Talking To Teens: Expert Tips for Parenting Teenagers

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Parent-teen researcher Andy Earle talks with various experts about the art and science of parenting teenagers. Find more at www.talkingtoteens.com

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Ep 97: One Trusted Adult
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Brooklyn Raney, author of One Trusted Adult, shares with Andy what she’s seen works with teens as a mentor, high school dean, camp director, and parent herself. Having support at home is important for teens, but having just one trusted adult outside the home can be even more impactful.
Aug 02, 2020
Ep 96: Getting Over the Awkwardness to Talk About Sex
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Cindy Pierce, author of Sexplotation and Sex, College, and Social Media, brings her immense knowledge and humorous vibes to this week’s episode. Porn is wreaking havoc on our teens’ sexual development, but, fortunately, Cindy has ways parents can help undo the deleterious effects.
Jul 26, 2020
Ep 95: The Truth About Alcohol
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Annie Grace, author of This Naked Mind and The Alcohol Experiment, dispels myths around alcohol with Andy and reveals her number one method for talking to teens about drinking.
Jul 19, 2020
Ep 94: Why Teens Run Wild & How to Keep Them Safe
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Dr. Jess Shatkin, author of Born to be Wild and expert in the field of child and adolescent psychiatry, clues us into why teens run wild and how we can help keep them safe. A still-developing brain and high levels of hormones mean parents have their work cut out for them!
Jul 12, 2020
Ep 93: How to Spot & Treat Eating Disorders
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Lauren Muhlheim, author of When Your Teen Has an Eating Disorder and clinical psychologist, speaks with Andy on spotting and treating eating disorders in teens. Eating disorders are scary, but Lauren tells us that together, families can reduce the dangers and stress eating disorders cause.
Jul 05, 2020
Ep. 92: Raising Successful People
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Esther Wojcicki, author of How to Raise Successful People, shares her insights into what we can give teens in the home and the classroom to set them up for ultimate success later in life. As the mother of 3 highly successful daughters in Silicon Valley and founder of the Media Arts Program at Palo Alto High School, Esther not only talks the talk but walks the walk.
Jun 28, 2020
Ep 91: Not Under My Roof!
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Amy Schalet, author of Not Under My Roof reveals the cultural underpinnings of teen sexual development. Amy and I discuss how a focus on achievement may leave teens feeling unsuccessful in intimate relationships later in life--and also what parents might try to better prepare their teens for connection.
Jun 21, 2020
Ep 90: What's Your Teen Thinking?
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Tanith Carey, prolific author and journalist, joins us to talk about all the knowledge packed into her latest book, What’s My Teenager Thinking?. Tanith takes us behind “whatever” and “I’m bored” and even “You can’t make me” to discover what the heck is going through a teen’s brain when those classic one liners come out of their mouths!
Jun 14, 2020
Ep 89: The Followers & the Rebels
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What does behavioral economics and finance have to do with understanding teens’ decision-making? More than you’d think. Michelle Baddeley’s research in Copycats and Contrarians: Why We Follow Others...and When We Don’t, helps explain why people copy each other and why they rebel: a common focal point in parent/teen conversations. With the best of intentions, parents often struggle to help their teen develop a critical perspective when navigating mature decisions. But by considering the various internal and external forces at play in their teens’ experience, parents can better guide their teens to making healthier decisions. Much of what we know about decision making pivots on social learning, or the theory that new behaviors are acquired through observation and imitation. Anyone in a new situation is susceptible to this: the less we know about a topic, or the less social cues we have in a given setting, the more apt we are to copy those around us. And the most vulnerable group to this influence is first-year high school/university students. When I asked what wisdom Dr. Baddeley could offer parents who want to help their teens critically combat this influence, Dr. Baddeley focused on the importance of shared trust, communication, and anecdotes. By illuminating the consequences of a misguided decision more tangibly, Dr. Baddely noted, parents can help their teen better consider the outcomes without eroding trust. Such illustrations are reinforced in economics: when the implications are imagined more immediately, we can make stronger decisions. Another important topic covered was fruits of contrarians’ labor, and how dissent is actually quite essential to functional families. By striking the balance between unity and rebellion whilst acknowledging their teens’ voice, parents will have an easier time navigating conflict. This too is supported in her research. While contrarians may simply enjoy the risk of being different, they do push the copycats to reconsider their position. The same can be said about rebellious teens. Most of the time, they may be wrong. But sometimes, they’re right. And by squashing their perspective immediately by pulling rank, parents can do more harm than good. Ultimately, though, sometimes the decision is entirely in the teens’ hands. Once they leave the house to go to college, they will have the final say. And the best way Dr Baddely believes parents can support their teens without eroding their trust is to engage them in system 2 levels of thinking. Simply put, we have two main systems of thought: system 1 being the instinctive side and system 2 being more rational and controlled. Dr. Baddeley explains that while system 1 was more useful for early humans in hunter-gather settings, system 2 is more fruitful for today’s circumstances. And teens, often quick to engage system 1 in their decision-making, can be redirected into system 2 through parental encouragement. This is best exemplified when parents ask their teen to consider making the decision over a longer period of time. Having the teen make a comprehensive case for the decision also works in accomplishing this task. Rich with more multidisciplinary insights, my podcast with Dr. Baddeley can help you enrich your relationship with your teen whilst learning a thing or two about yourself in the process.
