The EXTRAORDINARY Family Life Podcast

By Greg & Rachel Denning

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Too many parents are trying to SURVIVE family life when -- with a few simple tweaks -- they could THRIVE! Let us show you HOW. Greg and Rachel Denning -- globe-trotting, homeschooling, business building parents of 7 children -- will show you how to BE the man, woman, spouse, and parent you need to be to create the EXTRAORDINARY life of YOUR dreams.

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#193 How to STOP CARING What Other People Think About You

All of us have been ‘conditioned’ by society when it comes to things such as HOW to behave and WHAT to care about.

That’s not necessarily a bad thing. It fact, social conditioning can be very positive. Caring what other people think or how others view us helps us to be law-abiding citizens — which keeps order and civility in communities and nations.

But sometimes, social conditioning can cause us to believe and behave in ways that our detrimental to our own well-being. Social conditioning can limit our own growth and development. 

However, it takes a lot of wisdom and experience to discern what aspects of social conditioning we should disregard and which we should keep. We have to learn how to effectively ‘break the rules’ of society in a way that creates something even better.

This is where greatness happens. But in order for greatness to emerge there has to be times when you literally do NOT give a ‘crap’ what other people think or say about you. Caring TOO MUCH holds you back.

Listen to this episode now to learn how to appropriately STOP CARING about what other people think about you.


This episode is sponsored by The Extraordinary Family Life Formula

Meet LIVE every month with Greg and Rachel to discover powerful tools for creating your extraordinary family life. 

Plus get complete access to all of our past coaching sessions, workshops and courses on everything from marriage, to parenting, mastering money, lifestyle design, and more!

Click the link in the show notes to become a member of The Extraordinary Family Life Formula today and save 50% with the coupon code.

Sep 20, 2022
#192 EVERYTHING In Life Gets Easier & Smoother When You Can COMMUNICATE Better. Here's How to Do It

Can we start with a ‘slap’ in the face? In all sincerity, most of us suck at communicating with other people, especially in our family relationships.

Plus, ‘communication’ seems like such a vague or broad topic. What exactly does it mean? And how do we improve it?

We’re not the experts. And we still struggle communicating in some relationships or situations. We came to our marriage with giant deficits in ‘communication skills’. We both suffered with shyness and were terrified to even talk to people. And when we tried it was superficial or strained.

When we got married we struggled sharing our feelings or discussing sensitive or ‘touchy’ subjects.

But through specific practices — such as growing in awareness, or developing the ability to articulate through writing — we’ve been able to drastically improve our communication skills — ESPECIALLY in the relationships that matter most.

That doesn’t mean they’re perfect. But they are much, much better than they would be otherwise.

In this episode we discuss specific techniques for developing communication skills for important relationships such as marriage and parenting.

We’ll explain how simple processes like writing can help you learn to think which can help you better speak to those you love.

We’ll also discuss why the freedom to ‘be offensive’ and imperfect in your speech can help you discover the truth of what’s happening in your relationships. That’s how the thinking process works.

We need to have grace for one another in order to ‘think out loud’ in our communication with each other.

And we’ll also cover how sharing the same ‘vocabulary’ can drastically increase your ability to connect and how your ability to communicate (or lack thereof) ties into your personal levels of growth and maturity.

Everything in life is so much easier, better, and flows smoother when you can effectively communicate with those closest to you — especially your spouse. So it’s worth every effort to improve your ability to communicate.

Listen to this very useful episode for strategies to radically increasing familial closeness through effective communication.


This episode is sponsored by The Extraordinary Family Life Formula. Discover even more simple tools for better communication, growing in awareness, developing a shared vocabulary, and becoming a better spouse and parent -- plus gain the ability to persuade and influence your family with diplomacy.

Click the link in the show notes to become a member of The Formula today and meet live with Greg and me every month for workshops covering every area of family life.

Sep 13, 2022
#191 The Truth (& Myths) About Overcoming Anxiety & Depression

Many, if not all of us, know of someone — are ARE someone — who has dealt with the devastating effects of anxiety and depression.

Methods for dealing with these issues can be very charged. It’s a subject that’s often difficult to discuss, for a variety of reasons — shame, guilt, anger, frustration, despair.

But they are subjects that NEED to be addressed — least of all because it’s becoming a crisis for youth and adults today. And what those who are struggling need most are advice and strategies that ACTUALLY work — and, as you’ll learn in this episode, more often than not, it does NOT include medication. The research is becoming VERY clear that most people on anti-depressants are still depressed. Medication is simply not the savior many hoped it would be.

The truth is that the greatest limiting factor to overcoming anxiety and depression are your own limiting beliefs and erroneous or outdated conclusions about this topic. What you don’t know — and what you think you know that’s just not true — are hurting you.

After decades of research, studying, and multiple-lifetimes of experience — including our work with thousands of youth and families across five continents — we have come to some very solid conclusions about anxiety and depression — what causes it, how to prevent it, and how to overcome it FOR GOOD.

We guaran-dang-tee that some of what we discuss in this episode will NOT be popular. But it is scientifically, biologically, and psychologically-based and will WORK for the vast majority of people — 97% or more — so it’s worth considering.


This episode is sponsored by the Extraordinary Family Life Formula. Discover simple tools for creating more order, peace, & prosperity in your mind, emotions, finances, & relationships -- plus gain the ability to persuade and influence your family with diplomacy.

Click the link in the show notes to become a member of The Formula today and meet live with Greg and me every month for workshops covering every area of family life.

Sep 06, 2022
#190 Unconditional Love is NOT the Highest Form of Love; Deep, Meaningful Love is CONDITIONAL

Many of us have been taught or grown to believe that unconditional love is the highest of virtues.

And in many ways it makes sense. Loving others — without conditions — seems to be the highest level of love possible, partly because it sometimes seems so unrealistic, especially when it comes to family members.

(It’s even difficult to get clear on exactly what we’re talking about because we only have one word for ‘love’ in English. In Latin there are at least three — Eros, Agape, and Philia).

But as Greg and I have thought about, discussed, and researched it over the years, we’ve come to believe that unconditional love is a lower, shallower type of love that is the foundation for higher, deeper types of love. And those more meaningful types of love are actually conditional. In reality, our closest relationships are — and should be — based on this ‘conditional’ love.

For example, I can have unconditional, accepting love for my neighbor, despite what he does or how he treats me. But I can’t have a deep, meaningful relationship with my husband unless our love is conditional — i.e. we treat each other with respect, loyalty, and fidelity. 

Otherwise, is there any difference between our relationship and the one I have with the neighbor? It is ONLY because of these ‘conditions’ that our marriage relationship exists.

In this episode, we dive into what this ‘conditional’ love actually looks like, and how it works so that it doesn’t become toxic or manipulative — which is the risk if it’s not built on a foundation of unconditional love for self and others.

We explain how spousal, parental, and even God’s love has conditions, and when unconditional love, non-judgment, and tolerance become vices instead of virtues (and can lead to extremes such as school shootings).

Listen to this fascinating episode discussing the pros and cons of unconditional love as well as the depths and levels of love and loving others and how to reach greater heights of love.

This episode is sponsored by the Extraordinary Family Life Formula

Discover simple tools for creating more order, peace, & prosperity in your mind, emotions, finances, & relationships -- plus gain the ability to persuade and influence your family with diplomacy.

Click the link to become a member of The Formula today and meet live with Greg and me every month for workshops covering every area of family life.

Aug 30, 2022
#189 How to Get Stuff Done & Be Productive (Even With a Family)

Getting things done is one of the most critical ingredients for achieving your dreams and goals and building a lasting family legacy.

Yet it’s also one of the hardest things to do because of the natural ebbs, flows, and interruptions of family life.

There are mouths to feed, diapers to change, laundry to fold, meals to prepare, and dishes to wash. How can you even think about taking action toward your big dreams and goals?

Well, that’s what we’re going to dive into in this episode. I’ve spent years reading business management and productivity books and always come away thinking how absolutely unrealistic their advice is for parents with children, especially if you work from home.

But in this episode, I’m going to share with you the strategies I have learned and developed that help us to seriously get stuff done. These are the ‘secrets’ to our success in being able to ‘do it all’ — homeschooling seven kids, traveling the world, creating an Extraordinary marriage, AND building a multi-six-figure location independent business.

Learn how you can become more productive without neglecting the things that matter most — your spouse, children, or household.

This episode is sponsored by my Family Charts & Systems. Learn how to do more with less stress and have more cooperation at home. 

Click this link to learn more about this system.

Aug 23, 2022
#188 Your Current Habits Will Make or Break Your Life Happiness & Success

Greg often says, Tell me your habits and I’ll tell you your future.”

Habits are the MOST important thing to determining the outcomes and happiness of your life.

Habits will make or break your mental, emotional, spiritual, social, physical, family, and financial life.

Where you are right now — and the quality and happiness of your life — is a DIRECT result of the habits you have had to this point.

Where you want to go, who you want to become, and what you want to do, will be the DIRECT result of the habits you cultivate or break today.

And yet, this is something that is not even taught to children, teens, or young adults anytime during their school years. It is something that few adults even understand.

Instead, we’re taught to sacrifice our habits — or to develop bad habits — in the name of grades, tests, or graduation.

This is a major contributing factor to the mental health and obesity crises we’re seeing in the world today.

This is despite the research that shows there is NO correlation between academic success and life happiness and success.

Let’s change that. Listen now to learn what the habits are for a successful life and how to develop and cultivate them intentionally in your own life and that of your children.

This episode is sponsored by Mr. Denning's Habits for a Successful Life online class for teens and young adults. 

Visit and then click the 'HABITS CLASS FOR YOUTH' link.

Aug 16, 2022
#187 Seek an ‘Inner Knowing’ (Insight & Intuition) And ACT On It to Avoid Sabotaging Your Life and Your Family

In our line of work coaching families for the past 20 years, we get an up-close-and-personal look into the lives of many different types of people

It’s a sacred privilege and we learn so much. We often experience a wide range of emotions, from empathy to despair to elation. And not going to lie, sometimes we get fired up or frustrated about the things that people do — or don’t do — especially the things that THEY know they NEED to do

They will receive a clear insight about something they should do or should NOT have done… but then they don’t act on it. This is usually because it’s big, frightening, requires too much work — or all of the above. In this episode, we dive into the long-term consequences of avoiding or ignoring these important moments of clarity. Plus, we'll cover what to do about your fears of the 'unknown'.

If you’ve ever had a very clear moment, thought, or feeling about something you should do, or realized clearly that something you did do was a mistake but didn't know how to fix it, then you don’t want to miss this episode. Because doing so could be sabotaging your future happiness and success. Listen now!

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Aug 09, 2022
#186 How to Build Confidence

"I would like to be more confident but my face turns red if I am embarrassed, nervous, shy, afraid, or just talking with someone. Without that handicap, I know I would be more confident, but unfortunately, I let it stop me all too often.

But I heard that Mr. Denning used to be really shy and his face would turn red anytime people would even ask him a question in class. I'm heading off to college soon and am a bit overwhelmed. I do the same thing, I am generally an introverted person, but I really enjoy talking with people and learning, but I don't want to miss out on that because my face looks like a fire engine."

We answer this question in this episode and share our personal stories about being shy and introverted as children and teens (my face also turned red while talking to people). We discuss how we overcame these challenges and how gaining confidence can help you not only in college but in marriage and as a parent, too.

If you feel that you could use some more confidence in your life then you definitely want to listen to this strategy-filled episode.

This episode is sponsored by our Helping Children to Develop Self-Control Workshop. For even more strategies and ideas on how to help them develop this important attribute consistently and well, visit the link in the show notes to get access to this Workshop now! Use the coupon code ‘self’ to save 50%!

Aug 02, 2022
#185 Helping Children Develop Self-Control (aka The GREATEST Predictor of Future Success)

As a parent, if you knew there was ONE major characteristic which — if developed — would drastically increase your child’s chances of success and happiness, not only now but as an adult… wouldn’t you want to know what it is? 

And wouldn’t you do everything in your power to help your child develop that characteristic?

As parents of seven children, we give a definite ‘Yes!’

We want to know and we want to help them develop it as fully as possible.

Well, researchers have followed a large group of people from childhood into adulthood and they found a common denominator that could predict future success. Children who demonstrated more self-control at age 11 were more likely to be happy, healthy, and successful at age 32.

And the best part is that self-control is a learnable skill. It is a skill that we, as parents, can teach to our children. And it is done in simple ways during interactions on a daily basis.

Listen to this episode to learn simple strategies for helping your children to develop more self-control starting this week!

This episode is sponsored by our Helping Children to Develop Self-Control Workshop. For even more strategies and ideas on how help them develop this important attribute consistently and well, visit the link in the show notes to get access to this Workshop now! Use the coupon code ‘self’ to save 50%!

Jul 26, 2022
#184 Helping Children to Manage Their Emotions (so They Can Live Happier Lives)

Emotions can be big and scary — for both parents and children.

But it is possible to teach — and model — emotional management for your kids.

Emotions are EVERYTHING. Our lives our experienced through emotions, so by default, the quality, quantity, and content of our emotions determine the quality and content of our lives.

We can and should educate our emotions — and teach our children to do the same.


That’s what we’ll cover in this episode. Strategies for dealing with a range of feelings (which are normal), and how to validate and accept them when they arise while working through them so they don’t stay to cause long-term distress or trauma.

Don’t miss this!

This episode is sponsored by our Teaching Children to Manage Their Emotions Workshop. For even more strategies on how to do this consistently and well, visit the link in the show notes to get access to this Workshop now!

Jul 19, 2022
#183 Seeing BEYOND Roe Vs. Wade, Gun Control, & Other 'Surface Tensions'

There is a lot of ‘surface tension’ in the media today -- social and mainstream. Lots of polarity and opposition about intense topics.

And it bothers me. Because it paints the picture that there are only two sides to any issue. And that’s just not true.

We (as individuals and society) have to look beyond the ‘surface tension’ of topics to the underlying problems and underlying causes of those problems.

There is so little we know — we as a society, (and especially ‘we’ as in Greg & Rachel). But we do know that “as the area of your knowledge increases, so too does the perimeter of your ignorance.”

To have more peace in society — and to find more real, lasting solutions — we have to learn to look past what we THINK we know to what we might not know that could be true.

In this episode, we walk through the process of learning to look BEYOND the ’symptoms’ to the root causes of the disease in society that plague us.

We discuss the problems with a ‘symptom management’ based focus on issues — not only political and societal but familial as well.

And we cover some potential solutions that are psychologically, scientifically, and religiously supported.

Don’t miss this potentially controversial episode!

Jun 28, 2022
#182 How to Stop Yelling At Your Kids (Because You're Traumatizing Them)

We get a little serious in this episode -- and Greg sheds a few tears -- because in our work we've seen the trauma caused by yelling parents.

“People are people no matter how small.” Your children are people. And when you yell at them — consistently and in anger — you’re traumatizing them. How dare you treat a precious being in your care with such contempt. Stop it! You’re the adult. Learn to act like it. They deserve your love and respect.

Despite this harsh and straightforward statement, we are actually very empathetic to the stress and overwhelm parents are under. We do know that children can be annoying and can push all your buttons. We know that you’re exhausted, depleted, unsupported, and pulled in every direction.

But ultimately, while yelling might work in the short term, it damages relationships in the long term. Yelling means you’ve reached your ‘wits’ end’, have run out of parenting skills, and don’t have a close enough attachment with the child you’re yelling at.

Listen to this episode to learn how to fix all of that. And learn how to never yell in anger again. Watch how this will drastically change your family culture and parent/child relationships.


This episode is sponsored by our Preventing Problems & Creating Peace Workshop. Learn how to spend more time helping things go right instead of fixing what’s going wrong — and yelling about it.

This workshop will help you understand Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs and how to apply it in your family to have fewer (or NO) tantrums, better behavior, more cooperation, and greater peace.

We’ll also outline the Pyramid of Peace and how to help your kids be self-motivated.

If you would like to have more peace at home — and less yelling — then you need this workshop. Click the link in the show notes for and start today implementing these simple strategies to help more things go right at home.

OR you can also get this Workshop as part of our Become a Better Parent Bundle which also includes our Extraordinary Parent Mentoring Course, Teaching Children to Manage Their Emotions Workshop and The 5 Habits of Successful Families Self-Paced Class. Visit and click the Parenting link in the menu.

Jun 14, 2022
#181 Chores as Child Abuse?! Responses to This & Other Surprising Comments

Have you ever thought of chores as child abuse? I haven’t either. But I shared a post on Instagram about our system for organizing chores and I was shocked at the number of NEGATIVE comments I received from people who believe that giving your children chores is akin to child labor and abuse.

One comment said, “Parents who want to do less [sic] things by dumping it on kids should be ashamed of themselves. Kids do not need to have regular chores in order to learn responsibility and you know it VERY WELL… you aren't teaching, you are USING kids!

Another comment said, “There is plenty wrong and abusive in making children feel they must contribute to the household. Why? Because it's putting undew [sic] pressure on children, pressure that they should not have.”

One more states simply, “Children should not be made to do regular chores.”

And finally, “CHORES FOR KIDS? More like mom and dad don't want to do their household duties!”

This concept wasn’t entirely new to me. I had come across it in some out-of-the-way literature. But I hadn’t ever come across anyone who actually believed it. It seems common sense to most parents that using chores can help their children learn responsibility.

In this episode, we respond to these comments (since responding to them on Instagram was limited by space) and philosophize on chores, and debate both sides of the argument. 

When can doing chores be detrimental to a child? In what circumstances do chores become child abuse or child labor? If parents decide to do chores, what is the best way to go about doing them? How do you teach your children the underlying philosophy or archetypal reasons for doing chores so that they feel self-motivated to do them?

We discuss all of this and much more in this lengthy but entertaining and enlightening discussion.

This episode is sponsored by our Family Charts & Systems. If after listening you decide that chores are important to your family then let us help you get organized and systematized with our complete done-for-you fillable and printable charts.

This bundle also includes family mission statement examples, morning routines, daily schedules, device usage contracts, meal schedules, and much more

Click the link in the show notes for the Family Charts & Systems and start today using simple strategies to create more organization & cooperation, encourage responsibility, and teach life skills.

May 31, 2022
#180 This is What's Contributing to All Your Parenting Problems -- And Will Solve Them When Addressed

When Greg Denning was out on his own as a teenager it wasn’t difficult for him to realize that his life sucked… but he desperately wanted it to be better and different.

Nobody wants to live a sucky life and stay there. But it was so interesting to him to watch people live a sucky life — and stay there. They would keep doing the same things that would produce the same sucky results.

As a 16-year-old he was able — miraculously enough — to look around and say, “Dude, stop doing what you’re doing and you’ll get different results.” It was just easy for him to see as a teen, even though he wasn’t yet able to articulate it into something we live by — “Nothing in my life will get better until I get better.” Greg came to realize — then experience — then teach thousands of people on five continents that when YOU get better, everything else in your life gets better too.

In today’s episode, we are discussing how this applies to parenting. Many parents keep doing things that are producing sucky results and unnecessary pain and suffering in the form of bad behavior, rebellion, tantrums, fighting, yelling, and more.

NONE of this is going to get easier or better until YOU get better as an individual and a parent.

The problems you’re facing as a parent ultimately stem from your own inabilities or lack of skills & awareness. It’s not your fault, but learning to be aware of them is key to changing everything and solving your problems. If you are a parent or know a parent, you don’t want to miss this!

This episode is sponsored by our Best Self Bundle. This bundle of courses gives you all the tools, resources and strategies that you need to reach upward and become your best self — to develop your personality into what you would like it to be instead of accepting what you currently have even if you don’t like it.

Visit and click the link at the top for the Best Self Bundle and start today learning simple strategies you can use right away that will create powerful positive transformations in your personality.

And make sure to check out Greg’s Be The Man podcast and his Be The Man Masterclass. If you are a man — or know one — you need these resources.

May 24, 2022
#179 Travel More? Or Prepare for the Worst? Finding the Middle-Ground Between Risk-Taking and Being Safe & Prepared

You may have seen or heard that we’re planning a move to Portugal — and hoping to travel while making the transition. We received some questions about this:

“We would love to travel more, even long term, but I am getting more hesitant because of predictions about downturns in the economy, warfare, etc. I see a lot of people encouraging self-reliance and preparation at this point in time (ie growing and storing your own food). This seems like it would be hard to do while traveling. I want to protect and provide for my family, but I also see the amazing benefits of traveling as a family. What is your take on these predictions and what does your family do to prepare for potential crises? Should these things be taken into consideration when considering where to travel and when? Things have changed so much in the world in just a couple of years!”

We also had some Instagram followers and podcast listeners asking, “How do you decide where to travel or where to LIVE? And how do you go about getting a visa to do that? And didn’t you want to live in a Chateau in France? What happened to that?”

In this episode, we’re going to discuss travel, living abroad, making decisions about WHERE and HOW to live, being safe and preparing for worst-case scenarios, and why ‘following your heart’ (and what that means) is a key piece to this whole life puzzle.

