Savage Lovecast

By Dan Savage

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Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savagelovecast.com and get yourself a season subscription.

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Savage Love Episode 743
47:21
He took part in the Moderna vaccine trial, which puts him at the front of the line to get his shot. But he's a young, healthy man who works from home. Should he wait, lest he deny someone who needs it more than him? A woman starting a new relationship used to have an eating disorder that damaged her heart to such an extent that she gets easily winded. What should she say if her new man wants to go mountain climbing? On the Magnum, Dan chats with our favorite lawyer, Diana Adams, about asking your pal to donate his sperm so you and your girlfriend can have a little, bitty baby. Also, they discuss the unholy coupling of poly-minded person with a monogamy-minded person. It's hard! And, a gay man wants an erotic pen-pal relationship like in days of old. Are there any gentlemen out there who would like to use their quills to tickle his fancy? The Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Dame Products: a woman-founded sex toy company. Visit to get $10 off your first order.   This episode is brought toy by Tushy- the modern bidet attachment that washes your ass completely. Go to and get 10% off your order with promo code SAVAGE. Stop wiping and start washing with TUSHY. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.
Jan 19, 2021
Savage Love Episode 742
52:49
When your wife is buddies with the MAGA crowd: Dan counsels a man whose wife hangs out with covid-denying, conspiracy theory-believing, Trump-loving simpletons. He is pretty conservative himself, but these people! It's too much! A middle-aged man is newly grappling with his bisexuality. The wife isn't into it. How can he find other guys like him in his tidy suburb- you know, guys who just want to get together, play some poker and blow each other off? On the Magnum, "There's a big difference between a bull and a man who just wants to fuck your wife." So says Michael Cee of the Keys and Anklets Podcast which deals with all things related to the wife sharing lifestyle. They talked about consent and race and desire and you should listen. And, how can a woman safely indulge her danger kink? We're talking knife/gun play, fear play and snuff play. The key here is the word "play."   We hope. 206-302-2064       voicemail@savagelovecast.com The Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Dame Products: a woman-founded sex toy company. Visit to get $10 off your first order. This episode is brought to you by Doordash. Get breakfast, lunch, dinner and more delivered from your favorite restaurants right to your doorstep with one easy click. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code SAVAGE. This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial.
Jan 12, 2021
Savage Love Episode 741
54:21
Ah, the pleasures of getting rimmed! But what if you are alone, during quarantine times? Is there a sex toy out there to help a lass get off? Starting in kindergarten, a woman began masturbating using a very specific and very odd technique. Now she needs to do this, and she's super-embarrassed about it. How can she get over her shame, and possibly move on to more conventional orgasm inducers? On the Magnum version of the show, is Instagram going the way of Tumblr- removing all sexual content? Writer and sex educator JoEllen Notte is on to explain the sitch. A woman had a fun fling with a man 17 years her senior. She ended the sex, but they became good friends. Now, 2 years later, she's changed her mind again, and wants him to be her boyfriend. How can she lure him back? 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.   This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at . This episode is brought to you by Calm, the #1 app for sleep and relaxation. For a limited time get 40% off a Calm Premium subscription at .
Jan 05, 2021
Savage Love Episode 740
49:38
In our opening "sexcess story", how to turn your tiny quarantine apartment into a home sex-club discotheque. A woman has thoughtfully chosen to not have children. So why do friends and strangers hassle her about this? On the Magnum, Dan goes toe to toe with his (formerly) Republican enemy Tim Miller. Before Miller saw the light he was the communications director for Jeb Bush's 2016 campaign, and also worked for John McCain and Mitt Romney. Then along came Trump and he became a "never-Trumper" and now, has renounced the Republican party. Oh, and he's a big homo. He and Dan used to publicly battle on Twitter, but now he joins us to dispense sex advice. A heartwarming tale for your New Years. And, have you ever heard of an adult man who still has wet dreams all the time? This man does... 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com This is episode is brought to you by Green Chef, the #1 meal kit for eating well. Go to and use code SAVAGE90 to get $90 off including free shipping. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at . Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to .
Dec 29, 2020
Savage Love Episode 739
52:27
Our opening "sexcess" story features a woman willing to indulge her boyfriend's drool fetish. A woman has come to understand that her husband has a belly fetish. And she has a lot less belly than she used to... Oh, and guess who's here! It's the brilliant Sarah Silverman! She and Dan chat about staying friends with exes, the difference between doing stand-up comedy and recording a podcast, her political activism and so much more. Then, Sarah and Dan take calls together on the Magnum. So if you haven't yet subscribed...now's the time. Here's one of the calls Dan and Sarah discuss: Why do so many men like to spit on their lovers?  Seriously, what is up?? 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Calm, the #1 app for sleep and relaxation. For a limited time get 40% off a Calm Premium subscription at . This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to and use the offer code Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to .
Dec 22, 2020
Savage Love Episode 738
52:30
A woman needs a giant wiener to feel satisfied. That's just how it is. But how can she vet prospective partners ahead of time? How can she tell her current man that his average-sized dick just isn't big enough? Ah the hypocrisy...a man is turned on by videos aimed at voyeurs, where people don't know they're being filmed. Then! He was filmed at a bathhouse, and now that the pics are out...he's furious. He knows he's being hypocritical, but what can he do? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Rachel Gelman about the importance of the pelvic floor in sexual health. And a woman wonders if she should be offended by "unsolicited baby pics" from her ex-boyfriend.  206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at .
Dec 15, 2020
Savage Love Episode 737
53:47
A woman was listening to an anonymous confessional podcast, and heard her friend talk about being abused as a child. The caller is certain it was her friend, and never knew about the abuse. Should she bring it up? A gay man has a friend group that makes insensitive, cavalier rape jokes. His boyfriend thinks he needs to grow a thicker skin. Is he being oversensitive? On the Magnum, NERD ALERT. Dan brings on Dr. Katie Mack, an astrophysicist who brings her unique perspective (the end of the universe by heat death) to relationship advice. Because, why not? Despite staring into the abyss for a living Dr. Mack is delightful, and you should listen in. And, what exactly is the difference between slow fucking, and "making love?"   The answer may shock you. 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to . ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. For a limited time, get up to 30% off your first order at . The Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Dame Products: a woman-founded sex toy company. Visit to get $10 off your first order.
