ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

By Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

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Is your marriage everything that you want it to be? Are you ready to make a change? Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo to create a strong marriage so you can have mind-blowing intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. Marriage is not always easy but it's so worth it. Come and make your marriage EXTRAORDINARY!

Episode Date
459: TRADITIONS
29:30

What is it about traditions that makes them so important. Learn about those fun Christmas traditions that create connection and memories with your family. | "At the heart of every family tradition is a meaningful experience." —Anonymous

Dec 18, 2018
458: BETTER THAN YESTERDAY
30:01

Don't let perception and comparison can get in the way of action. Learn how your attitude and behavior can make today better than yesterday. | "You can’t have a better tomorrow if you are thinking about yesterday all the time." —Charles Kettering

Dec 11, 2018
457: 12 SEXY DAYS OF CHRISTMAS
29:46

Add your own little twist to the traditional 12 Days of Christmas by having the 12 Sexy Days of Christmas to build your intimacy and connection. | "Success is where preparation and opportunity meet." —Bobby Unser

Dec 04, 2018
456: BEING INTIMATE THIS HOLIDAY SEASON
30:01

Your marriage needs you to be intimate no matter what the season. Learn how the two of you can build deeper intimacy during this holiday season. | "It's the hap-happiest season of all. With those holiday greetings and gay happy meetings. When friends come to call. It's the hap-happiest season of all." —Andy Williams

Nov 27, 2018
455: EXPRESSING GRATITUDE
30:01

Learn what can happen when you’re focusing on the power of gratitude to change how you see your spouse and your marriage. | "The miracle of gratitude is that it shifts your perception in to such an extent that it changes the world you see." —Dr. Robert Holden

Nov 20, 2018
454: DEALING WITH THE IN-LAWS

Your in-laws can create a dynamic especially around the holidays leaving you frustrated with the impact they have on your marriage. | "No one should come between you and your spouse. They should come alongside you but not between you." —Ashley McIlwain

Nov 13, 2018
454: DEALING WITH THE IN-LAWS
32:21

Your in-laws can create a dynamic especially around the holidays leaving you frustrated with the impact they have on your marriage. | "No one should come between you and your spouse. They should come alongside you but not between you." —Ashley McIlwain

Nov 13, 2018
453: FEAR IS CRIPPLING MARRIAGES
30:01

Learn about how fear can cripple your marriage and what you can do to recapture your joy and confidence to live the extraordinary marriage you desire. | "When we invite fear, doubt or worry to occupy seats in the boardroom of our heart, all kinds of things can wreck the joy of our marriages." —Anonymous

Nov 06, 2018
452: MULTIPLE ORGASMS
30:01

Learn about multiple orgasms for both women and men, and how this information can change what happens in the bedroom. | "The only thing better than having an orgasm? Having another orgasm." —Anonymous

Oct 30, 2018
451: QUANTITY AND QUALITY SEX LIFE
30:01

Learn the challenge of having both the quantity AND quality sex life your desire and what you can do to begin changing both of those. | "Quality is never the result of an accident. It is always the result of intelligent effort." —John Ruskin

Oct 23, 2018
450: THOSE BODILY FUNCTIONS
30:01

Learn the many different bodily functions that regularly occur in your body as well as those that happen with your spouse. | "Never trust a girl who doesn’t fart, you don’t know what else she’s holding back from you." — Anonymous

Oct 16, 2018
449: WHAT DID YOU SAY?
30:01

Your words have power. The power to build up or the power to destroy. What you say and how you say it has the power to build up or tear down your marriage. | "Words are free, it’s how you use them that may cost you." —Anonymous

Oct 09, 2018
448: WORKING OUT FORGIVENESS
33:41

Learn how forgiveness is the key to unlocking the joy you desire as you experience real growth and connection with your spouse. | "Don’t let the past limit the future." —Anonymous

Oct 02, 2018
447: MAKE INTIMACY A PRIORITY
30:01

Learn how to make intimacy a priority, what you need to consider and how to get started. | "Great things never come from inside the comfort zone." —Anonymous

Sep 25, 2018
446: MORNING SEX
30:01

Learn the impact of morning sex on your marriage and how it can become a valuable resource in your relationship. | "Every morning starts a new page in your story. Make it a great one today." —Anonymous

Sep 18, 2018
445: WE DIDN'T KNOW
30:16

We didn’t know that in order to go to the next level there was something very important that we need to do and that was to ask for help. | "When I first met you I honestly didn’t know how important you were going to be to me." —Anonymous

Sep 11, 2018
444: KEEP THE ROMANCE ALIVE
30:01

Learn about the state of romance in marriage and what you can do to keep the romance alive with your spouse. | "I fell in love with the way that you touched me without using your hands." —Anonymous

Sep 04, 2018
443: HONEST TRUTH ABOUT THE FEMALE ORGASM
30:01

Learn the honest truth about the female orgasm and how the two of you can discuss this topic as well as experience joy in this area. | "It takes 237 muscles to fake an orgasm, but only 15 to say, "It's called a clitoris and it's right here.""

Aug 28, 2018
442: NEVER TOO OLD FOR SEX
29:51

It doesn’t matter how old you are you can still enjoy sex! Learn how you and your spouse can have an amazing sex life well into your later years of life. | "You can’t help getting older but you don’t have to get OLD." —George Burns

Aug 21, 2018
441: CRITICAL FEEDBACK
30:01

Feedback is not a bad thing...it’s all about how it’s delivered. Learn how the two of you handle critical feedback in your marriage. | "Giving honest and well intended feedback is often confused with being mean. It’s not mean. It’s nice." —Robert Kiyosaki

Aug 14, 2018
440: WHAT MEN GET FROM FOREPLAY
30:01

Learn what you can do to make foreplay a time when you are both heigtening the sexual arousal and the desire for sexual activity. | "Don’t rush through foreplay. Play with each other until you can’t take it anymore." —Anonymous

Aug 07, 2018
439: STOP SERVING THOSE LEFTOVERS
30:01

Learn about the dangers of serving up the leftovers to your spouse over and over again and how to turn this around in your marriage. | "Most couples make the mistake of giving each other the remains of the day. The leftover time after every other relationship and task has been attended to. This is not only backwards, but destructive. Stellar partners give each other prime time, and make each other their top priority." — Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Jul 31, 2018
438: DO THE OPPOSITE
30:01

Learn what happens to the two of you when you choose to do the opposite of what you feel like doing in difficult situations. | "In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision." —Dalai Lama

Jul 24, 2018
437: THE ART OF MANSCAPING
30:21

Manscaping is the removal or trimming of hair on a man's body for cosmetic effect. Learn the impact that it can have on you and your marriage. | "I think grooming is undervalued by men. We expect women to be fully groomed which they do. But I also think it’s just as important for a man to look clean and fresh." —Lewis Hamilton

Jul 17, 2018
436: SEX DURING HER PERIOD
30:11

Learn about the possibilities of having sex while she’s on her period, how the two of you navigate that conversation and what factors you might need to consider. | "Do not be too timid or squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment." —Ralph Waldo Emerson

Jul 10, 2018
435: HE'S NOT YOUR CHILD
30:01

Learn the dynamic that occurs in a marriage when a wife refers to her husband as a child and what the two of you can do to change that. | "Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs." —Strachan Hurd

Jul 03, 2018
434: LESSONS FROM THE BEACH
30:21

Marriage is an adventure and it’s one of the most amazing journeys the two of you will ever be on. Learn the marriage lessons from time spent at the beach. | "Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure." —Anonymous

Jun 26, 2018
433: SETTING UP GUARDRAILS
30:01

Guardrails are systems that YOU put in place that allow you to be proactive about your marriage rather than reactive after things go wrong. | "Guardrails: No one needs one until they do." —Anonymous

Jun 19, 2018
432: THE END OF REJECTION
30:01

Learn about the impact rejection has on a spouse’s willingness to initiate again and what the two of you can do to turn this around. | "Being afraid of things going wrong isn’t the way to make things go right." —Anonymous

Jun 12, 2018
431: MARRIAGE BUILDING HABITS
30:31

You have the power to create new habits around your sex life, with conversations or with anything you do in your marriage. | "A bad habit never disappears miraculously. It’s an un-do-it-yourself project." —Abigail Van Buren (Dear Abby)

Jun 05, 2018
430: SEXUALLY SATISFIED
30:01

Learn what to do in your marriage when one of you is not sexually satisfied. It's important to have a healthy understanding of yourself and earnest pursuit of pleasing your spouse as you grow together. | "It’s hard to be satisfied with your life (or your marriage), if you are never satisfied with yourself." —Anonymous

May 29, 2018
429: SUMMER LOVIN'
30:01

Learn how to keep your summer lovin’ going through those hot nights, vacations, kiddos running around the house and all that comes during this season. | "There is always that one summer that changes you." —Anonymous

May 22, 2018
428: DOES THIS OUTFIT MAKE ME LOOK FAT
29:51

Learn how to break away from sabotaging your marriage with a question such as “Does this outfit make me look fat?” | "Never, ever underestimate the power of your words to build up or tear down the fabric of your marriage." —Anonymous

May 15, 2018
427: TALKING TO YOUR KIDS ABOUT SEX
30:01

Learn why it is important to make the most of every opportunity to talk about sex with your kids. | "The greatest enemy of sexual wholeness today, is silence." —Mark Lasser

May 08, 2018
426: SEX IS GOOD FOR YOUR HEALTH
30:01

Learn how your bedroom and more specifically sex with your spouse could have an impact on your overall health. | "Most people have no idea how good their body is designed to feel." —Kevin Trudeau

May 01, 2018
425: OH BABY!
30:01

Learn the impact that having a baby can have on a marriage and how the two of you can maintain intimacy, in all areas after the baby comes. | "Remember that children, marriages and gardens reflect the kind of care they get." —H Jackson Brown Jr.

Apr 24, 2018
424: ANATOMY OF AN ERECTION
30:01

Learn how and why a man’s penis becomes firmer, engorged and enlarged, or better known as an erection. | "The pursuit of knowledge is never ending. The day you stop seeking knowledge is the day you stop growing." —Travis Ciaccio

Apr 17, 2018
423: PAYCHECK TO PAYCHECK
31:01

Learn about the challenges of living paycheck to paycheck and it’s impact on your marriage, especially in the bedroom. | "Money is an opportunity to reach unity in marriage. When couples work together they can do anything." —Anonymous

Apr 10, 2018
422: WHAT IS THE INTIMACY LIFESTYLE
30:01

Learn how the intimacy lifestyle can become a part of your marriage and we'll answer your questions on how to best set it up. | "The capacity to learn is a gift. The ability to learn is a skill. The willingness to learn is a choice." —Brian Herbert

Apr 03, 2018
421: TELLING YOUR SPOUSE YOU STRUGGLE WITH PORN
30:00

Learn about the harm that comes from lying about porn and how to handle the gift of truth when it’s brought into the light. | "The truth may hurt for a little while but a lie hurts forever." —Anonymous

Mar 27, 2018
420: CONFIDENCE IN THE BEDROOM
30:01

Learn how you can develop the confidence muscle if you are willing to stretch yourself and when you do you'll increase your confidence in the bedroom. | "Self confidence is the best outfit, rock it and own it." —Anonymous

Mar 20, 2018
419: WE HAVE TROUBLE TALKING
30:01

There are many couples that have trouble talking. Learn what to do when the two of you have trouble talking in your marriage. | "Daring greatly means the courage to be vulnerable. It means to show up and be seen. To ask for what you need. Talk about how you are feeling. To have the hard conversations." —Brene Brown

Mar 13, 2018
418: CAUGHT IN THE COMPARISON TRAP
30:01

There are times when you can be so focused on other people’s lives that you have stopped living your own. Learn the destructive nature of comparison and how you can refocus on your marriage. | "Every minute you spend wishing you had someone else’s life is a minute spent wasting yours." —Anonymous

Mar 06, 2018
417: CRYSTAL CLEAR
30:01

Learn about the challenges you face with your communication when words are not crystal clear and share seven words that will help you clear up the confusion. | "Clarity comes from action, not thought." —Marie Forleo

Feb 27, 2018
416: A LONG HOT SHOWER
30:01

Learn what can happen when you take off your clothes as you step into the power of a long hot shower to create a connection in your marriage. | "Let’s go take a hot shower. It’s like a normal shower but with us in it." —Anonymous

Feb 20, 2018
415: WHAT'S YOUR LOVE STORY
30:21

Learn about the ebb and flow of our love story and why sharing your love story can make an impact on both of you. | "Every love story is beautiful but ours is my favorite." —Anonymous

Feb 13, 2018
414: SEXPLORATION
30:41

Learn how your sexploration, choosing to explore your sexual intimacy as a couple, impacts both of you as well as your relationship dynamics. | "We live in a wonderful world that is full of beauty, charm and adventure. There is no end to the adventures that we can have if only we seek them with our eyes wide open." —Jawaharlal Nehru

Feb 06, 2018
413: LIKE A BROKEN RECORD
30:01

Learn what happens when you feel like areas of your marriage are a broken record, playing the same negative scenes over and over again and what you can do to start to create change. | "You can’t change what’s going on around you until you change what’s going on within you." —Anonymous

Jan 30, 2018
412: HOW ABOUT THESE POSITIONS
30:01

Learn how you can change the atmosphere inside and outside your bedroom when you have more than one sexual position. | "Variety is the spice of life. We all want surprises." —Tony Robbins

Jan 23, 2018
411: FORGIVENESS WILL SET YOU FREE
30:11

It’s time to change how you view forgiveness. Learn about the destructive nature of unforgiveness and what happens when you let forgiveness into your heart. | "When you hold onto anger and unforgiveness you can’t move forward." —Mary J Blige

Jan 16, 2018
410: FIND YOUR PRECIOUS MOMENTS EACH WEEK
30:10

Learn about making time for the two of you as a couple, why you need to do this and where you can find those precious moments. | "The greatest gift you can give someone is your time. Because when you are giving your time you are giving a portion of your life that you can never get back." —Anonymous

Jan 09, 2018
409: WHAT CAN I DO
31:31

If you want to create an extraordinary marriage, it starts with one question and only one question...What Can I Do. | "It’s easy to blame others when things are broken. The hard part is recognizing the part you played in it all." —Anonymous

Jan 02, 2018
408: WRAPPING UP THIS SEASON
30:11

Learn about transitioning from one season to another and how you can make the next season the best ever in your marriage. | "There will come a time when you think everything is finished. That will be the beginning." —Louis L’Amour

Dec 26, 2017
407: SEXY GAMES TO HEAT THINGS UP
30:46

Learn how you can heat things up in your bedroom by playing some sexy games together. | "Just play, have fun, enjoy the game." —Michael Jordan

Dec 19, 2017
406: FAKING IT
30:26

Learn what happens when you are faking your happiness during the holidays, in social situations and with your spouse in the bedroom. | "Saying you’re happy isn’t the same thing as being happy." —Anonymous

Dec 12, 2017
405: WE DID IT! NOW WHAT?
30:11

Learn what comes after you complete the 7 Days of Sex Challenge and how you can continue to grow and strengthen the physical intimacy in your marriage. | "I didn’t come this far to only come this far." —Anonymous

Dec 05, 2017
404: ROCK YOUR SEX LIFE
30:31

Learn how you can rock your sex life and change the dynamics in your marriage in just seven days. | "A lot could happen in a week. Just look at the last one." —Julia Quinn

Nov 28, 2017
403: A THANKFUL HEART
29:56

Learn about the impact being thankful has on your marriage and how you can increase your gratitude awareness any time of the year. | "When I started counting my blessings my whole life turned around." —Willie Nelson

Nov 21, 2017
402: HOLIDAY MARRIAGE HACKS
30:11

Learn about those special marriage hacks that you can do to make this the most amazing holidays you will celebrate with your spouse. | "It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way that you carry it. " —Lou Holtz

Nov 14, 2017
401: MOAN OUT LOUD
30:31

Learn about the impact you have on yourself and your spouse when you moan and verbalize your pleasure during sexual intimacy. | "There’s nothing more exciting than hearing your spouse moan in pleasure and knowing you are responsible for it." —Anonymous

Nov 07, 2017
400: HUGS FROM NEAR AND FAR
33:31

Over the last 399 shows you have meant a lot to the ONE Family. And this show is all about you as we share hugs from near and far! | “Remember to celebrate milestones as you prepare for the road ahead.” —Nelson Mandela

Oct 31, 2017
399: WORK SPOUSE DANGER
30:16

The slippery slope of having a work spouse is real. Learn what you need to do to put guardrails around yourself and marriage to protect yourself. | "Most people involved in emotional affairs will downplay the seriousness of the event by claiming that they are just friends or it’s not big deal, nothing happened." —Anonymous

Oct 24, 2017
398: THE HOLIDAYS ARE COMING
30:01

Thanksgiving and Christmas are almost here. Learn what you can do to get on the same page with your financial intimacy as the holidays approach. | "Planning for Thanksgiving and Christmas should take place months in advance. They are not a surprise." —Dave Ramsey

Oct 17, 2017
397: FEELING REJECTED
30:41

Learn what to do with those feelings you have when you are rejected or when you reject your spouse and what you can do to create change in your marriage. | "Rejection doesn’t mean that you aren’t good enough. It means the other person failed to notice what you have to offer." —Sam Keen

Oct 10, 2017
396: HONOR YOUR WORDS
30:16

You spoke your vows on your wedding now now learn what you can do to honor those words you spoke through tough times and good times. | "You come to love not by finding the perfect person BUT by learning to love an imperfect person perfectly." —Sam Keen

Oct 03, 2017
395: THAT TIME OF THE MONTH
30:01

A woman's period happens every month. Learn how you can stay connected physically and emotionally when it’s that time of the month in your home. | "A great marriage is made of two people who continuously put their vows ahead of their feelings." —Anonymous

Sep 26, 2017
394: TOTALLY EXHAUSTED
29:51

The truth is that we spend so much time being exhausted that often we don’t even realize that it’s impacting our marriages. | Survival mode is supposed to be a phase that helps save your life. It’s not meant to be how you live your life. —Michele Rosenthal

Sep 19, 2017
393: IS YOUR VIBRATOR A CRUTCH?
29:56

Learn how the vibrator might be a crutch for your sexual intimacy and what it might look like to consider a different path. | "Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great." —John D. Rockefeller

Sep 12, 2017
392: CAN'T SEEM TO DO ANYTHING RIGHT
31:01

If you find yourself in a place where you can’t do anything right OR thinking that your spouse can’t do anything right your marriage has a big problem. | "Why can’t my spouse see just how much I am trying." —Anonymous

Sep 05, 2017
391: LUBE IT UP
30:06

Pull out the lubricant and get ready to enjoy some special one on one time together. | "...friction is likely to generate heat instead of progress." —George Eliot

Aug 29, 2017
390: ENOUGH DRAMA ALREADY
30:08

Creating drama can hurt your marriage. Learn what you can do instead to build up, strengthen and support one another. | Don’t start drama and then say you hate drama. —Anonymous

Aug 22, 2017
389: WE CAN HANDLE IT
30:51

The two of you can handle the storms in your marriage while becoming united in your commitment to one another like never before. | Relax. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You are living and learning. Forgive yourself and grow from the experience." —Anonymous

Aug 15, 2017
388: SHOULD AN ORGASM BE THE ULTIMATE GOAL
31:26

Should an orgasm be the ultimate goal for you and your spouse every time you have sex? | Once your learn to appreciate the small victories there is no need for a finish line. —Anonymous

Aug 08, 2017
387: WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING AT?
30:01

Stop looking down at your phone. It's important to know where your eyes are looking and the message that they send to your spouse. | I love the look you give me when you really want me." —Anonymous

Aug 01, 2017
386: RULES FOR A BETTER MARRIAGE
30:11

Learn what you can do now to make your marriage better tomorrow, next week and for years to come. | It’s not about being the best. It’s about being better than you were yesterday. —Anonymous | Subscribe to the show today!

Jul 25, 2017
385: WHAT DO YOU WANT IN THE BEDROOM?
31:21

Learn the different ways to let your spouse know what you like about your sexual intimacy in the bedroom. It's worth every word. | We all need people who will give us feedback. That’s how we improve. —Bill Gates

Jul 18, 2017
384: BEING SENSUAL
30:01

Learn what you can do to be sensual and how you can share these ideas with your spouse. | Being sensual in your marriage doesn’t end on the honeymoon, your marriage needs all 5 senses working throughout.

Jul 11, 2017
383: CANCER CAN'T STOP THE ADVICE FROM A FATHER
30:11

Learn the responsibility and impact a father has to give sound advice to his children on living a marriage for years to come. | Son, don’t cheat. I’ve had plenty of opportunities over the years but it’s like this...why would I go out for a hamburger when I have a steak at home. —Carmen DiLorenzo

Jul 04, 2017
382: FOREPLAY FUN
30:01

Learn why foreplay is a powerful skill you need to know as you lead up to intercourse. | Go down a water-slide without any water and you will understand why foreplay is important. —Anonymous

Jun 27, 2017
381: SUMMER FUN
30:41

Learn a number of different date ideas you can enjoy so your marriage doesn’t take a vacation during all your summer fun. | Remember the tans will fade but the memories will last forever.

Jun 20, 2017
380: THE ULTIMATE MARATHON
30:11

Learn how your commitment to marriage is the ultimate marathon with an unknown finish line. | Your marriage vows say for as long as life shall last NOT until you get tired or you don’t want to anymore.

Jun 13, 2017
379: WHEN HE CAN'T ORGASM
30:11

You are not just waiting in vain. There is a purpose behind every delay. —Mandy Hale | Learn about the reasons why he can’t orgasm and how the two of you can get through this together.

Jun 06, 2017
378: LET'S HAVE MIND-BLOWING SEX
31:01

Your life does not get better by chance it gets better by change. —Jim Rohn | Learn how you can have mind-blowing sex and surprisingly it has very little to do with the act itself.

May 30, 2017
377: I'M OFFENDED
30:16

If you take everything personally, you will remain offended for the rest of your life. What other people do is because of them, not you. —Vivian Benson | Learn what happens when you are offended and how to work through offense with your spouse.

May 23, 2017
376: THOSE PARENTING BEHAVIORS
30:01

Each generation will reap what the former generation has sown. —Chinese Proverb | Learn how to break free of those negative parenting behaviors that have held you back from having the extraordinary marriage you desire.

