodin is a speaker and author focusing on Biblical Stewardship, and he also holds Master of Theology and Doctor of Philosophy degrees in Systematic Theology from the University of Aberdeen, Scotland.

We hope this episode blesses you and helps your marriage!

More resources from Scott Rodin visit TheStewardsJourney.com, and to read his books, visit KingdomLifePublishing.com

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Jul 11, 2019
Family Worship
0:57:04

Few ideas have changed the culture of our family as much as Family Worship. In this episode, we discussed where the idea of Family Worship comes from (biblically, historically) and talked about practical ways to implement it in your household. Enjoy!

Here's the book we mentioned: Family Worship, by Donald S. Whitney. By it here ($7.99)

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Jul 09, 2019
Is Your Marriage the "Good Soil"?
0:58:59

It's easy to grow hardened toward each other in marriage. It's also far too easy to be distracted or shallow when it comes to growing in the ways that matter most. Jesus calls our hearts soil, so how can we mindfully cultivate the soil of our hearts in a way that allows the Gospel to bear maximum fruit in our lives? In today's episode, we discussed the Parable of the Sower and how, as married people, we can fight together to build fruit-bearing marriages.

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Jul 02, 2019
Control, Surrender, Your Marriage, and You
0:57:59

The desire to control outcomes and realities is at the root of all marital discord. Why? Because at its root the desire to control that which is out of our control is rooted in a distrust of God. If our spouse is disengaged, we want to nag so he or she will re-engage. When our finances aren't where we want them to be, we work and spend too much in hopes of regaining control. The list goes on. When we feel like our present reality is at odds with our ideal situation, we are faced with a choice: either we try to change the situation ourselves, we lose hope, or we trust God's goodness and sovereignty. Which one do you think is wisest?

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Jun 25, 2019
An Ethic of Protecting Your Family, Marriage, and Home (The Lovells)
0:49:25

The Lovells are fighters for truth and protectors of people. John Lovell is the founder of the Warrior Poet Society — a values-based community dedicated to physical protection, the pursuit of truth, and living for higher purpose. John is a war veteran and a former member of Special Operations, having served in the 2nd Ranger Battalion with numerous combat tours to both Iraq and Afghanistan. His overseas experience also includes having served as a Christian missionary to Central America. John describes himself as a ‘family-man’, and fills his time with faith, family, fun, and study. To learn more, visit WarriorPoetSociety.us

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Jun 20, 2019
Crushing Comparison
0:54:46

It seems natural to compare ourselves to others. As humans, we compare appearances, careers, marriages, and even spouses. Society encourages it. The chief problem of comparisons is that they’re usually based on romanticized half-truths. Most often when we compare, we base expectations of ourselves on standards that aren’t accurate – they’re perceived.

Comparisons stifle progress; only truth in light of the gospel causes real growth.

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Jun 18, 2019
Battling Discouragement in Life and Marriage
0:53:57

Looking inward is just about the worst way to handle ongoing discouragement in life and marriage. Instead, we must look to Christ and God's Word to realign our downcast hearts with the promises afforded us in the Gospel. As a married couple, you can also help each other by reminding one another about the never-fading goodness in Christ. We hope this episode encourages you, especially if you feel discouraged.

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Jun 11, 2019
Out of the Dust (Chris and Stephanie Teague)
1:02:00

Chris and Stephanie lived the ideal romantic story. They were highschool sweethearts, they loved each other, and they shared a love and devotion for God. Everything changed when Chris lost his faith, left Stephanie, and filed for divorce. They thought they had reached the end of their story, but God had other plans.

To learn more about Chris and Stephanie and Out of the Dust, visit outofthedustmusic.com. If their story has encouraged or helped you, you can support them by buying their album on iTunes or on their website (all info can be found on their website).

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Jun 06, 2019
Enduring Friendship, Enduring Marriage
0:58:15

Your friendship is one of the pillars of your marriage. But could it be that our view of friendship (in modern culture) could be having negative effects on our view of the marital covenant? In this week's episode, we discuss what the Bible teaches and shows us about marriage and contrast what we learn against the prevalent view in culture today. We enjoyed it, and we hope you do too!

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Jun 04, 2019
Are Your Words Off-Limits, Unhelpful, or Wise?
0:54:37

When creating communication ground rules, we recommend using three categories for what you say and how you say it: off-limits, unhelpful and unproductive, and wise. Listen in as we explore each category!

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May 28, 2019
Abortion, Birth Control, IVF, and Babies (Adam and Chelsea Griffin)
0:57:53

Adam and Chelsea Griffin are a force for life. Adam is a pastor and podcaster in the Dallas area and Chelsea is a Labor & Delivery nurse. Today we talked about all things "life", especially in terms of abortion, birth control, IVF, and God's desire for children in the family. Today's conversation was helpful and counter-cultural. Thanks for listening!

Topics covered:

  • A Christian perspective of when life begins
  • Contraceptives (and abortifacient drugs)
  • Grace in Christ for those who unknowingly took abortifacient contraceptives
  • How many kids should a couple have? i.e. Should we claim significant control over the number of kids we raise?
  • How should the reality that "God opens and closes the womb" affect family planning?

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May 23, 2019
3 Ground Rules for Honest Conversations
0:59:03

Honesty in marriage starts with being honest with ourselves. To do that, we need not be "true to ourselves" but rather, we should focus on being true to God and his Word. In today's episode, we discussed how we can be "true to God's Word" and therefore, more honest with ourselves. Then from there, we covered three ground rules for honest conversations: never lie, always love, and take action. We hope it blesses you!

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May 21, 2019
Burn the Ships!
0:54:21

Marriage is designed to be a covenantal relationship that far exceeds any other relational construct. It's immensely important and incredibly beautiful as God designed it. In this episode we talked about the bigness and depth of what it means to live in a covenantal marriage.

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May 14, 2019
Becoming a "Family Team" (Jefferson and Alyssa Bethke)
1:01:24

Family is the first and most important institution created by God, yet we often live by default instead of by design. In today's episode, we spoke with Jeff and Alyssa Bethke about their passion for Family Teams, what that term means, and how to celebrate the importance of being a family through rhythms of rest and celebration.

For more incredible resources from the Bethkes, go to FamilyTeams.com/get-started!

We talked about:

  1. Families on mission vs. family AS mission
  2. Seeking unity around important things
  3. How to be a family that "sends" each other out on mission
  4. Taking time each year to plan AND reflect on the past
  5. The art of the Sabbath, and why it should be the best day of your week
  6. So much more...

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May 09, 2019
Pornography (Part 2: The Path to Purity)
0:58:43

This is the second part of a two-part series aimed at helping couples start conversations around pornography and a pathway to freedom from addiction. In today's episode we shared our personal story of struggling with pornography and discussed ways to find freedom from addiction and healing throughout the process.

Resources:

  1. TOP Recommendation: Sex Addiction Recovery: Pure Desire (find a group near you)
  2. Pornography (Part 1: The Problem) (Part 1 of this 2 part series)
  3. Accountability questions: Get them here
  4. The Spectrum of Sex (past episode: for establishing healthy expectations around your sex life)
  5. MarriageHelp.org (Find a group near you)
  6. CelebrateRecovery.com (Find a group near you)

Resources Recommended by Listeners:

Note, these haven't been vetted by us or verified as theologically solid. That's not to say that they aren't, it's just to say please proceed with the Bible as your ultimate guide.

  1. L.I.F.E recovery guide and groups
  2. Brainbuddy app (not Christian, but seems to be biblically motivated)
  3. Echo prayer app (not pornography related but helps us be intentional in prayer daily)
  4. Pure Desire book
  5. Fight The New Drug website
  6. Ransomed Heart Ministries
  7. Restoring the Foundations Biblical healing.
  8. Podcast: "Porn Free Radio"
  9. Podcast: "The Grizz"

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May 07, 2019
Pornography (Part 1: The Problem)
0:54:45

This is the first part of a two-part series aimed at helping couples start conversations around pornography and a pathway to freedom from addiction. In today's episode we looked at the epidemic of pornography and its harmful effects to the individual, the family, and society.

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Apr 30, 2019
Healing from Past Trauma, the Gospel, and Love (Preston and Jackie Hill Perry)
0:51:08

Today we had special guests Preston and Jackie Hill Perry on the show! Both Preston and Jackie are prolific voices for Jesus in modern culture through teaching, spoken word performances, poetry, and music.

Jackie's book, Gay Girl Good God is available on Amazon.com or wherever books are sold.

Connect with the Perrys on social media, YouTube, or at JackieHillPerry.com.

In this episode, we talked about:

  • Preston and Jackie's story
  • How does the gospel affect how we deal with our pasts?
  • Managing busy lives and maintaining margin
  • How to deal with past trauma in a healthy way
  • How to view sex in a healthy way
  • Given that you're both gifted wordsmiths, how do the Perrys fight?
  • How can we love the LGBTQ community well?
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Apr 25, 2019
Q&A #4: Gender Roles in Marriage, Healing After Betrayal, Preparing for Marriage, and More
0:59:09

You asked, we discussed! Listen in as we tackled your most pressing questions about gender roles in marriage, healing after betrayal, and more.

Show Notes

We mentioned a TON of resources in this episode, they're listed below.

