The Boundaries.me Podcast

By Dr. Henry Cloud

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Dr. Henry Cloud's Boundaries.me podcast features inspiring stories about the benefits to your relationships, mental health, productivity and wellbeing that come when you implement healthy boundaries.

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Episode 15 with Dr. Les Carter - Who are you going to be?
06:59

Who are you going to be?

Dr. Les Carter shares with us his story about setting a boundary around staying centered on being himself. Remaining true to ourselves is incredibly hard, but by establishing a boundary around who we are, and who we're going to be to the people around us, it becomes possible. That boundary makes it easier to make adjustments and stay aware of when we diverge from our true selves.

Mar 31, 2020
Episode 14 - Micro-steps to sanity in a crisis
21:35

I hope you're doing alright. We're still in the early stages of a crisis and you might be experiencing feelings of being a little lost and adrift right now, or maybe a little unmotivated...well there's some reasons for that. You lose some control when the structures of life disappear. When the choices of normal life get removed you feel powerlessness. So, what can we do individually to take a few steps back to feeling normal? In this podcast, I want to help you overcome something called 'learned helplessness.' I want to help you take control of what you can control, and come to terms with what you can't.

Mar 26, 2020
Episode 13 - Being psychologically healthy during times of crisis
48:36

This podcast is about the psychology of what happens to a human in a time of big crisis. How does that affect us? What are the best things that you can be doing in the midst of that for your psyche, for your heart and for your relationships? One of the things that we know about humans is that we are unbelievably resilient. We adapt. We find ways through hard times. We come out stronger on the other end. 

So, how do we get through it? That’s what I want to discuss.

Mar 20, 2020
Episode 12 with Danny Silk - Respectful Communication
07:04

One of the most trying parts of a relationship is when respect breaks down. When that happens, contempt is not far away, and contempt will end relationships.

 

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud’s podcast, Danny Silk, a pastor and author, tells us about how he progressed in his relationships by setting a firm boundary around respectful communication. Between his two parents, and his wife’s two parents and step father, there have been 15 marriages. Both he and his wife come from backgrounds that did not teach about healthy relationships. Through love, and time, they discovered the peace that comes from keeping calm and showing respect in all communication. When communication breaks down and the conversation turns to anger, they’ve learned to stop and reset. 

 

It’s not an easy thing to do, and it takes practice, but learning to stop yourself from speaking or listening when anger and frustration are steering the conversation is one of the most important lessons to learn for having long and meaningful relationships. It’s a boundary all of us need if we want to build stronger relationships.

Mar 19, 2020
Episode 11 with Jo Saxton - Guarding Yourself From Your Flaws
06:30

Boundaries can free us to lead our lives by unburdening us from our flaws and past mistakes. It’s like a quarantine. It may seem as though boundaries prevent freedom, but in most cases it’s the exact opposite. 

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud’s podcast, Jo Saxton, an author, public speaker, and host of the Lead Stories Podcast, tells us about how setting a boundary around her brokenness was a turning point in her life. Pain will do all kinds of things to the mind, and our first reactions to mental pain when we’re young often exacerbate things. That’s part of Jo’s story. She found solace in denial, and in drinking too much. It happens all the time. Through some good luck and hard work she found a way to put the past in the past and to forgive her flaws by releasing them to a boundary. She knew there were consequences to going to certain places in her mind. Setting the boundary freed her to start leading her life.

Mar 17, 2020
Episode 10 with Pat Lencioni - Boundaries Around What Matters Most
07:57

What matters most to you? This is often the first place to start when we begin creating boundaries in our lives.

 

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud’s podcast, Pat Lencioni shares with us his story of creating a boundary around prioritizing his family. He’s discovered that it all starts with his family, and that if work, or other relationships begin to take precedent, he suffers. Ironically, he’s found that by keeping his time with his family sacred he’s more efficient at work, has higher productivity, and has better secondary relationships. It’s not a boundary around time, but a boundary around emotion and this helps to make it easier to maintain. He can feel when the boundary is being encroached, and it’s more intuitive. Boundaries do us no good if they’re not maintained. This might be the ticket for you or someone you know to make a maintainable boundary in your life. If you make a boundary with a certain emotion you’ll always be able to feel when it’s in need of attention.

Mar 12, 2020
Episode 9 with Christine Caine - Stop Taking Everything Personally
14:27

Have you ever received criticism that stuck with you? Most of us can think back to something someone said that offended us, and we’re still carrying that doubt or shame.

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud’s Boundaries.Me Podcast, Christine Caine -- an activist, author, and public speaker -- explains how she realized she was taking personal offense far too often. It was undermining her working relationships and taking a toll on the rest of her life. She took some growth steps to understand that if she started to take criticism personally, she was really being triggered by something else. We have to learn to observe what’s happening to us in order to change it, and that’s the boundary she set: when the offense-alarm went off, rather than getting defensive, she goes to a place of observation. This practice has led her to peace and healthier relationships. 

