The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

By Robyn Gobbel

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B Meyer
 Aug 13, 2023
Great podcast to help build understanding and give guidance on the difficult parenting of children who have experienced trauma.

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Formerly the Parenting after Trauma podcast, internationally recognized children's mental health expert Robyn Gobbel decodes the most baffling behaviors for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems. If you're parenting a child who has experienced trauma or toxic stress or a child with a neuroimmune disorder, sensory processing, or other nervous system vulnerability, this show will let you know you are not alone. You can stop playing behavior whack-a-mole because Robyn offers you tools that actually work. 

You can become your child's expert, feel more confident as a parent, and bring more connection and clarity into your family.

Educators, therapists, coaches and consultants- you too can learn all about what behavior really is and become more effective at helping the families you support. You can love your work again!


Episode Date
EP: 180 What's Up With Regression?
May 28, 2024
EP: 179 Is Regulated The Goal?
May 21, 2024
EP: 178 EVERYONE Has A Watchdog And Possum Brain!
May 14, 2024
EP: 177 When Possums Become Watchdogs
May 07, 2024
REPLAY: Self-Compassion Keeps you Regulated
May 03, 2024
EP: 176 Feel Better, Even If Nothing Changes
Apr 30, 2024
REPLAY: Stress Response System
Apr 26, 2024
EP: 175 Secure Relating with Guests Sue and Ann from Therapist Uncensored
Apr 23, 2024
REPLAY: Enabling vs Low-Demand Parenting
Apr 19, 2024
Ep. 174: When it's Hard to Keep Offering Connection
Apr 16, 2024
REPLAY: Low Demand Parenting with Amanda Diekman
Apr 12, 2024
Ep. 173: Are Connected Kids always Cooperative
Apr 09, 2024
REPLAY: School Refusal with Eliza Fricker
Apr 05, 2024
Ep. 172: What does it mean to 'Heal'?
Apr 02, 2024
REPLAY: Lying as a Trauma Driven Behavior
Mar 29, 2024
EP. 171: Living with someone chronically dysregulated
Mar 26, 2024
REPLAY: Child Always Dysregulated? Try This!!!
Mar 22, 2024
Ep. 170: Why Kids Act Better for Other People
Mar 19, 2024
REPLAY: Trauma Behavior? Or Just Regular Kid Acting-Up Behavior?
Mar 15, 2024
Ep. 169: The Privilege of Parenting with Safety
Mar 12, 2024
REPLAY: Undoing the Aloneness in Parenting
Mar 08, 2024
Ep. 168: "I HATE YOU! And Other Big Feelings
Mar 05, 2024
{REPLAY} Grief in Parenting
Mar 01, 2024
Ep. 167: Silliness As A Sign Of Dysregulation
Feb 27, 2024
{REPLAY} What To Do After We Mess Up (Rupture Repair)
Feb 23, 2024
Ep. 166: 1% Better is Enough
Feb 20, 2024
REPLAY: What does "Vulnerable Nervous System" mean?
Feb 16, 2024
EP. 165: What’s Up With Rude & Disrespectful Behaviors?
Feb 13, 2024
{REPLAY} How to Influence - Not Control - Behaviors
Feb 09, 2024
EP. 164: Attachment Science in Action- A conversation with Jessica Sinarski
Feb 06, 2024
Ep. 163: Felt Safety (Between) - Part 3
Jan 30, 2024
Ep 162: Felt Safety (Outside) - Part 2
Jan 23, 2024
Ep 161: Felt Safety (Inside) - Part 1
Jan 16, 2024
REPLAY: What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like?
Jan 11, 2024
REPLAY: Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior
Jan 09, 2024
REPLAY: When Your Child Doesn't Participate in Therapy
Jan 02, 2024
REPLAY: When Parenting is Traumatic
Dec 26, 2023
REPLAY: How to Parent a Bottomless Pit of Needs
Dec 19, 2023
REPLAY: Trauma, Memory, Behavior - Part 2: Mental Models and Behavior
Dec 14, 2023
REPLAY: How Trauma Impacts Memory and Behavior - Part 1
Dec 12, 2023
REPLAY: Child Can't Handle No!
