Divorce University Online

By Tammy R. Ferreira

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Tammy (Child Custody Coach) shares her experience and insights gained from her own divorce and subsequent step family. She also worked alongside her late husband, Attorney Thomas D. Ferreira, for over 15 years as a paralegal and mediator before beginning her child custody coaching practice in 2019. Thomas passed away on May 1, 2023 and Tammy continues to share the wisdom she gained from Thomas through the years as well as her own perspective. Tammy specializes in helping parents who are dealing with co-parents that have high-conflict personality traits such as narcissism, borderline personality disorder and bipolar.

Episode Date
Top 5 Accusations in Child Custody Court
Apr 15, 2026
5 Ways Narcissists Manipulate Children
Apr 07, 2026
Can ChatGPT Solve Your Child Custody Issues?
Mar 11, 2026
Keys to Success with a GAL (Guardian Ad Litem)
Oct 14, 2025
Surviving Custody with a Narcissist
Sep 17, 2025
2 Types of Family Law Attorneys
Aug 26, 2025
#Coldplaygate
Jul 31, 2025
Destroying Your Ex Does Not Win Your Case
Jul 23, 2025
Core Foundations in Child Custody
Jul 16, 2025
Retaliation in Child Custody Court
Jun 12, 2025
Were You the One Doing Everything
May 30, 2025
What You Say V. How You Say It (In Court)
May 07, 2025
Trauma Bond with a Narcissist
Apr 30, 2025
5 Common Legal Traps with a Narcissist
Apr 22, 2025
Exposing the Narcissist's Abuse
Apr 16, 2025
Self Love is Key to Ending Toxic Relationships
Apr 08, 2025
Presenting Your Child Custody Case
Apr 01, 2025
Coercive Control by Narcissists
Mar 26, 2025
Narcissists Want a Rematch
Mar 18, 2025
Court-Ordered Custody Mediation Against a Narcissist
Mar 10, 2025
Narcissists Jumble Your Brain
Feb 27, 2025
When Life Gives You Lemons
Feb 10, 2025
Parenting Plan Blueprint
Feb 01, 2025
Navigating a Broken Court System
Jan 22, 2025
5 Types of Court Hearings in Child Custody
Jan 18, 2025
5 Strategies to Stay Centered with a Narcissist
Jan 10, 2025
5 Red Flags of a Narcissistic Co-Parent
Jan 01, 2025
3 Ways Narcissists Condition You
Dec 24, 2024
5 Common Ways Narcissistic Co-Parents Manipulate
Dec 13, 2024
Change of Circumstances in Child Custody
Dec 03, 2024
7 Strategies to Level Up Your Custody Game
Nov 27, 2024
Does it Help Your Case When the Other Parent Lies
Nov 19, 2024
Fighting a Corrupt Child Custody System
Nov 12, 2024
Child Custody Is Never Fair
Nov 07, 2024
Your Attorney's Agenda in Child Custody
Oct 30, 2024
The Power of Poise
Oct 23, 2024
Pacing When Communicating with a Narcissist
Oct 15, 2024
Should I or Shouldn't I
Oct 10, 2024
When the Narcissist Texts You: The Anxiety and Chaos Inside
Oct 01, 2024
My Ex Is the Problem
Sep 25, 2024
Legal Custody Disagreements
Sep 17, 2024
It Takes A Village
Sep 10, 2024
What Is Your Priority?
Sep 03, 2024
It's the Little Things
Aug 29, 2024
When Your Child Refuses To Go
Aug 22, 2024
How to Feel Certain in Child Custody
Aug 15, 2024
The Enormity of the Tedium
Aug 06, 2024
Determining What Is Important in Child Custody
Aug 02, 2024
The Narcissist is the Key
Jul 27, 2024
Custody is a Marathon, Not a Sprint
Jul 19, 2024
You Are In Charge of Your Child Custody Case
Jul 11, 2024
Trust the Process
Jul 03, 2024
Expectations vs Reality in Child Custody
Jun 27, 2024
Finding a Narcissist's Kryptonite
Jun 18, 2024
What You Say vs What You Do
Jun 11, 2024
The Power of Doing Nothing
Jun 04, 2024
Early Decisions Are the Most Impactful
May 30, 2024
Your Life is a Story
May 23, 2024
When Child Custody Feels Overwhelming
May 14, 2024
Creating Child Custody Magnets
May 08, 2024
It Won't Always Be This Way
Apr 23, 2024
Exchanging the Children
Apr 18, 2024
The Nature of the Narcissist
Apr 10, 2024
3 Tips for Testifying in Your Child Custody Case
Apr 05, 2024
Change of Circumstances in Child Custody
Mar 27, 2024
Do Judges Understand Narcissism?
