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Sep 2, 2018
How do i even start, I love Kelly and Debbie Jo. I am a mom and this is my escape from my every day life. I get to hear about life where I don't have to hear about kids and I just love that I can use this time just for myself.
From the Netflix Studio at PodX: Three Non Moms
Surprise! It's an interview episode! It's been a while since the Non Moms have had anyone on to interview, but they met Kate Van Sprange at PodX and just knew they had to have her on. The ladies recorded this episode in the Netflix Recording Studio at PodX in Nashville, Tennessee on June 1.
We talked social worker/nonprofit burnout, self-care, and reinventing oneself as many times as necessary to find peace and happiness in oneself while pursuing a career and lifestyle that is fulfilling and honors oneself. We even talked about Spoonie life a bit, as Kate's husband Mel is a badass Cystic Fibrosis warrior! (Check out the badass organization Rock CF!)
For all of our listeners and pals who are vocalists, lecturers, people who have to talk too much for any reason and are always dealing with throat irritation and loss of voice, you definitely need to check Kate's product, Vocal Eze, out! We are especially big fans of the lozenges.
Interact with Kate (and her delightful husband Mel) on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook:
|Jun 10, 2019|
Wandering Wombs & Circus Tattoos
This is our last episode of May, our last episode before PodX, and the last episode of Mental Health Awareness Month! Where is the time going?!
This week Kelly kicks things off by exploring the history of women's mental health treatment. Spoiler alert: It's been rough. The Ancient Greeks had some seriously crazy ideas about what a woman's uterus was doing in her body and how it was impacting her mood and behavior. Then there was Victorian England where it was decided that all we needed was orgasms to keep us happy, and that, of course, male doctors must be the ones to deliver them. *Eye Roll*
Debbie Jo goes on to tell us about the first American traditional tattoo artist, Maude Wagner. Maude was only ever tattooed by her husband, who taught her the art of tattooing, and they passed the tradition on to their only daughter. The Wagners traveled for years with the circus as a freakshow act, both for being heavily tattooed and for performing the art of tattooing in front of audiences.
Special thanks to artist Meredith Elmore (Instagram @meredithelmorepaints) for allowing us to share one of her pieces of art in recognition of Mental Health Awareness Month. Find her (and this print!) on Etsy at https://www.etsy.com/shop/meredithelmore. Enter promo code "Nonmomhappyhour" for free shipping!
Take care of yourselves and each other, folks. You matter to us!
|May 27, 2019|
The New Deal & 1,100 Backpacks, with Special Guest: Herpes
The Non Moms were in rare form this week, Y'All! Skippers, if you've made it this far, you can get your skip-button fingers ready, and tune in at around the 20-minute mark.
Kelly kicks things off by telling Debbie Jo about Frances Perkins who we will heretofore consider the Godmother of the Labor Movement. Without Frances, the New Deal might not ever have happened, or at least not as we know it. You can thank her for 40-hour work-weeks and the abolition of child labor. You can thank yourselves for the destruction of many of the benefits once afforded by the labor unions, like 40-hour work-weeks and overtime pay. Well done, America!
Continuing the coverage of Mental Health Awareness Month, Debbie Jo follows up Frances with the story of Alison Malmon, Founder and Executive Director of the nonprofit organization Active Minds. Alison was inspired by the death of her brother, who committed suicide, to change the mental health narrative on college campuses across the United States. Suicide is the leading cause of death for college students and 1,100 college students each year commit suicide. Active Minds helps empower students to help one another and prevent such deaths.
Please, if you are considering suicide, reach out for help, you can call the Suicide Prevent Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or visit https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/.
|May 20, 2019|
South Fulton, Georgia & Mother Monster
NOTE: May is Mental Health Awareness Month:
Good mental health is essential to overall well-being. More than 1 in 5 women in the United States experienced a mental health condition in the past year, such as depression or anxiety.1 Many mental health conditions, such as depression and bipolar disorder, affect more women than men or affect women in different ways from men.2,3 Most serious mental health conditions cannot be cured. But they can be treated, so you can get better and live well.4
On to the show!
Debbie Jo throws everyone a curveball this week and covers not one woman, not two women... but an entire town outside of Atlanta, Georgia which is being predominantly governed by badass African American women. The town is South Fulton, Georgia, which hasn't even officially been a town for but a couple of years. The women aren't hired just because they're women; these are well educated, credentialed, and experienced women who all happen to have been voted into or hired into offices of the local government. They are doing some breakthrough things in the court system of South Fulton, too, so you'll definitely want to hear about this place and keep your eye on it for future outcomes.
Kelly follows the town of South Fulton with everything you might think you already know about none other than Lady Gaga AKA Mother Monster. Kelly didn't fall in love with Lady Gaga in the same timeframe or for the same reason that most people have -- her music. Kelly discovered Lady Gaga as a person, as well as her persona when Kelly watched her Netflix Original documentary, Gaga: Five Foot Two. Kelly talks about all that Lady Gaga has survived and overcome (especially in regard to mental and physical health and wellness) to get where she is today in her career and her life. Spoiler alert: There is no magic button or pill to make your dreams come true, Y'All. Ya gotta work for it. She certainly does.
Boop merch is officially available at our Teespring store:
|May 13, 2019|
The Schindler Jews and A Short Trip in a Barrel
Yep, now we're just doing it to make Debbie Jo crazy.
Kelly kicks things off this week by telling Debbie Jo about Emilie Schindler, wife of the more commonly known, Oscar Schindler of Schindler's List fame. Emilie wasn't simply a supportive spouse who stood by and watched her husband save the lives of some 1,300 Jews during WWII and the Holocaust. She was an active participant and advocate herself; her role as an activist, ally, and nurse has often been overshadowed by the legacy of her husband who, as it turns out, bailed on Emilie - straight abandoned her, their marriage, and their life in Argentina - after the war.
