The Fierce Marriage Podcast

By Ryan and Selena Frederick

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Subscribers: 377
Reviews: 9

molly
 Oct 11, 2019
love this podcast! I have been challenged and encouraged by you. it feels like visiting with close friends!

Danielle
 Aug 29, 2019

Greg Frueh
 Jun 25, 2019
This couple truly has a way of blending great information with the biblical word. They're lessons have helped my wife and I in several areas. I have suggested this for my married kids to listen to as well.

John luke
 Jun 11, 2019
I have realized many things about marriage through Gods eyes since listening to this pod cast. you guys seriously talk about everything I was trying to do my own way which didn't work. keep it up thanks.


 Feb 25, 2019

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Show hosts Ryan and Selena Frederick discuss modern marriage issues with their trademark transparency, humor, and gospel-centered teaching. Join them for honest conversations, light-hearted hilarity, and more than enough grace to go around...

Episode Date
Quick Q&A 3: What's your best advice for newlyweds?
0:08:19
<p>In this episode we share four things we'd discuss with you if we could spend a meal together! Note, the ideas enclosed don't just apply to newlyweds.... :)</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p class="c1">Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Dec 12, 2019
Finding 'Fierce' Friends That Fight for Your Marriage
0:50:00
<p>There are certain aspects of friendships that qualify them as distinctly "Christian community", specifically purposed for our sanctification and discipleship as followers of Christ. WHat do we mean? You'll have to listen! You can expect to learn about 5 distinguishing qualities of Christian community: Gospel centrality, true transparency, deep discipleship, consistency, and commitment.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p class="c1">Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Dec 10, 2019
Quick Q&A 2: Will we still be married in heaven?
0:07:19
<p>Ryan and Selena tackle a common but somewhat murky question for believers: if we're married on earth, will we also be married in heaven? Listen in as we take a look at what the Bible says about just that. Enjoy!</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p class="c1">Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Dec 05, 2019
Faked Transparency vs. True Vulnerability
0:50:12
<p>It's so easy to feign transparency in marriage. We can give just enough info to give the appearance of vulnerability, all the while failing to be meaningfully vulnerable with one another. In this episode, we talked about the roots of why we "fake it" in marriage, and how the Gospel compels us to fight instead for true vulnerability.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p class="c1">Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Dec 03, 2019
Communicating With Clarity When Things Aren't So Clear
0:51:33
<p>Communication continues to be one of the most hotly requested topics from our listeners. So, today we talked about themes that tend to undermine healthy communication: 1) Oversimplification, 2) Failure to Empathize, and 3) Bad Timing and Tone. Listen and learn new ways to approach conversations and conflict with clarity fueled by biblical love. We hope you enjoy!</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p class="c1"><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Nov 26, 2019
Quick Q&A 1: 'If we both enjoy watching pornography together, is it still a sin?'
0:08:12
<p>Some couples ask this question in earnest, so we spent some time looking at the Bible's perspective on porn, lust, and the marriage bed. This is the first of we hope will be many one-off Quick Q&amp;A sessions (name pending). We hope it blesses you!</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Nov 21, 2019
Your Marriage is Bigger Than You
0:52:10
<p>God created marriage to be BIGGER than you! It's bigger than today, it's bigger than our cultural context, and it's bigger than our struggles. Why and how is it bigger? In today's episode, we talked about seeing marriage in its proper context as part of God's plan for redemption throughout history, but also redemption in our daily lives. We hope it blesses you!</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Nov 19, 2019
What (little 'g') gods Are You Worshipping in Your Marriage?
0:57:44
<p>It's all too easy to pay lip service to Jesus in life and marriage, but live as if he's not King. In this episode of the Fierce Marriage Podcast, we recapped lessons we've learned from the past few weeks since the arrival of our 3rd daughter. God graciously allowed us to realize areas of our lives that we can tend to enthrone in a place of undue authority. We talked about the (little 'g') gods of control/power, status/pride, and (this is a big one we tend to worship all too quickly) comfort/pleasure. We hope you learn something new!</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Nov 12, 2019
Why the "Proverbs 31 Woman" Isn't Who I Thought She Was
0:53:56
<p>The 31st chapter of Proverbs is a beautiful piece of Scripture. However, it's so easy to read it in a way that is contrary to the original intent of the work. The result can mean that ladies/wives feel an overwhelming burden to strive, work, and toil to become the woman portrayed. In today's episode we discussed why that is and we propose a "better" reading of this famous chapter of Proverbs. We hope it blesses you. ALERT: this episode isn't just for ladies.</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Nov 05, 2019
The 15 Second Kiss Experiment
0:36:51
<p>We tried this experiment, it was awesome, so you should try it too. "Selena and I kiss plenty, but we realized that we don’t often kiss for more than a few seconds. I’m not exactly sure why, but I do know it wasn’t like that when we were dating. We made out way too much and for too long when we were dating… After my “sales pitch”, Selena and I agreed to try a few days with the “15 second kiss” rule. Here’s what we learned (or were reminded of)…" Listen for more!</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Oct 29, 2019
Reclaiming Real Romance
0:51:12
<p>It's easy to forget to pursue each other when you've been together for a while. Life gets busy, time gets scarce, and before we know it, we've forgotten to intentionally love one another. This week we discussed tangible ways to enjoy each other more in marriage. Enjoy!</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Oct 22, 2019
Who Is the Authority in Your Marriage?
0:57:59
<p>When it comes down to it, what or who is the functional authority in your marriage? In today's episode we take a deep dive into Matthew 21 and examining what Jesus said as his authority was challenged... and of course, we'll talk about all it means for life and marriage. We hope it blesses you!</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Oct 15, 2019
Calling Us Out to Draw Us In
0:52:48
<p>God calls us out of our hiding, not for our shame, but so that we may flourish in fulfilling our ultimate purpose: to glorify him. This description is short, because I'm writing it as we wait for Selena to have our third daughter! Carry on... we hope this episode blesses you!</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Oct 08, 2019
Marriage Adversaries vs. Marriage Advocates
0:55:47
<p>While it is nice to have friends around you that will watch your back and take your side, those same friends should understand that most often, the BEST way they can love you well is to fight for you AND the health of your marriage. In this episode, we discussed the differences between marriage advocates vs. marriage adversaries. Enjoy!</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Oct 01, 2019
The Art of (Actually) Apologizing
0:55:20
<p>We explored 8 aspects of truly apologizing to your spouse in this episode, and it was epic. It's not easy saying you're sorry. It's even harder apologizing in a way that leads to deep, lasting reconciliation (even during small conflicts). Listen in to discover and learn the Art of Apologizing. We hope it blesses you!</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Sep 24, 2019
Are You Obviously Married in Public?
0:57:54
<p>People know you’re married by how you act, and we can sometimes act in a way that seeks validation from the opposite sex outside of marriage. Why is that? In this episode, Ryan and Selena talk about why there should be NO QUESTION of whether or not you’re married in public (and online).</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Sep 17, 2019
Finding the Absolute Definition of Love
0:58:47
<p>If a couple isn't on the same page in how they define love, they're in for quite a challenging marriage. Thankfully there is a perfect and final authority who can tell us what love is. In this episode, we discussed why and how Jesus is our ultimate authority, definition, and example of love.</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Sep 10, 2019
Prayer + Pursuit, and Why Your Marriage Needs Both
0:59:57
<p>Your marriage needs both PRAYER and PURSUIT. Prayer is going to God and entrusting him with everything that is out of your control, while pursuit means choosing to live out the actions of love. In this episode we hashed out principles and practicalities around both. Enjoy!</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Sep 03, 2019
5 Keys to a Healthy Perspective on Sex
0:58:03
<p>How we see sex dramatically affects our experience of it. The problem is, it's so easy to see sex incorrectly because of our our own pasts and perspectives as well culture's popular beliefs. In today's episode, we talked through one of our favorite passages on sex, Proverbs 5. Listen in and see just how God's vision of sex in marriage can change your relationship.</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Aug 27, 2019
What, Exactly, is a "Normal, Healthy Marriage"?
0:59:29
<p>"Healthy" isn't always our normal or our default. So it begs the question: what is a healthy, normal marriage? In today's episode, Ryan and Selena explored big truths given in Scripture and talk about how, as believers, we can apply it with wisdom, discernment, and help from the Holy Spirit, for our good and for God's glory.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Aug 20, 2019
Social Media, Your Marriage, and You
0:51:36
<p>Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and the like are all incredible tools of our time. However, they do carry with them the potential to damage our relationships. While the Bible doesn't directly talk about social media, it does teach us how to become the kinds of people who make wise decisions—all of which help us navigate our modern age.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Aug 13, 2019
Growing Together While Apart / Dealing with Military Deployments (Brooks and Hunter Beless)
0:47:56
<p>Brooks and Hunter (she's the founder of the Journeywomen podcast!) have spent the majority of their time as a married couple apart. Still, even with their time thousands of miles apart, they learned ways to grow closer to one another and closer to Christ. If you or your spouse is serving in the military, this episode is for you! If you know someone who struggles with long lengths apart, this is for them! You’re not going to want to miss this amazing episode.</p> <p>For more from Hunter Beless, search for "Journeywomen" (one word) in your favorite podcast app!</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a target="_blank" href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Aug 08, 2019
Foundations of Forgiveness
0:56:52
<p>Forgiving others when we're genuinely hurt is one of the most difficult but important principles we must learn in marriage. In this episode, we looked at The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant (Matthew 18) and explored all it can mean for life and marriage. We hope it blesses you!</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Aug 06, 2019
5 Considerations When Dating To Marry (or as a Married Couple)
0:59:53
<p>Dating is an important part of every relationship—whether you're looking to marry or if you're already married. In this episode, we present 5 important considerations you may find helpful as you approach dating. Enjoy!</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Jul 30, 2019
Marriage After God (Aaron and Jennifer Smith)
0:46:11
<p>What if God has purposed your marriage for something so much more than happily ever after?</p> <p>Since the very beginning, God's design for marriage is for husbands and wives to be ambassadors of holy love to a hurting world. Still, so many couples stop short at happy and wonder why they feel unsatisfied. Rather than "you and me against the world," God calls each couple to the rich and meaningful mission of "you and me for the world."</p> <p>Aaron and Jennifer Smith, popular marriage bloggers at HusbandRevolution.com and UnveiledWife.com, transparently share their journey from a marriage in crisis to a marriage built on Christ's redemptive love. Through fresh biblical insight and intimate stories of their own struggles and victories, this book will guide you toward a God-centered, ministry-minded, and thriving marriage. You will discover the signature marks of a marriage after God, find principles for building an unshakable marriage foundation, learn how to let God's story take the lead in your love story, and recognize the tools God has already equipped you with for a missional life together. Filled with helpful illustrations, this thorough and practical book will empower you and your spouse to dream, decide, and do as you step hand-in-hand into God's ultimate purpose for your marriage.</p> <p>Your oneness is also meant for witness. God has purposed your remarkable, romantic, and redemptive relationship to be a powerful light to a dark and hurting world. This is your invitation to marriage as God intended - a life-saving, hope-inspiring, and transforming force of God's love.</p> <p>For more resources from Aaron and Jennifer Smith, visit <a href="http://MarriageAfterGod.com" target="_blank">MarriageAfterGod.com</a>, and find their podcast by searching "Marriage After God" wherever you get your podcasts.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage" target="_blank">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Jul 26, 2019
5 Hurtful Phrases to Remove from Your Marriage Vocabulary
0:57:57
<p>It’s impossible to define everything everyone should or shouldn’t say in every situation. However, there are some phrases that are usually unhelpful for marriage. Join us as we explore each one!</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Jul 23, 2019
Your Habits and the Health of Your Marriage
0:56:05
<p>Habits are behaviors that form your character, life, and experience over time. Often times, our habits are our default behaviors... but we're called to cultivate "the ground" (soil) of our lives, which means the healthiest habits won't happen without our effort. What could developing healthier habits mean for your marriage? They could change everything. Listen for more!</p> <p>Mentioned:</p> <ul> <li>Download the FREE eBook: <i><a target="_blank" href="https://5habits.us">5 Habits of a Healthy Marriage</a></i></li> <li>Qapital App (get $10 by using this link): <i><a target="_blank" href="https://fiercemarriage.com/qapital">Download it here</a></i></li> </ul> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Jul 16, 2019
Biblical Stewardship... and Marriage? (Dr. Scott and Linda Rodin)
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<p>Dr. Scott and Linda Rodin have had an incredible impact on our marriage, albeit from afar. In their 40 years of marriage, they've raised babies, built remarkable careers, and embarked on countless adventures. In our talk, we discussed what it means to be "a steward of your spouse's heart" and much more! Dr. Scott Rodin is a speaker and author focusing on Biblical Stewardship, and he also holds Master of Theology and Doctor of Philosophy degrees in Systematic Theology from the University of Aberdeen, Scotland.</p> <p>We hope this episode blesses you and helps your marriage!</p> <p>More resources from Scott Rodin visit <a href="http://TheStewardsJourney.com" target="_blank">TheStewardsJourney.com</a>, and to read his books, visit <a href="https://KingdomLifePublishing.com" target="_blank">KingdomLifePublishing.com</a></p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a target="_blank" href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Jul 11, 2019
Family Worship
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<p>Few ideas have changed the culture of our family as much as Family Worship. In this episode, we discussed where the idea of Family Worship comes from (biblically, historically) and talked about practical ways to implement it in your household. Enjoy!</p> <p>Here's the book we mentioned: <i>Family Worship</i>, by Donald S. Whitney. <a href="https://amzn.to/2LCmkzg" target="_blank">By it here</a> ($7.99)</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Jul 09, 2019
Is Your Marriage the "Good Soil"?
