Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel

By Ruth Reymundo Mandel & David Mandel

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Partnered with a Survivor is a professional-focused podcast created and produced by Ruth Reymundo and hosted by the Safe & Together Institute. What began as intimate conversations between Ruth and David Mandel—founder of the Institute and creator of the Safe & Together Model—about violence, relationships, abuse, and the systems that respond to them has grown into a global conversation about systems and culture change.


Hosted by Ruth and co-hosted by David, the podcast features in-depth, professionally grounded discussions about how institutions respond to domestic abuse, gender-based violence, and child maltreatment. Many episodes also feature global leaders working across fields such as child safety, men and masculinity, perpetrator accountability, fatherhood, and partnering with survivors.

Together, these conversations examine how systems often fail adult and child survivors, how societal narratives about masculinity and violence shape professional practice, and how intersectional realities—including cultural and religious beliefs, racialised identities, LGBTQ+ experiences, immigration status, disability, and other structural vulnerabilities—shape responses to abuse and violence.


The podcast offers an insider lens into how professionals navigate systems not only as practitioners, but also as parents and partners. Through candid dialogue and critical reflection, Ruth and David challenge the assumptions and structures that limit meaningful accountability, safety, and healing. The goal is collective movement across systems, cultures, and families toward greater safety, nurturance, and sustained change.


Disclaimer: Episodes contain sensitive topics and occasional mature language that may be difficult for some listeners. The views and opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the Safe & Together Institute or its staff.


Episode Date
Season 7 Episode 17: “Shop Still Open?”: Sexual Violence, Consent & Gender Double Standards
Oct 27, 2026
Season 7 Episode 16: The Myth of Perpetrator Accountability
Sep 21, 2026
Season 7 Episode 15: Why Men’s Behaviour Change Requires More Than a Program Tick Box
Sep 14, 2026
Special Episode: A Safe & Together Expert at Your Side: The Digital Coach and Insight Engine
Aug 03, 2026
Season 7 Episode 14: Working with Your Partner: Family Business, Culture & Power with Aiwan Obinyan and Dr. Tamanda Walker
Jul 21, 2026
Season 7 Episode 13: Reproductive Coercion: Breaking Down the Hidden Signs with LC De Shay
Jul 08, 2026
Season 7 Episode 12: Clare's Law Explained: What Survivors Deserve to Know About Their Partner's Past
Jun 09, 2026
Season 7 Episode 11: Why Coercive Control Laws Alone Won't Protect Women and Children with Dr. Marsha Scott
May 20, 2026
Season 7 Episode 10: The Assumptions That Put LGBTQ Survivors at Risk
May 11, 2026
Season 7 Episode 9: When Systems Fracture Identity: A Métis Perspective on Belonging and Accountability
May 01, 2026
Season 7 Episode 8: Shifting Domestic Violence Practice in Japan with Professor Kanako Masui
Apr 03, 2026
Season 7 Episode 7: Coercive Control and Children: What Systems Miss | 2026 Asia Pacific Conference Wrap-Up
Mar 23, 2026
Season 7 Episode 6: Domestic Abuse in Queer Relationships
Mar 16, 2026
Season 7 Episode 5: AI in Child Protection: Can Technology Make Social Work Safer?
Feb 25, 2026
Season 7 Episode 4: When Violence Hides In Plain Sight: Expanding Clinical Curiosity to Protect Children with Dr. Norell Rosado
Feb 10, 2026
Season 7 Episode 3: How Systems Become Tools of Coercive Control and What Professionals Must Change: An Interview with Valerie Frost
Jan 26, 2026
Season 7 Episode 2: 7 Years of Partnership: Survivor Leadership, Systems Change & What Comes Next
Jan 17, 2026
Season 7 Episode 1: No, You Can’t Arrest Your Way to Healing and Healthy Relationships with Nneka MacGregor
Jan 05, 2026
Season 6 Episode 24: If “Mother Is In Denial About Domestic Violence” Had a Buzzer, We’d Smash It!!!