Dec 08, 2020
Savage Love Episode 736
48:39
A woman is worried because her boyfriend claims he doesn't have any kinks. Is he covering something up? HOW CAN HE NOT HAVE ANY KINKS? A straight man enjoys photoshopping the heads of his female friends over naked bodies. He then deletes his masterpieces. Is this wrong? Should he feel bad? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Amy Chan of the Breakup Bootcamp, about how to recognize recurring patterns we go through when we break up over and over again. And, a caller wonders if the American flag must go the way of the Hitler mustache. 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought toy by Tushy- the modern bidet attachment that washes your ass completely. Go to and get 10% off your order with promo code SAVAGE. Stop wiping and start washing with TUSHY. This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to and use the offer code Savage. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at .
Dec 01, 2020
Savage Love Episode 735
51:06
A man in his 60s is just like a teenager! But in the wrong way- he comes too soon. How can he resolve his little PE problem? After a man's girlfriend came out him (drunkenly) as bi, he realized he is bi too! But now he's jealous of his girlfriend's female exes that she maintains friendships with. He is lost at bisexual sea. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Elle Chase, author of Curvy Girl Sex, about body size issues, and dating as a large woman. And, a woman wonders if she should have pepper-sprayed that guy who asked for directions from his car but really wanted her to watch him touch his wiener. 206-302-2064     voicemail@savagelovecast.com This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial.   This episode is brought toy by Tushy- the modern bidet attachment that washes your ass completely. Go to and get 10% off your order with promo code SAVAGE. Stop wiping and start washing with TUSHY. The Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Dame Products: a woman-founded sex toy company. Visit to get $10 off your first order.
Nov 24, 2020
Savage Love Episode 734
48:43
Have you ever had to quickly mute yourself on a Zoom meeting because your girlfriend was getting spanked in the other room? Just asking. Dan brings back Lina Dune from Ask a Sub to discuss the ethics of public displays of *kinky* affection. You know, like, leading your slave around by his leash in the grocery store. On the Magnum, it's the anxious return of the esteemed epidemiologist Dr. Daniel Westreich, aka "Dr. Bummer." He's on to talk about the spiking spike of cold cases across the United States. But what a time to be an epidemiologist, am I right? And, a 41 year old man recalls when he was young, he showed up at the studio of his local newscaster to ask her out. He claims he wasn't attracted to her fame. He just thought they would make a good couple. She politely refused. Now he wonders... Was that creepy? Well. Yes. 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com   ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. For a limited time, get up to 30% off your first order at . This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.   This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage".  
Nov 17, 2020
Savage Love Episode 733
49:01
Our opening "sexcess" story features a black light. You people are creative! Dan counsels a gay man whose boyfriend is so closeted and scared of his military father, (this boyfriend lives in his parent's basement,) that he has to sneak in and out under cover of night. Kind of fun when you're in high school, but in your 30s? Not so much. On the Magnum: Have you ever heard a rabbi say: "The religion is messing you up"? Meet the fearless rabbi Jeremy Gerber. He and Dan discuss blow job technique as well as the practice of mikvah- where couples abstain from all contact during, and for seven days after menstruation. And a 59 year old man who used to be in a sexless marriage is now getting tons of sex. But how can he retrain his dick to orgasm faster? This episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage". This episode is brought toy by Tushy- the modern bidet attachment that washes your ass completely. Go to www.HELLOtushy.com and get 10% off your order with promo code SAVAGE. Stop wiping and start washing with TUSHY. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at HelixSleep.com/SAVAGE.
Nov 10, 2020
Savage Love Episode 732
50:50
Our opening covid-era Sexcess story features seniors in a retirement community huffing on ice bongs and getting it on. If they can do it, you can too. A Wiccan druid witchy woman is dating a Christian dude. They let each other be. But when he requests that they do some role playing where she dresses up as a "sexy witch" and puts a spell on him, she wonders if she should be offended or just hop on his broomstick already. Dan interviews Adam Sass, author of Surrender Your Sons- a YA thriller about a gay kid who escapes from a conversation therapy camp. It sounds awesome! Book sales will support , an organization fighting to ban conversion therapy. What do you do, when your boyfriend's mother offers you a baby blanket made by her mother, but you don't have or want kids? A) Tell her you don't want the stupid blanket. B) Take the stupid blanket. 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to . This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage".
Nov 03, 2020
Savage Love Episode 731
49:58
A man and his much younger girlfriend decided to seek a unicorn through swinging apps. Her only rule was to set the age limit to women over 30. So, naturally, he went for women in their 20s. What's the problem?! A queer woman is into being choked. She knows it's unsafe. Is there any way to do breath play safely? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the Political Gabfest luminary Emily Bazelon about the conservative shift in the Supreme Court. Sexy! And, a woman's boyfriend was able to get her off using only his foot. What has your boyfriend done for you lately? ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. For a limited time, get up to 30% off your first order at . This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to and use the offer code Savage. The Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Dame Products: a woman-founded sex toy company. Visit to get $10 off your first order.  
Oct 27, 2020
Savage Love Episode 730
51:24
A woman is considering becoming a 24/7 slave for a man in a don't-ask-don't-tell relationship with his wife. But maybe he's just cheating on the wife? How can you be sure? Over a decade ago, a woman was in an abusive relationship. He went too far and they broke up. He has been apologizing ever since. Now that she has forgiven him, she wants to connect with him again. Should she? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with disabilities activist Andrew Gurza about some very inappropriate PDA in a park by folks with cognitive delay. He also unveils his new line of sex toys by and for disabled people. And, is it an acceptable move to guide a woman's hand down to your dick when you are making out? 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial. This episode is brought toy by Tushy- the modern bidet attachment that washes your ass completely. Go to and get 10% off your order with promo code SAVAGE. Stop wiping and start washing with TUSHY.