Life IS risk. If you’re going to be alive there is risk in living. You might as well make the most of the risky life you already have. You have to get ‘boots on the ground’ and touch, feel, and experience YOUR LIFE. Truly Live Your While You’re Alive!

But we’re also not promoting unsafe or stupid behavior. So where is that balance found? How do you find the middle ground between risk-taking and being safe and prepared? That's what we discuss in this episode that you don’t want to miss!

This episode is sponsored by our Trips & Adventures. Travel with us to cool destinations like Jordan, Norway, Egypt or Greece. Past trips include riding dromedaries in the Sahara desert or hiking to Macchu Picchu, or sailing around the Galapagos. We lead trips and retreats for teens, couples, families, and men.

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May 17, 2022
#178 We Know It's Hard But DO WHAT MUST BE DONE! The Obstacle IS the Way

We all have blind spots. We all have things we’re doing (or not doing) that are causing or contributing to our own problems.

In our coaching, we often work with people who keep doing (or not doing) the things that are keeping them miserable and unhappy. If they could just STOP then they could drastically change their life.

Of course, this is easier said than done, otherwise, you would ALREADY have stopped or started the things that need to be done and wouldn’t be suffering from the current challenges you face.

In this episode we dive into specific strategies for DOING what MUST be done -- the things that IF done will change everything — improve your marriage and parenting, help you make more money, or to achieve that big goal or dream that’s been locked away somewhere in your soul.

It can be difficult to make the effort or find the courage to do these things. We acknowledge that doing them is hard and that you might not feel ready to do them.

But the only way you will GET ready IS by doing them. As the Stoics say, The Obstacle IS the Way.

Listen now to this episode to learn how to do what MUST be done before it’s too late for you to make the changes you need to make to have the kind of life you want to have.

This episode is sponsored by our Best Self Bundle. This bundle of courses gives you all the tools, resources, and strategies that you need to reach upward and become your best self — to develop your personality into what you would like it to be instead of accepting what you currently have even if you don’t like it.

Visit and click the link at the top for the Best Self Bundle and start today learning simple strategies you can use right away that will create powerful positive transformations in your personality.

And make sure to check out Greg’s Be The Man podcast and his Be The Man Masterclass. If you are a man — or know one — you need these resources.

May 10, 2022
#177 How Personality Affects Your Marriage & Parenting; Analyzing (& Laughing About) Our Big 5 Personality Test Scores

Understanding YOURSELF and the other human beings around you is one of the trickiest and most complex aspects of life and relationships —

Your personality begins to form from conception, in the womb, and as you grow as a child. You don’t start to become aware of this until much later in life (and some people never gain awareness of who they are and what makes them do the things they do.)

For a long time, Greg and I were not fans of personality tests — until Jordan Peterson’s Big 5 Personality Test. They felt too confining and victimizing, labeling you as a certain color or number. They weren’t holistic. Human beings are more complex than that. This personality test is different and has been peer-reviewed and works across cultures.

Greg and I analyze our personal levels of Agreeableness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Neuroticism, and Openness to Experience. There’s a lot of laughing at ourselves through this process. :D

In this episode, we walk through (and psychoanalyze) our personal results on the Big 5 Personality test — in order to help you understand how these play out in yourself, your relationship, and in your parenting.

We also give a quick answer to a question we received regarding sex and conversation — the cycle of intimacy — after this spouse listened to Episode #174 Marriage Q&A. We address falling in and out of love, major reasons for divorce, and deepening the intimacy in your relationship by making deposits instead of just withdrawals. We also cover why your wife cries and wants to talk while you just listen because she needs a mental and emotional outlet. A woman wants her man to be someone who will listen to her. Without this emotional vulnerability, she will never be able to open up sexually.

Stick by the woman when she ugly cries and she will love you even more. :D

This is a very insightful and informational episode that will give you the vocabulary and words you need to articulate what is happening in your marriage and life.

This episode is sponsored by our Best Self Bundle. This bundle of courses gives you all the tools, resources, and strategies that you need to reach upward and become your best self — to develop your personality into what you would like it to be instead of accepting what you currently have even if you don’t like it.

Visit and click the link at the top for the Best Self Bundle and start today learning simple strategies you can use right away that will create powerful positive transformations in your personality.

And make sure to check out Greg’s Be The Man podcast and his Be The Man Masterclass. If you are a man — or know one — you need these resources.

You can take this personality test at

May 03, 2022
#176 How Frustration, Guilt, & Discontent Guide You to Your Best Self -- Don't Assuage the Pain or 'Accept What Is'. This is Your Soul Calling!

Have you ever had that inner feeling of discontent, frustration, guilt, or dissatisfaction? (I know I have.)

Have you ever thought — what’s the point of setting goals? I’ll just be disappointed.

Or have you ever tried to achieve something — losing weight, earning more money, or improving your marriage — only to finally give up and accept yourself and your circumstances?

In this episode we’re going to dive into why many people feel and think this way — and how ‘accepting things as they are’ can be a good short-term strategy, but it’s a bad long-term plan.

Why? Because you end up living in incongruence and you’ll make yourself miserable -- now and in the future.

There is an inner knowing in your soul — a blueprint of your potential — and as long as you live below what you’re capable of you’ll always feel that something is missing (which you’ll try to assuage or excuse away with eating, scrolling, or Netflix). 

But the only way to find lasting happiness is to accept the call to your highest self and to reach upward.

Listen to this episode as we discuss how to live in more congruence and thereby live a happier, more fulfilling, and satisfying life.

Please excuse the audio quality in this episode. The original audio recorded with our microphones was lost and we had to use the audio from the video recording.

This episode is sponsored by our Best Self Bundle. This bundle of courses gives you all the tools, resources, and strategies that you need to reach upward and live in congruence — in fact, they’re the exact tools we have used to create our own extraordinary, expanding life.

Visit and click the link at the top for the Best Self Bundle and start today learning simple strategies you can use right away that will create powerful positive transformations in your family life.

Apr 26, 2022
#175 Q&A Sneaky Teens, Forbidden Apps, Pornography, Masturbation, Device Usage, Teen Sex and More! Oh My.

We received some great questions about parenting that we’re addressing today.

We love it receiving questions so if you have one please don’t hesitate to ask us. You can leave a voice message for us on our podcast page, or you can email us

The first question is about teen device usage and sneaky behavior.

We are having an issue with our son's cell phone usage…We limit it and have always made him turn in his cellphone at night to promote good, healthy habits.  I just discovered that he has been hiding an old cracked cell phone that he has been using at night.  He also has apps such as TikTok and Snapchat that we do not allow.  I know that the phones and apps are made to be addicting.  I just don't know how to approach this issue.  I will be turning off the wifi night now but how do you deal with the sneaking second phones and apps?  It indicates to me that he may be addicted to these apps and his phone.  I am curious if you have encountered this before.  It is very concerning to us and I would value your input and opinion.

The second question is also very relevant with long-term consequences.

I’d like to request for you and your husband to talk about the sex drive in teenage boys specifically. As a parent how do you guide them so they can handle their “urges” in a healthy manner? How do you educate them so they don’t fall pray with the use of pornography? What are the best ways to support them instead of shaming for having these normal desires? Our society is so full of trashy messages about sex, masturbation, pornography, etc., that I honestly worry about the future of these young men!

If you have kids, make sure you listen to this very important episode!

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Apr 19, 2022
#174 Marriage Q&A: Intellectual Conversations, Over-Helping, & Why This Famous Sexpert is WRONG

We regularly receive questions from parents and spouses on all sorts of topics — and we love it! If you have a question please don’t hesitate to ask us. You can leave a voice message for us on our podcast page, or you can email us

Recently we received some questions about marriage — specifically how to have more engaging conversations and intellectual connections with your spouse as opposed to discussing the mundane life logistics all the time?

Along those lines, how do you ‘accept’ your spouse for where they are on their growth journey — while still encouraging and helping them to do better, to make an effort, and to be interested and interesting?

Connected to this — which we explain in this episode — is how to make more time for sexual connection, especially when you’re trying to go to bed early so you can start your day with a morning routine? And how do we (Greg and I) make time for sex multiple times per week?!

We also get fired up about how a well-known sexpert is just WRONG about sex and how it IS a need -- for men (and women) and marriage in general.

Finally, we answer a question about how to help a spouse who’s lost a job — without OVER helping so you become a nuisance and they feel disrespected or demoralized.

You won’t want to miss this great Q&A session!

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And you can’t blame your spouse because you don’t have a better marriage. The responsibility lies in your hands — and it’s within your power. It only takes ONE person to make a marriage better.

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Apr 12, 2022
#173 Beauty, Art, Changing World Order, & Jordan Peterson Live

Greg and I are always fascinated by ideas, the search for truth, intellectual discussion, and meaningful connection. As intentionally as we have designed our lifestyle, it’s still rare for us to have all of those things in one evening. But we got the chance last week when we drove to Birmingham, AL to listen to Jordan Peterson present a live lecture at the Alabama Theater.

He discussed a chapter from his new book, Beyond Order: 12 More Rules for Life about the importance of beauty and art. In this episode, Greg and I share our own journey of discovering beauty during our journey from overlanding hippies living in our truck with five kids, to moving to Germany where we encountered the enduring art and beauty of castles and cathedrals and how that changed us.

In a special VIP session after the lecture, Peterson answered some questions about the current state of the world and what his thoughts are about what society might be facing. Greg and I unpack this and share some of our own thoughts about the Fourth Turning and the Changing World Order.

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Apr 02, 2022
#172 The Foundations for Magic & Serendipity -- Our Portugal Trip Report

Greg and I just returned from an incredible trip to Portugal to celebrate our 21st anniversary and we’re excited to record an episode about it. We’re going to share all the romance, magic, and serendipity we experienced that surprised even us.

It’s difficult for us to put in words the super special experience we shared together during this trip. But we’re going to unpack it for you, explain the key ingredients that made it so meaningful, and outline some foundational principles for creating more magic and serendipity in your own life.

You don’t want to miss the romance and magic of this special episode!

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Mar 24, 2022
#171 Force Your Kids to Finish? Or Let Them Quit? Our Surprising Answer

Welcome to the podcast! We’re discussing something today that is crucially important to raising healthy, well-adjusted kids.

We want to teach them to NOT be quitters, to follow through, and to have grit and perseverance.

But in this episode, we lay out some arguments which show that the way many parents are trying to accomplish this is actually having the opposite effect.

When we make a six-year-old take dance class even though she hates it but we don’t want her to be a ‘quitter’, what we’re actually doing is engendering resentment — and she’s not actually learning the lesson we’re trying to teach.

Don’t worry! We’ve got some specific strategies for getting those outcomes you want. But you might be surprised that they’re not what you expected. Listen now to learn what they are.

If you haven’t already, make sure to get our Must-Read Book Recommendations for creating an Extraordinary Family Life. We have books on parenting, marriage, health, finances, and lifestyle design. Plus get a free ebook that will change your life — The Majesty of Calmness.

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Mar 01, 2022
#170 How to Wake Up and Overcome Sleep Depression/Inertia -- Better Mornings Equals a Better Life

Hey everyone. We hope you’re having a great week. I know Greg and I are excited to have some sunshine and warmer weather after two cloudy and cold weeks.

Today we’re discussing something which — at first glance — seems overly simplistic. We’re talking about HOW to wake up.

And yet, waking up is something every one of us does and we do it every single day of our life. There’s an incredible power that comes when we can learn to do BETTER the things we do consistently. One of those things is waking up.

There are specific ways to be more intentional about waking up each morning. And when you learn how to control and your direct your mornings, it provides a lot of power for controlling and directing your life. Helping your mornings to go better helps your life to go better.

Listen to this episode now to learn the strategies we’ve been using for the past 20 years to design our mornings — which then led to designing our life.

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Feb 22, 2022
#169 How to Make the Mundane Parts of Day-to-Day Life More Meaningful

Today we are diving into a detailed look at what living an ‘extraordinary’ life looks like on the day-to-day. The majority of your life — and ours — is spent in daily activities that can be mundane. Dishes, laundry, errands. 

Even with a travel lifestyle like ours, we spend most of our time sitting in a vehicle on a road trip or waiting in an airport. How do you make the ordinary, routine, ‘boring’ daily interactions more meaningful and purpose-filled?

We’ll share specific strategies that we’ve used for over a decade to turn the transactional into transformational.

If you’ve ever felt that life is like the movie ‘Groundhog Day’ then you definitely want to listen to this episode so you can learn how to get unstuck and make the daily interactions you’re ALREADY having with your spouse and children special, memorable, and magical.

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When the tide comes it, it lifts all the boats in the harbor.

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Feb 08, 2022
#168 What to Do When People Oppose Your Lifestyle Choices

Welcome to the podcast! In this episode Greg and I are answering a question about clashing cultures — what to do when the status quo conflicts with your unconventional lifestyle choices — especially if the clash is happening in your own family.

It’s not uncommon for someone like you to try to do life differently and then to get ‘thrown under the bus’ by the naysayers and ‘reality checkers’.

Maybe you want to homeschool, travel with your family, eat a different way than you were raised, or to take a different path in college or career than the generation before you.

How do you handle the unavoidable conflict that arises from your unconventional choices?

Is it best to create healthy distance and accept these differences? Or is there a way to create agreement and harmony despite diametrically opposed viewpoints?

Listen now to hear the answer!

This episode is sponsored by our Be Your Best Self Bundle.

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YOU are the foundation of your family. You have to be strong to carry the load of responsibility.

The 'BEST SELF' Bundle will lighten the burden with tools that help you DO and BE more with less stress and more confidence.

Greg loves to teach that ‘A Rising Tide Lifts ALL Boats’

When the tide comes it, it lifts all the boats in the harbor.

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Jan 25, 2022
#167 How to Get Your Spouse on Board -- Plus Why Your Marriage Needs a 'Breaking Point'

Welcome back to the podcast! In this episode Greg and I are answering some often asked questions about how to get your spouse on board.

This could be getting them on board with your big dreams and goals, or simply on board with the process of growing and improving. There’s nothing worse than starting to learn, grow, and develop as a person but then to feel that your spouse is getting left behind or, even worse, creating their own self-sabotage.

One question we received said,

As I’ve focused hard on self-improvement over the last 18 months, and not seen my wife doing much to try to improve with me, it has been hard not to judge her and become frustrated with her.

That has been especially true with our parenting. It’s extremely painful to observe her parenting and I’m trying to think of what might be affecting her parenting negatively.”

We’ll discuss several approaches than can be used to help make tricky situations like this one easier. 

We’ll also explain what a ‘breaking point’ is and why every marriage needs to face one — or several of them.

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Many of us believe that if our spouse would change then your marriage would be better. But the truth is you can’t wait around for you spouse to change. It is within your power to improve your marriage — even if your spouse won’t change.

That’s the good news — it only takes ONE person to ‘be the tide’ and make a difference in your marriage. And that person is YOU.

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Jan 18, 2022
#166 The Size of Your Dreams MUST Exceed Your Current Capacity to Achieve Them

In this episode, Greg and I talk about one of our favorite topics — dreaming BIG and setting (and achieving) BIG goals.

Greg has said that 

“The size of your dreams must always exceed your current capacity to achieve them.”

We discuss dreaming, why it’s so important, and why (and HOW) to dream BIG and become the person who can fulfill those dreams.

We show you how to take the lessons you learned in the last year and start with a fresh canvas to make this year your best year yet.

We also discuss why your obstacles are your opportunities and how to learn to see them as stepping stones to creating your dream life.

You have to stop approaching life in a haphazard way and instead learn how to be strategic and intentional to create the family life of your dreams.

And finally, we talk about making progress on the things you want to make progress in so you can start loving the life you’re living.

This episode is sponsored by our Extraordinary Life Planner.

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We’ve outlined the process we’ve used into a Planner which will walk you through step-by-step how to turn your own dreams — no matter what they are — into reality by taking small, consistent actions on a daily basis.

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Jan 11, 2022
#165 Exposing Your Kids to the Dark Side -- WHY and HOW

Welcome to this episode where we will be discussing a sensitive and sometimes frightening topic to many parents — and that’s WHY and HOW to expose your children to the darkness in order to help them be stronger and more prepared to face and fight evil and malice in the world (which does exist, in case you’re like I used to be and naively thought there are no ‘bad people’ in the world or that bad things don’t happen to me or my family.

We’ll also touch on the Law of Attraction or Expectation and how that works into our encounters with evil -- as well as why allowing your children to choose the music and movies they listen to or watch can be a helpful place to start discussions that should be taking place regularly if you want to help your kids develop resilience.

This episode is sponsored by Mr. Denning’s Habits for a Successful Life — a live, online class for teenagers.

After studying personal development for 20 years, we looked far and wide for a class that would teach our teenagers something MORE important than academics — namely HOW to practice self-leadership and manage their minds, emotions, and habits in order to create a happy and fulfilled life.

When we couldn’t find what we were looking for we decided to create it ourselves and offer it to other amazing families.

Teens absolutely LOVE this class and all of Mr. Denning’s stories from his travels to 48 countries. The most recent 5-star review left this week by a teenager says:

“This class was AMAZING! It has helped me get a new perspective and motivated me to shape my life into how I want it to turn out. I loved every minute of it, and I wholeheartedly recommend others try it as well!”

If you have teenagers — or know someone who does — please share this class with them. 

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Dec 28, 2021
#164 Teen Mental Health Strategies That WORK! Pattern Interrupts & State Changes

In this episode, we’re discussing teen mental health and strategies for helping them not only overcome mental health challenges but to learn to thrive despite their difficult circumstances. We’re empathetic to the real struggles and suffering that parents and youth are dealing with and want to provide hope in this episode.

Through personal experience, as well as from working with thousands of youth, and doing decades of research, we’ve discovered what actually works to help teens deal with the challenges they face.

We know that not every situation is black and white with clear-cut answers or solutions but this episode will provide some puzzle pieces that may fit perfectly for your unique situation.

Please use what you can and share it with others who may need to hear this message.

This episode is sponsored by Mr. Denning’s Habits for a Successful Life — a live, online class for teenagers.

After studying personal development for 20 years, we looked far and wide for a class that would teach our teenagers something MORE important than academics — namely HOW to practice self-leadership and manage their minds, emotions, and habits in order to create a happy and fulfilled life.

When we couldn’t find what we were looking for we decided to create it ourselves and offer it to other amazing families.

Teens absolutely LOVE this class and all of Mr. Denning’s stories from his travels to 48 countries. 

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Dec 21, 2021
#163 The Failure to Launch Epidemic and How to Prevent It In YOUR Children & Teens

In this episode, we’re talking about Failure to Launch syndrome — a significant growing phenomenon among young adults who are not successfully making the transition to adulthood.

Its symptoms include young adults who continue to live at home or to be supported by their parents, YA who don’t contribute financially to their own living expenses and begin to withdraw from the world and society.

Failure to launch — known as Peter Pan syndrome in the U.S. -- can take the form of unrealistic (or NO) goals, blaming others for their situation, narcissism, a lack of motivation to change, low levels of persistence, high expectations without reciprocation, lack of basic adult skills, and no ‘liftoff’ into adult responsibilities — among other things.

In the extreme, it can lead to the proverbial 30-year-old living in the basement and can be accompanied by anxiety, depression, and sometimes suicide.

In this episode, Greg and I discuss the contributing factors to failure to launch plus strategies to avoid it. Whether you have toddlers or teens (or are one yourself), you NEED to listen to this!

But first — this episode is sponsored by Habits for a Successful Life — a live, online class for teenagers.

After studying personal development for 20 years, we looked far and wide for a class that would teach our teenagers something MORE important than academics — namely HOW to practice self-leadership and manage their minds, emotions, and habits in order to create a happy and fulfilled life.

When we couldn’t find what we were looking for we decided to create it ourselves and offer it to other amazing families.

Teens absolutely LOVE this class and all of Mr. Denning’s stories from his travels to 48 countries. They say things like:

"This class changed my life! I have much better personal habits and I feel like I was given the keys to having a totally epic future. Mr. Denning is great at pushing us out of our comfort zones, while still being encouraging and supportive. Five stars are not enought to sum up how amazing and life-changing this class truly is!"

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Dec 14, 2021
#162 'Entertainment Overrun' is Creating a Painful Gap Between Here and the Life of Your Dreams

We often receive emails from parents or spouses asking questions -- we love it. (Email us your questions at support @

This email asked us:

“How can our family create balance and not feel guilty for doing things we enjoy (Netflix, video games, etc.) that aren’t necessarily productive (toward achieving our goals)?”

Great question!

We've also experienced the 'gap' between the reality of where we are and where we want to go/be (our BIG dream or goal).

Sometimes that gap is painful.

And it often requires that we sacrifice, give up, or exchange some of what we're doing now in order to achieve what we really want to have. We call this The Exchange Rate.

But where there's pain there's power.

