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In this modern dating podcast presented by Betches Media, Jordana Abraham of Betches and Jared Freid discuss their take on modern dating issues ranging from apps to hook ups to relationships. What makes something a red flag versus a dealbreaker in the world we currently live in. They're here to help you not die alone.

Episode Date
Why are Millennials Having Less Sex than Our Parents' Generation? Ft. Kate Julian
01:27:21
J and J are back and joined by author of the cover story for The Atlantic’s December edition, “The Sex Recession”, Kate Julian. Kate’s research led her to the conclusion that millennials are having less sex than older generations. At 3:20 they talk about the Japanese phenomenon of sex through artificial intelligence and whether or not the trend will spread across the planet. At 11:55 they dissect whether or not sex is also down amongst married couples. At 16:20 they discuss whether the Me Too movement is affecting the downward trend in sexual encounters. At 30:50 they talk dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week where a guy’s partner says another man’s name during sex. At 42:30 a listener writes in wondering if moving to a new city might lead to an instant relationship with someone out of comfort. At 1:05:55 a listener writes in wondering if it’s a red flag that she’s never had a boyfriend at the ripe age of 23. At 1:18:50 they play red flag or deal breaker including- “everything is perfect but they’re obsessed with sitar music” “the person is absolutely perfect but when they have kids they would like to feed them like a baby bird (where someone chews up their food for them and feeds it to their child)” “ALL of their friends are of the opposite sex. Girl with all male friends, guy with all female friends” and “Only watches Netflix with the subtitles on”. Thanks to our sponsors! Hydrant- Go to drinkhydrant.com/uup for 25% off Zola-To start your free wedding website and also get $50 off your registry on Zola, go to ZOLA.com/UUP Storyworth-For $20 off, visit storyworth.com/uup
Dec 12, 2018
What's The Best Way to Tell My Significant Other That They’re Getting Fat?
01:23:54
J and J are back. This week they start the show with a question from a listener who asks if it’s possible to date without social media in 2018. Jared thinks that someone who quits social media usually does it because they’re going through something. At 31:00 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a soft core hookup and an R. Kelly smash hit. At 46:40 a listener writes in wondering how to bring up weight gain to a significant other in a relationship. At 1:03:00 a listener writes in wondering if a guy that she’s seeing is not that interested in her because their text/social media interactions don’t seem enthusiastic. At 1:14:45 they play red flag or deal breaker including: “They love stupid and cringey graphic tees and wear them 99% of the time.” “they celebrate Santa-con at the age of 30 or older.” and “they run a very active celebrity Instagram fan account”. Thanks to our sponsors! Hydrant- Go to drinkhydrant.com/uup for 25% off Care/of- For 25% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins, visit TakeCareOf.com and enter UUP Be A Hero- To learn more and watch the video visit www.beyondbatten.org/hero Text HERO to 501501 to donate $10
Dec 05, 2018
Were Ross and Rachel On A Break?
01:28:06
J and J are back. With the holiday in their rearview, they wonder, is Thanksgiving Eve the best night of the year to hookup? At 10:15 they discuss their first classic rom-com scenario breaking down the iconic Ross/Rachel break argument from “Friends.” At 29:45 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which features a blowjob, weed infused honey, and a slice of buffalo chicken pizza. At 42:50 a listener writes in wondering if she’s giving off a vibe to married men that she’s mistress material. At 56:10 a listener writes in wondering how to handle a problem with ED after a pivotal first sexual encounter with a new girlfriend. At 109:40 they play red flag or deal breaker including: “their dad is their roommate during the week,” “they insist on recording all dates or outings on insta stories starting with “hey everyone” to their 103 followers,” and “they frequently get into fights on facebook in the comments of popular videos.” Thanks to our sponsors! Leesa- Get $150 off the Leesa mattress + a free pillow at leesa.com/UUP Lola- For 40% off all subscriptions, visit mylola.com and enter UUP when you subscribe! Ritual- Visit ritual.com/UUP to start your ritual today
Nov 28, 2018
Is It Too Soon To Take A Trip With My BF?
01:08:58
J and J are back and they’re coming to a city near you! With upcoming shows in Brooklyn, DC, and Philadelphia the audience has some questions. At 6:30 a listener writes in wondering if it’s too soon to bring her new BF to UUp Live. At 25:05 they talk about their weird sexual encounter of the week which features the story of a hookup that ended with the man taking his soiled condom with him after sex. At 40:20 a listener writes in wondering why a guy who seemed into her the night before would disappear and unfollow her on Instagram. At 49:40 a listener writes in wondering if her BF is thinking about sex way too much. At 1:01:10 they play red flag or deal breaker which includes : “they’re scared of flying and refuse to go near an airport”, “has Christmas decorations in their apartment in October”, “they have political signs of everyone they’ll vote for and leave them up weeks after the election”.   Thanks to our sponsors!   Leesa- The Leesa mattress is the product of 30 years of experience and hundreds of hours of rigorous product testing. Designed for body contouring and pressure relief, the Leesa mattress is perfect for all sleepers. Shop conveniently online with free shipping and 100 nights to try the mattress in your own home. Get $150 off the Leesa mattress + a free pillow at leesa.com/UUP    Hydrant- After drinking you pee out a ton of water, and also a ton of electrolytes (you don't just sweat them out!). Maximum Strength Hydration with the right balance of electrolytes will help you rehydrate, be healthier the next day, and ultimately feel better. Go to drinkhydrant.com/uup for 25% off 
Nov 21, 2018
Why Aren’t Stable Relationships Sexy?