Misc. Resources

  1. Wild at Heart by John Eldredge
  2. Our devotional bundles for growing in your marriage: 40-Day Prayer Journey, 31-Day Pursuit Challenge

Newlyweds

  1. Past Episode: Navigating the Early Years of Marriage (Jeremy and Audrey Roloff)
  2. Qapital App, for saving money intentionally (get $20 for signing up with our link, limited time only)
  3. A Mingling of Souls by Matt and Lauren Chandler
  4. Fierce Marriage by Ryan and Selena Frederick
Priorities and Staying Connected
  1. Download Family Vision worksheet
  2. 5 Habits of a Healthy Marriage, FREE eBook
Accountability Questions
  1. Get them here

Gender Roles in Marriage

  1. A Beautiful Design, a sermon series of the Village Church
  2. Jesus, Justice, and Gender Roles by Kathy Keller
  3. What Are Biblical Roles for Husbands and Wives?”, The Gospel Coalition, brief video

Healing After Betrayal

  1. Dave and Ashley Willis Episode
  2. Out of the Dust (Chris and Stephanie Teague)
  3. RefineUs.org (Justin and Trisha Davis)
  4. Sex Addiction Recovery: Pure Desire
  5. MarriageHelp.org (Find a group near you)
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Apr 23, 2019
The Hearts and Feelings of Women
0:55:46

Emotions are important, but they're not ultimate. Feelings are just feelings, and they shouldn't determine or change important parts of life, correct? In this episode, we talked about the hearts and feelings of women, in a candid discussion about emotions and their role in life, faith, and family.

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Apr 16, 2019
Navigating the Early Years of Marriage (Jeremy and Audrey Roloff)
0:42:25

Jeremy and Audrey met under during a very unique situation. More than 2.3 million people watched as Jeremy and Audrey Roloff shared their vows and committed their lives to each other on TLC's hit show Little People, Big World.

Listen in as we talked with them about their first five years of marriage and how they learned that true love is something you choose to live out each day through your actions, decisions, and sacrifices.

More resources from Jeremy and Audrey!

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Apr 11, 2019
The Hearts and Feelings of Men
0:56:47

One of the biggest problems faced by modern men (and their wives) is the numbing and inoculation against feeling true emotions. For some, even when they do feel clearly, it's equally as challenging to articulating those feeling in a healthy way.

In this episode, we talked about the hearts and feelings of men, how wives can help their husbands process them. We ended the episode calling men to feel deeply about things that truly matter. Thanks for listening!

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Apr 09, 2019
Accountability in Marriage (What it Is and What it Isn't)
0:56:53

Accountability in marriage is so much more than asking if and how you've sinned in the past week. It's about spouses embracing their role in each others' tangible walk with Christ. In this weeks episode, we talked about what accountability isn't, what it is, and how to ask questions that get to the heart of the matter.

Mentioned: Get the accountability questions

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Apr 02, 2019
Building an Emotionally Safe Marriage (Dr. Josh and Christi Straub)
0:49:59

Josh and Christi are the real deal. Highly educated, faith-filled, and articulate communicators. In today's special interview episode, we talked about what it takes to have an emotionally safe marriage. We discussed the "fight, flight, or freeze" response to trauma in your marriage, as well as our tendency to gloss over or forget to utilize 'emotion language' as couples.

We enjoyed our conversation, and we trust that will too!

More resources from Josh and Christi Straub:

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Mar 28, 2019
Uprooting Bitterness In Your Marriage
0:51:04

Seeds and roots of bitterness start subtly. However, we must be aware and wise to identify them and uproot them before they get out of control. In this episode, we talked about the true root of bitterness (it may not be what you think) and how standing in awe of God is the only true way to uproot it.

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Mar 26, 2019
Common Lies We Believe About Marriage (and Truths to Dispel Them)
0:54:56

Sometimes the reasons marriage is challenging is because of a lie we're believing on some level. For example, we sometimes believe it's our primary job to change one another. In other cases, we wonder if we married the wrong person, or we expect our spouse to "complete" us.

In this episode, we discussed common lies we believe in marriage and talked about how to dispel them. Enjoy!

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Mar 19, 2019
Singleness and Dating to the Glory of God (Kait Warman)
0:54:43

Today we interviewed Kait Warman, a gospel-centered dating "expert" (our word, not hers) and host of the Heart of Dating Podcast. We had a very interesting and fun conversation! A few of the things we talked about include:

  • How married couples can help and encourage singles and daters
  • The dating scene and how to navigate it as a Christian
  • How to set healthy boundaries and habits for dating
  • Dating as a means of growing in Kingdom purpose
  • Some ways singles can "hyper-spiritualize" the dating process
  • Leaving others better than you found them when dating
  • What physical boundaries should dating couples have?
  • Kait mentioned an "eroticism for life" (listen for the full context!)
  • Creating a "board of advisors" for your dating life
  • Kait shared one of her WORST dating stories

Get more from Kait Warman

Visit https://heartofdating.com/ for excellent resources and to learn more about Kait.

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Mar 14, 2019
3 Aspects of Unforgettable Dates After “I Do”
0:50:02

How to keep things interesting long after you say "I do". We covered 3 aspects of unforgettable dates.

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Mar 12, 2019
How to Study the Bible as a Couple
0:54:32

Approaching the Bible can be intimidating. We can easily feel overwhelmed or under-equipped. However, reading God's Word is easily one of, if not THE, most important things you can do as a couple. With that said, take heart! God is faithful to make His word accessible to all who approach it willingly.

In today's episode, Ryan and Selena talked about how to overcome fears, what the Bible actually is (the canon, etc), methods for reading the Bible, and how to read Scripture together. Enjoy!

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Mar 05, 2019
Blended Families: Navigating Complexities with Hope and Joy (Mike and Kim Anderson)
0:45:41

Being in a blended family is as complex as it is challenging. The good news is that you aren't without hope in the Gospel and help from others who care! In today's special interview episode, we had the incredible joy of speaking with Mike and Kim Anderson, the proverbial "experts" on blended families.

Mike & Kim have been supporting stepfamilies since 2001. Their marriage formed a stepfamily and Mike grew up in challenging stepfamily dynamics. Their personal experience with stepfamily life and professional experience coaching others uniquely equip them to help step-couples learn and implement healthy habits that will positively transform their daily stepfamily life.

You can download their FREE guide, How to Build Connection, Order & Peace in Your Stepfamily by visiting FierceMarriage.com/Blended

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Feb 28, 2019
The Power and Joy of Living "On Mission" as a Couple
0:50:06

A marriage on mission fulfills the Great Commission in ways specific to how God designed the relationship to flourish and function. A couple "on mission" does this with unity, joy, and gospel-fueled excitement.

In today's episode, we discussed how to live as a "marriage on mission" by looking at the underlying biblical mandates for us as Christians first, then as a married couple.

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Feb 26, 2019
The 3 Types of Intimacy and How Transparency Grows Each One
0:53:17

In today's show, we discussed the three areas of intimacy and how transparency helps you grow in each one!

Mentioned: The 40-Day Prayer Journey, a pair of couples devotionals aimed at helping you pray intentionally for each other. Writing these books helped us grow immensely. Visit 40Prayers.com to learn more!

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Feb 19, 2019
"The Naked Marriage" and Rebuilding Trust After a Betrayal (Dave and Ashley Willis)
0:54:29

Today we talked with Dave and Ashley Willis, authors and podcasters. We talked about dealing with betrayal, how to rebuild trust, and why it's ok to be vulnerable, even if it's uncomfortable.

Dave and Ashley's new book The Naked Marriage: Undressing the truth about sex, intimacy and lifelong love released on Feb 12th. It's amazing! Make sure to grab a copy on Amazon.

For more resources from Dave and Ashley, check out their podcast, "The Naked Marriage".

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Feb 14, 2019
Ask Us Anything Q&A #3: Growing in Intimacy, Abortion, Headship/Submission, and More
0:50:06

In today's episode, we answer listener questions. Some on the lighter side, some tough, all honest.

We answered questions about how to grow in intimacy, how to deal with a spouse who wants an abortion, headship and submission, and others.

Note: we're not counselors or therapists. Seek professional help if you need it. Our answers shouldn't be construed as professional advice, and given the medium, please give grace on the nuances of each topic covered (there were many, and a few are very complex in nature). Nothing here should replace godly, Bible-based counsel or Christian community rooted in the gospel.

Mentioned in this episode:

Sanctity of Human Life:

  • https://www.tvcresources.net/resource-library/articles/sanctity-of-life
  • https://www.tvcresources.net/resource-library/sermons/the-sanctity-of-human-life--4

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Feb 12, 2019
The Massive Importance of Margin in Life and Marriage
0:48:03

Too often, we fill our lives to the brim and our marriages suffer as a result. The problem is that life is unpredictable. We need extra space—MARGIN—so we have patience, time, and resources to deal with life's unpredictability in a healthy way.

In this week's episode, Ryan and Selena discussed why busyness is overrated, how to prioritize, and three practical areas where margin is vital for a healthier life and marriage.

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Feb 05, 2019
Common Pitfalls that Young Couples Face (Scott Kedersha)
0:38:32

Today we talked with Scott Kedersha, Director of Marriage Ministry at Watermark Church in Dallas. Drawing on over a decade of boots-on-the-ground experience with young couples, we discussed common pitfalls they face.

Scott's new book "Ready or Knot" releases on Feb 5th, but you can PRE-ORDER it here and get bonuses: ScottKedersha.com/ready

For more resources from Scott, check out his blog at ScottKedersha.com.

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Jan 31, 2019
Clinging to Truth in a Post-Truth World
0:50:49

If we're not careful, subtle cultural lies can begin to have huge consequences on big truths in marriage. In a culture ruled by relative truths, it's more important now than ever to stand on God's Word as true, inerrant, and authoritative in our lives.