And you can use that power to transform your life.

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Dec 07, 2021
#161 Question Everything -- Including C*vid -- Take Responsibility, And Get Healthy!

Under duress, Greg agreed to do ANOTHER podcast touching on issues around C*vid -- but only because someone was confused about our 'statement' and position during the last one. They also believed there were some holes in our arguments. We address those in this episode.

We also encourage you to take 100% responsibility for your health, your life, your family, and your circle of influence. 

Stop wasting your energy on trying to get others to understand, agree, or conform and put it back into making the most of yourself.

Stop hacking at the branches and start getting to the root of the problems.

Listen now to see how.

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Nov 30, 2021
#160 "You're Good Enough the Way You Are" Isn't the WHOLE Truth

It IS true that 'you are good enough the way you are'.

You are special.

You are lovable.

You are allowed to just be YOU.

But those ideas are INCOMPLETE truths.

You were also designed, created, and evolved to continually aim to become YOUR best version of you.

So you'll never feel completely content remaining the way you are now.

No matter how many times you tell it to yourself.

The only way to be completely fulfilled is to regularly work on letting your inner light shine...

To get comfortable with discomfort, because that is how you grow...

To become self-aware enough to know when to give yourself grace and when to push yourself harder.

Because loving yourself for who you ARE -- and being discontent for who you've not yet BECOME...

...being grateful for the progress you've made -- and being dissatisfied with the results you've gotten so far --

-- are two sides of the same coin.

And wholeness comes when you learn to hold and operate by these two seemingly opposing viewpoints.

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Nov 09, 2021
#159 Teenage Rebellion & "Restaurant Parenting"

"Rebellion of basically any kind stems from needs that are not being met."

"Which needs are commonly not met that are likely to lead to rebellion?"

Is there a difference between healthy and unhealthy rebellion?

Do you consider some kind of rebellion necessary in a person’s life?

In this episode, we discuss these and other parenting topics and how 'restaurant parenting' (as I call it) may contribute to future teen rebellion. We also talk about rule-breaking and why we encourage a healthy version of it in our teens and young adults.

If you're a parent, no matter the current age of your kids, don't miss the critical lessons in this episode! 

Nov 03, 2021
#158 The Politicization of C*vid & the V*ccine -- the episode we 'should not' be doing ;)

In our last episode (#158), Greg hinted at doing another episode about the v*ccine. I wasn't so sure.

But after thinking and discussing it, we decided to do it together -- partly because our individual views balance each other out and help us both to come to a more centered truth.

We discuss how C*vid and the v*ccine have become politicized and what implications that has. We also examine C*vid's significance now compared to other times in history, and examine how politicizing a topic can skew each individuals understanding of the real facts.

Most of all, we emphasize points that all sides are likely to agree on, and how that approach overall will help us to come together to find solutions that will benefit humanity as a whole.

Sep 25, 2021
#157 Our Response to 'Incomprehensibly Stupid' Memes & Current Events

What happens when you share a 'controversial' meme on social media?

Lots of comments and ensuing arguments.

In this podcast, Greg and Rachel respond to comments on a meme that was shared which said:

"If you've ever wondered if you would have complied during 1930s Germany, now you know."

The reactions included words and phrases including:

  • incomprehensibly stupid
  • asinine
  • comparing people who have been vaccinated to Nazi Germans
  • and a lot more...

An adequate response was not feasible in a Facebook comment, so we answered in a podcast episode instead.

Plus, it was a lot more fun that way!

"Covid is a problem but it's not the real problem. There is something bigger than that which is the real problem. Until we address the bigger problem at the bottom of the swamp, we won't really solve the problem."

We'd love to hear your feedback, questions, comments, or requests for clarification -- or show us where we were wrong!


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Sep 12, 2021
#156 How To Know If You’re WINNING In Life
How do you know if you’re winning in life? It’s Easier in sports where there’s a scoreboard, but even that isn’t always reflective of true winning. You might lose the game but still be winning in personal improvements, performance, effort, giving your best, sportsmanship, integrity, grit, etc What about each of the areas of your life? How do you know if you’re winning? Do you have a scoreboard? Are you keeping score? In what ways? Are you trying to compete with others or with yourself, or with an ideal? Some are not keeping score at all. They have no idea how they’re doing. They don’t think about it; they don’t measure it; they’re so distracted, or unconscious, or in survival mode, or on autopilot, that they have no clear picture of how they’re doing. Some are even against keeping score at all. They may not like the idea of tracking, measuring, or scoring. You can’t master what you don’t measure! I’m choosing to win as a man! As a man. That includes several roles. I’m not trying to only win in business. That would be a loss to me as a man. I’m not trying to win only as a husband or father. That too would be a loss to me as a man. So I will necessarily “lose” on other people’s scoreboards. Some will see me as average in their field. That’s okay with me. I’m keeping score differently. Stop getting caught up in other peoples scoreboards. Stop living and measuring your work and life by other people’s scoreboards. Create your own scoreboard, or you will always be measuring yourself against other people’s scoreboards. This is one reason why you often see epic failures that seem to come out of nowhere. They were trying to win on other people’s scoreboards. What does Winning look like in each of those roles? What what does losing look like in each of those roles? It’s impossible for you to win if you’re not clear what winning looks like. —Creating your own scoreboard. It will require time, effort, research, discernment, and wisdom. Wisdom is not easily won. You will want to read from the greatest religious texts of all time, to study the lives and teachings of the best men who have ever lived. You will want to carefully analyze incomes and outcomes, and the ultimate results of their lives. The last thing you want to do in life is try to win on the wrong scoreboard. That’s like climbing the proverbial ladder that’s leaning against the wrong wall. Nor do you want to avoid being wrong so much that you never establish any scoreboard at all. You can’t wait until you’re 90 and you’ve had all that life experience to make your scoreboard either. So we are left to make the best decisions we can right now and improve them as we go. Fortunately, there are loads of great books. Unfortunately, there are also loads of trash books filled with really stupid ideas and really bad advice. And not just books. Blogs, podcasts, and posts abound with some of the worst advice ever uttered by human beings. I saw a genuine question posted in a FB group for men from a gentleman who seemed to sincerely want to know how to live a fulfilling and meaningful life. Some of the advice in the comments was genuinely the worst advice I have ever heard or seen. It was unbelievable. Take advice from people whose WHOLE life you would like to emulate. Otherwise you might embrace an idea from a financially successful man who is morally bankrupt or completely overdrawn in all his most important relationships.
Sep 05, 2021
#155 This Is Why You Misjudge Other People
Misjudging people it’s so easy and most of us do it pretty often if not all the time. Outward Symptoms can often help, but not always. They might Look rich but are broke. Look poor but have millions. Look nice but are evil. Look rough but are as honest as Abraham Lincoln Sometimes you meet people who in your first impression you mentally toss them out because they don’t fit, only to find out later that they’re AMAZING! We often misjudge because we have categories, labels, and boxes in which we psychologically try to arrange all the people, places, and things in our lives. The problem is that there are always people who don’t fit in our boxes, and that is where we get ourselves into trouble. Revisit the categories, rules, and labels that you have and see where they might be inaccurate. Leave an open box for those who don’t always fit the mold.
Aug 14, 2021
#154 Learning To WANT What You NEED and LOVE What You Don’t Like
Here are 5 ideas about learning to like and enjoy the things you need to do but may not always want to do. 1—Like the results. You may not like the method and that’s okay. FOCUS on the results. What you focus on you feel. Need motivators? Grab a chunk of belly or flabby arm, and then get your running shoes on and out the door. 2 —If you used to like it but now you don’t, find out what’s changed. Try what you used to do. Or try liking it in new ways. 3—Do something totally different. Try new things. Get creative. Learn to like something else. 4—Train yourself to like what you need, what you must. Do you realize that EVERYTHING you like or dislike is all because of conditioning. I believed for a long time that it was just the way I was. Perhaps I was born that way. I didn’t realize that I had conditioned myself or had been conditioned to it. Now I know that I can recondition myself to anything. 5—Sometimes you don’t like it. Do it anyway. That’s called being mature, responsible, an adult. Sometimes it sucks. So what. Embrace the suck. Every day you can and perhaps ought to do things you don’t like but are good for simply because we MUST cultivate your I-do-what-I-say-no-matter-what muscle. Our lives are so comfortable and convenient that many of us have become grown up babies.
Aug 07, 2021
#153 When Being a Good Person Produces Bad Results
Being good is not enough Most of our default thinking is that if we’re a good person it will be enough. That’s just not true! You can be a good person and a piss poor husband You can be a good person and a lousy lover You can be a good person and a poor loser You could be a good person and be terribly unproductive You can be a good person and a lousy listener You could be a good person distracted absent father You can be a good person and a terrible businessman You can be a good person and a very Foolish investor You can be a good person and a flimsy friend You can be a good person and an unresponsive son You can be a good person and totally ignorant and uneducated You can be a good person and clueless to what’s going on around you and the needs of other people Now if you’re not good at tennis, that’s OK. If you want to be good at it you can work on it. If you don’t want to be good at it then you don’t have to do anything. But that’s not true of the other areas of your life like marriage and parenting and work and contribution and connection In my mind working on those skills is nonnegotiable. If you have children, for example, then you have A moral obligation to become a good parent with fully developed parenting skills If you want to have a great marriage, healthy kids, and a good relationship with them, if you want to have friends, if you want to make a difference in the world, if you work, then you simply cannot settle for merely being a good person We have to stop sucking at the things that really matter especially if it’s because we’re succeeding in the things that don’t
Aug 04, 2021
#152 Your Money & Your Marriage
What are good beliefs and practices around money in your marriage? What if one spouse brings in the income and the other stays home, who should be in charge of how it’s spent? Does the non-income earning spouse have any say on how the money should be spent? What if one spouse wants to save every penny and the other sees it as a tool for experience and growth? What if one spouse wants to approve every purchase before anything can be spent? What if they become upset when they feel you spend in a way they don’t approve of? What if one spouse spends out of control? What if one spouse hates their job and feels resentful and frustrated and doesn’t want their ‘life’ to be spent on anything they don’t personally agree on? What if spouse have completely different paradigms about what money is (good or evil, tool or curse)? Greg and Rachel discuss these and other issues related to money in your marriage. Listen now and share with your spouse! Sign up for our Extraordinary Marriage course or our Master Your Money Mastermind at
Jul 16, 2021
#151 What Husbands NEED to Know About Their Wives
Many marriages are merely okay, or even slowly dying simply because men are inadvertently neglecting their wives. Gentlemen, you’re living far below your privileges in your marriage. Inadvertent negligence is costing you the spark, romance, and relationship you could have. With a little awareness and a few simple habits, you can totally transform your marriage. How is your health and fitness? It is affecting your relationship! Do you have clear boundaries between work life and family life? That is affecting your marriage. Are you leading at home? Spiritually mentally, emotionally, socially, physically, and financially? Are you fully engaged or usually distracted? Do you listen? Really listen? Are you making daily romantic gestures and planning awesome weekly dates? Are you taking ownership of the condition of the house and raising the children? Your wife will admire you more as you become more admirable. Your wife will respect you more as you become more respectable. Those of you who are married to high Achieving go-getter wives are often receiving things you don’t deserve. Deserve it. Earn it! Listen to this episode right now and share it with someone you know who needs to hear it
Jul 09, 2021
#150 The Sex-quel. Follow Up Sex Episode With Rachel Denning
Is sex ever a source of frustration, confusion, or contention in your marriage? It definitely was for us early in our marriage. Most of it came because we didn’t understand each other, or ourselves for that matter, and we didn’t know how to communicate effectively in order to share our unique perspectives. Once we were able to communicate, understand, and not resent the different and often difficult perspectives between us, everything in our marriage got better. In today’s episode Rachel shares her perspective about both the importance and the complexities of a great sexual relationship in marriage. Listen to this episode today and share it with the other couples you care about.
Jun 16, 2021
#149 Making Your Mark
What Mark are you making in the world? What Mark are you making in your family? We all have the privilege, opportunity, and even responsibility to make a mark in the world and in the lives of others. Interestingly, we are always making a mark. We can’t not.And so we must be responsible for the mark we are making. Some of you are making a significant mark, while others are leaving an insignificant scratch that will quickly wear way. What Mark are you making? What Mark do you need and want to make? How can you actually do it? Listen to this episode today to find out
Jun 08, 2021
#148 What Wives Need to Know About Husbands' (Sex Drive) and What Men Need to Understand About Themselves

Sexuality is just a part of being human. And as such it needs to be understood and directed. Unfortunately many men do not understand themselves and their sex drive, and many more women do not understand their man. 

Why does he think about sex so much? Why does he want to have sex every day? Why are men visually stimulated? What can we do about it? 

What about the differences in sexual desires and preferences between spouses? What are you doing to increase or decrease sexual desire, either in myself or my spouse? What can I do to make it great?! 

These things come up all the time in the personal coaching that I do, and the work that I do with couples and it is very often a huge source of frustration and conflict, instead of an amazing source of connection and love. 

In this episode, I risk being open and blunt and bold in order to share a perspective that I hope will be very helpful for individuals and couples. This is an episode that needs to be shared far and wide so that couples can have a clear understanding and open dialogue to understand each other and improve their sexual relationship. 

Plus these are things that need to be understood and then taught to youth so that they can go into adult life understanding themselves and others better.

Jun 03, 2021
#147 Choose To Be a Champion, Even In The Little Things.
Every day we have a choice. In fact we have many choice moments throughout the day. Choose to be a champion, or by default we can choose to be a chump. The champion chooses to do things in a great way, even the little things that seem not to matter much. By default when we choose to be the chump we cut corners, we cheat ourselves and others, we take the easy way, and of course we end up with mediocre results. This is true even in how we start our day and how we choose to feel at the beginning of our day and throughout the day independent of how we slept or what’s going on. Adopt the mindset and attitude of a champion. Refuse to acquiesce, to settle for less than your best. Set up your tool bag, get the training, and surround yourself with the team it will help you live like a champion, starting with the little things.
May 23, 2021
#146 Life Lessons From My Brother’s Death
My youngest brother died last week. He’d been struggling with a drug addiction for years. I thought he was getting better. I hope he was getting better. But it came to a tragic end last week. This last week has been brutal for me and for my family. I miss him so much! There’s so much I wish I could say and do but now it’s too late. The intensity and reality of this experience Has reminded me of a lot of important things and I wanna share those with you so that you can learn from my experience as well. Listen to this episode today and share it with someone you know who needs to hear it.
May 13, 2021
#145 The Corners Of Your Life
We all have little corners in our lives where the dust and the dirt and the stuff begin to gather. This is both literal and figurative.

It may be the corner of your closet or your garage, or the corners of your mind or your spirit.

Which “corners” of your life are unattended and neglected?  Which “corners” have piled up with dirt and garbage and unused things?  Which corners have you been avoiding, and have become chaotic and disorderly?

Examine the corners of your rooms, your garage, your yard, your body, and even your mind, where mental atrophy, ignorance, fixed mindsets, negative attitude, and inappropriate thoughts may be lurking.

Examine your whole world today. Carefully examine your entire life mentally and then literally, making a list of the corners that need clearing out and cleaning. Start on one of those 'corners' immediately and then work on the list. Mind, spirit, body, bed, bedroom, closet, bathroom, kitchen, pantry, family room, office, storage room, garage, yard, car, etc.   Keep going until there are no hidden 'corners' of your life left uncleaned.

