Marriage Helper: Helping Your Marriage

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Looking for real answers to your real life marriage problems? This podcast addresses the real issues that marriages face every day. Whether your spouse is in love with someone else, sexual issues are destroying your marriage, or you are wanting to know how to make your marriage stronger - this podcast is for you. Want a question answered? Submit your questions to askjoe@marriagehelper.com. http://www.MarriageHelper.com and http://www.MarriageRadio.com

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Control, PUSH Behaviors, & more, Marriage Helper Live 06/17/19
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Live Caller Q&A With Kimberly Holmes & Amber Nickle In this podcast, Kimberly Holmes & Amber Nickle address these questions: "How do I talk to my wife while avoiding PUSH behaviors?""How do I set boundaries to make our marriage better?""How do I voice my concerns without sounding controlling?""Should I pursue answers ro wait for my wife to bring it up?""How do I get my husband to talk about our marriage?""Is my husband having an affair and not telling me?
Jun 17, 2019
Mixed Signals, Reconciliation, & Narcissism, Marriage Helper Live 06/10/19
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Live Caller Q&A With Kimberly Holmes & Jim Pourteau.  In this podcast, Kimberly Holmes & Jim Pourteau address these questions: "My wife is sending mixed signals. Should I start no contact?""When should I stop trying to save my marriage?""How do I ask my reluctant spouse to come to the workshop?""How do I start reconciliation the right way?""Should I tell my teenage son about our marriage situation?""Wife diagnosed me as a narcissist. What do I do?""How do I handle my husband's vacillation?"
Jun 10, 2019
PUSH Behaviors, Boundaries, & more, Marriage Helper Live 06/03/19
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Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes.  In this podcast, Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes address these questions: "How do I stand for my marriage as the wayward spouse?""My spouse and I are separated. What are some things to talk about to help foster communication between us?""How can I be honest about my affair when I'm being villified?""Am I am fool for wanting to be with my cheating spouse?""Is starting the divorce process a PUSH behavior?""My wife wants to live with us and her affair partner! What should I do?""How do I make healthy boundaries?""How long do I wait for my husband to leave his affair partner after we just divorced?"
Jun 03, 2019
Join Us For Marriage Helper LIVE!
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Marriage Helper LIVE
Jun 03, 2019
Spouse Says They Are Done, Marriage Helper Live 05/20/19
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On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:  “My husband told me he has an emotional block against me, and he does not have interest in saving the marriage and wants a divorce. I just found out I have cancer, and I want him to leave the house while I deal with getting better. Is there anything I can do to help him overcome the emotional block? If I ask him to leave, am I giving up any chance of saving the marriage?”“My wife is considering coming back, but she does not want to just come back because it is comfortable. How can I be patient while waiting for her to decide?”“My wife told me she is done. I am making trip to visit her for my son’s graduation (which is also her birthday and our anniversary). I am wanting to give her a gift. Is it ok to give her a present?”“My wife has had two affairs in the past three years. We have four children together. How can I save the marriage?”
May 20, 2019
Join Us For Marriage Helper LIVE With Dr. Joe Beam!
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Marriage Helper LIVE
May 20, 2019
Addicted to Affairs, PIES, & more, Marriage Helper Live 05/13/19
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On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:  “Married for 41 years. ography use throughout marriage. Wife left unexpectedly. How do I save my marriage?”“My husband and I have been married for 6 years. Husband ‘can’t live this way anymore.’ I have confidence our relationship work, but he is not sure that he wants it to. How do I get past the strong emotions to do the things I need to do?”“I found out a year ago my wife had been in an affair for 18 months. We still live together. She has filed for divorce, but she is not actively moving forward with it. Is it smart for me to require coaching as criteria if we are going to stay together?”“My husband is having an affair with his coworker. He agreed he would not introduce children to affair partner. He wants our kids to meet her kids at work picnic. How do I talk to him about this without pushing?”“Wife had affair. I am moving 800 miles away for a job. What can I do from that far away to show her I still want her to be a part of my life?”“Wife recently moved out, and she took kids with her. She doesn’t love me anymore. I did too many push behaviors. How  will she notice me working on my PIES when she only focuses on the kids?” You’ll also hear about: Affair addictionPIESHow to pick a good counselor
May 13, 2019
Join Us For Marriage Helper LIVE! With Host, Dr. Joe Beam
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Marriage Helper LIVE
May 13, 2019
Mid-Life Crisis, Limerence, & more, Marriage Helper Live 05/06/19
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On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:  “My wife left me for our children’s music teacher. She is in another country. She is vilifying me. How do I save my marriage?”“Coming out of the end of a midlife crisis with limerence involved. How do I save my marriage?”“My husband of 25 years left me. He filed for legal separation. Is intervention a good option to bring him to talk?”“My husband had an affair after being married for 28 years. We haven’t talked in a long time. I want to share my heart. What do I do?”“My wife left me for my best friend after 8 years of marriage. Would you suggest that I stay in SMART contact or interfere with SMART contact to try to get her to attend the workshop?”“My husband is having an emotional affair with a coworker. He is confused on what to do. What should I do?” You’ll also hear about: SMART ContactPush behaviors
May 06, 2019
Join Us For Marriage Helper LIVE! Every Monday At 12:30pm CST
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Marriage Helper LIVE
May 06, 2019
Communication, Intimacy, & more, Marriage Helper Live 04/29/19
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On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:  “What is the success rate for the workshop?”“How do I navigate SMART contact with my husband and know when it is time to talk about our relationship?”“How can I increase my communication with my husband as he does not talk to me? He just wants the marriage to be over.”“I have been separated from my wife for about two months. Since we’ve been separated, she says I haven’t showed her any reasons to fight for the marriage. How do I show her I want to save the marriage?”“Separated for a year. I feel like all hope is lost. 9 year old child is involved. I don’t know what to do anymore.”“Problematic marriage. Go through periods of being separated and being together. We have a lack of intimacy and connection. How do I break down that wall?”“Basically roommates with my spouse. I am sleeping in the living room. I’m working on my PIES. How do I put my marriage back together?”
Apr 29, 2019
Join Us For Marriage Helper LIVE with Dr. Joe Beam & Co-host Kimberly Holmes
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Marriage Helper Live
Apr 29, 2019
Spouse Having Affair, & Co-Parenting, Marriage Helper Live 04/22/19
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On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:  “My husband had an affair, but wants to end it and come back home. He is afraid that his affair partner will harm herself if he leaves her. How do I help him navigate that?”“His family invited me to celebrate Easter with them, but other people are telling me I shouldn’t go. What should I do?”“My wife and I got in an argument, and she told me she is done. We’re still living in the same house. I don’t know what to do.”“I found my wife texting another man, and I told her to get out. She told me she wants a divorce. She says she misses me, but she is dating other men. She wants us to sell our house. What can I do to have her take a second to think about her decision?”“My wife is with another person, and he is trying to make himself a father figure to our children after only two months. Should I expect this to be a temporary phase, or should I be concerned that this person is going to be the step-father of my children?”“My husband and his affair partner had a baby. He is also the father of my child. I still love him, but he has cut off contact with me. At the least, how can I make him co-parent my child instead of having no contact?”“Since my husband began his affair, could it have evolved into love instead of limerence? How do I do SMART contact when he is so hostile and mean to me?”
Apr 22, 2019
Join Us For Marriage Helper LIVE With Dr. Joe Beam! Every Monday at 12:30pm CST
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Marriage Helper LIVE
Apr 22, 2019
Spouse Keeps Changing Their Mind, Marriage Helper Live 04/15/19
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On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:  “My husband wants to move back in part time, but he doesn’t seem committed. If he’s not committed, I don’t know if I show let him move back in. Do you think I should let him move back in part time?”“My wife said she was adamant about wanting a divorce, but it has been 6 months without her acting on it. I want to give her a timeline of when she needs to make a decision by. How long should I give her to decide?”“My wife and I are separated, but we are starting to hang out a lot. She recently told me she never sees us getting back together. What can I do to positively influence my situation?”“My wife agreed to work on our relationship, but a week later she told me she wants a divorce. She keeps changing her mind. I’m really confused, and I don’t know what to do.”“I jumped into the relationship with my current husband quickly after ending my relationship with my ex-husband. He treats me well, but I don’t have the feelings for him that I should.”“How can I show my wife unconditional love while separated without seeming too pushy?”“My husband said he regrets his affair, but he has a vacation scheduled with his affair partner. It is always so back and forth. Why should I try to save my marriage when he keeps going deeper in his relationship with the other woman?”“My daughter is in limerence with a man who left his wife to be with her. The relationship has changed her completely. We do not support her relationship, but we love her very much. My friends are telling me that we should tell her we accept the relationship so that she should come back home. I don’t know what to do.”
Apr 15, 2019
Join Us For Marriage Helper LIVE With Dr. Joe Beam!
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Marriage Helper's live call in show. Call in and ask your questions!
Apr 15, 2019
Saving A Marriage After Divorce? Marriage Helper Live 04/08/19
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On today's episode of Marriage Helper Live, Dr. Joe Beam responds to: "My wife filed for divorce. What I've learned through Marriage Helper is to try to extend the divorce time to give it time to calm down, so I responded that 'I didn't think the marriage was broken' and it infuriated her. How do I respond now?""My family friend has had an on and off affair with my husband for 7 years. Is this limerence?""How do I reconnect with my wife to get her to see that there's hope & change that can happen?""My wife and I are separated because she is having an affair. She is vilifying me, and telling me we have nothing in common. I don’t know what to do.”“My husband and I have been divorced for 8 months. Our relationship has gotten better, but his relationship with the other woman is still ongoing. He wants the other woman to be part of our children’s lives, but he has not told them the truth about what happened. Is it wrong for me to set a boundary and not allow her to have a relationship with my children?”“How do I proceed in trying to save my marriage now that we are divorced?”   You'll also hear: When we suggest dragging out the divorce is when the other person feels like they are "madly-in-love" with someone else. And if dragging out the divorce makes things worse- we may not suggest it if you're viewed as controlling.Demonstrate without pointing out/telling what you're doing and how you're changingThe valley
Apr 08, 2019
Marriage Helper Live 04/08/19
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On today's episode of Marriage Helper Live, Dr. Joe Beam responds to: "My wife filed for divorce. What I've learned through Marriage Helper is to try to extend the divorce time to give it time to calm down, so I responded that 'I didn't think the marriage was broken' and it infuriated her. How do I respond now?""My family friend has had an on and off affair with my husband for 7 years. Is this limerence?""How do I reconnect with my wife to get her to see that there's hope & change that can happen?""   You'll also hear: When we suggest dragging out the divorce is when the other person feels like they are "madly-in-love" with someone else. And if dragging out the divorce makes things worse- we may not suggest it if you're viewed as controlling.Demonstrate without pointing out/telling what you're doing and how you're changingThe valley
Apr 08, 2019
Join Us For Marriage Helper LIVE With Dr. Joe Beam! Every Monday at 12:30 CST
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Join us for Marriage Helper Live. Every Monday at 12:30pm CST
Apr 08, 2019
Can THIS marriage be saved? The Workshop, & more, Marriage Helper Live 04/01/19
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On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions:  "My husband had an affair and says he's in love with the other woman. Does he have a "love addiction" or is it limerence?""Have you worked with couples who have dealt with abusive behavior? Especially if the abuser won't take responsibility for his actions?""My mother-in-law contacted me saying that my husband wants her to be my point of contact with him. Should I use this as an opportunity to minister to her- or should I keep my boundaries up?" "What Marriage Helper information do you recommend sharing with my attorney?""Is there a strategy to speaking with my wife about the Workshop?""How do I not fall back into old patterns/habits I had previously?""I get more anxious, emotional, and physical in bed the evening and it puts pressure on my wife. Would it be helpful for me to sleep in another bed at night to bring about positive communication and SMART Contact?""When my husband got out of prison, our relationship has been a downward spiral. How do I get through his 'hardened wall' when he doesn't seem to make an effort?" You'll also hear about: The caution of misdiagnosing your spouse based on research/information you've gathered about your relationship. How to consider the risks involved in taking a specific action.
Apr 01, 2019
Marriage Helper LIVE With Dr. Joe Beam And Co-Hosts! Every Monday at 12:30 CST
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We look forward to speaking with you.
Apr 01, 2019
"Getting Past My Affair" & Emotional Connections, Marriage Helper Live! 03/25/19
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On today's show, Dr. Joe Beam along with Client Representative, Marc Highland discuss the following:  "I had an affair and I would like to work with my wife on our marriage. How is it possible to move past my emotional connection to the affair partner?" "My husband wants to work on the marriage, but he's still in deep, emotional limerence with someone across the world. How do I ask him about attending the Workshop without pressuring/manipulating him?""Did I do the wrong thing by confronting my wife about her past affair partner?"   You'll also hear about Things a person can do in order to get past an affair. The best way to approach your spouse about the workshop.
Mar 25, 2019
Marriage Helper LIVE With Dr. Joe Beam & Co-host Marc Highland
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Call our show for a chance to speak one-on-one with Dr. Joe Beam, Founder of Marriage Helper.
Mar 25, 2019
How Can I Help My Spouse Trust Me? The Valley &more Marriage Helper Live 3/18/19
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On this episode of Marriage Helper Live, you’ll hear Dr. Joe Beam along with one of our Client Representatives respond to the following: “How does the valley work? How long does it last?” Signs of movement in the valley “Does the valley apply to other circumstances?” Dr. Joe Beam & Amber Nickle discuss a common question: “Is my spouse’s affair partner who they were actually meant to be with?” “I asked my husband if I could stay at his home while I wait to move into my apartment. He’s staying at his parent’s house until I move out. How can I initiate S.M.A.R.T. contact with him for him to stay at the house with me?” “We just filed for divorce. Should I still fight if I’m unsure?” “My wife feels like it’s too late to save our marriage, and she thinks I will never change. What should I do?” “How can I prove that she can trust me again after I’ve lied to her?” Other topics include: Limerence The Role of Client Representatives at Marriage Helper The #1 reason behind why you work on your PIES The grief process in relationships Self-esteem & the influence of others
Mar 18, 2019
Marriage Helper LIVE - March 18th, 2019
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Join us for Marriage Helper LIVE! Dr. Joe Beam & co-host Amber Nickle will be speaking with you today!
Mar 18, 2019
Forgiveness vs. Reconciliation, Power Of Emotions, Marriage Helper Live 3/11/19
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On this episode of Marriage Helper live, you'll hear Dr. Joe Beam and live callers speak about: The difference between reconciliation & forgivenessWhat it means when a spouse says, "I'm done."How to (patiently) implement S.M.A.R.T. ContactMental disorders & how they affect reconciliation/repairing a marriage You'll also learn how to build trust over time with consistency in your actions (not perfection) and how to understand your spouse's emotions. Dr. Joe Beam explains "logic cannot overpower emtions...but you can overcome emotions with time and consistency in your actions."
Mar 11, 2019
Vengeance Affairs, Cognitive Dissonance, and MORE! Marriage Helper Live 3/4/19
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On this episode of Marriage Helper Live, Dr. Joe Beam responds to: "My wife reacted negatively to this one situation where I did something that appeared controlling. How do I proceed? We've been separated 5 months, and this just happened one week ago."   "My husband is hesitant to return home because he doesn't want things to go back to how they were. How can I work on this issue? We've both had affairs."   "Is my wife experiencing cognitive dissonance while she's in her affair? She has become mean toward me, and removed herself from our grown children."   "My husband seemed to have positive interactions with me, and now all of the sudden, he still wants to go through with mediation- what do I do?"   And MORE!   You'll also hear about: How to renew your focus, especially with SMART ContactWhat "Vengeance Affairs" areCompartmentalized thinking within Cognitive Dissonance (and the 2 potential paths/outcomes)How to think and what to think when it seems like your marriage is about to end
Mar 04, 2019
Marriage Helper Live 3/4/19
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Today's show focuses on your marriage questions! Call in and ask Dr. Joe Beam a question about your marriage!
Mar 04, 2019
A Limerent Spouse, Managing Expectations, & more! Marriage Helper Live 2/25/19
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In this episode you'll hear Dr. Joe Beam respond to live callers from our Marriage Helper Live Broadcast. Featured on this episode: "My wife is in a limerent affair. She's getting the best of both worlds by seeing her partner and then seeing me at home. Will she continue this affair if she doesn't know what consequences may happen? Should I tell her what the consequences are?"   "My husband has been in a 6 year affair. He's never filed for divorce. What is making the affair last so long? Are the PIES helping/hurting?"   "My husband and I are starting the reconciliation process. What does it look like? He keeps pushing back and isn't engaged."   "My husband moved back without any accountability in place (he had an affair before) was this the right thing to do?"   "My wife loves, but isn't in love with me. I'm getting accused of trying to force a relationship, but she's sending mixed signals. Can you give me direction on what to do?"   You'll also hear: How to manage the expectations you have for your spouseThe purpose of using the PIES
Feb 25, 2019
Marriage Helper Live (2/25/19)
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Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam. Call in and ask a question about your marriage!
Feb 25, 2019
Hope, Defining "Vilification" & Patience Marriage Helper Live 2/18/19
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This episode opens with a story of HOPE alongside a story of familial reconciliation! Additionally, Dr. Joe Beam & Jim Pourteau respond to the following: "Is there less of a chance of a wandering spouse who is a woman to come back to the marriage?""Is long-term vilification normal?" "How can I be a "safe place" without being a doormat?" "How can I communicate with my wife when she doesn't want to talk? How do I deal w/anxiety that things may not get better?""I broke SMART contact with my husband- and we just started reconciling...what do I do now?""How do I establish trust with my Husband? He keeps snooping when I'm not doing anything wrong." You'll also learn...  How Marriage Helper defines vilificationWhat reconciliation looks like in real life and how to not overthink each daily interaction
Feb 18, 2019
Hope, Defining "Vilification" & Patience Marriage Helper Live! (2/18/19)
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This episode opens with a story of HOPE alongside a story of familial reconciliation! Additionally, Dr. Joe Beam & Jim Pourteau respond to the following: "Is there less of a chance of a wandering spouse who is a woman to come back to the marriage?""Is long-term vilification normal?" "How can I be a "safe place" without being a doormat?" "How can I communicate with my wife when she doesn't want to talk? How do I deal w/anxiety that things may not get better?""I broke SMART contact with my husband- and we just started reconciling...what do I do now?""How do I establish trust with my Husband? He keeps snooping when I'm not doing anything wrong." You'll also learn...  How Marriage Helper defines vilificationWhat reconciliation looks like in real life and how to not overthink each daily interaction
Feb 18, 2019
Join Us For Marriage Helper LIVE! - Feb. 18th, 2019
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Thanks for joining the show! We hope we are able to help you in your situation.
Feb 18, 2019
Building Positive Communication, "Standing" Spouse, Marriage Helper Live 2/11/19
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Live Caller Q&A With Jim Pourteau. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage! In this Episode, Jim Pourteau speaks about how to build positive emotions and have positive communication with your spouse. He also explains how to approach SMART contact and being a "Safe Place" correctly.  Throughout this episode, Jim speaks with spouses who are "standing" for their marriages and gives helpful insight for their specific situations- which can help you too! How to go about SMART contact"How do I interact with my husband who is in limerence?"" I feel "stuck" in where my marriage is at with my husband. How do we move forward?""How can I be a "safe place" without endorsing my wife's behavior?""I learned I'm controlling. I've changed and want to save my marriage...but my husband doesn't want much to do with me. What do I do?"
Feb 11, 2019
Marriage Helper Live 2/11/19
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Live Caller Q&A With Jim Pourteau. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!
Feb 11, 2019
Dealing With Sexual Desires, Husband Absent After Daughter Breaks Leg And More On Today's Marriage Helper LIVE!
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Feb 04, 2019
The Perils of Marriage Counseling, Using SMART Contact, and more On Today's Marriage Helper LIVE!
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Jan 28, 2019
Why Men Don't Need Respect, How to Compromise in Marriage and MORE on Today's Marriage Helper LIVE!
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Jan 21, 2019
Affair Suspicions, Saving A Marriage Post-Divorce, Marriage Helper Live 1/14/19
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On this episode of Marriage Helper Live, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes respond to calls from Canada & New Zealand & MORE! "We're divorced, but still best friends. At what length of time do you give up?""I just learned that my wife spent the weekend with my friend, and my son was there. How do I tell my wife that it isn't acceptable for her to do this with my son? She doesn't know that I know...""If you suspect your spouse is having an affair, at what point do you approach them about it?" It’s important to know whether your spouse is having an affair versus other problematic behaviors. i.e.: Thinking it's an affair, when it's actually a ography addiction. "My husband is in an affair with an old high school girlfriend. When he's drunk, he exposes the issues with his affair partner, and gets mad at her. Should I attempt this intervention? Or should I put up with his drinking." Drinking is a dangerous habit. We do not advise that she lets it continue.  “My wife denies her emotional affair. How can I get her to confess it?” “Why does my husband reach out to me and then back off?” On this episode, you'll also hear: If your spouse is in a limerent/emotional affair, logic is the last thing that will work. Every time you try to combat emotion w/logic, logic will win every time. If you made a decision you regret- know that what you did is what you did. Looking back at "should haves" doesn't benefit you in any way. And, what if you're divorced? Don't let your status define what you believe in/what your hope is.
Jan 14, 2019
When To Stop Trying, Approaching A Spouse With An Addiction and Handling Problems Alone On This Week's Marriage Helper LIVE!
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Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!
Jan 14, 2019
My Husband Suddenly Wants Out, Implementing P.I.E.S. And S.M.A.R.T. Contact And More On Today's Marriage Helper LIVE!
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Jan 07, 2019
Husband Left with No Warning, Limerence, & more, Marriage Helper Live 1/7/19
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Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes.  In this podcast, Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes address these topics: Stops (Safegaurds That Offer Protection)Cores (Continuing Our Relaitonship Essentials)What to do when your huband leaves with no warningWhat is the Save My Marriage Course?How to move forward after caught in limerent affairHow to communicate while separated in different countries
Jan 07, 2019
Spouse Stuck In "The Valley", Husband Doesn't Feel Loved & Physically Intimate During Divorce On This Weeks Marriage Helper LIVE!
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Jan 04, 2019
Pregnant Affair Partner & Pornography Addiction, Marriage Helper Live 01/02/19
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Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes.  In this podcast, Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes address these topics: “Can my husband be in limerence if he doesn’t vilify me?”“I pushed my husband away thinking that he would show me more love because he would be afraid to lose me, and he left instead. How can I save my marriage?”“My husband and I have connected physically and intellectually since his affair, but he will not open up to me emotionally at all. I’ve been working on myself. I just don’t know what to do now.”“Is there any point coming to the workshop if my husband only agrees to come once the divorce is final?”“My husband got his affair partner pregnant. Now he wants to come back home and reconcile with me. In order for him to end the relationship with his AP, it is suggested to cut off all contact, but he cannot do that because of the baby. How do we handle that?”“How long am I supposed to allow my husband to have a relationship with his co-worker?”“My husband has been battling with a ography addiction. He wanted to seek help, and his counselor laughed at him and told him to leave the marriage. We are like best friends, but I just want to know if our relationship is healable?”
Jan 02, 2019
Marriage Helper Live: 1/2/19
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Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!
Jan 02, 2019
When Helping Hurts, Marriage Helper Live 12/26/18
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Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Erin Hood.  In this podcast, Dr. Joe Beam & Erin Hood address these topics: “My husband and I are no longer on the same spiritual note. My husband wants to be intimate. Previously when we have not been intimate, there is no contact. When should I draw the line?”“My wife wants to move out and doesn’t want to be in our marriage anymore. She wants me to sell her engagement ring, and I respect her wishes, but I do not feel right about it. What should I do?”“Everyone keeps telling me I need to start the divorce proceedings. I’m not sure that is the best thing to do. I want more than anything to save my marriage.”“My husband came back home three weeks ago. I feel a little awkward, and I’m not sure to act around him now.”“My husband said he wants to leave because of the way I’ve been treating him. He is seeing someone else. How can I create interaction between us?”“Do I continue holding on to our marriage if he continues holding on to his relationship with his affair partner?”
Dec 26, 2018
Marriage Helper Live: 12/26/18
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Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Erin Hood. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!
Dec 26, 2018
Marriage Helper live 12/26/18
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Call us live and ask Dr. Beam questions!
Dec 26, 2018
Rebuilding Intimacy, Forgiveness, & more, Marriage Helper Live 12/19/18
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Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes In this podcast, Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes address these topics: “I’m struggling with trying to study every single detail that happens between me and my husband. I want to put my marriage back together, but everything I do seems to pull it further apart. How do I change my negative behaviors and do positive things instead?”“My wife and I have struggled with intimacy for the last 12 years. How do I rekindle intimacy between us?”“My husband and I are trying to reconcile. Does the workshop help with reconciliation?”“My wife and I are struggling financially through our divorce process. I do not feel like selling our house is a good option, but it would alleviate our financial stress. What do you advise on that?”“My wife is struggling to forgive me. I want her to go to the workshop, but how do I get her to attend without her feeling controlled?”“When my daughter left home my husband completely changed and then had an affair. He keeps blaming me for everything. I don’t know what to do.”
Dec 17, 2018
Marriage Helper Live: 12/19/18
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Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!
Dec 17, 2018
Marriage Helper Live: December 19th, 2018
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Call us and ask your questions to Dr. Joe Beam LIVE!
Dec 17, 2018
Husband Won't Admit When He's Wrong, I Physically Harmed Myself In Front Of My Spouse And More On Today's Marriage Helper LIVE!
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Dec 10, 2018
Helping Marriages That Need Hope From Around The World On Today's Marriage Helper LIVE!
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Dec 10, 2018
Push Behaviors, Boundaries, & Control, Marriage Helper Live 12/03/18
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Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes In this podcast, Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes address these topics: “If my husband has rejected going to the Marriage Helper workshop once how do I bring it back up to him again and suggest that we attend?”“My wife asked me for a divorce. I need to set boundaries. How do I do that without driving her away?”“Our divorce was finalized last month. He is living with the other woman. What can I do other than PIES to reconcile the marriage because we do not live near each other?”“How do I help from being controlled if I feel codependent?”“How do I handle when my husband says he is praying for the other woman that broke up with him to come back? He believes that God has spoken to him and is going to bring her back to him even though he knows that God does not break up marriages to start new relationships.”“I have a job offer in the city where my separated spouse is staying. If I take the job and move there will that be a PUSH behavior?”“My husbands keeps vacillating between wanting me and his affair partner. He has chosen me in the past, but then he went back to her. How do I get him back on my side again?”
Dec 03, 2018
Marriage Helper Live: 12/3/18
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Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!
Dec 03, 2018
He's Working With His Affair Partner But We're Intimate, My Husband Almost Left Me For An Online Affair And More On Marriage Helper LIVE!
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Nov 20, 2018
How Long Should I Wait? Marriage Helper Live 11/19/18
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Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Amber Nickle In this podcast, Dr. Joe Beam & Amber Nickle address these topics: “Would you recommend me letting my husband stay at our house through the holidays (as long as he wants) if he commits to go to the workshop. Would you recommend using that as leverage?”“How can I use my coaching sessions most effectively?”“Should I be intimate with my wife during her third trimester?”“My husband will not contact me if I do not contact him first. Every time we see each other, we end up in bed with each other, but he tells me that he is done with our marriage. I don’t know what to do.”“Should I keep waiting for my husband to want to save our marriage or should I walk away?”“My husband had an online affair, and now we are trying to rekindle our relationship. I’m trying to move forward, but I don’t know how to do that.”“My husband wants to give up his parental right for our son. If I let him do that then he won’t be able to see me work on my PIES. I don’t know what is best to do.”
Nov 19, 2018
Marriage Helper Live: 11/19/18
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Live Caller Q&A With Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes. Call in and ask us a question about your marriage!
Nov 19, 2018
Hiring An Attorney, Spicing Up My Sex Life After 17 Years And Handling A Spouse Moving Out On Today's Marriage Helper LIVE!
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Today, for the first time, we answer live callers during our live video broadcast. If you would like to join the show, be sure to find us on facebook at Marriage Helper. Every Monday we go live at 12:30pm CST. Please join our next show, because we'd love to have you and to help you!