How do we sort out truth? How do we gain unity around complex questions? We’re going to talk through this and provide some clear tangible pathways to understanding and clinging to God's truth.

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Jan 29, 2019
Finances in Marriage: 7 Principles Every Couple Should Consider
0:57:58

Finances are a hot topic in every marriage. It can be insanely stressful, and if we’re not careful we can get caught up in the comparison game.

We certainly don’t know everything about this or have a silver bullet to fix every financial woe in your marriage. However, we have learned a few principles that help us stay focused on the main thing: God. Having the right perspective on finances will serve at least three important purposes in your married life:

  1. Keep God at the center and in control of your life, not money
  2. Keep money in its rightful place – a few notches down the priority list
  3. Replace stress with trust and striving with faithfulness, thus adding to your overall marital joy

Keep listening for 7 principles we’ve learned about finances.

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Jan 22, 2019
Enjoying Each Other to the Glory to God
0:54:47

If the chief end of man (and therefore, marriage) is to glorify God, what does that mean for our sex life? Namely, how do we KNOW if our sex life in marriage is everything it can and should be? In today's episode, we'll discuss vulnerability, various popular views of sexuality, and a behavioral psychology model for building habits for a thriving sex life.

Due to sensitive content, we recommend not having kiddos present when listening to this episode.

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Jan 15, 2019
Your Spouse, Your Ultimate Standard of Attractiveness
0:49:00

This is one of those issues that will make or break your marriage.

Men, we are constantly barraged with culture’s standard of womanly beauty. We are subconsciously told over and over again that a beautiful woman must be skinny, tall, wear certain clothes, act a certain way, and have a risqué appetite for sex.

Advertisers and content producers spend billions establishing and reinforcing what culture deems beautiful. The funny thing is that if asked to describe what a beautiful woman looks like, content producers would quickly mention inner beauty, individual uniqueness, and personality. You’ll never catch them verbalizing that beauty has to look the way they show.

In today's podcast, we look at this phenomenon and share practical ways to set your own spouse as your ultimate standard of attractiveness.

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Jan 08, 2019
5 Tips (and Tools) for a Stronger Marriage This Year
0:48:40

If you’re like us (and like most), goals you make usually revolve around work and lifestyle: “hit this revenue milestone” or “pay off such-and-such debt”. Those goals are good, so long as they’re in the proper context of your identity in Christ and your Gospel-centered purpose as a new creation in him.

This year, we're urging ourselves (and you!) to look closer to home when targeting big, crazy endeavors. Consider this: how can your marriage and family be different and/or more healthy this year? What experiences can you pursue together that will build your faith and trust in God while making use of your days to glorify him? Really… think about it. What could be?

To that end, we've compiled this list of 5 tips/tools that we think are very helpful for building on specific, important aspects of your marriage. We hope they help you!

All of the links mentioned can be found here: https://fiercemarriage.com/5-tips-and-tools-for-a-stronger-marriage-this-year

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Jan 03, 2019
God is Good! Celebrating the Year (2018 Best-of)
0:46:01

In this unique episode we recall all that God has done in our lives and through the Fierce Marriage ministry in 2018. We recapped our most downloaded episodes of the year and celebrate miracles we've witnessed in lives of listeners and friends.

Episodes mentioned:

Links to the top episodes of the year:

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Dec 28, 2018
Advent, Your Marriage, and the Rest of the Year
1:00:37

We are all searching for real hope, authentic-biblical love, lasting joy and otherworldly peace for our marriage. In the midst of the advent, and holiday season some feel burdened, lost, and without hope—both in their personal lives and in the life of their marriage. We've been there.

It’s often when the night seems the darkest that the light shines brighter! It’s in the darkness of a stable where our Savior was born for the very purpose of bringing real hope to us no matter the circumstance. In him we find all the love, joy, and peace to anchor us in Him!

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Dec 18, 2018
Breaking the Ice During Communication Cold-Snaps
0:46:28

How can we break the ice and let our guard down when everything inside of us wants to hold onto frustration?

Selena and I have experienced PLENTY of “communication cold snaps” in our marriage. A “cold snap” is defined as a “a sudden, brief spell of cold weather.” Things get icy in marriage when bitterness builds up from being hurt, mistreated, or misunderstood over a long period of time. “Cold snaps” happen when we don’t nip communication issues in the bud.

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Dec 11, 2018
The Best Intimacy is Spiritual Intimacy
0:54:40

Many couples ask about building spiritual unity, intimacy, and connection. Questions like: How can we grow in our faith together? How can we build Christ-centered rhythms into our daily and weekly lives?

In this episode, Ryan and Selena explore the topic of Spiritual Intimacy by looking at spiritual disciplines for cultivating a relentless devotion to Christ together. Among the things discussed are prayer, Scripture reading, spiritual disciplines (fasting, scripture memorization, prayer, studying scripture in depth, reading swaths of passages).

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Dec 04, 2018
Sometimes Familiarity Hurts
0:53:13

It’s inevitable in marriage for us to become familiar with our spouse. We know each other’s likes, dislikes, love languages—we also know how and when to press each other’s buttons. Familiarity is a double-edged sword that NEEDS to be used and viewed through the lens of the gospel. By knowing each other more fully, the Holy Spirit empowers us to love more completely.

In this episode, Ryan and Selena discuss their own struggles with familiarity and how God continues to gently and lovingly lead them back to biblical truths in how they can love each other more completely.

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Nov 27, 2018
Our 3 Non-Negotiables in Marriage
0:52:48

Everyone builds their marriage on something. What is your marriage founded upon? More importantly, is the foundation of your marriage secure? In this episode, Ryan and Selena explore their 3 non-negotiables for marriage and look at how when they're in place, everything about your marriage will change.

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Nov 20, 2018
Hope for Those Living in a One-Sided Marriage
0:52:00

One of the biggest sources of strife in marriage is being unequally yoked. What is the husband or wife to do if their spouse isn’t trying or won’t re-engage with the relationship?

In this week’s episode, Ryan and Selena tackle this tough question and more...

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Nov 13, 2018
The 5 Love Languages
0:42:44

In this episode, Ryan and Selena discuss Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages. In their discussion they explore whether or not they are biblical, and how they can help/hinder your marriage in the different seasons you’re in (pre-kids, littles, etc.).

After recently taking the quiz online (go to http://5LoveLanguages.com to take the quiz yourself), both were surprised by their results this time around versus when they were younger and without kids.

Note: we weren't' paid in any way to talk about this book, it's just a great conversation piece that has helped us a ton.

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Nov 06, 2018
The "Spectrum of Sex" and Why You Need It
0:53:38

Sex is an incredible gift, but missed expectations can cause hurt and frustration. What if you could clearly know what to expect, when sex would happen, and why it's worth prioritizing, even when you're tired?

In this week's episode, Ryan and Selena introduce the idea of establishing a "Spectrum of Sex" in your marriage, as a means of gaining unity around the 'rhythms' (pun kind of intended) of your sex life.

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Oct 30, 2018
Are You Over-Focusing On Your Marriage?
0:40:59

In this episode, Ryan and Selena discuss how our earthly marriage is simply a shadow to our eternal marriage with Christ, and the implications of living too focused on the happiness level of our marriage rather than the One we were created for can have ...

As marriage ministers, it’s important for us to continually point people to Christ and commission marriages for the gospel (the mission of FM)—part of this means asking and discussing the hard question of: Are we surrendering ourselves/our marriage to God’s Kingdom? Or have we reduced Christianity to a mere means to our end: a happy life, and therefore, a happy marriage?

Secondly, are we serving God’s kingdom together and “Strengthening the brethren?” (Isaiah 12:4) In other words, are to proclaim to others God’s mighty works and his character. Listen along for more!

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Oct 23, 2018
Can I Have Close Friends of the Opposite Sex?
0:45:14

There is a lot of godly information and instruction around this area of friendship with the opposite sex and whether or not it is something that can happen or should happen.

In this episode, Ryan and Selena will discuss this controversial topic while sharing their own experiences and biblical understanding of how we “can have the wisdom to know and enjoy the blessing of friendship in a way that honors both our marriage and our brothers and sisters in Christ—while ultimately bringing glory to him.”

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Oct 16, 2018
The Cohabitation Phenomenon: is it Good or Bad, and Why?
0:45:01

Marriage is trending downward while cohabitation trends upward, but the facts say that's a bad thing. It's important to understand why cohabitation is bad from both a biblical perspective as well as a sociological perspective.

In this episode, we'll dive deep into the reasons why couples cohabitate and practical ways to combat this harmful trend in culture.

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Oct 09, 2018
How is Your Phone Hurting Your Marriage (Part 2)
1:02:45

You're probably using your smartphone to listen to this. Your phone is a great tool! But it can also create problems in life and marriage.

(Side note: This episode marks 1 FULL YEAR of the Fierce Marriage Podcast! Thanks for listening!)

Anyways... A few diagnostic questions: Do you check your phone first thing in the morning? Do you spend many of your idle moments checking it compulsively? What is the longest stretch you've gone in the past year without checking your phone?

In today's episode, we'll continue our conversation we started about 12 episodes ago (whoops!). Note, we weren't paid to do this, we're just VERY convicted about this subject and the below book is gospel-centered, relevant, and challenging.