Mar 20, 2024
False Allegations In Child Custody
Mar 13, 2024
Overthinking In Child Custody
Mar 05, 2024
Narcissists vs. Empaths
Feb 28, 2024
Nesting in Child Custody
Feb 22, 2024
What Toddlers and Narcissists Have In Common
Feb 14, 2024
Why Narcissists Win In Court
Feb 07, 2024
Have I Screwed Up My Case
Jan 30, 2024
The Calm Before the Child Custody Storm
Jan 24, 2024
Breaking Toxic Patterns in Child Custody
Jan 17, 2024
Weathering the Seasons of Child Custody
Jan 10, 2024
Breaking Up With Narcissism
Jan 04, 2024
Does Grey Rocking a Narcissist Really Work?
Dec 20, 2023
Presenting Evidence in Child Custody Court
Dec 14, 2023
3 Tips for Success in Child Custody Court
Dec 05, 2023
What Is Your Biggest Failure?
Nov 28, 2023
Narcissists Never Change
Nov 22, 2023
Reducing Conflict With A Narcissist
Nov 15, 2023
Why Did You Choose A Narcissist?
Nov 08, 2023
When Your Narcissistic Ex Lies In Court
Nov 01, 2023
Understanding Discovery – Interrogatories, Subpoenas, Documents
Oct 24, 2023
An Attorney for the Child in Custody Cases
Oct 18, 2023
Defending Yourself Against Your Co-Parent
Oct 10, 2023
4 Tips for Negotiating With A Narcissist
Oct 03, 2023
Child Custody Trials
Sep 26, 2023
3 Ways to Get More Parenting Time
Sep 20, 2023
Your Co-Parenting Campaign Strategy
Sep 13, 2023
When You Resent Your Co-Parent
Sep 06, 2023
Co-Parenting with a Narcissist is Exhausting
Aug 30, 2023
9 Rules of the Child Custody Game
Aug 23, 2023
You Can't Afford to Screw It Up
Aug 16, 2023
Is Your Co-Parenting Causing Stress For Your Child?
Aug 09, 2023
5 Secrets to Influence Your Judge
Aug 01, 2023
The Struggle is Real in Child Custody
Jul 25, 2023
Trapping the Narcissist in Child Custody
Jul 18, 2023
5 Mistakes that Will Hurt Your Child Custody Case
Jul 11, 2023
Anxiety and Stress in Child Custody
Jul 04, 2023
Getting the Upper Hand in Child Custody
Jun 27, 2023
What is a Child Custody Evaluation
Jun 21, 2023
Child Custody is a Mental Game
Jun 13, 2023
Perspective with Thomas' Ex Wife
Jun 06, 2023
Pulling Your Fat Out of the Fire
May 31, 2023
Grief Is A Process
May 24, 2023
A Love Story
May 17, 2023
The Tragic Ending
May 09, 2023
REPLAY: Are You Ready For Your Court-Sponsored Child Custody Mediation?
May 02, 2023
Appeals
Apr 26, 2023
On a Scale of 1-10, How Jerky Is Your Ex?
Apr 19, 2023
Matching Your Attorney with Your Goals
Apr 12, 2023
Ex Parte/Emergency Child Custody Hearings: To File or Not to File
Apr 04, 2023
Mediation with a High Conflict Ex
Mar 28, 2023
Move Away and Relocation Requests in Child Custody
Mar 22, 2023
Killer Strategies for Custody Motions
Mar 15, 2023
Child Custody: Bonding vs. Discipline
Mar 08, 2023
Happiness: Your Moral Obligation to Your Children
Feb 28, 2023
Co-Parent Communication: Mom vs. Dad
Feb 22, 2023
Are You Addicted to Drama?
Feb 14, 2023
Are You Relying on Your Children for Your Happiness?
Feb 07, 2023
Make a Clean Break
Feb 01, 2023
Parallel Parenting with a High Conflict Ex
Jan 25, 2023
What to Say in Court
Jan 17, 2023
Creating Your Game Plan
Jan 10, 2023
Are You Waiting for Permission?
Jan 03, 2023
REPLAY: Out of the Mouth of Babes
Dec 22, 2022
Is Your Ex Stealing Your Happiness?
Dec 13, 2022
Is It Time to Change Course in Your Custody Case?
Dec 06, 2022
Understanding the Motion/Request for Order Process
Nov 30, 2022
Are You a Perfectionist in Your Child Custody Case?