Nov 12, 2018
Secret Dating Apps, Stonewalling And The Power Of Patience On Today's Marriage Helper LIVE: With Dr. Joe Beam
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Oct 16, 2018
Your Questions Answered On Today's Marriage Helper LIVE: With Dr. Joe Beam
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Oct 08, 2018
“I asked my husband to give up parental rights because of his affair...was that too harsh?” & more questions answered
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Oct 02, 2018
What Your Kids Need From You But Can’t Tell You: Healthy Co-Parenting During Struggle, Separation Or Divorce
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Sep 17, 2018
Understanding The Meaning Of Love To Better Love Others And Yourself On Marriage Helper LIVE: With Dr. Joe Beam
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Sep 10, 2018
The Third Stage Of Falling Madly In Love (Limerence): Deterioration On Today's Marriage Helper LIVE
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Sep 04, 2018
The Second Stage Of Falling Madly In Love (Limerence): Crystallization On Today's. Marriage Helper LIVE: With Dr. Joe Beam
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Aug 27, 2018
The First Stage Of Falling Madly In Love (Limerence): Infatuation On Today's. Marriage Helper LIVE: With Dr. Joe Beam
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Aug 20, 2018
3 Biggest Questions You Have When Fixing a Marriage and More on Todays - Marriage Helper LIVE: With Jim Pourteau & Kimberly Holmes
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Aug 13, 2018
Rethinking Boundaries & Criteria (UPDATED INFO) - Marriage Helper LIVE: With Dr. Joe Beam
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Aug 07, 2018
What You Need To Know Before Seeing A Marriage Counselor - Marriage Helper LIVE: with Dr. Joe Beam
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Aug 03, 2018
Man Sues Wife's Affair Partner For Nine-Million And Wins In Court Discussed - Marriage Helper LIVE: with Dr. Joe Beam
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Jul 31, 2018
Husband Stuck In The Valley, Magic Wands, Wife In Limerence and More.. - Marriage Helper LIVE: With Dr. Joe Beam
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Jul 16, 2018
Not Ready To Forgive, Intervention Before Reconciliation & Will He Choose Me Over Another Lover? - Marriage Helper LIVE: With Dr. Joe Beam
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Jul 13, 2018
How Her Sexual Addiction Nearly Cost This Couple Their Marriage - Marriage Helper LIVE: With Dr. Joe Beam
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Jul 02, 2018
Wife Divorces Husband, Was Leading A Double Life (You Won't Believe What She Did) - Marriage Helper LIVE: Episode 11
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Jun 21, 2018
Marriage Helper LIVE #10 - How To Know If You're The Problem In Your Marriage and More...
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Jun 11, 2018
Marriage Helper LIVE #9 - The 4 Steps of Becoming More Attractive and More...
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Jun 04, 2018
Marriage Helper LIVE #8 - SMART Contact, Lack Of Communication, Push Behaviors and More...
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May 30, 2018
Marriage Helper LIVE #7 - Aftermath Of An Affair, Ending Your Affair, Considerations Before Divorce and More...
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May 25, 2018
Marriage Helper LIVE #6 - The 3 Different Types Of Affairs, Stages Of Limerence, Emotional Affairs and More...
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May 15, 2018
Marriage Helper LIVE #5 - Betrayal Trauma, Posting Problems On Social Media, Working On Things Seperately Together and More...
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May 08, 2018
Marriage Helper LIVE #2 - Physical Intimacy, Family Interference, Midlife Crisis and More...
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May 03, 2018
Marriage Helper LIVE #4 - Ending Marriage Signs, Alcoholic Spouse, Loving Again and More...
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May 03, 2018
Marriage Helper LIVE #3 - Attracting Your Spouse, Saving Marriage With No Kids, Acceptance and More...
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Apr 24, 2018
Marriage Helper LIVE #1 - Rebuild Trust, Intimate Again, 5 Love Languages, and more…
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Apr 10, 2018
Should I Drag Out My Divorce To Save My Marriage - The Dr. Joe Show
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Dr. Joe Beam has said many times that if your spouse is leaving you for another person that s/he "madly loves" it may be to your benefit to slow the divorce down. Why? Because those states of being "madly in love" (also known as limerence) have a shelf-life. That euphoria doesn't last a lifetime. By slowing down the divorce you may be able to rescue your marriage because the limerence wears off before the divorce is final. Now Dr. Beam is modifying that statement. He still believes that limerence will erode and that there can be value in slowing the divorce. However, in an effort to slow the divorce, some have done things that provoke their abandoning spouses in ways that aren't beneficial. Yes, Dr. Beam strongly believes that in a divorce you should get an attorney and fight for everything that you need, even if that thwarts your spouse's plans. If your spouse becomes angry, say something such as "I'm not the one wanting this divorce. I'm happy to work on the marriage if you are. In the meantime, I will follow my attorney's advice and take care of myself and my children. I'm sorry if that upsets you or doesn't give you everything you want, but I must do what I must do if you continue with the divorce." There is value in your spouse having to face the consequences of his behavior. However, being unreasonable, mean, or vindictive works against you rather than for you. It antagonizes your spouse without any correlating benefit to your mate or you. So where is the balance? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and special guest Jim Pourteau talk about protecting yourself during a divorce while not being unfair or unreasonable in ways that only bring about negative consequences. We are www.MarriageHelper.com are for marriages. Our success rate in helping crisis marriages solve their problems and save the marriage is three out of four. For our free resources ranging from articles, eBooks, and podcasts, see our website. If you wish to know more about our marriage coaching, call 615-472-1161.
Mar 11, 2018
Who To Listen To When Your Marriage Is In Trouble - The Dr. Joe Show
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Who To Listen To When Your Marriage Is In Trouble - The Dr. Joe Show The moment people hear that your marriage is in trouble, you get deluged with every sort of opinion, recommendation, and idea that people can come up with. Most of it is bad. Some of it is motivated by good intentions. However, if the ones who give the advice love you, they most likely aren't very happy with your spouse. Therefore, their viewpoint is skewed against him/her and very much toward protecting you (and maybe toward damaging your spouse). Others who aren't so close think their advice valid because of something they personally experienced or that they witnessed in another. That's enough for them to make judgments about you, your spouse, and your situation even when they know only a little of what's actually happening. These folks typically are adamant that you heed their counsel, although in reality their advice often is the OPPOSITE of what you should be doing. If you doubt that, post a problem on Facebook telling only the barest of information and watch how many people will tell you EXACTLY what you should do... It's scary... Even professional counselors may lead you astray IF: 1) Your situation strikes one of their own emotional chords 2) They decide to diagnose your spouse even though they've never met him/her (or had only limited exposure) 3) They feel the easiest route to your "happiness" is to end the marriage rather than to fight for it So, who do you listen to? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and special guest Jim Pourteau discuss an actual occurrence on Facebook. Using it as the example, they explain why people tend to think their advice is valid and why you should be very careful about which advice you take. They guide you to sources that truly can help rather than leading you astray. If you're not looking only for people to verify what you WANT to do, but actually seeking help for your marriage problems, listen to this program. Also, check out free resources ranging from articles, eBooks, Podcasts, and more on www.MarriageHelper.com.
Mar 04, 2018
My Straying Spouse Returned But Won't Do What I Need - The Dr. Joe Show
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Your spouse strayed. Maybe it was another person. Maybe you threw him/her out because of their behavior. Whatever the cause, you're now trying to make it work again. But... You expect total honesty. You demand that s/he talk about the problem. You want to be understood and you want to understand why s/he did the things s/he did. You thought that reconciling would automatically bring about deep conversations, transparency, accountability, and finally a marriage better than it was before. Are those reasonable expectations? Yes. No. You see, it's all about timing. In this program Dr. Joe Beam and special guest Jim Pourteau discuss that when a couple think they are in reconciliation, many times they are actually in a step before that. No wonder they get frustrated; they're expectations don't match their reality. If you and your spouse are wanting to reconcile - even thinking that you are reconciling - this program will give you insight into what to expect, what NOT to expect, what is okay to demand and which demands may be a deal breaker IF they are made too early. If you wish more information about marriage that you can use, check out the free resources on www.MarriageHelper.com. If you wish to know more about the personal coaching that Dr. Beam and Jim discuss, call 615-472-1161.
Feb 25, 2018
When Should I Divorce - The Dr. Joe Show
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Do those who fight for marriages ever think that a couple should divorce? Yes. At www.MarriageHelper.com we fight for marriages. Since 1999 we've been able to help three out of four married couples in crisis resolve their seemingly insurmountable problems and save their marriages. It's known around the world that we do all we can to help marriages survive. Unfortunately, we know that not all marriages will. So when should one give up? Find the attorney and file for divorce? Is it when your marriage counselor says you should? Our experience says no. Good marriage counselors are worth their weight in gold. Others...well, let's just say sometimes it appears that some take the easy route and suggest divorce when there are still viable options for saving the marriage and making it good again. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and special guest Jim Pourteau discuss how to know when it's time to call it quits. Both are experienced marriage helpers with a great deal of experience working with couples in crisis. Although they find tremendous fulfillment in helping couples who have no hope find hope, they each realize that sometimes a marriage will end. To learn the principles about when to end a marriage - if ever - listen to this program. Additionally, there are many free resources - articles, eBooks, podcasts, and more - for your marriage on www.MarriageHelper.com.
Feb 19, 2018
What Do I Do If I Don't Trust My Husband?
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He had an affair that nearly ended the marriage. He told her he was sorry. He said he wanted them to try to work things out, but he's not quite ready to reconcile. Then he was offered a job in another city. It's lucrative and he accepted. He comes home every weekend to live with his wife and children. They have a great time. He's attentive. The kids love his being there. But then the weekend is over and he heads back. Workable? Maybe. However, there's a catch. During the week, he doesn't call, doesn't take calls, and has no contact whatsoever with his wife or children. They have great weekends. She wonders and worries about what he's doing during the week. It's driving her mad. Is he having another affair? Does he live with some woman over there? What is he doing that prevents him from calling, checking in...or being checked on? She offered an ultimatum of sorts. "I'll be gone when you come on the weekends. You and the kids have a great time but I can't live with not knowing." He told her that if she did that, he would feel pushed away and would give up on the idea of reconciliation. Is he manipulating her? Is there something else going on? What should she do? When should she do it? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam plays the recording of her question and then answers in detail. He suggests the things she needs to consider. He explains how to approach her husband in the way most likely to get him to understand and to start communicating during the week. He helps her think about the consequences if he refuses. If you or someone you know is in a similar situation - in a sort of limbo where the spouse seems to want to save the marriage but also seems not to - this program will help you understand what to do and the possible outcome of various ways of doing it. If your marriage is in trouble, take advantage of the free resources on www.MarriageHelper.com. If you need to talk with someone, call 615-472-1161 and ask about Marriage Helper's Certified Marriage Coaches. If you would like to record a question for Dr. Beam to answer in a podcast, go to https://www.speakpipe.com/joebeam.
Nov 13, 2017
How to overcome the pain of being left
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Her husband left her after thirty years of marriage. She feels lost. She wonders if her life is over. She doesn't know if she can ever be happy again. In the first podcast in this two-part series, Dr. Joe Beam brought in his special guest David Mathews, Director of SparkOfLife.Org. David is an expert in helping people deal with loss - any kind of loss, including the death of a loved one. The principles he provided in that podcast "Life Feels Hopeless After My Spouse Left" laid the foundation for this program. In this broadcast, David and Dr. Beam discuss practical, doable processes to help her - and you - deal with the loss and find healing for her life. That doesn't mean that she has to give up on her marriage. As Dr. Beam teaches in many podcasts, there is a process that can work to bring back the abandoning spouse and make the marriage good again. Even better than it was. Yet...it isn't a guarantee. It is an amazing process. If anything works, this will work. Three out of four couples who attend Marriage Helper's intensive three-day workshop salvage their marriages and develop them to be better than they were before. Three out of four. But that's not four out of four. The practical information you will hear in this podcast will help you find healing and grow on to a meaningful and fulfilling life whether your spouse comes back or not. It's not magic. It takes work. But the result is again having a life of happiness. If you haven't listened to part one "Life Feels Hopeless After My Spouse Left," we suggest you find that podcast and listen to it first. As you listen to this one, take notes, think through the power of the process you will learn, and then put it into action. If your marriage is in trouble, take advantage of the free resources on www.MarriageHelper.com. If you need to talk with someone, call 615-472-1161 and ask about Marriage Helper's Certified Marriage Coaches. If you would like to record a question for Dr. Beam to answer in a podcast, go to https://www.speakpipe.com/joebeam.
Nov 09, 2017
Life feels hopeless after my spouse left
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She met him when she was 16. They became childhood sweethearts through high school and married soon afterward. After thirty years of marriage, he left. Walked out stating that it was over and he wasn't coming back. She still loves him. Her heart is broken. She feels that her life as she has known it will never be again...that she'll never be happy...that she'll never get past the pain. Can she? Should she? Will she? In the program, Dr. Joe Beam interviews David Mathews, Director of SparkOfLife.Org. David is an expert on the pain of loss, the emotions one feels, and the path to healing. He and Dr. Beam discuss in detail why it is natural - and quite okay - for her to feel the pain she feels. However, the go beyond that. They provide an understanding of what she is going through. Then they explain the process she can choose to follow if she wants to heal her hurt and have a meaningful and fulfilled life. It isn't easy...pain never is...but it can be done and life can again have joy and happiness. Does that mean she gives up on trying to save her marriage? No. But it does mean there are processes she needs to embrace...processes to heal her hurt if he comes back...or if he doesn't come back. The principles David shares work for all types of loss, including the death of a loved one, but even to the pain of losing anything or anyone that is important to you. In the next podcast, David gives more information that is practical and doable. In this first installment, he lays the foundation that makes the healing possible. If your marriage is in trouble, take advantage of the free resources on www.MarriageHelper.com. If you need to talk with someone, call 615-472-1161 and ask about Marriage Helper's Certified Marriage Coaches. If you would like to record a question for Dr. Beam to answer in a podcast, go to https://www.speakpipe.com/joebeam.
Nov 06, 2017
When is Being a Safe Place for Your Spouse Damaging - The Dr. Joe Show
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You spouse is involved with someone else. You love your mate and want to save your marriage. You heard about the amazingly effective system taught by Marriage Helper that works powerfully in helping people save their marriages. You went to www.MarriageHelper.com and found the information. You paid close attention when Dr. Beam explained how to be a safe place for your straying spouse and you have tried to be that person in hopes of salvaging your marriage. You grasped that to allow your spouse to be open and transparent - even about his/her affair partner - can lead in time to the restoration of your marriage... But... You've discovered that being a safe p;lace isn't always easy. Allowing, even encouraging, your husband or wife to be open about the affair partner is painful to hear. As a matter of fact, you wonder if it might be doing more harm than good...especially for your own mental, emotional, and physical health. Should you stop? Is there another way? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam gives a brief overview of the section of the Marriage Helper system about being a safe place. He explains why "If anything will work, this system will." BUT, he also explains when it is time to stop being a safe place...to understand why sometimes you can't continue to be the safe place...and how NOT to feel guilty if you stop being the safe place for your spouse. If you prefer to know more about the system before listening, you can find a tremendous amount of information on www.MarriageHelper.com. You can also find Marriage Radio podcasts on www.MarriageRadio.com, on iTunes or Google Play by subscribing free to Marriage Radio, or on our online host Spreaker.com. On the Marraige Helper.com website, you'll also find articles, eBooks, and more podcasts. If you need personal help to understand what, when, or how to do things that can save your marriage, call 615-472-1161 and ask about Marriage Coaching with Marriage Helper's Certified Marriage Coaches. If you'd like to leave a voice message for Dr. Beam to answer on these podcasts, you may do so at www.speakpipe.com/joebeam.
Oct 01, 2017
Should I End It Or Wait For My Husband to Love Me Again - The Dr. Joe Show
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He claimed that God told him to leave his marriage. Later he said that he felt guilt for leaving. He said "I love you but am not in love with you." Later he said, "I don't know how to live my life without you." Then, almost out of the blue, he says "I am in love with you" but he continues to live with the other woman. What do you do? Do you wait for him to evolve back to wanting to be with you over her? Do you go ahead and divorce him and get on with your life? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam, along with his special guest, relationship expert Jim Pourteau, answers the woman's question. You'll hear her describe the situation and ask what she should do. You'll hear the expert explanation of what is going on with her husband, You may be surprised when you hear the answer to her question about whether to divorce or to wait. For more free resources for your marriage go to www.MarriageHelper.com. You can also find more free podcasts by subscribing to Marriage Radio on iTunes or Google Play. You can find all of Dr. Beam's podcasts free on www.MarriageRadio.com. If you would like to speak to one of Dr. Beam's associates about your marriage, call 615-472-1161. Would you like to ask Dr. Beam a question about your marriage or relationship? You can record your question for Dr. Beam to reply in a future podcast at https://www.speakpipe.com/joebeam.
Sep 24, 2017
3 Things To Do If You Want to Save Your Marriage - The Dr. Joe Show
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Your spouse wants out of the marriage. You don't. You love your husband/wife and can't understand why s/he no longer loves you. Is there hope? Yes. Unfortunately, most people in your situation do the wrong things...things that in reality make it less likely you can put the marriage back together. In a previous podcast, Dr. Joe Beam and his special guest Jim Pourteau explained three things NOT to do if you want to save your marriage. In this program, they explain three things that you MUST do if you wish to keep your marriage alive. These are not three magic steps that guarantee your marriage will survive. They are three crucial things to understand and put into practice that will help you save your marriage if anything will. The odds? Excellent. Workshops for marriages in crisis that Dr. Beam developed have a 75% success rate even if one spouse wants out of the marriage and has absolutely no desire for it to continue. Join Dr. Beam and his special guest, relationship expert Jim Pourteau, for this eye-opening program that will equip you with the knowledge you need as well as direct you to the right help if you need help to save your marriage. For more resources, go to www.MarriageHelper.com for free articles, eBooks, podcasts and more. You can also find over 100 podcasts by Dr Beam on iTunes and in Google Play. Subscribe free on those to Marriage Radio If you wish to ask a question for Dr. Beam to answer in future podcasts, record your question at https://www.speakpipe.com/joebeam.
Sep 11, 2017
3 Things NOT To Do If You Want To Save Your Marriage - The Dr. Joe Show
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You just found out your spouse wants out of your marriage. You love your spouse. You don't want the marriage to end. WHAT SHOULD YOU DO?! Before knowing the 3 things you should do, it's very important to understand 3 key things you should NOT do if you are to have any hope for salvaging your marriage. Unfortunately, most people do one or more of these three and put their marriage into greater jeopardy. It's extremely important to know what they are, understand why they cause more problems, and why you should not do them...or stop doing them. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and his special guest, relationship expert Jim Pourteau, discuss three key things to avoid. They explain what they are, why people do them, and why they have greater negative effect than positive. If you love your spouse but s/he does or says any of the following: - wants out of your marriage - says s/he no longer loves you...or that s/he never did - is involved with someone else - claims s/he just wants to be alone - is cold and distant - seems like a different person - is harsh and angry Then you need to hear this program...AND the next podcast in the series "3 Things To Do If You Want to Save Your Marriage." (available beginning Sep 11, 2017) For more marriage and relationship resources, go to www.MarriageHelper.com or call 615-472-1161. To ask Dr. Beam a question to be answered in a future podcast, go to https://www.speakpipe.com/joebeam.
Sep 07, 2017
Communication Key - Avoid Assuming - The Dr. Joe Show
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Want to truly communicate? Be Understood? Understand? If so, there is one thing you MUST STOP from occurring in your conversations that matter AND USE a simple yet powerful system that will make it so much easier to understand and be understood. In this program Dr. Joe Beam explains why writing (especially texting and emails) don't work when you need to talk about things that matter. He also explains why phone calls usually don't work well either. Then how do you communicate? Dr. Beam shares his simple, yet powerful, "Triple A Engine" that turns frustrating conversations into unique interactions that meld two people together. He explains it and illustrates it so you can use it when discussing everything from money...hurt emotions...and even sexual disagreements when one partner wants something the other doesn't want to do. This same "Triple A Engine" works with your friends, children, parents, or anyone else with whom you need to communicate on more than a casual level. It is an especially important communication system for romantic love and marriage. If you are in love, want to be in love, or trying to rescue lost love, this system can lead you to levels of understanding, closeness, and intimacy that few people ever reach. For more information about relationships, go to www.MarriageHelper.com. If you have a relationship question that you would like Dr. Beam to answer in his podcasts, leave a recorded message at https://www.speakpipe.com/joebeam.
Aug 13, 2017
Is it a Sin to Refuse Sex to a Spouse - The Dr. Joe Show
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"Why don't churches talk about sexual refusal?" he asked. He explained that his wife of 28 years quit being sexual with him some six years ago. She said she wasn't interested. He asked her to seek help; she replied that it was his problem. Now he's had enough. He's divorcing her. She's telling the folks at church that she has no idea why he's divorcing her and that he's a bad husband. He wants to go to those folks and tell them what's really going on. What should he do? Is there a solution? In this program Dr. Joe Beam relies not just on his PhD earned while researching marital and sexual satisfaction, but also on his Bachelor's degree and many hours of graduate courses in Bible. He explains what the Bible says about sexuality in marriage and points out a specific section that addresses directly the subject of sexual refusal in marriage. Dr. Beam points out to the caller that there may be an underlying problem that led to her not wanting to have sex with him...but that the man is correct that the Bible teaches sexually fulfilling each other. How does a couple resolve those issues? In this program, you'll learn the basic principles as well as how to find further help for making the sexual aspects of your marriage more fulfilling. For more information about marriage - especially marriage problems - check out the many free articles, podcasts, eBooks, and more on www.MarriageHelper.com. To ask Dr. Beam your question, you may record it at www.SpeakPipe.com/JoeBeam. Then listen to these podcasts to hear Dr. Beam's answers and suggestions.
Aug 07, 2017
I Don't Trust My Spouse Who Came Back - The Dr. Joe Show
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The caller says that her husband came back home after ending the affair. He's nicer, kinder, and more understanding than he was before the affair happened. His children love the change in him...his son now views his dad as his best friend. But... He won't change his cell phone number. He won't make any changes to his social media. His wife asks. He doesn't comply. Now she's worried that he's still involved with the other woman. Her friends aren't helping with their advice. As a result, she's pulling away from him. She asks what she should do. In this program Dr. Joe Beam answers her questions about what she should do to get her husband to do what she needs to help her feel more secure. He also explains what might be to her advantage to tolerate and what to do if she can't live with the fear of his continued involvement with the other woman. If you wish to leave a question for Dr. Beam to answer in these podcasts, you may record it at www.SpeakPipe.com/JoeBeam. For articles, podcasts, and valuable information about marriages (especially problem marriages) go to www.MarriageHelper.com.
Jul 31, 2017
Newlywed Husband Suddenly Found a "Soul Mate" - The Dr. Joe Show
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They were together for a decade before they decided to marry. It was wonderful; he told her how happy he was that she is his wife. They laughed. Had fun. Enjoyed life. Until the night he told her that he had found his "soul mate" and wanted his wife's permission to date this amazing new woman in his life. The wife, of course, was devastated. She still loves him. She's trying to find what suddenly went wrong...what she did...what happened...how he could love her so intensely and then, without warning, be "madly in love" with another. Listen to her story. Hear her pain. Understand her self-doubt. Then hear Dr. Joe Beam explain to her what limerence is. He addresses her concern that she was the problem. He helps her think through what likely happened. Most importantly, he gives her specific suggestions about what she should NOT do if she wants to salvage her marriage and what she MUST do if there is a chance of reconciliation. If you have a question for Dr. Beam, go to https://www.speakpipe.com/JoeBeam. After you record your question or comment. We NEVER sell your information to anyone. We ask for your email in case Dr. Beam decides to respond directly to you.
Jul 11, 2017
Rob and Kimberly's Story: How the Military, Anger, and Addiction Almost Ended Our Marriage (and how we saved it)
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Military marriages have the highest rate of divorce in America. Couple that with lots of anger, addiction, and separation...and there's plenty of reasons to divorce. Kimberly Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, and her husband Rob married while Rob was in the military. In the first year of marriage, they moved halfway around the world. In their second year of marriage, they separated for a year. In their third year of marriage, anger and addiction split them even further apart and their marriage was headed for divorce. Not the "newlywed years" that others had told them about. However, Rob and Kimberly overcame the odds and fought for their marriage. But not at the same time. Hear their story in this podcast and learn how they learned how to deal with anger, addiction, and being separated. Learn more about Marriage Helper at www.marriagehelper.com Or call 615.472.1161 or 866.903.0990
Jul 03, 2017
One Thing You Can Do to Bring Your Spouse Back
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Is your spouse emotionally disengaged? Physically gone? Have you relentlessly tried searching, trying to figure out what you can do to bring your spouse back or make your spouse want to be in the marriage at all, only to find yourself completely overwhelmed? I understand. If you go to Google and type in "what to do to save a marriage" or "what to do to bring a spouse back", the information is insane. A lot of it contradicts the other, and if you try to implement some from here and some from there, then you'll find yourself frustrated and back at square one. We want to help make this easy for you. We have laid it out, and figured out the FIRST thing that you should do when trying to bring your spouse back. We teach you how in this episode. Be sure to listen, subscribe, and review to help us help more couples! Contact us to learn how we can help you save your marriage: www.marriagehelper.com 615.472.1161 or 866.903.0990
Jun 26, 2017
Did God Send You Your Lover? - The Dr. Joe Show
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She's married to one but in love with another. She said she was Christian and spoke of her great love for God and amazing relationship with Jesus. She mentioned that she had prayed about what she was to do and in response God "told" her to divorce her husband and be with her lover...that He had sent her this lover and wanted her to be with him. She talked about how she had quit interacting with Christian people because they were mean and judgmental about her leaving her husband for another. She feels complete confidence that God answered her prayer for a wonderful marriage by providing the right man for a new marriage. Yes, she had slept with her lover, but God was fine with that also. "God is love. I feel love for him. Therefore, this is of God." Is it? In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses whether God sends people lovers to replace their spouses. Dr. Beam usually approaches relationship questions from his educational and social science background. When he speaks, he refers to solid research as he gives relevant examples and replies to specific questions. However, because of this topic (and the questions he continues to receive about it) in this program he refers to Scripture. (Dr. Beam's Bachelor's degree is in Bible. He has more than 30 graduate hours in Bible.) He does give relevant examples, but he also reads verses and ask the listener to consider what they really say. If you are a Christian and in love with someone other than your spouse...or your Christian spouse is in love with someone other than you, this program will be a fascinating Bible study for you that can bring you peace.
Jun 07, 2017
Why Should I Stay Married After My Spouse's Affair
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Has your spouse cheated? Are your friends and family urging you to kick your mate out? Punish him or her? Get on with your life? But you find yourself wondering if that is what you should do. If your spouse wants to come back, should you allow it? If you do, can you have a good marriage again or will you always have problems with trust...hurt...maybe even self doubt? If your spouse is "in love" with someone else and doesn't want to come back, is your marriage over? Is there a way to put it back together? Even if there is, do you have the desire or the strength to go through your pain and make your marriage good again? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam provides the pros and cons of saving a marriage after infidelity. He explains the three types of extramarital affairs. He gives you the primary points to consider in deciding whether to take back a spouse who strayed...or to win back the spouse who is still straying. Find more information about why people stray, why they sometimes feel that they are "madly in love" with another, why it can be the best thing for your own life to salvage the marriage, and how it can be done when your spouse is sorry and wants to come back...and how it can be done when your spouse is convinced s/he's in love with someone else and doesn't want to come back.
May 25, 2017
3 Steps to Getting a Distant Spouse to Talk to You
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Having trouble getting your spouse to talk? Maybe you are separated. Maybe you are living in the same house but your spouse doesn't want to talk to you and has completely shut down. This podcast will teach you the 3 things to get to encourage your spouse to talk.
May 16, 2017
Why Won't God Answer Prayers for My Marriage - Leighann McCoy and Dr. Joe Beam
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You've prayed. Others have prayed with you...for you. Your children pour out their hearts. Yet, your marriage continues to spiral downward. Someone on TV said that if only you have enough faith, God will do whatever you ask. (Then s/he asks you for a check to prove your faith...) Well-meaning friends tell you God is faithful if only you will continue to be...that He will bring about healing for your marriage...and that you should not doubt. However, time passes, your prayers change from petition to aggravation. Why isn't God listening? Why isn't He doing what you ask? As one lady recently said, "I'm done with God. I've given Him plenty of opportunity to change my husband and He's done nothing." Can God answer prayers about marriage? Does He? Does He care? Will He intervene in the situations of life in which we find ourselves? Will He change your spouse so that they stop doing the things hurting you, your children, your marriage...and even to themselves? To answer those questions Dr. Beam welcomes Leighann McCoy. Leighann knows about REAL life. She survived cancer. She fought through major difficulties with her family. Leighann also knows God. She is a prayer warrior. She writes books about prayer, spiritual warfare, especially concerning families (http://amzn.to/2okIEzG). She offers prayer courses on her website http://www.leighannmccoy.com. During this program, she joins Dr. Beam to discuss how people in crisis marriages should pray, what they should expect from God in return, and how to deal with God's answers. To speak with Leighann and Dr. Beam during the program, call 646.378.0424. The program airs live at 9 p.m. central time, Tuesday, April 11, 2017 at http://www.marriageradio.com/why-wont-god-answer-prayers-for-my-marriage/.
Apr 12, 2017
Why Won't God Answer Prayers for My Marriage - Leighann McCoy and Dr. Joe Beam
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You've prayed. Others have prayed with you...for you. Your children pour out their hearts. Yet, your marriage continues to spiral downward. Someone on TV tells you that if only you have enough faith, God will do whatever you ask. (Then s/he asks you for a check to prove your faith...) Well-meaning friends tell you that God is faithful if only you will continue to be...that He will bring about healing for your marriage...and that you should not doubt. However, time passes, your prayers change from petition to aggravation. Why isn't God listening? Why isn't He doing what you ask? As one lady recently said, "I'm done with God. I've given Him plenty of opportunity to change my husband and He's done nothing." Can God answer prayers about marriage? Does He? Does He care about your pain? Will He intervene in the messy situations of life in which we find ourselves? Will He change your husband or wife so that they stop doing the things hurting you, your children, your marriage...and even to themselves? Is God there??? To answer those questions and more, Dr. Joe Beam welcomes special guest Leighann McCoy. Leighann knows about REAL life. She survived cancer. She fought through major difficulties with her family. Leighann also knows God. She is a prayer warrior. She writes great books about prayer, spiritual warfare, especially spiritual warfare and families, and similar topics. (http://amzn.to/2okIEzG) She offers prayer courses - including three new free courses - on her website http://www.leighannmccoy.com. During this program, she joins Dr. Beam to discuss how people in crisis marriages should pray, what they should expect from God in return, and how to deal with God's answers. To speak with Leighann and Dr. Beam during the program, call 646.378.0424. The program airs live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, Tuesday, April 11, 2017.