Dec 05, 2023
REPLAY: Healing from Blocked Care with Melissa Corkum and Lisa Qualls
Nov 30, 2023
REPLAY: When Your Nervous System is Fried
Nov 28, 2023
REPLAY: Boundaries with Verbal Aggression (Boundaries Series: Part 3)
Nov 24, 2023
REPLAY: Boundaries that Create Success (Boundary Series: Part 2)
Nov 22, 2023
REPLAY: Boundaries with Connection (Boundaries Series: Part 1)
Nov 20, 2023
REPLAY: Is Understanding Behavior Excusing It?
Nov 14, 2023
Ep. 160: When your Child won't Talk about their Watchdog and Possum Brain
Nov 07, 2023
Ep. 159: Titrating Connection- Oppositional Series Part 4
Oct 31, 2023
Ep 158: When Connection isn't Safe- Oppositional Series Part 3
Oct 24, 2023
Ep. 157: Strategies for Oppositional Behavior- Part 2
Oct 17, 2023
Ep. 156: Oppositional And Defiant Behavior- Part 1
Oct 10, 2023
Ep. 155: Match the Energy, NOT the Dysregulation
Oct 03, 2023
Ep. 154: (BONUS) Let me Tell You About The Club
Sep 28, 2023
Ep. 153: Marshall Lyles & Robyn Gobbel Talk about Writing #RKB3
Sep 26, 2023
Ep. 152: BONUS - A little snippet from the Book #RKB3 (BOOK RELEASE Day)
Sep 21, 2023
Ep. 151: Loving your OWN Watchdog and Possum Brain (IT'S BOOK RELEASE WEEK!)
Sep 19, 2023
Ep. 150: Why You Can Know What to Do and Still Not Do It?!
Sep 12, 2023
Ep. 149: "Fix" Behaviors by Calming the Watchdog & Possum Brain
Sep 05, 2023
Ep. 148: "Fix" Behaviors by Growing the Owl Brain
Aug 29, 2023
Ep. 147: What Behavior Really Is
Aug 22, 2023
Ep. 146: Parenting When Your Partner is Not On Board
Aug 15, 2023
Ep. 145: Calm the Chaos- a Transformative Framework for Parenting
Aug 08, 2023
Ep. 144: Enabling vs Low-Demand Parenting
Aug 01, 2023
Ep. 143: Building Safe Spaces: The Crucial Role of Adults in Children's Recovery from Trauma
Jul 25, 2023
Ep. 142: Exploring Low Demand Parenting: Shifting Power Dynamics and Nurturing Trust
Jul 18, 2023
Ep. 141: Peaceful Discipline & Story Teaching with Sarah R. Moore
Jul 11, 2023
Ep. 140: This Mom's Story: Marna Pacheco's Innovative Way of Supporting Vulnerable Nervous Systems
Jul 04, 2023
Ep. 139: When Your Nervous System is Fried
Jun 27, 2023
Ep. 138: Stealing- Behavior is Just a Clue
Jun 23, 2023
Ep. 137: Disappointment: A Sneaky Cause of Baffling Behaviors
Jun 13, 2023
Ep. 136: Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors
Jun 06, 2023
Ep. 135: You Aren't Doing it Wrong
May 30, 2023
Ep. 134: What if Trauma Informed... Isn't?
