Ellen Bass is a poet, non-fiction author, and teacher. She is the author of many collections and books including Like a Beggar, The Human Line, and Mules of Love. Ellen’s poems also appear frequently in The New Yorker, American Poetry Review, and many other journals. She’s been awarded three Pushcart Prizes, The Lambda Literary Award, The Pablo Neruda Prize, and The New Letters Prize. Ellen also teaches in the MFA Writing Program at Pacific University. Her newest collection of poetry is entitled Indigo. This is Ellen’s second time as a guest on the show.

In this episode, Ellen and Eric discuss the power of poetry – how it can change us and deepen our experience of and attention to the world around us. Ellen reads some of her incredibly beautiful poetry and as a result, we are indeed changed.

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In This Interview, Ellen Bass and I Discuss the Power of Poetry and…

• Her new book of poetry, Indigo
• How gratitude and love help her combat fear
• Her practice as a poet is to take suffering and make art
• The poem that took her 12 years to write
• That worthwhile things are hard to do – even for experts
• Wanting to be changed after writing or reading a poem
• Her poem, Taking My Old Dog Out To Pee Before Bed
• Her poem, Enough
• What she thinks about when she hears someone else read her poetry as well as how poetry is to be read and heard “out loud”
• Her poem, The Long Recovery
• Trying not to resist the life we have and instead, hurl ourself more deeply into it
• Great poets and their poetry teach us to observe the world more closely and see it as sacred and beautiful
• Her poem, Any Common Desolation

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Marilyn Nelson

Lisa Mosconi holds a PhD degree in Neuroscience and Nuclear Medicine and is a certified Integrative Nutritionist and holistic healthcare practitioner. At Weil Cornel Medical College in New York, she is the Director of the Women’s Brain Initiative in the Department of Neurology, Associate Director of the Alzheimer’s Prevention Clinic, and Associate Professor of Neuroscience in Neurology and Radiology. She has published over 100 peer-reviewed papers in prestigious medical journals and is the author of 2 books, both of which she and Eric discuss in this episode: Brain Food: The Surprising Science of Eating for Cognitive Power and The XX Brain: The Groundbreaking Science Empowering Women To Maximize Cognitive Health and Prevent Alzheimer’s Disease.

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Join Eric in this virtual, live group program to learn powerful Spiritual Habits to help you access your own deep wisdom and calm steadiness - even when the world feels upside down. Click here to learn more and sign up. Enrollment is open now through Sunday, July 19th, 2020

Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.

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In This Interview, Lisa Mosconi and I Discuss the Eating for Brain Health and…

• Her books, Brain Food: The Surprising Science of Eating for Cognitive Power and The XX Brain: The Groundbreaking Science Empowering Women To Maximize Cognitive Health and Prevent Alzheimer’s Disease
• How the foods we eat contribute to our brain health
• Neuronutrition: the science of how to nourish our brain via the foods we eat
• How in our health, genes load the gun but lifestyle pulls the trigger
• Foods you eat have an almost immediate impact on the health and function of your brain
• The damage that results to your brain from eating a Western diet
• The brain health benefits of a Mediterranean diet
• The importance of drinking water – especially to support your brain
• That the human brain is 80% water and therefore is very sensitive to dehydration
• The most important foods and nutrients for brain health
• The beneficial role in the brain of Omega 3 fatty acids in addition to antioxidants
• Nutritional benefit of whole foods vs supplements
• Detrimental nature of regular consumption of processed food
• That health should not be a privilege of the wealthy
• The energy production and protective roles of estrogen in the brain
• The unique properties of women’s health and women’s brains
• How to reduce your risk of Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of dementia through the foods you eat
• What women can do to support their brains  
• The detrimental nature of chronic stress on women’s brains

Lisa Mosconi Links:

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Jamia Wilson is a feminist activist, writer, and speaker. As director of the Feminist Press at the City University of New York and the former VP of programs at the Women’s Media Center, Jamia has been a leading voice on women’s rights issues for over a decade. Her work has appeared in numerous outlets, including the New York Times, the Today Show, CNN, Elle, BBC, Rookie, Refinery 29, Glamour, Teen Vogue, and The Washington Post. She is the author of Young, Gifted, and Black, the introduction and oral history in Together We Rise: Behind the Scenes at the Protest Heard Around the World, Step Into Your Power: 23 Lessons on How to Live Your Best Life, ABC’s of AOC, and the co-author of Road Map for Revolutionaries: Resistance, Advocacy, and Activism for All.

In this episode, Jamia and Eric discuss many aspects of how we can work to develop a deeper understanding of one another, specifically in the realm of racism. Through a path that involves deep listening, allyship and activism, we can find our way to a better world together.

The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.

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In This Interview, Jamia Wilson and I discuss Allyship, Activism, and…

• Her book, Road Map for Revolutionaries: Resistance, Advocacy, and Activism for All
• How to disagree with people and get comfortable with conflict
• Her experience with racism
• When it can be a mistake to give people the benefit of the doubt
• The way your lived experience can impact your worldview
• White Allyship
• Deep Listening
• The importance of involving the people closest to the problem when finding a solution
• White fragility
• The processes of learning and unlearning as lifelong processes
• Recognizing that we can have privilege in some areas and not in others
• A beginners guide to White Allyship
• Simple steps to take for local activism

Jamia Wilson Links:

jamiawilson.com

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Dr. James Gordon is an American author and psychiatrist known for mind-body medicine. Dr. Gordon is internationally recognized for using self-awareness, self-care, and group support to heal population-wide psychological trauma. He is the founder and executive director of The Center for Mind-Body Medicine as well as the director of Mind Body Studies and clinical professor at Georgetown Medical School at Georgetown University. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, The Transformation: Discovering Wholeness and Healing After Trauma.

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In This Interview, Dr. James Gordon and I Discuss Healing Trauma and…

• His book, The Transformation: Discovering Wholeness and Healing After Trauma
• The two common and dangerous misconceptions about psychological trauma
• That trauma comes to everyone sooner or later
• How everyone can access the path to healing after trauma
• Post Traumatic Transformation
• The antidote to the fight or flight response
• Ways to experience your own ability to shift feelings of anxiety to calm
• The best time to start healing trauma
• How to heal population-wide psychological trauma
• His wartime work of healing trauma
• Mind-body medicine
• Techniques and expressive meditation for healing trauma
• The role of drawing in dealing with trauma
• The wise guide technique for accessing wisdom and healing trauma

Dr. James Gordon Links:

The Center for Mind Body Medicine

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We’re re-releasing another episode this week as we continue to be in the midst of a crisis point of racial injustice here in the United States. Ruth King is another leading voice on this important issue and we hope that you find wisdom and healing in her words.

We hope you’ll take some time to pause, listen to what she has to say, and consider the ways in which you might take some action to further healing and justice at whatever scope and scale you are able. 

To that end, we’ve created a small resource guide to point you in a few directions that we think might be helpful as you look to further educate yourself on what action steps to take. 

Donate to or get involved with:

Southern Poverty Law Center- The Southern Poverty Law Center is dedicated to fighting hate and bigotry and to seeking justice for the most vulnerable members of our society. Using litigation, education, and other forms of advocacy, the SPLC works toward the day when the ideals of equal justice and equal opportunity will be a reality. https://www.splcenter.org/  

NAACP Legal Defense Fund- The NAACP Legal Defense and Educational Fund, Inc. is America’s premier legal organization fighting for racial justice. Through litigation, advocacy, and public education, LDF seeks structural changes to expand democracy, eliminate disparities, and achieve racial justice in a society that fulfills the promise of equality for all Americans. https://www.naacpldf.org/

Campaign Zero- Funds donated to Campaign Zero support the analysis of policing practices across the country, research to identify effective solutions to end police violence, technical assistance to organizers leading police accountability campaigns and the development of model legislation and advocacy to end police violence nationwide. https://www.joincampaignzero.org/

Ideas of other ways to get involved:

Sign the petition for George Floyd- Yes millions have signed and so can you.- https://www.change.org/p/mayor-jacob-frey-justice-for-george-floyd

I found this to be a great article that had lot’s of action to take- 75 Things White People Can Do for Racial Justice

So many of the changes we need to see regarding police brutality have to happen at the local level. That is good news because it’s easier to get involved and have more impact. This page has Campaign Zero’s list of issues by city and state:

There are so many books out there but here are some books that come highly recommended:

“White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk about Racism” by Robin DiAngelo

“How to Be an Antiracist” by Ibram X. Kendi

“Biased: Uncovering the Hidden Prejudice That Shapes What We See, Think, and Do” by Jennifer L. Eberhardt 

“Raising White Kids” by Jennifer Harvey 

“So You Want to Talk About Race” by Ijeoma Oluo 

“The Black and the Blue: A Cop Reveals the Crimes, Racism, and Injustice in America’s Law Enforcement” by Matthew Horace and Ron Harris 

“The Fire Next Time” by James Baldwin

“Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race” by Reni Eddo-Lodge

“They Can’t Kill Us All: Ferguson, Baltimore, And A New Era In America’s Racial Justice Movement” by Wesley Lowery

“The Third Reconstruction: How a Moral Movement Is Overcoming the Politics of Division and Fear” by Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove and William Barber II

“Between the World and Me” by Ta-Nehisi Coates

“Stamped: Racism, Antiracism, and You” by Jason Reynolds and Ibram X. Kendi

“The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness” by Michelle Alexander

The End of Policing- Alex S. Vitale (free book)

In This Interview, Ruth King and I Discuss Healing Racism and …

• Her book, Mindful of Race: Transforming Racism From The Inside Out
• The value of being curious about the good and bad wolves inside of us
• Racism being a heart disease that is curable
• Her open heart surgery at the age of 27
• Rage being an exit route
• Rage being energy moving through the body
• Habitual patterns of racism being a layer on top of the real issue that we can’t tolerate – they are defense mechanisms
• Racial affinity groups
• 6 hindrances
• The structure of racism
• Racism vs Prejudice
• Racist vs Racism
• Understanding our own experience with racism and talking about it
• What it’s like to be “membered”
• Individual vs group identity
• Diversity within the body of color

Ruth King Links

Ruthking.net

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Austin Channing Brown is a writer, speaker, and practitioner who helps schools, nonprofits, and religious organizations practice genuine inclusion. She is passionate about the advancement of racial justice and reconciliation and her words will most certainly move you to action. In her work, she shares her experiences as a black woman who “navigates whiteness on a regular basis”. After listening to this interview and reading her book, your mind and heart will be broadened towards understanding and inclusion – regardless of where you are on that spectrum today. 