Oct 20, 2020
Savage Love Episode 729
55:46
A woman's friend is acting like a damn fool. Again. She plans to travel across the country to meet a man she met online, without even having spoken to him on the phone. Is she getting catfished? Who knows? Should the caller try to talk her gullible, sensitive friend out of this recklessness? An erotic dancer feels guilty when her customers fall in love with her. Is she leading them on? On the Magnum, Dan welcomes back writer and digital rights activist Cory Doctorow. They discuss the appeal of conspiracy theories, Joe Biden, and texting expectations among many other things. And, a man and his long term girlfriend have mis-matched libidos. He is poly and horny. She is asexual. They are about to adopt her cousins and raise them together. So now would be a difficult time to begin a relationship with a dear friend of theirs, right? Maybe, maybe not. It's always so complicated! 206-302-2064        voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.   This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at . Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting
Oct 13, 2020
Savage Love Episode 728
54:59
A woman would like a gigolo please. Or two. She knows she could score a man for free, but likes the idea of paying for it. Is this possible? How? Whoopsy daisy! A woman was texting her friend about the crippling crush she has on a co-worker, when she realized she was texting the co-worker herself. The gal reacted gracefully, but now what? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr Raphael Landovitz, about the promise of a new injectable version of PrEP. And, a 17 year old girl had penetrative sex for the first time. She's psyched! But she was very, very wet, and he was... not all that hard. Don't worry, teens! It gets better. 206-302-2064       voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to . ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. For a limited time, get up to 30% off your first order at . The Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Dame Products: a woman-founded sex toy company. Visit to get $10 off your first order.
Oct 06, 2020
Savage Love Episode 727
53:34
Some rando started following a woman on Insta. He confessed that he jerks off to her yoga photos. She told him she would have to charge him a fee for this. He agreed. The question is... how much? A woman Googled her dad. What did she find? She found videos of women in bathing suits. If you Googled her dad, you would see this. Should she tell her dad? Good lord, how? On the Magnum, let's talk about anal prolapse, shall we? Because it's so sexy! Tristan Taormino, author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, talks about ways to mitigate this common problem. She and Dan also revisit the question of whether polyamory is cancelled in the time of Covid-19. And, when you think your mom is cool with you being gay, but then re-posts some Trumpy nonsense, should you try to educate her? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to . This episode is brought to you by Allform- premium, customizable sofas and chairs shipped right to your door. For 20% off your perfect sofa, go to . The Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Dame Products: a woman-founded sex toy company. Visit to get $10 off your first order.
Sep 29, 2020
Savage Love Episode 726
52:21
A woman is still friendly with her ex-husband. So friendly that she sends him nudes which he pays for. But she just learned that he's re-married! Is it unethical to continue this naughty exchange? A woman begs Dan to tell her to break up with her emotionally shut-down boyfriend. Dan obliges. Dan chats with 24/7 sub goddess Lina Dune about the healing power of safe, sane, consensual kink. A little of the conversation is on the Micro and all of it is on the Magnum. And a woman notices that her boyfriend never gets hard when he goes down on her. And he doesn't do it very often. Is there anything she can do to make her lovely vag irresistible? 206-302-3064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to and use the offer code Savage. This episode is brought toy by Tushy- the modern bidet attachment that washes your ass completely. Go to and get 10% off your order with promo code SAVAGE. Stop wiping and start washing with TUSHY. This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial.
Sep 22, 2020
Savage Love Episode 725
48:53
A woman was babysitting her neighbor's 3 year-old daughter. The girl took her clothes off and started touching herself. Should the caller say something to the parents? Is this behavior a red flag for abuse? Or is this just how the 3 year-olds roll? A man with a very girthy penis can't come without extended penis-in-vagina action. But sometimes his ladies can't handle it. He started faking his orgasms. Any other solutions here? On the Magnum version of the show, Caitlin Doughty (host of Ask a Mortician on YouTube,) is on to discuss how the pandemic is changing the way we handle funerals, grieving and possible positive changes in the death industry. She is the most charming goth mortician you'll ever encounter. And, in the response calls, our ever-pragmatic listeners offer great suggestions on how to make a bed work for three people. 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. For a limited time, get up to 30% off your first order at . This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to . This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.
Sep 15, 2020
Savage Love Episode 724
51:24
A woman has had a LOT of sex, mostly with men. But she is realizing that she is truly only attracted to women. The problem is, when she talks to a hot woman, she starts stuttering and stammering in terror. How can she grow to be comfortable in her true skin? A man's girlfriend fantasizes that she's a gay man when they have sex. Does this mean she's trans? She insists she's all woman, but the caller is worried, worried, worried. On the Magnum, a deep dive onto vaginas (yup!) with Dr. Jen Gunter, author of The Vagina Bible. She and Dan discuss tipped uteruses, HATING your boyfriend just before your period, and a rare ear-labia connection. Vaginas are weird and great! And, how can one make one's bed most comfortable for three? 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Earnest: Earnest makes it easy to refinance your student loans. Get a $100 cash bonus when you refinance a student loan at . Terms apply. This episode is brought to you by Doordash. Get breakfast, lunch, dinner and more delivered from your favorite restaurants right to your doorstep with one easy click. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code SAVAGE. This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by Babbel: the new way to learn a foreign language. Right now, when you purchase a three month subscription, Babbel will give our listeners 3 additional months for FREE with Promo Code: SAVAGE
Sep 08, 2020
Savage Love Episode 723
51:26
A woman's husband had low testosterone, so he started taking T. But then, he turned into a total asshole! Is this normal? Is this just what testosterone does? A trans woman has not yet had bottom surgery. While she waits, how can she find a woman who would want her as she is now, and how she will be later? On the Magnum, Dan chats with sex researcher Alexandra Marcotte about her study looking at how men and women differ in their enjoyment of dick pics. A woman has a girlfriend but they don't live together. The caller is very cautious about covid-19: She wipes all her groceries down, sterilizes the doorknobs- that sort of thing. Meanwhile, her girlfriend's roommates are going out to bars, throwing caution to the wind. How can the caller try to limit contact? Is there a huge fight in their future? Open your wallets and go to 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at . This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Hello Fresh. Get fresh, pre-measured ingredients and mouthwatering seasonal recipes delivered right to your door. Get $80 off your first box when you go to .
