The Boundaries.me Podcast

By Dr. Henry Cloud

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Dr. Henry Cloud's Boundaries.me podcast features inspiring stories about the benefits to your relationships, mental health, productivity and wellbeing that come when you implement healthy boundaries.

Episode Date
Episode 56 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - What Is Positive Psychology? - 6-18-2020
01:03:23

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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-How can we determine what behavior to tolerate from a friend with bipolar disorder?

-Realizing after years that her husband is a massive gaslighter, Emily wants to know if there's hope he'll recover.

-Getting your spouse involved is crucial to setting boundaries with your in-laws.

Jul 13, 2020
Episode 55 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Who Are You Connected To? - 6-17-2020
01:01:03

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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-How can a sister help her brother see that his wife is ruining his relationships?

-What do you do when your friends aren't reaching back out? Is it you?

-A woman binge eats because of issues in her marriage. Her husband is in denial.

-Trigger Warning: This call talks about domestic abuse. Her husband who abused her is about to see their kids again and the kids don't want to go

Jul 10, 2020
Episode 54 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Unfinished Business and The Empty Chair - 6-16-2020
01:01:13

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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-A mother is concerned about her daughter's phone behavior and wants to start monitoring it. Is it right?

-A man who wants to get his dating numbers up is worried about the stigma of dating lots of people.

-Why do we self-sabotage on the road to improving ourselves?

-A loving mom realizes she can't control her anger toward her daughter and needs help.

Jul 09, 2020
Episode 53 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Be Mindful of Internalizing the External - 6-15-2020
01:01:21

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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-A mother is concerned about the way her son treats women, including herself.

-What do you do when your ex start talking to your friends and visiting your house uninvited?

-(Trigger warning: sexual abuse by a family member) A daughter who was abused as a child wants to reconcile how she feels about her father at the end of his life. 

-How do you build a support system after a bad relationship?

Jul 08, 2020
Episode 52 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - What You Think Matters In How You Behave and Feel - 6-12-2020
56:39

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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-This caller has changed her mind about having premarital sex, the trouble, is she now has to tell her sexual partner.

-A caller and her boyfriend have been talking marriage and he keeps making excuses. Is he just depressed?

-A husband and wife lead a small support group but they're the only ones sharing anything. Should they disband the group?

Jul 07, 2020
Episode 51 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Delay of Gratification = A Fruitful Life - 6-11-2020
01:03:59

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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-She and her husband put her mother-in-law on time out for bad behavior. When should they end it?

-When you're a mother of four, and divorced, how do you go about dating again?

-After repeated fights over many years, how do you end a relationship with your mother?

-Her son is in inpatient treatment for schizophrenia. What can she do to be supportive? 

Jul 06, 2020
Episode 50 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Stop Reacting, Start Thinking - 6-10-2020
57:07

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On this episode for The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-Finding a counselor to start healing from emotional incest.

-How can we renew our mind? The caller is struggling with depression and anxiety from the consequences of the pandemic.

-Her sister is addicted to opioids and her mother took thousands of dollars from her to pay for her sister's rehab. Her trust is broken.

Jul 03, 2020
Episode 49 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Don't Let Denial Stop You From Improving - 6-9-2020
01:01:15

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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-How should we deal with a spouse that stonewalls us?

-When people violate our boundaries it can make us volatile and angry. It can destabilize us. How can we regulate those responses?

-A caller's ex-husband has serious issues, but she struggles with revealing the truth to her kids about their dad's past.

Jul 01, 2020
Episode 48 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Assimilation and Accommodation - 6-8-2020
01:02:06

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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-A formerly abusive ex-husband is going from supervised visits to unsupervised visits, but the kids are coming home crying after seeing him. 

-At what point in dating a person can you bring up deal-breakers?

-A loving aunt is trying to care for her addict nephew whose parents both died from over-dosing.

Jun 30, 2020
Episode 47 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Don't Hide Your Talents - 6-5-2020
57:43

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On this Episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-What do we do when our spouse is too nice?

-What role does physical attraction have to play in dating?

-When a parent re-enters our life in adulthood, what boundaries should we set to protect ourselves?

Jun 29, 2020
Episode 46 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Forgiveness Does Not End The Mistrust and Pain - 6-4-2020
58:53

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On this episode of the Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-A man wants to reconcile with his father, but his father refuses to until he also reconciles with his sister.

-A pastor found out his wife is having an affair with someone at his church.

-When your spouse and your kids are clashing, what can you do?

