Recovering From Reality

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Hosted by mental health advocate and former reality television star Alexis Haines, Recovering from Reality illuminates the messy and magical path of coming home to yourself. Whether you’re on the road to recovery, seeking self-care techniques for surviving the capitalist machine, or just need a moment to remember that you’re not alone in your loneliness, we’re serving up the ultimate truth: your trauma doesn’t define you - your decision to deal with it does. Razor sharp, modern, and culturally resonant, Alexis delivers intimate conversations and expert insights to empower you on the road to authentic wellness. Are you ready to recover from reality? Produced by Dear Media.

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Ep. 79 Gay Junkie Pop Culture Icons with Jeff Epstein
33:59

Jeff Epstein (yes, that’s his real name) is a podcast host, pop culture fanatic and one of my dear friends who is known for his viral instagram account where he makes the best memes. Jeff is also a recovering heroin addict having used from the age of 17 until finally getting sober at 26. Now 2 1/2 years sober, he is here to share his story which includes arrests, several stints in jail and multiple overdoses, having sex with lots of girls despite being totally gay, along with his take on all things pop culture.

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Jul 09, 2020
Ep. 78 Being Hot And Woke Aren't Mutually Exclusive
59:56

Biet Simkin is a global meditation leader. She is called the “Lady Gaga of Meditation” as she combines modern principles, pop culture, and spirituality into her meditation practice and teachings. Biet has overcome so much in her life - from the death of her parents and daughter, to the ups and downs of the music industry, as well as overcoming addiction. I learned so much from her book, Don't Just Sit There!: 44 Insights to Get Your Meditation Practice Off the Cushion and Into the Real World, and I’m so grateful to have her on the podcast this week.

 

This episode is filled with riffs on mortality, getting sober, incorporating meditation into our daily lives, facing our mortality without fear, and what it means to be on the path to enlightenment. 

 

In this podcast we discuss:

  • Overcoming adversity
  • Sobriety
  • Finding and choosing peace no matter what is going on in our lives or the world around us
  • Hidden childhood trauma and how it affects our path to enlightenment
  • Divided attention versus fascinated attention
  • What it means to walk the spiritual path
  • Coming to terms with and facing our mortality without fear
  • A mini Q&A about meditation: best times, lengths, and the meaning of boredom

 

You can follow Biet on Instagram at: @guidedbybiet

 

You can follow along with us on Instagram:

@recoveringfromreality

@itsalexishaines

@liferesetcourse

 

 

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Jul 06, 2020
Ep. 77 Having A Money Mentality Makeover
55:12

Today I am joined by Amanda Frances, a self-made multimillionaire. Amanda has created courses and been a life coach over the past nine years, empowering others to remove their limiting beliefs surrounding money in order to receive the abundance they deserve. My mom and I have taken two of her courses, including Money Mentality Makeover, and I’m so excited for you to hear some of what she has to share. In this episode, we talk about what it means to be an energetic match for what we want, removing judgement and the ideas surrounding whether money is good or bad, and how spirituality plays a role in what we receive.

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Jun 29, 2020
Ep. 76 Processing our feelings surrounding racism, therapy, and reality TV with The Bachelor’s Taylor Nolan
01:09:55

In this week’s episode, I am joined with Taylor Nolan. Taylor is a psychotherapist, the host of “Let’s Talk about It” podcast, contestant on season 21 of The Bachelor, and winner of season 4 of Bachelor in Paradise.  We have a profound conversation about racism and current affairs in the US, substance use disorder, sexuality, and why finding a good sex therapist is important.

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Jun 22, 2020
Ep. 75 Giving Birth in Prison with Jessica Kent
01:30:31

Jessica Kent is a fellow ex-con who went Youtube viral when she shared a video about being pregnant and giving birth in prison. For months I have had requests to sit down with Jessica and have her share her story. I think as a society we have evolved in so many ways in regards to openly speaking about our addictions or mental health. But, when it comes to being a felon, I find most people instantly change their views about you when they find out that you’ve been to prison. I haven’t shared much about my experience in jail on the podcast before and I plan on doing it more now.

In this podcast we discuss:

- Giving birth in prison

-Addiction

-Childhood trauma

-How poverty plays a role in the privilege debate

-Bail reform

-Systemic Racism

-Mass incarceration

-How difficult it is to rebuild your life as a felon

 

You can follow Jessica on Youtube: Jessica Kent

Or on Instagram at: @JesKen12

 

You can follow along with us on Instagram:

@recoveringfromreality

@itsalexishaines

@liferesetcourse

 

If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.alorecovery.com

 

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Jun 15, 2020
Ep. 74 How I Manifested Pretty Wild and What Went Wrong
41:02

In this weeks episode I am solo diving into topics like manifestation, clearing old subconscious programming, how the brain works, getting on the path to finding out who you truly are and my journey towards finding my worth.

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Jun 08, 2020
Ep. 73 Surviving on connections with Dr. Carder Stout
55:45

Today I am joined by Dr. Carder Stout, one of the therapists I met in treatment ten years ago. Carder worked at Sober Recovery Center, and he was one of my favorite therapists. I just passed nine years of sobriety, and it’s crazy to think I haven’t seen him for a decade. Dr. Carder introduced me to cognitive behavioral therapy, which changed my life. He has also written a book called Lost in Ghost Town, where he details his own struggle with addiction, finding supportive community, and dealing with his childhood trauma. In this episode, we talk about finding community in recovery, breaking generational trauma, our parenting styles and how we can move from shame and guilt to self-compassion.

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Jun 04, 2020
Ep. 72 Navigating Our Grief with Therapist Claire Bidwell Smith
49:48

Right now many of us are in a state of grief. We may have lost our jobs. We might be grieving the loss of any sense of normality. We may have lost a love one. Maybe we had to cancel major events, like a wedding, birthday party or funeral. Maybe we still haven’t grieved our past experiences. Now that the majority of us are stuck at home, we may feel old, unresolved issues bubbling up to the surface. And we are not alone- our children are grieving too. In this weeks episode grief expert and therapist Claire Bidwell Smith joins me on the podcast, where we discuss what grief is, the stages of healing, and how we can best move forward after covid.

 

If you enjoyed this episode you can learn more about Claire at www.clairebidwellsmith.com

 

you can always follow along with us on Instagram @recoveringfromreality or visit our website at www.recoveringfromreality.com

 

This weeks podcast sponsor is the amazing Cured Nutrition. To get some of the best CBD out there visit www.curednutrition.com and use code “ALEXIS25” at check out

 

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Jun 01, 2020
Ep. 71 Creating Space For Black Women In The Work Place with Laurise McMillian
47:08

Today I am sitting down with Laurise McMillian, a journalist and editor at Refinery29. Laurise runs Refinery29’s Unbothered Instagram account, a page that empowers strong millennial Black women just like her. I found out about Laurise from her killer Instagram posts called, “That’s Not It Sis,” where she teaches women how to best communicate in the workplace. In this episode, we dive into her background in journalism, how she got the job at Refinery29, what it’s like being a Black woman in the workforce, and how we can all become better allies to people of color.

You can follow along with Laurise on Instagram @lauriseirl

 

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May 25, 2020
Ep. 70 And She Rose with Rising Woman's Sheleana Aiyana
54:05

In this weeks episode I am joined by Rising Woman founder Sheleana Aiyana. She is a spiritual psychologist who focuses on conscious relationship, shadow work, breath work and tantric practice. She had grown her community to over 1.6 million and if you follow her account you know why people love her work. Her writings hit deep. Her profound transformation from severe early childhood abuse to healing, will leave you feeling so inspired. Here is my favorite post of hers from last week, " Life isn't trying to break you down, it's trying to break you open."

 

You can follow along with Sheleana on instagram @sheleanaaiyana or @rising woman

 

You can follow along with Alexis @itsalexishaines or @recoveringfromreality

 

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May 18, 2020
Ep. 69 Being an ally in your own transformation with Alyson Stoner
01:02:22

Alyson Stoner is an actress, singer and dancer who has been featured in music videos like Missy Eliot’s ‘Work It’, on Disney shows such as Suite Life of Zach and Cody and movies such as Cheaper By the Dozen. As with many young child actors behind the scenes Alyson began to struggle with the pressure of her life. She began to become addicted to perfection. This quickly turned into an addiction and eventually she made the decision to get into treatment. Now, she lives life in a much different way. Her recovery is inspiring. She lives a minimalist lifestyle and creates her own content.

In this weeks episode we are diving into topics like societal pressure, transactional love, overcoming eating disorders, regulating your trauma response, learning to manage depression and anxiety and the importance of compensating content creators.

 

You can follow along with Alyson on her new podcast, Simplexity. Or on Instagram @alysonstoner

And you can always follow along with us on instagram @recoveringfromreality or online at www.recoveringfromreality.com

 

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May 11, 2020
Ep. 68 Learning to become our own Guru’s with the girls from Thats So Retrograde
56:09

This week, I have the ladies from the That’s So Retrograde Podcast joining me! Stephanie and Elizabeth are the OG podcasters, especially in the wellness world, and we have a conversation about how That’s So Retrograde began, tips for starting your own podcast, and what’s happening in the wellness world right now. We also talk about being your own health guru, modern vs. natural medicine, and how diet is for our health, not the look of our bodies.