0:58:59
<p>It's easy to grow hardened toward each other in marriage. It's also far too easy to be distracted or shallow when it comes to growing in the ways that matter most. Jesus calls our hearts soil, so how can we mindfully cultivate the soil of our hearts in a way that allows the Gospel to bear maximum fruit in our lives? In today's episode, we discussed the Parable of the Sower and how, as married people, we can fight together to build fruit-bearing marriages.</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Jul 02, 2019
Control, Surrender, Your Marriage, and You
0:57:59
<p>The desire to control outcomes and realities is at the root of all marital discord. Why? Because at its root the desire to control that which is out of our control is rooted in a distrust of God. If our spouse is disengaged, we want to nag so he or she will re-engage. When our finances aren't where we want them to be, we work and spend too much in hopes of regaining control. The list goes on. When we feel like our present reality is at odds with our ideal situation, we are faced with a choice: either we try to change the situation ourselves, we lose hope, or we trust God's goodness and sovereignty. Which one do you think is wisest?</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Jun 25, 2019
An Ethic of Protecting Your Family, Marriage, and Home (The Lovells)
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<p>The Lovells are fighters for truth and protectors of people. John Lovell is the founder of the Warrior Poet Society — a values-based community dedicated to physical protection, the pursuit of truth, and living for higher purpose. John is a war veteran and a former member of Special Operations, having served in the 2nd Ranger Battalion with numerous combat tours to both Iraq and Afghanistan. His overseas experience also includes having served as a Christian missionary to Central America. John describes himself as a ‘family-man’, and fills his time with faith, family, fun, and study. To learn more, visit WarriorPoetSociety.us</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage.</p>
Jun 20, 2019
Crushing Comparison
0:54:46
<p>It seems natural to compare ourselves to others. As humans, we compare appearances, careers, marriages, and even spouses. Society encourages it. The chief problem of comparisons is that they’re usually based on romanticized half-truths. Most often when we compare, we base expectations of ourselves on standards that aren’t accurate – they’re perceived.</p> <p>Comparisons stifle progress; only truth in light of the gospel causes real growth.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Jun 18, 2019
Battling Discouragement in Life and Marriage
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<p>Looking inward is just about the worst way to handle ongoing discouragement in life and marriage. Instead, we must look to Christ and God's Word to realign our downcast hearts with the promises afforded us in the Gospel. As a married couple, you can also help each other by reminding one another about the never-fading goodness in Christ. We hope this episode encourages you, especially if you feel discouraged.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Jun 11, 2019
Out of the Dust (Chris and Stephanie Teague)
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<p>Chris and Stephanie lived the ideal romantic story. They were highschool sweethearts, they loved each other, and they shared a love and devotion for God. Everything changed when Chris lost his faith, left Stephanie, and filed for divorce. They thought they had reached the end of their story, but God had other plans.</p> <p>To learn more about Chris and Stephanie and Out of the Dust, visit <a target="_blank" href="http://outofthedustmusic.com">outofthedustmusic.com</a>. If their story has encouraged or helped you, you can support them by buying their album on iTunes or on their website (all info can be found on their website).</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! This helps pay for hardware, editing, and for (lots and lots of) coffee! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Jun 06, 2019
Enduring Friendship, Enduring Marriage
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<p>Your friendship is one of the pillars of your marriage. But could it be that our view of friendship (in modern culture) could be having negative effects on our view of the marital covenant? In this week's episode, we discuss what the Bible teaches and shows us about marriage and contrast what we learn against the prevalent view in culture today. We enjoyed it, and we hope you do too!</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Jun 04, 2019
Are Your Words Off-Limits, Unhelpful, or Wise?
0:54:37
<p>When creating communication ground rules, we recommend using three categories for what you say and how you say it: off-limits, unhelpful and unproductive, and wise. Listen in as we explore each category!</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
May 28, 2019
Abortion, Birth Control, IVF, and Babies (Adam and Chelsea Griffin)
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<p>Adam and Chelsea Griffin are a force for life. Adam is a pastor and podcaster in the Dallas area and Chelsea is a Labor &amp; Delivery nurse. Today we talked about all things "life", especially in terms of abortion, birth control, IVF, and God's desire for children in the family. Today's conversation was helpful and counter-cultural. Thanks for listening!</p> <p class="c1">Topics covered:</p> <ul> <li>A Christian perspective of when life begins</li> <li>Contraceptives (and abortifacient drugs)</li> <li>Grace in Christ for those who unknowingly took abortifacient contraceptives</li> <li>How many kids should a couple have? i.e. Should we claim significant control over the number of kids we raise?</li> <li>How should the reality that "God opens and closes the womb" affect family planning?</li> </ul> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
May 23, 2019
3 Ground Rules for Honest Conversations
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<p>Honesty in marriage starts with being honest with ourselves. To do that, we need not be "true to ourselves" but rather, we should focus on being true to God and his Word. In today's episode, we discussed how we can be "true to God's Word" and therefore, more honest with ourselves. Then from there, we covered three ground rules for honest conversations: never lie, always love, and take action. We hope it blesses you!</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
May 21, 2019
Burn the Ships!
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<p>Marriage is designed to be a covenantal relationship that far exceeds any other relational construct. It's immensely important and incredibly beautiful as God designed it. In this episode we talked about the bigness and depth of what it means to live in a covenantal marriage.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
May 14, 2019
Becoming a "Family Team" (Jefferson and Alyssa Bethke)
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<p>Family is the first and most important institution created by God, yet we often live by default instead of by design. In today's episode, we spoke with Jeff and Alyssa Bethke about their passion for Family Teams, what that term means, and how to celebrate the importance of being a family through rhythms of rest and celebration.</p> <p>For more incredible resources from the Bethkes, go to <a target="_blank" href="https://familyteams.com/get-started/">FamilyTeams.com/get-started</a>!</p> <p class="c1"><b>We talked about:</b></p> <ol> <li>Families on mission vs. family AS mission</li> <li>Seeking unity around important things</li> <li>How to be a family that "sends" each other out on mission</li> <li>Taking time each year to plan AND reflect on the past</li> <li>The art of the Sabbath, and why it should be the best day of your week</li> <li>So much more... </li> </ol> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
May 09, 2019
Pornography (Part 2: The Path to Purity)
0:58:43
<p>This is the second part of a two-part series aimed at helping couples start conversations around pornography and a pathway to freedom from addiction. In today's episode we shared our personal story of struggling with pornography and discussed ways to find freedom from addiction and healing throughout the process.</p> <p>Resources:</p> <ol> <li>TOP Recommendation: <a target="_blank" href="http://PureDesire.org">Sex Addiction Recovery: Pure Desire</a> (find a group near you)</li> <li><a href="http://smarturl.it/fmpod-pornography1" target="_blank">Pornography (Part 1: The Problem)</a> (Part 1 of this 2 part series)</li> <li>Accountability questions: <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/accountability-questions-for-your-marriage-that-actually-work" target="_blank">Get them here</a></li> <li><a href="http://smarturl.it/fmpod-spectrum" target="_blank">The Spectrum of Sex</a> (past episode: for establishing healthy expectations around your sex life)</li> <li><a target="_blank" href="http://MarriageHelp.org">MarriageHelp.org</a> (Find a group near you)</li> <li><a href="https://www.celebraterecovery.com/">CelebrateRecovery.com</a> (Find a group near you)</li> </ol> <p><b>Resources Recommended by Listeners:</b></p> <p>Note, these haven't been vetted by us or verified as theologically solid. That's not to say that they aren't, it's just to say please proceed with the Bible as your ultimate guide.</p> <ol> <li>L.I.F.E recovery guide and groups </li> <li>Brainbuddy app (not Christian, but seems to be biblically motivated)</li> <li>Echo prayer app (not pornography related but helps us be intentional in prayer daily) </li> <li>Pure Desire book </li> <li>Fight The New Drug website </li> <li>Ransomed Heart Ministries </li> <li>Restoring the Foundations Biblical healing. </li> <li>Podcast: "Porn Free Radio"</li> <li>Podcast: "The Grizz"</li> </ol> <p></p> <p></p> <p></p> <p></p> <p></p> <p></p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
May 07, 2019
Pornography (Part 1: The Problem)
0:54:45
<p>This is the first part of a two-part series aimed at helping couples start conversations around pornography and a pathway to freedom from addiction. In today's episode we looked at the epidemic of pornography and its harmful effects to the individual, the family, and society.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Apr 30, 2019
Healing from Past Trauma, the Gospel, and Love (Preston and Jackie Hill Perry)
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<p>Today we had special guests Preston and Jackie Hill Perry on the show! Both Preston and Jackie are prolific voices for Jesus in modern culture through teaching, spoken word performances, poetry, and music.</p> <p>Jackie's book, <i><a href="https://amzn.to/2IGPDjn" target="_self">Gay Girl Good God</a> </i>is available on <a href="https://amzn.to/2IGPDjn" target="_blank">Amazon.com</a> or wherever books are sold.</p> <p>Connect with the Perrys on social media, <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5tYCIeywXPsNEhxU3yfZvw">YouTube</a>, or at <a href="JackieHillPerry.com" target="_blank">JackieHillPerry.com</a>.</p> <p>In this episode, we talked about:</p> <ul> <li>Preston and Jackie's story</li> <li>How does the gospel affect how we deal with our pasts?</li> <li>Managing busy lives and maintaining margin</li> <li>How to deal with past trauma in a healthy way</li> <li>How to view sex in a healthy way</li> <li>Given that you're both gifted wordsmiths, how do the Perrys fight?</li> <li>How can we love the LGBTQ community well?</li> </ul> Thanks for listening! <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Apr 25, 2019
Q&A #4: Gender Roles in Marriage, Healing After Betrayal, Preparing for Marriage, and More
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<p>You asked, we discussed! Listen in as we tackled your most pressing questions about gender roles in marriage, healing after betrayal, and more.</p> <p>Show Notes</p> <p>We mentioned a TON of resources in this episode, they're listed below.</p> <p>Misc. Resources</p> <ol> <li><i><a href="https://amzn.to/2Xx2t7d" target="_blank">Wild at Heart</a></i> by John Eldredge</li> <li>Our devotional bundles for growing in your marriage: <a href="http://40prayers" target="_blank">40-Day Prayer Journey</a>, <a href="http://31daypursuit.com" target="_blank">31-Day Pursuit Challenge</a></li> </ol> <p>Newlyweds</p> <ol> <li>Past Episode: <a href="http://smarturl.it/fmpod-roloffs" target="_blank">Navigating the Early Years of Marriage (Jeremy and Audrey Roloff)</a></li> <li><a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/qapital" target="_blank">Qapital App</a>, for saving money intentionally (get $20 for signing up with our link, limited time only)</li> <li><i><a href="https://amzn.to/2UP8teS" target="_blank">A Mingling of Souls</a></i> by Matt and Lauren Chandler</li> <li><i><a href="https://amzn.to/2Xx6jNF" target="_blank">Fierce Marriage</a></i> by Ryan and Selena Frederick</li> </ol> Priorities and Staying Connected <ol> <li><a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/download-family-vision-worksheet" target="_blank">Download Family Vision worksheet</a></li> <li><a href="http://5habits.us" target="_blank"><i>5 Habits of a Healthy Marriage</i></a>, FREE eBook</li> </ol> Accountability Questions <ol> <li><a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/accountability-questions-for-your-marriage-that-actually-work" target="_blank">Get them here</a></li> </ol> <p>Gender Roles in Marriage</p> <ol> <li><a href="https://www.tvcresources.net/resource-library/series-index/a-beautiful-design" target="_blank">A Beautiful Design</a>, a sermon series of the Village Church</li> <li><a href="https://amzn.to/2DrmGnj" target="_blank"><i>Jesus, Justice, and Gender Roles</i></a> by Kathy Keller</li> <li>“<a href="http://resources.thegospelcoalition.org/library/what-are-biblical-roles-for-husbands-and-wives" target="_blank">What Are Biblical Roles for Husbands and Wives?</a>”, The Gospel Coalition, brief video</li> </ol> <p>Healing After Betrayal</p> <ol> <li><a href="http://smarturl.it/fmpod-willis" target="_blank">Dave and Ashley Willis Episode</a></li> <li><a href="https://ourdailybread.org/story/out-of-the-dust/" target="_blank">Out of the Dust</a> (Chris and Stephanie Teague)</li> <li><a href="http://refineus.org" target="_blank">RefineUs.org</a> (Justin and Trisha Davis)</li> <li><a href="http://PureDesire.org" target="_blank">Sex Addiction Recovery: Pure Desire</a></li> <li><a href="http://MarriageHelp.org" target="_blank">MarriageHelp.org</a> (Find a group near you)</li> </ol> Thanks for listening! <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Apr 23, 2019
The Hearts and Feelings of Women
0:55:46
<p>Emotions are important, but they're not ultimate. Feelings are just feelings, and they shouldn't determine or change important parts of life, correct? In this episode, we talked about the hearts and feelings of women, in a candid discussion about emotions and their role in life, faith, and family.</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Apr 16, 2019
Navigating the Early Years of Marriage (Jeremy and Audrey Roloff)
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<p>Jeremy and Audrey met under during a very unique situation. More than 2.3 million people watched as Jeremy and Audrey Roloff shared their vows and committed their lives to each other on TLC's hit show Little People, Big World.</p> <p>Listen in as we talked with them about their first five years of marriage and how they learned that true love is something you choose to live out each day through your actions, decisions, and sacrifices.</p> <p>More resources from Jeremy and Audrey!</p> <ul> <li><i>New Book: <a target="_blank" href="https://amzn.to/2UKsvq2">A Love Letter Life</a></i></li> <li>Podcast: <a target="_blank" href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/behind-the-scenes/id1441970779">Behind the Scenes</a></li> <li>Blog and other resources: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.theroloffs.com/">TheRoloffs.com</a></li> <li>Also make sure to find them on IG and FB!</li> </ul> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Apr 11, 2019
The Hearts and Feelings of Men
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<p>One of the biggest problems faced by modern men (and their wives) is the numbing and inoculation against feeling true emotions. For some, even when they do feel clearly, it's equally as challenging to articulating those feeling in a healthy way.</p> <p>In this episode, we talked about the hearts and feelings of men, how wives can help their husbands process them. We ended the episode calling men to feel deeply about things that truly matter. Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Apr 09, 2019
Accountability in Marriage (What it Is and What it Isn't)
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<p>Accountability in marriage is so much more than asking if and how you've sinned in the past week. It's about spouses embracing their role in each others' tangible walk with Christ. In this weeks episode, we talked about what accountability isn't, what it is, and how to ask questions that get to the heart of the matter.</p> <p>Mentioned: <a target="_blank" href="https://fiercemarriage.com/accountability-questions-for-your-marriage-that-actually-work">Get the accountability questions</a></p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Apr 02, 2019
Building an Emotionally Safe Marriage (Dr. Josh and Christi Straub)
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<p>Josh and Christi are the real deal. Highly educated, faith-filled, and articulate communicators. In today's special interview episode, we talked about what it takes to have an emotionally safe marriage. We discussed the "fight, flight, or freeze" response to trauma in your marriage, as well as our tendency to gloss over or forget to utilize 'emotion language' as couples.</p> <p>We enjoyed our conversation, and we trust that will too!</p> <p><b>More resources from Josh and Christi Straub:</b></p> <ul> <li><i>Book: <a href="http://www.whatamifeelingbook.com/">What Am I Feeling?</a></i> (Their NEW, awesome children's book)</li> <li>Podcast: <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/in-this-together-with-dr-josh-christi/id1185660348?mt=2">In This Together</a> </li> <li>Blog: <a href="https://www.joshuastraub.com">JoshuaStraub.com</a></li> <li>Online Parenting Community: <a href="http://226parenting.com/">226Parenting.com</a></li> </ul> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Mar 28, 2019
Uprooting Bitterness In Your Marriage
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<p>Seeds and roots of bitterness start subtly. However, we must be aware and wise to identify them and uproot them before they get out of control. In this episode, we talked about the true root of bitterness (it may not be what you think) and how standing in awe of God is the only true way to uproot it.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Mar 26, 2019
Common Lies We Believe About Marriage (and Truths to Dispel Them)
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<p>Sometimes the reasons marriage is challenging is because of a lie we're believing on some level. For example, we sometimes believe it's our primary job to change one another. In other cases, we wonder if we married the wrong person, or we expect our spouse to "complete" us.</p> <p>In this episode, we discussed common lies we believe in marriage and talked about how to dispel them. Enjoy!</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Mar 19, 2019
Singleness and Dating to the Glory of God (Kait Warman)
