Joyful Courage - A Conscious Parenting Podcast

By Casey O'Roarty

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Joyful Courage is a Conscious Parenting Podcast. Be inspired, entertained and educated as we navigate the challenges and celebrations of choosing to be a conscious parent. Interviews and solo shows will provide listeners with tools, strategies and inspiration that can be directly applied to their parenting journey.

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Eps 188: Julie Neale Shares about Motherhood, Activism, and the Power of Voice
53:57

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Today’s guest is Mother's Quest founder, Julie Neale. Julie honors both the meaning and the mess of life and parenthood and believes our children and youth challenge us to grow into our best selves. She is on a mission to live a truly epic life and through her example inspire her children to do the same her for purpose.

 

Her for-purpose venture Mother's Quest provides inspiration, coaching, and community so that mothers and those who work with young people can connect to support and resources, fulfill their unique purpose and live their epic lives. After a 20 year career as a leader in youth-serving nonprofit organizations, Julie turned her focus to coaching training at the Coaches Training Institute and facilitating a process known as Reflection for youth development professionals. Through this and her parenting experience, she realized that mothers and those who mother need an opportunity to reflect on their own growth, dreams, and plans, and created Mother's Quest to champion them with common care .

 

She masterfully taps into her own curiosity and intuition to help her clients slow down from the business of life and work, reflect on what matters, clarify a future vision and move into action. In the fall of 2017, she founded the Women Podcasters in Solidarity initiative to raise awareness and dollars for social justice issues through the power of podcasting. The first season focused on anti-racism and police accountability. We're going to talk more about that initiative on today's show. When she's not wrestling with her kindergartner or driving her team to basketball practice, you can find her squeezing in 10 minutes of yoga and meditation, believing something is better than nothing and staying up way too late to watch a double hitter of Handmaid's Tale and Super Soul Sunday. Join us!

 

"It's the discomfort, I think, is when we know we're really on to something.”

“It really starts with like one step, one conversation and everything flows from there if you stay committed to the process.”

“Just say, ‘I'm not going to forget that this matters.’”

“Perfection is really a tool of white supremacy.”

“Even if you start with just one conversation, one relationship that you build or that you extend yourself out to on a cause that matters to you, that is a really powerful place to start with incredible ripple effect possible.”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The importance of the modeling of continuing to grow and evolve as a human when that's the expectation we have of young people
  • The value of holding a growth mindset around conversations about race
  • Resources to learn about having conversations about race with our kids
  • What is the Women Podcasters In Solidarity Initiative
  • Giving our boys permission to cry and have emotion
  • The power of conversation to create change
  • Lessons learned from social justice activism
  • How ego gets in the way of relationships
  • Moving from transactional relationships to authentic connection

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Well, do you know Sage Hobbs? She's another amazing woman podcaster. She has a podcast called Naked Conversations and she interviewed me and we talk about some of these issues as well. She started with, "what does it mean to be brave or what is courage?" and I think at the time I remembered saying "It's like, you know, standing, I don't know if it was standing but standing for what matters to you. And you might have fear but moving through it anyways from a place of love."

And what I'm appreciating about this question about joyful courage is, taking action and standing for the things that matter, even if you might be feeling afraid and you do it anyway from a place of love. Along the way you also find joy. There have been so many moments where I've been cheering, you know, I'm thinking about some women in my community who have been sharing the posts about the Circle of Mother's campaign. And every time I see one more mother reach out to her community, one at a time, donations of $20 or $30, I am filled with joy. There is a joyfulness about, you know, seeing again, the seeds of what you've been planting growing in the ways that you hoped.

 

Resources:

Slay Like a Mother book

The Mask of Motherhood Ted Talk

Nicole Lee episode on Mother’s Quest podcast

So You Want to Talk About Race -  Ijeoma Oiuo

womenpodcastersinsolidarity.com

Ep 37: Generations Rising for Gun Safety with Gloria Pan

Ep 07: Living Out Loud with Jenjii Hysten

Ep 48: Lessons Learned Since Episode 24: Intersectionality and the Age of the New Heroine with Elizabeth Cronise McLaughlin

Moms Rising

Ep 54: Superheroes, Fighting Patriarchy, and Courageously Defeating Gun Violence with Ladd Everitt

One Pulse for America

Masterminds and Wingmen - Rosalind Wiseman

Ep 55: From Grief to Advocacy and a Circle of Mothers with Trayvon Martin’s Mother Sybrina Fulton

The Trayvon Martin Foundation

Circle of Mothers retreat

Lucy McBath’s Story

Mothers Against Police Brutality

EP33: Beyond the Trauma: Legacy, Compassion and Change with Mothers Against Police Brutality Co-Founder Sara Mokuria

EP27: On Living an E.P.I.C. Life with Julie Neale

Ep 49: A Conversation About Courage with Sage Hobbs and Julie Neale

 

Where to find Julie:

Mothersquest.com

Mother's Quest Podcast

Mother's Quest Facebook group

Mother's Quest business page

Mother’s Quest Instagram

Julie@mothersquest.com

 

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

 

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

 

THE BOOK IS READY FOR YOU TO BUY– Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

 

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

 

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!

 

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CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

May 21, 2019
Eps 187: Solo show about the law of attraction and parenting
32:43

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Heyyyyyy you!

 

So much excitement – we got out house, kids are on board, book is getting attention, work is good….  Having the experience of seeing all that is abundant in my life has got me to thinking about how I have in the past seen abundance in the lives of others and thought “that will never be me” “I can’t do that” blah blah blah – and I’ve realized that in changing the story, I have changed what has unfolded in my life….. Its amazing.

 

Our story keeps us where we are

 

Listening to a lot of law of attraction – familiar?

 

IF not, let me read what it is from the lawofattraction.com - Simply put, the Law of Attraction is the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on. It is believed that regardless of age, nationality or religious belief, we are all susceptible to the laws which govern the Universe, including the Law of Attraction. It is the Law of Attraction which uses the power of the mind to translate whatever is in our thoughts and materialize them into reality. In basic terms, all thoughts turn into things eventually. If you focus on negative doom and gloom you will remain under that cloud. If you focus on positive thoughts and have goals that you aim to achieve you will find a way to achieve them with massive action.

 

We live our stories, we tell the stories we live, we live the story, we tell the story….  Sometimes that can keep us stuck. It isn’t the “stuck” that is bad, it is whether or not we WANT to be stuck where we are that we get to be aware of….

 

For example – When the life you are experiencing feels really hard and you see your kids as out of control….  And you talk about it with your partner and maybe your friends, and then you experience more of it, and you share with your mom or your therapist, and then there it is again, the hard, the heavy, someone asks you how you are, you give a big sigh and you respond with “I’m ok, things are hard” and the cycle continues to spin over and over and over.

 

Where is there space for something new? Where is there room to BELIEVE that there is another possibility?? That is where you are. You are resigned. Done and done.

 

A contrasting picture is one where things are going really well….  Kids are thriving, relationship is good, business is booming, there are so many possibilities opening up for you, and you talk about it with your partner and maybe your friends, and then you experience more of it, and you share with your mom or your therapist, and then there it is again, the trust, the excitement, someone asks you how you are, you give a big smile and you respond with “I’m amazing, things are so good” and the cycle continues to spin over and over and over.

 

This space feels expansive, it feels like there is an expectancy of more goodness, you believe in possibility, you are open and hopeful.

 

 

We get to stay in our lane.

 

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

 

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

 

Presale is OPEN– as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS.  Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

 

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

 

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

 

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

 

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Authentic Parenting Conference

Anna Seewald, host of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, and parent coach, has put together a steller day of learning and growing together in New Brunswick, NJ. I am so excited about it that I decided that I WANTED TO GO TOO!!

 

I am going to be there, Dr. Laura Markham will be delivering a keynote (ah-maze-ing), and the whole thing just looks like super soul care on fire.

 

If you are interested, click here https://authenticparenting.com/conference and use the discount code JOYFUL25 for $25 off the registration fee!!

 

Come play with me!!

 

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

May 14, 2019
Eps 186: Teasing apart Emotional Regulation with Anna Seewald
49:31

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My guest today is Anna Seewald. Anna is a Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author and Host of The Authentic Parenting Podcast. With background in psychology and education, having worked with children for 18 years, today she helps conscious moms and dads to become calm and connected to themselves and their children through trauma-informed education. She believes in helping children by helping parents. She has a private practice that specializes in parent education, where she provides one-on-one parent coaching, parenting, court ordered, and co-parenting classes.  www.authenticparenting.com 

 

"Emotional regulation is the ability to regulate our own emotions and choose actions that are appropriate in that situation.”

“We can teach those skills to our children today so that they can have a better life.”

“In order to teach self-regulation or regulation skills to our children, first and foremost, we need to learn those same skills ourselves.”

“There is no misbehavior. There is only behavior.”

“There's nothing wrong with your child. There's nothing wrong with you. This is just simple biology.”

“Our compassion level has to match the intensity of the emotion that child is feeling.”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • What is emotional regulation?
  • Gaining perspective on what it means when our child is emotionally dysregulated
  • Why toddlers struggle with emotional regulation
  • How emotional dysregulation of kids triggers parents
  • How stress contributes to emotional dysregulation in parents
  • How emotional regulation supports conflict resolution, jobs, relationships, academics
  • What is co-regulation?
  • How parents can stay regulated
  • The Four-Step Calm Formula
  • Coaching your child’s emotional regulation
  • The role of compassion in emotional regulation
  • Assessing the level of urgency in an emotionally dysregulated situation
  • Language and emotional dysregulation
  • Mindfulness and emotional dysregulation
  • Validating our children’s feelings in a way that matches the intensity of their distress
  • The impact of dysregulation on the verbal centers of the brain
  • Dealing with emotional dysregulation under time constraints
  • Post-dysregulation problem solving and how to nurture it
  • What to do when your child won’t talk about their feelings
  • The power of relationship in bringing emotional regulation
  • Tips for listeners who are looking to get better at helping their children grow their self-regulation skills or themselves

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

When I hear these two words together, I sort of have this feeling of a child-like wonderous, courageous, right, children have this courage, they're present and they know. They're not diluted with all the societal stuff. So this pure courage that is also joyful, this child-like courage. That's how I have a sense about those two words together.

 

Resources:

Casey’s Episode on Authentic Parenting

Anna’s upcoming conference - Joyful25 to get $25 off your ticket

 

Where to find Anna:

Website

Facebook

Authentic Parenting Community on Facebook

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

 

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

 

Presale is OPEN– as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS.  Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

 

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

 

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

 

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

 

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Authentic Parenting Conference

Anna Seewald, host of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, and parent coach, has put together a steller day of learning and growing together in New Brunswick, NJ. I am so excited about it that I decided that I WANTED TO GO TOO!!

 

I am going to be there, Dr. Laura Markham will be delivering a keynote (ah-maze-ing), and the whole thing just looks like super soul care on fire.

 

If you are interested, click here https://authenticparenting.com/conference and use the discount code JOYFUL25 for $25 off the registration fee!!

 

Come play with me!!

 

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

May 07, 2019
Eps 185: How to be fiercely committed and lovingly detached
42:59

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Today is solo show – woohoo!!  I’ve been missing you all.

 

I am so excited to have been interviewed by some amazing gals out there in the Podcast world. Anna Seewald of the Authentic Parenting Podcast – www.authenticparenting.com/podcast had me on and we talked about building trust – both in ourselves and our kids. Loved every minute of it and can’t WAIT to meet Anna in person at her conference in May, the Authentic Parenting Conference – www.authenticparenting.com/conference.

 

I was also a guest on the TILT parenting podcast. Long time listeners of JC will know Debbie Reber from episodes 54 and 145. Debbie is the founder of TILT parenting and host of the TILT parenting podcast - http://www.tiltparenting.com/. Debbie and I talk about my book, Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey, and connect the dots around how doing our own work around self control and centering is useful for all parents, whether their children are typically or differently wired. Check out those shows!!!

 

Today I want to talk about a mantra that I have found useful time and time again. I learned it from a friend and mentor of mine – shout out to Denise Yost! – we saw each other for the first time in a while and when I asked her how she was, she responded with “fiercely committed, and lovingly detached”

 

Fiercely committed, lovingly detached.

 

It’s this a powerful come from for parenting?

 

What it means to be fiercely committed?

  • Creating the environment
  • Meeting their needs
  • Advocating for them
  • Being kind and firm
  • Encouraging them

 

What does it mean to be lovingly detached?

  • Allowing them to be who they are
  • Allowing for them to build resiliency through navigating natural consequences
  • Allowing them to be uncomfortable
  • Trusting that they are on THEIR journey
  • Letting go
  • Giving them responsibility over their lives

 

What gets in the way?

  • Our dreams/vision for them
  • Our past/failures/mistakes
  • Our assumptions
  • Our addiction to what other people think
  • Our insecurity about “doing it wrong”
  • Our emotional regulation (or lack of)
  • Our lens of the “right/wrong” way

 

What will help us move towards “fiercely committed, lovingly detached”?

 

Two list exercise.

  • Challenges
    • Everyone probably has a really similar list – YAY!
  • Gifts
    • Doubt that you have any particular job description…
    • What about “happy”?
      • Can we hope for content?
      • Can we hope for healthy coping skills and resiliency?
      • Can we hope for grounded and empowered?
    • Remember the challenges are at the tip of the iceberg – and anything we “do” with the challenges should somehow, someway, teach/model/or allow our kids to PRACTICE the life skills we want them to embody.

 

A bit about DO.

  • So often parents want to know WHAT DO I DO??
  • In the moment tools
    • This is a narrow mindset
  • PD is a broader lens than in the moment.
    • TRSUT in developing relationship
    • TRUST that kids do better when they feel batter
    • TRUST that all humans what to be connected and know that they matter and have influence
  • In the moment?
    • Keep everyone SAFE
    • Acknowledge your child’s experience
    • Look for solutions and/or ways of making things right

 

They are doing the best they can with the tools they have in the moment.

  • Just because they can tell you what they will do better next time during a calm moment does NOT mean they will access that when they are flipped
  • Not about being naughty/bad – its about relationship, tools and practice

 

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

 

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

 

Presale is OPEN– as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS.  Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

 

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

 

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

 

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

 

::::

 

Authentic Parenting Conference

Anna Seewald, host of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, and parent coach, has put together a steller day of learning and growing together in New Brunswick, NJ. I am so excited about it that I decided that I WANTED TO GO TOO!!

 

I am going to be there, Dr. Laura Markham will be delivering a keynote (ah-maze-ing), and the whole thing just looks like super soul care on fire.

 

If you are interested, click here https://authenticparenting.com/conference and use the discount code JOYFUL25 for $25 off the registration fee!!

 

Come play with me!!

 

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Apr 30, 2019
Eps 184: The Montessori Toddler with Simone Davies
39:30

 

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Today’s guest is Simone Davis. Simone is the author of the new book, The Montessori Toddler. Simone is an AMI Association Montessori International Montessori Educator. She lives in Amsterdam where she runs parent-child Montessori classes at Jacaranda Tree Montessori. Simone is the author of a popular blog, The Montessori Notebook. She is also mother to two young adults. We will be discussing toddlers. Join us!

"In Montessori it's an alternative education system where we're actually following each unique child on their own unique individual development.”

“We start to think that toddlers are giving us a hard time when actually it's them having a hard time.”

“We help them as much as necessary and as little as possible.”

“Montessori is somewhere in between, we call it freedom within limits.”

“It's really just how to communicate in an effective, respectful way.”

“it's really about trusting your child that they're on their own unique timeline and that they're different to everybody else.”

“I think of us as planting that seed as well and nurturing it so that we really recognize that each child's individual, how can I support and help them become the best version of themselves?”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • What the Montessori philosophy is all about
  • The role of multi-age modeling in a Montessori environment
  • The importance of taking time for training
  • Preparing the environment and what that looks like
  • How Montessori builds community and independence
  • Teaching kids to care for things and each other: values-based learning
  • How breaking down steps reduces assumptions and frustration
  • The benefits of the Montessori approach
  • Applying Montessori principles to your home
  • What gets in the way of parents for seeing the gifts of the toddler years
  • Practicing neutral observation without assumption like a scientist
  • How the quest for Independence is similar in the teen and toddler years
  • Setting kind and clear limits
  • The value of a rich language environment with the space to try new things
  • Getting comfortable with repeating yourself
  • The role of making amends and modeling doing so yourself
  • The most important thing for parents of young children to know in order to shift into the Montessori mindset

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I do think that you can bring joy back into parenting. Like when you think of parenting a toddler, like you mentioned, it can be hard work, but actually when you see the world through your child's eyes and see that they're not trying to give you a hard time, but they're just kind of super curious, they grabbed that toy out of that child's hand because they want to play with it right now. That's as simple as it is. It's not that they're trying to be naughty and so the courage to follow your child, support them, like "I'm not going to let you take that toy. Let's wait together." But in a very kind and gentle way. And then you'll just find you're more relaxed as a parent and you'll enjoy seeing what your toddler can show you because they have so much to show us about being in the present moment. They'll spot those weeds growing up through the pavers as you walk down the street, they remind us to really slow down and to enjoy every bit of life because I've even just used to spend half an hour going to get the newspaper with my son and we'd walk across the road. It was a block, but it was such a delight to just slow down and enjoy all those little moments, those little toddling legs. I, just, yeah, I'm so grateful for that time and that I didn't let it pass me by.

 

Resources:

Dan Siegel hand model of the brain video

“The Montessori Toddler” book

 

Where to find Simone:

Website

Facebook

Instagram

Youtube

Pinterest

 

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

 

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

 

Presale is OPEN– as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS.  Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

 

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

 

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

 

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

 

::::

 

Authentic Parenting Conference

Anna Seewald, host of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, and parent coach, has put together a steller day of learning and growing together in New Brunswick, NJ. I am so excited about it that I decided that I WANTED TO GO TOO!!

 

I am going to be there, Dr. Laura Markham will be delivering a keynote (ah-maze-ing), and the whole thing just looks like super soul care on fire.

 

If you are interested, click here https://authenticparenting.com/conference and use the discount code JOYFUL25 for $25 off the registration fee!!

 

Come play with me!!

 

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Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Apr 23, 2019
Eps 183: Your kids are not manipulating you.
33:03

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Winging it in the closet!

 

Thank you for the review, Lauren!

 

Listening to my clients and group participants…. Amazing the expansive way we can see/here for the other person.

 

  • The idea that kids get into mischief, make mistakes, AND well meaning, loving parents get stuck into thinking “they are manipulating me/trying to get what they want/playng me”
  • Foundation of Adlerian theory – behavior being movement in the direction of belonging and significance
  • As young children – always perceiving/interpreting/beliefs/action (private logic)
    • Do I belong?
    • Do I matter?
    • Do I have influence?
    • Am I safe?
  • We are asking and answering those questions through our own lens, which has been developed over time, through experience and relationships we have lived through
  • Kids are cut and dry, their private logic is experienced as “truth”
  • Perception of emotional safety matters
  • “I’m curious… I notice you don’t want to talk about problems after the fact…. Can you tell me about that?”
  • Goal is to help them observe themselves
  • Having a conversation about the conversation
  • Curiosity has no agenda, it’s not a “method”
  • Curiosity is non-judgmental and open
  • THIS TAKES PRACTICE PEOPLE!
  • Call it out when the space feels judge-y and own what we have brought in the past
  • Asking VS Telling Experiential activity
  • Play with this!! Remember there are layers!!

 

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

 

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

 

Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS.  Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book

 

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

 

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

 

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

 

::::

 

Authentic Parenting Conference

Anna Seewald, host of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, and parent coach, has put together a steller day of learning and growing together in New Brunswick, NJ. I am so excited about it that I decided that I WANTED TO GO TOO!!

 

I am going to be there, Dr. Laura Markham will be delivering a keynote (ah-maze-ing), and the whole thing just looks like super soul care on fire.

 

If you are interested, click here https://authenticparenting.com/conference and use the discount code JOYFUL25 for $25 off the registration fee!!

 

Come play with me!!

 

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Apr 16, 2019
Eps 182: Finding Your Family's Rhythm with Meagan Wilson
44:15

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My guest today is Meagan Wilson. Meagan is the founder of Whole Family Rhythms and living out her mission of helping other mothers, caregivers, and educators to create more clarity and balance within the home. Meagan’s website and seasonal Guides provide support, information, and resources on conscious parenting inspired by the earth, the seasons, and each family’s own unique values. Together, a community of over 25 thousand like-minded Mothers and educators gather each day on her Instagram feed to discuss parenting with love, connection and rhythm.

 

"Connecting with your family values is this parenting partner exercise.”

“Visual cues, no matter what, they are always very helpful.”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • What living with the rhythms of the earth and the seasons means
  • What it means to align your life with your values
  • How to document your family values in a meaningful way
  • Discussing your values as co-parents with extended family and caregivers
  • Routine vs rhythm, in-breath vs out-breath times and what it all means
  • Using visuals to create daily habits
  • What it means to be a loving authority
  • Being the author of the boundaries that you're holding
  • Natural consequences - what they are
  • Connecting to something higher than yourself - not necessarily religion

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I cheated a little bit. I looked up the word joy because I told you I really like looking at words. It led me to rejoice, which really made sense to me because when I first read it and thought what's joyful courage?  I thought, you know, it's courage to live in that moment. You know, really ground yourself in the present moment. And even if there is suffering around, even if your child is upset and you're holding a space for that, you know, you're really in the moment. And I think that the word rejoice kind of fits in there because it's this sense of gratitude. It's gratitude for the present moment no matter what it's bringing us. So it might not always be this like very happy joy, but it's this sense of gratitude for the present moment and having the courage to try and connect with that as often as we can during the day.

 

Resources:

Simplicity Parenting

 

Where to find:

Whole Family Rhythms website - Joyful Courage landing page

Instagram

Facebook

Pinterest

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

 

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

 

Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. I am going to have some special bonuses TBD for my presale buyers.

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

 

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

 

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

 

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Authentic Parenting Conference

Anna Seewald, host of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, and parent coach, has put together a steller day of learning and growing together in New Brunswick, NJ. I am so excited about it that I decided that I WANTED TO GO TOO!!

 

I am going to be there, Dr. Laura Markham will be delivering a keynote (ah-maze-ing), and the whole thing just looks like super soul care on fire.

 

If you are interested, click here https://authenticparenting.com/conference and use the discount code JOYFUL25 for $25 off the registration fee!!

 

Come play with me!!

 

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Apr 09, 2019
Eps 181: A Solo Show Exploring The Myths and Realities of Positive Parenting
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Hey there!!!

I’d like to start by giving a shout out to the most recent review that the show has received on iTunes – form You are my sunshine

I hear from so many of you about how this podcast support you – if you will, please take the time to write a review – it helps the show in so many ways, one of which is that it makes it more likely to get in front of new listeners!!  Thank you –

Myths of Positive Parenting

  • That everything is peaceful all the time

 PD activity that shows the continuum between kindness and firmness parenting styles

Kind AND firm can feel elusive

We are all human beings having a human experience

  • That kids don’t get into mischief

Kids and teens are perceiving what is happening around them, and making meaning out of what they are perceiving. They filter the world through their individual, developing lens – it makes sense that they get it wrong and response in a way that seems….  well…. Inconvenient.

Our kids and teens are in the process of DEVELOPING and LEARNING life skills. They’ve had limited experience. They are doing the best they can with the tools they have.

  • That you will enjoy every minute

Uhmmm, who started this rumor??  I guess there are parents out there that truly are in bliss-land all the time when it comes to their kids and parenting. I honestly don’t KNOW them, but maybe they exist. We can love our kids UNCONDITIONALLY, with NO DOUBT, for SURE, AND not enjoy every single minute. AND this does not make us bad parents.

Realities of Positive Parenting

  • It takes work

Many of us are coming into parenting with all sorts of baggage, and we are all on different parts of the journey of self awareness. Having children, I think, gives us a choice – 1. Resist growing and evolving and stay stuck in power struggles and pain, or 2. Be open to learning and growing and enjoy a connected relationship with our children.

And being open to learning and growing is no small thing. The journey puts everything that we believe, everything that we know to be true in front of us with the question, “what if this isn’t true?” “what if there is another way to see this?” “what if this is simply MY truth?”

And then we get to decide how tight to hold on, how attached to remain --- its wild!

  • It is more about your self regulation than anything else

I read a great article by Mona Delahooke about challenging behavior and self regulation. She says, “Too often what we expect from children makes a false assumption: that children possess “top-down” control that allows them to think about their bodies and minds and control their behaviors. The truth is that may behaviorally challenged children don’t yet have this ability.

Parents tend to believe that if a child sometimes displays control, then the child always has the ability to do so. That mistaken belief reveals an expectation gap—a disparity between adults’ assumptions and a child’s abilities.”

And – “Self-regulation is a developmental process that we can nurture and encourage in one way: through the experience of emotional co-regulation with caring and attuned adults.”

I love this, because it aligns with what I believe – this work is about US getting our shit together. Yes, of course we want the same for our kids AND, like Dr. Delahooke states, it requires parents to be regulated and attuned to their kids. Toddlers to teens, people.

  • You child’s behavior is not an accurate indicator of “doing it right”

This is a biggy – all along the way, right? From how they potty train to whether or not they experiment with substances – we are quick to take the blame when things go sideways. And while I DO believe there are ways of being in relationship with our kids that support them in learning and growing, there are also other factors at work – like brain development, temperament, beliefs they have about themselves and others, relationships they are navigating….

What if instead of judging ourselves by our children’s mistakes and mis-steps, we flip the whole thing over and start to tune in with what our relationship with our child is…??

Ask yourself, what does it look like when your child screws up? How are you showing up for them? What are the dots they are connecting? Is there space for them to actually TAKE and HOLD responsibility, or are you, perhaps, unknowingly holding that responsibility?

This has been coming up SO MUCH lately, with the parents in the Parenting Teen Academy that I am running, as well as with private clients AND in my own home. We have a vision for our kids, don’t we? I mean even the most evolved of us want our children to grow into healthy, happy, fulfilled adults, right? How many of us are asking our kids what THEY want? I know that is kind of a “duh” question, but really – WHAT DO THEY WANT?

And I am going to make a very unscientific, not yet backed by science claim, that kids in connected, supportive relationships with their parents, who have a basic idea of what they want, and are allowed to make mistakes, tend to feel that THEIR PATH IS THEIRS THE CREATE AND FOLLOW.

Doesn’t mean they don’t screw up, doesn’t mean they don’t feel the tension of failure – BUT THIS IS WHERE LIFE SKILLS GROW!! We learn through our experiences – and the learning goes next level when there is also someone there to love and support us when we flail 

  • It is messy

Period. It just is. And even the people that you know who really have it together experience the messiness in one way or another. Doesn’t mean there isn’t a lot of love. The messiness is a part of the territory, people, so grab a meditation cushion and settle in for the ride.

I say it all the time – I learned it from my friend and mentor, Jody McVittie – the most powerful tool we have for influencing behavior is the relationship with nurture with our kids.

And I have a special message for those of you with teenagers right now – there isn’t time to dick around. IF you are finding it difficult to connect with your teen, if you are feeling worried or scared about where you are at, if you feel like maybe you’ve missed the window, YOU HAVE NOT. There is room for you to learn some new tools, there is time to rebuild relationship. You owe it to your kids to try something new and different.

The Parenting Teens Academy is all about this! It is a VALUABLE 4 weeks of community and content DESIGNED to support you in growing connection and responsibility in your home.

Each week you get:

  • Positive Discipline philosophy and strategies, as well as content around personal growth, to weave into your daily life.
  • You get to be a part of a like minded group of parents who are IN IT WITH YOU and supporting you along the way.
  • You get and hour long one on one call where you and I get to focus directly on what is most important to you right now, with actionable steps for following through with the learning.
  • You get the ENTIRE Parenting Teens with PD Audio Summit as a resource to keep forever 

But you have to apply before April 7th.

I am capping the program at 20 participants, and applications are already coming in. I want to be sure that we are a good fit, and that you are ready to do the work and be a part of the community.

If you’ve made it this far, I am going be direct and just say – apply now.

Here is what current participants are saying:

“I am using the content daily and I am feeling like the house and kids are happy for it!”

“There have been so many "ahas" in this program! The things my teen is going through is exactly what he's supposed to be experiencing. Though many of his behaviors are challenging right now, they will serve him well as he becomes independent. A lot of my behaviors are because I have been taking these changes personally and because of fear, and my response is the part of the equation that I can control. Looking closely at my own behavior and gradually making changes to my approach will help me build and maintain a positive relationship with my teen.”

“I have so much confidence in Casey's leadership. It feels very vulnerable to discuss our family challenges with others and dig into my own emotionally raw places. Casey has created a safe and supportive class environment by sharing her own experiences, wisdom and vulnerability while setting expectations of confidentiality and trust within our group.”

I am going to be unapologetic about encouraging you to apply now for this program. It is making a HUGE difference in the lives of parents, and I really don’t want you to miss your chance!!

Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/jcapt for more info and to apply. You will also find testimonials there, and FAQs - That is www.joyfulcourage.com/jcapt - you will NOT be sorry. Again, I am taking applications through April 7th and the four week program begins Monday, May 6th.

CAN”T WAIT!!

Tune in again next week – I will be sharing an interview with Meagan Wilson – you may know her from Whole Family Rythms. She and I talk a lot about finding and creating flow in the routines of our family. LOVED this convo – until then – BIG LOVE!!

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Authentic Parenting Conference

Anna Seewald, host of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, and parent coach, has put together a steller day of learning and growing together in New Brunswick, NJ. I am so excited about it that I decided that I WANTED TO GO TOO!!

I am going to be there, Dr. Laura Markham will be delivering a keynote (ah-maze-ing), and the whole thing just looks like super soul care on fire.

If you are interested, click here https://authenticparenting.com/conference and use the discount code JOYFUL25 for $25 off the registration fee!!

Come play with me!!

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Joyful Courage Academy for Parenting Teens

SO EXCITED to be offering up this 4 week program for parents of teens that are looking for support and a connected community to tease apart the challenges of this season of parenting.

Applications are available now through April 7th.
The program will run form May 6th through May 31st.

For more information and to apply go to
www.joyfulcourage.com/jcapt

"This is great stuff. I appreciate it so much. I feel so much less alone and the positive discipline reminders are so helpful."
- Mama Sue, current participant of JCA Parenting Teens

"I really think a huge part of this program is you, Casey! You are so comfortable to talk to and hear from. Then combine that will the realness of the participants and I really am enjoying this!"
- Mama Bianca, current participant of JCA Parenting Teens

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access tot eh tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. I am going to have some special bonuses TBD for my presale buyers.

