Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE
By Steve Moore & Mark Kastleman
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Two sex addicts in long-term successful recovery are ALSO world-class Counselors who specialize in porn and sex addiction recovery. Drawing on 40 years of combined personal and professional experience, Mark and Steve get RAW and REAL about HOW to overcome addiction, heal betrayal trauma and save your marriage. If you're struggling with addiction—we get it. Recovery is hard. We've been there. We'll help you take the fight to your addiction like never before. If you're married to an addict—we KNOW what it's like to nearly destroy a marriage! We'll help you understand the world of your husband's addiction and begin healing your betrayal trauma, regardless of what he decides to do. You don't have to stay stuck. You don't have to keep suffering. We've made all the mistakes so you don't have to. Take back your life. Take back your marriage. Let's do this together! This is the PBSE podcast.
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What if my Addict Partner and I Disagree About Boundaries—Now What?
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Jun 02, 2025 |
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How Long Should My Former Addict Partner Maintain Sobriety and Recovery Before I Consider Getting Back with Him?
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May 27, 2025 |
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As a Betrayed Partner, How Do I Stop Waiting Around for the Rug to be Pulled Out from Under Me–Again?!
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May 20, 2025 |
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As a Betrayed Partner, How do I Talk to my Teenage Kids About Healthy Sexuality?
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May 13, 2025 |
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Do you REALLY want Intimate CONNECTION or Not?
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May 06, 2025 |
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How Do I Navigate the Dating World After My Marriage Ended Due to Porn?
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Apr 28, 2025 |
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My Habit of “Pornifying” Everything has Ruined Enjoyable Media for Me & My Partner! Can We Ever be “Healthy” Again?
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Apr 22, 2025 |
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Do I have to wait for the “Formal Amends” process before my Addict Partner shows any real change?
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Apr 15, 2025 |
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How Can He “Look Past” My Body & Be Aroused by Real Love?!
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Apr 08, 2025 |
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Sex Isn't Mutually Pleasurable in our Relationship. How do We Elevate the Experience?
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Apr 01, 2025 |
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My Addict Partner Keeps saying “Sorry” & He’s “Trying,” but He’s NOT Meeting my Real Needs!
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Mar 25, 2025 |
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My Addict Partner has “Backed Off” from His Recovery. Why Can’t he See it’s About More Than Just Being “Sober”?
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Mar 18, 2025 |
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Recovery is My Choice, So I don’t Need Her Help Making Choices . . . Right?
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Mar 11, 2025 |
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My Partner FINALLY Admitted to His Porn Addiction, but He won’t do Recovery Work or Open Up. What Can I Do?!
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Mar 04, 2025 |
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I know my partner is positively changing, BUT how can I stay with a man who did such horrible things in his addiction?
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Feb 25, 2025 |
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What Is All This Recovery & Healing Work For? Is It Worth It? Why?
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Feb 18, 2025 |
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Since getting into Recovery, my Porn/Sex Addicted Partner went from Pleasant to Angry & Aggressive! What’s going on???
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Feb 11, 2025 |
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Is My Partner a Sex Addict or Just Getting Back at Me? He says He can Stop anytime.
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Feb 04, 2025 |
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As a Porn/Sex Addict, does, “I Want to Get Clean for Her” or “Be Worthy of Her” work as a Motive for Real Recovery?
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Jan 28, 2025 |
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My Porn/Sex Addict Partner Put Me Through Hell! Now He’s in Recovery & Wants to Reconcile—is it Worth the Risk?
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Jan 21, 2025 |
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As the Betrayed Partner of a Porn/Sex Addict, How Do I Know If/When I Know Enough About His Secret Behaviors?
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Jan 14, 2025 |
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Defensiveness Is KILLING Our Relationship - WHAT Do We DO?
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Jan 07, 2025 |
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Why Do Addicts Have Such a HARD Time Being HONEST?! How Can We DARE to Tell the TRUTH AT ALL COSTS?
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Dec 31, 2024 |
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How Do I Get to Find Happiness Again When My Addict Partner Keeps Relapsing? How can I be OK, No Matter What?
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Dec 23, 2024 |
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The Powerful Potential of “Consideration” in Recovery & the Betrayal Trauma Healing Process
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Dec 17, 2024 |
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Are You Fighting the Right War: Working Within the Facts, But NOT at the Cost of Connecting with the Feelings?