Apr 12, 2017
My Spouse Says I'm Controlling - The Dr. Joe Show
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Are you controlling?  Really? Or is your spouse trying to manipulate you? S/he claims you're controlling because you're an obstacle to him or her doing whatever they wish. Maybe there's a combination. You have been controlling and now your spouse is using that to manipulate you into inaction by accusing you of being controlling now. If you are controlling, eventually that behavior will destroy your marriage. If you're being manipulated, backing off on a matter could make a clear path for your spouse to hurt you. If you have been controlling, but now you feel you must take a stand to stop your spouse from doing things detrimental to your marriage, stopping your stand might be the worst thing you can do. So...how do you know?  What do you do? When do you back off and when do you take your stand? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains what control in a relationship is. He discusses why people control and how they can stop controlling. He also points out that sometimes there needs to be control...even if in the past your controlling behavior led to a current unpleasant situation.  Finally, Dr. Beam explains step by step how a person who has damaged his or her relationship with a spouse (or children) by controlling can overcome that and renew relationship...even save a marriage. For all those who listen to the program (and even if you skip the program!), Dr. Beam offers a free eBook about control that includes a thirty-question questionnaire to help you evaluate whether you're controlling or not. It is available at http://your.marriagehelper.com/Control. Listen at http://www.marriageradio.com/my-spouse-says-im-controlling/
Apr 05, 2017
My Spouse Says I'm Controlling - The Dr. Joe Show
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Are you controlling?  Really? Or is your spouse trying to manipulate you? S/he claims you're controlling because you're an obstacle to him or her doing whatever they wish. Maybe there's a combination. You have been controlling and now your spouse is using that to manipulate you into inaction by accusing you of being controlling now. If you are controlling, eventually that behavior will destroy your marriage. If you're being manipulated, backing off on a matter could make a clear path for your spouse to hurt you. If you have been controlling, but now you feel you must take a stand to stop your spouse from doing things detrimental to your marriage, stopping your stand might be the worst thing you can do. So...how do you know?  What do you do? When do you back off and when do you take your stand? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains what control in a relationship is. He discusses why people control and how they can stop controlling. He also points out that sometimes there needs to be control...even if in the past your controlling behavior led to a current unpleasant situation.  Finally, Dr. Beam explains step by step how a person who has damaged his or her relationship with a spouse (or children) by controlling can overcome that and renew relationship...even save a marriage. For all those who listen to the program (and even if you skip the program!), Dr. Beam offers a free eBook about control that includes a thirty-question questionnaire to help you evaluate whether you're controlling or not. It is available at http://your.marriagehelper.com/Control. Listen at http://www.marriageradio.com/my-spouse-says-im-controlling/
Apr 05, 2017
My Spouse Says I'm Controlling - The Dr. Joe Show
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Are you controlling?  Really? Or is your spouse trying to manipulate you? S/he claims you're controlling because you're an obstacle to him or her doing whatever they wish. Maybe there's a combination. You have been controlling and now your spouse is using that to manipulate you into inaction by accusing you of being controlling now. If you are controlling, eventually that behavior will destroy your marriage. If you're being manipulated, backing off on a matter could make a clear path for your spouse to hurt you. If you have been controlling, but now you feel you must take a stand to stop your spouse from doing things detrimental to your marriage, stopping your stand might be the worst thing you can do. So...how do you know?  What do you do? When do you back off and when do you take your stand? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains what control in a relationship is. He discusses why people control and how they can stop controlling. He also points out that sometimes there needs to be control...even if in the past your controlling behavior led to a current unpleasant situation.  Finally, Dr. Beam explains step by step how a person who has damaged his or her relationship with a spouse (or children) by controlling can overcome that and renew relationship...even save a marriage. For all those who listen to the program (and even if you skip the program!), Dr. Beam offers a free eBook about control that includes a thirty-question questionnaire to help you evaluate whether you're controlling or not. It is available at http://your.marriagehelper.com/Control. Listen at http://www.marriageradio.com/my-spouse-says-im-controlling/
Apr 05, 2017
Controlling and Dominant Spouses - The Dr. Joe Show
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No one wants to be treated as a child...especially by the person that is supposed to be our partner...our equal...our mate. We don't appreciate being told what to think, how to act, what to feel, or what to believe. Each of us craves being accepted and appreciated for who we are...as we are. When we were children, we understood the need for an authority figure to guide us, teach us, and, sometimes, to command us. But we aren't children and we don't want our husbands or wives telling us what we must do, think, say, or feel to keep from being chastised or punished...or abandoned. I want...and deserve...a partner with whom I can have union based on love, NOT a relationship based on making him or her happy by yielding to nearly every way s/he thinks things should be done. In our work with marriages, we found that one of the most common reasons for major marital discord is a spouse who feels controlled, disrespected, or dominated by the other. Interestingly, often the dominating spouse doesn't believe s/he is being controlling. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, explain why people control others and how they do it. More importantly, they explain how a person being controlled can put an end to that WITHOUT putting an end to the marriage. It won't stop on its own, but it can be stopped when the controlled spouse knows what to do. During the program Dr. Beam and Ms. Holmes offer free access to this free eBook about control. You may receive that free eBook whether you listen to the program or not by going to this link. Your.MarriageHelper.com/Control The program is available now on www.MarriageRadio.com, and www.BlogTalkRadio.com.
Mar 29, 2017
Controlling and Dominant Spouses - The Dr. Joe Show
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No one wants to be treated as a child...especially by the person that is supposed to be our partner...our equal...our mate. We don't appreciate being told what to think, how to act, what to feel, or what to believe. Each of us craves being accepted and appreciated for who we are...as we are. When we were children, we understood the need for an authority figure to guide us, teach us, and, sometimes, to command us. But we aren't children and we don't want our husbands or wives telling us what we must do, think, say, or feel to keep from being chastised or punished...or abandoned. I want...and deserve...a partner with whom I can have union based on love, NOT a relationship based on making him or her happy by yielding to nearly every way s/he thinks things should be done. In our work with marriages, we found that one of the most common reasons for major marital discord is a spouse who feels controlled, disrespected, or dominated by the other. Interestingly, often the dominating spouse doesn't believe s/he is being controlling. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, explain why people control others and how they do it. More importantly, they explain how a person being controlled can put an end to that WITHOUT putting an end to the marriage. It won't stop on its own, but it can be stopped when the controlled spouse knows what to do. During the program Dr. Beam and Ms. Holmes offer free access to this free eBook about control. You may receive that free eBook whether you listen to the program or not by going to this link. Your.MarriageHelper.com/Control The program is available now on www.MarriageRadio.com, and www.BlogTalkRadio.com.
Mar 29, 2017
Controlling and Dominant Spouses - The Dr. Joe Show
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No one wants to be treated as a child...especially by the person that is supposed to be our partner...our equal...our mate. We don't appreciate being told what to think, how to act, what to feel, or what to believe. Each of us craves being accepted and appreciated for who we are...as we are. When we were children, we understood the need for an authority figure to guide us, teach us, and, sometimes, to command us. But we aren't children and we don't want our husbands or wives telling us what we must do, think, say, or feel to keep from being chastised or punished...or abandoned. I want...and deserve...a partner with whom I can have union based on love, NOT a relationship based on making him or her happy by yielding to nearly every way s/he thinks things should be done. In our work with marriages, we found that one of the most common reasons for major marital discord is a spouse who feels controlled, disrespected, or dominated by the other. Interestingly, often the dominating spouse doesn't believe s/he is being controlling. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, explain why people control others and how they do it. More importantly, they explain how a person being controlled can put an end to that WITHOUT putting an end to the marriage. It won't stop on its own, but it can be stopped when the controlled spouse knows what to do. During the program Dr. Beam and Ms. Holmes offer free access to this free eBook about control. You may receive that free eBook whether you listen to the program or not by going to this link. Your.MarriageHelper.com/Control The program is available now on www.MarriageRadio.com, and www.BlogTalkRadio.com.
Mar 29, 2017
What's On Your Mind About Love? - The Dr. Joe Show
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Love. Lots of people think they know what it is...until they realize that they don't. Think of the hit songs from your lifetime. How many were about wanting to be loved, enjoying amazing love, or longing for lost love? Why those topics? Because most adults fit into one of those three categories. Some wonder where their lover may come from...if at all. Others hope the one they secretly love will finally come to realize it and respond with passion. Many bask in the deep emotions of shared love...and think it will be like this forever. And way too many still love the person who once loved them but now is gone... So what is love really? Is it the ecstatic emotion of new romance? Is it the security of trusting the person you love to always love you in return? Is it something that really does last a lifetime or is it fleeting...lasting a few years at best? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam responds to your questions about love. What it is. How to know if you really are in love. How long it lasts. When it ends. Why it ends. Can it last a lifetime? And, maybe most important to many, if it has ended can it be rekindled? The program begins at 9 p.m. (Central), March 22, 2016. You may speak with Dr. Beam by calling 646.378.0424 during the program.
Mar 23, 2017
What's On Your Mind About Love? - The Dr. Joe Show
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Love. Lots of people think they know what it is...until they realize that they don't. Think of the hit songs from your lifetime. How many were about wanting to be loved, enjoying amazing love, or longing for lost love? Why those topics? Because most adults fit into one of those three categories. Some wonder where their lover may come from...if at all. Others hope the one they secretly love will finally come to realize it and respond with passion. Many bask in the deep emotions of shared love...and think it will be like this forever. And way too many still love the person who once loved them but now is gone... So what is love really? Is it the ecstatic emotion of new romance? Is it the security of trusting the person you love to always love you in return? Is it something that really does last a lifetime or is it fleeting...lasting a few years at best? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam responds to your questions about love. What it is. How to know if you really are in love. How long it lasts. When it ends. Why it ends. Can it last a lifetime? And, maybe most important to many, if it has ended can it be rekindled? The program begins at 9 p.m. (Central), March 22, 2016. You may speak with Dr. Beam by calling 646.378.0424 during the program.
Mar 23, 2017
What's On Your Mind About Love? - The Dr. Joe Show
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Love. Lots of people think they know what it is...until they realize that they don't. Think of the hit songs from your lifetime. How many were about wanting to be loved, enjoying amazing love, or longing for lost love? Why those topics? Because most adults fit into one of those three categories. Some wonder where their lover may come from...if at all. Others hope the one they secretly love will finally come to realize it and respond with passion. Many bask in the deep emotions of shared love...and think it will be like this forever. And way too many still love the person who once loved them but now is gone... So what is love really? Is it the ecstatic emotion of new romance? Is it the security of trusting the person you love to always love you in return? Is it something that really does last a lifetime or is it fleeting...lasting a few years at best? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam responds to your questions about love. What it is. How to know if you really are in love. How long it lasts. When it ends. Why it ends. Can it last a lifetime? And, maybe most important to many, if it has ended can it be rekindled? The program begins at 9 p.m. (Central), March 22, 2016. You may speak with Dr. Beam by calling 646.378.0424 during the program.
Mar 23, 2017
The 3 Things Kids MUST Have to Be Resilient During Separation and Divorce
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[Episode brought to you by WhatAboutMe.Org - a division of Marriage Helper that helps children navigate through how to deal with their parents' divorce. Donate to the mission at whataboutme.org/donate] We hear it all the time, "Kids are resilient!" But is it true?  If I fall down the stairs and break my leg, will my leg heal? Actually, no it won't heal. If I don't do anything to help my leg heal, then it will only get worse. If I go to the doctor, get a cast, go to physical therapy, and do all the things necessary for my leg to heal, then yes, it will heal.  Otherwise...you get the picture. We understand this for every other area of health and wellness in life. But when it comes to thinking about how children are affected during divorce or separation, all of a sudden we expect the children to know exactly what to do to help themselves heal. And that's not how it happens. Can children be resilient? YES. Absolutely. Will they be resilient on their own? Highly unlikely. It is up to parents, friends, and family members to help children become resilient. In this episode, we discuss the 3 must-do's in helping your child become resilient.  [REMEMBER: Now through the end of the month, Marriage Helper is offering a $500 travel credit when you register for the Marriage Helper workshop. We'd love to see you there! - your.marriagehelper.com/marriage-workshop] Listen at http://www.marriageradio.com/the-3-things-kids-must-have-to-be-resilient-during-separation-and-divorce/
Mar 21, 2017
The 3 Things Kids MUST Have to Be Resilient During Separation and Divorce
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[Episode brought to you by WhatAboutMe.Org - a division of Marriage Helper that helps children navigate through how to deal with their parents' divorce. Donate to the mission at whataboutme.org/donate] We hear it all the time, "Kids are resilient!" But is it true?  If I fall down the stairs and break my leg, will my leg heal? Actually, no it won't heal. If I don't do anything to help my leg heal, then it will only get worse. If I go to the doctor, get a cast, go to physical therapy, and do all the things necessary for my leg to heal, then yes, it will heal.  Otherwise...you get the picture. We understand this for every other area of health and wellness in life. But when it comes to thinking about how children are affected during divorce or separation, all of a sudden we expect the children to know exactly what to do to help themselves heal. And that's not how it happens. Can children be resilient? YES. Absolutely. Will they be resilient on their own? Highly unlikely. It is up to parents, friends, and family members to help children become resilient. In this episode, we discuss the 3 must-do's in helping your child become resilient.  [REMEMBER: Now through the end of the month, Marriage Helper is offering a $500 travel credit when you register for the Marriage Helper workshop. We'd love to see you there! - your.marriagehelper.com/marriage-workshop]
Mar 21, 2017
[SUCCESS STORY] Marriage Saved After 7 Years of Decline and an Affair
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It was a slow decline. 7 years ago is when Brandon and Carrie’s marriage started experiencing troubles, but they didn’t realize it yet. Over the years, they grew apart. Even though they were living in the same house. Work, kids, and the daily occurrences of life started tearing them apart from each other until one day, it seemed like everything came crashing down all at once. What did they do next and where are they now? That’s what we are going to explore in this week’s episode of Marriage Radio. At Marriage Helper, we believe in saving marriages and strengthening families. The main ways we do that are through our live workshops and online courses. Visit marriagehelper.com for more information, or call us at 615.472.1161 or 866.903.0990.
Mar 14, 2017
[SUCCESS STORY] Marriage Saved After 7 Years of Decline and an Affair
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It was a slow decline. 7 years ago is when Brandon and Carrie’s marriage started experiencing troubles, but they didn’t realize it yet. Over the years, they grew apart. Even though they were living in the same house. Work, kids, and the daily occurrences of life started tearing them apart from each other until one day, it seemed like everything came crashing down all at once. What did they do next and where are they now? That’s what we are going to explore in this week’s episode of Marriage Radio. At Marriage Helper, we believe in saving marriages and strengthening families. The main ways we do that are through our live workshops and online courses. Visit marriagehelper.com for more information, or call us at 615.472.1161 or 866.903.0990.
Mar 14, 2017
[Graduate Story] Jana's Experience with the Online Course and 911 Workshop
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Many times we have people asking us to hear stories of people who have been through our online course and attended our Marriage Helper workshops.  In this podcast, we interview an online course member and a recent Marriage Helper 911 workshop graduate to find out:  What her marriage was like before getting helpWhy she decided to get helpWhat she learned that made major differences in her marriageHow she got her spouse to agree to go to the workshop with herWhat she learned at the workshop that made all the difference in the worldHow her marriage is doing nowHer HONEST OPINION of what you should do in your situation Plus - THIS MONTH ONLY (March 2017) special $500 travel credit towards the workshop! Call 615.472.1161 for details.  Visit us at marriagehelper.com
Mar 07, 2017
[Graduate Story] Jana's Experience with the Online Course and 911 Workshop
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Many times we have people asking us to hear stories of people who have been through our online course and attended our Marriage Helper workshops.  In this podcast, we interview an online course member and a recent Marriage Helper 911 workshop graduate to find out:  What her marriage was like before getting helpWhy she decided to get helpWhat she learned that made major differences in her marriageHow she got her spouse to agree to go to the workshop with herWhat she learned at the workshop that made all the difference in the worldHow her marriage is doing nowHer HONEST OPINION of what you should do in your situation Plus - THIS MONTH ONLY (March 2017) special $500 travel credit towards the workshop! Call 615.472.1161 for details.  Visit us at marriagehelper.com
Mar 07, 2017
[MINISODE] How to Work on Your PIES When There's Obstacles
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Want to work on becoming more attractive, but you feel like there are so many obstacles in your way? Kids, spouse living at home, job, and more?  Here's the question that we received: "My situation is unique in the sense that my husband and I are not separated. We are in the same house. When it comes to working on my PIES, it's hard at times because we have kids, my husband's hours are all over the place, and I am so busy with our daughter. It's also hard because there's no intimacy...so I'm not very motivated to work on my PIES. How do I do the PIES when are are other obstacles?" We'll talk about how to overcome these in this episode.
Mar 01, 2017
[MINISODE] How to Work on Your PIES When There's Obstacles
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Want to work on becoming more attractive, but you feel like there are so many obstacles in your way? Kids, spouse living at home, job, and more?  Here's the question that we received: "My situation is unique in the sense that my husband and I are not separated. We are in the same house. When it comes to working on my PIES, it's hard at times because we have kids, my husband's hours are all over the place, and I am so busy with our daughter. It's also hard because there's no intimacy...so I'm not very motivated to work on my PIES. How do I do the PIES when are are other obstacles?" We'll talk about how to overcome these in this episode.
Mar 01, 2017
When to End a Marriage - The Dr. Joe Show
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We fight for marriages. All marriages. No matter what has happened. BUT sometimes they end. Actually, sometimes they should end. We realize that sounds as if it is in opposition to our mission. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains when it is not. We offer many resources on MarriageHelper.com to help save marriages. We provide online courses for the spouse who wishes to save the marriage when the other doesn't. We post many podcasts that address relationship problems and provide valuable, life-altering information. Our weekend intensive, Marriage Helper 911, has an amazing success rate. Even though the vast majority of couples who attend have one spouse who has NO desire to save the marriage (usually they come to get a deal in the divorce), three out of four couples who go through the workshop actually turn their crisis marriages around and make it good again. Yet... Some marriages end.  If you suffer in a marriage - whether you are the one who wants out or the one who wishes to save it - you've asked yourself countless times... "When is enough, enough?" "When do I stop trying?"  "How can I know when it's best to end it?" Dr. Joe Beam gives you the points to consider when making those decisions. What's important. What's selfish. How to find the peace you need in your heart. Although Dr. Beam cannot tell you the exact moment...actually he won't tell you what you must do; instead he teaches the principles, makes them clear, and then leaves it to you to decide...in this program you can find the answer as to whether to fight for your marriage or end it. And if the decision is to fight, where to find the right help.
Mar 01, 2017
When to End a Marriage - The Dr. Joe Show
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We fight for marriages. All marriages. No matter what has happened. BUT sometimes they end. Actually, sometimes they should end. We realize that sounds as if it is in opposition to our mission. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains when it is not. We offer many resources on MarriageHelper.com to help save marriages. We provide online courses for the spouse who wishes to save the marriage when the other doesn't. We post many podcasts that address relationship problems and provide valuable, life-altering information. Our weekend intensive, Marriage Helper 911, has an amazing success rate. Even though the vast majority of couples who attend have one spouse who has NO desire to save the marriage (usually they come to get a deal in the divorce), three out of four couples who go through the workshop actually turn their crisis marriages around and make it good again. Yet... Some marriages end.  If you suffer in a marriage - whether you are the one who wants out or the one who wishes to save it - you've asked yourself countless times... "When is enough, enough?" "When do I stop trying?"  "How can I know when it's best to end it?" Dr. Joe Beam gives you the points to consider when making those decisions. What's important. What's selfish. How to find the peace you need in your heart. Although Dr. Beam cannot tell you the exact moment...actually he won't tell you what you must do; instead he teaches the principles, makes them clear, and then leaves it to you to decide...in this program you can find the answer as to whether to fight for your marriage or end it. And if the decision is to fight, where to find the right help.
Mar 01, 2017
Dr. Joe Answers Your Questions - The Dr. Joe Show
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We receive so many questions ranging over so many aspects of marriage, relationships, love, sex, and more that we can't get to them all. This show helps alleviate that problem. Ask anything you wish about any of the topics in the paragraph above. Or other topics about relationships or marriage if there is something you would like to discuss. There will be a time limit to each call. Therefore, if you take too much time to tell your story, Dr. Beam won't have time to respond. Be succinct so that he can answer and you have time for clarifying questions or to disagree. At the end of the allotted time per caller, Dr. Beam will have to move to the next caller. It's live, February 23, beginning at 7 p.m. Central time. Listen at www.MarriageRadio.com, BlogTalkRadio or on your smart phone. Call 646-378-0424 during the program and press 1 when you hear the menu if you wish to speak with Dr. Beam. REMEMBER that for the sake of fairness, there will be a mandatory time limit to each caller.
Feb 24, 2017
Dr. Joe Answers Your Questions - The Dr. Joe Show
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We receive so many questions ranging over so many aspects of marriage, relationships, love, sex, and more that we can't get to them all. This show helps alleviate that problem. Ask anything you wish about any of the topics in the paragraph above. Or other topics about relationships or marriage if there is something you would like to discuss. There will be a time limit to each call. Therefore, if you take too much time to tell your story, Dr. Beam won't have time to respond. Be succinct so that he can answer and you have time for clarifying questions or to disagree. At the end of the allotted time per caller, Dr. Beam will have to move to the next caller. It's live, February 23, beginning at 7 p.m. Central time. Listen at www.MarriageRadio.com, BlogTalkRadio or on your smart phone. Call 646-378-0424 during the program and press 1 when you hear the menu if you wish to speak with Dr. Beam. REMEMBER that for the sake of fairness, there will be a mandatory time limit to each caller.
Feb 24, 2017
Dr. Joe Answers Your Questions - The Dr. Joe Show
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We receive so many questions ranging over so many aspects of marriage, relationships, love, sex, and more that we can't get to them all. This show helps alleviate that problem. Ask anything you wish about any of the topics in the paragraph above. Or other topics about relationships or marriage if there is something you would like to discuss. There will be a time limit to each call. Therefore, if you take too much time to tell your story, Dr. Beam won't have time to respond. Be succinct so that he can answer and you have time for clarifying questions or to disagree. At the end of the allotted time per caller, Dr. Beam will have to move to the next caller. It's live, February 23, beginning at 7 p.m. Central time. Listen at www.MarriageRadio.com, BlogTalkRadio or on your smart phone. Call 646-378-0424 during the program and press 1 when you hear the menu if you wish to speak with Dr. Beam. REMEMBER that for the sake of fairness, there will be a mandatory time limit to each caller.
Feb 24, 2017
How Pornography Affects Marriages - w/ Clay Olsen of Fight the New Drug
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How does sexually explicit material affect relationships? With your spouse or with your children? What can you do about it?  In this podcast, we interview Clay Olsen, co-founder of Fight The New Drug, a global movement focused on spreading the word on how this type of media affects relationships. As Fight The New Drug puts it, "it kills love. In this podcast, we talk about how sexually explicit material affects marriages, what to do if you have a spouse who is addicted and how to respond. We also talk about how to parent children in today's society, how to bring up the issue of sexually explicit material, and how to continue those conversations. For more about Fight the New Drug, visit fightthenewdrug.org.
Feb 21, 2017
How Pornography Affects Marriages - w/ Clay Olsen of Fight the New Drug
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How does sexually explicit material affect relationships? With your spouse or with your children? What can you do about it?  In this podcast, we interview Clay Olsen, co-founder of Fight The New Drug, a global movement focused on spreading the word on how this type of media affects relationships. As Fight The New Drug puts it, "it kills love. In this podcast, we talk about how sexually explicit material affects marriages, what to do if you have a spouse who is addicted and how to respond. We also talk about how to parent children in today's society, how to bring up the issue of sexually explicit material, and how to continue those conversations. For more about Fight the New Drug, visit fightthenewdrug.org.
Feb 21, 2017
How to Reconnect After a Major Relationship Problem
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Not every relationship or marriage has a major meltdown... But when it happens, how do you put things back together? How do you get past the hurt? The broken trust? The fear that something else is coming...especially when one partner developed a deep emotional relationship with someone else, but has decided to try to make your relationship work again... How does the straying partner get over the emotional connection with that other person? How can s/he learn to love you again...and you learn to love him/her again with the security that your relationship will last a lifetime? There are things to do when reconciling a relationship. There are things NOT to do. There are also "gray" areas where you have to use your wisdom. (Knowing the right principles helps tremendously with this.) In this program Dr. Joe Beam explains why relationships fail and how they can be put back together again. He explains the principles of reconciliation and the specific do's and don'ts that can make or break the process. He addresses both the straying spouse and the standing spouse.
Feb 16, 2017
Risking Love (Can Kids Learn to Love Again After Divorce) - The Dr. Joe Show
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No matter the age, we hurt deeply when we feel abandoned by someone we thought loved us...or that should have loved us. The information in this program can be used effectively by an adult dealing with lost love, such as a divorce. It also gives effective directions for helping a spouse...or a potential spouse...risk loving you when deep inside they feel that they cannot trust anyone to always love them. In this program Dr. Joe Beam and Justin Prince, Program Director for the amazing service to kids What About Me, discuss seven stages kids go through when their parents fight and/or divorce. (Adults often go through the same seven...) This program gives specific steps and illustrates clearly that path that a parent can take to help his or her children risk loving again. Or help you risk loving again. And show you how to help someone you love trust you enough to love you. If you have children who have been affected by divorce, parental fighting, or death of a parent, this program is for you. If you went through these kinds of losses as a child, this program is for you. If a person you love has trouble loving you because of those kinds of losses, this program is for you.
Feb 08, 2017
Risking Love (Can Kids Learn to Love Again After Divorce) - The Dr. Joe Show
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No matter the age, we hurt deeply when we feel abandoned by someone we thought loved us...or that should have loved us. The information in this program can be used effectively by an adult dealing with lost love, such as a divorce. It also gives effective directions for helping a spouse...or a potential spouse...risk loving you when deep inside they feel that they cannot trust anyone to always love them. In this program Dr. Joe Beam and Justin Prince, Program Director for the amazing service to kids What About Me, discuss seven stages kids go through when their parents fight and/or divorce. (Adults often go through the same seven...) This program gives specific steps and illustrates clearly that path that a parent can take to help his or her children risk loving again. Or help you risk loving again. And show you how to help someone you love trust you enough to love you. If you have children who have been affected by divorce, parental fighting, or death of a parent, this program is for you. If you went through these kinds of losses as a child, this program is for you. If a person you love has trouble loving you because of those kinds of losses, this program is for you.
Feb 08, 2017
The 3 Phases of Limerence (Being Madly in Love) - The Dr. Joe Show
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When Dr. Tennov introduced the concept in the 1970s, it was mostly rejected. We encounter marriage counselors who have never heard of it. But the research is solid. PhD's including anthropologists and biologists and more study it, even having brain scans that teach us much about it. It's called limerence. It is a state of being "madly in love' to the point that it becomes obsessive and affects the way a person feels, acts, and thinks. It is powerful. It can be beautiful. It often is destructive. If you search the internet for the word, you'll find many sites discussing it. Unfortunately, some of those are by people who read an article or two - maybe even Tennov's book from back in the day - and think themselves knowledgeable. Some confidently cite things about limerence that Tennov said that we now know by further research not to be the case. Therefore, be careful with what you read on the internet about it. It may lead you to some very wrong conclusions...and those to very wrong actions. Our knowledge of limerence comes not only from continuing to examine scholarly research, but from the hundreds of thousands of people who have been through workshops, courses, and seminars developed by Dr. Joe Beam. We carefully observe people in our 911 workshops for marriages in crisis who are in limerence. We have done before and after scientific profiles on many. We have in-depth dialogue with others. We have found that limerence has three phases......and that limerence ends......always. In this program, Dr. Beam discusses the three phases of limerence. He explains what happens within the limerent during each. He explains shy some who end limerence don't go back to their lives as before...and how to help overcome limerence.
