The Real Life Podcast with Jefferson & Alyssa Bethke

By Jefferson & Alyssa Bethke

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 Sep 25, 2018
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Jeff and Alyssa are a married couple with two toddlers running around their home who talk about real life and all that comes with it. They are laughing at each other one minute, then talking about something deep one minute, and we hope you are encouraged as you listen!

Episode Date
Walking with A Journey-Based God - Interview with Danielle Walker

This week for the Real Life Podcast Jeff Bethke interviews cookbook author and blogger Danielle Walker about her journey walking with God through heartbreaking struggles and what it looks like to welcome everyone to the table.

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Dec 18, 2018
Fulfillment in Faithfulness - Interview with Trey Kennedy

This week on the podcast I talked with my good friend Trey Kennedy about what it looks like to put calling and community over flashy gimmicks or chasing celebrity and how to create a lasting legacy. 


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Dec 11, 2018
You Are Your Habits - Interview with James Clear

This week on The Real Life Podcast we have the immense pleasure of chatting with James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, and deep dive into how our habits tend to define us as individuals and how we can use them to shape the life we want to lead.  


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Dec 04, 2018
Let's talk about Advent (plus our favorite things!)

This week on The Real Life Podcast we talk about the true meaning of Advent, how to slow down and embrace the beauty of the season, and a few of our favorite Christmas tips and traditions!


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Nov 27, 2018
The day our family changed forever

This week on The Real Life Podcast we have an EXCITING announcement and a very special guest with a life-changing message about family. Tune in! 

Nov 20, 2018
If you're not shaping your relationship with technology, it will shape you

This week Alyssa and I chat about our family's 'tech manifesto' which is just a handful of helpful rules and limits and boundaries we've set individually and as a family for our technology use. I'd love to hear from you guys this week on any tips or tricks and how you've thought through your relationship with technology!


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Nov 12, 2018
Do single people & married people have different callings?

this week we chat about the difference, generally speaking, between a single mission and a married mission. And how one of the things that made the early church prolific and a ground breaking movement was how well these two callings and life stages worked together as one organism.


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Nov 06, 2018
Our Addiction To Hurry - John Mark Comer Interview

This week we chatted with John Mark Comer about the hurried life and how it affects us as followers of Jesus.

Oct 30, 2018
How Little Moments Can Change Everything

On The Real Life Podcast, we talk about The Power of Moments, a book by Chip Heath and Dan Heath, and although it isn't specifically written as one, it is one the best parenting books we’ve encountered! Parents, every moment counts! Tune in to find out more!

Oct 23, 2018
Where Self Care Becomes a Counterfeit

This week we talk about Self Care and how consumerism and escapism have overshadowed the true ways of how we really should be taking care of ourselves!


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Oct 16, 2018
Importance of Home - Myquillyn Smith Interview

In this week’s podcast, we interviewed The Nester herself, Myquillyn Smith, author of The Nesting Place and her upcoming release, Cozy Minimalist Home (pre order here!). We were so excited to get a first hand perspective of her thoughts on home, family, kids and how minimalism and abundance go hand in hand!

Oct 09, 2018
The secret to avoiding burnout in your life

This week we talk about the power of rhythms, a word we use a lot but don't always have a ton of time to explain or expand on. So we decided to dedicate this whole episode to the concept of rhythm, what it is, and how to find them in your life in a daily, weekly, and yearly way!


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Oct 02, 2018
Why don't we ask the dads how to balance it all?

This week Alyssa and I dive head first into a lot of the prevailing notions and ideas surrounding man and woman, husband and wife, traditional roles, who's the center of the home, and more. We'd love to hear your thoughts on social media once you listen! We both tend to post a picture on our instagram discussing the episode the day it releases (every Tuesday) and so feel free to pop over there and let us know what stood out the most. Love you guys!


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Sep 25, 2018
The dark side of our life-hacking & productivity culture

WHOOH!!! This week we celebrate the rebranding and relaunching of our new podcast, now called The Real Life Podcast. For this first new episode we chat about certain questions we have been asking about the spirit of the optimization and life hacking culture that is so prevalent today. We'd love to hear from you on social media with your thoughts from this week's episode!


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Sep 18, 2018
Alyssa's Pregnancy Update & Why She Needs A Hypeman

This week we have a little too much fun and are just catching you all up on our life, including Alyssa's feelings and updates about being 7 1/2 months pregnant. And her birthday week!

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Sep 11, 2018
Hurricane Lane recap and how each of us deals with pressure differently

This week we chat about hurricane lane, and give an update from last week's episode as well as talking about the enneagram and what we learned about ourselves.