Jun 07, 2020
Ep 88: A Conversation About Race
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Dr. Beverly Daniel Tatum, psychologist, educator, and author of “Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?” joins us for a candid and in-depth conversation about race, identity, and how to start difficult conversations of your own in the home. In support of increased education and awareness of the experiences of POC, we are pleased to share the full 52 minute conversation in this special episode featuring Dr. Tatum.
Jun 04, 2020
Ep. 87: Combatting the Drama of High School
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Rosalind Wiseman, author of the classic Queenbees and Wannabees (the inspiration for the hit film Mean Girls) and four other books, shares her knowledge from over two decades of working with teens and schools. From what dads-with-daughters have to deal with now to where to draw the line on offensive language between mom-and-son, Rosalind has a wealth of insights!
May 31, 2020
Ep 86: The Dark Side of College: Testing, Admissions, and Inequality
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Paul Tough, NYT bestselling author, shares what he learned in putting together his most recent book The Years That Matter Most. College may have a special place in the American Dream, but Paul enlightens us into what is really happening behind the scenes--it may have you rethinking decisions about higher education.
May 24, 2020
Ep. 85: Reaching Resilience
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Lindsey Sealey, girl-advocate and author of the new book Rooted, Resilient, and Ready, re-joins us to discuss the tips and tricks from her latest book on raising strong girls, resilient and ready for the path ahead but firmly rooted in who they are!
May 17, 2020
Ep. 84: Contain Your Teen’s Tech
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Joshua Wayne, author of new book The Simple Parenting Guide to Technology, clues Andy in on the latest statistics and solutions to teens’ addiction to technology. Plus, how to adjust your rules--or set them--during the coronavirus pandemic.
May 10, 2020
Ep. 83: The Future of Jobs
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Terry Iverson, founder of the non-profit Champion Now and author of Finding America’s Greatest Champion, talks about the future of the job market--where are the gaps now and what might young people do to best prepare themselves for the world of work? Find out in this week’s episode!
May 03, 2020
Ep. 82: An Unconventional Education
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Tony Wagner, educator and author of several books, most recently his memoir Learning by Heart, joins us this week for a closer look at what really makes a difference in the education of teens. What makes the greatest positive impact on students? How an unconventional education can be advantageous?
Apr 26, 2020
Ep. 81: Creating Genius
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Janice Kaplan, NYT Bestselling author, most recently of The Genius of Women, discusses why 90% of the population thinks only men can be geniuses. Janice and Andy cover what we can talk to and teach our girls about to empower them at a time when we need more geniuses than ever!
Apr 19, 2020
Ep. 80: The Upside of Messy Teenagers
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Tim Harford, author of Messy and accomplished journalist, economist, and speaker, and I talk about how messiness can play a positive role in your teen’s (and maybe your) life. Turns out you can use messes, randomness, and disorganization to enhance your thoughts and actions, rather than bog you down.
Apr 12, 2020
Ep. 79: How “Manhood” is Hurting Our Boys (and Girls!)
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Dr. Michael Kimmel, author of the NYT bestselling Guyland, speaks with Andy to discuss boys, men, and everything in between. Masculinity doesn’t have to be “toxic” but the way we teach (or don’t teach) our boys about what it means to be a “man” has dire consequences for us all.