Feb 07, 2017
The 3 Phases of Limerence (Being Madly in Love) - The Dr. Joe Show
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When Dr. Tennov introduced the concept in the 1970s, it was mostly rejected. We encounter marriage counselors who have never heard of it. But the research is solid. PhD's including anthropologists and biologists and more study it, even having brain scans that teach us much about it. It's called limerence. It is a state of being "madly in love' to the point that it becomes obsessive and affects the way a person feels, acts, and thinks. It is powerful. It can be beautiful. It often is destructive. If you search the internet for the word, you'll find many sites discussing it. Unfortunately, some of those are by people who read an article or two - maybe even Tennov's book from back in the day - and think themselves knowledgeable. Some confidently cite things about limerence that Tennov said that we now know by further research not to be the case. Therefore, be careful with what you read on the internet about it. It may lead you to some very wrong conclusions...and those to very wrong actions. Our knowledge of limerence comes not only from continuing to examine scholarly research, but from the hundreds of thousands of people who have been through workshops, courses, and seminars developed by Dr. Joe Beam. We carefully observe people in our 911 workshops for marriages in crisis who are in limerence. We have done before and after scientific profiles on many. We have in-depth dialogue with others. We have found that limerence has three phases......and that limerence ends......always. In this program, Dr. Beam discusses the three phases of limerence. He explains what happens within the limerent during each. He explains shy some who end limerence don't go back to their lives as before...and how to help overcome limerence.
Feb 07, 2017
Know-How You Can Use to Help Troubled Marriages - The Dr. Joe Show
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Maybe your marriage is wonderful. Maybe not. Either way, you're surrounded by friends or relatives whose marriages are in trouble. Most of our programs speak directly to those whose marriages need help. However, in this program, Dr. Joe Beam shares basic but valid knowledge with you so that when you encounter someone in marital distress, you can offer more than a kind word. No, it won't make you a counselor or therapist. It will help you know practical things to do or say that can offer help. If you're thinking that you shouldn't reach out to others if your marriage is in distress, think again. Not only will it help them, it can help you with your marriage. If you're happy with life as it is and don't want to get involved in the problems of others, please reconsider. Ignoring or avoiding hurting people now may come back at you later when you need help. We are all in this together. Dr. Beam and Kimberly Holmes (CEO of Marriage Helper) will guide you in how to help. They will also offer free access to more information that will equip you even further. If you wish to call during the program and ask questions about how to help a specific situation, or to clarify the information shared, please do so at 646-378-0424 during the live airing Tuesday night, January 24, beginning 9 p.m. Central time.  According to the CDC, the divorce rate in America is 3.1 per 1,000 population. That comes to more than a million divorces per year. (Of the 45 states that report marriage/divorce stats, there were 800,909 divorces in 2015. California, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, and Minnesota do not report marital stats. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/dvs/national_marriage_divorce_rates_00-15.pdf) Isn't it time for all of us to do something about this. You can help. We'll show you how.
Jan 25, 2017
Know-How You Can Use to Help Troubled Marriages - The Dr. Joe Show
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Maybe your marriage is wonderful. Maybe not. Either way, you're surrounded by friends or relatives whose marriages are in trouble. Most of our programs speak directly to those whose marriages need help. However, in this program, Dr. Joe Beam shares basic but valid knowledge with you so that when you encounter someone in marital distress, you can offer more than a kind word. No, it won't make you a counselor or therapist. It will help you know practical things to do or say that can offer help. If you're thinking that you shouldn't reach out to others if your marriage is in distress, think again. Not only will it help them, it can help you with your marriage. If you're happy with life as it is and don't want to get involved in the problems of others, please reconsider. Ignoring or avoiding hurting people now may come back at you later when you need help. We are all in this together. Dr. Beam and Kimberly Holmes (CEO of Marriage Helper) will guide you in how to help. They will also offer free access to more information that will equip you even further. If you wish to call during the program and ask questions about how to help a specific situation, or to clarify the information shared, please do so at 646-378-0424 during the live airing Tuesday night, January 24, beginning 9 p.m. Central time.  According to the CDC, the divorce rate in America is 3.1 per 1,000 population. That comes to more than a million divorces per year. (Of the 45 states that report marriage/divorce stats, there were 800,909 divorces in 2015. California, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, and Minnesota do not report marital stats. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/dvs/national_marriage_divorce_rates_00-15.pdf) Isn't it time for all of us to do something about this. You can help. We'll show you how.
Jan 25, 2017
How Can I Forgive Myself? - The Dr. Joe Show
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We hear it often, "How can I forgive myself for what I've done?" In this program, you will find the answer. If you wonder if guilt a good thing or a bad thing, it's both. People who never feel guilt are scary. Think sociopaths or psychopaths.  People who feel overwhelming guilt are miserable. They can't function well in life. Sometimes a person involved in something that violates his/her beliefs and values feels guilt for a while...then goes through a period of feeling little to no guilt...and finally feels strong self-recrimination, sadness, and a compulsion to avoid those s/he hurt. If you struggle with guilt, or if someone you love struggles with guilt, this program is for you. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam discusses why we feel guilty, why that is a good thing...but also how guilt can become a cage that makes life miserable. He will explain how to deal with guilt in effective ways. He will show you the path to find peace again and to resume life in its fullness. He will show you how to forgive yourself. And how to find forgiveness from others. If you wish, you may call during the program to ask questions, make comments, or even disagree. Call during the live program beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, Tuesday, January 17. The number is (646) 378-0424.
Jan 18, 2017
How Can I Forgive Myself? - The Dr. Joe Show
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We hear it often, "How can I forgive myself for what I've done?" In this program, you will find the answer. If you wonder if guilt a good thing or a bad thing, it's both. People who never feel guilt are scary. Think sociopaths or psychopaths.  People who feel overwhelming guilt are miserable. They can't function well in life. Sometimes a person involved in something that violates his/her beliefs and values feels guilt for a while...then goes through a period of feeling little to no guilt...and finally feels strong self-recrimination, sadness, and a compulsion to avoid those s/he hurt. If you struggle with guilt, or if someone you love struggles with guilt, this program is for you. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam discusses why we feel guilty, why that is a good thing...but also how guilt can become a cage that makes life miserable. He will explain how to deal with guilt in effective ways. He will show you the path to find peace again and to resume life in its fullness. He will show you how to forgive yourself. And how to find forgiveness from others. If you wish, you may call during the program to ask questions, make comments, or even disagree. Call during the live program beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, Tuesday, January 17. The number is (646) 378-0424.
Jan 18, 2017
Why People File for Divorce - The Dr. Joe Show
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Usually more divorces are filed in January than any other month? Why? And...since we're asking...why does anyone file for divorce? In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam explains the underlying reason for wanting out of a marriage. He shares how various situations and circumstances generally all come back to this one reason.  By understanding the reason, the spouse who doesn't want the divorce has a better chance of changing things so that the divorce doesn't happen. Oh...and Dr. Beam will also explain why January typically is the month most divorces are filed. You may call during the program to speak with Dr. Beam to ask questions, make comments, or to disagree. All callers are welcome - 646) 378-0424 The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time, January 10, 2017.
Jan 11, 2017
Why People File for Divorce - The Dr. Joe Show
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Usually more divorces are filed in January than any other month? Why? And...since we're asking...why does anyone file for divorce? In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam explains the underlying reason for wanting out of a marriage. He shares how various situations and circumstances generally all come back to this one reason.  By understanding the reason, the spouse who doesn't want the divorce has a better chance of changing things so that the divorce doesn't happen. Oh...and Dr. Beam will also explain why January typically is the month most divorces are filed. You may call during the program to speak with Dr. Beam to ask questions, make comments, or to disagree. All callers are welcome - 646) 378-0424 The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time, January 10, 2017.
Jan 11, 2017
How to Have GREAT Sex! - The Dr. Joe Show
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Great marriages have great sex. Not just sex. Not just good sex. Great sex! As Dr. Beam earned his PhD through the University of Sydney (rated one of the top 50 universities in the world), he concentrated his research on the correlations between sexual satisfaction and marital satisfaction. Many scholarly studies agree that they rise or fall together. Want a great relationship, have great sex. Want great sex, have a great relationship. In this program Dr. Beam focuses on research about the difference between good sex and great sex. Very interesting research identified eight factors of great sex. Dr. Beam will explain each of them. He teaches this methodology for great sex every semester in his human sexuality class at one of Nashville's leading universities. Now he shares them with you. Dr. Beam invites your calls during the program to ask questions, make comments, seek clarification, or disagree. You may even ask questions about sex or sexual matters that are not specifically addressed in the 8 Factors of Great Sex. You won't have to reveal your identity if talking about sex makes you uneasy. During the program call in at 646-378-0424. The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time.
Jan 04, 2017
How to Have GREAT Sex! - The Dr. Joe Show
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Great marriages have great sex. Not just sex. Not just good sex. Great sex! As Dr. Beam earned his PhD through the University of Sydney (rated one of the top 50 universities in the world), he concentrated his research on the correlations between sexual satisfaction and marital satisfaction. Many scholarly studies agree that they rise or fall together. Want a great relationship, have great sex. Want great sex, have a great relationship. In this program Dr. Beam focuses on research about the difference between good sex and great sex. Very interesting research identified eight factors of great sex. Dr. Beam will explain each of them. He teaches this methodology for great sex every semester in his human sexuality class at one of Nashville's leading universities. Now he shares them with you. Dr. Beam invites your calls during the program to ask questions, make comments, seek clarification, or disagree. You may even ask questions about sex or sexual matters that are not specifically addressed in the 8 Factors of Great Sex. You won't have to reveal your identity if talking about sex makes you uneasy. During the program call in at 646-378-0424. The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time.
Jan 04, 2017
Changing the Past Through the Future (Defining PIES)
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As we end 2016 and move into 2017, it's time to look forward into what the future holds.  Just because things have been a certain way in the past does not mean that they have to be that way in the future.  In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam and CEO of Marriage Helper Kimberly Holmes will teach you how YOU can change your future, no matter what your past has been, and no matter what your situation is. Believe it or not, you have the power to change a lot of things by focusing solely on yourself.  We will teach you how to create goals and 4 different areas of life to set goals in: Physically, Intellectually, Emotionally and Spiritually. We will explain what each of those areas means and what kind of goals to set in each areas. Ultimately, this will help you become more attractive and create stronger, long-lasting relationships.
Dec 27, 2016
Changing the Past Through the Future (Defining PIES)
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As we end 2016 and move into 2017, it's time to look forward into what the future holds.  Just because things have been a certain way in the past does not mean that they have to be that way in the future.  In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam and CEO of Marriage Helper Kimberly Holmes will teach you how YOU can change your future, no matter what your past has been, and no matter what your situation is. Believe it or not, you have the power to change a lot of things by focusing solely on yourself.  We will teach you how to create goals and 4 different areas of life to set goals in: Physically, Intellectually, Emotionally and Spiritually. We will explain what each of those areas means and what kind of goals to set in each areas. Ultimately, this will help you become more attractive and create stronger, long-lasting relationships.
Dec 27, 2016
What is a Mid-Life Crisis? Signs, Symptoms, and How to Save Your Marriage
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What is a mid-life crisis? What age does a mid-life crisis happen? What are the signs and symptoms of a mid-life crisis? If your spouse is going through a big change in life, these are probably things that you have searched for answers. Do you think that your spouse is going through a mid-life crisis? What should you do? Can you keep your marriage from falling apart? In this podcast we discuss how to understand what is really happening with your spouse (hint: it's NOT a mid-life crisis), and how you can respond in a way that will actually bring your marriage back together instead of tearing it apart. For more information on the Save My Marriage course, click here: your.marriagehelper.com/savemymarriage For more information on the MH 911 Workshop, click here: your.marriagehelper.com/marriage-workshop For more free articles and resources, see www.marriagehelper.com
Dec 20, 2016
What is a Mid-Life Crisis? Signs, Symptoms, and How to Save Your Marriage
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What is a mid-life crisis? What age does a mid-life crisis happen? What are the signs and symptoms of a mid-life crisis? If your spouse is going through a big change in life, these are probably things that you have searched for answers. Do you think that your spouse is going through a mid-life crisis? What should you do? Can you keep your marriage from falling apart? In this podcast we discuss how to understand what is really happening with your spouse (hint: it's NOT a mid-life crisis), and how you can respond in a way that will actually bring your marriage back together instead of tearing it apart. For more information on the Save My Marriage course, click here: your.marriagehelper.com/savemymarriage For more information on the MH 911 Workshop, click here: your.marriagehelper.com/marriage-workshop For more free articles and resources, see www.marriagehelper.com
Dec 20, 2016
3 Keys to Have a Great Holiday in a Broken Home
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Married? Separated? Divorced? This podcast is ESSENTIAL for getting through the holidays without going crazy. Justin Prince, program director of What About Me (a site for children and parents experiencing divorce), joins us to reveal THREE KEY THINGS to do to avoid having a stressful, terrible holiday season filled with fighting, disagreements and hurt feelings. This is especially crucial if you have kids...and even more crucial if you are separated or divorced. You'll be surprised at just how easy it is to implement these three steps to have a better holiday season.
Dec 13, 2016
3 Keys to Have a Great Holiday in a Broken Home
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Married? Separated? Divorced? This podcast is ESSENTIAL for getting through the holidays without going crazy. Justin Prince, program director of What About Me (a site for children and parents experiencing divorce), joins us to reveal THREE KEY THINGS to do to avoid having a stressful, terrible holiday season filled with fighting, disagreements and hurt feelings. This is especially crucial if you have kids...and even more crucial if you are separated or divorced. You'll be surprised at just how easy it is to implement these three steps to have a better holiday season.
Dec 13, 2016
Can a Marriage Recover from an Affair? YES, It Can.
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There are a ton of "what ifs" that go through someone's mind when their spouse is in love with someone else. What if the affair doesn't end? What if the affair does end, but my spouse still doesn't come home? Can I trust again? Can we make it work? On this show, Kimberly Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper will interview Richard and Petra. Richard and Petra saved their marriage after his affair, but it wasn't easy. Some days it looked like it wasn't ever going to be saved. But it happened. Learn more about their story and get hope from this awesome couple on this show.
Nov 23, 2016
Can a Marriage Recover from an Affair? YES, It Can.
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There are a ton of "what ifs" that go through someone's mind when their spouse is in love with someone else. What if the affair doesn't end? What if the affair does end, but my spouse still doesn't come home? Can I trust again? Can we make it work? On this show, Kimberly Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper will interview Richard and Petra. Richard and Petra saved their marriage after his affair, but it wasn't easy. Some days it looked like it wasn't ever going to be saved. But it happened. Learn more about their story and get hope from this awesome couple on this show.
Nov 23, 2016
How to Heal From the Loss of Love (and more) - The Dr. Joe Show
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When you love deeply, it hurts to lose that love. Whether the person you love dies, abandons you, cheats on you, turns on you, or continues to live in the same house but with no love shown, you will find yourself in the powerful grasp of grief. We see it with people whose spouses fall in love with another. We witness it in a straying spouse who decides to come home but now has to deal with the loss of the other relationship. We feel our hearts break when it is a child struggling to understand why a parent isn't there any longer. We hurt for the parent who loses a child to death. Is there hope?  Can life be good again? Yes. There is a process. It works. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam brings on special guest David Matthews. Along with his wife Debbie, he founded Spark of Life (www.sparkoflife.org) in 2008. Spark of Life exists to instill hope that, though life can never be the same after loss, life can be rich and fulfilling. Among other resources, they offer Grief Recovery Retreats to those who have experienced loss. David and Debbie are also certified leaders of Dr. Beam's intensive weekends for marriages in trouble. During this live call-in program, David will explain the process for dealing with loss of love so that life can again be full. He and Dr. Beam will also take callers who are dealing with the loss of love...from losing a spouse, to losing a parent, to losing a child, to losing a lover...or whatever loss you are experiencing or have experienced. Call live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, Tuesday, November 15 by dialing 646-378-0424. If your children are suffering loss just as you are - (for example, the other parent has left) - invite them to listen to the program with you. After the program, you can find the recording on iTunes by subscribing free to Marriage Radio. Share the recording link with anyone you believe will benefit from this.
Nov 16, 2016
How to Heal From the Loss of Love (and more) - The Dr. Joe Show
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When you love deeply, it hurts to lose that love. Whether the person you love dies, abandons you, cheats on you, turns on you, or continues to live in the same house but with no love shown, you will find yourself in the powerful grasp of grief. We see it with people whose spouses fall in love with another. We witness it in a straying spouse who decides to come home but now has to deal with the loss of the other relationship. We feel our hearts break when it is a child struggling to understand why a parent isn't there any longer. We hurt for the parent who loses a child to death. Is there hope?  Can life be good again? Yes. There is a process. It works. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam brings on special guest David Matthews. Along with his wife Debbie, he founded Spark of Life (www.sparkoflife.org) in 2008. Spark of Life exists to instill hope that, though life can never be the same after loss, life can be rich and fulfilling. Among other resources, they offer Grief Recovery Retreats to those who have experienced loss. David and Debbie are also certified leaders of Dr. Beam's intensive weekends for marriages in trouble. During this live call-in program, David will explain the process for dealing with loss of love so that life can again be full. He and Dr. Beam will also take callers who are dealing with the loss of love...from losing a spouse, to losing a parent, to losing a child, to losing a lover...or whatever loss you are experiencing or have experienced. Call live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, Tuesday, November 15 by dialing 646-378-0424. If your children are suffering loss just as you are - (for example, the other parent has left) - invite them to listen to the program with you. After the program, you can find the recording on iTunes by subscribing free to Marriage Radio. Share the recording link with anyone you believe will benefit from this.
Nov 16, 2016
Kids Whose Parents Split (or Fight) Ask "What About Me?" - The Dr. Joe Show
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You know they're thinking it, even if they don't say it out loud. "What about me? Does anyone care about my hurt? My fear? My future?" You can help these kids. The first step is easy. Tell us your story if you lost a parent to divorce or death. We'll use it to help kids. How? To help parents realize the hurt. To inform those in positions to help if only they understand the deep pain.  One of the greatest fears of any child is losing a parent. Not just to death, but by the family splitting up. We are starting a new department within our nonprofit just to help kids (and their parents) when the family is no longer intact. Kids whose Dad or Mom left. Kids whose parent died. Kids raised by others than their parents. We need your personal experiences so that we can use your words to help children whose parents are fighting, divorcing, or divorced.  In the program, Dr. Beam asks that anyone who has lived through their parents' divorce (or is living through it now) to call and tell how it affected you then and affects you now. Please note that we will record your quotes and use them to help our new project to help kids. We won't use your name unless you tell us we can. If you are under 18, please call with your parent with you so that s/he can give us verbal permission to record you and use your quotes. If you are married and seeing the effect on your children by your spouse's wanting out of the marriage, please call and tell us about it. If when you were a child your parents divorced - or even if they stayed together and fought constantly - please call and tell us about your experiences. Even if you called when we had a similar program a few weeks ago, please call again. (We didn't get your permission to use your voice during that program.) Call beginning at 9 p.m. Central time at 646-378-0424.
Nov 09, 2016
Kids Whose Parents Split (or Fight) Ask "What About Me?" - The Dr. Joe Show
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You know they're thinking it, even if they don't say it out loud. "What about me? Does anyone care about my hurt? My fear? My future?" You can help these kids. The first step is easy. Tell us your story if you lost a parent to divorce or death. We'll use it to help kids. How? To help parents realize the hurt. To inform those in positions to help if only they understand the deep pain.  One of the greatest fears of any child is losing a parent. Not just to death, but by the family splitting up. We are starting a new department within our nonprofit just to help kids (and their parents) when the family is no longer intact. Kids whose Dad or Mom left. Kids whose parent died. Kids raised by others than their parents. We need your personal experiences so that we can use your words to help children whose parents are fighting, divorcing, or divorced.  In the program, Dr. Beam asks that anyone who has lived through their parents' divorce (or is living through it now) to call and tell how it affected you then and affects you now. Please note that we will record your quotes and use them to help our new project to help kids. We won't use your name unless you tell us we can. If you are under 18, please call with your parent with you so that s/he can give us verbal permission to record you and use your quotes. If you are married and seeing the effect on your children by your spouse's wanting out of the marriage, please call and tell us about it. If when you were a child your parents divorced - or even if they stayed together and fought constantly - please call and tell us about your experiences. Even if you called when we had a similar program a few weeks ago, please call again. (We didn't get your permission to use your voice during that program.) Call beginning at 9 p.m. Central time at 646-378-0424.
Nov 09, 2016
When and How To Move On From a Marriage - The Dr. Joe Show
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Can every troubled marriage be saved? We believe nearly all can. However, not all will.  Sometimes one spouse does all s/he can to save the marriage. They learn, put into practice the right things, make right the things they did wrong, demonstrate remarkable love, patience, and...forgiveness. Yet, the other mate doesn't respond. Maybe it's another person. Maybe a different lifestyle they want to pursue.  Is there a time when the spouse striving to save the marriage should stop trying and accept that no matter what s/he does the marriage will end? Yes. When s/he makes that decision, are their things s/he should understand and do to build a new life that can be fulfilling and happy? Yes. Don't misunderstand, Dr. Beam fights for marriages. He encourages people not to give up easily. He and the amazing team at www.MarriageHelper.com offer many resources to help save marriages...even those that everyone else has given up on...and make those marriages good again. But, sadly, the team knows that some marriages will end. In this program, Dr. Beam shares thoughts about when it's time to move on. To accept that the mate isn't coming back. As an important part of that, he also shares what to understand and put into action that will help heal the heart and open new opportunities for love, fulfillment, and happiness. During the program, you may talk with Dr. Beam by calling 646-378-0424. The program airs live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time on Tuesday, November 1.
Nov 02, 2016
When and How To Move On From a Marriage - The Dr. Joe Show
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Can every troubled marriage be saved? We believe nearly all can. However, not all will.  Sometimes one spouse does all s/he can to save the marriage. They learn, put into practice the right things, make right the things they did wrong, demonstrate remarkable love, patience, and...forgiveness. Yet, the other mate doesn't respond. Maybe it's another person. Maybe a different lifestyle they want to pursue.  Is there a time when the spouse striving to save the marriage should stop trying and accept that no matter what s/he does the marriage will end? Yes. When s/he makes that decision, are their things s/he should understand and do to build a new life that can be fulfilling and happy? Yes. Don't misunderstand, Dr. Beam fights for marriages. He encourages people not to give up easily. He and the amazing team at www.MarriageHelper.com offer many resources to help save marriages...even those that everyone else has given up on...and make those marriages good again. But, sadly, the team knows that some marriages will end. In this program, Dr. Beam shares thoughts about when it's time to move on. To accept that the mate isn't coming back. As an important part of that, he also shares what to understand and put into action that will help heal the heart and open new opportunities for love, fulfillment, and happiness. During the program, you may talk with Dr. Beam by calling 646-378-0424. The program airs live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time on Tuesday, November 1.
Nov 02, 2016
Diving Deep: How the Save My Marriage Course Works
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You've heard about the Save My Marriage Course that Marriage Helper offers...but is it right for you? How does it really work? Listen to this for some great insight. We talk about how the course came to be, what kind of marital situations it works best for (and what situations it DOESN'T work for!), and how the course works. Hint: you get lifetime access ;) Join the course by October 31, 2016 and get 50% off with code MH50. Go to www.marriagehelper.com/savemymarriage for more info.
Oct 27, 2016
Diving Deep: How the Save My Marriage Course Works
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You've heard about the Save My Marriage Course that Marriage Helper offers...but is it right for you? How does it really work? Listen to this for some great insight. We talk about how the course came to be, what kind of marital situations it works best for (and what situations it DOESN'T work for!), and how the course works. Hint: you get lifetime access ;) Join the course by October 31, 2016 and get 50% off with code MH50. Go to www.marriagehelper.com/savemymarriage for more info.
Oct 27, 2016
What Would You Like To Ask About Relationships (Open Mic) - The Dr. Joe Show
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Rather than starting with a theme or subject as he usually does, in this program Dr. Joe Beam opens the mic for callers on any subject or area of relationships. Love, sex, dating, rescuing lost love, salvaging a troubled marriage, parenting, or any other subject that you wish to discuss. If you are a regular caller to this program, we ask that you allow new callers first chance to ask their questions or make their comments. The program begins 9 p.m. Central time tonight, October 25, 2016. You can call during the program at 646-378-0424. You may listen on your phone or press 1 to signal that you wish to speak with Dr. Beam. You may also listen on www.MarriageRadio.com.
Oct 26, 2016
What Would You Like To Ask About Relationships (Open Mic) - The Dr. Joe Show
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Rather than starting with a theme or subject as he usually does, in this program Dr. Joe Beam opens the mic for callers on any subject or area of relationships. Love, sex, dating, rescuing lost love, salvaging a troubled marriage, parenting, or any other subject that you wish to discuss. If you are a regular caller to this program, we ask that you allow new callers first chance to ask their questions or make their comments. The program begins 9 p.m. Central time tonight, October 25, 2016. You can call during the program at 646-378-0424. You may listen on your phone or press 1 to signal that you wish to speak with Dr. Beam. You may also listen on www.MarriageRadio.com.
Oct 26, 2016
How People Fall In and Out of Love - The Dr. Joe Show
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Dr. Beam explained it when a guest on the Montel Williams Show. Falling in love is a process. If you follow the process, you fall in love whether you intend to or not. If you vacate or violate the process, you fall out of love whether you intend to or not. So what's the process? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains the LovePath, the process people go through as they fall in love with another. It has four steps or phases. He will explain each and how they lead to love... ...and how going down the LovePath the wrong way causes love to fail. Understanding the LovePath can help you fall in love, grow in love, or, if necessary, rescue lost love During the program you may talk with Dr. Beam or ask questions by calling 646-378-0424. The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time on Tuesday, October 18, 2016.
Oct 19, 2016
How People Fall In and Out of Love - The Dr. Joe Show
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Dr. Beam explained it when a guest on the Montel Williams Show. Falling in love is a process. If you follow the process, you fall in love whether you intend to or not. If you vacate or violate the process, you fall out of love whether you intend to or not. So what's the process? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains the LovePath, the process people go through as they fall in love with another. It has four steps or phases. He will explain each and how they lead to love... ...and how going down the LovePath the wrong way causes love to fail. Understanding the LovePath can help you fall in love, grow in love, or, if necessary, rescue lost love During the program you may talk with Dr. Beam or ask questions by calling 646-378-0424. The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time on Tuesday, October 18, 2016.
Oct 19, 2016
What If My Spouse Has Had Multiple Affairs? - The Dr. Joe Show
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What does it mean - and what do you do - if your spouse has had more than one affair?  Does that indicate there is no hope? That you should end it and get away as fast as you can? Or is it possible to save your marriage...and save your spouse from any further infidelity? What do the affairs say about your spouse? Is s/he a sex addict? Serial adulterer? Maybe. But perhaps there is something else going on that can be addressed and, if you spouse has a conscience, it can be fixed. In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses what he has learned by working with straying spouses over the years. The ones who strayed once and never again. The ones who strayed more than once. The ones who strayed many times. Rather than taking questions as he normally does, Dr. Beam encourages anyone who is in an affair or has had an affair - especially those who have had more than one affair - to call him during the program. If you call, you will be treated with respect and dignity. Dr. Beam would like to hear your story. He would also appreciate the opportunity to ask you questions...not to make you feel guilty or chastise you...but to learn from you and just maybe help you learn something about yourself. Call live during the program at 646-378-0424. It begins at 9 p.m. Central time. Whether you have strayed...or your spouse has strayed...this will be a program that will give insight and understanding to the causes...and, if you desire, to the cures.
Oct 12, 2016
What If My Spouse Has Had Multiple Affairs? - The Dr. Joe Show
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What does it mean - and what do you do - if your spouse has had more than one affair?  Does that indicate there is no hope? That you should end it and get away as fast as you can? Or is it possible to save your marriage...and save your spouse from any further infidelity? What do the affairs say about your spouse? Is s/he a sex addict? Serial adulterer? Maybe. But perhaps there is something else going on that can be addressed and, if you spouse has a conscience, it can be fixed. In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses what he has learned by working with straying spouses over the years. The ones who strayed once and never again. The ones who strayed more than once. The ones who strayed many times. Rather than taking questions as he normally does, Dr. Beam encourages anyone who is in an affair or has had an affair - especially those who have had more than one affair - to call him during the program. If you call, you will be treated with respect and dignity. Dr. Beam would like to hear your story. He would also appreciate the opportunity to ask you questions...not to make you feel guilty or chastise you...but to learn from you and just maybe help you learn something about yourself. Call live during the program at 646-378-0424. It begins at 9 p.m. Central time. Whether you have strayed...or your spouse has strayed...this will be a program that will give insight and understanding to the causes...and, if you desire, to the cures.
Oct 12, 2016
When Marriage Hurts: How to Stay Positive with Kimberly Holmes and Tina Coleman
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Sometimes, marriage hurts. Sometimes that pain lasts longer than seems bearable. What can you do when marriage hurts? How can you overcome the pain? We'll teach you in this episode. Joined by Tina Coleman, a Marriage Helper Save My Marriage course member, a volunteer community manager for the Marriage Helper online communities, and an all around amazing person. Tina will share her amazing attitude and spirit.  We will hear what happened in her marriage, how she handled it, and what made all the difference in the world. The information in this podcast is the difference between a strong, bright future or giving up all hope...in the end, the choice is yours. But we want to teach you how to make the choices to have a BETTER future.  Listen live on Tuesday nights at 9 pm, or subscribe on iTunes.
