Marriage Therapy Radio

By Zach Brittle and Laura Heck at forBetter

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Look... every couple struggles. You fight too much; you're bored; sex is either okay (or rare); maybe you're even considering divorce. OR... maybe your marriage is actually pretty good, but you want to go deeper. In this podcast, straight-talking marriage therapists Zach Brittle and Laura Heck tackle the most common complaints virtually every marriage experience. Along the way, they reveal the science behind strong relationships and talk about what's really going on for couples. Topics include conflict, communication, compatibility, money, sex, in-laws, infidelity, time-management, future dreams, and more. If you want relief? A deeper connection? A new way forward...? Then you've got to find out what's REALLY going on in your marriage. That's what this podcast is about. You can learn more about Zach and Laura, and their alternatives to traditional therapy at www.forbetter.us.

Episode Date
Ep 131 Hurt Feelings
31:40

Laura is a superhuman with self-healing powers. Zach is reminded of the importance of kindness. They go on to discuss a listener's question regarding what to do with hurt feelings when feel your partner has not been kind.

 
 
Sep 15, 2020
Ep 130 After the Fight
27:57

The kids are headed back to school. Zach is excited to get back in therapy. This leads to a discussion about the frequency of therapy and how often is helpful. Laura gives an update on her biking injury. They go on to discuss a listener's question about what to do after conflict. 

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Sep 08, 2020
Ep 129 Interrogation vs Invitation
29:59

Laura is nursing some wounds after a bike accident. Zach has a finger out of whack. This leads them into a discussion of attractive doctors they have had over the years. They go on to discuss the way we approach questions to our partner. Is it an investigation or an invitation. 

Sep 01, 2020
Ep 128 Pause and Attribute 
29:59

Zach is now a hand model and cracking afternoon beers. Laura is business up top and casual on bottom. They discuss different strategies for disrupting the negative patterns of communication in your relationship. 

Aug 25, 2020
Ep 127 Listener Question on Leadership
29:59

Laura is rocking her trailer skills, even with the Austin Powers' style turns. Zach is thinking about yoga and stepping up his health game. They then address a listener's question about leadership in their relationship. 

Aug 18, 2020
Ep 126 Too Much and Not Enough
29:59

Laura has a trailer in her front yard. Zach's t-shirts are fitting better. They discuss what is sometimes the core fear for a man and a woman. 

 
Aug 11, 2020
Ep 125 The Enneagram with Ni'coel Stark
41:50

Recorded while Laura was on the road, Zach is joined by Ni'coel Stark to discuss the Enneagram. Ni'coel is a corporate intelligence strategist who brings a great deal of experience into the value and use of the Enneagram. Listeners who are unfamiliar with the Enneagram will find reason to explore this ancient tool and folks who are already Enneagram fans will find fresh insights.

Aug 04, 2020
Ep 124 Insta Inspiration
28:36

Laura is back from her travels and COVID has hit close to home. She is celebrating a birthday. Zach is experimenting with glass blowing, kind of, and has mastered the Rubic's Cube. They go on to discuss if there is anything to gain from inspirational Instagram quotes. 

Jul 28, 2020
Ep 123 Getting it Right vs Being Right
17:25

Zach and Laura discuss some of their favorite clients. Laura tries to convince you to listen to a different podcast. They then discuss the importance of valuing the relationship over being "right" in any disagreement. 

Jul 22, 2020
Ep 122 The Hamilton Question
25:17

Zach and Laura have to work out their own communication conflicts. Laura is headed out on a great adventure and Zach is welcoming back his kids. They throw out a Hamilton challenge, and go on to discuss a listener question about building trust after an affair. 

 
 
Jul 15, 2020
Ep 121 Love in the Time of the Coronavirus
18:35

With Laura out gallivanting around the Northwest in her RV Zach is sharing a recording of a talk he did for ParentMap It's full of valuable takeaways. You might want to have a notebook handy for this one. 


See the full talk on Facebook

Jul 08, 2020
Ep 120 Good Defenses
26:36

Laura controls the weather and gets into a great intense conversation with her husband about switching household roles. Zach is pretty certain he is not interested in that for him and his wife. Zach is getting a week without his kids. They go on to have a great conversation about defensiveness. 

Jul 01, 2020
Ep 119 The Truth About Marriage with Roger Nygard
43:23

Zach and Laura hop straight into a great conversation with Roger Nygard, filmmaker, author, and producer, about his latest project, The Truth About Marriage. They discuss the insights he gained while researching and creating this film and book companion. 

 
Jun 23, 2020
Ep 118 Speaking in Code
25:42

Zach is mayor of grouchy town but he solved a Rubik's Cube. Laura shares her creative spellings. They go on to discuss the importance of having code language in your relationship. 

