Ordinary People. Ordinary Things. with Melissa Radke

By Melissa Radke

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My mom’s King Ranch Chicken casserole. My small hometown in East Texas. My eleventh grade choir teacher. Know what all of these things have in common? None of them are famous. None have been written about or sung about or reported on. You might call them “ordinary.” Welcome to Ordinary People. Ordinary Things. Where we talk about all the things that we see and touch and fear and feel and eat and hope for - every day. Because that’s what life is, you know? It’s one miracle after another - we just get so used to seeing them...we call them ordinary. “THE WORLD IS A SERIES OF MIRACLES. BUT WE’RE SO USED TO SEEING THEM WE JUST CALL THEM ORDINARY THINGS." - Hans Christian Anderson

Episode Date
Mind Your Manners
54:06

Diane Gottsman is a national etiquette expert. She is the owner of a company that specializes in corporate etiquette training. She is the author of Modern Etiquette for a Better Life. She has appeared on The Today Show, Headline News, CBS Sunday Morning, and in the New York Times. She is also poised, beautiful, smart, and so well-spoken.

I was nervous about having an etiquette expert like Diane on the show today, but she put me at ease. Diane teaches that etiquette is about mind and soul, and that they are connected. She believes that etiquette is about putting other people at ease, and that's what she did with me. She also answered my questions with such grace and wisdom that I loved this episode. Diane shares insights about life we all need to keep in mind. This interview wasn’t what I had expected, but it is filled with actionable knowledge we can all use.

You can find Diane here:

Diane Gottsman Website
Diane Gottsman on Instagram
Diane Gottsman on Facebook
dg@psotx.com

Show Notes

  • [02:45] Diane is in San Antonio today.
  • [05:25] To Diane etiquette isn't stuffy, it's about life skills and making other people feel comfortable. Every person at every age can fine-tune their life skills.
  • [05:59] When Diane was growing up she didn't know what she wanted to do, but she did know she wanted to work with people.
  • [06:25] Diane has a master's degree in human behavior. She started fundraising for meals-on-wheels. She also worked with a children's charity and one of the children said when she grew up she wanted to be just like Diane.
  • [07:33] She had an aha moment and realized that knowledge and training was all that was holding this little girl back. This inspired Diane to work and train people in all walks of life.
  • [08:33] She merged her teaching and training into one. By nature Diane is an introvert. She is still shy, but she's a socialized introvert.
  • [09:48] It's up to us to be relationship builders. Etiquette is just about being authentic and genuine. That is what Diane teaches.
  • [10:37] We get to choose how we behave and how others treat us. We train people how to treat us. If someone is talking down to you, you don't have to waste a lot of time with them.
  • [11:07] It's about feeling good about yourself and knowing that you are not competing with anyone else.
  • [11:16] Money doesn't buy class it buys a great pair of shoes. It's about self confidence and making others around you feel comfortable.
  • [11:36] If everyone likes you, there's something wrong with you. It means you're not speaking your truth.
  • [11:45] Diane teaches etiquette which is about mind and soul, and they are connected.
  • [13:02] There's a difference between assertive and aggressive. You lose your power when you scream or shout.
  • [13:48] As we grow, we weed our friendship gardens.
  • [14:40] A graceful exit isn't a shouting match. It's better to talk about something positive rather than negative. You can gracefully exit. You don't need to give excuses. There is power in truth, but use good judgement.
  • [16:54] Diane owns the Protocol School of Texas which is a company that specializes in corporate etiquette training.
  • [17:35] You are your brand. Always work on your brand.
  • [19:44] It's up to us as parents to do the best that we can. Give your kids structure and boundaries.
  • [20:54] Diane instilled values in her kids. The need to be respectful, make eye contact, exchange a handshake when appropriate, and be open and have grace. Give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
  • [22:13] When eating at restaurants, at the end of the meal, Melissa asks her kids what were the color of the eyes of their waiter or waitress.
  • [22:48] When you are introduced to someone stand up.
  • [25:25] Balance is the key with social media. You can tell a great deal about a person from their posts. Social media can help you, but we all need face-to-face relationships.
  • [27:20] Texting isn't a bad thing, but it may not be the best thing in some situations. Know the language of the person that you are relating to.
  • [28:29] Everyone should have people around them who lift them up.
  • [31:44] Cell phone etiquette? Put your phone away at a party or event. You can use your phone when getting a pedicure. Use your best judgement. The most important person is sitting across from you.
  • [34:28] Thank you notes? They aren't outdated. Send the note.
  • [36:29] Hold a red wine glass from the bowl and a white wine glass from the stem. A champagne flute is held from the stem.
  • [36:56] Hostess gifts are still a thing. Take one when you are invited to a party or to stay at someone’s home. Send flowers in advance. Don't make the host or hostess stop and find a vase. Bring wine, tea towels, or olive oil.
  • [38:21] You shouldn't be thinking about the exit at the entrance of a party. It's your job to be pleasant and interesting. At a wedding reception, wait until the cake is cut. At a dinner, you have to wait for dessert.
  • [40:57] Tipping for a housekeeper during holidays is fine.
  • [42:16] How to deal with personal questions. These questions are invasive and off limits. Keep your questions to yourself. Set boundaries with questions.
  • [45:41] Listen to your gut, it will guide you. Be kind to yourself and give yourself a break.
  • [46:49] We should all strive to surround ourselves with people who lift us up.
  • [48:12] Diane answers the three rapid fire questions.
  • [52:41] Etiquette is about class and grace. It's about raising our children to make others feel like the most important people in the room. It's about looking people in the eye when we speak to them. It's about listening instead of speaking. It's about putting down our phones. It's about extending a hand rather than a text.

Thanks for joining us on Ordinary People Ordinary Things. Be sure to subscribe to our podcast on iTunes and leave a nice review. Just like your mother taught you.

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Mar 26, 2019
Mind Made Up
54:35

I love today’s guest. My friend Ashley Berry is a life coach, entrepreneur, cancer survivor, mom, foster mom, and woman of strength and wisdom. She loves and touches everyone she comes into contact with. Ashley is passionate about coaching and seeing lives changed for the better. She has overcome breast cancer and many other obstacles in life and is a pure inspiration. She also proves God's love even in times of uncertainty.

In this episode, we have a no holds barred conversation about life, love, and parenting. Ashley shares her perspective on today’s society and culture and gives some wonderful ways that we can all make our world better. She lives by example and cares for everyone she meets. We talk about men, raising children, respecting each other, and how Ashley turned her breast cancer journey into the inspiration to start a nonprofit to help others in need.

You can find Ashley here:

Living Zoe
Instagram:  @ zoecoaching
Facebook:  @livingzoecoaching
ashley@livingzoe.net

Show Notes

  • [07:20] Ashley was dating her son's father in college. It didn't work out for them, but Ashley has a son named Cayden and now has a good relationship with his father.
  • [09:32] As a result, Ashley is teaching her son to take care of his responsibilities.
  • [10:15] Ashley met her dad when she was 12, and it was a series of let downs after that.
  • [11:26] Ashley is ready to get married. The type of guy who is going to be in her life has to love God first.
  • [13:59] About six years ago, Ashley was praying and she visualized herself sitting with Jesus. That moment changed her relationship with Christ and has helped her to love people differently.
  • [17:02] Ashley grew up with her grandparents until she was seven, and her grandfather was an alcoholic.
  • [19:41] Ashley worries about whether Cayden will be seen differently, because he is black.
  • [22:32] She wants to protect him, so she sets an example of how to be respectful.
  • [25:50] All people deserve the same mutual respect.
  • [27:08] Saying negative things in front of our children leaves a much stronger impact then we realize.
  • [28:13] When we all decide that we are all valuable and worth so much more, and we start truly caring about each other we will stop being mean and start caring about people.
  • [31:07] Melissa shares an example that Oprah told about how pit bulls are loving, but they are feared because of all the bad things people hear. Oprah made the same analogy about black men.
  • [32:12] There are so many good strong intelligent black men who are leaders in this country. These men are setting the pathway for younger black men behind them.
  • [33:17] We can teach children to respond in such a way that doesn't continue the vicious cycle.
  • [33:58] Ashley is also a foster care parent. She has been fostering since August. She now has a 14 month old little boy.
  • [34:57] He is a joy. He sleeps all night long and eats really well.
  • [35:42] People need to show these children what family looks like and break the cycle of dysfunctional families.
  • [37:21] Ashley refuses to allow circumstances to define her. Breast cancer was one of those situations.
  • [38:49] There's no point in just existing. We need to dig deep and get it done.
  • [39:45] Ashley is a life coach and the owner of 3 event venues.
  • [40:27] She also helped her best friend with catering.
  • [40:43] She is also starting a nonprofit called East Texas Cancer Alliance of Hope.
  • [40:58] There is a significant need for tangible hope for people with cancer.
  • [41:56] They will provide tangible hope in the form of gas vouchers, food vouchers, hotel bills, co-pays, and things that will make it easier for people not to have to choose between treatment and paying the bills.
  • [42:30] When Ashley sees a need for something, she goes ahead and does it.
  • [43:57] Do what you can with what you have. Nothing should hold you back. Someone is waiting for you to tell your story. Be authentic and inspire and help someone.
  • [45:20] Ashley loves people, and where she is today is where God has taken her.
  • [47:45] Ashley answers the rapid fire questions.
  • [51:47] Live in such a way that if someone spoke badly about you, no one would believe it. That is how Melissa feels about Ashley.

Thanks for joining us on Ordinary People Ordinary Things. Be sure to subscribe to our podcast on iTunes and leave a nice review. Just like your mother taught you.

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Mar 19, 2019
Mind Over Mother
50:23

We miss so many good opportunities, because we won't walk across the room. I was at the same conference as Nicole, and I asked what brought her here. She said that she's a mom of four and two of her children are almost grown and two of her children are still at home, and she has been looking at her life and thinking what's next. Do you ever wonder what's next for you? Are you ever looking for something more?

Nicole Botha is excited by travel. She is an experience seeker. She loves yarn and is intrigued by diversity. She finds authenticity stimulating and suburbia frustrating. She is a feeler and an introvert. She is moved by heart connections, and she thinks kindness is sexy. She is here to today to discuss what it means to want something more and how to find that something.

You can find Nicole here:

Nicole on Instagram: @niccishoo
niccishoo@gmail.com

Show Notes

  • [03:34] Nicole is on the East Coast of South Africa.
  • [04:07] South Africa celebrates Christmas, but the weather is different. Her family took a road trip and discovered the country and then went to Cape Town and Johannesburg.
  • [04:58] Then some of her family climbed Kilimanjaro on January 1st.
  • [06:15] Melissa met Nicole at Bob Goff's Dream Big Conference.
  • [06:21] Nicole and her husband got married in their early twenties. They have been married for 27 years and have four children.
  • [06:46] Their oldest daughter is in her last year of college and is hoping to go study in Paris.
  • [06:56] Her next daughter is almost 18 and summited Kilimanjaro along with her husband.
  • [07:11] Their son Chase is 15, and son Rory is 11.
  • [08:24] The greatest thing about moving away from family is that you are left with only relying on each other. This creates opportunities to grow and explore.
  • [10:24] Nicole had a lot of problems with one of her daughters, and it took her a long time to get over the control she had over her.
  • [11:57] The worst thing she ever had to do was tell her daughter that she didn't have to love her.
  • [14:39] She told her daughter that she couldn't cross the bridge to see her anymore, but her daughter was welcome to cross the bridge to visit her.
  • [16:19] She also apologized to her other children for all the attention and energy they had to give to her one daughter.
  • [17:33] It's not healthy for a family to have problems that they don't talk about.
  • [21:40] Nicole learned that just because her children are different, it doesn't mean that she is a failure.
  • [22:12] The key is the way that we respond when things go off the rails.
  • [26:12] Nicole has no problem with challenging societal norms. She won't just lie down and play dead.
  • [27:11] Rebels with a cause is about when God puts things in front of us that are different and how doing the same thing everyday to deal with it doesn't work. We can force everything to be the same. We are all here for a purpose and have different treasures within us.
  • [33:42] How there's a swing with people beginning to realize that they can be vulnerable with their emotions.
  • [36:18] Things are now okay with Nicole and her daughter, and they are even friends.
  • [37:58] Our lives and our families are in jeopardy if we don't have an ongoing relationship with God.
  • [40:17] Nicole is trying to turn more in to God, she visualizes herself in a duvet and rolling into Him.
  • [43:46] Nicole answers the rapid fire questions.
  • [47:31] I really loved this interview and how down to earth Nicole is. She does what she can do and lets God sort out the best.

Thanks for joining us on Ordinary People Ordinary Things. Be sure to subscribe to our podcast on iTunes and leave a nice review. Just like your mother taught you.

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Mar 12, 2019
Minding the Pain With Stefanie Boyce
57:38

When I'm with my friends we like to talk about hair, fashion, or whether keto even really works. We also talk about serious things. We rarely dive into the topic of grief. This is weird because we all grieve. Within my set of friends there is one whose marriage is ending, there is one who has buried a child, there are three or four who have buried a parent, had to file bankruptcy, and a few have checked a loved one into rehab.

Grief is this thing that we all have in common, yet we don't talk about it. Why?

We don't talk about grief, because grief is a party crasher. We touch on it briefly. We know it's not going away. It's cracks will be with us forever. Grief will always be a part of our lives, so we might as well learn a little bit about it.

This is where my friend Stefanie comes in. My guest today is Stefanie Boyce. Stefanie is a speaker, writer, bible study teacher, wife, mother of 3 (two who are at home and one with Jesus). She is currently journeying from Type A to Plan B.

You can find Stefanie here:

Stefanie Boyce
Instagram:  @StefanieBoyce5
Facebook:  @StefanieBoyce5

Show Notes

  • [04:21] When I met Stefanie, she swept me off my feet. Our hearts connected.
  • [05:31] Stefanie is going from type A to plan B.
  • [06:19] Stefanie realized that God has a better plan for her.
  • [06:52] She had to understand that God wanted the best for her and his plan was better even though there was pain.
  • [07:38] In 2009, Stefanie's son was diagnosed with mucopolysaccharidoses or MPS. They were devastated to find out that their son's health would continue to regress. She then found out that her 3-month old daughter also had it.
  • [12:45] Her daughter had a different sub-type.
  • [14:07] Stefanie watched her newly diagnosed children laugh and play, and she decided that these diseases were not going to get the better of them.
  • [14:30] Stefanie realized in that moment, her kids were still alive, and she was going to make the most of it and trust in the lord.  
  • [14:53] Because these diseases were genetic, there was a 25% chance any new children would have it.
  • [15:39] They pursued every angle to safely add a children to their family. They then surrendered to God, and Stefanie got pregnant. Her newest daughter didn't have it and isn't a carrier.
  • [17:01] She realized she would have to live in a world where she held typical and terminal intention.
  • [18:39] We can choose to focus on the things in life that aren't broken.
  • [19:12] Stefanie's son passed away when he was 11 years old.
  • [19:20] Her nine-year-old daughter Brooklyn passed away eight months later.
  • [19:33] They lost both children within 8 months.
  • [20:22] The blessing underneath the pain was that Stefanie knew that her time was limited and made the most of it.
  • [22:19] If we don't learn how to integrate the laughter with the sorrow, I don't know how we would do it. You can't compartmentalize grief, it just becomes part of your story.
  • [23:35] Some of the most difficult things that God brings us through are also some of the most amazing gifts. We can now see things that we didn't see before.
  • [25:59] I can either choose to bring purpose to my pain and use it to help other people, or I can just look at all of the darkness and how bad it sucks.
  • [28:50] Gold plate grit. The strong are the ones who watch the process of healing.
  • [31:21] Every good story has a middle ground, and that is why the redemption story at the end is so good.
  • [33:00] If we surrender and ask God to show us, there is beauty to be found.
  • [33:31] Surrender and ask God to take control. Surrender and ask God give you the eyes to see.
  • [37:02] You don't have to be on the other side of your pain to start seeing beautiful things.
  • [38:25] It's easy to feel sorry for yourself, but it's about surrender and making something beautiful.
  • [39:36] A lot of it is about making a choice.
  • [40:44] Grief can be like a wave you can feel it wash over you, but you will be better and stronger on the other side of it.
  • [42:20] No one can help the grieving like those that are grieving.
  • [43:41] War wounds and scars are things that we have in common.
  • [45:54] The most important thing you can do to help people that are going through grief is to let them speak about their loved ones and say their names.
  • [46:07] We are so afraid to bring up grief and pain, but by saying their names we honor the life that they lived.
  • [49:00] I will always associate Stefanie as being joyful.
  • [50:45] Stefanie answers the three rapid fire questions.

Thanks for joining us on Ordinary People Ordinary Things. Be sure to subscribe to our podcast on iTunes and leave a nice review. Just like your mother taught you.

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Mar 05, 2019
To Mind Own Self Be True
34:36

2019 is about body, mind, and soul. These three topics are connected within all of us, because you can’t change one without affecting the other. I am so excited to focus on these topics. I know in 2020, when I look back at this year, I will see a healthier, happier, more hopeful me.

The first few weeks of this podcast were focused on the body. Now it’s time to focus on the mind. This is a very special and personal topic for me. For years, I was a victim to my own thoughts. What we think about is what we become. This topic is so important that I recorded this episode, thought about it for a week, and then did it all over again.

This is a topic that I have lived and can speak about from the heart. In this episode, I talk about retraining our minds, not believing lies others tell us, not believing lies we tell ourselves, and what a difference our thoughts can make in our lives. This topic is so important to me that I’m even creating a course around it.