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Apr 02, 2019
Eps 180: Dr. Sarah Bergman Lewis Discusses Navigating Trauma on the Parenting Journey
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Today’s guest is Dr. Sarah Bergman Lewis. Before attending medical school ,Sarah helped to found a middle school called the Seattle Girls' School. As part of her 5 years with the Seattle girls' school she did admission and taught 6th grade Sarah attended University of Washington Medical School. She completed her pediatric residency at Seattle Children's, has worked in urgent care at Seattle Children's Hospital, then as a primary care physician.

She and her family later travelled to Guatemala for 3 months where she worked in a local hospital and her kids attended school. Her family will return again this year for a visit and to help launch a partnership between a group of Seattle pediatricians and the Guatemalan hospital.

Outside of works there is pursuing her yoga teaching training certificate and enjoys learning about sharing Integrative Medicine tools with her patients as part of a collaboration between Odessa Brown Children's Clinic and Arc of King County. She is helping devise the curriculum for a mindful self compassion course for Spanish speaking parents which she will co-facilitate in the spring.

Her husband Steve is a nonprofit executive director. She is a mom of two delightful children. Today we are talking about navigating our own self-healing. Join us!

 

"What child needs most is to have a whole adult in their lives”

“Parenting pushes us to our limits. It challenges our core beliefs and just really pushes us in all aspects of our life like no other arena.”

“Part of navigating parenting is being able to identify why we do what we do and how we feel what we feel and how we are expressing it day to day.”   

“Early childhood experiences matter and it matters in a very deep way.”

“The ‘why’ matters.”

“What happens from here is really the most important part.”

“This healing is for everyone.”

“Behavior really is always you know movement towards belonging”

“These things are both universal and deeply personal.”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Parenting from wholeness, not fear
  • Adverse childhood events and how they affect parents and parenting
  • Adverse childhood events study explained
  • The dose response effect to adverse childhood events
  • How ACE scores impact health (physical and mental) risks
    The shadow side of resilience
  • Behavior as a solution to a problem we don’t know about
  • Epigenetics, what is it and what does it have to do with behavior?
  • Being aware of what drives our internal “shark music”
  • Exercising self-compassion around when you’re going to work on your issues
  • How the way we talk to ourselves impacts how we talk to people in our family
  • What embodiment means
  • Encouraging embodiment in our kids
  • Guiding conversations about embodiment
  • Discussing screen time with our kids

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Oh gosh so joyful courage to me means being all in, you know, with the good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful as Glennon Melton Doyle calls it. It is being willing to feel that discomfort and really trusting that it's going to go to a better place and that it does give you those really joyful moments and those transformative moments even if it, so my my daughter the other day as we were leaving, you know, I was being less than ideal, less than my best self going out the door and she looked at me and she said “Remember, mom, peace begins with me.” and I was like “Oh shoot!” But it’s so true and you know, it's like, we’re going to be okay.

 

Resources:

ACE Score Resources

 

Where to find Dr. Sarah:

Instagram

Facebook

Email sarahberganlewis@gmail.com

 

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Joyful Courage Academy for Parenting Teens

SO EXCITED to be offering up this 4 week program for parents of teens that are looking for support and a connected community to tease apart the challenges of this season of parenting.

Applications are available now through April 7th.
The program will run form May 6th through May 31st.

For more information and to apply go to
www.joyfulcourage.com/jcapt

"This is great stuff. I appreciate it so much. I feel so much less alone and the positive discipline reminders are so helpful."
- Mama Sue, current participant of JCA Parenting Teens

"I really think a huge part of this program is you, Casey! You are so comfortable to talk to and hear from. Then combine that will the realness of the participants and I really am enjoying this!"
- Mama Bianca, current participant of JCA Parenting Teens

 

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

 

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access tot eh tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

 

Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. I am going to have some special bonuses TBD for my presale buyers.

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

 

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

 

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

 

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Mar 26, 2019
Eps 179: SOLO show about trusting relationship and encouragement
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First – let me tell you how much I love the show, Parenthood, on Netflix....

Casey is on solo with you today digging into what it means to trust the process in the context of parenting, Positive Discipline, and leaning on our relationship as the most powerful way to influence our kids behavior.

What does this mean?

  • Hitting stage
  • Homework stage

The relationships/ life skill development journey

When we are stuck in a place with our kids it is easy to believe that it will “always be like this”

  • Change happens over time
  • If we want something to be different we have to BE different
    • The dance we do with our kids has explicit steps, well choreographed over time
      • All it take is one person to change the dance (YOU)

What it means to be in an honest open relationship with your children

  • What can feel like the dark side
  • Curiosity and stalling when you don’t know what to do
  • Notice your fear and let it guide you to pausing
  • Gather your resources
  • Listen to your gut

How to voice concerns without blaming or condemning (thermometer activity)

  • Encouraging vs discouraging out kids
    • When they are discouraged by OUR behavior they shift OUT OF taking responsibility or even thinking about their own behavior

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Authentic Parenting Conference

Anna Seewald, host of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, and parent coach, has put together a steller day of learning and growing together in New Brunswick, NJ. I am so excited about it that I decided that I WANTED TO GO TOO!!

I am going to be there, Dr. Laura Markham will be delivering a keynote (ah-maze-ing), and the whole thing just looks like super soul care on fire.

If you are interested, click here https://authenticparenting.com/conference and use the discount code JOYFUL25 for $25 off the registration fee!!

Come play with me!!

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access tot eh tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. I am going to have some special bonuses TBD for my presale buyers.

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

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Buy the Parenting Teen Audio Summit!
** This will only remain available for a limited time **

The Parenting Teens With Positive Discipline Audio Summit is a deep dive into the messiness of parenting through the teen years and beyond. Each of the featured guests speaks candidly from both their wisdom as parent educators, as well as their real life experience of raising their own teens.

Check it out – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Mar 19, 2019
Eps 178: Beyond Birds and Bees with Bonnie J Rough
43:22

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Today’s guest is Bonnie J. Rough, who is an author, journalist, and speaker focusing on families, health, education, parenting and sexuality. Her latest book is Beyond Birds & Bees: Bringing Home a New Message to Our Kids about Sex, Love, and Equality. has written recently for the New York Times on teaching young children about boundaries and consent and the value of childhood crushes, The Atlantic on both the link between sex ed and gender equality and improving school sex ed, the Washington Post on why it’s important to teach sex ed in mixed-gender groups, and New York Magazine on raising kids without sexual shame. Join us!

 

"What I learned is that the focus on helping kids wait longer is really not and should not be the end all. It’s really more about how can we prepare them to have a positive experience.”

 

“The Dutch parents who I met and the American ones too who have inspired me on this really are prioritizing their relationship with their kids over their ideals about what and when their kids will do things.”

 

“If we have those open lines of communication we actually have more control than if we forbid.”

 

“The more open and transparent we can be with our kids the better.”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Cultural differences between the US and Amsterdam around gender equality, nudity, and sexuality
  • Normalizing conversations about sexuality
  • Separating nudity from eroticism
  • Differences in sexual health outcomes between US and Dutch teenagers
  • Ways to keep lines of communication open with your kids
  • Double standards applied to boys and girls
  • Why helping your child maintain cross-gender friendships
  • The importance of knowing your kids’ friends
  • What the research says about teenage sex
  • What to do when you feel you’re late to the party in talking to your kids about sex
  • The importance of not having an agenda when having those curious conversations with kids
  • Owning when we feel awkward or uncomfortable
  • Navigating fear and baggage to become available for conversations with our kids
  • Expanding our own knowledge base to have better conversations

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Oh my gosh, to me joyful courage is all about that permission, that freeing sense of permission that I got from observing parents who knew that, you know, making little mistakes in a day to day conversation with our kids about healthy sexuality, it's meaningless, those little mistakes. The big thing that we're doing right, you know, having an interest in relating with them on the subject and so when I realize that, you know, it's not a thing to damage our kids by telling them too much, it's not a thing to damage our kids by telling them something that wasn't accurate one day and coming back, circling back to it another day. It's, you know, knowing that I could be gentle with myself and that we can actually have fun with the conversation once they kind of got to just be a thread through our normal life, you know, basically joyful courage for me is about going headlong into it, you know, with optimism and cheerfulness and hope and trust.

 

Resources:

Beyond Birds & Bees: Bringing Home a New Message to Our Kids about Sex, Love, and Equality

 

Where to find Bonnie:

Website

Twitter

Facebook

Instagram

 

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Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey

 

This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access tot eh tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child.

 

Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. I am going to have some special bonuses TBD for my presale buyers.

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

 

The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already.  Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join

 

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!!

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Buy the Parenting Teen Audio Summit!
** This will only remain available for a limited time **

The Parenting Teens With Positive Discipline Audio Summit is a deep dive into the messiness of parenting through the teen years and beyond. Each of the featured guests speaks candidly from both their wisdom as parent educators, as well as their real life experience of raising their own teens.

 

Check it out – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit

 

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

 

Mar 12, 2019
Casey is Solo talking about how we influence the iceberg
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How we influence the iceberg

 Clients come to me to talk about kids behavior

  • Battles over homework
  • Power struggles
  • Screen time addiction
  • Getting out the door
    • We are mega focused on fixing those problems

The iceberg- behavior we see is a solution to a problem that we may or may not know about

Example that we played with a few weeks ago in parenting class:

Child won’t get ready to go in the morning and family is late getting out the door

  • Two options for response:
    • What do I have to do to this kid to get her to cooperate?
      • Bribes, threats, punishments
    • What is happening for this child that is getting in the way?

 Go to the source

  • Tell me about the mornings…. I notice that…. How are you feeling…..
  • With new information you can make a plan together to support the child (and you)n in doing better

Transparency

  • Rowan talking about the future
    • Agitated, closed off, defensive
    • Often my response is irritated that she cant “have” the convo
    • We both are discouraged and the convo is over
  • Maybe I am engaging the wrong conversation
    • Helpful to know what shows up for her when the invitation is to talk about future
    • What is the experience?
    • IS it only with me or others?
    • Might there be a benefit to talking with someone else if not me?
    • What would be useful about having a vision of the future?
      • Deeper even still
      • I notice when this is the conversation you….. I am curious about that? How does it feel when…..?

 Sometimes our kids refuse to go there….

  • How do we let go?
  • What do they need?
  • Recognizing/acknowledging our tendency to hold on/get rigid/ let fear or our agenda drive us….
  • Mutual respect – respect for child and for self and the situation
  • Honor who they are and their temperament
    • I am ALL IN, lets go deep and swirl around and grow and learn and be super transparent and get it all out – don’t hold back. I process out loud and in the moment…. This is not the way of everyone, def not my daughter.

 Summing it up:

  • Recognize how we are contributing to challenges
  • Own it, and get curious about your child’s experience.
  • Identify the ACTUAL problem
  • Be an open, nonjudgmental listener
  • Look for solutions (related respectful reasonable helpful)
  • Be respectful
  • Honor who you child is in word and action

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This is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access tot eh tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. 

Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. I am going to have some special bonuses TBD for my presale buyers.

Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!!

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Mar 05, 2019
Eps 176: Sid Garza-Hillman talking about small steps to a thriving family
48:00

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Today’s guest is Sid Garza-Hillman, who is a podcaster and youtuber. He's the author of Approaching the Natural: A Health Manifesto and Raising Healthy Parents, Small Steps, Less Stress and a Thriving Family. Sid graduated from UCLA with a BA in philosophy and is a public speaker, certified nutritionist and Small Steps Coach. He teaches people around the world his unique small steps approach to healthy living at www.smallsteppers.com. His latest podcast, What Sid Thinks is currently available on iTunes. Sid is the Wellness Programs Director at the Stanford Inn Eco Resort. He's an ultra runner and race director for the Mendocino coast 50k trail ultra marathon. Join us!

 

"However you want to parent, you can't pull that off unless you're feeling good in your life”

 

“If we can sort of tip the scales in our favor most of the time, then we win the day”

 

“We are not robots. Our kids aren't robots. We're humans with human emotions and experiences and lenses and it's just so messy.”

 

“If we can really focus on how we be and how we show up, that's going to inspire, inform, empower and influence what we do.”

 

“Maybe the perfect version of the human being is one that that is about self care and compassion and has a core of ethic that informs their actions most of the time. ”

 

“Who am I at my best?”

 

“You've been defining yourself by how you've been in the external world, when that's been in complete conflict with actually what you stand for and what you value.”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Breaking old patterns and habits - managing expectations
  • The knowledge and implementation gap
  • Small Stepping - what is it and what does
  • Are poor choices your problem or your solution?
  • Finding ways to manage stress and making choices to increase the likelihood of success
  • Dissipating stress - making healthier choices to do so
  • Setting the stage for actual change vs relying on willpower
  • Identifying who you are as a parent
  • Reminding yourself of who you are
  • Change as a process of coming into alignment with who you really are
  • Mistakes as a way to model the human experience
  • Dealing with making mistakes with your kids
  • What is a small step?
  • The Goldilocks effect of stress - what is it and how do you find it??
  • The value of outside interests in parenting and relationships
  • The role of joy in how you show up as a parent
  • Finding 10 minute pockets of joy and what to fill it with
  • The role of self care in our attitude towards parenting

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I would say even people who listen to your podcast, I would say people who, who are even thinking about making improvements as a parent, there was a huge, to me, an inspiring level of courage there that we are saying in the midst of a very challenging world, that's all I'm sure has always been challenging, but we always think this is the most challenging, but for whatever reasons it seems challenging. Yet in spite of that and in spite of the things we read on the news about horrible things that happen in schools and all these kinds of things, in spite of that we're showing up and we're taking our kids and we're doing the best we can and we want to do better. And there's an amazing amount of courage in that simply that decision then to take that further and say, I not only want it, but I want to do it is again, it actually is courageous in the real true meaning of the word. Where I see joyful part of that is to me, my interpretation of that is that it is all to the end of joy, it is all to the end of we do this because we love our kids and we do this because we want to have a meaningful life. And that includes raising families, for many people. And you know, the most meaningful thing for me is raising my children and like we talked about before, you know, letting them see my flaws and letting and my wife letting them see her flaws and understanding there's a certain beauty in that and a joy in that and growing strong kids to be okay with their flaws is just awesome. So anyway, that's where I see joyful courage.

 

Resources:

Raising Healthy Parents: Small Steps, Less Stress and a Thriving Family

Approaching the Natural: A Health Manifesto

Small Steppers

 

Where to find Sid:

Website

What Sid Thinks Podcast

Youtube

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Feb 26, 2019
Eps 175: A candid conversation with my kids about screen time
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Today I am talking about screens and technology

 

Exciting news- Lisa Damour, author of Untangled and new book Under Pressure: Confronting the epidemic of stress and anxiety in girls

  • Big deal
  • How I get guests
  • How many say no

 

My book has a launch date!!

  • Presale April 10th
  • Official Launch May 20th
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iTunes Reviews!!!

  • From January, a five star review from @chrisnjess – “I found you through Birds and bees and kids and as your podcast began, it was as if you were speaking from my own mothering journey. I feel as if you are another angel in my continuing mothering journey. I found your podcast episode bery insightful, information, and affirming. I am tuning in!!
    • Thank you @chrisnjess!!!! And you all know how much I love Amy Lang from Birds and Bees and kids – did you know she started a podcast too? It’s called “Just say this” - Check it out on itunes or wherever you are listening to podcasts
  • The podcast also received a five star review earlier this month from @urfmama – “ Casey is like my long lost sister that I’ve never met. Like minded is an understatement. When I was feeling down with my mothering I searched “positive Discipline” in podcasts and eureka! Joyful Courage appeared like a bright star in the dark night. I eat this podcast up, I tell every parent I know about it. I find myself nodding while I listen as I do my housework. I feel like my hand is being held and I ‘m gently being led through this incredibly strategic yet unpredictable “chess game” of parenting. Do yourself a favor and soak in the wisdom that Joyful Courage so generously shares. Thank you, Casey, much love from the heartland.”
    • THANK YOU @URFMAMA – one day, one day our paths will cross.

 

  • YES! Thank you to everyone that is jumping into itunes to leave reviews – this helps with my visibility – meaning more people are likely to find me – and it also just FEELS SO GOOD to read and know that what I am doing over here in the guest room of my house MATTERS.

 

Ok….  On to todays content.

 

Screens

 

Why?

  • It is coming up in the Joyful Courage Parents of Teens community, it is coming up in calls with clients, it is coming up in my own life and practice with my kids
  • FOR CERTAIN: it is a big pain in the ass

 

Today I am going to share and inquiry from my own experience – not because I know the way, or I have it all figured out, but because I am IN IT with you.

  • Remember last April when I had Dr. Delaney Runston on and we talked about her documentary, Screenagers? There are so many pearls of wisdom and research in my convo with her – be sure to listen or relisten - http://www.joyfulcourage.com/podcast/140
  • I also had a powerful conversation with one of my colleagues, a positive discipline Lead trainer, about this during the teen summit, which is available to invest in through the end of this month at joyfulcourage.com/teensummit
  • I spoke with Kim Muench about this back in episode 82 – Parenting in the Age of Smart phones…
  • Plus, it has come up in loads of other conversations
  • IT’S NOT GOING AWAY

 

Here are some of the pain points I am hearing from the community AND experiencing myself:

  • Limits and boundaries
  • How much to monitor
  • Broken agreements
  • The arguing
  • The internet is forever
  • How will they develop real relationship skills when everything is over text/IM/Snaps
  • Online/SM bullying
  • Sexting/nudes
  • How much time is too much time to be on their phones
  • How to be the lone parents who waits to get their child a phone
  • How to support kids with friends when they don’t have SM/phones
  • Restricting what they do/see on their devices
  • Begin real and honest about our OWN (parents) phone use
  • Using devices as avoidance/escape

 

Let’s check in with the kids:

 

  • How did you feel about making agreements about screens?
  • What is your experience with social media?
  • What do you not like about the phone and SM? What kinds of things do you see happening?
  • Where do you feel like it gets in the way of life? Or do you?
  • What do you like about it?
  • How do you feel about me when I am on your case about your phone use?
  • What do you see me modeling with my phone use?
  • You have some restrictions on your phone – is that helpful?

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Feb 19, 2019
Eps 174: Learning to be a more mindful communicator with Oren Jay Sofer
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Today’s guest is Oren Jay Sofer, the author of Say What You Mean - A Mindful Approach to Non-Violent Communication. He leads retreats and workshops on mindful communication at meditation centres and education settings around the US. Oren is a graduate of the IMS Spirit Rock teacher training program. He holds a degree in comparative religion from Columbia University, teaches in the Insight Meditation community and is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and a certified trainer of non-violent communication. Oren creates mindfulness training programs for a number of organizations including Mindful Schools, Kaiser Permanente, and 10% Happier. He lives in Richmond, California. Join us!

 

"If we can’t actually listen to each other and have a meaningful conversation when we disagree, it’s impossible to work together to address the challenges that we’re facing”

 

“We can’t wait for the opportunities where presence is needed to practice presence.”

 

“Even when we can't meet our child's needs we can help them to know and recognize that their needs matter to us.”

 

“Our feelings are a reflection of our needs.”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Being in response vs reaction
  • Communication as a way of navigating conflict mindfully
  • 3 foundations for successful conversations and effective communication
  • The role of presence in communication
  • The ambient stress of raising a child
  • Owning our responses in times of stress
  • Exercising self-compassion in relation to parenting-related stress
  • Integrating moments of awareness into your day
  • Creating daily rituals into mindfulness
  • Mindfulness as a way to mitigate cumulative stress
  • Mindfulness as a way to be present in our relationships
  • Mindfulness as awareness and a way to raise our baseline kindness and presence
  • Preparing for parenting with mindfulness through practicing
  • Practice as a way of creating a new way of being
  • Creating awareness of the impact of our actions on others
  • Discussing our needs instead of blame
  • Being realistic about our ability to meet all of our child’s needs
  • Intention in communication and mindfulness
  • Approaching communication from a place of curiosity and care
  • Curiosity as a way of being
  • The need for intention to be genuine
  • Feelings of a reflection of needs
  • Increasing emotional literacy to enhance communication
  • Helping children to problem solve as an alternative to “consequences”
  • Connecting before correcting
  • Conflict as an opportunity for learning
  • Where to start when you realize you need to improve your communication
  • Learning to pause, be curious and consider the needs of others
  • Connection through perspective shift

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

So I think what joyful courage means to me is it's rooted in the recognition that the places that we struggle, the places that we're scared of the places that we feel pain actually hold the precious gift of our own freedom and when we recognize that having the courage to turn towards those places and to actually include them in our life and learn from them becomes a process that's joyful because we know why we're doing it. It's not just about “I've got to trudge through this” but we've experienced to some degree and have a deep faith that there's there's actually a gift waiting for me on the other side.

 

Resources:

Say What You Mean book

Parenting From Your Heart: Sharing the Gifts of Compassion, Connection, and Choice (Nonviolent Communication Guides)

Text “guided” 44222 to sign up for a short ebook and free guided meditation series

 

Where to find Oren:

Website

Instagram

Facebook

Twitter

LinkedIn

Youtube

           

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Feb 12, 2019
Eps 173 - Solo Show about the power of encouragement
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Recap of the summit

  • What happens when we start having real conversations?
  • Community/support
  • Seeing participants in real life
  • Recognizing our attachments and course correcting
  • Gratitude to guests
  • Gratitude to participants
  • $109 and it is your for eva

 

Saw Brene Brown

  • Seen before
  • Appreciate her realness
  • Familiar stories
  • Story of daughter swimming and conversation around being brave IS winning
  • Are these the conversations we are having with our kids? Are we explicit?

 

What we notice and what we speak

  • Life skills/qualities
  • Negativity bias
  • How often they ARE using tools/skills – it’s just when they don’t if feels so PAINFUL
  • Our expectation of mastery
  • Layers going on under the surface (meaning of behavior with Alison Smith 110, Iceberg Metaphor solo show 129)

 

What it takes to stay focused under the surface

  • Vulnerability and humility – it may not be about you
  • Faith
  • Trust/surrender – let go of your attachment to how you think it should be, and also the idea that you KNOW what’s happening for your child when they haven’t expressed it
  • The idea that all humans ultimately want connecting and to know they matter. All of them. We are hard wired to connect

 

Our language and messages:

  • Week three at MMS we dug into encouragement vs praise
    • Process oriented
    • Really seeing the child
    • Naming qualities with evidence
      • My story this morning with the waffles and “what do I do with the mix?”
    • I notice, I appreciate, I trust/know/have faith
    • Not for the short term/immediate – but for the long term, internal voice (ep 136 with Kelly Bos about how NOT to become the voice of your child’s inner critic) it is about below the surface, about supporting our kids in changing what they believe about themselves

 

I am going to do a webinar this month in the Patreon community to diver deeper into encouragement and I hope you join in! The Joyful Courage Super Fam is a group of parents who are giving $10/month to the podcast to support in the sustainability and create a win/win. Members of the community enjoy monthly webinars and online support through our closed facebook page. Check it out at www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage

 

Have a beautiful week my friends!!  I am going to be watching my tone this week and really working on the sometimes unspoken messages I am sending to my kids when I am less than mindful of what I am doing – and clean up any messes along the way.

 

Big love!!

 

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Feb 05, 2019
Eps 172: Unlearning Supermom with Rachel Butler
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Today’s guest is Rachel Butler. She is an executive and professional coach, an organizational health expert, a wife and mother of 2 boys she is one of those unique women who is both powerhouse and presence. She's a master in organizational systems and she's worked with over 325 organizations. Rachel embodies what it means to be an empowered woman and a conscious mom. Rachel and her mama business partner Gillian Rowinski are the voices behind Unlearning SuperMom a feminist website that supports equal rights and opportunities for women and empowering all of us. We will be discussing Unlearning SuperMom. Join us!

 

"Our culture has clearly defined what being a good mom should look like and it is oppressive. The martyrdom of being busy, being agreeable, putting everyone else first, running yourself ragged. If super mom is who we become when we are in this world with our eyes closed then unlearning her is a deeply courageous feminist act.”

 

“Are we doing it because it's a “should” or are we doing it because it’s something that brings us joy?”

 

“It’s really hard not to get into comparison-itis.”

 

“I sort of reject that idea that the major measure of success in parenting is enjoying it”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-The impact of childcare costs on returning to work for moms

-The emotional conflict about returning to work

-Keeping it real as a mom

-Who is super mom and where does she come from?

-Re-learning our inherent self-worth that is not based in accomplishment

-Motherhood and martyrdom: when we put ourselves last

-Motherhood messaging and where it comes from

-History of motherhood and women’s work

-The perceived value of women based on their relationship with their children

-Child centred social media messages and guilt

-The value of the messy middle

-Being aware of social media messaging and how it impacts us

-Where do you start unlearning super mom?

-Ways to dip your toe in to shifting towards unlearning super mom

-Stages of learning from awareness

-The mental load we carry

-Checking in with your body

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think one of the phrases that most triggering, I already even brought it up in this conversation, the triggering for me as a parent is like "Oh, just like enjoy every moment. It goes by so fast" that statement brings so much anxiety to me and I really understand the intention of it. I do. But for me and I feel like I'm, you know, I'm someone who's like maybe even obsessively working towards like enjoying, you know, trying to be with my kids and you know, so I find it really and I'm sort of a nostalgic person anyway. So anyway, I get a lot of anxiety from that statement and so I sort of reject that idea that the major measure of success in parenting is enjoying it, you know.

 

So I think from, you know, the most impactful things, you know, profound things that I've learned as a parent has really come from, like, the more painful moments of the parent, like some of the suffering that's come, you know, and what I've been able to learn from that and being able to sort of meet it, you know, meet and face all of the really messy stuff and and I think that really is courage, right, like coming up to that really scary, whether it's personal work or complex relationships or whatever and showing up for them.

 

So I think the, you know, joyful courage to me in that context is really about looking for the meaning and just showing up in your life and allowing that to not, you know, that what's there to not be good or bad, you know and not treating happiness like it's the pinnacle of life experience.

 

Resources:

Women Who Run With The Wolves

16 Second Meditation

Unlearning Supermom Retreat

 

Where to find Sara:

Unlearning Supermom

Instagram

Facebook

 

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Jan 29, 2019
Eps 171: Solo Show - Being the CALM inside the storm
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Today is a solo show all about being the calm inside the storm.  That is the dream, isn’t it?? Listen in as I tease apart what this means and offer ideas and strategies around hwo to get there more often.

 

·      Parenting class

·      Summit

·      Podcast conversations

·      E+R=O

·      Events and experiences….  3 Bs

·      What if nothing changes?

·      What if all we have is how we feel inside of the experience?

·      What do we want to BE/FEEL/CREATE??

·      Feedback matters – internal vs external validation

·      Parenting is a PART of our life that can feel like our WHOLE life

·      Energy of emotion

·      Personal work, small steps with Sid, ACES with Sarah – unlearning supermom

·      Stuck in what it should look like

·      What about acceptance of what is? What about surrender to not knowing the outcome?

·      Influence yes. Hard work and practice, yes.

·      AND you decide how to respond from life --- worry fear, that is the present moment experience you create. Openness, love, that is the present moment experience you create.

·      Think about, bring about – energetically we are always influencing our life, our experience

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-       The launch starts January 1st

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Jan 22, 2019
Eps 170: Exploring the Energy of Emotion with Sara Harvey Yao
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Today’s guest is Sara Harvey Yao. Sara is a leadership consultant who has developed more than 4,000 leaders across the globe. She specializes in helping leaders navigate pressure and stress by staying present in the moment. Sara is the author of two books, Get Present and Drop In. She’s the mother of two teen boys and can speak firsthand to how the power of presence can transform the parenting experience. We will be discussing. Join us!

 

"Naming feelings opens the doorways for the energy of emotion to metabolize.”

“When we’re in emotion, we’re in a different part of our brain than the language center so it’s often hard to articulate what we’re feeling.”

“Anger...is a signal fire. Something is going on here. It’s a sign your boundaries have been crossed.”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-How naming emotions helps us process them

-Facilitating our movement through emotions in the parenting journey

-The power of acknowledging, even to ourselves, when we are struggling

-Feeling vs thinking

-Attitudes and beliefs about feelings that contribute to feeling “stuck”

-Helping our kids name and process feelings and the role of modeling

-Normalizing emotions for our kids

-Anger as a secondary emotion

-What’s really under anger

-Exploring our triggers and where our feelings are coming from

-Establishing a common language with your kids to discuss feelings

-How to support ourselves and our kids to regulate emotions

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

The courage to try something new and if that’s new to, I’m going to try a new parenting technique, if that means I’m going to sit with a feeling instead of stuffing it, I’m actually going to say something instead of not saying something, any new behavior to me takes deep, deep, deep courage and when we take those leaps into courage, for me it always ends up being really joyful. There’s such an empowered, a sense of empowerment and it leads to new opportunities or new directions that I might not have known about if I hadn’t been courageous. So those two words fit so beautifully together, it’s just joyful courageousness when we try something new.

Resources:

Get Present

Drop In

Dan Siegel, Flipping Your Lid

Listen to past show with Sara: Episode 68

Listen to Mindfulness Min Summit 

Where to find Sara:

Website | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | LinkedIn

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  • PD trainers who have already been through it

  • The launch starts January 1st

  • Summit will run January 28th – February 1st

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Jan 15, 2019
Eps 169: Solo Show, Compassion, Integrity and Bringing in 2019
27:59

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Eps 169

Happy New Year!!

Hope everyone had an easy breezy holiday. Grateful to friends and family and all the ways we were supported to enjoy the season. 

So much to be excited about. 

I want to share a couple of reviews that came through Apple Podcast last month– I am always so grateful when you all are willing to show up there and provide feedback.

This is the podcast I recommend most to friends. Casey has such a great way of breaking down parenthood challenges and offering tips and commiseration with humility. She doesn’t come across as preachy and she is in it with us! Her guests are phenomenal, her interviewing skills are wonderful and her solo show insights always resonate! She’s experiences the humility of parenthood at all stages and it’s evident she truly wants to help. Thank you, Casey!  - Cassthurston

I’m a new listener and found you through your excellent Tina Payne Bryson interview. Just listened to your 2018 recap epsiode, as well. Great work! I’ve subscribed and will be a regular listener. I also look forward to reading your book! Thank you for your excellent, realistic parenting insights! – GAC Sunshine

Thank you so much, you two!!  And listeners, if you’d like to rate and review the show, I am going to be sharing reviews here – you may hear your name!!!  I am really going to be encouraging you all to be sharing the show. I know that the content of this podcast Is useful – you tell me so!!!  And I want as many parents as possible to be listening in. This is how we raise a generation that can lead with compassion and integrity - by parenting this way. So in this context, parenting IS social justice. Lets all be a part of changing the course by not only doing our own work to be more attuned and empathetic parents, but to support others in the work as well!