Sep 01, 2020
Savage Love Episode 722
52:41
A woman started dating a transman. But then his personality completely changed. I this just a trans thing? Or a coincidence? A verse dyke working as a nanny in an uptight conservative community can't find any other lesbians. She's so horny she would settle for a man. But how can she find someone willing to be her "walking dildo?" On the Magnum, a deep dive into cuckolding, with the utterly charming Venus from the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast. What drives a man to be turned on watching his partner get together with other men? What's in it for the woman? It's a wild, wild world and Venus takes us through it. And blechhhh! Her man douses himself in cologne. She HATES the smell of cologne. He knows this, and still pours buckets of expensive chemicals on himself to mask his natural, lovely body scent. Why? Why do they do this? Our caller is worried about hurting his feelings. So she sits there and suffers. If you smell something, say something. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to . ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. For a limited time, get up to 30% off your first order at . The Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Dame Products: a woman-founded sex toy company. Visit to get $10 off your first order.
Aug 25, 2020
Savage Love Episode 721
55:23
Have you ever gone snorkeling...naked? On a long anticipated second date? She has. Hear ALL about it... A woman's sister is *still* planning her 100 person wedding for this October. Will covid-19 be over by then? Certainly not. So should the caller go or tell her stupid sister to postpone her stupid wedding already? On the Magnum, Dan chats with clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. David Ley, about the difference between sex addiction and kinks. And, can extroverts successfully date introverts? Voicemail@savageloivecast.com           206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at . This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to and use the offer code Savage. This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial.
Aug 18, 2020
Savage Love Episode 720
50:43
A man's new boyfriend is really great in every way! Except...he believes in mythical creatures, thinks he has super-powers and that the government is communicating with him through the radio. So, should the caller leave his mentally ill new boyfriend or try to get him some help? Meanwhile, a woman's sister has started dating a "professional" astrologer who had gotten kicked out of the marines, believes in conspiracy theories and wants to move to Mexico with the caller's sister after dating for just a few months. How can the caller help her stubborn sister see all those red flags a'flappin'? On the Magnum, It's a generational battle royale! Dan chats with Jill Filipovic author of "Ok Boomer, Let's Talk" in a Millennial vs Boomer sex-advice smack down! (Just kidding. They agree on pretty much everything.) Filipovic's book goes into the ways the younger generations have been shafted by the olds. Time to seize power, youngun's! A bi man's boyfriend is being driven crazy by his new neighbor. She has noisy sex at all hours, disrupting the boyfriend's sleep and work life. Should they have ear-piercing retaliatory sex to teach her a lesson? voicemail@savagelovecast.com 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Earnest: Earnest makes it easy to refinance your student loans. Get a $100 cash bonus when you refinance a student loan at e. Terms apply. This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by : the new way to learn a foreign language. Right now, when you purchase a three month subscription, Babbel will give our listeners 3 additional months for FREE with Promo Code: SAVAGE
Aug 11, 2020
Savage Love Episode 719
53:35
Our opening covid-19 "sexcess" story is extra special this week. You will never think of Tollhouse cookies the same way again. Don't you hate it when your brother-in-law steals your underpants, and uses them to jack off? This little sordid story only gets worse. On the Magnum, meet the dominatrix who commands her clients to read Black feminist theory. Mistress Velvet and Dan discuss performative wokeness, allies vs. accomplices, and the transformative power of S&M among many other things. Mistress Velvet knows her shit. Obey her and listen in. And a woman and her boyfriend keep breaking the bed! Is there a bed frame out there that can withstand this couple's vigorous rutting? This episode is brought to you by Doordash. Get breakfast, lunch, dinner and more delivered from your favorite restaurants right to your doorstep with one easy click. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code SAVAGE.   Today's episode is brought to you by Dirty Diana- a new sex positive, fictional podcast starring Demi Moore and created by Shana Feste. It's a show for all of us who are craving connection and searching for a new kind of erotica. Check it out at   This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to .
Aug 04, 2020
Savage Love Episode 718
51:43
An Irish man has found dating success with his "personal operating manual." After the second date or so, he slides over a piece of paper delineating his likes and dislikes, in bed and out. It cuts through a lot of clutter, says he. For those of you separated from your loved ones because of travel restrictions, there could be some hope maybe? Dan chats with Chelsea from "Love is Not Tourism" a group working to allow stipulations for folks who want to reunite with their beloveds in other countries. A kindly aunt has been counseling her newly out niece. The niece and her mother don't get along. Is it wrong for the caller to step in and chaperone her niece on her first date with a slightly older girl? And, one hot day, a woman found her "nubbin" tingling when she thought about ice cream for a second. Panic ensues. Is she some kind of ice cream fetishizing pervert? Her girlfriend tells her to chill out. So do we. Voicemail@savagelovecast.com     206-302-2064 This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial. This episode is brought to you by Hello Fresh. Get fresh, pre-measured ingredients and mouthwatering seasonal recipes delivered right to your door. Get $80 off your first box when you go to . This episode is brought to you by Earnest: Earnest makes it easy to refinance your student loans. Get a $100 cash bonus when you refinance a student loan at . Terms apply.
Jul 28, 2020
Savage Love Episode 717
51:00
A man has been with his boyfriend for a year. The boyfriend's supposedly straight roommate gives intimate hugs and drops obvious homo hints when he's drunk. The caller doesn't like him or trust him. Does he have to put up with this? This lady likes a giant, huge, enormous, really big penis. She proposes a hack for when she's with a more modestly endowed gentleman. Could she insert a yoni egg inside her vagina, to simulate that Big Dick feeling? Would this work? Dan? On the Magnum, we welcome the Kinsey Institute's Justin Lehmiller. Dan and Dr. Lehmiller discuss the difficulty of stating your sexual desires to a partner when your desires are...weird.  Or disturbing. It's tough out there for a closet kinkster. Dr. Lehmiller's rational thinking and soothing voice are a balm in these confusing times. Finally, a man is dating a woman he really likes. But her parents are Trump supporters. She claims she isn't going to vote at all in November. (!!!) Is she a secret Trump supporter? Does he have the right to demand she vote for Biden? Does this rise to DTMFA levels? Voicemail@savagelovecast.com      206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at . Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to . This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.