Apr 05, 2020
Ep. 78: Winning Arguments
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Stanley Fish, best-selling author and octogenarian, clues us into the intricacies of arguments: how argument is a more natural state; destructive arguments; how to get out of one; and much more! Grateful to be able to connect with such a distinguished author and professor as Dr. Fish!
Mar 29, 2020
Ep. 77: Survive the QuaranTEEN!
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Amy Cooper Hakim, author of Working With Difficult People, joins us for a discussion on how to deal with the most common types of difficult people, particularly when you are quarantined with them!!
Mar 22, 2020
Ep. 76: Setting Better Boundaries
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Linda Perlman Gordon, co-author of Mom, Can I Move Back In With You? and four other books sat down with me this week to explores techniques and strategies for parenting teens who are transitioning into ‘real’ adulthood.Linda, a private psychotherapist in the greater D.C. area, counsels parents of teens and twentysomethings--and is the perfect person to discuss how to make better boundaries with your maturing teen!
Mar 15, 2020
Ep. 75: "Purpose" but Without the Eye-Rolling
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Alexis Rockley, author of Find Your F*ckyeah, sat down with me this week to talk about how you can help your teen find their groove, their vibe, their f*ckyeah--the things that gets them popping out of bed in the morning, ready to take on the world. It’s sort of like “purpose” but will cause a lot less eyerolls…
Mar 08, 2020
74: Growing Strong Girls
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Lindsay Sealey, author of Growing Strong Girls and “girl advocate” speaks with me this week about how to help your daughter find, understand, and value her own voice. With girls receiving so many conflicting external messages, it is vital we help them strengthen their internal self!
Mar 01, 2020
Ep. 73: “You ALWAYS do that!”
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Cynthia Kane, author of How to Communicate Like a Buddhist and Talk to Yourself Like a Buddhist, sat down with me to discuss the communication tactics she has learned during her journey as a Bodhisattva. Her techniques are perfect for getting out of escalating arguments and questionable conversations!
Feb 23, 2020
Ep. 72: Know-It-All Teens
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Dr. Steven Sloman, co-author of The Knowledge Illusion and professor at Brown University, joins Andy for a conversation on knowledge, making deliberate decisions, and how to talk to your teen about the gaps in their knowledge around things like vaping.
Feb 16, 2020
Ep. 71: Laziness Ends Here
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Dr. Adam Price, author of He’s Not Lazy, shares the tricks and tips from his book. Dr. Price and Andy dive deep into all that Dr. Price has discovered about motivating “lazy” teens in during his 20+ years as a clinical psychologist.
Feb 09, 2020
Ep. 70: Sexual Identity Challenges
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Richie Jackson, author of the newly-released Gay Like Me and long-time, award-winning TV/film and theater producer, joins Andy this week. Richie and Andy discuss how parents can support their teens in their own journey of sexual identity, and how teens might become allies for their friends in the LGBTQ community.
Feb 02, 2020
Ep. 69: Happier Parenting
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KJ Dell’Antonia, author of How to Be a Happier Parent, joins Andy for a look at how to get happier while parenting. It’s time for parents to stop thinking about their kids so much and get back to what makes them happy!
Jan 26, 2020
Ep. 68: What You Don't Know About Teen Hook-up Culture
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Peggy Orenstein, author of Boys & Sex, a current New York Times Bestseller (as well as several other bestsellers!), joins Andy for an in-depth conversation about the culture of sex, intimacy, and relationships that teens are facing and which conversations are crucial to have with your teens - despite how awkward it may be!
Jan 19, 2020
Ep. 67: The Hidden Secrets of Teenage Success
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Jessica Lahey, author of The Gift of Failure and storied educator, shares the secrets of what makes teens successful in academics, at home, and in the world. If you teen does fail, Lahey knows where to look to find the silver lining.
Jan 12, 2020
Ep. 66: Grown and Flown and Still Parenting
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Lisa Heffernan, co-founder and author of Grown & Flown, shares her vast knowledge on parenting during the late-teens and even early 20s. Our Kids may be more grown up, but it doesn’t mean parents don’t still have an important role to play!
Jan 05, 2020
Ep. 65: 'Punishment' is a Trick Tactic
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Dr. Laura Markham, author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Child and Peaceful Parent, Happy Sibling, founded Aha! Parenting as a resource for parents who are struggling to control their disobedient, disrespectful, and/or depressive kid. Dr. Markham shares her secrets for how to flip punishment on its head and get the best possible results--and relationship--with your teen.