01:20:32
The Js are back and ready to talk about affairs. After reading Esther Perel’s “A State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity” Jordana explains the hypothesis of why cheating and relationships have changed from generation to generation. Older generations seem to have settled and gotten married younger leading to a ton of cheating whereas millenials live a lot more life and date tons of people before they settle down. At 37:00 their weird sexual encounter comes from a listener who had a sleepover with a bed wetter. At 53:00 a listener looking for a spark with a new guy writes in wondering how long you can continue to date a guy while still being on the fence about him. At 1:01:40 a listener writes in wondering if it’s worth it to work out a relationship with a boyfriend who has turned cold and mean. At 1:11:50 they play red flag or deal breaker including: “everything is perfect but they live above, or in a funeral home”, “everything is perfect but they’re a mascot for a semi pro-sports team.”   Thanks To Our Sponsors Leesa- The Leesa mattress is the product of 30 years of experience and hundreds of hours of rigorous product testing. Designed for body contouring and pressure relief, the Leesa mattress is perfect for all sleepers. Shop conveniently online with free shipping and 100 nights to try the mattress in your own home. Get $150 off the Leesa mattress + a free pillow at leesa.com/UUP   Teami Blends- Teami Blends Detox Mask has ingredients like matcha, and bentonite clay and it smells like a spa. Get yours today and use promo code UUP25 at checkout for 25% off any order.
Nov 14, 2018
Are Dating Apps Bad For Society? Featuring Nancy Jo Sales
01:19:24
J and J are back and they’re joined by award winning journalist and director/producer of “Swiped: Hooking Up In The Digital Age,” Nancy Jo Sales. Nancy’s documentary explores the landscape of dating in the era of swipe apps and social media for better or for worse. They discuss the morality of the apps from their invention to their execution and the culture built around it. At 1:00:20 a listener writes in wondering what to do about a new relationship that may become long distance very soon. At 1:10:30 they play red flag or deal breaker including: “They refuse to pay for Spotify premium”, “facetiming someone before you’ve even met,” “he’s on the Buzzfeed hottest mugshot list.”   Thanks to our sponsors!   Zola- Zola, the wedding company that will do anything for love, is reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in couples' lives even happier. To start your free wedding website and also get $50 off your registry on Zola, go to ZOLA.com/UUP   Thirdlove- ThirdLove knows there’s a perfect bra for everyone, so right now they are offering our listeners 15% off their first order! Go to THIRDLOVE.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra… and get 15% off your first purchase!
Nov 07, 2018
Is Halloween the Best or Worst Hook-Up Night?
01:17:26
Happy Halloween from the J’s. Jordana is planning to force her bf into a couples costume, which believe it or not, Jared is opposed to feeling that couples costumes are all about ownership. At 12:45 they discuss a controversial article proclaiming that dating without texting is the absolute best. At 32:35 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which could be either a bad joke or a Freudian disaster. At 38:30 a listener writes in to ask if she can bring her boyfriend home for the holidays despite his abysmal table manners. At 53:13, an overworked betch with no time to go out writes in looking for advice on how to meet guys since the dating apps have been letting her down. At 1:05:10 they play Red Flag Or Deal Breaker including, “you’re on a first date and find out it’s their birthday”, and “they have $200,000 in student loans”. Thanks to our sponsors: Leesa- Get up to $160 off the Leesa mattress or $235 off the luxury Sapira mattress and free shipping on the Leesa mattress at leesa.com/UUP  Ritual- Whether you’re living life—or creating it—why not add some good looking science into your daily routine? Visit ritual.com/UUP to start your ritual today!
Oct 31, 2018
What Do I Do If My Significant Other Is Texting Their Ex? Ft. Johnny Bananas
01:29:41
J and J are back. Jared is looking for the party, but Jordana confesses that she doesn’t go out anymore, unless she’s going to a wedding. They agree that weddings are much different for single people than they are for couples and it affects whether or not people will have fun at them. At 18:00 they talk about their weird sexual encounter of the week as a listener writes in wondering if it’s hot or gross when a guy licks and swallows his own bodily fluids. At 27:30 a listener writes in wondering what to do about her husband who is still texting an old ex-girlfriend. At 44:40 a confused listener writes in trying to figure out if a guy she’s talking to likes her despite his inconsistent texting habits. At 1:00:02 Johnny Bananas joins the show to talk about “The Challenge”, dating on reality TV and play “Red Flag Or Deal Breaker.” Thanks to our sponsor Leesa! Get up to $160 off the Leesa mattress or $235 off the luxury Sapira mattress and free shipping on the Leesa mattress at leesa.com/UUP    Thanks to our sponsor Care/of! For 25% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins, visit TakeCareOf.com and enter UUP
Oct 24, 2018
How Do I Make the First Move Without Coming Off Desperate?
01:13:02
J and J are back and this week the show’s theme relates to initiating romantic contact with a guy without coming on too strong. At 13:25 a listener writes in asking how to make a romantic introduction with an old college crush who she has always had chemistry with. At 35:50 they talk about their weird sexual encounter of the week from a listener who is wondering if he was gaslighted by a girl who tricked him into thinking he finished sexually without knowing it. At 47:00 a listener writes in wondering what to do about a girl he’s dating who’s hoping for exclusivity, but not a relationship. At 58:30 they take a letter from a listener who is going on a vacation with an ex that she recently broke up with. At 1:05:30 they play red flag or deal breaker including “he/she writes inspirational quotes on their wrists” and “they want to have ONLY joint social media accounts after you get married.”
Oct 17, 2018
Bonus U Up?: Live At Canton Hall Ft. Raven Gates
01:45:45
J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live in Dallas, TX. At 8:15 they talk about the best opening lines to use on dating apps. At 22:00 they do the lord’s work and conduct a dating app profile makeover for a listener that needs some help. At 39:00 they are joined by Raven Gates of “The Bachelor” to play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker. At 55:40 they dissect their “Deal Reveal” wondering why guys get off the hook for playing dumb after things get intimate. At 1:07:35 they talk about the “Awkward Sexual Encounter Of The Week” and it gets a little messy. At 1:17:20 they are joined by Poo Pourri VIP of creative, Nicole Story, to uncover some “Poo-tastrophes” from the audience. At 1:24:00 they go into the audience and listen to some of their horrible dating stories. A huge thank you to our sponsor Poo-Pourri! Pick up your Poo-Pouri before you go toilet spray today at https://www.poopourri.com/
Oct 12, 2018
What’s The Difference Between Loving Someone and Being “In Love?”
