The Empowered Parent Podcast

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The Empowered Parent Podcast with Kayla and Ryan North is a trust-based, trauma-informed, connected parenting resource. Hosted by Chris Turner.

Episode Date
Rupture and Repair - S06 E09
27:33

We all rupture the relationship with our kids which allows us opportunities to repair it. Chris, Ryan, and Kayla discuss how to make sure that we are repairing the relationship when we are the ones who rupture it. Repairing relationship hurts let our kids know that they matter and it gives us an opportunity to model humility and making things right.

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Aug 28, 2019
Honestly Adoption with Mike and Kristin Berry - S06 E08
29:21

Chris, Kayla, and Ryan welcome Mike and Kristin Berry to talk about their new book, Honestly Adoption. The Berrys are the parents of 8 adopted children and have cared for another 23 as foster parents. They are the founders of Confessions of an Adoptive Parent and together, they host the Honestly Adoption podcast. Their new book is a terrific resource for those considering adoption, as well as those of us who have been in that trenches for years.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode

Honestly Adoption: Answers to 101 Questions About Adoption and Foster Care - Mike and Kristin Berry

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Aug 02, 2019
Just Say Yes! - S06 E07
29:12

Chris, Kayla, and Ryan take on a listener question about Yes Jar, and expound on why it's important to give our kids as many yeses as possible. Giving a yes is an important building block of trust with kids from hard places.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Jul 19, 2019
Memories - S06 E06
26:52

You may laugh. You may cry. You may decide it's better than "Cats". No, Chris, Ryan, and Kayla aren't singing show tunes in this episode, but they are talking about memories. Implicit vs. explicit, exact reproduction vs. narrative, calm vs. aroused: how do these different types of memories affect our kids' beliefs and behaviors?

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Jul 02, 2019
Fear and Felt Safety - S06 E05
27:23

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla revisit an important topic: helping our kids from hard places feel safe. As adults, we may intellectually know our kids are safe; safe from physical and emotional harm, safe from not having enough to eat, safe from being homeless, or any number of problem areas. That doesn't mean our kids feel safe from those things, so the discussion goes to how we can help them know and feel it.

Resources Mentioned in the Episode

Empowering Principles: Creating an Environment of Felt Safety - S3E10

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Jun 19, 2019
Building the Staircase of the Brain - S06 E04
31:36

Chris wanted to go back to the basics for this episode, so he, Ryan, and Kayla talk about that most important organ in the body: the brain. They dissect—not literally—the components of the brain and talk about how parents of vulnerable children need to pay attention to how things are working in the minds of our kids.

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

May 16, 2019
BETTER TOGETHER - Staying Connected in Marriage While Parenting Kids From Trauma - S06 E03
29:39

Let's be honest: parenting kids from hard places is exhausting. It can drain us physically, emotionally, and mentally, and leave us feeling like we have nothing else to give. This can be a dangerous place to find ourselves when it comes to our marriages.

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla talk about some things to be aware of in your marriage as you parent and offer some thoughts on re-engaging and reconnecting with your spouse. Kids from trauma need strong families, and strong families start with strong marriages.

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

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Apr 30, 2019
Incorporating Play into Everyday - S06 E02
28:00

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla continue the discussion on the importance of play with our kids, this time by providing practical examples for incorporating play. Topics range from finding the time to turning everyday activities into games.

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Apr 11, 2019
Play! - S06 E01
29:33

 

Chris is joined once again by Ryan and Kayla to talk about play. Play is vitally important for children, especially our kids from hard places, some of whom may not have had the opportunities for individual or shared play like they should have. The three talk about different types of play for different ages, and give a few ideas. (Chris is always a proponent for lightsaber fights.)

Resources Mentioned in the Episode

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Mar 08, 2019
Setting Up For Success: Practice Outside the Moment (Part 2) - S05 E22
31:41

In our final episode of 2018, Chris, Kayla, and Ryan again share their thoughts on how to make Christmas Day a success. This time, they discuss practicing outside of the moment when it comes to receiving gifts and traveling for the holidays.