This is something I will be talking a lot about in 2019. Compassion and integrity. And our DUTY to be engaging in conversations that support and forward others this way too! It can feel vulnerable and scary – but too bad. It has to happen.

Speaking of compassion and integrity – and for the sake of the conversation, I define compassion as sympathetic consciousness of another persons suffering and integrity as being honest, decent, and walking our talk – these are two big themes that I want to highlight this year – both in my personal practice of being a parent and a human on the planey, as well as with the people I work with and all of you.

Compassion and integrity.

Today, I am going to share a bit about a book I am reading that is really blowing my mind, it is called The Path is Everywhere; uncovering the jewels hidden within you, by Matt Lacata.  If you’ve listened to the show for very long, you know that I love my energy worker/reiki master friend (shout out to Jessica) and she has turned me on to the work of Matt. I am using this book as part of my soul care time, reading a few pages in the morning to gather inspiration.

I am not very far into the book, and what I read this morning gave me pause and I decided that now would be the perfect time to bring it here to discuss with all of you.

The first part of the book is about what the author calls our “shadow” – this is the part of ourselves that lays dormant until it is jostled into wakefulness. Another way to make sense of it is the way that we feel when we are triggered. Our shadow is who takes over when we are riding the emotional freight train. The parts of ourselves that we may cloak in shame or guilt – the parts that we keep hidden.

Most of us have a tendency to want to hide our shadow, keep it deep inside of ourselves, not let it see the light of day. Many of us may think we are pretty successful with this – until we aren’t. A lot of the clients I see come to me because their shadow is making appearances in the parenting journey and they want to fix it, they want to make it go away.

I have a shadow as well – she wants control and order, she wants to know the outcome, and she wants everyone to be on her agenda. My shadow takes the behavior of others deeply personally, quickly manifesting fear, rejection and disrespect whenever I experience criticism and ridicule.

My shadow, your shadow – our shadows are a part of who we are. And if, like me, you subscribe to life being purposeful, then perhaps our shadow isn’t something that we should turn away from, or get rid of. Perhaps our shadow is something we can turn towards and get curious about.

You all know that I love the personal growth and development conversation. You know that I see parenting as one long personal growth and development workshop. And if you have been listening for any length of time, you know that I am deeply invested in supporting others in doing this work along with me.

This is why I am talking about shadow work today.

Matt Lacata writes:

It is important that we cultivate the intention to become more interested in the truth of our experience than in the demand to find relief from our symptoms.

Putting this in the context of parenting, especially as we look ahead to a brand new year and choosing in to growth and possibility, we can consider the truth of our experiences as taking a magnifying lens to our current struggles – bring in curiosity, ownership, honesty – and ask ourselves questions like: What am I meant to learn here? What is going on for me? What is the emotion that I can connect to right here right now? What is the story I am telling myself about my child? Myself? My safety?

Our response might begin with sounding like: “well, I am pissed!” but what is underneath that? If we get into the blame game, I invite us all to bring it back to a focus on self – because regardless of what triggers our reaction, how we react is wholely ours.

This takes practice friends, and a deep belief that there IS something to be learning from these interactions – faith that we CAN learn.  Once we step into that truth – that we are all continuing to learn and evolve, then we can really trust that we can be the parent we want to be.

And what about the “demanding to find relief” part of what Matt wrote? Well we are already pretty skilled at this, aren’t we? Let’s consider some ways we find relief – we yell, we blame, we shame, we withdraw either physically or emotionally, some of us use substances – food, alcohol, drugs – to feel that relief.

And what do we know about all of these ways of relieving the pain and discomfort of our experience – they are short term and harmful to ourselves and others.  BUT, they seem/feel easier than facing our shadow, and doing the inner work to grow and learn.

And clearly this is BIG. And it is HARD. And it requires us to decide to choose in time and time again…. AND YOU CAN. And isn’t this the ultimate act of compassion and integrity??  SELF compassion and PERSONAL integrity???

IF this is landing for you – bring it up to your therapist, or hire me to coach you and support you in this work, it is what I do! You don’t have to do this alone – the journey is meant to be traveled with others, IMO.

2019 is a year to walk together – to link arms and be in community. I will share a few ways to do that at the end of this podcast….

On a personal note – I want to share solidarity to all of you that deal with partners overseas and single parents. Ben has left us to do some big work in California on the electrical grid. We don’t know how long the work down there will take – could be months. I know it isn’t the SAME as being a single parent, I know that I have the luxury of knowing my partner will be coming home eventually, but I am looking at an extended period of time holding space for the kids without their dad here….   

Clearly I will have ample opportunity to lean into the TRUTH of my experiences vs finding short term relief from what triggers me…

Self care will be crucial. Inviting my kids into more contribution will be crucial – this is a place we have gotten sloppy sloppy. Not that the kids aren’t contributing, just that there is very little structure, which makes me feel crazy and get naggy – no fun for anyone.

So yes, I am sure you will hear me mentioning missing my man over the next little bit…. 

As far as joyful courage is concerned – WOWZER! So much excitement. I have spent the last few weeks writing, recording and editing the interviews for the FIRST EVER parenting TEENS with Positive Discipline Audio Summit. OMG – it is SO GOOD!! 14 interviews with Positive Discipline Educators, Trainers and Lead Trainers who KNOW the trenches of raising teens. Register now – www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit.

You will want to register, as I am going to be offering some sweet deals to those that register early in the month. I am so totally excited – again, the link is www.joyfulcourage.com/teensummit  . If you are a parent of a teenager, I also encourage you to hop into the Joyful Courage parents of teens FB group – this is a space of support and encouragement from other parents of teens. It is a small but growing group – full of insight and community, check it out.

I am also thrilled to invite you into the Joyful Courage Super Fam through Patreon. This is a group of people who value the podcast so much that they are contributing $10/month and enjoy the benefit of monthly webinars and online support from me. If $10 is to big of a stretch, you are welcome to get in there and contribute what you can. Find out more at www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage.

Ahhhh – it is good to be back!!  I missed you in December!!

Stay tuned, next week I will be sharing a powerful interview with return guest, Sarah Harvey Yoa talking about moving through the energy of emotions – the perfect follow up to todays topic!!!  Big love!

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Audio summit for parents of teens

  • One week of real conversations
  • PD trainers who have already been through it
  • The launch starts January 1st
  • Summit will run January 28th – February 1st

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Jan 08, 2019
Eps 168: A solo show reviewing 2018 and getting clear on what we want MOST
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Monday, December 3rd, 5pm PST and 8pm PST

How are you FEELING about the upcoming holiday season? Excited to host family? Hopeful to bring to life magic for your kids? Anxious about everything going to according to plan?? Bracing yourself for your children's behavior???

I am feeling all of that.

Join me for an hour of exploring how to create a holiday season that FEELS GOOD this year. You will get clear on what it is your want, and leave with tools that will support you in facilitating a holiday that values the connection and love we all crave during this season.

Go to http://www.joyfulcourage.com/connectholiday to register!

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Where we have been:

Podcast highlights

Joyful Courage offers

  • I loved leading the JC10 twice this year and having that filter into the Joyful Courage Academy. So fun to work closer with you and support your growth in a really personal, connected way.

Next year is HUGE

  • Be on the look out for more JC10s and JCAs

  • Stay tuned in for the launch of my first BOOK (woah) in the spring

  • The patreon community will be on FIYA

  • AND – an audio summit that I will talk more about later is happening in January.

I am honored to serve you.

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Today’s content:

  • Parenting through the self doubt and worry

  • Parenting teens – why have a separate group?

  • What is missing from the resources?

  • The continuum of behavior

  • Attachment and getting a life

  • Intuition and trusting your gut

  • It gets ugly

  • Feeling isolated/shame/ Lisa Fuller episode 87

  • Why meditation/yoga/journaling matters

  • What it really means to be aware

  • The tight rope Kimberly Muench eps 158

  • Pendulum swing

  • Trust and surrender over and over again

  • It’s a crap shoot – the myth of “good parenting”

  • It’s their journey

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  • PD trainers who have already been through it

  • The launch starts January 1st

  • Summit will run January 21st – 25th

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Nov 27, 2018
Eps 167: Stacy Davison is on talking about the power of personal pep talks
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Today’s guest is Stacy Davison. Stacy is an instructional coach, entrepreneur, new mom to a rainbow baby boy. Last year Stacy and her husband started the company Personal Peptalk, a line of motivational and uplifting products which they design, illustrate, and self-publish. In her weekly motivational email on her podcast Stacy candidly shares how she dominates life challenges more mindfully. We will be discussing positivity in parenting and life. Join us!

"It’s easy to meditate up on the mountain top but eventually you have to come down and buy groceries.”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Finding zen where we are - preparing for the Super Bowl moments

  • The challenges of motherhood and the importance of being real about that

  • Shifting perspective on suffering

  • Choosing love, joy and compassion in moments of difficulty

  • How hanging onto suffering hurts us

  • Letting go of people pleasing to ask for what you need

  • Positivity in times of sorrow

  • Supporting friends in times of loss

  • Love bombs - what they are, how they help

  • Shifting to empowerment and choosing what you want to cultivate

  • Being a joy detective

  • Choosing not to be defined by the things that have happened

     

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Right, so I’m just getting started on human-ing, I’m 9 months into the journey, but man, it’s been a difficult road already. I’ve had so many opportunities to feel like a failure, to feel guilty and unsure and my goodness, so courage, I think about the willingness to continue to move forward and to continue to take responsibility for my own experiences and my joy so rather than making my son responsible for how I feel, that willingness to continue to look at my own stuff, and look at, “Okay, I’m reacting to my son right now but I think, actually, this has to do with something about me and am I willing to take a look at that for both of our sakes?”

And I don’t think that’s easy. I don’t think the road that I’ve chosen, to be willing to look at the hard stuff, that’s not easy but it’s the path that I’m choosing to go down. I think, as a result, your phrase, your brand, Joyful Courage totally speaks to me. I’m on a mission to find joy and I talk about joy a lot but I think that it takes courage to be willing to look at if I’m not experiencing joy, it probably has a lot more to do with me than it does anyone else around me and I don’t think having a son is going to make that any easier, right, this is another character in my story to get to bring things up for me to get to see that I couldn’t see because I’d never been in the context of a parent. I’m so grateful for him already, for being my teacher and I am brave enough to be willing to continue to travel this road and I’m grateful for friends like you to help me and remind me when I get stuck and need some support because it’s not easy but we have each other, right, and that’s what I’m trying to create with Personal Pep Talk. I don’t have all the answers but I can help love you through it if you’re going through it too.

 

Resources:

Pep Talk Decks

 

Where to find:

Personal Pep Talk website - sign up for her Monday Morning Motivation

Personal Pep Talk podcast | Personal Pep Talk Instagram | Personal Pep Talk Tattoos | Personal Pep Talk Facebook

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Nov 20, 2018
Eps 166: Solo show connecting the dots between how building relationship leads us to more effective parenting
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Solo show!

News:

  • No shows in December, Happy Holidays!
  • January
    • Parenting Teens Audio Summit, YAY!!
      • Launching the first of January – stay tuned to register
      • Summit is live January 21st – 25th
      • Validation, inspiration, nuggets to PRACTICE
    • Patreon
      • Woop woop
      • Alternative to membership program
      • Opportunity to be in exchange of energy
      • patreon.com/joyfulcourage
      • $1, $5, $10/month options
        • $10 private FB group, Chaos to Calm Ecourse, monthly Webinar based on the questions that are coming up in the group

 

This week’s content:

  • Positive parenting is easy when there isn’t a lot of challenge – more challenging when our kids are rubbing up against our triggers
  • Toolbox metaphor
    • Higher our emotion, more likely we use desperate tools (rewards and punishment)
    • The more tools we put in to toolbox, the more likely it is that the ineffective tools of rewards and punishment slide to the bottom
    • We can always do better
  • Relationship matters!!!!!!
    • When our relationships are disconnected, navigating behavior in a harsh way isn’t useful for anyone
    • Fear takes us towards harsh punishment
  • Mistakes are opportunities to learn
  • There are always consequences
  • Inviting out kids into relationship
    • Can feel uncomfortable
    • Taking accountability for how the relationship currently is and get vulnerable
    • Just because it’s hard doesn’t mean we stop being curious with our kids
  • Start paying attention to the body
    • Support ourselves by noticing what is happening inside
    • We get more access to our toolbox when we are grounded and neutral
    • At the end of the day what is most useful is your relationship
    • NOT permission for being a permissive parent – still hold boundaries
    • Stronger relationship the more likely your child will open up and talk to you
  • Creating an environment where our kids can thrive and be a soft landing when they get it wrong
  • Shame/blame does not promote accountability and personal responsibility

 

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Joyful Courage Coaching

 

The time is now! If you are interested in working one on one with me now is the TIME. I am taking new coaching clients and would love to support you! Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/coaching and let me know what you need.

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Nov 13, 2018
Eps 165: Tammy Keces, Head of Irvine Hebrew Day School, is on talking about turning hate into love
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Today’s guest is Tammy Keeces, Head of School at Irvine Hebrew Day School, a former teacher, a positive discipline trainer and mama to three teenagers. She has a Bachelor of Psychology from UCLA, a Masters from Columbia University’s Teacher College in Curriculum and Instruction. She’s currently working on her doctorate. We will be discussing responding to tragic events like the Tree of Life Synagogue tragedy, as well as Judaism, positive discipline and how we can all support each other better. Join us!

"None of us should feel alone.”

“People are children and they just want to belong.”

“God gives us many opportunities for goodness and kindness and this is another way for us to remind ourselves that we need to have hope and we need to have love.”

“We have to come together now, more than ever.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • How Irvine Hebrew Day School handled the tragedy in Pittsburgh
  • Developmental appropriate levels of information about tragic events
  • Balancing the feelings of parents and children in the wake of tragedy
  • Meeting hate with love - finding inner resources in the face of fear
  • Ways to encourage our kids to accept others
  • The freeing power of compassion
  • Parallels between the Torah and positive discipline
  • How non-Jewish people can support the Jewish community
  • Teaching our kids about leadership and civic responsibility

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

It’s being brave every day, to make the right decisions for ourselves and those that love us and inviting joy despite the challenges, despite the heartache, we have to choose joy and that’s what you’re doing every day with joyful courage and I think that there’s no other way to live our lives at this point.

Resources:

We’re All Wonders book

Where to find Irvine Hebrew Day School:

Facebook

Website

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Nov 06, 2018
Eps 164: Jeremy Schneider, MFT Talks About Navigating our Partners Parenting Journey
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Today’s guest is Jeremy Schneider. Jeremy is a Marriage and Family Therapist whose career spans more than 15 years of working with individuals and families focussing on parenting, relationships and mental health. He is the author of Fatherhood in 40 Minute Snapshots and has been  featured on the New York Times, The Today Show and CNN. We will be discussing co-parenting and alignment with our partners. Join us!

"Every step that I take in my personal growth is one less step that they have to take.”

“A lot of parenting is about experimentation.”

“You just get better the more you do it. Just keep trying.”

“We don’t want to be the same parent. We just want to be parenting in the same direction.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-Journaling as a way to maintain perspective

-Examining our principles of parenting

-Deciding what kind of people we want to raise

-Personal growth and parenting - how they relate

-Co-parenting and being in alignment with our parents

-Fatherhood and parental involvement of dads

-Finding balance as co-parents in agreeing on a parenting approach

-The importance of parenting education

-Navigating parenting as a dad when you feel uncertain

-How Dads can model emotional expression for their kids

-Approaching our partners with curiosity about their parenting approach

-Parenting as a practice

-Finding harmony in parenting styles

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

 Having survived a fairly traumatic childhood, I think about courage a lot. I don’t normally think about it in terms of myself and that’s something that I’ve been working on to give myself credit for how far I’ve come and what I’ve been able to do and the kind of relationships I’ve been able to build within my family.

I think Joyful courage is being able to enjoy, not the success, I’m trying to think of the word, being able to bask in this life I’ve built. It took a lot of work to get where I am and my wife and I have worked very hard to get where we are together. And we’ve worked very hard to survive as long as we have with our kids and get this far and I think, to me, one of the phrases that I play a lot in my head is happy chaos. I think of our life as happy chaos.

Chaos doesn’t have to be bad and that’s kind of the way we think about it. My life is chaos, it’s just straight chaotic, because having teenagers and wanting to be there for them and wanting to be there for my wife and build this business and so and so forth; it’s chaos. But it’s a happy chaos because it all involves things that I love.

And to me Joyful Courage has that same kind of feel, right? It’s the freedom, the sort of joyfulness of doing something that takes an enormous effort and overcoming anxiety and fear to be able to do it but that doesn’t mean that it’s bad. It can still be joyful in that experience of it.

Resources:

Fatherhood in 40 Minute Snapshots

Where to find:

Website | Facebook | Twitter

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Daily Intention Cards

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Oct 30, 2018
Eps 163: Solo show about raising boys, healthy masculinity, and growing emotional intelligence
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Solo Show this week!

First – continues thanks for all of the feedback around the last solo show, where I shared about navigating my daughters mental health issues. It means the world to me to know that the content of the show is landing for you, and making a difference in your life. 

This week I am talking about our boys.

  • Toxic Masculinity
  • We have to do better for our boys
  • Partners – emotional intelligence is for everyone
  • Posturing
  • Fragile Egos
  • Curiosity
  • Routine of talking about how we feel
  • It’s not coddling – if we keep toughening them up and having them suppress how they feel we will continue to see cultures where war and violence exist
  • Not blaming
  • Not from a place of fear
  • We all get to be full humans
  • Boys and their fear of labels
  • Build Skills
  • More than just “walk away”
  • Saving face w/o being a dick
  • Being a champion
  • People like him. He can take criticism, doesn’t make people choose friends, and doesn’t blow off someone for a better offer. When people are harassed or demeaned, he intervenes. He’s comfortable hanging out with guys who are both inside and outside the box. He holds his own opinion, but still listens to others.
  • TALK ABOUT IT BEING HARD
  • VALIDATE THEIR EXPEREINCE
  • SUPPORT THEM IN RESPONSES TO LIFE
  • This isn’t helicoptering
  • Belonging significance influence
  • Aren’t feeling it, they will take it where they can
  • Posturing
    • Insecure OR entitled
    • All boys fall into a role where they feel safe
  • Talk to your boys
  • Keep talking
  • Talk about emotions
  • Check your “should/shouldn’t’ at the door
  • Be open, own your mistakes, encourage them when you see life skills on display
  • Love them up

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Joyful Courage Coaching

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/shop

50% OFF!!

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

Daily Intention Cards

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

Joyful Courage Tanks

Wear your declaration!!  Joyful Courage tanks are CUTE and they are a great way to spread the word about this powerful work. Get yours now – good while supplies last!!

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Oct 23, 2018
Eps 162: Exploring our Energetic Connection With our Children with Jennifer Griffin
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Today’s guest is Jennifer Griffin. Jennifer is the mother of four, has her masters in counseling psychology with 30 years of experience guiding children and adults on their relationship journeys. Jennifer is a DIY maven, specializing in leading individuals to uncover the messages in their chronic health conditions and their children’s challenging behaviors. Join us! 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-Simple, yet powerful techniques to heal at home

-Taking back your power after trauma

-What is EMDR and how can it help you heal?

- How our kids behaviors can mirror our own unexpressed feelings and frustrations

-How acting out can relate to our own inner struggles

- The iceberg of behavior and how that relates to our children’s behavior and the way they channel their parents frustrations

- Resisting the urge to “fix”

- Understanding generational patterns

- The role of balancing chakras in your child’s behavior

-How claiming our authenticity and expressing our emotions can change how our kids express themselves through their behavior

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Well, in terms of this process of discovering channeling, it means to go forward with joy and courage, not guilt. Celebrate it, embrace it, as I talked about before, grab your partner, grab someone when your kid is having a fit and say “This is what I’m thinking and I’m thinking this and maybe this and I felt this” and try to go through all the different ideas that might be going on and depending on the relationship with your child, some parents choose to share this dynamic with their child and other parents don’t. It can be very powerful that if your child knows this is going on, they can, Arcata now can come to us after she’s knitting or reading a book on tape in her room and say, “I’m really mad out of nowhere, like I was completely happy, I love the book I’m listening to, something’s not right with dad, and will you call him and ask him what?” She’ll say, “I’m really mad or I really hate this” and she’s like, “and I don’t know why.”

So I would just say, it’s fun, it is fun, it’s a different kind of fun than a lot of people might be used to but it’s fascinating, it’s absolutely fascinating when you start taking this perspective. I mean, it’s hard for me to, I mean, I go out and talk to people, I’ll be at a cocktail party or something and someone’s kid, and I’ll say something and then I’m like, “Hmmmm” and I’ll watch the person’s reaction and I don’t think they’re very happy with something I’ve said and their kid will come up and start tugging at them and be like, “I want to go! I want to go right now! I want to leave!” I was right about that. It’s hard for me not to see once you wake up into this way of viewing the world it’s really quite fascinating. So, meet it with joyful courage.

Resources:

Channeling Questionnaire
Embracing your child’s tantrums as a gift - Elephant Journal article 

Where to find:
Understanding Morning Sickness as a Gift
Understanding Your Child as a Spiritual Gift

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Oct 16, 2018
Eps 161: Solo Show About Navigating Depression and Anxiety
34:07

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Solo show – sharing from personal experience

Recap what is happening with my teenager

  • If you listened last year, you heard the struggle

  • Online school

  • Clients I’ve worked with

  • Friends confiding in their experience

What the stats say

  • My experience of finding information

  • What my gut tells me

  • The ways the world has changed

Why it’s so hard

  • Weight of fear/possible outcomes

  • Lack of control

  • Our own stories

PD is belonging and significance

  • Power of perception

  • What do we do when something feels “wrong” without giving message that they need to be fixed

  • The challenge of meeting them where they’re at

    • My experience with this….

    • Not knowing what this means

    • The dance of acting/fixing vs validating/being

The iceberg

  • Tip of the iceberg

    • They won’t talk, can’t identify what’s “wrong”, tears, withdrawal, aggression/defiance/anger, shut us out

    • Grades/friends/activities

    • Bad after school special

  • Under the surface

    • Hopelessness/fear/not know what or how they are feeling

    • Feelings of disconnection

    • Out of control

    • Anxiety/depression

The range….

  • Not all or nothing

  • Grey areas

  • Our own beliefs about mental health

    • My experience, looking back I was afraid to call it what it was because it made it true

    • My upbringing of not using things (family drama) as a “crutch” messaging

Enmeshment/codependency

  • I am going to get really vulnerable and highlight something that I see showing up because of the dynamics that are currently alive in my family

  • My experience with needing approval – give me the gold star, tell me how great I am

  • Wanting it from my family, especially my dad and step mom

  • Now noticing that I am searching for it from my daughter

  • NO BUENO

Getting spiritual

  • Carolyn Myss

  • My experience of energy work in the context of my relationship with Rowan

  • Life happens for us, so…. This is an experience that is happening for me? For Rowie? 

Acknowledging my controlling tendencies and the message it sends

Letting go/backing off

Having a plan (with school) about what I will and won’t do with a request

Treatment

  • Counseling, naturopath, energy work – this is what WE are doing

  • You do you. Make choices for your kids.

  • Listen to your kids. Listen deeply. Hear without fixing

  • Ask permission

  • Give them space and trust they will come to you

  • Don’t be afraid to go big if things feel really off

  • Ask hard questions

  • GET SUPPORT

  • TALK TO EACH OTHER

  • Quit dismissing teens by saying “everyone feels that way” because even if it’s true this is not what they need to hear – they NEED to feel seen and heard

  • Check your expectations at the door, accept that this is a part of your parenting story

  • Take care of yourself

  • Check your codependency

  • GET HELP – if your gut tells you that what is happening with your child is extreme, seek help.

I say this to you and to myself. We will get to the other side of this, my friends. And only we get to decide if we get to GO through this time of our lives, or if we GROW through it.

Thank you to all of you parents of teens, those of you who are personal friends who have been brave enough to be in conversation with me, clients, listeners – you are not alone.

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Oct 09, 2018
Eps 160: Debrena Jackson Gandy supports moms in living their JUICIEST lives!
47:44

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Today’s guest is Debrena Jackson Gandy, a best-selling author of three books, a keynote speaker, a world traveler, a transformational coach, a thought-leader, a sacred self care expert, relationship coach, founder of Juicy Woman University and The Love Academy. We are discussing creating juicy lives for ourselves. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-Pampering the mind, body and the spirit

-The nourishment of the spirit and why it matters

-Why the first 9 years of life are so important to our beliefs

-Getting past our own default mode

-The guilt that comes from tending to self and martyrdom

-When you feel bad about being good to self

-The Sacred Self-Caring lifestyle vs. the lifestyle we inherit through default

-Satisfaction, joy, ease, peace and flow: how to find it

-Finding a new default for sacred self-care

-The difference between the being and the doing - and the exhaustion that comes from all the doing

-Division of responsibility for children within the home between parents - joint responsibility

-How mothering behavior can block fathering and shared parenting

-Being the architect of our own lives

-When your “thought ware” isn’t aligned with being the architect of your own life

-Baby steps to getting back into alignment

-Debugging our programming

-How beliefs impact attraction

-The path to transformation

-Getting curious about beliefs to make changes

-Morning rituals for prayer and meditation

-Discerning God’s voice from your inner self talk

-The importance of asking in prayer

-Understanding our own greatness and how that impacts our ability to live our birthright

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

 “It means living a life based in truth, and unfortunately, to live truthfully and to speak truthfully in this American culture is seen as something as so courageous and it really shouldn’t have to be lauded as a courageous act to be living as a real person. And unfortunately it gets so many applause, “Oh you’re so courageous to say that, oh you’re so courageous to do that, oh you’re so courageous to speak that” and it’s really just called being truthful.  And so joyful courage is really just living in our naturally truthful selves and because we’re short on truth right about now, even more so in our country then it lets us know we are living away from and in contradiction to our natural selves which our natural selves are truthful.

So if we’re just our natural selves, truthful is the way we operate. So, a joyfully courageous woman has just remembered who she is and shed the false, poisonous, faulty beliefs about who she is, which are really lies, and she’s just living in the natural beauty, power and influence that is consistent with her divine design.”

Resources:

Free Gifts from Debrena’s website
Debrena’s books, courses and more

Where to find:

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Oct 02, 2018
Eps 159: Solo show exploring the power and messiness of Positive Discipline
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Returning to the practice

What Positive Discipline is to me….

  • Belong significance
  • Iceberg
  • Encouragement
  • Kind and firm
  • Presence/seeing/listening

 What I have learned over time

  • My own beliefs get in the way
  • Fear manifests as control and rigidity
  • Trust is the theme of my life

What it means to have a practice

  • Taking care of me
  • Exploring worthiness
  • Developing intention
  • Modeling what I want
  • Returning to the basics
  • Check assumptions
  • Read and learn about development!
    • What speaks to you???
    • So many people and programs…. What/who makes sense to you? Where do you feel seen?

Things to keep in mind

  • There is no perfect
  • Spirituality/energetics matter – this is bigger than me
  • Its messy, not formulaic
  • Blame serves no one
  • There is no end point
  • Finding a sense of peace inside of the chaos is life goals
  • Comparing is not useful – ever

You are the parent your child picked, not because you are perfect, but because you are you. Parenting is an opportunity to heal old wounds, to mend relationships, and grow as an individual, if you let it be

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Sep 25, 2018
Eps 158: Kimberly Muench talks about the tight rope walk of raising teens
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Today’s guest is Kim Muench. She is a JAI Institute for Parenting certified parenting coach who works with moms of preteens and teenagers. She is the mother of 5 kids ages 13-31. She writes about conscious parenting, provides one on one coaching and workshops to help support moms towards intentional parenting. We are discussing detaching from the outcome. Join us!

"I want to help shift the consciousness of the way that we’re parenting, especially our teenagers.”

“We want to give them opportunities and choices. But you absolutely have to have some boundaries and structure in place.”

“What do we stand for? What do we value? What do we try to instill in our kids?”

“You cannot give what you do not have.”  

“These bumps is where we grow character.”

“You can be right or you can be in relationship."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-When children arrive at adolescence

- The balance of boundaries and relationship building with our teens

- Choosing your battles

- Defining your family values

- Setting an example for your kids

- Defining non-negotiables

- Ways to offer choices to your teenager

- Detaching from the outcome

- Prioritizing personal care and personal development

- The illusion of control

- Individuation and what that can look like

- Supporting our kids in making better choices with alcohol

- Being okay with kids failing or things taking longer

- Trusting vs hovering - learning to detach

- Taking a long view to your relationship with your kids

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage means to me enthusiastically embracing and supporting the journey of our sons and daughters that have come into the world to live out their journey. Supporting and encouraging them with enthusiasm. And I love the two words together, I think it’s fantastic.

 

Resources:

Episode 82: Tweens and Smart Phones

 

Where to find:

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Overland Park, KS

Many of us become mothers and we get caught tending needs of our family, or homes and our community, and struggle to find ways to move our personal growth and wellbeing up the priority list. This weekend retreat will allow you the opportunity to explore self-care rituals that will help you reset and feel renewed, and give you nurturing tools you can incorporate into your daily life far beyond our time together – so that you can feel more ease, peace, connection and joy in the every day.

A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.

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Sep 18, 2018
Eps 157: SOLO SHOW - Back to school musings with Casey - stress, routines and being more aware
26:52

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SOLO SHOW!!

Woohoo – how is YOUR back to school? This episode acknowledges what we are all going through as we support our kids and ourselves in coming back to a back to school routine.

I know, it is hard to shake off the summer. But that is what is happening. I share about my own experience with sending off two kids to two very different school settings, and what is coming up for me as they navigate the transition.

And the navigation is still VERY MUCH ALIVE!!

 I mention tools and strategies for finding peace and flow, or at least dull the roar of making this shift, and I am so happy you are listening in!!

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Many of us become mothers and we get caught tending needs of our family, or homes and our community, and struggle to find ways to move our personal growth and wellbeing up the priority list. This weekend retreat will allow you the opportunity to explore self-care rituals that will help you reset and feel renewed, and give you nurturing tools you can incorporate into your daily life far beyond our time together – so that you can feel more ease, peace, connection and joy in the every day.

A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.

Find out more and register now à http://www.joyfulcourage.com/mjweekend/

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Sep 11, 2018
Eps 156: Heather Chauvin Finds Herself Through Teaching her Children Meditation and Returning to Health
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Today’s guest is Heather Chauvin. Heather Chauvin has been named the next generation’s thought leader in parenting and women’s leadership. Her mission is to crack women open to their deep potential. Heather is a TEDx speaker and the creator of the Mom Is In Control podcast and has been featured on the OWN network, Huffington Post, TV outlets and others. With wit and wisdom, Heather inspires a global community of women to take back control of their lives and evolve how they want to lead, work, play and parent. We are discussing mindful meditation. Join us!