May 23, 2023
Ep. 133: School Refusal with Eliza Fricker
May 16, 2023
Ep. 132: Screen Time & Mental Health with Debbie Steinberg Kuntz
May 09, 2023
Ep. 131: Knot Parenting with Carrie Contey
May 02, 2023
Ep. 130: More About Blocked Care- Friday Q&A
Apr 28, 2023
Ep. 129: Grief in Parenting
Apr 25, 2023
Ep. 128: My Child Hates Having their Feelings Validated- Friday Q&A
Apr 21, 2023
Ep. 127: Surviving the Mother Load of Parenting with Meredith Ethington
Apr 18, 2023
Ep. 126: What Does this Look Like with Teens- Friday Q&A
Apr 14, 2023
Ep. 125: When you Feel Like a Parenting Failure
Apr 11, 2023
Ep. 124: Should My Child be in Individual or Family Therapy? Friday Q&A
Apr 07, 2023
Ep. 123: Healing from Blocked Care with Lisa Qualls and Melissa Corkum
Apr 04, 2023
Ep. 122: What does "Vulnerable Nervous System" mean?
Mar 28, 2023
Ep. 121: How Toxic Shame Heals
Mar 21, 2023
Ep. 120: What Does Toxic Shame Look Like?
Mar 14, 2023
Ep. 119: The Neurobiology of Toxic Shame
Mar 07, 2023
Ep. 118: How Can The Club Help my Family? Q&A
Mar 03, 2023
Ep. 117: How I've Strengthened my Psychological Boundaries
Feb 28, 2023
Ep. 116: Why does my child demand constant attention? Friday Q&A
Feb 24, 2023
Ep. 115: Boundaries with Verbal Aggression with Juliane Taylor Shore: Boundaries with Connection Part 3 of 3
Feb 21, 2023
Ep. 114: Can I teach my child about their brain? Friday Q&A Series
Feb 17, 2023
Ep. 113: Boundaries that Create Success: Boundaries with Connection Part 2 of 3
Feb 14, 2023
Ep. 112: The Problem with a RAD diagnosis- Friday Q&A series
Feb 10, 2023
Ep. 111: Boundaries with Connection Part 1 of 3: Boundaries You can Control
Feb 07, 2023
Ep. 110: Does my child get dysregulated on purpose? Friday Q&A Series
Feb 03, 2023
Ep. 109: Is Understanding Behavior Just Excusing It?
Jan 31, 2023
Ep. 108: It's Me! Hi! My 2022 Reflections
Jan 24, 2023
Ep. 107: Helping Kids Discover their Superpowers with Dr. Chaitra Wirta Leiker
Jan 17, 2023
{REPLAY} Lisa Dion on how Regulation Does Not Equal Calm
Jan 13, 2023
{REPLAY} Trauma Behavior? Or Just Regular Kid Acting-Up Behavior?
Jan 10, 2023
{REPLAY} What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like?
Jan 06, 2023
{REPLAY} Not Flipping Your Lid...When Your Kid Flips Theirs
Jan 03, 2023
{REPLAY} Self-Compassion Keeps You Regulated
Dec 30, 2022
{REPLAY} Why Do I Get So Dysregulated?
Dec 27, 2022
{REPLAY} Why Good Times Can Suddenly Go Bad
Dec 23, 2022
{REPLAY} Child Always Dysregulated? Try this!!!
Dec 20, 2022
Ep. 106: Bringing Regulation to Educators with Emily Daniels
Dec 13, 2022
Ep. 105: Caring for our Tender Parts with Ilyse Kennedy
Dec 06, 2022
Ep. 104: Being Adopted with Amy Wilkerson
Nov 29, 2022
Ep. 103: How to be a Cycle Breaker with Mindi Kessler
Nov 22, 2022
Ep. 102: Telling the Truth to Adopted Kids- Even When it's Hard with guest Marcella Moslow
Nov 15, 2022
Ep. 101: How to Influence- Not Control- Behavior
Nov 08, 2022
Ep. 100: What Does it Mean to Be With?
