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I’m Dr. Erika Miley (Dr. E) — licensed therapist, clinical sexologist, professor, and your favorite neurodivergent bisexual MILF with a brain full of research and a mouth that doesn’t know when to stop.
This show is for the curious, the kinky, the overstimulated, and the over-it.
We’ll talk about sex without purity politics, trauma without turning it into your whole personality, and desire without apology.
Because here’s the thing: so many of us — especially women — are living in bodies that were never taught to rest, feel, or want.
We’re raising kids, running businesses, surviving late-stage capitalism, and trying to remember what turns us on besides iced coffee and fictional fae warriors.
So we’re going to talk about it all —
Why Romantasy is the cultural Prozac we didn’t know we needed.
Why erotica can feel like therapy when porn just… doesn’t.
What porn women actually watch.
And what we know now about perimenopause, hormones, and pleasure that our mothers were never told.
This isn’t therapy.
This isn’t porn.
This is The Soft Science Show.
And yes — you can stim while you listen.
I do.
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AI Relationships: When Therapy Meets the Algorithm
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Nov 12, 2025 |
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Welcome to The Soft Science
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Oct 30, 2025 |
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Do we know what women want? | Interview ft. Dr. Meredith Chivers
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Dec 15, 2022 |
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Getting deeper with money and relationships ft. Kate Dorman
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Dec 08, 2022 |
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How Can Your “Woo Woo” Support Your Pleasure ft. Erica Wiederlight
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Dec 01, 2022 |
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From Shy Bisexual Kid to Sex Therapist ft. Dr. Lindsey Brooks
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Nov 24, 2022 |
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Is giving up sex and masturbation healthy? | No Nut November
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Nov 17, 2022 |
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Sex Talk is Back, Baby!
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Nov 15, 2022 |
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Beyond Satisfied ft Kenneth Play
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May 26, 2022 |
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Protect My Nudes and Date ft Andrea LaRosa and Merely Ashley
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May 19, 2022 |
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Learning Poly ft Keera Joel
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May 12, 2022 |
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Pleasure to the People ft Dr Rachel Allyn
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May 05, 2022 |
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Creating a Feminist Toy Shop ft Searah Deysach
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Apr 28, 2022 |
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Women and Kink ft Jennifer Rehor and Julia Schiffman
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Apr 21, 2022 |
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Desire Archetypes ft Janel Vital
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Apr 14, 2022 |
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The Context of Pain ft Mistress Natalie King
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Mar 31, 2022 |
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Season 5 Wrap Up Y’all!
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Dec 30, 2021 |
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How the Church Can Do Better ft De-Andrea Blaylock-Solar
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Dec 16, 2021 |
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Covert Sexual Abuse and the Art of Solo Dating ft Holly Hartman
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Dec 09, 2021 |
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Writing Sex Work Fiction and Being a Death Doula ft Vanessa Carlile
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Dec 02, 2021 |
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Being A Big Sister ft. Gigi Engle
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Nov 25, 2021 |
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EMDR and Trauma Work ft. Dr. Sohna Shook
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Nov 18, 2021 |
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ADHD and Sex
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Nov 11, 2021 |
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F*ck Diet Culture ft Cassie Willnauer
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Nov 04, 2021 |
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Finding Self-Worth ft Jen Adair
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Oct 28, 2021 |
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Desire and Learning ft Heather McPherson
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Oct 21, 2021 |
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Erotically Hostile Culture ft Cyndi Darnell
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Oct 14, 2021 |
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Power and Control ft. Teena Love
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Oct 07, 2021 |
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Season 5 Welcome
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Oct 07, 2021 |
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Where We've Been and Where We're Going
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Feb 25, 2021 |
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Edge Play ft. Jane Boon
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Feb 18, 2021 |
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Sex At Any Age ft. Joan Price
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Feb 11, 2021 |
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Power and Intersectionality ft. Bianca Laureano
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Feb 04, 2021 |
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Sex and Anxiety 2020 ft. Ricky Siegel
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Jan 28, 2021 |
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Sex Trends 2021 ft. Susan Bratton