May 16, 2017
375: WHEN TRANSITIONS HAPPEN
30:11
"Honor the space between no longer and not yet." —Nancy Levin When you are married, transitions don’t only affect you, they also affect your spouse. Transitions can impact the different intimacies in your marriage. Marriage is full of transitions: First house First baby Moves Job changes Job losses Taking care of kids Taking care of your parents One income Two incomes Kids becoming adults And the list goes on You can seemingly be going along thinking... "Ah, life is good, we’ve got everything figured out", then BAM transition comes. Or, you’re planning for a natural transition, kids growing up, buying a house, moving and yet, no matter how much you plan for it, there are still situations in that transition that catch you off guard. Everyone handles transitions differently. Some people jump right in, put their blinders on and power through whatever that change is. Some people can become paralyzed with all of the decisions that have to be made, they can feel helpless in those seasons, not knowing which way is the right way to go and so they withdraw from doing anything. For some, transitions feel very uncertain, and there is a high level of fear. For others, the transitions may be unwelcome or unplanned and there is a high level of anger or sadness. All of these reactions will impact you and your spouse. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how you can navigate life, work and other transitions you will face together as a team. EPISODE SPONSOR | HelloFresh HelloFresh is the meal kit delivery service that makes cooking fun, easy, and convenient! Each week HelloFresh creates new delicious recipes with step-by-step instructions designed to take around 30 minutes. For novices to seasoned home-cooks who are short on time HelloFresh sources the freshest ingredients, measured to the exact quantities needed so there’s no food waste.  Take $30 off your first week of deliveries when you enter promo code OEM30. Other Resources: 140 - Scheduling Sex Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
May 09, 2017
374: YOU’VE LOST THOSE LOVING FEELINGS
30:41
"Never stop showing someone how much they mean to you." Over time you have lost the anticipation and excitement of your relationship. Your marriage has become something you have to tolerate, something you have to survive or make it through. For some it's like the song from the Righteous Brother’s “You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling”. You may have lost that loving feeling and you're wondering on what to do next. Do you remember when the two of you were courting one another? There was anticipation and excitement when you would spend time together. During your courtship both of you invested in the relationship by getting to know one another, spending time together and being intentional about your time together. You prepared and thought about the other’s needs. You planned for dates, conversations, and everything else. It wasn’t just “anything goes” rather it was a season of “let me put my best foot forward. After the honeymoon and many years together your lives fall into routines. You have a comfort level with one another and if you are really truthful with yourselves you've become lazy in your marriage. Time together has not been important, you don’t do the little things anymore, you've stopped having conversations that meant so much when you were courting one another. You're beginning to hear these phrases more and more: This is too much work. You’re too needy. Why won’t you spend time with me? It's time to get those loving feelings back by courting your spouse like you did when you first meet. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how you can have those loving feelings of affection and connection with your spouse once again. EPISODE SPONSOR | StoryWorth StoryWorth is an amazing way to preserve memories and to learn about your spouse, mom, dad or any relative or friend with their responses. Each week StoryWorth will send your loved one an email with a question to be answered (you can either choose from the questions provided or come up with your own). At the end of the year, the stories will be printed into a hardcover book. Don’t miss out on this opportunity to capture life’s most treasured moments. Grab your subscription to StoryWorth today! Other Resources: 3 Marriage Tips From A Pageant Coach Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
May 02, 2017
373: ARE YOU UP FOR A SEX CHALLENGE
30:16
"Never be afraid to try something new BECAUSE life gets boring when you stay within the limits of what you already know." The first sex challenge we completed happened 9 years ago in the fall of 2008. We had been married 11 years and these years were not the best years. Two kids ages 2 and 5 years old had taken up much of our times We lived as roommates with little to no intimacy. It was at this time that we decided to take on the 60 Days of Sex Challenge. A bit crazy... Yes. Worth it... Absolutely. We had no idea at the time what would happen in our life when one question was asked and the one answer was given. The same thing is true in your marriage. There are so many pivot points in a relationship. So many times when you could go left or right, working with each other or working against each other. We made one decision, 9 years ago, to make sex a priority in our marriage, to go from living like roommates to living like lovers, to being open about our sexual needs and to being transparent in the bedroom, and out of it Your marriage can experience the same. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about what can happen in your marriage when the two of you take on a sex challenge. EPISODE SPONSOR | CanvasPeople.com CanvasPeople.com has a very easy to use Photo-to-Canvas service that takes your favorite photo memories and turns them into beautiful artwork for you to enjoy every day.  Instead of snapping that beautiful photo and letting it rot on your cell phone – you can bring that photo to life on your walls at home, in your office, or to give as a great gift. Limited Time Offer: Order an 11x14 canvas for FREE. All you pay for is shipping. Use Promo Code: marriage at checkout. Grab your FREE canvas today! Other Resources: Intimacy Ignited 7 Days of Sex Challenge 19 Questions to Amazing Sex Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 25, 2017
372: STOP THE NAGGING
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"She's not nagging. She's trying to tell you something. The only reason she's being persistent is because she cares. When she stops nagging, you should be worried because at that point she no longer cares." Nagging usually doesn’t start out as a problem in marriage. As time goes on though you begin to share things with your spouse that are bothering you. You don't see any change in behavior so you repeat yourself, over and over again. Then you get demanding. Sometimes you get mean and angry. Other times you get loud because you want to make sure they hear you. And still no results. You continue to nag and to you it seems that your spouse just ignores your requests. Why? Because nagging isn’t solving your communication problems. In fact it could be making  your communication worse. When nagging is present in your marriage, it’s time for both of you to evaluate what’s going on. If you are repeatedly nagging your spouse you need to ask yourself... Why aren’t your requests being heard or acted upon? Are you treating your spouse like a partner or like a child? Do they hear encouragement from you or is it only criticism? If you are continuously feeling nagged you need to ask yourself... What is my spouse trying to tell me and what action(s) do I need to take? What is my spouse pointing out that I don’t want to change or acknowledge? Nagging is a symptom that there is disconnect in your marriage and when nagging is present it’s time to take action. Nagging over time is incredibly destructive as it literally chips away at the foundation of your marriage, one comment at a time. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the impact of nagging on your marriage and the strategies you can use to stop this style of communication. EPISODE SPONSOR | CanvasPeople.com CanvasPeople.com has a very easy to use Photo-to-Canvas service that takes your favorite photo memories and turns them into beautiful artwork for you to enjoy every day.  Instead of snapping that beautiful photo and letting it rot on your cell phone – you can bring that photo to life on your walls at home, in your office, or to give as a great gift. Limited Time Offer: Order an 11x14 canvas for FREE. All you pay for is shipping. Use Promo Code: marriage at checkout. Grab your FREE canvas today! Other Resources: 295: The No Rejection Zone 334: The Emasculated Man 335: She’s Not Your Mother Feelings List Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 18, 2017
371: YOU CAN BE A SPONTANEOUS LOVER
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"Success isn’t a result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire." —Arnold Glasgow For the most part your day-to-day activities are ruled by your calendars, by schedules, and by alerts popping up on your phone. It doesn’t matter how you stay organized, the fact is that you have ways to keep your time organized and keep you moving to the next thing. And then... It comes to your sex life. You desire spontaneity and yet your life is ruled by schedules. Or you are waiting for the perfect moment, the perfect energy level, the perfect number of chores, obligations and to-dos to be done. Waiting for all of these things to line up will cause you to miss out on opportunities to connect with your spouse. Instead begin to look for those opportunities to be spontaneous within the structure of your marriage. You desire a quick encounter and be a spontaneous lover but then you are not on the same wavelength with your spouse. There is a yearning to have sex outside of your bedroom and yet you don’t always know how to make that happen so it doesn't. Many of us often fight against structure or planning because we feel like it’s going to take away from our freedom. In actuality the opposite is true. Why? Because if you know the framework, the starting line, then anything is possible. For example, many of you have heard us talk about The Intimacy Lifestyle. We have structure only in the way that the days of the week have been split up. That’s our starting line. The creativity comes in when we choose our own ways to initiate. So let the fun begin as you become a spontaneous lover. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how you can have fun and excitement in your bedroom by being a spontaneous lover. EPISODE SPONSOR | Called to Love: Experiencing Your Best Marriage Through the Words of Jesus Marriage doesn't have to be so complicated. There is a manual on how to do this thing called "happily ever after."  In Called to Love you will be equipped to look at your spouse the way that Jesus does, take time to pray for your marriage instead of throwing up your hands and saying, "Heaven help me" and transform your relationship into what God intended for your marriage when the two of you became one. Grab your copy of Called to Love and the audio book bonus today. Other Resources: 21 Ways to Initiate Sex With Your Spouse 001: 60 Days of Sex Jinshi Bamboo Boxer Briefs Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 11, 2017
370: CHANGE STARTS WITH ME
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"Being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness rather it is a sign of strength. It takes courage to let others into your world." —Anonymous As a couple you may be stuck. You may be stuck in the same routines. Maybe you're stuck in the same fights. Or you've noticed that your marriage is stuck in the same cycles. It’s as if every day is groundhog day. You wake up and the same day is repeated over and over again. This repetition in your marriage leads to feelings of boredom, discontentment and a lack of interest. Recently you’ve been asking yourself, "Is this is as good as it gets?" Well... If you are not willing to make a change it might be time. With a few tweaks you'd be amazed what could happen in your marriage. Here's the thing, to get something different you have to do something different. What are you willing to do in your marriage to experience a shift like never before? Where can you begin to change the environment in your marriage? How will stepping into a new habit impact what you do with your spouse? To get to extraordinary you need to stop waiting for your spouse to grow or change first and take the lead. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of taking action to create change in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Called to Love: Experiencing Your Best Marriage Through the Words of Jesus Marriage doesn't have to be so complicated. There is a manual on how to do this thing called "happily ever after."  In Called to Love you will be equipped to look at your spouse the way that Jesus does, take time to pray for your marriage instead of throwing up your hands and saying, "Heaven help me" and transform your relationship into what God intended for your marriage when the two of you became one. Grab your copy of Called to Love and the audio book bonus today. Other Resources: The Intimacy Wheel 15 Ways to Romance Your Spouse Over the Next 30 Days Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 04, 2017
369: MEN NEED FRIENDS
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"Men who trust other men will make fewer mistakes than he who distrusts them." —Camillo de Cavour When you think about your friendships as a kid and as an adult a few things stand out and the research is supporting this. During childhood both boys and girls have friends and often make deep friendships. From roughhousing on the playground to building with Legos, from competing on the sports field to running to winning the debate, there is a connection that boys have that as children often looks similar to girls. And then somewhere in those middle teenage years research says that the friendships boys have start to change. They don’t necessarily have that emotional connection, it’s not a place to be vulnerable and yet men need this as much as women. Think about the friends that each of you have. Maybe your friends are couple friends. You both share and hang out together on the weekends. Or the friends that you hang with are the husbands of your wives friends or the dads of your kids friends. Men need their own friends. Wives you can’t be everything for your husband. It’s not healthy for either of you. Husbands you need to hang out with men. Without deep, vulnerable friendships men live in a facade. They keep up the image at work, at home, everywhere and become more and more isolated. Truth is that men have the same emotional needs that women do, granted it looks different. Wives, you need to be encouraging your husband to grow strong, positive friendships with men who will encourage him to be a strong man and husband. Guys you need mentors and peers who will elevate who you are, who will provide you with that sounding board and understanding. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about why you as a man and husband need friends that will encourage, lift you up and support you through all seasons of life. EPISODE SPONSOR | Called to Love: Experiencing Your Best Marriage Through the Words of Jesus Transform your relationship into what God intended for your marriage when the two of you became one. Mark your calendars for April 4th because you’re not going to want to miss the release of Alisa's upcoming book, Called to Love. ONE Family sign up now as you will be receiving an extra special opportunity during the launch of the book. The finishing touches are happening to help you experience your best marriage. Get signed up today! Other Resources: Emerge Conference Maximized Manhood Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 28, 2017
368: LAST LONGER IN BED
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"We don’t grow when things are easy, we grow when we face challenges." —Anonymous You want to last longer and yet most of the time you ejaculate quicker than you'd like. When you orgasm within 1-3 minutes of penetration this is general considered premature ejaculation. 20-30% of men (and their partners) are impacted by what is considered the most common type of male sexual dysfunction. Here’s the thing... you are not alone. 60% of US men feel that this is embarrassing which equate to roughly 77 million men who are feeling challenged in this area of sexual intimacy. 37% of women say that they are disappointed with their partner finishes before they do. Due to media messages of what’s normal 40% of men are feeling self conscious about their performance. That’s a lot of stress around one of the most intimate areas of your relationship. All of that stress is not making things any easier for either of you as the impact on marriage can be devastating. In many marriages the husband feels less than or inadequate. The wife is frustrated that there is so much focus on lasting longer and not so much focus on growing the relationship. He doesn’t know what to say. She doesn’t know what to say. Over time having sex become awkward and the two of you feel more disconnected. Without conversation around the topic it can truly become a wait and see place of nothingness in your marriage. Which often leads to nothing in the bedroom, also known as a sexless marriage. It doesn’t have to be like this. You don’t have to stop talking when things aren’t going well. You also don’t have to feel helpless, like there’s nothing that you can do. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about what both you and your spouse can do in the moment to help you last longer in bed. EPISODE SPONSOR | Called to Love: Experiencing Your Best Marriage Through the Words of Jesus Transform your relationship into what God intended for your marriage when the two of you became one. Mark your calendars for April 4th because you’re not going to want to miss the release of Alisa's upcoming book, Called to Love. ONE Family sign up now as you will be receiving an extra special opportunity during the launch of the book. The finishing touches are happening to help you experience your best marriage. Get signed up today! Other Resources: Essential Oil Diffuser Promescent Prolonging Delay Spray Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 21, 2017
367: I CAN’T TALK ABOUT SEX
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"When you can’t talk about your sex life there’s a connection that the two of you are missing out on." —Anonymous The world that you live in is hypersexualized and yet couples struggle with talking about their sex life with each other. How-to talk about sex is everywhere... it's on TV, on magazine covers, right here on the internet, with your friends but, when couples are asked if they are talking about sex the answer more often than not is "no". As a spouse in a committed relationship you may experience these thoughts: I don’t even know what I want. I’m not comfortable asking for what I want. What if my spouse says no. Our marriage already has enough rejection. My parents never talked about sex why should we. I don’t know how to start the conversation. These thoughts are swirling around your head as you think about having a deeper sexual experience. The thing is there is no way for your spouse to meet your needs sexually if you won’t tell them. Just because you don’t know how to do something doesn’t mean that silence or avoiding it is the best remedy. These emotions of fear, frustration and rejection can, over time create a huge amount of distance or disconnect in your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what you can do to overcome the challenge of not talking about your sex life so that you can try something new. EPISODE SPONSOR | HelloFresh HelloFresh is the meal kit delivery service that makes cooking fun, easy, and convenient! Each week HelloFresh creates new delicious recipes with step-by-step instructions designed to take around 30 minutes. For novices to seasoned home-cooks who are short on time HelloFresh sources the freshest ingredients, measured to the exact quantities needed so there’s no food waste.  Take $35 off your first week of deliveries when you enter promo code OEM. Other Resources: 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 14, 2017
366: LET’S GO TO BED
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"The moment when he rolls over, puts his arm around me and pulls me closer, in his sleep. I like that." —Country Thang Many marriages are suffering from some lack of connection. Often it’s due to our busy schedules and the commitments that keep us running around like crazy. Maybe it’s the kids or your parents who have you running around. Work, volunteering and keeping the house inside and out add a lot to your plate. Then the end of the day comes and all you want to do is veg out. Not just from the world but also from each other. And when couples stops going to bed with each other they miss out on that chance for connection. You miss out on: Cuddling before falling asleep. Conversations that happen in the quiet of your bedroom away from the kids. Random spooning in the middle of the night. Spontaneous sex because the two of you are in the same place at the same time and the door is already locked. Early morning snuggles when your hair is a mess and you have your sleepy face. You and your spouse are desperate for connection and yet you choosing to miss out on this time that you simply cannot get back. Being together in the same bed is all about non-verbal communication. It’s about being together. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the impact that going to bed together has on your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Days of Sex Challenge Total Package With so many couples struggling with how or when to make sexual intimacy happen it’s time to take the guess work out of wondering when you are going to get some. This package includes the 7 Days of Sex Challenge ebook, audiobook and kindle versions along with 4 bonuses. Get your 7 Days of Sex Challenge Total Package TODAY! Other Resources: 6 Benefits of Cuddling With Your Spouse Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 07, 2017
365: I HAVE A HEADACHE… LET’S HAVE SEX
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"Sex solves most problems including headaches." —Anonymous You have a crazy headache, while on vacation, with plans to have sex, on the only night you have away from your kids. You take a nice nap to see if that would take care of it and it didn’t. You still have a headache. You're still in the hotel room you booked. And... you still have a spouse with the expectation that this is your opportunity for sex. What if having sex during this time will help your headache go away? Most of the times it's used as an excuse, an obstacle or a form of rejection. The next time you are about to say, "Not tonight, I have a headache", what if you said, "Yes, tonight! I want to get rid of this headache." What if an orgasm could relieve the pain of your headache? What if when you're not feeling well you could turn to your spouse for comfort instead of pushing them away? What if sex became the treatment to embrace instead of the action to avoid? In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about changing your mindset from “I can't have sex because I have a headache to let's have sexual because I have a headache.” EPISODE SPONSOR | 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom Discover a hit-list of all the top items we’ve used in the last 20 years of marriage to ignite intimacy, connection and comfort in the most important room of all — the bedroom! Use this list to take this show and the ideas in it to the next level as you build your toolbox with resources to make awake sex even more extraordinary. Get 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom NOW! Other Resources: Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 28, 2017
364: VACATION EXPECTATIONS
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"In life it’s not where you go, it’s who you travel with.” —Charlie Schultz There are times when your vacations don’t always go as planned. You have your expectations for everything. From how relaxing it’s going to be to how often the two of you are going to have sex. You think about the adventures you are going to go on, the shows you will see, the relaxing you are going to do and the money you will spend during your trip. And then, you have instances like we have had on our last couple of vacations where we have discussed the sex part but no expectations about anything else. When you go on vacation with expectations that you don’t share with your spouses or you don't have a plan for high stress situations on vacation then the wheels can fall off of a good vacation. Been there, done that! You find yourself remembering the drama instead of the good times. That’s not why you go on vacation. You're not looking for more drama, you want to have an amazing time with your spouse and enjoy this time together. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about communicating to each other those vacation expectations you have so you experience the best travel possible. EPISODE SPONSOR | Connect Like You Did When You First Met — Free Softcover Book Hidden inside this book you’ll discover how to have fun, deep and meaningful conversations so you can connect with you spouse again. Get started on your emotional intimacy journey with your own softcover copy of Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couple PLUS 4 digital bonuses. Limited quantities available so get yours today. Other Resources: Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa 178: Sexpectations 334: The Emasculated Man 335: She’s Not Your Mother Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 21, 2017
363: HEATING UP YOUR BEDROOM
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"Let’s cuddle so that I can steal your body heat.” —Anonymous There are different reasons and times of the year when your bedroom is cold. It could be winter time, the air conditioning is on to beat the summer heat or your bedroom is in a cool part of your home. On the other hand one of you may run colder than the other. (We live this in our marriage.) When you are cold it makes heating things up in the bedroom a challenge. Let's face it... It’s tough to be naked when you are cold. It's difficult to be adventurous when you are freezing. There can be a serious disconnect in the bedroom when it comes to temperature. But how are going to heat up the bedroom so you can heat things up under the sheets? What can you do to create an environment where you want to be naked with one another, a place where you are comfortable being naked because you aren’t freezing? It's time to find different ways to heat up your bedroom. When you do you will begin to eliminate the excuses so that you can heat up your physically and sexually intimacy during those cold nights. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of heating things up in the bedroom when it’s cold outside for more enjoyment under the covers. EPISODE SPONSOR | 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom Discover a hit-list of all the top items we’ve used in the last 20 years of marriage to ignite intimacy, connection and comfort in the most important room of all -- the bedroom! Use this list to take this show and the ideas in it to the next level as you build your toolbox with resources to make awake sex even more extraordinary. Get 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom NOW! Other Resources: Top 10 Ways To Initiate Sex With Your Spouse TONIGHT 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Quilted Polyester Heated Mattress Pad Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 14, 2017
362: ON YOUR KNEES
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"Intimacy is not purely physical. It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul.” —Anonymous Spiritual intimacy has a huge impact on you and your marriage. And yet it’s the one intimacy that often gets overlooked or minimized even though it’s just as important if not more so than the others. In our marriage there have been seasons when we are clicking in our spiritual intimacy and times when we experience a dryness. The same may happen in your marriage. It can be with your emotional intimacy, your physical intimacy as well as in your spiritual intimacy. At those times when there is a disconnect it's time to get on your knees in prayer. You gain a different perspective on your situation. The challenge of trying to figure everything out on your own gets unstuck. New ideas for growing spiritually begin to happen. Prayers that are seemingly unanswered are answered. Those questions about your faith get unlocked. Often it's the starting that keeps you from the spiritual intimacy you desire. You see other who are amazing prayer warriors so how could you be like them. This stops you dead in your tracks and yet you can become a prayer warrior. You and your spouse can experience the closeness that comes through prayer, but you have to put your knees on the floor. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about what can happen to you when you are on your knees praying for your marriage and your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Days of Sex Challenge Bundle Sometimes it can be hard to think of what to get your love... chocolates, lingerie, a night out. Each of these are great choices and yet what about something truly unique this year? What about something that extends Valentine’s Day beyond one day? Get the 7 Days of Sex Challenge Bundle NOW! Other Resources: Download The Intimacy Wheel Now C3 San Diego Emerge Conference Night Light: A Devotional for Couples Jesus Calling: Enjoying Peace in His Presence Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 07, 2017
361: MONEY MATTERS
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"Money is an opportunity to reach unity in marriage. When couples work together they can do anything." —Dave Ramsey You have probably heard the quote, "You should never talk about money, politics or religion." Now, this might be true if you are at a dinner party and yet... You are taking this stance when it comes to money in your marriage. There is no connection, discussion, or even a conversation about your money. If you are honest with yourselves there is no plan for your money. Without a plan or even conversations about money matters you feel stressed, have anxiety and live in a place of fear. No matter if you are: Newlyweds. New parents. Buying a house. In a job transition. College planning. Looking at retirement. Having to deal with medical needs. Your money matters and needs the two of you to have a plan for it. Right now you may be in crisis and need an immediate plan. Let's get started now so you can experience financial freedom. Maybe you are ready to go to the next level, now is the time for you to be thinking about those advisors and planners that you need to have in your life Hopefully you are doing great and are thinking about what's next? It's time to discuss how can we be a blessing to others with what we have received. At each level being intentional is a game changer. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the power that financial intimacy has to bring strength and unity to your marriage. Your money matters impact each area of intimacy. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Days of Sex Challenge Bundle Sometimes it can be hard to think of what to get your love... chocolates, lingerie, a night out. Each of these are great choices and yet what about something truly unique this year? What about something that extends Valentine’s Day beyond one day? Get the 7 Days of Sex Challenge Bundle NOW! Other Resources: Download The Intimacy Wheel Now Oils and Intimacy Facebook Group Financial Peace University Our Family Emergency List Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 31, 2017
360: TOUCH ME
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"So many people hear the words physical intimacy and think about sex. There are so many layers to being physically intimate with your spouse, choosing just one aspect shortchanges both of you." —Anonymous Touch is so important and yet touch in any form may be absent or inconsequential in your marriage at this time. This absence of touch or in the quality of the touch, leads to a feeling of being unwanted, unseen, undesired. It’s interesting that touch is often one of the first ways that you begin to express your interest in your spouse when you first met. Then you  start your lives together and before you know it touch is one of the first things to go. The most obvious absence of physical intimacy is a lack of sex. But it’s more than that. Right now you may be struggling with little to no physical intimacy of any form (hugs, kisses, cuddling, holding hands, etc). Without touch, without physical intimacy your marriage can feel like a relationship of roommates. It can feel like you are just sharing the same house and the same responsibilities but really have nothing that would differentiate yourselves as a married couple. The two of you need touch. Your bodies were designed for it. You were designed to fit together. You have to create opportunities to connect and you have to be intentional about doing so. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about why physical touch is an important area of connection for you and your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Days of Sex Challenge Bundle Sometimes it can be hard to think of what to get your love... chocolates, lingerie, a night out. Each of these are great choices and yet what about something truly unique this year? What about something that extends Valentine’s Day beyond one day? Get the 7 Days of Sex Challenge Bundle NOW! Other Resources: Download The Intimacy Wheel Now Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 24, 2017
359: WHAT DO WE DO TOGETHER
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"You define what is important to you by who you spend your time with." —Anonymous When you were dating there was no shortage of things to do or ways that you wanted to spend your time together. No matter where you were or what time of day it was you got creative. You would pick up on the smallest comments and run with it, turning that comment into an incredible adventure you would do together. And then... You begin living together, jobs, bills, volunteering and kids take up time you once had together. Date nights were the same every time and you both lost the excitement and anticipation of a fun time together. It's time for you to stop asking "What do you want to do?" when you are heading out on a date. Your marriage needs connection. As you plan out your dates this year: It’s about spending time together building memories. Learning what the other likes as interests change over time. It’s about getting out of your comfort zone. It’s about trying new things. Put yourself in your spouse’s world. Laugh. Overcoming fear. It's time to build a vibrant marriage instead of tolerating a stale one. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about how to answer that timeless question of what do we do together. EPISODE SPONSOR | Connect Like You Did When You First Met — Free Softcover Book Hidden inside this book you’ll discover how to have fun, deep and meaningful conversations so you can connect with you spouse again. Get started on your emotional intimacy journey with your own softcover copy of Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couple PLUS 4 digital bonuses. Limited quantities available so get yours today. Other Resources: Download The Intimacy Wheel Now Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 17, 2017
358: THE POWER OF AN APOLOGY
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"When you forgive, you in no way change the past but you sure do change the future." —Bernard Meltzer The year started off with us discussing the importance of emotional intimacy in your marriage. This is how the two of you communicate and is the foundation for growth in the other five intimacies. How the two of you connect during both the good and tough times will make the difference. After last week's show we dealt with a tough time ourselves. There was a breakdown in emotional intimacy after the show that lead to distance and disconnect. What you do after the conflict can mean more than what happens during the conversation. Are you letting pride and ego stand in the way of you giving a sincere apology to your spouse? Is it an apology that you need to give? Or... Is it forgiveness that you need to ask for from your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the power an apology has on both of you when it comes to your emotional intimacy. EPISODE SPONSOR | HelloFresh HelloFresh is the meal kit delivery service that makes cooking fun, easy, and convenient! Each week HelloFresh creates new delicious recipes with step-by-step instructions designed to take around 30 minutes. For novices to seasoned home-cooks who are short on time HelloFresh sources the freshest ingredients, measured to the exact quantities needed so there’s no food waste.  Take $35 off your first week of deliveries when you enter promo code OEM. Other Resources: Download The Intimacy Wheel Now Connect Like You Did When You First Met -- Free Paperback Book Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 10, 2017
357: HONEST, OPEN AND TWO WAY LISTENING
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"Communication must be HOT...Honest, Open and Two Way." —Dan Oswald Do the two of you have time each week when you can connect with your thoughts and feelings?  We spent many years of our marriage, probably the first ten years with little to no emotional intimacy. We could talk about anything while we were dating and then after the ring and the wedding... crickets. It was easier to avoid confrontation. It was easier to stuff things inside. Why share your feeling to deal with deflection, tears and the silent treatment. Your emotional intimacy has become repetitive as you talk about the kids, groceries and sport schedules. You now look across the table at your spouse and wonder, what do we have in common? Why can’t we talk to each other? Why do we have to get in a fight over everything? The answer is that there is flat spot on your emotional wheel. If you have a flat tire on your car, you have to stop and take action. If you keep driving on a flat wheel you will destroy the tire and eventually ruin the alignment. The same thing is true of your marriage. If your emotional intimacy is running flat you are throwing the alignment of your marriage out of whack. It’s time to take action. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about taking the emotional intimacy in your marriage through honest, open and two way listening to the next level. EPISODE SPONSOR | Connect Like You Did When You First Met -- Free Softcover Book Hidden inside this book you'll discover how to have fun, deep and meaningful conversations so you can connect with you spouse again. Get started on your emotional intimacy journey with your own softcover copy of Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couple PLUS 4 digital bonuses. Limited quantities available so get yours today. Other Resources: Download The Intimacy Wheel Now Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 03, 2017
356: GOING NEXT LEVEL
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"Think as BIG as you possibly can and base what you do, how you do it and who you do it with on succeeding at that level." —Gary Keller & Jay Papasan If the two of you don’t have a vision for 2017, it’s going to look a lot like 2016. As you look ahead you need to know what areas of your marriage you want to focus on? These areas include: Financial intimacy Physical intimacy Spiritual intimacy Recreational intimacy Emotional intimacy What would it take to take each of these intimacies to the next level? Extraordinary doesn’t happen overnight and yet with many baby steps put together you can get there. In the fall of 2008 we had a vision to do the 60 Days of Sex Challenge. The vision for our marriage was that something had to change. We needed a new direction and the first baby step was taken. Look at what has happened in your life because of this vision. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about taking your marriage to the next level in this new year. EPISODE SPONSOR | ONE Extraordinary Marriage’s Strategic Marriage Coaching It’s that time of year when you are thinking about getting physically fit. You're checking out gym memberships, making plans to eat healthy and drafting their new year’s resolutions to make this your fittest year ever. Make this the year that you work on getting relationally fit! Having a coach who will hold you accountable and help you work through your challenges will make all of the difference between repeating the cycles of the past and creating an extraordinary marriage. Learn more about coaching today. Other Resources: The ONE Thing Minter & Richter Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 27, 2016
355: TWAS THE NIGHT BEFORE CHRISTMAS
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"Traditions remind us to stop the busy cycle of life long enough to reconnect and build bonds." —Sabrina Beasley McDonald It’s important for the two of you to have your own night before Christmas or Christmas Day traditions. Something that you do together, a gift or an adventure that is about you as a couple. This is about the two of you as your own separate entity, separate from the kids and from your extended families. It’s that reminder that you and your spouse are a team. When you begin to think about starting a new tradition make sure it's something that you can do year after year. Traditions don't usually “just happen". The first year may and yet after that you have to be intentional about it. You're setting this up because traditions give a sense of continuity. Doing the same thing (or something similar) allows the two of you to anticipate that experience, to remember how you have done this in the past and how you might do it in the future. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the excitement you both can have the night before Christmas or on Christmas with some fun traditions. EPISODE SPONSOR | 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom With this FREE resource you can get creative with the gifts that you are going to put under the Christmas tree this year. No more wondering about what to get. Discover a hit-list of all the top items we’ve used in the last 20 years of marriage to ignite intimacy, connection and comfort in the most important room of all -- the bedroom! Grab your 11 Must Have Items Now. Other Resources: Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 20, 2016
354: AWAKE SEX
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"Right NOW is the most important moment in your life." —Gail Lynne Goodwin Another day comes to an end and you and your spouse are tired. Earlier in the day you both were romancing each other and had every intention to enjoy one another. But it's another night of you falling asleep even before you start foreplay and leaving you both frustrated with your sexual intimacy. There is much on your plates and yet it's time to prioritize your marriage so that you both enjoy your sexual intimacy. It means making choices about when you are going to be sexually intimate. There is no rule, no law, that states that sex is ONLY at the end of the day. It's time to change things up in your marriage and enjoy awake sex! Sex when you both are fully engaged and ready to experience the orgasms you desire for one another. Sex that is a bit loud, in a different position and a room brightened by the sun. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about how powerful it is to have sex when you are fully awake, not just going through the motions at the end of the day. EPISODE SPONSOR | 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom With this FREE resource you can get creative with the gifts that you are going to put under the Christmas tree this year. No more wondering about what to get. Discover a hit-list of all the top items we’ve used in the last 20 years of marriage to ignite intimacy, connection and comfort in the most important room of all -- the bedroom! Grab your 11 Must Have Items Now. Other Resources: 140 - Scheduling Sex 21 Ways to Initiate Sex with Your Spouse Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 13, 2016
353: I’M FINE
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"Sometimes all you do is smile. Move on with your day, hold back the tears and pretend everything is OK." —Anonymous The holiday season is a busy time of year. You are are pulled in many directions and feel overwhelmed with the responsibilities of job, family, kids, volunteering, Christmas parties, and everything else that is on your plate. It's a time when you may feel like there is too much going on and you’re holding on by a thread. And then your spouse asks you something like… What’s wrong with you? How are you doing? What's going on? Since everything is at the tipping point, you lock the true answer inside and simply say, “I’m Fine”. More often than not when you say, "I’m FINE", it’s usually a code word for I’m feeling broken in some area of my life. When you say "I’m Fine" you put a wall, an obstacle in your marriage. Then one of you checks out. Either you or your spouse.  I’m FINE leads to disconnect because you aren’t sharing what’s going on with you I’m FINE leads to resentment because you won’t let this person, YOUR SPOUSE, into your world. It's time to eradicate I'm Fine from your vocabulary. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the impact two words, I’m Fine, have on your marriage and your intimacy. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path The ability to talk to each other is vital to all areas of your marriage. Here's the thing...if there is unease when talking, tension or bickering you know the stress that it places on you. You're drained. It’s time to take control of the communication in your marriage. There is so much that is happening in your life each and every day that if you do not take the time to learn how to best connect with your spouse you are going to struggle for years to come. Grab He Zigs, She Zags Now! Other Resources: Oils & Intimacy Facebook Group 287 - The Impact of Tone and Timing 332 - Releasing Resentment Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 06, 2016
352: PERSONAL HYGIENE FOR A GREAT SEX LIFE
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"What do brushing your teeth, taking a shower and making time to shave all have in common? They all improve your chances in the bedroom." —Alisa DiLorenzo Interestingly enough we have never tackled the topic of personal hygiene, even though it’s something that we frequently discuss in our marriage. Things like morning breath, unshaven legs, and manscaping is what we're talking about. When you are aware of what works for you and for your spouse it makes a difference in your sexual intimacy. We have experienced this in our own marriage and have recently made a change to our personal hygiene that has benefited our marriage. There are a number of personal hygiene options you have. Some of them are: Shaving  Waxing Sugaring Facials Haircut Shower Bath Oils Taking time to care for yourself has a number of physical and mental benefits. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the mental and physical benefits of personal hygiene for you and your spouse, especially in the bedroom. EPISODE SPONSOR | Engaged Marriage Intimacy Reignited Reigniting the spark in the bedroom doesn’t have to be difficult. In fact, there are simple techniques that work incredibly fast. And will continue to work (no matter how long you’ve been married). Plus they're proven to work... even if you're extremely busy. Having an amazing sex life with your spouse. One that your friends would be totally jealous of.And wonder how you keep the spark alive.All because you know the “secrets” to a loving and intimate marriage. Grab Intimacy Reignited Now! Other Resources: 7 *Merry* Days of Sex Challenge 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life Mangroomer Ultimate Pro Body Groomer Fresh Balls Lotion Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 29, 2016
351 – Attitude of Gratitude
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"Showing gratitude is one of the most simplest yet most powerful things that human beings can do for each other." —Randy Pausch Thanksgiving. It's a time dedicated to giving thanks and expressing gratitude to those you love. The act of expressing gratitude is important for your spouse who receives your gratitude as well as for you who is giving it. When you do this for and with each other it changes your perspective on your marriage. When you express your appreciation for what you have your world shifts. Your mind shifts. Life changes when you are thankful for things you have and can actually express that out loud. What you share doesn’t have to be anything earth shattering. It doesn’t have to be huge. But it has to be said. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important to express gratitude in your marriage and how you can incorporate this idea into the holidays. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 22, 2016