I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised how much efficiency and effectiveness and optimization you’ll bring to your entire life as you clean out the neglected corners of each area of your life.
Apr 18, 2021
#144 She Died In My Arms
This is the account of an unbelievable experience we had in Ecuador while preparing to climb a big mountain. I had an opportunity to go back up and help someone who had fallen. She later died in my arms on the mountain. There are a lot of great lessons from this incredible experience that you and I can use to prepare ourselves for life and for emergencies. And there are several things that are extremely urgent and important and are worth a small rant. Listen to this episode today, take notes, identify the areas where you want to or need to seriously level up your life, and share it with someone you know who needs to hear it.
Apr 03, 2021
#143 Total Transformation Of a Life
While I was climbing a big peek in Ecuador with my wife we met a man who we quickly connected with. In just a few minutes he told us the short version of his life story and how he totally transformed his life. His story is packed with proven principles and practices for all of us to transform ourselves into who we can really become. You have the power and the potential to take your greatest weaknesses and your greatest struggles in transform them into strengths and power! There are a few things that each of us can do to really level up and become who you know you are capable of becoming. Listen to this episode and share it with someone you know who needs to hear it and be reminded of the power they have to become who they truly are. Who are you without all the external stuff, titles, achievements? What are the vices you have turned to? What are you using to buffer? What do you need to aim for to reach upward? What do you need in your life to propel you upward?
Mar 24, 2021
#142 Are You PREPARED To Help?
Wow! Do I have some stories for you today! Are you willing and ready to help when the situation arises? And more importantly, are you actually prepared to help? Many of us will be offered many opportunities to make a difference in the lives of people around us. This happens to me all the time. Just in the last 10 days I was given the opportunity when lives were literally on the line. But the thing I’m reminded of every time is that we need to have the knowledge and skills to be able to really make a difference when it matters!
Feb 21, 2021
#141 Failing Your Way To Success
Failure hurts. A lot. It’s not some thing any of us want to do, but I think it’s something we all need to do. We attempted to Summit Orizaba and failed. Epic story. But in that failure were many successes—if we look for them. In life, if we will acknowledge the successes and learn from the failures we can have all the growth and ultimate success we want. Are you willing to fail in order to succeed?
Feb 14, 2021
#140 Find A Way Or Make One
If you’re on the right path and it’s the appropriate time for you, find a way to make it work or make a way to make it work! Too many of us give up too often and too soon. We give a first attempt or maybe a feeble second and then throw in the towel thinking there’s nothing else we can do. But we have found again and again in our life that the most incredible experiences come after we commit to find away or make one. Here are two examples from our road trip across Mexico it turned into extraordinary experiences because we refused to give up at the first sign of failure.
Feb 10, 2021
#139 How To Get Inspiration & Guidance For Your Life
How would your life be different if you had all the inspiration and guidance you need and want? Well you can have it! You just have to be more strategic. I remember vividly times in my life when I desperately needed to know what to do. Oh how I wish I had known what I know now! There are simple ways for us to tap into the inspiration and guidance that surrounds us all the time. Listen to this episode today to learn a few simple things that have made a massive difference in my life and allowed me to live by an act on guidance and inspiration for my life. Be sure to share this with someone you know who needs it.
Feb 01, 2021
#138 Formidable And Indomitable
Formidable -very strong, especially in character; producing respect and a little fear in others: -Worthy of respect - tending to inspire awe or admiration because of great size, strength, excellence, etc.   -If you describe something or someone as formidable, you mean that you feel slightly frightened by them because they are very great or impressive. -a formidable opponent: capable, able, proficient, adept, adroit, accomplished; impressive, strong, powerful, mighty, terrific, tremendous, great, redoubtable, indomitable, invincible; seasoned, skillful, skilled, gifted, talented, masterly, virtuoso, expert, knowledgeable, qualified, trained; efficient, good, excellent, brilliant, outstanding, first-class, first-rate; in·dom·i·ta·ble | inˈdämədəb(ə)l | adjective impossible to subdue or defeat Indomitable Men “these indomitable warriors have never been subjugated by an invading force”: invincible, unconquerable, unbeatable, unassailable, impregnable, invulnerable, unsurpassable, unshakeable; indefatigable, unyielding, unbending, stalwart, stouthearted, lionhearted, strong-willed, strong-minded, staunch, resolute, firm, steadfast, determined, intransigent, inflexible, adamant; unflinching, courageous, brave, valiant, heroic, intrepid, fearless, plucky, mettlesome, gritty, steely
Jan 04, 2021
#137 Living With Serendipity
Serendipity: the Occurrence and development of events by chance in a happy or beneficial way I believe that God and the universe are conspiring in your favor and are presenting wonderful opportunities to you all the time! But you have to believe it, be open to it, and accept it. We have had literally Countless experiences that have been a gigantic blessing in our lives that have come through serendipity. There’s simply no way we could have planned for them to happen or even dreamed them up. Serendipity is when wonderful things happen to us as we are pursuing other good things. If you believe it, you can live with serendipity every day!
Dec 17, 2020
#136 The Greatest Tragedy And How To Avoid It
What is the greatest tragedy in life? If we look at the whole picture of life, it seems to me that the greatest tragedy is when an amazing human being fails to live a life that is meaningful, fulfilling and maximized. Each person has so much potential and vast amounts of untapped greatness ready to be utilized towards some meaningful purpose. But so many people settle for a life that is far less than their potential. Many live life‘s that are boring, unsettling, and frustrating. There are a few simple things that everyone can do to avoid this tragedy and live an absolutely extraordinary family life!
Dec 15, 2020
#135 Your Word Reputation—Making Your Words Matter
“The second most deadly instrument of destruction is the dynamite gun; the first is the human tongue. The gun merely kills; the tongue kills reputations and, ofttimes, ruins characters. Each gun works alone; each loaded tongue has a hundred accomplices. The havoc of the gun is visible at once. The full evil of the tongue lives through all the years; even the eye of Omniscience might grow tired in tracing it to its finality.  The crimes of the tongue are words of unkindness, of anger, of malice, of envy, of bitterness, of harsh criticism, gossip, lying and scandal. Theft and murder are awful crimes, yet in any single year the aggregate sorrow, pain and suffering they cause in a nation is microscopic when compared with the sorrows that come from the crimes of the tongue. Place in one of the scale-pans of Justice the evils resulting from the acts of criminals, and in the other the grief and tears and suffering resulting from the crimes of respectability, and you will start back in amazement as you see the scale you thought the heavier shoot high in air.    At the hands of thieves or murderers few of us suffer, even indirectly. But from the careless tongue of a friend, the cruel tongue of an enemy, who is free? No human being can live a life so true, so fair, so pure as to be beyond the reach of malice, or immune from the poisonous emanations of envy. The insidious attacks against one's reputation, the loathsome innuendoes, slurs, half-lies by which jealous mediocrity seeks to ruin its superiors, are like those insect parasites that kill the heart and life of a mighty oak. So cowardly is the method, so stealthy the shooting of the poisoned thorns, so insignificant the separate acts in their seeming, that one is not on guard against them. It is easier to dodge an elephant than a microbe.”  William George Jordan, Kingship of self control "Be impeccable with your word, because the word is not just a sound or a written symbol. The word is force; it is power you have to express and communicate, to think, and thereby to create the events in your life. ... All the magic you possess is based on your word. Your word is pure magic, and misuse of your word is black magic. ... Being impeccable with your word is the correct use of your energy; it means to use your energy in the direction of truth and love for yourself. If you make an agreement with yourself to be impeccable with your word, just with that intention, the truth will manifest through you and clean all the emotional poison that exists within you. ... Mostly we use the word to spread our personal poison –– to express anger, jealousy, envy, hate. The word is pure magic – the most powerful gift we have as humans – and we use it against ourselves. ... We misuse the word so often that that is how we perpetuate the dream of hell." –Don Miguel Ruiz, from The Four Agreements, quoted in M. Catherine Thomas' The God Seed. Thomas concluded with this: "Let us make the decision to be our word, and that what we say we mean, and that what we say we do, because we said it, and that's who we are."
Nov 28, 2020
#134 Tune It EVERY Time You Pick It Up
Every single day I condition myself to be at my best! I recently asked a friend how often he hast to tune his musical instrument. “Every time I pick it up.“ The same is true for you and me. Your mind is your instrument. Your body is your instrument. Your spirit is your instrument. And they need to be tuned every time you pick them up. That is every morning at a minimum, but I would suggest tuning multiple times throughout the day so that we make sure we are at our best when we’re engaging with the people we love in the projects that are important to us. Listen to this episode to learn great ways to do daily tuning and share it with someone who needs this reminder.
Nov 18, 2020
#133 Why You MUST Be Strategically Out Of Balance
It seems counterintuitive. Actually, it seems crazy, but you and I have to be strategically out of balance in order to master the most important things in life! If you want to be truly successful, you have to become really good at several things. Otherwise you condemn yourself to mediocrity and then your life begins to unravel. One of the most effective ways to be in the master the most important things is to become obsessed with each of those areas one at a time. Yes, that throws you out of balance. But it is a strategic neglect that helps you get on the path Mastery and out of the puddle of mediocrity
Nov 11, 2020
#132 The Expanded Life
Are you living an expanding life? Or perhaps a shrinking one? Are you growing, improving, progressing, and really living? Are you moving at a pace that makes you feel alive? Or do you feel like you’re just existing, or merely coasting along? In every important area of your life do you feel expansion or contraction? Every one of us has the privilege, opportunity, and responsibility to live an expanded life! What a privilege it is to feel the thrill and joy of learning new things!
Oct 30, 2020
#131 Trapped In Trauma
I know this sounds crazy. I realize that it’s hard to believe. But I have seen it too many times to not notice the pattern. You and I can get trapped in trauma that we experienced in the past, and that trauma keeps us from succeeding joyfully in other very unrelated areas. I even experienced this myself. Traumatic experiences with people or places or things left a negative mark in my psyche, and that became a trap that prevented me from moving forward in other areas of my life. It shows up in finances and marriage, and parenting and in business. It’s a lot like having a terrible headache or a thorn in your side. Even while wonderful things are happening around you, you can enjoy them fully because you’re in pain. I’ve observed trauma can have the same affect. Learning to heal the trauma, let go of it, give it a new meaning, and let it empower you can totally transform your life experience and your outcomes! You can do this! You can break free from the trap of trauma!
Oct 27, 2020
#130 A Poetic Formula For Greatness
If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you, If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too; If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies, Or being hated, don’t give way to hating, And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise: If you can dream—and not make dreams your master; If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim; If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two impostors just the same; If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools: If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss, And lose, and start again at your beginnings And never breathe a word about your loss; If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew To serve your turn long after they are gone, And so hold on when there is nothing in you Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’ If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch, If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, If all men count with you, but none too much; If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run, Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it, And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!
Oct 17, 2020
#129 How To Think Like A Genius—Next Level Thinking
There are levels of thinking. Most people think at first level thinking. Second, third, and fourth level thinking is extremely rare. But in order to learn to think like a genius, we must discipline ourselves to practice next level thinking. First level thinking sees what is immediate and obvious. It only observes the immediate problem without consideration for potential consequences. It only observes the immediate opportunity without consideration for other potential opportunities. It thinks like everybody else is thinking. There are simple, but challenging principles and practices that you and I can put into our lives on a regular basis to discipline ourselves to higher levels of thinking. Make a specific time and place to think. Capture ideas. See beyond the obvious. Move from transactional to transformational thinking Create a massive amount of new experiences. Read voraciously across all genres. Ask better questions to yourself and to next level thinkers.
Oct 04, 2020
#128 How to Live With Absolute Freedom
Every person I have ever met wants more freedom! We were born to be free. We were created for freedom. Freedom from guilt, pain, poor health, debt, addiction. We want money freedom and time freedom. We long to be free enough to live life on our terms! What kind of people enjoy the most freedom in this life? Those who consistently make good choices! In every area of your life the choices you make are either stacking in your favor or stacking against you. In a very real way you and I are choosing ourselves into freedom or choosing ourselves into a lack of freedom. I invite you to carefully examine all of the choices you are making on a regular basis and ask yourself if they are leading to freedom or to restriction. “The secret to happiness is freedom. And the secret to freedom is courage.“ Discipline leads to freedom. Think about it. When I choose to avoid junk food and eat healthy food, I am creating healthy freedom in my life. When I choose to avoid junk media and fill my mind with great books and podcasts, I create mental freedom in my life. When I choose to stop wasting time and use my time wisely, I create time freedom in my life. When I choose not to waste money and to improve my earning ability in investing ability, I create financial freedom in my life.
Sep 27, 2020
#127 How To Sleep Better And Why You Must Make It a Priority
The quality of your sleep is far more important than you probably realize! It can affect you physically, mentally, emotionally, and even spiritually. It affects your cognitive performance and the way you feel. It even affects the way you view yourself and your life. In this episode I share some simple proven principles and practices about the importance of Great sleep and how to massively improve sleep quality.
Sep 16, 2020
#126 Letting life happen TO you or making it happen FOR you
There are two ways to experience life. You can let it happen to you or you can make it happen for you. For most people, the only things that happen in their lives are the things that happened to them. They live like puppets, where other people and things manipulate the strings of their lives. I want to invite and challenge you to take full responsibility and ownership for everything in your life. Step into the extraordinary life of envisioning, designing, and creating the desired details of your life!
Sep 06, 2020
#125 How to Choose Your Trials And Challenges w/Rachel Denning
Do we have to have trials in life? Do challenges make us stronger? What if we could choose our challenges and trials? Is that even possible?! What if we told you that there is a way to avoid trials and embrace challenges that can totally transform your whole life experience and help you become the kind of hero you want to become without the kind of suffering you want to avoid? Listen to this episode today and share it with someone you know who needs to hear it
Aug 21, 2020
#124 When Life Gets Crazy
What do you do when life gets crazy? What will you do when life gets crazier? The answer is that we all fall back to our training! Archilochus said, “we do not rise to the level of our expectations, we fall to the level of our training.” In the last week we went on a few extraordinary hikes in the Rocky Mountains. On Saturday we had the opportunity and privilege to help rescue a young man who was injured in a rockslide. We were only able to help him because we were prepared to help him. We were prepared because we have been training. The same is true for every important area of life!
Aug 10, 2020
#123 Are you here to participate or to Win?
Winning requires a different set of skills and a different mindset! Anyone can show up to play or to participate, but if you want to win you have to think and act differently. You have to be more strategic! And so we must ask ourselves in every important aspect of life, are we showing up to participate or to win? Because the world is becoming more competitive and more advanced, none of us can afford to merely participate in the things that matter most. We will get beat if we think we can just continue to play without having the drive and a strategy to win. Merely good workers will be let go. Merely good businesses will be outdone by the competition. Merely good marriages will grow cold and fall apart. Merely good parents will fail to keep their kids out of trouble. Merely good health habits will yield poor health results. Merely good education will leave you astoundingly ignorant. We live now in an incredible meritocracy. We will get exactly what we earn. Winning is your responsibility. Success is your duty. Show up to win!
Jul 30, 2020
#122 Attaching Pain to Our Problems
Our society has become really good at using softeners, and at making others feel like they have to use them too, really guilt tripping the rest of us to use them so that we don’t make other people feel bad. Big problem! -we’re teaching and spreading victimism—that another person can make us feel something -that we should live in a world where nothing and no one makes us feel uncomfortable or threatened. That’s just not realistic and that philosophy makes us weak and unprepared for life. This is one of the reasons for the failure to launch and why many adults are not behaving as adults. -false idea that we should not feel pain, or conditioning to avoid pain at all costs. Softeners are tranquilizers; they are anesthetics that keep us from improving our lives. Pain can equal progress. In fact pain is the greatest motivator toward progress. But if we are consistently numbing ourselves we won’t change things we NEED to Change Are you fat? Obese? This is not body shaming! It’s body love. This whole life is about maximizing our potential and living in extraordinary life. Our body is our vehicle for life and when we don’t take care of it we are limiting our own lives. The main reason that any of us gets fat is because we don’t control what’s going in our mouths. How have you been treating yourself? How is your marriage, really? How is your parenting? Be painfully honest. How is your financial situation? How is your spiritual state? How are you managing your emotions? Paragraph be painfully honest with yourself in every part of your life. See things as they really are, but not worse than they are.
Jul 23, 2020
#121 Progress IS Happiness. Happiness is progress.
Are you progressing? Really progressing? We are made to move! We are created to create! When we are not moving, creating, progressing we feel empty and blah. And we feel that way if we are not moving at the right pace. We have to move, and at the right pace. It is in our spiritual DNA. We were made to move. We were created to create. Many of you are struggling only because your goals are impotent! So what are you going to do that is so big it will redefined this year?
Jul 20, 2020
#120 The Unattractive Secret to Success
Repetition is the unsexy secret to success! And it is one of the greatest ironies in life. We are so quick to say to ourselves that we’ve already done that before, we’ve already heard that before, we’ve already seen that before, and so we don’t need to do it again. Oh how wrong we are when we tell ourselves that story! The top performers in the world in every field practice repeating the key skill sets that make the biggest difference in their performance. From Music to movies, from science to sports, from families to finances, people who are world class repeat the skill Tens of thousands of times! What two or three things do you need to repeat tens of thousands of times in order to master the most important skills both personally and professionally?
Jul 10, 2020
#119 How to like yourself For the rest of your life
We all have a relationship with ourselves. Sometimes we like ourselves and sometimes we don’t. There may even be parts of us that we like and parts that we don’t. But there is a simple formula to liking yourself more and for the rest of your life. We can all be more strategic about it. More intentional, more deliberate, more proactive.
Jul 02, 2020
#118 Finding your life purpose, (& possibly business)
Imagine losing your ability to speak. Many good people are going through life without discovering and cultivating their unique voice, the special message they want to share with the world. This could be your life purpose, your mission, or even your vacation. But whatever you do, don’t “ lead a life of quiet desperation and go to your grave with your song still in you.” Do the mental and physical work to discover and cultivate your purpose and voice. Bring it to life! “Striving to find meaning in one’s life is the primary motivational force in men. This meaning is unique and specific in that it must and can only be fulfilled by him or her alone.“ “There is a detrimental influence of which so many patients complain today, namely, the feeling of the total and ultimate meaninglessness of their lives.“ Victor Frankl “This is the true joy in life, that being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one. That being a force of nature, instead of a feverish, selfish little cloud of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy. I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the whole community and as long as I live it is my privilege to do for it whatever I can. I want to be thoroughly used up when I die. For the harder I work, The more I live. I rejoice in life for its own sake. Life is no brief candle to me. It’s a sort of splendid torch which I have to hold up for the moment and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.“ George Bernard Shaw “There comes a special moment in everyone’s life, a moment for which that person was born. That special opportunity, when he seizes it, will fulfill his mission, a mission for which he is uniquely qualified. In that moment, he finds greatness. It is his finest hour.” Winston Churchill Leader, administrator, operator, wise, faithful, healing, technology, art, miracles, vision, languages, service, musician, entertainer, peacemaker, government, writing, creator, speaking, teaching, family, warrior, comforting, prince, princess, messenger, adventure, animals, nature
Jun 25, 2020
#117 Becoming Unstoppable
Most of us are just too stoppable. We stop at every obstacle, every inconvenience, every time we get uncomfortable, or every time we doubt ourselves. We make excuses, we justify, we rationalize, we tell ourselves stories about why we can’t start or why we can’t continue. But the truth is, you have the power within you already to be unstoppable! You can become unstoppable as a matter of principle and practice. This isn’t some heroic thing. This isn’t some grandiose gift from God reserved for very few. It is a simple way of being. You can choose right now to stop overthinking and over analyzing and just do it. Choose a few things that you know will make the biggest positive difference in your life and become unstoppable in those things! Exercising vigorously 4 to 5 times a week. Never consuming refined sugar again. Getting up early to start your day right. Connecting in a meaningful way every single day with your spouse and your children. Work when you’re working. Eliminate distraction when you need to focus. Save and invest a certain Percentage of everything you earn. In what ways are you going to be unstoppable?
Jun 20, 2020
#116 Why Good Marriages Fail and What to Do to Protect Yours!
A very well-known couple with a seemingly good marriage recently announced their divorce publicly. It was a shock to a lot of people including me. But I get to do coaching for a couples every week and I know what’s often going on behind the scenes. The main reason good marriages fail is that most couples leave the quality of their marriage to chance, even though they don’t think they are. And that is the greatest danger! The longer you are married, the more deliberate, intentional, and strategic you have to be to create an extraordinary marriage!! What are you doing daily to invest in your marriage? What are you doing weekly to invest in your marriage? What are you doing monthly to invest in your marriage? What are you doing annually to invest in your marriage? Is your schedule and your calendar reflecting your strategies for creating and maintaining an extraordinary marriage? We see good marriage is failing and falling apart all the time. And most of it is preventable! That’s why we created how to create an extraordinary marriage course. It is 5 full modules on the most important aspects of your marriage. Go to and invest in your marriage today!
Jun 11, 2020
#115 Looking back from your own future
Today my teenage boys and I had the extraordinary opportunity to visit two different elderly women who are living on their own. What a privilege! We were so fortunate to sit and bask in their life stories, their unique lifelong perspectives, and absorb the wisdom from lives well lived. You and I have the opportunity to jump ahead to our own future in our minds and then to look back and carefully consider the lives we have lived. What will you be grateful you did? What will you be grateful you did not do? What will you regret doing? What will you regret not doing? Let’s be deliberate and intentional about the kind and quality of life we are living! We are not victims. We do not have to live life On auto pilot. We get to choose every day how we do life. So let’s do it in an extraordinary way!
Jun 07, 2020
#114 The Effort Effect
Have you ever worked on some thing and noticed that the outcome is directly tied to your efforts? This is true in most things in life! We get out what we put in. This is what I called the effort effect. Our rewards and results are literally linked to our efforts. Many of you were only getting half results because you’re only putting in half effort. In what areas of your life are you putting in too little effort and then complaining about too few results? Level up today! Learn what you need to learn. Change what you need to change. Do what you need to do. Be what you need to be! Get the books. Buy the courses. Hire a coach. If you’re ready to level up and want some help do use the effort effect in your favor, go to and sign up for high-performance coaching today.
May 28, 2020
#113 REMIND yourself to Live a Heroic Life
We think of those who have died so that we can remember to live! We remember those who have lived heroic lives so that we are reminded to live heroic lives ourselves. Everyone of us has the opportunity and privilege to design, create, and live the life of our choice! We can live extraordinary lives if we will! It’s not that we can’t, it’s that we don’t. It’s valuable to ask ourselves on us questions. Is my life boring because I’m boring? Is my life unfulfilling because I’m not doing fulfilling things? Does my life lack meaning because I’m not doing meaningful things? Has my life lost the magic simply because I’m not bringing the magic? Live a heroic life! Throw off The limiting beliefs and stories that you can’t live in extraordinary life because you have a job, or because you have responsibilities, or because you have a family. It’s up to you! You can live a great life if you will. If you’d like some help to design, create, and live an absolutely extraordinary family life, Visit and sign up for a high performance coaching session.
May 26, 2020
#112 Are you living the life you always wanted?
Where have you settled for less? What dream or goal have you given up on? Take journey into the past, into your own past, and remember what you used to dream about. Do you still want that dream? If it’s still in your heart, bring it back to life! Then create a plan to make it happen. Let me help!
May 20, 2020
#111 Rethinking How You Do Life
Have you ever wanted to do life differently? Have you ever dreamed about living a life it is very distinct from the one you’re living now? I want to invite you to question everything. Not any cynical or critical way, but in an examining way. I want you to rethink how you do life. Examine the philosophies, assumptions, statements, and questions that are normal for you and for most of the people around you. Question the assumptions about what’s possible for your life and the prescribed path that others have laid out for you. Remember that to truly win in life is to live life on your terms! What are your terms? Do you really know? Have you exposed yourself to all the possibilities yet? What else do you need to experience before you can make a solid decision about how you do life? There are so many great ways to do life. Make sure you choose the one that works best for you. And then if it stops working for you, choose another one.
May 14, 2020
#110 How to think and thrive under pressure
The level of your thinking dictates the level of your life! You have trained yourself, probably unconsciously, to think the way you think. If that thinking is not creating the results you want then you need to strategically train your brain to think differently. Far too few of us are purposeful about training our brains. How many of you have a system and a plan to train the level of your thinking? Probably not many. And yet thinking dictates our lives. So it’s critical that we make this a priority! In this episode we talk about setting up a thought training system and plan and give you specific tools to train your brain and level up your thinking. You can begin right away by asking yourself how you want to think about life, about your past, about your present, about your future, about your family, about yourself, etc.
May 07, 2020
#109 Make It Matter
Too often we fail to give importance to The most important things in our lives. We get busy and distracted. We get passionate about things that don’t matter and passive about things to do. We know that certain things should be more important to us than others but we don’t always show it. Of course this begins to be manifest in our life and we end up with results that we don’t want. My invitation and challenge to you is to make it matter! Raise necessity! Raise urgency! Raise commitment! Grab a hold of the lever and crank it up. Make important things important again in your life! Please share this episode with the people you love who need to hear it.
May 01, 2020
#108 The 3 Ways Of Living
Ultimately there are three ways to do life. It is possible to remain in one of these ways for your entire life or to mix between them on a weekly or even a daily basis. The three ways are: trapped, transactional, and transformational. Trapped is always blaming themselves and their circumstances. They play the victim. They can’t actually do things they want because of their circumstances. “I can’t afford it.” They often give up improvements on self and life for fleeting moments with vices and addictions. Think you’re a bad person and not worthy Waste lots of time and money. Trapped can’t outsource. No direction. Just survival mode all the time, and usually totally unconscious of their thoughts, feelings, and actions creating their outcomes. Both blow money on coffee, tobacco, alcohol, (others are endlessly consuming their equivalent in junk food) and entertainment. Interesting insight is that trapped people do a lot of shopping at gas stations, paying far too much for far too little Manufacturers of trash food and trash entertainment aim at this demographic of people. This isn’t really income dependent. There are those who earn great salaries but blow it all in trapped living experiences perpetual mental fog and confusion about life and what to do. Constantly talking, revisiting ideas and things they COULD do, but rarely experience real results Mind is endlessly occupied with the transactions of life. Transactional person is all about comfort, supposed security and safety—which is really an illusion. “Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing.” Usually thinks they’re not good enough. Also can’t really do the things they really would like to often because they continually trade what they want most with what they want at the moment, in comfort and convenience. It’s not that they cannot afford transformational experiences, it’s that they won’t. Additionally, they choose the “safer” experiences instead of the transformational ones Transactional won’t outsource, mostly because of the all consuming cost of their comforts AND because of false social ideas and the judgments of others about hiring help Lack purpose, passion, and persistence Lack clarity about who they are and the BIG picture of their life
Apr 27, 2020
#107 Fear is the true pandemic
When the dust settles as it is already beginning to do most of us will see that fear cost far more problems than COVID-19 ever did. With the best of intentions many people and significant leaders made decisions to close down the economy and even nations I’ll because of an overhyped fear. The numbers just don’t make sense. The math doesn’t work out. And there is so many valuable lessons we can learn from what has happened. One of the most final lessons is that we all learn how to keep fear at bay and prevent it from controlling our lives and causing us to make shortsighted decisions.
Apr 24, 2020
#106 Never underestimate the power of your mind
There are wonderful things, even unbelievable things that we can do with our minds and our brains. I would suggest that most of us are living far below our privileges when it comes to enabling the full power of our brains. This is true both physiologically And metaphysically. We can alter the condition of our bodies and the outcomes of our lives by learning to direct our thinking and learning to harness the full power of the mind. If these ideas are new to you, please don’t dismiss them. Think about it. Consider it. Try it. See what you can do when you activate your mind to work in your favor!
Apr 23, 2020
#105 The BEST Way to Get The Results You Really Want
This is what leads great people to greatness. You know when you have periods in your life when you’re doing something or seeing something repeatedly and a lesson becomes blatantly obvious and clear? I’m reading Hamilton and the Power of Habit right now and other great books literally every day and have for over two decades. I meet with great people every day and get to observe significant transformation. I’ve noticed (for years) a common denominator, something that is almost always present, something that adds rocket fuel to their results. Think of sports or band or choir or debate or chess or music or performance or theatre of any kind that you have participated in. You probably had a tutor, a teacher, an instructor, a mentor or a coach. You had somebody there watching you and giving you feedback, guiding you, pushing you, correcting you. I think it’s safe to say there’s no way you can reach certain levels of success and competence without the coach to help you level up. We get it with all those things. We know we need a coach. But for some reason, many people still have not really embraced the idea of a life coach. Now think of the things that are holding you back, perhaps things that have been holding you back for a long time. Baggage from your past, mental or emotional difficulties or trauma, relationship struggles, insecurities, poor habits, relationships with food or money, poor money management, skills or the lack of skills, etc. What if you had a coach to help you overcome the thing that is overcoming you, to conquer the thing that’s conquering you, to stop the problem that’s stopping your progress. To break free from the thing that is imprisoning you. “Excellence is an art won by training in habituation.” Will Durrant From Olympic athletes to top executives, they have coaches to help them get results! Many huge corporations and private equity groups, who hire lots of big-shot executives require their executives and often all upper-level management teams to have personal coaches. Even the Founding Fathers; so many of them had ‘sponsors’ and mentors early in life and throughout their lives. from Luke skywalker to Bilbo Baggins Yoda: * "Do or do not. There is no try." ... * "You must unlearn what you have learned." ... * "Named must be your fear before banish it you can." ... * "Fear is the path to the dark side. ... * "That is why you fail." ... * "The greatest teacher, failure is." ... * "Pass on what you have learned." Gandalf: “It is not our part to master all the tides of the world, but to do what is in us for the succour of those years wherein we are set, uprooting the evil in the fields that we know, so that those who live after may have clean earth to till. What weather they shall have is not ours to rule.” “I wish it need not have happened in my time,” said Frodo. “So do I,” said Gandalf, “and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.” Coaches provide: Hard questions. Accountability. Calling you out. Insights. What I’ve seen as I’ve coached: Transformed marriages Start or grow business Successfully Overcome huge personal challenges It will cost you. It has to! I know of a mastermind that costs $100k to join and only meets occasionally throughout the year. Warning: There are many coaches out there who have no idea what they’re talking about and don’t have their own life optimized. Holistic optimization: holistic: characterized by comprehension of the parts of something as intimately interconnected and explicable only by reference to the whole. Optimize: make the best or most effective use of Books that teach this principle very well: Linchpin So good they can’t ignore you Talent is overrated
Apr 15, 2020
#104 Increasing your capacity to do MORE with LESS stress and strain
I know this sounds crazy but I see it all the time! There are literally ways that we can accomplish more in less time and with less stress and strain. You’ve probably already experienced this in your life when you realized that you were doing something very inefficiently and less effectively. As soon as you made a few tweaks and changes you were able to do Far more and faster times and in much more enjoyable ways! The same is true for almost every area of life. Even if we’ve been doing it for a long time, we can find ways to improve our efficiency, our effectiveness, and our capacity. In fact some people believe that when we tell ourselves we are maxed out, we are only actually hitting 40% of our real capacity. There’s so much more you can do! What would you dream of achieving? What goals would you set? What would you attempt if you had more capacity, more ability, more energy and less stress?
Apr 09, 2020
#103 How to Fill Your Life With Hope and Happiness
Are you feeling hopeful and genuinely happy? Is your home filled with happiness and hope? Too often we only feel hope and happiness when things are going our way but begin to feel hopeless and unhappy the moment anything goes wrong. Hope and happiness are the result of purposeful choices! “People are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.“ These are the four circuits of happiness in your brain. Get into a positive state. Recover from a negative state. The ability to focus. Being generous.
Apr 07, 2020
#102 Baby steps are for babies, not for you
And of course they produce baby results. So please tell me why so many capable adults are still taking baby steps! We are living far below our potential in our capacity. And yet we are obsessed with taking baby steps. Why?! There’s so much more that you can do if you’ll just overcome the fixed mindset and the irrational fear of picking up your stride and your pace in order to speed walk or run towards your goals and dreams! It’s go time my friends. Stop playing small and start taking massive action!
Apr 03, 2020
#101 How to SHINE in DARK Times
To rise in falling times. To succeed in failing times. To win in losing times. To love and hateful times. To move in stagnant times. To excel and stifling times. We will all face challenging times in our lives! But as Marcus Aurelius wrote, “what stands in the way becomes the way.“ Challenging times are often our very best opportunities! They offer us a chance to change, a time to transform.
Mar 28, 2020
#100 Stop acting like you’re on vacation—the economy is dying
I hope I’m wrong but I think the economy is going to get smashed. It’s already happening. People are being let go and laid off. They’re being told to file right away for unemployment. The government is getting ready to spend $1 trillion to try to keep the economy from completely collapsing. Many businesses will fail in the coming weeks. Others will declare bankruptcy. And on top of all of that, who’s going to bail out a bankrupt government that keeps handing out money? I am not a doomsday guy! I’m an optimist! I’m hopeful. I believe we can create the circumstances we want. But I also think it is wise to be aware of the Realities that we are facing! So I want to raise a loving, warning voice to all of you. Stop acting like you’re on vacation! Go back to work. Hustle. Innovate. Get busy and stir up some results. Too many good people are sitting around waiting to see what happens. They’re drifting. They’re coasting. You cannot afford to do that. Your family and your community need you to show up. Even if you’re not going to be affected because you work in an essential industry, I believe you have an opportunity and a responsibility to level up so that you can help people who are going to need it!
Mar 21, 2020
#99 This Crisis is YOUR Chance
Every crisis is an opportunity and this one is yours! We can see this as a problem or is a privilege. We can sit in our house is killing time, sedating ourselves with entertainment, or we can use this time to lift ourselves with knowledge and skill development. None of us can afford to waste this opportunity! Do not squander this chance to transform your life!
Mar 18, 2020
#98 You Get To CHOOSE How You Respond To This
Even in the midst of all the craziness and chaos you and I still get to choose how we respond! Calm or chaotic Prepared or panic Certain in the midst of the uncertainty Abundant or scarce Thoughtful or fearful We have the power to choose our thoughts, our feelings, our words, our actions and our behaviors! There is still so much we can and must control and direct!This pattern interrupter can end up being one of the greatest times of our lives! We can use it to grow and learn and improve and refine ourselves and to strengthen our relationships!
Mar 17, 2020
#97 Facing fears and coping with anxiety in times of uncertainty