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Jan 21, 2021 |
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Fighting for Pleasure ft. Ola Midzynska
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Jan 14, 2021 |
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The Masculine In Relationship ft. GS Youngblood
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Jan 07, 2021 |
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Chasing Masculinity ft. Alicia Walker
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Dec 31, 2020 |
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Sex Across the World
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Dec 24, 2020 |
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Financial Domination ft. Mistress Harley
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Dec 17, 2020 |
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Sex, Drugs, & Rock n Roll ft. Shawna Potter
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Dec 10, 2020 |
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5 Tips to Spookify Your Sex Life ft. Dr. Nazanin Moali
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Oct 31, 2020 |
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Recap: Chronic Illness and Sex
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Oct 01, 2020 |
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Recap: Gender Language and How to Do Better with Abby Rolf
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Sep 17, 2020 |
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Recap: Sex, Context, and Feminism with Emily Nagoski, PhD
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Sep 03, 2020 |
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Recap: Butt Stuff 101
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Aug 20, 2020 |
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Sex and Depression
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Aug 05, 2020 |
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Being Safe in Our Bodies ft. Shawna Potter
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Jul 30, 2020 |
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All We Wanna Do is Feel Good in Our Bodies ft. Celine Manning
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Jul 23, 2020 |
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Seduction Mindfulness and Identities ft. Dr. Jess O'Reilly & Marla Stewart
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Jul 16, 2020 |
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Therapists and Race ft. Elizabeth McCorvey
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Jul 09, 2020 |
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Good Enough Sex
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Jul 02, 2020 |
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What is it Like to Be a Dominatrix? ft. Queen Ana Algos
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Jun 25, 2020 |
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It is Okay to Just Want to F*ck ft. Vanessa Carlisle, PhD
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Jun 18, 2020 |
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What Should a Therapist Know About Sex ft. Dr. Rachel Needle
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Jun 11, 2020 |
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Racism
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Jun 04, 2020 |
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What is Erotic Empathy? ft. Amanda Luterman
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May 28, 2020 |
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Sexual Health Medicine ft. Jake Deakins, MD and Peter Deakins, RN
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May 21, 2020 |
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All About Blowjobs ft. Ashley Cobb
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May 14, 2020 |
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Chronic Traumatic Encephalopathy (CTE) & Sex ft. Josh Thomas
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May 07, 2020 |
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Therapeutic Use of BDSM ft. Elyssa Rice
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Apr 30, 2020 |
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Cocktails with a Sex Therapist ft. Brandon Ruckdashel
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Apr 23, 2020 |
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Little Green Pills ft. AB Kelleher
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Apr 16, 2020 |
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Pregnancy & Working ft. Kara Bolling
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Apr 09, 2020 |
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Sex, Online Dating, and Vulnerability ft. Melinda DeSeta
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Apr 02, 2020 |
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Sex and Diabetes ft. Janis Roszler & Donna Rice
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Mar 26, 2020 |
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Sex and the Coronavirus (COVID-19)
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Mar 19, 2020 |
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Threesomes & Consensual Non-Monogamy ft. Ryan Scoats
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Mar 12, 2020 |
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Treating People Who Have Committed Sex Crimes ft. Dr. Earl Yarington
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Mar 05, 2020 |
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How To Navigate Awkward Interactions with Your Therapist ft. Zita Nickeson
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Feb 27, 2020 |
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Love Drugs ft. Brian Earp
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Feb 20, 2020 |
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Therapists and Sexual Health ft. Doug Braun-Harvey
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Feb 10, 2020 |
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Sexual Health is Important to Mental Health
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Feb 06, 2020 |
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Uncrucifying Sex ft. Eric Sprankle
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Jan 30, 2020 |
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2020 Sex Trends with Susan Bratton
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Jan 23, 2020 |
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Premature Ejaculation ft. Promscent’s Jeff Abraham