You can find Melissa here:

Podcast Web Page
Facebook Page
@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram
@msmelissaradke on Twitter

Show Notes

  • [06:33] There were times when I was an enemy to my own self whether it was believing I was too good or believing that I was nothing.
  • [06:49] It's difficult to train our minds.
  • [07:46] The way we do everything from parenting to work is based on the things that we think.
  • [08:40] I can't negate the importance of what goes on in our minds. Even the scriptures tell us to think of good things and things that are lovely.
  • [09:09] What we process in our minds is what we choose to let in, and this creates the words that come out of our mouths.
  • [10:48] My depression was a mind issue for me. In my mind, there was a war raging for my thoughts and my life.
  • [11:37] I had to change my focus and my thoughts. I had to write sentences and put them around my house.
  • [12:11] We are believing lies and not just lies from the people who spoke them but also from ourselves.
  • [12:31] So many of us have had negative things spoken to us as children. Why do we believe the hate?
  • [13:49] I remember things people said to me, and I remember my go to lines.
  • [13:55] Why am I trying to lose weight? Girls like me can't lose weight?
  • [16:13] I did not realize the power my own thoughts had over my life. If I thought I would fail in a certain situation, I would.
  • [16:37] When I put the work into changing the thoughts in my head, my life changed.
  • [17:25] I spent years replacing every single lie in my mind with the truth. I spent years fighting for my life and my mind.
  • [18:14] It's so important that you understand that your thoughts control your life that I am creating a course about it.
  • [19:59] There is nothing you believe, that you haven't given yourself permission to believe.
  • [23:31] Stop waging war on yourself and thinking things are never going to change and things are never going to get better.
  • [24:21] "Whenever you hear opportunity knocking just know that on the other side of it is work." Brendon Burchard
  • [24:24] You have an opportunity to change the way you think, and we are going to do it together.
  • [26:02] We are going to remove one lie at a time and replace it with something positive. Like pulling weeds and replacing them with flowers.
  • [29:17] I want you to know that I'm mad at you for being an enemy to yourself. Why can't you see yourself Like Jesus does?
  • [32:26] I take every thought I have, and I make it sit down and shut up if it doesn't align with the truth that I know to be about me.

Thanks for joining us on Ordinary People Ordinary Things. Be sure to subscribe to our podcast on iTunes and leave a nice review. Just like your mother taught you.

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Feb 26, 2019
Bodylicious
43:43

Theresa Grecco has been one of my closest friends for 20 years. Theresa recently bought a practice from a woman who is retiring. Her business is killing it, and she has clients who are raving about her. I've been a little curious and have been wanting to see what she does. I flew to Nashville, where Theresa lives and works, to try it for myself. I even recorded it for you.

In case you're wondering,Theresa is a colon hydrotherapist. I know you're thinking that this isn't the type of therapy that you thought I needed. The reason I'm sharing this experience is because everyone I told about this said they wanted to know more. What you’re about to hear can't be glossed over. It can't be called anything other than what it is. I'll be giving you a first-hand account of what happens when you hop on the table and take your friendship to a whole new level.

You can find Theresa here:

The Body Benefit
The Body Benefit on Facebook

Show Notes

  • [05:55] Water has started going in.
  • [06:56] Now it is being increased to release gas.
  • [07:54] Water is now going into Melissa’s colon.
  • [08:59] The water goes in and then when Theresa releases pressure things get pushed out.
  • [09:59] As the water goes in it breaks up the poop, so it can be released.
  • [10:54] Theresa had digestive issues. A doctor suggested she try colon hydrotherapy.
  • [11:30] She didn't want to do it, but she felt a big relief after the first visit.
  • [11:59] We all have mucus to facilitate going poop and to protect us from our stomach acid.
  • [12:41] Cloudy water can be a sign of candida.
  • [13:11] After they flush everything out, they put the good bacteria back in.
  • [15:03] Candida can double in size in a half an hour with one dose of sugar.
  • [15:16] Colon hydrotherapy is great for people who suffer from constipation or diarrhea, candida, are coming down with a cold or flu, people who've consumed excessive food or alcohol, and people who have been flying.
  • [16:19] This therapy can actually help you get unblocked physically and emotionally.
  • [18:56] Each session takes between 45 minutes and an hour and 15 minutes.
  • [19:38] The left side of our body is where the more solid poop is.
  • [20:15] There are great benefits to doing coffee enemas. Theresa also encourages her clients to do coffee enemas at home.
  • [21:14] Benefits include healing the colon, rebuilding the liver, reducing pain, eliminating parasites, helping with depression, improving mental clarity, improving energy, helping digestion, releasing toxins, and more.
  • [21:45] David is in the room doing the recording, but he is as far away as he can possibly be.
  • [22:30] It's recommended to start with three sessions in 7 days. Maintenance is once a month. If you are eating healthy and doing coffee enemas, you can skip a couple months. A package of three is $325 and one session is $115.
  • [23:58] It's important to make sure that you eliminate the bad stuff and put the good stuff back in.
  • [25:51] We can hold anger in our liver, and the cleanse can release it.
  • [30:38] The worst part of this whole process for Melissa is that it feels irritating, because it feels like she needs to go to the bathroom.
  • [32:48] One of Theresa's clients lost 8 pounds, afterwards.
  • [34:13] When doing a coffee enema at home run water through your body before you start the coffee.
  • [36:13] Melissa answers Theresa's rapid fire questions for her.
  • [39:08] Melissa went into the experience with an open mind, and she liked it.
  • [39:50] Melissa answers the questions that everyone wants to know about the process.

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Feb 19, 2019
I Thought It Was TreadMEAL
53:08

How can we dedicate this season to the body and not talk about working out? You know me. You know I don't want to talk about this, but today is the day. The one and only Casey Adams is here today. Casey is the perfect guest for this show, because he takes ordinary people and moves them out of their comfort zone and into great held.

Casey is a gym owner, personal trainer, and future Ninja. He is a father of three and husband to a beautiful wife, and they share a strong love for Jesus. He is an adventure seeking, fun loving, and funny guy. He is also fond of his large, crazy sock collection.

You can find Casey here:

Casey Adams on Instagram
Fitt Life on Facebook
Fitt Life Gym
3116 S. John Redditt Dr.
Lufkin TX 75904

Show Notes

  • [03:17] David Radke is also here with Casey.
  • [04:20] Melissa and her cousin were both in one of Casey's spin classes.
  • [06:16] David met Casey when he used to work out regularly.
  • [07:26] Casey's gym is split into three sections.Upfront they have cardio and weights with a kids section on the side. In the middle, they have an American Ninja Warrior ninja gym. In the back, there is a Kids Zone and dedicated party room with an obstacle course in back.
  • [12:13] Done properly, you can make an elliptical a great workout. Casey can't promise it will be fun, but if you're successful at this you will be successful at other things.
  • [14:35] David has always been a fan of working out by himself. He's never been to a class.
    [15:04] Some people work better one-on-one and some people like the motivation of a group.
    [19:11] You can get Casey's Hitt Treadmill Workout book by contacting him on Facebook.
    [19:38] He wrote this book, because his clients were always asking him for workouts.
  • [20:11] There is also a hitt book in the works.
  • [23:03] Some of the exercises in the book just require a person, a treadmill, and the ground.
  • [25:39] Start walking a couple miles every day and work on your diet and work on yourself.
  • [26:30] Gauge your soreness and listen to your body. You want to feel it, but you don't want to eat.
  • [27:40] David talks about how it's important to actually get something accomplished not to set giant goals that you'll never get done.
  • [28:21] Goals need to be realistic and attainable.
  • [28:56] It's more important than ever to have a plan.
  • [29:46] We are all a work in progress and that's where the Mind, Body, and Soul come in.
  • [30:23] The workouts in the hitt book can be done every day, because they change body parts.
  • [31:22] Daisy Fuentes was the most beautiful woman to Melissa when she was in high school.
  • [32:14] Melissa wants to feel better. The best way to start is to ease yourself in and come up with a game plan.
  • [33:07] Starting consists of taking that first step.
  • [35:13] Working out is a choice that you aren't just doing for yourself. It's also for your family.
  • [36:30] When Casey was younger, he had some bad lifestyle choices. Then one of his friend's father passed away, and he decided to get fit and started running.
  • [38:04] Eat better and do some form of exercise, and you will feel better.
  • [39:09] Doing small incremental things each day is the key.
  • [40:42] Melissa is going to be brave and work out this year.
  • [43:08] God has changed Casey's life, and now Casey is changing other people's lives.
  • [43:39] When he started, he knew that God would provide.
  • [46:28] The three last questions.

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Feb 12, 2019
Breaking Bread and Bad Habits with Amy Reinecke
51:57

I had Amy on the show last season. Amy has a beautiful story where she lost over 100 pounds on Weight Watchers. I loved Amy since the moment I met her, but what happened after the interview was intriguing. She told me that she was moving away from Weight Watchers, and that she was learning a new way of eating that allowed her to live happy and free.

This entire season is on body and soul, so Amy is the perfect guest to have back on the show. She struggled for years with poor body image and binge eating disorder. Amy is now sharing her journey with others in hopes of offering hope that our darkest days make us stronger and that God always has a bigger plan. She shares her journey as it ebbs and flows with healthy living, motherhood and faith.

You can find Amy here:

Beautifully Broken Journey
Amy Reinecke on Facebook
Amy Reinecke on Instagram
beautifullybrokenjourney@gmail.com

Show Notes

  • [05:07] At the last show, Amy wished she could get pregnant again, and she is now 23 weeks along. She has two boys and is super excited about having a girl.
  • [07:45] Amy started doing StepBet for accountability. She has been hosting them for about a year-and-a-half.
  • [11:26] For Amy, a best case scenario on StepBet is that everyone makes their $40 back.
  • [13:08] Amy lost over 100 pounds on Weight Watchers.
  • [14:36] We shift and change and grow and learn. In the last 6 months Amy's learned a lot about her body.
  • [14:59] Amy doesn't regret going on the Weight Watchers program. She has just learned more about her body.
  • [16:35] The message that Amy wants her kids to know is to treat their bodies kindly and talk about their bodies kindly and feed it the way that it needs to be fed.
  • [17:01] In 2008, Amy went to therapy for binge eating disorder. During this therapy she worked through the 10 principles of Intuitive Eating.
  • [17:37] These principles are things like honor your hunger, feel your fullness, and reject the diet mentality.
  • [17:55] These beliefs are so ingrained in Amy's head that it's a process she still has to work through everyday.
  • [19:09] We have the innate ability to listen to our own fullness and hunger cues.
  • [20:27] Amy started dieting in fourth grade. She looked for outside sources to tell her when and what to eat instead of looking inside to herself.
  • [21:09] Amy is perfecting intuitive eating by listening to her body right now while she is pregnant.
  • [23:37] Weight loss isn't the goal for intuitive eating. Although, it doesn't mean that you won't lose weight.
  • [26:13] When you fix your head, you can then appreciate your body for what it is and what it can do.
  • [28:56] People don't always like change, Amy switching her eating perspective has attracted push back from some people.
  • [29:32] She was so focused on a number. She didn't even realize it until she stepped away from Weight Watchers.
  • [31:05] She decided to break the chains and not allow anyone to tell her what is healthy for her body.
  • [32:01] Women need to learn that there is a way to get to a place of body neutrality.
  • [32:39] Her why is playing with her kids and getting through her pregnancy in a healthy way.
  • [33:27] Putting focus on your body will feed your mind and your soul, because they are all interconnected.
  • [35:55] Being hyper focused on your weight doesn't leave room for other things that will actually bring you joy and happiness.
  • [37:41] Amy learned that she needed more sleep and more water. She also craves vegetables.
  • [42:46] Going down the path of intuitive eating needs to be something that you are ready for. Amy wants people to see that their worth is more than just their weight.
  • [45:17] Rapid questions about Amy...

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Feb 05, 2019
Odd(ly) Enough
37:46

Sometimes when we see a funny video that makes us laugh, we don't bother to take into account that there is a real person behind that video. When we read a book, sometimes we forget that a real person poured their heart and soul into that book.

Some people think that I am in the business of social media, or a speaker, or an author. I am really in the business of people. The business of hearing their stories and telling my story. I am in the business of convincing people that their story is powerful and purposeful.

My guest today has a powerful story. CA Miljavac is someone who I discovered by watching one of her hilarious videos. I then got to know her and realized that there is so much more to her than her fun videos. I learned that CA stands for Carol Ann and that her story doesn’t match her videos.

You can find CA here:

CA Miljavac
CA Miljavac on Facebook
CA Miljavac on Instagram
Odd(ly) Enough: Standing Out When the World Begs You To Fit In
CA’s Initial Viral Video
How have I been cleaning all day and NOTHING is done?

Show Notes

  • [02:52] My friend CA Miljavac is here today. CA's story doesn't match her videos.
  • [03:08] Her videos are fun. Her stories not so much.
  • [03:30] In her first book, CA shares how her childhood, her loss, and her grief shaped who she is today.
  • [04:25] People have finally gotten tired of how fake social media can be. Realness is now more popular.
  • [05:58] When CA made her video dancing to Salt N Pepa, she had no idea it was going to go viral. She built a social media following by accident.
  • [07:19] A year prior to this, CA had made a decision to give her life back to God. She had been devastated by the loss of her niece to cancer.
  • [07:48] CA has had several viral videos since the first one. Her favorite video is her house cleaning video.
  • [09:14] CA grew up in a tiny town called Jasper, Alabama. She grew up in a trailer on the wrong side of the tracks and humor was all she really had.
  • [10:07] Her mom was a single mom raising three kids. Her dad was an alcoholic who left when she was 2 years old.
  • [10:21] They started going to church when she was 8 years old. She had already been through so much including being molested.
  • [10:44] She was rebellious and resentful by this time.
  • [11:30] Going to church also made her mom become really strict.
  • [11:54] CA thought it was important that she put everything out there.
  • [12:39] CA could also relate to some of Melissa's experiences when she read her book.
  • [13:50] Some people can get defensive with forgiveness when you are taking away their hate and anger.
  • [14:37] CA what is a Beachbody Coach.
  • [14:53] She thought her social platform was health and fitness, but it turned out it was really about her story.
  • [17:58] CA started each chapter of her book with a story from her childhood.
  • [18:08] She went swimming and jumped into the deep end when she knew she couldn't swim. As a child, being molested made her feel like she was dirty.
  • [18:37] She would entertain people by being silly. It was a distraction for her.
  • [19:06] If someone gets to know you too well, they might discover the monsters you have in your closet.
  • [19:27] The centerpiece of CA's book was about her niece's battle and ultimate loss from cancer.
  • [19:39] This completely changed everything for her. If CA would not have been so incredibly broken, she never would have allowed got in the way that she did.
  • [20:06] She was 8 months pregnant, and she went to St Jude to visit her sister and her niece.
  • [20:28] When she got home all of her feelings and emotions hit her.
  • [20:41] She has her best thoughts and prayers and conversations with God in her car in the garage. She was bawling her eyes out and praying. Suddenly, the car was filled with love and peace.
  • [20:56] It dawned on her in that moment that she was loved and that her niece was loved.
  • [21:39] The things that made her feel like an outsider were actually the things she needed to be the person that she is and fulfill her calling.
  • [23:21] Our scars tell a story.
  • [23:47] CA has taken her scars and turned them into a powerful word for women.
  • [25:31] CA wanted her book to be a book that had the potential to truly change someone's future going forward.
  • [26:37] CA's book is titled Odd(ly) Enough. This book didn't come from her, it came from God. She was just the messenger.
  • [27:56] CA hopes that women walk away from her book with an understanding of who they truly are and how their trials and tribulations have given them character and shaped who they are. God will use all of these bad things for your good.
  • [29:20] CA is learning to ask for help when she needs it, set boundaries, and believe that she can do what God says she can do.
  • [30:22] The enemy can't read our minds.
  • [32:26] Thinking outside of the box with the lightning round.
  • [32:41] CA loves her sister.
  • [33:00] She is currently binging on baking shows.
  • [33:36] She doesn't understand why ramen noodles taste so good.

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Jan 29, 2019
Body Talk II…
57:11

This episode is for adults only. If your little ones are in the car put their headphones on them. Listen to this episode first before listening to it with your teenager. Katherine Diggs was my guest last season on episode 15. I wasn't going to have her back. She talked about oral sex, and the show made me sweat, but everybody loved her.

Katherine is a genuinely nice person and a wonderful podcast guest. You can ask her questions about anything and she'll answer. She is also extremely smart. Katherine Diggs is a nurse practitioner who specializes in all things female. She is here today to talk about us, our health, teens and sex.

You can find Melissa here:

Podcast Web Page
Facebook Page
@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram
@msmelissaradke on Twitter

Show Notes

  • [03:14] Katherine and I go to the same church, and we both feel called to the world.
  • [04:59] Sex is like the economy when the price of it goes down it is cheap.
  • [05:23] Kids as young as 13 are having sexual experiences.
  • [07:24] The stats from 2001 to now have changed dramatically about people's attitudes towards sex and sexual behavior.
  • [08:36] Mental health issues for children have been going up, and there's a direct link to the access of technology.
  • [10:08] It's important to make your rules according to your own kids. Some kids won't have any problem with technology others may go down a deep dark well.
  • [10:16] Kids aren't learning how to engage in real relationships. They are often just engaging sexually.
  • [10:49] Kids are spending hours upon hours on iPads. When they try to navigate and have a real authentic relationship, they don't have the skills to do it.
  • [11:02] How can we rewind and make relationships meaningful again for children?
  • [12:03] If we could teach abstinence and it worked that would be great. Unless those kids come from really good homes where the parents are saying the same thing, it just doesn't work.
  • [15:45] The most common theme for questions asked after Katherine's school lectures are about same-sex relationships.
  • [20:36] There needs to be boundaries and strong hard rules about keeping your hands to yourself.
  • [22:15] Parents need to set up boundaries with their kids for sex.
  • [26:07] It's normal for adolescent kids to relate to the same sex. This year there seems to be a trend with kids thinking same-sex relationships are cool.
  • [28:32] Education is huge in every aspect of our life and the more you know about something the better.
  • [31:17] Educate your kids on the basics and then listen and be really honest with them.
  • [33:43] We have got to instill value on the human body.
  • [35:05] You need to know your kid. 50% of every pregnancy is unplanned.
  • [35:43] Katherine tries to educate moms and kids.
  • [36:31] It's far better to be prepared and to prevent an unplanned pregnancy. Make a decision based on your child's personality.
  • [38:56] If your teen thinks contraception is a free pass then there was some groundwork that wasn't laid.
  • [39:32] HPV vaccine is recommended.
  • [41:36] HIV is still prevalent. It can be caused by teens or anybody having unprotected sex.
  • [44:31] Masturbation comes back to intention. Some people can become addicted. Does it keep you from other healthy activities.
  • [50:42] This was a hard topic, but I'm glad Katherine was here to help me talk about it.
  • [51:36] Katherine answers the lightning round questions.
  • [54:02] If you don't talk to your kids about sex, someone else will.
  • [55:26] Katherine has a program called Living in Truth.

