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Welcome to AA - Accountability Anonymous! We’re all hot on being progressive and the best versions of ourselves in public, but how accountable do we hold ourselves in private? “Wait… Am I Toxic?” is Fola and Rukiya’s safe space, where Black Brits can feel seen and take a break from cosplay adulting! Join us to talk about the real things we go through privately and the things we’d rather chew denim than share in public.
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142. Stop preaching self care and send me money
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May 26, 2025 |
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141. It’s Everyday Racism in the UK
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May 12, 2025 |
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140. Mic check... is this thing on??
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Apr 28, 2025 |
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139. Why won't my friend just forgive me already!?
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Nov 25, 2024 |
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138. Should I Save Or Should I Go?
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Nov 18, 2024 |
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137. My boyfriend is a functioning cannabis addict, what do I do?
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Nov 11, 2024 |
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136. My friends think I'm being catfished
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Nov 04, 2024 |
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135. Ever Wondered Why You Really Drink Alcohol?
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Oct 28, 2024 |
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134. One More Year Pon Dem!
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Oct 21, 2024 |
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133. Wait... Am I a femcel?
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Oct 14, 2024 |
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132. Why should Black women have to choose between love, family and their career?
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Sep 30, 2024 |
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131. Why would anyone want to be with me forever?
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Sep 23, 2024 |
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130. Here's how colourists can still be friends with dark skinned girls...
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Sep 16, 2024 |
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129. My friend wants a boyfriend but keeps having casual sex
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Sep 09, 2024 |
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128. I'm nervous about having mixed-race kids with my White partner
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Sep 03, 2024 |
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127. My friend is lying she can't afford my birthday
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Aug 26, 2024 |
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126. I know he cheats, but I don't have the strength to leave.
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Aug 19, 2024 |
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125. Not everyday "this week's toxic thought is..."
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Aug 12, 2024 |
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124. Why are loads of influencers suddenly Christians?
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Aug 05, 2024 |
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123. He says he loves me, but I don't believe him
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Jul 29, 2024 |
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122. I can't stop thinking about my ex
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Jul 22, 2024 |
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121. Signs of settling in a romantic relationship
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Jul 15, 2024 |
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120. Why are lonely Black women ashamed to say they want love?
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Jul 08, 2024 |
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119. Most of us will never get on the property ladder ft Dani of Home at Last
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Jul 01, 2024 |
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118. How do I tell my gf she's let herself go?
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Jun 24, 2024 |
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117. Oops, we ghosted the pod! (But for good reason)
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Jun 17, 2024 |
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116. "I'll stay with them until something better comes along"
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May 06, 2024 |
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115. Toxic just for the sake of it
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Apr 29, 2024 |
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114. My depressed friend sucks the joy out of my life
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Apr 22, 2024 |
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113. We have No Role Modelz, word to J. Cole
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Apr 15, 2024 |
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112. I'm scared my bf won't be able to afford the lifestyle I want
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Apr 08, 2024 |
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111. My friend thinks she's Black because she's dating Black
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Apr 01, 2024 |
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110. Are women feeding into toxic masculinity?
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Mar 25, 2024 |
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109. I don't care about International Women's Day
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Mar 18, 2024 |
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108. Should women admit when they cheat?
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Mar 04, 2024 |
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107. Who said Black people aren't healthy? ft. Dr Jessica Katanga
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Feb 26, 2024 |
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106. Is your sex game weak?
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Feb 12, 2024 |
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105. Why aren't we speaking about the epidemic of loneliness?
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Feb 05, 2024 |
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104. "If in danger find a middle aged Black woman to protect you"
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Jan 29, 2024 |
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103. Is it okay that I love him more than he loves me?
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Jan 22, 2024 |
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102. There's a lot more to us that meets the eye
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Jan 15, 2024 |
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100. He's 42 and I'm 27 - is he too old for me?
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Jan 08, 2024 |
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99. My mum is faking anxiety to control my life
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Jan 01, 2024 |
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98. My mother-in-law has come to scatter Christmas
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Dec 25, 2023 |
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97. Black women are hypersexualised, and yet punished for being sexual
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Dec 18, 2023 |
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96. Why do people disrespect Christianity so comfortably?