Feiwell (later went by Francisco) No. 371 on Schindler’s list was quoted at age 75 as saying, “As long as I live, I will always have a sincere and eternal gratitude for dear Emilie. I think she triumphed over danger because of her courage, intelligence, and determination to do the right and humane thing. She had immense energy and she was like a mother.” (Quote taken from http://www.auschwitz.dk/Emilie/Emilie.htm.)
p.s. Kelly is working to have new "Boop" and "Boop That Sh*t!" merch in the store by Tuesday. So, keep an eye out for that at: https://teespring.com/stores/a-non-mom-happy-hour.
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|May 06, 2019|
The Snake Boss & Zelda, Not Edmund, Fitzgerald
This week actually kicks off with Athena, the diva pit-mix, howling at the Boop. The Non Moms are so, super excited because for the first time ever we are using SquadCast.fm to record and we can see each other's faces in real time while we record and Debbie Jo can make faces at Kelly to make her laugh in inappropriate places.
Debbie Jo officially kicks things off this week by telling Kelly about Julia Baker, The Snake Boss (or Snake Sheila, as she's referred to in Australia.) Julia accidentally fell in love with snakes when she moved to Australia as a young adult and has since become a one-woman, snack-catching, snake-and-nature-conservation crew and founded her own business doing it. She took it a step further and manifested her dream of someday being an actress and actually created her own damn reality show series that ended up on Animal Planet. That wasn't enough though, because then she manifested exactly the type of man she wanted to meet and fall in love with, and in walks Johnny Bagpipes. It's a super cute love story.
Next, Kelly tells Debbie Jo all about the amazingly talented author, dancer, and socialite, Zelda Fitzgerald. She happens to have been married to F. Scott Fitzgerald, author of American literary classics such as The Great Gatsby who consistently stole his wife's prose and short-stories, even chunks of a novel, and published them as his own! What a dick! He even admitted in his own writing that he purposely did what he could to drive her mad. Be ready to get heated, Y'All. The Non Moms essentially come to the conclusion that F. Scott Fitzgerald never would have been so famous and successful an author without his uber-talented wife carrying his ass.
Quick note - It's #IndieApril! This is a month to celebrate independent authors, like our very own Mechanerdzilla. If you'd like to learn more about Kelly's book, you can visit her website at nerdzillakelly.com/book.
Thanks for being with us this week and every week! We hope you enjoyed a better-sounding, clearer, more real-life, and authentic-sounding podcast episode. We had a lot of fun recording in the new format and are excited to have future guests in the new virtual studio. Be a real ass human Y'All!
|Apr 29, 2019|
Boop that Sh*t!
Sorry, we're late! Spoonie life, man! Shoutout to our producer for literally helping Kelly walk all weekend.
Now for the fun stuff!
Kelly kicks things off by telling Debbie Jo about her grandfather, his experience with Polio, Dr. Anita Silvers, her experience with Polio, and Dr. Silvers's work as a Philosopher of Aesthetics and an Advocate concerning the American's with Disabilities Act. Dr. Silvers contracted Polio at Girl Scout Camp in 1949 and subsequently spent an entire year in an Iron Lung. The disease left her a partial paraplegic but that didn't stop her from being a total badass and getting her college degree, a P.h.D. in Philosophy, and eventually teaching at San Francisco University for 50 years. It was during her time as a professor, when two blind students came to her for help, that she shifted her focus to studying the Americans with Disabilities Act from a philosophical standpoint, advocating for the recognition of the Act as being a matter of Civil Rights and the equitable treatment of individuals with medical disabilities, especially in the workplace.
Then, Debbie Jo channels her inner Bessie Stringfield and goes on a bit of a rant at Kelly about not apologizing for taking up too much time or space in the world... or the podcast. Bessie Stringfield is best known as the first African American woman to ride a motorcycle across the United States, solo! When she was 19! And it was only 1930! It's almost impossible to truly wrap one's mind around that level of badassery. Bessie originally road an Indian motorcycle, but at the end of her life, she owned a collection of 27 Harley Davidson motorcycles. Bessie was also a Civilian Courier for the US Army during WWII and founded the Iron Horse Motorcycle Club and was eventually known as the Motorcycle Queen of Miami.
|Apr 22, 2019|
Go Ask Alice...then Run Like Hell
We're back! And so are our voices! (Mostly.)
We have news! So, first things first:
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This week, Debbie Jo tells Kelly all about Alice Roosevelt Longworth, daughter of former President, Theodore "Teddy" Roosevelt. Kelly's personal favorite quote from Alice is one that was stitched on a pillow that sat on her settee (sofa): "If you can't say something good about someone, sit right here by me." That's our kind of woman! Seriously, Alice was a rabble-rouser and once again Debbie Jo is convinced that she's accidentally stumbled upon one of Kelly's past lives. It's crazy that we never hear about Alice but here about her father and uncle all the time because, as far as we are concerned, she was the most fun out of the whole lot.
Kelly then tells Debbie Jo about Kathrine Switzer. Kathrine didn't set out to be an activist but it happened anyway, in a flash, when she became the first woman to officially register, run, and finish the Boston Maraton. This happened in 1967 and as you'll hear, race official Jock Semple was not happy about her participation. So much so that he attacked her, physically, and attempted to tear her running number bib from her shirt. Well, Kathrine's boyfriend, "Big Joe" tackled the guy and Kathrine's trainer Arnie yelled after her, "Run like Hell!" She did, and she finished the race. Then she went on to fight for having women's marathon running included in the Olympic Games, along with a number of other accomplishments.
As always, thanks for hanging out with us. And if you haven't yet, download the free Podcoin app and start earning cash for listening to us! Enter invite code HappyHour for 300 bonus Podcoins. Use your coins to buy gift cards or donate the funds to charity.
If you've got nothing better to do on Sunday, June 2nd, come hang out in Nashville at the PodX Convention and watch our live show, starting at 12:40 pm! Visit www.podx.com/happy to save 10% on your tickets.
|Apr 15, 2019|
Three Inventors and a Forensic Pathologist Walk into a Podcast...
Jesus wept, Y'All! (Shoutout to Sonya of Honesty Check.) The Non Moms are so glad to have finally recorded a new full-length episode, even if Kelly still feels like her voice sounded terrible.
