Marriage Therapy Radio

By Zach Brittle and Laura Heck at forBetter

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Look... every couple struggles. You fight too much; you're bored; sex is either okay (or rare); maybe you're even considering divorce. OR... maybe your marriage is actually pretty good, but you want to go deeper. In this podcast, straight-talking marriage therapists Zach Brittle and Laura Heck tackle the most common complaints virtually every marriage experience. Along the way, they reveal the science behind strong relationships and talk about what's really going on for couples. Topics include conflict, communication, compatibility, money, sex, in-laws, infidelity, time-management, future dreams, and more. If you want relief? A deeper connection? A new way forward...? Then you've got to find out what's REALLY going on in your marriage. That's what this podcast is about. You can learn more about Zach and Laura, and their alternatives to traditional therapy at www.forbetter.us.

Episode Date
Ep71 How to say Yes and No at the same time
19:55

Laura had to kick her husband out (don't worry it was just out of the studio so she could record.) Zach extols the power of checking off your to do list. Dad joke throw downs are happening on social media. They go on to share the potential benefits of letting your "yes" be "no" and your "no" be "yes". Trust me, it will make sense when you hear it. 

Jun 11, 2019
Ep 70 Be an Action Taker in Your Marriage
24:40

Zach and Laura discuss their Memorial Day Weekend getaways. Both got out into nature with their families. They look forward to their workshop in June and throwing some axes. They go on to discuss what it takes to make changes in your relationship. 

 
Jun 04, 2019
Ep 69 Interview with Sex Therapist Tina Schermer Sellers, PhD
37:14

Zach and Laura discuss what chaffed nipples, stylish hair, and sexy times have in common. They go on to have an in depth interview with sex therapist Tina Schermer Sellers, PhD.

This episode is sponsored by Uberlube.

May 28, 2019
Ep 68 Listener Question
26:29

Laura is taking care of her gut. Zach is loving individual therapy. We get a great dad joke from listener Dustin's son. They go on to discuss a question from a listener. 

May 21, 2019
Ep 67 Social Media Breakup
25:06

Laura gets a truck. Zach grills Laura on her dog buying process. Zach is growing out his hair and cleaning up his house. They go on to discuss how to manage your social media profiles when there is a breakup. 

May 14, 2019
Ep 66 Masturbation
24:35

Zach and Laura discuss their sleep habits. Zach is switching it up and Laura is afraid she is getting older. She shares some interesting beliefs about what getting older allows you to do. Sparked from a listener question, they go on to discuss the, often complex, role of masturbation in your relationship. 

 
May 07, 2019
Ep 65 The 4 Habits of a Joy Filled Marriage
26:48

Zach tells us about his blanket fort he retreats to from time to time. Laura completed her first half marathon. And they welcome their first guest, Chris Coursey, to the podcast. Chris joins them to discuss his latest book, The 4 Habits of Joy-Filled Marriages. The practical steps can help every marriage. 

 
Find out more about Chris at Thrive Today. More information about the book and related resources can be found at happyhappymarriage.org
Apr 30, 2019
Ep 64 Expectations of Your Partner
21:33

Laura's husband is working from home and she has found that their expectations about what daily life should look like are not totally aligned. Zach shares some stories of folks in similar situations. 

Apr 23, 2019
Ep 63 The One Question Experiment
23:17
Zach's daughter was in a TV show. Laura is training for a half marathon and taking a break from social media with great results. They go on to discuss the one question that could transform your relationship. 
 
Laura gives you a challenge to try this question in your relationship and report on how it turns out. Give them a call at 801-810-6197 and report the results. 
Apr 16, 2019
Ep 62 Breaking Up is Hard to Do
24:48

 

Zach and Laura are excited to announce their first real sponsor, Ana Luisa. You can find their fine jewelry and get an exclusive discount at   https://www.analuisa.com/forbetterus. Be sure to order soon as Mother's Day is coming out on May 12th (You will laugh at that last bit when you listen to the episode).   They go on to discuss a recent article Zach wrote for the Gottman Institute about breaking up. 

Apr 09, 2019
Ep 61 Sleep Tight
24:42

Zach is finishing up some food. Laura just returned from a great ski trip. Zach unpacks his last teaching gig. They go on to discuss your sleeping arrangements.