Are you worried about coronavirus? Are you stressed about missing work or economic fallout? Are you wondering how to talk to your kids about all the craziness?

How do you face your fears or even replace your fears? Do you have a healthy way to cope with anxiety or anxious feelings? 

In a world dominated by fear and worry, many people and organizations seem set on spreading panic. But fear can become controlling and limiting to your life.

Learn to effectively manage your fear while still taking appropriate action. Discover how to lead your family through this challenging time.

You can learn additional strategies for leading your family and providing an anchor during times of uncertainty:

Mar 13, 2020
#96 The 6 Core Human Needs
There are six core things that every human being needs. When these are missing or not met, it leaves a void in our lives. Then we begin feeling unfulfilled and frustrated and unmotivated. The six human needs can actually be applied to every area of your life. I invite you to carefully think through each important area of your life in the context of the six human needs and see what’s working and what’s missing. Certainty Uncertainty Significance Connection/love Growth Contribution
Mar 11, 2020
#95 What it means to be a REAL man

With so many misconceptions about what it means to be a man, and so many men living far below the standard, we all need to put forth the greatest effort to help boys and men be real men!

"At each moment in man's life, he is either a King or a slave. As he surrenders to a wrong appetite, to any human weakness; as he falls prostrate in hopeless subjection to any condition, to any environment, to any failure, he is a slave. As he day by day crushes out human weakness, masters opposing elements within him, and day by day re-creates a new self from the sin and folly of his past, - then he is a King. He is a King ruling with wisdom over himself. Alexander conquered the whole world except, Alexander. Emperor of the earth, he was the servile slave of his own passions." -William George Jordan (Self Control Its Kingship & Majesty)

“I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection. 'Tis the business of little minds to shrink, but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.” Thomas Paine

“A gentleman differs from other men in that he retains his heart. A gentleman retains his heart by means of benevolence.” Mencius

"There is in certain men … a quality of resilience, a sturdy refusal to acknowledge defeat, which aids them as effectively in the affairs of the heart as in encounters of a sterner and more practical kind."

Books About Manliness

Mar 05, 2020
#94 Why does my life suck?
Most of us have aspects of our life that are frustrating or disappointing. Why is that? Why is it that that part of our life sucks? Honestly, because we suck at it! That’s actually really great news because once we realize that we lack skill set in that area, we can begin doing something right away to improve the skill. You have way more power than you think you do! The quality and outcome of every area of your life depends upon your skill set in that area.
Mar 01, 2020
#93 The state of your brain determines the state of your life
If we don’t understand how the brain works, we don’t understand how life works. New brain scanning technology is revolutionizing what we know about human performance and how the brain is affecting our bodies and our lives. Brain scanning is the future! And I believe that at some point every one of us ought to have our brain scanned. The condition of your brain is literally determining the condition of your life. Your brain state and brain function are affecting your mindset, your emotions, your energy levels and your behaviors. When things are off in our lives and the lives of people we love perhaps the first place we should look is the brain. In this episode I share several things that have been revealed from the research that we can do to keep our brains healthy and even recover from damage or poor brain health.
Feb 26, 2020
#92 Your choices LEAD to freedom or LIMIT freedom
Almost every single choice we make will lead to freedom or limit freedom. Each of us has the potential freedom to lead life on our own unique terms. But many of us make choices that drastically limit our freedoms. This is true in every aspect of life. From health and fitness to finances. From education to contribution. The danger is that many of us are making choices every day unconsciously. We are literally unaware of choices that we are making that are limiting our freedoms. This episode can be a wake up call for all of us to be more keenly aware of how our choices are leading to or limiting our freedom.
Feb 21, 2020
#91 Life Changing Lessons From Thailand
There’s nothing quite like an international adventure to be a pattern interrupter, a wake up call, and a reality check. It’s when we are exposed to new and different things, and to wonderful people that we remember to think, act, and live differently and better. My wife Rachel and I recently led a couples trip to Thailand over Valentine’s Day and had some absolutely amazing adventures and experiences. Here are a few of the life-changing lessons we learned and how they can dramatically influence your life too.
Feb 18, 2020
#90 Will You Be Broken or Beautiful? Picking up the pieces of your life.
What will you do with the broken fragments of your life? Each of us experiences many things in life that feel broken and irreparable. That gives us a choice. We can amass a pile of rubbish or erect a pillar of beauty! You and I literally have the power to choose what we will do with the broken pieces of our lives! We can use them to complain and bemoan our lives and even fall into self-loathing, or we can pick them up and build a beautiful, legacy mosaic! Whether it’s mistakes you’ve made with yourself, failed attempts in business, neglecting your spouse, or mistreating your children, you can pick up the broken pieces and create something wonderful and beautiful! You can build an EXTRAORDINARY Family Life with the broken pieces of your life!
Feb 09, 2020
#89 Living In Joy
It’s TOTALLY possible, though still surprisingly rare, to live in real joy day by day. The kind of joy that permeates your being and radiates through you and from you; that feeling—no, more than a feeling—that flows through your mind, heart, spirit, and body and becomes your way of being; that light, that warmth, that glow, that radiance that FILLS you and spills over on those around you! But if it’s so available, why are so many good people living below their privilege and potential and only experiencing true joy occasionally? Mostly because it’s being crowded out of their lives by other distractions, by conflicting emotions and unmanaged thoughts. Learn how to live IN joy and have joy live in you today.
Feb 05, 2020
#88 Overcoming Doubt, Discouragement, Distraction, and Disobedience
Those four D words represent the sources of so much heartache and disappointment and failure. And we are all plagued by them at some point in our lives. How many dreams have been wasted, how many hopes abandoned, how many achievements lost because we have doubted, become discouraged, gotten distracted, or were disobedience to the laws of success? There are proven ways to overcome these dreadful D’s. They also begin with the letter D. Determination, discipline, dedication, devotion, diligence! Making these principles and practice as a part of our lives will literally crush out the four dreadful D’s.
Feb 01, 2020
#87 The First Thing That MUST Happen Before Any Success— Awareness
Most people are unaware that they are unaware. I was! But awareness is the first ingredient in the recipe of success and happiness! We absolutely must become perfectly aware of the connection between our thoughts, feelings, choices, actions, and habits. Those things create our circumstances! Yet most people are absolutely unaware of that fact. Awareness will bring greater power and potential into your life and give you back total control of yourself and your outcomes!
Jan 27, 2020
#86 Everything you do has a cost!
Very few people accurately do the math to figure out what their choices and actions are costing them. In fact, most people are completely unaware that every thought, every word, every choice, every action, and every habit has a cost. Everything has an exchange rate! I invite you to carefully and thoroughly examine the cost of everything in your life. Is what you have and do bringing you the value you want? Or is it costing you more than it’s worth? Calculating this equation can be painful, but it is so worth it! Don’t wait until it’s too late. Calculate the cost.
Jan 24, 2020
#85 The REAL risk of living an Unfulfilling and Unexciting life and what to do about it
The risk is real! We are all at risk of living in unfulfilling, disconnected, and unexciting life. That is unacceptable for high performers! But if we are not deliberate and intentional about setting up systems, practices, and habits that eliminate the risk, then we are destined to live on for filling and unexciting lives. Most of us are drowning in a sea of distraction that leads to a swamp of disappointment. We can change all of that by setting up simple sequences that lead to predictable results. The results we really want!
Jan 16, 2020
#84 How Do You REALLY Measure If You Are Truly Successful?
How does one measure progress, status, growth, improvement, standing, high-performance, wisdom, greatness, and true success? How do I see past my Blind spot’s, my erroneous perceptions of myself, my mistaken conclusions? With so many opinions out there how can I know which ones are accurate in order to measure my own standards of success in my own life? There is most definitely a wrong way to do things! There are people who say otherwise, but they are not educated enough in the lessons of history. So how do we know what the right ways are?
Jan 11, 2020
#83 Pursuing Your Potential
As a human being you have the incomparable privilege of pursuing your potential! Sadly many of us go along through life unaware of the privilege and so we merely exist in survival mode and ultimately fall far short of where we could have arrived. Thoreau said “most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with their song still in them.” Not only is it a blessing and privilege and opportunity, but it’s also a responsibility and a moral obligation. Think of what you could achieve. Think of the lives you could influence. Think of who you could become if you vigorously embraced the pursuit of the privilege of your potential! Your very best self is inside of you! It is not external to you. And it is your privilege to manifest it, to create it, to make it happen! None of us wants to get to the end of our lives, or even to the end of this year, and realize that we had lived far below our potential!
Jan 06, 2020
#82 BEWARE of These Pirates & Hijackers That Rob Your Focus, Freedom, & Joy
Many of us are being attacked by pirates and hijackers on a daily basis! They are subtle and cunning. They rob us of our focus in our freedom and our potential. We end up living in perpetual self sabotage and slavery because of pirates that masquerade as food, entertainment and efficiency. The most dangerous hijackers are little indulgences. “The foolish man thinks that little faults, little indulgences, little sins, or of no consequence; he persuades himself that so long as he does not commit flagrant immoralities he is virtuous, and even Holy; but he is there by deprived of virtue and holiness, in the world knows him accordingly; it does not reference, adore, and love him; it passes him by; he is reckoned of no account; his influence is destroyed. The efforts of such a man to make the world virtuous, his exhortations to his fellow men to abandon their great vices, or empty of substance in barren of fruitage. The insignificance which he attaches to his small vices permeates his whole character and is the measure of his manhood: he is regarded as an insignificant Man. The levity with which he commits his errors and publishes his weakness comes back to him in the form of neglect and loss of influence and respect: he has not sought after, for who will seek to be taught of folly? His work does not prosper, for who will lean upon a reed? His words fall upon deaf ears, for they are void of practice, wisdom, experience, and who will go after an echo?“ James Allen
Dec 30, 2019
#81 An extraordinary marriage is a matter of choice, not chance
Many people sit around hoping their marriage will get better, wishing things will change. But transforming your marriage will happen by choice, not by chance! You have far more power to improve your marriage than you think you do. One person can create a tremendous amount of positive change in marriage. Take full ownership and responsibility. Don’t focus on what your spouse needs to do differently, focus on what you can do better. Invest in your marriage! It is worth whatever it costs. Think about it will cost you if you do not invest in it. Go on a date every week, and overnight or every quarter, and a big trip every year. Join us on our couples trip to Thailand over Valentine’s Day. Get our course about creating an extraordinary marriage at
Dec 29, 2019
#80 The BEST Thing You Can Do For Those You Love
I love giving gifts and doing things for the people I love most of my life! I’m sure you do too. We spend a lot of time and effort thinking about gifts that we can give and about ways we can serve the people we love. But we often miss the very thing that would be the best thing that we could do for the people we cherish and appreciate the most. Hands down, the best thing you can do for those you love... is to make the most of yourself! For all of us, that means really changing, truly improving and significantly growing. It means new knowledge, new skills, new habits. For some of us it means putting an end to an addiction or a poor behavior. For others it means getting in great shape and taking better care of ourselves. For some it means letting go of the past. For others it means NO MORE angry explosions. It means being happy, genuinely happy. It means being present, fully present. Do it because of love! Because you love them give them the best gift possible by making the most of yourself.
Dec 25, 2019
#79 The Truth is... You’re Afraid
Is fear holding you back? Do you find yourself burdened or even consumed by fear, worry, doubt? It’s easy to slip into a dark negative space we were constantly afraid of what might happen or what others might think. We get afraid about the future, our health, our family, or the world. But most of our fears are irrational and only serve as a self-made prison. I challenge you to face your fears! Just by staring them down more than half of them will slither away into the shadows. And the other half you can face because of who you’re becoming and what you’re chasing down!
Dec 21, 2019
#78 Putting Family First ... For Real
We often say that our family is the most important thing in our lives, but we don’t always show it. The reality is that we prove our priorities with our actions. I want to invite and challenge all of us to put our families first with our words, our attitudes, our thoughts, our emotions, our actions, our reactions, and our habits. Are you putting your family first? What will you do this month, this year, and this decade to put your family first? How will they know without a doubt that they are the most important thing in your life?
Dec 15, 2019
#77 The ‘I Don’t Know’ Syndrome
Have you ever used ‘I don’t know’ as a way to escape answering a tough question? If you have, you’re not alone. It’s one of the most common answers to challenging questions. But more often than not it’s just an escape. It’s a story we tell ourselves, and sometimes it’s even a lie. Most of the time we do know, but we just don’t want to know. We use ‘I don’t know’ when we’re afraid, apathetic, or mentally lazy. It’s our responsibility to know! If we genuinely don’t know, then we have to find out. If we do know then we have to take ownership.
Dec 11, 2019
#76 Are You Actually Doing What MUST Be Done?
I blew it. 10 years ago I wrote down in my journal the thing I knew I needed to do. But I didn’t do it. I had good reasons a.k.a. excuses. I told myself stories to justify and to rationalize why I couldn’t get it done. But the reality was I just didn’t do what I needed to do. When I finally got after it and did what I knew I needed to do, the results came right away! I wish I would’ve done them sooner. Wishing won’t change anything, but action will! And now I’m getting it done! Maybe you have done something similar. You knew you needed to do some things but you haven’t done them yet. It starts today! It starts right now. Do not procrastinate another moment. Get crystal clear about what you want to achieve and what you MUST do in order to get what you want.
Dec 09, 2019
#75 How to Get Into The BEST Health of Your Life And Stay There
Your body is your vehicle for life. Therefore much of the quality and outcome of your life will be determined by the condition of your vehicle. The more you care for your body the more you will get out of life! It’s totally possible in the next 12 months to get in the best health of your life and to stay there! And it’s far simpler than you think it is. But first you have to understand a few misconceptions and the main reasons why most people fail to get in the best health of their life and to stay there. If you want to be around for your kids and their kids and even their kids, make some changes today and stick to them for the rest of your long healthy life!
Dec 05, 2019
#74 Seven People You Need To Have In Your Life
We all need to have certain people our life, especially if we want to live an extraordinary family life! There are 7 people that we ideally want to have in our lives. 1. A friend 2. A partner 3. A dependent 4. Someone to serve 5. A cheerleader 6. A mentor 7. A coach
Dec 04, 2019
#73 Living With The Power of Gratitude
Gratitude is one of the most motivating forces in the world! When we are deeply grateful we take action. When we have gratitude for our bodies we take care of them better. When we have gratitude for our spouses we cherish them more. When we are grateful for our children we give them time and attention. When we are thankful for our jobs we work harder. Gratitude really is the great motivator! Let’s be giddy with gratitude! Appreciation is the highest form of energy and depreciation is the lowest form. Let gratitude radiate in you, from you and through you! Every day write down a few things you’re grateful for and write a quick note of gratitude to someone you were thankful for. You can’t be hateful when you’re grateful!
Dec 02, 2019
#72 How to Deal With Hurtful Words and Difficult Interactions
Whether it’s with your family or your friends or your coworkers, it can be hard to interact with other human beings. Sometimes it’s especially hard when you get together for family gatherings. And what do you do with the painful things that people say to you?! How do you prevent that from poisoning you?
Nov 24, 2019
#71 Never Settle For Less Than Your Best
Do you ever feel like you’re settling for less than you could be? Have you ever felt like you’re on a plateau just coasting to get through life? It’s actually easy to settle for less than our best. But the cost of that choice and those actions is a heavy heavy price! What is your full potential? What could you achieve if you really went after it? I you want to give you the tools and resources, the knowledge and skills to become your very best self!
Nov 18, 2019
#70 How to Build or Rebuild Trust
Trust is one of the most important things in all of our relationships and therefore in every part of our lives. We work with people and in order to work well with people whether in family or in business we have to trust. We need to be able to trust ourselves, trust others, and have others trust us. Do I trust myself? Do I trust others? Do others trust me? In order to trust yourself you have to make and keep commitments. I’ll trust is built on character, competence, and caring!
Nov 14, 2019
#69 How To Start Your Days With Power