Resource: "12 Ways Your Phone is Changing You" by Tony Reinke

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Oct 02, 2018
Living with Unshakeable Peace
0:54:43

Peace is one of those things you don't realize is there until it's gone, then that's when you're most desperate to regain it. Jesus promised to give otherworldly peace to believers through the indwelling of the Holy Spirit. So, what should we do when we don't feel peace?

In this episode, we'll discuss what true peace looks like and where it's found.

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Sep 25, 2018
3 Boundaries Every Couple Needs
0:45:59

Healthy boundaries will protect you from overextending yourself in life. They will also protect the health of your marriage when they're clearly defined. Every season of frustration in our own marriage ("season" = many months) can usually be traced back to some issue with boundaries. Usually, I'm overworking, or we're making poor decisions in areas where we haven't clearly defined our "walls".

In this episode, we'll explore three specific ways you can create healthy boundaries in your marriage.

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Sep 18, 2018
10 Big Questions About Sex, Compatibility, Kids, Annoyances, and More
0:49:37

You asked, we answered. This episode includes

  1. What do you do when you no longer have feelings for or care about your spouse?
  2. What is your stand on toys or items used while having sex or used to help pleasure before sex?
  3. When did you guys know you were ready to have kids?
  4. What’s something that may have annoyed you about the other that you now do?
  5. How do you love a husband that is full of pride?
  6. Ideas for spouses when one is a night owl and the other is an early bird?
  7. How to be brave with intimacy when kids are asleep?
  8. How do you deal with in-laws that are very close to you but don’t respect your lifestyle and/or space?
  9. As a wife, how to respond to a husband who admits porn addiction?
  10. What's the best resource specifically for affair recovery and reconciliation in marriage?

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Sep 11, 2018
The Art of Appreciation!
0:47:26

Appreciation is one of the most powerful ways to foster love and generosity in your marriage. In today's episode, Ryan and Selena explore ways to cultivate appreciation and grow closer in the process.

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Sep 04, 2018
Family of Origin (Part 2: Ryan's Story)
0:55:04

As a follow up to what Selena shared last week, this episode explores Ryan's family of origin and its impact in their marriage.

Your family of origin, generally speaking, refers to where you came from. Where you came from determines where you're going, especially when referring to your marriage.

Focus on the Family article mentioned: https://www.focusonthefamily.ca/content/what-is-a-family-of-origin

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Aug 28, 2018
Family of Origin (Part 1: Selena's Story)
0:46:05

Your family of origin, generally speaking, refers to where you came from. Where you came from determines where you're going, especially when referring to your marriage.

In today's episode, Selena shares her story after we briefly discuss what "Family of Origin" is and why it's important.

Focus on the Family article mentioned: https://www.focusonthefamily.ca/content/what-is-a-family-of-origin

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Aug 21, 2018
The Biggest Battle You'll Ever Face: Pride, Humility, and Your Marriage
0:52:59

Pride is the sense that we can get what we want, deserve, or need on our own. Pride is at the root of every sin, conflict, and deviation from God's Word. In contrast, humility means being Christ-centered more than being me-centered.

In today's episode, we'll read God's Word and explore how to diagnose areas of pride in marriage.

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Aug 14, 2018
Live Q&A #3: Emotional Intimacy, Loving a Disengaged Spouse, Priorities, and More
0:54:17

In this bonus episode, Ryan and Selena answer questions from readers around the world via Facebook and Instagram LIVE! It's uncut, unedited, and unfiltered... for better or worse (a little like marriage). We hope you enjoy it and find it helpful!

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Aug 09, 2018
Recovering After a Bad Fight
0:47:58

Fighting is inevitable in marriage. The key is learning the arts of fighting well and recovering in healthy ways.

In today's episode, we'll share a few of our worst fights and explore biblical ways forward that every couple can apply.

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Aug 07, 2018
5 Specific Ways to Pray for Your Spouse
0:42:52

Prayer is one of the most tangible and powerful ways you can love your spouse. For Christians, the importance of prayer is readily acknowledged but often forgotten. This tendency to forget is probably because we haven't had a deep revelation of what prayer is and why we do it.

In today's episode, we'll unpack 5 specific ways you can pray for each other.

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Jul 31, 2018
The Anatomy of a Healthy (and Happy) Sex Life
0:55:35

One of the most prevalent topics we get questions about is sex and intimacy. And for good reason: sexual intimacy is an important part of marriage, but it also tends to be one of the most misunderstood. For starters, here are some biblical truths about sex:

  1. Sex is a good, gracious gift from God. He designed it.
  2. Sex is created exclusively for the marriage covenant. Elsewhere is sin and will lead to brokenness.
  3. Sex is created with huge purposes in mind.
  4. Sex is meant to be enjoyed!

With those principles in place (there are more, but for today we'll stop there), we can begin to understand what a healthy sex life might look like. For a much more in-depth look at the purposes of sex, consider reading our latest book Fierce Marriage.

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Jul 24, 2018
How is Your Phone Hurting Your Marriage? (Part 1)
0:55:12

You're probably using your smartphone to listen to this episode. Your phone is a great tool, but it can also create problems in life and marriage. A few diagnostic questions: Do you check your phone first thing in the morning? Do you spend many of your idle moments checking it compulsively? What is the longest stretch you've gone in the past year without checking your phone?

In today's episode, we'll start this conversation by diving into a new book we're both reading. Note, we weren't paid to do this, we're just VERY convicted about this subject and the below book is gospel-centered, relevant, and challenging.

Resource: "12 Ways Your Phone is Changing You" by Tony Reinke

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Jul 17, 2018
4 Ways to Build Lasting Unity
0:46:50

Unity. Deep, true unity is unmistakable and irreplaceable in a healthy marriage. God's word says "they shall become one flesh" (Genesis 2:24). Not two people with a common goal, but one flesh. Combined. Unified.

God created us for deeper unity with our spouses than any other human. There are profound reasons for this, like the necessity of strong families for flourishing churches and societies. There are also pragmatic reasons for this, like how it sanctifies us as individuals to seek unity as a couple, and how pursuing unity causes you to have otherwise impossible conversations with each other.

In this episode, we'll share 4 ways to build true, deep, lasting unity in your marriage.

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Jul 10, 2018
7 Reasons Why Getting Away is (Very) Good for Your Marriage
0:51:05

Getting away with your spouse is a vital part of keeping things renewed and fresh. This means taking time to intentionally disconnect from your everyday world and reconnect with your life partner. We strongly believe that getting away should be a regular (at least monthly) occurrence in marriages; here's why...

In this episode, we'll discuss 7 reasons why getting away is very good for your marriage. We'll also spend a good amount of time sharing tools we've found for doing it affordably. (Including how we toured Europe for 18 days and less than $1500.)

This episode is a little different for us, but we hope you find it helpful!

All of the tools mentioned (and more) can be found on this blog post: https://fiercemarriage.com/7-reasons-getting-away-good-marriage

Thanks for listening!

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Jul 03, 2018
Stop Keeping Score
0:39:50

Keeping score is never healthy for a marriage, yet it's often our default. Why? Because keeping score of wrongs, acts of service, faults, and personal victories can't possibly come from a spirit of love. It most often comes from a place of insecurity and lack of faith in the gospel.

In this episode, we'll unpack how keeping score is damaging to a marriage, and share some of our personal stories of how it's hindered our closeness and growth.

Thanks for listening!

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Jun 26, 2018
Your Marriage is Your Ministry (Part 2, Functional Discipleship)
0:47:10

This episode continues our talk about how your marriage is your ministry, particularly through discipleship.

When we live for God we are ministers of His gospel, period. You don’t have to be a vocational pastor or licensed priest, we are all lay-ministers of Christ (“lay” comes from “laity” which means common people). Ministry is a byproduct of knowing God intimately and allowing Him to pour out through us.

We long for the day when Christian married couples en masse minister through their marriages. We aren’t called to simply love each other fully and end our mission there. Let’s explore our callings and live to see Christ change our world through the work He does in our marriages!

Thanks for listening!

Resources mentioned in this episode:

  1. Family Worship by Donald Whitney
  2. The Master Plan of Evangelism by Robert Coleman
  3. A Mingling of Souls, by Matt and Lauren Chandler

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Jun 19, 2018
Your Marriage is Your Ministry (Part 1, Sharing Your Story)
0:48:14

When we live for God we are ministers of His gospel, period. You don’t have to be a vocational pastor or licensed priest, we are all lay-ministers of Christ (“lay” comes from “laity” which means common people). Ministry is a byproduct of knowing God intimately and allowing Him to pour out through us.

I long for the day when Christian married couples en masse minister through their marriages. We aren’t called to simply love each other fully and end our mission there. Let’s explore our callings and live to see Christ change our world through the work He does in our marriages!

Thanks for listening!

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment, ask a question, or submit a letter to your spouse.

Jun 12, 2018
No Backup Plan, No Escape Clauses, No Regrets
0:44:11

There’s profound joy in the mutual and reckless pursuit of each other in marriage. Marriage requires a fierce tenacity that never gives up and never gives in.

What does this reckless pursuit actually look like in marriage? What enables it within every complex issue and circumstance you will face? To start, look at Christ’s example. He pursues you without fail. It’s his steady pursuit that drew you to him, and it’s because of his love and grace alone that you’re in a relationship with him.

David writes, “Where shall I go from your Spirit? Or where shall I flee from your presence? If I ascend to heaven, you are there! If I make my bed in Sheol, you are there!” (Psalm 139:7-8). The psalmist is reflecting on God’s limitless pursuit of those he loves. The concept of a pursuing love has immense implications for your marriage.