Oct 05, 2016
When Marriage Hurts: How to Stay Positive with Kimberly Holmes and Tina Coleman
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Sometimes, marriage hurts. Sometimes that pain lasts longer than seems bearable. What can you do when marriage hurts? How can you overcome the pain? We'll teach you in this episode. Joined by Tina Coleman, a Marriage Helper Save My Marriage course member, a volunteer community manager for the Marriage Helper online communities, and an all around amazing person. Tina will share her amazing attitude and spirit.  We will hear what happened in her marriage, how she handled it, and what made all the difference in the world. The information in this podcast is the difference between a strong, bright future or giving up all hope...in the end, the choice is yours. But we want to teach you how to make the choices to have a BETTER future.  Listen live on Tuesday nights at 9 pm, or subscribe on iTunes.
Oct 05, 2016
How An Affair Affects Children - The Dr. Joe Show
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If you have an extramarital affair, you can ruin your child's chances for having happy love when s/he is grown. No matter what age the child is when you have the affair...even if your "child" is now old enough to be in college. Having an affair doesn't only deceiving your spouse, it often involves deceiving yourself...especially about the effect your actions have on your children now and in their future. Even if the marriage doesn't end in divorce, infidelity negatively affects kids. They often view their parent's cheating to be against them. Their security is threatened. Their trust is broken. They experience humiliation and shame. As adults they often fear their own spouse being unfaithful and live jealous lives. Sometimes their fear is strong enough to prevent their having loving relationships. And, sometimes, they themselves become more likely to cheat on their partners. If divorce occurs, it gets worse. Some people say "kids are resilient; they'll be fine." The evidence is quite to the contrary. Ample research exists about the long-term effect of divorce on children including things such as poorer physical health than children from intact families, persistent problems with fears of betrayal and abandonment, increased anxiety in late teens and early 20s, resentment and anger, and low life satisfaction. Additionally, they may participate in sexual intercourse earlier, have a reduced ability to develop and maintain relationships, have a greater likelihood to demonstrate delinquent behaviors, and be more likely to go through a divorce themselves. (All documented in valid research.) In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses how affairs affect children, whether divorce or not. He will take calls during the program from those whose parents divorced. Call 646-378-0424 during the program to speak to Dr. Beam.
Sep 28, 2016
How An Affair Affects Children - The Dr. Joe Show
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If you have an extramarital affair, you can ruin your child's chances for having happy love when s/he is grown. No matter what age the child is when you have the affair...even if your "child" is now old enough to be in college. Having an affair doesn't only deceiving your spouse, it often involves deceiving yourself...especially about the effect your actions have on your children now and in their future. Even if the marriage doesn't end in divorce, infidelity negatively affects kids. They often view their parent's cheating to be against them. Their security is threatened. Their trust is broken. They experience humiliation and shame. As adults they often fear their own spouse being unfaithful and live jealous lives. Sometimes their fear is strong enough to prevent their having loving relationships. And, sometimes, they themselves become more likely to cheat on their partners. If divorce occurs, it gets worse. Some people say "kids are resilient; they'll be fine." The evidence is quite to the contrary. Ample research exists about the long-term effect of divorce on children including things such as poorer physical health than children from intact families, persistent problems with fears of betrayal and abandonment, increased anxiety in late teens and early 20s, resentment and anger, and low life satisfaction. Additionally, they may participate in sexual intercourse earlier, have a reduced ability to develop and maintain relationships, have a greater likelihood to demonstrate delinquent behaviors, and be more likely to go through a divorce themselves. (All documented in valid research.) In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses how affairs affect children, whether divorce or not. He will take calls during the program from those whose parents divorced. Call 646-378-0424 during the program to speak to Dr. Beam.
Sep 28, 2016
When Marriage Counseling Doesn't Work - The Dr. Joe Show
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Good marriage counselors are worth their weight in gold. The others...let's just say they aren't. (If you've had a bad experience with a marriage counselor, you likely already inserted your own negative sentence.) We hear from thousands of people every year about their marriages. From those who convinced their spouses to go to marriage counseling, we very often hear how the experience hurt their marriage rather than helped. Is that the fault of the couple or at least one of the spouses? Obviously, it could be. But could it be the fault of the counselor? Yes. We hear people say their counselor told them they should divorce because their problems aren't solvable. Others say that the counselor told them that s/he will help them figure out how to divorce amicably but there is no need to try to save the marriage because one of them doesn't want that.  One woman told us that her counselor very early in their sessions told the husband he should divorce her. When the woman confronted the counselor about that advice in a private session, the counselor said that she thought it was the best way to make the husband realize how much he would lose and that maybe then he would come back to the marriage. Really? How could she think THAT will make things better? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes, Executive Director of Marriage Helper, discuss what to do when marriage counseling doesn't work or if counseling did more harm to your marriage than good. Also, they give suggestions on how to find the right counselor to help you with your marriage. They also explain the difference in a turn-around intensive and traditional counseling. For those whose spouses won't go to marriage counseling, they share how to convince your spouse to go with you for marriage help. During the program you may ask your questions or share your comments by calling 646-378-0424.
Sep 21, 2016
When Marriage Counseling Doesn't Work - The Dr. Joe Show
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Good marriage counselors are worth their weight in gold. The others...let's just say they aren't. (If you've had a bad experience with a marriage counselor, you likely already inserted your own negative sentence.) We hear from thousands of people every year about their marriages. From those who convinced their spouses to go to marriage counseling, we very often hear how the experience hurt their marriage rather than helped. Is that the fault of the couple or at least one of the spouses? Obviously, it could be. But could it be the fault of the counselor? Yes. We hear people say their counselor told them they should divorce because their problems aren't solvable. Others say that the counselor told them that s/he will help them figure out how to divorce amicably but there is no need to try to save the marriage because one of them doesn't want that.  One woman told us that her counselor very early in their sessions told the husband he should divorce her. When the woman confronted the counselor about that advice in a private session, the counselor said that she thought it was the best way to make the husband realize how much he would lose and that maybe then he would come back to the marriage. Really? How could she think THAT will make things better? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes, Executive Director of Marriage Helper, discuss what to do when marriage counseling doesn't work or if counseling did more harm to your marriage than good. Also, they give suggestions on how to find the right counselor to help you with your marriage. They also explain the difference in a turn-around intensive and traditional counseling. For those whose spouses won't go to marriage counseling, they share how to convince your spouse to go with you for marriage help. During the program you may ask your questions or share your comments by calling 646-378-0424.
Sep 21, 2016
How to Reconnect After a Major Relationship Problem - The Dr. Joe Show
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Not every relationship or marriage has a major meltdown... But when it happens, how do you put things back together? How do you get past the hurt? The broken trust? The fear that something else is coming...especially when one partner developed a deep emotional relationship with someone else, but has decided to try to make your relationship work again... How does the straying partner get over the emotional connection with that other person? How can s/he learn to love you again...and you learn to love him/her again with the security that your relationship will last a lifetime? There are things to do when reconciling a relationship. There are things NOT to do. There are also "gray" areas where you have to use your wisdom. (Knowing the right principles helps tremendously with this.) In this program Dr. Joe Beam explains why relationships fail and how they can be put back together again. He explains the principles of reconciliation and the specific do's and don'ts that can make or break the process. He addresses both the straying spouse and the standing spouse. Call during the live broadcast if you wish to ask questions or make comments. (Please make your questions or comments about this subject...but Dr. Beam will take other relationship questions as well.) Call 646-378-0424 during the program to listen via your phone. If you wish to speak to Dr. Beam press 1 when you hear the menu. Of course you can listen via your computer or tablet at www.MarriageRadio.com or on BlogTalkRadio.
Sep 07, 2016
How to Reconnect After a Major Relationship Problem - The Dr. Joe Show
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Not every relationship or marriage has a major meltdown... But when it happens, how do you put things back together? How do you get past the hurt? The broken trust? The fear that something else is coming...especially when one partner developed a deep emotional relationship with someone else, but has decided to try to make your relationship work again... How does the straying partner get over the emotional connection with that other person? How can s/he learn to love you again...and you learn to love him/her again with the security that your relationship will last a lifetime? There are things to do when reconciling a relationship. There are things NOT to do. There are also "gray" areas where you have to use your wisdom. (Knowing the right principles helps tremendously with this.) In this program Dr. Joe Beam explains why relationships fail and how they can be put back together again. He explains the principles of reconciliation and the specific do's and don'ts that can make or break the process. He addresses both the straying spouse and the standing spouse. Call during the live broadcast if you wish to ask questions or make comments. (Please make your questions or comments about this subject...but Dr. Beam will take other relationship questions as well.) Call 646-378-0424 during the program to listen via your phone. If you wish to speak to Dr. Beam press 1 when you hear the menu. Of course you can listen via your computer or tablet at www.MarriageRadio.com or on BlogTalkRadio.
Sep 07, 2016
Three Prayers About Love God Won't Answer - The Dr. Joe Show
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Have you ever prayed about love? Perhaps something that you wanted to happen. Maybe something you didn't want to happen. It might have been about a specific person, either someone you already have a relationship or marriage with or that you want a relationship or marriage with. It might have been about a specific situation...something that you have a strong desire to have...or to avoid. From a multitude of postings found on Facebook to thousands of conversations over the years, Dr. Joe Beam has chosen three of the prayers people mention that - no matter how much they believe they will be - are not going to be answered by God. Although his PhD is not in any religious area of study - his graduate work is about the psychology and emotions of love, sex, and marriage - he has a degree in Bible. That doesn't make him a theologian, but it does make him a student of the teachings of God. No, Dr. Beam doesn't claim to speak for God. Yet, he's convinced that some of what is claimed about how God intervenes in the love and relationships of people leads only to false hope...and, eventually, disappointment. If you're curious, he's a believer. He prays. He believes God answers prayers...but not all prayers. Especially some that people pray about love and relationships. Is this a program to take away hope? No. It is a program about how to have hope that is real; that is possible. To live by genuine faith if you have faith. To face reality. To know what to do rather than expecting God to do it for you. It airs live August 30 beginning at 9 p.m. Central. You can call in your questions or comments during the live program at 646-378-0424.
Aug 31, 2016
Three Prayers About Love God Won't Answer - The Dr. Joe Show
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Have you ever prayed about love? Perhaps something that you wanted to happen. Maybe something you didn't want to happen. It might have been about a specific person, either someone you already have a relationship or marriage with or that you want a relationship or marriage with. It might have been about a specific situation...something that you have a strong desire to have...or to avoid. From a multitude of postings found on Facebook to thousands of conversations over the years, Dr. Joe Beam has chosen three of the prayers people mention that - no matter how much they believe they will be - are not going to be answered by God. Although his PhD is not in any religious area of study - his graduate work is about the psychology and emotions of love, sex, and marriage - he has a degree in Bible. That doesn't make him a theologian, but it does make him a student of the teachings of God. No, Dr. Beam doesn't claim to speak for God. Yet, he's convinced that some of what is claimed about how God intervenes in the love and relationships of people leads only to false hope...and, eventually, disappointment. If you're curious, he's a believer. He prays. He believes God answers prayers...but not all prayers. Especially some that people pray about love and relationships. Is this a program to take away hope? No. It is a program about how to have hope that is real; that is possible. To live by genuine faith if you have faith. To face reality. To know what to do rather than expecting God to do it for you. It airs live August 30 beginning at 9 p.m. Central. You can call in your questions or comments during the live program at 646-378-0424.
Aug 31, 2016
I'm In Love With Another Man - A Wife's Story - The Dr. Joe Show
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What does it feel like? How does a person get into this situation? Why does she love a man other than her husband? In this program, a brave woman who is with her husband but still "deeply in love" with another man tells her story. She is willing to answer questions and talk about her situation. She wrote, "I have been madly in love with a man I work for four years now and even though I ended things in March and asked my husband to move back, I still feel as much in love as ever. Not a single day has gone by in four months that I haven't cried missing him and then feel overwhelming grief...I wouldn't wish this feeling of helplessness on my worst enemy!" Because of the sensitivity of this program - and to protect her from callers who may not be kind - no calls will be taken during this program. Instead, you can ask your question or make your comment by emailing AskJoe@MarriageHelper.com before the show airs. (Make sure your comments or questions are emailed at least one hour before the program begins at 9 p.m. Central time.) If you are a regular listener to this program, you've hear Dr. Beam discuss limerence. In this program you will hear from someone in limerence with another person than her husband about how it feels, how it begins, and how strong an impact it has. Listen live at 9 p.m. Central time on www.MarriageRadio.com or on your phone by calling 646-378-0424.
Aug 24, 2016
I'm In Love With Another Man - A Wife's Story - The Dr. Joe Show
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What does it feel like? How does a person get into this situation? Why does she love a man other than her husband? In this program, a brave woman who is with her husband but still "deeply in love" with another man tells her story. She is willing to answer questions and talk about her situation. She wrote, "I have been madly in love with a man I work for four years now and even though I ended things in March and asked my husband to move back, I still feel as much in love as ever. Not a single day has gone by in four months that I haven't cried missing him and then feel overwhelming grief...I wouldn't wish this feeling of helplessness on my worst enemy!" Because of the sensitivity of this program - and to protect her from callers who may not be kind - no calls will be taken during this program. Instead, you can ask your question or make your comment by emailing AskJoe@MarriageHelper.com before the show airs. (Make sure your comments or questions are emailed at least one hour before the program begins at 9 p.m. Central time.) If you are a regular listener to this program, you've hear Dr. Beam discuss limerence. In this program you will hear from someone in limerence with another person than her husband about how it feels, how it begins, and how strong an impact it has. Listen live at 9 p.m. Central time on www.MarriageRadio.com or on your phone by calling 646-378-0424.
Aug 24, 2016
Three Stages of Being "Madly In Love" (Limerence) - The Dr. Joe Show
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There is a difference between that feeling of love and being "madly in love."  If you long for that magically amazing love that is the focus of so many  movies, TV shows, and novels, you may indeed experience it...but not forever. Love that is deep and long-lasting isn't an overwhelming ecstasy but something much deeper...something with roots that dig deeply into your heart, your mind, your soul. Yet that "madly in love" feeling is truly amazing when experienced. In the social sciences we have a word for it; limerence. More than just identifying it, researchers dig into it to understand it better...including how long it lasts...and factors that either prevent it, diminish it, or end it. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains what he has witnessed in thousands of people "madly in love" and discusses the three phases of limerence he has identified.   If you are "madly in love" this program is for you. You may feel that the intensity of your current emotion for the other person will last forever just as it is now. Dr. Beam explains how it will change, and how understanding that change can help prevent consequences that you don't yet see coming. If you are married to someone who has fallen "madly in love" with another, this program is for you. If you wish to save your marriage but think it impossible because your husband or wife is in limerence with another, Dr. Beam's explanations of limerence, especially understanding the three phases, can guide you in the process of saving your marriage. As he says, "If anything works, this will work." If you wish to speak with Dr. Beam during the program, call 646-378-0424. When you hear the menu, press one to get into the queue. Whether you listen live or later, don't miss this program.
Aug 17, 2016
Three Stages of Being "Madly In Love" (Limerence) - The Dr. Joe Show
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There is a difference between that feeling of love and being "madly in love."  If you long for that magically amazing love that is the focus of so many  movies, TV shows, and novels, you may indeed experience it...but not forever. Love that is deep and long-lasting isn't an overwhelming ecstasy but something much deeper...something with roots that dig deeply into your heart, your mind, your soul. Yet that "madly in love" feeling is truly amazing when experienced. In the social sciences we have a word for it; limerence. More than just identifying it, researchers dig into it to understand it better...including how long it lasts...and factors that either prevent it, diminish it, or end it. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains what he has witnessed in thousands of people "madly in love" and discusses the three phases of limerence he has identified.   If you are "madly in love" this program is for you. You may feel that the intensity of your current emotion for the other person will last forever just as it is now. Dr. Beam explains how it will change, and how understanding that change can help prevent consequences that you don't yet see coming. If you are married to someone who has fallen "madly in love" with another, this program is for you. If you wish to save your marriage but think it impossible because your husband or wife is in limerence with another, Dr. Beam's explanations of limerence, especially understanding the three phases, can guide you in the process of saving your marriage. As he says, "If anything works, this will work." If you wish to speak with Dr. Beam during the program, call 646-378-0424. When you hear the menu, press one to get into the queue. Whether you listen live or later, don't miss this program.
Aug 17, 2016
Why Won't God Save My Marriage? with Kimberly Holmes
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Do you feel abandoned by God? Do you wonder why He isn't intervening in your marriage? If you feel this way, you are not alone.  But that doesn't mean that it has to stay that way.  There's a reason for these trials and tribulations, even though it is hard to go through right now.  How can you strengthen your faith instead of lose it? Or can you? Should you?  We'll discuss all these questions, and more, in this real heart to heart conversation.  We care about you and your marriage.
Aug 10, 2016
Why Won't God Save My Marriage? with Kimberly Holmes
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Do you feel abandoned by God? Do you wonder why He isn't intervening in your marriage? If you feel this way, you are not alone.  But that doesn't mean that it has to stay that way.  There's a reason for these trials and tribulations, even though it is hard to go through right now.  How can you strengthen your faith instead of lose it? Or can you? Should you?  We'll discuss all these questions, and more, in this real heart to heart conversation.  We care about you and your marriage.
Aug 10, 2016
What To Do When You Don't Agree - The Dr. Joe Show
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Sometimes it makes no difference if you don't agree with the person you love. Sometimes it does. Especially when your disagreement pulls you apart.  Maybe you disagree about where you live, occupations, religion, money, children, or anything else that matters to you. On some things you are willing to yield. Not this. It is important to you. So important that you feel your loved one is being selfish, or doesn't understand you. Important enough that it might destroy the relationship. Is there a way to find a compromise that satisfies both of you...a solution where neither feels s/he loses...where you each get what you want and no one dominates? Yes. In this program Dr. Joe Beam teaches a method that the two of you can use to solve almost any seemingly insolvable disagreement. The principle isn't difficult to understand. You can apply it with great effect. To make it even clearer, Dr. Beam gives several examples of how people have used it to find a valid solution to their major disagreements.  You can call Dr. Beam during the program to ask questions about how this principle might be applied to your situation. The number to call during the program is (646) 378-0424.
Aug 03, 2016
What To Do When You Don't Agree - The Dr. Joe Show
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Sometimes it makes no difference if you don't agree with the person you love. Sometimes it does. Especially when your disagreement pulls you apart.  Maybe you disagree about where you live, occupations, religion, money, children, or anything else that matters to you. On some things you are willing to yield. Not this. It is important to you. So important that you feel your loved one is being selfish, or doesn't understand you. Important enough that it might destroy the relationship. Is there a way to find a compromise that satisfies both of you...a solution where neither feels s/he loses...where you each get what you want and no one dominates? Yes. In this program Dr. Joe Beam teaches a method that the two of you can use to solve almost any seemingly insolvable disagreement. The principle isn't difficult to understand. You can apply it with great effect. To make it even clearer, Dr. Beam gives several examples of how people have used it to find a valid solution to their major disagreements.  You can call Dr. Beam during the program to ask questions about how this principle might be applied to your situation. The number to call during the program is (646) 378-0424.
Aug 03, 2016
How To Teach the One You Love to Lie - The Dr. Joe Show
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Whether it's done by your best friend, your child, or your spouse, it hurts when we discover that we've been lied to, doesn't it? No one that I know of likes being deceived. Even in affairs, I often hear the spouse who was cheated on say something such as "As much as the affair hurt, it hurt me even more that s/he lied to me!" Would it surprise you to know that sometimes the person who lied to you did so because you taught him/her to lie to you? Yes. It happens. No, not every lie a person tells you is in response to your actions. Sometimes people lie. Sometimes they lie with those huge life-altering falsehoods that devastate you. Even so, sometimes the lies start because of your own actions. Then the lies escalate. They can become ultimately destructive. This program isn't about "beating you up" and saying that the wrong things done by people you love are your fault. Every person is responsible for his/her own decisions and actions. Yet, this program is about learning the things you do that may be teaching someone you care about to lie to you. It doesn't justify their lies...but learning how to evoke the truth from others is FAR better than doing things that may provoke their lying to you. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam discusses briefly why people lie. Then he explains how your actions may be facilitating or provoking those lies. Finally, he teaches how to interact with people in a manner most likely to promote their telling you the truth. If you wish to talk with Dr. Beam during the program to make comments or ask questions, you may do so by calling 646.378.0424. It airs live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, Tuesday, July 26, 2016.
Jul 27, 2016
How To Teach the One You Love to Lie - The Dr. Joe Show
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Whether it's done by your best friend, your child, or your spouse, it hurts when we discover that we've been lied to, doesn't it? No one that I know of likes being deceived. Even in affairs, I often hear the spouse who was cheated on say something such as "As much as the affair hurt, it hurt me even more that s/he lied to me!" Would it surprise you to know that sometimes the person who lied to you did so because you taught him/her to lie to you? Yes. It happens. No, not every lie a person tells you is in response to your actions. Sometimes people lie. Sometimes they lie with those huge life-altering falsehoods that devastate you. Even so, sometimes the lies start because of your own actions. Then the lies escalate. They can become ultimately destructive. This program isn't about "beating you up" and saying that the wrong things done by people you love are your fault. Every person is responsible for his/her own decisions and actions. Yet, this program is about learning the things you do that may be teaching someone you care about to lie to you. It doesn't justify their lies...but learning how to evoke the truth from others is FAR better than doing things that may provoke their lying to you. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam discusses briefly why people lie. Then he explains how your actions may be facilitating or provoking those lies. Finally, he teaches how to interact with people in a manner most likely to promote their telling you the truth. If you wish to talk with Dr. Beam during the program to make comments or ask questions, you may do so by calling 646.378.0424. It airs live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, Tuesday, July 26, 2016.
Jul 27, 2016
Dealing With Guilt - The Dr. Joe Show
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It may be guilt you feel. It may guilt felt by someone you love. Either way, it affects everyone. The person who feels guilt has little to no peace. The ones who love the guilt-ridden are pushed away...or feel helpless to help. Guilt isn't a bad thing. We actually need it. If we never felt it, we'd have no conscience...we'd fake feeling remorse and true emotions about how we affect others, but that's all it would be...fake. But guilt can also work against us. It can lead us to make poor decisions, remove ourselves from others, cause us to lash out at others, or even do things to punish ourselves (whether we realize that we're doing it or not). When should a person feel guilty?  What is the best way to deal with guilt? How can we get past guilt, especially when there seems to be nothing we can do to stop it? How can we find true forgiveness from others...from ourselves...from our God. How does gulit affect relationships? How can we help those who are captured by guilt find the way out of the darkness and pain? In this program Dr. Joe Beam, author of Getting Past Guilt, discusses the subject of guilt...what it is...when it's good...when it's bad...how to use it for good results...how to remove it when it's causing harm...how to help others who feel guilt. Dr. Beam will also take your calls about your own guilt or about someone you care about that you wish to help with his/her guilt. Call (646) 378-0424  live during the program that begins at 9 p.m. Central on July 12.
Jul 13, 2016
Dealing With Guilt - The Dr. Joe Show
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It may be guilt you feel. It may guilt felt by someone you love. Either way, it affects everyone. The person who feels guilt has little to no peace. The ones who love the guilt-ridden are pushed away...or feel helpless to help. Guilt isn't a bad thing. We actually need it. If we never felt it, we'd have no conscience...we'd fake feeling remorse and true emotions about how we affect others, but that's all it would be...fake. But guilt can also work against us. It can lead us to make poor decisions, remove ourselves from others, cause us to lash out at others, or even do things to punish ourselves (whether we realize that we're doing it or not). When should a person feel guilty?  What is the best way to deal with guilt? How can we get past guilt, especially when there seems to be nothing we can do to stop it? How can we find true forgiveness from others...from ourselves...from our God. How does gulit affect relationships? How can we help those who are captured by guilt find the way out of the darkness and pain? In this program Dr. Joe Beam, author of Getting Past Guilt, discusses the subject of guilt...what it is...when it's good...when it's bad...how to use it for good results...how to remove it when it's causing harm...how to help others who feel guilt. Dr. Beam will also take your calls about your own guilt or about someone you care about that you wish to help with his/her guilt. Call (646) 378-0424  live during the program that begins at 9 p.m. Central on July 12.
Jul 13, 2016
Should You Tell Your Spouse? - The Dr. Joe Show
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You've done something that you know will hurt your spouse if s/he knew about it. Maybe it was recent? Maybe years ago? Maybe even before you met, but you have worry that s/he will react badly if it came out. Do you tell?  Do you keep it a secret? If you do tell, will it end your marriage...or at the very least cause hard and angry feelings that will last for a long time? If you don't tell, will it erode your marriage from within because of how it affects you to keep it secret? And if you were to tell, WHAT should you tell and what should you leave OUT? In this program, Dr. Beam gives clear and understandable guidelines for deciding whether to tell or not to tell. That's right; in some situations it is far better NOT to tell. For others, the marriage is in jeopardy UNTIL you tell. The principles and guidelines presented in this program will help you decide. And if you decide you should tell, Dr. Beam gives principles of what TO tell and what NOT to tell. If you wish to ask Dr. Beam about a specific situation, call during the program to (646) 378-0424 to speak with him live. Don't live in miserable hesitation any longer about whether to tell your spouse. Find peace by knowing whether to tell and, if so, what to tell. Don't miss this episode of Marriage Radio with Joe Beam...the Dr. Joe Show.
Jul 06, 2016
Should You Tell Your Spouse? - The Dr. Joe Show
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You've done something that you know will hurt your spouse if s/he knew about it. Maybe it was recent? Maybe years ago? Maybe even before you met, but you have worry that s/he will react badly if it came out. Do you tell?  Do you keep it a secret? If you do tell, will it end your marriage...or at the very least cause hard and angry feelings that will last for a long time? If you don't tell, will it erode your marriage from within because of how it affects you to keep it secret? And if you were to tell, WHAT should you tell and what should you leave OUT? In this program, Dr. Beam gives clear and understandable guidelines for deciding whether to tell or not to tell. That's right; in some situations it is far better NOT to tell. For others, the marriage is in jeopardy UNTIL you tell. The principles and guidelines presented in this program will help you decide. And if you decide you should tell, Dr. Beam gives principles of what TO tell and what NOT to tell. If you wish to ask Dr. Beam about a specific situation, call during the program to (646) 378-0424 to speak with him live. Don't live in miserable hesitation any longer about whether to tell your spouse. Find peace by knowing whether to tell and, if so, what to tell. Don't miss this episode of Marriage Radio with Joe Beam...the Dr. Joe Show.
Jul 06, 2016
How One Couple Saved An "Impossible" Marriage - The Dr. Joe Show
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He was "madly in love" with another woman. She wanted to save their marriage. They tried a couple intense potential solutions and then, by agreement, she moved thousands of miles back to her former home leaving him with his lover. It appeared to be hopeless. They informed their kids. They made their plans for separate lives.  But things changed. Against apparently impossible odds, he called her and asked if she would consider working things out. She agreed. It wasn't all easy. There was work to do. She understood his need to grieve losing the other relationship. He understood her need to work through their issues. Together, they did it. Today they have a good, solid loving marriage. During this program, Dr. Joe Beam will ask them questions to lead them through their story...but not just the story. He will ask how the wife could be strong enough to understand her husband's grieving losing what he had with the other woman. He will ask them how their children reacted to being told their marriage was going to end...and how they reacted when they realized their parents were going to make their marriage work. There will be several questions that the couple will answer honestly and forthrightly. However, you, too, can ask specific questions. During the program, you can call in to speak with the couple at (646) 378-0424. The program airs live on June 28 beginning at 9 p.m. Central time on www.MarriageRadio.com as well as on BlogTalkRadio. You can also hear it later on iTunes by subscribing free to Marriage Radio with Joe Beam.  You don't want to miss this episode!
Jun 29, 2016
How One Couple Saved An "Impossible" Marriage - The Dr. Joe Show
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He was "madly in love" with another woman. She wanted to save their marriage. They tried a couple intense potential solutions and then, by agreement, she moved thousands of miles back to her former home leaving him with his lover. It appeared to be hopeless. They informed their kids. They made their plans for separate lives.  But things changed. Against apparently impossible odds, he called her and asked if she would consider working things out. She agreed. It wasn't all easy. There was work to do. She understood his need to grieve losing the other relationship. He understood her need to work through their issues. Together, they did it. Today they have a good, solid loving marriage. During this program, Dr. Joe Beam will ask them questions to lead them through their story...but not just the story. He will ask how the wife could be strong enough to understand her husband's grieving losing what he had with the other woman. He will ask them how their children reacted to being told their marriage was going to end...and how they reacted when they realized their parents were going to make their marriage work. There will be several questions that the couple will answer honestly and forthrightly. However, you, too, can ask specific questions. During the program, you can call in to speak with the couple at (646) 378-0424. The program airs live on June 28 beginning at 9 p.m. Central time on www.MarriageRadio.com as well as on BlogTalkRadio. You can also hear it later on iTunes by subscribing free to Marriage Radio with Joe Beam.  You don't want to miss this episode!
