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Heidi Swapp, mother, entrepreneur and influencer of woman. Teams up with David Kozlowski Licensed marriage and family therapist to bring you a podcast that discusses all topics related to personal and family relationships. This unlikely duo was brought together by the death of Heidi’s son Cory, who passed away by suicide in July of 2015. Heidi and David discuss the most valuable things that have helped her these past couple years, along with questions from her followers that are looking for tools to improve their personal and family relationships. Heidi is not your typical mom and David is not your typical therapist. Their unique combination of comical banter, relatable information and honest expression of personal experiences. Makes this show a must listen for moms and dads needing help but not wanting to fall asleep while listening to another self-help podcast.

Episode Date
#059- "Summer Time"
In this episode, David is flying solo and comes at you with what you should do this summer time with all the hard work you and your kids have done during the school year.
May 22, 2019
#058- "What Language To Use At Home?"
In this episode, David and Heidi discuss the Time Magazine's Mental Health Awareness Magazine and brings up the conversation on what vocabulary to use with those around you.
May 15, 2019
#057- "Mother's Day Service Announcement"
In this epsiode, Heidi and David discuss the Mom guilt that comes with Mother's Day and David gives a unique approach on how to handle it.
May 08, 2019
#056- "Grieving Changes In Life"
In this episode, David and Heidi talk about the stages of grieving in relation to major changes in life and having to pay respects to your former self.
Apr 24, 2019
#055 "Question and Answers 2.0"
In this episode, David and Heidi rapid fire some your questions! They answer questions about how to get a spouse to therapy, what do you do when you don't want your kid to hang out with a certain friend, and more!
Apr 17, 2019
#054- "Statements Vs. Questions 2.0"
In this episode, David and Heidi recap our workshop, Heidi talks about bridging her two worlds, and we go more in-depth on statements vs. questions.
Apr 10, 2019
#053- "To Share or Not to Share?"
In this episode, David and Heidi discuss when its good to share what is stressing you out with your kids and when not to as well as how much is too much.
Apr 04, 2019
#052- "Question and Answer"
In this epsiode, David and Heidi recap our Don't Freak Out Event at Herriman High School and rapid fire questions from how to discipline a depressed child, to vaping, and more. Use discount code WORKSHOP50 for 50 dollars off your workshop order for April 5th and 6th! Expires March 31st!
Mar 27, 2019
#051- "Jumpstart"
In this episode, Heidi and David breakdown what the Jumpstart is and how it can help get your kids going in the morning! Link to our workshop:
Mar 20, 2019
#050- "Parent Teen Partnership/Agreement"
In this episode, David and Heidi breakdown the Parent Teen Partnership/Agreement that has been eluded too multiple times throughout the podcast. They break down the 3 essential parts in the agreement for both the teens and the parents. Link to our workshop: Link to the September episode of Still Trip'n:
Mar 13, 2019
#049- "Self-Shaming"
In this episode, Heidi takes over as David is out of town and talks about self-shaming, what the opposite is, and what her personal expriences have taught her. Our next workshop has been announced! April 5th and 6th as well as May 3rd and 4th!
Mar 06, 2019
#048- "Its Been One Year!"
Its official! We have been doing the podcast for one year! David and Heidi share with you some of crazy things over the past year.
Feb 27, 2019
#047- "How to Instill Confidence in Your Kids"
In this episode, Heidi talks about the emotions she had after telling the story of "Stabbing the Balls" on last week's episode. She may or may not have overthought about it while listening to a murder podcast. We also discuss how you can instill confidence in your kids. While also, diving deep on how where some of your kids greatest insecurities and lack of confidence can come from.
Feb 20, 2019
#046- "Don't Stab The Balls"
In this episode, David and Heidi tell the story of behind the story of "Don't Stab The Balls", talk about David's confession on Studio 5, and do a Q&A at the end of the episode!
Feb 13, 2019
#045- "Don't Freak Out Event Recap/Q & A"
In this epsiode of the podcast, David and Heidi recap the "Don't Freak Out Event" that we put on with 1-800-Contacts and do a full episode answering peoples questions!
