The Secret Lives of Black Women

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 Aug 15, 2019


 Aug 3, 2019

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Join close friends Charla Lauriston and Lauren Domino on their hunt for the ‘secrets’ that have helped black women flourish through the bullsh*t. They connect with guests over shared experiences by wading through everything from sex and self-care to rage and anxiety. Each conversation centers on creating a space for joy with some newfound besties while asking: how do the black women we admire stay incredibly phenomenal?


Episode Date
36. We Interview: Each other!
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In this very special season finale episode we’ve got some personal news for you all that we’ve been getting ready to share for some time. Let’s get into it.  
May 28, 2020
35. Making Your Own Podcast With Stephanie Kariuki
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Charla and Lauren get a lot of questions from listeners about how to sell a podcast. They might not have all the answers, but in this episode Stitcher Senior Producer Stephanie Kariuki comes on to share her words of wisdom for getting a project off the ground. She also throws in tips on finding work life balance and finessing all aspects of life with a self-starter attitude.    You can find more about The SLBW at https://www.instagram.com/theslbw/ Follow SLBW on Twitter and Instagram @theslbw Follow Stephanie Kariuki on Twitter @StephKariuki or Instagram @steph.kariuki
May 21, 2020
34. Learning The Real Meaning of Our Clothes With Tanisha Ford
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We may recognize the political symbolism of an afro or a “future is female” shirt, but cultural historian Tanisha Ford sees a political meaning in nearly everything Black women wear--whether they’re trying to make a statement or not.  In this episode, she takes a step back to explain the origin stories of some of the most popular fashion items for Black women and girls. And she breaks down the little-known ways that “high fashion” gatekeepers have been apropriating Black aesthetics from slavery to today. You’re not going to want to miss this.    You can find more about The SLBW at https://www.instagram.com/theslbw/ Follow SLBW on Twitter and Instagram @theslbw Follow Tanisha Ford on Twitter @SoulistaPhD and buy her book 'Dressed In Dreams: A Black Girl’s Love Letter to the Power of Fashion.'
May 14, 2020
33. Rethinking Gender With Raquel Willis
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Growing up in Agusta County Georgia, Raquel Willis didn’t find the language for what was so different about her gender experience until young adulthood. But in just a few years since her gender transition, she’s become a leading thinker on gender politics and feminism with her journalism and non-profit work. In this episode, Raquel fills us in on how she became a key player in the movement for LGBTQ rights, where she thinks it’s going, and why she thinks Black womanhood is inherently gender non-conforming.    You can find more about The SLBW at https://www.instagram.com/theslbw/ Follow SLBW on Twitter and Instagram @theslbw Follow Raquel Willis on Twitter @RaquelWillis_
May 07, 2020
32. Decolonizing Climate Activism with Elsa Mengistu
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Charla and Lauren are tired of environmentalism constantly being associated with white activists. This week 18-year-old climate justice organizer Elsa Mengistu (our future president) fills us in on what it’s been like to fight for the environment at Howard University and bring her race-conscious approach to the national stage. Her insights show there are big divides between the youth movement and adult organizers. But like a true future president, she outlines a way for each of us to fight climate justice like the function of white supremacy that it is.    You can find more about The SLBW at https://www.instagram.com/theslbw/ Follow SLBW on Twitter and Instagram @theslbw Follow Elsa Mengistu on Twitter @elsamengistu and Instagram @elsamengistu
Apr 30, 2020
31. Creating New Support Networks With Etta Fly
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In this second installment of our two-parter on managing grief, Charla and Lauren talk with Detroit community leader Espy Thomas aka Etta Fly. She started her own grief management circle run out of her family’s sweet potato restaurant called “Where Do Black Women Go to Grieve?” And she’s here to discuss how she helped Black women in her community break through the cultural barriers and red tape around seaking therapy, to talk through their deepest losses together. But because she’s Etta Fly, it’s actually a very uplifting conversation.    You can find more about The SLBW at https://www.instagram.com/theslbw/ Follow SLBW on Twitter and Instagram @theslbw Follow Etta Fly on Instagram @Ettaflyy or join her virtual community on the “Where do Black Women Go to Grieve?” Facebook group
Apr 23, 2020
30. Confronting Grief With Keisha Wells
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Black women are constantly exposed to death in our private lives and in the media, but we rarely talk about the process of grieving. Lauren has been grappling with her own grief for decades after losing her father at nine and Charla is hoping to learn new ways to support her loved ones through unfathomable losses. In this episode, they talk with licensed grief counselor Keisha Wells about ways to manage the various manifestations of grief, and whether it’s even possible to truly overcome a loss.    You can find more about The SLBW at https://www.instagram.com/theslbw/ Follow SLBW on Twitter and Instagram @theslbw Follow Keisha Wells @kwellslpc and pick up her book “From Three Heartbeats to One: A Gentle Companion in Grieving Pregnancy and Infant Loss” 
Apr 16, 2020
29. Creating Your Own Rituals With Ayanna Maia
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These days it seems like everyone is trying to channel their inner spirituality or witchiness. Charla and Lauren have gotten increasingly curious about what new rituals they could develop on their own journeys, but there are so many traditions one could consider and so many ways to get scammed. In this episode, spiritual guide Ayanna Maia gives an inside-look at how she helps her clients develop their own spiritual intuition, avoid hustlers, and find a practice they can feel empowered by.    You can find more about The SLBW at https://www.instagram.com/theslbw/ Follow SLBW on Twitter and Instagram @theslbw Check out Ayanna Maia’s practice at www.selfcareworks.com
Apr 09, 2020
Introducing The Suga!
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Check out The Suga, a new podcast from Stitcher! Actress, model, and producer Tika Sumpter and award-winning digital business leader Thai Randolph are teaming up to create a space for modern moms of color. A celebration of sisterhood and motherhood, The Suga is a safe space where moms, moms-to-be, and those undecided can laugh, learn and love on each other as they navigate life. Listen now on your favorite podcast app!
Apr 03, 2020
28. Put Your Pussey On the Earth With Junauda Petrus
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Lauren has been waiting for this episode since the day this podcast was conceived. This week we’re unpacking the increasingly popular lifestyle philosophy of pleasure activism. And we have queer fantasy book writer, performance artist, and self-proclaimed soul sweetener Junauda Petrus here to let us in on the magic. This episode is a meditation on the limitless potential of Black women embracing their wild side and following their most “out there” curiosities. Our conversation starts with Junauda’s story about mending a broken heart by going to the forest and putting her bare vag on the earth.     You can find more about The SLBW at https://www.instagram.com/theslbw/ Follow SLBW on Twitter and Instagram @theslbw Follow Junauda Petrus on Twitter @junaudaalma and pick up her book “The Stars and the Blackness Between Them”
Apr 02, 2020
27. Pole Dancing with Dalijah Franklin
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In the past few years pole dancing has become more visible than ever in movies, on social media, and at concerts for artists like Summer Walker and Lizzo. Charla and Lauren may have never tried pole dancing before, but they’re eager to learn why it’s become such a key vehicle for Black women’s joy and wellness today. In this episode, pole dancing instructor Dalijah Franklin sheds some light on the meaning of the phenomenon as she explains how her organization, Black Girls Pole, created an international community. 