Dec 30, 2025
Season 6 Episode 23: Being Seen at 60: A Birthday Conversation About Vocation, Violence & Hope
Dec 19, 2025
Season 6 Episode 22: Real Talk, Real Dads: From Brooklyn to Boyhood to Fatherhood with Kenneth Braswell
Dec 16, 2025
Season 6 Episode 21: David Challen on How Growing Up with Coercive Control Warps Childhood and Manhood
Dec 08, 2025
Season 6 Episode 20: Shame, Love & the Truth About Male Violence
Dec 07, 2025
Season 6 Episode 19: Inside Ten To Men: What Male Health Reveals About Partner Violence
Dec 01, 2025
Season 6 Episode 18: Broken: Women Who Survive and Cause Harm with Lisa Young Larance
Nov 16, 2025
Season 6 Episode 17: From Boys to Men: Dr. Kate Fitz-Gibbon on Coercion, Misidentification & Real Prevention
Nov 06, 2025
Season 6 Episode 16: Centering Survivor Voices: How Scottish Services Shift Blame, Raise Fatherhood Standards & Heal Families
Oct 14, 2025
Season 6 Episode 15: When Seeking Safety Makes You More Vulnerable: Migrant Survivors' Dilemma
Sep 23, 2025
Season 6 Episode 14: Violent Crime & Religion: How Religious Teachings Are Used as Justification for Child Abuse
Aug 23, 2025
Season 6 Episode 13: Your Pet Is Not Safe When You're Not Safe: Understanding Animal Abuse in Coercive Control
Aug 18, 2025
Season 6 Episode 12: Power and Pulpits: The Truth About How Religious Leaders Groom Adults
Aug 12, 2025
Season 6 Episode 11: We Are Not Our Trauma: Exploring Post-Traumatic Growth Beyond Deficit Models in Therapy with Oli Doyle
Jul 29, 2025
Season 6 Episode 10: A Champion's Journey to System-Wide Change: A Conversation with Kyra Feetham About Transforming Practice
Jun 18, 2025
Season 6 Episode 9: See the Person, Not Just the Problem: Kelly Daley's Award-Winning Approach
Jun 04, 2025
Season 6 Episode 8: The Prevention-Response Nexus: Keeping Children Safe While Breaking Cycles of Abuse
May 14, 2025
Season 6 Episode 7: Every Man: A Candid Conversation on Male Violence and Social Change with Jackson Katz
May 05, 2025
Season 6 Episode 6: Broken Blue Line: Confronting Officer-Perpetrated Domestic Violence
Apr 22, 2025
Season 6 Episode 5: Coercive Control and Children 2025: Conference Insights from Melbourne
Apr 09, 2025
Season 6 Episode 4: The Paradox of Proximity: Understanding Domestic Abuse in Rural and Remote Communities
Feb 10, 2025
Season 6 Episode 3: Rethinking Gender-Based Violence Prevention: A Call to Action with Jess Hill and Michael Salter
Jan 31, 2025
Season 6 Episode 2: Coercive Control and Children
Jan 25, 2025
Season 6 Episode 1: "Just Leave": Examining Displacement-Based Responses to Domestic Violence
Jan 02, 2025
Season 5 Episode 13: Coercive Control & Children Conference Podcast: The Role of Language in Global Responses to Domestic Abuse
Dec 19, 2024
Season 5 Episode 12: Challenging the Gospel of Sacrifice: Faith, Domestic Abuse & Institutional Transformation
Dec 19, 2024
Season 5 Episode 11: Empowering Children: Healing from Domestic Abuse with Dr. Asha Patel
Dec 11, 2024
Season 5 Episode 10: Beyond Presence: Redefining Responsible Fatherhood in a Domestic Abuse–Informed World
Oct 23, 2024
Season 5 Episode 9: Partnering vs. Practicing: The Hidden Bias in Professional Crisis Work
Oct 22, 2024
Season 5 Episode 8: The Myth of the Domestic Violence Incident
Jul 29, 2024
Season 5 Episode 7: Childhood Domestic Violence Exposure Is “Pivotal”: An Interview with Professor Daryl Higgins
Jul 23, 2024
Season 5 Episode 6: This Work Is Sacred: An Interview with Beth Ann Morhardt
Jun 05, 2024