Pursuit is active, not passive. It means to chase steadily with the goal of capture. This is why it’s vital to keep dating each other long after you marry. When you work with the expressed intent of capturing your spouse’s heart, you’re in active pursuit. And more importantly, when you’re having a hard time connecting, the pursuit continues.

May you throw out any and all backup plans in your marriage. When you do, you’ll enjoy the intimacy that comes only from pursuing unconditionally and being pursued exactly the same way.

Stay fierce,Ryan & Selena

Thanks for listening!

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Jun 05, 2018
Prenuptial Agreements: Are They Good or Bad?
0:30:18

Prenuptial agreements are a fairly common practice nowadays. As people of faith, how should we view and approach them? What should we do if we have a prenuptial agreement already in place? We'll discuss these questions and more in today's episode!

Mentioned in today's podcast:

Thanks for listening!

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment, ask a question, or submit a letter to your spouse!

Stay fierce, Ryan & Selena

May 29, 2018
Loneliness within Marriage
0:40:54

It's ironic, but many individuals and couples experience loneliness while married. God said, "it is not good for man to be alone". Why? What else does the Bible say about being alone?

In today's episode, we discuss ways forward into healthy, gospel-driven community with your spouse and others that will bring greater joy to your marriage.

Thanks for listening!

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Stay fierce, Ryan & Selena

May 22, 2018
Abstinence: What is it, and is it Really God's Idea?
0:34:07

In today's episode, we discuss the idea of abstinence: where it comes from, what it means, and how to be abstinent for your good and God's glory.

Thanks for listening!

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment, ask a question, or submit a letter to your spouse!

Stay fierce,

Ryan & Selena

May 15, 2018
Ask Us Anything Q&A #2: Submission without Becoming a Doormat, Building Quality Friendships, and More
0:34:16

In today's episode, we answer listener questions. Some on the lighter side, some tough, all honest.

Thanks for listening!

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May 08, 2018
6 Ways to Affair Proof Your Marriage
0:50:35

Affairs take two common forms: emotional and sexual. In either case, by the time an actual affair materializes, there have been latent and unaddressed problems for a long time.

"Affair proofing", if we can call it that, includes proactively building systems and rhythms into your marriage that will make it much less likely that you'll start down the subtle path toward an affair.

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May 01, 2018
Naked and Unashamed: Keys to Experiencing Intimacy on Every Level
0:32:51

In today's episode, we sought to answer the single question: What does it mean to be truly intimate with another human? We explore that by looking at Genesis 2 (pre-Fall) and examining what it means that they were "naked and not ashamed". Then we'll spend a few minutes answering common questions we receive from readers regarding emotional intimacy, how to maintain closeness when you have young kids, and how to have tough, honest conversations even when you feel divided.

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Apr 24, 2018
Practical Tools for Building a Genuinely 'Fierce' Marriage
0:44:57

This episode is a VERY important one for us... it probably for you too! You'll have to listen to find out why!? :)

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Apr 17, 2018
Love vs. Lust: Distinguishing Between Right and Wrong Motivations in Your Sex Life
0:40:50

Is it possible to have lustful motivations in marriage? What makes an attitude or action loving or lustful?

Hebrews 13:4 says, "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous." Could this apply to married people engaging in sex within their own marriage?

In today's podcast, we'll explore just that in hopes of providing insight, clarity, and perspective on loving vs. lustful motivations in bed.

Couple's Challenge

After listening to this episode, ask yourself: are there areas in your sex life where lust has taken over? If so, have a conversation with your husband or wife about how you can let love be your sole motivator.

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Apr 10, 2018
Fight Naked! How Fighting Well Can Help Build a Stronger Marriage
0:43:39

Fighting naked—both literally and figuratively—has been pivotal in helping us fight well. Yes, you can “fight well” in your marriage. Conflict, disagreements, frustrations, tension—none of this is new to marriage. That's what today's episode is all about.

Put two people in a covenant together, living in the same house for life, and conflict is inevitable. First, we'll explore and understand what the bible says about how to resolve conflict, then we’ll leave you with a few tangible ways to deal with conflict in a healthy way.

Couple's Challenge

Set aside some intentional time and discuss how you “fight.” Is it healthy? Is there a better way you could handle it? Do you notice any triggers? How are you responding and not reacting?

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Apr 03, 2018
Why Understanding Covenant is Absolutely Foundational for Your Marriage
0:38:46

We are big advocates for understanding the “why” behind the “what.” When we can understand the deeper meaning of covenant, we are better equipped to understand its importance for every facet of modern-day marriage. There is wisdom to be mined, understanding to be gleaned, and a clearer and more joyful path for our marriage when we seek to understand covenant. There is power and purpose in a lifelong commitment!

Mentioned

In the Quick Q&A, we mentioned this talk on evaluating birth-control. It's long but well worth the listen. If you use birth control, it's important you understand what exactly happens and how it functions in your body: http://resources.thegospelcoalition.org/library/sex-without-children

Couple's Challenge

Think of one new thing you’ve learned about covenant from today’s podcast? Discuss it with your spouse.

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Mar 27, 2018
Live Q&A #2 (Uncut and Unfiltered)
0:42:43

Listen in as Ryan and Selena answer questions from readers around the world! Uncut, unedited, and unfiltered... for better or worse (a little like marriage!)

Fierce Marriage (the book) is available at https://fiercemarriagebook.com. Go there to learn more!

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Mar 24, 2018
Why "I love you but I'm not IN love with you" is a lie...
0:33:25

One of the truest markers of genuine love is its staying power—its longevity, its ability to persevere, and its ability to withstand. This is the type of love Christ shows us, and its the type of love we're called to express in marriage.However, our culture and our humanity would have us believe something else. Without a biblical understanding of love, we're prone to follow the whims of emotion and experience. We risk confusing infatuation for love. We believe the lie that love can only be found or stumbled upon rather than built, nurtured, and acted out.

We risk believing that love is fickle and fragile—that it's something that can break or fade over time. That couldn't be further from the truth. Love is strong, not weak. It's decisive, not elusive. And love is BIG... so much bigger than our emotions can express or our moods can decide.

How is love so big and so strong? In short, love is not a human idea. Love is God's idea, created by his design, and sustained by his strength.And there is no greater display of love than Christ on the cross. John 15:13 says this, "Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends." No love is stronger than God's love in Christ, which is why we're called to love as Christ loves—fiercely, unconditionally, perfectly.The catch is this: we can't love without God's help. We need to experience his love in Christ and be fueled by the transformation it brings.

In today's episode, we'll discuss the above and more!

Couple's Challenge

Read through 1 Corinthians 13 and do two things:

  1. Write down how Jesus shows you each characteristic of love.
  2. Write down how you can show each characteristic to each other.

Once you've done that, discuss!

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Mar 20, 2018
Dealing with Anger in Your Marriage
0:43:51

Listen in as Ryan and Selena discuss how to deal with anger in marriage (i.e. conflict, frustration, bitterness) in productive, biblical ways.

Couple's Challenge

Set aside some time to talk and write down anger triggers. Try to trace them back to their root causes and identify why they make you feel this way? Dive into scripture and discover what it says and how it instructs in the area of anger and the roots of it in your heart. James and Colossians are great places to start.

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Mar 13, 2018
Redeeming Respect: How Can Wives Respect Their Husbands in Every Circumstance?
0:42:24

Is respect earned, given, or some combination of the two? What should a wife do if she wants to respect her husband but he's not acting respectably? The biblical idea of respect in marriage can be tricky against our cultural backdrop, but it's worth hashing through because we see a beautiful picture of the gospel on the other side.

In this episode, Ryan and Selena discuss the concept of wives respecting their husbands as instructed in 1 Peter 3:

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.

1 Peter 3:1-2

To best understand these instructions, it's vital to understand the context of 1 Peter as a book and what he's addressing in the early church. Listen in as we start that conversation!

Couple's Challenge

Read 1 Peter 1-5. Seek an understanding of the context of the book and discuss chapter 3 in terms of what it means for your marriage.

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Mar 06, 2018
The 3 Profound Purposes of Sex and How They Make it Much, Much Better
0:42:02

Sex is so much more than physical and its purposes extend far beyond our immediate pleasure. How exactly has God designed sex for his eternal purposes? How can we enjoy intimacy more deeply knowing that we're profoundly reflecting certain aspects of God's grace and goodness in the gospel?

In this episode, Ryan and Selena explore three purposes of sex as found in Genesis 1 and expanded upon through Ephesians 5. If you're looking to further your understanding of sexual intimacy and increase your enjoyment, you will likely find something helpful in this episode.

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Feb 27, 2018
How to Date Like Newlyweds No Matter How Long You’ve Been Married
0:39:50

There are few things more disheartening than seeing a husband and a wife who have lost their desire and curiosity for each other. In today's episode, we discuss exactly why a vibrant dating life is vital to a healthy marriage. We clearly define the objectives of "dating", discuss how to make it a priority, and explore all sorts of fun and unique date ideas.

Even with the variety of adventures we discuss, they all have one thing in common: they're designed to grow your friendship, which is absolutely essential for a strong, thriving marriage.

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Feb 20, 2018
5 Ways to Fight for Your Integrity While Apart for Work (or Otherwise)
0:36:47

Many couples experience separation for days, weeks, or even months because of work-related travel. If you or your husband/wife travel for a corporate job or military deployment, you will face unique challenges when it comes to staying connected emotionally (and physically), as well as maintaining spouse-honoring (and God-honoring) integrity while apart.

