After the Affair
By Luke Shillings
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Episodes: 169
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The ‘After the affair’ podcast with Luke Shillings is here to help you process, decide, and move forward on purpose following infidelity. Let’s explore what’s required to rebuild trust not only in yourself, but also with others. Whether you stay or leave, I can help! and no matter what your story, there will be something here for you.
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168. Life After Betrayal: What Nobody Told You Is Possible.
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Dec 10, 2025 |
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167. Is Non-Monogamy Just an Excuse for Betrayal?
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Dec 03, 2025 |
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166. Why You’re Still Suffering After Betrayal
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Nov 26, 2025 |
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165. I'm Doing Therapy… So Why Am I Still Stuck?
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Nov 19, 2025 |
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164. They Chose Someone Else: What Does That Say About Me?
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Nov 11, 2025 |
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163. The Lag: When You’re Out of Sync After Betrayal
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Nov 05, 2025 |
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162. When You Don’t Know What to Do After Betrayal
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Oct 29, 2025 |
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161. Workplace Affairs: Why They Happen and How to Heal When They Do
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Oct 22, 2025 |
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160. The Problem with Using Ai to Heal Your Heart After Betrayal
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Oct 15, 2025 |
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159. The Truth About Safety After Betrayal
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Oct 08, 2025 |
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158. Fight, Apologise, Repeat: Breaking the Cycle of False Hope
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Oct 01, 2025 |
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157. When the Marriage Doesn’t Survive Infidelity
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Sep 24, 2025 |
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156. Beyond Good and Bad: Rethinking Your Feelings After Infidelity
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Sep 17, 2025 |
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155. Back to Basics After the Affair
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Sep 10, 2025 |
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154. Contempt After Betrayal: The Silent Killer of Connection
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Sep 03, 2025 |
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153. Cheating Isn’t the End: But Lack of Accountability Might Be
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Aug 27, 2025 |
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152. Serial Cheaters - Can They Ever Really Change?
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Aug 20, 2025 |
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151. The Questions You’re Afraid to Ask: But Desperately Need Answered (Q&A Part 2)
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Aug 13, 2025 |
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150. Trigger Warning: What To Do When Everything Sets You Off After Infidelity
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Aug 06, 2025 |
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149. When the Woman Cheats: and the Man Is Left Holding the Pieces
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Jul 30, 2025 |
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148. He Chose You… in Secret: What It Really Means When a Married Man Pursues You
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Jul 23, 2025 |
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147. When Things Feel Off: Trusting Your Gut After Betrayal
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Jul 16, 2025 |
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146. Infidelity Recovery Expert Q&A: The Questions You’re Too Tired to Keep Asking
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Jul 09, 2025 |
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145. Hoping They’ll Change? Here’s the Truth About One-Sided Love.
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Jul 02, 2025 |
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144. You Crossed the Line, Now Here’s Mine: Boundaries After Betrayal
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Jun 25, 2025 |
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143. From Rock Bottom to Rising Strong: Hope on the Infidelity Recovery Journey
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Jun 18, 2025 |
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142. Disgust, Shame, and Survival: The Psychology Behind Post-Affair Revulsion
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Jun 11, 2025 |
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141. I Know Why They Cheated - It Still Hurts Though
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Jun 04, 2025 |
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140. Am I Going Crazy? Real Words from the Betrayed
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May 28, 2025 |
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139. Too Emotional After the Affair? Or Just Too Afraid to Feel?