Jul 21, 2020
Savage Love Episode 716
49:04
A young gay man is having a great time with his boyfriend who is 14 years older than him. Can it last? How? On the Magnum, be charmed by comedian Jay Jurden. We were. Jay and Dan talk about gays, three-ways and Catholic guilt, among other things. A woman has a fantasy of being "taken" by an older man with power over her. But wouldn't any man who acts this out with her be a total creep? Finally, are there dog toys sold in pet stores that are secretly meant to be sex toys? For humans? Voicemail@savagelovecast.com           206-302-2064 This episode of the Lovecast is brought to you by : the new way to learn a foreign language. Right now, when you purchase a three month subscription, Babbel will give our listeners 3 additional months for FREE with Promo Code: SAVAGE This episode is brought to you by Doordash. Get breakfast, lunch, dinner and more delivered from your favorite restaurants right to your doorstep with one easy click. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code SAVAGE. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to .
Jul 14, 2020
Savage Love Episode 715
51:48
Hear the tale of the NB lesbian who snooped and found out that  the sex worker they want to hire makes more money than they do, and finds this unacceptable. (Confidential to the caller: you'll eventually get over the pummeling Dan gives you.) We were so honored to welcome Dr. Erin Berry -regional Medical Director of Planned Parenthood. Dan and Dr. Berry blasted through a bunch of your questions (HPV vaccine for men, molluscum, IUDs, bidets for women, more!) and of course they discussed abortion and the recent Supreme Court decision. Dr. Berry is a rock star. Some of it is on the Micro version and all of it is on the Magnum. Listen in. And, a queer woman enjoys using her strap-on as if it were a penis. But do gay men do the same? 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to and use the offer code Savage.
Jul 07, 2020
Savage Love Episode 714
49:01
A gay married man faces a choice. He can keep his stable job, if he moves to...Kansas. Dan brings on Kansas State Representative Brandon Woodard to try to sell his state to the caller. At the top of this list of the midwestern state's redemptive qualities: Kansas is only 3 hours away from everywhere else! So, they've got that going for them. A woman is horrified that her husband wants to "suckle" her breasts as if she were lactating. "Just one time?" he begs. On the Magnum, Dan gushingly chats with public health super-hero Dr. Demetre Daskalakis. The dreamy Deputy Commissioner for Disease Control at the NYC Health Department is responsible for some of the most honest, rational, pro-sex messaging coming out of New York City, and Dan is nothing less than star-struck. Listen in. And, a woman with step-children found herself watching some step-mom porn. And she liked it! WHAT DOES THIS MEAN? 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at . This episode is brought to you by Allform- premium, customizable sofas and chairs shipped right to your door. For 20% off your perfect sofa, go to . This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Blue Apron. Check out this week’s menu at  
Jun 30, 2020
Savage Love Episode 713
51:48
Thongs! They are so sexy! But when used as a face mask at the hardware store, what then? A woman has been dating a guy for a few months. He has one of those giant penises you have heard about. So there's that. But he is also saying some troubling, racist and sexist things. So. Should she continue to see the big dick with a big dick? On the Magnum, Dan chats with women's health expert Dr. Tami Rowen about the near ubiquitous practice of pubic hair grooming. Why are so many women bush-whacking? Are there any benefits to leaving your "down there" hair alone? And, a man (with a lovely Irish accent) wants to have kids with his girlfriend, but doesn't want to live with her. Is there a way to maintain a relationship and co-parent from two separate houses?  ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. For a limited time, get up to 30% off your first order at . This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial. The Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Dame Products: a woman-founded sex toy company. Visit to get $10 off your first order.
Jun 23, 2020
Savage Love Episode 712
50:25
Oh Jesus Mary and Joseph, our opening sex during quarantine story is scorching hot this week, hoo boy. A woman is working from home with her boyfriend. He sets up his computer monitors with one screen always playing Twtich streams with young blonde hotties. Is the caller allowed to be annoyed by this? On the Magnum, sex toy expert and generally charming person Erika Moen is on to make a bunch of recommendations for gear to get you through these extremely challenging times. Also, what is up with sex dolls? A deep discussion ensues. A woman asked her man to dominate her. He responded "You suck at doing dishes!!" That's not what she had in mind. How can she teach him to boss her around sexily? 206-302-2064        voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to .
Jun 16, 2020
Savage Love Episode 711
52:46
At a business meeting, an older, sophisticated gay man gave a presentation with a couple buttons of his jeans undone. Was he sending a message? If so, what? A woman has noticed that men are now wearing wedding rings on BOTH hands. Are they sending a message? If so, what? On the Magnum, it's a deep anal-sex hygiene dive with gay culture columnist Ty Mitchel. A caller wonders why the younger men he sleeps with have trouble keeping...fresh. Dan and Ty are here to help. And, a woman's roommate is going out and having casual hookups. During these 'Rona times, it puts the whole house at risk. How can she confront him about this? 206-302-2064     voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought toy by Tushy- the modern bidet attachment that washes your ass completely. Go to and get 10% off your order with promo code SAVAGE. Stop wiping and start washing with TUSHY. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to . This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to T and use the offer code Savage.