 

"There was always this contrast of who I wanted to be in the world versus who everyone else thought I should be."

 

“We can’t get our children’s respect unless we respect our children and deeper than that, we need to learn to respect ourselves.”

 

“Mindful meditation to me means awareness. Simple awareness.”

 

“Really, it’s about doing less.”

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

- The importance of mindfulness for parents and kids

-  Sustainable ambition theory - Survival Mode, Momentum, Thrival Mode

-  Learning to live outside of survival mode

-  Meditation as a tool in parenting and life

- Why it’s easier to teach a child to meditate than an adult

- Co-creation as mindfulness

- Mindfulness for older kids

- Parenting as emotional growth on steroids

- The value of quiet

- Listening to your child without trying to fix them as mindfulness

- Giving yourself permission to let go of how things look

- The responsibility of personal growth and the intergenerational impacts

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Being yourself, simply put. Being yourself and having the courage to figure out who that is and what that feels like and just keep going after the things that light you up, because that’s joy and it’s going to be uncomfortable to do that.

 

Resources:

Heather’s TEDx talk

Teach Your Kid To Meditate

 

Where to find Heather:

Website

Mom is in Control Podcast

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A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.

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Sep 04, 2018
Eps 155: SOLO SHOW! Casey is on Deep Diving into Intuition
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SOLO SHOW – woohoo

Let’s talk about intuition today…. Well, I am going to J

  • Connecting dots with Eps 154 Dan Siegel interview
  • The ability to sift through the experience you’re having and everything that is calling inside of you – and create space to show up as our best selves
  • We all have an inner knowing, inner voice – where we can tap into deep wisdom
  • Making sense of our spiritual experience
  • Finding intuition while navigating my parenting
  • How conditioning supports/gets in the way
  • How do we tease apart intuition from fear/conditioning/doubt
  • “What if the first hit is true?”
  • “What if our stories and experiences are offered to us to develop our intuition?”
  • Growing our “hub of awareness” requires practice
  • PRACTICE MATTERS
  • Becoming an outside observer takes practice
  • We move towards what is familiar
  • Sacred Contracts Caroline Myss
  • Trust
  • What happens when we choose in to the practice of developing space for our intuition?

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Aug 28, 2018
Eps 154: Dr. Dan Siegel Discussing the Science of Being Present
51:05

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Today’s guest is Doctor Dan Siegel. Dan is a clinical professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA school of Medicine and the founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Centre at UCLA. He is also the Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute which focuses on the development of Mindsight, teaches insight, empathy and integration in individuals, families and communities. Dr. Siegel has published extensively for the professional and lay audiences. We are discussing his new book: Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence. Join us!

"The most important gift we can give our kids is showing up with our mental presence, not just physically being present but to have the state of awareness and open to who they actually are."

"Presence is a state of perceptive awareness."

"Information is transformation."

"You have the ability to cultivate the presence of mind through these very simple and accessible practices that are going to bring health to your body, slow the aging process, reduce stress, all these positive things and the same exact process, developing your hub of your wheel of awareness, presence, can actually deeply enrich the way your child is soaking in his or her relationship with you and developing this experience of being seen, of being soothed, of being safe, of being secure that research shows is exactly what your child needs to optimize how they go out into life, and that's something you're empowered to create."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-The wheel of awareness - what it is and how it helps  

-How awareness impacts your body and health  

-How being present impacts the speed of the aging process

-Wellbeing and how it is enhanced by being present

-Relationships with your kids and how being present improves it

-Cultivating awareness

-Role modelling resilience

-How awareness feeds connection vs control

-Impacts of a lack of structure on the brain and future of children

-Authoritative parenting vs Authoritarian parenting

-Why we need the village and how that creates stress for contemporary parents

-Finding joy, tranquility and connection through expanding awareness

-Flipping our lid, learning from our body's signals and how awareness can help

-Monitoring and modifying for self-regulation and to improve responses to stress

-The 3 O's what they mean

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage, to me, means having the presence of mind to dive into this receptive state of awareness, this hub of the wheel, to tap into the power of being connected with whatever arises inside of you, this kind of "bring it on" attitude, that's the courage. And the joy that arises as you liberate yourself from what a lot of us get imprisoned by which is "I have to control everything" instead, with presence, you let things emerge within you and then you let integration, connecting with your child, for example, in ways that are filled with love and connection that is honoring who your child is, honoring yourself too, but then linking together with compassionate, close relationships. That's what I think joyful courage and courageous joy is all about.

Resources:

Mind, A Journey To The Heart of Being Human

Brainstorm, The Power and purpose of the teenage brain

The Whole Brain Child

No Drama Discipline

The Yes Brain

Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence

The Telomere Effect by Elizabeth Blackburn

 

Where to find Dr. Siegel:

Facebook

Twitter

Youtube

Instagram

LinkedIn

Website

Mindsight Institute

UCLA Mindful Research Centre

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Mother’s Journey  Home to Herself
Overland Park, KS
October 26th - 28th, 2018

Many of us become mothers and we get caught tending needs of our family, or homes and our community, and struggle to find ways to move our personal growth and wellbeing up the priority list. This weekend retreat will allow you the opportunity to explore self-care rituals that will help you reset and feel renewed, and give you nurturing tools you can incorporate into your daily life far beyond our time together – so that you can feel more ease, peace, connection and joy in the every day.

A Mother’s Journey Home to Herself is an invitation for deep personal inquiry, while practicing tools for deepening relationship with ourselves and our family, resulting in more cooperation and ease and joy during this exceptionally time of our lives.

EARLY BIRD PRICE THROUGH the end of August!

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Aug 14, 2018
Eps 153: Yoga as a Parenting Tool With Naomi Gottlieb-Miller
48:53

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Today’s guest is Naomi Gottlieb-Miller. She is a mom, yoga teacher, self-care advocate, Air Force spouse and Star Trek nerd. She is passionate about working with busy moms and empowering them to take better care of themselves so they can re-write the story of what healthy motherhood feels like. She loves to make yoga fun and accessible for everyone she works with. Naomi is passionate about helping people find space for their daily yoga practice. We are discussing yoga, self care and parenting.

Join us!

"Yoga is not just what you do on your mat but it's how you live your life." 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Parallels between yoga and parenting
  • Self exploration in yoga and parenting
  • How what we read influences our perception of how we parent
  • Making decisions about what matters to us vs what we "should" do
  • Yoga on social media and competition
  • The five second rule and how it relates to self-care
  • Habit change personality types
  • Yoga as a practice and how it relates to ego
  • The difference between simple and easy
  • Feeling into action and engaging - in yoga and parenting
  • Being with the discomfort in parenting and yoga
  • Therapeutic irritation and holding space and identifying appropriate times for release
  • Creating conscious conversations with our kids
  • Baby steps for starting yoga
  • Starting small as a way to inspire more future
  • What is a mantra and why is it helpful?

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Part of the reason that I was so jazzed to be featured on this podcast is I love the idea of Joyful Courage. When I think about Joyful Courage, there's a part of me that's actually reminded of a dear friend of mine who died, not to get all dark and sad but she loved climbing mountains. She was 6 feet tall and basically all Amazon woman, and she would just take on everything with this zest for life, you know, in everything that she did, whether it was climbing mountains or trying to raise a puppy or doing stream samples, checking water, it was just with this absolute utter joy but she was also, she would take on these challenges with this, "Life is meant to be lived." And so she passed away actually in 2005, so it's been quite a long time, she was young, she was 23, she had not yet turned 24, it was the same year I got my yoga teacher training and I try to live my life with that spirit now, with the idea of this zest for life. That things are going to be hard, things are going to be challenging, but damn it, I'm going to climb that mountain because if I didn't, how would I feel? If I didn't what would my life really feel like to me? And so that's the thing that I try to teach my kids and it's really challenging sometimes to encourage them to climb mountains, my kids are five and not yet two, but I want to share with them, because my five year old has that in her, she has that unquenchable thirst for life and she is so joyful and I think of her when I think of Joyful Courage. I think of this idea that life is meant to be lived and it is not easy and there are challenges but those mountains are meant to be climbed, no matter what. And so I try to impart that to my kids even in the really mundane moments when we are sitting at home and watching tv instead of outside climbing a mountain but it's like, "What do you want to do? How do you want to live your life?" Joyful Courage, I think that is a beautiful vision of how I want to move through the world.

Resources:

Naomi’s introductory Yoga videos on her Youtube channel NaomiGottliebMiller

Where to find:

Website | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube: NaomiGottliebMiller

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Jul 31, 2018
Eps 152: No More Mean Girls With Katie Hurley
39:16

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Today’s guest is Katie Hurley. She is a child and adolescent psychotherapist specializing in anxiety disorders and stress and learning differences and author. She is the author of The Happy Kid Handbook and No More Mean Girls. She runs empowerment groups for girls. We are discussing girls and their relationships. Join us!

 

"We have to load them with coping skills because life is hard."

"Teach them coping skills. Teach them how to be kindness warriors. Teach them how to engage in a positive way on social media so that other girls start to follow suit...."

"We owe it to our girls to stop labelling them and let them grow into themselves."

"The more we fail and the more we fail out loud and accept it and acknowledge it and talk about it with other people, the more we grow as humans."

"We have to stop this cult of perfectionism among our girls and the best way to do that is to really open up to them and tell them what we go through."

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-The changing landscape in the world of girls and bullying

-Why these relationship challenges are starting earlier than ever

-Toxic competition and how it impacts relationships between girls

-How conditioning for high achievement can impact girls

-Shifts in educational expectations and how that affects children

-How attitudes towards sports have changed and what that has meant for girls

-Social emotional learning and the expectation it should happen at home vs. at school

-Belonging and significance in relationships between girls

-How building empathy can be helpful

-The Iceberg Metaphor and how it relates to conflict between girls

- Protective instincts and how they impact coaching empathy and understanding

-Clique behaviors and how they can impact girls

-Modelling those behaviors as parents and exercising compassion in moments of frustration

-Social media culture and how it removes safe spaces at home from interpersonal conflict between kids

-Checking off the boxes and how it can create overwhelm

-How not letting kids make choices can create stress and cause problems later in life

-The importance of coping skills and raising kindness warriors

-The impact of how we talk about school shooters and how that impacts their in-school relationships

-How social engineering by parents can impact our girls

-Understanding where parental interference in interests and social relationships can affect them

-Peer pressure among parents to "check the boxes" for our kids in terms of their extracurricular activities

-How labels affect and limit our girls

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

To me, it just means being joyful about taking great leaps. It's okay wherever you land. Know that you're okay wherever you land and you can always make adjustments and give it another shot.

 

Resources:

The Happy Kid Handbook

No More Mean Girls

 

Where to find Katie:

PracticalKatie.com

Facebook

Twitter

 

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

EARLY BIRD PRICE THROUGH June 15th!

Come to Baltimore in July 28th!!  Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

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Jul 17, 2018
Eps 151: Bias, Privilege and How White Women Can Do Better With Danielle Slaughter
41:12

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My guest today is Danielle Slaughter. Danielle is an Academic turned mommy. She has Bachelors of Arts from the University of Michigan-Ann Arbor and a Masters of Arts in English from Georgia State University. With a doctoral background in English, focusing on Rhetoric and Composition, Danielle likes to call herself and mothers like her “Mamademics”. Mamademics is a merging of her two “careers”–motherhood and academia. She lives in Atlanta with her husband and two sons were she runs both of her businesses Mamademics and Raising an Advocate.

Danielle has an award-winning blog as well as composition work. She is a 2015 recipient of the Type-A Parent’s We Still Blog Award. A 2016 recipient of the Conference on  College Composition and Communications Scholar for the Dream Award. A BlogHer Voices of the Year Winner for 2016 and 2017. As well as a two-time nominee for an Iris Award for Most Engaging Content (2017 and 2018).

I found Danielle this past spring when I was searching for the voices of POC in the parenting world. If you listened to episode 142 you know that I made a pledge to search out a variety of voices and personalities to come and be on the show. Danielle does really important work, and I recently completed a course she offers called “Raising an Advocate” – Danielle has written a lot about the role white women play in raising social justice advocates, as well as the power white women also have to get in the way of social justice….

Where to find Danielle:

Facebook | Mamademics Website
Check out Mamedemics Website to get to the Raising an Advocate course!

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

Come to Baltimore in July 28th!!  Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

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Jul 03, 2018
Eps 150: Solo Show! Getting Real About Transitioning Into Summer
28:34

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SOLO SHOW!!

I am on speaking directly from the tranches…. Feeling the stretch and pull of raising adolescent kids. Kind and firm, yes, and IT’S HARD!!  Moving into summer and thinking about routines and agreements.

Enjoy!

Eps 96: Melissa Benaroya talks Summer Routines and Structures

Eps 129: Solo Show - Using the Iceberg Metaphor to Understand Behavior

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

EARLY BIRD PRICE THROUGH June 15th!

Come to Baltimore in July 28th!!  Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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DAILY INTENTION CARDS

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Jun 26, 2018
Eps 149: Lindsay McCarthy Teaches Us How to Bring Miracle Mornings to our Families
30:14

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Today’s guest is Lindsay McCarthy, author of The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families.  Lindsay is a homeschooling mama with two children, a writer and the founder of GratefulParent.com. We are discussing how you can integrate The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families into your day. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-How The Miracle Morning For Parents And Families came to be

-What the Miracle Morning includes

-How to involve your kids in your Miracle Morning

-The power of waking on your own terms

-How waking up early adds capacity for parents to expand their emotional resources

-The value of unstructured play and creating as a practice for kids

-Creativity, Health, Affirmations, Reading, Meditation and Service, and how they can help kids start their day off right

-Habit stacking as a way to build a Miracle Morning

-How a Miracle Morning can help you look at bedtime routine

-Building flexibility into your Miracle Morning

-Starting small with habit changes

-How to encourage older kids to participate

-Combining components of the Miracle Morning to save time

-Trying a Miracle Evening as an alternative               

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

To me, courage it means being afraid but doing it anyways. Like, writing a book, for example. And then the joyful part of that is just allowing it to really fill you up and spread light to the world. Stepping into your own light and your own power and doing the things you're afraid to do anyway.

Resources:

The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families
The Miracle Morning for College Students
The Miracle Morning

Where to find Lindsay:

GratefulParent.com
Facebook Group - Miracle Morning For Parents And Families

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

Come to Baltimore in July 28th!!  Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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Intention Bracelets

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DAILY INTENTION CARDS

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Jun 19, 2018
Eps 148: Solo Show - Teasing Apart the External Parenting Experience from the Internal Experience
28:39

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Solo Show – woop woop! It is all me today people, and I am so excited to be sharing some powerful thoughts and experiences with you today.

  • Wading through our experience to support out children
  • The writing process
  • Going deeper into what parents can uncover/discover for themselves
  • We have an external experience of raising kids – everything that happens outside of us
  • We also are having an internal experience – the ways that our physical body feels, sensations, also the emotional experience that we are having, what gets brought up by the external stimuli
  • External and internal are both happening at the same time
  • Based on what our experiences have been in life, our relationships in life, we have a lens that we see the world out of
  • Sometimes the internal response “works” for us
  • We have a well wired survival system – amygdala – but our survival system isn’t always what is needed in our daily life
  • The pendulum swing of raising/living with teens – everything is great until it is not, parents are the anchor that witness/hold space and it’s hard to remember that the behavior is a pendulum swing. Connect /loving vs dysregulation/discouragement
  • We (parents) go into “fix it” mode
  • Alternative – recognizing what is happening physically in my body, seeing what is happening for me, what is the lens I am looking out of?
  • Fear – tension in the body – belly/jaw
  • When kids feel discouraged, they tend to want to share the feeling with others
  • Looking below the surface - the iceberg metaphor
  • Today is a reminder that there is so much going on under the surface…. Curiosity as a guide AND it’s ok and important to recognize where you are at physically/emotionally and taking a pause to get yourself together

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

EARLY BIRD PRICE THROUGH June 15th!

Come to Baltimore in July 28th!!  Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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Intention Bracelets

 

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need? 

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

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Jun 12, 2018
Eps 147: Empowered Stepmothering (and mothering in general...) wth Nathalie Savell
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Today’s guest is Nathalie Savell of the Empowering Stepmoms Summit. Natalie is a holistic psychotherapist, a certified holistic health coach and a certified stepmom coach. She sees psychotherapy clients dealing with anxiety and life transition challenges, relationship issues and spiritual disease in person, via video chat and through walk and talk sessions in Baltimore, Maryland and coaches stepmoms virtually to help them go from overwhelm, confusion, stress and resentment to confidence, clarity and connection. We are discussing thriving in step parenting. Join us!

“People have more power than they think. I hear a lot of stepmoms feel so out of control and so disempowered by the ex, the kids, whatever their partner is doing and there is support out there."

"It doesn't take as much as you think to get on a path that's a lot more helpful that makes you feel a lot more empowered."

"Get the support that you need and deserve. Reach out and get it."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

-The mind body connection

-Flexibility and how that relates to kindness and firmness

-The Think Tree exercise and how that facilitates flexibility with boundaries

-Building connection in step-parenting

-Control and step-parenting - finding balance

-Adjusting from step-parenting to raising one's own child

-Parenting and commitment

-Co- parenting as a stepmom when the child's other parent doesn't want them to participate

-Establishing boundaries for self care

-Giving yourself permission to have feelings about your stepkids and not feeling pressured to feel loving all the time

-The value of couple work in being a united front

-Finding bottom line things you agree on and where your boundaries are

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I love the term Joyful Courage so much. It's like the courage to keep doing the work. The courage to keep going and you know, I call the stepmoms in my group "stepmom warriors" some times because I'm like "You're a warrior, keep fighting, keep going, fighting the good fight to be a loving person." For me, it's like a spiritual warrior for being on a path of love. It takes a lot of courage because it's not easy and a lot of people are going to judge you. And a lot of people are going to naysay you. And to add in that joy in there, so not only are you being brave and courageous, and like keep putting one foot in front of the other but how can you have fun while doing it and why not? So why not peel back the layers and see how you can be childlike in your battles, in your love battles. I think we all need to be that way, to have fun, so it's important to take things lightly at the same time that you work hard at them.

Resources:

Interview series on NathalieSavell.com

Where to find Nathalie:

Nathaliesavell.com
Stepmom Strong Coaching group on Facebook
Stepmom Strong Facebook page
Stepmom Strong Coaching on Instagram

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Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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Jun 05, 2018
Eps 146: Solo Show - Supporting the Village
28:41

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Solo show:

  • Here we are – a new week, another school shooting
  • Expanding from the family unit and into the community
  • Choices we have when we see people who need help
  • We are all in this together – in this life
  • It takes a village and we have to look out for each other
  • All kids deserve advocates, not just our kids
  • What can I do to support connection, feeling felt, feeling understood, inside of my community?
  • Political conflict in the family…. My story and how my brother saved the day
  • Conscious parenting is really conscious living
  • Understanding is not the same as accepting or valuing what others value
  • Belonging and significance matters for children AND adults
  • Listening to understand
  • We get to look out for each other
  • “I see you”
  • Declaring to inquire about mentorship at the local HS
  • What is the action you will take?

Resources mentioned:

Eps 133 – Politics and Parenting  

Take the Next Step – Community resource organization

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

EARLY BIRD PRICE THROUGH June 15th!

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Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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May 29, 2018
Eps 145: Deborah Reber is on Talking About Raising Differently Wired Kids
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Today’s guest is Deborah Reber, mother of an autistic son, founder of Tilt Parenting to help parents find more peace, joy and support along the way while parenting an atypical child in a conventional world. We are discussing her new book. Join us!

“It's hard to know what to do when you realize your kid is atypical."

"Kids who are exceptional really just means the exception"

"We have to battle our insecurities maybe a little bit more because what we are doing isn't necessarily working."

"Behavior is all information. It isn't personal."

"Judgment is where we create separation."

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The loneliness of raising a differently wired kid
  • Accommodating kids with invisible differences
  • Introversion vs extroversion and how they are perceived in the classroom
  • Applying positive discipline parenting philosophies to differently wired kids
  • Managing expectations in problem solving when raising neuro atypical kids
  • Becoming aware of our own judgements of other people's children
  • How to be a support when you see a child acting out in public
  • Approaching neuro differences as parents and discussing them with our kids
  • Educators and parents of neuro-typical kids as allies to parents of neuro atypical kids

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I just keep thinking bravery. I think the parents who are raising kids who are moving through the world a little differently have to be brave even when they don't feel brave and so I would say, "Keep going back in, when we have a bad day and showing up and being present with bravery. Presence and bravery. Presence has been the thing that has changed my experience with Asher more than any other tool and it's in the presence that I've been able to find joy in our parenting together.

 

Resources:

Differently Wired

 

Where to find Deborah:

Tilt Parenting l Facebook l Twitter l Instagram 

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

EARLY BIRD PRICE THROUGH June 15th!

Come to Baltimore in July 28th!!  Super excited to be circling up with mama’s to bring more connection, self growth and discovery to the community there! More info can be found at www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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May 22, 2018
Eps 144: Solo Show - is Positive Discipline permissive? No.
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SOLO SHOW!!

Teacher posted about a difficult class…

Response about “parenting style” naming “gentle parenting” and followed up with a post about “helicopter parenting, mom and dad are friends, no discipline or consequences….” 

Lets talk about this:

  • The swing from authoritarian to permissive
  • What is kind and firm
  • Authoritative – structure and freedom
  • The most important tool we have for influencing behavior is the relationship we build with our children – that is what this week in the Academy is all about.
  • No boundaries/limits – not a solid relationship
  • No voice/ freedom – not a solid relationship
  • Mutual respect?
  • Problem solving?
  • Dignity in tact? – Dignity, the state or quality of being worthy of honor or respect.

Helicopter/lawn mower/permissive parenting ROBs children of the discomfort of learning from their mistakes. It robs them of the opportunity of making things right and fixing their mistakes. Robs them of the opportunity for problem solving, accountability, ownership.

Authoritarian parenting ALSO robs kids of opportunity. When we parent from a place that threatens punishment for making mistakes, kids no longer have the luxury of learning how to really think through the decision making process, instead, they learn the “better not do it cuz I don’t want to get into trouble” or “better not get caught”

Authoritarian parenting can often lead to a lack of respect in the relationship.

Guidelines and boundaries INSIDE OF a solid, respectful relationship will increase the likelihood of cooperative, contributing children.

KIND AND FIRM – listen to your body, are you in alignment with your values and what the kid need. There is WISDOM IN THE BODY, PAY ATTENTION. 

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Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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May 15, 2018
Eps 143: Mary Nelsen-Tamborski Talks About Making Mistakes and Being Raised with PD
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Today’s guest is Mary Nelsen-Tamborski, a licensed marriage and family therapist in San Diego and also a certified positive discipline trainer and parent coach. Mary’s formal training is secondary to the life training she got from her mother, Dr. Jane Nelsen, a marriage and family therapist and author of all the positive discipline books. Mary is a popular keynote speaker, and workshop presenter. We are discussing mistakes as opportunities to learn. Join us!

“I find that these principles are universal so they are great, obviously for parents and children but it's also just human beings in general.”

"The lens that we see our kids out of is everyone being equally worthy of dignity and respect it's no wonder that how we treat our kids , it should be a mirror of how we treat our friends and how we treat our coworkers and the checkers at the grocery store. It's about human to human relationships."

"You have to break down to break through." `

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • How positive discipline impacts other relationships in our lives
  • Positive discipline as a theory and the reality of implementation
  • Mistakes as opportunities to learn and navigating shame
  • Solutions oriented problem solving versus consequences
  • Dealing with your own emotional stuff when encountering challenging behaviour
  • The role of regular family meetings
  • The importance of apologies
  • Making amends after we make mistakes
  • What to do when you "lose it"
  • Post-conflict communication and rebuilding closeness
  • Managing triggers and being called out on your stuff
  • Learning and growing as a family in positive discipline
  • Assumptions & consequences - 3 R's & 1 H
  • Brain development and consequences
  • Genuine curiosity and asking curious questions to improve communication
  • Curiosity as a way of being
  • Shedding ego to engage in a meaningful way
  • Connecting early to keep the lines of communication open for adolescence
  • Treating your children as friends - a positive discipline perspective

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I really think it's about accepting yourself as being an imperfect parent, that there's no such thing as a perfect parent. You would think I would have an amazing advantage being raised by the author, being trained and being a therapist. Like, I really should have this parenting gig down and there's a helpful reminder with my children daily that there is no such thing as a perfect parent and just having, like you had said in the beginning, progress. Progress, not perfection and just really kind of being gentle with yourself that when you do blow it, because you will, having the courage to accept it, admit it, and then repair it and know that this courage stuff is never ending. We get opportunities to practice it daily and you can have joy in that when you accept, when you shift your thinking, as in, "Oh my gosh, I was imperfect, ha! I have an opportunity to teach my child that they get to be imperfect too and that we are in this journey together, this is the first time that I've been a mom of a 9 year or a 5 year old or an 11 year old, this my first time. I can read all the books in the world, I can even be raised by the author and guess what? It's still my first time." So, I'm doing the best I can and the courage to accept that I'm not perfect and we get to be joyful while we go through that process.

Resources:

Jane Nelsen’s book Serenity

Where to find Mary:
Website

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE 

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Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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Where to find Mary:

Website

May 08, 2018
Eps 142: Collective impact and moving past my whitness
22:07

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Thank you community!  You are all so amazing.

TOGETHER we are making an impact on the world.

Today is a solo show…. I am getting vulnerable once again and shedding light on an area that I am not so proud of AND see as an opportunity for us all to grow as humans in relationship with each other.

The white bubble.

I know I am not the only person that lives a really homogenous life when it comes to diversity. AND, I know that many of you can celebrate LOTS of diversity in your life and relationships.

Today I just wanted to call myself and anyone else in the community out in an effort to DO BETTER. The world is made up of a variety of people, from a diverse pool of cultures, experiences, and backgrounds.

When I look out into the “positive parenting” world, I see lots of white faces. When I think about the people that listen to my show and participate in my community, I see a lot of white faces.

I love all those white faces AND, I am recognizing that I could do more to bring more diverse voices onto the show and into our community – and into MY personal life as well.  AND, because I get to speak from the platform of Joyful Courage, I get to be transparent and invite you all to join me.

Whew!

I am excited! We all get to take steps to shift the way the world is currently operating, and those of us with privilege, even if it is simply the color of our skin, have a part to play in that shift. I hope you will join me.

And for those of you in the community who ARE people of color, please feel free to reach out and let me know how I can do better! I value your voice. Help me find guests that can tell stories and give support from a POV that is different from my middle class white woman lens.

I love you all!

Thank you for listening!!

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Mother’s Journey BALTIMORE

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Are you interested in bringing A Mother’s Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility.

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Intention Bracelets

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 DAILY INTENTION CARDS

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May 01, 2018
Eps 141: Local Teen and her Mom on to Talk About Making A DIFFERENCE in the World
30:37

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So thrilled to have Aubrey and Becky Springer on today to talk about how to take small steps to make a big difference.

We all hope that our children will be in service to the world, that they will WANT to make a difference, to make the world a better place.

Today’s show highlights what it can look like when being in contribution to the community is the default for a family – and how the way we impact our kids, through the experiences we invite them into, can impact the world.

“We all belong to each other.” – Mama Becky

Links mentioned:

Support Aubrey’s Project 
Glennon Doyle
Together Rising
Union Gospel Mission

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DAILY INTENTION CARDS

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Apr 24, 2018
Eps 140: Documentary Filmmaker, Delaney Ruston, is on Talking About Screens and Our Kids
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Today’s guest is Delaney Ruston, a documentary filmmaker. She believes in helping kids find balance in our tech filled world. She loves engaging audiences in solution centered discussions. We are discussing her work making the film Screenagers and how to support our kids with finding balance. Join us!

“Just start with one simple change that you want to make and the real growth is when you talk about that with your kids and you show them your journey in trying to make that change.”

“Maybe just pick one thing that you could decide to do that you’re not using tech as you normally would.”

“The key, the most absolute important thing about it is starting with something positive about technology.”

 “The brain has a really hard time holding two opposite truths at the same time and it’s particularly hard for kids and teens.”  

 “To find sustainable solutions for tech balance and the child and teen brain we’re going to have to work together.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The neuroscience of technology use and over-use
  • The individual child and technology use - micro impacts vs metadata
  • Setting attainable goals for technology use reduction
  • The power of changing just one thing
  • Recognizing the difficulty of cognitive dissonance in conversations about technology
  • Reducing defensiveness in technology conversations
  • Why 30% of families are struggling with daily fights about technology
  • What studies say about parent device use
  • Distracted parenting and interactions with our kids
  • Learning new skills: how this changes as kids grow
  • Self-regulation and parenting involvement in creating limits
  • Setting aside screen free time as a family
  • Technology and sleep - setting boundaries for wellness
  • Guidelines for young kids to set the stage for later technology use
  • Sleep time, Study time and Family time - technology boundaries
  • Digital etiquette ideas
  • When you’ve given up and need to reign things in
  • Taking stock of how we use our time
  • How to bring Screenagers into your community
  • School policies: prevalence of device use in middle and high schools
  • Impact of device use on academics in middle and high schools

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think life as a learning adventure is why we are on this planet and any time we can change any situation into a learning mentality it saves the day 100% So, we can only put ourselves in those situations when we have the courage to try something new and to know that when we change our mindset to realize, “Hey, what did I learn from that situation?” That’s where the real joy comes from.     

Resources:

Tech Talk Tuesdays

Where to find Delaney:

Screenagersmovie.com l Delaneyruston.com

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Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

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Apr 17, 2018
Eps 139: Solo Show About Authenticity, Choosing In and Being Awesome
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Today’s podcast was created in honor of the 159 parents who enrolled and engaged in the #joyfulcourage10.

Today we complete the program, and begin the practice of sustaining the magic and community that was created there, because of the people who showed up vulnerably, authentically, and courageously.

I love what I get to do.

Thank you to each of you that spent the last 10 days building relationship with me and each other. YOU ARE AMAZING!!!

Alright – today’s theme for the show is authenticity and transparency.

Parenting as a journey

  • Not a secret
  • No hidden agenda
  • About being in human relationship

Modeling

  • Life skills are learned through modeling
  • Vulnerability and authenticity is learned through modeling
  • Kicking it up a notch is lifting up and OUT of the modeling and being transparent

Human relationships are messy.

Parenting is messy.

Life-iing is messy.

When we actively, intentionally, decide to SHIFT the way we parent, we set ourselves up to be exposed as flawed humans.

