Jill Scott Presents: J.ill the Podcast

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Jill Scott, Laiya St.Clair, and Aja Graydon-Dantzler are music and entertainment icons, but they’re also experts in the art of no-holds-barred conversations. Jill Scott Presents: J.ill the Podcast is like chilling with that friend who says what everyone wants to say but is too afraid to – times three. Expect unfiltered talk about relationships, health, art, and everything else that comes with surviving and thriving as a Black woman in the world

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Wide Eyes Open
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S*** ain't always sweet in the music industry. Fortunately, we can count on Laiya, Aja, and Jill to give budding artists game. So you and/or your kids wanna be in the business? Pause and listen to this episode. Resources: "The Music Business Toolbox: Actionable Business Guidance for Musicians from Recording to Royalties," by Bryan Calhoun with Kristin Thomson "Everything You’d Better Know About the Record Industry for Artists, Songwriters, Producers, Musicians, and Music Entrepreneurs" by Kashif with contributions by Gary Greenberg Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
May 12, 2021
"My Mamma Said"
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According to Aja's mother, there's petting, and then there's heavy petting. Don't know the difference? Find out in this episode, where the ladies share what their mamas taught them about sex and relationships. Shanicia Boswell, an author and the creator of Black Moms Blog, continues the conversation in a "What's On Your Heart?" about motherhood, womanhood, and making space to accept love. Resources: "Our Bodies, Ourselves" "The Joy of Sex" by Dr. Alex Comfort "Vanessa del Rio: Fifty Years of Slightly Slutty Behavior" "Oh Sis, You're Pregnant!: The Ultimate Guide to Black Pregnancy & Motherhood" by Shanicia Boswell Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
May 05, 2021
Can I Be a Quilt?
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Sometimes, boxes are comfortable and safe. But other times, boxes are suffocating. And being confined to stereotypes and assumptions is for the birds. We all contain multitudes. Today on the show, the ladies do some unboxing. Resources: Paul Laurence Dunbar's "We Wear the Mask" Paul Laurence Dunbar bio Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Apr 28, 2021
Keep Yo Jinx
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Not everything passed down through generations should stay in the family. You can name curses, and you can break them. This week on the show, the ladies talk about knowing and growing from the problems that plague us.    Resource: Bogleheads' Guides   Call 866-HEY-JILL and leave us a message with your comments on this episode! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Apr 21, 2021
F*** an Urgent Care
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Medicine is a practice. But be careful practicing on Black women, because "fire burn." This week on J.ill, a sensitive conversation about what Black women face when dealing with many medical professionals. In "What's on Your Heart?" actor, comedian, and author Michelle Buteau joins the ladies for a candid conversation about her experience in coloring outside the medical lines. Resources: Black Mamas Matter Alliance Sister Girl Foundation The Broken Brown Egg Black Women's Health Imperative Sister Song Survival of the Thickest: Essays Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Apr 14, 2021
J.ill Loves the Hoes
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Sex is supposed to be pleasurable, but a lot of times, it's purely transactional. On J.ill this week, one of your sista friends is completely intrigued. Light on the judgment – chile, who has the time? – but heavy on the yummy curiosity. Resources: Vanessa del Rio: Fifty Years of Slightly Slutty Behavior Urban Justice Center's Sex Worker Project Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Apr 07, 2021
We Want to Hear From You!
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Jill, Laiya, and Aja have talked about a lot on the show so far – from cultural appropriation, to the relationships between Black women and Black men, to loneliness. There's a lot to unpack, and we know we can't fit it all in the show. But we know that y'all have a lot to add to these discussions, so we want to hear what you have to say. Ever listened to an episode and ended up in a debate with your friends, had a change of heart about a subject, or had a million comments that you kept to yourself? Email us a message or voice memo at JillScottPodcast@iheartmedia.com to let us know your thoughts on a topic that the ladies have discussed so far. You just might hear your message on a future episode! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Mar 31, 2021
Gray Hair Where????