In today's podcast, Ryan and Selena discuss five ways to fight for personal integrity while one of you is away for work.

Show overview:

Proverbs 25:28A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.

5 Ways to Fight for Your Integrity While Traveling for Work

 

  1. Do healthy things to stay busy (have healthy fun)
    1. Read, go to a good movie, workout.
  2. Know yourself: what tempts you and steer clear of it.
  3. Establish a solid accountability system:
    1. Your spouse
    2. Check in questions
    3. Trusted, respected friends
    4. Software filtering
  4. Bring your spouse “with” you. Mention him/her intentionally in conversations with the opposite sex.
  5. Gather with brothers/sisters in Christ.
    1. Attend a church service, stay with people/acquaintances instead of staying alone)

 

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Feb 13, 2018
How Radically Pursuing Your Spouse Changes Your Heart (and Theirs)
0:37:28

Every marriage begins with purpose, passion, and intentional pursuit, but few marriages stay that way. Maintaining passion and joy in marriage is largely dependent both spouses committing to a lifelong pursuit. And a lifelong pursuit is only sustainable (truly) through experiencing the radical love of God in Jesus.

In this episode, Ryan and Selena explore everything they learned about pursuing each other after completing the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge. Even after nearly 15 years of marriage, they're still learning how to love one another like Christ.

You can join the challenge by visiting 31DayPursuit.com.

Today's Quick Q&A Questions:

  1. How to connect when schedules are hectic and you can't seem to make enough time?
  2. How to keep conversations fresh on date nights when you feel like you don't know what to talk about?
  3. How do I handle unsolicited PMs from the opposite sex?

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Feb 06, 2018
The 3 P's That Can Poison Your Marriage
0:35:32

Marriage is a magnificent gift, but we're imperfect people. We have a propensity for poison: our sinful desires tend to poison the pure things in our life. God uses marriage to sanctify us.

Verses mentioned: Romans 3:23, Romans 3:10, 1 John 1:10

The 3 P's That Can Poison Your Marriage

1: Pennies (Finances)

Pennies poison our marriage by creating mistaken identity through comparing or a wrong source of security. This inevitably leads to fear and frustration that can strain your relationship in multiple ways.

The antidote? Understanding that God is sovereign, loving, and faithful to provide.

Read: Matthew 6:35-31

2: Perversion (of Sex and Intimacy)

Sex is a physical confirmation of a spiritual truth/covenant. A perversion is "the alteration of something from its original course." For sex and intimacy, pornography addiction distorts one or both spouse's view of what sex should entail.

Ask yourselves the question: if all you ever knew about sex was what you discovered as a married couple (without outside influences of media, pornography, etc), how would your sex life look? You would be enough for each other

The antidote:

  1. Remember that sex is a good gift from God, one he wants you to enjoy.
  2. Have a transparent conversation and discuss your thoughts and goals for your sex life. Where can you grow?
  3. If you have unaddressed addiction or trauma, make steps toward healing: counseling, get pastoral care, addiction recovery.

3: Pride

Pride is the root of every sin. It's what makes us think we know better than God—that our way is the better way.

The antidote: seeing yourself for who you are (a sinner saved by grace) and seeing Jesus for who he really is (the only One who saves).

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Jan 30, 2018
Live Q&A #1 (Uncut and Unfiltered)
0:52:04

Listen in as Ryan and Selena answer questions from readers around the world! Uncut, unedited, and unfiltered... for better or worse (a little like marriage!)

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Jan 23, 2018
Tools for Transparency: Finding Freedom, Joy, and Holiness Through Being Honest
0:40:19

Why be transparency about something difficult when it's so much easier to just hide it? Quick answer: freedom. Nothing compares to the freedom of total honesty in a marriage relationship. Being totally honest can be scary. What if your husband/wife doesn't love you once they see who you really are? While the proposition of rejection is scary, as those rooted in Christ, we have hope in our identity and acceptance because of what he has done. Then we can trust that if we confess our sins, God is faithful to heal us.

Consider the following verses:

There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.

1 John 4:18

Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.

James 5:16

Show notes:

  • Transparency and trust go both ways. Your covenant creates a boundary
  • Being each other's accountability partners: "Ask me anything and I will never lie."
  • This kind of transparency is only possible in light of covenant. Covenant is huge for transparency. Covenant is the arena where the sanctifying effects of love have room to operate.
  • "The Phone Drop Test": At any moment, you should both be able to see all phone activity. It's not about being nosy, it's about having nothing to hide.
  • Be hyper-vigilant about opposite-sex relationships. For example, no texting one-on-one; always include your spouse or the spouse of the person you're texting.
  • Have a pre-established limit for spending that you won't exceed without discussing it.
  • Don't forget the underlying reasons for transparency: sanctification, freedom, trust, and joy.
  • Transparency is like taking your temperature: if you're running a fever (you're hiding something), there's something wrong with your health.

How can I start the process of being honest?

  1. Phones down, no distractions.
  2. Ask for focused conversation time.

Couple's Challenge:

Have a transparency audit. Do you have a transparent marriage? Think about anything that you're hiding either unintentionally or on purpose. Do you know how to keep each other accountable? Talk about how to maintain accountability in hot areas (online, phones, finances, etc).

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Stay fierce!

Jan 16, 2018
The Power of Prayer in Marriage
0:37:02

In today’s episode, we explored the Lord’s Prayer and talked about tangible ways we can pray it over our marriage and each other. Tangible prayer in your relationship:

  • Around meals
  • During day transitions (leaving for work, taking kids to school, etc)
  • During communion at church

Couple’s challenge

Pray FOR each other WITH each other tonight before going to bed. In that time, spend 3-5 minutes in silence listening for the Holy Spirit. Ask God to show you how he’s working, then jot down what pops into your head and see how God is working.

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Jan 09, 2018
Redeeming the Ideas of Headship, Submission, and Biblical Manhood/Womanhood
0:47:43

Questions about headship, submission, and roles are some of the most common and culturally confusing questions couples have today. Wives struggle with what it means to submit while husbands wrestle with what it means to love and lead like Jesus.

All of the pain, confusion, and frustration we feel around the ideas of headship and submission are the result of sin.

Discussion Verses:

“Then he said to the woman, "I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy, and in pain you will give birth. And you will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you."

Genesis 3:16 NLT

“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”

Ephesians 5:22-25

The Bible is painting a picture of a distortion of a pre-fall truth of roles, headship, and submission. What examples do we have of healthy, complementary roles? The primary example of God-designed roles exists within the Trinity, where we see three distinct persons within one God. The Father is the head, the Holy Spirit is the helper, and the Son clearly submits to the Father.

In Christ, we see a perfect picture if headship as he leads the truth, and we see a perfect picture of submission as he submits to the Father.

BIG NOTE: Submission does not mean a woman should stay in harm's way or in a way that causes her to sin.

Listen in for more… (there’s a ton more.)

Couple’s Challenge

Answer the following two questions in your own words and discuss:

  1. How has sin distorted or changed our views of headship and submission in marriage?
  2. How does Jesus display perfect headship and submission?

Mentioned in today’s episode:

  1. Preaching by Tim Keller
  2. Systematic Theology by Wayne Grudem
  3. The Systematic Theology Podcast (episode 56 on biblical manhood/womanhood)
  4. Husband in Pursuit by Ryan Frederick (Now available on Kindle!)
  5. Wife in Pursuit by Selena Frederick (Now available on Kindle!)

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Jan 03, 2018
Gearing Up for the the 31-Day Pursuit Online Community Study
0:26:12

In this episode, we answered some common questions about our upcoming 31-Day Pursuit community study. If you'd like to participate in the online study, visit 31DayPursuit.com to grab your copy of the book(s), then request access to the appropriate group on Facebook. (Go to FierceHusbands.com for men, and FierceWives.com for ladies.)

Can I do the 31-day pursuit without my spouse and still find value?

Answer: Yes. It’s written with an emphasis on Jesus’ love for you and how that allows and equips you to love your spouse selflessly—regardless of reciprocation. With that said, the books do complement each other if a husband and a wife go through them together.

Can I go through the study more than once?

Answer: Of course! We believe each read-through will provide ample opportunity for growth.

Can I participate without using Facebook?

Answer: Yes and no. You are free to do it with friends and in a group setting with your community. Eventually, we will have a way to engage online with other readers, but that’s not in place other than Facebook.

If I missed the first few days, can I still join?

Answer: Yes. Just pick up on the day you’re at, don’t worry about catching up!

What if I ordered my books but I don't have them yet?

Answer: You can grab the first five chapters by visiting 31DayPursuit.com/try. Those should help until the physical copies arrive.

That's it, thanks for listening!

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Dec 26, 2017
Ask Us Anything Q&A #1: Staying Connected, Dealing with Porn Addiction, Military Spouses, and More
0:33:09

In today's episode, we answer listener questions. Some on the lighter side, some tough, all honest.

  • Question 1: What are the best ways to stay connected in a crazy, fast-paced world?
  • Question 2: How to communicate to my spouse how hurtful their words can be at times?
  • Question 3: What should I do after I’ve discovered your spouse is addicted to pornography?
  • Question 4: How do we stay close when one spouse is in the military?
  • Question 5: I do I create firm, clear boundaries in terms of in-laws?
  • Question 6: How to make big decisions when you simply cannot find agreement.

Mentioned in today's show

Thanks for listening!