The best way to have a productive day is to start it with Power! This principle applies to anyone and everyone, night owl or morning person, beginning your day off with a good start determines the success of your day.

How to start your morning with power:

1. Don't give in to the voices in your head!

"I'll just press snooze once" or "I'm just going to rest for a second" are both tricks of the mind that'll hook you into giving up what could have been a great morning! The key to defeating this is to make your decision the night before! When you hear that alarm hop up and be true to your intention.

2. Get up and move your body!

Some like to start with a workout, for others, it’s good to just stretch to get the body going. What you do with your body affects what you do with your mind. Get some water into your system, a big glass will help you get some energy. Getting into a healthy sleep routine is another big factor in helping you get up in the morning - to replenish. This habit will help you get good rest in and maximize your energy throughout the whole day.

3. Working on yourself is key to also helping others around you.

When you are a better version of yourself, you also become a better parent and spouse. Starting your day with power, forming that habit of working hard in the morning, will help you towards almost any goal you choose to make.

Make every single day great, after all, its what life is made of. Get the full training on how I have structured my morning routines and rituals for over 20 years. This has been the MAJOR determining factor in totally transforming my life. It's called How to Totally Transform Your Life... Before Breakfast.

Don't forget to check out these additional resources for helping you start and live your days with power!
Creating the Life You WANT to Live
G.O.A.L. -- Get Out And Live!
Bibliotherapy: The #1 Habit of Uber-Successful People

Nov 11, 2019
#68 Ambition and Balance
I hope you are ambitious! I hope you have big dreams and goals! I hope you are hungry to be your very best self and create and maintain your extraordinary family life! But don’t ever compromise your values, standards or the things that really matter most. It’s never worth it to achieve success in one area of life at the sacrifice of other important areas of life. What good is it to be successful and absolutely miserable?! The key then is to be ambitious and balanced, and by balanced I mean that you do not compromise the things that matter most
Nov 09, 2019
#67 How to Effectively Process Grief And Pain
Pain needs to be processed. That doesn't mean you 'get over' whatever happened, it means that you can healthily revive. Remember that in the end pain can turn into power.
Being in a negative, depressed state of mind for a long time can lead to unhealthy actions or other emotions. Sometimes people don't mean to take it out on those close to them, have a healthy outlet. Pain needs to be processed, it shouldn't be held, the burden needs to be set down. It doesn't mean its not there but it's the first step to having a lighter load while dealing with grief.
1) Process the pain, it's ok to cry. Let it out, talk to the wind, when exercising give it your all. Watch helpful movies, read good books. Some that can help are Gifts From the Sea by Anne Lindbergh and The Untethered Soul by Micheal Singer.
2) Talk to someone who won't feel burdened by it. Talk to a mentor or therapist who can help you process it.
3) Let go of 'things' in your life. If 'stuff' you have doesn't bring you joy, let it go. If you need to forgive, try if you need to apologize, do it - often.
When you let the pain out, your burden will be lighter. It doesn't mean you will forget, but you can begin to heal or keep the cherished memories. The process will take time but the outcome will be healing. If you want to talk, or need help processing grief, here are some good resources:
Sign up for Coaching
The Pain of Progress
Why You Need Both Order and Chaos in Your Life
My Worst, Loneliest Christmas
Nov 04, 2019
#66 Living Your Dream Life Comes Down to a Specific Ability
Talent is Overrated. It’s not about your raw talent. It’s not about whether you have the talent or not. The quality and outcome of your life is determined by a specific ability! And that ability is trainable! It is something you can acquire and improve with deliberate practice! But what is that ability and what does deliberate practice look like?
Nov 01, 2019
#65 Little Vices, Massive Consequences
We all do it to some degree or another. It’s easy. It’s almost unconscious. We discount the little things that seem make little or no difference. We tolerate the small vices and petty indulgences, thinking they have no affect. How wrong we are! Those little things are like termites—eating away at our potential and our power! “The foolish man thinks that little faults, little indulgences, little sins, are of no consequence; he persuades himself that so long as he does not commit flagrant immoralities he is virtuous, and even holy; but he is thereby deprived of virtue and holiness, and the world knows him accordingly; it does not reverence, adore, and love him; it passes him by; he is reckoned of no account; his influence is destroyed. The efforts of such a man to make the world virtuous, his exhortations to his fellow men to abandon great vices, are empty of substance and barren of fruitage. The insignificance which he attaches to his small vices permeates his whole character, and is the measure of his manhood: he is regarded as an insignificant man. The levity with which he commits his errors and publishes his weakness comes back to him in the form of neglect and loss of influence and respect: his is not sought after, for who will seek to be taught of folly? His work does not prosper, for who will lean upon a reed? His words fall upon deaf ears, for they are void of practice, wisdom, and experience, and who will go after an echo?” James Allen, Mind is The Master, 177
Oct 29, 2019
#64 Transform Insecurities Into Strengths
Do you have an insecurity that is holding you back from who you want to be and how you want to live? I used to have loads of them, and they were preventing me from progressing. So I learned how to lean into them and transform them into strengths. YOU CAN TOO! This episode is about how to take an insecurity and respond to differently so that it becomes a source of positive power for you to become your best self!
Oct 26, 2019
#63 Make Your Life More EXCITING And Enjoyable
It’s too easy to slip into the humdrum existence of taking care of the chores and the errands and doing the things that need to be done and losing the pure enjoyment of being alive. We have to be more strategic about making life more exciting more enjoyable and a lot more fun! If you’re not excited to get a beach day and you don’t have fun things scheduled something needs to change
Oct 22, 2019
#62 How to Be a POSITIVE Person in a Negative Culture

Negativity dulls our capacity for greatness, it hinders our potential. Everyone has had times where negativity gets deep into them, and then everything in their life gets dark. On the other hand, are there times where we have been truly optimistic and felt hope and joy? How do we keep that optimistic positivity in our life all the time?
Need some help to start thinking positively? How to Get Back Up and Recover When Life Knocks You Down   Beware Who You Follow 28-Day Challenge Creating the Life You REALLY Want to Live

  1. We have to let go of the past, we cant change it. However, we can change our future because of what we learned from it. Emerson said "Our eyes are placed on our forehead, not our hind-head." We were meant to look forward, to move on and to grow. Even when life is hard, we can still be leaders. "Being positive in a negative world isn't naïve, it's leadership."
  2. We radiate most of what we are. To help others around us we have to be happy. Cynicism is easy, choosing to be happy is hard - but all the more worth it. We have work on optimism like we so a muscle. We have to exercise it daily! Challenge: When you have a negative thought, immediately replace it with a positive one. If we do this over and over again, our mind will soon start going to the positive over the negative. (For a lot of us, this might help - Challenge: Stop watching the news!)

What we put into our bodies affects what we think and what we do, we need to fill our thoughts and bodies with good food, good books, and inspiring music. Great books show that even in the darkest of circumstances you can find light:

Need some help to start thinking positively? Here are some additional resources:
How to Get Back Up and Recover When Life Knocks You Down
How to Be Truly Calm, Even in Chaos
Live Your Priorities--Life is Too Short to Live Someone Else's 28-Day Challenge

Oct 15, 2019
#61 What it takes to pursue your potential
What is life? I think it’s a wonderful adventure of pursuing our potential! What does it take to pursue your potential? Well, there’s no easy answer to that question. It takes a lot of stuff and a lot of hard work but it’s worth every bit of it! In this episode I outline several essential steps to pursuing your unique personal potential.
Oct 10, 2019
#60 5 Ways to Address Your Problems, Difficulties, and Trials
Life will always present us with problems and challenges. It’s just part of the mortal experience. What we do about them and how we do it will determine the quality and final outcome of our lives. Here are five ways that we can deal with our problems challenges difficulties and obstacles
Oct 08, 2019
#59 How To Achieve BIG Dreams
There is a simple formula for achieving big dreams. Success leaves clues! Those who have achieved big dreams have followed a recipe that you can follow too. I challenge you to start dreaming big again and to draft a clear strategic plan to achieve those dreams. With the right training and the right skill set you can become unstoppable!
Oct 03, 2019
#58 Eliminate Unnecessary Suffering
Are you experiencing some kind of pain in your life right now? Maybe it’s emotional or social. Perhaps it’s mental or spiritual. Wherever it is, it distracts us from what’s most important and prevents us from being able to have a greater influence on those around us. Listen to this episode to find out how pain is preventing you from really living and what to do about it!
Sep 22, 2019
#57 New Podcast Name and Getting Clear on Your Personal Family Mission
We’re changing the name of the podcast! And helping you get more clarity and focus on what you’re pursuing and how to get it done!
Sep 16, 2019
#56 Watch Your Words—Understanding the true effects of sarcasm, mockery and jest.

Your words are more powerful than you realize they are! 

But most of us have been trained and conditioned -- through society and other people -- to use sarcasm and mockery all the time. We’re so used to it that we unconsciously and consistently make fun of others. 

But everything we say has an effect, and the effects of sarcasm and mockery are never positive.


If you're ready to take your life and family to the next level, sign up now for a one-on-one coaching session with Greg Denning.

Sep 14, 2019
#55 The Philosophy Journal—The best way to take back control of your life. Part 2

This episode gives you the details of how to create your own philosophy journal and why it’s so incredibly powerful in your life. Listen now and get started on your own philosophy journal!


If you're ready to take your life and family to the next level, sign up now for a one-on-one coaching session with Greg Denning.

Sep 09, 2019
#54 The Philosophy Journal—the best solution for your biggest problems. Part 1

You may not realize it yet, but most of your biggest problems are problems with your own personal philosophy. What you think about you bring about. What you believe you achieve. The best solution to your biggest problems is to seriously level up your personal philosophy!


If you're ready to take your life and family to the next level, sign up now for a one-on-one coaching session with Greg Denning.

Sep 07, 2019
#53 How to keep moving forward when life pushes you back

It’s too easy to give up hope and then to give up! Life can be tough. And it has a way of holding us down. But with a few simple strategies we can maintain perspective and keep moving forward!


If you're ready to take your life and family to the next level, sign up now for a one-on-one coaching session with Greg Denning.

Sep 05, 2019
#52 Your Statements and Stories Are Holding You Down

Most of us are quick to make statements that close our minds to opportunities and possibilities. We also create stories about why we CANNOT do the things we would really like to do. 

Fortunately, every one of you can replace your statements and stories with life altering questions. Instead of saying "I can’t afford that", ask yourself, "How could I afford that?"  Watch what happens to your mind and your life!


If you're ready to take your life and family to the next level, sign up now for a one-on-one coaching session with Greg Denning.

Aug 31, 2019
#51 Removing The Unnecessary Struggle And Strain From Your Life

Have you ever tried to get water to flow through a hose that is kinked? The water pressure is low and the hose isn't delivering to its full capacity.

There are two options. Turn up the water, or unkink the hose. If you choose to unkink, water flows effortlessly through at full pressure.

Did you know that you’re likely struggling and straining through life unnecessarily? Do you know why? Probably because you have never been taught how to NOT struggle when you don't need to. Some struggle is good and necessary. But some is caused because of 'kinks' in your 'hose'. 

There are simple, proven practices that will undo the kinks in your hose -- lighten the load you carry and give you wings to fly -- so you can stop trudging through the mud! 

Listen to this episode to learn a few simple strategies that will make a big positive difference in your life by helping you to work out the kinks that are causing unnecessary pain.

Aug 29, 2019
#50 Two Simple, Life-Changing Habits
There are two very simple yet powerful habits that I have been practicing for over 22 years that have brought so much joy and direction and purpose and meaning and happiness to my life! Anyone can do them and everyone should!
Aug 22, 2019
#49 Rewriting Your Life Story (so you can live the life you dream about)
Everyone of us has a story we tell ourselves and a manifesto that we have taken on as our identity. Unfortunately, many of our stories are negative and they keep a small and hold us back from being our best selves. The great news is that you have total power to re-write your story and re-create your identity!
Aug 19, 2019
#48 This is why you’re not getting the results you want and what to do to actually get them
Many people want different outcomes and results in their lives and may even be working really hard towards them but somehow just can’t seem to get the results they want. It may surprise you that the thing that needs to change is small and simple but critically important to getting the outcomes you really want!
Aug 17, 2019
#47 The little things that are keeping you from your big things
Most of us are holding on to some kind of little problem or challenge that has remained unresolved or not been taken care of and is causing a lot of irritation, pain and distraction! And some of you have armfuls of that stuff, and it’s keeping you from reaching your potential and being your best self.
Aug 12, 2019
#46 How To ACTUALLY Get What You REALLY Want
Many people have no idea what they want and even more people have no idea how to get it. Listen to this episode now to start figuring out what it is you really want and the proven step is to actually get it!
Aug 11, 2019
#45 What to do with the emotional pain—you all have some :)
We all experience emotional pain as we journey along through life but very few of us have been given the tools in the training to know what to do with it. So unfortunately most people turn to unhealthy patterns and behaviors and buffering. Listen to this episode to learn what you can do and how to do it and why you must!
Aug 06, 2019
#44 What will be your destiny? These things will determine it!
None of us knows our exact destiny. But our actions and habits most definitely open or close doors along our path. What you and I do day in and day out will determine whether we are prepared or not to take advantage of opportunities that come our way
Aug 03, 2019
#43 Epic Life Lessons From Mongolia
I recently returned from a life-changing adventure in Mongolia. While I was there I learned several great lessons that have really impacted my life and remind me about the things that really matter. These are the things that matter for all of us and can change your life too!
Jul 27, 2019
#42 Why You Are Struggling and What You HAVE TO Do About It

Many developing countries struggle with corrupt infrastructure. No clean water, electricity is a hit and miss, a garbage or sewage system is needed and an internet connection can be even harder to access. One rainstorm and the power is out for weeks.
Now let's apply this on a smaller level... How is our own Infrastructure? What are we missing?
Some of us are like developing countries, we are missing a few systems. Some light rain on our day and the rest of our afternoon is spoiled because of our bad attitude.
A good question to ask yourself is ' What is the point of me living in a developed country when I am underdeveloped?'
What are we doing to develop ourselves? To become more efficient? There are areas in our lives we can all work on, what are some big key attributes or emotions we need to work on?
Here are some resources to help you develop yourself:
Creating the Life You WANT to Live G.O.A.L. -- Get Out And Live!
Bibliotherapy: The #1 Habit of Uber-Successful People How to Totally Transform Your Life Before Breakfast

Jul 20, 2019
#41 Declaring Your Personal Independence
Too many of us are living lives of bondage, slavery and dependence! But we were born to be free! In fact, it’s impossible for us to reach our full potential when we are living in bondage. So today is your day to declare independence from the things that are holding you back!
Jul 04, 2019
#40 What are you building with your current focus, time and attention?
Every day we are building our life with the things we focus on and give our time and attention to. Unfortunately, many of us are building Sandcastles that will wash away with the tide. In this episode, you’ll learn how to become more aware of your choices and their outcomes and realize what unconscious choices have been causing problems in your life.
Jun 25, 2019
#39 Achievement Demands Sacrifice, But You’re Sacrificing The Wrong Stuff
There can be no real achievement without sacrifice but unfortunately most people are sacrificing the wrong things. So even if they achieve their goals, they are left without fulfillment and genuine satisfaction. In this episode I share the things that we must sacrifice and the things that we must never sacrifice
Jun 18, 2019
#38 Mindset, Heartset & Skillset part 3
Think about any problem in your life. Then ask yourself if it would be better or different if your skill set were 10 times better. Everything in life is influenced by our skills, or lack there of. This includes things that we usually don’t think are influenced or affected by our skills, like marriage, relationships, health and of course finances.
Jun 13, 2019
#37 Mindset, Heartset &Skillset part 2
Your heart set is your emotional power plant! Whether you are aware of it or not, whether you control it or not it generates tremendous amount of power and force in your life for good or for ill. The vast majority of our emotional troubles are the result of poor emotional management.
Jun 12, 2019
#36 Mindset, Heartset, & Skillset part 1
Every important aspect of our lives it’s affected by these three critical elements. In fact, look at any problem you are currently stuck in, andin and you’ll find a lack in one of these three areas. Part 1 is all about mindset and how you can transform your mindset to get the results you want in your life.
Jun 05, 2019
#35 The Path to Personal Peak Potential part 5
All of us are living far below our full potential. Your unique potential is like an entire continent completely unexplored and full of resources. As we get our lives in order and follow the progression through Maslow‘s hierarchy of needs we can then seek and pursue self actualization and reach for your full potential!
May 24, 2019
#34 The Path to Personal Peak Potential part 4

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs - Esteem: Respect, Status, Recognition, Strength and Freedom.

Strength: That's Real strength comes from within - but includes physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually etc.  Are you doing things that strengthen you or weaken you in your everyday life?  When you say you are getting up at 6AM and then the first thing you do when you wake up is press the snooze button.  Don't break your commitments to yourself.

Freedom: Being in a free country doesn't do you any good if you are a slave to yourself, your vices and your weaknesses.  How many problems are self inflicted? 

  • The biggest thing you can do to take away your own freedom is becoming captured by addictions.  Can't get off the screen (Instagram, Facebook, video games) pornography, drug abuse - the list goes on.  What are things in your life that limit you from spending time on making yourself better?  When you have an addiction, don't give up.  Look at Maslow's triangle and get those bottom tiers back in order.  Make different habits and seek help to break those addictions.
  • Remember, Prevention is the best protection.  If you already hang around good friends who don't encourage you to do things that hurt you or prevent you from becoming better, you are already avoiding bad habits. 

Recognition and Status:  This doesn't have anything to do with ego.  This is gaining respect from others by doing good things and helping them.  Or even if they see you changing to become better, that inspires them. 

  • Real recognition that isn't artificial, doesn't come from stuff.  Your nice car may get you some recognition but it's not admiration for who you are, it's for your stuff.

Respect:  When you don't take care of yourself or your belongings, it shows a lack of respect.  It is impossible to have a healthy intimate relationship with anyone if you do not respect yourself or others.  

