3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms

By Rachel Nielson

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 Sep 4, 2018
This is a great podcast for moms. Gives easy ways you can improve life at home with you and your kids!

 Jul 20, 2018
I love this podcast. It's quick. it's positive. it gives me pearls of wisdom that can change me and my day for the better. who doesn't need that?


A 30-minute podcast with 3 doable takeaways to make your family life a little better each week

Episode Date
068: Healing After Betrayal in Your Marriage // Mika Perry of ‘Good to Be Home’ Podcast
They say love is patient; love is kind. But the truth is, sometimes it's not EASY for love to be either of those things, especially when you are facing a devastating betrayal. "Betrayal" can be discovering a spouse's affair or addiction, learning that he/she has not been honest in their business dealings and has put the family's well-being in jeopardy, and many other situations. You are faced with shattering grief, and often don't know where to turn for support because the trial is so personal and involves someone else. It can feel so isolating. Mika Perry—a mother, blogger, and professional organizer—has been there. In 2012 she discovered that her husband, Russ, was having an affair. Over the years since, she and Russ have worked toward healing and now openly share their story to help those suffering in silence. Today on the show, Mika shares her experience of what life after betrayal looked like for her and how it ultimately led to a life of truth, abundance, faith, and purpose. This is an incredibly personal and tender topic, and whether or not you choose to stay married after a betrayal, this episode will bring you hope. Please pass the episode along to someone who might need to know they are not alone. Show Notes: Mika's Instagram: @mikaperry Mika's website: mikaperry.com -The blog post where Mika first opened up about the affair: Mika and Russ' podcast "Good to be Home." Episode 2 is where Mika and Russ share their story Russ Perry's book, The Sober Entrepreneur: starts with affair and goes through the process of getting sober and building a business.
Feb 18, 2019
067: How to Accept when your Spouse Doesn’t Speak your Love Language
Do you and your spouse speak the same love languages? My husband, Ryan, and I do *not.* I am a words girl. I love them, I need them. My husband is a man of few words. He craves quality time. There have been times in my marriage when I have resented that he doesn't show me love in the "right" way, but in the past few years, I've found contentment and respect for how he shows love. Listen to today's episode for three strategies to love your spouse (and feel loved by your spouse), just as they are. Show Notes "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman Online quiz to discover your love language: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/ "Simple Ways to Speak your Partner's Love Language" with Celeste Davis of Marriage Laboratory blog and Marriage Theraoke podcast "What Happened to my Sex Drive, and How Do I Get It Back?" with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife   Are you a podcaster (or an aspiring podcaster?) Sign up to get a weekly podcasting tip from me! 3in30podcast.com/tips
Feb 11, 2019
066: The Easiest Form of Self Care: Getting Ready for the Day // Alison Lumbatis of Get Your Pretty On
Sometimes when I hear the phrase "self care," I like to dream about a massage, a pedicure, or a trip to the store by myself. Those are all great things, but often out of reach for daily life. In reality, having a simple, daily routine to get ready for the day is the easiest form of self care. Alison Lumbatis, founder of Get Your Pretty On, is on the show today with a message advocating for every woman to feel pretty regardless of resources or time, and that is through simply getting ready for the day. Alison gives us encouragement and ideas to set every woman up for success through having a routine in place, taking inventory of what you already own, and having go-to formulas to make getting dressed simple and fun. Show Notes: Alison's website: https://getyourprettyon.com/ Alison's Instagram: @_getyourprettyon Freebie for 3 in 30 listeners! Stay-At-Home Mom Casual Wardrobe Builder: getyourprettyon.com/3in30podcast *We are so thrilled to have Chatbooks as a sponsor this month for 3 in 30!* Download the app or visit chatbooks.com to claim your FREE book (up to $10 in value) by using code “3in30” at checkout!  Ends March 4th!
Feb 07, 2019
065: 3 Easy Valentines Traditions for the Whole Family (Encore!) // Sarah McKenna of Bombshell Bling
The first Valentines Day that my husband and I were dating, he showed up on my doorstep with flowers and a clue that started me on a scavenger hunt to romantic places all around our college town. Seven years later, on our first Valentines Day as parents, he showed up on our doorstep with…a toilet plunger.  (You’ll have to listen to the episode to get the full story!) Yes, becoming parents can definitely affect the romance of Valentines Day a bit–but there’s no reason why this “holiday of love” has to be limited to just you and your spouse.  February 14th can be a day to celebrate family love as well! In this episode, my amazing sister Sarah McKenna, from the craft blog Bombshell Bling, shares three totally doable and super fun Valentines traditions for the entire family. 1) Secret Cupids: https://www.bombshellbling.com/secret-cupids-valentines-day-family-tradition/ 2) Heart Attacks: https://www.bombshellbling.com/heart-attack/ 3) Love Letters to your Kids: https://www.bombshellbling.com/mushy-love-letters-a-february-tradition/ I'd love to hear if you give one of these a try. Come say hi on my Instagram, 3in30podcast and let me know if you have other Valentines Traditions you do with your family! Show Notes  Sarah's website: https://www.bombshellbling.com Sarah's instagram: @bombshellbling “32 Ways to Surprise Your Sweetie” by Rachel Nielson: https://www.bombshellbling.com/things-for-hubby-valentines-day/ *We are so thrilled to have Chatbooks as a sponsor this month for 3 in 30!* Download the app or visit chatbooks.com to claim your FREE book (up to $10 in value) by using code “3in30” at checkout!
Feb 04, 2019
064: Make Over Your Mornings // Crystal Paine of Money Saving Mom
In this stage of my life, I start most days to the sound of my children calling for me or running into my room. Before that, I started the day with the sound of my alarm clock signaling I needed to hurry as fast as I possibly could to get ready for work. This often sets the pace to go from one thing to the next in a frazzled state when I am constantly craving slow. Crystal Paine, entrepreneur, mom, and founder of Money Saving Mom, is often asked how she does what she does, and it all comes down to starting her day with intention. Crystal has years of experience encouraging women to be intentional when it comes to finance, family, and business. In this episode, she encourages us to develop the habit of serving our tomorrow self by first asking the question: What can you do the night before to set yourself up for success the next day? Whether you have an intentional morning routine or hopes for developing one, we can't wait to hear how you like this episode.   Show Notes:  Make Over Your Mornings: 14-day online course to help you start your day with success: https://gr161.isrefer.com/go/MYM/rachelnielson/ Crystal's website: https://moneysavingmom.com/ Crystal's Instagram: @themoneysavingmom Crystal and Rachel's Power of Moms' podcast: https://powerofmoms.com/ordinary-moms-can-make-extraordinary-difference-crystal-paine-rachel-nielson-episode-186/ Gretchen Rubin's book, The Four Tendencies: https://amzn.to/2FUF8XD Laura Vanderkamp's book, What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast: https://amzn.to/2TbQc6x   *We are so thrilled to have Chatbooks as a sponsor this month for 3 in 30!* Download the app or visit chatbooks.com to claim your FREE book (up to $10 in value) by using code "3in30" at checkout! I want to meet you in Twin Falls! I'm teaching "Declutter Your Motherhood," a 5-hour workshop on Saturday, February 9th. You can find more details here: 3in30podcast.com/workshops
Jan 28, 2019
063: Mothering Different Ages and Stages: Tips from a Mother of Seven // Vanessa Quigley, Co-Founder of Chatbooks
It’s time to pick up the kids from school, but the baby is napping. You need to go to grocery shopping but can’t bear the thought of wrestling everyone into the car and through the store. You want to plan a vacation to spend quality time with your older kids, but it wouldn’t be ideal for the babies. Do any of these scenarios sound familiar? Beyond babies’ sleep schedules and toddlers tantrums, motherhood manages to get trickier as our children grow into different stages— especially in families with big age gaps between siblings. In this episode, Vanessa Quigley, co-founder of Chatbooks, gives us a glimpse into what it is like mothering seven children and juggling the needs of kids in different stages of life. Vanessa advises moms to, as Elsa would say, “Let it go!” (as we can't be everything to everyone); divide and conquer; and seek help through trades or hiring someone. I know you will love Vanessa's sense of humor, warm encouragement, and down-to-earth wisdom in this interview. **We are so honored to announce Chatbooks as a sponsor for 3 in 30.** -Download the app to get start making your photo book or check out their website: https://chatbooks.com/ -Don’t forget to use code “3in30” for a FREE book, up to $10 in value! Show Notes -Hilarious Chatbooks commercial with Lisa Valentine Clark: https://bit.ly/2dXTHut -There are a few tickets left to my workshop in Twin Falls, Idaho on Saturday, February 9th.  I’d love to meet you!  3in30podcast.com/workshops   -Sign up to receive a copy of our monthly newsletter with ALL of the takeaways from this months’ episodes: 3in30podcast.com/takeaways   -Find me on Instagram and say hi! https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/
Jan 21, 2019
062: Is it Possible to Balance Work and Motherhood? // Crystalee Beck of The Mama Ladder
As moms, we often wrestle with the desire to better balance work and motherhood. We want to honor our professional lives and personal development, while also giving our children the love and care they deserve. Bu what if it isn't really about "balance" after all? Crystalee Beck, co-founder of The Mama Ladder, is here to shift our perspectives by teaching us that both work and motherhood are valuable parts of living our purpose. We can find ways to protect time for both so we can be "powerfully present" in whatever we are doing. Show Notes Crystalee's website: https://themamaladder.com/ Crystalee's Instagram: @themamaladder  High Five Grant for Moms: https://themamaladder.com/grant -application open January 11-31 Mama Spring Break: https://themamaladder.com/mamaspringbreak Jody Moore podcast about "Busyness": https://jodymoore.com/ep-177-busyness/ **Send an email if you are interested in podcasting tips! hello@3in30podcast.com** **There are just a handful of tickets left to Rachel’s “Declutter your Motherhood” workshops in Idaho! Check out the info here: http://3in30podcast.com/workshops/
Jan 14, 2019
061: Avoiding Bedtime Battles // Marietta Paxson, LMFT
SLEEP WEEK continues! In this bonus episode with Marietta Paxson, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, we talk about real scenarios she faces as a therapist, sleep consultant, and mom. Marietta has seen in both her clients and her own children how sleep impacts behavior and health. She shares tips for creating boundaries around bedtime routines, how to curb endless bedtime requests, and more. Marietta runs Little Dreamers, a priceless resource where she works with families to make an individualized plan to help their infants and toddlers get the sleep they need. If you have ever wondered if a sleep consultant might be able to help your child, don't hesitate to visit Marietta's website and book a free 15-minute call!  And in case you missed it, don’t forget to check out Monday’s episode with Dr. Katie Penry where she and I discuss newborn sleep and how it can impact the mental health of a mom. Show Notes: Marietta’s website: littledreamers.us Marietta’s Instagram: @littledreamers.us Check out her FREE Q+A on Facebook and Instagram every week where you can submit a question: https://www.facebook.com/littledreamers.us/ Newborn sleep workshop in Pleasant Grove, Utah: “Exhausted Mama, No More.” Listeners can use code “3in30” to get 25% off! https://www.littledreamers.us/newborn-sleep   Other Related Resources: 033: Getting Your Kids to Do Quiet Time: http://3in30podcast.com/quiet-time/ 060: 3 Facts You MUST Know about Infant Sleep: http://3in30podcast.com/infant-sleep/   **There are just a handful of tickets left to Rachel's "Declutter your Motherhood" workshops in Idaho! Check out the info here: http://3in30podcast.com/workshops/
Jan 10, 2019
060: Three Facts about Infant Sleep You MUST Know // Dr. Katie Penry
It's SLEEP WEEK here at 3 in 30!  This week I will be bringing you TWO episodes from two different sleep experts, each focusing on a different aspect of how to get your little ones to sleep well. (Because I don't know about you, but when I'm exhausted because my littles won't sleep, everyone in the family suffers!) Today on the show we have a guest who is a fan favorite, Dr. Katie Penry, a specialist in maternal and infant mental health. She and I discuss newborn sleep and how it can impact the mental health of a mom.  Dr. Penry is such an encourager and even protector of mothers--and this episode will give you permission to make decisions about your family's sleep that will benefit both your baby AND you. Come back on Thursday for a follow-up episode from a sleep consultant who will teach us how to avoid bedtime battles with our toddlers and preschoolers (and even elementary schoolers!). This is going to be a fun and different week at 3 in 30.  Don't miss it! Show Notes 25 Infant Sleep Tips: afriendlyaffair.com/25sleeptips Newborn 101 Course: https://afriendlyaffair.teachable.com/p/introduction-to-parenting/ "Happiest Baby on the Block" DVD: https://amzn.to/2S4VvE7 Happiest Baby on the Block by Dr. Harvey Karp: https://amzn.to/2USjKXR Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Dr. Marc Weissbluth: https://amzn.to/2LnF6s6 Bringing Up Bebe by Pamela Druckerman: https://amzn.to/2UR7hE1 Episode 23 "How to Stop Looking at Your Phone So Much--and Why It Matters": http://3in30podcast.com/phones/ Episode 41"How to Really See Your Child and Help Them See You": http://3in30podcast.com/look-with/ Dr. Katie Penry's website: afriendlyaffair.com Dr. Katie Penry's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/afriendlyaffair/?hl=en **There are a few tickets left to my workshops in Idaho happening in January and February.  I'd love to meet you!  3in30podcast.com/workshops **Sign up to receive a copy of our monthly newsletter with ALL of the takeaways from that months' episodes: 3in30podcast.com/takeaways **Find me on Instagram and say hi! https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/
Jan 07, 2019
How to Accomplish Big Projects in your (Rare) Spare Moments as a Mom // April Perry of Learn Do Become