 

Episode Highlights: 

  • Astrology
  • Tips for having a podcast and being authentic
  • Healing yourself
  • Privilege and appropriation in the wellness world
  • Debunking misinformation about diet 
  • Mental health and nutritional deficiencies
  • Social media “influencers” 

 

Where to Find Stephanie and Elizabeth: 

Instagram: @ssimbari  @elizabethkott and @soretrograde

And you can always follow along with us on instagram @recoveringfromreality or online at www.recoveringfromreality.com

 

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May 04, 2020
Ep. 67 How stress effects our brains with holistic psychologist Dr. Meredith Sagan
48:09

Dr. Sagan works at my treatment facility, Alo House Recovery Centers, and practices the mind-body connection modality when it comes to healing addiction and mental illness. The typical approach to psychiatry is failing many people. But thought leaders like Dr. Sagan are changing the community for the better. In this episode, we talk about medication vs. natural healing, chemical imbalances vs. environmental factors causing mental illness, learning to self-regulate our thoughts, repressed memories, and the flight or fight response.Dr. Sagan explains the difference between early childhood trauma and trauma later in life, and how that affects our nervous systems. She explains how our limbic systems are trained to react a certain way, and we need to learn to undo these responses. Having a supportive community really helps. We also talk about how to navigate repressed memories. Our brains are protecting us, but sometimes we need to work through these hard moments. I still have triggers, and have been through my own journey with psychiatric medication and TMS therapy. But thank God psychiatry and medication is an option. 

 

Episode Highlights: 

  • Self-regulation and mindfulness
  • Chemical imbalances vs. environmental factors
  • Psychiatric medication
  • Early childhood trauma vs. stable childhood and addiction
  • Flight or fight response
  • Reparenting
  • Book: Your Body Keeps The Score
  • Healing from repressed memories
  • Dr. Segan’s Mind Align Method 

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Apr 27, 2020
Ep. 66 When Emotional Pain Turns Into Physical Pain
01:00:58

Kaley Patel is a Reiki Master, yoga instructor, and meditation teacher who specializes in EFT (emotional freedom technique). I can now add author to her resume, as her book titled, Burning Bright, comes out at the end of this month! When I sat down with Kelsey the whole “interview” went out the window as we instantly connected and began talking about our stories of how our emotional pain turned into physical pain and the deep and transformative experiences we’ve had as a result.

You can find Kelsey on her website www.kelseyjpatel.com

on Instagram @kelseyjpatel

 

You can follow along with me on www.recoveringfromreality.com

or on Instagram @itsalexishaines and @recoveringfromreality

 

My Life Rest: How to Recover From Reality course is now available on my website for just $39 dollars a month

 

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Apr 20, 2020
Ep. 65 Q&A With Evan Haines and myself
51:58

This week, Evan and I recorded a Q&A for the podcast and over on Instagram live! You guys sent in a bunch of good questions, and we get deep into topics like addiction treatment, our personal recovery, relationships, and more.

 

We share our thoughts on medication assisted treatment, or using drugs like Suboxone to reduce the chance of overdose. We also talk about harm reduction, and ways we can support those who are active addicts. Make sure to educate yourself on this topic before forming an opinion.

 

We also answer a question about 12 Steps and how its community aspect is so beneficial. I dive into the reasons behind why people have addiction, and how we can do the work to get to the root of our traumas. Evan shares his past drugs of choice and if either of us get triggered to use. 

 

As far as relationship questions, we talk about how to navigate marital conflict, our favorite things about each other, and our favorite memories. We also talk about our age difference and whether it affects us. Evan also answers if my past scared him! 

 

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Apr 13, 2020
Ep. 64 Everything Iconic with Danny Pellegrino
50:59

This week, I have podcast host and reality TV enthusiast Danny Pellegrino joining me! Danny hosts Everything Iconic, where he talks about pop culture, and more recently, his mental health. Danny and I just met, but we have so much in common, and I am grateful for his time on this episode. I dish out details about Pretty Wild, my book, and the Nancy Jo meme, along with Danny’s perspective as a viewer. We also talk about Danny’s recovery from anxiety and depression, and ways we can cope with those emotions. I also touch on some LGBTQ+ matters and how we can fight stigma from loved ones. And of course, we have to get into reality TV, and whether or not Danny thinks I’d be a good Real Housewife of Orange County.

 

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Apr 06, 2020
Ep. 63 From the hearts of highly sensitive people with my husband, Evan Haines
59:13

This week, my husband Evan and I are bringing an episode to you guys while quarantined, or social distancing, in our home. We have made every effort possible to stay home, and hope you all stay safe and healthy during this global pandemic. Evan is forever calm, cool and collected, so I thought he'd be a great guest for these times. We talk about Evan’s addiction story, our relationship, marriage, and first impressions of each other, and his almost 15-year sobriety. We also talk about our treatment center, Alo House, and what’s happening in the treatment world. We know during this time of isolation, people can really struggle with mental health, so we are discussing how to handle that as well.

Evan and I are highly sensitive and empathic people, as most who struggle with addiction are. We believe these empaths are truly the mystics, truth-tellers, and way-showers of our planet, and need to be properly cared for. They are not the crazy ones! Our mission with addiction treatment is to help show people their own power, and remove the stigma around suffering. 

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Mar 30, 2020
Ep. 62 Becoming the Messenger That You've Been Waiting For with Ashlee Marie Preston
01:35:23

This week, I had a profound conversation with activist Ashlee Marie Preston. Ashlee is a proud black, transgender woman who is constantly advocating for LGBTQ+ youth and those who are struggling. She is now 8 years sober, and has the humility and kindness to share her story of recovery from childhood abuse, meth, prostitution and homelessness with us. Ashlee is now the messenger she has been waiting for her entire life, and I believe she is a messenger for all of us too. Ashlee grew up unsure of her gender identity in the conservative state of Kentucky. She shares her harrowing story of sexual abuse, being institutionalized as a child, and how her drug addiction began. She moved to California at 19, and found herself struggling to fit in. She was fired from her retail job for being trans and became homeless, without a shelter that would accept her and her trans identity.

 

On the streets, Ashlee resorted to sex work as a means of survival. She turned to substances to numb out and survive. It was finally Ashlee’s understanding of her relationship with God/universe, that brought her to the breaking point. She began recovery, and found her voice in activism through working with nonprofit organizations, and seeing how poorly people like her were being treated.

 

Everything that Ashlee thought made her broken and unworthy are now symbols of strength and beauty in her life. Without the work she’s done (in spirituality, sobriety, and service), she would not be helping people like she is today.

 

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Mar 23, 2020
Ep. 61 Lifting Each Other up with Khalil Rafati
01:04:25

In this episode, I have an incredible conversation with Khalil Rafati about his miraculous turnover from a homeless, strung out addict to a sober millionaire helping thousands of lives every day. Khalil is the owner of SunLife Organics, a health food chain in California, and the author of I Forgot to Die, which details his childhood trauma, his battle with drug addiction, and how he came out the other side. Khalil has also known Evan and I for about a decade (which is insane), but it’s been amazing seeing how much we’ve all evolved.

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Mar 16, 2020
Ep. 60 Getting Down to the Basics with Tara Schuster
43:09

Tara Schuster is an author, playwright, and accomplished entertainment executive, currently serving as the Vice President of Talent and Development at Comedy Central. Tara’s first book, Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies: and Other Rituals to Fix Your Life from Someone Who has Been There, is being published by Penguin Random House and will release on February 18, 2020.  By the time Tara was in her late twenties, she was a rising TV executive who had worked for The Daily Show with Jon Stewart and helped launch Key & Peele to viral superstardom. By all appearances, she had mastered being a grown-up. But beneath that veneer of success, she was a chronically anxious, self-medicating mess. No one knew that her road to adulthood had been paved with depression, anxiety, and shame, owing in large part to her minimally parented upbringing. After drunk dialing her therapist on her 25th birthday, she knew she needed a wake-up call.

We are diving in deep into what self care actually is…SURPRISE it isn’t a face mask! And giving you a break down of simple things that you can start implementing into your routine to make your life so much better.

 

You can follow along with Tara on instagram @taraschuster

or visit her website www.taraschuster.com

 

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Mar 09, 2020
Ep. 59 Taking Charge of Our Own Healing with Luke Storey
01:08:10

This week, I am joined by fashion stylist turned health and wellness enthusiast, Luke Storey. Luke and I met years ago on the set of a Marilyn Manson music video, where he was a stylist and I made a cameo, and I’ve been wanting him to come on the podcast for forever. Back then, I was still doing drugs, but Luke was 12 years sober. Luke has now been sober for over 20 years, and hosts a podcast called The Life Stylist, where he talks with all kinds of health and wellness experts to learn and help others heal. In this episode, we talk about Luke’s addiction and sobriety, biohacking, recovering with AA or other healing modalities, and how trauma physically manifests in our bodies. We also talk about Luke’s spiritual practice, how The Life Stylist was born, and his plans for 2020! I hope you guys enjoy this insightful conversation with Luke.

 

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Mar 02, 2020
Ep. 58 The real life of a Youtube star with Tana Mongeau
51:41

Tana Mongeau is one of the biggest Youtubers in the world with nearly 6 million subscribers. She also has her own reality show on MTV, Tana Turns 21. But with all this fame at such a young age, Tana has dealt with her fair share of scandals. I really empathize with Tana. We have basically lived very parallel lives.  Growing up in a household with lots of chaos, leaving home at 16, and trying to make it big in Los Angeles, eventually takes its toll. Today, Tana is coming on the podcast to talk about her challenges, toxic relationship with her parents, her marriage and shortly there after, divorce and what it is really like to live with cameras in your face every single day. I really appreciate Tanas transparency and authenticity.

You can find Tana on instagram: @tanamongeau

Or on youtube: Tana Mongeau

She’s also on twitter: @tanamongeau

 

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Feb 24, 2020
Ep. 57 Navigating the body positivity space with Katie Willcox
01:05:31

Katie Willcox is an author, public speaker and CEO of two companies. One of which is her blog, Healthy is the New Skinny and the other is her agency for curve models, Natural Models LA. Katie is coming on the podcast today to talk about the science behind why we are always so focused on our bodies, how corporations take advantage of us in order to sell their products, eating disorders, the body positivity movement and how we can start to navigate this space in a more thought provoking way.