Jun 09, 2020
Savage Love Episode 710
55:06
A remote controlled buttplug? In the bath? This pandemic is getting pretty fun! A woman asks a question that so many of us are also wondering: is it safe to be romantically intimate with someone who has already recovered from covid-19? When? Dan brings on the intrepid Dr. Barak to answer, and as usual hits him with a gnarly second question just to make the good doctor squirm. Are you a parent? Have you had some challenges raising your kids? Is your kid a foot fetishist? If you answered either yes or no to any of these questions, then you're going to want to listen in. And, a man in an open relationship feels empty and sad after he orgasms with anyone but his primary partner. How can he retrain his brain? Tickets to the Savage Lovecast Livestream are at www.savagelovecast.com/events Send your written questions ahead of time to livestream@savagelovecast.com 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com The Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Dame Products: a woman-founded sex toy company. Visit to get $10 off your first order.   ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. For a limited time, get up to 30% off your first order at . This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to
Jun 02, 2020
Savage Love Episode 709
53:44
A married couple in an open relationship used to enjoy glory holes at play parties. Then along came some covid-19. But did that stop them? Hell no! They grabbed the kids' old sheets and made a home glory hole. Now THAT'S what I'm talking about, America! A man's mother died when he was 13, and his father quickly re-married. He found a letter revealing that his father and step-mother had been having an affair before his mother died. Now what? His dad is sick and old. Should he confront him about it? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan interviews BDSM educator BlakSyn about kink and race play. How can you use words with a history of trauma, in a transformative, consensual way? Is it ever OK to use the word "slave?" What about the N-word? And, a 60 year-old man whispers about how he came 7 times the other night. He just wants you to know this.   Now we know. 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought toy by Tushy- the modern bidet attachment that washes your ass completely. Go to and get 10% off your order with promo code SAVAGE. Stop wiping and start washing with TUSHY. This episode is brought to you by Allform- premium, customizable sofas and chairs shipped right to your door. For 20% off your perfect sofa, go to .
May 26, 2020
Savage Love Episode 708
52:00
A married man is sick of his military husband being overseas all the time. How can they make their  chronically long-distance relationship work?   Ok, here's something you've all wondered: how do you get rid of sex dolls? Are they too toxic for the landfill? Is there a market for "gently used?"   On the Magnum, how are the poly people supposed to do their poly thing, right now? Dan chats with Diana Adams, a lawyer and mediator who specializes in LGBTQ and polyamorous families.   Is there a polite, non-confrontational, and effective way to ask a lover to delete your nudes? You know, before things get bad?   206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com   The Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Dame Products: a woman-founded sex toy company. Visit to check out Eva- the hands-free vibrator.   This episode is brought toy by Tushy- the modern bidet attachment that washes your ass completely. Go to and get 10% off your order with promo code SAVAGE. Stop wiping and start washing with TUSHY.   This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial.
May 19, 2020
Savage Love Episode 707
51:35
We open the show with a marital tale of delicious rug burn. It's the battle of the podcast Goliaths! Dan welcomes Marc Maron to the show, and the two engage in a civil debate about whether porn can be "addictive." Also, they discuss a very special piece of equipment. Some of this convo is on the Micro version and all of it is on the Magnum. He likes to wear womens' clothing when he spanks it. She thinks this makes him queer. He insists he's not. She says he should find a lady who likes that sort of thing. He says he only wants her. These are the kinds of arguments this couple has. A lesbian plans to propose to her girlfriend of 4 years. She wants to throw a giant "proposal party" with friends and family from far and wide as a surprise. She was planning on doing this soon. You know, during the pandemic? Will Dan talk her out it? God, let's hope so. 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. For a limited time, get up to 30% off your first order at . Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to .   This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.
May 12, 2020
Savage Love Episode 706
51:00
Have you ever done it hanging from a cliff in your mountain-climbing harness? This caller has. They named the climb "Quarantine." Meanwhile in Italy, a woman managed to slip a finger in her boyfriend's butt. He didn't stop her, but didn't say anything about it, and they haven't discussed it since. How can she bring it up with him and resume this activity when they are reunited? On the Magnum, Dan chats with JoEllen Notte, author of "The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren't Having" about being an introvert during the pandemic, and how it IS possible to be both horny and depressed. A woman is dating a man who cares about his appearance, is capable of crying and makes her breakfast. IS HE GAY? 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to OMGYES.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Pill Club: the birth control subscription that is delivered right to your door. Get a special care package with your first delivery. Go to www.thepillclub.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at HelixSleep.com/SAVAGE.  
May 05, 2020
Savage Love Episode 705
54:31
Hear the tale of the garden wanker, or "What Really Happens in the Asparagus Patch." Dr. Bummer is back! Our epidemiologist pal Dr. Daniel Westreich has returned to talk about the state of the pandemic, how the physical distancing is working, and to mull over the possibility that this could be an opportunity to eliminate ALL STIs. We can dream. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Katelyn Bowden, founder of the BadAss Army- a group that fights for victims of revenge porn. And, we end with a heartwarming coming-out story from a woman who recorded a video for her family and sent it out via group chat. Their response...may shock you. Remember: Not everyone is totally awful.  206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com   This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial.   This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to .   This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to and use the offer code Savage.
Apr 28, 2020
Savage Love Episode 704
54:39
This pandemic is getting sexier and sexier! Who's up for some Strip Ping-Pong? A gay man hooked up with a dude he had met a few months ago through an app. The dude asked our caller if he found him attractive. But the dude's photo was wildly inaccurate. He had gained weight since the photo was taken. When the caller tried to tactfully explain this, dude went ballistic, accusing him of being fat-phobic. Judge Savage issues his ruling. On the Magnum...let's get a lawyer! The pandemic will be mighty good for the lawyering business apparently. Dan brings on divorce attorney Lori Lopez Guzzo to give some free advice to a woman whose husband wants a divorce after encouraging her to quit her job. Her advice? Lawyer up and take him down. And, a woman had broken up with her boyfriend. But now that she is locked down and lonely, she just wanted to be "held and cuddled." Is it ok to invite him back into her life...temporarily? Ok, enough with the Covid-19 calls already! Send us some non-covid related queries and we'll run a virus-free show, we swear! 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Blue Apron. Check out this week’s menu at This episode is brought to you by Doordash. Get breakfast, lunch, dinner and more delivered from your favorite restaurants right to your doorstep with one easy click. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code SAVAGE. ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. For a limited time, get up to 30% off your first order at .  