  • Hello vulnerability
  • Hello humility
  • Hello contrary to the “adults are always right”

 While the whole Positive Discipline/Positive Parenting approach is SIMPLE – I mean, choose relationship and trust that your  children will lean life skills – WHAT IS THE BIG DEAL???

Right, and then we are in life and it is a shit show.

  • Defeat
  • Self talk
  • Comparison-itis
  • Giving up

Be transparent! 

All that modeling???  It is an opportunity to lift up and out of your experience and help you kids see you connecting the dots (or your partner, or you parent, sibling, friend)

  • Share your journey
  • Ask for help
  • Let people know HOW you would like feedback

If you know with your WHOLE HEART that this makes sense to you, that you believe in this style of parenting, then also believe with your WHOLE HEART that you are capable, worthy and ENOUGH to pull this off.

DO NOT READ PERFECT HERE.

  • Progress not perfection
  • Progress not perfection
  • Progress not perfection.

TRANSFORMATION IS NOT A FUTURE EVENT. IT IS A PRESENT ACTIVITY. – Jillian Michaels (thank you Jessie for setting e straight on this quote)

Transformation IS happening. Every time you choose into this work.

Do you all know what I mean by “choose in?”

  • When you hug and melt into it
  • When you breathe it out
  • When you connect
  • When you get curious
  • When you drop your shoulders
  • When you’re mindful
  • When you step away
  • When you try something new
  • When you interrupt your pattern
  • When you acknowledge your self talk, and replace it with an affirmation
  • When you drop the urgency
  • When you drop the rigidity
  • When you listen to your body
  • When you look for perspective
  • When you remember the iceberg
  • When you let go of what society, your parents, your neighbors, your inlaws think you SHOULD DO
  • When you let your heart lead
  • When you honor you

ALL OF THIS IS CHOOSING IN.

So DO IT!

Be unapologetic.

And when it is hard, just own that – THIS MORNING IS FUCKING HARD! Maybe don’t scream it out loud, but acknowledge that it IS hard some days. And exhausting. And thankless.

AND, you GET TO choos in.

You GET TO.

You are being CALLED TO THIS WORK, otherwise, why would you be doing it? Why would you be reading the books and article and listening to the podcast??? 

I see you. I know you are listening. I know you are trying. I know that your heart swells with love when you look at your sleeping child, and that your mind spins when that same child is awake  and impossibly inconsolable…..  I see you.

And you can do this.  You ARE doing this.

And I see you.

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This is five weeks of deep diving, exploring, practicing, stretching and growing.

Members of the academy will enjoy weekly webinars where we will all be LIVE together, on the screen, interacting in real time around the weeks lessons

ALSO members will enjoy weekly Q and A sessions with me, again, LIVE together

They will enjoy an safe, supporting and ENGAGED FB group for accountability, sharing and celebration.

And VIP members will also receive two one on one coaching calls with me during the course.

The learning outcomes of this program are:

  • Participants will gain a deeper understanding of behavior and create a vision for their parenting
  • Participants will identify where gaps exist and learn tools for strengthening relationships and expectations
  • Participants will learn language that empowers, inspire and motivates their family.
  • Participants will grow their leadership through proactive and in the moment practices
  • Participants will uncover the deep wisdom that ALREADY exists inside of themselves and use it to show up and design their life

Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/academy

Love each and every one of you so much!!!! 

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Apr 10, 2018
Eps 138: Peaceful Parenting our Teens with Genevieve Simperingham
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Today’s guest is Genevieve Simperingham, a counsellor, an AWARE parenting educator, a writer, a group facilitator, meditation teacher and founder of the Peaceful Parent Institute in New Zealand. Over the last 24 years, Genevieve has presented hundreds of workshops and courses. She has parented her own kids using attachment principles and she seeks to empower parents with the tools that result in increased harmony, trust and cooperation in the family unit. We are discussing peaceful parenting our teenagers. Join us!

“It’s about bringing into your parenting not just how you should respond in this situation or in that situation and our different approaches and techniques (which are really, really important) but it’s all about who we are as a person and who our child is as a person and the dynamic and the energy between us.

“We shouldn’t be in fighter stance simply because we have teenagers.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • What is peaceful parenting and how it is different than some of the more mainstream behaviorist parenting approaches.
  • The Centre, Connect, Communicate approach
  • Stress management, self care and healing trauma and how they relate to parenting
  • The need for authenticity in empathy and curiosity
  • The biggest hangups for parents around peaceful parenting teenagers
  • Having tough conversations with your teens without shorting out the connection at the outset
  • Setting and holding limits within the peaceful parenting framework
  • Sex, drugs and alcohol use in teens - is it better to allow at home or to restrict?
  • Reducing power struggles and rebellion
  • Educating and empowering teens to make their own choices
  • Reconnecting to move past conflict

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful courage to me, it connects me with that last bit that we were just talking about, to me it’s about joy we feel in the heart and it takes a lot of courage to reconnect. So to me it’s about opening the heart and allowing the joy, the enjoyment of the relationship, of the connection to come back in and that takes courage. It takes courage to be vulnerable again. It’s easier to be hard and defensive and stern and it takes courage to open the heart come back to the joy of that beautiful connection again.

Resources:

Aware parenting

Where to find Genevieve:

The way of the Peaceful Parent Facebook Group

Facebook

Website

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Apr 03, 2018
Eps 137: A solo show to inspire you into ACTION to create the LIFE you want!!
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Gratitude to the community, specifically my one on one clients and the membership.

  • Themes
  • Collective experience
  • My own filter
  • Always in the learning, growing, developing
  • Humaning is simple, not easy

Knowing what we want, not taking action to get there

  • Identifying what we want
  • Reading/learning tools/strategies
  • Sitting on the outside of it
    • Procrastination
    • Self talk
    • Sneak messages
      • Fear/worthiness/perfectionism

Finding Nemo

  • Working so hard to get to his goal
  • Dealing with the monkey mind of dory (is there a metaphor here?)
  • Perseverance despite fear
  • Turtle
    • Come into the current, dude
      • Less effort
      • Less resistance
      • More results
      • Bigger possibilities

The Secret/ Law of Attraction / FLOW

  • What is this all about?
  • The Law of attraction is the belief that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts people can bring positive or negative experiences into their life. The belief is based on the idea that people and their thoughts are both made from "pure energy", and that through the process of "like energy attracting like energy" a person can improve their own health, wealth and personal relationships.
    • What you think about you bring about
      • Yes thought AND actively taking steps that move you in that direction
      • NEMO HAD TO SAY YES AND ENTER THE FLOW TO BE A PART OF THE FLOW

What the heck does this have to do with parenting?

  • Paying attention to the flow
    • What makes it easy to be easy going, even when things are challenging?
    • What do you notice about when your family is more easy going?
  • Under the surface/foundation
    • Routines
    • Common language
    • Needs are met
    • Connected
    • Belonging and significance
  • Have you defined where you want to flow to take you?
    • More of a way of being than a destination, unless you are setting specific goals
    • It is an ACTIVE process – we must be in action
    • FLOW state shows up because it all becomes easier the more we choose in

Choosing in

  • I say this a lot
  • Being a yes
  • Seizing the opportunities to “practice” the tools
  • TAKING ACTION

If you want things to BE different then you need to BE different

  • Interrupting the patters
    • Discover what your patterns are
    • Pay attention/mindfulness
      • Ex – phone use
        • When do you use it
        • What do you notice about right before you pick it up?
        • Where do you use it
        • What routines can you play with that will interrupt your pattern
          • DECIDING to do something different/interrupting
          • Leaving it upstairs in the morning
        • Ex – getting mad at my teenager/taking her angst personally
          • When do you do it
          • What do you notice about right before you yell
          • Where are you typically when you yell
          • What routines can you play with that will interrupt your pattern
            • DECIDING to practice something different
            • Internal work of allowing HER to be responsible for her feelings and allowing ME to be responsible for mine
            • Creating a “one liner” that supports me in knowing/sharing where I am at
            • Taking care of myself
            • Offering my daughter opportunities to develop tools for taking care of herself – LIFE SKILL
          • Ex – being resentful that no one “helps”
            • When do you do it
            • What do you notice about right before resentment shows up
            • Where are you typically when you are feeling
            • What routines can you play with that will interrupt your pattern
              • DECIDING to practice something different
              • Creating routines around that particular time of the day
              • Getting face to face and asking for help
              • Smiling
              • Putting on music
              • Being an invitation instead of a nag

All starts with out DECISION to be different

  • The voices in our head
    • “talking to ourselves”
    • true self talking with ego
      • true self has our back – ego THINKS it has our back but is really about what is easy, safe and /or familiar
    • Simple, but maybe not easy
    • The quicker we decide to act on an idea, the more likely we will follow through
      • Getting out of bed
      • 5 second rule
      • Melanie Robbins (hopefully a guest)
        • Example:
          • Snooze button
          • Exercise
          • Making a smoothie
          • Finishing this outline
          • Putting down my phone
          • Staying off social media

Challenge for you today:

  • Be clear on the direction you WANT to be going, and WHY you want to go there
  • Notice your patterns that are getting in your way
  • Interrupt the patterns by doing something different
  • Repeat all day long

Listen, we all thrive in community. We thrive when we are being supported and joined by a bunch of other people who are diving into the practices and the work that we are engaging in. Do yourself a favor and JOIN THE #JOYFULCOURAGE10 – this is EXACTLY what you need to step into your OWN flow of parenting. This is the jumpstart you need to manifest the family vibe that you desire. We are on a collective journey, and the #JC10 is the party bus you didn’t know that you wanted on – disco ball and all!!  Sign up RIGHT NOW, we start April 1st – www.joyfulcourage.com/jc10

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Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

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Mar 27, 2018
Eps 136: Kelly Bos talks about how NOT to become your child's inner critic
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Today’s guest is Kelly Flannigan Bos, MSW. Kelly is a clinical therapist focusing on individual, marriage, and family relationships. She helps people find meaning and joy in their relationships - with themselves and others. As a well-known relationship expert, she has appeared in a professional capacity in countless media markets as a guest and writer. Today we are discussing an article she wrote in November called, “I don’t want to write the script for my child’s inner critic.” Join us!

“We’re not always going to have the perfect reactions and we can certainly apologize when we haven’t kept our cool or done the right thing. There’s ways to model other things like resolution or forgiveness.” 

Does a good brow beating make us feel better, more able to face the challenges ahead of us? Usually not. We often shame ourselves into inertia. Would we ever say these words to a friend? There is a better way. We can be kind to ourselves and get better results and I definitely want kind self talk for my kids." 

“It’s a constant journey but it’s one I know I want to be on so I just keep starting again and if I can be self-compassionate to myself, then I have something to give outside as well.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The role of self-compassion in parenting
  • The three tenets of self-compassion
  • Moving past the isolation of the shame of not meeting our own expectations
  • Over-identification with our problems and how mindfulness can make a difference
  • Worry and the reality of the lack of accuracy of our future prediction
  • Phases of parenting and worry
  • Brain development and parenting – developmental challenges
  • Getting out of the emotional whirlwind
  • The role of self-comfort, recognizing and acknowledging our own suffering
  • Self-compassion as a way to build capacity for parenting challenges
  • Self-compassion and it’s relationship to compassion we can extend to others
  • Self-compassion for avoiding depletion
  • Making self-compassion part of common language in the family
  • Family meetings as a vehicle for communicating self-compassion
  • Separating the child from the behavior
  • Problem solving to avoid over identification with problems
  • Fear as a barrier to positive parenting
  • Self care as self-compassion
  • What to do when you have no room for self-care

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think this question is such a great one and it changes often a little bit depending on what we are talking about but I wanted to bring it back to a self-compassion idea. So, joyful courage, when we talk about it today, I’m thinking it really means being able to be loving to myself, even when I don’t feel very lovable, be loving to myself and find that sense of happiness and peace and joy. So being able to push on through things, to hold myself, and know that I’m going to get through this, and I can do something different tomorrow, or I can continue to do it this way, whatever it is, whatever the message needs to be, courageously give yourself that message and you push forward and you’re loving and kind, not judge yourself and finding that you’re a part of many, many people struggling today and you’re not the problem. You’re okay in this moment.

Resources:

I don’t want to write the script for my child’s inner critic

Where to find Kelly:

Facebook

Twitter

Instagram

Website

Youtube

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Mar 20, 2018
Eps 135: Solo Show - Follow up of the Politics Show and Letting go of Attachment
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Not a lot of show notes today…  I am sharing the feedback and follow through of the Parents and Politics show and talking about letting go of attachment and fear.

Enjoy!!

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Intention Bracelets

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DAILY INTENTION CARDS

 

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Mar 13, 2018
Eps 134: Featuring Rebecca Eanes and the Positive Parenting Movement
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Today’s guest is Rebecca Eanes, the author of two books for parents: Positive Parenting The Essential Guide and The Newbie’s Guide to Positive Parenting. She is back to talk to us about her newest resource for parents: The Positive Parenting Workbook. Rebecca leads a community of over a million on her Facebook page, Positive Parenting Toddlers and Beyond.  Join us!

 “I see and speak about parenting as a journey… and the journey is a continuous invitation to continue to practice being the parent we want to be as often as possible.”

“Parenting is one long personal development workshop.”   

“My kids are the best mirrors because in them I have seen my own negative attitudes and bad moods and emotional reactions in really every area that I needed to improve upon.”

“I think we definitely grow ourselves up in the process of helping our kids grow up.”

“Our kids are going to make mistakes every day. If they had perfect parents, they would not know how to get through this world.” 

“Be as gentle and respectful with yourself as you are trying to be with your kids. You are not perfect either and you don’t have to be. We are all growing, we are all learning, we are all flawed, and we all need grace. This is a journey and there’s not a destination yet that I’ve seen. It’s an ever going thing so be good to yourself along the way.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Dealing with swearing and supporting kids in navigating different rules in different situations
  • Positive parenting and what it really means
  • The role of mutual respect in positive parenting
  • Identifying underlying issues under disrespect
  • Shifting focus: from disrespectful behavior itself to supporting learning that leads to respectful behavior.
  • Leadership in positive parenting
  • Non-negotiables and positive parenting
  • The value in personal development and parenting
  • Moving from behavior patrol to positive parenting
  • The origins of the Positive Parenting Workbook
  • Discipline as part of the parenting pie
  • 7 Pillars of family culture as part of positive parenting
  • Words of wisdom for parents working towards positive parenting

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think Joyful Courage means being brave enough to go against the grain to live true to you and confident enough to believe in yourself and to do so with joy.

Resources:

Positive Parents website
The Positive Parenting Workbook
The Newbie’s Guide to Positive Parenting
Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide
Positive Parenting In Action 

Where to find Rebecca:

Facebook
Twitter
Instagram
Positive Parents website
Pinterest
Creative Child Magazine 
Mother.ly

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DAILY INTENTION CARDS 

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Mar 06, 2018
Eps 133: Politics and Parenting
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Politics and Parenting - can we keep them separate?

Do we want to?

Issues:

  • Birth
  • Breastfeeding
  • Spanking
  • Schooling
  • Homework

 I am recoding Thursday, Feb 22, a week ago, a community woke up to realize that the tragedy that had rocked their community the day before was not a nightmare. 19 year old Nicholas Cruz showed up at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida and killed 17 people. Kids, adults, 17 people who are now being grieved by friends and family….

I am done with this headline

I am also done with feeling like I can’t speak my truth for fear of offending people.

I dove into following the teens that have been energized into action.

I posted my thoughts on my personal FB page.

Wednesday, I posted on my IG account and linked the post to my FB Biz page.

I posted a meme that said “The children almost broken by the world will become the adults who save it.” Crediting Frank Warren for the quote. Here is the post I wrote:

 

So here is how I am feeling.... My kids aren’t broken, HOWEVER this school shooting/random acts of violence BS had got to stop. Humans are hurting, guns are too available, schools aren’t secure - there is a lot going on under the surface here. I will no longer complain about it, I will ACT. I will be IN ACTION. And with this action I will inspire others to see how THEY can act, including the two that matter most to me. 
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Rowan and Ian, I love you. I will fight for you. I will get uncomfortable, and curious, and let go of what people think to fight for YOUR future and YOUR safety. You, and ALL kids deserve this from the adults that came before you.
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Stay tuned.

 

I got one reply from one of my followers asking me to not get political. She acknowledged that wasn’t why she followed me and advised me to continue on as the resource I am in creating change. She was totally respectful in her tone, however, she was clear with her message. 

Sorry, not sorry. I will not be silent. I am a political being. I speak about things that relate to the public affairs of our country.  WE ARE RAISING ADULTS – future leaders and citizens of the world – how is that not political???

I don’t imagine that everyone who follows Joyful Courage share all of my views. I am guessing that you all realize that I am a flaming liberal – and if you didn’t, well, cats out of the bag.

  • I support dignity and respect for all humans.
  • Black lives matter to me.
  • Immigrant lives matter to me.
  • Woman having equal rights, including rights over their body matters to me.
  • I believe that people have the right to gather and worship in a way that works for them.
  • I believe in climate change and the duty we ALL have to honor the earth.
  • I believe that people who are raised to feel connected, loved and as though they matter don’t show up at public or private events with the intent to kill.
  • I do not believe that private citizens have the right to own weapons of war.
  • I believe our schools should be safe and secure.
  • I do not believe that teachers should have guns.
  • I believe in a health care system that is proactive in supporting the mentally ill.
  • I believe in compassion.
  • I believe in civic action.

Some of what I just shared may turn you off to my work and my message. I hope it doesn’t, because at the most foundational level, I believe in love – living it, spreading it, being it. And that is what will save the world.

“Love thy neighbor as thyself” is a message of all major religions – and when THIS is our come-from, when THIS message is what we start to live, the world will be healed.

And I acknowledge that it isn’t easy. It isn’t easy to put ourselves out there and speak our truths

  • we don’t want to offend
  • we don’t want to argue
  • we worry about what people think
  • we want everyone to be comfortable

And right now the environment is so TOXIC! It is so challenging to talk about the issues that matter the most to us. It is scary to get vulnerable and say what we need to say, to lead from the front.

Today I declare that I am no longer going to worry about ruffling feathers. I will continue to share the content that you have come to love, and I will elevate it by pushing my fear aside.

I will bring more of myself.

I will bring more of my authenticity and truth.

I will leave behind wanting everyone to like me.

I am done with school shootings, and my guess is you are too.

It is time to have hard conversations.

It is time to look for solutions.

It is time to get involved, ask questions, reach out and trust that your voice is valued. 

Humans are hurting.

Weapons of war are too available.

Schools aren’t secure.

So lets do something about it.

Here is what I have done over the past few days….

  • I emailed the admin team at my daughters HS to voice my concern and to educate myself around what is already in place. I also offered myself as a community member to partner with them to be in deeper relationships with parents and community about how they are keeping our kids safe, including fostering a sense of belonging.
  • I put the monthly principal/parent meet-and-greets on my calendar so that I would go. I am not planning on being on the outside looking in anymore. I want those administrators to know me by name. I want to support them, challenge them and work with them to make my kids schools better
  • I put in a call to our district “safety and risk assessment” person. I left a message and will follow up with an email. Again, I invited myself into the conversation and offered myself as a partner in the work he is already doing.
  • I emailed out local “community coalition” about an idea of have for running a film festival in our town to highlight documentaries that invite conversations around teens and screens, toxic masculinity, the message our girls are getting, and anxiety. I am going to foster community conversations about the things so many of us have opinions and fears about but ARENT TALKING ABOUT.
  • All of this on top of calling my representative and showing up to meetings and rallies for smarter gun laws….

This may not have been why you tuned into the podcast today. I thought I gave a pretty good heads up with the title “Parenting and Politics”.  The good news is there are over 100 other episodes you can turn to today for parenting tips and inspiration.

Today is about action.

Thank you.

Thank you for listening. I feel as though it is my responsibility to speak these truth, it is my responsibility to not pretend that all is well and good and that the world our children are inheriting is going to magically be peaceful.

We are in the creation of the world we live in. Everything we do is part of the creation.

  • What we buy
  • Who we vote for
  • Whether or not we speak up when we get that intuitive hit that what we are witnessing is wrong

We are in the creation even when WE DO NOTHING. Even when we turn away because it is too hard, or too scary, or too vulnerable – we are STILL in the creation of the world we live in.

I choose to be in action. And I hope you join me.

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Feb 27, 2018
Eps 132: A conversation with Liz Haske about letting go of worry
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Today’s guest is Liz Haske, a mother, an international teacher and instructional coach and children’s book author. She has over 15 years elementary classroom experience in six different countries and is super passionate about empowering children to be their most courageous selves.  Her first book, When Worry Takes Hold, was released in November 2017 and aims to help young children cope with worry by using mindful breathing. Join us!

 

“It’s about a young girl who’s afraid to do different things and she realizes that she has the power inside her and if she puts her hands on her belly, she can be brave.”

 

“Stories help us be better people if we are reading the right books”

 

“We want to empower these little people to realize they can do it. They can develop the tools and they can be confident and they can face what is presented to them in healthy and positive ways.”

 

“Worry gets bigger and bigger the more that we do it.”

 

“We can be brave, and everyone has worries … whether it’s helping our kids be brave or us being brave to face whatever parenting challenge it may be.”

 

“Courage is just a deep breath away.” 

 

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The basis & inspiration for When Worry Takes Hold
  • Worry as a visitor and the power to ask it to leave
  • Acknowledging & expecting worry
  • Externalizing worry and setting limits
  • Following the why – getting to the root of big feelings
  • Manifestations and signs of worry
  • Addressing underlying worry vs. addressing the behaviors
  • Taking a wide view to problem solving worry
  • How not to take worry related behaviors personally
  • Why trying to talk kids out of their worries doesn’t work
  • Managing worry as a practice
  • Tools for managing worry and how they can be applied to other situations
  • Mindful breathing vs. “Let’s take some deep breaths”
  • The power of mindful breathing
  • How to know when to get professional help (duration, intensity, impact, age appropriateness)
  • Journaling worries to find patterns and icebergs
  • Liz’s upcoming projects on the horizon
  • The importance of exercising self-compassion

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I’m going to answer it in two parts. I’d say the first way, which is for me personally, is finally having the courage to do something I’ve been dreaming about for over ten years and the absolute joy of going through the learning process of taking an idea and turning it into something that kids can hold in their hands and hopefully read and become better because of it. So that is absolutely Joyful Courage.

But I think it’s also in the context of kids the feeling that they get when they face their fear and they realize how empowered they are. It might not be breathing is their strategy, but perhaps When Worry Takes Hold might be a book that just starts a conversation with them and an adult in their life that, “Yeah, you know what, I do get a bit worried. Let’s try this breathing thing.” And, “You know what? This breathing thing isn’t working for me.” But then, there’s now this opening for more tools to be introduced because it’s something that’s been brought to the surface.

The book ends with, “Courage is just a deep breath away.” I think that when children can realize this, they’re empowered. There’s really a pure sense of pride and joy in being brave and finding courage and so that’s kind of what it means to me.  

Resources:

When Worry Takes Hold

Where to find Liz:

Facebook

Instagram

Website

Twitter

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Feb 20, 2018
Eps 131: How to use routines to shift the dynamics in your home
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A solo show all about routines

There are a couple tools, that when put into place, make the whole parenting journey easier.  You have heard me talk about special time, that one on one time that is so important for building relationship and a solid foundation of belonging and significance for our kids.

Challenges coming up in the LLWJC group

  • mornings, bedtimes, defiance, meltdowns, sibling issues
    • We find ourselves putting out fires
    • We find ourselves being overtaxed
    • We find ourselves slipping OUT of who we want to be and INTO crazy parent
    • This is also where we loose sight of the way that we are contributing to the chaos at hand….
      • We blame out kids
      • We fall into the trap of “it is always so difficult”
      • We forget that there is always a flow that comes after the ebb….

Yes, special time helps with the challenges mentioned about.

The relationship we nurture with our kids is what has the biggest impact on their behavior, absolutely.

AND, another tool that is super helpful to come back to, again and again, is co-creating routines.

Now, if you are someone with challenges in the morning, or after school, you may be thinking, but we have a routine, and it isn’t working!!!

GREAT.

Not all routines are created equal.

  • Routines are made to be modified and changed up
  • Routines designed to be HELPFUL for everyone will be the most USEFUL

Mindset matters

  • This is not about getting your kids to do what you want them to do
  • This is about helping your children feel like capable, contributing members of the family
  • This is about the process, the opportunity that exists inside the challenge that is currently at the surface

Take a deeper look…

  • Co creating routines means that you are CO CREATING
  • Find a time of day when everyone is feeling good, connected
  • Opening up the conversation to child about how they experience the challenging time of day, validate their feelings, listen and let them know you are taking their sharing to heart – this is not time to talk them out of what they are experiencing or getting them to “see your side”
  • Clear out the space through taking accountability for your behavior. This is really important.
  • Ask for their help to make that time of day easier/better for everyone
  • Brainstorm ideas/tasks
  • Offer/counter offer if you need to
  • Be open to their ideas
  • Be firm/not rigid around your non-negotiables
    • “This is what is important to me, how could we make that work?”
    • “What is your idea for that?”
  • Cross off anything that isn’t related/reasonable/respectful/helpful on the list
  • Work together to create a visual reminder
  • Try it for a week

But, but, but what if it doesn’t “work”

  • Shifting to what is “helpful”
  • Focus on the process
  • TRUST the process
  • Let the routine be the boss
  • Revisit at the end of the week and tweak if necessary

So many routines….

  • Housework
  • Family Meetings
  • Mornings
  • Afterschool
  • Bedtime

Take it slow – let go of urgency

How you show up matters

Be in your practice of curiosity and openness – catch yourself when you want to judge  (roshambo/coin flip) Currently in a new routine of turning screens off from 5-7.  This is a slippery place for us….

Recently posted a handout on the live and love page – will put it in the show notes – for walking through this process. Let me know if you have any questions!

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Feb 13, 2018
Eps 130: Ending the Food Battle with Julie Miller
43:21

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Julie Miller is on with us!

Julie is on a mission to live a delicious life and bring joy back to the family dinner table.  She is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist and Certified Positive Discipline Parenting Educator who holds a Master’s Degree in Human Nutrition from Bastyr University.  She has over 16 years’ experience sharing food and nutrition philosophy with diverse communities throughout the Seattle area. 

Julie currently specializes in helping families find their own positive feeding dynamic so that food is less of a parenting chore and more of a nourishing experience.  She believes that connection between adults, children and food sets the stage for a lifetime of personal wellness, including healthy eating.  Julie knows, as a Mom, that the constant demand to prepare and serve food can get just a wee bit tiring and tricky.  She emphasizes reducing the drama and eating minimally processed foods, while ensuring that children and adults meet their nutritional needs to support growth, development and wellbeing.   

Content:

  • Got into nutrition for personal reasons
  • Had kids and discovered PD
  • So much judgment in parenting – especially fierce around food
  • Helps parents to make parenting around food a nourishing experience for everyone
  • Most typical complaint? “I don’t like it”
  • Second biggest? Picky eating
  • Parental Fatigue – parents DON’T want to cook but DO want to feel kids good food
  • PD says – “Eating, sleeping, pottying, you can’t make them do it!”
  • You CAN work on belonging, significance and influence
  • They need to be guided, not forced
  • Division of responsibility – defining roles (Ellen Satter’s work)
    • Parent responsible for what, when, where AND maintaining connection
    • Child responsible for what they eat and how much
  • Story about Rowan drinking caffeine
  • Over 12 100mg isn’t terrible
  • Under 12 no caffeine
  • Guide THEM in using the information to make informed choices
  • Until it is personally meaningful for them to feel the effects of their choices, behavior won’t change
  • AND they learn what they live
  • Before bed snacks….
    • Timing
  • Thank you bites??
  • What about suggesting…..
    • Serve food family style. Parents can mentioned all the items that are available, then the parents job is done….
  • What about the salad??
  • Short term vs long term goals
  • Let go of judgement
  • Invite kids into planning/cooking to bulk up their belonging/significance/influence
  • Your job is to provide food, provide some structure and love them unconditionally
  • Let go of self judgement/what others think/fear <3

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage to me is the invitation to live boldly with your own truth, to hold tight to your own convictions and values for your family and your children, and to do it in a joyful way….

Find Julie:

www.harmonioustable.net
email at jmillernutrition@comcast.net
Live workshops in Seattle – reach out to hire Julie

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Joyful Courage SHIRTS

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Feb 06, 2018
Eps 129: Solo Show - Using the Iceberg Metaphor to Understand Behavior
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Content:

Solo show today – from the car….  Thank you for having grace for my audio quality this week!! Feeling inspired to share with you on my way to yoga class.

All about the Iceberg Metaphor

  • Shout out to all the parents of teens out there who are showing up and sharing and willing to be vulnerable
  • Connecting seeing an iceberg as a metaphor for children’s behavior
  • Unwanted behavior is the “tip” of the iceberg
    • The behavior that we see
  • Under the surface -
    • What’s opening the door to the behavior?
      • Perception of connection
      • Perception of influence
      • Perception of mattering
      • Trauma/adversity
        • Kids are ALWAYS making meaning with their underdeveloped brain – and forming beliefs from that place
      • Lacking skills for navigating the challenges/emotions that show up
    • Moving from a place of strengthening relationship as a way to understand what is below the surface, to help us influence the behavior at the tip
    • Episode 104 on Making Amends
    • Always be moving towards nurturing relationship
  • What are some of the things YOU do to look under the surface? Head over to Live and Love with Joyful Courage and share!

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You will increase your awareness around the areas you are stuck (you know, the irritation that never seems to go away... the exhaustion, the guilt and shame that shows up so often after you have "dealt with" the challenges your kids bring on a regular basis.

You will spend time exploring new choices, new ways of being...  Inviting in the qualities that are missing.  Love, compassion, self-acceptance and non-judgement...  You will learn how to open up your body and allow these emotions in.

You will create a practice for teaching your body and mind a NEW pattern, making this new way of being more readily available when you need it.

SO EXCITED to share this with you!  Get more info and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/joy

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Jan 30, 2018
Eps 128: Liz Blackwell-Moore is on Breaking Down how to Navigate Adolescents and Drug Use (YIKES!)
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Alright - My guest today is Liz Blackwell-Moore. I connected with Liz through my friend, and one of your fave podcast guests, Julietta Skoog from besproutable.com. I am so excited to have Liz on today to talk about an incredibly relevant topic – kids and drugs. GAH. I know. No one really WANTS to talk about this, but we have to.

Liz has been working in the field of substance use since 2000. Her current work involves working with community coalitions and organizations to provide training on prevention strategies as well as technical assistance to translate public health research into practice and implement a restorative trauma-informed approach to addressing public health problems.

So basically, Liz is going to break it all down for us in a way that is helpful.  She lives in Portland, Maine with her wife, two happy kids, and a puppy.