Nov 01, 2022
Ep. 99: Loving Someone with Baffling Behaviors (& a neuroimmune condition)
Oct 25, 2022
Ep. 98: From the Inside Out- My husband's journey with a neuroimmune condition
Oct 18, 2022
Ep. 97: Neuroimmune Disorders and Big, Baffling Behaviors with Dr. Qazi Javed
Oct 11, 2022
Ep. 96: What to do about Manipulation
Oct 03, 2022
{BONUS} Helping Kids with Toxic Shame
Sep 30, 2022
Ep. 95: When Parenting is Traumatic
Sep 27, 2022
{BONUS} When Parenting Advice Hurts
Sep 23, 2022
Ep. 94: Stress Response System
Sep 20, 2022
{BONUS} A Kayak Fell on My Head
Sep 16, 2022
Ep. 93: Help for Sensory & Emotional Challenges with Jessica Sinarski
Sep 13, 2022
{BONUS} But- have you grieved?
Sep 09, 2022
Ep. 92: Child Can't Handle No
Sep 06, 2022
Ep. 91: Trauma, Memory, Behavior Part 2- Mental Models and Behavior
Aug 30, 2022
Ep. 90: How Trauma Impacts Memory and Behavior
Aug 23, 2022
Ep. 89: Facing Impossible Decisions Big & Small with Guest Laura Strohm
Aug 16, 2022
Ep. 88: How to Parent a Bottomless Pit of Needs
Aug 09, 2022
Ep. 87: Creating Brave Spaces with Selma Bacevac
Aug 02, 2022
{BONUS} Writing My Book: Behind the Scenes
Jul 31, 2022
Ep. 86: When Your Child Doesn’t Participate in Therapy
Jul 26, 2022
Ep. 85: Ableism in Trauma Informed Parenting with Guest- Marshall Lyles
Jul 19, 2022
Ep. 84: Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior
Jul 12, 2022
Ep. 83: How to Change People Pleasing Behavior
Jul 05, 2022
{REPLAY} How The Brainstem Heals
Jun 28, 2022
{REPLAY} From Correction to Connection Based Parenting: This Dad's Journey
Jun 21, 2022
{REPLAY} Lacy Alana With Hope: Even When Things Seem Hopeless
Jun 14, 2022
{REPLAY} Mark Vatsaas Helps Parents Feel Seen and Heard
Jun 07, 2022
Ep. 82: Scaffolding is a Form of Co-Regulation
May 31, 2022
Ep. 81: What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like?
May 24, 2022
Ep. 80: What To Do After We Mess Up (Rupture Repair!)
May 17, 2022
REPLAY: Bonnie Badenoch on Healing Attachment with Safety and Presence
May 10, 2022
REPLAY: How Attachment Changes
May 03, 2022
REPLAY: The Tragedy of Disorganized Attachment
Apr 26, 2022
REPLAY: A Closer Look at Insecure Avoidant Attachment
Apr 19, 2022
REPLAY: A Closer Look at Insecure Anxious Attachment
Apr 12, 2022
REPLAY: A Closer Look at Secure Attachment
Apr 05, 2022
REPLAY: Back to Basics: Attachment
Mar 29, 2022
REPLAY: Bethany Saltman with A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment
Mar 22, 2022
Ep. 79: Brain Body Parenting with Dr. Mona Delahooke
Mar 15, 2022
REPLAY: But...What About A Consequence
Mar 08, 2022
Ep. 78: How Self Compassion Changed Things for This Mom
Mar 06, 2022
Ep. 77: Q&A! After experiencing post-adoption depression, my child and I are struggling. I need help!
Mar 04, 2022
Ep. 76: How To Make Food and Feeding Less Stressful
Mar 01, 2022
Ep. 75: When your Child's Behavior Doesn't Change, This Can Help
Feb 27, 2022
Ep. 74: Q&A! What do I do when my kid gets stuck and ends up flipping her lid?
Feb 25, 2022
Ep. 73: When My Owl Brain Flew Away (Spoiler: The Movers weren't a Ponzi Scheme)
Feb 22, 2022
Ep. 72: Q&A! How do I help adoptive parents feel more empathy toward their child's parents?