We’re re-releasing this episode because as we’re in the midst of a crisis point of racial injustice here in the United States, Austin Channing Brown is a leading voice on racial justice and her wisdom and perspective can benefit us all. 

We hope you’ll take some time to pause, listen to what she has to say, and consider the ways in which you might take some action to further healing and justice at whatever scope and scale you are able. 

To that end, we’ve created a small resource guide to point you in a few directions that we think might be helpful as you look to further educate yourself on what action steps to take. 

Donate to or get involved with:

Southern Poverty Law Center- The Southern Poverty Law Center is dedicated to fighting hate and bigotry and to seeking justice for the most vulnerable members of our society. Using litigation, education, and other forms of advocacy, the SPLC works toward the day when the ideals of equal justice and equal opportunity will be a reality. https://www.splcenter.org

NAACP Legal Defense Fund- –https://www.naacpldf.org/–  The NAACP Legal Defense and Educational Fund, Inc. is America’s premier legal organization fighting for racial justice. Through litigation, advocacy, and public education, LDF seeks structural changes to expand democracy, eliminate disparities, and achieve racial justice in a society that fulfills the promise of equality for all Americans. 

Campaign Zero- https://www.joincampaignzero.org/– Funds donated to Campaign Zero support the analysis of policing practices across the country, research to identify effective solutions to end police violence, technical assistance to organizers leading police accountability campaigns and the development of model legislation and advocacy to end police violence nationwide.

Ideas of other ways to get involved:

Sign the petition for George Floyd- Yes millions have signed and so can you.

75 Things White People Can Do for Racial Justice

So many of the changes we need to see regarding police brutality have to happen at the local level. That is good news because it’s easier to get involved and have moe impact. This page has Campaign Zero’s list of issues by city and state:

There are so many books out there but here are some books that come highly recommended:

“White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk about Racism” by Robin DiAngelo

“How to Be an Antiracist” by Ibram X. Kendi

“Biased: Uncovering the Hidden Prejudice That Shapes What We See, Think, and Do” by Jennifer L. Eberhardt 

“Raising White Kids” by Jennifer Harvey 

“So You Want to Talk About Race” by Ijeoma Oluo 

“The Black and the Blue: A Cop Reveals the Crimes, Racism, and Injustice in America’s Law Enforcement” by Matthew Horace and Ron Harris 

“The Fire Next Time” by James Baldwin

“Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race” by Reni Eddo-Lodge

“They Can’t Kill Us All: Ferguson, Baltimore, And A New Era In America’s Racial Justice Movement” by Wesley Lowery

“The Third Reconstruction: How a Moral Movement Is Overcoming the Politics of Division and Fear” by Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove and William Barber II

“Between the World and Me” by Ta-Nehisi Coates

“Stamped: Racism, Antiracism, and You” by Jason Reynolds and Ibram X. Kendi

“The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness” by Michelle Alexander

In This Interview, Austin Channing Brown and I Discuss Racial Justice and…

• Her book, I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in A World Made for Whiteness
• The importance and value of anger
• How we can fight the monsters without becoming the monsters
• That anger reveals something is wrong
• White fragility – sadness and anger
• Naming the things that can come in the way of a discussion, before the discussion happens
• Realising racial bias
• Transformation comes after a moment of realization
• The idea of “whiteness being normal”
• Books to read to gain an understanding of racial injustice
• Disunity in Christ
• Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?: And Other Conversations About Race
• How to look for opportunities to talk with others about topics of racial injustice
• Check out “Be the Bridge”
• The white confessional being a shortcut to true reconciliation
• Skipping the confessional story and moving straight to the action step you’ll take next
• What reconciliation means to her
• Racial justice and reconciliation
• Radical Reconciliation
• How reconciliation should revolutionize the relationships we have with each other
• The celebration of blackness that is throughout the book
• Cultural misappropriation

Austin Channing Brown Links

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Nir Eyal is an author whose writing on technology, psychology, and business has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, The Atlantic, Psychology Today, and many other renowned publications. Previously, he taught as a Lecturer in Marketing at the Stanford Graduate School of Business and Design School. In this episode, Nir and Eric discuss his new book, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life. 

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.

Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.

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In This Interview, Nir Eyal and I discuss Becoming Indistractable and…

• His book, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life
• How what we pay attention to determines our quality of life
• The importance of being in control of how you spend your time and attention in life
• When it comes to being distracted, there are the blamers, the shamers, and the claimers
• That the root cause of distraction is uncomfortable sensations
• Time management is pain management
• How you can’t stop emotions but you can respond to them
• The 4 key steps of becoming indistractable
• Traction and Dis-traction
• How anything can become a distraction
• That you can’t call something a distraction unless you know what you are distracted from
• The tyranny of the to-do list
• Deciding with intent when you’re going to do something
• Timeboxing
• Mastering our internal triggers: Learning to work with our uncomfortable emotions
• The 3 reasons we get distracted
• The antidote to impulsive behavior
• Using an identity to help us become indistractable

Nir Eyal Links:

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Laura McKowen is an author, award winning blogger and host of Spiritualish, a show that provides an irreverent take on self help. She has been featured on WebMD, the New York Post, Bravo, the Today Show, and more. Laura also hosts sold out retreats and courses teaching people to say Yes to a bigger life. In this episode, she and Eric discuss her newest book, “We are the Luckiest, the Surprising Magic of a Sober Lfie”

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.

Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.

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In This Interview, Laura McKowen and I Discuss the Magic of Being Sober and…

• Her book, We Are the Luckiest: The Surprising Magic of a Sober Life
• Addiction isn’t about will power or being bad
• How we as humans are “magnificent monsters” in that we all have light and dark inside of us
• Being in a liminal space is where transformation takes place.  
• Looking at challenging times and asking “What is this trying to teach me?”
• Embracing the mystery of not knowing
• How addiction demands everything
• Having a “split mind” – the conflict of wanting to drink and knowing that you shouldn’t
• The cognitive dissonance between who we think we are and what we’re doing
• Being afraid of how you’ll feel when you’re not drinking
• Understanding that sobriety gets better, then it gets worse, then it’s different
• Her experience with AA and the positive and negative aspects of this recovery program
• The importance of dealing with the physical body in recovery
• The fear of “aloneness” and not having a home within ourselves 
• Dealing with the ongoing struggle and need to be fixed or saved by someone
• Learning to not being afraid of herself and starting to build self esteem and dignity

Laura McKowen Links:

lauramckowen.com

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Scott Barry Kaufman is a cognitive scientist interested in the development of intelligence, creativity, and personality. He applies a variety of perspectives to come to a richer understanding and appreciation of all kinds of minds and ways of achieving greatness. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, Transcend: The New Science of Self Actualization. They discuss many ways in which we can go beyond coping and, instead, set our sights a bit higher to thrive in our day to day life, regardless of the circumstances. Scott Barry Kaufman shows us how the ordinary life is always, at its heart, the extraordinary life.

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.

But wait - there's more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It's that simple and we'll give you good stuff as a thank you! 

In This Interview, Scott Barry Kaufman and I discuss Living a Transcendent Life and…

• His book, Transcend: The New Science of Self Actualization
• That the way you frame a question can influence how you feel
• How to take the leap towards growth so that your focus is no longer on simply coping
• The idea of spending our days in transcendent ways 
• What it means to cope
• The detrimental path of Experiential Avoidance 
• The importance of integrating everything that’s happening right now within yourself
• How to view your personal growth opportunities while others are suffering
• The difference between those who are creative amidst uncertainty and those who struggle to be creative in the same conditions
• Being open to embracing new experiences by letting go of the need for control
• Going right to the heart of the fears that you have so that you can make peace with them
• That we don’t grow all at once and in a linear way

Scott Barry Kaufman Links:

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YouTube Channel

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Sue Monk Kidd was raised in the small town of Sylvester, Georgia, a place that deeply influenced the writing of her first novel, The Secret Life of Bees. Her 1990 book, When the Heart Waits, has become a touchstone on contemplative spirituality. Sue serves on the Writers Council for Poets & Writers, Inc and is well known for her work in feminist theology. Her new book is a novel called, The Book of Longings.  

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

For a free video in which Eric teaches you 3 perspectives you can take to help you navigate these challenging times, go to www.spiritualhabits.net

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In This Interview, Sue Monk Kidd and I discuss Longings of our Heart and…

• Her book, The Book of Longings
• That what you pay attention to will either devour you or save you because we become what we pay attention to
• The particular genius that dwells in every person
• How she first decided that she wanted to write fiction when she was in her 40s
• Asking the prayer that’s at the bottom of your heart
• How being visible and being audible in the world is a choice to express the largeness that’s inside each of us
• That we can nurture the largeness in another person, even if the largeness is inconvenient for us
• God as an essence that lives everywhere, the being-ness in our midst
• The many ways we conceptualize and thereby connect with God
• Why suffering results in increased kindness in some while it hardens others
• The role of vulnerability in our personal growth
• When her therapist told her that the pain won’t kill you but the running from it might.
• What it means to “let life be” when both beautiful and terrible things happen
• Radical acceptance
• How the path to healing is right through the wound
• Facing our pain so our soul can metabolize it and we can move through it and move on
• What it means to be a mother beyond having actual children
• The middle places in life where the waiting and the work happens
• Her writing process
• The silence beneath her words
• Her life as a prayer
• How letting go is not a one-time thing
• That life is like a spiral

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Henry Shukman is a poet, writer, and Associate Zen Master who lives in New Mexico where he teaches at Mountain Cloud Zen Center. He has published eight books to date of fiction, poetry, and non-fiction. He writes regularly for Tricycle, The New York Times, and other publications. In this episode, Eric and Henry discuss his beautifully written book, One Blade of Grass: Finding the Old Road of the Heart, a Zen Memoir.

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.

Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.