01:16:13
The Js are back with an ep you won’t want to miss. This week’s topic is longer term relationships and they discuss The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. They discuss the question of what it means to love someone versus being “in love” with them. At 34:30, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a guy gets off to a very specific part of his body being licked. At 44:44, they take a letter from a listener dealing with a toxic ex who keeps making contact. At 53:00, they a letter from a listener who tells a guy he can spend the night, but she won’t sleep with him. He proceeds to take his phone out and show her a group chat where him and his boys share pics of women. What gives? After they do some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including “you have to spend all major holidays at their parents’ house” and “they don’t believe in vaccines.” Thanks to our sponsor, Fab Fit Fun. Use coupon code "UUP" for $10 off your first box at www.fabfitfun.com. Thanks to this week's sponsor, ThirdLove! ThirdLove knows there’s a perfect bra for everyone, so right now they are offering listeners 15% off their first order! Go to THIRDLOVE.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra… and get 15% off your first purchase!
Oct 10, 2018
How Do I Stop My Boyfriend From Acting Like a Drunk Asshole? Ft. Girls Gotta Eat
01:19:19
The Js are back, hot off their live show in Dallas. They briefly discuss how men ask a few close friends about new partners, while women get opinions from around 70 people. At 15:05, they take their first email from a listener who notices her friend’s boyfriend’s Tinder profile is up with a fresh profile pic as soon as she goes on vacation. At 24:00, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a listener finds that sex is ruined by an affectionate canine. At 34:37, they take another letter from a listener asking about her boyfriend who drinks too much. His drunken episodes are becoming a pattern, but she’s not sure what to do about it. At 45:55, they are joined by Rayna Greenberg and Ashley Hesseltine of Girls Gotta Eat podcast to respond to listeners and play some games. At 47:49 they take a letter from a listener who meets a guy at a wedding and it seems like love at first sight. He buys a non-refundable flight to visit her, but then bails at the last second. What gives? They wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Deal Breaker: their favorite movie is Paul Blart: Mall Cop.
Oct 03, 2018
What’s The Best Way to Get Someone to Stop Texting You?
01:09:20
The J squad is back with another ep you won’t want to miss. At 15:15, a listener asks what to do about a friend whose new guy is clearly a bunch of trouble, but she just won’t react to a ton of red flags. At 25:50, they take the Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a guy puts a girl into a sex position that seems straight out of Cirque du Soleil. At 35:50, they take an email from a listener who occasionally hooks up with a guy, but he texts her every single day and it’s getting to be a bit much. What should she do? At 47:14, they take another letter from a listener who was badly burned by a girlfriend of three years who left him for her coworker. He can’t seem to shake it. They wrap up playing games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: wears the same thing on your first ten dates and is really mean to waitstaff but leaves a 50% tip. Thanks to our sponsor, FabFitFun. Listeners to U Up? can use coupon code "UUP" for $10 off your first box at www.fabfitfun.com.
Sep 26, 2018
Did Instagram Ruin My Relationship? Ft. Corinne Fisher
01:20:26
The Js are back. They briefly discuss an article that says 18-year-old women get the most swipes and the most responses on dating apps. At 19:42, they take an email from a listener whose friend decides to like all of her crush’s pics on Insta using her account. Now, he's gone cold. At 37:20, they take another email from a recently single listener who can’t stop Insta stalking her ex even though he has a new girlfriend. At 43:38, they are joined by Corinne Fisher of Guys We F*cked and Two Less Lonely Girls. They talk about slut-shaming and then take the Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a girl hooks up with a DJ who has some wild role playing requests. At 1:10:00, they wrap up with some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: a burglar breaks into your home and they run into the closet without you.
Sep 19, 2018
Bonus: U Up? Live At The Comedy Cellar (10 PM Show) Ft. Michelle Wolf
01:51:08
The duo of Js returns with another bonus ep from their unreal night at the Comedy Cellar’s Village Underground. It’s a wild one. The topic this time around: what to do if a guy booty calls you after a date? At 8:08, they read an email about a Hinge date that went well but then he seemingly just wants sex. She is looking for a response that doesn’t make her look like a “ho”. At 16:55, they do a dating app makeover where they go through a girl’s profile and discuss the various kinds of bikini pics - and whether it’s OK or not to have one. At 32:50 they bring on their special guest, HBO star and Host of the White House Correspondent’s Dinner, Michelle Wolf. At 39:41, they do some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including: “makes instagrams for his cars”, “loves shitting at public restrooms” and “has 5 roommates.” At 57:50, they do a deal reveal, where they read a letter from a listener who has been friends with a guy for 6 years and finally decides to give it a shot. He’s acting weird so what’s his deal? At 1:18:00, they begin taking questions from the audience and things get wild. Don’t miss the story at 1:23:50 where a girl hurts herself during sex in an unbelievable way and is debating Venmo-ing the guy for the hospital bill.  Thanks to our sponsors P.VOLVE: Get 30 days free access to P.volve’s streaming service by visiting http://my.pvolve.com/offer/betches and typing in the code UUP Beau Undies: Sign up at beauundies.com using our special promo code BETCHES to try it out and get your first undie for just $3!
Sep 14, 2018
When Do You Introduce Your S/O To Your Friends?