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May 21, 2025 |
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138. Seeking Reassurance after Betrayal: It’s Never Enough Though
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May 14, 2025 |
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137. When You Suspect an Affair
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May 07, 2025 |
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136. The ABCs of Infidelity Recovery – Acceptance, Boundaries, Compassion
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Apr 30, 2025 |
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135. You Were Betrayed: But Somehow You’re the One Afraid to Talk
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Apr 23, 2025 |
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134. Betrayed and Ready to Give Up? Listen to this First
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Apr 16, 2025 |
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133. Letting Go of the Outcome in Infidelity Recovery
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Apr 09, 2025 |
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132. I’ve Been Cheated On and Everyone Is Judging Me... I Think
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Apr 02, 2025 |
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131. Healing Requires Uncertainty – Learning to Trust What You Can’t See
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Mar 26, 2025 |
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130. It’s TIME To Do Something Different After Betrayal
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Mar 19, 2025 |
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129. You Don’t Have to Stay, Leave, or Forgive: You Only Have to Choose
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Mar 12, 2025 |
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128. Was the Affair Partner Better? The Truth About Comparison
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Mar 05, 2025 |
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127. Desire vs. Choice: Understanding the Power You Have in an Affair
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Feb 26, 2025 |
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126. Betrayal and The Male Ego: Rebuilding After the Ultimate Blow
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Feb 19, 2025 |
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125. Stuck Between Two Choices: Here’s What You’re Missing With Binary Thinking
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Feb 12, 2025 |
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124. Advanced Guide to Thinking After Betrayal: The Bookshop and Publisher
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Feb 05, 2025 |
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123. Confirmation Bias: Are You Seeking What You Fear After Infidelity?
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Jan 29, 2025 |
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122. You Have Built A Glass Wall: And It Is Keeping You Stuck
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Jan 22, 2025 |
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121. Healing in the Aftermath: A Couple’s Journey Through Infidelity
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Jan 15, 2025 |
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120. Does Secrecy Breed Passion In An Affair?
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Jan 08, 2025 |
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119. Looking Back to Move Forward After the Affair: The Best of 2024
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Jan 01, 2025 |
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118. Christmas After Betrayal: Create Something New
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Dec 25, 2024 |
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117. Dealing With The Online Comments Section After Infidelity
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Dec 18, 2024 |
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116. Religion and Betrayal: A Match made in Hell
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Dec 11, 2024 |
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115. Staying for the Kids: Parenting After Betrayal
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Dec 04, 2024 |
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114. Is Porn Even Cheating? with Porn Addiction Coach, Matt Smith
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Nov 27, 2024 |
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113. Emotional Affairs: The Betrayal You Can’t See
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Nov 20, 2024 |
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112. Redefining Manhood: Purpose, Identity, and the Role of Infidelity
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Nov 13, 2024 |
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111. It’s Over, But I’m Still Stuck: The Ghosts of Infidelity That Won’t Go Away (3/3)
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Nov 06, 2024 |
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110. Why Can’t We Heal? When the Unfaithful Partner's Best Efforts Still Fall Short (2/3)
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Oct 30, 2024 |
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109. You Cheated, So Why Am I the One Fixing Things? (1/3)
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Oct 23, 2024 |
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108. Is Your Relationship Due for an Update?
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Oct 16, 2024 |
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107. Why Relationship Statistics Are Wrong About You
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Oct 09, 2024 |
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106. Why Men Can’t Win: And Why Women Need to Hear This
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Oct 02, 2024 |
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105. The Shock of a Same-Sex Affair: Healing After an Unexpected Betrayal
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Sep 25, 2024 |
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104. Don't Heal - The Inverse Approach After Infidelity
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Sep 18, 2024 |
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103. Why I Love Breaking the Rules of Infidelity: Societal Expectations Debunked
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Sep 11, 2024 |
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102. Doing the Work After the Affair
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Sep 04, 2024 |
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101. Afraid to Be Seen? The Hard Truth About Validation and Betrayal
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Aug 28, 2024 |
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100. The Anniversaries We Hate: Redefining Time and Memory
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Aug 21, 2024 |
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99. The Want Match: Aligning Desires After Betrayal
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Aug 14, 2024 |
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98. Trickle Truth: The Pain of Gradual Disclosure in Infidelity
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Aug 07, 2024 |
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97. Time to Choose: Infidelity and the Truth We Face
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Jul 31, 2024 |
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96. Why Being Right Is Destroying Your Relationship
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Jul 24, 2024 |
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95. Healing from Betrayal Using Internal Family Systems (IFS)
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Jul 17, 2024 |
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94. Lover vs. Provider: Exploring the Complexities of Infidelity
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Jul 10, 2024 |
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93. The Stories We Tell Ourselves: The Symbolism of Betrayal
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Jul 03, 2024 |
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92. When Apologies Don't Cut It After Infidelity: Moving Beyond Dependency
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Jun 26, 2024 |
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91. What Are Your Beliefs Costing You?