Aug 29, 2018
Prepping for a Maui Hurricane & another Quick Look At the Enneagram

This week we chat about the Maui hurricane headed our way and Alyssa shares more about finding freedom and the enneagram.


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Aug 22, 2018
Finding Freedom from Lies, Body Image Issues & Alyssa's story about her eating disorder

This week Alyssa takes center stage as we dive deeper into her story, and a part of her story that has resonated with so many of you listeners, her eating disorder she had for years. She walks through her struggle but also how she found freedom and is on the other side and how can too.


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Aug 14, 2018
Alyssa interviews Robin Jones Gunn (pt 4)

This episode is the final episode in a four part series where Alyssa interviews her friend and mentor Robin Jones Gunn.

Aug 07, 2018
Alyssa interviews Robin Jones Gunn (pt. 3)

this week Alyssa continues with a series of conversations with her mentor and friend and best selling author Robin Jones Gunn! Listen along as they talk more about mentorship and Robin's relationship with Jesus.

Jul 30, 2018
Alyssa interviews Robin Jones Gunn (pt 2)

this week Alyssa continues with a series of conversations with her mentor and friend and best selling author Robin Jones Gunn! Listen along as they talk more about mentorship and Robin's relationship with Jesus.

Jul 23, 2018
Alyssa Interviews Robin Jones Gunn! (pt 1)

In this episode Alyssa has a special guest and mentor friend of hers Robin Jones Gunn on the podcast. They chat about how they met, their hearts for women, and few other things. Enjoy!


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Jul 17, 2018
Why We Don't Get Out Much & How To Protect Your Biggest Hopes and Dreams

this week we talk about how to protect energy in your life or marriage, and how to lead a sustainable and life giving existence with the Lord.


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Jun 28, 2018
Questions to ask before you get engaged + when singleness is tough

this week we chat about questions to ask before you get engaged, how to be single when your friends aren't, and the physicality of Jesus.


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Jun 20, 2018
Living as You Truly Are

This week Alyssa talks about what it means to live as your true self, and what it means when the Bible says we have everything we already need in Jesus.


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Jun 13, 2018
Never Splitting the Difference & The Alternative to Futility

This week Jeff talks about some of his most recent reads lately, and why he enjoyed them.


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May 23, 2018
Help Jeff pick the topic for his next book!

This episode Jeff discusses the three ideas he's going back and forth on in regards to his new book.


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May 16, 2018
Quiet Place, and Talking The Jewish Feasts

This week we chat about our favorite movies Jeff saw this week, a fun little experience Alyssa had with girlfriends, and how we are studying and implementing the jewish feasts in our family.


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May 01, 2018
Jesus as our Passover Lamb, importance of adult influences on kid's lives, and looking back on funny middle school trends

this week we chat about the importance of raising your kids in a community of influences, old middle school trends, and Jesus as our passover lamb.


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Apr 10, 2018
Resurrection Power & Alyssa's Daily Routine

This week we talk about the power of the resurrection and how we are people of the future. And Alyssa talks about her daily routine as a mom.


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Apr 04, 2018
Talking Alyssa's favorites, and answering your questions

this week we talk about Alyssa's favorite books and bible studies, and answer questions directly from you.

Mar 27, 2018
Talking the Enneagram & self awareness

this week we chat about the enneagram, pros and cons to personality tests, and why self awareness is so important.


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Mar 27, 2018
Chasing your gifting, the apostle Paul, and why Captain Crunch is the best cereal

this week we chat about the importance of doing everything with excellence, what it must have been like to be the apostle Paul, and why certain cereals are the best ever.


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Mar 13, 2018
Talking The Bachelor & The Soul of Shame

This week we chat about the recent Bachelor finale, as well as books we are reading and why sometimes the struggle in our vocation or hobby is what produces beautiful things.


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Mar 07, 2018
Why Every Person Needs A Creative Outlet

In this episode Alyssa and I talk about why it's important for every single one of us to have something we enjoy doing that fills us up when we need it most.


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Feb 27, 2018
Women & Creativity Roundtable Discussion (pt 2)

Alyssa and four of her close friends join her to talk about faith, motherhood, creativity etc.

Feb 19, 2018
Only Ourselves To Blame (Anatomy Of Marriage Miniseries #12)

Melanie and Seth wrap up the Anatomy Of Marriage Miniseries and share the impact that this journey has had on their marriage, they talk through the things that they did wrong individually and the things that they did right as a couple, they also share the tools that helped them through the hardest parts of their marriage.  


