Intimacy After Infidelity | Cut Contact, Rebuild Trust, Shed Shame, Avoid Divorce, Forgiveness for Adultery
By Kristina Joy | Affair Recovery Coach, Spiritual Healing, Emotional Healing
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The go-to podcast for Christian women who are ready to heal their hearts, shed their shame, and come home to freedom in Christ.
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Do you ever wish someone would truly see you, not look past you or through you?
Are you lying awake at night wondering if your marriage can survive infidelity...or if it’s time to let go?
Are you exhausted from Googling answers, trying to fix things, and still feeling unheard, unseen, and stuck in shame
You’re not alone. And you’re in the right place.
This podcast is a sacred, steady space for women navigating betrayal, emotional disconnection, separation, or the aftermath of an affair, who want more than surface-level faith answers. Here, we talk honestly about the heart, the body, the soul, and the brain, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus heal what’s been wounded.
I’m so glad you’re here.
I’m Kristina Joy, forgiven daughter of Jesus, mom, and coach. For years, I tried to break free from my own infidelity through sheer willpower, "doing more," and striving to be better. I read my Bible more. I tried to behave my way into freedom. None of it worked.
Everything changed when I stopped trying to fix myself and allowed Jesus to meet me in the deeper places like my pain, my patterns, my unmet needs. Through prayer, research, embodied healing practices, and new rhythms of truth and grace, I discovered real freedom. Not just from the affair, but from shame, secrecy, and self-abandonment.
On this podcast, you’ll find:
- A reminder that your dignity, worth, and identity are not up for debate
- Emotional and nervous-system awareness for real transformation
- Coaching guidance for clarity, boundaries, communication, and trust
- Gentle truth for women deciding what restoration actually means for them
Whether your marriage is being rebuilt or released, you are allowed to heal. You are allowed to choose freedom. You are allowed to become whole.
If you’re ready to:
Stop living in secrecy and self-condemnation
Experience God’s love without fear or striving
Break familiar patterns for good
Live with clarity, strength, dignity, and peace
Then take a breath, find your safe space, and press play.
This is where healing begins and where you come home to yourself, with Jesus.
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Let’s Connect:
📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: https://learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough
💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
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154 | He Cheated for 15 Years: GUEST Lora Cheadle on What Accountability Looks Like & How She Rebuilt Life And Marriage
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Sep 10, 2026 |
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153 | Why Do I Still Feel Guilty After My Affair? Guilt Still Lives in Your Body
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Sep 08, 2026 |
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152 | I Sat in Church for Years With No One to Tell: How I Showed Up Differently After My Affair
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Sep 03, 2026 |
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151 | Why Does My Body React Before My Mind Catches Up? What Happens In Your Body When You're Triggered
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Sep 01, 2026 |
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150 | Someone Is Praying for You: The Prayers I'm Bringing Into This Season for Every Woman Healing After an Affair
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Aug 27, 2026 |
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149 | Can I Be Close Friends With People Who Don't Know About My Affair? The Difference Between Secrecy and Privacy
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Aug 25, 2026 |
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148 | Shame Sounds Identical From The Betrayer And The Betrayed: Rebuilding Identity After An Affair with Lauren LaRusso
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Aug 20, 2026 |
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147 | If a Habit Doesn't Exist in Constraint, It Won't Appear in Freedom
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Aug 18, 2026 |
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146 | Reconciliation Isn’t the Goal: What Success Actually Looks Like After an Affair
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Aug 13, 2026 |
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145 | I Can’t Fully Cut Him Off: Why Do I Still Miss Him? (IFS partswork can help)
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Aug 11, 2026 |
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144 | Why Am I Still Stuck After Years of Trying? What I Learned About Actually Moving Forward
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Aug 08, 2026 |
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143 | You Don't Need a Crisis to Deserve an Encounter with God: Four Women Who Are Saying Yes to the September Retreat
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Aug 04, 2026 |
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142 | Am I Healing Wrong? Surviving the Liminal Space of Who You’re Becoming
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Jul 30, 2026 |
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141 | Is a Healing Retreat Worth It? What Actually Happens and How It Could Change Everything
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Jul 28, 2026 |
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140 | You Are Allowed to Have Needs: GUEST Beatriz Vargas, a Marriage Therapist Tells the Truth
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Jul 23, 2026 |
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139 | The Body-Spirit Connection: When You’re in Survival Mode During Affair Recovery