Nov 22, 2022
Knowledge vs. Wisdom in Child Custody
Nov 15, 2022
Disciplining Your Child Won't Hurt Your Custody Case
Nov 08, 2022
Standing Your Ground in Child Custody Cases
Nov 02, 2022
Start Creating
Oct 25, 2022
Stop Imagining
Oct 18, 2022
Everybody Hates Me
Oct 11, 2022
Every Problem Has a Solution
Oct 04, 2022
Marital Hatred
Sep 27, 2022
The Divorce Storm
Sep 20, 2022
Men vs. Women
Sep 13, 2022
The Humbling Experience of Raising Children
Sep 06, 2022
Nothing Succeeds Like Success
Aug 30, 2022
Who Can Do It? Anyone
Aug 24, 2022
My Child Hates Me
Aug 16, 2022
Happiness Makes You a Better Parent
Aug 09, 2022
Your Hidden Power
Aug 02, 2022
Why Your Children MUST Be in Therapy
Jul 26, 2022
Best Interest of the Child
Jul 19, 2022
Listener Questions Answered
Jul 12, 2022
But…….I'm Right!
Jul 05, 2022
Seashells By The Seashore
Jun 28, 2022
Are You Chasing Sunk Costs?
Jun 21, 2022
Children Caught In The Middle
Jun 15, 2022
Law Of Attraction
Jun 07, 2022
Lighting Your Fire
May 31, 2022
Starving the Beast
May 24, 2022
Child Custody Fears
May 17, 2022
Child Support and Verbal Agreements
May 10, 2022
Your Divorce Song
May 03, 2022
Brevity Is Effective
Apr 26, 2022
Pointless Anger
Apr 19, 2022
Legal Strategy vs. Life Strategy
Apr 12, 2022
Destroying Your Ex
Apr 05, 2022
Child Custody Declarations: Biggest Errors
Mar 29, 2022
5 Easy Steps to a Win-Win
Mar 22, 2022
Don't Drink and Post!
Mar 16, 2022
Therefore What?
Mar 09, 2022
Thinking On Your Feet
Mar 01, 2022
FEAR NOT
Feb 22, 2022
Do Your Actions Match Your Word?
Feb 15, 2022
Why Isn't My Judge Listening?
Feb 09, 2022
How Can I Protect Myself?
Feb 01, 2022
When to Stop Fighting
Jan 25, 2022
No Means No
Jan 18, 2022
Jack of All Trades, Master of None
Jan 11, 2022
Starting Small
Jan 04, 2022
Don't Get Too Close to the Edge
Dec 22, 2021
What Is a Through Line?
Dec 07, 2021
New Beginnings
Nov 30, 2021
What Is A Forensic Expert?
Nov 23, 2021
What Is It Worth?
Nov 16, 2021
Biggest Divorce Mistakes
Nov 10, 2021
Top Ten Divorce Questions
Nov 03, 2021
One More Thing…………
Oct 26, 2021
Affairs – From Each Perspective
Oct 19, 2021
Are You Giving Away Your Power?
Oct 12, 2021
Be A Drama Destroyer
Oct 05, 2021
One is the Loneliest Number
Sep 28, 2021
Raising Self-Reliant Children After Divorce
Sep 21, 2021
Are You Seeking Closure?
Sep 14, 2021
Two Strategies for Winning
Sep 07, 2021
Understanding the Psychology of Divorce
Aug 31, 2021
How to Embrace Your Inner Awesomeness!
Aug 24, 2021
I've Been Served with a Domestic Violence Restraining Order. Now What?
Aug 17, 2021
I'm Self-Represented. How Do I Prepare for a Court Hearing?
Aug 10, 2021
Are You Flexing Your Emotional Muscles?
Aug 03, 2021
How to Win in Mediation
Jul 27, 2021
Presenting Documents to Win in Child Custody Court
Jul 20, 2021
Perjury, Contempt & Enforcement
Jul 13, 2021
Think Like Your Judge to Win in Child Custody Court
Jul 06, 2021
Get Coached Up to Defend Your Domestic Violence Case
Jun 29, 2021
Be Positive in Child Custody Court
Jun 22, 2021
Who Is Responsible for You?
Jun 15, 2021
Is Divorce Worth the Wreckage?
Jun 08, 2021
When to Stop Negotiating
Jun 02, 2021
Parental Alienation
May 25, 2021
Swallowing Your Pride
May 18, 2021
Where Will You Be in 5 Years?
May 11, 2021
Should I Stay or Should I Go?