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Mar 26, 2020
26. Finding Hope In Politics With Camonghne Felix
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Charla and Lauren may be exhausted by the state of Black pandering in the 2020 election but we’ve tapped a big wig in electoral politics to explain what keeps her going. Camonghne Felix is a celebrated poet, writer and political communications wiz who most-recently managed all Black media content for the Elizabeth Warren campaign. She’s here to explain how she's found hope and genuine connection in politics, and why an accomplished artist like herself keeps signing up for such stressful jobs. You can find more about The SLBW at https://www.instagram.com/theslbw/ 
 Follow SLBW on Twitter and Instagram @theslbw Follow Camonghne Felix on Twitter @CAMONGHNE and grab her poetry book "Build Yourself a Boat"

Mar 19, 2020
25. Becoming the Change With Lindsay Peoples Wagner
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When Teen Vogue editor-in-chief Lindsay Peoples Wagner told her mother she wanted to leave Brown Deer, Wisconsin to build a career in fashion, her mom said she would have to be the change she needed as a kid. Now, she’s seen a lot she wants to change from exlusive white spaces to Black leaders dissapointing her. In this episode, Lindsay dishes about her behind-the-scenes journey to speak her truth and tell inclusive stories as the youngest EIC in Teen Vogue history. You can find more about The SLBW at https://www.instagram.com/theslbw/ 
 Follow SLBW on Twitter and Instagram @theslbw Follow Lindsay Peoples Wagner on Instagram @lpeopleswagner

Mar 12, 2020
Introducing: Season 3!
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Third time's the charm, we'll be back with season 3 March 12th!

Mar 05, 2020
24. Believing We Can Win with Melina Abdullah
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In the season two finale, we talk Black Liberation and activism. With the election year in full swing, how do we maintain a sense of hope as black women? Charla and Lauren are joined by academic and civic leader Melina Abdullah. As a self described member of the ‘Panther cub generation’ Abdullah talks about her work within the Black Lives Matter movement and where she finds joy while fighting in the frontlines. 

 

We’ll be back soon with Season 3! 