Dec 29, 2019
Ep. 64: A Way Through the Toughest Conversations
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Dr. Amy Alamar, author of The Parenting Project and Parenting for the Genius, takes insight from the educational sphere and applies it to practical parenting techniques to get through to your teen. Whether you have a teen that shuts down, or one that over-shares, Dr. Alamar has suggestions for exactly what to say when the tough conversations get going!
Dec 22, 2019
Ep. 63: Recognizing Strengths to Help Your Teen Thrive
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Dec 15, 2019
Ep. 62: Avoiding Negative Cultural Influences
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Mike Adamick, author of Raising Empowered Daughters, shares his insights on avoiding negative cultural narratives to raise strong girls. And how we raise boys is an important piece of the puzzle too.
Dec 08, 2019
Ep. 61: Is Your Teen's Brain-Body Type Causing Problems?
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Dr. Robert Keith Wallace, author of Dharma Parenting and an expert in the physiology-psychology connection, joins us for a lively discussion on how your teen's (and your) brain-body type may be affecting your relationship. Dr. Wallace clues us into the scientifically backed Ayurvedic doshas - vata, pitta, and kapha - and how to deal with each type.
Dec 01, 2019
Ep. 60: Deliberate Parenting for Happy Campers
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Audrey Monke, author of Happy Campers, shares the wealth of knowledge she’s gained from mentoring kids and camp counselors for the past 30 years. It’s incredible just how many tricks from counseling campers can be applied in the home!
Nov 24, 2019
Ep. 59: College, Careers, and Becoming Adult
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Barbara Schneider, co-author of “Becoming Adult,” speaks with Andy about her research on how teens’ environment can influence their thoughts and beliefs on college, work, and what’s possible for them.
Nov 17, 2019
Ep. 58: The Great Outdoors and Teens
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Linda McGurk, author of There's No Such Thing As Bad Weather, clues us in on the surprising benefits of outdoor time...and how to get your kid out there in the first place!
Nov 10, 2019
Ep. 57: Your Teen on Power
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Erin Clabough, PhD, joins us for a discussion on the importance of giving teens the right amount of power...and making sure they know how to use it! Instilling a value of empathy is key to making sure teens wield power fairly. And how do you do that? Erin says bribing is an option!
Nov 03, 2019
Ep. 56: Make Meaningful Connections
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Joanna Guest shares the lessons she (re)learned about meaningfully connecting with your kids while curating her book, Folded Wisdom, a collection of the best of Joanna’s dad’s 4775 notes to her and her brother. An inspiring story packed with applicable parenting take-aways!
Oct 27, 2019
Ep 55: Build Resilience & Capability in Teens
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Author Katherine Lewis speaks with Andy about why kids lack resilience and capability more than ever. By rescuing kids from every micro stressor they may encounter, parents are doing more harm than good - and when it comes to behavior, we want the good stuff!
Oct 20, 2019
Ep 54: Making Room for More with Minimalism
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Christine Koh, author of Minimalist Parenting, reveals how to get more out of your family life by doing LESS. She says “minimalism” isn’t about getting rid of apps and toilet paper, it’s about making room for the stuff that helps your family thrive while cutting back on everything else.
Oct 13, 2019
Ep 53: Bad Behavior? Ignore It!
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Dr. Catherine Pearlman and Andy discuss her book and the key principle contained within it: ignoring bad behavior! Discover the key to dissuading your teen’s annoying or bad behaviors as well as how to get more of that often elusive good behavior.
Oct 06, 2019
Ep 52: Get Your Teen to Think
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Dr. Jennifer Salerno shares communication tactics that you can put into practice today to start reshaping your relationship with your teen. As founder of the non-profit Possibilities for Change, Jennifer knows a thing or two about impacting the lives of teens!
Sep 29, 2019
Ep 51: Hack Your Parenting
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Susan Groner, founder of the Parenting Mentor, shares her wisdom and parenting “hacks” with Andy. Discover Andy’s favorite tips from Susan’s latest book Parenting: 101 Ways to Rock Your World, and Susan’s #1 reason why fights break out between parents and teens. Plus, what to say instead of “Because I said so.”
Sep 22, 2019
Ep 50: Teenagers Under Pressure
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Lisa Damour, bestselling author of Untangled and Under Pressure, reveals a startling trend on this episode: stress and anxiety are on the rise among teenage girls. Learn why this is happening and what parents can do about it from the psychologist who writes the adolescence column for the New York Times.