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"Black does not crack, but it sure does crease." Laiya, Aja, and Jill reminisce about the shows they grew up on and the wellness practices their parents and grandparents followed. They also reveal some of more embarrassing signs of aging, the lifestyle choices they've made to stay healthy as they get older, and the things they've learned from the millennials. On What’s On Your Heart, media coach, activist, and music advocate Dyana Williams joins the ladies for a heartfelt and necessary conversation about caring for aging parents, preparing for homegoings, and honoring the gift of living. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Mar 24, 2021
Levels of Loneliness
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The past year of isolation and social distancing has changed the way we relate to solitude. The absence of touch, separation from loved ones, and lack of fellowship and intimacy have presented many challenges. We can be lonely when we're alone, but we can also be lonely when we're surrounded by people or in intimate relationships. On the other hand, we can crave more alone time. Aja, Jill, and Laiya consider the role that loneliness has played in their lives, how important it is to do self-work, and honoring the need for stillness. Resources: The Five Love Languages In the Wake: On Blackness and Being by Christina Sharpe More on Phillis Wheatley Poems on Various Subjects, Religious and Moral by Phillis Wheatley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Mar 17, 2021
Boundaries Are Your Friend
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The media often portrays the relationships between Black women as adversarial and difficult. If you believe the stereotypes and the propaganda, you might think that Black women don't like each other and don't get along. Of course, that's fallacy and harmful generalization – some Black women are incompatible, just like some people of any other race or gender may be incompatible. If you actually know Black women, you know that their friendships are multifaceted. And as Aja points out, Black women often show the most empathy and care for other Black women. Jill, Laiya, and Aja discuss the qualities that they value in their friendships, the benefits of having a diverse friend group, and the importance of maintaining boundaries. And the sisterhood continues as the ladies have a conversation about uplifting women and choosing happiness with poet, therapist, and clinical social worker Trapeta Mayson. Resource: "The Friends" by Rosa Guy Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Mar 10, 2021
Seeing the Humanity of Our Mothers
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The relationships children have with their mothers are so diverse and dynamic. But many of us expect our mothers to be our provider, our teacher, our savior, and our source of comfort. When we are naive, growing children, it's hard to recognize our mothers as whole human beings who have lives beyond those roles. But as we get older and gain more distance and perspective, we realize that our mothers were trying to navigate this challenging world, just like we are. And we can start to give our mothers – flaws and all – a little more grace. Aja, Jill, and Laiya reflect on some of the moments in which they saw their mothers' humanity, and they reckon with the joy, insight, pain, and empathy that those moments awakened. Plus, a conversation on parenting, freedom, and soul work with sociologist Dr. Janice Johnson Dias. Resources: "Parent Like It Matters: How to Raise Joyful, Change-making Girls" by Dr. Janice Johnson Dias Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Mar 03, 2021
What's Wrong With 'Em?
