Emotional Sobriety: The Next Step in Recovery
By Allen Berger & Thom Rutledge
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Emotional Sobriety, Stewardship & Service (Part Two)
00:37:32
A we engage with the recovery impetus to be of service to others, In addition to the reward there may also an activation of guilt and other issues tied to our early experiences with our family of origin. Allen shines a light on the importance of integrating taking care of ourselves with taking care of others. These drives are inextricable from each other, and push us towards greater emotional sobriety.
Read Joe’s new blog post Servitude & Stewardship: Emotional Sobriety and the Twelve Traditions:
Follow us on social media. Podcast Twitter: @EmSobrietyPod Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs
Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):
https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986
For our ongoing video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g
Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.
We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. |
Mar 20, 2023 |
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Emotional Sobriety, Stewardship & Service (Part One)
00:48:23
Recovery (and Emotional Sobriety) are contagious! Joe Chisholm returns to the pod to chat with Thom and Patrick about the benefits we can reap from looking outward, focusing on mutual aid rather than self-help. 12 Step recovery groups are “chaordic,” “communitarian” spaces where we can find the structure we need but also the latitude to be spontaneous. As we step into a more conscious life of recovery, we create positive ripples that affect the lives of others in unexpected ways. In this episode and the next (when Allen returns to the show), we discuss how to make more and greater ripples.
Read Joe’s new blog post Servitude & Stewardship: Emotional Sobriety and the Twelve Traditions:
Follow us on social media. Podcast Twitter: @EmSobrietyPod Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs
Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):
https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986
For our ongoing video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g
Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.
We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. |
Mar 13, 2023 |
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A New Perspective on Failure
00:42:39
As we become more awakened in emotional sobriety, we begin to challenge all our old ideas. The power struggle of emotional dependency and the temptation to frame our experience according to "shoulds," are hurdles to overcome. To cast ourselves in a negative light because we fail, lose, or are disappointed is living a life that’s only partially lived.
Follow us on social media. Podcast Twitter: @EmSobrietyPod Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs
Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):
https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986
For our ongoing video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g
Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.
We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. |
Mar 06, 2023 |
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Authentic Values
00:44:50
How can we learn to live in better alignment with our values? Some of our values are unconscious, and benefit by being brought into the light. We run into problems when we identify more with our false selves than our genuine selves. Where we are with our self-esteem can have a massive influence on how these dynamics play out.
Follow us on social media. Podcast Twitter: @EmSobrietyPod Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs
Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):
https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986
For our ongoing video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g
Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.
We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. |
Feb 27, 2023 |
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Ripple Effect
00:32:58
Thom and Allen hold down the fort to discuss the role of honesty in therapy. Allen shares the profoundly positive feedback he received from someone who brought Emotional Sobriety to their recovery while in prison.
Follow us on social media. Podcast Twitter: @EmSobrietyPod Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs
Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):
https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986
For our ongoing video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g
Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.
We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. |
Feb 19, 2023 |
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“Maddiction” with Joe C.
00:47:21
It feels good to judge. What does that reveal about ourselves, and how can we work on putting this energy to better use? Exploring how our tendency towards righteous indignation, or “maddiction,” intersects with emotional sobriety.
Follow us on social media. Podcast Twitter: @EmSobrietyPod Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs
Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):
https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986
For our ongoing video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g
Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.
We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. |
Feb 13, 2023 |
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Radical Honesty
00:44:22
Thom and Allen discuss what it means to be "radically honest." Radical honesty begins with self-honesty. We can’t do it with other people if we don’t first understand ourselves.
Email Thom: thomrutledgeauthor@gmail.com Email Allen: abphd@msn.com
Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):
https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986
For our ongoing video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g
Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.
We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. |
Feb 05, 2023 |
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Practice Makes Practice
00:31:54
Thom and Patrick dig into their rocky pre-recovery days, charting the evolution their consciousnesses have taken. While encountering challenges, keep it simple. Each day presents an opportunity to overthink things. Uncoupling from the notion of perfection is key. Emotional Sobriety is something we strive towards, a North Star that we’ll never fully reach. The practice is a constant unfolding, which we hone our entire lives.
Email Thom: thomrutledgeauthor@gmail.com Email Allen: abphd@msn.com
Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):
https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986
For our ongoing video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g
Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.
We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. |
Jan 30, 2023 |
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Philosophy over Psychology with Tom Potash
00:57:34
Allen and Thom welcome longtime contributor to the Emotional Sobriety community Tom Potash to talk about his decades-long recovery journey, the letting go that sports fandom can require, and a more philosophy-based conception of the process of relying less on environmental support and more on self-support.
Please subscribe to Tom Potash’s channel, where his workshops and 12 Step studies can be found: https://www.youtube.com/@12steptom46/ The Emotional Sobriety Study Area details can be found here: https://4dphd.com/emotional-sobriety/
Email Thom: thomrutledgeauthor@gmail.com Email Allen: abphd@msn.com
Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):
https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986
For our ongoing video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g
Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.
We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. |
Jan 23, 2023 |
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A Spiritual Path Through Emotional Sobriety
00:57:27
Recovery stalwart Richard Warner had to announce himself as a newcomer after decades in the program, a formative experience that he’s grateful for today. With Thom and Allen he walks us through his journey from the depths of addiction to the daily striving for greater Emotional Sobriety.
Email Thom: thomrutledgeauthor@gmail.com Email Allen: abphd@msn.com
Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):
https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986
For our ongoing video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g
Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.
We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. |
Jan 16, 2023 |
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Living Consciously with Roger Andes
00:52:10
Roger Andes discusses his body-oriented work as a therapist, cultivating connections with others and within himself revolving around the preservation of integrity. Being deeply connected to others while also being connected to ourselves need not be goals that cut against each other. Almost always, there is a path to both.
Follow us on social media. Podcast Twitter: @EmSobrietyPod Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs
Email Thom: thomrutledgeauthor@gmail.com Email Allen: abphd@msn.com
Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):
https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986
For our ongoing video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g
Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.