Apr 02, 2019
Ep 60 We've Had This Fight Before
21:33

Zach and Laura recount the ways Jimmy John's has saved them from hunger. Laura is heading off road with her new trailer, while Zach is booking last minute 5 star hotels. They go on to discuss the cycle of arguments that happen in our relationship. There are some great tips on identifying what is behind the familiar disagreements and what we can do about it. 

Mar 19, 2019
Ep 59 Maintaining Connection while Traveling
26:18

Laura's workout's just upped their intensity for a very specific reason. Zach questions whether it is ok for him to compliment a stranger. They go on to discuss the importance of maintaining a connection with your partner when one of you travels. 

Mar 13, 2019
Ep 58 Anger Management
22:35
Laura gets a new backpack which sends Zach immediately into song sending them on a karaoke song one-upping. They go on to discuss how to manage anger and what to do when you or your partner are flooded. 
Mar 05, 2019
Ep 57 Finances
22:44

Laura circles back to the principle of rewarding desired behavior, noting that is has caused Zach to be more punctual. Zach is proud of his daughter and emoting more than usual. Laura reflects on an rewarding but exhausting weekend.

 
They go on to discuss some of the struggles and complexities of navigating finances with your partner. 
Feb 26, 2019
Ep 56 Are you Lovable?
22:55
This week Zach is digging out of a snow storm and hoping the kids get back to school soon, while Laura's mom is LOVING here snow days. Laura has to offer an apology to a listener and friend. They go on to discuss the importance of remembering the shared goal of your relationship especially in the midst of tension and conflict. The provide some vital tips to ending the negative cycles and setting you and your partner on a path of loving and being lovable. 
Feb 19, 2019
Ep 55 Defensiveness
22:36

A snow day is gave Zach the opportunity to introduce his kids to the wonders of Monty Python. Laura is NOT finding it funny and is more than a little frustrated with someone canceling their plans. They go on to discuss how to manage criticism and defensiveness.

Feb 06, 2019
Ep 53 Sexual Desire
22:34

Zach and Laura discuss their preferred work attire when meeting with remote clients. Zach is looking for something to look forward to so Laura invites him and the family to Salt Lake (just don't ask her what to do for fun there after 8pm).

 
They go on to discuss how to navigate the natural misalignment of sexual desire (and arousal) in your relationship. They share some great practical insights into how build anticipation and desire. 
Jan 30, 2019
Ep 53 When one partner is leaning out
24:03

Laura is feeling a bit grouchy, but rising to the occasion. Zach shares his secret for loving every Christmas gift he ever receives. They go on to discuss the dilemma when one partner leaning out of the relationship. 

Jan 22, 2019
Ep 52 Marriage Hacks
24:30

Zach and Laura celebrate one years worth of weekly podcasts. Laura can't leave the house as she cares for a new puppy. Zach is sending his daughter off to LA by herself. They go on to share ways you can improve your marriage even without needing your partners involvement. You will find some helpful tips that can transform your relationship.

Jan 16, 2019
Ep 51 New Year's Intentions
24:33

Zach and Laura kick off the new year reflecting on the importance of intentions.  

Jan 08, 2019
Ep 50 Sex
25:38

Laura's dog gets a name. Zach is grieving that loss of an important part of his life. They go on to discuss how to navigate differing points of view on how frequently a couple should be having sex. 

Dec 28, 2018
Ep 49 Happy Festivus
21:58

Zach has had a busy day with clients. Laura spent some of her day upside down, and she wrote a joke. They discuss their holiday traditions and importance of ritual in every relationship.

Dec 18, 2018
Ep 48 Couples on the Brink
23:08

Zach and Laura is getting excited for the new year and closing in on episode 52, one full year of weekly podcasts. Zach shares a winter dad joke. A Greek myth leads them into a dynamic conversation about couples in deep conflict. 

Dec 12, 2018
Ep 47 Dealing with Resentment
23:49

Zach and Laura start the show with a bit of a disagreement about punctuality. Zach shares that his daughter is in a new TV show debuting next year. Laura is training for a 1/2 marathon so Zach teaches her about fartlek. They go on to help a listener struggling with resentment in their relationship.

Dec 04, 2018
Ep46 Warm Fuzzies and Cold Pricklies
22:26

Zach and Laura catch up after a busy Thanksgiving break. Zach goes on to share some important relationship principles he learned as a kid. 