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Dec 10, 2024 |
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My Addict Partner has Certain Philias, Fetishes & Taboo Behaviors. What is the Impact of this on His Recovery & Our Relationship?
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Dec 03, 2024 |
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Why Do I Go Silent As the Partner of A Sex Addict, and How Do I Healthily Break Free of This?
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Nov 26, 2024 |
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My Partner Relapses, says He’s Sorry, does Better for a Time, then the Whole Cycle Starts Again!
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Nov 19, 2024 |
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Sex in Our Marriage has Always Been “Broken.” How do we Repair and Heal it?
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Nov 12, 2024 |
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I use Porn to Learn How to Please my Partner. That’s Healthy . . . Right?
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Nov 05, 2024 |
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As a Betrayed Partner, How do I Live “Empowered” Regardless of what my Addict Partner Does or Does Not Do?
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Oct 29, 2024 |
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Unless my Partner is “Diagnosed” as an “Addict,” his Porn Use is NOT a Problem . . . Right?
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Oct 22, 2024 |
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COLLABORATING as a Couple in the HARD Struggle of Recovery & Healing
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Oct 15, 2024 |
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My Addict Partner Only Engages in “Shallow Conversation.” Is there any Hope He will ever treat me like a True Friend and Partner?
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Oct 08, 2024 |
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How does a Betrayed Partner Navigate the News that their Sex Addict Partner has Contracted an Incurable STD?
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Oct 01, 2024 |
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Does My Addict Partner’s “Need” for Sex every 4 days Hinder His Recovery & My Healing?
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Sep 24, 2024 |
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What Do “Independence” & “Interdependence” Look Like in a Coupleship where My Partner Continues to Scan and Lust?
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Sep 17, 2024 |
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With His History of Dishonesty, Should I Just Trust that my Partner’s Relationship with an Attractive Coworker is “All Business”?
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Sep 10, 2024 |
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Is it My Responsibility to Make My Porn Addicted Partner Feel Comfortable so He Will Consistently Tell Me the Truth?
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Sep 03, 2024 |
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My Porn Addicted Partner has ADHD. He Insists I MUST Manage His Recovery for Him to Succeed. Is This Right?
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Aug 27, 2024 |
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“Men will Just be Men—Live with it?” REALLY?!
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Aug 20, 2024 |
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How Can I Support my Partner (who I Betrayed) so She Can Enjoy Life Again?
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Aug 13, 2024 |
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What are the differences and similarities between male and female betrayal-traumatized partners?
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Aug 06, 2024 |
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A Close Friend Matches My Addict Husband’s Past “Porn/Fantasy” Woman. I’m Triggered Whenever I’m Around Her! What Can I Do?!
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Jul 30, 2024 |
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For an Addict Seeking to Overcome “Public Scanning,” is the “3-Second Rule” Harmful or Helpful?
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Jul 23, 2024 |
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My Addict Partner was Doing Well in Recovery. Then the Lies Started Again. I’m Shattered! How do I Come Back from This?!
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Jul 16, 2024 |
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HOW Does an Addict Get to Real, Lasting SEXUAL & EMOTIONAL Sobriety & Recovery?
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Jul 15, 2024 |
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Why is Knowledge of Horrific Abuse in the Porn Industry NOT Enough to Make Men Quit Their Porn Habit?
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Jul 09, 2024 |
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I’ve Disclosed my Sexual Addiction history to my partner—now what? How do I best support her going forward?
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Jul 02, 2024 |
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What’s the Point in Staying with a Porn/Sex Addict? What’s in it for the Betrayed Partner?
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Jun 18, 2024 |
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The PBSE/Dare to Connect Approach vs 12-Step Support Groups
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Jun 11, 2024 |
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Because He’s a Sex Addict—even in Real Recovery—I will still Never Be Enough For Him! How do I Cope with That?!
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Jun 04, 2024 |
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What Does “Real Restitution” for Serious Betrayal in a Relationship Look Like?
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May 28, 2024 |
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Do I Have to Accept that my Addict Partner, even in Successful Recovery, could Betray Me Again?!
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May 21, 2024 |
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As a Partner, I’m Falling and Drowning—HOW DO I STOP! How do I TAKE BACK MY POWER?!
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May 14, 2024 |
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I Need My Sex Addict Partner be “all-in” with Recovery, and to Stop Throwing Me Under the Bus with Family & Friends!
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May 07, 2024 |
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How Can I Share my Authentic Feelings when my Addict Partner Reacts with Depression, Anxiety and/or Shame?