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Jun 19, 2024 |
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90. The Neuroscience of Trust and Betrayal
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Jun 12, 2024 |
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89. I Bet You Have Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms: How to Spot them After Infidelity
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Jun 05, 2024 |
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88. Hysterical Bonding: Navigating Intense Emotions After Infidelity
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May 29, 2024 |
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87. The Power of Compersion: What Polyamory can teach us about Healing from Infidelity
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May 22, 2024 |
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86. Why Affairs Don't Last
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May 15, 2024 |
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85. Instructions Not Included: Why You Suck at Relationships
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May 08, 2024 |
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84. Breaking the Ranks: Navigating Infidelity in Military Marriages with Caz Grant
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May 01, 2024 |
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83. Contemplating Infidelity: The Weight of Unseen Thoughts in Relationships
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Apr 24, 2024 |
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82. Growth After Betrayal: Universal Truths
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Apr 17, 2024 |
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81. Your Wife is Having an Affair. I Know Because it's with My Husband
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Apr 10, 2024 |
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80. Should I Contact the Affair Partner?
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Apr 03, 2024 |
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79. Betrayal Unpacked: Two Ways to Heal
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Mar 27, 2024 |
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78. A Story of Betrayal: No Place Like Home
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Mar 20, 2024 |
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77. The Intricate Dance Between People Pleasing and Infidelity
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Mar 13, 2024 |
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76. Addicted to an Affair with David Essel
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Mar 06, 2024 |
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75. 8 Steps to Healing part 2: Rebuilding and Renewal
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Feb 28, 2024 |
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74. 8 Steps to Healing part 1: Laying the Foundations
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Feb 21, 2024 |
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73. The Empathy Challenge: Conflict After Infidelity
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Feb 14, 2024 |
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72. How to Get Over Your Ex: With Breakup Coach Dorothy
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Feb 07, 2024 |
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71. Is Forgiveness Necessary? Can You Reconcile Without It?
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Jan 31, 2024 |
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70. The 3rd Law of Conflict: Can Isaac Newton Help us Heal?
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Jan 24, 2024 |
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69. Intimacy After Infidelity: Under the Sheets with Sex Expert, Lee-ann Cordingley
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Jan 17, 2024 |
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68. Reward or Punishment: Rewriting Our Reward System After an Affair
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Jan 10, 2024 |
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67. Facing Failure after Infidelity: Shifting the Narrative
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Jan 03, 2024 |
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66. Farewell 2023: A Year of Recovery, Resilience, and Reflection
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Dec 27, 2023 |
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65. Choice or Obligation: Should I stay or leave after the affair?
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Dec 20, 2023 |
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64. Benefits of Healing from Infidelity
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Dec 13, 2023 |
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63. What if it was me? Self-Reflection in the Wake of Betrayal
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Dec 06, 2023 |
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62. Overcoming Thought Addiction after Betrayal
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Nov 29, 2023 |
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61. Once a Cheater: Possibly a Keeper?
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Nov 22, 2023 |
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60. Gaslighting an Affair? Take a look in the Mirror
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Nov 15, 2023 |
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59. Trust After Betrayal: Is There Hope?
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Nov 08, 2023 |
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58. Why We Stray: Does Attachment Theory Explain the Unthinkable
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Nov 01, 2023 |
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After the Affair Podcast - What to expect.
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Nov 01, 2023 |
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57. Between Culture & Infidelity - A Journey of Identity, Love and Self Discovery with Yasmin Majid
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Oct 25, 2023 |
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56. ’Humping’ After the Affair - Navigating the Emotional Terrain of Recovery
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Oct 18, 2023 |
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55. The Invisible Weight - Societal Pressures after Betrayal
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Oct 11, 2023 |
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54. Divorce after Betrayal - Expert Perspectives with Charlotte Tweed
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Oct 04, 2023 |
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53. Betrayed and Doomed - Spot the Signs and Know When to Walk
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Sep 27, 2023 |
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52. Ignoring Red Flags - The Guilt of Not Acting Sooner
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Sep 20, 2023 |
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51. Parenting Through Infidelity with Ben Pugh
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Sep 13, 2023 |
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50. Dating After the Affair
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Sep 06, 2023 |
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49. A Choice No One Talks About: Are you Volunteering to be a Victim?