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Feb 17, 2020
Ep. 56 Impeachment, she wrote
44:08

I recorded this episode on December 18, 2019, the day President Donald Trump was impeached. It was quite fitting that my guest was none other than host of the epic podcast, Mueller She Wrote. Thats right, none other than AG. AG is a government worker who must remain anonymous. Her position is unknown but it is said to be high up in a security department. She is also a comedian who started this podcast with two other female comedians. Each week they dish out the real deal news about what the f*ck is happening in our country. She is joining me today to discuss the impeachment, but more importantly what we need to do as citizens to heal our country.

 

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Feb 10, 2020
Ep. 55 Bad advice with Dr. Venus Nicolino
47:45

Dr. Venus Nicolino is the author of the best selling book.- Bad Advice: How to Survive & Thrive in an Age of Bullshit. She is also a TV doctor and bad ass mom to two boys. She is coming on the podcast today and were talking about all the bad advice that we’ve gotten over the years….Including yours! You submitted the bad advice you’ve gotten over the years and were diving in deep to pick apart the bad advice.

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Feb 03, 2020
Ep. 54 From “Recovering” to “Living” with Zahara Zimring
01:01:14

Zahara comes on the podcast today to discuss how we can transition away from our limiting beliefs and move into our authentic selves. We discuss how we both walked away from Alcoholics Anonymous, we discussed plant medicine, buddhism and spirituality, and the tools that are necessary for l one term recovery.

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Jan 27, 2020
Ep. 53 Make Sure Your Friends Are Okay with Hunter Moreno
35:59

In this weeks episode we are sitting down with Hunter Moreno. Hunter started working in LA after college shooting videos for YouTube starts like Tana Mongeau, Bella Thorne, and Mod Sun. A few years in, after struggling with his own mental health issues, he started on a new endeavor called ‘Make Sure Your Friends Are Okay’. We’re discussing mental health, addiction, ending stigmas and so much more in this episode. 

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Jan 20, 2020
Ep. 52 Call in show with yours truly
44:03

In this weeks episode I am sitting down to do a Q&A episode where I am answering live call in questions along with questions that you all submitted on the Recovering from Reality Instagram page. We are covering topics like: what to do when your loved one is in treatment, how to set boundaries, how to find a good therapist, how to overcome shame, manifestation, and how to deal with a quarter life crisis.

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Jan 13, 2020
Ep. 51 New year, same us!
53:56

Jackie Schimmel- Has from the Bitch Bible podcast joins me on the podcast today for a light hearted episode where we discuss resolutions, pop culture, podcasting and more!

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Jan 06, 2020
Ep. 50 Turning Your Karma Into Your Dharma
48:34

Angelika Alana is a life coach who saw a need to create an online space for people to receive life tools who otherwise wouldn’t be able to afford a one on one coach. She is coming on the podcast today to share about how she developed her business. We are talking all things spirituality, tools, Karma, and how to heal in this crazy world that we live in.

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Dec 30, 2019
Ep. 49 Life after OJ with Kim Goldman
01:05:36

In this weeks episode i am sitting down with Kim Goldman who hosts the wildly popular podcast, Confronting OJ. Kims brother was brutally murdered 25 years ago and justice was never really served. Her brothers killer OJ Simpson was acquitted in his wildly popular trial and later found responsible for the death of Ron Goldman and his ex-wife, Nicole Brown Simpson in a civil case. Kim joins me on the podcast today to discuss what her healing journey has looked like in the last 25 years.

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Dec 23, 2019
Ep. 48 Drugs Aren’t the Answer, Honey!
51:36

In this week's episodes I am sitting down With Amy Dresner who is the author of a memoir called, “My Fair Junkie”. Amy and I dive into topics ranging from what it was like to write a book to the ongoing debate around choice and addiction.

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Dec 16, 2019
Ep. 47 Turning your mess into your message with Cathy Heller
58:47

In this weeks episode I am sitting down with Cathy Heller who is the host of the Podcast ‘Don’t Keep Your Day Job’. Cathy is a self made millionaire who after many “failed” attempts in the music industry finally found her way in, in a very unexpected way.  Cathy comes on to talk about her story, how she did it and then how she developed her podcast where she inspires people to take major risks in order to find real “success”.

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Dec 09, 2019
Ep. 46 Healing From Sex Addiction with Staci Sprout
44:47

In this week’s episode, I am joined by psychotherapist, Staci Sprout.  Staci works with people healing from sex and love addictions, and came to this work through her own recovery.  She works with people of all genders who are struggling with harmful sexual behaviors and relationships, and supports them in healing.  During this chat, we dive into her journey healing from sex addiction and joining a 12 step recovery program, how to navigate sexual abuse and trauma, and ways we can foster our own healing.  

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Dec 02, 2019
Ep. 45 Call-in Show with My Mom Andrea Arlington
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In this week’s episode, I am joined by my mother, Andrea Arlington, to take some of your calls and questions.  We had amazing discussions with our callers, ranging from topics like manifestation, setting healthy boundaries in family relationships, and how to cultivate open communication with our loved ones suffering from addiction. 

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Nov 25, 2019
Ep. 44 The Age of Anxiety
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Michele Kambolis is coming on the podcast today to talk about anxiety. Why are women more prone to anxiety? What is an anxiety disorder and what is “normal” anxiety? What are some simple actions that we can take to reduce the anxiety in our lives? Michele is answering it all. 

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Nov 18, 2019
Ep. 43 From Meme to Marvelous With Rebecca Black
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In this week’s episode, I have the lovely Rebecca Black joining me for some real candid conversation. We talk about her rise to fame from her viral music video, “Friday”, reinventing herself as a singer and artist, and finding her way out in Los Angeles at just 18 years old. Rebecca may still be young (22 now), but she is surely an old soul, and I relate to her on so many levels. I appreciate how much work she’s done on herself, and how she uses her growth to help other young people watching her YouTube channel.

 

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Nov 11, 2019
Recovering From Reality - Trailer
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Nov 11, 2019
Ep. 42 73 Questions
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This week, we have my comedian of a sister, Gabby, joining us!  She is asking me 73 questions in that stream of consciousness style everyone’s doing right now.  Except, we don’t play by those rules.  Gabby and I put our own spin on this fun game. I definitely wanted a funny episode to break up the serious stuff we discuss on Recovering From Reality, so I hope you guys laugh along with us.  

Some of my favorite questions ranged from my who I find more annoying, Gabby or our mom, my dream person (besides Evan, duh), and the craziest place I’ve ever had sex.  We also learned which Kardashian Gabby thinks I am, which is so not Kim guys. Everyone knows I’m Kendall or Kourtney! 

 

Nov 04, 2019
Ep. 41 Turning Pain into Comedy with Ali Weiss
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In this week’s episode, I have comedian and seriously funny lady, Ali Weiss joining me.  Ali creates videos on Instagram that are truly hysterical, and after seeing her Kim Kardashian parody video, I knew I had to have her on the podcast!  We discuss how she started theater and comedy, her mental health journey, and the highs and lows of life in the digital age.

Oct 28, 2019
Ep. 40 Unshakable Faith with Dr. James Mellon
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In this week’s episode, I am joined by the wonderful Dr. James Mellon.  Dr. James is a minister at the Global Truth Center in LA, which follows Ernest Holmes philosophy, Science of the Mind. No this is not scientology. It's the philosophy that brought you The Secret! In this episode, we touch on our core beliefs like eternal life, universal truth, and the collective consciousness.  Dr. James explains the power our minds have in affirming and manifesting our own goals, health, and dreams. In religious science, we believe that God is the energy all around us, that it is in everything, including us.  

Oct 21, 2019
Ep. 39 Becoming the Head of the Pack w/ Zach Skow from the Pawsitive Change Program
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In this week’s episode, I am sitting down with Zach Skow, the founder of the Pawsitive Change Program.  Pawsitive Change is a non-profit that runs in the California prison system, and brings rescue dogs into the prison population.  Zach and other trainers help inmates become dog trainers themselves. This is an incredible program, and helps bring hope and healing to not only those incarcerated, but to the dogs being rescued.  I hope you guys enjoy listening to Zach’s story of redemption, and how Pawsitive Change came to be.  

Oct 14, 2019
Ep. 38 Getting Inappropriate W/ Heather Mcdonald
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This week I have the witty and truly hilarious Heather McDonald joining us.  Heather is a comedian and the host of a podcast called Juicy Scoop.  In this episode, we discuss being a comedian in an easily “triggered” culture, her background and upbringing with wild brothers, and her time working with Chelsea Handler.  We also discuss the importance of having open conversations with our kids, especially around tough topics like drug abuse. Heather shares some pretty funny stories with us throughout the show, and she definitely had me laughing.  I hope you guys enjoy!

Oct 07, 2019
Ep. 37 Let's Talk About Sex w/ Jamie Elizabeth the Holistic Sex Coach
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Joining me for this week’s episode is the lovely Jamie Elizabeth!  Jamie is a holistic sex and intimacy coach. She helps people in all areas of communication that are intimate and sensitive, so people can be fully met and seen.  In her sessions with clients, she helps people discover what they really want out of their sex lives, and owning their sexuality. Jamie gives us some great tips this episode, from scheduling conversations about sex, sex dates, skin time, and drop-ins.  She also gives us three approaches to have these uncomfortable conversations, through vulnerability, responsibility, and curiosity.

Sep 30, 2019
Ep. 36 Exploring cannabinoids and the effects of micro-dosing w/ Joseph Sheehey and Lo Bondi
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In this Episode I am sitting down with Joseph Sheehey, founder and CEO of Cured Nutrition, and his girlfriend, Lo Bondi. Joseph comes on the podcast to talk about how his attempted suicide turned his life and focus towards starting up a company that uses cannabinoids to help people heal. Lo is also in recovery for an eating disorder. Together, they explore the benefits of using plant medicine as a way to heal. 