01:16:38
The Js return with an episode about meeting your S/O’s friends. At 11:17, they take an email from a listener who has gone on a few great dates, but then ends up at loud bars surrounded by her date’s friends. Is this normal? Also when is it OK to leave? At 20:00, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week that ends with a trip to Planned Parenthood. At 36:22, they take a letter from a listener talking who can’t get over her insecurity and jealousy. At 45:07, they take another letter from a listener who split with her boyfriend, but noticed that he left pictures of the two of them on Instagram. Could this mean anything? At 1:05:33, they wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Deal Breaker: gets all their dating advice from their mom. Listeners to the U UP? Podcast can use coupon code "UUP" for $10 off your first box at www.fabfitfun.com.
Sep 12, 2018
Bonus: U Up? Live At The Comedy Cellar (8 PM Show) Ft. Matteo Lane
01:35:41
J Squared is back with a bonus ep. from their epic night at the Comedy Cellar's Village Underground. The topic this time around: How to be an excellent stalker. At 6:02- A listener writes in wondering if it’s flattering to find out that your current hookup is stalking your ex. At 22:00 Hillary from Hoboken joins J and J for a dating app makeover. She’s looking for the Jewish boy of her dreams. At 37:00, they are joined by Matteo Lane. They play some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including "they put their credit score up as a picture on their dating app" and "insists you call their parents mom and dad as soon as you meet them." At 56:00 they re-enact their Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week. A listener encloses a full Bumble conversation and wants to know why the guy she was messaging suddenly disappeared from the app. At 1:17:10 they are joined by audience members looking for dating advice. Thanks to our sponsors SKORCH: Click https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/skorch/id1001454679?mt=8 to download the app today. P.VOLVE: Get 30 days free access to P.volve’s streaming service by visiting http://my.pvolve.com/offer/betches and typing in the code UUP SMART SWEETS: Go to SmartSweets.com and get free shipping on your first order of $30 or more using code “Betches”
Sep 07, 2018
Is It Crazy to Call Someone Out After Stalking Their Instagram Story?
01:07:56
Jor and Jar return for an amazing episode about going deep into peoples’ social media profiles. Jared says you know you’ve gone too far when you hit a bar mitzvah. At 16:57, they take a letter from a listener who went on several dates with a guy only for him to bail on one because he “needed to nap.” After some stalking, the listener discovers he was liking food pics on Insta. What gives? At 31:14, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a dental student stuck his finger in a girl’s mouth in an unsexual way. At 40;11, they take a letter from a listener who's displeased with her merely financially adequate boyfriend. He doesn’t have the drive to earn more. What should she do? At 53:25, they take another letter from a female listener who’s hooking up with a guy and he decides things are moving too fast. He says he wants to start from scratch and cut the sex out of the picture. Is this a thing? After they wrap up on some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including “still believes in the tooth fairy” and “has his own place, but he still has glowing stars on the ceiling.” This episode is brought to you by Leesa. Don’t miss Leesa’s limited time Labor Day Sale! Extended now through September 13: Get up to $235 off and free shipping on the Leesa mattress at Leesa.com/UUP and enter promo code UUP at checkout.
Sep 05, 2018
How to Know You're Chasing The Wrong People
01:16:02
Dub-J are back with an episode you don’t want to miss. At 3:54, they take an email from a listener who went to block a male creeper, but when she saw her blocked list, there were several girls only her BF of a few months could’ve put there. This segues into a brief discussion of those moments when your friend breaks up with their S/O and you are inclined to sh*t-talk them, but know there’s a real chance they’ll get right back together and you’ll be cut out forever. At 30:21, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a guy’s phone goes off during sex. If he answered it and took the call, that would’ve been OK, but what this listener describes is far more weird. At 41:15, they take another email from a listener asking about "GU guys," geographically undesirable dudes. This listener seems interested and hesitant at the same time about one such man. At 50;32, a male listener writes in who can’t seem to keep a woman for longer than two to four months. Is he being too hard on himself? At 1:00:13, they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: “when meeting their parents, they get into a huge screaming fight with them” and “they tried out for The Bachelor five times, but they never made it on.” This episode is brought to you by Leesa. Don’t miss Leesa’s limited time Labor Day Sale: Get up to $235 off and free shipping on the Leesa mattress at leesa.com/uup
Aug 29, 2018
Is a Cheap Guy a Dealbreaker?
01:20:16
J squared are back. They start off discussing "Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, a book that casts people into three groups: the anxious, the avoidant, and the secure. At 30:04, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a girl describes an encounter with a guy who strategically refused to remove his pants. At 50:14, they take an email from a listener who asked a guy she's been dating for four months to attend a wedding with her. He refused. Now what? At 57:34, they take another letter from a girl listener whose date keeps letting her pick up the tab. They wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: wears a fanny pack un-ironically and gets food all over their face on a first date. This episode is presented by Leesa. Go to Leesa.com/uup or use the promo code UUP at checkout to receive $165 off your purchase of a mattress, or $235 off your purchase of a Sapira.
Aug 22, 2018
To Text or Not To Double Text
00:59:36
J and J are back. At 3:00, they take their first email about when to double text - if ever. Is sending five iMessages in a row the same as two texts? This segues into a general discussion about texting strategies. At 19:12, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a girl hooks up with a guy in her living room and subsequently locks her door. He ends up knocking on her roomie's door and it only gets weirder. At 28:11 they take their third email from a girl who is back on the apps and goes lukewarm on a guy. Yet, he seems to want to keep it together. What's really going on? At 44:53 they take another email from a listener whose BF drops that he doesn't want kids. Do guys know what this really means? Jared says they sure do. At 54:44, they wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: Doesn't own a TV and they have no friends, but they're very close with their family.
Aug 15, 2018
Should I Swipe Right on Someone I Know IRL?