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In This Interview, Henry Shukman and I discuss Paths of Spiritual Awakening and…

• His book, One Blade of Grass: Finding the Old Road of the Heart, a Zen Memoir
• How to work with the 3 poisons that we all have: Greed, Ill Will, Delusion
• Opening up to pain (rather than turning away from it) so that we can heal
• His experience with dysthymia 
• The awakening experiences he has had in his life
• Learning how to be with his pain and wounds in order to heal
• A major myth of meditation
• How he knew he was ready to work with a spiritual teacher
• His realization that awakening experiences are doorways and we must then step onto the paths they open up to in order to continue our spiritual growth
• The value of community in spiritual growth
• The trouble with thinking you have to do things alone
• Discovering for ourselves the deep experience of the ordinary moments of our lives
• The wisdom of cherishing the normal and finding beauty in ordinary things
• Poetry as the practice of paying very close attention to things
• The different levels of love

Henry Shukman Links:

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Many of us are staying at home right now because of the COVID-19 pandemic and if you live with people, chances are you have had moments of feeling irritated, frustrated, or annoyed as a result of being cooped up in close quarters together. This special episode has all-new interviews with 5 previous guests of the show, each offering you tips to help you navigate the difficult feelings and situations that come with spending so much time at home with loved ones. The guests of this special episode are Susan Piver, Lodro Rinzler, Rosalind Wiseman, Ralph De La Rosa, Rick Hanson

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

You can also access a free video in which Eric teaches you 3 perspectives you can take to help you navigate these challenging times by going to www.spiritualhabits.net

In This Episode, We discuss Tips for Living in Close Quarters and…

• That we are all subject to unbidden moods in these circumstances
• How to grow closer through experiencing the ups and downs together
• Resisting the urge to solve the “problem” of difficult feelings
• To be with each other we need to be comfortable being with ourselves
• Strategies to help you avoid snapping at your loved ones 
• Turning towards your feelings rather than your thoughts 
• How we’re face to face with our own minds right now
• Feeling what we feel without judgment and without a storyline
• What to do when you feel highly triggered 
• The simple question we can ask ourselves before acting on a feeling
• What to do to prepare before having a difficult conversation with someone you live with
• How humor can help
• Ways to cultivate a warmer heart
• That listening is being prepared to be changed by what you hear
• A helpful structure for family or household meetings
• How we can prepare for difficult emotional experiences
• Taking ownership of our own emotions
• How to relate to our irritation
• Remembering the people you live with are suffering, too
• The phrase, “Like me, you, too, ____”
• How to reduce the way we take things personally
• The neuroscience of why tuning into internal bodily sensations works
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Ralph De La Rosa

Rick Hanson

Dr. Christian Conte is one of the country’s most accomplished mental health specialists in the field of anger and emotional management. He specializes in working in the prison system with people convicted of violent crimes. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, Walking Through Anger: A New Design for Confronting Conflict in an Emotionally Charged World. If this conversation about radical anger management rubs you the wrong way in the beginning, we invite you to get curious about your reaction and stay with the conversation – you may feel and think differently by the end of the episode.

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.

Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.

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In This Interview, Christian Conte and I discuss Radical Anger Management and…

• His book, Walking Through Anger: A New Design for Confronting Conflict in an Emotionally Charged World
• Working with our own anger 
• The relationship between our ego and our anger
• Anger management
• That our expectations influence our experience of the world
• Hindsight bias
• How anger is a wonderful motivator
• That if we loosen our grip on being right, we can humble ourselves to receive other perspectives
• The metaphor of only being able to see one side of the box
• Switching to a position of curiosity 
• That certainty is an emotion, not a cognition
• Leading humility and curiosity lessens the intensity of a situation
• By saying, “here’s what I’m seeing, please teach me about what you’re seeing”, you can change the energy of the conversation
• How we can drain our own limbic system in the midst of feeling angry
• What it means that our mind wants to match our body
• Why he recommends that we go to bed angry (instead of following the old adage that says otherwise)
• That when we understand something intellectually, we think we’ve mastered putting it into practice in our lives
• That extreme language produces extreme emotions
• How we’re not disturbed by things – we’re disturbed by our view of things
• That certainty is at the heart of a lot of anger

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You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

In this mini episode, Eric shares helpful advice and many suggestions on how to deal with strong emotions during this global pandemic. He also offers a hopeful message about the personal growth that can come from such challenges.

• Allow yourself to be where you are
• Lower your expectations if you need to
• Be kinder to yourself and practice self compassion (see Kristin Neff episode)
• Journaling can be a helpful practice
• Post traumatic growth - turning adversity into something better
• Allowing ourselves to explore thoughts and feelings can help not only cope, but create meaning in our lives
• 7 areas of growth that can come from adversity
• The importance of routine and structure in our days

Mark Nepo is a poet, philosopher and cancer survivor who has taught in the fields of poetry, health, and spirituality for 40 years. Mark is a New York Times #1 selling author who has published numerous books and audio projects. In this episode, Eric and Mark discuss his book, The Book of Soul: 52 Paths to Living What Matters. This episode is a tonic to the suffering that we are facing right now in the midst of a pandemic. This conversation offers some of the most liberating wisdom that, when connected to, releases us from the grip of fear so that we are living from a place of presence, peace, and connecting to what matters. 

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.

Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.

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In This Interview, Mark Nepo and I discuss Connecting to What Matters and…

• His new book, The Book of Soul: 52 Paths to Living What Matters
• The value in cooperating, listening and working with things (rather than trying to bend them to our will)
• That “sin”, as literally translated, is the same as “opaque” or, “not seeing”
• That when we lose sight of the vastness to which we belong, succumbing to our narrow condition, we paint everything with the color of our trouble
• How the surface of the ocean is what’s choppy and as we go down below the surface, we connect with the depth that is less tumultuous
• “Rightsizing” our perspective on troubles by putting them in a larger perspective of vastness and wholeness
• How to move at the pace of what is real: synchronizing the moving pace of mind, heart, and body 
• That the power of reading out loud is like the difference between reading sheet music and hearing it in our heads vs. actually playing the music
• That we meditate not to be great meditators, but to be clear vessels
• How we’ve become “addicted to the noise of things falling apart”
• That things are always simultaneously falling apart and coming together
• We are challenged to honor what we’re going through while at the same time remembering that what we’re going through doesn’t define us
• Asking “What is actually happening?” so we might identify right action
• Waiting for the cloud of fear to pass so that you can decipher what is actually dangerous 
• How in the modern world we have catastrophized our relationship to the unknown
• That the unknown can produce love and beauty just as it can produce difficulty and hardships
• The truth that there is no “there”, there’s only “here”
• That often, when you can’t leave a difficult situation, you realize that everything you need is right here
• The menacing assumption that life is somewhere other than where we are
• That out of fear, we make a god of survival. But without thriving, what’s the point?

Mark Nepo Links:

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Adreanna Limbach is a head-teacher at MNDFL Meditation Studios in New York City. Adreanna’s work has been featured in the New York Times, Women’s Health, Refinery 29, and Yoga Journal. Her new book is, Tea and Cake with Demons: A Buddhist Guide to Feeling Worthy. In this episode, Adreanna and Eric talk about how to be more skillful in the ways in which we relate to our “demons” – in other words, how we can go about befriending difficult feelings. 

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.

Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.

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In This Interview, Adreanna Limbach and I discuss Befriending our Difficult Feelings and…

• Her book, Tea and Cake with Demons: A Buddhist Guide to Feeling Worthy
• How difficult it was for her to write her book
• How hard it is to create anything
• The value of tenacity
• The story her book is based on
• How our demons, or difficult feelings, can be very personal but they all look a lot alike
• The unskillful ways that we deal with our difficult feelings
• Asking our demons “what do you have to teach me?”
• How questions open things while answers shut them down
• Identifying your “exit” when you’re feeling uncomfortable in your own skin
• The 4 Noble Truths of Buddhism

Adreanna Limbach Links:

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So many of us are feeling angry for a myriad of reasons amidst the COVID-19 pandemic. To help us better understand and work with our anger, Eric reached out to several previous guests of the show to ask them if they would be willing to talk with him for a special edition of The One You Feed Podcast about anger. They all generously agreed at a moment’s notice and this episode featuring 4 “mini-interviews” is the result. These are all new conversations with previous guests, Rick Hanson, Hillary Jacobs Handel, Ruth King, and David Richo.

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

In This Episode, We discuss How to Work with Anger and…

• That anger is a natural and normal response
• Utilizing anger rather than letting anger utilize us
• How anger can feel good in the moment but it corrodes over time
• Finding peace when confronted with the truth of uncertainty
• Mindfully noticing and naming our anger
• Anger being triggered by perceived danger and it readies us for a fight
• The danger of blocking our anger
• That we feel anger as energy that wants to get out
• Using fantasy to release the energy of anger 
• When calm, making a list of “state-changers” for yourself
• Noticing our coping strategies in the face of things we can’t control
• The critical choice of what to do with the energy of anger
• Being informed by our anger instead of reacting out of it
• Channeling the energy in constructive ways rather than damaging ways
• Getting curious about what the anger is trying to tell us – rather than focusing on what it’s saying about other people
• Getting fiercely clear about rather than ablaze in the fire of our anger
• When we’re in the anger, we lose touch with how it’s impacting our bodies
• Setting the intention of doing no harm 
• That fear is often underneath anger
• Not acting out of anger because it can be abusive

Links to Other Episodes:

Rick Hanson

Hillary Jacobs Handel

Ruth King

David Richo

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

As the COVID-19 pandemic intensified earlier this week, Eric reached out to several previous guests of the show to ask them if they would be willing to talk with him for two special edition episodes of The One You Feed Podcast. They all generously agreed at a moment’s notice and this episode is the second of those two episodes. These mini-interviews are with 6 leaders in the realms of mental health and spirituality. Eric talks with each of them about how to deal with difficult thoughts and offers practical strategies for emotional health during these challenging times. These are all new conversations with previous guests, Parker Palmer, Mirabai Starr, Lewis Howes, Steven C. Hayes, Scott Stabile, and Sharon Salzberg.