This week Kelly pulled a fast one and talked about not one, but three badass women inventors. She was inspired by Debbie Jo's coverage of Elizabeth Magie, the true inventor fo Monopoly, a few weeks back. Once she googled "women inventors we don't know about," the rabbit hole went to deep to pick just one. So, in this episode, you'll hear Kelly tell Debbie Jo about the inventions of Hedy Lamarr, Ada Lovelace, and Marie Van Brittan Brown.
Debbie Jo follows it up by telling Kelly about Dr. Chitra Rao, Canada's first ever female full-time forensic pathologist, known as a pioneer in her field. According to the article, The mom of the morgue: Canada’s first full-time female forensic pathologist is retiring, Dr. Rao has worked on more than 380 homicide cases. As they put it, "Stabbings, shootings, beatings, poisonings, mutilations — she has seen the worst of human nature." Thanks to Dr. Rao, a high number of cases that were blundered by other (male) scientists in her field, were solved correctly, freeing innocent people and imprisoning guilty persons whose cases had been mishandled in the past. But that's not even her whole story — wait until you hear all that she had to overcome and do to get to such a place in her career!
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If you haven't bought your ticket to the PodX convention in Nashville yet, you should do that now, too! The Non Moms perform live on June 2 at 12:40pm. There's an amazing lineup, and if you use the link podx.com/happy or go to podx.com and enter the promo code "happy" checkout, you'll save 10%
|Apr 07, 2019|
This week the producer of A Non Mom Happy Hour played a joke on all of us.
Happy April Fools Day! We'll be back next week when Kelly has her voice again, we promise. In the meantime, check out our Patreon page, or buy tickets to see us perform live at PodX, or shop our merch store!
We love you guys.
|Apr 01, 2019|
The Big Announcement!
Debbie Jo is flying solo this week to bring you all some very special news! Kelly hasn't had a voice since Wednesday or Thursday night, we forget exactly. Allergic asthma is a jerk.
A Non Mom Happy Hour is performing LIVE at PodX in Nashville! The convention runs from May 31 - June 2. They haven’t announced the daily lineups for live shows yet, so we don’t know exactly when we’ll be performing yet. We'll let everyone know as soon as we can.
Other pods and presenters include:
And so many more! Come hang with us! It’s also the same weekend that Kelly's book launches in print and eBook formats, so there will be much celebrating! Plus, you can save 10% on the cost of admission if you go to podx.com/happy or podx.com to order your tickets and enter promo code "happy" at checkout.
|Apr 01, 2019|
A Male Monopoly on History and The Shero of Flint, MI
Alright, Y'all! Get ready! This week we are throwing down on men re-writing history to exclude women. Not cool, bros. Did you know that the game of Monopoly was originally The Landlord's Game, invented by a badass lady named Elizabeth ("Lizzie") Magie? Neither did Kelly, but Debbie Jo tells her all about it this week! It's pretty damn scandalous, honestly. We will never look at playing Monopoly the same, TBH.
After learning about Lizzie, Kelly tells Debbie Jo about one of her heroes, Dr. Mona Hanna-Attisha, who we'll call Dr. Mona for short. Why is she Kelly's hero? Well, long-time listeners already know that Kelly grew up in Flint, Michigan. Dr. Mona happens to be the pediatrician that exposed the Flint Water Crisis, urging citizens not to drink the water that was poisoning them and their children. She advocated for the residents of Flint even in the face of harsh criticism and accusations of fear-mongering by the State. She showed them! And she's still doing the work.
Just a reminder that the Non Moms are working diligently to publish weekly video content on Patreon and you can become a subscriber with fan benefits for as little as $3 a month! We'll be doing giveaways and adding monthly live events, and things as subscriber milestones are reached, so make sure to check it all out at https://www.patreon.com/anonmomhappyhour. Funds raised through our Patreon will help us cover the cost of production, hosting, recording, travel, conferences, and so on so that we can keep this show going and get it on the road! How fun would that be?
As always, thanks for hanging with us this week and every week.
Sources for Research:
|Mar 25, 2019|
Queen Non Mom and Overcoming Addiction
CONTENT WARNING: Debbie Jo's featured lady this week publicly discusses her attempted suicide. Please listen with caution if you may be triggered by details of attempted suicide.
The Non Moms are personally very excited about this episode. Why? For starters, there are two big, important announcements at the top of the show. We're not giving you any spoilers, if you want to know what the haps are, you gotta let us in your ear holes!
Secondly, the ladies accidentally picked a theme -- overcoming addiction and being a badass at life. Kelly and Debbie Jo never know who each of them will talk about until they sit down to record in the virtual studio, so this week was a special coincidence and surprise. They both picked ladies who are publicly open about their struggles with their addiction, mental health, and overall wellness journeys, and each of the ladies discussed has built a large audience for whom they provide inspiration, commiseration, and laughter.
Kelly kicks things off by telling Debbie Jo everything she already knew and maybe didn't about Queen of all Non Moms, Karen Kilgariff. Most people know Karen as half of the Podcast, My Favorite Murder (and it is no secret that the Non Moms are huge fans) but she is so much more than just that. She's done a lot of cool shit! Including being in active recovery from alcohol, amphetamines, and diet pills. You also get to hear about the impact that Karen has had on Kelly, personally, as she has battled her physical and mental health ailments and recovery for the past (nearly) two years.
Debbie Jo then tells Kelly all about Tiffany Jenkins, who you will most likely recognize as the woman behind the magic of Juggling the Jenkins and her super funny and relevant Fab, Fit, Fun unboxing videos. Tiffany has been very open about her struggles with drug and alcohol addiction, and her journey into sobriety, motherhood, and being a wife... all at the same time. (Seriously, certifiable badassery.) Tiffany has created an incredible virtual community of moms being real and honest about mom shit, and she pulls no punches. The Non Moms have mad love for her.