If you often go to bed feeling like you will never get caught up on all of your responsibilities, wondering how you could've worked so hard all day and still have a massive to-do list, this episode is for you. April Perry, the co-founder of the websites Power of Moms and Learn Do Become, shares a step-by-step process for accomplishing big projects, even when you have very little free time.  April has spent thousands of hours developing an organization system that help important people--from business leaders to mothers--control the chaos in their *minds* so they can focus on their true priorities,. In this episode, April explains this process in detail: 1) Make an ACCURATE list of all of the projects you have brewing in your mind.  (Include for your family, for you, and beyond.) 2) Narrow that list to no more than 7-8 projects to tackle this month.  Put that shorter list in a visible place to reference often. 3) Using that list, identify tiny "next actions" that will move each project forward. Show Notes For more on April's organizational programs, start with this FREE training, How to Finally Stop Drowning in Piles: https://sb244.isrefer.com/go/TRAINSTEP1/podcast3in30 PowerofMoms.com LearnDoBecome.com Getting Things Done by David Allen: https://amzn.to/2VgltXq Essentialism by Greg McKeown: https://amzn.to/2RjG6To **There are a few tickets left to my workshops in Idaho happening in January and February.  I'd love to meet you!  3in30podcast.com/workshops **Sign up to receive a copy of our monthly newsletter with ALL of the takeaways from that months' episodes: 3in30podcast.com/takeaways **Find me on Instagram and say hi! https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/
Dec 31, 2018
How to Take Control of your Motherhood Story // Cate Johnson
"At any given point, you can say, 'This is not how the story is going to end.'" Cate Johnson was a mother of two young children with a big, beautiful home in the country.  From the outside, it looked like she was "living the dream," but inside, she felt like she was drowning. She craved peace and connection with her children--but instead she felt only chaos and overwhelm. She spent hours cleaning her big home while her kids watched television. She felt heartbroken that she was not the mother that she had always wanted to be. After hitting a breaking point, she decided to take control of her motherhood story. She took a few drastic actions--such as deciding with her husband to sell their home in the country and move into a small apartment in the city--but most of her shifts were small. But they altered her motherhood story and the way she felt about motherhood. Cate has a message of hope for all of us: We can live true to our values as mothers and take control of our motherhood stories.  Listen in to learn how! Show Notes Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne: https://amzn.to/2LCK2JC Lullaby Playlist: https://www.amazon.com/Lullaby-Playlist-Dream-Baby/dp/B00HEHXH6G/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1511810328&sr=8-1&keywords=Lullaby+PLaylist WholeFamilyRhythms.com **There are a few tickets left to my workshops in Idaho happening in January and February.  I'd love to meet you!  3in30podcast.com/workshops **Sign up to receive a copy of our monthly newsletter with ALL of the takeaways from that months' episodes: 3in30podcast.com/takeaways **Find me on Instagram and say hi! https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/
Dec 24, 2018
How to Support a Friend during the Holidays who has Lost a Loved One // Rachel Gainer
The holiday season is a beautiful and magical time for most of us--but it can also be a time of loneliness and heartache for those who have lost loved ones. This episode is a reminder of the little things we can do to reach out to those who are grieving during this time of year. Rachel Gainer, a mother of five including an angel baby, shares her experience of losing her 2-month-old daughter, Daphne. She talks about the meaningful ways that family and friends supported her during that enormous loss and in the years since. Though this topic may seem a bit heavy, the episode is full of hope, love, and goodness, and it is sure to give you great ideas if you've ever wondered just what to do for someone who is hurting. Don't forget the invitation at the end of this episode: Please reach out this week to someone in your own life who could use some extra support and love as the holidays approach. Show Notes Rachel's website: RachelRebuilt.com Rachel's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachel_rebuilt/ **There are a few tickets left to my workshops in Idaho happening in January and February.  I'd love to meet you!  3in30podcast.com/workshops
Dec 17, 2018
059: 3 Tips to Create More Time in Your Day // Lauren Golden of The Free Mama Movement
As a mother of three young children and the owner of a successful business, Lauren Golden knows busyness and stress well; but she refuses to live in a constant state of overwhelm. Instead, she takes control of her life by taking control of her TIME. In this week's episode, Lauren teaches us three of her best strategies for creating more time as we juggle motherhood and all of the other worthy aspects of our life:   1) Saying "no" sometimes (and "no" doesn't mean "never") 2) Using the acronym D.R.O.P it as a way to reduce what's on our list 3) Prioritizing her to-do list using "The Daily Five"   We hope this episode helps you during this busy holiday season! **And don't forget to Leave a Review on the show this week! It's my goal to reach 800 by the end of the week.  Thank you so much for your endless support!** Show Notes Lauren's Website: https://www.thefreemamamovement.com/go The Free Mama Movement on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefreemamamovement/ https://www.facebook.com/LaurenGoldenFreeMama/ Lauren's Book: The Free Mama: How to Work from Home, Control your Schedule, and Make More Money (launching Thurs, Dec 13): https://amzn.to/2QniKwx Patrice Washington: "I'm Not Above Backing Out" https://www.patricewashington.com/relationships/im-not-above-backing-out/
Dec 10, 2018
058: What Happened to my Sex Drive & What Can I Do to Get It Back? // Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in relationship and sexuality counseling. On today's podcast, she discusses three common ways that women's mindsets around sex can decrease our desire. You're going to want a pen and paper as you listen to this one. This woman is a genius, and she dives DEEP into our psyches! Get ready to take notes. If you are interested in more of Dr. Finalyson-Fife's work, go to http://www.finlayson-fife.com/ and check out her courses, which are 20% off through Christmas. I highly recommend! Show Notes Art of Desire Course: http://www.finlayson-fife.com/art-post-lms/ "How to Embrace Your Inner Hotness" by Leta Greene: https://www.amazon.com/How-Embrace-Your-Inner-Hotness-ebook/dp/B00N7VTACS
Dec 03, 2018
057: How to Document your Family Without Torturing Them // Rebecca Sior, Professional Photographer
In this modern era when many of us have cameras in our pockets at every moment of the day, we take a lot of photos of our children. The storage on our phones is full, and the children in our homes are sick of being little on-demand models. But we want the memories! We want to capture their cute little faces! How can we document our family life without torturing our children and driving ourselves crazy in the process?? It’s possible, and professional photographer and mother of three Rebecca Sior is on the podcast today to teach us HOW. This interview is full of practical takeaways that will shift your perspective about which photos are worth taking—and how to get those photos in the most painless ways possible. A perfect episode as we head into all the memory-making of the holidays. Don’t miss it! Search for ‘3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms’ in your favorite podcast app, or listen via my website: 3in30podcast.com. Show Notes Rebecca's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rebeccasiorphoto/ Rebecca's Website: https://www.rebeccasiorphoto.com/ ***Get tickets for my "Declutter your Motherhood" workshop in Boise and Twin Falls! 3in30podcast.com/workshops
Nov 26, 2018
How to Help your Kids Stay Sane this Holiday Season // Carrie Scott, LMFT
If your kids are anything like my kids, they may start to lose their minds around this time of year. With an excessive of sugar, excitement, late nights, and holiday fun, my little cherubs can suddenly start acting like little demons, right when I want them to behave for family gatherings and traditions. What's a mama to do?? On today’s episode, Carrie Thomas Scott–a licensed professional counselor and a mother herself–uses the four pillars of Simplicity Parenting to teach us how to protect our kids from catching a “soul fever” this holiday season. Listen in for concrete strategies on how to help your children stay balanced and soul-healthy this holiday using these four pillars:   1. Environment 2. Schedule 3. Rhythms 4. Filtering Out the Adult World Show Notes Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne: https://amzn.to/2QTjnhJ SimplicityParenting.com **Sign up to receive a copy of our monthly newsletter with ALL of the takeaways from that months' episodes: 3in30podcast.com/takeaways **Find me on Instagram and say hi! https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/
Nov 19, 2018
056: How to Raise a Polite Teenager // Devon Wellington, Psychologist and Cotillion Director
Do you ever worry that your children, who are growing up in the era of the smartphone, aren't going to know how to look someone in the eye, have a genuine conversation with them, and display respect and courtesy? I know that I worry about this a lot!  But today's guest, Devon Wellington--a mother, a developmental psychologist, and the co-director of the Northern Virginia Chapters of the National League of Junior Cotillions--assures us that there is a lot we can do as mothers to teach our children these essential life skills. In this episode, Devon shares strategies for how to teach our teenagers... How to show appreciation How to make a proper introduction How to be present where you are This is a fascinating episode with many practical gems--don't miss it. Show Notes Devon's Instagram account: https://www.instagram.com/etiquette_and_class/ Devon's Cotillion website: https://nljc.com/n/index.php/chapters/northernvirginiachapters/group 'On Being' with Krista Tippett and Greg Boyle: https://onbeing.org/programs/greg-boyle-the-calling-of-delight-gangs-service-and-kinship-nov2017/ **Join our community on Instagram!  Each week, I post content that relates to the most recent episode, and it's where I get to engage with listeners.  I love it, and I'd love to meet you over there! https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/
Nov 12, 2018
36 Takeaways from 12 Mothers: A Compilation of #my3in30
To celebrate the 1st birthday of the podcast, I asked listeners to share their *own* three takeaways on social media (#my3in30) and with their friends and family.  I have been overwhelmed by the response and the creativity and wisdom of this community of mothers! Your takeaways have been incredible!! Today on the podcast, you will hear 12 mothers from our podcast community share their 3 takeaways...so that's 36 takeaways in all!  Get ready! Don't forget, you can get a copy of all 36 takeaways PLUS the takeaways from this entire month of episodes by signing up at 3in30podcast.com/takeaways. Many thanks to our 3 in 30 birthday sponsor: Brightbox, the easy, affordable way to brighten someone's day through happy mail!  I love this company.  Check them out!!  https://brightboxes.shop And thanks to the women who contributed to this episode! Jody, ShaeLynn (@happyhealthyfrugalmom), Mary, Sarah (sarahbadatrichardson.com), Georgia (knowhowmom.com), Kalisha (@whyimother), Joy (regularcoolmom.com), Kristin (@heworksweplay), Lindsey (@momminutesaregold), Shawnee, Taffy (thejoyfulsoulproject.com), Chamaine (wanderingfamilies.com)
Nov 05, 2018
054: What If I’m Jealous? // Monica Packer of About Progress
Have you ever been a little bit jealous, even of a good friend? I'm guessing the answer is YES because most of us face jealousy to varying degrees and in various forms throughout our lives. In this episode, I talk openly with my dear friend and podcasting colleague, Monica Packer of About Progress, about how we have been jealous of each other at times--and what we've decided to *do* with that emotion. Monica shares three "dive deep" questions to ask yourself if you recognize that you're feeling jealous and if you want to use that feeling to become a better person and friend.  (Yes, it's possible!) Don't miss this honest, heartfelt episode, and let us know what it makes you think about in your own life! **This is the last week to share #my3in30 in order to win a Brightbox from Rachel, so don't delay!  All of the details can be found here: 3in30podcast.com/my3in30 Show Notes Monica's Website: https://aboutprogress.com/ Monica's Podcast: https://aboutprogress.com/podcast/ Monica's Progress Program: https://aboutprogress.com/progress-program/ Monica's article on Power of Moms that started our friendship: https://powerofmoms.com/mothering-doesnt-come-naturally/ Episode 42 "How to Love Someone When It's Complicated or Hard: Lessons from Open Adoption": http://3in30podcast.com/open-adoption/ **Many thanks to our 3 in 30 birthday sponsor, Brightbox, the easy, affordable way to brighten someone's day through happy mail!  I love this company.  Check them out!!  https://brightboxes.shop
Oct 29, 2018
53: How to Show Up in the World with Confidence–Even When You Don’t Have Confidence // Brooke White
If you have a dream, big or small, that's been tugging on your heart--or if you've allowed your fears to get in the way of you showing up fully in the world--this episode is for YOU. Brooke White is a musician and a mother of two. She has recorded eight albums with a ninth coming out in early 2019.  Brooke got her "big break" when she appeared in season 7 of American Idol and finished in the Top 5. In the midst of this success, when the world saw a beautiful young woman with talent and fame, Brooke faced debilitating anxiety and fears that she wasn't good enough. In our conversation today, we discuss... how Brooke faced harsh criticism in a very public review in a LA music magazine (she reads it aloud on this episode!) how Brooke made a big mistake in front of 40 million viewers on American Idol how Brooke survived those moments, and many others that have come before and after, and has continued to pursue music with a self-confidence rooted in love, faith, and gratitude In this episode, Brooke and I laugh, we tell stories, and yes, we sing.  Well, Brooke does. ;) You don't want to miss this truly unique and inspiring episode of 3 in 30. Show Notes #my3in30 Birthday Challenge: 3in30podcast.com/my3in30 Brooke's Instagram: @realbrookewhite https://www.instagram.com/realbrookewhite/?hl=en Brooke's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/thegirlswithglasses Brooke's Spotify List: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6Cr8hmfVbgB6ckZbDryCNz Brooke Castillo's Podcast: https://thelifecoachschool.com/podcasts/
Oct 22, 2018
052: Three Ways I’ve Changed Because of 3 in 30 (and I Hope You’ve Changed Too!)