We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. |
Jan 09, 2023 |
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Meditating on the New Year with Herb Kaighan
00:45:33
Longtime collaborator, first-time guest Herb K. joins us to discuss the role of meditation in his daily practice, and how being in alignment with reality is foundational in our evolution towards emotional sobriety. Allen, Thom, and Patrick check in about their greatest lessons and challenges in 2022, looking ahead to the promise of a new year.
Thank you for being with us through these episodes. More will be revealed.
Herb K.’s book, “Practicing the Here and Now”: https://www.amazon.com/Practicing-Here-Now-Intentional-Meditation/dp/1616496746
More on Herb K. at his website:
Follow us on social media. Podcast Twitter: @EmSobrietyPod Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs
Email Thom: thomrutledgeauthor@gmail.com Email Allen: abphd@msn.com
Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):
https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986
For our ongoing video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g
Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: |
Dec 30, 2022 |
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More Will Be Revealed with Joe C.
00:47:48
This week we share our thoughts on receiving & offering guidance to other addicts across a wide span of experience as we navigate the recovery highway. Joe C. from Rebellion Dogs returns to the show to weigh in.
Follow us on social media. Podcast Twitter: @EmSobrietyPod Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs
Email Thom: thomrutledgeauthor@gmail.com Email Allen: abphd@msn.com
Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):
https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986
For our ongoing video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g
Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.
We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. |
Dec 19, 2022 |
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Higher and Friendly Powers with Dr. Peg O’Connor
00:55:40
Peg joins us to talk about her more secular conception of a Higher Power, informed by her background in philosophy and the life and work of William James. While working the steps and doing the fearless and thorough moral inventory, she explains how Hume’s list of virtues can come into play. As we redefine our approach to self-esteem in recovery, we can think of it as “knowing how to belong to ourselves.” In this work she strives alongside her students to cultivate an expanded sense of human decency and moral ideals.
More on Peg O’Connor and her book Higher and Friendly Powers: Transforming Addiction and Suffering:
Follow us on social media. Podcast Twitter: @EmSobrietyPod Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs
Email Thom: thomrutledgeauthor@gmail.com Email Allen: abphd@msn.com
Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):
https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986
For our ongoing video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g
Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.
We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our prod |
Dec 12, 2022 |
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Our Inner Civil War
00:42:58
If you’re disturbed about something, we encourage investigating what’s beneath that disturbance. This episode we explore the psychological mechanism called projection, and what it can teach us about ourselves as we try to live our lives more meaningfully and effectively.
Follow us on social media. Podcast Twitter: @EmSobrietyPod Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs
Email Thom: thomrutledgeauthor@gmail.com Email Allen: abphd@msn.com
Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):
https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986
For our ongoing video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g
Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.
We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. |
Dec 05, 2022 |
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The Importance (and Difficulty!) of Our Daily Practice
00:34:13
With the serenity prayer, we try to figure out the things in our lives that we have the power to change. Here, Thom and Patrick mull the discipline that it takes to be in a practice of emotional sobriety.
Follow us on social media. Podcast Twitter: @EmSobrietyPod Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs
Email Thom: thomrutledgeauthor@gmail.com Email Allen: abphd@msn.com
Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):
https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986
For our ongoing video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g
Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.
We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments.
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Nov 28, 2022 |
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Thanksgiving Survival Guide
00:35:08
In preparation for the forthcoming high calorie sit-downs many of us are having with friends and family this week, Allen and Patrick run down a list of the twelve most common things that mess up the holidays. First we’ll identify the mistakes, then we’ll discuss some strategies of avoiding them. As with so many other issues on the podcast, a lot of this comes down to managing expectations.
Here’s a PDF to download the list in full: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1p953Gq-UApWN08i7mo0Q5zC6everDFKi/view?usp=sharing
Follow us on social media. Podcast Twitter: @EmSobrietyPod Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs
Email Thom: thomrutledgeauthor@gmail.com Email Allen: abphd@msn.com
Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):
https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986
For our ongoing video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g
Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We’d love to stay in touch in between meetings.
We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at Nov 23, 2022 |
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The Holidays: Come As You Are
00:45:26
Allen’s big Italian dinners. Thom getting kicked by a horse. Patrick learning what to do with his hands, now that he’s no longer getting loaded. There’s a lot to unpack when it comes to our expectations for ourselves and others surrounding the holidays. Today we discuss how we might be more present for our loved ones in the days ahead, or how to cope when we can’t find that Hallmark enjoyment around the table. Read Thom's piece "The Rules of Self-Care Apply to the Holidays Too," https://www.thomrutledge.com/_files/ugd/e71801_c8f8b44df1814cddbbe64767c7fe296e.pdf
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Nov 14, 2022 |
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Between Wisdom & Discipline
00:51:27
At a certain point (or maybe various points) along the recovery way, we each develop an awareness of what we might call our own inner wisdom, but rather than make proper use of this amazing resource, we have a tendency to continue searching for answers outside of ourselves. Even before recovery, despite passages of stumbling through dysfunctional lives, we gain wisdom. Cultivating discipline is how we can put that wisdom to work for us.
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Nov 06, 2022 |
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Thom & Allen at the ICSAA
01:18:52
Allen tells us about his formative years enlisting in the marines, Vietnam, alcohol and drugs. Thom of early struggles working as a counselor at an addiction treatment center and drinking off the clock. Both eventually found grace and recovery and now try to pay it forward. At the International Conference of Secular AA, we look at Bill Wilson’s letter through a magnifying glass. If the 12 Steps are practiced in our daily lives, Wilson suggests that we and those about us begin to find emotional sobriety. The transcendence of environmental support to self-support (Fritz Perls). The program is a “people grower.” It unshackles us, allowing us to become what we can be. Within this framework we learn that our addiction wasn’t pathological, we just got stuck on our way someplace else. Emotional Sobriety is a consciousness of freedom. On our way towards it, we “unhook” people from our dependency.
More information about the event at:
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Making the Most of Fellowship & Support
00:37:44
Let's return to fundamental questions of what Emotional Sobriety is, and why we consider it the “next frontier." How do we build support systems, and how do we maintain them? How do we stay connected without losing ourselves? This is where notions of differentiation come in. It’s important not to idealize the group, but take what works and leave the rest.