May 04, 2021
Financial Security After Divorce
Apr 27, 2021
Co-Parenting Chaos
Apr 20, 2021
Self Focus vs. Ex Focus
Apr 13, 2021
It's Only Words
Apr 06, 2021
What Does the Court Want From You?
Mar 30, 2021
This Too Shall Pass
Mar 23, 2021
STEP FIVE: Don't Allow Other People to Knock You Off Track
Mar 16, 2021
STEP FOUR: Regularly Take a Progress Inventory
Mar 09, 2021
STEP THREE: Making the Big Things Your Priority
Mar 02, 2021
STEP TWO: Take the Bull by the Horns
Feb 23, 2021
STEP ONE: Dream Big!
Feb 16, 2021
Five Steps to Getting Off the Divorce Treadmill
Feb 09, 2021
Finding Your Inner Lawyer
Feb 02, 2021
Your Grief is Your Own
Jan 26, 2021
Do I Need a Lawyer or a Divorce Coach?
Jan 19, 2021
Your Emotions Are Your Biggest Enemy in 2021
Jan 12, 2021
Don't Let the Turkeys Get You Down in 2021
Jan 05, 2021
Helping Your Children with Transitions
Dec 29, 2020
Build Your Cocoon
Dec 22, 2020
Level Up Your Parenting
Dec 15, 2020
Don't Wish for Things to Be Easier
Dec 08, 2020
How to Solve Any Divorce Disagreement
Dec 01, 2020
Co-Parenting with a Narcissist!
Nov 24, 2020
Knowledge is Power!
Nov 17, 2020
Stories from the Battlefield!
Nov 10, 2020
What Do You Really Want?
Nov 03, 2020
Easing Kids Into a Parenting Schedule
Oct 27, 2020
Decision Making in Divorce
Oct 20, 2020
Managing Your Ex's View of Your World
Oct 13, 2020
High Conflict and the Dreaded Attribution
Oct 06, 2020
How to Stop the Argument that Never Ends
Sep 29, 2020
Should I Hire an Aggressive Attorney
Sep 22, 2020
Stop Being Afraid!
Sep 15, 2020
Stop the Madness!
Sep 08, 2020
Forging Your Alliance
Sep 01, 2020
Remembering Your Wedding Day
Aug 25, 2020
Leaving an Abusive Spouse
Aug 18, 2020
In Every Divorce, Your Ex Is Your Natural Ally
Aug 11, 2020
Collateral Damage
Aug 04, 2020
Parenting During Coronavirus
Jul 28, 2020
No Pain, No Gain
Jul 21, 2020
Can I Save This Marriage?
Jul 14, 2020
Using Humor to Help You Have Difficult Conversations
Jul 07, 2020
How to Get the Best Result in Divorce Mediation
Jun 30, 2020
When Should I Introduce My Kids to My New Mate?
Jun 23, 2020
7 Tips to Deal with Uncertainty
Jun 16, 2020
Can This Marriage Be Saved?
Jun 09, 2020
Are You Ready For Your Court-Sponsored Child Custody Mediation?
Jun 02, 2020
Difficult Conversations
May 26, 2020
It All Starts With Your Thoughts
May 19, 2020
Co-Parents! Written Communication Is Better
May 12, 2020
Is Litigation Killing You?
May 05, 2020
Do I Need A Divorce Coach?
Apr 28, 2020
The Right of First Refusal
Apr 21, 2020
Moving On From Divorce
Apr 14, 2020
My Kids Are Saying………
Apr 07, 2020
Verbal and Emotional Abuse
Mar 31, 2020
What's Love Got To Do With It?
Mar 24, 2020
Long Distance Parenting
Mar 17, 2020
I Want My Divorce to Be Done, So What's Taking So Long?
Mar 10, 2020
Become A Relationship Ninja
Mar 03, 2020
Overcoming Blaming Others
Feb 25, 2020
Holding On to Hope
Feb 18, 2020
Breaking Up Is Hard to Do
Feb 11, 2020
What Does A Good Marriage Even Look Like?
Feb 04, 2020
FEAR – False Evidence Appearing Real
Jan 28, 2020
Where Do Your Kids Want to Live, and Should You Care?
Jan 21, 2020
BONUS: Out of the Mouth of Babes
Jan 17, 2020
What Is Your Divorce Goal?
Jan 14, 2020
Do You Want to Win Your Case or Feel Heard?
Jan 07, 2020
Co-Parenting Teenagers
Dec 31, 2019
Are You In the Divorce Box or Riding the Wave?
Dec 24, 2019
To Date or Not To Date?
Dec 17, 2019
Digging Holes in the Sand
Dec 10, 2019
Are You a Co-Dependent?