 
Jun 16, 2020
Ep 117 Tapping into Your Inner Adult
29:17

Laura is obsessed with Magnificent Sex. Zach is starting some stuff and counting cats. They go on to discuss the work of Terry Real and the impact it has in their own lives and the lives of their clients. 

Jun 11, 2020
Ep 116 Listener Question on Pot
25:53

Zach and Laura discuss the odd ending of last week's show. Zach is celebrating over 1 million views on the Vanity Fair videos. They field a call from a listener about different perspectives on marijuana use. 

Jun 02, 2020
Ep 115 Selfish or Self-Care
22:26

Zach is super proud of his kids. Laura shares about some of the Vanity Fair video that ended up on the cutting room floor. They go on to discuss the difference between selfishness and self-care. 

 
May 28, 2020
Ep114 Self Love with Jonathon Aslay
43:08

Zach finally put the doors on his shed.Both he and Laura showered today, but for different reasons. They move on to discuss self love and self care with mid-life dating and relationship coach, Jonathan Aslay

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May 19, 2020
Ep 113 Dream, Discuss, Decide
33:54

Laura is stocking up on bikes. Zach is spotting pigs in his neighborhood. They discuss what it looks like to bring on a new client. They go on to discuss the importance of having conversations on three levels: dreaming, discussing, and deciding. 

 
May 12, 2020
Ep 112 Better Sex Through Mindfulness | with Dr. Lori Brotto
37:29

Zach and Laura discuss a recent video they created with Vanity Fair. Check it out, it's a really fun look at relationships in Disney films. They then welcome a guest, Dr. Lori Brotto. They discuss Dr. Brotto's latest book, Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire and other related topics. 

If you're looking for help try Better Help today by visiting https://trybetterhelp.com/mtr 

May 05, 2020
Ep 111 What's your Next
23:40

Zach opens up about some of his struggles in this time and the importance of getting his own therapy. Laura joins him in discussing the importance of having purpose and a next. 

If your "next" is to seek out a therapist. Try Better Help by visiting https://betterhelp.com/mtr
Apr 29, 2020
Ep 110 Stop Being so Helpful
28:56

Zach is building stuff around the house. Laura wants him to drive down and build her some planter boxes while she reads. They then address a listeners question about what to do about wanting to be helpful in every situation. 

Apr 21, 2020
Ep 109 Maybe it's Grief
28:10

After a couple dad jokes, Zach and Laura discuss a bit how they are dealing with working out while quarantined. They talk about order, grief, relationship roles and finding peace in this chaotic time. 

 
Apr 14, 2020
Ep 108 Listener Questions
32:55

Zach and Laura discuss what Beyonce, Goonies, Tiger King, and hot tubs have in common. They go on to address a number of listener questions that have piled up in the last few weeks.  

 
Apr 08, 2020
Ep 107 Stir Crazy
36:12

Zach is a bit grumpy. Laura is feeling really positive. Zach has a movie recommendation and the two of them contemplate who might want to be a guest on upcoming episodes. They go on to discuss the new options for couples looking for outside help for their relationships and end with some tips for creating positive change in this uncertain time. Be sure to stick through to the end to hear Laura lose her mind. 

Mar 31, 2020
Ep 106 Birdhouse for your Soul
25:42

Laura's kid starts us off with some solid dad jokes. She and Zach go on to discuss self care and creating sacred spaces for yourself and for your relationship. 

 
Mar 24, 2020
Ep105 The Inevitable Podcast about Relationships in the Age of the Zombie Apocalypse
30:37

Recorded almost a week ago, Zach and Laura discuss the Coronavirus, OJ, oysters, and turning toward your partner. They also have a generous offer for folks looking to improve their marriage while everything is shut down. 

Mar 17, 2020
Ep 104 Fight, Flight, or Freeze
22:01

Zach and Laura touch base real quick on the Coronavirus. Laura has a long run she's preparing for. They announce some upcoming live virtual training for couples. A listener question regarding elevated heart rate prompts them to talk a bit more in depth about fight, flight, or freeze. 

 
Mar 10, 2020
Ep 103 Asking for What you Want
27:31

Zach is worn out from fighting with a woman (in his martial arts class). Laura is basking in the late winter sun. They discuss common dreams and particularly a dream Zach had about losing his teeth. Laura brings a listener's question about how to deal with a spouse that does not want to hear your desires or wishes for their relationship. 

Mar 03, 2020
Ep 102 - How to Ruin Your Marriage
29:50

Laura is heading to Hawaii and a little annoyed that her husband will be golfing every day. Zach is headed to Mexico and will be seeing his private magician again. They go on to discuss some of the things that can lead to a bad marriage.

Feb 25, 2020
Ep 101 - Keeping the Relationship Strong When You are Hustling at Work
24:14

Zach is away with his family so Laura is sharing a recording of a keynote she recently gave to door-to-door salespeople. These folks are highly commited to succeding at work, but wanted some help kowning how to keep thier relationshps at home strong. 