Mar 10, 2020
Episode 8 with Liz Bohannon - Boundaries and Mutual Respect in Marriage
10:10

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud’s Boundaries.Me podcast, Liz Bohannon, co-founder and CEO of Sseko Designs, shares with us the importance of establishing work-life boundaries with her husband and Co-CEO. They have a rule: they have to ask each other for permission to talk about work outside of work. It seems like it should be common sense to share our boundaries, but it takes time and attention, and it’s made a big difference in Liz’s life.

Mar 05, 2020
Episode 7 with Lysa TerKeurst - Know Your Spiritual Capacity
10:53

Being honest with ourselves about what we can and can't put up with is crucial to becoming a healthy person. 

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud's podcast, Lysa TerKeurst shares a very personal story about how setting a boundary around her spiritual capacity changed her life. She realized that there were limits to how much she can give, and that when she gave too much, she couldn't function. It's a form of people-pleasing that caring people will have to confront. Setting this boundary allowed her to shift from a place of trying to have control over how other people feel, to a place of compassion, and it ultimately helped save her marriage.

 

Mar 03, 2020
Episode 6 - Emotional Tone
20:21

We create an emotional tone within our lives and relationships. What does the voice in your head sound like? Do you like what you hear? How aware are you of the emotional tone that you create in your communications with others? Is your tone bringing people closer, or pushing them away?

Dr. Henry Cloud breaks down how you can begin to take control of the emotional tone that you're living inside.

Jan 14, 2020
Episode 5 with Anthony ONeal - Reaching Your Vision
06:27

What are you not going to do? That's how Anthony ONeal started work on setting healthy boundaries.

Your boundaries will help push you toward what you want to happen and protect you from drifting of course. The boundaries that Anthony set around money and relationships have enabled him to make the choices that build the future he wants.

When you know what you DON'T want to do, or what you DON'T want to happen, it makes it that much easier to bring about the results that you DO want to happen.

Jan 07, 2020
Episode 4 - Five Steps to a Better New Year
19:47

If you're anything like most people, you're feeling pretty optimistic about a few new year resolutions right about now... But also, if you're like most people, by the end of January, you'll have abandoned them.

There is a reason that most people don't stick with their resolutions.

The new episode of the Boundaries.Me podcast is all about how to actually stick with your resolutions this year. This is directly actionable advice that I encourage all of you to follow, whether you're a resolutions person or not, if you have any goals that you'd like to accomplish.

Setting goals is easy and meeting them is hard, but it doesn't have to be impossible. If you can learn how to do this, you'll thrive in any situation where you're trying to accomplish something.

The Boundaries.Me team is rooting for you. Whatever it is that you're trying to accomplish... whether you want to lose a little weight, or become a professional athlete... whether you want to get better at replying to emails, or you want to write your life story, the process is the same. We know you can do it. I really, really believe in this path.

It's what I use in my own life, and it's what I use with a lot of people that I work with. It's going to work for you too.

Dec 30, 2019
Episode 3 with Rachel Cruze - Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
08:34

Comparing yourself to others can be a recipe for heartache.

This episode of the podcast features a story by Rachel Cruze. Rachel's story focuses on a boundary that she has set around comparing herself with other people.

In this social media saturated age, we often see only the side of people that they want us to see. Comparing ourselves with the curated, unrealistic view of someone else's life can leave us feeling like less than we are meant to be. Listen to Rachel describe the boundary she sets to protect herself and her family so that she can focuses on what really matters. If you'd like help getting started with implementing this boundary in your own life, Rachel's contentment journal would be a good place to begin.

As a #1 New York Times best-selling author, host of The Rachel Cruze Show, and The Rachel Cruze Show podcast, Rachel helps people learn the proper ways to handle money and stay out of debt. She’s authored three best-selling books, including Love Your Life, Not Theirs and Smart Money Smart Kids, which she co-wrote with her father, Dave Ramsey. You can follow Cruze on Twitter and Instagram at @RachelCruze and online at rachelcruze.com, youtube.com/rachelcruze or facebook.com/rachelramseycruze

Dec 18, 2019
Episode 2 with Bob Goff - What Do You Want?
06:02

Bob Goff has a question for listeners of Dr. Henry Cloud's podcast: how can I be helpful to you?

This episode of the podcast focuses on the boundary that Bob sets when he asks this question. Put another way, the question is, "What do you want?"

Bob tells us how this clarifying question enables him to be incredibly available to help people, while also setting a condition that must be met in order to begin.

As you may or may not know, Bob put his own phone number in the back of his book, Love Does. He receives around 100 phone calls a day, and helps when he can.

Dec 12, 2019
Dr. Henry Cloud's Boundaries.me Podcast - Episode 1 - The Boundary of Love
12:06

The first episode of Dr. Henry Cloud's Boundaries.me Podcast features Henry discussing the most important boundary in his life -- the boundary of love. Henry tells listeners why loving God with his heart and soul and to love others as himself is a centering, anchoring form of accountability and relationship.

Nov 22, 2019