Join us next week for our “live” episode at the International Conference of Secular AA, on October 29th @ 10:30am PST. Here’s how to login on Zoom:
Meeting ID: 879 9275 7142 Passcode: 121212
More information on the event at:
Later that day we will post the episode in the usual place for any who are unable to attend (:
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Oct 23, 2022 |
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What Progress Am I Making?
01:00:58
How can we measure our progress (or lack there of) in productive ways? Learning to separate from self-condemnation & create/embrace health self-critique. Includes learning to give ourselves credit where credit is due, to build on successes & to forgive our fuck-ups without letting ourselves off the hook. Joe C. from Rebellion Dogs joins Thom and Allen this week.
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Oct 16, 2022 |
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Room for All
00:50:00
Let’s exercise more authority and agency over our lives. Moving towards a focus on being rather than having. A bit of Buddhist wisdom: Be careful to not mistake the finger pointing at the moon for the moon itself. A bit of Emotional Sobriety wisdom: Emotional sobriety are two words pointing towards the moon. The philosophy, concepts and methodologies associated with Emotional Sobriety are tools prescribed for those of us who want to improve ourselves. It is a way forward, a way to explore ourselves more deeply, a way to evaluate our progress and a way to continue making progress. What is not prescribed is who each of us is and what each of us wants. Never let someone else define those for you. The practice of emotional sobriety within a community is a collaborative and creative process. It is back to the basics of the program: we can do this together, none of us can do it alone. YOUR EMOTIONAL SOBRIETY BELONGS TO YOU.
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Oct 09, 2022 |
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Living in the Moment
00:37:51
Let’s talk about how essential the practice of living in the moment is to the condition we call emotional sobriety. AND about how radical living in the moment can actually be.
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Oct 03, 2022 |
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A New Self-Esteem
00:40:09
Defining a self-esteem based on humility and an appropriate estimation of ourselves, our successes and failures. Cultivating this newfound sense of self is essential to coming into closer alignment with reality. Allen closes with some suggestions for exercises we can do to get the ball rolling on clearer appraisals of ourselves that could lead us towards change.
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Sep 26, 2022 |
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Secular Recovery with Joe C.
00:53:35
Author and podcast host Joe C. of Rebellion Dogs Publishing joins Allen and Thom to discuss a “yes, and” rather than “no, but,” maximally inclusive approach to recovery.
Learn more about Joe C. and listen to his show, Rebellion Dogs: https://rebelliondogspublishing.com/
Learn more about our upcoming live show at the International Conference of Secular AA, on October 29th:
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Sep 19, 2022 |
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Managing Anxiety with Gina Ryan
00:54:06
We’re joined this week by Gina Ryan, who in her work with clients and on her weekly podcast imparts some of her vision for how to live with anxiety, bring its level down and develop greater self-compassion. Gina’s pursuits as an anxiety coach and Thom and Allen’s as therapists and practitioners of emotional sobriety are often one and the same.
Learn more about Gina Ryan and her podcast on the Anxiety Coaches website. https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Sep 11, 2022 |
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Emotional Sobriety at Work
00:37:41
In observance of Labor Day, let’s talk about how to keep our emotional center of gravity in an environment that taxes us constantly. Whether it’s financial stress, caustic co-workers, or abusive bosses, the dynamic remains: the problem itself is less important than our reaction to it. If we can keep the ball in our court when navigating these issues, doors will begin opening for us left and right.
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Sep 03, 2022 |
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What Love Is
00:39:41
Allen and Thom reunite after some time off for labor and travel. Today we spend some time digging into intimacy and relationships, with a spotlight on Thom’s book, What Love Is which seems to have only become truer and more relevant in the years since its publication. Next week for Labor Day, we'll discuss emotional sobriety in the workplace so stay tuned!.
You can find a copy of What Love Is on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1542697344/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_752FWQJP591BRPXWH1CZ
The rest of Thom’s library is available here: https://www.thomrutledge.com/thom-s-books
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Aug 28, 2022 |
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Neutralizing Fear
01:01:16
From relapses to climate catastrophes to dropping the ball at work, fears of both the immediate and existential varieties assert themselves in our daily lives at a constant clip. We can manage them and in some cases neutralize and overcome them completely with a greater dose of emotional sobriety. Thom Rutledge cites his own book Embracing Fear and digs into his own recent anxieties to shed some light on this topic.
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Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Aug 14, 2022 |
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Recovery 2.0 with Tommy Rosen
00:55:00
Allen's conception of recovery as a consciousness of freedom meets Tommy's holistic recovery approach that doesn’t shy away from the 12 steps. Our guest touches on the effectiveness of yoga, the raging debate over a pharmacological approach to recovery, and especially the recent resurgent interest in psychedelics and “microdosing” in treating addiction. We must marshal as much "recovery capital" as possible to overcome daily challenges to our sobriety.
Learn more about Tommy Rosen and Recovery 2.0 here: Tommy Rosen Instagram: @tommyrosen
Recovery 2.0 Facebook: @Recovery2point0
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Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Aug 07, 2022 |
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Getting Disappointments to Work for Us
00:24:06
The pursuit of greater emotional sobriety can allow us to mobilize our disappointments to take action in our lives, rather than being demoralized and demolished by them. Thom, Allen, and Patrick discuss how.
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Jul 31, 2022 |
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Overcoming Disappointments
00:44:02
How we react to the disappointments we face in our relationships, in ourselves, and our politics is at the heart of emotional sobriety, because of how they come crashing into our unreasonable expectations and unenforceable rules. This week we focus on the process of investigating those disappointments to understand what they’re doing to us and how. Next week we’ll discuss how to mobilize them to act on our own behalf.
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Register for Allen and Thom’s upcoming workshop: The Path to Inner Peace and Emotional Freedom Sunday, June 26th 2022. 10am-5pm $75 to attend. For additional details, Email Thom: thomrutledgeauthor@gmail.com Email Allen: abphd@msn.com
Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Jul 23, 2022 |
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Integrating Role Models
00:50:18
From parents to found families to George Washington, Thom and Allen delve into lessons learned from various mentors throughout their lives to discuss how emotional sobriety comes into play as we try to follow our role models' examples.