Hooray!!!  It's the 1st Birthday of 3 in 30!! After a truly fantastic first year, I am feeling so reflective and grateful.  THANK YOU for listening week after week, sharing the episodes with your friends, and adding to the discussion on Instagram and through emails! I have truly loved learning from you. In this episode, I share three major shifts that have occurred inside of me since starting 3 in 30. As you listen, I hope that you will recognize that you've experienced similar shifts as well. I also invite you to participate in a birthday celebration for 3 in 30 through the #my3in30 campaign.  You can hear all the details in the last 15 minutes of the podcast, or check out the overview here: http://3in30podcast.com/my3in30/ I can't wait to hear your takeaways over the next two weeks!! Many thanks to our 3 in 30 Birthday sponsor, Bright Box, the easy affordable way to brighten someone's day through happy mail!  I love this company. Check them out!! https://brightboxes.shop/
Oct 15, 2018
051: How (and Why) to Get Involved in the Political Process as a Mom // Lacey Parr
This episode  couldn't come at a better time. Lacey Parr, mother of three and devoted community-builder, reminds us that politics doesn't have to be contentious--it can be about advocating with love for the issues that are the most important to us. In this interview, Lacey teaches mothers... *how to get involved in local government and policy in small but significant ways *how to become a more balanced consumer of news *where to start if we are passionate about a subject *why busy mothers should even care--and how to bring our children along with us ...and much more! Don't miss this important episode.  And don't forget to register to vote!  Mid-term elections are coming up. Show Notes Media Bias Chart: https://www.adfontesmedia.com/the-chart-version-3-0-what-exactly-are-we-reading/ Find out more about how to vote in your area: https://www.vote.org/
Oct 08, 2018
050: How to Actually Listen to your Children // Kim Jacobs
Are you guilty of the distracted "Uh huh" when your children are telling you a story? When they pause for your reaction, do you realize that you have no idea what they just said? If so, you're not alone. And this week's guest, Kim Jacobs, is here to help! She has a Master's degree is Interpersonal and Family Communication, and she's a mom of four young boys. In this episode, we discuss... -how to use non-verbal communication to make sure your children feel heard -how "mirroring" can help our children know that we are empathizing with them -how paraphrasing can help us to reconnect with a child after we've been interrupted -how to lovingly hurry your child along when they are telling a 25-minute long story ;) -how to use "perception checking" to give our kids the benefit of the doubt and a chance to explain themselves ...and much more! And don't forget to sign up for the monthly sheet of takeaways, which will now be sent on the first Friday of each new month: 3in30podcast.com/takeaways Show Notes Power of Moms article about twins who developed a stutter: https://powerofmoms.com/putting-on-the-brakes/ Marilyn Faulkner's episode "How to Raise Confident Children: http://3in30podcast.com/confidence/
Oct 01, 2018
049: How to Involve Your Children as you Build a Business // Tonya Dalton of ‘inkWELL Press’
Some of you may see this episode title and think, "YES! I need this!"  Others may think, "Not for me--I don't have any intention of starting a business." But believe it or not, this episode is for ALL mamas.  Because I think all of us want to involve our children in the passions that are important to us. Today's guest is Tonya Dalton of inkWELL Press.  She is a powerhouse business woman and a loving wife and mother of two.  She built several businesses from her home while her kids were young, and she has so many practical tips on how to do just that.  Within her takeaways, she also talks about empowering our kids to contribute to the home, modeling for them how to have boundaries and work as a team, and teaching them how to plan ahead and use their time wisely. I really think this episode has golden nuggets for EVERY mama, no matter what you do for work--take a listen and let me know if you agree! Show Notes Tonya's Website: inkwellpress.com Weekly Kickstart: https://inkwellpress.com/collections/organizational-notepads-for-weekly-daily-planning/products/weekly-planning-notepad Daily Download: https://inkwellpress.com/collections/organizational-notepads-for-weekly-daily-planning/products/daily-download-notepad Tonya's Podcast, 'Productivity Paradox': https://ppx.inkwellpress.com/ Past '3 in 30' episodes that further this topic: "How to Get Your Kids to Do a Daily Quiet Time" podcast: http://3in30podcast.com/quiet_time/ "How to Find Time for Personal Development as a Mom: The 3 Ps": http://3in30podcast.com/3Ps/
Sep 24, 2018
048: How to Find Time for Personal Development As a Mom–The 3 Ps // Mary Jenkins
In the busiest seasons of motherhood, it can feel like we have NO time for our own goals and personal development.  This week's guest, Mary Jenkins, has some advice for how we can fit it in!  Mary is a mother of two, a social media marketer, and a graduate student.  She is passionate about self development and making it manageable for busy mothers.  Don't miss her "3 Ps" of personal development for mamas (and we actually add a 4th as we talk during the episode)! Show Notes "Mommy Is a Person" by April Perry on Power of Moms: https://powerofmoms.com/mommy-is-a-person-april-perry/ "Fighting Against Mom-Guilt" podcast: http://3in30podcast.com/mom-guilt/ "Running with Joy" by Mary Jenkins on Power of Moms: https://powerofmoms.com/running-with-joy/
Sep 17, 2018
047: How to Respectfully Advocate for your Children (and Model for them How to do the Same) // Emily Orchard, SLP
"At some point, all of our children need us to be their voice... How do we find the balance between helping our children be successful and letting them do hard things? How do we speak to teachers, coaches, leaders and peers in a way that opens hearts and opportunities? How do we navigate a situation when we feel our children are not safe? How do we help our children to find their own voice and (when possible) learn to advocate for themselves?" This is a direct quote that I received in an email from Emily Orchard, a listener of this podcast who is a mother of four and a Speech Language Pathologist.  As she's worked as an SLP in the schools for the past 16 years, she has become passionate about teaching parents how to advocate for their kids.  This topic became especially meaningful to her when she found that her own son needed some additional support and advocacy. Don't miss this incredibly useful episode, which will help you to feel prepared for the next opportunity you have to speak up on your child's behalf. Show Notes Get a sheet of ALL of the podcast takeaways! 3in30podcast.com/takeaways
Sep 10, 2018
046: Three Life-Changing Mantras to Remember During the Marathon of Motherhood // Taffy Micheli of ‘The Joyful Soul Project’
Whether or not you are a runner, you are going to love this episode about lessons that Taffy Micheli has learned about motherhood while training for marathons. Listen in to hear her share three truly life-changing mantras that she has relied on to get her through long runs and difficult experiences. I've heard from many listeners that this is one of their all-time favorite episodes--so don't miss it! Show Notes Taffy's Podcast, "The Joyful Soul Project": https://www.thejoyfulsoulproject.com/ Don't forget to sign up for the "Small and Simple Challenge!" 3 in 30 episode about "looking up" from our phones: http://3in30podcast.com/phones/ "Give Us This Day Our Daily Bread" by D Todd Christofferson: https://www.lds.org/broadcasts/article/ces-devotionals/2011/01/give-us-this-day-our-daily-bread?lang=eng
Sep 03, 2018
045: Using Humor as a Coping Tool in Motherhood // Family Looking Up
Family life is a bit insane. As mothers, we say and do things we never thought we would say or do.  We can cry at the end of a harrowing day...or we can laugh.  And the guests on today's episode choose to laugh! Beth, Andrea, and Camille from the podcast "Family Looking Up" are on the show today teaching us HOW to find humor and joy in the hard moments of motherhood. If you need a good chuckle or a pick-me-up to find the joy in your long days, this episode is for you. Show Notes Sign up to get ALL of the month's takeaways to your email: 3in30podcast.com/takeaways http://familylookingup.com/ My episode on their show: http://familylookingup.com/2018/04/17/creating-highlights-with-our-kids-guest-rachel-nielson/
Aug 27, 2018
044: Three Strategies to Find Joy after a Move // Jessica Dahlquist of ‘Extraordinary Moms Podcast’
Whether you've made a move this summer or you've lived in the same area for 10 years, this episode has takeaways for you!  Jessica Dahlquist, the host of The Extraordinary Moms Podcast, shares how to feel more "at home" where you live and how to reach out to others to make meaningful friendships. Jessica is a genius at connecting with others and building lifelong friendships, and you will be inspired to make simple changes in your life that will help you to "bloom where you're planted." Listen in, and be sure to share this episode with any friends who have moved recently! Show Notes -My episode on Jessica's podcast, The Extraordinary Moms Podcast: https://extraordinarymomspodcast.com/3in30/ -Episode about using the five senses to create a peaceful home: http://3in30podcast.com/peaceful-home/ -Episode about being a friend, instead of just being friendly: http://3in30podcast.com/friendship/ -Get monthly email with ALL of the takeaways: http://3in30podcast.com/takeaways/
Aug 21, 2018
043: What to Do When You Realize You Can’t Control Your Children // Marilyn Faulkner
How far into your motherhood journey were you before you realized that you can't control your children? The hilarious, wise Marilyn Faulkner is back on the podcast today to teach us how to move from "control-parenting" to "influence-parenting."  She is a fan-favorite on the show--and for good reason.  You're not going to want to miss her gems of wisdom (and hysterical comments) in this episode! Show Notes Marilyn's first episode, "How to Raise Confident Children": http://3in30podcast.com/confidence/ The Soul of Discipline by Kim John Payne: https://amzn.to/2B2AOop Marilyn's website: www.marilyngreenfaulkner.com Marilyn's books! The User-Friendly Book of Mormon: https://amzn.to/2B951Ck The User Friendly Old Testament: https://amzn.to/2KOpEDf Marilyn's daughters: Alison Faulkner of The Alison Show: http://thealisonshow.com/?cn-reloaded=1 Andrea Faulkner Williams of Tubby Todd Bath Co: https://tubbytodd.com/
Aug 13, 2018
042: How to Love Someone When It’s Complicated or Hard: Lessons from Open Adoption
This is the first time I've ever cried while recording a podcast episode.  It's also the first time I've ever recorded while whispering in a bathroom during a family reunion.  So basically, prepare yourself--this is going to be vulnerable and possibly bizarre for 3 in 30!  Ultimately, I hope it's helpful as you navigate your own  relationships and consider how to show more love in situations that can be complicated. The beginning of this episode is an excerpt from my interview with Tony Overbay for *his* podcast, The Virtual Couch.  Tony is such a warm and caring podcast host, I felt comfortable sharing one of the most sacred experiences of my life with him--and now I share it with you.  I can truly say that this experience with prayer changed the course of my life. In the second half of the episode, I add three takeaways and further explain my thoughts on how to love someone when it's hard. This episode is truly a piece of my heart and soul.  I hope you enjoy it. Show Notes -Full episode on Tony Overbay's podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/2018/05/07/episode-54-in-vitro-fertilization-and-open-adoption-w-rachel-nielson-host-of-3-in-30-takeaways-for-moms/ -Mother on Instagram who I love to follow: https://www.instagram.com/kellyejensen/