Jun 26, 2020
Episode 45 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Anger Is a Signal, Not a Solution - 6-03-2020
01:00:41

On this episode of the The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-A caller struggles with need affirmation and validation. She gets distracted by what others are doing.

-How do we find our boundaries? What's safe and unsafe in relationships?

-A recovering addict wants to address his family's codependency but they refuse to get help. How can an addict avoid the triggers caused by family?

Jun 25, 2020
Episode 44 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Understanding and Listening to the Pain of Others 6-2-2020
01:03:06

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-Dr. Cloud talks about how important understanding a person's pain is to building a relationship. Rules without a relationship equals rebellion.

-How do we handle people that literally turn their back on us in a conversation?

-A woman with ADHD wants to be more decisive, and doesn't want her disease to excuse her lack of growth.

-A widow started a friendship with a man. He wants romance, and she doesn't.

-Insecure attachments lead to jealousy in relationships.

 

Jun 24, 2020
Episode 43 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Addressing the Pain from Injustice and Racism - 6-1-2020
01:03:22

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-How can we help our kids find balance before they leave the house? A caller's kids are unmotivated at school, and in cleanliness.

-To what extent can a man and a woman be friends when one of them has romantic feelings?

-Necessary endings in relationships are always difficult, especially when we don't want to end them but need to.

Jun 23, 2020
Episode 42 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Anxiety From Pursuing Your Goals - 5-29-2020
01:00:26

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-How do we trust people when we've been deceived so many times in dating?

-A woman's husband is retiring, and he's demanding more time with her than she's used to. How can we tell our spouse that we need our alone time with our friends?

-Necessary endings in relationships are always difficult, especially when we don't want them but need to.

Jun 22, 2020
Episode 41 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Fairness Will Ruin Relationship 5-27-2020
52:22

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-How can we reduce our anxiety in stressful situations.

-Traumatic childhoods can stick with us. How can we cope with the triggers that cause us to regress?

-Sometimes the reason we find ourselves dating the wrong people is because we are self-sabotaging. We don't want to get hurt or too involved and we subconsciously select people that aren't for us.

Jun 19, 2020
Episode 40 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Each of Us Has Unique Talents
01:03:33

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-Joy's son has a pattern of cutting people out of his life; now he's cut her out of his life.

-Finding a date worth keeping is hard. Luke is ready to throw in the towel and give up on it all together.

-It can be difficult to accept that we're being taken advantage of, and that line gets harder to see when it's our own family doing it.

-Navigating the divorce of you parents as an adult, how can we stay neutral

Jun 18, 2020
Episode 40 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Each of Us Has Unique Talents

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-Joy's son has a pattern of cutting people out of his life; now he's cut her out of his life.

-Finding a date worth keeping is hard. Luke is ready to throw in the towel and give up on it all together.

-It can be difficult to accept that we're being taken advantage of, and that line gets harder to see when it's our own family doing it.

-Navigating the divorce of you parents as an adult, how can we stay neutral

Jun 18, 2020
Episode 39 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Pull The Tooth
01:02:37

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-An Australian caller asks about how to get men more involved in the Boundaries discussion.

-A man's fiancé was lying about how she was spending her time and now they called off the engagement.

-A woman asks about how her over-eating might be related to her mother's same issue.

-Setting appropriate boundaries when you're co-parenting.

Jun 17, 2020
Episode 38 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Pain Is Unavoidable
01:04:30

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-What do we do when romantic feelings start arising in a friendship and we don't want them?

-Having a roommate and dating can cause waves.

-How can we help a loved one with their alcoholism?

-When should we bring up deal-breakers in a new relationship?

Jun 16, 2020
Episode 37 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - From Fantasy, To a Vision, To Reality
01:00:46

On this episode The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-Why is it so hard for some of to love ourselves?

-How can we talk about boundaries with avoidant people?

-When our parents cut us out of there lives, what do we do?

-PTSD can be triggered by many things. A caller gets advice on coping.

Jun 15, 2020
Episode 36 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Thought Tools To Help You Grow
57:17

In this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-A caller needs advice on how to handle his wife's infidelity

-A husband and wife have different opinions about their 17 year old working at a fast food restaurant that doesn't properly protect employees from Covid-19. They have elderly people in the house.

-How can we tell the difference between a person that's controlling us and a person that's motivating us? Both behaviors are attempts to get us to change, but one is for our benefit and the other is not.

Jun 12, 2020
Episode 35 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Building Emotional Health
57:59

In this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-Is investing in friendships that might become romantic worth it?