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Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Jul 17, 2022 |
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Nihilism and Perfectionism are "Kissing Cousins"
00:47:23
We cannot deal with the suffocation of our interrelated nihilism and perfectionism without confronting our self-hate. Allen brings in the work of Dr. Karen Horn to expand on this notion. Humans are “part animal, part god,” and resolving that dissonance is the crux of emotional sobriety.
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Jul 10, 2022 |
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Defeating Nihilism
00:47:33
With the savage political climate bearing down on Patrick and the weight of alcoholism and various other -isms contributing to a prevalent pessimistic chorus many of us endure daily, Allen and Thom dissect what it means to have nihilism and how we can push back against it. One major antidote is greater emotional sobriety.
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Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Jul 04, 2022 |
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Finding Inner Peace
00:45:33
Allen, Thom, and Patrick reflect on their first time meeting in person since the show’s inception.
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Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Jun 29, 2022 |
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Bonding with Dad
00:34:40
Today we observe the ways we can practice these principles to accept our differences with our parents, find richer connections with them, or deal with the distress that arises when we’re in conflict.
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Jun 20, 2022 |
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Adding Self to Intimate Relationships
00:38:34
How do we handle disruptions in our closest relationships with this new mentality of emotional balance and greater “differentiation?” With Patrick as this week’s guinea pig, Allen and Thom workshop some practical solutions to “convey rather than convince” in touchy conversations with our significant others.
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Jun 13, 2022 |
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Love vs. Dependency
00:36:48
Having recently returned from his brother’s funeral, Thom reflects on the role Emotional Sobriety has played in his personal growth after a 23 year separation from his family. We also wrap up our earlier conversation about marriage and relationships - “people growers” that test our capacity to be “self governing” rather than unhealthily dependent on our partners.
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Jun 06, 2022 |
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Milestones in Early Recovery
00:37:44
On this Memorial Day producer Patrick, coming up on his fourth year of continuous sobriety, chats with Allen about the role his relationships, step work, and service to others has played in his return from the depths of addiction. Moving away from an “I’m okay if” to an “I’m okay EVEN if” mentality is a recovery battle very much still being waged. PRODUCER'S NOTE: This is a new recording and edit of an episode concept we published last week. We thought we could do better this time around, and I think we were right! -- PN Follow us on social media. Twitter: @EmSobrietyPod Instagram: thomrutledge2
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed, referred to in the episode:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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May 30, 2022 |
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Grief and Flexibility
00:53:05
Following the sudden passing of Thom’s older brother Mike, we discuss the grief and reflection that accompanies tragedy through an emotionally sober lens.
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed, referred to in the episode:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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May 16, 2022 |
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Mother's Day
00:55:33
This holiday we observe cooperating rather than compromising with our loved ones in gift giving and receiving. For those with good or bad experiences with their moms. No matter what you’ve suffered, depending on how you work with it, you can start to integrate that experience and grow from it. Join us for Thom and Allen's in-person Emotional Sobriety workshop this June 26th at Harmony Hollow in PA! Details to follow. Follow us on social media. Twitter: @EmSobrietyPod Instagram: thomrutledge2
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed, referred to in the episode:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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May 08, 2022 |
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Navigating Marriage (Part One)
00:58:28
“The truth will set you free, but only if you have the courage to live it.” After a check-in about upcoming workshops and events, Allen digs deep into his own history and chats with Thom about his first marriage, and the touchstones it helped him reach. Next week we'll continue to discuss marriage and relationships in the context of Emotional Sobriety.
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed, referred to in the episode:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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May 02, 2022 |
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Showing Up for Ourselves
00:47:46
Allen returns along with therapist Brian Lutz to expand on our chat with Thom last week about recovery and Gestalt therapy. To overcome obstacles in our journey towards greater emotional balance, we need to “name it to tame it” - articulating what those obstacles are to find the proper solution.
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Allen’s first book, Love Secrets Revealed, referred to in the episode:
Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Apr 25, 2022 |
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Therapeutic Improv with Brian Lutz
00:57:52
Psychotherapist, Brian Lutz, joins Thom and Producer Patrick for a discussion about our INTRApersonal worlds. In discussing the ideas behind Brian's and Thom's upcoming workshop, INTRApersonal IMPROV, the two of them share a demonstration of therapeutic improvisation.
Our podcast has been selected as one of the Top 70 Sobriety Podcasts on the web from Feedspot - the internet’s Largest Human Curated Database of Bloggers and Podcasters! Visit here… https://blog.feedspot.com/sobriety_podcasts/
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Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Apr 17, 2022 |
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Conflict Resolution: Taking Emotional Sobriety into Traffic
00:46:12
Producer Patrick Newman and Thom Rutledge have a conversation about having conversations --- specifically about having difficult conversations in new improved ways with our recovery experience.
Links from the episode:
Simple Truth: Ideas & Experiences for People from Less than Perfect Families. Thom's first book includes chapter titled "Conversations to Convey." Only available from Thom's office: https://www.thomrutledge.com/_files/ugd/e71801_85cf03584ede448198af4a84c5dfac7c.pdf
Communication 101 & Couples Dialogue: a handout with communication tips that Thom uses with clients in therapy. https://www.thomrutledge.com/_files/ugd/e71801_609a60c3db0a4a3ebe33c1bdbdb01698.pdf
What Love Is: Reflections on the True Meaning & Authentic Practice of Genuine Love https://www.amazon.com/What-Love-Reflections-Authentic-Practice/dp/1542697344/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8
Russell Brand’s How To Deal With Conflict:
Our podcast has been selected as one of the Top 70 Sobriety Podcasts on the web from Feedspot - the internet’s Largest Human Curated Database of Bloggers and Podcasters! Visit here… https://blog.feedspot.com/sobriety_podcasts/
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Allen’s book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Apr 11, 2022 |
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Practical Solutions to Challenging Perfectionism
00:28:45
To try and push back against our self-defeating perfectionist urges, we see that voice as a distinct part of our consciousness, not “the one in charge.” Projecting a more positive vision of ourselves. Trusting the process. Managing expectations more effectively. Being more compassionate.