Aug 10, 2018
3 Messages of Hope for the Darkest Times: Lessons from Infertility, Adoption, and Loss (Encore!)
One year ago, I saw my son's birthmom for the last time. She had come to spend the weekend with us for Noah's 6th birthday, and it is a weekend I will never forget.  We explored the mountains near our new home, roasted marshmallows over a summer bonfire, and poured love on the amazing little boy who had brought us all so much joy. Before she left, we took photos on our front porch at sunset, and I marveled at the miracle of open adoption.  I snapped a photo of her kissing Noah's cheek, never imagining that it would be the last photo I would take of them together. Three months later, November 2017, Katie took her own life after a long battle with mental illness.  I recorded this episode a few days after I received the news of her death. As I grappled with how I could possibly face this loss, I decided to share "Three Messages of Hope for the Darkest Times." Within this episode, I talk about my journey with infertility, which ultimately lead me the miracle of Noah and his beautiful birthmom, Katie. I re-air the episode today in honor of Noah's birthday, which I always shared with Katie. Show Notes Infertility and Adoption Grants: bundledblessingsfertility.com I want to meet you! -Rediscover YOU! Workshop in Utah (September 28-29): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/rediscover-you-workshop-tickets-47833978718 -The Pearl Conference In Las Vegas, NV (November 17): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-pearl-conference-a-conference-for-mothers-tickets-48097368524
Aug 06, 2018
041: How to Really See your Children and Help them See You // Part 2 with Dr. Katie Penry, LCP
She's back!! In April, Dr. Katie Penry taught us "how to stop looking at our phones so much--and why it matters." Now she is back on the show to teach us the next step in this process. Listen in as this licensed clinical psychologist, who is also a mother of two children, teaches us very doable steps to build the kind of relationships with our kids where we truly see and respect them for who they are--and they do the same for us in return. Dr. Penry is a treasure-trove of practical knowledge for families.  You don't want to miss this episode! Show Notes -Part 1 with Dr. Katie Penry, "How to Stop Looking at Your Phone So Much--And Why It Matters": http://3in30podcast.com/phones/ -Look Up Challenge: https://afriendlyaffair.lpages.co/look-up-challenge/ -Dr. Penry's eCourse: Your Child's Fundamental Needs: afriendlyaffair.com/needs -Meditations from a Toolshed, C.S. Lewis: http://www.pacificaoc.org/wp-content/uploads/Meditation-in-a-Toolshed.pdf   I want to meet you! -Rediscover YOU! Workshop in Utah (September 28-29): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/rediscover-you-workshop-tickets-47833978718 -The Pearl Conference In Las Vegas, NV (November 17): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-pearl-conference-a-conference-for-mothers-tickets-48097368524
Jul 30, 2018
040: How to Adventure as a Family // Chamaine Wollenzein of ‘Wandering Families’
Are you an adventuring family or a stay-at-home-and-get-stuff-done family?  I sometimes fall into the latter category (I love my to-do lists!), but whenever I muster up the energy to take my children on an adventure, I never regret it.  We seem to grow closer to each other and make more lasting memories when we discover the world together. On today's episode, Chamaine Wallenzein, the found of Wandering Families and a mother of five young children, gives us practical tips and tricks for how and why to adventure with our families. And if you're not a hiker or camper, don't worry--this episode is still for you!  Chamaine and I discuss how an adventure is any type of shared experience that is out of the ordinary--and you can totally tailor that according to your family culture! Listen in to this wise and spunky mama, and be inspired to build in more opportunities for connection and memories with your family!   Show Notes Chamaine's website, Wandering Families: http://www.wanderingfamilies.com/ How to Raise a Wild Child: The Art and Science of Falling in Love with Nature by Scott Sampson:  https://amzn.to/2NDwcq2 Timbernook (outdoor sensory play program): http://www.timbernook.com/2017/index.html Dr. Katie Penry's episode "How to Stop Looking at Your Phone So Much--And Why It Matters": http://3in30podcast.com/phones/ Let's Meet at the Rediscover YOU Workshop in Draper, UT (September 28-29): http://3in30podcast.com/lets-meet/   Great Quotes from the Episode -"The natural world seems to invite and facilitate parent-child connection and sensitive interactions. Unplugging and taking a baby away from electronic distractions creates an opportunity for what is called 'affective sharing' - oohing and aahing together over the sun shining through the leaves of a big tree...feeling a soft spring rain or a light winter snowfall on your face.”  Martha Farrell Erickson -"If a child is to keep alive his inborn sense of wonder...he [or she] needs the companionship of at least one adult who can share, rediscovering the joy, excitement, and mystery of the world we live in.”  Rachel Carson
Jul 23, 2018
039: Leaving a Legacy of Love for Our Children: A Musical Tribute to My Mama
July 14th marked 15 years since my mother passed away from breast cancer.  I've been thinking about this milestone for months, and it occurred to me that I could use music to honor her. Most people don't know that I am a singer, and within this episode, you will hear me sing five different songs that remind me of my mother.  I will tell the story behind each song, and you will see how they all weave together to create a picture of the legacy that my mother left for me. This episode is truly a piece of my heart.  My hope is that it will bring you hope and perspective in your own motherhood journey.
Jul 16, 2018
038: How to Get your Teenagers to Talk to You (and it Starts When They are Young) // Tony Overbay, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
He's baaccck!  Our favorite male guest is back on the podcast today teaching us how to talk to our children in a way that fosters trust and communication--so they know they can talk to us into their teenage years and beyond. Tony Overbay is a Licensed Family and Marriage Therapist and a father of four young adults, so he has professional and personal experience with this topic.  Whether you are currently parenting teenagers, or you will be parenting teenagers in a few years, there is something for you in this episode! Listen in to learn how to truly... 1) Invite open and honest communication, no matter what 2) Listen with empathy and recognize emotional bids (EFT) 3) Follow up to let your children know that their thoughts matter to you Show Notes -Tony's first episode on 3 in 30, "How to Praise Your Child, Even When It Feels Like There is Nothing to Praise": http://3in30podcast.com/praise/ -Tony's website: tonyoverbay.com -Tony's podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/category/podcast/ -Tony's top parenting book recommendation: Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured-Heart Approach, https://amzn.to/2ucXf3C -Emotionally-Focused Therapy, Sue Johnson: http://drsuejohnson.com/emotionally-focused-therapy-2/what-is-eft/
Jul 09, 2018
037: Teaching Children to Work Without Being a Drill Sergeant // Danielle Porter
Danielle Porter and I have been friends for about six years, ever since I started working with the organization, Power of Moms.  During that time, I have seen her go from a mother of three young children to a mother of six young children (her oldest is about eleven), and I have admired how fully she has committed herself to learning how to be the best mother she can be.  Danielle is truly deliberate about every decision she makes in her home, and she has tried out many systems and strategies over the years. I benefit from hearing her advice as her family and her wisdom grows, and today she is going to share some of that with us on the podcast! I asked her to teach us how to teach our children to work--and I was honestly surprised by her takeaways.  But her words also resonated as truth in my heart and reminded me that a little love, patience, and perspective goes a long way.  Listen to this wise mama's words, and let me know what you think   Show Notes -Power of Moms' article with cleaning games, "Keeping It Clean": https://powerofmoms.com/keeping-it-clean/ -Last week's episode, "Momming Like a Boss": http://3in30podcast.com/momming-like-a-boss/ -Candi Kidd's episode, "Getting Unmotivated Kids to Help": http://3in30podcast.com/unmotivated-kids-to-help/ -Tony Overbay episode, "How to Praise Your Child When It Feels Like There is Nothing to Praise": http://3in30podcast.com/praise/
Jul 02, 2018
036: Momming Like a Boss: Using Corporate Leadership Strategies in Our Homes // Whitney Archibald of ‘How She Moms’
When Whitney Archibald started working as a magazine editor after college, she naturally excelled in this leadership role.  She effectively managed her team, created clear objectives for their work, and maintained focus and excellence in her responsibilities. When she was pregnant with her third baby, she decided to start staying home full-time with her children--and one day she looked around her chaotic home and realized that she was not excelling in this "second career" in her life.  Determined to make a change, she started putting as much commitment into learning how to manage her home as she had put into learning how to manage her responsibilities at work. She discovered that many of the same strategies that she had applied in her business life could be applied in this new phase of her life--and today on the podcast she is sharing those strategies with us! Listen in to find out how you can take small but meaningful steps towards "Momming Like a Boss" and managing your home and family more effectively and with more confidence.   Show Notes Whitney's website: https://www.howshemoms.com/ Whitney's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howshemoms/ "Cleaning Strategies for the Naturally Messy Mom" podcast: http://3in30podcast.com/cleaning-strategies/ Get a recap of ALL of the months' takeaways: 3in30podcast.com/takeaways
Jun 25, 2018
035: Modeling for our Children How to Endure with Hope // Ralphie Jacobs of Simply on Purpose and her father, Bob Peters
How do we stay positive when we face incomprehensible trials?  How do we endure well and allow our struggles to soften and strengthen us?  And perhaps most importantly, how do we model this kind of resilience for our children? Today on the podcast, Ralphie Jacobs, the respected parenting expert from Simply on Purpose, talks about her heroic father who, as a father of nine children, was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis when Ralphie was five years old.  He lost the ability to walk by the time Ralphie was ten, and he has endured MS for over 30 years. This interview is especially meaningful because Ralphie's father joins us on the call.  Ralphie wanted him to hear her tribute to him and to add his own thoughts to the discussion--and it is a truly tender and touching conversation between a beloved father and "his girl." I felt honored to be apart of this sacred conversation, and I know you will feel the same after you listen.  You will come away braver, more determined to stay positive, and completely inspired to invest in your children when they are young--so you can have rich relationships with them that last a lifetime. Show Notes -Ralphie's Instagram account and teaching platform, Simply on Purpose: https://www.instagram.com/simplyonpurpose/?hl=en -Ralphie's interview on the Extraordinary Moms Podcast: https://extraordinarymomspodcast.com/ralphie/ -Ralphie's first interview on 3 in 30, "How to Step Yelling at Your Kids": http://3in30podcast.com/yelling/
Jun 18, 2018
How to Stop Being Mean to Yourself (Encore!)
