Just Say This! How to have sex talks with tweens

By Amy Lang, MA

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Are you dragging your feet about having the sex talks? Do you wish someone would just tell you what to say to your tween (or any age kid) about this important part of life? You are in the right place. I’m Amy Lang, a sex and parent educator, and in my frank (really frank), opinionated, and full of swears advice-column style parenting podcast, I answer real questions from real parents about the talks. I also provide topic-specific scripts so you can sound like a pro. Most episodes are a potluck of questions that run the gamut from abortion to porn and everything in between. They need to know about all of these things by the time they start middle school.* When you have no idea about the best age to start the birds and bees talks; what’s age appropriate; and what to actually SAY to them about sex, it makes the sex talks daunting (to say the least)! When it comes to the sex talks, keeping it sex positive, light and fact based is key to getting them to listen to you and see you as their go-to birds and bees source. Just Say This can help you make this happen. To record a question for me to answer in a later show (even if you think it’s a stupid one) call 206-926-1522.* I love funny sex talk stories, too. So feel free to call those in, too. + IG @BirdsBeesKids + FB @BirdsBeesKids + BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com *Not a thing. **In middle school they talk about everything so it’s better (and safer) for your kid to be super-well informed so that they feel confident and smart as things get really real. Do you remember middle school? Wouldn’t it have been so much better if you had known everything? Or anything?