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<p>Today we interviewed Kait Warman, a gospel-centered dating "expert" (our word, not hers) and host of the Heart of Dating Podcast. We had a very interesting and fun conversation! A few of the things we talked about include:</p> <ul> <li>How married couples can help and encourage singles and daters</li> <li>The dating scene and how to navigate it as a Christian</li> <li>How to set healthy boundaries and habits for dating</li> <li>Dating as a means of growing in Kingdom purpose</li> <li>Some ways singles can "hyper-spiritualize" the dating process</li> <li>Leaving others better than you found them when dating</li> <li>What physical boundaries should dating couples have?</li> <li>Kait mentioned an "eroticism for life" (listen for the full context!)</li> <li>Creating a "board of advisors" for your dating life</li> <li>Kait shared one of her WORST dating stories</li> </ul> <p>Get more from Kait Warman</p> <p>Visit <a href="https://heartofdating.com/">https://heartofdating.com/</a> for excellent resources and to learn more about Kait.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Mar 14, 2019
3 Aspects of Unforgettable Dates After “I Do”
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<p>How to keep things interesting long after you say "I do". We covered 3 aspects of unforgettable dates.</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">Patreon</a>. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://www.Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Mar 12, 2019
How to Study the Bible as a Couple
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<p>Approaching the Bible can be intimidating. We can easily feel overwhelmed or under-equipped. However, reading God's Word is easily one of, if not THE, most important things you can do as a couple. With that said, take heart! God is faithful to make His word accessible to all who approach it willingly.</p> <p>In today's episode, Ryan and Selena talked about how to overcome fears, what the Bible actually is (the canon, etc), methods for reading the Bible, and how to read Scripture together. Enjoy!</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">Patreon</a>. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://www.Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Mar 05, 2019
Blended Families: Navigating Complexities with Hope and Joy (Mike and Kim Anderson)
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<p>Being in a blended family is as complex as it is challenging. The good news is that you aren't without hope in the Gospel and help from others who care! In today's special interview episode, we had the incredible joy of speaking with Mike and Kim Anderson, the proverbial "experts" on blended families.</p> <p>Mike &amp; Kim have been supporting stepfamilies since 2001. Their marriage formed a stepfamily and Mike grew up in challenging stepfamily dynamics. Their personal experience with stepfamily life and professional experience coaching others uniquely equip them to help step-couples learn and implement healthy habits that will positively transform their daily stepfamily life.</p> <p>You can download their FREE guide, How to Build Connection, Order &amp; Peace in Your Stepfamily by visiting <a target="_blank" href="https://FierceMarriage.com/blended">FierceMarriage.com/Blended</a></p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">Patreon</a>. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://www.Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Feb 28, 2019
The Power and Joy of Living "On Mission" as a Couple
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<p>A marriage on mission fulfills the Great Commission in ways specific to how God designed the relationship to flourish and function. A couple "on mission" does this with unity, joy, and gospel-fueled excitement.</p> <p>In today's episode, we discussed how to live as a "marriage on mission" by looking at the underlying biblical mandates for us as Christians first, then as a married couple.</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">Patreon</a>. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://www.Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Feb 26, 2019
The 3 Types of Intimacy and How Transparency Grows Each One
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<p>In today's show, we discussed the three areas of intimacy and how transparency helps you grow in each one!</p> <p>Mentioned: <i>The 40-Day Prayer Journey</i>, a pair of couples devotionals aimed at helping you pray intentionally for each other. Writing these books helped us grow immensely. Visit <a href="http://40Prayers.com" target="_blank">40Prayers.com</a> to learn more!</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">Patreon</a>. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://www.Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Feb 19, 2019
"The Naked Marriage" and Rebuilding Trust After a Betrayal (Dave and Ashley Willis)
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<p>Today we talked with Dave and Ashley Willis, authors and podcasters. We talked about dealing with betrayal, how to rebuild trust, and why it's ok to be vulnerable, even if it's uncomfortable.</p> <p>Dave and Ashley's new book <i><u>The Naked Marriage: Undressing the truth about sex, intimacy and lifelong love</u></i> released on Feb 12th. It's amazing! Make sure to grab a copy on <a target="_blank" href="https://amzn.to/2GoB2Iq">Amazon</a>.</p> <p>For more resources from Dave and Ashley, check out their podcast, "The Naked Marriage".</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">Patreon</a>. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://www.Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Feb 14, 2019
Ask Us Anything Q&A #3: Growing in Intimacy, Abortion, Headship/Submission, and More
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<p>In today's episode, we answer listener questions. Some on the lighter side, some tough, all honest.</p> <p>We answered questions about how to grow in intimacy, how to deal with a spouse who wants an abortion, headship and submission, and others.</p> <p>Note: we're not counselors or therapists. Seek professional help if you need it. Our answers shouldn't be construed as professional advice, and given the medium, please give grace on the nuances of each topic covered (there were many, and a few are very complex in nature). Nothing here should replace godly, Bible-based counsel or Christian community rooted in the gospel.</p> <p>Mentioned in this episode:</p> <p>Sanctity of Human Life:</p> <ul> <li>https://www.tvcresources.net/resource-library/articles/sanctity-of-life</li> <li>https://www.tvcresources.net/resource-library/sermons/the-sanctity-of-human-life--4</li> </ul> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question! You can also ask a question via text or voicemail by calling us at (971) 333-1120.</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">Patreon</a>. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://www.Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Feb 12, 2019
The Massive Importance of Margin in Life and Marriage
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<p>Too often, we fill our lives to the brim and our marriages suffer as a result. The problem is that life is unpredictable. We need extra space—MARGIN—so we have patience, time, and resources to deal with life's unpredictability in a healthy way.</p> <p>In this week's episode, Ryan and Selena discussed why busyness is overrated, how to prioritize, and three practical areas where margin is vital for a healthier life and marriage.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question! You can also ask a question via text or voicemail by calling us at (971) 333-1120.</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">Patreon</a>. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://www.Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Feb 05, 2019
Common Pitfalls that Young Couples Face (Scott Kedersha)
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<p>Today we talked with Scott Kedersha, Director of Marriage Ministry at Watermark Church in Dallas. Drawing on over a decade of boots-on-the-ground experience with young couples, we discussed common pitfalls they face.</p> <p>Scott's new book "Ready or Knot" releases on Feb 5th, but you can PRE-ORDER it here and get bonuses: <a href="http://scottkedersha.com/ready">ScottKedersha.com/ready</a></p> <p>For more resources from Scott, check out his blog at <a href="http://scottkedersha.com">ScottKedersha.com</a>.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Become a Patron!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">Patreon</a>. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://www.Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
Jan 31, 2019
Clinging to Truth in a Post-Truth World
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<p dir="ltr">If we're not careful, subtle cultural lies can begin to have huge consequences on big truths in marriage. In a culture ruled by relative truths, it's more important now than ever to stand on God's Word as true, inerrant, and authoritative in our lives. </p> <p dir="ltr">How do we sort out truth? How do we gain unity around complex questions? We’re going to talk through this and provide some clear tangible pathways to understanding and clinging to God's truth.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Jan 29, 2019
Finances in Marriage: 7 Principles Every Couple Should Consider
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<p>Finances are a hot topic in every marriage. It can be <a title="Managing Financial Stress in Your Marriage" href="https://fiercemarriage.com/managing-financial-stress-in-your-marriage">insanely stressful</a>, and if we’re not careful we can get caught up in the <a title="Crushing Comparison" href="https://fiercemarriage.com/crushing-comparison">comparison game</a>.</p> <p>We certainly don’t know everything about this or have a silver bullet to fix every financial woe in your marriage. However, we have learned a few principles that help us stay focused on the main thing: God. Having the right perspective on finances will serve at least three important purposes in your married life:</p> <ol> <li>Keep God at the center and in control of your life, not money</li> <li>Keep money in its rightful place – a few notches down the priority list</li> <li>Replace stress with trust and striving with faithfulness, thus adding to your overall marital joy</li> </ol> <p>Keep listening for 7 principles we’ve learned about finances.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Jan 22, 2019
Enjoying Each Other to the Glory to God
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<p>If the chief end of man (and therefore, marriage) is to glorify God, what does that mean for our sex life? Namely, how do we KNOW if our sex life in marriage is everything it can and should be? In today's episode, we'll discuss vulnerability, various popular views of sexuality, and a behavioral psychology model for building habits for a thriving sex life.</p> <p>Due to sensitive content, we recommend not having kiddos present when listening to this episode.</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Jan 15, 2019
Your Spouse, Your Ultimate Standard of Attractiveness
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<p>This is one of those issues that will make or break your marriage.</p> <p>Men, we are constantly barraged with culture’s standard of womanly beauty. We are subconsciously told over and over again that a beautiful woman must be skinny, tall, wear certain clothes, act a certain way, and have a risqué appetite for sex.</p> <p>Advertisers and content producers spend billions establishing and reinforcing what culture deems beautiful. The funny thing is that if asked to describe what a beautiful woman looks like, content producers would quickly mention inner beauty, individual uniqueness, and personality. You’ll never catch them verbalizing that beauty has to look the way they show.</p> <p>In today's podcast, we look at this phenomenon and share practical ways to set your own spouse as your ultimate standard of attractiveness. </p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Jan 08, 2019
5 Tips (and Tools) for a Stronger Marriage This Year
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<p>If you’re like us (and like most), goals you make usually revolve around work and lifestyle: “hit this revenue milestone” or “pay off such-and-such debt”. Those goals are good, so long as they’re in the proper context of your identity in Christ and your Gospel-centered purpose as a new creation in him.</p> <p>This year, we're urging ourselves (and you!) to look closer to home when targeting big, crazy endeavors. Consider this: <i>how can your marriage and family be different and/or more healthy this year?</i> What experiences can you pursue together that will build your faith and trust in God while making use of your days to glorify him? Really… think about it. <i>What could be</i>?</p> <p>To that end, we've compiled this list of 5 tips/tools that we think are very helpful for building on specific, important aspects of your marriage. We hope they help you!</p> <p>All of the links mentioned can be found here: https://fiercemarriage.com/5-tips-and-tools-for-a-stronger-marriage-this-year</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Jan 03, 2019
God is Good! Celebrating the Year (2018 Best-of)
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<p>In this unique episode we recall all that God has done in our lives and through the Fierce Marriage ministry in 2018. We recapped our most downloaded episodes of the year and celebrate miracles we've witnessed in lives of listeners and friends.</p> <p>Episodes mentioned:</p> <ul> <li>Most feedback received from listeners: <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/family-of-origin-part-1-selenas-story/id1292084760?i=1000418220146&amp;mt=2">Selena's Story (Family of Origin Part 1)</a></li> <li>Most challenging topic discussed: <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/10-big-questions-about-sex-compatibility-kids-annoyances/id1292084760?i=1000419523128&amp;mt=2">10 Big Questions About Sex, Compatibility, etc...</a></li> </ul> <p>Links to the top episodes of the year:</p> <p></p> <ul> <li>#1: <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-spectrum-of-sex-and-why-you-need-it/id1292084760?i=1000422845240&amp;mt=2">Spectrum of Sex</a> - (October 30)</li> <li>#2: <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-anatomy-of-a-healthy-and-happy-sex-life/id1292084760?i=1000416497227&amp;mt=2">Anatomy of a Healthy and Happy Sex Life</a> (July 24)</li> <li>#3: <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/3-boundaries-every-couple-needs/id1292084760?i=1000419967312&amp;mt=2">3 Boundaries Every Couple Needs</a> (September 18)</li> <li>#4: <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/biggest-battle-youll-ever-face-pride-humility-your/id1292084760?i=1000417783160&amp;mt=2">Biggest Battle You’ll Ever Face: Pride and Humility In Your Marriage</a> (August 14)</li> <li>#5: <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/your-marriage-is-your-ministry-part-1-sharing-your-story/id1292084760?i=1000413547718&amp;mt=2">Your Marriage Is Your Ministry</a> (June 12)</li> </ul> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Dec 28, 2018
Advent, Your Marriage, and the Rest of the Year
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<p>We are all searching for real hope, authentic-biblical love, lasting joy and otherworldly peace for our <b>marriage</b>. In the midst of the advent, and holiday season some feel burdened, lost, and without hope—both in their personal lives and in the life of their marriage. We've been there. </p> <p>It’s often when the night seems the darkest that the light shines brighter! It’s in the darkness of a stable where our Savior was born for the very purpose of bringing real hope to us no matter the circumstance. In him we find all the love, joy, and peace to anchor us in Him!</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Dec 18, 2018
Breaking the Ice During Communication Cold-Snaps
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<p>How can we break the ice and let our guard down when everything inside of us wants to hold onto frustration?</p> <p>Selena and I have experienced PLENTY of “communication cold snaps” in our marriage. A “cold snap” is defined as a “a sudden, brief spell of cold weather.” Things get icy in marriage when bitterness builds up from being hurt, mistreated, or misunderstood over a long period of time. “Cold snaps” happen when we don’t nip communication issues in the bud.</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Dec 11, 2018
The Best Intimacy is Spiritual Intimacy
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<p></p> <p dir="ltr">Many couples ask about building spiritual unity, intimacy, and connection. Questions like: How can we grow in our faith together? How can we build Christ-centered rhythms into our daily and weekly lives? </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode, Ryan and Selena explore the topic of Spiritual Intimacy by looking at spiritual disciplines for cultivating a relentless devotion to Christ together. Among the things discussed are prayer, Scripture reading, spiritual disciplines (fasting, scripture memorization, prayer, studying scripture in depth, reading swaths of passages).</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Dec 04, 2018
Sometimes Familiarity Hurts
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<p></p> <p dir="ltr">It’s inevitable in marriage for us to become familiar with our spouse. We know each other’s likes, dislikes, love languages—we also know how and when to press each other’s buttons. Familiarity is a double-edged sword that NEEDS to be used and viewed through the lens of the gospel. By knowing each other more fully, the Holy Spirit empowers us to love more completely. </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode, Ryan and Selena discuss their own struggles with familiarity and how God continues to gently and lovingly lead them back to biblical truths in how they can love each other more completely.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Nov 27, 2018
Our 3 Non-Negotiables in Marriage
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<p>Everyone builds their marriage on something. What is your marriage founded upon? More importantly, is the foundation of your marriage secure? In this episode, Ryan and Selena explore their 3 non-negotiables for marriage and look at how when they're in place, everything about your marriage will change.</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Nov 20, 2018
Hope for Those Living in a One-Sided Marriage
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<p>One of the biggest sources of strife in marriage is being unequally yoked. What is the husband or wife to do if their spouse isn’t trying or won’t re-engage with the relationship?</p> <p>In this week’s episode, Ryan and Selena tackle this tough question and more...</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Nov 13, 2018
The 5 Love Languages
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<p>In this episode, Ryan and Selena discuss Gary Chapman’s <i>The 5 Love Languages</i>. In their discussion they explore whether or not they are biblical, and how they can help/hinder your marriage in the different seasons you’re in (pre-kids, littles, etc.).</p> <p>After recently taking the quiz online (go to http://5LoveLanguages.com to take the quiz yourself), both were surprised by their results this time around versus when they were younger and without kids.</p> <p>Note: we weren't' paid in any way to talk about this book, it's just a great conversation piece that has helped us a ton.</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Nov 06, 2018
The "Spectrum of Sex" and Why You Need It
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<p>Sex is an incredible gift, but missed expectations can cause hurt and frustration. What if you could clearly know what to expect, when sex would happen, and why it's worth prioritizing, even when you're tired?</p> <p>In this week's episode, Ryan and Selena introduce the idea of establishing a "Spectrum of Sex" in your marriage, as a means of gaining unity around the 'rhythms' (pun kind of intended) of your sex life.</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Oct 30, 2018
Are You Over-Focusing On Your Marriage?