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Dec 24, 2018
Setting Up For Success: Practice Outside the Moment (Part 1) - S05 E21
28:43

In this episode, Chris, Kayla, and Ryan share their thoughts on how to make Christmas Day a success. They discuss practicing outside of the moment when it comes to food and extended family. They offer practical tips on how to handle foods your kids don’t usually eat as well as interacting with relatives they don’t know.

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Dec 20, 2018
Pam Parish (Part 3) - S05 E20
24:05

In this final of three episodes with Pam Parish, she, Ryan, Kayla, and Chris talk about Pam's books, including how and why she began writing them. 

Resources Mentioned in the Episode

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Dec 17, 2018
Pam Parish (Part 2) - S05 E19
29:11

In this second of three episodes with Pam Parish, she, Ryan, Kayla, and Chris discuss how Connections Home was founded, its mission, and why everyone deserves someone.

Resources Mentioned in the Episode

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Nov 26, 2018
Pam Parish (Part 1) - S05 E18
29:31

Ryan, Kayla, and Chris sit down for a conversation with Pam Parish. Pam and her husband Steve adopted seven of their eight daughters through the foster care system. They saw a real need for those who are close to aging out of the foster care system or have already done so. This need, plus that of older children and young adults who are in poverty and homeless, led to their founding of Connections Homes. In addition, Pam has written three devotional books for foster and adoptive parents.

In this first of three episodes, the gang talks with Pam about how she and Steve got involved with foster care and adoption.

 

Resources Mentioned in the Episode

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Oct 28, 2018
Making Sense of Your Worth with Cindy Lee - S05 E17
26:18

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla welcome their long-time friend Cindy Lee to talk about her session for Tapestry Conference 2018. Cindy shares the background of the Making Sense of Your Worth curriculum, how it came to be, and how encouraging the early sessions using it have been. Given the tough times we inevitably encounter as parents of kids from hard times, it's so important for us to have a healthy perspective of our own self-worth, so we can help our children to heal.

Resources Mentioned in the Episode

10% Conference Discount Code: EMPOWEREDPARENT

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Oct 12, 2018
Questions to Consider About Self (Soul) Care with Jayne Schooler - S05 E16
25:55

Jayne Schooler joins Ryan, Kayla, and Chris to give an overview of their Questions to Consider About Self (Soul) Care workshop she and her husband David are conducting on Friday, October 19 at the 2018 Tapestry Conference.

Resources Mentioned in the Episode

10% Conference Discount Code: EMPOWEREDPARENT

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Oct 05, 2018
Tapestry Conference 2018 - S05 E15
33:10

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla are excited about Tapestry Conference 2018, and you should be, too! They talk about the speaker lineup, featuring Jayne Schooler, and including Cindy Lee, Andrew & Angela Holland, and many more. Ryan and Kayla also share some of the changes in the ministry over the past few months leading up to this year's conference.

Resources Mentioned in the Episode

10% Conference Discount Code: EMPOWEREDPARENT

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Sep 13, 2018
The Healing Power of Story - S05 E14
24:57

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla talk about how being an empathetic listener to our children's stories can help with their healing, and why it's important for us to tell our own stories to others to help in our own healing. For when we learn how to help heal ourselves, we can help our children in their own healing.

Resources Mentioned in the Episode

Dan Siegel explains adult attachment styles

Anatomy of the Soul - Curt Thompson

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Sep 04, 2018
How Do We Deal with Drama? - S05 E13
19:39

Some of our kids have big emotions. Chris talks with Ryan and Kayla about how we deal with drama when the emotions go from big to bigger to biggest.

Resources Mentioned in the Episode

Harry Chapin - The Cat's in the Cradle

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Aug 22, 2018
What is the Impact of Foster Care on Kids in Our Home? - S05 E12
24:22

Listener Jamie asks, how do we prepare the kids already in our home for the journey into foster care? This is something as parents we do not always consider, especially if the kids already in our home are very young. Chris talks with Ryan and Kayla about ways to help kids prepare for and deal with the ups and downs of life as a foster family.