In This Special Episode, We discuss Strategies for Emotional Health and…

• Turning our attention to those who are vulnerable and need our help
• The connection between anxiety and uncertainty
• Accepting the truth that there are many things we cannot control
• Being attentive to what we can control
• How reflecting on and learning from suffering can be therapeutic
• That dissolution is a good thing: You’ve lost an illusion and you’re that much closer to reality
• How to abide in a space of not knowing
• The paradox of actively helping the situation by doing less, staying put and slowing down
• Reorienting to what we really need vs. our tendencies towards overconsumption
• How to be mindful and Feed Our Good Wolf during a time of crisis
• That constantly seeing crisis media alerts is like seeing a car crash every 2 minutes – we benefit from placing boundaries on how often we consume media coverage 
• Creating meaning amidst suffering
• How psychological flexibility can help us move through difficulty
• How to move through a crisis so that you come out of it with post-traumatic growth
• Ways to work with your anger towards others during this crisis
• Ways to work with your fear about this crisis
• The helpful pillars of self-care that can really support us in crisis
• Looking for ourself in others to bring empathy 
• What it means to connect to our hearts and souls
• The importance of giving yourself grace and forgiveness during a crisis
• How loving-kindness meditation can help us
• How staying home can mimic the effects of a reflective retreat
• A guided meditation from Sharon Salzberg

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Mirabai Starr

Lewis Howes

Steven C. Hayes

Scott Stabile

Sharon Salzberg

As the COVID-19 pandemic intensified earlier this week, Eric reached out to several previous guests of the show to ask them if they would be willing to talk with him for a special edition of The One You Feed Podcast. They all generously agreed at a moment’s notice and this episode is the result. These mini-interviews are with 4 experts on the subject of human behavior and Eric talks with each of them about how we might go about structuring our time, environment and mindset on living and working from home. These are all new conversations with previous guests, David Kadavy Charlie Gilkey, Chris Bailey, and Liz Fosslien

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help

In This Episode, We discuss…

• How to set boundaries for yourself in your time, space, and mind
• The Pomodoro Method
• Ways to divide your physical space for work
• Setting up mental boundaries to get into and out of a work mindset
• Misdiagnosing distractions when they’re actually challenges of competing priorities
• Pre-work, lunchtime, and post-work routines
• Making your environment work for you
• That your environment matters more than your willpower over the long term
• How to be productive while in crisis mode
• Replacing your commute-to-work time with self-care activities
• Best practices for consuming the news while working from home
• How it’s ok to feel feelings during this difficult time
• Best practices for managing people 
• Deciding the next day’s priorities at the end of the previous day
• Not letting praise be something that gets lost while working virtually
• Emotionally proof-reading your messages before sending

Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor at The University of Texas at Austin’s Department of Educational Psychology. With her partner Chris Germer, she has developed an empirically-supported training program called Mindful Self-Compassion that is taught by thousands of teachers worldwide. She co-authored The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook as well as the book, Teaching the Mindful Self Compassion Program: A Guide For Professionals. In this episode, Kristin and Eric dive into the topic of self-compassion and discuss what it is and isn’t. Kristin also shares how to practice self compassion as well as leads listerns through a self-compassion practice. 

The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.

Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.

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In This Interview, Kristin Neff and I discuss Self Compassion and…

• Her book, The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook
• That what we practice grows stronger
• The science of contemplative practice
• What self-compassion is
• Treating yourself with the same kindness you’d show to a dear friend 
• Starting with mindfulness
• The connectedness of compassion 
• The fact that we suffer unites us as human beings
• Quintessential question, “What do I need?”
• Myths of self-compassion and how it is a powerful antidote to shame
• The Inner Ally vs. Inner Enemy
• Constructive self-criticism
• How to practice and the physiology of self compassion.
• The self-compassion break 
• Why and how self-criticism harms us

Kristin Neff Links:

selfcompassion.org

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Eric talks about how to best deal with fear during these uncertain times

Norman Fischer is a poet, author, Zen Buddhist teacher and priest. He’s a graduate of Iowa’s Writer’s Workshop and he’s been publishing poetry since 1979. He’s the author of 17 books of poetry, 6 books of prose on Zen and religion as well as numerous articles and essays. In this episode, Eric and Norman discuss his book, The World Could Be Otherwise: Imagination and the Bodhisattva Path.

If you are interested in learning more about how to integrate and embody spiritual principles into the moments of your daily life, Eric teaches people how to do just that in his 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. Click here to learn more.

Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.

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In This Interview, Norman Fischer and I discuss Spiritual Growth through Imagination and…

• His book, The World Could Be Otherwise: Imagination and the Bodhisattva Path
• Redefining imagination and discovering it’s prevalence and role in life
• The role of imagination in spiritual paths
• How we don’t see the world exactly as it is, but rather through filters
• Loosening our grasp on what we think of as absolute reality
• Constructing useful stories in our mind rather than living by our default stories
• The essential ways in which imagination enriches the experience of our lives
• When we realize we are making our lives for ourselves, we have the power to make it differently
• The Bodhisattva: A Buddha in training
• Compassion, Love and Service for the benefit of others
• The Bodhisattva Path
• The myth of separateness and the truth of interconnection and love
• That holding two (seemingly contradictory) ideas in our mind at one time offers us depth perception
• How ideals can inspire us rather than put pressure on us
• The disease of perfectionism
• How to engage in “Joyful Effort” when you don’t feel very joyful and don’t have much effort to spare
• Patience: Just keep going and be of benefit to others
• Turning toward what’s arising: facing it, embracing it, breathing into it and going forward with it
• The problematic nature of favoring one’s own suffering over the suffering of others

Norman Fischer Links:

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Poems by Norman Fischer

Essays by Norman Fischer

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Kamla Kapur is an award winning author, poet and playwright. She was born and raised in India and studied in the United States. Kamla now divides her time between living in the remote Indian Himalayas and in San Diego, California with her husband. She holds a Master’s Degree in Literature from Kent State University in Ohio and she studied Creative Writing at the University of Iowa. Kamla was on the faculty of Grossmont College in San Diego for 18 years and her stories, poems, and plays have been published in many prestigious Indian and American journals. In this episode, she and Eric use her new book, Rumi: Tales of the Spirit: A Journey to Healing the Heart, as a jumping off point to discuss the transformative powers we experience through various life experiences.

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In This Interview, Kamla Kapur and I discuss Transformative Powers in Life and…

• Her book, Rumi: Tales of the Spirit: A Journey to Healing the Heart
• The deep wound to Rumi’s heart that transformed him and brought forth his treasured body of work that we now know and love
• How suffering can be our greatest tutor and guide in life
• The idea of expansion and contraction in our lives
• That when your heart breaks, it breaks open 
• How suffering can open us up to being more aware and connected to our higher selves
• That those who transform as a result of their suffering are open to a different way of thinking as a result of the difficult things that happen to them
• The transformative powers of hope, joy, and love
• Rumi’s stories of characters embracing suffering
• How all suffering has the power to awaken us
• The transformative power of suffering
• The transformative power of acceptance
• How Rumi says, “When the candle of your youth dims, you have to light the candle of the spirit.” 
• Actively ascending to our aging
• The awe and wonder of existence and the mystery of life that we as humans can perceive

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Ryan Oelke is the co-founder of Buddhist Geeks and is the founder of Awakening In Life. Ryan is a meditation teacher with an MS.Ed. in Counseling Psychology and has 18 years of experience in meditation. He is also a certified teacher in Judith Blackstone’s Realization Process. In this episode, Ryan and Eric discuss using Radical Curiosity and embodying our experiences to Awaken In Life.

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In This Interview, Ryan Oelke and I discuss Awakening in Life and…

• Practicing Radical Curiosity
• Coming home to yourself as you are in this moment
• Being radically open to what is happening to fully see it
• How nothing collapses consciousness faster than judgment
• How being curious implies being engaged with the subject matter
• Awakening in Life
• Life as the opportunity to awaken
• Ways to integrate spiritual principles into the moments of our life
• Cultivating capacity through formal practice
• How to use the little moments that might otherwise be “thrown away” during the day
• That focusing on embodying our experience enables it to become more deeply our own
• How awakening in life is a responsive, integral path
• A prescriptive path/model vs. a responsive path/model
• Having a deep trust in your own experience 
• Metta Dharma
• That the entire point of waking up in life could be to have an appropriate response.

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Stephen Mitchell is an author and translator who has dedicated much of his life to Zen practice. Eric and Stephen have an in depth discussion about the questioning mind as well as his work of translating many famous texts, including the Tao Te Ching, Bhagavad Gita, and Rilke’s “Letters To a Young Poet”. Stephen has also co-authored many books with his wife, Byron Katie, who is a former guest on the show. 

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In This Interview, Stephen Mitchell and I Discuss the Questioning Mind and…

• The parable: how reality cannot be broken into good or bad, it’s just what is.
• When authentic action that is true to yourself becomes second nature, it’s an expression of your own reality.
• His wife Katie’s words, “when we believe our thoughts, we suffer; when we question our thoughts, we don’t.”
• Suffering can end when we awaken to the truth
• Distinguishing between pain, a physical phenomenon, and suffering, a mental phenomenon
• Suffering often comes from being stuck in an imagined past or imagined future
• His translation of the Heart Sutra that is about openness rather than emptiness
• The “don’t know” or questioning mind and how it doesn’t get stuck in judgement
• Being immersed in an intense formal Zen practice for 7 years
• His Koan studies that helped him get to a state of stillness and learn to hold the questioning mind without any content.
• Defining Koan studies as an existential problem meant to catapult the student into a space of questioning.  
• If you can rest in that space of not knowing, the answer will present itself to you.
• The mind’s relationship with it’s contents
• Difference between the mind and what it thinks.
• We don’t suffer because of what happens to us, but rather how we think about what happens to us.
• Self inquiry and asking yourself the question, “Is it true”?
• How he learns the language of the text he’s translating.
• His work of translating is more than just learning the meaning of words, but also the music of the words.
• When translating text, his allegiance is to the spirit of the text and not just the literal meaning of the text.
• Joseph and the Way of Forgiveness: A Biblical Tale Retold is discussed in the post show conversation.

Stephen Mitchell Links:

stephenmitchellbooks.com

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Gretchen Rubin is one of today’s most influential and thought-provoking observers of happiness and human nature. Gretchen is known for her ability to distill and convey complex ideas with humor and clarity in a way that’s accessible to a wide audience. She is the author of many books which have sold over 3.5 million copies worldwide in more than 30 languages. She also has an award-winning podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin. In this episode, Eric and Gretchen talk about how being strategic and smart about the ways we approach our habits and behavior can radically impact our likelihood of success.