Both of our chosen ladies use comedy as a way to bring healing and community to women around the world... remind you of anyone else you know? (We hope so, or we're doing this very wrong.)
Sources for research:
|Mar 18, 2019|
Cold Justice & The Matter of the Universe
The best part of this week's episode is at the very end when Kelly renders Debbie Jo speechless. Sometimes ya gotta keep your partner on their toes, right? It's worth listening to, I promise.
This week Debbie Jo kicks things off with answering everyone's burning question: What the hell did her food test reveal?!
Then it's time to get down to business, where Debbie Jo tells Kelly about one of their favorite badass women, Kelly Siegler, the former prosecuting attorney turned TV star in the true crime series Cold Justice streaming on Netflix. What both the Non Moms really appreciate about Kelly Siegler is just how passionate she is about solving the cases she takes on, the raw emotion and authenticity draws you in as she interacts with the families of victims and law enforcement officers, trying to solve cases that have been cold for decades.
Kelly tells Debbie Jo about Cecilia Payne -- the woman who freaking discovered what the Universe and the Sun are made of! Though, she often doesn't get credit for it, because... MEN. (Thanks to Kelly's mom for bringing Cecelia's story to her attention!) Seriously, Cecilia was attending universities, making these huge scientific discoveries, and then not even receiving degrees for it because back then women didn't get degrees! Then, she went on to teach at Harvard for years without any recognition as a professor because women weren't allowed to be professors. It really makes you realize both how far we've come and how far we still have yet to go in the fight for women's equality.
Please note: Kelly is a political scientist and not a physicist or astrophysicist so some of the things Cecelia Payne did were hard for the Non Moms to wrap their minds around. That doesn't make it any less badass.
Finally, the episode wraps up with the Non Moms talking a little bit about what got them both into true crime in the first place. As always, thanks for listening!
Research links for this episode:
|Mar 10, 2019|
The Brain Broad & Coping Mechanisms
This week the Non Moms had the pleasure of hosting Dr. Lynette Louise, AKA The Brain Broad, in the virtual studio. It was a fascinating conversation with a woman who leads an incredibly fascinating life and does some really cool work in the world of brain function and neurofeedback!
Lynette is a renowned brain change and behavior expert, as well as creator and host of the international docu-series, Fix it in Five with the Brain Broad. She’s frequently invited to speak on the topics of brain function, neurofeedback, behavior and play, beliefs and cognition, and parenting and special needs to groups and in homes around the world. An award-winning author, filmmaker, speaker, opinion writer, host, recognized humanitarian, and consultant, Lynette is universally applauded for her skilled use of science and stories when speaking to and teaching groups. Lynette teaches with honesty; shining a light into the various realities of her own life, often revealing with kindness and humor how every seemingly ugly moment, with a little knowledge and elbow grease, can be made beautiful.
Her recently released book, Sever The Cycle of Abuse with The Sub Shop Savior, offers audiences yet another peek at her personal traumas while guiding them to answers, both personal and universal.
The ladies discussed everything from the pros and cons of A.A., to foster care and parenting children with special needs, personal care choices and how to advocate for yourself as a patient in regards to prescription medications, to Kelly's grief regarding the loss of her beloved dog, Rosebud. The Non Moms were incredibly stimulated by the conversation and we hope that our listeners will enjoy it as much as we did!
Links where you may follow and connect with The Brain Broad:
|Mar 04, 2019|
Minisode No. 1: A Tribute to Rosebud
Kelly reads an excerpt from her book and pays tribute to her beloved dog, Rosebud, the deaf white boxer, who was laid to rest on February 20, 2019.
Thank you all for celebrating and honoring her with us. <3
|Feb 25, 2019|
Elephants, Bees, and Busses
Before diving too far into the episode, the Non Moms took a moment to recognize all of their amazing Pod-Friends who came together in support of Kelly's dog, Rosebud, and her surgery on Wednesday, February 13.
Sadly, Rosebud ultimately didn't make it and was laid to rest on Wednesday, February 20th. There will be a special minisode published shortly after this episode to pay tribute to and honor Rosebud's memory.
Kelly follows that up with the story of Claudette Colvin who actually refused to give up her seat on a Montgomery, Alabama bus nine months before Rosa Park's more commonly recognized experience. She was a pioneer in abolishing the unconstitutional bus segregation laws of Montgomery, but she is often overlooked in history. And guess what, Y'all? She was only fifteen at the time. The Non Moms discuss the implications of younger generations playing integral roles in socio-political activism and social justice movements while often being overlooked and ignored.
Finally, you'll hear Kelly lose her brain a little bit during this episode as the proof copy of her book arrived at her house literally seconds before the Non Moms hit record to start taping this episode.
Sources for research of this week's episode:
|Feb 24, 2019|
Chronic Migraine, Bouncy Boxers, and a Messy Wedding Dress
This week the Non Moms get to hang with Stefanie Davis in the virtual studio! Stefanie is a Spoonie living with Chronic Migraine who has built a freelance and film career that honors her body's unique needs and limitations while pursuing her creative passions.
After leaving the corporate banking world, Stefanie began as an actress and in 2015, she stepped behind the camera as a director, producer, and script supervisor. Films such as "Migraine Hell," "Speed Dating," and "BS Meeting" made their debuts with glowing reviews. Her award-winning production company, Bouncy Boxer Media, has created films that have screened in festivals around the globe. Through relatable characters and natural dialogue, Stefanie strives to tell stories that will resonate with audiences. Her first feature film, "Hot Mess In A Wedding Dress," is a character-driven story that will connect with both men and women. Stefanie's goal is to continue to tell the stories of underrepresented people of all shapes, sizes, and colors. Every story is important.
The ladies talk with Stefanie about good doctors, bad doctors, botox injections, The Migraine Diet, the pain bias against women, and what life can be like day-to-day when living with a somewhat unpredictable chronic pain condition while building successful creative and professional pursuits.