Jun 29, 2016
More About Limerence ("madly in love") - The Dr. Joe Show
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Questions continue to come in about limerence. (Limerence is the state of feeling "madly in love" with another.) Millions of marriages are in crisis because either husband or wife has fallen into a state of limerence with someone else. Sometimes it is only emotional. Most of the time it also becomes sexual.  Although Dr. Beam regularly explains limerence on the program, the questions continue to come in droves. In this program he answers more of those questions. He also takes calls live from those who wish to ask about their specific situation. Call during the program to (646) 378-0424. (The program airs live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, June 21, 2016.) Dr. Beam will cover some of the basic information such as: - What is limerence? - How does it happen? - How does it affect the person who is in it? - Why does it lead people to leave their spouses? As well as more specific questions such as: - When will it end? - Is there a way to know whether my spouse is starting to come out of limerence with someone else? - Is there anything I can do to help my spouse come out of limerence? And even for those who are in limerence: - Is there any way I can take control of my emotions again? - Why shouldn't I leave my marriage for the person that I'm in love with? PLUS specific questions from callers as well as those who have posted questions in the Facebook Group "Save My Marriage."
Jun 22, 2016
More About Limerence ("madly in love") - The Dr. Joe Show
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Questions continue to come in about limerence. (Limerence is the state of feeling "madly in love" with another.) Millions of marriages are in crisis because either husband or wife has fallen into a state of limerence with someone else. Sometimes it is only emotional. Most of the time it also becomes sexual.  Although Dr. Beam regularly explains limerence on the program, the questions continue to come in droves. In this program he answers more of those questions. He also takes calls live from those who wish to ask about their specific situation. Call during the program to (646) 378-0424. (The program airs live beginning at 9 p.m. Central time, June 21, 2016.) Dr. Beam will cover some of the basic information such as: - What is limerence? - How does it happen? - How does it affect the person who is in it? - Why does it lead people to leave their spouses? As well as more specific questions such as: - When will it end? - Is there a way to know whether my spouse is starting to come out of limerence with someone else? - Is there anything I can do to help my spouse come out of limerence? And even for those who are in limerence: - Is there any way I can take control of my emotions again? - Why shouldn't I leave my marriage for the person that I'm in love with? PLUS specific questions from callers as well as those who have posted questions in the Facebook Group "Save My Marriage."
Jun 22, 2016
Should I Put Up With This From My Spouse? - The Dr. Joe Show
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Several crucial questions have come in about how to deal with spouses doing destructive things. In this program, we will deal with questions such as: What do I do if my spouse keeps lying? Are all lies the same? Do I react to all of them the same way? Should I set traps to catch him / her in the lies? How do I know s/he's telling the truth now? S/he claims that all lies are over but I have my doubts. What do I do if my cheating spouse is lying to my kids about what's going on with us? Do I tell them the truth? My mate still lives at home though s/he is involved emotionally with someone else. I'm trying to save the marriage and s/he tells me that if I'll just be patient and let this run its course, everything will be fine? Am I a fool to believe that? Is s/he using me? What do I do? I think my spouse is going through mid-life crisis. S/he is moody, depressed, doesn't communicate. How do I deal with this? My mate says if I stop talking about hour problesm s/he will stay but if I keep bringing things up, s/he's out of here. Yet I can't live with things like they are. Do I shut up? Do I press for answers? When is it time to give an ultimatum? How do I know when it's time to press things or if I'm better off to give a little more space? Dr. Joe Beam will answer these and any other questions that you wish to call live during the program at (646) 378-0424. It will be a lively and informative conversation with real people dealing with real problems.
Jun 15, 2016
Should I Put Up With This From My Spouse? - The Dr. Joe Show
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Several crucial questions have come in about how to deal with spouses doing destructive things. In this program, we will deal with questions such as: What do I do if my spouse keeps lying? Are all lies the same? Do I react to all of them the same way? Should I set traps to catch him / her in the lies? How do I know s/he's telling the truth now? S/he claims that all lies are over but I have my doubts. What do I do if my cheating spouse is lying to my kids about what's going on with us? Do I tell them the truth? My mate still lives at home though s/he is involved emotionally with someone else. I'm trying to save the marriage and s/he tells me that if I'll just be patient and let this run its course, everything will be fine? Am I a fool to believe that? Is s/he using me? What do I do? I think my spouse is going through mid-life crisis. S/he is moody, depressed, doesn't communicate. How do I deal with this? My mate says if I stop talking about hour problesm s/he will stay but if I keep bringing things up, s/he's out of here. Yet I can't live with things like they are. Do I shut up? Do I press for answers? When is it time to give an ultimatum? How do I know when it's time to press things or if I'm better off to give a little more space? Dr. Joe Beam will answer these and any other questions that you wish to call live during the program at (646) 378-0424. It will be a lively and informative conversation with real people dealing with real problems.
Jun 15, 2016
Understanding Limerence (the "Madly In Love" syndrome) - The Dr. Joe Show
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What is going on in the head/heart of someone "madly in love" with another? Why do they do the things they do? Say the things they say? Make the decisions they make? What if a person is married to one and falls "madly in love" with another? How does that happen? Is it the fault of the spouse they wish to leave? Is there hope to save the marriage? Will s/he divorce the one, marry the other, and live happily ever after? That's that the person believes will happen. However, it's not what's going to happen. They love they believe that no one can understand because no one could ever have felt this way before...is quite common. And, unfortunately for the person in it, it only SEEMS that it will last forever. It won't. It always ends. There's a name for it. It's called limerence. The word was coined by Dorothy Tennov, PhD, in the 1970s. At that time it received little acceptance by counselors. Even today, we find that many marriage counselors and therapists either do not know about it or know very little about it. Current research on it has been done by Helen Fisher, PhD, and her colleagues. (Tennov has passed on.) Their findings are fascinating. So are ours. We have worked with myriads of married people who are in limerence with someone other than their spouses. We've heard the stories...we've witnessed the actions and decisions...and we've seen the consequences. Not good consequences, though the person leaving his / her spouse for another with whom s/he is "madly in love" always fully anticipates that life with the lover will be amazing, fulfilling, and last a lifetime. Nearly all end within 3 years...even the ones that believe it will last forever. In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses limerence in detail. He also takes your calls live at 646.378.0424
Jun 01, 2016
Understanding Limerence (the "Madly In Love" syndrome) - The Dr. Joe Show
6049
What is going on in the head/heart of someone "madly in love" with another? Why do they do the things they do? Say the things they say? Make the decisions they make? What if a person is married to one and falls "madly in love" with another? How does that happen? Is it the fault of the spouse they wish to leave? Is there hope to save the marriage? Will s/he divorce the one, marry the other, and live happily ever after? That's that the person believes will happen. However, it's not what's going to happen. They love they believe that no one can understand because no one could ever have felt this way before...is quite common. And, unfortunately for the person in it, it only SEEMS that it will last forever. It won't. It always ends. There's a name for it. It's called limerence. The word was coined by Dorothy Tennov, PhD, in the 1970s. At that time it received little acceptance by counselors. Even today, we find that many marriage counselors and therapists either do not know about it or know very little about it. Current research on it has been done by Helen Fisher, PhD, and her colleagues. (Tennov has passed on.) Their findings are fascinating. So are ours. We have worked with myriads of married people who are in limerence with someone other than their spouses. We've heard the stories...we've witnessed the actions and decisions...and we've seen the consequences. Not good consequences, though the person leaving his / her spouse for another with whom s/he is "madly in love" always fully anticipates that life with the lover will be amazing, fulfilling, and last a lifetime. Nearly all end within 3 years...even the ones that believe it will last forever. In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses limerence in detail. He also takes your calls live at 646.378.0424
Jun 01, 2016
How Porn Affects Husband and Wife - The Dr. Joe Show
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In this program a couple tell their poignant story. Both had difficult childhoods that led to complications in their marriage, including ography and affairs. The future seemed dim for their marriage. However, they overcame. Hear their story. Ask them questions. Interact with Dr. Joe Beam as he interviews them and also responds to your questions about your own relationship. Sexually Explicit Materials (SEM) - often simply called - is widely available, affordable, and can be accessed anonymously. Both men and women by the millions visit Internet SEM sites every day. Some say it makes their marriage better. Some don't. This couple will share with you the devastating effect it had on their marriage. You may call in during the program at 646.378.0424. This is a program you don't want to miss.
May 25, 2016
How Porn Affects Husband and Wife - The Dr. Joe Show
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In this program a couple tell their poignant story. Both had difficult childhoods that led to complications in their marriage, including ography and affairs. The future seemed dim for their marriage. However, they overcame. Hear their story. Ask them questions. Interact with Dr. Joe Beam as he interviews them and also responds to your questions about your own relationship. Sexually Explicit Materials (SEM) - often simply called - is widely available, affordable, and can be accessed anonymously. Both men and women by the millions visit Internet SEM sites every day. Some say it makes their marriage better. Some don't. This couple will share with you the devastating effect it had on their marriage. You may call in during the program at 646.378.0424. This is a program you don't want to miss.
May 25, 2016
How Divorce Affects Kids Whatever Their Age - The Dr. Joe Show
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Divorce affects children...even grown children...emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. Some say that you should never stay married just for the sake of your kids. Others say that kids are reslient and that divorce has little long-lasting effect. The research indicates somethig far different. In this program, we present the findings of some of these research projects and discuss how divorce truly does affect kids....even adults whose parents split up. Additionally, we will explain a new powerful resoure for kids of divorce. Joining Dr. Joe Beam on this program are Kimberly Holmes, Executive Director and CEO of Marriage Helper, and Justin Prince, Project Director of Divorce Help For Kids. During the program call 646-378-0424 to share your comments or ask your questions, including questions about how to help your kids if your marriage is in difficulty.
May 18, 2016
How Divorce Affects Kids Whatever Their Age - The Dr. Joe Show
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Divorce affects children...even grown children...emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. Some say that you should never stay married just for the sake of your kids. Others say that kids are reslient and that divorce has little long-lasting effect. The research indicates somethig far different. In this program, we present the findings of some of these research projects and discuss how divorce truly does affect kids....even adults whose parents split up. Additionally, we will explain a new powerful resoure for kids of divorce. Joining Dr. Joe Beam on this program are Kimberly Holmes, Executive Director and CEO of Marriage Helper, and Justin Prince, Project Director of Divorce Help For Kids. During the program call 646-378-0424 to share your comments or ask your questions, including questions about how to help your kids if your marriage is in difficulty.
May 18, 2016
Ask Anything About Relationships - The Dr. Joe Show
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In this episode of the Dr. Joe Show, Dr. Beam will talk with callers from around the world, hearing their comments and answering their questions about relationships. Often Dr. Beam's program ends with callers waiting. In this program, he will take every call possible in a two-hour special episode. Whether married or single, be sure to hear this program. Call in to ask about anything concerning relationships including: - Communication - Straying Spouse - Love - Sex - Parenting - Trust - Forgiveness ...or whatever relationship topic is on your mind. Be sure to call early to get in the queue so that Dr. Beam can get to you. Call in live beginning at 9 p.m. Central at 646-378-0424 either to listen or to interact live with Dr. Beam. You can also hear the program live (or recorded for the next six days) on www.MarriageRadio.com. All of Dr. Beam's programs are archived on iTunes; you can access them free by subscribing free on iTunes to Marriage Radio with Joe Beam.
May 11, 2016
Ask Anything About Relationships - The Dr. Joe Show
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In this episode of the Dr. Joe Show, Dr. Beam will talk with callers from around the world, hearing their comments and answering their questions about relationships. Often Dr. Beam's program ends with callers waiting. In this program, he will take every call possible in a two-hour special episode. Whether married or single, be sure to hear this program. Call in to ask about anything concerning relationships including: - Communication - Straying Spouse - Love - Sex - Parenting - Trust - Forgiveness ...or whatever relationship topic is on your mind. Be sure to call early to get in the queue so that Dr. Beam can get to you. Call in live beginning at 9 p.m. Central at 646-378-0424 either to listen or to interact live with Dr. Beam. You can also hear the program live (or recorded for the next six days) on www.MarriageRadio.com. All of Dr. Beam's programs are archived on iTunes; you can access them free by subscribing free on iTunes to Marriage Radio with Joe Beam.
May 11, 2016
How Your Personalities Affect Your Relationship - The Dr. Joe Show
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Ever wonder why your spouse is so weird? Whys/he doesn’t think like you, act like you, want the same things you want? Maybe one of you is spontaneous and the other is cautious. Maybe one is an introvert and the other an extrovert. You have different ideas, wants, or needs when it comes to how you handle money, discipline the kids, how to spend your time together. Maybe your differences are even evident in the bedroom. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam shares basic principles of how to understand your own style and the style of your spouse in ways that help you in all these ways: FinancesParentingSocial settingsEmotionsSex ….and much more. It begins at 9 p.m. Central. Call 646-378-0424 during the program to talk live with Dr. Beam about your relationship.
May 04, 2016
How Your Personalities Affect Your Relationship - The Dr. Joe Show
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Ever wonder why your spouse is so weird? Whys/he doesn’t think like you, act like you, want the same things you want? Maybe one of you is spontaneous and the other is cautious. Maybe one is an introvert and the other an extrovert. You have different ideas, wants, or needs when it comes to how you handle money, discipline the kids, how to spend your time together. Maybe your differences are even evident in the bedroom. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam shares basic principles of how to understand your own style and the style of your spouse in ways that help you in all these ways: FinancesParentingSocial settingsEmotionsSex ….and much more. It begins at 9 p.m. Central. Call 646-378-0424 during the program to talk live with Dr. Beam about your relationship.
May 04, 2016
Are You Controlling if You Stand for Your Marriage? - The Dr. Joe Beam Show
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Your spouse wants out of the marriage...but you don't. In the process of trying to end the marriage, your spouse is trying to do things that you want no part of. Maybe s/he's spending time with the "lover" while still living at home. Perhaps s/he's demanding things from you that you don't want to give about finances, custody, selling your home, or more. Your friends / family want you to punish your spouse for such egregious behavior and such arrogantly selfish demands. Your attorney counsels going for everything you can get. Your own hurt and anger tempt you to make this divorce a most miserable experience for your spouse. BUT your spouse says you're selfish, that your standing strong is just another example of you trying to control him/her, and that everything you are doing is definitive proof that s/he can't live with you and that divorce is the best thing that can happen. You find yourself worrying whether you should give in to most of his/her demands. You wonder if your standing strong and fighting for your marriage is building such anger and resentment in your spouse that never will there ever be a chance for reconciliation. You even have doubts about your own motives and fear that s/he is right and that you are a mean, selfish person and that the way you're standing strong actually proves that to be true. Would you like to know? Truly know if you are doing the right thing...if you are controlling or mean? In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses this in depth. You can also call in your questions or comments on this topic live at 646-378-0424 during the program. It airs Tuesday, April 26, beginning at 9 p.m. Central.
Apr 27, 2016
Are You Controlling if You Stand for Your Marriage? - The Dr. Joe Beam Show
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Your spouse wants out of the marriage...but you don't. In the process of trying to end the marriage, your spouse is trying to do things that you want no part of. Maybe s/he's spending time with the "lover" while still living at home. Perhaps s/he's demanding things from you that you don't want to give about finances, custody, selling your home, or more. Your friends / family want you to punish your spouse for such egregious behavior and such arrogantly selfish demands. Your attorney counsels going for everything you can get. Your own hurt and anger tempt you to make this divorce a most miserable experience for your spouse. BUT your spouse says you're selfish, that your standing strong is just another example of you trying to control him/her, and that everything you are doing is definitive proof that s/he can't live with you and that divorce is the best thing that can happen. You find yourself worrying whether you should give in to most of his/her demands. You wonder if your standing strong and fighting for your marriage is building such anger and resentment in your spouse that never will there ever be a chance for reconciliation. You even have doubts about your own motives and fear that s/he is right and that you are a mean, selfish person and that the way you're standing strong actually proves that to be true. Would you like to know? Truly know if you are doing the right thing...if you are controlling or mean? In this program Dr. Joe Beam discusses this in depth. You can also call in your questions or comments on this topic live at 646-378-0424 during the program. It airs Tuesday, April 26, beginning at 9 p.m. Central.
Apr 27, 2016
The First Step to Take when Saving Your Marriage with Kimberly Holmes
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It can be completely overwhelming to know where to start when trying to save your marriage. Where do you start?  What is the most important thing you can do?  What should you do FIRST? Join Kimberly Holmes, the CEO of Marriage Helper, shares how she stopped her marriage from ending in crisis...and teaches you a step by step plan on how to do that in your own marriage. You will leave this podcast with real, implementable steps that you can use when moving forward on how to save your marriage.
Apr 19, 2016
The First Step to Take when Saving Your Marriage with Kimberly Holmes
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It can be completely overwhelming to know where to start when trying to save your marriage. Where do you start?  What is the most important thing you can do?  What should you do FIRST? Join Kimberly Holmes, the CEO of Marriage Helper, shares how she stopped her marriage from ending in crisis...and teaches you a step by step plan on how to do that in your own marriage. You will leave this podcast with real, implementable steps that you can use when moving forward on how to save your marriage.
Apr 19, 2016
How to REALLY Communicate in Relationships - The Dr. Joe Show
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Ever wish you could really understand what your spouse is saying...you hear the words, you respond, and s/he reacts in a completely different way than you expected. You know you aren't communicating clearly with each other but it doesn't make sense to you why you aren't. It's like he speaks one language and she another. You speak the same language but apparently the words don't mean the same to each of you. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and special guest Terry Cheatham explain things NOT to do when communicating with another person, things you should ALWAYS do, as well as how to understand what the other person is actually trying to tell you and how to clearly get across what YOU want to communicate. No, it's not rocket science, but it's amazing how many people mess it up. Maybe you've been one of those people. Maybe the person you care about is. Maybe both of you. The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time Tuesday night, April 12. If you would like to call in your questions or comments, do so live at 646-378-0424.
Apr 13, 2016
How to REALLY Communicate in Relationships - The Dr. Joe Show
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Ever wish you could really understand what your spouse is saying...you hear the words, you respond, and s/he reacts in a completely different way than you expected. You know you aren't communicating clearly with each other but it doesn't make sense to you why you aren't. It's like he speaks one language and she another. You speak the same language but apparently the words don't mean the same to each of you. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam and special guest Terry Cheatham explain things NOT to do when communicating with another person, things you should ALWAYS do, as well as how to understand what the other person is actually trying to tell you and how to clearly get across what YOU want to communicate. No, it's not rocket science, but it's amazing how many people mess it up. Maybe you've been one of those people. Maybe the person you care about is. Maybe both of you. The program begins at 9 p.m. Central time Tuesday night, April 12. If you would like to call in your questions or comments, do so live at 646-378-0424.
Apr 13, 2016
How to Reconcile Marriage (It's Tougher Than You Think) - The Dr. Joe Beam Show
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What do you do when you've had major problems in your marriage and now want to try to reconcile? It's tougher to accomplish than most people think. It's great when a couple decides to put a marriage back together. However, without a valid understanding of what caused the trouble (and that usually means MUCH more than the final issue that became the focus of the marriage problems), many couples who try to reconcile run headlong into a wall of pain and frustration. For example, if the marriage hit crisis because of an affair, ending the affair doesn't necessarily mean that the underlying issues have been healed. What led to the affair? What weaknesses exist in either spouse? What relationship dynamics helped create the vulnerability? (This isn't to justify something such as an affair; it's to point out that some people think things are now fine because the affair ended BUT THERE ARE STILL ISSUES that haven't been dealt with.) That same principle applies to much more than affairs...it applies to control and domination, selfishness, in-law problems, sexual problems, and much, much more. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam guides you through a process of discovering and dealing with the real issues and then following a proven plan to make reconciliation actually work so that the marriage becomes better after the problem than it was ever before.  Dr. Beam will also take calls with specific questions about reconciliation. The program airs beginning at 9 p.m. Tuesday, April 5. If you wish to Dr. Beam during the program call 646-378-0424.
Apr 06, 2016
How to Reconcile Marriage (It's Tougher Than You Think) - The Dr. Joe Beam Show
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What do you do when you've had major problems in your marriage and now want to try to reconcile? It's tougher to accomplish than most people think. It's great when a couple decides to put a marriage back together. However, without a valid understanding of what caused the trouble (and that usually means MUCH more than the final issue that became the focus of the marriage problems), many couples who try to reconcile run headlong into a wall of pain and frustration. For example, if the marriage hit crisis because of an affair, ending the affair doesn't necessarily mean that the underlying issues have been healed. What led to the affair? What weaknesses exist in either spouse? What relationship dynamics helped create the vulnerability? (This isn't to justify something such as an affair; it's to point out that some people think things are now fine because the affair ended BUT THERE ARE STILL ISSUES that haven't been dealt with.) That same principle applies to much more than affairs...it applies to control and domination, selfishness, in-law problems, sexual problems, and much, much more. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam guides you through a process of discovering and dealing with the real issues and then following a proven plan to make reconciliation actually work so that the marriage becomes better after the problem than it was ever before.  Dr. Beam will also take calls with specific questions about reconciliation. The program airs beginning at 9 p.m. Tuesday, April 5. If you wish to Dr. Beam during the program call 646-378-0424.
Apr 06, 2016
WHY People Control Others and HOW They Do It - The Dr. Joe Beam Show
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Are you being controlled in your relationship? Has your partner accused you of being controlling? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam introduces a new way to understand control. He will explain and demonstrate WHY one person tries to control another and HOW that control manifests itself. He clarifies three different motivations that cause a person to control and exposes the methods they use. To help you evaluate whether you are being controlled...or if you are the one who is controlling...Dr. Beam introduces an acronym that you can use immediately to identify controlling motivations and behaviors. With that knowledge you can stop being controlled...or stop controlling. PLUS: Because Dr. Beam works with many marriages in crisis, he will explain how control works when one spouse wants to end a marriage and the other tries to save it. If your partner wants out and has accused you of controlling because you are trying to save your relationship, Dr. Beam will help you determine whether that is accurate. - Could your partner be right? Are you trying to control? If so, what do you change? - Could your partner be trying to manipulate you to stop you from standing for your marriage? If so, what do you NOT change? During this program, Dr. Beam will help you evaluate your actions and your spouse's actions. If you're brave enough to hear his honest opinion, call in live at 646-378-0424 to tell him what you're doing and ask if he thinks you are controlling... It begins at 9 p.m Central, Tuesday March 29, on www.MarriageRadio.com.
Mar 30, 2016
WHY People Control Others and HOW They Do It - The Dr. Joe Beam Show
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Are you being controlled in your relationship? Has your partner accused you of being controlling? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam introduces a new way to understand control. He will explain and demonstrate WHY one person tries to control another and HOW that control manifests itself. He clarifies three different motivations that cause a person to control and exposes the methods they use. To help you evaluate whether you are being controlled...or if you are the one who is controlling...Dr. Beam introduces an acronym that you can use immediately to identify controlling motivations and behaviors. With that knowledge you can stop being controlled...or stop controlling. PLUS: Because Dr. Beam works with many marriages in crisis, he will explain how control works when one spouse wants to end a marriage and the other tries to save it. If your partner wants out and has accused you of controlling because you are trying to save your relationship, Dr. Beam will help you determine whether that is accurate. - Could your partner be right? Are you trying to control? If so, what do you change? - Could your partner be trying to manipulate you to stop you from standing for your marriage? If so, what do you NOT change? During this program, Dr. Beam will help you evaluate your actions and your spouse's actions. If you're brave enough to hear his honest opinion, call in live at 646-378-0424 to tell him what you're doing and ask if he thinks you are controlling... It begins at 9 p.m Central, Tuesday March 29, on www.MarriageRadio.com.
Mar 30, 2016
When to Let Go of a Marriage - The Dr. Joe Beam Show
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For many years we've been helping people salvage marriages that appeared absolutely hopeless...not only salvage their marriages but make them good again...most better than they were before. That is why Marriage Helper exists (www.MarriageHelper.com). Our purpose is to help couples in trouble find a new way, see each other in a different light, discover a path to love again. We call it the LovePath. Most of the couples who come to our intensive three-day workshops have one spouse who wishes to save the marriage and one who wants out. Nevertheless, we witness three out of four marriages turn around and not only stay together but learn to love each other again. However, that means that some marriages don't make it. It breaks our hearts for the spouse who wants to save the marriage...for the children who are affected...for the friends and family of both husband and wife. We believe that any marriage can be saved. We encourage people to stand strong when their spouses stray, or are angry, mean, indifferent, cold, or any other of the hosts of hurtful behaviors. But we know that there comes a time to yield to the inevitable, to stop standing and move on with one's life.  The question is: When? How do you know whether to let go or continue to fight for the marriage?  In this program we provide guidelines to consider for all those who think it may be time to stop standing for their marriages. No, there aren't hard and fast rules. However, there are principles and things to consider that can help you make that decision.  This program may give you the strength and motivation to keep on. It may give you the path to peace as you let go. We don't make that decision for you. We show you how to make it for yourself. Call in your comments or questions live during the program at 646-378-0424.
Mar 16, 2016
When to Let Go of a Marriage - The Dr. Joe Beam Show
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For many years we've been helping people salvage marriages that appeared absolutely hopeless...not only salvage their marriages but make them good again...most better than they were before. That is why Marriage Helper exists (www.MarriageHelper.com). Our purpose is to help couples in trouble find a new way, see each other in a different light, discover a path to love again. We call it the LovePath. Most of the couples who come to our intensive three-day workshops have one spouse who wishes to save the marriage and one who wants out. Nevertheless, we witness three out of four marriages turn around and not only stay together but learn to love each other again. However, that means that some marriages don't make it. It breaks our hearts for the spouse who wants to save the marriage...for the children who are affected...for the friends and family of both husband and wife. We believe that any marriage can be saved. We encourage people to stand strong when their spouses stray, or are angry, mean, indifferent, cold, or any other of the hosts of hurtful behaviors. But we know that there comes a time to yield to the inevitable, to stop standing and move on with one's life.  The question is: When? How do you know whether to let go or continue to fight for the marriage?  In this program we provide guidelines to consider for all those who think it may be time to stop standing for their marriages. No, there aren't hard and fast rules. However, there are principles and things to consider that can help you make that decision.  This program may give you the strength and motivation to keep on. It may give you the path to peace as you let go. We don't make that decision for you. We show you how to make it for yourself. Call in your comments or questions live during the program at 646-378-0424.
Mar 16, 2016
Hopeless Marriage Turned Around After 4 Years - The Joe Beam Show
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Their marriage appeared hopeless. The trouble - a MAJOR problem - had been going on for four years. Only one person thought it could be saved....her name is Petra. She stood strong. She did the right things. It wasn't always easy. Sometimes it seemed it was time to give up. She didn't. Hear Petra and Richard tell their story. What went wrong? Why did it last so long? How did Petra continue to stand? Why did Richard come back? How did they heal their marriage? Host Joe Beam and Marriage Coach Terry Cheatham interview Petra and Richard, as well as adding insight throughout. They will also take your calls live during the program. To participate, call 646-378-0424.
Mar 09, 2016
Hopeless Marriage Turned Around After 4 Years - The Joe Beam Show
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Their marriage appeared hopeless. The trouble - a MAJOR problem - had been going on for four years. Only one person thought it could be saved....her name is Petra. She stood strong. She did the right things. It wasn't always easy. Sometimes it seemed it was time to give up. She didn't. Hear Petra and Richard tell their story. What went wrong? Why did it last so long? How did Petra continue to stand? Why did Richard come back? How did they heal their marriage? Host Joe Beam and Marriage Coach Terry Cheatham interview Petra and Richard, as well as adding insight throughout. They will also take your calls live during the program. To participate, call 646-378-0424.
Mar 09, 2016
Marriage Myths: 7 Common Beliefs That Lead to Major Marriage Problems
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Everyone had an opinion about marriage. What you should do, what you should not do, and how you should do it. Unfortunately not everyone has the best advice when it comes to marriage. And even worse, some of the advice is actually more destructive to marriage than helpful.
Mar 02, 2016
Marriage Myths: 7 Common Beliefs That Lead to Major Marriage Problems
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Everyone had an opinion about marriage. What you should do, what you should not do, and how you should do it. Unfortunately not everyone has the best advice when it comes to marriage. And even worse, some of the advice is actually more destructive to marriage than helpful.
Mar 02, 2016
Faith or Fear - The Joe Beam Show
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There are countless philosophical, religious, business, and self-help books that all point to one age-old wisdom:  If you believe something can happen, it will. If you doubt success, it won't come.  You hear many well meaning Christians say, "Have faith. Believe God will save your marriage and He will." But...is that really how it works?  Well, kind of...  ...however, there is a whole lot more to it than that.   Join us this Tuesday night at 9 pm CST for this often asked about and controversial topic.   Are you letting faith guide you, or is your fear prohibiting you from saving your marriage?  Listen in at marriageradio.com or by calling in at  646-378-0424.   Talk to you tonight!
Feb 24, 2016
Faith or Fear - The Joe Beam Show
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There are countless philosophical, religious, business, and self-help books that all point to one age-old wisdom:  If you believe something can happen, it will. If you doubt success, it won't come.  You hear many well meaning Christians say, "Have faith. Believe God will save your marriage and He will." But...is that really how it works?  Well, kind of...  ...however, there is a whole lot more to it than that.   Join us this Tuesday night at 9 pm CST for this often asked about and controversial topic.   Are you letting faith guide you, or is your fear prohibiting you from saving your marriage?  Listen in at marriageradio.com or by calling in at  646-378-0424.   Talk to you tonight!