Content:

  • Liz shares about her early work with people involved with substance abuse and was drawn to exploring prevention work
  • How can we make “systems” (including the family) better for young people, with more support in their lives?
  • What the “risk taking years” feels like, according to Casey
  • Liz shares her moms’ analogy of the two boats
  • Adolescent brain development
    • It’s like a house being build bottom up
    • Built through interactions and the environment kids experience
    • Reward center develops first – ready to go, “volume turned up”
    • Front, logical part of brain not fully developed, and not integrated
    • W/o the desire to try new things, how would they ever leave home??
  • The perception and science of marijuana and adolescence
    • National Academy of Sciences – research on the research
      • Young people using
        • Impacts learning and memory
        • Significant effects on mental health
          • “Regular use” – once every 30 days
          • 2xs more likely to become depressed
          • 3xs more likely to have suicidal thoughts
          • Kids with MH issues are more likely to use/self-medicate
        • Initially make people feel calm/relaxed
          • Brain likes to do what’s easy so eventually wants more
        • What about vaping
          • Tobacco companies are SO LAME – trying to suck in kids
          • Some kids just the flavoring
            • Not regulated – we don’t know what is in it
          • Lots of kids ARE putting nicotine and weed into the vape
        • All drugs impact the reward center of the brain – putting young people at a greater risk of addiction later in life
          • Rewires/primes the brain for addiction
        • How do we get them to wait????
        • Relationship is the most powerful tool we have… Share our values…  AND – THEY HAVE CRAZY REWARD CENTERS!!!  GAH!!!
          • Be present, listen, develop a strong relationship
          • Set clear expectations – bring it up in a variety of ways
          • Continue to bring it back to what their goals are, how might risky behavior get in the way?
          • Help them to “see” the bigger picture
          • Restorative practices: Hold them accountable while offering support
            • What are you getting out of this?
            • What were you thinking?
            • How else can you get thrills?
            • Social connection?
            • Is this a mental health issue?
          • Having these conversations REQUIRES the adults to be in solid relationship with their kids
          • Also, our stuff shows up and gets in the way – fear, rigidity
          • Ok to say, “this is disappointing” “this is hard for me” – they need to know how they are impacting their parents
          • Teens aren’t great with nuance
          • SLEEP MATTERS!!
          • Natural consequences are powerful
          • Boundaries are MESSY
          • How do we balance nurture and structure?? It’s a dance
          • How do we know when it really is a problem?
            • Major changes in physical appearance
            • Personality
            • Participation
            • Peer group changes
            • Public image has changed
          • org – online resources
          • 20-minute guide – helping parents use motivational interviewing 20inuteguide.com
          • Find your people!
          • There is uncertainty and change AND we all have flexible, learning brains – we can be resilient!!

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

For me it means trying to see those amazing things that are happening as you move through adolescence – having the courage to stick with your values and follow our instincts…

Resources:
https://the20minuteguide.com/
http://www.drugfree.org/

Good reading on the teen brain:
Dan Siegel Brainstorm
Francis Jensen The Teenage Brain

Links for young people:
http://www.teen.drugabuse.gov/
*This is National Institute of Drug Abuse website for teens

http://www.protectwhatsnext.com/
*This is a website out of Colorado for young people specifically about marijuana use

Where to find Liz:

Birchlanestrategies.com (under-construction)
Linked in

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Journey to Joy Ecourse

Journey to Joy is a 3-part offer. 

Each Module contains a video, audio and workbook to guide you in doing your work.

You will increase your awareness around the areas you are stuck (you know, the irritation that never seems to go away... the exhaustion, the guilt and shame that shows up so often after you have "dealt with" the challenges your kids bring on a regular basis.

You will spend time exploring new choices, new ways of being...  Inviting in the qualities that are missing.  Love, compassion, self-acceptance and non-judgement...  You will learn how to open up your body and allow these emotions in.

You will create a practice for teaching your body and mind a NEW pattern, making this new way of being more readily available when you need it.

SO EXCITED to share this with you!  Get more info and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/joy

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?

Joyful Courage SHIRTS

Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world.

DAILY INTENTION CARDS 

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

:::::

Be a Subscriber

Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!!

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Jan 23, 2018
Eps 127: A solo show about WHY our job is to hold space for our kids and HOW to do it
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Holding space for having a 15 YEAR OLD!!  WHOA!!

What is happening in the BIZ

  • Membership is HAPPENING
  • Alumni group calls
  • Ecourses
  • Coaching calls
    • What is happening in the collective is happening in the individual
    • I speak to the community and I am speaking to myself
    • TRUST – BIG PICTURE – MARATHON NOT A SPRINT

How to “hold the container”

  • Jessica talking about “our job is to be the container”
  • Present, available, confident – even as our kids are making mistakes
  • I got you – I am unconditional

Our response matters

  • Who we be comes before what we do
    • We can handle it
    • Everything will be ok, or not, either way, we stand by our kids
    • We trust that they can handle what life gives them, and we support them inside of that (the world’s consequences, etc)
  • What to do becomes more clear when we practice being in the moment, vs in our emo/fear
    • Learn how to recognize we are there when we are there
    • Practice being with our overwhelm without letting it takes us over (observers)
      • Simple but not easy!!! Takes time!!
    • What we are trying to do is REWIRE the brain (Tina Bryson show 126)
    • Be witness to the presence of the emotional freight train, but let it idle
      • My book!!! Next Fall!!!  WOOHOO

Our kids make mistakes

  • Lagging skills/ impulse/ brain development – DON’T BE SURPRISED BY IT
  • Cause and effect
  • Pushing boundaries to know where they are and who YOU are in the process
    • Making judgements about themselves and their peeps
      • Trust? Safety? Dependability? Can they handle this???

BUT WHAT DO WE DO???

  • Alfie Kohn, Unconditional Parenting – “I am not going to sit here and pretend that I have all the answers to all of your problems. I don’t know you or your families…”
  • What are the outcomes that you want? What are the skills that you are hoping that your adult child will one day embody?
    • What are the skills your child is showing you (through behavior) that they are missing?
    • What is a solution to the challenge that will help them learn those skills?
    • Is there something to “make right”?
    • How can you say less and listen more???
    • Remember – finding solutions to problems, including a “plan for next time” or a “plan to fix the mistake/make things right,” finding solutions are always consequences – HOWEVER consequences that we impose on our children are NOT always a solution to problems.
      • WHAT DO WE DO often is a request for “what do we do to them?”

Kids do better when they feel better. – Jane Nelsen

Kids want to succeed, they don't always know how. – Ross Greene

A Misbehaving child is a discouraged child. – Rudolf Dreikurs

Humans are always moving towards a sense of belonging and significance, am I connected? Do I matter? – from Aderian Theory

The most powerful tool you have for influencing behavior is the relationship that you nurture with your child. Choosing into the work of Joyful Courage, which really means being willing to grow and practice awareness, being present to your child and your experience, and hold space for your kids, no matter how they are showing up, THIS will nurture and preserve relationship.

So – what do you think? Does this make sense to you?? Do you have thoughts about this?

Come join the community discussion over in Live and Love with Joyful Courage. This is a closed FB group for listeners and parents that appreciate this conversation and are committed to learning and supporting each other on the journey.

Thank you so much for listening today – super DUPER appreciate all you moms and dads out there doing the work of making the world a better place through showing up well for your children!!

I will be back next week with Liz Blackwell-Moore talking about teens and drugs – GAH!!!  I know – it’s scary, but listen anyways because she is brilliant and the conversation is helpful!!

Big love!!

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Each Module contains a video, audio and workbook to guide you in doing your work.

You will increase your awareness around the areas you are stuck (you know, the irritation that never seems to go away... the exhaustion, the guilt and shame that shows up so often after you have "dealt with" the challenges your kids bring on a regular basis.

You will spend time exploring new choices, new ways of being...  Inviting in the qualities that are missing.  Love, compassion, self acceptance and non-judgement...  You will learn how to open up your body and allow these emotions in.

You will create a practice for teaching your body and mind a NEW pattern, making this new way of being more readily available when you need it.

SO EXCITED to share this with you!  Get more info and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/joy

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Joyful Courage SHIRTS

Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world.

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Jan 16, 2018
Eps 126: Tina Bryson is BACK teaching us about nurturing a YES BRAIN
36:14

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Tina Bryson is BACK ON the podcast today!!  You all remember Tina from Eps 100 – which happens to be THE most downloaded show to date of this podcast.

Tina co-authored two of MY fave parenting books, the whole brain child and no drama discipline with Dan Siegel and she is BACK on the podcast today to talk about her NEW book, the yes brain.

I am THRILLED she is back on….

Content:

  • The Yes Brain is available NOW
  • Tina is a mama to 17, 14, and 11 year boys
  • Yes brain and no brain approaches
    • A “yes brain” is a mindset of saying yes to the world, open – neurological state, our brain is integrated and linked up… Over time it becomes hardwired
    • A “no brain” is fearful, reactive
  • Prompted by “what are the skills my child needs to be successful?” – Tina and Dan Siegel wanted to go beyond academics and gold stars
    • They need an integrated brain that has a strong/functioning prefrontal cortex
  • Yes Brain has 4 Components:
    • Balance
    • Resilience
    • Insight
    • Empathy
  • Developmental brain/age/temperament matters
  • Tina shares a story about her own son who seemed to be lacking empathy at a young age
  • Brain develops through experience - What we emphasize (as parents) in our interactions create new linking connection in the brain.
  • Use books, shows, and real world experiences to model and draw forth empathy in our kids
  • Trust development, trust that what you are doing will pay off
  • Supporting our children in feeling their feelings – support them as they practice tolerating difficult feelings
  • Normalize difficult feelings…
  • 2-3 tools to put into practice:
    • Sleep!!!
      • When we sleep the brain LITERALLY freshens up
    • Survive emotional dysregulation
      • When kids are at their worst is when they need us the most
      • Co-regulaton – a soothing presence to communicate “you’re safe, I’m here”
      • Build/teach skills to help them regulate themselves – GREEN ZONE
      • Check out Eps 100 to hear Tina dig deeper into this
      • Teach them to understand themselves
    • Rethinking success
      • Our children having an authentic self that they can trust
      • It’s about the journey and not JUST the destination
      • BIGGER than gold stars and academics
    • Eudaimonia – happiness comes from meaning, connection and peaceful contentment

Tinabryson.com

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Journey to Joy Ecourse

Journey to Joy is a 3 part offer. 

Each Module contains a video, audio and workbook to guide you in doing your work.

You will increase your awareness around the areas you are stuck (you know, the irritation that never seems to go away... the exhaustion, the guilt and shame that shows up so often after you have "dealt with" the challenges your kids bring on a regular basis.

You will spend time exploring new choices, new ways of being...  Inviting in the qualities that are missing.  Love, compassion, self acceptance and non-judgement...  You will learn how to open up your body and allow these emotions in.

You will create a practice for teaching your body and mind a NEW pattern, making this new way of being more readily available when you need it.

SO EXCITED to share this with you!  Get more info and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/joy

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets 

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?.

Joyful Courage SHIRTS

Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world.

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Jan 09, 2018
Eps 125: Solo Show About Goals, Practice and Living Committed
27:02

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Welcome, thank you for showing up!

Content:

Super happy new year

  • Love that everything is possible
  • Fresh opportunities
  • Embodiment of excitement/anticipation

 The work of parenting….

  • Really the work of human-ing
  • Being in relationship with self/others
  • Recognizing our own conditioning and breaking through to our souls desires
  • Honored to support

Todays topic – what it means to hold the container and get the results you WANT

My experience of big goals and daily intentions/practices – a bit from my conversation with Edna – areas of growth for me around supporting my clients in declaring and creating results in their lives.

  • Overarching goals “What do you want at the end of our work? How will you measure success?” This can be anything from potty trained toddlers (Katie’s reflection)/easier bedtime/deeper relationship with teens (Lorrianes feedback)/less yelling and more loving…
    • Some is easy to measure, some, not so much….
    • PLUS it is a pendulum swing
  • Many. Small. Steps.

It is so important to set goals – that way you know where you are going.

  • Cruise control vs being intentional
  • Being intentional DOES require you to face some hard truths sometimes, to bump up against thoughts/ beliefs / emotions that maybe you have become really skilled at avoiding
  • AND to live the fullest, most authentic life, we must make room for ALL of it – even the stuff that is hard

 Setting goals

  • I have weekly, monthly, quarterly and annual goals
  • They all feed into each other
  • The baby steps I take during the week set up my for the monthly goals,etc
  • The ANNUAL GOALS are the container (remember, I mentioned that earlier?)

 Living the practice

  • It’s not even really about the goals, it is about the journey TO the goals.
  • It is about going 100%
    • Reference Krista’s blog post about 100% is easy
    • https://boldlyembodylife.com/bold-notes/.
  • It’s every moment of saying yes to the practice we have decided to commit to.
  • “To be responsible, keep your promises to others, to be successful, keep your promises to yourself.” – Marie Forleo
    • what this means to me….
    • Yes to myself for myself
    • How that then influences the entire ecosystem around me
      • What do I mean by ecosystem?
      • What happens in a healthy environment? Everything is influenced

My goals for 2018

  • Biz
    • Ok – you all know how completely passionate I am about Joyful Courage
      • Elevation with programs and podcast
      • Being my OWN sponsor
      • Continuously working to streamline the exchange of service <3
    • Family
      • SPECIAL TIME
        • Family meetings - VIGILANT
        • Small weekly “dates”
        • Monthly bigger “dates”
          • CONNECTION CONNECTION CONNECTION
        • Personal
          • HEALTH
            • Sacred mornings
            • Whole 30/ fueling my body with what it NEEDS
            • MOVEMENT – yoga every day

 Mistakes and compassion

  • Ebbs and flows
  • Stumbling blocks challenges
    • ALL OF THIS ^^ is a PART OF THE PATH
    • Wake up calls to more intention!
    • Things to CELEBRATE

Always moving forward

  • What are your goals for 2018?
  • What will you be practicing daily?
  • How will you support yourself in this important work?
  • Do you want a community?
    • SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS HERE

OH – also wanted to share my WORD OF THE YEAR!!!

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Journey to Joy Ecourse

Journey to Joy is a 3 part offer. 

Each Module contains a video, audio and workbook to guide you in doing your work. 

You will increase your awareness around the areas you are stuck (you know, the irritation that never seems to go away... the exhaustion, the guilt and shame that shows up so often after you have "dealt with" the challenges your kids bring on a regular basis.

You will spend time exploring new choices, new ways of being...  Inviting in the qualities that are missing.  Love, compassion, self acceptance and non-judgement...  You will learn how to open up your body and allow these emotions in.

You will create a practice for teaching your body and mind a NEW pattern, making this new way of being more readily available when you need it.

SO EXCITED to share this with you!  Get more info and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/joy

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All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes

Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?.

Joyful Courage SHIRTS

Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world.

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!!

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Jan 02, 2018
Eps 124: Conscious Communication with Lori Petro
42:33

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Content:

My guest today is Lori Petro.  Lori is passionate about conscious parenting and was a guest on Episode 62. She is an advocate for children and families, a parent educator, mama and founder of Teach Through Love.

  • Lori’s journey began as being a misunderstood kid… Followed by HAVING a child and wanting to provide her with something different than what she experienced
  • Lori is a creator/artist at heart wanting to created compassion and understanding in our communication with each other
  • Inspired to create a better world for her kid and everyone else to live in
  • Conscious communication cards
    • Conscious communication – supporting parents in taking their understanding of conscious parenting into the language and way of being they bring to their relationships
    • Staying present and leaving the blame, shame, judgment and guilt behind
  • Communication includes messages we deliver with what we SAY, as well as what we DON’T say, our tone, our body language – we are always sending messages
  • Parents do TO the children to get them to be what we want them to be…. It’s about allowing our kids HAVE THE EXPERIENCE and learning from there
  • SEEING our children in their emotion/experience
  • They are there to provoke us in our own self awareness
  • Listening to understand…. Lean in to understanding our children’s experience and what it is like to BE them… (Lori shares lip gloss story) Otherwise we miss the fullness of what is their life (Casey shares crop top story)
  • Not about saying the perfect right thing, it’s about continuing the conversation with our kids around the places where we want a deeper understanding
    • Tell me more about that…
    • It’s bigger than the make-up and the crop top
    • Opens up conversation
  • Conversations to understand vs conversation that are ultimately begun to convince our kids that we are right and they are wrong
  • 20:40 Aware of when our agenda of fear is clouding their experience of growing into their own maturity
  • Conscious parenting is not one long negotiation
    • Being firm is a piece of it
    • Be ok when kids don’t like the boundary
  • Conscious communication cards
    • Came from ideas that Lori posted on line every week
    • Developed into a model for her parenting program
    • Stress/skills/support
      • Am I looking to help my child regulate? (stress)
      • Am I trying to help my child build and emerging skill? (skills)
      • Am I trying to mend/repair relationship? (support)
    • Divided into two section
      • Behaviors/words to avoid
      • Examples of what to say/directions to go in
    • Target cards
      • What you can look for to find the root cause of behavior
      • 5 steps for peaceful resolution
    • Parents use the cards in many different ways
      • Post them in their world
      • Sit with them at the end of the day and review them
    • IT’S A PRACTICE
      • Daily
      • Progress not perfection (even for Lori)
    • Our brains never stop developing and we can always learn new skills
      • We still have not great parenting moments but we OWN IT
    • Lori shares about her personal practices
      • Finding work/life balance
      • Meditation
      • DAILY mindfulness

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Not doing things that my heart doesn’t want to do – to not do anything because I was guilted into it, then I am not doing it because I want to , but because I feel less of myself. And I am trying to move out of any victim thinking, or less than thinking…  Up our self worth as parents then offer that to our kids.

Where to find Lori: 

Website l Facebook

Conscious Communication Cards

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Intention Bracelets

 Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?.

Joyful Courage SHIRTS

Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world.

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

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Dec 26, 2017
Eps 123: Solo Show - Navigating Big Emotions From Grownups and Kids
28:18

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SOLO SHOW

Context – we all have the power and the skills to be the parent we want to be 

A recent post from the Live and Love with Joyful Courage community:

Can we talk about sharing our big feelings with our kids?

My kids are 2.5 and 4.5yo, and I don't know how to share my big feelings in front of them without freaking them out. I want to be able to be my full and authentic self with them, in an age appropriate way. And I realize, the fact that they are upset when I am upset means that they are afraid of my big feelings and may be afraid of their own big feelings. We try to welcome their big feelings (tantrums, disappointment, etc.) but I think we do a miserable job at it.

Compounding this, I am someone with explosive emotions. I tend to feel things very deeply and it takes me time to calm down. I have worked hard to make sure I don't express those emotions in a negative or scary way. But instead I most often bottle them up, which isn't good either.

Celebrating awareness. Celebrating emotional intelligence. Celebrating authenticity. Celebrating personal responsibility.

Misconceptions (in general):

  • not ok for our children to see us upset
  • not ok for our children to FEEL upset
    • they’re being naughty
    • they’re manipulating
    • they’re learning “bad behavior”
  • welcoming big feelings is the same as condoning hurtful behavior

This is a POWERFUL example of what I think is the PURPOSE of parenting:

  • to grow into our best selves

Children are mirrors

  • not mimics
  • instead, provide a reflection of how we effect the world, what our impact is, what we are inviting

Children/parenting journey is an invitation

  • recognizing conditioning
  • recognizing what our “driver” is
  • recognize commitment vs attachment
    • Committed to being a connected parent vs attachment to what that looks like (slippery, perfectionism, comparison) 

Children/parenting journey is unrelenting

  • The lessons come every day, moment to moment
  • The growth is like peeling an onion
  • There is no where to ARRIVE

Child/parenting journey is an opportunity to grow

  • I can’t say this enough
  • Where are your hard edges?
  • Where is there room for self growth?
  • Where can flexibility show up inside of rigidity
    • “I am someone with explosive emotions.”
    • We are ALWAYS evolving
      • What can we learn about ourselves?
      • What can we practice that will be more helpful and less hurtful?
      • How can we deliver our experiences and be heard?
      • How can we create a PRACTICE that honors us and our experience while also models the life skills we want our children to one day embody?
        • Practices are UNIQUE and INDIVIDUAL
        • The myth of “balance”
        • Assumptions about our “roles”

Taking care of ourselves and our own self-regulation, in the end, will do more to teach our children and influence their behavior than any tool you can find in a book or the internet.

You’ve got this!

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Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?. Find them at http://www.joyfulcourage.com/mantra-bracelets/

Joyful Courage SHIRTS!!

Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world.

Get yours now à http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jcshirts

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

Get yours now – http://www.joyfulcourage.com/intentioncards

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LIVING JOYFUL COURAGE MEMBERSHIP 2018

YES!!. Doors are OPEN for 15% off the price if you are READY to be a yes to the 2018 LJC Membership Program.

On my journey of strengthening my awareness and practicing conscious parenting, LJC is the support and inspiration I NEED to put the knowledge and tools I have to work in real life, every single day. I am deeply grateful for this group of incredible women and for Casey.  - Mama Lauren

Sign up now http://www.joyfulcourage.com/living-jc/

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Dec 19, 2017
Eps 122: Shameproof Parenting with Mercedes Samudio
52:50

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Hey everybody, welcome to the Joyful Courage Podcast, a place for information and inspiration on the conscious parenting journey. I am Casey O’Roarty, Positive Discipline Trainer, Parent Coach, and honored to be your guide in the work of showing up as your best for yourself and your family.

If you feel as though parenting is one long personal growth and development workshop, you have come to the right place. The conversations you will here on this podcast are all intended to offer you tools for moving forward, for expanding your lens, and for shifting your narrative to one of possibility, connection and empowerment.

You CAN be the parent you want to be. 

We are influencing the world with how we raise our children. When we bring deep listening, acceptance, and courage to our relationships, we are doing our part to evoke it in the world. I am thrilled to partner with you on this path.

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Welcome Mercedes Samudio.  For almost a decade, Mercedes has been working with families  to help them develop healthy communication skills, manage severe emotional issues, develop coping skills to manage behaviors, create dynamic parent-child relationships, and navigate social media & technology as a family.

Throughout the course of her career she has worked with adoptive families, foster families, teen parents, parents navigating the child protective services system, and children living with mental illness.

In 2014, Mercedes began to transition into her private practice where she focuses on parent coaching and guiding families to reducing unwanted behaviors, developing effective parenting strategies, creating healthy communication habits, and designing social media/tech plans for their household.

Content:

  • Mercedes talks about her background experience with teen parents
  • Supporting parents in being confident in their ever evolving parenting identity
  • Where #endparentshaming came from
  • Others/media offering mixed judgments – no one changes when they feel shame/unsafe
  • Movement to get people to see that even when others are doing things you don’t agree with, how to step into empathy to see where they need support
  • People doing the best they can with the tools they have
  • Shame as a defense to our own discomfort
  • “Raising a human while trying to be authentically human yourself”
  • You are bigger than your parent role
  • Take time to focus on self and partner as a tool for surrendering to what your child’s current challenge is
  • When we focus solely on our child’s mistakes, all we see are their mistakes
  • Bring the skills/areas of other parts of our life into the parts that feel a bit shakey
  • 10,000 feet view
  • We have our own shame conversations….
    • Reframe the expectations you have of yourself
    • Example: how do you deal with things when you are angry?
    • What do I need, what can I do for myself?
    • How can I use my support system to help me?
  • The misperception that conscious parenting shouldn’t be hard
  • Conscious parenting requires us to be conscious parenting
  • 18:30 quote
  • People are attached to their shame – the stories feel familiar
  • Figure out what your stories are that take you to shame
  • People grow and change in space that is free from shame and judgement
  • Considering FOO – Family Of Origin
    • Write down why these relationships matter to you
    • Still want connection…
    • Let them know WHY you want to stay connected (be specific)
    • Then, share what it is that you are going to be practicing and invite the family member into supporting you
    • Ask for alignment
  • CONNECT BEFORE CORRECT (not just for kids J )
  • Set you boundaries to keep YOUR bucket full for YOU family
  • Shameproof Parenting by Mercedes
  • How to build support with other parents and non parents
  • A shame proof village!

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Being able to find joy even in the times when it’s not happening... I’m still showing up.

Where to find Mercedes: 

Website l You Tube

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Intention Bracelets

Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?. Find them at http://www.joyfulcourage.com/mantra-bracelets/

Joyful Courage SHIRTS!!

Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world.

Get yours now à http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jcshirts

DAILY INTENTION CARDS

What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice.

Get yours now – http://www.joyfulcourage.com/intentioncards

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LIVING JOYFUL COURAGE MEMBERSHIP 2018

 

YES!!. Doors are OPEN for 15% off the price if you are READY to be a yes to the 2018 LJC Membership Program.

 

On my journey of strengthening my awareness and practicing conscious parenting, LJC is the support and inspiration I NEED to put the knowledge and tools I have to work in real life, every single day. I am deeply grateful for this group of incredible women and for Casey.  - Mama Lauren

 

Sign up now http://www.joyfulcourage.com/living-jc/

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Dec 12, 2017
Eps 121: Solo show about Intention, Listening, and Courageous Parenting
35:55

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Hey everybody, welcome to the Joyful Courage Podcast, a place for information and inspiration on the conscious parenting journey. I am Casey O’Roarty, Positive Discipline Trainer, Parent Coach, and honored to be your guide in the work of showing up as your best for yourself and your family.

If you feel as though parenting is one long personal growth and development workshop, you have come to the right place. The conversations you will here on this podcast are all intended to offer you tools for moving forward, for expanding your lens, and for shifting your narrative to one of possibility, connection and empowerment.

You CAN be the parent you want to be. 

We are influencing the world with how we raise our children. When we bring deep listening, acceptance, and courage to our relationships, we are doing our part to evoke it in the world. I am thrilled to partner with you on this path.

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Intro Sharing:

  • Visioning about supporting all of you!!
  • E-League
  • The conversations I want to be having on the show… Minding the gap, supporting you ALL in being the parenting you want to be when it is hard to do!
    • If you want to show up different you MUST practice doing the work, leaning in, choosing YES

Content:

What it means to be intentional

  • Bringing qualities to OUR body and OUR experience
  • Present moment is key
  • Awareness is grown through practice 

Getting hooked

  • Our kids behavior as bids
  • The lob
  • Passing on the uncomfortable energy to someone else that can hold it
  • Development

Listening, Acceptance and Courage

  • Others – what is being said, isn’t being said, body, etc
  • Self – get still and listen to our inner voice, NOT THE EGO, but the voice that is deeper
    • What is your current story about yourself and your family?
    • Is it true?
    • Byron Katie – turn it around
    • Is it true
      • Finding evidence
    • Accept that this is where you are at.
      • Noticing urgency/frantic energy
        • Unless there is an emergency, this is not helpful
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        • Breath
        • Body
        • Balcony
      • Courage to trust
        • Follow your intuition
        • Let it go/surrender
        • Trust the people in your life
        • Trust the process
        • Trust that the people in your life want to live their best life too
          • Making decisions for ourselves VS against the other person/expectation

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Dec 05, 2017
Eps 120: Dr. Robin McEvoy is on Talking About Decoding our Children with Complex Issues
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Dr. Robin McEvoy is a developmental neuropsychologist practicing in Denver, Colorado.  She evaluates and diagnoses a wide range of learning disabilities and learning needs in children, adolescents and adults. This includes the identification of reading disabilities such as dyslexia. She then works with the family to develop a treatment plan to remediate the weaknesses and accentuate strengths. In addition to her private practice, Dr. McEvoy is an assistant professor at the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center. Dr. McEvoy has authored a children’s book, Buddy: A Story for Dyslexia  (illustrated by her daughter).  She is the co-author/editor of the recently published book, Child Decoded: Unlocking Complex Issues in Your Child’s Learning, Behavior, and Attention.

Content:

  • Child Decoded – inspired by the tough expectations and increase in labeling/diagnoses of academic/social development.
  • Using a master checklist as a guide for finding what it is they need
  • Checklist is a triage
  • Looking under the surface – physical/biomedical limitations
  • Diet and gut and neurons
  • Parents navigating all the services for their children with complex issues – and feeling as though no one else can “see” their child the way that they can
  • Gather evidence with video and photo to share information about your child
  • Child Decoded fills that gap for parents to go from “I have worries” to restarting when parents feeling stuck in the treatment/not sure what to do or where to go next
  • Modify the environment vs supporting our kids in living in the “real world”
  • Paradigm shift – we can be seeing every child in a more holistic way, look at every child as an individual… Mind AND body
  • Current lens – we tend to treat at the symptom level with the “quickest” approach (lots of times with meds)
  • Sometimes the answer is really simple
  • Complimentary/Alternative medicine
  • Both/and mindset… so many solutions in both western and eastern medicine
  • Putting together the team – who is needed?
  • How do you support parents with overwhelm and loneliness as they advocate for their kids…? Find support on the internet/social media – be proactive in seeking out support
  • Breathe – complex issues or not, you are in this for the long haul

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“Know that you have more experience with your child than anyone else…  You know your child the best. Have faith in your child, have faith in yourself.”

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Nov 28, 2017
Eps 119: Solo Show - Deconstructing Natural Consequences and Personal Responsibility
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Intro Sharing:

  • Thank you, listeners!!
  • Honored to serve you…
  • Mother’s Journey recap – Seattle, Portland, Boise
  • Orange County, East Hampton, St. Paul – 2018 Mother’s Journey locations
  • Boldly Embody Life – Krista Petty Raimer, Grace, Elevate
  • When I am a yes to trusting, surrender and presence is already there
  • Visioning for 2018

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Personal Responsibility and Natural Consequences

  • Natural consequences are what happens when we stay out of the way – they occur when we let things unfold
  • What do we want most for our kids? What are our desired outcomes for this whole process of parenting?
    • Reference to a poll on my personal FB page
    • Who lets their 14 year old daughter hang out in her room with her boyfriend?
  • Two lists activity from Positive Discipline class
  • The only place that our kids can develop life skills is inside of experience… and in relationship with a healthy adults supports that as well…
  • Their experiences inspire and inform future decisions
  • There is a lot learning that we are robbing our children of because we are getting in the way
  • Parents internal experience takes over
  • Mindfulness matters when we are supporting our kids in developing personal responsibility
  • Natural consequences happens when adults don’t get in the way
  • This is a dance – boundaries are respectful kids need them, we need them
  • Kids need to feel the tension
  • Mistakes allow natural consequences – when we let them feel the consequences that show up, that we aren’t IMPOSING there is lots of room to learn
  • Example – homework
  • Help them to expand their perspective of what THEY want
  • Check your assumptions… and check in with your child
  • Humans LONG to be listened to, seen
  • Kids learn personal responsibility through experiencing having the opportunity to BE personally responsible
  • What matters is the relationship – bonded in unconditional love and mutual respect
  • Allow the natural consequence the power that they have
  • Our kids want to feel connected, as though they matter and that they have influence
  • Tools: co-creating routines and agreements, loosen up, ask questions, check your unspoken messaging, family meetings
  • We all want our kids to grow into cooperative, contributing adult living good lives
  • What already exists when they make mistakes is powerful!