Sep 27, 2019
Ep. 35 Not All Heroes Wear Capes w/ Bree Olson
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In this week’s episode, I had the honor of interviewing the amazing Bree Olson. You may remember Bree from being one of Charlie Sheen's "goddesses" during the time period where he was publicly dealing with many troubles. She got wrapped up even more when it turned out that he was HIV positive and she had no idea. Bree is a powerful woman and her story is one of survival. We discuss her early childhood trauma, her time in juvenile detention and how she entered the porn industry. 

Sep 23, 2019
Ep. 34 Repairing Your Marriage w/ Adam and Danielle from Marriage and Martinis
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In this episode, I sat down with Danielle and Adam of the Marriage and Martinis podcast.  I wanted to have them on because marriage can often be messy, with lots of highs and lows, and people are rarely talking about it.  However, these two are so authentic and real about their experience. It’s truly refreshing to hear! I hope you guys enjoy our dialogue about marriage, mental illness, loss, and much more.  

Sep 20, 2019
Ep. 33 Call-In Show W/ Sarah Nicole Landry (The Birds Papaya)
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Today, I am sitting down with Sarah Nicole from @thebirdspapaya to do another call-in show! I love that these episodes allow us to connect in a deeper way, because sometimes social media isn’t enough.  Our questions ranged from topics like accepting our past, re-branding mental health, staying authentic, and finding the balance in body positivity. We also answer some questions relating to addictions, eating disorders, and dealing with divorce and separation. Keep in mind we are totally not professionals in any of these areas!  We are simply speaking from experience, and hope you will relate to our stories.

Sep 16, 2019
Ep. 32 Being In a VICE Documentary Changed My Life w/ Kevin
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Kevin started using drugs at 12 years-old, and when we met at 15, we started using together.  Because we each had so much family chaos and trauma, we truly relied on each other to get by.  Our relationship involved drugs, cheating, abortion, violence, and pure chaos. It was toxic. We eventually parted ways and I got sober. Two years later while I was working for VICE, I got a call that Kevin needed help. We ended up doing a mini doc on him and it now has over 1.2 million downloads on YouTube. Now, six years later were catching up with Kevin. 

Sep 13, 2019
Ep. 31 Overcoming Depression Without Drugs
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What happens when you have depression, but don't respond to drugs? What if the side effects are intolerable? What if they actually make your depression worse? 

That was my experience. For the last 6 years I have battled with depression and I have finally won.  

In todays episode I am diving into my personal experience with depression and anxiety. I am sharing the steps that I took that made a remarkable difference in my mental health and healed my depression. And also sharing my experience with TMS.

Sep 09, 2019
Ep.30 Call-In Show With Dr. Judy Ho
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I am sitting down with Dr. Judy Ho to answer you questions in a LIVE podcast episode.

Dr. Judy is a Licensed and triple board certified Clinical and Forensicand Neuropsychologist, with a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and extensive experience working with clients of all ages, facing a variety of challenges and issues.

She regularly appears on the hit day time talkshow The Doctors!

Dr. Judy is the author of Stop Self-Sabotage, which details a six-step program for getting out of your own way and reaching your most-desired goals in love, work, health, and all aspects of life. 

 

Sep 06, 2019
Ep. 29 Psychic Vibes With Heather Auble
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In this episode, I am joined by spiritual healer and overall beautiful human, Heather Auble!  We get into Heather’s experience as a psychic, and how she learned to harness these abilities.  She also teaches me how to protect my own energy, and different rituals I can use to refresh from a total energy overload.  

Plus, she gives me a profound reading at the end, so you’ll want to stick around for that.  This episode was truly all over the place! Heather and I’s energies were so wild together, but I absolutely loved it, and I hope you guys do too. 

Sep 02, 2019
Ep. 28 The Dark Side of Teen Behavioral Modification Programs with Sydney Montana
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At 15 years old,  Sydney was sent to a behavior modification program for troubled teens. This program was traumatizing, and caused her a great deal of pain.  Her and I discuss being an addict in rehab at 13, why she was sent to this program, and how she is doing today, 10 years later. Sydney’s growth and recovery is incredibly inspiring to me, and my heart hurts for all children that suffered these reform “school” experiences.  

Aug 27, 2019
Ep. 27 Bridging the Cultural Divide
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In this week’s episode, I hop on a call with Triana Browne!  Triana competes in pageant circuits, and was crowned Miss Oklahoma 2017, Miss America 2018, and Miss USA runner up.  She is also a college graduate with a degree in Human Development and Family Sciences, and a Division 1 athlete.  Seriously, what can’t this girl do!  

I chat with Triana about being multiracial and embracing her race despite adversity in society, school, and the pageant industry. Triana is half African American and half Native American, and works hard to give Native Americans recognition. She speaks up for Native rights and gives her people the support they deserve.  

Aug 20, 2019
Bridging the Cultural Divide w/ Triana Browne
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In this week’s episode, I hop on a call with the beautiful and intellectual Triana Browne!  Triana competes in pageant circuits, and was crowned Miss Oklahoma 2017, Miss America 2018, and Miss USA runner up.  She is also a college graduate with a degree in Human Development and Family Sciences, and a Division 1 athlete.  Seriously, what can’t this girl do!  

I chat with Triana about being multiracial and embracing her race despite adversity in society, school, and the pageant industry.   Triana is both African American and Native American, and works especially hard to give Native Americans recognition. She speaks up for Native rights and gives her people the support they deserve.  

Unfortunately, society still associates nationality with race, which breeds racism we still see today.  But hey, we live in a multicultural nation, and we need to embrace that! Ignorance and lack of understanding creates this racial divide.  Education is our only hope for understanding and embracing our diversity. And this education starts at home.

The Native American people have especially been forgotten in our modern world.  Many live in extreme poverty, and are filled with unaddressed physical and mental health issues.  It’s no wonder why they’re oppressed and suffering…they don’t even have rights to their own land!  

This is why Triana speaks up from her platform.  She believes education, Native land rights, and equal opportunities will greatly improve Native Americans’ lives.  What was once a source of confusion and depression for Triana, is now a source of pride. She is proud to be Native, and I admire her greatly for her growth.   

There is beauty in being multicultural and multiracial, and Triana perfectly displays that with not only her physical beauty, but with her voice and her heart.  


Episode Highlights: 

  • Triana’s story discovering she was Native American

  • “The 13th” documentary

  • Native American stereotypes, addiction, and healthcare

  • How to become better allies


Being an ally means being comfortable with having uncomfortable conversations.  Don’t expect change if you aren’t willing to talk. You never know, you may awaken something in someone, or even awaken the masses.  It’s not until we open our minds that something will change.  

#ANDSOITIS

If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com

Where to find Triana: 

 

Aug 20, 2019
Ep. 26 Call In Show With Bob Forrest
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This episode is a bit different because we are doing a call-in show with my friend Bob Forrest!  If you haven’t heard my previous episode with Bob, the co-founder of Alo House Recovery Center, be sure to check that out next.  

 

So, we gave out a number and had you guys phone in with all your questions regarding sobriety, addiction, codependency, recovery, and my supposed debt to Orlando Bloom. It gets real on this episode, so I hope you enjoy!  I look forward to more connection with you guys in the future. It is really great to connect and interact beyond Instagram comments and DMs.    

 

Some stand-out questions were: 

 

  • Our opinion on needle exchange systems and clean injection sites
  • How to recover from being a “weekend warrior”
  • Enabling and its destructive outcomes
  • Finding mental health care and support in difficult financial circumstances 
  • Overcoming insecurity and anxiety

 

And that just scratches the surface.  We get deep into each topic, and Bob offered some stellar advice.  Many questions were about being a loved one to an addict. My heart truly goes out to those in this situation.  I see your pain, and I believe acknowledging your own pain is really important to the healing process. You can’t bring negative energy and shame to your loved one, and you definitely can’t force them to recover.  But you can heal yourself first.  

 

We are all on this earth to process something on a spiritual level.  Sometimes, addiction and healing are part of this process. Don’t let negative feelings and energy have power over you.  Reach out and get help, no matter the scale. Just start with the next indicative action, and take baby steps from there.  

 

Hearing my listeners’ stories is why I do this work.  All I do is for the collective. And the message I share is that you can recover, despite the trauma and pain.  Trust me, you can do this thing.   

 

If I can make a living amends, pay off my court fees 8 years later, and thank Orlando Bloom for kind of saving my life, then you can recover too!  You’ll just have to listen to the episode to understand!

 

#ANDSOITIS

 

If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com 

 

Resources we discussed in this episode: 

Aug 16, 2019
Ep. 25 Wake Up B*itch It’s 2019 w/ Laganja Estranja
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In this week’s episode, I’m having a conversation with the most iconic of queens, Langanja Estranja!  If you haven’t heard of Langanja, seriously, where have you been?! She is a talented drag queen who was on Season Six of RuPaul’s Drag Race, was recently on So You Think You Can Dance, has a huge Instagram following, is a dancer and choreographer, and is overall just fabulous.  In this episode, we talk about her upbringing, how her drag queen name and character were formed, and her journey after filming Drag Race.  We also get into some hot topics regarding sexism, gender, healing, and more.  

Aug 13, 2019
Ep. 24 Nancy Jo, Your Bias is Showing
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In this episode I’m owning my story. Last week over Twitter I (half jokingly) invited Nancy Jo onto the podcast. Well… not only did she decline the invitation, but we got into it over Instagram DMs.  And let me tell you, shade was thrown guys!  

Aug 06, 2019
Ep. 23 The Journey to Motherhood Matters w/ Ali Levine
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In this episode, I chat with my good friend and fellow mama, Ali Levine.  Ali is truly such a light in my life, so I’m excited to share her with you all!  She is the host of two podcasts, Things We Are Too Lazy to Blog About and Striptd Down with Ali Levine She is also a stylist and personality on Bravo’s TV show, Stripped.  Now, she has struck a balance between work life and mama life, which is so inspiring to me.  