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<p>In this episode, Ryan and Selena discuss how our earthly marriage is simply a shadow to our eternal marriage with Christ, and the implications of living too focused on the happiness level of our marriage rather than the One we were created for can have ... </p> <p>As marriage ministers, it’s important for us to continually point people to Christ and commission marriages for the gospel (the mission of FM)—part of this means asking and discussing the hard question of: Are we surrendering ourselves/our marriage to God’s Kingdom? Or have we reduced Christianity to a mere means to our end: a happy life, and therefore, a happy marriage? </p> <p>Secondly, are we serving God’s kingdom together and “Strengthening the brethren?” (Isaiah 12:4) In other words, are to proclaim to others God’s mighty works and his character. Listen along for more!</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Oct 23, 2018
Can I Have Close Friends of the Opposite Sex?
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<p></p> <p dir="ltr">There is a lot of godly information and instruction around this area of friendship with the opposite sex and whether or not it is something that can happen or should happen. </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode, Ryan and Selena will discuss this controversial topic while sharing their own experiences and biblical understanding of how we “can have the wisdom to know and enjoy the blessing of friendship in a way that honors both our marriage and our brothers and sisters in Christ—while ultimately bringing glory to him.” </p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Oct 16, 2018
The Cohabitation Phenomenon: is it Good or Bad, and Why?
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<p>Marriage is trending downward while cohabitation trends upward, but the facts say that's a bad thing. It's important to understand why cohabitation is bad from both a biblical perspective as well as a sociological perspective.</p> <p>In this episode, we'll dive deep into the reasons why couples cohabitate and practical ways to combat this harmful trend in culture.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Oct 09, 2018
How is Your Phone Hurting Your Marriage (Part 2)
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<p>You're probably using your smartphone to listen to this. Your phone is a great tool! But it can also create problems in life and marriage.</p> <p>(Side note: This episode marks <b>1 FULL YEAR of the Fierce Marriage Podcast!</b> Thanks for listening!)</p> <p>Anyways... A few diagnostic questions: Do you check your phone first thing in the morning? Do you spend many of your idle moments checking it compulsively? What is the longest stretch you've gone in the past year without checking your phone?</p> <p>In today's episode, we'll continue our conversation we started about 12 episodes ago (whoops!). Note, we weren't paid to do this, we're just VERY convicted about this subject and the below book is gospel-centered, relevant, and challenging.</p> <p>Resource: "<a target="_blank" href="https://amzn.to/2JsOOGX"><i>12 Ways Your Phone is Changing You</i></a>" by Tony Reinke</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Oct 02, 2018
Living with Unshakeable Peace
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<p>Peace is one of those things you don't realize is there until it's gone, then that's when you're most desperate to regain it. Jesus promised to give otherworldly peace to believers through the indwelling of the Holy Spirit. So, what should we do when we don't feel peace?</p> <p>In this episode, we'll discuss what true peace looks like and where it's found.</p> <ul> </ul> <p class="c1">Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome questions and feedback! Go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to explore the options there.</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">our Patreon page</a>. If we've helped you, we'd be honored to have your partnership.</p>
Sep 25, 2018
3 Boundaries Every Couple Needs
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<p>Healthy boundaries will protect you from overextending yourself in life. They will also protect the health of your marriage when they're clearly defined. Every season of frustration in our own marriage ("season" = many months) can usually be traced back to some issue with boundaries. Usually, I'm overworking, or we're making poor decisions in areas where we haven't clearly defined our "walls".</p> <p>In this episode, we'll explore three specific ways you can create healthy boundaries in your marriage.</p> <ul> </ul> <p class="c1">Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome questions and feedback! Go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to explore the options there.</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">our Patreon page</a>. If we've helped you, we'd be honored to have your partnership.</p>
Sep 18, 2018
10 Big Questions About Sex, Compatibility, Kids, Annoyances, and More
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<p>You asked, we answered. This episode includes</p> <ol> <li>What do you do when you no longer have feelings for or care about your spouse?</li> <li>What is your stand on toys or items used while having sex or used to help pleasure before sex?</li> <li>When did you guys know you were ready to have kids?</li> <li>What’s something that may have annoyed you about the other that you now do?</li> <li>How do you love a husband that is full of pride?</li> <li>Ideas for spouses when one is a night owl and the other is an early bird?</li> <li>How to be brave with intimacy when kids are asleep?</li> <li>How do you deal with in-laws that are very close to you but don’t respect your lifestyle and/or space?</li> <li>As a wife, how to respond to a husband who admits porn addiction?</li> <li>What's the best resource specifically for affair recovery and reconciliation in marriage?</li> </ol> <ul> </ul> <p class="c1">Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome questions and feedback! Go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to explore the options there.</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">our Patreon page</a>. If we've helped you, we'd be honored to have your partnership.</p>
Sep 11, 2018
The Art of Appreciation!
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<p>Appreciation is one of the most powerful ways to foster love and generosity in your marriage. In today's episode, Ryan and Selena explore ways to cultivate appreciation and grow closer in the process.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome questions and feedback! Go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to explore the options there.</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">our Patreon page</a>. If we've helped you, we'd be honored to have your partnership.</p>
Sep 04, 2018
Family of Origin (Part 2: Ryan's Story)
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<p>As a follow up to what Selena shared last week, this episode explores Ryan's family of origin and its impact in their marriage.</p> <p>Your family of origin, generally speaking, refers to where you came from. Where you came from determines where you're going, especially when referring to your marriage.</p> <p>Focus on the Family article mentioned: <a data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.focusonthefamily.ca/content/what-is-a-family-of-origin&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1535209028258000&amp;usg=AFQjCNFqWvRMoNqe_Lok45u4PQoAnBLiMA" target="_blank" href="https://www.focusonthefamily.ca/content/what-is-a-family-of-origin">https://www.focusonthefamily.ca/content/what-is-a-family-of-origin</a></p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome questions and feedback! Go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to explore the options there.</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">our Patreon page</a>. If we've helped you, we'd be honored to have your partnership.</p>
Aug 28, 2018
Family of Origin (Part 1: Selena's Story)
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<p>Your family of origin, generally speaking, refers to where you came from. Where you came from determines where you're going, especially when referring to your marriage.</p> <p>In today's episode, Selena shares her story after we briefly discuss what "Family of Origin" is and why it's important.</p> <p>Focus on the Family article mentioned: <a data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.focusonthefamily.ca/content/what-is-a-family-of-origin&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1535209028258000&amp;usg=AFQjCNFqWvRMoNqe_Lok45u4PQoAnBLiMA" target="_blank" href="https://www.focusonthefamily.ca/content/what-is-a-family-of-origin">https://www.focusonthefamily.ca/content/what-is-a-family-of-origin</a></p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome questions and feedback! Go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to explore the options there.</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">our Patreon page</a>. If we've helped you, we'd be honored to have your partnership.</p>
Aug 21, 2018
The Biggest Battle You'll Ever Face: Pride, Humility, and Your Marriage
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<p>Pride is the sense that we can get what we want, deserve, or need on our own. Pride is at the root of every sin, conflict, and deviation from God's Word. In contrast, humility means being Christ-centered more than being me-centered.</p> <p>In today's episode, we'll read God's Word and explore how to diagnose areas of pride in marriage.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome questions and feedback! Go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to explore the options there.</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">our Patreon page</a>. If we've helped you, we'd be honored to have your partnership.</p>
Aug 14, 2018
Live Q&A #3: Emotional Intimacy, Loving a Disengaged Spouse, Priorities, and More
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<p>In this bonus episode, Ryan and Selena answer questions from readers around the world via Facebook and Instagram LIVE! It's uncut, unedited, and unfiltered... for better or worse (a little like marriage). We hope you enjoy it and find it helpful!</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome questions and feedback! Go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to explore the options there.</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">our Patreon page</a>. If we've helped you, we'd be honored to have your partnership.</p>
Aug 09, 2018
Recovering After a Bad Fight
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<p>Fighting is inevitable in marriage. The key is learning the arts of fighting well and recovering in healthy ways.</p> <p>In today's episode, we'll share a few of our worst fights and explore biblical ways forward that every couple can apply.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome questions and feedback! Go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to explore the options there.</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">our Patreon page</a>. If we've helped you, we'd be honored to have your partnership.</p>
Aug 07, 2018
5 Specific Ways to Pray for Your Spouse
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<p>Prayer is one of the most tangible and powerful ways you can love your spouse. For Christians, the importance of prayer is readily acknowledged but often forgotten. This tendency to forget is probably because we haven't had a deep revelation of what prayer is and why we do it.</p> <p>In today's episode, we'll unpack 5 specific ways you can pray for each other.</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome questions and feedback! Go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to explore the options there.</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">our Patreon page</a>. If we've helped you, we'd be honored to have your partnership.</p>
Jul 31, 2018
The Anatomy of a Healthy (and Happy) Sex Life
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<p>One of the most prevalent topics we get questions about is sex and intimacy. And for good reason: sexual intimacy is an important part of marriage, but it also tends to be one of the most misunderstood. For starters, here are some biblical truths about sex:</p> <ol> <li>Sex is a good, gracious gift from God. He designed it.</li> <li>Sex is created exclusively for the marriage covenant. Elsewhere is sin and will lead to brokenness.</li> <li>Sex is created with huge purposes in mind.</li> <li>Sex is meant to be enjoyed!</li> </ol> <p>With those principles in place (there are more, but for today we'll stop there), we can begin to understand what a healthy sex life might look like. For a much more in-depth look at the purposes of sex, consider reading our latest book <a rel="noopener" target="_blank" href="https://amzn.to/2s80U4M">Fierce Marriage</a>.</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback! Simply go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment, ask a question, or submit a letter to your spouse</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Jul 24, 2018
How is Your Phone Hurting Your Marriage? (Part 1)
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<p>You're probably using your smartphone to listen to this episode. Your phone is a great tool, but it can also create problems in life and marriage. A few diagnostic questions: Do you check your phone first thing in the morning? Do you spend many of your idle moments checking it compulsively? What is the longest stretch you've gone in the past year without checking your phone?</p> <p>In today's episode, we'll start this conversation by diving into a new book we're both reading. Note, we weren't paid to do this, we're just VERY convicted about this subject and the below book is gospel-centered, relevant, and challenging.</p> <p>Resource: "<a href="https://amzn.to/2JsOOGX" target="_blank"><i>12 Ways Your Phone is Changing You</i></a>" by Tony Reinke</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment, ask a question, or submit a letter to your spouse</p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage" target="_blank">our Patreon page</a>.</p>
Jul 17, 2018
4 Ways to Build Lasting Unity
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<p>Unity. Deep, true unity is unmistakable and irreplaceable in a healthy marriage. God's word says "they shall become one flesh" (Genesis 2:24). Not two people with a common goal, but one flesh. Combined. Unified.</p> <p>God created us for deeper unity with our spouses than any other human. There are profound reasons for this, like the necessity of strong families for flourishing churches and societies. There are also pragmatic reasons for this, like how it sanctifies us as individuals to seek unity as a couple, and how pursuing unity causes you to have otherwise impossible conversations with each other.</p> <p>In this episode, we'll share 4 ways to build true, deep, lasting unity in your marriage.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment, ask a question, or submit a letter to your spouse</p>
Jul 10, 2018
7 Reasons Why Getting Away is (Very) Good for Your Marriage
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<p>Getting away with your spouse is a vital part of keeping things renewed and fresh. This means taking time to intentionally disconnect from your everyday world and reconnect with your life partner. We strongly believe that getting away should be a regular (at least monthly) occurrence in marriages; here's why...</p> <p>In this episode, we'll discuss 7 reasons why getting away is very good for your marriage. We'll also spend a good amount of time sharing tools we've found for doing it affordably. (Including how we toured Europe for 18 days and less than $1500.)</p> <p>This episode is a little different for us, but we hope you find it helpful!</p> <p>All of the tools mentioned (and more) can be found on this blog post: <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/7-reasons-getting-away-good-marriage">https://fiercemarriage.com/7-reasons-getting-away-good-marriage</a></p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment, ask a question, or submit a letter to your spouse</p>
Jul 03, 2018
Stop Keeping Score
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<p>Keeping score is never healthy for a marriage, yet it's often our default. Why? Because keeping score of wrongs, acts of service, faults, and personal victories can't possibly come from a spirit of love. It most often comes from a place of insecurity and lack of faith in the gospel.</p> <p>In this episode, we'll unpack how keeping score is damaging to a marriage, and share some of our personal stories of how it's hindered our closeness and growth.</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment, ask a question, or submit a letter to your spouse.</p>
Jun 26, 2018
Your Marriage is Your Ministry (Part 2, Functional Discipleship)
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<p>This episode continues our talk about how your marriage is your ministry, particularly through discipleship.</p> <p>When we live for God we are ministers of His gospel, period. You don’t have to be a vocational pastor or licensed priest, we are all lay-ministers of Christ (“lay” comes from “laity” which means common people). Ministry is a byproduct of knowing God intimately and allowing Him to pour out through us.</p> <p>We long for the day when Christian married couples en masse minister through their marriages. We aren’t called to simply love each other fully and end our mission there. Let’s explore our callings and live to see Christ change our world through the work He does in our marriages!</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Resources mentioned in this episode:</p> <ol> <li><i><a target="_blank" href="https://amzn.to/2sYTb77">Family Worship</a></i> by Donald Whitney</li> <li><i><a target="_blank" href="https://amzn.to/2JMIYkD">The Master Plan of Evangelism</a></i> by Robert Coleman</li> <li><a target="_blank" href="https://amzn.to/2sXUhQy">A Mingling of Souls</a>, by Matt and Lauren Chandler</li> </ol> <p></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment, ask a question, or submit a letter to your spouse.</p> <p> </p>
Jun 19, 2018
Your Marriage is Your Ministry (Part 1, Sharing Your Story)
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<p>When we live for God we are ministers of His gospel, period. You don’t have to be a vocational pastor or licensed priest, we are all lay-ministers of Christ (“lay” comes from “laity” which means common people). Ministry is a byproduct of knowing God intimately and allowing Him to pour out through us.</p> <p>I long for the day when Christian married couples en masse minister through their marriages. We aren’t called to simply love each other fully and end our mission there. Let’s explore our callings and live to see Christ change our world through the work He does in our marriages!</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment, ask a question, or submit a letter to your spouse.</p>
Jun 12, 2018
No Backup Plan, No Escape Clauses, No Regrets
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<p>There’s profound joy in the mutual and reckless pursuit of each other in marriage. Marriage requires a fierce tenacity that never gives up and never gives in.</p> <p>What does this reckless pursuit actually look like in marriage? What enables it within every complex issue and circumstance you will face? To start, look at Christ’s example. He pursues you without fail. It’s his steady pursuit that drew you to him, and it’s because of his love and grace alone that you’re in a relationship with him. </p> <p>David writes, “Where shall I go from your Spirit? Or where shall I flee from your presence? If I ascend to heaven, you are there! If I make my bed in Sheol, you are there!” (Psalm 139:7-8). The psalmist is reflecting on God’s limitless pursuit of those he loves. The concept of a pursuing love has immense implications for your marriage. </p> <p>Pursuit is active, not passive. It means to chase steadily with the goal of capture. This is why it’s vital to keep dating each other long after you marry. When you work with the expressed intent of capturing your spouse’s heart, you’re in active pursuit. And more importantly, when you’re having a hard time connecting, the pursuit continues. </p> <p>May you throw out any and all backup plans in your marriage. When you do, you’ll enjoy the intimacy that comes only from pursuing unconditionally and being pursued exactly the same way. </p> <p>Stay fierce,Ryan &amp; Selena</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a target="_blank" href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment, ask a question, or submit a letter to your spouse.</p>
Jun 05, 2018
Prenuptial Agreements: Are They Good or Bad?