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What's wrong with 'em? It's a simple question that's hard to answer. Jill, Laiya, and Aja try to get to the bottom of some of the questionable things people do, like being unable to have conversations with nuance or wear a mask properly. On the subject of white people with locs: Jill presents pros, and Aja comes back with some strong cons. Of course, these are all observations, not judgments. The question is also: What’s wrong with us? Resource mentioned in this episode: More on Sara Baartman Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Feb 24, 2021
The Magic and Music of Black Language
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That Louisiana drawl. The way "you straight?" can mean a dozen different things depending on the tone and situation. The Black mama classic: adding the word "the" in front of everything. And even the Head Nod. Black language is full of beauty and music. Laiya, Aja, and Jill celebrate Black speech and all its nuance, variation, and ingenuity.  Resources: Twitter thread about Black units of measurement Facebook post by Ade Efunbukola on similarities between African languages and AAVE Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Feb 17, 2021
A Thin Line Between Loving You and Loving Me
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"Compassion, empathy, respect, trust." That's a word from Aja on the qualities that are important in relationships with Black men, whether they are platonic or romantic ones. But we all know that building solid, healthy relationships takes time and looks different for everybody. There's a delicate balance between Black women loving and caring for themselves, and loving and caring for Black men. Jill, Laiya, and Aja get into how complex and difficult and beautiful relationships between Black men and Black women can be. Plus, a conversation on love and mental health with father, husband, and therapist Kier Gaines. Resource: Black Men Heal Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Feb 10, 2021
We Want All the Black Stories
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We need all the Black stories. The mundane ones. The extravagant ones. The heartbreaking ones. Black life is expansive, and the more we get to see ourselves on screen in new ways, the better. Uplifting the real, raw humanity of Black people on film and television is so important. Jill, Laiya, and Aja talk about the value of slavery narratives, the stories that they want to see produced, and how grateful they are for how far Black storytelling has come. And they ask the question: How do we find a sanctuary for Black art? Resources: EJI National Memorial for Peace and Justice and Legacy Museum National Museum of African American History and Culture Reelblack BlackStar Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Feb 03, 2021
Don't Be Messy
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Jill, Laiya, and Aja have all been the subject of rumors -- some based in truth, some comically false, and some wildly insulting. It's human nature to speculate and gossip, but sometimes we go too far. According to rumors, Jill had a baby with D'Angelo; Kindred the Family Soul performed at a wedding in the early '90s; and Laiya has a big mouth. (OK, Laiya says that one may have been true at one point.) Some rumors are fun. But others are just "foul," as Jill puts it. Let's keep it light. And if you do hear a nasty rumor spread about you, don't let the lies steal your peace. Advice from the ladies: Don't be messy! Plus, a much-needed conversation with Dr. Nicole Verdun, the director of the FDA's Office of Blood Research and Review, about the COVID vaccine and the skepticism and hearsay that surround it. Resources: Press release: NMA Forms COVID-19 Task Force Take the Politics Out of Vaccine Development Press release: NMA COVID-19 Task Force on Vaccines and Therapeutics Black Doctor Dies of Covid-19 After Complaining of Racist Treatment Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Jan 27, 2021
When You're the Other Woman
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Being "the other woman" comes with a whole host of stigmas and assumptions. Having a relationship with a married person can be toxic, and like Jill says in this episode, "You cannot win by causing someone else harm." Relationships built on infidelity and dishonesty will deal damage in one way or another. But the desire to cheat or to be a mistress can come from a deeper place than surface-level selfishness or cruelty. Jill, Aja, and Laiya reject the moral high ground in favor of a hard but honest conversation about cheating, questioning our own mentalities and choices, and moving on to more wholesome relationships. Resources: Progressive Love Academy (and on Instagram here) Instagram post by Devale Ellis Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Jan 20, 2021
Black Culture Is Sacred
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From music, to hair, to fashion, non-Black people prove time and again that they're willing to take from Black culture without giving credit where it's due. What's the line between appropriation and celebration? How can we make sure that we value and take pride in what we own? Laiya, Jill, and Aja explore how we check ourselves, protect ourselves, and hold others accountable when it comes to cultural theft. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Jan 13, 2021
Whoopings, Spankings, and Everything In-Between
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Figuring out how to discipline children is not an easy task. What did our parents do? What does the research say? How do our personal morals shape our chosen methods of punishment? What does the child need? How do we raise children so that they grow up healthy and safe? What's "right" and "wrong" when it comes to disciplining children is not so black-and-white. Aja, Laiya, and Jill talk about the spankings they've gotten, the spankings they've given, and the difficult conversations they've had with their parents about the link between slavery and discipline today. Resources mentioned in this episode: 12 Innovative Punishment Ideas for Kids (though the advice given is not recommended by Aja, Jill, and Laiya) Article: "It Is Illegal to Spank Your Child in SA - ConCourt" "All About Love: New Visons" by bell hooks Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Jan 06, 2021
Our Value Is Not Defined by What We Produce
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There is merit in working hard and being productive on your own terms. But grind culture takes productivity to a whole other level. The no-sleep, hustle hard mentality has people saying yes to every opportunity, turning down every leisure activity, overbooking, and taking little if any time for self-care. Jill, Laiya, and Aja work hard, but they also affirm the power and importance of rest. In this episode, they get real about what it means to be successful and to make the most out of the time we have. Resources mentioned in this episode: Toni Morrison: The Pieces I Am In the Wake: On Blackness and Being The Nap Ministry Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Dec 30, 2020
We Can Create Our Own Holidays
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Holidays can be joyful times of celebration and fellowship. But sometimes we end up participating in holidays that we have no practical or spiritual connection to. And in the U.S., some holidays have been commercialized and divorced from their historical roots. Laiya, Aja, and Jill shout out some Black holidays (like Juneteenth) as well as some of the traditions they've created and observe in their own homes. Resource mentioned in this episode: How to Make a Negro Christian Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Dec 23, 2020
How Do We Move Forward?
