Where Do We Go From Here?
By Jessica Van Der Wyngaard
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Subscribers: 46
Reviews: 2
Episodes: 216
LB
Dec 28, 2022
Really appreciate these conversations and thoughtful interviews.
RinaM
Apr 30, 2021
So thought provoking. Super helpful in untangling what Evangelicalism taught me as a teenager. Gives me hope for the Church, quite frankly.
Description
A weekly podcast deconstructing purity culture, sex and other real life stuff for thoughtful Christians and exvangelicals alike.
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Reframing Care Work: Interview with Laura Danger
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Apr 01, 2026 |
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Bonus Episode: What to Expect from Where Do We Go From Here
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Mar 27, 2026 |
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No Hard Feelings Chat: What is the Purpose of Church During and After Deconstruction?
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Mar 20, 2026 |
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Stages of Faith
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Mar 02, 2026 |
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No Hard Feelings Chat: What's in a Name? Marriage, Identity, and the Politics of Surnames
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Feb 22, 2026 |
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Science and Sex: Bacteria, Bonobos, the Bible and Beyond
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Feb 19, 2026 |
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Purity Culture is Spiritual Abuse
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Feb 10, 2026 |
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From Virgin vs Vixen to Grace and Consent
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Feb 04, 2026 |
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Ask Jess Anything: Deconstruction, Sex, Motherhood, and Closure
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Jan 28, 2026 |
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I've got Questions for Erin Moon
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Jan 22, 2026 |
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Rage Bait, "Childless" and the Gender Blame Game
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Jan 15, 2026 |
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From Purity to Power: Sex, Innocence, and the Legacy of White Christianity
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Jan 06, 2026 |
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Learning to Trust Yourself to Deconstruct and Date
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Dec 30, 2025 |
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Christmas, Closets, and Consent: A Happiest Season Rom-Com Recap
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Dec 23, 2025 |
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Can You Deconstruct Without Losing Your Faith
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Dec 10, 2025 |
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Starved of Desire: How Purity Culture and Diet Culture Intertwine
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Dec 03, 2025 |
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On Premarital Sex Part 4: Sin or Not a Sin?
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Nov 26, 2025 |
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On Premarital Sex Part 3: Making Sexual Decisions with Wisdom — Not Fear
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Nov 25, 2025 |
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On Premarital Sex Part 2: Reimagining Celibacy
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Nov 25, 2025 |
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On Premarital Sex Part 1: What are the rules when there are no rules?
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Nov 24, 2025 |
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What We Can Learn from a Somatic Sexologist
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Nov 19, 2025 |
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Faith, Feminism & Pleasure: Rethinking the Christian Story of Sex
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Nov 12, 2025 |
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Deconstructing Christian Patriarchy and Reclaiming Feminine Energy
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Nov 05, 2025 |
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Does Saving Sex for Marriage Set People Up for Better or Worse Sex? - A No Hard Feelings Chat
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Oct 29, 2025 |
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Nobody Wants This Season 1 Recap
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Oct 23, 2025 |
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Why 'Waiting on God's Timing' Keeps Women Stuck and other thoughts
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Oct 15, 2025 |
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Grace for Parents, Healing for Kids - Chatting to the authors of The Myth of Good Christian Parenting
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Oct 10, 2025 |
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April Ajoy on Christian Nationalism and Star-Spangled Jesus
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Sep 24, 2025 |
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No Hard Feelings about Charlie Kirk
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Sep 16, 2025 |
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Devi's Back for the Dr James Dobson Autopsy
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Sep 09, 2025 |
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Kristin Kobes Du Mez on Purity Culture, Patriarchy & Power
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Sep 02, 2025 |
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Submission, Agency, and Shiny Happy People S2: Where Do We Go From Here?
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Aug 26, 2025 |
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Submission: The Church Rule We Subconsciously Deconstructed?