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In This Interview, Gretchen Rubin and I Discuss Living Skillfully and…

• How feeding our bad wolf can feel easier sometimes
• How not eating sugar actually makes her feel better
• Abstainers and Moderators
• Trying different approaches until you find the one that works for you
• Decision fatigue
• The 4 Tendencies Model: the way people respond to expectations
• Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, Rebel
• Knowing your tendency type can help your tailor your approach and be more successful at living skillfully.
• Where personality comes from
• How much people can realistically change in life
• What and how much is really in our control
• The 21 Strategies of Habit Change
• How cravings inevitably come and go (rather than the myth that they build and build until they overwhelm us)
• Accepting yourself AND expecting more from yourself

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Fleet Maull is an author, consultant, trainer, meditation teacher and executive coach who facilitates deep transformation for individuals and organizations through his philosophy and program of Radical Responsibility. Fleet is a senior mindfulness meditation teacher in 2 highly respected traditions and is also a Roshi, or Zen Master, and dharma successor of Roshi Bernie Glassman of The Zen Peacemakers Community. In this episode, Eric and Fleet discuss his book, Radical Responsibility: How to Move Beyond Blame, Fearlessly Live Your Highest Purpose and Become An Unstoppable Force For Good. 

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In This Interview, Fleet Maull and I Discuss Radical Responsibility and…

• His book, Radical Responsibility: How to Move Beyond Blame, Fearlessly Live Your Highest Purpose and Become An Unstoppable Force For Good
• Our decision about whether or not to let fear set in 
• Fear and Survival Based Reaction
• Getting into your body to become more grounded, heart-centered and responsive 
• Fear is an intelligent, natural human emotion 
• How to become more resilient
• Strategies and approaches that people can use to be less afraid
• The sympathetic and parasympathetic responses within us
• Breath awareness in addition to breathing techniques
• Neurosomatic mindfulness
• Default Mode Network and the Task-Positive Network in the brain
• How blame gives away our power
• Letting go of the agenda of trying to control the people in your life
• The difference between blame, fault, and ownership
• Moving from victim to survivor and how we can choose the attitude we bring to any situation
• Mindful self-compassion 

Fleet Maull Links:

fleetmaull.com

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I love Mark Manson's weekly newsletter called "Motherf*ckin’ Monday" where he discusses three ideas about the mind, life or the world.

This weeks episode had three important ideas that I wanted to discuss and debate to some degree with Mark. 

They are:

1. Your next big breakthrough is already here

2. Is the growth mindset just another fad?

3. Breakthroughs rarely feel good 

As someone who focuses on breakthroughs, transformations and slow changes over the time and someone who has gotten some mileage out of the growth mindset, I wanted to add my two cents to the discussion. I hope you enjoy.

Sarah Wilson is a New York Times Bestselling author, journalist and founder of iquitsugar.com. She has published 15 I Quit Sugar books in 46 countries and in 2017 and 2018, she was ranked as one of the Top 200 Most Influential Authors In The World. At 29, Sarah was the Editor and Chief of Cosmopolitan Magazine Australia and she has also been the host of Master Chef Australia. Her newest book is, First, We Make the Beast Beautiful: A New Journey Through Anxiety and it is this that she and Eric discuss in this episode. 

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In This Interview, Sarah Wilson and I Discuss Anxiety and…

• Her book, First, We Make The Beast Beautiful: A New Journey Through Anxiety
• Where the mind goes, energy flows
• The idea of disconnection and reconnection in mental health
• How to know when the line into disordered anxiety has been crossed
• Understanding the role of medicine for anxiety, depression and other mental illnesses as well as the role of struggle in our inner life.
• The importance and role of therapy while also taking medication for mental disorders
• The dynamic, changing nature of actively supporting mental wellness
• Stopping the cycle of getting anxious about being anxious
• Sitting in your suffering and ride it out rather than trying to beat or escape it
• The slow approach for dealing with Anxiety
• How walking can help Anxiety
• Ways handwriting can help Anxiety
• Ways space can help Anxiety
• Spiritual idea of contraction vs expansion
• Asking yourself “Will this enlarge or contract my life?”

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Steven C. Hayes is one of the founders of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and this is his second time on the show. This time, he and Eric discuss his new book, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters. Dr. Hayes is a Professor of Psychology at The University of Nevada Reno. He’s the author of 43 books and more than 600 scientific articles. He’s served as the President of the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapy and The Association for Contextual Behavioral Science. He is one of the most cited psychologists in the world. In this episode, Dr. Hayes teaches what psychological flexibility is, how to cultivate it, and the ways in which it can improve your life.

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In This Interview, Steven C. Hayes and I Discuss Psychological Flexibility and…

• His book, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters
• Asking “What is the problem we’re trying to solve?”
• Understanding what you really care about. Take what you’re really struggling with and flip it over, therefore allowing your pain to speak to you
• The lengths we go to in order to protect ourselves from hurt
• “Psychological Flexibility” vs “Psychological Rigidity”
• 6 processes or pivots that promote Psychological Flexibility
• The masks we put on to try and connect with others and belong in addition to our true belonging
• Pivoting from cognitive fusion to diffusion
• Thoughts as ongoing attempts at meaning-making 
• The ability to think multiple things and be guided by what is useful
• Living according to your values as well as the qualities of being and doing
• Response Ability – deciding what this is about for you 
• Accepting what we feel and committing to act according to our values

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Pete Holmes is an American comedian, actor, writer, producer, and podcaster. He is both a hilarious comedian and a deeply contemplative, spiritual person. In this episode, Eric and Pete discuss his book, Comedy Sex God where they go into detail about how Pete views and experiences the world. From how he has learned to deal with frustrations to the way he returns to the present moment and experiences God in his daily life, this interview explores his direct experience with so much spiritual wisdom. You will laugh and also be deeply touched and inspired by this engaging, thoughtful conversation about discovering spiritual truths.

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In This Interview, Pete Holmes and I Discuss Spiritual Truths and…

• His book, Comedy Sex God
• The nature of life
• Lighting up our pleasure centers can dull the rest of life
• How sin is about being unconscious
• The consequences of our behavior are not waiting for us in the afterlife – they’re with us in the here and now
• The tension between being and doing
• Maintaining your center while doing a task
• When Ram Dass told him, “don’t do funny, BE funny”
• The mistake of postponing your happiness until things are going your way
• His favorite mantra
• That being here and saying yes to the present moment is the kingdom of heaven
• Being present even while you’re planning in addition to non-resistance
• The story of you, your ego and how it likes to exist
• How he connects with his wife when he’s rushed
• The role of curiosity
• When in doubt, zoom out
• How God is a metaphor for a mystery

Pete Holmes Links:

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Linda Graham is a licensed marriage and family therapist and her work focuses on helping people strengthen capacities to cope with the challenges and crises of their lives. She also helps people recover an authentic sense of self, deepen into healthy relationships and engage with the world through meaningful, purposeful work. Her book is Resilience: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and Even Disaster. In this episode, she and Eric talk about the neuroscience of resilience and specific ways to strengthen our resilience, no matter our starting point. When life gets difficult, this episode will teach you how to cultivate your resilience, bounce back and grow stronger. 

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In This Interview, Linda Graham and I Discuss Strengthening our Resilience and…

• Her book, Resilience: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and Even Disaster
• The neuroscience of resilience
• All emotions are signals to pay attention and take wise action
• How emotions run through our nervous system in about 20 seconds, unless we feed them with stories and with habitual patterns of response
• If we can allow difficult emotions and have compassion for ourselves for feeling them, we can shift the patterns in our brain away from that contracted state and into a more open state – the outcome is resilience
• What resilience is 
• Response flexibility
• How you respond to the issue, IS the issue
• The severity of the stressor and the strength of our external resources
• Our own internal resources
• Differentiating between our perception and our response
• How our attitude is a filter that our perception goes through
• Cultivating a resilience mindset
• The factors that influence our brain’s response flexibility. as well as how we can re-wire our brain’s response flexibility
• How to create new patterns of responding to difficulty
• The default mode network
• Practices that people can use to strengthen their resilience
• A practice that will calm a panic attack in under 1 minute
• The things that accelerate brain change
• Changing every “should” to a “could” 
• That “should” creates contraction in the brain whereas “could” creates openness and possibility in the brain
• Pausing to remember that we can be resilient and asking yourself “What story am I believing now?”
• How triggers become trailheads

Linda Graham Links:

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BJ Fogg teaches innovators about human behavior. He has a doctorate from Stanford and founded the Stanford Persuasive Tech Lab – now called the Stanford Behavior Design Lab – in 1988. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his new book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything. There is so much practical, applicable wisdom in this episode. If you have any changes you want to make, any habits you’d like to start in your life, this episode could be a game-changer for you. In it, you’ll learn the “how-to” when it comes to the science of behavior change. It is a skill you can learn, even if you’ve struggled to make changes in your life before. And the best news? It’s incredibly do-able – if you know how.

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In This Interview, BJ Fogg and I Discuss Tiny Habits for Behavior Change and…

• His book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything
• That people change best by feeling good, not feeling bad
• The Tiny Habits Method
• The technique of Celebration
• Learning to be a friend to yourself and treat yourself accordingly 
• When it comes to changing your behavior, looking at yourself as a baby who is learning to walk
• The 3 things you should do to set yourself up to succeed when changing a behavior
• Stop judging yourself
• Take your aspirations and break them down into tiny behaviors
• Embrace mistakes as discoveries and use them to move forward
• Golden behaviors
• The problem of “all or nothing thinking” 
• The problem of expecting perfection from yourself when it comes to habits
• That when it comes to habits, context is as important as the behavior itself. Change the context, it’s a different habit.
• The Fogg Behavioral Model: Motivation, Ability and a Prompt
• Troubleshooting a behavior change problem
• The danger in assuming you know someone else’s motivation
• Trying to motivate someone vs. taking away a de-motivator
• Ways we can make a behavior easy to do
• That we can plant a tiny seed in a good spot and it will grow without coaxing

BJ Fogg Links:

bjfogg.com

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If you enjoyed this conversation with BJ Fogg on Tiny Habits for Behavior Change, you might also enjoy these other episodes:

Michelle Segar

James Clear (Part 1)

James Clear (Part 2)

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Michelle Segar, PhD, is a motivation scientist and author of critically acclaimed “No Sweat! How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness” . She is also the Director of the Sport, Health, and Activity Research and Policy Center (SHARP) at the University of Michigan, and Chair of the U.S. National Physical Activity Plan’s Communications Committee.