Coming up next week – talking with Robin Sabbag about raising a teen daughter.

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Nov 21, 2017
Eps 118: Tosha Schore talks about how we can parent our boys for a more PEACEFUL world
57:40

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 My guest today is Tosha Schore, M.A. Tosha brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting, and will lift your parenting confidence! She is an expert at simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems. 

A sought after coach, author and speaker, Tosha is committed to creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time. Through her online and in-person offerings, she supports parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly. 

Tosha is a trainer of Hand in Hand Parenting and co-author with the organization's founder, Patty Wipfler, of "Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Challenges." She is also creator of the wildly popular "Parenting Boys Peacefully! A FREE 10-Day Reconnect," and the new online course, "Out With Aggression!" 

You can find Tosha on her website, www.toshaschore.com, and on FB at Tosha Schore, Your Partner In Parenting Boys.

Content:

  • Raising boys in these days of toxic masculinity
  • Taking a hard look at the ways that men are conditioned
  • Creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time
  • The question of how to help our boys grow into emotionally intelligent men who don’t see women as objects is worldwide
  • How to help our boys grow up to be peaceful – Huff Post article
  • Move beyond the anger and the fear to what we can DO
  • Opportunity shows up in raising our boys
    • We need to teach our boys that there are lots of ways to be close that aren’t sexual
    • It’s ok to talk, cuddle, hold hands – lots of ways of being intimate
  • Documentary of The Mask You Live In
    • Not giving permission to boys for having intimate friendships with other boys
    • Navigating the jockeying for power among boys
  • Redefining what it means to be masculine
  • What is being modeled in the homes for our boys?
  • Increase our own emotional intelligence and pay attention to how we navigate and model our own upset
  • Boys being encouraged to stuff their emotions
  • Not comfortable with allowing our boys the time and space to have feelings
  • Help them feel comfortable with their full array of emotions – not just anger
  • Popular culture isn’t helpful
  • Advocate/ Fight for the right of our boys to have feelings
  • AND advocate for them to make mistakes and learn from them
  • When our boys make mistakes we need to help them
  • Talk about music lyrics and porn and do it when they are YOUNG
  • Amy Lang – parent educator, parenting through our children’s sexual development
  • Start talking to your boys
  • Don’t let your discomfort get in the way of letting our boys be their whole selves
  • Amy’s short video about having convos about sexual harassment/assault with our kids
  • Talking to our kids about standing up to friends who are harassing others
  • Seize opportunities for modeling/showing them what it looks like to “do what’s right”
  • Story of masculinity inside of supporting a woman on Reddit
  • Acknowledging that standing up for what is right is challenging!!
  • Teachable moments are when they make mistakes and getting into mischief
  • Final thoughts – “hurt people hurt people” – boys and men are hurting and therefore hurting others… when we help them heal from their hurts, we are solving the problem

Where to find Tosha:

www.toshaschore.com

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Nov 14, 2017
Eps 117: Solo show - A Bit About Choosing in, Being Kind and Firm, Making Agreements and Following Through
29:55

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Big thanks to the community!  Thank you for listening and supporting the work of Joyful Courage!

Please pass on this show to AT LEAST one person who you think it will land with! Your sharing helps me grow and expand this work – YOU are helping to create the impact and make the world a better place.

Content:

  • I am on the journey with you, I am with you! Highs and lows, you are my peeps!
  • The teen saga continues….
  • Having a teen is like birth, you think you’re so prepared and then…. Reality hits!
  • Teen brain experiences everything so intensely
  • Eps 115 was all about trust and surrender
  • Celebrate the relationship
  • Using and developing breath as a tool
  • 4:45 Our children are our teachers – they picked us!
  • We don’t know what we don’t know and our children highlight that for us
  • Their way of being invites our “stuff” to the surface
  • We then choose how to respond
  • End of the day – they are operating from their developmental place, limited skills, brain development
  • 7:50 Parenting is a never-ending growth and development workshop – we can choose to resist or to grow/evolve
  • 9:15 There is a purpose to this journey
  • Let’s live a life where we are paying attention
  • Our children show us stepping stones to our own growth
  • When we choose into growth and learning we can influence the experience we are having
  • You can only change yourself, you can’t change others
  • Positive Discipline for Teenagers
  • Mistakes our kids make can rock our foundation and philosophy around parenting
  • Being kind and firm at the same time is one of the pillars
  • Peeling back layers of what that ^^ means
  • Kindness only = permissive
  • Firmness only = authoritarian
  • Kind isn’t NICE, it’s connected, firm is respecting ourselves and the situation
  • It’s about progress not perfection, and becoming ever more AWARE of what is happening for us
  • Making agreements is a kind and firm PD parenting tool
  • Get into our child’s world, here what their needs are, share what we need, make a plan together, declare a deadline, follow through (parents)
  • “What was our agreement?”
  • It’s not about being nice while we deliver a consequence…
  • The invitation is to make agreements with YOUR children
  • Not necessarily about the problem we solve, instead it is more about the life skills the kids are practicing inside of the agreement-making
  • Not about finding a solution that lasts forever – every solution has a shelf life

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Nov 07, 2017
Eps 116: Mindful Mamas, Shannon and Ashley are on Talking About the Power of Community
47:58

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My guests today are Shannon Kinney-Duh, creator of A Free Spirit Life, and Ashley Walburn, owner of Home Holistic, and the founders of The Mindful Mama Movement – a podcast, community that empowers mamas, encourages authentic living and celebrates what it means to live an inspired life. 

Shannon and Ashley bring women from around the world, in all stages of motherhood, on a journey of learning how to trust ourselves, how to listen to their intuition, how to let go and forgive, and how to embrace imperfection in the mess of life. They inspire others to practice mothering from a place of presence, creativity, humor and wisdom.

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Content:

  • How Ashley and Shannon met
  • The birth of the Mindful Mama Movement Podcast
  • The power of trusting our gut is the work of parenting
  • Popular opinion vs turning inward towards our intuition
  • Inspiring women to trust themselves and reconnect to their own intuition
  • Moving from survival to space in our life to enjoy it
  • We are good at the head stuff by dropping into our heart is a powerful way to shift into being with our family
  • HAHA!! Interrupted by the birth of a baby J ((real life people))
  • Woohooo – Ashley shares the birth story that interrupted our show
  • Creating communities for mamas
  • Going to yoga class and staying for connection with other mamas
  • Who are you? How are you? Inviting community to be together and real
  • Being part of community allows us to discover our own value and wisdom
  • Online communities can be places of powerful discovery, allowing for thought time and the possibility of going deeper
  • Themes that show up in groups – “Am I doing it right?” “Am I okay?” “Is this normal?” “What am I outside of mom?” “How do I find balance and flow while being a good mom?”
  • Exploring our roles
  • People are seeking to be real
  • We are better mamas when we nurture all parts of us
  • Theme that shows up with mamas is desire for simplicity – declutter, let go, surrender
  • Jaws theme music is not helpful!!

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What does Joyful Courage mean to you:

Ashley: Joyful courage, I think for me… The biggest part of what I do, whether it is at  a birth or meeting one on one with mothers, is really just finding your power and stepping into your own strength, not giving a shit, anything, a thought about what anyone else thinks – what do I really want? What does my baby really want? And go from my soul… I know this is right, and when I feel grounded and feel like myself, then I make decisions that are mine.  When I feel like myself, then I feel braver to do everything. And it gives my kids permission to do the same.

Shannon: Ditto that, and adding having a playful, just making sure we are really following our heart, our instinct, and looking at taking risks with a sense of adventure – that is how I see my daily life – look at this without the jaws music, stay curios, stay playful and light -  not always that way - we are so dang serious about this parenting stuff! I just want to look at taking risks and being brave with a sense of adventure, that’s joyful courage.

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Mindful Mama Movement podcast

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Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Oct 31, 2017
Eps 115: Solo show - Exploring trust and surrender as I navigate all there is to learn while raising a teen
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Dedication: I love you Jessica, Micki, Stephanie and Jennette. Thank you for being my support and my safe harbor through the journey of raising teens.

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Solo show!  I am digging into my own trenches and what is currently alive in my experience of parenting two adolescent kids.  Pulling back the curtain to share what it means to truly pull back the curtain and TRUST the process.

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Content:

  • The tension of being a parent educator WHILE IN THE EXPERIENCE of parenting
  • Parenting for the long term…
    • Keeping in mind brain development
    • Mistakes are opportunities for learning
    • Everyone should have a voice
    • Relationship matters
    • Kindness, firmness and trust
  • Bumps up against the mainstream idea of reward/punishment model
  • My own experience of punishment/consequences as a teen
  • Noticing the societal pressure of “she should pay for her mistakes” while also noticing that we have a really good relationship and are exploring her choices together
  • All we can do is increase the likelihood that our children will grow to be responsible, respectful members of society
  • In the process of learning to make choices, our children will make bad choices
  • I know I am not alone in this rub
  • We want our children to feel as though we are our safe harbor
  • Surrender is so complex… or maybe just the depth is profound
  • GRACE: workshop for women through boldlyembodylife.com
  • If trust is our intention, then we have to start with trusting ourselves
  • We then can evoke trust in our relationships
  • Then our teens can lean into trusting themselves (and getting it wrong sometimes)
  • The design of the universe is bigger than me, bigger than my child, and we are all going to be okay – might as well trust that God has our back
  • Trusting what I don’t know, what I can’t know, what I am still on the path to understanding
  • Fear grips the inside of my body, my energy tightens up – shorter breath, tight belly
  • “When fear is present, the teacher is in the room.” – Krista Petty Raimer
  • Events/ experiences are an invitation for me to evoke what I want more of in my relationship with my daughter
  • Neutral/ Think Tree – feeling our feet, grounding into our body, top of our body is open, flexible, available
  • Finding neutral is not about the absence of anything, but about the availability of everything (thank you Mary Jo!)
  • Neutral allows space for relationship with our children
  • The most powerful tool we have for influencing the behavior is the relationship we cultivate and nurture with them.
  • Lisa Damour – swimming pool analogy
  • There is flow and impermanence to the cycles of connection/disconnection that show up
  • Find your people that are going through similar experience and hold a similar parenting style to share raw and vulnerably
  • We are practicing all the time – either our auto pilot OR something new and different
  • Being intentional allows us to GENERATE more of what we want into our life!
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Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Oct 24, 2017
Eps 114: Support for the New Sibling Transition with Sarah Rosensweet
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Sarah Rosensweet is my guest today!! Sarah is a peaceful parenting coach– and a mama to 3 big kids (16, 13 and 10). She teaches parents a non-punitive, connection based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah helps parents of toddlers-to-tweens turn philosophy into practice with solutions for real-life struggles such as bedtime battles, picky eaters, sibling rivalry, tantrums and meltdowns, and power struggles.

Sarah has had over 20 years experience working with families and children in early childhood education and schools. She’s an API certified parenting educator and a certified Aha! Peaceful Parenting Coach with Dr. Laura Markham.

What you will hear:

  • Toddlerhood experience allowed for Sarah to begin her journey towards parenting peacefully
  • Turning away from the advice of “don’t let them manipulate you”
  • Navigating fear
  • The transition of the new sibling can catch us off guard
  • Perspective of the older child is, not such a great thing
  • Our olders have mixed feelings
  • The mama bear instincts kick in and we often find ourselves pushing our older children away. Recognizing the feelings  - awareness of what is happening internally for us
  • What shows up with our older children? Regression and aggression
  • What to do? Nurture them, love on them, connect with them, baby them as much as possible
  • Aggression comes from fear – they are acting out their bad feelings
  • Cure – more connection, more empathy
  • “My child is not giving me a problem, my child is having a problem”
  • Emotional backpacks are all of the emotions that show up throughout our experience that we put away for “later”
  • Meltdowns and tantrums are how our children release their emotional backpacks
  • Processing through laughter – get them laughing every day!
  • Rough housing as a proactive energy/emotional release
  • Pete’s a Pizza – William Steig
  • Welcome mixed feelings, schedule one on one time
  • “I wonder…….. “ opens the door for them to express mixed feelings
  • Lack of understanding and empathy can lead a child to feel as though there is something wrong with them
  • Sometimes challenges show up when baby is a newborn, and sometimes it is when the babe gets a bit older
  • Peaceful Parents, Happy Siblings by Dr. Laura Markham
  • ^^ supports children in helping them find solutions that work for both sibs, rather than leaving it to them to figure out how to work things out
  • Special time – joining them in their world of imagination and play – 15 minutes/day with the older child
  • Misbehavior as a signal and look for positive intent
  • Look at your language – shift the language you use that doesn’t include the babe. Ex, “I am busy with the baby” to “I will help you when my hands aren’t full!”

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“I think that one, putting aside our own story of worry and negativity of our own child and trusting that love is enough. Really just Trusting in the love that we have and not getting attached to the worry and fear, I think that takes a ton, ton, ton of courage. And just recognizing that what you are doing is so hard. It’s amazing how many people do have more that one child, because it is hard, it’s hard work.”

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Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Oct 17, 2017
Eps 113: Solo show! Teachers, behavior charts, and how to keep mama bear in check...
23:13

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Welcome to this week’s solo show!  Sorry about the clogged nose! Totally dedicated to keeping up with the podcast and showing up to all of you – thank you for listening in!

What you will hear this episode:

The topic this week, as we have moved into the school year here in North America.  Many of us are finding ourselves in the rub of having tough conversations with our children’s teacher. One of my listeners, who is both a parent and a teacher, reached out and requested that I touch on how parents can be approaching their children’s teachers when things are tough.

  • Classroom management is slippery
  • Teachers are doing the best they can with the tools they have
  • Navigating student’s needs with the academic requirements passed on to teachers
  • Pendulum swings from social/emo learning to academics
  • Pressure to teach kids what they “need to know”
  • Teachers ALWAYS name the social/emotional skills as their desire for students
  • There is an assumption that children are learning life skills in the home
  • Teachers fall back on behavior systems
  • “Charting” children’s behavior
  • Assumption that students have what they need to be cooperative, contributing members of the classroom
  • Temperament matters
  • So how do we talk to teachers about our children’s need?
  • You, the teacher, counselor, after school people, you are all the child’s support team
  • When communication fails amongst adults, child suffers
  • Coming from fear, we show up offensive, invites defense from others
  • Teachers have a tricky job
  • Connect before correct is a powerful tool to take advantage of in all the relationships of our life – teachers/school staff included
  • Use curiosity
  • How can you educate the teacher about your child in a way that enlightens them about your child and all children
  • It is useful when a parent comes to the teacher and says “I see you and the tough job you have, and I want to educate you about my child”
  • Pay attention to your physical response/mama bear mode, and PAUSE before emailing/calling the teacher
  • Get in touch with your child’s teacher BEFORE there is an issue – build relationship
  • Make amends when you need to – repair matters AND you are modeling really important behavior for others
  • The person that benefits the most is your child!

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Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Oct 10, 2017
Eps 112: Following Our Kids Lead with Homeschool Unrefined Hosts, Angela and Maren
48:26

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Maren and Angela are college friends, turned public school teachers, turned homeschooling mamas, turned podcast hosts. They are on today talking about how to follow our children’s lead when it comes to learning and growing. Their show, Homeschool Unrefined, is a place where they keep homeschool simple, real and fun.

What you will hear in during the show:

  • College friends turned podcast co-hosts
  • Public school teachers that became homeschooling mamas
  • Sensed the need for encouragement and empowerment amongst homeschool parents
  • SM gives a false impression for what homeschool looks like
  • Inspired to show the “real” homeschool experience
  • Deciding to homeschool, desire for more connection and less schedule
  • Freedom to travel
  • Maren and Angela want parents to feel good about what they are already doing
  • Easy to look at what others are doing then seeing deficit in what you are doing
  • Your kids need you as a parent, and all of your particular skills
  • Vastness of homeschooling
  • Biggest challenges in the community: parents lacking confidence, letting go of perfectionism
  • Being conscious about what your main goal is
  • Letting your children take the lead – focus on connection, follow their interest
  • Paradigm shift - kids are going to learn when they are ready
  • Early entry into extra-curricular activities
  • Simplicity Parenting John Paine
  • Supporting kids through their changes of heart
  • It is a skill to know when to walk away – Angela’s roller blading story
  • The process of navigating waning interest is rich
  • Casey and Rowan’s guitar lesson story, letting go of the dream
  • Stay connected, no matter your schooling decisions – make it authentically yours

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

From Angela - “Having the courage to trust yourself and yoru child. You know your child and they are going to learn the most e when they feel connected to you. It takes a cot of courage to let go of all the noise around you and be able to trust you.”

From Maren - “Being confident in who you are – that takes work, takes work to understand and realize who I am is good. That’s the courageous parent – the joyful part is finding joy in the processes of everything. This is a process, it isn’t perfect – if you can find joy in that you will find joy in so many things.”

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Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Oct 03, 2017
Eps 111: Fear, Belonging, Self Acceptance.... It's all here.
28:50

Today is a solo show – thank you for tuning in this week!  Sit back and take in the thoughts and ideas that are currently showing up for me and in our community.

 

A Free Spirit Life

 

A new show hosted by Shannon Kinney-Duh.   Find out more at http://www.afreespiritlife.com/

or search for A Free Spirit Life on iTunes or wherever you get your podcast.

 

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Todays Content

 

  • Together Live event with Glennon Doyle and friends
  • Belonging and significance as an underlying principle of PD
  • Humans are great perceivers, not great interpreters
  • Growing relationship while guiding them to learn from mistakes is what Positive Parenting is all about
  • Shopping cart analogy
  • My child is going to learn what they need through mistakes and experiences
  • Our conditioning gets in our way when we choose to parent this way
  • Fear shows up – controlling and rigid, what is the right thing to do?
  • The space between authoritarian and permissive styles
  • Brene Brown – check her out Braving the Wilderness
  • True belonging is something inside of us, requires trust
  • Conscious parenting requires us to trust our children, their foundation and relationship
  • Our declaration of using PD can make others uncomfortable
  • My vision is to have confident, capable kids who can navigate the world with kindness and assertive – interruptions to the ugly in the world
  • You have to be who you are
  • So easy as the parent to get up in their (our children’s) grill
  • Children get to DESIGN themselves
  • Taking a look at our own modeling, self acceptance, recognizing fear
  • My children can only hear their soul’s voice is to release my fear and trust
  • What are your thoughts?? Share in the Live and Love with Joyful Courage FB Group
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Sep 26, 2017
Eps 110: Finding the Need Beneath the Behavior with Alison Smith
43:57

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Meet Alison Smith, mother to two adorable kids, proud wife, former elementary school teacher  and now teacher coach, advocate and revolutionary in win/win parenting.  Like many of us Alison had visions of being the best, doing the best and really being that one adult that impacted her students lives powerfully.  As a self identified recovering perfectionist, Alison entered the teaching world and become a mother. It did not take long to identify that something in the work with children had to change. Fueled by her passion and her journey, Aliso identified a need for teachers to feel supported in their work.  In her coaching, teachers are inspired and supported to be the most authentic, joyful and wholehearted teacher they can be.

 

IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Alison shares Bonnie Harris’ iceberg analogy and how it guides parents to identify the underlying root of a child’s behavior.
  • Like a medical issue, we often treat the symptom until the symptoms persist then we are forced to find the root cause.
  • Realizing that the child’s behavior that triggers us is the root cause of our reaction and inability to connect and show up best for the child.
  • Only when we dig into our roots and what is underneath our icebergs can we better guide our children through their own experiences.
  • Triggers can cause us to panic and ‘future trip’ into fear about our child’s behavior, enabling us into unhelpful methods.
  • Using our curiosity to dig to the root - is my child hungry, tired, overstimulated, cold, hot, uncomfortable, lonely?.
  • Once we identify our triggers we can move into the practice of showing up the way our kids need us to.  We chose connection and enforcement that they matter.
  • Often we misjudge our kids motivation and intention leading to disconnection and an increase in the child’s mischief.
  • Once a parent gets it and truly understands the process begins within the parent first then the practice strengthens and the child, family and parent begin to thrive.
  • There is no one perfect general response to situations with your child.  
  • Practicing prevention, in-the-moment and then repair strategies alleviate and get to the root of the issue.
  • An open conversation on how parenting is shifting from authoritarian to permissive.  Why parents today need something to change and are willing to find the courage to revolutionize how the adult/child relationship evolves.

 Where to find Alison:

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 Change the World in A Generation (video)

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Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Sep 19, 2017
Eps 109: Learning How to be a More Conscious Parent by Tuning in to Our Body
27:39

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Parenting from within takes practice practice practice. What are the significant tools we need to really delve within? Inside of us exists what we need to connect to the way we want to parent.  Using these tools at our disposal will allow us to open up, connect, reset and navigate the challenges that come with development. Just like we are in constant practice it’s key to continue the conversation! Our children are not the only humans in development.

 What you will hear

  • The emotional journey of choosing Positive Parenting
  • Is your inner voice helping or hindering your practice
  • Our old stories can create blocks when we practice PD
  • What shows up when our children touch on those old stories (triggers)
  • How we talk to ourselves when it seems everyone around us has it together
  • Where do we chose to sit when we are in anger, resentment and “stuckness”
  • Why are you choosing PD and/or Conscious Parenting?
  • What are the themes that drive us to want to parent this way?
  • What themes to we use to keep us on a pendulum
  • Once we choose into the practice we can create habits that navigate through these themes and stories
  • Awareness is the first step to helping us acknowledge the triggers so we can create a connection into this parenting journey
  • This is a collective journey
  • Mindfulness with ground us into the practice and what we need
  • Using mindfulness will bring you into your biggest tool- your body, senses, feelings and emotions
  • Listening to your body is accepting the messages and signals you are sending to your conscious
  • What do you notice in challenging situations?
  • Where do your signals sit? Belly? Shoulders? Chest?
  • Follow the wisdom your body is sending.
  • Fears cloud our vision and takes us into the “what ifs”
  • Getting curious allows us to approach our children without getting stuck in the fog
  • How to use the neutrality of your body to shift into a better experience
  • Shifting can open us up the possibility that we are the best parent for our kids and we can make repairs

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Podcast Highlight:

In Her Voice, By Kelly Covers

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

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I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle, Portland AND BOISE events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Sep 12, 2017
Eps 108: Meredith Masony is on Sharing Her Story of Humor and Growing Community
47:39

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Meredith Masony is on the podcast today!!  She blogs at That’s Inappropriate and loves to share her stories about, life, marriage, motherhood, and her quest to be the best person she can be. Meredith has three kids ages 10, 7, 5. Her motto is “I’ll say it, so you don’t have to.” Life is messy, and it’s OK to talk about it. She invites all parents to join her on her search for sanity and hopefully you can have a few laughs along the way.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The parenting struggle is real
  • Meredith opens up about the first few years with little ones
  • Feeling stuck, alone and eventually facing a difficult life event moved her to speak out
  • We are not alone, we all feel lost at some point
  • Sharing the hard parts of the journey is the first step in thriving though it
  • You deserve more than to survive
  • Parents deserve to thrive
  • Creating a like-experiencing community can support us through even the most mundane events, potty training anyone?
  • Humor is key! Sometimes the truth and humor are all you need to feel connected
  • How to handle overnight success and sticking with your purpose
  • The importance of modeling purpose
  • Why having our own goals outside of our kids is important
  • Balance is tough
  • Letting go of ‘mom-guilt’

 

Where to find Meredith:

 

Website l Facebook I Instagram l Twitter l You Tube

 

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

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I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle, Portland AND BOISE events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Sep 05, 2017
Eps 107: Casey is Solo and Homework is on Fire
34:57

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Skills, skills skills! Mama Tanya shares with our community an incredible example of how meeting your child where they are at can shift the outcome of your experience. It is easy for us as parents to become presumptive about misguided behavior  Remember how curiosity is key? By becoming curious with our kids, we are able to recognize the skills they still need to develop, as well as see the reasons for certain choices, which are not always what they seem.

Mama Tanya shares:

“Sorry for the long post but I need some advice. “ school, and they gave him homework to do over the weekend. He said he didn't think it was fair to have homework on the weekends (which I agree), but on Saturday he set his homework on fire! Took the lighter when no one was watching, went outside like he was going to go play, and set it on fire burning half the page and dunking it in the pool.

When I found the half burned sheet of paper in the pool, I kept my cool but was obviously shocked that he would react that way to homework. I let him know that I thought it was a poor decision to 1. light something on fire (safety!) and 2. refuse to do his homework in such a permanent way. Internally I felt helpless and frantic to solve the problem, externally I let him know that I get it, homework sucks, and I reminded him that he could ask for help.

I asked him what made him set it on fire, was he feeling overwhelmed? Or angry? Or both?  He was visibly upset both about being caught and about homework so I didn't preach or press the issue until later that day. When he was calm I talked to him about how sometimes we have to do things we don't like (like washing dishes) but we can learn to do it anyway, it doesn't have to be perfect, and we can ask for help.

I also explained that between two extremes (setting homework on fire and staying up till midnight doing homework- neither which are healthy) he could find a happy medium. He said he had not done his best and that he would try to do his best this week. - I felt like it was handled positively all in all.

But, when he told his father and co-parent (who lives elsewhere) over the phone, his dad immediately started saying that he wasn't going to send him something previously promised, that he would take his computer and phone away if he ever did it again, and went into punishment mode.

So, what would you do? I thought about saying he couldn't do his electronic time until he completed his homework. Or I would give him extra electronic time every time he completed his homework. But I am super conflicted. I feel like homework issues should be dealt with by the teacher. Natural consequences. Of course I want to help the teacher, but not sure how...”

Bullet Point:

  • How to approach the reasoning behind the behavior
  • Kids do more in response with how they feel
  • Getting off the emotional freight train
  • Getting curious so we can be solution minded, see where child has influence
  • Parents assume children make choices rationally, when in fact they have limited skills
  • Revisiting Dr. Siegel’s “Palm of the Hand” example
  • Assessing what else can be going on inside their body
  • How to identify lacking skills and helping kids deal with the discomfort
  • Letting go of our perspective as the only perspective
  • Letting go of “should” (ex. They should know better)

Quotes:

14:52 “Curiosity really allows us to move past assumptions and get into our child’s world”.

15:07 “Curiosity requires us to let go of the idea that we know all the answers and what it is that our kids need”.

Links mentioned in the show:

Podcast Episode 75 – Marcilie Boyle

Podcast Episode 100 – Dr. Tina Payne Bryson

Dan Siegel's Brain Video

Casey's Teaches Kids about the Brain

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle and Portland events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Aug 29, 2017
Eps 106: Becoming Calm Responders with Alexandra Hughes
59:27

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World traveler, calm seeker, mom coach, multi-lingual speaker, Alexander Hughes, brings us her methods for supporting mamas in the chaos that is parenthood. The trials and tribulations of her own experience in motherhood would eventually fuel the passion of support she gives to other moms navigating the same road.  Alex has created a soft space for mamas feeling out of control to find their rhythm and calm. At her website inneressencecoaching.com one has access to her workshops, authentic words of wisdom and that much needed place to connect with someone who gets it.  With three kids and a handful of international moves Alex knows what it means to feel out of control in the mama chaos – which is why she has turned over every rock to find that much needed calm. We really should just make her wear a cape.

What you will hear in this episode:

  • Alex’s journey into and out of chaos
  • An experience of transitions from a working professional to working mom to stay at home mom and back to working mom
  • Our vision vs. our reality
  • Why finding calm is so important as a mother
  • The importance of mother’s nurturing a relationship with self
  • Identifying patterns and models in current parenting
  • Understanding where patterns and models come from
  • Understanding the internal work necessary to tackle patterns & models
  • How we set ourselves up and why this can ultimately lead to chaos
  • Changing how we see the road – going from linear to cyclical
  • Understanding the cycles through life
  • Awareness of what we model for our kids
  • Access to tools 1) manage stress 2) manage anger 3) creating a life for yourself that are aligned with values and self loving
  • How our words create expectations for the inner child
  • Where courage lies
  • Summary of how Alex helps mamas on the road to calm - #1 Internal Work #2 External Work
  • Self Care – is about “doing stuff that lights you up”
  • Calm responding wisdom & tools

Quotes:

“When you have kids and you're a stay-at-home mom and you have stay-at-home parents, checking those boxes and feeling that sense of achievement doesn’t always happen”. 6:34

“Models and patterns live deep inside of me based on my own childhood and my own experiences”. 11:16

“Create a new best friend voice that is going to support us in the choices we are going to make”. 12:06

“If we can switch from that and seeing these mistakes, those blowups as opportunities to reconnect with your kid, teach your kid, learn yourself”. 20:28

“It’s your job to love yourself and to practice self care and self love because your children are watching you. AND you are a better everything when you do”. 43:04

What does Joyful Courage mean to you:

“I think that you need to be courageous to be a conscious mom, to practice positive parenting, or to take that journey toward calm responding. It’s about opening yourself up to feelings. It’s about treating those moments as learning opportunities when you do ‘make those mistakes’. When you open yourself up, you need to be courageous to be vulnerable. Once you do that it opens up this space for connection, which without there would be no joy”.

Where to find Alex:

Website
Facebook
Linkedin


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PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle and Portland events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Aug 22, 2017
Eps 105: Solo Show, A Visit with my 11 Year Old, Shifting our Lens
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Practice, practice, practice. There is no other way to really move into how we want to BE. Practice is the key. The beauty of choosing and moving through practice is we discover new ideas, concepts and understandings that make our practice more enjoyable AND dare I say magical. In this episode we dig a little deeper into the idea of using our lens to take us to where we want to go. When toddling through different lenses we can shift this practice even deeper.  We are joined by Ian O’Roarty, tween extraordinaire, into the lens of his practice through making amends. Listen and see how many fruitful lenses you discover.

What you will hear:

  • iTunes reviews – yay!! Thank you!!
  • Ian is my guest to talk about what making amends looks and feels like from an 11 year old perspective
  • Power of perception
  • Moving into the perception of being a new sibling
  • What might that look like to a toddler?
  • How we collect evidence to support our perception
  • What will we choose in the practice of collecting evidence?
  • Is our evidence creating our fears? OR is our evidence helping us move through how we want to be?

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Essential Oils

It’s all about the peppermint this week. I played with using this essential oil to increase my focus and concentration when it was time to WORK.