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<p>Prenuptial agreements are a fairly common practice nowadays. As people of faith, how should we view and approach them? What should we do if we have a prenuptial agreement already in place? We'll discuss these questions and more in today's episode!</p> <p>Mentioned in today's podcast:</p> <ul> <li><a target="_blank" href="https://www.gotquestions.org/prenuptial-agreements.html">https://www.gotquestions.org/prenuptial-agreements.html</a></li> <li><a href="http://CruxWatches.com">CruxWatches.com</a></li> </ul> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment, ask a question, or submit a letter to your spouse!</p> <p>Stay fierce, Ryan &amp; Selena</p>
May 29, 2018
Loneliness within Marriage
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<p>It's ironic, but many individuals and couples experience loneliness while married. God said, "it is not good for man to be alone". Why? What else does the Bible say about being alone?</p> <p>In today's episode, we discuss ways forward into healthy, gospel-driven community with your spouse and others that will bring greater joy to your marriage.</p> <p>Thanks for listening! </p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment, ask a question, or submit a letter to your spouse!</p> <p>Stay fierce, Ryan &amp; Selena</p>
May 22, 2018
Abstinence: What is it, and is it Really God's Idea?
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<p>In today's episode, we discuss the idea of abstinence: where it comes from, what it means, and how to be abstinent for your good and God's glory.</p> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment, ask a question, or submit a letter to your spouse!</p> <p>Stay fierce,</p> <p>Ryan &amp; Selena</p>
May 15, 2018
Ask Us Anything Q&A #2: Submission without Becoming a Doormat, Building Quality Friendships, and More
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<p>In today's episode, we answer listener questions. Some on the lighter side, some tough, all honest.</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p><b></b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="FierceMarriage.com/Podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question! You can also ask a question via text or voicemail by calling us at (971) 333-1120.</p> <p><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via <a target="_blank" href="https://www.patreon.com/fiercemarriage">Patreon</a>. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a patreon supporter! Just visit <a href="https://www.Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a></p>
May 08, 2018
6 Ways to Affair Proof Your Marriage
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<p>Affairs take two common forms: emotional and sexual. In either case, by the time an actual affair materializes, there have been latent and unaddressed problems for a long time.</p> <p>"Affair proofing", if we can call it that, includes proactively building systems and rhythms into your marriage that will make it much less likely that you'll start down the subtle path toward an affair.</p> Spread the Love <p>If we've earned it we'd be honored if you would SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast in the Apple Podcasts app (or podcasting app of your choice). It takes 30 seconds, and it helps would-be listeners decide if it's worth their time. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>Feel free to ask! Anything goes. Just visit <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast">https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast</a> to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest!</p>
May 01, 2018
Naked and Unashamed: Keys to Experiencing Intimacy on Every Level
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<p>In today's episode, we sought to answer the single question: What does it mean to be truly intimate with another human? We explore that by looking at Genesis 2 (pre-Fall) and examining what it means that they were "naked and not ashamed". Then we'll spend a few minutes answering common questions we receive from readers regarding emotional intimacy, how to maintain closeness when you have young kids, and how to have tough, honest conversations even when you feel divided.</p> Spread the Love <p>If we've earned it we'd be honored if you would SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>If you have a question, feel free to ask! Anything goes.</p> <p>Just visit <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast">https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast</a> to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest!</p>
Apr 24, 2018
Practical Tools for Building a Genuinely 'Fierce' Marriage
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<p>This episode is a VERY important one for us... it probably for you too! You'll have to listen to find out why!? :)</p> Spread the Love <p>If we've earned it we'd be honored if you would SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>If you have a question, feel free to ask! Anything goes.</p> <p>Just visit <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast">https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast</a> to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest!</p>
Apr 17, 2018
Love vs. Lust: Distinguishing Between Right and Wrong Motivations in Your Sex Life
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<p>Is it possible to have lustful motivations in marriage? What makes an attitude or action loving or lustful?</p> <p>Hebrews 13:4 says, "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous." Could this apply to married people engaging in sex within their own marriage?</p> <p>In today's podcast, we'll explore just that in hopes of providing insight, clarity, and perspective on loving vs. lustful motivations in bed.</p> Couple's Challenge <p>After listening to this episode, ask yourself: are there areas in your sex life where lust has taken over? If so, have a conversation with your husband or wife about how you can let love be your sole motivator.</p> Spread the Love <p>If we've earned it we'd be honored if you would SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>If you have a question, feel free to ask! Anything goes.</p> <p>Just visit <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast">https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast</a> to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest!</p>
Apr 10, 2018
Fight Naked! How Fighting Well Can Help Build a Stronger Marriage
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<p>Fighting naked—both literally and figuratively—has been pivotal in helping us fight well. Yes, you can “fight well” in your marriage. Conflict, disagreements, frustrations, tension—none of this is new to marriage. That's what today's episode is all about. </p> <p>Put two people in a covenant together, living in the same house for life, and conflict is inevitable. First, we'll explore and understand what the bible says about how to resolve conflict, then we’ll leave you with a few tangible ways to deal with conflict in a healthy way.</p> Couple's Challenge <p>Set aside some intentional time and discuss how you “fight.” Is it healthy? Is there a better way you could handle it? Do you notice any triggers? How are you responding and not reacting? </p> Spread the Love <p>If we've earned it we'd be honored if you would SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>If you have a question, feel free to ask! Anything goes.</p> <p>Just visit <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast">https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast</a> to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest!</p>
Apr 03, 2018
Why Understanding Covenant is Absolutely Foundational for Your Marriage
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<p>We are big advocates for understanding the “why” behind the “what.” When we can understand the deeper meaning of covenant, we are better equipped to understand its importance for every facet of modern-day marriage. There is wisdom to be mined, understanding to be gleaned, and a clearer and more joyful path for our marriage when we seek to understand covenant. There is power and purpose in a lifelong commitment! </p> Mentioned <p>In the Quick Q&amp;A, we mentioned this talk on evaluating birth-control. It's long but well worth the listen. If you use birth control, it's important you understand what exactly happens and how it functions in your body: http://resources.thegospelcoalition.org/library/sex-without-children</p> Couple's Challenge <p>Think of one new thing you’ve learned about covenant from today’s podcast? Discuss it with your spouse. </p> Spread the Love <p>If we've earned it we'd be honored to have your subscription. In short, SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>If you have a question, feel free to ask! Anything goes.</p> <p>Just visit <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast">https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast</a> or <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/ask" target="_blank">https://fiercemarriage.com/ask</a> to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest.</p>
Mar 27, 2018
Live Q&A #2 (Uncut and Unfiltered)
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<p>Listen in as Ryan and Selena answer questions from readers around the world! Uncut, unedited, and unfiltered... for better or worse (a little like marriage!)</p> <p>Fierce Marriage (the book) is available at https://fiercemarriagebook.com. Go there to learn more!</p> Don’t forget! <p>If you'd like, please SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30-60 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>If you have a question, ask! Anything goes.</p> <p>Just visit <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast">https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast</a> to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest.</p>
Mar 24, 2018
Why "I love you but I'm not IN love with you" is a lie...
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<p>One of the truest markers of genuine love is its staying power—its longevity, its ability to persevere, and its ability to withstand. This is the type of love Christ shows us, and its the type of love we're called to express in marriage.However, our culture and our humanity would have us believe something else. Without a biblical understanding of love, we're prone to follow the whims of emotion and experience. We risk confusing infatuation for love. We believe the lie that love can only be found or stumbled upon rather than built, nurtured, and acted out.</p> <p>We risk believing that love is fickle and fragile—that it's something that can break or fade over time. That couldn't be further from the truth. Love is strong, not weak. It's decisive, not elusive. And love is BIG... so much bigger than our emotions can express or our moods can decide.</p> <p>How is love so big and so strong? In short, love is not a human idea. Love is God's idea, created by his design, and sustained by his strength.And there is no greater display of love than Christ on the cross. John 15:13 says this, "Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends." No love is stronger than God's love in Christ, which is why we're called to love as Christ loves—fiercely, unconditionally, perfectly.The catch is this: we can't love without God's help. We need to experience his love in Christ and be fueled by the transformation it brings.</p> <p>In today's episode, we'll discuss the above and more!</p> Couple's Challenge <p>Read through 1 Corinthians 13 and do two things:</p> <ol> <li>Write down how Jesus shows you each characteristic of love.</li> <li>Write down how you can show each characteristic to each other.</li> </ol> <p>Once you've done that, discuss!</p> Spread the Love <p>If we've earned it we'd be honored to have your subscription. In short, SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>If you have a question, feel free to ask! Anything goes.</p> <p>Just visit <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast">https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast</a> or <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/ask" target="_blank">https://fiercemarriage.com/ask</a> to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest.</p>
Mar 20, 2018
Dealing with Anger in Your Marriage
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<p>Listen in as Ryan and Selena discuss how to deal with anger in marriage (i.e. conflict, frustration, bitterness) in productive, biblical ways.</p> Couple's Challenge <p>Set aside some time to talk and write down anger triggers. Try to trace them back to their root causes and identify why they make you feel this way? Dive into scripture and discover what it says and how it instructs in the area of anger and the roots of it in your heart. James and Colossians are great places to start.</p> Spread the Love <p>If we've earned it we'd be honored to have your subscription. In short, <b>SUBSCRIBE</b>, <b>RATE</b>, and <b>REVIEW</b> this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>If you have a question, feel free to ask! Anything goes.</p> <p>Just visit <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast">https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast</a> or <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/ask" target="_blank">https://fiercemarriage.com/ask</a> to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest.</p>
Mar 13, 2018
Redeeming Respect: How Can Wives Respect Their Husbands in Every Circumstance?