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Aug 08, 2018
Preparing Those Who Are Walking Alongside You - S05 E11
24:01

Listener Jamie asks the team about resources for family members and friends to help educate them on how they can best support their family as they navigate foster care and adoption journeys. 

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

 

Jul 09, 2018
How to Love Our Children When We Don't Like Them - S05 E10
28:26

Whether we admit it or not, it's a thought adoptive and foster parents have at least once: how do I love my child when I don't like them? Chris, Kayla, and Ryan explore this in detail, starting with the need to continually remember behavior is an expression of a need. We need to do the detective work to help our kids!

Resources Mentioned in the Episode

Les Carter - When Pleasing You Is Killing Me: A Workbook

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

Jun 12, 2018
Preparing Kids for Summer Camp - S05 E09
24:36

Listener Jeremy wants to know about prepping kids from hard places for summer camps, so Ryan, Kayla, and Chris discuss the best ways to manage this. They also discuss how those working at these camps might be able to help out in that environment.

Resources Mentioned in the Episode

Sky Ranch @ Horn Creek Adoptive & Foster Family Camp, August 5-11, 2018

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

 

May 28, 2018
Give Me an Example: Round 4 - S5E8
31:01

It's time once again for another episode of everyone's favorite game show! Okay, alright, maybe not *everyone's* favorite game show, but it's certainly ours. Ryan and Kayla go head-to-head once again in Give Me an Example! They'll discuss repairing your mistakes, how to encourage and praise liberally, and responding to sensory processing needs. Who will win this round? It's a thrill a minute!

 Resources Mentioned in the Episode

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Music: "Toony" by Liberty

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Executive Producer: Ryan North

May 15, 2018
Building Your Child's TEAM - S5E7
27:09

Helping kids from hard places involves more folks than just parents. There are teachers and professionals, grandparents, aunts and uncles, and dear friends gathered around our families. If they're not gathered around, we need to bring them in to the fold, because it's important our kids have a TEAM helping them heal and reach their potential. Chris talks with Ryan and Kayla about the best way to do this.

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

May 06, 2018
Expectations - S5E6
27:43

There are so many places where our unmet expectations get in the way of connection with our kids. Chris, Ryan, and Kayla are joined again by Allison Highton, and they talk about these various expectations, which begin even before our kids come home.

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Apr 27, 2018
What To Do When You Get Home From a Conference? - S5E5
31:55

Even if you haven't been to an adoption and foster care conference, such as Empowered to Connect or CAFO Summit, you may have attended a seminar or one-day class that had you coming out of it thinking, "Yes! I can do this! I'm going to change the way I parent my kids!" But the excitement wears off. Motivation falters. And what are we left with?

In light of the 2018 Empowered to Connect Conference happening April 13-15, and CAFO Summit coming up in May, Chris, Ryan, and Kayla tackle these issues. We all want to start with correcting behaviors, but we'll have long-term success with connection first. Connection is the foundation for everything else to click together. The team walks through how that might look for parents, offering practical examples to get started.

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Produced by Dallas Stacy

Apr 17, 2018
Schooling Options - S5E4
30:37

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla are joined by Allison Highton. Allison, along with her husband Russ, is an Empowered to Connect parent trainer in New Jersey. Allison works with Miriam's Heart, a non-profit adoption ministry that radically supports families who take action on behalf of adoptive and foster children.

The group discusses various schooling options for our kids from hard places, from public to private to homeschooling.

Is your adopted or foster child in public school? You should know what an IEP is, and be your kid's biggest advocate. They also talk about being flexible on the home front after kids get home from school.

Back to School: Teachers are Important

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Produced by Dallas Stacy

Apr 06, 2018
Make Play a Part of Every Day - S5E3
27:44

The team discusses how playing with our kids is a great way to connect with them. Play is fun and disarming and makes us enjoy our kids as much as it makes them enjoy us. Play is the language of children but is sadly something most of us are no longer fluent in.

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Produced by Dallas Stacy

 
 
Mar 30, 2018
Sassy Talk - S5E2
26:45

Chris is joined once again by Kayla and Ryan North to talk about something that can be quite irritating to all parents: sassy talk. They discuss various ways to counteract it and get our kids to a place where they can talk respectfully not just to parents, but others as well.