01:09:19
After a brief discussion of "k" texts, J squared agrees that "Kk" is polite while "k" is extremely aggressive. At 12:37 they take a letter from a listener who is unsure if he should continue small talk with a suitor on a date that's a week in advance. This leads to a more general discussion of scheduling dates and how to broach small talk around them. At 38:40, they take a letter from a female listener who finally decides to swipe right on someone she knows IRL. After seeing him in a group setting after he swiped right back, she's unsure how to proceed. At 46:50. they take a letter from a listener who learned her boyfriend used to hook up with a 20-year-old when he was 30. She's a bit uncomfortable with it. Is he out of line? After they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: he or she has a framed selfie of themselves in their room.
Aug 08, 2018
Can I Go Through My S/O's Texts?
00:58:06
J and J are back. At 3:11, they take an email about a boyfriend who has yet to post a picture of her on his Instagram. The thing is he posts A LOT. At 18:55 they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a man wearing a retainer seems to misunderstand its role in sex. At 24:58, they take another email where a girlfriend goes through her boyfriend's texts and what she finds shakes her to the core. At 38:15 they take another letter from a listener whose friends' new guys went on vacation and upon their return, ghosted them. She's worried she'll suffer the same fate. At 51:35 they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: they have a tattoo of Daffy Duck pushing a lawnmower through their pubes.
Aug 01, 2018
Why Do Guys Stop Putting Effort Into Long Term Relationships? Ft. Hinge Founder Justin McLeod
01:04:25
Jared and Jordana talk about the general state of U Up? which is now recommended by some therapists. Jared tells the story of a good friend who is in a bit of an Insta situation. He thinks a girl might be into him but then she seemingly hid her Insta stories from him. At 24:22 they take a letter from a listener whose boyfriend is a lifelong friend. After a year of dating, however, he's not putting in any effort. At 38:22, they take a very literary Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week. At 42:02 they are joined by Justin McLeod, the founder of Hinge who has brought with him some serious dating tips generated by Hinge's data scientists. They talk about the history of Hinge, a new feature called "Most-Compatible", and the best time to double text someone. You'll never guess how many NYT Wedding Announcements mentioned Hinge in the last year.
Jul 25, 2018
Why Do Guys Really Send Dick Pics?
01:17:59
J and J are back with an amazing 90 minute episode. At 4:40, a listener writes that she was “blindsided” by her boyfriend’s choice to end their relationship because he did not feel “needed." She asks what’s the right balance between being chill and needy? At 39:11, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a man asks if his girlfriend's strange sexual technique is a thing. At 48:30, a listener is perplexed about a guy who sent her a dick pic before they'd ever even dated. Should she still go out with him? At 57:34, a listener wants to know the right time to introduce your new boyfriend to your friends. They wrap up at 1:07:19 with a couple rounds of Red Flag or Deal Breaker including "showers once every three days" and "only eats at restaurants with a Michelin Star.
Jul 18, 2018
Bonus: U Up? Live at the Comedy Cellar (10PM Show) Ft. Liza Treyger
01:26:01
J Squared is back with another bonus ep. from their epic night at the Comedy Cellar's Village Underground. The topic this time around: how to deal with the early period of dating. At 2:51, they take a letter from a very busy female listener, asking what to expect in terms of confirming dates. And what should you say in texts, anyway? "Looking forward to it," that's more for HR and "Kk" is gold. At 24:44, they play a round of Douche Detective where a girl gets a handwritten letter from a guy who went way out of his way to tell her that she was the best sex he ever had. At 37:10, they are joined by Liza Treyger. They play some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including "sneezes in their own hand twice and does nothing to clean it" and "asks how much money you make on the first date." At 54:11, they do another round of "Douche Detective" where a wishy-washy guy repeatedly creates the "illusion of planning." At 1:03:09 they take some general questions from the audience, including a woman whose boyfriend calls her "a long-term partner" but often says that he doesn't believe in monogamy. Don't miss the Q&A question at 1:07:00, where a girl asks what her trip to Thailand with her ex (of seven years) should really be about.
Jul 13, 2018
What's The Ideal Day of the Week for a First Date?
01:04:02
Everyone's favorite Js are back discussing early date activities. At 5:39, they take a letter from a listener asking about what's "too much" to ask for on a second date. Are there certain date activities you should hold off on until later in a relationship? At 21:48, Jared poses an interesting question: what's the ideal day of the week for a date? At 28:08, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week. A girl describes an encounter where during 69, her jaw gets stuck wide open, taking on the appearance of the person in Edvard Munch's 'The Scream.' It's a story that must be heard, but surprisingly leads to a serious and meaningful question. At 42:47, they take another letter from a listener who recently had an abortion and tells a recent suitor. He freaked out. Are all guys weird when it comes to this topic? At 52:50 they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: believe the Earth is flat.
Jul 11, 2018
Do You Have To Break Up If They're Not The One?
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It's summer fling and fun season. The Js start things off fast this Independence Day. At 3:40, they take a letter from a girl who's 6'1" and thinks she falls higher on the attraction scale. Are guys really intimidated by her height? This segues into a more general discussion about how to state what you want on dating websites. At 18:25, they take a Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a female listener talks about a guy who leaves his undies on during the act. At 27:47, a guy writes in about dating a girl where things are going well, but he knows that she's not the one. Is this a break up situation or should he wait it out and see what happens? At 44:56, they take another letter from a listener who gets set up with a guy who keeps referring to his roommate as "they" and it turns out, she's his ex. They wrap up on some games including Would You Rather: date someone with customized ring and text tones or someone who has ZERO contacts saved in their phone?