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Feb 15, 2018
Women & Motherhood Roundtable Discussion (Pt 1)

Alyssa is joined by four of her closest friends as they talk about faith, motherhood, etc.

Feb 13, 2018
Hide The Guns (Anatomy Of Marriage Miniseries)

Melanie and Seth step into the darkest part of their journey as they share their story of domestic violence in hopes that it will help shed light on this terrible reality. Melanie admits to being physically abusive and violent to Seth in their marriage and they talk through some of the thoughts and feelings that they had during those tumultuous times.

Feb 08, 2018
How do you do it all (job, goals, kids, etc)?

in this episode we take your questions, and spend a good amount of time on answering how we try to prioritize and balance our priorities in our life.

Feb 05, 2018
How to know when you're ready for kids, plus we talk our reading routines

In this episode we chat about a question we get a lot, which is when do you know you're ready to have kids? We also chat about our best practices for reading the scriptures.

Jan 31, 2018
At My Lowest Point (Anatomy Of Marriage Miniseries #10)

This week Seth and Melanie take a darker turn in their story as they explore the world of mental health and talk about the impact that it has had in their marriage. Dr. Les and Leslie Parrott of Seattle Pacific University also join the conversation to help shed light on this taboo topic. 



Jan 23, 2018
Am I Really Like That? (Anatomy of Marriage Miniseries, Episode #9)

This week Melanie and Seth explore the daunting topic of Identity and share the ways that NOT having a strong sense of self has totally messed up their marriage.  

Jan 09, 2018
Why You Don't Need To Be Available To Everyone All The Time, And Catching Up Post Christmas

listen in as we talk about our favorite candle scents, why we dont need to be available to everyone, and how to see post Christmas. 

Dec 28, 2017
That Wasn't A Story (Anatomy of Marriage Miniseries, Episode #8)

This week Seth and Melanie are back and they are talking all about talking. . . sort of. Join the discussion as they untangle the wackiness that is communication and try to make sense of a very complex topic. 

Dec 21, 2017
Cultivating calm and silence, our favorite books, and why Jesus is Lord is political

This week we talk about how to cultivate a sense of calm throughout your day, as well as our favorite books and why Jesus is Lord is actually a political statement.

Dec 12, 2017
It’s Really Complicated (Anatomy of Marriage Miniseries, BONUS Episode)

Melanie is back with a special bonus episode where she explores why it is so hard to talk about sexuality and intimacy, as well as the struggles that far too many couples face when healing from past sexual brokenness and abuse.  

Dec 01, 2017
Don’t Turn The Lights On (Anatomy of Marriage Miniseries, Episode #7)

The Studley’s are back and are talking all about the ways that our flawed understanding of sexuality and intimacy can negatively impact our relationships, and don’t miss this week's BONUS Sex Episode called “It’s Really Complicated.”

Dec 01, 2017
Ways To Make The Holidays Restful & Our Favorite Gift Ideas

this week we talk about some of our favorite things during the holidays, as well as things we can do to make the holidays more restful and enjoyable.

Nov 22, 2017
You Should know This Already (Anatomy of Marriage Miniseries, Episode #6)

Ours friends Melanie and Seth Studley run headfirst into the world of expectations and talk to couples, therapists and even kids to gain some much needed insight.

Nov 14, 2017
Having a Vision For Your Family & Marriage, And Our Current Favorite Things

Listen to this week's episode as we talk about how dad's specifically are hurt by our culture's point of view on family, as well as what we are currently loving right now in our day to day!

Nov 07, 2017
Episode #10 The Science of Love (Anatomy of Marriage Miniseries, Episode #4)

Our friend Melanie sits down Mike McHargue from the Liturgist Podcast, neurobiologist Dr. Dan Siegel and other amazing therapists to explore the ways that our brains and bodies influence our relationships. 

Oct 31, 2017
Stories We Tell Ourselves In Marriage And Sex & The Love That Lasts Retreat!

Alyssa and I talk about the The Love That Lasts Maui Retreat, what Craig and Jeanette taught us about sex, and we are still celebrating our book launch month!

Oct 24, 2017
What Do We Do Now? (Anatomy of Marriage Miniseries, Episode #4)

Our friends Melanie and Seth explore the many ways that our experiences shape our relationships and how we can make meaning of the trials in our life.

Oct 17, 2017
Singleness, Walking Through Valleys, and Love That Lasts!

Today Alyssa and I celebrate the release of our brand new book Love That Lasts! Alyssa reads from her chapter on singleness and shares the different ways that Jesus leads us through the valleys.