 

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Angela Davis on Black Communism: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hai2viOKyBk&feature=youtu.be

Feb 06, 2020
23. Dating a Rocket Scientist with Dr. K. Renee Horton
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Success can often be used against black women, especially while dating. Charla and Lauren have experiences that have left them being labeled as ‘intimidating’ or ‘ a lot.’ These descriptions are familiar to Author and Space Launch Quality System Engineer Dr. K. Renee Horton. Working for NASA is something that Dr. Horton loves but people rarely ask about what it’s like to thrive in all the other aspects of life. In this conversation, Dr. Horton talks about her love for science and relationships, sharing hilarious stories that illuminate one experience of dating whole being a rocket scientist. 

 

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Jan 30, 2020
22. Knowing Your Worth with Chloe Hilliard
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When did you realize how much physical space you took up? Lauren first became aware of her body after an awkward childhood encounter. Self described ‘larger than life’ comedian Chloe Hilliard had a different story, but also was cognizant of the space her body took up at a young age. Chloe talks about the journey to holistic self worth and how vulnerable humor allowed her to be honest when she needed it most. 

 

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Jan 23, 2020
21. Being an Ethical Scammer with Laci Mosley
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Charla and Lauren love a good scam. They bring on the Scam Goddess Laci Mosley to give tips on what it takes to be an ethical scammer, especially as a black woman. She shares hilarious insights from her experiences as an actor and comedian while speaking the truth to the power in scams. 

 

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Jan 16, 2020
20. The Work Required with Tiffany "The Budgetnista" Aliche
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When Charla learned more about budgeting and finances, it changed how she talked about money forever. After all, who hasn’t made ‘getting better with money’ a new years resolution? In this episode Tiffany ’The Budgetnista’ Aliche gives advice on financial management, sheds light on her own struggles and talks about the issues black women in particular have to overcome. 

 

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Jan 09, 2020
19. Listening to Yourself with Mikki Kendall
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Mikki Kendall is an author, activist, cultural critic and more. She’s written several books and created the viral Twitter hashtag #Solidarityisforwhitewomen which Lauren distinctly remembers following. The hashtag started a conversation about intersectional feminism which we get into during this episode. We also chat about living in your purpose and what happens when you don’t listen to your body. 

 

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Jan 02, 2020
18. Finding Hope with Akilah Hughes
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Charla started this podcast in hopes to have conversations she wanted more of when it felt like the country was falling apart. Talking to fellow black women has given both Charla and Lauren hope. Writer, producer and host Akilah Hughes says that her hope comes from the local level. Akilah dishes on what she thinks the democratic party needs, where she’s specifically found joy and her personal journey along the way. 

 

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Dec 19, 2019
17. The Highest Joy with Kisha Augustine
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When it comes to make up, Charla and Lauren love it but wouldn’t necessarily call themselves an expert. So they bring on Kisha Augustine, a make up artist who currently works as a Manager of Artistry & Education at Pat McGrath Cosmetics. She talks about how beauty is much deeper than what you see and shares how her purpose was made particularly clear during one of the toughest times anyone can go through. 

 

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Dec 12, 2019
16. Paying it Forward Before You’ve Been Paid with Asha Boston
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What does it mean to be a gentrifier? Charla and Lauren contemplate what this means when you are a black woman moving to a city like New York City. Asha Boston was born and raised in Brooklyn and knows all about what it looks like for folks to come into a new neighborhood but have little understanding of the history behind it. In this episode, she talks about what that history looks like, how she channeled her background to design a Nike shoe and what it looks like to pay it forward 

 

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Dec 05, 2019
15. Advocating For Yourself with Dr. Debra Hardy Cartwright
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Charla and Lauren have had their fair share of experiences with going to the doctor. Recently, some of their friends have been dealing with fibroids- abnormal growths that can develop in a woman’s uterus. In this episode, Dr. Debra Hardy-Cartwright talks about what it means to advocate for yourself as a black woman in the hospital. She shares personal experiences as the first black female OBGYN in her hospital in Annapolis, MD and gives advice on what to do when you’re not being heard. 

 

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Nov 28, 2019
14. Knowing Who You Are with Ericka Hart
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What does it mean to be a woman? It’s a question that Charla and Lauren hadn’t thought too much about until their conversation with Ericka Hart. As a a sex educator, activist, writer, model, and plant mom Ericka Hart has spent her career working to dismantle anti-black and beauty standards that persist in our culture. Ericka shares exactly what led her to this work and some of the internal battles she had to overcome in order to flourish. 

 

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Nov 21, 2019
13. An Ordinary No with Bim Adewunmi
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In our season 2 premiere Charla and Lauren talk about their struggle with confidence. Producer, playwright and journalist Bim Adewunmi has always believed in herself to a certain degree. In this episode, Bim sheds light on her confidence journey and talks about how she made a choice that seemed uncomfortable and a bit scary. 