Nov 28, 2018
Ep45 Listener Questions
21:00

Zach and Laura find commonality in rap and dark meat. They reflect on the recent workshop. They go on to respond to listener emails.

Nov 20, 2018
Ep44 Divorce
22:38

Zach and Laura jump right in to discussing divorce. 

Nov 07, 2018
Ep43 The Goal of Conflict
20:25

Laura went for a great (and painful) run while Zach took a nap. Zach then shares one of the greatest statements that has impacted not only his work as a therapist, but as a husband and father. 

Oct 29, 2018
Ep42 Housework & Aging
24:01

Zach is podcasting from the kitchen today and it sparks a great conversation about the impact of housework on your relationship. Laura tells us that the benefits go far beyond having a clean house. They go on to respond to a listener question regarding how to navigate differences in energy levels in an aging partner. The principles they share are universal for us all. 

Oct 23, 2018
Ep41 Insecurity and Jealousy
20:40

Laura tries to figure out what movie she is thinking of. Zach does a half-hearted impersonation of Robin Williams. Zach shows his handy abilities by changing out a faucet. They go on to discuss how to navigate your partners relationships that make you insecure and jealous.  

Oct 17, 2018
Ep 40 Saying Yes to Your Partner
20:32

Zach is feeling groggy after sleeping in a bit late. Laura is back from an amazing trip to Iceland, except for the food poisoning. They go on to discuss how to interact with your partner when you don't connect or agree with what they are saying.

Oct 09, 2018
Ep 39 - The First Therapeutic Conversations
23:12

Laura got a TON of sleep after a last minute trip to get a passport. Zach's brother is in town. His daughter passed her drivers test, but Laura found out before he did. They go on to discuss the importance of the shared story that is created between a couple, the way a couple communicates their story, and the value to the therapeutic process. 

Sep 19, 2018
Ep38 – Listener Questions
19:52

Zach gives us an update on his triathlon. Laura is exploring the deep recesses of Netflix. They go on to tackle a number of listener questions.

Sep 12, 2018
Ep37 – Marriage Retreats
23:41

After a couple weeks away Zach and Laura catch up on what's going on. Zach is getting his health on and giving away lbs. Laura becomes the mom she never thought she would become. They go on to discuss the value of marriage retreats and how they can fit into a healthy relationship.

Aug 28, 2018
Ep36 – The Usefulness of Premarital Counseling
25:50
Laura is headed up to Seattle, while Zach leaves for the Jersey Shore. Zach busts out some dad jokes. They go on to discuss the importance of knowing your "why" as you enter into a marriage and how premarital counseling can help bring clarity to that question as you enter this important commitment. 
Aug 14, 2018
Ep35 – Perpetual Problems
20:58

Zach gets to sleep in for the first time this summer. Laura is rocking some new morning routines. After a quick Frozen musical interlude they go on to discuss a listener question. What are we to do with differences in the relationship. Particularly differences that probably are not going to go away. Zach and Laura offer some great insight into how to understand difference and conflict withing your marriage. 

Aug 07, 2018
Ep34 – The Four Horsemen
29:59

Zach is feeling great and loving the sun. Laura shares how she doesn't buy cloths off the rack, but rather off a person.  They go on to share 4 markers in a relationship that research has shown that if left unchecked will spell it's demise. You won't want to miss knowing what to look out for, and they also offer great insight into how to help combat these negative patterns. 

Jul 30, 2018
Ep33 - Your Experience is Valid
24:31

Laura needs to shower. Zach looks like the uni-bomber. Summer is in full swing with family members and kids headed in different directions. Zach and Laura offer some great insight on how to get on the same page with your partner even when you are coming from different places.

Jul 25, 2018
Ep32 – Your Marriage Social Network
21:52
Laura shoots a pilot. Zach continues training for his triathlon. They then discuss the importance of a social network, both for each individual in a marriage and for the marriage as a whole. They share some great insights into the impact the people you surround yourself with have on your relationship. 
Jul 10, 2018
Ep31 – Help, my Partner has Changed
24:21

Laura loves to pack and Zach fixed his flashlight. They go on to tackle a tough listener question about managing differences when your partner has gone through tremendous changes.