Ali and I’s friendship really blossomed when she asked me to be her doula.  Her birth experience is definitely one I’ll never forget! We share all the details here, from the birthing center, to the hospital, and once her baby was born.  We also talk about misconceptions toward pregnancy and motherhood. It’s not always this beautiful, magical time we see in the movies. Ali describes her struggle with postpartum depression and feeling like a “failure” as a mom.  No one can fully prepare you for these challenges, so it’s nice to have mom friends to lean on.

Episode highlights: 

  • Symptoms with pregnancy

  • Castor oil to induce labor

  • The difference between a birth plan vs. birth preferences

  • Doulas and midwives

  • Family boundaries during birth and early motherhood

  • Nursing and lactation consultants

  • How to navigate postpartum depression: therapy, meditation, mindfulness, and social media breaks

 

Jul 30, 2019
Ep. 22 The Journey to Motherhood Matters w/ Ali Levine
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In this episode, I chat with my good friend and fellow mama, Ali Levine.  Ali is truly such a light in my life, so I’m excited to share her with you all!  She is the host of two podcasts, Things We Are Too Lazy to Blog About and Striptd Down with Ali Levine She is also a stylist and personality on Bravo’s TV show, Stripped.  Now, she has struck a balance between work life and mama life, which is so inspiring to me.  

Ali and I’s friendship really blossomed when she asked me to be her doula.  Her birth experience is definitely one I’ll never forget! We share all the details here, from the birthing center, to the hospital, and once her baby was born.  We also talk about misconceptions toward pregnancy and motherhood. It’s not always this beautiful, magical time we see in the movies. Ali describes her struggle with postpartum depression and feeling like a “failure” as a mom.  No one can fully prepare you for these challenges, so it’s nice to have mom friends to lean on.

Episode highlights: 

  • Symptoms with pregnancy

  • Castor oil to induce labor

  • The difference between a birth plan vs. birth preferences

  • Doulas and midwives

  • Family boundaries during birth and early motherhood

  • Nursing and lactation consultants

  • How to navigate postpartum depression: therapy, meditation, mindfulness, and social media breaks

 

Jul 29, 2019
Ep. 22 Literally Pretty Wild w/ Dan Levy
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“You’re literally pretty wild if you’re going on a reality show.”  

In this episode, I’m joined by Dan Levy to discuss my experience with reality TV.  Dan is a comedian, writer, and producer and one of the creators of Pretty Wild. He was just ballsy enough to take on the project, and to work with a family as crazy as mine! Dan and I talk all about Pretty Wild behind-the-scenes, what he thought of the show and working with us, and what Dan is creating in the present day.  A lot has changed in both of our lives since filming, so it was cool to share who we are today. Living as a happy, sober person is a side Dan never saw from me, and I’m grateful we got to talk about it.  Dan is also an incredibly funny and talented guy, so I know you all will enjoy hearing his take on life. 

I was definitely living a double life while filming Pretty Wild.  On camera, Tess and I were just these little party girls, but in reality, we had debilitating addictions. We were a chaotic bunch, but that’s what made the show a pop culture phenomenon. I’m now so far removed from that Alexis, and truly believe going to jail was the best thing that ever happened to me.

Here are some episode highlights: 

  • Dan’s career prior to Pretty Wild
  • The difference between working on sitcoms and reality TV
  • Tess and I: then vs. now
  • How Bustle named me “most meme-able person of all time”
  • Dan’s time producing on The Goldbergs
  • Dan’s new show called Indebted, coming to NBC around Christmas time

So sure, my life may not be reality TV-worthy anymore, but it’s crazy and exciting in new and special ways. Just a little less wild.  

Where to find Dan’s work: 

IMDb: Dan Levy

Instagram: @danlevyshow

 

If you or someone you love needs help please visit alorecovery.com  

 

Jul 22, 2019
Ep. 21 Heavily Influenced w/ Josi Pellicano
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“It’s important to use our platforms as a way to connect with others and to be able to share.”

In this episode, I sit down with my childhood friend and true inspiration, Josi Pellicano!  I met Josi in middle school, and have always admired how resilient she is. She has a really interesting story to share that I know you guys will learn a lot from her strength. We talk about her dad’s incarceration for most of Josi’s life, her shifting family dynamic now that he’s out, and how she has adapted to all this trauma and adversity. Josi also shares her experience getting her Master’s degree, and how that guided her to where she is today. 

Shoutout to one of my favorite sponsors Cured Nutrition CBT capsules and tinctures. This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition, a wholistic supplement company based in Boulder, Colorado. If you’re in tune with the wellness industry, I’m sure you’ve noticed how selecting the right CBD products can get confusing. Cured Nutrition has made it easy. In addition to their 100% locally-sourced Colorado hemp extracts, Cured also guarantees a rigorous quality control system.
Fully aligned with complete transparency, they’ve even published the details directly onto their website: https://www.curednutrition.com/ www.curednutrition.com. You guys are going to love this brand. Use code ALEXIS25 at checkout for 25% off your purchase!

I love that Josi is using her platform to open up about this story.  When a family member goes to prison, the entire family goes along too. Josie is creating a safe space to discuss this issue and reminding us to embrace when we’re not okay and talk about our shame.  The tough times shouldn't be kept a secret. 

Here are some more points we covered: 

  • Shifting family dynamics and how we cope 
  • How our families were different from the “norm” in our cushy California neighborhood.
  • Josi’s current relationship with her father.
  • US mass incarceration rates.
  • Shame culture and why it needs to change!

To keep up with Josi and her killer Instagram feed, follow her @averagejoblog

#ANDSOITIS


If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com

Jul 18, 2019
Ep. 20 The Drama Stops With Me - Recovering From Reality
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In today’s episode, I spend some precious time with my spiritual mentor and reiki master, Ute Fleishman. A few episodes back, I talked about my profound reiki experience, and that all happened in a session with Ute! She has had such an impact on my life and spiritual journey, so I am very grateful to have her on the podcast, sharing with us. We talk about how Ute started energy work and how reiki has completely transformed both of our lives. We also give you guys some tips and tricks to help you move from an existence of pain to one of peace.

Read more about this episode on the blog!

Connect w/ Alexis here

Connect w/ Ute here

If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com

#ANDSOITIS

 

Jul 15, 2019
Ep. 19 And So It Is w/ Andrea Arlington - Recovering From Reality
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In this episode, we are sitting down with Alexis’ mom, Andrea Arlington to talk all things early childhood, manifestation, and family recovery.  Alexis asks Andrea some juicy questions, and she dishes on dating as a single parent, if she regrets Pretty Wild, and what her spiritual practice/recovery looks like today.  They also serve some hard truths about family dynamics. So if you’ve ever wondered what Alexis was like as a child and in early recovery, this is the episode for you!

Read more about this episode on our blog

Connect w/ Alexis here

Connect w/ Andrea here or her website: Families United for Recovery

If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com

#ANDSOITIS

Jul 08, 2019
Ep. 18 Reasons To Stay Vigilant w/ Molly Jong-Fast - Recovering From Reality
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With the 2020 election right around the corner, it’s time to start getting informed! We get political on today’s podcast with Alexis, Evan, and author, Molly Jong-Fast. Molly is an author of two novels, Normal Girl and The Social Climber’s Handbook and has a fantastic Twitter feed that makes you wonder if she ever sleeps. Today, we discuss everything scarily wrong with our political climate, from “Trumpism”, to looming racism/sexism, to climate change and of course, how we look after our collective mental health.

Read more about this episode on our blog!

Connect w/ Alexis here

Connect w/ Molly here

If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com

#ANDSOITIS

Jul 01, 2019
Ep. 17 Honey, You Gotta Do The Work - Q+A w/ Alexis - Recovering From Reality
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For this week's episode, Alexis is solo and does a little Q&A for you guys! Alexis addresses questions from our listeners and covers topics like; surgery, shame, relapse, tattoos, spirituality, adventures with Tess, porn, and The Bling Ring—just to name a few. Read more about this episode on our blog!

Connect w/ Alexis here

If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com

#ANDSOITIS

Jun 24, 2019
Ep. 16 The Intersections of Feminism w/ Lauren Sundstrom - Recovering From Reality
55:06

We have the lovely and inspiring Lauren Sundstrom on the podcast this week. Lauren is a proud trans woman and advocates for the LGBTQ community. She shares her story and insight with us, and we are so grateful to have her on! All women, trans and cis, deserve to speak up about their rights. Lauren’s strength and activism is amazing. People can relate and learn from her story and knowledge.

Read more about this episode on our blog

Connect w/ Alexis here

Connect w/ Lauren Sundstrom here

If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com

#ANDSOITIS

Jun 17, 2019
Ep. 15 Let Food Be Thy Medicine and Medicine Be Thy Food with Vanessa Fitzgerald - Recovering From Reality
41:46

Our special guest on this week’s episode is Vanessa Fitzgerald! Vanessa is an amazing holistic health coach who helps people become their best selves. She joins us to talk about her practice, and some health/lifestyle tips to clean up our guts and minds. Her Instagram feed shares gut health info and clean eating tips, but what really drew Alexis in was her Adderall detox. Her open discussion and work detoxing clients is inspiring. So stay tuned!

Read more about this episode on our blog

 

Connect w/ Alexis here

If you are interested in contacting Vanessa for a session, go to veeshoney.com or email her at info@veeshoney.com. She offers phone sessions as well!

If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com

#ANDSOITIS

Jun 10, 2019
Ep. 14 Celebrating Body Diversity with Sarah Landry (The Birds Papaya) - Recovering From Reality
01:06:20

In this episode, we have the lovely Sarah Landry joining us from The Bird’s Papaya! Sarah is all about body confidence & loving yourself on & offline. We sit down to talk about her journey, the dangers of diet culture, & how we can benefit from body neutrality. Sarah believes creating awareness is key. Thank goodness for recovery, body confidence, & for Sarah’s amazing work! We are all worthy of the self-love message she is spreading. Read more about this episode on our blog. 