Jul 04, 2018
Bonus: U Up? Live at the Comedy Cellar Ft. Andi Dorfman
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Don't miss this very special bonus episode of U Up? where Jared and Jordana take letters and play games in front of a sold-out crowd at NYC's legendary Comedy Cellar. Jordana starts things off with a story of being on a date when a homeless man asks if her and boyfriend of three months are together. He replies that she's his girlfriend. At 9:37, they take a letter from a listener who has been single for 5 years in the city and keeps getting stuck with noncommittal guys. Is her life just a classic case of "who wants to buy the cow when they can get the milk for free"? At 19:00, they do a dating app makeover for a 30-year-old New York girl who's "very single" and has been on the apps for six years. At 30:30, they are joined by former Bachelorette, Andi Dorfman, to talk about some of her dating experiences including a guy who wouldn't stop flirting and texting the bartender in front of her. At 37:29, they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: their email is CottonCandyLover@hotmail.com. Don't miss the final segment, Douche Detective, at 51:22.
Jun 29, 2018
Should You Tell Your Partner About A Time You “Almost” Cheated?
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Jared and Jordana are buzzing after their sold-out live show. They talk about a Twitter thread by a girl describing the perfect behavior from the perfect first date. Is high-fiving your dog a likable gesture or a romantic fairy tale IRL? They discuss social media gestures at large like praising your significant other or mother in a post. The Weird Sexual Encounter of the week involves a man who starts masturbating out of nowhere. After they take a letter from a male listener who met a “gorgeous Tinderella.” They hook up and go on a few dates, but then she seems only willing to talk on the phone or DM. What’s the deal? A second letter comes from a female listener on her way to marriage. An ex reaches out and she finds herself reaching back. They wrap up playing games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: Showed up on a date wearing a shirt that says, “Drive Fast, Eat Ass.”
Jun 27, 2018
How Important Is It That Your Significant Other Likes Your Family?
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Jared and Jordana deem guys who get into relationship mode too fast, "the male thirst trap." At 6:33, they take a letter from a listener on the topic who has dealt with guys who want to hold hands or kiss foreheads immediately. At 16:11, they receive their weird sexual encounter of the week - where a fajita-breathed man finishes himself off during a bathroom break while they're having sex. At 26:10, they take another letter from a listener, a girl who keeps letting her guy friends buy her dinner. Is letting guys pay merely accepting kindness or is she off the mark? At 34:54, another listener asks about her partner who keeps dissing her family. She likes his family, but does that have to mean her family sucks? At 49:20, they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: their family takes an annual trip to Disney Land.
Jun 20, 2018
Can You Start a Real Relationship From an Instagram Thirst Trap?
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Jordana and Jared take a letter from a listener asking about Instagram thirst traps. Do they come off as desperate? Do they work? After, they debut a new segment: Weird Sexual Encounter of The Week where a guy describes a balloon situation that is truly bizarre. Another listener asks how to handle her ex of 5 years (who she's still close with) seemingly entering into a new, serious relationship. Another letter asks about proper blowjob etiquette. They wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: shows up to brunch in Hollister/Abercrombie sweatpants.
Jun 13, 2018
When's The Right Time To Talk About Your Sexual History? Feat. Taylor Strecker
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Jordana and Jared talk about the Dobler-Dahmer Theory from How I Met Your Mother. The theory states that a big romantic gesture is either creepy or amazing based on how into the person you are. This segues into a poem-letter a listener received that is decidedly Dahmer. After they take a letter from a listener who wants his fiance to do molly with him. She's not into it. They're then joined by Taylor Strecker of the Taste of Taylor podcast. They talk about lesbians, the sexual spectrum, and when to break various things to a partner. After, they take another letter from a listener who recently discovered her bisexuality and doesn't know how/if she should broach with a guy she's been on three dates on. After they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: they go for runs in NYC wearing a helmet.
Jun 06, 2018
Once a Cheater Always a Cheater?
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Jordana and Jared talk Plan B, condoms and more in this particularly intimate episode. They take a letter from a listener who has been using the pull-out method and is having some issues. She breaks it to her partner that she’s not on BC. His reaction: priceless. Literally, he didn’t offer to pay the price for Plan B. A listener writes in wondering if he has to disclose that he’s cheated on a past girlfriend in a new relationship. In another letter, a listener’s boyfriend suspects her boyfriend is going to cheat on her during a bachelor party. They wrap things up with Red Flag or Dealbreaker, including “only eats McDonald’s or Burger King.”
May 30, 2018
Is It OK to Ask How Many People They’ve Slept With? Feat. Andy Cohen
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J and J talk about U Up? live shows (be sure to follow @uuppod on Instagram for updates and ticket info). They take a letter from a listener who had his heart broken using the apps in the NYC dating scene. He’s unsure how to regain his confidence without being an asshole. Another listener asks how you should answer the “How many people have you slept with?” question. Another person writes in dealing with a boyfriend who’s invited her to plenty of family events. She happily attends. Unfortunately, he’s not reciprocating. At 52:20, Jordana and Jared are joined by Andy Cohen who discusses his dating strategies, app philosophy, and more. Love Connection premieres Tuesday, May 29 at 9/8c on FOX.
May 23, 2018
How Do You Handle The First Fart In a Relationship? (Ft. Jax Taylor)
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Jared and Jordana take a letter from a listener asking about the right time to start posting pictures with a new partner. A listener asks how to get out of the block/unblock cycle with an old fling. Another listener asks how to handle "the first fart" milestone in a relationship. After Jax Taylor comes and discusses a variety of issues, including dating in the entertainment business. They also play a game of Red Flag or Dealbreaker, including "They tell their mother all about your sex life."
May 16, 2018
How Long Should I Put Up With a Guy Texting Me Without Asking Me Out?
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Jar-dana get a letter from a listener who is the only single person in a friend group of couples. Another listener feels stuck in a pen pals situation. When does the texting stop and the real life action start? When should you quit texting back? Another letter asks when it's OK to re-follow your ex on social media. Don't miss some fire red flag or dealbreakers including their house is covered in Batman memorabilia and they sincerely insist their ex is worse than Hitler.
May 09, 2018
How Do You Extend a Vacation Hook-Up?