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Jan 22, 2019
We Just Want to Be Seen
01:04:20

Johnna Hensley is someone who I immediately liked when I met her. She's super kind. She laughs at my jokes. She's easy to talk to. She's a good listener and a deep thinker. She also loves her family fiercely. Johnna and her husband Ryan have three children. One of them is special needs. She is a mother living in two different worlds right under the same roof. I wonder how she does it. I'm so excited to have Johnna on the show to find out.

Johnna Hensley is a native Texan, a writer, and a lost sinner who found hope and redemption in Jesus. She is the wife of an energetic and giving man, and a homeschooling mother to three wild and sweet little boys. Her life is nothing as she expected it would be, but finding beauty in the broken is what makes it worth living.

You can find Johnna Hensley here:

Johnna Hensley
JohnnaHensley on Instagram
johnna@johnnahensley.com

Show Notes

  • [04:12] Johnna made a video with her son Hayden. They did a CrossFit parody.
  • [07:28] Johnna's son Hayden has spina bifida and he has a tracheotomy to breathe.
  • [07:40] He sleeps with a ventilator at night.
  • [09:00] Johnna and Melissa went on a hayride.
  • [09:58] Johnna has three boys. She took her sons to a pumpkin patch. She carried Hayden to the hayride. His issues are physical, but his mind is on point.
  • [15:27] At about 18 weeks, they found out there might be a problem with their baby. He had spina bifida which means the spinal cord did not close all the way. Johnna and Ryan were 24 years old. Their entire world crashed into the ground.
  • [19:57] We declared that this doesn't change anything and we aren't going to treat him differently.
  • [21:35] Johnna was against having more kids. She heard from God that what ever baby he gave her it was his glory not hers.
  • [23:20] She had her second son, and he was perfectly healthy. Her third was her bonus baby.
  • [24:54] Raising the boys is like being in two different worlds.
  • [27:14] They booked a Disney cruise and Hayden was sick. They didn't know what to do. Her neighbor assured her it was okay to leave Hayden and take the other kids on the cruise. She felt really guilty. Then they actually had fun.
  • [30:07] It's challenging for Johnna and her husband to make sure that they are doing enough for everybody.
  • [33:01] There can be resentment for some of the children. Sibshops helps siblings of special needs kids. There is a camp for siblings of special needs children.
  • [35:01] Now that Hayden is older, he is honest about how he feels about the situation.
  • [39:16] There was a time when I was taking things out on Ryan. Then we implemented Sunday family meetings and lay everything out so that the logistics are all on paper.
  • [40:32] We have a night nurse that comes in at 7 pm. It's kind of weird trying to catch up on your day when there is someone else in your home.
  • [42:06] It's challenging for Johnna to have other people in her home when she is trying to unwind. It's something she's still getting used to.
  • [42:37] Johnna and Ryan understand each other on a level that will never change. There are some things no one else will ever get.
  • [44:16] To keep the romance alive Johnna and Ryan also tried Date Night In which was a gift from a friend.
  • [46:15] Johnna goes to the school answers questions about Hayden's condition, and she is writing a book. They decided to be real honest with the kids and get it all out in the open.
  • [47:57] It's perfectly lovely for a child to ask Hayden his name and ask what is the story with the chair.
  • [49:22] Hayden has taken Johnna out of her comfort zone. She calls him the VIP.
  • [51:35] Mom's struggling, need to find their tribe, even if it is through a Facebook group. Special needs parents just get it.
  • [54:48] Being a special needs mom is like canoeing up your driveway every day while everyone else gets to drive. Sometimes you need to throw a special needs mom a paddle and help them.
  • [55:42] A friend inviting themselves over for game night is one of the nicest things that someone has done.
  • [59:54] Johnna answers Melissa's lightning round questions.

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Jan 15, 2019
Don’t MIND Me, It’s Just the Season 2 Premiere
20:00

Welcome to season 2 of the Ordinary People Ordinary Things podcast. I loved doing the first season so much that we are doing another round. Now that I have one season down, the second season is going to be better than ever. I will be telling the stories that I’ve always wanted to tell.

These stories will be told by people who I’ve learned the most from in my life. Ordinary people like you and me. We will be breaking the season down into three sections of body, mind, and soul. Next week kicks off with a special guest as we start with the body topic.

You can find Melissa here:

Podcast Web Page

Facebook Page

@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram

@msmelissaradke on Twitter

Show Notes

  • [03:52] I am so excited about season 2. I'm going to tell the stories that I've always wanted to tell. Those stories are going to be about ordinary People, because the best lessons I've ever learned in my life are from ordinary people like you and me.
  • [04:34] This season you are going to hear from some really amazing people with some really amazing stories.
  • [05:02] If you want to hear how ordinary people like you and I have rebounded from the same heartbreaks, then do I have a podcast for you.
  • [05:26] Eat Cake Be Brave was born on July 17th. Something shifted in me the day that the book was released. I felt so vulnerable or metaphorically exposed.
  • [06:39] This was one of the scariest and loneliest that I've ever felt in my life. So then, I dove in head-first into a television show.
  • [07:00] The more exposed I became the more acutely aware I became of the need to protect and heal myself.
  • [07:31] I became more aware of my shortcomings and brokenness maybe more than ever before.
  • [07:46] I started journaling again, seeing my counselor, reading books that help me, and finding quiet time to pray.
  • [08:20] If I don't figure out why I do the things that I do now, will I ever?
  • [08:33] I have to handle myself gently, but I do have to handle myself.
  • [10:05] You may not learn how to parent your children or run on a budget from me, but you will always see me try to be kinder and try to be more patient.
  • [10:59] If there's something you want to do, you should just try.
  • [11:36] Our body, our mind and our souls are all intricately connected.
  • [12:55] Nothing can make you happy unless it's done with the other two.
  • [13:37] What good is it to have it all if your soul isn't healthy.
  • [14:29] This season is going to be divided into three parts. Body, mind, and soul. Each focus area will consist of a few weeks.
  • [14:41] We will have guests to make you think, make you cry, and we will make you laugh your head off.
  • [15:03] The first topic is our bodies.
  • [18:47] Here's to an incredible Season 2 of Ordinary People Ordinary Things. I'm excited.

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Jan 08, 2019
We've Been Married A Hella Long Time
48:09

David and I have been married 24 years. That’s a hella long time. Today, my guest is none other than the attorney general himself, David Radke. We take on your questions about our lives and our marriage. Some of these questions are in response to my book Eat Cake. Be Brave. Some are in response to our struggles with infertility and our marriage relationship including broken trust. I hope David is ready to go there.

David shares his background and why the attorney general is a fitting nickname. We share some fun facts about our history and our marriage. We also talk about forgiveness, going through the rough times, changing seasons, and finding your partner's love language. We also share why we are going on a brief hiatus from the podcast, but promise to be back. I want to share some of your stories, so please keep sending them in.

You can find Melissa here:

Podcast Web Page
Facebook Page
@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram
@msmelissaradke on Twitter

Show Notes

  • [02:41] We are going to start off with some light questions and end with some light questions. We'll chew the meat in the middle.
  • [02:55] What does your husband do for a living?
  • [03:30] David and Melissa lived in Nashville for about 16 years. He graduated from Belmont University. He has a bachelor degree in music business. He managed music artists.
  • [04:10] A lot of it involved contracts and negotiation. He did go to law school and become an entertainment attorney. David is an actual attorney, but he is not the attorney general.
  • [04:56] David was involved with law for about 10 years. About a year ago, he left his law job to work in talent management, and Melissa is the primary focus of that talent.
  • [05:18] He has been approached by others for television and management, and he can see some day doing that, but for now his focus is on Melissa's career.
  • [05:48] Melissa says David really is an attorney. He really is a general. And as she says in the book, no fun can be found in him. She also loves him with all her heart and soul.
  • [06:00] When we met in 1994 and fell in love, David always knew he wanted to manage my career. My career came much much later in life.
  • [06:21] David never gave up on Melissa's career, but he didn't think it would happen 23 or 24 years later.
  • [06:34] What is the most embarrassing thing Melissa has ever done?
  • [07:35] David shares the story of when he met Melissa's parents when they first began dating.
  • [08:21] David was the first guy that Melissa had ever brought home. The next morning they were sitting around the breakfast table and Melissa had a very embarrassing experience.
  • [09:27] Melissa's also shares her runner-up embarrassing story.
  • [09:38] Melissa also answers the question of what drives her crazy about David. He has a certain habit that drives her nuts. So she said.
  • [10:59] A question about the chapter in Eat Cake. Be Brave called "Lovers and Leavers".
  • [11:51] They have no regrets about putting the stories in the book.
  • [12:09] How do you rebuild trust with your husband?
  • [13:24] The grieving and loss made us different people.
  • [14:07] Repairing the bridge has been a long process with a lot of counseling and a lot of rebuilding.
  • [16:35] What boundaries did Melissa and David said early on to protect their marriage?
  • [16:45] They got married at 20 years old. They just assumed everything would be great.
  • [19:37] Melissa shares things that she did to try and rebuild her own self-esteem.
  • [20:12] The work Melissa did on herself was actually a benefit for her marriage.
  • [22:11] Melissa bought The Power of a Praying Wife, because she was going to pray for David.
  • [23:06] Melissa put the focus on herself and fixed yourself.
  • [23:15] How to set aside anger and work on the problem.
  • [23:31] Anger is an extremely strong emotion.
  • [24:55] Ask what catches your husband or wife when they fall. Is it a rose bush or a room full of pillows?
  • [25:56] Sometimes we would have to strive every day to out serve each other.
  • [28:01] Finding someone who you are truly and passionately in love with who is also your best friend makes 20 years less of a struggle.
  • [29:13] Being deliberate and intentional and letting your husband know that he is needed.
  • [30:55] The five love languages. Which are time, acts of service, personal touch, words of affirmation, and gifts.
  • [31:58] We need to learn what our partners love languages are and give those to them.
  • [32:57] In this season, David's are time and words of affirmation.
  • [33:42] Melissa's are time and acts of service.
  • [34:25] Do your homework and find out your spouse's love language.
  • [34:49] Little things we do for each other to show our love.
  • [37:20] We can't trade our car Big Darla in. Once you name something, it's yours.
  • [38:54] The snooze button and running late is included in our morning routine.
  • [40:27] David shares his love for going to the Astros game.
  • [41:21] Who is our dream podcast guest?
  • [42:59] Lightning round questions.
  • [46:08] Melissa loves this podcast, and we'll be back.
  • [47:02] Keep sending in your stories, because the world needs your story.

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Aug 28, 2018
They’re Gonna Know My Name with Guest: Rocco Radke
23:44

Out of all of the podcast episodes that I have hosted, today’s guest is the most excited of all. My special guest today is my son Rocco Radke. My daughter Remi and other family and friends have been on the show. It’s now Rocco’s turn, and he chose today’s topic. We discuss our upcoming family sitcom that will be airing on the USA Network either this fall or early next year.

Having the show is a big decision that will not only affect me and my life, but it will have an effect on my entire family. Today, Rocco and I discuss how he feels about having our family life filmed, and he shares some fears and unique insights. This was a fun show for both of us. We hope you enjoy it as much as we did.

You can find Melissa here:

Podcast Web Page
Facebook Page
@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram
@msmelissaradke on Twitter

Show Notes

  • [03:59] Rocco is excited to be on the show.
  • [05:07] Rocco wants to talk about the TV show we are going to have.
  • [05:34] We are having an unscripted family sitcom coming to the USA Network. It will probably air this fall or early 2019.
  • [06:37] We have been dancing with the network for about a year and a half. Rocco and Remi have been here for every bit of it.
  • [07:06] Our front yard and backyard are being landscaped, and there are big rocks in the yard.
  • [07:25] Rocco explains why he thinks they want to film our family.
  • [07:34] We just have fun together, and if you have fun together it can take you a long way.
  • [07:47] Rocco shares how Melissa is always telling him to be quiet when she is on business calls.
  • [08:13] We have talked to Rocco and Remi about how they feel about being on the show. Rocco is exited, but a bit nervous.
  • [09:09] Rocco is a baseball and basketball player. He is not nervous about people in the stands, because he is focused on the game.
  • [10:22] Rocco shares how it is exciting, but scary to know that a lot of people will be watching our show and lives.
  • [10:42] One worry that Rocco has is that he could possibly do the wrong thing, and it won't be edited out.
  • [11:09] We have prayed so much about the people that we have signed up to work with. Everybody is wonderful.
  • [11:43] Jesus and God have been with us every step of the way. We are blessed.
  • [12:31] I am so proud of Rocco.
  • [13:02] Rocco's the Best will be the title of Rocco's podcast.
  • [13:51] Rocco shares his thoughts on each person's role in the upcoming show. Daddy is fun to play with. He likes to go outside and play a lot. He also goes on Remi's side, because they are both competitive.
  • [14:40] Remi will be fun on the show.
  • [14:48] Noni or Grandma is funny and fun. Although, she can be serious and is good at board games.
  • [15:28] She also sides with the kids and loves them very much.
  • [15:41] Poppy or grandpa is fun, but he has had surgery recently.
  • [15:57] Aunt Mara will be super fun on the show, but don't hug her if you don't want to be tickled.
  • [16:34] Aunt Melba or Honey will be fun when she is not at work.
  • [16:50] Pastor Jeremy will be an explosive character.
  • [17:06] Rocco shares who he thinks will be the biggest breakout star of the show.
  • [17:44] America may not be ready for Granny.
  • [18:33] A brief lesson on love and the solar system.
  • [19:21] The lightning round featuring Rocco.
  • [21:14] I have no idea what I'm doing. This opportunity is scaring the pants off of me.
  • [21:37] I'm agreeing to something that will affect my children, marriage, and entire family. There will be an effect.
  • [22:20] I wonder why I'm doing this.
  • [22:54] My motto is why walk down the street when you could just have a parade.
  • [23:01] I hope me bringing my life to your TV is as much a blessing to you as it will be to me.

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Aug 21, 2018
Big, Bad, and Bullied All Over
42:55

School is starting, and I’m nervous. Remi is starting middle school. I’m not worried about Remi, I know that she can handle herself. I’m actually worried about how I have done with Remi. There comes a time when we throw are children out into the deep end and see if they can swim. Have we said the right things? Have we taught our children to rescue themselves and to rescue others?  

Kids are growing up faster than ever. Changing one kid at a time can help change the culture. My good friend and hairdresser Wendy is on the show today. She has a beautiful and vivacious daughter named Christian who experienced severe bullying at a new school. Wendy shares their story and how they overcame it through the power of forgiveness and God.  

You can find Melissa here: 

Podcast Web Page 
Facebook Page 
@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram 
@msmelissaradke on Twitter 

Show Notes 

  • [05:35] Wendy is Melissa's hairdresser and they have known each other for 10 years.  
  • [07:23] Wendy and her husband were in Lufkin for 18 years. They decided to move, so her husband could find work. 
  • [08:17] They moved in the middle of the school year when Wendy's daughter was in the ninth grade.  
  • [09:09] Wendy thought the smaller school district would be awesome. 
  • [10:14] Christian was 15 and Wendy began to notice some changes in her.  
  • [11:01] Christian wasn't making friends, and she stopped doing her hair, wearing makeup, and wearing cute clothes. 
  • [12:09] Wendy noticed changes in Christian.  
  • [12:46] Her grades started to slip.  
  • [13:36] Wendy started talking to teachers and counselors.  
  • [14:34] Christian saw a professional counselor. She also started her mad journal with her mad feelings. 
  • [16:19] Everything culminated the day the principal called Wendy and said that Christian has Saturday detention. 
  • [17:43] Christian said to Wendy, I need for you to love me and listen to me.  
  • [18:59] Christian was being bullied by a group of girls at school. The video was on Instagram.  
  • [20:07] She was confronted with the mob mentality. They swarmed her and Christian was crying. She never stopped listening. She knew in the grand scheme of things that these people didn't matter.  
  • [23:11] In the video, Christian was alone against the entire school.  
  • [24:55] Are kids can't be superheroes all the time, but they shouldn't be part of the mob.  
  • [25:36] Wendy did not want Christian to be a victim.  
  • [26:34] Wendy knew she had to talk to the principle with a calm heart.  
  • [27:41] Wendy wants her kids to be able to deal with situations. She didn't want her kid to be the one causing trouble.  
  • [28:38] It's a fine line to walk as a parent. Be real, but don't be blind to what is happening.  
  • [30:02] Living by the holy spirit and living by the nudge.  
  • [31:21] A mother's love is so great, but we have to listen to the holy spirit. 
  • [31:59] The school district gave them a lot of apologies.  
  • [32:42] Christian wanted to go back to the Lufkin school district. She is living with family in Lufkin.  
  • [33:22] She is happy and healthy and doing great.  
  • [34:13] Christian decided she needed to forgive the bully who bullied her.  
  • [36:59] Bullying can break you and change you. You need to decide how you are going to built back up.  
  • [37:51] Christian is not going to be the victim, and she is now an anti-bullying advocate and a great friend.  
  • [39:51] Lightning round… 
  • [41:05] Melissa wants to raise not only a good swimmer, but a lifeguard.  

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Aug 14, 2018
Who Has Time For Eyeliner?
41:06

This is a super fun episode with a guest I just love. Raegan Williamson from Raegan Williamson Aesthetics & Permanent Cosmetics is here to talk about everything to do with our faces. Reagan has been doing makeup since she was a teenager and has been a nurse for 10 years. She does amazing work with eyebrow microblading, permanent eyeliner, and botox.  

In this episode, Raegan shares her background and experience. We talk about these procedures and what to look for and ask when choosing an esthetician. We talk about who these procedures are for and the latest trends and techniques for keeping everyone looking their best. Reagan also shares some fun stories and some touching stories too.  