Feb 19, 2020
Ep 100 - We Celebrate 100 Episodes
28:26

Zach just finished his taxes, has already spent his refund and is headed on vacation. Laura is working on her taxes... from a few years ago. Together they celebrate some of the milestones of Marriage Therapy Radio. Zach shares about completing his latest project, Marriage Therapy Journal.

Feb 12, 2020
Ep 99 - Date Night with Tyler Turk
34:06

Laura kicks us off with a dad joke. She and Zach go on to discuss desire and creating desire in your partner. This leads to the importance of date nights and intentional time set aside for the two of you.

They welcome Tyler Turk, CEO of Crated with Love. Tyler shares some compelling research results on the importance of date nights as well as what he has found to be the necessary ingredients of a date night that supports the goal of greater intimacy and connection. 

Check out Crated with Love

 

 

Feb 04, 2020
Ep 98 - ADHD with Dr. Ari Tuckman
38:06

Zach is sporting a 14 year old girl's headband. Laura shares about caring for aging parents. With guest Dr.  Ari Tuckman, they go on to discuss the impacts of ADHD on your relationship

 
Jan 28, 2020
Ep 97 - Great Questions
30:12

Zach and Laura discuss their shower and workout schedules. Let's just say, one of them likes to "stew". Zach is in the home stretch of a new project. They go on to discuss the power of a good question in your relationship.  

 
 
Jan 22, 2020
Ep 96 - Parenting Teen Girls
38:30

Zach's 17 and 13 year old daughters join him for this week's podcast. They discuss what it's like to be a teen today and how parents can better connect and encourage them. 

Jan 14, 2020
Ep 95 - Try it This Way
29:58

Zach and Laura recount their respective New Year's Eve celebrations. Zach has a couple gripes and Laura isn't quite sure about science. They go on to discuss a powerful practice that could reshape the way you relate with your partner. Putting into practice what there share in this episode would be a wonderful way to kick off the new year in a positive direction. 

 
Ladies: Be sure to sign up for Laura's Experiment while you still can. 
Jan 03, 2020
Ep 94 - Holiday Grab Bag
25:42

Laura is dressed like an elf -sorry this is not a visual medium-. Zach took a tumble. Vasectomy gets discussed at length. Laura introduces a cool experiment for wives to help improve their marriage. They go on to discuss death and sex. They really cover a lot on this holiday grab bag. 

Dec 24, 2019
Ep 93 - Laura's Holiday Blues
22:49

Laura discloses that she has been feeling a bit down with the holidays and her current move. She and Zach discuss a bit of what might be behind that which leads them to a broader topic of figuring out ways to improve your relationship. It's a bit more organic than some episodes, but you will be left with some great insight into your life and relationships.

Dec 10, 2019
Ep 92 - Man's Burden
27:00

What does "Your Face" have to do with a playful disagreement? Zach shares his strategies. He and Laura also talk about their relationships with you, the listeners. They go on to discuss the unique burdens men carry in their relationships. 

 
 
Dec 03, 2019
Ep 91 - Sharing the Load of the Relationship
23:35

Laura is jogging from her son's house to school and back twice a day. That's about the same about of jogging Zach has done in the last year. They go on to discuss what happens in a relationship when one partner has carried the primary load of the relationship and what is now required when they want that to change. 

Nov 20, 2019
Ep 90 - Couples that Work Together
23:50

Zach just got out of therapy and is having all the feels. Laura's thinking about starting her own therapy as well. They discuss the complexities of having a close friendship as well as a business relationship which leads to the unique issues addressed by couples that work together. The importance of boundaries and roles is advice any couple will find helpful. 

Nov 07, 2019
Ep 89 - Considering Relational Life Therapy
28:53

Zach and Laura discuss Halloween and the MANY parties that accompany. Zach thinks Laura would be a VSCO girl. Zach relays an eavesdropped conversation of first encounters. They move on to discuss Zach's recent therapeutic training. 

Oct 30, 2019
Ep 88 - Coupling with Purpose
23:47

Zach has limited his beverage choices. Laura is getting settled in her new town. After some interviews they reconnect and discuss the what it is to have a purpose as a couple. 

Oct 23, 2019
Ep 87 - Addiction Recovery with Dr. Bob Navarra
43:41

Zach & Laura sit down for a conversation with Dr. Robert Navarra. Bob is a Master Certified Gottman Therapist, Trainer, Consultant, Speaker, and Certified as a Master Addiction Counselor. His research has surfaced new ways to understand the role of relationships in the recovery process. 

Oct 15, 2019
Ep 86 - Anatomy of Marriage
54:46

Zach and Laura get to team up with Melanie and Seth of the Anatomy of Marriage Podcast.