Baby Owl Lost Her Whoo - Cindy Lee

The Frequency and Intensity of Behavior Dictates the Frequency and Intensity of Response - S3E2

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Produced by Dallas Stacy

Mar 14, 2018
Mealtime Struggles - S5E1
29:00

Ryan and Kayla join Chris to talk about mealtime struggles. The team discusses the typical concerns parents of adopted and foster kids see at meals: food sensory issues; eating too much; before-meal snacking; not wanting to eat what is being served, and actually getting kids to the table! They talk about setting expectations and using transitions, as well as other things that have worked in their families.

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Produced by Dallas Stacy

Feb 24, 2018
Trauma and the Brain - S4E10
25:13

Chris talks with Ryan and Kayla about how the brain processes trauma, and how this affects our kids' relationships with us and the world at large.

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Produced by Dallas Stacy

Dec 29, 2017
Simplifying Christmas - S4E9
36:56

With all of the craziness that comes this time of year, Chris, Ryan, and Kayla talk about some ways families can simplify holiday time to reduce stress on moms, dads, and the kids. The team discusses everything from gifts to traditions, holiday travel, extended family, and more.

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Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

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Dec 13, 2017
Dedicating Time to Our Kids - S4E8
25:53

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla respond to a lister email asking about one-on-one/play time with their children. The team discusses things they have tried in the past and how creating an environment of felt safety changes the way their kids interact with them.

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Intro/Outro Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Dec 06, 2017
Toddlers - S4E7
27:32

Listener Tracy writes in asking about an episode devoted to TBRI with kids under the age of 4. How do we use compromise and other tools seen in The Connected Child when our little ones don't always have the words or understanding to utilize them. Chris, Ryan, and Kayla talk about how these concepts can be put into practice for toddlers and preschoolers in our households.

I Love You Rituals - Becky Bailey

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Intro/Outro Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Nov 29, 2017
Navigating the Holidays - S4E6 (Repost)
38:16

Ryan and Kayla North join Chris Turner and they discuss why the holiday season is so difficult for many of our kids. They share personal insights from their experiences, as well as ways that they have learned to help their children, and themselves, navigate the holidays successfully.  

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Intro/Outro Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Nov 21, 2017
Birth Families - S4E5
22:48

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla discuss a listener's question, "How important is maintaining biological family relationships for foster/adoptive children? Is this something that we should put a lot of effort into for long-term benefit? Will our children remember visits from when they are very young, and will those be something they look back on an appreciate?"

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Intro/Outro Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Nov 10, 2017
Mindfulness - S4E4
27:45

Chris is joined once again by Ryan and Kayla as the team talks about the need for mindfulness. As Curt Thompson says, "You need to pay attention to what you're paying attention to." They discuss why this is especially important with adoptive and foster children.

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Intro/Outro Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

 

 

Oct 26, 2017
2017 Tapestry Conference - S4E3
28:18
The 2017 Tapestry Conference will feature Curt Thompson, author of Anatomy of the Soul and The Soul of Shame. Dr. Thompson's work is an integral part of the Empowered to Connect Parent Training classes; Anatomy of the Soul is one of the books that parents read as part of the training.

The 2017 Tapestry Conference will be held October 20th and 21st at Irving Bible Church, in Irving, TX. Use the discount code PODCAST20 for 20% off your registration.

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Intro/Outro Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Oct 03, 2017
Self-Care - S4E2
31:06

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla discuss why self-care is an important but overlooked part of parenting. The team offers advice on how to take better care of yourself and why self-care can be effective in 15-minute increments. 

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Intro/Outro Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Sep 27, 2017
Hurricane Harvey and Kids from Trauma - S4E1
43:11
We are back from family vacations and the start of the school year with a special episode. Directed at parents of kids from hard places in the Houston area, devastated by Hurricane Harvey, Chris is joined by Ryan and Kayla, and special guest Toni Steere.