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Apr 30, 2024 |
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Can Porn/Sex Addicts be Habitual Liars—even about Small Stuff—and How Can They Stop?
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Apr 23, 2024 |
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Should We Consider a “Sex Fast”? And IF so, HOW do we NOT become “Disconnected” in the Process?
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Apr 16, 2024 |
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Now that my Sex/Porn Addiction is Out in the Open, my Betrayed Partner is Lashing Out! How do we Navigate this?!
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Apr 09, 2024 |
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Both Partners Have a Porn Addiction History. One is Pursuing Real Recovery and the other Refuses to do so; Now What?
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Apr 02, 2024 |
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How Can "Love" and "Attraction" Evolve Through Disclosure and the Recovery/Healing Process?
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Mar 26, 2024 |
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How Can my Family & Friends Support Me & My Partner in Recovery? How Much Should We Share & with Whom?
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Mar 19, 2024 |
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I Have Habitually, Continually Lied to My Partner! Is There Any Hope for Me and Us?
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Mar 12, 2024 |
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As an Addict, are you “Weaponizing your Weaknesses” as a Reason to NOT Commit to and Live “Real” Recovery?
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Mar 05, 2024 |
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After Deeply Betraying Her, How do I Help my Partner Feel Truly “Chosen” Again?
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Feb 27, 2024 |
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Is this Coupleship Issue a Dual Sex Addiction? Or Something More?
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Feb 20, 2024 |
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What Came First—His Emotional Disconnectedness or His Addiction?
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Feb 13, 2024 |
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My Partner’s Porn Addiction Ruined Our Sex Life! Can/Should We Seek a Total “Sexual Reset”?
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Feb 06, 2024 |
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Am I Just Too Insecure and Sensitive About What He Does in His “Private Time”?
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Jan 30, 2024 |
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“Healthy, Connecting Sexual Dynamic”? You Be the Judge.
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Jan 23, 2024 |
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Can He Ever “See” Me Physically & Sexually like He does His Porn Fantasies?
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Jan 16, 2024 |
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Is There a Correlation Between ADHD & Porn/Sex Addiction? Can You Cope with Both Collaboratively?
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Jan 09, 2024 |
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You Get to Decide What Level of Intimacy You Want in Your Relationship.
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Jan 02, 2024 |
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Can “Emotional Cheating” be Worse Than Sexual Betrayal?
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Dec 26, 2023 |
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How Do My Partner and I Successfully Navigate a “Therapeutic Separation”? How Do We Do This Well?
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Dec 19, 2023 |
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The More I Learn About His “Disgusting Past” the Less I Want to Have Sex with Him! How Can We Ever Recover From This?
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Dec 13, 2023 |
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What is the Betrayed Partner’s Responsibility in Rebuilding a Relationship?
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Dec 05, 2023 |
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How to have a Healthy Couples Dialogue in Tackling Sexually Triggering Topics
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Nov 28, 2023 |
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How Can an Addict and Partner Stay “Safe” During Holiday Trips and Vacations?
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Nov 21, 2023 |
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I Have Been Betrayed by So Many Men! What Steps Can I Take Going Forward to NOT be Hurt Again?!
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Nov 14, 2023 |
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Why do Betrayed Partners Feel Unsafe? What does it take to Feel Safe Again and Why is this Critical to Healing?
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Nov 07, 2023 |
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Episode 200!!! What Does it Mean to “Dare” in Your Relationship?
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Oct 31, 2023 |
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You Can Rewire Your Subconscious Mind—and Break Out of Porn/Sex Addiction!
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Oct 24, 2023 |
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SPECIAL EPISODE! For My Recovery & My Partner’s Healing—How Can I Stop “Scanning in Public”?
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Oct 17, 2023 |
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Sick and Tired of the Roller Coaster Ride of Porn/Sex Addiction? Here Are Some Simple Tools to Start Breaking Free.
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Oct 10, 2023 |
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My Spouse “Fooled” Me and Everyone in Our Family for Years! Now I Can’t Stand to Even Look at Him! Is there any Hope for us?
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Oct 03, 2023 |
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What is the Difference Between “Codependence” and Authentic Feelings & Boundaries?
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Sep 26, 2023 |
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How Can a Porn/Sex Addict in Recovery, most effectively project His Authenticity and Higher Self?