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Aug 19, 2025 |
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Consent as a Holy Starting Point: Rethinking Christian Sexual Ethics
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Aug 12, 2025 |
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Beyond Consent: Rethinking Sex, Power, and Justice - a conversation with Danielle Tumminio Hansen
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Aug 06, 2025 |
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Parenting and Re-Parenting Without Sexual Shame with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers
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Jul 31, 2025 |
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Shiny Happy People Season 2: Teen Mania, Radicalisation & the Teenage Holy War
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Jul 28, 2025 |
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Sex, Consent and the Theology of Harm: What if sin is about harm, not rules? We rethink ethics, bodies, and sacred sexuality
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Jul 22, 2025 |
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"Talking About Sex in Church Broke Us" — Donna Freitas on Healing What Religion Couldn't
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Jul 15, 2025 |
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Is It Time for a New Christian Sexual Ethic?
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Jul 08, 2025 |
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Most Downloaded: Sex and Agency
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Jul 03, 2025 |
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Purity, Paul, and Pride: A Queer Pastor Reimagines Christianity
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Jun 24, 2025 |
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Do we still believe in "obedience" after purity culture?
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Jun 19, 2025 |
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Is Christianity Still Good News for Women?
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Jun 11, 2025 |
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Can You Still Follow God After Church Trauma? A conversation with Brenda Palmer
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Jun 04, 2025 |
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Emotional Affairs & the First American Pope. A No Hard Feelings Chat
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May 15, 2025 |
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Pelvic Floors, Pain, Pleasure & Purity Culture with osteopath Rebecca Lovett
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May 01, 2025 |
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Where Does Deconstruction Go From Here?
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Apr 16, 2025 |
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What Does Safe Sex and Ghosting Have in Common?
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Apr 08, 2025 |
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Where Did Devi Go From Here? Saying Goodbye (for now)
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Mar 25, 2025 |
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Devi's got something to share...
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Mar 06, 2025 |
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149: Radical Activism, Women's Rights, and the Legacy of Josephine Butler
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Feb 07, 2025 |
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148: Purity Culture's Black & White Thinking Hurt us. Here's What Can Help
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Nov 14, 2024 |
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Losing Her Religion: Gen Z's Gender Divide in Faith
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Nov 03, 2024 |
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What Comes Next?
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Apr 27, 2024 |
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'Pure White': The origin story of purity culture
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Mar 22, 2024 |
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An "Easy Love" After Divorce: Haverlee's Story
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Mar 09, 2024 |
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7 Signs That Your Marriage Can Be Saved
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Feb 27, 2024 |
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What if your marriage doesn't make you happy or holy?
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Feb 16, 2024 |
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Your Body Is Resource
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Jan 31, 2024 |
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No Room At The Inn: Single During A Cost of Living Crisis
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Dec 21, 2023 |
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Where Is Jess Going From Here?
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Nov 30, 2023 |
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'Holy Runaways' And The Search For A Spiritual Home
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Nov 15, 2023 |
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Is Andy Stanley's Method the Future for LGBTQ+ Engagement in the Church?
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Oct 12, 2023 |
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A Single Woman & Fertility After 40: Annie's Story
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Oct 04, 2023 |
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135: Anna McGahan on the Stories that Shape Us, Break Us, and Make Us
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Sep 22, 2023 |
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134: Evangelicalism Failed Our Girls. Here's How We Can Do Better.
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Aug 31, 2023 |
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133: Sex Toys For (Christian) Dummies
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Aug 09, 2023 |
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132: The Problem With Purity Rings (And Other Bad Symbols & Metaphors)
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Jul 25, 2023 |
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131: Child Trafficking is Terrible. 'Sound of Freedom' Misses the Point.
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Jul 20, 2023 |
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130: Why Christians Should Talk About "The Secrets of Hillsong" (Episode 4 Recap)
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Jul 11, 2023 |
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129: "The Secrets of Hillsong" Reveals the Many Problems with Frank Houston (Episode 3 Recap)
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Jun 28, 2023 |
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128: "The Secrets of Hillsong" Can't Make Carl Lentz A Prodigal Son (Episode 2 recap)
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Jun 22, 2023 |
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127: Looking for Truth in "The Secrets of Hillsong" (Episode 1 Recap)
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Jun 08, 2023 |
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126: The Recent Allegations Against Mike Pilavachi
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May 11, 2023 |
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125: Revisiting "The Sex Talk" with Jess' mum
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May 04, 2023 |
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124: The Big Debrief
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Apr 25, 2023 |
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123: Making (Grownup) Friends Is Hard To Do
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Apr 19, 2023 |
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(SNEAK PEAK) The Trials and Triumphs of 'Bridget Jones' Diary'
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Apr 17, 2023 |
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(SNEAK PEAK) Bekah McNeel Tells the Story About White Evangelicals and Parenting
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Apr 12, 2023 |
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122: Rehumanizing Men
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Apr 05, 2023 |
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(121) Like A Virgin: The Story Evangelicals Told About Virginity
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Mar 22, 2023 |
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(SNEAK PEAK) Can You Peel An Apple In One Long Curl?