If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com

#ANDSOITIS

Connect w/ Alexis here

Connect w/ Sarah Landry here

Jun 03, 2019
Ep. 13 Birth, Babies and Circumcision with Robyn Pool from PUSH Midwifery - Recovering From Reality
01:03:24

Given the current events taking place in the Unites States, individual states stripping away a woman’s right to make her own reproductive health care choices, we felt the need to address this topic. Abortion access is a human right period. This is an issue that effects 1/4 women, across party lines and religious affiliations. Alexis opens this episode with her perspective. Later we dive into reproductive health care with Robyn Pool, a licensed midwife here in the Los Angeles area. We discuss an array of topics such as VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean), circumcision, body autonomy, informed consent and much more. At the end we’re wrapping this episode with a little something new, so stick around and we hope you enjoy it.

Read more about this episode on our blog

Important links: PUSH MidwiferyICAN (International Children Assistance Network, Hospital Cesarean Rates, Yellow Hammer Fund, Planned Parenthood, Leap Frog Group - Compare HospitalsACLU (American Civil Liberties Union),

Connect w/ Alexis here

Connect w/ Robyn Pool here

If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com

#ANDSOITIS

May 27, 2019
Ep. 12 You Do You, I'm Gonna Do Me w/ Lauryn Evarts Bosstick - Recovering From Reality
41:11

This week’s episode features special guest Lauryn Evarts Bosstick from The Skinny Confidential.  She joins us to talk about her goals with her brand, being her authentic self, and dealing with a family member’s addiction.

The Skinny Confidential has become a multi-platform brand full of blog posts, social media content, podcast episodes, and even YouTube videos.  From wellness, to business tips, to life advice, Lauryn has it all covered. Talk about total lady boss!

Lauryn’s goal is to stay as authentic as possible with her followers and show them that it’s okay to have a balance of health and fun.  Or as she calls it, “holding kale in one hand and champagne in the other.” Hilarious!

Having this balance between healthy living and doing whatever the F you want is really important, especially in our age of social media. Lauryn has no shame in sharing her experience getting plastic surgery, while still sharing the message of health and self-love.

We need to be more accepting of those choosing to enhance their appearance. There is no shame in the botox game! Just remember not to compare yourself to others no matter your body type.

You do you, and don’t care about what others think.

This mantra has even helped Lauryn get through pushback she’s had online.  She is a self-proclaimed over-sharer (perfect influencer personality!), and totally accepts hat not everyone is going to be on board with her and her journey. #ANDSOITIS

Not only does Lauryn stay true to her authentic self, she also wants her followers to be informed, which is why she brings incredible experts onto her podcast. (Seriously, listen to this episode with Khalil Rafati owner of Sun Life Organics) This brings the perfect mix between authenticity and relying on authoritative perspective to her audience.

“You have to be your own guru.”  Lauryn always tells her audience to go out and do research on their own.  If you are unsure about something, gain knowledge and form your own opinion.  Don’t just blindly follow everyone else.

This is what makes The Skinny Confidential’s brand so relatable and popular.  Authenticity is really important to followers nowadays.  We are stepping away from that perfectly curated feed, and leaning toward a more realistic image.

We want the in-between scenes, not just the highlight reel, of an influencer’s life.  Sharing your struggles and being real is highly valued.

Lauryn has helped pave the way, and has done so by sharing her story on her podcast.  A big part of her journey was handling her sister’s addictions and recovery. As a family member of an addict, she found it really difficult to relinquish control and allow growth to occur naturally.

“It’s hard to watch someone you love and care about kill themselves in front of you and there’s nothing you can do about it.”

The best thing you can do is stop trying to control your loved one’s situation, and allow them to see reality and the bottom for themselves.  Her family’s experience has given her a lot of empathy for family members of addicts, even for her own parents. Once her family broke that cycle of co-dependence, things started to look up.

There are plenty of ways you can support a family member going through recovery.  One way is to join a support group yourself, so you can gain some perspective. You can join groups like Families United for Recovery, which was started by Alexis’ mom.  Or you can go to free groups hosted by recovery centers, like the weekly groups at Alo.

Remember: recovery is not linear.  There will always be highs and many lows, so as long as you stay in tune with your loved one’s journey and come from a place of love and respect, healing will take place.

Speaking of love, there is an aspect of love that tends to go unnoticed for many women, especially moms.  And that is self-love! We need to find ways to wind down after a hard day, that doesn’t necessarily involve opening a bottle of wine.

Alexis explains a few ways she winds down, this includes spending time with her daughters, long showers, body scrubs, essential oils, and acknowledging her feelings, instead of suppressing them. Learning to talk yourself in a way that is nourishing can be more beneficial than you think.

Lauryn loves to practice grounding/earthing, whether that is sticking your toes in the sand at the beach, or walking barefoot on the grass. Getting in touch with nature is a great way to unwind.

From eucalyptus leaves to salt lamps, Lauryn is a wealth of information when it comes to self-care! And this is only a fraction of what you can find on her blog.

Lastly, we can’t talk about self-care without addressing our love/hate relationship with social media.  It can be hard to disconnect, especially when you are trying to build a brand that requires a lot of content and engagement.  Just thinking about all we “should” be and do puts a weight on our shoulders, and leaves an open door for anxiety and depression to enter.

As someone who produces lots of content each day, Lauryn knows that a healthy balance is important to keeping your sanity.  She tries to put more energy into creating content than consuming content. And when she does, she is careful about who and what she is looking at.  If we are feeding ourselves with negativity from certain accounts, we need to take a step back. Instead, we can start following people that make us do and feel better.

Try limiting your scrolling time on Instagram and narrowing down the stories you watch to about 5 accounts, some of her favorite business accounts being Ed Mylett and Gary Vaynerchuk.  She also recently spoke to the author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, and his biggest advice was becoming more disciplined about the type of content you are consuming online.  

This way, if certain accounts are making you depressed, just unfollow. We’ve all been there and could use a good cleanse once in a while!

Ultimately, learning to be your own guru, finding what works for you, and living as your authentic self is going to bring you joy.  If you want more info on how to reach these goals, check out Lauryn’s podcast, The Skinny Confidential, and stay tuned for a special round table episode she has in store!  

#ANDSOITIS

If you or someone you love needs help, visit Alo House Recovery.

May 20, 2019
Ep. 11 Sober Kindred Souls w/ Arielle Lorre - Recovering From Reality
34:44

In this week’s episode, we have the lovely Arielle Lorre on to chat about her journey to sobriety, spirituality, and her new podcast, Over the Influence!

Arielle is a blogger and health and fitness guru that spends time posting delicious recipes, fitness tips, and curating her beautiful Instagram account. We are seriously jealous of her aesthetic! But what some people might not know about Arielle is that she is sober, and uses her recovery journey to help others.

Much like Alexis and Evan, Arielle and her husband met in recovery, and have a significant age gap between them. Part of recovery is joining a community of people from all different walks of life and age ranges. So instead of seeing someone’s age, we just the amazing, strong person and the struggles they’ve been through. Likewise, Arielle just sees the man that she loves, and not a number.

If you know your truth and rise above the judgment of others, you will never care what people think of age difference in a relationship. 

This shared understanding among people that are sober is not just for spouses, but for everyone.

“You can go anywhere in the world and walk into a room of sober people and not know them and still have that bond. We are all kindred souls and have this shared camaraderie.” 

There are also no age limits in the recovery world, which is why recovered people have friends of all ages. Everyone is on the same journey of healing and growth.

As far as Arielle’s backstory goes, she does not have the “conventional” traumatic history that most addicts do. She lived a relatively stable life growing up, and didn’t have much trauma. It wasn’t until she began drinking alcohol at age 17 that everything changed. 

For the first time in her life, Arielle felt at ease. She realized that up until her first drink, she had felt nothing but unease her entire life.  

Once she knew the feeling of relief, there was no turning back. She began partying and using cocaine, and at age 19, was sent to her first recovery program at an outpatient center. 

For 10 years, Arielle was in and out of treatment, swinging back and forth between recovery and relapse. It wasn’t until a completely traumatic experience that she finally chose to gain control of her life. 

She was living in California at the time, and remembered her parents flying in to host an intervention. At this point she was abusing alcohol, cocaine, Xanax, and Adderall. Seizures from overuse would completely overtake her body, and she was once found unresponsive in her apartment by the police and rushed the hospital.

Arielle knew she needed to surrender, but the idea of facing life sober seemed too overwhelming.

This is a common experience for those in recovery. For so long, you are used to numbing out any emotion with the high of a substance. Without anything to fall back on, you are left to feel those raw emotions. And it is so hard. 

Unfortunately, there is no way to wean into life. But Arielle truly believes that her community of support is what got her through to the other side. Then, you must surrender to the process of healing and be humbled by it.

We have to be strong enough to admit that we don’t know everything, and that we must re-learn how to live life.

Learning to be okay with suffering is difficult, but that is where a spiritual foundation can be a real game changer. We can choose to believe in something greater than us, and rely on that to guide us through life. It is then our connection to something bigger that keeps us going. 

“With faith, it makes the waves of life less turbulent. Life becomes calmer.”

All the joy, suffering, and pain that we feel on this earth are the essence of life. Without the pain and suffering, we can’t experience the pure joy.

Like the voice that called Arielle said, “There is something beautiful on the other side of this.” We need to hold out hope and remember the lessons we’ve learned from our painful experiences. 

These principles are what Arielle is communicating on her new podcast. The community she’s cultivated with Over the Influence is really important, and she believes it is a true part of recovery.

Her online presence has allowed her to be open about her struggles, and help those that are struggling as well. She calls on her experiences with sobriety and health to create her amazing content and change people’s lives.