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Sep 19, 2023 |
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What is “His” Role and “Her” Role in Rebuilding Trust?
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Sep 12, 2023 |
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Should I Marry My Porn-Addicted Fiancé or Move On?
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Sep 05, 2023 |
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What Happens when Porn Use/Sex Addiction is Blamed on the so-called “Inadequacies” of a Partner?
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Aug 29, 2023 |
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After My Lying and Gaslighting, My Partner Won’t Believe Me! How Do I Show True Empathy & Rebuild Trust?
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Aug 22, 2023 |
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Boundaries, Trauma and “Long-Distance-Sex”–Where do We Go From Here?
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Aug 15, 2023 |
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Will Confronting my Addict’s "Acting-Out Partners" Help Me Heal?
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Aug 08, 2023 |
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What Place Does “Edging” Have or Not Have in Healthy Recovery and Healing a Relationship?
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Aug 01, 2023 |
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My Partner’s Definition of “What is Porn” is Different from Mine—We are at an Impasse—Now What?!
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Jul 25, 2023 |
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My Porn/Sex Addict Partner’s “Empathy Button” is Broken! What Can I Do?
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Jul 18, 2023 |
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How can we Connect When My Partner Acts Out and Then Goes to Shame—Silent, Stoic and Self-Absorbed?!
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Jul 11, 2023 |
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“Clearing Away the Wreckage of Your Past"—Recovery Lessons from Steve’s Metal Detecting Trip
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Jul 04, 2023 |
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I Want My Addict Partner to SUFFER; to Feel TERRIBLE like I do! Is that Normal? How Can I Stop this Feeling?!
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Jun 27, 2023 |
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Evolve from Treating the “Symptoms of Addiction” to a Real & Lasting “Change of Heart & Mind."
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Jun 20, 2023 |
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Should I Pay Off My New Spouse's "Porn Debt" So We Can Have a Solid Financial Start?
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Jun 13, 2023 |
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Is There a “Statute of Limitations” on Feelings, Betrayal Trauma and Disclosure?
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Jun 06, 2023 |
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How do I Stop Comparing Myself to Porn and His Sexual Fantasies?
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May 30, 2023 |
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If “Sex is Optional,” How can a Couple Possibly Stay Connected?!
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May 23, 2023 |
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How Can We Avoid the Traps and Pitfalls of Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Healing?
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May 16, 2023 |
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What Keeps us Stuck in Addiction and What Does “Real” Recovery Look Like?
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May 09, 2023 |
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What Happens When we “Weaponize” What Could be “Healthy Boundaries”?
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May 02, 2023 |
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“Normal Human Attraction” vs. “Toxic/Betraying Lust”?
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Apr 25, 2023 |
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What can I do about “Random ED Symptoms” in Sexual Intimacy with my Partner?!
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Apr 18, 2023 |
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Why are Sexual Boundaries Critical for a truly "Connected Coupleship"?
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Apr 11, 2023 |
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As a Partner in Betrayal Trauma, I Feel Resentment Toward my Addict Partner. How do I Manage this?!
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Apr 04, 2023 |
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How a lifetime of “Communication Trauma” can prevent “Healthy Connection” in the Here and Now.
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Mar 28, 2023 |
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The “Fallacy of Fairness”—Why I Cannot Stand Up For Myself with my Partner
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Mar 21, 2023 |
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What Does a Formal, Full “Disclosure” Look Like?
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Mar 14, 2023 |
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Having Trouble with “Couples Check-ins”? Give this a Shot.
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Mar 07, 2023 |
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When it comes to boundaries and consequences in recovery and healing, what is “my side of the street vs. his"?
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Feb 28, 2023 |
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Is all this “Recovery & Healing Crap” really Worth it? Hope for Couples.
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Feb 21, 2023 |
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Stop Focusing on your "Addiction Symptoms” and Get to your Core Issues!
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Feb 14, 2023 |
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Is there any “Good” to be Learned from Sex Addiction Behaviors and Betrayal Trauma?
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Feb 07, 2023 |
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My Partner has a Slip with Porn and I go Online to See What He was Looking at! How do I Stop this Painful Behavior?
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Jan 31, 2023 |
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If I Don’t Get Angry/Intense When My Partner Slips/Relapses, He Becomes Complacent! How Do I Find a Healthy Balance?
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Jan 24, 2023 |
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What if I Marry an Addict in Recovery and Down the Road He Stops Choosing Recovery? Is there a “Safe Zone” to Prevent This?