You can find Raegan here: 

Raegan Williamson Aesthetics & Permanent Cosmetics on Facebook 
Raegan Cassels Williamson on Instagram 

Show Notes 

  • [02:59] Reagan has been a nurse for about 10 years. She started with aesthetic nursing. She started doing permanent cosmetics about five years ago. She worked for a doctor and did makeup on the side. 
  • [03:56] Reagan knew she could help women with eyebrows that looked more natural. She went to one school and didn't learn the technique that she wanted, so she went to Beverly Hills and learned microblading. 
  • [05:15] Reagan has been doing makeup since she was 15 years old. She also got Botox when she was in her 20s. 
  • [06:45] In the sixth grade, Reagan's best friend plucked out every single one of her eyebrows. She never really recovered. She has been filling eyebrows in before filling eyebrows in was cool. 
  • [08:41] Reagan specializes in microblading eyebrows which is a natural hair stroke technique. She also does eyeliner and lip liner.  
  • [09:31] Melissa originally went to Reagan because she wanted something done with her eyebrows. 
  • [10:08] Reagan also helped Melissa's mother after she lost all of her eyebrows from radiation and chemo. 
  • [10:27] Reagan also did Melissa's permanent eyeliner. 
  • [10:36] Permanent eyeliner is a huge help. 
  • [11:05] Reagan has helped a lot of women who have alopecia. 
  • [11:41] Permanent eyeliner also makes these women will never grow eyelashes again feel better. 
  • [12:54] The most popular frequent thing people are asking for is Botox. Reagan also does a lot of brotox. 
  • [14:52] Your face shouldn't be numb after botox. Go to someone who knows what they are doing. Don't hesitate to ask how long they have been doing it.  
  • [16:49] Reagan's mom is her worst client ever. She has a funny video of her mom getting Botox. 
  • [20:19] Botox can be used under your arms to treat overactive sweating. It can also be used for migraines. Botox can also help with TMJ. 
  • [23:51] Botox can also slim the face. 
  • [24:36] The underarm injections usually last from 4 to 6 months. 
  • [25:06] Botox lasts from 3 to 4 months. Reagan sells her Botox by the unit. It's $12 a unit. You're paying for the expertise not the product. 
  • [26:09] There are three neural modulators on the market. 
  • [27:43] Permanent makeup saves time. Some people have makeup allergies and they get permanent makeup.  
  • [28:48] Eyebrow tattooing is now a huge trend. 
  • [30:10] Reagan recommends getting your eyebrows redone every 2 to 3 years. Eyebrows usually cost around $500. 
  • [31:30] The longevity for lip liner isn't very long. 
  • [33:10] Steer clear of magic marker eyebrows. Ask to see pictures and get referrals for the tech you're seeing. 
  • [33:38] Reagan's favorite trend is Is powder ombre brow. To create more of a filled in brow. She is having her brows done and meeting with a trainer.  
  • [36:21] Scar tissue can build up, so you can't do the brow repeatedly.  
  • [38:06] The lightning round... 

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Aug 07, 2018
Beautifully Broken Journey with Amy Reinecke
51:34

This episode gets real. If you have my book Eat Cake. Be Brave. Then you know that weight has been an issue all of my life. One of my earliest memories was getting out of bed and finding my mom eating frosting and watching Johnny Carson. I’ve tried different diets, and I know it is about the journey, letting God guide me, and having a conversation with my heart.

This is why I’m so excited about today’s guest. Amy Reinecke is someone who I discovered on Instagram and her website Beautifully Broken Journey resonated with me. Amy talks about her story, her struggle with weight, food, and dieting. We talk about how it is about the journey, loving your body, and trusting in God to guide you. This is a complex topic that is a lifelong journey. Hopefully, we can all inspire each other to take this journey in a gracious and loving way.

You can find Amy Reinecke here:

Beautifully Broken Journey
Amy on Facebook
Amy on Instagram

Show Notes

  • [00:55] My earliest memory is crawling out of bed and finding my mom watching Johnny Carson and eating frosting.
  • [01:31] This is when eating in secret became fun, but honestly it isn't a whole lot of fun anymore.
  • [01:42] Everybody seems to have an opinion about my weight and my size.
  • [02:39] I want more. I want better. I want to do everything I need to do and get dressed up and feel good about myself. I want to lose weight.
  • [03:21] My guest today is someone who I've been following on Instagram for a while. I am a crazy huge fan of this woman.
  • [03:53] Amy Reinecke is my guest today.
  • [05:07] Amy's journey also started when she was a little girl. She has struggled with weight and body image.
  • [06:04] Amy spent a lot of time chasing the number on the scale. She felt like she didn't add up in quite a few different ways.
  • [06:49] She went on her first diet when she was in the fourth grade.
  • [07:15] Amy shares why her website is called Beautifully Broken Journey.
  • [08:08] Beautifully broken jumped out at Melissa. She saw her reflection in that title.
  • [10:41] By the end of the show, we should all love ourselves enough to try to do better for our bodies.
  • [13:07] Amy and Melissa both sing. Melissa even moved to Nashville to pursue her dream of singing.
  • [13:20] Melissa was paid really well to be a session singer. She stood at the back and let everyone else take center stage, because she didn’t look the part.
  • [14:52] Amy and her husband had been through a difficult time and her weight and body image was a contributing factor. She would diet and then gain the weight back.
  • [15:23] She had lost weight and was unhappy living a life of restriction, until she discovered binge eating disorder.
  • [16:33] Binge eating disorder when you hide your food choices is a real thing.
  • [17:09] Amy began therapy and gained 100 pounds. Her diet had been so restrictive, and she started eating whatever she wanted. She was actually on 3 medications and one of them caused extreme hunger.
  • [18:35] She had to learn and relearn her hunger cues.
  • [21:27] How restrictive diets can really backfire in the long run.
  • [22:39] Why food was such an emotional issue for Amy. She struggled for years and realize she couldn't fight the battle on her own anymore. She opened up her heart and asked for help.
  • [23:14] She knows it's more than just calories in and calories out. Are you broken inside? Are you taking your life, because you're not enjoying your food?
  • [24:23] Amy has finally realized that her journey is forever.
  • [24:52] Amy feels better when she takes care of her body. She's a better wife, mother, and friend. She is also lost 104 pounds in the last two years.
  • [25:37] God created us to run on full capacity with the physical, emotional, and spiritual.
  • [25:51] Melissa is kicking butt emotionally and spiritually. But we are only as strong as our weakest link.
  • [27:37] We are more than the number on the scale. Amy loves the body kindness movement.
  • [30:20] Amy went back to Weight Watchers but was determined to do it in a healthy way.
  • [31:48] Amy chose Weight Watchers because it was the only program that had worked for her. Restriction in any form is not healthy for her.
  • [32:48] She needed to honor her body in a lifelong way.
  • [33:53] Being a mom is the one area that Amy had the utmost confidence in.
  • [34:12] God had taught Amy to trust in Him in that season.
  • [35:12] Amy's back surgery was a gift of God's grace. In a way it was saying let's just start over.
  • [36:13] It's not about a number. It's about having a body that can move and a body that you can appreciate.
  • [37:43] Amy felt that God told her to stop drinking Diet Coke.
  • [39:07] Melissa finds that when God is leading her, she is more in tune with his voice.
  • [39:55] He is also the God of the small moments.
  • [41:06] Amy is being pushed in a direction that will probably give her more freedom than she has ever had in her life.
  • [43:23] It's not about the weight, it is about the journey and the reliance on a creator that is greater than you.
  • [45:03] What Amy is doing means so much to Melissa.
  • [45:41] It was a true blessing for Amy to share her story.
  • [46:46] The lightning round…
  • [49:20] This was a tough topic for me. It's time to have a conversation with my heart.

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Jul 31, 2018
Road Trippin'
30:01

We are on the book tour. Today, we are broadcasting from the road as we hit San Antonio and try to find a nice lunch spot. So far, we have been to Houston, Dallas, and New York. For this episode, we have decided to record each time we are in the car. So, we are taking you on the road with us. If you ever wanted to be in the car with David and Melissa, this is your chance.

We talk about how nice Megan was and that there was a big announcement at the end of the segment. We discuss bringing and not bringing our kids on the road trip. We talk about having a meet and greet with Melissa’s social squad of sisters, some favorite and not so favorite comments about the book, feeling tired and emotional after the book signing, and more. I hope you enjoy this ride with us.

You can find Melissa here:

Podcast Web Page
Facebook Page
@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram
@msmelissaradke on Twitter

Show Notes

  • [02:33] How we get along great in the car, and sometimes we don't  
  • [03:00] We were exhausted last night when we got to San Antonio. We slept in and woke up just in time for Melissa to be on the Megan Kelly Show.
  • [03:14] Megan said that David was handsome.
  • [03:56] The interview with Megan went well.
  • [04:17] There was also an exclusive announcement.
  • [04:29] Remi has been getting fan mail and gift cards and even a ring.
  • [04:52] Rocco is depressed about it, and plans on being on the show.  
  • [06:46] Road Trippin part 2. We are going to the Cheesecake Factory to meet up with my squad of women.  
  • [08:07] We got into a misunderstanding about being on the phone while at a restaurant.
  • [11:06] We were going to enjoy this trip as a family with the kids, but after three stops we realized the kids would have more fun at their grandparents house.
  • [12:12] We are heading to a meet and greet with my squad sisters. I spent half my life trying to make it onto the squad, then I started my own squad.
  • [13:26] I get the most nervous or excited to go meet my squad. This is my VIP meet and greet with my social squad sisters.
  • [14:18] Melissa's favorite comment people have said about the book is when they say that reading the book just felt like sitting down and having a conversation with her.
  • [14:49] This is what Melissa wants the most, other than for people's lives to be changed.
  • [15:11] Melissa's least favorite comment about the book.
  • [16:54] A funny comment during 30 Days of Facebook Live.
  • [18:04] We just finished up the book signing. It was tiring, but awesome. Now it is time to find a place to get dinner.
  • [19:42] Some women were there because they saw Melissa on TV or read an article about her.
  • [20:24] Why Melissa started crying tonight when a beautiful woman showed up and said she got dressed up for Melissa, because it was like her girlfriend was coming to town.
  • [24:04] A little inside look into our car conversation. Good, bad or otherwise. Along, with trying to find a playlist.
  • [26:57] Pulling into Starbucks before Melissa's next interview.
  • [29:03] The fact that David and I are still married after being on the road for seven days straight.
  • [29:37] Miracles are all around us.

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Jul 24, 2018
Book Birthday
34:25

This show is going to be a bit different. It is my book birthday. It is launch day of my book Eat Cake. Be Brave. Imagine that you have been keeping a diary since 7th grade, and it was made public. That is kind of how I’m feeling. I’m sharing today, and all of my launch day feelings and emotions with my wonderful husband David and you my wonderful listeners.

You can find Melissa here:

Podcast Web Page
Facebook Page
@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram
@msmelissaradke on Twitter

Show Notes

  • [02:33] The first time Melissa and David met was on a bus in school. She'll never forget his first words, “WHAT ARE YOU DOING?”
  • [03:48] What does Eat Cake. Be Brave. Actually mean?
  • [04:11] When Melissa turned 41 she was about to blow out the candles on her birthday cake, and she wished for bravery.
  • [06:09] She wished to be brave for 12 months. After blowing out her candles, she went back to her room and began to journal what bravery meant to her. The rest is history.
  • [07:01] All we need is a flicker of bravery and going upstream when everyone else is going downstream. Even if it's only for a little bit.
  • [08:02] Why Melissa is so relatable. When Melissa began discovering her voice she realized that she wrote the same way that she talked. This alone made her voice relatable.
  • [09:04] It's easy to relate to Melissa's words because she says what we are actually thinking.
  • [09:38] Melissa is real enough to say you hurt me, and God helped us.
  • [10:06] Melissa is real enough to say the truth and to admit her shortcomings and failures.
  • [10:41] The style and genre of the book.
  • [11:08] The book is a memoir. It's about all the years in Melissa's life that led up to that one year that changed her forever.
  • [11:32] We have had wonderful reviews. One recurring theme is that the book is an easy read.
  • [12:03] The most surprising thing for most people is that the book is funny. It's really funny.
  • [13:18] This book is for women who are tired of standing in the back of the stage and are ready to take center stage in their lives.
  • [13:53] If you're not a religious person, you will still love and identify with this book.
  • [15:23] We had an editorial review that said this woman loved the book and didn't feel preached to. We can be like Christ without preaching it.
  • [15:45] Melissa's writing is kind of like Mindy Kaling, Amy Poehler, or Tina Fey. Those are the three that she hears.
  • [16:32] The overarching theme that Melissa hopes to communicate with the book.
  • [18:00] We have got to become more aware of the words that our Creator has said about us.
  • [19:30] Once we learn the truth about what God has said about us, we can walk in the truth of bravery.
  • [19:57] What Melissa go back and change the pain that she has experienced?
  • [20:13] No. If it meant doing it all again, she would do it.
  • [20:58] Melissa knows what love and healing can do. She would do everything again if it would help one woman to step out of the shadows and live the life she was meant to live.
  • [21:58] The book is about the entire family including David, Remi, Rocco, and even Melissa's mother, her Granny, Aunt Melba, and some of her girlfriends.
  • [22:14] When Melissa's mother is talking in the book the font actually changes. And it is written in the style that her mother speaks in.
  • [24:52] David is curious if there's a scene in The Bodyguard that Melissa would like to act out.
  • [26:22] If someone is unsure about buying the book, Melissa would encourage them to come see her on the book tour.
  • [28:20] Melissa wants these people to see someone just like them who decided to fight for one year.
  • [28:41] You can find out more about the tour here.
  • [29:51] Follow Melissa on social media. We have a lot of exciting press coming up in the next couple of weeks.
  • [30:22] Lightning round questions…
  • [32:15] When the ball is in our hands, what will we do?
  • [33:07] The book is an easy read that will make people laugh and will make people cry. There was a lot of blood, sweat and tears that went into this book.
  • [33:22] David is so proud of Melissa.
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Jul 17, 2018
Chicken Fried Women
46:56

There is a chapter in my book called Chicken Fried Women. This chapter is about the women in my family who I am very close to. I call us chicken fried, because we may be battered on the outside with our scars and our stories, but we are soft and tender on the inside. With, of course, a little spice thrown in. I have four incredible guests today. My Mother Anet, My Grandmother Mary, My Aunt Melba, and my cousin and Melba’s daughter Meridith Baxter who was also my guest on episode episode 5 Over My Bread Body.

We talk about how close our family is and the unique relationship we have. We are loud and outspoken. We tease and give each other a hard time. We fight and forgive, and we love each other fiercely. We talk about what it means to be brave, family traditions, and our relationship with god. We share family stories and discuss challenges of forgiveness and reconciliation. I hope you enjoy this glimpse into our lives and the women who have helped make me who I am.

You can find Melissa here:

Podcast Web Page
Facebook Page
@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram
@msmelissaradke on Twitter

Show Notes

  • [02:03] Anet Lee is Melissa's mother, and she likes it when Melissa calls her Big Mom.
  • [02:20] Mary is Melissa's grandmother or the matriarch of the family.
  • [02:34] Melba White is Melissa's aunt and Anet’s sister.
  • [02:44] Meridith is Melissa's cousin and Melba's daughter.
  • [03:08] Melissa introduced Aunt Melba to podcasts, and she'll never be the same. She loves listening to true crime podcasts.
  • [03:33] I call us chicken fried women. We may be battered on the outside, but we’re tender on the inside. We also have a little spice to us.
  • [03:56] There are a lot of strong women in our family who all have their own set of stories.
  • [04:13] It's unanimous. Melissa is the loudest of the bunch.
  • [04:20] Granny is the quietest, although she has moments of outbursts.
  • [04:50] Long-standing family traditions. Everything in our family is centered around God. That is a tradition that not a lot of families can say.
  • [05:31]  Everybody gets together at Christmas, but if it falls on a Sunday plan on going to church.
  • [05:50] One family tradition that we used to have was on Christmas Eve, we would go and bless other families by Christmas caroling.
  • [06:27] We are an extremely musical family. We chose families in need when we went caroling. We miss this tradition and would like for our kids to have the same tradition.
  • [06:56] We would also go sing at the nursing home.
  • [07:40] We see each other so often we make each other sick. We get together on every holiday, and see each other a couple of times a week for extended visits.
  • [08:13] Melissa's kids love going to Granny's house on Sunday evenings.
  • [09:19] The story of the Chapstick and why it's a good idea not to use other's people's Chapstick. Especially, Granny's.
  • [11:22] The panel at the Social Event based on this chapter in the book. Several audience members were crying when they heard this chapter.
  • [12:12] How it's unusual for people to see families like ours. As women age, they lose their mothers. A lot of people look at our family, and it makes them feel like something is missing.
  • [12:39] Our family has learned to support each other and not look for support in other areas.
  • [13:29] As a family, we have learned to work through our issues together.
  • [15:25] One reason our family may have stayed so close is our relationship with God and our solid marriages.
  • [16:23] Reconciliation and forgiveness. Melba has struggled with holding grudges. Her husband taught her how to forgive and gave some great examples of forgiveness.
  • [17:37] Forgiving and forgetting is hard for Anet too.
  • [18:08] Granny's husband was very good at making things right. When it comes to forgiving, the Lord would help Granny forget about the hurting part.
  • [18:31] Why is it so important for our family to be close?
  • [19:05] Our family loves each other and wants the closeness.
  • [19:33] We are an accountability system for each other whether we want to or not.
  • [21:07] A story about someone riding their horse in Melba's Dad's yard. He had to pray and let it go in order to live by the word.
  • [22:35] We either live it or we don't.
  • [23:00] Forgiveness may not mean reconciliation if the other party doesn't let it go.
  • [25:21] Reading the book Everybody, Always: Becoming Love in a World Full of Setbacks and Difficult People. Going into a relationship with an agenda is not love.  
  • [26:39] How the word of God is about love.
  • [28:43] Melba believes that everything should line up by the word of God, and children should be raised by the word of God.
  • [29:45] The most unique thing about this family is our sense of humor. We also do a lot together.
  • [32:11] When we all get together, there's about 27 of us in the room. We are loud, and there are a lot of kids. There is also a lot of food that is mostly fried and desserts.
  • [33:13] Most of us live on the same street, and we all go to the same church.
  • [35:07] The oddest person in the family…
  • [36:08] The best cook in the family…
  • [39:12] The family member that is never on time…
  • [40:19] Who's the best driver in the family…
  • [41:18] Melba stays brave by not shirking her responsibilities.
  • [41:51] Meredith stays brave because she knows her children are watching.
  • [42:33] Anet stays brave by resilience and facing challenges over and over.
  • [42:54] Granny stays brave by praying every day.
  • [43:40] How we are a brave group of women who all love each other.
  • [44:59] Silent Night - Christmas in July

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Jul 10, 2018
Choose Your Own Tattoo
22:48

In honor of the Fourth of July, I want to talk about freedom. I’m talking about the kind of freedom that happens to us, by us, and in spite of us. I’m going to talk about the kind of imprisonment that I brought on myself, but first an excerpt from my upcoming book. Eat Cake. Be Brave.