With a world that places a lot of value on numbers, we need to ask ourselves what really matters to the followers, and that is community. Even though engagement in the comment section might be low, there are a ton of DMs waiting to be answered, where people want to have a real connection.

Social media can be a great tool for fostering genuine connection between like-minded souls. Then, our relationships blossom into something empowering and real.

To wrap up and end on a light note, Alexis and Arielle play a fun game of Would You Rather. Because let’s be real…who wouldn’t love to choose between sex with Jason Bateman or a complete unattractive stranger?! You’ll just have to listen to find out!

#ANDSOITIS

If you or someone you love needs help, please go to alorecovery.com

May 13, 2019
Ep. 11 Sober Kindred Souls w/ Arielle Lorre - Recovering from Reality
39:19

In this week’s episode, we have the lovely Arielle Lorre on to chat about her journey to sobriety, spirituality, and her new podcast, Over the Influence!

Arielle is a blogger and health and fitness guru that spends time posting delicious recipes, fitness tips, and curating her beautiful Instagram account. We are seriously jealous of her aesthetic! But what some people might not know about Arielle is that she is sober, and uses her recovery journey to help others.

Much like Alexis and Evan, Arielle and her husband met in recovery, and have a significant age gap between them. Part of recovery is joining a community of people from all different walks of life and age ranges. So instead of seeing someone’s age, we just the amazing, strong person and the struggles they’ve been through. Likewise, Arielle just sees the man that she loves, and not a number.

If you know your truth and rise above the judgment of others, you will never care what people think of age difference in a relationship.

This shared understanding among people that are sober is not just for spouses, but for everyone.

“You can go anywhere in the world and walk into a room of sober people and not know them and still have that bond. We are all kindred souls and have this shared camaraderie.”

There are also no age limits in the recovery world, which is why recovered people have friends of all ages. Everyone is on the same journey of healing and growth.

As far as Arielle’s backstory goes, she does not have the “conventional” traumatic history that most addicts do. She lived a relatively stable life growing up, and didn’t have much trauma. It wasn’t until she began drinking alcohol at age 17 that everything changed.

For the first time in her life, Arielle felt at ease. She realized that up until her first drink, she had felt nothing but unease her entire life.  

Once she knew the feeling of relief, there was no turning back. She began partying and using cocaine, and at age 19, was sent to her first recovery program at an outpatient center.

For 10 years, Arielle was in and out of treatment, swinging back and forth between recovery and relapse. It wasn’t until a completely traumatic experience that she finally chose to gain control of her life.

She was living in California at the time, and remembered her parents flying in to host an intervention. At this point she was abusing alcohol, cocaine, Xanax, and Adderall. Seizures from overuse would completely overtake her body, and she was once found unresponsive in her apartment by the police and rushed the hospital.

Arielle knew she needed to surrender, but the idea of facing life sober seemed too overwhelming.

This is a common experience for those in recovery. For so long, you are used to numbing out any emotion with the high of a substance. Without anything to fall back on, you are left to feel those raw emotions. And it is so hard.

Unfortunately, there is no way to wean into life. But Arielle truly believes that her community of support is what got her through to the other side. Then, you must surrender to the process of healing and be humbled by it.

We have to be strong enough to admit that we don’t know everything, and that we must re-learn how to live life.

Learning to be okay with suffering is difficult, but that is where a spiritual foundation can be a real game changer. We can choose to believe in something greater than us, and rely on that to guide us through life. It is then our connection to something bigger that keeps us going.

“With faith, it makes the waves of life less turbulent. Life becomes calmer.”

All the joy, suffering, and pain that we feel on this earth are the essence of life. Without the pain and suffering, we can’t experience the pure joy.

Like the voice that called Arielle said, “There is something beautiful on the other side of this.” We need to hold out hope and remember the lessons we’ve learned from our painful experiences.

These principles are what Arielle is communicating on her new podcast. The community she’s cultivated with Over the Influence is really important, and she believes it is a true part of recovery.

Her online presence has allowed her to be open about her struggles, and help those that are struggling as well. She calls on her experiences with sobriety and health to create her amazing content and change people’s lives.

With a world that places a lot of value on numbers, we need to ask ourselves what really matters to the followers, and that is community. Even though engagement in the comment section might be low, there are a ton of DMs waiting to be answered, where people want to have a real connection.

Social media can be a great tool for fostering genuine connection between like-minded souls. Then, our relationships blossom into something empowering and real.

To wrap up and end on a light note, Alexis and Arielle play a fun game of Would You Rather. Because let’s be real…who wouldn’t love to choose between sex with Jason Bateman or a complete unattractive stranger?! You’ll just have to listen to find out!

#ANDSOITIS

If you or someone you love needs help, please go to alorecovery.com

May 13, 2019
Ep. 10 Living Anonymously with Dave from Dopey - Recovering From Reality
36:14

In this week’s episode of Recovering from Reality, we get to hear from Dave, the host of the Dopey podcast. Dave and Alexis talk about his recovery journey, if AA is still “anonymous”, and what Dopey is all about. Dave is an awesome guy that has a way of turning the darkest experiences into the funniest stories.   His show Dopey is the perfect mix of discussion and debauchery, and has become one of the best recovery podcasts out there. At least we think so! I mean, he had Jaime Lee Curtis as a guest, how much better can you get? Recently, the show’s shift from silly to serious came with Chris’ tragic death. Dave has had to find a happy medium between laughter and mourning the loss of his friend. But it’s this vulnerability about his struggles that resonates with listeners the most. Back in the early days of Dave’s AA experience, he found himself shying away from the identity of “former addict”. There is still such a stigma around addiction, that he knew it would be hard to find work if he came out about it. This stigma is one that ordinary people face every day. And it is where the “anonymous” in Alcoholics Anonymous comes into play. Anonymity helps protect the people that are trying to get their lives back on track. Yet unfortunately as a public figure, Alexis didn’t have much of a choice in this department. She was recovering in the public eye, and everyone watched her struggle. Now after much growth, Alexis embraces her sobriety and her ability to speak out. She is out and proud about sobriety! And without people like her and Dave, the stigma will never end. Dave had a slightly different experience with anonymity. He attributes the program to his sobriety now, and took his anonymity very seriously in the beginning. An old sponsor told him that if he opened up and then relapsed while recording Dopey, he would be giving the 12-step fellowship a bad name. An old boss of his even said, “Once a junkie, always a junkie.” Sure, Dave was afraid of relapse and the risk of coming out about his issue, but after Chris’ death, he truly realized being vulnerable is really important to helping others. Chris was someone who knew all too well how important sobriety is, yet he couldn’t defeat his demons. He was 4 years sober when he relapsed, and died quickly after. Dave was in shock, and soon began to realize that not everyone recovers. This is what motivated him to continue with Dopey. The message of death is the strongest he could send to his listeners. And fighting through the mourning and grief and coming out with joy on the other side is truly inspirational. Remember, Alcoholics Anonymous is not the only method of healing. While AA helped Alexis in early recovery, she discovered her spiritual practice and holistic approach to be most helpful. But both Dave and Alexis agree that whatever works for you is what’s most important. Now that the whole world knows their story, Dave and Alexis have to share it with those most important to them: their children. While Dave’s 9-year old is too young to know all the details, she does know that her dad is sober and that he goes to meetings. Likewise, Alexis’ 6-year old daughter knows that her mom and dad don’t drink and they help other people stop drinking at Alo Recovery Center. Keeping things light and matter of fact with children is key. When Dave got clean, he realized he was doing the best he could do on drugs for 41 years. Now, he wants to see what his best is without them, in the next chapter of his life. If it weren’t for his desire to be a good father, he wouldn’t have gotten clean. He knew getting sober was the only way. Finally, Dave appreciates the adventure of sober living. He sincerely enjoys his life, and showing his genuine self to the world. “We spend so much time here on earth, frustrated about the highs and lows of living and expect life to be a certain way. But if everything was on a straight path, wouldn’t it be so boring?” It would feel more like death than life. “If you were happy all the time, there would be no happiness. Because you can’t compare the feeling to anything else.” We have to feel the lows to know the highs, and being sober allows you to check in with those emotions instead of check out from them. Instead of just living “bleh” life on drugs, you can live a beautiful life full of all the feels! With Dopey, Dave uses his voice to help others, because so many people helped him along the way. He spreads the message that if you are addicted to something, there IS joy on the other side.

…And that looking back and laughing at our old, crazy selves can bring the greatest healing of all!

#ANDSOITIS

If you or someone you love needs help, please go to alorecovery.com

 

May 06, 2019
Ep. 9 From Rock Bottom to Reiki - Recovering From Reality
33:21

In this week’s episode, Alexis answers a question from a fan, talks about hitting rock bottom, and shares her profound Reiki session experience.

A question from her fan sparked an important conversation, and that question is:

“How do you know if you have a full-on drug problem?”

Alexis says in her experience, she was looking for ways to not feel her feelings. She believes there were a number of experiences that brought her to her knees. And made her realize she had a problem.

After being in jail and experiencing rock bottom in the public eye several times, she knew something was wrong. From partying too hard, to witnessing her friend’s overdose, to detoxing in jail, all were “Come to Jesus” moments where she was miserable and scared.

She entered rehab and began to gain clarity, but after using again, she truly had a call to action and recognized her issue.

Heroin was a problem. And using it was a symptom of her illnesses and issues.

An amazing counselor at her rehab program had told her, “Normal people don’t try heroin. That’s not a normal thing. “ That statement truly opened her eyes. Her use was abnormal.

The first factor to look at is prevalence. Do you find yourself using more often? You could go from simply drinking on the weekends to several drinks every night. Or you could use a medication as prescribed, but then become dependent on it.

If you find yourself needing to have more and more, it could be a problem.

The second factor is if you’ve tried to stop. Have you tried to stop, but feel so anxious and uncomfortable that you have to use? If your mind is thinking about using all the time, then it could be a sign.