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Mar 16, 2023 |
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120: Ephesians 5 Gone Wrong in the Latest Evangelical Take on Sex
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Mar 08, 2023 |
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SNEAK PEAK! Is 'Center Stage' A Toe-tal Disaster?
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Mar 02, 2023 |
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119: What If We Didn't Kiss Dating Goodbye
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Feb 23, 2023 |
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(SNEAK PEAK) On Bread, Singleness, Food, and Hunger with Kendall Vanderslice
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Feb 09, 2023 |
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118: Hope For 'Orphaned Believers'
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Feb 01, 2023 |
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SUMMER SNEAK PEAK! "As if..." we could like this movie
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Jan 20, 2023 |
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SUMMER SNEAK PEAK! Prince Harry's first time, low libido after babies, plus two Netflix shows
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Jan 11, 2023 |
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117: What's Next For Us (plus changes in support for same sex marriage, evangelical heresies, and our thoughts on 'Harry & Meghan')
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Dec 28, 2022 |
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116: A Woman's Body Points To God
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Dec 14, 2022 |
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115: My Kid Came Out. What Do I Do Next?
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Dec 07, 2022 |
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114: Let's Talk About Sex (Education! And Masturbation! And Toys!)
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Nov 22, 2022 |
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113: On Disability, Faith, and the Bodymind
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Nov 10, 2022 |
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112: 'The Wisdom of Your Body' with Dr. Hillary McBride
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Oct 27, 2022 |
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(111) From Bill Hybels to Carl Lentz: Christian Celebrity Problems
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Oct 14, 2022 |
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110: Therapy After Purity Culture part 2 (Rebuilding with Congruence)
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Sep 29, 2022 |
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109: Therapy After Purity Culture (part 1)
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Sep 21, 2022 |
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108: The Big One About Abortion
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Sep 13, 2022 |
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107: On Sexuality, Soul Ties, and the Bible
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Aug 17, 2022 |
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106: Is Consent Enough?
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Aug 03, 2022 |
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105: Getting Back on the Apps
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Jul 20, 2022 |
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104: Our Secular & Evangelical Cultures Do Not Understand Abuse
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Jul 13, 2022 |
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103: You Were Told Your Body Was Unsafe. God Has a Different Message.
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Jun 29, 2022 |
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102: How To Survive Wedding Season As a Single
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Jun 22, 2022 |
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101: What Sex Ed In The Church Could Look Like
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Jun 08, 2022 |
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100: 100 Episodes and the Conversation That Continues
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May 27, 2022 |
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99: How Women In The Margins Remake The World
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May 11, 2022 |
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98: News and Views: Hillsong, Bridgerton, and More
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Apr 27, 2022 |
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97: Gaslighting in Relationships and the Church
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Apr 13, 2022 |
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96: Motherhood & Friendship Through Life's Big Transitions
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Mar 30, 2022 |
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95: How Little Women helps us redefine "happily ever after"
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Mar 16, 2022 |
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94: Do We Need Another Christian Dating Book?