-Setting boundaries with our parents when it affects our own kids.

-Rebuilding trust, and handling the fear of future betrayal.

Jun 10, 2020
Episode 35 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Building Emotional Health

In this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-Is investing in friendships that might become romantic worth it?

-Setting boundaries with our parents when it affects our own kids.

-Rebuilding trust, and handling the fear of future betrayal.

Jun 10, 2020
Episode 34 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Life Is Interconnected
01:03:05

In this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

- How can we maintain our boundaries, when certain boundaries are not a part of another culture?

-Grieving people before they die, and letting go of the person that was.

-A tornado sent a tree through this caller's house. Now she's scared that God isn't watching out for her.

Jun 09, 2020
Episode 33 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Issues With Your Family of Origin
01:07:59

In this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

- When the people closest to us die, we often find ourselves in a loop. How do we get unstuck?

-Being a loving parent means you care about your kids' health. When your child is overweight, how can you talk to them about their health without making them feel like your love is conditional?

-How can you stop attracting, and being attracted to, narcissists when you're dating?

Jun 04, 2020
Episode 32 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Prioritizing, Learning, and Moving Forward
59:32

In this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-How do we address a good friend that gives unsolicited advice to the point of being perhaps controlling?

-The flip side: How can we give advice and support to a friend without coming as controlling?

-Sometimes, we have anxiety and we don't know why. There's always a reason.

Jun 02, 2020
Episode 31 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Neuroplasticity and Rewiring Your Brain
01:05:17

In this episode of the Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-Henry helps a man dealing with anxiety.

-A man tries to help his family set boundaries around their toxic father.

-Mary's friend found out that she dated her husband briefly in college, now the friend has cut Mary out of her life.

-When you're in a failing relationship, how do you know if you've suffered enough? When do you give up?

Jun 01, 2020
Episode 30 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Dynamic Tension
59:49

In this episode of the Dr. Cloud Show Live:

- A 36 year old who has never been on date needs some advice.

-How do we make counseling work for us, and stop burning down relationships?

-When we have kids that become adults and fail to launch, how can be supportive without stunting them?

May 29, 2020
Episode 29 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - The Importance of The Mothering Role
01:03:43

In this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-Being an introvert can be especially hard when it comes to dating. How can introverts kick themselves into gear and start dating?

-A caller shares the story of a date gone wrong.

-Sexual thoughts are normal, but they're not supposed to happen all the time. What do we do when they happen so often that we can't think straight?

May 22, 2020
Episode 28 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Isolation and Being Single
01:00:55

In this episode of the Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-How do help children of alcoholics avoid further trauma?

-What's the difference between healthy and unhealthy compartmentalization?

-How can we set boundaries in conversing with unsafe people?

-Sometimes on the road to accomplishing big life goals, our brain trips us up and we don't know why. We have to start by learning what got us stuck in the first place.

May 21, 2020
Episode 27 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Letting Your Adult Children Become Adults
01:03:47

In this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-When your spouse has medical issues and won't address them, what do you do?

-A cancer survivor has a new lease on life, but doesn't know what's next in life, or how to pursue her passions.

-A caller's husband is talking to his ex-girlfriend, despite her setting a boundary. What can she do?

-A man is side-swiped by his wife's affair and she wants a divorce. The relationship is over, but they're quarantined together. Which boundaries can help?

May 19, 2020
Episode 26 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Stress Affects Our Sense Of Time
01:08:02

In this episode of the Dr. Cloud Show Live:

What can we do when we realize we're dating someone that gaslights us?

How one part of us can want something, and another part doesn't. Internal conflicts can arise on our journey to accomplishing our goals

Learning how to establish boundaries in relationships that never had them before can be tricky.

 

May 15, 2020
Episode 25 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Losing a Loved One
01:01:25

In this episode of the The Dr. Cloud Show Live:

Dr. Cloud talks about losing a member of his family: their dog Riley.

Also on the show:

-How a husband can improve communication with his wife and make the relationship a safe space to share.

-How a wife can begin opening up to her husband about her emotions 

-Sometimes a divorce can shake our faith. How do we recover our connection to God after this happens?

May 13, 2020
Episode 24 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Bring The Future Into The Now
01:04:15

In this episode of the Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-When your child's significant other doesn't want you around, what do you?

-How do we move on from a dream of what our life might be, to the reality in front of us in our careers?

-When stress gets high, and we don't like how we're acting, how can we avoid taking it out on those we love?

-If your spouse is acting like a child, how can you begin to give them adult responsibilities?