Feb 24, 2016
How to Get Your Spouse to Keep Falling in Love - The Joe Beam Show
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It's called the LovePath.  It's the process people go through as they fall in love. If you are in love or have ever been in love, you went through it. If your spouse is in love with you, s/he went through it as well. When people follow the LovePath, they fall in love whether they mean to or not. When they vacate or violate the LovePath, they fall out of love whether they mean to or not. Is there a way to keep on the LovePath? To keep falling in love over a lifetime?  Yes. In this program Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes explain the first step on the LovePath...the step that many people forget over time and, as a result, either start falling out of love with their spouses OR their spouses start falling out of love with them.  Some have gone further than that. They are not at the "starting" point of falling out of love. Love is dead. (Either their's or their spouse's love.) By understanding this first phase of falling in love...and how to use it over your entire lifetime...you can stay in love...and even RENEW LOST LOVE. As we discuss this first phase of the LovePath, we will take your calls to demonstrate how the LovePath works in your life by answering your real-life questions. During the program, you can call 616-378-0424 to speak with us live. The program begins at 9 p.m. Central.
Feb 17, 2016
How to Get Your Spouse to Keep Falling in Love - The Joe Beam Show
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It's called the LovePath.  It's the process people go through as they fall in love. If you are in love or have ever been in love, you went through it. If your spouse is in love with you, s/he went through it as well. When people follow the LovePath, they fall in love whether they mean to or not. When they vacate or violate the LovePath, they fall out of love whether they mean to or not. Is there a way to keep on the LovePath? To keep falling in love over a lifetime?  Yes. In this program Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes explain the first step on the LovePath...the step that many people forget over time and, as a result, either start falling out of love with their spouses OR their spouses start falling out of love with them.  Some have gone further than that. They are not at the "starting" point of falling out of love. Love is dead. (Either their's or their spouse's love.) By understanding this first phase of falling in love...and how to use it over your entire lifetime...you can stay in love...and even RENEW LOST LOVE. As we discuss this first phase of the LovePath, we will take your calls to demonstrate how the LovePath works in your life by answering your real-life questions. During the program, you can call 616-378-0424 to speak with us live. The program begins at 9 p.m. Central.
Feb 17, 2016
Great Sex in Marriage - The Joe Beam Show
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You may have seen the statistics. One in five marriages are in the "no sex" category. That means they have sex with each other ten times a year or less. Another 15% are in the "low sex" category, which means they have sex with each other 11 to 25 times per year. That means 35% (or we can just round that to one out of three) married American couples between the ages of 18 and 59 make love to each other twice a month or less, and the majority of those are once a month or less. Notice that these aren't folks in the nursing home. Does making love this little have an effect on a marriage? On sexual health? On potential affairs? On use? Yes to all of the above. In this program, Joe Beam discusses how sex in a marriage is directly affected by the relationship the couple have. More than that, he discusses how to increase both the frequency of lovemaking and the enjoyment that both husband and wife can gain from it. For those couples where one spouse wants to do something sexually that the other is resistant to do, he offers practical advice about how to solve that problem to the satisfaction (emotionally and sexually) of both spouses. He also reveals the secret to changing bad sex (or even good sex) to GREAT sex. Call in to talk with Joe about specific questions you have about lovemaking, anatomy, or anything you wish to learn. No questions are taboo. (Proper language is required.)  If you wish, feel free to use pseudonym to hide your identity. Use a fake British accent if you want, but be sure that Joe talks about what you wish to know by calling to talk with him during the program at 646-378-0424. The program airs live beginning at 9 p.m. Central on February 9, 2016.
Feb 10, 2016
Great Sex in Marriage - The Joe Beam Show
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You may have seen the statistics. One in five marriages are in the "no sex" category. That means they have sex with each other ten times a year or less. Another 15% are in the "low sex" category, which means they have sex with each other 11 to 25 times per year. That means 35% (or we can just round that to one out of three) married American couples between the ages of 18 and 59 make love to each other twice a month or less, and the majority of those are once a month or less. Notice that these aren't folks in the nursing home. Does making love this little have an effect on a marriage? On sexual health? On potential affairs? On use? Yes to all of the above. In this program, Joe Beam discusses how sex in a marriage is directly affected by the relationship the couple have. More than that, he discusses how to increase both the frequency of lovemaking and the enjoyment that both husband and wife can gain from it. For those couples where one spouse wants to do something sexually that the other is resistant to do, he offers practical advice about how to solve that problem to the satisfaction (emotionally and sexually) of both spouses. He also reveals the secret to changing bad sex (or even good sex) to GREAT sex. Call in to talk with Joe about specific questions you have about lovemaking, anatomy, or anything you wish to learn. No questions are taboo. (Proper language is required.)  If you wish, feel free to use pseudonym to hide your identity. Use a fake British accent if you want, but be sure that Joe talks about what you wish to know by calling to talk with him during the program at 646-378-0424. The program airs live beginning at 9 p.m. Central on February 9, 2016.
Feb 10, 2016
How to Be a Safe Place in Your Marriage
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You've heard it often... "Be a safe place for your spouse." But how can you be a safe place when your spouse is the one leaving? When your spouse is the one berating you? When your spouse is the one who is not a safe place? Why should you be a safe place? We'll talk about your questions, concerns, and frustrations tonight on Marriage Radio. Listen live at www.marriageradio.com at 9 pm CST. Missed it live? Find us on iTunes under "Marriage Radio". Everyone who reviews the Marriage Radio podcast on iTunes will be entered into a monthly drawing to receive 50% off the Marriage Helper 911 workshop.
Feb 03, 2016
How to Be a Safe Place in Your Marriage
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You've heard it often... "Be a safe place for your spouse." But how can you be a safe place when your spouse is the one leaving? When your spouse is the one berating you? When your spouse is the one who is not a safe place? Why should you be a safe place? We'll talk about your questions, concerns, and frustrations tonight on Marriage Radio. Listen live at www.marriageradio.com at 9 pm CST. Missed it live? Find us on iTunes under "Marriage Radio". Everyone who reviews the Marriage Radio podcast on iTunes will be entered into a monthly drawing to receive 50% off the Marriage Helper 911 workshop.
Feb 03, 2016
How to Be the Hero of Your Marriage
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Dr. Joe Beam will be joined by his wife, Alice, for this special program as they discuss How to Become the Hero of Your Marriage, and how Alice was the hero of their marriage when she took Joe back after their 3 year divorce. (Watch the video above for some special insight totonight's show...) What led to the divorce? What happened while they were divorced? And more importantly...why did she take him back?  There's sure to be some laughs, some tears, and some exciting surprises! Don't miss tonight's special one year anniversary show. We look forward to talking to you. Plus...we're celebrating our one-year anniversary tonight!
Jan 27, 2016
How to Be the Hero of Your Marriage
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Dr. Joe Beam will be joined by his wife, Alice, for this special program as they discuss How to Become the Hero of Your Marriage, and how Alice was the hero of their marriage when she took Joe back after their 3 year divorce. (Watch the video above for some special insight totonight's show...) What led to the divorce? What happened while they were divorced? And more importantly...why did she take him back?  There's sure to be some laughs, some tears, and some exciting surprises! Don't miss tonight's special one year anniversary show. We look forward to talking to you. Plus...we're celebrating our one-year anniversary tonight!
Jan 27, 2016
How to Reconcile a Marriage After Major Trouble - The Joe Beam Show
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Ready to reconcile your marriage after a major problem? Or maybe you want to know how to reconcile your marriage if you can get past your current problem.  In this program we will talk about how the expecations some have about reconciliation are not the same as the reality of what it will take to reconcile, what happens during reconciliaiton, and what your relationship will be like after you've put your marriage back together. True reconciliation requires things such as: - Understanding each other's hurt (and the grief process that goes with that hurt). - Seeking and granting forgiveness. - Defending each other. - Rebuilding trust. - Developing mutual accountability. - Changing communication patterns. - Understanding insecurities and potential comparisons. - Creating rituals (maybe replacing old rituals). ...and much more. We have as special guests a couple whose marriage was torn apart by infidelity. They resolved their problems and reconciled. They will tell their story. Additionally, Joe Beam will answer questions from callers during the program about this topic or any other relationship topic they wish to discuss. To be part of the program, call 646-378-0424.
Jan 20, 2016
How to Reconcile a Marriage After Major Trouble - The Joe Beam Show
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Ready to reconcile your marriage after a major problem? Or maybe you want to know how to reconcile your marriage if you can get past your current problem.  In this program we will talk about how the expecations some have about reconciliation are not the same as the reality of what it will take to reconcile, what happens during reconciliaiton, and what your relationship will be like after you've put your marriage back together. True reconciliation requires things such as: - Understanding each other's hurt (and the grief process that goes with that hurt). - Seeking and granting forgiveness. - Defending each other. - Rebuilding trust. - Developing mutual accountability. - Changing communication patterns. - Understanding insecurities and potential comparisons. - Creating rituals (maybe replacing old rituals). ...and much more. We have as special guests a couple whose marriage was torn apart by infidelity. They resolved their problems and reconciled. They will tell their story. Additionally, Joe Beam will answer questions from callers during the program about this topic or any other relationship topic they wish to discuss. To be part of the program, call 646-378-0424.
Jan 20, 2016
Could You Be Controlling...Without Realizing It?
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Many times people exhibit controlling behaviors without realizing it. Other times people are controlled, and don't know how to handle it in their marriage. We'll talk about both sides. In this show, we'll discuss control in three different ways:  1. How to know if you're controlling (you may not realize it!) 2. What to do if you are controlling (it's not too late to change things) 3. How to handle being controlled by your spouse As always, call in and press the number 1 to speak with us! Everyone who calls in will be entered in to the drawing for 50% off the911 workshop.
Jan 13, 2016
Could You Be Controlling...Without Realizing It?
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Many times people exhibit controlling behaviors without realizing it. Other times people are controlled, and don't know how to handle it in their marriage. We'll talk about both sides. In this show, we'll discuss control in three different ways:  1. How to know if you're controlling (you may not realize it!) 2. What to do if you are controlling (it's not too late to change things) 3. How to handle being controlled by your spouse As always, call in and press the number 1 to speak with us! Everyone who calls in will be entered in to the drawing for 50% off the911 workshop.
Jan 13, 2016
How to Save Your Marriage with Kimberly Holmes
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How To Save Your Marriage In 2016 It's the start of the new year, and it could also be the start of a new marriage. The same marriage that you fought for last year, but this year, what if it could be different? What if it could be new? You're probably thinking, "I've tried standing for my marriage, and nothing is working." I understand. We've been there, too.  But tonight, we want to encourage you and revitalize your mindset to help you start 2016 strong in standing for your marriage... ...and how you can do that? Tune in tonight at 9 pm CST at www.marriageradio.com or by calling in at 646.378.0424.  If you have a question, press the number 1. Everyone we talk to will be entered into a drawing to receive 50% off the Marriage Helper 911 workshop! (The workshop is never publicly offered at this price)   Talk to you tonight!
Jan 06, 2016
How to Save Your Marriage with Kimberly Holmes
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How To Save Your Marriage In 2016 It's the start of the new year, and it could also be the start of a new marriage. The same marriage that you fought for last year, but this year, what if it could be different? What if it could be new? You're probably thinking, "I've tried standing for my marriage, and nothing is working." I understand. We've been there, too.  But tonight, we want to encourage you and revitalize your mindset to help you start 2016 strong in standing for your marriage... ...and how you can do that? Tune in tonight at 9 pm CST at www.marriageradio.com or by calling in at 646.378.0424.  If you have a question, press the number 1. Everyone we talk to will be entered into a drawing to receive 50% off the Marriage Helper 911 workshop! (The workshop is never publicly offered at this price)   Talk to you tonight!
Jan 06, 2016
What Would You Like to Know? (open mic night) - The Joe Beam Show
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We usually pick the subjects for each of our programs. However, no matter what the topic is, there are people who wish to talk about things pertinent to their situations RIGHT NOW! that aren't specifically connected to our subject. Soooo, tonight you get to ask whatever you wish. Intimacy? Yes, we have quite a lot to say about that. Sex? Yep, that, too. How to fight fair? Um-hmm. How to hang in there when there seems to be no hope for a relationship? Yes. How to deal with kids? Even that. Starting 9 p.m. Central time, Dec 29, 2015, call in your questions or comments LIVE at (646)-378-0424. Or just listen via computer or on your phone by calling that same number. Whatever's been on your mind....whatever you wanted to ask someone but didn't know whom to ask....whatever you have been afraid to ask or talk about....THIS is the program where you can finally get your answers. Relationship expert Joe Beam will be joined by the Executive Director of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Holmes for this lively, informative, and perhaps even controversial program. And if your marriage is in trouble, just by talking with Joe and Kimberly, you will automatically be added to a drawing for half-off registration for the remarkably successful workshop for marriages in trouble.
Dec 30, 2015
What Would You Like to Know? (open mic night) - The Joe Beam Show
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We usually pick the subjects for each of our programs. However, no matter what the topic is, there are people who wish to talk about things pertinent to their situations RIGHT NOW! that aren't specifically connected to our subject. Soooo, tonight you get to ask whatever you wish. Intimacy? Yes, we have quite a lot to say about that. Sex? Yep, that, too. How to fight fair? Um-hmm. How to hang in there when there seems to be no hope for a relationship? Yes. How to deal with kids? Even that. Starting 9 p.m. Central time, Dec 29, 2015, call in your questions or comments LIVE at (646)-378-0424. Or just listen via computer or on your phone by calling that same number. Whatever's been on your mind....whatever you wanted to ask someone but didn't know whom to ask....whatever you have been afraid to ask or talk about....THIS is the program where you can finally get your answers. Relationship expert Joe Beam will be joined by the Executive Director of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Holmes for this lively, informative, and perhaps even controversial program. And if your marriage is in trouble, just by talking with Joe and Kimberly, you will automatically be added to a drawing for half-off registration for the remarkably successful workshop for marriages in trouble.
Dec 30, 2015
Learning to Trust Again - The Joe Beam Show
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If you are the spouse who has been hurt - or the spouse who did the hurting - there are key principles for building trust again in your relationship. The hurt spouse often feels anger, pain, fear, doubt, anxiety, and helplessness. The spouse who did the hurt often feels remorse, guilt, fear, desire, and helplessness. Sometimes the spouse who did the hurt wants the other spouse to forgive and forget rapidly...let's just get beyond this as fast as we can. Often the hurt spouse needs to talk about the pain, the fear of what might happen again, and to be reassured in many ways. Are there ways to rebuild the trust? Yes. Does it require work? Yes.  Will there be questions that must be answered? Absolutely. Are there some questions which should not be answered? Absolutely. In this program we'll guide you through a process to know what do do, which questions to ask and answer, which ones to avoid, and how to overcome the fear that the hurt will happen again. You may call in your questions or comments during the program (646-378-0424) or email in advance to AskJoe@MarriageHelper.com
Dec 23, 2015
Learning to Trust Again - The Joe Beam Show
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If you are the spouse who has been hurt - or the spouse who did the hurting - there are key principles for building trust again in your relationship. The hurt spouse often feels anger, pain, fear, doubt, anxiety, and helplessness. The spouse who did the hurt often feels remorse, guilt, fear, desire, and helplessness. Sometimes the spouse who did the hurt wants the other spouse to forgive and forget rapidly...let's just get beyond this as fast as we can. Often the hurt spouse needs to talk about the pain, the fear of what might happen again, and to be reassured in many ways. Are there ways to rebuild the trust? Yes. Does it require work? Yes.  Will there be questions that must be answered? Absolutely. Are there some questions which should not be answered? Absolutely. In this program we'll guide you through a process to know what do do, which questions to ask and answer, which ones to avoid, and how to overcome the fear that the hurt will happen again. You may call in your questions or comments during the program (646-378-0424) or email in advance to AskJoe@MarriageHelper.com
Dec 23, 2015
Why Your Spouse Loves Another (Understanding Limerence) - The Joe Beam Show
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How can the person who was once in love with you now be in love with someone else? Why is s/he no longer the person that you fell in love with? Why has s/he become someone that you hardly recognize? How can s/he seem to no longer care about me? About our children? About our life together? The psychological word for it is limerence. That word describes people who are "madly in love" and all that goes with it. In this program, Joe Beam explains in detail what limerence is, how it occcured, why it changes a person, and how it will end. (It always ends...) More than that, Joe offers practical suggestions of what you should do if you wish to save your marriage. You may call-in your questions live at 646-378-0424 during the program, or email them in advance to AskJoe@MarriageHelper.com. Every person who calls in to talk to Dr. Beam will be entered into a drawing to receive 50% off the Marriage Helper 911 workshop. Additionally, you could be the winner of a free copy of Joe's book The Art of Falling In Love. Go on iTunes, subscribe to Marriage Radio, and leave a review of the podcast, then email the username that you submitted the review under to askjoe@marriagehelper.com, We will choose 5 lucky winners to get a FREE copy of the Art of Falling in Love.
Dec 16, 2015
Why Your Spouse Loves Another (Understanding Limerence) - The Joe Beam Show
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How can the person who was once in love with you now be in love with someone else? Why is s/he no longer the person that you fell in love with? Why has s/he become someone that you hardly recognize? How can s/he seem to no longer care about me? About our children? About our life together? The psychological word for it is limerence. That word describes people who are "madly in love" and all that goes with it. In this program, Joe Beam explains in detail what limerence is, how it occcured, why it changes a person, and how it will end. (It always ends...) More than that, Joe offers practical suggestions of what you should do if you wish to save your marriage. You may call-in your questions live at 646-378-0424 during the program, or email them in advance to AskJoe@MarriageHelper.com. Every person who calls in to talk to Dr. Beam will be entered into a drawing to receive 50% off the Marriage Helper 911 workshop. Additionally, you could be the winner of a free copy of Joe's book The Art of Falling In Love. Go on iTunes, subscribe to Marriage Radio, and leave a review of the podcast, then email the username that you submitted the review under to askjoe@marriagehelper.com, We will choose 5 lucky winners to get a FREE copy of the Art of Falling in Love.
Dec 16, 2015
The Definitive Guide to Boundaries in Marriage
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How can you stop your spouse from behaviors destructive to him- herself, to you, to your family, or to your relationship? You set boundaries.  How do you get your spouse to do the things necessary to keep your relationship alive when it seems it may not last? You set criteria. Boundaries and criteria are different. They have similarities, but the difference between them is crucial to understand. Even if a person sets and enforces solid boundaries, s/he may well be missing the effective restoration to a good relationship that can come with solid criteria. Our experience is that most people either don't set boundaries, set boundaries that are too broad, or any number of other things that make the boundaries either impossible to keep, or that are ignored by their spouses. We also witness people setting no criteria, poor criteria, and other mistakes that don't motivate their spouses to meet the criteria at all. How do you set boundaries? In this program Joe Beam discusses that in detail. How to make them, what to avoid, when to enforce them, and why they work. What about criteria? In this program, Joe explains the difference between boundaries and criteria, when to establish criteria, how to make ones that help, and how to use them to make your relationship better. Criteria and boundaries are not wishes and wants: They establish absolute do's and absolute don't's.
Dec 08, 2015
The Definitive Guide to Boundaries in Marriage
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How can you stop your spouse from behaviors destructive to him- herself, to you, to your family, or to your relationship? You set boundaries.  How do you get your spouse to do the things necessary to keep your relationship alive when it seems it may not last? You set criteria. Boundaries and criteria are different. They have similarities, but the difference between them is crucial to understand. Even if a person sets and enforces solid boundaries, s/he may well be missing the effective restoration to a good relationship that can come with solid criteria. Our experience is that most people either don't set boundaries, set boundaries that are too broad, or any number of other things that make the boundaries either impossible to keep, or that are ignored by their spouses. We also witness people setting no criteria, poor criteria, and other mistakes that don't motivate their spouses to meet the criteria at all. How do you set boundaries? In this program Joe Beam discusses that in detail. How to make them, what to avoid, when to enforce them, and why they work. What about criteria? In this program, Joe explains the difference between boundaries and criteria, when to establish criteria, how to make ones that help, and how to use them to make your relationship better. Criteria and boundaries are not wishes and wants: They establish absolute do's and absolute don't's.
Dec 08, 2015
How to Tell a Good Marriage Counselor from a Useless One
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We hear the stories all to often. "We went to a counselor about our marriage and it was the biggest mistake every. She helped alright; helped destroy our marriage!" "As soon as the therapist discovered my husband was involved with someone else, he told us that he couldn't help us. That was it. Session over. My husband said, 'See, there's no help for us' and went to the other woman. Are there any counselors out there who actually help people in our situation?" "Turns out our counselor had the philosophy that each of us should be happy and if that wasn't together, we should follow our own individual paths to happiness. What a load of crap from a so-called marriage counselor." Are there good marriage counselors out there? Yes. Are they always easy to find? No. In this program Joe Beam offers suggestions on how to tell a good marriage counselor from one who is useless and from those who are destructive to your marriage. Be sure to have something ready to take notes. Of course, you can listen to the program again later to pick up the nuances you may have missed. All who call in to talk with Joe on the program are entered into the monthly drawing for half-off the Marriage Helper 911 workshop for marriages in crisis. Many good marriage counselors from across America refer people to this three-day marriage intensive. The couple then returns home to complete their work on either salvaging or making their marriage good again with the counselor who referred them. Those who are not referred by counselors can either work with a Marriage Helper Certified Marriage Coach or use the principles Joe shares in this program to find a good marriage therapist where they live. Whether you have a counselor that you aren't thrilled with or are looking for a marriage counselor for the first time, this program will give you specific suggestions to help find the right one.
Dec 02, 2015
How to Tell a Good Marriage Counselor from a Useless One
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We hear the stories all to often. "We went to a counselor about our marriage and it was the biggest mistake every. She helped alright; helped destroy our marriage!" "As soon as the therapist discovered my husband was involved with someone else, he told us that he couldn't help us. That was it. Session over. My husband said, 'See, there's no help for us' and went to the other woman. Are there any counselors out there who actually help people in our situation?" "Turns out our counselor had the philosophy that each of us should be happy and if that wasn't together, we should follow our own individual paths to happiness. What a load of crap from a so-called marriage counselor." Are there good marriage counselors out there? Yes. Are they always easy to find? No. In this program Joe Beam offers suggestions on how to tell a good marriage counselor from one who is useless and from those who are destructive to your marriage. Be sure to have something ready to take notes. Of course, you can listen to the program again later to pick up the nuances you may have missed. All who call in to talk with Joe on the program are entered into the monthly drawing for half-off the Marriage Helper 911 workshop for marriages in crisis. Many good marriage counselors from across America refer people to this three-day marriage intensive. The couple then returns home to complete their work on either salvaging or making their marriage good again with the counselor who referred them. Those who are not referred by counselors can either work with a Marriage Helper Certified Marriage Coach or use the principles Joe shares in this program to find a good marriage therapist where they live. Whether you have a counselor that you aren't thrilled with or are looking for a marriage counselor for the first time, this program will give you specific suggestions to help find the right one.
Dec 02, 2015
How to Survive the Holidays
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Getting through the holidays while in marriage crisis can be hard.  In this program Joe Beam offers several specific suggestions of things to do...and not to do...to get through the holidays without depression and with enjoyment. No, it's not magic. It takes work. But you can do it.  Joe also takes your calls on any subject about relationships or marriage.
Nov 25, 2015
How to Survive the Holidays
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Getting through the holidays while in marriage crisis can be hard.  In this program Joe Beam offers several specific suggestions of things to do...and not to do...to get through the holidays without depression and with enjoyment. No, it's not magic. It takes work. But you can do it.  Joe also takes your calls on any subject about relationships or marriage.
Nov 25, 2015
The Power of Positive When a Marriage is in Trouble
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What do you do when you've tried everything but your spouse still doesn't want to save your marriage? We have several suggestions, but in this program we offer even more. We have a special guest whose husband does not want to salvage their marriage. She's done all the right things but he still wants no part of it. Yet she is the most positive person we've ever worked with. How does she stay positive? What effect does that have on her? What effect may it have on him? You can can call to ask her questions. Of course, as always, you can call in your question or comment about anything to do with relationships and Joe Beam will be there to answer.
Nov 18, 2015
The Power of Positive When a Marriage is in Trouble
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What do you do when you've tried everything but your spouse still doesn't want to save your marriage? We have several suggestions, but in this program we offer even more. We have a special guest whose husband does not want to salvage their marriage. She's done all the right things but he still wants no part of it. Yet she is the most positive person we've ever worked with. How does she stay positive? What effect does that have on her? What effect may it have on him? You can can call to ask her questions. Of course, as always, you can call in your question or comment about anything to do with relationships and Joe Beam will be there to answer.
Nov 18, 2015
How to Create Peace in Your Life
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Everyone wants peace in their life.   Especially people experiencing a crisis in their marriages.    Tonight, we are going to teach you one simple technique that you can start using right now to increase the peace that you feel in your life and decrease stress.   Sound weird?   It's not. It's been tested in many types of therapy...and works wonders with decreasing anxiety and increasing peace.   We will discuss all of this and answer your questions tonight at 9 pm CST.   You can listen in by calling 646.378.0424 (be sure to press the number 1) or by tuning in at www.marriageradio.com.    Everyone who talks to us on air will be entered in to a drawing to receive 50% off the Marriage Helper 911 workshop.
Nov 11, 2015
How to Create Peace in Your Life
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Everyone wants peace in their life.   Especially people experiencing a crisis in their marriages.    Tonight, we are going to teach you one simple technique that you can start using right now to increase the peace that you feel in your life and decrease stress.   Sound weird?   It's not. It's been tested in many types of therapy...and works wonders with decreasing anxiety and increasing peace.   We will discuss all of this and answer your questions tonight at 9 pm CST.   You can listen in by calling 646.378.0424 (be sure to press the number 1) or by tuning in at www.marriageradio.com.    Everyone who talks to us on air will be entered in to a drawing to receive 50% off the Marriage Helper 911 workshop.
Nov 11, 2015
The Power of Prayer
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Tonight on Marriage Radio, we're going to talk about a very special subject... ...and I know not everyone is going to be interested in the topic.  That's okay. If you have ever wondered in the middle of your marriage crisis, "Where is God during all of this?" "Why is God not answering my prayers?" "Do my prayers even work?" ...then tonight's radio show is for you. We're going to be discussing the power of prayer. Does God hear your prayers? Is God going to answer your prayers? How can prayers help you and your marriage? We will discuss all of this and answer your questions about prayer tonight at 9 pm CST. You can listen in by calling 646.378.0424 (be sure to press the number 1) or by tuning in at www.marriageradio.com.  Everyone who talks to us on air will be entered in to a drawing to receive 50% off the Marriage Helper 911 workshop. We look forward to talking with you.
Nov 04, 2015
The Power of Prayer
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Tonight on Marriage Radio, we're going to talk about a very special subject... ...and I know not everyone is going to be interested in the topic.  That's okay. If you have ever wondered in the middle of your marriage crisis, "Where is God during all of this?" "Why is God not answering my prayers?" "Do my prayers even work?" ...then tonight's radio show is for you. We're going to be discussing the power of prayer. Does God hear your prayers? Is God going to answer your prayers? How can prayers help you and your marriage? We will discuss all of this and answer your questions about prayer tonight at 9 pm CST. You can listen in by calling 646.378.0424 (be sure to press the number 1) or by tuning in at www.marriageradio.com.  Everyone who talks to us on air will be entered in to a drawing to receive 50% off the Marriage Helper 911 workshop. We look forward to talking with you.
Nov 04, 2015
No Tricks! A Night of Treats for Your Marriage
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Tonight, ask anything you want. Don't have a question? Call in to simply say hello or tell your favorite Halloween movie. Whatever it is, we'd love to speak to you! In this open Q&A show, we'll be taking calls and entering callers into contests for giveaways and coupons for Marriage Helper services. Every person we talk to will be entered into a pot for special discounts and giveaways from Marriage Helper. One person will receive 50% off the Marriage Helper 911 Workshop, others will get 50% off the 10 week Save My Marriage online course, and even more will win a free copy of Joe Beam's book, "The Art of Falling in Love." Talk to you tonight!
Oct 28, 2015
No Tricks! A Night of Treats for Your Marriage
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Tonight, ask anything you want. Don't have a question? Call in to simply say hello or tell your favorite Halloween movie. Whatever it is, we'd love to speak to you! In this open Q&A show, we'll be taking calls and entering callers into contests for giveaways and coupons for Marriage Helper services. Every person we talk to will be entered into a pot for special discounts and giveaways from Marriage Helper. One person will receive 50% off the Marriage Helper 911 Workshop, others will get 50% off the 10 week Save My Marriage online course, and even more will win a free copy of Joe Beam's book, "The Art of Falling in Love." Talk to you tonight!
Oct 28, 2015
Ask Alice: Why She Took Joe Back & How They Made Their Marriage Work
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Joe Beam, host of Marriage Radio and Chairman of Marriage Helper, has real life experience with what it is like to save your marriage after an affair. He knows, because he has lived it. And so has his wife, Alice. They've been restoring marriages that are on the brink of divorce for 20 years because of the experience they had with their own marriage. Even after an affair and a divorce of three years, Joe and Alice saved their marriage, remarried, and have made tehir marriage great again. Tonight, you have the chance to ask Alice anything you wish. Why she took Joe back, how she trusted again, what changes they had to make in order to move past the affair... Nothing is off limits.  Join us tonight at 9 pm CST and call in live by dialing 646.378.0424. Everyone we speak with on air will be entered into the drawing to win 50% off the Marriage Helper 911 workshop.