Places you can find Stefanie:
HOT MESS IN A WEDDING DRESS
Official Trailer (2019) Romantic Comedy HD https://youtu.be/L7eJNeh9ot4
|Feb 10, 2019|
Honoring Maya Angelou & Carol Daronch (F*ck Ted Bundy)
You'll notice something different about this episode... A NEW THEME SONG! That's right, bitches, we got a super legit custom theme song from the very talented Keybeaux and we could not be more pumped about it. We hope all of our long-time listeners love it too. If you want to work with Keybeaux you can find him on Fiverr as Burtonm6. He was a dream to work with. Many thanks again to our pals at Honesty Check for helping us make that connection happen.
Now, on to the show!
This week Kelly kicks things off by telling Debbie Jo all about Maya Angelou. Kelly had been an admirer of Angelou's for years but even she didn't know about half of this woman's badassery. Kelly's decision to talk about Angelou was borne out of the desire to honor Black History Month and get to know more about important women of color in history. If you haven't ever heard Angelou's voice, Kelly encourages you to Google & YouTube as much as you possibly can. The woman had an unmatched way with words, but even her voice is musical and poetic.
Debbie Jo then fills Kelly in on Carol Daronch, one of only a handful of survivor's of serial killer Ted Bundy, and for a long time, the only known survivor. Carol fought her ass off and not only got away from this monster but took with her the evidence that would eventually bring his ass down. She even stood up against him in court, as he represented himself as his own defense and questioned her on the witness stand. F*ck Ted Bundy, who we should be talking about is the amazing women that survived him. So, Debbie Jo did just that!
Sources used for research on this episode:
https://www.mayaangelou.com/biography/ (video excerpt)
The Only Living Witness
|Feb 03, 2019|
Fly Swatters & White Privilege
Lawd have mercy, Y'all. Did the Non Moms get into some real sh*t this week...
This week Debbie Jo & Kelly had the distinct honor of welcoming Dr. Froswa' Booker-Drew to the show.
Dr. Booker-Drew is the author of Rules of Engagement: Making Connections Last. This workbook (which you can buy on Amazon by clicking here) helps women understand their stories so that they can build stronger relationships. Froswa' has Ph.D. from Antioch University in Leadership and Change with a focus on relational leadership, social capital, diverse women, and their barriers to change.
Do you know what they say about well-behaved women not changing the world? Well, it's a good thing for the world that the three of us are not and never will be well-behaved. The ladies talked about nonprofit work, (white) privilege, how to be better allies and advocates -- especially in the nonprofit sector -- and bringing others to the table alongside us.
They talked about the importance of mentors in the lives of young people and even adults, especially young adults in college and graduate school. Each of the ladies shared personal experiences in professional settings and in settings as mentors and mentees. It might sound like it was all business this week but trust us, there were plenty of laughs.
To learn more about Froswa' and her company, Soulstice Consultancy, you can visit her website at http://froswasrules.com/main_page.html.
Honestly, this episode is officially in Debbie Jo & Kelly's top 5 favorite episodes recorded so far.
Alternative links for purchasing Froswa's book:
Mouse and Weens
|Jan 28, 2019|
Unbreakable Isabella Bird & The Angels of the Western Front
This week, Debbie kicks things off telling Kelly about Isabella Bird - 19th Century explorer, photographer, writer, and naturalist... and possibly Kelly in a former life 😉. This lady was a true-blue badass and wasn’t shy about speaking up for what she thought was right and good. She was also a fucking survivor and accomplished a helluva lot in spite of persistent spinal and other health issues.
Kelly then shares the story of Mairi Chisholm & Elsie Knocker, also known as “The Madonnas/Angels of Pyrvese.” These were the ONLY two ladies allowed on the Western Front in WWI, and for good reason: they were badasses. They saved the lives of thousands of men wounded on the front — the number one took they utilized? Their motorcycles.
The ladies are super excited to be back in the normal flow of things in the New Year and appreciate all of the love and support you guys have been throwing at Kelly while she recovers from becoming a cyborg. She’s decided to call her implant Robert. Like Robert (Im)Plant. Get it? Yeah, there’s a reason why her nickname is Nerdzilla.
Sites used for research this week:
https://www.visitflanders.com/en/her-side-of-the-war/mairi-and-alsie/ (Her Side of the War)
BBC Video Archives
American Slacker and Boobies & Noobies
|Jan 21, 2019|
Confidence & Being a Real Ass Human
It's our first episode of the New Year, and the ladies were so excited to be back in the studio! Especially Kelly, who is officially a cyborg, and entering week three of her post-op recovery.
Our first guest of 2019 is Trish Blackwell and she is a freaking powerhouse, Y'all! She's a Confidence Coach, author, Podcast host, and the list goes one. She does it all while momming, too. You want to know how to be a mom and still grow as an individual person with your own interests and pursuits? You should check out her podcasts, The Confidence Podcast, and The Confident Mom Podcast.
** TRIGGER WARNING **
Sexual assault/trauma, Eating Disorders
The ladies talk with Trish about how we can turn our worst moments into our greatest sources of triumph and confidence. They talk about trauma, PTSD, living with chronic pain and illness, living authentically, and being a real ass human. The ladies also talk a bit about body image and Trish opens up about her history with disordered eating serious body confidence issues for years while coaching others as a fitness coach. She got really good at projecting an image of success and checking all of the boxes for a good life... and yet she was kind of miserable.
|Jan 14, 2019|
Enneagrams & Mechanerdzilla
It feels like it's been forever since we got to hang out with you all, and it kind of has been! The holidays make it tough, especially for a Spoonie, so we gave ourselves a Christmas break.
We're kicking it old school for this, our New Year's Eve episode! The show starts with an update from Kelly about all things spine cord stimulator trial; the process a patient goes through with the trial implant and preparing for the permanent implant surgery. It's long-winded but necessary.
Then, Debbie Jo tells us all about the Enneagram Test. Like so many other things, Kelly had not heard of the Enneagram Test until Debbie Jo came into her life, and the first time she took it was at approximately 11 pm while half asleep on muscle relaxers.
If you haven't taken the Enneagram Test, you totally should, because it will help you understand yourself more in all aspects of life -- personal, romantic, and professional. It's pretty rad.