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Jan 16, 2020 |
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Gender and Why Words Matter ft. Abbie Rolf
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Jan 09, 2020 |
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Conceiving With Love ft. Denise Wiesner
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Jan 02, 2020 |
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The Long-Distance Relationship Survival Guide ft. Janet Bayramyan
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Dec 26, 2019 |
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Money and Sex ft. Jessica Cline
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Dec 19, 2019 |
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Infidelity Panel
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Dec 12, 2019 |
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Ask Erika ft. Dr. Sarah Schewitz
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Dec 05, 2019 |
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Sex Conversations Are Hard! ft. Dr. Ari Tuckman
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Nov 28, 2019 |
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Sex, Context, and Feminism with Emily Nagoski, PhD
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Nov 21, 2019 |
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Modern Day Sex Trends ft. Susan Bratton, Trusted Hot Sex Advisor To Millions
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Nov 14, 2019 |
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Gender Language and How to Do Better with Abby Rolf
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Nov 07, 2019 |
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Sex Issues Across the World ft. Cyndi Darnell
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Oct 31, 2019 |
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ADHD After Dark ft. Dr. Ari Tuckman
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Oct 24, 2019 |
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Cancer and Sex ft. Brandie Sellers
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Oct 17, 2019 |
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Sex, Meditation, And Connection With The Male Body ft. Joe Molinari
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Oct 10, 2019 |
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Male Sexuality ft. Dr. Joe Kort
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Oct 03, 2019 |
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Becoming Cliterate ft. Dr. Laurie Mintz
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Sep 26, 2019 |
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Painful Sex ft. Dr. Angie Stoehr
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Sep 19, 2019 |
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Sex and Nutrition
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Sep 12, 2019 |
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Erika’s Picks for Sexy Media
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Sep 05, 2019 |
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How Sex Science Can Impact Your Life Today ft. Dr. Nicole Prause
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Aug 22, 2019 |
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Meet the Therapists ft. Jen Adair and Roshi Rampersaud
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Aug 15, 2019 |
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Online Dating ft. Daliya Karnofsky
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Aug 08, 2019 |
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The Sixty-Nine Show!
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Aug 01, 2019 |
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Sex and the Christian Faith ft. De-Andrea Blalock-Johnson
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Jul 25, 2019 |
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The Arousal Show
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Jul 18, 2019 |
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Day in the Life of a Sex Therapist
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Jul 11, 2019 |
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Romance, Sex, Betrayal, and Your Relationships with Sarah Shavitz
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Jul 03, 2019 |
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How To Talk To Your Doctor About Medications And Sex ft. Dr. Stacy Greeter
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Jun 26, 2019 |
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The Myth of Sex Addiction ft. Dr. David Ley
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Jun 20, 2019 |
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Vasectomy
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Jun 12, 2019 |
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Women Must Have the Right to Choose
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Jun 06, 2019 |
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How to Clean Your Sex Toys
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May 31, 2019 |
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Porn and Relationships
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May 23, 2019 |
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Being a Mom and Having Great Sex
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May 16, 2019 |
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Sexy News
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May 09, 2019 |
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Cannabis and Sex exploration with the CannaSexual Ashley Manta
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May 02, 2019 |
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Gender 101 with Heather Eslien
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Apr 25, 2019 |
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All Things Babies and Sex
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Apr 18, 2019 |
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Boundaries and Sex with Shane Birkel
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Apr 11, 2019 |
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Sex & Hygiene
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Apr 04, 2019 |
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Our Sexual Fantasies with Dr. Justin Lehmiller
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Mar 28, 2019 |
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Is There a Right Time to Start Having Sex?