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Jul 21, 2026 |
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138 | Can God Really Forgive a Woman Who Had an Affair? Here's What the Gospel Actually Says
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Jul 17, 2026 |
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137 | You're Not Meant to Heal From an Affair in Secret: How Safe Community Heals Your Brain
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Jul 14, 2026 |
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135 | How to Actually Hear God and Heal After an Affair: A Conversation on Shame with Heather O'Brien
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Jul 12, 2026 |
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136 | Still Thinking About Him After Going No Contact? Here's What Your Brain Is Actually Doing
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Jul 09, 2026 |
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134 | You're Not Allowed to Be Happy Yet: The Lie That's Quietly Stealing Your Healing
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Jul 02, 2026 |
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133 | Am I Still Welcome? What Encountering God Actually Looks Like After an Affair
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Jun 30, 2026 |
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132 | Still Feeling Like Roommates? 5 Ways to Build Oxytocin in Your Marriage After An Affair
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Jun 25, 2026 |
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131 | Why Affair Recovery Is the Loneliest Healing Journey There Is
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Jun 18, 2026 |
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130 | Self-Abandonment Isn't Holiness: You Are Worth Being Loved Well
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Jun 16, 2026 |
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129 | What Happened When I Finally Stopped Hiding: My Affair Recovery Story About My Encounter With God
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Jun 11, 2026 |
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128 Episodes In: A 3-Year Anniversary Letter to You and Why I’m Still Showing Up
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Jun 09, 2026 |
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127 | I Was Teaching at a Christian School During My Affair: things no one knew during my infidelity
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Jun 04, 2026 |
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126 | How Do I Move On? What to Do When You Can't Let Go of the Past
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Jun 02, 2026 |
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125 | Why You’re Scared to Fully Heal (And What That Fear Is Actually Protecting)
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May 28, 2026 |
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124 | 5 Lies I Told Myself to Stay in the Affair (and truths that set me free)
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May 26, 2026 |
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123 | Was it love? Or limerence? The reason you can’t stop thinking about him
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May 21, 2026 |
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122 | Corrective Experiences: the science-backed, Scripture-rooted way God is healing what shame broke
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May 19, 2026 |
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121 | Ask Me Anything: The Raw, Real Truths About Healing After Infidelity I’ve Never Said Out Loud
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May 14, 2026 |
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120 | The woman caught in adultery: a guided encounter with Jesus from John 8
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May 12, 2026 |
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119 | Help! I broke no contact- here’s what to do next
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May 07, 2026 |
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118 | Why part of you still wants him and part of you can’t let go (yet)
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May 05, 2026 |
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117 | Why You Feel Addicted to Your Affair Partner (and How to Break the Cycle)
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Apr 30, 2026 |
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116 | Stop Making Room for What’s Destroying You: How to Finally Walk Away and Walk in Freedom
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Apr 28, 2026 |
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115 | I ended the affair…now what? A step-by-step guide for the first weeks after
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Apr 23, 2026 |
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114 | Should you tell your husband about your affair? A Christian woman’s honest dilemma
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Apr 21, 2026 |
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113 | Can I save my marriage after my affair? 5 questions every Christian woman should ask
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Apr 16, 2026 |
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112 | Is my husband a narcissist? Or am I just facing the consequences of my affair?
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Apr 14, 2026 |
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111 | When you can’t break the affair cycle- even after you confessed
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Apr 09, 2026 |
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110 | Do I need STD testing after infidelity? The conversation no one is having
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Apr 07, 2026 |
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109 | Not fair! Do women who cheat get shame while men get a pass?