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This episode is sponsored by Bombas (www.bombas.com/secretlives) and Dipsea (www.dipseastories.com/secretlives).

Nov 14, 2019
Season 2 Trailer
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We're coming back November 14th! 

Nov 08, 2019
Introducing: Unladylike
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 We’re still on hiatus! But in the meantime, you should check out fellow Stitcher show, Unladylike. We’ll be back with Season 2 in November! 

Oct 24, 2019
12. Being A Bawse with Kerry Coddett
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In this season 1 finale, Charla and Lauren reminisce on the journey to making this show and how in some ways, it’s one step on the road to being their own bosses. Actor, Comedian and writer Kerry Coddett shares her own complicated and hilarious journey in entrepreneurship. Throughout the episode, Kerry talks about how advocating and believing in yourself is applicable to any field. 


We’ll be back with Season 2 after a brief break. In the meantime, feel free to keep up with us on our socials below- thanks for supporting our show! 


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You can check out Charla’s comedy album now at https://linktr.ee/charlalauriston

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Find Kerry Coddett @OverFab on Twitter and Instagram 


This episode is sponsored by Acuity (www.acuityscheduling.com/secretlives), Bombas (www.bombas.com/SECRETLIVES), and Audible (www.audible.com/secretlives or text SECRETLIVES to 500-500).

Oct 10, 2019
11. Staying in Process with Morgan Jerkins
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When Charla and Lauren decided to do a podcast, they wanted it to be a space where they didn’t have to apologize for who they were. That’s why when they had a live event to kick off the show, Morgan Jerkins felt like a perfect guest. In this episode, Morgan discusses how her writing is an extension of her truest experiences and what it took for her to truly be secure in who she was in all facets of her life. 


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You can check out Charla’s comedy album now at https://linktr.ee/charlalauriston

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Find Morgan Jerkins @MorganJerkins on Twitter and @_MorganJerkins on Instagram 



This episode is sponsored by Blume (text SECRET to 79-79-79) and Dipsea (www.dipseastories.com/secretlives).

Oct 03, 2019
10. Challenging the Status Quo with Jamilah Lemieux
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Charla and Lauren have used Twitter to follow people they admire while learning information that they might not have found elsewhere. That’s why watching our guest Jamilah Lemieux challenge the status quo has been a thrilling longtime activity. In this conversation Charla and Lauren find out exactly how she has been able to fight the trolls while also maintaining a sense of self. They also get into topics like abortion, motherhood and what it really means to get older. 


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Sep 26, 2019
9. Telling Our Stories with Marina Franklin
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There’s something freeing about realizing that no one really knows what they are talking about. Charla felt a particular sense of freedom when she discovered comedy. The same can be said for actor, writer and comedian Marina Franklin, who knows that standup saved her life. In this episode we talk about how comedy shaped Marinas’ world, how the industry hasn’t really changed that much and the courage it took for her to do something she’s been hungry to do for a long time.  


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Sep 19, 2019
8. Doing the Work with Dr. Joy Harden Bradford
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Therapy is a staple in Charla and Lauren’s life. They use it as a way to not only deal with major life incidents, but everyday maintenance. Dr. Joy Harden Bradford knows that finding a mental health professional who speaks to the experiences of black women can be tough. That’s why she created the podcast Therapy for Black Girls and an online directory to find black therapists in your area. In this conversation, we dig into ways to dismantle the stigma of mental health particularly when it relates to black women and some accessible resources to find a therapist in your area. 


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This episode is sponsored by Credo Mobile (www.credo.com/SLOBW), Hug Me by Blume (text SECRET to 79-79-79), and Acuity (acuityscheduling.com/secretlives).

Sep 12, 2019
7. The Sun and the Moon with Mecca Woods
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Lauren loves astrology and Charla does too; but in a more cautiously optimistic way. One of the things they like the most about it is how it has become a tool for black women to navigate the world. This uptick in interest is something astrologer Mecca Woods has noticed. She explains some of the basics of astrology, gives insight into Charla and Laurens’ chart and talks about how in the end astrology shouldn’t make us feel bad. 


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Sep 05, 2019
6. Sex and Power with Numa Perrier
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Aug 29, 2019
5. Overcoming the Fear with Cleo King
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Aug 22, 2019
4. Finding the Joy with Demetria L. Lucas
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Aug 15, 2019
3. Ambitious but Lazy with Tarriona ‘Tank’ Ball
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Aug 08, 2019
2. Black Beauty Standards with Xosha Roquemore
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Aug 01, 2019
1. Being A Black Face In A White Space with Bari A. Williams
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Jul 25, 2019
Introducing The Secret Lives of Black Women!
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Jul 12, 2019