  • If you don't even respect yourself, then level up! Set standards for yourself and follow through.  Though your self worth is not connected to your goals or your failures.
  • Influence is never automatic, it's earned.  When we become a parent we expect our kids to respect us, but really we need to show them what a good person to respect looks like.  

Other resources:

Help your youth learn how to be successful 

Are you addicted to your friends?

Human beings not human doings

May 20, 2019
#33 The Path to Personal Peak Potential part 3

What things are we doing that are completely unnecessary and robbing us of life? Do we get upset too easily? Too much screen time? Keeping up with the Jones? Are we prioritizing the wrong things?

Here we are at the third tier of Maslow's Hierarchy of needs: Love and Belonging.  This includes Friendship, intimacy, family and sense of connection. 

>>In order to thrive, we have to love and be loved.  Don't put up walls, you have to be a little vulnerable.  Don't let the fear of loosing a connection keep you at a distance from everyone.  Learn and grow, don't let it stunt you. 

You can reach a new level of relationship you didn't even know was out there. Understand that there are new levels to reach that maybe you have never had or seen before that are wonderful. The limit of your current skill set doesn't mean that 'thats just the way things are.'  Thankfully there are better things to come that we don't know about yet - but we are the only ones who can get that for ourselves.

>> You can tell what a real friend is by how they love you and try to help even when it is you that's failed.  You would do the same for them. 

Going deeper then friendships there is marriage.  You open up to your spouse more than anyone. You get to know each other and build your amazing marriage together. 

>>The science experiment with the fleas.  Fleas can jump 200 times their height.  To see what happened, they put a couple dozen fleas in a little jar with a lid. The fleas jumped and hit the top.  Later when the jumped they could stop without hitting the top.  After they were taken out of the jar, the sky was the limit again.   They could only jump as high as that lid prevented them even when they were out of the confined space.  The lesson is that even the offspring could only jump as high as the parents. 

  • What are the low limits we set for ourselves?  When we reach the end of our skill set and say 'thats all I can do.' We can pass that onto our kids when we don't even notice it. Where do we put artificial ceilings?

Challenge:  What can you do to strengthen your marriage or friendship with someone this week? 

Other resources:

You are either working on your marriage... or your divorce. 

How to actually connect with people

Thats when I committed to an extraordinary marriage

May 10, 2019
#32 The Path to Personal Peak Potential, Part 2

The next level of Maslow's Hierarchy of needs is safety needs.   So many people get stuck on this level too - they could be free if only they knew they were enslaved. 

These are the areas in our life that we need to keep in order, what are some ways that they are thrown out of balance?

Resources:  Your greatest resource is your ability to be resourceful! Your own ability to accomplish and achieve.  There are people out there who are highly capable of amazing things. However, they have a deadly Achilles heel.  A situation or problem that they can't handle and it ends up getting them.  Make sure you have those resources that help you get back on your feet. Whether its people or an outlet, keep on your toes!

Employment:  Obviously having an income is key to surviving.  Going deeper than that what is crisis in employment?  Perhaps when we start to doubt your worth or abilities.  That can happen when we aren't feeling fulfilled in our jobs or roles.  What could you be doing everyday to help your improvement in employment?

Health: Includes Emotional, Physical, Mental, the list goes on.  There are so many young adults out there who have failed to launch.  They are capable but unprepared for adulthood and it's responsibilities.  Like that Achilles heel we talked about, they are strong but ultimately they need more help.  There is also a ton of anxiety and depression out there.  Don't let fear get the best of you, learn how to process your emotions.

Property:  Besides the fact that your property could get stolen, ruined or lost, which is a pretty terrible thought, what importance are they? Is our connection with our possessions so strong that it effects our relationship with people? If you could choose your phone or never speaking to a loved one again, we would probably ditch the phone.  Then why, everyday, do we  choose to spend more unproductive time on our phone than with people we love?  Who would we be without our possessions?  Be deeper than material belongings.

Other resources:

You are not free when you are caged by these thoughts

These five things will make or break your life!

Overcoming addiction and bad habits

May 04, 2019
#31 The Path to Personal Peak Potential, Part 1

What is the purpose of life? To pursue your potential in every area of your life.

Maslow's Hierarchy of need:  Different steps you need to have in order for you to eventually be in a successful state to reach your potential. 

  1. Physiological Needs like food, water, shelter, clothes and sleep. Most of us pass this one off immediately, but look closer...
  • Food: What quality of food are you putting into your body?  Is it junk food? Eating unhealthy food prevents you from having more energy.  It slows you down, you get out of shape and it simply is terrible for you! Eating healthy food where you know whats in it, will help you get into shape, get energy, feel powerful and confident.
  • Sleep: How much sleep are you getting? As parents of young kids or students, it is common to have nights where we don't get much.  Nonetheless, even with a rough night you can still get up and have energy to get things done.  When you are able to lay day and get some rest, have it be quality sleep.  Put ear plugs in, get a warm blanket and have your surrounding be dark.  
  • Shelter: Is your home, office, bedroom or wherever you are most of the time, inspiring to you?  Is it clean and free from clutter?  Do you have good pictures and quotes on the wall? as Henry David Thoreau says "Our possessions possess us."  So what do we choose to own?
  • Clothing: Do your clothes make you feel sloppy?  Have clothes that help you feel successful and confident about yourself.  A sloppy outfit brings sloppy behavior.  Dress to impress every day.  Do you maybe have too many clothes?  Donate some, get clothes that help you accomplish what have come to get done!

This is only the first level of five! Each of these is a foundation that helps you level up, to build and make something more of yourself that just living and breathing!

Other Resources:

The cause of your problems isn't what you think it is!

This simple thing is holding you back

The difference between average and awesome

Apr 27, 2019
#30 Refuse to live a Default Life
"We do not rise to the level of our expectations, we fall to the level of our training." - Archilochus  We automatically become who we do not want to be as human beings. How?  By never moving away from default.  When somebody provokes us, we react and get angry.  When things don't go how we wanted them to we get frustrated.  When somebody is rude, we are rude back.  This is our automatic reaction to many different situations in life.  By default we become who we do not want to be.   To rise from that, you have to be deliberate!  You have to learn how to make calmness your reaction when someone is angry at you.  Walk the higher road. We want to be outstanding above the normal roads everyone takes.  We have to set goals, make our self do hard things to be better and tougher.  Input = output.  What actions are we taking to make ourselves better?  Do we know what we are going to work on every single day?  We should have stressful times, then recovery - over and over again.  We reach higher and higher until we can be cool, collected and strong under huge amounts of pressure.  We improve ourselves. Switch off automatic, map out your plan to who you want to be and work to get there! Other Resources:  Challenging the limiting beliefs that hold you back You can play the Victim or be the Leader, but you Cannot be Both. How your fears are Sabotaging your opportunities
Apr 25, 2019
#29 This is what generosity REALLY looks like

When people are cruel, they are just passing on the degradation in themselves.  On the other hand, when people are kind, they are passing on the goodness in themselves. 

Be generous make a difference, there is always a way to be kind to others.

While the Dennings were in Costa Rica, money was tight.  Even though they were in a tough spot, they saw others who were living in an even worse condition. What could they do to help?  They got friends back in the states to donate hundred of books for this villages school!  They made a bookshelf and had become close to a specific family living there.  Greg and Rachel had gotten a few really nice books they wanted them to read, as soon as he handed them to this family, the mother started shouting at the neighbors to come and see.  Greg was astonished, he didn't have anymore books and didn't necessarily want everyone to know that he had just given out a special few.  He asked her why she immediately wanted to share?  The mother said "Today is my special day, I want to share it.  I know that when I am having a bad day they will share their happy days with me too."

Other resources:

How to Access the Power to Change your Life 

You could be the one who Saves another person!

Here's whats required if you want to make a difference in the lives of others

Apr 14, 2019
#28 The Number 1 reason why so many good people are failing to succeed in life!

Accomplishing hard things is a huge blessing in life.  It is way better to do hard things than to be sheltered and never step foot into the unknown.  Tough life thoughts: Sometimes life isn't hard, we have just gotten weak. 

 If we makes ourselves sheltered and avoid hard experiences then when little things come, we fall apart.  Like going for a five mile run when you are out of shape.  Five miles isn't long, most people can do it even at a slow pace - but when you are out of shape it's a lot harder to do then if you were fit.  So the same is with life.

When life gets easy, choose challenges! People who are tough have learned how to endure. Here is another analogy:  Say you have some friends that cant swim, as soon as they can no longer touch the bottom, it becomes life threatening.  For those who can swim, it's a normal fun day at the pool.  Though lets say we were dropped three miles offshore, would we probably would need to be picked up.  For a professional swimmer, three miles is the warm up!

Train yourself into toughness - do the hard things.

Other Resources:

Check out Greg's life changing trips!

Push your limits to reach your goals

Don't be a loser!

Apr 13, 2019
#27 How to Be Less Prejudiced and Racist And More Compassionate and Open-Minded

 There are a lot of good books, experiences and places that you could go to learn about the way some people live.  Those experiences can be tough, those books can be harsh and the places can be very dark.  

You shouldn't live in ignorance but some things you avoid.  There is a book called Left to Tell, about the terrible tribal wars in Africa.  It is a book that opened up understanding for those people, but its a really tough read.  Understand those around you that maybe you don't know a whole lot about.

There are refugees all around the world, they are getting nearer and nearer, maybe we should read up on their culture and lifestyle.  How can we expand our world view to help those around us?

Don't stick your head in the sand and be oblivious to whats going on outside of your circle.  Because our world view and understanding is so limited, it brings about prejudices and racism.  If we understood the desperate people, those who are ignorant and uneducated, I think all those previous prejudices would go away to see the life they got. 

We are all humans on a journey together.  Diversity is a good thing but the differences do not mean we should separate or objectify those people because they are not like us. 

There is another book called And there was light about a young blind man leading a resistance against the Nazi's.  He even said that those who have sight are at a disadvantage because they judge.  The size of people, the color, the age the clothing etc.  Would racism be a problem if we were all blind? 

Challenge: Get rid of prejudices in your own life. 

Other Resources:

How to Create a culture of love and peace at Home 

How to Stop caring about what Others Think

How to Protect your Home from Negative outside Influence

Apr 07, 2019
#26 What to do when life gets hard

The best cure when you feel like throwing a pity party is serving others.  Love others, read good books that you can learn from and realize that you aren't alone. Failure isn't final. 

We strive to be green and growing. Sometimes we feel like a seed in the ground fighting in the darkness to break to the surface. Keep growing, you will make it. 

It's in the darkness that you see things.  When you are in the lights its easy to know what  you want, but some things only illuminate when its pitch black.  The stars are a beautiful sight, but cannot be seen during the day. 

  • Do you know anyone who walks through the 'darkness' well?  When they are in the midst of adversity they have trained themselves to think differently, change and overcome the trials humbly and without complaint.  That is how we want to be.  We roll with the punches and grow from them. 

Feel the pain love the pain.  Feeling pain is a sign that you are getting stronger, take it and grow with it.  Remember this when parenting, you want your kids to have struggles and to overcome those problems.  They have to get stronger as they grow up, adulthood is a smack in a the face for most youth, don't make it any harder.  Love them but don't take their problems away, it makes them stronger. 

A quote from JFK says "Do not pray to have easier lives, pray to be stronger men. Do not pray for your tasks to equal your power, pray that your power will equal your tasks, then the doing of your work shall be no miracle, you will be the miracle." 

Let the trials refine us, not define us. Go into the trial wanting to learn something from it, don't make your suffering in vain.  You are meant to learn and grow, this is how it's done.  Life's most powerful teachers are love and pain. 

A line from Marcus Aurelius says "The mind adapts and converts to its own purposes the obstacle to our acting. The impediment to the actions advances actions."  When you have things trying to stop you, realize that it's not an opportunity to quit, its one to keep going and get stronger.

Other resources:

How can I stay Motivated to do the things I Need to Do? 

How to be more authentic

What your actions are really saying

Mar 31, 2019
#25 The 3 Non-negotiable Elements of an Awesome Sauce Life

This episode is just taking the three C's of individual development more in depth:

  1. Coaches: If you want a good coach, make sure they practice what they preach.  Don't get a health coach that is out of shape, or a marriage counselor that has been divorced twice.  
  • Remember, you don't need a coach just because something in your life is broken.  If you and your spouse want to improve on your marriage, there is nothing wrong with getting a counselor to try and see what you can do to make it even better.  Even the best Olympic athletes have coaches, and that's not because they are bad, its because they are trying to be the best.
  • You just need to get a coach, it doesn't have to be Greg, but go help yourself improve your life!

      2. Community: You become like the five people you spend the most time with.  They effect your world view, and how you act and think.  Surround yourself with people that lift you up, not the friends you can go out and do dumb stuff with.  Stay with those people who make you better and in that group you lift each other up.

     3. Competition: Healthy competition is good for us all.  It makes us strive to do our best performance.  To show up and get it done!

  • Loosing or winning should no be connected to our self worth.  When we loose, it doesn't mean that you are less of a human being than the winner.  It should help you want to get better!  Keep working at it and trying!
  • Another thing about competition is most races should be against yourself.  Strive to a better person than you were the day before.  Stick closer to your goals and reach further then your past self would. 

Look at different areas of your life to see where you should apply one or more of the three C's. 

Other resources:
If you would like Greg as a coach click to check it out!

Great People have Mentors

Leaving Smallville- How to think Bigger

Mar 29, 2019
#24 Making The Most of Yourself

You can tell a lot about a person by how they treat and take care of themselves.  We all have an obligation to work on ourselves more than anything else.  Good Input = Good Output, (and vice versa) are you building yourself up or tearing yourself down?

Time is precious.  Don't waste it! Henry David Thoreau says "As if you could kill time without injuring the eternities."  Time is what life is made up of, if you waste time, then you don't know the true meaning of your life!  There are so many things to learn and do, more amazing books that you could read in a life time.

There are so many people out there who do the "have to's" like going to their job all day so that when they get home, they don't have to do productive work anymore.  Many people think of retirement simply as a time in their life where they don't 'have' to do anything! Your time is so much more valuable than that!  Don't slip into "this is just the way I am" when you are wasting your potential to be so much more. 

Plan it out, make goals in all areas of your life.  When you level up let's say in the  'physical' category by getting into shape and having more energy, you will find that you are doing better in other areas of your life because of that boost. On you can get a copy of Greg's planner and get started on your goals. 

When you have the mindset making the most of yourself, you need to incorporate these three things:

  1.  You need to get a coach.  It can be anyone who lifts you up, shows you how to get things done and motivates to keep you on top of things.
  2. Surround yourself with a good community. Being around people with the same vision as you.  They want to bring people up! 
  3. Add a little healthy competition.  Usually it's against yourself, but  have deadlines or competitions for you to get yourself motivated and finished.

Other Resources:

If I can do it so can you! Reaching your potential!

The Key to a more meaningful life

Are you Preparing for your Future?

Mar 24, 2019
#23 Every good thing in your life will come from this one commitment!

We are all aware of our weaknesses.  Becoming a better person is a simple mindset shift to say "Ok, I'm going to work on those."  Make a plan, get it done! Never settle when you are working on yourself. 

In fact everything good in your life will come from personal development! You will have a better marriage, family, job and relationships!  Everyday you have to fuel that motivation and energy to work on yourself and meet your goals.  Don't go to bed unless you have learned something new!  Keep yourself healthy, track what goes into your mind and your body. 

We all have this little voice in our head, though it tends to be negative a lot of the time.  Train the voice in your head to say positive things.  Have a life philosophy.  How do you see the world, what do you want to learn more about it? How will that help you get a growth mindset?

Challenge: Come on the quest for personal development, never stop becoming a better person. 

Other resources:

Check out Greg's upcoming adventures!

Want more help to get started?

What to do when you don't feel like it

Mar 20, 2019
#22 Living Your Legend

Life is not one grand event, it's a journey.  In the book The Alchemist, it talks a lot about finding your dream, more specifically, pursuing your legend.  All of our stories are different but we all have common denominators, the best one the triumph of achieving what we set out to do. 

 Day in and day out, what are we doing to make our legend happen?  Every single say we should be taking a step forward. Big step or baby steps, keep moving upwards. 

Do you even know what your legend is? If not, thats ok!  Your job is to figure it out, there is still no reason for you not to move forward. Getting the little things done are a must do, sometimes little things just have to get done.  However, if those little things get in the way of you getting to the big things, prioritization is needed!

Challenge: Take a step every single day in the direction of your legend, achieving your life's purpose. 

(Join Greg on one of his adventures!  Let the world change you!)

Other resources:

Your life is your story - Live it!

How to make your life memorable

Mar 15, 2019
#21 Never treat people this way, especially when you’re in a leadership position!

Seems to be that going through security into any country can be a nightmare the U.S., the UK, Hungry you name it.  

Something that seems to be a common thread between all these stories is that once someone has a little bit of power or authority, they tend to abuse it.  The people that are going through security are completely at the mercy of the person with the badge.  How come sometimes people use that to their advantage unnecessarily?

In some way, we all have power and authority.  Do we abuse that power? Like in positions at work, remember that you manage 'things' and lead people.  Never think of people as 'under you.'  Be grateful for the position and the opportunity you are seen to be a leader.  In that position, we have the chance to spread good, so be extra kind.  You have a group who you have the responsibility to serve and lead. 

It's easy to say "I am kind to people but I work with such knuckle heads!" It's not uncommon for someone to think they are the only ones who got it right.  Let people share their opinions and see how you can improve together.  Gentle persuasion goes a long way, deal with people in kindness looking for a solution, not to just be right. 

Challenge: Be intentional about being unfailing kind - to make people feel understood, seen and heard.

How would things change for you if you were more compassionate and respectful with those you work with?  There is a great quote from C.S. Lewis that says "You never interact with a mere mortal." Every human being is cherished.

Other Resources:

How to Remove your Ego - It wasn't Invited!
Don't be Hypersensitive, Face the Facts
How to make more Friends Wherever you Go!

Mar 13, 2019
#20 How to remove judgment, racism, prejudice and enmity from your life.

Enmity:  The state or feeling of being actively opposed or hostile to someone or something. 

We should not feel enmity towards other people,  in fact we should judge ourselves by how we treat people who are unkind to us.  Turn the other cheek. 

Something that the Nazi's focused on was to outcast 'types' of people.  Hitler mainly hated the Jews and incorporated that hate into society.   Slowly he got the majority of the population to hate the Jews, amongst many others.  He had no tolerance for people who weren't like him. 

When you listen to someones personal story, only then can you understand why that individual does, acts or speaks the way they do.  We can't judge them for what we have heard about them through the grape vine.  Do your own research, in fact to really get to know a person or a people, you have to live among them.  See how many misconceptions there really are about them.

Understand people how they are, not how you are.

Challenge: Join the cause to try and connect people instead of separate them.  Shouldn't we all be looking for a solution to help each other? What can we do to get people to come together instead of sit on what has already been said?

A quote from Thomas Payne  says: "The world is my country, all mankind are my brethren and to do good is my religion."

Other resources:

Stop Making Excuses and Start Reaching for Your Potential!
Challenge the limiting beliefs that are holding you back
Stop Segregating people with your Words, Actions and Attitudes.

Mar 11, 2019
#19 Cultivating the Courage to Pursue Your Goals and Dreams

Encourage your dreams. If you can't change the world yet, what can you do to change your world? Courage is the only thing you need to reach your dream, to change your world. Is money stopping you? Then make a good business/money/savings goal! Is it your fear of travel? Try a small road trip or get on a plane the next time you have to go anymore. 

When you reach for your dreams, there are those who will automatically want to bring you down. A lot of the time, its those who are closest to you. Sometimes you have to let it roll off your back, make your goals and get after them! With great reward, there is great risk. So how do we get the skill set to accomplish our goals? 

Here is the Challenge: Do what scares you! When you do things that scare you, you become more courageous. You grow, you become powerful. You can become fearless. Sometimes its your lack of understanding that makes you scared, when looking into a fear makes it less scary. Either way, it needs to be conquered! 

Final Challenge: Make a list of things that scare you and do them! Get a group of friends that are supportive or will even do it with you.

Here are additional resources to help you feel joyful and happy more often: 

Creating the Life You WANT to Live G.O.A.L. -- Get Out And Live! 

Using Family Vision Boards to Strengthen Family Culture 

Habits of a Successful Family Extraordinary Family Life Group Coaching

Feb 27, 2019
#18 Your moral obligation to become your best self

 You never graduate from learning. Though, sometimes we feel childish when we get to start something new.  Very few adults learn new talents.   Why is it that when we get older we think that because we never had the chance when we are young, that we missed it?  We didn't miss it, we are afraid of the discomfort that will come from starting something new.  You are never to old to be a rookie!  

We all need to develop the habit of becoming a voracious learner.  Even if we are in a comfortable spot, there seems to be something that keeps pushing us forward.  That something that says we should keep going to keep getting better. 