The past few weeks at our house have been so busy that I've slipped into some negative self-talk and coping behaviors. Whenever this happens, I feel so frustrated with myself, thinking, "Rachel, you know better than this!  You've learned great strategies in counseling over the past six years to help you stay in the positive!" That's when I remind myself that recovery isn't linear.  We can have little setbacks along the way, without being all the way back at the beginning.  Yes, I've come a long way since the beginning of my therapy journey, but I'm still learning and practicing--and that's okay. This Encore episode is as much as reminder for ME as it is for you.  I've recorded a new intro to tell you what's going on in my life right now, and then I re-air what I consider to be one of the most important episodes I've ever published. Whether or not you've listened to this episode before, I hope you will listen!   Show Notes "The Surprising Way I Confronted my Eating Disorder" (narrative therapy): https://powerofmoms.com/eating-disorder/ "Unhealthy Stress or Habits? Break the Cycle!" (podcast on Power of Moms): https://powerofmoms.com/unhealthy-stress/ "Listening to and Loving your Body through Intuitive Eating" (podcast on Power of Moms): https://powerofmoms.com/intuitive-eating/
Jun 11, 2018
034: How to Meditate in the Midst of Mayhem // Dr. Leah Weiss
Do you laugh aloud at the thought of having a few minutes to meditate during busy days with your children?  What if I told you that you could be meditating THE ENTIRE DAY, even in the midst of chaotic, everyday moments with your little minions? Dr. Leah Weiss--an author, a mindfulness expert who studied with the Dali Lama, a professor at the Stanford Graduate School of Business, and a mother of three little children--teaches that this is possible.  It just requires that we redefine (or rather, correctly define) the word "meditation." The word "meditation" is a translation from the Tibetan word "gom."  Dr. Weiss points out that a more literal definition of this word is simply "familiarization" or "getting to know your mind and heart."  When explained this way, busy moms can let go of visions of silent meditation rooms and burning incense (though those things are great too!) and instead embrace every moment with their children as an opportunity to "familiarize" themselves with their own hearts and minds.  In fact, motherhood itself can become meditation. Join me for this fascinating conversation with a renowned mindfulness expert who teaches us the Tibetan process of "dampa sum," meaning "good in the beginning, good in the middle, and good in the end." Show Notes LeahWeissPhd.com "How We Work: Live Your Purpose, Reclaim Your Sanity, and Embrace the Daily Grind" by Dr. Leah Weiss https://amzn.to/2sz6Wby "Motherhood Matters: Are You Willing to Suffer?" by Laura Fanucci: https://www.deseretnews.com/article/865638913/Motherhood-Matters-Are-you-willing-to-suffer.html
Jun 04, 2018
033: How to Get Your Kids to Do Quiet Time
Thank you so very much for leaving Reviews on my podcast this week for my birthday!  I absolutely loved reading your words.  This extra episode is my way of saying, "THANK YOU--I LOVE YOU!" Instituting a daily Quiet Time is one of the BEST things I've done for my kids (and for me!).  But I know it's not always easy to do it, especially with strong willed kiddos.  I hope my three tips will help you to start this routine in your family! Show Notes "Okay to Wake" Clock That Turns Green: https://amzn.to/2LtZkjq Quiet Time 101 by April Perry of Power of Moms: https://powerofmoms.com/mommys-naptime-101-2/ Quiet Time: My Very Best Parenting Secret by Jansen of Everyday Reading: https://everyday-reading.com/quiet-time-my-very-best-parenting-secret/
Jun 01, 2018
032: Three Tips to Make This Summer the Best Ever // Jamie Cook of Wander and Scout
Ready or not, here it comes. Yes, summer is here, my friends.  Are you a mom who is giddy with excitement at the prospect of long summer days with your children?  Or, like me, are you shivering in fear a little bit, thinking about all of that unstructured time that often leads to a lot of fighting, a lot of mess, and very little alone time for Mom? Jamie Cook, a mother of four who is passionate about bringing magic and adventure to everyday moments with our kids, is on the podcast today to give us three tips to make this summer our best ever. Her ideas are realistic and adaptable to every stage of life and style of mothering.  She gives so many specific examples and stories, under each takeaway, so you are going to want a pen and paper ready! **And don't forget to give Rachel her birthday present. ;)  Leave a Review for 3 in 30 podcast this week! Show Notes Jamie's Instagram Account: https://www.instagram.com/wander_and_scout/?hl=en "How to Create a More Peaceful Home" podcast with information about family rhythms: http://3in30podcast.com/peaceful-home/ April Perry's article about "Quiet Time": https://powerofmoms.com/mommys-naptime-101-2/ Clock that turns green: https://amzn.to/2LtZkjq Lisa Anderson who does theme weeks with her kids: https://www.instagram.com/thrivingmotherhood/ Sign up to get a monthly printable of ALL of the takeaways: 3in30podcast.com/takeaways Taryn Palmer's POINTS System for her kids (see my Instagram for a full explanation): https://drive.google.com/file/d/1BvXj0dmlIvhJBWfPnQ59B11QXeZs2OWE/view?usp=sharing https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ftlw-ATkXNQnjaEUQza8mK2tHQnQ2FFQ/view?usp=sharing Simpler Version with PROS:  https://drive.google.com/file/d/1DoNBiQ6CP6kCiq8gQr_S2yEIhyDBJ3Zj/view?usp=sharing PDF Version: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1W4UrNTWMEJ_o0vxseQ-nEmIplAmDCncG/view?usp=sharing
May 28, 2018
031: Three Easy Ways to Teach Children the True Meaning of Patriotic Holidays // Brittany Richman and Andrea Reeve, The American Moms
Let's play two truths and a lie about this week's podcast guests: They are twin sisters. One of them worked on Capitol Hill as the press secretary for two US Senators. One of them worked in the White House in the office of presidential speech writing. You guessed it...there's no lie.  All three of those impressive facts are TRUTH.  The moms on today's episode have very unique life experiences, and they share their knowledge about politics, government, and American history with other moms through their website TheAmericanMoms.com. On today's episode, they teach us how to make the upcoming patriotic holidays, particularly Memorial Day and the 4th of July, more meaningful than just a neighborhood pool party. Don't miss hearing their insights about making patriotism part of your family culture, and all of their specific ideas and links are below!   Show Notes The American Moms Website: theamericanmoms.com The American Moms Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theamericanmoms/ App to find historical sites near you, "History Here": https://www.history.com/history-here Favorite book series to teach children about historical people: Ordinary People Change the World A Dozen Books to Get Your Kids Excited about America: http://theamericanmoms.com/12-of-the-best-books-to-teach-patriotism-to-your-children/ Patriotic resource list from the website "Raise the Good:" http://www.raisethegood.com/blog/10-patriotic-movies-for-families The books I purchased to teach my kids about patriotic holidays: The Poppy Lady by Barbara Walsh: https://amzn.to/2GBeorS America's White Table by Margot Theis Raven: https://amzn.to/2KEAETW The Wall by Eve Bunting: https://amzn.to/2Lm7rhI Don't Forget, God Bless Our Troops by Jill Biden: https://amzn.to/2LlDIFN Night Catch by Brenda Ehrmantraut: https://amzn.to/2GBgvvO Memorial Day (Rookie Read-About Holidays) by Jacqueline S. Cotton: https://amzn.to/2Li14fH I Am George Washington (Ordinary People Change the World) by Brad Meltzer: https://amzn.to/2s2FWkz (These are affiliate links, so if you purchase one of these books, it supports the podcast.  Thank you!)   Other Resources from "The American Moms": 10 Meaningful Ways to Celebrate Memorial Day: http://theamericanmoms.com/meaningful-ways-celebrate-memorial-day-kids/ Teaching My Children What the American Flag Means to Me: http://theamericanmoms.com/lessons-i-hope-my-children-remember-when-they-see-the-american-flag/ 12 Meaningful Ways to Celebrate Independence Day: http://theamericanmoms.com/meaningful-ways-to-celebrate-independence-day-with-your-kids/   Quote from the Episode: "One might also say that history is not about the past.  If you think about it, no one ever lived in the past. Washington, Jefferson, John Adams and their contemporaries, didn't walk around saying 'Isn't this fascinating living in the past? Aren't we wearing our funny clothes?' They lived in the present. The difference is, it was their present, not ours. They were caught up living in the moment exactly as we are, and with no more certainty of how things would turn out than we have." David McCullough
May 21, 2018
030: How to Coach your Children through their Big Emotions // Georgia Anderson of KnowHowMom.com
Our little kids come with big emotions—too big, it sometimes seems, for their little bodies. And sometimes (often?) those feelings just come bursting out in bizarre and irrational behaviors. As parents, this can bring out the bizarre and irrational in us as well, despite our best intentions to stay calm and level-headed. Today on the podcast, we have a parenting expert who is going to teach us how to coach our children through their emotions, so we can keep ahold of our own. Georgia Anderson of knowhowmom.com is a wife, mother, stepmother, mother-in-law, and grandmother to 28 people she adores. She has taught parenting classes for three decades and is a Certified Active Parenting Instructor and a Gottman Trained Educator. In this episode, she walks us through three of the steps to "emotion coach" our children through their big emotions:   1) Notice emotions when they are small. 2) Put words to emotions. 3) Set limits and problem solve.   There are so many gems and insights in this episode, as she walks me through a specific scenario when my six-year-old son got extremely angry.  I think it will be helpful for you to hear me coached on how I can coach him.  I have applied these steps in the weeks since this interview was recorded, and it has honestly changed my relationship with my son.  Please listen! Notes Georgia's website: knowhowmom.com Georgia's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowhowmomtips/ Upcoming Emotion Coaching Workshop with Georgia: http://www.knowhowmom.com/class/emotion-coaching-for-parents-2/ Book Recommendation: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman
May 14, 2018
029: Making the Most of Everyday Moments to Connect with Our Children // April Perry of Power of Moms
When her mother was dying of Alzheimers, April Perry felt an urgency to write a book about her--to capture in words the beautiful memories and lessons of her life. Each Thursday, she would spend the day with her mom and dad, and she would read them the latest chapter from her book, reliving with them how much her mother had shaped her.  April says those Thursdays were some of the most sacred days of her life. Today on the podcast, we will talk about three chapters from April's book, which capture lessons about how to connect with our kids during everyday moments. This episode will remind you that you don't need to do more as a mother--you simply need to "lean in" to those mundane, everyday moments with your children that are actually making a profound difference to them. **To enter a giveaway for a copy of April's book, simply share a memory of your mother on social media this week and tag @3in30podcast, or send it to me in an email at 3in30podcast@gmail.com. Show Notes "Your Children Want YOU!" article from Power of Moms: https://powerofmoms.com/your-children-want-you/ Thursdays with Zoe (April's book): https://www.amazon.com/Thursdays-Zoe-Unforgettable-Stories-Alzheimers/dp/1537501275 "The Best Nine Minutes" article from Power of Moms: https://powerofmoms.com/the-nine-minutes-that-have-the-greatest-impact/?tag=powofmom-20 "Five Words That People In Your Life Need to Hear" by Christy Wright: https://www.businessboutique.com/2017/01/five-words-that-people-in-your-life-need-to-hear/ April's previous podcast on 3 in 30, "Getting Out of Overwhelm: A Step-by-Step Process": http://3in30podcast.com/overwhelm/
May 07, 2018
028: How to Raise Confident Children // Marilyn Faulkner
Marilyn Faulkner raised five rockstar children, helped her husband start multiple companies, got a Masters degree when she was 45, and published three books (with her next book due for publication in July). She spreads wisdom and laughter everywhere she goes, and she shares some of both on this week's episode.  (I dare you to listen to the entire 30 minutes without laughing aloud.) She is the mother of Alison Faulkner from TheAlisonShow.com and Andrea Williams from TubbyTodd.com.  She also has three incredibly smart and successful sons who may or may not be able to keep up with their sisters in a dance contest.  I'm waiting to see that. I met Marilyn at a branding workshop last November and immediately loved her.  So when a podcast listener asked me to get a grandma on the podcast who could give us some "looking back" advice, I knew just who to ask.  I wanted someone who would give us more than the trite "enjoy every minute" advice that we so often hear, and I knew Marilyn would deliver some true wisdom. This is one of my favorite episodes to date, so listen in as she teaches us how to raise confident children by...   1) Limiting our criticisms. "You can't build a wall by taking off bricks." 2) Talking to our kids like they are already the intelligent adults we hope they will become. 3) Living full lives of our own, and modeling happiness for our children.   Show Notes -Marilyn Faulkner's books: Back to the Best Books: How the Classics Can Change Your Life The User-Friendly Book of Mormon: Timeless Truths for Today's Challenges The User-Friendly Old Testament: A Modern Approach to Ancient Scripture -Resources referenced in the episode: Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey Podcast episode about specific ways to praise your children with Tony Overbay: http://3in30podcast.com/praise/ Miss Manners' Guide to Rearing Perfect Children by Judith Martin Alison's Build an Awesome Brand Workshop: https://alisonsbrandschool.com/workshop/