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Jan 17, 2023 |
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How do I Forgive Myself after Betraying my Wife for 18 Years?!
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Jan 10, 2023 |
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After Our Long Addiction and Betrayal History, We Now Live Like “Married Singles.” How Can We Get the “Chemistry & Spark” Back?
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Jan 03, 2023 |
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Is 2023 already “Ruined” Due to His Destructive Sexual Behaviors over all the other years?!
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Dec 27, 2022 |
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How to be the proactive “Architect” of your Holidays and 2023—as opposed to the same old “Reactive Firefighter.”
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Dec 20, 2022 |
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Does it Take a “Catastrophe” to Break Out of Addiction? And, Should I Disclose to My Partner?
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Dec 13, 2022 |
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How to Raise Sexually Healthy Kids and Help Those Already Struggling
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Dec 06, 2022 |
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Now that I know about my addict partner’s past sexual behaviors, I don’t want to have sex with him!
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Nov 29, 2022 |
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What Can You Do When Your Partner Will Not Acknowledge They Have a Porn Problem?
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Nov 22, 2022 |
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As a Porn/Sex Addict in Recovery, HOW do I Let Go of Deep Feelings of Shame & Unworthiness?
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Nov 15, 2022 |
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Steve's Lessons Learned in Successful Recovery!
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Nov 08, 2022 |
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My Addict Spouse Can’t Help His Bad Behaviors Because He is “Powerless”—Right?
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Nov 01, 2022 |
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Because of Trauma from my Addict Partner, I'm Seeing the World Through "His Hyper-sexualized Lens"!
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Oct 25, 2022 |
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What Role Can/Should a “Polygraph” Play in a Porn/Sex Addict’s “Disclosure” to a Partner?
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Oct 18, 2022 |
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Are the Sexual Practices in Your Relationship “Safe”? How Can You Know?
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Oct 11, 2022 |
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I was just “blind-sided” by the shocking details of my husband’s sex addiction! Now what!
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Oct 04, 2022 |
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My Husband Acts “Sexually Anorexic”—What Can I Do?!
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Sep 27, 2022 |
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Basic Recovery/Healing Tools, Part Three: Building Your Support System
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Sep 20, 2022 |
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Basic Recovery/Healing Tools, Part Two: The Couples Check-in
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Sep 13, 2022 |
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Basic Recovery/Healing Tools, Part One: The Power of Journaling
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Sep 06, 2022 |
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Let's Talk "Fetishes"!
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Aug 30, 2022 |
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My Partner Claims He “No longer notices women.” Is that possible?
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Aug 23, 2022 |
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Is It Simply "Sex Addiction," or Something More?—Examining the Nuances & Roots of Addiction Behaviors.
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Aug 16, 2022 |
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How do “Family of Origin” Issues Impact your Addiction, Recovery and Marriage Relationship?
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Aug 09, 2022 |
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Now that my partner is in recovery, what should our “sexual norms” look like as a Couple?
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Aug 02, 2022 |
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It’s Been a Long Time Since I Looked at Porn–Am I Cured? Do I Still Need “Recovery Work”?
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Jul 26, 2022 |
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Would my Spouse Still be an Addict if He had Married Someone Else?
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Jul 19, 2022 |
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What if my Addict Partner DEMANDS Sex so He can Stay Sober?
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Jul 12, 2022 |
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How “Sex” can be used as an “Intimacy Substitute.”
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Jul 05, 2022 |
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Recovery and Healing ARE Possible—Here's HOW to be Successful!
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Jun 28, 2022 |
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The “Abuse Cycle” Par Two—The Impact of Abuse on Betrayal Trauma and Healing
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Jun 21, 2022 |
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The “Abuse Cycle” Part One—The Impact of Abuse on Addiction
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Jun 14, 2022 |
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My Addict Partner of 33 Years is Out of Control and I Don’t Know Where to Start!
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Jun 07, 2022 |
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How to Surrender Control of an Addict’s Behaviors while Maintaining Boundaries and Accountability.
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May 31, 2022 |
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“To Masturbate or Not to Masturbate?” that is the question!
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May 24, 2022 |
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It’s NOT an Addiction if I’m Only Using “Porn Substitutes”—Right???
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May 17, 2022 |
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How Mark & Steve moved from “Defensiveness” to “Fighting for their Marriages”—Part Three—The Conclusion!