Episode Date
Librarian needs script for teachers who are complaining about sex ed books and lesbian moms need to buy condoms for their kid and need some pointers -- Episode 199
Apr 24, 2024
How to make all your convos with your kids short and sweet! With Mary Willcox Smith -- Episode 198
Apr 10, 2024
Explaining STIs to kids under 10 -- Episode 197
Apr 03, 2024
Boy masturbating in mom's bedroom; should you buy condoms in front of your kids; and is a body pillow OK for my teen? -- Episode 196
Mar 20, 2024
What does sex positive mean? -- Episode 195
Feb 28, 2024
The Valentines Edition: Telling a 6 year-old they can have a "girlfriend" as long as they get good grades; helping tweens navigate crushes; and are trans kiddo romantic sleepovers damaging? -- Episode 194
Feb 14, 2024
Sugar dating with Casey O'Roarty and Christy Keating -- Episode 193
Jan 17, 2024
Neurodivergent kid struggles with impulse control and gal can't keep her hands out of her pants -- Episode 192
Jan 03, 2024
How to tell adults to respect your kids' body-boundaries -- Episode 191
Dec 20, 2023
Funny sex talk stories from Huff Post part 2 -- Episode 190
Dec 13, 2023
How to talk about C-Sections -- Episode 185
Dec 06, 2023
My two superpowers, Thanksgiving, and talking about Two-Spirit people -- Episode 187
Dec 06, 2023
Funny sex talk stories from Huff Post part 1 -- Episode 189
Dec 06, 2023
4-year-old obsessed with private parts and a funny story about getting caught in the act -- Episode 188
Nov 29, 2023
A fetus isn't a baby and gay marriage doesn't mean people will marry their pets, idiot! -- Episode 186
Nov 15, 2023
Kiddo thinks he isn't horny enough and the connection between sex talk freak out and porn exposure -- Episode 184
Nov 01, 2023
How to talk about kink -- Episode 183
Oct 25, 2023
Talking with neurodiverse kids about masturbation and what to do if your kiddo REALLY doesn't want to talk about sex -- Episode 182
Oct 18, 2023
The top 3 STIs and how to talk about them -- Episode 181
Oct 11, 2023
9-year-old is pushing boundaries with clothes and makeup, how to handle anime with a teen, and a funny sex talk story --Episode 180
Oct 04, 2023
Chirp: When is it okay for someone to have sex? -- Episode 179
Sep 27, 2023
Should younger teens be put on birth control and kid majorly breaks down (and shuts down the talks) after sex ed at school -- Episode 178
Sep 20, 2023
Chirp: How to find your child a therapist if they have been porn exposed -- Episode 177
Sep 13, 2023
Sex is on the table for 15-year-old kid with first girlfriend and kid watching "breast spanking" videos -- Episode 176
Sep 06, 2023
Chirp: What a healthy vagina smells like (usually) -- Episode 175
Aug 30, 2023
Porn exposed kiddo acting out and mom's abuse triggering her. Daughter cries when mom tries to talk to her. -- Episode 174
Aug 23, 2023
Chirp: Emergency Contraception -- Episode 173
Aug 16, 2023
Kid buys tubular masturbation assistant and how to explain teen sister's pregnancy to her 8-year-old sibling -- Episode 172
Aug 09, 2023
Chirp: Midwife -- Episode 171
Aug 02, 2023
Mom overhears gay son say he's going to 'slut his way through high school' and questions from kids with special guest star Rowena from Amazing Me! -- Episode 170
Jul 26, 2023
REPLAY - Chirp: Sixty-nine (how could I resist?) -- Episode 169
Jul 12, 2023
Phubbing and birth control for teens -- Episode 168
Jul 05, 2023
F-you detrans movement; explaining Mx. to a preschooler, and navigating friends' phones -- Episode 167
Jun 28, 2023
REPLAY - How to explain what being a lesbian means -- Episode 166
Jun 21, 2023
REPLAY - Alternatives to porn: The Joy of Sex! The Joy of Gay Sex! The Lesbian Sex Bible! -- Episode 165
Jun 14, 2023
REPLAY - Gay guy and his gal-pal sexually bullied by 10-year-olds. True story. -- Episode 164
Jun 07, 2023
Gay Pride Episode! -- Episode 163
May 31, 2023
Slut -- Episode 162
May 17, 2023
Personal baggage but still needing to do the sex talks. And comments about kids' bodies -- Episode 161
May 03, 2023
Mifepristone and a never-ending period --Episode 160
Apr 19, 2023
Ejaculate Responsibly! And vasectomies --Episode 159
Mar 29, 2023
Guest Star! Questions from kids and more with Rowena from Amazing Me! -- Episode 158
Mar 15, 2023
IVF -- Episode 157
Mar 08, 2023
Ganged by the Ski Patrol and parents on different pages about the talks -- Episode 156
Mar 01, 2023
Guest Star! First Period Pointers with Liz from Raising Flora -- Episode 155
Feb 15, 2023
Our Bodies, Ourselves -- Episode 154
Feb 08, 2023
Guest Star! Emily Cherkin talks about how to get a grip on screen time -- Episode 153
Feb 01, 2023
IUD -- Episode 152
Jan 25, 2023
Abortion and fertility BS; girl wants mom to smell her fingers; boy wants to see mom's privates up close; and a funny about an angry penis -- Episode 151
Jan 18, 2023
Erections -- Episode 150
Jan 11, 2023
How to handle "sexy" dance moves and ending co-sleeping -- Episode 149
Jan 04, 2023
REPLAY: Talks with uninterested 13 year old, consent with doctors, and explaining transitioning friend to a 2 year old -- Episode 148
Dec 28, 2022
Labia -- Episode 147
Dec 21, 2022
How to recognize grooming - TRIGGER ALERT x 1M -- Episode 146
Dec 14, 2022
Semen -- Episode 145
Dec 07, 2022
Explaining 69 to an 8-year-old; penis and banana "joke"; and sperm banking for a 12-year-old -- Episode 144
Nov 30, 2022
Stretch marks -- Episode 143
Nov 23, 2022
Pornisode: Stats; what you need to know today; and a child is porn exposed and addicted -- Episode 142
Nov 16, 2022
Teen sleepovers 101 and penis haver with hand-down-the-pants issue -- Episode 141
Nov 09, 2022
Casual sex
Nov 02, 2022
How to explain adoption -- Episode 139
Oct 26, 2022
How to handle sex talk push-back; explaining a rape scene to a pre-teen and 8-year-olds crushing -- Episode 138
Oct 19, 2022
How to explain sperm donation -- Episode 137
Oct 12, 2022
Want to win a Quickie? Want to help a sister out? -- Episode 136
Oct 05, 2022
How to explain what being a lesbian means -- Episode 135
Sep 28, 2022
F-off 'stranger danger' and porn talk success story!!! -- Episode 134
Sep 21, 2022
How to talk about objectification -- Episode 133
Sep 14, 2022
Why you need monitoring and filtering (again) -- Episode 132
Sep 07, 2022
Kid makes moaning noises that sound like sex (thanks playground buddies) and 6 year-old gal learns about the f-bomb and it ain't quite right -- Episode 131
Aug 31, 2022
Menopause -- Episode 130
Aug 24, 2022
Alternatives to porn: The Joy of Sex! The Joy of Gay Sex! The Lesbian Sex Bible! -- Episode 129
Aug 17, 2022
Sexual fantasies -- Episode 128
Aug 10, 2022
What grooming is and living in dad's penis --Episode 127
Aug 03, 2022
IUD -- Episode 126
Jul 27, 2022
Wonderful words about wanking; sisters need to stop privates game and lil penis-haver is holding it 24/7 --Episode 125
Jul 20, 2022
Vasectomy -- Episode 124
Jul 13, 2022
My abortion story (it's not what you think) -- Episode 123
Jul 06, 2022
Explaining 18 year old cousin's pregnancy; mom is concerned about her kid's fascination with her butt; kiddo shows penis to pal when they ask for a peek; and college kid wants the door closed when his girlfriend is over.
Jun 29, 2022
LGBTQIA -- Episode 121
Jun 15, 2022
Sex and intimacy coach Leah Carey chats about how your sex life can influence your sex talks! --Episode 120
Jun 08, 2022
Fertilization -- Episode 119
Jun 01, 2022
Mom's evolving values and early puberty? -- Episode 118
May 25, 2022
Polyamory -- Episode 117
May 18, 2022
Are sleepovers with kids of different sex orientations okay? Is TikTok empowering girls? And some thoughts on douche bags -- Episode 116
May 11, 2022
Growth spurts -- Episode 115
May 04, 2022
Gay guy and his gal-pal sexually bullied by 10-year-olds. True story. -- Episode 114
Apr 27, 2022
The 'ask first' rule -- Episode 113
Apr 20, 2022
3.5 weird tips for the talks, boy wants to kiss mom on the mouth (all the time) and more questions -- Episode 112
Apr 13, 2022
Sex toys -- Episode 111
Mar 30, 2022
Santa vs. porn, supporting an asexual kid and eight-year-olds and boyfriend/girlfriend play -- Episode 110
Mar 23, 2022
Wet dreams -- Episode 109
Mar 16, 2022
Sex talk tips, wine feedback and funny tale -- Episode 108
Mar 09, 2022
Sexual Bullying -- Episode 107
Mar 02, 2022
The Vulva-Haver Episode! gal with ghastly BO; kid changes their gender and mom is lost; and daughter has body image issues -- Episode 106
Feb 23, 2022
Abstinence -- Episode 105
Feb 16, 2022
Banned sex ed books, how to talk about dating, and is it normal for an 11-year-old boy to not want to talk about sex? -- Episode 104
Feb 09, 2022
Cesarean Section -- Episode 103
Feb 02, 2022
The Penis Party Episode -- Episode 102
Jan 26, 2022
Monitoring and filtering -- Episode 101
Jan 19, 2022
Sex Talk Tips -- Episode 100!
Jan 12, 2022