Feb 07, 2019
#044- "PSA- Parenting Service Announcement From David"
David takes a moment to give parents a PSA.
Jan 30, 2019
#043- "From Parenting To Partnership"
In this episode, David and Heidi recap how Heidi's crafting conference went after #Hugs4Heidi was launched. David and Heidi also go into a little bit of whats going to be talked about at the 1-800-contacts community event on Jan. 31. Sign up for our workshop at:
Jan 23, 2019
#042- "#Hugs4Heidi"
In this episode, David and Heidi talk about the power of hugs, their event at Bingham, and ask for a little bit of free therapy from the listeners!
Jan 16, 2019
#041- "Year in Review/Building Bridges"
In this episode, David and Heidi discuss what the past calendar year has been like for the both of them and the influence this podcast has had on them. They also discuss building bridges to your goals instead of having a New Years Resolution. Supporter Packs and our next workshop registration are live on our site!
Jan 04, 2019
#040- "Turning Pain Into Purpose"
In this episode, we check in with Heidi to see how her holiday experience had gone and also discuss turning pain into purpose after an unfortunate event in our community.
Dec 28, 2018
#039- "Do Your Kids Know You Love Them?"
In this episode, Heidi goes solo and talks about ways to show kids you love them and allowing them to have the space to try and fit in and figure out who they are.
Dec 19, 2018
The DMs #028- "What To Do When There Is An Absent Parent?"
In this episode of The DMs, David gives suggestions and ideas on how to support your kids when there is an absent parent and how a new parent (step) should fill their new role in the family.
Dec 13, 2018
The DMs #027- "When You Don't Like Who Your Kid Is Dating"
In this episode of The DMs, David and Heidi give you some suggestions and ides on how to handle not liking who your kids are dating especially when you have to see them during the holiday season.
Dec 11, 2018
#038- "The Other Side Of The Coin"
In this episode, David and Heidi give their highs and lows, as well as, talk about how they wish that there was a machine that could allow you to feel what your situation would be like if it were "Healthy and Happy" when you are going through a rough situation.
Dec 06, 2018
#037- "Handling The Holidays"
In this episode, Heidi gives her view on the holiday's, how things have changed the past few years, and gives suggestions on what she would tell someone in her situation. David and Heidi give suggestions on how to handle the holiday season and the changing of traditions.
Dec 01, 2018
The DMs #026- "How To Support My Struggling Adopted Teen?"
In this episode of The DMs, David and Heidi give you some actionable tools to help with your struggling adopted teen. David gives some personal insight as he was adopted and can relate to the situation.
Nov 28, 2018
#036- "How to Have "THE" Talk with Your Kids"
In this episode, Heidi talks about her thoughts on the last podcast Brandon and David did on pornography and the Fight The New Drug Documentary, Brain, Heart, World ( to watch) Heidi and David also discuss how to have THE talk with your kids. Not the Sex talk but the talk about pornography as our kids today are being exposed to pornography first and not the biological sex talk from the world.
Nov 21, 2018
#035- "Pornography 2.0"
In this episode, we talk about Fight The New Drugs mini Docuseries "Brain Heart World", discuss more about pornography, and how pornography can affect people daily. You can watch the film for free for the month of November at Download the Fortify App at You can find more helpful resources at
Nov 15, 2018
The DMs #025- "What Is The Right Amount Of Phone Monitoring For Your Child?"
In this episode of The DMs, David and Heidi talk about and answer the question about how much parenting needs to be done with phones.
Nov 10, 2018
#034- "Villain, Victor, and Victim"
In this episode, David and Heidi recap our workshop from this past weekend, share some insight from Heidi's brother who attended the event and David explains how him working with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) clients had helped him create the Villain, Victor, and Victim which can be used and with your teens.
Nov 07, 2018
The DMs #024- "How To Win Influence Over Your Kids?"