Sep 15, 2019
Ep 49: Risky Behaviors and Self Harm
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Michelle Mitchell, author of 5 parenting books, shares some surprising facts from her newest book, Self Harm. She says teens act reckless and harm themselves when they can't find a better way to deal with strong negative emotions. Thankfully, there's a lot parents can do to help.
Sep 09, 2019
Ep 48: Gaslighting and Emotional Manipulation
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Stephanie Sarkis, author of Gaslighting, explains how parents should handle emotionally manipulative teenagers, partners, and ex-partners. She also shares strategies for preparing your teen to deal with emotionally manipulative people in their own lives.
Aug 18, 2019
Ep 47: Sex Positive Education for Teens
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Gia Lynne, author of On Blossoming, thinks the current model of sex education does more harm than good. In this episode, she reveals how to adopt a "pleasure-focused", or "sex positive education", approach instead. Use these tips to set your teen up for sexual success.
Aug 04, 2019
Ep 46: Handling Problem Teenagers
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David Sortino, author and psychologist, talks about the time he spent working at a school for troubled kids during his twenties. He developed a unique approach, using kinesthetic activities to engage the students. This episode also covers his new book on the neuroscience of learning.
Jul 14, 2019
Ep 45: Troublesome Teenage Boys
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Bill Beausay, the author of 20 books including Teenage Boys! and True Greatness, talks about how to build a strong and deep connection with a tough teenager and what you can do to challenge teens to step up and handle their own problems. He also reveals how to teach manners to teens.
Jun 30, 2019
Ep 44: Non-Punitive Parenting Strategies
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Judy Arnall, the author of four parenting books including Discipline without Distress and Parenting with Patience, explains how to stop teenage rebellion and attitude problems instantly using non-punitive parenting strategies. Your teens will surely respond to these counter-intuitive approaches.
Jun 17, 2019
Ep 43: How to Stop Yelling at Kids
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Bonnie Harris, the bestselling author of When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids, reveals why your kids make you so mad sometimes. In this episode, she breaks down her incredible system to stop yelling at kids and start connecting with them instead.
Jun 02, 2019
Ep 42: Positive Parenting Solutions
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Jane Nelsen, the author of the Positive Discipline books and founder of the positive discipline movement reveals some positive parenting strategies for rebellious and defiant teenagers. Get your teen under control without punishing and lecturing them with these great tips.
May 26, 2019
Ep 41: Choosing Great Teen Fiction Books
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Brandon Mull, author of 15 New York Times Bestsellers, discusses what makes good teen fiction books. He also shares what he's learned about how to get teens reading for fun while giving thousands of free lectures in schools around the country.
May 04, 2019
Ep 40: Learning and Study Strategies
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Ulrich Boser, author of "Learn Better" and "The Leap", discusses the latest research on the science of learning strategies and reveals how you can help your teen to adopt proven study techniques for accelerating academic performance with less effort.
Apr 10, 2019
Ep 39: Getting Kids to Listen to You
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Chris Smith, bestselling author of The Conversion Code, reveals a step-by-step formula for how to get kids to listen to you and follow your rules. Learn how to deal with teenagers and use Pattern Interrupt statements. Getting kids to listen to you is easy when you know this.
Mar 17, 2019
Ep 38: Giving Advice to Teenagers
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Annie Fox, an online adviser to thousands of teens and the author of 12 books including "Teaching Kids to be Good People", reveals the best ways to give teens advice when they need some guidance.
Feb 15, 2019
Ep 37: Teach Lessons Using Stories
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Paul Smith is the author of three books: Parenting with a Story, Lead with a Story, and Sell with a Story. On this episode, he reveals how to tell teens stories that teach them important lessons about life. He also shares a few of his favorite parenting stories that you can steal and tell to your own kids.
Jan 24, 2019
Ep 36: Sex and Pornography Talks
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Dina Alexander is the president of Educate Empower Kids and the author of numerous books on how to talk to kids about difficult topics like sex and pornography. In this episode, she explains various strategies for talking to teenagers about porn and sex including how to start conversations, what to do if you find porn on your family computer, and what topics to cover with every teen.
Jan 01, 2019
Ep 35: Parenting Like a Badass
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Biz Ellis is the host of the "One Bad Mother" podcast. On this episode, she reveals how she found her inner badass as a parent and learned how to be cool again through her kids' eyes.