When we settle into reality and give up on our dreams, when really we are just reaching the end of our skill set and our knowledge base.  Most people accept that as the end of learning for them, that there is no way to get past the fact that all throughout life you can be doing things that are new!  You have limited skills, but unlimited times to attempt something new.  The thought that we can no longer do things past our natural skill set are self imposing. 

The common denominator of success talks about how successful people are willing to do the things that unsuccessful people aren't.  It's that simple - do the hard things! There is a acronym for that! - CAVI = Consistent and vigorous improvement. You can improve any skill by following that.

It is unethical to keep yourself from your potential.  You are stealing your skill set away from people in your circle of influence.  Say you have an unhealthy eating problem, are there better things you could be doing if you were fit?  You would have more energy to be a better parent and spouse. You are limiting yourself.  You are taking your talents away from those who are closest to you because you could be helping them! 

There is a French saying, Noblesse Oblige.  Which means that with nobility comes obligation, with what you are given you are expected to give. 

This isn't to guilt trip you and remind you of all the things you aren't doing so great on.  This is to remind you who you truly can be.  To show you your worth and influence as an individual can help so many people if you choose to unleash it!

Other Resources:

How to Work on yourself to Create a Life you Love
How to Be Productive - Learn how to Get It Done!
How to Overcome Fear

Feb 20, 2019
#17 So there I was—Crazy stories and important lessons

Drove from Dallas, TX all the way to New York City.  When he found he couldn't get a job or even get into school, he called a buddy and that friend drove all the way up to get him!  They almost crashed on the way home, but neither were injured. 

With another buddy, they were on a road trip out west and crossed the Colorado River.  They decided they were going to jump.  They were 100-150 feet in the air. Both Greg and his friend landed on a slant and ended up bruising all up and down their legs and arms. 

While staying with a coach, Greg was home alone and had an allergic reaction.  His eyes swelled up and his throat started to close.  He was gasping for breath and called his sister for help.  They both rushed to the ER and she dragged him in.  To keep Greg alive they had to give hi multiple adrenaline shots and of course a ton of benadryl. Kept him alive!

Life Lessons: 

  1. You cant control everything, you do your best and push through to get to your goals. 
  2. Life is delicate.  Our lives are very fragile and you have to spend the wisely, don't do things to hurt your body. (Don't make dumb decision!)
  3. You have to connect that your choices will always bring consequences.  If you make good choices you will get good consequences. 
  4. Reality checks come, use them to make a better future from the things you learn. 

Other Resources:

Life Lesson from a Snowman
If we are all as honest as the Milk Lady in Germany
The only way so Succeed at Anything

Feb 16, 2019
#16 Will You Be a Part of This Problem, Or Its Solution?!

What group or people do we de-humanize?  Democrats? Republicans? Muslims? Black people? White people? The list goes on, why do we objectify people? 

During WW2 the Germans strategically under social strategy got the general population to dehumanize many groups of people. People with brown hair, the elderly, the handicapped and mainly the Jews.  That society thought they were better and the slide started slowly.  First it was shunning them, then it was abusing them, then it was plundering and finally it was all out violence and genocide. 

What are parallels in our society today? What prejudices do we hold against groups of people? It's not necessarily about loving a certain group of people to death, but respecting all persons.  No matter where they are from, what color their skin is or what religion they practice.  If they are a human being then you will find similarities!

Don't pass judgement when you see people.  Realize that from your misunderstandings, you judge.  You don't know what they have been through, what their story is or how they got to the place they are at.  You don't know what another persons life has been like, you do not have the right to judge their persons.  Obviously, stay safe, if they seem to have bad intentions then simply stay away, but no need to pass eternal judgements on people. 

Sometimes we can be so cruel and we don't even know it.  What do we say or do because we think that 'they' are different than us?  We are ignorant of the things we haven't been through. Realize that all you are seeing is a specific side of that person.

From Les Miserables by Victor Hugo, talks about how terrible things happen with innocent people!  Society passes harsh treatments on desperate but kind people.  We don't know their story, we don't know them.

We should be part of the solution, not the problem. 

Other Resources:
Greg Denning Trips!
Leaving Smallville- How to Think and Live Bigger
Your Ignorance is Astounding

Feb 16, 2019
#15 Choose your love and love your choice

Greg and Rachel met in college, you could say Greg was struck at first sight.   Growing up Greg didn't have a lot examples of what a good marriage should look like, or if it was even possible.  In his late teens he was terrified of talking to girls, so in his early twenties he pushed himself to date a lot and meet a lot of people.  He had a list of qualities he wanted his spouse to have, he was dating deliberately. 

Later to find they were both dating deliberately.  On their first date, Rachel didn't talk a lot.  Greg tried to keep the conversation going but she was so quiet! Later to find that she wanted him to do the talking so she could find out what type of guy he really was.  She wanted to know what was important to him and see what kind of things he wanted to know about her.   Each of them had their way of seeing what the other valued. 

Choose your love, then love your choice. Love isn't something you just 'fall into' then 'fall out of.'  Love is deliberate, when you agree to get married, that should automatically mean that divorce is out of the question.  You will make it work, you love each other. 

Life is lived on an incline, if you aren't working on your marriage, by default, you are working on your divorce.  You have to keep up with it, you should be best friends with your spouse! 

When both husband and wife are working on themselves, it makes their marriage so much better.  When you are both working on ways to improve, it makes it easier to roll with the punches.  Pay close attention to what your spouse really likes,  what is their favorite kind of food? What music do they like? Find ways to serve the ones you love. 

Other resources:

Greg Denning Course: How to have an Extraordinary Marriage
Building Something that Lasts: Having a strong Moral Foundation

#1 Secret to Improving your Marriage

Feb 14, 2019
#14 How to Feel Joyful and Happy Most of The Time

Emotion is the driving force in our lives. So it's helpful to ask, "What emotion do you feel most of the time? Is that how you WANT to feel?" 

The first thing to do that clears a lot of emotional space is to forgive! Let small things roll off your back. Work on letting the big things go, it will take time but having that freedom will all be worth it. Forgiveness is for you, no for the other person. 

If emotion is a choice, choose the better option! Henry David Thoreau said, "Most men live in quiet desperation and go to graves with their song still in them." Having anger inside keeps much more than just that. 

Forgiveness and peace is something we all want, sometimes we have to start with the hard things to get over. Challenge: Choose your emotions and let go of the negative ones! Clear space for you to get those positive emotions back into your life. Remember "Little things bother little people." Emotion is so important and having it be a positive driving force in our lives is key.

Here are additional resources to help you feel joyful and happy more often:
Creating the Life You WANT to Live 

G.O.A.L. -- Get Out And Live! 

Using Family Vision Boards to Strengthen Family Culture 

Habits of a Successful Family 

Extraordinary Family Life Group Coaching

Feb 13, 2019
#13 Forgiveness is for you, not for them.

When someones poor choice effects you, it's hard not to react in an outburst, or hold it against them.  People carry hate for people their entire lives. Maybe you are in the right, but how does keeping that chip on your shoulder help you?  

A time comes where you have to move on, not to take that anger with you anymore.  It's not good to bottle emotions, its healthy to release them. 

Sometimes You get so boiled up that you forget that you must forgive to move forward.  Carrying that emotional burden on your shoulders is heavy, takes up space and can even manifest itself physically. Forgive and set all your baggage down. 

"Bitterness is a poison you swallow, hoping your enemy will die." 

Let it out, then let it go.  What is your healthy outlet? Exercise? Music? There are many outlets that help you get rid of the negative emotions that are hurting you.  You cant change the past but you can change the way you see the past.  Where there is pain there is power.  What have you learned from it?  You have to let it go if you want to move forward. 

Other resources:
The Difference between Happy and Unhappy People
When to let go and when to Fight On!
What you Plant in your Mind, Comes out in your Life

Feb 08, 2019
#12 Broken Bones, shootings, and obesity. Life lessons from strange stories.

Caution! Awesome stories and reality checks lay ahead!

 While playing football, Greg's hand got smashed between two helmets and broke four metacarpals.  When he saw that his back up wasn't doing too well, he headed back into the game. broke his leg. 

  • What do we take for granted every day?! Movement of our fingers and legs? Mobility to do what we want? Reality checks are important to see how much we really have.

At fourteen years old, he was with some friends and a fight broke out about racism.  A full blown brawl happened in the parking lot. Worst came to worst, someone pulled out a gun and started shooting.  Lots of people ended up in the hospital that night. 

  • Do you de-humanize any group of people?  Every person has a story.  Who do we hate in our ignorance? Black people? White people? Muslims? Christians?  We are all people and should treat each other as such!

Left with his older brother from his home as a mid teen.  They road the Greyhound bus from Dallas, Texas all the way to upstate New York.  Ran into people who tried to get them unto clubs, selling drugs and drinking all as young teens.  They saw the outcome of those who did and chose not to partake in any of it!

  •  As we are watching Greg's podcasts now, we probably haven't been in much if any, of these situations before.   With fortune comes responsibility.  There are so many people who were born into a crummy situation and those who can help them need to be compassionate to them.  We have been blessed- not by actions of our own, they have started off crummy of no fault of their own either.  When growing up we all end up different people because of our upbringing.  What can you do to help the less fortunate? The people in real need?

Other helpful resources: 

Help Those who are Carrying Heavy Loads in Life
View Others with the Eye of Wisdom and Compassion
Number One Reason to Take Care of YOUR Body!

Feb 08, 2019
#11 You Have The Power To Choose How You Do Life

Everyday you have the choice to between mediocrity and excellence. 

When Greg was just twelve years old, he was out late in a bad part of town with some friends.   He ended up getting beat up pretty bad by some older teenagers.  In that moment, as a kid, he was the victim.  Then from the moment after that, he chose not to be the victim again.  He chose to learn some martial arts and workout.  

He still travels world to all sorts of places! "We are cautious but I refuse to live in fear."

We have opportunities to choose every single day.  Every moment we choose what we feel and how we react.  Now we don't play the victim, we have the blessed gift to choose and by playing the victim you are giving up your power to do that, to your life!

To live the life we want to live we have to choose deliberately.  Don't let life lead you, you lead it.  The quality of your life comes down to the little choices you make every single day.  So make those choices count!

Helpful resources:
These stories you're telling yourself are ruining your life!
What to do when you don't feel like it
Make each day count

Feb 05, 2019
#10 The Common Denominators Of Disaster

The common thread of how people end up at rock bottom.  How do people's lives crumble and ultimately lead to the giant train wreck at the end of the tunnel? 

The cause has been around since humans first began. Juvenal, a Roman poet, was alive for the downfall of Rome and wrote about the pitfalls in that society.  Translated from Latin his phrase is "bread and cheap circuses." 

  Roman leadership wanted the public to follow them blindly and began their quest to dull the public.  How was it done? Cheap bread and circuses.  They gave the population the basic needs of life and slowly led them to ignorance. Cheap bread and circuses can be explained as: "To generate public approval, not by excellence, public service or policy, but by diversion, distraction or satisfying the most immediate and base requirements of the populace." 

See an similarities between then and now? Many. The media is huge, panic news is on 24/7 in stores and households, celebrities and their movies dominate our free time, video games have sucked in [young] adults to the point where they have become incapable of social interaction or fulfilling their talents and to what extent? This is cheap circuses.  We are being consumed by these screen addictions for 'cheap' entertainment. 

Challenge: Track how much time (and perhaps money) you spend on entertainment.  The average screen time in the American household is stunningly high.  Whats something better we could be doing with our time? What are we blindly being led to be addicted to?  When we spend so much time on screens, we are entertained but it doesn't lead to happiness, or joy.  It can turn into other substance abuse, porn addictions and deep depression. 

This doesn't mean that screens are of the devil and should never be used.  We want to have fun, and in our culture it's usually sitting down watching TV. But what are some other productive activities that you can have fun while doing?   What is something that is fulfilling yet brings happiness in your life?  

  1. Hobbies that you can teach your kids
  2. Start family traditions
  3. learning a new language
  4. reading and learning from a great book 

There are so many other things that you can do to bring success in your life without seeking the easy flow of cheap entertainment. 

Other great insights!

Feb 02, 2019
#9 Creating Your Extraordinary Life Plan

At the end of our life, most hope to say it was meaningful, filled with love and accomplished. Whatever your goal is, your passion to complete, you need more than ambition to get there! You need a game plan. You have to know where you are. You have to know where you are going. If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. 

Goals and plans in your life will lead you to places you never thought you would go, success you never knew you could have. If you have a well-structured plan, some grit and self-discipline, you are well on your way. 

How to start a successful plan: 

1. Ask yourself the right questions. Where do you stand on your goal? Is it a S.M.A.R.T goal? When do you plan on completing it and how does it help you grow? What will this goal bring you closer to? What area of your life will be positively affected by it? How will this help others around you? 

2. Have the right answers. The right answers always align with your values and desired outcomes. Study the lives of great men and women. What did they do to attain the success you hope to have? 

3. Take the right actions. You cannot get to where you are going if you do not know where you need to be. Go through your day and ask yourself why you do what you do. Do you really need to spend that much time eating lunch? Or on social media? Albert Grey states "If you don't deliberately form good habits, then you unconsciously (automatically) form bad ones." We simply must be intentional about forming good daily habits. Every day you should do at least one thing that moves you in the direction of your dreams. Get your game on! 

Here are additional resources for helping you create an Extraordinary Life Plan:

 Creating the Life You WANT to Live G.O.A.L. -- Get Out And Live!

 Using Family Vision Boards to Strengthen Family Culture 

Habits of a Successful Family Extraordinary Family Life Group Coaching

Jan 30, 2019
#8 Incredible Stories and Reality Checks That We All Need

There are times in our life where we get so busy with one goal, that every other area in life gets thrown off balance.  Some people work so hard at their job that they neglect their health - on the other hand, others spend so much time on their health and working out that maybe they neglect their marriage or family time.  It's all about balance. 

 Once in a while,  to keep us balanced is reality checks.  They don't come often, but when they do, we gain a whole different perspective on life.  Maybe one day you have to rush to the ER because your child broke a bone or  you get to know someone who lives with a disability - the list goes on.  What do these experiences teach us? 

The biggest thing is what we take for granted, and maybe our lives aren't all that hard after all.  Reality checks help us keep things in perspective.  So how do we become the master of perspective?

 Have you ever had an experience that changed the way you saw things forever?  Once we come out on the other side our perspective changes so much that we can't really go back to the way we were before.  It changes our mindset and attitude to help make our lives from that moment on better. 

Challenge: How could a problem or irritation you are dealing with right now be solved with a change in perspective? 

How to Live a Beautiful, Blessed Life
Living with the Power of Gratitude
How to make Important Moments Count
Jan 30, 2019
#6 Life Lessons From Really Bad Decisions

 What are your dreams if you had no limits? What are those limits and how can you get them out of the way?  Then there is the hard question, how many of our obstacles are there because we put them there?  When we do stupid things we get the consequences.  We can choose our choices but not our consequences.

The chief case of unhappiness in life is giving up what we really desire for what we want in the moment.  Keep your goals close always so you never lose sight of what you really desire.  Look at yourself in the mirror and say: "Self - you are better than that!! Don't eat junk food you want to be healthy.  Don't surround yourself with those kind of people who make you act like that.  Keep your thoughts positive your are capable of great things!" Don't let the stupid mistakes define you, let them refine you. 

Need more help moving those obstacles? 

How to Create the Life you WANT to Start Living
How to Break Free from a Negative Cycle
Challenges of Changing and what to DO about it!

Jan 29, 2019
#5 This Selfish Habit Destroys Your Relationships

[0:38] We need to cherish our relationships and the people that mean so much to us.

[0:49] Do we sometimes take them for granted? Get too comfortable?

[1:16] Bad memory of an act of selfishness.

[3:57] Now he has the understanding and vision of being more respectful and honor his brother and his dreams and wishes.

[4:08] What would your relationships be like if your capacity to love was more than it is right now and you showed it?

[4:48] Our life is all about relationships.

[5:18] We can’t wait around waiting for other people to change, we have to do what we can do. We can’t change other people, but we can change ourselves.

[5:40] Jot down things that you can do with each of your important relationships to improve those relationships.

[6:33] Prove your love with your actions.

[7:47] Let’s create relationships that we can celebrate and be grateful for.

[8:13] We have to start with loving ourselves first, healthy self-love, it will make it easier for people to love us.

[8:47] Then we can build special relationships and start to love those around us.

[8:58] As our love grows, it can extend out to strangers.

[9:58] If Greg could go back and do life over, he would be the young man that reaches out and befriends the old Greg.

[10:47] We can’t change the past, we can only learn from it and change and become that kind of person.

[11:15] On a mission to be the very best self.

[11:56] If you are struggling, you can’t help others. You have to be in a good place.

[13:07] In every role you are in, ask yourself “what will the people around you think of you and remember about you in that role?” Spouse, teens, coworkers, friends, what will they remember?

[13:54] We want to be remembered as someone who is striving to be a good person and treated other people with deep respect and love.

[14:06] Little things done consistently and well make a big difference.

[14:41] Do inventory and make the changes so that you can give your whole self to the people around you that love you.

[15:05] Invest in yourself, invest in your relationships.

[15:26] We prove our priorities with our actions, we prove our love with our actions and words.

More Resources:

How to Improve Your Family Dynamics Quickly and Easily 

30-Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Stop being so hard on yourself! 

Here's How to Make a Difference in the Lives of Other People

Jan 29, 2019
#4 Turning on your energy

 There is nothing holding you back but you. Give yourself permission and do it!  Maybe one of the reasons that is keeping you is your energy levels.  It's hard to keep going sometimes, life gets busy.   Every thought, every emotion and every action comes with an energy consequence.  Like in The Power of Full Engagement, there are energy bursts that are possible to access all the time but, you have to keep them healthy.  

They are:

  1. Mental - Keep setting goals, have self restraint to keep yourself healthy. 
  2. Physical- You have to exercise often! Keep your body in shape, find a good workout outlet. 
  3. Emotional - Forgive.  When you have emotional baggage, it can suck the energy out of everyday.  Sometimes you have to let go.
  4. Spiritual - Align your actions with your values. 

 Challenge: What is something you can do in each category to keep yourself healthy in order to have good energy? Write down your goals. 

More Motivation: 
Pushing past your Limits
This simple thing is holding you back
You have an Obligation to become a better person: Here's how I do it

Jan 25, 2019
#3 A terrible car accident that changed our lives forever

The Terrible night of Miracles. It's easier to be grateful when you just go through a reality check.  With such a bad car crash you can learn to just be grateful everyone is alive.  Hopefully everyone doesn't have to go through such life altering tragedy but what you intellectually and emotionally take away from those experiences changes your life forever. 

 We need to love our loved ones. When bothered by the little things, imagine if one day you lost them.  Life perspective. Challenge: Go forward with gratitude and perspective. 

Takeaways from Tragedies: 

Life Lessons from Guatemala
Connection with homeless man in Morocco
Pausing to enjoy the wonders of life

Jan 24, 2019
#2 Creating Epic Experiences And Memories

Life all blends together when things are the same every single day.  Then when we look back, the few things we remember were the oddities to the norm -good or bad.  Our memories are something that no other human being can take away from you.  At the end of your life, when all your 'stuff' is gone what kinds of memories and thoughts are you left with?

  So how can we live intentionally? To make good memories and moments? The key is to train your brain not to think 'Oh, I cant do that' to 'how can I do this?'

No doubt, there are mundane moments. Think outside the box, how can you make something mundane meaningful? Is it absolutely necessary to the way of life you want to live? 

Be proactive, be your own creator.  Don't be a passive passenger when you are the one driving the train, this is your life!  What do you want to do? Whose permission are you waiting for to change? 

How to get started?

How to find out what the best direction for your life is
The difference between average and AWESOME!
Here's whats holding you back

Jan 24, 2019
#1 Our Journey Begins

 The goal is to share my story to help inspire you, everyone, to get out and live! 

This story starts off in a broken home and eventually out of the house at sixteen.  The turning point was on the cold, dark night of Christmas Eve.  When out alone, with no one to turn to, the love of God was found. From that moment he decided that he would never be in this situation again.  He would change and life would be whatever he decided to make it.  No more blaming, no more excuses. 

 When you blame and make excuses, you hand in your own power.  You say you are feeling or doing something because someone else is making you.   The choice is yours, if you don't like something, change it, your life is your responsibility.  Things to get out of the mediocrity: 

1) Do hard things

2) Face your fears

3)Work on weaknesses

Challenge: From here on out, take control of your own life and don't blame others or make excuses. Life will be what you make it.  

Resources to help you get where you need to be!

How to Live an Extraordinary Lifestyle

What Dream have you given up on and why?

Overcome Weakness and Anxiety and Boldly Create your Future

Jan 24, 2019
The EXTRAORDINARY Family Life Podcast (Trailer)
Jan 23, 2019