Season 5 Episode 5: A Trauma History Is Not an Excuse for Acting Abusively
May 20, 2024
Season 5 Episode 4: Unveiling the Impact of Domestic Violence on Children: Beyond the Myth of the Child Witness
Apr 16, 2024
Season 5 Episode 3: An Introduction to David Mandel’s book “Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers”
Apr 02, 2024
Season 5 Episode 2: Women’s Use of Force in Intimate Relationships: An Interview with Lisa Young Larance
Feb 18, 2024
Season 5 Episode 1: Sexual and Domestic Violence In the Military
Feb 11, 2024
Season 4 Episode 12: Research That Puts Survivors at the Center
Dec 09, 2023
Season 4 Episode 11: Human Resources Policy & Domestic Violence: Creating a Domestic Violence–Informed Organization
Dec 05, 2023
Season 4 Episode 10: Ensuring the Voice of the Child Is Heard and Child’s Best Interests Are Considered in Domestic Abuse Cases: How the Safe & Together Model Helps Promote the Rights of Children
Nov 18, 2023
Season 4 Episode 9: The Last Drop Film: A Revolutionary New Tool for Professionals Working with Young People Around Coercive Control
Nov 01, 2023
Season 4 Episode 8: “Heart Healing”: An Interview with Mibbinbah’s Lisa and Jack Bulman
Oct 18, 2023
Season 4 Episode 7: Survivors Are Better Parents Than Most People Think (Even Survivors Themselves)
Jul 06, 2023
Season 4 Episode 6: "The Professional Part of Me Is Not Separated from the Personal": An Interview with Nneka MacGregor
Jun 26, 2023
Season 4 Episode 5: An interview with Caring Dads co-creator Dr. Katreena Scott
Jun 20, 2023
Season 4 Episode 4: Being Abused by a Partner While Advocating for Others: An Interview with Leah Vejzovic, Safe & Together Institute's North American Regional Manager
May 23, 2023
Season 4 Episode 3: The Silent Effects of Non-Fatal Strangulation: A Conversation with International Lived Experience Expert Nneka MacGregor
May 05, 2023
Season 4 Episode 2: Coming “Out” as a Survivor in a Professional Setting: A Practitioner’s Journey
Apr 27, 2023
Season 4 Episode 1: Using the Concept of Partnering with Survivors to Promote Worker Health and Well-Being
Feb 27, 2023
Season 3 Episode 13: What Domestic Violence Perpetrators Steal From Survivors
Dec 20, 2022
Season 3 Episode 12: Weaponise & Fabricate: How Domestic Violence Perpetrators’ Behaviours Intersect with Survivors’ Mental Health and Substance Misuse Issues
Nov 20, 2022
Season 3 Episode 11: Pivoting to the Perpetrator: An Essential Tool for Interrupting Victim-Blaming
Nov 11, 2022
Season 3 Episode 10: “Slow Motion Murder:” Widening the Understanding of the Link Between Domestic Violence and Child Deaths
Oct 14, 2022
Season 3 Episode 9: Coercive Control in Children’s and Mothers’ Lives: An Interview with Author and Academic Dr. Emma Katz
Sep 22, 2022
Season 3 Episode 8: Understanding Reproductive Coercion: An Interview with Dr. Heather McCauley
Aug 18, 2022
Season 3 Episode 7: Understanding and Validating Survivors' Acts of Resistance
Jun 05, 2022
Season 3 Episode 6: 7 Myths about the Safe & Together Model
Jun 03, 2022
Season 3 Special Minisode: Interview with Celine Donovan, a New Zealand Safe & Together Model Certified Trainer
May 27, 2022
Season 3 Episode 5: Minisode on Worker Safety & Well-Being: Managing Your Own Fears About the Safety of the Family
May 15, 2022
Season 3 Episode 4: Reproductive Coercion
May 10, 2022
Season 3 Episode 3: Minisode on Worker Safety & Well-Being: When Workers Have Their Own Histories of Abuse
Feb 06, 2022