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Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Apr 04, 2022 |
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Episode Forty-Five: Perfectionism is a Destructive Belief System
00:46:34
For many of us, defeating our crushing sense of perfectionism is the crux of our struggle towards living a more peaceful, emotionally balanced life. In the course of discussing this, Allen talks about his dear departed friend and colleague Chris. Next week we’ll delve into further practical solutions.
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Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Mar 28, 2022 |
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Episode Forty-Four: Emotional Sobriety as Philosophy (Part Two)
00:45:23
Thom shares further thoughts on psychology and philosophy, which Allen relates to existentialism. All have a useful context in our journey towards greater emotional freedom. Next week, we do a deep dive on perfectionism. Thom’s essay: Psychology is the study of how our minds work. Philosophy pans back for a much bigger picture, an expansive view that inspires us to wonder how the whole universe works. Philosophy is often more about developing good questions, not so much so to discover the RIGHT answers, but just questions that are good company, questions that are magnetic in that they attract information, ideas, thought, even other questions.
For me in the 1990’s I became aware of self-indulgence in recovery. In myself, my community and my clients. Were we just learning to take care of ourselves for its own sake? I became aware of the arrogance of my own recovery. I was better than my family, I was better than the families of my friends and of my clients. I had become a fundamentalist. I had become what I despised the most from my most religious friends. I was right, others were wrong, not subjectively but objectively. Clearly I was missing something.
So the question showed up: WHY are we recovering? Is it really for its own sake? I had an idea that I liked better: that we are all component parts of a much greater whole – that we were healing, repairing, rehabbing our way back to rejoin (or join for the first time) the whole. Not so that we could FEEL better but so that we can BE better. So that we can become better people. More self-sufficient, sure, but also better at letting our guards down, being vulnerable, better at connecting and collaborating with others. A balance of giving and receiving seemed like a good idea.
Especially fond of that place of the BIG CONNECTION, the place called Humility. Where we are neither better nor worse than one another. Where we are individuals but also part of the whole.
Looking at all of this through the lens of Emotional Sobriety, and specifically during this time in our world’s history, I can see how each of our individual recovery paths can become models for a bigger recovery --- a recovery in ALL CAPS, maybe.
The human condition is in pain, in distress. The collective human experience is confused, lost, drunk, addicted, obsessed, selfish, narrow minded. The collective human experience does what we have all done as individual component parts: it over-simplifies what is extremely complex and it makes what should be simple complicated to a point of contamination.
The human experience, as we individually have done (and still do), is missing more than a few points.
There is room within this way of looking at ourselves individually and the human experience as a whole, for any number of individual belief systems. To consider this perspective does not require than we renounce other beliefs. And what I am describing is not intended to become one of those belief systems. Instead, this is my work-in-progress attempt to depict a broad enough, yet specific enough problem definition so that we can work together to support one another’s individual recovery practices and just maybe contribute to the ALL CAPS RECOVERY.
-Thom Rutledge / www.thomrutledge.com
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Mar 20, 2022 |
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Episode Forty-Three: Emotional Sobriety as Philosophy (Part One)
00:38:25
The practice of emotional sobriety ultimately requires that we live in congruence with a personal value system. In order to do that, we must examine our personal values at the deepest level. Let’s talk with each other about what we know about what we believe - and what we each consider to be our personal growing edge.
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Mar 06, 2022 |
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Episode Forty-Two: Summarizing “12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety”
00:44:42
This week Allen rejoins us to do a final wrap-up of his book, revisiting concepts of differentiation and equating emotional sobriety with emotional freedom.
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Mar 01, 2022 |
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Episode Forty-One: Busting Shame with Dr. Shawn Horn
01:02:10
Thom has a wide-ranging discussion this week with shame busting psychologist, author, and TEDx speaker Dr. Shawn Horn. Revisiting the multiplicity of thought, the “should monster”, negative narcissism. Running the committee of our emotions like an efficient organization, and finding hope in the therapeutic process.
About Shawn Horn PsyD: Dr. Shawn Horn is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, podcaster and TEDX speaker. In addition to her private practice, she serves as clinical supervisor with the University of Washington affiliated Psychiatric Residency Program in Spokane Washington. She is host for Inspired Living podcast and expert panelist for YouTube show “Uncovered: Stories of Overcoming Shame & Struggle.” With over two decades of experience in the mental health field she is now bringing the wisdom of the therapy room to you with her online Inspired Living School where she helps students to heal from toxic shame and acquire skills for emotion regulation, resiliency and wholehearted living. For more information and to connect with Dr. Shawn go to: Website: www.drshawnhorn.com Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/ IG: www.instagram.com/drshawnhorn Facebook: www.facebook.com/drshawnhorn LinkedIn- https://www.linkedin.com/in/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ TIKTOK: @drshawnhorn https://www.tiktok.com/@
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Feb 21, 2022 |
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Episode Forty: Paddling Your Own Canoe
00:36:17
Here we begin our discussion of the final chapter in Allen’s book, which uses the metaphor of navigating troubled waters in a canoe to explore the struggle for emotional stability. We attempt to synthesize it all in a sort of Emotional Sobriety Step 12.
For Valentines Day, Thom's gift book, “What Love Is” could really come in handy… https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1542697344/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i10
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Feb 14, 2022 |
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Episode Thirty-Nine: Jefferson Ross and "Southern Currency"
00:52:38
Thom and Producer Patrick are joined by Jefferson Ross, artist/singer/songwriter to talk about emotional sobriety. Also includes some stories from the old days as Jefferson and Thom are old friends. We are grateful to have Jefferson's permission to use his music as intro and wrap up for our podcast. If listeners are not familiar with his music, we encourage you to check it out: jeffersonross.com
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Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Feb 07, 2022 |
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Episode Thirty-Eight: Holding Onto Ourselves in Relationships (Part Two)
00:57:39
Continuing discussion of the 14th chapter of Allen’s 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety. This week we explore the roles self-differentiation (INTRApersonally) and differentiation with others (interpersonally) play in keeping us emotionally grounded despite whatever challenges our most vital relationships present to us.