Apr 30, 2018
027: 3 Battles You Can Let Your Child Win // Lisa Andersen of Thriving Motherhood
If you feel like you face battle after battle with your child, this episode is for you!  Lisa Andersen, a mother of four who is passionate about helping moms thrive, teaches us 3 power struggles we can opt out of. I'm not going to tell you ahead of time what the three battles are...so you'll have to listen! ;) Chime in and tell us your opinions and ideas in the comments on this post or on my Instagram account, @ https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/   Show Notes -Lisa Andersen's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivingmotherhood/ -Thriving Motherhood Conference: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/thriving-mothers-conference-express-session-tickets-44616612489 -Ep. 017 with Jody Moore: http://3in30podcast.com/ep-017-3-keys-happier-marriage-jody-moore-bold-new-mom/ -Ep. 004 with Ralphie Jacobs: http://3in30podcast.com/yelling/ -Ellen Satyr, Expert on Positive and Joyful Eating and Feeding: https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/ -Division of Responsibility with Eating: https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/how-to-feed/the-division-of-responsibility-in-feeding/ -Amy McCready, Positive Parenting Solutions (When-Then tactic): https://www.positiveparentingsolutions.com/
Apr 23, 2018
026: How to Praise Your Child When It Feels Like There is Nothing to Praise // Tony Overbay, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
I don't know about you, but sometimes I feel truly stuck in a rut of nagging, bossing, and criticizing my children.  This is not who I want to be--but when I can't get my children to listen to me or to behave, what other option do I have?? Gratefully, Tony Overbay, a professional counselor and father of four, is on the podcast today to teach us a better way. Using the principles of a powerful parenting and child development model called The Nurtured-Heart Approach, Tony shares four ways that we can effectively praise our children in order to energize the positive in them and in our homes: Listen in as Tony teaches us how to acknowledge and praise...   1) What we see our children doing (active recognition) 2) What we see our children doing, plus what that shows about their greatness (experiential recognition) 3) What we don't see our children doing (proactive recognition) 4) What we want to see our children doing (creative recognition)   This episode has the potential to change your parenting and the environment in your home forever.  Don't miss it!   Show Notes: Tony's website: TonyOverbay.com Tony's podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/category/podcast/ Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured-Heart Approach by Howard Glasser Children's Success Foundation PDF of the 4 Recognition Types: http://www.naswwv.org/index.php/documents/177-c1-wendy-baracka-transforming-the-difficult-child-nha-recognition-techniques/file
Apr 16, 2018
025: Finding Motivation to Exercise // Monica Tanner of On the Brighter Side
If you’re like me, finding time and motivation to exercise has become difficult since becoming a mom. If you’re not like me (ha!), you exercise almost daily, but it’s probably hard to find motivation to do some other things in your life. Whatever camp you're in, I think this episode will help you. Monica Tanner, a mother of four, a small business owner, and a podcaster at On the Brighter Side, shares three steps for finding motivation to exercise—and her tips can be applied in many other situations as well.   Listen in as she teaches me how to… 1) Start with a positive and believable thought about yourself. 2) Find your own compelling reason to exercise. 3) Make it enjoyable, so the habit will stick.   This is a great discussion with so many nuggets of wisdom. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Show Notes Monica's Website: http://onthebrightersideoflife.com/ Monica's Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/on-the-brighter-side/id1345544810?mt=2&ls=1 Rachel's Website: 3in30podcast.com Get a PDF of each month's takeaways: 3in30podcast.com/takeaways
Apr 09, 2018
024: Fighting Against Mom-Guilt
A few years ago, I had a phone conversation with a friend that changed my perspective forever.  She told me why she never feels mom-guilt.  And I loved her wisdom and think of it often. Listen to this week's episode to hear her advice, as well as three strategies that I use frequently when I feel the mom-guilt sneaking in:   1) List all of the blessings that your kids have in their lives, from you and others. 2) Reject "filtered-thinking." Zoom out so you can see the big-picture of yourself and your kids' lives. 3) Examine whether your guilt is beckoning you higher, or dragging you down lower.   I love to hear from you!  Let me know what resonated from this episode or others at @3in30podcast on Instagram or 3in30podcast@gmail.com. Show Notes: -Organization I worked with in South Africa: https://helponenow.org/south-africa/ -More about the people I worked with in South Africa: http://fyionrachandry.blogspot.com/2016/11/i-want-to-introduce-you-to-people-who.html -Episode about the three best tools I learned in counseling, including how to recognize and combat "filtered-thinking": http://3in30podcast.com/ep-012-stop-mehan-3-best-tools-learned-counseling/ -Another great episode to help combat mom-guilt, "How to Be the Mom You Are, Instead of the Mom You Think You Should Be": http://3in30podcast.com/ep-016-how-to-be-the-mom-you-are-instead-of-the-mom-you-think-you-should-be-julie-bastedo/ -Last week's episode "How to Stop Looking at Your Phone So Much--And Why It Matters": http://3in30podcast.com/lookup/
Apr 02, 2018
023: How to Stop Looking at your Phone So Much–And Why It Matters // Dr. Katie Penry, Licensed Clinical Psychologist
"Parents act as mirrors for their children. Children learn who they are in the reflection of another person's watchful gaze." Dr. Katie Penry, a licensed clinical psychologist and mother of two young children, is on the podcast today teaching us the brain research behind why we need to look up from our phones and engage more with our little children. And she doesn't just tell us WHY to do this...she also tells us HOW!  Listen in as she explains each of the following takeaways:   1) Decide on some sacred spaces and places where you will not use your phone. (This matters more than arbitrary time limits for yourself.) 2) Tell your kids what you are doing when you are looking at your phone. 3) Use your phone's non-notification settings to help you be present at important times of day.   Listen to the podcast as an introduction to Dr. Penry's work, and then head to her website to sign up for her email course called the "Look Up Challenge": afriendlyaffair.com/lookupchallenge   Fascinating Facts from the Interview: -Almost 80% of your child's brain development happens from age 0-3 years, through consistent verbal and non-verbal interaction with their parents -Look at your baby and attune to who they are and what they love--react to each other--Harvard Psychologists call this "Serve and Return" -Daniel Stern, a renowned American psychologist, found that 70%-80% of the time that your baby is alert, he/she is looking at you. -Babies are born able to see the exact distance from their biological mother's eye to nipple. (!!!)   Show Notes: -Dr. Katie Penry's FREE email course, the #LookUpChallenge": https://afriendlyaffair.lpages.co/look-up-challenge/ -Sign up to receive a monthly PDF of all the podcast takeaways: 3in30podcast.com -Dr. Katie Penry's website: https://www.afriendlyaffair.com/ -Dr. Katie Penry's Instagram account: https://www.instagram.com/afriendlyaffair/ -Children's book about the life of Nelle Harper Lee, the author of To Kill a Mockingbird: https://www.amazon.com/Alabama-Spitfire-Story-Harper-Mockingbird/dp/0062456709
Mar 26, 2018
022: Cleaning Strategies for the Naturally Messy Mom // Candi Kidd of Operation Organization
Since I was a little girl, I have left a "wake" behind me everywhere I go--cupboards left open, shoes kicked off in the middle of the hallway, and spills on the kitchen counter that should've been wiped up immediately but I didn't even notice them. Luckily, I have a very wise friend who is teaching me better habits.  Candi Kidd (who was our guest in Episode 001!) teaches moms who are naturally messy like me how to keep their lives more tidy and orderly.  And her tips can really help any mom, even if you are naturally a neat-freak (P.S. you amaze me), because we all live with children...and children bring chaos and confusion along with them everywhere they go. Join Candi and me as we dive into these three takeaways:   1) Be a detective to find and then solve the messy spots in your home. 2) Lower the "activation energy" it takes to get started with cleaning. 3) Focus on completing one J.O.B. per day.   Show Notes: Candi's new Instagram account, operation_organization: https://www.instagram.com/operation_organization/ Candi's first episode, "Getting Unmotivated Kids to Help": http://3in30podcast.com/unmotivated-kids-to-help/ The House that Cleans Itself by Mindy Starns Clark: https://www.amazon.com/House-That-Cleans-Itself-Solutions/dp/0736918809 Jordan Page who came up with the acronym J.O.B. (just one bite): FunCheaporFree.com Shel Silverstein poem about Melinda Mae who ate the whale: http://shelsilverstein.yolasite.com/melinda-mae.php
Mar 19, 2018
021: Three Easy but Impactful Ways to Deepen Relationships with Others
In this episode, you will hear Rachel sing Destiny's Child; model how to ask someone how they are doing without pity in your voice; praise the hero who cleaned her bathroom when she had kidney stones... AND SO MUCH MORE. You don't want to miss this episode, which is an continuation of last week's podcast on "How to Be a Good Friend, Instead of Being Friendly." If you love people, and you want to love people better, listen in as Rachel dives deep into the importance of:   1) Using people's names. 2) Following up with friends who you know are going through hard times. 3) Letting people serve you.   Show Notes: Sign up for the monthly printables: 3in30podcast.com Order a little "follow up" gift: TheBrightBoxes.com   Previous Episodes Referred to In This Episode: How to Be a Friend, Instead of Just Being Friendly: http://3in30podcast.com/friendship/ How to Support Someone Who is Grieving: http://3in30podcast.com/grief/ Three Messages of Hope for the Darkest Times: http://3in30podcast.com/hope/
Mar 11, 2018
020: How to Be a Friend Instead of Just Being Friendly // Brooke Romney
As mothers, this can be a hard stage of life to find and maintain meaningful friendships. Many of us feel busy and overwhelmed--barely managing the needs of our own families. Opportunities to connect with other women might feel scarce, depending on the ages and needs of our children. Sometimes it's just easier to give a friendly wave or a quick hello in the hallway at church than to invest in a real friendship with someone. In this week's episode, Brooke Romney, a mother of four and a professional writer, shares totally doable ways that we can be good friends to other women, even if we are busy, shy, or maxed out on life. Brooke discusses each of the following takeaways, offering concrete ideas within each:   1) Take advantage of small opportunities to build connection by simply being present wherever we are.  2) Follow the advice that we give our children about being a good friend. 3) Don't wait for life conditions to be perfect before extending friendship to others.   Don't miss this conversation where we learn how to go beyond just being friendly, to start being real friends.   Show Notes -Brooke's website: http://brookeromney.com/ -Brooke's article in the Deseret News: "It's Time to Stop Being Friendly and Start Being a Friend" -Rachel's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/ -Brooke's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brookeromneywrites/
Mar 05, 2018
019: Helping our Kids Rewire Difficult Behaviors // Chrissy Austin, Speech Language Pathologist
All of our kids get stuck in behaviors that are difficult for us and others to deal with--perhaps it's whining, interrupting, fighting with siblings, or defiance. According to Chrissy Austin, a speech language pathologist with 17 years of experience teaching children social skills and communication, these neurological "loops" can be rewired.  She does it every day in her private practice, and, in this week's episode, she teaches us how to do it!  We can follow this simple three-step process with our kids, in our homes:   1) Identify the specific troublesome behavior, and then ask yourself, "What SKILL does my child need to learn in order to change this behavior?" 2) Sit down with the child and make a GOAL to learn the new skill.  Have him or her make it visual by writing it down and/or drawing a picture.  Consider adding a hand cue. 3) Offer positive reinforcement through verbal praise whenever the child is working on their goal, and consider adding additional reinforcement through earning privileges, if needed.   Chrissy offers so many fantastic tips and interesting bits of research throughout the interview.  You won't want to miss it, especially if you sometimes struggle with knowing how to help your children change. Show Notes -Michelle Garcia Winter: https://www.socialthinking.com/ -"Kids Beyond Limits" by Anat Baniel -"Finally Focused" by James Greenblatt
Feb 26, 2018
018: Speak Your Partner’s Love Language // Celeste Davis of Marriage Laboratory