Jun 13, 2018
Ep30 – Play
24:55

Laura is headed to Iceland. When Zach's magician changes plans he decides instead to compete in a triathlon. (You read that sentence correctly) Although a triathlon is not a team sport, today Zach and Laura are discussing the concept of being on the same team as your partner.

Jun 05, 2018
Ep29 – The Secret to Good Communication
23:28

Laura's love for speedos get her in trouble with the grammar police. Zach's gets called out on church attendance by his pastor. They go on to share great tips for creating the right context for great conversations to happen in your marriage. 

May 21, 2018
Ep28 – What is the Purpose of Your Marriage?
19:51
May 15, 2018
Ep27 – Out of the Comfort Zone
20:08

Laura is flying solo in this episode. She shares with us how important is it to stretch ourselves by stepping outside our comfort zones. Although we may recognize this to be true personally and professionally, it is also very important relationally. Laura give some great practical examples of how to do this while sharing some of her personal goals and experiences. 

May 07, 2018
Ep26 - Listener Question
22:42

Zach and Laura tackle a question from a listener. Laura acknowledges a fear of The Wizard of OZ and Zach shares how he got his name. 

Apr 30, 2018
Ep25 - Break of Trust
22:41

Zach is a good son and surprises his mom on her birthday. Laura extols the unintended benefits of  anesthesia. They each discuss their love for and struggles with Hamilton which leads them to the difficult topic of betrayal and loss of trust. Sharing examples from their experience as well as their studies, Zach and Laura give insight into tricky dynamics at play in loosing and regaining trust in a relationship. 

Apr 24, 2018
Ep24 – Emotional Currency
16:57

Spring has arrived for Laura. Zach is still stuck in second winter in Seattle. They discuss Easter traditions and Costco scalloped potatoes. Sparked by a listeners email they revisit the emotional bank account and the importance of  knowing the currency your partner needs in to keep a positive balance.  

Apr 17, 2018
Ep23 – Emotional Intelligence
22:10

Laura struggles with technology. Zach compares and contrasts Kim Kardashian and Brene Brown. They then present some important research and personal findings regarding the power of increased emotional intelligence on your relationship. 

Apr 10, 2018
Ep22 – Why Money Matters
25:07

We learn that both Zach and Laura's have some well honed eavesdropping skills. There's some brief talk of bodily function in the first couple minutes, but they quickly move on to share some important thoughts about the impact of money on your relationship.

Apr 02, 2018
Ep21 - Is Your Relationship Overdrawn?
19:25

Zach and Laura took last week off to explore Seattle's culinary delights, but they are back this week to offer great insight into keeping your emotional accounts full. 

Mar 26, 2018
Ep20 -Stuck in a Traditional Relationship
18:30

Laura is loving her single serving guacamole. Zach is craving another nap under his weighted blanket. But more important, Zach and Laura discuss the impact of traditional relationship roles and the need for shared power. 

Mar 12, 2018
Ep19 -The Secret to a Happy Relationship
23:55

Zach is back from Cabo, Laura shows a lack of interest in deformed digits, and they both share some of the secrets to a happy relationship. They draw on both research and personal experience to provide some actionable tips to improve your marriage.  

Mar 05, 2018
Ep18 -7 Day Challenge for Lovers
13:06

Laura is flying solo while Zach lounges in Mexico. After recovering from seeing a picture of Zach's hairy toes, Laura brings you a great challenge to spice up your love life.  

Feb 26, 2018
Ep17 - Let's Talk About Your Cell Phone Addiction
24:13

While Zach lounges in Cabo, Laura introduces the show from snowy Salt Lake City. Even though Laura's mic had issues, she and Zach share some great insight regarding managing the device you are most likely listening to this on. Be sure to check out our sponsor Bagby on Etsy and be sure to use Code MTR55 for a great discount. 

Feb 20, 2018
Ep16 - My Relationship is Boring
23:46

Zach and Laura offer their perspective on adding some interest and life back into a relationship that may be stuck in boring town. Laura makes a bold personal commitment and Zach shares some exciting family news. On this Valentine's day share some kind words (and maybe this podcast) with the one you love.  

 
Feb 13, 2018
Ep15 - Resources and Recommendations for Couples
26:54

Zach and Laura talk through their favorite resources for couples. They're not what you think. Zach unleashes some pretty sweet "dad-jokes" and Laura tries not to laugh. Be sure to check out some of these resources and let us know what you think. 