As it turns out, Debbie is a 3 (The Achiever) and Kelly is a 4 (The Individualist.) Lucky for all of us, these two types complement each other in partnerships! We also challenge each other, so it's a good balance.
You can learn more about different personality types at https://www.enneagraminstitute.com.
Finally, it's the end of a big year for us at A Non Mom Happy Hour, not just because of the podcast but in our network marketing businesses and with the launch of Kelly's personal website and book presales, Debbie Jo's new life coaching business... it's been a year, Y'all!
On New Years Eve 2017 if you had told us that we would be this excited about the year behind us and the year to come, we would have told you that you were high. Yet, here we are. Thank you for being a part of it all with us!
|Dec 31, 2018|
The Real Life Tank Girl & Un-Making Murderers
This week was really a lot of fun for the Non Moms. Neither knew what woman the other had chosen to talk about, so surprises abound!
Debbie Jo kicks things off by telling Kelly all about Mariya Oktyabrskaya, the real-life tank girl who swore to avenge her husband's death and squash Nazi fascists with her very own T-34 tank during WWII. Mariya is about as badass as you can get, ladies and gentlemen. After her husband was killed in 1941 it took two years for word to make it to her. When she received the news, she sprung into action to seek revenge. She worked day and night for months to raise the 55,000 Russian Rubles needed to finance the tank build and once the funds were raised she wrote the Kremlin to tell them of her plan. If you want the rest of the story, you'll have to listen!
Next, Kelly tells Debbie all about Kathleen Zellner, attorney at law. If you think you've heard this name before, it's likely because you've watched the docu-series Making a Murderer (Part 2) on Netflix. Mrs. Zellner is the attorney for none other than Steven Avery. But this is just one of the famous cases that Zellner has served on.
To put it simply: Kathleen Zellner is a justice-serving badass who rights wrongs in cases involving wrongful death and medical malpractice, wrongful convictions, and exonerations. Zellner's firm has helped free seven men from death row and Zellner has righted more wrongful prosecutions than any other private attorney in America. What drives Zellner to fight so hard for what is right? You'll have to listen to find out!
As always, thank you for listening, this week and every week. If you haven't done so already, it would mean the world to us if you would rate, review, and subscribe to our podcast on your favorite listening app.
Sites utilized for research in this episode include:
For Mariya Oktyabrskaya:
For Kathleen Zellner:
|Dec 17, 2018|
Worst Dates, Drunk Debbie, & Shame Receipts
This week is one hell of a special treat! Debbie Jo & Kelly had the pleasure of recording with Keegan, Cassi, and Christina from My Worst Date. Y'all, they laughed so hard at some points that they broke Zencastr. The virtual studio crashed more than once. Whoops! It was totally worth it though because it is some of the most fun they've ever had.
Debbie Jo shared her two biggest shame receipts and tells the story of how her worst shame receipt resulted in her happily ever after. She also talks about single Debbie's propensity for making bad choices on Tinder.
Kelly tells the story of her worst date ever brought to her by the OKCupid dating app. She also shares the stories of her two worst breakups as well as her irrational fear of the loss of gravity. Best part? She's not alone!
Friendships were forged on this episode. Serious bonding happened. Also, Debbie Jo and Kelly acknowledged their 1 Year Friend-i-versary! That's right, one full year of finishing each other's thoughts, being each other's human panic room(s), and partnering on a podcast even though they've never even been in the same room.
The ladies of My Worst Date and A Non Mom Happy Hour also recorded a special minisode where they play a special game of F*ck, Marry, Kill and Debbie Jo and Kelly dish on their relationship "deal-breakers." If you want to listen you'll have to hit up the My Worst Date Patreon! (www.patreon.com/myworstdate)
|Dec 09, 2018|
Birth Control & America's First Lady Detective
This week the ladies launch a new format. Each week that guests are not being interviewed, or there isn't some special topic to be covered, each of the hosts will choose one lady to tell each other and the audience about.
These may be important women in history, women that the hosts find fascinating or admire, women living or dead.
On this episode, Kelly tells about Margaret Sanger, who fought admirably to normalize birth control and make contraceptives accessible for women in the early 1900s. She was also responsible in part for the oral contraceptive, or birth control pill as well as founding the American Birth Control League, the precursor for what would become Planned Parenthood Federation. Kelly also opens up about her own personal history and the secret she's been carrying for about 8 years.
Debbie Jo tells the story of Kate Warne, America's first female detective who worked closely with Allan Pinkerton, America's first private eye. Interestingly, it was Kate Warne who successfully protected President Abraham Lincoln from the first assassination attempt against his life. Kate Warne is a historical figure shrouded in mystery, as there are no records of her life prior to her time working with Pinkerton.
Websites cited for research:
|Dec 03, 2018|
Grief, Self-Care & The Holidays
This week things get personal when the ladies each share personal stories of grief and loss and discuss how grief, just like recovery in other areas, is not linear. The holidays can be a hard time for folks, especially as concerns the loss of loved ones whether recently or in the distant past.
The Non Moms would like to remind everyone to do whatever they need to do to survive and care for themselves this holiday season, including refusing to participate in so-called social obligations and family parties. Don't 'should' yourselves to death!
Additionally, Debbie Jo shares an exciting update regarding her professional ventures and Kelly shares an exciting update about her medical care plan and upcoming surgeries.
To everyone celebrating, we would like to wish you all a Happy Thanksgiving!
Oh, and check out our Patreon site, at https://www.patreon.com/anonmomhappyhour where you can now find our first minisode, where Kelly recounts the story of the time she fought two guys at once, as promised in Episode 18.
|Nov 19, 2018|
Election Hangovers & C U Next Tuesdays
This week Debbie Jo and Kelly sit down with Adina from Honesty Check Podcast to talk about all things Midterm Election results. Two of the ladies felt a little bit like they were nursing an emotional hangover, if we're being honest, though Debbie Jo seems to have come out fairly well, being in Michigan. Did you know that Kelly has a strong aversion to Marsha Blackburn? A very strong aversion.
