Should you give up, or stay the course? Preface: This post is full of contradictions, so if you’re looking for a straight shot… it’s better to look within. As always. But! I have an array of options, my friends.

Sensitivity note: I start in the realm of general life stuff: Should I quit my job? Leave this relationship? Exit the church? And then we move into the deepest possible query: whether to stay on the planet. As in, choosing to stay alive. Light to dark and all the hues in between…

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I receive so many substantive, well-written, messy, articulate, deep, precise questions. Gives me hope in humanity, actually. In this episode: grief, enlightenment, whether or not we should indoctrinate our children, the meaning of life… you know. Regular stuff.

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When we say, “We're going with the flow,” what we're really saying is that we’re riding The Creative Principle. The stuff of LIFE FORCE. Flow isn’t New Age chillaxin’—it is alert relaxation. Wide awake trust. When you’re in the flow, you're constantly responding to the subtle cues that Life is giving you.

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“I've gone through my entire life holding everyone at a safe distance… how do I make friends now?” Our fear of judgment prevents us from getting the love that we're longing for. Twisted, no? But being a stranger to someone doesn’t have to be an impediment to intimacy. This is where courage comes in.

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For so long my prayers were a nuanced negotiation. I thought if I gave The Divine my best self then I’d earn what I was asking for. But if I can’t bring my darkness to the (capital L) Light, then where can I go to be healed? 

I was overriding my most tender pain. And here’s what I know now: Your pain is what God is most urgently interested in—like any parent with their child. “Let’s get this healed so you can go out and play.”

And that is how we "give it over to God." We bring our pain to the surface and then The Divine can take it from there.

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I think external psychic input can be extremely valuable for navigating. I’ve had seers on my payroll. And… We can often sense what's coming ourselves—we just don't recognize our own power. Wanting the encouragement of somebody else's gifted perspective is natural. And we want to make sure that craving for input doesn’t become a dependency. Keep your power within your own being. Free will, free will, free will. And PS: free will. daniellelaporte.com/withlove

This is about suffering (mine in particular). And the radiance that comes after we all suffer. This isn’t a woe is me recount. I offer my stories for the sake of community, for potentially softening your learning curve, and for hope. I’m convinced that by sharing our stories of getting through struggle, we help each other heal.

In this episode I also POUR ON THE HOPE AND ENCOURAGEMENT for those of us in similar circumstances. Please listen if you’re in need. daniellelaporte.com/withlove

My fellow grown up, let’s get you centered in your truth and prepped for family gatherings… so you don’t end up in the bathroom drunk-dialing your therapist, or your highschool sweetheart (who’s now married with 3 kids). 

You have the inner resources. Acceptance! Self respect! Compassion! And so much LOVE! I have some ideas for staying sane (and ideally: being your most loving self), even if you want to get the hell out of there: daniellelaporte.com/withlove

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You’d think that as empathetic humans, who are so attuned to our own feelings, we’d know immediately when someone has jacked into our own life force. But we just keep tolerating toxic dynamics in the name of compassion.

Here’s how to apply your compassion with DISCERNMENT when it comes to narcissists… daniellelaporte.com/withlove

So many of us grip our mistakes because we never want to make them (and hurt anybody) again. But the moving forward can only happen when you can really forgive yourself. It’s possible. And there’s a sequence to it. Here’s how I practice: daniellelaporte.com/withlove

Loss brings out our truest self. And while grace doesn’t come naturally to all of us—especially when we lose—it can be cultivated… if you go out of your way to be grateful. Let me tell you a story. It all starts in the ladies room, in a snowy city, five minutes before my curtain call… daniellelaporte.com/withlove

When you feel like you have nothing to offer—TRUST your rhythms. Rest. Regenerate. Do what it takes to be well. Our culture confuses productivity-output-achievement with self-worth. To unhook from that fiction: daniellelaporte.com/withlove

When things are brutally difficult with somebody, sometimes the healthiest thing is to have a non-verbal, encouragement convo. When you can’t safely/bravely express yourself in this realm, then use an esoteric channel—speak to the other person’s Higher Self.

It might be the best conversation you’ve ever had. daniellelaporte.com/withlove

I’ve gotten in the habit of creating a “What I Trust” list before a big gig or opportunity, or when any situation feels wobbly. Often we’re fixated on firing up endorphins (and there are times for that), that we forget that feeling assured and comforted is where the real power is. Calm and centered is magnetic.