Her evidence-based ideas about what motivates people to choose and maintain healthy behaviors is changing the conversation across fields. She consults with global organizations on these issues and delivers keynotes and sustainable behavior change trainings. She ran with the Olympic Torch at the 1992 Olympic Games in Barcelona.

In This Interview, Michelle Segar and I Discuss…

• The One You Feed parable
• Her book, No Sweat: How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness
• How considering a different “why” for starting to be more physically active can be helpful
• That why we engage in physical activity and what it is that we do are critical when it comes to us sticking with it
• How too many “whys” dilute their positive effect on us
• Intrinsic vs Extrinsic goals
• How answering the question, “What kind of physical activity did you enjoy doing as a kid?” can be important
• That we should start doing what makes us feel good and stop doing what makes us feel bad when it comes to physical activity
• That any physical movement is better than none at all – Everything counts!
• That flexibility is a strategy for success when it comes to sustained physical activity in your life
• The vicious cycle of failure
• The sustainable cycle of self-care
• That it’s important to focus one complicated behavior change at a time
• The self-care hierarchy

Michelle Segar Links

Homepage

Twitter

LinkedIn

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Tim Pychyl is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Carlton University and hosts a podcast called I Procrastinate. We discuss how to go from being a procrastinator to someone who gets things done. His book that we discuss in this episode is on that very topic – it’s called Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for Change

In This Interview, Tim Pychyl and I Discuss Being a Procrastinator and…

• His book, Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for Change
• How it’s in the getting on in life that makes a life
• Being a procrastinator can be an existential matter
• What he tells his children: I didn’t ask what you want to do or how you feel, I told you it’s time to make your bed.
• When we are procrastinators we delay getting on with our lives
• Being an active member or your own life
• The two ways being a procrastinator compromises our health
• Stress
• Fewer wellness behaviors
• Treatment delay “I’ll look after that later”
• Being a Procrastinator is a problem of self-regulated behavior
• I won’t give in to feel good
• Goal Intentions and Implementation intentions
• When….then…
• Giving the monkey something to do
• What’s the next action?
• Keeping it small
• Hacks to work around our irrational thinking
• Motivation and then Action or Action and then Motivation
• The meaning behind our goals
• Meaning and Manageability
• Asking what will this cost me if I put it off?
• Being a Procrastinator
• Prefer tomorrow over today
• Thinking “I’ll feel like doing it tomorrow”
• Affect forecasting
• Thinking of your future self as a stranger
• Developing empathy for future self
• Self-handicap to preserve self-esteem

Tim Pychyl Procrastinator Episode Links

Homepage

Twitter

Tim’s Psychology Today Page

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Chances are, you’ve heard the name James Clear. Especially if you have done any research whatsoever about building habits. That’s kinda his neck of the woods. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur and he has taught in colleges around the world. In this episode, part 2 of a 2 part series, he talks more about his new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. You’ll learn some really specific, easy and flat out “why didn’t I think of that” genius methods to apply to your life and habits.

In this Interview, James Clear and I Discuss…

• His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones
• Habits are a response to the physical cues in our environment
• Increasing the friction it takes to complete the task
• The more you increase the steps between you and the bad behavior or decrease the steps between you and the good behavior the better
• Habit stacking/Anchoring
• “After _____ I will _____”
• The more specific the better
• Social environment and habits
• You want to join groups where your desired behavior is the normal behavior
• Make it easy
• The two-minute rule
• A habit must be established before it can be improved
• Optimize for the starting line rather than the finish line
• Make it satisfying
• Feel successful at the end
• Bring the long-term consequences into the short term

James Clear Links

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Twitter

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Chances are, you’ve heard the name James Clear. Especially if you have done any research whatsoever about building habits. That’s kinda his neck of the woods. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur and he has taught in colleges around the world. In this episode, part 1 of a 2 part series, he talks about his new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. It’s a fascinating and educational discussion surrounding how to work with yourself and your habits to set yourself up for short and long-term success when it comes to behavior change. Everyone can benefit from listening to the wisdom in this episode. Enjoy.

In This Interview, James Clear and I Discuss…

• His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones
• How habits can compound for you or against you
• That small changes don’t seem to matter much in the moment
• The 4 Laws of Behavior Change
• Your outcomes are a lagging measure of your efforts
• How bamboo is like habits
• You need to build a foundation to see results
• How work isn’t wasted, it’s stored
• Focusing on systems rather than goals
• How the outcome is a natural consequence of habits
• That goals restrict your happiness
• The role of identity in behavior change
• How you choose to act is a vote towards the kind of person you want to be
• Putting your identity on the back burner while you accrue some evidence
• Growth vs Fixed Mindset
• How humans are learning machines
• The 4 Stages of Habits
• How you interpret the cues in your life determines how you respond to them
• The toolbox for breaking and building habits

James Clear Links

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David Christian is a Distinguished Professor of History at Macquarie University and director of the school’s Big History Institute, which he founded with Bill Gates. David has delivered keynotes at conferences around the world including the Davos World Economic Forum and his TedTalk has been viewed more than 7 million times. He’s the author of numerous books and articles including the book we discuss in this episode, Origin Story: A Big History of Everything. This episode is truly awe-inspiring, fascinating and mind-blowing.

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In This Interview, David Christian and I Discuss A Big History of Everything and…

• His book, Origin Story: A Big History of Everything
• Looking for the balance in dualities
• What an origin story means to him as well as the guidance it offers
• How modern society has lost touch with origin stories
• Linking knowledge together as well as telling an ancient origin story using modern science
• Knowing who you are, where you are and what challenges you face
• Having a deep sense of awe for how things are as well as The story line of increasing complexity
• What we know & don’t know about The Big Bang
• Pure potentiality becoming energy and matter
• Everything that has ever been came from something that started 13.8 billion years ago, and was a million times smaller than the period at the end of a sentence.
• Emergence of stars, planets, and life happened
• Cells acting with purpose and preference and how collaboration and specialization is inherent.
• The origin of life and the appearance of humans, as well as the unique contribution that human beings that make the emergence of our species are all transformative events on the planet Earth.
• The impact of our utilization of fossil fuels

David Christian Links:

www.mq.edu.au/bighistory

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Cal Newport is a computer science professor at Georgetown University. In addition to his academic research, he writes about the intersection of digital technology and culture. He is the author of 6 books, his most recent being the New York Times bestseller, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World. In this interview, Eric and Cal discuss how to optimize the role of tech in our lives so that it supports us in the life we want to live., rather than depleting us and causing us to feel like we are giving it too much of our time and energy.

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In This Interview, Cal Newport and I Discuss Digital Minimalism and…

• His book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World
• The concerns about our digital lifestyle
• The mixture of harm and benefit with social media
• The costs of our digital lifestyle
• Digital Maximalist vs Digital Minimalist
• Starting with your values as a guide to decide what tech you use to maximize the time you can spend on things you value
• How to think about the role of tech in your life
• Deploying tech to support you in living life according to your values
• Having a philosophy surrounding the use of tech in your life
• How clutter is costly
• Adding up the cost and value of something
• The importance of optimization in addition to the role of tech in our lives
• Intentionality is satisfying
• The 3 step process for implementing digital minimalism

Cal Newport Links:

calnewport.com

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Liz Fosslien is the Head of Content and Editorial at Humu, a company that uses behavioral science to make work better. She leads interactive scientifically-backed workshops about how to create a culture of belonging to help remote workers avoid burnout, navigate different work styles, and effectively harness emotion as a leader. Her work has been featured by The New York Times, The Economist, and NPR. Liz is the co-author and illustrator of the book, No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work. In this episode, she and Eric dive into the important and fascinating topic of the role of emotions in the workplace. You may think being “cool, calm and collected” at work is the right way to be but after listening to this episode, you will likely think differently.

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In This Interview, Liz Fosslien and I Embracing Emotions at Work and …

• Her book, No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work.
• How we underestimate the emotions we bring to work
• Tools to help with embracing emotions in the workplace
• How we make really bad decisions when we don’t reference our emotions
• The danger of being a “feelings fire hose” at work
• The “Skill Swap” exercise at work
• The New Rules of Emotion
• Caring about yourself more than you care about your work
• Your Support Network and your Challenge Network at work
• Communicating what you need in the moment to another person 
• Social Distancing
• Why we lack motivation at work
• Relevant Emotions vs Irrelevant Emotions

Liz Fosslien Links:

fosslien.com

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Greg Marcus is a practitioner, facilitator, and innovator of American Mussar which is a 21st-century spiritual practice for an authentic and meaningful life. He has a B.A. in Biology from Cornell University and earned his Ph.D. in Biology from MIT. He worked for 10 years as a marketer in the Silicon Valley genomics industry, after which he became a stay at home dad, writer, life balance coach, and biotech consultant. His latest book is called The Spiritual Practice of Good Actions: Finding Balance Through the Soul Traits of Mussar. 

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In This Interview, Greg Marcus and I Discuss Spiritual Practice of Good Actions and …

• His book, The Spiritual Practice of Good Actions: Finding Balance Through the Soul Traits of Mussar
• The Jewish Spiritual Practice of Mussar
• Taking mindful action in everyday life
• The Soul Trait of Enthusiasm
• Too much of a Soul Trait vs not enough of a Soul Trait
• The middle way as it relates to Soul Traits
• Focusing on a Soul Trait for 2 weeks
• How to move head knowledge into heart knowledge
• The Morning Mantra
• Picking 1 specific action to take
• Journaling
• The Great Wall of Mussar – and how to overcome it
• Handling significant emotional disruption
• How our free will isn’t always accessible to us
• How to slow the train of emotional disruption
• Shadow Soul Traits
• Inverting the Shadow Trait: What is the light that’s casting the shadow?

Greg Marcus Links:

americanmussar.com

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Dr. John Norcross is an internationally recognized expert on behavior change. He is Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of Scranton and a board-certified psychologist. He is the author of the acclaimed self-help book, Changeology: 5 Steps to Realizing Your Goals and Resolutions, has authored over 400 publications and has co-written and edited 22 books, principally in the areas of psychotherapy, clinical psychology, professional training, and self-change. In this episode, he and Eric discuss what the science of behavior change tells us when it comes to the do’s and don’t’s of creating new behaviors and putting an end to problematic ones. This episode is full of practical wisdom and is a must-listen for anyone looking to create meaningful, lasting change in their lives. 