Dec 15, 2018
Ep 34: Drug and Alcohol Conversations
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Robert J. Meyers is the author of "Getting Your Loved One Sober". In this episode, he explores strategies that parents can use to get teenagers to stop using drugs and alcohol.
Dec 01, 2018
Ep 33: Does Your Teen Bully You?
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Sean Grover, is the author of "When Kids Call the Shots". In this episode, he discusses why teenagers bully their parents and what you can do to regain control from your teenager if you find yourself getting bullied.
Nov 15, 2018
Ep 32: Productivity for Teenagers
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David Allen is the author of "Getting Things Done", one of the best selling business books of all time. On this episode, he explains how to get teens excited and motivated about their goals and productive as they pursue those goals.
Oct 01, 2018
Ep 31: Eating Disorders and Exercise
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Dana Suchow, founder of Do The Hotpants, discusses what parents need to know to discuss eating disorders with a teenager. She also explains how to connect with teenagers about exercise in a positive way, words you should absolutely avoid when talking about food, and a lesson in where negative body image comes from.
Sep 15, 2018
Ep 30: Puberty and Body Changes
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Suanne Kowal Connelly, author of Parenting Through Puberty, shares insights from her years as a pediatrician helping teens navigate the waters of their changing bodies and brains. She reveals when to start talking about puberty, how to start the conversation, and the important topics to discuss. Suanne also explains how to use techniques from Motivational Interviewing to improve your effectiveness during these talks.
Sep 05, 2018
Ep 29: Finding Your Identity
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Paul Angone, author of 101 Questions You Need to Ask In Your Twenties, gets into a discussion about the process of finding your identity and discovering your unique "secret sauce" to bring to the world. The key is to push teens to take on increasingly more responsibility in their lives while also taking the right kinds of risks. Paul reveals exactly what parents should say to get the best results.
Aug 31, 2018
Ep 28: Connect then Redirect
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Todd Cartmell, author of 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids, is an expert in dealing with difficult teenagers. In this episode he goes into extreme detail, revealing additional specifics and strategies not found in the book. He explains how to get a strong bond with a teenager and then use this as a home base to redirect them to a better way.
Aug 15, 2018
Ep 27: Awkward Talks with Teens
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David McGlynn, author of "One Day You'll Thank Me" along with two other books, as well as a college professor, gets candid on this episode about some truly awkward conversations he had to have with his two teenage boys. But by stepping up and doing to awkward talks (and by polling his students about how their own parents discussed sex) he developed some important insights about how to approach the tough conversations.
Aug 09, 2018
Ep 26: The Teenage Achievement Trap
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Brandilyn Tebo, bestselling author of The Achievement Trap and a retreat leader and life coach, talks to Andy about how parents often instill harmful beliefs in their teens without even realizing it. Because we love them and want them to be happy, we tend to teach our teens about the importance of doing well in school and other activities. But, as Brandilyn points out, it's important to also help teens develop a practice of unconditional self love. This episode is full of word-for-word scripts you can use to make it happen.
Jul 23, 2018
Ep 25: Mental Strength for Teens
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Amy Morin, bestselling author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do, and a leading expert on how to instill grit and emotional strength in children, discusses lessons she learned from her years as a foster parent to dozens of children and as a psychologist who helps families through difficult transitions.
Jul 10, 2018
Ep 24: Adolescent Neuroscience
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Lucy Maddox, author of Blueprint, discusses adolescent neuroscience on this episode. She explains that, when we look back later on, teenage memories can seem bigger than others because we often try many things for the first time during the teenage years and our first experience with something can be very heightened. Of course, social experiences are also heightened during the teenage years. Lucy reveals what you should teach your teen about friendships and relationships.
Jun 29, 2018
Ep 23: The Terror of Teenage Rebellion
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Neal Thompson, author of the book Kickflip Boys, discusses the drama of raising rebellious and defiant teenagers. His boys were swept into skateboarding at an early age, which Neal enjoyed at first. But as the kids hit their teenage years, the skateboarding lifestyle led them to develop extremely defiant attitudes. On this episode, Neal discusses the strategies he found that worked for getting through to his kids in the end.