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Mar 02, 2022 |
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93: Pam & Tommy: Celebrity Voyeurism and Consent
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Feb 19, 2022 |
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92: The Quest for Desire, Longing, and Beauty with Dr. Curt Thompson
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Feb 16, 2022 |
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91: Lazy Genius-ing A Galentines/Palentines Party
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Feb 02, 2022 |
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90: Redeeming Love and the Problem With Evangelical Novels
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Jan 28, 2022 |
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89: On Premarital Sex: Sin or Not A Sin
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Jan 19, 2022 |
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88: Chasing Glory in the Song of Songs
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Jan 05, 2022 |
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87: The Family Stone
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Dec 16, 2021 |
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86: Purity Culture 2.0
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Nov 24, 2021 |
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85: On Premarital Sex: Abstinence After True Love Waits
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Nov 10, 2021 |
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BONUS: Your Body is Good Encore
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Nov 03, 2021 |
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84: Your Body Is Good
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Oct 27, 2021 |
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BONUS: Devi Reads Jess The News (And Jess Tells Devi What to Watch)
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Oct 20, 2021 |
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83 On Premarital Sex: Reimagining Celibacy
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Oct 07, 2021 |
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BONUS: When Harry Met Sally
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Oct 04, 2021 |
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82: Break Free From Unwanted Sexual Behavior
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Sep 23, 2021 |
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81: On Premarital Sex: What Are The Rules When There Are No Rules?
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Sep 12, 2021 |
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80: Masculinity Needs Definitions
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Sep 01, 2021 |
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BONUS: Reflections on Christian Celebrity After 'I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye'
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Aug 24, 2021 |
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BONUS: Mars Hill, Mark Driscoll, and the Pollution of Our Sexual Imaginations
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Aug 02, 2021 |
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79: "Causing Some Good Trouble"
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Jul 28, 2021 |
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78: We Can't 'Love the Sinner and Hate the Sin'
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Jul 21, 2021 |
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77: "I'm Afraid of Making Mistakes"
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Jul 07, 2021 |
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76: Modesty Was The Gateway Drug To Purity Culture
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Jun 30, 2021 |
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75: "I'm Queer And In The Church"
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Jun 23, 2021 |
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74: The Troubled History of Manufactured Masculinity in American Evangelicalism
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Jun 16, 2021 |
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73: Obligation Sex and the Other Problems with Christian Sex Books
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Jun 09, 2021 |
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72: The Truths & Myths of Dating a Non-Christian
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Jun 02, 2021 |
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71: "They Taught Me How To Be A Good Girl But Not How To Be A Woman"
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May 26, 2021 |
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70: 3 Mistakes Christians Make When Reading the Bible
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May 19, 2021 |
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69: The Big One About Consent
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May 12, 2021 |
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68: Why You Need To Watch 'Promising Young Woman'
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May 03, 2021 |
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67: Where Did Jenna Go From Here?
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Apr 28, 2021 |
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66: Relationships & Attachment Triggers with Krispin Mayfield
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Apr 21, 2021 |
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65: Is Your Love Preoccupied, Avoidant, or Disorganized?
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Apr 13, 2021 |
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64: 'Biblical' Womanhood Was Always Cultural Womanhood With Professor Beth Allison Barr
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Apr 07, 2021 |
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63: What To Do When #MeToo Is In The News?
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Apr 01, 2021 |
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62: Where Did Julia Go From Here?
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Mar 24, 2021 |
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61: What Does the Bible Really Say
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Mar 17, 2021 |
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60: First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then What?
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Mar 10, 2021 |
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59: Does The Movie 'Never Been Kissed' Hold Up?
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Mar 03, 2021 |
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58: Where Did Amy Go From Here?
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Feb 24, 2021 |
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57: An Expansive Vision for Human Sexuality with Debra Hirsch
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Feb 17, 2021 |
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BONUS: An Update on Ravi Zacharias
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Feb 15, 2021 |
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56: What Breaks Us And Why Sharing Helps With Laura Tremaine
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Feb 10, 2021 |
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55: Galentines and the Celebration of Friendship in a Romance World
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Feb 04, 2021 |
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54: Where Did Jason Go From Here?
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Jan 27, 2021 |
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53: What Makes Sex Good with Dr. Celeste Holbrook
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Jan 20, 2021 |
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52: Parenting and Re-parenting Without Sexual Shame with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers
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Jan 13, 2021 |
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51: Ravi Zacharias Update, Love Actually and More!
