Small Things Often

By The Gottman Institute

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Give your relationships a boost in 5 minutes or less with Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute. We provide simple, proven, quick tips to help you deepen and enhance your relationships!

Episode Date
How to Be a Better Listener
181
How are your listening skills? If your partner is in pain, the most loving thing you can do is to listen with empathy and understanding. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to improve your ability to listen with compassion.
Aug 12, 2020
How to Take Care of Each Other By Taking Care of Ourselves
184
How’s your relationship going? Not the one with your partner…the one with yourself. On this episode of Small Things Often, find out why creating time and space for yourself can keep the relationship with your partner strong and healthy.
Aug 10, 2020
Connecting in Crisis
136
While in crisis mode, it can be easy to turn away from your loved ones. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how you can stay connected and support each other in times of uncertainty.
Aug 05, 2020
Practicing Positive Needs
225
How are you expressing those difficult emotions that creep up from time to time? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to transform criticisms into “positive needs” that will help you avoid conflict and arguments — and, ultimately, bring you even closer to your partner.
Aug 03, 2020
Good Enough Relationship
159
What is a “good enough” relationship? It’s likely not what you think. In this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how a good enough relationship can help you set healthy expectations.
Jul 29, 2020
Finding Joy
159
How much fun have you had with your partner today? Yesterday? Last month? If playful moments are lacking in your relationship, listen to this episode of Small Things Often, and hear why moments of joy are so important — and learn how to consciously create some in your life!
Jul 27, 2020
Redefining Individuality and Togetherness
217
Are you and your partner spending so much time together that you’re beginning to think you’re losing your individuality and sense of self? On this episode of Small Things Often learn how to balance your relationship between togetherness and separateness.
Jul 22, 2020
Stress-Reducing Conversations
176
Are you really listening to your partner? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to engage in a stress-reducing conversation that can positively impact your relationship by strengthening your mutual love and trust.
Jul 20, 2020
Little Repairs That Have A Big Impact
207
Every couple argues. But the ones who survive and thrive have learned how to repair quickly and often. What does that mean? Tune into this episode of Small Things Often and find out why it’s so important to repair conflicts as they occur.
Jul 15, 2020
You Don’t Need to Cheer Up Your Partner
170
When your partner feels down, is your first instinct to cheer them up? If so, take a step back, because there’s a better choice. On this episode of Small Things Often, we offer advice on the best ways to respond to your partner when they’re dealing with negative emotions.
Jul 13, 2020
Hurt Feelings
167
Do your feelings get hurt easily in your relationship — even in small, trivial matters? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out why this happens — and how to manage and repair these hurtful moments with your partner.
Jul 08, 2020
Attunement Through Awareness
195
One of our deepest needs is for our partner to “know” us — to be truly attuned to us. On this episode of Small Things Often, discover how awareness will help you open up during a conflict —let your partner know what is going on inside — and become more emotionally connected.
Jul 06, 2020
What Is a Bid for Connection?
146
Knowing when your loved one is trying to connect with you isn’t always intuitive. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why you need to know your bids for connection and take you through the different types of bids so you can create healthy interactions in your relationship.
Jul 01, 2020
Emotion Coaching
171
You’re smart — of course — but are you emotionally intelligent? In this episode of Small Things Often, how you can use emotion coaching in your relationship to connect with your partner by becoming more emotionally intelligent.
Jun 29, 2020
Under Stress, We All Regress
151
Do you communicate differently when you’re stressed? You’re not alone! In this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll show you why under stress, we all regress, and what you can do to keep your relationship strong.
Jun 24, 2020
Understanding Your Feelings
143
Difficult emotions can be difficult to truly understand! On this episode of Small Things Often, we’re putting those emotions through the Feeling Wheel — and you can too by printing your own here https://bit.ly/37qDVTK.
Jun 22, 2020
Mindfulness and Awareness
172
How can mindfulness transform your relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often learn why staying in the present moment — being aware of your thoughts and emotions, without going on auto-pilot — can increase your sense of happiness, love, and trust.
Jun 17, 2020
Flooding and Overwhelm
199
Have you had an argument with your partner lately, where you totally lost it because you were overwhelmed with feelings of anger, fear, or hurt? If so, this episode of Small Things Often is for you! Discover why this happens — and how to calm yourself when these feelings arise.
Jun 15, 2020
We Want to Hear From You...Before Season 2 Begins!
245
Season 1 has come to an end, but Season 2 is on its way! On this episode of Small Things Often, listen to one of our favorites — especially in these uncertain times: Staying Connected in Times of Great Stress. Send your thoughts on Season 1 and what you’d like to hear more of in Season 2 to podcasts@gottman.com
May 20, 2020
Say What You Need
138
Cut the criticism and say what you need! This episode of Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute shares tips about how to communicate positive needs in your relationship instead of playing the blame game.
May 18, 2020
What Does Compatibility Really Mean?
120
Do you think in order to be compatible with your partner you have to share certain interests, values or goals? Think again. On this Episode of Small Things Often, we explore what it truly means to be compatible.
May 13, 2020
The Grass is Greener Where You Water it
146
We’re getting the negativity out of your relationship! In this episode of Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute, we’re shifting perspectives to prove the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