350: YOUR SEXY UNDERWEAR MATTERS
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"If her bra matches her panties when you take off her clothes, it wasn’t you who decided to have sex." —Anonymous When you are wearing sexy underwear it has a way of bringing you and your spouse together in a special way. A loose definition of sexy underwear is: underwear that has fun colors or patterns that hug you in all of the right places because they fit. Many folks dismiss the importance of underwear, seeing them as merely a functional piece of clothing and yet they have the potential to be so much more. Sexy underwear makes you feel sexy. It’s visually stimulating for both of you. You think about your partner throughout the day, knowing that they are going to be pleased with what they see. :) Your sexy underwear is another tool in your marriage tool box. Whatever constitutes sexy underwear for you the key is getting them and then wearing them often. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about your sexy underwear and why it’s not just a functional piece of clothing. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Sexy Lingerie Panties JINSHI Bamboo Underwear 051 - True Friendship 166 - Holey Underwear 7 Days of Sex Challenge Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 15, 2016
349: LIES BECOME A CANCER
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"Once you lie to me the first time, I’ll question everything else you say." —Anonymous When you lie to your spouse it's a cancer that multiplies over time. The lie starts off small and then grows with one lie after another. Eventually you have something so large and unrecognizable that the pain you are experiencing has to go. We are experiencing an epidemic in marriages, an epidemic of lying and it’s wreaking havoc on relationships. Lies can come in different forms such as... Not telling the truth. Leaving out bits and pieces. Not honoring your word. Little white lies. Big whopping lies. Research has shown that individuals will lie for different reasons. The most common are: Trying to protect yourself. Feeling shame over a decision. Wanting to avoid confrontation. The very things that you are trying to avoid are the things that you invite into the relationship by your lying. When you speak these lies you find yourself under attack as you constantly look over your shoulder wondering how or when your partner is going to find out about your secret. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about how lies become a cancer in your marriage and what you need to do to heal. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Nov 08, 2016
348: YOU’RE SNORING TOO LOUD
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"Snoring is a good indication that one person is asleep and no one else is." —Linda Poindexter It's been another long day as you prepare yourself for a good night sleep. You slide into bed, turn on your Sound+Sleep Machine as you enjoy a quiet house. Your eyelids begin to close and you are just about to fall asleep when… The snoring starts. Oh no! Another night of sleep is going to be a challenge. AGAIN. Marriages are struggling when one or both spouse's are snoring. According to the National Sleep Foundation, snoring affects some 90 million adults, 37 million on a “regular basis”.   If this is you in your marriage... you are not alone. But this doesn’t make it any easier for you. Snoring can cause many problems in marriage. Such as: Frustration, more arguments, more disconnection. Sleeping in separate rooms.  Arguments about whether or not it’s happening. Making your relationship a he said/she said. Your health. Now, the two of you don’t have to keep on suffering... In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens in your marriage when one of you is snoring so loud that it interrupts a good night of sleep. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Sound+Sleep Machine Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Sleeping Wedges Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Nov 01, 2016
347: SOMEONE’S KNOCKING ON THE DOOR
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"Circumstances may cause interruptions and delays but never lose sight of your goal." —Mario Andretti Has there ever been a time in your marriage when you and your spouse were about to enjoy sex and then you hear a knocking at your door? Maybe you can relate to this scenario… All of the kids are in bed (or so you think) The house is quiet You’re locked in your room Your Sound+Sleep Machine is on as you begin to make romantic eyes at one another You start foreplay And there’s a knocking on the door. Who is it? It’s one of your kids, who you thought was asleep, needing some cuddle time. You head out of bed, help them get settled and then head back to your bedroom. Your spouse is waiting as you climb back into bed. You begin to get in the mood when again you hear... Knocking at your door. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens when someone’s knocking on your bedroom door in the middle of your time together. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Sound+Sleep Machine 332 - Releasing Resentment Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Oct 25, 2016
346: UNMET EXPECTATIONS
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"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that is has taken place." —George Bernard Shaw When you have certain expectations, your spouse has expectations and yet neither of you communicate them to each other there will be unmet expectations. Each of you will have a level of frustration that you are experiencing. You may even be say things like: I don’t understand why he/she doesn’t know this by now. Isn’t the way we do __________ obvious? Why do I have to spell it out every time? These questions indicate that there are unmet expectations in the marriage. There are areas of your life and marriage that you want your spouse to know or do. And often there is this game played… I’ll wait to see what he/she does. Will my spouse get it right this time. I've said it before. With this attitude you are setting yourself up for frustration. Because... you are constantly growing and changing. your moods are not the same from one day to the next. life experiences have impacted the way that you see things in the relationship. Often your expectations are not being shared in a way that is beneficial to your relationship. You hint at them, voice them after the fact and even said when you are highly emotional. It doesn’t have to be that way. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why your unmet expectations aren’t so obvious to your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proved Questions for Couples 287 - The Impact of Tone and Timing Men’s Bamboo Boxer Briefs Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Oct 18, 2016
345: LACK OF SEXUAL DESIRE
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"Desire creates havoc between two people when it is the ONLY thing between them or when it’s what’s missing." —Mignon McLaughlin Have you ever experienced: Lack of sexual desire Low libido No libido A take it or leave it attitude No expression of desire No sexual connection. A sexual connection with your spouse is a primary need. Unfortunately, a lack of sexual desire is impacting your marriage and the reasons for it are varied. It could be from: Stress or anxiety Health issues Resentment Rejection Kids in the bedroom Being over committed Unresolved forgiveness. Whatever the reason may be lack of sexual desire has always been addressed as "his problem" or "her problem" and yet how often do you stop to think that it’s really OUR problem. When there is a lack of sexual desire in your marriage this creates a divide, it builds a wall, it separates the two of you. When this happens you can begin to have feelings of: Anger Loneliness Doubt Fear Negativity Resentment. Instead of the two of you becoming more unified as a married couple a lack of sexual desire can have the two of you feeling more divided than ever. It can have you questioning your marriage and your role in it. It doesn’t have to be this way. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the impact that a lack of sexual desire has on you, your spouse and your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: 328 - The Intimacy Lifestyle 332 - Releasing Resentment Extra Strength Horny Goat Weed for Natural Libido Boost 7 Days of Sex Challenge: How to Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Oct 11, 2016
344: CELEBRATION TIME (WEDDING ANNIVERSARY STYLE)
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"A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity. The order varies for any given year." —Anonymous When this show is first released on October 4, 2016, we will be 24 hours away from celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary. As with any milestone, we approached this anniversary with celebration. It also became a time to reflect on where we have been and where we are going. While 20 years married is a significant anniversary, it’s not the end of the road. We still have a lot of life left in this marriage and we want to keep doing what’s been working. So what have we learned in 20 years? What did we wish we knew at the beginning? For us it’s come down to 3 things that have played out time and again in our marriage and we’ve seen it in so many of the emails and voicemail messages from the ONE Family. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about 3 ways you can make sure that there is a celebration for your next anniversary and those to come. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Breaking Free: How to Improve Yourself to Improve Your Relationship 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP 193 - Divorce Is Off The Table Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Oct 04, 2016
343: WHAT YOU DON’T KNOW IN THE BEDROOM CAN HURT YOU AND YOUR MARRIAGE
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"Knowing is not enough we must apply. Willing is not enough we must do." —J W Von Goethe When you don’t know what works in the bedroom (or what doesn’t) you may be paralyzed wondering... Does my spouse like this? Is this position OK? Are they initiating? Is this a good time? Think about this for a minute. If you don’t know what your spouse likes, it’s hard to be fully present in the act of making love. If you don’t know how your spouse initiates or if they are initiating, there may be a lot of hurt feelings. Doubt creeps in and Doubt is NEVER a good thing in your marriage. When both of you don't know what works for the two of you this can create a disconnect. Disconnect leads to questions swirling in your head which then leads to a breakdown in your confidence. When you lose your confidence you wonder if you two even know each other anymore.  At this point you may stop trying because of the uncertainty you are faced with each day. What does this mean? Less sex More frustration More arguments Unhappiness There are enough things in the world that can cause frustration in your life, let’s not have it be wondering what works for you and your spouse in the bedroom. This is something that the two of you can control and talk about. Now you may not always agree. But you will know your spouse. Because when you know what works you’re not just shooting blindly in your bedroom. You are making a conscious decision as to how you are going to approach your sexual intimacy.   In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why what you don’t know about your spouse in the bedroom can hurt you and your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Breaking Free: How to Improve Yourself to Improve Your Relationship Many of you have said to us: "I know that there are areas that I need to work on." "My spouse is not ready to work on the marriage but I need to take action." "I want things to be different but I don’t know what to do." During this 4-week online group coaching workshop we will be covering sessions on how to overcome fear, creatively voice your expectations, lose the negative thoughts and how to be bold in your relationship. ONLY 20 men and 20 women will be accepted for this workshop which begins October 4. Don’t miss out on your chance to have your relationship transformed before the craziness of the holidays. Get all the details for Breaking Free NOW! 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Strategic Coaching with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Sep 27, 2016
342: WHY KNOWING HER MENSTRUAL CYCLE IS IMPORTANT TO YOUR SEX LIFE
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"In all things there is a law of cycles." —Tacitus (Roman Historian) It is absolutely critical that you understand the female menstrual cycle for your sex life and for your marriage. A woman’s body is absolutely amazing and it’s hard wired to ebb and flow as the hormones fluctuate each and every month. As a woman’s hormones change during the menstrual cycle so does her husband’s responsiveness to her. Pretty cool. Here's the thing though... You need to know what's going on. When hormonal forms of birth control are being used this may impact the menstrual cycles thus impacting your sex life. Men you need to understand your wife’s monthly rhythms as it will absolutely change your sex life. Choosing not to know about her menstrual cycle is choosing to not to be fully engaged in your marriage. Not knowing about the cycles of sex puts the two of you at a distinct disadvantage. Why you might ask... Because KNOWING will change how the two of you relate to one another. KNOWING allows the two of you to connect throughout the month in different ways based on biology as well as emotional connection. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why knowing her menstrual cycle is important to your sex life. EPISODE SPONSOR | Breaking Free: How to Improve Yourself to Improve Your Relationship Many of you have said to us: "I know that there are areas that I need to work on." "My spouse is not ready to work on the marriage but I need to take action." "I want things to be different but I don’t know what to do." During this 4-week online group coaching workshop we will be covering sessions on how to overcome fear, creatively voice your expectations, lose the negative thoughts and how to be bold in your relationship. ONLY 20 men and 20 women will be accepted for this workshop which begins October 4. Don’t miss out on your chance to have your relationship transformed before the craziness of the holidays. Get all the details for Breaking Free NOW! Taking Charge of Your Fertility 7 Days of Sex Challenge Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Sep 20, 2016
341: STOP THOSE OLD, COMFORTABLE AND INEFFECTIVE PATTERNS
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"Marriage doesn’t have the power to bind-only the actions of two people can do that. Forever and happy endings aren’t a given." —Leah Mercer You can make changes to your marriage no matter how long you've been married. For us it was at the 11 year make that we got radical when we started and completed the 60 Days of Sex Challenge. What you'll began to realize is that it’s never too late to stop the ineffective patters and behaviors. Here's the thing though... ...you'll need to made a decision to get back to the basics in different areas of your marriage. Because if you don't: Life will get in the way and you fall into your old, comfortable and ineffective patterns. You don’t know how to do what you think you need to do so you don’t do it. Fear of the unknown will keep you from doing anything. Living in this place you experience an increased level of frustration for you and your spouse. You know things need to change. You know that you need to do something different. So let's do it! In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important to stop those old, comfortable and ineffective patterns and instead take action in order to create transformation in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path He Zigs She Zags gives you the tools that you need to have the communication you desire. This is not just about looking into each other’s eyes and sharing your deepest feelings, this is about giving the two of you a map to better communication. Get He Zigs, She Zags today! Schedule a Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa 7 Days of Sex Challenge Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Sep 13, 2016
340: 5 STIMULATING SENSES
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"When you start using senses you’ve neglected, your reward is to see the world [and your marriage] with completely fresh eyes." —Barbara Sher Your marriages may be experiencing some struggles due to the fact that you are loving each other with only one or two of the 5 senses you have. You may have fallen into what’s comfortable for you in your marriage and not necessarily what’s best for your marriages. Using each of your 5 senses can bring a heightened experience to your marriage that may have become dormant. The 5 Senses: Sight Hearing Touch Taste Smell Just as your marriage needs all 6 forms of intimacies firing, you marriage needs ALL of your 5 senses involved in the marriage. When you are only loving with one or two of the senses you BOTH are missing out on an incredible level of connection. It’s incomplete. It’s a fraction of what it could be. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about loving one another using each of your 5 senses to stimulate excitement in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Top 11 Must Haves Items for Your Bedroom Discover a hit-list of all the top items we’ve discovered in the last 19 years of marriage to ignite intimacy, connection and comfort in the most important room of all -- the bedroom! From fun toys, to those fabulous little items that set the mood, this is a list that you are going to want to have. Get your copy today! 338 - Beautiful Wife 287 - The Impact of Tone and Timing 56 Simple (But Super Effective) Compliments To Encourage Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Sep 06, 2016
339: SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE
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"Never judge someone on their past because they are no longer in that stage of life." —Alisa DiLorenzo Sex before marriage can be a roadblock to deep sexual intimacy. If you had sex before marriage you may have feelings of guilt, shame, and resentment. On the other side your spouse may have had sex before marriage with other partners and now you question the level of their commitment, you compare yourself to theses previous partners or you grew up knowing you should not have had sex together, but you did. We get it. We’ve been there. We both had sex before marriage with other partners and each other. Because we had sex before marriage it impacted our relationship for many years. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about breaking free from the guilt and shame you may carry because you had sex before marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path He Zigs She Zags gives you the tools that you need to have the communication you desire. This is not just about looking into each other’s eyes and sharing your deepest feelings, this is about giving the two of you a map to better communication. Get He Zigs, She Zags today! Schedule a Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa 4 Cool Statistics About Abstinence in the USA 319 – ESP (Extrasensory Perception) The Bondage Breaker Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Aug 30, 2016
338: BEAUTIFUL WIFE
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You've been sharing with your wife that she is beautiful to you inside and out. You see her as this amazing, incredible gift from God. A gift that honestly you cannot wait to unwrap. You want her to realize that it's not a sin to acknowledge her own beauty and sensuality without feeling dirty and yet your wife doesn't see herself as beautiful. Your wife doesn't feel the same way about herself as you see her. There is a struggle you both face with reconciling the expectations in the bedroom with the discouraging words that she has received through her life. Additionally when she looks in the mirror and at her life: she feels stuck unattractive no where near beautiful. Yet you see her as an amazing woman, wife and mother, but you know there is a  disconnect that is hurting your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why your marriage needs the phrase my beautiful wife. You'll be challenged to use this with your spouse and yet it’s important. EPISODE SPONSOR | One Question To Instantly Kickstart Your Communication Did you know that one question can change the entire dynamic of your marriage? One question when asked in an environment of love, one question where the answer is listened to and acted upon can transform the way that the two of you relate to one another. Want to know what the question is? Of course you do... Grab your One Question now! Schedule a Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Aug 23, 2016
337: FUN AND GAMES TO BREAK THE SEXUAL ROUTINE
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"I want a boring sex life, said no one ever." —Alisa DiLorenzo What would happen to your marriage if you broke the sexual routine you've been in and brought back some fun into your bedroom? Many couples are experiencing a sex life that has become one more thing on the to-do list. Same sexual routine time and time again that leads both you and your spouse to wondering why you even have sex. Your sexual intimacy is the same way, at the same time and in the same position time after time. It’s great that you're having sex and yet you know there is more. The challenges your face is that there is nothing to look forward, no anticipation, no romance. Sex is routine and sometimes... Boring. You move this way. Your spouse moves that way.  You both know exactly how long it takes and you move on to the next thing on your list of to-d0's. No excitement. You're in a sexual routine. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why your marriage needs some fun and games to break the sexual routine you've been in. EPISODE SPONSOR | Win Your Very Own Sex Stack... One lucky winner will win their very own Sex Stack. This item is on our must have list for the bedroom and we’ve been talking about it for years. This is a great way to break out of your sexual routine. To try new things and explore one another. Enter now to win the Sex Stack. Fun Board Games to Spice up Your Sex Life Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Aug 16, 2016
336: YOUR SPOUSE ISN’T THE PROBLEM
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It’s not your husband or your wife that’s the problem. The problem is the problem. Do you remember the part in your vows where it was spoken that the “two become one”?  That piece is talking about the two of you. The two of, now marriage, have became one. Newsflash: You are on the same team in your marriage and you need to start looking at life like you are on the same team not as rivals. You need to clearly identify your challenges / problems and know that these are not your spouse. Because when you are doing battle with each other, every interaction becomes another opportunity to win. Another chance to prove your point, to be right, to make your spouse see your point of view and take it. If your spouse is the problem then every challenge, argument, or interaction will have a winner and a loser. Someone who is right and someone who is wrong. Where is the love in that? There is no love and that’s why these conversations or arguments start to wear you out. You lose sight of what you're trying to accomplish in order to be right, to win. How many times have you been arguing (and it’s been going on for awhile) only to realize that you have no idea what the original problem was? Why is that? You are fighting each other instead of finding a solution to the problem. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why you need to recognize that the problem isn’t your spouse, the problem is the problem. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path He Zigs She Zags gives you the tools that you need to have the communication you desire. This is not just about looking into each other’s eyes and sharing your deepest feelings, this is about giving the two of you a map to better communication. Get He Zigs, She Zags today! 6 Forms of Intimacy to Build a Strong Marriage 128 - Playing on the Same TEAM Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 //
Aug 09, 2016
335: SHE’S NOT YOUR MOTHER
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Your wife does not want to be your mother! She is and desires to be your wife and your lover. Unfortunately, more often than not she is treat as your mother. She's the person in the house who picks up after you, makes sure your laundry is done for when you need it, and treated the same way you treated your mother when you were growing up. Here's the thing... She does not want to be your mothers. She doesn't want to consider you as another child in the house and yet when your behavior mirrors that of a child she is going to react and treat you as one. This is NOT good! Over the years we have had husbands share with us that they want their wife to be romantic, to be sexual, and to be interested in them. But they are not because there's a disconnect. You've been treating her as your mother and not as your lover and wife. If you want a wife and lover in your home it's time to show her. Do this by the words you use and the actions to show her that she is your wife and lover. You have to go beyond a quick grab of her breasts now and then? Yes, we did say a quick grab because that’s how kids treat their mothers.  Kids for the most part have no respect or awareness of their mother's body only their own needs. The longer your marriage stays in this vicious circle of emasculated man and wife as your mother, the harder it is for the two of you to relate as husband and wife and more importantly as lovers. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important for husbands to treat their wife as their lover and not their mother. EPISODE SPONSOR | 4 Simple Strategies to Rebuild Trust Trust can seem like such a tough mountain to climb when you are in the process of rebuilding. It can feel like you just don’t know what to do first, who to talk to or where to turn. Don’t stay in that place of feeling overwhelmed. Don’t get paralyzed and do nothing. Get started on rebuilding the trust in your marriage. Grab your free report. Strategic Coaching with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Aug 02, 2016
334: THE EMASCULATED MAN
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Is there an emasculated man living in your home? For the purpose of this show emasculated means: Make a person weaker or less effective Deprive a man of his role or identity Wives, you have the opportunity to not have an emasculated man in your marriage by the thoughts and action you have toward your husband.  Husband's are being emasculated every day in their marriage, even ours has experienced this, and it happens in little ways. It’s not giving his suggestions equal billing in your marriage. It's not understanding and / or seeking to understand his role and the pressures he faces. It's putting him farther down on the priority list and as a result putting his needs behind everyone else’s. It’s assuming that because he used to be one way that he can never change, improve and grow. The thing is that you don't want another "child" to care for. You want a husband who is there for you emotionally, spiritually, physically and financially. You don't need an emasculated man anymore. You need a strong husband who... understands his value. feels your love, who knows that their home is a safe place, who knows that they will be encouraged and built up in that environment. feels that they are important for more than just bringing home a paycheck knows that they are a priority and will always be a priority in your life. understands that change is possible and that who they used to be or what they have done in the past does not define who they are forever. As the famous write Ralph Waldo Emerson stated, "A man’s wife has more power over him than the state has." You have the power right now to purposefully impact your husband. Take a step of faith and go do it! In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the problem of the emasculated man in marriage and how you as his wife can either build him up or tear him down. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don't Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Thursday July 28th at 6 PM PST. DURING THIS FREE WEBINAR YOU WILL LEARN: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register NOW! 332 - Releasing Resentment Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Jul 26, 2016
333: REDEFINING THE INTIMACY LIFESTYLE
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The Intimacy Lifestyle was introduced to the ONE Family as a way for you and your spouse to not have to wonder if you were going to have sex or not. Unfortunately, over the years we have heard from couples who have started to only get derailed for one reason or another. Some of these reasons are... "We agreed to The Intimacy Lifestyle but it seems like I am always having to remind my spouse". "My spouse said that they were on board but it doesn’t really seem like they are into it". "We agreed to The Intimacy Lifestyle but it doesn’t seem to be working for us". A few weeks ago we did a podcast on The Intimacy Lifestyle and realized that there was a major piece missing from that show. A piece that might just change everything. We talked about what The Intimacy Lifestyle IS but we didn’t talk about what it is NOT. The Intimacy Lifestyle is NOT Something to half heartedly commit to. Something to just spring on your spouse. A band-aid for your marriage. Something to just pacify your spouse. Something you decide to do and then never talk about again. Something that is ONE size fits all. Something that is convenient, it’s truly a lifestyle choice. A sex tool, honestly it is a communication tool and a tool to enhance all areas of your marriage. A lifestyle choice is just that, it’s choosing a style of life. In this case The Intimacy Lifestyle is choosing a style of life that involves intimacy at all levels. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important to know what the intimacy lifestyle is NOT so that you can fully embrace all that it has to offer. EPISODE SPONSOR | Strategic Relationship Coaching with Alisa Imagine waking up each morning next to the person you love more than anything in the world. Not just a “roommate” or a person you “get on with”. But having the fairy tale marriage you've always dreamed of. Because it really is possible if you’re willing to put in the time. Start coaching today with Alisa. 328 - The Intimacy Lifestyle Dominion Card Game Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Jul 19, 2016
332: RELEASING RESENTMENT
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Resentment is a poison that builds slowly as it snowballs into extreme disconnect. What starts out as one disappointment becomes a laundry list of all of the ways that your spouse has hurt you, disappointed you, not been there for you, etc. The resentment that you harbor toward your partner can be masked as: Anger Boredom Indifference Withdrawal Disconnect What started out as something manageable now has become overwhelming for you and your partner. Right now, it’s feels virtually impossible to bridge that gap to reconnect. Both men and women experience resentment in different areas in the marriage. Some of these areas of resentment are... Staying home/working outside of the house Having to take care of the household Having to be the provider Always being the one to initiate Upside down priorities (kids, work, extended family, other friends) You now know why you are holding onto this resentment and yet do you know where it comes from? Resentment comes from... Ineffective communication Unvoiced expectations No clear vision direction Fear of rejection In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the negative consequences when resentment builds up in your marriage and what you can do to change that path. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get You Communication on the Same Path Remember how you felt when you first met your partner? How close you were? Like you were soul mates? Why because you spent so much time connecting and communicating. Now imagine having that same level of connection and intimacy for the life of your marriage. Become one of those couples that celebrates your 20th, 30th or even 50th wedding anniversary while you both are still completely in love with each other. Grab He Zigs, She Zags today. 046 - Are You Keeping Score? Dear Couples, Rejection Is Crushing Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Jul 12, 2016
331: HAVING SEX OR MAKING LOVE
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Married couples perform both sex and making love. Would you agree? Sometimes it is intentional and sometimes it's because of circumstances. Sex happens when you only have 10 minutes before dinner for a quickie. You only have 10 minutes so it’s not going to be a marathon love making session. But if you are on vacation by yourselves with no kids now there’s no need to just have sex. You plan on making love while away. Making love is probably the easier one of these to understand, the slow and go with the emotional connection. On the other hand issues can arise when you and your spouse are only having sex. Let's be clear before you start to think that this is only about husband's using their wive's... This goes both ways! You may have even experienced this in your own marriage. So, as we dive into what it means to have sex and making love there is a very unique question to be answered... What would selfish sex look or be like for a married couple? In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the difference between having sex and making love and why knowing the difference matters in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP 19 Quick Questions will allow you and your spouse to get the conversation started about all things related to your sex life. Using these 19 questions gives you an opportunity to have those conversations, to think about your sex life. Take just one or 2 questions a day and talk about them outside of your bedroom, then enjoy discovering each other. Cleaning Up After Sex 3 Reasons Why Sex Isn’t a Dirty Word Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Jul 05, 2016
330: DETOURS TO SUCCESS
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Last week we returned from our 20th anniversary trip to Peru. Our travels took us from San Diego to Lima, Peru, Cusco and then on to Machu Picchu.  The international trip involved two red eye flights through Dallas on the way there and then Miami on our way home. Once in country... 2 flights from Lima to Cusco and back. 5 van rides from various points of our travel 4 tour buses including one that was hugging the switchbacks up and back from Machu Picchu 2 trains rides And lots of walking We probably logged somewhere around 9,000 miles in just over 8 days. Lots of delays (weather, traffic, celebrations). A few detours due to that same weather, traffic and celebrations and a whole lot of time to think about marriage. We spent almost every moment together for just over a week and still came away smiling (there were some discouraging times during our trip and sad faces when we were leaving Peru.) There was excitement, exhaustion, and frustration. When you are spending so much time together and placed in so many different environments together you... CANNOT hide behind your busyness CANNOT ignore your challenges or your attitudes Everything comes to the surface, everything that looks easy really takes a lot of effort, everything that looks like it goes in a straight line isn’t always straight. Marriage is a lot like traveling... There are a lot of different ways to get to where you want to go. What you think will be the fast way can hold you up. What you think is the most direct way will have you going in circles and doubling back. In other words there will be detours on this adventure we call marriage. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of detours and delays that can lead to success in your marriage journey. EPISODE SPONSOR | Summer of Love Ultimate Bundle Flash Sale (June 28 - 30, 2016) It’s summer and what better time to... Enjoy Great Sex, Enhance Your Communication, Rebuild Trust & Connect Again! The Summer of Love Ultimate Bundle includes our most popular programs so that you can have the extraordinary marriage you desire. Grab the Summer of Love Ultimate Bundle and get up to 75% off! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Jun 28, 2016
329: RISK REWARD
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What's the risk reward in your marriage? There's a risk in any relationship between two people. You risk being vulnerable. You risk being rejected. You risk being misunderstood. You risk hurt feelings. You risk anger. You risk silence. You risk the distance growing in your marriage. You risk losing your marriage. In many marriage the idea of risk reward is a recurring theme. Here's the thing about risk reward... IT'S ALL ABOUT FEAR! Fear will stop you in your tracks as you ask yourself statements similar to these: I never had the conversations I wanted to have. I never asked for what I wanted. I never did what I should have. Why? The RISK seemed too large and yet... what about the reward? The reward is... Deeper emotional connection. Living out your lives fully. You're loved more for who you truly are. Open and honest conversations. Long lasting marriage. Sex like never before. You get to choose each day what the risk reward is in your marriage. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the risk reward that you face when making a change in your marriage and why you need to focus on the reward not the risk. EPISODE SPONSOR | Strategic Marriage Coaching with Alisa You get help for every other area of your life, why not your marriage. If you have been struggling with areas of your marriage and are tired of the struggle, tired of not knowing what to do or say, now is the time to take action. You’ve heard the results on the show of clients who have had transformation. What are you waiting for? Learn more about a Strategic Marriage Coaching with Alisa today! 3 Ways to Overcome Your Fears Bo's Cafe 7 Days of Sex Challenge Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Jun 21, 2016
328: THE INTIMACY LIFESTYLE
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What would your marriage look like if you and your spouse were having sex on a consistent basis? Maybe for the two of you it would be one, two or even 4 times a week and yet your not quite sure how to make this happen. For this to happen it takes planning and a clear understanding of how it will benefit your marriage. It doesn't just happen. You will need to be intentional as you invest your time and efforts into your marriage. It’s time to get radical in your marriage and make a change as you commit to your spouse and implement The Intimacy Lifestyle. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how you can begin to implement The Intimacy Lifestyle into your marriage as you experience a new level of closeness both emotionally and sexually. EPISODE SPONSOR | Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex Summertime is here! It’s time for relaxing and for fun. It’s so important that with all that you have going on this summer that initiating does NOT take a back seat to all of the other activities that the two of you have going on. Make sure that the two of you have a summer to remember. Grab you Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex today! He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You: What Your Libido Reveals About Your Life by Diana Hoppe M.D. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Jun 14, 2016
327: I WANT OUT
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The truth is that every couple goes through cycles of good times and tough times. The bigger issue is when those cycles last indefinitely and no one takes action. I want out. I don’t want to do this anymore. It’s too hard. You may have said these to your spouse or vise versa. Either way it's time to shift the tide in your marriage before it is to late. According to couples therapist, Carrie Cole: The average couple waits six years from the time they recognize relationship problems until the time they try therapy. By then, it's often too late—the problems in the marriage can corrode it to the point where it may be unsalvageable. So play it safe and schedule a coaching session if you're struggling. Why? Because by the time you hear I want out... Your spouse has been dealing with the situation for years. They have checked out. They have often stopped caring and have begun making plans to do life on their own. If you marriage has disconnect in it If you are too busy to spend time together If you are not talking If you are not having sex Then it is time to be intentional and take action in your marriage so you will never hear the words I want out again. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about what to do when one of you says to the other -- I want out, I’m done! EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Steps to Save Your Marriage In this free report you will receive The 7 simple steps to salvage even the most damaged and beyond repair marriage (these are the same steps that brought our own marriage back from the brink of divorce). Grab 7 Steps to Save Your Marriage today! 7 Signs You're In a Loveless Marriage How I Saved My Marriage Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Jun 07, 2016
326: SUMMERTIME SEX
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It’s summertime and like a lot of things your sexual intimacy can take a back seat to vacations, family visitors and even the kids being home. Make sure you have a plan for summertime sex this year and for years to come. The areas that you need to be aware of when it comes to summertime sex are: Setting expectations BEFORE you travel on vacation. When family or friends are in town how do you make sure you're being sexually intimate. Kids are home for the summer and this can put a kink into your Intimacy Lifestyle. There are different schedules, more time hanging out with folks, it gets darker later... so now is the time to get creative as you make use of the time that you have. Whatever your plans are this summer be intentional about finding opportunities for when you'll be sexually intimate. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of having a clear plan for summertime sex and what you need to do to make it happen. EPISODE SPONSOR | Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex Summertime is here! It’s time for relaxing and for fun. It’s so important that with all that you have going on this summer that initiating does NOT take a back seat to all of the other activities that the two of you have going on. Make sure that the two of you have a summer to remember. Grab you Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex today! 178 - Sexpectations 7 Days of Sex Challenge: How-to Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
May 31, 2016
325: TEMPORARY WEDDING VOWS
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Do either of these sound familiar… "I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded(husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part." OR "Will you have this woman/man to be your wife/husband, to live together in the covenant of marriage? Will you love her/him, comfort her/him, honor, and keep her/him in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to her/him as long as you both shall live?" Yep, these are wedding vows. Promises made for a permanent relationship and yet all too often these wedding vows are becoming temporary in our society. Marriage is not a temporary situation until something better comes along. Marriage is not just for as long as this “works” for you or as long as you feel like staying engaged. When did your wedding vows switch to a wedding contract? You’ll stay in the marriage, stay faithful, stay engaged, as long as you ___________(fill in the blank). WAKE UP!!! You need to make the shift back. Both husbands and wives, need to honor these permanent vows. Not just when things are easy, but especially when things are hard. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens to your marriage when you treat your wedding vows as temporary instead of permanent. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Steps to Save Your Marriage  (Even if your spouse is unwilling) This report is going to give you the 7 steps that you need to take starting right now. It’s going to outline the costs of your decisions AND share with you the #1 mistake that almost all broken couples make when trying to get help. Don’t wait another day to take action to save your marriage. Grab 7 Steps to Save Your Marriage  (Even if your spouse is unwilling) today! 174 - Covenant or Contract 6 Forms of Intimacy to Build a Strong Marriage Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
May 24, 2016
324: THE KEY TO YOUR HAPPINESS
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"Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present." —Jim Rohn Have you ever said: My husband doesn’t make me happy anymore My wife doesn’t make me happy anymore I’m not happy in marriage This isn’t making me happy Don’t I deserve to be happy Where is my happiness Why can’t I be happy There is an epidemic... An epidemic of people who aren’t happy in their life, with their job and in their marriages. You have an expectation that your spouse and your marriage are supposed to make you happy all of the time. In our comparison happy culture (hello social media) you are constantly bombarded by images of people who you perceive as better, prettier, happier and who have more. What you see is their good parts version -- compared to -- your everyday reality and the two are not matching up. This quest for to reach a state of happiness is driving a wedge in your marriage. The expectation that your spouse is going to make you happy all the time, that your marriage is always going to be good, is unrealistic. You are dealing with another human being who is dealing with their own stuff. Besides... happiness is a feeling and feelings are fleeting. You can be happy because it’s a sunny day. You can be happy because your spouse left you a note. You can be happy because the kids didn’t fight (that much) today. In each of these situations happiness is dependent on another person, their actions or outside circumstances. What happens when they don’t do those things... when it’s rainy, what do you do? The days that you don’t get a note from your spouse, what do you do? The days that the kids fight, what do you do?   In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the keys to unlocking happiness in you so it flows throughout your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Live Training TRUST. Five letters that have so much power in your marriage. When trust is present, it feels like you can handle everything. When trust has been broken, you find yourself questioning everything. If you have ever said or thought, "I love you but I don’t trust you" the JOIN US for the "I Love You But I Don't Trust You Live Training" on May 19th, 2016. Contract of Reconciliation It’s Not All Good or All Bad Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
May 17, 2016
323: SEX IS NOT ALWAYS THE ANSWER
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Day after day we hear from couple after couple that their marriage is not what they wanted or expected. There is no romance. The sex is OK, at times. There is a struggle with communication. There are many disconnects. Digging deeper into each relationship, sex has been a part of most of these relationships from the very beginning. Before these couples truly knew each other, they were involved in one of the most intimate acts a couple can face, sex. As a couple who has been in this place we know all to well the struggles that happen for couples who have sex early in a relationship. When sex becomes an integral part of the relationship from the very beginning there are skills that don’t get developed. Because of this sexual connection the two of you have to work in your marriage to develop the skills that you did not develop from the beginning. Plain and simple sex feels good and yet it’s a distraction when the two of you are having challenges. Sex cannot be the only glue that holds your marriage together. Your marriage needs for the both of you to be emotionally, spiritually, and financially intimate as well as physically intimate. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why sex is not always the answer to the challenges your facing in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | FreshBooks FreshBooks is a super simple invoicing solution that lets you create and send professional looking invoices in seconds. It also makes managing your expenses, staying on top of who owes you what, and tracking your time the easiest part of your day. Try FreshBooks FREE for 30 days on us. Get your free trial today. Texting Is Not Talking Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