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Jan 06, 2021 |
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50: Say goodbye to those "heroes"
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Dec 21, 2020 |
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49: Sex and Agency
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Dec 21, 2020 |
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48: When You're Alone For The Holidays
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Dec 16, 2020 |
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47: Finding Common Ground on Sex, family, & Faith
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Dec 09, 2020 |
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46: There's more to Sex Than 'Purity' & 'Virginity'
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Nov 30, 2020 |
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45: Taylor Swift From Love Story To Exile
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Nov 25, 2020 |
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44: Untangling Sexual Ethics Without Religion
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Nov 18, 2020 |
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43: Rebuilding Sexual Ethics After Purity Culture
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Nov 11, 2020 |
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42: How Can We Have a Better Conversation About Abortion?
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Nov 04, 2020 |
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41: Do We Still Have a Christian Dating Problem?
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Oct 28, 2020 |
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40: Christians break up too
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Oct 20, 2020 |
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39: Courage and Conviction in the Life of Josephine Butler
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Oct 14, 2020 |
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38: Pelvic Health After Purity Culture
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Oct 07, 2020 |
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37: It's Queer, Not "Same-Sex Attracted"
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Sep 23, 2020 |
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36: 'Heat Seeking Sex Missiles' And Other Beliefs To Reconsider
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Sep 16, 2020 |
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35: A Pastor says #MeToo
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Sep 09, 2020 |
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34: Real Talk on Race and Relationships
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Sep 02, 2020 |
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33: What Comes After Grief
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Aug 26, 2020 |
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32: Naming Your Unspoken Grief
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Aug 19, 2020 |
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31: The Myths of App Dating
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Aug 12, 2020 |
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30: Women and Porn
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Aug 05, 2020 |
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29: Is It Time to Mute John Crist?
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Jul 29, 2020 |
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28: The Making of Progressive Sexual Ethics
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Jul 22, 2020 |
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27: Moving "Beyond Awkward Side Hugs"
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Jul 15, 2020 |
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26: Reimagining Single Life
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Jun 24, 2020 |
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BONUS: Reflections on the Black Experience of Purity Culture
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Jun 24, 2020 |
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25: Talking to Mum About Purity Culture
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Jun 17, 2020 |
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24: Why We Need Touch
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Jun 10, 2020 |
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23: Ravi Zacharias, Josh Harris, and the Myth of Christian Heroes
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Jun 03, 2020 |
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22: I Wasn't Straight, but I Also Wasn't Gay
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May 27, 2020 |
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21: Elsa, Anna, and the Princesses of 2020
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May 20, 2020 |
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20: Don't Use Faith to Bypass the Body
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May 13, 2020 |
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19: Quitting Porn
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May 06, 2020 |
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18: Are Evangelicals 'Addicted to Lust'?
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Apr 29, 2020 |
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17: Sex Is For Wives, Too
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Apr 22, 2020 |
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16: Read Better Books
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Apr 22, 2020 |
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15: Covid Catchup
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Apr 22, 2020 |
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14: What's Next For Us
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Mar 19, 2020 |
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13: Sex and Dating in Culture
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Mar 04, 2020 |
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12: Sexual Ethics in the Wild
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Feb 28, 2020 |
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11: Healing After trauma
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Feb 21, 2020 |
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10: Purity Culture & Trauma
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Feb 10, 2020 |
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9: How to Talk About Divorce & Grief
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Feb 05, 2020 |
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Gender Roles & Sexual Equality
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Jan 30, 2020 |
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8: Gender Roles & Sexual Equality
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Jan 29, 2020 |
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7: Q&A on Singleness, Marriage, and Parenting
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Jan 24, 2020 |
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6: Sexual Prosperity & Singleness
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Jan 15, 2020 |
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5: Does God Owe You Hot Sex?
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Jan 08, 2020 |
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4: Disney Princess Films and Purity Culture with Dr. Kutter Callaway
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Dec 20, 2019 |
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3: What Chewed Up Gum Has To Do With Sex
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Dec 12, 2019 |
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2: Is Purity the Word the Bible Uses to Talk About Sex?
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Dec 05, 2019 |
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1: Why Should We Have a Post-Purity Culture Podcast?
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Nov 28, 2019 |
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Trailer - Where Do We Go From Here?
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Nov 21, 2019 |