** I am not an expert – I am learning and sharing with you as I go.  DO YOUR RESEARCH TO STAY SAFE!!

If you are interested in finding our more you can email me at casey@joyfulcourage.com OR get your first starter kit at  http://bit.ly/caseyyloils

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Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage

PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle and Portland events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Aug 15, 2017
Eps 104: Kristin Hovious is on talking about making amends and repairing relationships
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Ep. 104 Kristin Hovious

Intro:

Kristin Hovious is a committed teacher with over a decade of experience in vocational, adult education, serving Chicago’s Cortiva Institute as both Education Director (2007-2008) and Adjunct Faculty Member (2006-2017.)  Her training as a massage therapist and yoga teacher provides a foundation and love for anatomy and science of human development.

As a Positive Discipline Certified Trainer, Kristin, combines a career of teaching and serving with her passion for creating mutually respectful environments for families, children, classrooms and schools. In her collaboration with teachers, administrations and families, Kristin’s goal is to help facilitate opportunities for adults and students to become compassionate leaders, with the hope that doing so will help build more peaceful communities. Kristin has served on the Positive Discipline Association Board of Directors as a Consultant since 2016.

What you will hear in this episode:

  • Kristin’s journey into Positive Discipline (PD)
  • How PD grew in the Hovious’ Home and the challenges that came with learning a new way
  • How teaching anatomy in her career paved the way for curiosity in neuroscience
  • Understanding how emotions and behaviors influence connection
  • Discussion on ‘kind and firm’ rephrasing as ‘connection and accountability’ and why
  • Why shifting society’s idea of mistakes and punishments lacks ability to repair
  • Understanding mistakes as opportunities to learn
  • How repairing is a practice and it has the power to transform our relationships
  • Mistakes lead to repairing opportunities
  • Kristin walks us through four steps in healthy repair
  • Relatable examples from Kristin’s own life help us empathize and feel supported in our own challenges
  • Modeling is key
  • Sticking to our agendas is a way we move away from connection
  • When we repair relationships we have the power to heal connections
  • Diving into our parenting pain so we can make amends
  • Discomfort is a place to get curious, not a place to get stuck

 “I don’t think repairing relationships comes naturally or easy to us. It is practice”.

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

What Joyful courage means to me is that there is a consistent opportunity to practice repair.  That is always worth it - it’s so important in the whole trajectory in our lives together as human beings.  If we can be joyful in repair then maybe we can also turn the corner and be joyful about mistakes”.

Where to find Kristin:

Selchicago.com


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PNW FALL TOUR!!

I am so so SO happy and excited to get to share ALL the details about this amazing workshop! Registration is now open for my Bellingham, Seattle and Portland events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot.

www.joyfulcourage.com/mothersjourney

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Aug 08, 2017
Eps 103: Solo Show Digging Under the Surface of Bedtime Challenges
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Who needs sleep? If you think about your best parenting moments vs. your more challenging ones I think we could venture to say that sleep OR lack of sleep would be a BIG contender.  We have all been there. We move fluidly through that familiar bedtime routine, finish that last Llama Llama page, kisses, lights out….. We are no further from the kitchen when we hear “Mooooooooooom”!!! or Daaaaaaadddddeeeeeeeeeeee”! Sigh.

Mama Christine posted this week about her daughter’s sleep struggles “oh, tribe, apologies for the long post, but I'm in dire need of some help. bedtime. dear lord, my daughter is 5, and it. is. brutal. her bedroom is on the first floor, mine is upstairs. she's often hungry before bedtime, so we usually do a snack like high fat yogurt and fruit. after bedtime jobs are done, i read to her, we sing, and say our goodnights...generally 20ish minutes. nearly every night, she's out of bed for any number of 'reasons': need to say goodnight to the dog, still hungry, thirsty, needs to say something to me, needs to ask me a question, needs another hug, says she can't sleep (within minutes of me leaving her bedroom) and the list goes on”. 

Christine is not alone here, otherwise there would not be a book called Go the F@ck to Sleep . Let’s break this struggle down, so Christine can get some sleep and her little one can feel peaceful slumber.

What you will hear:

·      Iceberg view – top of the iceberg; requests, getting our of bed, one last… Under the surface; belonging and significance, influence, connection

·      Mischief showing up when we have misguided ideas about belonging and significance

·      Getting curious, noticing lack of skills to complete task (ie going to sleep)

·      Getting curious so we can be solution minded, see where child has influence

·      Children long for connection, they settle for attention

·      Creating routines that help kids know what is happening and allowing them to have influence

·      Making agreements to help kids create boundaries

·      What is my child’s perspective?

·      Asking how am I feeding this problem?

Link to Deborah MacNamara

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Young Living Essential Oil

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Aug 01, 2017
Eps 102: Learning How Tears Heal with Kate Orson, Hand in Hand Parenting Instructor
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Kate Orson is a Hand in Hand parenting instructor, and author of Tears Heal: How To Listen To Children is on the podcast today! Originally from the UK she now lives in Basel, Switzerland, with her husband, author Toni Davidson, and their four year old daughter Ruby.

You can find her work in parenting magazines including The Green Parent, Juno and Smallish.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • An introduction to Hand in Hand Parenting
  • Children’s natural healing abilities
  • Helping to attune to a child in a calm manner
  • The benefits of crying
  • Need for cortisol to be released from a stressful event
  • It’s crucial children have safe space to release stress
  • How to find ways to connect, special time
  • Learn to listen to your children’s emotions
  • Signs to look for in distressed children
  • Getting out of our need to “fix it” or “stop it” response
  • Children will release on their own terms
  • Be available and take an interest in them

 

Quotes:

“I think our entire culture has this mental block when it comes to crying”.

“I came across this different way of listening to the emotions. It’s reframing the way we view tears. It’s about listening and allowing the feelings”.

“Children need safety to let go of feelings”.

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“I would say parenting is really really hard work. Sometimes we make mistakes and it may seem really hard to get up the next day and embrace it as a fresh day.  We should have the Joyful Courage to embrace the challenges of parenting”.

Where to find Kate:

website I Facebook I Twitter

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Jul 25, 2017
Eps 101: Casey is Solo with Wisdom from an 8 Year Old on the Power of Offers/Counter Offers
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Casey is solo!

One of the most effective and accessible tools in Positive Discipline, which fully connects our kids to significance and belonging, is the offer and the counter-offer.  Casey and her very special guest, Melany, discuss the best way to use offers and counter-offers.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

·      My eight year old niece chimes in on why having the option to counter offer helps her feel happy
·      Imagine aligning your vision of boundaries and expectations with that of your child’s
·      Building life long skills in processing, communicating and self confidence
·      An effective tool that helps build feelings of belonging and significance
·      What are non-negotiables vs.negotiables
·      How opening up the opportunity for your child to have a voice will help them ease into non-negotiables with healthy cooperation

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Young Living Essential Oil

Today you heard me talk about how helpful Panaway Essential Oil was in keeping my family healthy.  If you are interested in finding out more about Young Living Essential Oils, feel free to email me at casey@joyfulcourage.com OR go to http://bit.ly/caseyyloils - I am happy to support you!

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Jul 18, 2017
Eps 100: Dr. Tina Bryson Supports Us With Brain Informed Parenting
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Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is the co-author (with Dan Siegel) of two New York Times bestsellers:  The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline.  She is the Executive Director of the Center for Connection in Pasadena, CA and a pediatric and adolescent psychotherapist.  She keynotes conferences and conducts workshops for parents, educators, and clinicians all over the world.  Dr. Bryson earned her Ph.D. from the University of Southern California, where her research explored attachment science, childrearing theory, and the emerging field of interpersonal neurobiology.  You can learn more about her at TinaBryson.com, where you can subscribe to her blog and read her articles about kids and parenting.

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What you will hear in this episode:

  • How Dr. Dan Siegal and Tina collaborated on THE WHOLE-BRAINED CHILD
  • How science can help guide parents in really profound ways
  • Programs, communities and in which Dr. Bryson’s work is taught
  • The importance of HOW are parent shows up to the nervous system of a developing child
  • How getting CURIOUS with your child creates gateways into building important life skills and self regulation
  • How making ASSUMPTIONS delays or stops tool building; ie, taking behavior personal, over explaining behavior, making character assumptions, if they did it once they should be able to consistently complete task/request
  • Paying attention to a developing nervous system
  • If the nervous system is not regulated the child cannot have choice over behavior
  • How to influence the nervous system in both self and child
  • Identification of Dr. Bryson and Dr. Siegals emotional “ZONES”; Red Zone, Blue Zone, Green Zone
  • The Frontal Cortex is not developed yet
  • Children do not have the architecture to control “reptilian brain” / “fight or flight” in red or blue zones – difficulty paying attention, learning, regulating
  • Tools/techniques to get in “green zone” – regulated, calm, empathetic, attune
  • Behavior is communicating child’s lack of skills
  • When to seek out professional help
  • Self regulation – be gentle and kind with ourselves (reference Kristin Neff, of self-compassion.org)
  • New techniques require time and PRACTICE
  • Calming strategy when child is disregulated- get BELOW eye level and use soothing words including “I’m right here with you”
  • Brain associates with physical state – floppy noodle technique
  • Body shift can help shift emotions
  • How discipline is teaching
  • We need to give children tools not take them away
  • Thoughts on consequences
  • Key actions of soothing, connection, problem-solving, playfulness and being pro-active build a “whole-brained” child
  • How to recognize our own “zones” and practice getting/staying into “green zone”

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to me?

“Joyful Courage to me means having the courage to reflect on our own areas of growth and also having the courage to trust development to unfold. Trusting that we are doing a good enough job.”

Where to find Dr. Tina Bryson:

tinabryson.com infinite resources to put into practice!
Facebook l Twitter

What to watch for:

New books by Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson
The YES Brain -  January 2018
Showing Up – TBD 

Info from the Show:

Lantern Camps
Kristin Neff, of self-compassion.org
Camp Chippewa  http://campchippewa.com/

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Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Jul 11, 2017
Eps 99: Casey is Solo Exploring Boundaries, Agreements and Screen Time
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Welcome back to the show!

Let me share my own story from the trenches… You aren’t the only one who has kids who act like you are ruining their lives when you ask them to help our around the house…  AND, it is a beautiful thing when your kids turn it around and own their behavior, right? It is a good thing, yes, but I am getting curious about if I am inadvertently raising a people pleaser….?? 

A question from the community

Mama Denise shares “Literally losing my mind on first day of summer vacation over iPads. I don't have an ounce of energy for a single tool. I'm the worst mom ever, according to my daughter (5y 10mos). And my 7 1/2 yo son "needs this mower" on a farm simulator game. Literally feel like pitching these machines in the dumpster. Thank you for listening.”

These are the struggles where we can release most of the load and pull our kids into co-creation. Casey takes Denise’s familiar scenario and leads us through the practice of intention, presence and solution.

  • Showing up intentionally, rather than reactively
  • Creating intention and applying it to our lens and presence
  • Noticing the ease of intention when the ride is smooth and the rockiness when things fall apart
  • Creating routines that help kids know what is happening and allowing them to have influence
  • Making agreements to help kids create boundaries
  • Identifying needs vs. privileges. ex. Screen time – it is a privilege
  • Privilege comes after contributions
  • Difference between contribution vs. chores
  • A privilege differs from a reward
  • It’s not about “earning”, it’s about “management”
  • Guiding kids to have a voice in solutions when they feel an agreement or routine is not working
  • Seeing the tip of the iceberg and KNOW that beneath the surface is a request for boundaries
  • Allowing children a voice means we hold them as contributors to the cause
  • Children are more likely to follow through when they have a voice in the creation of the agreement
  • Introducing offer and counter offer tool – teaches parent how to let go of agenda, control and rigidity
  • Sharing power when stakes are low

 

Resources:

Routine Handout
Agreement Handout

Quotes:

“There are ways of being that support us in the journey.”

“Everything is an opportunity to grow, to be better, and to be curious.”

“Underneath all of the behavior all of the challenges and mischief that shows up is the underlying need for belonging, significance and influence.  Our children only have so many years of life to filter and make sense of it.”

“In the co-creation of routines and agreements the underlying message is that the child’s voice matters.”

Stay Tuned:

Coming up is our 100th Episode!!! I am so pleased and honored to have Tina Payne Bryson PhD, co-author of the Whole Brained Child, on our 100th Episode. 100 y’all! Can you believe it!? Tell your friends, co-workers and neighbors. Remember to subscribe for instant access to new podcasts and automatic access to scrumptious listening from pasts guests!

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Coaching with Casey

Are you playing with the idea of one on one coaching? I currently have a few spots available in my schedule and would LOVE to work with you.

Coaching with Casey is a three month commitment. We will explore your vision for parenting and even bigger, how you want to show up for your life. We explore mindset, and how shifts in mindset create big shifts in relationship. And finally, we deep dive into the tools and strategies of Positive Discipline for teaching, modeling and practicing life skills.

Coaching is an investment. If you would like to find out more, and explore the possibility that coaching is a good fit for you, schedule a 20 minute explore call.  Click here and we will schedule our call!

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Jul 04, 2017
Eps 98: Kerry Foreman is on Supporting us in What it Means to be Grounded
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Living Joyful Courage Membership Program

REGISTRATION OPENS SATURDAY!
Woohhooo --- so happy to be opening the doors again to the membership program!  Now is the time – join us!

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Meet Kerry Foreman, psychotherapist, mother, wife and mindfulness guide. Kerry’s practice and blog, Grounded, settles around mindfulness awareness and the practice to live a life you’ll truly love.  After a tough childhood, Kerry recognized that the tools she had to cope with life were unhealthy. Life her threw her some tough lessons, but by surrounding herself with healthy people she began to open the gifts of healthy practices, which began her healing journey. One by one she was able to acknowledge the unhelpful coping mechanisms and could then change and design how she wanted to live.  Kerry lives in Colorado with her family. Her blog, Grounded, is a place for those who find strength in uplifting words and real, raw stories. It’s for those who love the idea of Mindfulness but maybe have no idea what that even looks like in real life. Kerry’s passion is to help people learn to live with a clearer lens.

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What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Recognition of FOO (Family of Origin) patterns and the call to make changes
  • Psychological/verbal/emotional abuse trains us react rather than respond
  • Noticing patterns such as shame, guilt and anger – where do they originate?
  • Becoming a parent can bring these to the surface. How do we recognize where we need to change?
  • Learning to respond instead if react
  • Understand and reflect on our own parents’ experience
  • Creating change and becoming aware of our own inner state of being
  • Mindfulness practice influences the shift into better relationships
  • How do we become grounded in order to stay balanced and present in mind no matter what is happening around us?
  • Where control plays a role in mindfulness and the contrast in anxiety
  • What do we chose to believe – what is the story we play in our minds?
  • Self talk of being a victim – recognizing the language
  • Expectations of others and how to stay mindful and in control while at the same time releasing what we are not in control of.

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to me?

“Joyful Courage is finding the joy in being brave enough to parent differently. Finding a new path in order to allow our kids to be who they were meant to be.”

Where to find Kerry:

YouTube l Facebook l Twitter l BLOG

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“Being a part of the Living Joyful Courage Membership Program has encouraged me to continue practicing to be parent and person that I want to be. I choose my experience to situations. There's no easy answer to fix my kids behavior… It is more about how I be with my kids that creates a good experience versus what I do to make them listen to me.

Since starting this practice I feel stronger connection with my kinds, I feel a shift in myself,  and I believe I am the perfect mom for my kids…

Other should consider program because the parenting journey is not easy, and it's an ongoing practice. The support and information Casey provides, with emails, webinars, and coaching calls is so beneficial, and she provides it in a way that is easy to understand and put directly in the practice I have also found there is so much value in a tribe of parents sharing experiences, willing to listen, and offering encouragement and it reminds me that I am not alone on this journey.”

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Jun 27, 2017
Eps 97: Casey is solo! Connecting before Correcting, Problem Solving and Empowering our Kids
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Living Joyful Courage Membership Program

REGISTRATION OFFICIAL OPENS SATURDAY (but if you are seeing this now and are ready to sign up, YOU CAN!
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Casey takes listeners through real scenarios shared by our parenting community. She takes us through the process of connecting before correcting, so that we can create solutions with our kids. She invites listeners to recognize the tools we are using that aren't helpful, and shares how to replace them with tools that help us connect. while also guiding them to work together and find solutions that empower them.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • How to show up and hold space for problem solving with your kids
  • Becoming aware of the rigidity and resistance  when disciplining their kids
  • Recognize that often the best solutions come directly from our kids
  • Becoming aware of non-judgment and non-attachment and understand how this can positively influence the parent/child relationships
  • What does it look like to surrender and how this can become a practice of modeling
  • Understanding their developmentally appropriate behavior is not against parents – it’s their developmental phase.
  • Brain development plays a major role in behaviors. 

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Since starting this practice I feel stronger connection with my kinds, I feel a shift in myself,  and I believe I am the perfect mom for my kids…

Other should consider program because the parenting journey is not easy, and it's an ongoing practice. The support and information Casey provides, with emails, webinars, and coaching calls is so beneficial, and she provides it in a way that is easy to understand and put directly in the practice I have also found there is so much value in a tribe of parents sharing experiences, willing to listen, and offering encouragement and it reminds me that I am not alone on this journey.”

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Jun 20, 2017
Father's Day Bonus - The O'Roarty Family is on the Show :)
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Yuo.  I interviewed my family.  Really it was all in celebration of my husband for Father's Day.  Listen in as we talk about a range of things from our birth story, to how AWESOME it is to be married to a parent educator, and advice for moms on how to talk to dads about parenting.

Also, special guests appearances by my kids, who talk about what they love about their dad - from the early years to now.

Let me know what you think!!

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Jun 17, 2017
Eps 96: Melissa Benaroya talks Summer Routines and Structures
35:21

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Casey invites fellow Positive Discipline Coach, Melissa Benaroya, to discuss surviving Summer Break. In this episode they offer practical tools and solutions to set you and your family up for a successful summer. Two to three months is a long time to keep your kids occupied and stimulated.  Get an insight into the importance of boredom and why you don’t have to plan every single second of your children’s vacation. Tune in and learn how routine and summer coexist to help you have fun too! 

Melissa is a neighbor here in the Pacific Northwest. In addition to being a mother of two, Melissa has a Masters degree in Social Work, is a Credentialed School Counselor and a Certified Gottman Educator. You can find more about Melissa at melissabenaroya.com.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The value in creating a summer consistency so your family knows what to expect.
  • Why routines are not confining but an invitation to freedom.
  • How consistency helps encourages children to manage themselves.
  • Why moments of boredom are necessary and the benefits it offers growing kids!
  • How to use mindfulness when creating a summer schedule.
  • Tools are discussed to set up family agreements on everything from daily schedules to screen time use!
  • You’ll learn how to involve your kids in creating a fun summer everyone will enjoy! 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I think when I hear those two words side by side I think of having the courage to take risks and the joy that can result. Take some risks this summer and encourage your kids to do the same!

Where to find Melissa:

FacebookTwitter

Her book, “The Childproof Parent” is available on Amazon 

MELISSA'S WRITING HAS BEEN FEATURED IN: HUFFINGTON POST, PARENTMAP MAGAZINE, & NORTH STATE PARENT MAGAZINE

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Jun 13, 2017
Ep 95: Jeanne-Marie Paynel talks Montessori and Positive Discipline
35:38

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Intro:

The first thing that stuck out about our next guest, Jeanne-Marie Paynel is her passion for lifelong learning. In addition to raising two beautiful children, Jeanne-Marie holds a Masters in Education, is the founder and CEO of Voila Montessori and is a Positive Discipline trainer.  After reading Dr. Montessori’s work “The Secret of Childhood” she discovered a passion for guiding children and families in healthy parenting approaches. She wanted parents to appreciate the true importance of their role – not as servants or teachers, but as supporters and guides of their children’s natural development.  This need in the global community prompted her to launch Voila Montessori, an accessible resources to guide parents in the Montesorri tradition and the Positive Discipline approach.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • It’s important to empower our children not enable them
  • Setting up a prepared environment for your children’s learning
  • The Montessori philosophy and how it helps children and families today
  • Ways Positive Discipline and the Montessori method merge to provide support
  • The benefits of a child’s freedom of movement and choice in their own environment
  • Tools to help families nurture their child’s potential
  • How to access Montessori methods and find an appropriate educational environment for your child.

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful Courage – to me for one what comes to mind is being aware of how lucky we are – the practice of gratitude is what brings me great joy. In the context of Montessori, being in awe of what your children are going through, their evolution, their adaptation to the world. Courage is speaking up for what is, and accepting at times that we might be wrong. That we might of not interacted with our child the way that would’ve felt better and to be okay with going to your child and saying “I didn’t like the way I did that” “I’m going to better next time”- It’s courageous for adults to say to a child that “I did something wrong”.  Being aware that we are not perfect and we are learning next to them.

Quotes:

“We are not our children’s servants. We are here to empower them to do things for themselves”.

“My child was going to be my guide in my parenting journey”. (a realization)

“A child is an adult in the making”.

Where to find Jeanne-Marie:

Voila Montessori - http://www.voilamontessori.com/en/

Pinterest l Facebook l YouTube l Vimeo

Ebooks and Resources from Jeanne-Marie

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Jun 06, 2017
Ep 94: Julie Stubblefield and I Explore How to Shift to LOVING Our Bodies (and Teaching our Kids to do the Same)
53:25

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Meet Julie Stubblefield, founder of Fit Mom Revolution. She’s a mother, wife, fitness professional and all around inspiration of strength and confidence in how we care for our bodies. After years of struggling through the all too common yoyo game, Julie found that changing her attitude and perception around nourishing and moving her body she realized her body was whole, not broken. She’s bringing this “aha moment” and sharing it with moms everywhere inspiring a Fit Mom Revolution!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The importance of stepping away from the diet cycle
  • How changing the perception of our bodies will change how we approach the care we give our whole self
  • Having a life you enjoy in a body you love
  • Nourishment and movement are a family practice
  • Giving gratitude around nourishment
  • There is no “one size fits all”, must work for your family
  • Instilling healthy meal time habits for all family members
  • A healthy attitude towards nutrition does not have to be complicated
  • Giving our kids space to share their perception of their body image, and let them explore these feelings

 

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful courage means taking the approach of curiosity and hope to create a beautiful experience for you and your family. It’s worth going out on a limb for.

 

 

Where to find Julie:

Love Your Bodcast Podcast - subscribe on iTunes and Stitcher Radio

http://www.fitmomrevolution.com/

Pinterest l Facebook l Twitter

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May Giveaway!!

There is still time!!! This month I am giving away mantra bracelets to the three people that share the Podcast the MOST on social media!!  There is still time to get in on the action.  Make sure to pick an episode, say why others should listen, tag me, and voila! You are entered to win – and the best part – the more often you share, the more likely it is you will win!!  You have through May 31st.

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May 30, 2017
Eps 93: Carly Mentlik Talks About Support our Tween Girls
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Meet Carly Mentlik, tween whisperer. Carly’s vast education and experiences have led her to craft The Inner Rainbow Project.  She coaches parents and caregivers “to help our tween daughters grow up to be the confident, emotionally healthy, self-aware women that they deserve to be”. Nine through pre-teen can be a very challenging time for parents and tweens to navigate. Carly’s passion and guiding light gives parents and caregivers the tools to help navigate this extremely important development phase with ample support.

 

The world is changing faster and faster every day. We need our girls to have the confidence to speak their truth and live in their authenticity! Carly holds a Masters in Clinical Counseling, dual Bachelors in Special and Elementary Education all from NYU. She is a single mom, Yoga instructor and all around inspiration.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Challenges tween girls navigate
  • Elementary to Middle School transition.
  • Importance of cultivating a strong foundation for girls at this developmental stage.
  • How feelings and emotions are changing and affect your tween and their experience.
  • Tools for helping your tween find self-awareness, acceptance and discovery in a safe and healthy environment.
  • How to address body image and help tweens feel confidence and compassion in/for themselves.
  • The importance of your tweens voice and how to support their expression.
  • How to use creativity and have fun to build connection with your tween.
  • Practical lessons and rituals that help both you and your tween put tools into daily practice.
  • What you can expect from working with Carly.
  • Special introduction to The Chakra Girls!

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Being a mom and being blessed to follow my passion, it is gratitude. It’s terrifying to embark on these things and you need that courage, but it’s with such joy because I am so grateful to have this opportunity to do this work.

Where to find Carly:

https://www.betterhelp.com/carly-mentlik/
https://www.innerrainbowproject.com/

Facebook l Instagram l Pinterest

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This month I am giving away mantra bracelets to the three people that share the Podcast the MOST on social media!!  There is still time to get in on the action.  Make sure to pick an episode, say why others should listen, tag me, and voila! You are entered to win – and the best part – the more often you share, the more likely it is you will win!!  You have through May 31st.

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May 23, 2017
Eps 92: Jenna Phillips Ballard Talks Fear, and Worth and Shifting to Possibility
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Today’s guest is Jenna Phillips Ballard, a certified personal trainer and life coach for celebrities, previously featured on Dr. Phil and The Doctors. She is on a mission to motivate and inspire leaders to make the world a better place through self-love.

After waking up from a coma in the year 2000, she recovered from brain damage and learned about the power of self-love. Her commitment to recovery depended on how she felt about herself and she realized her purpose was to inspire others to break through their limiting beliefs and create an unforgettable life.

She cofounded Ascension Leadership Academy with her husband and together they have coached hundreds of people into their greatness. She’s also the founder of Unicorn University, an online membership community where women never spend another day of being beige, broken or behaved.

We are discussing emotional intelligence – reframing the stories we tell about the experiences in our life and engaging with our children. Join us!

“I believe that being a parent, being a mom or a dad or a parental figure is the most important job in the entire world because of our world, our planet depends upon how our children today are going to take on that responsibility when they become adults. It’s incredibly important that people get the opportunity to look at their life through a different lens. You can’t change the past, but you can absolutely change the story you tell about your past and that’s how you can re-write history”

What you’ll hear in this episode:

·      Compassion as a mindset

·      Finding the lesson, learning and opportunity in parenting struggles

·      How Fear limits mindset and fulfillment

·      Managing Fear and operating in its presence

·      Finding our worthiness beneath all the preconceptions we have about ourselves

·      Selfishness and setting examples for self care – modeling and cycle breaking

·      How to shift your mindset around time, busyness and abundance – reframing how we see time and capacityRef

·      Being an interruption to your own thought patterns that don’t move you forward

·      How to be a “meaning making machine”

·      Reframing typical mom complaints as invitations to conversation

·      Reframing as a practice, shifting your mindset around abundance and asking for support to stretch your plate

·      How to get out of your own way

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful courage means finding the joy and the bliss in any specific circumstance, situation, no matter how scared out of your mind that you are – it’s being courageous, staying in the heart anyways, going for it anyway, because joy is a choice. You get to choose joy.

Resources:

The Power of Now

Where to find Jenna:

Website l Ascension Leadership Academy l (Ascension Facebook, Ascension instagram)

Jenna’s FB Live every Thursday night at 7 PST

Facebook l Instagram l Twitter l Unicorn University 

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Join me every Tuesday at 10am pst on the Joyful Courage FB page to hear about a new Positive Discipline tool that you can begin using ASAP.  Even if you are well versed in parenting with PD, you will take a way a renewed commitment and perhaps a deeper understanding of the tool.

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May 16, 2017
Mother's Day Bonus! Alicia Ybarbo and Mary Ann Zoellner are on Encouraging us to Embrace our Shitty Mom Moments
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SO EXCITED ABOUT THIS BONUS EPISODE!!  Omg.  I have been bugging my guests to come and talk to me since meeting them LAST May at the Mom 2.0 conference.

Alicia Ybarbo and Mary Ann Zoellner are both producers at the Today Show, bestselling authors, and mamas to two kids.  Their life is BUSY, and they find humor, compassion and forgiveness around every corner.

They came on the show to talk about their book, Shitty Moms, and the sequel, Shitty Moms for All Seasons. Alicia and Mary Ann keep it real. Their honesty, insights, and willingness to laugh and say what so many of us only dare to think will hook you right from the start.

Please listen in.

Where to find Alicia and Maryann's books:

Today's Moms: Essentials for Surviving Baby's First Year

Shitty Mom: The Parenting Guide for the Rest of Us

Shitty Mom For All Seasons: Half Assing it All Year Long

 

Where to find Shitty Mom:

Shitty Mom on Facebook

 

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Join me every Tuesday at 10am pst on the Joyful Courage FB page to hear about a new Positive Discipline tool that you can begin using ASAP.  Even if you are well versed in parenting with PD, you will take a way a renewed commitment and perhaps a deeper understanding of the tool.

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May 11, 2017
Eps 91: Janet Allison, From Boys Alive! is on Supporting us in Raising Our Boys
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Today’s guest is Janet Allison, a Waldorf teacher and family coach. We are discussing boys and how they learn. Join us!

“Be aware of his need to move his body. It’s absolutely critical that he have some time before school to move his body.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

​​​​​​​·      Gender-based differences in learning styles – the value of kinetic learning when teaching boys
·      How modern teaching methods set our boys up to fail
·      Maturity and developmental differences between genders
·      Expulsion rates of boys vs girls in pre-k
·      Impacts of the learning environment on boys’ self-esteem
·      Optimal learning environments for boys
·      Best age for starting school and the disconnect between intellectual and emotional development
·      Managing expectations of practice vs. mastery
·      Releasing physical energy to support emotional regulation
·      Finding ways to accommodate “wriggly kids” in the classroom
·       Building relationships with your son’s teacher – what questions to ask
·      How to encourage independence and service to others
·      Supporting your child in remembering things
·      Relevance/meaning and learning by doing: educational approaches that work for boys
·      The value of trades education
·      The benefits of mentorship – how to find a mentor for your child and be intentional in your relationship building

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Joyful courage means being willing to step out of complacency, out of the box, and follow that inner voice that you have saying “Yes!” even when you are in doubt or fear say “Yes!” anyways and I strive to do this in everything I do is bring joy to it. Go to the grocery store and find some joy. I have a friend who buys flowers every Tuesday during her grocery shopping and her goal is to give those flowers away by the time she gets back to her house….Stepping out of our boxes and our little narrow lanes and our busy-ness or overwhelm in our own life but just stepping out a little bit to see there’s this world out there and what can I do to bring joy into the world – and we need it.

Resources:

The Wonder of Boys by Michael Gurian

Where to find Janet:

Boysalive.com l Facebook l Boysalive Facebook group l Twitter l LinkedIn

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Join me every Tuesday at 10am pst on the Joyful Courage FB page to hear about a new Positive Discipline tool that you can begin using ASAP.  Even if you are well versed in parenting with PD, you will take a way a renewed commitment and perhaps a deeper understanding of the tool.

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May 09, 2017