Oct 10, 2017
Who Taught you to Hold a Knife Like That? (Anatomy of Marriage Miniseries, Episode #3)

Our producer Melanie and her husband Seth tread cautiously through the delicate landscape of differences as they explore why their own marriage has looked more like a smoothie than a fruit salad.

Oct 03, 2017
True Happiness, Feeling Unwanted, and How Not to Settle When You’re Single

Today Alyssa and I talk about what makes people truly happy, answer your voicemails about how to stay strong when you are single and much more.

Sep 26, 2017
Marriage Starts at Birth (Anatomy of Marriage Miniseries, Episode #2)

Our friends Seth and Melanie are back, this time exploring the world of Family of Origin to discover how deeply connected our marriages are to the lives and choices of our parents.

Sep 19, 2017
Navigating Godly Friendships, Working Together, and an Unexpected Visitor!

This week Alyssa and I talk about navigating Godly friendships, what it's like working together, plus we get a surprise visit during the taping of the show!

Sep 12, 2017
I Would Rather be Divorced (Anatomy of Marriage Miniseries, Episode #1)

Alyssa and I introduce our friends Melanie and Seth who take us back in time with our all new audio documentary, Anatomy of Marriage, to investigate their nearly failed marriage and begin the process of uncovering why marriages really succeed and fail.

Sep 05, 2017
A New Season: What God has been teaching us, and answering your questions!

Today Alyssa and I talk about getting back into podcasting, what the Lord has been teaching us over the last year and a half, and answer YOUR listener voicemails!

Sep 05, 2017
Creating A Life Giving Home (with Special Guest Sally Clarkson!)

Alyssa and I are young parents and have been diving deeper into what it means to create a strong marriage, family, and home. On this episode we have a special guest Sally Clarkson who writes amazing books on these exact things. I hope it encourages you guys! We had a blast recording this one.

Jan 26, 2016
God's Word, Finding Someone to Date, And Pesto

In this episode Jeff and Alyssa talk about how to be creative in studying God's word when you feel tired or have no time, as well as how to know if someone is right to date.

Sep 23, 2015
The Table, Parenthood, & The College Years

This episode we talk about the sacredness of the table, how parenthood has changed us, and what advice we'd give to someone in the college years.

May 28, 2015
Using Your Gifts, ISIS, & How To Pray

This week Jeff and Alyssa talk about using your gifts, how to support those affected by ISIS, and the discipline of prayer.

May 26, 2015
Keep Portland Weird, Transitions, & Pre-Marriage Questions

Jeff and Alyssa talk about their trip to Portland, transiton in 20's and what questions to ask before you get engaged.

May 14, 2015
Courting vs Dating, On Fleek, & Catching Up

Jeff and Alyssa catch up after a 2-3 month podcast hiatus while talking about dating vs courting, what "fleek" means, and a host of other things.

May 06, 2015
Lent, Engagement Advice, & Being a Young Christian

Jeff and Alyssa pick up where they left off and talk about Lent, a few tips for a newly engaged couple, and how to impact the world for Jesus when you're a young person. 

Feb 27, 2015
An Empty House, Our First Kiss, & Dealing With Change

Jeff and Alyssa chat about what it's like living in a home before their furniture shows up, the awkwardness of their first kiss, and they take listener's questions about dealing with change.

Feb 03, 2015
Our Crazy Moving Week, Girl's Lowering Expectations, & Grace Upon Grace

Jeff and Alyssa chat about their move across the world to Maui, if girls should lower their expectations since there aren't that many guys out there, and what it means to live under grace upon grace.

Jan 27, 2015
Living In Fear or Love, Prioritizing Family, & Hardest Part About Following Jesus

This week Alyssa and Jeff talk about how they got back together after their breakup, how they prioritize family, and how to live by fear instead of love.

Jan 10, 2015
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Jan 07, 2015
Our Breakup, Living In Seasons, & What To Do When You Don't Feel God

Jeff And Alyssa continue their relationship story from the previous podcast, talking about their breakup before they got back together. Also they talk about living in cycles, and we take listeners questions that include what to do when you don't feel God.

Jan 05, 2015
Moving To Maui, Being New Parents, & Struggling With Singleness

Jeff And Alyssa talk about their upcoming move to Maui in January, why they decided to move and what they are excited for. Also they chat about the joy and struggle of being a new parent as well as taking listener's questions about singleness and some on parenting!

Dec 23, 2014
New Year Goals, Dating, & God's Will

Jeff And Alyssa start off their first podcast ever talking about what word we assign each year, seeing family as a kingdom vehicle, and we then take questions from our listeners that range from God's will to dating!

Dec 23, 2014