May 12, 2020
Episode 23 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Expand Your Circle of Trust
01:03:51

In this episode of the Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-How can we protect our kids from the trauma of divorce?

-Negotiating solutions with a partner addicted to pornography

-What can a mother do to help an adult alcoholic child? 

-When your in-laws are driving you crazy, you often have to start with your spouse

May 11, 2020
Episode 22 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - We All Have Issues
01:02:03

In this episode of the Dr. Cloud Show Live:

Dealing with a parent that has Alzheimers Disease when your siblings are not on the same page as you.

An amateur stand-up comic struggles with anger management after her divorce.

How do you handle a person that uses quotes from the Bible to suit their needs and work against you?

Part of the process of self-discovery is sharing your revelations with the person closest to you, but it's not easy.

 

 

May 08, 2020
Episode 21 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Ending Patterns and Redeeming Patterns
01:04:59

In this episode of the Dr. Cloud Show Live:

-How do you go about dating again after a divorce? How do you know if you're healthy enough?

-A caring wife is concerned about her husband's health issues and doesn't know how to get him to take care of himself.

-How do you date without having marriage as the end goal from the start? How can we use dating in a healthy way to discover someone special?

-How do we set boundaries with our adult siblings?

May 07, 2020
Episode 20 - The Dr Cloud Show Live - Getting Above Our Routine
01:06:14

In this rebroadcast of the Dr. Cloud show:

-How do to rebuild a relationship when trust is broken on both sides

-When comes to friendships, how do you know if it's a shallow one?

-A woman is about to get divorced and wants to make sure she's making the right decision

-A newly-wed man is living with his in-laws and feels too passive

-How long should a relationship be before marriage?

May 06, 2020
Episode 19 - The Dr. Cloud Show Live - Love = Freedom = Responsibility
01:05:47

Topics in this episode of the Dr. Cloud Show:

-Learning to rebuild your sense of self after abuse

-Navigating relationships with our family when they gaslight us

-Recognizing the difference between disagreement and disrespect in friendships

-Dealing with a mother that has formed completely wrong opinions about you

-When someone feels hurt by us, and we don't believe we did anything wrong, how can we respond?

Apr 29, 2020
Episode 18 - The Dr Cloud Show Live - Mindfulness as a Practice
01:06:31

Callers on this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show talked about:

-A friend being abused by both her husband and son

-Seeking more details about the gap between where we are and where we want to be (goal accomplishment).

-Confronting issues around quitting smoking, and all the emotional baggage that comes with it.

-Getting treated like a doormat by your children. 

-Feeling burned out from all the time with the kids, and managing anger. How do we replenish our energy?

 

 

Apr 28, 2020
Episode 17 - The Dr Cloud Show Live - Growth in Difficult Times
01:03:12

This is a rebroadcast of the Live Dr. Cloud Show. This is the complete show from Friday April, 17th, 2020.

Some of the calls in this episode:

A woman in Illinois has an antagonizing husband. Dr. Cloud helps her to learn how to have meaningful conversations that address the behavior.

A young caller called in about how to have a romantic relationship without having sex before marriage.

How do we deal with binge eating? Dr. Cloud helps a caller with self-control and avoiding the impulse to over-eat.

 

Apr 24, 2020
Episode 16 with Dr. Dan Allender - The Clarity of Your Calling
07:54

In this episode of Dr. Cloud's boundaries podcast, Dr. Dan Allender tells the story of how clarity around what he's uniquely meant to do in this world helped him naturally form boundaries.

When we know our calling, it gives us clarity as to why we're doing what we're doing. Forming boundaries can start in many different ways, but getting clarity about your motives is a very natural way to form your first boundary. It helps you know what you'll do and won't do, what you'll say and won't say. A good sign of a healthy boundary is that it lets us learn, and take in new information. It teaches us that every yes is a no, and every no is a yes that can either can keep us in tune with our calling, or detract us from it.

Apr 07, 2020
Episode 15 with Dr. Les Carter - Who are you going to be?
06:59

Who are you going to be?

Dr. Les Carter shares with us his story about setting a boundary around staying centered on being himself. Remaining true to ourselves is incredibly hard, but by establishing a boundary around who we are, and who we're going to be to the people around us, it becomes possible. That boundary makes it easier to make adjustments and stay aware of when we diverge from our true selves.