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Jordana's returned from Coachella. jared's decided that the people who hate on Coachella have officially become more annoying than the people who go. After a tangent into how much Jordana loves tans (a lot, but only natural) a listener asks how to extend the vacation hook-up with a dude in Costa Rica. Can a fling be resurrected? Another listener (who calls J&J Jar-dana) is curious about the right time to explain their mental health history. They wrap up on some red flags or dealbreakers, including being obsessed with Coachella, and putting artificial sweetener in wine publicly.
May 02, 2018
What Do I Get a Guy For His Birthday If We've Only Been Dating a Month?
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Jor and Jar start with a listener asking if it's a red flag that dudes always ask her for a pic over the apps. A girl in a new relationship asks for the protocol on her suitor of one's month's birthday - is that a gift or a dinner sitch? A pretty boy writes in to ask why his constantly complimented looks aren't translating to catching more fish in the sea. Finally, a listener writes in to ask about her roomie's new fling where her BF comes over and massages her feet - while all three of them are watching a movie. Don't miss some great red flag or dealbreakers including "had sex with an animal."
Apr 25, 2018
The Reason Guys Don’t Make Plans in Advance
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Jor and Jar talk about scenes in different cities like comedy, music, and magic (are there magic open mics?). After they move on to the complications of hooking up with an ex, they take a letter from a listener who likes her new guy, but has serious qualms with his dog. Another listener asks about guys who have that "creepy Asian fetish." Finally, a woman writes in complaining about how a guy she’s dating can't seem to make the most basic of plans.
Apr 18, 2018
What's The Proper Post Breakup Protocol?
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Jor and Jar are joined by hilarious comedian, Matteo Lane for this special ep. Matteo brings a new perspective to the pod as someone who's seasoned at "trolling Grindr." They take a letter from a listener whose friend is convinced that her boyfriend "sleep-texted" his ex, and that he would never actually sext unfaithfully. Another listener is confused about how to handle a long-distance potential suitor; he lives 45 minutes away, does that entitle him to play the field or what? They wrap up on some games including "would you rather date an extremely cheap person, or someone who spends insanely frivolously?"
Apr 11, 2018
How Do I Tell Someone I'm Seeing That I'm a Virgin
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J-Train and Jordana answer an email from a listener who is struggling with their virginity. Double J explain that it's just not as big of a deal as it may seem. Jordana advocates not even necessarily telling his suitor. A second female listener is a sports fanatic and can't seem to find a guy who's into it. After, a 23-year-old asks a question relating to a GF who has massive jealousy issues and is worried "anything with a vagina" is out to steal him. The Js wrap up playing a game of "Red Flag or Dealbreaker" with "singing for money on the subway" and "believing in spanking their kids."
Apr 04, 2018
How Soon Should I Get Back on Dating Apps After a Breakup? Ft. Hannah Bronfman
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Jordana and Jared field a letter from a listener who wonders why past boyfriends refused to put their relationship on Facebook. Another letter asks what to do if you're hooking up with a guy but you have your period. A guy asks how to handle the apps after breaking up with his GF after three years, is it OK to start going out and to use pictures she took on his dating profile? She even did the filters... Finally, double J is joined by Hannah Bronfman, DJ and founder of HBFIT, who discusses the importance of horoscopes and married life.
Mar 28, 2018
Should I Hide the Fact That I Smoke Weed on a Dating App?
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Jared and Jordana field a letter from a listener who is both weirded out by the guy who doesn’t ask for the date on a dating app and the guy who asks too soon. Another letter asks how prominent weed should be in her dating profile (esp. when it’s part of her lifestyle). After a fan describes the pod as, “a Yom Kippur sermon without the guilt,” they take a question about sending exes a happy birthday text. Then they play some games including Red flag or Dealbreaker: person who signs their text messages like “Hey good to see you last night -Jared.”
Mar 21, 2018
Is It Messed Up That My Boyfriend Goes to Strip Clubs?
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J&J start with a letter from a listener who sent a "Red flag or dealbreaker" as an opening line on a dating app and revealed he doesn't respect girls who put out on the first date. Jared talks about his tendency to post pics of his insane messages to girls. This segues into a conversation about how best to open on dating apps (and how to deal with the inevitable rejection/non-response). Another listener hooks up with a smoker, but she's not sure if she can deal with the habit since her grandmother just had lung cancer and surgery caused by cigs. A self-described "binge-listener" writes in to inquire about a bf who is adamant about attending strip clubs (though he hates porn) for access to fresh T&A, but he doesn't want an open relationship or anything.
Mar 14, 2018
What Do Guys Really Think of Fake Boobs?
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Jared and Jordana discuss their partying and drinking habits. J&J agree on rose. Jordana confesses to being the type of drunk that loves to start fights. After they take a letter from a listener asking why girls talking about boob jobs is so taboo. Finally, an "independent betch" asks how to deal with her needy boyfriend (at least, that's how she sees it).
Mar 07, 2018
How Many Dates Should You Wait Before Adding Someone On Instagram?
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Jared has an awkward hook up after masturbating 700 times. A listener tells the story of watching a gay porn and hearing familiar music, namely the 'U Up' theme song. Another fan asks when the right time to add a dating partner on social media might be. J&J then take a letter about a guy who requested a Venmo refund for a cheeseburger after a first date that went nowhere. Also, is sleeping with a dude on the first date always a bad move? Probably, especially if it's with the guy whose dating profile pics were all taken by his ex.
Feb 28, 2018
How to Plan a Date Without Looking Desperate
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Jordana and Jared start off talking about the heart DM on Instagram (is it sincere?). Then they take a letter from a compulsive planner who is curious how far ahead it's appropriate to plan in a dating context. After a listener asks what he should if he's in a long-term relationship (over two years), but he doesn't see it going anywhere. They wrap things up answering whether a dating partner who kisses their family on the mouth is a "red flag or a dealbreaker."