In this episode of The DMs, Heidi and David give you some suggestions and ideas on how to win influence with your kids.
Nov 02, 2018
#033- "Survey Says...."
In this episode, David and Heidi discuss how Dinner with David went, how to influence your kid, and we talk about doing a survey with your family about the likes and dislikes of your family!! Scary thought we know! We ONLY have TWO spots open for our event this Friday and Saturday!! Sign up here!
Oct 31, 2018
The DMs #023- "What To Do When You And Your Spouse Aren't On The Same Page With Parenting?"
In this episode of The DMs, David talks about some ways to help parents get on the same page with parenting styles.
Oct 26, 2018
#032-"Drake, Tupac, and Expiration Dates"
In this episode, David and Heidi talk about the rapper Drake and how Heidi's son showed her the music video for his song "God's Plan" and how it made her emotional. David refers back to Tupac's "Dear Mama" and how you can't take a screen shot and label an artist by one song. They also talk about how relationships have expiration dates and how you have to update those relationships, adjust your expectation, and how when you elevate expectations you have to elevate the relationship. Sign up for our workshop Nov. 2-3: Email us questions at: Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Oct 24, 2018
#031- "Sarcasm"
In this episode, David and Heidi talk about how sarcasm can hurt others and how sarcasm is used inside of the family dynamic. It may be meant for fun but sometimes it isn't used for fun... Sign up for our workshop Nov. 2-3: Sign up for Dinner With David Oct. 25th: Email us questions at: Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Oct 18, 2018
The DMs #022 "What To Do When Your Kid Wants To Quit Something?"
In this episode of the DMs, David gives some suggestions and ideas on what to do when your kid wants to quit and quit piano specifically. He failed to mention but he no longer knows how to play the piano after three years of lessons!
Oct 11, 2018
The DMs #021- "How To Support Your Child When They Are Affected By Suicide/Attempt in Friend Group?"
In this episode of The DMs, David and Heidi tackle the question of "How To Support Your Child When They Are Affected By Suicide/Attempt in Friend Group?" "In this situation you have to take of the hat of mom and dad and being an expert. You have to be the supporter they need in that moment"- David Sign up for our workshop Nov. 2-3: Email us questions at: Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Oct 05, 2018
#030- "Face It, Replace It, and Take Action"
Heidi talks about her son coming home after being gone for two years, gives her opinion on the past two DMs (#19 and #20), and discusses with David another tool of Face it, replace it, and take action. Sign up for our workshop Nov. 2-3: Email us questions at: Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Oct 04, 2018
The DMs #020- "How To Regain Trust With Your Teen After Years Of Questions?
In this episode of the DMs, David dives into some easy suggestions on to regain your teens trust after years of questions even though you have been using STATEMENTS! Rememeber, your teen is secretly rooting for you to be the cool parent! Here is the link to sign up for our workshop Nov 2-3: Email us questions at: Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Sep 28, 2018
The DMs #019- "What To Do When Your Teen Becomes Violent?"
In this episode of The DMs, David discuss with you the steps and options that you have when a teen becomes violent and always to err on the side of safety of the family. Here is the link to sign up for our workshop Nov. 2-3: Email us questions at: Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Sep 26, 2018
#029- "Going From Numb To Feeling/The Gang Is Back!"
David and Heidi are finally both back in town!! They give us a report on how their trips went as well as what they learned. Heidi also discusses what it was like to go from numb to feeling again. Plus we have a special announcement at the end of the episode!
Sep 20, 2018
#028- "Heidi's Fitness Experience"
Heidi talks about her two week Movara Fitness Resort experience, what she has learned and what she is going to be taking away from these past two weeks.
Sep 13, 2018
#027- "Curiosity Motivates The Cat"
In this episode, David goes in depth on how to use curiosity as a tool as well as he talks about his story with Trey and how he first discovered that using curiosity was an asset. As for the title, in previous episodes David has referenced using curiosity as a tool and teens as cats.
Sep 05, 2018
#026- "Where Did Heidi Go?"