Mar 31, 2020
Episode 14 - Micro-steps to sanity in a crisis
21:35

I hope you're doing alright. We're still in the early stages of a crisis and you might be experiencing feelings of being a little lost and adrift right now, or maybe a little unmotivated...well there's some reasons for that. You lose some control when the structures of life disappear. When the choices of normal life get removed you feel powerlessness. So, what can we do individually to take a few steps back to feeling normal? In this podcast, I want to help you overcome something called 'learned helplessness.' I want to help you take control of what you can control, and come to terms with what you can't.

Mar 26, 2020
Episode 13 - Being psychologically healthy during times of crisis
48:36

This podcast is about the psychology of what happens to a human in a time of big crisis. How does that affect us? What are the best things that you can be doing in the midst of that for your psyche, for your heart and for your relationships? One of the things that we know about humans is that we are unbelievably resilient. We adapt. We find ways through hard times. We come out stronger on the other end. 

So, how do we get through it? That’s what I want to discuss.

Mar 20, 2020
Episode 12 with Danny Silk - Respectful Communication
07:04

One of the most trying parts of a relationship is when respect breaks down. When that happens, contempt is not far away, and contempt will end relationships.

 

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud’s podcast, Danny Silk, a pastor and author, tells us about how he progressed in his relationships by setting a firm boundary around respectful communication. Between his two parents, and his wife’s two parents and step father, there have been 15 marriages. Both he and his wife come from backgrounds that did not teach about healthy relationships. Through love, and time, they discovered the peace that comes from keeping calm and showing respect in all communication. When communication breaks down and the conversation turns to anger, they’ve learned to stop and reset. 

 

It’s not an easy thing to do, and it takes practice, but learning to stop yourself from speaking or listening when anger and frustration are steering the conversation is one of the most important lessons to learn for having long and meaningful relationships. It’s a boundary all of us need if we want to build stronger relationships.

Mar 19, 2020
Episode 11 with Jo Saxton - Guarding Yourself From Your Flaws
06:30

Boundaries can free us to lead our lives by unburdening us from our flaws and past mistakes. It’s like a quarantine. It may seem as though boundaries prevent freedom, but in most cases it’s the exact opposite. 

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud’s podcast, Jo Saxton, an author, public speaker, and host of the Lead Stories Podcast, tells us about how setting a boundary around her brokenness was a turning point in her life. Pain will do all kinds of things to the mind, and our first reactions to mental pain when we’re young often exacerbate things. That’s part of Jo’s story. She found solace in denial, and in drinking too much. It happens all the time. Through some good luck and hard work she found a way to put the past in past and to forgive her flaws by releasing them to a boundary. She knew there were consequences to going to certain places in her mind. Setting the boundary freed her to start leading her life.

Mar 17, 2020
Episode 10 with Pat Lencioni - Boundaries Around What Matters Most
07:57

What matters most to you? This is often the first place to start when we begin creating boundaries in our lives.

 

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud’s podcast, Pat Lencioni shares with us his story of creating a boundary around prioritizing his family. He’s discovered that it all starts with his family, and that if work, or other relationships begin to take precedent, he suffers. Ironically, he’s found that by keeping his time with his family sacred he’s more efficient at work, has higher productivity, and has better secondary relationships. It’s not a boundary around time, but a boundary around emotion and this helps to make it easier to maintain. He can feel when the boundary is being encroached, and it’s more intuitive. Boundaries do us no good if they’re not maintained. This might be the ticket for you or someone you know to make a maintainable boundary in your life. If you make a boundary with a certain emotion you’ll always be able to feel when it’s in need of attention.

Mar 12, 2020
Episode 9 with Christine Caine - Stop Taking Everything Personally
14:27

Have you ever received criticism that stuck with you? Most of us can think back to something someone said that offended us, and we’re still carrying that doubt or shame.

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud’s Boundaries.Me Podcast, Christine Caine -- an activist, author, and public speaker -- explains how she realized she was taking personal offense far too often. It was undermining her working relationships and taking a toll on the rest of her life. She took some growth steps to understand that if she started to take criticism personally, she was really being triggered by something else. We have to learn to observe what’s happening to us in order to change it, and that’s the boundary she set: when the offense-alarm went off, rather than getting defensive, she goes to a place of observation. This practice has led her to peace and healthier relationships. 

Mar 10, 2020
Episode 8 with Liz Bohannon - Boundaries and Mutual Respect in Marriage
10:10

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud’s Boundaries.Me podcast, Liz Bohannon, co-founder and CEO of Sseko Designs, shares with us the importance of establishing work-life boundaries with her husband and Co-CEO. They have a rule: they have to ask each other for permission to talk about work outside of work. It sounds like a common sense boundary, but Liz tells us about the significant impact it's had on their marriage.