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<p>Is respect earned, given, or some combination of the two? What should a wife do if she wants to respect her husband but he's not acting respectably? The biblical idea of respect in marriage can be tricky against our cultural backdrop, but it's worth hashing through because we see a beautiful picture of the gospel on the other side.</p> <p>In this episode, Ryan and Selena discuss the concept of wives respecting their husbands as instructed in 1 Peter 3:</p> <p class="c1">Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.</p> 1 Peter 3:1-2 <p>To best understand these instructions, it's vital to understand the context of 1 Peter as a book and what he's addressing in the early church. Listen in as we start that conversation!</p> Couple's Challenge <p>Read 1 Peter 1-5. Seek an understanding of the context of the book and discuss chapter 3 in terms of what it means for your marriage.</p> Spread the Love <p>If we've earned it we'd be honored to have your subscription. In short, SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>If you have a question, ask! Anything goes.</p> <p>Just visit <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast">https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast</a> or <a target="_blank" href="https://fiercemarriage.com/ask">https://fiercemarriage.com/ask</a> to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest.</p>
Mar 06, 2018
The 3 Profound Purposes of Sex and How They Make it Much, Much Better
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<p>Sex is so much more than physical and its purposes extend far beyond our immediate pleasure. How exactly has God designed sex for his eternal purposes? How can we enjoy intimacy more deeply knowing that we're profoundly reflecting certain aspects of God's grace and goodness in the gospel?</p> <p>In this episode, Ryan and Selena explore three purposes of sex as found in Genesis 1 and expanded upon through Ephesians 5. If you're looking to further your understanding of sexual intimacy and increase your enjoyment, you will likely find something helpful in this episode.</p> Don't Forget <p>If we've earned it we'd be honored to have your subscription. In short, SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30-60 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>If you have a question, ask! Anything goes.</p> <p>Just visit <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast">https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast</a> or <a target="_blank" href="https://fiercemarriage.com/ask">https://fiercemarriage.com/ask</a> to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest.</p> <p> </p>
Feb 27, 2018
How to Date Like Newlyweds No Matter How Long You’ve Been Married
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<p>There are few things more disheartening than seeing a husband and a wife who have lost their desire and curiosity for each other. In today's episode, we discuss exactly why a vibrant dating life is vital to a healthy marriage. We clearly define the objectives of "dating", discuss how to make it a priority, and explore all sorts of fun and unique date ideas.</p> <p>Even with the variety of adventures we discuss, they all have one thing in common: they're designed to grow your friendship, which is absolutely essential for a strong, thriving marriage.</p> Don't Forget <p>If you'd like, please SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30-60 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>If you have a question, ask! Anything goes.</p> <p>Just visit <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast">https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast</a> or <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/ask" target="_blank">https://fiercemarriage.com/ask</a> to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest.</p>
Feb 20, 2018
5 Ways to Fight for Your Integrity While Apart for Work (or Otherwise)
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<p>Many couples experience separation for days, weeks, or even months because of work-related travel. If you or your husband/wife travel for a corporate job or military deployment, you will face unique challenges when it comes to staying connected emotionally (and physically), as well as maintaining spouse-honoring (and God-honoring) integrity while apart.</p> <p>In today's podcast, Ryan and Selena discuss five ways to fight for personal integrity while one of you is away for work.</p> Show overview: <p>Proverbs 25:28A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.</p> <p>5 Ways to Fight for Your Integrity While Traveling for Work</p> <p> </p> <ol> <li>Do healthy things to stay busy (have healthy fun)<ol> <li>Read, go to a good movie, workout. </li> </ol></li> <li>Know yourself: what tempts you and steer clear of it.</li> <li>Establish a solid accountability system:<ol> <li>Your spouse</li> <li>Check in questions</li> <li>Trusted, respected friends</li> <li>Software filtering</li> </ol></li> <li>Bring your spouse “with” you. Mention him/her intentionally in conversations with the opposite sex.</li> <li>Gather with brothers/sisters in Christ.<ol> <li>Attend a church service, stay with people/acquaintances instead of staying alone)</li> </ol></li> </ol> <p> </p> Don't Forget <p>If you'd like, please SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30-60 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>If you have a question, ask! Anything goes.</p> <p>Just visit <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast">https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast</a> or <a target="_blank" href="https://fiercemarriage.com/ask ">https://fiercemarriage.com/ask</a> to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest.</p>
Feb 13, 2018
How Radically Pursuing Your Spouse Changes Your Heart (and Theirs)
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<p>Every marriage begins with purpose, passion, and intentional pursuit, but few marriages stay that way. Maintaining passion and joy in marriage is largely dependent both spouses committing to a lifelong pursuit. And a lifelong pursuit is only sustainable (truly) through experiencing the radical love of God in Jesus.</p> <p>In this episode, Ryan and Selena explore everything they learned about pursuing each other after completing the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge. Even after nearly 15 years of marriage, they're still learning how to love one another like Christ.</p> <p>You can join the challenge by visiting <a target="_blank" href="https://31daypursuit.com">31DayPursuit.com</a>.</p> <p>Today's Quick Q&amp;A Questions:</p> <ol> <li>How to connect when schedules are hectic and you can't seem to make enough time?</li> <li>How to keep conversations fresh on date nights when you feel like you don't know what to talk about?</li> <li>How do I handle unsolicited PMs from the opposite sex?</li> </ol> <p>Don’t forget!</p> <p>If you'd like, please SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30-60 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>If you have a question, ask! Anything goes.</p> <p>Just visit <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast">https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast</a> or <a target="_blank" href="https://fiercemarriage.com/ask ">https://fiercemarriage.com/ask</a> to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest.</p>
Feb 06, 2018
The 3 P's That Can Poison Your Marriage
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<p>Marriage is a magnificent gift, but we're imperfect people. We have a propensity for poison: our sinful desires tend to poison the pure things in our life. God uses marriage to sanctify us.</p> <p>Verses mentioned: Romans 3:23, Romans 3:10, 1 John 1:10</p> The 3 P's That Can Poison Your Marriage <p>1: Pennies (Finances)</p> <p>Pennies poison our marriage by creating mistaken identity through comparing or a wrong source of security. This inevitably leads to fear and frustration that can strain your relationship in multiple ways.</p> <p>The antidote? Understanding that God is sovereign, loving, and faithful to provide.</p> <p>Read: Matthew 6:35-31</p> <p>2: Perversion (of Sex and Intimacy)</p> <p>Sex is a physical confirmation of a spiritual truth/covenant. A perversion is "the alteration of something from its original course." For sex and intimacy, pornography addiction distorts one or both spouse's view of what sex should entail.</p> <p>Ask yourselves the question: if all you ever knew about sex was what you discovered as a married couple (without outside influences of media, pornography, etc), how would your sex life look? You would be enough for each other</p> <p>The antidote:</p> <ol> <li>Remember that sex is a good gift from God, one he wants you to enjoy.</li> <li>Have a transparent conversation and discuss your thoughts and goals for your sex life. Where can you grow?</li> <li>If you have unaddressed addiction or trauma, make steps toward healing: counseling, get pastoral care, addiction recovery.</li> </ol> <p>3: Pride</p> <p>Pride is the root of every sin. It's what makes us think we know better than God—that our way is the better way.</p> <p>The antidote: seeing yourself for who you are (a sinner saved by grace) and seeing Jesus for who he really is (the only One who saves).</p> Don’t forget! <p>If you'd like, please SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30-60 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>If you have a question, ask! Anything goes.</p> <p>Just visit <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast">https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast</a> to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest.</p> <p> </p>
Jan 30, 2018
Live Q&A #1 (Uncut and Unfiltered)
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<p>Listen in as Ryan and Selena answer questions from readers around the world! Uncut, unedited, and unfiltered... for better or worse (a little like marriage!)</p> Don’t forget! <p>If you'd like, please SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30-60 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>If you have a question, ask! Anything goes.</p> <p>Just visit <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast">https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast</a> to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest.</p>
Jan 23, 2018
Tools for Transparency: Finding Freedom, Joy, and Holiness Through Being Honest
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<p>Why be transparency about something difficult when it's so much easier to just hide it? Quick answer: freedom. Nothing compares to the freedom of total honesty in a marriage relationship. Being totally honest can be scary. What if your husband/wife doesn't love you once they see who you really are? While the proposition of rejection is scary, as those rooted in Christ, we have hope in our identity and acceptance because of what he has done. Then we can trust that if we confess our sins, God is faithful to heal us.</p> <p>Consider the following verses:</p> <p><i>There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.</i></p> <p>1 John 4:18</p> <p><i>Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.</i></p> <p>James 5:16</p> <p>Show notes:</p> <ul> <li>Transparency and trust go both ways. Your covenant creates a boundary</li> <li>Being each other's accountability partners: "Ask me anything and I will never lie."</li> <li>This kind of transparency is only possible in light of covenant. Covenant is huge for transparency. Covenant is the arena where the sanctifying effects of love have room to operate.</li> <li>"The Phone Drop Test": At any moment, you should both be able to see all phone activity. It's not about being nosy, it's about having nothing to hide.</li> <li>Be hyper-vigilant about opposite-sex relationships. For example, no texting one-on-one; always include your spouse or the spouse of the person you're texting.</li> <li>Have a pre-established limit for spending that you won't exceed without discussing it.</li> <li>Don't forget the underlying reasons for transparency: sanctification, freedom, trust, and joy.</li> <li>Transparency is like taking your temperature: if you're running a fever (you're hiding something), there's something wrong with your health.</li> </ul> <p>How can I start the process of being honest?</p> <ol> <li>Phones down, no distractions.</li> <li>Ask for focused conversation time.</li> </ol> <p>Couple's Challenge: </p> <p>Have a transparency audit. Do you have a transparent marriage? Think about anything that you're hiding either unintentionally or on purpose. Do you know how to keep each other accountable? Talk about how to maintain accountability in hot areas (online, phones, finances, etc).</p> <p>Announcement!</p> <p>Download our FREE eBook, <i>5 Habits of a Healthy Marriage! </i>Just go to <a href="https://5habits.us" target="_blank">https://5habits.us</a></p> <p>Questions?</p> <p>Just go to https://fiercemarriage.com/ask. Anything goes!</p> <p>Don't forget!</p> <p>Please subscribe, rate, and review. It means a ton to us and helps other (future) listeners know what they're getting into! :)</p> <p>Stay fierce!</p>
Jan 16, 2018
The Power of Prayer in Marriage
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<p>In today’s episode, we explored the Lord’s Prayer and talked about tangible ways we can pray it over our marriage and each other. Tangible prayer in your relationship:</p> <ul> <li>Around meals</li> <li>During day transitions (leaving for work, taking kids to school, etc)</li> <li>During communion at church</li> </ul> <p>Couple’s challenge </p> <p>Pray FOR each other WITH each other tonight before going to bed. In that time, spend 3-5 minutes in silence listening for the Holy Spirit. Ask God to show you how he’s working, then jot down what pops into your head and see how God is working.</p> <p>Thanks for listening, please remember to subscribe, rate, and review!</p>
Jan 09, 2018
Redeeming the Ideas of Headship, Submission, and Biblical Manhood/Womanhood
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<p>Questions about headship, submission, and roles are some of the most common and culturally confusing questions couples have today. Wives struggle with what it means to submit while husbands wrestle with what it means to love and lead like Jesus.</p> <p>All of the pain, confusion, and frustration we feel around the ideas of headship and submission are the result of sin.</p> <p>Discussion Verses:</p> <p><i>“Then he said to the woman, "I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy, and in pain you will give birth. And you will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you."</i></p> <p>Genesis 3:16 NLT</p> <p><i>“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”</i></p> <p>Ephesians 5:22-25</p> <p>The Bible is painting a picture of a distortion of a pre-fall truth of roles, headship, and submission. What examples do we have of healthy, complementary roles? The primary example of God-designed roles exists within the Trinity, where we see three distinct persons within one God. The Father is the head, the Holy Spirit is the helper, and the Son clearly submits to the Father.</p> <p>In Christ, we see a perfect picture if headship as he leads the truth, and we see a perfect picture of submission as he submits to the Father.</p> <p>BIG NOTE: Submission does not mean a woman should stay in harm's way or in a way that causes her to sin.</p> <p>Listen in for more… (there’s a ton more.)</p> <p>Couple’s Challenge</p> <p>Answer the following two questions in your own words and discuss:</p> <ol> <li>How has sin distorted or changed our views of headship and submission in marriage? </li> <li>How does Jesus display perfect headship and submission?</li> </ol> <p>Mentioned in today’s episode: </p> <ol> <li><a target="_blank" href="http://amzn.to/2DSuSe5"><i>Preaching</i></a> by Tim Keller</li> <li><i><a target="_blank" href="http://amzn.to/2CcBp2S">Systematic Theology</a></i> by Wayne Grudem</li> <li><a target="_blank" href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/wayne-grudems-systematic-theology/id322844869?mt=2">The Systematic Theology Podcast</a> (episode <a target="_blank" href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/doctrine-man-manhood-womanhood-in-creation-marriage/id322844869?i=1000082948550&amp;mt=2">56</a> on biblical manhood/womanhood) </li> <li><i><a target="_blank" href="http://amzn.to/2CygKd5">Husband in Pursuit</a></i> by Ryan Frederick (<a target="_blank" href="http://amzn.to/2qhina6">Now available on Kindle!</a>)</li> <li><a target="_blank" href="http://amzn.to/2EFRaRq"><i>Wife in Pursuit</i></a> by Selena Frederick (<a target="_blank" href="http://amzn.to/2qaJnrI">Now available on Kindle!</a>)</li> </ol> <p>Don't forget! Please subscribe, rate, and review.</p>
Jan 03, 2018
Gearing Up for the the 31-Day Pursuit Online Community Study
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<p class="p1">In this episode, we answered some common questions about our upcoming 31-Day Pursuit community study. If you'd like to participate in the online study, visit <a target="_blank" href="https://31daypursuit.com">31DayPursuit.com</a> to grab your copy of the book(s), then request access to the appropriate group on Facebook. (Go to <a target="_blank" href="http://FierceHusbands.com">FierceHusbands.com</a> for men, and <a target="_blank" href="http://FierceWives.com">FierceWives.com</a> for ladies.)</p> <p class="p1 c1">Can I do the 31-day pursuit without my spouse and still find value? </p> <p class="p1">Answer: Yes. It’s written with an emphasis on Jesus’ love for you and how that allows and equips you to love your spouse selflessly—regardless of reciprocation. With that said, the books do complement each other if a husband and a wife go through them together.</p> <p class="p1 c1">Can I go through the study more than once? </p> <p class="p1">Answer: Of course! We believe each read-through will provide ample opportunity for growth.</p> <p class="p1 c1">Can I participate without using Facebook?</p> <p class="p1">Answer: Yes and no. You are free to do it with friends and in a group setting with your community. Eventually, we will have a way to engage online with other readers, but that’s not in place other than Facebook.</p> <p class="p1 c1">If I missed the first few days, can I still join? </p> <p class="p1">Answer: Yes. Just pick up on the day you’re at, don’t worry about catching up!</p> <p class="p1 c1">What if I ordered my books but I don't have them yet?</p> <p class="p1">Answer: You can grab the first five chapters by visiting <a target="_blank" href="https://31daypursuit.com/try/">31DayPursuit.com/try</a>. Those should help until the physical copies arrive.</p> <p>That's it, thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review.</p>
Dec 26, 2017
Ask Us Anything Q&A #1: Staying Connected, Dealing with Porn Addiction, Military Spouses, and More