Feb 18, 2022
Ep. 71: What To Do When you Don't Like Your Kid
Feb 15, 2022
Ep. 70: Q&A! Why Can't I Do All the Parenting Skills I've Learned? What am I Doing Wrong?
Feb 11, 2022
Ep. 69: How to Talk to Your Teen About Anything- with Katie Malinski, LCSW
Feb 08, 2022
Ep. 68: Q&A! What do I do when my child flops and acts exhausted by the simplest request?
Feb 04, 2022
Ep. 67: You Don't Need More Parenting Experts
Feb 01, 2022
Ep. 66: Becoming Securely Attached with Dr. Sarah Bren
Jan 25, 2022
Ep. 65: How Behavior Changes
Jan 18, 2022
REPLAY: X-Ray Vision Parenting Superpower
Jan 13, 2022
REPLAY: Lisa Dion on how Regulation Does Not Equal Calm
Jan 11, 2022
REPLAY: Trauma Behavior? Or Just Regular Kid Acting-Up Behavior?
Jan 06, 2022
REPLAY: Not Flipping Your Lid...When Your Kid Flips Theirs
Jan 04, 2022
REPLAY: Self-Compassion Keeps You Regulated
Dec 30, 2021
REPLAY: Why Do I Get So Dysregulated?
Dec 28, 2021
REPLAY: Why Good Times Can Suddenly Go Bad
Dec 23, 2021
REPLAY: Child Always Dysregulated? Try this!!!
Dec 21, 2021
Ep. 64: Right Where You Need To Be
Dec 14, 2021
Ep. 63: Connections over Compliance with Dr. Lori Desautels
Dec 07, 2021
Ep. 62: Trauma Informed Schools with Jim Sporleder from Paper Tigers
Nov 30, 2021
Ep. 61: Against a Behavioral Approach with Greg Santucci
Nov 23, 2021
Ep. 60: Creating Trauma Sensitive Schools with Julie Beem
Nov 16, 2021
Ep. 59: The Regulated Classroom with Emily Daniels
Nov 09, 2021
Ep. 58: How to Advocate for our Kids at School
Nov 02, 2021
Ep. 57: The Relationship Between Nutrition & Behavior with Dr. Nicole Beurkens
Oct 26, 2021
Ep. 56: But- What About a Consequence?
Oct 19, 2021
Ep. 55: From Correction to Connection Based Parenting: This Dad's Journey
Oct 12, 2021
Ep. 54: Has Trauma Informed Become Another Behavior Modification Technique?
Oct 05, 2021
Ep. 53: What Our Kids Really Need (and us, too)...Moments of Healing
Sep 28, 2021
Ep. 52: Occupational Therapy: Strengthening the Foundation of the Brain
Sep 21, 2021
Ep. 51: Equine Assisted Trauma Informed Psychotherapy: Strengthening the Foundation of the Brain
Sep 14, 2021
Ep. 50: Theraplay: Strengthening the Foundation of the Brain
Sep 07, 2021
Ep. 49: How the Brainstem Heals
Aug 31, 2021
Ep. 48: The Safe & Sound Protocol: Strengthening the Foundation of the Brain
Aug 24, 2021
Ep. 47: A Neurodevelopmental Approach- Right Intervention, Right Time
Aug 17, 2021
Ep. 46: Imperfect Parenting Grows Resilience with Guest Dr. Amy Stoeber
Aug 10, 2021
Ep. 45: Cooking is Connecting with Special Guest- Chef Kibby
Aug 03, 2021
Ep. 44: Supporting the Families of Kids with Big Behaviors: Podcast Swap with Therapist Uncensored
Jul 27, 2021
Ep. 43: There is No Such Thing as Self-Regulation! Podcast Swap with Empowered to Connect
Jul 20, 2021
Ep. 42: IPNB, Being a Therapist, and a Human (part 2)- Podcast Swap with Karen Buckwalter
Jul 13, 2021
Ep. 41: IPNB, Being a Therapist, and a Human (part 1)- Podcast Swap with Karen Buckwalter
Jul 06, 2021
Ep. 40: Bonnie Badenoch on Healing Attachment with Safety and Presence
Jun 29, 2021
Ep. 39: How Attachment Changes
Jun 23, 2021
Ep. 38: The Tragedy of Disorganized Attachment
Jun 22, 2021
Ep. 37: A Closer Look at Insecure Avoidant Attachment
Jun 16, 2021
Ep. 36: A Closer Look at Insecure Anxious Attachment
Jun 15, 2021
Ep. 35: A Closer Look at Secure Attachment
Jun 09, 2021
Ep. 34: Back to Basics: Attachment
Jun 08, 2021
Ep. 33: Bethany Saltman with A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment
Jun 01, 2021
Ep. 32: Why Good Times Can Suddenly Go Bad
May 25, 2021
Ep. 31: Lisa Dion on how Regulation Does Not Equal Calm
May 18, 2021
{BONUS} What Behavior Really Is- And How to Change It
May 13, 2021
Ep. 30: Trauma Behavior? Or Just Regular Kid Acting-Up Behavior?