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In This Interview, Dr. John Norcross and I discuss Behavior Change and…

• His book, Changeology: 5 Steps to Realizing Your Goals and Resolutions
• One of the colossal mistakes people make when trying to change their behavior
• Motivation & willpower versus learnable skills
• Harnessing the power of the science of behavior change as well as the 5 stages of behavior change
• The power of doing the right things at the right time
• Preparing to follow a behavior change program
• The 90-day commitment for lasting behavior change
• Chronic Contemplation as well as what to do when you slip up
• The findings from the New Years Resolutions Study
• Energy sources
• The importance of a “change team” or a “support team”
• The common “countering” methods using “healthy opposites”
• How to apply the “healthy opposites” approach to emotional eating
• The truth: what is measured, improves
• Dealing with urges as well as cravings

Dr. John Norcross Links:

changeologybook.org

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Loch Kelly is an author, meditation teacher, psychotherapist, and the founder of The Open-Hearted Awareness Institute. Loch works to help people access awakening as the next natural stage of human development. by offering in-person retreats, workshops, and online video and audio courses. He has served on the New York Insight Teachers Council and has collaborated with neuroscientists at Yale, U Penn and NYU in the study of how awareness training can enhance compassion and well being. Loch also studied extensively with Mingyur Rinpoche and was invited to teach direct realization by Adyashanti. As a licensed psychotherapist, Loch has been teaching seminars, supervising clinicians and practicing awareness psychotherapy in New York City for 30 years. His latest book is called, The Way of Effortless Mindfulness: A Revolutionary Guide for Living an Awakened Life.

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In This Interview, Loch Kelly and I discuss Effortless Mindfulness and…

• His book, The Way of Effortless Mindfulness: A Revolutionary Guide for Living an Awakened Life
• The good wolf & the bad wolf: how there are no “bad” parts of us
• Feed the one who is aware of the two wolves
• How he defines “effortless mindfulness”
• Flow consciousness
• Deliberate mindfulness vs effortless mindfulness
• Objects of consciousness vs the space that objects are in
• Mindfulness is about awakening rather than it just being about stress management
• Relieving suffering at it’s root
• Small glimpses, many times and the practice of the “small glimpses” techniques.
• Dropping from head mind to heart mind
• Non-dual awareness
• How to practice the "small glimpses techniques
• Awareness-based knowing

Loch Kelly Links:

lochkelly.org

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Judith Blackstone is an innovative and experienced teacher in the contemporary fields of non-dual realization and spiritual, relational, and somatic psychotherapy. She developed The Realization Process, which is a direct path for realizing fundamental consciousness. She also teaches the application of non-dual realization for psychological, relational, and physical healing. Judith has taught The Realization Process for over 35 years throughout the United States and Europe. She currently has 6 books in publication including her latest book, Trauma and the Unbound Body: The Healing Power of Fundamental Consciousness.

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In This Interview, Judith Blackstone and I discuss Healing Trauma through Consciousness and …

• Her book, Trauma and the Unbound Body: The Healing Power of Fundamental Consciousness
• Uncovering fundamental consciousness
• Attuning to the 3 components of fundamental consciousness: awareness, emotion, and physical sensation
• Defining trauma
• The way we hold back things that won’t be met with approval
• How traumatic events cause us to be divided – driving us out of our fundamental nature of wholeness, which is fundamental consciousness
• Inhabiting our body vs scanning our body
• Releasing trauma through our bodies
• Healing trauma through consciousness
• Psychological healing in addition to spiritual awakening
• The role of memory in healing trauma
• Accessing memories through somatic connections
• Healing trauma in relation to other people as well as with other people

Judith Blackstone Links:

realizationprocess.org

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David Richo, PhD is a psychotherapist, teacher, workshop leader and writer who works in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, CA. He combines Jungian, poetic and mythic perspectives in his work with the intention of integrating the psychological and the spiritual. His books and workshops include attention to Buddhist and Christian spiritual practices. He is the author of the classic book, How To Be An Adult: A Handbook on Psychological and Spiritual Integration and his latest book, 5 True Things: A Little Guide to Embracing Life’s Big Challenges, is the focus of the conversation in this episode. If you’ve experienced difficulty in life – and who hasn’t? -then this episode on navigating the 5 givens in life is for you.

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In This Interview, David Richo and I Discuss Navigating the Five Givens in Life and…

• His latest book 5 True Things: A Little Guide to Embracing Life’s Big Challenges
• That perfection is not a human option
• How a “given” can be looked at as an immutable fact or something that we’ve been granted
• Navigating the 5 givens in life that are the ingredients of a life with meaning, character, depth, and compassion
• Life is not always fair and that pain is part of everyone’s life
• The importance of saying yes to these givens as it brings more equanimity and serenity into our life
• Accepting the things we cannot change, while trusting that if life is like this, these “givens” aren’t penalties – rather, they have gift dimensions
• How we create our own suffering through our saying “no” to what is
• His words, “Anything that crosses swords with our entitled ego is a powerful source of transformation and inner evolution.”
• The ego tries to control the givens
• That love is accepting someone as they are, knowing that everyone comes with these 5 givens
• How the opposite of yes is not no, but rather it is control
• Building the inner resources that make me strong enough to handle whatever givens come my way as well as the importance of becoming skilled at grief
• His words, “A spiritually evolved adult seeks not an answer, but a significance.”
• Live with the questions and notice where they take us
• Act with loving-kindness in addition to holding difficulty with mindfulness
• Spirituality is the intersection of 3 paths: letting go of ego, “yes” to the conditions of human experience, and compassion
• Happiness is not a reward and suffering is not a punishment

David Richo Links:

davericho.com

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Tony Wrighton is a regular on Sky Sports News, the author of 3 books, and the creator and host of the Zestology podcast. In this episode, Eric and Tony talk about managing and optimizing your energy, ways to build fun into your day, techniques from Neurolinguistic Programming to help with anxiety and a lot more. This conversation is all about being intentional and smart about how you structure your days in order to support and promote your own well being.

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In This Interview, Tony Wrighton and I Discuss Managing your Energy and …

• Trying to meditate with a 4-month-old
• How there’s not a good and evil wolf – rather, many different wolves
• His training in NLP
• The role of control in our lives
• Parenting
• Why he named his podcast Zestology – and what it means to him
• The idea of managing energy – without it, you can’t do anything. With a lot of it, you feel you can conquer the world
• The thing that helps with energy and well being as well as what counts as a “fun” activity for him.
• Meditating, sleep, good food, intermittent fasting, exercise
• The thing that, when he didn’t do it, caused his daily energy level to decrease by 30%
• How he tracks the variables that contribute to his energy levels
• His books: Confidence in a Minute, Persuade in a Minute, and Relax in a Minute
• The NLP technique of anchoring in addition to managing your inner voice.
• How we get used to anything in life so it’s important to switch things up
• Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
• Authenticity

Tony Wrighton Links:

tonywrighton.org

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James Finley is a contemplative practitioner, clinical psychologist and faculty member of The Living School for Action and Contemplation. Drawing from his experience as a former monk and spiritual directee of Thomas Merton, James helps seekers who desire to live a contemplative, whole life. In this episode, he and Eric discuss many of his works and concepts pertaining to contemplation, awakening to our true nature, truth that transcends religions, love and wisdom. We think you will be struck (as we are!) by how expansive, inclusive and edifying James’ words and teachings are when it comes to helping you to connect with that which is loving and true and always present. 

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In This Interview, James Finley and I Discuss Contemplation, Awakening, and …

• The question: In this moment, what’s the most loving thing I can do?
• How it’s love that feeds the good wolf
• His book, Merton’s Palace of Nowhere
• His violent, abusive alcoholic father and how that facilitated his seeking a place in a monastery with Thomas Merton 
• Merton’s message that we are one with the infinite love that is God and that is our deepest identity and it is our destiny is to realize that
• That we subsist in a relationship with God as light subsists in flame
• How truth transcends religions
• The True Self and False Self
• The lie that the ego is all that we are
• Identity: The discovery of the true self is the process of dying to our dreaded and cherished illusion that anything less than infinite union with infinite love has the authority to name who we are.
• The acts that hurt ourselves and others is the acting out of a mistaken identity
• His book, The Contemplative Heart
• To contemplate means to pay attention, to observe carefully
• Contemplation is sustained attentiveness infused with love
• His book, Christian Meditation
• Taking the stance of least resistance when it comes to awakening
• The welling up of that which sustains us in the brokenness
• Removing complexities and distractions to be present in stillness
• The mystic teacher is one whose words awaken your heart to the desire for “the great way” and offers trustworthy guidance in it. 
• The mystic teacher uses language in the service of helping a person to let go of their dependency on the kind of language that stops short at explanations to find the language that is a kind of a cry from the heart, from our true self.
• The true self embraces both solitude and communion with others
• The metaphor of a high jumper and a very high bar and God’s mercy or compassion then placing it on the ground where we then trip over it and fall into God’s loving arms
• Being sustained by a mystery that then brings us to itself – and that is wisdom

James Finley Links:

jamesfinley.org

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Reba Riley is a blogger, artist, and healer. She travels the world speaking about transformation, courage, health, and healing. Her book, Post Traumatic Church Syndrome: A Memoir of Humor and Healing, is the topic of discussion in this episode. You will be moved and inspired by Reba’s story. As it turns out, kindness, love, and bravery really are some of the most powerful forces to harness for healing and hope and that’s what she discovered as she explored 30 religions before she turned 30 and battled a deep depression in the years following.