Season 3 Episode 2: Perpetrators' Weaponisation of Mental Health and Addiction Against Survivors
Jan 17, 2022
Season 3 Episode 1: "This Is a Collective Male Problem:" An Interview with International Journalist Grant Wyeth
Jan 10, 2022
Season 2 Episode 24: From Police Inspector to “Moral Rebel”: An Interview with Graham Goulden
Dec 24, 2021
Season 2 Episode 23: Minisode on Worker Safety & Well-Being: When Workers Are Survivors Themselves
Nov 27, 2021
Season 2 Episode 22: Minisode on Worker Safety & Well-Being: The Connection Between Worker Safety and Victim-Blaming
Nov 27, 2021
Season 2 Episode 21: Minisode Series on Worker Safety & Well-Being: When Workers Are Targeted by the Perpetrator
Nov 07, 2021
Season 2 Episode 20: Minisode Series on Worker Safety & Well-Being: Intro to the series
Oct 31, 2021
Season 2 Episode 19: Using the concepts of collaborative co-parenting to hold perpetrators more accountable in family court
Oct 31, 2021
Season 2 Episode 18: Multiple Pathways to Harm: An Assessment Approach That Better Mirrors the Lived Experience of Survivors
Oct 13, 2021
Season 2 Episode 17: Intervening with Domestic Violence Perpetrators: "We Can't Leave Anything on the Table"
Sep 18, 2021
Season 2 Episode 16: "We Have to Remember Who We Are Advocating For": An Interview with Aboriginal Domestic Violence Leader Ashlee Donohue
Sep 03, 2021
Season 2 Episode 15: She Is Not Your Rehab: A Global Invitation to Men to End Abuse of Women and Children Through Radical Self-Responsibility and Healing
Aug 24, 2021
Season 2 Episode 14: How to Perpetrator-Proof Custody and Access Processes
Aug 16, 2021
Season 2 Episode 13: Reparations and the Unique Experience of Black Domestic Violence Survivors: An Interview with Courageous Fire
Jul 12, 2021
Season 2 Episode 12: How Coercive Control Harms Child Safety and Well-Being: An Interview with Dr. Emma Katz
Jun 29, 2021
Season 2 Episode 11: “We Need a Revolution”: Integration of Trauma Healing and Behavior Change for People Who Choose Violence
Jun 04, 2021
Season 2 Episode 10: Trauma-Informed Is Not the Same as Domestic Violence–Informed: A Conversation About the Intersection of Domestic Violence Perpetration, Mental Health & Addiction
May 17, 2021
Season 2 Episode 9: Finally! A Realistic Feature Film About Coercive Control: An Interview with Chyna Robinson and Tracy Rector
Apr 26, 2021
Season 2 Episode 8: “I Spiraled Down to a Dark Place”: An Interview with a Survivor of Officer-Involved Domestic Violence and His Mum
Mar 23, 2021
Season 2 Episode 7: “Radical Resistance to the Status Quo”: A Look Behind the Scottish Coercive Control Law with Dr. Marsha Scott
Mar 11, 2021
Season 2 Episode 6: The Male Victim
Feb 27, 2021
Season 2 Episode 5: How Professionals and Systems Can Avoid Being Manipulated by Perpetrators
Feb 16, 2021
Season 2 Episode 4: Making Good Decisions: How Professionals Use the Safe & Together Model's Critical Components to Help Survivors
Feb 07, 2021
Season 2 Episode 3: “Cultural Tsunami”: How the Safe & Together Institute Seeks to Transform Systems
Jan 31, 2021
Season 2 Episode 2: Coercive Control Laws: A Discussion with Investigative Reporter and Author Jess Hill
Jan 18, 2021
Season 2 Episode 1: 6 Steps to Partnering with Survivors
Jan 16, 2021
Season 1 Episode 33: Our First Season Wrap-Up: Looking Back on PWAS 2020
Dec 20, 2020
Season 1 Episode 32: Domestic Violence Advocacy in a Time of Police Reform: An Interview with Leigh Goodmark and the Staff of a Survivor Agency
Dec 18, 2020
Season 1 Episode 30: 4 Ways the Concept of Trauma Bonding Works Against Survivors