Toni is the Director of Legacy 685, an Adoption, Foster & Orphan Care Ministry at Houston’s First Baptist Church. She has been caring for orphaned and vulnerable children for the past 17 years. She served for many years as a teacher, house-parent & social worker at a large orphanage in Central America. During her time there she adopted a baby boy who is now 16! As a mom of a child from a hard place, Toni understands both the immense joy and the unexpected challenges of the journey.

She leads Empowered to Connect's Spanish Training Team, she is a TBRI Educator, and a Sexual Abuse Prevention Instructor, among many other disciplines involving foster care, adoption, and trauma.
 
 If you would like to help Toni and Houston's First with disaster relief efforts, you can find more at http://houstonsfirst.org/LoveFirst.

If you are in the Dallas/Fort Worth metro area and would like to help with relief efforts for Houston evacuees to the area, you can find more information at our web site, http://www.irvingbible.org/relief.

 

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Intro/Outro Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Sep 01, 2017
Give Me An Example: Round 3 - S3E23
30:40

Chris invites Ryan and Kayla to participate in another game of sharing examples of various TBRI parenting tools. They discuss:

  • Total Voice Control
  • Time-In instead of Time Out
  • Think Before You Consequence
  • Respond to Fear with Connection
Who will take this round’s trophy? Listen and find out!

 

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Intro/Outro Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

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Jul 25, 2017
Community: It's Important - S3E22
26:51

Parenting is hard enough, but add traumatized children, and the difficulties can increase exponentially. Chris, Ryan, and Kayla discuss these hardships, and why it’s so important to build a community around your family that understands trust-based relational parenting and is supportive of your efforts to parent this way.

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Intro/Outro Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

Engineered and Produced by Dallas Stacy

Jul 18, 2017
Siblings - S3E21
32:37

Sibling relationships can always be tenuous, and even more so when it comes to kids from hard places. Chris, Ryan, and Kayla talk about strategies for dealing with these rivalries and the struggles of sibling interaction.

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Intro/Outro Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

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Jul 12, 2017
Help! My Kid is Sneaking Things! - S3E20
23:07

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla respond to an email about children who engage in sneaking behaviors. Listen as they discuss if it's developmentally appropriate or trauma related, and why you need to become the world's leading expert in your children.

Yes Jar: Video | Article

 

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Intro/Outro Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

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Jun 29, 2017
Bedtime Struggles - S3E19
34:07

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla tackle an issue in this episode that most of us deal with; bedtime struggles. They discuss the value of routines (structure) and rituals (nurture) at bedtime and why the cause of the issue may or may not be what you think.

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Intro/Outro Music: "Home" by Moses Uvere

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Jun 20, 2017
Will Parenting This Way Prepare my Child for the Real World? - S3E18 (Repost)
32:35

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla talk about the fear that connected parenting doesn't prepare our kids for the real world, and why the reasons behind this fear are unfounded.

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Jun 12, 2017
Teenagers - S3E17
35:48

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla spend some time discussing teenagers. The teen years are difficult for most as identity and power struggles are magnified.

TBRI for Teens video

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Jun 01, 2017
Lying - S3E16
24:00

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla discuss a question they get from many parents. And that question is, "why do my children lie and what can I do about it"? The answer requires a lot of grace and may not be what most people think it is.

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May 25, 2017
How Does Connected Parenting Work in a Big Family? - S3E15
29:14

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla are joined once again by Maggie Popp and they discuss how to implement TBRI concepts and strategies in large families. The three families have 15 kids between them. 

 

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May 16, 2017
Why Traditional Parenting Doesn't Work for Our Kids - S3E14
29:57

 

Chris, Kayla and Ryan are joined by Maggie Popp to discuss why traditional parenting doesn't work for foster and adopted kids. They discuss, amongst other things, why time-outs and yelling don't work.

Maggie is an Empowered to Connect parent trainer with her husband Brian in the St. Louis metro area. They have six children: two adopted out of the foster care system, three biological kids, and one foster child.

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May 10, 2017
Creating an Environment of Felt Safety with Predictability - S3E13
24:49

Chris, Kayla, and Ryan discuss how we can create an environment of felt safety in our homes with predictability. A lack of consistency and can be processed as chaos by our children and they need predictability to feel safe.