Oct 21, 2015
Ask Alice: Why She Took Joe Back & How They Made Their Marriage Work
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Joe Beam, host of Marriage Radio and Chairman of Marriage Helper, has real life experience with what it is like to save your marriage after an affair. He knows, because he has lived it. And so has his wife, Alice. They've been restoring marriages that are on the brink of divorce for 20 years because of the experience they had with their own marriage. Even after an affair and a divorce of three years, Joe and Alice saved their marriage, remarried, and have made tehir marriage great again. Tonight, you have the chance to ask Alice anything you wish. Why she took Joe back, how she trusted again, what changes they had to make in order to move past the affair... Nothing is off limits.  Join us tonight at 9 pm CST and call in live by dialing 646.378.0424. Everyone we speak with on air will be entered into the drawing to win 50% off the Marriage Helper 911 workshop.
Oct 21, 2015
How to Know When to Divorce
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Divorce isn't something to  be thrown around lightly. Know what you're doing before you do it. It's one of the hardest questions you'll ever struggle with answering.  "How do I know when I should file for divorce?" You definitely don't want to file before you need to, but you also don't know how to respond if your spouse threatens divorce.  How should you react? What should you do? Can you put off a looming threat of divorce? And when should you use it as a "wake-up call"?  We will discuss all of this tonight, as well as your questions, on Marriage Radio.  Listen in live at 9 pm CST at marriageradio.com or blogtalkradio.com/marriageradio.  If you have a question, press 1 to speak live on air.  Everyone we talk to on air will be entered into our monthly 50% off drawing for the Marriage Helper 911 workshop.  Talk to you tonight!
Oct 14, 2015
How to Know When to Divorce
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Divorce isn't something to  be thrown around lightly. Know what you're doing before you do it. It's one of the hardest questions you'll ever struggle with answering.  "How do I know when I should file for divorce?" You definitely don't want to file before you need to, but you also don't know how to respond if your spouse threatens divorce.  How should you react? What should you do? Can you put off a looming threat of divorce? And when should you use it as a "wake-up call"?  We will discuss all of this tonight, as well as your questions, on Marriage Radio.  Listen in live at 9 pm CST at marriageradio.com or blogtalkradio.com/marriageradio.  If you have a question, press 1 to speak live on air.  Everyone we talk to on air will be entered into our monthly 50% off drawing for the Marriage Helper 911 workshop.  Talk to you tonight!
Oct 14, 2015
How to Become More Attractive with Kimberly Holmes
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Falling in love starts at the beginning of one path. We call it the LovePath. And there's actually a process that happens when people fall in love.  It begins with attraction, but it's not what you think. There are actually four parts to attraction, and all of them combined lead to how attractive you are to others. This is not only crucial in saving your marriage - but it's crucial in all relationships. Listen in tonight.
Oct 07, 2015
How to Become More Attractive with Kimberly Holmes
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Falling in love starts at the beginning of one path. We call it the LovePath. And there's actually a process that happens when people fall in love.  It begins with attraction, but it's not what you think. There are actually four parts to attraction, and all of them combined lead to how attractive you are to others. This is not only crucial in saving your marriage - but it's crucial in all relationships. Listen in tonight.
Oct 07, 2015
How and Why to Forgive
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Tonight we will be discussing why to forgive and how to forgive. It is a choice...not a feeling. Harboring resentment? Struggling with anger? It's possible that while you may say you have forgiven, you haven't truly done so yet. It might be a parent, a spouse, or a friend that needs to be forgiven so you can move on with life. Or maybe that person you need to forgive is yourself. We'll be entering all names into our contest for 50% off our Marriage Helper 911 workshop to everyone we speak with live on air. We might be giving away some other goodies as well...
Sep 30, 2015
How and Why to Forgive
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Tonight we will be discussing why to forgive and how to forgive. It is a choice...not a feeling. Harboring resentment? Struggling with anger? It's possible that while you may say you have forgiven, you haven't truly done so yet. It might be a parent, a spouse, or a friend that needs to be forgiven so you can move on with life. Or maybe that person you need to forgive is yourself. We'll be entering all names into our contest for 50% off our Marriage Helper 911 workshop to everyone we speak with live on air. We might be giving away some other goodies as well...
Sep 30, 2015
When Your Spouse Loves Someone Else - The Joe Beam Show
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One person wrote, "She points out everything I ever did wrong. When I ask how my flaws compare to her sleeping with another man, she curses me and walks away." Another wrote, "He lives with his lover though we're still married. He rarely pays child support because he says he has no money. Today they're in Europe vacationing on the money he 'doesn't have' while his children go without." This one wrote, "He brings the other woman with him to our son's games. She flouts it in front of me, my children, and everyone there by kissing and hugging on him with me sitting in the stands just feet away." Nearly all of them say, "What happened to the person I married? S/he was loving, kind, and we enjoyed life together. I don't know this person that s/he has become." It's called limerence. We talk about it a lot. In this program I bring together the many things I've taught about limerence into a concise package, including what you should understand and what you should do if your spouse is in love with someone else. I'll answer these questions, as well as the questions you call in during the program. How does limerence start? How long does it last? How does it end? Will the straying spouse ever come back? How much power does the affair partner have over my spouse? What should I not do? What should I do? Is there hope? How do I know when finally to give in and stop the nonsense by ending the marriage?
Sep 23, 2015
When Your Spouse Loves Someone Else - The Joe Beam Show
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One person wrote, "She points out everything I ever did wrong. When I ask how my flaws compare to her sleeping with another man, she curses me and walks away." Another wrote, "He lives with his lover though we're still married. He rarely pays child support because he says he has no money. Today they're in Europe vacationing on the money he 'doesn't have' while his children go without." This one wrote, "He brings the other woman with him to our son's games. She flouts it in front of me, my children, and everyone there by kissing and hugging on him with me sitting in the stands just feet away." Nearly all of them say, "What happened to the person I married? S/he was loving, kind, and we enjoyed life together. I don't know this person that s/he has become." It's called limerence. We talk about it a lot. In this program I bring together the many things I've taught about limerence into a concise package, including what you should understand and what you should do if your spouse is in love with someone else. I'll answer these questions, as well as the questions you call in during the program. How does limerence start? How long does it last? How does it end? Will the straying spouse ever come back? How much power does the affair partner have over my spouse? What should I not do? What should I do? Is there hope? How do I know when finally to give in and stop the nonsense by ending the marriage?
Sep 23, 2015
Men Need Respect and Women Love - Not necessarily so! - The Joe Beam Show
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You've heard "Women need love. Men need respect." But is that true?  Could you actually be hurting your marriage by doing this? Join us as we discuss the issue of love and respect & and whether men really appreciate respect more than love and whether women appreciate love more than respect. Because getting this wrong could cause huge problems. More than that, how can you show respect? How can you show love? And what if your spouse is wandering...how can you show love and respect then? We'll talk about all of that tonight at 9 pm CST on MarriageRadio.com.  As always, those who call are entered into a monthly drawing to receive half-off our intensive marriage workshop if you'd like to come. You can also listen in at 646.378.0424. (Press 1 if you want to ask a question!) Everyone who talks with us live during the program is entered into the monthly drawing for half-off our 911 workshop for marriages in crisis.  (The workshop is never offered publically at this price. You won't want to miss this chance!) Learn more about the workshop here: marriagehelper.com/save-marriage See you then!
Sep 16, 2015
Men Need Respect and Women Love - Not necessarily so! - The Joe Beam Show
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You've heard "Women need love. Men need respect." But is that true?  Could you actually be hurting your marriage by doing this? Join us as we discuss the issue of love and respect & and whether men really appreciate respect more than love and whether women appreciate love more than respect. Because getting this wrong could cause huge problems. More than that, how can you show respect? How can you show love? And what if your spouse is wandering...how can you show love and respect then? We'll talk about all of that tonight at 9 pm CST on MarriageRadio.com.  As always, those who call are entered into a monthly drawing to receive half-off our intensive marriage workshop if you'd like to come. You can also listen in at 646.378.0424. (Press 1 if you want to ask a question!) Everyone who talks with us live during the program is entered into the monthly drawing for half-off our 911 workshop for marriages in crisis.  (The workshop is never offered publically at this price. You won't want to miss this chance!) Learn more about the workshop here: marriagehelper.com/save-marriage See you then!
Sep 16, 2015
You Have Questions About Relationships? We Have Answers?
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We typically pick a topic for the show, but not this Tuesday night. We want to talk about what you want to talk about! Wondering whether you should stay in your marriage because of what your spouse is doing? Let's talk about it. Curious as to whether the amount of lovemaking in your marriage is below average, above average...or just average? We can help you figure that out. Frustrated with your kids to the point you worry that it may be you that's the problem? There's a way to know. Trying to figure out how to make your relationship better than ever before? I have a couple suggestions. Planning to set boundaries for your spouse so s/he will stop unacceptable behavior? Let us help you think that through. It's your call. Literally. You decide the direction of the show by calling. And, as always, those who call are entered into a monthly drawing to receive half-off our intensive marriage workshop if you'd like to come.
Sep 09, 2015
You Have Questions About Relationships? We Have Answers?
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We typically pick a topic for the show, but not this Tuesday night. We want to talk about what you want to talk about! Wondering whether you should stay in your marriage because of what your spouse is doing? Let's talk about it. Curious as to whether the amount of lovemaking in your marriage is below average, above average...or just average? We can help you figure that out. Frustrated with your kids to the point you worry that it may be you that's the problem? There's a way to know. Trying to figure out how to make your relationship better than ever before? I have a couple suggestions. Planning to set boundaries for your spouse so s/he will stop unacceptable behavior? Let us help you think that through. It's your call. Literally. You decide the direction of the show by calling. And, as always, those who call are entered into a monthly drawing to receive half-off our intensive marriage workshop if you'd like to come.
Sep 09, 2015
How to Have Great Sex in Marriage - The Joe Beam Show
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Would you like to have more sex that is more fulfilling, more exciting, and more pleasurable for both of you? Some married couples have great sex. Some have good sex. Some have bad sex. Some have little to no sex. Which are you? In this program Joe Beam shares with you scientific research about how to make your sex life great...IF you are willing to do what it takes to make that happen! Also, Joe will answer your questions about sex, including problems with sex...physical problems, relationship problems, inhibition problems, desires problems, and more. You may not want to listen to this one with the kids around. It won't be offensive, but Joe tells it like it is. If anatomical terms turn you off, or if you get antsy when someone talks boldly and plainly about sex, skip this program and wait for our next relationship program. If you want great sex and are ready to be the lover that will elicit great lovemaking from your spouse, this program is for you.
Sep 02, 2015
How to Have Great Sex in Marriage - The Joe Beam Show
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Would you like to have more sex that is more fulfilling, more exciting, and more pleasurable for both of you? Some married couples have great sex. Some have good sex. Some have bad sex. Some have little to no sex. Which are you? In this program Joe Beam shares with you scientific research about how to make your sex life great...IF you are willing to do what it takes to make that happen! Also, Joe will answer your questions about sex, including problems with sex...physical problems, relationship problems, inhibition problems, desires problems, and more. You may not want to listen to this one with the kids around. It won't be offensive, but Joe tells it like it is. If anatomical terms turn you off, or if you get antsy when someone talks boldly and plainly about sex, skip this program and wait for our next relationship program. If you want great sex and are ready to be the lover that will elicit great lovemaking from your spouse, this program is for you.
Sep 02, 2015
Why a Marriage Shouldn't End Because of an Affair
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People involved in affairs (or any behavior that can end a marriage) often do not think of the long-term consequences of their actions. Additionally, they re-write the short term consequences of their actions as well so they won't feel guilty for the behavior. Tonight, in light of the public release of over 30 million email addresses from users of Ashley Madison, we will discuss why you should (or shouldn't) save your marriage after finding out about a spouse's affair. We will also discuss what the consequences are, and how you can use these consequences to actually help save your marriage. A marriage doesn't have to end because of an affair.
Aug 26, 2015
Why a Marriage Shouldn't End Because of an Affair
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People involved in affairs (or any behavior that can end a marriage) often do not think of the long-term consequences of their actions. Additionally, they re-write the short term consequences of their actions as well so they won't feel guilty for the behavior. Tonight, in light of the public release of over 30 million email addresses from users of Ashley Madison, we will discuss why you should (or shouldn't) save your marriage after finding out about a spouse's affair. We will also discuss what the consequences are, and how you can use these consequences to actually help save your marriage. A marriage doesn't have to end because of an affair.
Aug 26, 2015
Addictions: Why they happen and what to do
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Addictions affect many marriages. Whether it's alcohol, drugs, gambling, ography, or another addiction (such as an addiction to a person or an addiction to work), addictions have the same underlying reasonings.  Why do addictions happen? We'll discuss that in tonight's program. What should you do when your spouse suffers from an addiction? We'll address that as well. What if you are the one who is suffering from the addiction? We'll be sure to cover that. And of course, as always, call in with your specific questions.
Aug 19, 2015
Addictions: Why they happen and what to do
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Addictions affect many marriages. Whether it's alcohol, drugs, gambling, ography, or another addiction (such as an addiction to a person or an addiction to work), addictions have the same underlying reasonings.  Why do addictions happen? We'll discuss that in tonight's program. What should you do when your spouse suffers from an addiction? We'll address that as well. What if you are the one who is suffering from the addiction? We'll be sure to cover that. And of course, as always, call in with your specific questions.
Aug 19, 2015
How to Write a Contract To Stop Bad Your Spouse's Bad Behavior - Joe Beam Show
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People often ask if there is a method for establishing boundaries about negative or harmful behavior from a spouse. Yes, there is. One of the most effective is to write a contract that clearly identifies the unacceptable behavior and firmly establishes consequences if that behavior occurs. As simple as that sounds, we've discovered that many people have a number of questions about the why's, how's, what's, who's, and more. I've asked my friend and co-teacher at our workshop for marriages in crisis to join me for this important program. His name is Jeff King. He earned his doctorate at Lipscomb University. More importantly, he has years of experience helping people with marriage problems. Jeff is rather direct and goes rapidly to the bottom line. He won't waste your time. Join Jeff and me for this in-depth conversation that will give you the details you need to write a contract for your marriage that can have tremendous results.
Aug 12, 2015
How to Write a Contract To Stop Bad Your Spouse's Bad Behavior - Joe Beam Show
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People often ask if there is a method for establishing boundaries about negative or harmful behavior from a spouse. Yes, there is. One of the most effective is to write a contract that clearly identifies the unacceptable behavior and firmly establishes consequences if that behavior occurs. As simple as that sounds, we've discovered that many people have a number of questions about the why's, how's, what's, who's, and more. I've asked my friend and co-teacher at our workshop for marriages in crisis to join me for this important program. His name is Jeff King. He earned his doctorate at Lipscomb University. More importantly, he has years of experience helping people with marriage problems. Jeff is rather direct and goes rapidly to the bottom line. He won't waste your time. Join Jeff and me for this in-depth conversation that will give you the details you need to write a contract for your marriage that can have tremendous results.
Aug 12, 2015
Interview with a Couple Who Survived an Affair - The Joe Beam Show
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Wonder how affairs happen? Why people become so emotionally connected to the affair partner? And if there is any hope of ending the affair and saving the marriage? In this program I interview a couple who survived the wife's infidelty. She fell head-over-heels in love with another man. They kept it secret for a while, but as usually happens, they finally were caught. Why did she decide to stay in her marriage rather than leaving for her lover? Why did her husband give her a second chance? How could he trust her again? How could they put their marriage back together? They did put it back together and it is strong. They tell their story and take calls about these and other questions you may have. Expect brutally honest answers and complete transparency.
Aug 05, 2015
Interview with a Couple Who Survived an Affair - The Joe Beam Show
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Wonder how affairs happen? Why people become so emotionally connected to the affair partner? And if there is any hope of ending the affair and saving the marriage? In this program I interview a couple who survived the wife's infidelty. She fell head-over-heels in love with another man. They kept it secret for a while, but as usually happens, they finally were caught. Why did she decide to stay in her marriage rather than leaving for her lover? Why did her husband give her a second chance? How could he trust her again? How could they put their marriage back together? They did put it back together and it is strong. They tell their story and take calls about these and other questions you may have. Expect brutally honest answers and complete transparency.
Aug 05, 2015
Setting Boundaries With a Straying Spouse
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In this episode, we will cover the different circumstances to consider when trying to save a marraige with a straying spouse while also trying to put up acceptable boundaries. What are good boundaries? What boundaries are unnecessary? Which ones may do more harm than good? Tune in to find out.
Jul 29, 2015
Setting Boundaries With a Straying Spouse
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In this episode, we will cover the different circumstances to consider when trying to save a marraige with a straying spouse while also trying to put up acceptable boundaries. What are good boundaries? What boundaries are unnecessary? Which ones may do more harm than good? Tune in to find out.
Jul 29, 2015
Exposing a Secret Affair - The Joe Beam Show
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How do you tell your spouse about your secret affair...especially if you know you're about to be caught?
Jul 22, 2015
Exposing a Secret Affair - The Joe Beam Show
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How do you tell your spouse about your secret affair...especially if you know you're about to be caught?
Jul 22, 2015
Seeking marriage help
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Jul 15, 2015
Seeking marriage help
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Jul 15, 2015
The Art of Setting Boundaries in Relationships - The Joe Beam Show
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When should you set a boundary in your relationship? Is setting a boundary the same thing as controlling the other person? How do you set a boundary? How do you enforce it? There are many questions about when, how, what, why, and more about boundaries. In this program we discuss how important they are, when they need to exist, how to set one without causing more problems, and what do do if the other person doesn't respect the boundary. Nationally recognized relationship expert Joe Beam addresses these questions and then takes calls from those who want to understand how to apply the principles to their own relationship.
Jul 08, 2015
The Art of Setting Boundaries in Relationships - The Joe Beam Show
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When should you set a boundary in your relationship? Is setting a boundary the same thing as controlling the other person? How do you set a boundary? How do you enforce it? There are many questions about when, how, what, why, and more about boundaries. In this program we discuss how important they are, when they need to exist, how to set one without causing more problems, and what do do if the other person doesn't respect the boundary. Nationally recognized relationship expert Joe Beam addresses these questions and then takes calls from those who want to understand how to apply the principles to their own relationship.
Jul 08, 2015
The Two Sides of Trust - The Joe Beam Show
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If your relationship has been harmed by infidelity, lying, or any other destructive behavior, how do you learn to trust again?  How does the person who did the hurt earn back trust? Can it be done? If so, how? How does the person who was hurt learn to trust again? Are there limitations? Is it worth the risk? How can it be done with being hurt again?
Jul 01, 2015
The Two Sides of Trust - The Joe Beam Show
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If your relationship has been harmed by infidelity, lying, or any other destructive behavior, how do you learn to trust again?  How does the person who did the hurt earn back trust? Can it be done? If so, how? How does the person who was hurt learn to trust again? Are there limitations? Is it worth the risk? How can it be done with being hurt again?
Jul 01, 2015
Getting Over a Lover - Part 2 - The Joe Beam Show
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Part 2: You were "madly in love" but now it's over. At least it seems to be over. Whether you ended it or the other person did, you continue to struggle with intense emotions. Why are they still there? How long will they last? How can you get past them? When will you stop hurting? Love, Sex, & Relationship expert Joe Beam answers these questions with real life stories as well as the latest scientific findings.
Jun 24, 2015
Getting Over a Lover - Part 2 - The Joe Beam Show
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Part 2: You were "madly in love" but now it's over. At least it seems to be over. Whether you ended it or the other person did, you continue to struggle with intense emotions. Why are they still there? How long will they last? How can you get past them? When will you stop hurting? Love, Sex, & Relationship expert Joe Beam answers these questions with real life stories as well as the latest scientific findings.
Jun 24, 2015
Getting Over a Lover - The Joe Beam Show
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You were "madly in love" but now it's over. At least it seems to be over. Whether you ended it or the other person did, you continue to struggle with intense emotions. Why are they still there? How long will they last? How can you get past them? When will you stop hurting? Love, Sex, & Relationship expert Joe Beam answers these questions with real life stories as well as the latest scientific findings.
Jun 17, 2015
Getting Over a Lover - The Joe Beam Show
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You were "madly in love" but now it's over. At least it seems to be over. Whether you ended it or the other person did, you continue to struggle with intense emotions. Why are they still there? How long will they last? How can you get past them? When will you stop hurting? Love, Sex, & Relationship expert Joe Beam answers these questions with real life stories as well as the latest scientific findings.
Jun 17, 2015
The Joe Beam Show - Boundaries for Straying Spouses
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When and where do you draw the line when your marriage is in trouble? How do you know what to do next? Should the boundaries be different for a spouse who has already left and one who still lives at home?
Jun 03, 2015
The Joe Beam Show - Boundaries for Straying Spouses
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When and where do you draw the line when your marriage is in trouble? How do you know what to do next? Should the boundaries be different for a spouse who has already left and one who still lives at home?
Jun 03, 2015
The Joe Beam Show - Open Mic
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Talk with Joe about anything to do with relationships.
May 27, 2015
The Joe Beam Show - Open Mic
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Talk with Joe about anything to do with relationships.
May 27, 2015
How to Trust Again - Joe Beam Show
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How can you again trust the person who hurt you? How can you get the person you hurt to trust you again? We'll share answers to these questions.
May 20, 2015
How to Trust Again - Joe Beam Show
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How can you again trust the person who hurt you? How can you get the person you hurt to trust you again? We'll share answers to these questions.
May 20, 2015
The Power of Forgiveness
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It's one of the hardest, yet most crucial thing to do: forgiving others and forgiving yourself.
May 13, 2015
The Power of Forgiveness
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It's one of the hardest, yet most crucial thing to do: forgiving others and forgiving yourself.
May 13, 2015
Why Did She Accept Back Her Unfaithful Husband? The Joe Beam Show
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Her husband left her for another woman. Some time later he realized he wanted his family back. When he asked, she forgave and accepted him back into their marriage. Why? How? In this program she explains.
May 06, 2015
Why Did She Accept Back Her Unfaithful Husband? The Joe Beam Show
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Her husband left her for another woman. Some time later he realized he wanted his family back. When he asked, she forgave and accepted him back into their marriage. Why? How? In this program she explains.
May 06, 2015
An Interview with a Man who Had an Affair & Why He Decided to Save His Marriage
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An Interview with a Man who Had an Affair & Why He Decided to Save His Marriage. Call in at 646-378-0424 (to listen or ask a question) or email in your questions to askjoe@marriagehelper.com.  You won't want to miss tonight's episode. Whether you have had an affair, or your spouse is the one who has had the affair, now you have the opportunity to listen to a man who recently was involved in an affair and why he decided to save his marriage.
Apr 29, 2015
An Interview with a Man who Had an Affair & Why He Decided to Save His Marriage
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An Interview with a Man who Had an Affair & Why He Decided to Save His Marriage. Call in at 646-378-0424 (to listen or ask a question) or email in your questions to askjoe@marriagehelper.com.  You won't want to miss tonight's episode. Whether you have had an affair, or your spouse is the one who has had the affair, now you have the opportunity to listen to a man who recently was involved in an affair and why he decided to save his marriage.
Apr 29, 2015
Joe Beam Show - Special Guest, Alice Beam
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Lee Wilson interviews Alice Beam about why she took Joe back, how she could forgive him and how she could trust him again.
Apr 22, 2015
Joe Beam Show - Special Guest, Alice Beam
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Lee Wilson interviews Alice Beam about why she took Joe back, how she could forgive him and how she could trust him again.
Apr 22, 2015
Joe Beam Show - Special Guest, Alice Beam
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Lee Wilson interviews Alice Beam about why she took Joe back, how she could forgive him and how she could trust him again.
Apr 22, 2015
How Does Divorce Affect Children?
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Special Guest Jeff King
Apr 17, 2015
How Does Divorce Affect Children?
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Special Guest Jeff King
Apr 17, 2015
Marriage Radio with Special Guest Ron Deal
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Listen in as Joe Beam interviews special guest Ron Deal. Call in with your questions about how to have a better and smarter stepfamily!
Apr 08, 2015
Marriage Radio with Special Guest Ron Deal
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Listen in as Joe Beam interviews special guest Ron Deal. Call in with your questions about how to have a better and smarter stepfamily!
Apr 08, 2015
Marriage radio with Joe Beam
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Apr 01, 2015
Marriage radio with Joe Beam
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Apr 01, 2015
Joe Beam Show - open mic
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answer questions about marriage, relationships, sex, and more
Mar 25, 2015
Joe Beam Show - open mic
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answer questions about marriage, relationships, sex, and more
Mar 25, 2015
Joe Beam Show - How To Save a "Hopeless" Marriage
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When a spouse wants out, or is in love with someone else, can the marriage be saved? What can the spouse wanting to save the marriage do?
Mar 18, 2015
Joe Beam Show - How To Save a "Hopeless" Marriage
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When a spouse wants out, or is in love with someone else, can the marriage be saved? What can the spouse wanting to save the marriage do?
Mar 18, 2015
Marriage Radio
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Tune in
Mar 11, 2015
Marriage Radio
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Mar 11, 2015
Joe Beam Show - Causes of Marriage Problems
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What causes marriage problems?
Mar 04, 2015
Joe Beam Show - Causes of Marriage Problems
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What causes marriage problems?
Mar 04, 2015
Marriage Radio Show
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Tune in now!
Feb 25, 2015
Marriage Radio Show
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Tune in now!
Feb 25, 2015
50 Shades of Grey...Can Your Relationship Be Spicy Without It?
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Find out tonight!
Feb 18, 2015
50 Shades of Grey...Can Your Relationship Be Spicy Without It?
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Find out tonight!
Feb 18, 2015
The Joe Beam Show - The Anatomy of an Affair
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How do affairs happen?
Feb 11, 2015
The Joe Beam Show - The Anatomy of an Affair
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How do affairs happen?
Feb 11, 2015
The Joe Beam Show - Is Your Spouse Controlling You?
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In this episode, Joe will be tackling one of the top issues facing marriages today. Control. Whether you are being controlled by your spouse or your spouse has told you that you are controlling, you won't want to miss this episode. Control destroys marriages. It is the silent killer. It can linger for years and years while people lay in misery...wishing so badly for things to be different. Until one day, it just explodes. And the controlled spouse just can't take it anymore. Maybe your marriage hasn't exploded yet. Or maybe you are now in extreme marital crisis because control has overtaken your marriage. Either way, it can be saved. If you have a question or want to know more about how to change your marriage from being controlling to being loving and companionate again, don't miss the opportunity to call in your questions from 7 pm to 9 pm CST.
Feb 06, 2015
The Joe Beam Show - Is Your Spouse Controlling You?
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In this episode, Joe will be tackling one of the top issues facing marriages today. Control. Whether you are being controlled by your spouse or your spouse has told you that you are controlling, you won't want to miss this episode. Control destroys marriages. It is the silent killer. It can linger for years and years while people lay in misery...wishing so badly for things to be different. Until one day, it just explodes. And the controlled spouse just can't take it anymore. Maybe your marriage hasn't exploded yet. Or maybe you are now in extreme marital crisis because control has overtaken your marriage. Either way, it can be saved. If you have a question or want to know more about how to change your marriage from being controlling to being loving and companionate again, don't miss the opportunity to call in your questions from 7 pm to 9 pm CST.
Feb 06, 2015
The Joe Beam Show - How To Make Love with All 5 Senses
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Have a question about your sex life? This is the time to ask it! Joe will be tackling all of your questions about your love life in tonight's session.
Feb 04, 2015
The Joe Beam Show - How To Make Love with All 5 Senses
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Have a question about your sex life? This is the time to ask it! Joe will be tackling all of your questions about your love life in tonight's session.
Feb 04, 2015
The Joe Beam Show on MarriageRadio - Live Call In Radio Show for Relationships
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Have a marriage question? A relationship issue? Here's your chance to ask America's favorite relationship expert Joe Beam! From 7 pm to 9 pm CST, you can call (646) 378-0424 and ask Joe any question relating to love, marriage, sex, or relationships.  Some have even called him "The Love Doctor". Whether your trying to fall in love, trying to save your marriage that is in crisis, or looking to enhance your love life, Joe is the man to ask. Or, you can just listen in. It's sure to be informative and entertaining!
Jan 30, 2015
The Joe Beam Show on MarriageRadio - Live Call In Radio Show for Relationships
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Have a marriage question? A relationship issue? Here's your chance to ask America's favorite relationship expert Joe Beam! From 7 pm to 9 pm CST, you can call (646) 378-0424 and ask Joe any question relating to love, marriage, sex, or relationships.  Some have even called him "The Love Doctor". Whether your trying to fall in love, trying to save your marriage that is in crisis, or looking to enhance your love life, Joe is the man to ask. Or, you can just listen in. It's sure to be informative and entertaining!
Jan 30, 2015
Marriage Radio with Joe Beam
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Looking for real answers to your real life marriage problems? Call in and ask America's favorite marriage expert Joe Beam.
Jan 28, 2015
Marriage Radio with Joe Beam
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Looking for real answers to your real life marriage problems? Call in and ask America's favorite marriage expert Joe Beam.
Jan 28, 2015