In this episode, Heidi gives us an update on where she is at while she faces some personal goals down at Movara Fitness Resort
Sep 02, 2018
#025- "Following Through On Your Kids Safety"
In this episode, David is a one man show and he goes in-depth on how to follow through with your kids safety and how to deal with situations involving but not limited to; bullying, harassment, assault, teachers, schools, coaches, organizations, etc. David also give his personal experiences of him "blowing the whistle" on organizations in his professional career. As well as, the personal situation he is dealing with surrounding his daughter and her former school.
Aug 29, 2018
The DMs #018- "How To Support Your Kids To Have The Best School Year Yet?"
What a timely DM!! In this DM, David and Heidi give some suggestions and ideas on how to support your kids to have the best school year yet! Including the older ones going off to college!
Aug 24, 2018
#024- "Exclamation Point Statements"
In this episode, David opens up and talks about how he handles the emotional stress of his work and what actions he takes to help keep his "Emotional Cardio" up. David and Heidi also dive into the topic of exclamation statements, explain what they are, and how to handle ones you may hear from your children such as, "I hate my life!"
Aug 22, 2018
The DMs #017- "What To Do When Your Kids Stay In Their Room All Day?"
In this episode David and Heidi answer the tough question of, "My child/teen checks the boxes and is a great kid but they stay in their room all day and doesn't like spending time with the family.. Is this normal? What can I do to change this?"
Aug 19, 2018
#023- "The Studio Got Up and Walked Away/The Power of 'Yet'"
After taking a week hiatus we are back in the studio recording! We cannot confirm nor deny if the studio got up and walked away from us or if we just forgot to record.... In this episode, we talk about how our first workshop went and the power of "Yet". The word "Yet" can help us calm our brain, help us not freak out, and open us open to open ended options. The relationship with your kids may not be where you want it to be YET.....
Aug 15, 2018
The DMs #016- "How To Have A Better Relationship with Adult Children?"
In this DM, David and Heidi discuss and give useful tips on how to have a better relationship with your adult children. Here is the link to sign up for our workshop: Email us questions at: Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Aug 04, 2018
#022- "Cyberbullying"
What is cyberbullying exactly? David and Heidi discuss cyberbullying, what it is, what cyber hurting is, what to do if your kid is the one bullying, and what to do when your kid is the one being bullied. Here is the link to sign up for our workshop: Email us questions at: Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Aug 01, 2018
#021- "The Root Of Pornography Addiction"
Pornography has become a multi-billion dollar industry that is very taboo, carries heavy stigmas, and shame. David explains in detail the root of porn addiction and some very powerful info to help people make sense of how it can affect people's lives, relationships, and how people can start to get a hold of this issue. DM us your questions at Follow us on Instagram @Lightthefight
Jul 26, 2018
The DMs #015- "How To Respond To Spouse's Social Media Usage?"
In this episode David and Heidi tackle the question of how to respond to your spouse or anyone using "too much" social media and the best ways to approach the situation. Here is the link to sign up for our workshop: Email us questions at: Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Jul 20, 2018
#020- “Three Years Since”
In this episode, Heidi talks about hownits been three years since the passing of her son Cory. We also discuss what a safe place is and how they effect parenting.
Jul 17, 2018
The DMs #014- "How To Help Teens With The Question, 'What Are You Going To Do With Your Life?'"
In this episode, we get our first DM question from a Teen! Teens are wanting to know how they should handle being asked by adults "What are you going to do with your life now that you are going to be a senior or just graduated?" Not only do we answer that question but we also give adults/parents the tools to better handle this situation for your teen and/or when you talk to other teens. Here is the link to sign up for our workshop: Email us questions at: Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Jul 12, 2018
The DMs #013- "What To Do When Your Parent Doesn't Want To Help The Relationship?"