 

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May 01, 2017
Practice Outside of the Moment - S3E12
28:21

Chris, Kayla, and Ryan discuss how practicing outside of the moment helps us respond appropriately in the moment. They also discuss how parents need to have developmentally appropriate expectations while helping their kids grow and heal.

Navigating the Holidays

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Apr 13, 2017
Empowered to Connect Conference Preview - S3E11
24:59

Chris, Kayla, and Ryan preview the upcoming Empowered to Connect Conference in Franklin, TN April 7-8. They discuss what you can expect, why you should attend (in person or at one of the 450 simulcast sites), and why it's good for you to attend even if you're not new to connected parenting.

Click here to find a simulcast site near you

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Mar 31, 2017
Empowering Principles: Creating an Environment of Felt Safety - S3E10
24:39

The team discusses why empowering our kids is a crucial part of their healing process and can move them from fear-based responses to trust-based responses. A key component is creating an environment of felt safety in our homes. They offer practical examples you can use at bed time and explain why it's important that we learn to speak our kids language. 

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Mar 23, 2017
Give me an Example (Repost) - S3E9
34:47

Chris Turner plays a round of "Give me an Example" with Ryan and Kayla North. Our team has some fun sharing examples of what a "yes" sandwich is amongst other things.

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Mar 16, 2017
Give Me An Example: Parenting Tools Edition - S3E8
31:10

Chris invites Ryan and Kayla for another "lightning round" of Give Me an Example, this time focusing on the Parenting Tools taught in the Empowered to Connect class. They discuss:

  1. Focus on Nonverbal Communication
  2. Encourage Feelings
  3. Get Your Child Moving

Feelings Flashcards - Todd Parr

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Mar 09, 2017
You Asked, We Answered - S3E7
30:11

Chris, Kayla, and Ryan answer some listener questions about struggles at nap time, whether their child's behavior is trauma-related or a developmental delay, and resources for play with our kids.

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Mar 02, 2017
Will Parenting This Way Prepare my Child for the Real World? - S3E6
32:35

Chris, Ryan, and Kayla talk about the fear that connected parenting doesn't prepare our kids for the real world, and why the reasons behind this fear are unfounded.

Cast Away on IMDB

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Feb 22, 2017
Things People Say: I Couldn't be a Foster Parent...
32:39

Ryan and Kayla North are joined by Chris Fonte as they discuss one of the most commonly heard concerns about being a foster parent; "It would be too hard to let anyone go." They share from their experiences how they have dealt with and processed the realities of foster parenting. 

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Feb 16, 2017
Past Failures Can't Keep Us From Future Successes - S3E4
22:26

We have all failed as parents and wondered if our mistakes have impacted our kids negatively, but we cannot allow our past failures to keep us from being the parents our kids need us to be. The team discusses how parenting can be a source of shame and regret and how they have found that a long range view of healing can bring a new perspective to our families.

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Feb 09, 2017
Parenting with Fear and Regret - S3E3
22:10

Chris is joined by Ryan and Kayla North to discuss how so many of us parent from a place of fear. We all have regrets because we now know that we could have done better, but we can't let our regrets prevent us from doing better. We have to learn from our mistakes and do the best we can now that we know better. 

"Do the best you can until you know better, and when you know better do better." - Maya Angelou

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Feb 01, 2017
The Frequency and Intensity of Behavior Dictates the Frequency and Intensity of Response - S3E2
33:31

The team discusses how the frequency and intensity of your child's behavior must determine the frequency and intensity of your response. Our kids need consistent, safe adults who will stay by their side when they need us the most.

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Jan 25, 2017
Hope and Encouragement for Parents - S3E1
17:24

2016 was a difficult year for race relations in the United States. As we celebrate the birthday of Dr. Martin Luther King, we wanted to share an interview we hope leads to better understanding for parents raising children of a different race. Dr. King wasn't interested in a world where no one saw color. He desired a world where people saw color, but saw no difference in it.