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May 10, 2022 |
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How Mark & Steve moved from “Defensiveness” to “Fighting for their Marriages”—Part Two
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May 03, 2022 |
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How Mark & Steve moved from “Defensiveness” to “Fighting for their Marriages"—Part One
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Apr 26, 2022 |
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How Long Should I Be “Sober” Before I Start Dating or Having Sex Again?
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Apr 19, 2022 |
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Should I Just be “OK” with my Partner's Lusting?
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Apr 12, 2022 |
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Are you Sick & Tired of Relapsing? Then it’s time to “Be Stubborn”and “Get An Attitude”!!!
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Apr 05, 2022 |
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How can I KNOW when my Partner has finally Stopped Lying and is Serious About His Recovery?
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Mar 29, 2022 |
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I Have Discovered My Husband's Relapses More Than a Dozen Times. What Now?
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Mar 22, 2022 |
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When is it OK for my Addict Partner to “Back Off” from His Recovery?
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Mar 15, 2022 |
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What if my Betrayed Spouse Won’t Keep Up?
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Mar 08, 2022 |
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Episode 112: As Addicts, We Can Throw Up HUGE Barriers to Recovery and Mending Our Most Important Relationships!
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Mar 01, 2022 |
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TV, Movies & Media in a Betrayed Relationship—Part Two: What to do if you are the Spouse.
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Feb 22, 2022 |
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TV, Movies & Media in a Betrayed Relationship—Part One: What to do if you are the addict.
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Feb 15, 2022 |
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Are Your “Resentments” Holding You Back?
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Feb 09, 2022 |
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As a Spouse, You Have “4 Primary Rights” with Regard to His Disclosure!
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Feb 01, 2022 |
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How Can I Ever Dare to Trust Him Again?
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Jan 25, 2022 |
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All the ways we convince ourselves we are “entitled” to act out in our addictions
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Jan 18, 2022 |
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How do we move out of a “Trauma Response” into “Relationship Authenticity”? (Part Two)
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Jan 11, 2022 |
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How do I Recognize when I or my Partner are Caught in a "Trauma Response"? (Part One)
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Jan 04, 2022 |
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New Year’s Resolutions Can Make Addiction Worse! Try this Instead.
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Dec 28, 2021 |
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How to Balance Christmas (and other holidays) with the Trauma of Recovery & Healing
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Dec 21, 2021 |
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When Stress Hits—STAND UP for Your Personal & Couple-ship "Bill of Rights"!
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Dec 14, 2021 |
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This is Our 100th Episode! In the Pain of Addiction & Betrayal Trauma—There is GREAT HOPE!
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Dec 07, 2021 |
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My Spouse is in Recovery but will NOT have Sex with Me! What Can I Do?
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Nov 30, 2021 |
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How Do We Find Connection When There’s Been “Mutual Betrayal”?
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Nov 23, 2021 |
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What Should Come First—Him Ending His Affair, or Us Starting Couples Counseling?
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Nov 16, 2021 |
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How Can I “Adequately” Explain to My Spouse WHY I Looked at Porn?
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Nov 09, 2021 |
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My Husband Watches Female Professional Wrestling. Is That a Problem?
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Nov 02, 2021 |
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As an Addict, How Can You Move Past Your Defensiveness to Truly Connect With Your Spouse?
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Oct 26, 2021 |
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Has Your Addict Partner Truly "Forgotten" His Past Betrayals OR is He "Gaslighting" You?
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Oct 19, 2021 |
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How Do I Overcome the Shame of My Past "Toxic Sex/Me-Centered" Behaviors?
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Oct 12, 2021 |
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Is My Partner Lying About His Porn Use? How Can I Know?
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Oct 05, 2021 |
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How Can I Forgive a Man Who Has Spent Nearly Our Entire Marriage Lying?!
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Sep 28, 2021 |
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How Do I Know if My Spouse is an Addict or Not?
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Sep 21, 2021 |
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Unhealthy Relationships Can Help Fuel Porn Addiction—How Can You Move from Co-Dependency to Recovery?
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Sep 14, 2021 |
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When Your Partner is a Porn Addict, What Does “Healthy Connection” Look Like?
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Sep 07, 2021 |
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Does Recovery & Healing require that we STOP Internet use, AVOID going out in Public and NEVER talk to the opposite sex?
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Aug 31, 2021 |
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Your Chosen Path of Sexual Experience—Healthy or Unhealthy? Connecting or Disconnecting?