May 10, 2016
322: IT’S TIME TO INITIATE
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Knowing how to initiate sex in your marriage can be a very real challenge. You're not sure what to do or when you do if your spouse even realizes that you're initiating. On the other side of this is a frustrated who doesn't understand why you can’t or decide not to initiate. For them it’s similar to living in a constant state of rejection. Think about it. If you rarely initiate then it is always up to your spouse to make a move. If you're not interested, too tired, not in the mood, then they get shot down. They express desire to you and yet there is no similar expression of desire in return. NEW FLASH... This is NOT something that only happens to men or only women. Both men and women struggle when it comes to know how to initiate sex. When only one of you is initiating or when neither of you is initiating sex it’s time to take a look at what is going on between the two of you. If you can’t initiate it’s often because you don’t know how or what you have tried in the past hasn’t worked so you don’t know what to do. Maybe you got the message growing up that “good girls don’t do that” or “you shouldn’t be so bold”. Maybe you were told that you should always be pursued. Maybe you’re afraid that you are going to hear no or some other excuse for why you spouse doesn’t want to be with you. Maybe you just don’t know what to do. OR Maybe your spouse doesn’t know when you are initiating... Check out our Top 10 Ways To Initiate Sex With Your Spouse TONIGHT to get some ideas on how you can begin to initiate. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why now is the time for you to share with your spouse on how you initiate in and outside the bedroom. EPISODE SPONSOR | FreshBooks FreshBooks is a super simple invoicing solution that lets you create and send professional looking invoices in seconds. It also makes managing your expenses, staying on top of who owes you what, and tracking your time the easiest part of your day. Try FreshBooks FREE for 30 days on us. Get your free trial today. Discover the Top 10 Ways To Initiate Sex With Your Spouse TONIGHT Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
May 03, 2016
321: REMEWING YOUR MARRIAGE LICENSE
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To get married you had to have a marriage licence. Here's the thing though... This is the only license that you are never required to renew. You are not required to go to class, spend time and money, or become more informed to grow. On the other hand you have to renew your driver’s license, retake the written test and sometimes take the driving test. There are many professions that require continuing education: the legal field, auto technicians, financial services, the medical field, educators, engineering and others. For many couples having their marriage license and saying "I Do" on their wedding day is it. You've arrived and your marriage is going to be great. Unfortunately, you haven’t arrived. We know from our own experiences as well as the many couples we've coached over the pat 6+ years. There is always room to grow in your marriage. There is always a way to improve your communication, your sexual intimacy, quality time spent together, your finances, and other areas of your marriage. When you stop growing in your marriage, when you stop learning your spouse, you open the door for disconnect. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important to renew your marriage license even though you’re not required to do so. EPISODE SPONSOR | Connect Like You Did When You First Met It’s time to learn about your spouse all over again. No matter if you have been married a year or 30 years Connect Like You Did When You First Met will improve your communication. Inside Connect Like You Did When You First Met there are over 101 Questions covering areas of finances, sex, kids, dreams and more. Grab your copy today! The Journal of Best Practices by David Finch The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth by John C. Maxwell The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman, Ph. D. The Seven Laws of Love by Dave Willis Bo's Cafe by John Lynch Maximized Manhood by Edwin Louis Cole Intimacy Ignited by Dillow & Pintus Prayer That Brings Revival by David Yonggi Cho One Bed One Bank Account by Derek & Carrie Olsen He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Trust Me! Restore, Renew and Rebuild Your Foundation Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Apr 26, 2016
320: CHANGE OF SCENERY
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When you move into a new house there are... New bedrooms, living areas, bathrooms and other place to explore to enjoy sex. And yet, you may find yourself night after night in the same spot. Your bedroom! What do you do as doing the same thing over and over again, in the exact same way is become to routine. And... Routines leads to boredom and boredom leads to disconnect. When anticipation and excitement stops being a part of your marriage in any area the drift starts to happen. This doesn’t mean that you have to have fireworks every time you have sex. What it does mean is that you have within your control to create an atmosphere of anticipation. One of the key ways to do this is through a change of scenery. There is no rule that says that married couples can only have sex in the bedroom in the dark, at night. You have been blessed with a home with many rooms. :) When the anticipation builds, excitement builds and the ordinary becomes extraordinary. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of changing it up and having a change of scenery for your sexual intimacy. EPISODE SPONSOR | 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom Discover a hit-list of all the top items we’ve discovered in the last 19 years of marriage to ignite intimacy, connection and comfort in the most important room of all -- the bedroom! From fun toys, to those fabulous little items that set the mood, this is a list that you are going to want to have. Grab your MUST HAVE Items today! Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking the Intimacy in Your Marriage | Take 20% OFF at checkout with coupon code: podcast Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proved Questions for Couples Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Apr 19, 2016
319: ESP (EXTRASENSORY PERCEPTION)
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Having ESP (extrasensory perception) is something that many couples wish they had. The thing is that you don't and neither does your spouse. At times you may ask yourself... Why doesn’t he/she know that? How many times should I have to tell him/her? He/she should know that by know. The truth is that your spouse doesn't have ESP and cannot read your mind. And yet you have been asking yourself, "What’s wrong with expecting my spouse to know what I want? What I need?" The issue is that when you expect your spouse to have ESP or read your mind you are expecting another human to be able to process the circumstances that YOU are in. You're expecting them to know your mood, your physical condition and then come up with the exact same conclusion that you would do. The kicker is that this person is NOT you. Stop frustrating the two of you by Expecting Someone else to Perceive the world as you would. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens when you expect your spouse to have ESP also known as extrasensory perception. EPISODE SPONSOR | Discover the Top 10 Ways To Initiate Sex Would you love to know exactly when or how your spouse is initiating instead of trying to guess “Is he or she making a move?” Or “Does that touch or look mean we are having sex tonight? Take the guesswork out of wondering... grab The Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex and have a clear understanding of what it really looks like when your spouse is making a move. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proved Questions for Couples Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Apr 12, 2016
318: YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDS YOU TO GROW UP
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Unless you are a teenager it’s time to grow up in your marriage. When you partake in behaviors that are typical of a teenager you are chipping away at the foundation of your marriage. A marriage that does not have transparency in all areas is a marriage with secrets. Those secrets will destroy the best of marriages. Not allowing YOUR spouse to see the real you can allow for questioning the true nature of your relationship. You may ask... "Does my spouse love me or do they just love the me I pretend to be?" Risky behaviors, will catch up with you. Nothing that you do exists in a vacuum. You will get caught, discovered or found out. If you want a different marriage then your marriage needs you to stop engaging in risky behavior that sabotage it. ME is not WE. When the two of you became one, part of that agreement was the declaration of putting your own selfish desires behind the desires of your spouse. When the focus is on what you want and your own needs being satisfied, your marriage will wither and die because of the lack of attention to your spouse. Are you ready to grow up so your marriage can experience all that you and your spouse desire? In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why your marriage needs you to grow up and stop acting like a teenager so that you don't miss out on all that your marriage can be. EPISODE SPONSOR | Minter & Richter Titanium Rings Minter & Richter work from their studio housed in Boston’s Historic Rum Distillery, Scott, Owner, Ring Maker & Metalsmith Extraordinaire, meticulously crafts each ring custom to order. Combining titanium with everything from the exotic – water buffalo horn, to the everyday – concrete, and special found objects that customers send, Scott is continually reinventing the idea of what a ring should be. Get your customer ring today! LIVE TRAINING - More Love, Less Conflict: How To Use Open and Honest Communication For A Stronger Marriage Rescue My Marriage Today Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Apr 05, 2016
317: TEXTING IS NOT TALKING
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When a “big” or  “important” conversation is being dealt with via texting it is causing more heartache and less connection for married couples around the world. Avoiding the face to face conversation may seem easier and yet, the end result is that more often then not you are more disconnected. You're questioning your spouse more. You're more frustrated. You're not able to get the context or nuance of what is being said. Time Magazine reported in October 2013  a study in the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy that... Men who texted more often in general reported lower relationship quality than those who didn’t ping their significant others as frequently. The researchers can only speculate about why, but suspect that as men disconnect from a relationship, or consider a break-up, they replace face-to-face interactions with less intimate communication in the form of increased texting. Women tended to take to their smartphone keyboards to apologize, work out their differences and make decisions — in other words, when their relationship was in trouble. As their connection with their loved one deteriorated, women attempted to make up or resolve their differences via text, which the scientists believe is the online version of the need to “talk things out.” It's time to put down the phones and schedule time to TALK to one another. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why texting is not a good idea when you need to discuss big or important issues with your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | Minter & Richter Titanium Rings Minter & Richter work from their studio housed in Boston’s Historic Rum Distillery, Scott, Owner, Ring Maker & Metalsmith Extraordinaire, meticulously crafts each ring custom to order. Combining titanium with everything from the exotic – water buffalo horn, to the everyday – concrete, and special found objects that customers send, Scott is continually reinventing the idea of what a ring should be. Get your customer ring today! Rescue My Marriage Today Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Mar 29, 2016
316: NO KIDS ALLOWED
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Kids are amazing from those cute little baby faces to the amazing young adults they become. However, when the kids become more important than your marriage that’s when problems arise. Some of these may be: The kids are still sleeping with you. Everything revolves around the kids activities (to the point that the two of you can’t remember the last time you went out and it was just the two of you). You find yourself drifting apart and using the kids as your buffer zone, your distraction, and your focus. All of those things that really should be on your spouse. Your children need to know that your marriage is strong. They need to see the example of mom and dad valuing each other and making each other a priority. Unfortunately... When your marriage becomes all about the kids, no matter what age they are, an unfair burden is placed upon them. One that they were never designed to have to bear. Kids are not a replacement for your marriage relationship. They are not to be your best friend, during the child rearing years. Your child is not to take on the responsibility of meeting your adult emotional needs or attention. It’s time to look at the relationship you both have with your kids, make changes that benefit your marriage and then put the energy back into your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important to set up guardrails and have no kids allowed areas in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Minter & Richter Titanium Rings Minter & Richter work from their studio housed in Boston’s Historic Rum Distillery, Scott, Owner, Ring Maker & Metalsmith Extraordinaire, meticulously crafts each ring custom to order. Combining titanium with everything from the exotic – water buffalo horn, to the everyday – concrete, and special found objects that customers send, Scott is continually reinventing the idea of what a ring should be. Get your customer ring today! Rescue My Marriage Today Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Mar 22, 2016
315: CLEANING UP AFTER SEX
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Have ever noticed that in movies you never see couples cleaning up after sex? Usually this romantic moment has no clean up afterwards. The couple cuddles together as they basks in the afterglow of an amazing sexual moment together. Seems odd... As long as we have been making love, cleaning up after sex has always been a part of the our sexual intimacy. Throughout your marriage cleaning up after sex can be impacted by your current form of birth control, are you trying to conceive a child, or even where you are making love.  Some factors may be: Are you using condoms? Are you trying to make a baby or not trying to make a baby? Are you in a hotel? One with two beds so that one is for sex and one for sleeping? Are your sheets clean? After you finish making love you want to cuddle and yet, in the back of your mind you're thinking about fluids going all over the place. The romance and intensity of what you have just experienced can be diminished by the time you finish cleaning up after sex. This can change what was such a powerful moment. We've been there ourselves many of times and have a few ways that you can get the most out of your time together after cleaning up. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about maintaining the delicate balance between romance and cleaning up after sex. EPISODE SPONSOR | Rescue My Marriage Today Waitlist You want change in your marriage because everything you have tried hasn’t worked to this point. You listen to the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show and think, I want what they and so many other couples have. Resuce My Marriage Today will turn your marriage around and get you back to feeling wanted, connected and intimate. Sign up for the waitlist now. 313 - Pack The Boxes, It’s Time to Move On 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP 6 Benefits of Cuddling With Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
Mar 15, 2016
314: STOP HOPING, START DOING
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Lack of action, apathy, laziness are marriage killers.  In this life you have two options, you are either growing or you’re not. When you wish or hope for change without doing what you need to be doing that’s not growth. That’s being outwardly focused. That’s expecting others to do the changing why you sit back and wait. We've both done this in our marriage over the years. At some point in time you've been frustrated with your marriage. Be it emotionally, financially, sexually, and/or spiritually.  When all you do is hope that the situation will change you put all of the responsibility on your spouse.  Marriage is a 100% / 100% commitment. That's 100% effort from each of you. It’s time for you to take your hope, for you to take your wishful thinking and give it some power. Give it some action as you start doing something to create growth and change. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the power of hope when it’s combined with action as you start doing something different in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Rescue My Marriage Today Waitlist You want change in your marriage because everything you have tried hasn’t worked to this point. You listen to the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show and think, I want what they and so many other couples have. Resuce My Marriage Today will turn your marriage around and get you back to feeling wanted, connected and intimate. Sign up for the waitlist now. 140 - Scheduling Sex QBQ! The Question Behind the Question Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 08, 2016
313: PACK THE BOXES, IT’S TIME TO MOVE ON
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Moving is truly one of those events that literally turns everything upside down. You go from being settled and knowing all of your routines to have everything boxed up (both before and after the move) and everything is different. This includes how the two of you act with one another as you prep, box your things, move in day, and afterwards. When it's time to move on for us we sort our things into 3 piles. Donate Get Rid Of (Trash) Take With You Let's look at your marriage from the perspective of moving. What do you need to donate to your spouse? What do you need to get rid of in terms of your behavior/resentments/conflict? What do you need to take with you, continue doing? In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what lessons you can learn about your marriage when it's time to move on to another home. EPISODE SPONSOR | Minter & Richter Titanium Rings Minter & Richter work from their studio housed in Boston’s Historic Rum Distillery, Scott, Owner, Ring Maker & Metalsmith Extraordinaire, meticulously crafts each ring custom to order. Combining titanium with everything from the exotic – water buffalo horn, to the everyday – concrete, and special found objects that customers send, Scott is continually reinventing the idea of what a ring should be. Get your customer ring today! Check out the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Signature Ring Set Sign up for a strategic coaching consultation 046 - Are You Keeping Score? 166 - Holey Underwear Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 01, 2016
312: WHAT YOUR HUSBAND IS THINKING BEFORE AND DURING SEX
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Have you ever wondered what your husband is thinking before and during sex? It may have crossed your mind from time to time or it's something you haven't even considered. Here's the thing though... Just like you and all you have going on he has thoughts that can hinder him from being fully present with you. We learned this first had as we were in the middle of completing our 8th 7 Days of Sex Challenge. By far one of the toughest we have done. One of the nights we began a conversation have sex that we have never had before. What do men think about before and during sex? Now, you would have thought that this would have come up in conversation before and yet it hasn't.  In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what your husband is thinking about before and during sex. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar. 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 23, 2016
311: JEALOUSY (THE GREEN EYED MONSTER)
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Jealousy is destructive to both the one who is being jealous and the one who is receiving it. After 19 years of marriage we've experienced jealousy at different times and over different things. Jealousy  can take the form of: interrogations about where someone has been, what they have been doing or who they were with searching through your spouse's phone or through a computer questioning any time that your spouse happens to look at a member of the opposite sex rifling through their bags/suitcases/briefcases for “evidence” increasing anxiety over what your spouse does when you are not around them Where does jealousy come from? There is no easy answer but there are a number of ways that it can begin in one’s life. These include: Low Self Esteem - being told that you are not good enough, pretty enough, handsome enough, smart enough Feelings of insecurity or fear of abandonment - being hurt in the past can set you up to try and protect yourself in the future Fear of vulnerability or fear of rejection - the fear that if you reveal your true self you will be loved less, that by sharing who you truly are your spouse will not love you Jealousy is destructive in marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the impact jealousy has on your marriage and what you can do about it. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples 4 Simple Tools to Improve Communication with Your Spouse via Wellness Mom Life Connecting Like We Did When We First Met via A Prioritized Marriage Communication in Our Marriage via Country Living and Penny Pinching Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 16, 2016
310: VALENTINE’S DAY, MAKE IT MORE THAN JUST ONE DAY
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Do you remember your first Valentine’s Day together? I do, I was living in the Delta Gamma house at DePauw University and Tony was at the University of Colorado at Boulder. I had sent him a poem I had written and waited all day for my “Valentine”. I couldn’t wait to see what would come. Would Tony surprise me by showing up? Would he come with a ring and a proposal (I can’t even believe I thought that after only 6 months of dating he would, but hey I was dreaming.) Would he even remember? He did... The thing is that it has been the love shown not on just one day, but day after day. It has been in the little things and big things over the years that has made a difference. This has been the glue that has kept us together through the good times and during the tough ones. What has changed our marriage and can change you is the decision to love on each other by demonstrating that love not on just one day each year. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about showing your love throughout the year, not just one day each year, Valentine’s Day. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Days of Sex Challenge Life is stressful, but when you are too busy (or tired) to find some time for sexual intimacy, it can really seem unbearable. The 7 Days of Sex Challenge makes it easy for busy couples like you to find some fun time together because it ELIMINATES the stress of figuring out what you need to do for 7 days that will be new and creative to try. Grab your copy of the 7 Days of Sex Challenge today! Catch Us Live on Valentine’s Day at 5 PM PST, via C3 Livestream 14 Fun Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas for Married Couples 218 - Not All Good or All Bad Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 09, 2016
309: SEX IS NOT A DUTY IT’S A GIFT
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Sex is one of the biggest perks of being married and yet so often, relegated to an obligation instead of being the gift it truly should be. Have you ever said (or at least thought) any of the following in regard to sex in your marriage. It’s one more thing I have to do I’m so tired Don’t you ever get enough What about MY needs I could take it or leave it How does sex with your spouse get to this point? There is an anticipation to be sexually intimate at times, but more often than not it's not even on the radar for you or your spouse. This could be due to... Childhood messages about what sex should or shouldn’t be Busyness Lack of romance Lack of communication Sex is used as a weapon, treat me well and I’ll have sex with you, otherwise, no go Stopped learning or caring what works for the other Routine (same positions/same time) When sex has become a duty or an obligation, your marriage suffers. Sex is truly one the most intimate times with another person and not being fully involved in the process is placing a wedge between you and your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about changing your mindset so that sex is not a duty in your marriage but a gift that you give to one another. EPISODE SPONSOR | 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Talking about sex with your spouse is something you should do during different seasons of life. When you do you'll create a shift in your marriage around this sometimes “tricky” subject. Make sure to pick up this FREE resource that is going to give you 19 questions to change your sex life. Grab 19 Quick Questions now and don't miss an opportunity to learn about your sexual intimacy. 3 Ways to Overcome Your Fear 15 Ways to Romance Your Spouse Over the Next 30 Days Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions For Couples 140 - Scheduling Sex Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 02, 2016
308: TWO BECOME ONE
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Two become one. You may have heard this when you stood before your pastor as you were about to say "I Do". Since you got married though you feel that the two of you are not united in your marriage. This is showing up in areas ranging from: handling finances dealing with family what’s going on with the kids your sex life having a conversation creating a safe environment, free of judgment or harsh words spending time together and the list goes on You did not get married to do marriage by yourself. That’s a complete contradiction. Let’s be clear, we are not saying that you have to do everything together and spend all day, every day together. However, when there is no unity in your marriage it takes a heavy toll on you and your spouse. When there isn't unity in your marriage you feel: distant disconnected frustrated worthless invisible lonely angry This causes the distance between the two of you to grow. The silences get longer. The time spent away from one another grows. It’s time to go back to basics. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what it truly means when two become one and when you come together to be unified in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | 6 INCREDIBLE Questions To Instantly Break The Silence With Your Partner When you use these six questions they will help you connect at a deeper level, start the conversation when it feels like there is nothing to talk about, provide an opportunity to connect and bring the two of you closer and may bring a smile to you and your partners face upon sharing. Grab Our Six Questions now and don't miss an opportunity to connect with your spouse. 128 - Playing On The Same TEAM Financial Peace University by Dave Ramsey Total Transformation One-on-One Coaching  Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 26, 2016
307: STRENGTH TRAINING YOUR MARRIAGE MUSCLES
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Strength training your marriage isn't just about you as an individual. It's about strength training your marriage so that you and your spouse create a healthy, vibrant and growing marriage. The first 11 years of our marriage. we didn’t do much strength training in our marriage. We read a few devotionals, we had done a few small groups at church for married couples, occasionally we went out on date night or got a weekend by ourselves but that was about it. The foundation of our marriage was awful: distance, disconnected, and loneliness. When we decided to start strength training our marriage muscles a shift occurred. A shift that let’s us look at each day with excitement, with expectation that the best is yet to come. The same thing can happen in your marriage. Find your personal marriage trainer (hopefully us), so you can live your marriage with a plan, a purpose and excitement for what's to come. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why strength training isn’t just something for the gym but rather something that your marriage needs as well. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Financial Peace University by Dave Ramsey One-on-One Coaching  Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 19, 2016
306: A GOOD HUSBAND ISN’T SO HARD TO FIND
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Husbands get a bum rap in media, books, movies, tv--out of touch, unfeeling, sexed up, jerks. And yet your husband your husband is a good husband. You may look at yourself and even say that you are a good husband and one that doesn't even compare to how the media portrays you. Your're a husband who does dishes, change diapers, makes dinner and much more. A Husband who rubs your wife's feet, starts a bath plus you join in and sends love letters to your wife throughout the year. Is every husband like this? No. But every husband has the potential. It’s a matter of unlocking this in your marriage and both a husband and a wife can do this. When this happens a husband understands his role as the rock for his wife, children and for those around. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of acknowledging and giving praise to your husband because a good husband isn’t so hard to find. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar. Taking Charge of Your Fertility 56 Simple (But Super Effective) Compliments To Encourage Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 12, 2016
305: TWICE IN ONE DAY (MAKING LOVE THAT IS)
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Making love to your spouse is one of the most intimate times you two have together. It's a time when everything else falls away while you bask in each others arms. Now when you make love twice in one day that double the pleasure... Well is it? It sure is because it changes things up in your marriage and your sexual intimacy. This brings on a new and fresh perspective that you may have not seen. When you are making love multiple times in a day sexual intimacy becomes a priority as it puts the focus back on the two of you. You learn that sex can be quick and playful or lingering and romantic, there’s place for both in your marriage (you get to decide which one you want to do). Variety is good for both of you which can be a plus for new adventures down the road. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of stepping outside your sexual comfort zone as we share about making love twice in one day. EPISODE SPONSOR | Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex In this free resource learn the proven ways you can initiate that have worked for thousands of couples around the world. Even if you're not the one who usually initiates you can learn how to break the sexual tension and have your spouse responding in no time, have fun in the situation while LOVING and respecting each other, set yourself up for success in just 5 minutes or less and much more. Grab the Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex today! 7 Days of Sex Challenge: Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage Episode 140 - Scheduling Sex Romance Your Spouse With These Sexy Text Messages Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 05, 2016
304: YOUR BEST YEAR EVER
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It’s that time of year when you are thinking about the New Year and what's ahead for your marriage. You've thought about what happened over this past year and what you want this next year to look like. During this time you may be taking a serious look at your marriage and how you can strengthen each of the six intimacies. Your are counting down to the New Year and wondering how you can make it your best year ever. Starting this year or a new season of your life without a plan means that you are going to be at the mercy and whim of the world around you. When you are reactive you leave many aspects of your marriage floating around to "just happen". You couldn’t do your job if you didn’t have any idea of what was expected of you, why should our marriages be any less. In our marriage we are fortunate to be surrounded by couples who have been proactive about what's ahead for their marriage. What separates them and their marriage is that they are being intentional. Here’s a little secret... You can too. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what you can do right now so that you can create the best year ever in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | 15 Everyday Libido Boosting Habits Need to boost your libido? Simply use one of the 15 easy everyday habits we’ve put together for you… and never worry about a fizzling sex drive again! Get the #1 Tip we share with thousands of listeners on how to relax before sex, get this wrong and no tip we give can help! Plus, we share how to “schedule sex” so you can take the guess work out of when you’re going to “get some!” (this alone has hundreds of marriages saved marriages!) Sign up now for your FREE 15 Everyday Libido Boosting Habits Our Six Questions (Free Resource) He Zigs She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path  Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation  Core Values Workshop  One-on-One Coaching Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 29, 2015
303: ARE YOU BEING PRESENT?
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The presents are wrapped and under the tree, the stockings are hung, the cookies are baked and you’re exhausted. As a couple you find yourselves rushing through life, rushing through your marriage and missing out on being present with your spouse. Here's the thing... There will always be stuff to do in every season of your marriage. There will always be distractions in your life. In our 19 years of marriage we can attest to this. What sets your marriage apart is how you make each other a priority. This is so important! The two of you really need time together, just the two of you, and no one else. This means dates without the kids or a group of adults. Time alone walking, driving, playing a fun board game or cuddling on the couch listening to your favorite music. The two of you are so busy doing for others (your kids, your boss, your friends) that you need to make sure you are being present for one another. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about being present with your spouse during each season of life. EPISODE SPONSOR | Audible 30-Day Free Trial Here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage we already know that you like to listen to great content through your phone or your computer. We also know that you like to have your content available everywhere you go. With audible you can Choose from over 180,000 titles. One that we will be talking about on the show is David Finch’s The Journal of Best Practices. Get this or any other title with your Audible 30-day FREE trial. Four Fun Moments You Can Share With Your Spouse [VIDEO] Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 22, 2015
302: WHEN DRIFT BEGINS TO HAPPEN
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This time of year can be challenging for so many marriages. You are trying to hold it together for the family, for the kids, for the holidays and for yourself. Over the last weeks and months you have noticed that you and your spouse have begin to drift. You're living in survival mode, dealing with one thing after the next and yet you were designed to thrive. How did the drift begin in your marriage? For many of us we are TOO busy. There are his schedule, her schedule, the kids’ schedules, volunteering, getting together with friends. So much going on that there was little to no time to truly connect with one another. You and your spouse are not listening to each other. In the precious moments that you have together there is a rush to get through whatever you have to say OR you are so distracted that listening becomes secondary to whatever else you are doing. Also, opportunities to spend time with one another are eclipsed by whatever was on the to do list. This has to get done, we’ve got to do this, etc. etc. You are drifting apart right now from your spouse and there is no end in sight. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens when drift begins to happen in your marriage and what you can do to connect once again. EPISODE SPONSOR | Holiday Book Bundle Christmas is next week and you might be thinking, “What do I get my husband or wife?” We’ve got the perfect solution for you but you are going to have to act fast because there are only 30 of these available... It’s the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Holiday Book Bundle. Softcover copies of our two most popular titles: Connect Like You Did When You First Met 101 Proven Questions for Couples AND 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Improve your emotional intimacy and your physical intimacy this Christmas season. Get both of these titles for only $19 for the bundle, that’s a 56% savings. Grab your Holiday Book Bundle Today! Good or God by John Bevere Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 15, 2015
301: THOSE COMPETING VOICES
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What you choose to listen to does and will impact the decisions that you make. You have voices that are marriage enriching, which foster your relationship and are strong when the two of you are making time for each other, sharing your lives with each other both emotionally and physically. Then there are those voices encouraging you to be selfish. They begin to get louder when there is a disconnect in your emotional, physical, spiritual and financial intimacies. It gets harder to listen to those positive marriage enriching voices when the two of you have let everything else get in the way of your marriage. Don't let these competing voices distract you any longer. Make a choice, daily, sometimes minute by minute that you are going to stop and ask the question, is this choice, is this decision supporting my marriage? Am I choosing to be selfless or selfish in this moment... Selfless, go with it. Selfish, stop in your tracks and determine if this is the path you want to start down. Make sure that those situations, (business trips, electronics, friends, co-workers, etc) that continue to arise that you implement guardrails around. In doing so you will hear the voice that will enrich your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about those competing voices in your head, the ones that encourage you to build your marriage and the ones that justify taking dangerous actions. EPISODE SPONSOR | 101 Easy and Creative Gift Ideas Christmas is almost here and you might be scrambling, trying to figure out just what to give your spouse. Take a deep breath, our team here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage has done the hard work for you. We have compiled a list of 101 Easy and Creative Gift Ideas, everything from body scrub to a hot tub. Gifts for him, for her and for the two of you. It can be hard to find just that special something but this list makes it easy for you. Mind Mastery Cards Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 08, 2015
300: WE NEVER THOUGHT WE WOULD BE HERE
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"A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step." —Laozi In your marriage there have been joyous times when you look around and think to yourself, " I never thought I would be here" and tough times when you never thought you would be here. Either way you are here right now. What you choose to do at this time will be instrumental in where you are heading in your marriage journey. What we have enjoyed doing over our 19 years of marriage is to celebrate and remember these times. They are a part of us and our testimony of faith, growth, and love. All in all we never thought we would be here! Six year after starting the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show our marriage journey has ebbed and flow and still continues. In this week's show Tony and Alisa share as their journey continues in their marriage, the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show and listener feedback from the ONE Family. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 01, 2015
299: YOUR SEXUAL INTIMACY DURING THE HOLIDAYS
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Your to-do list is a mile long as the holidays and the end of the year approaches. You have meetings, parties, shopping, last minute errands, cleaning the house, end of the year reports, travel, kids out of school, and more that need to get done. There is so much to do and yet your sexual intimacy gets push aside for this "season", to another day, another week, or maybe you'll wait until next year. Yes you'll celebrate New Year’s together. Hugging, kissing and then starting the new year cuddled together under the sheets. Right? Hopefully, but usually not. This is NOT the season to put your marriage and your sexual intimacy on the back burner. When you are not intentional about your marriage during the holidays the smiley faces come out, but deep down there is hurt, anxiety and frustration. Both of you begin to push each other away, as other things become more important and you drift apart hoping it will be better on New Year's Eve. You may be thinking that you don’t want to start next year the way that this year is ending... Disconnected, lack of communication and not having sex. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about being intentional with all aspects of your marriage, especially your sexual intimacy during the holiday season. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar. 15 Ways to Romance Your Spouse Over the Next 30 Days Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 24, 2015
298: TRULY THANKFUL
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The word thankful means, "feeling or expressing gratitude; appreciative." As a married couple you should take time each day, week, and month to share with your spouse how truly thankful you are for them. For how they have had a positive impact in your life. With the end of the year and the holidays upon you it is a perfect time to share with your spouse why you are truly thankful for them over the past year. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about expressing gratitude to your spouse about why you are truly thankful for them over this past year. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don't Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar. 285 - Words of Encouragement Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 17, 2015
297: DE-STESS THE HOLIDAYS
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Surprise. Christmas is coming AGAIN this year, in fact it comes every year. Can you believe it? —Said with a little sarcasm. However this is often the sentiment that couples experience when the holidays roll around, every December. Here are a few things that happens during this time of year... lots of activities, parties, concerts, school programs gift exchanges holiday shopping All of these take time and money. From new outfits, a gift to share at a work gift exchange or buying presents for the family. Not only do they take time and money they can increase your stress level. When you get stressed one of the first things to go is your libido. So how can you bring down your stress level? Listen in now and set yourself up for success this holiday season. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about a few ways that you can de-stress the holidays so that you can be present and experience joy this Christmas. EPISODE SPONSOR | Audible 30-Day Free Trial Here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage we already know that you like to listen to great content through your phone or your computer. We also know that you like to have your content available everywhere you go. With audible you can Choose from over 180,000 titles. One that we will be talking about on the show is David Finch’s The Journal of Best Practices. Get this or any other title with your Audible 30-day FREE trial. 101 Easy and Creative Christmas Gift Ideas Awesome Under $20 Stocking Stuffers Elfster Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 10, 2015
296: YOUR MARRIAGE MANUAL
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Many items that you purchase come with a manual. Your car, your crockpot, the computer, TV, kid's toys and even your mascara has instructions. And yet you and your spouse despite all in all of their complexity do not. You marry someone who is completely unique, who has all kinds of quirks, some of which won’t even come out until you’ve been married for quite awhile. We know because after 19 years of marriage we are still learning about some of them. :) How do you figure out and learn your spouse? After much research on how to set up a marriage manual we discovered The Journal of Best Practices by David Finch. David was diagnosed with Asperger syndrome after he had gotten married and his best practices are a perfect way to create your own marriage manual. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it's important to create a marriage manual so you can have success no matter what you face on your marriage journey. EPISODE SPONSOR | Audible 30-Day Free Trial Here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage we already know that you like to listen to great content through your phone or your computer. We also know that you like to have your content available everywhere you go. With audible you can Choose from over 180,000 titles. One that we will be talking about on the show is David Finch’s The Journal of Best Practices. Get this or any other title with your Audible 30-day FREE trial. Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage The Journal of Best Practices Color Your Future: Using the Character Code to Enhance Your Life Wired That Way Personality Profile Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 03, 2015
295: THE NO REJECTION ZONE
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Creating a no rejection zone in your marriage is vital to creating an environment where both you and your spouse trust one another. Rejection is incredibly destructive. It eats away at a person’s sense of worth, it creates doubt, it destroys the foundation of your marriage. For the first 11 years of our marriage rejection was as common as breathing air. Over the past eight years we have decided that our bedroom is a no rejection zone. In doing so there has been a shift in us and in our marriage. What we learned is that sometimes you know when you are rejecting your spouse... That’s the bold NO. And other times it with more subtle statements, such as: Not tonight. Not right now. I’m really busy. I have one more thing I have to do. One more chapter to read. I’m going to (cuddle, hang out, watch a movie) with the kids. I have a volunteer meeting. I already made plans with friends. Each one of these things is not bad or destructive in and of themselves. It’s when they become the pattern of behavior in your marriage. It’s when this is all that your spouse hears. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s so important to have a no rejection zone in your bedroom. EPISODE SPONSOR | The Science of a Woman, the Art of Manhood In this fascinating read, author Eric Smith, digs into many topics dealing with the marriage relationship and how husbands and wives relate to one another sexually. He digs deep into grace based vs law based relationships and the forgotten art of manhood. This is a must read for couples everywhere. Learn more today when you grab your copy of The Science of a Woman, the Art of Manhood. 140 - Scheduling Sex Quick Intimacy Lifestyle Overview [VIDEO] Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation 56 Simple (But Super Effective) Compliments To Encourage Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Oct 27, 2015
294: YOU HAVE 168 HOURS EACH WEEK