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Dec 19, 2017
The 5 Anchors of a Fulfilling Sex Life
0:34:39

Culture seems more confused by sex than ever before. Scandals, misconduct, gender identity, and cultural sexualization all contribute to an already confusing conversation. As Christian married couples, it's vital that we press into the confusion and fight through to a place of clarity. We must ask, how can we conform our understanding of sex and intimacy to God's original design? How can we honor God with our sexuality—our desires, our expressions, and our conduct—for our joy and His glory?

In today's podcast, we identify 5 anchors for a fulfilling, God-designed sex life based on what we see before the Fall.

Discussion

Scripture: Genesis 2:24-25

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.

Two things we're highlighting as part of God's perfect design for marriage and sex:

  1. They've been joined as one flesh.
  2. They were naked and unashamed. No shame.

Any shame we feel is a result of distortion of sex because of sin. We must do the work to understand sex clearly in a culture where it's increasingly confused. God's Word is always our guide.

The 5 Anchors of a Fulfilling Sex Life

 

  • Anchor 1: Sex is more than physical.
  • Anchor 2: Sex is primarily selfless, not selfish.
  • Anchor 3: Sex is exclusive to the marriage covenant.
  • Anchor 4: Sex is for our enjoyment and pleasure.
  • Anchor 5: Sex is designed to edify, not degrade.

 

Mentioned in this episode:

Dec 12, 2017
Crafting a Family Vision Statement: What It Is and Why You Need One
0:52:01

Few things have been as impactful in our lives and marriage as our family vision. Years back when we felt aimless and flustered, we took the time to have in-depth discussions about what matters most to us: as Christians, as a family, and as a couple. The result was our family vision statement, which has helped us immensely since.

 

Listen to today's episode as we talk through our family vision statement and share about how you can create your own!

 

Download the Family Vision Worksheet HERE.

 

Show Notes:

A Family Vision Statement helps in three ways:

  1. Direction
  2. Discernment
  3. Unity

How can you write your own Family Vision Statement?

  1. Download the worksheet.
  2. Start with why?
    1. Your why statement is your "big reason". It's like a mission statement for your life.
    2. Find a verse that encapsulates how God is calling you.
  3. Discover your core values
    1. Your core values are already there, you just need to define them.
    2. This isn't a list of ideal characteristics, but rather a list of intrinsic qualities about you, your marriage, and your family.
  4. Craft your vision
    1. Write a group of "we envision" statements that describe how your family will look and function in the years to come. Get creative!
    2. Try to write at least one envision statement for each core value you've discovered.

 

Mentioned in today’s episode:

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Dec 05, 2017
Keeping Christmas Simple: Low Pressure, High Impact Gift Ideas
0:43:11

In last week's episode, we set the foundation for keeping sight of Christ through the consumerism, hustle, and bustle of the holiday season. In today's episode, we get very practical... Listen in as we discuss tangible, creative, and inexpensive gift ideas, how to keep things low pressure, and how thoughtfulness can have an incredible impact.

Show notes:

  • New segment: Heart Check 
    • What book is in your hand?
    • What voice is in your ear?
    • What's stirring in your heart?
  • Announcement: on January 1st we're doing an online 31-Day Pursuit Challenge. Stay tuned for info. Pick up the books if you want free access to the 31-day e-course.
  • Recap of last week's episode:
    • Keeping Christ front and center
    • Avoid the mistake of expecting gifts to satisfy
    • From a place of security in Christ, enjoy Christmas with wisdom and stewardship
  • Discussion: Simple Gift Ideas that are Low Pressure, High Impact
    • Tile coasters w/ Images on them (4" white tiles, 4" square images)
    • Baked goods (granola, cookies, etc)
    • We love calendars at Costco
    • Give experiences
      • Plan an outing for the day after Christmas
      • Groupon is great for local, fun activities
      • Books that can be read together
      • Memberships to local places (Zoo, Museums, etc)
      • Give "time gifts"
    • Books!
      • The 31-Day Pursuit Challenge Bundle
      • Thirty-One Days of Prayer (for wives, for husbands). Incredible books!
      • Pilgrims Regress
      • Advent by Ann Voskamp
    • For Kids
      • The Secret of the Hidden Scrolls
      • Kiwi/Koala Crates (AMAZING)
      • Craft Gifts
      • Time w/ Kids (simple is fine, just be intentional)
    • For others:
      • Be aware of neighbors... show them intentionality
      • Invite neighbors over if they don't have anyone to celebrate holidays with
      • Give out baked goods to houses nearby
    • Other ideas:
      • Make your own advent calendar

Couple's Challenge

  1. Pray together about how to be intentional this season.
  2. Make a list of potential holiday hangups, pray about how to follow them
  3. Pray about people and how you can minister out of your marriage this year

Mentioned in the show:

  1. The Perfectly, Wonderfully Made Podcast (with Alise Marsh) <--it's incredible!
  2. The Risen Motherhood Podcast
  3. The Knowing Faith Podcast (mistakenly referred to as the Culture Matters Podcast, which is also good)
  4. Shepherding a Child's Heart by Tedd Tripp
  5. The Pilgrim's Regress by C.S. Lewis
  6. The 31-Day Pursuit Challenge
  7. Unwrapping the Greatest Gift: A Family Celebration of Christmas by Ann Voskamp
  8. The Secret of the Hidden Scrolls

Thanks for listening! Submit questions and comments by visiting https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast.

Nov 28, 2017
Resisting Unchecked Consumerism During the Holidays
0:40:50

It's easy to lose sight of the gospel during the holidays, but we must fix our eyes on him or risk putting our joy and hope in things/people in ways that cannot satisfy.

Deuteronomy 4:9, 23-24Only take care, and keep your soul diligently, lest you forget the things that your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. Make them known to your children and your children’s children—

Take care, lest you forget the covenant of the LORD your God, which he made with you, and make a carved image, the form of anything that the LORD your God has forbidden you. For the LORD your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God.

  • It can be very easy to forget all that God had provided to us throughout the year, just like the Israelites (see Exodus 32).
  • These passages remind us not to turn God's provision into an idol.
  • If you've ever felt pressure, guilt, remorse, or regret because of a gift you've either given, received, not given, or not received.
  • Caveat: buying gifts isn't bad inherently. It becomes harmful when we expect things we purchase to bring the joy that only God can give.
5 Ways to Not Lose Your Mind During the Holidays
  1. Guard your heart.
  2. Remember what God has done (in your life, your heart, your marriage).
  3. Make those things known to your children.
  4. Remember the FULL message and weight of the gospel (God is utterly perfect and we are hopelessly sinful... but, Jesus!)
  5. Put your full weight in the gospel. Examine and evaluate the fruit of your belief in the gospel
Today's Couples Challenge:

Read Deuteronomy 4 and Exodus 32.

Discuss the following questions:

  • How can you intentionally "guard our souls" during the holiday season? How can you remind each other of God's purpose (his glory, your delight in him)?
  • How have you seen Christ work in your life/marriage? What "slavery" has God brought you out of in your marriage? In other words, what has God done in your past that you can consciously remember?
  • If you have kids, how can you point them to Jesus during the holidays?
  • How can you remind yourselves of the gospel?
  • How can you better rest in the gospel this year? How can you not act in a heart orientation that is corrupt, but instead secure in Christ? What fruit of your belief in the gospel is showing or can show during this season?
Mentioned in the Show: Don't forget!

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Nov 21, 2017
In-Laws: 5 Principles for Healthier, Happier Family Relationships
0:51:07

This episode can be summarized with one word: boundaries. As a married couple bound by covenant, you are charged with upholding your commitment with diligence and wisdom. Sometimes in-laws aren't on board with that vision, especially if they don't understand the complete dynamics of your marriage or season in life. This can create stressful, unenjoyable relationships.

In this episode, we propose 5 principles we believe to be crucial for happy, health in-law relationships. Along the way, we share tangible ways to make steps in the right direction... especially if you're experiencing difficulty in this area.

Show Notes:

The big idea: in-laws should advocate for our marriage instead of for only their child.

There may be relationship problems and frustrations, but if they're not "the big issue" above, they can be worked out with grace and patience.

5 Principles for Healthier, Happier Relationships with In-Laws:
  1. Have grace: Remember, they need grace, they're not perfect... just like you.
  2. Understand what "leave and cleave" means. Matthew 19:4 (Jesus speaking)
  3. Establish boundaries. Communicate clearly to them what you expect from them. ("We want you to advocate for our marriage." "Respect our marriage." Etc...)
  4. Ask clearly for help and communicate expectations.
  5. Have perspective about in-law relationships: do what works for you, and don't compare to others or put too much weight in cultural context.

Remember that Jesus is working in you and through you to perpetuate the gospel in those relationships.

Today's Couples Challenge:
  • Go through the 5 above principles for healthy in-law relationships.
  • Identify any potential in-law pain points.
  • Create a plan for a biblical way forward that protects your marriage and honors relationships.
Mentioned in the Show: Don't forget!

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Nov 14, 2017
Dealing with Financial Arguments: Why More Money Isn't the Solution
0:50:47

Every couple deals with money issues at some point in their marriage. It's continually a source of stress and a trigger for arguments. Almost every problem around money stems from a lack of margin in every area of life. We tend to live our lives right to the edges, working long hours, spending too much, and struggling to find any semblance of peace in the process. Many (including us) have bought the subtle lie that money can somehow make everything better. So we work harder, strive more, and seek joy where it can't be found. Even if we do manage to get more money, we soon realize that it's not the savior we thought it would be. This inevitably puts stress on your relationship and can create division in your marriage.