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Aug 24, 2021 |
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You are "Powerless" to Control What He’s Thinking During Sex—or Any Other Time!
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Aug 17, 2021 |
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Should I have Daily Sex with my Husband so He can Recover?
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Aug 10, 2021 |
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Stuck? Real Recovery & Healing REQUIRE a Trajectory!
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Aug 03, 2021 |
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After the Betrayal of Porn Addiction, Can We Ever Have “Healthy Sex”?
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Jul 27, 2021 |
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Do You STINK at Setting and Enforcing Healthy Boundaries?!
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Jul 20, 2021 |
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Letting Go of Control & Manipulation to WORK Your Own Recovery!
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Jul 13, 2021 |
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Navigating Summertime and Sex Addiction!
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Jul 06, 2021 |
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Let Go of "Emotional Wallowing" & Embrace "Vision & Meaning"
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Jun 29, 2021 |
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Father's Day—Addiction & Trauma Trigger or Healing Event?
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Jun 22, 2021 |
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Why is Mindfulness & Connecting with Myself SO Hard?!
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Jun 15, 2021 |
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Erectile Dysfunction and Your "Arousal Template"
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Jun 08, 2021 |
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I’m Engaged to a Porn Addict—What Should I Do?
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Jun 01, 2021 |
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Is Physical Touch the “Love Language” of Most Porn/Sex Addicts?
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May 25, 2021 |
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Moving from Addiction to Connection: Reconciliation with Family
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May 18, 2021 |
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From Surviving to Thriving in Your Marriage: A Vision for Addicts
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May 10, 2021 |
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When is it Time to “Shake Up” Your Recovery and Healing?
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May 04, 2021 |
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How Inadequate Self-Care Sabotages Your Recovery and Healing!
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Apr 27, 2021 |
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The Wall Between Betrayal Trauma and Healing/Connection
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Apr 20, 2021 |
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The WALL Between Conflict and Connection
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Apr 13, 2021 |
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How Can a Struggling Couple Come Out of "Relationship Limbo"?
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Apr 02, 2021 |
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Can I Ever Go Back to Porn?
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Mar 30, 2021 |
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What it Takes to SUCCEED in Recovery and Healing!
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Mar 23, 2021 |
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Defining "Slips" and "Relapses"
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Mar 16, 2021 |
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Where is the line between “loving” someone and “trusting” them?
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Mar 09, 2021 |
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Spiritual Safety and Sexual Intimacy: You Can Have Both!
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Mar 02, 2021 |
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Is it "OK" to "Offend" Your Partner?
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Feb 23, 2021 |
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Great! He’s in Recovery . . . but What is He Thinking?
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Feb 16, 2021 |
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Why Would the Man Who Loves Me, "Gaslight" Me?!
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Feb 09, 2021 |
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What Does it Take to Get "SERIOUS" about Real Change?
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Feb 02, 2021 |
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The Addict's Journey from Escape & Avoidance to Authenticity & Transparency
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Jan 26, 2021 |
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How to Navigate Mental Illness AND Addiction/Betrayal Trauma
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Jan 19, 2021 |
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Should We Hide Sex Addiction and Betrayal Trauma From Our Kids?
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Jan 12, 2021 |
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How to be Emotionally Healthy as an Individual and Couple in 2021
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Jan 05, 2021 |
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Ditch the “New Year’s Resolution" BS—it doesn’t work!
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Dec 29, 2020 |
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Learning from Mark & Steve's "Recovery Ghosts of Christmas Past"
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Dec 22, 2020 |
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Recovery, Healing & the Holidays—Part Three: Finding Serenity in the Midst of Family "Stuff"
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Dec 15, 2020 |
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Recovery, Healing & the Holidays—Par Two: "Self Care? Forget that! It's the Holidays, Bro!"
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Dec 08, 2020 |
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Recovery, Healing & the Holidays—Part One: Preparing for and Managing Triggers
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Dec 01, 2020 |
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Where Relationship Expectations Collide with Individual Boundaries
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Nov 24, 2020 |
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The "Unholy Triad" that can Decimate Your Marriage!
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Nov 17, 2020 |
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What Does it Really Mean to "Man-Up"?
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Nov 10, 2020 |
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How We Get Stuck in our Pain . . . and How to Heal and Move Forward
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Nov 03, 2020 |
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Is there a Place for "Sexual Entitlement" in a Healthy Marriage Relationship?