Apr 21, 2020
Savage Love Episode 703
49:34
We open with a quarantine sex story, in which a woman's boyfriend pulls on one of her dresses, and things get even better from there. A woman in a poly relationship knows she has to end things soon with her primary partner. So, naturally, she started sleeping with her roommate. Is it time to pull the plug? During these terrible times? How? At long last, it's the guest we've all been waiting for. Feminist comedic genius Erin Gibson, co-host of the Throwing Shade podcast and author of Feminasty: The Complicated Woman’s Guide to Surviving the Patriarchy without Drinking Herself to Death is on to answer some questions, and keep us all company in quarantine. A NYC sex worker who specializes in latex, wonders if it would be safe for her to keep seeing clients in person if she wore a high quality gas mask. 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com Thanks to Theragun for supporting the Savage Lovecast. Theragun is the handheld percussive therapy device that releases your deepest muscle tension using a scientifically-calibrated combination of depth, speed, and power. For a limited time, Lovecast listeners get up to $150 off your device. Check it out at . This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Pill Club: the birth control subscription that is delivered right to your door. Get a special care package with your first delivery. Go to .
Apr 14, 2020
Savage Love Episode 702
49:49
We open the show with a quarantine sex story featuring some very mysterious noises... Have no fear, Doc Barak is here! Dan brings on our long-suffering medical expert to reassure us about how covid-19 can and cannot be transmitted. The good doctor's giggle is, dare we say...infectious. On the Magnum, Dan interviews comedian and podcast host Pete Dominick to help him answer some questions from the hard-to-find straight male perspective. And, after a one night stand, a woman and her lover are still communicating. They had planned to meet in Moscow for a second date, but then the pandemic happened. Is she falling in love? Is it just the stress? Should she tell him? 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at . Thanks to Roman for supporting Savage Lovecast. Roman is a men’s health company that offers remote online diagnosis for ED and convenient monthly delivery of medication. For a free online, visit Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to .
Apr 07, 2020
Savage Love Episode 701
53:57
Just when you thought you understood the world, Dan chats with open relationships guru Tristan Taormino, to tell you to CLOSE IT UP. Monogamy is where it's at these days. Just for a while. A woman in a long distance relationship is trying to embrace video sex. But she worries that she doesn't look sexy when she's truly pleasuring herself. How can she learn to do the "performance" of video sex, and still get off? On the Magnum, Dan calls up Searah Deysach from the feminist sex-toy store Early to Bed, to talk about "sleeves." What are they? What are those bumps? Where can I get me one? And, a lesbian decided not to respond to a trans woman on a dating app. Does this make her a transphobic monster? 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial. This episode is brought to you by Doordash. Get breakfast, lunch, dinner and more delivered from your favorite restaurants right to your doorstep with one easy click. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code SAVAGE. ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. For a limited time, get up to 30% off your first order at .
Mar 31, 2020
Savage Love Episode 700
48:53
This week, Dan's guest is epidemiologist Daniel Westreich, who spells out the concept of physical distancing, and why sexual intimacy is going to be pretty difficult to attain for many of us. Some of the conversation is on the Micro, and all of it is on the Magnum. A man asks if virtual reality porn makes sense to help "spice up your sex life." Why yes, it makes  A LOT of sense right now. A woman who is engaged to be married to her boyfriend has a female friend. This friend made a drunken, predatory pass at her. Can/should she forgive and try to salvage the friendship? And, saddle up for this weird ride: A man is married to his wife. Cool, cool. They have an open relationship. No prob. She has a boyfriend. Nice. She lives with her boyfriend. Ok? He is not allowed to seek outside partners. Wait-  what?  Also, his wife's boyfriend forbids her from having sex with the caller, her husband. Soooooo. The caller needs a little chat from Dan Savage. Ring ring! 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Blue Apron. Check out this week’s menu at This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to . This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to and use the offer code Savage.
Mar 24, 2020
Savage Love Episode 699
01:01:40
Here at Savage Lovecast world headquarters, in the heart of the epicenter of the Big Sick, we are keeping calm and carrying on, baby! Dan chats with Dr. Jen Gunter, who had to practice social distancing for ONE YEAR, so quit griping. She offers some strategies for how to deal with your new isolation. And, Dr.Debby Herbenick explains that although the corona virus is not sexually transmitted, you still can't just be mashing with anyone safely these days. Uh doy! Hear the tale of Maya, stuck in Spain and wondering if her relationship is mature enough to endure the rigors of quarantine. And, taking a breather, (as it were) from all this virus talk, Dan speaks with Brian Earp,  author of Love Drugs: The Chemical Future of Relationships. The tech-savvy at-risk youth are poised to accept this chemical future. 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to .
Mar 17, 2020
Savage Love Episode 698
47:36
Sometimes people call us when they're drunk. Sometimes they call us about their dogs. Welcome to the center of this Venn diagram.  A woman has been invited to a "costume wedding." She will be required to dress up like a character in a movie. Is this asking too much? On the Magnum version of the show, it's a super-weird "What You Got?" with an evolutionary reproductive biologist who mulls over the *possibility* that the animal kingdom is teeming with same-sex behavior. Not just the homo penguins. And, a young woman is turned on by much older men. How can she score a silver fox without looking like gold digger? 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com Thanks to Roman for supporting Savage Lovecast. Roman is a men’s health company that offers remote online diagnosis for ED and convenient monthly delivery of medication. For a free online, visit This episode is brought to you by Doordash. Get breakfast, lunch, dinner and more delivered from your favorite restaurants right to your doorstep with one easy click. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code SAVAGE. ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. For a limited time, get up to 30% off your first order at .
Mar 10, 2020
Savage Love Episode 697
46:22
A gay man was hooking up at a bathhouse. His brand new lover wanted to bring a little romance into the encounter by saying the caller's name and complimenting him. The caller was horrified. Isn't bathhouse sex supposed to be anonymous? Meanwhile, in another corner of our universe, a woman is appalled that her boyfriend closes his eyes when they're having sex. How can she get him to gaze deeply into her soul while pounding her real good? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with stand-up comedian, and podcaster Cameron Esposito about her new book: Save Yourself, and how queerness and the experience of being closeted impacts her comedy. Finally, a married man with a one year-old child bemoans the quality of the "service sex" he's getting these days. With he ever see the return of enthusiastic rutting? 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought toy by Tushy- the modern bidet attachment that washes your ass completely. Go to and get 10% off your order with promo code SAVAGE. Stop wiping and start washing with TUSHY. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to .