Oct 02, 2019
Ep 85 - Playing with Your Partner
26:27

Zach is back to coaching soccer, but this time for boys. Laura is planning some upcoming trips and is a bit nervous about her largest speaking gig coming up. They go on to discuss the importance of play with your partner. 

 
Sep 24, 2019
Ep 84 - Blended Families with Beth Wylie
34:13

Zach and Laura have a great conversation with Beth Wylie. Beth is a long time friend who is also an expert on blended families. 

Sep 17, 2019
Ep 83 - The Importance of Predictability
29:59

Zach and Laura quickly catch up on all that has been going on in their lives the last month or so. Laura details upcoming topics. They go on to discuss the importance of predictability in your relationship. 

Sep 10, 2019
Ep 82 - We've Had This Fight Before | An interview with Dr. Claudia Grauf-Grounds
29:44

Zach interviews Dr. Claudia Grauf-Grounds, author of We've Had This Fight Before. You may recognize that book title from Zach's previous "review" of the book. He revisits this review and more in this informative episode that will be helpful for anyone who has ever had an argument with your partner. 

Aug 27, 2019
Ep 81 - Let's Talk Relationships
25:05

Laura is away in Europe so we get to hear a replay of a live radio interview with Zach this week. He was a guest on Let's Talk Relationships. They interview him about his book The Relationship Alphabet. 

Aug 22, 2019
Ep 80 - The 4 Horsemen with Art of Charm
49:37

Laura is away in Europe for vacation so while she is away we will be playing a couple of solo shows. This first one is a rebroadcast of The Art of Charm podcast. They interview Laura on the The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. 

Aug 13, 2019
Ep 79 Happy Endings
25:57

Zach shares why root canals are fantastic. Laura isn't buying it, but strangely offers to clean Zach's teeth.  A major transition in Laura's life sparks a great conversation about ending therapy. 

 
Aug 06, 2019
Ep 78 Book Recommendations
26:05

Zach is wearing a hoodie in July. Laura is getting her investing on. They go on to share what they are currently reading and offer some book recommendations. 

 
Jul 30, 2019
Ep 77 Hot Cheetos - Worth Fighting For?
26:15

Laura brags about her golf game. Zach shares about his unnamed friend with good fashion and a boat. They go on to discuss a listener question regarding a fight about Hot Cheetos. 

 
Jul 23, 2019
Ep 76 Infidelity - The Involved Partner
29:04

Zach gets Laura up to speed on the World Cup. Laura is dropping some Lbs, but not for a good reason. They go on to address the involved partner of an affair.  

 
Jul 18, 2019
Ep 75 Premarital Therapy - Why Bother
18:46

Laura had a nice stay-cation. Zach isn't quite sure where is youngest daughter is. They go on to discuss is premarital therapy is worth it and what it's really for. 

 
Jul 09, 2019
Ep 74 How to Take a Break.
33:26

Zach shares a bit of his experience helping facilitate The Art and Science of Love workshop for The Gottman Institute. Laura gets Zach to commit to a future webinar. They go on to share the signs that you are flooded when in conflict and what to do about it. 

Jul 02, 2019
Ep 73 Reunions and Parting
26:09

Zach and Laura don't see eye to eye on dog park etiquette. They discuss an outdoor adventure for couples and awkward proposals. They then provide some really great practical advise for how to set aside time each day to connect with your partner. 

Jun 25, 2019
Ep72 Do You Validate?
20:12

Zach and Laura reflect on the future (weird, I know). They go on to talk about he importance of validating feelings. 

 
Jun 18, 2019
Ep71 How to say Yes and No at the same time
19:55

Laura had to kick her husband out (don't worry it was just out of the studio so she could record.) Zach extols the power of checking off your to do list. Dad joke throw downs are happening on social media. They go on to share the potential benefits of letting your "yes" be "no" and your "no" be "yes". Trust me, it will make sense when you hear it. 

Jun 11, 2019
Ep 70 Be an Action Taker in Your Marriage
24:40

Zach and Laura discuss their Memorial Day Weekend getaways. Both got out into nature with their families. They look forward to their workshop in June and throwing some axes. They go on to discuss what it takes to make changes in your relationship. 

 
Jun 04, 2019
Ep 69 Interview with Sex Therapist Tina Schermer Sellers, PhD
37:14

Zach and Laura discuss what chaffed nipples, stylish hair, and sexy times have in common. They go on to have an in depth interview with sex therapist Tina Schermer Sellers, PhD.

This episode is sponsored by Uberlube.

May 28, 2019
Ep 68 Listener Question
26:29

Laura is taking care of her gut. Zach is loving individual therapy. We get a great dad joke from listener Dustin's son. They go on to discuss a question from a listener. 