I’ve been sharing excerpts that pertain to my podcasts. Today’s was hard to choose. My book is a memoir of how all the years of my life led up to my 41st year. This year changed me forever. Before this point, I figuratively, spiritually, and mentally spent a lot of time in prison. This excerpt is from the chapter entitled All Inked up and No Place to Go.

You can find Melissa here:

Podcast Web Page
Facebook Page
@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram
@msmelissaradke on Twitter

Show Notes

  • [02:04] Excerpt from Eat Cake. Be Brave. All Inked Up and No Place to Go...
  • [06:23] I have a shirt that I sell called Choose Your Own Tattoo. People have no clue what the shirt means until they hear me speak.
  • [07:05] My prison was in physical it came in words. These words they called me stuck.
  • [09:05] The white noise that plays in the background of your mind and your thoughts. The words that have been used against you and have stuck.
  • [10:16] What is the white noise that you hear day in and day out?
  • [10:58] White noise becomes a protective barrier between sleep and what is going on.
  • [11:21] What plays over and over in your thought life becomes a barrier from what is really going on.
  • [11:31] What if what lied on the other side of the barrier was freedom?
  • [12:22] It took a long time to get so tatted up, it's going to take a long time to fix the issue.
  • [12:45] It will take a long time to undo those thought processes, but it can be done. I am living proof of that.
  • [12:57] The first thing I did was open up my computer and type out everything that God had said about me.
  • [13:13] I printed 10 copies and pasted them around my house.
  • [13:52] If you have a tattoo that is the opposite of what God has said about you or your situation, one of those things is untrue. Guess which one?
  • [14:50] The devil isn't doing this to you. You are doing it to yourself.
  • [15:22] God is available to you in books, podcasts, and copies printed out at your desk.
  • [15:42] Freedom isn't free. It takes work and diligence.
  • [16:23] You are made in God's image, and there will be a time when this reference just comes up.
  • [17:06] When you hear yourself begin to say these things about how you are a child of God, they will be ingrained in your soul.
  • [17:20] An excerpt from the Message Bible Second Corinthians 3: 17-18…
  • [18:42] Aren't you ready to live free and exchange your past?
  • [19:24] What you are wanting is just within your grasp.The key is right there and you can reach it.
  • [19:35] Happy Fourth of July. Enjoy your freedom.
  • [20:52] More from Eat Cake. Be Brave. All Inked Up and No Place to Go...

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Jul 03, 2018
Ugly Lamps and Broken Things
48:54

My good friend Whitney Lindsey will be here to share her story, but first I’ll be reading an excerpt from my new book Eat Cake. Be Brave. This is excerpt is titled The Old Tinkerbell Mermaid Rose Lamp, and I feel that it is especially relevant to the conversation I have with Whitney.  

I met Whitney when she was going through an extremely rough time in her life. You might even say she was broken. We can go through a lifetime of throwing away and exchanging broken things, when things can often be fixed. Today, we shed light on what Whitney was going through as a person as she went through this season of her life.  Then we talk about who Whitney became and the season of her new life.  

You can find Whitney here: 

Whitney Lindsey on Facebook 

Show Notes 

  • [01:59] Excerpt from Eat Cake. Be BraveThe Old Tinkerbell Mermaid Rose Lamp.  
  • [05:32] The first night that Whitney and Melissa met was at a Bible Study Class that Melissa was leading called Victory Over Darkness. 
  • [06:57] Whitney was a little late to class that night, because she was a single mother of three daughters who she had to take to different places. 
  • [07:16] Whitney came into class with poor posture and a defeated look. 
  • [07:33] Three months prior to the meeting of this group, Whitney discovered that she and her husband weren't compatible anymore. This was the beginning of a long dark painful experience in their marriage. 
  • [09:02] They had days and days of trying to make things better, but it only made things worse. More buried things were brought to life. 
  • [09:42] Whitney's husband left, and it was a brand-new life for her. 
  • [10:05] Whitney was shy and hid in the shadows of her husband during her marriage. Now that her husband was gone, it was time for her to come out of the shadows. 
  • [11:01] Whitney knew it was time for her to make a change in her life, and she signed up for Melissa's Bible study class. 
  • [12:02] Everything loses power when it is brought out into the light.  
  • [14:04] Exchanging broken things that we think can be fixed.  
  • [14:19] We're going to go from the inside out and talk about who Whitney was as a person while she was going through this season. 
  • [14:47] Whitney wanted to overcome where she was and learn a new identity. Was she going to continue in darkness or go down the path of light? 
  • [15:58] You can go to church your entire life and still not understand your identity to Christ. 
  • [16:53] When you know how much God loves you, it changes your worth and what you need from people. 
  • [18:01] Did Whitney become broken in marriage or did she go into the marriage broken? Whitney believes that her brokenness was one of the factors that ended her marriage. 
  • [18:57] You can look whole and yet be fragmented. 
  • [19:29] Marriage is hard. 
  • [19:58] Whitney wanted to fix things because, she didn't want people to know that things were falling apart. 
  • [20:27] There was a huge adjustment. Whitney not only lost her spouse, she lost her home, car, and her friends. 
  • [20:41] Women often lose their self worth when their marriage ends. 
  • [21:24] Whitney decided to start fixing herself. This was the beginning of a new day and a new journey. 
  • [22:34] Whitney made it a priority to spend time with God. God gave her grace and favor the day she decided to turn things around.  
  • [23:37] Whitney is now a product of a restored marriage, but this is more about what was happening to Whitney on the inside. 
  • [23:57] Lovers and Leavers and staying and fixing and working on a marriage. 
  • [24:34] Marriage is hard. Staying and making it work takes strength. 
  • [25:34] Whitney believes that your greatest ministry is in your struggles. She was all in trying to make her marriage work. 
  • [26:47] If God had not restored Whitney, her marriage would not have been restored.  
  • [27:14] Do the hard work yourself and become a self feeder. 
  • [28:08] Whitney's faith brought her husband back. He saw her whole attitude and demeanor change. 
  • [29:38] You can't argue with kindness. 
  • [30:18] Whitney has natural kindness, but she also extended grace towards her husband before the healing process began. 
  • [30:25] She extended the grace to her husband that God had extended to her. 
  • [31:16] Sin is sin. We all mess up. None of us are perfect. If we all extend grace, the world would be a better place. 
  • [32:32] Kids see and feel everything during a divorce. 
  • [34:10] Whitney's daughters got to see Whitney live a life of independent freedom and loving life. They also got to see her parent's marriage restored.  
  • [35:29] Whitney started dating Justin, and they got married again on a Saturday. 
  • [36:50] Her daughters carried a sign that said, “Daddy, here comes Mommy.” 
  • [37:08] Whitney's first marriage has been nothing compared to her second marriage. Whitney went from needing her husband to wanting her husband. 
  • [38:12] Without the divorce, Whitney would not be the woman that she is today. 
  • [39:05] It has been a whirlwind of three years, and Whitney is humbled and awed by what God has done. 
  • [39:56] Why are we so quick to want to replace broken things instead of fixing them?  
  • [40:18] There is so much beauty in the brokenness. 
  • [40:50] Living a stained glass life. It's all of those broken pieces that make us who we are. God puts all of these pieces together to create a masterpiece. 
  • [44:12] The lightning round… 
  • [45:49] More from The Old Tinkerbell Mermaid Rose Lamp 
  • [48:09] The fixer is Jesus. 

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Jun 26, 2018
When Hope Is Your Name
54:58

As most of you know, I have a daughter named Remi. This episode is about another Remi, and her amazing family. Crystal Sepulvado is a wife, mother, and nurse practitioner who had her faith shaken to the core when her now nine month old daughter Remi was born eight weeks early with multiple health problems requiring multiple surgeries.

I am excited about this inspiring interview. Another thing I am excited about is that my book Eat Cake. Be Brave. is being released on July 17th. In honor of my book release, I will be reading excerpts from the book that apply to each podcast. This one is especially pertinent. I’m reading When Hope Is Your Name which is a letter I wrote to my daughter Remi.

Crystal is an inspiring woman, wife, and mother. She shares her family's story of Remi being born. She not only shares the multiple challenges she faced, but she shares how hope and faith kept her going. Crystal is a woman of unwavering faith and an inspiration and a help to others.

You can find Melissa here:

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@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram
@msmelissaradke on Twitter

Show Notes

  • [03:23] When Hope Is Your Name - Book excerpt. Eat Cake. Be Brave.
  • [06:27] Crystal saw her son at the ball field hanging out with Melissa's daughter Remi.
  • [08:07] Crystal and her husband Shane were married 10 years ago. They have three children. She was born and raised in the Hudson and Lufkin area.
  • [09:14] Melissa and Crystal both like the double R names.
  • [09:52] Crystal's daughter Remi is nine months old, and this is her story.
  • [10:20] Crystal is a nurse practitioner who works in women's health.
  • [10:51] Crystal had an ultrasound and discovered that there was fluid around Remi's heart.
  • [12:22] It was so serious, Crystal saw a specialist on the next Monday.
  • [13:14] They found out that Remi had a very serious heart defect. She also had fluid building up in her heart.
  • [14:47] Crystal shares her experience of getting the diagnostic cardiac ultrasounds. The long period in that dark chamber is where her faith started to kick in.
  • [17:25] Double bubble is narrowing or closure of the intestine. Fluid was building up on Crystal. All of the fluid put Crystal into early labor.
  • [19:11] She went into delivery eight weeks early, and Remi had a heart defect and a small bowel problem.
  • [19:37] Crystal had so many fears including the concern of Remi having an incision scar down her chest.
  • [20:14] She had an emergency C-section. Remi also had a fistula, so she was facing three surgeries.
  • [22:39] Crystal was still in the hospital, but she had a FaceTime session with the surgeon and in spite of it being life or death, they were able to correct all three things.
  • [24:11] Shane refused to believe that there would be any other outcome than Remi's surgery coming out perfect.
  • [25:01] How worship music is lifesaving.
  • [25:39] Crystal was discharged from the hospital, so that she could go see her baby.
  • [27:25] Crystal had to go get her son ready for his first day of school. As she was leaving the hospital, Remi coded on the table.
  • [27:41] They went through several weeks of ups and downs. The holes in Remi's heart were fairly big, and she had a lot of trouble breathing on her own.
  • [28:18] It was finally time for the dreaded open-heart surgery. As it turned out, this was one of the easier surgeries that they faced.
  • [29:06] After leaving the hospital, they found out that Remi had softening of the trachea.
  • [29:28] They faced so many challenges. One thing after another kept happening.
  • [30:18] Everyday, Crystal was scared to death. It's okay to be vulnerable and feel those things, but you can't stay there.
  • [31:35] They had to start speaking life over death and now they have their sweet Remi.
  • [34:31] In situations like this things don't come immediately, and Crystal had to learn patience. She learned patience, and she had to have faith.
  • [36:33] Crystal knew this wasn't God's fault. She knew if she continued to have faith, that things would turn around for His glory.
  • [37:11] She stuck to scripture and believing in the lord.
  • [38:02] How faith helps you to get through to the next day. Crystal also had laminated cards with scripture everywhere.
  • [38:22] She wrote her testimony and her story in a journal.
  • [39:36] The biggest thing she learned from this experience was to have faith.
  • [41:43] If you're struggling or going through a dilemma, find someone else going through that dilemma and help them. Praying and faith helps families during these trying times.
  • [42:41] If you can help someone else through a situation, things will turn around for you.
  • [43:01] Crystal believed that they were placed their divinely for some of the other families.
  • [43:42] God knew what Crystal needed, but he also knew that she could help someone else and that would renew her.
  • [45:16] How God always completes the picture.
  • [46:40] God was preparing Crystal to help other women and parents in need. This story will give women hope to pray.
  • [47:21] Don't stop believing and don't stop praying.
  • [49:07] The lightning round…
  • [51:33] The closing of the When Hope Is Your Name chapter.

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Jun 19, 2018
Live Known
32:54

I am broadcasting live from the Social Event of the Season. Even though I had been planning and talking about the event, I got nervous right before and even considered not going. The event turned out to be even more beautiful, precious, and fun than I thought it would be. It was everything I wanted it to be and more.

The theme for the event was Live Known and that is something that has been resonating with me often. I am comfortably seated on a recliner and speaking about Live Known. It’s a conversation between me and my many hundreds of newest closest friends. If you are tired of hiding and standing on the sidelines of your very own life, I suggest you join us next year for the social event of the season 2019.

You can find Melissa here:

Podcast Web Page
Facebook Page
@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram
@msmelissaradke on Twitter

Show Notes

  • [02:47] The Social Event of the Season was filled with women from all over the United States.
  • [02:53] By the end of the week, these women who didn't know each other were exchanging emails, pictures, selfies, phone numbers, and hugs.
  • [03:09] Live Known is what you will be hearing about today. This is a conversation between me and my hundreds of newest closest friends.
  • [04:14] If you are tired of hiding and standing on the sidelines of your very own life, I suggest you join us next year for the Social Event of the Season 2019.
  • [04:44] How it's a popular choice to live a life but not really Live Known. It is functional to just exist.
  • [05:10] A life like that will get you from point A to point B. Just getting from A to B is not the type of life I want for you.
  • [06:08] The essence of truly living is found within the whole context of scripture.
  • [07:15] The whole of scripture is about living a life and doing something that you never thought you would be able to do.
  • [08:53] You are made from a love that cannot be contained. What if the life that we are given was meant to be lived authentically?
  • [10:57] What does it really mean to live known?
  • [11:24] Catfishing means to lure someone into a relationship by means of a fictional online persona.
  • [12:09] One in five smartphone searches are for pornography. 68% of divorces are from one spouse falling in love with someone knows over the Internet.
  • [14:01] It's easy to hide. We can hide behind our screens, our husbands, our kids, or anything. It is easy. We can just lie and deny.
  • [15:29] The problem with hiding when we are unsatisfied is that we are refusing to take responsibility for things that seem like letdowns.
  • [17:14] To live known let's just tell the truth.
  • [18:29] My counselor told me it was time to stop throwing and attending baby showers while grieving for loss.
  • [19:30] I began to tell the truth.
  • [19:57] How to Live Known.
  • [19:57] 1. Come to a full understanding of who you are.
  • [22:16] Who you are is far more valuable than what you want. You have to start with who you are.
  • [23:06] We are what we believe we are.
  • [24:31] 2. Learn whose you are. Who do you belong to? Where does your loyalty lie?
  • [25:21] I'm older and wiser, and I'm all in. I've seen the world, and I'm done fooling around.
  • [25:47] Jesus is home base and I always go back to home base.
  • [26:27] 3. We must know where we are.
  • [27:44] We are all in. We have started a new business, and we are all in. We have spent a lot of money on online promotion, and we are broke half the time, but man we are having a lot of fun.
  • [28:25] Let's just tell the truth. If we are broke, sick, have hurt feelings or feel left out just tell the truth.
  • [28:46] If you know whose you are then where you are is just momentary.
  • [28:59] 4. We have to be okay with who comes along and who doesn't. It is okay to let people go who aren't friends.
  • [30:11] "They didn't leave your life, I moved them." God
  • [31:07] I set boundaries with my family, and I believe our relationship is getting healthier because of the boundaries that I set.
  • [31:22] If they love you, it'll be a little bit of a change, but they'll stick around and everyone will be the better for it.
  • [31:40] You are the sum of your five closest friends. Show me your friends and I'll show you your future.
  • [31:54] My future is going places as is yours. Choose wisely my friends.

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Jun 12, 2018
How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex Without Crying
46:23

Today’s episode isn’t child friendly. Listen to it when the kids aren’t around or when you have your headphones on. I kick off this show with a story about how I tried to have a talk about sex with my daughter Remi. I thought it was going well except for the part where she was curled up on the floorboard of the car and the confusion about whether the people were naked or not. This is why I brought in my friend and nurse practitioner Katherine Diggs to talk about this important topic.