May 11, 2020
Change the Metric
144
How do you measure success in your relationship? If your goal is perfection, you’re setting yourself up for heartache. In this episode of Small Things Often, find out how the happiest relationships measure their success.
May 06, 2020
Facts Over Myths
179
There are some “facts” about relationships, that maybe you’ve always believed, that just aren’t true. On this episode of Small Things Often, we use decades of research to bust 5 of the most common relationship myths.
May 04, 2020
Intimacy Through Self-Disclosure
133
Do you keep a lot about yourself to yourself? Self-disclosure to your partner — revealing your most authentic self about how you think and how you feel — can have an enormously positive impact on your relationship. On today’s Small Things Often, we tell you why.
Apr 29, 2020
Emotional Triggers
132
We all have things that trigger us emotionally, but what can you do about it? And how do emotional triggers affect your relationships? We’ll share what to be mindful of, in this episode of Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute..
Apr 27, 2020
Self-Soothing
174
We’re calling a time out! In this episode of Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute, we’re practicing self-soothing skills so you can take care of yourself and talk to your loved one with less tension.
Apr 22, 2020
Two Sides of Stonewalling
171
The walls are coming down in this episode of Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute. We’re sharing the two sides of stonewalling and a solution for either side.
Apr 20, 2020
Difficult emotions
188
How do you deal with emotions like anger, confusion, fear, or sadness? In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to practice mindfulness to find calm and peace when difficult emotions arise.
Apr 15, 2020
Magic Ratio
195
We’ve got some relationship magic for you — it’s called the 5 to 1 ratio. It’s based on extensive research and it can transform the bond between you and your partner. Find out what it is and how it works in today’s episode of Small Things Often.
Apr 13, 2020
Celebrate your partner
132
When was the last time you celebrated one of your partner’s successes? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out why small moments of celebration contribute to the happiness of your relationship.
Apr 08, 2020
Complaints vs Critcism
176
Does your partner sometimes do things that annoy or upset you? Do you tell them? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out the difference between complaining and criticizing and how each could impact your relationship in a big way.
Apr 06, 2020
Intentional Choices to Connect with Your Family
223
Is the current coronavirus pandemic causing you to feel out-of-control, anxious, and a bit removed from family life? On this episode of Small Things Often, we show you ways to reconnect with your family in times of great stress — by being intentional in your choices and making the best out of the “new normal.”
Apr 01, 2020
Redefining Rituals
165
Are you around your loved ones a lot more than you’re used to right now? As the world deals with a health emergency, Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute is here to make adjusting to all this a little easier! We’ll guide you through the conversation that you can have to redefine your daily rituals.
Mar 30, 2020
Staying Connected Through Times of Great Stress
205
Feeling anxious and overwhelmed by the coronavirus crisis? Tune in to this episode of Small Things Often to learn ways to stay connected to your partner during these times of great stress and uncertainty.
Mar 25, 2020
Attunement
162
It’s time to get in sync! On this episode of Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute, we’re putting attunement into action to help create harmony in your relationships.
Mar 23, 2020
Destress with your Partner
197
Do you need to de-stress after a long day? In this episode of Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute, we’ll tell you the do’s and don’ts of a stress-reducing conversation that you need to have daily with your loved one!
Mar 18, 2020
Disconnect to connect
131
It’s time to unplug! In this episode of Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute, we explain why disconnecting — and putting down your phone — could help form a stronger connection with your partner.
Mar 16, 2020
Listen to understand
131
Before you interrupt your partner’s story, listen up! In this episode of Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute, we’ll explain how fully listening before responding can strengthen your relationship.
Mar 11, 2020
Understanding must precede advice
153
There’s a battle that you don’t necessarily have to fight. Why understanding your partner before you even think about spewing advice could be just what your loved one needs!
Mar 09, 2020
You don't have to solve your problems
175
There are some issues between you and your partner that are unsolvable. But that doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. Find out how to deal with “perpetual problems” on this episode of Small Things Often.
Mar 04, 2020
Trust is built in very small moments
158
Trust doesn’t happen overnight. It’s built over time. Learn how paying attention to small everyday moments can add up to a deeply trusting relationship.
Mar 02, 2020
Move from me to we
101
Are you and your partner on a unified front? If you feel like you have been out of sync maybe you need to start adding in more “We” and less “Me”.
Feb 26, 2020
Self-care isn't selfish
147
Think Self-care is selfish? Think again. It could save your relationship. Listen to this important science-based tip on Small Things Often from the Gottman Institute— and discover why you need to carve out some me-time.
Feb 24, 2020
Catch your partner doing something right
148
Can small moments of appreciation transform your relationship in a big way? You bet they can. In today’s episode of Small Things Often by The Gottman Institute, find out why it’s important to catch your partner doing something “right”!
Feb 19, 2020
What can you do in five minutes?
97
Got 5 minutes? That could be all you need to make a meaningful connection with your partner. Find out how in Episode 2 of Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute - and watch your relationship flourish.
Feb 17, 2020
Who are we? What are we going to do?
131
Sometimes it feels like we should just know how to be a good partner even when things get tough and overwhelming. But we’re here to tell you a good relationship comes from the small things—the day-to-day moments that can make a big difference over time. Listen to Small Things Often for tips to make your connections, with everyone in your life, stronger and happier.
Feb 03, 2020