May 21, 2019
Ep 67 Social Media Breakup
25:06

Laura gets a truck. Zach grills Laura on her dog buying process. Zach is growing out his hair and cleaning up his house. They go on to discuss how to manage your social media profiles when there is a breakup. 

May 14, 2019
Ep 66 Masturbation
24:35

Zach and Laura discuss their sleep habits. Zach is switching it up and Laura is afraid she is getting older. She shares some interesting beliefs about what getting older allows you to do. Sparked from a listener question, they go on to discuss the, often complex, role of masturbation in your relationship. 

 
May 07, 2019
Ep 65 The 4 Habits of a Joy Filled Marriage
26:48

Zach tells us about his blanket fort he retreats to from time to time. Laura completed her first half marathon. And they welcome their first guest, Chris Coursey, to the podcast. Chris joins them to discuss his latest book, The 4 Habits of Joy-Filled Marriages. The practical steps can help every marriage. 

 
Find out more about Chris at Thrive Today. More information about the book and related resources can be found at happyhappymarriage.org
Apr 30, 2019
Ep 64 Expectations of Your Partner
21:33

Laura's husband is working from home and she has found that their expectations about what daily life should look like are not totally aligned. Zach shares some stories of folks in similar situations. 

Apr 23, 2019
Ep 63 The One Question Experiment
23:17
Zach's daughter was in a TV show. Laura is training for a half marathon and taking a break from social media with great results. They go on to discuss the one question that could transform your relationship. 
 
Laura gives you a challenge to try this question in your relationship and report on how it turns out. Give them a call at 801-810-6197 and report the results. 
Apr 16, 2019
Ep 62 Breaking Up is Hard to Do
24:48

 

Zach and Laura are excited to announce their first real sponsor, Ana Luisa. You can find their fine jewelry and get an exclusive discount at   https://www.analuisa.com/forbetterus. Be sure to order soon as Mother's Day is coming out on May 12th (You will laugh at that last bit when you listen to the episode).   They go on to discuss a recent article Zach wrote for the Gottman Institute about breaking up. 

Apr 09, 2019
Ep 61 Sleep Tight
24:42

Zach is finishing up some food. Laura just returned from a great ski trip. Zach unpacks his last teaching gig. They go on to discuss your sleeping arrangements.

Apr 02, 2019
Ep 60 We've Had This Fight Before
21:33

Zach and Laura recount the ways Jimmy John's has saved them from hunger. Laura is heading off road with her new trailer, while Zach is booking last minute 5 star hotels. They go on to discuss the cycle of arguments that happen in our relationship. There are some great tips on identifying what is behind the familiar disagreements and what we can do about it. 

Mar 19, 2019
Ep 59 Maintaining Connection while Traveling
26:18

Laura's workout's just upped their intensity for a very specific reason. Zach questions whether it is ok for him to compliment a stranger. They go on to discuss the importance of maintaining a connection with your partner when one of you travels. 

Mar 13, 2019
Ep 58 Anger Management
22:35
Laura gets a new backpack which sends Zach immediately into song sending them on a karaoke song one-upping. They go on to discuss how to manage anger and what to do when you or your partner are flooded. 
Mar 05, 2019
Ep 57 Finances
22:44

Laura circles back to the principle of rewarding desired behavior, noting that is has caused Zach to be more punctual. Zach is proud of his daughter and emoting more than usual. Laura reflects on an rewarding but exhausting weekend.

 
They go on to discuss some of the struggles and complexities of navigating finances with your partner. 
Feb 26, 2019
Ep 56 Are you Lovable?
22:55
This week Zach is digging out of a snow storm and hoping the kids get back to school soon, while Laura's mom is LOVING here snow days. Laura has to offer an apology to a listener and friend. They go on to discuss the importance of remembering the shared goal of your relationship especially in the midst of tension and conflict. The provide some vital tips to ending the negative cycles and setting you and your partner on a path of loving and being lovable. 
Feb 19, 2019
Ep 55 Defensiveness
22:36

A snow day is gave Zach the opportunity to introduce his kids to the wonders of Monty Python. Laura is NOT finding it funny and is more than a little frustrated with someone canceling their plans. They go on to discuss how to manage criticism and defensiveness.

Feb 06, 2019
Ep 53 Sexual Desire
22:34

Zach and Laura discuss their preferred work attire when meeting with remote clients. Zach is looking for something to look forward to so Laura invites him and the family to Salt Lake (just don't ask her what to do for fun there after 8pm).

 
They go on to discuss how to navigate the natural misalignment of sexual desire (and arousal) in your relationship. They share some great practical insights into how build anticipation and desire. 
Jan 30, 2019
Ep 53 When one partner is leaning out
24:03

Laura is feeling a bit grouchy, but rising to the occasion. Zach shares his secret for loving every Christmas gift he ever receives. They go on to discuss the dilemma when one partner leaning out of the relationship. 