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You’re busy. There is a lot going on in your life. When you’re dating or even newly married it seems like you have the ability to make the time for one another no matter what. You’ll rearrange your schedule. You’ll say no to other people or activities that would take you away from your love. And then over time... well other things start to fill up that time. The less time you spend engaged in your relationship the more disconnect there is. No matter if you have been married, 3 months or 30 years you still have to get to know your spouse. When you stop giving that time to one another, when you stop learning about one another there is a natural drift apart that occurs. Without some type of  behavior change that gap can get wider and wider. You know when you are co-existing in the same house, but not really growing together. It's time to do a time makeover... In looking at your week you will begin to see the time that you do have together, is it really quality time? Or do you just happen to be home at the same time. Are you doing things together? Are you talking? Are you dating? Are you having sex? In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what you can do together to find those chunks of time in your 168 hours each week so you connect regularly. EPISODE SPONSOR | Audible 30-Day Free Trial Here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage we already know that you like to listen to great content through your phone or your computer. We also know that you like to have your content available everywhere you go. With audible you can Choose from over 180,000 titles. One that we have talked about on the show is ScreamFree Marriage: Calming Down, Growing Up, and Getting Closer. Get this or any other title with your Audible 30-day FREE trial. Get More Quality Time Workshop Scheduling Sex... A Quick Intimacy Lifestyle Overview [VIDEO] Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Oct 20, 2015
293: HOLD ON TIGHT
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On October 5th we celebrated our 19th wedding anniversary! For our anniversary day we choose to have a date day with a theme...we’ll share this date idea on an upcoming Periscope. Follow us there @oneextraordinary. One part of the date was to go to a local shooting range. It was one of those things that sounded like a good idea until we got there and started going over all of the safety features. There was one moment when Alisa almost said, "Nope, not gonna do it." Fear of the unknown almost stopped us from having an new learning experience together. So what happened once we got in the shooting range...We learned a lot about marriage in just 90 minutes. In this week's show Tony and Alisa share what you can learn about your marriage when you hold on tight to each other. EPISODE SPONSOR | The Science of a Woman, the Art of Manhood In this fascinating read, author Eric Smith, digs into many topics dealing with the marriage relationship and how husbands and wives relate to one another sexually. One of the most challenging for us, was his challenging of the idea of high desire and low desire. Smith asks the question why would God put us in conflict with one another with different levels of desire? Great question! Learn more today when you grab your copy of The Science of a Woman, the Art of Manhood. Core Values Workshop Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Oct 13, 2015
292: IT’S BEEN TOO LONG SINCE WE’VE HAD SEX
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When you have said to yourself and/or to your spouse, "It's been too long since we've had sex", then it's time to sit down to figure out what is going on. The topic of sexless marriages is one a lot of people shy away from. Most of the time because if it is not talked about then the problem doesn't exist. Unfortunately, roughly 15% of marriage have not had sex with their spouse in the last six to twelve months, according to Denise A. Donnelly, associate professor of sociology at Georgia State University. Sexless marriages by definition are marriages in which a couple has sex less than 10-12 times per year. Why is this happening: too much rejection broken trust lack of communication medication What we cover in this show is NOT those seasons of marriage where you are unable to have sex due to medical conditions OR physical limitations, but areas that you can address in a physically healthy marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa dive into why there has been an increase in sexless marriages and the impact it has on you. EPISODE SPONSOR | Audible 30-Day Free Trial Here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage we already know that you like to listen to great content through your phone or your computer. We also know that you like to have your content available everywhere you go. With audible you can Choose from over 180,000 titles. One that we have talked about on the show is ScreamFree Marriage: Calming Down, Growing Up, and Getting Closer. Get this or any other title with your Audible 30-day FREE trial. The Rise of All-Purpose Antidepressants The Brutal Truth About Sexless Marriages When Sex Leaves the Marriage On Air with Ella - One (HOT!) Extraordinary Marriage Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Oct 06, 2015
291: THE MARRIED COUPLES GUIDE TO PMS
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Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) is not just about the emotional toll it has, but also the physical impact it has on women. There are many symptoms that can be experienced. Some of these are: feeling tired food cravings trouble with memory joint or muscle pain tension, irritability, mood swings or crying spells PMS can create feelings of disconnect during the month. Leading her to... An unwillingness to be touched. A short "fuse". Roller coaster of emotions. And for him... Not knowing what to do or say. Struggles with how to comfort his wife. There is a lack of physical connection. And studies show that PMS can last 1-2 weeks BEFORE a woman gets her period which then averages 5 days. In this week's show Tony and Alisa bring you the married couples guide to PMS and how to talk about it together. EPISODE SPONSOR | The Science of a Woman, the Art of Manhood In this fascinating read, author Eric Smith, digs into many topics dealing with the marriage relationship and how husbands and wives relate to one another sexually. One of the most challenging for us, was his challenging of the idea of high desire and low desire. Smith asks the question why would God put us in conflict with one another with different levels of desire? Great question! Learn more today when you grab your copy of The Science of a Woman, the Art of Manhood. Taking Charge of Your Fertility How Did He Know? Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Sep 29, 2015
290: GROUNDHOG DAY
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Routine... while is seems easy and comforting at first really and truly leads to boredom. Boredom in your marriage leads to looking for other people or things to break that sense of routine. This boredom if not address can lead to emotional affairs, to physical affairs, to erotica and pornography, to excessive spending, to countless hours lost on social media and most importantly a loss of connection with your spouse. For you this feels like Groundhog Day. The same thing is happening day in and day out in your marriages. Nothing changes except the date on the calendar. Your conversations are about the same things. Your dates all look the same. Your sex life hasn’t had any variety in what seems like forever. It’s a Groundhog Day season of marriage... Doing the same thing over and over. The definition of insanity is "doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result." It's time to break the routine, to stop living as if Groundhog Day is your life! In this week's show Tony and Alisa share what happens to your marriage when it seems as Groundhog Day is happening day after day and how you can break the cycle of routine so you can have abundance. EPISODE SPONSOR | Core Values Workshop - September 23, 2015 at 6:30 PM PST Here's what's happening. We've almost reached our registrations limit and are closing the doors to The Core Values Workshop LIVE training. Join us right now and register before you lose your chance. We have to close the offer so we can focus on all the new members. So NOW is the time to get off the fence and get in! We can't wait to connect with you live! Register today: www.CoreValuesWorkshop.com Trenchcoat And High Heels Discover the Top 10 Ways To Initiate Sex With Your Spouse TONIGHT Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Sep 22, 2015
289: WALK AROUND NAKED AT HOME
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This show came out of a conversation we had as Tony walked from the master bathroom into our bedroom... naked. It occurred to us that those couples who walk around naked are couples who are vulnerable and comfortable with each other. We realized through this conversation that walking around naked in our own marriage has taken many different forms over the years. There have been different times in our lives when we would walk around naked and other times when we would not. These include: Newlywed years New parents stage Young kids around Teenagers and their schedules Empty nesters Through the years there has been changes to our bodies. We have gone from our early 20s, when we got marriage, to now in our 40s. This isn't only about how we look, it’s about how we think we look, and the messages that we give each other. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about being comfortable in your own skin as well as around your spouse as you walk around naked at home. EPISODE SPONSOR | The Science of a Woman, the Art of Manhood In this fascinating read, author Eric Smith, digs into many topics dealing with the marriage relationship and how husbands and wives relate to one another sexually. One of the most challenging for us, was his challenging of the idea of high desire and low desire. Smith asks the question why would God put us in conflict with one another with different levels of desire? Great question! Learn more today when you grab your copy of The Science of a Woman, the Art of Manhood. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Sep 15, 2015
288: DISCOVERING YOUR TRUE VALUES
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People are lost. Marriages are lost. Families are lost. We have become a society, that for the most part, doesn’t plan who or what we stand for. Do you know what your marriage stands for? Every couple and family has their own unique set of characteristics. Whether it's something that they have sat down and consciously decided on OR it's something that they have just "fallen" into. This is their identity. Sometimes those things that you are known for, aren't necessarily positive... that family is always late that family never spends time together that family.... What would happen if you choose to create your identity? If you choose the positive words to speak over your marriage, over your spouse, over your children? Words matter. Values matter. What you stand for, what you speak to each other, what you value impacts every decision that you make. These are your true values. It's not enough to just "have this idea in your head" it has to be something that you participate in together and have a hand in forming. What values in our marriage is not going to be the same as what will ultimately be your core values. While the values aren't going to be the same, the fact that we take the time to create this and identify them for our families transforms us, and our communities. It becomes an identity, our foundation. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about your family legacy and the importance of discovering your true values as a person and as a couple. EPISODE SPONSOR | Core Values Workshop - September 23rd, 2015 What would it be like to have greater clarity and peace when making the choices that matter with your spouse? Marriage means tackling  "the big things" together, as true teammates. Whether you’re newlyweds, married 5, 10, 30 years or a couple at any stage you will have to navigate big decisions together. You can connect with your spouse in an incredible  new way. The Core Values Workshop is built around specific, clear, actionable steps that will help you connect with your better half in a judgment-free way. Some Nights by Fun (Video) Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Sep 08, 2015
287: THE IMPACT OF TONE AND TIMING
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When you first meet your spouse you were most likely on your best behavior at all times. You would watch out for what you would say and how you would say it. Over time, as you became more familiar with each other that “best behavior started to slide”. You got more comfortable with the fact that your future spouse would be sticking around. As time passed you took the relationship for granted and AS A RESULT you would say things however you wanted, whenever the mood strikes. Unfortunately, this can be a disaster for your marriage. When you don’t care how you say something or what you say to your spouse, you open up each of you to a world of hurt. Both of you deserve the respect of the other. Both of you deserve to be treated in the same way that you wish to be treated. If you don’t want your spouse to raise their voice at you. Don’t raise your voice at them. If you don’t want your spouse to interrupt you. Don’t interrupt them. If you don’t want to be accused of ALWAYS OR NEVER. Don’t do it to them. If you want to be able to have fruitful conversations it’s not just about how you say something. It’s also about when you say something. It's about your tone and timing. There are times when stress levels are high. There are times when fatigue is a huge factor (or hunger). There are times when your spouse is naturally less talkative. These are not the times to bring up a serious conversation. No one is going to be productive. Choosing the time to talk is just as important if not more so then what you are talking about. Take the first step and listen now. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about how the tone of your voice and the timing of your conversations ultimately determine the success of your conversations. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path I got married 7 months ago and as a newlywed I can honestly say there is no play book or instruction manual to prepare you for this thing called marriage. He Zigs, She Zags has been our play book when it comes to our communication. I just wanted to message you guys and say THANK YOU. You are making a difference in our marriage! —Chris C., Indiana Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Sep 01, 2015
286: SEX IS A PART OF MARRIAGE
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In your marriage there are six forms of intimacy that build your foundation. Each are vital to a successful marriage, a marriage based on safety and trust. And, sexual intimacy is one of them. When your needs or those of your spouse are not being met a few things start to happen… You wonder why you are married in the first place and start thinking about getting out. You begin to get resentful and withdraw from the marriage. You don’t see the harm in look toward other things to fulfill you (pornography, erotica, emotional affairs, physical affairs, etc.) since your spouse isn’t doing anything. This is not the marriage that you want to live in. It’s not healthy. It’s a relationship filled with... anger frustration sadness resentment disappointment withdrawal loneliness You can have an amazing sex life. You can learn how to please each other. Learning anything new takes time, patience, an open mind and a willingness to learn. On this week's show Tony and Alisa share why sex is a part of marriage (no matter if it's stagnant or vibrant) and how the two can make your sexual intimacy burn once again. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path I got married 7 months ago and as a newlywed I can honestly say there is no play book or instruction manual to prepare you for this thing called marriage. He Zigs, She Zags has been our play book when it comes to our communication. I just wanted to message you guys and say THANK YOU. You are making a difference in our marriage! —Chris C., Indiana 19 Questions to Amazing Sex with Your Spouse 140 - Scheduling Sex Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Aug 25, 2015
285: WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT
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There are a lot of distractions in the world… electronics, social media, daily tasks, other people, etc. Because of these distractions it’s easy to lose sight of the gift that you have right in front of your face. The gift of your spouse that God has given to you. You and your spouse spoke a covenant to each other to be together “as long as life shall last.” And yet time goes by and what you once did you no longer do anymore. Saying words of encouragement and complimenting your spouse is vital for them and for you. When you use words of encouragement for your spouse… It boosts their confidence. It lets them know that they are valued. It lets them know that your heart and mind are on them, not on other people or other things. As you speak these words of encouragement you… Keep you focus on what you already have. Show that you are their support. Push away the distractions that are around you. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa dive deep on ways that you can compliment and use words of encouragement that are easy, effective and powerful. These simple statements will powerfully impact your marriage (and spouse!) for many years to come.   EPISODE SPONSOR | One-On-One Coaching Are you struggling in your marriage? Are you at a point where you spouse has said we need help or else? Have you just woken up to the fact that you have drifted apart and don’t know how to find your way back to one another? It’s time to take the next step. It’s time to apply for coaching with Alisa and make the changes necessary in your marriage. 56 Simple (But Super Effective) Compliments To Encourage Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Aug 18, 2015
284: COCONUT OIL, VIBRATOR AND THE GAME OF LOVE
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You desire to be sexually intimacy with your spouse and at the same time add some adventure and variety in your bedroom. Where do you start? What do you need? We struggled with this for years in our own marriage. You know how it goes, you do the same things over and over and it can be tough to jump out and try something new. To be honest we tried many ways to do this and have experienced many misses along the way. We weren't going to be stopped though. We desired to make our bedroom a sanctuary, a place of fun, a place of relaxation, a place of adventure. Through trial and error we have found a number of items that create romance, fun, adventure and pampering. You have to check these out... 11 MUST HAVE Items For Your Bedroom In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about some of these must have items, coconut oil, a vibrator and The Game of Love, that you can get to make your bedroom the most desirable room in your home. EPISODE SPONSOR | The Game of Love Put some fun & games back into your relationship!  The Game of Love is a bed sheet board game that you can customize to fit your relationship just right! Every game kit includes a fitted bed sheet with a blank game board on it. You’ll use the provided fabric markers to write in each space a physical activity, question, mini game, or another idea from the Game of Love’s online Idea Vault. Visit The Game of Love and use 1MARRIAGE to get $5.00 off any game kit! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663  
Aug 11, 2015
283: THE HAPPINESS MYTH
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Everyday there are conversations going on about marriage where someone says... My spouse doesn’t make me happy. I’m not happy in this marriage. Why isn’t my happiness important? The issue many marriages face right now is that of the ME focus. It is common place that there is an expectation that everyone and everything exist for your happiness. This is especially prevalent in the marriage relationship. A shift needs to happen in you for your marriage to thrive. As an individual and part of a marriage you need to learn what brings you happiness and then go create that in your life and your marriage. It’s is a myth that your spouse was put here on this planet to make you happy? In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why your spouse isn't the only place you should look for your happiness as we remove the masks on the happiness myth. EPISODE SPONSOR | OUR SIX QUESTIONS 6 INCREDIBLE questions to instantly break the silence with your spouse. Easy, awesome, lighthearted prompts to get your spouse to open up today. WARNING: these questions may bring a smile to you and your partners face upon sharing. Sacred Marriage: What if God Designed Marriage Not to Make You Happy But to Make You Holy The Five Love Languages Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Aug 04, 2015
282: LOOK UP
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Are you living in your own little bubble with your head down, focused only on yourself, your needs, your wants... And yet your spouse may be there wondering if you even know what’s happening to them, what’s going on at work or at home, or how a recent event has impacted them. You haven't taken time to look up recently and in doing so you've forgotten that you are in a marriage with another person. Your community is being impacted. You have stopped seeing the needs of others are are ONLY focused on YOUR needs. Marriage was never designed to be a ME focused relationship. It was designed to bring two people together to be better and stronger than they would be on their own. The only way that you can be better together is if you shift your focus to look up and look at your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s time to turn your eyes skyward and look up to what’s ahead in your marriage. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 28, 2015
281: CAN’T DO ANYTHING RIGHT
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Defeated. Worn out. Frustrated. Any of these and many more emotions can get you to a place where you have told yourself that you can't do anything right. Nope. Nothing. This is a lie and four words that will bankrupt you and your marriage. Before you say these words to yourself make sure you use the "3 P's". Pause. Pray. Proceed. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about getting past a place of disconnection especially when you say, "I can’t do anything right" to yourself and to your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs,She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Marriage counselling professionals agreed on the number one cause of divorce… “Poor Communication” but how do you get better communication skills and save your marriage? Your communication solution is He Zigs, She Zags! He Zigs, She Zags is amazing! There is no fluff, no unrealistic expectations, just down to earth, practical advice on having an incredible, Christ centered marriage. —Hannah W., Georgia Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 21, 2015
280: THESE WILL FAN THE FLAMES OF YOUR SEXUAL INTIMACY
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Have you lost the spark, emotional, physical, or sexual, in your marriage? Has the fire you once had burning strong is now a flicker and dimming more and more with every day that passes? If the fire isn’t as hot as you would like it’s time to fan the flames and get it going again. For a fire to burn you need to fan the flames with oxygen, heat and fuel. It's time for you to pour each of these into your marriage and if one of these is missing you will have a difficult time trying to fan the flames of your sexual intimacy. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the 3 things that every fire needs and how you can apply these to the fan the flames needed in your bedroom. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Days of Sex Challenge The 7 Days of Sex Challenge makes it easy for busy couples like you to find some fun time together because it ELIMINATES the stress of figuring out what you need to do for 7 days that will be new and creative to try. You really HAVE to try new things in your sex life or you’ll both get bored. This boredom leads to your love life being no less stressful than the rest of your life. Start your challenge TODAY! [VIDEO] Look Into Each Other's Eyes Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 14, 2015
279: LIVE THIS DECADE WITH PURPOSE
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According to a 2014 article in The Economist, the average length of marriage in the USA is 8 years. When you factor in that many couples will wait 2-3 years after marriage to have kids you can see that there is a need to better understand the years and decade after having kids. The math from above if it plays out means that many divorces are happening midway through having kids introduced to the marriage. So... ...if this is the case then you need to be equipped and ready for the decade that follows your first child. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about making it through the first decade of parenting stronger than you started. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Days of Sex Challenge The 7 Days of Sex Challenge makes it easy for busy couples like you to find some fun time together because it ELIMINATES the stress of figuring out what you need to do for 7 days that will be new and creative to try. You really HAVE to try new things in your sex life or you’ll both get bored. This boredom leads to your love life being no less stressful than the rest of your life. Start your challenge TODAY! 193 - Divorce Is Off The Table Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 07, 2015
278: THE SECRET VALUE OF THE QUICKIE
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The quickie can be an amazing sexual experience in your marriage if you know the secret to enjoying it together. In our own marriage, our sex life can be a bit off during the summer months. Different schedules, kids are home, vacations, and just hanging out. This change in seasons can be challenging if you and your spouse don’t discuss what is happening. When expectations are kept to yourself it sets the two of you up for frustration and failure. Not something either of you want. In this week's Tony and Alisa talk about setting up your quickie expectations and the necessity for both of you to enjoy a quickie in different seasons of your marriage. Episode Sponsor - The Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex Have you been at a loss for new ways to initiate sex? Do you do the same thing every time? It’s time to spice things up and get creative. Pick up your FREE copy of the The Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex. Scheduling Sex and The Intimacy Lifestyle Sexpectations Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jun 30, 2015
277: DRUG OF CHOICE
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When you find yourself spending more and more time or being more and more distracted there is something going on. Maybe society wouldn’t call it a drug of choice. Maybe you even joke about “having a little problem”. The truth is that these choices can take you away from your spouse and pull you out of your marriage. You are “busy” and there are many demands on your time and yet you have a choice. Every relationship has it’s issues and there will be times and seasons where you will have to go through this with your spouse. In each time you get to determine how you choose to act. Numbing yourself with these other behaviors instead of dealing with them head on, doesn’t make the problem go away it only serves to postpone the inevitable that things are going to get worse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the seemingly little things that can have an impact on your marriage also known as your drug of choice. EPISODE SPONSOR – ***Flash Sale*** Connect Like You Did When You First Met Kindle Edition Packed with questions to get the conversation started in any area of marriage this is a must have for every couple. No more just asking “how was your day” it’s time to dig deep and move past the surface talk. What better way to do this than have 101 questions to ask each other. Grab Connect Like You Did When You First Met for $2.99 during this flash sale. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jun 23, 2015
276: MONEY IN THE BANK
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Financial stress is an intimacy killer. Plain and simple. It can keep you up at night and it keeps you worrying during the day. It’s hard to let down your guard when you are worried about paying the bills or having food on the table. The fear keeps you and your spouse from living the life, the marriage you were meant to have. Today it's time to make the decision that you are going to tell your money what to do. You are going to live an extraordinary life and it’s starts with making a change to the little expenses. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about you, your money and how getting your financial intimacy on the same page is important for your marriage, your bottom line and will allow you to have money in the bank. EPISODE SPONSOR – Connect Like You Did When You First Met Learn the most relevant and critical questions most of our couple clients have had to deal with. We categorized these questions by topic and gave them a natural, orderly sequential flow. The result? An easy to use, handy reference tool. A tool that will dramatically change the course and tone of those most critical discussions you need to have with your spouse… forever. HD AMped Antennae Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jun 16, 2015
275: COMMUNICATION DOESN’T END WITH FOREPLAY
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It starts with the sweet talk. Then it leads to both of you romancing each other all through the day. And then other times you just want a quickie. In all truth there is some form of communication going on between the two of you to get to the point that you are deciding to have sex. Foreplay starts (however short or long) and then it stops... Once you're past that point all there is between the two of you are a few moans or groans and the sigh of "is this over yet". The thing is that communication doesn’t end with foreplay. Each of you have to be giving each other feedback as to what is really good and what needs to be done differently. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it is important for both you and your spouse to share what you like after foreplay is over. Episode Sponsor - The Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex Have you been at a loss for new ways to initiate sex? Do you do the same thing every time? It’s time to spice things up and get creative. Pick up your FREE copy of the The Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jun 09, 2015
274: IT’S TIME TO TAKE THE LEAD
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There may have been seasons in your marriage when neither one of you stood up to lead the family. You, your spouse and your marriage were like a boat with no rudder, just going around and around in circles trying to get somewhere but going nowhere. The definition of insanity is, doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. If you aren't sure when, why or how to lead your marriage then it's time to begin learning. Your marriage needs leadership. You both have different skills and abilities that contribute to the marriage. Your strengths matter, learn what they are and then use them to both of your advantage to lead your marriage. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about ways that you can lead and share the leadership in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Sex Without Sheets Online Marriage Conference When you sign up for Sex Without Sheets you and your spouse will join the leading marriage experts who will be sharing proven tips to help you communicate your sexual needs to your spouse, the must- do steps for reigniting your romance, the guaranteed method to ensure you’re having enough sex, and so much more! Sex Without Sheets is being held on June 6, 2015. Sign up Today! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jun 02, 2015
273: TIME FOR AN OIL CHANGE
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You spend time, effort and energy in maintaining your stuff and yet, you are not giving your marriage that same courtesy. Your expectations for your marriage is so much more. The problem is that you are not giving it the tools that you and your spouse need to be successful. In your life you may see the doctor once a year, go to the dentist for regular cleanings and get the oil changed on your vehicles every 3-5,000 miles. And then there’s your marriage... When was the last time you did some maintenance work, for example an oil change, on your marriage? This isn't about when the crisis hits, like when your engine seizes on the side of the road, but the regular maintenance to make sure that your marriage is going well. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the importance of regular maintenance, that oil change, in your marriage EPISODE SPONSOR | Sex Without Sheets Online Marriage Conference When you sign up for Sex Without Sheets you and your spouse will join the leading marriage experts who will be sharing proven tips to help you communicate your sexual needs to your spouse, the must- do steps for reigniting your romance, the guaranteed method to ensure you’re having enough sex, and so much more! Sex Without Sheets is being held on June 6, 2015. Sign up Today! 3 Tips to Read the Bible with Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
May 26, 2015
272: WALKING IN THE DOOR
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Throughout the day you are transitioning from waking up, heading to work, coming home, going to bed to doing it all over again. The heading out times always seem to be easier, except for you parents of little ones that are leaving for the first time and there is crying to no end. Walking in the door time can be a "witching hour" for you. Whether you’ve been away for a few hours, or a few months or even just locked in your office during the day. Transitioning from your work day and walking in the door has a huge impact on your marriage. It’s the difference between a screaming match and cuddling, the difference between the silent treatment and a goodnight kiss, the difference between strife and peace. Understanding  how you transition and how your spouse transitions is key for your marital growth. It allows the two of you to give each other space based on what works for the two of you, but the only way that you are able to learn this is if you TALK about it. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about walking in the door from the end of the work day back into your marriage and family life. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags  Your marriage can be better than ever. With effective communication you will… Stop feeling angry and frustrated with your spouse (and avoid this affecting other areas of your life), develop lasting solutions for your marriage so you can get through anything together, restore honesty, openness and transparency with each other so you can live together with love and trust, but most importantly... create the “happily ever after” that you both deserve. Grab He Zigs, She Zags today and get started! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
May 19, 2015
271: RUNNING BELOW EMPTY
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The idea of running below empty is nothing new. What is new is how running below empty is impacting marriages. Possible even having a negative affect on you right now. When you are below empty what suffers the most is not your job or your obligations to others... ...instead what often suffers are your personal relationships. Specifically the one with your spouse. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about when you are running below empty and the impact that doing too much has on your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Romance the Write Way Imagine your spouse finding your love letter placed under their pillow one night and the surprised look on their face. Imagine their eyes lighting up as they open it and read the perfectly crafted message from their caring wife or husband. Imagine knowing what to say and how to say it AND having the time to make it all happen. We know you are saying YES, show me how. Check out Romance the Write Way for all of the details. 3 Ways to Create a More Intimate Bedroom Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
May 12, 2015
270: A TRENCHCOAT AND HIGH HEELS
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It can be hard to step out of your comfort zone, to try something new, to be adventurous. This can be as simple as changing your hair color (Alisa went RED once), to eating at a new restaurant, to wearing new clothes, shoes, or trying a different wardrobe style, to experimenting with a new position sexually or even GASP a new way to initiate. Your mind might be racing with questions, such as: How will I be received? What will he or she think of me? Will I be able to pull this off? What if it doesn’t work? What if I am embarrassed? This time you are pushing past all of these questions and putting on the trenchcoat and high heels. Figuratively for some of you and literally for others. You're stepping out of your comfort zone. You challenge yourself to do something you’ve never done so that you can experience something you never have. You chose to be strong in a situation that may have caused you to feel week. Each time you experience a new level of sexual intimacy with your spouse because you stepped out of your comfort zone. Each step is a baby step that leads you to be courageous in your life and your marriage. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about stepping out of what you’ve always done to surprise your spouse when you initiate sex. EPISODE SPONSOR | Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation Discover How Small (And Large) Breaches Of Trust Damage Your Marriage And How To Handle Them In A Healthy Way. Trust is the foundation of every marriage. But over the years little things eat away at your relationship. Little things you might not even notice. So you have to ask yourself... is your Trust Tank at 100%? Learn how-to rebuild the trust in your marriage during the Trust Me! Online Workshop. 21 Ways to Initiate Sex with Your Spouse Connect Like You Did When You First Met Strategic Marriage Coaching Session Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
May 05, 2015
269: ABSENCE DOESN’T MAKE THE HEART GROW FONDER
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Distance in your marriage can be tough. This can happen in your home or it could be when you and your spouse are miles apart. This can be for work, family illness, deployment, moving to a new city, or any other reason. As much as the old saying goes, distance makes the heart grow fonder, this usually isn't the case. Distance can cause heartache, anxiety, frustration and loneliness. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about ways that you can strengthen your marriage no matter if you're together daily or living apart for a period of time. EPISODE SPONSOR | Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation Discover How Small (And Large) Breaches Of Trust Damage Your Marriage And How To Handle Them In A Healthy Way. Trust is the foundation of every marriage. But over the years little things eat away at your relationship. Little things you might not even notice. So you have to ask yourself... is your Trust Tank at 100%? Learn how-to rebuild the trust in your marriage during the Trust Me! Online Workshop. Romance the Write Way Qalo Rings Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 28, 2015
268: WHY ARE YOU ACTING LIKE THIS?
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You've decided that it's time. It's time to change because what's been happening isn't what you want to continue doing. You've decided to make some changes. Well... ...your spouse has just noticed that something is up and is asking, "Why are you acting like this?" You know why and yet it's a bit difficult to explain to your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens in your marriage dynamic when you start to work on yourself and your spouse starts wondering why you are acting differently. EPISODE SPONSOR | Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation Discover How Small (And Large) Breaches Of Trust Damage Your Marriage And How To Handle Them In A Healthy Way. Trust is the foundation of every marriage. But over the years little things eat away at your relationship. Little things you might not even notice. So you have to ask yourself... is your Trust Tank at 100%? Learn how-to rebuild the trust in your marriage during the Trust Me! Online Workshop. Question Behind the Question by John G. Miller Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 21, 2015
267: BE PREPARED
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Preparation is one of the biggest gifts that you and your spouse can give to each other and your family. And yet it’s hard to think about our own mortality. People often say that it’s the teenagers that think that they are invincible but in reality most of you think you have all the time in the world. Be prepared. When you have a document, Our Family Emergency List, you are setting yourself and your family up for a smoother transition. Not having this type of information prepared and easily accessible can leave those left behind not only grieving but frustrated, scared and lost as they try and piece things together. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what you need to do to be prepared in the event of a family emergency. EPISODE SPONSOR | Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation Discover How Small (And Large) Breaches Of Trust Damage Your Marriage And How To Handle Them In A Healthy Way. Trust is the foundation of every marriage. But over the years little things eat away at your relationship. Little things you might not even notice. So you have to ask yourself... is your Trust Tank at 100%? Learn how-to rebuild the trust in your marriage during the Trust Me! Online Workshop. Our Family Emergency List Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 14, 2015
266: TAKE HOPE FROM A FANTASY TO A FORCE IN YOUR LIFE
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Hope is in short supply in our world. From news reports talking about all of the ugliness to televisions shows that are completed scripted to bring you down. Here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage it has been our goal to bring you hope each and every week. Sharing with you how your marriage can not only survive but thrive after challenges as well as for the long haul. Every hug is a story of hope, every picture on the love you guys wall of fame, ALMOST every review on iTunes (there are a few that just come from the haters) but overall it's about hope and we love hearing about your stories. It's time to put legs on the hope you have. Hope without action is just a fantasy, it’s a wish, a want. Hope with action is a force. It’s time to take action in your life and your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the ray of hope you have in your marriage and using it as a force to create transformation. EPISODE SPONSOR | Contract of Reconciliation You’ve had enough of your spouse’s antics. The word “Separation” or “Divorce” have been said in hurtful ways and now you are really considering one or both. The Contract of Reconciliation is for when you feel you need to separate to gain clarity in your marriage with the goal of being together again. 170 - What's Wrong With My Marriage... I AM Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 07, 2015
265: RUN THE RACE
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Sprinters are amazing at short bursts of energy for a short period of time. However, if your vows were anything like ours they had something like “as long as life shall last” (until death do us part, forever, etc). That is not a short period of time, that’s not until the next commercial break, or until this gets too hard. Marathoners or distance runners know that they have to pace themselves. They're in it to run the race. For them to complete it they need know that... Nutrition matters Supporters are key Planning makes a difference Shoes and clothes will impact the results. The same thing plays out in your marriage... instead of all of the different facets of a race, it’s knowing what is important for you to run the race. These include your: Emotional Intimacy Physical Intimacy Spiritual Intimacy Recreational Intimacy Financial Intimacy In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what's you need to do to run the race as you view your marriage as a marathon not a sprint. EPISODE SPONSOR | Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking the Intimacy in Your Marriage Remember back to your wedding day.  We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt.  Your marriage was going to last forever.  You were sure of that.  And then…reality set in.  You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while.  You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same.  Is it just a part of life?  Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes?  You don’t have to! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 31, 2015
264: MARRIAGE THROUGH YOUR SPOUSE’S EYES
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Looking at the world, especially your marriage, from only your point of view is short sighted. By doing this... you are only taking your feelings, wants and desires into account. Over time this lack of perspective can lead to little consideration from the perspective of your spouse. What they may be going through, how the world looks to them, what they are struggling with. It's time to have some introspection time about being able to see what your marriage looks like from your spouse's eyes. Here’s the thing. Many of us are horrible at seeing things from another’s point of view. We are inherently selfish and use our perceptions, our point of view as the point of view that we focus on...this can lead to a short sighted view of your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about looking at your marriage through your spouse’s eyes, not just through your own narrow lens. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags  Your marriage can be better than ever... With effective communication you will… Stop feeling angry and frustrated with your spouse (and avoid this affecting other areas of your life), develop lasting solutions for your marriage so you can get through anything together, restore honesty, openness and transparency with each other so you can live together with love and trust, but most importantly... create the “happily ever after” that you both deserve. Grab He Zigs, She Zags today and get started! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 24, 2015
263: LESSONS LEARNED FROM HAVING SEX (A LOT)
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Having sex is a beautiful experience that you and your spouse get to enjoy together. Unfortunately, there are times when having sex goes by the way side. It's at this moment when you realize that it's time to change it up. The 7 Days of Sex Challenge is just the way to have a new experience and learn about yourself and your marriage. Here's a few things you can expect to learn during a challenge: It’s a way to put each other first, even for us there can be times where we take each other for granted. It requires that you focus on all aspects of intimacy for a concentrated amount of time. This allows you to see where you need to pay more attention and be more intentional in your marriage. It’s fun, challenging and a goal you complete together. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the three marriage lessons they have learned from completing their fifth 7 days of sex challenge over the last six years. EPISODE SPONSOR - 7 Days of Sex Challenge: Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage Life is stressful, but when you are too busy (or tired) to find some time for sexual intimacy, it can really seem unbearable. The 7 Days of Sex Challenge makes it easy for busy couples like you to find some fun time together because it ELIMINATES the stress of figuring out what you need to do for 7 days that will be new and creative to try. Meet Jeff & Mandy from Marriage More Meet Casey & Meygan from Marriage365 Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 17, 2015
262: SAVE MY MARRIAGE