Jun 15, 2018
Ep 22: Negotiating Rules and Limits
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Chris Voss, the former lead international hostage negotiator for the FBI and author of the bestselling book Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as if Your Life Depended on it, speaks with Andy about how to win negotiations with your teenager over things like curfew, cell phone usage, and other rules.
Jun 08, 2018
Ep 21: Teaching Your Teen to Be Happy
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Tim Bono, author of When Likes Aren't Enough, takes us behind the scenes of the science of teenage happiness. He reveals some strategies parents can use to help teens cope with setbacks and maintain a positive outlook in the face of obstacles and failure. Ultimately, the tools discussed in this interview are things that can also improve your own life if you apply them.
May 25, 2018
Ep 20: Building a Strong Family Culture
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Thomas Lickona, author of How to Raise Kind Kids, reveals how parents can combat the constant barrage of influence on teenagers from peers, media, and the internet. This requires creating a family culture so strong it overpowers the negative influences. In this episode, we lay out a guide for how to apply these techniques with teens.
May 17, 2018
Ep 19: Teenagers and Self-Motivation
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Ned and Bill, the authors of The Self-Driven Child, discuss the difficulties of getting teens motivated about things like homework. They provide a useful framework for helping teens develop self-motivation and self-sufficiency in their lives.
May 10, 2018
Ep 18: Christian Parenting Skills
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Hannah Seymour, author of The College Girls Survival Guide, reveals what she has learned from years of running a Christian advice blog for teenage girls. She explains how to share stories with teens about your own mistakes and how to encourage them to make the right kinds of friends.
May 01, 2018
Ep 17: Work-Life Balance for Dads
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Matt Schneider, an outspoken "dadvocate", co-founder of City Dads Group, a national network of meet-up groups for dads, and host of the Modern Dads Podcast, talks to us about what it means to be a father to a teenager today, how to find work-life balance, and--for those of us who are lucky enough to have a significant other--tips for a more fulfilling "parenting partnership".
Apr 11, 2018
Ep 16: Getting College Paid For
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Jeannie Burlowski, author of LAUNCH: How to Get Your Kids Through College Debt-Free and into Jobs They Love Afterward, is an academic strategist. She has a specialty in helping students get accepted to highly competitive graduate school programs with scholarship money to cover the cost. In this episode she reveals some incredible tricks for helping your teen get an early jumpstart on getting college completely paid for.
Mar 17, 2018
Ep 15: Wake Up and Get More Savvy
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Michelle Mitchell, author of Parenting Teenage Girls in the Age of a New Normal, has a wake-up call for parents on this episode. As the founder of Youth Excel, an organization specializing in life-skills training for teens, Michelle has seen all kinds of parent-teen issues first hand. She thinks it is a big problem that parents tend to be out of touch with the latest technology and culture. During our interview, she pointed to a number of specific areas where parents need to get a little more street smart.
Mar 09, 2018
Ep 14: Chores and Responsibility
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Dr. G, author of Get the Behavior You Want Without Being the Parent You Hate!, is a national expert on raising responsible, respectful kids. In this podcast episode she talks at length about her philosophy on how to instill responsibility and a strong work ethic in teenagers. She points out that the way parents even define "chores" is very important. In Dr. G's opinion, cleaning your room isn't a chore. Chores are things that teens do for the greater good of the family and household. Cleaning up one's own messes is just expected, it isn't a chore. Dr. G. also discusses the importance of how, exactly, you ask teens to do their chores, what you do about allowance, when you get teens doing volunteer work, and much more.
Feb 04, 2018
Ep 13: Passion, Grief, and College
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Susan Toler Carr, elite college admissions and career counselor and founder of the organization Justin Carr Wants World Peace. In this episode, Susan reveals the strategies she uses for helping teenagers find things they are passionate about. She also opens up about the loss of her son and discusses candidly how we can be better at talking with teenagers -- or anyone -- who is going through a loss.
Jan 18, 2018
Ep 12: Underage Drinking Special
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Various guests. Alcohol use during the teenage years isn't a new phenomenon. But a lot of new research has been done on how parents can mitigate risks for teens. Combining clips from interviews with leading experts from around the world, parent-teen researcher Andy Earle breaks down the science in this episode. Learn exactly what to say to your teen and how to make sure it has maximum impact.