Jan 22, 2019
Ep 52 Marriage Hacks
24:30

Zach and Laura celebrate one years worth of weekly podcasts. Laura can't leave the house as she cares for a new puppy. Zach is sending his daughter off to LA by herself. They go on to share ways you can improve your marriage even without needing your partners involvement. You will find some helpful tips that can transform your relationship.

Jan 16, 2019
Ep 51 New Year's Intentions
24:33

Zach and Laura kick off the new year reflecting on the importance of intentions.  

Jan 08, 2019
Ep 50 Sex
25:38

Laura's dog gets a name. Zach is grieving that loss of an important part of his life. They go on to discuss how to navigate differing points of view on how frequently a couple should be having sex. 

Dec 28, 2018
Ep 49 Happy Festivus
21:58

Zach has had a busy day with clients. Laura spent some of her day upside down, and she wrote a joke. They discuss their holiday traditions and importance of ritual in every relationship.

Dec 18, 2018
Ep 48 Couples on the Brink
23:08

Zach and Laura is getting excited for the new year and closing in on episode 52, one full year of weekly podcasts. Zach shares a winter dad joke. A Greek myth leads them into a dynamic conversation about couples in deep conflict. 

Dec 12, 2018
Ep 47 Dealing with Resentment
23:49

Zach and Laura start the show with a bit of a disagreement about punctuality. Zach shares that his daughter is in a new TV show debuting next year. Laura is training for a 1/2 marathon so Zach teaches her about fartlek. They go on to help a listener struggling with resentment in their relationship.

Dec 04, 2018
Ep46 Warm Fuzzies and Cold Pricklies
22:26

Zach and Laura catch up after a busy Thanksgiving break. Zach goes on to share some important relationship principles he learned as a kid. 

Nov 28, 2018
Ep45 Listener Questions
21:00

Zach and Laura find commonality in rap and dark meat. They reflect on the recent workshop. They go on to respond to listener emails.

Nov 20, 2018
Ep44 Divorce
22:38

Zach and Laura jump right in to discussing divorce. 

Nov 07, 2018
Ep43 The Goal of Conflict
20:25

Laura went for a great (and painful) run while Zach took a nap. Zach then shares one of the greatest statements that has impacted not only his work as a therapist, but as a husband and father. 

Oct 29, 2018
Ep42 Housework & Aging
24:01

Zach is podcasting from the kitchen today and it sparks a great conversation about the impact of housework on your relationship. Laura tells us that the benefits go far beyond having a clean house. They go on to respond to a listener question regarding how to navigate differences in energy levels in an aging partner. The principles they share are universal for us all. 

Oct 23, 2018
Ep41 Insecurity and Jealousy
20:40

Laura tries to figure out what movie she is thinking of. Zach does a half-hearted impersonation of Robin Williams. Zach shows his handy abilities by changing out a faucet. They go on to discuss how to navigate your partners relationships that make you insecure and jealous.  

Oct 17, 2018
Ep 40 Saying Yes to Your Partner
20:32

Zach is feeling groggy after sleeping in a bit late. Laura is back from an amazing trip to Iceland, except for the food poisoning. They go on to discuss how to interact with your partner when you don't connect or agree with what they are saying.

Oct 09, 2018
Ep 39 - The First Therapeutic Conversations
23:12

Laura got a TON of sleep after a last minute trip to get a passport. Zach's brother is in town. His daughter passed her drivers test, but Laura found out before he did. They go on to discuss the importance of the shared story that is created between a couple, the way a couple communicates their story, and the value to the therapeutic process. 

Sep 19, 2018
Ep38 – Listener Questions
19:52

Zach gives us an update on his triathlon. Laura is exploring the deep recesses of Netflix. They go on to tackle a number of listener questions.

Sep 12, 2018
Ep37 – Marriage Retreats
23:41

After a couple weeks away Zach and Laura catch up on what's going on. Zach is getting his health on and giving away lbs. Laura becomes the mom she never thought she would become. They go on to discuss the value of marriage retreats and how they can fit into a healthy relationship.

Aug 28, 2018
Ep36 – The Usefulness of Premarital Counseling
25:50
Laura is headed up to Seattle, while Zach leaves for the Jersey Shore. Zach busts out some dad jokes. They go on to discuss the importance of knowing your "why" as you enter into a marriage and how premarital counseling can help bring clarity to that question as you enter this important commitment. 
Aug 14, 2018
Ep35 – Perpetual Problems
20:58

Zach gets to sleep in for the first time this summer. Laura is rocking some new morning routines. After a quick Frozen musical interlude they go on to discuss a listener question. What are we to do with differences in the relationship. Particularly differences that probably are not going to go away. Zach and Laura offer some great insight into how to understand difference and conflict withing your marriage. 