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Mar 21, 2019 |
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Performance Anxiety in Women
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Mar 14, 2019 |
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Oral Sex With Lorals
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Mar 06, 2019 |
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Infertility and Sex
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Feb 28, 2019 |
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Avoiding Your Emotional Sh*t and how it Impacts Your Sex Life
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Feb 21, 2019 |
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Finding Your Feminine Fire with Amanda Testa
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Feb 14, 2019 |
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Butt Stuff 2.0
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Feb 07, 2019 |
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Sex and Divorce
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Jan 31, 2019 |
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Sex and Miscarriage
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Jan 24, 2019 |
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Living With An STI/STD With Katie Warren
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Jan 17, 2019 |
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Pornhub’s 2018 Year In Review
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Jan 10, 2019 |
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Gender, Sexual Orientation 101 With Adam Maurer
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Jan 03, 2019 |
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Sex & Medications revisited w/ Nick Goodwin, ARNP
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Dec 27, 2018 |
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Relationships, Sex, & Money Workshops
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Dec 20, 2018 |
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Relationship Killers Part 2- Criticism
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Dec 13, 2018 |
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Break-Ups With Lindsey Brock
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Dec 06, 2018 |
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ADHD and Sex
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Nov 29, 2018 |
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Sex Dolls or Intimate Partner Alternatives with Don Delano
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Nov 22, 2018 |
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Relationship Killers
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Nov 15, 2018 |
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Highly Sensitive People and Sex with Laura Zane
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Nov 08, 2018 |
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Creating Healthy Relationships From The Beginning With Dr. Maha
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Nov 01, 2018 |
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Body image, perceptions of weight, and sex
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Oct 25, 2018 |
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Relationships, sex, & Men with Robert Kandell
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Oct 18, 2018 |
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Virginity with Dr. Jaime Kennedy
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Oct 11, 2018 |
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Sexual Assault Part 1
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Oct 04, 2018 |
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Billy Procida, Desire, and putting yourself out there
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Sep 27, 2018 |
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STIs & DTSs and how to talk about them
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Sep 20, 2018 |
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When Your Kids Find Your Sex Toys
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Sep 13, 2018 |
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Sex And Negative Beliefs
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Sep 06, 2018 |
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Sex and the Brain
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Aug 30, 2018 |
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The Pussy Party and Sexual Shame and our Words
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Aug 23, 2018 |
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Social media, dating apps, and DMs
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Aug 16, 2018 |
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Mental health medications, Sex, and Side effects
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Aug 09, 2018 |
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Sex Resources with Juicebox and Brianna Rader
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Aug 02, 2018 |
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Sex! the Podcast : Sex and Energy w/ Michael Spencer
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Jul 27, 2018 |
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Sex! the Podcast : Sex and the Movies w/ Brandon Ruckdashel
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Jul 21, 2018 |
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Sex! the Podcast : Let's Save This Marriage Before it Needs Saving
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Jul 13, 2018 |
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Sex! the Podcast : Finding a Therapist with sanoMind creator Nestor Velez
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May 30, 2018 |
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Sex! the Podcast : Sex and Divorce Part 2
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May 02, 2018 |
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Sex! the Podcast : Sex and Divorce Part 1 with Erika Miley
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Apr 26, 2018 |
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Sex! the Podcast : Sex and Conflict with Erika Miley
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Apr 10, 2018 |
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Sex! the Podcast : Raising Kids Without Sexual Shame with Nekole Shapiro
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Apr 03, 2018 |
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Sex! the Podcast : Velv'or and Gentlemen's Rings with Jelle Plantenga
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Mar 25, 2018 |
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Sex! The Podcast : 5 Tips for Talking to Your Kids About Sex
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Mar 19, 2018 |
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Sex! the Podcast : Sex, Gender, and Feelmore with Nenna Joiner
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Mar 12, 2018 |
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Sex! the Podcast: Sex and Marijuana with Chris Kelly
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Feb 26, 2018 |
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Sex! the Podcast : Butt Stuff 101
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Feb 19, 2018 |
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Sex! the Podcast: The Erotic Blueprint with Dr. Nazanin Moali
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Feb 12, 2018 |
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Sex! the Podcast: The State of Sex Education
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Feb 05, 2018 |
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Sex! the Podcast: Let me tell you about myself!
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Feb 04, 2018 |