At the Tapestry Conference this past October, Chris and Kayla sat down with Nisia Murray who has been a long-time source of encouragement, mentoring, and a voice of hope in helping white parents know the world their black children are growing up in.

Jan 17, 2017
Childrens' Books That Teach TBRI-based Lessons to Both Kids AND Parents - S2E23
14:59

During Tapestry Conference 2016, Cindy Lee and Kayla North joined Chris behind the mics to talk about Cindy's TBRI-based children books. Cindy shares the story of the books' creation, and the trio talk about the different ways the lessons within have impacted and helped their families. Cindy also shares a road map of upcoming books in the series.

Cindy is the Executive Director of HALO Project, which is an intensive intervention program for foster and adoptive children who have experienced relational trauma. All proceeds from her book sales go to HALO Project in Oklahoma City, and The Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development.

All of Cindy's books can be found on Amazon.

Jan 10, 2017
Navigating the Holidays - S2E22
38:16

Ryan and Kayla North join Chris Turner and they discuss why the holiday season is so difficult for many of our kids. They share personal insights from their experiences, as well as ways that they have learned to help their children, and themselves, navigate the holidays successfully.  

Dec 12, 2016
Farmer Herman and the Flooding Barn - S2E21
12:07

Chris talks with Jason Weber, National Director of CAFO's (Christian Alliance For Orphans) Foster Care Initiative, about Jason's new book, Farmer Herman and the Flooding Barn. Based on a true story, it's a children's book with lots of parallels to foster care and the church's involvement in helping kids in foster care.

You can purchase your copy of Farmer Herman and the Flooding Barn: A story about 344 people working together to solve a big, big, big problem on AMAZON.

Be sure to check out all of the resources available at MoveTheBarn.Org 

Nov 29, 2016
Trauma Is Developmental, and Our Responses to Trauma Need to Be Developmental - S2E20
16:49

During Tapestry Conference 2016, Chris was able to chat with Kayla North and Mandy Howard on how trauma is developmental. An Assistant Professor of Psychology at Samford University, Dr. Howard talked about how as a child develops and ages, how they process and express past trauma will change, too. How do we handle the trauma when our child is fifteen versus when they were five? How do we recognize the need behind our child's behavior?

Nov 14, 2016
How the Church Can Work with the State to Help Kids in Care - S2E19
28:22

During Tapestry Conference 2016, Chris sat down with Bruce Kendrick, founder of Embrace Texas, to discuss Embrace's role in partnering with local churches to meet the needs of foster children. They discuss our nation's collective mindset about adoption and foster care, and the need for the Church to partner with state child welfare agencies and local case workers to ensure the best care for children in the foster care system.

More information about the mission of Embrace Texas, and how they can help your church, can be found at http://embracetexas.org.

Nov 01, 2016
2016 Tapestry Adoption & Foster Care Conference - S2E18
15:53
Chris Turner discusses the 2016 Tapestry Adoption & Foster Care Conference with Ryan and Kayla North. The 2016 Tapestry Adoption & Foster Care Conference will be held October 21-22 at Irving Bible Church. Last year we went Back to Basics, so this year we decided to go Beyond the Basics. Each of our presenters will spend the first part of their sessions introducing connected parenting principles and strategies and then they will share creative and next level ways to implement them. Our kids need parents who are committed to their healing and who are willing to be creative in their parenting.
Oct 14, 2016
Parenting Confessions - S2E17
23:30
Chris Turner is joined by Ryan and Kayla North as well as a very special guest, his wife Kelly. The four of them discuss some of the old parenting ways that they are trying to leave behind and how they repair their mistakes with their kids when they fail. Listen as the group share openly and honestly about their parenting struggles.
Oct 03, 2016
Back to School: Teachers are Important - S2E16
33:59
Teachers are a big part of our kids' lives. It is important that we interact with them in appropriate ways while treating them well too. Listen as Chris discusses what's appropriate and how to advocate for your child with their teacher as well as the school with Ryan and Kayla.