Aug 07, 2018
Ep34 – The Four Horsemen
29:59

Zach is feeling great and loving the sun. Laura shares how she doesn't buy cloths off the rack, but rather off a person.  They go on to share 4 markers in a relationship that research has shown that if left unchecked will spell it's demise. You won't want to miss knowing what to look out for, and they also offer great insight into how to help combat these negative patterns. 

Jul 30, 2018
Ep33 - Your Experience is Valid
24:31

Laura needs to shower. Zach looks like the uni-bomber. Summer is in full swing with family members and kids headed in different directions. Zach and Laura offer some great insight on how to get on the same page with your partner even when you are coming from different places.

Jul 25, 2018
Ep32 – Your Marriage Social Network
21:52
Laura shoots a pilot. Zach continues training for his triathlon. They then discuss the importance of a social network, both for each individual in a marriage and for the marriage as a whole. They share some great insights into the impact the people you surround yourself with have on your relationship. 
Jul 10, 2018
Ep31 – Help, my Partner has Changed
24:21

Laura loves to pack and Zach fixed his flashlight. They go on to tackle a tough listener question about managing differences when your partner has gone through tremendous changes.

Jun 13, 2018
Ep30 – Play
24:55

Laura is headed to Iceland. When Zach's magician changes plans he decides instead to compete in a triathlon. (You read that sentence correctly) Although a triathlon is not a team sport, today Zach and Laura are discussing the concept of being on the same team as your partner.

Jun 05, 2018
Ep29 – The Secret to Good Communication
23:28

Laura's love for speedos get her in trouble with the grammar police. Zach's gets called out on church attendance by his pastor. They go on to share great tips for creating the right context for great conversations to happen in your marriage. 

May 21, 2018
Ep28 – What is the Purpose of Your Marriage?
19:51
May 15, 2018
Ep27 – Out of the Comfort Zone
20:08

Laura is flying solo in this episode. She shares with us how important is it to stretch ourselves by stepping outside our comfort zones. Although we may recognize this to be true personally and professionally, it is also very important relationally. Laura give some great practical examples of how to do this while sharing some of her personal goals and experiences. 

May 07, 2018
Ep26 - Listener Question
22:42

Zach and Laura tackle a question from a listener. Laura acknowledges a fear of The Wizard of OZ and Zach shares how he got his name. 

Apr 30, 2018
Ep25 - Break of Trust
22:41

Zach is a good son and surprises his mom on her birthday. Laura extols the unintended benefits of  anesthesia. They each discuss their love for and struggles with Hamilton which leads them to the difficult topic of betrayal and loss of trust. Sharing examples from their experience as well as their studies, Zach and Laura give insight into tricky dynamics at play in loosing and regaining trust in a relationship. 

Apr 24, 2018
Ep24 – Emotional Currency
16:57

Spring has arrived for Laura. Zach is still stuck in second winter in Seattle. They discuss Easter traditions and Costco scalloped potatoes. Sparked by a listeners email they revisit the emotional bank account and the importance of  knowing the currency your partner needs in to keep a positive balance.  

Apr 17, 2018
Ep23 – Emotional Intelligence
22:10

Laura struggles with technology. Zach compares and contrasts Kim Kardashian and Brene Brown. They then present some important research and personal findings regarding the power of increased emotional intelligence on your relationship. 

Apr 10, 2018
Ep22 – Why Money Matters
25:07

We learn that both Zach and Laura's have some well honed eavesdropping skills. There's some brief talk of bodily function in the first couple minutes, but they quickly move on to share some important thoughts about the impact of money on your relationship.

Apr 02, 2018
Ep21 - Is Your Relationship Overdrawn?
19:25

Zach and Laura took last week off to explore Seattle's culinary delights, but they are back this week to offer great insight into keeping your emotional accounts full. 

Mar 26, 2018
Ep20 -Stuck in a Traditional Relationship
18:30

Laura is loving her single serving guacamole. Zach is craving another nap under his weighted blanket. But more important, Zach and Laura discuss the impact of traditional relationship roles and the need for shared power. 

Mar 12, 2018
Ep19 -The Secret to a Happy Relationship
23:55

Zach is back from Cabo, Laura shows a lack of interest in deformed digits, and they both share some of the secrets to a happy relationship. They draw on both research and personal experience to provide some actionable tips to improve your marriage.  

Mar 05, 2018
Ep18 -7 Day Challenge for Lovers
13:06

Laura is flying solo while Zach lounges in Mexico. After recovering from seeing a picture of Zach's hairy toes, Laura brings you a great challenge to spice up your love life.  

Feb 26, 2018
Ep17 - Let's Talk About Your Cell Phone Addiction
24:13

While Zach lounges in Cabo, Laura introduces the show from snowy Salt Lake City. Even though Laura's mic had issues, she and Zach share some great insight regarding managing the device you are most likely listening to this on. Be sure to check out our sponsor Bagby on Etsy and be sure to use Code MTR55 for a great discount. 