For Valentines Day, Thom's gift book, “What Love Is” could come in handy… https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1542697344/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i10
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Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Jan 30, 2022 |
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Episode Thirty-Seven: Holding Onto Ourselves in Relationships (Part One)
00:40:05
Saving the toughest insight for last, here we discuss holding onto ourselves in contexts that involve other people and unpredictable circumstances. Emotional Sobriety isn’t something we do on our own that much. Most of the practice is how we relate to the hard facts of the universe, to ourselves, our fortunes and misfortunes, and our history, to family and friends, and most difficult of all: to the people we love.
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Jan 24, 2022 |
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Episode Thirty-Six: Allen’s Sponsor (Part Two)
00:43:12
Concluding our in-depth conversation with Tom M., Allen’s sponsor of 50 years. In this episode he tells some spectacular stories about 12-step calls in Hawaii and spreading the message of recovery to places like Iran. He also describes his first meeting with Allen on a Marine Corps. air base.
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Jan 17, 2022 |
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Episode Thirty-Five: Allen’s Sponsor (Part One)
00:37:06
The first part of a longer conversation with Tom M., Allen’s sponsor of 50 years. Tom breaks down his journey from addiction towards getting into a place of love and service and becoming an open channel, a winding road that's taken him to Iran and on 12 Step calls in Kailua.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Jan 10, 2022 |
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Episode Thirty-Four: Living a Purposeful Life (Part Two)
00:43:00
Emotional Sobriety offers us the opportunity to leave the tricks and tools of manipulation behind to make our gifts and talents real in the world through service. “One of the fundamental issues for all human beings is to know that they are useful. Without that you are a shell of a person.”
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Jan 03, 2022 |
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Episode Thirty-Three: Living a Purposeful Life (Part One)
00:39:09
Just in time for the end of the year, we arrive at the closing stretch of Allen’s 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety. Finding our purpose, meaning and utility in life is the crux of our work in recovery. This concept intersects with the twelfth step of AA, in which we share what we have learned with others and practice these principles in all our affairs. According to the the late Dr. David Viscott, “The purpose of life is to discover your gift. The work of life is to develop it. The meaning of life is to give your gift away.” We’ll deepen discussion of this chapter next week.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Dec 27, 2021 |
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Episode Thirty-Two: Healing Through Forgiveness (Part Two)
00:43:29
How can we release ourselves from our own attachment to our pain? This week we clarify a practical and useful definition for forgiveness, touching on grief, “naming it to claim it” and not personalizing the wrongs inflicted.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Dec 20, 2021 |
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Episode Thirty-One: Brian Cuban on Recovery & Self-Hate
00:49:08
Today we welcome returning guest Carol Carter and bestselling author and attorney Brian Cuban to discuss Brian's new book “The Ambulance Chaser.” Through a morass of eating disorders, addiction and self-hate, he tracks his recovery journey towards a happier place of “okay with being Brian.”
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Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Dec 14, 2021 |
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Episode Thirty: Healing Through Forgiveness (Part One)
00:33:50
Forgiveness improves our well-being in profound ways. Forgiving others and ourselves helps us achieve freedom from emotionally painful experiences. We are able to claim the experiences we’ve had, rather than allowing those experiences to overwhelm or claim us.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Dec 06, 2021 |
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Episode Twenty-Nine: Perfectionism and the Holidays
00:40:53
The holidays place a magnifying glass on our experience: amplifying the good but sometimes also the bad. Here we touch on that, and explore further solutions to fighting back against our suffocating perfectionism.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Nov 29, 2021 |
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Episode Twenty-Eight: Breaking the Bonds of Perfectionism
00:36:46
Thom and Allen bring their client and personal experiences to bear to unpack how perfectionism oppresses us, and how we might set ourselves free. We'll extend this topic into next week, while also observing how the holidays can uniquely test our emotional sobriety.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Nov 22, 2021 |
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Episode Twenty-Seven: Discovering Novel Solutions
00:50:51
How we cope with the issue we’re struggling with determines if it continues to be a problem or not. This week, Allen and Thom talk about left and right brain thinking, and how emotional sobriety lives in the space between a stimulus and a response.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Nov 14, 2021 |
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Episode Twenty-Six: Living Life on Life’s Terms (Part Two)
00:45:59
To live life on life’s terms, we first need to surrender our expectations. This requires a major shift in our consciousness - easier said than done! Allen, Thom, and Patrick offer up practical examples of how we can try to tackle this in our efforts to live a more “differentiated,” emotionally sober life.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Nov 08, 2021 |
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Episode Twenty-Five: Living Life on Life’s Terms (Part One)
00:48:10
In discussing letting go of our expectations - both the obvious and the hidden - we refer to Viktor Frankl's book, Man's Search for Meaning. Dr. Berger speaks about how Dr. Frankl's groundbreaking work has influenced him as a psychologist and a writer.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Nov 01, 2021 |
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Episode Twenty-Four: Accepting What Is
00:48:21
Finding acceptance in ourselves and in the world is an inescapable key to any recovery. Part of it can be refusing to be in an adversarial relationship with ourselves. Acceptance is often born of a paradox: by declaring we won’t accept a situation, we move closer to accepting it. Thom and Allen dig into their own lives and in their work with clients to shed light on this chapter.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Oct 25, 2021 |
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Episode Twenty-Three: Recognizing the Problems in Our Relationships as Opportunities
00:48:30
Allen, Thom & Patrick veer away from discussing Dr. Berger's new book into a conversation about how changing the way we look at ourselves in relation to problems is essential to discovering the freedom we seek in personal growth work. Specifically, reframing problems as opportunities for growth is emphasized.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Oct 18, 2021 |
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Episode Twenty-Two: "Sober Enough" with Joe. C
00:58:54
Allen, Thom and Patrick are joined by fellow podcaster and author Joe C. Everything Joe C. learned about recovery and work came from music. We discuss Joe's concept of "sober enough" as opposed to the culture of perfectionism that does so much more harm than good.