Sep 06, 2016
Back to School: Getting Ready for Success - S2E15
22:31
It's August and it's time to start thinking about getting back to school. Chris Turner discusses why getting into the school routine (practicing outside of the moment) and proper nutrition and sleep are necessary for a successful start to the school year with Ryan and Kayla North.
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Aug 04, 2016
Give me an Example - S2E14
34:13
Chris Turner plays a round of "Give me an Example" with Ryan and Kayla North. Our team has some fun sharing examples of what a "yes" sandwich is amongst other things.
Jul 21, 2016
Compassion - S2E13
31:19
Chris Turner discusses compassion, what it is, and why it's a vital component of our parenting with Ryan and Kayla North. They discuss how sympathy and empathy are both necessary in order to have longevity to our compassion amongst other things. 
Jul 13, 2016
Helping Children's Ministry Become Trauma-Informed - S2E12
17:33
Chris and Ryan discuss the need for Children's Ministry to become more trauma-informed and how to approach them. If you would like more information about the training mentioned in the episode, please email us at tapestry@irvingbible.org. This episode features new into/outro music by Moses Uvere.
Jun 23, 2016
Compromises, Redos, and Choices - S2E11
29:03
Chris Turner is joined by Ryan and Kayla North as they discuss some additional proactive parenting tools. They cover compromises, redos, and choices, what they are and are not, and how to use them effectively with our children.
May 25, 2016
Moving From Reactive to Proactive Parenting - S2E10
21:24
Chris Turner is once again joined by Ryan and Kayla North as they discuss how traditional parenting is reactive and why we need to become proactive in our parenting.
May 18, 2016
Fear Responses: Fight, Flight, Freeze - S2E9
22:34
Chris Turner has Ryan and Kayla North join him as they discuss fear responses, felt safety, and meeting our kids' needs and addressing their fears as proactive ways to address unwanted behaviors.
Apr 29, 2016
The Life and Legacy of Dr. Karyn Purvis - S2E8
28:38
Chris Turner and Ryan North discuss the life and legacy of Dr. Karyn Purvis. As we record this episode on Friday, April 15th, we do so with sadness and joy. Sadness, because earlier this week, child development and advocacy lost a champion, as Dr. Karyn Purvis lost her battle with cancer. Joy, because Dr. Purvis now rests in the arms of the God she loved and served with her whole heart. We talk about Dr. Purvis’ legacy and share some of our favorite memories.
Apr 21, 2016
Why Dads Should Embrace Trust-Based Parenting - S2E7
20:59
Chris Turner and Ryan North discuss why dads are often slower to embrace trust-based and why they need to.
Mar 23, 2016
Why "Rest" is so Important - S2E6
19:42
Our guest this week is Kayla North. Kayla and Chris Turner discuss why rest (both spiritual and physical) is so important for us as individuals and families.
Mar 15, 2016
The Impact of Hard Places on the Body, Biology, Beliefs, and Behavior - S2E5
31:49
Chris Turner and Ryan North continue discussing the impact that being from a hard place has on our kids. This episode includes how the hard places impact our kids' body, biology, beliefs, and behavior.
Mar 09, 2016
The Impact of Hard Places on the Brain - S2E4
20:14
Chris Turner and Ryan North recap what makes a hard place and how the impact those hard places have on our kids' brains.
Mar 01, 2016
Risk Factors that Make a Hard Place - S2E3
22:53
Chris Turner and Ryan North discuss the six risk factors that make a hard place and how they impact our children. 
Feb 23, 2016
Keeping Your Balance as a Parent - S2E2
19:29
Chris Turner and Ryan North discuss why it is important to be in balance as a parent.
Feb 17, 2016
The Importance of Connection - S2E1
22:43

Chris Turner talks with Ryan North, Tapestry's Executive Director, on the importance of connection, and how to build it with our kids.

Wounded Children, Healing Homes: How Traumatized Children Impact Adoptive and Foster Families

Feb 09, 2016
Adoption and Foster Care in the Church
22:35
Ryan North sits down with Irving Bible Church Executive Pastor Bryan Eck and discusses a little of Tapestry's history and why it is important that the church embrace and support Adoption and Foster Care.
May 04, 2015