What's the fix? We explored exactly that in today's podcast. Listen in as we share honestly about some struggles we've had and take a deep look at Hebrews 13:5 and its surrounding context to discern God's desire for how we view and use money in our lives.

Mentioned in Today’s Show: Show Notes:
  1. Highs/Lows
  2. Discussion: Money issues continue to plague couples. Why?
    1. Many think their problems can be fixed with more money… but that’s not the case.
    2. We reviewed Hebrews 13:5:Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”
    3. The context of Hebrews: It’s a book written to encourage and remind Christians of the supremacy and sufficiency of Christ.
    4. Chapter 13 is all about “Sacrifices Pleasing to God.” This is all in the context of Christ’s sufficient work on the cross.
    5. Loving money is like “taking another lover” when God has made a covenant promise to us.
    6. Trusting money instead of God is to betray his love.
  3. Couple’s Challenge (see below)
  4. We discussed The 31-Day Pursuit
  5. Rapid Fire Q&A
  6. Weekly Letter Reading
Today’s Couples Challenge:
  • Pray together for open hearts regarding your finances.
  • Read through Hebrews 13, pay close attention to the context surrounding verse 5.
  • Discuss areas of your marriage and how they may be indicating “love of money”.
  • Discuss how love can be a tool in your lives for God’s glory.
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Nov 07, 2017
Social Media and Marriage: Using Wisdom on Facebook, Instagram, etc.
0:46:41

If left unchecked, your social media life can create problems in your marriage. The advent of social media sites has created much conversation about the privacy of users’ information. The result: each has increased user control over who can see each update, image, interaction, and like. In general, it’s a great improvement but for married couples, it raises an important question of transparency and accountability about your “social media life”.

In today's podcast, we discuss Proverbs 4 and its various implications for how we wisely conduct ourselves online for the good of our marriages.

Mentioned in Today's Show: Show Notes: Communication: Five Habits for Hearing and Being Heard
  1. Highs/Lows
  2. Discussion: What should I do when I feel like my spouse misuses social media (namely, Facebook)?
    • We reviewed Proverbs 4:23: "Keep your heart with all diligence..."
    • Solomon wrote it. He had access to anything he wanted... instantly. Kind of like we do on the internet today.
    • We looked at the larger context of Proverbs 4.
      • Hear wisdom, keep it close, and "here's how to apply it"
    • How do we apply wisdom to social media?
      • "Open windows, open doors, lights fully turned on."
      • No hidden accounts or passwords.
      • Be transparent with each other.
      • Talk about questionable interactions.
      • Being very mindful of posted imagery (by you and others).
      • Don't PM/DM/Message anyone of the opposite gender (unless in a group context)
      • Don't vent anger or frustration on social media at the expense of your spouse; it's always unproductive.
    • Bottom line: Wisdom compels us to guard our hearts against paths that lead to harm.
  3. Couple's Challenge (see below)
  4. We discussed The 31-Day Pursuit
  5. Rapid Fire Q&A
  6. Weekly Letter Reading
Today's Couples Challenge:
  • Discuss this podcast (both listen to it)
  • Read through Proverbs 4 together and find one or two verses that jump out to you.
  • Take a personal inventory for hidden areas in your life/marriage that go against wisdom.
  • Make a plan to discuss hidden areas before they take root.
  • Create a plan for healthy interaction with others and each other on social media.
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Oct 31, 2017
Communication: 5 Habits for Hearing and Being Heard the Healthy Way
0:53:31
Communication is not just about saying and hearing words—it's all about relaying ideas accurately with the intent of building a mutual understanding. When you practice healthy habits for talking, listening, and processing together, it's for the good of your marriage and ultimately, for the glory of God. If we are to have marriages that are healthy, enjoyable, and intentional, we must learn and apply wise principles to how we communicate. We must heed Solomon's words in Proverbs 18:2: A fool takes no pleasure in understanding but only in expressing his opinion. Bad communication habits can stifle growth, inhibit intimacy, and create endless spouts of bickering, arguing, and division. However, healthy communication will fuel growth and intimacy and make your marriage resilient against otherwise devastating disagreements. In today's podcast, we discuss biblical themes for healthy communication, why we are called to point our spouses to the gospel through how we listen, and five tangible steps (habits) that lead us down the path toward healthier communication. Mentioned in Today's Show: Show Notes: Communication: 5 Habits for Hearing and Being Heard the Healthy Way
  1. Highs and Lows
  2. Dysfunction in marriage often manifests itself first through communication
  3. Two themes in scripture around communication:
    1. A call to wisdom: be slow to speak, fast to listen, fast to wait
    2. Intentional communication with the purpose of being understood and understanding others
  4. Communication corruptors create unintentional misunderstandings
  5. Five habits for healthier communication:
    1. Talk intentionally
    2. Listen intently
    3. Seek Understanding
    4. Act out of Love
    5. Rest in Your Covenant
  6. Couple's Challenge (see below)
  7. Rapid Fire Q&A
  8. Read a letter from a wife to her husband
  9. Housekeeping and announcements
  10. Prayer

Today's Couples Challenge:

Listen to the podcast. Talk through the above points. Create a set of ground rules that protect your marriage against common pitfalls in your communication. Examples:
  • We won't start heavy conversations after we're both tired.
  • We will always resolve hard conversations.
  • We will not use hurtful language or namecalling when angry.
  • We understand that it's sometimes healthiest to step away from the situation to think and pray.
  • Etc...
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Oct 24, 2017
Fighting for Healthy Priorities: Embracing Your Limitations
0:45:59

Keeping healthy priorities are a constant battle for modern marriages. By default we tend to our priorities in life and marriage as linear, or as a list:

  1. God
  2. Family
  3. Others

While this list isn't necessarily bad, we believe there's a better way.

In today's episode of the Fierce Marriage Podcast, we discuss a new way of looking at priorities that has revolutionized our marriage and transformed how we live our lives. We start the conversation by looking at two themes in Scripture:

  • Our finitude as humans
  • Our call as believers.

Join in as we chip away at this massive truth to be had about priorities in light of the gospel.

Show notes:

  1. Rapid Fire Q&A: Selena is forced to answer some tough questions... namely, one she never thought she'd have to face.
  2. Hear one of the most poetic letters from a husband to his wife. (Go to https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast to write and send a letter to your spouse!)
  3. We discuss priorities:
    1. Scripture: Matthew 6:33 and Psalm 90:12
    2. Common problems What's wrong with "The List"
    3. We propose a better/more integrated model for priorities
    4. The Couple's Challenge (See below)
  4. We finished with our Highs & Lows for the week prior.
  5. Prayer

Today's Couples Challenge:

Create a family vision statement (family verse, mission, core values, envision statements). Listen to the episode for more details about what this could mean for your family!

Oct 17, 2017
Intimacy Without Frustration, Obligation, or Missed Expectations
0:41:40

Many couples wonder how to gain agreement about sex and intimacy when life is busy, schedules are hectic, and expectations for sex seem constantly misaligned.

If you're at all like us, you and your spouse probably don't desire sex the same way or with the same frequency. This can cause frustration in your marriage that, if left untreated or undiscussed, can turn into bitterness, division, and worse. Sex isn't everything in marriage, but it is very important to be unified and satisfied in your sex life together—for your enjoyment and for God's ultimate glory.

In today's episode of The Fierce Marriage Podcast, we'll discuss:

  • What if my spouse desires sex more often than I do?
  • How can we be intimate without feeling obligated to do so?
  • How do we align our expectations for sex in marriage?

Show Notes:

  • We read 1 Corinthians 7:5:
  • "Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control."
  • A few cautions when reading the above passage:
    • It's not a tool to be used to demand sex in marriage.
    • In context, this verse is about acting in mutual agreement to the common goal of greater intimacy and reliance on Christ.
    • By choosing to abstain from sex for a time, to focus on spiritual growth. This is not a form of asceticism, but rather a method of grace-fueled worship.
  • If a couple is not actively agreeing to abstain from sex, they're passively (or actively) agreeing to NOT abstain from sex. If that's the case, your sex life should look "normal and healthy" for you, but it may take some digging to discover what that means. We proposed two steps:
    • Clearly define what "not abstaining" looks like and what a healthy, normal sex life looks like in your marriage.
    • Calibrate your expectations for sex. Read our post, "The Spectrum of Sex".
  • Couples Challenge:
    1. Read The Spectrum of Sex together or separately.
    2. Discuss your expectations for sex, and what your spectrum might look like.
    3. Identify what a normal, healthy sex life looks like for your marriage and within God's design for sexuality.
    4. Create an action plan for building a normal, healthy sex life together.
Oct 10, 2017
Introducing the Fierce Marriage Podcast
0:44:51

It's our first episode so some introductions are in order! In this episode of The Fierce Marriage Podcast, we'll answer common reader questions like: Who are we? What is Fierce Marriage and why did we start it? What does it mean to truly have Fierce Marriage? For fun, we talk about what it's like working together, our weekly highs and lows, and more. Most importantly, we discuss what it means to have Jesus truly at the center of your marriage. We also have a few hearty laughs as Selena answers this week's "Rapid-fire Q&A" questions. Thanks for listening! Detailed show notes are available at https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast

Oct 02, 2017
Primer (Start Here!)
0:05:54

The purpose of this primer is to provide a few quick caveats to the early episodes of the Fierce Marriage Podcast. We hope this sets the stage for your experience and makes it a better one! If you're new to the podcast, welcome! We're excited to grow alongside you.

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Sep 26, 2017