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When it comes to U.S. politics, 2020 has shown us how messy, racist, ignorant, and apathetic our leadership can get. Four years of a Trump administration was more than the people of the U.S. ever asked for (quite literally, considering 2016's popular vote outcome). But now that a Democratic presidency is on the horizon, how do we move forward? How do we avoid getting complacent and stay on these politicians' necks? Jill, Laiya, and Aja discuss the realities of the last four years, the upcoming presidential transition, and the work that still needs to be done. Plus, a conversation with Dr. Angel Love Miles, a social justice and disability rights advocate. Resource mentioned in this episode: Black Philly Radical Collective Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Dec 16, 2020
Let's Give Iconic Black Women Their Flowers
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It’s about time we amplified the stories of Black women who are pioneers in the music industry. In this episode, Jill, Laiya, and Aja highlight some of these iconic artists and entrepreneurs – from Cathy Hughes to Valerie Simpson to Ma Rainey. Resources mentioned in this episode: Queer Cultural Center The film Ma Rainey's Black Bottom Any play by August Wilson Millie Jackson, Labelle, Cathy Hughes, Valerie Simpson Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Dec 09, 2020
Let's Talk About How We Talk About Sexual Assault
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It's not easy to talk about sexual assault. It's a charged topic that rightfully carries so much weight, so much history, and so much emotion. But as Jill, Laiya, and Aja mention in this episode, it's likely that you know or are a woman who has been sexually assaulted. We have to have an honest conversation about how we talk about sexual assault and treat sexual assault survivors. Resources mentioned in this episode: RAINN National Sexual Violence Resource Center "Are Prisons Obsolete?" by Angela Davis "Ain't I a Woman?" speech by Sojourner Truth Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Dec 02, 2020
“White People Sh*t” We Like
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There are some things white people love doing that Laiya, Jill, and Aja would never do. Then there are things that white people love doing that Laiya, Jill, and Aja would recommend to their Blackest of Black friends. These are some of those things. (Hot tub outdoors in the winter, anyone?) Resource mentioned in this episode:  Check out your local newspaper for tips on things to do around your city. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Nov 25, 2020
Where Would We Go?
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Black people are escaping the U.S. to try to build a better life abroad. But is it worth it? Aja, Laiya, and Jill discuss where they would go if they left the U.S. -- if they would even leave in the first place. Plus, a conversation with educator and activist Dr. Yaba Blay. Resource mentioned in this episode: https://travelnoire.com/ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Nov 18, 2020
Jill Scott Presents: J.ill The Podcast
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Jill Scott, Laiya St.Clair, and Aja Graydon-Dantzler introduce J.ill, a podcast where they have conversations to spark conversation. The three longtime friends and entertainment icons have heart-to-hearts where there's room for affirmation, questioning, and disagreement. Getting older, rumors, cultural theft – trust that Laiya, Aja, and Jill will keep it 100% on topics that you love and ones that may make you uncomfortable. Join them on J.ill as they ask big questions and celebrate small joys. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Nov 10, 2020