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Your marriage isn't going the way that you expected when you said "I do" to your spouse. Actually... Your spouse has expressed that it's time for the two of you to either separate for a time or get a divorce. You need to know that you are not alone. We know this doesn't make things better and yet we get many emails each and every day from couples who are where you are. In all honesty our society, as a whole does not set you up for success. Most people come into marriage with no real idea on how to make a long term relationship work. In many cases you take a reactive stance instead of a proactive stance in your marriage. This means that you will react to circumstances as they come instead of actively creating the environment that you wish to have. Living in a disposable world has created an interesting dynamic in marriage. Everything from the clothes that you wear to the cars that you drive are made so that you can get a new one even before you need it. If this model isn’t making you happy anymore or seems to have lost its luster then get a new one. That’s great when your tires wear out, not so great when the two of you have drifted apart because you aren’t working on your marriage. The old isn't working for you and the drift has certainly started... It's time for you to save your marriage. In today’s show Tony and Alisa talk about what you can do to begin the process so that you can answer the question, "how do I save my marriage". EPISODE SPONSOR - Save My Marriage There can be many reasons why you find yourself needing to save your marriage an emotional or physical affair, continued fighting and conflict, being separated due to work, ailing parents, or personal choice, mental or behavioral issues and/or pornography, alcohol, or drug abuse. You now find yourselves creeping to the edge of divorce when there is little to no emotional intimacy, spiritual connectedness and physical/sexual intimacy A divorce brings change. This should not be taken lightly at any time. If this is you, now is the time to get help. Grab Save My Marriage today. Contract of Reconciliation Worksheets One-on-One Strategic Coaching Session Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 10, 2015
261: BEFORE AND AFTER SEX
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The time is right and you are ready to make love to your spouse. You've been romancing each other and it's your time to initiate sex. There are certain rituals that you both may have before you make love. These may include, but not limited to... Dimmed lights Light candles or turn them on Warm the bed (turn on electric blanket) Turn up the heat Turn on the sound machine Take a shower Essential oil diffuser On the other had what you do afterwards also plays a part in your sexual intimacy. You may... Hurry up to get the towel or the sheets are going to get dirty. Aren't the sheets already dirty? Jump up and out of bed to get cleaned up or you may bask in the joy as you cuddle. No matter what time it is or what may be coming up you take a shower to clean off. There's also the do we put clothes back on or sleep naked. Both the before and after sex rituals are an area that need to be looked at and discussed in your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the many rituals that can take place before and after sex because there's a lot more happening than just the physical act. EPISODE SPONSOR Discover How to FINALLY Reignite Your Passion and Truly Enjoy Your Marriage (and Your Sex Life) Again…Even if it’s Been Stale for YEARS! Just Minutes from Now, You and Your Spouse Can Feel Like Newlyweds Again! Grab Intimacy Reignited NOW! Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine Scheduling Sex & The Intimacy Lifestyle Where Are Your Priorities The Truth Shall Set You Free Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 03, 2015
260: WHERE ARE YOUR PRIORITIES
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When you first met your spouse there was this time when each of you were each others priority. You made sure that you spent time together and if something got in the way you'd reschedule that obligation. As time has past the priorities of life have now take over. Instead of making sure you and your spouse have time together it's everything else that takes priority. Is this the way you want to live your life and marriage? We don't think so because you are listening to this show. It's time to take action, pick one specific change, that you want in your marriage today. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of choosing your priorities instead of letting your obligations dictate your life. EPISODE SPONSOR – Connect Like You Did When You First Met Learn the most relevant and critical questions most of our couple clients have had to deal with. We categorized these questions by topic and gave them a natural, orderly sequential flow. The result? An easy to use, handy reference tool. A tool that will dramatically change the course and tone of those most critical discussions you need to have with your spouse… forever. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Strategic Coaching with Alisa DiLorenzo Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 24, 2015
259: BACK TO BASICS
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There’s a reason that things are so good at the beginning of a relationship... Both you and your partner are putting forth effort into making the relationship work, into learning all about each other, and being on your best behavior. Then comes the ring, the wedding and life: kids, bills, obligations and the two of you... well you get relegated to the back burner. All those little things that were so important in the beginning don’t seem so important as the two of you have the stability and commitment of the marriage. The reality is a different story though. When you don't invest in your marriage and get back to basics this is a recipe for disaster. Why? Because your spouse's need to know that they are valued and desired. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about going back to basics and the importance of continuing to do what you did at the beginning of the relationship to your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR – Connect Like You Did When You First Met Learn the most relevant and critical questions most of our couple clients have had to deal with. We categorized these questions by topic and gave them a natural, orderly sequential flow. The result? An easy to use, handy reference tool. A tool that will dramatically change the course and tone of those most critical discussions you need to have with your spouse… forever. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 17, 2015
258: THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE
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To tell the truth or not to tell the truth? That is something you may ask yourself when talking to your spouse. It's something that seems so minimal and yet it can have a huge impact on your marriage foundation. There are topics that are not always easy to bring up to your spouse. Topics that can make you feel uncomfortable or “fudging” things a little bit. The reality is that you aren’t “fudging” things you are destroying your foundation. When you and your spouse are able to tell the truth and be open with each other that is when your marriage begins to grow. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about how and why it matters that you tell the truth when you are talking to your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR – The Perfect Love Letter Checklist When you grab The Perfect Love Letter Checklist you will receive 5 simple steps to never get stuck on what to write about, discover the secret ingredients to craft the perfect love letter, no matter how uncreative you think you are, exactly what to say to make your spouse melt every time, and how to deliver your romantic letter in a way that will WOW your spouse. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Divorce Is Off The Table Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 10, 2015
257: EROTICA… MY DIRTY LITTLE SECRET
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the book 50 Shades of Grey has become the most successful erotica book ever to be written. It's a #1 Best Seller with over 100 million copies sold. In it's path it has left many who have read it yearning for more in their marriage. The problem is that you feel let down and unsatisfied with what you have. Erotica, the written form of pornography, impacts you as much as someone who is viewing naked pictures on the internet. The hold erotica has on you, your mind and how you view your spouse are as detrimental. It's time to realize that if you desire more in your marriage then it is time to ditch the erotica so that you and your spouse can experience true sexual intimacy. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about a women’s dirty little secret...also known as erotica. EPISODE SPONSOR – How to Argue Less (in 2 Minutes) Stop Bickering With One Simple Movement. It Really Is This Simple, Try It And Be Amazed... You'll instantly learn how this One Simple Movement can breaks the tension and changes your body language as it diffuses the situation in a LOVING and respectful manner. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 03, 2015
256: SEX WHEN THE KIDS ARE HOME
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When you choose to only have sex when your kids are away or when everyone is, can be limiting in terms of when the two of you can be sexually intimacy. Giving yourself permission to have sex when the kids are home can be liberating. Your kids are not going to die if they find out that their parents have sex. In fact, they might just feel a bit more secure about their family knowing that their parents are choosing to be sexually intimate. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what you can do to become more comfortable having sex when the kids are home. EPISODE SPONSOR – Connect Like You Did When You First Met Learn the most relevant and critical questions most of our couple clients have had to deal with. We categorized these questions by topic and gave them a natural, orderly sequential flow. The result? An easy to use, handy reference tool. A tool that will dramatically change the course and tone of those most critical discussions you need to have with your spouse... forever. Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine The Sex Talk Blueprint Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 27, 2015
255: DELAYED EJACULATION
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Delayed ejaculation is a condition in which it takes an extended period of sexual stimulation for a man to reach sexual climax and release semen from the penis. There are times when a man will not achieve climax as well. There are three causes to why you may be experiencing delayed ejaculation during sexual intercourse. These include physical, psychological or medicinal. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about delayed ejaculation and the physical as well as the emotional ramifications this can cause for a couple. ***Please note that Tony and Alisa are not medical doctors. Nothing in today’s show is medical advice. Should you have an ongoing issue please seek out help from your medical professional. EPISODE SPONSOR - Stop the Bickering in Your Marriage Learn a simple, easy strategy that will stop escalation in its tracks, spare your marriage of tons of unnecessary stress and drama. This strategy is proven to work with our coaching clients virtually every time. Download this free report. It's pure, no-fluff, actionable information. Once you read it, you can apply it within minutes! Includes an easy-to-use 6-point checklist to help you stay on track. Stop Premature Ejaculation with the Ejaculation Trainer He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 20, 2015
254: PREMATURE EJACULATION
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Premature ejaculation occurs when a man ejaculates sooner during sexual intercourse than he or his partner would like. It's a time when you can feel embarrassed and/or lacking as a man. The ability to extend sexual pleasure is directly related to your manhood and premature ejaculation doesn't make you feel this way. The moment after this happens is a critical time between you and your spouse. What the two of you do, how you react, and where you go from here are all important as you process the situation. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the physical as well as the emotional ramifications of premature ejaculation. ***Please note that Tony and Alisa are not medical doctors. Nothing in today’s show is medical advice. Should you have an ongoing issue please seek out help from your medical professional. EPISODE SPONSOR - Stop the Bickering in Your Marriage Learn a simple, easy strategy that will stop escalation in its tracks, spare your marriage of tons of unnecessary stress and drama. This strategy is proven to work with our coaching clients virtually every time. Download this free report. It's pure, no-fluff, actionable information. Once you read it, you can apply it within minutes! Includes an easy-to-use 6-point checklist to help you stay on track. Stop Premature Ejaculation with the Ejaculation Trainer He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 13, 2015
253: GOOD TO GREAT
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There are many things competing for your time, attention and energy and yet you want to have the best marriage you can possible have. Being over committed, busy and overwhelmed is not healthy for you or your marriage. When you have too many things to do or too many things vying for your attention (no matter how good they are) you tend to place less of a priority on your relationships. They are good for the most part, but you want a great marriage! In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it can be important to say no to good things so that you can say yes to great relationships. EPISODE SPONSOR Give us 30 minutes and we will give you a sexy body you’ll love to share with your spouse. It’s time to take your life back, look and feel fantastic, and be the spouse and parent you and your family deserve. Thrive90 Fitness was designed specifically to take you by the hand and lead you to the best shape of your life while keeping your family first – guaranteed! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 06, 2015
252: MORE THAN JUST AN ORGASM
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An orgasm can enhance your sexual experience for yourself and your spouse. However, an orgasm shouldn’t be the ultimate goal of every sexual encounter. The experience of being together, of sharing that time and space in your marriage bed, that is the ultimate goal of your sexual intimacy. Your sexual encounters are about bringing the two of you together in a way that is only for you two. When it’s not all about achieving an orgasm you can find yourself with mind blowing sex. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why having an orgasm is a special part of the sexual experience but not the ultimate goal. EPISODE SPONSOR Give us 30 minutes and we will give you a sexy body you’ll love to share with your spouse. It’s time to take your life back, look and feel fantastic, and be the spouse and parent you and your family deserve. Thrive90 Fitness was designed specifically to take you by the hand and lead you to the best shape of your life while keeping your family first – guaranteed! The Joy of Sex Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 30, 2014
251: TRUST ME
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Many marriages have experienced broken trust in some form or another. Everything from little white lies, financial wounds, infidelity and addiction impact the trust you have with your spouse. Hiding the truth and not owning up to your actions prevents trust from being experienced between the two of you. After many times of this happening it's difficult for your spouse to believe you when you say, "Trust me". It's natural to want to paint yourself in a pretty picture or to fudge what really happened so that your spouse won't be angry, sad, disappointed or frustrated. The problem is that this does not rebuild broken trust! In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about when trust is broken and the first steps needed to begin rebuilding that trust with your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | Thrive90 Fitness Program Give us 30 minutes and we will give you a sexy body you’ll love to share with your spouse. It’s time to take your life back, look and feel fantastic, and be the spouse and parent you and your family deserve. Thrive90 Fitness was designed specifically to take you by the hand and lead you to the best shape of your life while keeping your family first – guaranteed! He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 23, 2014
250: UNDER THE SHEETS AND NAKED
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When you get under the sheets and sleep naked with your spouse there are a number of benefits that both of you will experience. There are three ways you will benefit from getting under the sheets and sleeping naked. You will experience health benefits (think hormones), better sleep as well as both physical and sexual benefits. Take on the challenge of sleeping naked and experience the connection you'll have with your spouse. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the benefits of sleeping naked for both you and your marriage. Join us on February 20-22, 2015 for the Refresh Retreat at the Courtyard by Marriott in Liberty Station for a marriage retreat that will enrich and strengthen your marriage and relationship with God. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 16, 2014
249: SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE
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We had sex before marriage. Probably like you or someone you know. It's really between a couple and yet there seems to be someone always pointing a finger at you for doing so. You cannot change what you did prior to getting married and yet you can learn from the past to better your current situation. Having sex before marriage can impact you and your spouse or maybe it hasn't. Either way there are lessons learned. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about why sex before marriage can leave you both emotionally and sexually unsatisfied. Join us on February 20-22, 2015 for the Refresh Retreat at the Courtyard by Marriott in Liberty Station for a marriage retreat that will enrich and strengthen your marriage and relationship with God. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Intimacy Reignited: Bring Back the Spark in Your Sex Life Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 09, 2014
248: FOOD COMA
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You've been there before... whether after a large Thanksgiving meal or a meal where you ate too much and need to take a long rest after. It’s that time when the food coma sets in. That period of time when you check out and don’t do anything. When you have pushed yourself past the point of no return. Where you can’t really do anything because your resources are depleted. Food coma is one thing and yet similar to it is a marriage coma. Unlike a food coma where you knowingly eat more than you should a marriage coma is a bit different. It happens slowly where one or both of you starts to check out of the relationship. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about how often a food coma (think after Thanksgiving dinner) can also play out in your marriage. Join us on February 20-22, 2015 for the Refresh Retreat at the Courtyard by Marriott in Liberty Station for a marriage retreat that will enrich and strengthen your marriage and relationship with God. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Intimacy Reignited: Bring Back the Spark in Your Sex Life Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 02, 2014
247: THANKFUL FOR YOU
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Being thankful for your spouse and your marriage is something that you may or may not think about often. Each year we love to share what we are thankful for in our marriage and lives. It's a way for you to listen in, get ideas and then do this with your spouse. Really this should be done monthly and yet if not this is a great time to start. Share why you are thankful for your spouse. Grab a notepad and write down the reason. Share them face-to-face, on a note, or text one reason a day until you are finished. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share why it is important to share what you are thankful for with your spouse. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 25, 2014
246: THE FIRST TIMES: SEX IN DIFFERENT SITUATIONS
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The different situations you will have sex for the "first times" as a married couple are important to acknowledge. The truth is that there are many firsts over the years as you may not have even recognized them. Each first is a time to connect with your spouse sexually at a new level. These times can deepen your desire for one another as you begin to fully enjoy your sexual experiences. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the "first times" you have sex in different situations that you may encounter during your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR - #TakeAction T-Shirts “Taking Action” is more than just two words out of the dictionary. Those words mean everything. #TakeAction has made all the difference in our lives as well as the lives of countless couples that we've helped over the past 5+ years. Now, it's time to take it to the next level, and that's what #TakeAction is all about! 21 Ways to Initiate Sex with Your Spouse Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 18, 2014
245: CREATE A FINANCIAL PEACE MARRIAGE
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As a married couple the way you choose to combine your finances is going to play out in your relationship. How it is combined (or not), how it is spent, how it is saved, as well as other factors impacts the two of you. Finances do not and cannot exist in a vacuum in your marriage. This is an area of your marriage where the two of you need to become one so you can experience financial peace. This is one intimacy that should not be avoided, rather it is an area that you and your spouse need to be completely transparent. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about creating financial peace no matter where you are in your marriage. How to Write a Romantic Love Letter That Will Make Your Spouse's Heart Sing 25 Christmas Gift Ideas for That Special Married Couple Dealing with the Financial Friction in Our Marriage Financial Peace by Dave Ramsey EPISODE SPONSOR Discover How to FINALLY Reignite Your Passion and Truly Enjoy Your Marriage (and Your Sex Life) Again…Even if it’s Been Stale for YEARS! Just Minutes from Now, You and Your Spouse Can Feel Like Newlyweds Again! Grab Intimacy Reignited NOW! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 11, 2014
244: INTENTIONAL INTERRUPTION
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In the hustle and bustle of the holiday season it is so easy to lose sight of one another. Between holiday parties, buying gifts and making sure everything gets done you often find yourself putting your spouse at the bottom of the to-do list without even realizing that it has happened. Unfortunately, every day that goes by without connection, without investing in your relationship can make it harder on both of you to reconnect. On your wedding day when you both said, "I Do", you didn’t say those words to be the second or third or fourth priority in your spouse’s life. Choosing other activities or other people over your husband or wife, lead to feelings of alienation, despair, and lose. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the power of creating an intentional interruption in your life and marriage. An interruption that will change your marriage for the better for years to come. [FLASH SALE] The 7 Days of Sex Challenge Kindle Edition… The 7 Days of Sex Challenge is for busy couples like you to find some fun time together because it ELIMINATES the stress of figuring out what you need to do for 7 days that will be new and creative to try. Get yours now: http://www.7daysofsexchallenge.com Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 04, 2014
243: STOP STUFFING IT DOWN
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When tears are withheld and emotions are stuffed down inside of you this is a recipe for disaster over time. Stuffing it down again and again lead to frustrated people. Frustrated people lead to angry conversations and than more hurt. As a society and more specifically as married couples you need to make your marriage a safe places to cry. A place where you can release your emotions to be real with our spouses. It’s time to STOP living the lie that stuffing it down is the way to go. In this week’s show Tony & Alisa talk about the power of tears and how crying can help you be emotionally connect in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR Discover How to FINALLY Reignite Your Passion and Truly Enjoy Your Marriage (and Your Sex Life) Again…Even if it’s Been Stale for YEARS! Just Minutes from Now, You and Your Spouse Can Feel Like Newlyweds Again! Grab Intimacy Reignited NOW! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Oct 28, 2014
242: LET’S TOUCH EACH OTHER
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There are many benefits to touch that have been studied over the years. They range from increased levels of oxytocin to lower blood pressure as well as an increase in overall connection. Physical touch that doesn't lead to sex is important. It's something that you should be doing in your marriage for your benefit and that of your spouse's. Three ways you can have non-sexual touch are when you hug, cuddle or even sleep naked with you spouse. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about making physical intimacy a priority because touch is important! EPISODE SPONSOR   Discover How to FINALLY Reignite Your Passion and Truly Enjoy Your Marriage (and Your Sex Life) Again…Even if it’s Been Stale for YEARS! Just Minutes from Now, You and Your Spouse Can Feel Like Newlyweds Again! Grab Intimacy Reignited NOW! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Oct 21, 2014
241: THIS WOMAN’S HEATH (MAMMOGRAM, ULTRASOUND & STERILIZATION)
30:06
Woman's health may have an impact on your marriage when the time comes for a mammogram, ultrasound or when sterilization is brought up. These are just a few of the health procedures your spouse can have. The emotional toll these may take can lead you both feeling drained and on an emotional roller coaster. Through effective communication you can get through these woman's health issues together. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the challenges of this woman's health and how you can support your wife during these times. EPISODE SPONSOR  Discover How to FINALLY Reignite Your Passion and Truly Enjoy Your Marriage (and Your Sex Life) Again…Even if it’s Been Stale for YEARS! Just Minutes from Now, You and Your Spouse Can Feel Like Newlyweds Again! Grab Intimacy Reignited NOW! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Oct 14, 2014
240: BRING YOUR GOOD TIMES AND YOUR LAUGHTER TOO
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Whether you are celebrating your first wedding anniversary or your fortieth, this is a time to celebrate the good times you've had together. It's a time to look back over the past year and then look forward to what's ahead. Make it a day where you celebrate one another and your marriage. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about celebrating those good times on that annual milestone in your marriage, your wedding anniversary. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path "Love You Guys" Wall of Fame EPISODE SPONSOR Date Nite Box is the FIRST and ONLY company to plan, book, box and send custom date nite boxes. Each box includes tickets/ vouchers for your event/activities/dinner along with directions, itinerary, a virtual date nite concierge and fun goodies to enhance each date. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Oct 07, 2014
239: IT’S NOT A PROBLEM, PORNOGRAPHY IS AN ADDICTION
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Pornography is becoming the drug of choice for many individuals. It's easy to conceal, doesn't cost as much as alcohol or drugs, but gives them the same euphoric high that they enjoy. Unfortunately, pornography in marriage is destroying the sexual intimacy that you desire. The sex is not what it used to be, your spouse has become withdrawn, or you may not be getting straight answers from your spouse. These are just a few indications that pornography has permeated your life or of someone you love. It's time to realize that the pornography "problem" is a pornography addiction that needs to be addressed NOW! In this week’s show Tony & Alisa talk about when you or someone you love says that they have a “problem” with pornography when in reality it’s a pornography addiction. The Bondage Breaker The Porn Antidote: God's Secret Weapon for Crushing Porn's Grip, and Creating the Life and Marriage You Dream Of Project Know: Understanding Porn Addiction EPISODE SPONSOR Date Nite Box is the FIRST and ONLY company to plan, book, box and send custom date nite boxes. Each box includes tickets/ vouchers for your event/activities/dinner along with directions, itinerary, a virtual date nite concierge and fun goodies to enhance each date. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Sep 30, 2014
238: COMMON COURTESY
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Common courtesy is something that you know you should extend to your spouse and yet it's not happening. It may be because you allow your spouse's actions to dictate if you will be courteous or not. The thing is that true common courtesy should not be a reaction but instead a heart attitude. This means that you say "please" and "thank you", you call to let your spouse know that you are running late, and even ask what can you can do for your spouse. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the impact you can have on your marriage when you use common courtesy with your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR Date Nite Box is the FIRST and ONLY company to plan, book, box and send custom date nite boxes. Each box includes tickets/ vouchers for your event/activities/dinner along with directions, itinerary, a virtual date nite concierge and fun goodies to enhance each date. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Sep 23, 2014
237: PUTTING THE KIDS FIRST
30:06
Your job as a parent is to have your children for a season in your house. While they are there you must equip them with the tools that they need to leave your house and live on their own. Being your child's savior, rescuing them and providing for all of their needs and wants impacts three generations. These three generations could be impacted for the positive or for the negative. You get to decide. In this week’s show Tony & Alisa talk about the impact of continuously putting your kids ahead of your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR    Date Nite Box is the FIRST and ONLY company to plan, book, box and send custom date nite boxes. Each box includes tickets/ vouchers for your event/activities/dinner along with directions, itinerary, a virtual date nite concierge and fun goodies to enhance each date. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Sep 16, 2014
236: LOVE IS GREATER THAN FEAR
30:05
Fear or worry can stop you in your tracks when it comes to moving forward in your marriage. Events in the past, words spoken or unspoken, or what may happen leave you feeling helpless. Fortunately for you love is great than fear. The love you have for your spouse can overcome the fear that is holding you back. It's time to push past the fear. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the impact fear has on your marriage and your intimacy. EPISODE SPONSOR Melt: Massage for Couples will teach you how to massage your spouse and vise versa in the comfort of your own home. Since 2006 Denis & Emma have been teaching couples the best massage techniques for each other, Melt will show you how to do just this as you treat your spouse to a romantic massage. Join thousands of other couples who are learning to make each other Melt through massage. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Sep 09, 2014
235: SPEAK UP…VOCALIZE YOUR SATISFACTION
30:01
You and/or your spouse may struggle with how to be vocal and speak up during sex. There isn't a one-size fits all, but there are a few different ways that you can speak up. Vocalization during sex is one way to encourage your spouse during sex. Both of you share in the enjoyment and excitement. Incorporate any of these and you will transform your sex life as it brings another form of communication to your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the different ways you can speak up and vocalize your satisfaction to your spouse during sex. EPISODE SPONSOR      Melt: Massage for Couples will teach you how to massage your spouse and vise versa  in the comfort of your own home. Since 2006 Denis & Emma have been teaching couples the best massage techniques for each other,  Melt will show you how to do just this as you treat your spouse to a romantic massage. Join thousands of other couples who are learning to make each other Melt through massage. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Sep 02, 2014
234: MARRIAGE BONK
30:03
There will come a time when you will come to a point in your life when you feel depleted, whether it is because of circumstances at home, at work, with family or health. At some point you are going to run out of steam and hit the wall. Your marriage is great when all is running smooth and yet it is what you do in those times when you bonk. You will either push through and let your ego take over, you may freeze up to ask your spouse for help, or when help is offered you'll accept it so you can heal. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about what happens when you are doing great in your marriage and then it happens…you bonk. You are complete depleted of all energy to move forward in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR      Melt: Massage for Couples will teach you how to massage your spouse and vise versa  in the comfort of your own home. Since 2006 Denis & Emma have been teaching couples the best massage techniques for each other,  Melt will show you how to do just this as you treat your spouse to a romantic massage. Join thousands of other couples who are learning to make each other Melt through massage. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Aug 26, 2014
233: ADVICE GIVEN IN LOVE
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When your spouse gives you advice that is unsolicited you may become defensive toward them. It's times like these that you need to check yourself and understand where they are coming from. Advice that is given in love without complaining or grumbling could very well be one of the most important things you can do. When you do this you show your spouse that you value them for seeing something you may not have seen. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about listening and taking advice given in love from your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR      Melt: Massage for Couples will teach you how to massage your spouse and vise versa  in the comfort of your own home. Since 2006 Denis & Emma have been teaching couples the best massage techniques for each other,  Melt will show you how to do just this as you treat your spouse to a romantic massage. Join thousands of other couples who are learning to make each other Melt through massage. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Aug 19, 2014
232: YOUR PERSONALITY TYPE AND SEX
30:51
You are uniquely made as there is no one else on this earth that is like you. Even though this is true, you have a personality type that can be learned to better understand yourself and your spouse. The Ennegram with it's nine personality types is a tool that should be used by you so that you can grow in your life and marriage. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how personality types impact perception when it comes to the high desire spouse and low desire spouse. Wisdom of the Ennegram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types Understand Yourself, Understand Your Partner: The Essential Ennegram Guide to a Better Relationship Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Aug 12, 2014
231: IS IT MY DAYS OR YOUR DAYS TO INITIATE
30:19
The Intimacy Lifestyle at it's core is about being able to set specific days that you initiate sex and the days your spouse will initiate sex each week. It's also a fantastic way for the both of you to not put off sex to another time, but to make it a priority in your marriage. By having days where both of you initiate sex it ultimately brings you closer together. There will be times though when both of you or one of you is not tracking. We can totally relate because we have been there. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about what happens when there is a lack of clarity on which days you are to initiate sex. You don't dump all that you have accomplished, instead you communicate what can be done better moving forward. Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy In Your Marriage He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Aug 05, 2014
230: VULNERABILITY WHEN TRYING NEW SEXUAL POSITIONS
30:22
In your marriage the vulnerability you experience sexually with your spouse can be a challenge. Trying any position outside of the missionary position feels uncomfortable. For you it may be that the missionary position is efficient. Your spouse does this, you do that and wham bam it’s all done. You’re on your way and the next thing on your to-do list. Or maybe it’s routine. No need to think outside the box and complicate things. Your go-to position works so why rock the boat and change things up. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share why it's important to try new positions in your marriage. As they talk about the vulnerability you and your spouse face when trying new sexual positions you will gain insights on how you can add some to your marriage bed. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Taking Charge of Your Fertility 31 Days to Great Sex Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 29, 2014
229: WHEN FACETIME MATTERS
30:08
There are many ways that you can connect with your spouse. The way that you do this depends on where you are and the time you have scheduled for each other. You may even FaceTime your spouse if you are traveling or away from each other. FaceTime is important in many ways as you get to experience more than just their tone of voice. The same goes for us here as our main way of connecting with you is through emails, phone calls or voice mail. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share why the FaceTime they had with couples at FlameFest as well as the Meetups in the Midwest were so important for them. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 22, 2014
228: STRESS AND YOUR LIBIDO
30:16
Low libido due to stress can be frustrating to you and your spouse over time. You want to have a libido that is ready to go and yet the stress you endure has impacted you. This may be a phase or it may be going more prevalent due to work demands, family or other issues that you face. Stress has a direct impact on you libido because there is an increase in hormones such as cortisol and epinephrine (adrenaline). The increase of these in your body can also interfere with the hormones involved in your sexual libido. In this week's show Tony and Alisa share how stress has impacted their libido over the years. Even though this has been the case there are ways that they have continued to make their sexual intimacy a priority during these times. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 15, 2014
227: BACK AGAINST THE WALL
30:19
The words you never thought you'd hear in your marriage, "I want a divorce", have been uttered by your spouse. They hit you as if you slammed into a brick wall and at that moment you're back against the wall. Your mind is flooded with all the reasons why this is happening to you right now. As you get your wits together you begin to recall all the times you've been asked to make a change. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share why you need to DO SOMETHING when you're back against the wall. It's time to take some serious action toward a better tomorrow. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Midwest Meetup Initial 30 Minute Consultation He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 08, 2014
226: (WO) MAN IN THE MIRROR
30:15
You are constantly sending your spouse facial expressions. When things are going well you give a smile, bat those loving eyes, as well as radiate joy. When things aren’t going as well those facial expressions are not positive. From grunts, to the raised eyebrow, the looks of frustration and irritation. You send out these messages expecting that your spouse will make a change. Unfortunately, sending out those messages OVER and OVER and OVER again doesn't have the desired effect you expected. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share what happens when the man in the mirror, YOU, look at what you can do to make change in your life. The change that happen will leave a legacy for you and your family for years to come. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Instagram - Bizzaro Comics Michael Jackson - Man in the Mirror Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 01, 2014
225: WHEN KIDS TAKE PRIORITY IN YOUR MARRIAGE
30:07
When your marriage is pushed to the bottom of your priority list you can sense a disconnect with your spouse. Our priorities have been messed up in our marriage as well. Kids are one of the biggest reasons that your marriage has a lack of priority. How do the two of you expect to grow your marriage and your relationship if you don't put yourselves at the top. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about what your priorities are when it comes to who should be at the top of the list in your life. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Midwest Meetup Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jun 24, 2014
224: IMPROVE YOUR PHYSICAL INTIMACY
30:14
Summertime is here, the kids are out of school, and learning is the last thing on their mind. Unfortunately many of you have taken the same attitude in your marriage. School has been out for awhile now. You know what you know about your spouse and you don’t need to learn anything more. We can relate this to the high school senior that has stopped studying after receiving their college acceptance letter. No need to work hard now that the prize has been obtained. When it comes to your physical intimacy you got that acceptance letter long ago. And yet you may be frustrated, are experiencing a drift, or have stopped talking because you don’t know how to say what’s going on with you and your body. The arguments starts and the learning stops. On this week's show Tony & Alisa share the importance of continued learning when it comes to your physical intimacy. Each phase of life and your marriage is going to be a time for both of you to go "back to school". This is a time to learn what physical intimacy means. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Midwest Meetup 19 Questions to Amazing Sex with Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jun 17, 2014
223: SUMMER DAZE (SEX WHEN THE KIDS ARE HOME)
30:15
Summer is a time when your sexual intimacy can take a back seat. There is no down time for you and your spouse with the kids home. The thought of having sex during the summer is the last thing you even think about. We’ve been there! The awkward moment when you hear the footsteps in the hallway. A knock on the door at an inopportune time. Or you're having a fantastic love making session and the kids hear you. Oh, sex during the summer has it's own challenges. In this week's show Tony and Alisa share ways that you and your spouse can make sure you are sexually intimate when the kids are home for the summer. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jun 10, 2014
222: THE CHOICES YOU MAKE EVERY DAY
30:01
When you participate in activities that are going to impact you, your spouse and your marriage these are not good choices. These choices don't foster trust, nor do these choices bring the two of you together. In fact it’s just the opposite. Knowing what to do so you don't make these choices is half the battle. It's the actions you take daily that allow for growth in you and your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa share how the choices you make can be detrimental for you and your marriage. These choices have not been forced upon you, these are decisions you have willingly made. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Midwest Tour | Columbus, Indianapolis & St. Louis - July 2014 He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jun 03, 2014
221: IT’S NOT ABOUT THE NUMBER
31:42
How many times have you had a conversation with someone about their marriage and heard, “Well, we’ve been married (insert number of years) years", as if that’s all their marriage is about. The longevity of their relationship means so much more instead of the quality of their relationship. We've been there too. When it comes down to it you can be married 6 months or 50 years and yet it's about the quality of that time together that matters. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share that it's more than just about the number. You need to do SOMETHING if you want your marriage to be more than just a collection of numbers. It's time to get in the game and make it happen Bring Back the Spark: 5 Ways to Rekindle Your Sexual Intimacy Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
May 27, 2014
220: FOREPLAY PLEASE
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Foreplay is an opportunity for the two of you to mentally and physically get in the same place before intercourse. It's a time when you are brought into the present with your spouse as you enjoy one another without the distractions of your daily lives. During foreplay the two of you have time to love on each other in anticipation of what is coming up. And yes, both MEN and WOMEN need and desire foreplay. This week Tony & Alisa share why it is important for you to explore what foreplay looks like for you and your marriage. Bring Back the Spark Live Online Workshop The Joy of Sex Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
May 20, 2014
219: I LOVE YOU, BUT I’M NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU
29:42
These nine words, "I Love You, But I'm Not In Love With You", when said in your marriage are a sucker punch to the stomach. They convey that you or your spouse are no longer willing to put forth any effort into the relationship. "In love" is really about the idea of being in love with the ideal spouse. Loving your spouse is love on a whole other level, it’s knowing what they look like when they don’t have any makeup on or when they have had a rough day at work. It’s honoring the vows that you took when things were good and also when times are challenging. This week Tony & Alisa share what you can do so "I Love You, But I'm Not In Love With You" will not be uttered in your marriage. If they have been don't worry because they have been there too. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
May 12, 2014
218: IT’S NOT ALL GOOD OR ALL BAD
29:59
In your every day life you see the world and all that is around you in shades of grey. On the other hand you look at your marriage and there is only black and white, it's either all good or all bad. Your perception is that if your marriage isn't in one of these extremes then there is something wrong. Well, that place in the middle is where you want to be. This week Tony & Alisa share why it is important to live your marriage in the middle instead of living as if it is all good or all bad. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
May 06, 2014
217: I WISH I WOULD HAVE KNOWN
30:52
When you get engaged and become newlyweds you get lots of advice from family and friends. They want you to start your marriage out on the right foot and yet the advice usually given is the same ole thing. After hearing, "don't sweat the little things", "hold hands all the time" and "be there for one another", for the hundredth time you want more. You're an engaged couple or married now and you know that marriage isn't going to be as easy as this. This week Tony & Alisa share the things they would share with an engaged couple or newlyweds about what they should know about being married. Listen in and learn what you should know to make your marriage extraordinary! Stop Living Your Marriage Like It's a 30-Minute Sitcom Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 29, 2014
216: UGHH! INTERRUPTED AGAIN
30:03