You can find Katherine here:

Katherine Diggs on Facebook

Show Notes

  • [00:56] The night I talked to Remi Hope about sex. All of the women in the family were decorating for a wedding reception, and I thought I would take Remi out to a nice dinner afterwards.
  • [01:22] Remi wanted to go through the Burger King drive-thru. I began to tell Remi what a condom was and she physically curled up in the floorboard of the car.
  • [01:33] She ordered her meal from the floorboard of the car with a colorless look of shock and fear on her face.
  • [01:46] As we drove home, I became more bold in my approach and decided to tell her everything.
  • [02:20] After all of this we get home and I ask her if she has any questions. Her question was does it hurt for the man. Once the confusion about about people being naked was cleared up, it was time to really talk.
  • [03:09] Katherine Diggs is one of my best friends. She is a nurse practitioner for all things female and sexual. This is what she does for a living, and I’m super excited to have her on the show.
  • [03:55] Katherine was a labor & delivery nurse for years. Then she went back to school and became a nurse practitioner for women's health. She screens for breast and cervical cancer. Along with STD screening.
  • [04:40] She works at a community health clinic and takes care of high-risk ladies.
  • [04:54] She has had a lot of opportunities to educate kids.
  • [05:09] She talks to everyone across the board about sex, their bodies, when to be screened, and related sexual health topics.
  • [05:26] Public health is everybody. I take care of women who don't have access to health insurance or whose circumstances have changed. I want to give these ladies good care and want them to know that they are welcome.
  • [06:42] Katherine believes that women deserve the right to the best healthcare and the best options available to them.
  • [07:09] Katherine was nervous to talk to the boys, but they ended up being more vulnerable than the girls were.
  • [08:26] Katherine has a beautiful 13-year-old daughter and two 8-year-old twin girls who couldn't be more different from each other. The twins are in the same class as my son Rocco.
  • [10:33] As moms, I'm not sure we can adequately talk to her children about this type of stuff.
  • [11:40] The culture we live in now, cell phones, and how people have access to anything in a matter of seconds.
  • [12:02] Kids are even becoming addicted to pornography.
  • [12:13] How erectile dysfunction is common with men at certain ages. Now men in their twenties are having issues with erections because of the exposure to pornography.
  • [13:23] How normal women and everyday life may not seem as sexy compared to the unrealistic images.
  • [14:22] The importance of praying for the significant other of your babies.
  • [14:52] Katherine works two days a week and sees about 200 people a month. About 50% of these people have something. HIV is very real. She sees a lot of syphilis.
  • [15:52] The average age of an adolescent having sex is 17 years old.
  • [17:38] Sex is contact with genitals, mouths, or bottoms. Kids don't think oral sex is  a big deal.
  • [19:17] Kids can live without sex. They can wait. They can save themselves for later.
  • [21:06] Many teenagers are becoming more experimental and adventurous.
  • [21:24] The concept of what sex is designed to be has changed.
  • [23:14] Sex is such a delicate topic. Parents need to be comfortable to be vulnerable and talk with their kids.
  • [24:49] The importance of holding your kids accountable.
  • [25:38] If you talk to your kids before they are 13 years old, you can be their biggest influence.
  • [27:31] How Katherine received a lot of backlash talking to a group of women about HPV.
  • [29:26] Parents need education and need to talk to their kids about sex. Knowledge is power. Give them the whys and the why nots.
  • [31:59] Some people don't even know how to put a condom. HPV can lead to cancer and be caused by skin to skin contact.
  • [32:43] The HPV shot is controversial, but HPV is an epidemic. The vaccine is good for 10 years. Eleven or twelve years old is the recommended age.
  • [35:57] HPV is a skin to skin virus. It's almost an epidemic. The vaccine is expensive, but there is funding for it.
  • [37:30] Be bold, be vulnerable,And being human. Let your kids know that sex is great when it is done as God intended. Teenagers aren't emotionally ready to have sex.
  • [39:05] Let's raise brave strong girls and righteous men of character.
  • [39:36] One of the best places to talk to your kids is in the car. Always keep it age-appropriate.
  • [42:12] The lightning round.
  • [45:01] Melissa's goal is to be open with her children.

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Jun 05, 2018
Big Mouth, Little City
37:02

I lived in Nashville Tennessee for 16 years. It was beautiful. There were rolling hills. We had four perfect seasons. The shopping and the culture were to die for. A friend visited me and said it was like being in a Hidden Valley Ranch commercial. It was beautiful and wonderful.

In spite of the culture and beauty, it’s not the scenery of a town that plants you there, it’s the people who you share that place with. Today’s episode is about my home town of Lufkin, Texas and how sometimes we end up in the very place that we thought we needed to escape.

My friend and guest today is Tara Watson-Watkins the Lufkin Convention and Visitors Bureau Executive Director. Tara was Miss Texas and left Lufkin for ten years for school and her career. She has been back for 14 years and loves promoting Lufkin and small town life in general. Today, we talk about the advantages of small town life and living in Lufkin and similar small towns.

You can find Melissa here:

Podcast Web Page
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@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram
@msmelissaradke on Twitter

Show Notes

  • [02:47] Tara Watson-Watkins loves Lufkin and loves being able to promote her hometown. She gets to tell people why they should visit Lufkin, and reminds the residents why they should love to be home.
  • [03:51] Tara was also Miss Texas. She truly has a love for Lufkin and small towns in general.
  • [04:02] Tara left Lufkin for ten years. She went to school at Texas Christian University and then worked at Pfizer pharmaceuticals and another company.
  • [04:23] Tara knew it was time to come home when her father passed away, and her mother had an accident falling off of a ladder.
  • [04:59] Tara has been home now for 14 years.
  • [05:16] How many women and young girls just want to get out of their small towns.
  • [05:48] Tara may go to bigger cities to shop and get her fix, but there is no better place than being home.
  • [06:11] What small-town life provides. There is such a networking opportunity of friends and family that aren't even blood relations.
  • [06:56] In a small town, it's important to take advantage of the opportunity to get to know people. Go into it with open eyes and an open heart.
  • [07:44] Moving back to Lufkin changed Melissa's outlook on everything.
  • [07:54] In a small town, you can have no blood relatives and yet have a community. Take the time to appreciate the heart of a small town.
  • [08:13] If you make the effort, people will make the effort with you. Embrace the people that are there, because small-town people are the best.
  • [09:04] How moving back to your hometown can be a culture shock and feel like starting over.
  • [09:37] Melissa decided to make herself approachable and started smiling at people.
  • [10:32] What Tara loves about Lufkin. It's a special town. Being a part of the community is a full circle moment for Tara. She loves being able to leave her car running and know it will be there when she gets back.
  • [12:19] In small towns, you also make friends who play jokes on you.
  • [12:47] The Lufkin community is the most giving community that Tara has ever been a part of.
  • [13:22] How the community comes together to make a difference.
  • [14:43] Lufkin is the home of Lufkin industries an oil and gas equipment company. It was the town's largest employer, but was purchased by a larger company and started outsourcing jobs. The town lost a lot of employment. Especially, when another employer Temple-Inland was acquired by International Paper.
  • [15:33] Because of these job losses, the city and Chamber of Commerce have been working hard to bring new industry to the town.
  • [16:31] Lufkin is bringing back jobs and industry.
  • [16:41] Lockheed Martin is also bringing in a new plant. There are definitely things on the horizon.
  • [17:49] When people say negative things about Lufkin, Melissa wants to engage.
  • [18:35] There are a lot of things for families to do in Lufkin.
  • [19:30] Tara wants her children to grow up appreciating their small town. She has worked hard to instill a sense of volunteering and giving back.
  • [23:23] Doing an educational push to shop local. All of Melissa's merchandise is produced locally. If they succeed, they are succeeding with Lufkin.
  • [27:21] A great story about when Tara was Miss Texas, and she went to Target and denied being Miss Texas.
  • [28:48] When Melissa was at The Dollar Store, a man was going to rob the store, but his wife was in line and prevented it.
  • [29:19] Tara shares a CVS story about discretely trying to buy a pregnancy test.
  • [30:53] Melissa's Red Ribbon Week video was on CNN and how a store clerk kept her grounded.
  • [33:57] The lightning round with Tara.

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May 29, 2018
The Big 1-2
32:34

There's a chapter in my upcoming book about something that happened to me when I was 13. Don't get sad or nervous, it wasn't a traumatic thing. Maybe it was a little traumatic, but you'll enjoy reading about it. It reminded me of how hard it is to be 13. It's hard being 11 to 18. 

Today, I am talking to a 12-year-old. On this very day May 22, 2006 Remi Hope Radke came screaming into my world, and I haven't had a moment of silence since. I couldn't imagine having a different guest on my podcast today. Every May 22nd, Remi Hope dominates our thoughts and our world, so there is no reason why today should be any different.  

You can find Melissa here: 

Podcast Web Page
Facebook Page
@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram
@msmelissaradke on Twitter 

Show Notes 

  • [01:45] Remi is growing up. I wonder if having a public mom makes her life more difficult? Sometimes I feel like I'm making it harder on her. Although, if I were she would let me know. 
  • [02:08] Today, I'm going to sit down with Remi and introduce her to you. 
  • [02:19] Remi came to us through adoption. She came to us less than five months after we buried our son. I cried out to God to help me mend what was torn apart. 
  • [02:49] One day I was in the kitchen. Out of nowhere, I felt a tender presence. It was like a compassionate reach. I heard the words "everything you are in need of will come to you wrapped in a blanket." 
  • [03:08] This made no sense to me. How can everything I want come in the form of a tiny baby? 
  • [03:26] Remi Hope came into my world. She was not a replacement for  Elisha. She was the cure for the broken and missing piece. 
  • [03:59] She was an uncontrollable toddler in every single way. We were called in to meet with every teacher at every school.She was fulfilled of nonstop. 
  • [04:20] She's a little older and a little wiser now but no less filled with life and humor. 
  • [04:26] Today, I'm talking to her about everything from adoption to living in the public eye to boys. 
  • [04:48] Remi had her thoughts and doubts about being on the show.  
  • [05:13] Remi thinks the podcast could be a little better and funnier.  
  • [06:15] Remi is thinking about starting her own podcast. She would try a food and give her opinion and then have guest opinions. It would be like Remi's reviews  but would be called Remondade similar to lemonade.  
  • [08:00] Remi and Melissa share their knowledge about historical energy sources and renewable and alternative energy. Geothermal, solar, wind, biofuels, and hydroelectric. 
  • [10:40] Remi plays soccer, basketball, softball, and she wants to play football. She's heading into the sixth grade and doing great.
  • [11:24] She met her best friends Rashawna and Adeline at church. She knew they would grow up together and be best friends. She is a leader in kid works. Remi is great at memorizing scripture.
  • [12:06] Remi she shares some of her favorite scriptures. 
  • [13:31] Remi is healthy and loves fruits and vegetables and broccoli.  
  • [14:15] Her favorite show is Deception, and her favorite movie is Jurassic World. 
  • [15:58] Remi was about seven when she found out she was adopted. She always wanted to watch Tarzan, and they would always stop the movie and tell Remi that the gorillas were adopting Tarzan. 
  • [16:53] Remi is cool with the adoption. Melissa is really her mom. Her mom was a very good sharer. Someday, Remi may want to meet her birth mom, and that is okay. 
  • [17:51] Remi approves of the fun life they have and how Melissa puts stuff out on the Internet.  
  • [19:00] She likes the fame. There is nothing she hates about it. Our family has been talking about a reality show. They have filmed three times. It's a lot of work. There is a whole household of people. 
  • [20:02] Remi thinks it is fun. They are probably getting a TV show.  
  • [20:39] Melissa held Remi back because of her attitude, and she repeated kindergarten. She was like a wild tornado unleashed on the school system.  
  • [21:53] A lot of kids repeat kindergarten. She can let it go. She is in the top of her class and two of her best friends are in that grade.  
  • [22:44] She's excited about going to middle school and choosing where she sits. 
  • [24:00] Remi shares the stages of being ladylike.  
  • [24:29] She is looking forward to church camp and some other fun camps she goes to and has great friends there. She is also going to the Texas A&M soccer camp. All while possible shooting a show. 
  • [25:18] She would like to have a sleepover on her birthday in the guest room with her friends.  
  • [25:57] She would like a horse for her birthday, but she'll take the sleepover and a kiss. To start with. 
  • [26:16] Remi's lightning round. 
  • [28:27] Special thanks to Remi Hope Radke.  
  • [28:44] Hope has always been a part of your name. From Melissa's book Eat Cake. Be Brave. 

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May 22, 2018
Summer Hair, Don't Care
44:27

Our hair is one of the first things people notice about us. It frames our face, maybe even our identity. A good hair day versus a bad hair day can affect our self-esteem and our mood. Maybe this is something I always innately knew, because even as a child I was obsessed with hair, hair styles, and magazines about hair styles. Today, we are talking about everything having to do with hair. 

Rob Fisher is a stylist at Bella Salon in Lufkin, TX. Rob is the stylist who did my hair for my book cover, and he does amazingly beautiful hair. I wanted to talk to Rob today, because he is brutally honest when it comes to hair. We aren’t pulling any punches on this episode of straight talk about hair, coloring, and styles.  

You can find Rob Fisher here: 

Hair and Makeup Artistry by Rob Fisher on Facebook 
Hair by Rob Fisher on Instagram 
Get an appointment with Rob Fisher 
Bella Salon Lufkin, TX 

Show Notes 

  • [03:38]  Rob is actually not my stylist. He just did my hair for my book cover. He is a good friend, though. 
  • [03:51] The only reason Rob is not my stylist is because I'm loyal to my current stylist. 
  • [04:28] Rob did my hair for the book cover because he is all about the show hair. 
  • [05:25] Melissa gets her hair done every three weeks. Now the gray is coming in. 
  • [05:56] Today, we are talking summer hair don't care. 
  • [06:13] In the summer, people are looking for a change. They want to be brightened up. They want some fun. 
  • [07:28] How it's so much better to find a hairstyle that fits the individual as opposed to trying to match a picture. 
  • [08:08] Melissa likes the Adele celebrity haircuts. 
  • [09:01] The hottest new colors for spring and summer. Balayage is freehand painting. It can be done with any color. This is the most popular thing going on now.  
  • [09:46] The difference between ombre and balayage.  
  • [10:12] The silver gray hair trend is gone. 
  • [11:09] Balayage is good for anyone, because you'll have a little bit of your natural root showing, and it is easy maintenance.  
  • [12:44] At what age should women stop the multicolor hair painting? It's bold and fun, but not pretty. 
  • [14:20] Should Melissa spray her hair pink? Rob is doing a lot of lavender and pink on the roots. 
  • [17:14] Discussing bangs thoroughly. Botox over bangs. Bangs can't be used to hide forehead wrinkles. Melissa has bangs because they looked adorable on Jennifer Garner.  
  • [20:37] Melissa's friend Janet has beautiful hair. 
  • [20:51] Melissa is bringing bangs back. 
  • [21:39] Banks can be a pain if you don't have perfectly straight hair. Look back at pictures and decide if you actually like having bangs or not. 
  • [22:29] Rob tells a funny story where a lady with beautiful hair wanted a mullet. 
  • [23:56] Melissa asks for a body wave every year, and her hair stylist won't do it. 
  • [26:46] Put your thumb over the face and tell me what you like about the hair. Usually, it's not about the hair it is about the person's face. 
  • [27:50] Rob does not like scrunchies. 
  • [29:31] Hairstyle with short hair flipping in the back with lots of different layers. 
  • [30:22] In Texas people have big hair. 
  • [30:47] An easy overall flattering look depends on the person themselves. Rob likes medium length hair.  
  • [33:05] As people get older their face elongates. Long hair can make your face look more drawn down. That's when you would cut your hair short. 
  • [33:55] Some of Rob's favorite products and brands. Rob is an Aveda only stylist. Before Aveda he was a Paul Mitchell stylist. Melissa loves Kenra and Drybar Texas T and Southern Belle. Be.  
  • [36:22] Rob loves Bed Head products. 
  • [37:29] Save a few washes and try some dry shampoo. Aveda dry shampoo is not aerosol. Rob went 12 days without washing his hair by using dry shampoo.  
  • [39:45] Lighten round questions for Rob. 
  • [40:24] What is customary for tips. 22% There really isn't a correct amount, but it is always appreciated.  

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May 15, 2018
All The Beautiful Girls
36:06

Sometimes you meet someone who you just know is going to be a good friend. Michelle Briley is one of those people for me. She is a great woman, and someone who I have known and enjoyed while we both have embarked on our spiritual journey. Michelle Briley is the President of The Junior League of Lufkin which is about women building better communities.

Today, we talk about a unique program that Michelle started to help girls establish a solid footing in life and have the self-esteem to grow up to be the great women they were meant to be. Seventh grade can be a tough time for girls, yet that is the age bracket where the foundations of their self-esteem are forged. Through the Girls Rock Academy and the Beautiful Me program girls who are at the most risk are mentored to build the esteem needed to help reach their true potential. The brilliance and kindness of this program just might bring a tear to your eye.

You can find Michelle here:

Girls Rock Academy
Beautiful Me
Junior League of Lufkin
Junior League of Lufkin on Instagram
Junior League of Lufkin on Facebook

Show Notes

  • [02:41] Melissa invited Michelle to church after their kids were playing together. They also did a bible study together. They already had rapport, but they don't remember the first night they met.
  • [04:18] Melissa remembers getting to know Michelle at bible study.
  • [05:19] Melissa used to call after work drinks bible study. One night they also had bible study at a Mexican restaurant. That is where they really shared and opened up.
  • [06:29] Michelle was reserved about sharing in the bible study group.
  • [07:12] What happens in Bible study, stays in Bible study. Eventually, Michelle began to open up.
  • [07:25] Michelle was wanting a more intimate relationship with God, but she really didn't know how.
  • [07:39] She grew up strict Southern Baptist and knew God and knew the Scriptures.
  • [07:58] Michelle decided to open up and work through her issues and improve her personal relationship with God.
  • [08:57] Michelle got to meet the Holy Spirit. She never realized she could have a relationship with Him.
  • [09:56] Live by the nudge or that thing that you feel in your heart that is the Holy Spirit.
  • [10:45] The Bible study class made Michelle feel like she was worthy. She had never thought before that she was good enough.
  • [11:18] She learned that we are God's children, and that he is a king, so we are a king's children.
  • [11:26] Holding onto the thought of being God's child is such a comfort.
  • [12:56] Moving with the power and the authority that the Scripture enables in you is really empowering.
  • [13:34] How in order for Michelle to grow and continue her journey, she had to let some friends go that weren't on the same path as her.
  • [15:30] Michelle was the provisional trainer for the Junior League of Lufkin, Texas. She wanted to do a class project that made a difference.
  • [15:50] She discovered that seventh grade girls were in the process of laying the foundation of their self-esteem. This meant that who they were going to be and what they thought of themselves was determined at that age level.
  • [17:36] How seventh-grade can be tough for most girls. Melissa and Michelle had wonderful parents, but just think of the girls who don't have that.
  • [17:52] 92% of teen girls would like to change something about the way they look. Body weight ranks the highest.
  • [18:26] In order to help girls determine a positive self-worth for the rest of their life Michelle and her team put together a program called Beautiful Me.
  • [18:51] The program was started three years ago to help these seventh grade girls feel good about themselves and their lives.
  • [19:12] These were girls and needed a strong woman in their lives.
  • [19:25] They developed a basic mentor program.
  • [19:55] These girls were taken to a clothing store called Belk and allowed to pick out an outfit of their choice.
  • [20:28] They also treated the girls to a beauty makeover with hairstylist and makeup.
  • [21:01] Then they took them to a women's luncheon to see other women succeed and other women celebrating each other.
  • [21:22] This year, they have an in-school program called Girls Rock Academy.
  • [21:35] It's a structured mentor program where they meet with the girls at least two times a month. They talk about everything from self-esteem, social media to dining table etiquette.
  • [22:31] At the end of the Academy, they participate in Beautiful Me. It's a goal to have this at all the schools.
  • [23:33] The desires and the dreams of these young girls are incredible.
  • [25:45] They have the curriculum, they have laid the foundation, and they know what they are looking for. They could roll out this program at any school.
  • [27:06] This is not an expensive event. You just need to find the connections to make it happen and step out of your comfort zone to help these future women of the world.
  • [27:23] If you find yourself with time to give, don't sit on it. Do something valuable.
  • [28:43] Michelle wants to instill in these girls that it is their hearts that matter.
  • [32:57] The lightning round.
  • [33:56] How Melissa feels better after being around Michelle.