In response to a fan topic request from Ashley in Tennessee, Adina talks about self-care as a mom and wife. Adina believes that sometimes you've got to put yourself first if you want to effectively take care of and be there for your family. (Maybe you want to consider a girls trip now and then, ladies.)
Please remember that those podcast listeners who rate, review, and subscribe on their respective podcast listening apps help A Non Mom Happy Hour rise in the rankings and become more valuable to advertisers and therefore, help make the continued creation and production of the show more sustainable.
For those who like to be rewarded for their listenership, for as little as $3 a month, you can gain access to all Patreon-exclusive content and posts, including special episodes, written stories, videos, and photos. Just hit our Patreon page for more information! This week, Kelly will pen the story the big fight referenced in today's episode.
|Nov 12, 2018|
The Kids are Alright...Mostly
This week Kelly delivers a health update after a day-long trip to the Emergency Room when her leg kept swelling up like a balloon throughout the last week. Spoiler alert, she's ok. And it turns out that compression stockings don't have to be ugly. A new diagnosis may also be on the horizon for our dear Nerdzilla.
Debbie Jo and Kelly also share stories of the things that they did when they were children and teenagers that are likely the real reasons behind why neither of them has children. The good news is that they turned out ok in the end and your kids probably will too. Mostly.
The ladies would like to remind all of their listeners to rate, review, and subscribe on whatever listening app they utilize. Also, check out www.anonmomhappyhour.com to get to know the gals better, figure out which voice goes with which personality, send them love notes or topic ideas, and check out their merch store and Patreon site.
|Nov 05, 2018|
Strippers, Sex Workers, and Success
This week, amidst conversations regarding the gymnastic prowess of pole-dancers and Kelly's aversion to pornography, the ladies talk about what success looks like and defining success beyond the balance of your bank account.
Debbie Jo also shares the results of her Enneagram Test and opens up about her new part-time gig as a barista and why it was hard for her to decide whether or not to talk about that, publicly. Being an extrovert with social anxiety can be a bitch, Y'all.
Finally, the ladies get to announce the official launch of www.anonmomhappyhour.com!!! Sponsors and friends, Lore de Force designed a dynamic and gorgeous site for the Podcast and the ladies could not be more thrilled with the results.
Check it out, find the merch store, leave a love note for Kelly and Debbie Jo, see the story behind the friendship and Podcast, visit the Patreon site, and more!
As always, please... pretty please with sugar on top, rate, review, and subscribe.
|Oct 29, 2018|
Politics, Allies, and the Art of Speaking Up
On this very special episode of A Non Mom Happy Hour, the ladies hosted their first ever male guest! Political scientist, Veteran, and host of the podcast Political Thoughts with Steve, Steven Goff joined the ladies for a discussion of male-female allyship, all things Kavanaugh and SCOTUS, and much, much more!
Kelly and Debbie Jo are also thrilled to announce the official launch of www.anonmomhappyhour.com as well as our Patreon site! Thanks to our very special friends and first official sponsors, Lore de Force for helping to make both of these sites greater than we could have dreamed!
So, what's the deal with Patreon? Patreon is essentially a crowd-funding site for creators, like us, to receive financial support from fans, admirers, and collaborators so that we can keep bringing our podcast to you.
We pour our hearts and souls into this Podcast and we want to reach as many people as possible. This show is what we were born to do -- raising awareness, serving as allies and advocates, empowering women, and making people laugh as much as possible. We don’t just want this to be a hobby, we want it to be a huge part of both of our futures and careers.
Stay tuned, as we plan on posting Patreon content this week! (Just in case you missed the link to our Patreon site earlier, here it is again.)
|Oct 22, 2018|
Questions & Answers & Spiders, Oh My!
This week the ladies answer questions sent in by YOU, the listeners! Hear the story of how they met, why they started the podcast, what makes Kelly so nerdy, and much, much more!
This episode was a boatload of fun to record, and the ladies hope you have as much fun listening!
Stay tuned for next week, when we have our first male guest, host of Political Thoughts with Steve, Steve Goff!
|Oct 14, 2018|
Forgiveness & The Business of Being Human
This week the ladies take on the topic of forgiveness.
The dictionary definition of forgiveness is as follows:
But what does that actually mean?! And why does it feel like oneself can be the hardest person in the world to forgive?
Each of the ladies grapples with their own need to forgive themselves and others, realizing in the process that they've been punishing themselves in a strange sense and operating from a space of resentment and fear that has held them back in both their professional and creative ventures.
|Oct 08, 2018|
Anti-Semites and Craftivism
On this week's episode, Debbie Jo and Kelly talk with special guest and fellow true crime nerd, Alexandra Weingartner, about speaking up when it is most important and even if it makes some folks uncomfortable.
Alex reads and discuses her poem, which appeared in a My Favorite Murder fan subgroup, and is how Debbie Jo and Kelly first became aware of her and her poetry.
The poem is as follows (and was posted without title):
We won't conceal a Nazi in the shadows of our group,
The ladies also discuss the #WhyIDidntReport Twitter movement and how one may sometimes struggle with being an entrepreneur and an activist, or a Spoonie and an activist. When do we speak up? When do we not? If we're not speaking up, why aren't we?
If you see something, say something.
For more of Alex's poems check out the Facebook group, Write Us a Poem, Weingartner. You may also find her Facebook page, Weingartner Rhymes, here. Finally, to see Alex's poems and paintings and other crafty things, visit her Instagram, @weingartnercreates.
|Sep 30, 2018|
The Dreamers & The Doers
This week, Kelly and Debbie Jo talk about money mindset and coming up blue collar. They each tell the stories of how they became entrepreneurs in spite of all of the personal history, education, and mindset that told them they should be/do just about anything else.
Each share their histories in the nonprofit sector prior to becoming business women, and touch a bit on how anxiety-inducing that was, and still can be, for each of them.
Normally this would have been the week for the gals to have a guest on the show, but the guest who was scheduled had an emergency pop up. Life happnes!