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<p>In today's episode, we answer listener questions. Some on the lighter side, some tough, all honest.</p> <ul> <li>Question 1: What are the best ways to stay connected in a crazy, fast-paced world?</li> <li>Question 2: How to communicate to my spouse how hurtful their words can be at times?</li> <li>Question 3: What should I do after I’ve discovered your spouse is addicted to pornography?</li> <li>Question 4: How do we stay close when one spouse is in the military?</li> <li>Question 5: I do I create firm, clear boundaries in terms of in-laws?</li> <li>Question 6: How to make big decisions when you simply cannot find agreement.</li> </ul> <p><b> Mentioned in today's show </b></p> <ul> <li><a href="http://StrongerFamilies.org" target="_blank">StrongerFamilies.org</a> — Help for couples in the military.</li> <li><a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/5-principles-healthier-happier-relationships-laws" target="_blank">In-Laws: 5 Principles for Healthier, Happier Family Relationships</a></li> <li><a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/ask" target="_blank">Submit a Question</a></li> <li><a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/crafting-family-vision-statement-need-one" target="_blank">Crafting a Family Vision Statement: What It Is and Why You Need One</a></li> <li><a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/download-family-vision-worksheet" target="_blank">Download the Family Vision Statement worksheet</a></li> </ul> <p>Thanks for listening!</p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast" target="_blank">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment, ask a question, or submit a letter to your spouse!</p>
Dec 19, 2017
The 5 Anchors of a Fulfilling Sex Life
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<p>Culture seems more confused by sex than ever before. Scandals, misconduct, gender identity, and cultural sexualization all contribute to an already confusing conversation. As Christian married couples, it's vital that we press into the confusion and fight through to a place of clarity. We must ask, how can we conform our understanding of sex and intimacy to God's original design? How can we honor God with our sexuality—our desires, our expressions, and our conduct—for our joy and His glory?</p> <p>In today's podcast, we identify 5 anchors for a fulfilling, God-designed sex life based on what we see before the Fall.</p> <p><b>Discussion</b></p> <p>Scripture: Genesis 2:24-25</p> <p><i>Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.</i></p> <p>Two things we're highlighting as part of God's perfect design for marriage and sex:</p> <ol> <li>They've been joined as one flesh.</li> <li>They were naked and unashamed. No shame. </li> </ol> <p>Any shame we feel is a result of distortion of sex because of sin. We must do the work to understand sex clearly in a culture where it's increasingly confused. God's Word is always our guide.</p> <p><b>The 5 Anchors of a Fulfilling Sex Life </b></p> <p> </p> <ul> <li>Anchor 1: Sex is more than physical. </li> <li>Anchor 2: Sex is primarily selfless, not selfish.</li> <li>Anchor 3: Sex is exclusive to the marriage covenant.</li> <li>Anchor 4: Sex is for our enjoyment and pleasure.</li> <li>Anchor 5: Sex is designed to edify, not degrade.</li> </ul> <p> </p> <p><b>Mentioned in this episode:</b></p> <ul> <li><i><a target="_blank" href="http://amzn.to/2kqHTU4">Don't Waste Your Life</a></i> by John Piper</li> <li><i><a target="_blank" href="http://amzn.to/2krNbPk">Preaching</a></i> by Tim Keller</li> <li><a target="_blank" href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/knowing-faith/id1274228164?mt=2">The Knowing Faith Podcast</a></li> </ul>
Dec 12, 2017
Crafting a Family Vision Statement: What It Is and Why You Need One
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<p class="p1">Few things have been as impactful in our lives and marriage as our family vision. Years back when we felt aimless and flustered, we took the time to have in-depth discussions about what matters most to us: as Christians, as a family, and as a couple. The result was our family vision statement, which has helped us immensely since.</p> <p class="p1"> </p> <p class="p1">Listen to today's episode as we talk through our family vision statement and share about how you can create your own!</p> <p class="p1"> </p> <p class="p1"><a target="_blank" href="https://fiercemarriage.com/download-family-vision-worksheet">Download the Family Vision Worksheet HERE.</a></p> <p class="p2"> </p> <p class="p2"><b>Show Notes:</b></p> <p class="p1">A Family Vision Statement helps in three ways: </p> <ol> <li>Direction</li> <li>Discernment</li> <li>Unity</li> </ol> <p class="p2">How can you write your own Family Vision Statement?</p> <ol> <li><a target="_blank" href="https://fiercemarriage.com/download-family-vision-worksheet">Download the worksheet.</a></li> <li>Start with why?<ol> <li>Your <i>why</i> statement is your "big reason". It's like a mission statement for your life.</li> <li>Find a verse that encapsulates how God is calling you.</li> </ol></li> <li>Discover your core values<ol> <li>Your core values are already there, you just need to define them.</li> <li>This isn't a list of ideal characteristics, but rather a list of intrinsic qualities about you, your marriage, and your family.</li> </ol></li> <li>Craft your vision<ol> <li>Write a group of "we envision" statements that describe how your family will look and function in the years to come. Get creative! </li> <li>Try to write at least one envision statement for each core value you've discovered.</li> </ol></li> </ol> <p class="p2"> </p> <p class="p1"><b>Mentioned in today’s episode:</b></p> <ul> <li><a target="_blank" href="https://fiercemarriage.com/download-family-vision-worksheet">Download the Family Vision Worksheet</a></li> <li><a href="http://amzn.to/2iVVx4P"><i>Jesus Storybook Bible</i></a></li> <li><i>New City Catechism</i> (<a href="http://amzn.to/2jj4mTA">book</a> / <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/new-city-catechism/id564035762?mt=8">iphone app</a>)</li> <li><i><a href="http://amzn.to/2A5GtsV">Ruthless Trust</a></i> by Brennan Manning</li> <li><a href="http://amzn.to/2ioiN7T">Wonder</a>, by Hillsong United</li> <li><i><a href="http://amzn.to/2jSjXZw">You Can Pray</a></i> by Tim Chester</li> <li><a href="http://amzn.to/2A6WjDE">The Beauty Between</a>, by King’s Kaleidoscope </li> </ul> <p> p.p1 {margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px 'Times New Roman'} p.p2 {margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px 'Times New Roman'; min-height: 15.0px} </p>
Dec 05, 2017
Keeping Christmas Simple: Low Pressure, High Impact Gift Ideas
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<p>In last week's episode, we set the foundation for keeping sight of Christ through the consumerism, hustle, and bustle of the holiday season. In today's episode, we get very practical... Listen in as we discuss tangible, creative, and inexpensive gift ideas, how to keep things low pressure, and how thoughtfulness can have an incredible impact.</p> <p>Show notes:</p> <ul> <li>New segment: Heart Check  <ul> <li>What book is in your hand?</li> <li>What voice is in your ear?</li> <li>What's stirring in your heart?</li> </ul> </li> <li>Announcement: on January 1st we're doing an online 31-Day Pursuit Challenge. Stay tuned for info. Pick up the books if you want free access to the 31-day e-course.</li> <li>Recap of last week's episode: <ul> <li>Keeping Christ front and center</li> <li>Avoid the mistake of expecting gifts to satisfy</li> <li>From a place of security in Christ, enjoy Christmas with wisdom and stewardship</li> </ul> </li> <li>Discussion: Simple Gift Ideas that are Low Pressure, High Impact <ul> <li>Tile coasters w/ Images on them (4" white tiles, 4" square images)</li> <li>Baked goods (granola, cookies, etc)</li> <li>We love calendars at Costco</li> <li>Give experiences <ul> <li>Plan an outing for the day after Christmas</li> <li>Groupon is great for local, fun activities</li> <li>Books that can be read together</li> <li>Memberships to local places (Zoo, Museums, etc)</li> <li>Give "time gifts"</li> </ul> </li> <li>Books! <ul> <li>The 31-Day Pursuit Challenge Bundle</li> <li>Thirty-One Days of Prayer (for wives, for husbands). Incredible books!</li> <li>Pilgrims Regress</li> <li>Advent by Ann Voskamp</li> </ul> </li> <li>For Kids <ul> <li>The Secret of the Hidden Scrolls</li> <li>Kiwi/Koala Crates (AMAZING)</li> <li>Craft Gifts</li> <li>Time w/ Kids (simple is fine, just be intentional)</li> </ul> </li> <li>For others: <ul> <li>Be aware of neighbors... show them intentionality</li> <li>Invite neighbors over if they don't have anyone to celebrate holidays with</li> <li>Give out baked goods to houses nearby</li> </ul> </li> <li>Other ideas: <ul> <li>Make your own advent calendar</li> </ul> </li> </ul> </li> </ul> <p>Couple's Challenge</p> <ol> <li>Pray together about how to be intentional this season.</li> <li>Make a list of potential holiday hangups, pray about how to follow them</li> <li>Pray about people and how you can minister out of your marriage this year</li> </ol> <p>Mentioned in the show:</p> <ol> <li><a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/perfectly-wonderfully-made/id1281408087?mt=2" target="_blank">The Perfectly, Wonderfully Made Podcast (with Alise Marsh)</a> &lt;--it's incredible!</li> <li><a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/risen-motherhood/id1072833310?mt=2" target="_blank">The Risen Motherhood Podcast</a></li> <li><a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/knowing-faith/id1274228164?mt=2" target="_blank">The Knowing Faith Podcast</a> (mistakenly referred to as the <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/culture-matters/id926935016?mt=2" target="_blank">Culture Matters Podcast</a>, which is also good)</li> <li><a href="http://amzn.to/2hWDPKq" target="_blank">Shepherding a Child's Heart</a> by Tedd Tripp</li> <li><a href="http://amzn.to/2hWrGVO" target="_blank">The Pilgrim's Regress</a> by C.S. Lewis</li> <li><a href="https://31daypursuit.com" target="_blank">The 31-Day Pursuit Challenge</a></li> <li><a href="http://amzn.to/2hWrEgE" target="_blank">Unwrapping the Greatest Gift: A Family Celebration of Christmas</a> by Ann Voskamp</li> <li><a href="http://amzn.to/2zwscB4" target="_blank">The Secret of the Hidden Scrolls</a></li> </ol> <p>Thanks for listening! Submit questions and comments by visiting <a target="_blank" href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast.">https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast.</a></p>
Nov 28, 2017
Resisting Unchecked Consumerism During the Holidays
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<p>It's easy to lose sight of the gospel during the holidays, but we must fix our eyes on him or risk putting our joy and hope in things/people in ways that cannot satisfy.</p> <p>Deuteronomy 4:9, 23-24Only take care, and keep your soul diligently, lest you forget the things that your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. Make them known to your children and your children’s children—</p> <p>Take care, lest you forget the covenant of the LORD your God, which he made with you, and make a carved image, the form of anything that the LORD your God has forbidden you. For the LORD your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God.</p> <ul> <li>It can be very easy to forget all that God had provided to us throughout the year, just like the Israelites (see Exodus 32).</li> <li>These passages remind us not to turn God's provision into an idol.</li> <li>If you've ever felt pressure, guilt, remorse, or regret because of a gift you've either given, received, not given, or not received.</li> <li>Caveat: buying gifts isn't bad inherently. It becomes harmful when we expect things we purchase to bring the joy that only God can give.</li> </ul> 5 Ways to Not Lose Your Mind During the Holidays <ol> <li>Guard your heart.</li> <li>Remember what God has done (in your life, your heart, your marriage).</li> <li>Make those things known to your children.</li> <li>Remember the FULL message and weight of the gospel (God is utterly perfect and we are hopelessly sinful... but, Jesus!)</li> <li>Put your full weight in the gospel. Examine and evaluate the fruit of your belief in the gospel</li> </ol> Today's Couples Challenge: <p>Read Deuteronomy 4 and Exodus 32.</p> <p>Discuss the following questions:</p> <ul> <li>How can you intentionally "guard our souls" during the holiday season? How can you remind each other of God's purpose (his glory, your delight in him)?</li> <li>How have you seen Christ work in your life/marriage? What "slavery" has God brought you out of in your marriage? In other words, what has God done in your past that you can consciously remember?</li> <li>If you have kids, how can you point them to Jesus during the holidays?</li> <li>How can you remind yourselves of the gospel?</li> <li>How can you better rest in the gospel this year? How can you not act in a heart orientation that is corrupt, but instead secure in Christ? What fruit of your belief in the gospel is showing or can show during this season?</li> </ul> Mentioned in the Show: <ul> <li><a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast#questions">Ask any question, leave us a voicemail, or write a letter to your spouse!</a></li> </ul> Don't forget! <p>Please SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30-60 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Question or comment? <p>If you have a question, ask! Anything goes. Click the appropriate button below to submit a question or story; we'll take care of the rest.</p>
Nov 21, 2017
In-Laws: 5 Principles for Healthier, Happier Family Relationships
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<p>This episode can be summarized with one word: boundaries. As a married couple bound by covenant, you are charged with upholding your commitment with diligence and wisdom. Sometimes in-laws aren't on board with that vision, especially if they don't understand the complete dynamics of your marriage or season in life. This can create stressful, unenjoyable relationships.</p> <p>In this episode, we propose 5 principles we believe to be crucial for happy, health in-law relationships. Along the way, we share tangible ways to make steps in the right direction... especially if you're experiencing difficulty in this area.</p> Show Notes: <p>The big idea: in-laws should advocate for our marriage instead of for only their child.</p> <p>There may be relationship problems and frustrations, but if they're not "the big issue" above, they can be worked out with grace and patience.</p> 5 Principles for Healthier, Happier Relationships with In-Laws: <ol> <li>Have grace: Remember, they need grace, they're not perfect... just like you.</li> <li>Understand what "leave and cleave" means. Matthew 19:4 (Jesus speaking)</li> <li>Establish boundaries. Communicate clearly to them what you expect from them. ("We want you to advocate for our marriage." "Respect our marriage." Etc...)</li> <li>Ask clearly for help and communicate expectations.</li> <li>Have perspective about in-law relationships: do what works for you, and don't compare to others or put too much weight in cultural context.</li> </ol> <p>Remember that Jesus is working in you and through you to perpetuate the gospel in those relationships.</p> Today's Couples Challenge: <ul> <li>Go through the 5 above principles for healthy in-law relationships.</li> <li>Identify any potential in-law pain points.</li> <li>Create a plan for a biblical way forward that protects your marriage and honors relationships.</li> </ul> Mentioned in the Show: <ul> <li>Learn more about <a href="https://31daypursuit.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The 31-Day Pursuit Challenge</a>, our couple's devotional.</li> <li><a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast#questions">Ask any question, leave us a voicemail, or write a letter to your spouse!</a></li> </ul> Don't forget! <p>Please SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30-60 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p>
Nov 14, 2017
Dealing with Financial Arguments: Why More Money Isn't the Solution
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<p>Every couple deals with money issues at some point in their marriage. It's continually a source of stress and a trigger for arguments. Almost every problem around money stems from a lack of margin in every area of life. We tend to live our lives right to the edges, working long hours, spending too much, and struggling to find any semblance of peace in the process. Many (including us) have bought the subtle lie that money can somehow make everything better. So we work harder, strive more, and seek joy where it can't be found. Even if we do manage to get more money, we soon realize that it's not the savior we thought it would be. This inevitably puts stress on your relationship and can create division in your marriage.</p> <p>What's the fix? We explored exactly that in today's podcast. Listen in as we share honestly about some struggles we've had and take a deep look at Hebrews 13:5 and its surrounding context to discern God's desire for how we view and use money in our lives.</p> Mentioned in Today’s Show: <ul> <li>Related post: <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/managing-financial-stress-in-your-marriage">Managing Financial Stress in Your Marriage</a></li> <li>Learn more about <a rel="noopener" target="_blank" href="https://31daypursuit.com/">The 31-Day Pursuit Challenge</a>, our couple’s devotional.</li> <li><a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast#questions">Ask any question, leave us a voicemail, or write a letter to your spouse!</a></li> </ul> Show Notes: <ol> <li>Highs/Lows</li> <li>Discussion: Money issues continue to plague couples. Why?<ol> <li>Many think their problems can be fixed with more money… but that’s not the case.</li> <li>We reviewed <a target="_blank" data-purpose="bible-reference" data-version="esv" data-reference="Heb 13.5" href="https://biblia.com/bible/esv/Heb%2013.5" class="rtBibleRef">Hebrews 13:5</a>:Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”</li> <li>The context of Hebrews: It’s a book written to encourage and remind Christians of the supremacy and sufficiency of Christ.</li> <li>Chapter 13 is all about “Sacrifices Pleasing to God.” This is all in the context of Christ’s sufficient work on the cross.</li> <li>Loving money is like “taking another lover” when God has made a covenant promise to us.</li> <li>Trusting money instead of God is to betray his love.</li> </ol></li> <li>Couple’s Challenge (see below)</li> <li>We discussed The 31-Day Pursuit</li> <li>Rapid Fire Q&amp;A</li> <li>Weekly Letter Reading</li> </ol> Today’s Couples Challenge: <ul> <li>Pray together for open hearts regarding your finances.</li> <li>Read through Hebrews 13, pay close attention to the context surrounding verse 5.</li> <li>Discuss areas of your marriage and how they may be indicating “love of money”.</li> <li>Discuss how love can be a tool in your lives for God’s glory.</li> </ul> Don’t forget! <p>Please SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30-60 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>If you have a question, ask! Anything goes. Visit https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest.</p>
Nov 07, 2017
Social Media and Marriage: Using Wisdom on Facebook, Instagram, etc.