Check out Joe C’s book “Beyond Belief”: Agnostic Musings for 12 Step Life: https://rebelliondogspublishing.com/rebellious-radio
Rebellion Dogs Radio: https://rebelliondogspublishing.com/rebellious-radio
Social Media: https://twitter.com/Rebellion_Dogs https://www.facebook.com/RebellionDogs/
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Oct 12, 2021 |
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Episode Twenty-One: Realizing That Nobody Is Coming
00:42:57
More on self support versus environmental support in recovery. How do we hold onto ourselves in relationships? Being present but also independent. Allen, Thom, and Patrick dig into their own relationships to offer insight. Next week, we've invited Joe C. from the Rebellion Dogs podcast to talk emotional sobriety with us. Newer listeners are encouraged to also drop into our first podcast, START RIGHT HERE. A bunch of compelling interviews and other goodies that tie into the Emotional Sobriety project.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below) https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986
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Oct 02, 2021 |
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Episode Twenty: Knowing It’s Not Personal (Part Three)
00:37:17
Now that we’ve keyed into the ways we can sabotage ourselves by taking things personally, this episode focuses on practical methods (with specific examples) of interrupting old default settings so that we can shift our consciousness away from taking things personally and towards being more empathetic in relationships.
Newer listeners are encouraged to also drop into our first podcast, START RIGHT HERE. A bunch of compelling interviews and other goodies that tie into the Emotional Sobriety project.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Sep 26, 2021 |
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Episode Nineteen: Knowing It’s Not Personal (Part Two)
00:44:46
Allen returns this week to deepen discussion of not taking things personally. Suffering what isn’t, appreciating what is. Listening to the “second voice.” Bringing Don Miguel Ruiz’s “Four Agreements” into an Emotional Sobriety context. Next episode, we will highlight ways of translating this essential recovery concept into practice.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Sep 20, 2021 |
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Episode Eighteen: Remembering and Recovering from 9/11
00:47:29
Thom and Patrick process thoughts and feelings about the 20th Anniversary of the terrorist attacks of September 11, 2001, specifically remembering that disasters like 9/11 bring out the very best of people.
Some of Thom's publications referred to:
Therapy for Politics (FREE pdf download) https://3f48999b-b083-4400-97b5-96c49b21a0e7.filesusr.com/ugd/e71801_3441394cc7a6472ca88c8e2e46a157d8.pdf
Embracing Fear: How to Change What Scares Us into Our Greatest Gift https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Simple Truth: Ideas & Experiences for Humans from Less-Than-Perfect Families. https://3f48999b-b083-4400-97b5-96c49b21a0e7.filesusr.com/ugd/e71801_85cf03584ede448198af4a84c5dfac7c.pdf
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Sep 12, 2021 |
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Episode Seventeen: Knowing It’s Not Personal (Part One)
00:30:33
Beginning discussion of Chapter 6 of Dr. Berger's Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety. Focus is on what it means and how we are impacted when we take things other people say to us personally, and how, with "large doses of curiosity," we can change our ways of thinking so that we increase/improve our self-awareness -- resulting in the freedom a daily practice of emotional sobriety can deliver.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Sep 06, 2021 |
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Episode Sixteen: Discerning Our Emotional Dependency (Part Two)
00:42:47
Continuing our exploration of Chapter 5 in Dr. Berger's new book. Today we focus on what it means to have and to maintain an emotional “center of gravity.”
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Aug 30, 2021 |
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Episode Fifteen: Discerning Our Emotional Dependency (Part One)
00:49:55
It's vital to acknowledge with self-compassion that whatever emotional dependencies we are experiencing, we come by those honestly. When we can become aware of how our innate drive toward wholeness has actually been a part of developing our coping mechanisms, we are free to discover new (and much improved) possibilities. Discussion of Chapter 5 will continue in the next episode.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Aug 23, 2021 |
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Episode Fourteen: Living Life Consciously
00:46:20
Today we move to chapter four of Allen's new book, emphasizing the healing power of awareness and the challenges of becoming aware of new possibilities for ourselves. We discover some possibilities we never knew about and others that we may have considered impossible to achieve. Key to walking the path of emotional sobriety is an understanding that we must be able to translate concepts that resonate with us into daily practice.
Shais Taub's book God of Our Understanding: Jewish Spirituality and Recovery from Addiction (referenced in the episode): https://www.amazon.com/God-Our-Understanding-Spirituality-Addiction/dp/1602801533
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Aug 15, 2021 |
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Episode Thirteen: Waking Up From Our Sleepwalking
00:46:09
This week we dive into the third chapter of Allen’s book, with an emphasis on willingness to move toward discomfort in our journey towards demolishing our false self to uncover our true self.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Love & Betrayal by John Amodeo, PhD:
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Aug 09, 2021 |
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Episode Twelve: Asking for Help, Taking What’s Helpful, Leaving What’s Not.
00:51:40
Quality, long term recovery requires that we build a solid support system, both interpersonally and INTRApersonally (including inner Recovery Voice). But putting a support system together is useless unless we learn to make good use of it and then make that support a part of our daily practice. In this episode we celebrate Dr. Berger’s 50 years of sobriety.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Aug 02, 2021 |
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Episode Eleven: Exploring Emotional Sobriety (Part Three)
00:52:29
Our discussion of Chapter 2 in Allen's book continues, with an emphasis on the importance of practicing self-awareness especially in terms of establishing, maintaining, and at times re-establishing our emotional and psychological centers of gravity.
FREE weekly Thursday evening Emotional Sobriety Support Group on Zoom. Meeting: 330149513, Passcode: 375986.
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Love & Betrayal by John Amodeo, PhD:
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Jul 26, 2021 |
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Episode Ten: Exploring Emotional Sobriety (Part Two)
00:55:48
In continuing to define emotional sobriety, we delve into what is meant by The False Self and The True Self. Includes an exploration of family-of-origin learning and how even unconscious early decisions we make will continue to impact our definition of self until we are able directly examine them.
FREE weekly Thursday evening Emotional Sobriety Support Group on Zoom. Meeting: 330149513, Passcode: 375986.