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Dec 11, 2023 |
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95. I want to forgive, but where do I begin?
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Dec 04, 2023 |
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94. I have no idea what I'm doing with my life
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Nov 27, 2023 |
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93. Why is Cassie only speaking up against Diddy now?
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Nov 20, 2023 |
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92. Why does everyone think they have rights over Jorja Smith's body?
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Nov 13, 2023 |
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91. Why are the emerging middle class so desperate to forget where they came from?
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Nov 06, 2023 |
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90. Women need hobbies outside of brunch & men ft Pass The Meerkat
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Oct 30, 2023 |
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89. I'm Black, how can I put my parents in a care home?!
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Oct 23, 2023 |
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88. We're not always toxic!
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Oct 09, 2023 |
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87. Checking into heartbreak hotel
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Oct 02, 2023 |
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86. Why is losing friends a part of motherhood?
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Sep 25, 2023 |
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85. I'm not processing my trauma, I'm chopping life instead
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Sep 18, 2023 |
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84. This one's for the so-called progressive hypocrites!
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Sep 11, 2023 |
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83. I'm an introvert but I can't stand introverts
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Aug 28, 2023 |
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82. I'm convinced that men HATE women (Part 2)
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Aug 21, 2023 |
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81. I'm convinced that men HATE women
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Aug 14, 2023 |
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80. Women are responsible for men's toxic masculinity too!
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Aug 07, 2023 |
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79. I don't care about any social issues anymore
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Jul 31, 2023 |
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78. Honesty isn't always the best policy!
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Jul 24, 2023 |
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77. Life is all about how much you can finesse
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Jul 17, 2023 |
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76. All About Love: The W.A.I.T spin-off!
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Jun 19, 2023 |
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75. I feel like nothing even matters... at all
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Jun 12, 2023 |
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74. No one has ever been attracted to me
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Jun 05, 2023 |
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73. Men aren't that bad after all!
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May 22, 2023 |
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72. Why can't men comment when women dress terribly?
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May 15, 2023 |
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71. I'm jealous of my boyfriend
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May 08, 2023 |
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70. My toxic ex has made me a toxic ex
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May 01, 2023 |
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69. Don't get married if you can't afford the wedding
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Apr 24, 2023 |
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68. Is Black queer inequity enraging me, or is it my period?
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Apr 17, 2023 |
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67. Black British parties aren't inclusive!
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Apr 10, 2023 |
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66. Self-help books are killing men's brains
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Apr 03, 2023 |
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65. Breakups, breakthroughs and boundaries galore!
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Mar 27, 2023 |
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64. I'm waiting for the wave of divorced men to find my King
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Mar 20, 2023 |
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63. Humans are inherently evil
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Mar 06, 2023 |
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62. Self-love is impossible without romantic love
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Feb 27, 2023 |
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61. Black women shouldn't be defending Chris Brown
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Feb 20, 2023 |
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60. I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired (of men)
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Feb 13, 2023 |
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59. "I don't attract Black men because of my White mannerisms"
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Jan 23, 2023 |
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58. I love my boyfriend, but a one night stand has me dickmatised
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Jan 16, 2023 |
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57. Influencing will never be a real job
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Jan 09, 2023 |
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Love letters to Rukiya...
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Jan 04, 2023 |
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56. You CAN be a new you this year!
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Jan 02, 2023 |
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55. Christmas blues and dysfunctional families
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Dec 26, 2022 |
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54. Should we forgive abusive men?
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Dec 19, 2022 |
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53. Why isn't MY weirdness considered "cool"?
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Dec 12, 2022 |
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52. One girl's prick is another woman's fiancé
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Dec 05, 2022 |
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51. I'm EXHAUSTED so I neglect my friends on rotation
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Nov 28, 2022 |
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50. Mel made us do it!
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Nov 21, 2022 |
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49. He flirts with EVERYONE but I don't think I care
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Nov 14, 2022 |
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48. How can I respect a man with a small penis?
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Nov 07, 2022 |
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47. Black joy... but make it stupid
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Oct 31, 2022 |
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46. Africans and West Indians in the UK will never see eye to eye (feat. Azryah)
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Oct 24, 2022 |
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOLA!