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May 08, 2018
An Ode to Teachers
23:23

Are you a teacher? Do you love a teacher, know a teacher, had a teacher, or have been a teacher before? If so, this podcast is specifically for you. I was a voice teacher for three weeks and found it scary and terrifying and ended up quitting. Teachers are underpaid and under appreciated. Today, I am talking to teachers and those who love teachers. Next week is teacher appreciation week, and I want to talk about the job that every girl at my high school wanted except for me. Today is an ode to teachers. 

You can find Melissa here: 

Podcast Web Page 
Facebook Page 
@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram 
@msmelissaradke on Twitter 

Show Notes 

  • [00:21] How being a teacher is one of the jobs that I would like to do the least. 
  • [00:35] I taught voice lessons for three weeks and woke up with diarrhea every single morning. 
  • [01:13] Today, I am taking an opportunity to speak to teachers directly. 
  • [02:21] Being a teacher is a job of purpose. It's no mistake. There is nothing that God hasn't thought out, and you are a teacher because you are supposed to be. 
  • [03:40] How the Bible says that there are seasons and a time for everything. 
  • [04:35] If you read Ecclesiastes, you will see that you have spent your time teaching and preparing to teach, because it is what you are supposed to be doing. 
  • [08:05] Teachers are about teaching lessons so please don't miss this important lesson. 
  • [08:53] The message of Hebrews 12 verses 1-3 as broke down in The Message Bible.  
  • [11:08] In 2009, we had just moved to Lufkin, Texas. Remy had just started kindergarten.  
  • [11:43] This was a tough year for us, and Remy had to hear a lot of yelling during this year. 
  • [12:17] Remy's teacher was a constant in a pretty unconstant world.  
  • [13:16] How God loves children and will do whatever it takes to make sure that they are surrounded by the constant. 
  • [13:24] Children need to be surrounded by the love during the day, especially, if they are not surrounded by the love at night. 
  • [14:07] You might be the favorite teacher of the town's next mayor. You might be the bright spot in that future surgeon’s day. 
  • [14:30] Teachers have a selfless job, because they have to help these children find their purpose. 
  • [14:49] Ecclesiastes 3 if it were written by a teacher… 
  • [17:50] My lightning round that I wrote for my own self. (My feelings on school.) 
  • [19:39] How to bless your teacher next week during teacher appreciation week. 
  • [20:06] No apples, candles, or homemade potholders. Teachers like to look cute, and they are running out of things to wear. 
  • [20:22] The I am so freaking valuable shirts sale out everywhere I go. Show your teacher how valuable you think they are. 

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May 01, 2018
I'm So Easy To Work For
43:18

About two years ago, I was on staff at a church as a worship pastor. My career took a bit of the turn, and I found myself traveling and speaking and writing a book. Eventually, I had to step down from the position at the church, and it killed me. My new career was exciting, but I realized that I was having trouble keeping up with everything, because I wasn't organized.

About eight months ago, my husband the Attorney General left his job to come on board and help manage me. He realized he couldn't keep me on track or else he would've done it years ago. We realized, we had to find a person that was so organized that they could keep me in line without being too organized and causing me to run away. We found the amazing Erin Cuccio to hire as my Executive Assistant. Today, you get to meet the wonderful Erin.

You can find Erin here:

Beauty for Ashes
Erin Cuccio on LinkedIn

Show Notes

  • [04:11] Erin is excited to be here.
  • [04:52] How podcasts should be in the 30 to 40 minute range, and you can't talk about yourself all the time.
  • [05:20] How Melissa loves having an assistant and it makes her feel so proud.
  • [05:35] How Melissa and Erin connected. Erin's husband started a business in Lufkin. They were looking for a church and found Melissa's church. Erin thought Melissa was hilarious and started following her.
  • [06:41] A few months later, The Red Ribbon Week video came out and Erin's friends were sharing the video.
  • [07:06] Eventually, Erin went through Melissa's online bible study course This Sucks but God Is Good.
  • [07:17] At the end of the course, Erin and David did a live video saying that they wanted to hire an assistant.
  • [08:00] Melissa made a Mother's Day phone call to women who were experiencing some form of loss. When Melissa called, Erin was able to share some of her story and how she followed Melissa in the first place.
  • [09:09] Melissa remembered Erin from the call when Erin decided to apply for the assistant position.
  • [09:44] Melissa and Erin's personalities are very different, but they do get along. Working with Melissa has been a growing experience for Erin.
  • [10:28] Erin said If she was young and single, she would've moved to Nashville and worked in PR and booking for a celebrity. She thinks it's amazing that God has opened that door for her in Lufkin, Texas.
  • [10:55] Erin wasn't nervous about the podcast at all. She used to work in radio. She was a worship pastor. She worked in flower arrangements and a t-shirt company. She is a Renaissance woman.
  • [12:19] Erin has always been independent and ambitious. She started working when she was 16. She worked for TCBY, she was a DJ for a Christian radio station, worked at a Christian bookstore, worked for an electrical contractor, worked in medical records, a real estate agent, a teacher, she ran a home-based flower and t-shirt business, she led worship, and now she works for Melissa.
  • [13:32] This is been one of the first times in Erin's life that she has been able to do one thing.
  • [13:52] Erin doesn't consider herself flighty, she just has somewhat of a gypsy soul.
  • [14:19] Erin is so solid and grounded, she is really well-suited to bring Melissa back down to reality.
  • [15:01] Melissa doesn't do one-on-one really well. Just the thought of it makes her really nervous. Traveling with Erin is really easy.
  • [16:39] After Melissa speaks, Erin brings her chocolate and a Coke.
  • [17:57] How David is very thorough.
  • [18:32] We have a big event coming up May 4th and 5th 2018. It is right here in Lufkin, Texas. The Social Event of the season. It's a Friday night and most of Saturday.
  • [19:29] Women tend to be nurturers by nature. It's important to remind women that they need to nurture themselves.They need time to refresh and refuel.
  • [20:02] Melissa has so much to offer in her message, so to give women a weekend is a wonderful gift and a way to just hang out and talk about things that are important.
  • [20:52] This is the first annual social event of the season. This is a social event for the churched and the unchurched the hopeful and the hopeless.
  • [22:07] This weekend gives you a place to sit at the table. This weekend is going to have value and give women something that will refresh their hearts. There will be fun and laughter and also learning and growing and connecting with other women.
  • [24:44] Dress comfortable, prepare to have a good time, and if you come alone you won't be leaving alone.
  • [25:17] We love community. Erin and I also have one terrible horrible thing in common and that is that we have both lost a child. When you walk through something like this, you better have community.
  • [27:05] How having an online community and bible study has helped teach Erin that it is so important to have a community backing you up.
  • [27:46] Community is the secret to growing and living your best life.
  • [28:48] At women's core, they want to belong.
  • [29:16] This year's theme is called Live Known. It's so easy for us to hide behind things. Become what you truly are by living known. Women want to be seen.
  • [31:09] How identity is a huge crisis that we all struggle with.
  • [32:57] We are going to do heart work and ask ourselves tough questions and answer them.
  • [33:32] There is a sense of empowerment in knowing who you really are.
  • [34:35] We need to stop pushing our desires and passions down. God gave us potential for a reason and Melissa wants to help women find that potential.
  • [37:53] Erin's lightning round questions.
  • [40:12] Erin is one of God's most shockingly we never saw it coming gifts to Melissa and David. Just meeting Erin alone would make going to the event worthwhile.
  • [41:38] How women push themselves down, because they always want other people to feel important. Women need to keep in mind how they feel.

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Apr 24, 2018
Tight Roll This
39:16

Spring is here, and it is time to talk about fashion. I have two lovely guests who are moms and amazing women. They have also opened a boutique clothing store in my hometown of Lufkin, Texas. Nicole Carter and Sarah Levine are the co-owners of Spruce a boutique fashion store. 

On this episode, we talk about what colors are in for the spring season and the  essentials that every woman should have in her wardrobe. We have some fun with fashion don’ts and celebrities that always look put together. We also share our favorite ladies to follow on Instagram. Most important of all, we talk about what really matters which is the woman inside. 

You can find Nicole & Sarah here:

Spruce
Spruce on Facebook 

Show Notes

  • [03:49] Nicole and Sarah are here. After the podcast, they are heading off to a style show. 
  • [04:46] Nicole was a fashion major, and Sarah was a graphic design major. Nicole and Sara met three years ago and became good friends.  
  • [05:24] They went on a three hour trip with their husbands which actually turned into a seven-hour trip. This gave them a lot of time to talk about the details of opening up a boutique clothing store. 
  • [05:41] They have five kids between the two of them and four are girls. 
  • [06:45] They started with a broad idea and then narrowed it down to a clothing store. 
  • [07:36] Spruce pays homage to East Texas and they love to spruce things up.  
  • [08:44] Melissa loves subscription box services and easy ways to shop.  
  • [09:43] The clothing at Spruce is in a range of sizes. 
  • [10:40] Everybody's body is unique. It's hard to find stylish clothes that fit.  
  • [11:36] How Melissa had a friend walk into a boutique store and the woman at the counter actually said I hope you are here for a birthday gift, because we don't have anything in your size. 
  • [11:47] Spruce wants people to come into the store and feel good about themselves. 
  • [12:08] Pastels are a common spring color. Vibrant purple, vibrant yellow, and military green are all popular this year. 
  • [13:02] How denim also seems to be popular this year. Although, it's more of a chambray. 
  • [13:45] Chocolate brown has also worked its way into spring and summer. 
  • [14:01] Go to clothes can be denim tops and bottoms, platform espadrilles, and canteen bags. Also dark denim, light denim, and a summer shoe. Everyone needs a black dress and some good staple jewelry.  
  • [17:22] Spend money on the things that count like a great pair of jeans. Also, a cute necklace can go a long way. 
  • [18:42] Some of the biggest fashion mistakes that women make. Not wearing a good bra. A bra is a foundation garment. It doesn't need to be sexy, it needs to be supportive. 
  • [20:51] The white boot is a fashion no. White summer shoes are okay. 
  • [22:06] It's a no not to wear the appropriate shape wear. 
  • [23:14] Don't have panty lines. Wear something to smooth things out. 
  • [24:20] Famous people who are getting it right. Joanna Gaines is a celebrity who gets it right. She dresses really cute even when she is working. She always looks put together. 
  • [25:52] Margot Robbie and Candice Huffine are two other celebrities that dress and look great.  
  • [26:24] Knowing how to dress your own body is so important. 
  • [26:50] Sarah is inspired by her impeccably dressed 88-year-old grandmother. She also loves how her girlfriends dress. 
  • [27:53] Favorite people to follow on Instagram: Lauren Lefevre wears figure flattering clothes. A girl with curves is always put together. Melissa follows Brighton Keller because of her personality. 
  • [30:57] When you do videos for a living, people notice little things like whether your nails are done or not.  
  • [32:11] Don't miss The Social Event on May 4th and 5th in Lufkin, Texas. The theme is Live Known.  
  • [34:32] The lightning round questions. 

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Apr 17, 2018
MoMster-in-Law
44:47

You are all invited to the social event of the season. It is literally called The Social Event. Join me and a bunch of ladies just like us on May 4th and May 5th in Lufkin, Texas. The theme is Live Known. This is not your mom’s Sunday School retreat.

My best friend in the whole world is on the show. Her name is Karli Soule, and her beautiful daughter Haley is getting married. Today, we are going to talk about spring weddings, letting go, leaning in, the dresses, the food, and the control issues. Along with, what an amazing mother-in-law Karli will actually be.

You can find Melissa here:

Podcast Web Page
Facebook Page
@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram
@msmelissaradke on Twitter

Show Notes

  • [02:35] Spring is wedding season and everywhere you look girls are in bonnets on the side of the freeway looking for that perfect shot.
  • [03:04] There is also a darker side, where the mother of the bride is silently weeping in the bathroom and there are challenges, fights, and disagreements.
  • [03:55] One of my all time best friends is on the show today. Here name is Karli Soule, and I can't wait for her daughter Haley to get married.
  • [04:14] Haley is going to look so beautiful. I can't wait to watch and see how Karli Soule tries to become one of those cool mother-in-laws.
  • [04:58] Today, we are going to talk about spring weddings, letting go, leaning in, the dresses, the food, and the control issues.
  • [05:09] Karli is one of my best friends in the whole wide world.
  • [06:54] Maybe a future episode with Karli and me is going to be about frugality where Karli teaches Melissa to be frugal and Melissa teaches Karli that you only live once.
  • [07:16] Dr. Thunder isn't Dr. Pepper. If Karli brings the drinks, everything will be off brand.
  • [08:08] Karli loves Dollar General.
  • [08:41] Karli and Melissa were both new to East Texas. Melissa asked Karli out for a girls night. Karli showed up wearing jeans a t-shirt and flip-flops. Melissa is dressed up.
  • [11:48] Karli is the type of woman who takes the free t-shirt. Melissa lives her life feast or famine.
  • [15:56] Karli's oldest daughter is Haley. Her second daughter is Abbey, and her youngest is Olivia. Their father and her husband is Jason. They have three talented gorgeous girls.
  • [18:28] Haley is a favorite daughter. Karli had her after finishing college. They got married and turned to Christ after that. Haley saved them.
  • [21:49] For awhile, it was Haley and Karli. It was a special time. They still have a special bond.
  • [24:21] Karli has found a dress. It was difficult, but she found one and feels good about it.
  • [25:57] You are not a Southern Belle if you don't peel of seven layers underneath your dress.
  • [29:13] Wedding aren't cheap even when they have quite a few friends helping out.
  • [30:17] Haley is also very frugal. Weddings are a big deal for a family with three daughters.
  • [31:30] There are a ton of ideas to save money on Pinterest.
  • [32:17] Karli wants to be the type of mother-in-law that knows just because you think it you don't have to say it.
  • [32:56] She wants to love and support without giving unsolicited advice.
  • [33:48] How raising an adult child is so much more different than raising a toddler.
  • [36:02] How there is a shift that will take place when Haley gets married. They will get through it though, and it will also be a celebration.
  • [36:56] How once we get on the other side of change we realize that there are other good things that came from it.
  • [37:15] Karli and her husband are so happy for Philip and Haley. Karli's prayer is that when hard times do come that it'll just catapult them into a deeper relationship with not only each other but also with God.
  • [39:47] Karli is not going to be a MoMster-in-law. She is going to be great.
  • [40:51] You need to trust the Jesus in her.
  • [41:52] The lightning round.

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Apr 10, 2018
This Sucks...But God is Good
34:48

Events in our lives are what shape us and make us who we are. In this episode, I share a heartfelt true story that shook my faith to its core. I begin with an excerpt from my book that is really the story that made me who I am today. I also talk about how this story is the basis for my course This Sucks... But God Is Good.

This story is about my struggles trying to get pregnant and stay pregnant, and one of the sweetest and holiest Christmas mornings that I had ever had. This is the story of an experience that shook my faith to its core, and how David reminded me that our faith is all that we have ever known.

You can find Melissa here:

Podcast Web Page
Facebook Page
@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram
@msmelissaradke on Twitter

Show Notes

  • [01:02] I share an excerpt from my upcoming book that is the story of what made me who I am today.
  • [10:25] When my faith was shaken to its core, and I was ready to be done. David said, "we can't, he's all we've ever known."
  • [11:09] How this podcast episode was originally intended to be about my best friend preparing for her spring wedding.
  • [11:29] A glitch in the original recording, made me realize that I had to share the story that has made me who I am today.
  • [12:05] My children are my Purple Heart. They are the rewards that I got after my war was over.
  • [12:23] This is the story that I want to tell the world. I'm going to tell that story to you today.
  • [13:00] I started writing my story down about a year ago.
  • [13:26] I wrote the story down in the form of a course. Today, somewhere between 1500 and 2000 women have taken my course entitled This Sucks... But God Is Good.
  • [13:50] I had to apologize to my mom for the title, but it came from an article I wrote several years ago where I said that everyone who has suffered from infertility should wear a shirt that says This Sucks... But God Is Good.
  • [14:35] Broken and hurting people are walking around everywhere, and we don't even know it.
  • [15:11] I began to write down the things that I learned through the process of being angry, hating, learning, watching, and needing him.
  • [16:27] What I'm teaching isn't your typical bible study. There are a lot of pop culture references mixed in.
  • [16:47] I'm just a woman like you who wanted a child.
  • [17:20] This course may go down as the craziest thing I've ever done.
  • [17:38] It will be the thing that I'm the most proud of other than raising those kids.
  • [18:13] We talk about bible stories. We talk about how I got pissed off at the “no” I was getting from God.
  • [18:29] We talk about clenching our fists and holding tightly to the things we think we must have.
  • [18:59] You don't get homework every week, instead you get heart work.
  • [19:46] We have many hurting women who took the course. Women whose husbands have left them for someone they thought was a friend.
  • [20:11] We have women who have been hurt in all kinds of ways taking the course.
  • [20:31] We also have women who have done the hurting taking the course.
  • [23:22] Everyone has a story. What is the story you are carrying around? Maybe you have been carrying it around for so long you don't even remember what it was.
  • [23:53] I want to help you get to whatever is at the core of your issue. I want to help you get rid of whatever is poisoning you.
  • [24:29] There is only one person who can do that for you. He did it for me. The problem is sometimes we are angry at him.
  • [25:21] It's time to stop running and stop blaming.
  • [26:00] I have two beautiful healthy children. God never turned his back on me.
  • [27:08] This week, I just have to talk about what was in my heart.
  • [27:43] This is a six week course that you can do in the privacy of your own home, your desk, or wherever you are at. You can do it at your own pace.
  • [31:35] You can be whole. You can be put back together and be better than you were before.