Dec 05, 2020
Season 1 Episode 31: “Acting in Bad Faith”: UK Centre for Women’s Justice Files Groundbreaking “Super-Complaint”
Dec 05, 2020
Season 1 Episode 29: Family Courts Are Failing the “Best Interests” of Adult and Child Abuse Survivors: An Interview with Joan Meier
Nov 12, 2020
Season 1 Episode 28: “I Have Something I Want to Talk to You About”: A Conversation with Dr. Leanor Boulin Johnson
Oct 28, 2020
Season 1 Episode 27: “How Much Crime Are You Willing to Let Your Police Commit?”: An Interview with Retired Lieutenant Detective Mark Wynn and Retired Police Chief Tom Tremblay
Oct 16, 2020
Season 1 Episode 26: Listening to the Voices of Survivors of Officer-Involved Domestic Violence: An Interview with Nanette Chezum
Oct 06, 2020
Season 1 Episode 25: When Police Officers Commit Domestic Violence: An Interview with Alex Roslin
Sep 30, 2020
Season 1 Episode 24: The Healing Power of Survivor Impact Panels
Sep 23, 2020
Season 1 Episode 23: Unraveling the Gender Paradox at the Center of the Safe & Together Model
Sep 07, 2020
Season 1 Episode 22: When Culture, Religion & Domestic Violence Meet
Aug 31, 2020
Season 1 Episode 21: Listening to the Voices of Children and Young People Harmed by Fathers Who Choose Violence: An Interview with Professor Cathy Humphreys and Dr. Katie Lamb
Aug 21, 2020
Season 1 Episode 20: Partnering with Survivors Using Restorative Practices: An Interview with Dr. Eloise Sepeda
Aug 19, 2020
Season 1 Episode 19: 9 Ways to Collude with a Person Who Chooses Violence
Jul 30, 2020
Season 1 Episode 18: Survivors Aren’t Broken: An Intimate Discussion About Support and Partnership in Relationships
Jul 17, 2020
Special Episode: Charlie Webster Undiscussible on Talk Radio: Recognizing Spiritual and Domestic Abuse
Jul 08, 2020
Season 1 Episode 17: Choose to Change: A New Community-Based Men’s Behavior Change Toolkit
Jun 18, 2020
Season 1 Episode 16: Family and Friends Guide: How to Be an Ally to a Loved One Who Is Being Abused
May 04, 2020
Season 1 Episode 15: Coercive Control, Entrapment & Isolation: An Interview with Luke & Ryan Hart
Apr 25, 2020
Season 1 Episode 14: Caring for Self While Caring for Others: An Interview with Laura van Dernoot Lipksy
Apr 02, 2020
Season 1 Episode 13: Mapping Domestic Violence Perpetrators' Use of the COVID-19 Pandemic to Increase Coercive Control
Mar 24, 2020
Season 1 Episode 12: COVID-19: Helping Families Impacted by Domestic Abuse in a Time of Crisis
Mar 20, 2020
Season 1 Episode 11: Getting Inside the Mind of Men Who Use Violence
Mar 15, 2020
Season 1 Episode 10: Lived Experience with Ryan Hart and Berry Street's Y-Change Team
Feb 28, 2020
Season 1 Episode 9: “My Daughter Is Being Abused and I Don’t Know What to Say”: The Friends & Family Episode
Feb 21, 2020
Season 1 Episode 8: Male Parental Development and How Fathers’ Parenting Choices Matter
Feb 09, 2020
Season 1 Episode 7: Torture Tactics: How Coercive Control Is Similar to Torture in Its Methods and Impact on Victims
Feb 06, 2020
Season 1 Episode 6: Beyond “Toxic Masculinity”: Power, Care & Accountability
Feb 05, 2020
Season 1 Episode 5: What We Bring With Us: Trauma, Safety & Professional Practice
Jan 30, 2020
Season 1 Episode 4: Gender Double Standards
Jan 23, 2020
Season 1 Episode 3: Language and Professional Terms That Cover Up Realities of Abuse
Jan 15, 2020
Season 1 Episode 2: Victim-Blaming Is a Systems Problem
Jan 13, 2020
Season 1 Episode 1: Coercive Control and Consent
Jan 12, 2020