"I got this crazy idea in my head 3.5 years ago to start a marriage blog, but I had so many doubts, like 'Why would I do that?  I'm not that great of a wife...' But the idea just coming back and back... And eventually I kind of thought, 'I can just try things and tell people how it went. I can experiment. I can conduct marriage experiments." This is the premise behind "Marriage Laboratory," a marriage blog run by Celeste Davis and her husband Rich (who happens to be a real-life scientist studying immunology).  This past year, she conducted experiments on the five love languages by simply focusing on one per month. Today on the podcast, Celeste will share some of her experiments and outcomes in the following areas:   1) Words of Affirmation: Send your husband a loving note, text, or email every day for a month 2) Quality Time: Dedicate ten minutes every single night to just sitting and talking with your spouse, with no phones anywhere in sight! 3) Physical Touch: Have sex every other day for a month (don't worry--she doesn't get too steamy on this one, but her story is pretty fascinating)   Don't miss this conversation with a wife and mother who is dedicating her life to loving her family better, in simple but profound ways.   Show Notes -Celeste's marriage blog, Marriage Laboratory: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/ -The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman: 1) Words of Affirmation -"42 Love Letter Prompts": http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/42-love-letter-prompts/ -"40 Loving Texts to Send RIGHT NOW to Make Your Partner's Day": http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/40-loving-texts/ 2) Quality Time -"10-Minute Daily Connect Challenge": http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/10-minute-daily-connect-busy-couples/ -"The Ultimate Guide to Speaking the Love Language of Quality Time": http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/quality-time-love-language-guide/ -Article Rachel read about "bids for attention": https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/ 3) Physical Touch -"6 Resources for Spicing Up Your Marriage in the Bedroom": http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/spice-up-your-marriage/ -"What Would Happen If You Had Sex Every Other Day for a Month?": http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/sex-every-other-day/ 4) Gifts -"46 Just Because Gift Ideas to Make Your Spouse's Day": http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/just-because-gift-ideas/ -"DIY Anniversary Gifts (that we've actually made)": http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/diy-anniversary-gifts/ 5) Acts of Service -"The Best Way to Get Your Marriage Out of a Rut": http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/marriage-out-of-a-rut/
Feb 19, 2018
017: Three Keys to a Happier Marriage // Jody Moore of Bold New Mom
"Love is always going to serve you best. You are your best, most creative, most confident, most genius self when you’re operating in love.” Jody Moore is a life coach and podcaster whose business has exploded in the past couple of years due to the wise principles that she teaches about how we can adjust our own thoughts in order to achieve more happiness in our relationships with others. Jody teaches that happiness is a skill—something that we need to learn how to do and then work on it and practice over and over. On today's podcast, she talks about three of her hallmark principles:   1) Your relationship is the story you tell yourself.  Make it a good one. 2) You are 100% responsible for your own emotions--and no one else's. 3) Every person on earth is worthy of love, just as they are.   Please listen in as we discuss these principles in the context of marriage, and don't forget to claim your free printable of Jody's "Three Keys to a Happier Marriage" by visiting 3in30podcast.com.  (Thanks to Natalie Hansen from the podcast Babes Unpaused for designing it!) Link to the PDF Version (for download and printing or saving): https://drive.google.com/file/d/1mJnv9KsKx32KV8xpGNBlAztSm2PjgeWz/view?usp=sharing Show Notes -Rachel's "3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms" Instagram account: https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/ -Jody Moore's Website: boldnewmom.com -"Ask Jody Anything" Free Coaching Call: https://boldnewmom.lpages.co/public-call-invite/ -Instagrammer I follow who sees motherhood through a beautiful lens: https://www.instagram.com/kellyejensen/ -Natalie Hansen's Podcast: Babes Unpaused: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/babes-unpaused-podcast/id1334298125?mt=2
Feb 12, 2018
016: How to Be the Mom You Are–Instead of the Mom You Think You Should Be // Julie Bastedo
"Fill your life with things that make you feel whole, instead of holey." In this week's episode, Julie Bastedo (who has taught high school English for 18 years and has two children of her own) walks mothers through some strategies to help us embrace who we truly are, instead of always pining after whom we think we "should" be. With humor and wisdom (and while quoting classic literature and poety, of course), Julie dives into each of the following takeaways:   1) Sit down and make a list of the unique gifts that YOU bring to your children. 2) Only follow social media accounts that enhance what you are already good at. (Julie calls this "ancillary material." And don't worry, she defines that.) 3) Recognize that you will be a source of joy and a source of disappointment for others throughout your life...and that's okay.   Don't miss this lively and uplifting discussion between two old friends who want to empower and encourage each other--and all the women who are listening. Show Notes -Rachel's podcast with Power of Moms about her trip to South Africa: https://powerofmoms.com/ordinary-moms-can-make-extraordinary-difference-crystal-paine-rachel-nielson-episode-186/ -"When I Heard the Learn'd Astronomer" by Walt Whitman -"One's-Self I Sing by Walt Whitman: "Of Life immense in passion, pulse, and power/ Cheerful, for freest action form’d under the laws divine..." -The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World by Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu -Quote by Mother Teresa:   "People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway. If you are honest and sincere, people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway. What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today will often be forgotten.  Do good anyway. Give the best you have, and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway. In the final analysis, it's between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway."   -Jody Moore, Bold New Mom: "Other people's opinion of me is none of my business."
Feb 05, 2018
015: Three Valentines Traditions for the Whole Family // Sarah McKenna of Bombshell Bling
The first Valentines Day that my husband and I were dating, he showed up on my doorstep with flowers and a clue that started me on a scavenger hunt to romantic places all around our college town. Seven years later, on our first Valentines Day as parents, he showed up on our doorstep with...a toilet plunger.  (You'll have to listen to the episode to get the full story!) Yes, becoming parents can definitely affect the romance of Valentines Day a bit--but there's no reason why this "holiday of love" has to be limited to just you and your spouse.  February 14th can be a day to celebrate family love as well! In this episode, my amazing sister Sarah McKenna, from the craft blog Bombshell Bling, shares three totally doable and super fun Valentines traditions for the entire family. 1) Secret Cupids: https://www.bombshellbling.com/secret-cupids-valentines-day-family-tradition/ 2) Heart Attacks: https://www.bombshellbling.com/heart-attack/ 3) Love Letters to your Kids: https://www.bombshellbling.com/mushy-love-letters-a-february-tradition/   All three of these traditions can be adapted for little kids up to teenagers, and all of them will bring your family closer together.  I hope you will give at least one of them a try, and let me know at my instagram account: @3in30podcast. Show Notes -Sarah's craft blog: BombshellBling.com -"32 Ways to Surprise Your Sweetie" by Rachel Nielson: https://www.bombshellbling.com/things-for-hubby-valentines-day/
Jan 29, 2018
014: Getting Out of Overwhelm // April Perry of Power of Moms
If you often go to bed feeling like you will never get caught up on all of your responsibilities, wondering how you could've worked so hard all day and still have a massive to-do list, this episode is for you. April Perry, the co-founder of the websites Power of Moms and Learn Do Become, shares a step-by-step process for getting out of overwhelm.  April has spent thousands of hours developing time management systems that help important people--from business leaders to mothers--organize their *minds* so they can focus on their true priorities, get more done, and be more present with their families during downtime. In this episode, April explains this process in detail:   1) Make an ACCURATE list of all of the projects you have brewing in your mind.  (Include for your family, for you, and beyond.) 2) Narrow that list to no more than 7-8 projects to tackle this month.  Put that shorter list in a visible place to reference often. 3) Using that list, identify tiny "next actions" that will move each project forward.   Show Notes -PowerofMoms.com -LearnDoBecome.com -Getting Things Done by David Allen -Essentialism by Greg McKeown. For more about April's organization systems, please visit learndobecome.com/STEP.
Jan 22, 2018
013: How to Support those who are Grieving // Rachel Gainer of Rachel Rebuilt
Many of us know friends and family members who have lost precious loved ones.  During those heartbreaking times, it's so hard to know what to say and do to show our love and support. On today's podcast, we hear from a mother who has been there and has so much wisdom to share.  Several years ago, Rachel Gainer lost her two-month-old daughter, Daphne, and was engulfed in sorrow.  She talks about her journey to "rebuilding" her sense of self after Daphne's death, and she shares invaluable insight into what it's like to grieve and what we can do to serve those around us who are hurting. Listen in as she teaches us how to...   1) Reach out to the grieving family, no matter how long it has been. 2) Offer a specific service or gift based on your talents and interests. 3) Speak with sensitivity.   This is an episode that everyone should listen to--because, at some point, we will all inevitably need to support someone whom we love who is grieving.  You won't want to miss Rachel's ideas for specific, heartfelt gifts we can send and meaningful words we can say.  You'll also want to hear all about her angel baby, Daphne. Show Notes Rachel Gainer's website: RachelRebuilt.com Rachel Gainer's Instagram: @rachel_rebuilt Ink Puddles by Karin (custom artwork for families):  https://www.etsy.com/shop/InkPuddlesbyKarin?ref=l2-shopheader-name **This portrait was done for a family who lost their baby:
Jan 15, 2018
012: How to Stop Being Mean to Yourself: 3 of the Best Tools I Learned in Counseling
Five years ago, I realized that I needed to go to counseling.  I had been coping with stress and heartache through both undereating and overeating for almost ten years, and my negative thoughts about myself had become debilitating and all-consuming. I sought treatment from an outpatient eating disorder clinic, and I fully expected my counselor to teach me how to control my eating; instead, my counselor went to the root of the problem and taught me how to control my thinking. I learned that destructive behaviors (such as eating disorders) are part of a three-part cycle: we have a negative thought about ourselves, we then feel a negative emotion about ourselves, and we then cope with that feeling through a destructive behavior.  In order to stop this cycle, we must have strategies to stop the negative self-talk that starts it all in the first place! Whether or not you've ever struggled with an eating disorder, I think this episode will benefit you.  I share three of the best tools that I learned in counseling:   1) Reject "filtered thinking" and embrace "big-picture thinking." 2) Talk to yourself the way you would talk to your best friend, sister, or daughter. 3) Use "coping statements" to help  you re-center and stay calm in moments when you might spiral into despair.   I truly believe that almost no topic is more important for women and mothers--so I hope you will listen, and let me know what you think in the comments. Additional Resources Unhealthy Stress or Habits? Break the Cycle (podcast with Power of Moms): https://powerofmoms.com/unhealthy-stress/ Listening to and Loving your Body through Intuitive Eating (podcast with Power of Moms): https://powerofmoms.com/intuitive-eating/ "It Is What It Is" (article with a list of coping strategies): https://powerofmoms.com/it-is-what-it-is/ "The Surprising Way I Confronted my Eating Disorder" (full narrative therapy): https://powerofmoms.com/eating-disorder/
Jan 09, 2018
011: Setting Goals without Sacrificing Sanity // Monica Packer of About Progress
"Perfectionism, we wrongly assign only to overachievers. I think most perfectionists are actually underachievers." When I first heard Monica Packer of the podcast About Progress explain this phenomenon--that a perfectionist can actually become an underachiever--I was stunned.  I recognized that she was describing me.  I had gone from a hardcore overachiever (who had developed eating disorders as a result) to an apathetic underachiever who avoided making any sort of goals in my life. In this week's episode, Monica describes her own similar journey and how she has now found a middle ground: striving for "progress, not perfection."  She gives us three takeaways to consider as we head into the New Year about how to set goals that will push us to improve while also helping us maintain our mental health.   1) Don't think too much. 2) Make room for failure. 3) Make your goals visible.   Listen in as she and I dive into these principles and offer specific examples from our own lives as "recovering perfectionists." Show Notes Monica's website and podcast: About Progress.com Her Intro episode that resonated so deeply with me: http://www.aboutprogress.com/2016/11/most-likely-to-be-talk-show-host.html To get the PDF printable of each month's take-aways, visit my website and sign up: 3in30podcast.com.