Mar 05, 2020
Episode 7 with Lysa TerKeurst - Know Your Spiritual Capacity
10:53

Being honest with ourselves about what we can and can't put up with is crucial to becoming a healthy person. 

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud's podcast, Lysa TerKeurst shares a very personal story about how setting a boundary around her spiritual capacity changed her life. She realized that there were limits to how much she can give, and that when she gave too much, she couldn't function. It's a form of people-pleasing that caring people will have to confront. Setting this boundary allowed her to shift from a place of trying to have control over how other people feel, to a place of compassion, and it ultimately helped save her marriage.

 

Mar 03, 2020
Episode 6 - Emotional Tone
20:21

We create an emotional tone within our lives and relationships. What does the voice in your head sound like? Do you like what you hear? How aware are you of the emotional tone that you create in your communications with others? Is your tone bringing people closer, or pushing them away?

Dr. Henry Cloud breaks down how you can begin to take control of the emotional tone that you're living inside.

Jan 14, 2020
Episode 5 with Anthony ONeal - Reaching Your Vision
06:27

What are you not going to do? That's how Anthony ONeal started work on setting healthy boundaries.

Your boundaries will help push you toward what you want to happen and protect you from drifting of course. The boundaries that Anthony set around money and relationships have enabled him to make the choices that build the future he wants.

When you know what you DON'T want to do, or what you DON'T want to happen, it makes it that much easier to bring about the results that you DO want to happen.

Jan 07, 2020
Episode 4 - Five Steps to a Better New Year
19:47

If you're anything like most people, you're feeling pretty optimistic about a few new year resolutions right about now... But also, if you're like most people, by the end of January, you'll have abandoned them.

There is a reason that most people don't stick with their resolutions.

The new episode of the Boundaries.Me podcast is all about how to actually stick with your resolutions this year. This is directly actionable advice that I encourage all of you to follow, whether you're a resolutions person or not, if you have any goals that you'd like to accomplish.

Setting goals is easy and meeting them is hard, but it doesn't have to be impossible. If you can learn how to do this, you'll thrive in any situation where you're trying to accomplish something.

The Boundaries.Me team is rooting for you. Whatever it is that you're trying to accomplish... whether you want to lose a little weight, or become a professional athlete... whether you want to get better at replying to emails, or you want to write your life story, the process is the same. We know you can do it. I really, really believe in this path.

It's what I use in my own life, and it's what I use with a lot of people that I work with. It's going to work for you too.

Dec 30, 2019
Episode 3 with Rachel Cruze - Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
08:34

Comparing yourself to others can be a recipe for heartache.

This episode of the podcast features a story by Rachel Cruze. Rachel's story focuses on a boundary that she has set around comparing herself with other people.

In this social media saturated age, we often see only the side of people that they want us to see. Comparing ourselves with the curated, unrealistic view of someone else's life can leave us feeling like less than we are meant to be. Listen to Rachel describe the boundary she sets to protect herself and her family so that she can focuses on what really matters.

As a #1 New York Times best-selling author, host of The Rachel Cruze Show, and The Rachel Cruze Show podcast, Rachel helps people learn the proper ways to handle money and stay out of debt. She’s authored three best-selling books, including Love Your Life, Not Theirs and Smart Money Smart Kids, which she co-wrote with her father, Dave Ramsey. You can follow Cruze on Twitter and Instagram at @RachelCruze and online at rachelcruze.com, youtube.com/rachelcruze or facebook.com/rachelramseycruze

Dec 18, 2019
Episode 2 with Bob Goff - What Do You Want?
06:02

Bob Goff has a question for listeners of Dr. Henry Cloud's podcast: how can I be helpful to you?

This episode of the podcast focuses on the boundary that Bob sets when he asks this question. Put another way, the question is, "What do you want?"

Bob tells us how this clarifying question enables him to be incredibly available to help people, while also setting a condition that must be met in order to begin.

As you may or may not know, Bob put his own phone number in the back of his book, Love Does. He receives around 100 phone calls a day, and helps when he can.

Dec 12, 2019
Dr. Henry Cloud's Boundaries.me Podcast - Episode 1 - The Boundary of Love
12:06

The first episode of Dr. Henry Cloud's Boundaries.me Podcast features Henry discussing the most important boundary in his life -- the boundary of love. Henry tells listeners why loving God with his heart and soul and to love others as himself is a centering, anchoring form of accountability and relationship.

Nov 22, 2019