In this episode of The DMs, David and Heidi discuss ways to help you have a better relationship with a parent that is unwilling to work on the relationship and what expectations you should have. Here is the link to sign up for our workshop: Email us questions at: Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Jul 08, 2018
#019- "Making Ripples"
David and Heidi have a catch up after Heidi’s 2 week trip Downunder. They recap a really cool community connection event that took place in their community in conjunction with Chick-fil-A, and how amazing it was to see people come together. They also announce opening registration for their upcoming LIVE event called “Parenting 2018: Optimizing your influence as a Parent”. Get more info about what you will learn at that event! You can learn more and register at
Jul 05, 2018
The DMs #012- "What Age Is The Right Age For Cell Phones?
In this DM, David answers the tough question of what the right age for a cell phone is. He also gives you tools you can implement right away before your child/teen even asks.
Jun 26, 2018
#018- "David Needs A Therapist"
OH NO!! David needs a therapist?!? Since Heidi is out of the country, David takes this opportunity to tell you the name of the teen podcast, introduce himself, tell his life story, and why he became a therapist.. By the end of it you'll agree, David may need himself a therapist.
Jun 21, 2018
The DMs #011- "How The Highs and Lows Helped my Family"
In this episode, we share the "Wins" of a mom who started using the highs, lows, and who the heck knows with her family! David and Heidi also expand on why the highs, lows, and who the heck knows works and why our brains need those three options.
Jun 19, 2018
#017- "Connection vs. Concern"
In this episode, David and Heidi go more in-depth on the Instagram message from David on the deaths of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain. As well as discussing the current situation of the mental health discussion.
Jun 15, 2018
The DMs #010- "What To Do When Family Is Criticizing Your Parenting?"
David and Heidi breakdown skills and tools to help when family is criticizing your parenting skills.
Jun 11, 2018
#016- "The Oldest Child Relationship"
Finally, David addresses the long awaited topic of “THE OLDEST CHILD”. In this episode, David shares what he has learned in his schooling, as well as his clinical experience about the unique relationship between the Father and his oldest Son, and the Mother and her oldest Daughter. Learn about how critical an optimized relationship is to overcome difficult cycles within families.
Jun 07, 2018
The DMs #009- "What To Do When You Are Having Trust Issues With Your Teen?"
In DM #009, David confesses that this is a topic that he discusses with clients multiple times a week! “How can parents re-trust their teens?” You might be a little surprised to hear David’s advice.
Jun 04, 2018
The DMs #008- "How Do I Help My Teen/Kids With Anxiety?"
David and Heidi get a DM asking on the best way to support teens and kids that are dealing with Anxiety. David gives some suggestions of what you can do to support your teens and kids figuring out what works best for them.
Jun 01, 2018
#015- "From Resisting To Evolving"
Heidi shares her experience speaking at her community’s suicide awareness event, and how she has faced her own “resistance” and is seeking “Evolution” ... she also opens up about her first try at “video journaling”.
May 30, 2018
The DMs #007- "Talking About Cell Phones"
In this 7th DM, David responds to the many questions about cell phones, and how dangerous they are? Instead of debating the dangers, or the addictions of cell phones + social media combo, he talks about how effective our approach is in talking to our kids about this touchy subject! This episode will give you some thoughts on how to discuss it in a more open way with your teens. Social Media Video Link:
May 23, 2018
The DMs #006- "How To Help My Spouse Understand Mental Illness?"
David and Heidi discuss how you can help someone understand the struggles you are going through and the struggles your kids are going through when they can't personally relate. In this episode, David discusses the book, "Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions" by Johann Hari You can purchase that book here:
May 20, 2018
#014- "Mirrors- Staring At A Mirror W/ Cracks Can Make You Look Broken"
This episode was originally filmed as part of a LIVE stream on Instagram and Facebook! David and Heidi discuss the concept of how we influence those around us by ourselves being MIRRORS that others see themselves in. How do we reflect back? How can we create a more positive reflection for those we come in contact with?
May 16, 2018
The DMs #005- "What to do When a Boy Threatens Suicide When Your Daughter Doesn't Like Him?"