Jan 01, 2018
010: Simple Holiday Traditions to Connect Generations
"How are you today, Grampy?" "Oh the same: old and ugly, but contented." This is the opening line of this week's interview with my 88-year-old grandpa. You are going to love his personality and spunk, as he shares memories from his childhood Christmases. My Granny also hops on to talk about what she remembers. My heart just melts at the sound of their voices, and I am so grateful for all of the Christmas Eves that I spent in their home when I was a child. (And we are headed there next week! I can't wait!) Listen as I reflect on how to create cherished traditions that your children and maybe even grandchildren will remember, by creating "anchors" every year: -A special food -A meaningful gift -A memorable activity Stay tuned until the end of the episode to hear about my Christmas gift to you! I think it will be useful to anyone who is a consistent listener to the 3 in 30 podcast. Merry Christmas to all of you. I truly love and appreciate you!
Dec 18, 2017
009: Protecting our Kids from a Holiday “Soul Fever” // Carrie Thomas Scott, MA LCPC
Though you may never have defined it as "soul fever" before, all parents have witnessed this malady taking over their children from time to time...when kids have had too much excitement, too little sleep, too much sugar, and too little downtime--and their behavior shows it! On today's episode, Carrie Thomas Scott--a licensed professional counselor and a mother herself--uses the four pillars of Simplicity Parenting to teach us how to protect our kids from catching a "soul fever" this holiday season. Listen in for concrete strategies on how to help your children stay balanced and soul-healthy during this exciting month by using these four pillars: 1. Environment 2. Schedule 3. Rhythms 4. Filtering Out the Adult World
Dec 11, 2017
008: Controlling Kids’ Clutter // Tana Parke
It's the witching hour--when you are trying to get dinner made--and your four-year-old son is whining that there's nothing to do. You walk with him to the playroom, only to find that he has dumped out every bin of toys, yet can't seem to find anything suitable to hold his attention. Unable to face the mess of Legos, cars, Magformers, and stuffed animals that are now strewn everywhere, you simply close the door to the playroom and pretend it doesn't exist. You turn on the TV to keep your little man occupied, and you wonder, "What new toy should we get him for Christmas that he will actually play with?" If this scene sounds familiar, this episode is for you. I invited Tana Parke, a mother of five children and a semi-professional organizer, to share three strategies for keeping our kids' clutter at bay. Our discussion includes exciting topics, like: -Why you should hide some toys from your children for a while -Who might be happy to receive some of the little trinkets that your kids have collected (it's not who you think!) -How to teach your kids to think critically about whether or not they actually want a new toy or trinket -Why "The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up" doesn't work for children (and how you can modify it!) -How to allow your children to have some "treasures" while also keeping them from being hoarders ...and much more!
Dec 04, 2017
007: How to Create a More Peaceful Home // Cate Johnson
"At any given point, you can say, 'This is not how the story is going to end.'" Cate Johnson was a mother of two young children with a big, beautiful home in the country. From the outside, it looked like she was "living the dream," but inside, she felt like she was drowning. She craved peace and connection with her children--but instead she felt only chaos and overwhelm. She spent hours cleaning her big home while her kids watched television. She felt heartbroken that she was not the mother that she had always wanted to be. In this powerful episode, Cate shares three small but significant changes that transformed their home environment: 1) Using the five senses to create a haven of peace. 2) Designating a "kid of the day" to eliminate fighting. 3) Structuring their family time around rhythms to create stability. Cate is now a fulfilled, empowered mother, and she has a message of hope for all of us: We can have more peaceful homes, no matter where we live. (Click on Episode Webpage for links to the resources mentioned in the podcast.)
Nov 27, 2017
006: Three Messages of Hope for the Darkest Times
This week, my family has been through the death of a loved one who is incredibly special to us: my son's birthmother, Katie. I couldn't go on with business as usual on the podcast, so I took a break from our usual show format to record some thoughts on how we can find hope, even in the darkest of trials. Listen in as I share three scriptural phrases that gave me strength during my long battle with infertility and the ups and downs of the adoption process. Whether or not you're religious, whether or not you've ever adopted, I think these messages of hope will uplift you. They are universal. 1. Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning. 2. He gives unto them beauty for ashes 3. When He has tried me, I shall come forth as gold. Hold your families close this week. Much love.
Nov 20, 2017
005: The Very Best Way You Can Support your Child in School // Amanda Hamilton Roos of Building the Bridge
Is your child's life at school a bit of a mystery to you? Whenever you ask what he/she did today, do you hear the lackluster response, "Oh, nothing." Amanda Roos taught high school English for nearly a decade before deciding to stay home with her three children. She has continued to be very involved in education by writing curriculum and developing a website called BuildingtheBridge.org. Her mission is to help families bridge the divide between home and school and build strong, effective partnerships. In today's podcast, she shares three easy steps for forming a "working relationship" with your child's teacher. Within the discussion, you will learn... -Why talking to your child's teacher about something other than school is so important -How to start these conversations without sounding like an awkward teenager on a blind date -How often you should "follow up" with teachers and in what ways -Why a little praise and gratitude goes a long way -What you should be asking to see within the classroom (Click episode webpage for full shownotes.)
Nov 13, 2017
004: How to Stop Yelling at your Kids // Ralphie Jacobs of Simply on Purpose
“The prerequisite to all other parenting principles is to be in control of yourself as the parent. And this is the major struggle for parents. They feel like they are standing on the sidelines helpless, and their children are running rompus around them and all over them...But this can easily be changed. We should not feel like victims in our own households.  We can find joy and delight in working in our own homes." Ralphie Jacobs is a mother to four girls, ages 3-14, and the founder of the popular Instagram account @simplyonpurpose.  Her account has experienced incredible growth from when it started just a year ago because so many mothers are thirsting for her wise, compassionate, and positive parenting advice. It was an honor to have her on the show, and in this episode she will teach us how to stop yelling at our kids by being in control of ourselves.  But how do we do that, especially in the moment when anger is building?  Ralphie explains how we must: Listen to the right story Use time to our advantage Model being happy Listen in as Ralphie and I dive into these principles a little more deeply and give practical advice of how to apply them in your home. As always, I would love to hear from you!  Let me know in the comments which strategies stay with you the most and what works with your children.
Nov 06, 2017
003: Introducing Our Kids to Unexpected Heroes // Jennifer Brimhall of Raise the Good
"Children are great imitators--give them something great to imitate." Joy D. Jones Jennifer Brimhall, a mother of five and the founder of the website Raise the Good, believes that we can surround our children with good role models whom they will want to emulate.  These aren't superheroes with capes or celebrities with millions of dollars;   these are unexpected heroes, and we will find them all around us. In this episode, Jen goes into specifics about how we can introduce our children to... 1. Heroes in books and media 2. Role models in the world around them 3. Mentors in education. Listen in to glean incredible wisdom from an incredible mother! Episode Notes An outline and list of resources mentioned in the podcast is included below: 1. Heroes in books and media Books: Value Tales, Little House on the Prairie, Chronicles of Narnia TV Shows: Wild Kratts, Planet Earth documentaries, Mr. Rodgers on Youtube (ha!) Movies: Third Man on the Mountain Sign-up for Jen's Family Movie Night Suggestion List!! 2. Role Models in the world around them Check out the Hero Spotlights on Jen's website! Kayley Willis, a woman who feeds 130 children on the weekends Glenn Allgood, the bus driver who impacted Jen's life Keep watch for news articles about "heroes" and share them with your kids Point out everyday heroes around town, at the grocery store, and in daily interactions Ask your children to list three things they are grateful for and who is responsible for that blessing "Coming of Age Celebrations" with treasured family and friends Article outlining the tradition Jen's eBook about how to plan your own!! 3. Mentors in education Look into conferences, clubs, and personal mentorships (it never hurts to ask!) for your children to learn about their passions from experts in the field Rely on websites to teach your children Art For Kids Hub (elementary school) TheKidShouldSeeThis.com (middle school) Cash Flow and Constitution Quest (high school)
Oct 30, 2017
002: Easy Ways to Capture Memories of Motherhood // Laura Webb
This week my little sister Laura Webb, a mother of two young children and a Chemistry and Math teacher--"not a writer!" she is quick to point out--will share her ideas for easy ways that we can fit record-keeping into our busy lives as moms. Listen in as Laura details ideas for how to... 1) Use technology to help us capture memories 2) Find routine times or triggers to remind us to journal 3) Remember that something is better than nothing when it comes to documenting our lives Click episode webpage for full show notes.
Oct 23, 2017
001: Getting Unmotivated Kids to Help // Candi Kidd
This week on the 3 in 30 podcast, Candi Kidd, a mother of three young children who reads books and takes courses on home management and family systems, shares three practical strategies that we can use to motivate our kids to help around the house. Listen in to discover... 1) How single-tasking outloud can help our kids (and us!) breakdown overwhelming tasks 2) How a celebration blitz can ramp up the positive energy and motivation in our homes 3) How to use the tiny habits to make family contributions just a part of the routine You won't want to miss hearing Candi explain each of these three tools, and when you try them in your home, please let us know via social media or a comment on this post! We'd love to hear if it's working for you. (Click episode webpage for full show notes.)
Oct 13, 2017
000: Learning How to Love: The “Why” Behind 3 in 30 Podcast
In the middle of a rainy summer night, just over six years ago, I became a mother. My experience was a little different than most mothers—I wasn’t the one in the hospital bed that night. I was standing beside my son’s brave birthmother as Noah came into the world. After years of failed infertility treatments and adoption possibilities that didn’t go through, I was finally a mother. I often tell our son, who we named Noah Atticus, that he was our first miracle.Rachel Nielson, Host of 3in30 Podcast for Moms Three years later, this time on a hot summer morning, we were blessed a second time. After going through Invitro Fertilization and an incredibly difficult pregnancy, my second little miracle was placed in my arms. Sally Grace was bruised and battered from a posterior delivery, but she was here and she was ours. And the focus of life just zooms in for a moment—for a day or two—and everything feels clear. There’s peace and perspective and happiness when a new baby joins your family. But then the focus zooms back out, because it has to—because there are meals to make and families to support, and very complicated, very real adult challenges that come to us in life— And even though you know that those babies in your arms are what you most treasure and what you want more than anything, there are moments when you wonder if you can really do this. There are times when you hardly recognize yourself in the midst of your discouragement or your yelling at your kids, and you mourn a little bit for the happy mother that you wanted to be—that still you want to be. Motherhood is beautiful, magical, and good—but it is also very hard at times. We all have our own unique situations and struggles and heartaches. The hard stuff will never go away completely, but what if we could minimize it? Manage it a little better? And what if there were simple things we could do as mothers to maximize the joy? That is the premise and the goal of this podcast: to give moms like you and me practical, doable takeaways to try with our families each week—strategies that will help us create more meaning in motherhood. Please listen to the entire introductory episode to learn more about being a part of the 3 in 30 Podcast community of moms!
Oct 12, 2017