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Oct 20, 2022 |
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45. "Being Black is irrelevant"
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Oct 17, 2022 |
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44. What does Black British even mean?
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Oct 10, 2022 |
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43. Black love is dead
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Oct 03, 2022 |
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42. Am I bad for prioritising my friends over my family?
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Sep 26, 2022 |
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41. I hate the guys my friends date
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Sep 19, 2022 |
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40. Adeola rolling with a geezer gets love, yet Jamal must hate his mum for liking Becky? (feat. Quincy_smf)
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Sep 12, 2022 |
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39. I hate that women are wearing less makeup
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Sep 05, 2022 |
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38. Are you even a woman if you don't want children?
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Aug 29, 2022 |
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37. People think I'm dumb & broke because I'm a creative
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Aug 22, 2022 |
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36. Is it depression or just that you're a douchebag?
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Aug 15, 2022 |
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35. Are unattractive friends a burden?
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Aug 08, 2022 |
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34. My friend won't leave her abuser and I'm tired of it
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Aug 01, 2022 |
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33. Yup, we're cussing men... again! (feat. Seasoned Sessions)
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Jul 25, 2022 |
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32. Why can't men dress for sh*t?
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Jul 18, 2022 |
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31. Is being fat and body positive this summer unrealistic?
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Jul 11, 2022 |
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30. If you use me, my revenge will be sweet
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Jul 04, 2022 |
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29. Who qualified YOU to be a social justice warrior?
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Jun 27, 2022 |
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28. I cba to dump her so I plan to ghost her
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Jun 20, 2022 |
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27. We're all broke, we're just the first to admit it ft Amelia Poamz
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Jun 13, 2022 |
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26. Mixed-race people should NOT identify as Black
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Jun 06, 2022 |
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25. Why are my adult friendships becoming so complicated?
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May 30, 2022 |
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24. My relationship isn't great but being single is worse
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May 23, 2022 |
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23.5 Rukiya's grime birthday banger!
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May 16, 2022 |
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23. Why should I support my parents when they were my biggest doubters? Ft Big Man Yus
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May 16, 2022 |
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22. I'd rather have an unwanted baby than lose my mind on contraception
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May 09, 2022 |
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21. Just pure rants 'n' bants!
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May 02, 2022 |
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20. I refuse to date women intentionally until I'm rich
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Apr 25, 2022 |
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19. My dad died 7 years ago and I refuse to visit his grave
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Apr 18, 2022 |
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18. “I’m sick of bad vibes London, how do I escape?”
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Apr 11, 2022 |
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17. "You're not a failure, your aunties are just pagans"
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Apr 04, 2022 |
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16. "The way people approach sexual liberation is ruthless"
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Mar 28, 2022 |
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15. “I’m Black, but Black people make me feel self conscious” ft The Classic Manny
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Mar 21, 2022 |
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14. "If I want to ride some married D, then I will!"
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Mar 14, 2022 |
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13. I thought, should I put this gun up my pum?
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Mar 07, 2022 |
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12. "Ngl, I'm not mad at being catcalled"
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Feb 28, 2022 |
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11. Language of Love ft Tracy Lomanga
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Feb 21, 2022 |
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10. "Stop lying that we're all beautiful, some of us are just average"
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Feb 14, 2022 |
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9. A man's best personality trait is his job
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Feb 07, 2022 |
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8. "I keep secretly hoping my friend loses her job"
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Jan 31, 2022 |
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7. Wait, do you even know who we are?
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Jan 24, 2022 |
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6. "I'm throwing him a surprise birthday party to make him fall in love with me"
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Jan 17, 2022 |
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5. Wait, so my experiences growing up in the hood weren't normal?
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Jan 10, 2022 |
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4. Cheers to a SOFT 2022!!
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Jan 03, 2022 |
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3. Dear black men, we are (kinda) sorry!
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Dec 27, 2021 |
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2. The man in Pizza GoGo and his colourist mozzarella sticks
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Dec 20, 2021 |
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1. Why dating in London is the GHETTO
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Dec 13, 2021 |