At some point in time you have been interrupted while trying to have sex with your spouse. It’s not always the kids that interrupt you, but maybe a phone call, an alert on the phone or a knock at the front door. When interrupted there is a break in the connection you are experiencing with your spouse. It's the "Ughh! Interrupted Again" moment. What do you need to do to get back to being intimate after you've been interrupted. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share a recent time when they were interrupted. Learn what you can do to reengage with each other so that you can enjoy the love making session that got interrupted. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Live Online Workshop Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 22, 2014
215: SEPARATE BEDS
30:09
When you leave your marriage bed and begin to sleep in separate beds it can be the beginning to the end to your physical as well as emotional intimacy. Separate beds lead to separate lives and an up hill fight to keep your marriage together. What is it that has happened to you and your spouse that you would sleep outside of your marriage bed? Both of you need to take time and look back at why you even started down this path. This week Tony & Alisa share why it is important to face your problems head on in your marriage. Stop running away to another room and sleeping in separate beds. Flame Fest Chicago: July 10-12, 2014 Gain Insights Into ONE Challenge You Face in Your Marriage X3Pure - End Your Addiction to Porn Today Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 15, 2014
214: STRANGER DANGER
30:31
If you allow you marriage to be stagnant for any amount of time you become distant from your spouse. This leads to a disconnect between the two of you and ultimately you become strangers. Be aware of the signs of stranger danger. It's a point where you or both of you are no longer able to recognize the person you married. You can reconnect again! This week Tony & Alisa share how you can put protections into your marriage so that you will not have to worry about stranger danger. Flame Fest Chicago: July 10-12, 2014 Connect Like You Did When You First Met Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 08, 2014
213: SEX IS NOT A COMPLETE BAROMETER OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP
29:51
When your sex life has simple become a physical act that you and your spouse are doing it's time to evaluate what's going on. The quantity of sex you have each week or month is not a complete barometer of your relationship. Sexual intimacy is only one of the six forms of intimacy that the two of you should focus on to build a strong marriage. These six intimacies are vital to a marriage based on transparency, honesty & trust. This week Tony & Alisa share why you should make sure to not only look at how much sex you are getting each month. Instead begin to grow closer together where the quality of sex gets better and better over time. You, Your Spouse & Sex Audio Workshop He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 01, 2014
212: I WANT SPONTANEOUS SEX
29:43
You want spontaneous sex and you want it often and yet do you even know what spontaneous means? Dictionary.com says that spontaneous is: coming or resulting from a natural impulse or tendency; without effort or premeditation; natural and unconstrained; unplanned. How often is this happening in your life? Expecting to have spontaneous sex seems a bit unrealistic as you have many activities in your day-to-day that are planned. What we have come to realize is that you are not looking for spontaneous sex, but rather CREATIVE SEX. Sex that is not the same every single time you slip into bed. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share what you need to do to change your mindset from spontaneous sex to one where the creative juices flow freely in your marriage bed. You, Your Spouse and Sex Workshop 19 Questions to Amazing Sex with Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 25, 2014
211: GET YOUR SEXY BACK
31:28
Recreational intimacy is being active together. Finding activities you both like to do and do them with each other. Take a walk, hike a mountain, go surf...whatever it is do something with your spouse that will bring the two of you together. When you spend time together you get your sexy back as you see each other excel and have a great time. Fitness doesn't have to be complicated. Get up and move your body. This week Tony & Alisa share how they make fitness and health part of their everyday life and marriage. It's by doing activities together that you will experience a deep connection with your spouse. FREE Core Blast Workout P90X3 Insanity Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 18, 2014
210: PRAYING OR PROCRASTINATING
30:30
You've been praying for healing, peace, forgiveness and change in your marriage for a long time. There are times when you wonder if God hears you or if He even cares about your marriage. It's easy to pray and then procrastinate. You've prayed and yet it is what you do afterwards that can have a profound impact on your life and marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share the what it looks like to pray and procrastinate. You'll also learn why it is important to take action and move when you are praying. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 11, 2014
209: YOU SAID VS I HEARD
29:47
Words that you hear and then say back to your spouse can have a serious impact on the issue you are discussing in your marriage. The walls go up, the conversation stops and then the aftermath occurs. Your perception and the filters you have about what your spouse is going to say can lead to ineffective behavior and communication. There are two words that can change the entire conversation. These two words are: I HEARD (fill in the blank). This week Tony & Alisa dive into why it is important to make the change from "You Said" to "I Heard" when you are discussing issues that impact your marriage. Not only for your spouse's benefit, but for yours as well. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 04, 2014
208: FERTILITY AWARENESS METHOD (NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING)
31:05
Conceiving a child or not to conceive a child is something many married couples talk about. When it comes to knowing all the ins and outs of ovulation...well that is another story. When the two of you are educated on your (your wife's) menstrual cycle from month-to-month you are better able to understand your sexual intimacy. It's a way for each of you to connect because of the knowledge you now have. This week Tony & Alisa share how they have been using the Fertility Awareness Method so that they are able to make love without the use of contraception. 5 Secrets to Understanding You, Your Spouse & Your Marriage Live Webinar Taking Charge of Your Fertility (Amazon Link) Clearblue Easy Fertility Monitor (Amazon Link) Period Log (App Store) Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 25, 2014
207: OUT OF WORK
30:16
You never plan to be out of work and yet there will probably come a time in your marriage when you or your spouse has lost their job. This can be a stressful time for you as you look for work again. The loss of a job can add financial stress, drive a wedge in your emotional intimacy and impact how you relate sexually with your spouse. It's during this time that you need to get out of the pity party and move. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can stay connected with your spouse even when you are out of work. 5 Secrets to Understanding You, Your Spouse & Your Marriage Live Webinar Alisa's Kenya Trip Highlight Video 48 Days to the Work You Love by Dan Miller Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 18, 2014
206 – INITIATING SEX
31:08
Sexual intimacy is an important part of your marriage. There is a connection only you have with your spouse and it's amazing when you have it. The problem is that you're always initiating sex. After awhile it would be refreshing if your spouse were to pursue you. What would happen in your marriage if this were to happen? This week Tony & Alisa speak frankly about what it means to initiate sex. Their insights in their own marriage will have you learning what you need to do in your marriage so that both of you are initiating sex. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 11, 2014
205: WORK, KIDS, LAUNDRY, & DISHES
30:41
There is so many things going on in your marriage that more often than not the connection you and your spouse have has been placed on the back burner. You can't even remember the last time you two had uninterrupted moments together. It's time to get back to the two of you. It's making a choice right now that your marriage needs to be in the forefront of your lives. Not only so you can talk, but that you can be connected in all forms of intimacy. This week Tony & Alisa share what you can do together even when you have work, kids, laundry, and the dishes to do day in and day out. It’s what you do to connect even with all of this stuff happening in your marriage. 77 Day Marriage Challenge Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 04, 2014
204: WE WILL FIGHT (FOR OUR MARRIAGE)
30:20
Every opportunity you have to fight for your marriage is one that you should take. There is so much out in your every day life that is trying to pull you away from each other. It is time for both of you to focus on each other and fight for your love. It may be for your spiritual intimacy, sexual intimacy, or for dates so you can be alone together. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share that it is important to fight for the romance and passion in your marriage. You don't need to be at the brink of divorce to rise up and fight for an extraordinary marriage. Take Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler Love Always: The Ultimate Marriage Blueprint Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 28, 2014
203: CONNECT EVEN WHEN YOU’RE APART
30:20
There may come a time in your marriage when you and your spouse are miles apart. This may be due to a deployment, work, caring for a family member, a mission trip or many other reasons. It is during these time that you and your spouse need to have a mindset of togetherness. You'll also need to have a few ideas that will keep the two of you connected. This  week Tony & Alisa share how they have stayed connected during times apart. Most recently when Alisa spent 12 days on a short term mission trip to Kenya. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 21, 2014
202: TEMPTATION
30:12
Temptation has been around since the beginning of mankind. It happened in the Garden of Eden and temptation may impact you and your marriage at one time or another. Even though temptation is present and will put your marriage in jeopardy there are safeguards that you need to put in place. These safeguards are set for the sole purpose of keeping your attention on what is most important, your spouse. This week Tony & Alisa share how temptation if not communicated with your spouse can drive a wedge between the two of you. OpenDNS Start Email Coaching Today Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 14, 2014
201: I’M SORRY
29:33
It is very easy after a confrontation with your spouse to say something like “Are we good?” and expect the issue to be resolved. In other situations you may not say anything and just go about your business with this unfinished issue hanging around you and your spouse. When you have many of these stacked one upon another there is going to be frustration and irritation in your marriage. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa are going to discuss the importance of saying "I'm sorry" so that your spouse knows that you have not minimized, failed to acknowledge or brushed the issue under the rug. Love Always: 90-Day Marriage Makeover Question Behind the Question (via Amazon) P90X3 Workout: Get Ripped In 30 Minutes a Day Alisa Interviewed on What Do You Do Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 07, 2014
SPRECIAL EDITION: HAPPY NEW YEAR
20:52
It's a fresh start, a clean slate and the beginning of a New Year! As you start a new year give serious consideration to where you and your marriage will be over the course of the next 365 days. What intimacy do you and your spouse want to focus in on for 2014. This week Tony & Alisa share the 6 intimacies and ideas that you can use starting now to have an impact on your heart. Man Up Gods Way Facebook Page Lessons Learned While Pedaling a Cruiser Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 31, 2013
SPECIAL EDITION: MERRY CHRISTMAS ONE FAMILY
10:40
We know that you are busy with last minute preparations, trimming the tree, wrapping the presents, traveling and setting out the cookies for Santa. So we just wanted to take a few minutes to reflect with you on this season. As you unwrap this holiday season remember that the biggest and best gift that you can give your spouse is the gift of you. Your attention, your intention, and your commitment to the marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can love in spite of life’s challenges. Loving your spouse is not always easy but recognizing that you have the choice to love in spite of these circumstances is what matters most to your spouse and your marriage. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 24, 2013
200: WOOHOO!
42:54
Reaching a milestone in your marriage, your 5th, 10th, 25th, etc anniversary, is a time of celebration. A time when you get to look back at all the amazing things you have done with your spouse. It's a time to share stories of how your spouse impacted you and your marriage. The two of you are the stars on this day. This week Tony & Alisa are celebrating. Not because the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show has reached 200 episodes, but the impact the show has had on couples around the world. Don't miss these inspiring stories. Love Always: The Ultimate Marriage Blueprint WEIRD: Because Normal Isn't Working by Craig Groeschel The Married Virgin Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 17, 2013
199: IT WON’T HAPPEN TO US
30:50
Your spouse is asking you to get involved in the marriage because there is a problem. Ignoring it will not make it go away. Apathy will not make it go away. Getting involved with someone else will not make it go away. When this is happening you need to take look at all aspects of your marriage. More importantly you need to get involved with your spouse quickly. This week Tony & Alisa unwrap how you can get involved in your marriage so that you change the future of your relationship. How to Write a Romantic Love Letter Write Me a Letter, Speak to My Heart He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 10, 2013
198: WANT TO OR NEED TO
29:48
Words are interesting and the subtle differences in meaning can often go unnoticed. Except that these words can be played over and over in your head. The words that you choose to use when you have to do something have meaning. These words carry weight not just to you but also for your spouse. This week Tony & Alisa look at two words that can lead to a ho-hum marriage or one that is extraordinary. They share the difference between "Need To" or "Want To" in your marriage and in your life. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 03, 2013
197: AROUND THE WORLD
27:00
As the years pass in your marriage it is very easy to settle where you are. Between work, kids, church and other activities you aren't living your life out loud. It's time to bust out of your comfort zone so that you can go after that adventure that inside of you. Both of you will experience a new level in your lives and your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how they are getting out of their comfort zone in different ways to experience life to the fullest. GoFundMe - Alisa's Mission Trip to Kenya Reignite the Love Telesummit Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 26, 2013
196: SEX TOYS
32:18
Getting creative in your marriage and trying new things can definitely spice things up for the two of you. When sex toys become part of your marriage toolkit you need to keep your motives in check. When you are looking for a way to add something new that you both agree upon, that's OK. If you're looking for a way to replace your spouse because you don’t want to be sexual intimate then there is an issue at hand. This week Tony & Alisa share how they have used sex toys in their marriage over the years. Some have been well received while others have only interfered with their sexual intimacy. Fun Board Games You Can Play to Spice Up Your Sex Life Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com.  Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 19, 2013
195: SHOW EMOTION
29:43
It's a choice to remove the masks and let down the walls in your life. These are holding you back from truly experiencing the joy in your marriage. Your choice to continue living like this is causing your spouse to wonder if you are truly engaged in the marriage. They are frustrated, confused, isolated and/or scared. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can begin to remove your masks and show your emotions to your spouse. When you take off your masks you are loved more not less for who you are. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path 169 - Is This Abuse? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 12, 2013
194: TOUGH TO SWALLOW
29:41
The two of you have probably talked about being sexual intimate via a blow job. It's a topic that is brought up, but have you discussed what it would be like to have your spouse get to the point of ejaculation? Over the last couple of months many emails have come in asking this particular question. This week Tony & Alisa dive into a topic, blow jobs, that many in the marriage arena are not willing to discuss. They share 7 tips that could help you and your spouse enjoy blow jobs in your marriage. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com.  Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 05, 2013
193: DIVORCE IS OFF THE TABLE
30:16
When you say "I Do", the furthest thing from your mind at that very moment is uttering the word "Divorce". As the months and years pass the "D" word begins to enter your vocabulary. The first time it stings and you can't believe it was even uttered. Slowly and over time it doesn't even mean anything to you or your spouse. It is used flippantly and yet it is undermining how you see your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how they have taken the word "Divorce" off the table in their marriage. They will share with you how you can do the same in your marriage. Email Coaching Special Are you ready to go deeper and breakthrough the walls that are holding you back? If so we now offer email coaching so you can get those big questions answered on your schedule. Go to Email Coaching and learn what email coaching is all about. Through October 31st Use code: DoItNow and receive 20% OFF any email coaching program. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Oct 29, 2013
192: GIVE ME A CHANCE
30:45
If you've been married for any length of time you may have hurt your spouse. This could be through the words you have said, by being silent, pulling away, not spending time with them, and more. Even though this has happened you can rebuild the trust in your marriage. You need to ask your spouse right now, "Give Me A Chance". This week Tony & Alisa share how you can begin to rebuild the trust in your marriage and be given another chance. Email Coaching Special Are you ready to go deeper and breakthrough the walls that are holding you back? If so we now offer email coaching so you can get those big questions answered on your schedule. Go to Email Coaching and learn what email coaching is all about. Through October 31st Use code: DoItNow and receive 20% OFF any email coaching program. Love Always: The Ultimate Marriage Blueprint Heaven's Door Feelings List Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Oct 22, 2013
191: MASTURBATION
29:52
Masturbation in marriage can have a profound impact on your sexual intimacy. When masturbating in private without your spouse you are diminishing the joy of sex with your spouse. If you are masturbating in your marriage and your spouse does not know you are doing this it’s time to have a state of our marriage conversation. You need to take off the masks and acknowledge what’s going on in your sex life. On the other hand masturbating together can add to your marriage bed. This is where you learn what pleases each other by showing your spouse. This week Tony & Alisa share how masturbation has negatively and positively impacted them in their marriage. Email Coaching Special Are you ready to go deeper and breakthrough the walls that are holding you back? If so we now offer email coaching so you can get those big questions answered on your schedule. Go to Email Coaching and learn what email coaching is all about. Through October 31st Use code: DoItNow and receive 20% OFF any email coaching program. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Oct 15, 2013
190: TO TEXT OR NOT TO TEXT
30:24
You live in a world ruled by your phone, you feel lost when you don’t have it. You send text messages when you don’t want to bother someone and yet you are a slave to those text alerts. Unfortunately, some of you are using your cell phone, specifically texting as a way to have the tough conversations in your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share why using a text message is not the best way to communicate with your spouse. During this show you'll learn: What's the problem with using a text message? Why is this happening? What do you do? A big thank you to our sponsor, Redeeming Pleasure, a Christian sex toy boutique for marriage couples. For 20% OFF anything through October 2013 use offer code "ONE2013". Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Oct 08, 2013
189: ARE YOU DOING TOO MUCH?
29:53
You do everything for your spouse. The laundry, cooking, cleaning, kids, devotional, gardening, and on and on. You don’t understand why your spouse can’t help out around the house. Why are they not engaging with you? Has your marriage become one where you are treating your spouse more like a child than an adult. It's time to treat them like an adult so they can have a sense of value in your marriage. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa are going to share with you how you can take steps today so that you can begin to treat your spouse as an adult. Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Oct 01, 2013
188: MAKE A PROMISE
29:52
It is critical that you make the decision to honor the promise you made on your wedding day. It is by keeping this promise that you will experience the true meaning of love in your marriage. Take time to consider these three promises that you can make and keep in your marriage. You wedding vow Transparency Variety In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share how you can make a promise, keep it, and most importantly demonstrate it to each other. Cuddle Up Online Audio Program Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Sep 24, 2013
187: CHANGE IS GOOD
29:49
It's time to live the marriage you desire. For change to happen you are going to have to take action. Your marriage has changed over the years. Your priorities are so out of whack that you, your spouse, and your marriage is lost. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can make change happen in your life. Start today. 40 Romantic Ideas You Can Use Today to Spice Up Your Marriage Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Sep 17, 2013
186: DON’T WAIT
29:46
Fear. It stops you from taking off your masks. You sit there as you look at your spouse knowing you need to share where you are and yet FEAR is holding you back. Expressing yourself has become difficult. The kids, work, electronics, have made it easy to disengage in your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can begin to reengage each other so that you don't wait until your marriage is at the brink of ending. 3 Ways to Overcome Your Fear The Question Behind the Question Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Sep 10, 2013
185: LISTEN TO ME
28:55
One area that is often mishandled in marriage is the art of listening. It's the ability to keep your mouth shut and your ears open as your spouse shares what is happening in their life. During this time you get to learn about your spouse. Better yet, you now have the opportunity to show them that you heard what was spoken. This is not a time to get defensive or fight your position. Relax and open yourself up for a time of growth. You will see the transformation in your marriage as you listen up. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can listen and gain insights on your marriage that can take it to the next level. 19 Questions to Amazing Sex with Your Spouse Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Sep 03, 2013
184: BE A HALL OF FAMER
28:29
Remember back to those days when you played a sport, competed in a competition, or were launching a new business, product or service. You knew where you wanted to get and yet you didn't have the blueprint to help you get there. Well in your marriage there can come a point where you know that there is more, but you don't know how to work with your spouse to reach that point. Marriage coaching may be the answer for you. This week Tony & Alisa share why it's important to consider marriage coaching. They breakdown the myths associated with coaching and how you can start working with them today! Love Always: The Ultimate Marriage Blueprint Email Coaching - Starting at $10 Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Aug 27, 2013
183: THE IMPACT OF PORNOGRAPHY ON YOUR WIFE
30:11
You can believe what you are seeing. You're heart sinks as the shame and anger inside you begins to burst out. Right there in front of you on your husband's phone, tablet, and/or computer there are pictures of naked women. The shock has left you wondering why he's looking at it. You're heartbroken as the foundation of your marriage, trust, has been compromised. You're not alone. This week Tony & Alisa share how pornography impacted their marriage from the perspective of the wife. Overcoming Pornography with Marriage Coaching The Porn Antidote: God's Secret Weapon for Crushing Porn's Grip, and Creating the Life and Marriage You Dream Of OpenDNS - Internet Security Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Aug 20, 2013
182: KEEPING SECRETS ABOUT THE KIDS
29:48
There is marriage Before Kids (BK) and then there is marriage After Kids (AK). You know what we are talking about as these can be two extremes. It starts from little sleep, to low sex drive, on to school, sports, and many other good and tough issues as they grow up. One area where this can be most prevalent is in your emotional and intellectual intimacy with your spouse. Kids can be a wedge between the two of you. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share how you can stay connected when your child wants you to keep a secret from your spouse. 30 Minute Initial Coaching Session He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication On the Same Path Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Aug 13, 2013
181: WARRIOR OR WALKOVER
30:12
You've been living long enough in a lack luster marriage. Today is the day that you are going to put on your armor and be a warrior for your marriage. To often you and your spouse get complacent in your marriage. Your expectations are that they will take the initiative and yet it's you who needs to stand tall. This week Tony & Alisa share what you can do today to be the warrior you need to be so that your marriage can thrive and grow. Coaching with Alisa Thrive90 Fitness Program He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Aug 06, 2013
180: EWWW, THAT’S GROSS
29:59
These words are uttered across the globe by kids who see their parents kiss, hug, or show some form of affection. You want to hear them say this. It's your responsibility in your marriage to show affection around your kids and their friends. Your ability to show them a healthy marriage is vital for you and for them. This week Tony & Alisa share the times when they have heard these words spoken by their kids. They also share with you what is appropriate affection and what you should leave for when you are alone. The Sex Talk Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 30, 2013
179: WARNING SIGNS
31:08
You feel like something’s not quite right in your marriage right now. As you think about what is going on you wonder if you are making too much out of nothing. Your intuition or gut is telling you something. There are warning signs that something is not the way it should be in your marriage. These warning signs by themselves may not lead to separation and yet a few of them together can mean that things are in jeopardy in your relationship. All in all when your warning signs go off a serious conversation is required. This week Tony and Alisa go over a list of warning signs that you should be aware of in your marriage. 30-Minute Initial Coaching Consultation He Zigs, She Zags Bondage Breaker Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 23, 2013
178: SEXPECTATIONS
31:07
You are all excited to take some time away, maybe a long weekend or a week long vacation, with your spouse. You know the two of you are going to have sex and yet have you discussed how many times you will have sex while away. Your sexpectations and those of your spouse may be drastically different for the trip. Taking time before you leave to clarify what each of your sexpectations are will allow for both of you to enjoy your time off. This week Tony & Alisa talk about how their sexpectations were drastically different on a recent vacation. They share the highs and the lows from before they left until the time they got home. He Zigs, She Zags: Getting You Communication on the Same Path Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 16, 2013
177: BICYCLE BUILT FOR TWO (OR NOT)
31:23
Having your own activities and hobbies separately from your spouse is a healthy way for you to grow individually. At the same time it's also a way for you and your spouse to grow your marriage. Do something that makes your heart sing, brings joy, happiness, and a passion to your life. This joy then is brought into the marriage where you are able to discuss new interests. This week Tony & Alisa share what interests they have together and what interests they have separately. Both have been vital to their marriage over the years. Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 09, 2013
176: HOLD MY HAND
29:13
So often you find yourself in making advances on your spouse with the sole purpose to have sex. You're touching your spouse for one thing only and it's not appreciated. What transpires is either you getting accepted after numerous advances or you get rejected. Either way you feel as if your spouse really isn't interested in having sex with you. What if you focused on building a connection without the expectation of having sex? Building this connection for the sake of being close to your spouse will lead to much more. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can connect with non-sexual touches so you can have the sexual intimacy you desire. They outline what you should be doing to connect and those special touches that will enhance your marriage. 20-Minute Consultation Call 111 - High Desire, Low Desire State of Our Marriage Conversation Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 02, 2013
175: CONTRACT OF RECONCILIATION
30:29
You've had enough of your spouse's antics. The word "Separation" or "Divorce" have been said in hurtful ways and now you are really considering one or both. Before you step out of your home you both need a plan to be working on yourself as well as you marriage. If not, the likelihood of both of you working together diminishes. In this weeks podcast Tony and Alisa talk about what to do when you feel like you need to separate to gain clarity in your marriage with the goal of being together again. This isn't a we're separating to never get back together, but a time of distance to get back together. Contract of Reconciliation Worksheets The Bondage Breaker He Zigs, She Zags: Getting Your Communication on the Same Path ONE Marriage Coaching Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jun 25, 2013
174: COVENANT OR CONTRACT
36:04
When you first got marriage you  may have thought of you marriage as a covenant and/or as a contract. To this day in your mind your marriage is either one of these or both and yet do you know which each of them mean in your marriage? If you view your marriage as a contract it is self-focused. In a covenant you are other-focused. This week Tony and Alisa discuss the major differences between the two to help you better understand which marriage you are in. Either a covenant or a contract you should know so that you can fully experience your marriage. The Bondage Breaker Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jun 18, 2013
173: CRANK UP YOUR SEX DRIVE
43:00
You don't have the sex drive you once had within your marriage. It's waned over the years and really you're a bit frustrated that you don't have "IT" like you once did. Your physical well being may be an area that is having a big impact on your sex drive and libido. Being physically fit, eating the proper nutrition, getting the vitamins and minerals you need, as well as having the motivation is paramount to your sexual intimacy. This week Tony and Alisa go over where they are in their continued pursuit of having a healthy sex drive. It's something that they thrive for individually and together. Don't miss how you can make changes to your body to crank up your sex drive. Thrive90 Fitness Program Happy, Healthy, & Hot Les Mills Pump Fitness Program What Are Your 50 Reasons? Irwin Naturals Men's Living Green Liquid-Gel Multi Irwin Naturals Women's Living Green Liquid-Gel Multi Irwin Naturals High-Performance Ripped-Man Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jun 11, 2013
172: THOSE WEIRD NOISES
34:32
You know those noises that come from your spouse. Either in the bathroom or right there in the kitchen they come out and boy is it getting a bit much. Never did you think about the burps, farts, throw up, diarrhea, or those weird noises in bed when you first got together. Now after years of marriage they are beginning to wan on you. This week Tony and Alisa share those noises in their marriage and how they have been able to understand why they occur and when. You don't want to miss this episode on Those Weird Noises. Mattress Warmer  Pain Free: A Revolutionary Method for Stopping Chronic Pain Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jun 04, 2013
171: SEX HURTS
44:16
Ouch! My body hurts. Physical ailments can cause strife in your marriage when you are unable to be sexually intimate with your spouse. You are not doing this to hurt your spouse and yet there is frustration for both of you. Is the pain manageable? Can you make changes to your medication? Would non-vaginal sex satisfy both of you? This week Tony and Alisa share ideas that you may not have thought of so you can be physically intimate with your spouse. Take one action step this week toward healing your body. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
May 28, 2013
170: WHAT’S WRONG WITH MY MARRIAGE…I AM
41:17
There are times in your marriage when everything seems to not be going as you planned. It's easy to point the finger at your spouse for all that is happening and yet the issues may be with YOU. Yes, you may be what's wrong with your marriage. Most times it is easier to lay the blame on your spouse. Why do you have to go through all the work to change yourself when your spouse can do it. This week Tony & Alisa share times in their marriage when one of them was the problem in their marriage. They share how they have looked at their issues and how they have been able to overcome them. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
May 21, 2013
169: IS THIS ABUSE?
45:31
You feel alone, unworthy, spoken to like a child, or watched everywhere you go. Physically your spouse hasn't laid a hand on you and yet the verbal and emotional barrage that you get daily has you at wits end. Have you experienced: Humiliation, degradation, discounting, negating. judging, criticizing Domination, control, and shame Accusing and blaming, trivial and unreasonable demands or expectations, denies own shortcomings Emotional distancing and the “silent treatment,” isolation, emotional abandonment or neglect Codependence and enmeshment If so, then you are in an emotional and verbally abusive marriage. This week Tony & Alisa shine the light on what these may look like in your home. More importantly they share the 5 steps you need to take to free yourself and your spouse from continued abuse. If you need help don't wait. Call or contact the agencies below for assistance. Women call: US: Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 UK: call Women’s Aid at 0808 2000 247. Australia: Call 1800RESPECT at 1800 737 732. Worldwide: Visit International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies for a global list of helplines and crisis centers. Men call: U.S. and Canada: Call the The Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men & Women at 1-888-7HELPLINE UK: Call the ManKind Initiative at 01823 334244 Australia: Visit One in Three Campaign Other links: Creating a Safety Plan Uberlube Luxury Lubricant Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
May 14, 2013
168: FLYING HIGH
36:21
Get out of your comfort zone and do something exhilarating with your spouse. When you do amazing changes can happen in your marriage. You're flying high as you face your fears and stay present in the moment. To often in your marriage there is so much going on, kids activities, electronics, church function, etc, that you put on the brakes before you ever get the chance to do something new. This week Tony & Alisa are flying high as they talk about how flying on the trapeze helped them overcome some fears, expand their level of trust, and grow together in their marriage. He Zigs, She Zags: Getting Your Communication on the Same Path Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
May 07, 2013
167: PLAY BALL
44:04
Your marriage is a participation sport. There are no rewards for sitting on the sidelines watching as the weeks, months, and years pass by. It's time for the two of you to stand on the field together, playing together, and enjoying this game we call marriage together. When you do your emotional, spiritual, financial, and sexual intimacy are going to be in sync. This week Tony and Alisa share how you can stand together on the ball field and participate in your marriage together. It's time to Play Ball! 19 Questions to Amazing Sex with Your Spouse Fireproof (Movie) The Love Dare  Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 30, 2013
166: HOLEY UNDERWEAR
37:44
Those underwear you are wearing are dragging you down. Nobody except your spouse sees them and yet when you are wearing them you don't feel sexy. Why would you want to have them around any longer if all they do is bring you down? Git rid of those hoely underwear! It's time for some spring cleaning so get those holey underwear out of your drawer and put them in the trash. In the process you'll lift your self-esteem and self-confidence. This week Tony and Alisa share their experiences with holey underwear, what they have done to rid themselves of them, and how it has impacted them as well as their marriage. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 23, 2013
165: CUDDLE UP
40:29
Cuddling up with your spouse after a great love making session can do wonders for both of you. Your skin is the largest organ on your body and when it is in contact with your spouse's skin it can do wonders for your marriage. The act of cuddling with your spouse releases the hormone oxytocin, "the feel-good hormone", which can lead to overall happiness. Cuddling can also release endorphins, which are the same hormones that are released during a good workout. This week Tony & Alisa share how the act of cuddling, which was prevalent in their early years of marriage, has faded over time. They get to the root of why cuddling has faded over time and what they are going to do to get more cuddling in after sex. Cuddle Positions Intimacy Ignited Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 16, 2013
164: IS YOUR SEX LIFE GETTING ENOUGH SLEEP?
42:45
The amount of sleep you get can directly impact your vibrancy as well as the quality of sex you have in your marriage. When you are tired and worn out sex is the last thing you may want to be doing. If anything, you would rather roll over and get more sleep. Well, a good night of sleep will benefit your sex life and many other areas of your life as well. This week Tony and Alisa share how you can feel better by getting more sleep. Not only will you learn the impact from lack of sleep, but tips on how to have a great night of sleep. Find Your Perfect At-Home Fitness Program Sleep Aids: Iso-Cool Memory Foam Pillow Sleep Master Sleep Mask Resources: Sleepless in America Sharing a Bed 9 Things That May Impact Your Sleeping Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 09, 2013
163: WHEN THINGS GO WRONG AS THEY SOMETIMES WILL
40:58
You have waited to try something new in the bedroom for months. You purchased what you needed, set the ambiance of your room, and now it's go time. As the two of you begin having some fun you realize that this isn't going the way you had planned. The candles smell horrible. There are laughs when you turn on the vibrator. Your hotel room bed is bumpy. A long day traveling leaves you spent. Recently one of those planned situations didn't go as Tony and Alisa had expected. This week they share what happened, how each of them reacted to the same situation, and what they did to make sure that they wouldn't let this unforeseen situation disrupt them for the long haul. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 02, 2013
162: WALK ON WATER
40:14
Fear can stop you in your tracks and hold you back from what God truly wants from you in your marriage. It's during these times of fear that you need to face what is holding you back and move forward. Peter walked on water, but it was only when he got out of the boat did this happen. (Matthew 14:29-30) It can be difficult to get out of the boat sometimes in your marriage. This week Tony and Alisa share times in their marriage when fear held them back and they didn't want to get out of the boat. Other times they jumped out of the boat to experience God's desires for them. They share both in this weeks show. CREATE Your Life Blueprint Mentorship Program Imagine having the confidence and the know-how to: State what you want out of your relationship. Balance your relationship while running your business or working your job. Take off your masks and being loved more, not less, for who you truly are. Say no to those commitments that are not in line with your personal mission statement. Recognize your dreams and desires and manifest those in your relationship. Develop a sense of gratitude for life’s experience and the journey you’re on. CREATE Your Life Blueprint will be opening soon. Sign up to be notified of the upcoming launch. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 26, 2013
161: I DON’T CARE
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Love starts out as that butterfly feeling in the pit of your stomach; a physical emotion that washed over you when you first met your soon-to-be spouse. During this get-to-know-you stage you were swept up with everything they did with you, such as holding your hand, rubbing close to you, and those kisses. Your emotions were cranked to the hilt and everything was great. You're happy. You're in love. You get engaged, then married and as time passed the feelings of love began to disappear. Those fun things your spouse did early on in your courtship now bug you. The physical reaction you once had isn't there any longer. Its great to have your spouse around and yet you have work, kids, and other activities that occupy you. Even more time passes and real world issues cant be ignored any longer. You're at a point where you don't care about your spouse or your marriage. Its at this moment that you need to realize that love is a verb. Love is not about that butterfly feeling, but in you showing your love through action. This week we share how you can take your marriage from an attitude of "I Don't Care" to one where you are taking action and showing your love. Total Transformation Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 19, 2013
160: FLIP THE SWITCH TO GOOD SEX
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You were raised in a family where talking about sex and your private parts was a bad. Sex was bad everywhere you went and then you got married. Now you needed to flip the switch to good sex. This has been tough for you and to this day you still have a bad sex view point even with your spouse. This week we are here to help you overcome the thoughts that are holding you back from have good sex if not great sex with your spouse. Listen in to the 3 steps to flipping the switch to good sex in your marriage. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 12, 2013
159: SEX ON THE ROLLER COASTER
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Hopefully you haven't actually had sex on a roller coaster. That would be very difficult to say the least and a bit dangerous too. No, this roller coaster is the parenting kind. The one that you a part of each and every day of your life if you have little ones to adult children living with you. The stress of raising, disciplining, educating, and being active with your kids can put the breaks on your sexual intimacy. You're unable to let go of the daily activities to be present with your spouse, you continue to replay the argument from 3 days ago, and/or you feel guilty because you missed the soccer game. This week we share how the roller coaster ride of parenting has impacted our marriage and how we are able to still have the sexual intimacy we desire in our marriage. It's doesn't happen with a snap of your finger and yet with consistent baby steps forward you will have the emotional, spiritual, and sexual connection with your spouse. 040 - Screw the Kids This is Our Marriage 140 - Scheduling Sex Total Transformation Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 05, 2013
158: SEIZE THE DAY
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Stop the Glorification of Busy! It's not uncommon for you to ask someone how their day is going and the response you get is, "I'm really busy". You may even answer the same way when someone asks how your day, week, or month is going. Unfortunately, if you and your spouse are "so busy" that you don't have margin in your life you are missing opportunities when the two of you can seize the day. Yes, you need margin in your lives so that you can experience the emotional, spiritual, and sexual intimacy you desire in your marriage. Don't miss the three tips on how you can find more time in your day so that the two of you can connect. Awesome Time Logger How-to Make a Daily Devotional Part of Your Marriage Fun Board Games You Can Play to Spice Up Your Sex Life Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 26, 2013
157: HOW TO DEAL WITH YOUR PARENTS AND YOUR MARRIAGE
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Consider yourself warned. Any time that you choose your parents over your spouse you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. Making sure that you have boundaries that will protect you, your spouse, and your marriage are needed. You love your parents, we love our too, and setting boundaries can be tough. Before we were married and after we were married we had to take time with both sets of parents to let them know our marriage came first. What happens is that once you set up these boundaries you are letting your spouse know that they come first.  This week you will learn how you can set up boundaries in your marriage so that you can experience the passion, romance, and intimacy you desire in your marriage. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 19, 2013
156: VALENTINE’S DAY IS MORE THAN JUST ONE DAY
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It’s the time of year when cupid is abuzz with love in your marriage. The cost of chocolates, roses, and jewelry double or triple and a night on the town will set you back a Benjamin or two. The card isle at Target is filled with pink, red, and purple for you to profess you love with a card in any shape, style and size. As marriage educators we are not head over heels excited about Valentine’s day. It is a day to share your love with your spouse that is for sure. Unfortunately, it’s can be like your wedding day where there is lots of effort put into that one day that there isn't much thought or plans for all of the other days. This week make Valentine's Day a launching point for what your marriage is going to be for the rest of the year. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 12, 2013
155: HOW-TO MAKE A DAILY DEVOTIONAL PART OF YOUR MARRIAGE