In this DM, David and Heidi are asked a very serious question. "What to do When a Boy Threatens Suicide When Your Daughter Doesn't Like Him?" We give three different options on how to handle this situation. You can DM us at @lightthefight on social media, David @DavidKoz, Heidi @HeidiSwapp and you can email us at
May 12, 2018
#013- "Assertive Vulnerability Vs Victim Vulnerability"
Understanding the vital difference between “victim vulnerability” and “assertive vulnerability” is an absolute game changer in building relationships and creating connections. David explains (and demonstrates) the difference between the two types, giving an important clarity that can otherwise be misunderstood. Learn to spot examples of these two opposite approaches in your life, and how to become more ASSERTIVELY vulnerable in all your relationships, including yourself. In this episode, David and Heidi discuss the Books "Extreme Ownership" by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin and "The Way of The Warrior Kid" by Jocko Willink. To purchase Extreme Ownership: To purchase The Way of The Warrior Kid: Follow Light The Fight @lightthefight Heidi Swapp @heidiswapp and David Kozlowski @DavidKoz_
May 09, 2018
#012- "Guilt Vs. Shame 2.0"
David and Heidi dig deeper into the Guilt vs. Shame concept! Specifically, about the power and importance of "Best Friending" yourself...
May 03, 2018
The DMs #004- "How to Encourage My Kid to Be Social in Person Instead of Digital?"
In DM #004, Heidi reads a question from a mom who is concerned about her son’s "video game” to "real friends" ratio! David’s suggestion for approaching this very common issue, might not be what you expect! Would you believe David says “games first”?
May 01, 2018
#011- "Cheerleading"
The natural inclination that we feel as parents is to SAVE our children from things that might cause them HURT and PAIN! In this episode, Heidi remembers some valuable advice that David gave to her in a session they had 3 years ago. This information was hard for Heidi to hear because she felt so hard-wired to protect her son from his own choices. It’s ok to allow our kids to experience the hurt and pain associated with their actions; instead of saving them from it, learn how and what the parent’s role is to support throughout the challenges our kids are facing.
Apr 27, 2018
The DMs #003- "What To Do With Siblings That Fight With Each Other?"
David and Heidi respond to the DM’s! This time they discuss the struggle that happens between siblings! How do you get siblings to connect and communicate? David shares a great suggestion that you can start now to help build relationships in your family.
Apr 23, 2018
#010- "THE AND"
In a world that demands to be defined as one or the other: “yes or no”, “right or wrong”, “true or false”, “up or down”, “good or bad”… Episode 10 discusses a third option.
Apr 19, 2018
#009- "Choosing To Evolve"
Heidi brings a big question to David about helping anyone that is struggling with depression. However, she admits that the conversation doesn't go how she thought it would… and this episode really became an important discussion about how important it is to EVOLVE faster, and with more intention in making and building relationships. Follow us on Instagram @lightthefight Email questions to Be sure to connect with David and Heidi on Instagram @DavidKoz_ and @HeidiSwapp
Apr 10, 2018
The DMs #002- "How Can I Motivate My Once Self-Motivated Child?"
David and Heidi respond to the “DM’s”. This particular question has come in from several people… different situations and scenarios, but the question is very similar: how can I motivate my once self-motivated child? David’s advice goes hand in hand with the discussion from episode 8. Find out how to put your relationships first, and increase your influence as a parent.
Apr 05, 2018
#008- "Less Blow Up Equals More Follow Up"
How can you make sure that your kids know they did something wrong without losing your temper, and getting MAD? Sometimes parents may feel that it’s their responsibility to SHOW kids how upset they are to ensure kids are aware they are in trouble! David teaches: “the more you blow up, the less you follow up”! Find out what that means, and how to build relationships even when you are mad.
Apr 03, 2018
The DMs #001- "What Do We Do When Our Child Doesn't Want To Open Up/Go Back To Therapy?"