Mar 03, 2020
Savage Love Episode 696
50:28
A straight man was dating a woman, and it felt great. Until she gave him the "I'm not ready for a relationship" line. Is this always a lie? What does it mean? Dan spells it out, with no sugar on top. A man is worried about his new girlfriend. You see, she has never had penetrative sex. Is he special enough to be her first? On the Micro and more on the Magnum, Dan chats with weed journalist (now there's a sweet job if ever we've heard of one,) Lester Black. They talk about a woman whose smart husband turns into a drooling dullard whilst blazed, smoking when you're pregnant, and the effects of marijuana on dick size. Can you resist this show? No, you cannot. A man on the frozen tundra hasn't had sex in 3 years because he claims to be a grower, not a shower. Women reject him because of his dick size (he thinks) and then reject him further when he fails to eat them out properly. But he wants to learn! He asks his female friends if he can practice on them, but strangely, they all say "no." Just...no. 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com   This episode is brought to you by Harry's- they make the best razors you will ever shave with. New customers get $5 off a trial set at . This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at . This episode of the Savage love cast is brought to you by Everlane: Luxury basic clothing and accessories, made at ethical factories without those retail markups. For free shipping, and to support the Lovecast, go to  
Feb 25, 2020
Savage Love Episode 695
51:54
A man is going through a divorce from his wife of 7 years. Although their breakup was peaceful, now her communication is curt and unfriendly. Is he entitled to feel angry about her unwarranted coldness? A man kindly lent a friend some money. Now she keeps asking him for more and more every month! Should he just set her up with a regular payment, or cut off the friendship? On the Micro and the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with Dr. Wednesday Martin, author of Untrue, about women's libido, how it really works, and how our culture's misunderstanding harms relationships. A group of folks were disparaging "outie vaginas" at a party. One of the women there got awfully quiet. Did they offend her? Is this the equivalent of making fun of itsy-bitsy, teeny-tiny penises? 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to and use the offer code Savage. ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. For a limited time, get up to 30% off your first order at . This episode is brought to you by Doordash. Get breakfast, lunch, dinner and more delivered from your favorite restaurants right to your doorstep with one easy click. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code SAVAGE.
Feb 18, 2020
Savage Love Episode 694
48:30
A young man has been dating a woman for a short time. She seems great...except. Except she is anti-abortion, and anti-gay in a lazy, not very heartfelt sort of way. Can he use his sex powers to change her feeble mind? Meanwhile, a woman is dating a guy also for a short time. He told her that if he got her pregnant, he would insist that she keep the child instead of have an abortion. Should she, maybe, dump him immediately? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the writer Jillian Keenan about spanking: It's for grown-ups only please. They discuss the origins of a spanking fetish and whether corporal punishment as a child seeps into an adult's erotic imagination. A married man with a religious upbringing feels shame and guilt about masturbating. His wife contributes to this mindset. His marriage is sexless and even his urologist agrees that he needs to ejaculate already. How can he learn to wank with pride?   Shame and guilt. Keeping us in business since 2006. 206-302-2064  or This episode is brought to you by Calm, the #1 app for sleep and relaxation. For a limited time get 25% off a Calm Premium subscription at . Thanks to Roman for supporting Savage Lovecast. Roman is a men’s health company that offers remote online diagnosis for ED and convenient monthly delivery of medication. For a free online, visit This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage".
Feb 11, 2020
Savage Love Episode 693
46:42
A woman is hoping to find a monogamous partner who is also kinky. But when she puts the word "kinky" in her profile she gets flooded with ridiculous pervs. How can she filter out the clueless horndogs? Hear the very unpleasant tale of a gay couple who venture to an older man's apartment for a hook-up, only to find there were many more men there than promised. Why was this gentleman so dishonest? Aren't older men supposed to be supportive mentors for up and coming young 'mos? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with super-duper smart writer Peggy Orenstein, (author of Girls and Sex) about her new book- Boys and Sex. She and Dan discuss how boys both suffer from and then perpetuate the culture of toxic masculinity. If you have a kid with a penis, you should listen to this one. A man is ordained to marry people through one of those mail-in certificates. His sister has asked him to perform her marriage ceremony. But her fiancé is a lying, coke addled, no-good drunk! How can he bless this mess? 206-302-2064  or voicemail@savagelovecast.com The Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Dame Products: a woman-founded sex toy company. Visit to check out Eva- the hands-freevibrator. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage".
Feb 04, 2020
Savage Love Episode 692
51:12
Have you ever experienced conflict during a family vacation? The first call on this show might put it all in perspective for you. A protective big sister can't stand that her 17 year-old sis is dating a 21 year-old man. Their parents don't mind. Should big sister give the guy a chance, or is the age difference unacceptable? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Elizabeth Sheff from Psychology Today about raising children within a polyamorous household. And finally, a woman is considering becoming a fin-dom, with the power to financially ruin her client. But she doesn't want to ruin anyone. Is there a way to ethically do this? 206-302-2064    voicemail@savagelovecast.com The Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Dame Products: a woman-founded sex toy company. Visit to check out Eva- the hands-free vibrator. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to .   This episode is brought to you by . Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage".
Jan 28, 2020
Savage Love Episode 691
48:29
Scootch closer, ya'll. It's Bible study with Dan Savage. On with the show: A happily single woman finally broke down after pressure from her friend to have some sex. Against her misgivings, he convinced her to pursue a relationship, promising that if it didn't work out, they could go back to being friends, easy-peasy. Guess what! Now that she wants to break it off, he can't deal with being just friends AND they are starting a business together. Please take heed to this cautionary tale. A pregnant woman can't stand the consistency of her husband's thick, slimy spit. If he drinks more water, will it change? Can she demand he do so?   On the Magnum, Dan speaks with writer Michal Daveed about hypno-kink. You know, erotic hypnosis? She explains how god damn sexy it can be, and dispels some myths too.   And, hear a most UNwholesome tale about what goes down under the mistletoe. Seriously, that whole mistletoe thing has always been a recipe for disaster, don't you think? 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. ThredUP is the world’s largest online thrift store with over 35,000 brands at up to 90% off retail price. For a limited time, get up to 30% off your first order at . This episode is brought to you by Calm, the #1 app for sleep and relaxation. For a limited time get 25% off a Calm Premium subscription at .
Jan 21, 2020