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Mar 31, 2026 |
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108 | Waiting to Heal After Your Affair? Here’s What It’s Really Costing You
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Mar 24, 2026 |
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107 | Why It Feels Like God (or Life) Is Punishing You After Your Affair
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Mar 19, 2026 |
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106 | I confessed my affair...so why do I still feel stuck while doing all the right things?
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Mar 10, 2026 |
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105 | Why You Don't Desire Your Husband After Your Affair (And Why Nothing Is Wrong With You)
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Mar 03, 2026 |
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104 | Why Healing Suddenly Feels Lonely And What To Do About It
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Feb 24, 2026 |
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103 | Why Healing Feels Worse Before It Feels Better
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Feb 17, 2026 |
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102 | Should I Tell My Family and Friends About the Affair?
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Feb 10, 2026 |
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101 | Shame Isn't The End Of Your Story: Healing After Abortion with Brittany Poppe
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Feb 03, 2026 |
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100 | A New Sisterhood Is Rising: You Are Not Alone in Your Healing
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Jan 27, 2026 |
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99 | Rebuilding Self Trust After Breaking Your Promises
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Jan 20, 2026 |
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98 | How to Build Habits For Healing That You Actually Keep
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Jan 13, 2026 |
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97 | Reclaiming Your Identity: Let God Rewrite Your Story After Your Affair
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Jan 06, 2026 |
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96 | Resetting Rhythms for a New Year After Ending An Affair
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Jan 01, 2026 |
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95 | Holiday Loneliness, Temptation, and the Pull to Text Him
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Dec 29, 2025 |
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94 | Staying Regulated When the Holidays Trigger Everything
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Dec 16, 2025 |
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93 | The Truth About Closure And Why You Don’t Need His Words to Heal
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Dec 09, 2025 |
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92 | The Power of Community in Healing
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Dec 02, 2025 |
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91 | Becoming Her: Acting Like The Healed Version Of You
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Nov 26, 2025 |
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90 | If The Affair Is Wrong, Why Does It Feel Right?
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Nov 18, 2025 |
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89 | Seek First the Kingdom And God Will Provide Everything You Need
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Nov 11, 2025 |
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88 | Hold Your Emotions Without Letting Them Hijack You
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Nov 04, 2025 |
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87 | Who Am I Without Him? Reclaiming Your Identity After the Affair
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Oct 21, 2025 |
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86 | Still Thinking About the Affair Partner? Practical Tools to Break Free
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Oct 15, 2025 |
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85 | Guilt vs Responsibility: Stop Punishing Yourself & Start Healing
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Oct 07, 2025 |
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84 | Will I Ever Feel Loved Again After Infidelity?
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Sep 30, 2025 |
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83 | Religion vs. Relationship: What Salvation Actually Means After An Affair
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Sep 23, 2025 |
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82 | How to Set Boundaries That Actually Protect Your Peace After an Affair
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Sep 16, 2025 |
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81 | The God Who Sees: When You Feel Invisible and Forgotten
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Sep 09, 2025 |
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80 | Grieving the People Who Didn’t Show Up For You
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Sep 02, 2025 |
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79 | When You Crave What Doesn’t Serve You
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Aug 26, 2025 |
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78 | Still Missing Your Affair Partner? How To Rebuild Real Connection After Your Affair
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Aug 19, 2025 |
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77 | No Contact Doesn’t Actually Work (And Here’s What Does)
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Aug 12, 2025 |
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76 | The Secret To Rebuilding Trust After An Affair? Start With YOU!
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Aug 05, 2025 |
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75 | You're Not Broken, You're Still Becoming
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Jul 29, 2025 |
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74 | Where Do I Even Start With Healing After My Affair?
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Jul 22, 2025 |
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73 | Repentance Is a Homecoming, Not a Punishment
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Jul 15, 2025 |
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72 | I Can’t Go Back But I Don’t Know How to Move Forward
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Jul 08, 2025 |
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71 | The Difference Between Isolation and Solitude: Stop Hiding And Start Healing
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Jul 01, 2025 |
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70 | Am I Still A Good Person After My Affair?