The “What I Trust” list is for focus and soothing your nervous system.

Instead of mustering bravado about things that we hope are true, we root into what we viscerally know we can rely on.

So… what do you trust?

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It’s too late in the day, and too hot, crowded, and a little too painful on the planet, to be focused solely on personal attainment. Manifestation is a technology, and like all technologies, I pray that we use it to generate more loving realities for ourselves and for each other.

You can still reach for the dream job, the healthy bod’, and the love of your life. You get to want what you want. Always. I’m saying: want all of those things, AND incorporate other people’s wellness in your vision. Pray that when you receive those things, it will make you more generous, more joyous, more healthy… more able to contribute to the collective happiness of everybody around you.

This episode is a roundup of the potential mis-steps of popular manifestation techniques, and an invitation for something deeper and unifying.

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The first thing to do with that inner critic voice is to have compassion for it. (This is counterintuitive because we live in a performance-based culture that thrives on judgement.) Approach with love—then instead of creating further separation from your heart, you’re building a bridge.

Anytime you bring compassion to a situation you will see it more clearly. Compassion is the light of Love. It’s the true power source. Speak of it often.

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Our Shadow Self is not an evil-twin personality that we have to master. It’s our neglected inner child—our deep sensitivity. Our greatest opportunity for building strength comes from the work of healing our woundedness. I know this because I lived it: learning to love my most wounded self was my ultimate restoration.

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Making new friends in your 30s, 40s, and onwards — it’s never, EVER too late. Your longing for sisterhood is both primal and divine. Friendship is the medicine. It's the elixir that we need right now, more than ever. Your desire is so HEALTHY. Friendships are my primary religion so here’s what I suggest… daniellelaporte.com/withlove

We can all understand the importance of starting our day in an intentional way. But before we jump into new habits, we need to look into our psyche and examine what’s really up when we wake up. Each of us has a pre-existing relationship with “mornings”. And it matters.

Menus of morning habits are easy to come by (harder to practice). But habits are only bandaids unless we get beneath the surface of our behavior and relating. That’s what most productivity methods fail to ask. What were mornings like for you growing up? What does your ideal morning *feel* like? Welcome to Morning Therapy (but, like, not therapy) with Danielle!

I struggled with mornings for a long time. There was a kind of resistance to starting the day, even when there was the presence of joy. I decided to take a deeper, psychological look—and it shifted everything for me. With a little help from my psychotherapist, essentially I created my own therapeutic approach to mornings. 

Morning mindfulness is how you activate your superpowers. Your steadiness and strength. And your connection to the sacred—everything we need on the graceful and the challenging days.

So, how do we power up our pre-day? First, we go deeper.

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Are you attracting jerks because you’re a jerk? Maybe. Maybe not. Sometimes the jerk is there to show you how you do NOT want to feel or be treated—because contrast is one of our most powerful teachers. The flipside: what they may be here to illuminate is how you DO want to feel and who you truly are.

I am a 100% yes to the theory that we attract certain people into our lives to teach us certain things. And—everyone is not your complete reflection. Here’s what I mean… daniellelaporte.com/withlove

Love is one of the most wrung out, misused, and challenging concepts in philosophy, and (more specifically) in self-help teachings. And if “love” is a confusing concept… then “self-love” is utterly mystifying. 

This episode is a long strand of pragmatic and esoteric pearls for self compassion. It’s a reminder that deepening our self-love expands our ability to love others. Real love is mystical and very palpable. It's holy and it's human. It's poetic… and it gets the job done.

How do we love ourselves—and each other? Let me count the ways… daniellelaporte.com/withlove

The Q: “What’s your opinion on one-night stands when it’s ultimately not aligned with what you want in your forever partner? I know women who wait years of sexual deprivation because they’re holding out for The One.”

Where do I stand on one-night stands? Are they soul satisfying… or just a distraction in your pants? In this episode, I open up about holding out and putting out.

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For those of us who believe in the intelligence of love, roll call! This is for the deep-feelers. There are a thousand reasons to be highly concerned for the world, but by the end of this conversation I hope you feel less like a spiritual worrier and more like a spiritual warrior. I’m talking about fierce gentleness, self agency, and how we make choices from our resiliency. Courage, my love.

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