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Your desire to be closer and more  intimate with your spouse. Emotionally, financially, and sexually you are there and yet your spiritual intimacy is lagging behind. Maybe you've even tried a few times (or many times) without success. We get it! We've been spiritually empty in our marriage. One thing though is that when you come together and dive into your spiritual intimacy it will take your marriage to another level. Spending time together in God's word and in prayer allows the two of you to take off your masks, strip down, get naked, and truly bare your souls. You will do this with God your Father and with one another. You can start a daily devotional with your spouse in 4 simple steps. Get it started today so that you will reap the benefits of this most intimate act for years to come. Daily Devotional Top Ten List YouVersion App Bible Gateway Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 05, 2013
154: WRITE ME A LETTER, SPEAK TO MY HEART
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In this digital age that you live in how often do you write a hand written love letter or get a romantic love letter? There is something to be said about this lost art of letter writing to that connects you to your spouse. The few moments it takes to express your love on paper can last a lifetime. This week we share how you can write a quick romantic love letter to your spouse so that you can express your feelings on paper or in a card. Don't miss the one simple tip to start your letter that will make it easy for you to get started. List of Feelings Secret Message Writing Set President Ronald Reagan wrote many love letters to Nancy Reagan, starting when they first met and continued through their time in the White House and beyond. He wrote this love letter to her on Valentine's Day 1977. “Dear St. Valentine, I’m writing to you about a beautiful young lady who has been in this household for 25 years now—come March 4. I have a request to make of you but before doing so feel you should know more about her. For one thing she has 2 hearts—her own and mine. I’m not complaining. I gave her mine willingingly, and like it right where it is. Her name is Nancy but for some time now I’ve called her Mommie and don’t believe I could change. My request of you is—could you on this day whisper in her ear that someone loves her very much and more and more each day? Also tell her, this “Someone” would run down like a dollar clock without her so she must always stay where she is.” A romantic love letter doesn't have to be long to get your feeling across to your love one. Write that love letter and express your desires to your spouse. How do you feel when you receive a hand written love letter from your spouse? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 29, 2013
153: CHEERING FOR THE HOME TEAM
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Professional football is coming to a close with only one game left, the Super Bowl. The tryouts, practices, scrimmages, and the start of the season started long ago. The players began preparing themselves as well as the cheerleaders many months ago. It's the players on the field playing for that Super Bowl ring, but the cheerleaders on the sideline play an important roll on the field as well. Today we talk about the cheerleaders in your life and in your marriage. You need a cheerleader and you need to be a cheerleader in your marriage. This week we go over who a cheerleader is and how you can be the best cheerleader in your marriage. We also share how you can be the best cheerleader your spouse has. Make it a point to learn about how you can cheer on your spouse around the house, in the bedroom, in their personal development, and in any other way that they need. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 22, 2013
152: RUB-A-DUB THERE’S A COUPLE IN THE TUB
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Taking time away and enjoying a sensual shower or bath can do wonders for your marriage. It's a time where you and your spouse are showing everything to one another and yet it brings you closer together. This time in the shower or bath can enhance your emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy in ways other places can't. This week we share 9 reasons why you should be taking a shower/bath with your spouse on a regular basis. Relieves Stress It's Romantic Your Spouse Can Scrub Your Back Have Fun & Let Loose You Feel Sexy It's a Cheap Date There's Steam & Bubbles Water is Sensual Great Place to Communicate One of these or all of these may be why you enjoy taking a shower/bath with your beloved. What is it about showering with your spouse that you enjoy? Thrive90 Fitness Program 8 Skills to Revive Your Communication Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 15, 2013
151: SLIPPERY SLOPE
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It started out innocently. The conversation was fun, the walks were refreshing, you were losing weight together, and you were connecting. It wasn't that you were physically attracted and yet you became emotionally attached. Without you realizing it you are now in an emotional affair. This week we share a listeners experience with an emotional affair. She goes in depth on how it started, it's progression, and how it came to an end. As the emotional affair ended, but the ripples affected her marriage and her connection with her husband. There are clear steps and choices that lead to an emotional affair. Protect yourself and your marriage from an affair before it even begins. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 08, 2013
150: READY, SET, GO!
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Whether you are kicking off the New Year or looking to set goals that will impact your marriage you need to get Ready, Set, Go! Making time for the two of you to be on the same page and what you'd like to accomplish is the first step toward an extraordinary marriage. The two of you may want to connect emotionally, spiritually, sexually or this may be the year you tackle your finances together. What ever you choose to do being on the same page and having your goals written down will help you stay the course. If you desire to live, love, and grow you are going to have to take steps to get there. There is no better way to do this then to set actionable SMART goals. No more excuses! It's time to have the marriage filled with romance, passion, and intimacy. 5x5+5 Goal Sheet Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 01, 2013
149: UNWRAPPING EACH OTHER
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The excitement of Christmas or vacation can have an impact on when and if you are able to make love. Being somewhere other than your house, kids, relatives, friends, and the like make having sex on these occasions a little tougher. It doesn't mean you can make it happen though. Have you ever wanted to make love on Christmas or steal away for some alone time on vacation? You have the best intentions of finding the time to rendezvous and yet you don't plan to make it happen. Before you know it the time is gone and you're frustrated that you weren't able to have sex. You find yourselves looking at each other thinking, "Why didn't that work out for us?  What could we have done differently?" The key is planning so you can make sex something that happens on a holiday or vacation. The best part if you take the steps you are going to be unwrapping the best present of all-your spouse. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 24, 2012
148: FROM MOURNING TO JOY
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The events that unfolded at Sandy Hook Elementary School rocked us as we heard about what happened. We sat in our chairs after we recorded this podcast as tears filled our eyes. How is it that this week we would be talking about grief during the holidays and this tragic event happens? We do not know why, but we serve an awesome God.  Our prayers go to the families and marriages that have been impacted by loss. We look back over eight years as we celebrate the short life of our son Andrew. He never took a breath and yet his life has impacted our marriage in many ways. This week we talk about how time has healed our broken hearts and our broken marriage. In both dark times and joyous times it is amazing how God has worked in us. If you are hurting during the holidays and are trying to cope our prayer is that you'll implement the 5 tips From Mourning to Joy and put them to use in your life today. 5 Tips From Mourning to Joy Save your energy for the most important things. Be a delegator. Let others handle holiday preperations. Find quiet time for you. Scale down holiday activities. Watch you use of alcohol and medications. Pray For Kaia: She Is Such A Gift Mercy Me - The Hurt & The Healer Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 18, 2012
147: THEN AND NOW
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What was marriage like before we did our 60 Days of Sex Challenge? This was a question we were asked from a listener who is going through a tough time right now. When you are in the depths of those valleys it is sometimes hard to see what's ahead. Your ability to look down the path and see what's ahead is squelched. We know where you are! We've been there before. This week we go back 5+ years to share with you where we were before we started that fateful challenged that changed us and our marriage forever. It wasn't a great time for our marriage and yet when we pivoted and started the 60 Days of Sex Challenge everything changed for us. What pivot point in your marriage has brought you out of the valley to the mountain top? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 11, 2012
146: MY MARRIAGE IS GREAT BUT…
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Your brain can and does impact your marriage. Those negative thoughts and positive thoughts that play in your mind will determine the outcome of how you react to your spouse. These thoughts play like a broken record and can stop you from taking action to better your marriage. The power of your words come after the but. My Marriage is Great But... When you use a BUT in your sentence you only focus on what comes after the BUT.  This could be a positive or negative statement-unfortunately it's mostly negative. It's time to take control of what comes after the BUT in that sentence. It's time to rewrite your story.   Starting today you are going to make a conscious decision to focus on the positives and rewrite the future.  You will be amazed at what you can accomplish when you set out to change the ending of the story by changing what you say. Train Your Brain Dress Your Best Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 04, 2012
145: MAKE TIME FOR A SEXY MARRIAGE
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Your year is about to get even crazier. Thanksgiving started the season of busy for you and your spouse and it will not end until after Christmas if you are lucky. This is the time of year when you can feel completely overwhelmed! The obligations of the holidays on top of the busyness of your regular life has you grasping for some quality time with your spouse. Finding time for you and your spouse to connect leads to frustration on both of your parts and snippiness factor rises. Like you we have lots on our plate during this holiday season as well. We have to get creative when we can't get a babysitter or the kids don't want to go to bed in our time frame.  Even though this may happen we make the time for a sexy marriage. The time is now for you to spend 15 minutes a week spending quality time together and on your marriage so that the both of you can start 2013 off on the right foot. Use one or a few of the creative solutions we share in this show to help you find the time this holiday season to create your own sexy marriage. Food Passionista Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 27, 2012
144: I’M THANKFUL FOR…
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The key to thriving in your marriage each and every year is to take time to share what you are thankful for in your marriage. This is a time when the busyness of every day life is put aside so that you can  honor your spouse. Grab a piece of paper, write down 5-10 reasons why you are thankful for your marriage, and then sit down with your spouse and share. This week we go over our "I'm Thankful For..." list with each other and you. During this time we listen, acknowledge, and respond to what we say to each other. When you dig deeper into your emotional intimacy will pay dividends in your marriage for years to come. I'm Thankful For... is one time during the year when each of you can let loose and pour out all the goodness that has and is happening in your marriage. It's a time to celebrate all that you are thankful for in your life. Go on and get that list going so you can share it with your spouse. Jesus Calling Les Mills Pump How-to Jump Start Your Sex Drive with Libido Boosting Vitamins and Minerals Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 20, 2012
143: ARE YOU LIVING A LIE
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You're hiding something from your spouse and it is weighing you down. Maybe you have an addiction that your spouse doesn't know about. Perhaps you've spent more money than you shouldn't have and you haven't told them. Has that lunch partner become something more? Living with these burdens can stop you and your spouse from connecting emotionally, physically, spiritually, and sexually. You are constantly looking over your shoulder wondering if someone might let the secret out. You know you need to tell the truth and yet you don't know how to approach your spouse. In this episode we share a number of times in our past when we came forth and told the truth. Telling the truth has brought us closer to each other and one reason why our marriage has exploded over the past 5 years. It's time for you to start living your life without lies or deceit. Living a life of deception will wear you out. Create the extraordinary marriage that you desire by telling the truth. The 50% Divorce Rate Is a Myth (Faith Permeating Life) Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663
Nov 13, 2012
142: BLENDED FAMILIES
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It can be tough to bring two families together and blend them into one family. Between exes, kids, alimony, child support, and ex-in laws it can be a real challenge for the two of you to find time to make intimacy a priority in your marriage. It is time to fight for your marriage and your blended family. Communication is the key to making this marriage work. Take off your masks, place all of your baggage on the table and decide that the two of you are committed to making this marriage work. It starts when you get your priorities in order: God, spouse, kids, work and finally other activities. Yours, Mine and Ours Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663
Nov 06, 2012
141: FLIRTING YOUR WAY BACK
45:27
You may have come to a point in your marriage where sexual intimacy isn't happening any longer. The thought of you and your spouse having sex brings up anxiety in you. This in turn is stopping the both of you from moving forward and having the sexual intimacy you desire. This week we answer in detail how you can get the sexual intimacy back in your marriage. It's simple and something the two of you have done many times before. The thing is that you may not be giving this as much attention as you should. Start from the beginning of when you first were physically intimate with each other and start kissing with passion. Text the Romance Back (aff link) Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663
Oct 30, 2012
140: SCHEDULING SEX
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Sometimes it seems like life is just too busy. You are running around here, there, and everywhere. The thing is that you sense a distance from your spouse and you need to connect. You need to connect emotionally, spiritually, and sexually. It's time to get radical in your marriage and make a change! This week we share all about the Intimacy Lifestyle. That's right, scheduling sex so you can connect in all areas of your marriage. The Intimacy Lifestyle has changed the way that we view sex in our marriage, it has caused more equality in terms of initiating sex, and it has helped us to create fireworks that we never used to have. It's time for you to commit to your spouse and implement the Intimacy Lifestyle in your marriage. He Zigs, She Zage: Getting Your Communication on the Same Path Audio Program Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You: What Your Libido Reveals About Your Life by Diana Hoppe M.D. Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663
Oct 23, 2012
139: POSITION IT THIS WAY
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Trying different positions while making love is something that we struggled with early on in our marriage. Since we learned little about the birds and the bees it is no wonder we had a difficult time when it came to different positions. Have you experienced a wall when it comes to trying new positions in your bed? We totally get it! In this episode we talk about the fears each of us face when it came to trying something new. Over the years we have experimented more and we've found our go to positions that we enjoy. We share them with you. It's now your turn to get out of your positions box and experience something new and exciting. What hinders you from experiencing a new position? Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663
Oct 16, 2012
138: WIND BENEATH MY WINGS
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I sat in a conference room this weekend for Allison Maslan's Blast Off! Business Breakthrough. It started on my anniversary and I will have to say I was excited to be there. This was mine and Tony's way of celebrating. I know it's kinda weird, but heck we aren't normal anyway. Many of the attendees there thought we were a bit weird once they learned about the awesome ONE Community! Over the weekend Tony took the opportunity to put his money where his mouth is and showed me just how much he believes in me. It really lifted my spirits and put the wind beneath my wings. When was the last time that you showed your spouse just how much they mean to you? Our spouses need to hear and see just how important they are to us.  Verbally sharing and showing your spouse how you invest in your marriage will pay dividends. Sam the Cooking Guy 16 Reasons Why I Still Love My Wife After 16 Years of Marriage Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663
Oct 09, 2012
137: LOVE DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE
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Love is active and love impacts the world in very big ways. When you first meet your spouse love was active and running rampant in you. Love was active, making you do things that made an impact. This week we had the opportunity to experience Bob Goff, author of Love Does, share how he does love around the world. Bob is charismatic, animated, and in love with doing to make an impact in this world. Love is something you need to be doing in your marriage as well as your community at large. Love Does! You have been blessed with tremendous gifts and passions and it's time to put all that love into your spouse. Love Does by Bob Goff (Affiliate Link) Sleepless San Diego video Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663
Oct 02, 2012
136: AUTHENTICALLY YOU
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Live from the inside out for lasting satisfaction in your life and marriage starts with you being authentic with yourself. This authenticity is the DNA that God has placed inside of you that makes your heart sing when you are YOU! You are an amazing creation that has the ability to be the same person no matter if you are at work, at church, with a group of friends, or in your bedroom with your spouse. Coming to realize who that person is across all of these groups is the tough part. Take time over the next week and take a step back to see how you act in different groups. Ask your spouse to give honest feedback of how you act in different surroundings. Are you being Authentically YOU? What is it about you that makes you Authentically YOU? Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663
Sep 25, 2012
135: THE POWER OF TOUCH
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In your marriage the power of touch, non-sexual and sexual, are vitally important to your well being. Did you know that touch can ease your pains, lessen anxiety in your marriage, soften the blows of life that come your way, generate hope and has the power to heal you? Your hand upon your spouse can also slow their heart rate, give them a feeling of relaxation and the spiritual connection is long lasting. When words can't say everything you hope for touching your spouse can speak volumes. In this podcast we'll cover four forms of touch that you can have in your marriage. Connecting Touch Light Touch Companionship Touch Intimate Touch Which of the touches do you do most often in your marriage?  Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663
Sep 18, 2012
134: ROLE REVERSAL
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Sexual rejection is tough on the spouse who is initiating sex. In our society the focus has been that of the husband getting rejected when initiating sex. Unfortunately, it's becoming more common for the husband to reject his wife. Long hours at work, gaming late into the night, pornography, emotional affairs, and other distractions are contributing to this behavior. In this show we look at the role reversal of when a wife initiates sex and continuously gets rejected. The impact this has on a marriage can cause insecurities that will effect both of you. Having been through sexual rejection in our marriage there are some questions you need to ask yourself so that you can break free of this cycle. How do I connect with my husband before we walk into the bedroom? Are there underlying issues that need to be addressed? Would an Intimacy Lifestyle benefit our marriage? We believe in both of you and your willingness to serve each other. What makes initiating sex with your husband difficult?  LIVE EVENT Oct. 13, 2012 - He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path 7 Days of Sex Challenge Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663
Sep 11, 2012
133: STATE OF THIS MARRIAGE
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This week Tony and Alisa catch you up on all of the exciting developments that are being worked on at ONE Extraordinary Marriage. Over the last year the growth of listeners and readers has been amazing. All of your input via email, voice mail, or commenting on Facebook or Twitter have had us discussing how we can impact you and more marriage now and into the future. We need your help and prayers as we continue on this journey. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Live Event - Our 1st live event will be held October 13th, inSan Diego.  Who do you know that needs to work on their communication?  Who can you introduce us to that we might be able to help us promote this event? Live Talk Radio Show - It is our desire to connect with you in a live talk show format, where you can call in and get your questions answered on the air. This will be on internet radio so that no matter where you are you can still listen in. Right now our biggest needs are advertisers to launch the show. New Products - It's time to help you build your marriage toolbox and we are creating the tools to help you do just that.  Through step-by-step exercises we will get you moving toward that extraordinary marriage. Make sure you sign up for the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Newsletter. Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663
Sep 04, 2012
132: BEING BRAVE
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Facing those skeletons in your closet can be hard. This week Tony shares about getting his girlfriend pregnant in college and then paying for the abortion. This event still impacts him 21 years later. Bringing up the skeletons in you past might not be worth the anguish to you. Fear, anxiety, and judgement stop you from letting go and releasing the skeletons. Instead you are held hostage, afraid to become the spouse you desire. You probably hear those voices telling you that you can't bring up these events to your spouse. The voices tell you that you are not worthy and by sharing you are only going to do damage to your marriage. The reality is that you can do it! You are brave! Jesus is holding out his hand right there next to you. He has come along side you to be there when you go through this time.  He's there with a listening ear, not trying to solve the problem but a source of hope and love. Taking that step out of the boat and onto the crashing waves and toward Jesus can be life-changing.  Your marriage will grow and flourish because you are being your most authentic self. What's keeping you in your boat? He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path (Live Event) Voice of Truth - Casting Crowns Right click to download the MP3 | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question or call (858)876-5663
Aug 28, 2012
131: BIRDS AND THE BEES
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Is sex a stigma in your marriage? Has the past held you back from completely enjoying the amazing bond you could be having with your spouse? Sex ed or learning about the birds and the bees are an integral part of how you view sex in your marriage. Parents or other respected individuals may not have talked to you about sex, told you it was bad, or mentioned very little that didn't help you prepare for sex in marriage. You may have even been called names or had labels put on you because you looked a certain way. The lack of sex education combined with being labeled growing up has left you frustrated. Friends, movies, porn, or experimenting played a big part in how you approach sex in your marriage, but you can't seem to let the past go. This week Tony & Alisa share what they learned or didn't learn about the birds and the bees growing up. They want to help you overcome the past so that you can fully enjoy sex with your spouse. Right click to download the MP3 | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question or call (858)876-5663
Aug 21, 2012
130: JESUS IN MY BEDROOM
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The lights are dim in your bedroom and in the corner there is a blue chair. Jesus is sitting there. He is omnipresent in your life and right now he is waiting for you to allow Him into your sex life. Unfortunately, the reality is that you are to quick to compartmentalize Him out of your bedroom. You want to control this area as the thought of Him being there is a bit weird. Instead of developing a reliance on God to help flourish your marriage you are trying to control all aspects of it. You cannot do this thing called marriage by yourself.  We challenge you this week to invite Jesus into your marriage, into your bedroom. Jesus is sitting in a blue chair in your bedroom as you make love to your spouse. What’s running through your mind? See what others had to say on Facebook. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Aug 14, 2012
129: A NEW NORMAL
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Illness, sickness, injuries, and other long term ailments can change the dynamics of your marriage. When this happens you have to adjust to having "A New Normal." In this episode we share how you have to re-learn all of your intimacies in light of changed circumstances. In your marriage that may mean figuring out new ways to be physically intimate, exploring different types of recreational intimacy or a renewed focus on spiritual intimacy. Look at these life changes as opportunities for growth rather than as obstacles blocking your path. What have you and your spouse done to connect during a extended sickness? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Aug 07, 2012
128: PLAYING ON THE SAME TEAM
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The wedding bells ring, you say your "I do's", and the honeymoon is bliss. You're married, the two of you have become ONE and yet you're not on the same TEAM. Shortly after that blissful day you find yourselves on opposite sides working against each other. You didn't expect this to happen in your marriage, yet it has. In this episode, we introduce you to another way to focus on your TEAM. Looking at each of these will enable you to tackle issues in your marriage with a plan. T - Talk: He said to them, “For whatever is hidden is meant to be disclosed, and whatever is concealed is meant to be brought out into the open. If anyone has ears to hear, let them hear.” Mark 4:22-23 E - Effort: As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without deeds is dead. James 2:26 A - Attitude: May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had... Romans 15:5 M - Motivation: Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not people... Ephesian 6:7 What will you do to be on the same TEAM with your spouse? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 31, 2012
127: ASK AND YOU SHALL RECEIVE
42:20
This past week we received an email from a listener asking why her husband won't come right out and ask for sex. There is cuddling, kissing, and yet he won't come out and ask for sex. Join Tony and Alisa as they talk about the fear of rejection, the different love languages in marriage and why it's so important to have conversations about sex before they grow into something larger. The 5 Love Languages (affiliate link via Amazon) Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 24, 2012
126: LAUGHTER FOR THE SOUL
40:14
As you sit in your living room laughing from the depth of your belly, tears rolling down your face, the world is left behind and all you see is your spouse smiling and laughing too. Both of you enjoying a moment that has pushed aside the emergencies of the day and allowed the two of you to enjoy one another. Laughter is beneficial in many ways. In your marriage laughter allows for you to let loose and have fun. Your endorphines, your body's natural feel good chemicals, are released and you never know where you might go from there. In this weeks show Tony and Alisa talk about how laughter hasn't been a big part of their marriage. They share their struggles with this and what they are doing to get some laughter back into their house. Heaven is for Real (Aff link) Things Not to Say to Your Wife by Tim Hawkins Sinbad Where You Been? (Marriage segment starts at 12:00 mark) Laughter is the Best Medicine What do you and your spouse do that makes both of you laugh? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 17, 2012
125: FANTASIZE WITH ME
38:47
It's natural to fantasize, but are you fantasizing about your spouse or someone else? Fantasies can be a great way to spice things up in your marriage by changing things up. The opposite side is that they can also tear down the foundations of your marriage. In this episode we share the bad and good of fantasies in our marriage and how you can have mind blowing sex when you approach fantasies the right way. Do you and your spouse have fantasies that you play out in your marriage? 4 E's to Live Your Marriage By - Don't miss the special bonus Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 10, 2012
124: JOINT OR SEPARATE CHECKING ACCOUNTS
42:32
What kind of checking account do you have? The truth is that finances are always going to be a part of your marriage and how you come to handle money will color many aspects of your married years. Each of us comes into marriage with financial baggage. Learning how to join that financial history together is one challenge that ALL married couples face. For us, the decision to have a joint account was indicative of our decision to be unified in all aspects of our marriage. For other, having separate accounts allows them to have more control over how money is spent. 15 Reasons Why You Should Have a Joint or Separate Checking Account Do you and your spouse have a joint account or choose to have separate accounts? Why? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jul 03, 2012
123: THE BATTLEFIELD
42:29
Men it's time! It's time to show your wife how much you honor and cherish her. In this world where battles are raging against marriage every minute of the day your wife needs to know that the two of you are on the battle field together. She needs to know that there is nothing that you wouldn't do for her. Make a decision that after God she is next on your list of priorities. Do it today! Ephesians 6:10-18 Stripped Down Small Group Podcast Series Are you on the battlefield with your spouse? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jun 19, 2012
122: SAY ONE THING DO ANOTHER
38:42
Many of us don't like confrontation. To avoid a confrontation we'll us different strategies. One of the most damaging is by saying one thing to our spouses with the full intention of doing something else. Instead of being honest with our spouse, we sabotage our marriage with these deceptions. This behavior requires us to expend so much more energy in trying to keep up pretenses then if we had just said the truth in the first place. It's time to draw that line in the sand and decide whether or not you are going to be a person that you can spouse can always count on. Blow Up My Marriage (Affiliate Link) 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jun 12, 2012
121: RESILIENCE
38:49
This week's podcast comes from our son and little league baseball. We're sure that many of you can relate to kids and their athletic endevours. Early in the season, his first season playing baseball, things were not going so well. He wanted to quit just like many of us want to do at times in our marriage. We asked his coach to talk to him about the problems he was facing on the ball field. His attitude changed, his playing changed and he was having a blast. Even though his game improved and that of his time they couldn't seem to get a win. In fact they only won 3 games out of 23 this season.  In every game, they continued to show up, continued to play hard and continued to believe that they could win. Why are we grown ups so quick to give up? Why are we so quick to throw in the towel? It's time we took a lesson from the kids and realized that if things aren't going well, if we desire a different outcome then we are going to have put forth some effort, we are going to have to work to overcome the challenges we are facing. Behind every happy couple lies to people... The Cure: What if God isn’t who you think He is and neither are you? 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jun 05, 2012
120: OH THE PLACES YOU’LL GO
30:02
Summer is here and it's time to add some adventure into your physical intimacy. This is a lighthearted look at many different places that you can have sex. Get out of your "comfort zone" and have some fun this summer. What places have you or would you like to make love? Share with us below. The Adoption Key Emergency Kit (video) 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
May 29, 2012
119: WHY CAN’T WE HAVE A BABY?
48:07
This weeks podcast is about finding your way back to intimacy after struggling for years with infertility. We share ideas that we have learned from friends of ours who have found intimacy in their marriage after years of struggling with infertility. When we started this episode our main goal is to give a voice to all of you who have struggled with infertility. The ONE community needs for you to share how you overcame your struggles with infertility. Speak up in the comments below. I Am Second - Scott Hamilton The Cure: What if God isn't who you think He is and neither are you? 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
May 22, 2012
118: GREAT EXPECTATIONS
40:06
Great expectations... All of us have them. The way we want things done, the way we want those in our life to do what we want and yet, it doesn't always turn out the way we want. What do we do then? Sometimes we lash out, sometimes we shut down, but really there has got to be a better way. What would it look like if you changed the way you communicated with your spouse? What would happen if you expressed your expectations? Big Question to Ask:  What is it about our marriage that is important to you? The Cure: What if God isn't who you think He is and neither are you? 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
May 15, 2012
117: WHERE IS GOD IN MY MARRIAGE
43:44
Who is at the center of your marriage? Have you thought about that. Really taken the time to sit down with your spouse and discuss who is at the center of your marriage. As we prepare for the 3rd annual 7 Days of Sex Challenge we are looking back at when we fully committed to letting Christ be the center of our marriage. It wasn't that long ago, but once we realized that neither one of us was the center lots of good things began to happen. This year we feel the gentle nudge from God to talk about spiritual intimacy as we enjoy the physical intimacy in our marriage. Commit to joining us for the 7 Days of Sex Challenge and be ready to bring God into your marriage and into your bedroom. 3rd Annual 7 Days of Sex Challenge I Am Second Lifetime 7 Days of Sex Episode 1 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
May 01, 2012
116: MAD, PASSIONATE, LOVE
40:24
You have a choice everyday to either have Mad, Passionate, Extraordinary Love or Mediocrity love. No where is it said or written that you have to "settle" for anything in your marriage. Just because you've been married for (insert years married here) years doesn't mean that you can't be crazy in love. Go have Mad, Passionate, Extraordinary Love today! 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and  it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 24, 2012
115: THE GRASS ISN’T ALWAYS GREENER
59:56
Over this last week we have heard from many couples that are struggling with emotional affairs, separation or even divorce. It's been frustrating for us to hear the lines spouses are saying during these times such as: You don't make me happy anymore. I don't think I have ever loved you. This other person is so much more in tuned with me. When one spouse is trying to justify the decisions that they are making it wreaks havoc for the marriage. Stop making excuses, have the conversations that you need to build your marriage and fight for it. 7 Days of Sex Challenge book launch - Friday April 20th, 2012 from 9am-11am PST on Ustream 3rd Annual 7 Days of Sex Challenge - Sunday May 6th - Saturday May 12th, 2012 Winning the Clutter War Intimacy & Desire Stephen Fishwick (painter) **NEW** Stripped Down Kindle Version Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 17, 2012
114: THE SIMPLE LIFE
42:17
Our house saga is finally coming to a close as we wrap up the short sale. Over the last 4 months we've had the opportunity to really think about those things that serve as a distraction to our marriage. Are you so wrapped up in work or with your friends that you forget to spend time with your spouse? Do the financial burdens cause worry and stress?  Are you holding back emotionally out of fear? It's time to simplify your life, to take stock of where you are and decide to make changes and grow. Winning the Clutter War **NEW** Stripped Down Kindle Version Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 10, 2012
113: WANDERING EYES
41:03
We've all done it, somebody walks across your path and you look. Then maybe you take another one or two looks. Unfortunately, most of the time our spouse catches us looking. This leads to feelings of inadequacy and insecurity in our marriage. We've been there! So what do you do? It's time to have those conversations about what you are feeling and begin the process of healing. The biggest gift you can give your spouse is the gift of making them #1 in your life. Smart Passive Income on Stitcher Radio **NEW** Stripped Down Kindle Edition Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Apr 03, 2012
112: FLAMES BURING BRIGHT
41:25
Love is an overused word in our society. We love ice cream and we love our spouses, but how did God really desire for us to love our spouses? There are three different types of love used in the bible: raya, ahava and dod. When we think of these as flames burning in our marriages we realize that we need to have all 3 burning bright to have that extraordinary marriage.  Where are the flames burning bright in your relationship. Flame Intimacy & Desire ONE Show on Stitcher Radio **NEW** Stripped Down Kindle Version Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Kindle Version today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 27, 2012
111: HIGH DESIRE, LOW DESIRE, WHAT ARE YOU
50:11
One of you wants sex all the time, one of you not so much-what's wrong with this picture? Nothing! You are just like the rest of us, dealing with differing levels of desire within your marriage. What's a couple to do? Spend some time today learning about high desire and low desire and it's impact on your marriage. Be aware that all couples face this and it impacts more than just what happens in the bedroom. There's nothing wrong with differing levels of desire, what can make or break your marriage is how you deal with this. Once you acknowledge the reality of differing desire you can learn to accept your spouse for who they are and create the marriage that you want with this information. Intimacy & Desire Not a Fan Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 20, 2012
110: TRUST
41:57
It hurts when someone violates our trust, especially when that someone is the person that we are married to. Building trust is not easy and it's not automatic either. Building trust requires both a husband and a wife to be willing to draw the line in the sand, the line that says, "I chose this person and I am going to make my marriage work". When both of you decide to give 100% into your marriage, hurts can be healed and relationships can be repaired. Are you willing to rebuild the trust in your marriage? Bo's Cafe Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Mar 06, 2012
109: HONORING THE VOW
38:34
What do your vows mean to you? In our society when everything seems disposable The Vow made us stop and wonder how would we handle a catastrophic incident in our marriage. Do the words "as long as life shall last" really mean that? And what about how God feels about us, there are powerful parallels between God's love for us and Leo's love for Paige. Tony & Alisa's renewing their vows on their 15th Wedding Anniversary  The Vow Movie Trailer Simple Natural Health Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 28, 2012
108: CAN YOU FOCUS NOW
45:38
When was the last time you sat with your spouse with nothing on. No TV, computer, phones, iPad or other electronics? In today's show Tony & Alisa discuss how turning all the electronics off is helping them to focus in on each other more. Their tips and ideas are to help you and your spouse connect on a deeper level while you engage in emotional intimacy. The problem is that when there are to many distractions around us we aren't focusing in on our spouse. This can lead to misunderstandings, confrontations, and a lack of "connection". It's time you turn everything off. Not a Fan Blow Up My Marriage Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 21, 2012
107: SPICE UP THE BEDROOM
44:32
Happy Valentine’s Day! So often our sexual intimacy follows the same old patterns until it becomes a habit instead of an experience. This Valentine’s Day message will help spice things up in your bedroom. It can be as easy as turning the lights on, opening your eyes, or finding a new location. The two of you could even incorporate games or foods. The sky’s the limit for you and your spouse when you open up and challenge each other! Start talking and praying about your sex life and see the changes that can happen! Intentional Moments Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 14, 2012
106: IMPACTING MARRIAGES
45:15
The ONE Extraordinary Marriage Conference was held in Okemos, MI. Tony and Alisa had a phenomenal time sharing their story and the importance of sexual intimacy in marriage. From singles to couples married 50+ years, there was something for everyone who wanted to make their marriage extraordinary. Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Feb 07, 2012
105: BOOM BOOM
45:48
A listener wrote in describing a week of sexual frustration. She shares that while she and her husband both verbalized their desire for sexual intimacy, it didn't happen for various reasons. So what do you do when you have a week or weeks when the connection isn't there? Tony &  Alisa have cycled through this same thing many times over the years. They share what you can do to make intimacy a priority each and every week. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Conference Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 31, 2012
104: RIGHT NOW
40:55
The future is not promised to you so what are you doing right now to make a difference in your marriage? You need to live in the present with your spouses, loving on them and sharing your life with them. You cannot live so focused on the future that you stop living today. Make the time RIGHT NOW to build up your marriage. Text the Romance Back Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 25, 2012
103: HOME IS WHERE THE HEART IS
41:46
Life throws us curve balls at times. Tony & Alisa are no exception. Based on circumstances Tony & Alisa are facing the start of 2012 with the realization that they need to short sale their home. In this episode they talk about the impact it is having on their marriage and their family. Through this they are relying on connecting in their financial, emotional, and physical intimacy. How do you work through hardships in your marriage? ONE Extraordinary Marriage Conference in Okemos, MI on Feb 3-4, 2012 Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 17, 2012
102: WILL YOU GO OUT WITH ME
43:25
Do you long to spend time with your spouse on a date night? Many of you have shared with us that the one thing you want to do this year is to have date nights. This week Tony & Alisa share 3 ways you can make sure that date nights or date days happen in your marriage while having a lot of fun. 300 Creative Dates Josh Turner - Would You Go With Me (Intro music) Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 10, 2012
101: OFF AND RUNNING
44:40
It's the start of a new year and now is the best time to take a good look at your marriage. Sit down with your spouse and examine all 6 forms of intimacy, evaluate where you are and where you want to go in 2012. Episode 101 Off and Running is a time of  reflection for us. We share where we have been over the last year, changes that have happened and a sneak peak of what we have planned for 2012. What intimacy or intimacies are you going to dive into this year? Family First Fitness Challenge Jesus Calling Not a Fan Bo's Cafe Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Jan 03, 2012
100: CELEBRATE GOOD TIMES
01:08:59
The ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast presents the 100th episode! This week Tony & Alisa share your stories. Your marriages have been impacted by the podcast, 7 Days of Sex Challenges, and other resources over the years that it was time to share your marriages. Thank you to all of you for your continues support. We look forward to many more shows. Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 20, 2011
099: DO YOU REALLY HAVE THE TIME
39:01
In light of watching He's Just Not That Into You and recent conversations with friends going through divorce we find ourselves asking the question... Do you really have the time to invest in another relationship? Whether it's another person, work, volunteering or addiction there are so many places we can find ourselves investing our time when we should be investing in our marriage. Take a minute and think about where you are spending your time...do you really have the time? BarlowGirl - I Need You to Love Me Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 13, 2011
098: COMING HOME
41:16
It's that time of year when we can get very wrapped up in all the "goings-on" and lose track of who we are. Now is the time to take stock of your marriage and make the changes necessary to make sure that you are coming home. Shop Amazon & support ONE Ready-to-go-Dates Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Dec 06, 2011
097: DO YOU HAVE A PLAN THIS CHRISTMAS
38:46
Christmas is right around the corner and this is a challenging time for couples in terms or finances. Last year, Alisa overspent shopping for everyone in the family. We are changing things up this year. In this episode we discuss working on your financial intimacy before you spend your money on gifts.  Give yourself the greatest gift this Christmas season, the gift of peace. Amazon.com 10-Life Changing Online Christmas Gifts for Married Couples Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 29, 2011
096: THANKFUL
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We've all had those weeks where absolutely nothing seems to go right, when it seems as if Murphy's Law is the only law in your house. That was our week and in the midst of all of that God's blessings continue to tumble forth. This week as you celebrate Thanksgiving take the time to let your spouse know what you are thankful for. Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663
Nov 22, 2011
095: ARE THOSE REAL?