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Apr 03, 2018
Over My Bread Body
45:48

Meridith Baxter is here today. She is my cousin, but she is more like my sister. We have a super fun podcast planned for you entitled Over My Bread Body. Spring is here, and summer is around the corner. All of the stores are moving out the sweatshirts and bringing in the swimsuits. Today, we talk about getting ready for summer and more.

We talk about all of the things that we have tried to get ourselves beach body ready including eight of us in swim skirts doing water aerobics or what we called “swim gym”. We also talk about having confidence with yourself and your body. We stress the importance of not  judging others or yourself. It’s important to be kind to others and be an example to those ladies who are younger than us by being who we needed to be for our younger selves.

Show Notes

  • [04:34] Meridith shares a story about how they attempted water aerobics to become summer ready. It was eight women in their family, and they were all about the same size and they spent three weeks making it their “swim gym”. They also had snacks and drinks.
  • [06:21] Melissa decided to kick it up a notch with boogie boards and pool noodles.
  • [07:10] They had a great time, but they didn't really lose any weight.
  • [08:08] When they were kids after doctor's appointments they would go to Dairy Queen. Comfort food is popular in their family.
  • [11:25] What Meridith dreads the most about summer. The sun in general.
  • [12:15] Melissa doesn't mind the pool, but she doesn't like sleeveless tops.
  • [14:23] Meridith wore her wedding dress to please herself and her husband, she wasn't self-conscious in any way.
  • [14:51] We've tried every trick in Dr. Oz's book of helpful suggestions for losing weight.  We've tried everything from Weight Watchers to putting money in a pot and whoever loses the most weight wins the money.
  • [15:25] Then instead of gift giving for Christmas we decided to do a cookie exchange.
  • [16:24] Melissa did a 3 day juice cleanse and probably spent $32,000.
  • [17:32] When one of us loses a substantial amount of weight it makes the rest of us mad, so we sabotage each other.
  • [20:36] During cheerleader tryouts, Meridith had to wear a different shirt than everyone else because the normal shirt wasn't in her size.
  • [21:26] Meridith's brother married a woman named Kylie who used to only wear bikinis. She wore this one broached bikini out to the pool, and we tried to get out but our swim dresses were so heavy we were stuck in the pool.
  • [22:50] They invited some people from church over for Thanksgiving and they said, "wow, you all can put bacon in anything and make it work."
  • [23:56] Meridith's husband Jake made her a 30 minute workout.
  • [24:43] Melissa is blind with confidence. We have so much fun at the beach or the pool, we don't obsess about it.
  • [25:37] Everybody's in the same boat. Even people who are skinny have body issues. The whole reason for going to the beach or the pool is to enjoy yourself.
  • [26:19] Melissa is confident that neither of the skinny beautiful women who she went to Maui with are as funny as her. They were also women who built other women up.
  • [27:13] Don't go out of your way to spend time with someone who tears someone else down.
  • [28:33] The effect of who you surround yourself with and how it affects your outlook and how you see yourself.
  • [29:20] The power of evaluating yourself and not being hard on other women and not being hard on yourself.
  • [30:03] Be the person that your younger self needed.
  • [30:35] Treat a younger woman like you know she needs to be treated. Think back about how you felt at that time in your life.
  • [31:36] We're all just women trying to figure things out, and we need other positive people around us.
  • [36:21] Meridith uses 100 SPF and covers herself with large hats.
  • [40:45] Lightning round where we find out some cool things about Meridith.
  • [43:47] Perfection doesn't make us happy. Knowing who we are and what we are that's the goal.
  • [45:26] Miracles are all around us, we just get so used to seeing them that we call them ordinary things.

Today, we gave some awesome tips for getting beach body ready. If you would like to hear more of our best ideas take a screenshot of your phone while listening to today's podcast, and share it on social media like Instagram or Facebook and tag me in it with #OrdinaryPeopleOrdinaryThings, and I will send you a rundown of our favorite summer tips, favorite summer drinks, favorite summer swimsuits, and if you're nice my chicken strip recipe.

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Mar 27, 2018
The "F" Word Part Two
40:21

Last week we began discussing the horrible “F” word of forgiveness. My friend and Pastor Jeremy Yancey was on the show. The show became really good, but it was also really long, so we just divided it into two parts. This is the follow-up to last week's show. We dive into the stages of forgiveness and how to free yourself. 

I have heard from so many of you that you needed to hear this teaching from this point of view. You needed to hear this perspective and be reminded that there are some unresolved feelings. Some of you may even have bitterness, unforgiveness, and resentment in your heart. The message resounded with you guys as much as it resounded with me. 

You can find Jeremy here:

Timber Creek Church
936.632.3540
Timber Creek Church Podcast
Timber Creek Church on Facebook
Timber Creek Church on Twitter

Show Notes

  • [02:26] There has been broken trust in Jeremy's life but nothing that he considers horrific. He has seen it with family and friends though. 
  • [03:45] There are certain laws and principles of life that help us understand how to live. 
  • [05:00] Step back and do a personal inventory. It's possible that the issue has grown bigger than it should have. Begin to identify the areas of hurt. Rage and unforgiveness is a process that grows. 
  • [06:46] How I don't care is a protection mechanism, because if you don't care about something it can't hurt you.  
  • [07:39] Absence can build walls. Then you start thinking about something that happened and ruminating about it and it becomes worse. 
  • [08:29] When you escalate things in your mind, you start believing things that aren’t true.  
  • [09:26] You can't really trust your own judgment when you are hurting. You can't trust your own emotions when it comes to forgiveness. 
  • [11:46] A lot of people struggle with unforgiveness, because they try to find the strength within themselves. 
  • [12:11] If you have the humility you can learn from anybody. If you are a Christ follower, you can get strength from Jesus. 
  • [12:58] Find some people in your life that will talk honestly with you and come from a balanced perspective. 
  • [13:36] Try to listen to people who actually want you to get better. 
  • [18:25] Choose how and where you're going to spend your energy. Don't waste it on holding a grudge or trying to get revenge.  
  • [18:42] Spend yourself on releasing. Which is for you. Reconciling which makes things okay but maybe still little delicate. Restoration is where things are whole, and you trust each other again. 
  • [20:53] Preempting best practices like not being easily offended. Understand that conflict is part of life. 
  • [21:45] Understand the level of trust that has been broken. We want to know that we are safe and that we can trust the people we are with. 
  • [23:03] Being easily offended comes down to being vulnerable. 
  • [24:25] Put your hands out in front of you with your palms up and make the tightest fist you can. Hold that fist, then slowly release it. When I walk with clenched fists I miss opportunities for growth and opportunities to hang onto something else. 
  • [27:07] Lean into the pure love of God, and you will receive what you really need. This will lead to a less stressed life and less regrets. 
  • [29:54] Lightning round. Find out how Jeremy really feels about life, science fiction, comfort, strange food choices, road trips, and more. 

What? Your pastor isn’t a Hype Man for a middle aged white woman rapping…  If you haven't met Mama Bear, check her out here with JY in this hilarious parody featuring your very own Melissa Radke and Jeremy Yancey.  

Can't get enough?  We went back and did FOUR more follow ups to that first video, and at least three of them, you don't want to miss!  Click the link to get all five in your inbox! 

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Mar 20, 2018
The "F" Word Part One
41:41

Lead Pastor Jeremy Yancey from the Timber Creek Church is here today to talk about the “F” word. No, not that “F” word. We’re talking about forgiveness. Jeremy is married to one of my best friends, and he is a firm believer that when you go out to dinner it should begin with an appetizer and end with dessert. He is also my go to for all things Netflix and podcast. He is also one of my best friends, and I’ve already had many requests to have him on the show. 

This conversation is so good that we had to divide it up into two parts. I share some stories about how unforgiveness and forgiveness affected my life. Jeremy shares his wisdom about how forgiveness benefits the person who does the forgiving. We also have a fast and furious lightning round session, and share some entertaining and embarrassing moments. 

You can find Jeremy here:

Timber Creek Church
936.632.3540
Timber Creek Church Podcast
Timber Creek Church on Facebook 

Show Notes

  • [04:42] Jeremy and Melissa have a great time together. 
  • [05:36] The reason Melissa wants to talk about forgiveness.  
  • [06:40]  We want to answer true questions that people are looking for answers to. Stress and forgiveness seem to be the top two things that people want to talk about. 
  • [08:22] How so many women struggle with not only not forgiving others but not forgiving themselves. As a pastor, Jeremy sees this all the time. 
  • [09:36] How everybody is dealing with some level of dysfunction. 
  • [10:58] How keeping peace can be dysfunctional because you're not actually communicating about the problem. 
  • [11:28] There needs to be a counterbalance how you do it is the key. 
  • [14:07] It's not super easy to do the hard thing. If you can do the hard thing and make it a discipline in your life, you're going to have a good future. 
  • [14:45] How forgiveness has had to become part of Melissa's life. We have to learn forgiveness so well that we do it daily, and it becomes part of our spiritual life. 
  • [15:38] The three categories of offenses. The irrational. Betrayals of confidence or trust. Horrific injustices. 
  • [20:12] It's up to us to identify the level of offense we're dealing with when it comes to forgiveness. 
  • [20:45] You have to have the right process for forgiving certain types of offenses. 
  • [21:19] Melissa tells the story of when a friend betrayed her, and it literally broke her. 
  • [21:44] She had to bury it. It hurt, and she became eaten up with unforgiveness. 
  • [22:40] Betrayal can be paralyzing. 
  • [23:18] Melissa was browsing books on Amazon and came across Total Forgiveness. She ordered the book and started reading it. The dedication said “for Melissa”. She knew that this was a sign that this book was for her. 
  • [26:56] Not forgiving is like resentment and self torture and walking around with a wound. 
  • [27:09] Forgiveness starts with you and works its way outward. 
  • [27:26] Not forgiving is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. 
  • [29:32] Lightning round questions. 
  • [30:26] Jeremy is an early riser and a night owl. 
  • [30:54] If he calls someone, he would prefer a call back instead of a text. 
  • [33:08] Jeremy can't narrow down when he's been the most mad at Melissa. 
  • [38:04] Jeremy would also rather be ridiculously rich than ridiculously good-looking. 

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Mar 13, 2018
What to Do When He's No Fun and Divorce is Expensive
32:57

David Radke, the Attorney General himself, is my guest today. He is the man behind all of the overdraft fees from our first year of marriage. He is my husband Mr. David Radke. I want you to meet the man who makes sure that I wear pants when recording this podcast. We have been married 23 years and 16 of those have been really awesome.

David and I share part of our story of when we first got together. This story is kind of a cliffhanger, because I'm going to make you attend one of my events to hear the hilarious ending. We also talk about marriage clichés that just aren't true. David talks about the importance of communication and how having a successful marriage is a choice.

You can find Melissa and David here:

Podcast Web Page
Facebook Page
@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram
@msmelissaradke on Twitter

Show Notes

  • [01:34] 25 years ago, David asked Melissa if he could hold her hand.
  • [03:08] The story of how David and Melissa got together. They met in their first year of college. They were in a group that traveled and sang together, and they became best friends.
  • [03:44] Over time, David knew there was something more there.
  • [04:12] The night David decided to tell Melissa that he wanted to be more than friends, his current girlfriend just happened to be out of town.
  • [04:56] The reason Melissa opens a lot of her engagements with this story and why it's an entire chapter in her book is because David's girlfriend or ex-girlfriend was an adorable cheerleader.
  • [05:35] Melissa always wanted to be a cheerleader, but she can't jump.
  • [05:49] When Melissa went back to her dorm room to get ready for her date with David, the former girlfriend and the entire cheerleading squad was waiting for her. They wanted her to either cancel the date or to record it.
  • [06:41] Melissa put a Sony Walkman in her purse and hit record when David came to pick her up.
  • [07:01] Melissa actually got David on tape talking about how amazing his ex-girlfriend cheerleader's car was.
  • [07:38] He kept talking about the car, but Melissa couldn't hit stop on the recorder or else he would know. Then he wined and dined her at Macaroni Grill.
  • [08:39] David was Melissa's best friend but she wasn't thinking about love at that point in her heart. She was actually thinking that she just beat a cheerleader.
  • [09:17] When Melissa got back to her room, the cheerleader ex-girlfriend was sitting there waiting for her.
  • [09:45] The end of the story is actually better than the beginning of the story. But I'm not going to tell it you here. You're going to have to listen to me speak live to hear the ending of the story.
  • [10:28] David is this first guest on the second show because he is such a common reference in Melissa's life.
  • [11:53] David got the nickname the Attorney General after playing a game of Mexican train dominoes with Melissa's family. He started reading the rules to everyone after the game rules were changing during play.
  • [13:54] Melissa's new book is coming out it's called Eat Cake. Be Brave.
  • [16:18] Our marriage is ordinary in the most beautiful sense of the word. How do ordinary marriages stand the test of time?
  • [17:00] How do we keep a marriage a living, breathing, and ever-expanding thing?
  • [17:41] Communication and communicating how you feel for each other on those great days and on those days when things are not so fun.
  • [18:00] It's also important to communicate our expectations. Without me articulating those thoughts to you there is no way for you to know.
  • [18:31] Marriage clichés. Put a jelly bean in a jar for every time you have sex. Never go to bed angry.
  • [19:36] The reality is sometimes you might go to bed angry.
  • [19:54] Marriage counselors can help you work through many things. They helped us off and on over the years.
  • [21:05] Sometimes the most important communication you can have with your spouse is the really really hard stuff.
  • [22:15] Two humans trying to make it work comes with lumps and bumps and bruises.
  • [22:55] Choosing to love each other. I choose to come home to you tonight.
  • [24:55] There isn't one marital problem that we haven't faced.
  • [25:57] The snapshots I have of you David Radke are in my head, and are of you when you are at your most vulnerable.
  • [26:55] I'll never forget the picture of you in my head when you were crying when we were faced with losing a child.
  • [27:37] I also have a snapshot in my head of you in Maui when we were getting our vows renewed.

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Mar 06, 2018
What the Crap Am I Doing Here?
24:32

Melissa explains why she chose the title Ordinary People. Ordinary Things on her very first podcast episode. And why "ordinary" might be one of the most perfect words of all.

Melissa explains why she chose the title Ordinary People. Ordinary Things on her very first podcast episode. And why "ordinary" might be one of the most perfect words of all.

The world is a series of miracles. We’re just so used to seeing them, we call them ordinary things. You are listening to Ordinary People Ordinary Things, and I am your host Melissa Radke, and I am the most ordinariest of them all.

Welcome to episode #1 of the podcast. If you have never heard of me before, you are listening to this episode based on my podcast thumbnail picture. I thank you for that. You know how they say a picture is worth 1000 words? This picture is only worth 31.

I am holding a pillow on my head, because I was asking for something, and my husband was telling me no, and whenever he does that I cover my head and pout. I am a giant child, and you will either come to love me or loathe me. Welcome to the show.

You can find Melissa here:

Podcast Web Page
Facebook Page
@MsMelissaRadke on Instagram
@msmelissaradke on Twitter

Show Notes

  • [01:45] There is no gray area when it comes to me. People either love me or want to have me killed.
  • [02:29] I started making videos on Facebook, about a year ago. My husband suggested I put videos on social media instead of just writing posts.
  • [02:55] When you have a face for radio, putting yourself out there for the mass population is a bit scary.
  • [03:18] One of the first videos I did was called Red Ribbon Week. This is where our school has us dress our kids up every day in order for them to stay off of drugs. I couldn't make sense of this in my head.
  • [04:09] Monday dress like a Minion. Tuesday wear crazy socks and crazy hair. Thursday, we don't want drugs to find us, wear camouflage.
  • [04:28] I was railing about how this didn't make sense and that little video has had about 100 million views, and that was the start of me doing more video and saying more things.
  • [04:43] This video has opened a ton of doors for me on social media platforms.
  • [05:21] I am married to a man I like to call the Attorney General, because no fun can be found in him.
  • [06:38] We have been married for 23 years and 18 of them have been really really awesome. I adore him. We have two children Remi and Rocco.
  • [07:27] I am from a small town in East Texas called Lufkin.
  • [07:57] The Attorney General and I lived in Nashville for about 16 years, but we moved back to Lufkin, my hometown about seven years ago.
  • [08:12] We were in the music business in Nashville. Nashville is awesome, but we wanted to raise our children around family and Texas BBQ.
  • [09:08] I have been a podcast fan for a while now. I'm a mom, and I live in my car. I am always listening to something, and I like how podcasts have a wide spectrum of options.
  • [10:38] I am hooked on Atlanta Monster, but don't turn it on when your kids are in the car.
  • [11:56] I have so many favorite podcasts. If you have a recommendation, feel free to hit me up. I'm always looking for great shows. I'm also so happy to have my own little piece of podcast real estate.
  • [12:06] Do you ever look at the cover of InStyle Magazine and say I really relate to that woman? When you see JLo at the Oscars, do you think to yourself I really get her?
  • [12:45] Unfortunately, I do relate to those what not to wear articles where the woman has the black band across her face.
  • [13:36] Some of the best and most relatable people that I have ever met are ordinary.
  • [14:16] My professor was an ordinary man, but he gave me life-changing advice.
  • [14:55] I set this podcast up, so I can interview ordinary people that are just like you and me.
  • [16:59] When you are sick nothing beats your mom's homemade chicken and dumplings. You know what those are? They are ordinary.
  • [18:22] We are not famous, well-known, or experts in any field. We're just people trying to do the best we can.
  • [18:48] I think you'll find that I'm a lot like you, and that you fit in here.
  • [19:56] The ordinary moments make up the big stuff.
  • [21:02] Melissa shares her last great moment that she remembers. The family pulled up to Ray's Drive In in Melissa's car Big Darla. They ordered cheeseburgers and watched America's Funniest Home Videos on the laptop.
  • [22:55] You don't need perfection. As Brene Brown says, "Joy comes to us in ordinary moments".

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Feb 26, 2018