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Jun 24, 2025 |
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69 | Confession Isn’t Closure: What Your Heart Still Needs to Heal
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Jun 17, 2025 |
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68 | Stop Trying To Fix Everything: How To Finally Start Healing After Your Affair
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Jun 10, 2025 |
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REPLAY | The First Step To Getting Out Of Secrecy - Find And Create Safe Spaces
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Nov 05, 2024 |
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66 | Lessons a Fitness Coach Taught Me About My Healing Journey
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Oct 29, 2024 |
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65 | I Wish My Friends Knew These 8 Things About Life With An Affair
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Oct 22, 2024 |
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64 | 5 Lies I Believed During And After My Affair
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Oct 15, 2024 |
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63 | What Stories Are You Telling Yourself? You're Creating Your Feelings
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Oct 08, 2024 |
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62 | Stop Lying To Yourself: Honesty Is Kindness
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Oct 01, 2024 |
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61 | My Top 3 Favorite Bible Verses After My Affair
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Sep 24, 2024 |
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60 | I Really Miss My Affair Partner. What Should I Do About That?
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Sep 17, 2024 |
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59 | How God Used A Weed To Heal My Heart & Shape My Identity
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Sep 10, 2024 |
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58 | Help! Another Man Just Complimented Me!
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Sep 03, 2024 |
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57 | The Power Of Words On Your Expectations, Your Health, and Your Identity
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Aug 27, 2024 |
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56 | What Is Intimacy After Infidelity?
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Aug 20, 2024 |
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55 | God's Call To A Season of Rest
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May 24, 2024 |
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54 | 5 Questions to Create the Life of Your Dreams
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May 04, 2024 |
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53 | Your Mode of Operating: The Structure to Thrive Part 2
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Apr 27, 2024 |
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52 | Your Mode of Operating: Choose Success in Thriving Part 1
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Apr 20, 2024 |
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51 | Honor God With Your Body- Truly Righteous and Holy
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Apr 13, 2024 |
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50 | 3 Steps To Begin Rewiring Your Brain & Changing Your Thoughts
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Apr 06, 2024 |
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49 | Do You Want To Be Healed?
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Mar 19, 2024 |
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48 | Do You Have A Plan For A Successful Marriage? My 6 Tips To Help You Start
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Feb 28, 2024 |
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47 | LIVE COMMUNITY CHAT: Growing Relationally, Spiritually, & Emotionally
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Feb 16, 2024 |
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46 | 3 Things I'm Doing for Valentine's Day Post Affair
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Feb 11, 2024 |
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45 | Help! I'm Stuck In The Past Even During Worship
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Feb 01, 2024 |
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44 | "I Don't Need Community" & Other Lies We Believe
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Jan 27, 2024 |
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43 | Missing Your Affair Partner? What Does That Mean You Should Do?
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Jan 17, 2024 |
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42 | 3 Things I Do To Keep Prayer Real; Join Our Fervent Book Study!
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Jan 06, 2024 |
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41 | Time For A New Accountability Partner? What To Look For And Avoid
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Dec 21, 2023 |
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40 | Lessons I’ve Learned In 6 Months Of Going Public; Should You?
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Dec 14, 2023 |
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39 | Who Am I? And Where Am I? Answers in Colossians 3!
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Dec 05, 2023 |
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38 | From My Heart to Yours: Finding Healing and Freedom From Sin AND Shame
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Nov 28, 2023 |
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37 | When You’re Tempted to Relapse: Lean Into the Uncomfortable Questions
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Nov 16, 2023 |
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36 | Slow Down! HURRY Is Killing Your Marriage
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Nov 07, 2023 |
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35 | Level Up: How God Used Network Marketing Get Me Out of The Affair
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Oct 31, 2023 |
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34 | Feeling Triggered? Don’t Get Emotional Constipation!