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Aug 30, 2023 |
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48. Motivating Change: Faust Ruggiero’s Guide for Professional Self-Help
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Aug 23, 2023 |
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47. Understanding Cheaters
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Aug 16, 2023 |
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46. From Struggle to Triumph - Heather O’Connor’s Tale of Reinvention after Divorce
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Aug 09, 2023 |
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45. Affair Partners - The bad smell that just won’t leave
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Aug 02, 2023 |
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44. Redefining Masculinity with Jennifer Jehl
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Jul 26, 2023 |
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43. Solitude - Working alone, Healing together
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Jul 19, 2023 |
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42. Pivot after Infidelity with Furkhan Dandia
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Jul 12, 2023 |
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41. The Aftermath - How to deal with Sudden Change
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Jul 05, 2023 |
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40. Looking Inside with Jen Frey
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Jun 28, 2023 |
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39. Unveiling EmpathMe - The Dark Side of Self-Empathy
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Jun 21, 2023 |
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38. Breakthrough Conversations with Diana Maria Indries
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Jun 14, 2023 |
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37. Identity - Who Am I Now?
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Jun 07, 2023 |
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36. Couples Retreat - With Tamika Carlton
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May 31, 2023 |
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35. Reject Compromise - Rethinking Resolution in Relationships
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May 23, 2023 |
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34. Resentment Reboot - Trust yourself after Betrayal
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May 17, 2023 |
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33. Forgiveness with Nicole Harvick - The Quantum Energy Healer
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May 10, 2023 |
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32. Through the Lens of Negativity
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May 03, 2023 |
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31. The Role of Self-Awareness after Infidelity
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Apr 26, 2023 |
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30. The Tech Trap - How Infidelity is being facilitated by Technology
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Apr 19, 2023 |
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29. The Truth behind Unconditional Love
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Apr 12, 2023 |
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28. Breaking the Cycle
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Apr 06, 2023 |
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27. Redefining Self Worth - A candid conversation with David Redbord
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Mar 29, 2023 |
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26. Secrets of an Infidelity Coach
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Mar 22, 2023 |
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25. The Power of Limerence
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Mar 15, 2023 |
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24. Jealousy Unmasked
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Mar 08, 2023 |
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23. The Danger of People Pleasing
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Mar 01, 2023 |
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22. The Blame Shame Game
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Feb 22, 2023 |
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21. Why People Cheat
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Feb 15, 2023 |
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20. How to handle any problem.
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Feb 08, 2023 |
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19. Confidence After Infidelity
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Feb 01, 2023 |
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18. Road to Forgiveness
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Jan 25, 2023 |
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17. It’s all Lies
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Jan 18, 2023 |
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16. Best way to Heal
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Jan 11, 2023 |
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15.The Motivational Triad
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Jan 04, 2023 |
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14. Put it to Work
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Dec 21, 2022 |
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13. Know Your Boundaries
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Dec 14, 2022 |
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12. The Rulebook
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Dec 07, 2022 |
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11. Rose Tinted Glassed or Not
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Dec 02, 2022 |
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10. When Things Seemed Fine
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Nov 23, 2022 |
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9. Rebuild Trust
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Nov 16, 2022 |
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8. Choosing to Stay
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Nov 09, 2022 |
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7. Don’t Mention the ’F’ Word
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Nov 02, 2022 |
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6. Unexpected Guilt
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Oct 26, 2022 |
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5. When Words Ignite
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Oct 19, 2022 |
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4. The Truth
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Oct 12, 2022 |
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3. Misjudging Others
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Oct 07, 2022 |
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2. Letting Go
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Oct 03, 2022 |
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1. Consider This
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Oct 02, 2022 |