May 11, 2021
{BONUS} Mother's Day is Hard (or worse...)
May 09, 2021
Ep. 29: Marshall Lyles with Be Brave. Be Reflective. Be Connected. Be Human.
May 04, 2021
Ep. 28: Your Child Wants Connection...Promise.
Apr 27, 2021
Ep. 27: Marti Smith on Becoming a Connected Therapist
Apr 20, 2021
Ep. 26: Toxic Shame: Why was I failing at Shame Resilience?
Apr 13, 2021
Ep. 25: Lacy Alana with Hope- Even when Things Seem Hopeless
Apr 06, 2021
Ep. 24: Parents Need CoRegulation, Too!!!
Mar 30, 2021
Ep. 23: Karen Buckwalter and Parenting the Challenging Child
Mar 23, 2021
Ep. 22: Undoing Aloneness for Parents of Kids with Trauma
Mar 16, 2021
Ep. 21: Jessica Sinarski on Shifting the Paradigm- for Everyone!
Mar 09, 2021
Ep. 20: Why Do I Get So Dysregulated?
Mar 02, 2021
Ep. 19: Aerial Silks, P!NK, and Curiosity: Robyn Gets Vulnerable
Feb 23, 2021
Ep. 18: Child always dysregulated? Try this!!!
Feb 16, 2021
Ep. 17: Felt-Safety: What's the Big Deal?
Feb 09, 2021
Ep. 16: Mark Vatsaas Helps Parents Feel Seen and Heard
Feb 04, 2021
Ep. 15: Lying as a Trauma Driven Behavior
Feb 02, 2021
Ep. 14: Eileen Devine and Brain First Parenting
Jan 28, 2021
Ep. 13: X-Ray Vision Parenting Superpower
Jan 26, 2021
Ep. 12: Imperfect Parenting is Perfect
Jan 19, 2021
Ep. 11: Changing How We See People Changes People
Jan 12, 2021
Ep. 10: Not Flipping Your Lid...When Your Kid Flips Theirs
Jan 05, 2021
Ep. 9: Co-Regulation Before Self-Regulation
Dec 29, 2020
Ep. 8: Self-Compassion Keeps You Regulated
Dec 22, 2020
Ep. 7: Connection or Protection? The Science of Opposition
Dec 18, 2020
Ep. 6: What's Regulation Got To Do With It?
Dec 14, 2020
Ep. 5: Saying the Unsayable with Special Guest Anne Heffron
Dec 08, 2020
Ep. 4: Tracking Arousal- Not Behavior
Dec 04, 2020
Ep. 3: No Behavior is Maladaptive
Dec 04, 2020
Ep. 1: Welcome to Parenting after Trauma with Robyn Gobbel
Dec 04, 2020
Ep. 2: Boundaries with Connection
Dec 04, 2020