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Oct 24, 2023 |
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33 | 5 Things I Learned About Parenting & Discipline Because of My Affair Recovery
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Oct 17, 2023 |
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32 | Let’s Set Some Goals! And Learn The Habits To Actually Reach Them
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Oct 10, 2023 |
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31 | How the Bible Came Alive after 20 Years: 6 Tips to Help You Too
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Oct 04, 2023 |
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30 | 2 Choices You MUST Make to Rebuild Your Marriage and Life
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Sep 26, 2023 |
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29 | My Rock Bottom Story Was God’s Ultimate Rescue Plan
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Sep 20, 2023 |
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28 | God Showers His Compassion on Us: 6 Ways to Practice Self-Compassion
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Sep 15, 2023 |
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27 | Why Am I Not Praying More Fervently? 3 Insights to Refresh Your Prayer Life
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Sep 05, 2023 |
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26 | 3 Habits I’m Using to Grow in My Spiritual Healing and Emotional Healing
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Sep 02, 2023 |
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25 | The Command ”Give Thanks to The Lord” Applies to You Too, Sister!
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Aug 30, 2023 |
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24 | Surrounded by Misery, Destruction, and People Who Love to Argue and Fight? God Has a Word For You!
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Aug 24, 2023 |
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23 | Is Instagram Hurting Your Marriage? 5 Warning Signs and What You Can Do About It
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Aug 22, 2023 |
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22 | Feel Uncomfortable Because Your Actions Don’t Match Your Values? Listen to Your Cognitive Dissonance!
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Aug 17, 2023 |
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21 | Feeling Overwhelmed After Confessing an Affair? Prioritize These 3 Things Now!
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Aug 15, 2023 |
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20 | Things We’re Doing Today to Mature and Grow Emotionally as a Christian Married Couple
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Aug 10, 2023 |
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19 | Take Control of Your Emotional Healing With This Simple Self Coaching Model
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Aug 08, 2023 |
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18 | Trying to Rebuild Trust in Your Marriage? 3 Tips to Motivate Your Decision-Making
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Aug 03, 2023 |
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17 | Words We Never Thought We’d Say: Similarities Between Affairs, Addictions, Recovery, and Healing
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Aug 01, 2023 |
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16 | The Intimacy Tree: What the Christian Marriage Needs in Order to Flourish
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Jul 27, 2023 |
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15 | Guilty or Innocent? How God’s Forgiveness Changes Your Clothes and Your Life with Darnell Wilson
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Jul 25, 2023 |
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14 | 10 Date Ideas If You Want Connection As A Married Couple Who Is Healing
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Jul 20, 2023 |
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13 | How To Spend 10-15 Hours a Week With Your Husband to Rebuild Intimacy and Trust
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Jul 18, 2023 |
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12 | What if I Feel Shame When the Bible Talks About Adultery? How I Found Freedom
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Jul 13, 2023 |
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11 | Making ”The Joy Of The Lord Is My Strength” True For You, Mama!
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Jul 11, 2023 |
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10 | Pt 2 Lamenting as a Christian Because God Feels Absent
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Jul 06, 2023 |
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9 | Stop Faking the Holidays, Mama, Celebrate Authentically
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Jul 04, 2023 |
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8 | Pt 1 Why Discouragement is Not What You Think It Is! The Truth About Lamenting and Finding Hope
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Jun 29, 2023 |
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7 | Marriage is NOT 50/50, 3 Bible Verses About Your Effort as a Wife
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Jun 27, 2023 |
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6 | Want to Know Your Husband Better? Get to Know Yourself First to Improve Your Communication
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Jun 22, 2023 |
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5 | Keep Moving Forward - 4 Ways I Sought Healing in My Affair Recovery
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Jun 20, 2023 |
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4 | Radical Honesty- 4 Ways To Rebuild Trust In Your Marriage
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Jun 15, 2023 |
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3 | Shame Off Of You- A Look At How God Pursues You Without Judging You
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Jun 13, 2023 |
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2 | Does An Affair Mean Divorce - 5 Questions to Ask Before You Call it Quits
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Jun 13, 2023 |
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1 | The First Step to Getting Out of Secrecy - Find And Create Safe Spaces in Your Life
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Jun 13, 2023 |
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Welcome to the Intimacy After Infidelity Podcast! For Christian Women Whose Marriage Has Been Affected By An Affair
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Jun 03, 2023 |