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Oct 27, 2020 |
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If You Don't Have Honesty—You Don't Have Much
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Oct 20, 2020 |
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Are YOU Choosing Your Life . . . OR . . . is "IT" Choosing You?
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Oct 13, 2020 |
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In Recovery & Healing—Is God Your Problem or Your Solution?
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Oct 06, 2020 |
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Hey, we're doing well, so we can let up on our Boundaries—Right?
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Sep 29, 2020 |
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I'm Not Sexually Attracted to My Partner—Are We Done?
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Sep 22, 2020 |
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How to Have DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS that bring TRUE CONNECTION!
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Sep 15, 2020 |
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How Do We Become Trapped in a "Marriage Crisis" and Can We Ever Come Back Together?
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Sep 08, 2020 |
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How "Pain Avoidance" feeds Addiction & Betrayal Trauma!
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Sep 01, 2020 |
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Separating "Attraction" from the "Addiction"—Where are the Boundaries?
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Aug 25, 2020 |
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Porn Addiction Relapse—the Fallout and Breaking the Addiction Cycle
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Aug 18, 2020 |
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Refuse to Be a "Victim"—"Let Go" and Allow Her to Heal from Betrayal Trauma!
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Aug 11, 2020 |
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Breaking Free from the "Victim Trap" of His Porn Addiction
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Aug 04, 2020 |
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How Do I Regain Her Trust and How Do I Trust Her?
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Jul 27, 2020 |
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How Do I Ever TRUST my Porn/Sex Addicted Spouse Again?
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Jul 21, 2020 |
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"Boundaried" Relationships Last—Even in the Midst of Porn Addiction & Betrayal Trauma!
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Jul 14, 2020 |
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Todd Tells His Sex Addiction Recovery Story—Part Two
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Jul 07, 2020 |
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Let Go of the "Sexual Beast' and Embrace REAL Intimacy in your Marriage!
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Jun 30, 2020 |
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Todd Tells His Sex Addiction Recovery Story—Part One
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Jun 24, 2020 |
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Healthy Sex vs. Toxic Sex in Marriage
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Jun 16, 2020 |
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How do you keep going in Recovery and Healing when you're Burned Out and just plain "Done"!
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Jun 08, 2020 |
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Is it OK to Occasionally "Lie" if its in the Best Interest of Your Recovery or Healing?
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Jun 01, 2020 |
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Those Darn Thinking Errors!—"Emotional Reasoning" and the "Unreal Ideal"
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May 25, 2020 |
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Pulling Out a Chair for God at Your Marriage Table
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May 18, 2020 |
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For the Spouse of an Addict—How to "Let Go and Let God."
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May 11, 2020 |
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The "Addict" vs. "God"
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May 04, 2020 |
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We Made All the Marriage Mistakes so YOU Don't Have To!—Part TWO
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Apr 25, 2020 |
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We Made All the Marriage Mistakes so YOU Don't Have To!—Part One
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Apr 20, 2020 |
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Two Former Porn Addicts—"If I Could Go Back in Time, WHAT Would I DO different?"
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Apr 13, 2020 |
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Here's EXACTLY HOW to Use the "Surrender Tool" as an Addict, Spouse and Citizen
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Apr 07, 2020 |
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How to Practice the Essential "Art of Surrender" in a Scary World!
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Mar 30, 2020 |
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How to Get Out of Your "Coronavirus Brain" and TAKE CHARGE!
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Mar 23, 2020 |
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Managing Your Emotions & Triggers in These Trying Times!
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Mar 17, 2020 |
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Are My Sexual Behaviors a Problem?
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Mar 09, 2020 |
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Unraveling the BIG Mystery of Porn Addiction—"Why do I keep going back to it?!"
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Mar 03, 2020 |
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Battling Through Trauma Together!
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Feb 25, 2020 |
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Conflict Isn't Bad—Fighting the Real Enemy, NOT Each Other!
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Feb 15, 2020 |
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What is Betrayal Trauma—Part Three—Setting Sexual Boundaries
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Feb 06, 2020 |
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What is "Betrayal Trauma"—Part Two—Symptoms and Healing
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Feb 04, 2020 |
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What is "Betrayal Trauma"—Part One
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Jan 28, 2020 |
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Porn—Stress Reliever or Stress Inducer?
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Jan 14, 2020 |
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What is Porn and What is Not? It Might Not Be What You Think!
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Jan 14, 2020 |