Feb 21, 2018
Stop Instagram Stalking Your Exes with Whitney Cummings
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After talking about various verbal dealbreakers such as “golly” and “oh my gosh,” Jordana and Jared take a letter from a listener asking how to act if she runs into a 25-year-old college student after he ghosted her. They talk about Instagram stalking and other weirdos that linger in the “viewed by” section of social media apps. At 0:47, Jordana is joined by Whitney Cummings. talking about her new film, The Female Brain, and how men and women differ.
Feb 14, 2018
Do Women Have More to Gain From Marriage Than Men?
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Jared and Jordana talk about how to handle Valentine’s Day as a single person, having reasonable standards, and what men and women have to gain from marriage. After, they discuss people who are resistant to “the apps.” Do you live in the Now? It’s time to get better at dating online— though they’re not sure which gender has it better in our Hinge-driven world. They also respond to a letter from a listener caught between a girlfriend and a dream crush.
Feb 07, 2018
Is It OK to Talk About Your Ex?
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Jordana and Jared have a fascinating discussion about exes, matchmaking, and being nosy about people's relationships. They take two questions posed by listeners. The first comes from a distressed lover scorned by someone who randomly started bringing up their ex. Number two deals with a bizarre boy who switches from smooth Romeo to college frat bro who doesn't want anything serious. And don't miss a classic would you rather: date someone who smokes pot everyday or someone who does crystal meth once a year?"
Feb 01, 2018
How Much Porn is Too Much Porn?
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This week Jordana and Jared discuss micro-cheating and whether or not men and women can really be just friends. They answer questions from a listener whose boyfriend turns into a caveman when he gets angry and another listener who is offended by the fact that her boyfriend watches porn. They play games involving dating someone with cats and a ‘Live Laugh Love’ sign in their room.
Jan 25, 2018
If You’re Not On His Instagram It’s Not Official
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This week Jordana and Jared discuss how long you should wait before putting the person you’re dating on social media. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know if she should stop having sex with a guy because he’s a Trump supporter and another listener who wants to know what the etiquette is for confirming a first date. They play "Shoot, Fuck, or Marry" and "Red Flag or Dealbreaker" about people who want to be stay at home parents, live off their parents, and have weird voices.
Jan 18, 2018
How Many Drinks Should I Have On A Date?
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This week Jared and Jordana discuss if it’s possible to not drink while dating. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know why the guy she slept with texts her all day even though he lives in in another state. They also respond to a listener who is tired of dating girls who are overly sarcastic and not sweet enough. They play 2nd Date Dealbreaker involving calorie counting, over-ordering, and being a messy eater.
Jan 11, 2018
What’s The Best Way To Dump Someone?
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This week Jordana and Jared discuss why a girl might not have sex with a guy she lets sleep over. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know why guys Snapchat her more than they text her and a guy who wants to know if it’s okay to dump a girl he’s been seeing for 4 months over text. They play 2nd Date Dealbreaker involving STIs and farting.
Jan 04, 2018
Should You Have ‘The Talk’? The Great Debate
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This week Jared and Jordana discuss why guys like Instagram Models’ photos. They answer questions from a girl who’s anxious she won’t get a New Years kiss and other listeners wondering when an appropriate time to initiate exclusivity is. They play games involving dating a bad tipper and dating a closed mouth kisser.
Dec 28, 2017
Blowjobs Are a Selfless Act
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This week Jordana and Jared talk about what girls and guys think of oral sex. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know how many times is normal for a guy to not be able to get it up and a male listener who is ashamed of his lack of sexual experience. They play a game called “would you go on a second date” where they discuss dating dealbreakers.
Dec 21, 2017
Don’t Text for A Specific Response
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This week Jordana and Jared discuss lingerie and who should text first after a first date. They answer questions from a listener trying to move on from a 10 month relationship and another one who has an issue with guys no longer being interested after 3-4 dates. They play red flag or dealbreaker about messy apartments, still living with your parents, and posting inspirational quotes.
Dec 14, 2017
Girls Trying Not To Be Crazy Is What’s Gotten Guys Laid for Centuries
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Jared and Jordana discuss who should pay on dates, and what you “owe" someone you’re having sex with in terms of honesty. They answer a listener’s question who wants to know what it means when a guy who ghosted you keeps liking your Instagram picture and another guy who wants advice on how to hit on girls at bars. They play red flag or dealbreaker involving being loud in movie theaters, dating someone who has done porn, and dating someone who has never said ‘I love you.'
Dec 07, 2017
Is it ever okay to fake an orgasm?
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Jared and Jordana discuss why girls fake orgasms and what the best solution is to get them to stop. They answer questions from a male listener who doesn’t want a relationship but finds himself doing “relationshipy” things with girls he’s hooking up with and another listener who wants to know how to define her relationship. They play Shoot Fuck Marry and Red Flag or Dealbreaker involving crying in public and taking your shirt off while having sex.
Nov 30, 2017
You're Not Better Than The App
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Jared and Jordana discuss how to be put yourself out there on dating apps and whether or not a guy can ever truly be 'not in the mood.' The give advice about how to ask a guy out in a low key way and how to let go of your boyfriend's transgressions from years ago. They play red flag or dealbreaker regarding eating habits and same-sex infidelity. They debate texting vs calling and personal grooming.
Nov 23, 2017
Guys Want a Girl That Their Dad Would Want to Have Sex With
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In their premiere dating podcast, Jared and The Betches discuss how your dating app profile picture can affect what kind of guys or girls you attract and what types of photos you should avoid. They answer questions from a listener who wonders if a visiting hook up was just using her for her bed and another who wonders why her new boyfriend rarely wants to have sex. They play red flag or dealbreaker with a few dating scenarios.
Nov 15, 2017