Feb 05, 2018
Ep14 - Why Bother?
19:15

Laura has more input on Zach’s clothing choices. Cupcakes go uneaten. And Zach and Laura explore the motivations that bring folks to seek improvement for their marriage.

Jan 29, 2018
Ep13 - Married with Children
23:11

Zach places a bet that he's getting less. Laura places a bet that she's getting more. They move on to discuss the impact of children on the marriage and how to protect the relationship from the major change they bring. 

Jan 22, 2018
Ep12 - What is Marriage Therapy Anyway?
19:29

Zach and Laura explore the subject of marriage therapy itself? What is it? Why does it work? How do you know you've found the right therapist? What can you expect? Zach also gets mad about traffic but Laura doesn't care because she's in a really good mood.

Jan 15, 2018
Ep11 - A New Start for a New Year
15:27

Zach and Laura hit reset on the podcast to celebrate the new year. (Third time’s a charm since they ruined the first two attempts.) They discuss the rituals and intentions that help them and their clients get focused on their relationships. Zach says "umm" a lot and Laura goes out of her way to pull her husband out from under the bus.

Jan 08, 2018
Ep10 - Partnering Against Stress
19:33

Laura takes a 4 hour break from Facebook. Zach reads 3 out of the 12 biographies we was planning to finish this year. After these confessions they discuss key attitudes and skills couples can employ to partner together times of stress.

Dec 18, 2017
Ep09 - How to Manage Stress in Your Relationship
14:42

Zach and Laura reflect on the nature and impact of stress on a marriage. They provide some great insight into how to not let it be a divider but rather a point of connection and strength in your relationship.

Dec 11, 2017
Ep08 - How to Crack the Intimacy Code
18:55

Zach and Laura talk about their bodies and what it means to be healthy. They also get into intimacy, which doesn't mean what you think it means.. What it actually means may surprise and inspire you. Is it possible that intimacy is more than just sex? Listen and find out.

Dec 05, 2017
Ep07 - How to Win the Weekend
16:36

Zach and Laura reflect on their weekends. Zach spent it at a marriage seminar with his wife and Laura had a girls weekend away. They let you know what worked and what didn’t and what you can do to get the most from your weekend.

Nov 27, 2017
Ep06 - Conversations on Purpose
13:30

Zach and Laura continue their Connection Series and discuss the power of intentional conversations. They share how leaning into some new scripts can build intimacy and true connection. Laura also goes overboard and pays Zach TWO compliments.

Nov 20, 2017
Ep05 - Roommate Syndrome
13:36

Zach Brittle and Laura heck begin a new series on Connection. In this episode they explore the phenomenon of Roommate Syndrome and how it affects many couples. They show you the signs for how the slide begins and they discuss the power of a McDonald's milkshake.

Nov 13, 2017
Ep04 - How to Repair
12:22

Zach and Laura discuss the most important skill for any couple and the best time to do it. (Hint: It's any time.) They also reveal the one question every couple needs to learn how to ask and answer on a regular basis. Zach reveals the secret to making him feel like $20.

Nov 06, 2017
Ep03 - How to Apologize
11:55

Laura throws her husband under the bus and Zach talks about how much he hates the words "I'm sorry." They discuss a formula for how to apologize effectively and how both partners have a role. They also discuss why "forgive and forget" is a bad strategy.

Oct 30, 2017
Ep02 - How to Skydive
12:03

Zach teaches Laura all about skydiving and the two most important rules once you leave the plane and gravity takes over. They discuss different ways that couples can de-escalate and repair in the midst of conflict. They test out a new slogan for the podcast. 

Oct 23, 2017
Ep01 - How to Avoid Conflict
11:57

SPOILER ALERT: You can't. Conflict is inevitable and every couple struggles in their own way. Zach and Laura discuss common problems and ways to navigate through conflict successfully. Laura tells a disgusting story.

Oct 16, 2017
Introducing Marriage Therapy Radio
22:59

You're a fly on the wall as two marriage therapists discuss their most interesting and challenging cases. Zach Brittle and Laura Heck have spent thousands of hours with hundreds of couples helping them move toward a better marriage. 

Oct 05, 2017