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Jul 19, 2021 |
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Episode Nine: Exploring Emotional Sobriety (Part One)
00:41:28
Continuing focus on Dr. Berger's new book. In this episode, discussion moves to the second chapter, "Exploring Emotional Sobriety." We invite listeners to submit questions about the book and/or discussions from the podcast.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Jul 12, 2021 |
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Episode Eight: Being Stuck and Getting Unstuck
00:42:27
With plans to move chapter-by-chapter (with exciting new guests!) through 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety, Allen & Thom unpack what it means to be "stuck" in our recoveries, and consider how the principles of emotional sobriety can help us get unstuck.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Jul 05, 2021 |
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Talking to Our Inner Child (A Rutledge "Nutshell")
00:33:24
Conversing with our inner child: What Thom believes it is, and what it isn’t. Patrick relates his firsthand experience doing this work in his own treatment for addiction. Finding the inner child isn’t really the problem. Ultimately what we’re looking for is the adult to take care of the child. As with all recovery matters, we encourage you to take what’s helpful, leave what’s not. Allen Berger will return with us tomorrow for a full-length episode. Wishing a happy July 4th weekend to our American listeners, and much love to our entire audience.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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Jul 04, 2021 |
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Episode Seven: The Value of Flexibility
00:49:52
Dr. Allen Berger returns this week, with plenty to say about how living in emotional sobriety requires that we nurture a sense of curiosity (primary ingredient in respect) for others and for ourselves. One result of doing this is improved flexibility when things do not go as planned.
Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
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For the Berlin Emotional Sobriety Workshop Recordings, click the Google Doc here for links:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1x0Na_oVIH76UZ3-bbZ5Q8TWjlxM3xyoVptws-vvTU24/edit
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Jun 28, 2021 |
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How to Separate From Our Inner Saboteurs, Part Two (A Rutledge "Nutshell")
00:26:09
Continuing Thom's tutorial from earlier this week, we discuss dissociating from our inner critics and saboteurs.
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Jun 24, 2021 |
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How to Separate From Our Inner Saboteurs, Part One (A Rutledge "Nutshell")
00:22:10
The first of Thom's brief, tutorial-style "nutshells" demonstrating principles and practices of Emotional Sobriety. This one teaches us how to recognize the critical or condeming voice inside ourselves and deal with it in a way that can help us thrive.
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Jun 22, 2021 |
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Episode Six: Learning to Separate From Our Inner Saboteurs
00:57:12
A conversation between podcast producer Patrick Newman and Thom Rutledge about the beginning steps of working with INTRApersonal Change Process.
Description of INTRApersonal Change Process / PDF Download: https://3f48999b-b083-4400-97b5-96c49b21a0e7.filesusr.com/ugd/e71801_bcea88c1cdd6458caa10058d8b169463.pdf
Thom's book, Embracing Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Fear-Turn-Scares-Greatest/dp/0062517759/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
Still Me by Christopher Reeve: https://www.amazon.com/Still-Me-New-Afterword-this/dp/034543241X/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=still+me&qid=1623863441&s=books&sr=1-2
Lost in the Shuffle by Robert Subby: https://www.amazon.com/Lost-Shuffle-Co-Dependent-Robert-Subby/dp/0932194451/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=robert+subby&qid=1623863548&s=books&sr=1-1
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Jun 16, 2021 |
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Episode Five: Grief & Celebration
00:46:33
Thom dives into his real-time experience of witnessing two dear friends (Allen being one of them) at radically different points in their lives. Emotional sobriety in the moment.
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Jun 06, 2021 |
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Episode Four: Taking Things Personally (Part Two)
00:43:21
Further exploration into what is meant (and not meant) by not taking things personally, including examples of family of origin interactions that establish life-long patterns of how we perceive our environment.
Everyone in our audience is invited to celebrate the release of Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety. The party will be held over Zoom on June 3, 2021 at 5:30pm PST. You can RSVP at the URL below: https://4dphd.com/12-essential-insights-for-emotional-sobriety-book-release-party-june-3-2021
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Allen Berger, Ph.D. Bookstore
Thom Rutledge's Amazon Author Page
Reference made to Don Miguel Ruiz's book, The Four Agreements.
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May 31, 2021 |
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Episode Three: Taking Things Personally (Part One)
00:53:28
Allen, Thom, and producer Patrick Newman continue to define Emotional Sobriety for listeners. Today we discuss the value of not taking personally grievances big or small.
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Everyone in our audience is invited to celebrate the release of Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety. The party will be held over Zoom on June 3, 2021 at 5:30pm PST. You can RSVP at the URL below: https://4dphd.com/12-essential-insights-for-emotional-sobriety-book-release-party-june-3-2021
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Culture of Narcissism by Christopher Lasch
Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
Enchantment & Gestalt T
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May 24, 2021 |
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Episode Two: Support in an Emotionally Sober Recovery
01:02:06
Tom and Cathy - two participants in our weekly Zoom meeting - join Thom and Allen to discuss how they have established (and continue maintaining) support systems for their personal growth.
Everyone in our audience is invited to celebrate the release of Allen’s new book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety. The party will be held over Zoom on June 3, 2021 at 5:30pm PST. You can RSVP at the URL below: https://4dphd.com/12-essential-insights-for-emotional-sobriety-book-release-party-june-3-2021/
Visit Tom’s YouTube channel here for more great content on recovery: https://youtube.com/channel/UCmXn3BtzW2LsilCGYxA_Jzw
To read Cathy’s “Emotional Sobriety Checklist,” visit the link copied below: https://docs.google.com/document/d/13iA19ufdYicdozd2FHrwuUvYET7nFHPDHSTgce59Rjg/edit?usp=sharing
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May 18, 2021 |
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Recovery's Next Frontier
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Allen and Thom kick off the first episode of their new weekly podcast by giving the broad overview of Emotional Sobriety, a term hatched by AA founder Bill Wilson decades ago. We touch on learning to become differentiated, influencing rather than controlling situations, and navigating the committe of voices in our own heads.
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May 10, 2021 |