We invite your questions, and feedback at “Light the Fight”… The DMs #001 is the first dedicated “DM” episode where David and Heidi read a question that has been submitted, and answer it specifically. In this question, a concerned mom shares that her daughter has faced some difficult times, and is now very disconnected seems unwilling to seek help. She asks what can she do now? This feels like a very common concern from parents who are afraid that they have made parenting mistakes, and wonder what they can do to leave the past where it belongs, and move forward.
Mar 27, 2018
#007- "Check Your Motivations"
In Episode #7, Heidi talks about the importance of recognizing the motivations behind your actions. Understanding why you (as a parent) do what you do, will help you to attach appropriate expectations for their response to your actions. Ultimately, we talk about separating our expectations, and motivations from the way that we show and give love and appreciation for one another. For questions, email us at
Mar 22, 2018
#006- "Know Less So Your Kid Can Learn More"
This episode of “Light the Fight” podcast gets into some secrets of David’s for helping people work through their problems in certain situations. Parents’ instinct is to jump right into problem-solving mode with their kids when they are faced with difficult situations. Find out how to give space and allow connection to foster finding solutions, rather than delivering lectures!
Mar 20, 2018
#005- "Statements vs. Questions"
In Episode 5, David recaps an important TOOL that he taught at the live “First Responder” event last week. This important skill helps parents to create a connection with kids and “RELATE”, in order to initiate productive conversations about important topics, as well as regular day to day interaction. Heidi shares a critical moment that she was able to put this instruction into action, and witness the benefit of using “statements” instead of questioning.
Mar 15, 2018
#004- "The Kryptonite To Depression Is Connection"
David has been telling both kids and adults for years that “connection is the kryptonite for depression” , and this is exactly what he taught to Heidi, her husband and son during their first counseling session. In episode #4, Heidi and David discuss the challenges and importance of creating real connections. Since social media and our virtual relationships aren’t going away anytime soon, what are some ways that we can encourage and foster real-life interaction? It’s imperative for individuals to realize how critical real connections are to our well-being as a humans! By simply having conversations about this concept inside our families, it will create awareness of the need for real connections! Since you can’t work on something you don’t know is a problem, awareness is the first hurdle! Because creating connection requires patience and effort, it won’t come easy…but understanding that can help create appropriate expectations, and a desire to allow them to happen! Oh and remember, you have to ‘go first’.
Mar 08, 2018
#003- "Shame In Motion"
Heidi named this episode “shame in motion” because she shares a personal story about the moment that all of the information that she had been learning about the “Shame Game” crossed over from a theoretical concept, to an actual TOOL for improving an important relationship. David explains how he helped Heidi turn a blow up, into an opportunity for connection to strengthen that relationship! Learn how to adjust your perception of your shame, and view it in a different way… which will create motivation rather than frustration.
Mar 08, 2018
#002- "Guilt vs. Shame"
As a 40-something, mother-of-five … Heidi was surprised to learn that there was a major difference between “guilt” and “shame”. In episode 2, Heidi explains how learning about this distinction was a major light bulb moment, and opened her understanding to not only her kid’s struggles… but also her own. David explains what he calls “the shame game”, and discusses 2 kinds of vulnerability. Learn how to diffuse the power of shame through opening up and talking about it.
Mar 08, 2018
#001- "Introductions"
Welcome to the first episode of the “Light the Fight” podcast! In this first episode, David and Heidi introduce themselves and talk about how and why they met. Since that time, Heidi has been learning more about the mental and emotional challenges that we all face and how they influence our relationships. Heidi has experienced first hand, the worry and fear of having a teen struggling with these challenges, and not knowing how to help. The “Light the Fight” podcast will present topics that parents need to understand in order to “RESPOND” to their kids, instead of “REACT”, and then “INITIATE”. While most of these topics are basic to the understanding and improvement of relationships, we as parents are expected to know this stuff… but have never formally been taught! We start here with an important TOOL for dealing with a child when something has gone wrong: “Be a first RESPONDER, not a first REACTOR”. Follow Heidi on Facebook and Instagram @HeidiSwapp Follow David on Instagram @DavidKoz_
Mar 01, 2018