Jan 10, 2018
Ep 11: The Science of Teen Popularity
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Mitch Prinstein, author of the book "Popular". Many parents have had the experience of seeing a kid change seemingly overnight from a child who doesn't worry about things like status and popularity to a teenager who is obsessed with this stuff. It can be baffling when teens start to suddenly care deeply about things like clothes, hairstyles, and social media. Thankfully there is a scientific explanation for why this change occurs and there are some simple things parents can do to help teens keep this popularity craze in check.
Jan 04, 2018
Ep 10: Help Teens Cope with Anxiety
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Karen Young, founder of the immensely popular psychology blog "Hey Sigmund". We all experience some level of anxiety but for 1 out of every 8 kids it is a serious struggle. What can parents do to help teens cope with anxiety? Karen said that we need to start by listening to our teens and not trying to convince them that they will be OK or that their feelings are “no big deal”. Then we should teach them about why they are feeling anxious and help them learn strategies for coping with the anxiety.
Dec 21, 2017
Ep 9: Smartphones, Social Media, and Texting
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Joani Geltman, author of the bestselling book "A Survival Guide to Parenting Teens". Teenagers today are addicted to their electronic devices. They text during class, post on SnapChat while they do their homework, and browse Instagram until 2 or 3 AM when they are supposed to be sleeping. How should parents handle smartphones and social media?
Oct 09, 2017
Ep 8: Teens Who Think Creatively
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Jim Davies, a leading expert on the science of imagination and the author of the book Riveted. How does imagination and creativity work? And how can we help our teens to think outside of the box? Jim Davies explains that the key to raising teens who can think for themselves is to reward them when they take risks–even if the risks don’t end up turning out very well.
Oct 08, 2017
Ep 7: The Science of Teen Persuasion
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Jake Teeny, persuasion researcher and author of the immensely popular course "The Psychology of Persuasion". Does it ever seem like your teen purposely does the exact opposite of what you ask? This is a perfectly normal part of adolescence and the experts say not to worry about it. But, let’s face it, sometimes as a parent you really do need to be able to persuade your teen to do what you are asking. How can parents be more influential?
Oct 07, 2017
Ep 6: Don't Raise a Wimpy Teen
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Nick Boothman, New York Times bestselling author of "How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less". “Grit” and “self-sufficiency” are buzz words that many parenting experts seem to extol. But how do you actually instill perseverance in a teenager? Nick Boothman knows from the experience. Nick has raised five highly successful children. He has worked hard to teach his kids to be resourceful and to never give up.
Oct 06, 2017
Ep 5: Resolving Conflicts with Teenagers FAST
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Lianna Tsangarides, a family therapist and leading expert in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Let’s face it: conflict is a way of life when you have a teenager in the house. They can often seem to be Jedi Masters at turning every small thing into an argument. But in this episode, Lianna Tsangarides points out that there are also significant inner conflicts that teens are struggling to deal with. Lianna teaches us how you can reduce this external type of conflict as a parent by understanding more about the inner type of conflict.
Oct 05, 2017
Ep 4: Mastering Non-Clinging with Teens
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Rachel Scott, yoga teacher, blogger, and founder of Rachel Yoga. When we love someone we tend to want to pull them closer or hold them tighter. But often, especially with teenagers, this can push them away or cause them to withdraw. In this interview, writer and yoga expert Rachel Scott explains the concept of Aparigraha, meaning non-grasping or non-clinging. She says that parents can embody this principle by creating an open, loving space for teens to talk about whatever is on their mind.
Oct 04, 2017
Ep 3: Handling Self-Centered Teenagers
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Wendy Behary, author of "Disarming the Narcissist". Are you dealing with a self absorbed teenager? What is the best way for parents to handle self centered teenage problems? One of the big topics covered in this episode is how to tell a self absorbed teenager that something he or she is doing is not OK. How can you do this without making teens feel like they are being attacked?
Oct 03, 2017
Ep 2: Getting Yourself in the Right Space
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J. Brown, host of the "Yoga Talks" podcast, blogger, and founder of his own yoga studio. As parents, we tend to worry about our teens when we’re preparing for an important talk. We worry that they won’t understand what we are trying to communicate. But we don’t often worry about ourselves. How can parents get into a more open, receptive state before jumping into an important conversation?
Oct 02, 2017
Ep 1: Success and Getting What You Want in Life
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Bill Deresiewicz, bestselling author of Excellent Sheep, talks about the conversations he had with students that really had an impact when he was teaching at Yale and Columbia. His advice for how to do this with your own teen involves being non-judgmental.
Oct 01, 2017