Stay tuned for Episode 12 to hear from our next guest!
Spoiler alert: She's a fellow Murderino, an artist, and a poet.
|Sep 23, 2018|
Self-Care & Minding Your Own Damn Business
This ish is about to get real, y'all.
On this episode, Debbie Jo and Kelly tackle self-care and personal care choices, and staying in your own damn lane. It's not up to anyone else to tell you how to best take care of yourself or question your care choices.
Why do so many people on the internet think they've earned some kind of magical medical degree just because they've read a few articles about your condition/illness/whatever? They don't know what it's like to be you. Even if they share some of the same diagnoses, their experience of those diagnoses may be entirely different from your own.
Your job, above all else, is to survive. You get to do whatever you have to do to survive, regardless of the petty opinions and unsolicited medical advice dished out by keyboard warriors, well-intentioned busy-bodies, and overly opinionated loved ones.
|Sep 16, 2018|
Accessibility and Guilty Pleasures
On this episode the ladies interview Abbie Díaz, Director of Education at the Wisconsin Maritime Museum. Abbie has worked in thirteen museums and heritage sites across four states. Formerly in the field of Archaeology, Abbie has worked exclusively in museum education for the past five years.
Abbie is on a mission to make museums and historical sites and, really, the world, more accessible to all people, regardless of their unique needs and limitations. Accessibility and inclusivity are her thing. Her battle cry is, "Museums are for everyone." And she means everyone.
We aren't the only ones who think that Abbie is a total badass -- Abbie recently won an award from the freaking Kennedy Center in recognition of her work!
You can follow Abbie on Twitter at @abslovesmuseums.
|Sep 16, 2018|
Hoop Earrings & Rape Culture
This week Debbie Jo and Kelly talk about straight f***ery in East Tennessee, where a high school teacher held a special meeting with female students to tell them about how they can expect to be respected or not be respected based on the clothing and accessories they wear.
The ladies discuss the perpetuation of rape culture and their own experiences sexual assault and the struggle for women who must decide whether to report or not to report.
Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault
While graphic details are not shared, Kelly does speak pretty specifically about an attempted rape/sexual assault she experienced at age 14. Debbie discusses betrayal by the legal system when she reported her abuser.
To lighten things up a bit, the show is brought to a close with a story about something super rad and charitable that happened to Kelly last week, as well as Podcast recommendations from Debbie Jo.
|Sep 02, 2018|
Chocolate Sprinkles & Badassery
On this week's episode Debbie Jo and Kelly interview badass extraordinatire Marielle Evertsz of Keeping it Real Me: Life Coaching for Teen Girls.
The ladies discuss antiquated Dutch traditions, the magical delight of chocolate sprinkles on toast, (Hagelslag for those in the know) and the enormous stress and pressure that teens and young women find themselves living under these days.
The world is more accessible than ever in the age of social media and the internet -- this can be both a blessing and a curse.
Marielle was the first ever international guest on the Happy Hour, and the ladies very much enjoyed having her.
Note for our regular listeners:
|Aug 27, 2018|
Anxiety Spirals & Cyborgs
This week Debbie Jo and Kelly talk about their recent challenges with managing all of their roles, projects, and mental health self-care.
The ladies also talk about how one can be a good friend to someone living with chronic pain /invisible illness and/or mental health diagnoses by simply letting them off the hook from time to time.
Also there was cyborgs. And talk of male strippers.
|Aug 19, 2018|
Poverty and The Pink Tax
This week Debbie Jo and Kelly talk with Teysha Lemanski of Cloth Connection Outreach. Teysha is a mom, a Spoonie, an Etsy store owner, and general badass who founded CCO to help meet the needs of other women who may lack affordable access to reusable feminine health products.
CCO is an entirely volunteer-based organization near Detroit, Michigan, that distributes reusable cups and pad kits to women in need. The ladies talk about poverty and living in the middle of not making enough money to survive but making too much to receive assistance, where it can be difficult to access feminine health resources.
They also discuss the "Pink Tax" and the barriers that are presented to women living in poverty or experiencing homelessness because, while the FDA qualifies period products as medical devices, menstruation itself is not considered a medical condition...
Why the fuck should it be so hard to be a woman and access the products we need for reproductive health and hygiene?!
Want to know more about Cloth Connection Outreach (follow the hashtag #cco!) and how you can help? Check out www.clothconnectionoutreach.org.
You can donate directly to CCO via Paypal at paypal.me/ccoutreachprogram.
You can also follow CCO and their efforts on Facebook and Instagram, at @clothconnectionoutreach.
|Aug 13, 2018|
Drivers' Licenses Don't Grow on Trees
On this episode, Debbie Jo and Kelly talk about being an extroverted person(s) with rampant social anxiety. The ladies also relived some of their most embarassing moments, as children and, in Debbie's case, as an adult. Busted by her mom. For public drunkenness.
|Aug 05, 2018|
Recovery & Keychains
On this week's episode Debbie Jo and Kelly interview Claire M. Biggs and Jennie Armstrong, of Lore de Force.
Trigger Warning: The four of us discuss being survivors of sexual assault and abuse, and speak on how we cope and our experiences with PTSD and recovery.
|Jul 30, 2018|
Aliens and Authenticity
This week some real vulnerability happened! We talked about theremins communicating with aliens, relapsing with our respective mental health disorders and diagnoses, and gave a big fat THANK YOU to everyone who has been patient and supportive while we overcame our technology issues and as we continue to work out some of the kinks!
|Jul 23, 2018|
Copper Crosses and Sticky Monsters
On this episode, meet your hosts. Hear about Debbie's horrifying experience trying to get an IUD and the story of Kelly's mom, the most bad ass woman she knows.
Please note: We are recording from two different states, and using relatively new technology to record our Podcast remotely, together. We are aware of the slight sample drops in spots and quiet pops. It's something we're working on and working through with our recording site and some technology upgrades. In other words, please bear with us, we are fucking new at this.
|Jul 08, 2018|