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In This Interview, Reba Riley and I Discuss Post Traumatic Church Syndrome, and …

• Her book, Post Traumatic Church Syndrome: A Memoir of Humor and Healing
• Her chronic illness
• Facing her anger and bitterness
• 30 religions before she turned 30
• Life being grey when religions answers are often black and white
• That love is bigger than everything
• Love healing us and bringing us together
• Her mothers love through her journey
• That wherever she found love (in the 30 religions) she found God
• How love and forgiveness have to start in each of us
• Looking past beliefs and differences and judgments to find the love that exists
• If love rolled up her sleeves and put on her work boots, kindness is what would happen
• Kindness is the action, the outpouring, the verb – of love
• Kindness is love made visible
• Her battle with dark, debilitating depression
• Feeling like she had no reason to do anything, no will to live
• Using kindness to battle depression
• How she did 5000 random acts of kindness over 18 months and it saved her life
• The story she hasn’t told anywhere else about her relapse of depression 
• The alchemy of kindness to transform your pain
• Couraging = brave as a verb

Reba Riley Links:

rebariley.com

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Ideas are coming at you every day from all directions. How can you process it all? You can start with The Next Big Idea. Host Rufus Griscom and legendary thought leaders Malcolm Gladwell, Adam Grant, Dan Pink, and Susan Cain, will be your personal “idea” curators. Open your mind and get ready for something big, because the right idea--at the right moment--has the power to transform your life. Listen now at http://wondery.fm/TNBIWondery

Robin Hanson is an Associate Professor of Economics at George Mason University and a Research Associate at the Future of Humanity Institute of Oxford University. His book, The Elephant In The Brain: Hidden Motives In Everyday Life, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. They explore topics like motives, perspective, the left brain interpreter and so much more as it relates to human behavior. This episode will give you a lot of insight into yourself and others.

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In This Interview, Robin Hanson and I Discuss Motives, Human Behavior, and …

• His book, The Elephant In The Brain: Hidden Motives In Everyday Life
• How often, we keep our true motives hidden from others
• That we also keep our true motives hidden from ourselves
• Modularity
• The things happening at a conscious as well as an unconscious level
• The left brain interpreter being like a press secretary
• Needing to tell a story about our motives
• Questioning whether or not you know the motives of others
• That we have multiple motives for doing things
• Understand others and then assume you’re a lot like them
• Cynicism and Misanthropy
• Perspective
• The evolution to protect ourselves from each other
• The need to have others like us and think well of us
• Obliviation
• What if others couldn’t see what you bought – that their opinion of you wouldn’t change because of what you bought – how would that change what you’d buy?
• That we pay a lot for variety
• Proximate and distal causes
• That evolution designed us to be relatively unaware of our motives – so why is it good to know about them?

Robin Hanson Links:

elephantinthebrain.com

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Charlie Gilkey is the author of Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To Done. An Army veteran and near Ph.D. in philosophy, Charlie is the founder of Productive Flourishing, a company that helps professional creatives, leaders, and change-makers take meaningful action on work matters. He’s widely cited in outlets such as Inc. Magazine, Time, Forbes, The Guardian, Life Hacker and more and his work will help you discover the path from the ideas in your head to the actions you take in your daily life and the way you live out your values – and most importantly how to go about getting things done.

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In This Interview, Charlie Gilkey and I Discuss Getting Things Done and …

• His book, Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To Done
• How kindness towards others often brings out the best in everyone
• The Tao Te Ching
• Focusing on your input and letting go of the results
• Why finishing is so important
• That we only get mastery from finishing things, not halfway doing them
• We don’t just improve by thinking about things, we improve by doing them
• Creative constipation breeds toxicity 
• We’re either creating something or destroying something
• We don’t do ideas, we do projects
• How it feels good to think about our ideas
• How doing our best work is often really hard
• The myth: if it’s meant to be for us, it’s supposed to be easy
• That when you start something you’re not as good at it as you want to be and it takes time to and effort to get better
• The myth that if it doesn’t come easy for you, you shouldn’t do it
• Doing something until you’re good enough at it to decide whether or not you want to continue doing it
• The 5 things that get in the way of doing our best work
• Head Trash: Doesn’t matter if a thought is true or not – it matters if we believe it or not
• The problem with automatically believing our thoughts
• How discipline limits decision fatigue
• Action expresses priority
• Being sick isn’t a character defect – how you respond to it matters
• That big life changes take life force and energy in order for us to respond to and deal with them and that’s life force that we can’t put towards other things – and that’s ok

Charlie Gilkey Links:

productiveflourishing.com

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Charlie Gilkey on getting things done, you might also enjoy these other episodes:

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Mark Henick has appeared in hundreds of television segments and countless more radio, print and online features about mental health. Mark’s TedTalk, “Why We Choose Suicide”, is among the most-watched in the world with over 6 million views. In this episode, he tells Eric about his experience with attempts at suicide, relapsing depression and getting skillful with finding meaning and living his life. This isn’t just a broad discussion on suicide and depression – there are real, practical techniques and approaches that can be applied to life today, no matter your circumstances, to create meaning, fulfillment, and yes, even joy. 

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In This Interview, Mark Henick and I Discuss Suicide, Depression, and…

• The duality of life and death
• Mental Health and Suicide
• His suicidality at 12 years old
• The message he got that he couldn’t talk about suicide
• The complete stranger who saved him from jumping from a bridge at night – physically holding on to him
• His realization that he didn’t have to be the suffering boy he was, he could be the stranger that helped him…that his life could be different
• The myth that if you talk about suicide it will give people the idea to do it
• The right way and wrong way to talk about suicide and depression
• How freeing it is to talk about something
• When others told him they could relate to his story of suicide and depression
• His recovery through a newfound sense of purpose
• The healthier relationships he pursued
• Getting clear about boundaries
• The toxic masculinity he was surrounded by as a child
• Not having the language to express the feelings he had
• The perceptual field and increasing your options by getting uncomfortable.
• How depression limits the options you can see 
• Broadening of perception and expansion as a part of awakening
• Something good can come from most painful situations; It’s in the lens you take and the work that you do.
• His depression and social anxiety disorder
• The danger in an avoidant coping strategy as well as the flaws of perfectionism.
• Realizing the cross you bear can change into meaning and how to turn your struggle into something good.
• Getting good at re-lapsing with his depression
• His misguided thought that he was failing at getting better
• Learning to trust himself AND learning not to believe every one of his thoughts
• The truth: This too shall pass (the more you cling to it the longer it takes to pass)
• How depression hates a moving target

Mark Henick Links:

markhenick.com

Ted Talk: “Why We Choose Suicide”

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This mini episode is about the tactical and emotional aspects of changing behavior.  

Sarah Shockley is a multiple award-winning producer and director of educational films including Dancing From the Inside Out, a highly acclaimed documentary on disabled dance. Sarah is the author of a number of books on living with chronic pain, including the one discussed in this episode, The Pain Companion: Everyday Wisdom for Living with and Moving Beyond Chronic Pain.

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In This Interview, Sarah Shockley and I Discuss Living with Chronic Pain and…

• Her book, The Pain Companion: Everyday Wisdom for Living with and Moving Beyond Chronic Pain
• How it’s hard for us to heal when we’re in a battle with pain
• The good wolf aspect of pain
• Feeding into healing vs feeding in living with chronic pain
• Her experience with debilitating pain
• The many components of chronic pain – in addition to the physical component
• How isolating chronic pain can be 
• Chronic emotional pain
• Seeing pain differently
• Turning towards pain and asking it, “What could positively be your positive purpose here?”
• What you resist persists
• Becoming partners with your pain
• Thinking of pain as the voice of something within you that wants to be healed
• Creating a different relationship with pain
• We lock pain in place when we get into a resistant mode
• Giving pain a lot of space
• Breathing into the pain
• The messages that pain brought her
• Asking pain, “What do you need?”
• How her life has been transformed by changing her relationship and experience with chronic pain
• That she wrote the book she wished she had been given in the midst of her struggle with pain
• That being seen in your pain can be the beginning of healing
• Living with chronic pain and what she imagined her pain looking like

Sarah Shockley Links:

thepaincompanion.com

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Eric Kaufmann guides leaders to make better decisions and achieve better results. He has consulted for hundreds of leaders including executives and team leaders at Sony, TMobile, Genentec and Alcon Labs just to name a few. He is the founder of Sagatica Inc and he serves on the board of the San Diego Zen Center. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his work of teaching conscious leadership in the workplace.

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In This Interview, Eric Kaufmann and I Discuss…

• How he interacts with his shadow side
• The key to not making a situation worse
• His practice of refrain and return
• Conscious leadership
• Unrelenting commitment to results with an unwavering regard for spirit
• What someone says they want vs what they need
• The courage it takes to say no
• The 3 building blocks of our egoic state
• The 3 pillars of being a conscious person
• Wisdom = mistakes + time
• Wisdom = Seeing below the surface and beyond the obvious
• That being wise means being present and aware
• How cultivating wisdom is a practice and how humor cultivates wisdom.
• Courage is walking toward what you want to walk away from
• Have the courage to Speak Up, Care, Commit
• How sarcasm can be a mask of fear
• Bringing the weird
• How it takes energy to withhold
• Love is wanting to do well for others
• Love is expansive, inclusive, and connective
• The things that get in the way of love

Eric Kaufmann Links:

sagatica.com

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Brent Williams suffered for a long time from depression and anxiety and during that time he kept a journal about his thoughts, feelings, and experiences. That journal has now been turned in to a beautiful graphic novel called, Out Of The Woods: A Journey Through Depression and Anxiety. In this episode, Brent and Eric use his story as a jumping-off point to discuss how depression can show up in your life and how you can realistically, practically, and effectively find your way out of it.

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In This Interview, Brent Williams and I Discuss…

• His book, Out Of The Woods: A Journey Through Depression and Anxiety
• How subtle depression can be in your life – permeating everything 
• All the things he went to as a diagnosis before he admitted it was depression he was suffering from
• His resistance to taking depression medication
• How he watched his father take medication for anxiety and how it changed him
• His resistance to taking help from others
• His experience in therapy
• The metaphor of depression medication being a life preserver but you still have to swim back to shore
• The components of self-care: eat well, exercise, be with people, be outside, get support, stop ruminating, proper sleep
• How fundamental good nutrition is when it comes to mental well being
• Doing small and manageable things when you’re depressed
• How the reward mechanism in your brain isn’t working properly when you’re depressed
• How it took him a while to find the right therapist 
• The potential danger of meditating when depressed
• That mindfulness meditation was the form of meditating that helped him most
• The impact of keeping a mood chart – seeing a pattern that you can’t see at the time
• That sometimes you just have to push yourself over the hurdle of doing things that are good for you when you don’t feel like doing them
• Looking at your activities to assess your mental wellbeing
• Depression showing up as irritability in men

Brent Williams Links:

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