The third factor is making excuses. Are you making excuses for your bad choices and bad experiences while loaded? If you are trying to justify or blame people all the time, you could have an issue.

Alexis explains that the problem with addiction is that it begins to control you. It takes over mind, body, and spirit and it disrupts your life and relationships.

You feel out of control.

Luckily, rising up from rock bottom is possible. We have to go to battle with ourselves, and sometimes have a “Come to Jesus breakdown” to start the fight.

In the second half of the episode, Alexis talks about her experience with Reiki, or energy work, and how it has changed her as a person.

Reiki moves energy throughout the body, and while traditional therapy can be useful for the beginning stages of recovery, spirituality is really impactful and long lasting. Alexis shares that the 12-step program was helpful, but now she needs to shift to clearing her energy.

“What if I told you that you needed to stop working so hard?” This is what Alexis’ Reiki teacher told her.

“Focus more on being here in the present.”

Instead of continuing to unpack her baggage in therapy, Alexis found peace in the Reiki teacher’s statement. She needed to drop the bags she’s been carrying for so long.

In her latest session, Alexis realized that she has held a lot of anger inside for the majority of her life. Anger is a normal emotion that we all feel, and need to release instead of suppress it. She is also working on forgiving others in her life. Her past trauma had made her incapable of forgiving those who hurt her.

But, her Reiki teacher said, “Forgiveness is a gift that we give ourselves.” Once she understood that, she was able to let go of resentment she was holding on to.

To wrap up, Alexis shares a profound experience she had while doing Reiki. She felt a rush of energy from her toes to her head. She leaned into the rush and an unforgettable vision appeared to her, which represented a re-birth.

This vision was a reminder that we can give birth to our new selves right now. We don’t have to wait any longer. We don’t have to carry the weight and pain that has been inflicted on us anymore. We can go into the world with a curious, open mind.

We can be free from our past.

We have everything we need inside of ourselves; we just have to tap into the real essence of who we are. #andsoitis

Apr 29, 2019
Ep. 8 We Met in AA - Recovering From Reality
22:47

Romantic relationships in sobriety get a pretty bad wrap, so on this episode of Recovering from Reality, I sit down with my husband (and best friend) Evan Haines as we share some lessons we've learned along our path to recovery. This week we're celebrating our 7 year wedding anniversary and it feels like the perfect time to reflect on the story of how we met. When I first met Evan (yes, we met in AA) I would listen to him talk and feel almost envious of the things he would say. He seemed so... enlightened. I looked up to him in a way and he inspired me from our very first date. On our second date he asked to meet my mom and later that night he broke up with me. Here's just one example of the wisdom Evan drops throughout the episode, "In recovery, we learn to accept ourselves, and in finding that compassion for ourselves we can find it for others." #andsoitis

Apr 22, 2019
Ep. 7 Would You Rather - Recovering From Reality
41:21

It's episode # 7 of Recovering from Reality and I'm sitting down with my wonderful, hilarious sister Gabby! We talk about everything from our upcoming Vegas trip to the different perceptions we each held of our childhood. Gabby and I spent quite a few years working through our own sh*t before we could get close to one another and have a real sister relationship. Sisters have such complex, chaotic, and sometimes telepathic bond. Throw in traumatic upbringing into the mix things are bound to be a little messy. We examine the different dynamics and roles we each played within the structure of our family unit and talk about how we don't want to extend those roles into our own families. This episode covers themes of forgiveness, resentment, and emotional oppression. We also play a pretty hilarious inappropriate game of 'would you rather' which gives y'all a shining example of the women we've become today. #goals #mauture #andsoitis

Apr 15, 2019
Ep. 6 Sorry, Kristin Cavallari - Recovering From Reality
43:07

On this episode of Recovering from Reality, I cover a lot of ground. It all started with a video I posted of my two-year-old having a meltdown over powdered greens which triggered a bunch of people (mostly other women) to start mom shaming me OVER A BOTTLE. Luckily, LaLa Kent provided some comedic relief on this topic 😂. Anyways, those of you who weren't shaming had a few questions about what supplements I take daily. So, I decided to talk about some of the practices, supplements, and practitioners I use to counter the years I spent living as an addict. In my first two years of sobriety, I smoked a pack of cigarettes every day, lived on Redbull, and enjoyed copious amounts of fast food. Why? Because that's worked FOR ME. When I got pregnant with Harper I found out I had Hyperglycemia, so I started re-thinking some of my lifestyle choices. After giving birth to my first baby I was suffering from severe postpartum depression. This was really scary you guys, I didn't know I could get so low in sobriety, so turned to holistic and alternative medicine—which is ultimately where I find myself today. In this episode, I talk about balancing hormones, genetic testing, the gut-brain connection, and why I became a birth doula. I touch on heavy metal testing, EMF blockers, GMO's and MTHFR. Fair warning, I also talk about vaccinations. America currently has the highest maternal death rate of any westernized country, so I'm going to keep sharing my opinions and letting women know that we have the right to ask questions and get multiple opinions when it comes to our own health and the health of our children.  P.S. Kristin Cavallari, I owe you an apology. #andsoitis

Apr 08, 2019
Ep. 5 My Shrink Knows About You - Recovering From Reality
33:53

Being a woman means accepting responsibility for your actions and owning up to your shit, right? On this episode of Recovering from Reality, Alexis sits down with NYC based satire writer Millie Moore to talk about the mastermind that is Kris Jenner, the conspiracy that is Kim K's sex tape, and the chaos that is Jordan Woods's life. Trumps presidency is briefly discussed while Alexis and Millie muse about the responsibility for comedians like John Oliver and Bill Maher to "report" vs "entertain". Millie talks candidly about her experience with psychosis and how—at fourteen—her doctor prescribed her the same amount of Adderall as Lebron James—which probably had a lot to do with the voices she started hearing. We're reminded that there's an almost universal synchronicity connecting the need many people feel to detach. P.S. here's the article in reference #andsoitis 

Apr 01, 2019
Ep. 4 I Love You, Mom - Recovering From Reality
48:37

Bob Forrest has been to rehab 24 times and thinks Alexis's husband—Evan—(Bob's business partner at Alo House Recovery Centers) is altogether too nice. It's safe to say that this episode of Recovering from Reality covers A LOT of ground. Suboxone in the '90s, "best friend parenting" styles (think: Lindsay and Dina Lohan), and why we should all stop confusing lust with love. Alexis and Bob talk about how to collectively change the direction our society is heading by steering each other towards a more connected reality. We examine how the disintegration of the family unit is plaguing American families and leaving both parents and children without a solid support system. For more on this topic, we encourage you to check out Bob and Dr. Drews pod, This Life.

This episode doesn't shy away from heavy topics (trigger warning: divorce and sexual abuse are covered throughout) and Alexis opens up to her listeners about being an empathetic person dealing with internet trolls and frequent online criticisms, resulting in slumps of depression and frequent panic attacks. Bob shares his opinions about parents who talk about childhood molestation as the two briefly discuss the Michael Jackson documentary. A massive shoutout to Alo House Recovery Centers for being brave enough to approach treatment from an entirely new paradigm—something else we cover throughout this episode. Also, shout out to Brene Brown for getting us through the week with her book Rising Strong. 🙏

P.S Remember when Gwyneth Paltrow tried to make conscious uncoupling a thing? Yeah... 

Mar 25, 2019
Ep. 3 Variations of Normal - Recovering From Reality
37:22

Being married to a Backstreet Boy isn't always easy. Rochelle McLean joins us today on the third episode of Recovering from Reality to talk about what it's like being married to a pop star, online bullying, body shaming, and more. "We're all reactive human beings, so how do we process this reactivity in a way that's healthy?" Alexis sits down with her dear friend Rochelle to talk about online "hate mail", raising body positive daughters, and... cream cheese pretzels! Rochelle is a private soul who's life got just a little crazy when she married Backstreet BoyAJ McLean. During this open-hearted episode, Rochelle shares her reality aka how she met AJ, her personal insecurities, and how she committed to a partner who's in recovery. This episode deals with relevant topics such as social media personas, the effects of online bullying, and woman on woman 'trolling'. We hear from some of our listeners and ask the question, "how to explain to your kids that people on the Internet are being mean?".

Thank you to everyone who helped make this episode a reality and a special shoutout to Ragamuffin Coffee Roasters for keeping our crew caffeinated... #andsoitis!

Mar 18, 2019
Ep. 2 The Reunion - Recovering From Reality
29:06

For the second episode of Recovering from Reality, Alexis is joined by family therapist Michele Kambolis for a healing conversation with the ladies from Pretty Wild—you know, her 2009 reality TV show that aired on E!. Pretty Wild followed Alexis, her mother Andrea Arlington, and her two sisters, Tess Taylor and Gabby Neiers, as the girls coped with the chaos of addiction, trauma, and serious legal troubles. In this episode, "The Reunion”, Alexis lays the groundwork for her family to share their honest experiences with the show — 10 years later. Deep forgiveness, personal healing, and the process of setting boundaries are just some of the themes covered during this heartfelt episode. 

Thank you to everyone who helped make this episode a reality... and so it is! 
Mar 11, 2019
Ep. 1 A Special Kind of Hell - Recovering from Reality
37:11
In the very first episode of Recovering from Reality, Alexis Haines focuses on telling her "official" recovery story. Alexis got sober at nineteen years old after facing up to six years in the correctional system due to addiction. As the former star of the E! reality series Pretty Wild who faced a burglary conviction as a member of the notorious "Bling Ring”, Alexis understands the power of storytelling and media firsthand. As a survivor of the entertainment industry, IV heroin use, eating disorders, rape, physical violence, and childhood sexual trauma, Alexis is continuing her life-long journey of personal recovery by connecting with others and sharing her experiences with the world.
Feb 18, 2019