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<p>If left unchecked, your social media life can create problems in your marriage. The advent of social media sites has created much conversation about the privacy of users’ information. The result: each has increased user control over who can see each update, image, interaction, and like. In general, it’s a great improvement but for married couples, it raises an important question of transparency and accountability about your “social media life”.</p> <p>In today's podcast, we discuss Proverbs 4 and its various implications for how we wisely conduct ourselves online for the good of our marriages.</p> Mentioned in Today's Show: <ul> <li><a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/phone-drop-test" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Phone Drop Test (blog post)</a></li> <li><a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/is-your-facebook-life-a-wedge-in-your-marriage" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Is your Facebook Life a Wedge in Your Marriage? (blog post)</a> </li> <li>Learn more about <a href="https://31daypursuit.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The 31-Day Pursuit Challenge</a>, our couple's devotional.</li> <li><a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast#questions">Ask any question, leave us a voicemail, or write a letter to your spouse!</a></li> </ul> Show Notes: Communication: Five Habits for Hearing and Being Heard <ol> <li>Highs/Lows</li> <li>Discussion: What should I do when I feel like my spouse misuses social media (namely, Facebook)? <ul> <li>We reviewed Proverbs 4:23: "Keep your heart with all diligence..."</li> <li>Solomon wrote it. He had access to anything he wanted... instantly. Kind of like we do on the internet today.</li> <li>We looked at the larger context of Proverbs 4. <ul> <li>Hear wisdom, keep it close, and "here's how to apply it"</li> </ul> </li> <li>How do we apply wisdom to social media? <ul> <li>"Open windows, open doors, lights fully turned on."</li> <li>No hidden accounts or passwords.</li> <li>Be transparent with each other.</li> <li>Talk about questionable interactions.</li> <li>Being very mindful of posted imagery (by you and others). </li> <li>Don't PM/DM/Message anyone of the opposite gender (unless in a group context)</li> <li>Don't vent anger or frustration on social media at the expense of your spouse; it's always unproductive.</li> </ul> </li> <li>Bottom line: Wisdom compels us to guard our hearts against paths that lead to harm.</li> </ul> </li> <li>Couple's Challenge (see below)</li> <li>We discussed <a href="https://31daypursuit.com" target="_blank">The 31-Day Pursuit</a></li> <li>Rapid Fire Q&amp;A</li> <li>Weekly Letter Reading</li> </ol> Today's Couples Challenge: <ul> <li>Discuss this podcast (both listen to it)</li> <li>Read through Proverbs 4 together and find one or two verses that jump out to you.</li> <li>Take a personal inventory for hidden areas in your life/marriage that go against wisdom.</li> <li>Make a plan to discuss hidden areas before they take root.</li> <li>Create a plan for healthy interaction with others and each other on social media.</li> </ul> Don't forget! <p>Please SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30-60 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>If you have a question, ask! Anything goes. Just go to <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast" target="_blank">https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast</a></p>
Oct 31, 2017
Communication: 5 Habits for Hearing and Being Heard the Healthy Way
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Communication is not just about saying and hearing words—it's all about relaying ideas accurately with the intent of building a mutual understanding. When you practice healthy habits for talking, listening, and processing together, it's for the good of your marriage and ultimately, for the glory of God. If we are to have marriages that are healthy, enjoyable, and intentional, we must learn and apply wise principles to how we communicate. We must heed Solomon's words in Proverbs 18:2: <i>A fool takes no pleasure in understanding but only in expressing his opinion.</i> Bad communication habits can stifle growth, inhibit intimacy, and create endless spouts of bickering, arguing, and division. However, healthy communication will fuel growth and intimacy and make your marriage resilient against otherwise devastating disagreements. In today's podcast, we discuss biblical themes for healthy communication, why we are called to point our spouses to the gospel through how we listen, and five tangible steps (habits) that lead us down the path toward healthier communication. Mentioned in Today's Show: <ul> <li>Resource: <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/5-indispensable-habits-rock-solid-communication">5 Indispensable Habits for Rock Solid Communication</a></li> <li>Learn more about <a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/datebox">Datebox</a> and get your first month FREE.</li> <li>Learn more about <a href="https://31daypursuit.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The 31-Day Pursuit Challenge</a>, our couple's devotional.</li> <li><a href="https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast#questions">Ask any question, leave us a voicemail, or write a letter to your spouse!</a></li> </ul> Show Notes: Communication: 5 Habits for Hearing and Being Heard the Healthy Way <ol> <li>Highs and Lows</li> <li>Dysfunction in marriage often manifests itself first through communication</li> <li>Two themes in scripture around communication:<ol> <li>A call to wisdom: be slow to speak, fast to listen, fast to wait</li> <li>Intentional communication with the purpose of being understood and understanding others</li> </ol></li> <li>Communication corruptors create unintentional misunderstandings</li> <li>Five habits for healthier communication:<ol> <li>Talk intentionally</li> <li>Listen intently</li> <li>Seek Understanding</li> <li>Act out of Love</li> <li>Rest in Your Covenant</li> </ol></li> <li>Couple's Challenge (see below)</li> <li>Rapid Fire Q&amp;A</li> <li>Read a letter from a wife to her husband</li> <li>Housekeeping and announcements</li> <li>Prayer</li> </ol> <p>Today's Couples Challenge:</p> Listen to the podcast. Talk through the above points. Create a set of ground rules that protect your marriage against common pitfalls in your communication. Examples: <ul> <li><i>We won't start heavy conversations after we're both tired.</i></li> <li><i>We will always resolve hard conversations.</i></li> <li><i>We will not use hurtful language or namecalling when angry.</i></li> <li><i>We understand that it's sometimes healthiest to step away from the situation to think and pray.</i></li> <li><i>Etc...</i></li> </ul> Don't forget! <p>Please SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30-60 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!</p> Do you have a question? <p>If you have a question, ask! During each episode, we encourage listeners to share their stories, ask questions, or write letters to their loved ones. Anything goes... Just go to https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast to leave a question, comment, or story.</p> <p> </p>
Oct 24, 2017
Fighting for Healthy Priorities: Embracing Your Limitations
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<p>Keeping healthy priorities are a constant battle for modern marriages. By default we tend to our priorities in life and marriage as linear, or as a list:</p> <ol> <li>God</li> <li>Family</li> <li>Others</li> </ol> <p>While this list isn't necessarily bad, we believe there's a better way.</p> <p>In today's episode of the Fierce Marriage Podcast, we discuss a new way of looking at priorities that has revolutionized our marriage and transformed how we live our lives. We start the conversation by looking at two themes in Scripture:</p> <ul> <li>Our finitude as humans</li> <li>Our call as believers.</li> </ul> <p>Join in as we chip away at this massive truth to be had about priorities in light of the gospel.</p> <p>Show notes:</p> <ol> <li>Rapid Fire Q&amp;A: Selena is forced to answer some tough questions... namely, one she never thought she'd have to face.</li> <li>Hear one of the most poetic letters from a husband to his wife. (Go to https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast to write and send a letter to your spouse!)</li> <li>We discuss priorities:<ol> <li>Scripture: Matthew 6:33 and Psalm 90:12</li> <li>Common problems What's wrong with "The List"</li> <li>We propose a better/more integrated model for priorities</li> <li>The Couple's Challenge (See below)</li> </ol></li> <li>We finished with our Highs &amp; Lows for the week prior.</li> <li>Prayer</li> </ol> <p>Today's Couples Challenge: </p> <p>Create a family vision statement (family verse, mission, core values, envision statements). Listen to the episode for more details about what this could mean for your family!</p>
Oct 17, 2017
Intimacy Without Frustration, Obligation, or Missed Expectations
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<p>Many couples wonder how to gain agreement about sex and intimacy when life is busy, schedules are hectic, and expectations for sex seem constantly misaligned.</p> <p>If you're at all like us, you and your spouse probably don't desire sex the same way or with the same frequency. This can cause frustration in your marriage that, if left untreated or undiscussed, can turn into bitterness, division, and worse. Sex isn't everything in marriage, but it is very important to be unified and satisfied in your sex life together—for your enjoyment and for God's ultimate glory.</p> <p>In today's episode of The Fierce Marriage Podcast, we'll discuss:</p> <ul> <li>What if my spouse desires sex more often than I do?</li> <li>How can we be intimate without feeling obligated to do so?</li> <li>How do we align our expectations for sex in marriage?</li> </ul> <p class="c1"><b>Show Notes:</b></p> <ul> <li>We read 1 Corinthians 7:5:</li> <li> "Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control."</li> <li>A few cautions when reading the above passage: <ul> <li>It's not a tool to be used to demand sex in marriage.</li> <li>In context, this verse is about acting in mutual agreement to the common goal of greater intimacy and reliance on Christ.</li> <li>By choosing to abstain from sex for a time, to focus on spiritual growth. This is not a form of asceticism, but rather a method of grace-fueled worship.</li> </ul> </li> <li>If a couple is not actively agreeing to abstain from sex, they're passively (or actively) agreeing to NOT abstain from sex. If that's the case, your sex life should look "normal and healthy" for you, but it may take some digging to discover what that means. We proposed two steps: <ul> <li>Clearly define what "not abstaining" looks like and what a healthy, normal sex life looks like in your marriage.</li> <li>Calibrate your expectations for sex. Read our post, "The Spectrum of Sex".</li> </ul> </li> <li>Couples Challenge: <ol> <li>Read The Spectrum of Sex together or separately.</li> <li>Discuss your expectations for sex, and what your spectrum might look like.</li> <li>Identify what a normal, healthy sex life looks like for your marriage and within God's design for sexuality.</li> <li>Create an action plan for building a normal, healthy sex life together.</li> </ol> </li> </ul>
Oct 10, 2017
Introducing the Fierce Marriage Podcast
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<p>It's our first episode so some introductions are in order! In this episode of The Fierce Marriage Podcast, we'll answer common reader questions like: Who are we? What is Fierce Marriage and why did we start it? What does it mean to truly have Fierce Marriage? For fun, we talk about what it's like working together, our weekly highs and lows, and more. Most importantly, we discuss what it means to have Jesus truly at the center of your marriage. We also have a few hearty laughs as Selena answers this week's "Rapid-fire Q&amp;A" questions. Thanks for listening! Detailed show notes are available at https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast</p>
Oct 02, 2017
Primer (Start Here!)
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<p>The purpose of this primer is to provide a few quick caveats to the early episodes of the Fierce Marriage Podcast. We hope this sets the stage for your experience and makes it a better one! If you're new to the podcast, welcome! We're excited to grow alongside you.</p> <p><b>Thanks for listening!</b></p> <p>Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to <a href="https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast">FierceMarriage.com/Podcast</a> to leave a comment or to ask a question!</p> <p><b>Become a Patron!</b></p> <p>Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit <a href="https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage">Patreon.com/FierceMarriage</a>.</p>
Sep 26, 2017