Feb 20, 2018
Ep16 - My Relationship is Boring
23:46

Zach and Laura offer their perspective on adding some interest and life back into a relationship that may be stuck in boring town. Laura makes a bold personal commitment and Zach shares some exciting family news. On this Valentine's day share some kind words (and maybe this podcast) with the one you love.  

 
Feb 13, 2018
Ep15 - Resources and Recommendations for Couples
26:54

Zach and Laura talk through their favorite resources for couples. They're not what you think. Zach unleashes some pretty sweet "dad-jokes" and Laura tries not to laugh. Be sure to check out some of these resources and let us know what you think. 

Feb 05, 2018
Ep14 - Why Bother?
19:15

Laura has more input on Zach’s clothing choices. Cupcakes go uneaten. And Zach and Laura explore the motivations that bring folks to seek improvement for their marriage.

Jan 29, 2018
Ep13 - Married with Children
23:11

Zach places a bet that he's getting less. Laura places a bet that she's getting more. They move on to discuss the impact of children on the marriage and how to protect the relationship from the major change they bring. 

Jan 22, 2018
Ep12 - What is Marriage Therapy Anyway?
19:29

Zach and Laura explore the subject of marriage therapy itself? What is it? Why does it work? How do you know you've found the right therapist? What can you expect? Zach also gets mad about traffic but Laura doesn't care because she's in a really good mood.

Jan 15, 2018
Ep11 - A New Start for a New Year
15:27

Zach and Laura hit reset on the podcast to celebrate the new year. (Third time’s a charm since they ruined the first two attempts.) They discuss the rituals and intentions that help them and their clients get focused on their relationships. Zach says "umm" a lot and Laura goes out of her way to pull her husband out from under the bus.

Jan 08, 2018
Ep10 - Partnering Against Stress
19:33

Laura takes a 4 hour break from Facebook. Zach reads 3 out of the 12 biographies we was planning to finish this year. After these confessions they discuss key attitudes and skills couples can employ to partner together times of stress.

Dec 18, 2017
Ep09 - How to Manage Stress in Your Relationship
14:42

Zach and Laura reflect on the nature and impact of stress on a marriage. They provide some great insight into how to not let it be a divider but rather a point of connection and strength in your relationship.

Dec 11, 2017
Ep08 - How to Crack the Intimacy Code
18:55

Zach and Laura talk about their bodies and what it means to be healthy. They also get into intimacy, which doesn't mean what you think it means.. What it actually means may surprise and inspire you. Is it possible that intimacy is more than just sex? Listen and find out.

Dec 05, 2017
Ep07 - How to Win the Weekend
16:36

Zach and Laura reflect on their weekends. Zach spent it at a marriage seminar with his wife and Laura had a girls weekend away. They let you know what worked and what didn’t and what you can do to get the most from your weekend.

Nov 27, 2017
Ep06 - Conversations on Purpose
13:30

Zach and Laura continue their Connection Series and discuss the power of intentional conversations. They share how leaning into some new scripts can build intimacy and true connection. Laura also goes overboard and pays Zach TWO compliments.

Nov 20, 2017
Ep05 - Roommate Syndrome
13:36

Zach Brittle and Laura heck begin a new series on Connection. In this episode they explore the phenomenon of Roommate Syndrome and how it affects many couples. They show you the signs for how the slide begins and they discuss the power of a McDonald's milkshake.

Nov 13, 2017
Ep04 - How to Repair
12:22

Zach and Laura discuss the most important skill for any couple and the best time to do it. (Hint: It's any time.) They also reveal the one question every couple needs to learn how to ask and answer on a regular basis. Zach reveals the secret to making him feel like $20.

Nov 06, 2017
Ep03 - How to Apologize
11:55

Laura throws her husband under the bus and Zach talks about how much he hates the words "I'm sorry." They discuss a formula for how to apologize effectively and how both partners have a role. They also discuss why "forgive and forget" is a bad strategy.

Oct 30, 2017
Ep02 - How to Skydive
12:03

Zach teaches Laura all about skydiving and the two most important rules once you leave the plane and gravity takes over. They discuss different ways that couples can de-escalate and repair in the midst of conflict. They test out a new slogan for the podcast. 

Oct 23, 2017
Ep01 - How to Avoid Conflict
11:57

SPOILER ALERT: You can't. Conflict is inevitable and every couple struggles in their own way. Zach and Laura discuss common problems and ways to navigate through conflict successfully. Laura tells a disgusting story.

Oct 16, 2017
Introducing Marriage Therapy Radio
22:59

You're a fly on the wall as two marriage therapists discuss their most interesting and challenging cases. Zach Brittle and Laura Heck have spent thousands of hours with hundreds of couples helping them move toward a better marriage. 

Oct 05, 2017