Dec 03, 2019
Are You or Your Attorney Drinking from a Firehose?
Nov 26, 2019
What Is the Court's Agenda in a Divorce?
Nov 19, 2019
How to Defeat Loneliness.
Nov 12, 2019
Is Your Spouse Having a Midlife Crisis?
Nov 05, 2019
What Can We Learn From #Ellen about Kindness?
Oct 29, 2019
How Can I Protect My Kids?
Oct 22, 2019
Help! The Fighting Never Ends!
Oct 15, 2019
What Is Parallel Parenting?
Oct 08, 2019
What Do You Want On Your Tombstone?
Oct 03, 2019
My Ex Is A Liar!
Sep 24, 2019
So, You Think Your Ex Is Crazy?
Sep 17, 2019
Why Am I Losing My Custody Case?
Sep 10, 2019
Pride Goeth Before Destruction
Sep 03, 2019
Feelings – Yours, Mine, and Ours!
Aug 27, 2019
It's All About Control!
Aug 20, 2019
Vindication: The Heart of Post-Divorce Conflict
Aug 13, 2019
No Fault Divorce…….Really?
Aug 06, 2019
Cover Your……..Monkey's Butt!
Jul 30, 2019
Got Parental Alienation?
Jul 23, 2019
Why Won't the Pain Stop?!
Jul 16, 2019
DON'T Behave the Way You Feel!
Jul 09, 2019
REVENGE: We All Want It!
Jul 02, 2019
The Five Stages of Divorce Grief Recovery
Jun 25, 2019
Wisdom from on High – 5 Biblical Quotes to Live By After Divorce or Separation
Jun 18, 2019
One Powerful Idea to Revolutionize Your Co-Parenting Relationship
Jun 11, 2019
Do You Know the ONE Resource That Will Turn the Tables on Your Divorce?
Jun 04, 2019
How can you combat post-divorce grief?
May 28, 2019
How do you handle the religious training of children after divorce?
May 21, 2019
I Am Not a Victim
May 14, 2019
Understanding Attorney Retainers, Fees, and Billing
May 07, 2019
Divorce Court Process Flyover
Apr 30, 2019
What Are Your Divorce Superpowers?
Apr 23, 2019
The Number One Divorce Secret: It Will Be Better Tomorrow,
Apr 16, 2019
Four Weapons That Demolish Post-Separation Negativity
Apr 09, 2019
How to Turn Around a Bad Child Custody Situation
Apr 02, 2019
The Secret to Healthy Post-Divorce Relationships
Mar 26, 2019
Five Resolutions to Transform You After Divorce
Mar 19, 2019
Courts Can't Change Your Ex
Mar 12, 2019
The Shot Heard Round The World
Mar 05, 2019
Step-Parenting
Feb 26, 2019
Communication 201 - Examples of Effective Communication
Feb 19, 2019
Communication A Vital Co-Parenting Skill
Feb 12, 2019
Care and Feeding of Attorneys
Feb 05, 2019
How Much Does All Of This Really Cost?
Jan 29, 2019
Child Custody From The Child's Point of View
Jan 22, 2019
I'm Restrained from seeing My Children, How Can I Get My Kids Back?
Jan 15, 2019
Are Your Emotions Causing You to Lose Your Case?
Jan 08, 2019
Men Are Narcissist, Women Are Borderline
Jan 01, 2019
Help, my spouse is having an affair. What should I do?
Dec 25, 2018
THE TRICK TO BEING NICE WHEN YOU DON'T WANT TO.
Dec 18, 2018
Financial Issues Part 4 - Spousal Support
Dec 11, 2018
Financial Issues Part 3
Dec 04, 2018
Financial Issues Part 2
Nov 27, 2018
Thanksgiving - Family American Style
Nov 22, 2018
Preparing Financial Issues Part One
Nov 20, 2018
Motions Part Two - How to Write a Declaration Supporting Your Motion
Nov 13, 2018
Motions - How to Get Temporary Court Orders, Part One
Nov 06, 2018
The Emotional Aspects of the Divorce versus the Lawsuit
Oct 30, 2018
Avoiding The Battle
Oct 23, 2018
Don't Let your Ex Rent Space in Your Head
Oct 16, 2018
Will Divorce Mediation Work For Me?
Oct 09, 2018
Why Thinking About "Child Custody" Will Hurt Your Case
Oct 02, 2018
You Don't Know What You Don't Know
Sep 25, 2018
Use Your Head—Not Your Heart
Sep 18, 2018
The Key Is You
Sep 17, 2018
About Your Hosts - Thomas & Tammy Ferreira
Sep 12, 2018